my ex wife cheated on me, i have a girlfriend, how can i stop thinkin that she will do the same.?
404703
You are probably not ready for a relationship right know, you have to heal first, and that takes a lot of time.  If you are strong enough, try telling yourself that this woman is not like the last, she deserves a chance.  It is not your fault your ex wife cheated she just took the easy way out instead of talking to you about whatever the problem was.  Don't run a potentially good woman away because of your LOSER ex-wife.  Good Luck.
616392
the thought never goes away im sorry to say. i forgave my ex bf for cheating on me the first time, and he did the same thing, changed his number, the rest of it. but then he cheated again. ur not around her 100% of the time to see what shes doing. its hard to say wot u should do. ur the only one who knows her. u can take the risk if u love her, and trust that she wont do it again, but u need to tel her that its playing on ur mind too, and get her to give u some reassurance that its not gonna happen again.
536636
It will hurt her.  You know that right?  \nBut, as unfortunate as it is, it does happen.  That doesn't mean you can't be gentle about it.  You just need to sit down and be honest with her.  The longer you wait, the harder it will be on all three of you.  \nMy ex husband found someone else while we were together and he told me immediately, before he cheated.  I respect that he did at least leave me BEFORE he went to her.  PLEASE Consider that fact if it's not too late.
313687
Come on, darlin, open your eyes and find someone new.\nThis girl sas and does things that hurt you?  She cheated on you?  She wants you but doesn't want you now?\n\nPlease move on.  No ultimatums, no if's and;s or but's...move on.  She had her chance, she broke your heart and you can not allow this to happen again.\n\nIf you open your heart and your mind, you'll find a new love that might treat you like you need to be treated.  A new beginning with a new love.  Stop pining over this other gal and let loose of her.  She isn't worth it, believe me.\n  As I said, she had her chance, she blew it.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  She is just too immature for you.  Move on...............
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Are you sure that your girlfriend knows about it? and is she "the one"? I am pretty sure she isn't otherwise you would've thought twice before you cheated on her. So if she's not the one, then I guess you could just let it go, I am not saying it's easy. And don't beat yourself, you made a mistake and you should recognize it in front of her, and you can also talk to her. But don't say to her that she cheated on you first; because that's not how you solve a problem, you would just put salt in the wound. Instead, just talk about it to her and tell her how you feel, if you want to be with her forever, than you should definitely clear this up now, if you're just having a fling that's another story. But whatever you do be honest, because once some one loses trust in you, it is extermely hard to come back and trust you. \nAs far as your friend...Well, if he REALLY was your true friend than he should've never been so cheap and told on you, a friend like this is worthless. If i were you, I would dump the friend before dumping my girlfriend, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings and is selfish.\nGood luck, and whatever it is, know that sooner or later this will fix itself and it'll be a lough years down the road, you sound pretty young and believe me even if you thought that your current gf is the "perfect" woman, God has ways to amazed you later in life. But one last thing, cheating is never good. And i am sure that you don't feel so good about it youself, so try not to do it again; you'll regret.
245840
i have been in the same situation, but it takes time and you being honest to her. you will eventually get the trust back
444807
First of all Thank you for serving our country! If you want to save this relationship you will have to work on the trust issue. But I would be concerned about her cheating again. Follow your heart.
182361
Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
776856
think about the reasons you spilt up.   if you got back together it could all repeat it self  i would stick with the new girlfriend never go backwards move forward   good luck
1044381
You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
385344
hey bro.\n\nif she cheat u once she will do that twice and more so kick her away from ur life.......\n\nwish to u good luck bro...
575416
You can't! You blew it! Time to move on. A woman will forgive, but she will never forget. Neither should you and next time you meet someone you really care about, consider not doing things that will make her not trust you.
1006104
Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.\nShe's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.
771953
Move on bro, we all do eventually. If she was with another guy its hopeless don't torcher yourself over the past move on with your life and Cherish your memories.
120552
The best advice I could give you is to keep your mind busy on anything else but her. Keep yourself active, busy. I know its hard, believe me, I do. It will pass with time.
376246
DIVORCE, so just b/c she does wrong you will too, word of advice, 1. two wrongs don't make a right and 2. Your going to bring yourself down to her level and I garuntee she will beat you with experience. You wanna-be PIG.
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Hmmm...sounds like you ARE 'worth' it, but she sure as h*ll ISN'T !!!! If she truly loved you she would support you and wait (seems at least you were trying to get things finished w/your ex) If she 'cheated' then and then turned around and did it again, then she ALWAYS will. You may love HER, but she doesn't love YOU. The hardest thing to do is to 'see' someone you love for who/what they truly are. I had to go thru it w/mine. I loved her and even asked her to marry me; she said no and less than 6wks later married someone else. (found out last week he left and they're going to be divorcing) Also found out after we broke up her nickname from the small-town she lived in was 'the town wh0re' (nice huh ?!) sure you'll probably find out petty much the same thing.....(sorry!) Don't waste your time on someone who won't give you theirs. \n\nHere's the other 'donwside' finding a good woman is about like going on a quest for a unicorn ( we've HEARD they exist; supposedly beautiful, magical, etc; some believe in them; none have been reported lately....... )\n\nTo get a divorce, things must have been bad with the ex-wife; and now then this..!!! Get a Harley, forget about women for a while and enjoy life ! Everything happens for a reason. Her f*cking everyone ELSE happened now, so that you won't have to go thru that later. \n\nIt sucks dude! Been there! you have my complete sympathy!\n\nHang in there.