When did romance go out of style?  Why do women prefer men who are lazy, self-absorbed, and unromantic?
412793
well I don't, but unfortunately these are the only types I seem to meet.  it's not that I do anything purposely to attract them, or that I have some urge to 'change them'. It's that old adage, the ones I like don't seem interested in me, the ones I don't want anything to do with seem to be all over me.
495803
it's stupid if you automatically think a woman (or man) doesn't enjoy any particular activity.  it could be playing touch football, playing golf or tennis, tinkering and driving muscle cars or atv's.  some guys like to cook (me) and do gardening (me too).  every lady i dated in the last 15 years has hunted, or at least gone plinking with me on a regular basis.  if i met a lady and found out she hunted, it would be a turn on.  if she was a vegetarian, our conversation would be pretty short.
130964
I think dating evolved mostly because of the invention of the automobile.  Dating used to be more "bring a girl/guy home for dinner."  Now its "bring her home by 10."  We went from the front porch to the back seat!
1063331
Quality men are hard to find nowadays.  Most men are either gay, taken, or like one lady said here, too brainwashed by the women they see on tv and in magazines they don't realize that most women don't look like that.  Women have realized that they don't need to rely on a man to take care of them, so they take care of themselves and in doing that they don't settle for any crappy man that comes along.
390644
I know what you mean. By today's standards, I guess I would have been labeled a whore, whether deserved or not.\nWhen I was young, dating was just that. You would go out with a bunch of different guys. If you and a guy got along really well and wanted to spend more time with only each other, then you would go "steady". For however long...be it a month or a year.\nAfter that, back to dating a bunch of guys, again. LOL\nA whole lot more fun back then, I think.
1079835
It does seem to be a forgotten practice,but I blame the whole women's lib thing that has made it somehow wrong for a lady to enjoy being treated like a lady...sad indeed.\nRomance,courtship,and chivalry are all missed,even by those of us we never really had a chance to enjoy such things.
452273
It's simple. Some women just don't know what they want. They always want the fantasy, the romance, the trumpets. I'm a woman and I think it's a lot of bull. I'm with a guy who is nice and fun, sexy and confident. He may be just an ordinary guy at times (sit in front of the TV, feast on pizza) but when he wants to impress me or be romantic he surprises me!
354385
Unfortunately, it's a hold over from human evolution. We're hardwired to look for desirable mates, ones that "appeal" to us. Other than that, society doesn't make it easy to ignore the standards of beauty that are plastered everywhere for all to see. Beyond that, it could just be that we're all brainwashed. Give me someone with a great personality and sense of humor any day... it will last long after the the beauty fades!
806692
The feminization of the american male should have stopped about 30 or 40 years ago.  I am 29 and think there are not enough men's men out there.\n\nTo much pussification.
725788
I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
42368
I agree with you. First, lets start with your idea of romance. Is it walks on the beach? Bike rides across the Golden Gate? Or, Friday/Saturday nites clubbing and getting hammered? My point is, women have as many definitions of romance as they do shoes. That's why some girls don't recognize your brand of romance. It's like a cold sales call, you need to read that girl and adjust your game accordingly. There isn't a wrong or right way to romance.
961166
not always.  I prefer men that aren't as attractive.  They are all-around much better boyfriends.
195574
i'm also tired of idiot ignorant wannabe men.  here i am, a young boy, who always figured i was just a little boy.  but lately i've realized that i lead by example, i can actually skew the curve of what a woman should expect of a real man.  any guy who loves a girl should treat said girl like the dread pirate roberts in relation to the princess bride.  you ask your man "would you do the dishes?"  he should say "as you wish" and then get busy doing the dishes a.s.a.p.  you ask your man "have any interest in sweeping the house"?  he should say "as you wish", and then get busy sweeping right then....not tomorrow.  you say "make me dinner, sweetie".  he should reply "as you wish", and he should get off the couch and make you some good healthy real food........not run to mcdonalds with your credit card.  i wish you luck.
240999
It has been my experience that women confuse self-gain with romance. \nGenerally a woman will expect a material gesture like jewellery, flowers or some kind of gift as a sign of love and they will consider it to be romantic.  \nTo me, romance is doing something out of the ordinary to show how much you care, and that does not involve putting a price tag on things.  \nIt has also been my experience that most men share this opinion and therefore i would consider men more romantic than women. \nIt really depends how you define 'romance'.  \n\nRemember this is based on the people I know and have met and is NOT my opinion of women as an entirety.  \nI'd love to be proven wrong on this.
511592
I think it's because the culture and the media that portray women or men have to be pretty or handsome.\nIf you live in an isolated village, there's no such a thing that men/ women prefer their partner to be pretty/handsome.
1095125
Maybe it's because the single men in their thirties are useless.\nAs for single women in their forties being insatiable, maybe it's because men have forgotten, or never knew, how to please a woman.
414263
lot of reasons. Age, looks, money,ego, greener pastures or boredom. It's all about instant gratification these days or what have you done for me lately. There are many girls/women out there, so don't get all bent out of shape over just one.