My boyfriend asked me to move in with him?
406404
Don't worry about your parents...They will come around no matter what decisions you make.  I lived with my wife before we got married and we are doing great 4 years later and have a beautiful little 1 yr old girl...It helped living together before we got married, because when you live together, you see the real side of married life and what your partner is going to be like to live with.  Sometimes people change after you start living with them, but you will definitely know if he is the right one after this.  Good luck!
611817
I urged my friend not to move in with his girfriend, as they planned to get married, and they were only together for a year. I have been in this situation 3 times. It is not good for the relationship, and only a select few can handle this early living arrangement. He went ahead and moved in, because it was what she really wanted, and he has seemed depressed ever since. He can't focus when people are talking to him, and the money issues are putting a strain on their relationship. He came to me and told me that he wished he had listened, and that he was afraid that he would lose her soon. They had NEVER had a single fight, and now they fight frequently.\n\nIt does work, but I promise, if you wait until you're married, there will be a reason for you to stay together during the first and hardest year of living together. It is difficult and if you feel you would be able to handle it, and not get weird on your boyfriend, go for it.
203004
well i moved in with my boyfriend after knowing him for 2 weeks. But the bad thing is that i moved 100 miles away from my family. But we are still together and been dating for 2 years!  So you are the only one that can make that decision. It could work, but then again living together so soon could cause problems. I say take a chance and go for it. Oh yea and I was 17 when i moved out!
974571
I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?
418991
Everybody should have requirements in all relationships.  But, rather you should break up with him is your own decision.  Go with your heart.
811984
Oh sweetie im so srry for ur situation.....but if u re-read ur question out loud...ull find the answers already there....do u really think u deserve to have someone that is only with u when u can provide an outlet for tham but when the chips are down for u, he pleads the 5th? And the mortgage excuse he gave u is dumb....because that $$$ can go into a place w/u....besides the brother shouldve never gotten a home he wasnt going to be able to pay for on his own..... what did he think, that the brother wasnt ever going to eventually move out and get on with his life????? or did ur boyfriend assure him that no matter what woman ever comes along, he'll never leave?\n  It really a tough situation for u, lookin for a new place and dealing with this too, but deep down in ur soul, u know what to do, u just have to want and be brave enough to do it.\ngood luck
31517
Question is, do u want to live with him like that?I think it`s pretty painful to hear that the partner says he has no feelings anymore. I`m sure you 2 have talked about it? It`s a pretty tuff question and i don`t think that anyone can give u an answer to that but ur boyfriend. Keep talking with him about it.... I hope everything works out for u
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
637250
While I'm not sure why you are living with your ex still (there probably is a good reason), having him bring over a "date" is the epitomy of low. At the same time, you being there while she is there is an accident waiting to happen. I know you may not like the idea of leaving your own home, but it might be the safest thing to do. Afterwards, have a conversation with him about how you aren't comfortable with him bringing over a "date" until the two of you move out.
1068455
You need to ask in order for the relationship to work. He won't mind, He's proboly been thinking of a way to tell you anyway that he either, doesn't want to be with you and wants to move. wants to be with you wants to move and wants you to come but doesn't want to spring it on you. Or want to be with you but has to move. \n            Hope this helps :)          good luck
47632
i agree with the others, if you just move in and later break up, you can all be hurt, especially his daughter. i don't know the circumstances, but does he have full custody, is the child's mother going to have or be a problem? also are  YOU ready to take over the responsiblities of a child that's NOT yours? those are a few things to think about. and if you are thinking of moving in, i'd say it's pretty serious! how long have you been dating? please think of how this will affect his daughter before you do anything.
425360
Go with your heart. I am in a very similiar situation but we are madly in love with one another. If you are questioning whether you should move, you are not yet ready to do so.\n\nYou will know when the time is right.
514620
you are making an excuse "can't keep...living through him."\nif you wanted to be with him you would go with him.\nif you don't want to go overseas, don't.\nit seems completely reasonable that you simply prefer to stay where you are.\nyou are ready to settle down but feel awkward about pressuring him to do so.
365478
I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
748107
Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
14338
* Buy another one for him\n* Ask monthly rent payment\n* Love him and change your mind\n* Make it difficult to live with you at the same home
622504
well, I'm hoping that your relationship does work out. I'm in the same situation, but my bf is a year older that yours. We are talking about moving in together after I graduate next year, and the talking has already started. I believe that if both of you are willing to work on it, then there is no reason that your relationship will fail. Good luck.