how do i get stationed with my husband? we are both in the marine corps and weve tried everything .?
400651
Unfortunately..Needs of the Military take precedence over all else.  Spousal Co-Location is covered for up to 150 miles I believe, so if you are within that zone, than according to the Marines, you are already co located.  \n\nYour MOSs will also be a factor.  No sense in having one of you be in Aviation and the other Infantry.. not much chance of ever getting stationed together.  One of you may have to extend in order to coincide with the others PRD and then have each of your detailers workl together to hammer out a suitable arrangement.
528543
Yes you can.  Just make sure you get a high score on the ASVAB so you can have a broader choice of what kind of job you will be doing.  Since you are married there shouldn't be any problem about custody of your kids.  The service just wants to make sure there is something official stating who will be caring for your kids during the time you are away for training or deployments, this usually applies more to single parents or dual military parents.  You don't say what your husband does.  Is he willing to give up his job to relocate with you?  As soon as you finish with Basic and Advanced training you will be sent to a duty station, with your family.  Your being in the Air Force will cover health and other benefits for your husband and kids, and it's possible that your husband can find a job in the area you go too, even if you get sent overseas, he can get a civilin job on base, although he might not be happy with the choices.  And even if you get an office job or one that they tell you doesn't deploy often, be prepared for the possibility that you will deploy and could be sent away from your family for a year at a time.  Good Luck
761001
I enjoyed my time as a Marine, I miss it and would love to go back but I have a family and cannot leave them for extended periods. If you join the US military you will be gone for extended periods and you will go to war. Since you do not have a spouse the development of your children could be compromised. I would tell you to stay home and raise your kids.
149465
Being a Navy man I don't know all the rules for Merchant Marines (MM).  I do belive the only time MM get military/Gov't type benefits is when they are pulled into a war.  Last time I know that happened was WWII.  Not to say your husband may not have something coming to him.  I would still check through MM channels as well as American Legion and VFW.  Not sure if I helped you much.  Best of luck
70172
I'm married to a Marine and met alot of military men.  I think you have to meet him.  Alot of the guys are genuine, but there will always be game players.  I'd really like to think that a young man in a combat zone wouldn't be out there just for his own amusement, so meet him, get to know him for real(BE CAREFUL, TAKE SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST) and then let yourself make a decision.  Good luck.  I hope you find your man!
882090
It depends on where your stationed and how long, the military could say hey thats a great idea, or they could send you to alaska, so its a very unstable thing, if your a spouse you can move wherever you want as long as its near your home of record which is near the meps station you inprocess in before getting shipped to basic, good luck.
811600
My husband has been to Iraq twice, the first time for 15 months and the second for 10. He leaves again next summer for another year. The thing that helps me the most is being around other military spouses and families, because they know what I am going through (and don't ask annoying questions like "how do you do it" or "what would you do if he died" or say things like "I could never do that, it must be so hard waiting on him.") I know that being around military families may not be an option since you may not live in the town with him. The first deployment we weren't married yet and I lived in a non-military area. It was different but I was able to find a couple of people (reservists wives, etc) that were going through the same thing. If you can't find someone to hang out with, try an online support group, Yahoo Groups has a lot of them for military girlfriends/fiancees.I also do my best to stay busy, which for me has meant going to school full time. I am graduating soon, and I am planning on doing a lot of volunteer work and staying home with our baby on this next deployment. Anything that will keep you busy and keep your mind off of it as much as possible is a good thing. I also recommend writing to him as much as you can, every day if possible. I like to tell him about my day and "talk" about the kind of stuff we'd talk about if he were home for dinner. That way I don't feel like he's missed out on a whole year of my life. Mail - letters, pictures, packages - are always appreciated when they are deployed. \n\nI know it sucks, but after he has been gone for a little bit you will get into a routine. You will also learn what works for you and what doesn't. I found that the second deployment was easier because it wasn't such a new experience and it was easier for me to get into my "deployment routine." I have also found that if you wake up and tell yourself that it's going to be a good day, and don't allow yourself to do otherwise, you will feel a lot better. Good luck with his deployment and know that everything will be ok because you love each other. When he gets home all the pain and sadness will be worth it, I promise!
931651
I'm sure your husband got his orders well in advance.  He was supposed to go to an appointment with TMO to set a date for movers to come pack your belongings and move them.  Since YOU didn't do this, it will be impossible for the govt to set you movers in such little time.  You will have to rent a Uhaul, move your belonging and wait to be reimbursed by the Govt.  DO NOT SHIP YOUR BELONGING UPS.  The military will NOT cover this kind of shipment as they are NOT an approved carrier.  YOU NEED TO CONTACT TMO IMMEDIATELY.  How did you go so long without do this?  This must be your first move EVER or you would have known what to do!  Iam very sure that the military told your husband what to do.  We have been in for years and years and have never been left in the dark.  But we are AF, sounds lke you must be Army\n\nIf you really don't have that much stuff and the boxes are of a size that can be shipped by UPS, go ahead and do it!  The military won't reimburse you for it but if these are things you have to have, do it!  The Army can't stop you from shipping your things in the way you choose but they do prefer you do things in a certain just so they can cover thier bases.  My husband received his order in Tech School but he had a month before he had to report.  Once he received his order, I went to TMO and set up the appointment to have our goods shipped (I had a power of attorney).  Since your husband is Active, you will be the one coordinating and doing alot of these things from now on You need to familiarize yourself with EVERYTHING military and make sure you have a power of attorney at all times.  It will make things a lot easier for you all.  It seems like the Army doesn't take care of thier people like the AF does.  Everytime we move, it's almost like they hold our hands and make sure everything gets done.
