Why do you think men really want to get married?
401321
Unfortunately, most guys tend to think of sex first in their reasoning for marriage.  This is extremely shallow, I know, but I am assuming that you are looking for a genuine answer.\n\nDepeding on the person, there are other things that they look forward to as well.  I couldn't wait to decorate for Christmas in our own house, and wake up together, and open presents by the fireplace - just the two of us.  I looked forward to creating special "her" days, where I cooked dinner, and created an itenerary of fun things to do throughout the day.  I consider myself to be somewhat of a romantic...but in all honesty, I was really looking forward to the sex, too.\n\n(Of course, I had sex for the first time on our wedding night.  The case may be different for guys who have sex before marriage.  I'm sure you'll be able to find one or two of them to get input from on this site).
447240
I saw on GMA about a year or so ago, that there are actually more men who want to get married than women.  Honestly, I don't want to get married.  I have a daughter and don't want any more kids  I'm very independent and really don't need a man for anything.
170143
Trap?  That's kind of a broad generalization on all women, isn't it?  Marriage was a very serious decision for me and my husband both, and we certainly didn't rush into it.  We were together for 3 years before deciding to get married, and afterwards we waited 7 years before we decided to have a child.  It was all a mutual decision, based on what we both wanted, and I personally wouldn't have wanted to marry a man who wasn't 100% wholeheartedly into being there.
815010
Because some men think that after they marry the challenge is over.\n\nmandy
647213
Marriage is just a way of saying , hey i love you enough to be with you forever . It is a way of telling someone you can count on me . I know , that you don't have to be married to spend the rest of your lives together. But , it means alot more & makes you feel alot better to know someone feels strong enough about you to say---> this is it I have found what i want , what i need in you ! But , marriage is alot of work--> as is everything that is worth having in life! I like knowing when i go home someone is there waiting for me ! I like knowing that i can have sex whenever i need it , without worrying where you are going to get it from . And , I like knowing if i really need someone to be there for me--> i've got it! Now , i know that all of you big strong men don't care about any of that right ? But, when you truely grow up , you will.... It's nice to go home and be with someone , without having to worry about coming up with some wierd messed up stuff growing on your _ _ _ _!
48670
I don't think so. I would never ever have done it in a million years. If he doesn't propose it is because he doesn't want it. If you want to get married discuss the topic,shop for rings,and discuss it some more,but in the end please leave this one to the guys ladies. I know we live in a world where women are more independent and go after exactly what they want but really I would hope that the guy you are with has enough intiative to tell the women he loves that he wants to marry her. Don't you think that in the back of your mind you would always wonder if he really wanted it and if he ever would have proposed had you not?Good luck!
420030
people get married because they are gambling on a feeling lasting.  the thing is a crap shoot at best. about 50% of marriages end in divorce, and most of them end bad.  But, if it's a good marriage it's better than anything immaginable.
430379
you wanna get marriage?
57028
You cannot make a man ask you to marry him!! And besides that, why would you want to? Personally, I would want to know that I am being asked for my hand in marriage because the man loves me and wants it, not bacause I forced him into it. Often marriages where one person or the other felt pressured in to it, don't work out anyway. Best off to wait for him to do it from his heart!
686228
because you're trying to run before you can walk. you like the idea of marriage without going though what is necessary: the courtship. the relationship building. the personal growth. it's like trying to fly an F18 without even stepping into a flight simulator
445049
I guess because it departs from tradition and what people are used to.  The women's movement was only 30-40 years ago, and a lot of people still aren't conditioned to the fact that a woman can find happiness and success on her own.  I am 27, rather attractive, own a business and make more money than most married couples my age, yet some people treat me like I've got one foot in the grave and had better hurry up and get married because 30 seems to be the magic deadline.  The truth is, I would love to get married when I'm damn good and ready to find the right one, whether it be tomorrow or when I'm 75.  I'm just not going to get married for the sake of marriage, which a lot of people seem to do (hence the divorce rate today).
507489
hell first i am a guy.....i am a newlywed of 1 year...when my wife had told me she wanted marriage it was great news to me..i acted like i knew nothing of it..meaning i knew she wanted marriage..we talked about it..this was so exiting for me..if you know for sure he is wanting to marry you...then wait..don't approach him again..why? well alot of guys are the same i knew she wanted marriage so i thought about the perfect way to ask her..i thought about all the good things that i wanted as well..i think to sum this up...he wants to think of the perfect wedding..he wants this to be the most beautiful day for the both of you..he will come around give it time...please take this advise from a man who has went through the same exact thing
1041707
It all depends on the female. She may just want attention, she might just want someone to take care of her and buy her things. Every woman wants a guy to propose to them and get married one day. But the key to a female getting what she wants is to be straight foward and honest about it, alot of males, believe it or not are not mind readers.
539071
You'll just know. Besides, no one is quite READY for marriage, it's like having a baby--you have to know you want it and then plan for it. When that's in place it's trial by error, so to speak.
232364
you dont get married just to have kids. you get married because you found someone you want to share your life with and making a committment to do so forever.
628663
You can't "Get" a man to marry you until they are ready, or mutually like yourself, think the relationship is ready to take it to the next step. Think about it, would you want to force someone into marrying you now just because your ready only to find out later (after a divorce) that they weren't ready to be married?
1153501
I'm assuming that you are getting these comments from older relatives? Our society is currently in flux and it no longer behooves women to marry young like it once did. Women are more and more often to be the ones to put off getting married because many women see marriage at a young age as a trap into domesticality.\n\nI mean, who really wants to have to hold down a job, do the majority of the household chores, do the majority of the child care, and then have to deal with the husband acting like his wife is really his mother? I mean even the most responsible men don't seem to know how to eat a healthy meal (pizza is NOT a food group!), how to scrub a toilet or wash a load of laundry (or how often such tasks need to be done), or how to write a grocery shopping list or a menu for a weeks worth of meals. \n\nI say, you go girl! Marriage is a raw deal for women. Men definately got the better end of the marriage agreement!