Is it harder for women to leave an argument alone?
396591
I think that's true of SOME women, not all.\n\nI also thing it's true of SOME men.
797976
Ms. Fruitbat does know what you're talking about. There are definitely differences in how males and females communicate, and we women also often think men are nuts because we don't understand their style either. They often seem to me  like there's a whole bunch of nonverbal things going on in the room that show who likes and doesn't like who and all kinds of subtle complex stuff  going on at the same time and it's all going straight over their heads, like if every obvious little thing isn't pointed out to them they just don't have a clue.  \n\nI've heard it all goes back to when men were hunters and communication had to be minimal, direct and simple, (and I assume each males rank had a lot to do with who got to be listened to the most), while females gathered, spread out over a large area without much need for rank, and watching kids too, so they kept up a constant chatter, and as long as they heard everybody carrying on with low key chatter, they could keep track of where everybody was and know that everybody was safe, and what was actually being said wasn't the most important part. Women do say an average of 3 times more words per day than men do.\n\nSo for example even though it seems crystal clear to you, whatever women you're talking about may not realize men mean that harm will come if they don't shut up; they may think that as long as they keep talking, they're keeping negotiations going on that will prevent the next level of force. Also in women-speak, it's considered somewhat rude to bluntly state an opposing opinion, so the way women  participate is to make a neutral comment, or one where their point seems clear to them but is done so subtly that the guys don't even know they're trying to make a point. It is all very interesting, from a distance that is. But close up it's maddening. Ms. Fruitbat wishes you luck.
744033
maybe she jealous ..........  you don't have to go \nover there either...... to keep the argument down....\n        then when she ask why  you didn't\ncome over.......tell her your  tired of the  arguing.....
489421
Depending on the argument, usually though it takes me an entire day and night to calm down from an argument. The next morning I'm pretty cool down than the boyfriend can talk to me.
600060
The most you can do is by example. You have to remain calm but forceful in your arguments during discussion. Stay focused on the issue at hand and not allow trivial attachments to those issues to become separate issues. You're only one half of the equation and if she follows your example then things should work out fine. If you set the example and she's unable to reciprocate in attitude then my suggestion would be to think hard and long about the life expectancy of that relationship.
375424
Under equal opportunity I believe they both have the ability to lead with their own strengths.  And yet, in light of this question I also have to say that I believe a woman has the skills necessary to persue an issue with more force than a man on the basis that a woman is usually the last to let anything go, be it the last word or a fruitful debate.  And when in doubt, a woman will fight with everything in her to prove she is right when a man will walk away with the belief he is right and leave it at that.
717884
That depends on the people involved. The important thing to remember when talking about things is discuss--don't argue.
525729
Depends on the parents... can either be very traumatic or no big deal.\n\nBe sure to LEAVE THE CHILDREN OUT of the arguments
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
603176
I would be both. Probably stew about it and keep asking myself why I didn't say this or say that. Perhaps in most cases it is better to not say what you wanted to say simply because it could cause more anomisity and hostility.
884767
ABSOLUTELY. Often, people fight about petty issues, just to air their other issues. When someone's complaining about stuff all the time, they are obviously unhappy in general. If you get into an arguement, or verbal fight, ask the other person to stick to the subject. I've done that, and it usually makes the "fighter" back down, and re-think their gripes.
185293
Because it's easier. If you say something they don't like, you don't have to worry about witnessing their reaction, which may or may not be violent. Plus, if they get mad and start yelling, you can ignore them. ^^
600500
argue or passionately discuss? you can never learn anything new from someone who thinks the same way you do. opponent's do attract for a reason. how do you stop this? how do you stop the world from spinning? you cant. but you can keep an open mind. then if you feel strongly about a subject and he's of another view its OK. just because it comes out the mouth, doesn't make it Gospel. don't just expect others to have the same opinion, and don't try to push that opinion on others. that's what starts real arguments.But if the " talks" are becoming heated and frighten you, then get the heck out of there. no amount of change on your part will help. " equalizing the distance between to objects, brings them closer together" Albert E.
406350
I'll tell you how because I do it all the time - and it works on men and women.  Pick a subject or issue that she harps on regularly.  Every time she brings the issue up simply ask for an example.  Be very concise and direct.  Be blunt about it.  If she can't give any examples, well...  If she can, try to have an intelligent response ready.  Again, be concise, be direct, be blunt, and BE CALM.  Don't get rattled and don't raise your voice.  I anticipate interesting feedback from the women out there but to be sure women AREN'T always right.  The point is to discuss issues intelligently, not emotionally.  Hope this helps and good luck.
1082810
I THINK IT'S BECAUSE YOUR DEALING WITH PETTY WOMEN OR MAYBE NOT A WOMEN AT ALL...SHE HAS A MIND OF GIRL IN WHICH SHE NEEDS TO MATURE. ME MYSELF LIKE TO KEEP THING SIMPLE MEAN WHAT YOU SAY AND SAY WHAT YOU MEAN....IF SOMETHING IS BOTHERING ME I SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO TALK TO MY MAN. I WAS RAISED THAT YOU DON'T GO TO SLEEP MAD AT EACH OTHER EITHER. YOU COMMUNICATE AND WORK IT OUT.\nLIFE IS TO SHORT FOR ALL THAT AND I MEAN AFTER A LONG DAY AT WORK WHEN YOU COME HOME THAT'S SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR SANCTUARY LEAVE EVERYTHING AT THE DOOR....WE AS A COUPLE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE  TO SHALL I SAY CATER TO EACH OTHER OR MEND OUR WOES FROM THE WORLD..... NOT FIGHTING AND CARRYING ON. MAKE YOUR MAN WANNA HURRY HOME TO YOU...
979499
Pick and choose your battles wisely.  Stand up for yourself if it is something you really believe in.  Otherwise, if it's something he really believes in, listen, be understanding, and just let it be.  It's not worth the aggravation to always argue or that you always have to win.  I think its really important to only argue when absolutely necessary.  If you are not wanting to get into a fight; let him know, and stop the conversation.  Sometimes, later I'll even get an apology for it.  I just don't make a big deal out of it.  They appreciate that.
331191
arguments are arguments. I've had many in my 6 years. The bigger person (stronger) needs to step up and patch things up...FAST! the last thing you want is a argument to carry on for too long. That will cause a ripple effect and cause serious damage to a relationship. After things are patched up be sure to 'talk' about it, that way that situation can be avoided. As long as the argument is not about cheating than you and him will be A-OK!!