In love with a married man?
403976
Sounds like a loser to me. Get out why you can. If he cheats on her, why won't he cheat on you? How can you respect yourself when you sleep with a married man? \nAnd then you actually can not figure out why you can't find a great guy and have real love? Have some respect for yourself and your relationships. Go find yourself a single and available guy. How can you look at yourself in the mirror after coming between a man and his wife? If he wanted you so bad before then why did he marry someone else?
866543
You must listen to your heart.  Are you really in love with this man or just adoring his mature ways?  Good Luck.
385590
Just remember, if he's a big enough jerk to cheat on his wife, he'll screw you over too.  You're very wrong for entereing into a relationship with a married man.  Marriage is a sacred bond, and you are coming in the middle of that.  Just think of how you would feel if you were married and your husband cheated.....although it would be just the payback you deserve.....
605522
A married man is not going to leave his wife for you. There\nis nothing you can do to make him leave her. That is his wife. they have been together before you came along. How\nwould you feel if you was married and some woman told your\nhusband to leave you? how would you feel once you found out?  You would be hurt. you would be crying and depressed.\nWell that's how his wife would be if he left her for you. \nHe will cheat on you too if he married you. Then divorce you and marry the mistress. Is that what you want to happen?\nBecause it will. It's reality.
64783
i do..But now i'm married with someone else.Still i'm in love with the first.(checked married&divorced yesterday)
707236
Sounds like it. Do you ever think about doing things with him too like going to a movie and stuff like that? Then I'd say yes, you are in love.
258936
Hell yeah! been there done that, Married him.=)The fact that you love aperson withou even seen her/him means you have fallen for this person´s way of mind his toughts, ideas, for what he really is (of course counting on the fact he is honest)this goes beyong physical attraction. I fell for my hubby without even seing a single pic of him and traveled from america to Europe to meet him I guess I had Luck cuz I happened to like to what I saw but anyway my mind was set to meet the guy I loved and would certainly love no minding if he was fat , short ...LOL my whole family and friends told me I was crazy....;)\n\nPs. When 2 ppl meet face to face one does everything to impress the other person and some even pretend to be what they are not so with time it comes to an end, by chatting some people can really open and express what they really are , anyway as i said above counting on the fact this person is honest and serious.
11403
DANGER, WILL ROBINSON.\nDo not do it.  Look for an available (read unattached) man.  \n\nHe may cheat with you, and find you the most facinating creature on earth.  He may treat you like a Goddess and tell you that he can't live without you, that you are the love of his life. \n\nHe felt this way about his wife, once too.   He loved her so much he married her and had kids with her.  \n\nIf you do intice him to cheat, how can you ever have anything real in the future? Even if he does leave his wife and kids.  There can & will NEVER be trust between you because look how it started.  \nStay away.
474589
Yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone without ever seeing them. I actually like to think of it as one of the purest forms of love. :)\n\nAs far as your secret goes, it really depends on the secret. If you're married, you probably shouldn't have been talking to him like a love interest in the first place. If you have a child or something, that's nothing to worry about. If you are both married and have a child, CEASE COMMUNICATION IMMEADIATELY! lol Anyway... \n\nI would have to say that you should tell him this secret. If you can't be completely open with him, then it really isn't meant to be. Trust me. Lies and secrets will ultimately destroy a relationship. Someone eventually finds out. Just tell him, otherwise you'll be stuck in this situation for a while. If he doesn't want to talk to you anymore, it really wasn't meant to be. If he still does want to talk to you, you two will be much better off for it. :) Either way, my point is that you cannot fight what will inevitably happen. If you don't tell him, he will find out eventually...\n\nSo go do the right thing. :)
943431
YES, it is possible! I have been married for three years now and I am totally in love and, at the same time, completely infatuated.
12789
Well given that I've been married for 7 years and known him for 10, I hope this helps. \n\nInfatuation: is like new found love or "puppy love," it's new exciting and makes you flutter like a butterfly in your stomach. you can't stop thinking about them, you want to be around them, know everything that there is about them, and just experience them first hand. With my husband (when he was my boyfriend at the time) was all I wanted to hear, talk to, hold, and be with. He was what I breath and thought about 24/7. \n\nIt wasn't until 3 years ago, that I realized what love was. Love is where your trust is validated, when he takes care of a bill without you yelling, takes care of the kids for you when you are sick. Cooks a meal for you and it's not your anniversary or birthday. But what really made me realize what love was it when I couldn't make love to him and I was sick. He stood by me through it all and nursed me without thought of his own needs. It's when u are satisfied with this person that you are with despite if they leave the toilet seat wet or up, if they leave their clothes and dirty shoes everywhere alone with the kids, shaves and leaves shavings for yout to clean up, loses his job and u have to work for two years, despite what people say about him you stay beside him because you know he loves you. He gains weight and now weights 300 pounds, he loses he's hair and looks more like your dad than your man. IT's where all material, superficial, and nonessential qualities are not the things that makes the relationship and it lasts because of the little things.\n\nI had four kids for him. gained 120 pounds. He made me feel like a queen despite I was huge and was paitent with me when I couldn't make love to him for 6 months. He's been there when it counted and that's why I love him. the infatuation and honeymoon is over for us, but the romance is still cooking.
60106
it is not possible to love them the same way. You will love them equally, but in different ways and there is NOTHING wrong with you and your hubby getting involved with the same woman. As long as she is ok with the fact that he married you why would it be wrong?
203009
I am married.  I love him and still lust him, with all my heart.  He turns me on both mentally and physically and he makes me feel like I am special in his life too by doing things for me all the time.  He's kind, gentle, honest and hard working.  He makes me laugh, he loves me unconditionally ... my heart still skips a beat when I think of him :) ... just talking about him here, makes me smile and realize how lucky I am to have my soul mate with me!!
91116
I know from experience, messing with a married man is just heart break waiting for a place to happen. I am guilty of dating a married man on more than one occassion, and both times I was the one left alone and crying! Though it may not seem fair, it is true.... \nIf you truly feel that he loves you, tell him that you can not handle the stress any longer, and he needs to choose either you or her. Give him no more than 2 weeks to make his decision as you want to make sure it's one he won't regret. Then while waiting, sit and pray that everything will work out in your favor! During this wait also realise that you are not the first one to go through this, nor will you be the last! \nAlso realise that while you may not want to hear everything we say in this forum, that we are all speaking from our own life experiences, and that we do not want anyone to face the pain that we have suffered....\nI wish you luck, and pray that you pain is as little as possible!
135264
Yes sir!  I knew I was going to marry my hubby when I met him.  I had several relationships before him and never had that feeling.  After we actually started dating, I found out that he thought the same thing about me the first time he saw me.  There was just an instant attraction, I guess it was destiny (not to sound corny).  We've been married for 10 years!
201273
Give it some time. Love at first sight is just that, sight. Find out everything you can about this person and let them do the same with you. Once you have done that if that feeling is still there then think about the big Married thing. Whats the rush? If you love them today and it's real you will love them tomorrow.
807695
it is possible to be in love with more than one person. i am guessing you love your spouse and are comfortable with them. and the other one is more exciting now since it is new.that excitement will wan. try and picture yourself with out your husband and examine how it really makes you feel. you have to weigh the pros and cons. good luck i have been there