my boyfriend is on dexatrim max and I got upset because it's an unnatural way to lose weight?
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Work with him. Research it. Ask your doctor about sideaffects. Workout with him. Tell him youll help him lose weight if he'll do it naturally. Eat fruits and good foods from God. He will understand if he loves you. Good Luck\n-Brad
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First off how good of shape is your boy friend? Because I can tell you from experience that I recently gained and lost 20 lbs. I was just on a fast food things and drinking lots of beer, and I started to notice that my penis was not performing well anymore. It would get hard and then it would just go limp with out me being able to control it. Well fast forward a month and a half later I have lost the 20 pounds my abs are looking great and now that more blood gets pushed down there via my stomach muscles, I stay hard all the way through. \n\nTell him to start working out his stomach\nkegal exercises are must.\nThis will help his problem.
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i, too, am overweight and my husband tells me every day how beautiful i am and how much he loves me. don't doubt him or his love for you. embrace him and his love.
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Refocus your anger to getting your figure back.  People often say that if you love someone it doesn't matter, blah, blah, blah...Bottom line is that looking good for your significant other is sign of respect for yourself and him/her.  Doesn't matter male or female obesity kills just the same.  If you grew 30 pounds that last 5 years, what about the next 5 years?  Another 30 pounds?  Lose the weight, make him drool, then dump his sorry a** and go get a real man
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Has he had his throid checked?  A simple bloodtest will be able to answer many questions.  He may even have food allergies that cause him to binge on food.  This is often triggered by stress, other food or drink, chemical imbalance in the brain or body, or heredity, just to name a few!  If he isn't already doing so, he should be keeping a detailed journal/diary of everything that he eats & drinks.  The times included, as well as how he is feeling and what he is doing prior to eating will be helpful if he wants to pinpoint his most "dangerous" binge times!  Have you thought about letting HIM take care of this on his own?  Since it sounds like his problems have become your problems, perhaps if you lightened your load by concentrating on yourself,  he could gain some inner strength if he saw that his wife was happy doing things that did not require him to be her sole provider of happiness.  You may want to explore some type of couples counseling, or go it alone in order to get a grasp on just what seems to making BOTH of you unhappy.  Something is hiding beneath all of this & it will take some time & work to get it out to the surface before it can be dealt with.  If you want to help him, you first must help yourself by becoming educated on your own strengths & weaknesses.  He is an adult & so are you, & being a good wife doesn't mean that you must mother him, (as it sounds like you have been doing).  You say that going out on your own makes him feel worse.  How does it make you feel?  He may be using his weight to manipulate you into staying with him, as you have become his security blanket.  Please get some help before you end up in worse shape than he is in.  This is a complex issue that can & will tear your heart to pieces if you continue to attempt surgery on a patient with no formal training, which in a way, is what you are doing.  One of you has to take charge of yourselves if you are going to survive this & go on...with or without one another.
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im 30 pounds heavier for my body built, my bf still loves me like you love your gf, but he's a bit harsh and mean when he tells me those things, so good thing ya aint putting her down, i agree with the others, join the gym together and eat healthy, if you buy her a nice excercising outfit, she might be inspired to join the gym. that's what my bf did! he bought me one whole outfit from nike, and now i go to the gym 4 days a week.
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DO NOT LOSE HEART, EVERYONE SLIPS UP A BIT WHEN THEY ARE ON A DIET. I HAVE HAD MY HUSBAND ON ONE FOR TWO MONTHS, AND HE IS ALLOWED TO HAVE TREATS AT THE WEEKEND. OTHERWISE ITS TOO BORING. AND HE IS STILL LOSING WEIGHT. THE THING IS NOT TO OVER INDULGE ,YOU CAN EAT MORE OR LESS ANYTHING IN MODERATION. SO DO NOT BERATE YOURSELF TOO MUCH.
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why would you want to put that dangerous medication into your body. if  you really want to lose weight just eat right and exercise
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He is out of line. He didn't have to throw away the cake.\nCalling you fat is so degrading. That's rude ansd mean. He\nneeds to realize during pregnancy and after aome women tend to pick up weight. That weight can go away by exercising, \neating lots of veggies and fruit, eating baked fish, yogurt,\ntaking vitamins and minerals. If he wants you to lose weight\nthen he should go about it the right way. Being rude about it is going to help or motivate you. Taking you by the hand and encouraging you is the right way. But if he loves who you are then your weight shouldn't even bother him. Beauty\ncomes from within and shines on the outside. If he keeps \nbeing rude about your weight then his love is limited and\nbased on how you look.
