How can i make my BF marry me? He loves me, but is not ready for that. We've bee together for 2 years.?
410741
There is nothing that you can do to make your boyfriend marry you. You have to decide if you want to continue to date someone who is not interested in marriage at this time. Take this time to decide on what you want to do to prepare yourself for marriage. Talk with boyfriend, find out his feelings. I wish you the best.
600177
Marriage is a huge commitment. It is very good that he cares about you enough to wait until he has everything together. 2 years isn't really that long, especially if you are young. It sounds like you have a good man on your hands. I wouldn't worry, he will ask you when the time is right. Don't pressure him, it will push him away. My only caution is, there may never be a 'perfect' time to get married. He may not have his dream job.. and as far as the house, i would wait until after marriage and buy one together. \n\nIf you don't feel that he's worth waiting for then get out now
442944
My boyfriend and I got together and less than 2 weeks later we moved in together, and we were talking about marriage after 3 weeks, he is my soul mat e, my whole life, and my futurte husband, we have been together for 2 years and we have had our bad times, really bad times, but it doesnt make me love him, or us any less, so what Im trying to say is, if your ready and he is the one, you will just know, nobody else can tell you when you are ready except for your heart, dont listen to your head so much, i mean listen to it just follow your heaart, you know what is best for you...I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you...xxx
588660
Just because you have been dating for two years dose not mean he loves you. He might, but it's a chance that he dose not love you. I can't tell you if he loves you or not, when the time is right though, if he truely loves you....he will let you know.
533329
If you aren't ready for marriage, then you aren't ready, but you should be prepared (and supportive) if she decides to move on, as hard as that might be. \n\nSometimes loving each other, sadly, just isn't enough. She wants something you don't. But because you love her, you want her to be happy, right?\n\nSo, you 2 need to sit down & have a long talk about the issue. Make sure she knows where you stand, and that you really listen to her.\n\nBest of luck.
868796
My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year. \n\nMy dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it.  if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.\n\nI wish you all the best.
506876
My boyfriend and I are both divorced, and we're both a little marriage shy, so I totally understand your problem.  I want to know why 2 years is such a long time before you get married?  Most marriages are dissolved after a couple years because the people didn't know each other, I hear constantly "Well, we got married and I found out......"  That is not how marriage should be.  If you are going to spend the rest of your life with a person, you should know them in and out beforehand.  I'm a firm beleiver in living together before marriage.  Try that for a year or so, if you guys are still madly in love then you can START talking about marriage.
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
719510
If it were me, I would go on with my life when he leaves. If the two of you were meant to be together, then it WILL happen. If not, then you shouldn't want it to happen anyway. Two years is a long time to wait, and a lot happens in two years.....leave your options open. If it's meant to be it will!
171693
My first thought is, thank goodness he is honest about this. Secondly there have surely been signs that he has not been as serious as you have been. After 2 years it should have got past liking you into something much deeper. Sounds like he has led you on. Take off your rose colored glasses and see what is really there. Why did you stay? Did you set yourself up for a no win situation because you don't think your worthy of anything else? You are, but you need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. A good relationship has good communication so there would be no surprises after 2 years. Let him go, work on yourself and then and only then will you be ready for more. You will also be more picky, more accurate in your choices.
727506
Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
738098
If you have to think about it, then you aren't ready. There is no harm in waiting.  If he loves you he will wait and be patient.
1119306
Sometimes you gotta go with your heart... he may be getting cold feet (at the mention of marriage) especially if he was a quote/unquote  "player" before devoting himself to a relationship with you... sometimes the hardest thing is to think "is this the one?" The risk is in the leap of faith you take, by making the vows and all... will you really love him for the rest of your life?, visa versa on his part... sometimes open lines of communication is key... keep your head up girl! maybe he just needs some time to think about his place in this... talk about things then let it go... dwelling on it will only make things become ackwardly annoying to each of you.,..say whats on your mind let him say his piece, then go on to daily routine...
666289
First, are you sure he wants to marry you? It could also be that he has cold feet and is like most guys, bnervous to commit.  I would sit down and talk with him and ask him why he can not commit to a date... work out all the nicks before you set the date and get married.\n\nBy the way, there is nothing you can do to make a guy set a date... if he is ready to get married, then he will.
403531
Either take a break from your education and go with him OR keep your relationship open if you guys would mutually agree to that.\n\nOr, if its really a serious relationship - you will go through the two years.
464789
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
993034
if he told you he wasn't ready for marriage then he was very mature to inform you of such. trying to apply pressure to him to make him do something never works. i would advise you both sit down if possible and talk things out