is it wrong to  have sex with a friend,?  how about if you have feelings for him and he dont?
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It depends on what kind of friend it is.
469745
not unless you think it will work between the two of you. if you care and he's your friend wouldn't you feel awful for leading him on and hurting him? maybe you just think of him like a brother or something.
148766
Believe me, she won't be your best friend anymore if you do have sex with her.  Things between you will change and your relationship will not be the same.  What's wrong with the way things are now?  Sometimes it's just better to leave things the way they are.
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no its not true i have a friend and we like each other but we are both involved with other people.  when we hang out and get together sometimes the chemistry gets flowing so much that we just end up having sex but that's all it is is just sex with a friend.  now not all people do this kind of thin or maybe if your friends with a girl and she doesn't want to have sex with you its because she doesn't look at you in that perspective...would you want to have sex with someone that loved you like a brother?
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I realize that you dont want to hurt this guy and I do know where you are coming from (I recently lost my guy to a friend of ours). Now I know that you say that you dont want to date him, but why? You are single and I dont think the question here should be will sleeping with him hurt him I think you need to think about you, if you dont like him enough to date him then why would you want to sleep with him? Why not take the chance and see if that friendship could turn into something else, I mean you are already talking about sleeping with someone who cares about you so you must feel that he is sincere. One thing I have learned from experience is that the best relationships I have been in were when we started out as friends first. No I dont think it will hurt him I think it will hurt you especially since you say that youve been used by every guy that you have slept with. No I dont think that he will be hurt in fact it sounds like he is already enjoying hisself by making out in front of his friends "for some fun" and it "would make us stronger". It sounds like this guy already considers you his girlfriend. You need to look at the situation very closely. Either go out with the guy or just be his friend but whichever you decide stick to \nyour decision.  If you decide to be just friends then no more making out in front of his friends - okay? SLP
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Love isn't based on what you get from the other person. It is a choice you make to put the other person first in all ways. If this move is "good" for your friend, then the truly loving thing is to set him free to pursue it and trust that if your relationship is of value to him, also, he will make efforts to continue it. \n\nIf you've already had sex with the guy, you may be blinded to the realities of the situation. I think that if your relationship really has a chance of succeeding, a year apart would be a good thing! It would give you time to focus on getting to really know each other, and to know if the attraction has the ability to grow and be sustained over time or if it is based on temporary things and physically oriented.\n\nBelieve it or not, sex is only a part of love... certainly not the entirety. Many things can happen in the life of a marriage that temporarily or permanently hamper sexuality. If there isn't more to keep the relationship going, it is a very sad and lonely existence. But, if you truly enjoy each other's company, if you have interests in common, if you can share your emotions (both good and bad), and if you can share spiritually then you have a chance at having a stable continuing relationship that deserves to be called "love."
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You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
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There are a few questions you should ask yourself....\n1)why should you fret over your friends opinions?\n2) were you comfortable with the relationship before you told your friends?\n3)Is the fact that you are being teased about it the only reason you are now concerned?\n4)Do you genuinely have strong feelings for this person?\n5)How would you feel if you gave them up for your friends?\n6)Do you feel the aquaintance of this person is enriching your life?\n7)Are you already thinking on the long term?\n8) If it ended, would you be thankful just to have experienced this persons affection?\n\nNow, If it feels right to you, tell your friends that you understand their concerns, but that you want to give it a whirl and have some experiences. Understand also that  although your friends are an important part of your life, your romantic relationships are between you and your partner, and no one should be allowed to sabotage that. Even if you eventually end the relationship, a true friend will still be there for you. If you are thinking on the long term, consider this.....What does satisfying sex entail for you at the age of 19? Is it mostly just physical or is it a true soul-satisfying experience just to be with this person, whether the physical part is strong or whether it is lacking? How important is it to you to have the capability to have a physically satisfying sexual experience in the years to come? Is it enough to just be together emotionally, without the sex?\nLet me explain why I asked you to ask yourself this: I am now 37 yrs old, married 15 yrs. I have experience here, although all relationships cant be judged as if you had a crystal ball....\nWhen I was 16, I went MAD over a MUCH older man. He was  42. yes 26 yrs older. A few of my buddies ragged me some, but I let it slip without having an issue. I enjoyed being with him and it was my relationship, not my friends. Buddies can't supply you with what a romantic partner can emotionally.He was so wonderful, and just being in his presence was emotionally enough. However, he was much older, and parts of him just didn't work well anymore...I was ok with that ( although I wanted more), we did other things to try to compensate for what was lacking. He eventually bowed out of the relationship because he was continually disappointed in his inability to do what it is that men do.\nOf course, all men won't have this problem, but as they age, it is not going to comply to his every whim! On the other hand, when I was your age, I had several relationships I just knew would last forever.....and they were over in what felt like a heartbeat. \nSo, if it feels right, I say go for it, if it goes long term, I hope you care enough for him to overlook any issues he may end up with. and that you are easily emotionally satisfiable. I have a feeling that there will be many more relationships for you down the road, but I could be wrong! Love can amaze us all!\nI have been married now for 15 yrs to a man who is 10 yrs older than me, and believe me when I say, older is better...in a long term relationship that is. They have more experience and are not as easy to fly off and freak out like someone younger. Patience is a virtue, knowledge is wisdom, and that comes with age. But do understand this yet again...when they get older, parts don't work as well as they used to....it's not easy for me to deal with, but I love him, so I do. And the mid-life crisis' generally start at around age 44......and that is worse than one that doesn't work!
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When  you make a friendship a sexual realtionship you are adding another thick layer. This can make or break the relationship you two have built.\n\nSo it could work out to be the mosts wonderful realtionship in your life, but just know that if things turn sour, you could have a very strained relationship...or no relationship at all.
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If you are into it and willing to risk getting AIDS or STD that is your choice. I have friends who are gay but it is not a sexual relationship...it is a friendship. In a partner I would feel just as deceived as if they cheated on me with a member of the oposite sex and end the relationship that never was.
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no there is nothing wrong with that, you love him and as long as it's only him you want than that's okay. when you have strong feelings for someone it makes you want sex even more. just let him know that he brings it out of you, that you really enjoy sex with him and that to you it's more than sex it's making love. they only boundaries you need are to stay true to him. when he jokes around about you only wanting him for sex than joke back every now and then and say well that's why i keep you around and other times tell him that's not true, tell him it's cuz you love him. trust me your okay.
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If you are ok with it, then no. I think it is a little wrong because with it being a week, it isn't like you have really gotten the chance to get to know each other in a romantic sense. You know each other as friends, but not as romantic partners.\n\nIf you are ok with jumping into the sack with a guy after barely dating him a week, or even just without a dating relationship, it is up to you.
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If you would even consider this then you are not a friend. Someones sexual proclivities shouldn't matter to you, especially in a friendship. Would your friend leave you because you are not gay?
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i think you shouldn't have sex with a guy unless you've been with him for like over 6 years or your married (even though some ppl think thats too long) but if you really want to be with him again why don't you ask him out again. and if he's with someone try being friends with  him and if/when he breaks up with the girl he's with now you could be there with him and then you guys could/might get back together.! hope it works out and hope you pick my advice! ^_^
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you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
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I don't understand your question, you have to word it better,\nbut I think what you are trying to say is "what if a friend asked you to have sex with them?, what would you do?"\nI'd say go for it as long as you like them no strings attached, then what the hell, you have to have some fun right?
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If you think that what you're doing may be wrong, then it is. If you feel that the relationship is completely harmless and serves no purpose other than a casual friendship then maybe not.\n\nThe test is if you told your significant other, would they be upset?