Why doesmy boyfriend try to make me feel bad by saying that i  just dont trust him.?
409090
Because he isn;t trust worthy.  Say this to him "_______ you told me if i couldn't trust you then we need to break up.  Well i can;t trust you because of the way you're acting and if you're not willing to help me to trust you by not acting that way then guess what, goodbye"  dump him before he cheats and really breaks ur heart.
337740
Confront him about it,put him on the spot and let him know he has explaining to do! Dont be afraid to confront him,he need's to feel like an idiot for being so dishonest with  you and need's to know how that makes you feel. IF he doesnt stop this,then you need to move on,because that's never a good sign,and is never going to make it into a long term relationship. People lie for a reason,and obviously it isnt a GOOD one. lier's continue to lie because people let them get away with it,afraid to put them on the spot,afraid to embarrasse them,ect,forget that,embarrasse the crap out of him,it might teach him if he know's he cant get away with it,but make sure you know why he lied to you,that should tell you alot,and please,dont let him tell you a lie about his lie,and dont let him make you feel guilty about it either,liers will try and make you feel guilty about their lie,such as "I thought if you knew you would hate me and not want me anymore" or "I didnt want you to know,because that's not who I am anymore,you have changed me"blah,blah,blah
604
It's all a matter of trust.  Obviously if you are freaking out about this, there is something about him or about your relationship with him that is making you suspicious in this situation.  \nGetting obviously angry with him when there is no proof of wrongdoing will only make him angry and defensive in return, and nothing positive can be accomplished when that happens.  \nExpress to him (calmly) how this made you feel-- if he is at all worth your time and energy, he will totally understand how uncomfortable this must have made you, and be willing to discuss the reasons why.
706044
Because when you put you heart and faith into someone and they betray you, it is natural to question your judgement.  Look people make good and bad decision all the time.  You have to chalk this one up as a mistake and move on.  Naturally you want him to feel bad about losing you but truth is you never really had him so let it go.  He doesn't seem like he has any self control so don't be suprised if somewhere in the future he crosses you path again.  That will be the time that you will be happy because you made the decision to move on and he will be wondering what he could have had.  It happens to all of us at some time.\n\nKeep you head up.
63945
It is not hard.  The lack of trust could be that he has done something that violated her trust.  I had a friend who accused everyone one of his girlfriends of cheating, but he was the one who cheated.\n\nSometimes it could be that he was hurt by a girlfriend that cheated on him.  Either way, you are a different person from his past girlfriends and he should not be so mistrusting.
150037
Calm down....Just cause your bf change his plans and does something else dosent mean he cheating. How can you sound more untrusting. I doubt he goes outta town without tellin you,im sure youknow why he goes. alot of times its a persons own thoughts that trigger insecure thoughts that causes striff and tension in relationships.  I have this same problem with my girl, she always thinks im cheating or doing something specfically to harm our relationship,like i wanna argue about things like that. Its ridiculous, I dont know if she wanna wardenize me or not, Itry to please her by telling her stuff but she complains I told her too late. Its not a problem cause I really like her and its not a big deal(as much) Sometimes you gotta choose your battles and deal with the good and the bad if you really like him/her if you generally know he not cheating. TRUST HIM ladylocks!!
381525
You need to get a grip on yourself. This kind of behavior is what drives people away. Trust is key in a relationship. If you do not trust him and he has given you no reason to doubt him, then you need to let it go.
1045666
If you're jealous, there's probably a good reason for it.  This guy has already broken your trust once and hasn't built it back yet.  I'd talk to him and tell him that the things he's donig are making you uncomfortable and until you feel you can trust him fully he needs to back off the other girls for awhile.  If he's not willing to help you trust him, he's not worth your trust.  And usually your gut instinct is right.  9 out of 10 times, once a cheater, always a cheater!
1148534
i am sorry i am not like this rest of the people but i do think trust and honesty are the two main ingredients in a relationship maybe hes hiding something do not quote me but usually those who accuse are guilty themselves but good luck you should not have to prove your innocent he should have complete trust if he loves and wants a great relationship best of luck hope i help in at least a tiny bit
895215
Hopefully the feeling is mutually (meaning your boyfriend loves you). If so, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. If your boyfriend is a mature individual he will not listen to outside sources. If he feels that something may be true than he should come directly to you...go directly to the source. Just remember people are petty. People will do anything and everything to get what they want...especially if they are involved with someone else...you always want what you can't have.
479409
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
109650
Probably because you are pretty!  He is worried you'll find "something better." \n\nJust do your best to reassure him, but don't allow him to get all jealous and controlling on you, OK?
269089
there must be something disturbing him. try to find out. or maybe he is pretending to be nice to you but holds grudgesin his mind against you. worse still he could be seeing someone else or fed up. whichever way, confront him and make him tell you. its better that way
953473
It sounds like you have a guy who loves you dearly and is naturally scared of hurting you. I honestly don't think he would feel like you are afraid of him - if you have talked about what happened, and he is being there for you the way you say he is, then he is simply trying to be there for you in the best way he can, and worries when he's not sure how he can help more.\n\nYou've picked well - don't let this one go :)
621206
Well if you guys say you are the perfect couple you wouldnt be paranoid and if you trust him enough than you know hes not cheating but if you wanna know so badly just ask him whats going on exactly between you and me cause im being serious about us how about you and go from there you wont feel paranoid and just tell him whats making you paranoid like the girl with the books never know he may be just being nice but hes still showing you two off as a couple to all the other girls and guys so what hes comfortable with them looking at you why not him and other girls it may be difficult but at times you have to get use to it and get over it
272037
Sounds like you should just break up with him then.  He is intentionally hurting your feelings by saying that to you..., or maybe he is trying to get some sort or reaction when he says it.  So, next time he says it.., say, I feel the same way.., just to see what he does.  Keep in mind..,there are many fish in the sea.., so you can throw this one back!!!
410254
I think a lot of people feel safe and anonymous on websites like those to explore thoughts or curiousities without feeling like they are "really" doing anything wrong...since it is a computer screen...but the mental side of it...can destroy a relationship..yes you should forgive..but NOT forget..you know what he is truly like ..his thoughts...when you have your back turned..so be smart...but don't become obsessed over what he "might" be thinking or doing....then YOU could be the one to destroy the relationship and actually Create what you Fear most