my boyfriend dont want me to go into the navy what do i do?
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Tell him to suck it up or fark off.  I wish EVERY young woman would realize she's much, MUCH better off if she makes sure she's fully prepared to take care of herself without having to depend on some male.  Society would be better off, fer sure.\nI was Army, but Navy is a fine choice.  You go, girl!  Give it your best!  And when you finish boot camp, tell 'em you want to become an officer!  Yo, plenty of REAL men out there.  Too bad about your soon-to-be-ex squeeze.
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Like everyone else has stated above, you do not get your first choice.  They give you options, but remember as a marine your first duty is a rifleman, you are a foot soldier and most likely will see some type and form of combat in a war time environment. The only way out is if you have some speak law degree and or super computer skills, but that is normally left to the Navy to do for us.  You much understand that the MARINES own you, you do not think for yourself, you do not plan for yourself. If the Marine Corps wanted you to have a wife you would have been issued one in boot camp.  So if you have a girl, drop her.  I can not tell you how many "Dear John" letters are out there that have made grown men cry.  In the end you get only what you want out of the Marines, nothing else.  It is a commitment of your body, sole and life for the Stars and bars.  You would be the first and last line of defense and will be required to do things that you never thought you would or could ever do.  This is the worst case, my brother never saw anything more than the underside of a HumVee (JUNK) give me an old MUTT any time.
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Ok....speaking from experience and going through a deployment with my guy. Me and my guy have been together for almost a year but dated previously in the past. \nDONT break up with him, he needs you to be there for him. Yes its hard suffering through the deployments but you can get through it trust me on this. There will be down falls along with upsides. Seperation makes the heart grow fonder and you will experience this if you give it a chance. Coming aboard the military world is different from the civilian world, its different and I can't even tell you how much you can learn. It can take you to a lot of different places and you'll meet all sorts of new friends and people. Being a military girlfriend/wife isn't easy. The trick to making it through is always REMAIN BUSY. You will cry and you will feel that you just can't take it. But keep in mind it's not his choice if he deploys and he loves you and he doesn't want to leave you. He doesnt have a choice in the matter. Once he makes it through OSUT/AIT, they will hold a ceremony go to it, you recieve additional information on support groups and little things that can keep you up to date on whats happening and etc with his unit. Hang in there girl, keep your head up and remember ALWAYS he loves you and he's looking to you mainly for his support.
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As a marine wife and someone who has been affiliated with the military all her life (Navy brat and former Navy sailor), you have to be outgoing and opinionated!  You can't have him telling you what you think and how to do things.  Not only is that chauvinistic but what happens when he's on a 14 month deployment and  you haven't talked to him in a week, if you don't have opinions on how to take care of your family or home, you're screwed.  You also need to be outgoing to make friends.  Marines are gone alot and we need a support system for those times.  If he's looking for some weak-willed yes-girl, then forget him.
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He is very much full of crap. I was in the Navy for 4 years and went to the Persian Gulf for 8 months. I still don't boost myself up to the level of the guys who are actually over there in the serious combat. Your ex is a total loser. If he were a real man, he would humble himself just a tad and think about the guy who might be over there in his place.
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my dear girl you need to start thinking about yourself for once. he obviously has no respect for you or your decisons about your career life. you need to let go as hard as that may be 10 years is a long time but you only have one life to live make it worth your while not his. you deserve to be happy so get rid of that JERK!!!
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just tell him that you dont feel comfortable with taking about it and if he cant accept that you arent comfortable talking about things like that dump him and their is more fish out there in the sea
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He will regret that for the rest of his life. If you really love him marry him and support his mission. Look at all the benefits you get and think positive. Why do  you want him to get out? Does he have a career lined up is he a college graduate? \nGetting out that way is not the answer. You want him to do that for you? What are you willing to sacrifice for him? Comon Think Straight!
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Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.\n  Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.\n  Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.\n   I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.\n  I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.\n  If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.\n Good Luck!
