I'm dating a older guy and I have some questions about it. Wanna help ?
401906
I was in teh same boat kinda of I started dating a girl who was almost 10 yrs younger. There were times that I just wanted to stay home and be by myself. It had nothing to do with her. She and I lived in different states and saw each other about every month. I moved down here for her things went awry we broke up. I distanced myself from everything and did not want to be bothered I waited a year before I ever dated again. regardless of skin color it should not matter if he loves you truly. I doubt he is using you just for sex. Talk to him or his friends was he hurt in a past rleationship? I hope this can help you out
1158745
There are a few questions you should ask yourself....\n1)why should you fret over your friends opinions?\n2) were you comfortable with the relationship before you told your friends?\n3)Is the fact that you are being teased about it the only reason you are now concerned?\n4)Do you genuinely have strong feelings for this person?\n5)How would you feel if you gave them up for your friends?\n6)Do you feel the aquaintance of this person is enriching your life?\n7)Are you already thinking on the long term?\n8) If it ended, would you be thankful just to have experienced this persons affection?\n\nNow, If it feels right to you, tell your friends that you understand their concerns, but that you want to give it a whirl and have some experiences. Understand also that  although your friends are an important part of your life, your romantic relationships are between you and your partner, and no one should be allowed to sabotage that. Even if you eventually end the relationship, a true friend will still be there for you. If you are thinking on the long term, consider this.....What does satisfying sex entail for you at the age of 19? Is it mostly just physical or is it a true soul-satisfying experience just to be with this person, whether the physical part is strong or whether it is lacking? How important is it to you to have the capability to have a physically satisfying sexual experience in the years to come? Is it enough to just be together emotionally, without the sex?\nLet me explain why I asked you to ask yourself this: I am now 37 yrs old, married 15 yrs. I have experience here, although all relationships cant be judged as if you had a crystal ball....\nWhen I was 16, I went MAD over a MUCH older man. He was  42. yes 26 yrs older. A few of my buddies ragged me some, but I let it slip without having an issue. I enjoyed being with him and it was my relationship, not my friends. Buddies can't supply you with what a romantic partner can emotionally.He was so wonderful, and just being in his presence was emotionally enough. However, he was much older, and parts of him just didn't work well anymore...I was ok with that ( although I wanted more), we did other things to try to compensate for what was lacking. He eventually bowed out of the relationship because he was continually disappointed in his inability to do what it is that men do.\nOf course, all men won't have this problem, but as they age, it is not going to comply to his every whim! On the other hand, when I was your age, I had several relationships I just knew would last forever.....and they were over in what felt like a heartbeat. \nSo, if it feels right, I say go for it, if it goes long term, I hope you care enough for him to overlook any issues he may end up with. and that you are easily emotionally satisfiable. I have a feeling that there will be many more relationships for you down the road, but I could be wrong! Love can amaze us all!\nI have been married now for 15 yrs to a man who is 10 yrs older than me, and believe me when I say, older is better...in a long term relationship that is. They have more experience and are not as easy to fly off and freak out like someone younger. Patience is a virtue, knowledge is wisdom, and that comes with age. But do understand this yet again...when they get older, parts don't work as well as they used to....it's not easy for me to deal with, but I love him, so I do. And the mid-life crisis' generally start at around age 44......and that is worse than one that doesn't work!
149991
Love your spelling. When you say older, what do you mean? If a younger woman approached me, I would be skeptical of her motives. She would have to be an intellectual equal for me to consider her more than a booty call. What kind of dates would you both feel comfortable on? If he is seen out with you, what are others going to say? Is he married? Will people tell? There's some pressure here.
239704
Why is he still single (unmarried) at 43? Why do you always have to start the discussion about moving in together? Why did he make that remark?\n\nI think you are right to wonder about his commitment to the relationship. But don't overreact - take it easy. I may be wrong!
750543
A 2-year difference is no big deal....look at it down the road...your 36 and he is 34...not a big deal at all.  If your attracted to him, go for it and see how it works out...guys that are 18 are usually flattered when an older woman (yeah...I know 20 is not old) expresses an interest in them. .
1154744
What matters is what you feel...Age is not a factor as long as you both feel the same way and sure of each other feelings...Believe me I am dating someone older than me!!!
