Is it normal to hate your sister so much?
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Your dad passed away already, and the bible states that he will be resurrected...so there is hope to see him again.  But now, since you and your sisters are the only family member that need to look for each other, I think that you should forgive her whatever she did with your dad, remember that he is already dead....let him go.  Try to live well between you all for the best of you all...if I ask you: Do you love God, probably you would say:"Yes". That would make a lier, because if you can love God whom you cannot see, how come you don't love your sister, and forgive her, even though you see her....19 Know this, my beloved brothers. Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking, slow about wrath; 20 for man’s wrath does not work out God’s righteousness. 21 Hence put away all filthiness and that superfluous thing, badness, and accept with mildness the implanting of the word which is able to save YOUR souls. \n\n22 However, become doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves with false reasoning. 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word, and not a doer, this one is like a man looking at his natural face in a mirror. 24 For he looks at himself, and off he goes and immediately forgets what sort of man he is. 25 But he who peers into the perfect law that belongs to freedom and who persists in [it], this [man], because he has become, not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, will be happy in his doing [it]. \n\n26 If any man seems to himself to be a formal worshiper and yet does not bridle his tongue, but goes on deceiving his own heart, this man’s form of worship is futile. 27 The form of worship that is clean and undefiled from the standpoint of our God and Father is this: to look after orphans and widows in their tribulation, and to keep oneself without spot from the world. 11 Quit speaking against one another, brothers. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother speaks against law and judges law. Now if you judge law, you are, not a doer of law, but a judge. 12 One there is that is lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But you, who are you to be judging [your] neighbor?
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why do you hate her?  do you have a reason?
459079
We could have the same sister.  Mine is pretty much the same way.\n\nShe gossips about people all the time (then gets mad when people say something about her), has 5 kids but shows preference for one, tells our mother that she (mom) never did anything for her - when our parents have bent over backwards for both of us, everthing has to be about her - when it isn't she changes the subject to be about her, I could go on and on.\n\nMy suggestion to you is to take it all with a grain of salt.  I quit having to much contact with her and when she calls 90% of the time I don't answer (God bless the person that came up with caller-id), and when we do talk she spends much of the time yelling at the kids or trying to tell me that I must repent my sins - leave the Catholic Church and join up with her church because hers is the One True Christian Church that Jesus intended to set up.\n\nNot to sound mean, but I just laugh to myself.  I have heard all of this for far more than 10 years and I quit forgiving.  In order to be forgiven you must not do what you were doing to need forgiveness for.  For her, that hasn't happened.\n\nI suggest that you keep your distance for a while, make some excuse to not be around her.  I know it sounds just as bad as what she is doing, but you must take care of yourself, and it sounds like her actions are causing you some mental distress.\n\nGood luck.
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I have an older sister and a younger one. I don't think one sister exist in the universe who wants to push her sister away by intention. it is a wrong perception in younger sisters.when they grow up, this misunderstanding will resolve.
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My sister and I are three years apart and fought like cats and dogs when we were younger.  I'm 32 now and she is 29 and we are just getting to the point where we can have a conversation without jumping all over each other.  Our birthdays are only a couple weeks apart as well and we are both Aires...probably a bad combination.  I always thought that we were radically different from one another but then there are times when I wonder if it is that we are just too much alike to really be close...I'm still not sure.  \n\nWhat I am fairly sure of though, is that when sisters fight it is rarely about the thing that started the fight...she doesn't yell because you asked her to do a small favor.  She yells because there are huge under currents of emotion between the two of you that she doesn't know how to handle any better than you do.  You are two teenage girls living in the same home and there is going to be a lot of jealousy, resentment, anger, and self centered emotions coming between the two of you for a while.  The best thing you can do is give her space, you enjoy your space, and make up your mind that no matter what mean things she says you aren't going to treat her badly.  If you make up your mind that nothing she can do will make you hate her and you do your best to not say mean things to her then you have more than 50% of the control.  Know that when you get older and your parent(s) aren't around to hold the family together anymore it will be up to the two of you and any other siblings to remain close for the benefit of your children.  You can't control how she feels about you and what other issues she is having in her own head concerning you but you can decide that having a sister is more important than hating each other and not speaking for years.  \n\nSometimes you have to bite your tongue, I do it a lot with my sister, but not saying something mean is better than having her actually have a reason to be mad.  If you kill her with kindness and stay out of her way she will get over it at some point and you will have been the bigger person.
