My best friend is over weight. How do I tell her?
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Tell her to go to the gym or at least go jogging with you. If you exercise along with her, it will probably help. Maybe she's too shy to go to the gym herself or is too embarassed to ask for help.
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She probably is fat.  Tell her to lose weight.
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There are many reasons why surgery would be a bad idea for your friend,  most have been mentioned by previous respondees so I will not repeat them.  \n\nMay I suggest that you are looking at this the wrong way?  The problem may not be so much how to get your friend smaller,  but rather,  to get your friend to look at the causes of her being overweight.  There are many reasons why a person would be overweight,  either by choice (concious or sub-conscious) or a physical cause.  The most common emotional reasons are:\n\nA fear of being attractive to the opposite sex\nAn addiction to food (could be caused by many things)\nA fear of being "small"\ninsecurity\nLow self esteem\nA desire to be accepted\nA fear of being accepted\n\nand so on\n\nAs you can see,  these are pretty serious things and so I would really recommend your friend spend her money on therapy rather than surgery\n\nThere are also a number of physical reasons why your friend may have weight issues such as thyroid imbalance,  genetics,  hormone related problems,  medication,  IBS and the list goes on.\n\nMay I suggest that it would be a better friendship if you accepted her fully for who she is now and not what she may be if she fitted into societys ideal weight.
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You can't, she has to want to gain weight and then ask for your help. However if she is getting too thin maybe you should speak to her about it, make sure she is okay as stress and anxiety can make you lose weight.
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you should not worry so much what other people think, if you like her and she is beautiful to you, forget what other people say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.   and like you said, she is working on her weight, I myself used to carry around 20 pounds too much and lost them, with the help of my fiancee....but we worked together and had fun doing it together...but I did it because I want to be healthy and have a child.  don't make someone do something because you feel uncomfortable around them, good luck to you...God Bless.
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My daughter is hot, 4'11'', 110 lbs. My sister is gorgeous, 4'11'', 115 lbs. When I was 12, I weighed 120lbs and I was 5'2'' ...... I was a bit overweight. I think the real problem with your friend's daughter is that she is female. There are very few 11 yr old females in the USA who do not think they are overweight.
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My friend is that height, a model and weighs 125.  She's not anorexic looking, just thin and petite.
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You guys need to tell her how you feel.  If she does not shape up, then stop being friends with her.
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Tell her she needs to lose a few pounds.
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First I want to say.....WAY TO GO!!!\nIt's very hard to lose weight, you should be very proud of yourself!\nSometimes when a person loses weight they gain a lot of attention they never had before. Sometimes the person who loses weight gains more self-respect and pride. Sometimes when someone loses weight, their attitude and demeanor changes. Some people feel threatened when someone they know has gone through a major weight change, whether they gain or lose weight. Sounds like your friend feels threatened by the change in you, whether it is your weight or maybe your attitude has changed....maybe you are too confident and they feel less important to you.\nAnd maybe, she's just jealous of the fact that you have changed and she isn't getting the same attention as you. If that's the case, there really isn't anything you can do to make her feel better about herself.\nTalk to her about it, ask her what's bothering her. If you find out that she is envious of the new you, you have to decide whether you want to keep the friendship and work on it, or let her go her own way if there doesn't seem to be a solution.\nGood luck!
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well you could her by encourging her that she isnt fat but that wont do much,the only thing that will really help is when she believes that she isnt fat.Good Luck
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So long as she is eating, and is still overweight, I would not be too concerned. If she starts to eat even less, or stops eating around people, or has reached a healthy weight, and continues this regimen, then I would be concerned. If she reaches that point, and will not listen to you, you may need to involve someone else, like her parents.
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Take this form me...if i no one thing its eatting disorders.. okay... are they depressed to? or cut themselveS? if so then DONT tell a counsilor... what do you think thehy'd do when they got home? just stop.. no the counsilor adds onto the stress... if it got out of hand then tell their parents... you need to be there for them, b/c i no they need you as a freind... or famiy or w/e you are to them.. dont force them to do anything.. unless its eat a little bit .... b/c if you threaten them.. it almsot always works honestly... but if you say put them in rehab no okay if you FORCE them into rehab it wont work b/c all they'll think is "ill show her.... ill lose even MORE weight...see how she lieks it then" u need to tell her thre are better ways so on give her the lexcture..that i hear all teh time " you dont have to tell me wahts wrong... but you have to tell somone.."  ok? i hope i helped this is a VERY delicate situation
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People like this are really difficult to SHOW that they are the right height for their size etc. You should find some scientific information showing the proper weight for her height, body mass index etc. and then start talking with her about her health and its importance. Im 5' 8" and weigh 150. I dont consider myself fat. I think I look pretty hot actually...but a lot of people would consider that heavy for a woman. I wear size 11 jeans. Basically, it isnt about being fat...it's about looking great no matter what you weigh. Anyone can pull off looking great but in order to look great you have to feel your best about yourself. This takes work.\n\ntell her she looks great, dont do it just to be doing it. Compliment how something accents her figure or something like that. A specific compliment.
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WHOA- that is a touchy subject for you. I personally have lost 143 lbs and fell great so I know how you feel about wanting to help others, I do it all the time. Sometimes they are thankful and sometimes they are resentful. Take it easy with her. Like you-nobody else can motivate her. SHE is the only person that can do that. One day she will see a picture, try on a pair of jeans or an old dress and make a decision that she is tired of it. In the meantime you stay on track and set the example for her both foodwise and exercise. She will eventually follow suit because on the inside the jealousy will eat her up. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!!!! Keep up the good work!
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Your weight is nobody's business (or responsibility) but your own.  By letting it get out of control, you set yourself up for potential health risks such as heart disease, diabetes, and many more.  \n\nI am personally dealing with my mother who held to the same attitude you have for her entire early adult life.  She is now 65 years old and has suffered 4 heart attacks ending in quadruple bypass surgery.  She is an insulin dependent diabetic which has resulted in serious complications including 3 strokes.  She is blind due to the last stroke, cannot walk without the assistance of a wheelchair or walker and basically lives a miserable life.  She is in and out of the hospital continually.  Is that what you want for your future?  Let me tell you, it's not for me.  \n\nYour friend cares about you even though you evidently don't care for yourself.  Ultimately, it is your decision and up to you to do or not do what it takes to adopt a healthy lifestyle.  It is hard work. \n\nHere is a link which shows the risks of obesity so you don't have to take your friend's or my word for it.  I'm sorry for being so harsh, but it is important for your future.  I have seen the consequences firsthand.
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I'm willing to bet that you aren't friends with him because of what he looks like, but more how he acts and treats you.\n\nIf HE is serious about losing weight, then do what you can to encourage him. Exercise with him, take walks with him, play basketball or baseball with him. \n\nThe worst thing you can do is tell him he needs to lose weight just to make you happy. This will seriously hurt his self esteem, and destroy a friendship.