i  am loving someone ,a friend. he has a relationship i am married. i don't know if he loves me back?
411097
You are wasting your time and living a fantasy. Since he lives far away, you never hear him in the toilet, he never drops his dirty socks where you have to pick them up, you don't see him talking with his mouth full and he never snores. Your husband does all of those things. You see your husband's flaws, not his.\n\nIf he doesn't answer mail he doesn't want you to write.\n\nGive up on him, start trying to make your marriage work.
172723
you know your in love when you and your "friend" feel sum thing special in side \n\np.s give it time yoo'll know
680634
It is a little late in the game to be asking that question, it should have been asked and answered before you got married.  I think that you should look at his actions to see if he loves you.  Does he tell you that he loves you?  Does he make you feel special or worthless?  Does he do special things for you?  Does he build you up or tear you down?  Is he abusive...physically, sexually or emotionally?  You should talk to him and ask what he is feeling towards you...tell him how much you need the reassurance.   It sounds like it may be silly, but you need the reassurance and this is the only person in the world that you should be able to be completely open and vulnerable with.  Good luck!
149849
not sure. maybe he has an interest in you but because of his conflicting feelings with the other person he probably doesnt want to hurt you until he gets things straightened out.
742868
I had a friend like that, and one day we just acted on it. It was the greatest relationship I ever had. Circumstances beyond our control came between us, but I will never forget how good the times together were. We don't see each other any more, as both of us are married to someone else, but we talk about once a year.\n\nI say go for it. It's going to drive you crazy otherwise.
292229
i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
144734
you can't make somebody love you, maybe you should revalute why you are still married?? If he does not love you , why stay with him. You have to make your own happiness.
920259
I would say that is normal. Often great romances and happy married couples grow from long friendships.  I hope the  feelings of more than friendship are reciprocal and you both have a happy life.
1176705
Don't guess if he's married or not.  Find out for sure.  Do not pursue anything until you do this.  Drop it immediately if he is.
389620
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!
807695
it is possible to be in love with more than one person. i am guessing you love your spouse and are comfortable with them. and the other one is more exciting now since it is new.that excitement will wan. try and picture yourself with out your husband and examine how it really makes you feel. you have to weigh the pros and cons. good luck i have been there
130691
He might just have some residual feelings for you, it happens more often than not that one of the two parites holds onto feelings.\n\nI am still friendly with my ex-fiance, who admitts freely that he is still in love with me. I just told him that there have to be boundries and after I said it a few times it finally stuck.
411620
Are you really in LOVE with HIM?  Or is it the idea of new love and that feeling of new love, that you're in love with?  Especially being a married woman, after a little bit of time you lose that new love/lust euphoria.  Perhaps there are some things that you are missing in your marriage that you are looking for in this new guy.  I know it doesn't answer your question, but perhaps you should work on the marriage that you're already in and see if you can improve it, because you must have LOVED your husband at one time
434663
ask him why he loves or what he loves about you... or say "I want a divorce", "I'm seeing someone else", or (my fav. since my "abduction") "I screwed a chicked", if he has a "sudden" and radical action... yeah he, more than likely, love you.
638922
I think you know he's lying, and you are here, hoping for either someone to back you up, or someone to tell you it's ok.\n\nGo with your gut instinct. He is lying and he isn't the person you want to start a family with.\n\nEven if he were telling the truth, and it is for his friend... His friend is married and he would be helping him cheat on his wife. Obviously he doesn't think much of commitment and responsibility.
66124
Be straightforward with him. Get him when he isn't busy and tell him you need to talk to him. Just say "hey buddy, you know that I love you. But I need to know if you feel the same way about me. If you don't please tell me, because I am not going to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back." Just say something similar to that. Good luck girl...
91976
He married you. That is a pretty strong commitment. If he thought there was any hope of getting back with his ex he wouldn't have taken that step with you.