659438
Ive been in the Military for over 19 years. 3 of those in the Army National Guard.  Most recruiters wont sign a person for less than 3 years.  The training  alone can take up to 1 year in some military specialties...  The chance of being deployed anywhere is "good".  If your husband is prior service then he might only be sent to school to learn his primary job.  If he isn't prior service then he will be sent to boot camp to learn to be a soldier, then posibly sent right away to his School.  After all of that he has a very good chance of being deployed at least for 2 weeks durring his normal drill year (1 weekend a month and 2 weeks durring the summer) he also will have a good chance of relieving one of the units currently over seas... If you have a problem with this Im sorry. But being deployed is always a part of being employed with the Army, Marines, Navy, or Air Force or their reserve components to include the Guard... Good Luck.
1170310
He might as well just stay where he is. He wont be able to get out completly with an honorable discharge. If he were to switch to another branch (very difficult to do, you should contact your local recruiting station) his time would restart and he would end up staying in the armed forces longer.
1086580
Well, OF COURSE there is hope.  There is also a huge amount of work and effort ahead of the two of you.  Did you move to Germany with the military by any chance ?  \n\nIn any case, he is working and you are in a foreign country which - unless you ARE on a military base  - pretty much precludes you from working too.,  (If you are on a base, go to the Civilian Personnel Office and sign up for the spouse sprefernce jobs.)  Now you need to find some things to fill your time while he works.  That would serve two pruposes: 1) you would be more fulfilled in your own right and 2) there would be less pressure on him to "be" the whole of your life.  Right now it seems, with what little information you have provided, that you are relying on him to make you happy because you have nothing else to take up your time - he, on the other hand, is working and cannot be everything to you.\n\n(By the way, no husband should have to be "everything" to his wife, nor should any wife have to be everything to the husband.  You need to have a life of your own - something that interests you and expands you as a person - something that you bring to the marriage to improve the relationship yo have there.)\n\nIf you are a military spouse - and you can see that I strongly suspect that you are - then you are going to have to get used to the absences.  Check in with the Enlisted Spouses Club and find some other spouses like yourself - some who have been in the service for awhile and get the lowdown from them.  The military is a different life than a civilian one back in the states.\n\nEven without a job, there are many things you can do in Germany!  Oh, you lucky dukling, you!   There is SO MUCH to see over there - it is a beautiful country.  Look into the MWR activities - there should be some inexpensive day trips that are being arranged. Go see things so that you have things to share wiht him.  Make sure the house is kept up - because you are, after all, the housewife at this time.  (Also because the military expects it and it is HE who will be dinged if it is not done.)  That way, when you two DO have time together, it can be relaxing and not filled with "Honey Do" lists.\n\nOnce you build your life there in a way to keep youself busy, and release the pressure on him to take care of your entertainment and social needs, then you can begin to talk to him about spending the time he does have available for you in a quality way.\n\nGood luck!
528555
I was married for a year when my husband was deployed to Iraq for a year.  I know alot of women go home to stay with family but I stayed at our duty station.  My advice would be get involved with alot of activities (FRG, spouses clubs,volunteer for daycare programs, etc), work alot and find a few close friends.  My husband came  home for two weeks RnR after 6 months of deployment. The time went by alot faster than I thought it would.  Good luck to you.
145280
Just go. Let him be the one to do the legal thing. My husband's ex-wife did it (new husband in military) and they moved to Hawaii (we live in Louisiana). We have not seen my husband's daughter in almost 3 years because they transferred again and we've no idea where they are.
445213
My husband was deployed for 14 months so I know what you are going through. Thank goodness my husband is home now and I wish your husband a safe and quick return also. You can e-mail me at thetravelingmartins@yahoo.com. I will be more than happy to talk with you. I few suggestions to make the time pass are send your husband a care package every week or every other week. Take a calendar and put an X through each day that has passed by. Use the time to discover more about yourself. E-mail me and I will give you some ideas of what you can send him to show that you care for him. Trust me, your husband will appreciate this. Many of my husband's friends came home from Iraq and discovered that their wives had left them and taken all of their money. Anyways, I hope this helps.\n\nNote- to the person who wrote about the FRG. Not every FRG is a good group. Mine was nothing but a gossip and husband bashing group.
531554
I understand how you feel. My spouse is in the service and it kills me when he has to deploy. Unforunately, you can't stop him from going but you can do alot to help the time pass. \n\nSurround yourself with friends and family, pick up a hobby, concentrate on raising and playing with your baby, go to the gym or go swimming, start an online journal....the list goes on.\n\nTry to keep your head up. Letting your Husband know that you are upset will make him upset and we both know that'll just add more stress to his situation. It'll be hard but try to stay positive.\n\nIt is definitely tough....but remember....there is nothing like a great homecoming.\n\nI hope I helped. :-)\n\nGod bless.
78528
if you are dating yes. once you are married, you get stationed at the same base... (if you are in the same service) good luck!
712375
My husband is in the military.  We were engaged when he was in Germany and I was in Michigan.  We married when he returned and moved to Fort Jackson, SC.  The move was easy, the military moves you.  Just say good bye to friends and family and keep in touch with them.  Being deployed is a worry I have every day.  He already has been once.  It is probabley the hardest thing anyone goes through.  You just have to be ready, be supportive, be faithful, and be sensitive to your man.  Good Luck and God bless.