does it hurt a guys feeling when you ask him to leave after sex?
412452
Free Ticket out of there...  woohoo!!!   lol\n\nIf you like each other, this is kind of a dumass question, of course it would raise some doubts and maybe cause hurtful feelings.\n\nIf you are a one night stand, not so much... But if you let him leave right away after the sex, you can bet the next time you hook up, he will be a sure thing...
902669
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
500905
If he respects you then there is no problem, if he wants to leave you because you wont have sex with him, he is probably not good enough for you
906942
He was probably hitting a sensitive spot or hitting something too hard.  When you feel uncomfortable during sex, change positions.  Unfortunately, if the pain after sex continues, you probably should see your doctor.  You could have a cyst or something like that.
271170
Depends on person to person but it could hurt. It could hurt like hell!! I don't wanna scare you but it could hurt so bad so be ready for it. Try to relax and be sure that he is gentle to you. It takes time to feel comfy.
44385
no,it's not ok.Although there is nothing wrong with it it will only lead you on and have you still wanting more while he will only see it as an easy way to get laid.The only person that will be hurt is you.Once it's over that's it,you're supposed to move forward,not take steps backwards
367078
I think it depends on a few things.If you feel like he's useing you for sex, don't give it up. Now if you enjoy the sex with him, take his money and his sex. let him be gone.
61425
Sex hurts when is the first time, but after that feels gooooddd, and it depends on the positions too but still good!!
977918
yess it really hurts, i guess it burns or something like that:) careful next time, gurls are sensitive.
126199
Yes, it does hurt, but it is totally bearable and worth it, if you are ready and want it. Just make sure you are ready and there has been lots of foreplay and you are relaxed as possible (although you will be understandably nervous). Your body will tell you when you are ready. Make sure you care about the guy and he cares about you. Not trying to preach just want to make sure its is a happy memorable moment.  Oh and dont expect it to be perfect. Sex has awkward moments, especally if he is a virgin too. So good luck and be safe and have fun.
650620
i would be honest with him, but remember, when you started dating he had to have sex, and it would be you. so don't make yourself hurt, but don't leave him out in cold either.
181851
If you have the right guy for the first time, and he's gentle, it shouldn't hurt at all.\nIf it hurts, then he needs to know and not make something happen that's not going to.
379384
yes, because you will start to want to feel that way and he isn't doing it for you. you wont be happy and you will either leave ir cheat or be miserable. not fair to either of you.
762132
No. Space is the answer. Him leaving is sign enough that he wants to work it out on his own...or, within the security of his family.\n\nGuy's brains are wired differently than Gal's brains. It takes a tremendous amount of trust to open up to someone. This typically is not something that happens to people in casual relationships. Casual being that you're not already married or having been significantly 'connected' for years.\nThere is a book out there, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". The book has a fair amount of insights into the workings of the brains of the opposite sexes. I think you'd do well to pick up a copy if you plan on trying to open a guy's head up and start poking around for where his feelings are hidden.\n\n-Give him some time...He might work it out and come back for round two. Or, you might have pushed too hard and scared him off. That's life. It isn't you're fault if you believe you were doing the right thing. But, you have to respect the choices of others.
700825
I loved her, respected her, and cared for her very much.  I was very, very gentle-and listened to her every wish during the event.  It was a little painful to her, to say the least...which made me feel bad, but she loved me also, and made me feel not so badly about it.  It's not really like having "sex"-that first time.
838202
I guess he felt uncomfortable and did not want to create an unnecessary scene. Don't read too deep into him because I think if he wanted you, you would've know it way before the party started...Sounds like he wanted to avoid any possible confrontation. Some females don't take "moving on" too well -  sounds, like you handled yourself very maturely. Good Girl.
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I wait until I won't regret it at all.  Even if my body says otherwise.  I wait until I'm positive that if he dumped me the next day - I wouldn't feel disappointed about the sex. (Feelings are a separate issue.)\n\nWith each guy it's different.  For some guys it's weeks, others it's months.  But I always feel right when I do it.  Take your time, and wait until you know you're confident about it.