How would you seat a mother and stepmother of the bride athe the wedding and reception who do not get along?
409864
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417800
Introduce the bride & groom as they enter the reception, "ladies & gentleman...may I introduce Mr & Mrs  John Smith"...applause applause...you would also do the a toast...tell some funny story about them as children or some anetdote (sp?) that their parents might share...and wish them much happiness yadda yadda...also introduce the band, thank everybody for coming...make various announcements as needed...that sort of thing...oh..& dress real nice too!
667923
Be the mature one about this situation and put an end to it.  Talk to your husband and tell him that you don't want things to be like they are and you feel that your mother-in-law and father-in-law should come over and have a family discussion.  You start off the discussion by saying to your MIL "I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt...I spoke out of  anger when I said I didn't want to see you again and was just venting."  Then explain to your MIL and FIL that you want the family to all get along but there need to be some changes because it really hurts you when your MIl __________________________________  fill in the blank with what she does that bugs you.  That way everything is out in the open, you apologized and showed you are trying to work things out. (Mind you, in the back of your mind you'll be saying...look B+tch, I'm just doing this to make my husband happy...but, she doesn't need to know that.)  Good Luck.
1091680
The Bride is the BOSS at the wedding.\n\nIt's her day... what she says goes... \n\nIf she doesn't want Bridesmaids... done.  Next question?\n\nOh yeah... there IS ONE?\n\nHave them give a toast at the reception... or help with the carving of the cake or something... or just let them enjoy the ceremony as a GUEST.
904623
Why should her parents have to foot the bill since your family will be the ones creating most of the bill?  I suggest you pare your guest list down to the same size as her's, or YOU pay to have your guests there.
1018645
My wife's parents are not LDS, and they felt really bad that they could not attend the wedding of their oldest daughter.  Talk with your bishop before hand to see what he has to say about it.  If you go with it, then I would try and have everything look as close to a real wedding as possible without the actual typical cerimony.  Have someone talk about your marriage giving advise, etc.  In place of the typical marraige ceremony, create a "promise" ceremony where after you make promises to respect and love each other in a variety of ways.  Then after you agree, you can exchange rings then being wished with a happy life together.
914107
Your husband should have stuck up for you! \n\nBut he was most likely scared to offend his mother by doing so...\n\nI would just put on a happy face in front of her, because when it comes to unruly inlaws--noone wins!
842877
this is your day tell them both how you feel and if you want them to both be there ask them to hide their difference for just one day. dont sit them next to each other either at the ceremony or at the reception they dont have to talk to each other or dance together.but i would think they would want what makes you happy. good luck to you and congratulations
594985
Talk to his mom, and ask her what some of their wedding/reception traditions are.  Combine a few of their traditions with a few of your family's, and come up with a few things with your fiance.  It's nice that you are concerned with including your family members.  So many brides take the attitude that it's "MY" wedding, and I'll do what I want.  Including your future in-laws will go a long way in strengthening your relationship with them.
1079994
You cannot use his mother's name on the invitations. She passed away. Be nice to the father's new wife and include her. \n\nWho are inviting the guests? If it is the bride's parents - the groom's parents or the couple itself? Being that you have three children allready, I presume you are inviting the guests? If so; how about letting your children invite?\n\nWe are so happy to see our parents (finally)marrying so and so where and when. We would love to see you blablabla so and so.\n\nGood luck!
199227
Don't get in a tug of war over her son's affections. Ask her advice from time to time, and do mother-daughter kinds of things together. Show respect and include her before she asks to be included. I'll bet you'll get along just fine.
324225
Maybe you should both go to a coulselor and put the wedding on hold. That's what I would do. No need to rush into a wedding if you cannot get along.
875777
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation.  I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year?  Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.\nAlso, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
917718
Sounds as if you are stressing already!  Calm down and take a deep breath!  Is there a number where you can call your mother?  Does she have a cell phone, or do you know where she is staying?  If you can't get in touch with her by phone, then she has no reason to be upset with you when she returns home.  Explain to her your reasoning for having the party at the home of your future in-laws.  After that, make sure you plan something special for the two of you such as looking for your dress, or making further wedding plans.  Above all, remember it is YOUR wedding, and especially if you are paying for it yourself, you need to be able to make the final decisions.  Congratulations and Good Luck!
285508
If Dad, you and your fiance are all good with this, and your fiance realizes that this may or may not do real damage to his (and your) relationship with his mom and grandma, have your wedding where you wish, but please don't press your fiance into choosing to honor your wishes over his mother, only do it if you're really sure he feels okay about it.
1063967
So, just a perspective from the other side...My mother has always been very liberal, and insistent that she is an independent person from my father...To the point that my wedding invitations couldn't say "Mr. & Mrs. invite you", they had to say "Jim & Carrie invite you".  \n\nI remember, as a kid, my friends trying to call her "Mrs. Smith", and she almost yelled at them to call her by her first name.  I think she likes to be identified by her first name, because that's how she has idenitified herself for her whole life.\n\nI was raised to address all people by their first names.  When I didn't know what this was, I asked my friends what their moms wanted to be called...For the most part, these were first names, although there was the occasional Mrs. Someone.  I think that it may be somewhat regional...Are you from the South by any chance?  And perhaps moved away from there?  From what I read in Dear Abby (the obvious all-knowing resource) and such, addressing adults using their last names (or with a title in front of their first name) is a tradition that has been very popular in the South (although I certainly apologize if this generalization doesn't fit your reality).\n\nHonesly, I don't care what people call me, as long as there are no swear words involved.  I have a first name, and it's how I identify myself to everyone.  I also have a last name, but as a woman, it's not the same one I grew up with, so I'm not quite as connected to it as my first.\n\nI think that the only way you can stop it is in your own home, and within your own family.  When your houseguests instructed their children to address you by your first name, it would have been entirely appropriate to say, "Actually, in this house, children address adults more properly.  Please call me Miss Elizabeth" (or Mrs. Jones, depending on what's most appropriate for the manners you were taught).  Also, raise your kids with this expectation, and encourage them to do so with their kids.\n\nGood luck - and thanks for having manners...It's a rare thing these days!
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.