How do i deal with the ex wife?
412656
i would tell you boyfriend how you feel about his ex wife. tell him that you really don't feel right her staying there. she is worried that you are taking what she had first but how i see it she was the one that let go of him and she thinks that he is going to wait around for her to come back around a crap. i would tell him everything that you don't like about her, what you think about her. just tell it how it is girl. because that is just going to hurt you guys in the long run because she might try to say something to him or something that will mess everything up. or try to start crap.
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
38178
You don't, she's something that you are going to have to live with, even if you divorce her.  So in my opinion, you should just make it work.
152606
If you really want to get along with her, try showing her the same respect you'd like to receive from her.\n\nIf you are trying to get on her good side, just to get over on her, you are just going to make it harder for her to trust your sincerity later on. \n\nHave you thought how this is affecting your dad. He loves you and his wife. What's he supposed to do stuck in the middle.
217765
Why are you help your ex wife???
177622
The game playing has to STOP!! The two of you need to sit down together and talk without yelling just talk about everything and then try and decide what is the best for the both of you! It a serious matter you have a child involved and need to figure it out but please don't get back together just because you have a daughter because if you and your ex wife aren't happy its going to cause alot of problems and its going to be a real bad environment for everyone! My closet friend is going through this right now I have so many friends that are in the same situation, You have to remember that you as a person deserves to be happy! You and your ex need to work it out so you can see your daughter more no matter what happens because she is the most important person RIGHT NOW!!! You can always try counseling maybe you and your ex could go work together not against each other! GOOD LUCK i hope that i helped
583278
this is one of the problems you encounter when you get involved with a guy that has an ex and kids. not much you can do. you didn't say how many kids he has but..she won't be able to get away with it forever, plus when he goes to the hearing he needs to let them know how much of a hardship she is creating for him. as far as child support goes they fill out financial statements etc. eventually the divorce will be granted whether she signs or not. aside from that, who cares what she is blaming it on? that doesn't change the reality of anything so don't even worry about that, it isn't worth the energy. if you really love him very much you won't let this come between you, you knew his situation when you started dating him, no point in complaining about it now, just deal with it the best way you can. she will eventually get over it and move on, it could be a long road though so just buckle down and hang in there and make sure he fights for himself and doesn't just hand her whatever she wants out of guilt. good luck to you, it will get better!
622449
You've done all you can. You've discussed the situation with your ex husband and the new wife. What else can you do? Don't force your children to go over because that will only make them resent him because of her.\n\nTell your ex he can come over and spend time with the kids at your house without bringing his wife because she is not welcome around the children. \n\nHe'll start to get the hint.
866558
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .\n\nNow you have your anger to deal with . . .\n\nTry seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .
274344
It is pretty obvious that you did not have everything resolved when you divorced the ex.  I think the only thing you can do at this point is to discuss your feelings with your current husband.  There is a reason why you are with him and this is something that if left unchecked may cause a problem in your current marriage.  Next, maybe you need to seek counseling with your current husband in regards to your feelings about your ex.  I am quite sure there are people out there that still have feelings for their ex's, but they realized they are divorced for a reason.  I guess what I am saying is you need to do some soul searching and try to limit any problems before things get out of hand.  Be honest with yourself and seek whatever help you need to preserve your marriage (current) because that is who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.\n\nGood Luck with what ever you decide and I'll pray for you!!!\n\nWT
438894
You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
824961
My hubby doesn't have an ex wife, but I do indeed hate his ex girlfriend!  She is the only person on this earth that I despise enough that I would actually punch her in the face if given the chance!  (It's a good thing she lives 1200 miles from us, huh!)
87880
Unfortunately, hon, there is nothing you can do  except stand beside both and be there to pick up the pieces and help them move on.  Try not to take sides, but stay neutral because they will both still be in your life.  Divorce is hard on all involved all the way around.  Sorry I couldn.t be of any other assistance.  May God Bless - Take care.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
534449
I know this is going to be hard to hear.....LET HER GO!!!\n\nDon't try to plot any ill will against her that will only hold you back...if she has moved on with someone else then you need to take time and heal and move on...\n\nDon't hold a grudge, when you hold a grudge it is like drinking poison and waiting for her to die...you are just going to be killing yourself and driving yourself crazy..\n\nI am sorry that this has happened to, I hope it all works out for the best!
973345
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto!   There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
927078
No your not, he could have just said this is my wife and this is and said the ex's name, or he could have said this is said the ex wife's name and then said and this is my wife and then said your name.\n\nConsidering that you have just said that the ex-wife threatens and shouts at him a lot, maybe he just thought it would be easier to do that than having to deal with her. However all you can do is support him and love him and try not to deal with her drama