how can i cope with my family specialy with my brother?
407846
everything is alright in the end, if it's not alright it is not the end
109862
He is your brother you are not supposed to get over him just redirect your thoughts into the positive instead of the negative...think about what you can do to make his time there better and do it....just be a good sis
275600
he is a guy and your brother. i have an older one and three little ones. hate to break it to you, but there is not a whole lot you can do about it, but just dont indulge his behavior and be sure that he sees it is not mature.
117110
find agood friend you can feel with him/here happy & like ur sister/brother
342054
When your brother returns he will go to classes that will teach him what to expect when he comes home.  He will be taught how to deal with homecomings and re-integrating with his family, the signs of PTSD and other things.\n\nI highly recommend against your assuming that he has PTSD.
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
1037394
Make sure you perform better in life than them.\nThis way your mum will have more acute problems on her mind than all the faults in your life and turn all her attention to your brother or sister.\nThis also works with older siblings!
802945
i can help your not jealous ur just conserned and that is not crime u just really care about ur brother and mabye if u tell him how u feel he will understand
725661
The worst thing in the world is to lose a child and I am very sorry for your loss and your parents loss.  \n\nIt is going to take time for your parents to heal but they will never get over your brother's death, however you can do some things to make it easier for them to function.  \n\nYou can be kind and try to help out at home and listen to them when they want to talk.  Do you have siblings besides you brother?  \n\nYou need to keep your parents involved in your life and try to strive for excellence in all you do to make them proud.
770064
This may not be much comfort, but most people have screwed up families.   However there are only a few like you and I that will admit it.    My family is the same, sometimes it gets so bad I have to stay away from some of them for months on end.    I have learned that they may be my family, but sometimes you have to put some distance between you and  them for survival..
109926
Well, it's a very difficult situation I guess, but, see... my brother was gay and all of us in the family ignored that situation until one day he came to us and take courage to tell the truth, now that we know that we love him the way he is, things haven't changed at all, we show him his not alone and he feels much better now.\nMaybe your family will not understand the problem in the beginning but they love U, so, they will take it as good as my family did.\nAbout your friends... if they're really good friends they will accept U as you are, friendship doesn't have to change at all, they will support U if U feel bad or suffer some kind of discrimination.\nTelling the truth is always your best choice... Go ahead!
1178342
This is just one small part of your life.\nNow, my brothers live in different cities.\nOne parent has died.\n\nLet bad times past and look forward to the good times.\nYou are so young and sweet. Enjoy it all. Don't let anything bad get in the way of your happiness. It can be under your control!
208898
I would only say something if you really feel the need to stand up for your brother, I would do it with them both standing right there so that way there is no he said she said crap going on between them talking about you. I would only do that under extreme cercumstances though. It matters how close you are over all to your brother, I mean if you can talk to him about anything i would definitally say something to him in private, something like dude is it just me or do you seem unhappy here lately, not really blameing her but if it is because of her he will come out and say so, if he asks you what you think i would go ahead and tell him but in the long and short of it if she makes him eat dog food on the floor every night for dinner and he still loves her, support him in his pick for a future wife. You might not like how she treats him over all but it looks like he does, maybe you havent gotten to know her well enough yet, Or maybe he hasnt, who knows. But i would definitally deal with this in a tender way, maybe your mom or dad can say something to him, or you can go to them and voice your concerns, they could probably get away with saying something to him easier then you could. I dont know ive never really been in that situation but i can see it going bad easily if its not delt with care :) I hope that helps
230951
I think your brother would want you to do something that makes you happy, that's what I would want my sister to do. Just think of him kindly and enjoy your day.
6653
hey there I totally understand where you stand because I was there myself at one point and time. But first you have to evaluate everyone in your family to figure out how much they care for you as their child/sibling. your best shot would be to tell the family member(s) that you are closest to and most comfortable around in order to see how they accept it. you would be better off starting out slowly; however this approach may not exactly work for everyone. so all I can really say is start slowly, telling a few people at a time, and then find an approach that works for you. maybe have a friend (NOT a f*ck-friend) that knows (and is cool with it) present when you disclose. worst comes to worst, have someone else tell them when you are not present. I had a great deal of difficulty coming out to them myself, but all I can really suggest that you find a way that works...for you. I do not know your family, but if they really love you, they will accept you for who you really are.
549223
Girl - are we related???  My brother is the EXACT SAME WAY and has done the same thing to me.  He's been this way since he was around 20 as well but he's freakin 31 now and still a bum.  However, my mother is still alive so he's lucky - and that's where he lives.  She enables him and that is why he will never change.\n\nI say you have to show him TOUGH LOVE.  Do not enable him to be unemployed, jobless, etc. or else he will never change. Some people have to learn the hard way.  Let him fend for himself.  Help him at a distance.  If you feel you need to let him live with you - place strong conditions on it - such as he must respect you and speak to you accordingly and the first time he doesn't - he's out.  Do not bend on that.  Then make his butt get a job and go back to school to get his GED.  Have an agreement with him before you let him back in that those are the conditions and if he does not do them - he will have to live elsewhere.  There are shelters in every state. Be strong and firm.  And pray for your brother as well.
174545
sit down and talk to him tell him your intentions and that you really care about her. tell him why you love her and that you would never want to hurt her\n\nhes just being protective my brother's the same way...like when dads get all protective, but usually brothers would beat the guy up if you hurt his sister....dads....well sometimes they might.