can a divorced man and woman who was married still be in love, again we both care after.20. years?
408494
this with out a dought is a very good question in my opion, after reading this as what you said that it was your fault that takes a real man to openley say this and in my opion to you as well as her yes you can still find love even after all those years and you both have.5. grandchildren, as well to grown children in my opion yes you can still be in love with this lady , and this is hard for me to say this question brought tears to my eyes fellow dont blow it this time you had a read loving woman and i truley admire you on this question. go let this woman know your true feelings . good luck and god bless you both . yes you can ?
136450
No there is not, poeple think they have found true love and then it fizzles, if it was true love it would never fade. Why do poeple stay together for 50+ years? Simple, its a comfort thing, think about it, if you were with the same person for 50 years would you all of a sudden want to have to start your life over? Nope, its easyier to just stay sometimes no matter how unhappy you are.
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.
794527
After 27 years your heart just doesnt close to that person, Maybe they couldnt live together, that does not mean that there is not some kinda love still. Even if its a friendship love or a respect love. Or a love because of children maybe born of the relationship There could be many factors to why there is still some "worry" attached into all that!
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
485933
Funny you should ask. When I met my husband, he and I were both married. We both had crushes on one another but was devoted to our spouses at the time. Strange thing is, our marriages fell apart at the same time, and we were able to let our feelings show. Now we are married, with a baby on the way!
719765
I am sure it is hard for him, but after 10 years he should be able to move forward. Find out why he is still feeling this way. I hate to say this but if he is truely in love he should be ablo to get pass this. I know my brother's wife died and he married to soon and wasn't really in love more like lonely and in love with love....................Nicky
126502
You feel that you love this older woman the question is, is it love or purely obession to something about her. I feel that it could be love. Most younger men are attracted to older women.\n\nIm 32 and I know that when I divorced several years ago I had alot of male friends alot of younger ones. Seemed like the younger ones would find me no matter what. I did date a guy who was 18 at the time and I was 25 it was a beautiful realationship but I knew that he needed to finish college and have a chance at life. He didnt need my life not that my life was bad!! I just was 25 and was divorced with 3 children! But my ex cheated on me all the time and I finally found out and wasnt going to tolerate it!! Anyhow this guy needed to expierence life without me. Shortly after we split up about six months I met another man who I have been married to now for five years!!\n\nAll Im saying is Im sure that she hears what you are saying but is probably not wanting to pursue anything serious cause she wants to give you space and time to live your life. If I can be of any futher help just email. Good Luck and keep us posted.
470359
Yes! I believe that you can still love a person and not be in love with them anymore. I've been there and its hard, but its very possible.
1128347
Well, as a wife and mother of 5 children and married for 23 yrs...I can honestly say love is unconditional and is sometimes a rollercoaster...if you are not already married, you still have a choice...but do know this friend..."what once was, can be again"...sometimes you have to return to your first love..the things you did...what you said...how you treated each other...now, if those "things" you refer to are harrassing, violence, and such...a sit down talk in a "neutral" spot is the answer there. Be honest if this must be done...be specific..& don't leave it "open ended"...like "we'll see"...I need space for now...needs to be clean cut...best of everything!
12200
it so totally depends. they can but it's not likely. i've seen some cases where they loved each other since they were 5 and got married. so yes. but mostly dumb crushes
932293
As soon as you can come up with a 100% accurate definition of love, you might be able to have this question answered for you. As it stands now, "love" is many different things to many different people. The answer one can give to this question is, he probably loved you, and loves you, "in his own way". I.e., some form of attachment is certainly present - but whether or not his conduct is compatible with *your* definition of love is a whole another question. I'm guessing that if he has done bad enough things that forced you to file for divorce when you had a baby on your hands, it is unlikely to change if you ever got back together. That's just my feeling. If you can think back at the hurtful things you have experienced, and honestly say that you can tolerate them over and over as they continue on happening in the future - then your reconciliation might stand a chance. Otherwise, you will only be prolonging the agony and wasting your time; in this case, I would encourage you to move on.
634795
Wow - you did good - for me and my wife it was 4 years.\n\nBasically we'd built up a whole load of junk and it was through a marriage course that we got it all cleared out and were able to love each other again.\n\nDetails of the nearest course can be found at:\n\nhttp://themarriagecourse.org/marriage/\n\nI cannot recommend it enough - it saved us from a very messy divorce.  And 3 years on we are still very much in love...
1089948
I've been married for over 22 years and I still have a crush on my wife.
496798
I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
1129099
You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!
628881
I did stay married for many years for my kids, but if I had it to do over....NO WAY! The biggest relief for them came when we got divorced....no more fussing, arguing, etc. They were more relieved than we were. Good Luck!!