Is it normal to want to divorce my new husband ever time he does sometimes stupid?
413851
Marriage is not the easiest of things. For example when my husband and I got married he signed a contract at a gym for $125 a month and we were trying to save for a home. I was soooo mad at him and just wanted to know why the he** he would do that. You just need to sit down and talk to him, tell him your concerned about your realtionship and ask him why he does what he does. You would be suprised at the answers. Try to work things out becuase if you dont try and you give up you will regret it later in life...and if you try and it doesn't work then you will know for sure that you are doing the right thing. Good luck!
814284
I would and then leave him for being so stupid
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
171395
Not necessarily. He might need time to relax from the argument. If he tried to talk to you while both of you are upset, he might say something he will regret later, and so will you. For that reason, many smart men, who take their time cooling down, will wait until they are relaxed. That seems to be what your husband is doing. For him, hometown is a relaxing setting and helps him to cool down quicker.\nThat is just my opinion. Hope it helps.
1105218
Very possible...when I was married I loved my husband dearly however I could not stand that asshole..soooo I divorced him and I'm happy again...:)
344607
OMG honey, hell no, you are NOT to blame if he is cowardly enough to do that!!!\n\nI am 35, I became a widow 1 month to the day after my 35th. birthday. It was July 3rd., 2005 when my husband committed suicide by drug overdose. My husband and I were separated once again. He was an alcoholic and had bipolar. I could not handle the nonsense any longer, I could not allow him to exhibit the behaviors in front of my 3 son's at home anymore. The emotional roller coaster rides & rare physical confrontations were just more than I could deal with. I asked him to leave mid June, he did. I no longer wanted to be with him, I had detatched long ago.\n\nHis family has placed the blame on me for his death. I have never felt I was responsible for his death, he did it, not me. Hell, I was not even with him when he did it, so how could I be responsible, right?\n\nDon't take him back just to prevent him from doing something so stupid, I did just that prior to his death, he still did it anyway at a later date. He had been in ICU for a month 9 months prior to his death for an attempt. It was simply so stupid and selfish of him, kids were involved. I really don't have a soft spot in my heart for those who whom take themself away from the ones that love them when all they had do was straighten up even if it meant involving a professional. \n\nThis will sound really cold, but if he is stupid enough to do it, at least your kids will receive social security until they are 19 yrs. & 2 months if they stay in school & 18 if they don't stay in school. So the kids will still receive the support needed to raise them. I am sorry, I know it sounded cold and I did not mean it to but I really can't stand people that are so selfish. \n\nGood luck!!!!
214647
If you hadn't said you haven't married for a long I would have probably known. I think you don't "know" your husband yet. I personally don't agree with such kind of behaviours but I think this unusual thing you see stems from somewhere else. This can be a "sign" to you which shows your husband has some sort of psycological problem which should be cured. You can eventually find the root of this if you continue your marrage. Time will show this to you and it cannot be hidden of course if you don't get divorced. Its your decision. If you continue your marrage and live with him you might as well be able to help him. If you just tell him not to do this action and even if he doesn't, you haven't solved anything, you have just covered the problem. But of course don't go up to him and say ' you have psycological problem' he might get upset !
1146924
Forget the other guy.  The grass is always greener...until you divorce this man and marry the new one.  Then you will find yourself feeling this way again in 15 years.  Marriage is about commitment to one person.  A partnership.  You don't trade a good husband in for a new model, like you do a car.  You may learn the hard way if you leave just how hard good men are to find.  And trust me, someone will be more than happy to take your place if you leave.  I know a woman who is crying herself to sleep every night because she cheated on her husband of (ironically enough) 15 years.  He divorced her and she went off to live her "dream life".  Now she is miserable and realizes she made a mistake, but guess what?  He met someone new and is in love with her now (me).  I will never leave him, he is a dream come true!
