i think i might be a homosexual. how do i tell?
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Well if you are a boy you like the way boys look. If you are a girl you would like the way girls look.\n\nAs far as I can tell, you are young, what 10, 12?\n\nIf you are, accept it and don't worry about it. You shouldn't be worried about it till you are older.\n\nIf you are older, 14 15, well lad or lass, you know.\nNow just because you like someone, or think someone is cool, does not mean you are gay.\n\nA homosexual is someone who likes the way a person of the same sex looks. A boy would like the way another boy looks. A girl would like the way other girls look. Not in the same way you think flowers are pretty though, a different way.\n\nGay or not, you are a person, and dont ever let anyone tell you different.\n\nHang in there.\n\nPS, did any of you stupid SOBS even stop to consider this may be a child asking this? IF it is a child asking this, I hope the person who said "fag" feels really good about themselves.
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You will hear from a wide range of Christians on this topic:\n* Those who believe it’s wrong, tell you to stop immediately, don’t understand you, and don’t care to empathize.\n* Those who believe it’s wrong, advise you to stop, yet still patiently empathize with you as an individual and will stick by you. \n* Those who believe it’s okay and will bond with you because of it. \n* Those who believe it’s okay but won’t really care to work through it with you as an individual, since it’s a political issue for them. \n\nI can’t advise you on how to work through your feelings because I don’t know what experiences and events have led you to draw your conclusions.\n\nStill, I fully expect you to get lots of Bible commentary on the topic (Leviticus, Romans 1, and 1 Corinthians I think), so I won’t reinvent the wheel but will offer some other things to think about.\n\nWhat do you think it means to be gay?\n\nAre you considering it to be your personal identity now (“I’m gay,” as you said) or do you perceive it as simply a deeply rooted desire for homosexual relationships (“I have the desire to practice gay behavior”)?\n\nHow you define your feelings really determines what you’ll be willing to do to resolve them. \n\nOnce you define “gay” as your personal identity, anything insinuating the behavior might be wrong will feel like a repudiation of you as a person, not just a disagreement with the behavior… and you’ll feel the urge to avoid anyone or anything that views homosexuality as wrong because it feels like rejection of YOU. \n\nMy other advice is that the issue must be dealt with, not ignored. Suppressing the behavior without dealing with your feelings will simply result in a relapse later. \n\nYou need to find wise people in real life whom you trust (pastors, counselors, etc.) who you know will not reject you or simply try to force you into a box, but are committed to hearing you out and helping you work through things.\n\nYou also need to not be ashamed that you’re having the feelings, and find friends who you know will be faithful to you as a person and who you can share your inner thoughts and pain without fear of rejection. Whatever their opinions of how you should deal with your homosexual feelings, you should feel able to be open and yourself in front of them. \n\nIf you try to hide things or go it alone, you will be miserable and not much will be resolved. You need your brothers and sisters in Christ to work through this.\n\nJust as a side thing (and I'm not sure why I'm bringing it up, except it just came to mind), there was an excellent Christian writer named Henri Nouwen who grappled with pain and sacrifice and loneliness in his writings, who was discovered after his death to have been dealing with homosexual feelings throughout his life. He was not a practicing homosexual, and that struggle only fueled his desire to find God. \n\nPerhaps some of his writings would resonate with you. Like with Henri, God's primary desire is that you want him more than anything else, and that you seek him with your whole heart. The transformation that occurs within us as we really search for God sometimes resolves other issues in our lives, or at least helps us get through them.
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You're gay. Being Gay, I know a thing or two about gay... and you are definately gay.
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You do not, I repeat, you do NOT have to have sexual experiences with each gender to know you are bisexual!  Take it from me, a bisexual virgin.  That would be akin to saying that all virgins have no sexual orientation, because they haven't done anything.  Yet go ahead and try to tell your average virgin that they aren't straight- it's not going to fly.  Similarly, wouldn't that mean that there are no gay people until they've had gay sex?  That's not true- many gay virgins come out.\n\nSexual orientation is about who you are attracted to, sexually.  You may or may not be bisexual (a lot of women find other women attractive but consider themselves straight, so it's up for debate), but you don't have to prove it to anyone by having sexual experience.\n\nHope that helps!
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It's not like you are actually going to see some one having intercourse with some one else to be able to determine this.\n\nHere's an interesting website that gives other people's views on determining if some one is gay or not:\n\nhttp://www.ehow.com/how_17204_determine-someone-else.html
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Figure out what made you question your sexuality first-- Then consult your wife about it. But... your sexuality shouldn't matter if you're already married to who you love. Some people never "come out of the closet" so the fact that you're wondering may be a beautiful thing. There's nothing wrong with being gay-- society just makes it seem like it's the devil's work or something else just as ludicrous. It's something you can't stop-- It's also pretty misunderstood. Hey, put it this way- there are lots of famous people who aren't straight too! =]
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Don't change who you are. Your not committing sin for  being Gay so don't worry about it okay.
