im a 22 year old gay male and I want to know why im attracted to much older men ?
407763
well im a 23 year old straight female lol and im attracted to older guys too.  its just your preference. younger guys/girls are immature i guess
890995
I strongly suggest that you not find your answer HERE.  Much of the advice offered is so off the wall that it defies logic.  There are plenty of web sites and books out there if you wish to investigate further without some of the foolishness you'll find on message boards.\n\nYou may be a young man in his teens, and what you may be experiencing is envy of older guys and their physical maturity, projecting yourself on to them.  Thats human nature if thats the case.  In time that would pass.\n\nIf however you are gay or bisexual you can not "ungay" or not think of it.  Gay does not turn on and off like a light switch, its part of who you are (whether you like it or not).  \n\nAn analogy would be, what if you were attracted to red heads, the thought of them aroused you.  That part of you that finds them attractive can not be turned off.  You can't consciously not think of red heads.  You could however tell yourself that you will never date a red head, and suppress that desire, but you would still always be attracted to them.\n\nDespite what a couple have said above, you can not be persuaded to be gay.  No amount of tv, movies, magazines, porn will make you desire something you never desired before.  Remember most gay people grew up with straight families and in straight world that reinforces heterosexuality at every turn, yet they are gay.\n\nGay doesn't mean you find the other gender unattractive, only that you desire intimacy and contact with the same as your own. Bisexual indicates you desire both.\n\nGive yourself time, this may just be you building something up in your head way out of proportion.  In a year you will have moved on and never have a fantasy like that again.  If however you find that you are still having these feelings in a year or two, then its time to revisit the question and how you want to handle it.  If it turns out you are gay, then you can live with it.  Saying "you'd rather die" is a bit dramatic, but seriously you should embrace your life no matter what it has in store for you.
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Not that I am a psychiatrist, but I'm sure there is some logical explanation having to do with your history and past why you seek the comfort of older men unconciously and so consciously you are attracted to them? Who knows? I find the same, as far as being attracted to older men goes. However, I'm not married, I'm engaged, far from divorce. I think its normal to be attracted to older men. Women traditionally want to be taken care of by a strong, wise man, which we somehow invision as an older man, and that's why I am attracted them. They offer stability and knowledge, or so my subconcious thinks so. lol...\nAnyway, I wouldn't worry too much about the being attracted to older men part.\nIf I were you I'd be more focused on my marriage, and what an affair could do to it and my kids...
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Really?\nNot all!\nJust a taste!\nMaybe bcoz old man more loyal than young man. Hahaha... old man also got alot of experience & they r caring.\nWhy old fat not old thin? Bcoz most of old skin is playboy ( in gay context ). Old skin always look like macho man and look great with suit and so on. but old man is not sell well and they r mesy. They r not Man Next Door.
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You are probably more mature than most people your age and that is why you are attracted to the personalities of people older than you. In addition, most poeple your own age probably are threatened by your maturity and intellect and therefore turned off by it because they do not know how else to behave around you.\nSo much to learn from anyone that is older than us....that  not only is it accectable to "hang around" them but advisable whenever you can.\nThe other 14 yr olds are jealuos of you and you should be damn proud that you have much more to offer as a human being then they do.
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There's nothing wrong with you, it's normal to be attracted to an older guy. However, going out with him now may not be an option. Depending on certain laws, he could get into big trouble messing around with you even you want to, especially since he's probably 18 or older.
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I am 22 and honestly I love older men, in my opinion they are like fine wine, getting better with age. And yes I do know how to please my man
493253
not all people are gay.\nmost of the guys like beautiful girls too
515067
There is nothing wrong with liking older guys.\nI have always dated older, and I find that they have an equal maturity level to me (Because girls mature mentally faster than boys).\nDon't get too carried away with the older ones though. Never date higher than 4 years older if you're under 18. You're only 13 and they might try to pressure you into something you don't want to rush into. Take your time, and make sure his motives are legit (this goes for ANY guy- no matter age, race, creed, etc.). Just be careful.
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I used to only be attracted to older men.  At nineteen I met an older man and married him.  That was 29 year, three kids, and two grandkids ago, he is still my hero.   Age doesn't matter as long as both are legal consenting adults.
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Well, you're right- you shouldn't be worrying about it. You like who you like, you're attracted to whomever you are attracted to. It's confusing to be a teenager- hormones are a crazy thing. \nI think if you are a lesbian, you probably already know the answer to your own question, honey. On the other hand, if you've always found yourself attracted to boys and you've suddenly been exposed to something NEW (porn, I would assume), that doesn't necessarily mean you are a lesbian and I would caution you NOT to drive yourself insane trying to figure it out. You would certainly NOT be the 1st straight female to be "excited" by those types of images- as there are PLENTY of women who do, who also consider themselves straight.\nIf you have ALWAYS been attracted to other females, perhaps you do have some not-so-straight tendancies. But I wouldn't worry about that TOO much- it's not the end of the world, but it will take some time to get used to it and whether or not you are comfortable enough with it to talk about it to others. \nThe bottom line is to not make too big a deal of it. If you are anxious or nervous about how you feel, my advice would be to stay away from it until you know yourself a little better. Don't add more confusion where it just isn't necessary. Just relax and enjoy being YOURSELF- and finding out who you really are. Your sexual orientation is what it is and you WILL figure it out, probably sooner than you think.  \nIf you think there's anything else I can help you out with, feel free to contact me by clicking on my profile- there's a link you can use to contact any one of us here. Some "answerers" don't have themselves signed up to receive email from others, but mine is set up that way. Best of luck to you!
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Most gay men that I know ADORE women, they just don't want one nake and in their beds. \n\nLook at it this way. Everytime you meet one gay man it means there is at least one more just like him...therefor BOOSTING your chances with a straight guy even more! Less competition. \n\nBesides, gay men make the BEST dance partners and shopping buddies!! \nTake advantage of it!
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I was atrracted 2 a man 33 yrs. older than me. I luv older men.
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Is he wealthy? What do you think the attraction is? At 20, she is old enough to be making decisions for herself.....you've given her guidance, but now she has to make that decision.\n\nWhat would worry me is WHY she is attracted to older men. Often it is because of a previous molestation by an older man. Is that a possibility? If so, I would suggest some serious counseling by a professional....NOT clergy type....they would just continue the problem.
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hOW OLD ARE YOU I CAN SHOW YOU SOME OF MY GAY LIFE SO YOU CAN SEE IF YOUR GAY OR NOT!
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HAHAHAHAHAH....that was funny,,,its because ur getting older and u know sooner or later these chiks will be out of ur legue.u always get attractive towards what u cant have that easily.its human nature.
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I'm attracted to older guys. I don't see a problem with it, honestly. Just make sure you both have similar goals for a relationship. If he is wanting to settle down and lead a nice, quiet life, and you want to go out on the town and party, it won't work. Make sure your priorities for the relationship parallel first.