my niece is 16 and just found out she was pregnant.  1st, should i, the uncle, advise her? if so...how?
407675
get her an adult FEMALE to confide in! (no offense itd be easier for her to confide in a woman) say, school councilor??
199713
As Tupac said" men have no right to tell a women when and were to create one". BF's come and go but that baby will be with you for the rest of your life don't make the child suffer for the decision he wants to make. It sound like you would be a great mom because that means you have already thought about leaving that sorry man. Cause if he knew he wasn't ready for kids he should have kept his stuff in his pants. It's all on you but let me tell you I lost my second child I don't know if his father thinks about him but i do and it happened 3 yrs ago and hurts every time i see a baby boy. MY Friend had an abortion and she regrets it and is now trying to have a baby but she doesn't know that no other baby is going to fill that void
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I suggest the school counciler or maybe someone in your church. The best thing that could happen would be if they did tell. What if this same person has moved on to another child now? And you can be the one to help that child. God Bless you and have mercy for what some jackass has put you through.
1182123
Don't know if this is going to offend you, but I suggest Praying for her.  God works in mysterious ways and he has a plan for her and the baby.
81801
If you are in full custody, the first thing you want to make sure of is that there is a separation between your neice and her parents.  If you don't have custody, get it!\nIf your niece is still under 10 or so, the transition of authority should be easier...I'm not saying it's easy, just that it's much much more difficult to get a teenager to listen to you or see you as an authority figure.  This also is affected by the relationship you have with youe niece.\nUltimately remember that children thrive in a structured environment.  You don't what to be too controlling because then the child will reber.  Just be real.  If you love her and care about her tell her that.  Be honest with her and talk to her like a person not like a kid.  Let her know she can trust in you.  And be patient.  You know she is going through a hard time and she is not going to change overnight.  You may also consider going to group counseling with her.  It will show her that you are involved and that you want what is best for her.
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LOL, think you did the right thing there.  The child really needs to talk to his parents about it.\n\nI've been asked before by a niece, and I told her that she needed to talk to her mom.  I said "Well, I don't know, I have never had a baby, but your mom had you...why don't you ask her?".
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Oh, sweet Katelyn, I am so sorry for you and your sweet nephew! What a tragedy. You are being very brave. Have you discussed taking care of him with your parents? Even if you were to be his primary caregiver they would have to be involved. I know that you are still grieving, but have you thought about how you will finish school if you have the care of a baby? Really, honey, you need to discuss this with your parents. Ask your pastor if there are people at church who could help out. Maybe someone would provide child care during the day while you are at school. You must be a very mature 15 year old to be thinking of this in the midst of your grief. Your sister would be so proud of you. Talk to your parents. I'm sure they'll have some ideas. God bless all of you!
205476
This is someting your Mom should have talked about a long time ago so you'd be comfortable when it happened. But now it's up to you to say something. I was scared when it happened to me, too, as my mother didn't tell me anything ... I learned it all from my friends. When my daughter started her period, we did it differently. I took her to a nice restaurant to celebrate that she'd become a woman. So here's what to do. Do you have an older sister to help you talk to your mother? If not, is there an aunt or another female relative who can help you? If not, then you'll have to do it on your own. Give her a note if that's easier for you. Just say, "Mom, I need some sanitary supplies." She may be a little surprised, but she'll recover. Honestly, she will... and so will you. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be embarrassed about. But I know how a 14-year-old would feel about this. It's difficult, I know, but like I said, write her a short note if it makes things easier. Leave it on her bed if you don't want to hand it to her. It really will be okay, Hon.
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i dont think they should did all that.some children pick up things a little faster and that,they should understand.and as long as u are not doing anything 2 physically harm the child it should not b a problem. i would b happy my child learned something so funny from his uncle.dont stop loving him b cuz of your sister keep being a good uncle!goodluck!
