I work in an old peoples home as a cleaner ive been there 8 months i can't get used to the fact that they die.
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There is nothing wrong with having compassion for people, you feel how you feel , you cannot change the fact that they die but you can have sympathy for them and their familys.You cannot dissconnect your feelings from them, that is the human part of you and you should feel honored to have that, alot of people dont.
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27/f  I work in the medical field (nursing home) so for ME I would not want to live past 70 inless I still have controll over my body and mind and I would rather have someone kill me then put me in a nursing home !!!
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Yeah, since my mom  died in February. I feel like someone is watching me when the light is out and I want to crawl out of my skin.
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I hope it is not your boss doing that. I once had a boss who would come into my closet, I mean office, and close the door, then proceed to rant and rave at me and tear my files apart and throw everything around, leaving a huge mess for me to clean up. I was scared to death of him.  That job lasted three months before I left, but it seemed like three years.\nIf it is a co-worker on the same or a lower level than you, can you go to your supervisor? That is not a good working environment, and could even be harmful to your health, mental and physical.  Until that person either receives the therapy so obviously needed, try to avoid confrontations, and see if you can get transferred to another area, or have your hours changed so you don't work the same shift as the nutcase.  Good luck with all that.  Take care of you and your safety first.
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Contact your local medical examiner's office. They may let you watch if you show an interest in the profession. It's an awesome experience. I worked in a funeral home for 8 years & loved it!
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have you talked to the people who manage or run this nursing home? if not maybe you should talk to them and if that doesnt help you could go to your local newspaper and complain places like that hate when they get bad PR
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GOD bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  My Mother is in one also...2 years to the date.  I know how you feel.....here is what i would do...\n-adress your concerns to the home administrator\n-do it via e-mail, so you have evidence of their responses to you\n-contact the following\nIf You Need Help\n\nAdult Protective Services\n\nAdult Protective Services (APS) is the principal public agency responsible both for investigating reported cases of elder and vulnerable adult abuse and for providing victims with treatment and protective services. \n\nAlthough most APS agencies also handle adult abuse cases (serving clients between 18 and 59 years of age), nearly 70 percent of their caseloads involve elder abuse. \n\nUsually, the APS Unit, Area Agency on Aging, or County Department of Social Services is designated as the agency to receive and investigate allegations of elder abuse and neglect. If the investigators find abuse or neglect, they arrange for services to help protect the victim. \n\nMany other agencies (and nonprofit organizations) are also actively working to protect vulnerable elders. Examples: \n\n\nState agency on aging \n\nLaw enforcement agency (local police, sheriff's office, district attorney, the court system)\n\nMedical examiner/coroner's office \n\nHospitals and medical clinics\n\nState long-term care ombudsman's office\n\nPublic health agency\n\nArea agency on aging\n\nMental health agency\n\nFacility licensing/certification agency\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nLearn More . . .\n\n\nAdult Protective Services\n\nAPS Ethical Principles and Guidelines \n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nLaw Enforcement\n\nLocal police, sheriffs, and prosecuting attorneys may investigate and prosecute abuse, particularly in cases involving sexual abuse or assault. In states whose statutes make elder abuse a crime, there may be a requirement to report suspected abuse to a law enforcement agency.\n\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nLong Term Care (LTC) Ombudsman Services\n\nState LTC ombudsman programs investigate and resolve nursing home complaints, and in some areas, complaints about board and care facilities and professional home care providers. If you are concerned about abuses, check with your State Unit on Aging or Area Agency on Aging to see if the LTC ombudsman program in your area can help.\n\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nInformation and Referral (I & R)\n\nEvery Area Agency on Aging operates an I & R line that can refer people to a wide range of services for people 60 and older. Trained information operators and can be particularly helpful in finding services that can help prevent abuse and neglect.\n\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nNational and State Information\n\nFamily members who live in different cities or states can call a nationwide toll-free Eldercare Locator number (1-800-677-1116) to find support and resources that can help. On the web at www.eldercare.gov. In addition, some states have established a statewide toll-free number to provide centralized aging services information for residents of their states.\n\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!!
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Trust me your not the only one!!! I have seen many more die in my presence.  Dont worry, your not wierd.  But yea, it is hard to deal with, especially when you are with them when they die or when you escape death and they dont.
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
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It just takes time.After a while you will hardly ever think of them.Hang in there and it will get better.
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i have a similar prob i am letting my g/f take care of it till i see something i dont like then he is a dead man  thats what i suggest
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
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You grieve.  Grieving sucks, I'm there right now.  Eventually it will get better, you just have to give yourself time.
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i am a c.n.a. it is a very rewarding job. it is a very hard job. you deal with young people with head trama to old people who have had a stroke. we do alot of charting; every 2 hr. we do bed checks on them, if the are wet or dirty we change them, we feed them if they are unable to feed them selfs. we give them baths. some of them can do thing on there own, but you will find that most of them can't do anything on there own. the worst part of being a c.n.a. is getting close to someone and then they die. it is really hard, it is like losing a family member. after they die we go in and clean them up, take off their glasses, take out their teeth and lay them on their chest, we close their eye's if they die with them open, and then the morgue will pick them up. you also have some that like to hit, bite, pinch, grab at you. but they don't understand what they are doing, i love my job and would not trade it for anything, but it is no joke. you hold peoples lives in your hand. it is really a lot of hard work. i hope i didn't scare you but i thought you should know all the details. good luck with your choice.
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i am very scared of dying,im 27 and every birthday i make the most of it,i do something over the top then if anything happens to me they will never forget me.im also scared of being in my own with my kids ,if anything happened to my partner,well it doesnt bare thinking about
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losing my children.  I am not as great a housekeeper as I'd like, although my children are happy.  So the house is sometime sacrificed.  Oh well.  I also have a disease that can be disabling.  Maybe that's why my house can be cumbersome.  But I try not to focus on it.\n\nHave a lovely day!
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Someone once said, that which does not kill you makes you stronger.  People survive because they must.  It becomes easier if you do not wallow in your grief and get back to your normal routine as quickly as possible, even if you are "just going thru the motions" for a while.  When my very dear grandmother passed away, my mother insisted we only be there for the wake and funeral and then go back to work.  I thought she was wrong, I now know she was correct.  Life goes on and so must you.