723398
yes,why not?Date is Date,it's not marry with that old man.But first of all,starting from friend.it could be more than friend in the future...who know!\nI had a date with a man 45 years old.He is very funny,cheerful  and he has a lot of good/bad experiences to talk to me.I could learn many things from him.I mean we exchanged our experience life.Since I know him till now he is one of my best friend.and you know,when I met him,I said "You're an ASSHOLE....I don't care what your name...Art,Arthur or Asshole!!I don't care at all".It's impolite but I said that to him!!I cannot believe myself I said that to him!!!How come!!!
560809
Just talk to him and communicate with each other about what you like and where you see your lives headed.  The scary part about an age difference is that there is an life experience gap.  You have to bridge that gap and talk about the differences in order to make that gap smaller.  In time if he can see that you are mature and closer to where he is headed in life he will see the age difference as a more minor thing in your relationship.
147936
You may be compatible. But sounds to me he needs some working on. Older men tend to get set in there ways. At the\nbeginning all is going smooth, but things start changing when it gets late in the relationship. It's not you. It's them. At times they have to remind themselves they have a\nlady and they need to tend to her needs. Some have been\nby theirselves for so long til they forgot what it's like to\nbe in a relationship. I had a friend who did the same thing to me. Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him what's on your mind. Tell him how you are feeling about some things. \nthen go grom there.
1077794
There is nothing wrong at all with that. Don't let yourself get wrapped up in the whole 'age thing'.  If he makes you happy and you enjoy his company, then that's all that matters.
1181304
My boyfriend is 43 and I am 25.  We have been together for 3 years now and it is the best relationship I have been in.  I couldn't imagine ever dating somebody my own age again.  They are so immature and in this relationship I feel like there is stability.  I think he will definitely stay with you because men like younger women and if you are good to him and he is good to you, it will work.
731768
I always used to seem to date younger guys, then I met my husband and he was 4 years older than me.  That's when I realized that all the little twerps I'd been dating were completely immature and selfish.   If you get along, and they're what you're looking for, who cares about the age difference.  Though I will say, when I was 18 I was a lot more gullible and trusting than I am now, so just watch out.
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
686312
A complex problem, but I would say you have to cut one loose to start with.\n\nI wont flame you for the age difference, because to you it probably does not make a difference, but it does to him, he will be wanting a lot more than you should be willing to give, I of course mean sexually. Which is wrong, he shouldnt be dating you, I was 17 once, I know what 17 year old (or 16) guys want I can say I wasnt as desperate, but all of my freinds were only interested in one thing and you shouldnt be considering that.\n\nI think even if you decided on taking things further with an older boyfreind, you will not be as ready as them, but more importantly he could be arrested for it, and if that happens that could really mess things up for him, he would be labelled as a sex offender and that could ruin his future. In terms of a job or life, it would be on his criminal list, perhaps a sex offenders list, where he would be put with dirty old men, it really could be very serious.\n\nIt could also mess things up in your life big time, you have a bit of time, so take your time enjoy life, but try to find a boyfriend closer to your own age, where there will be less problems and you both will have a lot more in common.\n\nAs for the talking on the phone, maybe you both are a little shy which is undestandable (I am guessing he is closer to you age, you didnt say), when you just talk it can be hard to think of things to say, try asking a few questions how he feels about something, talk about common interests, maybe movies, music, friends etc.\n\nAlso there is nothing wrong with being single either, you are young you have a really long time to worry about boyfriends in the future.\n\nI hope this helps and that you take my advice regards the 17 year old guy.\n\nAll the best\n\nArmand.
220105
Age has nothing to do with it. He appreciates your beauty and likes sleeping with you... oh the horror! The real question is does he enjoy your company and do you talk about other things? Do you have fun doing other things?
152885
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
967997
Even though many people say, "Love has no age difference" there is. Point blank. \n\nFirst of all, if you trust him 100% and you love him then don't worry about the women before you. Those were just mistakes that lead up to you. \n\nSecondly, yes he's older. But NEVER, EVER let him pressure you into doing something that you don't want to or most importantly, not ready for. Just because his ex's did such and such all the time or something, doesn't mean that you do to. Make him realize that. \n\nThirdly, I'd test the waters. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Just take it all in stride, chances are that this might not be your "one" but it's all a learning process. So what you don't date younger guys? The more you date, the more you learn the specifications of the type of man you want to be with in the future. Enjoy yourself, but don't lose yourself!