Need some help w/ a date. We have been toghther for 6 yrs???Something new???
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Take her out to an amusment park...but if she doesnt like rollar coasters, take her to a place where you two can have a good time..but just the two of you
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Ask about common movies you may have seen... if you find there is not one you've both seen, ask if he would like to go to one you both might like. The best way to connect with someone is to share a common experience, so try something like a picnic, or go to a museum, or try the Zoo. This way you'll have something common to talk about not only during the "date" but also afterwards... and it gives you a venue to learn more about each other. This is why I think movies are fine for some dates, but you want a place to go where you can talk and get to know each other (can't during a movie), and learn each other's likes and dislikes. Good luck!
575971
it's just been two meetings. I'd suggest you take it slow, but meet him more often if possible & see how it goes.
1142593
6 years is pretty long and yet he does not want anything serious. Obviously you both want different things. Whats' the point then? Perhaps you grow too comfortable with him not necessary content. Time to move on and look for someone different.
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Hmm, this is a tough one.  But first let me say THANK YOU for being interested in a single mom!!  Men like you are hard to find.\n\nAnyway, I am 26, so you may get a different answers from someone older, I don't know.\n\nHow good of friends have you been in the past?  Obviously she is somewhat interested if she invited you to her house and also went to dinner with you a second time .  But I know you ware looking for a more definite sign than that.\n\nMy honest advice would be to simply ask her.  Ask her if she is interested in dating anyone.  Flat out.  She is a mature woman with her own life and responsibilities, and she will have no problem giving you a straight answer.  \n\nDating gets complicated when kids are involved, as you are always looking out for the best interest of your child.  So she may have decided that she does not want to date anyone until her daughter reaches a certain age.  If she's not interested in dating, ask her if she minds you continuing to call on her as just friends.\n\nOnce you get out of the puppy love thing, I don't think there is a need to dance around the issue.  Just ask.  The worst that can happen is that she says no.  Then you will know where you stand and you won't waste a year trying to read signals.
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I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
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Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
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That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
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Umm, this is a no brainer! You are a free bird either way dear! You need to call a few people and go out. Until you make a solid commitment to go steady, or call each other b/f and g/f you can date date date!!
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Actually, I think the amount of time that passed is NOT important, however, did you change? Did she change? Why did you split up 7 years ago? Consider these answers before leaping again, and make sure you both know what you are expecting from the other.
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And how long have you been talkin? Look truth is you might never have nother chance like this so go for it and meet him but then again that is a little crazy, there has to be a catch.
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I think that relationships can get boring and predictable after a period of time... so I would suggest throwing in a few curve balls from time to time, catch them off guard and keep them guessing. Keep things interesting. But most importantly... stay faith full and never be afraid to show your feelings.
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Which one of them do you have more FUN with? That's how I'd choose! It really depends on what sort of outcome you're looking for, though. \nIf you are looking to be mutually exclusive, you might want to think about it a little more discriminantly- get to know this new guy and his history more thoroughly- then make your decision.\nI obviously don't know you, but sometimes you can tell a lot about someone's feelings about others, simply by looking at the word choice in their question-- yours indicates that, although the 6 years guy is "great", he might be safe & boring, to you. The way you've presented it, it sounds like you are looking to experience something new...
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Well there you go bose!! Now we need a follow up. Did you write her? How did it work out? Was there a date? A second date? \n\nAs for your answer.......I wish I were an 8 ball......a prophetic soul.......but I'm not. Just be you and enjoy life and you'll be amazed at how love comes around when you least expect it.
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Sounds like she's interested in ya. Try to set up a casual datin scene sorta thing where u guys kinda hang out, go to the mall or coffee, get lunch... then maybe it will become "official" sort of dates, i.e. dinner and a movie. Good luck!
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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It seems that after 6 months you should be comfortable enough with him to not be playing these games.\n\nInstead of wondering how many times you should call him, I would reevaluate the relationship. What are you concerned about? Do you still want to keep him guessing? Are you overly obsessed about him and feel that he is distant? Do you truly think you are on the same page as him, as far as your feelings for one another are concerned?