What do you do when you feel the school (teachers and principals) have labeled your child?
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I had a similar problem a couple wks ago. My sons teacher was labeling him and picking him. I was getting notes every single day just about from his teacher. I was really sure what was going on because he had been making A-B honoroll. Anyways I went up there and spoke with her, found that she had moved him and ONLY HIM to a different part of the class room so he could pay attention. I was not having that since he was making good grades all year long and still is. He said he wasn't misbehaving or disruptive, so I didn't know what the hell the problem was. I also spoke with the principal and asked that my son be moved or we were taking it to the school board. We just put our foot down(husband and I)and let them know that we were serious and wanted it to be resolved. Because he wasn't gonna learn if he's getting discouraged by his teacher. I don't know what grade your sons in, but my son is in 2nd grade. And don't think that you guys are being a pain in the butt or an inconvenience to the "school", because that is your son. I was getting on to my kid every time that I was getting a note, but it wasn't him, I guess the teacher decided to pick on him. And as far as the school staff, who cares what they think of you, but once they start picking or being ugly to your son. Id take it a step further and contact the school board. Good luck!!
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You need to arrange a meeting with the teacher immediately to address this - have another person with you, and keep notes of what was said.  Don't go in all guns blazing, be polite but firm and explain your concerns in a dignified manner.  If you do not get anywhere with the teacher submit a formal written complaint to the head teacher and ask for a meeting with him/her to disucss your concerns and what can be done.  Take notes of everything and copies of all letters/details of phone calls.  Take notes of anything your child tells you and of any changes you notice in your child behaviour - reluctance to go to school, nightmares, bedwetting, acting out of character. The teacher has behaved unreasonably, but give them a chance to give their version as you have so far only heard one side.  As I said - make notes of everything, the more documentation you have the stronger your case if you do need to take this any further. It's hard to stay calm and rational in this situation, I know but you've a better chance of a positive outcome if you do!
830093
aside from contacting the headteacher, you could go to the class teachers and see if anyone is enthusiastic about your idea.\nthere is no one person in primary schools that are in charge of parent-teacher liason.\nsome key buzz words in education that are becoming increasingly important (according to certain authorities) that you might want to look into - coaching (not sports coaching), personalised learning,\nand the ever-important one - inclusion.\nyou may want to think who would benefit from the enhanced communication - parent/teacher/child. some teachers are very resistant to change, as are some parents. they won't want to hear that they are not doing it right, so think carefully how you are going to approach them. think about it from their point of view - teacher - 30 kids to look after, all day every day, govt targets to meet, pressure from local authority, headteacher, etc.\nparent - want to do the best for their child, want to trust the teacher.
673709
What you are feeling is normal, but if you act upon these feelings you could be charged with sexual harassment.  My poor son told his teacher and she slapped him with it.
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Talk to a counsellor or the principal at the school.  They have to know when a teacher is mistreating a student,  It needs to be dealt with by the principal for the safety of the students.
984595
Keep a log and document the incidents and punishments for both boys and girls.\nFollow the chain of command. Take your log and meet with the principal to attempt to resolve the issue. If the issue is not resolved at that level, go to the Superintendent. If it is not resolved at that level, take the log and meet with your school board member. \nTake  other parents with you.\nIf you continue to  feel the differential treatment is serious and you can't resolve it within your school district, you could contact your state education department or your regional Department of Ed Office for Civil Rights and discuss the issue with them. Schools don't want to hear from OCR.\nGood luck!
