Seriously, how do I deal with my wife having Cancer?
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I'm so sorry for the ordeal you both are having right now. My father has liver cancer now and my mother died because of liver cancer too.\n\nWhat I can say is never be apart from her. Be strong, brave, and patient. Talk to her and tell her good stories as it will make her feel very comfortable. Try to do a lot of fun things like going on a picnic with her while she still can. Visiting your relatives and going out with friends will help too.\n\nI suggest your wife go on holistic diet which is consuming vegetables and fruits. My father is doing that now in order to keep fighting the cancer and he no longer eats red meat as it will make the cancer grow stronger. Also the main point of holistic treatment is not consuming chemical-based medicines. You can find holistic books in amazon.com and I'm sure there's a doctor specialized in holistic treatment in your area.\n\nI'm wishing the best of luck for both of you. Keep praying, always believe in God and dont forget that miracles do happen. We can share a lot about this :) Cheers!
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Cancer survivor here.  Hang in there.\n\n1.  Don't just blindly accept whatever medical treatments the doctors throw at you.  Become a part of the process making informed choices.  Get on the internet and read and thoroughly research your options.  Get help from a friend who has some medical background if necessary, and ask them to help you understand things.\n\n2.  Take care of yourself in natural ways in addition to medical treatment.  Eliminate any foods with artificial chemicals, pesticides, and growth hormones from your diet.  Eat only fresh organic foods, including lots of healthy anti-oxident foods like berries, pomegranite, leafy greens, walnuts.  Care for your body with as much yoga and exercise as you can do during treatment, lots of massages, etc.\n\n3.  Actively manage your state of mind to keep a positive and hopeful outlook and focus your energies on healing.  I found aromatherapy relaxation techniques, pranayama and insight meditation helpful for this.\n\nBe well.
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Hi Patz! I have really good news today and I'm glad that your question was still open.My mother was diagnosed with cancer almost a year ago and I was devastated by this news.This past months were by far the most difficult of my whole life! I've been living whith her and we had the opportunity to talk a lot,to became even closer than we already were.Yesterday,I took her to the doctor and he told us that her body is finally free of the cancer cells.I was so happy and so relieved! We know that this can came back any time but,for now,we are celebrating life! I can't think of better news!\nMoon :)
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Honestly, its better you consult a cancer specialist/doctor in your area, I'm sure they have reference/contact informations. I really want to help but I don't think I can give better answers than specialist do. Sorry.\n\ngood luck\n\nLove is omnipresence, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
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I am a cancer male as well. what you do is keep reassuring that he is your love, we need alot of nurture and love and tender care coz emotionally we are brittle. but if you keep him reassured he is your world, he might ease up a little bit good luck with him
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My husband. He just lost his mother to cancer.
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I'm sorry about your friend.  Find some articles about success stories of people who have fought the disease!!  There are tons of stories out there from people who have been successful in chemo therapy, etc.  This might give your friend some hope!!
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Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
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My poor grandfather had prostate cancer, which is supposedly one of the slowest-growing cancers there is.  He was in the hospital for something unrelated, and out of nowhere started getting sicker.  He lost his appetite, and over the course of a couple of days, started having difficulty walking and talking.  \n\nMy grandmother questioned the same thing that you did, so she questioned one of the nurses as to whether his cancer had metastasized.  The nurse more or less brushed her off and said, "No, prostate cancer wouldn't grow that fast."\n\nWell, to make a long story short, he kept getting worse and worse, until finally his lungs and kidneys shut down.  As it turned out, he had developed a secondary, fast-growing cancer that had metastasied all over his body within a matter of weeks.\n\nBy the time this was discovered, he was far too sick for any form of traditional treatment, and we unfortunately lost him very quickly after that.\n\nI certainly hope that this isn't the case with your friend... some of what she's experiencing could be the side effects of the chemotherapy.  Although I've never heard anyone "talking funny" from chemo, I'm certainly not an expert on the subject. \n\nI just wanted to share my story with you, because it still makes us sick that my grandma questioned his prognosis and was told that it couldn't have spread.  I guess we'll always wonder if he could have been helped had they acted sooner.\n\nI certainly don't have any advice for you on how to approach your friend... it's very hard to question others' judgment when it comes to the way they're treating their cancer, especially when you're not the one paying the bills.  I unfortunately know this far too well from experience... I guess all you can do is sit down with her husband by himself and discuss your fears.  It's hard, though, because you don't want to place any undue worry on him.\n\nI don't know how close of a relationship you have with this couple, but if you don't want to worry them directly, is it possible to pull one of her oncologists aside and talk it over with them?  I don't know if she's in the hospital or not, but that might be a good way to go about it.  If you feel like there's nothing you can do without overstepping your bounds, I guess all you can do is hope that the doctors notice what you have... but that's not always the case, either.\n\nSorry if I wasn't more help... at any rate, I wish you the best.  If you're at all religious or spiritual, maybe a prayer for guidance is in order.  If you're not... just listen to your heart, I guess.  :)
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It is very difficult for us that my husband has stage 4 cancer.  To overcome this difficulty we remain positive in outlook, lead our lives as normally as possible, do as much as we can, and live each day as if it is our last ... because it could be.  We spend time with our children and grandchildren, travel a little when we can.  We refuse to allow our lives to be controlled by cancer.  Our belief is "I am passing through life but once. Therefore, if there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, for I shall not pass this way again."\n\n\nThis may not be the type of difficulty you mean, but it is the only one that is real to us right now.
