Dieting can be at it's worst when you go it alone...any advice?
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The worse thing you can do is NOT EAT. When we don't eat or we aren't getting enough calories, you will not lose weight our bodies have a way of defending themselves. Whenever it feels like it is being starved it will start storing fat. \n\nThe best thing you can do is to eat your meals three times a day, don't eat a lot . Don't eat too little either. \nDrink plenty of water. get plenty of excercise. \n\nAvoid the fad diets and the diet pills. Often times they do not work and they sometimes even do more harm to our bodies than good. Avoid excessive intake of caffeine and sodium. Those are number one enemies to our bodies, they cause our body to absorb and retain water which can be a big contributor to our weight gain. \n\n\nYou will lose an average of 2 pounds a week, that is healthy for us, losing more than that can be hard on your heart. \n\nThe best thing you can do is to be patient and it takes will power. \n\nThe best snacks if you need one is peanut butter crackers. If you bring snacks to work with you don't bring a whole pack, put some in a baggy\n\nDon't buy things that are fatty because you know you are going to eat it, You are not doing yourself a favor. \n\nGood luck to you.
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Diets alone seldom work long term...I suggest a complete lifestyle change...\nLimit your total carbohydrate intake to 80 grams a day...( Read the labels on your food to get the numbers, and add 'em up )\nI have found that fruits, nuts and high protien does the trick for me...\nImportant also is to get your body burning fat...That takes enough exercise 3 times weekly to make yourself BREATHE HARD...The weight just begins to MELT off..:D
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Hallo Angel,\nThe problem with diets is that they almost never provide all the nutrients the body needs, they just cut out calories or whatever their particular fad may be.\nIf you don't get the necessary nutrients your body goes into 'starvation' mode and stores fat, no matter how little food you eat.\nGo and see a qualified nutritionist. They can advise you on the right food for YOU to eat, and on what you should avoid.\nThen you can start thinking about some exercise. But first you need to get your nutrition sorted out.\nBless you, Angel. I do wish you all the luck in the world.\nJon C
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Be careful because you may put on weight as you stress over not being able to lose weight in a short period of time.  Best thing is to work out which you will not only lose weight but lose inches as well.  Here are some important tips:\n\nThe holidays can be stressful... and unfortunately, many people reach for food as comfort. If you find yourself regularly eating in response to stress, anxiety, sadness, boredom, anger, loneliness, relationship problems, or poor self-esteem, try to break the habit with some of my strategies below.\n\nLearn to recognize your hunger. Before you automatically pop something into your mouth, rate your hunger on a scale of 1 to 5 -- 1 being ravenous and 5 being full. Make every effort to avoid eating when your hunger is a 4 or a 5. \n\nFind alternatives to eating. Make a personal list of activities you can do instead of eating. Perhaps go for a walk, call a friend, listen to music, take a hot shower/bath, exercise, clean your house, polish your nails, surf the Internet, schedule outstanding appointments, watch television, look through a photo album,  \n\nKeep a food journal. Logging your food will help to identify your toughest timeframes. It also will make you accountable... so perhaps you'll be less apt to reach for unnecessary food.\n\nThree-food interference. Make the commitment to first eat three specific healthy foods before starting on caloric comfort foods (i.e., an apple, handful of baby carrots and a yogurt). If after that, you still want to continue with your comfort foods, give yourself permission. However, most of the time, the three foods are enough to stop you from moving on.\n\nExercise regularly. Daily exercise relieves stress and puts you in a positive mindset, which provides greater strength to pass on the unhealthy fare. \n\nGet enough sleep. Research shows that sleep deprivation can increase hunger by decreasing Leptin levels, the appetite regulating hormone that signals fullness. With adequate sleep, you'll also be less tired and have more resolve to fight off the urge to grab foods for comfort.
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with experience, I can say that eating on very regular schedule definately helps. with a job like that getting a lot of regular exercise is nearly impossible, but it's still worth trying to get some good walking/etc. during your home time. that's the best advise I know of.
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Don't go on those strictly no eating diets.  And especially always eat three meals a day.  Yes, I said that.  It's healthier to eat three meals a day even if they're small than skipping a meal, like lunch or breakfast.  The reason is is becuase sooner or later, you'll be hungry and then snack on stuff like chips.  If you are hungry, eat fruit or drink milk or even eat yogurt!  Don't drink diet drinks either.  They are worse than the regular sodas.  Just drink water, some juice and some tea.  Just don't hurt yourself on dieting the wrong way.  Just cut down calories, excersize more and get plenty of sleep.  I hope you lose as much you want, just do it safely.  You'll bloom into a more beautiful you!
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join a support group.  i am sure there are others with similar fears.  the most important thing you can do is love yourself regardless of your size and know that even if you cheat a little you are still a special person.  sounds like you are putting too much effort in to controlling your eating habits to prevent gaining weight but you are not nourishing your self worth.
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Hey, I know you do not want to hear this, and it comes from someone who should know, but you have to work at it and neither of those last to options works well anyway.  Once again, I know.\n\nTry one thing before you start out on a sensible plan, of exercise, eating in moderation and lots of water and rest, try loving yourself the way you are.  Try looking at what got you where you are, and come from that point, I have started that journey.  It is hard work, try keeping a food journal, honestly.  It keeps you on track to be accountable, and try doing it with a partner.  Blessings.
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This can be really hard.  I've been on a journey of losing weight for the last year or so and recently felt myself slipping.  I put a picture of my old fat self on the fridge and whenever I'm tempted to do that 'mindless' eating, I take a look at the picture.  It helps.  You know that saying, 'nothing tastes as good as thin feels'....well its absolutely true.
