what could cause a lack of sex drive in a newly wedded 27 year old male?
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Lack of sleep or nutrition. Ask your doctor.
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You need to sit him down and have a talk w/ him find out if he doesn't feel there's enough romance there to have sex. Some men have to have romance just like some women do to have sex. You could ask him about going to see a sex therapist.  Sometimes men just lose their sex drive slightly b/c they already have you and sex just isn't as important b/c when your married other things take the place of sex for some. I wish you all the best of luck. If this doesn't work talk to him about seeing a doctor about whether he's experiening problems w/ his sex drive. If not see about a sex therapist. Good Luck!
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I have to kids and one on the way. Let me let you ladies know that my husband complains about my sex drive being too high..I'm 23 and he's 26 and I always want sex. So when I get it usually its good if not I tell him that he sucked in the bed and i'm sleeping downstairs. To answer the question.. every chance I can get it, but usually every 3 days.
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its actually a pretty common problem, he probably has ED (erectile dysfunction). There are meds that REALLY work, i think cialis is best. he probably will be pretty sensitive to talking about it, so bring it up gently. you don't want to be plagued with this your whole marriage. also, you need to be able to communicate about EVERYTHING, even sensitive topics like this. good luck!
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Typically, exhaustion is the most common cause of low libido -- poor or disrupted sleep and having the little one(s) climbing on you all day leaves you drained.  Another issue can be the physical changes in your body, especially if you've gained weight; it's hard to feel attractive! Yes, breastfeeding releases hormones that might lower your sex drive, and I felt like my breasts were there to nurture my baby, not to entertain my man, so that didn't help, either.  \n\nWhen I was in that stage of my life, the best foreplay was if my husband took our son out for a while so I could nap.  The more balanced the give-and-take is in the relationship, the better it will return to healthy intimate activities.  \n\nYou both need to realize that there will be times when the physical passion will be less than spectacular -- like everything else, there are highs and lows.  The reason for the low point right now is your baby, who is a high point in other areas of your lives.  Focusing on being there for the beautiful life that was created by your love should keep you emotionally close even when you don't have much physical desire.\n\nCommunicate openly with each other and trust the process that many generations have gone through before you -- hang in there!
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its from a lack of something in the home. We got along with everything else, except for sex. We could play and tease all day then at night I would be all worked up and she would roll over in bed to sleep like nothing had happened. I tried talking with her about how I felt and about her lack of interest. She would acknowledge her lack of sex drive but would never do anything about it.
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23 years here, I understand the issues.  (c:  Familiarity does LOWER the labido!  These young chicks do not know that yet <c;  They also do NOT know the rewards of LOOOOONG time relationships.   \nSKIP THE TOYS.  Unless your husband asks about them.  \nTo help with sex drive I  let my mind wander through out the day and remember the THRILL of "great" sex...  As in plenty of ummmm ,  lets say Fireworks *wink* for me.  I make a great dinner , give him a bit of a back rub or foot massage.  These things make me feel like a "good woman"  .  If your married 30 years then you already know that catering to your man has benefits (c:
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It's possible that it's his attitude that's depressing what sex drive you do have to zero. All that pressure ... it's a BIG turnoff. About your age, I had lived with a guy who was really demanding for like seven years and I was virtually frigid by then. Broke up with the guy (we weren't married), turned thirty and whoopee I'm a sex maniac.... don't lose hope.\n\nI recommend you study your own psyche with respect to your sexuality and the relationship. How do you feel when he pressures you, and why exactly? Books, counseling. Do you remember ever feeling somewhat excited, when you first got together? Don't you enjoy erotica or masturbation? If you don't, you're either kidding yourself to avoid confronting the issues in your marriage relationship, or you might as well learn to fake it.\n\nOf course, I could be totally wrong ... please forgive me if you know that to be so. Just basing this on my own experience.
