is it possible to meet someone when you dont go out drinking?
408282
yes, and the people will be more genuine. The people you meet will be much better than the people you meet at a bar.
87243
It can work, it just depends on how honest each person is when they are setting up their profiles and then during their communcation with a potential "date."  I have a friend who does computer dating all the time as she says she can tell a lot about a person from what they write, how they say things in their writing, etc.  Though she never quite figured out the alcoholic.\n\ngood luck!
101699
Of course not, the chances aren't likely. Also this isn't a chat room. Try the personals or something else
475266
Evidently not. You might try something real - a gym, a church, a softball league, a night class, a club. That way you will enjoy yourself even if you don't hook up with someone the first time, assuming you could lose a few pounds, are religious, like softball, are curious or like something enough to join a club.\n\nThey will be able to see you, too. It is awful easy to lie on the Internet. My uncle the Pope and Bill Gates were talking about that just last night when they came over for pizza and beer.
900060
1. Join a gym\n2. Join a book club and invite someone out for drinks/coffee after the club\n3.  Join an athletic club, like a community softball/soccer league - again, ask someone out for pizza/beer after a game\n4.  Go to a jazz club and pretend in your mind that are meeting someone. That way you'll feel like someone you know is really coming but you can still start up conversation with someone you meet there.  \n5.  Take a class (anything that interests you, photography, science, etc) at a local college or community college. That way, you can meet folks who have similar interests as you.\n6.  Go on a singles cruise\n7. Do speed-dating\n8. Ask co-workers out for drinks after work or just to lunch\n9.  Find activity pals on yahoo.com or other websites and go meet them.\n10.  Just say "hello" - you'd be shocked at the response you get!
796867
I think it depends on what you're looking for.  If you're looking for a SERIOUS relationship, then this has already started out with mind games (so don't bother - consider it a clue).  If you're looking for a good time and more free drinks, then keep it going.
413768
This time no drinking until after you and her get together. Get to the place where you are meeting her first then she will find you. You might want look real close when she gets there so you remember her for the next date. Remember there are allot of things besides a persons looks don't be to quick to end the evening.
691231
Frizzle has it - If you want to do well - your social life has to be put on hold.  Give yourself the occasional day off, but don't expect to keep your partying weekends and make sure your friends understand you will be out of circulation for a while!  Sad advice but true!
188862
Open a calendar or diary and presto there's a date (it's all yours). LOL\n\nSeriously tho... just talk to people, if things are friendly between you and the talkee then sugest going somewhere (try just talking a few times before suggesting)
791399
just go out and meet another guy
452411
those are probably the easiest places to approach someone. possibly strike up a conversation with what they're reading or drinking. you'll be amazed =]
830514
I've been with my partner for two years, and I'm having the time of my life.  When we're out together, we will hold hands, etc, but to us that is just natural.\n\nIncidentally, I happened to meet her on a singles holiday in Turkey, where I had gone to get away from my divorce.  I was drunk, and had blood streaming down my shirt from where I had fallen over, and Maria practically carried me back to my hotel room.  So a relationship was the last thing on my mind, but these things DO happen.\n\nBasically, just make yourself an attractive person inside and out, and someone may take a fancy to you.  Good luck.
254152
Dateless.  Have some confidence in yourself, you might meet someone special.  If you only have to put in an appearance, go glam, breeze in the front and exit out the back, let everyone think you had another rendezvous you just had to go to...
1145924
Go outside. Get off the computer and meet someone.
83006
Go down to the dock and meet them. Even without being pen pals, you will find enough takers to fill whatever bar you want to go to. Believe me
763505
I went on dates feeling like you do and to my surprise wound up falling hard?????????????????  What is the problem here?  You are getting out of the house!  Make the most of it.  If you go tomorrow thinking you won't have a good time, for sure you won't.  Why not go into this looking at it as having a night out and making the best of it.  How do YOU know you won't have a good time? You might just be surprised.  Also consider this.......when you are out there, you might just run into your real soulmate.  They can turn up in any place at any time, and when you least expect it.
414469
I don't. But if you chose to do so, be careful. If you choose to meet in person, make sure to meet in a public place.