What are the most difficult things about your marriage?
414632
i'm still relatively newlywed (almost 2 years) and so far nothing has been difficult. but I think we both still make the other's needs a priority so that may be the part we actually have to remember to do later... or the part that will not come as naturally once we get lazy, bored, or have kids.
953561
I have been married 9yrs, so I'm still learning too. Marriage is a constantly changing thing. It is important to remember that you are all still adjusting to something that is new & exciting & even scary. Some people handle this differently than others. Keep telling him how you feel. It's crucial that there be no secrets in a marriage. If you are truly concerned that this is not just an adjustment issue, you should explain to him what it is that you want from this marrauge. He can't possibly know unless you tell him. You need to keep the lines of communication open. Without it, a marraige cannot possibly survive. Good luck
891426
I think it would be more difficult than anyone would imagine. What if all the wives are in a bad mood? Pissed off at you? Pregnant? Fighting with eachother? Sounds pretty horrible for the guy if you ask me.
168219
It depend on the respect  accorded to marital obligations by the spouse. It also depends on respect shared in the marital home.\nTwo big issues that causes problems in a marital home are finances and sexual obligations. One spouse with holds sex to get what she wants. One spouse with holds finances to get what he wants.\nFor a happy home that need not be tensed there should be trust and respect for marital obligations. A lot of spouses do not know the meaning of marriage. Unfortunately a lot use marriage as a tool for what they want.Essence of marriage is happiness under the foundation of true love. Most marriages are loveless\nI wish any one wishing to marry should first read this book HOW NOT TO MARRY A JERK
37233
Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
1141991
1. Lack of commitment and trust.\n\n2. Lack of communication.\n\n3. SELFISHNESS. Marriage is about two people sharing their lives so when one partner decides to pursue selfish personal desires irrespective of where their activities leave the rest of the family, then that's it- it tumbles down.
485109
Oh man, my hubby and I will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary this Oct and 5 years of being together. It has taken us a long time to figure this one out. The answer sounds so simple but it can take ALLOT of self control and discipline. The key to a successful relationship is having a forgiving, unconditional love for your partner. Being able to accept blame and admit wrong doing and knowing what to do to change is a big key. When we talk "fight" we do not tell the other what we don't like about them but what we recognize they don't like about us. This way its not assigning blame and creating defensive walls but acknowledging wrong and working together to change. We are best friends, lovers, and we embrace all things together as a team. Marriage is the HARDEST thing to do in this journey we call life but I PROMISE it has the largest rewards! My husband and I got divorced last year and realized on the day of our divorce in the courtroom that we were running from our problems and making the biggest mistake of our lives. You have to go THROUGH your problems, you can not avoid them in any way. Good luck to you
900923
you need to ask your WIFE\n\ncommunication is the key to a succesful marriage or relationship
439693
Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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Marriage only get's worse when the people involved stop doing the things they did to build the relationship. \nFor instance if a relationship is based on Lust. how long to you think it will last when you both stop being creative in bed. \nNow if it's based on communication the same thing applies. \nhow long will it last when money is tight and your both working to pay the bills, then have a child or 3 and they demand your attention due to the care they require. How often do you think you will have those long heart to heart talks? It's the loss of each person "5 basic needs" that triggers things like affairs, marrital abuse and the empting of your love bank.\n\nRead a few of the books I listed below. They can really help BUT you need constant work in a marriage. just because you said I DO does not mean it will get easier. in fact that is when the real work begins.
19498
I think the hardest decision I would make in my life is should i get married to the person that propsed to me because I ould be living with this person for the rest of my life and I would be making all my desisions with him.
560058
Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
738522
I have been married for near 7 years but have been with my man for 12 years, we got together at 21 years old.\n\nWe have had our ups and downs but our love for one another has grown stronger than ever. \n\nThe main part of marriage and any relationship really, is communication. Don't bottle things up, sit down and talk it out, that way the 'problem' is out there and both can work together on how to solve it.\n\nIn all the years we have been together, we have never in an argument said anything we would regret later on. We have never called each other a name or anything like that.\n\nWords can hurt and people can remember what has been said through arguments, and bring that up in another argument. \n\nMarriage takes alot of work and it can work if both parties are commited to the marriage and each other.
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
349896
Its tough. Ive been in one for 5 years now.  It takes sacrifice, patience and dedication.  I am currently engaged and don't regret any of it.  You have to be strong and willing to talk on the phone just about every... day.
932559
I've been married for 17 years to a wonderful man.  We've had our ups and downs, been through financial feast and famine, illness, the deaths of our parents and grandparents and a dozen other little trials I can't recall.\n\nThe biggest "pro" to being married, I think, is that you have someone to share your thoughts and feelings with.  You have someone to lean on and support you - and someone who will appreciate the support you provide.  After you are married for a while, you develop your own "couples" sense of humor.  There will be things only you two find funny.  You will take road trips together in the car and play silly car games.  You'll lay awake in bed at night and giggle about nothing.   You develop a sort of empathic sense about the other person so you can sense their feelings before they even speak sometimes.  I appreciate my husband more and more the longer we are married.  You just don't get that kind of companionship outside of marriage.  \n\nThe drawbacks, I suppose are the same mundane drawbacks that come whenever you share physical space with another human.  They aren't always neat (but neither are you), sometimes they smell, sometimes they are selfish and intolerant.  But who isn't?
741117
several things affects that,how many years of marriage?their health?are they working hardly?the weather(cold/hot) are they loves each other or not?any problems in their relation ship.....etc.\nat least 3 times a week