why would someonewho you split up with overa year ago still contact youeven when they are living with someone?
407937
Because they want their cake and to eat it to.  Don't play the game becaue someone will get hurt.  Think of not just yourself but the other lady/man involved and cut this person off.
767477
There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
646564
so it sounds like you have their email address... so just send them an email.  if it's been a long time since last contact, just say something like "Hi this is {name} not sure if you remember me, but {insert something you two did together}
253917
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
600487
U still think of him/her almost everyday, u like to remember the good and bad moments spent together, u take his/her name often, u want to email, chat or sms (short message service) him/her. U often ask the question: how would been my life if I was still with him/her. And when u asking other people 'how do you knwo if you're still in love'.
743437
is this just a temporary thing???\nyou have a responsibility - you ex - partner still needs to make ends meet??   More details please x
952230
Everyone likes to feel needed and wanted. think of how bitter life would be if we didn't have someone that cared about us.It shouldn't bother you, it should flatter you.It sounds like this person has a high level of respect for you and really cares about what you think. She probably chooses to call you because whatever relationship you had , had an impact on her life. Sometimes long distances from acquaintances will cause you to reminisce. You start thinking about the good times you had and that old flame, doused it may be, will start to re-kindle a little and those old feelings show up again.If I were you, I would be happy that I had a friend that cared as much and thought of me as an important person in their life. I hope all goes well. Good Luck.
567633
He's probably looking at you and thinking bad thoughts about you.  Calling you names in his head.  If you two haven't talked in a year, there must be a reason.
694277
I think that if you to broke up, it is a good idea to see why.. I went threw this before. You should avoid all contact with him for a few weeks no matter how hard it will be. Then in two weeks if you feel the same way then talk to him about it. Usually when he is writing or texting to you it is his way of checking on you. of Course he does not want to see you with anyone else or being happy without him. It is normal to MISS someone you spent alot of time with but take a few weeks for your self. You will be happy you did.
33798
No, it just means your ex-friend is being nosy.  If your ex wants to know why you broke up, tell him to ask you.
569914
Sounds like you really miss your ex....
340391
The grass is always greener!!  When you were dating your bf, you probably did the same thing...  emails, phone calls, etc.  Now that you live together, it's not as exciting.  You don't get butterflies in your stomach like you once did.  But that happens to everyone and it will definitely happen with you friend from your past.  Try emailing your boyfriend while you/he is at work... talk about things other than who's doing the dishes that night.  It'll take a little effort, but it's probably worth it.  BTW, your friend from 11 years ago is 25 lbs heavier and bald....
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
685651
Maybe they are afraid that YOU might THINK they still have feelings for you. They could be totally over you and just want to be friends.
1012683
I did it for a year. its really hard. we called one another on the phone at least once a day if not twice. we emailed each other and im'd. i only visited her 2 times in a year because of the cost. It is really hard but if you love the person it will work.
192004
That is usually about how long it takes for their rebound relationship to last.  They are just going back to what they had before to see if they still have a shot with you instead of moving forward with their lives.  They are hoping to find out that you are having problems and need them back too.
315188
NO! you need to find out why you can't let go! you sound like a stalker. move on with your life. if this person give a damn about u they will contact u when they're ready.