When your heart has been broken in the worst way, is it normal to want revenge?
395837
What goes around comes around but we are not responsible for bringing it back around, that will only cause us to loose our spirit and balance.  Their cheating is not worth our loss of spirit.  What is inside us is all important.  This man will suffer in the next life.  Let go.  Nurture your pain by taking an art class, planting orchids, mediatating to beautiful music.  You matter and the evil in the world won't go away, it is an integral part of it.  You only separate yourself from it by being strong, separate in your mind of it, and remaining compassionate.
332209
A broken heart is not broken just bruised or hurt.It is alright to cry and talk it out. Remind yourself not to close another out for the human heart will mend and love again.Tell yourself the person who broke your heart did not deserve it in the first place and there is someone who will mend your heart and love you as though you never had a broken heart. Smile even though you want to cry laugh even when you want to fall apart. Love even if you feel you can't.
471020
how does it feel to be heartbroken? Well, it depends on how deeply you tresured something with the person who broke your heart. for me, it felt like HELL. But i got over it after about 1 and 1/2 year. when a broken heart will be healed depends on your own pace. Frankly speaking, i don't believe the guy said. it's too unspecific and invalid. that's like telling who you can be with and you can't be with. if i were in your place, i wouldn't think that he's doing me a great favor. But nevertheless it shows he doesn't like you. Learn to move on.= )
1103260
get over them!\n\nwhy would you want revenge? it is desperate and needy and you'll just lose face by doing it. why let him see how much he hurt you? keep your pride and move on!
618711
i used to... but not anymore..because i found that there is still an opportunity for me to make things get better and here i am i get what i want..get what i deserve and what i wished for. its just a matter of time to get over it and do other things that's is much more better than hating your own life. people hate their life just because they did something wrong or something bad or horrible things had happened or something that made them felt useless or hopeless...that they regret of living.. but as time passes quickly..they will get over it soon... just try to find a way that makes you feel better then everything will be fine... :)
845652
We all at times would like to get revenge so we feel better. The best thing to do is really wait and don't act while your angry , sit it out and let it go for awhile and see if that feeling doesn't just fade away..
286361
Depends of how/why he broke your heart ? And how/why he wants to love you back ?
477760
You already helped yourself! If your asking for help then you must not be that hateful! A truly hateful person would never think about getting advice. Your already strong and I don't think you hate.When you hurt really bad you build up a lot of anger, that is normal. I think you are mixing up and confusing your emotions. You are probably very hurt and angry it's normal to feel hateful sometimes.
843738
No, if you are truly in love with someone, in my opinion, there is no turning back, no taking it back. The only thing is when you're hurt emotionally  due to indifference or lack of communication, you become hard. Your attitude changes when you can't get a response in some way. Neglect is one of the worse emotional abuse crimes there is. What really kills is the love you still have in your heart, but it isn't being returned. Kind of makes everything all futile and lonely...........good luck.........
1143065
Yes.  We do get heart-broken.  It happened to me 28 years ago.  I never dreamed it would still bother me after all this time, but, it does.  Guys sometimes act like nothing bothers us but it does.  We feel.  We love.  We hurt.
705945
Everyone says that it's a healing thing. The hard part of this is learning how to forgive. I thought I had achieved the fine art of forgiving, but recently resentment, anger and bitterness has reared it's ugly head again. The one that it hurts the most is the one that harbors these feelings. I've read a couple of books on forgiveness,, but reading and actually doing the forgiving seems next to impossible for me to accomplish...........:)
230797
Yes for most people. Giving someone else a second chance also says a lot about yourself. Some things simply cannot be forgiven, but they tend to be things of a violent nature. Try to forgive and forget when posible.
1047025
Nope. I married someone that loves me and cares for me so deeply. I did love him once, but he killed my love....now that I am married I realized that I hate myself for not following my heart. Its not fair to try to make someone happy and living a fake life that you may not feel. Trust me. I can't get out of it, and each day gets harder and harder.
41762
well i had a bf and he broke up with me for soem girl that hated me!yeah it does hurt really bad so bad that you have nightmares about him or all you can think about is him i have had him coem up to me and say i dont wanna talk to you just because we broek up its not write to go out then becoe worst enemys i hate that i always want to be friends with the guy!
642630
you want revenge on someone you call your "best friend?" why do you call them that then?
267595
I know how you feel. There is one fellow from a long time ago who was tormented as a child as I also was. One time, our collective tormentors goaded us into fighting one another, promising to end the torment of whichever one of us won.\n\nI have felt badly for years that the one I should have had the most empathy for was the one I ill treated, not our tormentors. \n\nBut does finding that person and apologizing make them feel better - or you? I asked myself that question, and realize that it would be of little benefit to the person I feel accountable to - it would only assuage my guilt. All I would be doing would be bringing up a long-past horror I know I don't care to remember. \n\nIf this person was ever going to forgive you, chances are they already have. Don't make them relive something simply for your benefit. Unless you were actually planning on reestablishing a relationship with  this person, take your lumps privately. It is the only decent thing to do.
816196
u will grieve as long as u stay in the past, and blame yourself for it. it didn't just happen overnight, so quickly, it's been in his mind for awhile. yes we will be hurt for sometime, takes time to move on after heartbreak. just something we all must go through in life, it's really a learning process for us, only we can't see it, as were too busy trying to figure out why. sometimes other people's choices in life do break our hearts, and we have no control over what that person chooses to do, we may never know why. but it's how we handle the hurt that is key to our recovery. he just didn't have the self control he should have. personally rather than live with a cheater i would rather deal with the heartbreak now, than again later on. this is who he is, and it really has nothing to do with your self worth. we just have to move forward, and in spite of our hurts, know that pain doesn't leave us where it finds us, that when one door closes another one opens up. often times we put too much trust in people we don't know that well, and we set ourselves up for it.we expect them to be as fair in a relationship as we have been. we don't quite understand how it could happen, well this is who he is and how he thinks.