I have an ex who is my "friend" now. I want a realtionship and so does he. How do I get things started again?
406976
start it jsut like how you started the first time you had the romantic relationship//reminiscing is the simpliest way to get back on track
366403
You can't!  It's either there or it isn't.  You can make a start by asking her out, and doing a very old-fashioned thing in 'courting' her properly, and see how you get on.  however, what happens if you break up?  Is she a very good friend that you would hate to lose under those circumstances?  It's very hard to turn love back into friendship...
562586
Alls I can say is....rebound relationships. You both just got out of long term relationships, which probably means you both got your hearts broken. Now you are leaning on eachother for support and that's fine, but you are confusing support and friendship with love. It's nothing new and that's why so many people that have been divorced once, get divorced twice. I suggest you don't move and just keep a friendship up...it's only been 2 months...that's not long enough to make a life changing decision. Good luck in whatever you decide.
1045133
dont forget about him.. you can still be friends with him.. and hwo knows maybe one day down the road thigns wil pick up for you 2 again
252132
Casually call him up...say "Hey it's been forever, I miss ya, lets get together and do something" Get him out and talking and casually bring up what the other friend asked you. Get the conversation going and see how it leads. Best of luck.
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
616801
who cares we are no longer together and he is my EX but as for my friend I would rethink our relationship because she may have wanted him long time ago--leave the past in the past and do what you have to do for you and take care of you let that go
144523
i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
675332
well i kinda had the same problem... i always say keep ur friends close but keep ur ex's even closer... he shld know ur x is ur friend and that he shldnt control who u hang with or who u talk to.. tell him that ..
902403
have nothing more to do with him .. when he calls just dont  talk to him .. the more you communcate with him the more he will see it as you may want to get back together
896584
If you have feelings for him, and talking to him is hard because you get emotional, then you should stop talking to him (unless you both want to start back into a relationship - but because you broke up already, I'm guessing that's not the case.)\n\nYou sound like you need to widen your circle of friends.  Get out there! Keep yourself busy! Volounteer, play sports, take up a hobby with some friends, go to bars and make friends, go bowling, whatever!  The more friends you have, the more stuff you'll have to do, and the less time you'll have to dwell on / contact your ex.
760238
tell him your over him now and just want your friendship back with him becuase he's a cool person
162837
Ok!!! I think I get it. You broke up with your ex ok, you started to see this other guy but something is not right. Ok! Its not totally your fault but kinda is in away. but if you look at it this way.  He fell for you right after you broke up with your ex. When your still need to recover and think about what had happen between you and your ex. Figure things out!! RIGHT!  You really didn't need to be with him or any one. You really needed was a friend to talk to BUT (this is were its his fault)  he took that oppunity to get with you and now his all booty hurt becuase you pulled away.  He knew he was on the rebound.  If he cared enough for you he would of just left it as friends until you are ready for a relationship. So he can get the full true feeling of been in love with you.  Honestly his hurting himself because you did what was right about not let him go on knowning that there is a change for you two. But you should of been honest with him for the start.  You need to sit and talk to him and if he don't gave you that then its his lost cause.  Really if he really care for you, he would be htere as a true friend and wait a while to the time was right.  Then maybe there can be a change and things will feel right and nothing missing.  Your mind and heart is with someone else not with him.  If he can't expect that then its not your lost.  You just need to look at it if its one less person to know.  Your not a bad person for breaking it off with him. You told him what was up.  sometimes its better that way.. He'll end up talking to you matter what.  Jsut give him the space and time to cool off and then really see him for him not what was.  Maybe he was just doing it for something else who knows. Best of luck to you.
296873
Don't call him.  You may think that it would be good to get together with him but in the end it will not result well.  A friend of mine went through this with a guy she dated for 2 years.  since you were together for so long there may be a part of you that will always have some feelings for him and the same could go to him having some feelings for you.  I think he is not used to this new relationship and thinks about what he is missing when he is not with you.  It will be for the best if you don't go back to him.  I wouldn't call him or hang around him very much because it will only make those feelings stronger.  Find a good group of friends that aren't exactly mutual friends that you two made when you were in the relationship, and hang out with them.
33689
Sure. It can take some time, though, if you usedto be in a relationship with this person and no longer are. Friends after a break up is possible as long as you really do display the traits of a true friend. If you haven't been in a relationship with this person and are trying to avoid one, I think you are choosing a more posative option than cutting off all contact and obligations. This person means enough to you that you want to have a relationship, just not the same as it was or what the other person wants it to be. Just remember that this may take time, and that it is on the other person's schedule, so try not to get discouraged or have your feelings hurt if they aren't automatically ecstatic about the idea.
497143
Just give it time. I had a situation like that happen to me. I dated a girl for 2 years and 3 days after we broke up, her best friend kinda threw herself at me. No one wants that right after a breakup. I would have dated her where she to give me some time, at least a few weeks before jumping into a relationship again. Just give him some space and be there for him, if there are feelings there it will happen. If his feelings are not the same you will have to settle for being friends. Hope this helps.