Do men want wives with perfect bods?  I find it hard to believe my husband doesn't mind me being overweight.?
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i, too, am overweight and my husband tells me every day how beautiful i am and how much he loves me. don't doubt him or his love for you. embrace him and his love.
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What would people think?  Beleive me, people aren't spending their time worried about your exercise habits, and even if they were, what difference does that make to you?  I think it's grand that your hubby wants to spend more quality time with you.  Don't be self-conscious, have a good time!
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I would be unrealistic to say that it does not affect my professional life. To my knowledge it does not, but I am sure that I have been passed over for a promotion because of my weight. Socially it does not. I am actually working on a book about fat-friendly places in my city. I had a roomate in college who was heavier than me and she would always just stay home. I am different. I like to go out and have a good time with friends, of which I have PLENTY! I like to enjoy life! I enjoy dressing up and going to plays, the opera, etc. I even do full-figured modeling on the side. I've never had problems dating. I have a tremendous love for God, and He sees me through. I stay active. I walk, I swim, I dance. Being obese does not always mean being unhealthy. People who are obese have to have confidence in themselves. Ask questions. If you are afraid to go somewhere because you don't think you will fit in a chair, CALL AHEAD! Ask if there are chairs without arms! Do not let life pass you by from fear. Do not stop your life while you are dieting "until you reach your goal"! Live now!
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i think you 're the one who needs to decide if it stays or goes.if you're happy with it then dont worry.if you think it's a turn off then do something about it.  Personally my hubby gained a little around his belly and it just gave me more to hang onto to....his personality didn't change....and hes not sloppy fat so we're good...
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Personal trainers usually prefer married women.  At least my ex-wife's did.\n\nWhy would he do all that just for the business?  No obviously he is into you. You must be married.
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Okay, I do see both sides of the story here.  In my opinion, sexual attractiveness IS important in the marriage and I think it's only right that each spouse make themselves attractive to each other.  Thank God this is a non issue in our marriage as my husband and I are both very active physically but your wife is also right.  You should love her unconditionally no matter what.  Though this doesn't mean that if she gains 100 lbs you would still find her attractive.\n\nNow think about this scenario.  What if she got into a terrible accident and her face and body got  disfigured as a result.  Would you still love her then?
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I don't. I want my husband to be large and in charge. My husband will be the king of his castle, and a hush king is not a good king. I think men have been brainwashed into believing that they are supposed to be tender. I want my man to be strong,  both physically and emotionally. I want him to say what he wants, because how else will I know so I can make him happy? I want my husband to taech my boys to hunt and fish and split wood and work hard. I hate the kind of men you're talking about. I think they're whipped, and I also think that that's wrong. Period. Men should be in charge.
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When I married my husband he only weighed 140 lbs. He is 6'1''. He was way too skinny, but I loved him anyway. \nWe have been married for almost 8 years now. He is 29 years old. Now that his metabolism has slowed down a bit, he has started to gain weight. He is a whopping 180 lbs now. He looks great. He has filled out and looks like a grown up instead of a teenager. He wouldn't have had to chase me quite so hard had he looked like that back then!  But now he has to make sure he doesn't sit on his butt too much because the love handles have threatened to show up.\nExercising is always a good idea. It doesn't matter if you are thin or not, being toned makes a big difference. Just don't expect to get big biceps and wash board abs over night. You'll only be disappointed. Eat right too. It really does help. I once knew a guy who wanted to gain weight so bad that he ate a jar of peanut butter and drank a gallon of milk a day plus his regular 3 big meals and a snack. It worked, but he felt wiped out all the time and didn't have the energy to do anything. \nWhat ever you do...do it right.
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Truthfully speaking, I believe most men are attracted to women with curves, but they are afraid to admit it, as if it were illegal to do so. You see society predicates what is beautiful, and honey we aint it!, and that's a shame, because the average woman is a size 14.\n\nSociety needs to reconfigure its idea of beauty, and realize that "REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES" not every man wants a twiggy. Society views a woman with curves to be overweight, and she may not be, there is nothing wrong with being healthy and having some junk in your trunk too. Most men dont want a bone, most men want meat on their bones, you know what I mean!\n\nI wish that us thick girls could get some love too, just like our thinner counterparts. I guess guys are afraid of what others will think, as a matter of fact I have a male friend that is attracted to thick women, and all his friends tell him he's a chubby chaser, now that is just not fair, but he doesnt care, he tells them they dont know what their missing, but you can see where I'm going with this, his friends are the equivilent of how society views us thick girls, and that is just so sad, because we are the majority not the minority!\n\nHowever I am feeling confident that slowly but surely societies ideals of us is changing, thanks to people like Mo'Nique and Toccara, they are starting to break down some barriers.\n\nI hope my answer, as long as it is, was helpful to you. Keep your head up sistah, we gonna get in there....\n\nI hope I was able to help you out!!!
