My family is breaking up?
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i think you must first understand that as much as people can love each other, their are other factors to adult relations, i think that it is showing that they do not seem to be getting on well right now adn it may mean that it is time for them to move on and seperate but it also may mean that they are going through a difficult time and may have to work at things for a while to make them better.\n\ndefo have a good chat with ur mum, tell her how ur feeling and maybe she will explain to you how things are for her and her partner right now, put ur mind at ease.\n\nif the do seperate im sure it will be best for all concerned, if not things may be difficult for a while as they try to repair things.\n\ni hope everything works out for the best sweetie, try not to worrie to much and remember no matter what happens you still have a very loving family around you that care for you very much x x
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It sounds like you are better off without your family. I agree with one who suggested counseling. It is usually a good and helpful experience. Also, it is very lonely not to have a family. I always made family out of my friends. Having close friends can feel the same as being with your family.  Do you have any extended family(aunts, uncles, cousins) that would help you feel connected and loved? If you think there's any way I can help, feel free to contact me. :^)
1060383
Divorce him AND your family.
713615
family in some of the people u been around
292878
Depends why you think this is neccessary.  Does your family not like your guy?  Or does your guy not like your family?  You should consider why your family/your guy is asking to give up the other.  If they loved you they should be willing to except your love or your family.
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hi there... i suggest you talk to them. have an open discussion about your problem. its ok because they are only your family members. if you dont talk to them, then who else will you talk to in order to solve your problem... so talk to them, be very open and frank and i'm sure things will get solved. all the best.
280640
living & having to worry about my parents splitting up again
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
897439
I know it's hard but try not to get upset, you will be useless.  Social services do try to keep families together, they aren't all bad.  Get in touch with social services, look in yellow pages for number, and sk them to help. but tell them you want your family to stay together.  As long as yuor brother and sister aren't being neglected you will be fine.
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I know you didnt ask for opinions, but I think in this case it is important that someone mention to you that you are making a huge mistake to take this course of action. There is no situation that cannt be resolved through legal channels, and your family is yours for life, you cannot remove them. As permanent as friends seem, they come and go. Blood is for life and any decision you make like this is going to be something you come to regret in the future.\n\nWether you regret it because of the effects that it has on your life, or the effects that it has on your relationship with your family, or both, this is the kind of choice that will be difficult to repair.\n\nI would strongly recommend you reconsider.\n\n(Also, dont take legal advice from anyone on here. Contact a lawyer, do not listen to any of the things people here claim.)\n\nEdit**\n\nI definitely appreciate your point of view, having been 17 myself, a seemingly long long time ago, I went through similiar issues as yourself (as Im sure all teenagers have.)\n\nDont try and justify yourself to us, we do not know you and we do not know your specific situations. However, ask yourself this : If my daugther wanted to do this to me, how would it make me feel? Would I feel like a failure as a mother? If I knew that my daugther was going to 'run away' if I stick to my rules, why would I still stick to them anyways?\n\nWhat you might be able to come to understand is that sometimes parents *must* do things that their children do not appreciate or understand, because it is what is --RIGHT--. It never feels that way as a teenager, but if you look at friends and acquaintances around your age, which ones are better off and have a happier life? The ones where the parents are strict and try to lead their children on the right path? Or the ones where parents are loose and allow their children to drift from point to point without direction?\n\nInvariably, if you're honest with yourself, you must acknowledge that those children and teenagers that have parents that support, direct, and help are better off than those that have parents that are unwilling or unable to do those things. Then, hopefully, what you will begin to see is that there are reasons behind what your mother is doing, and these reasons are intended to only be for your good, not her own. She does them at the risk of alienating and losing you, but strives to do what is right because as a parent she must. \n\nAnyways, I didnt mean to ramble on so long, but I hope you'll reconsider this decision because once followed it is a very difficult one to recover from.
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Before you break up, go see a marriage counselor. Sit down and discuss everything together. Get the children a chance to sit down and talk about what they are thinking about, worried about, also.\n\nGood luck.\n\nIf you all can learn to love and live together as a family, and it is worth the battle to get there, life can be wonderful.
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sorry, have to choose family
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Whatever it was that made them disown you will surely dim as time passes. Give them time to cool off, do a lot of growing up yourself then you make the grand gesture yourself. It may take years, and pride will surely get in the way (on your part or theirs) but in the end having family means everything. Once you grow up and change your ways (if that is it) they will surely see the light.
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It is not your fault. It is never the child's fault,never. You have to believe that. I am divorced for many years now, and I know what I am talking about, here. Your mom yells because she feels a lot of stress and sadness, and she needs time to get used to what all happened. But you won't be able to get them back together because you didn't break them up. They are the adults, everything that happened THEY did it--not you.\n\nJust love them both. Tell them both how much you love them, and that you will always love them no matter that they don't love each other any more. Then you love yourself too. You sound like a real sweet, good kid. I wish I could help.\nGod bless you little one.\n\n(joelejr is just being a dork.  and bookreader doesn't understand, it is not the child, it is the adult who ends the adult relationship)
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Try going to Mediation.  You can find one near you in the phone book (many communities have free services even).  If you call the office yourself they will contact your family for you and explain how it works.\nHow it works:\nYou and your mom (and dad or sister or whoever needs to be there) will go to a little meeting with the mediatior.  The mediators job is to make sure everyone gets a chance to be heard and that you all deal with the issues you think you need to talk about. At the end you will all (hopefully, but it doesn't always happen) sign an agreement on how you want things to be in the future but you don't have to agree if you don't want to.  It's just a safe, neutral place that you all get a chance to get everything out and really hear each other.\nGood luck!\nAnd remember your parents love you.
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Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
1119545
Well hunn sounds like some problems for sure.\ni have been in a simaler sitution i hate to say this but the fact is if they dont see a problem they wont get help they wont listen and they want to ignore the obvious but that is not you and yes maybe difficult and mental issues do run in family's i myself had the same problems with my family . the only thing i can say better yourself dont hold on to the anger and maybe suggest  your counsiler request your family  go to a session with you also remeber that as soon as you are old enough move out though maybe hard to do it is easier than you would even imagine just know you can and you will do fine some family's are just stubborn. anyways goodluck and i hope it helped even if it was a little. take care hunn!