saw my ex boyfriend after 11 yr that cheated on me with my bestfriend should i treat him okay when i see him n
399703
yes i think it's time to forgive him....put the past behind you he may be a diferent person....give him a chance.
917182
We all get hurt, welcome to the club. Letting a past relationship affect how you treat other relationships is called "baggage." Release the bags as soon as you can and start fresh. You'll eventually get over it. \n\nIt's not a question of whether you deserved it or not, but more like what kind of motivation this guy who left you has. He may be a lying player, or he may be a nice guy who found someone he relates to better. It's hard, but dwelling on it hurts more and delays the process of getting over it.
981071
I honestly believe that it is.  Even if your ex-husband says "go ahead...i'm okay with it"...trust me...he's NOT okay with it.  How would it make you feel if your ex-husband started dating YOUR best friend??  Always think about how you would feel if these things were being done to you.....  On another note, after a divorce or a break up, find yourself, and then find a FRESH relationship, one thats not going to continue to remind you of the one you just had.
982033
depends. i would probably wait until he surpised me or something. and the moment was right. depends if he is just a f*ck buddy for someone you might see you spending time with alot.it just depends.
583657
Often when a relationship is over the rose colored glasses come on and we only remember the best times. If this relationship is truly over with no chance for reconciliation do this; Think of all the things that annoyed you about the person, or the pet peeves you couldn't stand. Trust me, no one is perfect so dig down deep and write all those uglies down and keep them close by. When the ex creeps into your mind read those things about them and remember. You may always have a special place in your heart for them, but it doesn't mean you can not or should not MOVE on! Trust me, my son's father I thought I would not be able to BREATHE without him but I wrote down all the ugly things and never forgot them. We are now platonic friends, he is married and so am I and we will always be connected because of our son but I like the way it has all played out and honestly, If i could get back with him I Wouldn't. Good Luck. "Time Heals all wounds."
445092
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
566802
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that you are definitely doing better now. Face it. The former boyfriend was using you for one thing only. And you know what that was. If..and that's a BIG  IF, the older guy is using you also, at least, he is making you feel good. He seems to know how to treat you, and, believe me, it's nice to have someone who knows how to treat you!
358384
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't go accusing him yet. If he does happen to cheat on you while in New Mexico, then he isn't worth your time. You can only forgive someone so much. When he gets back, talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't feel safe when he's around his ex. If he is the right guy he will understand.
206089
first be sure. if it's true find a new best friend and a girl friend. if she's cheated on you she'll cheat on him and he'll know how you felt. but don't give either one another chance.
132566
i think its okay if you're okay with it. do you want to go back to your ex?  if so, talk to him about it first. commmunication is key.
478604
Personally I think that is old history and should just stay in the past.  However the real question here is can you truly forgive him and not let this haunt you?  If you can't then this relationship will eventually crumble and you might as well get out now.
626372
Honey, I know what you're saying. My ex does the same to me. One day, he's the best thing you could ask for, the next he's unbearably mean. On a good day, I accept that we've had a good day. On the bad, I hope the next will be better. Don't call him for a few days and see the change in his attitude. He's gonna treat you like dirt as long as he knows you're waiting for him.
763037
No, do not feel sorry for your ex...to tell you the truth, it might bring him to reality. A person shouldn't be judged primarily on how one looks, but like you said personality. Just think when you guys are 60...old and grey what will last? Your looks or personality? You did what you felt was right and what makes you happy. Besides, if he treated you like this at the beginning of the relationship and can't respect you, then later on it just gets worse. In due time, he'll find someone that is better equipped for him. I think you did the right thing. Why be with a person that makes you uncomfortable, when you can enjoy another person's company that treats you like a queen? Would you take a $1.00 over $10.00?  Looks to me that you picked the $10.00 and are alot happier. Besides, don't feel sorry for him...you did the right thing. In the long run you, the $10.00 will go a long way then the buck in your pocket :-)
526761
As long as your ex didn't cheat on you while you were together. Then the decision on that one. Merely, depends on whether you want him back.  If you do take him back. You just have to realize that a little baby comes along for the ride.  Now with getting set up with a friend of a friend. Well, if he is not talking to you anymore. Just let it be. You deserve more than that.  Just make sure to tell your friend. (Just so he can realize what kind of friend he has)
1059263
If you really want this relationship to work, don't do it. You'll just end up making the trust between the two of you even worse. If you forgive him, you forgive him. It sounds to me, like you need to tell him you want to see other people, because you are not sure he's the one anymore. Tell him you cant trust him, and until that trust is rebuilt, you feel you should date around. good luck.
123948
Depends on how long they have been seperated. But really I would see if you friend still had feelings for him. She chould take it personal.
413942
Depends on if you're there with him or not.  I think that if you're not at that same school, you shouldn't worry too much about it.  You should learn to trust him.  However, if he's still associating with her even when you're not there and without your consent, then i think he's probably hiding something behind your back.  I know past relationships are hard to get over.  Occasionally i see my ex around town.  I don't trip over it.  I just give a simple "hi" or "how are you" kind of talk.  I think as long as he's not talking to her (about personal issues) then you shouldn't have to worry too much.  You have to learn to trust him.  YOu shouldn't accuse him of anything unless you have a really good reason as to why you don't trust him.  Next best thing is... Communication and trust .... it's the best. good luck. =)