Any different btw Open relationship and cheating? Why do we have to have an open relationship?
410928
ummm, hardly any difference when what results is the same,\ntechnically you can call an open relationship as consentual cheating, wherein both partners know that they might be or are sleeping with other men, and no one has the balls to object to it, as both are at fault.\n\npersonally for me an open relationship is like having a spare tyre, you know that at the end of the day if you dont find your catch for the day you still have someone to go to for pleasure. it disgusts me.\n\nif you can't be committed then dont be in a relationship, open relationships i feel are mockery of 'relationship', and committments & values. \n\nwe gays are always blamed for not knowing the values of a relationships, and is it not ourselves who have gotten this by our own doing? \n\nfor all out there reading this, if you feel the need to sleep around and explore please dont get into a relationship and mock its sanctity by calling it an open relationship.
281093
Cheating is unfaithfulness in any way.  Emotionally, physically.  You can cheat on the internet and never meet the person.  It's still cheating.
530422
well i have never cheated but not saying i havent thought about it.\nfor me if i did it would be for the reason that someone else would be new and exciting \ni guess different\nbut it wouldn't last long and then i would be in a divorce so thats why i dont
833356
You can use the word commitment and open relationship in the same sentence and believe this could work...Committing to someone takes all of you, not some of you...Share in this case does not equal to truly caring for one person, emotionally and physically...Open relationship are doomed from the start, one should be able to give all of oneself to one person, not several, what a headache that can be...And heck it hard enough holding one relationship together without interference from others....\nFriends with benifits...someone always get hurt in the end....
700310
it is not as easy to cheat, in fact with all the new standards i would say that it is harder. Plus the consequences are worse, (expulsion) \n\nBTW: I think you meant are not is
334701
Im always a one woman-man...i never cheated in my life, because im always contented on what kind of love my man could give me...if you don't love the person anymore, we should be honest to that person...just don't use the reason that you have a bf/gf already...for those who are just fooling around, they'll soon find their match & they will end up in bad karma after all...good luck to them...
760909
This is a big decision.  One that should not be entered lightly.  Frankly, I don't, in general, believe this fantasy should ever be acted out.  There are many factors/events that can happen that could cause the relationship to fail miserably.  Jealousy and poor communication of one's thoughts and feelings are the most common reasons for failure.\n\nI have a link about jealousy in open relationships.  Although you are not talking about opening the marriage for good, I do believe the article has some good points that you may want to think about.
274350
I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
447044
why would you even want to continue a relationship with someone who is cheating on you?  That would be the first red flag.  the second red flag would be the restaurant experience.  Also, you shouldn't share bank accounts with someone your dating....thats kinda dumb.  if you have any common sense, you would cut your ties.
392664
I have had an open relationship and things turned out to be a real mess!  Jealousy soon took over and then everything fell apart!  So, I know for a fact that I cannot have an open relationship!:)
1012466
If the relationship is open  meaning they both consent to what is OK and not OK, then there is nothing wrong with it.  I think people who are in or want to be in monogamous relationships want it so badly because they see the importance of putting yourself aside for one person.  To me that shows intimacy, something that isn't being passed around.  Something that only you at the time can experience...plus their performance in bed would be better because they have time to 'build up'...say your in a closed relationship and you are not getting any for say two weeks, when you finally get it in, the feelings are mutually explosive and tend to have more emotional meaning...some people prefer that over string-less sex.
1094509
I have been in both situations.  When i cheated in long-term relationships it was because i had gaping, aching needs that were not being met in my relationship but i wanted to keep the primary relationship because of various reasons like love, the kids, social acceptance, financial, codependence, etc.\n\nNow i am in a long term relationship and not cheating and it is so wonderful to finally be fully open and honest.  Such a relief.  Now i see that  my deception made it impossible for my primary relationship to be satisfying to me.  Because i was distancing myself from it by the cheating.  I understand the motivations to cheat.  But i don't recommend it.  Deception is a wound on the soul.  A gash down the middle of your life.
584871
sorry but cheating cheating as long as you have a threesome and both participate
553913
He had an "emotional" connection with this person, so...by definition, he already cheated, hence a "real affair".  Sometimes it is worse than when it is just for physical gratification, with no emotion attached.  Don't know if he would have a physical relationship with someone other than his wife...some men prefer to not go beyond the cyber thing, as that is what their turn on is, so it's just a matter of who and how he is, and how sound the marriage is.
1128904
Cheating is anything you wouldn't do in front of the person you're with. If they'd be fine with you cuddling with another person then it's not cheating, but if they would mind and you wouldn't do it in front of them, don't do it behind their back.
1002269
there are many motives behind an affair,the old line it just happened is a crock of bull,it is given much thought and for men i think it's a challenge for women it is a emotional thing the sense of being needed, attractive to another man.men also need to see if they still have it some do, some don't,  some never did,regardless of the reason it is wrong.if your sex life stinks make it better try different things,being a women i can't completly answer why guys cheat but i feel it's an ego thing or maybe their spouse is truely a louse in which case she has no reason to complain we women know men like / need  sex and if we are completly against making love then let him go no man or women should be forced to live without it unless it is for a medical reason,in that case then you should find other ways to satisfy each other.
810262
I reckon he has cheated, or at least he's trying to convince you that cheating is normal and happens more than you think. As one of the other answerers is hinting at, this guy is possibly a player. I'm not going to pass judgement on the chap and you have to allow for the possibility that this thought may just have occurred to him in the course of a conversation. If you question him and he says that that is what happened then give him the benefit of the doubt. (Something similar happened to me once, and my gf didn't take me at my word - very annoying, end of relationship)\n\nBut, to be honest, as a player, if I was asking a girl how she knows that her past lovers never cheated, it would be to sow the seeds of doubt in her mind for either of the following reasons: a) to convince a girl with a bf that he is cheating on her and so she should cheat on him with me (evil, I know - I've never done it, but I'd say it'd work); or b) to convince a girl I was seeing that cheating is normal, and happens all the time and people should be open about it: basically grooming her for an open relationship.\nI think the latter is most likely in your scenario. Find out a bit more about him and see if he has a little black book! Ask him what he thinks of open relationships. \nIf that wouldn't suit you then get the hell out as the cheating will hurt you, even if the sex is amazing.