Should I trust my gut instinct that my husband is unfaithful?
397999
Look if there is anything That I have learned in this life it is that you always go with your gut feeling it is a six sence that all women have and if it is telling you that something is not right, then something is not right. now I will not tell what to do with your life but my opinon is that you take your baby into consideration okay,ask your self a few questions \n1.Do I really want to raise my baby in a houehold with a man that i cant trust and baisicly teach my baby that this type of crap is normal? and this can screw this kid up later in life when it comes to relationships if you have a boy(all staying will do for him is show him that it is okay to treat women like that and lady you know thats not right!\nand if you have a girl then all you will be showing her is that it is okay to let men treat her like door mat and walk all over her because she is going to look up to you and see that you are baisicly doing just that letting your husband use you like a door matt! and do you reallly think staying is the right thing to do?\n\n           Now no matter what that man tells you, he can not take your baby from you if you leave him if you do things to improve the well being of your child,find a you aplace to go when you are ready to leave him such as a friend or a close family member,then go to to your local department of ecinomic security office and you apply for help foodstamps, welfare,and they will set you up in some kind of work program and or if you want to go to school they will help set you up for grants and all kinds of stuff to help better you self  okay hell they will evenhelp you find houing and provide child care free .If that man trys to take your ass to court and tells a judge that he wants full custody you can then inreturn show the judge all that you have done in order to provide a safe living enviorment for the child they will see all you have done,they will not give the man who broke his vows and committed adultry.he is only saying what he can to make sure you stay and will say just about anything to intimidate you dont beleave everything he says just look in you phone book and search the web when he is not at home. \n   as for that friend of yours that hooked you up with him and is flirting with him and what not you tell that little home wrecker that she can have that the two are ment for each other.and drop her from your life cause with friends like that who the hell needs enemys!
839499
I think you already know what you have to do.  You have to confront him.  It's scary because he might admit to cheating, but then you will know what needs to be fixed.  If you don't talk to him this will eat away at you and your marriage, and worst of all that will affect your kids.  Don't mention the evidence at first.  Just ask him if he has been cheating.  Then if he denies cheating, bring up the things you found.  This will leave him no time to think abou the answer.\n\nOn a personal note:  I wish you the best of luck.  I hope he isn't cheating, for everyone's sake.
835761
I was suspicious of my ex... and he was a cheater.. which is why he is my ex  :)   Go with your gut feelings.. and if you can't trust someone, you shouldn't be with them. It will never work if there isn't honesty in the relationship and you will drive yourself crazy worrying about what he is doing..good luck.
796520
The dishonesty will ruin your life.  You need to make a decision.  Your husband deserves to be with a woman who will honor him, and you can't lead a happy, healthy life with this type of deception.  Make up your mind who you want to be with, and commit to them.  Alternatively, you can choose to be single and see as many guys as you want.  It's up to you - just live with integrity so no one will be hurt.  I would also encourage you to seek counseling to figure out why you would set up such a destructive situation in your life.  You know that only bad can come of this, for all concerned.  You also need to protect the innocent party here - which is your husband.  If you feel the need for confession to ease your guilt, go to a clergyperson.  Do not hurt your husband, just to ease your mind.  I know you are going to do the right thing.  I can tell from your post.  We've all made mistakes in life.  The key is to recognize our mistakes, correct them, move on, and don't repeat them.\nGood luck and a big hug,\n-Ginger
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Hi, without a doubt in my mind, if I ever found out my man was cheating I would dump him, no questions asked.\nSome of you may say "he/she made a mistake.Yes, it is a mistake, and sadly some people repeat them over and over again.\nI would never be able to trust my boyfriend again. Women are emotional and are imaginations are highly active. I would not trust my boyfriend again. I would always have a vision in my mind of my boyfriend bedazzling another woman.\n I also would have a low opinion of myself. I would feel like I am not pretty, or sexy enough for my boyfriend (even though his actions were not my fault). I would also feel like he didn't love me. Because sorry, but if you truly love someone, you don't cheat, bottom line. I don't care if you are drunk, or your having a bad day..Its something you don't do to someone you love.\n  I would be so devestated if I found that out about my boyfriend. Also, when partners do cheat, they put YOU at risk. At risk for a disease....And believe me, several cheaters out there have given their girls and wifes, husband and boyfriends diseases. So my opinion, you would not want to put your love at risk.\n  Cheating is a disease for some people. They have to do it to make themselves feel high. Guys and Gals alike, don't fool yourself into thinking you are different or that these people can change. And to those of you who are going out with married or attached people, you are just as bad. You are an enabler. Some people cannot seem to stop cheating.\n  To you who have written this question, Good one. And I hope to a higher power out there that you have not been cheated on.
