fiancee/i have been engaged for 7mo and together a total over 3 yrs. if we don't work, do i give the ring bk?
414340
Yes if you don't get married the ring needs to go back to him . The ring was put on your finger for marriage so if you break it off it's no longer yours . It would only be right to give it back .\n\nAngel
847784
Absolutely not. He has called off the engagement three times...honey, he doesn't love you. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but someone needs to tell you. If you have his baby, he will dump you and you will end up raising this child all alone and that is not fair to the child.
368873
Honestly...I wouldn't do it. Proposing to guy is like having him walk down the aisle while you wait at the alter. I know many people throw out traditions in today's "modern" world but I still wouldn't do it. If you've changed your mind about getting married, talk to him about it first or drop a hint that you wouldn't mind have something sparkly to wear on your ring finger. Proposing to my wife was and still is one of the greatest moments of my life and I would hate to have that moment taken away.\n\nAlso...his buddies will NEVER let him live it down ;o)
647331
How about umm....MARRIAGE first? It's not just a piece of paper. He needs to MARRY you and make the public legal and moral commitment to you before he starts talking about you having his baby. Your relationship doesn't sound stable. Take all the right steps to be sure the two of you will stay together before you bring another PERSON into the picture. A baby isn't just a thing. It's a real person with needs and feelings. Kids deserve TWO parents that love them and will be there for them. Of course it doesn't always work out that way but shouldn't we at least TRY to seriously make that happen to the best of our ability and not just half as s the situation? NO WEDDING RING = NO BABY.
955782
I was married at 28, engaged 8 months before. Engaged after knowing him for three years, and dating for two of those.\nBest advice is to finish school, live on your own separately so you know what real life is like - to earn a salary and pay your bills. If your love will wait, then get engaged.
580804
You need to consider your engagement. Maybe you are not quite ready to settle down with your fiance'. If you are questioning what you should do, my suggestion is that you should not get married just yet. You are obviously not ready to tie the knot. A lot easier to deal with before you get married than after. You need to do a lot of soul searching. Don't make a mistake that you will regret.
37805
Depends on how long you have been with this person.  But if it has been long enogh that you know you want to take the relationship to the next level, every girl wants to get engaged on Valentine's Day.  If you aren't ready give her a ring and tell her to wear it on the right hand and tell her when both of you are ready you will move it to the left. (I always thought that would be sweet)
1170271
It depends on the both of you.  Since he's older, what is it that he is pursuing in life; and what is it that you are pursuing in life.  Sometimes, promise rings are just place holders for the time being and can be deceiving.  Other times, they are true from the heart.  But let me warn you that the heart changes with time.
96771
1st - DO NOT MAKE THIS DECISION WHILE HEAD OVER HEAL IN LUV!\n\n2nd - What is marriage to you?  What have you defined marriage to be?\n\nWhat will happen 1 year after you're married.  Do you want to be the provider and have her stay home? Do you want both of you to work so you'll have a great home? Do you want kids right away?\nWhat do you want in 5 years into the marriage? \nWhat do you want in 10 years into the marriage?\nWhat do you want in 20 years into the marriage? \nSit with yourself and ask these tough questions.  Then re-ask these questions in a week.  If you feel confident that you're honest with yourself, then approach your girl. If you're not quite satisfied with your internal question, keep asking and answering yourself untill your confident.\n\n3rd - When you're confident in what you want ... Ask these same questions to your girl friend.  BEWARE ... She'll freak and probably start crying thinking you're asking her out!!! Make it clear that this is a discusion only, and you're trying to figure out the "Next Step".  Then ask her several times after the first questions <Just like you did with you>. \n\nIf you've evaluated the situation and feel that for the two of you to form a union, you can then you can pre-pair that special occation with the ring, and the right setting to ask for her hand in marriage.\n\nBest wishes.
504384
Okay first this is a decision totally based upon when he feels ready. Pressuring him will make the sitiation intensely more difficult But the good news is he actually sounds as if he is planning something...I was very confused just like you before my fiance proposed he always made it clear to me that it would eventually happen just not as soon as I wanted but sure enough he proposed..So let him do this at his own pace..Your realtionship sounds solid so just give him the time he needs this is a HUGE step for both of you....I have a feeling congradualtions will be something you will hear soon!
468279
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
827414
Be honest witn your boyfriend. It was very sweet of him to get you a promise ring, but accidents to happen. If he loves you, then he may be a little disappointed but it will be ok.\n\nMention to him that you found one just like it online and that you would like to get it. If he offers to get it for you, then let him. You can do something special for him in return. And if he's ok with the idea but doesn't offer to buy it for you, then go ahead and get it. \n\nHopefully it will eventually turn up somewhere. But if you try to secretly replace it and it turns up after that, you would have some explaining to do. - Just tell him what's going on.\n\nDo the two of you live together and use the same car? Could it have gotten lost at his place or in his car where you wouldn't have found it?
673045
It's all about tradition.  Not only is the man traditionally the one who initiates the engagement, but men don't usually wear engagement rings, so unless he wants to wear a ring (and you don't), you won't have the traditional "token" to offer him when you ask for his hand.  Just some things to think about!\n\nIf you are more progressive and want to propose, Congratulations... have  at it.  Marriage is a wonderful thing and I hope that it all works out for you.
1132660
Depends on how long you have know him.  I would give it some more time.  You haven't been together that long.  My hubby and I only dated a month before we got engaged, but we had know and been friends with each other for 10 years.
355386
Don't put a time limit on it . Just wait until you are 100% sure that you love this woman enough to spend the rest of your live with her and you are certain she is the one you will respect and take care of and give your life for hers if necessary. Remember : the ring is just a symbol of your LOVE.
660395
The way I see it, a wrap can double as a wedding band.  Just give him the ring back the day before the wedding.  Then he can give you the e-ring and the wrap together as your wedding band.  Congratulations on the wedding!!!!
384586
Well you have the right to have doubts about your marriage with the high divorce rate in America.  The great thing is you guys are not rushing into anything.  You have dated for 2 years and still want to wait another 2 years.  Don't let your family's inability to stay married dictate your future marriage's success.  Use the next 2 years to learn more about your fiance.  Learn what broke up so many marriages in your family and try to avoid those things.  For example, if finances were a problem, then make sure you and your fiance have your finances in order before you get married.  I think with work, anything is possible.  I think you guys will have a wonderful marriage because you did not have one negative thing to say about him.  And that shows me that he is pleasing to you and that is all that matters in a relationship.