How can you not love Him? isn't He pure love? Mom? Dad? Just read below.?
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Ooh, well said.  You're gonna get a lot of "but you didn't read the whole thing," and "but you don't UNDERSTAAANNND", and "how dare you twist the meaning of the bible", and "you're taking it out of context."  As if a story of infanticide could possibly be misunderstood or taken out of context.\n\nI've asked questions like this and I always get those kinds of non-answers.  I especially get a kick out of "but that's not what it means!"  When I point out that the meaning is perfectly clear, then they start spluttering how-dare-you and the conversation is over.\n\nKeep asking. Even the non-answers are educational.
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Oh shoot you're making me wanna cry. I prayed for you this morning and all people who have lost or never knew their fathers, or whose fathers are distant or absent.  YES my father is alive and over the years (I was bit by the acting bug a long time ago) if I needed to cry on cue, I'd think how I'd feel if I ever lost my Dad, the coolest most loving unique and original guy I've ever known. My dad had quadruple bipass surgery 2 years ago but is up and around still, thank God. His health is failing but I hope he stays around much longer.  I will call him right now to tell him again how much I love him.  I'll spend more time with him, too when I'm in my hometown to visit my family again next month. Thanks and God's Speed to You!
152004
No, but if he was, I wouldn't love him any less. He's still the same man that he's always been on the inside. Being gay and/or fat does not change a persons heart toward the people that they love. They are just like anyone else. It shouldn't make a difference. He is the only one who has to live his life, not anyone else, so why not just love and accept him the way he is? Even if my own daughter came home and said she was a lesbian tomorrow, I would say, "as long as you're happy, I'm happy."
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Yeah, I understand, hon.  It's tough to lose a dad. I lost my dad when I was 24, and it wasn't easy for me either.  Was your dad ill, or was his death sudden?  We don't know why God chooses his special people to be with Him, but know that wherever he is, your dad is watching over you, protecting you from harm, and loving you.  Meantime, talk things over with your mom, and your brothers and sisters if you have any, or even your friends.  Talking about the good times you had with your dad really helps.  In time, the pain will be a lot less, and you'll just be left with good memories.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Good luck and God Bless!
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Nobody's parents are perfect... and every person is a result of their childhood experiences that they have taken into adulthood. Accept that your father is HUMAN BEING FIRST, and then love him because he is your father.
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I have never loved a man - although I was married - I love my family and I know I'd take a bullet for any of them - well maybe not my youngest brother, but anyway.....it's hard for a child to know and it's hard to explain.  I think you did well in trying to say what it's like.  \n\nAsk her how does she know she loves you and her dad?  How does she know you love her?  It's just like that.
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My daughter and son are both adopted (daughter's parents still living, son's father still living) so I understand what you are going through.  What seemed to work was explaining to our kids that you can love lots of people lots of different ways.  There's Bio-Dad and Mom love, and Adopto-Dad and Mom love, and Big Sister love and Little Brother love, and kitty-cat love, and puppy-dog love.  And, just because they played differently with the kitty-cat didn't mean they didn't love the puppy dog,and vice versa.  They loved both of them, but loved them diffrently, and that was OK.   Using the dog and the cat as examples was more expressive to them and helped them grasp the concept of it being OK to love different things differently and not feeling guilty about where (and to what/whom) their attention was focused.  What you do need to be careful about is any jealousy your ex-husband undoubtedly has, because any subliminal expression of this could add to your son's guilt of loving a new dad. It would also help if you could possibly get your ex to explain that it is OK to love his new daddy.  I think one of the things that also helped both the kids through that was they were both in the same boat so they did have each other as support mechanisms.  Perhaps there is a support group or other parents and children who are going through similar adjustments that you can connect with, as it may help your son to know he is not alone and other kids are going through the same thing he is.    Good luck...I'm glad you and your son found a good man.
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I love everyone in the world in a general sort of loving all mankind way, but there's no way a person can have a boyfriend they love and not like his personality.\n\nIf you don't like his personality, what exactly do you love about him?  His hair?  His car?  That's not loving him, that's really likeing something about him, but not him.
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God is love, if you are one of His children, He chastizes you if you do not obey His Word, same as an earthly father.\n\nGod's love is not the same as the way we love, we can love money, material wealth, love of self. there are many different kinds of love.
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Cheat in love?\n\nIt's own lack of honesty with himself. If he can't love himself, how can we love ourselfs?
667706
I say you follow your heart because some times your parent are wrong but if really love him keep on dating him. maybe your dad will see his otherside of him later on
1013387
Wow, great question!  So much...  That he always loved me and cared, never judged me, supported me through everything, respects my Mom, was (and still is) the hardest worker & provider.  He loves his family and is thankful for what God blessed him with.  He taught me it's not material things that constitute a successful life, it's how you use your gifts to benefit others.
925405
No you can't change him.  He is right.  BUT!!!! there is a but.  He CAN change for you.  Isnt that great? We cant change people.  We love them for who they are and if are with them its because we have accepted them for who they are.  But when we express something we dont like, or appreciate for them not to do, or something bothers us, if they care for us then they should have no problem working on it you know? THats my opinion.
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well, you answered your own question. keep on loving him. love conquers pain and hurt anyday.
191027
start involving him more in the family get togethers.  On the other hand, I'm all for the family card and I'd be interested in hearing their side of the story.  Sometimes parents see what we can't because we are blinded by love:)
677252
My dad! Sadly, he passed away when I was 20, before I grew up enough to realize that I should tell him how I felt. I told him I loved him all the time. But never got the chance to tell him how much he taught me and how his life-lessons have affected my life. Bless you for learning this important lesson. Your sister is lucky to have you.
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No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)