what to do if your family is into punishing you and ignoring your entire life?
401223
Find out what you are doing that is wrong (at least in their eyes it is wrong) Basically talk to them, tell them how you feel. It is possible that you need to seek professional help. You need to find out what you feel is important to you.
414372
Ignore!Ignore!Ignore!That is the best way to treat all morons.They will get tired of you if they can't get a rise out of you.So I repeat ignore the moron.
1102331
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.
780033
Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
641094
ignore them,they can only make you feel bad about it...you know you're not guilty so what's the catch?send them all to hell
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
460582
I am currently dealing with the same situation. I have found that by giving to much you leave nothing for yourself. People will use you if you allow yourself to be used. My problems are mostly from family. I have come to the realization that if i wouldnt let a stranger treat me poorly why should i allow my family to do the same. Eight months ago i made a list of toxic people in my life and have started the ellimination process. It is very hard, i wont kid you. But, It has to be done. You are already to considerate or you wouldnt have such a question in the first place. Write a list of people that make you feel this way and next to each name write the pros and cons of your relationship with them. Evaluate and treat accordingly. Your life is to precious and short and you deserve better. We as a society have been taught to give but we have never been taught to receive graciuosly. We dont know how to accept compliments. Writing off friends and family is very difficult but you are allowed to feel good any time you want without regret or remorse. Its more exhausting being nice than being honest and straight forward. As with any change you have to do it slowly. You will feel very bad for a time but keep your long term goal in sight and do not share your plan with anyone or they may try to convince you not to write someone off. You have to allow yourslef to be at peace with your decisions. It will be the loss of a friend or family , like a death. You must go through the mourning process. Be good to your soul and it will reward you. Stay focused and you will allow you to reward yourself with a healthy life full of wonderful people. Good luck to you and yours.\n\n\nJoe
1106930
I don't know the details but it sounds like you need to sit him\ndown and explain how you see the situation,because now it's\naffecting you. As for his family,don't give in-they have no right to\npush whatever problems they have with him on you.
829861
Talk with a councilor, priest, someone who can help you as the situation continues.   A family therapist can help both of you. Give it a try and if all else fails, remember that you are a good person and make your life the best it can be. Once you get to an age of responsibility- you can get out.
1133482
try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
432058
File for a restraining order, or:\n\nTalk to the law authorities that were involved in your uncle's arrest and sentencing. Tell them how you feel about him being released, and ask if there is something they can do to intervene. Not in the sense of keeping him locked up (rulings are official and final), but in creating a legal "barrier" (other than a restraining order) between your family and your uncle. If his crimes were heinous enough (they sound that way), then there may be something more the police can do. Plans like this are often made especially for people / families who are victims of a stalker if and when their stalker is released from prison.
838399
don't you worry\njust ignore everyone, just stop talking alot to your family and stay by yourself and stuff like that for a while\ngo out with your friends, just totally ignore the family that doesn't notice you, hopefully soo they will notice or even if they don't you have friends and stuff, like practice your violin then when your mom actually pays attention she'll be like wow my daughter's so good nad you'll be like yeah i know, na dthen you can make her feel bad for not noticing how far you came as a musician or something like that
199790
You do NOT ignore it. Tell them you want to be treated like anyone else.
1130317
If that's the biggest problem in your life, relax.  Or go tell your parents the deal.  Just forget the other people and enjoy the beautiful scenery.
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
965159
Depends on why your sibling is ignoring you? Best thing to do is give them some space. Let them cool off or think about what is going on. Things can be said or done in the heat of the moment and get all blown out of proportion. Give your sibling some time i advise atleast a few days and then try to call and figuire out what is going on and try to smooth things over ...possibly with an apology. Family is family and no matter how mad we can get at eachother we always make up. Some are sooner than others....good luck.
601470
Katie, you are a victim of too much information. You know things about your parents that you really don't need to know. You are not responsible for their problems or for the decisions they have made for their own lives. Seeing the flaws in your family, coming to terms with the deceptions, is a tough thing to deal with.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are still a minor, living with your parents. You need to sit down with both your parents and talk about all that you know. You need to suggest that you all go to family counseling so that someone neutral can help you figure out where you go from here.\n\nI repeat, you are not responsible for your parents' problems. Your father was wrong to tell you all the things he told you, but since the cat is out of the bag, your mother needs to know what you know and you need to decide as a family what to do about all this. If your dad is suicidal, he needs to get help. Unfortunately, it sounds like you have parents you can't fully depend on, so you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Look outside your immediate family for a trusted adult (a school counselor, a pastor) who can help you negotiate through this minefield and help you find the help you need.