is it reasonable to expect that a bf reduce his chumminess with his female friends when he gets a GF?
413077
very reasonable, the flirting and inuendo that comes with a lot of girl "FRIENDS" is totally inappropriate now, you should have made your choice, you can only keep the ones who are JUST friends, you know the ones, they are the ones who the both of you can hang with and act the same way when she is there!!!
318096
she is, and of course!  its kinda surprising actually that he wouldn't want to be around you while you're having fun with girlfriends.  most likely, it is a problem with his self esteem, he is probably jealous of you\n\nif he doesn't like that aspect about you, but you feel it is an important aspect in your life, you need to seriously weigh whether staying with him is worth giving that up.
101855
Well...yes, it would bug me, but I'd keep it to myself... If he's not doing anything wrong, it's not fair to make him pay for what he's not doing and being insecure is unattractive, and if she's not a nice girl, your insecurity may be what she wants... Grit your teeth and make like you could care less how she acts, if you're VERY, VERY polite to her, one of two things will happen....She'll get very uncomfortable just because you're so comfortable, or she's really just a slightly clumsy, overly friendly girl and not "up to" anything and you'll wind up friendly with her...either way, you win...trust me, I'm old, I know stuff.
990538
They feel insecure and inferior of themselves. Or maybe their gfs are those type that fools around with other guyz thus they don't trust them ;)
204292
Everyone in our life has some kind of special feelings in our heart and a diff. place for everyone, so ur friends should understand ur concern to spend quality as well as quantity time with your gf but at the same time they are your friends and even they need some of your time and attention so my simple and sweet advice for you will be Spend quality(not quantity) of time with your friends and gf. Just coz you have a gf today doesnt mean that you forget ur friends and same goes visa versa so just remeber to be in touch with everyone at all times it can be just a cute hi
739025
i'm sorry, but either we are b/f & g/f....or nothing. it's like having a best friend and then getting demoted to co-worker. WHATEVER! i'd rather be concerned about getting promoted to someone else's girlfriend status.
329685
a lot are\nit hurts their egos\nthey feel less of a MAN and they feel they are not PROVIDE for her..\nbut his is silly thing to think it that way..\nI am not at all..if she is smarter and lands a better job and makes more money..so be it..better for the both of us..\nlove her for her..\nGood luck\nbe happy
868184
It sounds like he doesn't want to be involved with anyone....if he never brings you around his friends then that's a sure sign that he doesn't want to commit to you...If he never puts forth the effort of calling you or wanting to hang out EXCEPT when it's convenient for him then you need to get rid of him...he's keeping you on the back burner until something else better comes along..don't count anything against him when you two were broken up because he was a single man... so it shouldn't matter who he sleeps with or who he doesn't during that time...  If you don't feel like his gf then he probably doesn't see you as one...
416144
Well you got to  reassure him that well you have been with him this long and you only like them as far as friends and nothing else that youre happy to be with him and happy to be only their friends after that just keep him close by when he meets them! You just gotta hope it works out because a lot of boyfriends aren't always cool w/ their g/f having guy friends
980815
Some guys want to be the center of attention for their girlfriends. Sounds like he needs more than you can give. Self confidence and independence can be intimidating for a guy too, so they may try to reinforce themselves by being controlling. Jealousy is a personal problem, there is a lack of confidence and trust.  I would be careful of this guy, hopefully he's not the violent type.
509108
I think being able to set up boundries is important but most guys love any attention from women but if you look more insecure the more then likely he will be with her.  Men love a confident women.  Until he says enough she will still come around but maybe he is just playing the field and keeping his options open and if it does bother that much then you walk away but try to be friends and keep it simple and take out the drama.
447369
Funny you asked this question.  This is a constant issue with me.  I have male friends that my boyfriend is a little jelous of but trust me, they could never replace him.  My bf has female friends that I'm not threatened by anymore, but there was a time.  As far as my boyfriend and I, I say that opposite sex friends are perfectly alright as long as the couple knows where to draw the line and the "friends" and couple know not to cross it.
626541
yes. it's actually not a question on the guy's side but on the girls since girls are a lot sensitive compare to boys. rivalry between the close friend and the girlfriend will never be avoided. so why not try to be close friends with your girlfriend or fall for your best friend? :)
1008495
It's totally understandable.. honestly, i think it's kinda cute that she feels jealous about it.. =) just be even moooore sweet with your gf, and don't stop telling her that your just acting, that that has absolutely nothing to do with feelings or attraction towards the other girl, that its just your job to make it look real.. that she is the ONLY one! =)
1071590
A lot of guys... not all, but a lot of them seem to act immaturely until they are at least 24 when they realize that they can't get by with it. With the e-mail thing I think he was testing you to see if you would send her anything. He may want to make you jealous who knows with guy because he seems a little off the walll with oh I have a girlfriend and then treatens you. Not a good thing just watch your back, he may not be a friend any more.
234671
Put yourself in this situation. Would you get jealous? Yeah, and besides getting jealous you would probably be ticked off that since they got a girlfriend I'm nothing now not even a friend. If she meant the world to her then why could you drop her so easily??? Maybe you should care more about other peoples feeling instead of just your own. Good Luck:) Sorry, if this offends anybody.
569677
I wouldn't mind unless she involves you in their outings. If it's just for a hour or so I suppose it's okay, but more than that I would grow suspicious why they are spending much time together than with you.  Now, if it's a mixed crowd and most have good morals and if she's not the flirty type, then it's okay.  I'll be honest, when I'm single, I get much hotter than when I'm with someone.  If you are married, the possibility for variety can come to mind and it can be dangereous if her friend decides to make a pass.  The trust between two friends can be as strong as the love you have for each other.  I believe friends works best and can grow deep.  Not too be doubtful, just keep your eye out. I know because when I get the strange feeling in my stomach when I feel threatened, that's a signed that something is not right or that I'm being disrespected.  Talk to her about it and see if you can come along. \n\nYou will be the best judge if something is going on or not.  Trust to a limit, then you question... Boundaries can be broken so make sure she doesn't break them, that's why she's married to you.  Right? Hopefully for the right reasons.  \n\nPersonally, I enjoy being with my boyfriend.  I get along better with men but there are limits to how much I let them know because it's easy to flirt with guy friends.  Guy friends can let things happen and not worry about it because they know the other person is taken... It's a risk and a thrill for the women, but it's a BIG, BIG, NO, NO.  Not while you are married and devoted to someone.  I suggest to both of you go out, change your looks, and be the couple that can be lover, friend, and wife.  Spice up your life so she doesn't run off to get that kind of "attention"?... who knows. \n\nI'm a women and I've been single.  Now that I'm dating my boyfriend, he still wants to keep the single life active with some gals in a book club he met when he was single... I spoke to him and he decided to ended... I now have to trust him and it will be up to him to do the right thing.  \n\nSummarizing, if your wife invites you because she wants to, then go... keep her in your sight.\n\nGood luck sweatheart!