I am 14 and want to know if sex hurts?
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Yes... it does hurt... but what hurts more is if you don't really think about what you are entering into, and your heart gets hurt... 14 is a young age to be experiencing these types of emotions, and sex is very emotional, especially for girls. My advice to you is to wait... don't let friends tell you that you should try it... or whatever... be strong emotionally and hold out... like I said, it hurts more emotionally... never live with regrets... and at 14... you may be putting yourself in a hurtful situ... so wait it out... be true to yourself and think about the seriousness of what you are entering into. \nGood luck...be strong!
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IT DEPENDS ON THE SIZE OF THE GUY AND HOW RELAXED YOU ARE AT  THE TIME. USE PLENTY OF KY JELLY AND NEVER LET HIM DO IT WITHOUT A CONDOM OR DON'T LET HIM C U M INSIDE YOU. IT CAN BE ENJOYABLE ONCE YOU GET USED TO IT BUT IT DOES USUALLY HURT AT FIRST. DON'T BE FORCED INTO IT THOUGH ONLY DO IT IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE.
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hey well I'm 13 too! well tampons do hUrt little when ur just starting out and getting used to it. pads can be way to annoying. plus u can swim with tampons. but it all takes getting used too.. good luck\n\npeace\nash
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My friend got an circumcision Last year which he is in 10th grade at the time, he said it was the best thing, yes it will hurt more than if you would have gotten it when you were a baby but its not to bad he said, and its only like a problem if it gets infected and what not but if you take care of it you will be fine.
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You should probably see a gynocologist.  Every female is not made the same, some have little problems with the hymen ("the maidenhead") and that can make sex really painful. It is not all that common, but not completely rare, either, and unless you are "doing it" wrong, like up the wrong opening (I have heard of virginal people doing that by mistake), the pain should subside after the first time or two unless something is not right.  Your gynocologist will really help you out here, and can inform you about birth control and avoiding STDs, as well.  Don't be embarrassed to be open and ask questions, that is why the doctor went to school!
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I have been there; \n\nThe reason it is hurting is because you are dry before he inserts his penis; and likely he is too young to know that he should first get you to the point that you are excited and your vagina is secreting for lubrication for the penis.  If you are not wet or not feeling really good before he puts his penis in you; than you need to perform more foreplay.\n\nAnd if it still hurts even when you are lubricated, then it is probably an infection in your cervix.  If it is a "burning sensation" when he puts it in, or even when you stop and it still burns then you have an infection of some sort and should see a doctor.
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No No and No.\n\nAside from slight pain the first few times it harms nothing.\nUnless the rest of you have actually had anal sex, fuck off.\n\nIt wont harm a bit.
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Yes sweetie it is very likely that it will hurt the first time.  But let me warn you that having sex is a VERY big step to take... and it is one that you can never take back.  At fourteen odds are that even if you and this guy stay together for a while you will eventually break up and having sex brings in a ton of emotional factors that you shouldn't even have to worry about at your age.  I'm not trying to lecture...i'm telling you from experience.  I'm 19 and i had sex when i was 16 for the first time.  I can honestly tell you that, even though sex can be enjoyable with the right person, it is better to wait.  But if you honestly think you are mature enough the handle the consequences...like yeast infections, urinary tract infections, the possible risk of sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy...then please, please be smart about it.  Make sure u use condoms the right way...and yes there is a right way.  Use condoms with spermicide...trojan makes some in a purple box and they will say that they have spermicide on the box.  And please have yourself checked out regularly.  Get on the pill too.  I know it seems like a lot to handle...but sex is a big responsibility as well as a pleasure ...if you don't want to end up pregnant or with an infectious disease.  But really, I will strongly encourage you not to have sex yet.  You are at an age where you should just now be taking interest in boys, not having sex with them.  And if you tell this guy no and he takes it badly then he doesn't care about u anyway.  PLease Please think deeply about this decision before you act.  At fourteen you are not even physically ready to have sex let alone mentally capable of grasping the responsibilities that go with sex.  And if you need any more help with this decision you are welcome to email me at lemonllama05@yahoo.com
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I seriously doubt that is any type of problem until you are 16, but going to the doctor wont hurt anyway, just be thankful you get to remain as you are for the time being. Seriously, I suck *** being an adult.
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If you're under 14 dont do it. But...if you're 14 or older, read on. Yes, it might. And then it might not. That strip of "virginal skin" inside there blocking your happy hallway is called a "hymen". And it's attached to your inner walls. SO...when he goes for it he's actually tearing skin which causes the pain and the bleeding. Having said that...some women are born without one. So you might be lucky. Then again some are born with a very thick, well attached hymen and it hurts alot. So there are your extremes. It's like a band aid....the faster you make it for the first push the less hurt it should be. *** Never having had one myself this is pure speculation** Good luck and make him wear a condom. Nothing cool about a pregnant 14 yr. old with an STD. Later.
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Sex feels good AND it hurts! If its really good, the pain is almost unnoticable. It depends on alot of things too how much it will hurt and/or feel good including - - your personal lubrication, his size, position, if your are relaxed or tense, position (can't stress that too much)
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You know if it was the first time i'd suspect that she would be sore, but on the other hand just maybe you are not using enough foreplay. After all girls don't usually get ready for sex as fast as boys.There's also a possibility that you are bigger than average size which might hurt her. Have a talk with her ask what hurts her. If you don't how will you know how not to.IF YOU LOVE HER
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ok are you a 14 year old girl or are you IN  14 year old girl and might have gotten her pregnant.\nEither way, it obviously sounds like you are too young to be having sex in the first place and you need to talk to your parents ASAP if you seriously think you might be having a child.
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When you have sex baby, it doesn't supposed hurt okay.  You should go to the store and buy some lube.  Put some on him and around your opening so it won't hurt.  Talk to him, tell him it's uncomfortable, and he will understand about the lube.  Your hymen may be shedding a little, don't have sex for a couple of days until this shedding stops because if you skin gets broken down there, you might get an infection, and believe me, you don't want that to happen.
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More than anything, you risk never really being 14 again.  No matter how you think you feel about it, there is just no way you are ready to have a sexual relationship with anyone at 14.  You just don't have the emotional maturity or life experience necessary to understand all the risks of sex--and not just the physical ones.  We could talk at length about AIDS, STD's, and pregnancy, but those are the things you can prevent if you're careful.  It's the damage you'll do that's unavoidable that you have to really consider.\n\nIn life, there are many things worth waiting for.  I know at your age you think it'll take forever to be an adult, and you want to start now.  Believe me when I tell you that waiting for this until you know it's the right time, with the right person and for the right reason will make up for all of the anxiety you feel today.
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I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that for me the first time hurt like hell. I lost my virginity earlier this year (I'm almost 22), my boyfriend was very understanding and gentle, but it still hurt. I didn't bleed though, which a lot of women have said that they do.\nFrom talking to my doctor there is a less of a chance of pain and bleeding when you lose your virginity at an older age. This is because your hymen gradually goes away throughout the years, and a lot of girls have actually broken it and not known it years earlier. \nIf your really worried I suggest getting a d.ildo/v.ibrator and working yourself in, I did this after the fact to make myself feel more comfortable with it. \nhope that helps
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does it hurt or does it make things harder? if not, who cares? if so, go to the doc