i love my girl-friend and i can't keep myself of swamping her with gifts...is that bad or good?
397584
You can't buy love. Sure, material things are ok for a while, but in the long run the things you do for her will be much more important. What if you run into money problems together (God forbid) and the things you need to buy are more pressing than the things you want to buy? You will still need to be able to express your love, perhaps in a tight situation, more than ever. So no, it's not wrong however; you need to focus on things like opening doors, taking out the trash, letting her get out with the girls to relax, and cooking once in a while too. Good luck.
694343
Well, you shouldn't have to please her with material things, such as gifts and dinners. Love can not be bought, just like freindship. All you should have to give is affection.
1158987
Call me crazy, but why not go out on a limb and get her something not so cliche'.  If you are truly in love with her you should know her pretty well.  Surely at some point shes mentioned something that could give you a hint at something that she may not even realize she would really love to get or do.  Surprise is the key here.  Maybe even a certificate for the two of you to learn something together. Just make sure it leans towards her likes more than yours.  Buying the roses that you like for her; for her birthday would just make you look selfish and show whose feelings really matter more to you.  Good Luck!
84527
It all depends on how shallow she is. Did you atleast get her a card and write in it?????????????????????? To me its not the gift that counts it's the card. I would rather have a feeling expressed card than a present. A present you just go buy (and some people don't have money) A card you put your heart into. If you don't have money or time now you should do something special, take a walk together, cook for her, rent a movie, write a poem....
159714
If she's already dating you, it shouldn't be something you should feel obligated to do (she already likes you enough to date you). You could still buy some as a special gift, maybe a "hey honey, tonight I'm your fantasy! grrrr!" lol. Ask her what else she likes, incorperate. But no, you should't just change yourself cause she likes it. Be yourself.
854033
talk to her about exactly how you feel. give her a girlfriend gift that will mean very special to her. apologize and always make her laugh. i believe you're a true friend. good luck!!!! ; )
201949
if she doesn't seem happy don't marry her. she should be happy without the gifts. you should be the one who makes her happy. you do many wonderful things, and it sounds like she isn't as in love as you. get out now before you really get hurt. (it will already hurt) and by the way, what is your phone number, you sound wonderful.
308430
just YOURSELF will be the biggest, most bestest and the most precious prezzy she would ever want to see and have babe.....i will say that......\nbut if you really want to give her a gift, i reacon this works all the time....make her something, dont go buy it....could be just a card, at least it came from your heart and your own hands, and its a one-off(original)...you know...have a good trip when you go see g/f....
1077894
This is a question as old as time. Yes it is okay to SPEND MONEY ON A GIRL. If she wants a new pair of shoes then go and get her a nice pair and offer it to her as a gift, but when it comes to love that is a diffrent story. The only problem with that is that, you are trying to make her believe you love her by getting her something, and in all honesty you might be coming off as "I bet I could buy her?" and I know your situation its more like "How can I show her I love her, maybe if I got her something she liked then she would know that money means nothing compared to her", so what you have to do is play this right.\n\n1. Don't buy something over the top (Keep It Simple Stupid -KISS)\n2. Make sure it is something she will love not something she would like to have (Roses say more than shoes)\n3. Try to add a nice touch to it (Get her 11 roses, and 1 fake rose and leave a note saying "I stop loving you when the last rose dies)\n4. Try to make it have meaning (If she loved her dog, but it passed away, get her another one, but NOT OF THE SAME BREED. You don't know what kind of shit she went through)\n5. And finally MAKE SURE SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY\n\nAnd tell her you love her, before and after the gift giving. GOOD LUCK :)
782000
i know how you feel man, my girlfriend is the same way. you just gotta guess what they would want and hope your right. just get her something that would fit her personality. and another tip most woman like a whole bunch of little stuff. because they know you had to actually spend time looking for allllll that stuff, and then they now that there worth your time. well hope this helps!
976284
Man, I wish I was so cool that I could get presents from people who cared about me and then insult them on a public forum.\n\nGrow up.  And leave her.  She's way to good for you.
123063
Well from a girls standpoint. I would not have accepted it.  If it was the other way around, I would be upset....but...have to remember, who is it that she comes home to at night?  If the trust and respect is there....take comfort in that.  Maybe she didn't want to hurt his feelings.  If she told you about it right away, she cares enough about you to not have hidden the gift.
388110
It doesn't matter money doesn't buy Love or a friendship...You can make her something to show how much you care, spend the day with her, cook for her, just any little thing to show her you do care and like a Good Friend she will understand and maybe later you can make it up and buy her something...Some of the best gifts come from the heart.
866890
That would be incredibly romantic and sweet and all of those things that thoughtful gifts should be! One song is so much effort....of course it is enough. She will probably be weak in the knees just knowing you put that much trouble out for her.\n\nShe will always remember your song and what you did and it will always make her happy to think about it.\n\nYou are an awesome, kind, and caring person to do something that sweet.
522791
Definitely. It's not necessarily material things. She may need somebody to talk to, pour her problems. . . She may need you to fix her computer or something. . . Or she wants to relive you previous sweetness. . . the possibility is endless. One thing is for sure- she want something from you, be it material, emotional.
484582
i love the gift, its very sweet\n\nwhat i think you ought to do is just tell her\n\nshe's going to expect you to ask her directly, anyway, because of the hanging out ya'll do anyway....just say something like "can we turn this hangin we do into something more meaningful?"\n\ngood luck!
967278
No, he doesn't deserve presents. A card is more than generous. A gift is a gift, it's not mandatory and for your sister to even insist that he get one is not only rude, but down right a poor show of manners. If she is insistent that you get him a gift, then perhaps she can share hers. Whatever you get her, just stick his name on it too. Someone who can't make an effort to get to know the family of the girl he *loves* doesn't deserve anything more.