I had a break up with mi gal 2 years backs..she got married@ dec2004 , still i cry for her..what shud i do?
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May sound a bit fem to do, but I am sure it will help you mentally if you write your emotions down on paper. Spill your heart and soul out, then put that paper(s) away for a while. Come back to that paper in a few days and read it, analyze it, and reassess your emotions at that point. If you keep doing that, you will start to see that those emotions will start to change and you will eventually start the healing process. :o) Chin up! :o)
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oh, sweetie... time doesn't matter.. i met and married my husband in four months. My soulmate. Get a friend... smile even if you want to cry.. watch a funny movie, comedy speel, think happy thoughts. It will get better. you can feel free to e-mail me er1ca2000@yahoo.com.
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Why so sad, Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't feel the same way, you have lost nothing.  Then you can go on with your life with no regrets.
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I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
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tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.
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Honey, I know how that hurts. It happened to me with my marriage. I ended up divorced. It does no good to try to pick up the pieces with someone who no longer loves you. You need to just let her go. I know how hard it is but you do get over it in time. Give yourself some time to heal and then think about dating again. It won't be easy but you'll get through it day by day. God will help you and so will we. You can always find a friend here on YA. If you need to talk, my email is on my profile. You're in my prayers, Sweetie. God speed.
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My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
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Honey, please don't tear yourself up.  Remember, that you are a valued person, your have a life that can be beautiful. Don't let her use you, respect yourself, where is your self-esteem? Next time she calls, be polite and considerate, but let her know that you have your own life and she isn't in it.  Politely tell her to find another ex to cry to.You my friend are worth so much more than to be used as a sounding board. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and find someone who appreciate you for you . Please, do this for yourself.  I found someone I adore and am adore back, we would nerve be disrespectful of each other as she is to you.  Take a long hard look at yourself, you are one hell of a women. Someone out there is dying to meet you.
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I realize that it may be really hard right now but I hope you realize how valuable you are yourself and that you will take care of you during this time. You may or may not\nget the full answer as to why he broke up with you.  I had\na boyfriend in high school that everyone swore or thought\nwe would surely get married and we ended breaking up and we had been dating over a two year period.  Give him his space and see what happens.  Be good to yourself in the meantime.  If you were good to him and know that in your heart  of hearts you gave your best thats all that anyone can ask.  He may have some things he needs to work out.
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when I was in college I was, I can't access IM right now due to my location, but I will tell you this. I sped up her divorce, which was good for him and her. I was her Rock, because her family didn't like what she was doing and basically shut her out. After the Divorce her family started to accept her again and at the point I became "to annoying to be with" and now she is living in AZ somewhere with her dream man from HighSchool. So in a sense I ended a bad relationship, Got really really heart broken (which I learned alot about myself) and now 2 other people are happier because of what I did
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I'm sorry that happened to you but maybe she finally realized what she felt for you and that it wasn't enough to take it into the future.  You also don't know if she found somebody else and this could be a possibility.  Please try to move on and consider this a blessing in disguise.  It's better that you found out sooner than later.
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I'm so sorry about what has happened to you... *HUGS*... You have to think hard about everything. Weigh things carefully. Should you and your wife get back together, there should be love for each other.  The first thing that you have to do is to fix yourself, physically and emotionally. Get help from your family. I know how it feels to be hurting inside, not knowing what to do with the feeling. It kills you inside. You want to cry but crying isn't enough to let your feelings out. Just fix yourself first. More importantly, fix yourself emotionally. From there, you'll know what to do next...
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If she betrayed you, then she's not worth a second thought. I know that's easier said than done, but it is possible to get through. Think of it this way, does it hurt more that you're not with her anymore, or does it bother you more that she made you feel like you weren't enough or good enough by going to someone else? I know that sounds mean, but I don't mean for it to. Just stop and think if maybe your ego is hurting more than your heart. Don't let her actions turn you against other girls, because there are PLENTY of them out there who would love to have a boyfriend and who would treat you like gold ! No matter how hard it is to think of that right now, you WILL find someone else, if you give it time. Just don't go back to the same girl who cheated on you! If you take her back, she will think she can do it again, and you'll take her back again- once a cheater always a cheater! Don't waste any of your time on her- take care of yourself, work out a little( anything to boost your self-esteem), and you'll be surprised at how easy it is to get over her and find someone new! Especially if you are feeling good about yourself!
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Hi.  I might be wrong, but I think most of the love/hate stuff is only in your head, you know.  I mean, it's not like you two have had an actual relationship in all those years, right?  So, I'm not saying you haven't really felt love and hate, only the person you've felt them for no longer exists.  You both grew apart a long time ago - if you were to meet again, you probably wouldn't even know each other anymore, you'd have to get to know her all over again to sort out your feelings.  And you might realize then that she's probably been that way (that would only be new to you) for a while and you couldn't possibly feel love or hate or both for her.\nOkay, I'm rambling.\nWhat to do?  Now that's a good question.  Honestly, I don't know.  I don't know how you get over your history.  But is this something that bothers you all the time?  Or are you just wondering how she's felt since then?
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You will get over it.It takes time.Try to do something to help yourself get on with life.You will never love the same way again.Each time will be different.But you will find another wonderful person to fill that void.If you two broke up I am sure that you can find someone who will be the girl friend of your dreams.It all takes time.
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try to talk to her one more time, go there personally, tell her what's in your heart, and tell her u need to be with her, and if you can't have your family back, than u need to move on with life, because your not happy being alone. and wait for her response. if she isn't interested than there's no choice but to file for divorce and move on and start over again. but confront her first with how u are feeling, before u file for divorce.
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im in the same way bro so i know how u feel id lay the cards on the table and lay everything out on how u feel and wat u want if she dont feel the same way bro then i guess it mite b time to move on !!!!!!!! good luck tho bro