how to make ex-wife and family stop hating you?
413825
guess you'll just have to hope fkor the best. you really can't stop people from hating you or for loving you for that matter. It's their choice.
239256
i wouldnt hate anyone. just wait for your time. on the other hand you could try to break them up... your choice!
116053
mostly in-laws are hard to get along with each other.  some reasons are both sides are so insecure with each other.  u are in the center.  dont take her side or your family side be in the middle.  did u ever talk to your mom if she knows any reason why your wife is treating them like that?  u can talk to your wife and tell her that your family is not comfortable that the way she treats them.  but dont be sound like you are taking your family side.  she might freak out and start an argument.  its really hard if your family get invloved with your marriage.  sometimes u feel like u need to choose between them.  but i'm pretty sure u both love your family and your wife.  u dont want to hurt any of them.  u have to talk to them.  u dont have to leave your wife u just need to talk to her about that problem.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
105005
Do they have children together?If so no.He will allways be a father and need to be in contact with her about the children.If no children are involved and they just talk to have something to laugh and giggle about,yes tell him it bothers you.\n\nSorry I thought you said ex wife not family.\nHow long were they maarried?I am divorced,was married for 12 years,and my ex stays in touch with my family,it's ok with me and her new husband.If they were married along time they probably feel he is a part of their family.Bonds grow with family during a marriage,and just because him and his spouse didnt get along,dont mean her family dislikes him
321810
Tell them the old stand-by. Opinions are like as*holes, everybody has one.\nYou could also throw rocks. That usually works.
602405
I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
583657
Often when a relationship is over the rose colored glasses come on and we only remember the best times. If this relationship is truly over with no chance for reconciliation do this; Think of all the things that annoyed you about the person, or the pet peeves you couldn't stand. Trust me, no one is perfect so dig down deep and write all those uglies down and keep them close by. When the ex creeps into your mind read those things about them and remember. You may always have a special place in your heart for them, but it doesn't mean you can not or should not MOVE on! Trust me, my son's father I thought I would not be able to BREATHE without him but I wrote down all the ugly things and never forgot them. We are now platonic friends, he is married and so am I and we will always be connected because of our son but I like the way it has all played out and honestly, If i could get back with him I Wouldn't. Good Luck. "Time Heals all wounds."
513554
It must have been some fight.  The thing to do when you and your wife fight is to kiss and make up  - that's the fun thing to do.  a family fight shouldn't cause hatred of all women - even angels - You are too emotional over it. Like I said, kiss and make up - soon.
1163095
cut off all connections with this person\nget rid of all that reminds you of them\ngood luck
198589
It is great to let it go but it won't work since the underlying resentment will remain.  The best thing to do is try to calmly explain to your mom how deeply her words have hurt you and how they are detrimental to the children.\n\nYou need to clear the air.  After that, you can then decide how much or how little contact your children and you will have with her.  \n\nYou were right to remove your children from such a negative environment.  It is wrong of your mother to degrade you to your own children.  The good news is that your children will love you and won't pay attention to what she said...especially since you are removing them from the situtation.\n\nGood luck!
48491
Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.
721509
My sympathies, I myself had to go through it, over ten years ago... and it is a hard thing to come to terms with. I hope for your sake that their marriage didn't end nastily, as that will make things easier for you. \n\nJust remember, it was nothing to do with you, you did nothing wrong, its just that they are two people who are unsuited to one another, and they are doing the sensible thing and moving in different directions. It is nothing to do with hating each other or anything like that, they just have to live their lives apart, and probably the key thing in their minds is that this doesn't hurt you too much. \n\nLife is full of trials, and it is how we deal with them that marks us as worthy people. You can either be a victim of the situation and sink, or you can rise above it, and become stronger. It is very empowering to know that you've survived something tough and come out smiling. \n\nBest of luck, keep talking to people, don't bottle things up, and you will be ok.
920077
use a common friend to get to your ex-wife. i think it's very noble of you to try to work things out among yourselves. if your ex-wife still refuse to accept the fact that you're actually doing her a favor by resorting to peacefull means, then you have no choice but to do whatever would be necessary for the sake of your child. you need not feel guilty then if the court decides in your favor because you have tried your best to warn her.
807832
How much do you trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family??????........\nSupport your husband in whatever way he needs you to at the moment......you cant worry about how your in-laws feel about you......when they are gone, you will still have your husband and he will appreciate you standing by him....regardless of what happens....\nI fought a similar battle w/in-laws once upon a time...I wish i had just supported my husband....I wish i had understood that I could make it about me and my feelings (which I did)...OR I could have let him do whatever  he needed to do for his parents for him to be ok....knowing that our familys best interest was never  out of him mind.......(I did not do this) OUr marraige suffered ....Now I look back and see It was not worth it.....I SHOULD have trusted him.......He was trustworthy....\nThey never did like me.....but now thery are gone and it doenst matter....But my ex and I are still trying to come to terms with the fallout from that time(as well as other issue).....\nPICK YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY..........some are not worth the war they will lead up to....
790162
Jules first of all think yourself lucky that you have a supportive family - just imagine how hard it would be going through what you are without them.\nSecondly there must be a good reason for them all having this opinion of him.....hey they cant all be wrong!\nRemember people not directly involved will often see things that you cant, you loved your husband and only saw the best in him, where as they saw the other side.They only want whats best for you.\nThere is life after divorce honey-good luck to you and be strong xx
690190
Dear, this is a much common disease in human beings, especially in women. You do not like the idea of you husband even seeing an Ex-girl friend. \nFrom you words, I understand the following:\n1. You love your family and want their love for you.\n2. Your husband respects you very much.\n\nWhether or not you family loves you, I do not clearly understand, but you cannot have all their love for yourselves. Long before your marriage, they had known this woman, and liked her. \nYou must be happy that they still love her. Don't you see that this will be your case too if you are good? If you behave nicely, they will treasure you in their hearts. So why bother who else is in their hearts??? If you show your this feeling about that lady, they might even start hating you won't they?\n\nAs far as your husband is concerned. He wants your love and want to live peacefully. He would not even bother to blast his respected friend just to satisfy you. Don't you see how bad a situation he will be in to do this, just to satisfy you? there's nothing wrong if he still respects her. He is not going out with her is he? Dear, you must control your possessiveness and jealousy. If these 2 demons are controlled, everyone in your family will respect you more than that lady... And once this is done, you will never feel tensed up as I see in your words....\n\nIf your family welcomes her in the house, either you can change your personality to welcome her yourself, or you can simply avoid being in there for some time.... control yourself... But in your room, you can always stop her doing that.\nHave a heart-to-heart talk with your husband(not a fight), and explain to him that you are just possessive; you need time to overcome it(tell him that you really wish to contrl that and be happy like the rest of the family in her presence); and so he should stop her from coming into your bedroom. he will understand. He can do that indirectly, woithout others knowing... \nBe cool dear, learn to control your anger...