Since God sees everything then he's seen my mother-in law in the altogether. so is it OK to feel sorry for Him
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Definitely. \n\nGod is so disappointed in the human race. He sits up there thinking, "I kept telling them that their body is a temple! They should worship it. Instead they eat Ho-Ho's and Ding Dongs!"
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Catch her putting in a camera on one of your own.  Then , send the tape to all your husband's relatives.  Once people know that others know, they usually drop their invasion of you and your life.  It's like the dirty little secret is out.\n\nNow, there is another problem here -- you are really upset and feel invaded by this.  Since your husband is so unresponsive, can you see a counselor?  You need to work out your feelings, since in the end she is still your mother-in-law and the grandmother to your child -- and will be forever, no matter if a divorce occurs, etc.  \n\nNaturally, your mother-in-law is sick and needs help.  I'm hoping other family members will realize the extent to which she is sick and will intervene.  I'm also hoping others will help your husband see reality.  As often happens, there are plenty of folks who put up with bad behavior, to the point of denying its existence, because the love and feel loyalty to that person.  It's called cooperating with the illness.  You need to walk a simple line ... without being critical and judgemental, state repeatedly that she is sick and needs help, that this is not the behavior of a rational adult, that there is free counseling through the church, etc.  What you are trying to do by this is get people to agree with you, so it's not a case of choose a side.  Instead, you are asking them to choose to help her.\n\nGood luck -- I feel for you and wish I had better advice for how to handle this.
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Yes of course. You should think whatever feels best to you. I do believe God is happy that everyone is worshiping Him no matter which religion they choose. I personally like to take a little taste from everything available at the religion buffet.
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man, i feel bad for you. you're playing on the wrong team. God is so real. it seems like everyday he's proving himself (to me anyway). i mean there are times i look back and it could have only been God that got me through. God gives me peace, protection, and he is a great provider. My first year in college I didn't have a job or a dime to my name, but God made a way for me. He made is so that I was never hungry, and that I never wanted for anything. to you God might be an "invisible friend" but for me he is my best friend. the bible is a guide that tells us how to live. and if people live right they dont have to fear God. he gave his only son for us, do you really think that he wants to destroy us? to cripple us with fear? No, thats not him, he is loving. I'm sorry if you feel that God has failed you, or that he's not real, because you're missing out.
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I wouldn't worry about it too much.  We cab all define what god is.  Find something you like and enjoy it.
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My oldest cousin agreed with me that my mother's pride is very strong. When my mother would grab my father, he would be able to tolerate it because he knows her characteristics very well. The result of terrible situations occur when he hurts her feelings. At times, I do feel sorry for my mother. I feel sorry for her because she is constantly concerned about my grandmother's health. The reason why I believe my mother supports her so much is not because of her old age but also her strong existence.
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Tough situation, but the mother-in-law always seem to win.  Don't feel guilty for not going out with someone who makes you feel unwanted.  Since it's your husband we are talking about, don't you get to spend time with him anyway away from his mother?  He's your husband and you can have your way with him  anytime you want.  Stay home and wait for him, speak to mom, and keep it simple.
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It sounds like your having a hard time dealing with this guilt. Ask God and your other 1/2 for forgiveness and never repeat the act again!!
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I really do feel sorry for her.  Her son was all she has for so many years.  I feel sorry for ANY one that loses a child or a loved one, but can you imagine, in your own room.\nThat would be extra hard.  Right now she is trying to get on with her life and raise a new baby.  God be with her.  And I agree, "He who is without sin, cast the first stone!"