447662
First of all its NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Men might play stupid sometimes but they arent. He could have told you no and been a man ...you would have gotten over it. Of coarse he didnt cause most men have this ego thing. And no hun hes not gonna admit cheating because that lets you know hes weak....a real man will take responsibility for his decisions. You are also not goin to know if he is cheatin unless you catch him...play it right and you will see if he is....give him enough rope to hang himself   :)\n\nPlus he would not have told you no about the marriage cause he needs something stable to fall back on..He knows as long as he has his safety net he wont fall. You told him right women shouldnt waste their valuable time on a man thats not gonna commit... either take the dive or get off the board....you did right.
823286
REAL BEHAVIORS SHOW UP AFTER BIG PROBLEMS COMES UP!\nIF YOU THINK YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN THEN GO!!!!!
140862
He won't get a divorce because it's easy. THAT'S the excuse he gave you???? HAHAHAHA! Now I've heard everything and I will think about this one when I need a good laugh. Be smart and dump the loser.
229232
I have thought about cheating, but have never acted on it and I never will. I have enough respect for my husband than that! Plus, I would hate to break up my family over my stupid actions. I think if someone's going to cheat, they should have enough respect to end the relationship first!
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
787671
YES, you should feel upset, and you're not overreacting. Sounds annoying and angering. I'm surprised he even asked you to marry him. Do you think he'll keep the promise to walk down the aisle? I had a man like that once. He promised to propose to me year after year after year. He promised he'd do it after he paid off his credit card. But when he did, he just bought himself a brand new car. Then he wanted a big projection television. Et cetera. It's hard to pinpoint exactly why some people do crap like that: lack of ability to commit, laziness, control, or just plain meanness. Talk to him about it...tell him that it makes you UNHAPPY, and be sure to stress that word. If you're unhappy, then it can lead you to fall out of love with him, and leave him. That should show him that he needs to be more trustworthy with you.
303124
There is a risk that he stops being nice when he has this done.\nBut if you love him, enjoy him. But dont destroy his marriage. All you risk is that you have to change this job later.\nLove is a mess. Do not blame yourself. \nJust do not hurt anyone.
344145
Hmmm...I can not advocate that cheating on your husband no matter what the circustances are is right because if you are unhappy you at least owe it to him to voice your emotions and to move on. Just because you don't have a good relationship does not mean that his feelings should be neglected just to satisfy your own. Since you two have been together for quite some time don't you think that you owe him that much to be honest? You say that he treats you badly and that you are unhappy but I'm sorry that doesn't justify your cheating in anyway especially considering that you have no children involved that might cause you to be stuck in staying. As for the guy that you are seeing now, maybe you are in love and perhaps a future with him will be great but you are more or less in that fairytale stage of a relationship where they can do no wrong and this will fade. If this is something that you honestly feel is worth pursuing in order to make yourself happy then go for it by all means. Just remember that your happiness does not need to be based on a man and that you can find it yourself no matter what the outcome. I think that the betrayal and hurt is going to be worst for your husband who has no idea of what is about to surface and that for you it might be hard but that you'll make it since you have realized that this marriage is no longer what you want. I'm in no way trying to put you down or belittle you for your actions because it happens to the best of us since we are all only human but I would definitely consider your situation a little further and make sure that this guy just doesn't look like a better option because you dont really have the repsonsbilities and obligations that you share with your husband. There are no stings attached at this point with this new guy so it makes it all light-hearted and fun and if you do both embark on a relationship (especially a long distance one) there will be difficulties that will eventually come along. I would suggest taking some time out for yourself once you get a divorce and not rush into anything too quickly. I think that you need to hash out somethings with yourself instead of seeking comfort from a man that is merely supplying what is lacking in ur current relationship. Obviously if you decided to get married to your spouse, these feelings at one point or another were there with him and look at what has become of that. I think you need to just really spend some time with yourself and getting to reaquainted with your independent single self before finding an identity in someone else. I'm sure you are a good person and I hope that whatever choice you make that you will find the happiness that you seek. Just remember the feeling of everyone else involved and don't let your heart do all of the thinking for you during a time when you need to use your head. Best of luck to you:)
630990
No.It all sounds like a pretty normal relationship to me.Just get another key cut!So next time he goes to get locked you can lock!