Does marriage really matter if you're having a baby?
406241
Marriage should not be the result of a child. It should only reflect both your love between you 2. If you dont feel up to marriage or you have discussed and you beleive it wont work, then dont go ahead with it.\n\nKeeping the child is also the correct thing to do. If you have not told your boyfriend about it, then please do as that will sort out a lot of things before anything bad happens. Nothing "Should" come "First". It happened and you have to look ahead not backwards.\n\nTo sum up, if you trully beleive that you 2 are so much in love and have talked it over, then go ahead to marry. If not, then discussing ways to raise the child is the right thing to do. Living together (even if not married) is also another option. Just as long as the child has both a mother and a father.\n\nHope this helped you;)
225615
if you dont really love him, do yourself, your kid, and him a favor and dont marry him, the fact that he lacks between the sheets shouldnt be a factor in marriage. you marry someone because of how you feel about them and how they feel about you.  sex comes with it but in my opinion shouldnt even be a deciding factor in weather or not you marry somebody. there is just so much more to it than sex.
675942
Congratulations! A baby is always a blessing in disguise. Talk through your concerns with your partner, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. Good luck!
676683
smh. If you dont know what goes in a wedding, how are you gonna survive marriage. but hey thats neither here nor there. Since you already have a baby, you might as well get married. You can google, wedding planning, You need to hire a preacher/pastor/reverend, get things set up with your city hall or town hall, to actually be married legally, you will sign the documents at the wedding. You need to send invites and have the people RSVP and by that, you will be able to tell, who is coming so you can have enough chairs in the wedding and reception. Plates, forks, spoons, decorations, dresses, shoes makeup, Have a list on the invitations asking 3 choices of what people want to eat (chicken, beef, fish)
268373
It isn't marriage that causes the change in a relationship, it is time.  Marriage is a commitment that you will give your all to a relationship for good or bad including surviving the vestiges of time.
875435
I would not advise getting married. You are too young to be debating marriage. Don't rush into marriage. Marriage is more than "I Love You".
1076974
That situation wouldn't make me feel any different than I do now. I have a good job and I am able to take care of my kids myself. If I don't get married, it won't be the end of my world.  People can be too dependent on each other.
449349
As long as it isn't putting your child in a bad place, e.g. bad schools, worse chance at life, I don't see why not.  Why not get married first?  Will your parents let you back if you decide it isn't right?
97577
Well, I don't think marriage is necessary. Some people stay partners and committed with our marriage. I think in the sense that it will confuse your children that it might be benificial if you got married. I think it would be tough to explain a commited relationship to kids, when you are not married. \n\nIt will also help in terms of medical coverage, and any medical problems that could arise should some one need power of attorney in case a decision needs to be made on life support.
689577
Just because you get married does not necessarily mean you love your parents less.  The way you love your husband is obviously different from the way you love your parents.  You should love them equally.  Different, but equal.
719062
To an extent, yes, when you marry somebody, you also marry their family....holidays, birthdays, get togethers of any kind bring the entire family together...for better, or worse! The only GOOD thing is after the occasion, you can go home and leave them.
317864
I would say depends on how long you know each other. I would not use marriage just to show that you are together. You might consider just living together for a while/years and if the mood strikes you and both really WANT to get married then do so. It should be your choice, not the choice of people around you. Good luck!
249622
who knows if you'll marry anthony, it's a possibility but no one here is really able to tell. we cannot predict the future here so idk. as for the baby thing, don't go having children until after you're married. if you do it before then you're just most likely screwing up your life.
477549
a lot of people have said that marriage is a partnership. Usually that means there is some kind of consenus on the bigger issues but that doesnt mean they have to agree on everything. Difference is something that should be celebrated and cherised in a relationship. However there are some dealbreakers that it can be important that both sides of the relationship are on the same page, such as gender roles in marriage and whether or not to have kids and how they should be raised. As long as on some of the bigger "dealbreaker" issues the marriage is on solid ground, disagreements about other things are not a bad thing.
1037317
I believe that you should be married before you have sex. And when I say married I don't mean the little piece of paper saying that you love someone. I mean the marriage that takes place in each others hearts. And at whatever age that takes place it does not matter. But at least learn about using a condom I have so many friends who get pregnant because there idiot boyfriend does not know how to put it on properly, so do your research.
677852
Why should we discriminate against people who are unable to conceive?  Does that make them any less of a person?  Any two people should be able to get married.  What makes a marriage is love.  Pure and simple.  You can have all the kids in the world and not be in love with your partner.  That is sad.  I would rather be childless and have all the love in the world between my partner and I, than to be married (with children) to someone whom I despise.
340887
If you stay home and raise your family then they will turn out better than kids that have working parents that do not spend time with there kids that much. Plus with each parent working it puts stress on the marriage which is why marriage failures have increased within the last 50 years.