Why are so many people just dating and not getting married any more? God says to marry do people care?
411573
i think there are a number of reasons why people are no longer getting married like they used to.  our society has changed drastically just in the past few decades.  divorce rates have rocketed and the number of people who believe in god, or practice christianity faithfully has decreased.  marriage isn't really taken seriously anymore.  another reason people are just dating is because women have become so independent in the past few decades.  no longer is our role to get married and be a stay at home mom raising six kids and cleaning house, etc.  many women are going to college to pursue degrees and aren't graduating until their mid to late 20's.  i know for myself, i am more focused on finishing school and enjoying time to myself before i decide i want to settle down and get married.  this is just a few of my own opinions on your question.  hope it helped a little.
1169015
I believe that there is a girl/woman for every man and vice versa, there are however many hinderances to meeting him or her that must be overcome. These hinderances are Societal values, preconcieved ideas as to who and what the right person will be. if you follow the biblical standards of finding that someone there, he or she will come. I waited for five years in vain until I submitted to God. I got married to that someone on the 27th of May this year.
806817
There was a time when this trend was unacceptable to fundamental Christians. Unfortunately the influence of the world has had a profound effect. Many Christians now operate on the basis of "everyone else is doing it...why not me?" Or "Look at so and so... He/She is doing fine... God can't be that disapproving of that behavior." Many don't actually know that the God of the Bible they profess to believe, actually does disapprove of premarital sex.\n\nI can remember when this behavior was not highly looked on...just 30-40 years ago...and by secular America at that.\nSadly, many 'modern' Christians would rather sacrifice the permanent on the altar of the immediate, as a friend of mine was fond of saying.\n\nI've been asked "But how do you know if you are compatible?" My answer is through a lot of dating, a lot of guidance and counseling, a lot of parental advice, a lot of patience, and a little commitment (actually a lot!).  My apologies for those Christians you have met that react wrongly to your stand... they are possibly ignorant of God's word and misled by the temptations of the world.
1006211
No, but it happens, love/marriage gets old, just keep in mind it might happen to everyone.
961435
I have wondered this myself. I think all the morals in society have gone down the drain. I would never do that to anyone, if I decided I wanted someone else, other than my husband/bf, I would leave them rather than cheat. But if I make the marriage commitment, then that is for life. The moral situation explains the divorce rate also. I guess some people are brought up better than others.
1047794
Marriage takes work.  You have to decide to work on this relationship and actually communicate your needs as well as find out the needs of your mate.  Don't assume you know what the needs are.  Actually go somewhere and talk.  Talk about desires, hopes and dreams again.  You can do it as you did it in the beginning.  I think people just give up on a marriage because they don't want to try anymore.
230497
in todays world, people are expected to live a certain life. and that certain life has so many aspects that it becomes hecktic, leaving people to not have time for real relationships most of the time. people need to slow down
580354
What!?!? Don't you KNOW?? I thought you said that you are going to marry!! Normally people wait until AFTER they've found a suitable mate before making that decision...!
450409
I don't think that marriage will be so important as it is nowadays, and even nowadays the importance has dwindled down. Less people are eager to get married, and less women want to have children. So, in the next 20-25 years I think that the birth rate will have significantly gone down, and so will the marriage rate. Maybe more dads will be staying home and taking care of the kids, while moms will be the ones bringing home the bread.
366439
People just don't take marriage as seriously as they used to.  People are just more selfish now, I guess.
245418
Love has changed for the worst.  The Movie makers, songwriters, and many uneducated people (so they act) have shown love as sex.  Many people only get married because they think the sex is good or they do it for moral ideas so theyre family doesnt disown them.  Others dont seem to care.  People today seem to skip over the words "until death do us part"  i mean people may think its a good idea to start with but when you make that kind of commitment its entirely too late to change your mind.  Its also a good idea that when people get ingaged they should live together for at LEAST six months so they know how life with the person will be,  and make sure that you know this person is the absolute person for you.  Movies have corrupted people to think that if you get annoyed with your spouse that the easiest way to deal with it is a divorce, i say that its the most challenging.  I believe firmly that the only time a divorce is ABSLOULTELY needed is when life and body are in danger.  Parents need to start teaching theyre children morals, even if they were not planning on being a parent.
