I have been dating my boyfriend for 15mo. His mom in town.I haven't been invited to meet her. Should I worry?
407269
Guys are often kinda slow on matters of social etiquette and especially when it comes to relationships. They are often so afraid of saying or doing the "wrong" thing that they don't act at all. Sometimes this makes the girl feel left out or ignored. Please don't be offended by his neglect, he is probably confused as to what to do. Give him some help by gently letting him know that you think it might be cool to meet his mom. Hope I helped. Us guys Can be a bit backwards at times.
505814
Because they are way too nosy (the inlaws and insecure) this seems like you are hurt by this sit down and talk to her about it so it doesn't cause any gaps in your relationship good luck
397123
keeping a relationship with his stepdaughter is fine.... its not their fault for what heppened between him and their mother. Keeping a relationship with her AND HAVING DINNER THERE IS WRONG!!!!! I WOULD BE PISSED AND BEAT HIS ASSS OR HER ASSS. He is with you and shouldnt be over there anyways!!!!! tell him how you feel cuz I know I wouldnt put up with that. Hope I helped best of luck!
938299
No, go ahead and give her your gift. That was really sweet and thoughtful of you. I'm sure she'll think the same and appreciate your gift. Some guys are not into buying gifts, your boyfriend may be one of those guys. My husband doesn;t buy his Mom gifts. I usually take the money from him and do stuff like that and then it's from the both of us!!
712967
yep here i am alone...my boyfriend chose to go to his moms with our baby he didnt care to take me and my two older kids to see my family first he only cared to please him self so i sent my kids with my mom and im all alone sad, bored, and on yahoo
518128
Your mother is only here for a week.  Dedicate your time with your family, unless you want her to meet him...\n\nThere is plenty of time to be with your boyfriend
853275
No. It's not that he might be unworthy of trust, but sometimes guys do a turnaround after the baby is born. His priorities might change a lot once he has a kid. Hopefully he will jump in and help raise it, and be apart of its life. In that case, his feelings for his child's mother may change. If not, are you going to be supportive of his new commitment? \n\nNow, what if he doesn't want anything to do with the kid? What will you think of him then? Do you really want to be with someone like that? \n\nI suggest you keep it cool until the baby is born. He has got a lot going on right now, and things might change dramatically in the near future. Protect yourself, and be prepared to share him with another woman's kid.
1163687
She sounds like a mother tiger - no one is going to get near her baby boy. Angelbaby - whether or not this is going to be a serious boyfriend, he needs to talk with his mother and let her know he's old enough to decide with whom he wants to spend his time (if he isn't a minor). If he is a minor, I'd let him go. Why isn't he calling you and why is he putting up with her calling you nasty names.\n\nYou're too good for him, and he AND his mother both need to grow up.
228636
You should meet him, however what about him? Has he been prevented from seeing you all these years? Or does he prefer not to see either your mom or you? Tough question.
536565
i feel sorry for you. i have a similar situation. my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me as well. we have been together for more than 4 years now.  what i suggest is you discuss this matter with your boy and try to win your future mother in law.  if you can't just fix your relationship with your man and just ignore her.  what's important is that you and your man are madly inlove with each other.
208138
I'm not sure you can trust them, or your fiance, but I'm not saying you can't either.  Without spending time together this whole situation is a big question mark.  There are certain things that you can only learn about people and a relationship when you are actually together.  I recommend that you slow your boyfriend down a little.  Have him come and spend a couple weeks with you and you go and spend a couple of weeks with him.  Even that short amount of time with each other and each others family can help answer a lot of questions.
21004
speak up, the mother of the child still wants that control she thinks it is her kid and shell do want she wants. there will be lots of problems but always smile to the mom and but you must put your foot down and not let her control you and him. yes they have a child together and that is it. trust me i deal with it all the time. it is not the childs fault though. but you do need to speak up not bossy just say we want the things to stay here for when she is here. and dont invite her over. your going to have to let her go from your lives and let her have her own with the child her and your boyfriend are over and it sounds like she is just trying to hold on to something?...  good luck
1087418
Does she know you have children? If so, then anytime would be a good time. Try to make sure the situation isn't so akward for your son or your new partner that they want to get away. Your goal should not only be making a proper introduction, but also trying to set up a certain level of comfort for everyone involved so that you, your son, and your girlfriend can all get used to and closer to one another.
966815
If this happened to me I would feel very betrayed by my husband or (future husband at that time) if he had went to visit and old flame before our wedding, and IF I did still decide after that to stand at the alter with him, that is probably all I would be able to think about. I would also feel betrayed by his mother, she needs to grow up, her son is not with that other women anymore, he is with you, and the two of you have a child together, she should not have even allowed for the other women to be inside her home knowing that her son has a commitment to you. I think that is very tacky as a mother. She should be trying to build a relationship with you not, hunting down her son's ex-flames telephone # I would not trust her or him. Be careful and don't be taken for a fool by these people. The mother sounds scandelous and I would keep an eye out for your husband because if he is ok with his mother and her on going relationship with his ex, and is not trying to tell his mom that she should have a little more respect for you and your relationship with him, then maybe something may be going on, or there is strong possibility that something could go on.
968017
You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
980453
I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
474459
I'm 18 and have a 12month old son and single to. Even though he's with his mom most of the week. i know what your are talking about. i think you just haven't meet the right guy yet.