do ex husbands treat their new wives better than the first? Or do they end up doing all the same things.?
399486
they treat the new wives better because they know that they screwed up the first time and don't want to have to pay for another divorce!
543434
Having been on both sides of the "ex" fence, I can say with assurance that some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with can be with someone after her, and some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with was with someone before her. (Men do it too, it isn't a gender issue, it is a maturity issue.)I was married to a man who currently has a show on A&E! I have to listen to his "woman" tell lies and take credit for my children, and guess what....I hate it. On the other side, I have an ex-boyfriend whose current whateversheis  feels duty-bound to berate me for my conduct in situations that she was not privy to. All I can say for sure is that ultimately, YOU are responsible for YOUR conduct, and while losing your patience is understandable, it is probably better to always take the high road. Additionally, as an often attacked, but never bested ex, I can say without exception that a soft answer always turns away wrath, and ignoring small children(or adults acting like two-year olds) tends to put a stop to immature behavior. (On the practical side, a good log to document another's constant bad behavior goes a long way in court and should always be used.)
822052
All of the women i have dated i have treated with respect; which is why i am now in a successful marriage. :o)\n\nI treat other women with respect unless they show they don't deserve it.
293061
yes I love it too  ! it does kind of make you wonder , since he did show up... after she left...but , he chose to stay with his wife ,  so I would guess no he didn't choose her, he came there to tell her his decision to stay with his wife...if he had come to chose her, his choice would have remained...  in the end he will be back with her anyway...its only a matter of time.... but its enough to drive us crazy in the meantime ! lol..
217765
Why are you help your ex wife???
67388
I am a step parent myself, along with my husband.  The both of us had children from previous marriages.  My husband treats and cares for my (our) children as well as I do his (ours)  We have custody of all of our children.  We actually took custody of his from their mother because a judge decided that our home was the best place for them.  In my eyes, they are MY children.  I feed them, I wash their clothes, I sit up with them when they are sick, I take them to their sporting events and school activities, which is more than their natural mother does for them.  And my husband the same...the father of my oldest daughter didnt show up to any of her school activities until my husband started going with me...my ex-husbands family had to throw it in his face that her step father went to watch her and her own father didnt.  So in my opinion, YES, a step parent is a family member!
854484
If I had respected him before why would my opinion change? As long as all of his wives agreed and knew what they were getting into, and as long as he treated them all well and they felt emotionally happy, and as long as he supported them and gave them what they wanted and needed- then who am I to judge.  It happens much more often than we think.  \nIn some religions it is okay to have more than one wife--- even in Islam- -yet God warns in Islam "It is better for you to have only One wife... if only you knew."  My opinion of the man would not change.
284594
Its their ego being hurt when they see that their ex can be happy with another man!\n\nI won't allow my ex to have anything to do with my newfound love. I won't accept the reasoning that he is JUST CONCERNED because if he is concerned at all, our relationship should still be intact. Whatever I do with my life after him is none of his business anymore.\n\nJust the same if I see him happy with another woman, I will respect that. PERIOD.
439694
probably because she is thinking that she wont be able to do the same things when shes married that what she did before. Example: GUYS!!
261588
Yes - my ex-husband hit me three times during our marriage.  I was raised in a peaceful houselhold, so the first time he did it it caught me completely by surprise.  However, I realised that I didn't want my young son to think this was the normal way men should treat women, so I divorced him.  He's on his fourth relationship now.\n\nI married again 23 years ago.  When you are a victim of domestic violence (and mine was pretty slight compared to some stories here) it toughens you up not to accept it again, so the first time we had a row and my then fairly new husband raised his hand to hit me, I told him ' if that connects, we disconnect.'  And I meant it - and he knew I did.  We're very happy together now!
457289
obviously the first wife wasn't suitable. because if she was y'all wouldn't had got a divorce... so the first wife is right.. but the second wife could be jealous or envious of the history you have with the first wife... that happens...just tell them to cut it out.. and act like adults... and go on with your life with your present wife... okay.
455377
Hey now !! Not all Men are that way.. LOL. Sorry to hear your soon to be ex-husband is being a penishead in this case, and the women he's seeing sounds like a real penisleech out to get what you have, don't worry he really screwed up and I think he knows it too. men cheat for one reason because they don't give a rats a*s about them selves and have no Self respect for anyone but the crap they think they can pull on the women they're with, Hey wait a minute now I'm a guy too. LOL ! but I'm older and wiser too and I'm no stud like most of these guys in the state of Oklahoma think they are ! believe me there's women out there  that play these guys for what they have and when they are divorce is final they want nothing at all to do with the guy in the end and they end up crawling back wanting to start over again until another girl comes along thinking she can give him a better deal too.. this is  funny !!! because these guys think women are all over them for looks, LMAO.. Good luck and let the games begin because he's on the looser side, and you have the winning hand !!!
1181298
I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
126737
Been there twice and the best thing is to be the BETTER WOMAN, if it gets to you just go with the flow,when i did this with my husband's ex it got to her and she made a fool of her self and the best thing for me since I am the BETTER WOMAN both my husband and my mother in law were very proud of me.. And she did this twice once on the street and then at my husband's funeral. Talk about no class... Show her your the BEST.....
491649
After having been married for 9 years, I also have this problem.  I got used to my husband, I was familiar with all his good points as well as his bad.  After going through the pain of a divorce its hard to trust again and to allow yourself to know someone as intimately as you did your former spouse; as well as to let someone in on who you are deep inside...  you did it once, and look where it got you...\n\nI understand.  Maybe one day we'll be healed emotionally enough to test the waters once more.  Trust is a hard thing to come by and a hard thing to give someone else.
793307
yes, me...have two sons, both grown, both great guys and am very close to both of them (both straight, but it is not their fault, they were born that way). Ex wife and I are still very good friends to this day. She is happily remarried long ago, I am happy. Win-win situation after the turmoil settled down. Good luck