ex-girlfriend wants to be friends, what do I do?
406418
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
902964
She's trying to be nice and stay friends, although it is the wrong thing to do.  It's obvious that she broke up with you because she already had someone she was interested in, and wanted to go for it.  It's possible she is trying to have her cake and eat it too.  I would personally tell her it's over, and to leave it at that.  OVER.  No more calls.  Just tell her to leave you alone.  She is being selfish and not thinking of you.
561546
NO, don't be friends with the ex. ESPECIALLY if he's being an a*ss
1011174
You obviously really like this girl, and if you want her back you should tell her. The worst she can say is 'no' but if you never ask her you will never know. I really think you should try talking to her. Be completly honest, first of all ask if you can talk to her for a bit and then explain to her your reasons for why you broke up with her and how you have changed your mind and you would like to go out with her again, say things like she has a really good sense of humor and a great personality. Complement her but don't over do it because she will know you are being false. Hopefully she will listen to what you have to say and reconsider going out with you again. If not, don't worry, try and stay friends with her, tell her you want to be friends. Most importantly, tell her how you feel, if you don't, you will never know her response. Good Luck and have a good day xx
62247
You can't. If they want to get together they will. She is your ex so don't worry about it. If your friend ditches you for her then they are not a good friend.
114734
get over your ex and then see if you still want your friend back....
185973
Get EVERYTHING you own that reminds you of them and put it in a box. Give that box to friend and have them stash it somewhere you won't have access to it. Change your sheets, get a new haircut (something dramatic, this helps alot btw), get a differrent hobby, don't talk to them for a few years, none of this "we can still be friends bs" cause you won't want to hear about who they're dating, go on dates with other people, get into shape (like way better than you are now, with the expectation that you'll run into your ex again and will be able to say "see what you lost, now you can't have me anymore"), spend a lot of time with your friends, try to learn more about who YOU are without that person in your life, change whatever you don't like about yourself, cut loose of any ties to that person. In 5 years, give them a call (if you are over them) and see what they are up to, maybe then you can be friends.
204280
This is not some nighttime soap pilot for Fox is it? No, well then woman up and ask Ashlee if it's okay. If she tells you no, tell her you respect her for her opinion, but do what your heart tells you. If she's a friend (which I question because she was sneaking behind your back with your ex) then she'll be there with you no matter what. But if she's not one, then good riddance to her.
54738
Obviously there are some things you'd have to decide b4 proceeding,eg;how long you've been 2gether,how sensitive she is,what the reason(s)for the brk.-up eg,are they irrepairable.Breaking up is never an easy thing to do or experience.Be extremely sensitive,caring and try to do so with the possibility of friendship remaining.Think of how you'd like to be treated in this situation and treat like-wise.
408614
this will hurt but to be honest she isnt any kind of genuine friend if this is how shes treating u. My advice(Coming from a 35 year old scottish chick whos been there b4 with an ex friend),id walk away from her and cut all ties. Do u realy want to be friends with someone that treats u like that? U deserve better babe.xx
713166
No way man. An ex is an ex for a reason. I'll give you a link to go to and read why you shouldn't even be talking to her. If you want any chance of getting her back go no contact. Start dating other woman and let her find out. She'll come crawling back and saying everything you want to hear. Don't buy it. She just wants what she can't have and when she gets it BOOM you mean shyt to her again. There's a 1 in 100000 chance that says she wants you back for the right reasons. Move on. The damage is done. She's damaged goods and you'll never have as healthy relationship as you think. She may say she wants to see you happy in the long run and personally you'll be happier without her. She won't allow you to move on until she's stable in her own life. Don't let her mess with you. And don't even be her friend. Until you are totally over her. Nothing you say or do is going to get her back. I PROMISE. Good luck and find you a new woman. AT CHURCH
1152560
Leave that friend just as it is a friend. Your charting uncharted territory. Plus it will hurt your exes feelings and cause confusion between her and her friend. Move onward if that's what you want but move opposite directions other than her close friends. It's not a little world anymore. You have options,
210513
Well she is already your ex so you have nothing to lose right?\nJust be up-front and honest, tell her how you feel, and maybe try a romantic gesture. \nShe may not feel the same way, but you won't be left wondering what if.
953718
This guy would be mad to even consider getting back together with this girl. She doesn't deserve a second chance. To be honest I don't even know why you want a " friend " like her - you sound like a nice person !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk to the guy and give him your opinion - does he really want to go through that kind of sh*t again ?
585094
whether you approve of it or not, it is her decision if she wants to be friends with him or not. telling her who she can be friends with or getting angry about her being friends with an ex is just going to make you look controlling or jealous. i think you should trust her and let her be friends with him. if she starts spending too much time with him let her know it makes you uncomforable but dont try to force her to do anything..its just going to turn out badly.
242265
Its time to leave him alone when you realize that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn't have a regard for you and your feelings. being a man, I can tell, he's just playing on you and your emotions.\n\nHe is now your EX - means that he is part of your past. Better move on and I am sure you will find someone who will give you decency and respect. if you'd like to be friends with him, not at this time. Once both of you are "settled", may be that's the time for you to consider being his friend (that is if you will still have time and energy to think even about it).
1178801
if you two broke up for only her reason of 'being too comfortable', I would not phone her. It would set you back a bit I think- it does for me anyway. She obviously didn't treasure and revere you or the friendship/relationship you offered. I think your line of thinking is best for you right now, she did in a sense throw you away and you need to be surrounded by people who treat you better than that. Maybe some day you two could be friends, but it might seriously take you years to get over her. Don't waste anymore time and let her keep reeling you back in- go on with your life!\n\nGod bless