i am not sexually active but i dont think that i will remain aabstinent 4 long. I dont know wat 2 do ,should i
413400
Yep.  Better than being pregnant, for sure.
690074
You might want to really think about this when the situation isn't right in front of you, kind of like you're doing now.\n\nThere is a lot of room for variation in "I don't feel like having sex".  Are you feeling like you don't really feel like it much, or are you feeling like you REALLY don't want to have sex, that it would be a miserable experience for you?  \n\nIf it's a matter of not being in full mood, maybe he could be the more active partner and you can be more passive.  I don't think that anyone should have sex against their will, but sometimes I used to say no and it wouldn't have really been a big deal to say "yes" either.  Guys don't always need to have extended sexual contact and this kind of time would be a chance for him to sort of have an express lane sort of experience and then go to sleep.\nIt's possible you could become more interested in more extended lovemaking, or maybe you won't.  Who knows?\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to have sex, perhaps you could make a date with him to have sex the next day or in the morning or later that night or...\nwell, you get the idea.\n\nYou could even tell him why you don't feel like having sex--too tired, too worried, whatever.  My experience is that my guy doesn't really want to hear about it and he backs off.\n\nIt's too bad people's moods don't line up better sometimes!
999294
You should stay the way you are. It isn't good for you to hold in what you are feeling. You are just fine.
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You sound like a sweet and intelligent young girl...with feelings!  We have all experienced this once in our young lives and I want to tell you that you need to give yourself some room!  Don't worry about him or the guys, they will always be there, and believe me, you will be noticed!  Take some time to be young and enjoy your time developing into womanhood.  You are feeling strong desires and this is normal, but the question is, can you take control of these strong desires and urges?  We need to be careful these days since with everything going around and the traps we might fall into!  Don't be too hasty and jump into something you are not to sure about.  You do well to listen to people with experience and age.  Don't fight them and their advice!  They really know what's good for you and people your age.  If anything, give yourself some time too weigh things out and reflect on what you've heard.  Good luck and have fun!
82665
If it doesn't break ur good. But get on the pill also. Or just don't have sex.
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That is a hard time for you. Been there, 3 times\n1/ list things you like doing, or are interested in\n2/ look up clubs and groups that do these things, \n3/ if you have at least 1 friend that you can persuade to go to any/all of them, go.\nif not, go yourself, you don't have to stay if uncomfortable, remember, some of the people there possibly went for the same reason you did.\nGive it time, Parents Without Partners are good places for your age group. There are others, look up the net\ngood luck.
598304
Well if your not having sex, unprotected.Then you have nothing to worry about.Have someone go with you and be your comfort.Its not as bad as you think.
174133
You need to do something you havne't done for maybe 4 years take sometime out for youself enjoy being single catchup with your girlfriendsjust surround yourself with friends and enjoy yourself time heals all wounds
765787
If you are gay and willing to put your dignity and health in high risk...then go right ahead.  Keep looking for a job, it will be okay.  Stay positive.
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you are obviously to young to have aboy friend especially four years older than you,you wont like most answers you get and thats because were older and understand the consequences of what your doing,you had sex? thats what a man four years older than you wanted from you it wont last much longer and if it does it will be just about the sex i could assure you he defiantely is seeing other females behind your back more to his age,i hope you have protection because getting pregnant is the last thing you need
360286
first of all, relax... and try to make sure by yourself that you enjoy it.. and not others telling you what to do.. just be natural.. if you're not sure, wait a few more years.. i hope i was helpful
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Be more.  Don't be a "playbunny"--hold out.  Here is a brand new concept, wait, wait to have sex, wait to get too physical.  BE a girl worth getting to know, show him you have a mind, that you are interesting.  I don't care how old fashioned it sounds, men simply don't respect women who go to bed with them right away.  Don't be "easy".
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there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
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i think u just said it.....\nits not 4 a relationship....just sex....\ni think many people will agree with u that sex is great(even me)but it matters to me , who i have it with...\ngirl, if u do this it will only lead to broken heart(mentioned by u)...\ntry ur best of not wanting him 4 sex.... u know it won't last.... \nhave patience...\nchances u will find somebody (coz sex is easy to get , i think)but 2 get that emotional satisfaction is also important...\ni feel it is better to"make love" with someone who won't trample over me   .... and not leave me hollow and even empty...even after the great sex...\nrelationship or life is not ALL ABOUT SEX...\n\nbut then again it is ur decision...
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Sounds like you've done everything I would have suggested. I guess just keep talking and try to figure some things to make things interesting. Maybe try creating a different type of relationship for awhile. Try not having sex for a year or so and engage in activities that may remind both of you of sex but are in no way related. Go talk to a sex therapist. Sorry, that's the best I got
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Hi,get back out there don't put your life on hold and waste anymore time with men if they don't do it for you,you need a boost of confidence go out with your mates and have a laugh, find out what you want and need in a partner then go and find her,you only live once so keep it real and above all stay true to yourself!
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Yes you should. Wait a few years and be very careful. Help him mature as well by doing non-sexual adult things.