how will tell  my real felings towards to my husband?
405572
You still seem to be focused on your own feelings. He doesn't seem to want to talk about it. Why are you bringing up hurt feelings. He has said that it is over and he forgives you. You seem  to be dwelling on it as if you feel that he didn't punish you enough. Sometimes you have to accept that everything will not get the necessary 'closure' that we all need. He might be the type of person who likes to work out their issues quietly within himself. He might be one of the types of men who heal better by just having time and thought. If he feels you are pushing him so you can have some kind of GUILT RELIEF and call it closure, he just might leave. You feel taken for granted but guilty about what you did. You want closure. You feel like he doesn't love YOU. You don't talk about it (You and he). You are willing to talk. You have changed.  He doesn't want to talk about it. He doesn't see the change. I would be tired of you if I was him your whole thing seems so self motivated and yet you are the one who messed up. It depends on what you did because if you cheated, honey he will never forget that and you will have to either stick in there until he is ready to completely forgive you or you can let him find someone who is more interested in the word WE and not HE and I.
1039697
you are going to have to be straightforward and direct with them. You tell them point blank, this is the woman I have chosen, if you love me then you will have to accept her. Tell them she will be your wife, and you are expecting to see enough respect out of them not to ruin your joy. When they see you will stand beside your wife-to-be at all cost, they will submit. Be sure to guard your lady against their rejection, it will break her heart. Be firm, but gentle, and stand your ground. You obviously are not a child anymore, and should not act/be treated like one. Good luck!
836183
Well, trying to tell his family that you have a problem sometimes may be a lost cause.  Why don't you have a serious talk with your husband.....\n\nMore importantly, I would distance myself from your BIL.  And, don't let him IM you and you don't IM him either.
175250
Well if he really loves you all you need to do is show him you love him tell him you love him and be completely honest with him about everything. Even the smallest little white lie can be a big thing at this point if he thinks you are being the least bit secretive then he will lose more and more trust in you. I know because I am in a similar situation with my wife, and those are the things I wish I could have from her to help me rebuild our trust
281001
whoever is closest too you and mean the most to you tell them first......bear in mind go gentle when you tell them...as when you do they will never ever forget that time and day.......but you need to tell those you love at least first........it will be easier for you too. and you can also talk it over with loved ones too. \ngoodluck, \nmay god be with you,\njp
131863
Explain to your husband that you love him but you need your own space away from his family.  Move out and leave room for him in case he follows you.  Give yourself a few weeks of peace and quiet.  \n\nIf you can't afford to move away from them, try to get some counseling for you and your husband.  A counselor will have a better chance of getting through to him and make him understand that you need your privacy and you two should get your own life....Good luck!
299659
Well first off let me say a HUGE congratulations to you, I do not know you, but I do wish you the very best and hope that he turns out to be a majority of what you want and all of what you need. As far as the most wonderful thing a woman can do, well I have been married twice now, so, first and most important, never hold your true feelings from him, if he doesw something wonderful and surprising in your eyes, then tell him so. If you have a moment when out with him, let him share in it as well. Always communicate, that was the biggest mistake in my first, she stopped talking, then caring, then everything else stopped. Dont get in the mindset of " he knows I love him, or he knows how much he means to me".. TELL HIM. Second, and this is also VERY important and it goes for him as well as you, yet is so simplistic many forget it... If you SAY it, then SHOW it.. nuff said. Dont wait for big days, birthdays, anniversary, christmas, whatever, to show or do something special or spontaneous. BTW, this pretty goes for him as well, not just you, you know him, his likes, dislikes, dreams, etc, so you know how to surprise him, you know how to make his heart skip a beat, KEEP DOING IT. If you have an argument, or god forbid a fight, dont wait till the next morning, or next evening to try to bridge the gap, think about what the fight or argument was about, then talk to him and him to her about what was meant, and be upfront and apologize for any misunderstanding, harsh words,and such. WORDS are the cruelest cut, they not only hurt on the surface, but they go so much deeper, down to the pysche and the