Had sex at 24, broke up with the guy. How can I get over it and find a man that cares for more than sex?
412878
Get over him and date someone else.  Make sure you get to know the guy really, really well before sleeping with him.
578842
Your in lust for him, it sounds like you need sexed. Relax, you will find someone
834177
i've had sex with several of my EX girlfriends much later after we had broken up.  i think once you've had sex with someone its easy to feel comfortable enough to go back and sex again. even if it's just a one nightstand with an ex. most of the time the ex is the one asking for it not me.
758520
you should, most definately break it off with that jerk, don't mind me to call him that. you're not suppose to let guys to degrade your self-worth nor to let them take advantage of you. go find someone who is willing to appreciate you and fulfill your needs, not just using you for his own sexual pleasure.
503259
you should have asked before the first time you guys had sex after the break-up. you need to ask now because he might just be looking for sex and you will get attached again and will go through the same cycle as before.
209093
Boy, you hit that nail on the head. Once a guy gets that feeling he will go for it as often as possible. It has been said that a woman needs a reason to have sex, a guy just needs a place. You are going to have to get over him. Get to know yourself better and get the most out of life. Sex is the one percent of life. This guy is making the one percent into the ninety-nine percent, ultimately it will get him into trouble. You don't want to be a part of that.
845196
So if you split up, then what's gonna happen? You're gonna find somebody you can have amazing sex with but a horrible relationship? What's better? Sex isn't everything you know. You don't have to be at it every night. If you don't have sex for a while then it will be amazing when you do get down to it. Otherwise it is just like eating chocolate for the sake of eating it. Be happy that you have such a soul mate, it is so hard to find somebody like that. It is more important than sex. Think 30-40 years ahead! Do you want to be on your own or do you want to be with a real companion? I say you work at it, agree that you have sex at some intervals and no pressure from either of you. Spontaneity is, like you said before, something to be praised. Spointaneity in sex is the real key to a long relationship. Many marriages fail because the partners aren't friends at all. They are just former sex partners but they can't find each other interesting anymore. So just think about it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!
341582
As time goes on you will heal, don't let the thought of a man bring you down, remember this to shall pass. You had a decision to make and you made it, good for you, you left before it got any worse. Give yourself enough time to realize what you really want out of life, when the time comes and the right person comes along you will just know that you did the right thing. Right now your just looking for a rebound b/c your not used to being alone anymore, try it you just might find out that you like it that way.Good Luck.
375893
Well, I am a 33yo divorced mother of 2 boys.  I DO NOT want a committed relationship.  Maintaining my independence and identity is important to me.  Non-committal sex is the "easiest" way for me.  It really does sound  morally questionable, however, I have needs as well.  \nI met a man shortly after I split from my hubby.   The sex was PHENOMONAL. We were actually a couple for 6 months. This is terrible to say, but the sex is the only reason I stayed with him.  We weren't compatible as a couple. But I thought about the sex all the time. I have NEVER felt a sexual connection with anyone before like this.  After we broke up I proposed this idea to him about FWB.  He was a little surprised.  Maybe felt more USED than anything.  He said OK. We'll see. Haven't had sex  yet since before the break-up.  If a female can prevent from getting emotionally attached, more power to ya. I think it is a great idea.
637586
Instead, next time you want serious answers ask a serious question.\n\nWhat kind of person are you anyway? You're probably the type who just goes around sleeping with whoever you can and using them.\n\nFirst off, you shouldn't just activly seek someone out because of their heritage or race. Why don't you try focusing on something else for once, like personality and intelligence. I'd rather have someone I can talk to and relate with than someone who doesn't know about anything else other than sex.\n\nIt gets old fast and so do people, try to get over your obsession with races and just focus on who's underneath the skin. A human being with feelings, emotions, a family and friends just like you. Women aren't sex objects despite what men like you obviously think.
933154
You are being used. This guy obviously only wants sex. \n\nIf you can see that for yourself, why are you still with him? You've got to have incredibly low self-esteem if you don't realize that you can do a lot better than how this creep is treating you.....\n\n<edit>\n\nIf there's a baby involved, you really need to get this guy out of your bed. For one thing, what if he fathers another one on you? For another, your son will grow up thinking it's perfectly normal to use women for sex. For a third thing, don't you want the baby to have a dad that's there for him? Right now, your ex only plays with him because he happens to be there where your ex goes to get laid....
150531
Find someone better. Relationships can't be based on sex and sex alone. Find someone who will respect you and your wishes.
190935
I was a virgin until I was 25. Then that situation was happily remedied.\n\nI think that life is a lot more than just sex. Obviously, sex is something we all desire. And, we do deserve at some point to experience that joy. It can seem like it will never happen when you go so long before you finally "get some", but for some of us, things just have to fall into place first. \n\nMy suggestion isn't the same as those freaks that just say "let it happen naturally"... I had to realize that I was getting older and it wasn't happening for a reason. It wasn't them - it was me. And, the best thing is, the only thing I can change is ME.\n\nYou can change yourself. Some things you can't change, but some things you can. Make an effort to have more FRIENDS of the female gender. Be a genuine friend. Don't guilt them over not having sex with you, don't pressure them to date you. You can start out just by being nice to random ones you meet (work, college, etc). Be positive around them. Even if inside you are still bitter - only let the positive out. Eventually someone will appreciate your effort, even if she sees through it. Effort earns a lot of points. Things will fall into place.
238575
I don't care how old you are....its depressing to see someone do noting but watch tv and have sex.  There is so much more to life then just those things. If you have no legal ties to this guy I suggest you start (looking around) for something new. Your not getting younger .\nGoodluck,\nSuzanne
1100595
go slower and more foreplay and just enjoy yourself and be glad you have someone to have intercourse with...i could of course but i want to love and care about someone before i go there...
992423
You can find your answers by testing his intentions. Do not give in to desire. tell him you are not willing to rush another shot. that if he is honest then he will understand. He had a chance and he threw it away and now he wants it back and this should not be given freely. make him earn your trust make him work and build a relationship. Do not allow passion until you know for sure. All men have sex on the mind it is part of our design. if he can accept your terms meaning that until your ready to trust him fully that no sex is happening and he is willing to work at it then I say this is the only way your going to know.\npersonally if I were a woman I tell him sorry you had your chance and I am so over you and walk away. but I am not you so I will wish for you the best and hope all turns out for you and you find your happiness.
309588
well i'm dumping my bf and going out and getting laid-the best way to get over someone is to get under someone