My wife wants to put our son up for adoption because she wanted a girl instead. He is 2 now.What should i do?
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
993451
You can have the baby, and let me adopt it.  I am a mother of three.  I would welcome your child.
493693
Have a kid with some one else? Have you tried asking? Maybe you should sit her down and ask if she wants everyone in the world to know that she is basically sterile and if it is okay for you to tell everyone on the Internet that? Lets say by chance you get her pregnant. Its a Girl will you reject the child? Your question says you want a Son. So not only do you want your Girlfriend to do something she cant do but you want her to push out a boy. If all else fails. Tell her you love her and you want to share in the ultimate joy of having children together. Then go to the fertility clinic and work on this together.
135807
Leave him, go have a pregnancy test done and be checked out for STDS. He is obviously not trustworthy to have done something so sneaky. It is your choice if you want to have a baby not his. If he wants a child and you are not willing or ready to have one, he should either accept it or find someone that wants a family. Not try to force one on you.\n\n************************************************************\nAs for the abortion and adoption issue brought up in previous answers, Think it through well and make an educated decision. Even though you were tricked into a pregnancy it doesn't change the fact that it would be your baby growing inside of you and you would have to live with your choice for the rest of your life. There is no taking it back...once you abort the baby is dead a nd gone forever, and once you give your child to someone else it is their child. You could also consider giving the child to the father, since he obviously wanted a baby so badly, but only do so if he is secure and stable enough to raise and love the baby.
76356
Throughout history, women have had a deep understanding of when it is time to bring life into the world and when it isn't time.  It's a deeply personal decision and not open to speculation by the right wing or the left.  It is your choice.  Consider your situation.  The bringing of life should never be based on what a man is or isn't to you and your child.  The decision should be made on whether or not you want a child, period.  What kind of boyfriend do you have that you would consider abortion before you consider discussing the options with him?  The hardest decisions are never about the quickest solution but are instead about the right one.  I stand by this and for the record, I've had an abortion, I've given a child up for adoption and now, at 38, I'm in a good place and am raising a 7 yr. old daughter.  Having done all three, I am STILL not qualified to tell you what to do.  Your soul, your heart, your intellect will need to speak for you.  Good luck!
962690
I have a male friend who is now married to someone who has had children from an ex, but who can't give him any. they adopted a child together as he was keen to have a child to love. he has been married for 14 years and does not regret his situation .\n i am not saying that your love will want to adopt, but he has indicated that he is happy to be with you. accept  that you now have the love you deserve . it is really up to him to decide whether he can live without children of his own, he is an adult who can make that decision for himself. \nperhaps you are concerned that in a few years he may regret his decision.But try to not let it make you so paranoid that it makes your relationship suffer. come on ----enjoy the love.
661295
Well, chances are that she will get custody of your daughter.  If you believe what Dr. Phis says, children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  You never made a commitment to the girl, which I believe is wrong anyway, but I don't think using one another just for sex is a reason to stay in a relationship.  It has to be built on more than that.  Nobody can tell you what you should do, nor should they, but I think that you need to find love and commit yourself to a woman for life.  Good luck.
231368
They do and if the attorney you are using does not seem to be helping, fire that one and find another. Unfortunately it sounds like you never adopted. However, if you supported the child for seven years, you have a strong case for either reimbursement of expenses, which could be used as a weapon against the father to get her back. I know that sounds crappy but you may have to play dirty to get the best interests of the child met. Check your states judicial website, most states have them, and prepare for a lot of research and find what the laws are in your community. Most of it is pretty cut and dried. You can get visitation rights at the minimum, especially since she spent so much of her life with you. Start making phone calls and pleading your case for advice from folks who deal with thiese issues regularly, social services, free legal services from your county etc. Plan on being creative and doing a lot of soul searching. Best of luck to you and to her.
711950
Not really much you can do. It's up to him to grow up and decide who is best for him. If you pull him from one side and she pulls from one side, he's going to have trouble choosing. As hard as it will be, you should sit back and wait for him to decide. He has to grow up, be a man, and make the right decision for him and not let anyone influence him.
671399
I'm pretty sure that your son is old enough to choose who he wants to live with.  There is a certain age they turn and are able to choose. Check into it.
973161
By adopting the child you are accepting legal and financial responsibility for the child. Should the two of you ever seperate or divorce, she can petition the court for child support from you. And you can petition the court for custody or visitation.\n\nIf you do not adopt the child you may (or may not) still be required to pay child support (depends on the laws of your state). And you may (or may not) be able to get custody or visitation.
557453
Well your going to need an attorney. You do NOT have to sign over your rights to your child and let her be adopted, no matter how much they brow beat you or try to make you look bad. Just simply refuse to sign ANYTHING. You definitely need a lawyer though and go to court, and get joint custody of your daughter.
379583
Well you could adopt. Or see if you qualify for a reversal. \nBecome a foster parent would be satisfying and help many children in need
842764
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
282868
Personally I think you should go for it.  I'm a guy and have a 9 year old daughter.  I was never looking for a mommy for my child, she already has one of them.  \n\nI met a girl about 6 years ago and she was a bit freaked at first too.  It took her a little while but soon she fell in love with the idea.  We are married now and my wife and daughter are great friends.  If my wife never gave me a chance (only because I had a kid) all three of us would have missed out on a great thing.
275784
Hi\nParenting is commonly known as tough love...You have to let them make their own decisions but be there for them...\nIf you try to intervene your Son may resent you for it.\n\nAt this age their hormones are raging all over the place & it's not the best time to be making serious decisions about their love life.\nThe best advice I can offer is to show them you Love them by listening to their troubles & offer impartial advice if asked for it, \nOne of the hardest things to do is keeping your mouth shut when it's most tempting to open it....\nIf you try & intervene with this girl & your Son you will just drive him to her more.\nBe patient & keep the communication going.\nYour sons love you dearly...It's just not 'cool' to show it.\n\nHope it all turns out o.k
94490
My God!!!! I would run out and hire an anttorey. To to court if you can, I wish you and your daughter the best of luck. Many hugs and Kisses.