How can i make the guilt of murder go away?
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Guilt should stay with you, at least in some measure.  That's guilt's purpose - to make you regret your actions, to make you want to change for the better, and to teach you compassion for people that you have or would have hurt.  \n\nHowever, it is understandable to want to ease the pain of guilt and find a way to use it as a motivator for something constructive.  In that respect, some people would say "religion," some would say "prayer," some would say "meditation."  Those can help for some, but those mainly focus on changing who we are inside.\n\nIdeally, I think that people should also find a way to do something for society that is in some way related to their crime or the person(s) that were harmed.  Like if someone harmed or killed a child, I think they should look for a way to do something for their local schools or Little League or something like that.  If the victim was an old person, maybe they could do something for a local seniors' home or center.  If the victim was someone that did things as a community volunteer, they could find an opportunity to be a volunteer.\n\nOf course there would be some circumstances where someone would have to really think hard to find an answer that works.  For example, if the person had molested a child, then obviously they shouldn't look for a way to work where there are children around.\n\nIt's a worthwhile way to make amends to one's community and whatever group their victim would identify with, it can just take some time to figure out exactly how to best go about it.
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All of you people are absolutely pathetic. You should all be ashamed of yourself, tormenting this poor woman, calling her a murderer. You want a murderer? Go to your local prison with a cigarette rammed up your ass, and walk around publicly flaunting it - That'll show you what a murderer is.\n\n\n\nShe doesn't have to explain herself to anyone. She asked a question. She wants an answer. She doesn't need all you bible thumpers telling you what she did was wrong or right - The fact is it's done, there isn't anything you can do about it. Get over it.\n\n\nJust answer her damn question.\n\n\n\n\n\nNow, that my rant is over....\n\n\n\nIt could take a life time for you to get over it. This was a child that was growing inside you, and it's no longer there. I would've made the very same decision, however, I don't know if I'd be too upset about it. My friend recently had a miscarriage and she seemed just fine, but to each their own.\n\n\nFind ways of coping with grief. If you want, you could make a small memorial site for your baby. Come up with a name you like,  and build a small shrine in honor. Place the name somewhere, and if it helps, you could talk to your baby throughout the day, or when something happens you need to get off your chest. There are numerous ways to cope, and I hope you find something that allows you to grieve properly.\n\n\n\nGood luck.
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Ok, you know you did the crime so why not just turn yourself in and do the time?  Get it over with.  You can run as far away as you want but this will live w/ you forever.  Crime doesnt pay at all.\n\nBtw, its people like you with the dui that my sister is dead today.
746550
Good riddance to a mass murderer
602356
try being afraid to walk out of your house to your car because you are afraid of your ex killing you; push a chair against the door at night because you are afraid he will break in; be almost ran off the road by him because he was following you to a police station; looking out your window one night and seeing his truck parked across the street, him running around in neighbors yard, you call the cops, they catch him and you find out he had a homemade bomb in his truck.\nScary enough for ya?
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Hi,\n  If I knew that a homicide had been committed,and did not report it, I would feel as though I were as guilty as the person that committed the crime. For me,my conscience would not let me live with that, and I would HAVE to report it.\n   Now,having said that. If the homicide were a situation in which,say someone were molesting a child,or trying to murder some loved one,or an innocent person. I'm sorry to have to say this,but I'd commit the homicide myself!.\n    I am a Christian,and if a person has committed a heinous crime against an innocent person. And it can be proven,absolutely,positively,without question that the person is guilty,then they deserve the death penalty.That is my opinion.And,if there are witness' that saw the killing take place,then spare us tax paying citizens a long and ridicules trial,and put them to death.\n    Excellent question,and there are as many answers as there are scenarios.\n      Take care and God bless.
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You do kill crime by killing the criminal... \n\nProblem solved.  \n\nYou're welcome!\n\nKnowing that there is a death penalty and yet there are people that STILL do the things they do...  DO you really believe that there is a place for someone THAT degenerative, THAT hopeless?  THAT willing to take another innocent life for their own gain in society?    \n\nI really, honestly hope that you are NEVER mugged, beaten or raped...  But some people never understand until something like that happens to someone THEY love...  Then comes the anger that shows the sense in it...
