i have herpes   and i havent told my girlfriend should i and why?and yes we have had sex?
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Hell yeah...tell her!!!!
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I'm so sorry to even have the knowledge to tell you this. I contracted HSV from a boyfriend of a year after he had unprotected sex with some slut in Atlanta and then crawled into my bed. Now I am in new relationship with a man I've known for nearly two years. I will have to tell him about herpes too. After herpes, everything in my life changed, but it wasn't the disease that hurts the most -it's the stigma, hurt, and the inability to trust someone else. After the first outbreak it's pretty much smooth sailing except all those old feelings are brought up with every new outbreak. Three years ago, I had a relationship with a man who admitted after we had dated and had sex for nine months that he had herpes. At first, I was okay with it until I realized that he lied to me. He lied by not saying anything. He made the decision that I wasn't a person enough to decide whether I wanted herpes in my life. Then I wondered, "What other decisions is he making for me?" That was scary. Then Mr. I'm Getting Kicks in Atlanta took my ability to choose. He decided that it would be easier to not tell me that there was another person in our bed than to tell me the truth. Someone has already taken your ability to choose, but you and I have no right to do that to someone else. You don't want to go into your new relationship and have someone feel that way about you. Approximately 1 in 4 people have genital herpes and really it's no big deal. The stigma is the thing that ruins people's lives. If it didn't exist than there might be better relationships. I will be telling my next partner within as soon as sex comes up. Tell him in a relaxed setting (clothes on) and really talk to him. Tell him before you've had any sexual contact. It's okay if he's weirded out by it. Tell him, "I know what it feels like not to be valued as person because someone did that to me. I care for you and I want there to be no secrets between us. I have herpes." Give him an envelope filled with reading material so that he can see for himself. Then quickly tell him what herpes means, i.e. a noncurable skin condition. Try to be as positive as possible, he is going to look for cues from you to understand how to feel. Personally, I won't be choosing another sex partner now before marriage. I know this makes this harder, but I consider this a huge warning to not trust "Goodtime Charlie" with a go-round with my body. It's worth more than that.
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Yes you can. Make sure that you don't touch your b/f if you have one or anywhere around his area. I get cold sores all the time. My doctor told me not to do any oral sex with my b/f because he may catch herpies. be careful they are contagious and other people can catch it ( drinking from the same cup, kissing, touching it)
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No- there is no way to get herpes if your partner doesn't have it.  Your partner should be tested though to make sure he doesn't have it-  just because someone doesn't have sores, doesn't mean they don't have it.
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Herpes can be misdiagnosed if an outbreak isnt showing. It can be iin "hybernation" where you dont have outbreaks but can still pass on to others. Herpes is different for everyone. Some people can go their whole life with no outbreaks or knowledge that they have it. Most OBGYN's will tell you that its recomended to get checked out WHILE there are concerned outbreaks showing so that they can properly diagnose the infection. Having un protected sex with or without an outbreak is NOT safe and NOT reccomended. Its still possible to pass it on to others. And not fair to others.\n\nthis is a great site and you can find out everything you want to know just by reading. hope this helps\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/content/article/52/49874.htm
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Sounds like you have type 1 & 2 herpes - otherwise known as oral & genital herpes.  When you have an outbreak (blisters, etc) then you "shed" the virus - if they do a swab they'll be able to find the virus.  Otherwise, the blood (antibody) test shows that you have the viruses but not for how long.  I hope the folks who did the testing also talked to you about treating it - you can get medicine that can help cut down on the number and severity of outbreaks you have, although nothing's gonna cure it.
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Could be HPV, or Human Papilloma Virus, or Molluscum Contagiosa.  I'd see a doctor to determine what they are.  Just because they showed up after having sex with current boyfriend doesn't necessarily mean he gave it to you.  It can lie dormant in your body for an undetermined amount of time, and you may have happened to have an outbreak at that time.
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You'd have to...It will eventually come out if you plan to stay with this person. It is always best to be honest. If he/she leaves you because of the STD, then so be it, but at least you were honest so that he/she doesn't go out infecting others because of your silence.
