I think my wife is about to divorce me I still love her Whatcan I do?
413799
I really believe that you need to court each other again. I know it sounds silly but we're talking about the rest of your life here. In life sometimes we loose sight of how we got there. good luck!
343870
The only thing that you can do is wor on becoming the best you that you can be. You made some big mistakes in your marriage. Work on becoming a better person and learn to accept yourself for the changes that you have made and are still working on. You cannot and will not change the way she thinks..........until you change you.
779154
try to talk to her one more time, go there personally, tell her what's in your heart, and tell her u need to be with her, and if you can't have your family back, than u need to move on with life, because your not happy being alone. and wait for her response. if she isn't interested than there's no choice but to file for divorce and move on and start over again. but confront her first with how u are feeling, before u file for divorce.
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
156919
1st make sure. If it is so, leave her.
1038333
Sit down, fix her a cup of tea, and ask her why she wants you to leave. DON'T Say a word, Let her talk. Tell her you care about her feelings. Don't GIVE her Suggestions. If she complains to about you. KEEP CALM. Just KNOD your head and listen. You see if you Just LISTEN she will open up. If you Tear, she knows you care. If you smile while tearing, she will know that you love her and will do anything to have her feel better. Then, you will work on yourself, while she will know what to do. The next day, call during the day and tell her that you will fix her dinner. Take care of her, protect her. Lastly COMPLIMENT HER!\n\nSay sorry that you have neglected her and COMPLIMENT HER for staying strong and for Marrying a undeserved man. If she leave you, she will be letting an undeserved man to a pit of nothing. That she is the best thing that ever happened to your life. Then break up the routine of what your both will do. DATE her. DATING IS really for MARRIED COUPLES. Because you don't have to be guilty of being alone.
940523
Don't ever admit to anything. The best thing that you can do is accuse her of giving it to you,and then file for divorce on grounds of adultery.
425550
You have to look back and see if there is anything you might have done to have grow away from you. Remember when you first met, start treating her the way you used to. Do not take her for granted, bring flowers take her out on a date. Get a sitter get away for a weekend. Romance her. SAVE your marriage. Chances are very high she has someone else except she is hiding it very well and you are so in love with her still that you don't see the signs. By giving you a date and not leaving now means she already has a fall back guy waiting and he is also going throughthe same thing with his wife. Except his wife might not even have a hint as you do. By giving you a date it is giving you a chance to win her over again. It is kind of like she still wants in and is not really sure about this other guy. The ball is in your court you play or you give up, it is up to you. You don't mention how old the kids are. They need their parents at any age. Is she taking them. If she is leaving make sure it is all legal. She might get knocked up by some guy and you will be stuck with that fact of life. If she is serious about coming back she is just looking for a fling and trying to see if this guy will keep her. Do not ask her anything just romance her if you still want her. Have her wonder why she wants to leave.
931547
You have answered your own questions above.\n1. you no longer love your wife.\n2. you have been neglected.\n3. your marital relations leave you sleeping alone.\n4. you have started another relationship -although platonic for now, with someone else.\n5. all you need is some guts to tell her the truth and be done with it, why drag it out-not helping you or her.\nHer gambling is HER PROBLEM, not yours, remember that.\ngood luck.
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
580826
Man you need help!!get it now before you hurt her. what happened to love? You must have loved her to marry her.I'm not for divorce but in your case I think she should run for the border.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
188279
show her that u love her and willing to work on marriage show her that u care talk to her in a way that she answer u honestly whats bothering her and she can open up .. and don't give up if really want this marriage to work it will if u just make her understand that u love her
327272
It looks to me that your wife is playing with you.The way she acts towards you doesn't show that she loves you..ore respects you for that matter!I'd talk to her,tell her what you think and feel..that you need to her to change her ways,because this isn't working out for you.If she refuses,ask yourself if this is how you want to go on....clearly this is making you very unhappy,you shouldn't accept this!
654735
Break back up. You'll be much happier. Its not like you are married to her. Who wants to be stuck with  a bitter, whining person? Move on, you'll be glad you did.
873490
if you want to keep her,but I don't know why really from the sounds of it except that you have 20 years invested in the relationship,I would do a little investigating and find out who is checking your wife's oil. \n  I am serious..that is the only answer that is plausible and reasonable,and she probably feels that she cannot stay with you because of guilt. \n Be upfront and just lay the cards on the table and get it out in the open and find out what is really going on..and take off those 20 year old rose colored glasses.
659700
she is bored with you and most likely cheating too. tell her to talk this out with you or else you want a divorce. you can find someone who appreciates you more. honey she ain't workin she is just workin it. get rid of her.