how do i hold my temper down when i see that my boyfriend has other girls textin him ?
398693
alright, first im going to say your not going to like my response.  But it is the honest truth.  Ill tell you right now your relationship isnt going to last.  If he doesnt respect you and gives these other girls his number, then it would give you a heads up.  Obviously they text him because he doesnt want to be on the phone with them when your around or what not.  Listen, he might as well be talking to them, because he is.  A man who can text other women but you cant say hi in the hall way is someone who will end up controling you.  I am 23 years old, i have been there done that.  You need to understand that you are someone too.  If he is allowed to text and you cant say Hi should be a HUGE hint as to whats really up.  ALSO!! a man who gets pissed when you talk to other men... is talking to other women, I DONT CARE WHAT ANYONE SAYS!  If a man accuses you of cheating when you have given him no reason to believe you are means he is doing it himself.  So therefore, if he gets pissed when you say Hi to other boys, he is talkin to other girls.  There is MUCH better out there for you....\n\n\nSECOND!!!\n\nIf you consider yourself "jail bait" with him, that should also give you a hint that he isnt after women is own age because men want possessions... Honestly You will probably disregard this but in a month to two down the road, your going to be wanting to give me best answer.  You need to take a second to get away, go out by yourself, take a bath, get out for a few minutes and think about things.  \n\nGood Luck,\nBest wishes\nJ
1036579
Sadly there is not much you can do to cool him down or even prevent an episode of rage in him.  If you want to cope so you don't end up terminating the relationship all you have to do is when you sense his temper tantrums coming, leave immediately if possible.  Simply refuse to be around him because you know that his negative attitude will affect you...I'm sure it always does.  And if his temper is as quick as you say, then you may just be running away from him more than you stay around him, but that is the only thing that can keep you safe from his poison.
637767
So you've been going out with that cute guy in the year above for almost a month! his name is scribbled on all of your text books, you know his phone number off by heart, you carry a photo of him in your purse,but, alas it didn't last ..you feel very emotional and confused- you're angry at him but still fancy him to bits! you wanna cry but you wanna scream too. every single song on the radio reminds you of him!\nnow STOP! lets think about this- \ndo you really want to spend your life stuck in your bedroom, listening to love songs and crying for him?\nNO! you need some serious me-time, instead of wasting your time on him!\nso slap on a face mask, get out your dairy milk and put on some loud rock music that you can bounce around to and help take out your anger!\nyou're better off without him! why concentrate on a shark when there are loads of little nemos out there who would be a much better replacement! get out, make some friends and enjoy yourself! revise your flirting skills and you're knock em dead!
395151
He's waisting your time and so are you!  If he is living with another girl, and he left you for her, you're never going to be able to forgive him for it.  So if I were you, just tell him that you're not in the mood to be playing games.  Dont call him, dont answer his calls, and dont try to meet up with him anywhere.  Hes playing a game with you and if you let him win, then what else to you have to look forward to?  You need to be strong and stand up for yourself?  do you like to be pushed and toyed around?  Didn't think so!  Honey, there are plenty of wonderful men out there, this one is not the last and only one for you!  Just give it time, and good things will come to you!  And the best part is, it will come to you when you least expect it! take care Sweetie!
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
677141
You have a right to be pissed.  Make it clear if he is planning on talking to this girl again he better tell you first and it better be for a good reason.  Unfortunately I know how close a group of old friends can be and if he isn't lying then what he did isn't that bad except he should have told you first.  Beyond that your only other option is leaving him but if everything else is good in your relationship that seems like a pretty silly step.
452632
You need to loosen his leash!  It's perfectly OK for your BF to talk to other girls.  It's the actions that you need to be concerned about.
422387
Read ME:\nTell him that he doesn't need to get you jealous because he has you already. he needs to stop playing games because it bothers you. just tell him how you feel, and hopefully he'll stop. but don't get in to a serious convo about your feelings. just say you don't like him trying to get you jealous.
837782
You didn't state your age, but...\n\nSince your boyfriend has a girlfriend (you), he has been "tested and proven."  Meaning he has something going on and is dateable.  Plus, people often seem to want what they can't have.  If he hasn't shown signs of being unfaithful, then best to not worry too much about it.  It will only keep burning at you inside until you become angry and resentful.  Then your boyfriend might start taking a more serious look at these other girls.
732485
you have given him plenty of chances to show that he no good for  and you have a right to be jealous and that girl is not just his friend. if he was in a committed relationship with you he has no need exchange numbers with another girl. open your eyes baby, you deserve better.
263317
I would be pissed dude ! i think its really disrespectfull for her to do that infront of u! and dont listen to those other people sayin to find someone new. if your girl really loves/likes u she will respect your feelings and not discuss others mens privites in front of u! she should respect u and if she cant then i would find a nice gal who does! good luck hun!
708665
i guess you can tell your boyfriend about what you feel, afterall if you cant tell him what's bothering you what else can you tell? he might laugh and tell you that you are too sensitive but well then you know he's not taking you seriously and might just taking you for granted. its not wrong for you to dislike her, we all do, i'm sure there are atleast few people we hate in our life, so dont think too much about that. Just discuss with him and see how he respond to it, be serious and let him know you are concern with this issue, settle it so the next time the same problem occur its easier for you to react. Good luck
35734
listen sweetie...\n\ni don't want to upset you or anything, but i've had experience with this issue.  what you're talking about is not really fighting.  it's called jealous and controlling.\n\nyou and your boyfriend aren't really fighting.  he is getting very angry and accusing you of things that he has made up in his head.  you are trying to cool the situation down while trying to defend yourself, all while trying to make sure that he knows that you love him.\n\ni don't know how long you've been going out with him and i don't know how angry he gets.  but on the real, you should tell him straight out that he has to stop and you won't take it if he continues.  if he does continue, you should leave him.  i know it sounds harsh, but trust me, however bad it is now... it will get worse... and worse... and worse.
370251
Girl, you have every right to be peeved!  First of all your man shouldn't have friends that are girls, specially these ones you are describing!  Nip that right in the bud.  This is your house, and your relationship!  Don't be anyones door mat..and yes start answering the phone!  Identify yourself too for example say something like this"hello who is this?"and whether they answer back right away say"this is his girlfriend, whats up"  Respect and love yourself first!
449193
Well, its really okay for you to text other guys. As long that you know that your boyfriend can and will be one for u, i'm sure your relationship wif the other guys will be nothing be more than platonic. Don't worry... Its okay as long as u know for sure that ur boyfriend is the ONE for u. Having a social life is healthy. =)
845249
Texting another girl does not sound like cheating. The text he is sending would determine if he is cheating.\n\nTake care,\nTroy
212987
Talk to him about. You have to COMMUNICATE with the other person involved in your relationship. But I would give him the benefit of the the doubt with this one, it's kind of stupid to give another girl your number when you're physically with your girlfriend.\n\nIf this crap continues, confront him.