Women going through divorce needs men's prospective.  Why does he leave & thinks he gets everything in court?
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SOME MEN CAN BE VERY SELFISH FOR ONE. I THINK THAT THIS MIGHT BE A WAY FOR HIM TO TRY AND HURT YOU BECAUSE HE IS HURTING. WHEN WE ARE UNHAPPY WE WANT EVERYTHING WE KNOW OF TO BE THE SAME WAY. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD READ THE BIBLE TO GIVE YOU SOME PEACE OF MIND. PROVERB 3:5,6 SAYS---TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND LEAN NOT UNTO YOUR UNDERSTANDING,IN ALL YOUR WATS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AND HE SHALL DIRECT YOUR PATH. REMEMBER THAT "GOD IS IN CONTROL"  BLESS YOU MUCH
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Go get yourself a divorce, and file for custody and child support. The courts are usually behind a woman who wants the best for her child. If he's a truck driver and on the road a lot, I have a feeling everything will go in your favor. Just remember, get yourself a decent lawyer, one who works in your county and knows the judges in the courthouse. Most importantly, do not slander your soon to be ex- husband, be calm, cool and act intelligently. Sounds like he has an anger management problem... you will not have to tell anyone but your own lawyer, chances are he will become angry in court and he'll be his own worst enemy.
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Breaks are ok like this, logical and smart.  He's being very mature.  You not going to like how I say this, and I honesty don't know a better wait, so i'm sorry in advance.  But this is your warning from him if I'm reading what you wrote right, your behavor isn't acceptible to him and he's not going to put up with it.  If you can't control it, you might want to move on, save yourself the divorce later.  Hope you don't, sounds like you lucked up and got yourself a good guy.  Alot of girls would love to be in your shoe's.  Don't blow it.
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your going out with a guy thats getting divorced? I would wanna take a break while thats happening also. there is no easy way to tell him especailly in his time of need. just be straight up.
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What makes you think that if he leaves his wife for you that he won't later leave you for someone else.\n\nMove on... find your own man.
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Honey you have to let go of him and remember why he left. He wants women and he doesn't want to settle down. Give him freedom and love yourself. Women are strong and should never allow a man to break them..............
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Have you and the ex-wife had altercations before?  If that has happened I can see how he would be leery of having you join him in court for fear of another ill-feeling event.\n\nBUT - despite that...it doesn't mean he's 100% right.  The ex-wife should not have control over whether you go or stay and by telling you not to go - he's giving the ex wife control.\n\nYou are his wife and he should trust you enough to know that if you and the ex did enter into an argument in the past...you understand the intensity of this court battle and you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize it.  \n\nTalk to him about it again and assure him you won't do or say anything out of line and express you just want to be able to support him.  If he still says "NO" then leave it alone.  He's already under a ton of stress I'm sure and the last thing he needs is another argument.
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he's acting like that because you are going to be divorced soon and I bet he is married.... just from the way he is reacting, so move on dear - and give yourself time to heal completely before trying to get into another relationship. (you have to resolve all the issues that lead to your failed marriage - if you don't you'll drag that old baggage into another relationship.) If there was anything there you two would of met in person.... you talked for a long time without meeting and that should of told you something about him. (I've only met one man online who wasn't married and he was honest with me about his personal life and that's the man I'm married to! We talked for about 2 months and then we met in person - he helped me with coming to Canada to meet him.... and we "clicked" - and got married 3 months later! We have been married for 4 yrs. as of Sept.28th).... While I was single and chatting with men online for years --- they all turned out to be married or living with someone(with whom they had kids with).
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Don't quite understand the details. But it sounds like you're settling for second best.  You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally. You deserve to be cherished and protected and cared for.\n\nA man who'll continuously throw your past in your face (like you can change the past) and steps out and cheats on you is a toxic person.  He's just bringing you down.  Either he changes (which is hard to do) or you need to get stronger and demand better for yourself and your children.\n\nYour children learn from observation.  Do you want your daughters to choose a husband like this man for themselves?  Do you want your sons to become like this man and ruin other women's lives?
