...I'm always attracted to my Best friends boy friends... but its too late they are hers...?
405909
this seems to always be the case..i guess you just have to try and be yourself..since you both probably hang out with each other a lot..try to be more outgoing than her and change it up a little bit..however..dont try too hard they may start to notice
337182
Your friend may be asexual.... It isnt a choice if she is. Do you totally control who you are attracted too? If so, I want you to go to school and become sexually aroused and fall into love with the most unattractive boy in school. (If you are a girl if not do the opposite) Hey its a choice, you should be able to do it. The main problem I see with this question is not your friend however your non acceptance of her. There is nothing "wrong" with her at all. Her behavior is not the norm however the norm does not necessarily mean it is the only right way. Accept your friend for who she is right now.... if you truely are her friend. Also, by the way, dont rush to judge. I know you feel grown up now, however, you are not. 16 is very young and one of these days you will look back and understand that. Your friend has plenty of time to fall in love and have crushes.... My guess is that she will go through that process but only in her time... not yours. By pressuring her, you may cause her to have trouble in finding that right person. A person has to love their self before truely loving someone else. Be a friend and accept her from where she is at. She isnt hurting anyone or breaking any laws. I'm sorry if I came across as blunt however your question, how you wrote it bothered me. I hope you question how you see her and give her a chance to find herself without judgement.\n\nBy the way, I'm a therapist and every expert in the world would laugh at you for even trying to research this about your friend at her age. She is still developing and growing. A human brain doesnt totally develop until around 25 years old. Maybe that part of her brain hasnt grown yet.\n\nBy the way, I understand you are probably doing this because you care, but seriously you are out of bounds and barking up the wrong tree... as the sayings go.\n\n\nBy the way, about your added comment... Does things that are right about your friend usually annoy you since you are back tracking and saying you dont think anything is wrong with her. Dont get me wrong, I'm not going to argue with you. My main goal is for you to look at yourself and become more aware of what you have said. I think you are doing that. No hard feelings..... Good luck with your friend and I hope you have a very long lasting relationship\n\nCounselorDan
349327
You just have to really be yourself and show to her that you are the right guy for her. I would call and talk to her about it and ask her if you two could just go hang out some night and when you do eventually hang out, tell her about everything you feel! They always say that your soul mate should be your best friend so who knows. I wish you the best of luck!
799452
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
920844
woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
226676
Have I got an answer for you!!!!  I went thru the exact thing- I kept telling him no no no no NO NO NO NO!  Day after day!!!!  It is just taboo to date your best friends brother!  Finally I said yes just to shut him up!  And we have been married for 22 years now.  Love can be right under your nose and u do not even know it!  Always take a chance on love!  Its well worth it when u win!
952941
You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
734409
I am in the same boat as you, and I have the exact same feelings. I think that we have this problem because people around us are dating, and we're not so we feel left out. Just try to have fun with your friends, like I do. You'll stop wondering about your romantic future. Who knows...maybe you'll see him that night. Just make sure that isn't the only goals to your plan.
697438
Been there, done that.  Sooner or later it seems, we all have to face the fact that our close friends can be just as nasty and uncaring as our worst enemies -- when it comes to their lovers or potential spouses.  Some of this is to be expected -- their priorities have changed and are moving on with their lives.  Other times though, these suddenly "hooked-up" friends seem to act as though we never existed and may even completely cut us out of their lives.\n\nLet your friend make her own mistakes.  She'll see the error of her ways and will probably be coming back to you.  In the meantime, move on yourself and begin to develop other friendships.  I know (from experience) that some of these platonic friendships can become so close that the friends are more like siblings than friends -- it's hard to move on but it is something we have to do to survive.  If she happens to pull this nonsense on you again with another guy, you will know better the next time and will also have a new set of friends to fall back on. \n\nIt might be a good idea to rely on your family for socializing and emotional support right now too.\n\nGood luck, dear.  I am thinking about your situation.  I've been there and know what you are going through.
452951
I think you like him more than a friend too. I have rather recently started a relationship, and all I ever think about is her! I hope you are as happy in your thoughts as I am in mine.
653392
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
992412
it all depends with how you love them.as far as i know love is the most important issue here,ive learnt to love all my pals and there those who are special ttttooooooooooooooo much to me.as from my point of view girl you cant have more than two best friends.its like trying to eat two of your favourite things together
14866
Let her date him.  Things like this happen.  Boy/girl friends come and go, but friendships can last a lifetime.
250019
You are a good friend to be that worried about your friend!\n\nNothing is wrong with your friend, I'm sure those guys just weren't right for her in one way or another.\n\nWhen the right guy enters the scene she won't turn him down.\n\nHave you ever thought that something might have happend to your friend and maybe she might not want to be with a guy for a while???  Something she may think she can't talk to you about?\n\nThen again your friend's interest may have turned from boys to...  \n\nEither way just let your friend know your there for her and that no matter what you will be!
136359
Sorry to hear your feelings are being reciprocated...but unfortuantely you cant make someone like you.  just keep being her friend andmaybe you will grow on her.  Thats how my man got me!  We became best friends and now were engaged!
601201
I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...