how to be a good wife???
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All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. \n\nAnn Landers Says Truth Is Stranger..., 1968\nIn marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer.\nNorman Wright and Gary Oliver
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Well My wife and I lived together 13 years, have been married 11 years and our 3 children were from her previous marriage. We have 8 grandchildren. So far so good!! The big thing I think is you need to hold your head up, Show your pride and confidence. Demonstrate that YOU feel your worth.\nDon't settle for less than what you want!
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you need to ask your WIFE\n\ncommunication is the key to a succesful marriage or relationship
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Commitment\nCommunication\nselflessness and giving\nforgiving\nloving selflessly\ntreating them the way you want to be treated\nHonesty and not hiding things\nFaithfulness\nrespect and trust\nnot trying to change the other person instead work on yourself to be the best spouse you can be for that person.\nHaving God the center of your marriage. Working through things together when things get rough or tough.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
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A good married life I think depends on many factors. But one of the undisputable key factors to a good married life is communication. Therefore I have attached something that I had saved many years back, and hope that you can gain a thing or two from the text below and the source link for more reading.\n\nTrue Intimacy Through Communication\n\nIt's amazing, but if you really look closely you'll discover that people are extremely private creatures. For all that we seem to want to boast and have ourselves become acclaimed, we still tend to bottle our truest and deepest feelings inside. And, for what? Most often to protect our helpless hearts from heaps of pain, anger, ridicule, despair or ultimately heartbreak. But, what if keeping our inner selves hidden is what causes the pain to appear in the first place? Have you ever considered that preventing the people close to us from really getting to know us is what's keeping them from giving their all as well?\nEvery person has an inner need to be heard and understood. The people who understand us best are the ones we consider our closest friends, and the type of people we tend to gravitate towards. So, it would make sense that if we took the time to understand our partners and visa versa we could create a relationship of true closeness and intimacy. We wouldn't feel the need to hide our real feelings, or keep our deepest dreams and desires hidden because we would feel safe in the knowledge that our partner would understand. \nFor a lot of couples this may seem like an impossible task. If you've been together for any number of years, and communication is still your number one problem, it is definitely worth the risk to try and create a better verbal environment. \nTo begin on the road to verbal bliss you'll need to check all emotional baggage at the door. It can't be allowed on this trip. What kind of emotional baggage? Well, first you need to strip away any "shoulds or should nots," or other beliefs. These are the statements that you hear cycling in your head when you're partner is doing or saying something such as: "He should know what I mean," "If he really loves me he should understand," or "She should know better than to do that." There aren't any prerequisite behaviors that you or your partner should have, other than a willingness to understand and listen. Everything else is just a made up excuse to get away with not using real communication.\nNext, you need to reenter the relationship with an open and trusting heart. You need to be able to begin these tasks without harboring negative or hurtful feelings. What has been done is in the past, and this is a step towards creating a new future. If you let the past in, you're only crippling your future. \nThe first step towards improvement is to examine your current communication patterns. Below are a few questions to ask, and share your thoughts with, each other. This should be done without ANY accusations. It is a time for revelation and pattern changes. In fact, you may not want to do all the questions at one time. The best way to complete this "mini-course" is to handle one pattern each week. Below are the first three weeks of this mini-course to get you started. We will be including the next three patterns next week, so be sure to bookmark this page!\nRemember, this is an exercise for a couple to complete. You can gain benefit doing it on your own, but you won't experience the ultimate reward of true intimacy in the same way as doing this together.\n\nNegative Pattern #1: Are you belittling your partner's communication? Check the tone of voice you are using. This is the most common area of misunderstanding and invalidation. The surprising fact is that most of the time you won't even realize you are doing it. Sugar goes down a lot easier than spice. Make it a special point to practice kindness in the way you say things, even if you
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A good woman is not just a woman, is a woman with good character and behaviour. so if you want to marry a good woman you must not follow after beauty, though beauty is good but is not ultimate. A womam with repect for you and your friends. A woman that is mature enough to handle situations and family affairs, that is a good woman. Seach out for such a woman patiently you will find one.\nHappy seach.
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You begin to learn each others quirks and idiosyncrasies.  You will struggle and have bad times and good times. You will laugh, cry, worry, and enjoy.  Marriage is only what two people make of it.  It is work, but just like a garden, it is well worth the weeding and pruning one has to do.  Don't give up when things get tough.  Communicate!!!!  I know you've heard it before, but take heed, communication is the key to an awesome marriage. A marriage needs 100 percent from both partners.  Live and learn from one another, touch and kiss often, and never say a word that you may later wish to take back, words are like feathers released into the wind, once released they are hard to take back.