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There is nothing wrong with wanting sex all the time and it is hard when one person seems disinterested.  You have some idea if he is under stress or if he is tired all the time so I won't go that route with this answer.  I also won't go down the is he cheating path because if you had some concern about that you would have mentioned it in your question.  I would ask you to think about what was going on before you got married when the two of you were having sex regularly.  Were the two of you living together??  Were you the one who initiated it all the time??  Alot of times we have the answers to the question we pose you simply need to look into your history with your husband.  I asked you the questions above because a similar thing happened in my marriage.  I was distracted and very busy not to mention I was very tired all the time and I felt as if I didn't want to disappoint my wife by not having the energy that I normally had.  So she felt I had to be out there doing something with someone because I was not doing it enough with her.  Desire is what fuels sex so you have to "get back on your husband's mind".  How, well some times a little shock could be the key.  In your question you say you are thinking about getting it elsewhere, tell him that.  Yeah I said it, tell him that he is frustrating you and though you don't want to cheat, he makes you feel as if you want to cheat.  Now don't dare cheat because it is not worth it.  You wouldn't want  him to cheat on you.  Tell him that making love is very important to you and that you are not trying to be selfish but that you need and want to show affection.  From the wording of your question, you seem like you are willing to do what it takes to make him happy.  My other suggestion is to be patient.  You might have to accept a compromise where you might have to get it twice a week instead of everyday.  One thing is for sure, sex cannot be the defining issue in your marriage.  You have to find a way to communicate what you are feeling and act with the information that you receive.\n\nGood Luck
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Clinical depression nearly always results in a diminished sex drive, plus apathy and a general slowing down of everything.  I know it must be hugely frustrating having your sex drives at opposite ends of the spectrum at the moment. But I truly think it would be wise to let the sex take a back seat until he's on his feet again. That way he'll be free of any feelings of pressure or of sexual failings in his part.  His muted sex drive is not because he no longer finds you attractive, but is a result of chemical changes in the brain caused by his depression.  By giving him all your love, support and patience, his depression will eventually lift and his sex drive will be restored.  Good luck and best wishes.
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Decreased sex is completely normal in a marriage. It's your responsibility to spice things up in order to keep the passion alive. Try in on the floor, in a public place, use toys, do something taboo, anything new. Continue to give each other compliments especially about each others bodies and what you like about it. Be naughty! It's not just the mans job to keep it going, take the initiative and he will appreciate it I promise!
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This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
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It could be diabetes.  Check out http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes-symptoms.jsp\n\nDepression: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm\n\nHigh Blood Pressure:  http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=2114\n\nand any of those things can lead to erectile dysfunction:  http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/impotence/\n\nIt may be an affair, or that he's not as invested as he should be, but it could be a signal that something medical is amiss and needs to be checked out.  Of course, you must be sensitive in how you approach the subject.  He could very well be avoiding you because he's embarrassed about it.\n\nUnresolved anger or repressed anger may be an issue.  How well do you communicate with each other?  Would he be open to counseling?\n\nI hope you find the cause and have a resolution soon.  For the sake of his health, try to find a discreet way of getting him to the doctor, just in case.  It could be a sign of a serious health concern.
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LOL umm are you getting more exercise and eating better? have you seen more hot girls on tv or out? exercise increases testosterone..and libido. have you stopped or slowed down the amount of sex you've been having? Images and health are the only things I could think of.
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chocolates, seafood and all sorts of things can be recomended to you, but what i recomend the most is your partner himself! I would suggest you do more kissing and more fooling around! light touches everywhere , try not to use your hands , only your mouth and tongue. tell him to do the same to you, let him know your body more! let him explore it again like when u got married, maybe you dont feel that sex drive cause things might have gotten a  little repetitive! do something new! go out of the house if you have kids or teens or whatever and go to another place and make love ther, or use sweet things like cream or chocolate, try to get some scented candles for your room and rose petals, or in the bathtub! \nANY PLACE IS GOOD FOR LOVING WHEN YOU LOVE!!!!!\ndont be afraid to explore new things! kiss his nick and then blow over it ... its nice lol \nand senses tend to react more to light touch! let him kiss you everywhere and do the same give eachother a  massage before making love and dont rush to have sex... its a  gradual thing! \nhope that helps\n\nAlinne
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As i understand your questions, u r saing that you hadnt the disorder before your marriage.\nIf that is true, and you dont have any medical conditions that can have an effect on your sexual functioning (diabetes, hipertension, some weird uncommon neurological diseases), and you dont do drugs (legal or ilegal) It is a psychological problem. How is your partner taking it? is your partner supportive? You can buy a self help book called "the premature ejaculation" by Helen Singer Kaplan, its quite old but it has some great sex-cersises for the condition. \nWas the PE first or second? if u began with the PE, by the time you overcome it the ED with recede too. \nViagra seems to be a good option, but it will only help u with the ED. If u plan to use it consult your physician first.\nIf the book doesnt work, find a sex therapist, it will help.\nGood luck
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Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.