Have you had your midlife crisis yet?  What must you accomplish before you die?
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I am smack-dab in the center of a mid-life crises, yet at the same time I feel more knowledgeable than ever.  I MUST be a successful author before I die.
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Well, I'm middle-aged too (44); we're not ALL kids out here!\nOne thing that surprises me most at this stage of life is how far I've gone with very little education.  I'm merely a high-school graduate, but have a fun, interesting, well-paying job and a bright future.  I'm living proof that even the dumbest among us can succeed!\nAnother thing that surprises me is how screwy my friends' lives are.  Between divorces, dalliances, ventures into some of the...ahem...darker areas of life, and debt, some of my friends are really teetering on the crumbly edge!   I thought I had a monopoly on leading a screwed-up life!\nThe last thing that surprises me is how much I enjoy going back to school.  Last year I started taking pre-engineering courses at my local community college.  I'm very satisfied with my progress, and have something to look forward to when I retire in another 11 years or so.
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Live your life to the fullest!! enjoy your new discovery's, be open to explore what is exiting to you. be your own judge on what is right for you.  check your own standards and morals, if you are comfortable with your desires and actions then enjoy all that you are . do not let the opinions of others dictate your level of happiness
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Stop waiting for someone to complete your life! When you figure out the important things in life someone will come along.
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put God first, then love your self lastly, care for others\n\npeace out
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It's called stress leading to depression. Either you tough it out and get it over with, or step back and take it easy until you feel you can handle it.  You're just wasting money and time by doing things halfway.  Get yourself together, prioritize, plan, and take action.
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Get out of the house and make real friends by doing what you like to do.  People have few needs.  There are physical needs (food, water, shelter), secutiry need, social need, esteem need, and feeling of self worth.  \n\nWhat do you like to do?  Better yet, what would you do if you were to die in three months?  After you answer that, get out and do it. \n\nBest wishes
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I think you need to explore life and travel before settling down.  Go to college, get a career for yourself, get a job, an apartment.  See what it's like to live on your own.  Be independent before you become dependent on anyone.  Trust me, I was with someone but I cut him short, did all the above and now I am married with child and I can't tell you how happy I am.  I've done the things I wanted to before settling down.
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I totally relate, I spent my late teens and early twenties doing similar things.  I would say to make some goals for yourself, realistic ones, and go about achieving them.  Remember where you've come from, you've gotten so much better than where you were!  That's a huge accomplishment!!!  Be proud of yourself for that!!!
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For every million years that'll pass when you're dead you'll only be alive for a brief second. There is plenty of time for death, while only a little time for life. You might as well take the time you get to be alive and make the most of it. \n\nTalk to someone, a friend, family member, trusted adult, doctor, or anyone.  Just talk to someone and get help.
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For me, it happened around 40, at least started then, and lasted for about 5 years, sad to say. It was not a great time in my life. I lost my Mother and Dad to death, my wife to divorce, and a job that I had worked at for 21 years. At about 45 , I began to get my life back together, and move on. Since then, my life has been much better though. I tell you this because I want you to know....there IS life after a "midlife crisis"! Most everyone does go through them, yes, but "through" is the keyword. You don't stay there forever!! Good Luck!!
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I would like to try to help you, but I don't know exactly what you need guidance in. I'm a bit younger than you, but I am wise beyond my years. I was born in 81. I am assuming however, that you are not stating your situation, yet your age in hopes of someone with a sixth sense responding..can't help ya there. Only thing I can leave you with is to follow your heart and let God help guide you to the right path!!
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This is a very long answer! I am sorry, but I had to write this! Bear with me....\n\nAs a woman who is 50 and who went through her own mid life crisis (and divorce and self reinvention) over the last ten years and  who felt very much as you do now, I would like to share some things that helped me to get out of negative self talk. I have learned how to view mid life as a wonderful time of growth, which got me out of a bad mind set.\n\nHon, the first mistake you are making is defining yourself and your personal value on whether or not you have a boyfriend or husband. You are not unique in this mindset. I did the same thing, but no one defines us or determines our self worth and value, EXCEPT ourselves. Thinking that a man will define your self worth and your placement in this world will only serve to make you depressed and feel as alone as you do now. The only person who defines you and your self worth is YOU. No one else can do this. Instead of thinking that someone else is responsible for definining you, LOOK WITHIN. You are a unique individual, with your own skills, gifts, ideas, mind and thoughts that make you who you are. If you only seek out men to define and complete you, you will feel alone, as you do now. You feel alone and empty because you are not looking within yourself to find the things that you possess to bring you self nurturance and self love - to define the woman you are now.\n\nMost women define and value themselves as complete when they have a boyfriend or husband because we are socialized by our families and the media to believe this is the case. We are taught that to be of value we must achieve the ultimate goal in life: to get married, have a family, own a house, and so forth. Those of us who decide to have a career, in addition to marriage, are taught that having "it all" makes us more worthy. If we choose not to marry or have kids, then something is wrong with us (although this is changing, thank god). If we wind up getting divorced, we are viewed as being failures and that because our marriages failed, we are not capable of having a relationship or worse, something is wrong with us. Married friends may shun us (or not), family members query us about whether or not we are dating, or if we will ever remarry, and as a consequence, we feel anxious and apart from society. We feel as if we are outsiders looking in. When we believe this, we feel lost.\n\nDivorce is hard, especially when you are in your mid forties and going through perimenopause. That adds to the confusion and the negative feelings we have. With hormones rising and falling, we feel different and are different in many ways. It is a time, generally - and without divorce - of questioning and assessing our lives, what we have accomplished or didn't, what we want to do in the future, and what changes we want to make. We fear aging and growing older, and dying too young or too soon. We fear the changes our bodies are going through. Our looks change somewhat and we feel old, ugly, less attractive. Even though this is a scary  and a weird time in our lives, we needn't feel this way. Experience and wisdom comes with age, and even if our bodies are not as firm as they once were, and even if we gain a bit of weight or have tons of gray hair, we are still beautiful. I feel better and more beautiful NOW than I did in my twenties and thirties! I may not be as thin as I was, but that is okay - I accept and honor the woman I am now. I receive the beauty I possess now with welcome arms and more confidence than I ever had before. Why? I accept the woman I am today. It gets better, really and you CAN GET THROUGH IT.  \n\nSome suggestions: One of the best things I ever did when I got divorced was to go to therapy with a psychologist who specialized in divorce. She also held a weekly group session (for an hour an a half) with her other female clients (6 or 7 of us) and we worked together on finding our paths AND releasing our hurt, and anger towa
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you need a life coach
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Acheiving personal happiness is the primary goal in this life.One is in this world to experience joys and fulfilment.What-ever be the reason,past is dead.Live in the present and dream about your future . Plan actions for  where you would like to be years hence. Keep youself physically and mentally busy.
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Since I just went through a midlife crisis. I'd say my life is half over or half empty. I'm not at good at anything I once was. Only my typing has improved. My eyes are failing. My legs hurt. I'm missing some of my hair. You get the picture. But I'm still an optimist at heart. =)\n.
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This time in your life may seem meaningless now but later on you will realize just how meaningful it really was.\n\nAccept this stage in your life with the knowledge that the next stage is just around the corner.