How can I stop wondering about other men when I have a perfect boyfriend?
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Your question makes me wonder if there are really differences between men and women and the way we think?\n\nOkay I've been married to the same blond haird girl for the past twenty years. we still carry on like newly weds.\nNever cheated on her never wanted too.\n\nBut I still look and still wonder what if?\nI think were all wired that way.\nbut at the end of the day and it's time to find something soft to cuddle with\nWell for me there's only ever been one person to go home with!
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So, maybe you get on better with men than women. You know you don't want to date these guys. Your boyfriend feels that you are comparing and analysing his behaviour with these other guys. Because they are guys. Sure, the reality is that if you ever told them anything personal, they would hang up on you, too much information, don't want to hear this! But he doesn't know that.\n\nI don't know you, but I do know incredibly loyal women who still miss one guy they really loved, and who have male friends but would not dream of marrying or living with them. Their male friends don't want to get married but fancy them, and love their company & texts & email - it's enough for them. Is that all you want? \n\nThe women feel totally safer having an escort to scare off other men, because they really don't want another date to become a boyfriend.\n\nAnd one woman I don't know well, but have known for five years, giggles to me every time I see her that she is Flattered that her exes still text her and want to stay in touch. If they meet her, she ignores them. She tells me that this is because they don't earn more than £50k a year... \n\nYour boyfriend might think you are like her. He does know that your other male friends fancy you still, and are competing with him. It's between him and them - until he seriously proposes that your relationship is strong enough to survive living together or marrying. But who would do that if one person is going to be such a girlie that she texts all your shared secrets to his rivals? He's assuming that you don't tell your Mom or sisters everything about him. He's assuming that he can be himself with you. But he has no right to tell you how to communicate, or who to communicate with. \n\nAll the same, if he could talk to you, which he can't, because he thinks you are a total gossip, what would he ask you?\n \nWhat do you think he says about you to his exes? Maybe he doesn't keep in contact with them, because he's with you. \n\nMaybe you are going to text an ex and ask if this is true. \n\nMaybe you need to write off those two years; or ask him out for a meal and seriously talk about the next few years. When I say ask him out, I mean that you should make it clear that you are paying for this - for both of you - in a good place - where your exes don't work - out of town - and stay over. \n\nWhen you are eating, you should listen to what he has to say. Talking doesn't count. You should also switch off your cellphone and put it aside on the table, and be obvious about that. \n\nIf he has nothing to say, listen until he does. It might be worth hearing. If not, not, but what's one night of your life as against several years of playing one guy off against another?
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You can feel alone even when you are with someone. More than likely you are more mature than the guys you have been running into and have more of an intellect. When the right guy comes along he will notice you. Besides you may find if you go out with some of these guys you mentioned, that they are very shallow and have no real personality. You don't really want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. I would not let not having a boyfriend bother you. In fact, I would use the time you spend by yourself to allow you to become more independent. This may sound corny, but if you can be a friend to yourself and be happy being by yourself when the right guy comes along, he will see your self-confidence and that you know who you are on the inside, and your relationship with that special guy will last for a lifetime. When you run into that special guy on your journey through life, trust me, you will sparkle.
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First get to know yourself and realize that you are a great catch for any man. The reason you do this first is, if you don't you will only find Mr. Wrong.\n\nAfter this step is completed it is time for the hunt. This might sound crazy, but it's the best way to find a good man. When you go hunting do not hunt for a boyfriend, but instead hunt for friends. Again same motto anybody would be lucky to be my friend. After you have some really good friends the rest will just happen. Whether it be with one of your new friends or one of thier friends.\n\nThere is actually other ways I can tell you, but my time is running short, so you can find other of my answers by looking at my answers to previous questions exactly like this one.
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Instead of trying to figure out what's going on in his head, try to determine what's going on in YOURS.  Obviously, you are interested in him, but do you want to be with someone that reserved?  He hasn't provided any support for you emotionally, yet, so my best advice is date other guys while this one is making up his mind about you.  Dating other men may make you more attractive and will certainly help your self esteem!  Good luck!
