This older woman (39) and I (26) like each other but she has a partner. I think of her alot-what can i do?
400478
Well, do you fancy yourself in love with this woman? Becuase if you do, then honey you are setting yourself up for failure. If this is just a mutual attraction and you want to experiment and just have a purely sexual encounter with her, then that's a different story. Uncommitted sex is pretty easy, it's when one of the paties involved has actual feelings for the other is when the situation gets out of control. Your an adult and as such should be able to comprehend that there will be consequences that arise form such affairs. If you feel you can deal with them as they unfold, then by all means go after what you want. But, just remember even though you have no partner to account to... she does, and you will be just as guilty of infidelity as she. Can you live with that? Peace.
820054
No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
918361
Sounds like you are getting some of your own medicine there buddy.  Why was it ok for you to be with both of them while you made up your mind, but not ok for her to be with both of you while she makes up her mind?  You say I alot in that paragraph as though you have given up something you wanted, and the decision is soley yours if you spend your life with Jen.  It's not.  It's up to Jen too and since you started this, you kind of have to wait for her to figure it out the way you did.\nI'm sorry you are hurting, but this is what you wanted, time to decide if she was the one.  Now give her the same courtesy.
1130213
well if she admit that she still love this guy (by the way do you have a kids?)its up to you man to decide,i mean with kids or without kids how can she focus on loving and doing her duty as a mum if she's thinking somebody else. besides after 5 years with you how she give herself to you if that guy is still in her mind
492684
Ahhh, I`m the same way. You are blessed. Make her your friend. We have been married 35 years and we are best friends. I am so glad for you.. Good luck and God Bless,... {:-)\n\n<><\nHave fun. Life is short.. Be honest with each other and show each other the same respect for each other that you would anyone else..
876899
If you're 30 and she is 10, stay away from her.  However, if you are 70 and she is 50 - go for it, if the feeling is mutual.\n\nIt IS wrong if she is a minor or of immature character.  It is NOT wrong if you are both legal, competent adults in love.   If this is the case, and you love her - I hope she loves you too.\n\nLoves involves a shared life, shared values, mutual respect, and regular communication.
1089948
I've been married for over 22 years and I still have a crush on my wife.
121745
I feel you should know the person very well, if you two have been living together for a while. But in the same token you should ask how well does your know you? It must be a reason why this question is asked, for there might be some unresolved issues that may be at hand.  Just something to think about.......Feel me!
81964
If you think she is hiding something, she probably is.  I am 38, and I would have to say we don't have any certain characteristics.  I am assuming you are involved in a relationship with this person?  If thats the case, you need to reevalute the situation.  Seems to me you are lacking trust, honesty, and communication.  Why would you even want to persue it?
794527
After 27 years your heart just doesnt close to that person, Maybe they couldnt live together, that does not mean that there is not some kinda love still. Even if its a friendship love or a respect love. Or a love because of children maybe born of the relationship There could be many factors to why there is still some "worry" attached into all that!
731731
It's amazing that after all these years, you still feel something for her. And I think it's just proper that she knows how you feel. I suggest telling her that you've been in love with her for the longest time and just wait for her response. If the feeling's been there for a very long time, i believe it's worth telling. And it's worth risking rejection. Sure, you may get rejected but it's going to be worth it. Who knows? She may tell you she loves you too and it's all good, right?
11339
jus mail me and tell how old r u and old is the other person . but i think just when both of you and her r alone write on a paper that what personalities do u except form ur future husband and ask to to write the answer on the paper .then u tell 'i like u more than a friend ,u know what i mean , i love u .would u except my proposal ?'
708879
you are doing the right thing... she's hurt, it ll take her time to trust anyone... even ppl like u who has good intentions.. well if u really feel u ve met the right person, its worth the wait... but be prepared for the worst too... its upto u, whether u think the wait is a waste of time... midly (not in ur face) prove to her u are worthy of her trust.. i hope u like this woman !!! anywyz, good luck with it :)
843068
SOUNDS LIKE YOU STILL LIKE YOUR OLD GIRL, BUT, YOUR TRYING TO COVER IT UP BY TRYING TO DATE SOMEONE ELSE. IT WONT WORK OUT IF YOU STILL LOVE THE OTHER GIRL.
1099911
hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
257987
I guess this depends on the kind of feelings that you are having with these 2 diffrent people..... you need to take a step back and look to see which one of these people will be with you years from now and which one you can see yourself growing old and having something with.... but you cant continue playing these games because you will lose it all if you continue games. Is it worth it?!?! You need to make a decision my friend...
649481
As you said, you felt in love with this woman, and love is not just feeling is a consequence of major elements such as respect, faith, honesty , satisfaction .... etc. and when you have these components you are in love ... so, if there is a confidence and honesty between you both .. you have to believe her and trust her ... any way, you are the only one who can judge on your relation and how things are going on.. wish you good luck with her