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You didn't explain exactly what is happening, so it is difficult to give a specific response.  If a teacher is bullying a child, it is a serious situation, and unfortunately it happens more often that we who are, or have been, educators, would care to admit.  anyone can be a bully, including a teacher.\n\nThe best scenario would be if you could calmly talk to the teacher, explain what is happening and how it is affecting the child, and give an opportunity for the teacher to change - but not weeks, only days.  If that doesn't work, then the next step is the principal.  The principal is the person who has most chance of doing something about this.  \nAgain, it is key that you maintain your calm and composure.  You probably won't be taken seriously if you are upset, angry, etc., even if you have every right to be.\n\nI'm not sure how old the child is, but is he old enough to write dowm what has happened?  If so, that might be the next step.  I would get the child to do that, describe the incidents that have happened in his own words as he understands them, in a letter to the principal, copied to the teacher in question.  The teacher has to receive a copy of the letter.  That makes it official and it has to be addressed.   \n\nIf at all possible, I'd have the child in any meeting between parent, teacher and principal.  Prepare the child to be there, to be able to tell what happened even with the teacher there.  Bring an impartial advocate with you if you feel you would need that support.  If the child is not in the meeting, there is only the teacher to describe the situation with no one to really say, "But I was there and that is not what happened."  An alternative might be to videotape the child telling his version of the events.\n\nThere are always at least three sides to any story - the child's version, the teacher's version, and the correct version.  So keep that in mind.  The real truth may be hidden somewhere in the emotion of the whole situation, but it is also possible that the child's version is mostly the truth.\n\nYou might also want to discretly seek out other parents to see if anyone else is aware of what is happening.  If a taecher is being a bully, everyone in the class knows it.  Actually, if the teacher is being a bully, most likely everyone in the school knows it, or at least has a sense of it.  If you have more than one parent or child making a complaint, it will be taken more seriously.  But still make yhour complaints through channels - teacher first, then principal if at all possible.\n\nIs there a counselor at the school?  Could you and the child bring this issue to the couselor?  The school counselor might know the best route to take this in your particular school and area, and might be a good support.\n\nMost principals want to know if a teacher is being a bully, and the principals usually want to sort it out.  Best of luck in getting this issue taken care of.
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first: pray hard\n\nsecond: teach your child confidence and skills to help her protect and defend herself and make sure she feels safe to tell you about anything and everything.\n\nthird: stay involved. Know what is going on in her school, talk to the teacher, principle, school nurse etc. now and whenever you have a concern and be aware of the curriculum\n\nfourth: pick a good school, find out what schools around you are the best and try to get your daughter into one. If you are not zoned for a good school you may be able to get a variance.\n\nFinally: if you still feel concerned you could consider homeschooling for a while, but remember in your child's age group problems like you have described are extremely unlikley. Hope this helps
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Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
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First, I want to tell you that your son hitting the teacher is very wrong. I am myself a teacher and I have a students threaten me and insult me. It upsets me. I became a teacher with the desire to make a change in the life of the young people that I meet on a daily basis. \nThe teacher did not have direct physical contact with your son, therefore he didn't not touch him.  He probably tried to prevent him to get in trouble. Your son has rights under the IDEA act. There are organization in every state to help with special and legal problems. I wish you good luck. I will enclose a few links. \nSome schools will argue that a student that has ADD does not qualifies under IDEA but you can make a case that if he has a lot of anger, upset or emotional crisis he does. You need to search under IDEA and your state and advocacy. I feel that if a student hits a teacher or another student, there is definitely a cause for concern. I know that you love your son and that you want what is best for him. Don't blame the teacher because he already got hit, don't blame your son because he is filled with anger and that won't help. Search for a good therapist and work through the issues. It is not your fault, the fact that you are asking us this question means that you love him and that you care. \nGOOD LUCK!
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Talk to the school.  Every child is entitled to an education under the law, so if it means that school has to do some special accomodations for your child, so be it.  As a parent you have the right to insist on that for your child.  There may, however, be a resource the school can direct you to (like another more appropriate school)instead of modifying the child's current school enviroment.  good luck!
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I taught at a school in Ca.  It is true that the schools are limited in what they do to protect other kids from being bullied.  Several of the answers were very appropriate.  Most important thing would be to document each and every incident.   I would then (as someone said) write a letter to the school with pictures of marks, along with any statement of your child.  Send it registered or certified mail to the school, the teacher, and the superintendent.  If there are marks on your child, I would immediately file a police report and send that in the certified letter.  Request a response to the letter and a meeting with all parties involved to find a way to solve the issue.  What many people do is complain and try to resolve it on their own, but nothing will happen until someone gets really hurt.  You need to demand that a  plan be put in place to protect your child.  If this does not happen, you will file suit.  Make sure everything is in writing.  Have your child seek counseling (not through the school).  if you do not have the money to pay for it, then find a place that charges on a sliding scale or will give free services.  Bring the counselor to your school to represent your child.  Do not wait for the school to take any action.  It could take forever or not happen at all.
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call the school psychologist, or the district psychologist. they have a certain amount of days to respond, and provide testing once the request is made...you might have to fill out a request for testing form...make copies of everything you give out. do some research for your state/county on what the laws are regarding educational testing. document any/all phone calls and follow up verbal requests with written requests. don't forget to also call the school superintendent if you need to. i've worked in spec. ed for many years, and raised a special needs child...i've literally had to take the district to court (several times) for failing to provide my son with the educational assistance/tools that were written into his i.e.p. (individualized educational plan). there are also advocacy groups, and parent coordinators through the mental health system, in most counties.\nin my experience, school districts can be very non-parent friendly. you may come up against officials who say there is no money for testing your child, etc...they are not above trying to make a parent feel guilty either...don't buy into it. nobody cares about your child like you do, and if you don't push the issue, your child will not get the help he is entitled to.  i hope this was helpful...very best of luck to you. you can also go to dr.phil's website to get more ld, a.d.d., adhd, dyslexia, etc. info from dr. frank lawless.
