how does a gay man develop and mature differently then a straight man?
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I think that process of accepting one's homosexuality speeds the maturation process, not always but often. At least for me, the process took a lot of introspection which led me to other conclusions about who I was and what I believed. If you assume that the onset of puberty is the catalyst for this, then it can be argued that gays and lesbians experience and hopefully resolve their first identity crisis in early adolescence, as opposed to at age 18 or 19 when a typical teenager is leaving their parents' house.
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energy.\nA healthy, exercising, 60 yr old could be in better overall shape than an overweight, inactive 20 yr old who doesn't eat right, so it is relative...\n\nGenerally as people age the body changes.  Hormones change, things slow down, it is easier to get aches,  the body is less flexible.  stamina gets shorter with longer recuperation time needed.\n\nMentally the 20 yr old brain is not finished growing.  There is less understanding of life  and living.  Generally a 20 yr old male is immature.\n\nA fully grown mature man will have gained wisdom  and understanding (it does take a lifetime though, so the older the better)  Experience teaches so much.  He will more likely be secure in knowing who he is and what is important to him.  He will have empathy and developed the fine art of social skills.  He can be less selfish.\n\nSexually, there are differences.  Neither good nor bad, just different.  Young men often are quicker when having sex  and it can be exciting and fun( and loving) and older men can spend more time and can actually make love in a way more satisfying to a woman.\n\nThere are pluses and minuses at every stage of life so get the most out of every year and fully enjoy the age that you are.  They can all be great!
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Nobody is born gay because homosexuality is not natural. However, I do think that there biological differences in some gays. Some studies showed for example, physical differences as well in eye to pupil diameter ratios.
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Looking at your last few questions, you seem very concerned with putting people into categories. I'm sorry, but life isn't like that. We're all individuals, and we have different tastes, different experiences, different perspectives. Some gay men are body-conscious, some aren't, exactly the same as straight men, or women.
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It may be that conditioning may have a very small part of a person being gay but it would be a very small percentage of gay people that are effected in this way. However, I do think that the majority of gay people are born with this disposition.\n\nI am sure that most of you have heard of a condition called hermaphroditism (or the more politically correct term these days is 'intersex') where a person is born with the fully formed genatalia of BOTH sexes. The subject, apart from their genitalia, is physically and mentally sound in every other way.\n\nSometimes, these children are operated on at birth if the doctors decide (guess) that the baby appears to have a female or male inclination and the genitals are modified accordingly. In many cases though, a modified 'girl' grows up with feelings for other women and modified 'boys' grow up feeling something for other men. It seems in these cases, the doctors have made the wrong decision and the psychological makeup of the child was in fact the opposite to the physical modification they performed on the child. So even though, for instance, a child may be brought up as a girl with girls toys etc, the 'nature' side of the brain kicks in at puberty (if not before) and overrides the 'nurture' side.\n\nNow, if nature can produce a visible, physical example of developmental confusion on the outside of the human body, who is to say that there are not processes at work of developmental confusion going on inside the unseen brain of a person ... where there may not be an obvious physical example of gender disorientation externally but internally their brain does not dictate in the way that their external body would suggest to the rest of society.\n\nThere is very strong evidence that sexuality is largely determined by development in the womb. Perhaps, while 'intersex' is firm external physical proof of developmental issues, we ought to consider that perhaps the developmental differences in gay people are more subtle and obviously invisible to the naked eye due to the brain being internal - but that does not mean that the differences are not there.\n\nHomosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and if you research gay history in cultures across the world, the present prejudices seem to stem with the spread of the three major monotheistic religons and it is this prejudice that is ingrained into the psyche of people today. But like racism, for instance, perhaps this prejudice towards gay people will diminish as society recognises that alternative sexuality is actually just a normal part of nature's rich diversity.
