Should I have to compromise from when I start a relationship? I hear that some don't so why should I?
410828
I go with the attitude . . . if you have to compromise . . . then you are with the wrong person.
285541
for the commitment part, i think its normal coz me there was a time when i dont want any commitment coz your free you can do anything you want but not misbehaving.\n\nwhy you care of what your friends think? to be accepted? theres nothing wrong of being different...\n...if you want to be in a relationship that you will know
506090
'...before you have moved onto a new relationship?' You'd better decide who you are going to have the relationship with...the new guy or the old one. It might create problems.
198212
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
188086
Depends on your relationship.\n\nIf you are not ready for a long term serious relationship, then sure.\n\nIf you are ready to settle down, then no.
432731
Compromise your attitude, yes. Compromise your beliefs, no. It depends on the situation. If you are talking about acting differently to make friends, no - a friend will accept you for who you are genuinely. If you are talking about adjusting your attitude to be more sensitive or "nice" then that's o.k. If you are talking about going along with situations that make you feel uncomfortable, no - you shouldn't have to participate in situations that make you feel uncomfortable. If they are true friends then they will accept that. Hope this helps.
60532
"A compromise is an agreement (or proposed agreement) to accept a situation in which the parties get variations from what they originally sought, to achieve a compatible outcome.Is also something that any involved parties have to concede in something for the common better good to be achieved in an appeasing manner."\nBasically, if you want something, and a person in your life wants something else, you come to a middle-of-the-road agreement you can both live with.  Compromising in terms of personal relationships means you lower some of your standards in hopes of meeting and dating someone.
938831
As with anyone, you should not feel pressured into anything.  You will know when the time is right.  If you feel "awkward", with the idea of a physical relationship, it does not sound like you are ready.
1090478
This might be what God intended.  When someone needs to be tough, it'll be him.  When there comes a time in a relationship when someone needs to be soft, it'll be you.\nThe question here really is- Are you able to agree how to handle different circumstances?  Can you compromise?
670435
Sounds like you are over-compromising and not being yourself. If you always do what she wants, how can she do what you want and why would she?! A relationship should be give and take but if someone can get away with making no effort etc, then they are going to. Start suggesting what you want to do, don;t always agree with everything she says. It might also make you a bit more exciting to her again. That is not about being raised right - you can still be polite etc but just about being yourself not a doormat.
735678
You should have the willingness to make a meaning out of any relationship. In this case you should be willing to commit in a love relationship for life-time without hassels any day of your life for any reason.
279417
compromise does not make you weak, it is the ONLY way things get done.\n\nYou can have principals and be flexible at the same time.
942749
If you put what others had said before me, and consider that I is okay to not be sure, but to date and see what happens, and not pull back, then you have it half licked. \nIn my case, I had parents who did not fight and argue, and stayed together, and I think really loved each other, but pretty much did their own thing. \nWhat has put me off from relationships, and what I am just getting over, is all my friends who had parents who divorced. Worse, friends with horrible step parents, the kind the beat with belts and all kinds of crap. I am holding out for the love of a lifetime, and want to raise my own kids, if I have any.\nSo, I see your ideas as really rational and normal given your background. As one person has said, the best way to do it is to not judge the situation or a future mate before even meeting her. \nIt can be done, I am just learning myself. So can you. And, when you meet the right one, you can tell her these things, and she will not be offput, as long as you tell her you really want to get to know her before committment. \nI have been interested in the same person now for a couple years. This time it may work. She hangs in with me, and I with her. No we don't live together, but are slowly learing to trust. \nSo, hang in there, and let things happen slowly. Just because you kiss, or even shag doesn't mean that you are about to be in a trap, as long as you are careful. \nBe good to yourself, and realize that sometimes it is the unknown that makes life exciting!
182835
I know I am not always that realistic about my self image. I do believe that when we are on our own though, we really do know whether were full of it or good or bad looking etc. If you know deep down that you are a good person (only you really knows) then continue on as usual. Otherwise if you want, try to change a little. I have some friends that we agree to disagree. In other words, we realize there is no compromise but we want to remain friends.
552875
Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
727730
Go for it, what ever makes you happy. If you don't, and you end up in a relationship that does not satisfy you, you will regret not figuring it all out when you was free to do so.
468975
If you're married, no. You knew what you were getting into. If you're not married ... ask yourself why you got into this relationship in the first place. Are you that fickle that you'll change partners on a whim. I'd say your partner would probably be better off without you.