Why do women choose good guys, only after they have been slapped around and cheated on by bad boys?
406871
no sh*t.  Sometimes lessons are hard to learn, and when they finally sink in, you still wonder if the "good" guy is only the "temporary rebound" guy.
623556
there is lots of women that like nice guys. the bad guys usually get the attention because they make a move first. go ahead and be nice, but not shy.
225049
A lot of men who cheat believe you will take them back because there are a lot of women who do. They use a womans lack of self esteem against her and it doesn't take much after that.   One of the first thoughts is to think she is responsible for his cheating which only makes her try that much harder to please him...and at the same time making herself vulnerable.
443163
Well....not everyone learns their lesson.  I'd rather be with a handsome sweet honest guy.  Sometimes girls dont learn that "bad boys" are toxic and they just keep going after them cause they want to "help" them.  Though...It is far better to be with one who is nice and appreciates you.\n\nI also dont understand the opposite, nice guys with girls who are drama queens and treat them like dirt and tear their heart out and rip it to shreads so that they can hardly believe that there are good girls out there.
730367
I always went for bad boys before but now know they're no good in the long run. Yeah they're fun and exciting to start with but soon they crush your heart to the point where you think you never wanna love again...\n...But instead of another bad boy picking up your already fragile heart and running with it till he gets bored, a good man will always fix your broken heart with love, reassurance & friendship.\nMy man is a good man. But he has a devilish side when he needs to! (I think you know when that side is needed most!) But he could never be a bad boy. He's to caring. I'm not saying he couldn't break my heart, I'm just saying he wouldn't play with it and crush it.
324138
Of course the saying goes to each cat their own rat. Not everyone loves the bad boys and most nice guys eventually do win in one form or another. The most interesting thing ive heard as to why this occurs is that its some kind of evolutionary kick in type of thing. When looking for someone to mate with, pass on you genes, stop the biological clocks ticking, whatever you want to call it, women (conciously or not) look for a dominant, assertive, more evolutionarily "fit" man. These type of guys are typically the ones you describe, though they arent all abusive and unfaithful as much as they are assertive and aggressive. If you believe women decide what role a man is going to play very shortly after they meet them, then it stands to reason that a more assertive approach = more response from women, as a boring or too nice approach takes a little longer to cultivate.
665904
i liked your question. most girls want such a boyfriend that she can show em off in front of her friends u see some sort of sexy hunk.but those boys are always bad so thats the reason girls prefer bad guys over good guys...by the way i dont prefer bad over good
1155235
They lust after a bad boy until they become a woman. Then they look for a good man. Hold on kid your bad girl is out there for you.
973572
Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
601298
because girls think that they can change a bad boy into a good boy. Bullshit. It never works. GO FOR THE NICE GUYS!!!
664259
only masochistic women do that, or women who are stupid enough to think that she can 'tame' a bad doy (no one ever can do that, the wil to change has to come from within). \nas for em, i find bad boys attractive but only to fool around with. and i think looking tough is no guarantee for great sex. sometimes the nice ones are surprising.\nfor a real relationship, i prefer the nice, FAITHFUL, sweet, educated, and romantic type. especially if they have a steady job.that means im a grown up who appreciate myself. \ngirls who prefer bad boys are not in a state of existence which is ready for a real commitment. theyre just fooling themselves that somehow they are vicariously having an adventure.
387030
Nice guy's only seem to finish last, when all is said and done, nice guy's finish first with the best women. It's a sorting out process, you don't want the women who like bad guy's anyway.
332062
I don't think that all men are bad, I just have a way of choosing the real A//holes! Maybe there r a few good ones and if you r one of them, real women like me r still looking for you. Stay the way u r and u will find one real female. You just have to be patient with us because the ones who feel that way have been hurt way too many times by men and we just need reassurance. It takes alot of time 4 us to trust again.
1034271
Because being a bad boy means you are a CHALLENGE baby! Nice "sweet" guys often come across as predictable and boring, and that is why even I am not a "nice" guy. \n\nTo sum up, dump those losers and come roll with me - but I'm picky! lol
251982
Because they are not ready to settle down; they still whant adventure so they look for the "bad guys" to have fun. When they get older and they are ready to settle down, they look for a good guy.Same thing happens with us men.
915927
Bad boys are apealing for a time....they are exceiting.  But in the end what most women want is  a  nice guy who treats them right.  My husband tells this story about this girl he when with and she  dumped him for a bad boy.  After he and I got married we ran into the women at a  club and she told my husband, "You were the best thing that ever happened to me and I was so stupid.  He turned out to be a real jerk."  Of course, by then I  had already snatched him up and she was left out in the cold.  But she really regretted dumping the nice guy and getting  in with the bad boy...she got burned for it in the end.  I suggest that you forget  her and look for  a nice girl.  The nice girls are probably not the most popular girls because the popular girls are popular for all the wrong reasons.  And the nice girls are not popular because they actually have ethics and values.  When I was in school I wouldn't have sex, wouldn't drink, wouldn't smoke and wouldn't do drugs....wasn't allowed to date until I was 16.  My parents made me dress modestly.  Guess what?  I wasn't very popular.    I wasn't  asked to prom, wasn't asked to  the home coming dance and all of those things.  What  a nice guy needs to do is look for  a  nice girl and forget about  who's popular.
811949
It seems to happen more and more. Women are lacking self respect and any type of morals. I agree with you, and I would never venture onto another womans territory. Why would you even want a man that you know is cheating? I think these women actually think that they are better than the woman he is in the relationship with and think they are taking him away. Which we all know, seldom happens. Welcome to the 20th century, where morals and respect no longer exist. Sad.