which is worse? constant anger and yelling or no communication?
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you have told him you are going to leave and you haven't?! what is your MAJOR malfunction?  leave or stay with the poor guy.  you staying and hating him only puts both of you in a bad place.\n\nTHE DIRECT ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS NO COMMUNICATION IS WORSE IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE trying TO SALVAGE.  if you aren't trying to salvage the relationship than yelling is very annoying.
686855
It's too bad the 2 of you can't discuss your differences instead of yelling. It sounds like he wants to tell (yell) you what he thinks but doesn't want to hear your side. The best thing you can do is approach the subject when you are both calm. Tell him how it makes you feel when he yells at you and won't listen to you. Sometimes you'll be able to compromise. Other times you may have to agree to disagree. Yelling at each other won't solve anything.
212443
Only you can know that for sure. id say get counseling, especially because of the arguing.
615871
Neither is really correct or healthy.  I tend to let it out, often in inappropriate words and shouting.  It is best to discuss it in a calm and loving way, despite your anger.  It needs to be discussed and needs to be discussed rationally and in a respectful way.  This is called fair fighting.  I try to still intersperse my anger with I love yous and words that indicate that I am not trying to hurt my wife...unfortunately, I tend to still say mean things to her if I get too frustrated.  Keeping your anger in will lead to an explosion at some point, which could turn deadly.  It can also lead to health problems like heart attacks, breakdowns, ulcers, suicide, etc.  Another problem holding your anger in is that people may not know how mad you are and push you until you explode!  Getting physical is very dangerous as, if it is against an individual, it is called physical abuse, it can be called assault, it can lead to murder and very well could end relationships or land you in jail.  If it is against inanimate objects, you could damage yourself (break something), damage property (which can lead you to expensive repairs, lawsuits or even jail) and is ultimately a bad indication as to where your anger is leading you to (it will eventually lead you to hit someone...its the next step).
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It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
497795
No....It's considered yelling.
223006
lack of communication
225038
Being spat on is WAY worse. Slapping says "I don't like you and I want to hurt you" but spitting says "I don't like you and I want to hurt you, gross you out and humiliate you all at the same time".
869681
Talk with her.  You need to get counseling for anger management.  If she is willing to stay with you then let her know whats going on, she may need to join you at some point.  If not, you still need to get counseling for yourself and for any future relationships.
800925
I think I'd go insane if I had someone wanting to talk about their feelings and how I may have hurt them and all my faults. Communication is one thing; nitpicking every minute of the day is tiresome and manipulative.
344204
you have to love your self and have a piece of mind. verbal and or physical abuse is not good at all. Many people can tell you to leave but I feel that it is up to you when your really, really tired, you'll go with no hesitation. If not, you will suffer the consequences.
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You need to confront them in a straight forward manner after you've gotten past the really angry stage.  You need to let them know how what they have done has affected you and what your reaction is to this, if it is leaving or what ever.  Just don't let your anger and pain control the discussion, you need to be clear headed so you can make good choices about what you want to happen for your future.
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(m)\n\nWe all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. \n\nAnger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger. \n\nWhat is Anger? \n\nThe Nature of Anger \n\nAnger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. \n\nAnger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. \n\nExpressing Anger \n\nThe instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival. \n\nOn the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us. \n\nPeople use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. \n\nAnger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression. \n\nUnexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships. \n\nFinally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. \n\nAs Dr. Spielberger notes, "when none of these three techniques work, that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt." \n\nAnger Management \n\nThe goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you
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No don't see a doctor just work really hard on anger managment. don't worry there are many ppl out there that have the same problem.
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when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
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Lots of fights & not much making up. Also very little communication or doing things together. Obvious dislike, resentment & criticism of each other. Secretive goings on, etc.
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calm down, take deep breaths, take your anger out on a pillow but whatever you do don't think about why you are stressed and angry it only make things worse