my friend going out with someone and xbf is in denial and keeps frustrating her anything i can do to help her?
413929
Tell her to stop hanging around him or just to simply state that she's not interested and that he needs to keep his grubby paws to himself. If she's actually told him to stop before and he won't listen, then that can fall under "sexual battery". If it's in the workplace, even better. The sparks will really fly at the first mention of sexual harrassment cause no employer wants to get sued.
748555
You cant be honest with someone who cant be awake to what her actions have caused!!\n\nAll actions have consequences is one u can say!! She isnt a child, she needs to face up to what she has done.. you sugar coating it wont help hun!!\nA true friend will tell her how it is then be there for her regardless of how things go down!!\nFriends have to beable to be honest!! If she cant handle it then she is a bigger idiot than i first thought!~!\n\nGood luck!
183880
tell her she has no right telling you what to do,\na true friend would respect that
1027416
Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
653243
The ONLY thing for certain in life, is CHANGE. None of us like it, and some like it less than others, but it is inevitable. Your friend is obviously going through a big change right now, and parts of it , she doesn't even like herself. In order to support her, you must let her do what she needs to do. Don't argue with her, or try to make her stop the change, just love her in spite of the change. It's not easy, but necessary. There will come a time when she will need you really bad, and you have to be there for her. In order to cope with this, you have to develop some interests of your own, outside her.  Go out with other friends, do some things you always wanted to do, and just be patient with her. Good Luck!
852272
Unfortunately there is nothing that can really be done here.  Be patient with your friend and let her feelings run their course.  Eventually she will realize how she isn't meant to be with him and begin the healing process and then begin to forget him.  Either that or she will meet another man that make her forget this guy.  Maybe you could recommend that she go on a date with a guy that shows interest in her.  Remind her that maybe she should give someone else a chance.
630118
i think if you found out your best friend was planning on ditching you next year i would ditch her before she ditches you.i would also getback with my xbf and make sure you look really prettier than her.or if you dont want to get back with your xbf just make sure you find a really hot guy to flirt with to make her jelouse. make that chick wish she were you!
663347
If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
272262
It is so good and loving of you to be so concerned for your friend and want to help her through this difficult time. I think you are a great friend and she is lucky to have you for a friend.\n\nNow, the best thing you can do for her is to listen. Listen while she poors out her hurt and disapointment in the end of this relationship. It is difficult on so many levels to get dumped, especially by somebody who is not her equel and who was mean to her. It is obvious she is suffering from some low self esteem. Prop her up and let her know how wonderfull she is, but do not say anything about the breakup except if she asked you a direct question.\n\nThe best gift we can give our friends is an listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and without judgement or harsh words about this guy who has hurt her so deeply. If you say anything negitive at this point she will become defensive and not want to be around you. She needs to come to the realization that this was not a good relationship on her own time. She will if she is allowed to express her feelings without getting a lot of "advice" from well meaning friends. If she takes him back she won't forget all the negitive things you said about her "love" and she won't forgive you for saying it either. It makes a person feel that their judgement is being questioned and that friends don't really think she can make good judgements about her own life. Even if it is true that this relationship is not a good one, she needs to realize that in her own time. \n\nIncourage her to go out with you and do some fun activities. Don't try to "fix" her up with anybody yet. She is not ready for that. She needs time to heal from this wound. If you keep listening to her and taking her out for fun activities she will eventually start becoming more involved with her own life and begin to heal. Then she will be more ready to look at differant men as potential dating material and boyfriend material.\n\nIf she continues to make poor choices in who she dates and becomes involved with, then perhaps you should assist her in increasing her feelings of self worth. Tell her what you love and like about her, what streangths she has, her skills you admire. She needs to hear that she is valued and seen in a positive light. \n\nGood luck in helping your friend. I am glad she has a friend like you in her life. She is lucky to have somebody as supportive and loving as you. I wish you happiness and health too. :-)
262623
You've told them so that's all you can basically do. To me, that makes you a good friend. She may just be in denial. Be patient with her & always be a good friend.
764061
Ask her what she is afraid of. Tell her she doesn't have to go to the extreme to hide anything from you. She can be totally safe and honest with you. You have to build a bridge for her to see and focus on.It's all an act to hide her pain and suffering. She wants desperately to be heard and acknowledged.She won't change until she sees it and acknowledges it. Be a friend and let her know she doesn't have to fake a good deal.
89155
All you can do is keep it real. Let her know that you love her to death, which is pretty obvious b/c you been sticking around anyway. Just let her know that true friends dont just sit around and argue and fight over everything and that you are getting sick and tired of it. Let her know that you want to be her friend but if yall are gonna keep fighting for no reason then there's no point of you two holding on to something that is no longer there! Everyone enjoys a good friend not someone that is going to bicker with them every chance they get. Good Luck!! I hope that you guys can work this out. Frienship should be priceless!!!
82751
Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead
301521
I would continue to be her friend. Realize that she is not going to be able to put as much as you put into the relationship, due to her current mental state. You now know that that because of her condition that you won't be able to believe what she says. Keep the relationship fun and light. That way you won't get caught up in the emotional drama.
142845
Honestly, do you really believe that she is your friend? If I were you, I would tell her how inconsiderate she is for actually dating someone she *KNEW* I had the hots for. I could see if she *didn't* kno, but she *DID*! That's so foul and disrespectful, and truly, I would re-evaluate this friendship with her. She doesn't sound like much of a friend if you ask me! If you allow your "friends" to continue to disregard your feelings, you're going to have a hard life ahead. Friends *DON'T* do things such as that. Guard your heart, hon. God bless you!\n\nHope that helped!
1146719
The last time I answered an "urgent" question, the questioner never came back to pick a Best Answer.\n\nBut, anyway, here goes...\n\nIf you're going to play that silly game of "I'm busy over here with my friends" then be prepared to suffer the consequences. Basically, you snubbed her a number of times and she ended doing a "f*ck you too, buddy" on you. Then you wonder why...\n\nWakey, wakey. If you're ever going to have a chance with this girl then you need to stop playing games and communicate with her normally, treat her with respect and just let it lie for now.\n\nIf this is how you typically behave then we now know why she dumped you.
443186
You support your friend - don't play referee between the two of them. Just listen to her and be supportive - one way love is hard... tell her you want the best for her and that you're her friend regardless....and you'll walk with her through this trying time - take her to the mall or movie(pick out a funny comedy) - have a pizza party with friends  - something to help  out when this guy has her emotionally wrecked.