How do I break up with my boyfriend of two years with minimal pain for either of us?
413803
LOL, good one...\n\nI would say, just stop showering...
176747
i had the same. Just dump him. It relieves alot of your shoulders believe me. I wouldn't stay with him if you both believe that you are not good together other wise it will be worse when you spend ages together.
363921
Break up with him and listen to your mom.
1074876
There is no easy way to do this. I wonder though, if you love him so much, why break up? Consider your reasons and then be straight and honest with him. Then go your own way. Good luck with this.
497431
Go to him when you two have not been fighting and when he is relaxed and tell him exactly what you have asked here on Yahoo answers. Don't try to make it sound like it's nothing so that you two will not end up fighting. Let him know you are not sure how much more of this you can take. Also be ready to tell him exactly what you need from him, or ways that he can make this relastionship work. And lastly, be ready to do exactly what you say you are going to do if he can't give you what you need... Leave Him! When he realizes that he has lost a good thing he will come running back ready to do whatever it takes to make you stay. Or you will find someone else who will respect you and love you the way you need to be treated. Pray about this little sister and good luck.
321466
You need to follow your heart, first and foremost.  From what you are saying, it sounds to me like you and your boyfriend are already done, but you just dont have the guts to end it.  The sooner you do end it the better it will be.  Dont keep putting yourself and him through the pain, just tell him that it is not working for you anymore.  You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you will be with the 30 yr old so I say go for it!
514617
Well.....definately you have to do it in person, trust me....I'm not ashamed to say that I've been dumped through the phone, and trust me that hurts like a b**ch!\n\nWell, there isn't a way to break up with someone without hurting them, if they care about you of course they're going to get hurt, but they'll understand, if you give them good reasons for wanting to break up, and if you're dealing with an understanding person, I'm sure he or she will understand! Just try to talk to the person and be completely honest! Think of a way you would like someone to break up with you and try to follow it with the person you want to dump, you know what I mean? Well, anyway, just try to be sincere and try to be soft, you know? I hope that helped you! Good Luck!
1033069
If you've been dating for 2 years, it's easy to get into a routine. It's time to stop and really think about your relationship and whether it is holding you back or acting as a positive in your life. \n\nIt sounds like you guys have been through some rough spots, but before you break up with her, I think you need to ask yourself whether you think the good outweighs the bad. \n\nAsk yourself...\n1. What are the good and bad things about your relationship? Make a list.\n2. For each of the bad things, what are you currently doing to resolve the issue? Is there something you could try? Do you think that she would work together with you to resolve it? If you do not think there is a solution for the issue, are you ok with that being a permanent part of your life?\n3. Are both of you guys heading in the same life direction? Do you have the same goals? Is she "The One" ?\n\nI think once you think through these things, you will be in a better place to decide what the next step is. Relationships take up a lot of energy and time that you could be devoting to other, more positive things - friends, family, etc. etc. Make sure that this girl is a positive in your life. \n\nIf you think that it's just not possible to fix the rough spots, you should tell her that you guys have grown apart and that you need to go your own way. It's going to be tough, but you will be a happier, stronger person in the end. You should be with someone who respects you and loves you. Don't settle for less.
4813
I just brok up with my bf... and I just told him straight up. Just say something like " I have a few things on my mind that I need to tell you with out interuptions..." And tell her what your are unhappy with and then when you are done say something like " Our relationship is not tight like it used to be and I think we should break up. Iff we are meant to be together we will be. If you are supposed to be with me you will come back to me but if not you were never really mine."
876970
Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and try to move on.  I know it's probably the hardest thing you could possibly do right now, but the longer you let it drag on, the harder it will be.  In the end, a clean break is the best and easiest way.  Eventually you'll get over it.\n\nGood luck.
864068
you know what to do but afraid to take the first step because he might hurt you again physically... why not consult with a legal counsel and ask him the best way to get out with the relationship. you have to be strong to face the consequences that would save your life and pride as a person. Good luck ;-)
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
1180972
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
617122
Think of it this way, be comforted in the fact that u love eachother. Neither of u would want the other to be suffering. So u have to lead a full life where u r. Keep in contact if it makes you feel better, but sometimes its not the best for some couples. Just remember that anguish and suffering will get you nowhere, and it would hurt him to see u hurt.
388353
i know it's tempting to hurt him like that, but you will regret it in the future. just tell him you're leaving him and don't go into details.
1136
You just end it. It really doesn´t matter why, the point is: you don´t want it anymore and it´s enough. Break up with the person, cry and be sad the time you need and then, be happy again :-)
525365
If he's super nice, why do you want to break up with him?  Make sure you're 100% sure.  After you're positive you want to break up with him, the best way would be to tell him straioght out.  he probably wouldn't appreciate games.  You might break his heart, but it's better than staying with him and being miserable while he tries frantically to find out what's wrong.