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Brest cancer!!! Unless she recently had a baby but it doesn't sound like it from your description.
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Contact the AMerican Cancer Society. They can offer help to you and your mom. They can send you information, find doctors, explain chemo or medication questions, and they can help find someone you can talk to about your feelings.\n\nI will keep you and your mom  in my prayers!!
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just be there for her. if she needs something or needs to talk be there . in the meantime you are gonna need someone to talk to you yourself so you can be a good support for your sister............................good luck! e mail me if you want. I had a 3 yr old with cancer\nterrinjohn89@adelphia.net
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contact the American Cancer Society and explain what is going on. If she was a church member contact the local church of her denomination and ask for assistance. There are several other cancer groups that will pay stipends to people in your mom's situation but I can't think of the names of any of the others at the moment. Ask whomever is providing her wheel chair for leads on getting assistance. Do a Google search for groups that will help with her drug costs or contact the individual drug companies and ask about their patient assistance programs. Also ask her oncologist for any helpful leads. Treasure the time you have with your mom, because this may be your last opportunity to really spend some time together. Turn her staying with you into a positive and not a negative, despite her illness.
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I'm so sorry about your fiance's situation. You all are in my prayers.\nOne suggestion would be to contact Cancer Treatment Centers of America. They are a system of Hospitals with campuses across the country that specialize in both conventional and alternative treatments of advanced cancers that have failed conventional treatments. Their website is: http://www.cancercenter.com .\nAnother resource I would suggest would be the book, "Beating Cancer with Nutrition" by Dr. Patrick Quillin (Amazon.com link: http://www.amazon.com/Beating-Cancer-Nutrition-Patrick-Quillin/dp/096383729X/sr=8-1/qid=1164205725/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-5041657-6768651?ie=UTF8&s=books)\nAlso, contact your local branch of the American Cancer Society at http://www.cancer.org. Again, my wishes go out to your fiance for a full recovery. Hope this can help.
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It's all about love and forgiveness. If you love her and if you can forgive her (and let me say contracting that illness is punishment, you don't need to hold it over her head, she'll have a constant reminder of her affair now) If you can forgive her then stay with her help her through this. As the disease progresses it will sap her strength, her spirit, she will lose who she is after a while to this illness. If you feel that you cannot forgive her then you need to discuss that with her as well, maybe not leave her yet, but at least talk things out with your wife let her know how you feel. I imagine your torn right now or else you wouldn't be posting on this website, asking for others advise. Nothing anyone can say will be the right answer, all you can do is listen to your heart and do what you feel is right. Don't let the anger of her affiar conflict with the thought in your mind. Also, take into consideration her feelings if she has remorse good if not and she really doesn't care then it might be best for you to continue on without her. If you really feel you need outside advise, discuss this with a trained councelor or therepist. someone outside of the relationship who can shed a different light on the situation and maybe help you see things in a way you didn't before. Good Luck, Budda bless you, and Take Care.
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hello my dear friend!\n\nwell i am able to read your feelings well... because i went through the same situation too! 6months back i was diagnosed with germ cell tumour and i had to undergo chemotherapy and had a hard time... my husband loves me a lot and the essence of our marriage was an intimate relationship which meant even having good sex! during the six months period he saw me undergoing the treatment and when i was back home afetr the treatment ..\ni understood how much he missed me ...i got him cuddled next to me and could feel his warm presence...\ni know you love your wife deeply and wouldnt want to hurt her.. but when you kiss her or cuddle her romancingly and perhaps you could have a little action in your life.. you will not hurt her and she too will love you fro expressing your affection...to be very frank sex is an important positive aid in helping a sick  person recover soon... it will enhace the mind and body and put both of you'll in a happy spirit...\n\nso listen to me and express your love...hug her ,kiss her and make her feel warm and romantic..you can do it my friend... you mean a lot to her in her life as she mean to you..try casual romance and see how happy you will feel!i will pray fro you and your wife..! \n\ngoodluck!