What to say to a 14 yr old doing BAD things??HELP!!!?
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Dear Skittles ...\n\nHe has lost his father and needs to have other grown men (who have their head on straight) to be with and to talk with.\n\nThis is very important, and he might not realize what is going on with him.\n\nHe is at an age where this is even more important.\n\nSee if he will have a look at the website below.
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Simply relate to them.  Don't act like a know-it-all adult because they'll shut you out quick.  If a teen says something R-rated, don't act like they did something wrong, or like you can't talk to them about a topic like that.  Apparently they know enough for it to come out of their mouth, so talk to them in a mature way about the topic.  Bring up MY SPACE.  All the kids are into that.  Tell them you want to see they're page, and then comment on it.
238590
Welcome to pre-teen angst. Just bear with her, I know its hard, but her body is changing so fast right now she probably doesn't even realize how terrible is being. Discuss her weight gain with her doc, there might be something they can adjust to help that. Counselling isn't a bad idea, but you should go too, it helps if there is someone else YOU can complain to about her attitude instead of her. She probably feels defensive after you confront her about her actions. Make sure you have "safe zones" from each other where you can both go and get away from each other, it helps.
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dont worry about and give her sometime to cool down and then try and talk to her again maybe a couple of weeks.The smartest thing you could do whatever she says or does just be nice to her and that will kill her.  But just dont get into mind games because bottom line at that age she will be a heck of alot better than you.
429126
keep your thoughts to yourself.  They are under age!\n14 yr. olds should not be encouraged to be overly sexy and hot.  Leads to trouble.
663129
You talk With the person..not At them...ask 'him' questions that require more than a yes or no answer. At 15, he's more than a child, he's a young adult...in 3 more years, he's legally accountable for his actions and decisions. When you're given answers to your questions, be very careful of your reaction-don't judge, if you don't understand something--say so, and ask his help in your understanding him better...and tell him how things were for you at his age...things are Very different now than they were when you were 15..and tell him that..and ask Him what kind of disapline should take place when he knowingly breaks one of your rules..remember-he's his own person..with his own thoughts and feelings..and at these ages, too, he's trying to make your rules His rules--and is gonna test them out..teenage yrs are difficult, but not impossible...
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man up and say your sorry.  don't teach your little sister to accept less and don't let your little brother think it's okay to talk mean to people and not say I'm sorry.  YOu are their role model
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Just wait, don't worry.  However, don't give him things unless he asks for them.  Like food.  I knew a guy who didn't talk until he was like 5 because he got everything he wanted without needing to talk.  Try refusing to give him what he wants.
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First off, you are not fat. Stop thinking like that. Second, they are teenage boys they haven't matured past 4th grade yet.You were right to have told your friend and no it is not  right that her boyfriend says those things to you,and his friends.You are a very pretty young lady and I am wondering if you have talked to your mom about what is going on. Trust me, she would want to know. My daughter is 13 and we can talk about everything. There is nothing she can't tell me that will make me love her any less. I want her to be able to come to me with all her problems, boys and all.I really want you to say something to your mom if you haven't because what those boys are doing now just might get out of hand someday, and she needs to know where it started , also try sitting somewhere else on the bus.If your friend doesn't start talking to you then you need to let her go, that is not a friend because she should tell her boyfriend to stop. I hope I have helped some and that it starts getting better for you.
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Just email me back.. You can talk negatively.. in a positve way LOL I had to and did, you need to be honest, no matter what in any situation, just make the best of it!  BOY do I have a story to tell.....
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Might try a restraining order.  Little drastic but would work.  Refuse to take calls from him and his friend.  If it is really bad parental intervention is always good.
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Send a secret note that seems to be from her.  If she gets embarrassed, it's ok.  It will get the word out and it will be a good story to laugh at when you're older.  Trust me, do it!
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stick up for yourself assretivly, tell them you arent stupid, you dont appreciate the insination or accusation that you are and you would prefer if they never said that to you again. dont be mean, dont yell, be calm and say what you feel, then dont back down or feel guilty for it.
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if ur sure tht wht he is gotten into is really bad...u need to tell the parents. save the kid from making a big mistake. he might be angry at u for a while but when he grows up he will understand tht u meant only good .
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No, it is NOT appropriate to spank a 14 year old. go see a guidance counselor at school so that you and your family can get some help. Good Luck, sweetie.
592144
well just tell her its best to be honest. Tell her that you are sorry and that you should have listened to her but you are only young once. And as young  adults you are allowed to make mistakes. But you should be honest with her as to why you felt that you just had to go and tell her what happend and why you were home so late. The worst thing you could do is to lie to her. She might find out later and you will get in more trouble. So just suck it up and just tell her, she was young once too and I'm sure she made her share of mistakes. Good luck.
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You seem like you too are young. You need to tell his parents to get him into some type of help program quick. Even if he's upset with you for it, this may save his life.