have you ever been in a relationship when everyone disapproves......?
409963
who cares what everyone thinks its all about how u feel!
247162
I hate double standards...its just not fair.This chick I was with, didnt want me around my family because she thought they were going to hook me up with another female . When it came to her family I never had problem being with her family but she wanted me to cater to her family but cut my family off.Im glad thats over.
137089
I don't know if there's ever a situation where one person is always right and the other person is always wrong.  I don't like to think that there's such a great divide between girls and guys because that doesn't bode well for my future relationships!
463197
my wife and i were kind of fixed up.  Our friends thought we would be good together but knew we would not agree to a blind date or go out with someone because they said so.  Also they really hated my girlfriend at the time.  The just kept inviting her and i out to places so we would have to interact and talk.  We went to one of our friend Birth day parties and met but like i said i was seeing someone.  Then the movies a play things we both liked. Eventually i broke up with my girl and like a month later my friends/roommates invited her over and we had a really good time.  We started dating then got married. \nPS we are not friends with either of them anymore for various reasons
86359
Unfortunately, if someone is predudiced, you can't change their opinions. Go with your heart, and if you truely love your man, don't let other peoples small mindedness get into the way. If they love you, they will eventually be there for you.
587586
well...recently...I ended up cheating on my last boyfriend because he disappeared for two weeks then came back and ignored me for a week and I didn't know what was going on so when an old friend of mine put the moves on me about 50 times within one sitting...saying "no" got to be to hard. I should have just left, but I was so upset...I don't know what I was thinking.
490000
It seems reasonable to conclude you believe they wouldn't approve of this relationship.  You should at least respect them enough to be honest with them, if you don't respect them enough to honor their wishes.
876606
have you ever heard the saying, "when enough is enough"? or how about the saying, "your issues feed off the energy that you give to the people causing the problem"....I also experienced the same thing. When i found out that my ex husband was going to marry the woman that he cheated on me with, it nearly drove me crazy. Then one day I woke up and said - I DONT CARE ANYMORE - he was not that important and i refused to give him my energy or waste time thinking about how crazy things had gotten.  On a good note - 3 years after they married, he called to apologize, saying he realized that he made a mistake and I was the best thing that ever happened to his life.  God will get your husband in the end!
626111
I haven't personally, but I know a few people who have. I think it is okay as long as you are being honest and up front with the person. One of my friends met this guy who wanted to buy her tons of things and take her out to fancy dinners all of the time. She didn't want to be intimate with him and she told him that. He was okay with it. He just enjoyed having someone to spend his money on.\n\nMy other friend was being dishonest however. She was seeing a guy who bought her a car and let her move into his apartment. He told her that he loved her and that he wanted to marry her. She told me that she didn't love him and that she couldn't see herself marrying him but that she hadn't told him that. I think that is completely unacceptable and I don't know how anyone in good conscience could do that.\n\nThat's just my opinion of course.
1078271
I had a similiar problem with my mother in law and I have always stood up for myself with other people but I didn't want to with my mother in law because I didn't want to cause problems.  But my husband never said anything to her and we had fights about it and he finally told me that I was going to have to stick up for myself.  So I did and it made the world of difference.  Don't depend on your man to stand up for you so the sob father that you don't have to take his shit.
1075718
Mine was so jealous of my standard of living, that she sabotaged my marriage. I don't know really. Maybe it's because they will always be an outsider that they feel the need to be part of evrything that's going on whether they're welcome or not.
343300
anything worth doing is worth fighting for... who cares if there is a mix... are you happy? Are your children happy? My family hates the man I married, and his family hates me... everyone seems to think that they know what is best... we love eachother, our son is fantastic, well rounded. We are a happy family and have been for the past 6 years... goes to show that sometimes the world is wrong... go figure
514997
Tell them you don't want to be pulled in two directions because you love them all.  That might get you out of it and maybe that will guilt them into settling their disagreement.  If they don't listen to you, stay away from all three of them if you can.  You can't win in this kind of fight.
827038
Unfortunately yes.  I dated this person for a while and  I met his family.  They were totally dysfunctional, loud, crass and crude.  When he was around them he behaved like a lunatic.  But when he was alone with me he was a different person.  It was a Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing.  So i called it quits.  It was too much for me.
285205
I have that problem as well. Well, I don't like to think of it as a "problem," per se, but more of a personality quirk. Just like any other issue, it's something that just has to be worked around.\n\nI started by forcing myself into situations where I knew I would otherwise feel competitive and needing to prove my point. Just as an example, I'm an atheist, but I thought I could broaden my circle of acceptance if I started going to Christian meetings on campus. At first it was a little rough, and I'm surprised they were so welcoming to me every week despite my obvious rejection of their beliefs. But now I'm much more open to religious individuals.\n\nI've yet to learn how to spread this to everything else I feel strongly about, but I've learned this was the best way: forcing myself to "suck it up" until I no longer feel as if I'm going to explode if I don't make some kind of snide remark.\n\nJust don't tell my boyfriend, or he might expect me to be more agreeable with him, too.
841231
I am sorry girl but it was disrespectful.  I dont blame him for getting mad...you made him look like an ass infront of his whole family.  Now they think that you are a bad person and if you love him you will have to prove yourself to him.  If not find another man.
402221
yes i personally did !! if you are in a relationship but yet you can't tell your mate everything then their is something wrong going on .. you both have to be able to talk about everything ..thing's happened in the past ..thing's happening right now ..silly things that you do .. stupid dreams..embarrassing stuff ..just everything .. and he gata support you in every possible way not just make a funny of you or get mad all the time !!