Hadn't seen an boyfriend in 3 yrs, seen him, came unglued what do i do? Mixed emotions when we parted ways
397365
Sounds similar to me. I wish you luck. I am still waiting to see what happens in my case. Keep your fingers crossed and be strong.
886226
I hate to say it but if he really wanted to make it work he would. You've gone out of your way to find time to see him, if he felt the same way you do then he find a way to spend time with you. Not seeing you enough is probably an excuse, he's not strong enough to tell you how he feels and he's probably thinks he's sparing your feelings by blaming the situation instead of telling you how he feels. Give him time and he may come around, but don't wait for him. You should start moving on.
98987
Hmmmmmmm, In your story it did sound as if he was still intrested. well being that you haven't heard from him he is either not intrested or something has happened to him.\nI really wish guys could be honest it would make life much easier, but if it'll make you feel better just keep in mind what goes around comes around.
759564
maybe u should talk to him like normal so he can see for himself that uve moved on. give a friendly wave when u see him. just have conversations with him and stuff
353576
o.k I'm confused! i thought you said you had a boyfriend! how can you be lonely?? whats the real story!!!
162982
Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck
259930
I would second the motion that Mike made. I would also recommend finding new activities and make new friends. That way you can let people know you are available. And you can keep yourself occupied. And keep your spirits up too. Use this broken relationship as a learning experience. Good Luck. LJK
310710
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
89103
better nine months than eight years enjoy the freedom try not to look for someone to take his place hang out with friends eventualy the feeling of loss will pass just give yourself the greaving time you need come to terms with what has happened try to learn from it and move on maby the next relationship will be better good luck god bless lol.
915973
One thing I don't understand is your attachment to your previous relationships (past). You are not that desperate, are you?The relationships did not work, period. Move on. Don't date anybody just to date somebody. Find someone you really like. You will feel it when you see him. Forget about the past.
340173
Why don't you have your friends come over to explain what happened?  If he means anything to you and you want to stay, you will try anything to keep him.  Good luck!
801040
First you gotta decide if you actually miss HIM or if you miss the aspect of having a serious relationship.  If you just miss the relationship, then you can always find someone else.  If you miss him specificly, call, email, text message, or do anything you can to talk to him.  Let him know how you feel.  Tell him that you know that your life was a little crazy when you knew him before and now you know you have changed.  (MAKE SURE, you don't want the same mistake to happen again).  Tell him you've grown up and you want to see how things will work now that your out of your wild side.  Just tell him the truth.  If he says no or rejects you or anything, you will know that he is probably not the right person for you and you should take your responsible self and find someone else.
1083158
Don't dwell on him, it won't help your situation and will only make things harder.  Go on with your life and you'll meet new people.  Eventually you'll meet someone that takes your mind off him and none of what you're feeling right now will exist in your mind.  And if things are truly meant to be between the two of you, one day you'll find yourselves back with each other, but it'll happen naturally.  This doesn't mean you should plan for that either.  Meet other people, time will heal.  Promise!
347519
Tell your boyfriend that it feels like things have changed and you would like to see whats its like without a boyfriend you could also add things don't seem like they did  and it would be better if you just remained friends if that can happen!
392280
hmm, tough one.\n\nI don't know the situation that you and him had that made you to break up.  But I'm guessing that he might have broke up with you.  Does not really matter much either way cause the end result is the same.... you two are not together.\n\nI think though that you did not have closure over the breakup and that you have feelings for him.\n\nWell, we see that he has moved on and that he has someone else now.  You feeling jealous seems to me that you still want to be with him.\n\nThink hard to yourself, why you two broke up?  Cause if you caught him cheating or the love wasn't really there after sometime....  Then getting back together MIGHT not work.  I'm guessing that you did not have a messy breakup since you guys are still friends.\n\nYou might be trying to hold on to memories of the good old times and think that maybe if you got back together you will have that again.  Trust me, it will never be exactly the same.  And actually its a proven fact that the human mind remembers things with an amplified emotion... that is you remember this great place when you grew up but visiting back later, you notice its not the same.  Cause your expectations are going to be set really really high.  And when it does not happen the way you remember you'll be really devistated.\n\nIf I were you....  I would tell him about your feelings if you trully want to get back together with him.  Cause this is a choice you both have to agree on, not just you.  But if you don't want, then I would say cut all ties from him.\n\nGood luck!
1119108
something has happen, find out what it is, if it is work, school or family. if those are the reason, talk with one another. find time to meet. if not, it is time to maybe think of finding a new bf
249258
well...just cut him out of your life...\nrecall your friends and start hangin out again specially if you haven't seen em for a while because you were too busy dealing with the jerk you're trying to ditch then.\nor better still...try your family...they might've missed you just the same.\nor be with yourself and try to see what you REALLY want and get it!\nDo some changes if you want, like, get a new hair do or update your wardrobe...just keep yourself busy and you'll eventually forget anything happened.\nGood Luck and Enjoy!\n\nohh...by the way...getting over him doesn't necessarily mean you need someone new...just yourself is enough and everyone else around you to share new moments with wont hurt.