How do you show a mom with violent anger management problems the worst report card you've ever gotten?
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Leave it on the table for her to see, go out, and don't come back until she's had sufficient time to calm down. Or better yet, call her on the phone and let her just yell at you from a safe distance.
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Cool it!  You are still young, and your mother is still your mother and she LOVES you!  You were wrong to go off on her like that.  She knows you are a teenager and teenagers go off easily with little provocation.  But your rage and rants still hurt her.  No adult would to that to a parent.  It was still an adolescent rant.\n\nNow, go take a hot soaky with lavender bubbles and listen to some mellow music.
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I don't really understand how this could be so. I am not jealous of my children, son or daughter, but am proud of them probably to the point of annoying those around me. I cannot comprehend a mother hurting her child in this fashion. Have you tried telling her what she is doing to you? and how much you want her acceptance and approval? Even so, she ought to realize it without being told unless she has emotional issues that block her from being the parent here.  It is very sad that she cannot feel joy in the things you are accomplishing, but I would urge you to take pride in yourself that you are doing the right things. Many people not getting positive feedback from their parents and mentors would turn down bad pathways, but you have not. So you must parent yourself here, and love yourself, and be proud of yourself.  After all, it is YOUR life, not hers.  You are the one to ultimately reap the rewards of your hard work.  If she is too blind for what ever reason to see your accomplishments, don't let her also blind you to them.  Try to comfort yourself with the understanding that the deficiency here lies in her, not in you.  If you must feel hurt, feel hurt for her that she lacks such an important facet of motherhood--the joy of rejoicing in your child's success. It is not a reflection of you, or proof of any failure on your part, and you must believe that.  You are not only good, but more than good, you are better and the best.\nI would be proud if you were mine.  Understand that your mom has issues, and these issues are not your fault. Do well for you and for your future and your future children.
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HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
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Dear Erin,\n\nI know exactly what you are going through and exactly how you feel.  Lots of people are telling you to let it go, they are not wrong, but for me the piece that was missing was the HOW. \n\nI sat down with a pen and a notebook and I wrote my mother a letter.  The first one I wrote was scathing, mean, confrontational and a lot of finger pointing examples.  After I wrote that letter, I felt a little bit better inside.  I re-read that letter two weeks later and decided to write a new letter instead.  The second letter still held a lot of anger and frustration but was not near as nasty and spiteful.  I felt better after that one also.  Again two weeks later re-read and wrote a third letter.  \n\nBy writing the letters I was getting the anger, hatred and resentments out of my head and was able to not think about them as much.  Every time I wrote one of these letters it took more of the anger and hatred out.  I did confront my parents about the things that were really bad and wrong but was able to do so in a non-confrontational way because I had already done the confrontational part in my letters.  I never showed or sent the letters to anyone, and when I was ready to let go of the crap I put them in the fireplace and burned them.\n\nGood Luck and feel free to email me @ janesalladay@yahoo.com
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A Mom I'd Like to F***
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be honest with her but say it in a nice way.."mom, please..i don't wanna talk about it anymore.." even if she gets mad, eventually, she'll know you really don't want to talk about it.
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Worst beating of my life came when I was about 14 years old.  I offered my little brother a stick of gum and he took the whole pack.  He was a pill so I got mad.  I called him a bastard.  I've called him worse names before, but that apparently was the worst for my mom.  She was walking down the hallway and flung the clothes in her arm to the floor and JUMPED on me.  She was screaming, and slapping at me!  Eventually she apologized, but it does make ya wonder why THAT word made her the angriest.
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First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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I would suggest counseling. Maybe this person does not know how they make you feel, or even if they do, they don't know how to stop. If they grew up in a household that was always yelling, then they don't know any other way to be. If you can't get the person into counseling, then you either find a way to deal with it or find a way to get out.
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You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE
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ROFL !!!!!!!!!!!sorry but I have raised 3 of those little tigers....... and yes a beating is a natural reaction on your part, but I do not think it would work..... it would prob make it worse......  you have a boy that is turning into a little man right before your eyes...... the hormones , mood swings the talking back are all NORMAL things..... don't let him get to you sister !!! the more you react to it the more act he will put on for you..... they have a job to do, and that job is to drive us crazy or as close to it as they can get....... write down the house rules on a board along with the punishment that goes with each rule if broke.... explain it to him in adult language, that is what he is needing, to be treated as a young adult, remember he is between worlds right now.. so tell him you will treat him as he acts...... he acts like an adult he gets treated as such....... if he acts like a child he gets treated as such...... do NOT argue or yell or show fear or anger.... they are like wild animals at this age....... ROFL, sorry again, but I just had a flash back, and it is NOT from drugs !!! take a deep breath and plane your strategy, and get Dad involved if possible... a united front is what is needed here............ a big hug and a bigger GOD BLESS
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how about i send her an email telling her how mad u are. ill pretend like u didnt know i said anything. ill just say something like "did u know **** is really ticked off about u trashing her boyfriend all the time." get on messanger plllleeeeeassse
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go to counseling with or with out him all men are not like this he sounds very selfish and I know you are angry and want to strike out but believe me the verbal assault doesn't help at all. when it's to that point it is time to move on if counseling doesn't work. this is a terrible atmosphere to bring up your kids in and will affect them for life
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I am in the same boat as you Taramar.  i do not get along with my mother very well, and I had a very rough and lonely upbringing.  To this day we rarely talk and do not get along at all.  \n   Even though all this, I still get her gifts for days like Mother's Day and other special days because she is my mom, and despite all the bad feelings I have for her, a part of me loves her.\n   She is not really a bad person, she was just a bad mother, and had issues that she never bothered to deal with.  I understand not being able to forgive, because i feel very much the same way.  Be the bigger person, and get her something.  Spend a few minutes with her if you can, and show her that you are not like her.  \n   Maybe, one day things will change, I know it seems unlikely as I feel that way too, but you never know.\nPeace and Love
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Keep a paper record of the dates this happened and also write down how it upset the kids. Keeping everything on paper and dated is the best thing,then when you go to court take it all with you! Good Luck!
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