how do i tell my boyfriend that i am not ready to move in with him? we have only been together for 6 months!?
407966
Six months is definetly too soon. If he really cares about you then all you need to do is tell him that you aren't ready for this because you think it's just to early in the relationship. Tell him that maybe after you've been together like a year and a half, you might move in with him. Don't be afraid to tell him the truth. If he's got a problem with it then he's not worth it. \nJust remember that you are still young and a committment like this is too much. Work on the relationship before taking it to the next level.
1098915
Talk to him about how you feel and about your concerns.  Let him know you want him to be honest about his intentions regarding you both becoming a couple again.  Tell him that you would rather have him be honest - that he needs a place to stay when he gets out, or that he really does want you back.
383881
You can't.  Period.  Sorry, but if you went into the relationship thinking you could, don't ever do that again.  Let him know that you won't tolerate being controlled, and if he can't live with that, than walk away as soon as you can.  He could turn violent.
394634
why not move in with you? Who is this guy? \n\nDon't let her, but also don't be possesive of her. Figure out why she wants to live with him, and also talk to this guy to figure out what he's like.
323037
I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
714949
I think it was a mistake to move in together.  First of all, the basis of a relationship is honesty even when the other person might not like what you have to say.  Sex is important.  Your relationship is already in trouble since you want to cheat.  He needs to know that you have a right to sexual pleasure.  You need to talk. There is also medication for premature ejaculators.  You wont find out any of this if you dont talk.  If he doesnt want to talk, tell him that this is so important to you that if you dont talk, you will step out on him.  You have a right to pleasure.  Hes probably not very happy with himself either.  No guy that goes off in a few minutes is really very happy with himself but his manhood prevents him from talking or doing anything about it.  Speak now or hold someone else's piece.
817123
Date him, sleep with him, move in with him.  If at any point you feel that it isn't working out for you, tell him and leave him.
442944
My boyfriend and I got together and less than 2 weeks later we moved in together, and we were talking about marriage after 3 weeks, he is my soul mat e, my whole life, and my futurte husband, we have been together for 2 years and we have had our bad times, really bad times, but it doesnt make me love him, or us any less, so what Im trying to say is, if your ready and he is the one, you will just know, nobody else can tell you when you are ready except for your heart, dont listen to your head so much, i mean listen to it just follow your heaart, you know what is best for you...I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you...xxx
47632
i agree with the others, if you just move in and later break up, you can all be hurt, especially his daughter. i don't know the circumstances, but does he have full custody, is the child's mother going to have or be a problem? also are  YOU ready to take over the responsiblities of a child that's NOT yours? those are a few things to think about. and if you are thinking of moving in, i'd say it's pretty serious! how long have you been dating? please think of how this will affect his daughter before you do anything.
156312
you need to have a heart to heart talk with him. dont critize him but tell him what the problem is. tell him that you want to stay together and work it out. lay down some grounds that you wont cross to get him upset and tell him your boundaries. you got to tell him what you want out of this relationship.
709736
I was in your exact situation.  Seems like the timing is never right, there's always something. Just tell him how you feel, and that you are ready to get this ball rolling.  Don't give him an ultimatum b.c you are right that will just push him away.  But definitely stress on the fact that you aren't getting any younger.
280302
why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
788813
Give some subtle hints, create a pre-existing "boyfriend" if necessary. If unsuccessful, just tell him you don't think you are well suited. It will save you both some time.
1062748
Serious question here, and lots of things to consider.  Let's see if we can sort through all this.\n\nFirst of all, you say you've been together for seven months.  I wonder how old you and he are.  The red flag that jumped out at me is that you are both still living at home.  These days, I know that can mean anything from 19-29.  But if you don't have a steady job (preferably a career and a vocation), if you don't have your own transportation, and if you don't have financial independence, marrying is not a good idea.  He also needs to have a steady job, a vehicle and financial independence.  \n\nThat you are having second thoughts is a good thing.  He sounds like he still has a ways to grow up if he's still trying to leave home.  You sound like you have a way to go yet toward financial independence if you are living at home too.  When you say that you want to have little flings and talk to other guys, though, this tells me you are not ready for marriage because your heart is not truly in it.  You need to keep dating and work on your education, your job skills and your life management skills.  All these things are coming along, but don't sound quite developed enough yet.\n\nAlso, you should never have to pressure someone to marry.  A marriage proposal should come out of the blue with no pressure at all.  That someone feels the need to pressure someone else says that there is a power struggle going on, and that's a very unhealthy way to start married life.  \n\nThere is such a word as divorce, because there are many, many "starter marriages".  No matter your religion or personal beliefs, 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.  And divorce is a hard but positive thing ultimately, because there is no point living miserably.  Divorce is hard to go through, but people survive it, and go on to thrive afterward.  Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, things just don't work out like we plan.  People grow apart, want different things, change and life throws us curveballs to boot.  \n\nEnjoy your single life for a while longer yet.  You may want to keep seeing your boyfriend, or you may want to re-evaluate the relationship and see if you want to stay with him or move on.  Don't be afraid to move on.  Be more afraid of getting into a rut or becoming too fearful that you'll never find someone else.  Nonsense!  With six BILLION people in the world, no worries about finding someone to date and/or marry ultimately.\n\nGood luck with this.  Cheers, K
638347
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you've realized you are not ready to jump into a relationship. We all miss-judge and make mistakes, he should understand that you were confused. I think he would appreciate your sincerity.
54600
Generally speaking, "moving in together" is a huge step.  And it hardly ever works when a total stranger picks up and moves in to your home "just to move in". If you are questioning what you should do, I think you are getting strange vibes from this guy.  He could be blowing hot air and just saying that he wants to come and see you. But it seems unusual that he's discussing moving in with you so early in your acquaintance.  If I were you I would let him know exactly how you feel. And if it comes down to it, I'd stop talking to him.
103537
Just tell him that your relationship is not going anywhere an tell him that you and him should move on to other things and go your seperate ways.