Husband confronted about Porn says he can't stop COLD TURKEY?
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Addictions are serious things to leave.  Viewing pornography is very addictive and you need help to get out of it.  Talk with your husband and install some parental control on your PC, with the only condition that you will set the password protection in it, so he cannot turn it off.\nIt's not impossible and it can be done.  Just make sure you are both in the same page, otherwise its going to bring you a lot of misery and shame.
624570
Not knowing your husband, has there truly been any hostile action on his part to made you think your life is in danger?  Probably not, because when confronted he felt he would kill himself instead of do harm to his family.  It is purely the easy availability of the Internet that has caused so many men (and some women) to be curious.  If not for the Internet, he probably wouldn't have crossed the street to see a picture of a midget, teen, animal or corpse having sex. Men have high sexual curiosity, that was put there by God, as an animal instinct.\nMasturbation is a normal activity of mostly all humans, even those that are married.  That, no doubt, is how he eliminates his sexual curiosity once he is on the Internet.  However, for a man, being horny is one of the most reliable and renewable resources that there is.  How many men in the clergy have been outed for actually acting out on their own sexual curiosities?  How about Bill Clinton, Jesse Jackson, hundreds of priests, ministers and rabbis?\nDon't judge him for being human.  Judge him for taking on the responsibility of you and your three kids from a previous marriage.  He is probably as good a man as they come.
961001
Before worrying about the law, worry about yourself and your kids!!!!  Get the hell out of there and report him to the police.  Child Porn is an abomination and those who view it, and produce it should be burned at the stake, after being burned with acid, after having their privates bitten off by a rabid dog.  Your husband is disgusting, and if you stay with him, you are endorsing his behavior, and putting children at risk.\n\nAnd anyone giving you tips on how to get rid of the evidence, you should be ashamed of yourself.  What if it were your kids he's looking at?
1108511
The issue here isn't the porn, it's the sneaking around and the lying about it. That's your real problem.\nIt's only the beginning hon, unless you go get help now.\nMy ex started with magazines, then on to movies, then the Internet. At times he got so engrossed in it that I could walk right up behind him and he wouldn't know I was there. I'm not a prude and would do anything for him then, but yet he was so hooked on porn that I had to go without for 3 -6 weeks at a time. Finally, I was working nights, he was supposed to be home watching our son, who he had exposed to this crap "accidentally" a few times before. He was sitting in the recliner acting all comfy and sleepy. Just as soon as I had left the house he jumped up and ran to a local strip club, leaving our son unattended. After years of promises and trying I finally left him. Don't let that happen to you. Talk to him and then get counseling.\nI just wonder why there are so many women on here that are trying to make it sound like it's the woman's fault? Sad............
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Maybe he should try an energy enhancement, like Red Bull. It'll help him get thru the evening without falling asleep on you. You don't believe in masturbating?? I think he's not the one with issues here. I'm sorry, if my hubby couldn't perform for me, after a few days, I have to do something. I have toys, plus do the other stuff. Women have needs, and there's nothing wrong with masturbation, unless you have no idea how to do it....Its perfectly normal and healthy to masturbate!....GL;)
33677
Wow that is a tough situation to be and I know several in that same boat. Whether it is alcohol or pot or other illegal substances, the decision is only his to stop. The thing to do for yourself, assuming you are not using,is to go to get counseling see if your spouse is willing, though I have heard they very seldom tell the truth about what they do or especially how much. If it is hurting your relationship then maybe it is time to communicate this to him. I wish I could offer more. I feel for you. Good luck
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men that are addicted to porn are the men who have some kind of problems... it's because they have too much hormone going on or they have some stuuf that they cannot release and they do it by watching porn. some men are into it because they are deprived from the real stuff... and they are not getting what they want. they are the type who dont get satisfied usually... beware with men like that.
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Yes, it is. \nI found porn on my hubby's laptop, and (after I deleted it all, of course), I REALLY let him know how much it bothers me. He hasn't watched porn since. \n\nYou are his wife, and he should respect you, and to not do what bothers you. Contrary to popular belief, men do NOT have to look at porn...it's not a necessity for them to continue living. \n\nMy suggestion to you is to talk to your hubby about it...seriously talk. Also, consider all the reasons why he would be looking at porn. For example, if you two are not as intimate as you once were because of busy lives (jobs, kids, ect...). If this is the case, then do whatever you can to make time for him. Men need to feel attractive, desirable and wanted just like women need to. \nI wish you best luck!\n-Pegasus
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Honestly I dont think there is anything wrong with it somethimes a guy just needs to relieve himself but doesnt want to push himself on his spouse. In some cases it spices things up. It doesnt necessarly mean that he is not satisfied. LOL if he isnt be gratefull he has settled with porn instead of other women. I will admit that i prefer to go at i tmore then once a week myself  Me and my gf go every other day or every two days but for some once a week is enough   good luck
1108969
i dont think it is the porn that you are upset about, i think that it is the fact that he kept it from you. Explain to him that he doesnt need to keep anything from you no matter what it is. You will support him and stick by him that is why you married him.
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Stacy,\n\nI answered your last question because it appeared you wanted to know how to move on but this question is now about not moving on and instead trying to help your husband with his drinking problem. My answer to this will be short and to the point ... you cant. Unless he wants help and is willing to make the sacrifices to stop drinking and change his life he will never stop and things will only get worse with time.
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I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.
537952
I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
913490
Excuse me if I sound a little impolite but I think you have a control issue here! YOU thought it was time to share fantasies; YOU told him you should watch porn together; YOU have a higher sex drive; what can YOU do?\n\nFor goodness sake, give the guy a break.  Not everyone enjoys fantasies and porn and some people are a little uneasy with that level of intimacy.  Listen to him and his needs.  He doesn't want that right now.  Stop pushing or you will lose him.
730074
Tell him you want him to delete all the porn becuse he doesnt need it anymore since he has you. And he might also need some therapy.
867653
Once the habit has formed, it's really difficult to break.  So, just try confronting him every time you see it to find out if he'll try to stop.
715749
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.