My boyfriend  lives 12hours away ....I need your opinion?
406829
It will never work.He is porking someone local at the moment and I think you know it.
21837
My boyfriend is out of town!
667131
First of all, do you know for sure that he is moving...that is the first question that needs to be answered. Secondly, a long distance relationship like the one you may be facing can work out. If you truly care for him as you say oyu do, and he waited for you for as long as you say then you both love eachother very much. You will see eachother occasionally, you will always chat on the phone...i've even heard that long distance relationships can make the couple stronger. But in order of the relationship to work there needs to be trust. You child is almost 16? I know someone who is 16 years old and her parents are in a similar situation as yours. THey are moving, and even though all her friends are where she lives now, she knows that inthe end it will be for the best. If you really want to be with him though, you can marry this guy that you love so much and who loves you, and have your child finish school where she is now and have her live with a friend, close relative, or something like that. That way you both will be happy. In the end its your decision. But the last piece of advice i will give is to just stop for a moment, take deep breath, close your eyes, and just listen to your heart.................\n................................................\nWhat's it telling you?\nJust follow your instinct, your heart, talk with your child about what you are worried about, what you would like to do, if you want to further your relationship with this guy. Talk with your child. But remember that what your child thinks IS important, but so is your heart and your feelings. Ask this man to come over to your house so you and your son could all have a talk about how you want to further your relationship and what you all agree with happening. \n\nIn short, follow your heart...most of the time, it knows which path you should take. Just trust the ones you love, and most importantly, trust yourself! Everything will work out in the end, i know it will. but until then, good luck! :)
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I know what u mean....my BF lives in Houston.....where I am in College Station....TX.....it is almost 2 hrs away....BUT....we talk on the phone EVERYDAY......send emails everyday.....& he just drove up here today....out of the blue to see me.....of course we only got to spend 4 hrs with each other...it was amazing.....I have had long distance relationships before.....but this one kind of grows.....every time we see each other....we grow "fonder"....they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....I really like my BF too.....it is hard for us because of the distance...as well as our work schedules....but we make it happen......what I like about him....HE comes to me, more then I go to him.......Just be patient.....like one other person said....let him figure out a way to come to u.....if it was meant to be....something will work out.....GOOD LUCK!...
969186
Whats wrong with moving to Hawaii?  I live here!!!  \n\nFirst of all, how long have you 2 being dating?  Depending on that, would tell me whether or not you should even bother to tell him.  Obviously he is moving due to some serious reason, whether it be a job, or school or just a new place to start fresh.
609109
i don't think you are being a jerk. it sounds like you need to "ease in" with the dad thing, starting with dinners and whatnot. a weekend would not be a good idea. you don't have to tell your boyfriend this, just say you can't make it this time but make plans for the next time you can see eachother.
580838
I would call him and ask him what is going on! If he is going to be with you he dont need to avoid you for a week !
1098110
This is a classic problem, the solution depends on you.\n\nAs you stated you know he'll be busy working, are you the kind of woman who will drive out there knowing that and still get upset when he doesn't spend time with you, even when you "drove all that way"?\n\nOr do you realize he's busy, and you'll appreciate the few moments he may or may not have to spend with you. If yes, I say go for it. If my girlfriend did a thing like that for me, I'd sure appreciate it.
555287
He may live 5-10 miles away, but with summer coming up and everyone being out and about shopping, etc, I dare say that the two of you will be more than capable of finding MANY ways to have time together! If you don't ask him, you will be kicking yourself all summer, wondering the what if's. ASK HIM, instead of presuming the worst. Ask him for his phone number, or give him yours, and let him know that you want him to call. Give him your e-mail addy, and he can write you from the library if nothing else. There is ALWAYS a way to get together and find time to talk or hang out. Start with a good friendship and let it grow from there, or just ask him out and jump in with both feet. It's only too late when you pause, and another girl takes him away from you.....  Good luck!
930708
I am in a similar situation...dating 5 years, live 3 hours away and just moved back home after living with him for about a year. I know the feeling to miss the other person when you are at home far away but also miss home when you are with him. \nIts a hard decision to make, but I think it is most important to do what makes you happy and take care of yourself. Having your own life and career are great things, and if you are set on staying where you are, it will be up to him to decide where he wants to be. I hope things work out for you no matter what happens.
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I think it is time you left that relationship since you know he is threatening to kill you, he sounds like a really jealous guy and you don't need that in you life. I am sure that you love him but it could lead to something much more worse then what it is if you stay around him. I don't think it should be his business who you call and who you don't when he is not around, I am sure he has other women that he calls, so there is not excuse there. You should not subject yourself to violence, you could call the police and have him arrested for assault and battery. I am sure what you boyfriend intentions are were to get your attention but I think that is too much. Leave him and find someone who is not violent and jealous. You need to do whatever you can to get away from this guy because if you stay with him any longer you could end up in a body bag on the way to the morgue because you did not leave him when you should have and that is not something you need to face. So my suggestion is if you live with him move out immediately if not stop calling him answering his e-mails change your phone number if you have to find friend to hang out with until he is out of sight. You can do better and you will, just believe.
449160
I'm not like miss conservative, but I don't see the harm in waiting a little bit longer to see where you two are in another month.. but it really is a personal decision.. and since you are asking here, I am guessing yuo aren't ready and he is?  Be careful, only do what YOU are willing to do without pressure from anyone.  That's very important for your self-respect.  ok?  Best of luck to you!
620237
If he'll be living close by, I'd suggest setting up a time once a week or something for you guys to spend time together, and don't let ANYTHING get in the way of it. Phone calls work too, but nothing beats actual physically being together.
646415
Then tell him, distance relationships can and do work, in the end, this world doesnt force you or anyone to stay were they are.\n\nTalk to him ask him how he feels, its certainly not too late at all. If he does feel the same way then arrange to go visit him, perhaps take turns in visiting each other to see what will happen in the long run.\n\nIn the long term there is always a possibility of you moving out to him or him back to you or the both of you to someplace completely different.\n\nMost importantly of all, it is not too late and dont kick yourself for missing an opportunity.\n\nBest wishes, and kind regards.
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Is his well-being as important to you as your own?  Does he feel the same about you?  Is the long distance problem a necessary thing (you EACH have an ill family member who needs your care, or are completing college at separate institutions which specialize in your field), or is it just not all that convenient to be together?  Are you with him because your life would be poorer without him, or because you're used to him and afraid to find someone who would meet more of your needs?  Are you compatible on your future plans on children (or no children), religious beliefs, monetary issues?\n\nThese are questions you'll have to answer yourselves.  One of you may just have to compromise if you want to live together...one of you may have to move.  If neither of you are willing, I would wonder about the depth of your commitment.
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maybe take a trip together to a cabin in the mountains or a nice hotel on a romantic beach to save your relationship. a nice weekend away will usually ignite any flames that are left. however, from your details it unfortunately sounds like your relationship is almost doomed. you even say you don't know if you ever really loved him, (or were in love with him) which tells me that you may already know it's over and just don't want to admit it. try a weekend away, it may help, also try to be open with him and see how he responds.
108329
Sounds like you want to hurt. Unless you have no doubt--forget him politely if he lives too far away.