[ femail only ] no gross or abusing answers plz....... m married age 25 n we r very much in love .........?
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yes of course if you don't mind the mess.
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Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
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Oh you too hah sista girl.   I agree with Malfean,....deep within (and if you are honest with yourself), you would like to know what it would be like to experience a sexual encounter with this individual you're fantasizing about. Been there and came damb close; however, I've realized that.... this was all I pictured him for (sex and a little intimatcy....hugging - kissing)....there was nothing else....no visions of hangging with friends together, walking in the park, dinner and the movies, sitting up together on the sofa having good dilogue about whatever, bringing the paycheck home to you (hello..).... it was just sex, good sex, more sex and sex....I tried picturing doing other things with him and the imaganation didn't go that far....why???.....well, your soul mate (and that's your husband) have and will probably always supply you with those little things that truely matters. The things mentioned above (hangging together..etc.) will go farther than a good quick fix in the sack. I know it's just fantacy...but sometimes you have to see it for what it truely is...you'll realize it means nothing...so let it go.\n \nNow sometimes our spouses becomes less attractive to us over the years depending on how much they have let themselves go in appearance or how lazy and boring they may have become,...so we fantasize about someone who is just the opposite of your spouse; however, I've learned that if I'm to be in this thing 'til death do us part', I benefit more by talking to him (my spouse) about what we can do to make daily interaction with each other more exciting.... therefore, bring that excitement to the bedroom later on.....\n\nGirrrrllll...look at me giving advise about something I need to work on myself....but non the less, I know it's what I need to do to keep thoughts of other men out of my head when I'm with my husband. (Oooh, I did say other MEN hah....ummm...I mean that man...)..SMILE!!!!.... It's working though.\n\nSo good so far. It may get tough at times, but keep your interaction with each other positive and exciting...laugh a lot...it helps.
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Who are these middle aged men are they married?  Maybe they didn't marry the right one.  Me and my husband have been married 15 years(not all easy). I love him more today than I did 17 years ago when I met him and our sex is greater than ever.  If you love each other, are committed to each other and can share your thoughts and emotions GO FOR IT!!!\n\nGood Luck:-)
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I was married for 10 years to a man 24 years older than I was, but it really worked. I'm an old soul, and he had a very active inner child. We probably would still be together were it not for a logistical problem: He was claustrophobic, and I have the hoarding form of OCD. We had the EXACT same sense of humor, we were both great listeners and sharers, enjoyed doing almost all the same things together, had the same friends (both his age and my age). But the OCD problem caused him to stay away from home more and more after we'd been married several years, and to drink more and more. In the end, he was unhappy, I was unhappy, I gained a lot of weight, he was put off sexually. I guess we both were by then. But I love him still. The morning of our divorce, we went out to breakfast after!\nThe short answer is, it can be a wonderful match, very companionable, if there are no addictions or neuroses to drive you apart.  If you are attracted to each other and intellectually compatible, temperamentally compatible, go for it.  (Men his age would always look at us and wink or high-five him.)
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Yes, you can. When the difference is only one or two years, it's basically the same age bracket. I am married to a woman who is two years older and we feel like we are the same age.\nThe only problem you might expect is when you are, say 11, and the girl is 12. Then it is obvious that the love is more likely to be infatuation rather than love, and the age difference might mean the two people go in completely opposite directions.\nOther than that, you are probably fine.You are of the same generation, with the same cultural values, so it can be definitely alright between you.\nGood Luck.
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After 36 years of marriage i guess i am just about qualified to answer you. It is a hard road to travel.. believe me!! you have to work at staying married for this long. It is not all sweetness and light as there have been times when i have wanted to just pack up and go but i have a deep sense of responsibility to my family, even though our kids are all grownups now.My wife has no doubt felt the same at times. So the answer is..Think about what you are going to do, before you do it and consider what effect it might have on your other half. Tell her that you love her often and show it!! Flowers and little treats work wonders. Keep your lust alive as sex is important even as you get older. It is the best way of communicating your love for each other. Do not have secrets that might hurt the other one. Be truthful. Make time for each other, hold hands when you walk out together. Sneak a kiss in public. Look after each other and always back each other up. I could go on and on but i am sure that you get the idea. I am 61 and she is 56. We still sleep together  sharing a double bed. Like I say,love, lust, hard work and consideration are important as is being freinds as well.
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i would marry an older man, but im only 24, and the thought of marrying someone who is 50 is a little weird. that might be a little too old. although the EXPERIENCE is intriguing....
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No...enjoy it with your spouse...or at least be upfront. dont hide it like you are ashamed.  that is when it would feel like adultry
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may be husband is too good..but u r also good for understandin all this..just love him with all heart n soul..always keep him happy..god bless you both
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I knew I was madly,deeply, and passionately in love with my fiance almost as soon as we met,which is very rare.We like nearly all the same things,finish each others sentences,told each other EVERY deep dark secret and never judged each or looked down n one another for any of them.I love him no matter what he looks like in the morning or anytime for that matter.I don't care if he kisses me in the am b-4 brushing his teeth.I love his little love handles and chubby belly.We"ve been together a long time and still get butterflies when he looks at me or touches me.Our lovemaking is just that LOVE making!Honey,when it's love you just know!!!
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Yes, I have been in love.  What I did to tell him was to sew shirts for him, play chef's assistant when he wanted to cook, and cook when he did not want to, wash his clothes . . . but you get the idea.  When you love someone, actions speak way louder than words.  Anyone can say "I love you" and not mean it, maybe not even know what love is.  But doing nice things for him, things HE considers nice, will show him.  I used to read to Steve, books he had chosen for me to read, one chapter at a time.  Certainly he could read for himself, but he liked this little "ritual" of togetherness.  The important thing is to do what he wants you to do, not those things you want to do which force your tastes on him or try to change him.  If he wants you to do something you find immoral or distasteful, you can tell him that.  But if you can do it, and you know how to do it, love means you will want to do it.  And no, I'm not particularly talking about sex, although that is undoubtedly included in what he wants you to do!
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first of all how old are u? are you even old enough to be thinking marriage?. I hope that you are at least in your mid twenties?
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Yes, my husband and I met through yahoo Personals 6 years ago and have been very happy ever since.  Been married 31/2 and just keeps getting better!!!!
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If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
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I just met my sweetheart a little over a week ago, and so far, I am so in love with him it is nauseating.  He could do no wrong.  He could fart and pick his nose constantly and make Corky noises and I would still find it endearing.
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Absolutly not age is just a number.. I am 18 and my husband is 28... age ABSOULTLY DOESNT MATTER especially if you are in love!!!!!!