if you are with someone for 7yrs and not married yet should you worry?
406396
Yes you should. If you was a year or less, no. But, 7? I would worry. Maybe there is some feet being stuck in the mud. Fear or maybe looking for something better. You need to confront it head on and get a straight answer
768366
its normal,i would think its best to date some one who is at least 7years older than you if your thinking about a serious relationship,you wouldn't expect the sort of control and authority from some one your age which you would find from some one older.therefore your its absolutely normal and your on the right track
630541
When it's meant to be, you won't have huge doubts.  It sounds like you need to move on... you'll know when you've found the person for you, because it won't matter whether that person has savings or not, or whether they have rhythm or not... you won't have doubts when it's right.
527495
Seven months and stil dont know how much love is there?  I think he is just keeping you busy????     Keep Looking!
325637
no not really\ni mean if you rather live alone then thats totally fine.\nmabey if you guys did live together you might get into arguments more or something i dont know.\ni think youll be fine\nbut i must say awe how cute! 6 years? wow i hope you guys last=]
513636
Actually, I think the amount of time that passed is NOT important, however, did you change? Did she change? Why did you split up 7 years ago? Consider these answers before leaping again, and make sure you both know what you are expecting from the other.
304820
No, it's fine. You've been together a very long time. Why not make things more convenient?
1062748
Serious question here, and lots of things to consider.  Let's see if we can sort through all this.\n\nFirst of all, you say you've been together for seven months.  I wonder how old you and he are.  The red flag that jumped out at me is that you are both still living at home.  These days, I know that can mean anything from 19-29.  But if you don't have a steady job (preferably a career and a vocation), if you don't have your own transportation, and if you don't have financial independence, marrying is not a good idea.  He also needs to have a steady job, a vehicle and financial independence.  \n\nThat you are having second thoughts is a good thing.  He sounds like he still has a ways to grow up if he's still trying to leave home.  You sound like you have a way to go yet toward financial independence if you are living at home too.  When you say that you want to have little flings and talk to other guys, though, this tells me you are not ready for marriage because your heart is not truly in it.  You need to keep dating and work on your education, your job skills and your life management skills.  All these things are coming along, but don't sound quite developed enough yet.\n\nAlso, you should never have to pressure someone to marry.  A marriage proposal should come out of the blue with no pressure at all.  That someone feels the need to pressure someone else says that there is a power struggle going on, and that's a very unhealthy way to start married life.  \n\nThere is such a word as divorce, because there are many, many "starter marriages".  No matter your religion or personal beliefs, 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.  And divorce is a hard but positive thing ultimately, because there is no point living miserably.  Divorce is hard to go through, but people survive it, and go on to thrive afterward.  Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, things just don't work out like we plan.  People grow apart, want different things, change and life throws us curveballs to boot.  \n\nEnjoy your single life for a while longer yet.  You may want to keep seeing your boyfriend, or you may want to re-evaluate the relationship and see if you want to stay with him or move on.  Don't be afraid to move on.  Be more afraid of getting into a rut or becoming too fearful that you'll never find someone else.  Nonsense!  With six BILLION people in the world, no worries about finding someone to date and/or marry ultimately.\n\nGood luck with this.  Cheers, K
982507
Seven years is a long time to be with someone....you have a lot of history together which will not be easy to leave behind.  You need to really examine the relationship as only you know if it is worth saving.  If you really love him and things are good otherwise, then I would take him up on his offer and get some counseling.  That will also help you decide if he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  He may also be able to overcome his self esteem issues and be able to better perform in the sexual arena.  So try the counseling.....give it another go and if he falls back or you decide it's just not going to work then you can move on....Good luck in whatever you decide
102027
It is a commitment issue . . . since they are already committed (supposedly) to someone else . . . you are not afraid of them getting too attached to you . . . or you hope not.
411794
Well, you didn't tell us how old you are so we have no idea if you're ready to settle down. Not that age would be an indicator that's set in stone but it usually gives context for your life experiences. Just go with the flow so that you see where you really stand on this issue.  If you're not ready to be seriously committed first, don't force it or you'll just end up hurting the both of you.
141810
I think it's a personal question that has to be addressed individually. It depends on what is important to you. If you have an absolute need to know what the other person is like every day, all the time, then perhaps you should. Or if you believe in love and what a commitment to marriage means, then take the faith that you love this person no matter what their personal habits. You can get to know a person's character without living with them, but again, it's up to you and them. As for strengthening a relationship, more studies show that it doesn't, but everybody's different. You also have to think about your potential kids and what kind of an example would you want to set for them? Years down the road what are you going to want to be able to say to them about moving in with their partners? That usually will reflect what is in your own heart and you should listen to that.
324489
& years is a long time and I think that it is time you started to apply some pressure.Ask him if he minds if you start seeing other people as you feel that your relationship has gone as far as it can,from what he thinks about marriage.I bet the reaction will be what the hell you talking about,but just tell him that you think you have been together long enough and that if he doesn't think mariage is in his plans then you had better start finding someone who has them plans.\nA chance it could back fire,but if it does then was the 7 years worth it?
1171786
no sure how long you two have been dating, but beware.  Guys who usually rush into marriage thinking should send up warning flags.  I was in a relationship that moved like that one, and he was very emotionally abusive, and would most likely have been physically abusive if we had gotten married.
306612
if you love her trust her and are committed to her and she feels the exact same way...then i don't think you need to worry!\ni have never even met my girlfriend - we're online yet! and yea we love each other to death and we trust each other totally, and with all our hearts!! and yea we'll be getting married too...and thats not gonna happen for another 4 years, at least, but yea i'm not worried about anything because we have TRUST in each other and thats all it takes for a LD to work out! TRUST & LOVE!\nso i don't think you need to worry pal...chill out! and all the best for your future!!
395612
Well I was in a relationship  for about 9 years, 5 of them married and I can tell you that being a long time with your couple doesn't mean that your are going to be forever with that person, because when you loose important things in your relationship such as the real meaning of love without conditions and the trust that is so important to have with your couple, you better go for professional help, that is if you really love that person and you want the relationship to keep going. But if the situation has reached the boiling point, well for your own good brake it.
311531
NO, no, and No!  Six months is not long enough to know someone well enough to get married.  I've been dating my b/f for 3 years and we are still not married because we have only lived together for 6 months and we still have to get used to each others quirks.