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Hell yeah, I have a 7 yr old sister & she's such a runt! Were 8 yrs apart & she drives me crazy! lol But hey she's my sister I still love her...
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I feel your pain, really I do.  And I understand.  Obviously, your sister has self-esteem issues.  For that matter, she may even have some mental health issues (as does my own sister) that run deeper.  \n\nHaving gone the route of trying to show my sister that she was taking the wrong path, and making improper choices concerning the men in her life as well as other decisions, I have finally given up.  Unless a person is legally and or medically determined to not be responsible or in control of their own actions, they are capable of making their own decisions.  As long as you try to provide direction to her, you will likely be frustrated in your efforts.\n\nDetermine what is ultimately important.  If you want your sister to include you in her life in spite of her decision-making, then you need to really try to keep the lines of communication open.  As long as you're trying to tell her how to live her life, and as long as she disagrees with you, you will be at odds.\n\nThe better thing would be for you to be a loving supportive sister, even when she fails.  Be there to encourage her.  Ultimately, these decisions are hers to make, even if her loved ones know that they are bad ones.  It is a hard thing to take, but it may be better for your relationship if you step back a bit.  She will, unfortunately, find out sooner or later what kind of man she's dealing with.  Sadly, any action that she takes must be hers, and hers alone.  They say that, "Experience is the best teacher, and for some there is no other."  She's just going to have to find this out for herself.
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do you have evil step sisters too?
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Yah your right about the hate thing....he wouldn't have done it otherwise. You need to have a sit down with your brother.\nSounds like there are some unresolved issues there.\nYour brother could be hiding something, if they seem alright now maybe its just a front....\nSo talk to him about it.....see whats up??\nGood Luck to you....
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Odds are your sister told her daughter not to talk to you but it's not your nieces fault, it's her Mother's, remember that. As far as the sibling rivaling there's no age that that's not possible. What caused this? Were you two compared to alot growing up? Gosh, I hate to go her but I will. My sister and I are both in our 50's\nand she has always hated me with a passion, we haven't spoken in over 2 years and she has instructed her 30 year old son that if he talks to me even at family gatherings she's through with him, fortunately he told her he loved her but I did nothing to him and he will have a relationship with me. Anyway I love our Mother but I blame her, she always compared us and that's not a fair thing to do. I even started to go to counseling over the whole thing. I've come to realize that it's okay if she doesn't want anything to do with me, I still love her and I'd be there if she needed me, I can't make her like me and I can't change things. It's her loss that we aren't in each others lives and with or without her I will go on and I will be happy. I will not let it ruin my happiness or my life.
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I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
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I have an older sister (she is 14 yrs older), and my mom always comares me to her and it is so annoying. So I guess she isn't really the annoying one, but I hate being compared to her.
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It is normal to have differences.... this is call sibling rivalry.\nI know my sister and I have gone though times that we haven't spoken to each other also. I have learnt over the years to accept where the other person is at and let them own it. It is their experience not yours so you really don't have to agree. Just realizing that you can still like or love someone with different opinions is ok. It doesn't mean you have to agree with them or even change their mind. I believe if you are going thourgh different experiences that's ok. You still have your fond memories of your sister and no one can take that a way from you ,not even your sister. I hope all works out well!!
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record it with a hidden cam corder. If she abuses you , she is more then likey to abuse others too. in my family this kinda stuff happpened too . it drove a space between me and my older sister, i hated her then and now i have little to no contact to her because she treats other still like that in her thirtys. some people need to feel as if they are in control and have the power. I dont want you to end up the tatel tail but if it was my child i would listen. Abuse is abuse no matter whos hand it comes by.
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I am now 19 and I have a little sister who is 13 as well and when i was younger i also picked at my little sister i guess it was because she was smaller than i was but don't think for a second it was because I didn't care about her it was just that when i was 15 there where a whole lot of things changing in my life at the time and I needed someone to take it out on and she was the only one there smaller than myself. Trust me once she gets a little older it will all pass.
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Learn to love her, because you should never hate your family. Be glad your sister is around. Someone decided to kill my sister. I would give almost anything to have her back here with us. Be glad you have her there! Hope this helped you!
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Don't blame her, she feels responsible for you... unfortunately she will always look at you as a kid. I'm 26 and i still look at my 22 year old sister as a kid, cause she IS!!