748544
My psychology is to keep balance and make the marriage be happy. If he is cheating you should to  www.fling.com  is not to far. That's the way to get even and have excitement on both sides.
765251
hmmm...maybe. \nIt depends. Its not a matter of distrust. He does not distrust you but fears that eventually you might get attracted to some other men. He does not trust other men, not distrust you. He thinks those other men will allure you into having an infatuation about them. worse yet he may be thinking you already have some infatuation about those men you are praising. I would suggest do not praise other men very frequently. If you do it once in a while its fine. but if its done more than often you are out for trouble girl! Praise your husband frequently though. Afterall he is the  cutest guy on earth for you rt?\nYou may just have an admiration, or plutonic liking for those other men you are praising. But you should not admire any other mans physcial apprearance apart from your husbands. He has the right to expect that from you!
791990
If he hasn't given you any indication that he's cheating on you then I would worried that he was sick is hurt. Don't let your pride or stubbornness stop you from doing what is right.
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
653244
If you dont trust him then you shouldnt be together.  E/one needs a part of them, all to themselves.  He's telling you stuff, so just accept what he tells ya.  But you need to see others as well.  Sneaky is not good.
427679
Is there good reason not to trust your wife?  Or are past relationships clouding your vision?  If you have good reason, confront her, it's never good to just let things lie.  Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth.  However, if you're just being insecure for whatever reason, with nothing to back those feelings up, maybe you need to look inside yourself.
101866
should trust ur husband.. he cant be with u all the time.. dont keep these things in mind.. enjoy ur life..
210147
I don't believe there is one strait answer for that.  You know your man and you know when things are different.. Go with your gut feelings, they are usually right.
1037209
Yes to both!!!  You definitely should (get help if necessary) make a copy of his profile on a CD-rom or diskette and also copy stuff you can find in his email or Internet history.  This (along with phone records, if applicable) is concrete evidence in divorce court as proof of unfaithfulness.\n~~~\nFeel free to click my avatar/profile and contact me (and include your email if you want me to email you back).  As you can see, I have been helpful to others in the short time I've been on this site.  I cannot imagine your pain, confusion, shock, and humiliation, but I know that you don't have to put up with it, nor do you have to struggle through this trial all by yourself.\n~~~\nCheck out some sites for betrayed spouses, join a local group or organization, or visit a family therapist or marriage counselor.  Any of these sources could help you decide what steps to take for your sanity, happiness, and well-being - and that of your family/kids.
266577
you can check and check all your life and you still will not be sure...when a man wants to cheat behind your back he can and you would never know...so give it up, relax and start joining the normal living...your checking or suspicions will not change anything...start worrying when and if you have reason to...(while dating is very different from marriage, he is now a committed man).
335773
I'm afraid it seems he is. I know from experience because my wife of 16 years cheated on me recently. When she tried to break it off, the "other guy" decided he would stop her at any cost. He killed her and then himself. Each situation is different and my circumstances may have been more extreme than yours, but I know my wife loved me and I loved her. The depth of my sorrow seems to be a bottomess pit at times. I have two children, 15 & 9, left without a mother. Please share this with your husband and maybe he will see that honesty is always best. God forgives, and so should we, but there are consequences for our wayward behavior. I'm sorry if this scares you, but its always best to learn from other's mistakes. Pick up a copy of the bestseller "Divorce Busting" by Michele Weiner-Davis, its a great book and addresses what you are going through, even if he is not cheating. And if he is, remember that he (in his perception) may find fault with you. There may be some truth to that, and although it does not justify his (presumed) action, it is something that the two of you should discuss with a good Christian counselor. WORK IT OUT FOR THE KIDS- and for each other, its worth it. Sex is easy to find in our hedenistic culture, but good love and commitment is a rare quality. It takes effort.\nI hope the best for you, I really do. May God bless your family and protect you from any further damage. (Mark 10: 7-9)
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I say that if you are going to marry this man than start off with a clean slate. Do not judge him for some thing that he did when you were not around, and I'm assuming that he did not cheat with you. Give him all of your trust until he breaks it.