245160
I think the main reason that people can't or don't commit to relationships is immaturity and selfishness.  They often want to keep playing the field or go out and play the field.  There is also the fear of being hurt and the fear of what a commitment to a lifelong relationship entails.  I think another problem is their not knowing what they want or what is best for both of them.  I had one friend who dated a girl for about 8 years until he felt that God wanted him to marry the girl.  That girl was frustrated beyond belief.  She had 4 other roommates in the house, including my future wife, and all of them met and married guys after the two of them had started dating.  It really is a tough thing to do since the onus seems to be placed upon the male to ask the lady if she wants to marry them.  Heck, it is hard enough asking a woman to dance with the fear of rejection!!! ;)
734341
From what I have seen from the people around me, and from personal experience people marry, these days, for all the wrong reasons. One of the biggest mistakes people make when they get married is that they start to PLAY marriage as soon as the paperwork gets signed. Instead of keeping things the same way as they were before marriage, they fall prey to the things they've heard about being married. Then they start to use phrases like," you're the wife you're suppose to do that, or be able to. Or, you're the husband you have to do this or that. In today's society many people, not just in marriages, but also in many aspects of life, people are compromising. People are settling with something that they really don't want. So they end up keeping things just as long as they can tolerate it, then they kick it to the curb. Many people are in what I refer to as (disposable relationships).
343114
Because people confuse marriage with weddings.  People spend so much time planning the perfect wedding and forget about whats going to come after the flowers have died and the cakes been eaten.  They don't realise the commitment they're actually making and when this sets in after they become so unhappy that it inevitably leads to divorce.  Some of the most happily married couples I know went off and got married alone in little ceremonies with no trimmings and they're still together like glue because they knew it was a marriage they were having and not a wedding.
550198
are you talking about marriage? because people go through lots of relationships that come to an end for one reason or another. My theory on marriage though is this. We live in a very different world then past generations much faster and mobile. My grandparents barely imagined leaving their immediate area much less being able to jump on a plane and be in Europe by the end of the day or talking to someone in Asia from their bedroom computer. My point is this people have far more options today than ever before. A census is taken in the United States every ten years. They ask about jobs and homes and cars. In ten years probably a very large percentage of people drive a different car and probably a large percentage of people have a different job and live in a different home. Are we so suprised then that they live their with someone else. Our whole lives are constantly changing and we are constantly switching to adapt. If we do that with all the material things why do people feel that our relationships would be immune to this?
898639
God says to "be fruitful & multiply." I honestly do not remember seeing  ANYWHERE in the Bible that you have to be married 1st. The only thing I recall is that we are supposed to be monogamous & commit ourselves to our mate until death. Does that mean that we have to be married in the conventional sense? I don't know. Maybe this whole formal marriage thing was put in place to deepen the commitment.
1078447
I have no earthly idea why people keep insisting on defining marriage!  Why is this such a big deal?  There are so many things that are truly imporant that we can put our energy into solving rather than someones desire to marry someone of the same sex.  You certainly wont stop them from having a relationship.  What are you doing that the government will decide to ban next?  Frankly, whatever goes on in my underpants is none of the governments business.  All of those who are in support of BIG GOVERNMENT telling you how to conduct your private lives had better watch out, you may get more than what you bargained for.  Obviously, since this question keeps coming up over and over, there are more people out there that have little else to do but worry about this nonsense.  If this has to do with Christianity, divorce, partner swapping, adultery, sexual abuse, spousal abuse, etc. have already made a mockery of marriage so who cares if homosexuals want a part of it.  I think there is something in that big Bible that you all are thumping that says that we have all have free will....Please stop trying to legislate morality and personal decision that have absolutly nothing to do with you.  If you dont want to marry someone of the same sex, DONT.  And no, I am not gay, I am just not so hypocritical that I feel I need to impose my lifestyle on others.