Now that my marriage is over, How can I cheer myself up?
409846
Celebrate life! Life is too precious to worry about people who don't care.......Go out with friends, volunteer somewhere, get a dog, join a club....... and the biggest thing is that you have to learn to be alone. If you are ok with yourself then you'll do better.  The right person is out there. It may take awhile, but she is there.......start looking!
1048271
Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
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Oh Lotte, you will not survive, you will THRIVE, sistah!!\n\nrelease your husband , release your guilt, get to know yourself again and embrace your future and all it's possibilities!!\n\nit will take time, some days will still be sad, but you'll be happy again before you know it.\n\ni am living the same thing right now, i know it sucks. just keep walking...
112509
Play games again like in the beginning...flirt, kiss passionately and then just walk away, smack a few asses playfully while doing housework or when the in-laws are looking the other way.  Take more personal time with de-stressing activities like bitching to your friends, yoga, or excercise to make him/her miss you more.  "Marital aids" like small toys or (especially) lubes of various sorts add whole new dimensions to your sex life as well.
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I'll always reward myself with little present, spend myself to watch moving "egg: funny movie, meaning full movie", get a close friend go traveling...etc. but what important is yourself must think positively, make yourself happy, do the thing that can make yourself happy. if you can switch your mood positively. go to find a good book to "clean" your sad & lonly heart. Be happy, coz there r still someone care about you.
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Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
300711
yes go jump around your house and put on some music...and SMILE! that will cheer you up! take a bubble Bath!
125966
start each day with the thought you are alive and have a day to do whatever you want to do\n\nif your husband leaves to work before him, give him a sloppy kiss\n\ndo some quiet meditation before you sleep\n\nbe a minimalist and try not to accumulate, be more conscious about the beauty of nature\n\nread an interesting book, have a fun conversation, and meet someone you always wanted to meet, if you do this regularly you wuld have a happy life\n\noh yeah - don't read the newspapers and don't watch TV - they only have ads - of things you should have which you don't have or miserable stories around the world about bombs and killings
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
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Pray.  Give thanks for all I have had in this life.  Wish good things for my family.  Write a note to my hubby and kids telling them how much I love them and to not be sad for too long.  To go on with life.  Be at peace.
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Be very kind to yourself.  Let yourself be sad about how things didn't work out, but after a reasonable amount of time, start to distract yourself from your sad feelings.  Be around friends that make you laugh, do nice things for yourself, take time getting to know yourself again and what you want out of life besides what you don't have, then start taking steps to make all of your dreams come true.  With time your heart will heal.
926906
Oh dear, maybe you are putting too much emphasis on your marriage. It seems that the new car smell has worn off. It sounds like you still love your husband, but you feel as though something is missing. It is, your life. Whatare you doing with yourself to decompress? Your mate and your child shouldn't be the only focus in life. Get a hobby. I mean that in the most genuine and caring way. Find a healthy form of exercising those mental muscles that will also boost your self esteem. And for goodness sake, do not get involved with another man, any kind of way. You have to realize that you are going thru a new chapter in your life, it is growing pains that you are having, just like when you were an adolescent. Keep the activity simple but very rewarding.Your blues will pass, but keep your personal activity.
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Realize what went wrong.\nThere is no fixing this if the marriage ended but make sure it doesn't happen again by not repeating past mistakes no matter who was at fault.\nPick Yourself up.\nStart attending events that interest you.\nSince you must be older , possibly look for senior activities even at large senior centers where you can go have dinner in the dining hall and talk with people your age if you don't have a strong friend network.
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find a couple small things that give you joy, and set aside time for yourself each day to do them - maybe as simple as walking quietly on some path by your house, or painting.\n\nFind ways to connect with other people in a social setting - take a community ed pottery class or something.\n\nFind a group of people who are worse off than you and volunteer some time to help them.\n\nJoin a support group for people going through a divorce.
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My guess is your hubby has no idea you are this unhappy.  I don't think your hubby misrepresented himself, I think he was trying his best for you to be with him.  Now that you are, he stopped trying.  Time for a serious conversation.  Honey, I am unhappy, I want to work through this but I need some things to change.  Let him know the things he used to do were important to you.  Let him know one of the reasons you were so certain he was right for you was that he did the little loving gestures, and you miss them.  Tell him you need to hugs and kisses during the day, and more of a lead up to sex than "take your clothes off".  Seriously, you can prepare yourself too, read a sexy book before bed time, think about what excites you, buy some toys for you and hubby to use, watch a dirty movie together.  My guess is since you are so unhappy you haven't taken the time to make hubby feel special either.   I think if you pay him more attention, he may do more of the same.  \nNow to be harsh, you are not with a fantasy man, no one is perfect, stop expecting him to be.  I am sure he doesn't think you are perfect either.   You sound very young, try to be more mature. I think you are saying you were rebounding when you met your hubby, that is your fault not his.\nHonestly though, if you work together and communicate,   I think you can make your marriage work.  Stop thinking about what you want but don't have, start thinking of what you have and how to make it better.  Try to be happy and work with what you have.  \nWe all have moments of doubt, that is normal.  But if you love and respect your hubby and he does the same, you can build something wonderful.  Don't look for the easy way out, try to figure out how to fix your problems (a lot of what you said sounds like your issues not his).  His telling you he didn't cheat but came close, is him letting you know he is not happy either, what can you do to make him feel special and wanted?  In a marriage it is not all about you, it is about "us".  \nHope I helped, good luck!
257373
movies, have an allnight hangout with your friends, at free time try to talk to your spouse on the phone, read a book, go to a gym, volunteer somewhere, etc etc etc
1023064
You need to talk to him. The best way to do this is to go out to a quiet restaurant for dinner together one evening. Stay positive but get your point across to him about how you feel. You also need to ask him what has happened, at least in his opinion. Also, talk about the good times the two of you have had together. STAY POSITIVE! This will help both of you. This could be the start the two of you need to open up the talking again. The more the two of you can talk and stay positive, the better the chance you have of saving your marriage! I can tell that you still love and care for him, I wish you luck!