Do you think having 3 children is a good reason tp try to make a relationship work......?
414652
Just be honest and tell him how it makes  you feel. You deserve to be treated better than this. You may have children to take care of, but Im pretty sure you can do this on your own. You are right...it isn't good for the kids to see this. They need to know love.
293696
(C) None of the above.\n\nYou get into a relationship for the reason of making you and your man happy, not the child. Children are a result of man and women. \n\nDon't ever put the child first in a relationship, it never works out well for anyone. \nPut your husband first and you work with your mate and the child becomes happy through this.\n\nHappiness attracts happy children.\n\nLink, shows what I am talking about.
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
549442
no, sorry. but there are a lot of people, men or women, who just think 5 kids are too many. but i'm sure theres someone who loves kids just as you do, and wont mind it. \nit probably also depends on the age of your kids.
270169
It depends on where you are in your relationship.  I have 2 kids from when I was married and I was afraid that my now partner would leave me if there were too many issues surrounding my kids occur.  Introduce yourself slowly as a friend and TALK to your bf.  Cannot stress that enough....the more you talk to each other, the faster you will learn.
199872
I personally think it depends on how old the child is.  I did live with my boyfriend when my child was 2-3.  We eventually broke up and no harm was done b/c they didn't remember the situation much.  I am now dating someone new 8 years later.  We are even talking of marriage but I refuse to live with him until we are married.  If something does happen and we break up it will definitely send the wrong message to my child.
883249
7 kids! holy crap. well does he not treat her right or something? why dont you like him? just cause hes younger? if they have 7 kids together they must really want to be together.
184528
well you know what hey say about that good sex girl anyway i think if he is a good enough father to take the kids and help you out like that with three kids and these men these days don't want to do it with one he sounds like he is a sable guy with his head on straight but it also sounds like he has anger management issue i think you need to be alone at least until you get your life right for your kids sake if the baby's dad loves you so much then he will understand that is not a good idea the kids will then have no parents no mother and no father b/c he will end up in jail
1135278
because a have 4 kids...
339002
My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
636926
Yes , they do. They dont know or dont understand that it takes two to make a child and also two to bring him/her up. Single parents are not  role models for their children. Children need to see a mother and a father in their house.Otherwise, they will grow being very unhappy children.
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Look to your three children and take care of them first.  Second finish your degree and follow your career.\n\nSounds to me like you need to prioritize things here and a man in your life is not exactly what you need right now.\n\nYou've met three Mr. Wrongs time to stop and think about what the next Mr. will bring, another child?\n\nThird well where ever you've met the past three STOP going their!
667613
Indeed. But then again, it depends on if his children are already having a lot of terrible behavioral issues and if their mother is woman enough to try and be civil with the new woman in Dad's life.\n\nI don't instantly disqualify men for having kids, but I do dig a little deeper to find out if there are any red flags. There's no sense in getting invovled with a man with children if you're not going to be in it for the long haul.\n\nI believe that like women who are single moms, single Father's are a sacred thing. Don't start trampling on the hearts of our youth...that's a whole different kind of bad karma.\n\nbest of luck!
94410
That is a shame. You need to figure out if this is the way of life you want for the children, if not than you need to move on.
284304
Isn't two enough? Do you really want to contribute to the world's population problem? Any more than two is a selfish act in my humble opinion (unless it was an accident). If every couple had only two children, the world population would remain constant. Live by example. Concentrate your resources into making the two children you have into the best possible humans they can be. Don't dilute your resources on more kids than that. It's not fair to them.
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loooooooooooolll!!!!\n\nads:\n1) ur kids get taken care of\n2) u always find someone in time of need\n3) love is flowing in all directions\n\ndisads:\n1) too many people, too many opinions\n2) unnecessary clashes + interfering\n3) no time for yourself and your partner
524000
Brilliant!\nAbsolutely a wonderful idea!\n\nMy own mother could have spared me a DREADFUL first AND SECOND marriage...but I did not listen to her!\nSo, I paid the failure price!\n\nMothers know their children FAR and away better than the children know themselves, simply because they have watched HOW that child makes choices from the first day of its life!!!\n\nI believe this with ALL my heart!\n\nMothers also recognize traits in the child that are known sometimes only to the mother herself, because she may have had them or still have them and knows they are not optimum in Life's choice making!!!\n\nLet you mother choose someone, you will have the final say, after all, the chemistry has got to be THERE for YOU !!!\nBut, trust her instincts and guidance--she loves you like no other human will EVER love you in your Whole EXISTENCE AND only wants GOOD for you.\n\nI believe this even though you and I have never met!\nSome things you just have to Trust.