Why are men who have been your lovers such bad friends?
411273
could be, there is the fact that you are a tangible "what if?" that is constantly in front of him. there is also the fact that as a guy, we think about sex pretty often and when we are with a girl we have been with and are no longer available to, it sometimes comes strongly to mind. \n\nit could also be that his gf is not happy with him talkign to you.
314322
You can dislike things about someone, but if you love someone you cannot truely hate them.  If the good times outway the bad, and there will always be bad times then you must remember and think of those and that you are fortunate to have someone to spend good times with.  In the end though you say you think you really like him.  Maybe you should just remain friends until you get your head straight.
883656
Because these guys don't start out disrespecting them.  They usually treat them like princesses in the beginning... and these guys add an excitement to the relationship that you don't get with the nice guys.\n\nBy the time they start treating the girl like crap so she's so far in she doesn't really realize it.  This is also how girls wind up in abusive relationships.  Even the strongest of women can fall into this pit of despair.\n\nI've had happen to me.  Bu I ditched that jerk after a year and am now engaged to a sweet, loving man.  \n\nWomen just have to figure it out for themselves.. Unfortunately.
534434
I haven't been through that.  For me, it's usually if I go out with them 1 or 2 times and I see that I don't like him, than I'm not going to put myself through for what I might think would be a bad relationship in the future.  It's not about whether they respect you or not for not giving them a chance to be with you, it's more about chemistry.  Either it's there or it's NOT there.  I wouldn't waste my time or his time.
528054
His problem might be the way that you refer to this long time male friend in terms of endearment... as someone who has been there for you through the good, the bad, the ugly, etc. \nNobody wants to hear that, and it's not going to boost his self confidence or trust by being compared to your other male friend. \n\nI'm wondering why you're going out with him, instead of the friend who has given you much already?\nIf you're not attracted to your friend, then you should decide who you want to be with, and who's going to be there for you when YOU need him. \nOtherwise you're going to keep on hurting the man you're with, \nby wanting to keep your options open when you feel the need to find alternative support from another guy.
485355
Being friends w/ someone you really cared about is very hard for guys , I dunno about females. Im talking loved, im not talking a one night stand fling... If these guys are people that were really special at one time , you just have to understand where they are coming from and they need to respect you as well w/ your choices.. Now if they were flings.. lol then you have a real problem
1077131
Poor thing. Have you been burned recently? I feel your pain. Ok. Mind games. Men have egos, huge egos. When a woman he thinks is his (and 'only' his) is seen with another man, even a friend or anything similar, ego says "Hey, if other egos sees my lady with someone else, I am less of a man. This is unallowable. I should make her jealous to make her focus on me." \nThis is a broad generalization of course, but it seems that this is the case a lot of the times, and guys hate to admit that they are not in control of the situation. Everyone judges us by the kind of mate we can find. If you have a chunky girlfriend, you are a chubby chaser and cant hack a fine chick. If you have a fine chick, guys envy you but also try to ruin what you got. Its a bit of a juggling act, and mind games are just one way to juggle so many balls in the air at once. On behalf of the thinking man, sorry for the mind games, its a defense mechanism.
308932
Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
274975
My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
509344
you know I'm not good looking but almost of my bf is bad and not good looking ones, because i felt in love with that man. based on my experience and from my friends usually bad boys are rely lovable or "chick boy", many girls love them because they are bad... :-)
151963
could be any number of reasons. here are a few; temptation of the flesh, not getting what they want from their mate, lost interest in mate, found something new and exciting about the new partner, insecurity, etc.
4825
its not that its impossible but in some cases the male friend may have been somebody that u have already dated or had sex with and if you meet a new a guy natuarally he would feel uncomfortable for negative about him being around u, because just females they dont like other females and as far as guys they dont like other guys especially if its a relationship involved
391006
because they are not real men.They want you to feel like you can have no one else but them.Insecurity.But you can do better.
1025428
Always, I have that issue or as i introduce my new intrest to my friends... he ends up dating one of them and not me... thats happened way to much...i understand your pain *hugs*
219109
Of course you aren't bad. If he is a friend, then you obviously have things in common to start with. Sometimes the relationship grows from there to a romantic one. It is tough though when the guy doesn't feel the same way. It can ruin the friendship.
334671
boyfriends come and go, you said one u had a past w/ was one of your friends now, he didnt act like that. this ones not a keeper, your real friends see what we can or dont want to see, they are right, he is controling you , becaus eof him he pushes your choices, the ones that know whats right for YOU are the ones who will beat you up because the sme reasons. beware.. also i have found men who think like that are like that, why would he think that way if he wasnt, im 42 and a hair stylist, i have lived and hear "lifes lessons"
521573
It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia