What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is far away and can't talk to you?
405933
Just call him, if him holding you will make you stop crying, I'm sure his voice would help too. I have someone like that. I call him because he moved away. It works just fine to hear his voice, and when he comes to visit you, then you can be all huggy-lovey-dovey with him. Thats all I can say. good luck. =D
465252
You have to make sure that they know you are there for them and you need to let them know that it's not an ok thing to do. Convince them that they need to stop and get help. You have to be there for them and support them in everything. Anything else? e-mail me at mowel3point@yahoo.com!
33538
To get back at her, simply do nothing. By doing something that would make her crumble, you yourself will be a part of that mess and would not be pleasant if it was known that you did something or that you had even plotted against her. Eventually, she will reach a breaking point since nobody is truly perfect (no matter how close it seems). She probably has already annoyed other people to the point of abandonment.\n\nOverall, just ignore her. Try and try. You need to be the one to take her place :]
279984
Just don't talk to them will help...
1094510
I'm afraid the only way you are going to stop this is to just be brutally blunt with her. It sounds cruel, but people like her usually don't the get the message if you beat around the bush.  She obviously wants ALL your attention. She throws a tantrum when you say something to her to put a guilt trip on you. She obviously lost a lot of friends because she acts this way. She is suffocating and I give you credit for dealing with it, but I see you are at a breaking point and before this goes further, put a complete stop to it. \n\nI would air out all of your feelings to her emphasizing that you can no longer tolerate her behavior. Tell her unless she backs off and gives you some space you want nothing to do with her at all. She will be upset of course, throw her tantrum, but eventually she will get over it. It might prompt her to take a look at herself, the way  she acts and why she can't make friends and she might even thank you one day.\n\nI do emphasize be brutally blunt, if you aren't this problem will persist.
1045115
My first question is this: are you sure he's ignoring you? There may be a perfectly valid reason. Did you send him an email and he just hasn't responded? Did you send him an IM that he didn't reply to?  Did you call and leave a vmail and not get a call-back?\n\nFirst, make sure that he is not out-of-town on a family emergency. If you are positive that he has been receiving your messages and purposely not responding to you, only then should you proceed with what I call my secret weapon: the handwritten letter.\n\nWrite him a letter that says the following:\n1. Intro paragraph. Tell him that you really value your friendship and that you are concerned about him. He has not been responding to your calls/ims/emails like he normally does, and you would like to know what's wrong.\n\n2. Body. Tell him that you are not sure if there is anything going on in his life (maybe he is depressed and not speaking to anyone? maybe a relative passed away and he is trying to cope with the loss?), but that you want to be there for him because you care about him. He should know that he can call you any time, day or night.\n\n3. Body, Part II. Tell him that if nothing is wrong, that you were worried that he was angry with you. Describe your last interaction and how you thought that all was well between you at that time. Apologize in advance if you offended him and assure him that it was completely unintentional. Finally, tell him that if it was something that you did, that you would like to talk about it.\n\n4. Finally... Tell him that you miss talking to him and hope that everything is ok. Tell him that you were thinking of some fun time that you guys shared together and that you hope to see him soon. Tell him to take care of himself and sign it \n\nYour friend always,\nXXXXXX\n\nThen, deliver it straight to his door or mail it to his house. Either way, nothing has the impact of a handwritten note in terms of sincerity and thoughtfulness. Try it. I promise he'll be back in no time. ;)
80354
You need to first figure out WHY you need space. If you just want some alone time, tell him. If you absolutely can't stand him, get counseling or talk to him about what you can't stand. Make sure you're not just going to ignore him if there are deeply-set problems (like something he does often that you can't stand).
424688
Well this is going to sound really cliche, but if they are hurting your feelings then they probably aren't true friends.  But I bet you they don't have many other friends either, and they don't want to lose you as a friend.  \n\nIt's hard to know exactly what to say without knowing specifically what the problem is, but you might try saying "could you please stop" then explain why what they are doing is making you upset.  Here comes another cliche: if they don't stop hurting your feelings then you need to find new friends.
922340
FIRST YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO YOUR PARTNER AND SEE WHAT IS GOING ON...HE OR SHE MIGHT BE DISTANT BC THEIR FEELINGS MIGHT NO LONGER BE THERE. YOU NEED TO FIND OUT WHY HE IS IGNORING YOU. DO NOT LET YOUR PARTNER SAY THEY DONT KNOW WHY OR SOME COP OUT EXCUSE, YOU NEED A STRAIGHT ANSWER, BC IF THERE IS A PROBLEM IT NEEDS TO BE FIXED. AND IF YOUR PARTNERS ANSWER IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND YOU ARE STILL HURTING, YOU NEED TO LEAVE THIS PERSON AND GO FIND SOMEONE WHO KNOWS WHAT THEY HAVE WHEN THEY HAVE YOU. YOU DONT DESERVE TO BE IGNORED!
629556
you don't need to be right next to the person to give them support. \n\ncall him and talk to him, let him know you are concerned and care for what he is going through. \n\nlet him know if he wants to talk you are available.
89432
When I find that I have something to say, but the other person doesn't want to listen, I listen to them first. It doesn't matter if you already know what they are about to say, or what they are thinking, everyone just wants someone to hear them. So after they are done talking/crying/yelling or whatever, then you talk to them calmly about how you feel about the situation. Don't be so quick to blame, just talk. If they still don't want to listen to you, then let them go,  they'll know where to find you once they are ready to listen.
3293
start talking even if it is VERY broken.\nI came through that successfully.\n\nof course, you need somebody who will listen in the very beginning stage and will enjoy listening.\n\nhave fun.
1033401
Have you emailed him to ask him what's going on? Text and email him both and ask. Tell him that if he's ok and simply doesnt want anything to do with you, to please tell you so you can stop wondering if he's ok. If he is ok, and just couldnt contact you for a while, ask him from now on, to tell you if he's going to be out of touch for a while and/or if he's mad or wants nothing to do with you to say so........the silence is confusing and scary. Explain that.I am sure he is just involved in something and cant get back to you. I'm sure it bothers him too...wondering what you must think!  Good luck!
583895
You cant change the situation, so all you can do is deal.\nIf you get to talk to him, tell him how much it bothered you that you didnt get to say goodbye. write to him, call him, let him know how much you miss him.\nWhen he comes home, meet him at the airport, train station, (wherever) shriek his name, run to him & TACKLE HIM with love, kisses and hugs.
310510
make sure u contact them from time to time. There are ways, even cheaper ways to do it (email, chatting). And if it is just too much, do not be alone. Spend time with people close to you, the ones who care about you. And also make yourself busy,so that you forget about everything that worries you as well.
735540
Just stop. Stop the calling to say you can't talk, and stop emailing and wondering and asking and being hurt and expecting friendships and things. Your friends are right. Don't even try to talk to him. Wait, and call in in 6 months if you must.
263443
cry alot call them write them and cry some more i know i still love this guy im 1500 miles away from him you just hope you can be with him again and hold him in your arms and do the things that you did when you were with him and i do believe that if you are meant to be with someone you will be no matter what happens in life