How can you get your family, whom you love dearly, to accept your finance when they object to him so much?
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Well, if he's truly a good guy like you state, then what is the problem?  \nI say, if you know in your heart that this man is right for you and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, it is ultimately YOUR decision.  It may put you on the outs with your family, but if he is around long enough (especially as your fiance or husband) maybe they will start to see the good that is in him.  After all, if they make these assumptions and they hardly know him, perhaps they will grow to like and even love him once they get to know him.\nIs there someone in your family you are especially close to?  Seek them out and have a long talk with them.  Maybe you can get to see this man from your eyes, and then can spread the word.\nThe main thing is though, you can't MAKE anyone like anyone else.  And family disputes arise all the time.  No one likes everyone they meet, and family is no exception.  If you feel that this man is right for you, then by all means BE WITH HIM.  Maybe it will piss some people off, but really, this is your life and it is up to you to find the man who is truly right for you.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
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Well I am very sorry too here about all that. The best thing you can do is try too get your Uncle alone and tell him sistiuation and hope he listens to you. One other thing you can do is pray for the whole family God allways listens to you. I hope everything works out May God Bless You And Your Family.
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Try talking to them, show them how much you realy love and respect them, and try to compromise. Your family, specially your dad and mom, will always love you, even if they sometimes dont show it due to your unobediance or stubbornness.
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Pray, and ask Him to show Himself real to you and your heart.  That is ok to do, you know!  He loves you enough to show the truth, and will lead you to peace.  I have asked Him to prove Himself mighty for my family in many tough situations, and He has never left me one doubt that He is in control, and loves me and my family.  He is as real as me or you, and all you have to do is love Him, accept Jesus into your heart, and ask forgiveness.  Blessings!!
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First of all, you are NOT weak. It takes incredible strength and courage to honestly face the stress in your marriage and continue to stay. You obviously care a great deal about all your children. You want to keep the family together if possible. \n\nI hope he will come around, but you do need to prepare a Plan B if he doesn't. Right now he's got financial control over you and he's using it. Maybe you could set a short term goal of saving $1000 in the next 6 months...? By then, you may have a clear direction for yourself and your family.\n\nGod Bless.
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Be strong and do not show emotion if they try to make you back down.  You have to live with this man, so its your decision and you have to live with it.  I am sure that your family only wants you to be happy.
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Be honest with your family. If they love you they will come to accept your life choices. You have to be true to yourself and not live your life for other people.
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My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
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It is human nature to be greedy and demanding like little spoiled children.  But it not what God wants to hear all the time--"gimme gimme gimme whah whah whah."  Is that what you want to hear from your children?  \n\nGod is not some giant "stuff" dispenser waiting to give you your latest wish list of cash, cars, boats, clothes, and mansions.\n\nHe wants you to talk to Him, to be in fellowship with Him.  The way a child is supposed to love a parent--with respect.  When the Bible talks about fearing God, it is not talking about cowering fear.  A better translation would be "reverential respect" or a "wholesome dread of displeasing Him."\n\nFollow the ACTS formula for prayer and you will be more on track.  A--Adoration=worshipful praise of the creator of the universe.  He who spoke into existence all that exists.  C--Contrition=sincere repentance and confession of your sins against Him.  T--Thanksgiving=for all that He has given you, done for you, is for you, most especially for Jesus who came and paid the price of our sin debt thus making it possible for us to pray to the Father in the first place.  S--Supplication=asking your heavenly Father for the things you truly need.  Ask for the spiritual blessings you need.  He wants to give you what you really need.  He doesn't object to you having physical possessions but He will not give you stuff that is going to get between you and Him. \n\nBut seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.--Matthew 6:33   Read the whole chapter 6 at: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=47&chapter=6&version=31\n\nIf you pray in this manner I think you will find your priorities more in order and more effective.
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I know how it is sometimes even difficult to reject someone's love. But we have to keep in mind that, if we proceed to accept his proposal only because we don't wanna hurt that person, we will later end up hurting him even more.\n\nSo the best is to be upfront and honest with him, just kindly and gently reject his proposal with full respect. Don't criticise him, just tell him nicely that you just can't accept his love, and hopefully he can give out that love some other time to someone who will mean more to him, and that one rejection only brings him closer to The One
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i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
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Everyone is saying small claims court, but your question was how to relieve stress and that would make more.  Besides even if he won you cant make people pay money they don't have.  The best thing for you to do for him  is to be supportive.  I know it is hard when you want something you cannot afford, tell your dad you love him and he doesn't need to buy you fancy things for you to love him.  Its a shame that your sister ruined things for you and your sister.  The sad truth is things may not get better.  You can help him by getting a part time after school job to help out buying the things you and your sister need.  I know you love your dad and respect him more than your sister does, so step up to the plate and be the bigger person.  Its a hard lesson of life, but you will be a much better person for it.  And I guarantee you will never disrespect or take advantage of anyone.  You will never end up like your sister.  And how you should deal with your sister is tell her she is hurting the family. (if you have already done this, good)  Let her know you cannot respect her until she makes it right. Then leave her alone, don't make any time for her, pretty much ignore her.  That's all you really can do.  Good Luck , I hope things get better.
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i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
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If you love him and he loves you, you will overcome this. The families will learn to except you , or they will loose there son. A real man would tell there parents,,,this  is who i love and i will marry, except my wife, or i wont be coming around no more, i have a new wife , and that,s my family. But it takes a real man to stand up for his wife / women. Once that happens, things will fall into place. But don't have a man do all this for you,,,if you don't truly  love him. That would be so cruel, never lead a man on. Be sure of what you want before you take that step together. My Thoughts are with you. ~*~*~*~ Peace.
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Ask your wife what she thinks when your In-laws "let down" on you.  This should open a conversation that will allow you to tell her how you feel as well.  She should understands why you are not at the same financial level as her older siblings.  Work together making your financial goals.  Check the progress often together.  She can set her parents straight if that's needed.  No one likes to be put down and should they keep up this behavior, I would make the contacts with them as minimal as possible.  (The natural consequences for people who are jerks...no one wants to be around them.)   Hope this helps!
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He may have fallen into the "make more money to have a better life with my family" obsession/trap.  Get him to talk about "why" he's doing what he's doing.  If he's in that mindset, help him remember that money is a means to and end and that losing the end while pursuing the means is foolish.  Um, don't make him "feel" foolish, though.
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That when the rest of my family does not support me he does.