I need Christ to forgive me for my homosexual desires.I see a goodlooking guy and I am attracted.I need help.?
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Don't lose hope.  Christ will forgive you.  There is a reason that you are attracted to men.  I believe that homosexuality is a gender identity problem  and not a sex problem.  \n\nI encourage you to seek counsel from someone you trust or use the websties suggested for guidance. Don't get discouraged. You will likey receive reactions from people that vary greatly and many people will oppose your desire to seek healing. The websites suggested are right on target and should be an encouragement to you.\n\nYou need to really figure out why you are attracted to males.  There are plenty of Christian counselors who will help you realize what's really going on.  Men who are struggling with homosexuality are often doing so because they need attention, affection and affirmation from males, often because it was lacking in their childhood.  Other things that can trigger gender identity disorder are sexual abuse, verbal abuse or emotional abuse.\n\nJust remember that you are not alone in your struggle for freedom. While the media and many people would like you to believe you can't change, there is hope for those who seek healing from their past wounds. Be encouraged and don't let negativity bring you down. Keep your eyes on what you truly desire: forgiveness.\n\nDon't accept what others (even me) tell you about homosexuality. Do your research and see for yourself.\n\nCheck out these books ...\nYou Don't Have to Be Gay\nThe Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality\n\nVisit these web-sites (Google them)...\nFocus on the Family - They have a conference called LOVE WON OUT that's awesome for those people who are trying to get out of that lifestyle.  I don't know if you label yourself gay but there is a difference between being gay and being attracted to men. The books above will help explain what I mean in more detail.  \n\nThe EXODUS website tells more about homsexuality as well.
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You have to be willing to forgive anyone that has hurt you, you can't be judgmental, that is Jesus job, not ours. You can hate the sin, not the sinner. We all sin. You have to believe, first and foremost. If you believe, then Jesus will lead you the rest of the way. Good Luck!!!!
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If you ever honestly tried to seek him and asked him to come into your life he would be there.  You would know by the change in your spirit.  He always said when you seek him he will be there.  Then when you develop a relationship with him you honestly know there is a Jesus Chris sent from God.Deuteronomy 4:29  "seek me first with all thine heart and soul and will find me".  Once you start doing that and God knows your sincere you will find him and his awe will overwhelm you and than you cant stop seeking him after that cause you will want that feeling to never end.  Mathew 6:33  Seek ye firt the kingdom of God and and all else will be given unto you.  He will then start to work and fester in you and begin to minister to you and when that starts to happen theres no way you or anyone could say anything different.  And thats how you will know how great he is!  Cause you will never get that feeling anywhere else!  Thats how miraculous He is!!!!!!! Praise God!!! I can truely testisfy to the great things he has done in my life and trust honey, I was definitly from the other side of the tracks so to speak!  And I'm not a "Jesus Freak"  but I am a "Freak for Jesus"!  And God sent Him so how can either be denied.  And to deny Him is to deny yourself of all that is good and great!  Sooo do yourself a favor and give yourself a chance and check Him out!  You cant go wrong babeeee!!\nYou cant go wrong!  Praise God!!!
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+    :)\nA Christian in Rebellion!\n\nChristians are forgiven sinners.\nNo better and sometimes worse than others..\nI am or have been attracted to other sins just as strongly as you are now attracted to the man you say you love.\nLove (AGAPE) by the way is not sexual, lust (EROS) is.\nIf your love for this man does not lead you into fornication (in thought or deed) then It's not sin.\nIf you mean you feel lust for this person you should resist it.\nBeing a Christian means Making Jesus the Christ, the Lord of your life. \nJesus loves you and all homosexuals as much as he loves anyone else.  He died for all of us.\nIf you love him you will keep his commandments.\n\nNo amount of approval from others on this site can change what you must do to please him.
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I think he's being professional, and rightly so. What's the problem with him commited to God?  See it as a plus!  Spiritual people run their lives with great spiritual guidance.  This shouldn't be a problem.  It should make him even more attractive.\n\nIf he is easily succumbed to your interest in him, won't you think he would be easily succumbed to other girls/women?\nThink about those pointers above.\n\nFind out what makes him seemed uninterested.  Perhaps he knows you have a problem with God.  \n\nUntil you know God and how He can influence a man's character and actions, you will appreciate his belief and gain his attention!\n\nIf you saw the points raised valid, I suggest you go to his place of worhip - first with the right motive of learning about his God, and then from there if he is interested in you, he will know what to do.  \n\nDon't think he is a 'square'.  He is just a upright man... hopefully.
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Come on. Get A GRIP OF YOURSELF AND DO THE SEARCH YOURSELF. IT'S BETTER TO CONTROL YOUR LUST THEN GET INVOLVE WITH THESE KIND OF STUFF.
