How can you love someone, but all you have on your mind is your ex-boyfriend?
411782
as long as your mind is on him and nothing else. if you still have feelings for him or is it just that you were together for a long time and feel more comfortable with your old boyfriend. try to do the same things with the new guy so you will feel comfortable with him/
702578
You are an unusual person!!!\n\nIt's ok to still have some kind of feelings for the ex. But for 5 months you have been living a lie w/ you bf? Why do you do that to him?\n\nYou have been cheated by the boyfriend, and the friend.\nI would move on with someone who would make me forget that pig who cheated on me.It's not fair that you stay with the current bf if you think you still love the ex.\nMaybe he's not the one for you either.\nSorry, but true.Cuz in my own experience, I felt bad for a while for the ex. But the new one made me forget, pretty quick!!!!!
415484
No matter what anyone tries telling you.. its always going to be hard to get over someone after being with them for six years. But I think that your best bet is just to try and go out to do things that will get him off of your mind. Spend as much time with your friends as you can... keep busy! No matter what you do it will always hurt though. You just have to be strong and not give in to him if he does start to call.. because thats just letting him know that he can use you over and over. Dont let him know you're bothered by it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything goes in your favor.
558833
First, you have to have self control and set boundaries. Mention about your current boyfriend, if possible, have him join the camp as well, if not, call him at least once a day to help you focus on him. Try not to get into the same group as your ex, dont share too much details about your current life, that will get you emotionally too involved with him. That's how I used to handle it when my ex and I went to a retreat site and I had a bf.
610723
you don't do nothing, case closed, if you have moved on, and you have no feelings for your ex, leave it alone. you can't help who likes you in your lifetime, just don't do nothing to act on anything that will mess up your current relationship.
479643
If you love the other guy, stay with him! An ex should always be forgotten. But I don't blame you for feeling a little cheated on. You'll get over it if you love the boyfriend you're with at the moment.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
402292
i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
409662
DANG THAT'S A TOUGH ONE ; i KN0 i ASKED MYSELF THE SAME THiNG EVRYDAi ; BUT iT TAKES TiME - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SOME MEMORi OF HiM - BUT iT GOES AWAi SLOW - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SUM FEELiNG FOR HiM BECAUSE iT WAS LOVE ND LOVE NEVER GOES AWAi EVEN A LITTLE - SO JUST TRi TO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE TO HELP U GET OVER HiM ; iT MiTE HELP ; OR DO THiNGS TO GET UR MiND OFF OF HiM -- iT HELPD WiT MEH .. SOO YEA
1008405
If you still have feelings for an ex, don't lead the person you are with on, it maybe early days with this new someone and its only natural to think of past loves when you start seeing someone new.But it is also important to not let any emotional baggage get in the way of a new relationship. Try and distance yourself from your last relationship, don't make comparison's. You owe it to yourself to take thing's slowly really get to know this person you are with who could be an absolute gem.
545326
Hey,\nI've been in this situation b4. The best thing to do is to give yourself some breathing space . Take your mind of this. Try to relax and distract yourself. If you feel that strongly bout your ex, the best thing to do - confess it 2 him. Maybe he feels the same way. Maybe he's just not wearing his feelings. Always b optimistic. The glass is half full........... Frm wat i have read u r  strongly in love with this guy.........express it! Best of luck
346737
You probably cant.  Just keep a few things in mind when considering it.  First of all there is a chance they are still in love and may always be.  Second of all, they are with you now and make that time special and make them remember who you are. \n\nYou may not be able to stop them from loving their ex forever but they may love you.  Loving someone doesnt mean you would go back with them ever.\n\n  If they dont share kids with their ex and they spend lots of time with them stating they want to be friends, I would be concerned, but that is not a sure-fire way to assume.  Besides to assume makes an asse out of U & me.
324938
Girl I hear ya! I am in the same boat, my ex did me very wrong, but yet I still find myself drawn to him like he is some kinda evil magnet. But you know what I do to keep myself from not getting too attached again..remember how bad he made me hurt amnd then I listen to one of the many song I listened to when we broke up and then I realize he's not good enough for me, either is ur ex!
212286
How do you feel when you are away from this person?  What are the qualities you like about him?  Are they the inside ones or the physical ones?  When you have truly found love you will always want to be with that person.  They will be everything you ever dreamed, and of course they will still have flaws, but you will be able to overlook them.  If you are still thinking about the first guy what is it about him that keeps you thinking about him?  Does the new guy have those qualities?  Just some questions for you to ask yourself.  I hope that helps!
286110
You still have unresolved issues. No matter what the circumstances, when we leave things undone or unsaid we keep reliving those moments. You can truly love a person even though they didn't treat you well or love you back. I don't know why we do this either, but don't let your past ruin your future. If you need closure from your ex then by all means get it. Good Luck.
36851
get a new boyfriend. then don't look back. there's a reason why he's an ex.
154320
truthfully your ex's never get over you entirely. in any relationship with a true connection there will always be something that reminds you of why you were together. even in bad breakups and relationships you never really get over it you just find something or someone else that lets it fade away but i know when im reminded by someone of when we were "together" my mind rambles on about them for a while.  you just can tell when they have gotten over you enough to feel comfortable around you without wanting or wandering why everything is the way it is now. hopefully you will remain friends. then you cant say you lost anything.