How long should it take you to get over an ex?
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Its you who will decide how long you will let the hurt and pain be inside you. If you have the will, and the strength to move on in life, forget the past and start today as if you are born once more, Iam sure it wont take long. Its not that easy either. It may seem as if its ''forever'', and it will hurt you a lot trying to do it, but then thats the only way. Cry, cry it out when it pains. Dont suppress yourself. You will feel relieved. Get yourself involved, in whatever it is that you may have longed to do and...slowly you'll see happier and looking back with a smile.\n\ngood luck.
1099853
Most rebound relationships don't last very long.  The reason for that is because in most cases, the guy still has feelings for the girl he just broke up with.  And vice versa, of course.  It's great to have a shoulder to cry on, someone who really cares, but when you've just left someone, especially if you have/had feelings for them, it takes a while before you can really move on.  I learned that the hard way.  Twice.  :)
956200
If you were really in love with them, and you cared for them deeply, I don't think you ever "GET OVER" them.  What a lot of people don't do is to take time out for themselves.  When you break-up with someone after being in a long-term relationship, you really need to take time to heal before you move on to another person because you can't give your whole heart to him/her fully because that other person is holding a part of it.  How long it takes....Well that depends on you.  You have to ask yourself "How long am I going to allow this person to hold my heart?"  Take time, Heal, enjoy being single, and when you feel no presence of the other person then you are over them.  Of course when you see them with some one else for a split second, you will go back there but if you do and when you are able to say, well good for them then you are definitely over them.  I hope this helped because I've been where you are and that is what I did.  Take care and be HAPPY!!!
633750
You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
432574
it really depends on how much you loved the guy.if you loved him,it will take some time,even years.if you didnt really,then you'll be over him in no time.time heals all things.
318753
In past experience, I've learned that the best way to get over someone is to give yourself an allotted grieving time...I say a week or less, and then start doing something to take your mind off of the situation, or at least alleviate the thought of that person. I have found one of the best things is exercise...or try something you've never done before...a new hobby or sport. It's a great way to distract you, plus you might meet some new interesting people as well.
441459
If it's been 8.5 years and you two still haven't been married, then it would have never been meant to be.\n\nBroken hearts can last with the most pain for 1-3 months. After that, you slowly begin to forget about it start finding someone new. When you find the new person, you forget everything about your ex except for the tiny spot in your heart where you effected you the most. Everytime you think about your ex that tiny spot will hurt, but other than that you new person should confort you enough to forget about the ex.
658202
The best way to get over it, is to move on. Get a new love in your life, and devote 110% of your time and attention to him. You'll be amazed at how soon you'll be "over him'. Good Luck.....
817508
I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck
765690
Sorry to hear about your loss Victorio. \n\nYou have to give yourself time to heal. You can't expect anyone else to compare to your ex. 13 years is a long time. The friendship and comfort level that you build up over that time is enormous. Any new person you meet is going to seem so distant, you're not going to feel that same bond. Give yourself time. Maybe don't date for a while, or if you do, just don't have any expectations. Just talk, get to know the person. Maybe you'll like each other & keep dating. Maybe you won't. Just go into it with an open mind.\n\nIt's very hard to let someone go. Especially someone who was in your life for so long.\n\nIt will get better. If she was the right one for you, it wouldn't have ended. That means the right person is still out there. So give her a chance to find you. Don't close your heart to someone new.\n\nTake care.\nGood luck.
77634
You don't let go of love... love will let go of you.  When the time is right you move on & you won't even realize it until you see a picture or are reminded of them.. It may take months or years, but it will go faster if you don't try to hold onto it (don't think about them all the time, put up things that remind you of them)  .....  that is he best advice I have.. hope it helps you some.
1089342
The new girl isn't going to fill any voids - she might keep you preoccupied for a little while, but thats about it.  You need to let your feelings for your ex come out - and you need to deal with them in order to really move on.
975059
If you just got over the relationship, you may want to wait 2 or 3 months and it may pass, if it doesn't, then you can seek the help of a professional. Of course, "just got off" isn't a very accurate description so use your best judgment to decide whether or not you've gave it enough time.
1077283
getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
878068
How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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It just takes time to move on. You need to let it go. I had the same problem once. I finaly got over him when I found someone else that I knew was better for me. But beware rebound relationsips don't work either. I'd say 5 months is long enough to linger over a relationship that was as short as yours. Find someone new and MOVE ON!!!