My bf's whole family thinks I am a bad person..I dont know what I should do?
410861
be the best person you can be if they don't like well they don't know you, wait till then
739531
You're not cheering for the underdog, you're being contrary with your boyfriend.\n\nYou should always stick by your partner, but that doesn't mean that you agree with them when they are wrong.  You stick by them by comforting them when they are wrong or wronged.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with showing your bf that he is wrong, but harping on it right when it happens (and especially if he ISN'T wrong!) is destructive.\n\nTalk to him about it later, constructively.
984019
You are being mentally abused.  I have been there.\n\nHe will tell you those things so that he can continue to abuse you and so your self esteem will get so low that you feel like you can't leave.  It is control...and he will never admit it and will always blame you.  And quite honestly, that personality type feels absolutely justified in doing what he is doing.  He will never see the err in his ways and will never change.\n\nDo you have family?  You need to tell your family if you do and stay with them.  They would not want you to be treated this way.\n\nIf you don't have family, then you need to go to a counselor and explain this situation.  After that, you need to take steps to leave.\n\nYou are not ugly, you are not a bad person and no one...NO ONE...deserves to be treated this way.\n\nThe longer you wait, the longer you will not give yourself the opportunity to be happy.  Trust me on this, I wish I would have gotten out sooner...spent 7 years with the guy and those years were wasted.\n\nI am much happier now...
104945
listen, tell this to ur bf and say tht u r hurt by his opinion and plz donot behaved rudely,just be kool and try to more attentive on him and when he will tell bad about ur bro just say if do this kind of things in future u will not able to continu this relationship,be strong and if he really love u then he will stop to say bad thing about ur bro,and if he donot care about ur feelings and understand tht he doesnot love u.i know this opinion is really harsh for u but it is true.
166963
becuz familys are made to trust that what theyre for! they love you a lot and therefore dont want to hurt you by not being trustworthy. and after having trouble with family you should probably should wait a little before trusting someone with something because in anger people sometimes forget love and not hurting people. ask the family member if you can trust him/her before telling anything and try to make sure they are telling the truth.
579040
only you know what to do. but i can try to give advice.  find a job even somewhere you don't want to work.  catch the bus, walk to work.  whwre is your boyfriend? does he have a car?  do any of your friends have cars?  why does your family act like that with you?  be truthful.  prove to the, that you are not lazy stop pointing the finger and take some initative.  don't break up with your boyfriend you may need some one to come through this mess with you.
798829
Move out and move on.  You are obviously not happy with him and you need to do what is best for you.  Be positive and strong and discuss the situation with your family.  Good luck.
921745
Your sis and his aunt have beef on each other.  That's their problem, not yours nor your bf.  \n\nIt's unfair for them to put you and your bf in a difficult situation when you both didn't do anything wrong but love each other.\n\nI say continue on dating and be happy with your boy.  Soon enough your sis and his aunt will cool off.\n\nIt's your life.  Live your life how you want it.  Don't let others make you live your life how they want it to.
1184149
Do you live together?  If not, there's still hope... when ever she says something hurtful or rude, just change the subject and act as if she said nothing, don't humor her and keep it up... and she probably doesn't take you seriously.  When you have brought it up, do you sugar coat your conversation?  Just be firm and say you don't appreciate the comments she makes and you would like for them to stop,... let her know that it could cause some tension between your family and her and you are trying to avoid that situation.  She is probably disregarding your feelings because she feels you're over-reacting and is unaware of how badly she is making you feel.  I was in a VERY similar situation before, and there is no easy way around it.
30787
gurl tell him straight up that family comes first so if u want to be treating my bf and cuzin like crap well then u can get the steppin cuz guys like u come a dime a dozen
1130087
keep your chin up... they have nothing better to do and they are to envious probably and only talk of their own faults by pointing at someone else.. wherever u go there will always be bad apples.. i would not associate with those people.. no trust.. take care.. you are letting them get the best of you by your reaction.. if u show them what they say don't meen a dang  thing to ya.. they will eventually stop..
639434
You have a child now so the stakes have completly changed. If she is hateful and you have no parental control over your child, then you have ever right to want to leave. I understand you love your boyfriend, but sadly sometimes as a mother you have to choose between your and your bf personal happiness and the happiness/well being of your son. I think you should explain to your bf how you feel and tell him he can leave w/ you or you can go on your own. Then follow through w/ getting a place of your own, if he understands then he will come with you. You two can still go over everyday & check on her, but you need your own life as well!!! I hope everything works out for you and your family.
401583
If that is the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do.  It would really be up to your boyfriend to speak up and mention to his family that he is in love with you.  If he is not saying anything to his family about you, you might as well kiss your boyfriend good bye.
390967
Give him the lecture, it sounds like he deserves to hear your opinion about things. Don't be too emotional, as that could lead to a big fight where you'd lose sight of the problem. \nDo you go to see his family with him? If you do, you should make it clear that this is important for you, and that by not wanting to go he's not only hurting your feelings, but acting in an immature way.
775730
This will wear and tear on your esteem dear. If you feel that he's totally wrong and out of order, then you must let him know asap. Put a halt to this nonsense and start from there...you probably don't want to live your life like this for ever.
127835
go hang with you boyfriend (if you have one) how old are you???\n\nif you dont have a boyfriend spend some quality time with your family
584847
why are you living there in the first place???\n\nsounds like you have a problem.\n\nfirst, you should be grateful to them for giving you a place to live.\n\nsecond, you should get your stuff and try to find a relative or family member you can stay with.\n\nthird, eat crow and apologize to his family and ask for their forgiveness, if you were being a brat at THEIR house.\n\ntake care