I am having problem withsex I do not have any degree of erection or urge very worried ashamed ofmy wife answer
407475
i think its best for u to consult your doctor. Your doctor can help if you have clinical problem. Its best to identify what causes the problem.
573248
Talk yo ur partner about it and find ways and means of improving the chemistry between u both\n\nand i wanna tell u this, young man that if u truly love ur wife , u will surely enjoy the act and never get bored of it. first start loving her even better than what u are doing now. and then u wont even think of the term bored\n\n how would u feel if ur wife had posted this question thinking that u bored her . think again and learn to love. Feel ashamed of urself.\n\nsex is not a routine- it is just a part of LOVE  making.
953670
I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!
1140626
I have only been married for 7 months now, my husband is 33 and I'm 23.  We have only had sex once since we've been married which was two weeks after our wedding day and it was terrible for my first time.  Since then my husband cannot kept an erection and I feel the marriage is not going to last.  He refuses to seek help about it and feels being in a sexless marriage is fine, but not for me.  I was so excited to be able to be with him that way, but my dreams are crushed.  Because of this we fight often, don't talk as much, and I don't even like sleeping in the bed with him.  Its hard being in this situation...for anyone.  You feel lonely, upset, unloved, and abused at times.  Its funny because most of the time this happens later down the road into a marriage but for me and many other young couples, it happens quite often now and days.  Yes, there are plenty of wives with this problem and it hurts, all you can do is pray and ask God for guidance.  Talk to your spouse about it and tell him how you feel, get counseling if you can, and turn to your good friends and family for advice and comfort.  I hope everything gets better for you and everyone else in this situation.\n\nTake care
153521
It sounds like you wife needs to see a Doctor first. She could have a medical condition that needs to be addressed. If that doesn't work then take her to a Psychologist for help with your sex life. Good luck
384232
You say you have no sex experince but are you sure? Do you masturbate? DO you watch pornographic material? Do you think about her naked body and what sex will feel like? Well the last question is obvious but the other 2 still need to be answered. If yuo are a virgin I congratulate you! The best thing to do when you don't know what to do is just enjoy your honeymoon!\n\nTry to relax and just kiss her gently.  Soft touches and kisses elsewhere never hurt the beginning of sexual activity. If she asks you to stop though abide by her wishes and just continue when she is more relaxed and wanting it. Mostly likely you are the one that may get the surprise of your wife having sex with you.
459915
You have a sexual dysfunction. Viagra is a certified cure for you. It has helped me.
436476
Hello..You need to relax and don't think about your erection..Have your partner rub your back,neck and shoulders.Have her rub slow and light and try to block every thing out of you head.Thing about how nice looking your partner is and how gentle she is.The key words is relax and block everything out and just enjoy your,your time with your partner.Remember to be gentle and not in a hurry,start out slow.If you do this,you should have no more problems...\n Clowmy
198677
Seek a psychiatrist.  I think you might be a minor hypochondriac or something like it.  This is your wife and you can't get down and dirty????????   Get help
779674
Maybe your partner doesn't stimulate or arouse you enough? Maybe you can ask your partner to try or do something different and something more exotic to boost your excitement.\n\nHowever, there are many other reasons why you can't hold an erection, for example, fatigue. \n\nMaybe you would want to see a doctor about this problem if it persists.  \n\nAll the best!
908840
when me and my guy got 2gether im a woman by the way we loved each other instanly but whenever we got intimate he couldnt reach full erection yet if we were messing about thered be no trouble but that carried on 4 a while until we told each other how we both felt wed never shared our feelings with 1another, but soon after that its like he never had erection problems, strange hey he told me after that he was unsure about his size and didnt think he was man enough 4 me, (hed kill me if he knew i was telling people this) but then when i convinced him and showed him hes more than enough 4 me he got over it 1year later and weve got a brilliant sex life but now weve got more of lifes other problems, ha\nhope this helps\ntake care\nx x x x
1180975
If your sex drive is higher than that of your wife.. perhaps you should seek out marital counseling or sex counseling.  There may be reasons behind the differing drives.\n\nIf she is not "freaky" enough for you, that could also be addressed in counseling.\n\nHowever, I don't believe you have earned the right to get some on the side... that comes with work.  Paperwork.  *divorce*\n\nI'm very sorry that you have gotten to the point in your life that you would ruin someone else's just to get off.  That is one of the most selfish things I have heard in quite some time.\n\nIf you don't believe it would hurt her, start a thread on people's opinions on those who cheat.. you'll get even more angry responses than you did in this one.\n\nIf you honestly cannot get enough sex, masturbate.
911097
I don't know....if the problem is keeping an erection, maybe you need to see your doctor...there's plenty of pills for that. If thats not the problem, then there could be a ton of reasons. Worry.....wrong person....tired...stress...guilt \n(sometimes learned in childhood).... etc....\nCheck with your doc if you are truly concerned.
102424
more foreplay, the longer you have an erection without sex, the more your buddy gets used to the feeling of being stiff.  During sex, don't just thrust til you spew, get a good rythm going, then ease it off, pay attention to her needs, then go back to thrusting, etc
626333
No its bad when u don't get any erections
1108994
You could be losing an erection for a number of reasons.  Number one is psychological---if you don't really like the partner you're with, or if you're afraid and all you're thinking about is how well you're going to perform in his/her eyes, this can effect your sexual function.  The brain has a direct effect on the penis.  Number two, it could be your age--if you're over the age of 40, you're more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction, which is actually quite more common than most men would like to admit.  A drug like Cialis or Viagra may be appropriate for you.  There are many more reasons, but I'm willing to bet it's number one or two...and in either case, you should speak to your doctor, who is trained to deal with situations like yours.
980119
I too have this problem. I solved it by applying Olive oil on the inner skin (before erection). Camellia or sunflower oil can be used too. Good luck!!!