582930
well no matter how strick she is you gotta tell her yeah she will be mad and everything but it will pass its a baby why should she be pissed for a long time? tell her when you think the time is ready. well what my sister did was wrote a long ass note and gave it to her before she left to school so try what you think would be right!and what my aunt did was took off for a week and when she had enough nerve she told me grandma and she took it well also and if you are pregnant "CONGRATES" -k-
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I know you really care about your friend, and that is very good.  I am afraid in this case, you probably should advise her as well as possible about STD's and the like.  In fact, rather than talk to her parents, I think you could educate her yourself.  Take her to Planned Parenthood, and let them really inform her about what she must do to be safe.  You can threaten to tell her parents if she doesn't--a little leverage.  I think, however, that is the best compromise.  She has free will, and must be allowed to both trust in you and make her own choices in life.  Because you care, it is your right to "stack the deck" in favor of safety by connecting her to sexually safe information from a place like Planned Parenthood--who, by the way, is COMPLETELY confidential.  She cannot say no.  So sneak her away for lunch and a session at PP.  Make it a fun day.  Call ahead and make an appointment.  In fact, it may be wise for you to consult them about your situation.  They have dealt with this 1000's of times, and can probably add great information to what I have already told you.  Good luck.  Being a good friend is sometimes hard, but a betrayal to her parents is something you will never get to change.  IF she screws up herself, it is not your responsibility.  Sometimes people only learn when things go wrong--sad, but true.  Be sure to follow up with what happens if  you decide to consult them!!!  :)
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Tell your parents as soon as possible...do you want to keep the baby, give it up for adoption, terminate your pregnancy?\nThey will want to know who the father is.\nYou should have been spending more time learning to read and write...how did you get through grade school being illiterate?
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i think it would be the right thing to do just in case anything was to happen. so she can know all of the family. it really depends on how he is. but you should still let her see him.
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First I would take her to an OB/GYN Dr. and have her tested for pregnancy and STD's.\n\nI would have a very long discussion with her so that she would better understand the life-threatening risks she is so carelessly taking, and how to protect herself.\n\nI would also play a more active role in my daughter's life, so that she wouldn't have to tell me anything I didn't already know.  Set a good example for her, and help guide her in making right decisions for her life.
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Yes, support her and help her through this pregnancy.  If she decides to keep the child (which will be difficult, but possible) help her finish high school by getting her homework for her.  If she decides to give the child up for adoption (the best choice) help her through this time by being there for her.  If she decides to end this childs life, pray for her, but don't give up on her.  This is not a good choice, I have been through it and I still regret it to this day. I am forgiven, though......
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Your Uncle Eric is here to help you right now...\n\n1st off, be very sure that this is completely normal!!\n\nThe first 3 or 4 months your body is in complete change as hormones are released and you are making a new person.\n\nAlso, your sense of taste and smell become really heightened.  Everything is different!  Am I right?\n\nIn your 5th month, everything is whacky as your emotions just go for a spin.\n\nOK, so what help can your Uncle Eric be further...it is with  your man.  He´s got to be like a wall.  Of course, he is going to be tempted to fight and moan about what is happening.  His world is a changing!\n\nBut now it is up to him.  Is he going to be a man, like a wall and just take it and smile, and love you and get through this with you?\n\nOr is he going to be a little-boy but want to be a man, a little boy who wants to be a man?\n\nHe must decide now who he is.  Your pregancy with his baby is a defining moment in his life.  This part will soon be over.  He will either have grown as a man or just keep on fighting.\n\nIf it was easy to be a man, then everyone would do it.\n\nHe has an opportunity to build character, like a wall, or be a character, like Bugs Bunny.\n\nI hope for both of you, he decides to be a wall and build a life with you.\n\nYour Uncle Eric sends his love and best wishes!
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Unfortunately, there's no real way to do this without somoeone getting hurt, but my 14 yr old step-daughter has a suggestion - maybe get your niece to 'sus' out the circle of friends to find out if any of the other girls like him (apparently this is common in large circles), & then with the permission of the other girl, your niece could drop a few hints to the bf, & let him know that it's okay for him to date this girls if he wants & that she could set it up for him.  \nMy personal feeling is to teach your niece the right thing now, & get her to sit him down somewhere private, away from the 'circle' & just be honest with him & explain how she feels, making sure she assures him that she considers him a good friend, & that sometimes having a good friend is better than having a bf or gf. I found this worked for me at 15, with the bf at the time ending up being my VERY, VERY BEST friend for 15 years, until his untimely death at 30, & it's something I will always be grateful for & treasure forever. Even now at 41, if he were alive, I just know we would still be inseparable friends.