Wondering??  I HATE the beginning of dating!!!?
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All of your thoughts are definetly valid ones.  You know that the beginning of "where's this going" relationship stuff is NO picnic.All I can say is, keep your eyes WIDE OPEN.  Pay close attention to any RED FLAGS along the way (if there are any).  You know, it's just one of those things in life that really, only time will tell.  By all means don't put yourself in the position to feel obligated in to rushing in to anything.  I WOULD recommend paying close attention to his ACTIONS.  Be cautious of charming talkers.  Please, allow time to take it's course.  \n\nI would be curious why he feels it's necessary for you to know where he is, even if it is work related.  To me, it's just a bit odd.  That would get on my nerves after a while.  I mean, his employer is the one that really needs to know where's he's at all the time, not you. That's merely MY opinion.  Is he borderline needy without actually being needed?  Not that there's any crime of being 45 years old, having never married.\n\nAhh.  Like I said, just allow time to take it's course.  If it's really meant to go anywhere, then it surely will.\nDon't be too hard on him, or yourself.  Just be smart, okay?\nTake care.\n\nP.S.  Hey there c68!  I sure hope this turns out to be something good for you.  Be patient, enjoy each other, learn about each other.Maybe this is one that deserves your time.  I really do hope he's a good person.  Keep on your toes.  You seem to be a smart cookie.  Keep it up!\nI'm thinkin' about ya and if it helps, I'm pullin' for ya too. (Well, you know,...for both of you)  Take care.
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How bad is bad, really?  It won't kill you to spend an hour with a person who's just not your cup of tea.  If the person is abusive, obnoxious, or otherwise impossible to be with, there's nothing wrong with just saying, "Hey, I'm not getting any chemistry between the two of us, and I am pretty sure you're feeling the same way.  Let's just head this off at the pass, shall we?"  There's no need to lie or be underhanded about it.\n\nIf you care enough about a person's feelings to want to find a "nice" way out of a date, then you should care about them enough to stick it out until the end of the date.\n\nIn the future, make all first dates coffee dates - 30 minutes tops.
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no cause there to young to be dating in stuff....\nwell i started dating even before eleven so yah i made a big mistake cause i wasent ready for that and if they start dating they might make a bad choice and i dont think u want that to happen to ur friend....\nand then there gonna get heartbroken and it takes a long time to get over things when ur heartbroken trust me i know
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ME!!!  I hate Valentine's Day - or as I like to call it, "Singles Awareness Day!"
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I just wanted to encourage you. I have serious dating anxiety. I really like people but I always just give and give and so therefore I have trouble even considering dating anyone right now.
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I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
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Yea!!I am glad to see your moving on a little bit.  For the record I am not frustrated with you, nor the all knowing one...I think you are cute! I can tell by your questions you are overly causious.  I just feel pulled to encorage you to move it up with this gentleman.  Time goes by too fast and I hope you give him that look or tell him that it is time to take you out...I would take you out sight unseen and I have no Idea who you are.  So just do it girl!
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Well I am 26 and I've been through a lot of bad dates and got out from one really bad relationship. My last gf pretty much cheates on me  behind my back. But watever. But my point is in order to meet that special someone, you must go through pain before you can enjoy happiness. You're getting tired of dating mainly because you met guys who are jerks, dogs,  or self obsorbed. Thus letting your mind trained to think that all guys are like that. So when you start going out on dates or start being somebody's gf, your mind end up having that negative thoughts already. I'll bet you that your next boyfriend that you ecountered will have that negative image in your mind for him already. You will try to find his flaws and ignoring the things that captures your heart in the first place. \n\nDating in highschool is totally different than dating as an adult. There's a lot of puppy love in highschool. You saw a cute guy and you guys just start going out making out in school, going to dances, writing each others love letters saying i love you this i love you that. It's all puppy love. You're too young to know what love is. Infatuation is a huge effect when you're in highschool cus everything your partner does is "awww, how cute" etc. But as an adult dating, you both are more mature, more experienced and pretty much more down to earth. Sometimes you even think about marriage. Marrying your highschool sweethart is very rare. I have a friend who just got married and she married her HS sweethart. She's around my age now. \n\nBut keeping it simple in the dating scene is the key to a successful relationship. When somebody end up hookin up, they should know that breaking up is very painful so when they do hook up, make sure they need to know their partners really well. I see a lot of couples end up hookin up and just saying "lets give it a shot, see what happens" and than they end up breakin up and hating each other to death. I always follow this song I listened to back in the days, it's by Shai " If I ever fall in love"  the lyrics is. If i ever fall in love agian, i'll will be sure that the lady is a friend."  It means that becoming somebody's friend first is always easy because you respect them as friends already and love them later is a peace of cake. \n\nSo to survive the dating scene, you dont need to try to survive but to cherished the fact that you're able to meet new friends and maybe if you're lucky, meet a life partner. The dating scene is fun and having a partner that you can come home to is not bad at all. Dont put a dark cloud over something that is beautiful. And not all guys are dogs, jerks or cocky so you shouldn't be afraid.
