My mom has R.S.D. and will be having sergery any advice??
413880
Ask her doctor, or if you can't grab him/her, then ask a nurse what kind of support your mom will need, especially when she gets home.  Also, as a mom, it always meant so much when my kids cleaned the house for me, made me cards, came and snuggled with me, offered to make tea or coffee.  Funny, how it's so often the  little things that mean so much.  Good luck and I hope everything goes great with your mom's surgery.
774864
try to get along with her. i know it is difficult but your mom is always going to be your mom. unless your health and safety is in compromise work things out
106956
Your mother should be very careful with this.  She possibly may need to go on to medication.  My mother (who is overweight) always experienced blood clots in her legs.  She would treat them as they came/went (with heat and massage) until one traveled up her leg, into her heart (where it loged itself) and pieces began breaking off...one to her brain causing a stroke and one to her lung.  She now take warafin (blood thinners) and is going for weight loss surgery so she won't have to take them anymore.  There is a definite relation between weight and the occurance of clots.\nPlease get your mom to go to her MD...prevention is the best medicine!!  Let me tell you...teaching my mom the alphabet, how to read and write (after the stroke) was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
781234
your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
892263
tell your mom you want to switch doctors... you don't HAVE to go to her if you don't want to.. she shouldn't have said that...  tell your mom the truth, and then when you switch doctors just tell the lady that you feel more comfortable seeing a doctor that isn't a friend of the family or a fellow chruch parishner...
1118660
wow... i guess try to tell her you have things under control. but it sounds like there is more to it if she is that worried about it. so either she knows every minute of your day or you are going to have more contact with the detectives. hard to tell you what you should do. sounds like  you have a major issue in your life going and then a complication to add to it. but good luck... i guess always remember... your day is always just seconds away from getting worse... so be happy with what you have. at least your mom loves you.... like i said... it could always be worse
974235
Jeez, relax.  Hospital help aren't in the habit of shoving surgical patients into closets, trust me.  We'd have heard about it by now.  Your extremely nervous and she's drugged which is a good thing.  They will check on her periodically and now that you've called they are aware someone is watching out for her.  Also, she has a Nurse call button when she needs it, remember!  Your mother is an adult, in an adult situation with TRAINED CAREGIVERS watching out for her, she could not be safer!\n\nWhat you need to do is slow down, and recite The Serenity Prayer to remind you that there are some things you cannot change, some things there are, and that sometimes we need to be reminded of the difference.\n\nI recommend you call your Mothers room first thing in the morning to relax mentally.  I'm sure they will let her out of the closet by then ::kidding::
1119990
just tell your mom that you need to talk to her. tell her in a mature way that you're going through certain changes and i'm sure she will listen to you and everything will be fine
839161
Tell her you want to go in alone, and if your doc needs to speak to her, she will be the first to know. Jeeze, mom.....
938750
First of all, God bless you for realizing that probably one of the things that your sister needs the most right now is someone who is going to treat her as if she were "normal" again and not baby her. But with that said, you wont forget that she has this disease. What you can do, is let her lead the way. Give her your time and let her decide what to do with it. God bless both of you.
521749
I have a co-worker that was diagnosed with a severe form of\ncervical cancer even younger than your mom.  She's fine, and\ncan even still have children.\n\nIf you're scared about what this means for your mom (or \nfor yourself) PLEASE talk to your mom's doc, or better \nyet, talk to your mom's doc's nurse.  Cervical cancer is \nNOT necessarily fatal, and in most cases, isn't hereditary.\n\nIf there is an older family member (an aunt, maybe?) you\nare comfortable with discussing this with, I'd recommend it.\nBut yes, your wanting more information, and maybe even being\nscared about your mom's diagnosis is TOTALLY NORMAL.\nDon't let people blow you off when you want information.
1040169
ask her physician before hand.  they should be happy to help.  Also consult with the patient before planning her life.
1122800
There are a few options and routes she can take.  First of all she can go and start getting a massage on a regular basis from an experienced certified massage therapist at your local spa or chiropractors office.  She can use an essential oil called Rosemary.  It's only like $3 or $4 bucks at your natural/health store and she can add about 10 drops to a warm bath and it's really good for sore muscles.  She will LOVE IT!  She can also use a cream/gel called bio-freeze it's great to relieve sore muscles and helps with inflammation they even have it in a roll on tube which is nice!  She could also try acupuncture which is another alternative medicine!  Use heat and ice to relieve the pain.  Oh and Heat is best when it's WET.  Dry/electrical heat is not as effective so try like a herbal pack you can warm in the microwave and have your massage therapist add hot stones to your massage.  I hope this helps......so treat your Mom to your local spa and get her an rosemary aromatherapy massage with hot stones....she'll feel brand new!  :)
896010
I think you need to tell your family, because in default of your own ability to take care of yourself, they might be the ones who end up making decisions about your care for you.\n\nThis is not something you should be dealing with on your own.  I would suggest that your psychiatric care person/team might be able to suggest a way for you to get through to your mother.  Perhaps she or other family members might be able to participate in counseling or therapy sessions with you.\n\nWhat she needs to understand is that what you are telling her is not necessarily an attack on her parenting you, as in an accusation that she caused or somehow brought about your illness.  If you and your mother have a history of not getting along well or communicating well, then you definitely need to involve a professional counselor in this.  \n\nWith your diagnosis, you definitely need to give some thought as to who might become responsible for decisions regarding your care should something happen that requires someone else to assume responsibility for you.  The default is to family members, and this may not be what you want.  If it isn't, you need to find out how to arrange things so that the person you choose is legally empowered to make decisions for you should need arise.  Your psychiatric care team should be able to assist you in this.\n\nGood luck and take care.  Be well!
131029
Oh my gosh! Did she asked to be PAID to take care of you growing up?! Get a life and take care of your mother! It isn't her fault she is disabled and I can't believe you would ask such a insensitive question! Take care of your mother....God forbid you get into a terrible accident and have to have someone take of you.....I am so ashamed of you.
955808
Talk to his doctors about visiting.  It's not your mom's place to make that decision.  Keep in mind tho, she may be shielding you based on good intentions, or she may be concerned that you're not apt to be a consistent person in his life, which could make things harder on him.  Again, talk to his doctors and be honest about what you can and can't commit to if they have concerns about continuity.\n\nSchizophrenia is basically an organic illness.  The enviroment does have some interplay, but it's not thought to alone have the power to cause the illness.  In other words, your mom didn't make him have it, but she may (or may not) have exacerbated it.
165610
go see your mother's doctor or you'r own & ask them they will know all you want to know