This boy at church likes me, but the feelings arent mutual. HELP!!!?
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Be honest with him. Let him know that you appreciate and are flattered by him wanting to be your bf however, I like you only as a friend and nothing more.  We could be friends if you would like??  This way the damage is minimal and you let him know that you appreciate his offer.
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do you go to church with him? \n\njust keep dating him, you'll eventually have deeper conversations and you'll learn as to where he stands with many issues and by living his life you'll see how important his values/convictions are. you'll know, trust me. you need a man that pushes you to grow. don't worry if he's not for you.\n\nand keep asking God, if he's not for you God will pull a string and you may break up, or God might even tell you himself who you should be with.
803764
You may be in the wrong church, mine still preachs about his evil ways. He is as real now as ever. Speak to your pastor about how you feel, we don't sugar coat anything.
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My little sister please hear me out.\n\nMatthew 6:33 says "But seek you first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things will be added unto you."\n\nThere is nothing like just spending time with Jesus, in His word, in prayer, and in worship, all at our masters feet. Yes there is a bit of pleasure in kissing or in the other drives that God has made us with, though all in His time, it is like a beautiful flower that blooms. Love is patient and it is kind. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together then in God's perfect time, by His perfect will, then you both will be together. If it is not God's will then know this that God has someone so much better for you then you could have ever imagined. Please don't just read God's Word, the Bible as just another book, for it is 66 love letters from God to you, and for you to grow and mature by. The love of Jesus for you can't be compared to by anything else, no human relationship or even what we have, for all will seem dim when I am with Him. Seek to really know God first, and in His proper time, You will see that the love that waits will be rewarded. \nTrust God and obey your mom and dad. \nYour in my prayers. God Bless You<>< + ><>
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i have the same problem except the religion thing. Well if u really like him that shouldnt matter, just telll him how u feel and that yalls religion shouldnt matter, then if ur parents get in the picture talk to them and tell them how u feel about him, and if that doesnt work, ur parents dont ALWAYS have to know who ur goin out w/!!!LOL
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I would openly talk to him and point out that you do not appreciate his attention when you two are surrounded by fellow church members.\n\nBy letting him know (in the presence of others) that you do NOT want him to continue what he's doing, you will later have other people to back you up that you DID tell him to bug off.\n\nAnother thing you could do (before telling him in front of that group of people) is to tell some of the church members what he's been doing and that you feel very, very uncomfortable about his actions.  .....I would also ask that they talk to him if possible.\n\nBest of everything!
462689
Church can be a good place. Also find a guy whose shy, not like the populur guys at school.
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Your missionary friend may indeed be gay, was interested in you and sent you provocative signals. He also knows your church's position on same sex relationships. Perhaps he is having feelings of guilt and is running away. On the other hand he may well want you to make the next move, considering that he says he wants you remain his friend. \n\nI would suggest you cool the relationship. No phone calls. Remain civil and polite but distant. If he is really interested in you he should make his feelings known.  If he has no feelings for you he will keep his distance and you will know where you stand. \n\nIf he is no longer interested in you, don't be upset over his rejection. Move on, get over it, there are lots of good fish in the sea.
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You are apparantly sending him mixed messages...which says he's probably confused as well.  Perhaps you all should pray a little more, when you're at church....rather than play games.  And dont worry about a lift up bra, until you're old enough for it to do some good.  :)
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tell him straight away how you feel about him.  if he reciprocates then good for you.  if not at least you will be in the clear.  If you do not hurry someone may beat you to it and then you will be left with nothing.  Take a chance.  Don't keep your feelings to yourself.  don't think that love is a game of chance.  Don't ignore him.  instead shower all your attention on him.  this is your self created mess and only you can clear it up.  all the best.  God Bless.
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yes.  he is.  He is acting strange only to you.  Many times, when a guy likes someone he is confident and engaging around everyone EXCEPT the one he likes.  Grab his arm and say "come here.." take him down the hall and tell him some story about someone else at church and get his advice on ssomething.  smile at him, etc.. then say.. "you are so cool"\n\ntry and get him more comfortable around you.... dress comfortable.
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I think he likes you, but maybe he is not sure enough about his feelings.Wait a little, or give him a sign.But don't show that you like him a lot.I am telling you from personal experience.Good luck!
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He's probably too scared that you'll reject him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens!
1030633
The reason that this happened is because HE can read your heart and He knew that you were praising Him in exchange of something material. God loves it when someone loves Him without asking anything in return. You must be very lucky, because God personally has placed a test on you. He did so because He knows that you have good qualities, but He wants you to love Him without any material motivation. just like real love. I am sorry to tell you, but you have to make it up to Him. You have to figure it out by yourself, but I can give you some ideas. Write a very beautiful loving letter to him, put it on an envelope and attach it to a helium balloon and let it go. Then you can buy the most beautiful bouquet of flowers and take it to the church that you go, and most importantly you got to prove him that you would die for Him in the cross. (hey just kidding) we are far away from being like Jesus, but you can give three laps around His church every day, people will look at you kind of funny but don't mind remember that you are doing it for Him only, do at least 3 laps every day for 1 week at least, and don't brag to anyone about it. it is just between you and God. You can plot many other crazy things, but whatever you do, do it for Him without considering good or bad , success or failure, do it just because you love Him. He will be watching you!!
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if he sits across from you then u must still be in school which means at this age boys are still unsure of them selves when it comes to woman. still shy. so it is up to you to let him know u like him. i would say he does like u though especially if he talks only to u and no one else. be brave and make the first move tell him how u feel. believe it doesn't change as u get older usually the woman is making the first move so u might as well get the practice now.
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I think he might like you..... But he sounds like he is keeping his options open. Be up front. Say if you don't want to let me go. Then you have to be with just me. Cuz if you want to be with other people  then u must not want to be with me. Ask him how he would feel if you wanted to see or like other people.
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If you do not feel a connection to your fellow church goer's,preacher or Jesus at your current place of worship,find a new church. Pray about it and let the Lord be your guide not only with this but all parts of your life.