wife has lost sexual desires and she wants it back?
408848
if its after a PREGNANCY then you should see a doctor cause its really common and the problem is physical caused by the labour.
873467
How about less pressure from you? Many times women lose appreciation for sex when the "spark" has faded and their partner just becomes a horny jerk who sees her as a recepticle for his own self-gratification. If you really care about her, you'll stop trying to get her into the sack and take her to a nice restaurant, enjoy a romantic getaway, be attentive and a good listener. Be the man she fell in love with in the first place.
507084
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.
1098760
Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
546697
haha.. if there is, i'd like to know too.  my wife has lost 300% of her arousal :(
153521
It sounds like you wife needs to see a Doctor first. She could have a medical condition that needs to be addressed. If that doesn't work then take her to a Psychologist for help with your sex life. Good luck
381227
As a guy, I know that I want to be the one to give my wife what she wants. I don't want to be nagged, or reminded of how I messed up and didn't give her what she needed. (not to say you are doing this, but some women do) I think you need to back off. Let him miss you a little. Start doing things you enjoy with friends, or by yourself. Let him want to join your club. Or do something hot and freaky, and keep him coming back for more. Either way this should open things up.
1018970
Lack of desire is the most common sexual problem in women. It can be caused by problems in a woman's relationship with her partner, stress, fatigue, medications and low levels of the hormones estrogen or androgen. Often, lack of desire is affected by a woman's relationship with her sexual partner. The more a woman enjoys the relationship, the greater the desire for sex.
837005
Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.
942323
Wow, I give you a lot of credit! I would have lost my patience a long time ago. I think before you look elsewhere for physical contact, suggest going to counseling with your wife. She obviously has some issues she needs to overcome and you should try to stick by her while she works them out. If she refuses to go to counseling, I would be very tempted to get out of the relationship rather than cheat which is only going to complicate things further. Good luck!
188647
Have you tried talking to her about this? Is she aware that things have changed?  You both may want to talk to her doctor to see if you have any options on a medical point of view.  You may have to make some changes as to the way your sex life used to be while she is going through this. Let her know how much you love her and how she makes you feel and let her know that even though you don't understand what she is going through you are there for her. I think it is wonderful how you described your feelings for her. You also may want to do some research on menopause. It doesn't effect every woman the same way. If she is having hot flashes she may want to try Remifemin, which is over the counter. Of course, she should ask her doctor about this first. If he says it is okay to try and she would have the need to use it you can go to their website and they will send her a free sample. I believe it is enough for at least 2 weeks. It really helped me.  Good Luck to both of you.
1149268
its from a lack of something in the home. We got along with everything else, except for sex. We could play and tease all day then at night I would be all worked up and she would roll over in bed to sleep like nothing had happened. I tried talking with her about how I felt and about her lack of interest. She would acknowledge her lack of sex drive but would never do anything about it.
402941
Being a mature woman myself, I have to tell you that it will take patience & work on your part,but do know that it will be well worth the trouble. Most women ,of any age, need to be reassured that they are attractive & desirable. Try to think of your Wife as a Girlfriend that you are trying to impress.You will find yourself being more romantic & thoughtful towards her. This will help her start to like herself again & her sexual desires will return. IF YOU ARE PATIENT ENOUGH.Or should I say...IF YOU LOVE HER ENOUGH!! You could also ask her if she has any  sexual fantasies,or if she would tell you what she would prefer that you do. Sometimes, when a woman isn't in the mood... It would please both of you if she were to please you ;-). This should be expected only on occasion. It sometimes works also to make an agreement ahead of time,to just cuddle,kiss & rub your hands all over each other,but DO NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE. Just knowing that it is just for stimulation & nothing more,will excite both of you. Then plan for the next time to do the same ...BUT... agree that if she wants to go farther you will,if not,enjoy the closeness you have achieved & go for the next time. As I said, PATIENCE. IT WILL BE WORTH IT FOR BOTH OF YOU, I PROMISE.   P.S. If you are as mature as she is... Your time is coming too.
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.
771877
Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
556988
oh you poor thing...you're not bored\nyou are utterly\n\nE X H A U S T E D \n\nbuy the wife some toys and tell her you just want to watch her once in awhile...maybe that can give you a much needed break and it can also serve to spice things up\n\ngood luck dear and get some rest...\nmy hubbie has the same problem
953670
I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!