If you slept with a married man and the wife asked you to be honest, should and would you tell her?
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Heh..lie.\n\nUnless you want to screw everything up.  Telling her the truth may wreck the marriage, but it's not likely that you'll end up with the guy as a result. he'll alwasy resent you.\n\nJust lie.
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I wouldn`t worry about it.   Thats one of the several ways this could have turned out.  It could have turned nasty, it could have turned out right for you, it could even have been a disaster for you and your husband.  Just be thankful that that was the only consequence of the truth you told
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well if you want out of the marriage then tell or if you want drama then tell other wise you don't tell ever  I made a similar mistake the relationship ended and the sex was just one time and the guilt ate at me and ate at me until i thought i was gonna go insane. and i told on my self like a little kid ya know  my husband didn't have any idea could have gotten away with it sorta if i hadn't told.  I crushed him naturally.  If i could do it over i would  but if i couldn't take back the sleeping around then i would defiantly take back telling on my self.  as long as you end it and work on your marriage  i would never ever tell.  it won't make you feel better trust me.  and if you wanna keep him and work on your relationship telling him will NOT help that trust me.  me and my husband is still together but of course he don't trust me  which is understandable.  Its really no life kinda because he may have forgave in a way but he won't forget which i don't blame him but i can't look up  he my as well left me   so if i were you i wouldn't ever tell  its not worth it and it won't make you feel better
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Tell her husband that your having an affair with her.
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be honest, be wouldnt you want to him to be honest with you
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I'd tell him. He knows I still love him and we like teasing each other, but it's different with each couple.
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If all parties know about it and they're fine with it, I don't see a problem with it...\nBut I can't imagine the wife being okay with the fact that you were the woman her husband had an affair with... so I'm assuming she doesn't know...\nIn that case, if you two can play it off like there was nothing between you two, I guess you'll be okay....\nBut WATCH OUT, because people talk.... and sooner or later they ALL find out...
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well it depends on why your telling him is it\n\na) you love him yourself and want to have him\n\nB) you love her and want her\n\nc) you don't understand why he is marrying her\n\nd) you know she has cheated and not faith ful to him\n\n\nif its a.b.c don't say a word\nif its D only say something if you have the evidence to back it up\nremeber noone knows what really goes on behind closed doors and just beacuse you may think that she is not right for him does not nesscarly make that true.
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I'd tell him I like him then ask how his wife is.  Seriously though, ask him why he's lying about himself on the internet.  Saying he is married and looking is not going to get him anywhere.  Or hey it could have been a mistake!
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I want my husband to be open and honest with me especially when things like that happened. It is where trust could grow more and more. Marriage, if not guarded by both couples, could be in danger with innocent acts like that. You might say that there is no wrong with that but most of the times, worse things started in little things. Be honest and open with your wife. Open communication could help to maintain a healthy marriage.\nOne more thing I would like to add. Are you and your wife are best friends too? If not yet, better make each other best of friends to whom you could tell your secrets, open your ideas and feelings, and share your daily experiences...
