being only 24. how do I meet a girl without going to the damn bar???
409709
At your church, ask friends' girlfriends to fix you up with a blind date, online dating services where they match you up with compatible people, take a course at night school and you will meet people.
35066
May I suggest stop searching, then THAT's when you might find her!\n\nJust meet people as friends, and see what develops.  I hope you have a mic, as voice is MUCH friendlier and quicker than typing.\n\nRather than "dating" or "matchmaking" sites, try that talkcity, or http://www.paltalk.com - places intended mainluy just to meet and make FRIENDS.  :-)
737760
I'm in the same boat as you... just use this time to re-center yourself.  Go out and just sit and have a beer by yourself.  Just sit and think.  A similar soul might approach you and share in your misery for a while.  Eventually, it will pass.  If you want a shortcut (which I'm not recommending); playing on a girl in a weak situation will make you feel powerful if a little guilty.  I am NOT advocating date rape of ANY SORT!  However, alot of guys are too nice for their own good and don't realize that a 24 year old woman is completely in control of her situation.  Smooth talking and being a player does not necessarily mean you are taking advantage of someone.  Girls like sex just as much as guys, and almost every girl worth her salt has some douchebag at home that they are on the rocks with.  In other words, go hook up with someone hot, by any means necessary short of physical force or breaking up a marriage.  It will boost your confidence in the short run, but don't forget the "re-centering your self" part.  It's the only way you will find true happiness.
509326
Look in the places where you enjoy going most.  If you like to workout, check out the gym.  if you like the beach, find someone there.  \n\nMy point, chances are you'll find someone who is compatible with similar interests rather than lusty bar flies.\n\nGood Luck!
1138114
Well it depends on what type of female you are trying to meet. There are many places to go. If you are looking for a conservative type female who doesn't go out much, you can try the library(like a Barnes and Nobles or book store), coffee shop, or mall.If you are looking for a more out-going female, then you have the clubs, pool halls, bowling alleys, and bars. Now it where you meet this female will also depend on how you will need to approach her. Believe it or not you can actually meet a female at the grocery store. Everyone has to go the grocery store for something. Of course, like before, you will just have to approach her different than you would a female at the club.Hopefully this may be of help...If need more explaination or help, do ask. I'm not an expert but just have experience.
465850
It isn't easy getting back into the dating scene but the good news is that it is possible.  Bookstores are a great starting place because you know that you already have that passion for reading in common with people there.  Start paying attention to who you see there and just like back in high school take time to simply say hi every time you see them.  Look into other interests that you have and how you can connect with similar people by pursuing those interests.  The Internet is actually not a bad place to look either though you do have to be careful and fight through all the idiots.  I would say that the Internet is a lot like the old bar scene where there were a hundred losers per every good person there.  Have faith, I survived to find love again and so will you.
29062
Go to the restaurant ahead of time and make sure to get the best table, tip if you have too. Doesn't hurt to get know someone there. That way if you have any table settings or special candles, you can serve it up before hand and surprise the girls. Then, After the dance, since you have already secured a room at a motel and stocked it with booze, you'll be all set to toss a few back, WITHOUT getting crocked, just get a nice warm glow for you and a drink, maybe two for the girl and set to chill. Ahh, memories.
3421
Its all about trial and error. I don't think there a particular way to find a "good girlfriend" And it also depends on what qualities you are looking for in a woman. \nI wouldn't suggest bar or night clubs. Rather try meeting people through activities that interest you, for example, if your into reading or books, you could join a book club, or if you enjoy fitness you can take a class. This way you are more likely to meet someone with similar interest as yours.
977695
No I don't think so. I think it is perfectly normal to want to seek someone who you can connect with. Life is very busy, with work, school, or kids, people don't have the time to invest in hoping to meet the right one at the grocery store. Is that more dignified? \nThe only thing you meet at bars is drunks.\nGood for you for  being proactive in  being  involved in your own destiny. He/she is not knocking at the door so why not go for it. You may come across a few lumps of coal but hopefully their is one diamond in the rough out there. Do what is right for you.
289393
If you have a chronic problem finding girlfriends, try lowering your standards.  I also find when I'm at a bar, I do a little better if I'm a bit drunnk, but not too drunk
294979
Yeah you can get girls easy by just going to a bar - but they might not be the best girls in the world.  Definitely decent ones are best met through friends.  You can also meet some at the gym - it's worked for me before.
133858
ha ha ha ... you just a dream boy :) ,, if you want meet sexy girl,, hang out and go to clubbing dude, not just stay in front of your computer and waiting message from someone with nice ID he he he\n\nLol
32904
it depends on how old you are. if you are 18-21 you could find someone partying.(if you are a party guy)it all depends on what type you are. or you could simply walk outside down the street and she could be right there waiting for you! you have just got to take chances and understand that it might not work but dont let that bring you down.
50741
First, & I don't want this to sound mean in the least, this is not the type of forum to find a mate. If you want to find someone via the Internet, you'll have much better luck with a dating service.\n\nSecond, again, not being mean, if you are looking for a quick fling, then your question (or lack thereof) will probably get you just that but you will also run the risk of a lot of borrowed problems as well. After all, how do you know that the person on the other end of the keyboard is who or what they say they are? True, in time you can find out but how are you going to handle it if you find that the person you've been talking to is one of the "old" people you mention?\n\nMy best suggestion for you is to get out there & get involved in some hobbies, whatever they might be. This will put you in an arena with like-minded people with whom you will already have something in common.\n\nStill, it sounds to me from your details that what you are really interested in is nothing more than a cute, young thing; sorry, but this is the way your details have come off to me. If this is the case, just hit the bars & you'll find someone to warm your bed. If you are looking for something more, however, you are severely limiting yourself by talking so much about younger ladies & calling those of or about your age "old". It would make me wonder why your marriage of 25 years ended...maybe you found her too old for you suddenly? If this happened to be the case, how do you think women will react to learning this?\n\nI'm not trying to be hurtful in any way; I'm trying to honestly explain to you how your above approach might look to women. Me? I'm very taken & you wouldn't be interested anyway since I'm 40 :)\n\nGood luck, whichever route you end up taking...
852363
Just pick up a girl in a bar!
145619
I had the same problem when I first moved here (Texas).  I came from Upstate New York, where guys are way more foreward---  people are more reserved here in that way, it seems.  Put yourself out there---  ask someone out for coffee, ask to meet for lunch, you know, little "safe" dates.  After a few of these, you should know yourself if this is a person you really want to date.  Don't do the bar scene dating---  you meet so many crazy, wild people who don't really want a relationship.  Another idea:  ask close friends or relatives to "set you up".  Or, you may try Yahoo! personals.  It sounds risky, and may be, but I met the most awesome man online 14 months ago and we have an incredible relatioship!
774028
lol....just be yourself...be confident!!! Like i said..it may take a while because I'm 23 years old, married and there are still things I shy away from. It happens but like i said..be confident. You don't need you friends to introduce you to there female friends if they don't want to. Introduce yourself...have a nice conversation and take it from there.  And it's good you don't use your car or money for the women. There are soo many women out there looking for a guy like you. Give it some time.