Here's what I don't understand: why do people pretend to be your friend?
402337
I have tried to figure this out myself my whole life. I truly believe there are people that will use anyone, friend or not, for selfish reasons, they just don't honor a friendship like most people. They are users. And, they won't change. If a person like what your talking about is sitting with others talking down someone, you can be sure you are the topic of conversation when you leave.,and these "friends" think nothing about doing it. Sometimes I really think these people  don't ever acknowledge to themselves what two faced really is.
911244
The same thing happens to me, and I don't really understand either.  It might be their conceitedness, but it really depends on the person.  It takes a while to find a good person, so keep at it.  Think of it as a way to filter out the bad friends and colleagues; going for the best instead.  If they don't talk to you, maybe they're having a bad day, or even going through the same thing as you.
289895
I believe it is possible to be honest AND have friends.  You might check the motivation for your honesty.  Is it because you want to sound smart?  Is it because you feel your ideas are always the best?  Or is it because you are sincerely interested in the welfare of others?  People can sense your intentions and decide to be your friend despite your potentially offensive comments, if your intentions are good.\n\nAnd, as mothers say, sometimes if you don't have anything nice to say, it's best not to say anything.
727863
The reason they do it is that they expect a strong reaction from you, even a denial, so they can have cheap fun. So, if you just say "So what?" to whoever brings it up, it would probably make them lose interest, and leave you alone. Be more careful in your choice of friends.
1062018
It really depends on your closeness. if u know each other well nd are friends for a long tym, then i think it's just for the fun of it. but a clue is: can you do similar thing to them? if yes then you are just friends nd nothing wrong with it. but if it's d other way round then probably they just lyk to annoy you and most of d tym they are jealous of somethin u hav...
932291
I dont think these people are really your friends. If they are talking behind your back find new friends.
61613
Probably because being themselves seems to dull. They probably think that more people will like them if they make their lives seem more exciting and they don't have high enough self-esteem to realize that people are more likely to want to be friends with who they really are rather than whatever fake persona they invent for themselves.
1085975
I don't think they are really your 'friends'. I mean, you've known them for a long time, but a real friend would never ignore you or treat you like that. They would tell you what you did or said that they didn't like and wait for you to apologize or explain.\n\nGo right up to them and ask what's wrong.
407420
I have had this happen. It is a disastrous feeling when you do all you can and the imposible to get to a person's heart and get the dissapointing mention of "just friends". Sometimes that friendship is lost sometimes it is made better. The final point is that people shouldn't do that and stop being so shallow. Everybody diserves a chance.
939868
b/c they are trying to be nice \n\nbut really have no interest in you ♠
1122950
smile, be honest, be genuine.  no one likes a fake.  put yourself out there and offer to help someone that could be a potential friend.  it's a good way to start off.
578236
People usually talk about other people because they are jealous of them. So you can feel good about yourself, and don't let them bother you. There are plenty of other people who would be a good friend to you.
522271
You don't have any details on it, but my answer is if you're comfortable with having no "real" friends.  If you're talking about online friends, it's not bad to have them.  If they're your only friends, don't trust they'll fly 3000 miles to help you out.  If you're talking about you being nice and cordial to everybody, that's a good thing.  If you want "real" friends, just talk more to those people you're friendly with.  They'll open up more easily as they know you as a friendly person.\n\nBut no matter how unfriendly or friendly you are, you'll meet one friend once in your life.
127430
In order to have a friend you must first BE a friend.  Never expect anything from your friends.  Thats just not cool.  You could wind up loosing them.  Take a look inside yourself to discover why you may be doing this.  You might be insecure w/in your own being.  Once you become secure w/ yourself, you will not expect anything from your friends but truth and honesty.  And you will end up giving them so much more.
853754
Just as in spoken communication, normal people don't mean what they say and don't listen.  They'll send you messages that you don't understand, and they'll try to read things into everything you write.\n\nTheir "friend" choices and comments seem random, but there is some kind of pattern to it that you won't be able to detect.  It has something to do with their emotions, I think.
1181081
real friend are the ones that is going to stay by u through thick and thin, but fake friends r the ones that will put u in trouble and then leave u to deal with it on ur own
766387
Some people are really being honest and then some are just looking for an identity and trying to find it through you.\nLost people need direction and don't know how to get it unless they are using someone else.\nIf it really bothers you , simply ask them, "are you sure this is what you want or are you just doing it because I am?", they usually get the hint after a while.