why do people lie ????
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Everybody lies.  It may only be “white” lies, but everyone tells lies or “omits the truth” sometimes. \n\nWe start lying at around age 4 to 5 when children gain an awareness of the use and power of language.  This first lying is not malicious, but rather to find out, or test, what can manipulated in a child’s environment.  Eventually children begin to use lying to get out of trouble or get something they want. \n\nWhite lies, those concocted to protect someone’s feelings, are not a big deal at all.  The person, however, who seems to feel compelled to lie about both the small and large stuff has a problem. \n\nWe often call these folks pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis).  They lie to protect themselves, look good, gain financially or socially and avoid punishment.  Quite often the person who has been deceived knows that this type of liar has to a certain extent deluded him or herself and is therefore to be somewhat pitied.\n\nA much more troubling group is those who lie a lot — and knowingly — for personal gain. These people may have a diagnosis called antisocial personality disorder, also known as being a sociopath, and often get into scrapes with the law. \n\nLying often gets worse with the passage of time. When you get away with a lie it often impels you to continue your deceptions. Also, liars often find themselves perpetrating more untruths to cover themselves. \n\nWe hold different people to different standards when it comes to telling the truth.  We expect, for example, less honesty from politicians than from scientists.  We have a vision of purity about those who are doing research, while we imagine that politicians will at least shade the truth about themselves in order to get elected. \n\nWhy do we dislike liars, especially sociopaths, so much? It’s a matter of trust.  When a person lies, they have broken a bond – an unspoken agreement to treat others as we would like to be treated.  Serious deception often makes it impossible for us to trust another person again. \n\nBecause the issue of trust is on the line, coming clean about the lie as soon as possible is the best way to mend fences.  If the truth only comes out once it is forced, repair of trust is far less likely. \n\nAs a parent, the most important message you can send your children about lying is that you always — always — want them to come clean with you.  No matter how big a whopper they have told, remind them that you would always rather hear the truth, no matter how bad it is, than be deceived.  Tell them there is really nothing more sacred in your relationship than your trust of each other. \n\nOf course, all this presupposes that we have discovered an untruth — some people are so expert at deception that it often takes a long time to find out that we have been lied to.\n\nHow, then, can we best detect whether we are being misled? There is no foolproof way, but there are often clues you can see in behavior that should make you suspicious:\n\nAvoidance of eye contact: Usually someone makes eye contact at least half the time they are talking to you.  If you notice them avoiding eye contact or looking down during a specific part of a conversation, they may well be lying.\n\nChange of voice: A variation in pitch of voice or rate of speech can be a sign of lying.  So can lots of umms and ahhs.\n\nBody language. Turning your body away, covering your face or mouth, a lot of fidgeting of hands or legs can indicate deception.\n\nContradicting yourself:. Making statements that just don’t hold together should make you suspicious. \n\nIf you lie all the time, even about unimportant things, you are likely to have a problem that will eventually -- if it hasn’t already -- cause you real relationship, financial or legal troubles. Figuring out what is driving you to lie in the first place will help heal this self-destructive behavior. This may mean going into treatment with a therapist to discover why you feel the ne
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It is always better to tell the truth.  Lying in any situation is unsound, and usually betrays a lack of courage - the courage to say "I don't want to answer that", or "Well, yes, you are a bit fat, but I love you anyway and if you want to change it why don't we work on it together?" or something like that.  Lying, ultimately, can only ever hurt you, and the person or people you lie to.
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Some of the men prefer lie to make the other feel better or the situation look better. However, women will cry when they know they are lain even the lie is with a good reason behide.\n\nHow do you think?
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The true is not simple.\n\nSometimes we lie because it is uncontrolable. If I want   impress my date with subtle things. I don't lie much. That is not a lie. When I lie to make myself look good is usually when I stretch the truth a little. Example: I will say I am graduating soon, but in reality I still have a few semesters to go. \n\nI do it to not make myself look bad. To me, it is almost like there is a light switch when talking to someone. Say something they don't like and the light turns off and you are in the dark. If you say something that make you look good, the light turns on. I think that women are careful listeners. They are examining our every word and move. I don't want to scare anyone away. \n\nI know lying is not good, but it really does help a guy to have a chance. For some, if all they told was the truth, they will not get any further than hello. \n\nNow let's talk about somthing close to lying. How about makeup and plastic surgery. I compare these two as lying and literally stretching the truth.
