When having a non-physical heated argument with someone which do you chose to do and why?
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JUST BE FIRM AND DIRECT WHETHER IT IS YOUR LOOK OR YOUR ANSWERS
169360
You shouldn't HAVE to choose between them. Tell them that the fight is between THEM not you and that you're not going to pick sides. So either kiss and make up, or just accept that you will have them both as friends.
9154
Right in the middle of an "argument" jump in & point out to both of them that they fight & argue constantly. Point out the fact that it is very childish & how tired you are of it. Whatever the underlying problem is between them should/will surface....once that surfaces, it can be resolved & harmony restored.
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This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You need to, sooner or later, bring up the problem to this other person, but if there's the risk for physical damage bring someone capable of dealing it out... who's on your side. A bodyguard of sorts, ne?\n\nIf physical damage isn't apparent, the best thing to do is face the music. I'm sorry I couldn't answer the way you probably would've like me to answer, but I've been in a slightly similar situation. Sure, the other party/person/whatever will probably be angry, but there's nothing you can do about that.\n\nI'll sum up:\n*Doesn't take out anger on you: Talk to them. Explain your problem as objectively as you can, with clear benevolent (good) intent.\n*Takes out anger on you: Bring a bodyguard.
944159
Remaining calm while they are losing it. Especially in an argument, as they end up totally apoplectic at the fact that they haven't wound you up first. ;o)
655944
Don't pick a side.  Fights are little glitches in friendships and in time they work themselves out.  Real friends will not ask or make you to choose sides.  And as for the friends that are mad at you.  It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for something you are not.  They will get over it too.
188613
You are ultimately responsible for your actions.  If someone wrongs you then you have to decide how to react.  If you are angry then that is your choice.  It doesn't mean that you don't have a right to be angry or shouldn't be angry, it just means that you chose to be angry.  The other person isn't responsible for your reaction, but they are responsible for having failed to meet an obligation and they are responsible for creating a situation that had a negative affect on you.  So over all you are responsible for you choice but that doesn't let them off scott free to do as they please and blame you.
522752
First, understand truly the view points of each one individually, and why they're angry with the other.  Then, get them together in a neutral place and YOU do the talking.. say.. this is how A feels, and this is how B feels.  And explain to them that you will not take sides, and that you will not talk to either of them until they've resolved their differences.  It's the best way to get them back to being friends, and it's also the best way to maintain your integrity.
508339
First off, if you care for this man, you should also care for his point of view and his opinions. Arguments are an interchange of ideas, a way at arriving at some final truth. You seem to use them as a way to dominate the man you supposedly "love".\n\nIt sounds as though, during an argument, if you don't win the fight, you withhold sex, thereby "punishing" BOTH of you! Who wins then?  If you feel sex is something you can use to bludgeon your partner into giving in everytime you two argue, I predict a long, lonely life for you. I hope you'll grow up and realize that's not love, that's a power trip. Love is a state of mind where you're only happy if the person you love is happy. I cannot believe either of you is happy after you finish an argument.
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usually i would back off and let the angry person be angry and get the anger off his or her chest.... whoever it might be coz, a person who is angry usually is too tense to deal with.... after the person cools off then you try to talk and get the problem that the person is facing and try to help or solve it together.... it might be you that caused the anger so you might as well try to not make this person angry again...
802853
It may be just a phase but you will continue to have arguments if you never finish the ones that you start.  If there is an issue don't just let it go so it can be brought up again later to start another fight.  Always finish issues trust me.
969904
How a person responds to an argument is not a guy or girl issue . . . it's how the individual (no matter the gender) handles the response and situation of an argument.  How to handle this issue, no matter if it was the guy or the girl . . . when things are calm...maybe even several days or weeks later...tell your sweetie something to the effect of "I'm uncomfortable of how we argue...I'd like to openly discuss this so we can clarify some understanding and set up some 'ground rules' for when we have disagreements."  Then sit down and openly share what you do and don't care for in your style of 'arguing'.  Remember to share not only what you don't like but also what you do like.  Maybe your girlfriend will share that her style is to be left alone for a certain period of time before you two relate together again.  You both express your thoughts and then begin negotiations and agreed boundaries.  All this really needs is COMMUNICATION.  I don't feel enough couples really have healthy respectful communication skills.  One person shouldn't have to back down and chase after the other.  And it's not right for the other one not to accept a sincere apology that included the acknowledgment of what they felt was hurtfully projected.  You and your sweetie sit down and openly discuss what style of relating (and understanding of the others) mode of relating and arguing best suits the two of you.  A relationship is in part like a business, discuss and find what works best for the healthy success of your (business) relationship.  Though in a relationship...there are the perks of love and kisses.
1104528
Confrontation is not always necessary... communication is, if you want an emotionally healthy and satisfying life together.  Change takes time, but well worth the wait if you are willing to put the time in!
220576
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
1187221
Just  be honest with them and speak your mind.  Telling them why you disagree with what they are saying.  \n\nBut whatever you do, don't let either one of them influence your decision. Make sure what you are deciding is your choice and what you believe, not theirs.
979499
Pick and choose your battles wisely.  Stand up for yourself if it is something you really believe in.  Otherwise, if it's something he really believes in, listen, be understanding, and just let it be.  It's not worth the aggravation to always argue or that you always have to win.  I think its really important to only argue when absolutely necessary.  If you are not wanting to get into a fight; let him know, and stop the conversation.  Sometimes, later I'll even get an apology for it.  I just don't make a big deal out of it.  They appreciate that.
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Hi Sajana!\n\nAggression is a possible result of discomfort.\n\nYou have to ask yourself, when being criticised, whether the other person DOES have a point, or not. A lot of time we get angry when being accused, because deep inside we know that the other person is right, but we don't want to admit it, since it makes us feel inferior to the accusing side. \n\nThe best way to go at it is to face the problem. If we get accused of something, while it might make us angry, we should tell the other party that we'll check out his/her accusations in order to verify whether we were really responsible for it. That way, we get a time frame, a breather, to sort things out. If the problem is really our doing, then we should look for a way to solve said problem, in order to come clean and re-gain the respect not just of others towards us, but our own respect towards who we are.\n\nIf the problem wasn't a result of our doing, try and explain to the other side your point of view. \n\nRemember, the fact that someone thinks you did something, doesn't mean he or she believes it. They might've gotten the idea from certain facts, but if you know you're not responsible, than just say so and explain, if you can, why not and you'll feel better with yourself.\n\nOh, and never suppress your anger, since it'll do only bad things to you in the long run. Try channeling the energy from your anger to things that are more productive, for example, if you feel angry at a certain moment, either take it out in a form of Martial Arts training, or channel the energy in order to pursue your hobby. Never swallow the anger. That's a big no-no.\n\nGood luck! :-)