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dont mess up a good thing / you are married/ and she is starting a new life/ telling her would only make things worse/ keep it to yourself
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Quoted from the website listed at the bottom,\n\nFor Men Only, The Art of Lying to Your Wife\n\nAll right, I admit the title to this article doesn’t sound good. I’ll even use the words "deceptive" or "dishonest"; maybe "disingenuous" sounds better. But, if the male species is to survive we need to know the top five times a bold face lie to our woman is required if we are to stay in a long, loving relationship. How would you respond to the following scenarios? \n\nScenario #1: It’s 11:30, lights out, you’ve just finished watching Leno and you’ve given your wife a good night kiss. A few minutes pass… you’re drifting off…when you suddenly hear your Boo Bear say, "Honey, if I ever died would you ever remarry?" What do you do?\n\nA. Pretend to be asleep.\nB. Tell her that "A love match like ours can never be replaced".\nC. Tell her that after an appropriate mourning period you would naturally begin to socialize.\n\n\nScenario #2: You’re invited to your ten-year class reunion. Your woman squeezes into her old cheerleading outfit and remarks, "My goodness! It still fits! How do I look? Do I look fat?" Would you say:\n\nA. Maybe we need to call Jenny Craig.\nB. It’s like we’ve gone back in time. You’ve never looked so beautiful.\nC. The word "Oink" comes to mind.\n\n \nScenario #3: It’s your anniversary and your wife has surprised you with a candle lit dinner for two. As you cut into the Cornish game hen dust rises from the incision you’ve just made. As you take your first bite you’re reminded of the Sahara Desert. "How do you like it? I’ve slaved over a hot stove for four hours." What do you say?\n\nA. It’s a little dry.\nB. It’s delicious! Are you related to Julia Child?\nC. Even the contestants on "Survivor" would pass on this bird.\n\n\nScenario #4: Your wife’s best friend just completed her thesis towards her Ph.D. Your spouse ponders whether her own accomplishments in life are as worthy and asks, "Honey, in the big scheme of things do I make a difference?" Do you say:\n\nA. In this big crazy world we live in who’s to say what matters and what doesn’t?\nB. Didn’t you drop out after the 6th grade?\nC. You make a difference to me and anyone else who is lucky enough to come in contact with you.\n\n\nScenario #5: After your wife’s best friend receives her new Ph.D., her husband pops for a new rack and face-lift for her. Your wife is appalled and says, "I can’t believe it, first she tries to prove she’s smarter than everyone else and now she’s trying to look 20 years younger. Why won’t she just grow old gracefully? Honey, do I need a face-lift?" What do you say?\n\nA. Does the Mona Lisa need a new coat of paint? Of course not!\nB. No, I like the wrinkles. They show experience and wisdom.\nC. What I think we’re dealing with here is a tear down.\n\nThere are five areas where telling the truth may be detrimental to your health. Discussing your wife’s mortality, weight, age, accomplishments or her cooking. Tread softly. If the truth hurts and it usually does, keep your mouth shut or tell a lie. While honesty is usually the best policy, staying alive and your wife’s happiness is a bigger priority.\n\nby Fred Cuellar the Diamond Guy®
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That's quite a situation you have going there...\n\nSeems like from the way this Question is phrased that you let go of that shock, and the ethical, cultural, and social thinking the moment you decided to have sex with her..(you shouldn't have let your penis guide you) \n\nYou shouldn't have had sex with your sister-in-law, but she didn't FORCE you to, you chose to. BAD CHOICE..but still it was your choice, your choice to keep the sister-in-laws behavior away from your wife, your choice to follow up with your sister-in-laws feelings for you, and your choice to sleep with her...(You have to be aware that you ARE at fault here)\n\nMisinforming your wife about what?..Unless you just phrased this whole question funny and you DIDN'T have sex with your sister-in-law..  then how can she be misinforming your wife?\n\nIf I was your wife? I would want to hear that you were drugged and incapacitated to make your own descisions in order for this to happen and NOT be your fault, otherwise I would probably be incredibly hurt, and unforgiving at first, and I wouldn't trust you anymore that for certain.. so if I wanted to save the marriage, I would go to counceling with you and try to work it out...but I definately would never let you have any alone time with my sister again!!!!!\n\nAND MOST IMPORTANT.. Tell your wife Before her sister does... Something this bad in your marriage should be told by you...
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If the real reason is just to let people know and not to gain anything yourself, most of the time I would say it was okay.  I trusted someone for years, with my deepest secrets only to find out they were telling everyone.  No one was nice enough to tell me what she was doing behind my back.  I would have appreciated the honesty.
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I think a husband should be open and honest with his wife.  If he disagrees with something, he should say so.  It doesn't make for a healthy relationship if you bottle it all up and pretend to go along with things all the time.  She needs to know you have thoughts and feelings too, and she needs to be prepared to face them.  It doesn't have to be a blazing row, either.  Civil discussions can be had...
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Would you like to come home to a new wife?\n\nIt's like sleeping with somene new, except you're not cheating.\n\nWhen the guys see her photo in your wallet, do they stare?
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If you wife ticks you off, and you don't know how to tell her, I (as a wife) would do the following.\n\n1st calm down.  Then later ...the same day...  calmy let her know that what she said, did, implied was hurtful, harmful, inconsiderate.\n\nBe polite as possible and try to not make it about what she did, said, etc, but how it made you feel.  \n\nBe honest and polite, and loving.