i have been goin out wiv my b/f 4 a y and am ready 2 settle?
404621
chill out,if you love him, you will run him off with all this family pressure, when both of you are ready, he will ask.
313680
Have you set him down and explained to him that at this in your life you are happier than you have ever been and the reason behind that is him being in your life, so now that your life is where you want it to be nothing could make you happier that to have a commitment with him(her)and how would he feel about being your partner for life. If you have to put it in a letter , do a special dinner with good food soft music and make it a night to remember. Your partner will have to answer it might be what you want to hear or it might be what you need to hear. GOD Bless and Good Luck
26350
you have to sit down and question yourself very thoroughly. do you want to be with your current partner or your previous partner. only you can make that desicion, and the longer you take the more stress it will be for all.
861623
So what you are saying is that you are "settling" because that's easier than being alone. My,  how flattering to the guy you are settling for...wouldn't you just love to find out your partner wasn't head over heels crazy about you, but thought "you'll do"? Doesn't that just make you all tingly and happy inside? *rolls eyes*\n\nWhat you are doing is sad...sad for you (you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to meet someone who you'll be crazy about and have the stability, just because you want to be hooked up right now)...sad for him because he probably thinks you really dig him and he won't have the opportunity to meet someone who would REALLY be crazy about him, not just like him because he can offer stability.\n\nTreat others as you would like to be treated...if you wouldn't want to be settled for...don't settle for someone else...
1115384
Sounds like you're figuring it out, good for you girl. A realtionship is giving and taking, not just one person taking and the other getting taken from.  You'll know when it's right, don't put up with anything that is'nt loving.
1161814
Since you have so many doubts, you also know in your heart that its not time to get serious. Since he is so sweet, he will not try to rush you into something you aren't ready for either. I suggest you just keep the relationship on a slow pace and really get to know each other before worrying about a real commitment from either of you.
202173
Woa whats the rush.... Right now youre in the honey moon phase of the relationship... everything is so sweet and peachy ... wait six months later or get a place together and see how sour your peach might be.
592759
When you feel the time is right to move then go ahead and do so. If you don't feel ready then take some time for your self. Remember you can always find someone better and you did not have him in your life when you met him so you don't need him now.
595783
you remind me of myself so patient,considerate and understanding for the man, but putting yourself last.hmmm you say you want this to work.i think youre fed up and feel like going but youre afraid theres nothing out there for you.let me clue you in ,go and check out a few clubs with a good girlfriend of yours and see just how many people are looking for love.any man would be lucky to have a committed lady like yourself.maybe its time for an ultimatum?up to you though,mean what you say and say what you mean.GOOD LUCK SISTA
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dont give in to him..... if you're not ready, you're not ready. If he doesnt understand that, hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. the first person you should be taking care of is you and not anyone else. Make yourself happy  before anyone and everyone will be happier seeing you happy. If you ask me any guy that has to pressure you in doing something you dont wanna do isnt worth your time. its better this way in the long run. Dont lower your standards for anyone or else you are just disapointing yourself. If that was me i would let him know how i feel and if he is still pressuring me, i would drop him cause right off the bat he is thinking "me me me" and not "us"  and it takes 2 to tango. last time i checked it was called being a couple. Hope this is helpful. Much love
1186591
id say if you cant spice up your relationship enough to where you want to stay together, then their you go. You answered your own question. Its time to call it quits.
671707
it's just dating...you're single now...no harm.  Don't make any commitments until you know what you want this time...make no mistakes again...be sure he knows that as well
942389
I'm in the process of finding the same thing with my guy. I honestly dont know but I'll be looking out for answers. Plus to those who always reply with 'ask her/him' thats not always as simple as it sounds.
111352
first of all there is nothing wrong with you. you just arent ready to do what you want to yet. give yourself time. dont let peer pressure or even self pressure push you into something you dont really want. when the time is right and the partner is right then it will happen the way it is meant to.
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I don't think we should settle for an OK life.  You deserve the happy ever after.  If it's don't there, then it's not there.  There is no wrong or right in your feelings-it just is..Be honest in your relationship by breaking it off, and go look for the person who was made especially for you.  That frees your partner to find theirs.  Don't ever day is going to wine and roses, but life should have those breathless moments in it.  We shouldn't be wondering-we should know life's pleasures...go and find that dream and live it to the fullest....
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Make sure she is comfortable wid u first, and buddy she's right focus on ur life. Patience is wht u need at the moment.\n\nAll the best !
289012
Well at least you have some morals in asking yourself this question.Just talk to your b/f and see for yourself how he thinks things are going.If it is not happening,then finish the relationship,get yourself over him totally and then see what can happpen with this one you keep thinking of.