Is it right for a sister to put one sister in her wedding and not the other as a braidsmaid?
396647
It's really up to the bride; if you do decide to have one and not the other, I would be sure to ask the other one to do something of significance, like maybe be your personal attendant?
771118
Nope..\nYou can only marry one of them.
1125832
It's DEFINITELY up to the bridemaids/maid of honor to pay for their OWN dresses. You shouldn't feel guilty at all for having them pay for their own dress. I know I got married last October and all these thoughts go through your mind what if they don't agree with me but you know what at the end of the day it's YOUR DAY, YOUR WEDDING. People are always going to be opinionated. Don't worry it will all fall into place.
576632
You should tell her straight out.  Don't make up an excuse becaues it would be taking away from the honor the other girls have for being in that special position.  \nIt was rude of her to ask in the first place.  Next time she brings it up, simply say, "Actually, I'm having a small wedding party, and I've already picked out the attendants for the ceremony."  If she starts asking questions, answer plainly.  It could also be nice to give her a role in your wedding.  If she sings well, have her start practicing a song you want her to perform.  If she's good with hair and makeup, tell her you want her to be the stylist for the wedding party.  If she's creative, tell her you want help with the decorations.  She can still be involved and have an important place without putting on the dress.  And if she doesn't want to be involved because she has a bad attitude about not being in the party, that's her decision.\nThere really is no way you can insure she will not make a scene, but at the same time, you shouldn't dictate your special day for the whims on one person that was rude enough to ask to be in someones wedding.
708067
At my wedding we used some groomsmen as ushers and then we had a few extras that weren't. I think it just depends on what you want. If you don't use your groomsmen then I think that's fine. It's your wedding so do it up the way you want to. Good luck!
40259
This is her special day, and she wants you to be a part of it. The Hostess is a big role! There could be a number of reasons why you were not asked to be a part of the wedding party (Bridesmaid/maid-of-honor). It is only right for family to be chosen BEFORE friends. Some brides go against that, but truly, that is the proper way to handle choosing your wedding party. Don't take offense.\n\nYou should not confront her. If you are that upset about not being chosen to be in the wedding party, you can always decline being her hostess and just go as a regular guest. No matter what, the fact that she thought of you to have a role in the wedding shows she thought of you. Nothing starts up comotion like having to choose your wedding party. Your friend needs your support, ESPECIALLY DURING THIS CRAZY AND HECTIC TIME!
721974
You most certainly did do the right thing in telling your sister. If they were good friends of your sister then they should have showed the same respect that they have for your sister and in this case was No Respect!!!!!!!!
322828
I think you mean your brother would stand where the tradional maid of honor would stand, right? I think that is an AWESOME thing to do. I agree that you may look down the road and not be friends w/ the woman you chose to be the maid of honor. And to have your brother to be your husbands best man would be like your brother was standing up with your fiance'....I'm not sure what you would call him...Man of Honor? Good luck, and great idea to show him how much he means to YOU!
559955
She is JUST your step-sister.  It sounds like you're both consenting ADULTS.  Sheesh, these idiots who say/think you're blood related or it is against the law, OMG!!!  There is NO blood relation in step-sister/step-brother.  Two people who aren't related get married and their kids are step-brother/sister.  What fools!!!  I say go for it!!  Life is short!!  You might regret it later if you don't!!  Good luck.
2971
It is not a sin, actually it is perfectly fine and has been done by many people.  Your relationship to her is exactly the same as your brother to your brother's wife.
853110
"Various Reasons"  I will trust you when you say none of them are serious.  If I were you, I would put my foot down once and for all.  Tell your Mom and your sister, be nice about it but firm,  that you do not appreciate their back stabbing regarding your wife-to-be.  Tell them you love them all, but you are not going to put up with any more of it.  And if they love you, they will have to make the effort to accept her as well, because YOU love her and that should be reason enough.  Tell them that disrespecting HER is like disrespecting YOU.  And you do not want them to do it anymore.  If they are reasonable people, they will listen and abide.  If they are not, I would simply make myself scarce when it comes to visiting your mother and sister.  Harsh as it may sound, they will get the message and eventually lighten up on your beloved.  CONGRATS on your upcoming wedding and GOOD LUCK!!
374116
It is a priviledge to be asked to stand next to someone when they exchange vows with someone. I have stood in a grand total of 15 wedding in my 29 years (mine included;)and I purchased all the dresses for those weddings. They are mine, not the brides, so why should she have to put out the added expense for my dress? Why would I be so shallow to ask her to? The wedding I'm helping plan and stand in now, I bought not only my maid of honor dress and shoes, but since the bride and groom are doing this on their own, I bought her wedding dress too. I didn't have to, but I wanted to, for her.
222581
It's her wedding, so it is up to her discretion who she invites.  You have to decide how you want to handle this.  You can either attend the wedding single, or decline since you can't bring the escort of your choice.
868623
It is no longer uncommon to have women in the role of grooms"man" or even Best Women, standing on the grooms side. If you would prefer not to have that - then have her in your wedding party. The wedding, after all, is about both of you and should include those people you are close to, and those people he is close to.\n\nIf this woman is his best friend - chances are you will be getting to know her even better now that he is your husband - this is a good way to get that started.
780002
sweet heart this is YOUR wedding you let your sis. throw a hissy fit and pick whom U want as your maid of honor and as your witness. don't let the tantrum trap you, you will regret it forever.  think about it. what right does she have being your maid of honor (is she standing beside you?, happy for you? NO) I say go with the best friend and if you can't then yes pick best bud as witness. And if I were you I would make up a new title for my b-friend "Lady in Waiting" and have her come out right after you. That way your sis is still the maid of honor but only on paper. And you get to enjoy your wedding because it is Your day.
53991
You ask each, in person and privately, if they will do you the great favour of standing up with you at your wedding as your bridesmaid or maid of honour.\nIt is an honour to be asked, but it is also a huge commitment of time and money, so if one of your friends feels she can't honour the obligations that come with that great compliment, she should be allowed to decline in private.\nBy the way, as for the wording, I LOVE Fizzxx's answer...that's beautiful.
98886
they can. my best frineds sister is mormon and married a jehova whitness. And I've been to many weddings with a cathcolic bride (or groom) and the other is Jew.