My spouse is having PMS symptoms what can i do to support her ?
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Well, I would just say that patience is the most important thing and knowing that her moods will not last forever helps a lot.  When she does get angry, try not to argue with her, but at the same time, do not patronize her either.  The best thing to do would be to try and stay a good distance away.  Seriously, if she gets really irritated and angry over seemingly nothing, just act interested but do not get drawn into the argument.  While you may still be stewing over the matter, she has gotten over it.  But, I would say, just patience, try to be extra helpful around the house and make sure there is always lots of chocolate as that will help a lot too.\n\nHere is a really good website that explains PMS symptoms.
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if you have cramps, laying down with a heating pad is really nice.  You can buy them in a pharmacy, or department store.  Also, you may want to look into birth control pills, which seem to help many women cut down some of the PMS symptoms...
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Approximately 3 to 9 percent of women experience premenstrual changes so severe they can't keep up their daily routines. Some experts say these women suffer from premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD), a condition characterized by intense emotional and physical symptoms that occur between ovulation and menstruation. In other words, PMDD is like supercharged PMS, and is thought by some to be a subtype of depressive disorder. \n\nPMDD symptoms include: \n\n* Markedly depressed mood. A symptom of MDD is depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day. \n\n* Decreased interest in usual activities. One criterion for MDD is markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all activities. \n\n* Lethargy, fatigability or lack of energy. Similarly, patients with MDD have fatigue or loss of energy. \n\n* Hypersomnia or insomnia--also symptoms of MDD. \n\nFrom: \nhttp://www.apa.org/monitor/oct02/pmdd.html\n\nTreatment can include non-pharmacological--relaxation, light therapy, cognitive-behavioral treatment. There is some evidence for a variety of medical treatments--calcium, evening primrose oil, antidepressants, hormones, and others. Read about detailed treatment discussion at http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3357.htm\n\nThis is worth a discussion with your physician. OB/GYN physicians are often good with this. Especially helpful if you have kept track of the symptoms, when they occur, and how it affects you.\n\nThere are some support groups for women with pmdd, and you might want to check those out. There are several discussion forums on the Internet, which can sometimes be helpful reading, although remember that anybody can post to these and you can't always know if the information is accurate or not:\nhttp://pmdd.proboards20.com/index.cgi\n\nThere is also a forum for men who are partners of women with pmdd:\nhttp://www.network54.com/Forum/283990/\n\nHope these resources are helpful to you. Get some assistance with this. It will make a big difference.
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Try taking Evening Primrose oil.  It oils the machinery so to speak and may just help you regulate.  It will also help prevent all the usual symptoms .. headaches, bloating, menstrual cramps, etc.  Exercise helps too and yoga is ideal.\n\nhttp://www.angelic1healing.com
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The best thing she can do is regular medical check-ups and mammograms, as well as monthly self exams.  What you can do is be supportive and nag her to have the above done if she doesn't do it.  It has been proven that the sooner a problem has been found, the better the chances of curing it.\nWish her luck for me!
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This is from CNN Interactive Health:\nHealth\nCalcium may be the key to taming premenstrual pain\nmilk\nCalcium from sources such as milk may reduce PMS symptoms in some women  \nAugust 25, 1998\nWeb posted at: 12:22 p.m. EDT (1622 GMT)\n\nI would make sure you balance that with Magnesium and Vitamin D, both of which are need for proper utilization of calcium.  \n\nThis helped me a lot.  \n\nFrom Medical Correspondent Dr. Steve Salvatore\n\nNEW YORK (CNN) -- For men ... and women, PMS may be one of medicine's most misunderstood conditions.\n\nBut for estimated 30 million women who regularly suffer the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, like Anne Maillard, PMS is not myth.\n\n"When a woman has PMS, it's like she's in an altered state," Maillard said. "It's like, you know, someone speaks to you and you just snap at them."\n\nMany women try to combat the symptoms of PMS with over-the-counter pain remedies. But a new study says a natural alternative, calcium, may be the best answer.\n\nThe research, funded in part by the maker of Tums, a popular antacid and calcium supplement, studied more than 400 premenopausal women across the United States.\n\n"Within three months, there was a 50 percent reductions of symptoms," said Dr. Susan Thys-Jacobs of St. Lukes-Roosevelt Hospital. "Symptoms such as mood swings, tension, headaches and cramping were all alleviated with calcium."\nsupplements\nCalcium may be taken in supplement form if necessary  \n\nFood cravings also dropped by half, and water retention decreased by more than one-third.\n\nResearchers don't know exactly how calcium reduces the physical and psychological symptoms of PMS, but they have discovered another calcium-PMS link. PMS may be an early warning sign for osteoporosis, the so-called brittle bone condition that affects millions of women, especially after menopause.\n\n"We've never really had a marker for this bone loss," Thys-Jacobs said. "Now I think we have it.\n\n"Now we have a premenstrual syndrome that is manifesting as a calcium deficient state.\n\nShe recommended women take in at least 1,000 milligrams of calcium a day. That translates into three to four glasses of milk, or three to four yogurts a day.\n\nBut when that's not possible, doctors recommend calcium supplements.\n\n"Choose a chewable tablet; stay with that tablet," Thys-Jacobs said. "If you have premenstrual symptoms you should see an effect within two to three months."
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!
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What you've suggested is really all you can do. You gave her good advice about communicating with her husband and going to counseling. Beyond that, it's really none of your business and not your responsibility.
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The website below has some great info about PMS. They list thirteen common symptoms of PMS, and I routinely get about eleven of them. Some months are more severe than others, but I don't think my symptoms are unusually severe. My biggest problems are irritability and anxiety/sadness. I take Vitex (Chastetree Berry) and that helps immensely. You can get it at GNC or drugstore.com (I prefer Nature's Way brand). You have to take it all the time, not just during PMS, and it takes a few months to kick in. Once it does, though, it's could make a big difference in your symptoms.
