i want to have a stable relationship wiht my husband .?
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You know, I'm really proud of you because you know what true love is, eventhough you were hurt, you still love the person and want to be with him. The first you should do is to know what the root of the problem is, try to find out what caused your husband to find someone else and cheat on you. When this things happen, we should not always think that your partner is the problem eventhough it is their fault most of the time, let's try not to be bias, let us look at orselves, ask yourself "Is there a problem with me?", or "Am I giving enough time and attention to him?" These questions will really help you examine your own self and discover some of your negative sides. But don't compare yourself to the woman he's seeing right now because all of us are different and its not a good attitude to compare yourself with others because it develops insecurities. After that, try to talk to him and prove him how you love him so much, be honest and make sure will be able to tell him all that you feel. Let him realize that it will be better that your children will grow-up seeing you together because their primary need is not money, food, good house, but a whole and happy FAMILY... Goodluck to you...
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He should not be bossy and neither should you in this situation. He should be the head of the home though and make all the major decisions and you should be allowed to have input in this too. Compromise is important here. I recommend the book the Power of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian to you. It is a great book and they sell it in places like Walmart. Love your husband where he is at and maybe he is bossy because you are.  Try not to be so bossy and let him lead some and see what happens.
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See a marriage counselor.  They are pretty good at letting you know if it will work out.\n\nIf you love him, he is probably right for you.\n\nBelow is a fun Mr. Right quiz...
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Ask yourself if you can live with all the in differences sounds like it might be difficult to always have him being the one who is right and in control you have to do what makes you happy any relationship is a 50/50 deal :)
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I think you already know.  You are not happy in this marriage, your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all.   You don't see any way to get him to change and you don't want to live this way.  I don't like to recommend divorce but if all you say is true than I think that would be the best thing if you want a happy future for yourself.
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Setting ground rules is important - as is following through with these. Discuss with your husband that it takes TWO to make a marriage work well and that accepting responsibility is an integral part to it. Make it very clear that you will not tolerate irresponsible behavior and lead by example by doing specific things to show him what responsibility entails. When he does act responsibly acknowledge such behavior with specific praise. This will help him realise exactly the kind of things that you expect from him. Remember: things are hardly likely to change overnight as habitual behaviors take time to establish. So keep at it and before long you will be rewarded for your persistence. Goodluck! :-)
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you should get a divorce.then again does that other person feel the same way about you .you need to be true to yourself and your husband.it is not eair to him
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both of u need 2 realize that just because u have Ur differences does not make it wrong.here's what I mean,if its ingrained that u do something one way n hubby does it another both r OK,u do not have 2 agree on everything u just have 2 agree not 2 disagree about it.learning 2 overlook the small things and not make them into big things will help both of u keep Ur sanity.communication helps but if both of u see it differently its not going 2 change and if its the way u feel why should u either of u.its okay 2 be different just learn 2 love the things u do more n not sweat the stuff u dont.actually the stuff u dont love about ur spouse ends up being what u look back at with fondness lol sadistic isnt it.u 2 need 2 relax n stop sweating the small things n try banding 2gether against the bad things.different does not mean seperate,it just means compromise and the ability 2 overlook the small stuff.
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You cant hold on to something thats not there...You can continue to do your end of the vows and pray that he will have a change of heart but ultimatley in marriage love comes and goes but its commitment to that person that will keep a marriage.  Apparently hes never had that commitment to hold on to you for "better or for worse".  He obviously moves according feeling not any thing else.  You keep your end if hes not willing than let it go--More advice? chrystaldr@yahoo.com
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It will work as long as you trust each other and you are committed.  I am in the same situation.
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You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
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IF YOU DO HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING OVER YOU,\nTRY TO TALK IT OVER WITH YOUR HUSBAND.\nHOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YOU.
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Be open, responsive, and willing to compromise. It isn't always easy, but if u can do this, your relationship will stay strong
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Clearly think this through before you give up on your marriage. If it can be fixed and he hasn't been abusive toward you than maybe you can work on what is wrong.\n\nK
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If you are a spirtual person try reading THe power of a Praying wife. Working on yourself is the best way to work on a relationship. Your husband is responding to you non verbal ques. Its will be hard to "fix" your relationship if you don't figure out what it is you want/need
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Like any other relationship, as long as you're in love you'll stick together no matter the mileage separating you. My hubby was in England, I was in France, then he was in Malaysia and I was still in France - we did that for 3 years before moving in together, and after 10 years we are married. So it works!
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If you just met him, first you have to pray and ask God if He is the right one and you have to get married then you can let him move with you since you are more established. remember you are not a cat or a dog you can't just move in with a man and start having babies. come on you can do better than that.