my husband is 24 and we have a 3 year old and he is always with his friends do i have a right to feel hurt?
404219
try explaining to him your problem.he should behave like a responsible father first.he can't just fool around with you and your kid.\nif his friends come home to stay , just don't allow them.\nmake a big fuss about it everyday.also don't permit him to stay out make sure he returns home.\nwatch whatever he's up to.find out what exactly he's doing with his friends.explain to him he is a father of a 3yr old kid and tell him first to behave like a dad.
644018
You can take him to some of your friends who have kids of his age.Let him play there with toys and you also join them along wih ur friends.He will feel secured and friendly
697112
Do you really think you should be on here saying this? Maybe you should be going to talk to your hubby about it and you never know he may feel the same way. How would you feel if he saw this and found out that way before you even talked to him? Think about it.
1069287
First, you should of told him what you were doing before it became a year relationship. Second, If you feel like you can't really relate with him then your really not in love with him. I would just sit him down and explain everything to him. Yea, he's going to be upset because you wasn't honest with him. You better let him know now before you are married with 3 kids. He may leave....he may not. It's up to you how you tell him. Lay it on him easy. He should understand. Good luck.
255848
Sorry to read of your dillema.  Your fiance' seems to have a real "gem" of a friend.  Well, not really.  But remember, the person is YOUR FIANCES' FRIEND.  That doesn't automatically make him your friend as well.  Only unless you want him as such.  Obviously, you don't.  At least, not at this time.  Openly, calmly communicating your feelings with your husband (lifetime partner) to be is super important.  Should you continue to view your fiances' friend, as what I'm feeling to you, being as a thorn in your side, you might be asking for a whole lot of unecessary problems that only turn in to "knock down-drag outs."  I don't think you want that.  Married couples encounter enough disagreements leading to arguments enough as it is.  Try your best as a couple to shorten that "list".  By the way,...when you're married, the roof over your head belongs to BOTH of you.  Should you NOT ALLOW your husband's friend into the home, chances are good you'll be INVITING trouble between you and your husband.  If it's possible for you and your fiance' to work this out now, out of love, you will certainly be paving the way towards having a healthy relationship.  Perhaps consider disagreeing without being disagreeable.  Take it easy and try not to let your fiances' friend drive you nuts.  Remember,...NO ONE is flawless.  Take care.
818215
On the one hand, it is perfectly normal to have a close friend you can turn to outside of a marriage just to talk about things from a different perspective.\n\nOn the other hand, when you are talking about more than friendship, if nothing else you should think about how your husband might feel if and when he finds out.  (How would *you* feel if you found out your husband was having an affair with an old friend, even someone you knew?)  The longer your affair goes on, the more likely it is he will find out, even if he is trusting enough not to be looking for it.\n\nIf what you really need is just a friend to talk to about things, someone you can just chill with occasionally, then by all means don't discard your old best friend -- but if that is what you really want, then stick to being friends.  If things are going further than friendship there then you need to ask yourself what it is that you really need besides another friendly face to talk to.... is it purely physical?  Is it emotional, the idea of extra attention?  \n\nIf something is lacking in your marriage, try talking to your husband about it.  Guys aren't real good about talking about emotions, but we are even worse at reading minds.  Your husband will be pretty slow to clue in that something's not right if you don't tell him.  --Besides, you might be surprised.  If the guy really loves you, chances are he will do his best to make you happy again.\n\nIf it isn't so much that you are feeling like anything is lacking in your marriage at all, but you just like having "something extra"... well.... how fair is that for your husband?  Being in a committed relationship means a certain amount of compromise and sacrifice -- you can't just go out and do anything you want regardless of your partner.  In a good relationship, though, the relationship itself is worth a lot more than what you have to give up.  \n\nIf your affair is worth more to you than your marriage, then maybe you should think things through a little more carefully.
