how to overcome a breakup with my boyfriend? He is married,we love each other so much but he also love his kid
414331
Only time and personal effort will make it better.  You truely love someone, it's forever, and your mind will from time to time come back to him, but if u truely love him, u are doing the right thing by stopping and staying away.  Don't break up a family or hurt a child.  If it's meant to be it will happen one day.
533807
I was in a similar situation one day and let me assure you... It will end in a heartbreak, and the broken heart will probably be yours, and you will only blame yourself because you were the one who decided to get in between a married couple. So get out of it while you can.
266959
Just do it and get it over with. Why do you want to break up if you love him so much?
153994
Ask yourself if what you're struggling over is worth it. Is it worth your happiness/relationship?\n\nIf it's not submit to him on that matter, if it doesn't greatly negatively impact your life or morals. If it is talk to him and tell him why this matter is so important to you.\n\nOr talk to him in a calm and rational matter (no screaming) and come upon a decision and understanding that both of you are comfortable with. If no decision or understanding can be reached, seriously consider leaving the relationship.
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
1040358
Before you break up, go see a marriage counselor. Sit down and discuss everything together. Get the children a chance to sit down and talk about what they are thinking about, worried about, also.\n\nGood luck.\n\nIf you all can learn to love and live together as a family, and it is worth the battle to get there, life can be wonderful.
601951
when i first started to date my husband i loved someone else , but he loved me too.  the only problem was he was married to my sister and he loved her too.  he told me that he loved her only because they had kids with each other and you always feel for the mother of your children no matter what anyone might say it has to hurt the one your with to now your heart is not all there.  i rally don't now what to tell you because i haven't figured out for myself , but if letting her go makes he happy then that's something you might want to look into.  goood luck
982101
Yours is a serious question, so I will write to you a serious analysis:\n\nFirstly, all children blame themselves for the breakup in the beginning.... they always figure that their parents would have stayed together if they had just been a better kid -- taken the garbage out sooner when asked, cleaned up their room better, kept their homework up..etc....  you get the idea.  It is truly hard for any kid to get over this guilt, and during this time, they are usually depressed.  This can last for several months.  Reassurance from the parents (persistantly) will usually get the child off of this idea, but it never entirely goes away during their childhood.   However somewhere along this process, they decide that maybe one or the other was to blame, and that apparently is where your son is.  Whether he is in the first part,(self-blame) the second part,(parental blame) or straddling the line, always a kid will either go into depression or aggression or both... this is just the way kids handle stress.  \n\nAnd what can you do?\nProbably you are doing nothing wrong -- I am gathering that you do not "bad mouth" your ex (or soon to be ex) in front of him, and I am assuming that she does not either.  This is good.  However, then he has to decide who is at fault, because in the eyes of a child, someone or something is always at fault.... so he has chosen her. (If she has had an affair, and he knows it, or you have, and he knows it, then he assigns blame according to who did what to alienate one against the other and into a relationship outside the marriage..... kids are a lot smarter than adults give them credit for.)\n\nIn your place, you and she should ask him if he would like to talk with someone besides the two of you about his feelings.   Let him know that his feelings are certainly normal,  but he might feel more comfort in discussing them with someone neither of you know but that things happen to marriages.  That you wish him to know that, and that neither of you are at fault.... ($-hit happens, but you'll probably be able to get a better word for it for him.)\n\nHe also needs to understand that life does not come with any guarantees, except that you and she guarantee to love him forever.... and THIS guarantee is indeed forever.  Marriages, don't always come with a guarantee, but people go into them with the best hopes that they can give at the time.  \n\nSo, I'd encourage you to share this stuff with him, share with him you only want him to be happy, and that sometimes talking with someone else will help him sort out his feelings..... he also needs to know that aggressions toward other kids at school is NEVER acceptable no matter what he feels, no matter at whom he is angry\n\nHelpful?  Write me if you need more..
754736
Good Question.  It's one that I have has to struggle with for a few years now.  Just add a kid to the picture too, that's rough. \n\n Well, you should always remain supportive and try not to be negative or seem like you are putting down his dedication to his job.  Make him love the time that you two do spend together and maybe he'll find more time to enjoy you.  The most important thing to do is to be patient and understanding.
