Why do other people judge parents with an add child?
403639
Maybe for the same reason that parents with an ADD child judge other people who judge parents with an ADD child.\n\nWe all judge others and this is a free country.  So get that chip off your shoulder and get on with your own business.  Nobody likes a cry-baby.\n\nWhoops!  There goes my chance of "Best Answer" on this one.  Shoot!  Did it again!
206561
The central role they play in their child's life is the way they teach him how to live life with dignity and self-respect..its the good things they teach their child about life that may&#92;tters and it is the only thing that will be remembered by the child his entire life and will help him find his path in this criss-crossed world!!
459960
No doubt, it is a contributing factor.  In addition, you have a lack of guidance by parents who are both forced to work in conjunction with selfish parents only concerned about their own needs.  They do not spend quality time with their children when they can, and they appear to be concerned with their own pleasures rather than their children's emotional needs.
1131182
I agree but parents don't think about what they are doing in those terms.  Most claim to only want what is best for the children,  as they sit on their independent high horses claiming the "best" to be their selves.  It's turned into a "how can I get back at or hurt my ex",  the children's needs are rarely considered.  You are also correct that most often, it does seem to be the mother's doing this.  It actually makes me ashamed to be a female at times.  Women are often very bitter and vengeful when they have been hurt but feel they are "right" in their behavior because they have been "wronged".  It all boils down to little more than the fact that mommy and daddy forget how to behave like adults,  therefore their children suffer.
202150
Its the thoughts that they put in us as to which is good and bad.\n\nSometimes kids who are "anti-parent" will pick EXACTLY OPPOSITE set of friends. The rest of us use their words as reference material and decide based on that as to who our friends are.\n\n.:Fishie:.
1167636
Because parents do not instill any responsibility in their children.\nThey're more concerned about making sure they "feel good" and that they're friends instead of pilars of authority as they should be.
1002152
Yup. I know exactly what your talking about! I have thought of that too. I'm filipino. I came here 10 years ago. Here children that have ADD takes medication. In the philippines that would be called Discipline and parenting. I think society over here relies on that little pill for a quick fix. Sh*T! one of my friends just gives those pills away! But don't get me wrong some people actually do need it and needs it to function.
779059
They just want to be unique and get attention. I know what you mean, it bugs me how they could name their kids such weird names!!! I feel sorry for the kids when they grow up.
762882
They somehow believe that children spend the most time with their parents or with people that their parents would otherwise disapprove of, but given that their parents have "no personal assertiveness" or are working long hours in difficult and unpleasant jobs they have no time to see what their kids are up to and hence from whom they are receiving their bad influence. Society also assumes that bad parents are a bad influence on their children, whom it is assumed spend all day watching and learning bad habits from mum and dad. I think offspring in any situation get to compare their own parents with other people's families. Every family is dysfunctional in some way. It doesn't matter how you start out, as long as you finish the right way.
1044063
As an adult who was recently a child, I can sympathize with parents thinking that they understand what's going on in their child's head (my mother still thinks that), and with parents making decisions that don't seem right, and sometimes aren't. Parents are people and make mistakes, however, you should stop to consider that you'd be much worse off without them. They might make decisions that cause you to miss out on things, and they might make you do things that you don't like, but they are older and wiser, and can make more informed decisions. This does not mean that they will always be right, and if you think they are wrong, you shouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them. However, screaming or throwing a fit would only show that you aren't mature enough to make very many decisions for yourself. You should have a say in what you want to do, and I'm almost positive that, if you think about it, you do. Also, if you gracefully accept some things your parents say that you don't agree with, they're more likely to let you make more decisions, or at least more heavily weigh your opinion.
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Because intelligence is threatening and causes most people to compare themselves to you. Alot of adults will treat a child who is smart more like a child to ensure they know their "place". An adult wont likely want to give up their "authority" in a situation and one way to gain authority is to know more than someone. So again, they will feel the need to "put you in your place" so to speak. Its unfortunate, however only lasts for a little while.
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I think that it is a combination of both things. Some people just are attention freaks and have to have attention (this is probably because they didn't get enough attention from their parents as small kids). Other people might seriously have some disability or whatnot.\n\nWhatever it is, though, it's pretty annoying to be around these kind of people.
247719
yes, Remember this. Is not who the parents are that countsa. Its who raises them correctly and nourishgly with love that counts. good luck and much wisdom
513719
Children with special needs require alot of attention.  For some people that is ok but, if you are short tempered than its wrong for you to be around these children. I have enjoyed helping children with special needs and you're right it is very rewarding.  So many people ignore them or don't reach out to them and they really thrive on any attention that they get.  Sounds as if your a neat person to be devoted to thse children.  God bless you and your efforts.
51102
I believe that parents get wrapped up in their jobs and trying to provide for their family.  They also, sometimes, get wrapped up in their own lives.  Im afraid that I know of too many families that parents are too wrapped up in their selves to even pay attention to their children.  I dont think its right.  Parents should spend quality time getting to know their children.
1183982
Yes parents are way too easy on their children because:\n\n1) they are afraid to HURT their EGOS\n2) they would rather DRUG them with the many kiddie drugs than disipline them\n3) partents are too stressed out, over extended, over worked, over everything to think about their children\n4) the interest only loans will make partents care even LESS about their kids as the rates sky rocket\n5) self absorbed ALL ABOUT ME parents from the generation of overinduldged will ruin their kids
708383
are you aware that not everyone has baby momma/daddy drama in their lives just because the parents aren't together.  are you secure with yourself?  if not then don't date someone with children. it's ok and don't worry about it, lots of people fee lthat way.  some people just don't like kids. but if you do decide to date some one with childen, then you have no choice but to deal with it.  that parent gets visitation with his/her kid/s and it's not about the mother/father or you.  they're divorced for a reasnon.  would you rather the parents didn't get along and the child to suffer for your insecurities? and what about the child that may not care for you, thinking you're trying to replace the natural parent? the relationship between child and parent is important, none of anyone business (unless it's abusive) and not about you.  lot at is as a positive, the parent is able to visit the kind at the kids home with maturity and knowledge that the kids mother has moved on.