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I really suggest WeightWatchers. You can do it either by going to meetings (which my mom likes) or by just doing it online (which I prefer). \n\nThis has been the best method I've found for a few reasons. First, it really gets you thinking about everything you eat and what activity you are doing. Second, there are no things that you "Can't" eat. It's all about making smart choices and staying within your limits. Third, there is great support either through the online community or through the people you meet at meetings.\n\nGood luck!
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I just lost 50 pounds since last January and I've kept it off for 4 months. I found the best way to get over cravings is to find your inspiration and keep it in front of you.\n\nI had an old picture of me when my body was in its best form. I kept copies of it on my fridge and in my wallet. Late night snacks got stopped with the reminder on the fridge and when I went into my wallet for money for late night Chinese food with the guys, there was the picture telling me to say no. Worked for me! Best of Luck!
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Keep in mind the following when dieting:\n\nDiets and changing your eating to healthy food choices can work but because we know so little about ourselves and our relationship with food, it makes it difficult to win the battle. A lot of us have problems with dieting because we have a problem called "emotional eating" we eat to comfort ourselves during difficult, stressful, sad, etc times in our lives.\n\nYou may experience all those emotions during dieting as we continuously get on the scale hoping to see a big difference in numbers after dieting only for a day or two. Also what is stressful when dieting is that we try to lose a large number of weight in such a short period of time which in most cases is unreasonable. \n\nThis all brings about stress, discomfort and sadness. When we feel this way, we turn to our best friend for help and support which for many of us is food. The diet is now broken and we feel that we can't stick to diets. We then try fad diet after fad diet hoping to lose the original 20 pounds and now we may have as much as 30 pounds to lose because we continue to put on weight as we continue to break these fad diets by binging before starting our next diet. \n\nPlease learn about your relationship with food before your next diet so that you may achieve your goals. To help a little, keep in mind the following:\n\nYou already know how to lose weight. You know that if you eat less and exercise more eventually you’ll see the pounds come off. What’s getting in your way? Why do you usually regain the weight you lost? The answer to all these questions is the same “Emotional Eating.” Simply defined, emotional eating means you eat to satisfy emotional hunger; it means you use food for comfort or as a way to cope with life; and it means you eat for reasons other than what your body needs. Whenever you reach for a boredom-breaking snack despite your commitment, or whenever you eat to quell anxiety, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you binge after a fight, or double up on portions because your day turned sour, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you feel that sharp craving for your favorite food, that’s emotional eating. When we eat during these times while on a diet, we believe the diet doesn’t work or that we lack self control and then look for the quickest way to lose weight (fasting/diet pills, ect) after eating all we can since we already messed the diet day up. Read the information below but remember that emotional eating plays a big part in why we don’t continue dieting and why we regain lost weight and why we binge today and start a new diet tomorrow. Best of Luck.\n\nP.S. After learning about my relationship with food, I was able to drop my weight from 263 pounds down to 151 pounds which is a 112 pound weight lost.
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I know how you feel.  I'm 18, not too much older than you and I just used to feel like a failure everytime I ate because I was just so caught up in my body image and felt that eatin made me fat. If I became fat, no one would like me.  It's not weird to feel self conscious about your body image, you just need to know how to control your eating habits.  Eat when you are hungry, you should always eat 3 meals a day and snacks inbetween.  Never skip out on meals because when you starve yourself and then you finally do eat, your body will hold onto the fat and store it because it doesn't know when it'll be fed again.  So work out also. A walk around the block is always great.
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well, first of all stay away from dieting, especially those harsh ones. do something like jogging, swimming, play! don't eat anything after 6 pm and don't eat bread, pasta and sweets it might take a while but it's not that difficult, you'll see\ngood luck!
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You should try Pilates.  They are a lot of fun, and they slowly build you back up over time without totally wearing you out.  Also, watch how much you eat- don't skip meals or change your diet, just eat less of what you like.  It's not an easy thing to do, but if you get in a routine, I know you can do it.  The BEST way for that to happen is to make a friend who is in the same boat and do it with them- that way you will keep each other accountable. Good luck, and have fun!
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a good diet aims to help you lose around 2lbs per week, this may seem low but its weight you will find easier to keep off.  firstly, dont even think about going on a diet, simply change to a healthier eating plan, when u are on a diet you feel deprived, and your whole world revolves around food.  just change an unhealthy option for a healthy one, you wont feel deprived and the weight will come off slowly but surely.  a small treat now and then is good too, just so you can eat that little bit of chocolate or whatever it is, makes you feel good and stops that feeling of deprivation.  drink plenty of water, sometimes we may think we are hungry when in fact our bodies are slightly dehydrated and need fluids, so have a glass of water, wait a bit, then if you are still feeling hungry, eat.  dont be tempted to go on a crash diet, you may lose weight in the short term but it will all go back on once you go back to 'normal' eating. you know what you should eat, to be honest we all do, its just we get sidetracked or tempted by things not quite so good for us.\n\nlastly, dont panic about this weight, seems to me your guy loves you just as you are or he wouldnt be marrying you.  best of luck xx
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once a day is sufficient. use time wisely and you dont have to kill yourself. Consistency is the most important thing dont burn yourself out. Work hard but make it enjoyable. having a partner is good also. You will see great results in months trust me. Eat right but cheat a little from time to time. You dont want to go on a binge later.