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I'm currently teaching my man how to deal when I'm suffering from PMS. Men need know women really do suffer.. The mood swings are beyond a lady's control. \n\nJust dont have a smart mouth. This is the worse thing a man can do.\n\nDONT FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE\n\nAPOLOGIZE A LOT\n\nAPOLOGIZE FOR ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING\n\nAPOLOGIZE FOR NOT HAVING A PERIOD TOO\n\nAgree with her and tell her its OK and please please sympathize and empathize
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I would suggest that she goes back to her gp if she is not comfortable going to her gp i would advise the family planning clinic.  Periods are only missed if there is some kind of underlying problem...thats not saying it is a serious problem may be something easy to resolve.  PMT is also a medical condition that causes the woman to have really bad mood swings.  It runs through my family I just cry all the time however, my sister and my mother can be pretty violent and agressive and both are on medication to calm their mood swings.  The fact that she is missing periods i would ask to be reffered to a gynacoligist she may have a number of conditions such as endometriosis or pcos which are both gynycolagist issues that can cause infertility.  PCOS particularly would explain missed periods (this is when the woman does not ovaulate every month and her eggs turn to cysts).  I would also advise that your girlfriend is tested for stds I am not saying she is dirty - the cleanest of people can be unfortunate and catch an std but simple tests can rule this out.  I hope that this helps and wish you both luck x
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Although the actual cause of PMDD is not known, it is believed to be related to hormonal changes that occur before menstruation. There are more than 150 signs and symptoms attributed to PMDD, and every woman experiences different ones at different times. There seem to be socioeconomic and genetic factors that precipitate PMDD. Twin studies have demonstrated a positive correlation with heritability and PMDD symptoms. Anti-anxiety medications have been shown to help improve symptoms associated with PMDD. The most common symptoms include headache, swelling of ankles, feet, and hands, backache, abdominal cramps, heaviness or pain, bloating and/or gas, muscle spasms, breast tenderness, weight gain, recurrent cold sores, acne, nausea, constipation or diarrhea, food cravings, anxiety or panic, confusion, difficulty concentrating and forgetfulness, poor judgment, and depression.
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Aleeve or Nuprin can help that.\n\nI did find this on natural alternatives:\n\nAre there any alternative treatments?\n\nYes. Although few scientific studies have been done in this area, many women have reported benefits from acupressure, acupuncture, and various herbal remedies, which are believed to help lessen menstrual cramps as well as the symptoms of PMS. The ancient Chinese arts of acupuncture and acupressure are based on the belief that by stimulating specific points on the body with hair-thin needles or a practitioner's hand pressure can unblock the flow of energy within the body and relieve pain.\n\n\n\nIn the herb department, cramp bark or black cohosh are thought to safely relieve menstrual cramps. Many women also swear by evening primrose oil, though no scientific evidence yet proves its effectiveness.\n\n\n\nObstetrician/gynecologist Christian Northrup, author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom, also reports that dietary changes have brought her patients relief from menstrual cramps. She recommends that women can decrease their intake of eggs, red meat, and dairy products or switch to organic dairy foods, on the theory that milk containing added hormones and antibiotics may stimulate female hormones in ways we don't yet understand. Among her other recommendations:\n\n\n\n•Get plenty of essential fatty acids, which are found in canned sardines, salmon, flaxseed oil, and ground flaxseed, among other things (according to Northrup, this seems to moderate cramps even if you don't change your diets in other ways). \n•Take extra magnesium and a multivitamin-and-mineral supplement. \n•Take extra vitamin E during your menstrual cycles. \n•As much as you can, eliminate trans-fatty acids from your diet (these are found in foods like commercially prepared pastries, which contain margarine, solid vegetable shortening, and other partially hydrogenated oils). \n•Cut down on stress.  \n•Try yoga or massage.
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my wife has trouble sleeping too. she can fall asleep, but she cannot stay asleep. Her doctor told her to cut down on her caffienne intake closer to evening. and my motherinlaw has also suggested maybe some lavender oil in a vapor mist vaporizor to help soothe her. she hasn't tried this yet, but i will let you all know
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You can't decrease your desire, you will just have to satisfy yourself when she's not willing.\n\nThere are a couple of questions I have though.  Is she perimenopausal?  Or through menopause?  What about hormonal changes as a result of having kids?  \n\nMen do not understand these things.  When we become unable to have children our desire for 'sex' goes down the tubes.  It's hormone related ok?  If she is on any medication, that can be causing side effects that are increasing this issues.\n\nThe best thing she can do is go speak to her doctor and see if there is anything that they are willing to try medicinally that will help her desire.  Remember it's very important that she not feel pressured and that THE VERY BEST WAY to get her 'into the mood' is by meeting her emtoional needs the best you can.\n\nI'll say this over and over.... Men need to 'get' that if a woman is not emotionally satisfied in their marriages, the sex stops.  It's much like a man can't have sex because he can't get it up!  She can't have sex if her emotional needs are not being met, and that is so hard for men to understand.  By nature they are providers and fixers and that kind of thing.. but you need to learn how to be her friend, support her and pamper her and cherish her.  Massage her back, thank her for the fabulous dinner.. spontaneously say you know, I don't tell you enough how thankful I am that you do the laundry all the time and take such good care of me.  I love you for doing that for me.  Those things make women in the mood :)  I wish you the best and that you are able to work it out hun!!
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Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
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If you can - crawl into bed and relax with a soppy movie;)\nThere isn't any meds out there to aliviate pms unfortunately eve screwed it up for the rest of us.