The guy I am dating's web site said he is 48. I found out he's really 58 - 3 weeks later. What should I do?
412039
I dont trust people who lie about their age because they can lie about anything.\neven if he seem to be the kindest man on earth still he is a liar.
293492
No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose
38896
Three weeks is barely a commitment.  Do you see this new relationship going anywhere?  Are you willing to risk ticking him off if he is threatened by going to a concert with someone else?\n\nDo you want to go to the concert, or do you simply want to go out with the old boyfriend?  Figure that out first, and be honest...are you hoping to rekindle something?  \n\nIf you simply want to see a good show with a friend, split the cost of the tickets and tell the current guy.  If he's overly threatened by this after only 3 weeks...run!!!  If he's comfortable, all the better.  If he is somewhere in between, maybe it'll cause him to be a little more attentive to you.  \n\nGood luck and let us know what you decide.
702053
heck...why not?  you do not have a commitment to Mr. 3-year, so why not take a chance with Mr. New-guy?  you might find him to be even better then Mr. 3-year!  start out dating casually, and if things are going well, stick with it.  you will be glad that you went for it instead of waiting around for Mr. 3-year.
777105
Kinda have to laugh at that one. I don't even think of late 20's as a age difference. I'm 36, recently dated a 28 yr old. We would occasionally laugh and he'd call me a cradle robber, and i'd call him a silly boy, but it's all in play. As long as you are emotionally responsible, then the conversation should flow naturally. (I'm into 80's music and star wars~~ yes geeky, I know, but typical of the ladies my age....).... Try starting with stuff like that.
164085
wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.
976646
u should keep Ur personal life away from Ur professional life. don't mix them up & as u said that he is 42 and married then u should not think that way.\nhe is secured in his life & if u have a relation with him in future with his consent even then ur relation as well as ur future will always be insecured.\nthe right way is to forget him & wait for the right person to approach u.
392592
I would just take it slow.  He still has time to grow and learn about life.  Maybe he really would like to do that with you.  Some guys are more ready than others. Just take it slow so u dont get crushed.   The age thing is not a huge deal.  Really you are not that much older than he is.  He could be serious.  Just realize that he is not established yet.  If you are and are comfortable with that, then go for it!!!!
65824
OMIGOD girl, my guy has forgotten so many annaversaries, or just been broke on my birthday.  It's incredible, he's been doing good for the last few years.  I still love him.  If you really care about the guy, give him another chance.
276909
When I was 29, I began dating a 42 year old.  That was 8 years ago!  We're now married with two kids.\n\nFrom the first moment we met, there was no doubt that he was "the one".  Age was irrelevant.
87756
Look for others close to your age.Perhaps he doesn't want to get into trouble for dating someone really younger than him. If you get older it won't matter so much. However, now is not the right time.
859399
32 is not old, you're just in a slump girl, we all get to feeling a little bad sometimes and take it out on ourselves via age or looks or weight etc..  32 is in no way old and you are doing just great!  keep your chin up and eyes bright, things will get better for you and you will once again realise how young you are!  Stop looking for that special guy and you'll be surprised just how fast he shows up.  Did enjoy the "spinster" part though, <thump you on head>  quit being so tough on you will ya please?  LOL  Life doesn't even start until 50 or so they tell me, am surely hoping they are right too.
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when i was 21 i dated a guy who was 43. it was nice and ironically we did have lots in common as far as interests and goals in life.\nwe had alot to talk about so it's not like it was all physical. he was there when i was sad to rub my back and tell me i'd be alright and vise versa. so like everyone else has been saying. as long as you are of legal age you should be fine. as long as you guys actually like eachother, enjoy eachothers company and have much in common then there is nothing wrong at all. that doesnt mean your a gold digger or a player it just means you've found a refined man instead of a childish boy. ;)
113650
If you had to ask or even wondered,  then he probably is,\ndump him and move on. I have a man with an expiration date, and his time is almost up.
105233
You really like this guy, but you think he is to old for you? He is to old for you, forget him untill you are 18, seriously he could actually get in some deep trouble if lets say you two hooked up and he turned 18 and you are still a minor, for instance you two are lets say having sex. \n\nNot trying to be mean but I really would doubt he will give you the time of day, you are in Jr. High and he's a Junior in High School. Think of the &$%# he would get if he was dating a girl in Jr. High. I'd move on if I was you, age does matter when it comes to one being a minor and the other is of legal age. ( or in this case probably close to legal age )
104625
16 dating a 20 yr old is a lot different than 13 dating a 17 yr old.  The maturity gap is huge, and yes it is illegal since you're a minor, and when he's 18 he can go to jail, I'm not sure about now.  You should find out what your laws are for where you live regarding minors.\n\nIn the meantime, you should just be friends with him but don't date him, and by all means don't do anything physical with him.  Wait until you're at least 17 or 18 before making any real decisions, you might think you're mature but you still have many years to go and you'll change your mind on a lot of things as you get older.
365500
pssst, it's me.  We talked on YIM a lot.  ;)\n\nMy opinion was that you should see how 1 date goes.  If you both have a spectacualr time, then at the end tell him your age.  He won't care whether of not you're 15 if he enjoyed the date.  : )\n\n\nLet me know if ya need more help, Good Luck,\n-Alexis