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It may be that conditioning may have a very small part of a person being gay but it would be a very small percentage of gay people that are effected in this way. However, I do think that the majority of gay people are born with this disposition.\n\n'God' doews not make nature perfect. for instance, I am sure that most of you have heard of a condition called hermaphroditism (or the more politically correct term these days is 'intersex') where a person is born with the fully formed genatalia of BOTH sexes. The subject, apart from their genitalia, is physically and mentally sound in every other way.\n\nSometimes, these children are operated on at birth if the doctors decide (guess) that the baby appears to have a female or male inclination and the genitals are modified accordingly. In many cases though, a modified 'girl' grows up with feelings for other women and modified 'boys' grow up feeling something for other men. It seems in these cases, the doctors have made the wrong decision and the psychological makeup of the child was in fact the opposite to the physical modification they performed on the child. So even though, for instance, a child may be brought up as a girl with girls toys etc, the 'nature' side of the brain kicks in at puberty (if not before) and overrides the 'nurture' side.\n\nNow, if nature can produce a visible, physical example of developmental confusion on the outside of the human body, who is to say that there are not processes at work of developmental confusion going on inside the unseen brain of a person ... where there may not be an obvious physical example of gender disorientation externally but internally their brain does not dictate in the way that their external body would suggest to the rest of society.\n\nThere is very strong evidence that sexuality is largely determined by development in the womb. Perhaps, while 'intersex' is firm external physical proof of developmental issues, we ought to consider that perhaps the developmental differences in gay people are more subtle and obviously invisible to the naked eye due to the brain being internal - but that does not mean that the differences are not there.\n\nHomosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and if you research gay history in cultures across the world, the present prejudices seem to stem with the spread of the three major monotheistic religons and it is this prejudice that is ingrained into the psyche of people today. But like racism, for instance, perhaps this prejudice towards gay people will diminish as society recognises that alternative sexuality is actually just a normal part of nature's rich diversity.
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All gays are males only.Biologically they are active and potent and can reproduce normally. It is the brain chemisty that determins their rientation. Certain amount of gayness exist in all. I feel you are from India and a south Indian.Most of us had some experience at least in the school days. We hav an affection towards certain actors, sport persons etc. when that admiration exceeds there will develop a love bond. That is all.\nIf you wish how u can chk a person hav more gay orientation. it soo simple stare at him. Observe him closely with a certain love in your eyes. the feelings can be communicated easily and automatically. So you can find whether he really likes u and wants U.\nIt is your past experience and fantacies makes you gay noot biological. Anybody can be a gay provided the situation is sutable. But later it will make certain changes in the human brain which can be considered like making a wall. Each brick of fantacy or a fondiling memory or experience will increase the wall height which seperate from desire for a female. Actually sex is nothing but a pure mind game. Physical part is only 10% that is purely biological. Even the secreation of different hormones upto your performane ... It is truely a mind game.
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I am straight and I was born this way.\nYou are gay and I know you were born that way.  Cheers!\n(Here's a bit of scientific proof for the naysayers)\n\nThe sexual area of a gay man's brain works a lot like that of a woman when exposed to a particular stimulus, researchers say.\n\nIn an experiment, men and heterosexual women sniffed a chemical from the male hormone testosterone. The homosexual men's brains responded differently from those of heterosexual males, and in a similar way to the women's brains.
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I can't give you an awnser base on research or some study all I can do is tell you my opinion base on my own experience as a gay man. People say that they are born gay because they can't remember a time in their childhood where they were straight in other words they can't give you an exactly date and time and say this is when I went from been straight to being gay. Can you remember a time in your life where you were not straight? From your earliest childhood memory of when you became aware of your sexuality were you ever not straight? When I became aware of my sexuality it just happen to have been of the homosexual orientation so I assume that I was born that way and that god made me that way for a reason. I hope this answer's your question if not feel free to ask me anything.
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My gay friends say that they knew they were different early on in their lives.  I don't think that they chose it.  I see they don't have the easiest life.  Why would you pick that?
