why is it when you going though a divorce and trying to get child suport the guys ask for a dna test?
398261
from a man's point of view,,, it matters to us! to get the absolute truth about paternity because this is an issue that Will affect you for the rest of your life,,, i have   friends that gone through child support issues,,, as soon as they question the females about DNA test,, these women get infuriated,,, three of my males friends were proven not to be the fathers, the one guy was married the other two were not,,, as men we can only take what you tell us in face value ,, only a woman knows who shes slept with, and quite frankly a man can't always trust what a woman says about who shes dealt with.... so think about it,,, if you were a man would you want to support some other man's child?..... 18 + yrs knowing or not knowing that it's your child,,, having to give up everything you have to support the mother who has lied to you,,,, for 18 yrs or more ......\n\nyour question only scratches the surface and of course women will back you up,,, but from what i can see there may be some others issues as well,, your one question makes you look like "the wounded duck" and of course women will feel sorry for you.\n\nIn reality NO MAN in his right mind wants to support a child that does not belong to him,,, if you are true to yourself and your husband then you should have no problem getting the test done,,,,,unless you have something to hide....
182152
well you could clone yourself and then you and your clone could both date your cousin and when she got pregnant and took the DNA test you would both show up as the dad. who would pay the child support.
843686
Since the biological mother lost custody he has a good chance.  Why is he just now pursuing this though...that wil be a MAJOR factor.
8803
Sounds like either a spam email, or a credit card charge for a DNA test.  I'd go with spam.
659863
good for you for getting out of something like that. I'm a single mother though, and the father in my case walked out on us. i have no intentions of tricking anyone into raising my kid. if i meet someone, i tell them immediately that i have child and if they don't like it hey too bad.
177595
Hopefully they will pass a law on mandatory paternity testing. It would save a lot of time (in courts) and confusion (on the childs behalf) and a lot of money if the truth was known from day one.
130940
Not to say that it's right, but a lot of parents want a son or daughter, or maybe the other gender if they already have one. \n\nIt might would prevent them from "trying" many times for the "wanted" gender. For some men, a son is important to "carry on the family name"
1107112
~~it is possible for him to get the courts to allow him the right to DNA testing, and it is possible for him to petition the courts for custody, given your age the courts would also ask your opinion of the situation, but his chances of winning are about the same chances an icecube has for survival in the sahara desert~~
978032
You know, it's usually the nicer guys that mind, which sucks.  Because a nice guy thinks, what if I become really involved and then it doesn't work out, I'm going to be hurting her, and the child...\n\nBut also there's a real problem with some women trying to "rope in" a guy.  From what I've heard on the radio is that if you even lived with someone with a child and then break up, she can claim child support, because even though you're not the father, you acted as a father figure.  So because of stuff like that we're also a little bit scared.\n\nSo if a guy is really into you, it won't be a problem, actually if your kid is well behaved, it might even be a bonus, but the problem is that many guys won't even give it a shot because of the possible complications.\n\nI think the biggest thing here is confidence.  If you show a guy that you're perfectly happy as you are (even if that's not 100% so) and that you want him because you like him as a person and not because you want to find a father figure for your son/daughter, or get a second stream of income, then he might actually spend enough time with you to get to know you and take things from there.\n\nGood luck.
388904
listen to your intuition, so many people don't listen to it which is why the divorce rate is so high. There maybe something on a subconcious level telling you that you aren't matched but for some reason or other you're overriding it.
137375
Most children I know want the father's last name--it's just the way kids feel.\n\nWe have physical custody of my husband's 10 yr old son to his ex-girlfriend (who didn't give him the father's last name), and it has served to be a situation of doubt and confusion on the child's part.  He even writes his last name the same as my husband's when he's making out forms on the internet, or on papers he's sending through the mail.\n\nI think it's because all the children he knows has the dad's last name, and kids want to fit in--besides, it's tradition.\n\nIf the father is wanting to be part of the child's life, please give him what almost every other child has as well.\nTrust me, it's not a problem having a different last name than your child when they start school.
118217
He may need a lawyer to file the request for visitation. That would have been taken care of in divorce court. He has rights and the court needs to know the situation to guarantee his rights are ordered and enforcable. If the mother is unfit and the father cares about his children, it would be morally wrong for him not to remedy the situation.
152246
Because it is easier for them to leave. I think if men were able to get pregnant, it would be the other way around. Maybe 90% of deadbeat parents would be mothers who left. It's just easier for men to avoid the responsibility because they don't carry the child while the mother is stuck carrying it, and then giving birth to it, etc.
1012516
Is it the man? I thought it was the person whom provides the income or higher income of the family. They do it to "help out" the person on the downside of the divorce.
512840
Your playing with fire there. The court could very well take them away from all of you. You want child support from the biological father you file for it at the prosecutors office, and they handle it.
830180
Was he the one who signed the birth certificate?  If so, they would need a paternity test to take the kid away from him... if he's on the birth certificate, it's his right to have the child... she can be proven to be an unfit mother and the kid could be taken from her.. so, I would suggest putting that child with the person who will best take care of her - blood-related or not.
386640
You have me CONFUSED here... you mean to tell me you are more interested in finding someone i.e. a date? (correct me if I am wrong) Than getting your CHILDREN back??? Finding a man should be the LAST thing on your mind I would think, if he has taken your kids, I would fight to my death for my kids?????\n\nYea... you know I really wonder what's going on here... I mean if your kids are 6 & 8 and you were only with him for 3 years... the Math doesn't add up.  Is he even the father of these kids?  And there must have been some problem if the courts took them away.  Maybe you should spend some time working on you before looking for a man or even considering getting your children.  It sort of sounds like they might be better off with their Father if that's the case or where ever the judge decided to send them.  My BEST suggestion is to work on YOU and the rest will come don't go looking for another MAN just yet.  GOOD LUCK!