A "good" friend ive had..isnt so good i feel she drags me down i feel should I leave her?
399294
You have a choice here.  You can remain friend with her because you are bored or you can do the more positive thing and seek out other people to hang with and slowly terminate your frienship with her.\n\nBeing friend with someone just because you are bored is no friendship at all.  You make your own destiny.  If you want to hang with other people, then start getting involved in extra curricular activies.  You will inevitably find people who have common intersts there.
221950
If your best won't hang out with you then she isn't your best friend.  move on and find a new one.
382145
I've seen it before so many times and I sympathize.  I personally would re-assert the boundaries of your friendship with her in a nice way, emphasizing how that kind of behaviour could jeapordize your friendship with her and that you'd hate to lose her as the great friend she is over something like that.  Best of luck.
684203
I surely wouldn't go hang out with her. You don't need that stress, besides it sounds like a set up. brush her off your shoulders and find a new friend
33449
If you don't feel that you can be honest with them about how you feel, I think you should find other activities to do, getting too busy to support your friendship. Friendships will dry up, if you don't water them regularly with visits, phone calls and notes. If you are too busy to fit her into your schedule, she'll either ask you up front what's up or she'll slowly move on to someone else. If she asks, that's your cue to be honest, even though it might hurt. Without knowing how she "makes" you feel bad, it's hard to know if you're not bringing on some of this treatment yourself, actually encouraging her that it's ok to treat you this way. Some people think it's better to have a "bad" friend than no friend at all. If she is truly a "toxic" friend, move on to more positive people. In time, she'll fade away. I would rather that she knows exactly what's causing you to not want to be around her. Maybe she doesn't have a clue that she's treating you badly. Maybe she does this to everyone. If not, you have to ask yourself why you? Letting her know will give her the option of changing...or not. If you have body odor, and everyone avoids you, not wanting to be around you, wouldn't you want to be told? You might think everyone hates you or maybe doesn't like your clothes or something. No one has the right to treat you badly. You give them that right. You can take it away. <*)))><
888406
i wuld be real honest with her but also remember to be kind.it's alot harder to do then say i know.i am in a similar situation & it's never easy when it comes to ur friends.it culd be that ur friend is having a hard time & need sometime right now.she knows ur there & that's good.that's what friendship is.\ntake care,\nang w.
600638
It sounds as if she is jealous of you and putting you down in front of others (esp. men) makes her feel better about her self. Talk to her about how this makes you feel, if this doesn't work trying giving her a taste of her own medicine..maybe then she will see for herself how it feels. It it still becomes a problem, find a new friend. Good luck.
744215
Communicate with her!\nIf she is supposed to be your friend then you need to tell her how you feel, it's the grown up thing to do, don't just be sneaky and ditch her. You should maybe also stop to think about how *she* feels,  why is she acting this way? Ask her, maybe she is feeling left out, have you ever felt left out, it's not a nice feeling and It can make people act out and say things they don't mean. \nJust take her aside on day and talk to her and ask her why she is behaving like she is. She will probably apriciate your honesty.
347178
leave it alone, good friends are hard to come by. ignore your temptations and move on.if she happens to make a move politely tell her that you that you would not destroy your friendship for a night of passion
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
862268
I think she is just taking advantage of a very good thing.  If she's only contacting you on rare occasions (when SHE needs something) that should be a clue. It sounds to me like she only keeps you around to keep herself happy and doesn't take you seriously enough to dump her other "male company" and get with you "full time" because she thinks you're just a friend (or..... something.......) I am sorry that someone would treat you this way.  Truly I think you deserve so much better - someone who can appreciate your gifts and dinners for all they're worth and return the favor.
123746
you should of asked her why she was being a b**** and you did not like what she had said and if she has been doing this for a long time now then she deserved it i have been there some times you need to get rid of the jerks in your life and find better friends she is not the only one that has bad days you are human and have feeling to
1012216
Dude trust me and give her time and just stay in touch with her and start at the friendship level again and see where it will go if you presist on calling her or showing up where she is you will just piss her off more and push her away
898115
Honey, this girl will get you into trouble, it sounds like this girl wants you for her own!! my advice steer clear!  I have had a similar situation with a Friend of mine, she had a girl that hung around her like a bad smell, and she hated me, she treated my Friend like a minion and called her one!  I must admit she was a bitch 2!!  I think you might just need to sit this girl down and talk to her, perhaps she doesn't realize that her behavior is just a little OTT. The jealousy thing tho, this is harder to resume, but you have to ask yourself, why does she do that?? could she be insecure?  my feeling on this one from reading your little statement is that she is making you unhappy and that is wrong, why should she ruin your life, you are spending time thinking about her and your other Friend, there are times when being a little selfish, taking a step back and saying- 'whoa' this is not about 'me'...is good, do something for you, personally if she is as nagging and annoying as she sounds, you need to click your fingers to the left, click your fingers to the right and click your fingers to the left, (practice this now) its cool!!! and say to this girl- I don't need this drama' and walk away, because when push comes to shove all that matters is you! xxx
1187801
This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.
408614
this will hurt but to be honest she isnt any kind of genuine friend if this is how shes treating u. My advice(Coming from a 35 year old scottish chick whos been there b4 with an ex friend),id walk away from her and cut all ties. Do u realy want to be friends with someone that treats u like that? U deserve better babe.xx
599711
Sounds like she's first trying to make you jealous. I would break the friendship off she obviously doesn't have any respect towards you when rubbing things in your face. If she's your friend as she calls herself she should be willing to hang out with you. Have you told her how she's making you feel and why you feel the need to end the friendship if not do so and see if she changes if not then I would let her go. No sense, in being unhappy nor going through life with someone who calls her self something then doesn't act the part (figuratively speaking)Good Luck!