if I A GAY, is positive way to be a normal guy?
402703
uh, you can still be normal
396294
I would have to think about that one for a minute. OK, I have a suggestion for you. Why can't you just be you? If your mind is a male, then act male. If you want to do guy things, like work on a car, go ahead.\n\nYou would have to make that decision because no one knows how you deeply feel. Are you gay? Are you straight? Those are important questions. How old are you? Are you in therapy?\n\nYou must decide which way you want to go, where you feel the most comfortable inside yourself.
792349
Well, chances are that most people who love you already know, you just haven't confirmed it yet.  Stay calm and think good thoughts.  Being gay is not terrible, but some people may need time to accept it.  Try setting aside time, free from distractions, and tell the person.  If it is a friend and they react poorly, don't push it, let them figure it out.  Continue to be a good friend, but if they choose to not be  good friend, consider yourself lucky to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff so easily.  Your family will love and accept you- you are family.  It is better to be honest and true, living your life fully as a good person, that force yourself to live in fear, lying.
774366
Yes, it is possible. I have several male friends who are straight. We even talk about other people we go out with together. It's not a big deal. We enjoy each others company but in a purely platonic way.
159701
Accept yourself for who you are just because the rest of the world may look down upon your sexual preferences doens't mean you have to. Trust me me once you accept it you'll bemuch happier, it'll be hard when you first come out it'll get better.
994411
you cannot change your sexual orientation despite how many morons told you otherwise. Trust me they are many gay men would have just switch under pressure just like that...if it's a choice there would not be that many gay men left in this world.\nIf it's not being gay , it can be fat , ugly ,short , skinny, race, religion. There are many bullies in these world would just pick on you regardless what differences you have. But your existence does not depend on them. You exist for yourself. Until you take care of your self, appreciate yourself and ignore what these bullies said you can't begin to face the world.  Life is not a popularity contest, you do not have to please everyone to gain votes. In reality some people gonna hate you without you having to do anything. The more you react to these bullies the more they gonna pick on you.... feel indifferent, ignore the rest just be who you are.....What can't kill you will make you stronger cause you need it ...there might be time in your life the challenge can be much tougher. See it as your early challenge to overcome.....Check out your local communities support group ...should be listed under gay and lesbian. ask for youth counselling or peer support group...they are many out there just like you facing the challenge. many can help you overcome these obstacles....Have you by any chance watch any of the Xmen movies?  What do u think the message is about? The first two were directed by Brian Singer a gay man himself. They are many sucessful gaymen in this world from all walks of life that I can't even begin to tell you. Instead of seeing it as a hindrence in your life ..use it as a catalyst to propel you to do great things with your life that could influence the society!! You are 16 and the world is your oyster!!
632605
How can a gay person know what it is like to be straight?
813953
whatever you feel good in and makes you feel comfortable gives the best impression no matter if you are straight gay bi whatever you are.......if you feel good you look good. just be you
625366
Sometimes we get caught up in hype.  It is best to simply live and stay natural, like we guys have done for centuries.  So eat healthy and exercise.  There is nothing better than that for a man becoming a healthy and normal man.
45696
If this is what makes YOU happy and feel best about yourself, don't worry about what others might think. I've known many cross-dressers, both Gay and Straight and never judge. Follow your heart and do what is best for YOU and to heck with what anyone else might say or think.
275333
hey well if you want to keep it going then you want to keep everything like an ladder and you dont always have things your way let it be his/her way at times ok well if you have anything else you need help with you email me at samson_anthony_zachry@yahoo.com you can talk to me I am gay too.
849655
Sounds like your a curious person, tolerant of what you don't really understand, and you aren't homophobic. I would hazard a guess that one day you'll end up married, maybe with children. And throughout you're life you may have gay or bisexual male friends who you don't chastise just because of who they are, which would be very good of you. But then again, who knows what the future holds. One thing I do  know is that your curiosity will subside in time. It is very mature to "try" something in a safe environment (looking at "gay" stuff) where no harm can come to you.
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Love, there are lots of clinics and programs that claim to "reform" homosexuals.  They don't really seem to work.  First don't go around dating the opposite sex and doing sexual things with them just to make yourself feel better.  Generally this makes you feel worse.  \n\nTake time out, think, reflect.  Don't force yourself to be heterosexual.  Don't force yourself to be anything.  Accept who and what you are reguardless.  Lables like "gay" and "Straight" do more harm than good.  If you can see beyond gender (the way alot of people can see beyond skin color, or ethnicity, or religion all the silly things that seperate us) Cheers to you.
822888
Stop thinking of it in terms of gay and strait. As a matter of fact forget the two terms exist at all. Then just pay attention to your emotions toward everyone around you and the answer will just kind of come to you. Thats how it was for me.
80085
You could start on Myspace, or something like that just by checking off gay and looking for a relationship rather than straight. My good friend has found a lot of good guys on that site, he tried gay.com for a while, but he thinks the men on myspace are less out only for sex. You just have to be a little bit forward and email some guys to get started if you can. But I know what you mean about bars, it's easier online sometimes. Try other places too, you'll find something/someone!
566007
THIS IS WHY RELIGION IS EVIL!!! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HOMOSEXUAL FEELINGS AND ATTRACTIONS, PEOPLE IN GENERAL ARE BEAUTIFUL, IT IS OK TO BE ATTRACTED TO ANOTHER MAN OR WOMEN, THE IMPORTANT THING IS THAT YOU ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE, YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY UNTIL YOU DO!\n\nbut anyway get a sex change, then you don't have to worry about "the sin of a man being attracted to another man" then you'll be a women with and Adam's apple, large hands, and a deep voice that's attracted to men...\n\nBut in all honest i doubt your god cares if you're gay, he made you that way didn't he?
114221
As a gay person I can honestly say that I don't know. It just is the way I feel naturaly. Like being streight is natural for you. We don't ask to be this way and life would be much easier for us if we had a choice but we don't it is just our nature