Do you have a hard time crying when maybe you should?
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I don't know if this is supposed to be a guy's problem...but my mother and I share the same problem. My mother is a little more severe in that aspect, though.\n\nI've never, ever seen her cry in my entire life. I can swear by that. Not even her eyes watering. She's an extremely tough, strong woman who'd never let the 'weakness' (she thinks its a weakness) of crying show in front of her children.\nI have no doubt she cries to herself at nights. But I've never seen her crying, and no matter how hurtful or great the situation is, she never breaks down. SHe's always tight-lipped and tension lines streak across her tired face, but there's never a tear.\nMy dad once commented to her, "I feel like I've married a man."\nI take that as a sort of compliment, that my mom, after having gone through several life crisises that wouldn't probably sent a whole family off a building or through the noose, she plough through it all, all without shedding a tear.\nAs for me, you can expect that because of her perception that crying is a weakness, I became somewhat eager to live up to her expectations (while my sister and brothers are whiny sobs...ok, well, they just cry a whole lot more, my sister being the worse.) and I became somewhat 'conditioned' not to cry.\nThough since I've had a fiance, he's been trying to encourage me not to be so 'angry', 'uptight' and close up all my feelings, I find it's helped a little, but I find it so hard to just 'let it go'.\nFor example, I was very close to my grandma. When she passed away because of breast cancer (she also had several stomach ulcers because she kept skipping meals to save money even though we were really well-off. SHe did it without our knowledge, because she came from extreme poverty with 8 kids single-handedly raised, and saving money no matter how was crucial to survival.), I was distraught, but I didn't cry.\nIt was an open coffin funeral. I remember seeing her lying in there dressed in new clothes, her eyes closed, like she was asleep. But she looked a little worried, I thought.\nI never shed a tear, I tried, I even closed my eyes and tried to run all the fond memories through my head of my beloved gran but not a tear could be shed.\nI was so...crushed. I felt like a robot. I still do. I find my emotions just swelling up inside.\n\nThe only 3 people who'd ever made me actually cry was my mother (she can be so hurtful at times, she was the first one who hurt my feelings during my childhood so much I curled up in the closet and cried.), my best friend (though we broke up long ago, she really was selfish and self-absorbed.) and my fiance (we've had a few big fights. He cried when he saw me cry. :|).\n\nI can understand it must be really frustrating, but for me, I realised we don't cry because a certain button in us has to be pushed.\nYou would know...have you ever thought or talked about a certain topic which you felt overwhelming emotion about? That's the button. One day, I suggest you sit down in a quiet spot where you can contemplate, and search that button and push it.\nYou might find that the tears that come out, might feel rather liberating.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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Yeah sometimes when i get overly emotional on myself.\nBut hey LIFEHOUSE ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!111
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Surround yourself with family and friends to comfort you in this sad time,it helps to talk about it,or if you don't want to talk,sometimes it just helps to know someone is there to hold you when you start to cry.
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Does laughing till you cry count?  LOL  Laughing most of the time...in fact it has been awhile since I have had a good cry...maybe I should break out that copy of The Notebook that I have been meaning to watch...hummm
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No sometimes I find it the hardest.  When we love someone we like to give the benefit of the doubt (at least I do) So I have hidden from the truth when I should be facing it.  Wait so maybe then it is easy? Oh I don't know \nI have learned that you should follow your gut instinct no matter what!
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Stronger tears when you are mad,
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we actually cry as much at sad endings; as happy 1's------Its an overwhelming emotion-empathy--you cant help it--you feel like your the one in the situation.It overcomes your emotions and you let loose. Passes a hanky
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definitely! i'm the same way. i had a mental breakdown a couple nights ago and cried for 3 hours straight. it was horrible, i was screaming and biting myself. you have to keep your emotions in check and vent them little by little each day. if you hold them in, you'll have a huge breakdown. not good.\nhope i helped!
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Yes, several times.  Once in particular comes to mind vividly.  I was walking down the corridor in the hospital where I work & I saw this young woman sitting on the cold concrete floor & crying.  \n\nShe wasn't outside a patient room but an administrative office so I wasn't sure what to make of the situation.  In any case, I stopped what I was doing & knelt down next to her.  She flung herself into my arms and just cried harder & so I let her & tried to offer comfort.\n\nCome to find out that she'd just lost her mother upstairs & I've never been more glad, or grateful, to have halted myself and try to help.
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You can't.  It's just your emotions flowing out. I am like that too.  Don't worry.  It's ok if you cry a lot.
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In today's society, it takes a very strong man to cry. I think it is more sad to see a man cry because men today are usually ashamed of their emotions. I also know several women who can turn on the water works just to get their way. I never assume some injustice has been done just because a woman cries. I find out as much of the whole story as I can before I make any judgements. (I judge actions not people)
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Yes, sad movies make me cry (sometimes).  No, my family and friends don't all know how much I love them.
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I don't know, but isn't it annoying?  If you think it is bad, trying being the best friend of one of those cry-all-over-you types.  I have three or four friends that will call me in the middle of the day to cry and tell me about a petty problem that would probably be fixed if they could just make a decision.  I prefer logic over emotion.  If something isn't going right, I fix it.  Please, don't think all women can't control their emotions, most can.  Those that can't are just more noticeable.
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i used to be like that but i started harming myself... i dont say go buy a razor and slash your wrist i am informing you that crying over little things is better then giving yourself a reason to cry... just talk to people and blink back tears thats all i know..
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I cry over any strong emotion, whether happiness, sadness, anger, tiredness etc. You are not alone!
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they can cry but not like people watch them when they are hurt
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honey, it's okay to cry. it's healthy to show your feelings and emotions. believe or not you are communicating. life throws challenges and it's up to us to decide how we handle it. for me, my best advice is fight back, u can control this. if someone calls u a crybaby, that's selfish on their part. u are telling him how u feel and that counts. if they tell u, u shouldn't be feeling the way you're feeling that selfish for their part. I say show your true feeling, take control of the situation, and be assertive. once you have the "assertion" then u can handle life a lot better.