do long distance relationships ever work?
414475
of course it can work. it just depends on the commitment and love and trust, just like any in-person relationship. in a way, the long-distance has the benefit of not having to deal with the daily in-person details that sometimes weight relationships down.\n\nmy husband and i maintained a long-distance relationship for more than two years before our situations allowed us to be together.\n\ntalk about it.
282287
Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
1154492
Long Distance relationships are doomed to failure 99.9% of the time.  You can try to make it work, but you will go broke paying for all the long distance phone calls, and there still is no guarantee she's not banging the lumpy guy who works the counter at the Taco Bell.   \nIt just ain't worth the hassle and stress.  Move on.  Keep in touch with her, and if she moves nearby, start dating her again.
740562
I myself have a long distance relationship. I'm in Canada and hes in Georgia, USA. People say these tpyes of relationships can't work out because of such the long distance, but I tell you they're wrong. We talk every night  on the phone and use our webcams to see eachother as much as possible. We get to see eachother in person every other month or so for up to 3 weeks at a time. Just being able to talk to him and see him on cam helps so much when we cant be together in person. I don't know what else to tell you as far as to make it easier. I know how hard it can be, but really, thats all the advice I can give you. Hope it helps!
595247
Long distances relationships can work..but a lot of times they do fail though, sadly to say...but in your case..you have no way to communicate with him at all..so its a bad idea to stay together..if you cant even talk!
581095
It can work out if you two had a strong relationship before separating.  I was in a faithful (If you are sure he is the one for you--and he feels the same way--then I would not recommend getting into another relationship) long distance relationship of 2500 miles for over a year, and we stayed in contact by phone (we each had Cingular phones, so there was no long distance charge).  She lived in Reno, NV and I moved to Knoxville, TN.  After she finished her degree, she moved to be with me and we are together today.\n\nI hope everything works out for you :o)
756941
My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
193355
If you really want it to work and you have trust and faith in the relationship then yes it can work but you can't be calling him or her up every second asking where they are or what they are doing or who they are with. Me from experience i had a long distance relationship before on my part it worked b/c i trusted him but he didn't trust me he would call me up asking me all these questions. I would answer him honestly. Then it turned out that i was the one who was being honest and faithful but he wasn't. So i guess he felt guilty and he has to think that i was cheating just because he was. It was alright. But if you are honest and have faith then yes they can work. You just have to try your hardest.
421297
Long distance relationships work as long as both people are comitted.. \n\nyour age will play a major part in this (as will his) if you're 17 move on!\n\nif you're in your 30s + then i'd say go for it!
350375
This is something i've asked myself a few times. I guess it depends on how often you get to see each other. I mean, if you can't see each other for years on end then no, i don't see how it can work. But if you see each other a few times a year, and keep in constant contact, and are always honest about what's goin on in your life, then yeah, sure it can work. i guess my big worry would be that the temptation to cheat would be higher and it would also be easier to cheat. I mean, it's understandable that someone gets lonely and wants a relationship with someone they can see whenever they want. \nThis answer's a bit all over the place but i hope it helps
683469
Yes it works.\nDistance is not the end of the world in a relationship \nDistance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love. \nAlthough you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart! \nI, like you, truly believe that love & relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people. \n\n\nYOU ARE NOT ALONE ! \nAll across the world, there are couples just like you who are crazy about each other but are forced by circumstance to live apart..
163492
I happen to agree with cuteiepie. Keep it alive by phone, emails, snail mail...keep all communication channels open. If you have serious intentions for the future with that person, it is most important to physically spend time with each other at least once or twice a year. I think long distance relationships only work for so long. At one point or another you have to make it a "no distance" relationship. Good luck!!
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
876803
from 3000 miles away sounds like a long shot.  on the other hand relationships that are formed when we are young have less of life's baggage attached and are not so judgmental.  \n\ncontinue to talk an stuff and let it happen naturally\n\ni hope it works for you
703636
what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
57969
it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
476059
I think if you have a long relationship, most of the times it never works out. But if you both really love each other it can work out. (i hope it does in ur case). JUST HAVE TRUST IN EACH OTHER, and it will workout