what's the best way for avoid the divorces?
406546
Don't be mean to your wife when she shows you how much she bloody loves you!!
106398
Sit him down, don't dramatize the situation and just explain to him in a mature and resolute way that you no longer wish to share the living arrangement you currently share. The best way to deal with any problem is just being honest about it with the people involved because nothing sucks worse than being the last know especially when it's a life altering decision that affects you.
348574
Be happy.  Live your life and do not think on marriage now.
645176
Telling someone that you want to split, it is impossible to avoid at least one very long, involved conversation.\n\nI Guar-an-tee that if you tell him, "i'm not happy anymore" "I don't love you anymore" "I don't feel the same" "I want a divorce" "things have changed" etc, etc, etc; that he will ask "IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE?"  \n\nThe only way to keep him from asking this question is to tell him flat-out "There's someone else."\n\nEven though others have brought up the very valid point that telling him that you are no longer happy in your marriage IS the truth, there's no way of getting out of this without lying unless you admit WHY you are no longer happy.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with what you are going through, it is a shame both for yourself and your husband.  My ADVICE is to come clean up front and tell him why you are leaving.  It might make it easier for him to let you go.  He will, of course, feel betrayed, used, unwanted, inferior and will not have a very high opinion of you.  It might get you the out that you need, to be bluntly honest.\n\nBear in mind two things: In some states, an aggrieved spouse can sue for adultery, "alientation of affections" (targeted at the adulterous spouse's lover) or "Inflicted Induced Emotional Stress" towards, I think, either or both of you.  You'll want to find out via websites or a lawyer if any of these are applicable to your state.\n\nFinally, consider your husband.  Is he the type that might go postal?  An odd and insensitive question, perhaps, but a good number of people have lost their lives to spouses they have hurt.  \n\nConsider all the factors at play and make your decision.  I hope that everything lines up so that you feel (relatively) comfortable in admitting the whole truth, because it can and will be a huge load off of your chest.\n\nI wish you, your husband, and your love all the best.
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pack your stuff and leave while he is gone. leave a note or what ever you like. file for divorce and a TRO at teh same time
735140
If married no problems but if just living together DO NOT have a joint bank acct,,,,Keep your money in your name and protect your butt,,,everything should be  split, 50/50 including sex,,,,smiles, Good Luck ps Money causes more problems than  any other subject and mode of living,
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I have to say no.  My ex-husband and I tried that but it doesn't work because even if you don't say how you feel it doesn't mean you don't feel that way.  Then it seems like everything is bottled inside and eventually you blow up.  It's a nice idea but not very plausible.  Another thing in marriage is it's not always so hard to forgive it's the forgetting that's the problem.  So, my advice is find another way counseling, talking, or if that's not an option I hate to say but divorce is better than being your spouses "roommate", you can't just stop caring even if you think you can.
453280
listen home wrecker!\nStay away from married women.
90078
Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
273465
Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
496727
Get married if you're single, and divorced if you're married.
599749
You gotta ride this out, my friend. Think of diamonds and gold for your wife. It will be cheaper than the alimony.
303955
Cheapest is illegal as you are not allowed to buy a knife or bullet with the intention of becoming single.\n\nSelf divorce kits are good, if you are both willing to do it without any sort of conflict.  My wife and I are doing ours next week, costing us $90 each... could have cost thousands if we weren't amicable.\n\nGood luck.
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Wow, 20 years! Counseling is definitely the first line of defense! If you are willing to try one last thing before ending the relationship, please try counseling with a licensed counselor. It seems like the easy way out now but believe me, the hurt and destruction divorce causes makes losers of everyone involved.
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Talk to him about it when the kids are not there.   Just tell him your miserable and you have filed for a divorce.  If you haven't really had a relationship with him the last few years, it might be a blessing to him too.  Just try to be as civil as possible for the kids.  Try not to fight in front of them...but don't give them false hopes either.  Good luck, you're going to need it ,I'm afraid.
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find a couple small things that give you joy, and set aside time for yourself each day to do them - maybe as simple as walking quietly on some path by your house, or painting.\n\nFind ways to connect with other people in a social setting - take a community ed pottery class or something.\n\nFind a group of people who are worse off than you and volunteer some time to help them.\n\nJoin a support group for people going through a divorce.
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There are some general legal principles:\n\n1.  Spouses are generally presumed to co-own anything gained during the marriage and be responsible for any debts incurred during the marriage.\n\n2.  But there are a whole lot of exceptions.\n\n3.  And there is no way to know how these rules would be applied in each case.  It's all exceptionally fact-specific.\n\n4.  The only way to get a handle on the issues is to consult with a lawyer.\n\n5.  But you should never presume that you "don't have the money" to get divorced or that it would be financially ruinous.  For the non-monied spouse, the news is usually a lot better than she might expect.\n\n6.  See a lawyer.