If my husband cheated on me before we were married, do i have to be worried now?
408553
Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
67927
Yes, you need to think, if your husband was cheating on you, how would you feel if your sister knew and didn't tell you.  You need to have enough evidence to prove that you are right about the accusations so that you aren't saying something that is not true.  Then you sit them down and explain what you know.  They won't take it well, who would, but at least you kept them from being dragged down even more.
278908
is that all you have to worry about. i hope your relationship is not based on this.
74346
no i dont think so,cuz if i know or find out he cheats on me that means i cant give him what he need..so aint no need for me 2 b with him anymore..he wanna cheat on me he should make sure im not gonna find out,but men always get busted somehow..and as a female u know when he cheats,u can feel it.
528629
Hi, without a doubt in my mind, if I ever found out my man was cheating I would dump him, no questions asked.\nSome of you may say "he/she made a mistake.Yes, it is a mistake, and sadly some people repeat them over and over again.\nI would never be able to trust my boyfriend again. Women are emotional and are imaginations are highly active. I would not trust my boyfriend again. I would always have a vision in my mind of my boyfriend bedazzling another woman.\n I also would have a low opinion of myself. I would feel like I am not pretty, or sexy enough for my boyfriend (even though his actions were not my fault). I would also feel like he didn't love me. Because sorry, but if you truly love someone, you don't cheat, bottom line. I don't care if you are drunk, or your having a bad day..Its something you don't do to someone you love.\n  I would be so devestated if I found that out about my boyfriend. Also, when partners do cheat, they put YOU at risk. At risk for a disease....And believe me, several cheaters out there have given their girls and wifes, husband and boyfriends diseases. So my opinion, you would not want to put your love at risk.\n  Cheating is a disease for some people. They have to do it to make themselves feel high. Guys and Gals alike, don't fool yourself into thinking you are different or that these people can change. And to those of you who are going out with married or attached people, you are just as bad. You are an enabler. Some people cannot seem to stop cheating.\n  To you who have written this question, Good one. And I hope to a higher power out there that you have not been cheated on.
325737
Yes, sorry to say he misled you and used you. That was a scummy thing for him to do. Don't worry about your ex anymore, he knew how sensitive you are or were, so he played you for a puppet. As far as you marriage goes, if hubby forgives you, then you have to forgive yourself. The healing process begins with your inner self, then you can start working on your relationship. Sure you feel guilty having to bed in bed and knowing your husband wants you, but your not only punishing yourself, but punishing him. Take your time, let him know that you do love him, yes your love for your hubby will return, as soon as you stop thinking about your ex. Get mad about being happy with your ex, and turn that love and energy into your marriage, you may be surprised with the results. Best wishes.
1024304
oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
1126246
It's largely up to you.  If you beleive it was a one time thing and that you can trust him now, and if you still love him then just move forward.  With time it should get easier to handle.  However if you're not sure if you can trust him or not THAT is a different story!  Trust is at the foundation of any good relationship.
334187
dear dont let the past overcome ur present n future again coz ur not worth it. what if he had lied to u about being ur first love there's nothing to fear as long he is here wiz u now and he did tell u that he was afraid to loose u . dont u think its a good sign as he did know ur value to tell how he feels about u and he did tell u if he wasnt trustee then i dont think he would have tell u this. give him a chance believe me it is trust the foundation a strong and wonderful relationship wiz urs ask urself what would u do in his place. though he did say sorry. u r what he wants. its not like he is cheating on u he wants u and he did realised his mistake by lying to u and hid stuff from u. talk to him and tell that ur past and mine will not control us and that u two want to buid something beautiful together. u cant forget ur first love . \nPS:i was in the same situation like u and today he is still my first love and we are married for ten years and we have beautiful twins together.PLEASE DONT LET THE PAST RUIN U.
80303
If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
538062
Well perhaps the question isn't about you trusting him, so much as trusting that you are good enough to be with him. Having cheated on him once, with success, do you still respect yourself enough to believe that you deserve to have a good man? It is easy to see the many, many ways a person can cheat. It is just as easy to see behaviors that mirror the ways you felt when you were cheating.\n  As you said, if you knew he was cheating, you would drop him like a bad habit. So in your mind you're sure that he would most likely drop you much the same way.\n  Believe it or not, in alot of cases, the cheating isn't even about the sex. It's about trying to fill a void of something that is missing, which alot of times we don't even realize. It could be the excitement that was there at the beginning of the relationship, or just the time you used to have when you just sat close in front of the tv. Most times dear lady, the cheater isn't actually looking for better sex.... just a new escape. Try changing some aspects of your life with your soon-to-be husband. Meet at a night club, and act as though you're just meeting for the first time. Or share a hot bubble bath, with candle-light and soft music, but without the sex. You may find your desires finding a new source to focus on, when what you have readily available becomes more tempting as you have that proximity but don't follow through with the sex. Anticipation is a good pressure builder. Good luck.
791990
If he hasn't given you any indication that he's cheating on you then I would worried that he was sick is hurt. Don't let your pride or stubbornness stop you from doing what is right.
322805
If you don't trust him, you need to ask yourself if you should be in this relationship.  My husband has lazy moments too but it would never cross my mind for a second that he'd cheat on me.
1152031
no trust is a big issue......... is hard to explain but even after cheating even if you see your husband is truly sorry and he even makes effort to prove his changed and you see no evidence of him ever doing anything else..... trust is just something you can never regain once is lost is gone... you will always wonder about something..... but hey  there is so many of us in that boat,one can never feel lonely in something like this...... but the answer to this question is nope trust is the one thing that cant be recover in any case.good luck.
277215
I would dump his sorry a$$. Once you know he is married, you are willingly contributing to his wifes heartache when she finds out (and trust me, she will find out).\nHow would you feel if you were married and your husband cheated with someone who knew he was married?\nLet's pretend he is going to leave his wife for you (which he will not), you will become the person he cheats on.
849848
No you should have proof of him cheating cuz if you dont you might make a mistake and lose someone that really did love you.*