help with people pleasing syndrome?
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to please people, as long as it's not at your own expense.  you don't want to be a doormat, right? don't worry, it will probably cure itself because when people know you'll do anything for them, they'll use it as long as they possibly can (opportunists) and one day you'll probably just get fed up and know that you deserve more.  i would work on your self-image and books that have to do with confidence because i think that a lack of confidence leads to trying to please people constantly.  hope this helps!
430138
I've done some work with such people on a day to day basis  and, for what its worth, I found forgetting the problem and focusing on the person worked best! Find something that interests them, use that as a reward for less satisfying pursuits and don't think of them as a 'case' but as a fellow human being and treat them as such. (Token economies are useful too - earning tokens or counters for good behaviour which can later be exchanged for various 'treats', traded in for an outing etc).\n\nIt may take some time, but once they trust you they're likely to gradually open up and take an interest in what you think etc; then it becomes easier - 'pleasing' you can become a reward in itself and you can often get them to do things no one else has managed. (But be careful of sexual overtones etc., that can get problematic)
909004
Try not to be phony.\n\nFind other people likeable, and if you don't find someone likeable find something about him or her that is.\n\nBe thoughtful, friendly and nice.  If you think of something a little funny say it, and make someone laugh once in a while.\n\nBeing likeable involves not being nasty, mean, crummy, selfish, cruel, etc.  It isn't so much adding something to someone's personality.  It is making sure the negative stuff isn't there - and if it happens to be then you have to hide it.  Even if you try to hide the nasty stuff, though, people sense it.\n\nGenerally, most people who have "decent hearts" are likeable.  People just need to be themselves and make a little extra effort once in a while.
969996
awwww... listen to that song by CHRISTINA AGUILARA..."you are beautiful, no matter what they say..."\nthat's what I'm saying to you and that to not worry...you'll find that special somebody...=}
1119308
Put a smile on and go out. People are always attracted to smiles and if they are approaching you then you do not have to approach them.\nAlso remember always treat others how you want to be treated.
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1.  Avoid doing it online.  Your grammar and spelling are atrocious.  You'll only attract the morons.\n\n2.  Brush your hair and teeth, shower, shampoo, use deodorant (I'm not saying you don't; but if you don't, do!)\n\n3.  Ask about THEM.  Don't talk about yourself.  Everyone loves to talk about themselves to someone who cares.  Nothing is more flattering than a good listener.
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look after yourself, your teeth and hair. Keep your clothes clean and tidy. Be confident, smile a lot, try not to be depressed all the time, people like to be around people who are happy and confident.\nIt doesnt matter what you look like, if you make the best of what you have by keeping groomed and clean and being happy and confident people will feel drawn to you.
548481
Be polite!\nListen to their needs!\nGive rewards!
1039195
smile &treat people right
137259
Ok, hopefully, you're over 18 or I'm going to start feeling weird. Secondly, I think the softer the better. Not too soft and not too hard. I've kissed girls who made me feel like they were going to lick the insides of my intestine and I'm not into that. Tilt your head to the right a little bit and don't let your tongue out at least for a couple of seconds. Let your tongue go in the same direction that your partners is. Licking the other persons lips is pretty good. Gentle nibbling works. And close your eyes because I think open eyes kissing is creepy as all hell.
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That's rather vague...is there a situation that you're hoping to be charming in?\n\nI don't know...perhaps smiling a genuine smile a lot will help.  Being sweet.  Being involved in a conversation.  Genuinely caring about the people you are around.  Being genuinely interested in the people you are with...\n\nYou know, the recurring theme here seems to be "being genuine".  \n\nBe true to your self...be nice and courteous and you'll be 90% towards the "charming" goal you have.
511059
Behavior is everything.  Act like you like them, let them know they make you happy by smiling and getting strong eye contact with them.  They will likely pick up on it.
68043
Don't try to please everybody.  You can't.  Find a small group that shares your interests.  Start there.  Your friendships will grow.\n\n\nMany shallow friendships cannot equal a few deep ones.
694774
try helping them....get you off...tell them what you like, don't like....because if you don't tell them they won't know..so they will do it how they like it which may be not what you like.
277306
try to be more kind.show everybody how beautiful u r inside.
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Find beauty in the tiniest things - the wood grain on your old desk, the flowers you walk by every day, the pretty displays in store windows. Do some community service - just trust me on this one. Spend a little more time with people who make you feel valued. Watch your favorite movie over and over and over again. Laugh at something, or at nothing. Smile more often - I think smiling is supposed to do something great like release endorphins and make you feel good. Good Luck!
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Practice saying no.\nYou can't please everyone.