I'm going to abondon my 2 year old son for sleeping with a teddy bear? my wife says I'm cruel....read details
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I really hope you are joking or just trying to provoke some angry responses.If this isn't the case,you need to get some help from a professional.How could you possibly abandon your own flesh and blood?Over sleeping with a teddy bear???Man,this is wrong on so many levels there isn't enough room on here to describe it.What is wrong with your son sleeping with a teddy bear??He's 2,not 22.Is it some macho thing that embarrasses you?Sounds to me like you are the one that needs to grow up.You want guys to defend you?If any do,they don't deserve to be a father.
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You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.
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Dear Abby just had something about that...\n\nhttp://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20060623\nDEAR ABBY: I have two active boys who are 8 and 2 1/2. We are going on a 12-hour road trip to a family wedding. I shared with my mother-in-law that I am dreading the long ride and am trying to think of ways to keep the boys occupied. We have a DVD player and are taking books, toys, etc. on the trip.\nI was shocked to hear my mother-in-law suggest that I give the boys Benadryl to put them to sleep. This is not the first time I have heard someone say this. Is this common practice? My husband and I would never do such a thing. Isn't that child abuse? -- APPALLED IN FREMONT, CALIF.\n\nDEAR APPALLED: I would certainly call it child endangerment. Children should not be given medications without a doctor's prescription. If I were you, I'd start that trip at night, when the children are normally sleeping. And bring along lots of things to keep them entertained. I would also schedule stops at regular intervals so they don't get cabin fever. But drug them? Never.
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TURN THAT EVIL COLD HEARTED VICIOUS LIFE SUCKING BIT** X WIFE OF MINE IN TO A SLUG THEN DROP A LARGE HEAVY ROCK ON HER\n\n\nYES I HAVE ISSUES
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I agree - it's selfish to use the children as 'tools' to hurt other people who love them and in return she is robbing them of a relationship with yourself and your partner. She's not only hurting you but her own kids too. Apart from that she is not setting a good example for her kids by manipulating and punishing people - it's cruel. Have you tried to resolve your differences with her?
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Your wife is in denial about her bear-like appearance. She is angry with herself for failing to live up to her number one responsibility: being sexually desireable to her husband. She would rather think it is the goat that has come between you than admit to herself that she has failed. My advice is: talk to your wife. Explain to her that you are still willing to support her and your children, but that you are no longer sexually attracted to her, and must fulfill your manly needs with your new goat. Maybe the shame of the whole situation will motivate her to jog in the mornings.
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He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
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Trust your intuition.  It's important and I'm glad you are picky.  She will have a huge affect on your son's life.  IF you really like someone, then maybe give her a bit more time. When my x and I split, he would let any flooz from the bar babysit.  You are right for being picky.  Your son is lucky.  But also try not to hold her to some "perfect" standard.  Your wife was not perfect either, but sounds like she was a good mom.  So good luck to you and your son.
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Seriously, I have a few opinions I would like to express.  But I'll hold off for a few minutes. \n\nThis is gonna come back and get ya, one way or another.  Years from when the kid comes and finds ya.  Years from now when you're kids meat this one.  Days from now, when your girlfriends friend makes a call to your wife. It WILL get back.\n\nYou are a cruel, cruel man.  How could you do that to your wife and children?  What is wrong with you?  And you sound like you're more worried with losing your stupid job, than the damage you just did to your wife of 8 years and children.  \n\nAnd yeah I will give you one good thing.  It's awesome that you at least offered to pay for that kid.  A lot of me won't even do that.  \n\nBut yeah, ya reap what ya sew.
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Yes, me. Not only do I have a bed full of my kids but we also have fred,(our biggest stuffed bear), sheep who is little but very hard, hippy (hippo), little and very soft. PUPPY who is also small and very soft, I really dont mind we do have a king size bed, but we also have about 20 pillows, it makes for a very loving but cramped bed, I sometimes find myself using fred the bear as a go between knee pillow, without my son catching me that is. Its all good. Hey this is life, I say do what makes you happy.
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wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
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Gosh ...it sounds like you suspect he is hurting her in some way?  How old is your grand daughter?  I have a 4 year grand daughter...when she was under one, she would cry every time her daddy held her, rather any one else was around or not.  I did not think he was doing anything bad to her.  I believe he was very nervous and babies do sense our feelings.  I did ask him if he was nervous and he said he had many emotions, afraid he would drop her, excitement because he has such a beautiful baby, etc.  Eventually they both relaxed and she is daddy's little girl now.  They also have a 2 year boy and he was a cry baby too, still is...he is so much more of a mamma's boy than she was.  My daughter breast fed both, does your daughter? Perhaps that makes them so attached to mommy that they aren't as comfortable w/ others?  I truly hope you are worrying for nothing...that would be a tragedy if HE is harming her in any way.  I would definitely keep an eye on him and of course do not mention to your daughter your concerns because she will defend and possibly keep you away.  Good luck and I am praying for you and your grand baby.
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Look I went through the same thing with my ex wife ....I started to realize it wasn't any thing I could do.... Cause it wasn't just up to me it was up to her too.....You can only carry some one for so long before you end up being the same person....I know it will be hard but maybe it is time to move on ....Don't be anybodies fool... You need to start a life that gives you some comfort and happiness..Sounds like you need it....And I know you have a child ,but wouldn't you rather have you child have all the love he/she could get from you ? Rather than you being so worried about what your husband is doing late at night.When you woory about what your husband is doing you take away the focus your child needs .... Hope that helps a little\nEXPLAYA here
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I am extremely sorry to hear your story and you have my hearfelt sympathy.  I can only imagine the deep pain of hurting you must go through everyday.  I really feel for you and I hear and support what you are saying about paying more attention to your kids and looking out for any early 'warning signs'.  I can't really advise you on anything you're asking for but I just wanted to write and wish you well, may God help you in whatever you do.
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Just be honest and tell him how it makes  you feel. You deserve to be treated better than this. You may have children to take care of, but Im pretty sure you can do this on your own. You are right...it isn't good for the kids to see this. They need to know love.
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Yes - you are wrong. A 4 1/2 month old child can only express themselves through crying - crying is not necessarily a sign of great distress.\n\nIf you have checked all the obvious things - well fed, warm, dry, comfortable (and the child has been awake for at least a couple fo hours) then your child should be able to go to sleep.\n\nRemember this - if you train your child to be rocked/sang/walked/driven to sleep this is something you will be doing for some time. It is actually kind to teach your child how to fall asleep - that way when he/she wakes up in the night they will know how to send themselves back off to sleep without any distress.\n\nTrust me - I have 2 gorgeous children who are extremely well-adjusted and confident in themselves and my wife's and my love for them, and we used what is called controlled crying with both of them.\n\nThe key with controlled crying is you do not just pretend your child is there - you keep returning to their room or cot to reassure them of your presence, but without lifting them and stimulating them.\n\nRead up on it - but you are certainly not causing him harm if you ensure that his needs are met.\n\nSounds more like you have serious issues with your wife than with your child. Perhaps that's what you should be focusing on.