Y is it that a girl doesnt like making the first move towards sex,y does a male have to start it?
403431
Women don't want to be perceived as being toooooo fast. It's a long time societal issue.  Years ago, and still some to date, men believed that a woman should be courted and not do the courting.  Society is still trying to hold on to some of these old time comforts.
316740
Guy are so shy because they are afraid. As a guy i know that when i was with my girl friend, i was scared to pull moves. It's the worry of making her feel uncomfortable, and if u go to far what will she do. Like touching a delicate glass peice, you worry it will break.
930224
This is totally situational... but...\n\nIn general, I love it when a girl makes the move. As a guy, we have an automatic disadvantage, because no matter what, we have to work for it. Now, this is a gross generalization, but most of the time it is true: women can find someone if they really want to, any time.\n\nMen on the other hand, well...\n\nSo to have a woman come up and make it known that she's interested makes things easy. Not to mention, it's not like there's anything to lose really.
140074
If he's "not ready" then he is just interested in the sex and not a relationship.
428146
Because she is a good girl and doesn't want to go there just yet.  It takes a long time for a girl to get comfortable with the idea of someone touching her like that.  Give her time.  When she is ready, she'll move your hand there.
658624
Yes!!! I am a guy and I just love it when the girl makes the first move!!! Alot of guys love it because we are SOOOO afraid of asking someone becuase we are afraid of rejection. DO IT!!!
811659
What makes a girl afraid to make the first move, is the fear of rejection. I know guys have the same fear, but somehow, it's different for girls. It just is! Some girls, like myself believe the guy should make the first move, and if he doesn't then I move on, so just put yourself out there, and you'll be surprised.
537380
ARE YOU READY FOR IT??? thats the question u should ask urself. having sex is not just bout getting physical, its about being comfortable with each other. your first time may feel a bit awkward but you'll get the hang of it over time. Dont worry if u think you are gonna embarass urself as its your first time. she'll "take the lead" and you'll learn how she wants to be touched etc. \nsta cool. lots of luck.
611691
Sometimes, men actually want women to make the first move.  take me for example: i have never really had a whole lot of relationships, but when i got together with my fiance, i made all of the moves, except the first kiss.  I was quite often uncomfortable making the first moves because i was unsure of how she would react.  On the night of our first kiss, i really liked how sweet and sincere the kiss ended up being.  And i know that i would not have made my move that night, because i was far too nervous.  She could see this, and decided to take initiative.  I personally liked it.  It also shows me that the woman knows what she wants, versus "needs" the guy to make decisions all the time.  By the way, it sounds like if he doesn't really look at you, he might be a little nervous around you, and is unsure of how you'd react if he asked you. Go for it!!  I think that most men don't mind if a woman takes initiative, unless that man is insecure about himself and needs to feel "macho" or something by being the decision maker.
485321
Because men should make the first move and women should make hints...this is to avoid women's embarrassment, and feed men's natural chasing instinct.
923177
yeah it's true... guy should make the first move though...girls will look so desperate if her make the first move..
495807
About male there's no similar system as girl to verify that.\nThus, a virgin man only is a way to point people who never had sex. Therefore, as the first real act occurs, then generally the guy affirms to have lost (virtually) his virginity. Underlining that there is no way to demonstrate or negate it!
698281
Hello no girl you aint wrong!!  Having sex for the very first time is supposed to be a special thing.  Its supposed to be perfect.  Despite what other idiotic people say.  Its not your fault you are human and you get turned on when you kiss your boytoy!  Who gives a f*?  Kudos to you for actually having some class and NOT spreading your legs to every sweet talking guy.  We need more females like you who care about themselves and less skanks who spread disease. As for your man, if he cant respect it, ditch him.  If it gets him made that he gets blue balls then tell him that he has a hand... he knows how to fix that problem!
41801
The guy should make the first move.  That way, the girl knows that he is confident enough to go for it, and the guy doesn't have to sit around waiting for her to make a move.  Any confident guy will make a move on a girl he likes.
309442
Sex can be very emotional for a girl.  She may have wanted to do it at the time, and she may have really liked it, but then she has to process all of her feelings about it.  A LOT of times, girls have sex before they really want to.  For whatever reason, she realizes that it is too soon for her to have sex with you (even if she really liked it).  And it is very important for her to be able to say no now, even if she said yes before.  Just because you did it once doesn't mean you have to do it again.  She has to have the freedom to make that decision.
1171898
No.  It is actually refreshing that women are willing to initiate.\nEither he does not have the same level of sex drive as you, or he thinks your bad in bed and finds having sex with you a chore.\n\nGet creative.  Find out what the problem is.
484693
Every girl is different, so don't be afraid to ask her how and what she wants. Some girls are just shy and wont ask or tell you because of the fear of being embarrassed. Some are not! But a universal way to get a lady ready for one is to have foreplay, its fun its sexy and its suuuuper hot!! Good luck!