Remember Mr. and Mrs. Smith? my bf and i also have a communication gap like theirs. what should i do?
411647
Well, have you tried involving gun fire? Seriously though a communication gap can put a serious damper on your relationship. Find out why he isn't open with you. Most likely he fears that you will be either disappointed or disinterested so he tries to keep it away from you. Good luck with your problem.
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all you have to do is wait coz i too have this problem we are even 5 yrs ++...we both wanted to settle down but you should also cosider some things and make sure u are ready for it. maybe ur bf has still other priorities this time and maybe he is just preparing himself for the future..
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Sounds to me like you are in this relationship just to "have a boyfriend" As it turns out a bf/gf won't solve your problems instead (as you can see) they bring new or different ones. \n\nIf all you enjoy about this guy are his e-mails, letters, or long distance phone calls then just leave it at that. You don't have to put up with all the crappy stuff from this so-called relationship.\n\nA pen-pal may do just fine!
1016569
What did his mother do to you? I mean, come on. What kind of friends ditch you after your guy's ex told them not to talk to you? Drop those 'friends' that you had. You are dating a guy who is single. She's his EX, remind her that. \n\nYou're not doing anything wrong. Your college mates are just babies, so ignore them and find some other mature friends to hang out with. \n\nAfter all, your bf and you love each other and you're not doing anything wrong - who cares what the others think? You're not dating your bf to make them happy. You seriously don't have to care about them. Better friends will come along.\n\nGood luck!
318331
You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.
172038
you guys have been together for four years.  im sure that you can talk to him. you need to find out what's happening with him.
347825
You do not mention how old the both or you are, or how intimate your relationship is.  ( living together, etc).  However, it sounds like he is most certainly not mature enough to have a serious relationship, for if he was, he would know he is not "the first", and so would you.  Accepting that people came before the two of you, and not being intimidated or insecure about it, is a healthy sign of maturity towards a relationship.  You both should be able to converse about each other's past romances and in many cases should be able to remain friendly with those same people.  \nFrankly, should I be in your position I would carefully and honestly review your current relationship to see if it allows both of you to grow as people and as a couple.  If it does not, then it would be time to move on.  This really applies to both of you.  For your current boyfriend to be so insecure, given no baggage in his history, then there is something that you both as a couple are lacking in the relationship.\nThis is not about whose wrong or right, but rather about whether or not the two of you are really ready to be in a one-on-one serious relationship.  \nOne area that needs your attention... Do not threaten to break up, or leave.  After awhile, these words become empty and only serve to increase insecurity.  If you want to leave, just do it.  You owe no explantion to anyone unless you feel it necessary.
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If you live 3 states away, daily communication is unreasonable under the best of circumstances. This is probably wearing him down emotionally. I know that I get completely overwhelmed at times, especially by relationship issues, and just shut down. It doesn't mean I don't care; it just means I'm overwhelmed.
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If the relationship is important enough, and you're sure you want to try to fix it...try to fix it. Send an email...leave a voicemail message...send them a letter...above all- keep trying. :)
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how about any more details???... but like they say anything's possible... good luck with your bf... :)
1119108
something has happen, find out what it is, if it is work, school or family. if those are the reason, talk with one another. find time to meet. if not, it is time to maybe think of finding a new bf
99902
COMMUNICATION... Let him know what you want out of the relationship. After all, you don't want to waist your time,or his. Then again, who cares about his?
483757
Always talk to him. If you keep things inside and dont resolve, it might create misunderstandings. Be sure to listen to him to and to think positively together
303846
it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
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If you both still like one another than talk it out and fix what ever was wrong.\n\nHope this helps
304459
If both people are truly in love with each other and are able to effectively communicate with each other, then addressing this issue shouldn't cause any permanent hurt and could lead to a fun time of mutual exploration. Be honest with him and tell him what you like and let him know how much you like it when he does.
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sorry girl they are annoying no matter what ya do!!!  sounds like he feels insecure about the relationship, is there anything you can do to make him feel more secure?  Are you providing him with his love language?  ( what ever makes him feel most loved, etc., gifts, words of affirmation, or acts of service?)  if not try something, anything that will help him know you are still in love with him.