I'm single and desperate "HAVING AN URGENT NEED,DESIRE OF SEX" is that normal for me?
415482
Try pleasing your self.
699904
well first of all honey your right you do deserve to be with someone who will treat you like a queen and make you feel beautiful and you should never settle for anything less, however....Don't say your desperate sweetie because that makes it sound like your easy....not trying to sound rude just letting you know the fact's, if there's one thing I learned from my mom when I was growing up is never say your desperate or never act desperate either. Don't worry there is someone out there for you, maybe your just looking in all the wrong places, I know you feel like it's no use and your prince is never going to show up but hunn if you just ease up alittle and not look for love so hard then it will land right on your lap or it might be around you and you don't know it yet because your not opening your eyes wide enough....because your scared. I know you think I'm crazy but it's true I've been in that situation before, you don't know that your scared when you really are. Love can be a scary thing and it could be a beautiful thing as well, it's what you make of it, and if your taking care of yourself and your healthy then it's going to be easier to find someone because you'll have confidence in yourself and that's very important to have when your looking for love, and sweetie You say you deserve to be with a good man, and that's true....so LET GO of the other man, the one that drinks. Be strong, your going to get through it, and I'm not saying that because that's the nice to say, I'm saying it because it's true, well you have to make it come true and you'll do that by taking over your life again. Well my friend.....Good Luck to you.
94650
It sounds like you really want some sex.  Just ask him if something is wrong.
977695
No I don't think so. I think it is perfectly normal to want to seek someone who you can connect with. Life is very busy, with work, school, or kids, people don't have the time to invest in hoping to meet the right one at the grocery store. Is that more dignified? \nThe only thing you meet at bars is drunks.\nGood for you for  being proactive in  being  involved in your own destiny. He/she is not knocking at the door so why not go for it. You may come across a few lumps of coal but hopefully their is one diamond in the rough out there. Do what is right for you.
804773
maybe you're lashing out from all that repression you had to live with all these years.  i think it's okay if you sleep with single men, but stay away from the married ones.\n\njust be sure to be safe.  you don't want to get pregnant now, or worse, catch a disease.\n\nmaybe you can try to talk to a counselor or go to a women's support group or a divorcees support group to help vent.\n\ntry to "rechannel" some of that sex drive in work or a new hobby or go to the gym.\n\nsexuality is an important part of being a person.  as long as it doesn't affect your everyday behavior and you are safe and it doesn't wreck your self esteem and, most important, as long as you don't let the sex define who you are as a person, then go for it! = )
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Yes! I see the problem here! You are hot and horny, but with no-one to be hot and horny with. \n\nDon't listen to these other weirdos who call you a freak! They have no idea what it's like to be alone, and without any outlet for those sexual needs. \n\nThey live in open societies where sex is not such a HUGE issue. Otherwise, they are those awful dudes who cruise internet porn sites and jack off behind closed doors. Don't pay any attention to them! \n\nIndian society is closed. Nice babes just do not go out with guys. Being alone with one's beloved is almost impossible.\n\nSorry, my friend. Unless you frequent those seedy areas in Bangalore where there are PLENTY of hookers, you are just going to have to move to Europe, or China, or the USA, or the Phillipines where, if you are willing to give THEM a good time and are willing to treat them as human beings, there are lots of women willing to give YOU a good time.
437484
no, it's perfectly normal.  in fact, it's very convenient because you can live alone and have sex constantly.  of course, you'll starve to death, but you won't care.
622591
Nothing to be ashamed of. Every individual has his own habits and appetite.  Some crave for sex all the time and some don't.  It's just that you have a bigger appetite for sex that makes you think more and more about it.  It is not wrong until it does not effect your work and other activities.
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i could see how you can think it would and it might, its easy  to please yourself but at the same time it makes you sad if you have to do it too long because your wanting that intimate sexual relationship with someone so ya i can see how it would make you depressed, just hang in there and dont stop looking for that right person but dont go out and be premiscious either to many deseases out there! hang in there youll find someone!
314268
From my expericence, I have learned that trying to show a man all of my great qualitites in order to make him appreciate me and want a more serious relationship has NEVER worked.  It only made me seem desperate.  Desperation has never made any person want to be with another person.  Even though you may feel that you can't let go of the person, it would be better to do so.  He has made it beyond clear to you that he isn't interested in having anything more than a sexual relationship with you.  In other words, you're good enough to have sex with but NOT good enough to have a meaningful relationship with.  That is horrible for your self esteem and self worth.  You deserve better and more.  Just because he asks about your activities doesn't mean that he cares about you.  He tells you flat out that he doesn't.  It may be difficult but you should consider stopping the sexual relationship with him.  He doesn't love you or care about you.  If he did, he'd want to have more than sex with you.  I hope that you realize that you deserve more than a quickie when he's bored.
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I understand where you are coming from and I too am single and feel that I will be forever unless I do something pretty soon!. I am a very lovely and single, beautiful 33 year old and grown out of pubs and clubbing where there are streams of teenagers and mid twenties.  \n\nThere is no where in my town appropriate for people of my age socializing-wize and used to meet my partners whilst at University so now I am no longer a student, this makes things akward again!.  Everywhere I go, I see married couples and loved-up youngsters or singles like myself. Most are all now on the internet but I am so wary of that stuff when there are married men posing as single on these sites and men who post on every sight in search of more than one love-interest.\n\nIt is diffocult I must admit but the trick is to remain optomistic and be very specific about what you are looking for in a man and then go to places that you are most likely to meet these types of men. Bars and clubs are okay, but there are a lot out there looking for fun only and unless you are prepared for that and happy with it until you get to know a guy, then sitting around will do not much good either.\n\nI am more conscious as I have gotten older but also more decided about what I want in a man and that is friendship.  This is the best basis for all relationships to be lasting.  I am determined to be married but once I get myself off my but and start making things happen.
108293
Oh my goodness, don't be in a rush...\nYou are so young yet, and you need to go out and enjoy life while you can be a little selfish and not think of other people's needs or desires...\nYou will find love when you least expect it, and it will find you...
465864
If you aren't ready, DON'T DO IT!  You'll regret it, trust me.  And honestly, sex doesn't make a relationship, so if you're boyfriend is begging you, he only wants you for sex, not the relationship.  A real man (one you deserve) will wait forever if he has to.  Tell your man to shape up or ship out!  Don't give in just because your guy has no self-control.  That's his problem, not yours.
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
1146260
Sweetie, you are suffereing from the "I am worthless" syndrome. Get over it NOW! You are the same person you always were, have the same merits and weaknesses, the same love for others locked inside. One bad relationship does not mean you will have another. IF what you want from a date is a quickie, go for it. IF you are looking for something more, wait until you have your ego and self-worth back together. We all have been there, but ... unfortunately, I have found that being asked to go to bed is NOT a compliment, it is just what it is...the same guys who want to bed you down will go down a line to the first who says "yes." It is amusing to watch it in bars...Try watching and laughing. You will get a great sense of perspective. The best of luck to you...nothing in you has changed.
887046
I think that is a fabulous idea. I believe everybody needs love, but timing is very important. I am a very independent person. I didn't want to be one of those needy or high maintenance chicks that had to have someone to take care of them. It turns out that guys really dig people like me and you usually stumble on love when you least expect it or when you aren't even looking. I think you should focus on studies now. Pamper yourself once in a while, and just be happy with yourself...the rest will fall into place.
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The fact that you are even WORRIED about this indicates you are insecure and not ready for a serious relationship.\n\nLove does not possess, neither can it BE possessed.\nGrow up, or get hurt young lady...