im confused i dont know what to do, i wanna live wiht my dad but thren  my mom would be sad pleease help?!?!?
406011
Tell your mom you want to live with your dad, her b/f smokes, you have asthma plus you're breathing in 2nd hand smoke. She may not mind being exposed to this and putting herself at risk for lung cancer and dying from it but you care alot more about your health than that.
735520
you need to really explain how devastated you are about him moving to your parents. your parents should be more understanding, but they might just have your best interest in mind? why would they oppose from having your friend over to YOUR house? is this friend a bad influence or something? well, try & that is all you can do. it is hard to get used to people moving away, but time will help. i suggest talking on the phone will help as well.
950946
When he makes an effort to see a psychologist. If he doesn't, you and your mother should change. You find a way to make her happy. Give her good hopes like I did mine. Life is truly worth living. It's beautiful just to let you know. There will always bedifficult things in life that you have to deal with. Time heals and actions make a difference.
500566
I have read your other questions. You have a sad life. You really need someone to talk too. Try talking to a school counselor or someone at church. Most of all try to be good around your father. He is having a hard time as well. Divorce is never good because everyone suffers. If you are living with your father instead of your mother there has to be a good reason.\n\nBe good!
938491
You are only feeling the way you do because of the idea of leaving everything that you have come to know and love. I am alot older than you I am sure, but I have moved about 8 times when I was young. We as kids had no say in where we were going and I for one hated everytime we moved I had just made new freinds. If your father feels like this is the best thing for the family and it will improve whatever lifestyle you have I say relax , go with the flow and when you are old enough to get out on your own and you really don't like where you are you can make that change. But as for right now, If it is going to make all of your lives better I say go for it. Seems like your parents are doing whats best for the whole family and KUDOS to DAD for including everyones say in the matter. Good Luck!
314962
I am sorry about your mom. My mom died in February too, after a very, very long illness. Dad is lost, confused, depressed, lonely, angry. Your dad may need to talk to someone. My dad feels like he can't find his place, like he does not belong anywhere. He does not plan on 'replacing' mom, now or ever even tho both my brother and I have told him it would be ok if he found someone to share his life with, even if he does not ever get married out of respect for my mom (I think I could handle him getting married again if that made him happy).\n\nI took him to the doctor last month and he wanted to be put on anti-depressants but the doctor told him that he had to deal with it, cold turkey, for at least 6 months, that it was a normal mourning process that he needed to go thru.(after 6 months he would consider giving him 'happy pills' and recommending a shrink)\n\nHe also told him that the worse loss a person can feel is when you lose a spouse, a child and a parent -- in that order. I hope your dad starts feeling better soon and that, if this new lady in his life is not right for him, he realizes it soon.\n\nPlease be patient with his anger fits, he may not know how to handle what he is feeling. Let him know that you love him and are there for him. Its all you can really do at this point. I feel your pain more than you know. Good luck!
327475
You and your Mom don't get along? Is that something you want. Decide whether you want to keep her in your life and if so, tell her how you feel...that a relationship with her is important to you, etc.
773147
I think you have made the right decision. Breaking the cycle is the hardest thing you can do in you life. I was abused mentally,sexually and physically as a child and I didn't get away from it until I got married. I think you are a very brave and special person for standing up to you dad. Because It is wrong for someone especially the man that is suppose to be your protector to hurt you like that. And your mom should put you first. You are probably missing your mother's love, that all girls need. Try to go to counselling,and find a female that can and is willing to give you "motherly love".
906850
Well your dad obviously is one of those men who moves around a lot in life...you are right to expect more, but you may find yourself disappointed over and over in life...because now this new chick in his life will want him all to herself and she will want to be his priority.  So you are going to be in a difficult situation.\n\nYou are lucky you had this time together.  Hopefully you will have more time together.  Talk to you dad when she's not around and tell him how you feel.  Really have a heart to heart with him about your feelings...in the past and now...and what your fears are.  This way he will be aware and will sense when you are feeling this way...and hopefully find a way to smooth it all out so you can all be happy.  Don't be surprised though if this girl may sway him away from you.  She isn't much older than you and probably you are as mature if not more than she is...what's with that dad of yours anyhow!  Sheesh.  Nothing you can do about it if it he ends up with this woman but you shouldn't become enemies with her or it will be very hard and your dad may have to choose and hey...men don't always think with thier heads.  Good luck to you.