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Hi Im on the lipotrim now and ive lost 13lbs in less than 4 weeks. It requires a lot of willpower and you will just be having shakes, mousse or soup and no food. People say its bad for you but how bad can going from obese to overweight be? Surely weighing less is better for you than struggling with a diet where you only lose a pound a week and getting bored. Ive stuck to this cos it actually works and I can see the results when I try clothes on and look in the mirror
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Sounds like you DB is not under control.  Even a blood sugar taken 2 hours after a meal should not be that high...You may not feel symptoms of hyperglycemia because your body is used to levels that high and it would be a lot higher before you felt differently...You need to check you blood sugars at least 4 times a day, starting with a fasting blood sugar first thing in the morning, then 2 hours after every meal and at bedtime.  If your doctor can't control you with the pills, he may have to start insulin.  Go see your doc and follow the dietary calories that were ordered for you....\nGood luck...
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U need to get your self esteem checked and stop the dieting.  You do not need to lose any more weight.  If you dont trust your boyfriend not to cheat on you cause you need to lose 20 lbs then you have to deal with that and find out why your so paranoid about it.  Has he cheated before?  \n\nSad to see a girl with her self esteem so skewed
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I am going through the same thing, my boyfriend has not cheated on me, but he makes me misserable, when I look at him I want to throwup. I just take it one day at a time, also exercise is a good way to realease endorphins, and those help make you happy, I probably spend to much time exercising, but at least it is productive. I wish I could give you some better advice, I would say break up with him, but sometimes that is hard to do, if you need someone to talk to let me know, I am always here to help.
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First, he needs to see a diabetic specialist or his family doctor. Ask for an AC1 test. What have his sugars been over the past three months? Has he been snacking? As well, 4 small meals isn't really enough. He should be eating 3 well-balanced meals (your local diabetes association or doctor can help you with this and there are places that can offer advice on nutrition for diabetics) with snacks in between. Remember, raw vegetables are better than cooked and be careful with fruits. Fruits contain sugar and not all fruits contain the same amount fructose. Also, read the ingredients on foods you buy. Some foods contain an outragous amount of sugar even though they say "lite" or "fat-free". Also, remember, less fat is better. How much does he weigh? The more he's overweight, the higher his sugars are likely to go. Exercise is also important. Don't worry about joining the local gym, just a walk in the evening or something like that will do. Maybe a swim. It doesn't have to be difficult. Most of all, though, talk to your doctor. Insulin and medication levels may have to be changed or tests may have to be run. Your doctor is an invaluable resource in this matter. No food in the world is going to do what your husband and your doctor can do.
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Hey Brian.  Diagnosed w/Addison's in 94 and all risidual effects due to such; also living with Epilepsy, three ulcers, effects of surgical abdomal tumor removal, blah, blah, blah, etc... meds include but not limited to:\ncortef, diazide, topomax, protonix, provigil, sodium suppl., potassium suppl., \nOldest daughter diag. Leukemia, in remission now, just had her baby 5 months ago. I am a successful business woman, will rule a small country some day.  I cope great, take meds regularily, just cannot miss that's all.  Eat maybe 2600-4000 calories daily to keep my weight of 130 lbs up, lots and lots of beef-go figure??? \nI am happy, content, healthy, sexy, kind, gentle, wonderful, I say healthy cause I really am considering-everything is under control. There is more, but can't remember due to seizures. he he he
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I agree with the "Other George W" that your can leave if you think you must. Personally, I think you should.\nYou seem worried that leaving him because he is morbidly obese somehow makes you a bad person. You are not. If he tried to loose weight (seriously and honestly), then you might want to give him another chance. But from your description he doesn't give a damn. What does this tell you about him? You are willing to accomodate and help him, but he is utterly unwilling to do the same for you. \nNow just imagine he were a drug addict (he seems to be a food addict): Do you believe anyone would think you shold stay with him no matter what even though he is unwilling to work on his addiction? If he won't help himself, you cannot either. \nBy the way, your fear of getting a call from hospital about him is well-founded, and it could be anything - breathing, heart attack or stroke. He is highest risk. \nPlease, take care of yourself as well - he is not the only one who deserves someone caring for him. Good luck!
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I have been on Medifast; Optifast and other like it.  Don't waste your time.  I have been on Atkins, weight watchers, South Beach and taken diet pills.  He is what finally worked for me.  I cut out deserts, bread and pasta.  I eat a lot of salads, chicken, fish and fresh fruits and vegetables.  But, I drink a whole load of water.  To make it tastier, I squeeze fruit into the water.  I found this helps me loose weight and still feel full.  I also do some exercise.  In my opinion, these diets are all full of crap.