What is the nicest way to tell your 400-pound friend that they have to lose weight or they may die soon?
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theres no nice way u gotta be cruel to be kind!!
239164
Believe me, the person already knows they are way too large. It is great that you care, but any pressure put on someone who is overweight will only make them feel worse and only keep them from losing weight. A lot of times it will actually stimulate them into putting on more weight. No matter how well meant, the best thing to do for an over weight person is to not bring up their weight, their looks or that they need to lose weight. They already know all that and no matter how well meant, pointing it out to them is only going to backfire and make things worse. All that is proven facts in studies done by medical doctors and also in the psychiatric community. Just love the person for who they are. Not what their body looks like. Understandably, there is great concern about their health, but an intervention is not going to help that. If an over weight person is not ready to lose weight (and it is a very hard thing to do, almost anyone who is not over weight can NOT begin to imagine how hard it is to lose weight and to "diet") plus if they do lose weight, it will not stay off. If it is done for anything but themselves, it will NOT work. And most times when it is done for themselves because they are ready, 98% of the people who lose weight will put it back on. People are not over weight due to being lazy or all the old sterio typical ideas. There is so much proof out there now it is from genetics, and lots of other medical reasons. Please, do not put the person through an intervention. It won't help.
1170009
Whatever you say make sure u mean it..... Just let your friend know if he or she needs any help ...such as help around house yard w/kids running errands u r willing  and ready. That way your friend can concentrate more on getting well.  If your friends wants to talk  about their illness  truly listen.   Most importantly by all means, do not treat your friend any different than you have in past.
83898
If you don't want to tell them then show it to them. Do things that you wouldn't normally do for another person. Be nice to them and show them that you care.
966975
I'm not a good talker,but when i met my friend on the sick bed,i told her to be strong and and gave her a good head massage.Tell her/him that your love is there and you'll always be there if she needs you.The sickness will go,but your love and care are forever.
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There are many reasons why surgery would be a bad idea for your friend,  most have been mentioned by previous respondees so I will not repeat them.  \n\nMay I suggest that you are looking at this the wrong way?  The problem may not be so much how to get your friend smaller,  but rather,  to get your friend to look at the causes of her being overweight.  There are many reasons why a person would be overweight,  either by choice (concious or sub-conscious) or a physical cause.  The most common emotional reasons are:\n\nA fear of being attractive to the opposite sex\nAn addiction to food (could be caused by many things)\nA fear of being "small"\ninsecurity\nLow self esteem\nA desire to be accepted\nA fear of being accepted\n\nand so on\n\nAs you can see,  these are pretty serious things and so I would really recommend your friend spend her money on therapy rather than surgery\n\nThere are also a number of physical reasons why your friend may have weight issues such as thyroid imbalance,  genetics,  hormone related problems,  medication,  IBS and the list goes on.\n\nMay I suggest that it would be a better friendship if you accepted her fully for who she is now and not what she may be if she fitted into societys ideal weight.
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Tell her those guys are jerks........ but try to encourage her to lose weight.\n\nA lot of people say that we shouldn't care. Many say that we should love people loke they are. But, it is just more healthy to be fit.... period. Also, it would most likely be best for social reasons (even if being judgemental IS stupid) for a person to be fit and attractive. That's not to mention the psychological effects geing fit could add.
715575
They are probably just scared of you losing weight. Your obviously already a very pretty girl and they might just be jealous and worried. I would DEFINITELY cheer my friend on....heck I'd probably work out with her and we'd lost it together!! YOU GO GIRL!! YOUR AWESOME!!
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Your friend is about 50lb overweight based on 20 year old male(this is 25% over). Since he is only 14 he should weight a bit less due to lesser bone and muscle densities. There no cause for an immediate alarm however I would talk to a  physician and looked into improving his diet and exercise.\nCheck the sites below\n\nBest
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i put a sign on my ceiling that reads, "this, too, shall pass." every morning when i wake up its the first thing i see upon opening my eyes. every night when i fall asleep i close my eyes with that affirmation. \nwhen i have reached a different place in my life, i will remove it but right now i need the reminder that there are years of lean and years of fat. \n\nyour friend's memory will always be a part of you and some part of that will always cause you pain (15 years since my father died and not a day goes by that my heart doesn't flutter a little in the hurt of his loss). but you want to maintain her memory with the most happiness and joy in your heart. you may hurt over her loss for the rest of your life but you can also smile when you remember what you shared. one day, hopefully, the smiles will outnumber the frowns.
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She has a good friend. You're kind of in an awckward position to help an overweight friend. If you try to help her to get thinner, she might end up resenting you because she'll think you don't like her.\nRemember that being fat is not a body problem, it's an emotional problem. What you can help her the most is in raising her self-esteem while she remains fat. Tell her "it's Ok to be fat". Well, not in those words. Say "don't worry about what people say, people are very judgmental, and they don't understand that women have issues". Tell her "I don't think you hate your body because you're overweight, I think you have had emotions you haven't resolved yet". That sounds like psychobabble but it's pretty close to reality. You can probably find a better way to say it.\nIf you're just wishing she was thinner, and she's bringing you down emotionally, you need to think of yourself first, also. You might get to a point where you can't take it, and that is OK, you can take a break too.
1023897
Please God ~ If you can't make me thin  make my friends fat!!
205905
get a friend to tell\n him
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hmmm...she knows she is fat already. She might not want to talk about it but she is aware. The real question is why? \n\nCertainly take her to the gym, only eat healthy foods when you are with her but the best thing might be to be a friend and help her discover why she has let herself go....\n\nSometimes being heavy is in your DNA--and sometimes its in your emotional DNA.
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It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
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i wish that people would stop and think about everything that they are losing out on just because they think they are fat. i have been fat my whole life. i used to dread meeting new people because i was afraid of what they were thinking of me, now i could care less. there are way way bigger people in this world out there then 150 pounds. if you came up to me in person and said that you think you are fat i would laugh in your face. ill tell you what, you want me to send you a picture of some of my family members? i have an aunt that is close to 400 pound. and a cousin that is 330. and i aint no skinny minny myself. what you have to do is except yourself for what and who you are. if you dont like it then you should cut back on calories or lose it the right way because the ways that you are trying will work and then you will gain all of the weight back. and my mother used to be bulimic--she had dentures by age 24.
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If it's so obvious, you don't need to tell them, they knew already. Is it your loved one? Prepare some healthy salad for her. Don't worry and in fact you can influence the person by setting a good example. You do the right thing with her, and leave the final decision to her.