Should I ask him to define the relationship or go with the flow and see what develops?
404207
If this has been the same guy for 10 months I would say that it's time. In my opinion you have every right and he should expect you to want to clarify your relationship.\nI can understand, to use your term, "going with the flow" but you have gone with the flow and have some questions you want answered.\nDoes he just want to play around; a couple weeks here and a couple weeks there, or dies he have future plans?
1070552
i say he loves and respects you and is trying to learn from his mistakes - before he leaped too quickly and it ended badly. I usually tell guys to wait until she is ready but I have to switch this time and say hey wait until he is ready. relationships are hard enough all by themselves without added pressure. sounds like a keeper to me. Be happy
320718
it sounds like you guys have a basis for a great relationship. It sounds like you guys genuinely enjoy each others company, so you know what I thinK? I think that yeah, follow your heart. Its obvious you are digging this guy and he is probably digging you so go for it!
193463
I think that might be his way of testing the waters with you, I had a guy friend do the same thing with me "I want to meet someone like you" You have to ask yourself if you would want to persue something with him or not, from the way it sounds not. \n\nThis is one of those time when subtle wont work I think you just need to come out and ask him if he is hinting that he wants more. Just tell him you have been getting a different vibe from him lately and you want to know.
309747
Honesty.\n\nPart of me wants to just say "Do it ~ there's someone in my life that I wish would tell me that."  But on the other hand, I know {and he knows, too} that now isn't the right time.  We're so far apart.  No matter how much you love each other, it will be really difficult to keep a relationship of that sort going when separated.  I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult, as you know by your relationship as it stands now.. I know it, too.  Friendships themselves aren't easy to build or keep.
1058043
be yourslef and dont change for him. go with the flow. follow your heart
1145450
Depends on the people.  How much do you REALLY talk and know each other.  How much of the relationship is more about the physical or superficial?  If you love each other for the hearts and souls that you're bringing into the relationship, then go for it.  If you're unsure about that at all, wait a bit and see how you feel in a few more months.  Good luck.
569377
What I would do is just continue the way you are now. Sooner or later, the two of you will decide whether you want to take it to the next level or not, and act accordingly. If he is fun to be with, then what can it hurt? Just have fun with it, and see where  it goes.
257695
You should be a little more descriptive as your definition of his N A issues may not be so N A'd to someone else.  And if they are that bad for you to ask, then perhaps you should move on.
717700
you need to comfront him/her about it. you dont have to acuse them of anything, you just need to ask. if your relationship is strong enough it will all work out.
681890
He must want it to work as badly as you want it to work.  He can start by communicating to you that he is interested in dating you exclusively or in a marriage proposal.  Otherwise, until he says one of these things, no outside suggestion is going to change anything.  If you are relating positively to each other right now, this is all you can hope for until he decides what he wants to do.  It is not your call.  Just enjoy what you have for now and do not make more of it than what it is: a friendship.
491578
I think the guy should be honored and pleaseed that you have decided that you want to take your relationship to the next level, which is the level that is the most exciting yet dangerous (for it can swing either way and make or break the relationship). This is especially because you were in such a long-term relationship before and for most females, it's not easy to move on. So the fact that you have should tell him that you want something with him, and the last thing I'd expect is him to be patronizing and picky.\n\nI say JUST BE YOURSELF and go with your heart, mind and the flow of it all. Don't cater yourself to him or feel like you have to pander your 'stuff' to his liking. If he is in love with you as you are with him, everything you do TO and WITH each other is all good, girl.
198528
Ask him, point plank, what his intentions are. Perhaps it's time to find out what kind of future your relationship has. Be very clear about what you want and expect from him.
989739
Well consider the amount of time that you've gotten to know him. Have you been friends long enough to see his true colors?  All that matters is how comfortable you are with him and how much you trust him. If you have a connection that feels like its something special and just cant hold your feelings back then I say go for it!
676276
You assume he knows the answer to that question.  Sometimes guys can look at a girl and be unsure of how they feel (and vice versa).  Sometimes they just want to see what path the relationship takes on its own.  \n\nNow, the question is, do you want to see where that path goes?  Or do you want something more definite if not now, soon?  \n\nI can't tell you what you should do, other than feel around for it.  Search your heart.  And you can take a walk with this and not be committed to him 100%.  Personally I avoid confrontation since it has a tendency to back people into a corner, but if it remains ambiguous and you are unsatisfied with the relationship, I'd talk to him about where he sees you going, if anywhere.
591315
Well, my question to you, to help you in your quagmire is what do you and this man have in common? That is very important in any relationship. Whether it be work, recreational events, what brings the two of you together. Just because he asked you out, once it was established that you really don't share anything in common being honest and being truthful will only help in the end. I think you did the right thing, by telling him how you felt.
777803
Have you talk to him about having a romantic relationship? Just asked him for date and go from there.