what is the best way to deal with a father who owes you 12000+ dollars?
412495
i agree with the guy who says pull his legs off. then you could beat him with them!! take him to court even if you can't get the money back you can be a pain in his ***!!!
627687
You need to go through the courts.  Have a child support order made by the courts, with an income deduction order, so that the money is just taken from his check and deposited into your account (no more bounced check worrries).  I went through what you are going through for years until I finally went to the courts.  By this point my ex was $14000 in the hole but had purchased a new car, enrolled in college for his masters degree, and was living great.  But whenever I questioned him about it, he would tell me how hard he was struggling and that he just couldn't do any better.  I, however, was living on a prayer and wish, maxing out credit card for grocery and clothing for my son.  And wondering if I would ever be able to get out of the hole he'd made.   \n\n\nIt took 10 months for the courts to straighten everything out.  I requested that I keep my son's insurance on my policy because my exhusband was very unstable and changed jobs a lot.  They had no problems with that.  They garnished his income tax refund for the next 3 years and made it very clear to him that his child was first in his life, not his new apartment  or car or school. \n\nHe pays the very least a non-custodial parent can pay.  I was not trying to break him, I just wanted my son to have the benefit of both parent's income.  Which I think is his right.  \n\nThink of it as fighting for your children.  You would never let anyone else take anything from them or cheat them.  Don't let their father.  If they lived with him, he wouldn't have a choice about taking care of them.  He shouldn't just because ya'll aren't together.  \n\nYou don't need a lawyer.  Just go to your local office for Child support enforcement.  If you don't know where it is, search child support and your state's name.  \n\nAlso, think about life insurance policy -- child support orders normally require both parent carry one because you need that assurance in the event of an untimely death.  \n\n\nGood Luck!!
397684
tell him your worried about the utilities being turned off and you dont wanna pay late fees and\n you can't float his half cause you are strapped for cash as well. \nmention that you know he needs money for cabo but he needs to take care of his responsibilites as well. or give him the option that if he is so strapped for money is there anything he can give you that he wants to sell and put it on craigslist.com and sell it for him and take the money for the bills. \nact like you'll work with him but by no means can he leave you strapped and sweatin' the bills while he's kickin' it in cabo. thats so selfish.!!! \n better yet let him read these answers to your question! maybe he'll then  pull his head outta his a$$. you must be firm cause he'll just walk all over you from here on out. \nif you cant talk to him write him a note and give him a couple of options as how to pay, with no option of NOT giving you the money. \nif the shoe was on the other foot he'd have no problem asking you for the money i'm sure. \ngood luck! \n**if he doesn't pay you,  I hope it rains the whole time he's in cabo or he gets montezuma's revenge, \nkarma is a bitch!!!!***
1133101
Florida has a very effective child support enforcement program.  However, it is sometimes administered indifferently according to the county where you live.\n\nIf your ex owes more than $5,000 in back support, you can:\n\n1.  Have his passport taken away - or blocked so that he won't get one when he wants to travel.\n\n2.  Have him arrested and brought before court on criminal charges.  If the amount he is behind is relatively small, he will be forced to make payment arrangements and kept under watch - if he owes a LOT he will go to jail.\n\n3.  Have his child support deducted from his pay check.  The state will not only collect the amount ordered by the courts, but also an additional amount, up to 45% of his total pay before taxes, to make up the back support due to you.  The state also add interest at 10% to what he owes you.\n\nThere is a fellow in Tallahassee by the name of Tommy Thompson who is the top official in the state for child support enforcement.  He's hard to find, but if you start at www.myflorida.com, you can hunt him down.\n\nBut first you need to go to the Department of Children and Families in the county where you live and call upon the child support enforcement people.  There you are able to file a formal request for help in child support collection and enforcement.  Make sure you take along copies of the court orders requiring payment of the support.  Take along a record of how much HAS been paid in child support since the order was issued.  You can hand-write that; even if you must use your memory unaided to remember, make sure you do your best.\n\nThen write down how many months there has been no child support.\n\nIf possible, also take along any records or notes that give the father's full name, permanent address, phone number, social security number, date of birth, driver's license or vehicle tag number if you have them, and place of employment - including his job title, his supervisor's name, and the address of the company.  If he is self-employed or works as an "independent contractor," the DCF staff will help you figure out how to attach his earnings to pay support.  (Especially if he is self-employed, take along a copy of one of his checks - or anything you can learn about his bank accounts.)\n\nBeing prepared and organized when you arrive to make your claim for help will make a very, very big difference in how the claim is handled.\n\nPaying child support is not supposed to make any difference in seeing the kids.  The children need both parents, it is important for them in ways apart from finances.  The law does not allow you to forbid visitation regardless of the status of support payments.\n\nBut the law can be a very imposing tool for collecting support, if you take advantage of the opportunity.
