A question for all those who believe that you don't need to work hard to find love?
414712
Sounds cute, but its not true. Please understand what LOVE is. Its a condition of emotion, just like pain.  Its a reaction to a stimulous. Its fades, it comes..whatever. Doesn't mean you have to work for it...it happens. You walk down street and you fall...you feel pain.  Of course thats overly simple but love works that same way.  \nNow attraction on the other hand is something completely different you do have to work at that. but that just life.  \n\nI don't believe in God, actually I don't believe in YOUR God. A God that's only a few thousand years old, doesn't appeal to me.  I'd rather worship the ancient roman gods...they came first...plus Zeus sounds much better than God.  Anywayz, I think if he does exist he doesn't play a part in love...if he did, you might as well put your brain on manual and let it run by itself cause nothing you do is entirely your own action...its all God, until you kill someone.lol
313967
Hmm.. i'm good looking, smart and well mannered as well. Trust have always been a problem for me, since my gf broke up with me for another guy (LD) and then my next gf slept with one of my best friend. \n\ni'm now focusing on my career and promised my self not to force myself in to a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.. \n\nI sometimes feels lonely but then again, it's more sexual than emotional.. i don't think anything is missing since i try to write what is my goals and match it with my current situations. \n\nTry to identify, where are you now and where do you want to be. sometimes putting something in writting is good since it helps you see clear of things you didn' know exist. I hope this helps, but if it doesnt Dog's do help...
1110474
Absolutely!!!  My approach is with arms wide open\n(made possible only after making some tough decisions to change the things which sapped my passion for life).\nNumber one rule in life - don't complain, do something about it!!\nPeople forget they are responsible for their own happiness and point fingers instead.  We need three things: someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to.
1170648
Having a job and a car SHOULD be expected but you would be surprised how many single men have neither. I don't consider myself shallow but that really is a requirement I expect from men I date. It doesn't have to be a Benz and you don't have to be sporting a big bankroll but I need to know up front you are not going to expect me to support you and haul your nappy a s s everywhere you need to go. I would never expect someone to do that for me. I have a job and a car and a place of my own. After that personality is the most important thing I look for but most women are stuck on looks after that. Looks aren't everything. Sure there should be a physical attraction but for me that comes more from a good personality and sense of humor than physical attributes. The ugliest guy on they outside becomes gorgeous in my eyes if he can make me feel good and keep me smiling and happy.
1133581
Too many people are successful at sabotaging themselves ... it's scary to find THE ONE.  It's impossible to believe that you can be so fortunate, so blissful, so perfect with him/her.  But I believe that if two people are meant to be, they will find a way ... even if one of them has cold feet.
192228
Sweetheart, there is nothing you can do to find love. It will find you and then you won't know how else you lived without it. If you try to find love you could totally miss it cause you were busy looking for it. Be patient.
525807
The best way I can answer is by asking you a question. If you weren't born married, is it really a necessity? And no one can put conditions on you unless you subscribe to them yourself. Let yourself be free. Live the way you want and determine your own value system. The concept of marriage in its purest form is a great idea, its those who complicate it with their poor decisions that make it seem to be unattractive. Me, I knew at the age of ten that I wasn't going to get married because I saw no point in it. And I am not a playboy either. I have many women friends that I enjoy platonic rewarding relationships with. Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons. They make it seem harder than it really is.
749595
I would prefer having the love of your life because money is relative. There are tons of poor people who seem to more happy than people with loads of personal possessions. It seems like they found love and somehow they survive relying on the strength of each other.
295077
Seems to me a lot of people are making assumptions that you are lazy. Sorry for the ignorance of many. My assumption is that you are looking for a mate and do not have enough money for dating. Hope that is what it is. Try asking her out for coffee that is simple and inexpensive and then maybe you can go for a walk in the park or something. I met my man, 19 years ago and shortly after he left his job, certainly wasn't lazy, but he couldn't afford much, but you know what after all these years we still haven't got a great deal of money but we are still together. Take a shot at it, not all women are so shallow that they can't see a good man even if he has no money. I wish you the best.
167000
I don't think there is. You can only be content. Once you get what you want, you add more to the list. You will always feel something is being neglected and at times unhappy. As for true love, I don't believe so. I think you have to build love.
40100
Well, i'm not a man so i will never have a wife, and i'm not married, so its a dificult one for me, but i can say if i would like to be in a marriage where I make more money than my husband..... \nI suppose that as long as he is not broken because he is a lazy man, you know, the tipical man that never finds the rigth job, so he cannot take that, or maybe the one who is always changing jobs and is not capable to remain someplace, then i would't care about it.
850166
You should just don't worry about finding love. Just proceed with your everyday life and it is sure to find you.
208010
Do you mean to sacrifice to achieve the happiness you deserve? That would be 'my' opinion, anyway. To work hard and save money, not spending money on every little thing I don't need, that is an example of what I mean. That you added 'you deserve' is an interesting thing. A lot of people seem to think they deserve something 'without' sacrificing.
211797
It depends on your character.For most of us enjoying that "lots of thing in the world" without a partner is impossible specially in long term.Love, support and all other things we take from our partner is the most effective thing on our soul i think.beautiful landscapes, our job and etc are not enough.
1084232
It really isn't. As long as you're open to it, love is right in front of you. It's harder to find everything you want in a person. And I think that's more of the question you're asking.
1168387
My mate completes me. She is what I have always wanted. She was my best friend for 6 years before we became involved and we will be married next summer.\nI dont think a mate is required to have a full life, but from my experiences I do believe being truely in love with someone who returns your love and respect does greatly enhance your level of happiness.
1115422
I've never been in a relation either and I'm 19. And I don't date, I'm not looking for love but rather letting love find me. As of yet no such luck, you just can't rush these things. Being patient is the key. For every man there is a woman and vice versa.