Why do so many men think it is okay to abuse women?
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Often times the kind of men that abuse women were either abused as a child, or witnessed the same kind of treatment to their mothers. It relates back to the man's childhood in most instances. Unfortunately, they rarely change. If a woman is in an abusive relationship, she must get out now and find help. And if it's possible, and the man's willing, he should get help as well.
229291
everyone of us has some sadistic characteristic (like to torture others) and masochistic (like to suffer)one,,some people have one more than the other    (normal people have it very balanced)so the chance of a woman like to be spanked is the same chance that a man like it , the same chance that she will like to spank a guy, and the same chance that aman will like it...\nDepend on what i mentioned above \n\nBy the way one of been sexually weired (of the ten chractristic of being weired ) is being sadistic or masochistic...\n\nBecause of the man culture and his demonation on women for long time  women tend to be masochistic more a little than men)
308932
Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
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I agree with Blazin_Tikal. But I'd add that that is a typical bad behavior on men's parts, and men should be aware of that tendency and not do it. There are just as many bad tendencies on women's parts (as a whole) that they should be aware of and not acting on.
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You haven't met very many women, I'm guessing. \n\nWe aren't negative. Well, some of us are, but not all of us. \n\nAnd those of us who have negative tendencies often see that as being critical of things around us. That means we can provide criticisms as well as praise. \n\nI just think many women evaluate things more than many men do.
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Few Men are worth a Woman's tears......and the ones who are, won't make them cry....\n\nI wish I could give a better answer than that, because I really don't know. Some people are mean and do it just for that reason, thinking that it empowers them over another person. Others have so much of themselves invested in another person that even when something happens unintentionally, it can still cut like a knife.
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
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Honest to God, my head is just spinning after reading some of the bull roar some of you women are answering with.\n\nTo the person asking the question: Read what most the zany women are saying and pack it away in your brain.\n\nThey are rationalizing with excuses and not claiming responsibility for their actions. Pure and simple.\n\nWhen the shoe is on the other foot they scream it out loud and clear when a man cheats, how terrible and nasty it is.\n\nThis my young man is known as a typical double-standard that MANY women base their thought-processing skills on: Being irrational while judging others and complete hypocrites.
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Umm, "u women" are not ok with it. I happen to be a woman and I think it's wrong regardless of the gender of the victim. You need anger management help though... if that is the result of a rape, please get help for both problems. No one should suffer that trauma alone.
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all women "manipulate" to a certain degree.  for example I do not feel that I am an extreme manipulator.  I prefer to think of myself as a "motivator".  In all honesty, a lot of men do need a little pushing once in a while.
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have watched so many friends make so many bad choices about the men in their lives.\n\nBut that's not really my business. Except for in cases of abuse, I've known to keep my mouth shut. Physical abuse is obvious, and demands to be addressed. I don't think anyone can claim to love a person, and then politely pretend to not notice black eyes.\n\nBut the topic is never as easy to raise at it ought to be. To watch her in physical pain hurt me deeply, but for her to respond to my concern with anger nearly killed me. My heart broke when this rational, intelligent woman looked me in the eye and actually uttered that sick joke of a cliché -- "But I love him."\n\nThere are a hundred ways to argue with that statement. None of them will work. For all of the women determined to stay in violent relationships, there is at least one person who has tried everything to get her out.\n\nI think why they stay is apparent. The abuse never starts out as physical. He doesn't break her jaw on the first date. If he did, he'd be a straight out psychopath, and not your everyday neighbor/wife-beater. \n\nMen, I understand and appreciate that the vast majority of you do not beat up women. But, the bottom-line is there are far too many of you fuckers who do. Perhaps it is unfair, but I am also left to wonder how many potential wife-beaters are out there, just waiting for a woman to stick around long enough. \n\nBy the time a man full-on hits a woman, he is comfortable that she's not going anywhere. He's confident because he has already put her through a courtship full of gradually increasing psychological torture. As any good misogynist knows, a broken woman is not born, she is cultivated.\n\nCareful observation can often identify an abusive man within 10 minutes of talking to him. Sometimes, it takes longer. But, by Date #3, I guarantee he has thrown out at least one neon-sign of a clue that he will someday drag her by her hair. \n\nSome women will dismiss the warning signs as being insignificant. Or, worse, an infatuated women could see the character defects as endearing. She may find his jealousy to be charming, or determine that his rudeness to the waiter is manly, in a take-no-shit kind of way.\n\nThe goal of a batterer is to convince this woman that she cannot live without him. He accomplishes this by stifling anything about her that is her own. With an abusive man, what begins as a jealousy will inevitably turn into raging paranoia. At first, she may find it sweet that he really wants her to be with him, and not join her friends after work. Soon, her friends will stop asking, knowing she "can't" go. She'll be grateful, because the lack of an invitation is easier than making up excuses. Eventually he will cut her off completely from her friends and family, leaving her with no support outside of him. She will be utterly dependent on him, which, of course, was his entire plan.\n\nShe will love him, and she will need him, because he will be all that she has.\n\nBy the time the actual physical abuse occurs, it's too late. The physical violence is simply the culmination of a long and carefully planned ego-trip. Proof, in a maniacal frenzy, that he can do whatever the hell he wants.\n\nIt is far too late for her friends and family to help her. Where were they when she said (again) that she couldn't attend the [fill-in-the-blank]? Why didn't they speak up when he openly insulted her at the last function they did make it to?\n\nThey were where I have been: biting their tongues, knowing it's not their business, and waiting for something bad enough to happen that could justify butting in.\n\nThey will wait for a bruise, and she will say "but I love him." Their hands will be tied, and their hearts will break.
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thats b/c a lot of guys dont know how to respect women and maybe have the lack of a father figure to teach them otherwise
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Because in our society today, we dont teach men to respect women the way they should.  What ever happened to chivalry?  We teach them that it is okay to demean them or to take from them what they want.  Women are objectified as opposed to idolized.  They dont remember, it was a woman that brought their ass into this world, and it can be a woman to take em out of it.  Sad really...
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because they are taught by their mothers and 99% of women I know or have met are coniving, manipulative and/or deceitful.  Most are selfish as well.  Men aren't so trustworthy either though, now that I think about it...
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Because they have no consideration for women. Women are displays of sex and domestic workers. Some men are highly selfish and don/t consider the feelings of the other person. I don't think that  you can completely trust a man, because hey, he is a man, but you can get to a point where you can accept him for who he is as long as he doesn't jeopardize your relationship. Think though, the guy who cheated on me is now being cheated on  with a woman that he is absolutely in love with. Karma is a bitch with highheels and a miniskirt....:)
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Women should be treated with respect in all cases. We have some immature men in the military who think it is OK to sexually abuse women - be they POWs or fellow soldiers. They have no dignity. They drink until they are drunk and then feel no shame. They are losers. We need mature men not boys in the military. We need military discipline. Yes we need to keep men and women separate to protect women. \n\nReal men do not abuse women.
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Good question - some do it because they feel most things in their life they cant control. some because they think it is part of being a real man. some because they hate themselves and feel weak. and I am guessing there are many more reasons. Many years ago most men where brought up this way. Times were different and women were more like slaves then mates but times have changed and women are more equal so this says that things are improving and with saying that and in time things will continue to change so people learn to respect other people regardless of their sex or anything else for that matter.