I am just about 40 years old. Suddenly I feel attracted to younger men - not boys. Why is this happening?
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Don't worry and freak-out about it, but I wouldn't just ignore it either.  If you have insurance, I would find yourself a counselor to talk to.  A therapist is someone who might be able to help you sort out what might be going on with your feelings.  40 for some people can be a difficult turning point in their life (I'm 41); reviewing accomplishments and perceived inadequacies or failures, etc.  No offense, but when you say "suddenly I feel...." and "in the submissive role" it leads me to believe your thoughts may have been here before.\n\nGet some therapy and just go from there.  Good luck.
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Hey bro don't worry...as the years go by you will gain more control over your emotions.I use to be the same way as you...I'm alot more mellow now but still destructive at times and have the urge to want to cause havoc onto the world.However,I know right from wrong and use more "reasoning" and try thinking twice these days before making rash decisions...this type of mentality had developed over the years and I still have much to learn.I myself had a decent upbringing with a religious background and all,but because I'm such a hothead I must battle with the demons inside...most times I defeat them but every now & then the bad will get a hold of me.At your age with all the testosterone and adrenaline flowing it's going to be tough to overcome all the things you're feeling inside.That is why as we age we tend to make wiser and better decisions...it's all about trial & error.You seem to have a good head on your shoulders-I mean you at least have decency to come in here and seek help from total strangers...and you're concerned about these things that seem to bother you.At your age I don't think I gave it much thought,but then again I was really rebelious & out of control!You seem to be better than that...so good luck with your journey into manhood and trial & error-that's what growing up is all about............
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Your not necessarily placed in the "dead" category, just the "old enough to be my father" category. Most younger girls find it creepy to be with a man who is the same age (or close to) their father. So, it's not necessairly that your've lost your sex appeal. There are plenty of older men I find attractive, but would never date (this is assuming I wasn't married, which I am), because...it would creep me out. (I'm 21 by the way)\nAround 35-40, most women are trying to find a younger guy to feel young again themselves. Women are now starting to have mid-life crisis's and are looking for younger ones, just like men look for younger.
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hello, This is just a feeling of appreciation you are experiencing, of course it is normal. You feel good being around them because they bring out the best in you.You are seeing in them the very thing you admire in yourself and that makes you fel good. This is the type of man you want to attract into you life someday, This is not a crush, it is appreciation you are feeling for seeing the best in another.Rejoice in that your sisters have attracted into their live these men that you admire. There is no better feeling than to appreciate another. THIS IS A NORMAL FEELING, just know that this is all it is, nothing more. May you have a wonderful fulfilling life
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Probably just curious. Most women and men have some sort of a homosexual experience before they reach adulthood. It is totally natural. I had my own experience similar to that when I was right at your age. I am not gay now and never was. It is just a part of growing up. I am just sorry you had to learn about this from a stranger.
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older men like younger women bacause it makes them feel younger
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You are probably more mature than most people your age and that is why you are attracted to the personalities of people older than you. In addition, most poeple your own age probably are threatened by your maturity and intellect and therefore turned off by it because they do not know how else to behave around you.\nSo much to learn from anyone that is older than us....that  not only is it accectable to "hang around" them but advisable whenever you can.\nThe other 14 yr olds are jealuos of you and you should be damn proud that you have much more to offer as a human being then they do.
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Well, one reason might be that you're attractive to begin with, whether you look younger or not.\n\nBut there's something else going on too.  There's this whole power thing going on.  A lot of guys as they get older start feeling that in order to feel good about themselves, they have to be able to attract girls like they were young.  So they look for younger women (there's more, but I don't have space).  Also, there's a power thing going on.  Older men will be attracted to younger women because the younger ones are less experienced, more trusting, and easier to manipulate.  Since you have to ask the question, you're probably naive and trusting, so be on your guard for someone who might want to take advantage of you.
