Does anyone see anything wrong with a 17 year and a 22 year old being married and planning for children?
408705
i don't think love should be ever judged by the age of the 2 persons involved in a relationship. most people think age difference is a big factor. however, the deal is if you will get along fine in the long run, if your differences compliment each other in a positive way, and if you try to overcome your differences in a positive way.\n\ni know you're thinking if there's something wrong with getting married at the age 17 or 22, and why people are kinda discouraging you from this.\n\nthe reason is that they're just concerned that you might just be too overwhelmed by the situation. and their concern is for you to try to see the other side of things, or the other possible things that you might still experience as a single person.\n\nmarrying is a big responsibility, regardless of age. some are being too reckless to marry, because there's divorce, so they just go ahead and do it, unprepared internally.\n\ni have read somewhere that there's these 2 teens married at a very young age. but they did it out of pure love. they attended college together, pursued their own degrees, sustaining their family (at the time, they decided not to bear a child, because they're supporting their education on their own). and they did that out of love.\n\nso i guess my say is, if you're really sure enough you really love your partner-in-life-to-be, go ahead and marry. but be sure to face the life of a married person. it's gonna be harder, but then, just bear in mind, that you chose to decide to marry because you love the person. and even if it's gonna be a tougher life, stick to it and do your best to make the married life work.\n\nkey to a good marriage? respect for each other and continuous acceptance and understanding for the other, bearing in mind that there's always room for improvement. =)
1173592
well, i'm only 13 yrs. old, and i'm kinda not married, but i don't see anything wrong with that either. unless you had kids with your ex, you should be fine.
384749
It can be or it can be just a normal thing.  It depends on if the two of you grew up in the same house since you were teens or before.  But if you are older, like probably 25 or over, and your parent just married his parent, then it would be no big deal.  But if you guys parents had been married since you were a kid, then something is wrong with that.
536784
No, of course not!  It may seem weird, but think of all the married couples who have a 10 year difference!
223030
Quite frankly they should wait to get married. This isn't because they aren't able to or aren't mature enough. It is because the pressures that come with a "marriage", even though it is just a piece of paper, could actually split them up. Encourage them to stay together. There is no reason that they can't. However, getting married at this age may not be the best thing for them.
30051
Most parents wouldn't allow their teenager to get married, and rightly so. That's just too young, really. And if there was some kind of family feud going on? Forget it!
288113
Personally I think he is, But I've seen older. If your in love then go for it. However I know a girl who met a guy living in canada (she's from the US) on a message board, they've known eachother for less then 6 months and she plans to marry him. shes 18 hes 17. even in Las Vegas a justice of the eace won't grant a marrige licence in that case. I think they're crazy. As long as you don't end up in a situation like this I see no problen with it.
753716
I think some people just know. they meet when they are young and know they will marry by the time they are five or something. they are jsut sole mates. if your questioning it makes me wonder if thats your case??  are you two headed in the same direction for your lives have you talked about that? Where do you see yourself in ten year, twenty years. etc
853501
Being married to some one a few months older is not wrong.\nOr years older it is who you love that matters ..\nPeople are narrow minded about women and younger men.\nguys like older women because they are more mature and know what they want out of life and know what they want in a relationship..\nThe only thing I am against is marrying a much younger woman , almost to being a pervert..and same for women..
678884
honey, if you're married then the age difference should be the least of your worries.
406402
I am 27, and my husband is 40.  When we started dating I was 20 and he was 33.  While there's not anything wrong with it, my experience has been that we are at very different points in our lives.  For example, I am just getting settled in a career job (teaching), and thinking about starting a family; he is not sure about a family at this point (looking ahead to retirement) and wants to start travelling the world.  So it can be difficult in a lot of ways.  But that being said, he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything!\n\n(Huh, apparently judging by the comments above, we must be some sort of sickos....who knew?)
666825
I think its because their parents let them do what ever they want when ever they want to do it. I'm 14 and i don't support any teenager doing that kind of stuff they should Wait till marriage.
144440
no problem whatsoever, just so long as you are not trying to start a new family, it would be real unfair to the kids you could have, if this is part of your master plan.
93940
I think any marraige, teen or not, just for the sake of a child are setting the couple up for failure. Eventually, there will come a time in their lives where one person (usually the man) who feels resentment for giving up his freedom because of a child. Most people who marry because of a child don't even fully love the person they are marrying. Now this isn't to say that teen marraiges don't work out... I'm just saying the cards are stacked against them and they have to work hard TOGETHER to get through and prove the world wrong.
1168207
My husband and I are few months apart age wise and he is the older, we met at university and I believe it was love at first sight, even if we didn't realize it immediately, We married within two years of graduating and that was 14 years ago, we are still in love, so from my experience, being in love and marrying someone my own age has been a successful venture.\n\nI do disagree with sweety in saying that age gap with the man being at least 3 to 4 years  older creates respect. What creates respect is mutual understanding, love, trust, taking care of the duties of marriage as dictated by God etc, it has nothing to do with the age of the husband.\nIf your man treats you like his queen like my  husband does with me, you can't but want to care for and respect him because that is what he deserves.
896450
I don't see how this could in any way be considered a marriage.\n\nIf a marriage is to produce children the parents have to be fertile at the same time, and that isn't always going to work for 40-year-olds.  Also, children would be the great interrupter in your pattern.\n\nKids like to know their parents as their parents.  There really isn't that much wrong with the traditional marriage.  Let's stick with what we know generally works.
513377
My uncle has married a woman who is 4 years older than him\nthey have a 15 years old daugthet now and nothing seems wrong they are still in love