how do i last longer in bed when I'm having sex?
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practice, practice, practice.
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some of the best ways to improve sexual performance it to have alot of oral sex first and thenthink about something not so exciting when having sex like having sex with an elderly. This works everytime you will last longer because you would not want to ejaculate
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use condom, change position when you are close or try to please her with your other tools (hands or kisses.... depends on your preference)  this will give you time to slow down a bit.  don't wait til the last seconds to switch.
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Why not try practice or change of position? Practice can make a man last a little longer. All he has to do is thrust as usual and just before ejaculation have him stop and concentrate on holding it back for a few seconds. Then proceed with the thrusting. Try this once or twice at first then a few more times until he has more control. This will take a while to get the hang of it. Also I have been told the if he can start and stop a stream of pee at will it will increase his muscle control allowing for the first part to be done easier. As for the position, try a few different ones to see which stimulated him the most and which the least. Then during sex flip flop between those until he is better able to hold off the ejaculation. Hope this helps.
915191
Try Keigal exercises.  Resources which might be helpful can also be found when researching impotence and stamina with regard to sex.
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If your question is about finishing too quickly when you are with a girl, there are two easy solutions.\n\nFirst wear a condom, which unless you are in a monogamous relationship with someone you know is healthy and want to have children with you should be doing anyway.  It will make prevent you from feeling as much, and as a result you will be stimulated less, you will take longer to reach orgasm, and will last longer.\n\nThe second is to do what Adam Collrolla refers to as “taking a bullet out of the chamber.”  Masturbate, or Give yourself a bit of that good loving a few hours before you intend to be with your girlfriend, it takes the pressure off, and makes things last longer and makes it more enjoyable for both of you.
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practice by masturbating, when you are about to come, stop masturbating.\n\nwait until you do not feel the sensation anymore, then start masturbating again, stop, wait then masturbate again\n\nThe effect in the long run is that you will ejaculate longer than expected.  \n\ndo it with your gf too. while doing sex, stop when you are about to come, restart when it does not feel good anymore\n\nyou have to ask her to bear with you, she will understand it \n\npractice makes perfect...
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It depends on the situation. If my partner and I have worked apart for a few weeks, we know the first time back is going to be fast, but then we go in for seconds and that lasts longer.\n\nThis is very personal, but may help you. My husband makes sure he does not orgasm every time he feels like it, he holds back, even if it means stopping for a breather, and doing this he can last for up for 4 hours.  Often this has resulted in multi orgasm for him, and too many to count for me.\n\nWe just can barely walk after, and this is after 20 yrs marriage. We learned this technique from a book I have listed below after we made love too much and a Doc told my partner to take a rest for 3 weeks.  A man can literally be drained by a highly sexed woman, so watching the times your orgasm can have many benefits.\n\nKeep holding back for you. Might take practice, but it is SO worth it. Nothing better than a few hours in bed making love.\n\nPS:1 hr 30 is NOT bragging as is suggested. It is technique.
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There is a story I remember from my younger days about a man who had amazing staying power when he was having sex with a woman, this guy could go all night.\nWe got him drunk one night and asked him his secret, he told us that when he was going out and knew he was having sex he would self satisfy himself first then go out. he said it made him last longer.\nTake it as you will.
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To start with, make the foreplay last as long as possible. Keep your partner on the brink as long as you can before going in for full sex.\n\nWhen you're having sex, there are two options:\n1. Take your time, and pull out if you feel the moment approaching. Take a few moments to lose the urge to spurt, and use your fingers, or mouth or whatever until you go back in for more. Do this time and time again, and eventually your body will get used to taking longer.\n2. Think about your grandad's sweaty feet and bunions.\n\nEither way, you'll last a lot longer.
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there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
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Well, a very highly aroused, young, inexperienced male might last a minute at most.  And Sting (the famous singer) has bragged about being able to go on all night- literally- without a climax.  There's huge variance.\n\nOptimally, a good amount of time is about fifteen to twenty minutes of actual thrusting; with the overall lovemaking experience going from forty five minutes to an hour, if not longer.\n\nIf you can't, there's nothing wrong- you can get better with time.  Just practice controlling yourself (try thinking of non-sexy things when you get close- like grandma on the toilet, lol- and masturbate beforehand so you aren't so close and on the edge going into things.  And let your partner know what's going on- when you get close, stop, take a breather on yourself, and focus on her/him, then go back to spending some time on you or together, and so on, give and take, until you are both breathlessly ready for climax.  It's a thing that both of you can deal with.\n\nIf you still climax too soon, just remember that sex isn't over!  Your partner deserves to climax, too.  Keep a spare dildo in the drawer next to the bed, or even a strap-on (quite a few men wear strap-on dildos over their flaccid penises) to keep things going once you go soft, or just rely on your hands, mouth, and fingers to get help him/her out!\n\nRemember not to stress overmuch, and good luck!
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I use those condoms all the time, and to be honest, it feels really good, you last longer, but you can't stop. if you stop in the middle, it will be harder for you to blow your load. just keep going!
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This is all too common, unfortunately.  There are several "exercises" and techniques that you can use.  One would be to have your partner pull out (taking a break) when he feels he is too close to climax.  Other techniques involve having him do the same kind of thing during self-pleasuring sessions.  This may serve to help lengthen his time with you.  If this does not work, you can suggest that he see a physician (it may not be a simple stamina problem).\n\nOther techniques (that may be less effective) include:\nUsing condoms during sex \nDe-sensitizing gel (that can be bought at most adult stores)
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think about something else during sex..usually u can prolong your erection longer than usual....normal people have sex 3times a week..but if u competence enough, u can do it 6 times in a day;-)
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stop-n-start\nJust before you'e about to ejaculate, stop yourself & relax for a few seconds before starting again.\nIf you're having sex, keep changing positions! Makes it exciting & you'll last longer as well!
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Sorry to step into a womans world - but women have told me that they could not climax, or did not have as many in previous relations.  It has to do with the mate you are with and the intimacy, trust, etc., sex is more than just sex most people hop into bed and just do it - wrong!!\n\n- Women can go from 0 to 60 in seconds!!\n  (Blush) - Forgive me but I am not a lose cannon either.