i am newly divorced and spent a lot of time my kids how do i ease the pain of not seeing them as much?
396411
I know how you feel.  My son chose to stay with his dad after my divorce.  I have our daughter.  The distance is near 1000 miles so, I am not able to see him much.  I do call him every weekend and see him at least 4 times a year.  It is still not enough and I am frustrated since I am unable to do anything about this.  (Work, money, ect...)  My son knows that I love and miss him so much.  It hurts.
163615
I am also recently divorced and my child lives far aways from me and the only way I can try to keep me in her heart is to write a letter hoping one day she will read it and answer it.  My child is only going on 7 and not able to see mine for 6 and half years because of her father but I try to stay strong and keep sending birthday and christmas gifts and hope one day she will respond.  Just keep sending pictures and letters and pray that one day they will respond.
1141666
what you need to do is talk to your Lowery and see what you can do to keep in touch whit Ur children as much as passable so it says that you have regular visits with them you should contact my mom because she is try to get her kids back to and i was the first one to come back and she has 6 more she wants back.bttrflynow@hotmail.com plz it will help you a lot
684401
Spend the time with my kids.
70447
okay my parent s are divoreced but i know its for the best its better that to hear them fight and argue. I sometimes feel like im missing a part of me like on fathers day and i cant rememer the good times cause i was only little when they divorce. but i know very little about him but its better to leave it burid that to go digging for me anyway.
392859
no, because you are just hurting the children. They can sense your unhappiness and you are just making them hurt like you both are and that is being selfish. Sit the children down and explain to them what your are going through children now a days are alot smarter than you think don't make them choose be adults and make it a easy as possible for them so they don't have to choose between the both of you. Make the seperation smooth it's going to be hard at first but you both have to be strong for them and do not bad mouth each other.
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Well, you divorced her, so you ARE no longer with her.  You will miss her for a while.  \n\nTry working on yourself for a while.  Persue some hobbies, relax, do whatever you feel.  Soon enough you will feel refreshed and will no longer miss her.
156309
Yes, emotions really run rampant after a divorce. I even contemplated killing myself after mine. It just takes time to get back into a comfortable groove. Just give yourself time. Spoil yourself!
611904
The law is the only way to handle these matters.*\n\nThe process through the courts may be slow but if you keep trying time will come around and the kids know you love them because you never give up trying to get them back.
820403
Hello:\n\nI would suggest that you are feeling depressed because you are dealing with a lot of stress and you have very little support in your life right now. \n\nI can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to have to deal with a divorce, and living so far apart from your child, on top of that dealing with a new job. \n\nIt is understandable that these feelings intensified on Thanksgiving, which is a holiday typically spent with family. \n\nI would suggest to you to start getting involved in the community. Volunteer at local organizations, join other local groups (besides the singles group) like a recreational sports team. These are easy ways to meet people and to develop friendships. Maybe there is even a local women's support group for divorced women?\n\nOnce you have some friendships, those people will be able to help you when you are feeling down. It also might help to see a therapist, to have someone to talk about these issues too. There was a point in my life when I was having a very difficult time dealing with stress, and I went to see a therapist every week for a few months. Just being able to talk about certain emotions I had made me feel so much happier and relieved, and I would suggest this to anyone who simply needs someone to talk to.\n\nI hope this helps, and good luck. Things will get better.
880020
It will get better. Same thing happened to me same week the youngest turned 18 See ya later!!! It happens nothing you can do about it. Keep yourself as distant from it all as you can if not you will never heal. If the children still want a relationship with you then be there for them.. Stay busy get lots of friends maybe a good time to find a good church.. Your free to do what you want take advantage of it make yourself have fun start your quest to find that one that is your best friend and wants to be with you for you not because you have a pay check.....Good luck
163756
First I'd like to express my condolences for your family's loss. People deal with grief in different ways, especially children who may not know exactly how to express how they're feeling. I think it would be beneficial to you and your kids to get some grief counseling to help you all sort through your feelings during this tough time. It would be good to go as a family for support, but individual sessions could be beneficial as well.
403091
You should be honest up front. Then take it slow. Later on when you feel comfortable you could introduce them to your kids.
292685
You can't just stop, but you can let go.  Unfortunately it doesn't matter who you are and how good or bad your relationship was, when it comes to change it is scary.  You have to figure out how you are going to survive on your own and while you have a responsibility to yourself to be happy and end this relationship, you still have a responsibility to your kids to make sure they are taken care of physically and emotionally.  Take your time and come up with a plan that you can live with.  Talk to a lawyer and make sure that plan is in the best interests of you and your kids.  Then execute the plan so that some day down the road you can find true happiness.
139423
Tell the kids it is not their fault for the divorce.Just be there for them to listen.\nAs a teacher you will be surprised how many kids come to you just to vent out.\nJust listen and don't judge !
641183
You know i have been through this situation myself.  I'm not proud.  We just kind of drifted apart after the same amount of time as you, but were only separated for about 2 months.  I really liked the feeling of freedom and meeting other people.  I still think of a certain someone now and then, especially when my husband and i get into arguments about petty stuff.  I think "why did i even come back"?  Then i realize that he has put up with all my crap and it would be so hard to start all over and put effort into a new relationship.  I also think about my kids and in today's society kids need the guidance of both parents.  Anyway, i really do love my husband, it's just sometimes its fun to think of what could have been.  \nI'm not saying all marriages are to stay together for the sake of the children, it's just if you really love each other, you need to try and get passed the other man.\n\nTry to do things with your husband, take time for yourselves.  Go to the movies out to eat, or even spend time at the park with the kids(if it applies).  And just when you feel an argument coming on think and sometimes prayer comes in handy(if you are religious). \n\nGood luck. i wish you the best.
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Separations are never easy (as I very well know)...Give yourself and your child time!!\n\nTalk to your child, and let your child know he/she is loved by 'both' of you.. and if need be, reassure him/her that it is not his/her fault you broke up!! (as some may think/ feel this way).\n\nYou have left your partner for I have no doubt good reason: but he/she has in their eyes lost a daddy, and is going through a grieving process of their own, which takes time to come to grips with.  \n\nHopefully daddy will still be around, and be able and willing to play a part in his child's life ... and if like my ex-partner and myself, maybe you two will be able to put the past behind and become 'friends' for real, or for the sake of your child in time, and then he/she will have the best of both worlds!!\n\nIts a difficult one, and my heart goes out to you.