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I agree with CrazyC and Saleem.\n\nStill don't let your insecurity put holes in your relationship. Is he really treating you in a less interested way, or is there just more things to occupy his time and attention, like being a good dad and supporting his family.\n\nRemember self-confidence is a big attracter of men. If you think you should lose weight, then do it for yourself and for your kids, to be able to fun and play more with them, don't do it to fit some image.\n\nDo take care of you, keep your chin up and enjoy the love of your family.
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Lonely one, your question really touched me. I, too, know what it's like to be an overweight woman and what it's like to be ignored by every man. I'm not trying to be depressing but it's the truth, as I'm sure you know. But I think there is someone out there who will love you for who you are. Realistically, there's only a small slice of the population that would consider going out with a very overweight person, but keep being the nice person that you are and it will happen. Feel free to e-mail me at rmaynard@su.edu We may have a lot in common.
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Of course, I will rather have a good and faithful husband than to have a fun loving or gorgeous man! A good husband will be the perfect lifelong companion but a gorgeous looking man can only be a short term partner! Nothing can be compared to having a reliable and wonderful husband, don't you agree? He's unlikely cheat on you and do things to hurt you. And when a guy truly loves you, you'll know, it's for real and you know his love is sincere! I'm thinking are you on the verge of thinking cheating your hubby? If not, you wldn't have ask us for advices. Don't ever do something that will make you regret for life and also hurt another party. Don't ever try to ruin a happy marriage too!!!
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I don't judge people by the way they look. A person being overweight would not make me not be attracted to him. If he is still able to get around and is active than it wouldn't be a problem for me. He would need to have a good personality, be kind, funny and nice. He would also have to have self respect and be respectful to others. Those are the things that are the most important.\n\n@--->---
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Many times, when 1 person in a relationship is overweight, it is not what the "thin" person thinks as what the overweight person thinks about themselves. If someone is not happy with their physical appearance it shows in their actions. The way they dress, how they act in bed, and in public. \nIf that is not the trouble, it could be many things. Some people would never admit that the relationship is in trouble because of a weight issue. Unless your husband is a very honest person he might not come out and say, hey..it's because you've gained a few pounds. Lack of sex can be a sign of depression, general disinterest, or even an affair. \nI suggest you seek marriage counseling.
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Because they are immature boys with no self confidence.  There was another question similar to this one.  Here is what I wrote on that one:  \n\nIn my opinion, as a woman, I have always assumed that men wouldn't want to date a BBW or plus-size woman. (I'm 43 yrs old). About a year ago I met a really great guy who expressed interest in me - extreme interest. I came right out and asked him why he was paying so much attention to me (we had only met and emailed) and he was very honest and he said that women with big hips and thighs turned him on. I nearly fainted. We have been seeing each other over the past year and the attraction has grown. We have talked many, many times and I told him that I thought most men don't want plus-size women. He told me that I would be surprised the number of men that like larger women. Via the internet, he has shown me how much. The number of men who are attracted and adore plus-size women, is absolutely amazing. Believe me when I tell you....it gives us plus-sizers hope. \n\nThe relationship that I've had with this guy in the past year, has been better than any I've ever had. Previously, I never had a guy who wanted to see me in sexy lingerie. I never had a guy who wanted me to dress up in a short skirt and garters. I never had a guy who constantly tells me how beautiful I am. It is incredible and is absolutely wonderful. I can't get enough of it!! Talk about an ego booster and talk about boosting my self esteem! He has made me feel so much better about myself and my body. \n\nMen need to realize that plus-size women are no different than average size, or thinner women. We want a relationship, we want sex, we want exactly what other women want....there is more to us than the exterior. Don't assume we are just stupid fat women. We are regular people, and have feelings too.\n\nMen who like plus-size women need to stop worrying that their friends will laugh at them for liking plus-size women. A woman is a woman... tall, thin, short, average, plus-size... doesn't matter. Be a man and be with who you want to be. \n\nHoney - you need to be more self-confident and be happy with yourself and your body.  No one can do that for you....  A man will notice a self-confident woman.  Your self confidence will improve after he shows you a little attention.  That's what has happened with me.  But generally, you must be happy with yourself first.  \n\nJust be yourself.  Don't try so hard to be what you think guys want.  Just be you....
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I very much like the body my husband has now. he weighs about 210 and is a beast. His arms are muscular but not to where his veins are popping out (that's gross) he is a little soft around the middle(no six back)but thats ok cause he is softer to hug.
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well i use to think so but i guess not cause my boyfriend loves me and loves my body just because its apart of me! so if he really loves you it doesn't matter whats big, small, thin, or fat he will love all of you!!!There is not one woman that is perfect cause even the women who seem perfect dont like something about themselves!!!