why do men shut down during emotional conversations?
403612
B/c guys are taught from a very young age that it's not "masculine" to be emotional.  We are taught to hide and repress our emotions.  As a result, it can be very difficult for us to talk about them as easily as girls can b/c we're not used to it.  It takes effort and practice and we have to sometimes unlearn the bad habits we were taught growing up.  You just need to be as patient with your bf as possible.  And provide helpful insight.  Sometimes you can help him figure out what he's feeling by placing yourself in his shoes.
540643
Men are ot emotional as women are. After an argument, a few minutes later, a man usually has forgotten it and want to be close to you. But women hold it in and be emotional and want to talk about it. The best way is to approach him and tell him you want to talk about what you all argued about. If you aproach him with anger, you will get anger in return. Its all about the tone you use. If he is not a good listener, write it in a letter and let him read it.
399971
Well women use emotions to confuse men, so men stop listening to what they feel. Usually the first woman to confuse them was their mother; by not being honest about what she really feels and distorting everything.  Mothers try to prove that they love their male child when all the actions say other-wise. So men withhold their emotions because they don't want to express their anger at their mother. Instead they pile it up on the women in their lives, and stay immature men forcing them to become their mother.\n\nWhile women listen to their emotions, but distort them when they are sexual because their father cannot accept that they are sexual beings of their own and so they stay daddy's girls and are unable to be honest with a man and prevent themselves from connecting to men on a honest level and prefer to be their mother away from their mother instead of being a woman when in fact they are angry towards their father and so they become their emotionally unstable mothers.\n\nThere that sums up a lot of neuroses.
171395
Not necessarily. He might need time to relax from the argument. If he tried to talk to you while both of you are upset, he might say something he will regret later, and so will you. For that reason, many smart men, who take their time cooling down, will wait until they are relaxed. That seems to be what your husband is doing. For him, hometown is a relaxing setting and helps him to cool down quicker.\nThat is just my opinion. Hope it helps.
704572
because women are more emotional and we have to talk about every little thing that goes on in our life as for men they like to say something and they are done talking about it
1149372
you are now a threat to them.  this is one very basic\nway to put you down.  putting you down this way helps \nother women with less drive or ability to excuse their\nown failings.  it also helps men who are threatened by\nthe idea of a woman who does not simper and flutter\nher eyelashes to deal with the idea that being born a\nfemale does not necessarily mean you are not a real\nthinking feeling person.  sad isn't it.
46851
Men know that a small thing for them, can be a huge thing for a woman.  So they are in fact lying to protect themselves from a big argument, or fight or whatever best suits you.  Some are actually sensitive and dont want to see you upset or crying over something that looks bad but is not (in their eyes).\nThe sad thing is they are not good liars and sooner or later we find out then the fight or argument will be even bigger than they thought.
427992
men have huge pride and authority issues. If they show their feelings, to them, it's like showing a weakness. Just because they don't say it doesn't mean they don't feel it. they just don't like to show their weaknesses, because then they're not manly anymore.
383955
Not all men are great at xpressing their feelings.  It is part of bein a man sometimes.  You can ask for his opinions on things and gear how he feels about that, but don't try to force it out of him.  Eventually he will come around, but give it time, especially becuz you know the feelings ARE there.
263244
For some guys it is weak to show emotion because as a male they may feel the need to always present a tough exterior.  A guy has to be secure in himself to present his emotional side.  If he isn't, then those are the guys you are talking about in your question.
470131
There is no need to shut them up. they are like the noise in the breeze just passing not full of anything useful. Even those who have something to say but cant express it in a manner that can be heard are in that breeze. Be at peace and accept that they are there and know that when the time is right they will understand.
444370
Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
183042
I think this is because men thinks better alone with no disturbance and later on they can discuss it, while women by nature likes to speak out and discuss more, most of the women I knew doesn't like it when I am to quite and always say that we should discuss problems and find a solution together.\nWell I guess it is nature :)
1098546
It's much more difficult for us to be open with our emotions.  As we grow up were told to be tough and "act like a man".  In the end we realize that in order for us to function in the world and for people to be able to rely upon us we need to be stronger and work through or past our emotions in order to get where we need to go in life.  So, when we come upon moments where people want us to "open up" and admit how we're feeling, we not only have difficulty letting our guard down, we also sometimes don't even know how we feel until we really think about it and try to reaquaint ourselves with what we've been bottling up.
871647
Hi luv!\n\nBecause we accept our emotions, and deal with them instead of ignoring them and repressing them.\n\nIf men would be more open and honest about themselves and their own feelings and emotions, I am sure men & women would get along alot better!
518088
Men have low emotional quotiont compared to their women counterparts.Men therefore are puzzled,become irritable and or resume to emotional shut down when it comes to confronting any emotional sensitive situation.Men cant handle crying women.This emotional low quotiont makes them vulnerable in any home,family or love affair.They therefore wonder how women are smart and capable in these directions.How women can be happier than men with love alone.The power which men possess,the ego they harbour,the possessions they gather and the country they rule,everything seems worthless when caught in emotional trauma.This is the reason a man wants to be loved by his mother and wife and be taken care of,though he may not like to admit.Here it is emotional protection.Love is what a woman teaches a man.
559873
Men don't like to talk about their feelings or insecurities, it's a sad fact in the male world.