My g/f is 35 and I am 31 Do I need to ask for her parents permission? Do people still do this?
398997
It shows ALOT of respect if u talk to the parents (preferribly the dad).
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
803116
depends how strict her parents are. but if you want to give it a shot, go right ahead! who knows- you may go with her and have a great time!
574547
Well, why do you need to? Isn't that a private matter?\n\nThere's some stuff that parents really don't need to know, and I'm not joking. If she doesn't ask (which she really has no right to), then she doesn't need to know. It's that simple.
1016213
I think your GF has some insecurity issues.  Im sure it has nothing to do with her personal items.  She knew you had kids, and that the father would be involved with them.  He is paying the rent, and cable bill... I see no reason why he couldnt watch the World Cup.  If he started making a crazy habit of it where it imposes on you, then I suggest you move to your own place and pay your own bills.\n\nOther than that I think your GF just needs to have a little understanding of the situation and not be so jealous, insecure, or "worried".\n\nI of course am only basing these thoughts on not knowing either of you or the situation.  If I were you, I would try to explain the whole situation to your GF again...\n\nEDIT:  Also anyone who says you should have nothing to do with your ex husband is incorrect in my eyes.  Your responsibility's are to your kids, and making them happy, which will involve being respectful to their father, and being a part of his and their lives.  You had the choice to have kids... the kids did not get a choice in their parents, and therefore they are the Innocent ones in this situation and need to be looked out for first and for most!  Even if that means putting off relationships with other people for the time being.  Just my opinion :)  Sorry if it sounded preachy... it was more directed at the comment above mine :)
1138455
I don't know if the age of consent there is 17 or 18, but there would be issues with sex if she's under that, regardless of engagment (which is meaningless legally). So far as marriage, yes with parental consent it is legal & no real issue.
1118837
i was 15 and my gf was 13 when i had my first realtionship.. we go out but with friends i do visit her during week ends and sometimes go out with her family and sometimes with my family as well... you just have to know your limitations.
494760
No, but common courtesy would say that's a question reserved for when you know someone better.\n\nAlso, you should be sure that this "girl" is an adult.
441152
Well, you are both consenting adults, so no it's not wrong. I would make sure she doesn't have "daddy issues" or you could have problems.\n\nBy the way, why would this question need to be deleted? It's a legitimate question. He said she was 24, not 14.
483932
My parents were 18 years apart, Id have to say, this is fine, or I wouldnt be here  haha.. However.... I think it depends on the age , not the age gap so much, if there 18 y/o and dating a 35 y/o thats not right.... If yer 30 and dating a 45 y/o, I think thats ok, Maturity has to be there... Just my opinion...
230130
16 but with your parents' permission
1163496
Hello. honestly i think her parents are to uptight.. so i think that maybe u need to talk to her parents about it.. or maybe u just need to tell the girl right now you really wanna be with her and ur sorry her parents are in the way and that u would do anthing you can to be with her.. and that she is the most important thing to you..or that she is the most beautiful kind-hearted person in this worl and you would do anything to be with her if she would only give you a chance..
1023716
If you love each other, then marry each other, of course if you are old enough.  \n\nIf have found in my own life that any man I brought home, my parents found something wrong.  They simply want the best for their children.  Go with your heart.
505189
Two thoughts to consider:\n\nTwo people who like each other (and who aren't separated by extraordinary circumstances) inevitibly hook up.  That's just how love works.  If she wants you, then she'll do what she can to be with you, so don't worry about that.  Let her flirt, and flirt back if you want.\n\nAbout the issue with her parents...\n\nIf she's truly an adult (or ready to be an adult), then she will do what she wants and not just what her parents want.  Letting her parents dictate her love life *would* be a sign of immaturity and lack of independence.\n\nWhat do I think you should do?\n\nDon't even think about what her parents want until you know what she wants.
1030818
that's tough, at 18 she is considered legal but that doesn't mean she's mature, it all would depend if she has her head straight, 7 yrs isn't that much, my father is 7 yrs older than my mom and they been married 4 over 30 yrs so age isn't a problem.
347383
hey! Take it from me, I'm a lil younger than you but older than your gf. Anyway, I know it seems akward but have you thought: Would you rather give up your luv because you care of what people think? Hey, look at most parents, they have about your age difference!
648866
its illegal. and it raise questions whether or not she is taking advantage because according to the law(in most western countries-i don't know which one is yours)it would be a form of rape because your not old enough to make the decision (this is assuming your sleeping together). \n\n5 years difference isn't much really but it seems a great deal bigger at your age, if it was 30 and 35 no-one would think anything of it.\n\npersonally i think you should wait a couple of years so its not a kid with an adult. but its up to you if your responsible and obviously if your parents are fine with your relationship.\n\nif your going to see her make sure its a partnership and your comfortable with the what takes place in the relationship. there is nothing wrong with you not being ready for some of the things she is (i though i should say that just in case).\n\ni can understand your interest, it makes you look cool to your friends but its quite odd that a 20 year old is interested in a 15 year old child(no offence) and its bordering on paedophilia.\n\n\ni think the perfect age for a boys girlfriend is supposed to be something like half his age plus seven, so in theory your perfect girlfriend should be 14.5 years old.