why are bosses so mean? or why is MY boss so mean?
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kirstinlilloth!  the beatings will continue till morale improves!!!  every time i treated my employees like people, i got screwed.  how about my employee who told me she was having a tough pregnancy and may lose the baby.  i let her go home early so many times because she was feeling bad that it was like she was a part time worker.  THEN i find out from another employee that she's not having a difficult pregnancy at all---she's going SHOPPING every time i let her off early.  guess who felt like the biggest chump in the world?  ME.  kick the whiners into submission, i say!\n\nlol---i'm such a chump!  probably my favorite was when a letter informing me that our utilities were about to be shut off due to non payment landed on my desk.  digging through the mountains of paperwork on the AP persons desk i found 3 months worth of electric invoices that hadn't been processed.  i sat down with the ap clerk and we had a "Come to Jesus" talk.  but it didn't do any good.  i later had to let her go because she would rather talk then do any work.\n\noh, here's another thing bosses have to put up with---employees who abuse funeral leave policies.  one of my employees got caught trying to take funeral leave for a 2nd cousin twice removed or some crap like that on her ex-boyfriend's side of the family.  lol!\n\nlol!  you guys are funny!  it's easy to tell from the answers that none of you has ever been a boss.\n\nthese are the kind of things bosses have to put up with:\n\nlate, tardy or absent employees\n\nemployees who take off a day without asking\n\nemployees who spend too much time on the phone with 'personal' calls  (a friend of mine once had an employee who spent over 40 hours in a week on the phone!)\n\nemployees who lie or steal\n\nemployees who abuse sick day policies\n\nemployees who abuse dress code policies\n\nemployees who take long lunch or regular breaks\n\nemployees who see the workplace as a place to socialize\n\nemployees who bring their sex lives to work\n\nemployees who use the company's property for their own use\n\nemployees who miss deadlines\n\nemployees who do shoddy or inaccurate work\n\nemployees who constantly whine about going home early\n\nemployees who work overtime without permission\n\nemployees who won't use the time clock properly\n\nemployees who can't think for themselves\n\nemployees who aren't good managers of their time\n\nemployees who let work pile up on their desk because they are too busy visiting\n\nNOW---in addition to taking care of all the ABOVE things, you as a boss have your own job to do.  why isn't it done?  sometimes you spend all day babysitting your moronic employees and then have to work late to get your job done.  i used to say that i could start on 'my' job at 5pm, when all my direct reports went home.\n\nand you wonder why the bosses are mean
901654
My boss is an absolute sweetheart and if i need anything from her,she's there. my actual job sux but I'd rather put up with a shitty job with a god boss than a nice job with a shitty boss.
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Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!
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I did. My boss came in one day and asked why I always looked like I was in a bad mood(he said it with an attitude) so I said: You'd be in a bad mood too if you worked for an As*hole like you. He looked at me, shocked and then said , you know I should fire you for that...I replied: Fire me then.....We stood there glaring at each other for a moment then he said....go back to work.. and that was the end of it. I guess you have to know how far you can push the envelope with your boss.
865247
my boss is really thoughtfull and kind and is always there to help and nothng is any ever bother ! all my other bosses have been complete ass holes
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I like my job because I help people. I dislike (hate is a very strong word) my job because my boss is a micro-manager. She would prefer we adhere to a schedule instead of help the customers. The way they are treating us, like two year olds, it makes us think they are trying to get rid of us (probably true)
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The answer is that she is just being personal and that's not being professional. I have seen one of my lady bosses treating several staff that she dislike this way and worst, she can be a totally different person with staff that she LIKES. After a while, all the staff that she don't like left the company and she still thinks she is right. There's only three solutions to the this problem\n1) Leave and find a better environment-you may even have another one of this ppl in yr new workplace-so its realy a matter of luck\n2) Stay and ignore her completely. If you don't have a line of report to her, just do your job and make sure that she cannot find any loopholes that you didn't do your job correctly\n3) Thirdly, try to win her over and get into her good books. It sounds tough but sometimes, we have to take a look at where we have gone wrong and amend our own character. Its not easy and takes alot of you swallowing your pride and giving her the leeway\n\nOther than this, I dunno how to help. I have been working for almost 20 yrs, seen the good and bad of bosses and I'm still learning daily how to handle them\n\nGood luck...
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I'm truly sorry this has happened to you.  So, was your boss nice about it, or was she kind of be-little-ing?  You say she made you feel like a small child.  You know, we all have our bad days.  Guess what else?  We ALL make mistakes!  I bet SHE has even made a few mistakes herself.  Try not to feel stupid.  Did you apologize for the mistakes?  If not, do so if you feel you can.  Try so hard to concentrate totally on your job and I think you will be fine.  IF, though, she is not nice about the "writing you up thing" then I'd look for other employment.  Not as a cop out, but sometimes women bosses can be a little...ya know!  what's up with the internet priv. being taken away.  Sounds like a little bit of a power trip to me. Just go in there tomorrow with a smile on your face and confidence about you and have a wonderfully beautiful day!
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very true indeed!\nhow about this,\nwhy are bosses like diapers?\nthey are always on your a** and their full of sh*t.
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My boss at my last job did, that's why I left. He was verbally abusive towards his employees. He would call them into meetings just to vent, cussing everyone out for NO reason. He would never tell us what we were doing good but that every thing was always bad (which, it wasn't). He would scream, use VERY graphic language (fu.ck, gd...), tell us that we "needed our job because no other place would take us", and so on. He was the biggest prick I have EVER worked for and I've worked for quite a few.
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GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
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YES\nsometimes the people i work with can be so miserable.\nI love my job, i would just like to get rid of a few of my co-workers that are mean!
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It is a funny thing, they say, about bosses.  What they say is seldom what they mean, even if they mean what they say.  \n\nAsking a person for an honest opinion is still in hope that the opinion will be good.  \n\nWhat I would encourage you to do is be honest, but be positive.  I would focus overwhelmingly on the positive attributes, but be honest about ways to help his business succeed (assuming he owns the business), or ways to become an "even better boss".  Feel free to add in a touch of humor, if that will lighten the mood, (such as, "I know you have it tough dealing with an employee with me, but").  \n\nIf there are some tough things you really want to say, let him know your intentions in answering the questions upfront (I have grown to appreciate and trust you and your wife, and will answer as honestly as I can in hopes of helping you get ahead).  That would mean a lot to me if I had handed you the questionnaire.
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Well you will always remain in the situation you are in.....struggling to get by....you know why?  Because you spend way too much energy on conjuring up a lie rather than focusing on the truth.  His boss probably isn't a jerk.  People have businesses to run....they need dependable people....not liars!  Grow up, accept responsibility for your irrisponsible behavior.....People do on occassion oversleep....Bosses understand and accept this from honest, loyal and hard workers.  I'm a boss, and have  had some real great workers share this with me and guess what?  I have much more respect for them because they were HONEST with me.  This way, I know they have integrity!
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he is just trying to be nice- of course maybe it's just wind?\n\nGive the guy a break- maybe his interpersonal skills aren't that good. It's better than a boss who frowns all day, surely.
985004
People have a work personality and then their real personality. They are just trying to get along with people that they don't really like and suck up to the boss.
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When i first started reading, I had a feeling your performance is not up to expectations and he trying to motivate you, but now I think he has a personal ego problem. Why dont u try and tell him that u have several urgent tasks and look busy? I know it is annoying, but leaving is not the solution. You will probably end up with a boss that has a bad temper or personality flaw. \n\nWhy dont u try and send him an annonmous note telling him that everybody hates his ways, but make sure he will never find out.