i have met a man that is everything that my husband of 21 years is not, how do i end it w/ my husband?
406917
do u love someone new or who u have known for a while? who is nicer and more affectionate?? just follow your heart.. .. do u really want to end it with ur husbband??way down deep u may miss him and love him more.
482923
go to him and say sorry .. what if later on he shows up the same way u did and does the same to ur wife ?
930671
Well, ideally a husband and wife are soulmates who act selflessly for the good of the other.  If you were in an ideal relationship it would seem fitting and right for you to help your husband achieve success by coming back to the USA.  However, your situation seems far from ideal.  It sounds as if you are well within your rights to end the relationship based on his past and current behaviour.  Perhaps you are unhappy with the situation and are toying with the idea of moving on, but you feel a little guilty about it.  You might consider a trial period of seperation and see how things go.   He apears to be the selfish one, and does not seem to value your marriage as much as you do.  \n     \n    The days and months to come may be painful and difficult.  But do not lose heart.        \nMay wisdom, strength, and peace be with you.
1173061
he will go back to the same old stuff once you agree to stay, unless you resolve the underlying problem and if the problem is a behavior thing of his you arent going to change it. sounds like you are done and when that happens there is no going back. look if the guy really cared about the marriage he would've changed things when you said you were unhappy instead of waiting until you said i'm leaving. do you really want to spend your life with your bags packed because thats the only thing that gets through to him? yes you said better or worse, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. only you can decide that, to me it sounds as if you already have. if you've already given him 100 chances to step up to the plate he obviously isn't going to and 100 more won't be enough either. good luck to you, things will work out!
727827
I agree with your husband and just move on
418866
end it immediately! he's married and that means he loves the other woman and he's not faithful!
386761
you have nothing to lose but the rest of your life if you are right and if you are wrong.\ngo where you know he might be.\ncall him up and just go where you are both comfortable besides of course the obvious.
691001
hm, if you're not sure where his commitment to you lies, just go to your program and don't change anything because you're afraid to lose him. this is the part where you are tested to see if you are able to walk through hell and back together. if he or you ends up caving and breaking it off, that's okay! you're still growing into an adult and will then meet someone much more committed!\ngood luck and god bless.
633382
Just lay it out for him...\nSay, look I know this is what you want, but it's not going to happen. I've moved on, hell, I'm married! I would love to stay friends, but that is ABSOLUTELY all your going to get out of me....\n\n...honesty is always the best policy!\nGood Luck!
489150
Good riddance to him. He is not a supportive husband. He is useless. Don't regret what you have done.
873298
How much do you care for him? Are you happy with him and your lifestyle? Would you really miss him if you came back to the USA and he did not?\nPeople lie about their age for different reasons, low self esteem, afraid you would not even give him a chance etc. The kids from a previous marriage though, you need to find out what kind of relationship he plans to have with them. Why has he not seen, talked to them in a year? Ask for clarification on all the things that are bothering you. Communication is the key
521146
Confront him about it. The truth will set you free:)
321334
So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.
866970
How old are you guys? Maybe he's having a midlife crisis. 13 years is a long time. Don't throw in the towel if you feel there is still love in the relationship. One person can save the relationship even if the other person doesn't think it's what he wants. \n\nYou have to have faith in your relationship and find out what the issue is for him and show that you are willing to work on them. Go to counseling (see if your workplace offers anything employee assistance). Go to church more, get in tune with who you are and what you want. \n\nThe meds are a good start. But he won't see the changes for awhile so let them kick in and make a commitment to stay on them of they help you.\n\nI went through a similar situation and hubby and I restored our relationship. It can be done. He kept asking if we'd make it and I told him that people survived far more difficult obstacles.\n\nif you think it may be a midlife crisis try these sites..\nwww.midlifeclub.com\nwww.ojar.com
341057
You are wasting your time with this man. Even if he does leave his wife and kid 4 you, how do you know that he won't leave you for someone else later? I think you deserve better. There is someone better for you out there waiting 4 you. GO OUT AND FIND HIM.
1180972
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
1175176
Tell him you and him aren't on the same level as to what you both want out of life. While you love him as a friend, you want more and since he isn't willing to commit, it's best to end this now. Wish him luck and the very best then get on with your life.