My mom has health problems, what should I do to help?
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First of all, be patient. It's not easy, but try to imagin what is like for her to be in that position. Mostly if she is just 42.\nNow, it would be great if you can help her to come up with something that she can work in from home. For example: create an online bussines. It doesn't have to be big, you know. Or, see if there are any opening for columnists at your local paper. Something she could do from home and that can bring her benefits and ease her mind.\nShe could also create a support group for people with health issues like her. Maybe even a blog. These are just ideas.\nAs for you, with her desease, try to be with her: pay attention to when her doctor appointments are, the medicines she should take and when. Listen to her, ask what the doctors said, what does she believes she could do. Try to entertain her: rent a movie, cook her a yummy meal, help her clean up around. It's not an easy situation, but good stuff can come up from there!\nGood luck!
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The next thing would be counseling or even seeing a dietician. Sometimes depression can be linked with a poor diet. Maybe she has an underlying medical problem that is leading to this type of depression. Perhaps the doctors should try running some other types of tests if they haven't already\n\nI am sorry that you have to see your mother go through this and I am sorry that she is going through this
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your mom is going through empty nest syndrom...\n\nWith no kids to take care of she is lonley and is in need of some companionship...\nDrink is a way for her to cope with  this...\n\nHow ever she might be getting into the drinking to much...\n\nTry an interventions of sorts .. Get your other sibblings together and a range a family get together...\nYou might find this could help..\n\nAlso try calling your mom for no reason at all and ask her a silly question about cooking cleaning anything... \nI think your mom need to feel that she is needed and by asking her silly questions she will feel she is wanted ....
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First of all- you are a great kid! Thank You for being so caring towards your mother. It sounds like she needs a meds evaluation. I say this often to people on here who say their meds aren't working because yes, there are meds that may work better but she may not be dosed right either. Weight fluctuations can cause problems, etc. Her meds may not be working effectively because symptoms of depression are still evident. I would suggest that you and your Dad encourage her to see a Doc ASAP. if she has trouble paying bills, etc- re-delegate this task to someone else (Dad)- make sure she has help with household chores, etc. Focus on reducing her stress- regardless of whether it means having a hot meal on the table when she gets home, doing laundry, or whatever else needs to be done. Maybe she's due for a vacation- she should take one if she can- even if you stay in town and do small activities like going to the movies, going out for dinner, etc.
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I can only advise you to have her seek medical advice.  It could be something very harmless, or else something much more serious (such as multiple sclerosis, or complications of diabetes).
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Talk to your mother....you need help
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Call a workers comp attorney. Most of them will give you the info you need, such as if you should hire counsel, who should pay for the meds etc.\n\nGood Luck. I hope your mom feels better.
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Advise her to go to therapy, and as support, go with her. Remember that people with this disease are sensitive, so be careful. And always let her know that her illness is a disease and she can be cured with time and the right help.Take very good care, and let her know how much you care.
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I have first hand experience in dealing with cancer.  What would be very helpful?  Offer to clean the house, offer to make dinner.  Help the wife so she can focus on her husband.  Also, visit him.  For my mom, I put together a "hospital kit".  I included a washcloth, bar of soap, shampoo, magazines, new pjs' etc... whatever they like.   And once grand-dad is able to, bring your daughter often so he can see her.  That will really cheer him up!
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First of all, I'd emphasize the fact that you love her and that you're only discussing this with her because you don't want to lose her.  If you still live with her, be a good model and go for walks, drink diet sodas instead of regular, and perhaps offer to cook dinners.  Is your mom alone often?  She may be lonely or bored, so maybe the two of you could do some activities together like dance class, yoga class, aerobics, or swimming.  You don't have to stick with something that turns out boring, so find your niche.  As for the smoking, perhaps having her talk to her doctor would help.  There's actually a medication called Zyban that helps a lot with the depression and cravings people get when they try to quit but it's prescription only.  Also, if she's alone, cooking for one can be annoying.  Help her find some easy but healthy recipes so that she doesn't feel like she's wasting time.  Good luck!