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How common is herpes? \nAbout 50 percent to 80 percent of the adult population in the United States has oral herpes (commonly called cold sores or fever blisters), with as many as 90% having the virus by age 50. \nMost people contract oral herpes when they are children by receiving a kiss from a friend or relative. \nAbout one in four persons in the United States has genital herpes; however, as many as 90 percent are unaware that they have the virus. There are many reasons people do not know they have herpes (see below). \nAnyone who is sexually active can contract genital herpes. \nHow is it transmitted?\n\nAny person who is sexually active can get genital herpes. \nHerpes is transmitted through direct skin-to-skin contact. This occurs when a contagious area comes into contact with a tiny break in the skin or mucous membrane tissue, primarily the mouth and genitals. \nMost skin on the body is too thick for the virus to go through. \nIf a person with oral herpes (sometimes called cold sores or fever blisters) performs oral sex, it is possible for the partner to get genital herpes. \nIf a person with genital herpes has sex, it is possible for his or her partner to get genital herpes. \nGenital herpes can be transmitted sexually both when symptoms are present and sometimes when symptoms are not present. \nThere are several days throughout the year (called asymptomatic reactivation, asymptomatic shedding, or subclinical shedding) when the virus may be present on the surface of the skin, but there are no symptoms. Herpes can be passed through sexual contact during this time. \nThere are no documented cases of a person getting genital herpes from an inanimate object such as a toilet seat, bathtub, or towel. Herpes is a very fragile virus and does not live long on surfaces. \nTesting\nThere are different tests available for herpes. One test, a viral culture, can be done if you are experiencing symptoms. Blood tests are available for people who may not have had symptoms or if the signs have already healed. Not all tests are accurate, however, and many health care providers are unclear on which tests to perform. To find out more about getting an accurate diagnosis, visit our section on Testing. \nReduce your risk\nAny sexually active person may contract genital herpes. Aside from abstaining from sex or mutual monogamy with one uninfected partner, there are many options a couple may consider to reduce the risk of transmission.\n\nSince one in four persons is though to have herpes and the majority of people don't know, if a partner has ever been sexually active, it is possible that she or he could unknowingly have the virus too. Accurate blood tests:hyperlink are available to determine whether a person has antibodies for HSV. Knowing a partner's status can help a couple make a joint decision about whether they need to take steps to reduce the risk of transmitting HSV.\n\nIf one or both partners have herpes, it is important to become educated about herpes, to understand the basics of herpes prevention, and to make decisions together about which precautions are right for you.\n\nIf someone has signs or symptoms around the genital or anal region (genital herpes), he or she should not have sexual activity until all signs have healed.\n\nWhen there are no symptoms present, there is still the possibility of asymptomatic reactivation:hyperlink . Using latex condoms between outbreaks for genital-to-genital contact can reduce the risk of transmission. While condoms don't always cover the potential sites of viral shedding, they offer useful protection against the virus by protecting or covering the mucous membranes that are the most likely sites of transmission. Furthermore, keep in mind that condoms also help reduce the risk of acquiring another STD.\n\nOne antiviral medication for herpes, valacyclovir (Valtrex®), has been shown to reduce the risk of herpes transmission. When a person with a history of recurrent genital herpes takes
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it means telling you that she has herpes is difficult... it's like telling someone you kinda totalled their car or that you sorta caught their house on fire and burned it down... there's no such thing as kind of having herpes, you either have it or you don't. and it doesn't mean she's a whore. don't dump her just because of that; it's much better that she told you. that means she can pretty much be honest about anything.
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Sweetie, if you haven't had sex, it's not going to be herpes. You could be allergic to the detergent your underwear is washed in, a new soap that you might be using or it could a yeast infection. I would take some benedryl and make an appointment with the doctor. Those blisters can become infected if you're not careful. I suspect an allergy of some sort but I'm not a doctor. If you're under 18, you may need your mom's consent to see the doctor but if you've done nothing in the sex department then you've nothing to worry about. Ask your mom about how much benedryl to take or make sure you read the directions. Good luck, Honey. Tina
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That is a a false rumour.  Oral sex is fine as long as neither person has open sores in the mouth or on the female genitals (or male penis).\nIf you have a cold sore on your lips you can give Herpes Type I to the woman, so avoid it then.\nIf you enjoy receiving oral, then it is only fair that you give it to her. So wash well, be monogamous, and if you are too worried you can use a dental dam, or square of rubber to be between your mouth and her genitals.\nYou won't be harmed if the girl is clean and has no venereal diseases.
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Get her checked up if she is infected by "me", if yes I would advise not to have sex with her!!
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Never say never when it comes to diseases, but you shouldn't have to worry about most STDs if neither one of you is currently infected.  STD stands for 'sexually TRANSMITTED disease'.  This means the virus or bacteria depends on the conditions present during sex to spread.\n\nIn a case like herpes simplex 2, the partner with the infection would have days when contact would be more dangerous.  The open sores on a penis would come into contact with the lining of the vagina and the virus would eventually work its way to her bloodstream.  No sexual contact, no problem.\n\nAll you can do is stay hygienic and know where your partner has been.  If in doubt, insist on condoms.
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If you have Herpes Simplex you can potentially infect your partner even though you do not have an outbreak. So your friend may or may not have infected her spouse. Your first outbreak is usually your worst so he would surely know if he had Herpes. You will feel achy, feverish and develop lesions on genitalia. She would be most contagious during an outbreak so at that time they would definitely want to avoid intercourse.
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Hmmm you might have an infection of some sort, especially if you have slept with someone without protection. Make an appointment with your doctor ASAP.
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Thats good to know. I was never tested for Herpes and then had a outbreak at the age of 28, married for 4 years with 2 kids.\nI never knew.