I going out with this gay guy, he says he loves me but wants to see other gay friends?
413731
This is a really sensitive issue.  Your boyfriend seems like he has real commitment issues.  The best thing to do would be to sit down and have a little chat.  Tell him you want to be in an exclusive relationship and nothing else will do.  After your chat, you should both sit on the couch and drink some heavy lager and eat a couple of bowls of bran each.  Then you will both find out what your a-holes are really for you couple of mincers.
518907
That's a difficult situation to judge. I don't think he would be spending that much time with you asking you here and there if he wasn't interested in something more than friendship. However I could be wrong, maybe he's gay!\nI would wait and see what happens. If he's really interested then things will progress in their own time. Maybe he is unsure of how you feel about him too. Try talking to him?
657179
does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
240556
hun, if you like him then go out with him. Do you. If they are your true friends the will accept your relationship. Dont give up on what you want because your friends dont want you to go out with him. Its your life and you only live it once. Good luck.
717858
Dear, i think it will be good for you to stay apart for a while. Until you are ready to see him as a real friend. Because, if he was telling the others that he is not going out with you, even before telling you, i think that is very rude, and it shows that he is not interested in going out with you as a gf. Buttt the good news is that there are more fish in the sea, move on, i guarantee that u will forget him after a few months. Why would you like to stay with a person who doesnt love u anymore? Is it worth? Is that what you deserve? NO.\nGod bless u dear!
1114210
sounds more like lust or infatuation..he wants u but not in a committed relationship.. he wants you and whoever else comes along.. doesnt sound like what u r looking for.. careful ur gonna get hurt.. u two are in two different places...
634651
just try being friends but about the same time u need someone to love you up so you can start dating other guys and maybe perhaps he will see that he lose a lot and will maybe think of reconsidering we'll relationship
713719
Ouch!!  Sounds to me like he's just a selfish guy who doesn't care who he hurts on his way to getting what he wants.  You should feel good though that at least your friend didnt go out with him, valueing your friendship first.  You don't need friends like him anyways.  Good luck!
313280
Yes, defiantly talk to him about how you feel.  BUT DO NOT DO IT ON-LINE.  Please go see him somewhere and sit down an find out the scoop.  If he likes you and you like him then its settled.  But, if he cant let go of you but is seeing others while so called protecting you, etc., then its time for you to let him go.  Put him on the spot and ask him directly about what he wants and let him know what you want.  PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
509792
You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.
176701
Some guy feel the need to act like that in front of other people. Ask him if he could try to include you more next time your around other people. If there's another date request a private one, were he won't have anyone else to act up for.
1055277
you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
466072
what's the question here.  You guy wants to be your friend and your lover.  Sounds like he truly cares for you, and he is having you meet his family.  He just might not be ready to fully commit himself to the relationship since he just got out of one.  Just be patient.
1085253
Why don't you go out with you man with his friends. You can find this out for yourself. Or ask were he's going then show up unexpectly. Or on the other can, why can't you just trust him that he's doing the right thing. Good luck hun
694489
Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
458994
My advice play it safe, and just become friends with him at first. Then once hes comfortable with having you around start talking about a gay issue and watch his responce, try and do it when there is no one else around. That will be a dead give away to his orientation.  I dont have a lot of experiance with this, but its the advice i ALWAYS get.
372995
Oooo, you are in a tough spot.  I think you should not pursue anything and wait for him.  He might just be really comfortable with his sexuality.  Wait and see if they break up. He might like you too but not be sure about what to do next.\n\nI wouldn't want to make a move on one of my girl friends and insult them or scare them away, you know?\nGood luck, just be smart.