is it bad dating your best friend's ex?
398127
I would recommend you not to do it. Although your best friend's relationship is over with that girl, he might have the feeling that he had something special with her.\n\nAnd when he sees that you are having the same/similar relationship with her, he will feel bad about it. And yet, he might get paranoiac that you had this thought always in your mind even when they were together. Besides, the idea that you are having sex with someone he once loved is disturbing. Men can easily forget a girl when they don't see what she is doing but this way, he will often see you and his ex and this will be disturbing for both of you. So at the end, you will see each other less and he won't be your best friend anymore. \n\nBut on the other hand, if he is not much devoted to her and tells you to go on, then it is OK.
579708
Your EX-bestfriend's EX-boyfriend?  um... you should ask him out on a date, and then go for it with him.  Because... well if she isn't your bestfriend anymore you owe her... nothing, and even if she still was your friend, as long as you didn't sleep with him to break them up... (which i am sure you didn't do) then you still owe her.... nothing.  How long have they been broken up? if it has been say over 6 months (which it sounds like it has if you have listed to his other girl problems) then I would say you have satisfied ALL of the waiting before moving in criteria.  Life is short sweetie, take a chance, and good luck.
217476
No, my best friend is, just that, my best friend.  Her EX is, not fair game.\n\nI played this game before, lost out on both counts.  the ex, only wanted to get back at her, she wanted me to "date" him and see if he wanted her back..\nend of story, everyone hated me, for playing thier game!\n\nNO
686096
Most people I've spoken to believe that dating a friend's ex is off limits. Others feel that it is acceptable, as long as you clear it with your friend before anything happens. Even so, it is almost always a problematic situation. If you are really interested, you should certainly feel free to discuss it with your friend. and thats wat ur friend didn't do,she shud have discussed it with u.but anways,u need not worry coz she will b regretting what she did soon.........
345852
First of all a guy is not worth a friendship!!!\n\nYou should not be in their relationship either that is just going to cause problems, especially since you are friends with both of them.\n\nAlso if you date him she will be mad at you and then if you and him break up he will be mad at you to and then you will not have a best friend. And I honestly dont think you want to risk both of their friend ships just because of the crush you have on him!
585094
whether you approve of it or not, it is her decision if she wants to be friends with him or not. telling her who she can be friends with or getting angry about her being friends with an ex is just going to make you look controlling or jealous. i think you should trust her and let her be friends with him. if she starts spending too much time with him let her know it makes you uncomforable but dont try to force her to do anything..its just going to turn out badly.
734820
the fault is with both of them definitely. but the fault is mostly with your best friend.\n\ncome on! if she was your "best friend" she would Not hit on him. by doing that, she has absolutely no respect for you. if she can do it once, she can do it again. this might not be even the first time. she obviously doesn't treat you as her best friend or she is just too selfish to have anyone in her life apart from herself. you deserve a better friend than her.\n\nand john is definitely at fault too. he was supposed to be with you but he cheated on you with your Best Friend!! he should have some self control. even if he wanted to hook up with your best friend in the first place, he should have the decency to tell you that it is over between the both of you. this is not the kind of guy you would want to spend your time with. the fact that he can cheat on you in your bed speaks volumes of the kind of degenerate person he is.\n\nyou should just shut them out of your life.
678780
Honestly what do you expect?  I mean it is your BEST FRIEND'S EX.  Even if she says she's cool about, deep down inside she might not be.  Why don't you ASK her why she keeps bashing your man.  She could be jealous, or she could be telling the truth about how he really acts.  I have two friends who are MARRIED to my ex's, and I'm completely fine with it.  I never knock their hubbies or anything. Of course both of their hubbies are good guys, and I dumped them.
190121
There's no hard-and-fast rule.  The consensus seems to be that it's not a good idea because of the harm it may cause your ex and the awkwardness it may create in the new relationship.  However, if your ex is out of the picture, and it's unlikely you'll see him again, and his status as your ex doesn't pollute the current relationship, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore it.  If it's inevitable that he'll find out, and you've been with him for a long time, you should wait a while before pursuing his friend, and you also should consider letting him know your intentions.
304499
Absolutely not, If she is a good friend don't even consider dating her X. He is an X for a reason. \nIf you want to loose her friendship go right head?
421685
It's up to the best friend to be honest.  But if you go for it, be prepared for some serious backlash from your ex.
109273
Just brake up with him because your friend probably said she didn't care if you to dated in the first place but she really did. Trust me my EX best friend dated my brother and now we now longer talk at all because she began choosing him over me and everybody else and remember bf come and go and true friends are forever. Do yourself and your friend a faver and stop it now before it ends up like we did and stopped being friends all together.
628687
If I found out they were dating behind my back, I would dump BOTH of them, not 1. Just to make the process more efficient! :)\n\nCheer up, sh..t happens, you know.\n\nGet a new best friend, and a get a new boyfriend, too.\nHarsh to say, but this may be the only clean way out of this mess. \n\nDon't torture yourself... but defend yourself, as much as you can. Don't let your self-esteem go down beause of the two pigeons.
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
609148
Well, I hope you're not friends with your best friend anymore because that's not what I call a true friend. She told you she would never go out with your ex because she loved you like a sister, but that's not the case. You should have never dated your ex-boyfriend's best friend either. If you like other guys such as your ex's best friend than you're not in love. You may really like your ex, but there are other guys out there. Your ex is not worth it. Not only is your friend doing you wrong he is to by being with her.
338190
I'm a guy but I think my rule of thumb in a relationship works for both sexes. You date.. then you break up.. and when you break up, there is a good reason why the break up happened, and now you need to move on to someone else.  Life is just way too short and precious to be lingering over what could/should/would happen...  If your best friend made you break up with your boyfriend.. is she really your best friend? Most guys have an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to friends' girlfriends/wives (unlike movies or TV shows) Move on....find you a new and better man.. and make your ex and your best friend realize what they lost when you walk in with your new beau!
700046
It will possibly ruin your friendship and if you are dating someone you should not even be considering it. If you do there will be conseqences. I suggest that you don't do it, it's not worth loosing a friendship over.