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Just love her. If you really do then all the stuff that would make her happy you just naturally want to do and will do for her.\nYou will always be thinking of her and if you go to a store you will look for things for her instead of yourself. You will think very long and hard to come up with little gifts she will be overjoyed with. and because you love her the best thing in the world will be when she is pleased by the thing or gift you got for her. your pay back wil be just watching her being happy.\nYou will go out of your way for her to try to help her out of a bad situation and you will always put her before the things you would like to do.\nAnd if she really loves you she will do the same for you and you should always be in harmony because you both love each other more than you love yourselves.\nThat is the secret of a happy and long marriage with minimal fighting and stress. This how we work together and for the unity of the family. If you care more for her and she for you than you do about what you yourself want it is going to be great! Enjoy!
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Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
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Be respectful. Be charming. Be polite.\n\nAs long as you are good, you will eventually attract good women. (You will find some not-so-good ones, too, but the good ones will stick with you.)\n\nNot all women think guys are dogs. Women who have been burned by men, will think that. Remember, respect, charm, and polite.\n\nThose are very essential elements, and don't forget honest. \n\nIf people are rude, shrug it off. Someone who's ticked today, could be pleasant tomorrow. \n\nGood luck.
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The answer is to worry about being the best you, because you want to be the best you.  If you aren't interested in being your best, why should she settle for less than the best?  Read books, find things that interest you and learn about them and become good at doing them.  Increase your range of expertise.  Diversify your interests.  Work hard.  Stay in shape (I don't know how many guys get married and put on 50 pounds...I've heard of freshman fifteen, but it's unfair to the spouse, that the person he / she fell in love with / married feels that since they are tied together for better or worse, that he / she can allow better to change to worse...)  Basically, be an interesting person.  If you aren't an interesting person, why should somebody stay with you?  Do not be an a-hole, do not take her for granted, do not cheat on / disrespect her.  Remind yourself that of the 3.25 BILLION women on the planet, this is the one you have chosen to throw your lot in with.  And of even greater importance is to keep in your mind that of the 3.25 BILLION men she COULD have chosen, she chose YOU!  Work...Work hard... know that it won't always be easy.  There are always ebbs and flows to all aspects of life, but it has been my experience that whatever people look for, they find.  If you look for a reason to be unhappy with her, you will find it and the peaks won't be as high and the valleys will be even lower.  The opposite is true too though.  Look for the good things.  Know God.  Lean on Him.  He can handle your burdens a lot easier than she can or than you can for yourself.  Give of yourself freely and without reservation or expectations of reciprocation.  know LOVE.  Good luck
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Definitely you are a great wife… One that any man World appreciate.\n\nSometimes everyday issues really get to our heads, and men, we get stressed up  easily.\n\nMy suggestion: Make him horny (over the phone, emails, offer him a nice welcome back home early morning) .\n\nJust act like the girlfriend.\n\nYou see? If you act like the wife, he’ll act like the old-daddy. Nevertheless, if you are the high school-type girlfriend. That will send him back a couple of years, and motivate him a bit more. \n\nWhen you have finally trapped him in your castle of love. Act horny, I mean, enjoy it and let him know you are enjoying it: he’ll feel like “superman” inside that room and will always want to be near, and repeat. Work his ego, his macho ego. \n\nInclude, always, a bit of wine and nice dinner (gourmet food).\n\nSend me a line if you need recepies.
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I don't know how or why she's being a "beach", but I can tell you that you can't MAKE anyone do anything.  The only person on this earth you can change is yourself.  So my advice to you is make sure you are being the right kind of husband, no matter what she does or says.  Don't let her provoke you into behaving badly.  I know, easier said than done, but that is about your only option, other than ending the marriage, which it doesn't sound like you want to do.  Get yourself some good books on marriage and how to be the ideal husband.  Work on yourself.  It just might do her some good!
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Well, first of all, before asking for a good wife, one must be a good husband first. Being good doesn't mean being rich. So I would say the qualities include fidelity {most important}, compassion, accepting one for who they are etc.
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Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't do when you were married, this will certainly make you look on the bright side of being single with no commitments.  As for trusting guys, there are plenty of good ones out there, unfortunately the good guys don't always meet the good girls first time round.
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Setting ground rules is important - as is following through with these. Discuss with your husband that it takes TWO to make a marriage work well and that accepting responsibility is an integral part to it. Make it very clear that you will not tolerate irresponsible behavior and lead by example by doing specific things to show him what responsibility entails. When he does act responsibly acknowledge such behavior with specific praise. This will help him realise exactly the kind of things that you expect from him. Remember: things are hardly likely to change overnight as habitual behaviors take time to establish. So keep at it and before long you will be rewarded for your persistence. Goodluck! :-)
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Always pray for your husband or wife. Prayer is very powerful.\nProblems always arise no matter how prepared you might thing you are. But with God, you can overcome any problem.\n\nA good book to read is "Power of a Praying Wife" & for the men "Power of a praying husband" by Stormie Omartian. Very Very good! My marriage is way better.\n\nGod Bless!