My husband is always asking me to buy him things and get kind of indignant when I can't do it....?
400688
This is interesting.  Sounds like a one way relationship there.  I am sorry but gifts should not be asked for, they should come from the heart of the person buying them.  A gift is a gift is a gift it should be given out of love not pressure.  Don't feel bad.  There is definately some selfishness going on and you need to decide whether you want to live the rest of your life in a relationship like that.
329864
HAHAHAHA Thats mine too. I mean dam. Sometimes I see she wants to ask but I aint asking whats wrong man. And then there is the point where she is complaining that I am beating it up and that she is tender and that she wont be able to do it until the end of the week. Its messed up for me man.
952436
No, I enjoy buying presents for my wife.  If I find something I know she will like I will buy it when I see it and hold it back.  Otherwise, I generally just pay attention throughout the year when she says things like: "Oh, I'd love one of those."  I commit it to memory and then go back close to her birthday and pick it up.  Good shopping requires a little thought, now and again!!
494162
I am sure that he wouldn't be upset and if he is worth the hassle he will understand. If you are really concerned with saying something then possibly you could offer to go shopping together and find something that will be pleasing to both of you. There are plenty of Aromatherapy type shops that sell all sorts of different fragrances and perfumes in a variety of different mediums. I am sure you would find something to suit your needs with out too much drama or expense.
860229
Maybe you two should compromise on things. Just because you like certain brands of items doens't make you high maitenance.  I love my Coach purse but I also love my Walmart flip-flops.  Its all about taste.  If you only see yourself in Armani, versace and other well known classy brands and ONLY want those things and won't get anything other than that then perhaps you are High Maitenance but if also enjoy other things that your b/f does then you are not so high maitenance.
292778
I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
110207
sometimes its hard for a man to find out what she might like and not make a mistake, but they usualy come around, if you want you can buy him something give it to him these day, so he feels bad about not getting you something, try it, lets see what happens
400965
No, because the situation was out of your control. Just buy him something when you can. I'm guessing he doesn't expect anything in return.
388113
Ok...in my experience...you are better off telling him what you want. Otherwise, you will get something you don't want. For example, last year for my birthday my husband got me a gift certificate for an OIL CHANGE!! So, think of something you want...spa package, jewelry, new pajamas, nice romantic dinner at home, whatever. Just tell the poor guy so he doesn't have to worry himself. he just wants to make you happy!
1016413
my husband never supports me in anything i do.  he always thinks i will fail.  also, if he spends money it's fine, but if i do he needs to know what for.  we have 3 small kids and he still expects me to cater to his every need, so i have 4 kids really.  i'm expecting us to get a divorce within the next year or two.  \n\nyou can vent with me anytime you want... :)
853820
i imagine he has a right too.. i because how much debt you have affects him too believe it or not... he probably doesn't want to wreck his credit rating with your spending habbits..\n\nperhaps you need to talk to him.. and figure out how much you can both spend as free whatever i want to buy cash.. and just use cash to buy stuff..\n\ni dont think you have a right to mad.. as being married its a partnership.. everyone is equal.. and he probably feels your spending to much
893061
It's a little late for this year, but a strategy I've found to be effective is by doing my shopping a little at a time, beginning, if you must, in January.\n \nHowever, this solution still doesn't deal with the underlying problem.  It sounds as if you and your husband have very different attitudes toward money--a situation that's not all that uncommon.  I know this from firsthand experience because it exists in my own home (though it's not nearly to the extreme you describe)--my situation for years was one of having to watch every penny and make choices between a cup of coffee and putting gas in my old jalopy, while my other half was used to thinking that money was something that, if he ran out, he could always get from his father.  Over the years he's learned to rein in his spending, but he never will be the penny pincher that I am (by the same token, I've become a little less prone to making a dime do the work of a dollar).  \n\nYou refer to your spouse as the "major breadwinner"--does he have the attitude of "it's MY money, I work for it, and I should get to spend it as I like?"  If so, I think that, as a couple, you would benefit from talking with a neutral third party--a clergyperson or a counselor--who can help you.  \n\nNow, for this year, a lot depends on the ages of your children.  If they're still fairly small, dollar stores will provide some gifts that will brighten the holiday for them.  You might also use this as an opportunity to teach your children about giving by donating some of their outgrown clothing and toys to a charity or a drive for such things in your area.  Stimulate their creativity, too, by making decorations with them.\n\nHope this gives some ideas, but until you and your other half deal with the problem of his spening habits, it's just going to be the same old thing year after year.
939765
I guess I might start by both of us setting down and take a look at what is going out in bill's 1st for the month.\n Then look at what is left over after bill's food gas for work --Then add up your pay coming into the home each week then add that up to see what you have now deducted the over all bill's from that ---That is what you have left to play with or save.Now this is where each of you need to see what each of you may spend with whats left over.And if there is not enough to shop that week or every 2 weeks just don't do it !\nIt takes a lot of disciplined as you know since you are the Strict Budget one.\nBut yes I would set down in a loving way and talk it out.\nYou sound like a sweet husband.trying to fix something before it gets out of hand.
154268
Sweetie he just wants to be able to take care of you. If you can tell he really loves you give it time...be patient. Good things come to those who wait. Take it as a good sign that he wants to work for you and give you all he can. It shows he is concerned about your well being. Trust me I went through the same thing and now I am happily married and he makes good money. This may sound very strange but tell him to watch for a hanging orange or red cloth...maybe many cloths hung in a row outside (like flags in size but not flags), gently moving in the breeze. If he sees this tell him to enter the place within and his luck might turn. Worth a shot anyways! Many blessings to you! :D
790905
If you don't have money to give him anything, just don't buy anything for him.  He'll have to understand if he's not a selfish pig.  A lot of people in this world are poor (like you- and me) and other people can't expect us to give them stuff if we don't have anything ourselves.  That's just rude and prepoterous!
820492
You need to let him know that while you are married to him you are not his possession.... you are not a TV or a couch, or a car! He has proven his love for you in marriage but being your husband is a privilege and a joy that he needs to earn everyday... and in return there is no greater gift in the world than a woman who feels respected, loved and desired by her man... My wife is the best part of my life and there is nothing that I would not do for her... Your hubby needs to not take you for granted just because you said "I DO"... he should be romantic and earn your love!
353445
check out what he needs most nowadays...buy it no matter how expensive it is because the happiness for your husband matters only on how you express your love and affection. Happy Birthday to your husband...good luck