should i lose my virginity to him or not???
411307
I say DONT HAVE SEX  with him and is you two back together or what. And don't rush yourself (never let a boy rush u into what u don't want to do) And u will be having peddity sex if u do cuz u is only doin it because u scared he might leave u. But first find out what he wants and tell him tha truth on how u feel about having sex. Don't let anyone tell u that if u don't have sex with them then they will break up with you. Remember your body is not a playground and its not for everybody.
1110403
You know what you should do before your first time?  Fall in love.  You don't need to worry about anything else but that the person you are giving your virginity to is the right person.  Everything else will fall into place with that.
273279
He isnt ready to accept u in public or maybe that friend of his isnt trustworthy? But anyway i had a heartvreak recently.Dontlose ur virginity just to get him closer. It isnt worth it.True lovecomes back without such persuausion and actions. Just keep ur chin up, i knw how it feels.Ask him why he ddi this.I am a writer at 16 too. U can talk to me if u r worried.I know i amy sound too young , but i am mature for that mater and lifes taught me a lot the hard way
360628
I lost my virginity at the young age of 14...If I had the choice, I would take it back...There's no REAL love in just sex...& yes, I agree w/ you, losing a virginity at a young age is wrong...So I have to say, that, whatever I say or anybody else here, won't matter to you if you want to do what you want right?? Here's my opinion, if I were you, I would wait until you're married...I didn't & I wish I would have waited for my husband...I took that away from not only me, but my husband too..
828542
does it really matter if there a virgin or not isnt marraige about love ????
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
254545
If he truly loves you he will not care one bit if you tell him the truth- it is too risky to be in this situation. Please stay a virgin!! I got pregnant when I was only 16 and if I woukd have been a smart girl like you and thought things over my life would be much better right now.If you decide to go through with this just be sure you have condoms and talk to your mother!! it is much more embarrassing to tell about that have not yet happened than when something does happen.
78368
No there is nothing wrong to being a virgin at 18 and you shouldn't be concerned about what guys think be secure with yourself in being a virgin.Losing your virginity is not a race.I lost my virginity at seventeen and I wish I had waited because I lost it to the WRONG guy and truely regret it.But it is just my opinion that guys like virgins.You are fresh and un-touched.You have got something going on that alot of girls don't.Guys like the idea of having something that nobody else had.My guy knows I am not a virgin but just the thought of another guy that has been up in there causes him to cringe he doesn't want to think about it.Be proud you are not a hoochie that gives it up to every body that gives you a second look or shows interest and be very selective to whom you give your virginity to.
398106
First of all does he know you're a virgin? If he doesnt tell him. Once he finds out he'll be sprung. The trick though is that once he finds out, he's gonna try to get in your pants if you let him you'll loose him but if you dont he'll be chasing you around like a lost puppy
1114264
Does he think you’re a virgin? I think you should tell he just what you told all of us. If he really loves you this should not be the determining factor to whether or not the two of you’ll get married. He really should be understanding about this small “oversight”.
1008099
You should not be ashamed of being a virgin.  If you choose to be, then no one else has a right to put you down for it.  You are making the best decision in saving yourself for the right person.  You may of had chances back then, but you realize that maybe you aren't ready.  People should respect that.  If that is your choice, then don't be ashamed.  Be proud!
1152756
never do until you really ready .... virginity is a big value in your live ... look to your future first ...there is few people out there i consider them winners . be one until you have the  one that care about you than care for sex first . god bless you .
63177
You shouldnt have sex until you are ready to deal with the consequences of sex. Pregnancy, STD's, guilt (if its your first time and the person dumps you directly after). Those are just to name a few. Being a virgin is rare and prized. Keep it, cause you'll never get it back. If the person professes to love you, they will understand your commitment to being a chaste person (virginal)
1097301
PLEASE MAKE SURE OF YOUR REALITY OF LOVE AND CONFIRM .THAT COUNTRY WHERE YOUR LOVER STAYS THE LAW APPLICABLE WHETHER IT IS CONGENIAL FOR YOUR SURVIVAL YOU HAVE TO SEE. DO NOT TAKE ANY HASTY DECISION FIRST ASK HIM TO COME TO THE PLACE WHERE YOU LIVE IF HE WANTS YOU.\nPLEASE UNDERSTAND YOUR VIRGINITY IS MUCH MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR HUSBAND AS WELL AS FOR YOU. DO NOT LOOSE IT.
69567
if you have never seen a penis and he knows this and is still wanting to have sex with you then his care or you is not very deep. He may care for you kinda. But not the way he should to have the right to take your virginity. This is a fact. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THE PERSON WHO TOOK YOUR VIRGINITY! Is this the guy you really want to remember when you are 40 and married and have kids running around the house? When you and your college girlfreinds talk about your frst time, is your story going to be one of compassion and care, or one of you not knowing anything and being at his mercy to hope he doesn't hurt you, because YES it will hurt the first time. What is your value? How much are you worth? Are you a good person who is nice and tries to do her best? Then you are very valuable and your virginity can only be given away once. Is this guy so great to you that you want him to have something that you can only give to one person in all your life? When you are young it is very very very hard to tell a guy no. Guys have a way of saying things that make our insides melt. and some will pressure us and accuse of us not caring about them if we don't have sex with them. But if they think we don't care about them, then why are they trying to have sex with us??? hmmmmmm   some will even threaten to spread rumors about us if we don't have sex with them. and i'll tell you how to handle those guys....you tell them if they say anything bad about you that you will tell everybody you DID sleep with them and they had a tiny penis. That will shut them up! As for seeing a penis before you have sex, go to the library and look under books on human sexuality. You can find proper pictures of both a mans body and yours'. This is a decision that will be your first step into making big decisions that affect your life for the rest of your life. If you think you want to wait a week or two and go see some books at the library first to know more before you have sex, then tell him you have decided to wait for a few days. If he says that it is not fair or wants to now why, tell him it is your decision not his or anybody elses and you will let him know when you are sure you are ready.
344044
Ask yourself...do you love her as much as you think you do? cos if you do, you wouldn't bother to find out whether she's still a virgin. Does her virginity really matters that much to you?
214772
First of all being a virgin has nothing to do with being in love with someone. I commend you on being a virgin. If you really feel that you love this guy I don't see any reason why you shouldn't tell him. The minute you fall in love with someone your heart becomes vulnerable to hurt. But, you do get over it. The real hurt happens when you have given up your virginity to this guy or any other guy. I would take it slow and you will know when you are ready. Don't do anything just because he may pressure you. Believe me if he truly loves you and respects you he will let you decide when and if you want to give yourself to him totally.\n\nI was a virgin when I got married and to this day I have no regrets. I find these days that girls give up their virginity too fast and lose all respect for themselves. Be proud of who you are and never let any boy, guy or man take that away from you.