Why is my wife always GRUMPY?
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The truth is some women will act grumpy if they know you own't stand up to them.\nThey like knowing they can get away with it. It is a power play.\nYou have to tell her very strongly and confidently to knock off the grumpy routine, it's getting old fast.\nNOt yell it, just say it very firmly when you are standing close to her and look her in the eye.\n\nSome people, especially some women who have never had power in their lives before, will enjoy being that way as a way to have power. You have to make it clear you won't stand for it.\nAs long as she is grumpy she is the center of attention and everyone is walking on eggshells around her and trying to appease her.\nShe secretly WANTS people to fear her.\nThis comes from a deep insecurity and would take therapy to really get to the bottom of. \nIt is up to you to get the balls to tell her in no uncertain terms that you have no intention of putting up with it. And if she tests you, go out the door and stay somewhere else until she apologizes. YES MAKE HER APOLOGIZE. That is the only way it will really sink in that you will not allow her to destroy your joy for life.
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
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It looks to me that your wife is playing with you.The way she acts towards you doesn't show that she loves you..ore respects you for that matter!I'd talk to her,tell her what you think and feel..that you need to her to change her ways,because this isn't working out for you.If she refuses,ask yourself if this is how you want to go on....clearly this is making you very unhappy,you shouldn't accept this!
834746
Why do you stay with a woman that belittles you by calling you incompetent and lazy?\n\nDo you not think that you deserve better?
1183449
I only get grumpy after i remember i have to go to work. =(
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Dave,\n\nYes, marriage is hard work for both spouses You each have to give 110% into the marriage. If you are having some issues about what is happening in your relationship and I believe that what you have written you do, I would seek the advice of a marriage counselor for both of you.\n\nFrom what I am reading into your question, it appears that your wife views that you are the cause of her unhappiness. Your discussions and arguments need to be focused on what is going on in the relatonship not about about blame and shame. There are some communication tools that you can use in your conversations with your wife that may be helpful.\n\nThis requires that you develop the skill of detachment. If you can keep your emotions under control, then you can share with your wife what you see is happening and how you feel about it. Here is an example: " Honey,I love you very much and only want the best for us. Because I want the best I am sharing this with you now, When you continually find fault with everything I do, I become frustrated, confused, angry, and hurt. I know that we are both human and that we both love each other. Can we sit down and see how we can we work things out.\n\nThis may or may not work depending on what is the cause of your wife's behavior. Regardless, you need to take control of your own behaviour and detach from your wife. If you work on yourself and become the best person you can for you, not for her then you will begin to feel good about who you are and not rely on her for your feelings of self worth.\n\nI wish you well! Surround yourself with a support system of friends who can be there for you in this time of diffculty.\n\nThere may come a day when you have to say: Honey, I love you very much and want to stay married to you. It seems however that you are unhappy in this relationship with me. If you do not want to stay married to me let me know and because I love you, I will let you go.
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I dont' think you realize the gift of her friendship.  Woman have this niche about us, is called emotions and feelings.  When your husband makes you furious, so angry you run out of the house where do you go?  To see her, correct?  Even though you wouldn't sacrifice your relationship to be her friends your bascially doing it anywyas.\n\nYour nagging and her negative opinion only improved how you and your husband get along.  When shes gone its all powered from you.  He will get the upperhand in conversation, opinion, dchoice.  Negative friends have benefits ya know.  I am one.
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Nah man your just a male and your tired of your boreing wife.Nail that new b*tch once for me will ya.
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Sit her down, and ask her nicely to take a different approach when asking for help! I used to nag at my husband to help me get things done. I eventually learned that when nagging at a man, it just pushes them away. They soon begin to just tune you out. Make her a promise that if she takes a different approach such as, calmly naming off the few things that need to be done that week. You will make your best effort to get them all done. Then you must do so. Just remember it's a lot better then going back to her nagging at you all of the time. It will get better..:)
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First of all, find out if she is having hard times with her husband. If she is, then you get a green light. If not and she is perfectly happy, give up.\n\nIf she is unhappy, then ask her what you can do. Comfort her with any little problem. Then if she asks you what is going on with your life, say the same thing. \n\nIn the end, ask her if you are willing to try a new marriage, but with you.  \n\ngood luck!
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We're married, and even I think she's a bitch
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In all honesty, its not a matter of turning off the charm.  She is probably quite tired most of the time from household and baby.\nI bet that if you help out around the house and help her with the kids you will sooon have your intimate relationship back better than before.\nShe needs you to help her have time to have a life of her own that isn't just about you and the kids.\nHelp her out!
311300
here's a little secret. if you have a pet name that your wife thinks is special to her, than it makes it very unspecial when you call other people it. sounds silly but women feel insecure very easily. reinforce that you say it to women you respect and feel are equals to you intellectually and as good people, than let her know you didn't realize how it hurt her to feel like her pet name wasn't special only for her. than say your sorry and you love her and respect her feelings and wish her to feel secure with you, so you'll try your best to not do it again. than give her a big hug and kiss and listen to her talk for a while with any concerns and basically repeat what you just said with a few changes so you don't sound like a recording. don't make her feel that her feelings are invalid or stupid or silly, they're her feelings and that's all that matters. respect her for having trust in you to share them with you.
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No, I'm just a grumpy sumbitch
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coming from a woman point of view that has been where your wife is,"yes the same reasons get tiresome to the ear and heart,we have to leave with the kids somewhere safe until everything dies down and you calm down from being so angry! when we go as far as a restrain order,trust me it's not because we don't love you it's because were afraid,and we do what we can to protect the children as well as ourselves. I'm not upholding you for your wrong doing,yes you need time to get yourself together and give her time to regroup,and maybe she'll forgive you,but remember time brings about a change!get yourself together keep your hands to yourself,stay in counseling and let GOD work on you too!I am a firm believer that she hasn't thrown away 13 years overnight with kids.I pray that it works out between the both of you,but she has the say,now she's in con troll!! good luck "T"
817111
Sorry I am a woman, but you need to confront you wife with this.  It's disrespectful to you and to your marriage.  Sit her down and tell her you know what her butt is up to.
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You SERIOUSLY sound like you have major issues with your wife, from seeing all the questions you've asked. For one, get a life or, two, for God's sake, get a divorce or something instead of just bantering every hour uselessly about your wife.