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Hey, I'm in my 30's.  Have yet to find Mr. Rite, kinda getting tired of Mr. RiteNow. (know what I mean) but as they say patience is a virtue!!!!  BLECH to that...LOL  As far as I'm concerned it's too easy to get a divorce, therefore yep lotsa divorcees out there to check out.. Would be nice to know "where" to find these single guys, cuz the bars suck for that unless ur into one niters.......GOOD LUCK on ur quest!!   :)
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What ever is you'rs is his and what ever is his is yours.  If you get a divorce then 1/2 of what ever you have will goto him.\n\nMost of the time this is something that only men have to deal with becuse they make more monney then woman.
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My husband wanted and got his divorce because he wanted it...I never did..yes their sometimes is valid reasons..but selfishness always plays a part
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MEN. Most of the time when i hear of people getting divorced because of cheating,it is the man who did the cheating. A man is as faithful as his options allow...in other words...if he gets a chance ,he probably will.
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To those who claim it's the mans fault, he should have to pay, forget that it takes two totally comitted people to have a marriage.\n\nWhen a woman stone-walls her feelings, expects her husband to mind read, uses him for nothing more than an ATM and someone convienient for squashing bugs, and then has an affair, I'm wonding how much it can really be the man's fault in a situation like this.\n\nBut the truth is, neither is totally innocent or totally guilty in a broken marriage.\n\nGiven that women file 2/3rd of all divorce actions in the US, and are pretty certain they will get the kids unless they are hard core criminals,  I often wonder the same things.\n\nNot all me who end up divorced are cheaters.  Many more times than folks would like to admit, it was mom cheating, and she still gets the kids and child support.\n\nHowever, there is hope.  At least in my case, she didn't get sole custody, and she didn't get the house or 1/2 of everything.  She only got 1/2 of what we accumulated during the marriage.  Since I had documents going back to when I married showing my net worth then, all of those assets came off the table when it came time to split the marital property. \n\nWhat I owned before was NOT marital property and mine to keep.\n\nFrankly, I'm better off financially now, 3+ years after her affair came out and she left.\n\nShe is worse off financially.  Sure, her life looks nice, luxury apartment, new VW Beetle.  But she is living paycheck to paycheck, not always having money to do anything other than stay in her apartment and stare at the walls.\n\nBefore, we went on a couple of vacations / year, Disney, Vegas, Mackinac Island, DC, Vancouver Island, etc.  Now, she stays home, or goes when her lover can come into town and take her somewhere.\n\nI"m sure she's not saving anything for retirement, as her apartment costs more than my mortgage before I get to deduct the interest and everything.  \n\nYes, I kept the home!  We bought it together and I kept the home.\n\nI do think women shut you out when they divorce you.  Actually, long before.\n\nThey don't get everything, I'm proof of that.  I still believe I did more right than wrong, and certainly didn't deserve the treatment I got during the marriage and divorce.  But I do believe that what goes around, comes around.\n\nHer lover left a 30 year marriage to be with her and travels extensively for his job.\n\nHe will cheat her, or since he's much older than me, she'll be changing his Depends pretty soon, and I'll laugh sitting with my hot red-headed woman at the unwise ex-wife who left me for all that fun.
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well, hindsight is 20/20, u should have waited for the divorce.  Sounds like he wants to retain the respect of his children and not tell them until after the divorce that he is living with you, so stop sweating the small stuff...BUT, if after the divorce, it's still the same....kick his a$$ out!!  good luck!
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well you could look at it two ways\n-either he's mature because he respects women and doesnt want to go agains their will\n-or he's immature relationship wise and doesnt really know what he's doing
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Remember that all guys are trying to get L@id and I’m thinking that he is preying on the fact that you just got a divorced.  Take it slow until you figure out what his game is.