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There are no tests parse.  It is what a guy feels.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by other guys and not really by girls -- particularly when he is masturbating -- then he is gay.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by girls and not really by other guys -- particularly when he is masturbating -- then he is straight.\n\nIf a guy is turned on by both, then he is bi.\n\nAll of this presumes that he can accept himself however he is and is not trying to force himself to be one way or another.  If he is trying, for example, to force himself to be straight, then he can suppress his homosexual feelings for years, but they will conquer eventually if they are there.\n\nIf you have further questions just ask.\n\nKind thoughts,\n\nReyn\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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All of those things are present in both homosexuals and heterosexuals.\n\nLove - both know love and experience love in their life. Love for the God or whatever their religion may be. Love for parents and family. Love for children. Love of their spouse/partner/beloved. Love for friends. Love for others.\n\nPatience - both strive to be patient with others and even themselves\n\nKindness - both strive to show kindness towards all others. \n\nCourtesy - both strive to be courteous and respectful to others.\n\nGenerosity - both are very caring and generous. Out of kindness and love they will give money, time, things, words, or just a shoulder to lean on.\n\nForgiveness - both strive to be very forgiving of others.\n\nTruthfulness - both strive to be honest and truthful with others (this is why eventually gay people will tell people they are gay, because it is morally and ethically wrong to lie. telling the truth, even if it means losing opportunities, putting yourself in harm, etc, is still morally and ethically right)(straight people also strive to be very honest with others even other gay people. most straight people I know don't outright condemn other gay people, but they let them know they don't agree with it or that they aren't comfortable with it and generally gay people will accomodate by not trying to mention things in their life related to the fact that they are gay, like their partner, unless the straight person asks and straight people will do the same about not saying things like offensive jokes, etc, to a gay person if they have been asked not to do so in their presence).\n\nCourage - both do show signs of courage. Consider how much courage it takes to live your life truthfully. Consider how much courage it takes to stand up for the ones you love or how much courage it takes to stand up even for those you dislike.
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They can insult each other's manhood in the same way straight men do. Just as there are plenty of effeminate straight men there are a lot of masculine gay men. Insulting one's manhood is even more prevalent in the gay community since your sexual orientation has already knocked you down a point on that. So they make it up by being even better than the other boys. It is an insult for a gay man to be compared to a woman just as it would be for a straight man.
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The short answer to me is that men are bred to be competitive. Boys grow into being men by being introduced by older boys or men what is pretty or cute. So often, grown-up boys go for the wrong person instead of listening to their heart. \n\nMy story is that I got scared of being happy. \n\nThanks for playing "I hope I got this rite" (jk!)
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First you have to be sure about yourself, once you have accepted the fact that you are gay and there is no way of changing the fact then you have to be strong, because over the years to come you will hear all sorts of jokes and comments that are cruel, but are based on ignorance. You have to understand, that you have had time to become used to the idea of being gay, and probably have for some time, but when you come out to your family, this will be the first time they have had it confirmed and it will take them time to get use to it. First level with them, just sit them down and level with them, don't do what most gay people have done in the past including myself and that is to try and hide it, because you can never get away from it. The next thing to do is to be the man that you are, being gay doesn't mean you have to be a pansy, you can still be the man you know you are and the man they thought you where going to be. Move out as soon as you can and avoid contact with them for a few months, this does two things. 1. it gives them time to discuss, fight, backstab and blame each other, without yuo having to hear it or feel guilty about it, because you didn't choose to be gay, you where born that way, and anyone who says other wise is a bloody idiot.\n2. This gives you time to explore your sexuallity without the fear of being caught with your pants down by your parents.\n16 is young, but at 16 I knew I was a raging queer, but it wasn't until I was thirty that I levelled with my family, during this time I explored straight relationships, gay one night stands, sauna's etc... But in the end I faced my fears and relized if I didn't level with my family, I would never have a chance of being happy with my own life and to me my life is the more important that the embarassment I caused my parents. For ten years I have lived in a gay relationship and now my family accept my partner as a part of the family, they now accept that they are not going to get grandchildren but now they have had the time to relize that I hadn't change, I was still the son they had 42 years ago, good luck kid, but careful there are some crazy mother----- out there, but be happy and have fun
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Because normal = different things to different people.  And most people automatically assume that being gay automatically means you're a sex pig and it's dirty and gross.  They don't realize that while that's sometimes true, there's also this little thing in there called love (among other feelings and/or emotions) more often than not.  \n\nAs a straight man...have you been in a serious relationship before?  Then you would know that when the honeymoon is over, what's left after that is what prevails.  \nI've been with my parter for close to 3 years now and I can't tell you any differences from our relationship to any straight person's relationship that I know.  We all fight and argue, we all make up in the end, we all know what it's like to be in a solid committed relationship.  I don't see the difference.  \n\nI'm glad you have this outlook, however.  We need more people like you in the world.  :)
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I believe the level of difficulty isn't directly to related to whether you are a lesbian or a gay male but rather the extent to which your personality goes against society's idea of "normal" -- a very feminine gay man is going to have more difficulty "fitting in" to a society where men are expected to be "manly". A butch lesbian who doesn't meet the "feminine" requirements of society will also have a harder time, but at least she can kick their butts if they mess with her. :)