he is my baby's daddy and i dont know if i wanna b with him he cant keep a job and all he does is smoke weed
401309
Let him go.  YOu don't need someone like that in your life.  You need a man who will help you out and cheer you up not bring you down.  You can do better for yourself and your child.
207387
Keep him busy. Create an environment that does not allow smoking. Every day he should wash the dishes, vacuum the house, dust, clean the toilet, do the laundry, wash all the cars, etc. \nMake him physically understand that his behavior is unacceptable. You run the show. You are the parent...show him who is boss.
331593
HE NEEDS TO STOP SMOKING DA WEED ------------
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
60257
If he got a job would everything be alright or would you complain he works too much.When you have children you should consider your lifes over for the next 18 yrs. Unless your being beaten,cheated on or he's creating an unsuitable envirement by being a crackhead or drunk though it out for six more years and then split and find your dream man.
536896
Just the quitting smoking is enough to have those symptoms.  It's said it takes a month to get out of your system, but when I've quit before (even with the patch) it seems to be much longer than that.  Adding the uneccesary stress of a loss...  All I can say is support him.  Accept his moods, not as an insult to you, they aren't, he can't control them when he is nic-ing out.  Just let him know that you are there for him.  Spend time, but don't push.  If he wants to sit and brood, give him a peck on the cheek, sit near him, and think about something that interests you.  Your presence should help him, even when he's not in control of his emotions enough to express it.  It'll be a rough ride, but if he's a keeper, he's worth the effort.  Good luck and don't get down on yourself about this.  He's trying to change for the better in a rough time.  Wish him well, but don't push him.
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Be direct and tell him that it's great that he chose to quit and that U R willing to put up with the mood swings. Enlighten them with harmless comments and try to laugh about what kind of an ass he's become he will eventually laugh along with U.\nBecause let me tell U after he is over those moods he will become one of the most annoying people to all his friends that still smoke and friends will be a little less tolerent than a loving wife. \nGood Luck
366242
u need to buy a baby's dummy and every ti,e u want to smoke u just take your dummy~!!! ^_^ good luck
224450
The Best thing to do is STOP DOING DRUGS! You sound like a really nice girl...but drugs can ruin you, and your relationships. You just experienced that. If you hope to have a future that you will LOVE, then STOP DOING DRUGS! I would never date a guy that did drugs because I would worry about him constantly and what he is doing when I'm not there. That is probably how 'Greg' feels, and that can ruin his future as well as yours. I really do feel for you because I know people who do drugs, and they really changed, NOT for the good. If you REALLY want him back, you need to tell him that you will stop...but you have to MEAN it as well. Let him help you through this, he would be more than pleased. He still loves YOU...not your druggy self. I hope im not sounding like your mother or anything...beacuse I really do want you to get him back...for you and him.\nMy heart goes out to you!\nGood Luck with EVERYTHING!
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You should have a legal guardian with you. Someone who is responsible for you, like one of your parents . If your Aunt is responsible for you, that works too. I do have to say that at 13 years old ... lay off the weed and other drugs and seriously re-evaluate your freinds. Your life hasn't even really started yet . Give it a chance to be something good. Good luck .... ;)
886040
mmm What kind? If it was Weed mail it to me if it was Tabs mail it to me if it was Ecstasy pill mail them( just kidding) but if it was crack or meth you need to tell your parents especially if he used to be on them bad he may need some help. Seriously though if it was any kind of dirty drugs get him some help. Both my parents, my husband, the father of 2 of my children,and 3 of my sisters are on drugs and it is a very sad feeling. I did not know my husband was on them until we had gotten married and money was missing. I mean I still love him but I pray for him every night. I never did drugs but as you see my life is surrounded by it and I thought when I got married I was through being around it. So please get him some help and pray for him.
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If he loved you as much as you love him, he would of quit and done what ever it took for the relationship to work.  Your young and will get over it, just keep yourself occupied and do things for you and you will find love again, just make sure they don't smoke and will never smoke.
622239
I think you need to find another job.  He took advantage of you, and he is a user.  You need to move on and not think about him anymore.  He isn't available to you no matter what he says about him and his wife.  He hasn't left her and he isn't going to, that's what people like that do.
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Well don't dump him because that would pro-bally make him want to do even more crazier stuff than getting high. just tell him that you love him to much and you don't want him to get hurt. Take him to a doctor or something. He needs you more than ever now.
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i agree with christoph...s. Call the police. This situation is one in which you cannot control any more than he apparently can. This is not behavior that should be tolerated. If he goes to jail it might save his life and your sanity ! at least in jail he will have no choice, but to stop using. And also they have NA (narcotics anon.) meetings and some sort of re-hab services available to him. I know it's a hard decision to make but I wish I had done that for my husband, He died due to a cocaine overdose and I was a widow at age 27, Please think about it. God Bless you and your dad.
311194
Sure the hell is .do you have a court order? let his P.O know if he is not living up to it get help from family services ,he should be getting"hits"which should sent his ass to jail or prison which is where he belongs if he wouldn't take care of his kids.
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I am a strong supporter of making a marriage work, but it does not sound like this man is taking your relationship seriously. As a husband and father he needs to be responsible for the well being of his family. As his wife you have a right to know where the money is going and where he is spending his time, as it involves the health and well being of the family.\n\nYou need to take him aside and be brutally honest with him. Explain that you cannot and will not live this way. If you think it's worth it, offer him another chance to redeem himself, but do not let this man put you and your child at risk. If he is doing drugs, that is exactly what he is doing. He could get arrested, and then you will be left without an income as well as legal bills.\n\nIt sounds like you are doing all of the work, and that is not the way to have a happy marriage. I hate to say it, but it sounds like you may need to move on. If you think he's capable of change, I would give him another chance.