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OK, let's start out at the beginning. As a person who has had to testify in court in several occasions, as well as being friends with a judge and private defense attorney, do not admit guilt! Insist on a court trial by jury. Both the PD's and DA's depend on plea deals to speed things up. By insisting on going to trial, you are showing that you believe that you are innocent and are demanding your day in court.\n\n2. Get rid of your PD. They are massively overworked, underpaid, and stressed out. You need to find an attorney that will work for you pro bono. This will be tough - try going to parent's rights organizations and pleading your case. \n\n3. If you've already admitted guilt, withdraw it officially. Tell the truth - your PD pressured you into confessing in order to get the case off of his books, and you were not provided adequate representation. Ask to meet with the judge & all attornies in chambers, and state your case. The claim of inadquate representation is a big one, it gives you an opening to have everything your PD did thrown out.\n\n4. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! Again, the court system relys on plea deals. The more you fight, the more they will back off, espically if their case is shaky. Start documenting all the times that you have called your PD and he has not called you back, or times that you have requested a meeting and he has refused. This will provide powerful evidence to the judge that you have not been provided adquate representation.\n\nGood luck.
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just plead guilty by post. if you go to court they will fine you more because you have no defence. sorry mate
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Do you really know what you are saying.  I understand the saying, " you do the crime you pay the time"\nI do not know what you did that was wrong to put you there but live, breathe the air, face your short comings and ask God to have mercy on your soul. To forgive you\nand to Bless you.  Once you are dead you are no more.\nYou can never come back. Look at the side of family members they do not want to see you die. They still love and will so forever and ever. Count the many blessings you have where you are. you could be an example for\nteaching them salvation etc. take hold of yourself and remember God does not put more on us than we can withstand...
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1. Eliminate everyone smarter than you.  There are rather stiff penalties for murder, so be careful.\n2. Bribe the grader (have to be careful here as a lot of people are honest).\n3. Hack the grading system.  Of course you risk expulsion if found out.\n4. Read the book, do the exercises, ask questions in class, study hard for the exam and get a good night's sleep.  Of course this is far easier than the first three methods and relatively risk free, so it will probably not appeal to a energetic person such as yourself.
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There is no justification for pushing guilt. God does not make you feel guilty. That is from the dark side. God will convict you of sin by making you aware. The devil likes to make people feel guilty so they will self medicate through everything from sex, to drugs, to work, etc. It then becomes a round robin because you then feel not only guilty for what you might have done off target, but you will also start to feel guilty for the addiction that is robbing your reality. You then need more of what ever is keeping your mind off of the problem and that opens the door for more guilt. Don't let another human being judge you period. If they are not trying to help you tell them to buzz off and keep looking for help. If you seek you will find. God will never point out what is wrong with your walk without a solution. Satan is the author of guilt.
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Not guilty due to mental distress. You need to come to terms with yourself and be confident in yourself in order to face your family, or just go your own way
521328
For the same reason it takes us so long to put them to death, We have become so politically correct that we care more about the person who has committed the crime than the victim. We have allowed Judges and lawyers the power to justify their jobs, without them caring about the victim of the crime. It has become a money game. If you have money you can do what you want !and get away with it. If not don't worry we will pay for the next 10 to 15 years of your trials, America, we need to wake up!!
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be true to yourself.  come clean and make amends if you can.  When that is not possible, write down the things you've done that bother you on little pieces of paper and say goodbye to them as you bury them in your garden, or toss them in your lit BBQ. then forgive yourself and forget about it.
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Most murderers have low self esteem, so the act of murdering is the way they make themselves feel big.  If they aren't a killer at heart (which some people can actually be) then they may feel remorse and actually want to get caught. \n\n(You can learn a lot of this crap watching Court TV.)
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Yes, because something was missing at home, guilt is the number on drawback.   Wish I could go back and undo it, but too late now....and then you can't seem to stop, either.