Should I stay here, or leave him behind?
414828
Do what you feel is right, if you settle for him, he'd only take it furthur and i don't mean marrage. Most relationships that one person always sacrifices  for the other, usually end with mental abused and tramatised people. You sound like a kind of person that's really independent. If he loves you and you love him, you both will make comprimises and come to a mutual agreement, even if that means long distance. I hope this helps even tho it's not really an answer.
527395
Please babe, I have to go really bad.\nIf he doesn't leave, GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
102936
oh please think about what you want to do.  Read you statement for yourself. everything that you are telling us about this man is all the reason to leave him.  I have been though it and i thought the same thing you did. (I love him). but it only gets worse. please belive me shy away why you still can. You don't need to stay with this boy, please put yourself in our shoes and read what you have wrote like you are reading a friends letters and see the sings. you might be in love with him now, but as time goes on and it might take years! you will see that this is not for you and that you can not take it anymore.
1170496
I think she should leave.  He treated her the way he did, so that she would depend on him.  Without her he is nothing. As long as she is with him he will continue to treat her with great disrespect.\nHe has no fear in his heart of loosing her. He has put her down so much thae she is brain washed.
643675
Stay with him.  Give him  some time, if in 6 months, you still feel this way, then leave him.
885473
I would stay away from him.  If you stay in contact it will only be hard on you emotionally.  You will be second best to him and he will always leave you waiting and wondering.
506139
Depending on how long u have left i would say just put up. Otherwise just stay with freinds or family.
692292
You haven't said anything that makes it sound as if you should take him back.  And as Dr. Phil says, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  Why on earth would you want to take him back if he hasn't been good to you and your kids?  And what's the story with your husband - are you still with him or planning on leaving him?
985905
dont give him the satisfaction in telling him you're going to leave him. some men get off from knowing that you'll stay no matter what. he sounds selfish and the only way of knowing is leaving and see what he does. if he comes back, he loves you. if not then you know why...
904791
No, you should not.  He will leave you again, even if he does come back because he knows he can.  It will take time, but I'd get him off of your Christmas list, because he has no regard for you.  Take care of your daughter and see to it he meets his legal obligations to your daughter.  I hope you heal and find someone that treats you better.  God Bless.
1113585
I think he's a control freak and you're a fool for keeping him around. Send him packing and find somebody you can trust, somebody who'll treat you right.
1126153
Wake up.  You need to leave him alone until he does leave.  And another thing, how do you know he won't leave you too?  Step back and check out your situation really close before its too late.
556851
Oh sweety, told you told you told you?? You can't believe all this. You should have told him from the second he said he was leaving "ok, i'll be here for you once you get everything sorted out." He might leave his wife, but my gut like urs is saying he's a lier and he's not planning on leaving his wife. When the week is up, his time is up too.
527753
just leave him. no use hanging around someone who is not faithful to you anymore.
274734
Wow, that is a big decision.  Colorado for the most part is a wonderful place but I think it is important to do what is best for you regardless of the location.  My biggest concern about this boy is that here he is asking you to come and be with him but he isn't even willing to go back to your state to see you.  To me that is selfish and shows that he really isn't in love with you.  My biggest fear is that you would get out to Colorado and then he would dump you and you would be stuck out there away from family and friends on your own.  Even if things worked out between the two of you, wouldn't you want to go home sometimes and visit family and friends?  Would he be willing to go with you like a real boyfriend or would you be stuck doing that on your own with him complaining about your going?  It just doesn't seem like a very good choice.  If you decide to move to Colorado, do it for you and not for him.
442784
I WOULD JUST GIVE HIM HIS SPACE, HE SAID THAT THERE WAS NO ONE ELSE, SO JUST GIVE HIM AS MUCH TIME AND SPACE THAT HE NEEDS AND HE WILL REALIZE WHAT HE HAS AND HE WILL COME HOME.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
282336
I hope I can help you by joining the chorus of answers that say “Run Away”. I don’t fault you for being in the relationship because we all make mistakes but I think your making some far-fetched rationalizations to justify staying with him. It’s time to move on to someone who can be with you when you need him. Someone you can call rely on at any time, all the time. Someone you don’t have to sneak around with or feel guilt when you’re seen together.