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Well hate is such a strong word.  Occasionally you just need to be slapped around so you can remember you place.  The problem is I don't think you have any women around that can remind you of what your place is.  Sad state of affairs!\n\nSee Ladies this is what happens when we don't give the weird/unattractive ones a chance, they turn into bitter, mean, women hating machines, that take all of the time & energy they would be putting into their 'chick' and vent it out their bitterness on us instead.\n\nI'm sorry dear, I'm sorry you were rejected, but don't you think it's time just to let it go?  Move past that.  Stop being angry & one day if your a very good boy, maybe just maybe you'll meet a nice girl that will date you.\n\nIf your not ready to let go then I encourage you to continue venting!  It will help with the process!!!   You always give me a good laugh.
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Dont' worry girlfriend!I was in the same boat as you before.I did the bar scene, all my friends were in relationships, and that's what i wanted desperately.So, i would settle, and i got losers.Alot of guys would hit on me, but i just wanted to date, than i would call them back after, and they had a girl.Too late.So, in that time, I just felt out who i was, what i wanted, and focased on my career. That's when i thought, hay, i can just weed out these guys who just wanted a good time.Well, it worked.I wasn't looking for a guy.My true love had found me.When you are least expecting it, it will hit you in the ass.What i am saying is, relax, and it will come.Do not be desperate, and settle. He will find you! Get out there and do stuff that you like, and he will be there waiting for you.Good luck!
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Hi, maybe it's best to be friends first before get down to dating. However if you keep getting the" just friends" routine too much you'll need to ask what's going on that you can't take it to the next level? Ask a guyfriend or girlfriend - maybe they can see somethig your not seeing.  Good luck...
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Unfortunately dating is always tricky and probably hasn't changed a whole lot since you were last single other than the addition of the internet.  No matter what you do there is no guaranteed way of avoiding the ones you don't want.  For beginners I recomend sticking to activities that you enjoy.  If you like dancing or something like that try taking a class.  Don't be afraid of the internet, but be prepared to have to filter out a lot of trash to find a few nuggets of gold.
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START DATING AGAIN !!!
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10 is years too early to even think about having a boyfriend!!\nJeez, what is the big hurry to try and act like adults?
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start dating guys instead.that'll add spice.lol
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The worst thing a guy ever did when i was on a date was to talk about his previous sex lives, and threesomes-talk about making me feel like crap. i was a virgin at the time as well, and he found out and told me i should wait till i was married! i got outta there fast after that!!!
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I don't know you or your history so I am going to take a blind crack at this. \n\nIt seems like it is so important that you hook up with someone that even a guy coming up and asking you stupid questions can catch your interest. I can see where that could be fun and even a bit funny, but I think the fact that you were overjoyed is telling about how you value yourself. I believe you are putting too much stock in having a boyfriend (most likely to boost how you feel about yourself) and that is making you come off as desperate. Relax and let things unfold in normal time. Don't rush it just because your insecurity HAS TO KNOW RIGHT NOW! That will blow it for sure.\n\nBecause it is so important to you, I am sure that when you tell them that you "like them" it comes off more like this: \n"I like you and want to marry you and have your children and be close to you as my only one forever even before I know what your favorite color or your middle name is". I'll bet that is a big turn off.\n\nYou are definitely moving too fast, pushing too hard and sending the wrong message (that you are desperate and high maintenance) Your standards are too low and you are worth much more than any guy that is willing to say hi to you. \n\nSo, take a deep breath and see if this guy is really good enough FOR YOU instead of the other way around. Remember that anyone that ever rejects you is doing you a big favor in the end by eliminating themselves from your consideration and not waisting any more of your time with a relationship that would eventually fail.\n\nI wish you well and good luck.