Am I being unreasonable?
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Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
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Yes you are possessive. You say hes good to you all week? Then you say he is with you friday night and or saturday? So he gets time with his friends once or twice a week. That is not unreasonable.\n\nGive him some space. No guy is going to put up with you smothering him and not letting him have space. You dont need him 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Let the guy breathe, lady.
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I don't think it's your problem if she believes. If he's asked you to tell them, then you should. Start out by noting that she doesn't have to believe you, but you have things to tell her, and you want to say them all before she tries to interrupt. Then tell her what he says.
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It is your house you have the right to set limits.  And since there are children involved, I say ABSOLUTELY give her the boot.  This is not healthy behavior and could be damaging to your children.  Tell her she is a grown woman and needs to stop acting like a lovestruck teen and deal with this in a mature fashion, and in her own home!
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You are a minnow in a big pond, an inconsequential thing that he might consider if it is convenient.  He perceives your offer is right on the edge of inconsequential.  Now if it looked like you could be very valuable to him, you would have a higher priority.  Right now, he's got piles and piles of things to juggle space and time for, almost all being more valuable than you.  Figure out an advantage (to him) or blow it off.  He's not lying, he's just busy and your value isn't perceived as high enough to merit nailing down the time and effort.  Sorry.  It's like dating a gorgeous woman who can have almost anyman she wants, why would she want you?  You've got to be worth it to her somehow.  This is different from desperate plain Jane's--right now you are behaving like the deseparate plain Jane who is mad that some guy who smiled at you hasn't called.
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Me again, this time it sounds bad.  I think you better think twice about this internet pal you have.  He owes you an explanation.  It is not polite to agree to meet with a lady and then not show up at all.  I don't want to say this, but i think you should move-on.  forget this guy, 2x, no good explanation, that doesn't sound right at all.
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It sounds like both yours and his priorities are noncommittal. Seeing each other when convenient should be enough for now. If this was love you would not have to ask this question.
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I think it is totally unacceptable but at the same time I'm not in your situation.  At the end of the day you are still going to be your own person and make your own decisions.  If you do decide to carry it out then I wish you the best of luck and I really hope it doesn't blow up in your face.\n\nGood luck!!!
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Gosh, I would be resentful too if I were in your situation.  Afterall, he is supposed to be your equal partner, not your dependent.
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I don't think it is too much to ask. If that is where your problems stem from then she will just have to give it up. If she is serious about working things out, she shouldn't mind doing so.
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I was in your exact situation.  Seems like the timing is never right, there's always something. Just tell him how you feel, and that you are ready to get this ball rolling.  Don't give him an ultimatum b.c you are right that will just push him away.  But definitely stress on the fact that you aren't getting any younger.
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That is a very sticky situation. It may work out if you do that.  But it also may end up with them both mad at you for interfering.  I would just be there for both of them and talk it out.  Hopefully with you there listening, they'll work it out on their own.
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no, if he has stayed with you for a year so far, then you guys pretty much are exclusive, if it really bothers you though, then you owe it to him to bring it up, but dont be too forward, kind of bring it up in a round about way, ya know, in a non threatening manner. he wants to know how you feel just as much as you want to know how he feels, he just doesnt want to feel like hes getting an ultimatum. your off to a good start, he sounds like a keeper, just keep it at the pace it is at right now and know that even though he doesnt verbalize, hes yours and your his. good luck, i hope that i was able to help
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The fact that you said you "have" to buy him a present makes it sound more like an obligation than something out of the heart. How about just spending time together? That beats everything. But that's just me.
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No, you aren't overreacting AT ALL. She should not be lying to you. Ask yourself why she lied. Is it possible she's cheating? Find out details before you beat someone up.
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Gently tell her what you told us.  You should not be forced to do what you're not ready for.  It's not like you're ruling it out - you're just not ready.
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I guess you have already tried talking to him. What does he think is "ridiculous", you wanting him to help? I can only tell you what I would do. I would sit him down and tell him " As long as we BOTH have to work two jobs, I am not going to be the only one taking care of everything around the house. If you want a housewife, then you need to support one. Otherwise, we share the chores just like we share the bills". If he cannot see the logic in that, I would be considering leaving. There is no way I would allow myself to be treated that way.