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I have anxiety/depression, so it is like I have this wonderful "bank" of knowledge to draw from.  I can't give medical advise, but I can give idea and supportive advise.\n\nThe first idea is to get Mom to the doctor, any doctor that is a general practitioner.  The doctor will ask Mom a series of questions to see if her sickness and depression have symptoms he can diagnose.  Some illnesses cause depressions, this is called "organic depression", that is a depression related or stemming from the illness.\n\nIf Mom is "sick nd depressed" just in general, go to a general practitioner with her.  Sit with the doc and her and get an opinion.  Or two or three.\n\nMost health care insurance providers can also help with referrals.  If no health insurance, most cities and areas have minimum help or "public health clinics". most of which are very good at treating illnesses and depression, as they have seen it all.\n\nIf Mom is depressed, get a health check up, a referral from the doctor to go to a mental health doctor.  Treating depression is seldom a 1,2,3 magic, all gone situation.  It may take months for the meds to take effect or to find the right ones, which is very common.\n\nGetting a diagnosis enables you and mom to also research in the library and on line all the thousands of helpful and easy to read advise web pages and help pages.  In a way, this is also a "treatment" role, as it involves the person in their own healing.  Also, it tend to get the ill person a good feeling from research or that: "Ah Ha. Me too!".\n\nAll meds should be researched by you and mom, as some are not as effective as older ones, as our friendly pharmaceutical industry likes to push "new" meds which generates enormous profits.  A good example is the 85% efficacy of "MAOI" (some which have food restrictions and some which don't) over SSRI's.\n\nThe terms you will find out all about when you and mom research.  You have the power, no one else does.\n\nNaturally, exercise, not smoking, limiting caffeine and taking a close look at diet is needed.  Some foods, such ass heavy meals, starchy foods, heavy steaks, MSG, sugars all have a bad effect on many people.\n\nIf I didn't excercise, walk and bike I would be in very, very big trouble.  And I do it anyway, even if it is hellishly hot in South Florida where I live.\n\nActually, if you only know how much food plays in all this, you would be astounded.\n\nAlso, there is the people factor.  Said plain, when a person is ill and depressed, a close look at who is in the life of the person, who is a good influence and who is a bad influence is one very effective way of augmenting depressions and illnesses.\n\nAlso, the same goes for reading the news, watching the TV and movies.  From now, "light and funny" only.\n\nFear not, it does get better, and you never know, something really wonderful may happen as a result of all this.  \n\nThere are a lot of new meds these days, many options in including using generics medications, and support groups exist both in communities, churches, community centers and on line.
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I think you should still go out with her (with the full understanding that she might be in a bad mood and that would have NOTHING to do with you) Actually, she might appreciate a chance to cheer herself up, and forget about her mom's illness for a couple of hours (and, she might think very highly of you for giving her a few moments of happiness in a time of great sorrow in her life)
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Your mom needs to begin by scheduling some alone time.  She can relieve some stress by taking leisure walks or long hot baths.  Find out what things are relaxing for her.  Maybe planting a beautiful garden or reading a book. If she is a single parent, you could help her with the cleaning or cooking to relieve some of the stress of the household chores.  Remember her health is vital to your happiness.
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wow. srry bout that. my mom is like that 2. she gets head ahces all the time! and migranes. you could make her a nice HOT tub off water. for a bubble bath. rent a movie and do somthing fun for just you and her. or you could set up a date at a massageing place 4 her!!! (these things work!)
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Take her to the emergency room - and sit there with her and hold her hand.  This is above your head, but she needs nourishment and professional help. NOW.
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u should go to the doctors that something important for ur grannys health
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Go speak to your mother/father or caretaker.  They should know that this has started for any future health concerns.  They will be able to point you in th direction of what you should do next.