what do i do when a girlfriend breaks up and only wants to be friends?
412207
dont worry about her move on, i rekon that is the best, just think of all the things you wanted to do when you were with her and go do it, i would not worry about the friendship
424339
Your first mistake was saying yes. End it now. The longer you go, the more he's going to be hurt when time comes. Tell him it's a little akward being with him so youd like to go back to being friends. If he really likes you then he would rather keep you as a friend then lose you all together. it will be akward after the break up for a little while, but just keep seeing him and talking to him, then the akwardness will go away, and everything wil be back to normal the way you liked it before.\nGood luck
610582
you should ask her if she wants to hang out some time and stay close to her and when they do break up you should be there for her and then when shes over the crying bs then u should ask her out
702118
just tell her that you feel like you both have grown apart and no longer have the same interests and that you don't want to be friends anymore or hang out. people usually will leave you alone if you say you don't want to be friends anymore. if you don't feel comfortable telling her in person, then email her or call her up on the phone. telling her is better than trying to avoid her. some people need bigger hints.
992454
Her desire to continue being your friend may be her way of keeping her options open.  Be honest with her.  Tell her you're still in love with her and you aren't able to be JUST a friend to her because it hurts too much!  Break it off, forever, and begin dating immedialy.  You know the story....If you love something set it free, if it comes back... you did alright...
953718
This guy would be mad to even consider getting back together with this girl. She doesn't deserve a second chance. To be honest I don't even know why you want a " friend " like her - you sound like a nice person !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk to the guy and give him your opinion - does he really want to go through that kind of sh*t again ?
619770
u sound totally nice to me, even tho you're not my type much. maybe she prefers other kinds of guys, (like i do, i like bad boys/lost souls, who're mysterious but can be reachable)  Or maybe she just wants to be friends, because that's what she thinks of you as. just wait a while, ask her why she broke up w/ u, or as her if she wants to go out w/ u again. good luck
354325
Let it go.  Let him go.  Your setting yourself up to be hurt.  Don't get in the middle of that situation because it sounds like it's far from over.  He sounds like he has to deal with his issues with her.  He may get back with her or he may not but it doesn't matter he can't give you what you want from him right now.  It's better to continue being friends if you can.\n\nHopefully you can because friendship is so important.
405734
The best advice i can give you is just build on that friendship because the closer you are when she breaks up with him the better the chance you will have to start dating her
689618
Be happy for her. You'll make new friends too. You need to let go a little and move on.
974030
You wrote that all you want is to be friends, but later state that you want to get back together with him.  It is best for both of you to leave him alone.  It is tough to move on, but just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.  You're gonna be fine.
242409
I think you should stop talking to her,because she might only want to be friends and that will hurt
943243
just like Usher said, you gotta let it burn...i don't want to judge your ex, but it seems to me that she kept you in her life as her emotional crutch.  she would meet other guys with a certain confidence because she had you in a glass case and in case of emergency, she'll break the glass and use you.  the best thing to do is just move on.  being friends is all good but for your sake, try to keep it as informal as possible (emails, texts, etc).  you obviously care about her deeply and that's good but you have to take care of you first.  the best way to move on is to live your life to the fullest.
171455
Well you can't control other people's feelings and to try to do something to break the relationship up is not being a friend to either of them. The only thing you can do is go on with your life and meet other people.
443293
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
272262
It is so good and loving of you to be so concerned for your friend and want to help her through this difficult time. I think you are a great friend and she is lucky to have you for a friend.\n\nNow, the best thing you can do for her is to listen. Listen while she poors out her hurt and disapointment in the end of this relationship. It is difficult on so many levels to get dumped, especially by somebody who is not her equel and who was mean to her. It is obvious she is suffering from some low self esteem. Prop her up and let her know how wonderfull she is, but do not say anything about the breakup except if she asked you a direct question.\n\nThe best gift we can give our friends is an listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and without judgement or harsh words about this guy who has hurt her so deeply. If you say anything negitive at this point she will become defensive and not want to be around you. She needs to come to the realization that this was not a good relationship on her own time. She will if she is allowed to express her feelings without getting a lot of "advice" from well meaning friends. If she takes him back she won't forget all the negitive things you said about her "love" and she won't forgive you for saying it either. It makes a person feel that their judgement is being questioned and that friends don't really think she can make good judgements about her own life. Even if it is true that this relationship is not a good one, she needs to realize that in her own time. \n\nIncourage her to go out with you and do some fun activities. Don't try to "fix" her up with anybody yet. She is not ready for that. She needs time to heal from this wound. If you keep listening to her and taking her out for fun activities she will eventually start becoming more involved with her own life and begin to heal. Then she will be more ready to look at differant men as potential dating material and boyfriend material.\n\nIf she continues to make poor choices in who she dates and becomes involved with, then perhaps you should assist her in increasing her feelings of self worth. Tell her what you love and like about her, what streangths she has, her skills you admire. She needs to hear that she is valued and seen in a positive light. \n\nGood luck in helping your friend. I am glad she has a friend like you in her life. She is lucky to have somebody as supportive and loving as you. I wish you happiness and health too. :-)
366403
You can't!  It's either there or it isn't.  You can make a start by asking her out, and doing a very old-fashioned thing in 'courting' her properly, and see how you get on.  however, what happens if you break up?  Is she a very good friend that you would hate to lose under those circumstances?  It's very hard to turn love back into friendship...