How can me (a closet bi-curious guy) make sure the guys i hit on are gay too without blowing my cover?
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HOnestly, there isn't one.  Sorry to be crass about it, but there is no magic bean here.  If you look around this section of Yahoo Answers, you'll find all sorts of people who want to know how they can fuction as gay people without anyone knowing they are gay, and the answer is you can't.  At the very least, you'll have to let the person you are interested in know you are interested, which is going to give up the secret real quick.\n\nThere are some things you can do with sampling however.  Spot tests are good -- bring up some gay topic like doesn't it suck that gay people can't get married or you don't see what the big deal about gayness.  If the person agrees with you and seems ok with it, then you can cautiously proceed.  If he violently disagrees with you, then back the hell off.
1074007
Well, as some have already suggested, it is possible that you may be gay or bi-sexual. But also you could just be curious about other guys and their equipment. And truth be told, most men are!
650783
Really, you have nothing to fear in your case because you are completely in control of the situation. You could refuse to check them in if you wanted to, so you have POWER! You're in charge!! Look them squarely in the eye, and then you'll know if they're flirting with you, or hitting on you. If they make you uncomfortable, then refuse to check them in.Plus, you'll know if they're HOT! After you've loooked a few of them in the eye, you'll find it much easier to do in the future. Good Luck!!
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If you need to be something, then I guess you'd be classified as Bi, who cares, have fun, just don't hurt anyone! \n\nMost gay guys get a kick out of it anyway.\n\n... Ohhh I thought you were asking about liking the same sex, dude the answers still the same, have fun don't hurt anyone. Really what's not to like??
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Don't make the mistake of assuming someone is gay by comparing them to a "laundry list" of stereotypes.   I know many guys who like to shop, wear great clothes, and listen to techno.  They're not gay.\n\nI know many guys who love to play football, drink beer, and don't shower.  They're gay.\n\nIf you want to play games and possibly offend people, then sure, look for "signs".  \n\nThe truth is that there are no SURE FIRE SIGNS to be certain about ANYTHING about ANYBODY. \n\nBe an adult, and ask him.  It's simple, direct, and if he gets offended, let him know that you want to know because you're interested in dating him.\n\nBeing upfront, mature, and understanding will get you far in life.  Playing games and stereotyping makes you just like everyone else.
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wow u're definitely in a tight spot. well, if ur open-minded, u'd give it a go anyway. at least u can say that uve gone out with a gay guy. its something not many ppl have done. but if u'd rather not, let him know NICELY. he might get offended if ur like... "eeww i dont wanna go out with u coz i dig chicks". lol get what i mean?
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Don't assume anything. He could be gay and very friendly. Best way, strike up a conversation and see if he asks you out for coffee later, eventually he'll give obvious hints even if he doesn't realise it. Until you know for sure, make sure no one knows you like him otherwise you'll be embaressed if he is gay and found out.
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There really isn't any way to know for sure..  \nMost of the time we kinda have an idea if someone is gay but there are some individuals that are very good at hiding their "tendencies".    You should try to become their friend, strike up a conversation about a book, movie, the weekend coming up, etc, etc--  Try to get to know them as a person.   There are many people out there, specially in H.S. that just because they don't like a person, rumors/lies are made up!! I'm pretty sure u have heard some rumors about yourself that you know are just lies!!!  So don't believe everything u hear.
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Well, it's a bit tricky, isn't it. I suppose it depends on several things. \n\nIt depends on how well you know this person. If it's a friend, I'd think twice before asking anything. Especially if you haven't got a clue whether the friend is bi. You could loose a friend. On the other hand if you're real close maybe you can talk about anything, even that.\n\nIf it's a person you don't know that well, then I'd agree with the former poster, have a few drinks and bring up the subject. Be very attentive as to his/ her bodylanguage and eyes. You can learn a lot from that.\n\nIf it's a total stranger in a bar, be even more attentive. Especially if you're a guy. You could get your ass kicked. I'd much rather arrange a date through some bi/ gay dating site or go to a gay bar than risking hitting on a perfect stranger...\n\nPersonally I've tried all of the above. And haven't got my ass kicked or lost any friends. If there is a secret to this I guess it is to be attentive, to listen and to seduce. Landing someone of the same sex really isn't that different from the way I suppose you normally do things. And it has been my experience that a lot of folks are bicurious, not everyone of course, but more than you might think...\n\nI wish you the best of luck. Have fun and stay safe.
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Well I'm bi, and as far as labels, it really doesn't matter, just enjoy life and have fun.  If you fall for a guy then pursue that avenue, and if you fall for a girl then pursue that avenue.  Rigid categories don't help anyone.  It's like saying well I like mayo more so I can never have mustard on a sandwich...don't box yourself in and just let life happen.  The most imporant part is for you to be happy and find a partner who loves you as much as you love him/her.  If you want to call yourself gay, then call yourself gay.  If you want to call yourself bi, then call yourself bi.  That's really a label that you have complete control over.  Good luck man!
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First off, to know for sure. Ask him straight out.\nSecondly, be aware that there are many straight men who act gay in order to get women. \nSome women just can't take the fact that a guy doesn't find them attractive and will go after them. Other women see a gay guy they want and will try to sleep with them because "it only takes one good woman to turn a gay man" or so they think. \nSome guys rely on these two ideas to get women.
988478
put someone's prick in your mouth and if you like it there you are at least bi if not gay!
765369
They are straight. They won't go on a date with you. Look for another guy like you.
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no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.
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If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
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if you're hot, it's not that difficult. spend some time on the the street in any major city and you're sure to bump into one. i'm not even gay and i've been propositioned several times with offers to set me up in exchange for certain "favors".
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First stop calling yourself Gay or Bi. Then stay away from gay people or at least from their organs. Do away with the gay mannerisms. Become who it is you want to be: A MAN! Your a man now and you want a woman to keep you warm. Go to the STRAIGHT bars. Buy a woman some drinks. Make sure she sees all that money in your wallet. If that doesn't work out, go to the next woman and so on. Think of it as training. You'll find the woman of your dreams and have fun finding her. Have fun. Be happy. Just don't be GAY! \n\nOh, and Tessa...Our sexuality is in our minds, not our genes. Because if it was in our genes, we'd find the gay gene and ERADICATE IT!