Torn between two men!! Help me!?
405467
Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
138916
You probably will not be over him completely until you are involved with another man.  There is, as you know, a man-shaped space inside your . . . heart . . . that you need to fill.  Choose wisely this time, and you won't have to go through this again.
15643
I went through the same thing and after I decided to go back with the old fling because I still loved him I remembered why I couldn't stand him.  Funny thing is I realized that the other guy I loved more.  Try to think back why it didn't work out in the first place.  Make a list to yourself about why you love one and the other and you might be surprised by the answer.  It may not be love your felling for both.
824700
You need to pick one. Its not fair for the guys. If you really love them you wouldnt want to hurt them like that.
310491
you know the answer, turn them both down. one doesnt love you, you don't love the other, find someone who loves you and that you love
191077
Which one of them do you have more FUN with? That's how I'd choose! It really depends on what sort of outcome you're looking for, though. \nIf you are looking to be mutually exclusive, you might want to think about it a little more discriminantly- get to know this new guy and his history more thoroughly- then make your decision.\nI obviously don't know you, but sometimes you can tell a lot about someone's feelings about others, simply by looking at the word choice in their question-- yours indicates that, although the 6 years guy is "great", he might be safe & boring, to you. The way you've presented it, it sounds like you are looking to experience something new...
1058857
stick with the one you like more and let the other go. dont hold onto someone when he could be finding someone who will care for him more
576502
Okay, honey. If he really loves you, he'd choose you over the other guy. If being with him, and knowing he has someone else makes you feel that way, then he is not worth it. If it is meant to be, then it will, but BOTH of you have to want it to be. He has made it obvious that you are not priority one in his world. You seem like a lovely boy, I'm sure you can find someone just as loving and devoted as you are! Take my advice as a fruit-fly who has seen many gay relationships fall out. He. is not. worth it. Leave him, and if he wants you as badly as he says, he'll come running back and make you his only. Otherwise, you're better off without him.
396009
Just wait it out and do what feels right. Wait for a little bit until you know them both better, and take it from there. Don't think that you need to make a decision right this very second. Give it a bit of time.
622152
Neither, I prefer a man who will be faithful and honest, and who treats me right. Anyone who can pick one or the other of what you asked, is high maintnanced!!
664189
you do not have to choose. If you care about them both, it would be unfair to dump either of them just to make the other one happy. They both deserve better than that. Also, it would be wrong for them to make you choose, since that would not be being a good friend to you. Don't dump either and if one gives you an ultimatum, tell them that if they are a true friend, they would care about your feelings and not try to force you to take sides. Which ever person can't handle that wasn't a very good friend to begin with and at least you will know. Good Luck.
125403
I suggest you see which one cares and love you more. Who do you spend time with more? How do they treat you? Is he your kind of people like are you comfortable with him more then the other? Who is nicer to you? Answers these questions to yourself and see how you feel about the two guys you love.
847058
Deep inside you know who you would choose if you had no other choice.  So who is best for you?  Once you make your mind up stick to it. You can remain friends with the other guys without ever becomeing more, thats what truely makes a friendship (over years be there for one another), and not sexually.  Good luck sis.
540800
Well, you should really think about who you like the MOST. Either way, whatever decision you make will hurt someone's feelings..it's a really hard situation you're in. Sit down and think about who you really like and decide. Good luck!
406677
You should follow your heart. Date both for now... time will tell which one you are supposed to be with.
468485
That's kind of a question you need to answer yourself. But I can give you some advice. What you need to do is sit down and think. Get three separate pieces of paper and write down all of the good things/moments about each guy and see which one has the most. Don't end it at that though. Think it through and see which guy you would be better off with. Who cares what your friends think? The decision is up to you. Whichever guy you pick, tell the other guys you're sorry and you think __________ is the best for you. They will eventually move on and get a separate life. I hope my advice works out for you and good luck. -Cody
480850
keep the 100% respect guy he sounds like a keeper. :) dont go with the ex - it never works out and u will only regret it if u do .\n\ngood luck