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Your first step would be to start doing some written evaluations. Without knowing the children's ages, it is impossible to be able to give you a more accurate answer. You need to start observing and documenting and after a few days of doing that for each child you are concerned about, compare your notes with developmental milestones that you know they should have either already reached, or should be working on. Then you need to use those findings to write out a goal for that child to reach the next milestone using what you know they have already learned.\nAs a teacher it is your role to not TELL a parent what is "wrong" with their child, but to look to yourself to see what you can do in the classroom utilizing the tools of observation and knowledge. \nIn parent teacher conferences, this tool is excellent. You can bring out your written observations and show the parents...this is where your child is, this is where he should be, this is my goal for him, what things are you noticing at home.\nThis way is best because you are not approaching the parent with a "teacher knows best" tact, you are using your knowledge and expertise to tell the parent that they are needed in their child's development and asking them for ideas and suggestions and including them in your program specifically designed for their child.\nWhen a parent feels that you are going above and beyond for their child, more than likely they will jump on board.\nI use this method. I have yet to have any complaints or awkward meetings. \nOf course, you will get the occasional parent who just won't listen or will think you are wrong. Maybe there is a culture difference or even a language barrier that makes the situation harder than you feel it should be. However, your chosen venue, being a teacher, means that you should have the patience (not all the time of course) to not only search and try the best avenue into helping the children in your care, but also looking into helping those families with difference in culture and language barriers as much as the other families because the children are your first and foremost priority in the classroom.\n\nI hope this helps.
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I'm sorry you are having a tough time.  You probably are not teaching very much since both you and the other children are being so distracted.  Just tell yourself that this is affecting everyone, and it is okay to just STOP teaching if you have to, in order to deal with this situation.  You might even have to go back to the beginning and re-establish your role, the rules and consequences.  Pretend it's the first day of school again.  \nHere are some general ideas that have helped me:  \n\n1.  Find out what they want and take it away:  \n\nDo they thrive on attention from you?  Don't give them any.  When you have to discipline, be as calm and discreet as possible.  \n\nDo they thrive on attention from each other?  Separate them.  See if your director or another teacher can take a child when he is particularly unruly.  Then AS SOON as you see a negative behavior--remove them from the classroom.  \n\nDo they want control?  Give them choices that YOU can live with.  For example, if they use a bad word, say, "Do you want to say that again using nicer words, or do you want to sit by yourself?  (If they won't sit by themselves, unsupervised, don't give them that choice.  Maybe they could go sit with another teacher instead.)  \n\n2.  Make sure they understand what will happen if they misbehave.  Give them predictable consequences.  For example, when they make a mess, don't let them do anything until it is cleaned up.  You might have to go to extremes to let them know that you are serious.  If it is outside time, have your director or someone else sit with them in the classroom while they clean up instead of going outside.  If it is time to go home, leave the mess and make them clean it up the next day, first thing.    \n   \n3.  Just remember that you cannot control what these children do.  Only they can control their behaviors.  Your job is to set it up so that they WANT to behave nicely.  Make life miserable for them if they are bad, and glorious if they behave.  \n\n4.  Be as predictable and as consistant as possible.  Once you know they understand the consequences, don't let them get away with anything!  The phrase, "If you do that again..." should never leave your mouth.  Get them on their first offense.  \n\n5.  Hang in there!  It may seem like an overwhelming challenge right now, but it will get better little by little.  Take it one day at a time--even one situation at a time!  Remember they have to re-learn what to expect in your classroom.  Focus on the most distracting or dangerous behaviors first (like hitting or running away from you).  Take time to think about what your consequence will be and then just wait for it to happen.  They'll learn.  \n\nGOOD LUCK!
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Talk to the director first. Tell her that it may harm children's respect to the teacher if she does that. \nIf it doesn't work, talk to the board members.\n\nBut before you do all these, secure the next job first in case it doesn't work out.
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you should write all the times the teacher discriminated against you and talk to the principal.  if nothing is done, you could go to the school board or, yes, file a lawsuit