How do I ask my bf if I can move with him?
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You say that your boyfriend doesn't like to talk about feelings a lot. Does that mean that he doesn't like to talk about your relationship? Because the logical answer to me seems to be that you just sit him down and tell him that you need to know what's going on, and where your relationship is headed. You can tell him how you feel about him and about your relationship without actually asking to go along with him, and perhaps he will get the message. I would imagine that he has a lot on his mind right now, and I would bet that he is thinking about this, too. He may not know how to approach the subject. \n\nWhen my husband and I were dating, there was a time when it looked like he might take a job in another state. Our relationship was pretty new as well, but was really good. I was on pins and needles wondering how to talk to him about what our future would be. He actually solved the problem for me. He sat me down one day and said he wanted to talk to me. I couldn't breathe. I thought it was the breakup talk. Instead he said "I don't know if I will get this job, but if I do, I want you to come with me." I agreed right on the spot, though my parents would not have been happy about me moving away with him. (He didn't take the job. He took one here instead, and we got married several months later.)\n\nThere is a danger, of course, in asking about the future. He may have plans for a future that does not include you, or which includes a long-distance relationship, which I think we all know is just a long, drawn-out prelude to a breakup. Are you willing to take the risk and ask him about your future together, knowing that the answer may be one you don't want to hear?\n\nAs for your job, is there any way you can put off lining up a job in advance? It sounds like you are a teacher. Could you substitute teach for a year? Could you work for a lawyer, or in a bank for a while until you can get a teaching job? Which is more important to you? Making a life with him, or making a career for yourself? Both choices are equally valid, but it may be a decision you find you have to make, and it most likely will not be an easy choice. \n\nThere really is no easy, pat answer to your question. I suggest you try to find out as much as you can about his plans for the future without actually asking to accompany him. He needs to do the asking, but that doesn't mean that you cannot let him know what you are thinking and that you would like to continue to be with him.\n\nI wish you the very best of luck.
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Asking him was the best thing you could do.\nBut dont you think its best to satisfy yourself before him?\nI mean do not wait for him, if he doesn't make a move then simply move on to someone who will.\nIts all about self satisfaction, or you'll be stressed forever!!!!\nGOOD LUCK
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ask him.DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT?
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Find a boyfriend a bit closer to home.
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WHY DON'T YOU BOTH EXERCISE TOGETHER, LIKE WALKING, YOGA, PILATES, ETC.?  DON'T NAG BUT SUGGEST.
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Take him aside,and tell him."I don't want to brake up w/ you,but since you're moving........."Talk to you at school,love ya like a sis.
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Ask him to spend time with u
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Straight up ask him something like this. "How do you feel about us being boyfriend and girlfriend"
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Ask him, point plank, what his intentions are. Perhaps it's time to find out what kind of future your relationship has. Be very clear about what you want and expect from him.
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be patient and not pushy. however if he is not sure he wants to be there then even if he does come back he won't be all there, why would you want someone to be with you that you have to beg to be there? thats a little sad and won't work out in the long run anyway. i think you need to worry less about getting him back and spend some time thinking about why you are so desperate to be with someone that you are willing to disrespect yourself so much.
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YOU can make the move, maybe he is just shy\n\ndo it anywhere
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You've already got a good head on your shoulders! You know what's right and wrong. There's no problem at all with you sharing a dance with a guy (As long as you remain vertical). I would answer in the exact way you already suggested - "Sure, but I am married". Let's him know up front that you're committed, and still allows you both to share the dance he asked for. Good luck!
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ask ur bf to undrestand that ur xams r approaching\nif he understands then he is a true lover if dont then u urself understand that wat does he want
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Ask him or casually bring it up ina conversation. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation you're in(Like the laid down rules), then let him know. If he loves you, then there shouldn't be a problem. Good luck.
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u got to ask him directly but be cool when u ask such a thing , dont lose your head\nmay be all will be fine\ngod bless you
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don't do it, if he has to ask you for it he's not the right guy.\n\ninstead get a small stuffed animal and move it up and down on his thing.  he'll never know the difference.\n\ngood luck!
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First, it's "might" not "mite". You have to decide whether or not you want to move with him, have a long distance relationship, or break up. All of this depends on whether or not you can move, how involved is the relationship, etc.