Why do America's Family Courts Abuse Children and Fathers?
415485
Because women are parents by nature, unlike men who can't possibley care for young children. Oh, wait, is this supposed to be an un-sarcastic reply?
779724
Some women feel it is a bond made between the two. They feel that one look at their son/daughter will make them change their mind. Having a child is a very emotional thing.  It is so unfair to a child when the mother and father cannot or do not get along.  \nIt is really sad when (in most cases) the mother or father will use the child against each other or not let the child see the non-custodial parent because he/she did not come back the the custodial parent.
512840
Your playing with fire there. The court could very well take them away from all of you. You want child support from the biological father you file for it at the prosecutors office, and they handle it.
986503
If child services has said something like this it is most likely because the father has a history-it may be child sexual abuse but it could also be a history of physical abuse which may include one or more child fatalities.  This is a pretty extreme move by children's services so it is probably a significant and serious history.
332933
I reported a man who kids use to come to my place of work and tell me mommy and daddy make us do all kinds of sexual things,it was all done in secrect,but,they took the kids away and the grandparents have custody and he got 7 months in prison,she was ordered to stay away from the kids!sometimes,speak up to help these poor children,I do,it breaks my heart!The police interviewed the children and both parents where taken in,I still don't understand why she didn't get any time coz she also has aids and probably gave it to her 2 kids!so sad!I pray for them every night!Young children don't know how to make these things up and that was enough to get him arrested and have the children taken away!
116819
There are several. Here's a list of a few:\n1. Invasion of privacy. Often people claim that doing such invades their privacy and is unconstitutional.\n2. Freedom of Religion. Some religions allow the husband to beat the wife, and even set forth guidelines for how and when.\n3. Women's Fears. Women often recant. They claim that they were wrong and drop charges, etc. Usually they do so out of fear.\n4. Restraining Orders are WORTHLESS. It is only a piece of paper and the punishment for breaking one is close to nothing. Unfortunately the victim often ends up debilitated or dead.\n5. People have not passed effective legislation to punish violence.\n6. Legal Precedent. Judges must interpret the laws and consider legal precedent. A "radical" decision is easily contested by arguing precedent.\n\nThese are only a few problems. Many many more exist.
2809
There is a high need for daycare in the US because so many families have two parents that work.  Someone has to watch the children while the parents are at work unless there is an older child to care for them until mom or dad come home.
1024540
Same problem in my case.\n\nI have 3 sisters, so there are four girls in my family. When my parents got divorced, the court was on the verge of awarding custody to my mother even though she was whacked out and had been in a mental hospital 3 times. The only thing that changed that was her threatening to kill my father (and the court reporter heard it) and her trying to kill my sisters and I. \n\nI don't know why the court does this, but fight with all you've got for your daughter. She needs her dad. Lord knows I need mine. I'm 13 and wouldn't be here if not for my dad.\n\nGod Bless.
765970
I agree with you completely.I never had to go through custody hearings myself,as my ex just dropped off the face of the earth.But,I went through this process with my best friend.It went on for years.Her husband was a wife and child abuser with numerous police reports files on him.He always said he would kill them all if they left.Finally,after he raised a shovel to hit one of his children with it and my friend stepped in instead,she finally had the good sense to leave this man.It was always used against her in court that she took her children and ran and he didn't know where they were for about a week.HE ended up getting custody of both of these children after years and years of fighting.Very sad,both of these children are now on medication for mental problems.I just couldn't believe just where these judges heads were.I think he was given priority because he was in the military,but these children's lives were ruined by the stupid decision of all of these judges,and over the years there were more than one.Why a judge would give custody of two little girls to a known abuser is beyond me.They should be held accountable for their decisions,especially when the outcome should be obvious to any normal person.
905663
In some ways, our programs are abused, however, try to stand in someone elses shoes.  Many of these programs give medical care to poor children (who have no control over their parents).  Others get help to drug users and alcoholics, donate supplies to schools, and help poor single moms feed their families.\n\nSome just are not born under good conditions.  This keep streets much cleaner than if they did not exsist. We live in a great country.
1129107
Courts carefully weigh the best interests of the child in determining visitation and custody.  If the custodial parent denies visitation to the noncustodial parent, the courts will rectify the situation.  If the noncustodial parent should not visit with the child because that parent has a history of violence, manipulation, or drug or alcohol abuse, the courts will supervise and then stop visitation.\n\nIt appears that you are angry about one particular case.  Without knowing the details, it is impossible to say whether justice was or was not done.  However, the system allows for hearings and appeals.  If you have not been treated fairly, there are ways to address that.
12865
All custody laws are designed to favor the child, not the father or mother. It is the bias of the system that too often favor the mothers in any custody issue unnecessarily. This undoubtedly stems from the likelihood that more men bail after a child is born than do women...so we create laws and system biases that badly affect men trying to be good fathers because of the bad fathers...incidently the bad fathers generally don't feel the pain of the problems with the system.
