how do i get a guy who i am hooking up with to commit to me?
415107
Stop giving him sex for a little bit and see if you two can't build some Rapport with each other. Do you even know anything about him that's positive? Even trivial things like, does he play musical instruments, does he have pets, what's his favorite color in the Spring, etc.\n\nConnect with him on a deeper level and let him connect with you on a deeper level. Considering the abuse, I'd make the sex wait in this case, because it's feeding a deeper hurt.\n\nMaybe have him seek counseling. Go with him to support him.
501918
If he's someone you're interested in, tell him you want to be friends first. Get to know him before making such a major commitment with him. Hec...tell him you want to try getting married before you pop out any kids. If he's really into commitment, (and you), he'll stick around.
468634
If you want to get a guys attention you should give a guy attention.  Just spend more time with the guy and show him that you care about him in a loving way.  He will most likely get the message but he might not act on it and you cant force him into it.  The worst that can happen is you end up being good friends.
806046
If he cares about you then nothing will seem that strong.  Usually though if guys want to make a commitment, they will be the one to tell you.  Your happiness is on the line.  If he is ready to commit, then he will. If he isn't ready then he won't and then you can make your decision as what to do, whether to move on or stick it out.
251251
Don't commit yourself to something that isn't there. . . yet.\n\nI understand the chemistry, but things are as you said "unsaid."  Keep him as a friend, and if time and distance allows you to pursue a relationship go for it. But in the meanwhile don't close yourself off to someone who may be closer and ready to take that step.
1098211
He seems to like you, but you better not play hard to get or any mindgames - sounds like he has other options.  If you want him, you'd better jump.
441786
You can't "hook" anyone unless they want to be "hooked"...for sure don't through yourself at him...just be yourself, if he falls for you "GREAT", if he doesn't "It wasn't meant to be".  Good Luck.
1101622
Tell him sorry but that isn't good enough for you and walk away.  Just from the way you wrote your question tells me there is no doubt that you will be attached to him and that you need more in a relationship.  If he really liked you then he would be willing to enter a committed relationship or simply date with no benefits.  You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you and is interested in developing a real relationship with you.  Don't settle for anything less or you will get hurt.
969460
He sounds very immature and many things could be going on within that framework.  You are lucky he is moving on before he really brings more immature and insensative actions into your life.  Be patient and hold out for a quality guy who cares about you and treats you with respect.  Have a blast while you're patiently waiting.  That will make the time go faster and attract more quality guys to you.  Good luck.
186437
I am really quite familiar with the kind of guy that you described.  [I was exactly like that before!]  It sounds like he is favoring up to you and you are catching the vibes that he is sending out.  He seems to have other "multiple activity" going on in his life; but believe me, you can surely bring all of that to a halt, and turn him into a lovable little Teddy Bear.  It really does appear that it's you that he is after.  And you just watch!  Once you nail him, he will forget all of those other gals as if they never even existed to begin with.  And once they pick it up that someone nailed him, they won't have anything to do with him either.  It's like a mating-season.  If you are not in it then you don't even notice it. BTW, a well-known symptom of what you described is for him to ask you to hook up with one of your friends.  It's not your friends he is after!  He IS AFTER YOU!!!
160882
say bye. if he not commit to you now, he will not be commit later.  He is in it for the sex.
140379
Heres the question, are you wanting a one night stand or more?  If you want more, seducing him is not the best answer.  If you want a relationship intrigue him.  If you want sex be blunt and forceful. I have not met many guys if you look them dead in the eyes say "I want you" and grab them, that won't give in. Most guys if you initiate sex, whether or not the are interested in you romantically/or even attracted to you at all for that matter, will respond.  Most guys like sex alot and will take free no strings attached sex when they can.  but relize this probably will end any connection or tie with this guy beyond sex forever, that is if he ever talks to you again.  Most men avoid you after that.  Not a problem if you are after seduction.\n\nRelationships are a more tricky.  Most important be yourself.  don't play games, be honest.  You want him to love who you are inside not who you appear to be.  If he is not the one, so what, many better guys will come along and eventually one will be right for you. but only if you love yourself for who you are and are true to yourself. As for getting him motivated, let him know you are interested in whatever way makes you feel comfortable.  Be blunt, make jokes, hint. tell him he smells good ( and if you are being coy ask him if he tastes as good as he smells?)no two girls seduce guys into relationships the same way because no two girls are alike. be comfortable with who you are, funny or shy or loud whatever you may be.  Those are you weapons, use them. and most importantly respect yourself. you are worth more than just sex.  let him know you think so... if he isn't interested relize you would have just been more hurt in the long run anyways.
453952
Well there are some guys out there with completely no hope. It sounds like to me that he's just a super friendly guy and somewhat of a flirt. If you really think that theres something there then talk to him about it and maybe you'll get a hook up. Good luck
969544
"If he doesn't know what he wants then he doesn't want what he's got" heard that somewhere. \nIt sounds like he's leading you on and just wants attention. Your best bet is to find someone who wants to be with you NOW. You don't deserve to be strung along. If he decides later on that he wants to be with you then you can give it a chance but until then (and who knows how long that could be if at all) do yourself a favor and find a great guy.
1027210
I'm a guy on the other end of that type of question & I run in to this same problem from the other side. This is what would attract me.\n\nDress nice or classy, BUT NOT SLUTTY OR TRAMPY! \n\nREAD IT AGAIN! \n\nHonestly, avoid tattoos! Really. If you have some already, don't get anymore. It's a big turnoff. It's like grafitti on the Venus de Milo! Girls are pretty already. Anything else just detracts from them.\n\nAlso, you'll have to be responsive. \n\nIf you get it that a guy is giving a "vibe", he probably IS. The thing is, most good guys AREN'T PLAYERS - so they haven't practiced SCHMOOZING girls and throwing them into bed! \n\nThink about it. The good guys aren't necessarily too experienced at getting all the girls - you might have to look this over more closely.\n\nSo, the good guys TRY to interest girls, but sometimes get it WAY WRONG. \n\nSo, you've gotta pay attention and give him a little break - please. If it seems that he's interested & might want to say something, GIVE HIM A LOT OF TIME TO SPIT IT OUT. Try saying stuff like, "Yea....? And....? Go on...." to get him to keep talking.\n\nMake it seem like you're not in a hurry and are interested. Give him time to fumble and get the courage to ask you questions or figure out hou to ask you out.\n\nREMEMBER, MOST GOOD GUYS WON'T BE PLAYERS! You're not looking for a player anyhow, right?
138433
Yes, please know what your intentions are before you do this though. If he is a friend, then you do not want to ruin the relationship. Are you only interested in a one time fling and still be friends? Do you want a meaningful relationship with commitment? Figure this out first and then go in with a open mind and hear out your suitor. Do be afraid to find that he wants to only be friends. Friends have more fun and are more intimate when there atracted to one another but know it will never go beyond that point...
146579
If you are having this kind of a delimma, you may not be ready to be in an involved relationship.  You need to find someone you can date and have fun with but not be seriously involved with.  It is hardly fair to the person you are allegedly committed to for you to be considering a hookup.