my wife what do i do?
410525
Put the house on the market when sold give her say 10% of the proceeds and kick her lazy butt out of your life!
629259
Is your wife under more stress than normal? As far as not knowing what your wife wants, ask her. I'm sure she'd be happy to let you know.
793683
Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
405557
if you love her and trust her let her be, she is who she is and thats why you married her so dont change what you fell in love with (big mistake men make) she'll stop if she thinks it hurts you - we all check men out beneath the waist, don't mean were gonna screw em - men check out women too - just life- have fun\nBTW - your wife must think you are a super hubby too if she can be herself comfortably in front of you than that says a whole lot about her awesome husband
634376
first and foremost you need to sit and talk to your wife. you need to be very honest not only with yourself, but with her. you need to tell her how you feel and be sure to be very considerate and aware of her feelings about your new found life. its not fair for you to continue to put her off or lie to her. honesty is always the best policy. i'm sure that if the two of you cant work things out it will be easier to part ways because you were not only honest with her, but with yourself. good luck!
1038333
Sit down, fix her a cup of tea, and ask her why she wants you to leave. DON'T Say a word, Let her talk. Tell her you care about her feelings. Don't GIVE her Suggestions. If she complains to about you. KEEP CALM. Just KNOD your head and listen. You see if you Just LISTEN she will open up. If you Tear, she knows you care. If you smile while tearing, she will know that you love her and will do anything to have her feel better. Then, you will work on yourself, while she will know what to do. The next day, call during the day and tell her that you will fix her dinner. Take care of her, protect her. Lastly COMPLIMENT HER!\n\nSay sorry that you have neglected her and COMPLIMENT HER for staying strong and for Marrying a undeserved man. If she leave you, she will be letting an undeserved man to a pit of nothing. That she is the best thing that ever happened to your life. Then break up the routine of what your both will do. DATE her. DATING IS really for MARRIED COUPLES. Because you don't have to be guilty of being alone.
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try spending more time at home with her\nimprove the communication-be open on certain issues, letting her know how you feel.\n\nyo love for each other will grow as you find more things in common-so show more intrest in some of the things she does.\nDevelop the habit of appreciating yo wife.\n\n...and even thou you might not be that religious, try seeking God over it. If someone can save yo marriage, its God.\nbegin by knowing that he knows & does care...\n(paulkasonde@yahoo.com)
776474
Look this is a dumb question. Just tell your wife to stop screwing the gardener and leave us be.
602223
Make sure that she is relaxed and in the mood for intimacy before you initiate a sexual encounter with your wife.  She will probably respond best if you are considerate of her feelings outside of the bedroom and take your time to please her.  If you do that, your reward will be worthwhile.
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
343870
The only thing that you can do is wor on becoming the best you that you can be. You made some big mistakes in your marriage. Work on becoming a better person and learn to accept yourself for the changes that you have made and are still working on. You cannot and will not change the way she thinks..........until you change you.
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
861937
Ask her if she's made a New Year's resolution.  She'll rattle off some things, then will ask you what you resolve to do.  Tell her that you resolve to be a faithful and loving husband; you resolve to honor and respect your wife; Just tell her you resolve to do all the things you would do if the two of you were married; it could be a combination of the serious and the silly (I resolve to grow old with you, I resolve to always put the seat back down...) then tell her that you need help keeping your resolutions, but not just this year, but for a lifetime- then ask her if she'll help you.
1018180
honestly i know how u feel, but trying to "control" the situation, that iswhat u r doing, will only make mattersworse, shewill go into further rebellion, and things in the marriage will go down hill.   part of Love is free and what holds it together is trust (and God) but if you don't have either of these it will never last.  you need to let her do her thing( not saying im choosing sides)  but if you let love go and its true love it will come back.  if you smother and squeeze it, it will flee from you.  as hard as it is, you need to give her what she needs (space and freedom) she is in the wrong ( married people do not belong at BARS).  LET GO OF THE REIGNS bite your tongue, and tell her go ahead (just pray when shes out that she will come to realize its not the place to be. good luck
722854
My wife does not seem to think so.
1157649
Sounds like you have some talking to do... and from that decide whether to 'take it' or leave it. However you are married now, and that is supposed to be for better or worse. As her husband, (now) its really up to you to support her emotionally as financially.
202784
Why don't you love your wife anymore, and how long have you been married? It seems like their is someone else in the picture & you are cheating on your wife. How long have you been married. Have it been 10 or more years? & Do you have kids? If so, you are a very selfish person with no heart because you are hurting ALL of them. Because you did not just fall out of love, you found a new toy!! You say you don't want to hurt her, but you are hurting her by cheating (if you are indeed cheating) and giving her love and attention to some home-wrecker who doesn't care about no one but herself. If you loved her before, i am a true believer you can grow to love her again. It looks like she love you? You both should talk & really get help and work hard on saving your marriage. Place your FAMILY FIRST, and spend time together and you will see the love again. Don't be selfish, ask GOD for strengh and patience and your marriage and family will not be a staticiaic. Somebody please place GOD & FAMILY FIRST. I feel you left out a lot of details so, feel free to e-mail me i welcome your response. GOD BLESS YOU