my girlfriend is bipolar  and she is trying to change my ways and she wants to be around me everyday 24/7?
412321
Your girlfriend needs treatment and it is probably too much for you to handle to be in a relationship like this (you didnt say your age).
596614
You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
284627
Try counseling first if you want to stay together.  If she can't quit leave her unless you like it.
862268
I think she is just taking advantage of a very good thing.  If she's only contacting you on rare occasions (when SHE needs something) that should be a clue. It sounds to me like she only keeps you around to keep herself happy and doesn't take you seriously enough to dump her other "male company" and get with you "full time" because she thinks you're just a friend (or..... something.......) I am sorry that someone would treat you this way.  Truly I think you deserve so much better - someone who can appreciate your gifts and dinners for all they're worth and return the favor.
299922
be there for her. be patient. we can't help our mood swings, we just need support. she doesn't really hate you.
303485
You are a very strong and kind person and I wish you all the best of luck with your gf.\nMy friend is a manic depressive and her partner has been with her for 5 years now. He loves her to bits but at times has felt like he was making himself ill aswell. He learned that he had to put his own wellbeing first sometimes, so that he was able to give her the best he could. At one stage though, he did try to reason with her, by telling her that he had 'stood by her all this time' and she still wasn't getting any better. At this point, she ended it, blaming him for the way she was (she had been depressed from a young age) and evidently got worse. When speaking to her, she felt that he was only with her in the hope that she would get better. This was an awful pressure on her because she knew (as well as he did) that there was every chance that things could get worse and she may never improve.\nSo, I simply give you this advise, take care of yourself and satisfy your needs and ambitions. If she pushes you away, don't retaliate with any blame or make her feel that she owes you something for your time spent with her. Simply allow this to be the oppurtunity where you get some time for yourself. Meet with friends, take up a hobby, whatever. Most importantly, don't make her feel that you are leaving her, always be contactable and tell her where your going and when you will be back. Simpy let her accept and know that you are always there for her but also for yourself.\nPlease also understand that she may or may not improve. If you can't see a future with her if things don't improve, then maybe you should rethink your situation. \nMy friend is improving (and happily living with her partner) and is now working. She is a lovely person and I admire her strentgh. \n\nI wish you all the best of luck,\n\nHappy Birthday for Monday!!\nxx
281730
go for it..\n\n\nflirt and be friends with her get her alone then do it... tell her..how you feel she will finally realize that you have changed and maybe change her mind.\n\njust listen to me i kno this kind of stuff i am a pro at relationships. and i kno boiis.\nlisten to me and do it.
941677
Just ask her if there is something wrong.  She just may have something going on that she needs to figure out for herself. If she tells you than great you can talk and if she won't than just back off a bit. It is no fun being around a person that might not want you around. She may come around later.
862615
I would say to you if she is being like that, then you should just take a step back and let her come to you!!\n\nIf she is sick, then the least she can do is let you know, I think she is trying to tell you something, either she is trying to break up with you or she is playing hard to get.  She is probably testing you.\n\n\nIf I was you, I would take a step back and let her think about what she is doing. If she really loves you she will be back, if not then its time for you to move on with your life.\n\nReally I dont think you deserve the way she is treating you, you could do better. ( this is assuming you haven't done anything wrong, obviously). If she is just messing you about then you really  need to thin about if you want to be with someone who treats you how she has done, you dont need that.\n\nWhatever happens, Good luckx
1108505
She loves the power she has over you.  \nShe may also be going through some very difficult emotions right now and she dosn't know what she wants.  Give her what she needs, you'll not only help her out  but you'll also feel better about yourself.  Just don't get your feeling envolved.  \nGood Luck.
330384
She's trying to manipulate you.  Don't fall for it.  I don't know when people will learn that manipulation in a relationship is never a good idea.  \n\nYou need to explain to her your reasons for living elsewhere.  If she's in such a desperate bid to get you to come live with her, eventually you will feel trapped and resentful of her.  \n\nTell her that although you love/care about her, and don't want anything to happen to her, at this time it just isn't feasible for you to move back to the same town.  Explain that you are willing to see her whenever you can and that no matter what distance you are from her, she is still important to you.  \n\nYou must also let her know that you are doing whats best for you and if she cares for you like she claims, she will not hurt herself.
301521
I would continue to be her friend. Realize that she is not going to be able to put as much as you put into the relationship, due to her current mental state. You now know that that because of her condition that you won't be able to believe what she says. Keep the relationship fun and light. That way you won't get caught up in the emotional drama.
1072259
Seems she still seeing if you are the right one.  She probably needs a little more time away from you to sort things out.  You should be content with the fact that she still cares for now.
1013
Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
670435
Sounds like you are over-compromising and not being yourself. If you always do what she wants, how can she do what you want and why would she?! A relationship should be give and take but if someone can get away with making no effort etc, then they are going to. Start suggesting what you want to do, don;t always agree with everything she says. It might also make you a bit more exciting to her again. That is not about being raised right - you can still be polite etc but just about being yourself not a doormat.
374058
Bipolar = bad news\n\nRun for your life and find a new gal.
1076275
go with her to a therapist. maybe she has a chemical imbalance