Why do women hate good guys and love bad boys who mistreat them?
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As a girl myself, the best answer I can come up with is a feeling of excitement (and attention. Guys whistling, staring, etc..) Something about "bad boys" attracts some women. Just the feeling of going crazy, living life on the wild side turns them on. It's stupid and they're blind if guys treat them like dirt, but the thrill keeps them clinging on.
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Too much stereotyping here. Women don't ALWAYS go for the jerks. I sure as heck don't. if he is a jerk I will point him the other direction and make him leave. \n\nThere are men out there that are wolves in sheep's clothing(my ex for example) he treated me like a queen before we got married After we got married he became abusive. \n\nGuys are not going to be jerks when you first meet them. They are cunning. A lot of them start acting up once they know the girl is hooked to them. the girl is so involved with being "in love" with the guy that she cannot see that he is being a jerk and treating her badly. Of course the girl is going to blame herself sometimes because the guy has her convinced its her fault or it can also be low self esteem issues that cause this or the girl is so relieved she has a guy she just doesn't care and she is afraid that there is nobody out there better. \n\nThere are nice guys out there, they are very hard to come by and to say start dating nice guys is easier said than done. BELIEVE ME. You have to work very hard at it \n\nI know some ladies that are quite vicious as well and really it has been found that the women are worse than the men.
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Women get used to being treated like dirt. It's sad, but it's true. When I met my "great guy" it took everything in me not to toss him away because I didn't know how to react to a guy listening to me, giving me good advice, opening doors for me and offering to pick up the bill instead of "borrowing" money. I think women often get the idea that they don't deserve to be treated well. I definitely think one should be careful with the use of those three naughty words (I l#v! y@u.)  I've had to tell friends to calm down and enjoy the ride when they've freaked out because they're being treated well---I think it's the acceleration a relationship can have when things go well that can often lead to catastrophy. Most of all, if she can't take your good treatment, SHE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. That's the downfall of good guys. The gentlemen just need to stay gentlemen and know that they are worth something. We don't need our good men going to trashy b*tc%es anyway.
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I knew someone who was in an abusive relationship and yes, she did repeat the cycle. It was really sad but it seemed like she would only date guys who were jerks. I think women who are in this cycle have such low self esteem that they really don't know that they deserve better.
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Because being a bad boy means you are a CHALLENGE baby! Nice "sweet" guys often come across as predictable and boring, and that is why even I am not a "nice" guy. \n\nTo sum up, dump those losers and come roll with me - but I'm picky! lol
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Women have the impression that guys are jerks and thats why they cannot trust any guy. Maybe it's because they have had bad experiences with guys. Not all guys are bad but you even know that guys think with the wrong head
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Most of the time it has to do with the fact that they had a poor male role model growing up. Often going after the same type of man they know well in their life.  It is sad, but breakable, woman just have to want it to be different and realize when it is happening. They need to recognize the triggers and check themselves so they don't repeat poor choices in men.
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They seem more exciting. But this kind of excitement is very self-destructive for the woman involved with them.\n\nLook for your own self destructive impulses in this relatioship and try to figure out why you don't want more--such as loving kindness, stability, honesty, knowing you are with a man with solid values, knowing you are with someone who at some time will prove to be dangerous to your self esteem and will destroy what positive feelings you may have for yourself.\n\nYou don't do yourself any favors by being with a "bad boy".\nThey can be loving for brief periods but overall you will find your life will turn to misery and hell with a bad boy.
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women are mean to some women because they seem to be threatened by their presence. they badmouth others only to hide their own imperfections.
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Thats what turns some guys into bad boys..\nThe nice guys get tired of the women taking their baggage out on them and become assholes.
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Yeah, pretty much.\n\nSome women delude themselves that can actually "fix" bad boys. That's why many women like bad boys. They like the challenge.
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I would say by your question that a woman has just burnt you pretty bad. There are men out there the same way. I hate it when a woman or man takes another person that loves them so much for grant and then burns them. Like the old saying goes...one bad apple spoils it for the whole bunch......not all people treat other people badly. If they really did love that person they would NEVER treat them bad. If two people really do love each other there is no reason what so ever to manipulate the other for power, or anything else for that part. It should be 50/50 no  matter what.
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Because the male chauvenists like to put down the good guys in front of the ladies so the chauvenists can have the girls for themselves.  But it's not all the good guys.  Most of the good guys know when to fight back.  I love the good guys. :]
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Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
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To be very general, I think that "bad people" usually have had some sort of trauma and/or "heart break" in their past that affected them so much that they decided not to bother being good again. Bad behavior can be a defensive front for covering up insecurities, resentment and pain.  But then again bad people usually know that their actions are bad and often time it's just the result of selfishness and nothing more.\n\nGood people on the other hand tend to be resilient to bad things and traumas or they might deal with trauma in a more complex way hence it seems that they get heart broken more often.  Being tuned in to your feelings and emotions and being a giving person is never a bad thing.  Having people take advantage of this is.
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As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....