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I think that you should probably talk to your husband about this.  \n\nIf you are simply talking to other men - your boss, your minister, your banker - that's probably okay.  \n\nIf you have male friends, defining your relationship with those male friends may be someting to talk to your husband about.  By that, I mean that your husband may not appreciate your male friends calling at 2 a.m. to ask if you can pick them up from the bar because they are too drunk to drive home.  Your husband may also not appreciate you being ALONE with another male.\n\nYou definitely shouldn't be intimate with other men - that should go without saying.
353046
I read your other question..  I wonder have you had anything happen to you when you were younger?  You only think you love him, at 15 even though you think you are..  you are not emotionally equipped yet to deal with this.  He knows this and is preying and counting on your immaturity not to realize this.  You said he was married, with a family..?  That speaks for itself..  He is not a good man to hurt so many people and you will probably not be sadly the last.  The only thing when you grow up and realize that you have is your self respect and dignity.  You are special, do not throw it so easily away..  think about what you want.  Someone out there right now could be the one for you, don't waste your time on this loser..  find someone as a friend first closer to your age who can more easily understand you and truely love you..
552507
An infatuation which wll ruin your marriage. You're supposed to be a grown man, yet you sound like a child who can't control himself. Do you really want to ruin your marriage, his marriage and your friendship with him? Not a good idea at all. I think it's best to see a therapist as they can help you understand what you are feeling and you can think a little clearer on the issue. Then hopefully you can make the best decision, but trust me, making a pass at him could freak him out and the last thing you want is for him to feel uncomfortable around you.
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
644166
We as people are easily blind--especially when it comes to something that will hurt us!! We want to believe the best in our partners (or even kids for that matter) if we just think happy thoughts than nothing can be wrong right?? Well this is what people do all the time! They think that if you can't see it isn't really there, it is away of protecting ourselves from getting let down, having a broken heart! No one wants to be hurt or get hurt, but it is away of life something we have to come face to face with eventually! Nothing is ever 50/50 although in marriage it should be--however there are always three sides to every story:HIS, HERS, and the TRUTH!! I am not here to judge-you or anyone-I have no right to that, and I am very sorry for what you are going through, I pray that you will be able to work this out with YOURSELF!! Remember, it is not forgive and forget-us as people never forget, and forgiving is something you have know you have in you, I am not a forgiving person, so he would be out the door for me, however, if you are please consider consoling for the family, not just you and your husband but for the kids to!! Good Luck to you all!!!:)
1077196
Sometimes we boys need to hang out with the boys.\n\nYou shouldn't feel hurt.
171609
That is a hard situation. I myself have slight feelings like that. My husband and I don't get along that well and I feel like he treats me like crap but we have a 5 month old son. Sometimes I want to leave and then I don't. If the problem is bad enough I would say to seperate, yes it will affect the kids but if you stay together it is going to affect them more. I don't know your situation exactly but if there is arguing and stuff children do pick up on that very easily. I would suggest counseling first if you haven't tried that already. You obviously loved each other at one point to have children. Do everything to make it work and if it doesn't then at least you know you tried.
233313
It depends on your relationship with your husband.  If he's mature, secure in himself and your relationship and he honestly wants you to be happy...he should want you to have friends.  I still get along well with most of my ex-es and my husband is totally cool with it...because he knows I'll always be coming home to him, no question about it.
929287
Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.
332904
wow, must be that time of the year, and it is hard, especially when you have children, ask yourself will things get better???  and if you can do it, than you go girl, do you have family and friends for support???  then you need to arrange counselling with hubby, to see if you can work it out, or even ask him about that before you go, it will be hard on kids, but don't forget, they will need plenty love and security from you. all the best
720951
Makes me wonder about what kind of person your husband is if he has friend like this.  Apparently, he has no respect for how you feel. I would tell his friend that if he cannot behave like a decent human being then he needs to find another place to hang out and tell your husband if that is the kind of friends he likes then he needs some professional help.