Why do past mistakes keep you from life even when you turn your life around?
401545
only if you let them.
249026
It's the domino effect. When something really bad happens in your life it tends to magnify everything else that's already wrong, as well. You need to be careful when dealing with this kind of thing. The tendency is to go into a downward spiral and exaggerate things to the point that it may feel like EVERYTHING is wrong. Try to resolve one issue at a time and you'll begin to surface again. I've been there, believe me.
416584
I made a mistake years ago. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and due to certain events which occured, I was arrested. (Nope, never claimed to be perfect.) My spouse had the opportunity to clear things up and get me out. Unfortunately, Spouse used the time to go to another state and have an affair with one of our best friends, who was also married, leaving our child here. My lawyer told me shortly before I was released. \n\nThe anger was the worst. In fact, I realized I wasn't hurt much at all. That told me what I needed to do. I filed for divorce. We had been on different pages for a long time anyway, and now there was no trust, no respect. God never said I had to put up with that. \n\nWithin those few days, I lost almost everything. I had no home to go to. We had a large house but I packed up the most important belongings and they fit into a coat closet at my brother's house. My baby and I stayed with him while I finished up my final semester of college, then took the first job that came up so I could be independent. We moved within three months. Quite by accident, we found a wonderful person who was very happy to join our little family, who wasn't put off by the past troubles, and who shares my faith. \n\nI realize that part of what happened was due to my choices. But I also know that God was using the situation to force me to make new and better choices. I did the right thing, and I have been rewarded with a wonderful new life.
920231
Clemance, my young friend. you cannot change the past. If you want to succeed in life, use the frustration you are feeling to energize yourself, focus on the future, you are still able to get an education, stop worrying about what happened and move on. Of course you have been through a tough time, the people you have lost would not want you to fail, Your life is in your own hands now. Come on mate you can do it.
254218
You can't.... you use what you know about the past and change the future. Don't be wishful that something could have happened differently. If it had, you wouldn't be who you are today.
682316
i screwed up my past. I'm lucky to have him now. he cares enough to make my life a better life. sometimes is really hard to do something i think it's true, but I'm glad that he is there to always give me the better alternative and guess what...I do much better .
522073
You sound like a very unhappy person to me. By wishing these things you are basically wishing that you aren't the person you are.\n\nEverything that has happened in your life has made you the person you are and you are beautiful.\n\nAnything that has gone wrong has only made you stronger and you need to start looking at your life differently. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up over events that are beyond your control.\n\nTake everything that has happened and turn it into a positive, make those things what drives you to get where you want to be.
518994
I don't think there is anyone alive who wouldn't change something or many things in their life if they could. However, the reality is that we can't, so we must live our lives with the knowledge we have learned from each regret. All things happen for a reason. Even though we may hate somethings about our lives I am sure there are awesome things that have come out of those terrible ordeals. For instance anyone who has gotten married only to get divorced, but had children, would say that having their children was the best thing that ever happened to them. Even though they had to go through it with that old hag or that jerk! So, we can complain all we want, but instead I would like to challenge you to thank the old hag and the jerk for the greatest gift of all......your kids!
487146
I'd much rather regret what I've done than what I haven't done.  At least I can go through and rationalize my choices in the past and ease my conscience about things I've done.  I find myself realizing so many things that I would have liked to have done and didn't, and it becomes clear that I've recently changed my perspective to be more willing to take the chances and live life fully rather than sit on the sidelines regretting what I never did...
1017311
IMHO, if you can accept that the choices you have made are the primary determinants of the state of your life, you'll be a lot happier than if not.  Not everything that happens to us is a result of own choices.  But, how we move forward is.
322053
First of all you need to use check spelling. Next, it's never to late tostart over. Youcan't undo or redo your past, but you can go on from the here and now.
480118
b/c to every good thing there's a bad thing.that's how life is.everybody has good times and bad times.life is to overcome the obstacles they throw at you and if you can't then you lose.but if you can get up on your feet and hold on there until the end you'll be alright
823531
Truthfully I would say vry few people's  lives go the way they plan,mostly because of unrealistic expectations,but also sometimes because of outside influences. I guess you just have to roll with the punches,as for me my life was pretty much incinerated about 4 years ago,it's just a matter of seeing if it's possible to rebuild.
541136
Life has a strange way of just happening; with or without our permission.  Circumstance sometimes dictate change, and change may not always mean a sign of instability, in fact sometimes its the exact opposite.  We all have to constantly go back to the drawing board when it comes to life; in other words--let life happen, accept what we can't change, and hopefully be able to smoothly transition into whatever new challenges come our way........
509027
given the chance to fix one thing in my life, it would be ALL the wrongdoings i have made. but then, if i have been perfect all my life, what's the use of living this life and learning from our own mistakes? those mistakes in the past contributed to the person that we are now. things happen for a reason regardless if it is intentional or not. the best thing to do is to learn from one's mistake and continue living for the better, not for the worst.
154109
It just means that you are a creature of habit, as I like to put it.  You need to break out of this cycle that you are in and find a way to make the things that you want to happen a reality and not just some distant dream.  Knowing that the things you are doing aren't helping you to accomplish your goals is the first step, now incorporating the willpower to stop yourself from backsliding into that same pattern is the next.  Change is not always easy and sometimes it come with a price, but the end result is always worth it.  Good Luck!!
1175968
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)