How to handle a lazy 9-year-old son?
408578
this is probably something you dont want to hear but maybe you need to get him tested.  sounds like he may need medicine help to keep him focused so that he can concentrate better in school. good luck...
56632
Funny you should ask!My little bro is 9, he CAN be annoying at times when I'm just not in the mood to be annoyed, but most of the time he's pretty funny. We laugh a lot, it's interesting to see things from his point of view.
346887
I think it depends on his age.  If he's younger, just ignore him.  It may be the attention you're giving him that keeps him going.
819016
My first response is to smack him!....No don't..lol...it would help if we knew how old he was. But parents, and I am a parent, we do stupid things. Sometimes or most of the time, without realizing it. If we are busy we pass things off on our children to do and when we hear complaints, whether legitimate or not, we don't want to hear it. We just want what we said done....done! We don't listen to reason. And we think, we know it all. That's why, I talk to my son all the time and not like the "after school special" talks, we simply talk about anything and everything and I try my best to be completely honest with him, even when I have done something wrong or bad...(not parent like). \nYou really need to sit down with your parents. You need to do this without your brother being there. It should be somewhere other then your home and you should be completely honest with your feelings and how they are treating the situation. If that doesn't work, try writing them a letter. If that doesn't work, then if you are older, realize your brother may be going through some changes in his body and mind, try talking to him and letting him know your feelings and see where that gets you. It is truly your parents problem and not yours, however, you are stuck in the middle. I hope this helps. You sound like a sound kid just looking for real advice and you deserve respect from your parents and brother.
548462
DR PHIL SUGGEST TIME OUT IN THE LAUNDRY ROOM OR A TOTALLY BORING AREA OF THE HOUSE AND IF SHE HATES CHORES LOAD HER UP OR TAKE SOMETHING SHE LOVES IE. TOYS,VIDEO GAMES,OVERNIGHT AT FRIENDS ETC. TRY TAKING HER TO CHURCH ALSO , HAVE HER INTERACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN THAT ARE GOOD INFLUENCES ON HER AND ARE CALMER IN NATURE. EVEN IF U R NOT RELIGIOUS IT HELPS
584794
You may have to get a second job. Your son may also have to work part time, if possible.
53737
he doesnt like reading?????...oh you sweet mother! i will hear you say one of these days, "help me pleeease, my son does not like his clothes...can he wear fig leaves and two nuts to school?"...\n\nTie him to the bed post, give him a book on meaning of life, ask him to read, if he doesnt give him the hobby of pulling the book out of his asss, ....repeat the hobby till he thinks reading is easier on the eye...and the...\n\ncheers, and hope you read this ..if not, you have it coming too...
225067
Teach your child to obey authority figures, respect his elders, and to NOT have an attitude. He'll get through life uch better.
638603
as a mother of 3 boys i can tell u - find for them something to do. in that case they will be busy and won't have time to drive u nuts. i give my kids some chores and try to keep them separate from each other by giving them some different appointments\nand i would really answer also to that previous to mine answer - if he has children like drunk midgets it is his own fault that he can not have nice chidren. mine never woke me up in the morning by hitting me even when they were brainless toddlers. children are the best people on this planet if they hace normal parents
82348
You don't have to worry about whether or not you can make it without him, do you? You're already doing everything on your own anyway, plus taking care of him (his laundry, cooking, s.e.x., etc). \nDoes he work? Doesn't sound like he has time if he's spending that much time on the PC. If he's not even working, then time to tell him to grow up and take on his responsibilities. I would give him say, 2 weeks to get a job or find somebody else to live off of. If he does work, then I'd sit him down or write him a letter explaining how I felt. Do not, whatever you do, start yelling. That will get you nowhere. Let him know that if things don't improve, then eventually, you'll get so sick of it that you will kick him out. Have you asked him what he would do if you decided to stay on the computer all the time and expected him to do everything? \nAnother idea: you could go on "strike" until he does get it and changes. Don't wash him laundry anymore, only yours and the baby's. Don't cook for him anymore, just for you and feed the baby. Don't do his dishes, don't do anything for him. When you've got his attention, I bet he'll listen if he is worth anything. Don't demand he give up the computer completely, but apparently he needs some reasonable time limits.
