One year ago I caught my husband chatting with other woman...?
410736
if you want your marriage to work you are going tohave to draw a line under it. i know its easier said than done. try and think of the good things in the relationship whenever you feel yourself distrusting him, thats what i did.
128142
You have answered your own question.  All the things you mentioned - you will need to bring back.  Opening the communication is the 1st step to recovery.\n\nOr you could sigh up for Wife Swap.
213137
My husband cheated on me too.  It took a couple years to stop thinking about him with this other woman. It was very hard to stop feeling betrayed.  I don't think theres any certain methods.  Only it takes two.  He has to reasure you that he loves you, and he has to prove to you that he's not going to do this again.  But, you have to accept this, and learn to trust him again.  Youll never forget this, but, It'll only be a foggy memory.  it just takes time, and no one else can tell you how long, it's different for everyone.  Good luck. stay strong...
1121716
Oh yeah, he will want to do more than talk to her.  First of all she should not have told him how she felt.....I don't care what he said to her......the point is the man is married and happily married by what he said.  It was know point in expressing her feelings.  I would not care if he ever talk to me again.
199802
Was your husband serious? Either way, this is a major issue. If it was a joke it was in serious bad taste and you need to tell him that. If he was serious, you need to tell him that you're not chattle! If it was a test, tell him to go to hell! If you want to save this marriage, I recomend counceling and getting to the bottom of this. If not, say good bye.
1183684
What you've suggested is really all you can do. You gave her good advice about communicating with her husband and going to counseling. Beyond that, it's really none of your business and not your responsibility.
317674
The advice that i would give is that her husband should respect her and love her enough that he would not be communicating with females he would play the games against males.I am a female and if my man was chatting like that with another woman I would feel disrespected Its not that I don't trust him because I do,but it is a respect issue. I myself chat but if I find out that it is a male I do not chat with that person anymore because I have respect for my man. I guess what im saying is she needs to ask her husband not to chat with females out of respect for her. \n\n                  Good luck I  hope this helps
455996
I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
195315
The woman who slept with my husband :-)
568398
Found my husband in a yahoo chat room, ended up being from the same town, we had went to school together even though we didnt meet there.  We talked for a week on the phone before meeting face to face, met the day after thanksgiving 2005 married new years eve 2005, still going strong :)
319411
I understand how you are feeling. Not that it has happened to me but I can imagine how it would make you feel. I am married and if my wife were conversing with another man over the internet, I would be concerned. But if she went to all the trouble to wipe out the conversation logs. I would be doubly concerned. Yea, he may give you some reason as a matter of security, but he should have no problem in letting you see those logs before he deletes them. \n\nSome time ago, I was talking to another woman over the internet but as a rule, I would never say nothing negative about my wife. Of course you should not anyway. But we all get mad. And if we start talking to another woman or man about how we are unhappy about our spouses, we are opening the door for an internet affair. Another thing is I would try to get my wife to read the logs because I would let her know I talked to an online woman and I wanted her to be secure. \n\nTalk to your husband about it. Tell him you need to feel more secure about this. People are leaving spouses all the time and flying across the country for people they never seen. And tell him it would protect him too because you love him so much
1102595
My husband and I talk a lot during. Sometimes it's just a matter of telling the other what we want at the moment and other times it can get a bit dirty...LOL...It just has to do with the moment and what we are feeling.
1059167
anything that you do on this earth whether good or bad people will talk so why worry abt them. stop worry if only your husband knows him and is wife is ok with you around her husband then please stop listening to what people say. and one thing, don't try to explain any thing to any of those people for they will have more to say. stay as if you never heared any thing and don't see your friend. good luck
13489
not a problem. married a woman that is 7 years older than me. and have a couple buddies that married older woman
1109525
First of all unless anyone has walked in your shoes they should not be judging you.  I am going through the same thing right now.  It has not been easy for me.  This person is a friend of mine and my husbands, he is also married.  We were chatting then one thing lead to another, the chat turned sexual and from there I formed an emotional bond with this man. Nothing has happend physically but  it has totally messed up my emotions, I feel like I am a mess since this has happend.  I have a great husband, and I am no longer communicating with our friend, but honestly I always think about him and miss him, why I don't know but it has been real hard.  This is one door I wish I never would have opened.  I don't know your details but the one thing I can tell you is to ask yourself what led you to do this, I had to do the same and I am in counseling right now.  Believe me I did not expect this hardship when I first started dabbling in this, it seemed harmless and kind of fun, but like they say when you play with fire, you will get burned and that I did.
489056
Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
1069843
If all parties know about it and they're fine with it, I don't see a problem with it...\nBut I can't imagine the wife being okay with the fact that you were the woman her husband had an affair with... so I'm assuming she doesn't know...\nIn that case, if you two can play it off like there was nothing between you two, I guess you'll be okay....\nBut WATCH OUT, because people talk.... and sooner or later they ALL find out...