Didn't go to Easter Dinner, Should I feel guilty?
406373
Not guilty due to mental distress. You need to come to terms with yourself and be confident in yourself in order to face your family, or just go your own way
143106
sometimes homwork is more important than a dinner date.  try it again on a weekend, and if he makes an excuse, he not into you.
333429
a party and i was not invited...sucks huh???
890243
I know how you feel- no relaxed visiting- just a mad dash to make it to the next get together.  Its nice to be invited to more than one place, but it is a strain and really no fun to have to rush through a visit or dinner.  \n     You have a good idea, I think if I were you, I would go ahead and separate for the day to each family.  Especailly since you have family that you only see this time of year.  That time is precious- and you won't get the time back.
973311
i guess you could choose to go to your aunts and not go with your mother. sure you may not have a big thanksgiving dinner but the two of you could come up with something. i think that even if you ended up eating soup and a sandwich together that would be great. i think you would both like that. so, tell your mom that you are going to spend it with your aunt.
734752
None...I found out that i will be alone. I found that out today. I am not feeling sorry for myself and i would serve others if i were well enough to....but i am not, so I will watch the snow fall and perhaps play on the computer and remember my friends....read, watch a little telly...and write to those who mean a lot to me thanking them for being in my life.\nFood....I am simply thankful for anything I have ......thanks for the question....i needed this reality check.\nLioncourt
348680
When I got married a lot of people didn't turn up, I was a little disappointed but fully understood that the world does not revolve around me. Anyone who has their head out of the clouds will be ok about it as long as you let them know in advance that you won't be attending. I was a bit annoyed that a few people didn't do that for me & a lot of food was wasted because of it.
436546
cCheer up honey I just know that your Easter will be better than you anticipated You could go to the Sunday church services and the people around you will be glad to have you and all the smiling faces will be catching. The Lord will Bless you too.I love you so that should make you smile a little. You have a lot of people that really want you to enjoy the blessed day. We all care for you.so put on a happy smile.
724165
You say, "Thank you for inviting me. I regret I cannot attend."\n\nThat's all that's necessary. Please do NOT provide any made up excuses. All that is necessary is a reply. Either Yes, thank you or no, thank you. No reasons necessary. Do NOT provide one. If you're wishy washy about it, why not stop being so anti-social, put on something nice, and go for a couple hours. You might actually have a good time if you let yourself. But, do NOT go if you're going to be a wet blanket. Either way - you need to RSVP.
578969
My marriage for sure - seems there's never enough time to spend time together.  \n\nI also feel like I neglect my kids, while I'm doing housework.  But, I guess they COULD help me so that I get done faster & then we'd have more together time.  I don't feel guilty when I say "Hey, lets go to the show, or out to eat" and neglect housework/other things for the evening.  That stuff can usually wait!!
697373
Even though your upset, don't make a big deal about it.  People are funny around the holidays.  For some strange reason, traditions are hard to break.  If 12 noon and 1pm is the tradition in this family, then let your family have their tradition.  It will cause too much of a "stir" for everyone to change things around.  Also, are there going to be elderly people there???  Old people don't like to drive at night (hard to see) so they usually need events to start early so they can get on the road before dark.  There are probably several reasons why they are sticking with the early dinner time so don't take it personally.  Show up when you can, give every one a big hug, eat some left overs and be thankful you have a family to share the holiday with and also be thankful that you have a job.   Happy Thanksgiving!!!
767971
Hi "Dog" (cute nickname.) Right off the top I would have to say that not only do you have too much on your plate, but perhaps you're assuming too many responsibilities. There's no reason for YOU to feel guilty because your sister's husband isn't there for her. You CANNOT be responsible for everyone. You seem a very sensitive person--& only 16! Gosh. Do you have anyone you can talk with, preferably someone who isn't critical, judgmental, dictatorial--from whom you could get input & hopefully, some reinforcement? I believe you need this more than anything--except--that your well being is the very most important thing with which you must cope right now.  A freind would help. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with caring about others, but not at you expense. I hope someone will give you some thoughts that YOU can implement, & my very best to you.
397052
My family spent the morning in church, now Im fixing an Easter dinner for them. Ham, scalloped potatoes, steam veggies, corn on cob, and homeade bisquits with peach cobbler for dessert. Then Im hoping to catch a nap (haha, I wish).
417125
I think you need to ask yourself why you feel guilty about it.  Do you spend too much time doing it?  If you spend way too much time on it, then it could be that you have an obsession with it or something, and that you should spend your time doing something better.  But if you are just spending an average amount of time doing it, I can't see why you should feel guilty.  It is a healthy thing to do.\n\nPerhaps you feel bad about your motives.  If your motives are wrong, that could be an explanation I guess.  You really need to look within yourself to answer this question.  For most people, this would not be wrong.  But each of us is called to do different things with our time that God has given us, and you have to ask yourself what God wants YOU to do with yours.  Only you can really answer this question.
975465
I promised myself that I would not eat cheese after the "cheese feast" in 2nd block today... I just had some cheese... now I feel like barfing! Arg! Oh, and procrastinating too... :-)
693442
I am sorry for what has happened to you, you feel abandoned and you think you have no one but you always have yourself.  She probably took the ornament for a reminder of you and she probably feels guilty for treating you and your brother bad.  You now have to make your life what you want it, you can use this as an excuse all your life and not have your dreams come true or you can use this as a motivation to make your life and your future family lives wonderful.  Talk to your mother and tell her how you feel, let it all go and then walk away knowing that you have done everything in your power to make the relationship work and make your life work now.  good luck
774886
Actually, many of us *do* know, because we were there.  I'm missing out on feeling guilty because I love another woman who is, like, the other half of my brain, being told to avoid enjoyable media, and being told how to vote.  I'm missing out on having to treat potential friends like dirty rotten sinners who need to hear my "Good News."  I'm missing out on spending Sunday morning in pantyhose and coming home after the race started.  The door, as I told my younger cousins, swings both ways; many of us swung out because we used our brains.  Which, after all, you and I (I'm Pagan now) agree that our Creator gave us.