what to do when your boyfriend brakes up with you and you cant stop crying?
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you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
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Have you tried counselling? It might seem quite daunting first of all, but it sounds like talking to someone impartial could help. The pain will stop when you learn to recognise that you have been through a ordeal and you need to accept some form of help. It's good that you are in another relationship; if your boyfriend is supportive and understands that you need time to get over what has happened.\n If you find yourself becoming anxious or upset, you could try Bach Flower Remedies (the Rescue Remedy is good), they help relieve a lot of ailments, such as insomnia etc. Most of all, recognising that there is a problem is half way to solving it. Talk to people that you trust and can confide in; and if things don't get easier, seriously consider counselling as a means to get over things. Good luck!!
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So stop it already! Hurting your feelings with what??>....um,.. lemme guess, words? Are you certain that he is doing it intentionally, or do he think he is not. \n\nFeelings get hurt only when we allow ourselves to feel that way.  I strongly believe that you can also choose to not let whatever it is he says hurt you by ignoring him, not taking those times so seriously and tell yourself he is just messing with you, and blow it off- give him a taste of his own medicine and see how he reacts. \n\nBottom line, you control emotions, get upset, feeling hurt,     are controlled by you. You decide what will piss you off and what hurts. Change the way you think and perceive things, don't take things so personally, remember freedom of speech?   \n\nYour bf probably gets a kick watching you get all upset. Dont let him see you hurt or upset, don't let it faze you, like you never heard him, I bet it will stop. \nMaybe you are just being a cry baby? Maybe blow his mind the next time he is hurting your feelings and just crack up laughing hysterically then stop, telling him he is so hilarious. Well, at least you will be laughing, that feels better than feeling hurt, or sad or upset. Is this making any sense at all?\nI hope you understand my point, and you find your way to toughen up your sensitivity.
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hi angel,\ni think i know just how you feel. it happens sometimes to me sometimes, like everything went grey. just take a deep breath. u are at work right? do u have any nice music u like that cheers u up? play it softly at ur desk- maybe on ur PC or walkman. cheer up. Your mom does love you, your boyfriend too... u just fell out with her and ur boyfriend is busy working so he can get u a nice gift for ur birthday--- lol--- at least he has a job he can be busy at, not like he is busy dating another girl...\ncheer up ok? take a snack for lunch, you'll soon be home. \nAnd oh, try to call your mom b4 work runs out, you'll find it isnt as bad as it seems. then talk to ur boss too... there is so much power in those three words, "i am sorry" just apologise to everyone u hurt, especially ur mom. \nthen call ur boyfriend too and tell him u understand completely how busy he is and u love him and for him to call u when he is free. u'll be amazed how soon he'd call u himself. he needs ur understanding too, maybe today is more hectic for him than u. knock knock...\nI hope u r listening to me and will do these?\nenjoy your day ok? and remember it will pass and u will still be there...cheer up! love ya
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let them know how you feel even say the same thing as your question and get out and socialize see if he comes around if not remember to let no one keep you down there is to much to be happy about to be sad all the time
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Truth is give it some time...i know how that feels you may feel like "this is it" "my relationship is over" but he'll come around....give him some time to vent....and when he's cooled down you'll know and then you two should sit down and have a civil conversation and explain to him what you meant and what upset him and talk about it...look at it as a learning experience.....how else would you know what your boyfriend likes and dislikes if arguments don't happen...good luck
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Before you do anything, take a deep breath.\n\nYou must feel overwhelmed since this is your first relationship, it's brand new, and you have huge expectations of how your boyfriend is supposed to act.\n\nHigh school romances are very fragile and very diffiult to maintain.  You didn't mention if he's had prior relationships to the one with you.  I would suspect that he has had several.  The boy in high school is being bombarded by hormones just like you are. \n\nThe most important thing for you to do is to take care of yourself.  Two months may seem like a long time to you, but in relationships that is not.  Whatever is going on with your boyfriend is HIS stuff.  How you react to his behavior is YOURS.\n\nWhy would you feel it appropriate to yell at him??  You are powerless over his behavior.  The only actions you can control are yours.  It's appropriate to bring up, in a calm manner, your surprise that his usual sweet messages weren't left for you.  See what he has to say.  Keep in mind he may have a reason.\n\nNow, he may have changed his mind about wanting to be your boyfriend.  That is a painful thought, I know.  Particularly if you've given yourself to him sexually.  If so, I hope you used protection.  \n\nMy thought is to tell you to move slowly through all the actions you take.  Don't yell, don't threaten, don't bargain, don't try to do anything to MAKE him act like he did before.  You cannot change him.  Cry if you break up with him.  Eat too much ice cream.  Talk to your girlfriends.  Whatever it takes to get over a broken heart.   Take it from an older woman...we will all get our hearts broken and will break hearts in our lives.  And it never seems at the time, like we'll survive.  But we always do. And we're stronger, more awesome women than we were before.\n\nWhatever you find out when you talk with him, remember it's his stuff.     \n\nHugs.
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should say good things that you remember about the time you're still together... bring back the good ole memories... try to flatter her and lower yourself... make him/her feel that it's your fault or something... that'll make him/her feel better and it softens heart.... good luck!
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
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Realize what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this is not all your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship start, and two people to have lead it to the break up. \n\nAccept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. \n\nBut you have to know that you are a good person and this is not all one-sided. \n\nThink through everything in your head. Maybe even try to ask yourself what went wrong. But you also have to think of why you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end, right? If there was a reason but it wasn't a good one, then this person isn't worth your time. \n\nDeal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was. You may even feel like you hate yourself, but get out of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart for no reason. \n\nTalk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too and that you don't need this sort of pain. \n\nWrite all your feelings down. Write in a journal or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper. Patterns may become clearer and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" what you're supposed to be learning from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be. \n\nKeep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. \nWell, instead of feeling that way, try to think of how happy that memory used to make you, and leave it at that. \n\nDon't overreact. You may be feeling lonely, and want to be with someone, but don't go back to your ex unless you really believe you should be together. Likewise, don't jump into another relationship as a rebound, just to make yourself feel better. It's not fair to the other person, and will eventually lead to another breakup. \n\nFind happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. \n\nLet go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and having hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was very unique and special in a lot of ways, all good things must come to an end. \n\nAnd when they do, that's when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it's best that you aren't together. \n\nTips \nYou have to walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you could give. If you feel all this and that you did your part, but he or she didn't meet you halfway, then you'll be just fine. \n\nDo not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he or she would be right now and if you sh
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yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
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Crying is not a bad thing. You need to get your feelings out. Everyday that goes by, it will be less. Everyone goes through that feeling eventually. Talk to someone you can trust and that always helps me.
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We have to laugh to keep from crying. Things will get better, just hang in there.\nTry this, my ex-girlfriends eyes were so big, she could stand on the front porch and count the chickens in the back yard.
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i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
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You have a perfectly valid reason for being upset. If he loves you he should respect your feelings. He basically lied to you. You can do better.
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my boyfriend just broke up with me the best thing to do is think of something else
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Keep him as a friend.\nYou can never have enough guy friends who will give you advice or listen to you if you have a problem or be there when you need a shoulder to cry on.