i just got back wit my ex,what should i do to make sure it doesn't end like before.?
411907
sit down together and make a list of the things that you do not want to go wrong this time and give it to each other.  Have the communication lines open. You might consider counseling this time around.  Having a third party to hear both sides without taking sides is a start.  You might just go 1 x a month, then go out to dinner after or grab an ice cream to make sure that after things are said in counseling, you are still ok and still in love.  Be sure to say I love you every night before bed no matter what the day was like and tell her you are so glad that you are back together.  Good Luck!
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
87517
u should let her kno tht u would like to see other people before you jump back into that relationship again, there's probably a reason tht u broke up in the first place!don't disrespect her...treat her as though nothing happened between the two of you.\nhope i could help!! good luck!!
133365
There is not much you can do.  From experience it is best to keep your distance. It will make it easier for your ex in the long run trust me.  Cut your losses and move on before you worry about something that just takes time to heal the wounds. If you keep hanging around and continue to permit yourself to be subjected to him you could possible make it harder on yourself and get hurt in the long run.
778544
The pressures of a relationship are gone. Also, some women and men like what they can't have. So, enjoy your friendship. If you want to get back together with her, then you should take it slow. I am trying to get back with my ex girlfriend but I have to have patience and wait. Good things come to those that wait. If you just want her as a good friend, that's already done. Just have fun with her.
566981
You need to get on the phone and call all of your friends. Have lots of girls nights out. Have some fun. Forget about him. Its hard, you will think about him all the whole time. But force yourself to keep busy. Keep your mind busy. Eventually it will get easier. Your ex is playing you and his girlfriend. He feels insecure about himself and his current relationship. He isnt worth your time of day! Don't you feel sorry for her that he is actually leading you on. Telling you that he is going to come back to you? Wouldn't that be considered "emotional cheating" on her? Think- if he is doing this to her, then he must have done the same to you. You are better then him. Go OUT ! Have fun while you are single. If it was meant to be, then so be it. But don't wait your precious time sitting around waiting for him when you could be spending it with people who really care about you- "your friends & family" Who knows, one of these days you might meet somebody who treats you with respect, "unlike your ex" and then you can tell him.... "Now who will be sitting around waiting..."\n\nHave fun!
227283
I think maybe you should take a break from this guy.  Sounds like you are the only one getting back together with him.  There is someone else out there for you.
193021
Sounds like you are both in a better place to have an adult relationship now. When people ask about getting back together with an old flame I always ask them to try and think about what is going to be differant this time so you don't end up breaking things off again.\n\nYou are your ex need to have a serious discussion about what went wrong last time and how you can BOTH make sure that those types of things don't happen again.\n\nBest of luck
1052964
You were with your ex for so long that now you feel like no one else can compare. You are so young, now is the time for you to find yourself. To find out what you really want out of life, and a guy. No way you can no that if you have no experiences to base your decision on. I say you move on and focus on you for a while. If its meant to be with you and your ex... you'll get back together again.
888204
Stop worrying, you won't get anywhere like this. If it is going to work then it will and it sounds like your both enjoying each other so just relax.
533221
Just tell the new guy the truth.  That your sorry, but you and your ex expectantly got back together and that you hope he understands.  If he is a really nice guy he will wish you the best and everything will be cool.  These things happen sometimes.
279455
Give her and yourself some time.  You may get back together, or you may find someone else that you like.
757413
ive been there done that, and i did end up gettin back together with my ex, for a lil while.\n\ni suggest u think abt the fact if she would still want you back? does she love you? do u love her? can u work things out??\n\nthink abt these questions and answer then, and once u have a solution go and decide what u want to do,\n\nyou see, maybe she still loves you and she is going through the same thing so all hope is not lost, uve just lost her for a lil while, but if u hang in there, and since she is ur ex girlfrind that means u know her already, so try figuring out what she wants and what she needs, try fixing what went wrong, go back into her life and try being the man that she needs you to be\n\n\njust remember to have hope and hang in there, and maybe if after reading this u wanna call her, go and do that, but just incase it does not work out with her, its a lesson learnt and soon u may  just meet the one for you\n\n\nall the best, \n\nremember its your life, its in your hands, try figuring it out and live it
644343
I would ask for a stronger defination of your relationship.\n\nFlip the tables back on her. How would she feel if you were still in contact with your ex?\n\nHer answer dictates your next step.
517175
Be sure of your self dude , by the way she is your EX...\nor maybe she did not have a good connection at the time, it happens man , these new cell towers are not working right some times ;-)
157311
Move on.. grow up. If you parted ways on a positive note, keep it that way. So when you "accidentally" meet them elsewhere someday, you can still say "HI" with both your heads up.\n\nStop keeping in touch... this will give them false hopes - unless you intend to get back together. Just move on with your respective lives with no hurt feelings.
697145
Both of you sound somewhat immature - why not suggest not getting back together for a while and seeing how you both feel six months or a year down the line.