How can one be happy in this world of tension?
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I come from the Philippines, and most of my fellowmen are struggling to live, or to even eat. But what makes us Filipinos happy ? Most of our lives might be simple, but amidst all the difficulties we are facing, we never forget that we might be poor but we are happy , and that our smiles shows our happiness.
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Just enjoy life. Don't let any of your worries comeover your mental peace for it is your self-contentment which makes you a successful person. Life is full of hardships and you have to face them. Did you ever imagine that if there would be no difficulties in life and life would be easy then would you appreciate the easiness of life?? You get to know the real importance of easiness only when you face hardships. We may think that see this little one-month child is so carefree.. he has no tensions, no worries... but even he would be tensed.. He may be thinking that how lucky these elders are.. they can walk themselves, they can eat themselves, they can go wherever they want to... they can enjoy.. So, everyone has tensions.. You can satisfy yourself by thinking that its not only me who has tension.. everyone around me is in tension... Some may express.. some may not.. But only the one who won't let the tension come in his way to succes, will be successful...
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I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.
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Other people can't make you happy. Your happiness is dependent on how you choose to react to the world and the people around you.
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In life, there are always ups and downs. Nobody's life is always smooth sailing.\n\nHowever, you can always think positively regardless of what happens and stay happy. Do the things that make you happy. Engage in a job that you love. Get hobbies that you like. In that way, you can enjoy your life and live happily forever.
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I know I do not have all the answers that you need. But I hope that somehow my ideas would help.\n\nLoneliness is all in the mind. We can choose to be lonely or otherwise. Instead of sulking in a corner thinking of life's myseries and heartaches, why not boost your self esteem by thinking about the good things that happened to you  (and around you) and the good things that you expect to happen.\n\nGo out with friends and amuse yourself. Talk to people whom you trust and tell them about what's bothering you. Or get away for a while, alone - commune with nature, meditate, talk to God (or whoever you believe is the highest being). You'll realize that there are still beautiful things to be thankful for. Afterall, problems are there to be faced head on. \n\nDo not live with loneliness. Deal with it. Instead of living with it, come out a winner over your problems/frustrations or whatever causes this feeling of loneliness. You should not allow problems/negative ideas influence your life and take away the happiness that you deserve. You should take control.
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Well... look around... Do you like what you see? Are you happy for what lessons you have already learned? Are you pleased on what you are able to do for the better of tomorrow? That is all really. If you are happy. If you are pleased on what you have as a past, to put you in your position you are in now, and where it can lean you from your own ambition from knowing that this is your life. And if you are not happy with anything, well that is something that needs to be worked out within yourself, because you should be happy for everything in your life. Why should there be a reason for you to be un-happy? Are you missing anything? Do you have patience to take the time and effort to get to that point in obtaining that goal? Everything is in your hands. Just remember to take everything as it is and be happy for it. Don't expect anything. Things will flow much better if you do that. Hope this helps. Cheers!
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Finally ,now I  can die and rest, someone is happy , hurray,,\n\nI believe I will be happy, when I do not care when I lose anything, and do not care when I gain something..I will be happy when I have the free will to chose or reject, I will be happy when I feel I am secure,, I will be happy when I feel I am loved  and I feel I love,, I will feel happy when I feel I understand why people are not happy,,,\nU notice that I always say when I FEEL (secure, love, loved, understand...) because all that are  just a feeling,, do not have to be true, changeable from person to person,, So I will be happy when I accept what is there  ,what I have and what I do not have , Acceptance is the secret to be happy. ...\n(of-course there are constant terms for happiness, one of them is  to see more 100 pics of urs in bikini)
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to be happy with yourself
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when you allow yourself to be happy.
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be strong in who you are and thank God for everything hes given you.\nlove yourself for who you are, and know God loves you even more.\nIf you live your life worrying about what other people think, you will never find happiness.\n\n be happy & love yourself!\nI think your great just the way you are, but when you love yourself first, people will see you differently.
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Happiness to me is a "now" condition of being at peace with yourself.  Such condition is brought about by being content with the life you choose to live... like...liking the people around you, the place you are in, the thoughts and memories you have gathered along the way, the responsibilities you have embraced.  All these you will know ONLY when you have enough experiences in the past that would give you the chance to compare the differences.
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Boy, I think we all get to that point at times. I hear ya and empathize. I've found when I feel one of those moods coming on, I tell myself.. This "mood" is entirely up to me, I can CHOOSE to be miserable and make others miserable OR I can CHOOSE to be upbeat and let things slide off my shoulders for another day.. What would ya rather do today?  Sometimes, it's grudgingly, but I opt for the upbeat choice. Another thing is to set a NEW goal in life, whether it be work or your personal life and get excited about it.\n\n\nP.S.  Being able to bring a smile to others is a gift that should be shared often by us all and the doom n gloom we sometimes feel does not in anyway fix our situations, so consider it a waste of time.
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Well i am happy, and not because some material things make me feel like i do exist or something. My happines comes from within. I understand my limitations, and with that in hand i know that my achievments through life are the reflection of someone who always gives the best of himself.\n\nknowing i do my best everyday makes me happy. What makes you happy?\n\nfind some indicator for evaluating your life. might be how many friends do you have, or how many people have you helped... or how many material things you have! The important thing is that everyone can measure their own happines by setting reasonable indicators. What are yours? what's your happines based on?
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Hi,\n\nI don't think you can make someone happy if they just don't want to be happy, try to find out what the problem is and get that person help if need be! It could be a deeper problem then you think!
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I'm calm and relaxed about most things, because NOTHING is the end of the world.. unless it actually is the end of the world..then I would be anxious and sad...\n\nI get excited often with my husband, for unspeakable reasons...\n And excited that I get another day with my family and friends to do whatever I want to make my day full.\n\nI am sad when my days seem to be the same for days at a time without any movement forward to better things.\n\nMost often I am content, with my surroundings, my life, my will to be more today than I was yesterday, and to silently move into my own realm of being me.
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I know that stress in life can be unavoidable at times. Why, any change in ones situation is considered a source of stress. Exam your life and your current obligations. Determine if there are some things that you are currently doing that you can stop or delegate to others. \n\nTry to schedule in some daily "me" time when you can just do something that you find totally relaxing, even if just for 15 minutes. Think about things that you like to do, that makes your happy, or that you find relaxing. Have a mini daily retreat where you can refocus, replenish, and rejuvenate your soul.