Why is it easier to blow people off by saying get over your ex cheating and move on?
395907
I think the people who say get over it are after their 2 points and don't really care about how people are feeling. It shows their immaturity.\n\nYou're right. You can't just get over it. You can't just move on. You have to deal with the pain that the person you loved and trusted violated that trust in the worst possible way, by being with someone else. It is heartbreaking to see that you are in such pain. There is no easy way to get through it. It's going to take a lot of time and maybe some counseling.  \n\nYou also might consider praying for healing. Beliefnet.com has some prayers that, over time, may help you to heal. Here is one:\n\nPrayer for Healing   \n\nLord Jesus Christ, by your patience in suffering you hallowed earthly pain and gave us the example of obedience to your Father's will: Be near me in my time of weakness and pain; sustain me by your grace, that my strength and courage may not fail; heal me according to your will; and help me always to believe that what happens to me here is of little account if you hold me in eternal life, my Lord and my God. Amen. ~~ Source: Book of Common Prayer 1979\n\nI pray that eventually you will be able to put the pain of lost love and betrayal behind you. God Bless!
263700
One of the few things that you can do to stop thinking about an ex, is to find someone new that you can go out and date (hence: rebound)
543666
Using someone to get over another is not a good idea. You can't expect someone else to make you happy, that is something you have to be responsible for.
499054
The best way is to make your life into something special that you are proud of.  Nothing hurts an ex more than seeing that you were able to move on and make your life better without them in it.
778109
I have yet to hear of a situation where a man got his ex girlfriend back, and everyone ended up being happy with the outcome.  If she's gone, there's a reason she's gone, and your best bet is probably to get over it, and find someone else.
688726
Once a cheater always one, believe that for alot of reasons.  Biggest one is they feel it's ok to do it, or they wouldn't have done it.  second is that the trust is gone, and it will affect the relationship, and therefore, giving them more reason to go out and find someone else.
267945
Generally, if they're the one who's doing the breaking, they don't want you back for whatever reason.  If you want to forgive them and move on with your life, then just do your best to be nice to them and don't bring up the break-up.\n\nIf you want them back, then you're just opening yourself up to being broken up with again, which may end up making you bitter.
401028
Nope.  Never would either.  It's just immature and silly. Really there's no excuse EVER for it.  If things aren't going well you work on them, and if it's not gonna work out, the mature thing to do is end the relationship first, then move on.  Another thing - when you're committed to someone you don't even get into situations where cheating "just happened".  That's just b.s.
241395
I takes ex's a long time to accept the fact that you don't want them any more.  My ex still hasn't accepted the fact, however he leaves me alone.  Haven't seen nor heard from him in years.  I like it this way.  Their ego just won't let them accept the fact that there is life without them.  He will eventually get the message and just go away.  Wish there was something else I could say, but this is the way I see it.
1013868
Get to know the other person better.  I know that if someone said they like me then went back with their ex I wouldn't pay him any attention the next time they break up.
816796
It is easier for thought to hold onto the past, rather than to venture out on new waters, even if it is hurtful.  Actions speak much louder than words, and it would appear that the ex is not a man of substance, but just wind blowing about.  You know what to do now, so do it.  You will feel free and so much better about yourself, you'll see.
888030
If they were your friends it wouldn't have mattered who you were dating as long as you were happy. I wouldn't stress about trying to earn them back because you haven't done anything wrong. If they want to be petty because you broke up with your ex to date someone closer to you then let your friends date your ex and you just concentrate on being happy with your new man. Friends come and go they'll see the light eventually but until then go have some fun with your new man.
395462
it is prolly hard to forget your ex because it is either a relationship that has just ended or that you have many good memories of the time spent together. Or maybe you still have feelings for your ex.
1163901
There is a time after a breakup where the pain of parting is greater than the need for someone new. The more you cared for them, the longer it takes. The trick is knowing when to move on.
578773
usually its because they need a change to the same routine, maybe they are second guessing their relationship,maybe they can get what they need from the person their cheating with, maybe its blackmail, or greed or lustor,maybe theyre still in love with their ex partner(if its an ex they slept with), maybe they got into deep into a relationship they cant get out of , maybe they dont love their spouse , maybe its low self esteem , \n\nwho knows there are many different reasons and no one reason is right or wrong, and it has nothing to do with anything except the struggle that is going on inside that person that does it, dont bother to ask why people do it,  just dont do it yourself, and walk away if it happens to you.
275198
actually i did not do anything just to get even with my ex, no need. because if you really wanted to move on you dont have to get even just to show him that you're now a better person without him, well that is not the basis for that. just do whatever you want to do, without being affected or it is because you're just doing all those things its because you wanted to get even,it only means that you're not yet over with that guy.so the best thing to do is once you already have a new relationship is you have to show all the love and respect to that particular person.so dont use your ex just to get even, just move on with your life.. and be thankful instead that he became part of your life =)
1125169
I do the same thing.  Nothing is wrong with getting rid of the possesions that remind you of an ex-lover.  And if his feelings were hurt, TOO BAD!