i have liked this guy for 4 years we have dated on and off but right now he has a girlfriend and i know he can
412225
This is a tough situation.  He needs to address the relationship he has with this other woman.  Of course, the fact that he's been cheated on, is a terrible sign for him and whether he has you there or not, he needs to get out of that mess (once a cheater, always a cheater).  I think you need to tell him your concerns about the relationship he is in.  As far as your feelings, I think you need to be careful there.  You don't want this guy to end up with you only because he's rebounding.  You need to be his friend through his (hopeful) breakup and then through the recovery.  I'm thinking that time will take care of the rest.  My advice, let nature take it's course with both things and don't be in such a hurry.  Good luck.
700301
He has a girlfriend and so you need to put that into perspective. You might like him holding you but how does that look knowing he has someone else? Let him get rid of his girlfriend. Then if he does see if he's still interested in you. If he is then it will be up to the two of you as to what you will call yourselves. As far as the other girls go if theyre calling you a s**t or a sk**k, or some other evil word, then jealousy is about 85% of the problem. The other 15% is that they feel that you are giving yourself up easy because hes is with you all the time. To the these girls you hit them intellectually with facts. If you havent slept with him then let them know that. You cant be a wh**re if you havent done anything with him. The next step is to ignore them. Hard as that may be it works. Its great that you can take these girls on, but dont look to fight them if you dont have to. Especially over some guy. It just aint worth your time. You have a life of your own to deal with. Second and above all else the most important factor. Research this guy some more. What is he doing with you if he has a woman. Maybe he cant get the love, care and attention from her so he seeks it through you. Also you said he asked you out so you know that he likes you. Perhaps then his girlfriend is a front for his true feelings for you. You wont know however until you tell him to clean up his act. If he really likes you he will do what is right, even at the expense of hurting the other girl. Hopefully this can be a stepping stone for you to take action that will give you results. Good luck!
773544
On one hand, it's good that he keeps his girlfriends out of his daughter's life. On the other hand, four years is a long time. If you've been dating for four years, the breakup with the child's mother can't be too fresh. (I hope) If your boyfriend is unwilling to acknowledge you exist, it might be time to move on. \n\nSome kids can be pretty bitter when a parent starts dating someone new, but at 18, the daughter should be able to cope somehow.
241418
if you've known him and liked him for 8 years its time to find out and make a move or move on. I mean really 8 years!  I would guess that youve got to be in your 20's now to have had romantic feelings for a guy for that long. So go for it!
475399
Cannot help loving someone . I f he has a girlfriend, maybe he loves her. If so better to find someone else. Unless he is interested in you.
322705
He's already taken! Yes, it may seem that you guys are meant for each other but you may not know him well enough, he may love his girlfriend in a way you may not understand and what you can do is to invite him and his girl and your friend to something and you can analze how strong his relationship is with his girl. Even if it is weak, if you guys are meant for each other, he'll come to you.
611136
By being a good friend and then finding out that he has a girlfriend and he and his girlfriend have a daughter together.\nBut even though after you find that out that you can still be friends.
583885
actually he has a boyfriend
955064
Hey, sometimes things just don't work out. I know you really like this guy; we've all been there, I promise. Maybe this flirting that's going back and forth will lead somewhere, maybe it won't, but don't beat yourself up for it. Try and get involved in something else you're passionate about- reading, or hanging with your girlfriends, or anything. Just don't do anything to break up him and his girlfriend, okay? That never leads anywhere good. Good luck!
311079
12 and now im 14 and i still love him even tho he has a new gf and i have a new bf
452951
I think you like him more than a friend too. I have rather recently started a relationship, and all I ever think about is her! I hope you are as happy in your thoughts as I am in mine.
58262
VERY POSSIBLE, but that doesnt mean he would leave or even cheat on his current g/f, and i feel if he would they werent meant to be and maybe both of you are! :)
528980
At your age it will be over a year before you know for sure. Too many changes going on. Not that it can't happen, but if you are still together when you are 18, then he is probably the one.  \n\nBut some have dated until college, and then found out there was more and better.\n\nUnless you date other people, how will you really know for sure? It is the comparison to others sometimes that makes it easier to realize what you are missing/not missing.
771515
Especially around your age, I would judge based on maturity more then age.  I've seen people with a 4 year difference have a great, stable, long term relationship.  In general, though +/- 2 years from your age is a good guideline.
228839
if he has been your friend for a long time tell him friends always become boyfriend and girlfriend
148626
i've been in the same situation b4... i introduced them to each other.. they went out and became a couple.. later they broke up bcuz he was a total jerk.. now i cant stop blaming myself and she cant stop blaming me..\nmy advise is stay out of it, tell him: " if u like her, go ask her out yourself and dont get me involved"
302354
Girl, if you have known him for 4 years like you say, you SHOULD meet. Whether for sex or not, you should have physical attraction as well as spiritual and intellectual.