What does it mean if your husband tells you that another child want help our marriage?
411852
I think you both need to have a long talk and find out where you both stand.  Maybe a counselor will help you talk out your problems so you can find out what he means.  In the meantime, I wouldn't consider getting pregnant until you both feel the timing is right.  It sounds like your husband has some issues and adding another baby to the family before you have worked through his issues isn't fair to you or  the future child.\n\nGood luck!
48630
You and your husband come first.  For your child/chilren it is important that your relationship can be a model for them in how they should relate to other people.  If you exhibit disrespect or lack of attention for eachother and focus on your child then he/she will develop a similar lack of disrespect for other people.\n\nIt is also important because your children need to know they are in a stable household and you ensuring that your relationship with your husband comes first goes a long way to facilitating this.\n\nGood Luck!
218382
At times a good conversation about hopes and dreams is in order. What do both parties want out of the relationship. Are both parties happy? A younger child can bring added pressures and it affected me also for awhile. I found myself doing many of the same things for a few months. I was in a total culture shock and didn't know how to handle the situation. I am now still there for my wife and its lasted 5 good years and counting. I am now myself again and love the family life. I guess at times it takes som getting used to and others it doesnt work out for people. The situation needs to be addresses because it is unhealthy for both parties. You have needs and so does he. You all need to work things out or split apart and find happiness.
757940
I live in a traditional asian home and my husband and I had trouble with his daughter for another marriage because she wasn't raisned traditionaly. Finaly it came down to him giving up the child and things became alot better. He could see that her being raised most of the time by another parent that is not traditional was making it difficult for us to raise our other children. He also felt bad for her for no reason other than the fact that things didn't work with her mom nand had trouble punishing her when she was bad. It was a mess and I was expecting our first child together. I was at the end of my rope. I told him to start going to see her somrplace else other then our house to see her. He ended up cheating on me while I was expecting and we almost got divorced. I told him If I took my kids to see someone else while we were together would he want me to keep the kids. He said no and stoped seeing her all thogether. It was the end of it, but we are now alot happier.\nSometimes things like this can ruin a marriage. Tell him how you feel it might turn into a fight, but you really need to lay down the law that this has to end with him letting the other kid rule your lives and not treating him the same as the others and that if he is unable to do that then you are going to lose it and it might end the marriage.
548856
For the sake of your children and keeping your marriage, I would see someone.  This is deep seeded and if you don't seek counseling I'm afraid more "stuff" will push you into that black hole you won't be able to crawl out of and cause you to do something your family will suffer for later.  Go seek counseling BECAUSE you love your family.  I'm sure your husband will support you if he is a good man.  Best wishes to you.
586691
how funny that the meaning of fish in dreams is very suggestive, check out source below.\n\nhowever, my interpretation is that you really want to have his baby.  or if you already have kids, it just shows that how much you love your kids is a reflection of how much you love your husband.
629311
Wow - you both certaintly have your hands full. Congrats to both of you.\n  I am not sure if she has asked you for another child or not.  So I will go on the assumption that she has not asked you.  Try to plan for some time alone together (if you can) where you can bring up this topic.  (As I woman, I would appreciate that you put alot of thought into this). Explain to your wife that you feel that four children are sufficient for you and list some reasons why they suit both of you.  That is, for financial, health, and the time and attention that four children already need from the both of you. Tell your wife that you love her and your children, and that you also want to be able to be a couple again one day too.  When the children are grown.  \n   Best of luck to you and your family.
542123
it sounds like it..just talk to him about whats going on...ur married and i hope everything works out..congrats on the new baby
269549
Please do not have a second child for the sake of your 1st child at the expense of your marriage.  With all you just said about your husband not really "being around" and your life dull with you questioning if he even loves you or if you even love him for that matter, you need to figure out your marriage first and either work it out (if that's what you both want) or dont.  You don't want to go having a child when you are questioning whether you even love the father or whether he loves you.  And having a child for the sake of your other child not being alone, is not the answer.  Your focus needs to start on your marriage b/c having a child should be a joyous occasion, one blessed by both parents and wanted by both parents, b/c otherwise resentment & bitterness with build up and then you will have a real mess.  Seriously, nurture your marriage, discuss both your feelings about the marriage & whether you want it to work out and if you both do, then discuss having another child & see if you both agree b/c you BOTH need to be on the same page on both issues.  Good luck!
970186
I have a good friend who has also been married for 2 years. Her and her husband do not have kids and she does not feel the need to explain why. You don't have to give an explanation because no one is owed one. Why you don't have children is between you and your hubby. The next time someone asks why you don't have kids, tell them that you are waiting, or that you aren't ready and switch the subject.
913020
my mother always told me this little saying when i was a little girl..it might help you:\n\nYou son is your son till he takes a wife, but your daughter is your daughter for all of her life\n\nbless you
1017878
Go with your own instinct.You  may want to keep the peace by agreeing with your hubby, but if you feel your child is not in a healthy situation with his father's family, then it is your first responsibility to put your child's welfare above your husband's feelings.
907490
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.
264308
When your spouse is picked for you by somebody else, such as your parents. Some marriages are even arranged by the time a child is born.
114620
You need to tell your husband exactly what you posted here in a nice non-confrontational way because when we need some empathy they are thinking about ways to fix whatever is bothering you. Or they are trying to let you know they feel you are wrong in your thinking and how to fix that.\n\nHonestly they just don't know, they just want to fix it for you.\n\nMy husband did that and I told him, I don't need judgement, or for you to fix this. I need you to just listen and even if I say something totally irrational I need you to agree and just let me vent. If I need you to help me fix a problem or a need a solution I will ask you that, but right now I just need you to be supportive.\n\nAfter I told him that he has been very empathetic, and a wonderful support system in everything! :D
453679
there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
885769
You have to remember that you guys already have 2 kids together. I think you should try to work the marriage out, you've probably tried talking to him, but if that doesn't work out then you two should seek counselingl.