Does nearness make people scared of having to revel their identity?
397098
I beleive so...some don't want you to know the "real" them so they only let you see what they want...when things start getting deeper...they seem to want to back off...I truly beleive in my last relationship, this was the case.  He had too many secrets he didn't want to reveal.
353077
Don't worry,you're normal...you just don't want other people to feel uncomfortable with you around..you want to make them feel happy..you always think about others instead of yourself.That's good but you HAVE to learn to love yourself too.Don't let people take you for granted.Hope this answer helps..
217849
First off you should never have to feel like you have to do something to get someone to notice you . If the person is complete oppsite of you , you should never try to become like them . Changing who you are just to satisfy someone else will never make you happy , because it's not who you are. They should just like you for who you are , if they don't their not worth it. You don't need to do ,or change anything . Being confident in who you are indivitually should drawl itention , because being like everyone else tends to bore people .
360361
Some people will probably never stop using that word and just continue to show their prejudice and ignorance. It won't do you any good to stoop to their level though, you can be the bigger person and ignore them in their immaturity. I don't call people out of their names because I feel like everyone already has a hard enough time living as it is without having to deal with other people talking bad about them.
255830
Just having a closed-eyes imagination that what they are and what I am? Concertration on existed exeriences and sorting out the phobiatic emotions to deal in personal history in mind gives the way for confidence. This can be a natural way of emotions but many don't get it. There is also a thing that they get it in any other way.
289389
You may be doing it without even realizing it.  If you just be who you are, then you'll make the lasting impressions with the right people for you.  There's one, and only one, person out there who is truly made for you, and I wouldn't worry a second about the rest of 'em.
508674
When you are utterly sure who you are, your mind has closed.\n\nSo, I think it is good to have this as an issue.  I'm not sure who I am, but the uncertainty doesn't bother me.
925397
It sounds like "old memories" type of deal. Maybe subconsciously when you go back home, you are remembering it and you feel like you can't recover in front of these people, so the fear comes back. Does that make sense to you?
608006
A lot of times yes. Or insecurity. They are not sure of themselves, so they have to create a big scene or just act an azz so that they feel better about themselves, or so that they will appear a certain way in other people's eyes.  And its a shame cuz usually people can see right through them.
23071
In theory no, but in practice, yes.   Your appearance makes an impression on people before you even speak.
1109071
It's human nature to avoid that which makes us feel insecure. If it is a topic that is close to home, it makes the person feel vulnerable, so they avoid the topic. People only deal with uncomfortable subjects when it is unavoidable. For example, do you go to the dentist when a tooth is just starting to cause problems, or do you wait until you're in agony before going to the dentist?
288906
I think by not worrying about what other people will think of you. Be secure in who you are, and don't try to become what others want you to become.
448366
True.\n\nYour name affects other people's perceptions through their prejudices.  (if you are named "Dweeb Dorkus" they may not assume you're smart)\n\nThen, other people's perceptions are reflected in their actions. (They may not call on you in class, or speak to you about advanced topics; or ask you opinion on intersting things)\n\nFinally, other people's actions have an effect on you.\n\nThere have been studies on this, you can probably find them in a library...\n\nHOWEVER, your name (if it's reasonably 'normal' and not Dweeb Dorkus) has a MINIMAL effect on you cmopared to other life factors.
721470
maybe your scared that they will know all of your secrets.\ni only say that because i have a cousin that has the same problem. she is so scared to look into peoples eyes. she is scared that if she does , then they will know everything about her.
594171
I had this problem too being an actor (stage) so I just came up with this philosophy...."You are you most comfortable being around?"  Yourself so all you gotta do is just pretend that you are talking or singing to yourself and block out the world around you.  No one will think you are crazy for talking to yourself but this method helps me majorly.
526719
I think it all will depend on which of them wields the most influence over you, that is, the person who you feel closer too.  If you feel closer to the first person, then you will be noisy, but you will be more shy than noisy.  If you feel closer to the second person, then you will just be noisy.  However, if they both mean the exact same to you, then chances are you will be noisy because noisiness is a stronger character trait than shyness.
85649
People are afraid to lose things that they feel they need. The feeling of ownership comes with a dependancy on a person to define you as who you are. I believe that if you were truely secure with yourself you would not need someone else to do that. In so resulting in a comfort with a lovers' individuality.