311627
The problem is that many people think that there's nothing that can solve this problem than the blood of the offenders. Shoot them, hang them, lock them up, ostracize them, castrate them, and so on: these are very popular for politicians to get votes, for TV stations to enhance ratings, and for "holier than thou" individuals to get attention or to sound tough. \n\nWhile familial abuse is disgusting and destructive to the victim and the family, it indeed works out best if the family is treated and healed rather than be further victimized by Mr. Vengeance. In fact I know of a familial offender in whose case some members of the community are doing all they can to separate the offender from his family, while the family (including the victim) is doing everything they can to heal. That is to say, these good people - the self-appointed helpers are working against the will and desires of the very victim and her family that they think they owe some help (as long as the help is in their own way - as they want it to be). In other words, whereas this Christian family is relying on God for healing (with good results to show) and to put the past behind them, these people who are outsiders feel that the offending uncle should never be a part of his family anymore. Some were said to be angry that the judge didn't give him jail time when he had been been working hard to correct his past evil deeds through Christian principles and therapy. The thing is that many people sincerely believe that they know what's best for other people.\n\nFamilial offenders while they are vile, are not the kinds that go around looking for kids to rape and kill. Moreover, research shows that the recidivism rate among them is very minimal. Yet, while some victims of abuse by family members will never forgive, most desire healing and moving on with what's remaining of their shattered lives. The abusers themselves should not be in denial. Their need to protect themselves legally or to avoid bearing the shame should never override the need for the family to deal with the problem and heal. They should understand and acknowledge their wrongdoing and the tremendous damage that they have caused to many lives and be willing to change. In fact, their attitude is a central factor to the healing of the family. \n\nAmerica should take a deep breath and find out if the current attitudes towards these crimes are helping or hurting families and the society. Sex crimes are very bad, but two wrongs can't make a right.
525192
i don't know where you're getting the idea they make tons of money from putting kids in foster care.  it COSTS the state tons of money.  my sister does this for a living and their departements are severly underfunded and understaffed.  the workers do what they can but sadly, until everyone gets it through to their local officals that they want money spent on protecting abused children instead of tax cuts and expanding roads the situation is not going to improve.  it's really sad.  my sister alone has about 50 cases and she's sposued to visit the foster home, the parents, supervise at least 1 visit and go to court monthly for each of them.  there's just not enough hours in a day.  each caseworker should only have about 20 cases but they don't have the funding to hire enough people.  i hope your situation works out.
1129440
get a damn good lawyer and sue for alienation of affection. Simply put if a child is taken from a family and they have done the circus route and within the time specified then by every law I am aware of then Social Sevices has to "give back" the children.\n\nIt is the laws that state it is the job of "Social Services" to try and keep families together using whatever means necessary in order to have a reunited family unit.\n\nOk so its the government but they still must go by same laws it just makes your job a little harder and unfortunately they have the county sheriff and your neighbors or family who say one thing but with a good lawyer can be made to look totally in a different light in court.\n\nAlso, file a petition in the family court with jurisidiction over the matter for sole custody. It's free cuz "Social Services" has already filed the motion to remove. remember your under the gun for time so file soon. Also file subpeona's for as many "fine upstanding character witnesses" as you can. The more stable and even a cop or counselor or two really won't hurt. They are required by law to report any suspisions they have to the court anyways so their word carries more weight in court especially if ts a judge who has dealt with them before... make sure the judges like them though. Don't get the one who pissed them off the last case they were on... lol... j/k\n\nTell them to be careful. What state they live in? Also write to Congressman, State Reps, Senators, Mayors, Govenors... you would be amazed who will contact you! Trust me on this...
1112564
I live in Georgia and am a man. My ex wife is abusively controlling. After our divorce she turned into super mom. Having to control every tiny thing about the children to the point of obsession. My son wants to be with me and my attorney says the judges have to consider a request at 12, strongly consider at 13, and no choice but accept the request at 14. Unless the request isnt in the best interest of the child, ie... the requested parent is a crimminal or drug addict etc...
648153
I believe that in a majority of cases, they take far to drastic action.  They do have a place in society, don't get me wrong.\n\nDo they really need to get involved when little billy bruises his eye from normal childhood play and the pro CPS doctors or nosy neighbor isn't convinced that it was a mere accident? I think not.\n\nRemoving a child from his or her family even for a few days because some childless caseworker on a power trip has an imaginary concern that the child 'could be neglected' does major harm to a child and the family unit as a whole.  \n\nChildren expect their parents to protect them from everything, then the state moves in and mommy and daddy get the 'why did you let them take me' treatment.\n\nMajor damage to a child!