220792
You know what everyone deserves a second chance. In the first place why did you do that if you really love your boyfriend. Please don't make decisions because of your kid make them because of you. I would advice you to go for Counselling with Jeff before the hearing. If you love him as much as he loves you he will forgive you in time because all he needs is time to heal.
668403
First, GOOD FOR YOU that you have decided to become a Christian! THat's wonderful! I know it is difficult, but yes, your religion will have an effect on your relationship. The opposite also holds true-- your relationship will have an effect on your religion. It sounds as if you really love your boyfriend. If I were in your situation, I would pray and sit him down. Explain to him how you feel and how important this is to you to raise your children this way. Your faith may prove to be a turning point for him. Your faith will mean that there will be things you should no longer do (such as premarital sex, etc). IS he willing to stand by you? You have to communicate with him. If he really loves you, it will be difficult, but he will respect your faith, even if he does not "buy into it" at this time. You also have to be prepared that he may not understand and may try to talk you out of it. Be strong and stay prayerful. Pray for him as well, that he may also find the Lord. Even if you break up, continue to lift him up in prayer. Pray for the strength to be true to your faith. I wish you the best of luck. I know it is a difficult path you are about to embark on. Be strong. God will not forsake you and you may lead your boyfriend to the Kingdom as well!!!
384014
ok calm down in the child support ofice they are going to make a test, there u are going to find out if is hes or not, if you were in love enough to forgive him maybe u can work this out is a part of him what are u talking about(meaning if if his baby) so take the good thing about this and enjoy him and the baby. ok is been 6 yrs are u ready to live him for the same mistake that you already forgave him. think about it and be honest to your self.... do you really love him? and care enough to go through thtis with him? is a big test u know?
1088052
I realize that it may be really hard right now but I hope you realize how valuable you are yourself and that you will take care of you during this time. You may or may not\nget the full answer as to why he broke up with you.  I had\na boyfriend in high school that everyone swore or thought\nwe would surely get married and we ended breaking up and we had been dating over a two year period.  Give him his space and see what happens.  Be good to yourself in the meantime.  If you were good to him and know that in your heart  of hearts you gave your best thats all that anyone can ask.  He may have some things he needs to work out.
651999
I had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years in which the guy I was seeing (and was supposed to marry) had a four year old son when I began dating him. The mother had abandoned them both a year earlier. I raised the child as my son - he even called me Mommy. His father worked two jobs for a while, so during that time, I was actually more like a single parent to his son - I did all the baths, all the homework, all the cooking, all the quality time, all the bedtime stories and all the discipline. I loved that child like he was my own, and I still love him. \n\nThe relationship went south, and I stayed because of the child for a long time. The mother eventually got custody of him (MESSED UP!), and took him halfway across the country. I didn't have a problem with him seeing his mother and knowing his mother, in fact, I WANTED him to see and know her, but I also felt that he was my son in my heart. When we had to tell him that the judge said that he had to go and live with his mother, he said, "But your my mommy, too, so that means I can still live with you!" Heartbreaking.\n\nI couldn't see him anymore, I couldn't protect him anymore, I couldn't be there for him anymore, because I had no right to legally. That was the absolute worst thing I've ever had to go through as a result of a relationship - and the relationship itself was pretty darn bad. \n\nAs a result, I won't get involved with a man that already has kids anymore. I am too scared to love a child if all the rights I have to that child are in someone else's hands. That may be irrational, but it's too much of a risk for me. Been there, done that.
347262
Unfortunately in the real world, Love does not conquer all.  You need trust. . . w/out trust you cannot have a relationship.  Also, a relationship is supposed to enrich our lives. . .if it does not, and we are not happy, even if we love them, we are not meant to be with them anymore. . . \n\nIt is also not healthy for your kids if you guys are unhappy and remain together . . . .the bad "karma" will rub off on them.  \n\nGo to counseling and see if you guys can figure out your problems.  If not. . then maybe it is time to call it quits.  Even if it hurts, it may be for the best.
416441
Alright, my best advise would be to find someone else.  Not necessarily a bf but a guy friend that you can relate with and would care about if something happens just to get your mind off your ex.  You need to get over it if he has a kid cause he will never come back as much as you would like and im sorry for that but you need to put your mind other places besides on him.
929287
Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.