978599
stop feeding him\n--seriously, what is his motivation to do something when his basic needs are being met while he does nothing?\n\nSomeone else recently asked a similar question -- tha answers are up for voting:\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ama65ijE_0w1eh4IfS5M_Evsy6IX?qid=20061116144514AAiVdbe\n\nYour expectations have to be made clear.  As we got older, my mother established the rule that once we turned 18, we had to be full-time students earning good grades or we had to pay rent.  I went to college for a while, but dropped out -- I got a job because I knew she required rent, and I also knew she wouldn't give me any money to go hang out with my friends or to put gas in my car.  When I decided to go back to school, I still worked for spending money, but she didn't charge rent.
1098476
That's a tough one. I don't know how you handle discipline in your house but something that has worked for me (I am the primary care taker for my boyfriend's two children who are both from different unions) is using a good marble/bad marble system. I know it sounds kinda corny at first, but, you make a customized fair list of the behaviors that are not acceptable (whining and petty tattling is on our list) and they get a bad marble (btw we have pickle jars labeled good and bad) anytime they exhibit these behaviors and if they get too many (say 5 or more depending on how minor or major they are) they get restricted from a privilege. However, it wouldn't be any fun if they didn't get rewarded when they are behaving so you can make a list or decided on a moment to moment basis if they are being good (sharing, doing things when told, remembering to put a plate in the sink etc.. whatever works for your household) and if they get so many good marbles I let them make a list of a few fun things we can do around the house for 30 minutes, and another short list of things we could do that would cost a little more that we would have to drive to or something like a small toy and I reward them weekly with something fun for being good and helping me out.  You may need to do it as a daily system. I used to use it daily but now that the boy is older and better behaved we only have to use it weekly now. Sometimes children just need a little guidance and to know what the rules are, and to know what is unacceptable and when they can see that their behavior is not good consistently and they are rewarded for being good they will want to change.. especially if you make a big deal out of them being good.  Good Luck... hope this helps or gives you some ideas anyway.
153869
I am a parent but I only have six years experience.  Still, you need to kick his little a** out.  I know he is your kid, but dang.  He is taking you for granted, you need to teach him how to take care of himself.  What is he going to do when you aren't there?
1171368
Short attention spans require constant change, though this is like giving a dog new food because he doesn't like the old one, you reward the behavior you're trying to modify.  So, keep the changes just out of reach of his attention span.  If he's beginning to get bored at two minutes, make him do something for two and a half until he has no problem with it, then maybe small changes.  Also, give him things that take that long to solve, or do, so that it's like a speed contest.  And everything should be a game, as best as you can make it, especially cleaning the room, etc.  Rewards are best if they are not money, candy, or TV time, but things like effusive praise (works almost as good on my nine year old as on my labrador), hugs, more attention, or playing a game with them can be great rewards, ones he has to work to earn.  In short, keep it like the carrot on a stick, just in front of him, making HIM reach for it with his attention, not forcing him to do it.  If HE does it, it will stick almost every time (and get ready to find out how smart he is, and how fast he learns, and just try to keep up, you might consider home schooling), but if YOU make him do it, he will resent both you and the learning process, and maybe even the thing being learned.
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first i don't believe in all that  add crap find your child the right vitamins get this drink called Noni in the pure form give it to your child daily it will help him calm down instead of doping him up in the meantime the only way your boys will stop fighting is for you to discipline them and i don't mean just saying stop as parents we need to be more firm if the boys fight there should be a punishment immediately no debate at all say what you mean and mean what you say your children are a product of you  you allow them to fight  by not being stern you don't want to be a PAP ( punkassparent) your boys will grow up and take this very behavior public god forbid the law has to deal with them now  your are raising boys to be productive men not brats and don't use that damn ADD as an excuse it should not be used as a crutch to act up you figure out what form of discipline you can deal with and just do it teaching your boys how to love and respect each other teaches them how to act in life my source is my 10 and 9 year old sons and the NONI JUICE works my son has no sign of ADD at all
127075
Listen to him more and convince him that he does not need friends, seriously, or convince him that everybody are his friends. BTW how old is your son? I know about this kind of thing cause I suffered this before.\n\nContact: rateofspeed@hotmail.com
548395
Don't know what age son is however,                   respect him as a person first and don't compare him to others.\nIf he gets something right no matter how small, praise him. If he gets it wrong sit with him and discuss how he can get it right the next time.\nYoung people do well at different things they are not all good at one thing, remember that when you are trying to motivate him