Can anybody tell me why a 10 year relationship end up in nothing even though the two love each other? I'm sad!
397702
Marriage is hard work. You have to both work at it for it to work out. The passion only lasts 6 months to 3 years. After that, you have to work at the relationship...\n\nTry doing things that are unexpected. Stir up your life a bit and see what happens. You can also take counselling together. Read books about this subject and get some tips.
80587
Uh? Hmmm, I am very sorry to hear that. I really don't know how that can answered since it is not a question. Sometimes relationships fall apart just because they were not destined to work. That I know is not consoling in the least but in these situations it is better to find out that your partner is not in the relationship for love or your best interest in the beggining rather than in the future with a family involved. These things happen for a reason and in time you will see that it was all for the best. Can you add to your question/statement to let everyone know what you really want answered? I hope that you get a moment of peace. I know its hard but it does get easier I promise.
109480
My mother was 20 years younger than my father. She was 32 when I was born and he was 52. He passed away at the age of 82 when I was 30. They had alot of differences that never got worked out and I think it was due to the age/interest gap not to mention she was good at pushing anyone's last button. They divorced when I was 12 remarried a couple of years later only to divorce finally when I was 15. I am not sure if you can see where I am going here or if I even see it fully but I personally feel that if you get along great, fall in love and have a successful relationship then there is nothing wrong with it. True love knows no boundaries. Best of luck to you....
891765
once you're legal, seven years doesn't make a difference.  i know EXACTLY how you feel, but i had to think about my situation too... what you have to think about is this: he was already married (that's HUGE!)... this means that he loved a woman... he slept next to her for "X" years, he knows what love is.  He has SO MUCH MORE experience in EVERYTHING than you do.  That's the only turn-off.\n\nThink about it.
1028335
I'm sorry things didn't end well for you, but you mustn't make assumptions on what happened. Not all of us are heartless like that. I know I'm not. I was in love, actually am in love, with this guy who had left for the Army. Well I waited for him and never did I stray my eyes elsewhere. When he came back, I knew he might get deployed for a year or more at any time, but never one did I ever think of just forgetting about him. I would've waited for him as long as necessary. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for us, but it wasn't because of that, there were other issues. My point is, don't despair, just because one relationship went sour. I'm sure someday you'll find that girl who will wait for you as long as necessary because she truly loves you. :)
634847
I have mine. We've been together for 8+ years, and are completely in tune with each other. I have never had anyone even come close to this before. We think alike, finish sentences for each other, say something that the other one was thinking - things like that. If it wasn't so cool, it would be spooky (it kinda is!). Have a good night!
1047050
Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
706660
It's a common phenomenon, I'm afraid. When people fall in love, they often forget the value of having friends and family in their lives. Sometimes they wake up to themselves later, and other times they lose themselves totally in the relationship. Just remind her that you're still there and you'd still like to see her (and won't take all her snuggle time with the new boyfriend). It should balance out sooner or later.
1178340
Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
200792
becuz UR LOVE WAS TRUE AND UR STILL IN SHOCK ABOUT WHY THINGS DIDNT WORK OUT. U CANT BELIEVE THAT THIS DIDNT END IN A FAIRY -TALE LIKE MANNER...THE WAY U EXPECTED....u still care abt him ...and maybe the truth is too hurtful and u cant let go.....just try to relax...get involved in activities outside ur home...go out with friends...share ur problems...sharing is the best thing to do at this point.... it will help u reach CLOSURE.......BEST OF LUCK!
771647
If this relationship was a long one it can be particularly hard to overcome. My advice to you is when we walk the path of life with another very often when they leave a huge hole is left in our lives. I would suggest you allow that hole in your life to heal rather than try to force someone else in what is and will become a poorly fitting gap. Lots of people make this mistake and compound often minor mistakes in doing so. This can lead to tragedy and heartache for both parties involved. Get used to walking the path of life alone again before you think about walking with anyone else. this isn't a race, In the end your heart will thank you.
881729
So you got tired  and bored of your booty call.  You really need to be straight fourth about it.  There is never any easy way to break up with someone but to be honest about it.  You always run the risk of her telling your 10 year long partner.  Just say something like you feel you are being unfair to her to continue in the relationship.  She deserves someone that can be there all the way and you can't.  Your feelings are not what they should be to continue the relationship that you have together so you have made up your mind to end it.  Good luck!!
50151
Very possible.  Staying together over years takes alot of work and alot of other things.  Some of them are trust, faith in the other person and be willing to work through what comes your way rather than take the easy way out.  Now days most marriages end in divorce for many reasons because of a variety of things.  But by far the thing it takes the most is the willingness to work at the relationship.  They are alot like other things that takes alot of matinence to keep it going.  Love is not the only thing that will keep it alive it will take work every day to maintain it and allow it to grow and evolve as the years go by.  While love is very important it isn't the only thing needed.
211816
a relationship is smthg to ponder on. and if u have been 5 years together, wow that's half a decade. but try to understand smthg good abt ur relatioinship. try to work out, build urself more up, be someone u wanted to be w/ her but she didn't want that or she was not allowing u to do that. learn smthg new, like drawing, programming and so on. go have sports,  read alot of books... in no time, u will fee urself different and ur perspective abt life will change... and maybe in any of those activities u'll find sm1 who can replace her, or at least the emptiness she has created?? good luck
973743
One of the things we learn about relationships - to our dismay - is that the passion DOES wane.  Yes, you still love your partner and you want to be with them, but the days of feeling that electricity in the air are, for the most part, over.  You have to choose, then, what is more important to you - the excitement and discovery of being with a new person all the time, or the stability and true bonding of a long-term relationship.\n\nIt's something we've all had to deal with, and it's always just a little sad to realize that no, you can't have both...
309542
*Gulp* I technically just reached the 7 year together mark a few eeks ago, and so far, things are awesome!! 7 year marriage anniversary coming up in July, so I think everything foe us is great....\n\nThe Itch happens when a couple gets bored with each other , but its no excuse to get someone else to scratch that "itch" for you, its your wife/hubby's itch to scratch...LOL
528037
Mine has lasted for over ten years now.  We're good friends.  We're there for each other.  It is a strange thing when you think about it.  We've never had any desire to take our "friendship" any further than where it is now.  It's working for both us.  I guess it's like any other relationship -- each one is unique in how it works.