Is it wrong for me to be attracted to another guy after being in a 3year relationship?
401323
if your boyfriend dosn't make you feel loved and happy.. WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM!?!?!?\n\nyou are better than that. you don't deserve to be treated that way. Get rid of him and find someone worthy of you.
150230
Maybe you're not ready to be in a one-on-one relationship with just one guy. It could be because your bf is not everything u r looking 4 so u find urself attracted to other guys. Maybe u should try the single game 4 a while and see if u meet the guy that makes u forget about the others and what they have to offer.
165086
if you and this 3rd guy love each other (mutual feelings), then you should go for it! concerning these other people, no guy in his right mind would be happy with someone who wasn't into the relationship - and i doubt you would either! trust your feelings and go with the guy you truly love.\n;)
1177035
Sounds pretty normal to me.  Most that I know are into older men though for some reason.  I wouldn't say there's anything particularly wrong with dating an older guy, except that they have other reasons than just love usually for dating younger women.  i.e. bragging rights and such.  ALL men are attracted to young, good looking women, so you'll always get hit on by older guys.  Guys your age are probably still getting over insecurities and such, so that could be part of it.\n\nDon't give up and don't settle, but be careful with the older guys...\n\n*edit* "There is nothing wrong with being attracted to older men who are more likely to be more mature and open to commitment than guys your age. I think its smart of you. "  - That is the most naive thing I've ever heard.  Older definitely does not = more mature or open to commitment.....cripes...so much detail and examples could be given here...
506481
Damn, that sounds like me.  Gonna be tough starting up any type of relationship w/ anyone after breaking up w/ someone that you were w/ for the past 3 yrs.  I dunno how I would let down my guard.  Just be truthful and true.  Don't be fake, be sincere. I really don't know...
78996
It's perfectly normal to find other men attractive, you will experience that for the rest of your life. I say as long as you don't cheat on your mate with this other guy you have no reason to feel bad.
224000
No.. It ain't wrong at all...!!! See, maybe U just passed through this experience because U were confussed, maybe when U started going out with other man U didn't know what U wanted, and U had the opportunity and then U didn't give yourself the chance to get to know a girl to see if it can work out.\nThe only inconvenient I see here, is that U could hurt this girl if she likes U so much or she loves U, maybe if U talk to her about your problem she will accept to see if things can work between U.\nBut try to establish first what U want, and then... try to find out if U can change your preferences and have a straight life.
313046
Try to use your brain to make a logical decision.  Are you really, for instance just lusting over this someone else?  Do you have a long-term committed relationship that you'll ruin by following your heart?  Or are these both people you've had some kind of relationship with and you simply can't decide.\n\nIf it's the latter, who will be better over the long term.  Sometimes we make choices based on short-term goals (like having a great sexual relationship) rather than long-term goals (like finding a kind person who will be committed to you).\n\nThink before you leap!
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
920098
There is nothing wrong with you.  We can not help who we are attracted to - that just happens on it's own.  If you found yourself attracted to a man of another race I am sure you would (as you already have) given it a try to see where a relationship might lead.  You haven't had luck so far and maybe you never will - or maybe you will in the end.  There is no way of knowing - just be open to love and it will find you.\n\nxoxo!\nPeace!
495250
It sounds as if though your heart is unsure of being inlove. I think if you're really having problems with this, then you're not serious about your relationship. YOu should probably take a break from that person you're dating and try some other people. If you absolutely misst hat guy, then you should get back together with him. It's not good to be checking out other guys wth an unsure answer after two years of datin ganother guy. I hope you choose the right guy.
692716
so first off since you already have a boyfriend your not suposse to be out lookin at other guys tryings to even give them the chance for anything more than friends. a relationship is meant for 2 people to like each other and to see how far it can take them, and both of you are suposse to be honest with each other and your not so that is somehting that needs to change for you to have a healthy relationship(atleast i think so). but if you like another guy than its only for you to decide. but you should get a pen and paper and put both of there names on it and under each one have what you like about each one and then write what you DISlike about each one and out of what you write down and you think is the best you decide. and if you choose the guy that is not your boyfriend then i think that you should tell him the truth just in cas something doesnt happens with the guy you like and you maybe want to be back with what would be your ex and if your not completely honest with him now then i doubt later on(if there is a later) he wont think that your honest to him, so start now. but dont cheat that just causes everything to go wrong, and once a cheater always a CHEATER
851575
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.
528054
His problem might be the way that you refer to this long time male friend in terms of endearment... as someone who has been there for you through the good, the bad, the ugly, etc. \nNobody wants to hear that, and it's not going to boost his self confidence or trust by being compared to your other male friend. \n\nI'm wondering why you're going out with him, instead of the friend who has given you much already?\nIf you're not attracted to your friend, then you should decide who you want to be with, and who's going to be there for you when YOU need him. \nOtherwise you're going to keep on hurting the man you're with, \nby wanting to keep your options open when you feel the need to find alternative support from another guy.
415903
don't ruin your new relation, u just miss ur ex it's totally normal, but let go the past and give that new guy a fair chance to make u happy.\nu had trust issues with ur ex that's irreversible, move ahead. good luck and be happy
296099
ive been where you are right now and if you want me to be honest you need to get out of there. dont get me wrong i loved the guy i was with too and i know you feel that if you just up and leave your the bad guy but your not! im only 20 years old and i now suffer alopecia as a result of my relationship. i wouldnt wish that on anyone else. sometimes its ok to love yourself more than the one your with. you only get one shot at life, dont waste it somewhere that your not happy.
399500
I would say those are natural feelings.  We all need fulfillment to some degree, and from what you descirbed, I wouldn't say that it sounds like you're thinking about enging in any type of experimentation that would be more harmful physically or emotionally.  Unlike other types of fantasies, since you had a previous relationship with him, you have more of a frame of reference to work from.  In time you may meet someone else, and these feelings might shift accordingly as you move on from him.  For now, it shouldn't pose any significant problems.