do you believe someone would go to marriage counseling just for you?
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I did.\n\nMy marriage was in danger of falling over.\n\nIf a person is truly committed, they will do this. At the very least, go for yourself and clarify things in your mind.
505349
Maybe you need couples counseling.
1020386
I will have to call my ex-wife and see how she did it and i will get back to you. I kind of suspect that marriage will do it in most cases though.
1005053
Some college's have career counseling... it might be a good option for you...
723525
I think most do in fantasy.  But if they love their spouse, they know the hurt it would cause.  So they come back to reality and love their spouse.
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Let the counseling take its course.  Sometimes it takes a while and this is early to consider alternatives.    \n\nDont let this board or any other individual or group influence you to do someting you might regret.  I would normally answer a question like this very sarcastically, but your seem very sincere.  You will still be responsible for your actions even if you let Yahoo Ansers make up your mind for you\n\nSexual surrogacy  (legitimate) has its place in the lives of some (very open minded) people, but only in certain situations and only with competant supervision. Consider this, or something like it only if your counseler suggests it.  Be carefull if it comes from your wife, you still may pay dearly if you go thru with it.  And it should allways involve both of you.  \n\nOn the other hand.  Have you and your wife discussed this, alone or with the counselor?  Is she sympathetic to the way you feel?  Open minded?  If she cares, you have discussed it, and she is willing to try -  Within her boundries there must be ways to get her interested or get you satiated.  Bringing in a third or a couple is probably a last choice.  \nWhatever you do, discuss it at length and be sure you know what is and is not okay to do.
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If I was with somebody for a while, and we suddenly got really passionate or something, and decided we couldn't wait any more, I would probably do it, and not tell anyone. Then later I would have a big wedding and tell everyone there that we had already been married for a while.
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Yes, I believe in marriage. I married my husband because I was, and still am, in love with him. In the eyes of GOD, we share each other and are bonded to one another. We became one person on that day. That's not to say that we don't have individual thoughts, feelings and ideas but to say that we share feelings, thoughts and ideas with each other in a way unlike if we knew "there would be a way out" or "backdoor". He is half of me and I half of him. We have from that day on thought of each other and consulted each other before making decisions to be courteous and considerate of the other feelings. The one you marry would, rather should, love you through it all and truly mean the words he/she vows. For me, I know my husband does and as do I. It's hard but it's well worth all the effort. I hope that you can find this kind of love and one day decide to share this kind of bond with someone you will love for always. Best wishes. Take care.
32476
Yeah, you probably will if you are trusting enough to ask complete strangers for relationship advice online. Good luck with that divorce too.
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I am not naive, however, I would attempt to help my husband.  He is my heart, if you love someone you do not walk away if they make a bad choice or mistake.
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I think you should, but when you feel you are emotionally ready. A very good friend of mine was in a motorcycle accident with his wife in which his wife died.  That was two years ago last Nov.  He wants to move on with his life while his kids don't want him to remarry because they're not ready.  Not everybody will be ready at the same time.  So far, my friend is still a widower and single.  I can see him getting married again and hope he does.  I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you recover from it.\n\nGod designed marriage as a companionship and when you don't have that anymore, you will miss it and want to have it again.  It's only natural in that sense.  Pray for wisdom and God will give it.
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Hmmm why do people feel the need to add third parties to their marriages when they are having problems? Why not discuss the problem with your spouse and maybe try counseling? And marriage is about a lot more than just sex. If you're ready to just drop your pants and jump in the bed with another man maybe you don't need to be married. Get a divorce, be single and screw all ya want!!
61799
Well I think finding the right person makes you feel that way, marriage just leagalizes the whole thing. Once you do find someone that you can love unconditionally and forever, then you'll see I guess!
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Hey, you have my name!  J/K, glad to see another believer has my name at least.  My thoughts and prayers for you are that you truly seek God's face during this time.  Getting married will not solve your fiance's situation.  In fact, it might compound it with the newness of marriage and everything sexual involved with it.  I commend him for his want to overcome his situation, and I truly believe he needs to seek Godly counseling through the pastor or another strong believer with experience in these areas.  You, also, should attend counseling.  Don't let co-dependency conform you to "accepting" his addiction because your love is all powerful.  It can happen and that I believe is not God's will.  We should love God first, and our spouse second.  In this be on your face seeking God's will for your life.  Another thing for your fiance to keep in mind is that he doesn't have to prove anything to God, God knows every hair on our heads, I would think he knows what is in the depths of each of our hearts too.  He really has to live a different life daily and dissociate himself from everything to date that has caused his situation.  Counseling, support and accountability are what he needs big time.  Prayers and love =)
153231
first, get a counseling degree...
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Definitely!  It sounds like you are so in love that you can't possibly imagine having problems in marriage--just like every couple that's ever married.  It's normal, it's healthy, it's good, and that's why you're getting married.\n\nBut realistically, these "in love" feelings don't last forever, usually not for more than a couple years.  After you're married you're going to have to deal with issues like budgets, grocery shopping, and putting the toilet seat down.  Not very romantic stuff.\n\nA good pre-marital counselor will get the two of you to talk about issues now that you wouldn't even think of until you're much farther down the road.  And it's a lot better to discuss them now, while you still have a lot very positive feelings towards each other.  It's also better to discuss them now, rather than in the heat of the moment when conflict can grow destructive.\n\nSo I definitely encourage you to get pre-marital counseling, and do all the homework the counselor gives you.  The time in the office will be useful, but the time that you spend discussing the questions you receive will be even more profitable.
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You should go anyway by yourself. It may help you work on ways to bring things up with her. And if what you are trying to do is communicate, the counselor should be able to suggest ways to work on that. If she sees it helping you, she may realize it's a good thing. \n\nHer fear of counseling is not unreasonable. I had a marriage counselor tell me that spouses who want to end their marriage sometimes suggest marriage counseling because it is a "safe" place to dump their spouse, with a counselor to help deal with the fallout.