how do i tell a girl that think she's my best friend , which i can't stand.?
406319
Be straight forward and tell her the truth
655302
Oh God, it seems we all have friends like this. Don't you just wanna punch her? Anyway, you can't act like it bothers you, 'cause she'll get some major satisfaction. Even if you feel like you wanna roundhouse kick her like Chuck Norris, stay calm. Remember, you've got more class than she does. \n\nHopefully, it'll work out where he guy won't pay attention to her. Be sugary-nice - eventually her fakeness will come out. Mean girls never win. =]
845024
don't beg her.  if she's your best friend she should believe you and not this other girl.  all you can do is tell her that you didn't say the things about her mom that you're being accused of.  and don't apologize for something you didn't do.  stand your ground on this one and do not give in to her.  it sounds like she enjoys having the upper hand, but you don't give it to her this time, especially since you didn't do what you're accused of.  it kind of sounds like you are her best friend, but she is not your best friend.\nI Wish You the Best
1079382
Well, just tell her that you don't want a relationship with her. Don't be mean with it. And tell her y'all can be friends. If she can't accept that then pay no attention to her or her friends.
810436
if she makes you uncomfortable let her know. if you've done that and it still happens, maybe its time to walk away from the friendship. if she doesn't respect you enough to respect the fact that you aren't interested its prolly not worth saving in the first place.
438907
just break it down to her.. tell her that you want to tell her something that you dont want her to get mad at.. tell her that you dont want to hurt her but you dont want to destroy ur friendship either by being together.. tell her you care about her as a friend..but nothing more.. you got to keep it funky.. feel me.. just be gentle but serious with her
518690
Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.
13080
I have the same problem budd :-(  \nTell her you like her but say that if she dosen't feel the same way you feel about her then just say you'd still like to be her friend.
270506
okay, the only way to get past this is to let your friend be friends with them... let's be honest if you completely make your only friend stay away from them she may end up disliking you for making her pick sides.
384959
if she doesn't wanna hurt you then she is your best friend but ask her to be more honest with you next time ask her to give you her real opinion next time .you she she didn't say because she didn't wanna hurt you because she wants what is best for you .cause if she did tell you might get upset with her
191780
This is when you separate the "women from the girls"...Be Strong!  Believe me when I say, you are not alone in this.  It's happened to most of us and it's not a good feeling, but you do get over it....it just doesn't feel like it right now.  When people feel intimidated by you, they feel the need to boost their own shaky self esteem by putting someone else down and because your best friend probably knows everything about you, you are an easy target for her.  For whatever reason (she's jealous, you are prettier, you are smarter, whatever) she's decided to ambush your friendship.  The best thing you can do is to take the high road and don't sweat it.  The more people see that this bothers you the more they are going to tear you apart over it.  Blow it off and move on to new friends.  BUT..play your cards close to the vest for a while until you are sure you can trust them.  And you never know...maybe she's a friend who can redeem herself and who just made a mistake...only you can be the judge of that.  But if you do become friends again...go slow.  Are you sure you can ever really trust her again?  Good Luck.
1160927
Ignore her.  Don't hang out with her.\n\nIf you can't do that, just be nice to her and pretend that whatever she does doesn't bother you.  She is probably one of those people who likes the reactions she gets from you.  If you stop giving those reactions, then maybe she will stop doing whatever it is that bothers you.
32061
Maybe you are.  You could be the best friend she has without her being the best friend you have.  \nWhy would you want to tell her you're not?  It would be horribly mean, and besides, it's a nice compliment to you that she likes you so much.
1150051
Be as nasty as possible if that dont work talk to the police. Show no care or feelings for the person just hate and be very nasty that s the only way to get through to them may sound harsh but thats how its done. oh or intreduce her to you best friend lol
877998
Well.. I would say that she isn't your best friend.  I have had the same problem.  My so called best friend loves a guy that i have loved for ever.  She went behind my back and asked him out without telling  me.  Then i realized that she wasn't my best friend.  Oh yeah.  Talk to her about it.  If she is all cocky and like let me love him shit. Then just flirt with him more to get her mad.
745255
I have the same situation..I like them both but one doesn't like one of my bestfriend...I realized,if she treat me as a friend she should accept & respect me & my bestfriends.There is no reason to hate my bestfriend because she is not bad..Maybe,if my bestfriend is bad,rude or something which is not acceptable maybe i can understand my friend.But there is no reason because i've known her for so long and became my bestfriend.I realized,that my other friend has been jealous that's why she hate her and she just doesn't like my bestfriend's style.If i were you,as long as you know,trust and you like your bestfriend there's no way to worry about your bestfriend.But the other friend,you have to ask him/her why?then try to analyze and figure ot out...
1007274
of course u have to keep talking to her...she is ur best friend !!!! she has the right to be mad,she was refused by a guy...be patient.plz to handle  it u have to be with her n good and bad...she is talking like this now bcs she is mad...be patient she will come to apologize !!! friendship means we have to support each other in ur bad and good times