1145748
what a loser ! \n\nwhy would he think a kid have enough money for him.\n\nKick him out and get a restraining order. He cannot get an order to force you to pay him anything.\n\nActually, you can force him to pay you until you are 21
451353
Please verify with your state, but here in California, he owes it until it is paid. Your Mom is the payee, so you as the child can't get it, but she doesn't need to pay for an attorney. Have her get in touch with the Family Services department of your local court house and they should have free instructions on how to file a claim, maybe even offer a free class to walk her through it. Based on his income it may be a stupid small amount, just a few bucks a month, or they may seize his assets and she'll get a big chunk all at once. The good thing is they can seize his income tax returns and charge him interest. It's definately worth looking into. Good for your Mom for being such a trooper and taking care of you by herself!
606488
In a situation like this you personally need to talk to your father and tell him that you don't appreciate him taking advantage of you. Tell him that you forgive him for disowning you as a child and that you love him even though he missed out on the finer points in your life. Give him the money because you cant put a price on love. If you don't then you may regret it for the rest of your life. I cant guarantee that this would make you feel better because i don't know. This is coming from a 16 year old and the way I see is either you could take the advise and run with it or leave it to rot for eternity.
869281
go to the court system and tell them about your child support and that he has not been paying and that you want him to start paying and then you get a order against him for all of that and above. then see how he likes that.
984284
Talk to the Air Force.  they may garnish his wages.
710066
Get a job.  Your ex has a child or children to support.  How do you expect them to do it and why should they carry your responsibility for it as well?  GET A JOB!\n\n~  Spoken as the ex who is owed a lot of bucks and know how hard it is when a jerk doesn't pay what he owes.\n\nAre you my ex?  If you are, they are looking for you.....\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
572786
Yeah and he owes me $350.00. Don Myers owes me. Yeah I put him on front street. What goes around comes around. That was more then 3 yrs ago and it still pisses me off taking money from a single parent ant no good. Please don't get me started on his ass.
257142
What state do you live in?  Depending on its laws, you can do a whole lot ... including freezing his driver's license, hunting license, any business licenses, etc.  Call your state senator or representative ... make a lot of noise!!!  You are the one that's owed money, and you shouldn't have to pay big bucks to get your money (lawyers). There are plenty of free services out there. Also, if you're on disability, the government should be going after him anyway. If you get any other services like food stamps, or medicaid for your child, those organizations should be going after him too. If you're not on any of these programs, try applying for them. They'll ask you about the absent parent, and then take it from there. \n\nBut like I said, Make LOTS OF NOISE !!  Call his employer, his momma, his priest, the local newspaper. Act like a crazy person if you have to. Your child's welfare is worth it!!!
60769
The best way I have found is to reason with the person.  Show them that by not paying their debt it reflects on their character and integrity with you and others.  There is no telling how many people you will tell about this incident.  We as collectors can be worse then a credit reporting agency.  If the person if not a friend then try the courts or reason with phone calls and again tell them how this affects their business, their character and their standing in the community.  don't be afraid to stand up about what is right.
324086
No, what you do is get the help he needs to stop getting into financial trouble in the first place. When you bail him out over and over, he thinks you will continue. Do what's best for him, and stop.
978863
What is needed is that you tell him to stop blowing the money or go sleep in his car that he bought the speakers. Let him know that you two are to be more responsible for the money that God has bless you with. Next pray for him and ask God to help you stay calm until he changes because we can't change a person they have to want to change themselves. We can pray for them and allow them room to change. God bless you.
245058
There should be laws in your state for deadbeat fathers. First, call the prosecuting attorney's office and ask for help.( I did read about the cash problem) He doesn't want his wages garnished....report what he is doing. Secondly, you may need an attorney so that you can keep him from seeing the children since he is such a bad influence on them. You do need help through the legal system. I am so sorry that he is so immature and mean that the doesn't put his own children's interests first. Good luck.
532173
call him and ask for payment first if not then take it to small claims court.