Has anyone here ever gotten back with there EX after divorce?
414212
There are many happy re-marriages after divorce\n\nIf you're interested in finding a website which has many happy reports of successful remarriages go to http://rejoiceministries.org it's a website specifically for people who are interested in reconciliation after seperation or divorce\n\nhttp://marriagebuilders.com is a website that has lots of suggestions by dr willard harley on how men & women's needs differ & how to identify the needs which are lacking & most importantly how to go about getting those needs met - a very good book to get is His Needs Her Needs but he also offers other resources as well as some free questionaires which are taken from his book which i suggest that you print up 3 copies of all 5 questionaires they'll help you to know where to start on your road to ReMarriage\n\nhttp://midlife.com is a website that dr jim conway has which discusses mid life issues & how to deal with them - he offers a chatroom where he goes in to answer questions weekly on wednesdays\nhe wrote the book Men in Midlife Crisis & his deceist 1st wife wrote the book Women in Midlife Crisis - women go thru MLC at an earlier age than men & many marriage issues & divorces come to a boiling point during this time period in life\n\nanother place to try is http://divorcebusting.com which is the website board for readers of michelle weiner-davis\n\na great book to read while you're seperated from your wife is the book When the One You Love Wants to Leave by dr donald harvey
1091364
I was divorced & remarried after 3 years. \nI have now been remarried for 26 happy years. \nA marriage has to be worked at. \nThere are always going to be bad times but the trick is to work through them together & to support each other.
116892
Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
461455
No, you will not get back together with your ex, however, a nice man named Carl will come into your life...he is "the one"
455055
when I was in college I was, I can't access IM right now due to my location, but I will tell you this. I sped up her divorce, which was good for him and her. I was her Rock, because her family didn't like what she was doing and basically shut her out. After the Divorce her family started to accept her again and at the point I became "to annoying to be with" and now she is living in AZ somewhere with her dream man from HighSchool. So in a sense I ended a bad relationship, Got really really heart broken (which I learned alot about myself) and now 2 other people are happier because of what I did
191106
I do!!!  Tried everything including counseling but nothing worked except no talking for almost 3 years.  She did all kinds of stupid things that almost killed my kids.  She tried to break us up for no reason. I was nothing but nice to her but didn't let her control me.  We started as best friends until we had kids and she couldn't control our life.
1044045
It happened...  Ulitmately we got divorced...
437904
A lot depends on what broke it up in the first place. If it was infidelity, then no it will never work out. If it was a difference of opinion, probably so. If it was a petty little something, try again....It might work the 2nd time around. Good Luck!
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
1085487
That all depends on your actions after the divorce and whether or not you're mature enough to continue to remain friends with your ex and strive to keep continuity in the lives of your children. \nI've been divorced from my sons' mother since 1989, they have both lived with me since then and to this day their mother visits here regularly and they see her constantly. She and I have remained friends despite our differences and as time as passed the wound of a failed marriage have healed and our children have grown with the feeling of a mutual love from both parents.
854149
THAT'S A TOUGHY.\n\nIN SOME CASES, THEY DO, BUT IN MOST CASES THEY DON'T.\n\nPROCEED WITH CAUTION.  GET TO KNOW HIM AGAIN BEFORE YOU MAKE ANY DECISIONS ABOUT GETTING BACK WITH HIM.\n\nIF THE SITUATION WAS AN ABUSIVE ONE IN THE PAST, THEN I WOULD SAY TO AVOID THAT AT ALL COSTS, BECAUSE RARELY PEOPLE LIKE THAT WILL EVER CHANGE.\n\nGOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
105631
YES! Getting a divorce was the best thing I ever did! My husband left me for another woman and it was the BEST decision HE ever made!  I finally found out who I was and it was the best few years I ever had (after I finally got over him leaving). My son was 3 and it was difficult for him, but he is 8 now and is a very happy little boy! I am now engaged with the love of my life and couldn't be happier!
1154062
I think yes.. you are..I know someone got divorce and remarried again to his ex wife..\n\nThere's no harm for taking another chance of going back to your wife, not only because of the fact that you have a daughter.  Somebody said "love is sweatier at the second time around.  Talk to your ex wife and discuss things with her.  Try to know if she stills love you.. Intuition will not deny if she still have feelings for you,you will feel it right from the bottom of your heart.  You just have to take time, especially after all what happen you are still friends.. It will not be difficult to bring back the things again.. If this not work, at least you try.. and give yourself a break and focus yourself on your child...\n\nThe girl living with you right now, be honest to her.. If you dont really love her, why waste time? or why hurt her?  Honesty is always a pain for everyone, but remember it always brings you peace of mind.  No things in this world greater than having a peace of mind.  Knowing that you are being fair to everyone.
1155505
Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.
827079
Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
569914
Sounds like you really miss your ex....
386154
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.