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wondering\n_________\n\n\n\nSEE HIS LATEST QUESTION & SEE IF YOU DON'T AGREE....I FEEL VERY SORRY FOR HIS WIFE HE'S CALLING A B---H
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It's late in her life--later than she'd planned and this is something you can do out of the goodness of your heart.  It will make her feel better, and you will feel better in the long run for having done it.\n\nI'm divorced and remarried with a son from my first marriage.  I always encouraged my son to love his mother no matter what she had done, no matter how hard it was to forgive her for it.  Because you can always forgive someone.  \n\nPeople say stupid things when they think they have the time and the latitude to be stupid.  That's where your mom was when she told you things she should never have even thought much less said.\n\nForgive her.  Let her go to her eternity in as much peace as you can give her.  You will be rewarded in your heart if not in other ways.
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YOU NEED TIME TO GRIEVE...YOU WILL GET BETTER OVER TIME...DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU TO "GET OVER IT"...AT LEAST YOU HAVE A HEART...MY SYMPATHY TO YOU...AND I'M NOT ASHAMED TO SAY "GOD WEEPS FOR YOU TOO. HE GETS NO PLEASURE IN SEEING PEOPLE SUFFER." CRY WHEN YOU MUST...SOME OF US HERE CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS...BEST TO YOU...Phantom of the Blog
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No it is not wrong that you feel that way. You are just being honest about your feelings. I also had to deal with a stepson who did all those same things, and even though we had custody of him at that time, I finally saw that counceling was not helping him. He just seemed to want to do what he wanted and showed no remorse for his actions. I decided that if he stayed there, he was going to destroy my marriage, rob me blind, make me or his dad loose our job from having to take off work to go to the school, or hurt one of our other kids. So, we did send him to his mothers.\n\nAs horrible as it sounds, I felt such relief once he left.  You simply can not allow one child, your own or step, to ruin your family, especially if there are other children involved. Those children can not be sacrificed for the sake of one troubled child. Perhaps, the troubled children need help that they can not get while living in that household.
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I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
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Let's see . After thinking about this for a bit i would have to say it is because you are closer to your spouse then any other person usually in life. It hurts much more when someone you love and cherish hurts you then if it is someone you don't know as well or feel such a deep love for. God however commands us to forgive others or he won't forgive us and he won't even hear our prayers if we choose not to forgive. I would want to forgive my husband because if i were to do something to hurt him or make a mistake I would want him to forgive me. Forgiveness is a choice!
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I hear you, brother. I feel the same way. I have been praying for four years now for God's will, and God's will alone. And I also ask him to help me grow in faith. But when it comes time to ask for something specific, I sort of cower, because I feel so entirely unworthy.\n\nI have spoken with other faithful Christians about this, and what some have said has helped me. Some have said that we're not worthy on our own, but that Christ's blood has justified us. They have told me that if you ask God for something, and say, "If it be thy will"--and if you mean that--then it is okay to ask. God will either provide or he won't, depending on whether or not what you ask for is what he wills. I have also been told that God does indeed like to give gifts and blessings to his children. He is our father, after all--and so we are "allowed" to approach him and ask for stuff. If he sees it best for us, he will provide, and if he sees it as harmful to us, he will not provide.\n\nEssentially, God won't do anything that God doesn't will...obviously. So what I do is continue to seek his will, and I also ask him to teach me how and what to pray for. The key here is developing your relationship with God. And I think the more that God teaches me how to pray, the better I come to know him and myself in relation to him. That is, my unworthiness is based in a number of things, but one of these things is a fear of God--which is a legitimate thing. Fear of his awesomeness, might, and his righteous judgment...very reasonable to fear such a God. It has historically been sort of daunting for me to stand in the presence of such might and ask for something...and hence the feelings of unworthiness. But I think--I think, not know--that God does want us to come to ask him for things, because this deepens the relationship and better teaches us who he is and who we are. If that makes sense to you at all.
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First, I will pray for you. \n\nKnowing that he is with her you will never be truly happy, unless you leave. I know it will be hard like you I have 3 kids. But I will never allow anyone to hurt me like that and to do it out in the open. You will survive as a Christian you know God will provide for you. Be strong don't take his shit, you are not a door mat so don't treat yourself as that.