my best friend has a crush on me...what to do?
404575
if you dont like him like that there isnt much u can do,\nive been in that situation and all you can do is wait for them to find someone else they like alot.\nits unfair to expect them to just deal with it
1111260
only u can decide..... no one can help u...... go with person who understands u better...one who is more caring,loving,protective,respects u.....and it also depends whether ur best friend likes u that way or not......give it some time......dont rush into anything
375118
ask urself first. do u have any feeling for her? if no feeling for her., just be best friends.
928405
Take a breath first! You gotta be honest with him asap..the longer this goes on, the more he's going to think there is something between yall that's more than friendship.. Tell him you like hanging out with him, but you like someone else..He can take it, the sooner the better..it's cool that you care so much about hurting someone's feelings..
592460
i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
199270
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
969562
This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
679859
Do not end the friendship with him, but don't pursue him romantically either. Guys come and go, but best friends should be forever.  \n\nHowever, if he likes you and HE makes a move, talk to your friends about this and ask if they think it would be okay, because they would likely say yes, and you get to be with him and keep your best friends.\n\nBut if you make a move, your best friends may not like you so much anymore, and if he doesn't return the feelings, then you have no best friends and no boyfriend.
418304
This always seems to happen. Best friends are best friends because they like the same things...including guys. She isn't doing it to hurt you, she can't help the way she feels. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. See if he has any friends that she may be interested in. If you have a strong, open relationship with your friend, maybe you could talk to her & find out her intentions, tell her how much he means to you & warn her what it could do to your friendship if she tries anything on with him. Don't be mean about it though, not unless she intends to steal him from you.
389954
well if they like your best friend first... if your friend knows it then leave the situation alone becuase you dont wnat any drama, second... if this person knows you like them but arent giving you enought to go with they are playing games with your head. third... never go after someone who dosent want you initially becuasr they can be getting close to you but thinking about your frined! or stay close to you until they can get your friend.  think about it this can go several ways
191083
it sounds like he just wants to be best friends for now.......;)...hang out some more and maybe your luck will change....
838275
I wouldn't make a move on my best friend without being 100% sure he feels the same thing. You might be risking a lot if u tell him and he doesnt feel the same. \n\nSo i'd say if u like other guy start from there... maybe it works with that guy and u forget about ur best friend... if it doesnt work then just wait u have something more concrete before telling anything to yur best friend.
429258
if he is your best friend, there is nothing wrong letting him know how you feel. as long as you know he is not going to use it against your friendship. if he reciprocate favorable with your feelings, maybe it will go to another level? if not, hope you two remain the best of friend....good luck..
597284
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
1143630
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
416679
Why not. If you are open with your communications right now, she may be shy about telling you how she feels about you too. And let her know that no matter how she feels about you, you still want to be her friend. Some of my best friends are guys who love me, but they are more like brothers or close friends to me.
569767
ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!