why is so hard to find a man that just want to be loved and to love?
410847
honey the problem is not us but you,stop being so objective and judgmental and allow the man time and space to to feel what you want
815846
because most people don't want the excess baggage of children. They usually want their own children, not your ex lovers kids. That is what I think it is about. I am a single mother. I know the reason that I can't find love is that I am not ready to open my heart again after an 11 yr relationship with my children's father. He left me for another woman. I just don't want that to happen again.
1044928
Yeah baby , It's hard to find LOVE around here
170007
Men are clueless as to what they want, they themselves wishes that someone could tell them, and even if someone did, would they listen, NO, Why? Because they are self opiniated and listen to noone, Its an ego thing.\nWhen we find a good man, you just have to thank all the gods and angels in heaven and on earth.  In the meantime, keep the hope alive and when you come across a loser/liar show them the way to SanJose, better known as hell.
543190
you know, I asked myself a similar question, never been able to find a woman who was the same person when I met her as she was 6 months later, I think there are a lot of us "both men and women" want to be with someone so badly, want to fit so badly, that when it isn't a match, the partner can just see right through it, even though we may sincerely be trying.  But what you have to find, is someone who is into YOU as a person, not necessarily like EVERYTHING about you, but as you said, someone who knows without even questioning, that whatever step you take, he takes the same step right beside you.  They are out there, its just hard to find, because as a womnderful individual as you may be, that person has to be of a certain unique quality that fits you.
691731
Is it hard to find true love ? It depends on individual. It's not the country, it's just the right person that you meet and feeling the sparks. To find the right person is not easy because no one is perfect so you can never find someone you have created in your mind. It's like win some and loose some.You will find one but you are not in a hurry so why worry just make friends and between those new friends that you have there will be one very special person.
827853
maybe its because you try too hard \ndon't fall for someone just because you can \nonce u meet the right guy you'll know
54363
I believe that there is somone for everyone.  Keeping your eyes open is part of it, but you need to be sure you know what you expect and that it is reasonable.\n\nNoteworthy requirements everyone should have would be as follows:  You should look for someone who respects you....this makes it easy to respect him back.  Seek someone who shares common goals and ideas as you...this includes morality and family values.\n\nThere are men out there who are willing to love and BE loved (I am one of them!)  Use your common sense and I am sure you will find him!\n\nTake care and I wish you the best
463265
I guess its cos they're afraid to get tied down & loose their freedom. But really the truth is if you find the right person you dont feel any fear at all. All you want is to be with that person whatever it takes. So in a way if your man doesnt seem to be willing to commit it shows the depth of his feelings for u.
631065
it's very hard to find. most guys are into sex rather than who you are.
882301
In time you'll find the one that's meant for you. It may seem like everyone may say this but it's the true. You need someone that will love you the right way and in most cases it takes awhile for the right person to come along. Be patient.
426061
i believe in lifetime relationships... but a  good man is hard to come by..
242476
Hi, Hope your feeling a little better about yourself when you receive this answer.  Understand the god has made men to be physical, and we are emotional, we need to teach men how to love us.  But you can't no man love you or even more for that matter. first start by loving yourself, and understand if he don't want to be kept, you can't keep him.  Ask yourself does he want to be with me TRUTHFULLY!!  I don't know how your living you life, but if you will find yourself you can truly know real love.  Try getting to know the Lord, and He'll help you find yourself, your true self.  I hope this has helped you start anew.  Have your relationship with the lord(Jesus) First, and He'll send the one for you.  When a man findeth a wife, he finds a good thing.  Proverbs 18:22
192304
You just cant You fall in love with people for different reasons, I know that looks are what people first see but you fall in love more with the personality if you really think about it. I have dated Some hot men but they are all jerks and have bad personalities as i got older for me just looks weren't enough i want to be treated with respect i tired to find both but there is NO SUCH THING so you find someone that looks OK but the personalty is the key
1175361
You can't make guys love you, there is no magic formula to it.  You just have to be yourself, stick to your convictions and the right guy(s) will come into your life.  It may take time, but it will happen eventually and it will be worth it!  Blessings.
362303
No one can MAKE anyone be interested in them or fall in love with them.  That's the beauty of choice.  When you do find someone perfect for you, they get to CHOOSE you and you get to CHOOSE them.  Then you get to live in this great dynamic where you know everyday that you had a choice but chose this person, the same for them.
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Some guys never figure out what they really want & others think that the sole aim in life is to have someone that will sleep with them on a regular basis. There are, however, good men out there...it just normally takes them awhile to gain the maturity needed to be a partner in a relationship.\n\nWhy do they lose you & then want you back? Simple; some are incapable of seeing how good a thing they had until it is gone & immature enough to think that a little "I love you" will make everything better. They don't understand that, if a man really loves a woman, he doesn't intentionally hurt her...whether physically or emotionally.\n\nGood luck & keep trying! You'll find a good guy. I know they aren't all taken :)