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Lying is not just not a guy problem as I know many women that lie as well. I personally do not get why anyone has to lie, I am one of those people that will tell you the truth even if it gets me in trouble. I hate liars, I would rather live with a thief than a liar. The relationship that I am in now, lying is a big problem and I am ready to throw it all away because it is hard to regain the trust back that was lost because of lying.
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You can tell if a person is lying when they hesitate in revealing certain information, they avoid eye contact and they shuffle their feet (if standing). Avoiding eye contact is one way a person lies, as people feel uncomfortable in lying to another person and as such, will try his best to avoid eye contact at all times...\n\nThey will also try to do anything else but focus on the conversation at hand...
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we lie for all the above reasons......AND because we are TAUGHT to lie in order to avoid unpleasant consequences of telling the truth.. the mother of a 5 year old girl will scold her child for telling another person they are fat, so the child learns to lie, or at least keep her opinions to herself!
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They hate when someone else recognizes that they are lying or they don't want to admit something to themselves. It doesn't seem so bad until they hear it from another person.\n\nI'd personally rather hear the truth even if it makes me mad. At least I respect you for saying it.
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People lie to build self-confidence in my opinion.  Reprecussions of being untruthful is people get hurt and you have to tell more lies to cover the first lie.  You always get caught!!
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Some people are really being honest and then some are just looking for an identity and trying to find it through you.\nLost people need direction and don't know how to get it unless they are using someone else.\nIf it really bothers you , simply ask them, "are you sure this is what you want or are you just doing it because I am?", they usually get the hint after a while.
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i believe your a liar. of course i would/wouldn't believe them. i mean, if i know them well, i could tell they're lieing, but if the person is telling the truth then the person wouldn't be a liar. if its a good liar then it's hard to say unless you really know them, but if it's a bad liar then u can tell they are lieing. if a liar sayed they were a liar then, she/he would be telling the truth, which wouldn't make them a liar at all. but if a truthful person said it, then they would be telling a lie, because they don't lie. so it would be called a ," triar" a person how both lies and says the truth. and if they werea triar and said it, then they would be saying a lith which is both the lie and the truth. what a random question.
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not a good one people tend to lie
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The short answer is: they don't.  Many people go through life lying to others and some of these lies end up not being caught.  But when it comes down to it lies won't hold up to intensive investigation and the light of truth.\n\nIf someone has reason to suspect a fact or is curious enough they will eventually be able to find out any mistake, omission or outright lie as evidenced by these proverbs from around the world:\n\nlies walk on short legs.  (german)\none can't stop the spreading of lies with more of them.\na liar is not to be believed, even when he speaks the truth.\n\nhope this helps.
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Because it is an easy way to explain an lie. And they don't have to admit that they have psychological problem that causes that shift in their minds. And yes they do have psychological problem which cause them to preform such un-natural acts.
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Certain things happen when folks lie. It is hard to make eye contact so you may want to try forcing that. Most people will give more details to a lie than when they are telling the truth. \nBut can you handle the truth?
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liars do a lot of damage in small quantities\n\nmurderers do it all in one go\n\nsame sh*t if u ask me\n\nnotice I said liars? these are people who take up lying as a habit.\n\nedit: liars have wrecked families...given wrong testimony that sent people to the electric chair..theyve caused wars! and all because: everybody lies...lies are just too small.
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i guess it's because most people don't dig your way of\nthinking. and if i were you, i'd just ignore them.\nso what if they call you a liar? you know in your heart\nthat you're not. and this is the net, come on! this may be\nthe real world but you have a choice not to make it your\nworld. don't indulge too much. and they're right, CHILL!