is it possible to have guy bestfriend and not get into malice later on?
403444
Yes. I have a male best friend. He is really cool. I have also got several other friends that are male. We are so close that we probably could never date, but even if we could i am not single. It is cool to have a guy best friend. They can give you a point of view sometimes that is way better than a female can. Even though females are good friends too, it is always good to have a male friend on the side to help you when she can't help out with your problems.
266441
DON'T STOP liking him!. Acknowledge and embrace the fact that he's a.) unavailable and b.) a great guy. Hang out with him, be best friends with him, whatever... Guy friends are one of the most wonderful relationships to have, seriously (All of my best friends are guys). You can appreciate him as a friend for a longer (not to mention less complicated) time anyway. You'll probably still like him for a while, but the sooner you re-categorize him as your buddy, the sooner your heart will be available to another great and AVAILABLE guy. There are plenty out there, but you are probably too preoccupied with this one to notice. Plus, the better you get to know him as a friend, the more likely you'll see factors that aren't what you want in YOUR guy in him.
179773
CAN'T BE JUST FRIENDS WITH A GUY.  YOU MIGHT CAN BUT THE FIRST CHANCE THE GUY GETS HE'LL JUMP YOUR BONES.
964427
fffff.... I've stayed friends for years and years with guys without becoming bf-gf. you shouldn't fool around wtih him, though, if that is what you are saying by "more." but if you are just saying you are kind of in love with him, then that can go on for years. there is some level of "attraction" between friends as well as lovers/bf's.
580772
NO.  Guys dont want to be friends right way with someone that they shared a lot with.
450349
YES! This is a no go area, if you are calling this person your "best" friend rather than just a friend you already should know that this person is not like other people you hang out with. It will be gone forever and you will have a relationship, and there is no taking it back. It's about self control and being honest to yourself, if you want a best friend steer clear of that, if al lyou want is sex or a relationship then think hard about the friends you make because it can be a world of hurt
674168
Ok, the one thing - for me - was that he found what my interests and did whatever he could to find interest in them as well.  You have to have a connection - just like with your guy friends.  I know it sounds weird, but the person you wind up with should be your "best friend".  You should love everything about them, and see that they feel the same about you.  \n\nNow, my guy did what he could to make me happy - and I did the same in return - give and take!  Also, honesty and great communication helps as well!
269467
Some of us can. I have a girlfriend I am completely happy with. The ONLY interest I have in any other women is as a friend. As for those who can't, they're probably wondering why you can't just accept that they don't want to just be friends. If you just want to be friends, and a guy wants to be more than friends, don't bother with him. You have different ideas about where your relationship should be headed. Or if you do choose to spend time with a guy like that, make it very clear that you're only interested in being friends, that you're not comfortable with him trying to be anything more, and if he makes any advances on you, don't tolerate it.\n\nAdded:\nIf you don't hear from them after you've made it clear that you only want to be friends, the only interest they had in you was as more than a friend. They weren't willing to settle for less, and they have as much right to make that decision as you do to decide that you just want to be friends. Simple as that. What you wanted wasn't enough for them, what they wanted was too much for you. Best to go your separate ways.
257150
sure but make sure your friend never finds out because who would you rather have a boyfriend or your bestfriend you choose.\n\ngood luck!
540348
yes, bestfriends can become lovers...i even think that it's actually better because you know each other really well, you care,trust and respect each other and you have the strongest bond: love... i think that you may not have heard from him because he is as confused as you are...he doesn't know if what he did was right and if you feel the same way for him...this kind of thing can be confusing, you see...you want to have this relationship but you're both so scared that if something goes wrong, you lose the friendship you have...since you love him too, i suggest that you do the thing that you said you didn't want to do: confront him...he did the first step of telling you how he feels...it's your turn now...tell him you feel the same, tell him you're scared too but if you talk about it, you cand find a solution together...tell him you don't want to lose your best friend even if things might not go the way you want them to...tell him that you want that 2nd kiss too...hehe!good luck!i hope you work this out... ^_^
269330
Best friends, hmm, I am 34 yrs old and still have the same best friend since I was 12. We shared everything except the guys we dated or liked, til this day. No matter how handsome he was, or how much we were over them, etc. We just weren't into sharing 'sloppy seconds'. We just felt the same way about  dating or liking a guy the other use to date or like, we chose to not go there. At 12 yrs old we thought it was gross to like each others has beens, something we agreed we'd never do that to each other. We seen how that destroyed friendships, it almost always does. \n\nAnd even if your best friend encourages you and gives you the okay, until she sees you two together, things will more than likely be different. Remember what and who is important before you choose to like your best friends has been. \n\nThere is no guy worth jeopardizing my relationship with my best friend. Guys will come and go, you can only have 1 best friend. I am glad we chose hold our friendship above that issue.
857735
Yes it's possible. I'm friends with a guy since we were in elementary. We hang out, but we don't get all close. we're just friends. and we've been like that for 4-5 years. We talk and stuff, but we're not interested in dating anybody yet. And he has a lot of friends that are girls, but no flirting, just friends. ;)
743755
No.  I am sure you are still his best friend.  He is just into his girlfriend.  Give him a call and try to schedule a time at least once a week.  Unfortunately, it does happen, when someone gets a boyfriend/girlfriend, they "forget" their friends for a little while.  You can let him know that it isn't healthy to spend all his time with her, that it is important to spend some time with his other friends too.  It isn't going to be the same though.  Try to get him to spend some time, like once a week as a guys night out, or once every week.  You haven't lost him.  He is just distracted at the moment.  \n\nDon't give up on him.  Best friends stay together and are there for each other when needed.
497440
if you guys are best friends then there might be a chance that he might be thinkin the same way as you. build the courage and just tell him your feelins. if he's really your best friend then he wont hate you, or avoid you.
196320
Most of the time your best friend knows what's best for you.  If they are a true friend they are only looking out for your best intrests.  I would get rid of the guy.
303873
I would hope that your best friend would have enough respect for you to not date any of your ex-girlfriends.  Women come and go (same as men), but 'real" friends don't.  But, yeah, I would be a little upset.
764725
The best boyfriends are not the ones that you find but the ones that find you!  Your question sounds sincere and if you just be yourself...when you least expect it...he will be there.