My bf wants to go to another country to work. What should i do?
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Either take a break from your education and go with him OR keep your relationship open if you guys would mutually agree to that.\n\nOr, if its really a serious relationship - you will go through the two years.
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it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
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Reconcile your your self to the fact that this is his job, by all means keep telling him you miss him, but don't try and stop him doing his job, or make him feel guilty over not being home all the time.\nI worked overseas for 15 years starting in Saudi, 4 months on and 2 weeks home leave, After a year of that I started getting better leave cycles in different parts of the world, my wife and children some times came with me.\nI went where ever the work (and money) was!\nI always managed to keep in contact with home and at times felt guilty, but my wife and kids knew the score and supported me in my work.\nSo all I can suggest is do not make him feel guilty , if he ever has to make a choice between you and work , and he chooses you it will always be on his mind.\nSupport him he probably doesn't want to be away, its no real fun being away from home even if it sounds great!\nBut whatever, good luck to the pair of you!
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give him a box full of stuff from your native home so he doesn't miss home too much when he is working abroad and of course a picture of the two of you.
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He gets a conditional green card first and can change it to a permanent one in two years if he is still with you. But I just wanted to say, that you shouldn't let this thought eat you up inside. Doubts like this can ruin a good relationship. I know it sounds corny, but you should know in your heart whether he loves you or not. Best of luck to you and hope it turns out to be a happily ever after story for the two of you.
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what kind of family problems?If your going abroad is going to cause a rift between you and your family then you'd better think twice...you don't want to lose your family over a job...because even after you get a job and settle down you won't be happy.
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Why is he so strongly against it?  This is your life.  I have always thought that the girls who followed their boyfriends to a different college were dumb because chances of that relationship to last are very very slim.  But then there are the ones that do work out.  You have to figure out if this is really the guy you love because if you are willing to change your life and ambitions for this guy then you have to be willing to die for him and care for him no matter what.  You should have a conversation about why he is so against it, no yelling/stay calm.  You need to tell him that you love him but you have always wanted to do this and he should be supportive.  If there is a really good reason why you shouldn't work there and you love him then you should listen otherwise you should take the job and he might leave you for a bit but come back because he misses you
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Try to find a way to work it all out. Maybe your bf could help with the moving expenses. Surly your parents have some money saved up, they could pitch in. You could always get different jobs, in a different field. You could visit one or the others parents, instead of moving them around.
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I went out with someone who lived in Spain when I was living in Ireland, I am now married to him and we are about to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary, so yes, long distance relationships can definitly work, you just have to be prepared to work at them!!
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Do you have any family on the East Coast?  Do you have a job, or can easily get one? Would he support you while you looked for a job?  What would happen if you couldnt for a while?  Is he going forever, or will he be back someday?\n\nBasically, if you don't think you could ever give him up and are willing to give up everything in your life now for him then go.  If you aren't then maybe its time to get a low cost long distance plan.
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It's very hard to say without knowing your partner's background, but there should be enough bar work and so on at least to go round if necessary in either area.\n\nIt sounds like a *very* hard situation though - is there no chance of him doing a part-time course or anything slightly less excruciating?
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"if you don't know where to go, stay where you are." \nweigh your feelings. you and your bf have been together for four years... you love your bf... yes, you argue... don't all couples do? i think you're just bored. and it's understandable. it happens. for all you know your bf may be feeling the same way and just doesn't want to give up. \ndon't risk it.
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I realise that you have a good job but maybe you need more exposure to life? My son went off to live and work in Germany when he was 18. He has been working as an au pair for a nice family. He teaches English at a local school and, in return, he gets university tuition. When he comes back to England, he will be going off to university. I do give him limited financial support (as does his dad) but he knows if he wants luxuries, it is up to him to get another job to be able to afford these. \n\nHe is due home for good in 8 weeks and working abroad (and taking care of himself) has been great for him, in terms of forcing him to grow up and think about things as an adult. I cannot believe how much he has changed! I know your job is good but think about how you might be able to get more life experience. If you live at home with your mom, try to find an apartment for yourself. Take care of your own laundry, shopping and cooking. Worry about your own bills. Even if it doesn't work out (do everything in your power to make it work!) you will gain valuable life experience through doing this and it can only benefit you in the long run.
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Do not move across the country with a boyfriend.\nYou shouldn't move in with a boyfriend.\nIf you do you are setting yourself up for a big fall.\nWhy would you commit to him if you are not serious enough to marry.  If you are too young to marry. Also too young to move in together.\nIf you don't know each other well enough to Marry,  You don't know each other well enough to move in together.\n\nDon't play house! \n If he is not committed to you and you are not committed to him \n(I mean Married, not engaged) Why do you want to even exclude the chance of meeting someone else who you will want to marry and who will want to marry you.\n\nIf you move in with him.  You will probably share a bank account,  When you split he'll take the money and you will keep the bills.  You'll get pregnant and He'll take a hike and You will keep the baby.  OK now that you are a broke, single, mother, living across the country away from all of your friends and family or any other support system.  You can't even date, you can't afford a babysitter.  You can't even meet anyone for a couple of years because you will be so busy taking care of junior.\n\nOK finally you start to date again but you settle for someone who is not right for you because after all, you are now damaged goods, You know, Bills, Baby, Low Self esteem.  \n\nOK have a baby with him also and catch a venereal disease on top if it.  Well he wasn't right for you anyhow. you settled for someone because you thought you couldn't do better.  So after seeing that he really is a jerk, you break up with him.\n\nGet the drift. Stand up for yourself Now.  Tell him that you hope he likes his new home and that he can email you if he likes.  Bye\n\nAnd make a life for yourself now while you are single,  hopeful, young, and the possibilities of the whole world are there for you if you want them bad enough.  Don't mess up your life.\n\nDate nice Gentlemen who will wait to have sex with you until after you are married, if you will accept their proposal, because you are not that type (and don't be that type).  Stay pure in thought and actions. Go to church if you have one, do some volunteer work.  It helps to help someone.\n\nHave a Great Life!  You Deserve it!  Claim it for yourself.\n\nGod Bless You
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what country are you in.you have to apply for a work visa
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Is it an option for him to get a different job? If so, does he want to, or does he like what he's doing?\n\nIf he's happy with his job, it's not fair to ask him to change it. Instead, find ways to make the most of your time together. Meanwhile, find something to keep yourself busy while he's at work. Get a job yourself, get a hobby, or be a volunteer somewhere.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.