To Forgive and Apologize or....?
411452
You can forgive, but if an apology isn't necessary  don't.  Why lie?  If don't think she'll jump you again go to her and talk. Tell her that you are angry, but you don't hate her. Let her know that you can't live together. but you're interesting in repairing the relationship if that's possible. You never know how she's feeling.  She may feel just as guilty for starting it. At any rate you will have done as much as anyone could and you're obligation is fulfilled.
466723
One can forgive, but they cannot always forget. It seems like it may is time to move on if you have attempted to address the issue to no avail. \nThere is someone better out there that will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
258679
stop trying to fix it. you are not in control of the universe. try looking at what you have done to contribute to the problem, and apologize without expecting them to apologize too. true forgiveness is realizing there is nothing to forgive.
673279
Be there, forgive and accept.
716055
I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
543927
It takes a strong person to truly forgive and forget when it is over something major.\n\nTo me, the phrase means that if I forgive and forget, I won't bring the "forgiven and forgotten" offense up in future arguments, I won't dwell over what can't be changed and I won't seek revenge or continue to mull over the experience.\n\nI may not truly "forget" what happened - but saying that means I am willing to move on and not waste any more precious time worrying about the offense.\n\nOf course, there have been things in my life that I haven't been wiling to "forgive and forget" but in those cases I have chosen to give up my relationship with that person rather than try to heal the friendship. Usually a relationship of some sort is at stake when forgiveness is involved and it is a matter of choosing between the offense and the relationship.
232839
You are honest enough to realise that you have done something wrong to someone, which itself shows u have taken responsibility of it. You cannot immediately confront him as iam sure he too is just recovering from whatever it is you have done to him. You have to wait, be patient. Once when the time is right, when things are a bit silent, you have to talk to him and get it over with. Meet him alone in person and in the first instance, start apologising  and then u owe him an explanation on why u had to do it. And last, tell him how awful you feel about what u did. And wait for him to react, listen to him, positive or negative...it doesnt matter..as much as you have admitted your mistake, give him a chance to let whats in his mind to come out. You have to take it from there, i guess. If that person has forgiven you, then great..but if he hasnt, and goes on abusing or accusing u and making u feel that you have sent him to hell, well...listen to it and simply walk away..you cannot force him to forgive you...\n\nYou did your  part and i'll bet u will feel a lot relieved. It wont irritate you in ur mind that you didnt clear it up, so well done, you have done ur part! pat urself for being brave!!
987666
not really understanding the question fully.  do you mean you've done something you're sorry for???    i think you're trying to forgive yourself and move past the shame and guilt for what you did by reflecting on WHY you did it.  which means you're growing not only intellectually, but spiritually as well.  good luck on your journey.  you've been blessed to have a mind that's open enough to understand.  go with it.
209967
People will do and say anything to provoke others and it is best to express forgiveness and I hope you can forgive that person but as for me I do have a difficult time forgiving others for their trespasses against me especially when there are things in my past that has left me emotionally scarred to where I express distrust and resentment towards others mixed with a short temper and I do admit that this does hinder my personal relationship with the lord and I would ask that you would remember me in your prayers since it is likely that I'm about to get kicked off of this forum of which I don't care if I do get the boot.\nThey can kick the lord out of this forum but they can't kick the lord out of me.
920149
Treat them nicely...?\nSaying "sorry" doesn't do/mean anything if you don't prove it.
1026678
Apology accepted.\n\nI commend you.\n\nNext time you get upset at hearing that you are going to hell,\n\nGet mad at God, and talk to Him about it.\n\nWe are just repeating what God told us, and we just happen to believe Him!!!
566697
You can forgive them, cause you would like to be forgiven by GOD in the things that you do..........  but that doesn't mean you have to associate with them anymore.  Forgive them so that you do not have a heavy heart or the burden on your mind....... just don't give them the chance to do it again.
1152470
I'm not one of those people that just play them back. So I would go have a good time, but just remember what goes around comes back around. God said you shall forgive no matter how bad they treated you still forgive them and he will handle it.
892414
Apologies never make one look stupid. Being repentant for an infraction of friendship should not be a deal breaker. Asking for forgiveness should begin the process of reconciliation. If this person is not open to apology or reconciliation you should move on to a more appropriate friendship. To have friends you must be a friend. Sometimes friendship is letting go.
659919
The forgiveness part is easy it is he forgetting part that takes a lot longer to accomplish.  I think that you can forgive a person in your heart, but still not want to be around that person for some time.  If you act like nothing happened with this person, then she or he will continue to think that they can treat you this way.  I feel that we teach people how to treat us, and you don't want to show them that it is OK to hurt you. I say, give it some time, you'll know if they are truly sorry, and deserve your friendship again by their actions.  Good luck, hon.
509775
yes, forgive him/her if he/she is sory of what she/he did...\n\nif God forgives us for every day we do wrong (sin), so we too...
1087112
There is no excuse for not admitting or apologizing for something you have done to another... that is if you are truly sorry for what you have done...especially if it is someone you love...For someone to not do so is just childish and selfish...or maybe the person doesn't think he or she has done anything wrong at all...or maybe they don't realize the extent of the hurt they have caused...If that is the case you need to let them know the pain they have caused and if they still don't get it...You must know your worth and not allow that person do hurt you ever again.\n\nRemember: "Know Your Worth or No One Else Will"...Good Luck