how do you get over your ex when you still inlove with him?
304562
Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.
925741
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...
1094794
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
333753
you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
817026
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
1077564
You probaly won't get over the feelings ever. To get over him, date him. Then you'll see how much of a jerk he really is. And then you wont like him anymore.
375461
just go talk to him.tell him how u feel.\n communication is the key to all relationships.\nif he cant get over it move on leave him alone it will be hard but with time it will get easier.
955717
Your relationship with your ex is not completely over, you don't have closure OR you were so content in the  relationship you cannot adjust to the change fast enough.\n\nYou have to analyze your feeling honestly and openly and you will get the answer.
670499
Theoretically, the very fact that you broke up with him should release you from caring about whether he still loves you romantically or not...if indeed you are over him yourself.  The only way to really know anything is to inquire.  Go up to him and ask him, if you don't think he will be honest, then don't ask him.  You will at least know that you will never know.  If you are truly over him, then I'm sure you don't care that much anyway.  You think about him because he was a part of your life once, other than that, he is of no consequence to you...theoretically.  Good luck finding out the truth.
236533
1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
634527
WELL get over it, and think and ask yourself, did he do his best to get you back, and does he really deserve you,OF COURSE NOT OTHERWISE YOU WOULD NOT BE DIVORCED\nHE DOESNOT LOVE YOU, YOU BETTER FIND TO YOURSELF SOMEBODY ELSE WHO REALLY LOVES YOU;
1124935
If you finally over him and you were dating someone else..You must not have any burden in yourself..\nthey said, when you moved on... you forgive someone on the past. Forgive is to forget.  The more you kept the burden inside the more you will feel difficult to open your hearts to someone...Always remember " What Peter's does, Juan will not" \nNot all people are the same. There is always a reason for everything that happens to your life...You just need to look for the positive side,  be grateful that he is not the person you will have spend for the rest of your life.\n\nI've been to your situation before, but when Ive met my husband thats the time I realized, thats how God made everything.  He will do something even if it hurts you so bad.  But in turn he will give you the best when you least unexpected...\n\nDont expect when you loved someone that he will return the love you gave to him.. It just a matter of trust, confidence, and enjoying each other companionship.  Building relationship is a matter of compromise.  It takes a hardwork to make it better...\n\nJust forget the past...\n\nI hope this helps..
400766
I feel the same way. My boyfriend broke up me last week and I just can get over it. They don't have an effect on it because they probably didn't love us like we love them and we gave them to much of our love. U love him and that's why u can't get over him. Try 2 be friends with him and I know that might be a hard to do.Just pray on it God will bring someone in your life that will appreciate you like u want 2 be appreciate.
891005
Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
593255
I read your question with tears in my eyes because I can relate to what you're feeling.  It's been almost 4 months since my relationship ended and I still think about him.  It is really hard to forget someone and I don't think there's a "cure" to stop thinking or missing him.  I have found that the more time has gone by, the easier it gets.  He's still in my mind, but not as often and it doesn't hurt as much as it did in the beginning.  I have very fond memories of our time together and a part of me will always love him.  Take care of yourself and good luck!
945796
When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
1167716
show your current boyfriend some respect.  if you don't love him anymore, breakup with him.  it may be hard to do but it's easier to get over being dumped than it is to get over being cheated on.