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I'm 44 and tend to date men in their late 20's to early 30's.\n\nI find that the energy of a younger man makes me feel younger and more energetic. We can also learn a lot from each other.\n\nI have encountered some narrow minds in the gay community....but that's the only issue.\n\n\nDate whomever you like. Be honest and sincere and demand the same from those around you.
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At times,  especially when you are younger, you don't have control over an erection. If you don't have feelings for men then I doubt you are gay. Although you may have been embarassed at the time, it doesn't mean anything. You may have been excited or had a rush of adrenaline from a game or practice. When I was 15, I would be sitting in Math class doing algebra and things would "pop up" for no  reason.  It's normal.
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ok when you are 13-21 youremotional about relations, you want to exp. love and I know that youve been thru or seen boys act like jerks, b/c love hurts and this is when all they care about is their tool when the girls want a lovin b/f. then they start to loose there sex drive late20's early 30's about the time  you girls like sex or love a lot more at the oppisite time (who says god dosent have sense of humor).well so we NEED emotionallly While you need to get your groove on. But guy's will never admit this(I'm a guy) Ha.ha. but really around the time your desire goes up around35-40 all we want is a wife and kids or nokids but to be loved. men are great at looking like teflon b/c we are young and virile then when we start to see grey, baldness and the worst erectile dys. we get MIDLIFE CRISIS and buy what kids would buy to make us younger (thats shallow) If your woman loves you she loves YOU! aBMW never fixes things ,but we feel it does. Hair can be died pills can make their tool work so your right they look virile and new but believe me many men over 50 cannot get it up and you gals from35-50 are sexcrazed. Your right \nthat men can have children for life. and yes I think many religions accomadate this behavior. but believe you me. most men Its hard to see our soft little underbellies. and we get hair transplant we do what ever work out to keep this picture in our head of us in the mirror @16-21 the good years. It helps now that men dont work in the sun anymore well as much. Im not lady but dont shun my answer Im the rare one that'll tell you about us.you have a still virile man or you exp. show you men are virile ya my grandpa was a sneek. some never die sexually even at 70 but menopause if medicated thereafter you can still enjoy sex when I say meds I mean to keep up estrogen intake as well as a little test. But by the way have you been watching big love. J/k
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I am 20.Never dated anyone younger. I like them older. Just until I get into my late 30's early 40's. Then I'll start to like them young.
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Hiya mate , well basicly are you attracted to guys or girls more , ewhichever it is they i guess you would be that orientation . Howether my advice would  be to take your time to propley work out what you are and althougth it is hard try to not worry too much or let it stress you out overall there is more to life than say " hooking up" with someone . I was or still in a similar situation i dont seem to be interested in either howether i can say im  mildly liking girls just not botherd ... maybee im Asexual ????? .\nWell anyway i would say from ya question that there is a high chance your gay howether it might simply be a phaze ya going througth im not sure how old you are but i think maybee early teens . I think that if your really gay then dont hide it or feel any guilt or anything because people can think what the hell they want howether thats just their narrow minded opinions so i wish you luck in finding the solution and most important stay chilled .Seya and i hope this helped .
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Well....It really depends on individuals, I am in my 30's and I PREFER SOMEONE who is about my age maybe older. I have always preferred older men because they are more mature and more appreciative of things. I find that be true especially now since I am in my 30's . \n\nI think that some younger ladies like the older men for the same reason, because they are more mature, and maybe the older woman like younger men because they like the immaturity and they want to "feel young" again \n\nJust a guess. :)
338007
it's because of the way we treat you!  You want someone a bit more mature then here we are.  You are at the perfect age when a guy in his mid 30's still feels young when he is with someone at your age
77872
The libido of both sexes differs. Men usually have their peak at the mating season at the age of adolescence and dwindles at middle age. Whereas women, have their peak later than men and continue until their 40s. This is a normal feeling for you and if you're lucky you can still find a sexually active man your age --- they never dissapear only change their preferences :-)
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well, as you get older, you'll find more guys that are mature. Unlike this jerk. You'll find someone better. Guys just love to flirt. same with girls. just try not to get emotionally attached everytime you spend a lot of time with guys.