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well if you think you might be gay\n\nyou probably are\n\n\nhere are some other signs:\n\nyou like to have sex with people of the same gender
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Dont make things hard on yourself.  If you think you may be bi, dont say anything until you know.  Even then I still wouldnt say anything unless you fell in love with a women.  Family will always love you but dont put yourself and your family through stress they dont need.
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Well if youre really young then maybe you just havent experienced anything with the opposite sex. And so give it time, experience different things... Its kind of hard to say whether you are gay or not if you havent had a taste of life. Once you've had fun with the opposite sex then maybe you'll see that as more pleasurable. Then after that if you still find the same sex attractive.. your bi. I dont know, Im not gay but I really do think you need to try things out before you totally say you are one or the other.
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sweetie, \n\n think long and hard about it, and look at it like this: Do you like chicks? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? ok now think bout this: Do you like Boys? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? \n\nnow honestly which idea do you like better? \n\nthere are lots of support groups out there for bisexual, homosexuals and hetrosexuals, that deticate they're time from trained volunteers and peeps that have been there that would be gald to talk to you and help you figure out and be there to support you no matter what decsion you've made, always remember you have to do what your heart tells you, and always be happy and do what will make you happy, then your not failing yourself and you must remember that others are not you and they can't make the desicion for you and they shouldn't influence you, this is something you have to do on your own for yourself. \n\nso be straight, be bi, be gay, just remember most importantly be happy and be you its better in the
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THIS IS WHY RELIGION IS EVIL!!! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HOMOSEXUAL FEELINGS AND ATTRACTIONS, PEOPLE IN GENERAL ARE BEAUTIFUL, IT IS OK TO BE ATTRACTED TO ANOTHER MAN OR WOMEN, THE IMPORTANT THING IS THAT YOU ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE, YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY UNTIL YOU DO!\n\nbut anyway get a sex change, then you don't have to worry about "the sin of a man being attracted to another man" then you'll be a women with and Adam's apple, large hands, and a deep voice that's attracted to men...\n\nBut in all honest i doubt your god cares if you're gay, he made you that way didn't he?
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Don't lose hope.  Christ will forgive you.  There is a reason that you are attracted to men.  I believe that homosexuality is a gender identity problem  and not a sex problem.  \n\nI encourage you to seek counsel from someone you trust or use the websties suggested for guidance. Don't get discouraged. You will likey receive reactions from people that vary greatly and many people will oppose your desire to seek healing. The websites suggested are right on target and should be an encouragement to you.\n\nYou need to really figure out why you are attracted to males.  There are plenty of Christian counselors who will help you realize what's really going on.  Men who are struggling with homosexuality are often doing so because they need attention, affection and affirmation from males, often because it was lacking in their childhood.  Other things that can trigger gender identity disorder are sexual abuse, verbal abuse or emotional abuse.\n\nJust remember that you are not alone in your struggle for freedom. While the media and many people would like you to believe you can't change, there is hope for those who seek healing from their past wounds. Be encouraged and don't let negativity bring you down. Keep your eyes on what you truly desire: forgiveness.\n\nDon't accept what others (even me) tell you about homosexuality. Do your research and see for yourself.\n\nCheck out these books ...\nYou Don't Have to Be Gay\nThe Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality\n\nVisit these web-sites (Google them)...\nFocus on the Family - They have a conference called LOVE WON OUT that's awesome for those people who are trying to get out of that lifestyle.  I don't know if you label yourself gay but there is a difference between being gay and being attracted to men. The books above will help explain what I mean in more detail.  \n\nThe EXODUS website tells more about homsexuality as well.
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You could just be curious about the act, then again you could be gay. \nAre you attracted to men?\nDo you fantasize about having sex with men?\nDo you fantasize about the intimacy with a male partner?\nCould you kiss and fondle another male?\n\nYou should truly answer these questions wit hen yourself, because none of us can tell you if you are gay or not. Just because you like gay porn does not make you totally gay. Only you know that answer.
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Sounds like you just did come out of the closet. By posting your question, you announced to the whole world that you're gay. :)
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There's no need to declare yourself anything right now.  In a year or two, you will know if you are or not gay.  \n\nYour attraction may just be envy of guys who have matured physically ahead of you, or perhaps what you want to be  That doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.  \n\nRead up on it if it still nags at you.  Ask more questions.  Talk to someone you TRUST.
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I hope I am not as sarcastic as some others on here and I hope to give you a little insite.  People often find themselves attracted to people of the opposite sex.  It doesn't necessarily mean you are gay. Regretfully it doesnt mean that you aren't either. It is common (especially with teenagers) to have some doubt about your sexual identity.  I think it best to be who are and not let other people label you.  The real you will shine out in the end.