I am in love with a guy but I am afraid of being made fun of as gay by my peers. What should I do?
400025
i think you should go for it,f.u.c.k your peers,i know its hard everyone wants to be accepted but if they really are your friends and good people worth knowing they willaccept you for who you are,gay or bi,be true to your self and follow your heart,good luck
947993
Ask him out and tell him about your feeling towards him. if he freaks out, then his not gay or bi. then you would better not continue your flirting with him anymore. better kno 1st or its too late.
822888
Stop thinking of it in terms of gay and strait. As a matter of fact forget the two terms exist at all. Then just pay attention to your emotions toward everyone around you and the answer will just kind of come to you. Thats how it was for me.
878727
Don't ever let anyone tell you who you should be friends with. If you are more comfortable being friends with girls, then be friends with girls. Whether you are homosexual or heterosexual, it shouldn't matter. There are many different men and women who feel more comfortable being friends with the opposite sex. \n\nIf you are heterosexual, the other guys are probably jealous because you have so many female followers. They either see it as you can date them easier, or that you are keeping the girls from dating them. Either way, it is not worth your time nor your efforts to deal with someone who is going to put you down because of your friends. \n\nIf you are trying to figure out your sexuality, then you should try talking to some homosexual peers, or a counselor. Sometimes just finding out if your feelings are shared by others can help. \n\nGood luck, and if you would like to talk more about this, please don't hesitate to e-mail me...I'm always here to help!
1046152
My best friend is gay, and he gets tourmented and bullied, and people who don't even know him shout things at him in the street. He is the most charming, lovely guy I know, and he has been in a committed relationship with his boyfriend for the last ten years! \n\nIf I am with him, and people challenge him, I get so angry. Why should he be denied the right to live his life the way he wants? He's not doing anyone any harm. I always, always stand up to homophobic people. I got beaten up once because I was defending a 'faggot'. \n\nPeople are ignorant and stupid and it makes my blood boil. I will fight homophobia, and anyone be damned who dares challenge me on it!
545061
Listen closely, you don't want to lose a valuable friendship.\n\nGay people (or people who are confused about their sexual orientation) tend to think that ANYONE who is sweet is gay. That is NOT TRUE. I have a teacher, who seems VERY GAY. He's way tooooo sweet to seem straight, his voice even has that little tone to it.. i swear i would have finished his class believing he was truly gay. Then one day, i was out, and went to give him my excuse, and he said, "don't worry about it, I was out to, I cancelled class. My wifes aunt passed away so we had to go to her funeral in Flint." I was like, oh, you're married? and he said, "yes.. here you can see her picture" and she was a she.\n\nMORAL OF THE STORY: not everyone whos nice and seems gay is gay. People now have a adefinition of being gay.\nGay= a guy whos nice and sweet, and has a certain ring to his voice, and in most cases is hot.\nbut that is not completely true, as a matter of fact it's completely false. Society tends to give false images..\n\nBe careful. If he's gay, he's gay. If not, then he's not.\n\nWhat you can do is, confess that you're gay, or you think you might be, and tell him you don't want it to ruin your friendship.\n\nIf he's gay, he'll be comfortable enough to say he is. If not, then he'll probably get freaked out at first, but then come around to accept you for who you are.
66489
Get to know him. Mention a news story that you've seen on gay people or a friend you know is gay or tell him that you are gay/bi, and ask him what he thinks. If he reacts well to gay issues, just tell him you like him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way towards you, if he's comfortable with gay people you can still be friends.
72051
Please leave him alone.  He's straight and doesn't want the advances.  \nHe probably knows you're gay (we straight guys all have very sharp gaydar) and therefore the reaction is because of feeling awkward.\n\nWe do the same thing with chicks.  Check them out, they feel awkward, we take it as a mutual feeling.  It ain't so.
675204
wait .. you wont regret. you wont let boys cause trouble for you - do it only when you are really in love, because then you wouldnt be giving anyone a reason to start rumors about you.
