I have a boyfriend and im happy with him. Im in love with my x though. What should i do?
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i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
416353
Dont go out on a limb.  He is her boyfriend.  U have to accept that.  There really isnt a whole lot u can do to her and him- try to find someone who suits u too.  (MAybe a gallon of icecream)lol
1137505
stay with your guy\nLike you said don't ruin your current relationship for a little crush\nThe feelings will pass
353000
You are a lucky guy! You've found the right one for u. The 1 with whom u will spend the rest of your life!!\n\nBoth of u are totally inlove!!!!\n\nwish u all the best with ur gf!
546655
You still love your X.  You love your husband, and if you're still young, you WILL feel strong attraction to possibly one or more others in your future.  \nThis happens to ALL of us, as a mechanism for survival of the species.  It is BUILT IN to us to love more than once.\n\nLove never dies.  But something went wrong between you and your X, and the relationship ended.  That one thing will never change between you, and will always be remembered.\n\nYou invested in this marriage because it seemed good.  You worked to make it good.  Are you working to KEEP it good?\nI am willing to bet either you or your husband have become lazy in going through the effort to be "attractive", and that just kills romance.\nThen we think we are not loved anymore.  In a marriage, that is very much BS.  Of course you are still loved.  Love does not die.  But it can be overshadowed by the demon PRIDE.\nGet rid of pride.  Do things to make yourself enticing and attracting.  And you can make the LOVE even better than ever before between you and your husband.\n\nI've been in a relationship that nearly died, and salvaged it with just a little effort on my part.  Wanted to leave, and figured, what the heck, I've got nothing to lose, let me play the game all the way out...so I did the bit of work needed to bring back the sparks. \n\nIt seems stupid at first, and remember PRIDE is a demonic factor.  But if you treat it like a game, you can have some fun with it, and get a very surprising outcome.\nIs he looking at another woman?  That is NOT an issue betweent he TWO OF YOU.   Sweetie, you have the advantage.  He's yours most all the time, right?\nHave a blast, entice and attract him, and you'll start to see him acting goofy again.  He won't even know what's happening, just that he feels good around you again.  It's just like dating.  They come back because you make them feel good more than any other girl.  Use those same keys to his heart again...who knows him better than you?\nDo the make-up, perfume, (try a mixture of the spice cinnamon+baby powder), and FLIRT with your husband!!!  Bend over.  Touch his shoulder.  Touch him lightly in the middle of the night, you'll even here his breathing change.\nWatch how he begins to spark at you once again.\nManipulate time alone with him.  Don't make an announcement on any of this...just work it girl.\n\nYou ARE married, and you do love your husband, and you always will.  Let the ex go, and quit turning outside for solutions to your marriage. Give him all the attention and effort you're presently giving the X.   \nTurn your efforts INTO the marriage and get busy being all girly again.  Oh yeah, and another really important thing.\nBecome your husbands best friend.  Let him know you really are his best friend, and that you like spending time with him.  Compliment him a little (not too much).\n\nALL marriages go through dry spells, especially when no one is trying to keep it interesting.  Don't make the mistake of saying, well HE'S not making the effort!  That is a load of BS and you know it.  Not many men even know how to make the effort unless they have an erection.  If you want him to jump through hoops, then you'll have to make sure he gets and erection first!  ha ha ha ha\n\nBe the Girl all we women can be if we want to.\nI wish you love
190794
Ask yourself if you can live with all the in differences sounds like it might be difficult to always have him being the one who is right and in control you have to do what makes you happy any relationship is a 50/50 deal :)
789087
The grass is always greener...  IMO, stick with your current boyfriend and forget about the first one. Or, stay single. Perhaps you aren't ready for a commitment with either yet if you are having difficulties deciding between them.  Goodluck with whatever you decide to do. :-)
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my guess is that you may be in lust or love, depending on how long he's been your boyfriend. especially at the beginning of the relationship you will be thinking about him a lot because you are dealing with a lot of new emotions. and it could be the beginning of love. don't worry. if he wasn't your boyfriend then it would be a concern. have fun. this feeling doesn't always last that long. in a month, when things get boring and routine, you'll miss the days when you waited for his phone call.
576502
Okay, honey. If he really loves you, he'd choose you over the other guy. If being with him, and knowing he has someone else makes you feel that way, then he is not worth it. If it is meant to be, then it will, but BOTH of you have to want it to be. He has made it obvious that you are not priority one in his world. You seem like a lovely boy, I'm sure you can find someone just as loving and devoted as you are! Take my advice as a fruit-fly who has seen many gay relationships fall out. He. is not. worth it. Leave him, and if he wants you as badly as he says, he'll come running back and make you his only. Otherwise, you're better off without him.
309960
If you are in a relationship, you have to do what it is that you think is best. If your boyfriend your with now is not where your heart is, why are you wasting his and your time, move on because it is not fair. It seems as if you want your cake and to eat it too.  You have to be fair to yourself and to your boyfriend and to your ex. Follow your heart.
720457
talk to him - i told my bf that i love him and see our futures as being together - try it :-)
259732
You should just move on, while you are with him you might be missing out on the right man for you. It sounds like you and your boyfriend aren't really in the relationship anymore anyway, you're settling, you're just in it because it is comfortable.
222569
:)..you're sweet..u don't realise that u are inlove..and that is a good thing cause u don't want to be dissapointed by him..the boy U ARE INLOVE WITH...cause u are..trust me...i am in the same situation..but i know that he feels the same...we are together now...and at the begging i felt the same...but i wasn't sure...and now i'm happy thinking about him in reality or in dreams...i love him!..and u love your guy..don't worry just be yourself and love always love cause life is made to love...to live for love!...so LIVE FOR YOUR LOVE like i live:)...kisses:*
247647
Well if you truly love your boyfriend you need to question yourself why you are dating someone else on the side. Is it because you are not happy with your boyfriend? Is it because you are insecure? Once you are able to find the answer, then you will feel much better. Of course you are depressed, you were busted. But you have to live with the consequence, that is the only way you will learn from your mistake. Yes, what you did was wrong. Hurting someone who trusts you is wrong.
330356
I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
643794
I have been in exactly the same sitation. I have a boyfriend of 3 years. He's the best and would do anything for me. What I feel for my boy friend is ever-lasting love. But.....I also fell in love with my collegue from work. I worked with him for 4 years, known him longer than my boyfriend. He felt the same way. \nI was faced with the dilema; should I leave my boyfriend for my co-worker. \n\nAfter much consideration, I decided to stay with my boyfriend.\n\nThere is a difference between being "in love" and love that will last for ever. The feeling of being "in love" will only last for a short time.   \n\nwhat you need to ask yourself is: Who will be there for my when I have problems, when I get old, when times are hard. It is only that person who really loves you. And that person will most probably be your boyfriend
643810
ask urself one question.. how would u feel if he did that to u? do u love him and want to be with him ?(current boyfriend) if u dont... end that relationhip before u try to start up another one...its not fair to anyone involved