a guy rejected me saying that i do not deserve to know the reason for rejection. what should i do?
407806
I got the same treatment from my ex-girlfriend.  I think they just don't like you and can't come up with a really strong arguement for it.  In any case, you should move on.  In fact, if you lose all feelings for him and he sees you ignore him, he might actually become attracted to you again.  But you really should move on.
345581
I would feel ignored and rejected.  But maybe he just didn't see the message.  Or maybe the question was so clingy that he has to just pretend that he never saw it.  Seriously, don't ask guys questions like that, it just sounds desperate.
885272
don't feel bad... it's ok.  if he really wanted to work it out, he would've tried. don't blame urself..... he said himself he wasn't trying at all.  it's possible that u answered him later than he was expecting, but love is fickle.. timing is really important.. and love can quickly turn sour when u don't cultivate it.\n\njust try concentrating on school, studies, exercise, friends, family and everything else. make everything Positive, Healthy, and Happy in ur life, so u have a lot to offer to any guy...and u will know when someone is taking care of u the "right" way, not ignoring u... u know?  :)  ur not even saying u wouldn't take him back, ur  just saying that he wasn't giving u any attention. that's a valid reason to be upset, and he needs to listen. if he doesn't do his part to make u feel Secure, then it's partly his fault too!\n\ntake some time out and ignore... be nice, but don't beg him or cry or anything.. life is too short to worry about "shoulda woulda coulda".... if he wants to, he will respond. good luck
109394
What is wrong with that? You have to be ready for rejection but the guys have dealt with that forever. All he can tell you is no right?
897452
Well, you didn't mention how you reacted to his offer of buying you a drink.  He may feel you over reacted...it is not for me to say whether you did or not.  But being a guy myself, I am more inclined to believe that he really did want to buy you a drink and that you did not misunderstand him.  Perhaps he was embarrassed when you turned him down and now wants to make it look like it was your fault.  Now he sees he has no chance with you, he has turned into a jerk to make you go away.  Sounds like a loser anyways....good thing you found out before you invested much time and emotion into him.  I apologize on behalf of my gender...we are not all jerks, but many are.
757934
Well,  the only  thing  you  SHOULD do  is  very kindly and  gently explain to that person that you really  aren't  interested in a "relationship" right  now.      But, not only that,  there is another person in your life who is rather  "special" to you, and  when  you have got certain plans for the future sorted out a little more,  you are intending to  ask  that  person to share them.    That  way, this unattractive person who is attracted to YOU,  will not be given any reason to think  that it is his or her looks that are  the  reason for your rejection.     Being  gracious should be  your primary concern,  and  a  little  kindness  far  outweighs  the  fact that you  would  have had to tell a  little  white lie.
291787
Just have a talk with him and tell him the truth.  He would appreciate that instead of him thinking that you'd rejected him because you didn't like him.  Tell him that you have your own issues to deal with first.
278561
you may have lead him on while you were testing the waters.\ntelling someone you need to chill out and not want to see them is two totally different things you should say what you mean and mean what you say.\nwhat you should do is have a serious disscussion telling him exactly how you feel.
437459
wow. what a jerk.  he's so not worth your time!\nit sounds to me like he was leading you on.. i dont know if that's the case, but i think you should find another amazing guy who will actually acknowledge ur presence!
1064318
if he did not like you, he would not make that comment. He is putting a filler out to see if you cool or are you going to shoot him down. You should reply, in a flirtatious manner to let him know you are game!
288250
THERE IS A REASON HE DID NOT TELL YOU ANYTHING. SO RESPECT THAT AND WAIT FOR HIM TO COME AROUND. HE WILL TELL YOU WHEN HE FEELS IT IS THE RIGHT TIME.
281826
explain to him why u blocked him out and assure him that it wont  happen again and over ask him what up he might just be trying to let u know how it felt when u shut him out
984133
I would wait until he tells you first b/c if he doesn't say it back then you will feel rejected.
863196
You sound like your trying not to hurt this person by rejecting him, my dear, there are many ways you can be nice about rejection,  be considerate, dont be rude about it, smile when your rejecting him, but for goodness sake, be honest. As for the friend, depending on how close friends they are, I think I would leave going out with him for awhile, but explain this also to him, let him know that you feel at this time it would inconsiderate to his friend.  Maybe they dont discuss things because I would have thought if they are real friends, they would have discussed that either one was asking you out. That way if they are setting you up, in other words, sometimes men, boys, make stupid bets with each other to see who can conquer you first, it will also let them both know, you are not an easy target, but anyway, be friendly and pleasant to both of them, but be on your guard also.  Good Luck
386880
Sorry, to say, yes.  He just didn't have the courtesy or nerve to tell you.  Many, many guys take the cowards way out when they leave to explore what they see as greener pastures.  He has apparently found someone new and just left you behind.  It was callous and cruel but also very typical.  Find someone who deserves you!  Good luck!
924544
I don't think  this guy would shoot at you for turning him down.  I think he would shoot at you for leading him on.  He asked if you're guy and you said no; that should be enough for him.
1169275
Judging by the fact that you ask yourself now if he was nice or not, yes, you should have said no. But see this as a lifelesson and be more carefull next time.