How do i get over a guy who i loved very dearly?, i really need help, im so miserable without him.?
406151
Spend time with your close friends and tell them whats on your mind.  They are guarenteed to be very supportive and do what they can to help you out.  Being with people you have laughs or a good time with will easily make you feel better than sitting in a dark room brooding.  Basically you need to be out and active, have exposure to the sun, start looking at other guys that may help.  And if that doesn't help time will.  Over time you're guarenteed to let it go and move on.  Just remember that this isn't the end of everything good and fun, something else or somebody else will run into you that will give you enough pleasure to be yourself again.
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
129531
At first forgive him, because he is a fool and really poor minded. But then try to move on, you deserve someone who cares and loves you in return.\n\ngood luck :-) I know how you're feeling
699313
It doesn't sound like he was your everything if you were depressed even when you were around him. The best way to get over a guy is to let him go. Have one day where you cry and are depressed and eat cookie dough and let yoursself feel all the pain. He must not be your soul mate if he's treating you badly because your soul mate should never treat you badly. If you were constanly fighting, you weren't happy, and realtionships should make you happy. If sounds like you were simply codependant on this guy and you don't know what you're going to without him. It sounds like you need him and you need to realize that you don't. Hang out with your girl friends, reconnect with your family. Move on and stop sitting in your pity just because it's comfortable, you deserve to treat yourself better, and to find a person that will truly care for you.
1100166
get yourself busy and try not to think about him that much...... in time you will learn to accept things as they are and you will not be feeling hurt as much as you are feeling now.  definitely he is not for you.  and since you were the one to leave him, it is easier to learn how to forget him.... life goes on.  do something worthy, go out with your friends, meet new people, and start living life again.
786713
Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
850785
You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
98996
try to forget him , I know it is hard , but you will make it :-)
30793
well the answer is: DON'T.\n\nIt's hard, but If you truly cannot be with someone you feel this way about, then loving them will only bring pain.  Moving on is the only way.  Spend time with friends.  Go on a trip.  Spend time on a hobby you enjoy.  These won't make you feel better right away.  But it's all you can do to occupy your mind with something other than the person you cannot be with.  Someday, someone else will love you and it will be someone who you CAN be with.
890317
if you really can't get over him, then i guess you'll have to learn the hard way and hear it cold from him. call him and hear his rejection and that should make you get over him. if it doesn't work the first time, keep dfoing that until you are over him and have moved on.
907294
I think you need to get over this dude and fast\nForget his number ( its a figur of speach cause if you trully loved him samthings you just cant forget ).....Stay away from the friends that will ask you about him....Just go cold Tercky if you know what i mean.......Its hard to do and even harded to maintain nut keep telling yourself its for the best\n\nThe fact that you not showing intrest in him anymore will creat a feeling of curiosity on his part.....If the dosnt chace you he wasnt worth it if he does you in\nRemember the man thats worth your tears wont man you cry
637827
i am sorry you suffer i know how u feel cause i felt same when a guy broke up my heart long time ago you must move on cause she no love you it's hard but u will i advice you to go find other love spend time with new gf even u not feel in love with her but this is best way to forget about ur love best luck thank you
651699
Probably a subconscious thing. Even though you consciously have gotten over him, there is still some subconscious pain that you don't even realize. But if you just hang in there, you can get past even this. It may just take time.\n\nYou might try sleeping on your couch for a while, to prevent reinforcing that subconscious hurt anymore. Rearranging your room some might help too. But the more you push past it, the better it will get. Just be patient.
839019
I think you've done the best anyone can do to try and open him up and if he isn't then get rid of him. He will regret having lost someone as nice and good as you and there's nothing that will change, because you deserve better than him and if he isn't willing to try than move on. Find someone who will love you back, has feelings and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated (which is very good, just so you know). Good Luck
1094794
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
970987
get over him by making your self feel better. by this i mean go out and buy all new clothes, get a sexy hair cut and make him look at you. some call this retail theropy! the best answer i can give you is try and be round people as much as possible. i just broke up with my boyfriend and now i live by myself and its very deppresing. and always remember never leave the one you love for the one you like coz the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
925741
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...