Why Can't couples shop together ?
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they can can't they?? is there a new law i'm unaware of?? its happened before. there are worse things you could be doing. so, if thats your bag, go for it, and i'm sure she'll love it too.
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I read somewhere that you need to attack the problem, not the person.\n\nJust ask him what his real opinion is, and so that he feels it is safe to do so, promise you won't get mad or emotional and that you just want to know so that the two of you can fix any mis-understandings or problems. He needs to promise the same. Both of you stick to your side of the bargain. Fix the problem rationally and calmly, don't use the occasion to see who's to blame.\n\nI'm not telling you to suppress your feelings for ever. Just that you're both now playing the role of an analyst, not the patient. Analyse and fix the problem rationally, then go back to real life.\n\nThere's no need to deal with an emotional problem in an emotional way, just deal with an emotional problem in a logical stp-by-step way. Once you know what the real problem is, as opposed to what you think it is or what you think it all means based on past problems or experiences, you now have a good diagnosis that you're both agreed upon.\n\nArmed with the correct diagnosis, you're now in a position to fix the problem, by yourselves or with the help of friends or by asking more questions on here or by seaching for articles on the whole problem or small parts of the problem.\n\nYou can use this technique regard to the trip. Ask him whether he wants you to go (at all, on your own, or together). Men have fears too. Does he have some mis-guided suspicion that you're meeting someone? (let him tell you, but don't ask him).\n\nOn the subject of shopping, men and women think very differently and a woman's shopping style where she sees how she feels/looks in each dress is just 'dithering' to a man. He needs to learn what's expected of him (tastes, compliments, etc). Asking him for opinions on dresses and things that he has no opinion on just does his head in. Give the poor man a break. Just because he has no knowledge of color co-ordination or the names of fabrics, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore.\n\nA man's shopping style is quick and decisive, just 'That's nice, I'll have it'. Done in 2 minutes.
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Buying present for each other would be very sweet...Going shopping together may be a good idea, but the feeling u get from it won't be as memorable as getting a present from someone so special to u...just imagine the momentum u'll be in when u open the present...u can always shop together anytime u want, but being a santa for ur husband is only once in a year...
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In love, you have too many expectations off each other. People have this image in their head of what they want their partners to be, but love blinds you, and it isn't necessary that the one you're in love with has those qualities. But, as lots of wise people say, the cover of love doesn't last forever.... at one point you want what you want, and when you don't get it from the one you'd expect it from the most (your love-married partner), there are problems and divorces.\n\nIn arranged ones, this problem is a lot less as you're pragmatic in your decision and go for someone who it makes SENSE to be with. Therefore it works a long time...\n\nThink of it like the difference between an impulse buy and an informed decision of an electronic - people love to jump and buy things they think look "cool". But they start using it and the features are crap - ditto situation!
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Oh sure it's very possible it's depends on the person u want to share the relationship wit some are eat and run person and some ppl really mean it but those eat and run ppl has tanished the image of others. So ppl will be thinking that they are Birds of a feather. And sometimes it will depends on how best u are in expression. But online relationship is possible, cuz one of my frnds is in a deep relationship wit someone out of our country and they are now living 2gether as Husband and Wife.
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Maybe you two should compromise on things. Just because you like certain brands of items doens't make you high maitenance.  I love my Coach purse but I also love my Walmart flip-flops.  Its all about taste.  If you only see yourself in Armani, versace and other well known classy brands and ONLY want those things and won't get anything other than that then perhaps you are High Maitenance but if also enjoy other things that your b/f does then you are not so high maitenance.
202602
You can't buy love or happiness, even if you could why would you want to, there would be only one happy person in the relationship....and thats not love
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agree to disagree!!!!\n\nnot all couples agree on everything...hell ..most dont agree on alot...its how you handle that...so you compromise and if you cant come to a reasonable answer...\n\n.....or you can both toss a coin for the solution...and must agree beforehand that whatever it falls on is the answer with no further discussion....\n\n...and if that doesnt work.....then you simply  agree to disagree!
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Don't worry...this is very common. The best thing that you guys can do is to get together and come to agreements about your finances and stick to a budget...that way, if/when either one of you buy something outside the budget...you get called out. Also, it is best to sit down and just have a heart to heart on all of the frustrations that you are both going through...the worst thing that you can do is to sweep it under the rug and let it build up! Also, make a pact to only talk about things in a calm manner and do it all in one session instead of doing it everyday(a peaceful home is a happy one). Also, remember that you are adjusting to each other and that you are both going to find things that annoy you about the other person...but, also look at the positive things and especially the positive things that you have noticed since you have been married!
236167
No the only way to have a lasting relationship is for both people to be completely open with each other. If their not open it shows lack of trust and their is no relationship unless their is trust.
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Because that is the proper course of things.\nIn people's minds today, first you're bf/gf, then you're in love, then you move in together, then SOMETIMES you're married first, and then kids, but often times it's the other way around.\n\nDon't take offense to it, because people are just thinking about the natural course of things, and see you and your bf as being happily together, and a couple.\n\nTake it in stride. At least people aren't asking if you're even still together because of how badly you fight!
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I have always believe that when two people get married the finances should be combined and both should have equal access.  I make twice the money of my wife but I trust that she is smart enough to have equal access to the money.  She still maintains a small seperate checking account that we put some money into each month so that she can buy stuff, especially presents for me without me knowing what and how much, plus it makes her feel more comfortable.  But the majority of our money is in a joint account that she has full access to and that I encourage her to use.  When you divide money up based upon who earns what I think the relationship is destined to fail.  How can you be truely committed to a relationship if your holding on to your money to protect yourself?  When you really love someone you don't try to protect your self from them or the posibility that your relationship will fail.  To do so is admiting that it will fail.  Your other points are equally valid, it is in the families best interest that you have equal access to all funds in case of an emergency.  Your name should also be on the titles of all cars and houses and on every credit card.  I also think it is important that you take time to look at the accounts on a regular basis.  There are so many horor stories out there of one spouses problems bankrupting a whole family and the other spouse had no idea that there was a problem.  And on a final note, just because you want to stay home with the kids that doesn't make you any less important.  By taking care of the kids you are saving your family huge amounts of money without you ever being paid for it.  If he has to keep his money seperate then tell him you want an account and that he has to pay into it each month the amount that you would normally have to pay for child care plus what your not recieving from a normal job.
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Usually the couple buys the wedding rings together.  Couples like to have matching sets, so it's easier to get them at the same time.  \n\nWe bought our engagement and wedding rings together, and he paid for the engagement ring but we both paid for the wedding rings since our incomes were combined by then.
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Single people want to be involved with somone & those in a relationship yearn to be free at times.\n\nWe always want what we don't have...
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They SHOULD go hand in hand... but it doesn;t always happen that way. Some people use marriage as a refuge against lonliness and are willing to make the necessary compromises for it.
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It really shouldn't be uncomfortable to do anything for the one you love. That's what love and relationship is all about. Being there for each other. Doing things other wouldn't normally do for you. Letting them know how much you care to do the simplest things. I remember going to Victoria's Secret to get the pair of free panties for my wife. In front of the Sales woman, I tested them. I pulled them, smelled them, held them up in the light to make sure they would work for my wife. The sales woman was very impressed.
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My wife and I were both previously married.  We have a joint account for the majority of our money and then she has a small separate account so she can buy gifts and stuff without me knowing.  I think a relationship that is based on trust and sharing includes the financial side of things.