I don't want to live with either of my parents.?
412516
you can come live with me if you want, i have an extra bedroom :) no, seriously!
727791
DON'T YOU JUST HATE WHEN PARENTS USE THAT LINE LOL......\nmy mother and father were the same when i was living with them they would both say that to me and i was like shut up let me learn things for myself but they would still put in what they thought.... even if i didn't want to hear it. I'm 20 and now living out of home and they don't interfere don't get me wrong if you are still at home i'm not telling you to move out cause it's not easy belive me, but you really need to put your foot down. i belive at the age of 20 you are old enough to make your own decsions whatever they may be wheatehr they like it or not. parents always worry and try to take control i think it's just in them lol. you have to tell him that he would have once had to learn for himself and now it's your turn and it's time for him to let you grow into being a good man, tell him that you were raised to do the right thing and he sould trust you.\ntalk to him mate\ngood luck and i hope your dad realises that you are old enough to make your own choices \nmel
66825
Unfortunately there's nothing you can do, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you that,but what you can do is remember none of it's your fault. Love both of your parents and keep a good relationship with both of them as long as you can and if they divorce be there for them, they are having a hard time too.Just because they can't get along with each other doesn't mean they don't still love you.
1079612
Seems like you need to get away from your mother and boyfriend.\nI also think you should tell them that they are at the point of driving you insane.  If need be, get a boyfriend that will cause you less stress. Since you can't get a new mother, just limit your contact with her.
31954
Take advantage of your parents while they will let you.  Live at home for the first couple of years then go off if that's what you think you want to do.  It  may not be what your friends are doing, but it's the best thing for you.
761895
It may seem a great idea to stay with ur brother, no parents, be your own boss but believe me, you will soon wish you had gone with your parents when the novelty wears off. And this "friend" is only willing to come and see you because your parents aren't there proves he's not a real friend or he would have been to your home many times, and you to his. Which leaves your brother, just you and him, what if you fall out, and remmber your brother has his own life, he will not be able to provide the parental support and dedication that maybe you are used to. You don't realise how much you need your parents, or how much they mean to you until you are seperated from them. I would go with them if I were you as you have the rest of your life to live independently, as an adult, but I will tell you now that it's well overrated and you will treasure the time you were with your parents. I still pine for home and my parents and I'm 30 and lived out of home a long time now, though I see them/talk to them daily it isn't the same. Make the most of the years with your family because all too soon you will be fending for yourself. When you are older you will understand why I'm saying all this, and you will also have some real friends who know you and will be be there 4U when you need them. Enjoy your youth, you only get to live it once.
263908
First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
698524
believe it or not your parents know more than you do\n\nu dont pay your own way so u have to live by the rules that they put forth....... get a job..... show that u are responsible........ give your parents $20 a week........ act like an adult and u will be treated better........ but being grounded for not following their rules isnt having your rights taken away...... it is called growing up
412093
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
434168
You two need to stay apart.  You're like gasoline and fire.  It happens.  If you were 5 year olds, your parents would separate you.  Now you're adults, so separate yourselves and move on.
153428
Try talking to them one at a time probably when the other one is gone. I dont know how you parents are but if its a serious problem you dont wanna make it worse you know so just ask at different times. Good luck mama!
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
410176
Stay away.  Listen to your mom.  I know at your age you really don't want to, I didn't.  But she has been there and done that.
47139
Deciding which parent to live with is never an easy decision, first try to come up with a pros and cons list, that might be a good first step. Secondly, decide what it might be like, a week, a month, a year, after your there, deciding if you can adjust to another surrounding is a hard, so give it some thought. Personally, I would move to Florida, just because, depending on the area, can be a really enjoyable place to live. Also, try to figure out as much as you can about where your mom lives, and what it is like there, what you can do for fun, what you could possibly do for work (not sure how old you are but ohh well...) and so on.....I hope I have given you enough to think about and good luck with your decision.
926565
You have a couple of options:\n1) Do like Lizzie Borden  (ax + 40 whacks = no more parental issues)\n2) Move out - hey, at age 35, you can get a place of your own)\n3) Realize your parents don't run your life, and just do what you darned well please whether they like it or not.\n\nGood luck.
960131
Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
1052895
1) They love you.\n2) They want to be there for you.  \n3)  You are never to old to live with your parents many people do that for many reasons other than financial.\n4) Getting assistance from parents in this world isn't always there for most people.  Take advantage of it until you get on your own two feet and stable sincerely.\n5) I have three children and I love them with all my heart and I would hate to see them in any bad situation what so ever.  I will give them anything I can possibly give within my god given abilities.  \nFor love and only love that is reason enough to accept it and to offer help.  If you do decide to move back in then tell them that you want to help them with chores and other things around the house.  Or just ask if they can be there to support you in any decision you make financially and emotionally.  They will understand They wont be hurt if you are honest and truthful with them.