can you still 4give your husband of 2yrs.who cheated on you?
398034
Girl, you needn't forgive him. Look at the facts. He cheated on you for two whole years, then, he had the courage to bring her to your hose. He sounds pretty dumb.
95003
I always jokingly say that "all men are pigs" but there are some that can be faithful. People only do to you what you LET them do. My husband has cheated on me several times because I LET him get away with it, and did nothing. Whereas, my sister has been married for 30 yrs, and I can swear on a bible her husband has never cheated.
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Trust me l've been there and still doing it. You really have to love the person with all your heart or it will never work. My husband cheated on me and it  is still very hard sometimes but you have to try and look at the positives in your relationship and decide whether it is all worth the effort. If you honestly know that you want to be with that person more than anything else in the entire world and you believe for whatever reason that they just made a mistake and it will never happen again, then you have to try and put the past behind you. If you can't do that, then in my eyes you are just wasting your time. You must learn to forgive and try to forget or it will eat you up. Believe me l know it is not always easy but sometimes you just know it is the right thing to do. Ofcourse there is a certain amount of anger and jealousy but you must get past that. Hope this helped  to answer your question.
852813
Have you been cheatin?\nDo you trust him?\nWhy not?
190293
the person who i loved with all my heart cheated on me after 2 years of relationship. it crushed me but i couldn't imagine my life without him and i tried to make things work. there were many promises from him, explanations, excuses, anything you can just think about. so i tried. all i got was another 3 years of misery, tears and broken heart. he did cheat again... and again... and again... so i just wasted years from my life and it ended in a break up anyway. it took me long time even after that to get over him but now i'm married and am the happiest woman on earth. i beg you girl, DON'T BELIEVE A CHEATER!!!!
624402
I have been almost in the same predicument as you, but my husband cheated on me first after 18 years of marriage. We have two children and not only did this effect me, it also had a great impact on the children as well. I did kick him out of the house and after a couple of weeks he realized that he wanted me back and to have life back to normal. Well that does not happen over night. The trust was gone, I was insecure with my self and felt that things could never be the same again. We remained living in the same house, seperate rooms, and trying to mend what happened, then he got into a bad accident as well. The accident was so bad that after leaving the hospital after 6 weeks, I had to nurture and nurse him everyday for the next year. After a complete year of this I cheated on him. I believe that I did this to fullfill the hurt,anxiety,and the insecurity I had about my self. He found out the same way by tapping the phone of reason's of suspition and confronted me. I did tell him the truth about everything. At that time I also said to him "How does it feel to have it happen to you, now we are even". Well set aside Love does hurt, and we all can be cruel either mentally or physically. We react weird to these typs of circumstances. But happy to say it has now been 7 years after this has all happened, and our love never died, it took a great deal of time for the trust factor to regain itself. I'm not saying that the trust will fully every be regained, but as your relationship heals and your thoughts and feeling are open and honest with each other this is a start. Marriage to me now is more important than I ever realized, I want to grow old together. Everyone is differant but place value on your love and family, and take baby steps. If all else fells and things can't be reconciled then be good friends for your children and yourselves. Good Luck. Good things take time.
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I think you are HO. I read your other posts...um did you leave your husband yet??? Is the divorce final??? Because you are asking how to screw all of these random guys and are you still married????? Considering you asked if you should leave your husband only 2 weeks ago it would seem you are sTILL married. THat makes you a cheating HO.Maybe you should worry more about your 5 year old kid instead of screwing random guys and worrying about booty calls all the time. Straighten up your life. Hopefully your husband will find out what a dirty skank you are and leave you before you give him and STD. Keep your legs closed.
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when my son's wife cheated.First time she cheated,after she did alot of pleading for forgiveness and swore she would never do it again. He forgave her. After all he did love her. Two years later when she did it again he said thats it she got it in her blood. When you love someone "YOU DON'T CHEAT!" He said he deserves better. He divorced her.
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If you really love him and you are sure in your heart he won't cheat again there is no reason not to give him another chance.  We are all human and make mistakes.  The key though is has he really changed, and can you truely forgive him.  If either of these isn't possible then move on.  If they are, then give it a try and be careful with your heart.
410878
That's a very interesting question. \nOr maybe it is my answer that is interesting.\nIn my family.......none have ever cheated...no divorces or cheating.\nFriends: I am forty three and I think I only have four friends that I know of that have been cheated on.
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if your partner is willing to move on then you should too. it is very painful to stay with a cheating spouse.all the bitter memories pops up in your mind again and again. the thing to do is forgive. you must never think of taking revenge. talk to your partner and try to mend whatever is left of the relationship.dont try to forget...you can never forget. but you can forgive. then you will move on.remember that you have won and your spouse really loves you...or else he wouldnt be with you. remember people makes mistakes. dont repeat his mistakes. if he repents for his mistakes then embrace him. start a new life. go to councelling, pick up sports, spend time to gether. after all life is short.
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I know several cases were people were married for 60/70 years and their spouse passed on and they never cheated.  If you love your spouse and respect the sanctity of marriage then it's very possible.  My husband was in Iraq and I had MANY chances to cheat.  (the female to male ratio in this town is about 250:1 so even if you're 200lbs overweight, if you have boobs, you can get some).  Anyway, I love my husband and I refuse to risk what we share for a night or two with some jerk who doesn't care about anything.  I love my husband and I stayed faithful.  I'll continue doing so now that he's home and for the rest of our lives.  I have no doubt in my mind he will do the same.
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Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....
1099161
Forgiving my ex girlfriend for cheating. She then thought well, if he forgave me for that time he will forgive all the times to come. I will never forgive a cheater again!!!!
186041
Well Jess, I can really relate to your problem.  I was also in a 5 1/2 year relationship with a guy who was also in law enforcement.  He cheated on me with 22 women while we were together.  He, too, lied about EVERYTHING.  He had a lot of friends in law enforcement who were married, and they were all cheating on their wives.  I don't know what it is about that profession, but all of the ones I have known have become unfaithful to their partners.  And as for this other guy you are seeing... okay, maybe you didn't sleep with him YET, but the simple fact remains that he has a wife at home and if he is calling all of the time and telling you how much you mean to him, then he might as well be cheating!!  And you never know, law enforcement personnel are some of the most biggest manipulators in the world... he may be telling you that he doesn't want to cheat so that when it does finally happen, you won't feel so bad about it!  I understand how this man makes you feel, but your emotions are getting in the way because you are going through such a hard time with your husband.  You have to make a rational decision about this.  I think the best thing you can do is to leave your husband... he is no good for you and never will be.  Also leave the other guy alone because he will be doing the same thing before long!  I hope I have helped you and if you need someone to talk to more about your situation, please don't hesitate to contact me at nisey513@yahoo.com... Good luck!
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
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I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!