spend more time with my mom?
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Let your mom know that you'd like to spend quality time with her.  She really might not know that you feel neglected.  Talk to her--and to the evil sister.
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She is 70 and lives 16 hours away. Her health isn't the best so I call her every day.  You never know how long they will be with you. We should all call our moms (even when it's not Mother's Day) and tell them we love them for that very reason.
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use this time as time for dude to get close wit your moms. just enjoy yourself. just cuz ur moms is comin that dont mean you cant do you you dig. keep ur head up its not that bad.
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As a middle child myself, I can honestly say this isn't typical middle chlld syndrom.  IT sounds more like you and your mother have some personal issues you need to work out.  I have five children, and coming from a big family myself, and know all to well how the middle children get lost in the mix, I've learned to take extra special time with the middle ones just so they don't feel as I did growing up.  However, the thing that sticks out with you is that there are other middle children in your family and they seem to get along with mom and dad rather well.  So either you are completely head strong in trying to make your own space in the family, or you keep to yourself, mom needs to learn to realize that each of her children are different and have different needs.  What I would suggest is just taking a day with mom by yourself and have some fun.  Go shopping, take a walk in the park and bond.  You need to do that..it seems that somewhere down the line, that bond was lost and the two of you need to rediscover it.\n\nBut to answer your question again...this is NOT middle child syndrome hon.
1026705
Ask your dad.  He's probably deep inside your mom's right now.
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Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
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Try getting your mom out of the dumps..\nThink of something she likes to do and you wouldn't mind doing..Go somewhere together..hang out with friends and family..You make her happy, you'll be happy.\nGood luck!
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There is probably not much you can do for your Mom, it must be a hard reality to face. You can get help and support for yourself though.\n\nI would say you can either choose not to be a part of her life, or you can choose to have some contact. If you choose to have contact, I would be wary of getting involved with any of her drama's. Maybe it's better to wait till your'e older?\nDrug addiction is very powerful and you don't want to get dragged down with her, however if you can be in contact without getting upset and dragged down, then that's cool too.\nGood luck.
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Move in with some other family members but ask her first sounds like you both may need a copy of days apart. But you tell your mom don't fight with her, Moms love there kids but you to young to see this.\nYou will one day.
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Going out to eat, vases of flowers or containers of live plants, candy or bath items seem to be the most popular gifts to give Mom - but is it because she really loves them, or because you don't know what else to give on Mother's Day?\n\nTake a hint from other gift giving occasions and don't get stuck in a rut.\n\nGive a gift of time for Mother's Day. Make a promise and keep it, to spend a day with your mother, doing whatever she enjoys, whether that's baking, garage saling or sky diving! Let it be her day, and let her choose which day it is, within reason.\n\nA busy mother often lacks time for herself. She dreams about being able to take walks alone, stay in the shower more than 2 minutes and finish the book she started when you were born! Giving the gift of time isn't so hard. What it means is that you take over some chores or a day's worth of chores or watch younger siblings to allow her to do whatever she wants to do.\n\nShe doesn't need to go anywhere (unless she wants to), or do anything special... just whatever she wants to do.\n\nA clean house! This is another "take over the chores" type of gift, but with a twist. Having a clean house makes anyone feel good, so give a hand made gift certificate for cleaning time at her request. Make eight (or however many hours' worth you want to give) boxes on the certificate (or individual certificates) and in each one write "1 Hour." She can choose whether she wants an hour a day for eight days, a full day's work, or an hour or two here and there. What could make a homemaker happier?\n\nYou can do a one time job for her, like cleaning out a storage shed or washing and waxing her car. Washing windows on the house, or doing other heavy house cleaning are other possibilities.
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I live two hours away from my mom too.  I am driving up there, just doing pedicures, and going to a nice place for dinner.  She will love the fact that I drove home, alone, but even more when I surprise her with the pedicures and dinner.
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Maybe it is time for you or one of your Brothers to go visiting with Mom and Sis. I think it sounds like there needs to be more communication between you siblings.\nDoes your sister have anyone that relieves her ever? Is she stuck there 24/7, 365 days a year?\nDon't get me wrong, I love my Mother but she came to visit me for a month and I was so ready for her to leave. She is in good health but she lives in the past. She tells the same stories over and over to the point that I had them memorized myself. \nMaybe it is time for your sister to take a long break, since she is verbally abusive to your Mom. She might be feeling that she is entitle to any money because of the time that she has put in.\nSomeone with suicidal tendencies shouldn't be in charge of any one else, little lone a person in ill health.
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You sound like such a thoughtful person! You also seem very well-spoken. You should write her a poem or a nice letter telling her why you appreciate and love her. You could make a frame for it, or if you have a tiny bit of money, you could buy a premade frame at a craft store for under $3 and decorate it.\n\nYou could also take a picture, or have a picture taken of you and siblings/pets/dad/other important family member.\n\nI am almost 26 and my mom still prefers the handmade gifts, even when I have money to buy her something nice.
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SPEND EVERY SECOND, MINUTE, AND HOUR WITH MY FAMILY THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT
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can't you see each other without the aid of anybody? there are lots of ways you know. but, just in case that there are no more options left, tell your mom, who knows, your mom and her bestfriend might even like the idea. :)
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Try having a baby...you will be 'upgraded' to a parent and that feeling will definitely revive all that jazz...it will also bring you two closer in body and soul.
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Spend time with my children and wife