when will my family's financial problems get solved and we will be happy forever?
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You still have a computer, internet, and a roof to live under from the looks of it, unless you are at a public library.  Count what you do have and rejoice in that.\n\nI live horribly and in debt and cant seem to gain employment myself.  But I do have a great family and plenty of time to raise them.
629442
THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! IM 29 AND RECENTLY MOVED BACK IN WITH MY PARENTS CAUSE I HAD A STRING OF BAD LUCK AND FINANCIALLY COULDNT DO IT ANYMORE,I ALSO HAVE A GOOD PAYING JOB BUT THATS NOT THE POINT YOU NEED A LITTLE BREATHING ROOM TO FIGURE YOURSELF OUT THATS WHAT IM DOING I WONT BE HOME FOREVER BUT UNTIL THEN IM MAKING A NEW BEGINNING FOR MYSELF WITH A CLEAN SLATE
985788
H'mmmm.  Well if you're dependent upon them for financial support, I'd think about it twice.  Maybe it is a good idea to wait until after you've completed your education.  Sounds calculating, I know. But it's also practical.\n\nI've never met your family, and of course you should have a better feeling for how they'll react.
926322
Easy one for me, most of it is over and done with.\n\nDon't worry, adulthood comes in plenty good time, no hurry.\n\nBetter to build up a lot of good memories than start to worry about the future that much, unless you are one of those soulless individuals fixated on money.
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
704545
Enjoy your family and help the needy. :o)
198185
Absolutely.  My family is the best ever.
899825
yes, we do need money to pay those bills and get by (and yes, I wish I had more to pay off all my debts!),  but no amount of money in the world will make you happy if you don't have family, friends and partner/spouse to share it with!
813846
Death is forever, think about it.  One day you will be the eldest in the family and you then can bring about changes.
284379
never....I could barely live with my own family as much as I love them, but that is because they are my family and I have to deal with them....random people I would have much less patience with.\n\nWhat if all the bills are in your name? What if they can't pay their share of property taxes? What if you can't stand them and want them to move, who gets the house and how do you split it up? What if the kids corrupt your kids or if the people turn out to be irresponsible parents? I know I would have more patience with my kids than someone else's. \nAlthough its cool to have people around, sometimes you do want alone time which you would never have in that situation. All it takes is one bad apple to ruin it for everyone else. The more people in one area, the better the chance you come upon a bad apple.
679040
Well...I have to say...you are not the first to be in this situation...so, good news, there is nothing wrong with you.  It is called being human...and you are allowed to be.  PHEW!  So, now we have to worry about the actual situation, honestly, you have to ask yourself a question.  First, who is more important...you, or your family.  Because I hate to be the one to say this to you...but that is the real question.  Do you brake up your family?  Do you hurt your family, friends and loved ones?  Because, that is exactly what is going to happen.  The hurt will not last forever (well, your husband's hurt might last forever)...but everyone will be okay in the long run.  Good news, time heals all. OR-are you more important.  Do you do something that makes YOU happy?  Do you go after what YOU want?  Going after what you want (this new guy)...will TAKE A LOT OF ENERGY AND A LOT OF WORK...this will not be an easy transaction.  But then, you have happiness.\nYou can't make your kids, family and friends happy...if YOU are not happy, right?\nI know this is a vague answer...but, honestly...there is only two answers.\n1) Stop seeing him and continue with your unhappy life...\n2) Keep seeing him and start a new hard life...
748206
You could go to youth hostels, the YMCA, the Salvation Army.  There are lots of choices but are you sure leaving your family is a good idea right now?  I don't know what the problem is but usually if you leave before it gets resolved you will never resolve them.  I moved out when I was 16 as well and now I haven't talked to my sisters or my parents in 13 years.  Weigh your options carefully.
767046
i really hope for your own good that those arent your real details...\n\nim sure your family will understand your broke and cant afford gifts.... same as me this year.
885349
You're really not that low as you might think! Your problems can be fixed with better mobility. I thought you were going to say something about losing a limb, or becoming paralyzed or something! Getting a divorce and never seeing your kids.  Getting 3rd degree burns all over and recovering.  I think the military is a perfectly acceptable option for getting your life together.  We recently took in a young man who due to a variety of mishaps, had lost his drivers license, and then was kicked out of his mom's place by her new boyfriend.  He was sleeping in the park when my daughter (his h.s. friend) found out. He is in boot camp for the Navy as I write this.  He gets a stipend while he's in there, room and board and food, and he also will receive a $20,000 cash bonus in addition to the $8,000 he will have for school each year.  When he returns next month, my husband and I are going to help him find a small apt, and help him to find a decent running but cheap car.  (He's a Reserve)  So you've really got to choose your options better, or it sounds like you'll be stuck at mom's!
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For me it's alright. They are family anyway. :) Just make sure that your older siblings has the capacity to pay you back because if not and your in need of money, you'll have a big problem! And you're really wise to charge interest. ;)
163045
best way to settle them is to sit down and go over your monthly budget together, pay bills together.  do it the same time every month, have one household account that you both put in the amount you need to keep the account open and pay for all the household expenses.  Do it in equal amounts.  what's left at the end of the month from you individual paychecks is spending money and you can do with it what you want to.  ie save it, spend it, put it in your individual checking accounts or saving accounts.  (btw, household expenses includes food and clothing for the house ie yourselves and the kids.  gas for your cars needs to come out of your individual spending amounts.)  NOW KISS AND MAKE UP.