1067583
What are your parents' concerns?  If you can help answer or address their concerns, then maybe they'll let you go.  Or maybe they have legitimate concerns that you have not considered.\n\nI hope you can work it out with your parents.
1065384
I think you should just talk to your parents about moving to the dorms. Maybe they will understand. Just tell them how you feel and that you want to be on your own and more responsible. Personally, I don't think college is the same if you live at home. You need to take care of yourself, experience more freedom, have more responsibility, and find out who you are for yourself!
984825
hey sweetie i don't know if it is normal for you to bethinking about this . but i can tell you that not having my mother or grand parents living it is very hard . it does not matter how old you are . you all ways need and want your mom in your life . i miss mine very much and its been 15 years since she died .but i can all so tell you that God he knows whats best for all of us . and he is there for us to . so don't you worry about your mom or grandmother passing away and leaving you . God forbid that ever happened he would take care of you . and you know your so young and life really is short . so you go give your mom and grandmother a big hug and kiss tell them how much you love them . and everyday make them feel special to you . and i have tears in my eyes as i type this to . because its so rare to find such a sweet teenager with a big heart like you have . just live  life and try to not worry and be happy OK ?
503237
It's summer and school is out now so why not give it a trial run with your dad. Go spend the summer with him, check out the school where you would go if you moved and give yourself a real chance to see what all the changes would be like. If when you get closer to the end of summer you feel like you'd like to give it a little more time and actually attend the school there then give it the first semester to get an even better feel for those who would be your classmates and friends if you moved. It's always hard when we have to make choices but what's important is that we do so with all the knowledge we can get in order to make the best possible choice. In your case I think this is more about what's going to ultimately be best for you and enhance your life. Your parents are both loving and understanding and obviously want these things for you too.\n\nBest of Luck!!
340368
Spend time with your family yeah you might need the money but i grew up without my dad and with only my mom taking care of me and it sucked cuz i bearly even saw her she was always at work or with her friends.Now she regrets it but still......... PLease take my word for it go with your kids.. They will be happy..... good luck hop you choose me.....
844836
hi i think i may be able to help you becuse i am like that with my mom i don't like to stay at other peoples houses becuse i'm afraid that some thing might happen to her or that she may be lonely.  the only thing you can do is give her time don't push her give her time when she get's older she will see cute guys and she will still be close with you but she will be able to function  like all teens do . i hope this helps! God Bless!
977325
Chances are sweetie that your biological father either died or didn't want anything to do with you.  Fortunatelly for you, you had a father in your life that wanted to be your dad.  Let the past go, I know it's hard not having your parents living, but that is no reason to search for someone who was never in your life growing up.  If you think that this will heal some emotional scars you have from losing your mum and pop your wrong.  Chances are if you do find your biological dad you will be very disappointed.  Let it go, remember, being a parent is not DNA, its taking care of you, teaching you, loving you, and being there for you through thick and thin.  Now that your grown that biological father can never do those things for you, so forget him!!
47139
Deciding which parent to live with is never an easy decision, first try to come up with a pros and cons list, that might be a good first step. Secondly, decide what it might be like, a week, a month, a year, after your there, deciding if you can adjust to another surrounding is a hard, so give it some thought. Personally, I would move to Florida, just because, depending on the area, can be a really enjoyable place to live. Also, try to figure out as much as you can about where your mom lives, and what it is like there, what you can do for fun, what you could possibly do for work (not sure how old you are but ohh well...) and so on.....I hope I have given you enough to think about and good luck with your decision.