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stop talking to other men while your with him.
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I dont think there s anything wrong with that. you maybe feel from now and then that u need someone with u but what ur doin is good in a way for you so that u dont get hurt again.. Just wait for that perfect guy, dunno maybe the guy ull settle down with. Just think in a way that u wont get hurt. dont care abt wut ppl say, the important thing is that u know that u dont mean anythin bad by doin this to guys. Just take it easy.
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Find yourself another guy to obsess about
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Don't loose your hope. Second, stop looking for him. Try to meet men without hoping them to be available or Mr, Right. \n\nIf you expect to find Mr, Right you never will. None of us are perfect.\n\nSecond, don't worry if they're taken. Relationships aren't forever, people break up, get divorced and die, so there are good people becoming single all the time.\n\nRelax and it will get to you once you've stopped looking.
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You will have better luck finding a boyfriend when you stop looking for one.\nJust be happy and don't worry about someone finding you.\nIf you're happy he will find you.
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I guess it depends on how much dignity and self-respect you have.  If it is okay with you that your significant other is not faith-full, then be with him while he is with other girls and don't complain.  Otherwise, move on and find someone worthy of your love and attention.   Why is it that us women invest so much time in worthless men?  I'm just betting that you are a beautiful, intelligent woman that could find a wonderful, caring and fun guy to be with.
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The best boyfriends are not the ones that you find but the ones that find you!  Your question sounds sincere and if you just be yourself...when you least expect it...he will be there.
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Tell all your friends that you would like to find a good man to date. Every woman in the world knows at least a dozen good, single men that would "be perfect for you!" Of course, I'm exaggerating a bit, but the principle is "to let people know that you're available, should you get asked out." Tell your family(you know they want the best for you).Be observant when you go to the grocery store.....I'll bet you know at least one guy right now that really "trips your trigger"....find out if he's single. If so, then, start up a conversation,  about, preferably manly things, like, "my car sounds funny", or, "I have a cabinet door that sticks".......see where it goes from there! You MIGHT be surprised!! Good Luck...........there's a lot of decent, lonely men out there, just waiting on a nice lady like you.
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Well if you guys say you are the perfect couple you wouldnt be paranoid and if you trust him enough than you know hes not cheating but if you wanna know so badly just ask him whats going on exactly between you and me cause im being serious about us how about you and go from there you wont feel paranoid and just tell him whats making you paranoid like the girl with the books never know he may be just being nice but hes still showing you two off as a couple to all the other girls and guys so what hes comfortable with them looking at you why not him and other girls it may be difficult but at times you have to get use to it and get over it
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Well, it seems like you really have a dilemia on your hands, since your earlier questions indicate you may be pregnant as well, and feel like you are too young for all of this grown up stuff.\n\nMy suggestion to you?.. Take a break, slow down, figure out what you do want in life that will give you satisfaction, and trust me when I say, this boy is not it.  Any one who cheats with you isn't worthy of your love, your trust, or your dignity.  And you may think he is worthy until he leaves you for another the exact way he is cheating on the person he's committed to with you, then you'll be back on here asking us how to get over him.\n\nYou don't LOVE him, you are infatuated with him, you think he's the coolest person you've ever met, SO GET OUT THERE AND MEET MORE PEOPLE, because if this guy is the best there is for you, then you haven't met enough people to have a good comparison, there are plenty of guys that don't cheat that you could have for your own.\n\nI will never understand anyone willing to share their man with another.. and still think that's LOVE..??
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girl, this is an easy one.  the best way to get over the one you are hooked on is to get another one!  don't you know men come a dime a dozen just as they say we do.  trust me baby move on to something bigger and better and you will soon forget about that jerk.
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Maybe you're not ready to be in a one-on-one relationship with just one guy. It could be because your bf is not everything u r looking 4 so u find urself attracted to other guys. Maybe u should try the single game 4 a while and see if u meet the guy that makes u forget about the others and what they have to offer.