Ethical dilema- friend with an STD wants to date my friend?
411680
Before he gets scarred for life (herpies never ever goes away) tell her to tell him about the STD.  Make sure she knows that if she doesn't tell him, you will.  It isn't your place to step into their affairs, but this is serious if he doesn't know.
772152
If i was u i would be happy that i did that because u saved her from getting pregnant and getting aids from him.If you know you did good then you did good.  she will come  back to you and thank you. so just give it time. It might take like a month or so.  I hope that everything is going to work between you and your friend.
782882
Yikes! Are we talking sharing an STD?
982074
you clearly need to get an answer. you are correct in thinking that she might be hiding something because of her "sketchy" answers. this is common behavior for someone who's notbeing perfectly honest.\nBeing it your first relationship, if she has an STD, it may be something that will affect you for the rest of your life. And if you have a sexual realtionship with ANYONE, you have the right to honest answers regarding that persons' sexual health.\nWorst case scenario, if she has an STD, its no wonder that she may be nervous answering. She's probably afraid that it will make you leave her. \nStatistics arent good, sadly. HPV (warts) and herpes are very, very common. In fact, more people HAVE it, than those who dont. Thats just the way things are.\nI'd just tell her that you would like both of you to be tested and reassure her that it' not an "attack" on her part.\nAnd please, if she does have something she's hiding, and she DOES come out and tell you, dont use it against her. Facts are facts and shit happens to everyone. She may be embarassed, ashamed, humiliated...you never know what the story may be.\nBest wishes.
375791
you are such a friend and i hope i have one just like you, but sadly the only thing you can do is give your own thoughts about their relationship and where you you think it is headed, other than that you can't do anything beyond what you are permitted to do,. and you can never impose upon them what you would want to happen in their relationship. it is up to them to decide so long as you are there and guiding them is just what the doctor would recommend.
775554
Registered Nurse here; I must agree with you, however this is not the laws on sexually transmitted disease that governor our state.  Now keep in mind, HIV/AIDS, is a death sentence, however the law is on the side of the individual with the disease.  Trust is a wonderful thing, but in this day and age, I believe casual sex is not a healthy choice.  For many people do lie about there sexually history, especially if it involves an STD.  The only thing to make sure is you and your potential partner get tested prior to taking that step.  Hopefully if your both willing to get tested, it's not a one night stand and your relationship has potential.  If you don't heed this advice, make sure condoms are used.  Will not prevent STD's, but decreases your chances of contacting one.  Thanks for the opportunity to address this question.
328846
Are you interested in your friends boyfriend? or Has he made a pass at you and you want her to know what a jerk he is? Because if you are wanting to tell her because you are planning on getting with him, I want you to know you have crossed the wrong line here. Girlfriends have a code, and no man, can destroy that between us!!!
330157
It was wrong for you to pass the information for these reasons :\n\n1. what someone tells you about themselves should be kept confidential by you....it is a trust\n2. you have no first-hand knowledge of the validity of J's assertion. She could have just made the story up.\n\nThe correct thing for you to have done would have been to confront J about endangering/infecting another person, because that is a selfish, vile thing for her to do. If she doesn't take heed to your advice, you can inform her that a civil suit could be brought against her. \nSecondly, you should have told K to ask J herself. You should not have been asked to be put in the middle.\n\nAs for J, there is no cure for her STD. K is not the only person who will be caught in this snare. You will not be able to warn all of your friends who will be at risk in the future. Casual sex has serious consequences, because some people (like J) are unidisciplined, indiscrimnate and conscienceless.
668883
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
709205
Why don't you both just do everyone and get over with. STD's the gift that keeps on giving!
165345
You will probably lose your friend.  That's the risk you take.  Why would you tell?  Because you want to prevent you friend from getting hurt?  His wife from getting hurt? The woman you like? Check your motives.  If it's so this woman will become interested in you instead of your friend, tell her your reason.  I doubt that your friend will forgive you, but the woman might respect your honesty.
1027324
YES!!! I know a couple myself. Guys who do this are called "Down Low" guys. I would strongly urge you to warn your friends about  how rampant Aids and HiV are in this community. You guys may never know the full truth... but tell your friend to protect her heart and let him GO.
148223
Why dont you just ASK her to have a threesome or ask her what she thinks about a threesome? It's wrong if you have to be sneaky about. If all three are game, then not wrong at all. Don't worry about what others think about your morals. They are not you and don't live your life, but in order not to lose a friend, I would suggest just being up front about it.
929133
Yes, but they have to be on board aswell.    In college i had a great friend with benifits and we would call each other for booty calls all the time.We were good friends that tried to date, but knew that it could not work, we did however enjoy the physical with each other.   The funny thing is that i would call him over, then make him leave right after and he was totally cool with that.  After i started seeing someone seriously we ended the sexual part but remained friends.  I am now married with a child and he is friends with my husband and i.  My husband knows about the relationship also.  I kept things very open.
651208
Okay, here is what I derive from your question. Your are asking us "How do I know its time to have sex with that special someone, but I'd rather have sex with my neighbor"\n\nYou basically answered your own question. If you are not interested in having sex with the person that you think is the 'special person' then don't. Obviously, they are not the 'special person'. \n\nIf you feel that the neighbor is that one, then there are questions that follow. \n\n1. Does he/she like you back (more than a friend)?\n2. Have you spent a substantial amount of time getting to know this person (their ambitions, goals and future endeavors)?\n3. Are you really ready to give yourself to someone and understand the consequences that follow; IE: your feelings, his/her feelings, possibility of pregnancy, STD's, etc\n\nSex should not be taken lightly, and should only follow when there is love involved. \n\nTake a moment to ask yourself these questions, and you will know your answer...\n\nGood luck.
612135
if your the honest type and have a good relationshiop tell your friend, if not hide it and hit the chick up  the real question is pussy or dick
346153
You'd have to...It will eventually come out if you plan to stay with this person. It is always best to be honest. If he/she leaves you because of the STD, then so be it, but at least you were honest so that he/she doesn't go out infecting others because of your silence.