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you need to calm youself first, and maybe even take notes on what exactly you want to say and then talk to him yourself.  you absolutely do not have to take him back - he lied to you and cheated on you.  trust is what relationships are built upon and he just did the two worst things to break that trust.  \n\nhe cannot just leave the navy either - he has a contract with them and they can put him in military jail if he goes AWOL (absent without leave).  he has to finish out his contract before he can leave, so that should give him time to straighten himself out.\n\nyou do not need to cowtow to his sister.  she is concerned for her brother, and that is very nice of her - but it is not your responsibility to keep him in the navy.  he took all responsibility for his welfare away from you when he cheated on you.  now it is up to you whether or not to forgive (you will never forget).\n\nmy neighbor has been married for 13 years and her husband cheated on her when they were first married.  they do have a loving relationship, and as much as she protests that she trusts him - by the things she says i know she does not... at least 12 years later.\ni could never live that way - i told my husband (who joined the navy after we had been together for about 3 years and is now in the army) when we first started dating that there were 2 things he could do and no matter what i would leave him - cheat on me or raise his hand to me.  \nyou need to do what is best for you - he is an adult, he can do what is best for himself.\n\nwow, after reading some of the other responses - please do not think that all men are like this, and do not think that all men in the military cheat on their wives - this is not true.  it is also not an accepted behavior in the military anymore - it may have been years ago, but no longer.  \ndo not let him turn you bitter - you are too young to live your life bitter and angry at all men because of 1 man.
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support him in his journey through military \nit's gona be hard, but if you really love him, support him. but if you feel like you dont love him, dont let him think you love him and then dump him while away. thats the worst thing.
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If you aren't ready, DON'T DO IT!  You'll regret it, trust me.  And honestly, sex doesn't make a relationship, so if you're boyfriend is begging you, he only wants you for sex, not the relationship.  A real man (one you deserve) will wait forever if he has to.  Tell your man to shape up or ship out!  Don't give in just because your guy has no self-control.  That's his problem, not yours.
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22 Navy Vet.  I see a lot of fingers pointing to differant branches, It's not the NAVY you want to join!  It's not really any branch.  I would say join the Coast Guard.  They are military, but then again not.  Run by DHS not DOD.  If you join, keep your mouth shut.  Keep your private life private.  The last thing you want is to be pushed over a side rail 1000 miles out at sea or attacked while out in the woods on training.  Maybe stay in school and choose another career path.
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Listen honey...I was in the Navy for 6 years, and went through my own relationship issues.\n\nYou have to look yourself in the heart: do you love this young man? If you do, he will return, and all of this will be forgotten.\n\nIf you separate from him, AND you still love him...I just don't see the benefit there for you.\n\nI am sure you already know this, but those who serve in the armed forces are very passionate for what they believe in...is this so bad to have in a bf/fiance/spouse? He is patriotic, and after his time is done he will be a hard working provider. Are you sure you want to say no now? You may find better...but since I don't know him...that is for your own heart to decide.\n\nWHATEVER YOU DO: don't send him a Dear John letter while he is overseas. Break cleanly before he goes...or wait for his return.\n\nGood luck in your decision. It is your life...but him being in danger every second of the day says something about his personality. It is stressful. I know. When I married my wife we were actually both in the Navy, and I know neither of us was in danger like your hon, but still...separation breeds anxiety. Think about this: if something happens to him...and you split up with him before he went, would you feel any less pain? If you are the person I am taking you to be, I bet not.\n\nTake care.\nJust remember...make sure your decision comes from the heart...not the brain. Sometimes our brains think too much!
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Don't rush things.  Go to the interview and weigh all of your options if you get a job offer.   If you turn down the interview you might regret it and might resent him for your mistake.  He's already told you he's not ready to make a major commitment yet, so just things play out the way they should.  Whatever you do don't force him to make a declaration of love to you just because you might be leaving.
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I understand how you feel. My spouse is in the service and it kills me when he has to deploy. Unforunately, you can't stop him from going but you can do alot to help the time pass. \n\nSurround yourself with friends and family, pick up a hobby, concentrate on raising and playing with your baby, go to the gym or go swimming, start an online journal....the list goes on.\n\nTry to keep your head up. Letting your Husband know that you are upset will make him upset and we both know that'll just add more stress to his situation. It'll be hard but try to stay positive.\n\nIt is definitely tough....but remember....there is nothing like a great homecoming.\n\nI hope I helped. :-)\n\nGod bless.
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I'm assuming that he is still in the Delayed Entry Program and hasn't been sworn in at MEPS yet.  If this is the case, just talk to the recruiter and he will be able to get out of it.  They can't force you to go to Boot Camp, but once you are there, it's done.