Is It typical to still have feelings for your ex-husband?
409900
its normal;just don't act on them
1105218
Very possible...when I was married I loved my husband dearly however I could not stand that asshole..soooo I divorced him and I'm happy again...:)
293039
First of all, when you DO see each other, make sure that any "feelings of attachment" are clearly communicated.  For example, if you are still friends and wish to remain "friends," set the boundaries straight.  As long as both of you have a clear understanding that the friendship can grow in spite of the divorce, then seeing your ex-husband should not pose a dilemma.  Sometimes ex-lovers make the greatest friends!  I should know, I'm still in communications with my ex-boyfriend who recently got married.  Although I couldn't make it to the wedding, he still considered me as one of his friends by sending me an invite.
1183039
I doubt you have a chance with your ex after so much time, but regardless of that, you obviously don't need to be with the man you're married to.  You will both have a chance to be happier and to have a truly loving relationship if you move on.\nI stayed in a bad marriage for a long time (different things made it bad, but that's inconsequential) because I felt like it was "the right thing to do", but it wasn't.  Being miserable your entire life shouldn't ever be "the right thing to do".  Do whatever you can to make your life better.  He'll be better off in the long run too.
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
1154129
i used to.  Now i call him an ex-husband
1129099
You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!
116892
Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
130691
He might just have some residual feelings for you, it happens more often than not that one of the two parites holds onto feelings.\n\nI am still friendly with my ex-fiance, who admitts freely that he is still in love with me. I just told him that there have to be boundries and after I said it a few times it finally stuck.
598071
I have had some of those same dreams about my ex.  I really do not know what to tell you.  The shrink says that there are some unresolved issues that I have with him and that I need to work them out for myself.  The difference with me and you is that I have a child with my ex.  This puts a big dent in things on the disconnection side of things.  The biggest thing is that you have to realize that these are fears that you may have in your subconscious that you may have to deal with, to make your dreams stop.  It sounds like your husband is really jealous.  That is something that you two have to work out.  What I did is reassure my new husband that he is the only one for me and that will not change as long as he will have me.  That may work for you.  Sorry that I cannot be of much more assistance.  If you want more advice let me know, K.
390507
We all make mistakes maybe you and him where not meant to be broke up but whats done is done the way you feel is nothing more then he felt he got over them feelings and you will too you have found new love and must go on. It dont hurt to still care for your ex theres memorys made that will stay with you 4/ever and him the same too. They never lied when they said love hurts huh be happy but you need to make sure she is good to your kids so you need to meet her and talk.*
1102780
If you still have feelings for your ex, then you can't be 100% into your current bf.  You need to figure out if you want to go back with your ex and try to make the relationship work - or if you want to start fresh with your new bf.  \nKeep in mind that the problems you had with your ex are still going to be there.  Whatever the reason was why you broke up with him will still be there - you will basically be going back into your old relationship and be faced with a lot of the same problems and issue.  If you think you can work things out and it will work this time then you should give it a shot.  However, if you know you can't work things out, then you should give your current relationship a try and stay with your new bf.
1045141
I have been divorced for over 5 yrs now and my ex and mine have been doing this dance until 7 months ago. We keep sleeping to together because it was comfortable, I would call him if I was in trouble, etc.but that's just it. Its comfortable.Its sad but you got divorced for a reason and need to remember that.He is moving on with his life and so am I. I kept hoping we would get back then he would go away again. So I woke up to it. I wanted the fantasy of him not the real him. Please look at the big picture here. You are hanging on to a memory and for that it may even be a false one. You are in limbo and and he is living his life while you wait for him. Do you want to let him have it both ways? Keep you on the shelf and play with you when he wants to walk down memory lane? Do you deserve more than that?If you are meant to be you will be. But maybe you should look in the mirror into your soul and take care of you and grow from this, because that is what divorce is about. You may be very surprised by who you really are. Then what happens in the future who knows? Then again by then you may just have out grew him?\nGood luck
926297
Well, I am in love with my husband, but still have weaker feelings of love for my ex boyfriend. You really can't put it into words, but the feeling of love is different towards anyone you love. The feeling of love a parent has for their child, is not the same TYPE of love that you feel when you are in love. There are many forms of love, just can't really put them into words.
1150267
Why would you want to get back with your EX HUSBAND . there had to be a reason for the breakup in the first place . RIGHT? Sorry for being so blunt about that issue!
723333
Yes I was head over heels for my first husband things went south we divorced and I loved him still.  I got married to a really great guy who understood that I may always love my exhubby.  After a year of being married I don't even think about my ex anymore... I am tee-totally all for my Marine.  We are cut from the same cloth....
115769
When did your feelings change?\n\nWhat happened outside of your marriage at that time?\n\nYou may simply be looking for an excuse to leave him.  Your likely some where around 30 and that is a tough time in a marriage or out.\n\nKeep in mind that marriages take a great deal of work and nearly all of them have challenging periods.  That’s when you knuckle down and find a way through the tough times.  Your feelings changed once and they can change again.  Just imagine yourself ten years down the road after you have left him, simply because you didn’t try to work through a tough patch.  \n\nIt sounds as if everything else is okay and since you’re the one disturbed, maybe it is you.  If it is you, you might consider that your feelings toward him are relative to your feelings toward someone else.  \n\nMy wife and I have been together 51 years and married 46 years.  It has taken lots of work through tough times, but somehow it has maintained.