If a husband has been betrayed by his partner, who had an online affair (strictly online, not in person), ...?
414161
A disinterested person will say that nothing really happened. An online affair is just like chatting and does not mean a thing. But for the parties involved, it is a big blow to the relationship. Not because fo the affair but moreso the lies, and deception involved. Since communication seem to be the main issue, I strongly suggest that they get a marriage councellor to help them out as one party seems to be stubborn to all attempts to reconcile.
244799
like a fool i took mine back and we were married a week later, but i still find it hard to trust him. even tho hes the one who told me he was cheating. we have been married for 2 years now and together 6 and so far he hasnt done it again ( that im a ware of) if i had it to do over i would have left him.
58947
I am a woman, but my mother gave me the BEST advice I ever heard.  She said, "If you want your marriage to FAIL, then go in the chat rooms!"  My husband and I vowed to never chat online with someone of the opposite sex.  Actually, we do NOT take our problems to the opposite sex at all.  That is how most affairs begin.  I am old fashioned, I suppose, but I think that married people need married couples for friends.  Anything else could be a little dangerous.  I know others will say it all boils down to trust, but even the most trusting person can be seduced.
130316
Well... I am queen of being scandalous... Try to somehow find out his password to his e-mails...  Open the emails and you can usualy find out all of your info there... I've found out web sites my ex was going to and was able to sign on every single site he had an account with and check and see what he was doing... THEN I busted him... It may or may not work...
853357
Do you expect us to believe that you haven't talked to any men in....what did you say... a year? He came home to you didn't he? Sounds like you have some trust issues or you wouldn't have been checking up on his internet usage. \n\nA little advise here..... people will find what they are looking for.... and that goes for trouble too!
1180370
Leave his @$$. He is cheating. That's why I left my husband and I am doing much better.
884966
This article and show from the Dr. Phil site was very helpful for me. We watched that show together and he was sincere about making it work. That has to be there. He has to be willing to do whatever it takes to make things work.\n\nhttp://drphil.com/articles/article/523\n\nSeven Questions to Ask if Your Partner Has Been Unfaithful\n\n1.  Is this an isolated event or a pattern?\n2. Does partner own his bad behavior or make excuses for it?\n3. Does he have insight into how he's hurt you or is he oblivious?\n4. Is he sorry for his choice or sorry he got caught?\n5. Is he willing to clean up his act, or is he in denial?\n6. Is this out of character or does he have an insensitive gene?\n7. Is this a legacy or new behavior?
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If the occurance was computer related, maybe getting away from the computer and staying away from it would help you both to interact with each other more and not give him the opportunity to stray again. Open communication with complete honesty about why it happened in the first place would be a good place to start dealing with it. Trust is gained and earned, when its earned its valued, if its blindly given its taken for granted. Take time and deal with the hurt and understand that pain is a part of it and not dwell on just the pain, that would blind you to everything else. If you love them and want it to work it will take time and it will take both of you. A relationship isnt worth having without both partners working on it. Good luck, hopefully you find yourselves in a better place when its all resolved.
1043467
yes I would be furious and think he was cheating or looking to. If it was innocent they wouldn't be using fake names and keeping it from you. If they were just friends he'd have no problem telling you
661812
He's not interested.  It all was a joke.  He found someone else. He's married.  He used you for sex.  Either one of these answers could apply.  Sorry.  You meant him on the Internet.  That's always a chance.  you took it and now this is the outcome.  Don't mean to sound harsh but, is it really a surprise?
122563
I've sent pictures of myself to a few men I was involved with in a long distance relationship. As far as I know, nobody else has ever seen them. But it is always unnerving to think that your boobs could be floating around on the internet somewhere. At least I have a c*ck shot from my current so at least I could get revenge if my pictures leaked.
1030318
Would love to help but there is no question here. Did you delete it by accident?--Why do you think he has cheated?
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
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I doubt J_con's answer is what reall happened, those stories rarely happen over a simple wife's name. W\n\nhat probably happened is he saw links in your profile, or search your screename in yahoo or google and found a myspace of yours, livejournal, or some other blog in which you listed your wifes name. \n\nThis is much easier than hacking a major service providor, mind you. Good luck----High_Def
553673
I am very sorry for your current situation. It has to hurt knowing that the person you love most in this world has betrayed your trust. My advice is to go to a marriage counselor. They can help you get through this difficult time, and maybe they will be able to find the underlying cause of his betrayal. After all cheating isn't the problem, it's merely a symptom that something else in the relationship is wrong. If you have been together for five years you obviously love eachother enough to try to get through this. Best of luck, you'll be in my prayers.
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Yes to both!!!  You definitely should (get help if necessary) make a copy of his profile on a CD-rom or diskette and also copy stuff you can find in his email or Internet history.  This (along with phone records, if applicable) is concrete evidence in divorce court as proof of unfaithfulness.\n~~~\nFeel free to click my avatar/profile and contact me (and include your email if you want me to email you back).  As you can see, I have been helpful to others in the short time I've been on this site.  I cannot imagine your pain, confusion, shock, and humiliation, but I know that you don't have to put up with it, nor do you have to struggle through this trial all by yourself.\n~~~\nCheck out some sites for betrayed spouses, join a local group or organization, or visit a family therapist or marriage counselor.  Any of these sources could help you decide what steps to take for your sanity, happiness, and well-being - and that of your family/kids.
705643
I didn't cheat but my ex-husband did. I guess that tells you how it ended. When we went to my parents house to spend weekends he was sneaking out with my younger sister after I fell asleep. My sister confided in my brother and my brother confided in me in return. So my loss was my jerk of a husband(no big loss) and the love of my sister(big loss). We do talk (now) but we will never be best friends as sisters should be. I did forgive her but I will never trust her again but she did open my eyes to what was going on behind my back not only with her but with several other girls where we lived I came to find out later.