I've Been Divorced For Nearly 2 Months,But I'm Not Satisfied With The Final.WHAT CAN I DO AT THIS POINT ?
404593
If final means it is completely resolved then I don't think there is much you can do except move foreward. Take the oportunity to reflect on your marriage and learn from the experience. It may help you in your future relationships. good luck.
842224
well it is hard to admit that we are divorced, it's like saying I failed in  a relationship. But until you get over that feeling that it just wasn't meant to be, you won't feel good about yourself. You have to realize that it wasn't your fault and eveerything happens in life for a reason if we don't always know the reason
809905
Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
283848
I myself am now just getting my divorce finalized at the end of the month. The amount of time varies with how comfortable you feel about seeing another person. It takes some time to get adjusted to the "single life". I have to agree that you don't want to introduce your children to someone that isn't serious. It's bad enough you had your heart broken by someone but you don't want your kids to go thru that over and over. It doesn't make you look good as a parent and your kids will grow up seeing you differently. Bottom line is there is no set time limit. It's all on how and when you feel yourself when you are ready.
288177
Two weeks is a short time.   I have been separated for two years now and my divorce should be finalized in two weeks.  LOL... it is always two weeks.  I still don't feel ready to date yet, but I am.  What ya gonna do?  Turn down people when they ask you?  Where have I met people, lets see... at the grocery store check out lane, at the car dealer waiting for my Van to be repaired, at Johnny's New York Style Pizza parlor, my neighbor, on yahoo... gosh, everywhere.  Only go out tho when you are ready.  I worried for the longest time that I just wanted to go out with guys to prove that guys would still find me attractive.
510373
I hear your frustration, but I also hear someone who is still in love with the person they married.  Sure, you don't feel for him the way you used but some of that is normal after 10 years, and some of that is from the financial frustration that is dragging you down.  Some times life just doesn't work out the way we had planned and we have to decide if it is best to adjust our expectations or change our lives.  This isn't easy as you have stated because you may find out that nothing changes or things are even worse without him.  Divorce is a huge step and a risk because it doesn't guarantee you that everything will get better.  I guess the big question is, can things change financially just because of a divorce?
51798
I agree with Dragon on this one.  Yes you are heartbroken and yes it wil take some time.  They say divorce is like death.  The processes of grieving are very similar.  The only difference is that the one that you love is still alive and kicking.  Take this time to examin what you want out of life.  Appreciate this time alone and do things that you could not do when you were married.  Enjoy the lack of nagging and complaining.  And enjoy that you can act as you did before you got married.  Time heals all wounds and with this time, you have the ultimate chance to reexamine your goals and proiriities in life.  Take it one step at a time and you will be fine.  I know the pain that you are going through and I know that it hurts.  But trust me, your heart well eventually stop bledding and once that happens, chances are you will see that one true person that you are meant to spend your life with.
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
1144538
Oh my dear lord.  You are in for a rude awakening.  Divorce is almost never cheap and it is almost never fast.  It is a horrific experience to go through and I'm sorry that you're going through it.\n\nThat having been said, the best way to do things is if you and your soon to be ex-spouse work together.  If there are no major conflicts and no major disputes over property or children, then you can get an attorney or paralegal to draft the necessary settlement documents.  \n\nGo to www.martindale.com for a listing of divorce attorneys in your area.\n\nGood luck.  You're going to need it.
1023943
yeah .. sounds like you're ready ... \n\nYou might need some time to save up some $$$ of your own ( if possible )\n\nStart looking for a divorce lawyer ( I would highly recommend one if you have any kids, property, equity, loans, ... etc.... with him )
353627
you have 6 month from the time your divorce was filed here in ca.  If I were you, I would consult a Lawyer.  He has no business being a father.  He sounds very unfit.  Sounds like you have very good grounds.  First though what I would recommend is documenting. for example, I keep all emails I send to my ex that way if need being I have the written proof for the court.  basically say to him, that he was scheduled to pick so and so up, but you got a call from the school saying no-one pick her up.  something along those lines.  without documentation, you won't have a chance.
1032725
How long has it been since you divorced?  You just might need more time.  You'll know  when you're ready for a serious relationship again.  Take time to find yourself again and reassess what you want out of life and in a mate.  If you don't feel you're doing ok on your own, seek some counseling.  It really does help to talk things out and put them on the table.
700409
Well he has to be charged first.  Is this what you want - to continue this war you have with your ex-husband?  What do you gain from this - he is now some other woman's problem - why are you making it yours now?  If your divorce is now final here is the US I am not sure what you personally gain from going after him.  As to going through a divorce procedure in Peru that isn't necessary regardless.  \n\nJust let it go and Good Luck in your new life without him.  It sounds like you deserve it and you certainly deserve someone better than him!!!\n\nWith Respects!!!
281092
Oh Sweetpea, You should find some help near you, some social help and start the divorcing process, till it's not too late. Your husband thinks that you do not understand much, do not see anything, can't do anything...I think you see and understand everything, you just need help and support from someone who has power to do so. Do not worry about justice in heaven, worry about the present time and your children. God will help you if you want to be helped.
711693
That is easy, because you are not ready!! You have been through a lot with the divorce, even though it is not final. You need to focus on yourself for a while and don't make it harder by adding another person to think about right now. Do things that you like and can do alone, go out with the guys, play cards, things with the kids. When the divorce is final and you have found out who you really are again, then you will feel more comfortable dating. You may also subconsciously think that it is not a good thing for the kids to see right now either, at least something to think about. Best of luck to you and time and prayer heal all things.
900467
I'm divorced, with 2 kids of my own, that live with me, and I'll tell ya, until HE is right with himself, there is NOTHING you can do.  He has to figure out what the deal is himself.  And you may need to find an alternative.
118634
Emotionally -- all you can do is remind yourself that one day, it will all be behind you.  That's what I did.  i knew it was gonna suck to go through it, but i knew that there would come a time when I'd look back and breathe a sigh of relief.  That was almost 9 years ago!\n\nFinancial survival depends on circumstances.  I was employed full-time with an OK salary, and I told myself not to depend on child support, because I knew that I wouldn't get it often.  My ex and I were basically pretty broke, so there was no property to divvy up.\n\nI was also lucky that the second lawyer I consulted with was ethical.  He gave me some info (no charge) to help me process some of the paperwork myself regarding child support and visitation before I had decided to actually go ahead with a divorce.  So when that time came, I went back to him and he charged me much less than the first guy I consulted had wanted for a retainer.  So it's important to shop around for someone who fits your budget AND understands your personal values.  \n\nBe true to yourself and respect your soon-to-be ex, regardless of what tactics are used on their side of the case.  You have to maintain your dignity so you can sleep at night.  Good Luck!