my dad and mom are hitting a divorce what do i do?
409422
It's a scarey time.  Confide in a good friend if you can.  The most important thing to remember is that your parent's problems are in no way caused by anything you did or said or didn't do or say.  Try your best to stay out of the middle and don't let one try to turn you against the other.\n\nThere is nothing wrong in demanding to see a therapist if you feel you need to.\n\nMay God be with you.
750254
Ring the court up that you got divorced in. They will be able to help you by telling you who to phone or write to.
815127
First of all, don't listen to anyone who says everything gets split exactly in half.  That's not how property division works.\n\nIn a divorce, your dad and step-mom will be negotiating who gets what.   If they can come to an agreement that they are happy with, the judge will grant the divorce, even if one person gets more dogs than the other.  (The idea is for items with monetary value to be divided fairly equally. IE  one person gets the house, the other person gets other property that is worth approximately the same as the house.)  If you live with your dad it would make sense for him to keep Jack since it's 'your' dog.  Maybe they will decide that the dogs spend half time with her and half time with him.  But if you live with your mom full time, it might not be reasonable to expect your dad to take on the responsibility of a pet.  Talk to both of them about how you feel about the dogs.
220873
Sweetheart, I know exactly what your going through. My son lives with his dad,(We're all in Missouri). My son tells me how bad it is with his dad, and as I understood it, when he turns 12, he can go to the judge and say for himself that he wants to live with me. It sounds like you and my son are going through the very exact thing. If you can find a way to get to the Division of Family Services without your dad knowing, tell the people you want to go to a judge and tell him/her that you want to go to your mom's. I am a child advocate. I'd take you myself if I could. When you go to the Family Services, you need to let them know EVERY bad thing you are going through. They will investigate your dad, but no one has to know you made the report. If your mom agrees to have you come to her, then you, her, and the Family Services have a meeting at once. YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE THIS DECISION!!!\nGood luck and GOD BLESS
777457
I don't know your age, but at a certain age the kid is allowed to decide. You should tell your mom your feelings, or if you go to court again let them know. I'm sorry you're going through a divorce ): It's tough. Good luck
377724
Nasty problem that you will not be able to solve. Your ex sound bitter and bound and determined to punish you for something or other. Unfortunately, all you can do is remain constant in your affection for them, and hopefully, with time, they will see things as they really are...no guarantees...they may or may not turn against you ... time will tell. But, no matter what you do, what you say, if it is negative towards their mother, they will swear their mother is right. IF, on the other hand, you are sympathetic towards the mother's plight, do not bad mouth her, and, in gereneral, behave nobly, your chances are slightly improved that they will come around. Been there. IT is a very sad thing when one parent uses children to "get even" with another...all concerned are badly damaged, including the offending parent...but that is of no consolation to you. You have my deepest sympathy in this...I have seen this happen time and time again. Such a waste, and seriously sad. You are in a loose-loose situation, short of gaining custody ... and that won't happen unless you can prove she is unfit as a parent. Good luck.
850911
If he is the biological father of your kids then get the miserable SOB back into court and apply for  child support and make sure you get it backdated too.
764261
Well you are going to want a divorce after this anyway, so go ahead and call a lawyer.
1079896
Oh darling...I know you are confused.  It sounds like your mom is doing all she can to survive.  You need to understand that your dad is not  "lending" you guy's money!  You are his beautiful children and deserve the most precious things that this life offers!  Try talking to your mom...she may have resources to go to the court and petition for more child support.  Right now you should be proud to work on your grade point average at school and have a social life with your friends.  I can tell your mom wants the best for you, but understand that sometimes when a grownup is going through alot of heartache it's hard for them to see what you're going through.  Hugs!!!
700056
she shouldn't have to choose between  parents it's not fair to her. She should have a talk with each parent and let them know how its affecting her. The parents are the ones that are getting a divorce not her. They will always be her parents no matter what. Of coarse both parents love her so they can value her input. They just need to listen to your friend. Good Luck!
1126548
first off keeping you and them apart is not a good idea, let them see  and observe you if they seek you out then interact but for the most part just be a presence for a bit. they need to size you up and test you out, their dad in their eyes failed and left so they feel that its possible you could do the same.their mom and you need to stand united dont avoid or work around the kids so much instead make them being around the two of an option, they saw mom and dad tense with each other and need to see that you two are not the same as mom and dad were. letting them go to dad is neither right or wrong, the only issue is will dad let them come back to mom if the kids so choose or will he fight to keep them in order to hurt mom. the kids may also resent someone taking moms time and attention after having her to themselves, when they asked for her she was there now sometimes they have to ask for dad since mom is with you, that is something that will work out, sharing mom, as they get used to a solid family unit. when parens split the mom or dad who has the kids will form a united front "them against the world" since they have to work so hard to keep it all together and its hard to trust anyone and let them join the cause but have faith they will come around and it will be all of you against the world.
213507
check out your divorce papers \nmaybe your custody papers \nif there isn't either you need to file a custody suit
206687
unfortunantly theres not much you can do- I also was 12 when my parents divorced--it hurt my feelings really bad...but I think my advice to you would be to just let them know that you love them both and that you wish they could work things out--but that if they can't you still love them and want everyone to be happy. I think if I were in your parents situation that would help more than anything--its hard but- in time things will work out one way or another, I wish you the best and hope you and your parents are all happy in the end.
90078
Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
653094
Call your Dad. Your Mom should be protecting you, not that scumbag. Even if the stepfather doesn't go to jail, maybe your Dad gan get you out of there. No matter how many problems it might cause, remember that YOU didn't cause the problems, that awful so-called "man" caused them when he did what he did. Anything that comes of it is NOT your fault. Call your Dad, please. Get yourself out of there.
1019814
That is really up to the parents and how they handle the divorce to a large degree.  First off you have to realize every child is unique and sees things differently so you have to treat each of your kids differently and not assume that one method works for everyone.  Mostly though the kids react based upon how their parents react and how they perceive the divorce.  If things go smooth and there is a good relationship between the parents that helps a lot.  It is also important for both parents to communicate openly with the kids about what is going on and why.  This is one of those instances where you need to not talk down to your kids but treat them almost as adults.  You have to communicate clearly and also take time to listen to them and how they see things and how they feel.
255100
so she will negotiate a divorce for a price? aye.  he should run if she said that!\n\nKids dont get a say in whether parents divorce.  you can hear them out but it's your decision.  \n\nIf you both are willing to try , then maybe she can try to find a way to enjoy your interests or be tehre for you when you're enjoying them in some way.