Why did you get MARRIED?
409830
Not because I could live with him, but because I couldn't live without him.  There's some intangible thing that just makes us 'click'.  Peas and carrots, PB&J, Sonny & Cher (ok, bad example).  We're best friends with benefits.  My marriage has been the best and hardest thing I've ever done.  I have found happiness but it wasn't the cakewalk I thought it would be.  We lost the rose colored glasses in year three.  Being married includes birthdays and funerals.   And we've learned it's better to be happy than to be right all the time.
485359
No, I wouldn't want to stay married because I feel trapped in marriage. I felt like I just, "settled" with my husband out of fear of being alone. I think he did the same, but is too proud to admit it. We aren't each others soul mate because we have NOTHING in common and do not have the same expectations in life. We simply got comfortable with each other and left it that way.
483880
Over a period of time, marriage is even more than I/we had expected! You see when you start out, it's the two of you and think this is it! How could life be any better than what I am feeling right now?How could love grow? Then you go through great times like births, going to other weddings, going places, adoptions, all of it, and then you go through really hard times,thoughts and feelings, why did we get married?What are we doing here?Is this what I/we wanted? People change over time, people are different. You want to learn and grow together along life's journey. You also go through deaths, kid's sickness,surgeries, is he/she cheating on you?All of it, and after years, not of abuse,never ever accept that, but you just realize how Blessed you are to have this full,married life with beautiful kids(the good and the hard there too!!)An awesome feeling to know that somebody in this world, is there for you, knows you and loves you anyways!!:) So after 20 years, can honestly say, it is more than I ever expected, it is awesome, but it is a journey,it is work, it is fun times, hard times, but you do it together and that love just grows beyond your wildest dreams!!!
1165984
My fiance' and I are getting married in dec. and we are both still virgins and proud of it. We have saved ourselves until our wedding night. We did this to be honoring of each other and to be honoring of God.
747914
Tell it you want to get married.
387773
I love being married.  There is nothing better than being with someone who knows your every emotion.  Knows when you need a hug, or when you need to laugh.  Or just someone to be silly with.  Burdens are halved and joys are doubled.  It couldn't be better to do all of that with someone you love and who loves you.
819151
Sure, lets get married. Would that help you?
660569
Well, we got engaged, then married, and then bought a house.  \n\nYou need to discuss this with him.  He might be of the opinion that he's getting all the "benefits" of marriage without the committment, so why get married?  Ask him what's stopping him from marriage.  You have a right to know these things.
452948
I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
365532
If I was with somebody for a while, and we suddenly got really passionate or something, and decided we couldn't wait any more, I would probably do it, and not tell anyone. Then later I would have a big wedding and tell everyone there that we had already been married for a while.
848788
WTF you are married to me....humph....
1156498
Happened to me. We have been married now for almost 4 yrs and we have 2 kids.
262529
Ok.. well I'm a weirdo .. I never thought I would get married. I wasnt one of those little girls that sat and planned their wedding in their heads down to the last detail. In fact in highschool I always told my friends and parents that I would be the little old lady on the hill with 50 bijillion cats.\nsoooo I guess my point is I never felt I needed to be married in the first place.
1181298
I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
420030
people get married because they are gambling on a feeling lasting.  the thing is a crap shoot at best. about 50% of marriages end in divorce, and most of them end bad.  But, if it's a good marriage it's better than anything immaginable.
395644
I prefer marriage over just living together. It tells me he loves me enough to commit to being together for the rest of our lives. To stand before God, family and friends and declare his undying love for me. It's the only way for me.
1165408
We'd both been married before and definitely didn't want to have a big wedding.  We decided to go to New Orleans and leave everyone else behind.  My grown kids were kinda upset, but this wedding was for us.\n\nWe got married in a chapel a block from Bourbon Street and spent our honeymoon there for the next 3 days.  It was wonderful.  If I had it to do all over again, I'd do the same thing.  Not much expense and no headaches.  Wedding and honeymoon all in the same place.\n\nThis was 3 and half years ago, before the hurricane by the way.  I wanted a memorable wedding and it was.