how can you tell if ur child has had sex?
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It sounds like your niece has been pretty upfront with you. Most kids wouldn't tell an adult relative that they are sexually active. It sounds like maybe there are some trust and respect issues in the relationship you have with your niece. Trying to force information out of her will only make her pull away more and force her to tell bigger lies. You need to sit down and have a conversation with her in a relaxed, comfortable setting...maybe go for a walk, or over a cup of tea at home. Tell her that you know she is sexually active and that it meant a lot to you that she was upfront with you about that. Let her know you won't judge her and she won't be punished for coming to you when she needs to. Tell her you love her as your own and want her to be comfortable coming to you about anything. There's nothing wrong with telling her you had hoped she would wait longer before becoming sexually active, but because she is and you know realisticlly it is her choice and you don't have control over it, that you want to make sure she knows the risks.and will come to you as an accurate source of information. Don't expect your relationship with her to change of night, but if you let her know she isn't being judged, won't be punished for seeking your advice and you follow through with these things I think you will see the relationship you have will become stronger and she will come to you willingly, more often.
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Looking at their hymen is NOT a way to tell if a girl is a virgin. The only way to know is to ask and trust that she's not lying.
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There's no way you can be diagnosed over the internet, but STDs can be passed on by oral sex.  Doctors are a good answer, but from your story I'm guessing you're fairly young. Right? Well, if you go to the doctor you may be concerned about your confidentiality. That is, your parents might find out because in order to pay for it you have to let your insurance know and your parents WILL get the insurance bill. \n\nSafest bet... Try a testing clinic. Planned Parenthood is always a good place. It's not only for people who are pregnant or want birth control. Guys and girls can get tested there. They're all around the US and if you don't make much money they will test you for free. You really should call 1-800-230-PLAN to find out where a clinic is that's close to you. Trust me they are awesome (I used to work for them). It's totally confidential too and it doesn't matter what age you are. \n\nI'm not telling you that you for sure have an STD, but get tested for the peace of mind. If you let an STD go without treatment it can cause some serious medical problems. So, Check it out man. It's worth knowing.
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Yes! Omg, just get a pregnancy test and do it yourself...how the hell are the people on Yahoo! Answers supposed to know...?
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ok...so u dont have intercourse but you had sex 2 times...hmm...darling you've had intercourse :)
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have u recently had unprotected sex?it could be chlamidya.get checked out
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Young ones are curious. Sex is something rare. If everyone is naked and sex is casual. We would think about clothes.
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Sounds like you are a concerned parent of a sexually active daughter.  Many times, doctors will perform tests that require follow-up visits or even further testing.  Be glad that your daughter has a thorough doctor.  I'd advise calling the doctor or his primary nurse for more information.  Don't put this off because it is very important that your daughter receive the proper treatment.  Be sure to talk with her about using condoms also.
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if you have been having unprotected sex then the only way to be sure you are not pregnant is by taking a test.
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go buy a pregnancy test and find out for sure
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The best way to tell is to have a blood test. You can have it and not show any symptoms. Or symptoms can be so mild that you don't even know you have it. I would say go to Planned Parenthood or ur local clinic and get checked
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Here's the honest scoop...I have a 15 year old daughter and I found a note of her promising a boy her virginity...so as her mom I freaked out. Well, I took her to get on birth control just in case and in the meantime I scared the heck out of her, hoping that if she did have sex she would just tell me so I would know and could offer her protection and help her deal with any problems that may come from it. Truth be told, when I took her to the gynocologist, the doctor asked me to leave the room when they examined her and also explained to me that anything she discussed with her or learned was strictly doctor patient confidentiality. I even tried to scare her after the exam by telling her the doctor told me something and she was in big trouble. I tried scaring her needlessly...I think. Bottom line, no the doctor keeps all of that confidential by a law known as HIPPA now and from the doctor patient confidentiality oaths they take. Even if your mom says the doctor told her something, she's only going on suspicion and trying  to scare the truth out of you. If you do decide to have sex, just make sure that you are protected, please. I had to add that....as a mom :o)
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A doctor utilizing the proper tests can tell you. I can tell you one thing though, "You don't get STDs from sex, you get them from stupid."
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the only way to really identify if she is a virgin is visualizing a hymen (small membrane over the vagina) but that is only a positive partially.  I the hymen  was torn by some accident she still could be a virgin.  if her hymen is not intact then the only one that knows for sure is the girl.
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If you had sex, you are not a virgin.\n\nIf you never had sex, you are a virgin.
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ive got a two year old so i guess im not a virgin
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Excuse me, have sex after hearing that? oh,never.\nfirst of all they lied to you about it from the begining, oh, please don't put yourself in this postion, if you get pregnanat the child would have HIV+, since you might be the carrier.