What to do with an ex boyfriend who still thinks there is hope for a relationship?
409758
I think the best thing that Jen can do is just to be very direct and honest.  She needs to emphasize that it's over, and that she's in a new relationship.   She needs to tell Tim, that while it is nice that he still has strong feelings for her, she does not.  Make all of the points in a clear, factual matter.  Don't obscure or sugarcoat what needs to be said.\n\nTim is obviously having a very difficult time accepting the end of the relationship with Jen.  What he doesn't realize is how much his efforts are futile and that he should have moved on already.  He's missing out on other opportunities for a relationship!  Perhaps it might not be out of line to suggest that he seek some professional help about this.
280691
Like they say...don't know what ya got till it's gone..guess he's now realizing how great of a person  you are..this is a decision you have to make..you've been with your current boyfriend 2 1/2 years..do you really want to give all that up for something that may not work out..look in your heart and decide what you want and how you feel...if things are going good with your current man I'd just tell the ex sorry I've moved on and have someone...if your not happy then maybe you should give it a try but this is something  you should think long and hard about even pray about because it will be a life changing decision..the best of luck to you
812
Let him go.  If it's meant to be, he'll realize what an idiot he is and come back.  In the meantime, why should you sacrifice what you really want (a relationship) for someone else?  You deserve to be happy.  \n\nWhy are we women always so ready to sacrifice the possibility of loving, committed relationships with other people, just to stay with someone who is 'not sure' about us?  It's silly.  Go out and get what you want.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
985547
In time things will get better, but before then try and let go.  And if he comes back to you let him know that he has given up a real good thing.  Its going to hurt for now, but try and make this into a good experience and know that there is someone else out there for you.
559023
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
237848
I think your right.  I think you need to make a stand and force him to decide if he really wants a relationship with you or not.  You need to find out so you can move forward with your life and find happiness either with him or with out him.
668562
You will do what the rest of us do in a situation like that: \n\nhope that it will work because you want it to work and one day you will either (a) end up together (b) run out of hope. Both are good. What we do in the meantime until that moment comes hurts! It's beautiful but it hurts. The hope is irresistible, but the fact that he is NOT here by our side hurts horribly.
857334
You could just say that you think the relationship is not getting anywhere and that you feel that you need to move on and see other people because there are more fish in the sea.And maybe you guys could just be friends.If he takes it too hard then just try to fall back on the memories you used to have and give him a memorie book of the good times. If he throws it away then you tried.
106789
Back when I was an bad boy before I decided to settle down, I would say I wasn't ready to commit. What this really ment was I was after someone else and when that didn't work out I'd exploit my ex by keeping in contact as a back up plan. You can give him a chance but at the first sign of uncertinty I'd toss him cause it will just be a cycle of heartache if you don't
465214
It depends on who broke up with who but you could contact him, but just don't sound too desperate. Just act friendly, ask how he's doing and maybe you two can hang out at some point. Then let him make the next move.
497143
Just give it time. I had a situation like that happen to me. I dated a girl for 2 years and 3 days after we broke up, her best friend kinda threw herself at me. No one wants that right after a breakup. I would have dated her where she to give me some time, at least a few weeks before jumping into a relationship again. Just give him some space and be there for him, if there are feelings there it will happen. If his feelings are not the same you will have to settle for being friends. Hope this helps.
671831
realize that because you are not longer together, his opinions and perspectives no longer have any real effect on you.  Be confident and happy with yourself and who you are.  Don't worry about what he thinks.
741334
Well, since you already told him how sorry you are and everything... it is up to HIM to decide what to do next. You have to give him space so he can figure this out. If you keep trying to talk to him to fix it, it'll just push him away even more. Just give him time.\n\nIf it doesn't work out, it will be alright.\nGod has a plan for you. He will give you the one in His time.\n\nAll you can really do is learn from this experience and use it to build the future.\n\n\n\nWell.. if you think he may have been using you, don't you think you're better off WITHOUT him?
1017312
You know what they say about Opportunity not knocking twice, well now it did. You should first ask yourself, “Am I still in love with this guy?” and “Given the current situation of my life and his life, are we still compatible?” If you can answer these clearly, that you’ve forgiven him and that you understand why he dumped you in the first place, then by all means, go for it. If not, if things are still unclear, it still wouldn’t hurt to get in touch with him again. After all, you were best friends.\n\nGod would not give you situations you cannot handle, and if in this new process you get hurt again, or if things go wrong, then at least you can say to yourself that you’ve loved and lost, and join the millions of people out there who are so sick of love songs. But that is being pessimistic.\n\nIf we all become wise guys and say you can’t do this and you shouldn’t do that, then you would just become paranoid because there would be a gazillion rules on love and not getting hurt. If there was a specific rule to follow so that you won’t get hurt again, then why are there countless heartbroken people, and countless heartbreaking songs?\n\nThe bottom line is, even though you are one who would like things to become safe, perfect and happy, you should not hold yourself from things that you know would affect your life in a profound, meaningful way. You should ask yourself every now and then… “Why not?”\n\nIf things go wrong, this time, you can say your goodbyes, learn from it, and move on.\n\nIf things go right, then you just did what God wanted you to do. After all, when you feel that you are happy with what you did, it was meant to be.
594897
As I've learned on a question of my own, you cannot expect a real answer 'cause we don't know how you guys even broke up. We don't know who dumped who and how are things between you two now.\n\nThe truth is probably this, assuming that I have a real insight of the situation from your question: You are still a princess to him and he still finds you beautiful. But you are not HIS princess anymore. He surely does care.\n\nThe fact remains - he is trying to destroy your self confidence so you don't find somebody else. It is a cruel tactic, but the man still cares and he's out of ideas. Talk with him.
953374
im in the exact same situation but the fact is, you'll have good days with him and then other days when you realise that you 2 arent dating for a reason. he is still the same person, and he is the one who DUMPED YOU, find another guy, make him jealous and let him know that he cant have it. bc this is wat he is missing out on.\nthen if he falls in loves with you, this time he will mean it and then, only if you make him work REALLY hard to get you back and take you seriously and not like a toy, you might give him another chance.\nthen he will truely appriciate you and there is a lesser chance of you getting hurt again, but there is always a chance so becareful with your heart cuz u only get one!\nif things dnt work out, there are plenty other guys out there :)