soul. Final thing, dont wantt o sound like I am writing a book..LOL, the most special thing about loving someone, is that you arent tied down with specific things for specific events or times. Love is all encompassing, it involves all the senses, and causes an enormous reaction in the brain, and the body and every system in the body, so how do you use that to your advantage?? easy.. IMAGINATION, use it, think up anything you want, do anything you want, or try anything you want, love, true love is endless, it has no boundaries, just like your ability to imagine. Like I said, you know abit about him now, and you are constantly learning more and more, so as you learn, your ability to utilize your imagination into special times, events, or things are just as boundless. Finally, be YOURSELF, or more importantly, STAY yourself. Many, many people are fooled later on in a relationship, or marriage when they realize that they do not really know the person they are with, and that is a cruel thing to find out. If you are being your true self now, then KEEP BEING that way, and him as well. It is WAY to easy to be a different person, to fool somebody in the early goings of a relationship, but if the person is presenting a different persona then they really are, it will eventually come out. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, AND TO HIM, AND ACCEPT NOTHING LESS FROM HIM. Every day, every moment, every second in the right relationship is special, and memorable, share the time, excitement and feelings with him, and you both will go far and deeper into your love of yourself, and each other.\n\nGood luck and I wish you nothing but the very best
293632
That is good you got it off your chest an guess what he feels the same way let it be can be taking two ways first of all we both are with someone so lets not do anything about how we both Feel. Second its like this if both of us are to get together let it happen lets not push it you have more to lose in this fling being that you are married just\nstep up to the plate and ask him about how he feels about what you said an what ever his answer live with it
982162
If you are a spirtual person try reading THe power of a Praying wife. Working on yourself is the best way to work on a relationship. Your husband is responding to you non verbal ques. Its will be hard to "fix" your relationship if you don't figure out what it is you want/need
974904
Dear,\nPlease do not ever work on guess and doubt when it comes the relationship with your husband. \nThe more improtant is his love with you...if it is intact.....do not spoil yourself in doubt...\n\nBut still if you have some strong proofs to prove it, talk to him very openly. Tell him why you doubt and let him to clearify himself also........make a open debate....do not hide any thing.....\n\nAnd if you feel...one day he will betray you...\nLEAVE HIM NOW.......show him women are not weak......
721271
well just let him know how you feel  and if he really loves you thn he will understand
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
764457
Think specifically what that guy "did" for you.  Frame what he did into words, and then tell your husband that you want him to do those things for you.  Don't say you got the ideas from thinking of another guy.  Do tell him this with an attitude of love and playfulness.  It will probably excite him to hear you state your desires assertively.
776979
ok you may be your husbands wife \nbut he is not a man on the in side\ngender dysterea is some thing he will never get over \nhe is being true to him self and is becoming the person he feels he is \nif you truely love him you will let him be the person he wishes to be a better person for him self\n'love has no bounderies race age gender or disablilty'\nyou may never be able to stop you husband \nbut you can still be part of his life  \nif you truly love him you will stand by him \nhe will need you and your love \nwith out it he will only go some where else to find it \nall transsexuals need a suport network \nhe will want the support from you\nit is up to you to show that support \nand gide him/her to into her knew life
496803
Don't let a single day pass without letting him know in word and deed how much you love, honor and cherish him. Make sure that you never stop talking and sharing the things that happen in your lives. Make sure that you create time for just the 2 of you, especially after you have children. A strong and healthy marriage is the foundation of a happy family.
623180
well best wishes for your marriage and don't forget me in your marriage cermony just say ma name n i'll b there to see you both smilinng holding hands of each others\n\nand about ur Quest\n\nnuffin much special its like marryin g any other person but its special inthe case if you both love each otehr say you do and if you do you will be compromising with him ...there are some habbits on which you both needs compromises likes and dislikes matters alot to do compromises atlast you are living you whole life with each
191095
Be upfront and sincere. Maybe they can tell already : )