37263
Okay, I really dont understand this one. DONT care about what other people think and DONT react to something because you are scared. If you are falling in love, LET IT HAPPEN. Obviously, there is a reason you are falling. If you scare this man away, you WILL regret it for a very long time as you get burnt and get your heart broken as the years progress!\n\nLook, I once met this guy... one of the nice guys, he was smart, kind, romantic, and flattering. My first opinion, honestly...I didnt think he was my type, not physically and DEFINATLY not personality wise. He has been cheated on by almost EVERY girl he has ever been with, BECAUSE he is the nice guy. Me, I am a little wild, sexual, very playful, and couldnt care less about what others think of me...he was very tame, cares more about emotions than sex, was very serious, and alway had to make the best impression. I turned him down. \n\nWe talked and were friendly towards one another, but I shunned his advances repeatedly. My friends and family where all saying give the poor guy a chance. He was so persistent. I did. We went on a date and I learned many things. His differences COMPLETED me and his quirks made him special. I fell in love. I had never been in love before. I was intimidated at times, but stuck with him. I am SO happy I did. \n\nToday, 2 and 1/2 years later, we are engaged and so very happy together. I am happier than I have ever been in my life. I thank God every night for the way things happened; it could have been so different; I could have missed out on the best thing in my life: my soul mate.\n\nPlease. Dont loose something that may be great. If you are falling in love, dive in. Enjoy it. You will be happy you did
633075
No, because if you come on to him , and you are aware that he is not gay , the only thing you will achive is that he ends up accepting even less gay people , in fact you can make him become a homofobic,\nbest thing you can do is let go of the crush , before you become a real friend to him , this my friend will make him accept more gay people , and by doing this you are helping to create a better image of gay people , last thing we need is another straigt guy jusyfying his hate towards gay people , because some one told him he liked him once\nIF he rathers keeps his distance and you cant let go of the crush dont push the issue any further , is easiest for young gay guys to have straight friends that they are not atracted to
563104
Deal with it. \n\nAccept it, and say that you are not gay(unless you are...).\nTell him to accept you as a hetero.
342639
I know this is a difficult time for you, but just tell them.  If he or she is truly your friend - they will accept you and love you as they already do.  If not, then they were never really your friend anyway and you are better off without them.\n\nComing out is one of the hardest and anguishing experiences anyone can go through.  I was rejected by ALL my childhood "friends", even the 2 I fooled around with during our "experimental" stages, one of which is also gay, but closeted.\n\nDo not despair!  You will make new friends.  People who will accept you for who and what you are - regardless of your sexuality, colour of your skin or religion.  \n\nThis is the 21st century and people just need to get over their phobias and prejudices.  Life is too short.  Live each day like it's your last.  Have fun and enjoy it.  Just remember to always treat and respect yourself, others and especially nature - the same exact way you want to be treated and respected and all will be well.  And don't forget - just LIVE, LIVE, LIVE!
946704
Give him a big hug and tell him that you love him and nothing can ever change that.\n\nDepending on the kind of relationship you have, you could also add jokingly, "But you have to let me meet all your potential boyfriends first - so I can tell them embarrassing stories about you!"\n\nBe loving, but add some humor so it doesn't turn into one of those awkward "I love you, I love you too, what now?" moments.\n\nYou say that nothing about your relationship will change (or that you don't want it to), so why hang out or do things different from before you were assured that he was gay? Do the things you've always enjoyed doing together - that will help ensure that nothing will truly change. Make sure that he knows you're interested in new ideas, just in case there are other things he would like to do now that he knows that you know.
920505
No honey do not ask him out for coffee.  Start up a friendship.  You definitely need a more clear cut sign to his being gay or not.  He could just be friendly so keep it casual.  Anything else could sabotage it before it starts.  Keep your head over your emotions, you must protect yourself.  You innocently could have scoped out the most homo phobic guy in school.  Learn chin ups.  Ask around about him, very cautiously.  Be careful.
49055
Don't worry about what your friends think about him. They are not dating him. It is your world girl. If he is your type then if they are truly your friends they will respect that
934578
The best thing to do is to steer the questions ever so subtly to the gay without saying it. If he knows you're gay then it'll be a little trickier, but if not just say compliment a guy and see if he agrees... Worked for me in high school... it's just so much harder cause so many guys have "gay" mannerisms and gays usually play the "straight" (if there is such a thing)...