Is it harder for a single father of 3 to raise small children . Than a women to raise 3 small children.?
401059
You are the kind of dad that almost 100 percent of kids these days wish they had. If there were more men out there like you then the world would be such a better place. Do what a woman would do and file for child support with the courts, that way if your ex didn't want to help than she could be punished just like a man would be with jail time. And yes in some areas it is a little harder especially with 3 girls, you have to expain to them evrything that a woman would do, now that will be hard. but hey i have a friend who raised his daughter from 3 months old all by himself and now she is in college and has a lot going for her. He did just as good and in some cases way better than a woman could have done for his daughter. I hope knowning that your all they have just makes you want to try harder at being all you can for them. Good Luck and best wishes.
723197
I am a 20 year old single mother with a 3 year old, and yes honey, it can be done. I do it. I am completely self supportive, I work full time M-F 8am to 5pm, pick my daughter up from daycare immediately after I get off work at 5, take her home for dinner, bath, reading time, playing..etc, and when she goes to bed and I am sure she's asleep, I log on and do online classes. I wake up at 5:00 every morning just to do it all over again..so yes, it's possible.
57506
This doesn't just happen to men. Women get torn between two people also, but you have an obligation to your wife and your CHILDREN!!! I know it is hard, but be a man and keep your word. Good Luck!
449034
I think it would be nice to have the old way except the old thinking that women were not good enough for working in business.  I think they should have the option, for me --I've been in both situations and I missed my kids something awful and couldn't spend enough time with them.  This is definately a problem in society today.  Too many kids without adult supervision or parents who don't know what they are doing.  The woman who gets with you and can feel free to have kids and actually care for them herself is very lucky and so are the kids.
534576
Well, I don't think men always get the better end of the stick financially. They can try and out run their child support obligations, but those that do, usually don't have jobs, or getting paid lousy money to barely survive. Yes, they probably do get remarried easier, because they aren't toting around a half dozen kids, and actually have a chance of getting a life again. But they have a damned hard time, supporting...two families, which seems to be the way everyone wants it. The women CAN and do get remarried, all the time, those women usually work, because they've been single parents for awhile, so they get remarried, to another man who has a job, plus her ex eventually has to get a job, so child support starts pouring in...and who has more money than her then? What family can't make it on Three incomes? {hers, her new husband's and her ex's}\n  I'm sorry you made the mistake of not sticking it out in your marriage. I'm sorry if your ex has moved on, and not paying child support. Sometimes, we just have to live and learn in life. Until then, your going to have to get a job..and just do the best you can. And hope to make a better choice next go around.
244097
you would probably last with someone in ur same situation..cuz us single fathers go thru the same thing..the moment i say i have a child , gurls scram lol soo maybe u just need someone whos a parent aswell. like me..* wink email me! lets talk.....
866367
It's nice to hear a single father going through what most single moms go through, well the thought would be just like any guy they do not want to settle down with someone who has kids, there not ready yet, keep looking you'll find someone who will love you and your daughter no matter what!
222621
Yes. \n\nThere will be a time where a man is put in your path that will love a woman with over four children just as much as he loves her.  It requires faith and patience.
890721
Whilke having kids is one of the greatest things, and I love being a mom, it totally stresses a relationship- that doesn't mean it will break it up.....SO much LESS time for the couple to be a couple....any parent here that says differently is either lying or not doing their jobs correctly as a parent.  How could a baby NOT stress a two-some???/  Now its a threesome or moresome and the baby/kids require plenty of time.........plenty.
204064
well to correctly answer that .. i would be curious to kno the  breakdown of the 12.5 million single moms who became single moms ... due to the fact that as our generations proceed .. somehow the family structure and its value to want or maintain a unified foundation to build and nurture kids, has become unimportant or desensitized. Casting blame on a person or gender doesnt help understand the source of reason why its a epidemic because we need to value ourselves, both men and women & value the family unit as it is  meant to be. So unless u are one who is a single mom due to death of ur spouse or kids father, we need to then be discerning and make sure our choices are not selfish but selfbuilding....
658509
its not like a disease would you rather a kid go grow up with there parents fighting constantly, then to live a healthy happy life being single. i am a single mother by chose cause he cheated on me raped me, lied to me stole from, i was very sick when i was pregnant and couldnt handle it anymore i tried to kill myself to get away from him would you rather someone do that then be a single parent. you need to think do women do it out of choose if i had of known what i knew now i would have changed who her father is. but she is a beautiful child and i would never give her back i have just started seeing someone that loves her and treats her like his own. her father has never seen her dont you think in some way that its the fathers fault as well. i mean the amount of men that put children into this world and have nothing to do with there responsibility, dont you think its a bit harsh to blame it on the one with the child, cause i no of women that want nothing to do with there kids
260874
As a guy that has dated a single mother before - it has never come down to dealing with the ex-husband or the children being an issue. It has been an issue in the communication between the woman and myself. I expect that the kids will take precedence. I expect that she will need to talk to the father of her children and sometimes interact with them on a day to day basis. If you are up front and honest with the prospective boyfriend and communicate with him about the needs of your children and the interaction you have with their father it will help matters. You may find that looking for single dads may help as they are familiar with the needs of communicating with the mother of their children.
1092456
there is hope i am a 27 year single mom who until a year and a half ago was  raising two boys by myself .then i met and fell for a guy who is the best thing to happen to me and my boys.in the last year and half he has treated my boys better then their own father.sometimes these guys are harder to find then most but don't give up. and never let anyone say your children are baggage they are bonuses to any relationship.some guys are just not mature enough to realize it.
659863
good for you for getting out of something like that. I'm a single mother though, and the father in my case walked out on us. i have no intentions of tricking anyone into raising my kid. if i meet someone, i tell them immediately that i have child and if they don't like it hey too bad.
956344
Yes by the simply natured that their is only one and not two parents to deal with the issues that child-rearing need.  However, that does not mean that a one-parent families cannot be a successful model to rear children in.  \n\nRespectfully!!!
172233
Well, I would say 25% of my friends and business associates were raised by a single parent.\n\nIt is more common today and as long as the child receives love and guidance, they will be fine.
123047
I heard that a lot of times. Like my aunt, she's really having a hard time with her son becasue 2 of her daughters graduated except her son. \n\nFor me I think it depends on how a parent brings up their child/children. It doesn't have to be exactly about the gender. Of course, there are some factors that influences their child/children. You cannot avoid that. It just on how they can manage with the situation.\n\nDon't worry, maybe you're mom didn't mean it. They all get upset sometimes.