what should i do about my life if i'm gay and live in a country where gays are hated, beaten and even killed?
404655
You should find a way to move to a country where you can live your life.\nI do not know whether you can apply for political asylum in the U.S., though you can apply for permanent residency by finding employment here in the U.S.\nI hope you leave your country, and find happiness somewhere.\nI don't know what education you have, or what skills you have, but you should absolutely be able to find work no matter what your background.\nGo for it. The world is large.\nFind the part of it where you belong.
370887
I do not know, but I will ask my friend who is in Saudi later on and I will ask him for you.  Do you want me to give him your e-mail?  No, he is not gay!!  I'm sure in Saudi you will probably get beheaded since they do not accept that way of life.
825364
If you love God. and being Gay doesn't come between you and the spirit of God then you may go to heaven.I allow it. If you get there and they say no. no admittance, then you tell them to talk with me about it I will have a long talk with them OK?ands that reminds me.who came up with this Jumbo shrimp thing, that's like saying  military intelligence in one sentence, they don't go together. and if your gay and molest very  young children like a man did to me. then you should get a death sentence.as a straight person should also.Peace
543762
I'm not sure... I was the victim of a gay bashing on Christmas Morning, 2005. And since I live in western Nebraska, I really was not sure what to do. If I had made a stink out of it and got the police involved, I more than likely would have been subjected to it again. Maybe gay bashing is done by those who are too chicken shite to admit they really are gay, so they hate those of us who are out of the closet and fear that we will drag them kicking and screaming into the world of Gayness. lol.
21667
Oh, no no no...  Stay where you are... I think we have enough people like you in our country as it is.  You will go to hell for this...  Heeheehaha...  Come on dude, be with someone because you love them, not because they are divorced and living in the USA..That's so wrong.
743811
It is not up to me as a gay man to reduce homophobia. What you are suggesting is that victims should be responsible for hate crimes commited against them, which I find to be offensive.\n\nThe onus is on the perpetraitors of violence, harrassment and ignorance against gays and lesbians to enlighten themselves after being shamed for their stupidity.\n\nYou can not 'combat' homophobia - just manage negative impact of homophobic abuse - homophobes act out of fear and ignorance. You can't combat ignorance because ignorance is the deliberate denial to inform oneself of the truth. You can't 'combat' a person's desire to be ignorant if they persist on being ignorant - ignorance serves to benefit those who are ignorant.\n\nYou can only re-adjust the  perspective of the 'victim' so they don't feel victimized. Empower victims of hate crimes to not take abuse to heart.\n\nThere will always be homophobia - we are a minority. We always will be. It is very naive of you to think that we will be accepted by the majority of straight people.\n\nThe Religious Right and 'moral majority' ( I assume you're American) lobby groups in your country are what produces homophobia. The Bible is homophobic. The only way to 'reduce' homophobia is to educate 'Christians'. But you can't educate the uneducatable. So homophobia is here to stay, I'm afraid. It does not bother me. Why? "It is not what you call me, but what I answer to that counts". Think about it.
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I deal with it by being me, being proud, and not giving a flying mother f*cking sh*t if people don't like it.  You've got to be strong to be gay, or else you are totally f*cked.  \n\nStop trying to please everyone, because you WILL fail at that.  It is an impossible task.  \n\nYou deal by being smarter, stronger, and infinately cooler then people who hate gays.  You read more, you dress better, you do whatever you need to do to grow some healthy self esteem so you can fend off the stupid morons who judge you.  You are open and honest with people because secrets are just destructive and annoying.  You make lots and lots of gay and gay friendly friends - in fact, you don't tolorate anything less of your friends.  If they want to be judgemental or ambivilent about me, they can do it somewhere else because I don't need to put up with that sh*t.  You watch shows like "Queer as Folk" or gay films and find characters to relate to.  You get involved in local gay activities, be it politics or gardening or whatever.  You find the local gay bars and liberal coffee houses and hang out there.
1158604
You are 17, you are old enough to go anywhere the law allows.  Be careful.  If you are gay then there are people who might want to hurt you.
1171046
playin the black card again?\nthe worst thing you can be in this country is a white middle class heterosexual male. you have to earn evrything. wish i was a black gay disabled immigrant pregnant female.
822888
Stop thinking of it in terms of gay and strait. As a matter of fact forget the two terms exist at all. Then just pay attention to your emotions toward everyone around you and the answer will just kind of come to you. Thats how it was for me.
1098113
I thought your reply to her was great! I know it can be frustrating when you see such intolerance towards gays, but violence is not the answer. Such people really missed the, "Judge not, or you too will be judged" lesson in Sunday school. (That's Matthew 7:1, the NIV translation.) About pride: Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. --Proverbs 16:18\n\nSuch people are like mosquitoes--bothersome and they will feed off you if you let them. Just put on your bug spray and you'll be fine. ; )
503608
Well I don't care what people do as long as they aren't in your face about it and leave me alone.\n\nYou'd probably get hanged or put in prison for being gay years ago, at least now people can be open about it.
966147
No, Gays should be executed for being who they are no matter who thinks it's a sin.  The real shame is that there are plenty of Christians here who would love to re-institute the same kinds of laws here in the USA.
1107079
go  ahead,  do  what  ever  you   want  to,  all  the  rest  of   you  do.and  nobody  can  seem  to   do   any  thing   about   it.or  they   wont.so   eat   drink   and   be   merry,  sell    drugs,  rape   ,  steal,  this  is   america,  our   goverment  will   protect you,  and   our   laws   only  apply  to  us   tax   payers.get  married  on  a  green   card  an   orange   card,  pick   your   color.  what  the   hell,   who   cares.and  if  you   want  to   marry  someone   thats   your   same   sex,  go  ahead,  that  law probably  is   for   americans  only   too.
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Depends on where you are. In the US, especially in larger metropolitan areas out of the South, it's fairly easy to be gay and not get grief from others.\n\nIf you're in a society that's dominated by fundamentalist religions, like the US South or Iran or somewhere, then being out and gay isn't necessarily the easiest thing to do. In both places, it can potentially get you killed.\n\nNotice that it's never the gay people killing the fundamentalists...yet somehow, the gays are supposed to be in the wrong?
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It's true that most members of society didn't really accept gay culture yet but given more time, I'm sure everybody would say, "Who cares!"\nIf a person is gay, let him be himself. It's like being a lesbian too. As daily life gives me more problem I could handle why do I need to care about other people's lives?\nBe yourself and learn to be open minded....that's what the cure to some bigots out there....
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Attacking is wrong, but gays are largely not accepted in many countries and the law does not normally side them.  Police = law enforcer.  Thats why.