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just try to ignore him at the moment... its not good to force urself into a reconciliation... u dont have to fool urself and ur pastor... give urself time to consider thngs... i am sure the pastor is praying for u... and do the same for him. trust me, ul just wake up one morning and find urself texting him.. calling or even hugging him....{,"}
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You should definitely dodge the Christian you have gotten close to. He's already laying a guilt trip on you, what's next?\n\nFollow your desires as you see them and date the non-Christian if he seems like a decent guy.\n\n((((( r u randy? )))))\n.
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Thank you for your apology.. I appreciate your empathy for my situation.. I can understand that you feel for my dilemma.. Unfortunately, you're unable to change it.. \n\nI have lived my entire life under the influence of "blind faith".. I've never asked "the tough questions".. I've always relied on the innocuous explanations to placate me.. I've allowed the paradigms I've been horse-collared with all my life to lead me along like a bull with a ring through his nose..\n\nIt's only within the past year I have researched and educated myself on the short-comings of the details in Christianity..\n\nAgain, thank you for your empathy.. \n\np.s. If you apologize, I have to forgive you.. DON'T I.. :-)
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Are you searching to find God on here?  All i can say is He is everywhere he never leaves you and He is waiting for you with open arms to accept Him.  Read the bible and pray. He will show Himself to you.  None of us can prove He exsists to you only He can. Open your mind and heart to Him.  God Bless!!\nIt just seems that way but im sorry if i offended you in anyway.  God Bless!!
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Awesome! I believe you are diving in deep to the kingdom of GOD. \nWe know that Jesus was crucified so that we would have a way home to the very throne of GOD in Heaven but did you ever think that maybe in addition to that way back home, GOD wanted to be able to break through the sin and rebellion that separates us from him? You ever have a crush on a guy for no reason? You just thought he was awesome and dreamy? Well you are the bride of Christ sister!!! You are very precious to GOD and so am I. So I think he wouldn't mind if our lives were filled with him. His life is filled with us.\nMay GOD richly bless you.
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I totally understand. Pray about it and ask other people to pray for you and then just do it! He'll be faithful to you!
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just forgive them. stop counting. love as Christ loves and move on.
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Here are a few ideas to ponder:\n\n1. God gave you sexual desires to help in your future marriage and ultimately to glorify Him. The desires aren't bad, but pointed in the wrong direction, as thoughts often are, they become sinful.\n\n2. Treat these desires like the habit of over-eating. The right kind of food is good in moderation, but when you binge or constantly crave food, it becomes your drug or even your god respectively.\n\n3. Think of the particular females who are currently the object of your lust as people who need your unselfish, godly love. Ask yourself what their greatest needs are, and minister to them. I wish I had done the same when I was in your stage in life (not long ago).\n\n4. Since the problem is bigger than you are, don't keep it a total secret. Confide in God and in a friend or two you can trust, who will hold you accountable.\n\n5. Don't just stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Replace these thoughts with godly thoughts. Carry around a stack of memory verses, for example.\n\n6. You're already so far ahead of most Christian men your age because even to strangers in this forum, you can express the problem honestly. Way to go, brother!
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I'm confused, is this guy a member of the church or is he simply a crazed homeless guy living in his van?\n\nLook, I dont know, im really bad at this "subtle revenge" thing.\nYoure trying to avoid his "conversion"? Tell him youre gay. Christians hate gays.\n\n:UPDATE:\nBut whats his prime objective in watching you and your friends? Is he trying to turn your friends into members? What does he want from you? Figure out what it is he wants, once you have the right question than you can get the right answer.\n\nALSO\nIs he clean cut? or very ragged and shabby looking? Do you get the impression that hes been using drugs?\n\nO, in that case youre dealing with a sociopath. Well, if he has threatened you than a restraining order will be easy to get. It might be best if you beat him at his own game, I wouldnt damage his car or fuck with his property as it might just escalate into something you could regret later. You gotta beat him at his own game, recruit some friends to confront this asshole.
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I think you have a lot of courage to admit this and to apologise for it. In the big picture, it is a small step but it is a step regardless. It means that there will be one less person spewing hate because they can or because they think that some book justifies their hate.\n\nYes, we cop everything that you mentioned. I'm glad to see that you realise this and can see it from our point of view. Everyone has flaws but I don't think (and never will) that being attracted to the same sex and falling in love is a sin. Love is a sin?? If that's so, then you may as well send me to "hell" in a rusty old billy-cart since I am happily committed in a relationship with my "wife" and I have never felt better!\n\nThankyou for your statement. It's a kind and selfless gesture that your God would be proud of but I hope that is not your reasoning behind it. For the record, I am not a follower of your faith. However I know that this is a big step for someone of your following to do so I commend you for it.\n\nThankyou,\n                Mookie
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Seek and ye shall find. If you don't find, move on. \n\nIf the different churches you visit have different doctrines AND one week you believe X and another week Y, then yes you are being spiritually promiscuous. If you're just looking for a "home," then keep on visiting.