how do i cure myself of horrible self-conciousness?
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You have to learn to accept the fact that it takes all kinds of people to make a world.Even people like you.Not everyone will like you,just as you don't like everyone.Learn to accept you uniqueness,and revel in it.You are a part of this world and you have a place in it as well as anyone else.Keep your place!!!!! It doesn't matter what others are thinking,they have brains too.Do you think they care what you are thinking about them?......NO!!!! So don't waste brain energy on what they think either.
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if you dont want to take meds the next best thing is exercise.  it clears the mind and promotes a good self image.  also seeking a higher being, prayer, meditation is helpful.
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Exercise. Do not let people define who you are. Do not use words like a "pig" when referring to yourself, if you do you'll become that pig. Look in the mirror and say "I have beautiful eyes". Build your own self esteem, the world is not going to do it for you, especially when you do not fit in what is consider beautiful. So you have to build up yourself. Walk around with your head held high. Show confidence and believe.
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Go talk to a professional.  They're trained in such matters and have seen all kinds of problems, so they can offer some good advice.  Self-help stuff is fine if you're looking to make some minor improvements, but if there's stuff that just overwhelms you, it's not a bad thing to admit you need help.\n\nAnd no, Yahoo! Answers is not a good substitute for professional help.
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Proper diet(protein and carbohydrate rich)appropriate to you and systematic exercise will improve your personality. Its not the act of self-pleasure that affects your body but the ill feeling that makes u sick.  I need not tell u too much of anything is not good for your mind as well as body.  All the best for improving your personility!
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Try Confidence Club.com, the cds they sell may be useful, either that or try a confidence coach, maybe even some counselling.  I know exactly how you feel and I have tried all the "positive thinking" techniques but sometimes you do need a little help.
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Read\n\nExercise\n\nAnything you can do to divert you from these thoughts.
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Start talking...no, really, for starters go to any window of your house,open it and yell like a warrior getting ready for battle! You will feel better after you do! You may even laugh. learn to laugh at yourself and be yourself. Have fun with life. You'll enjoy it more!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Be like TARZAN (or Jane)
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Word Of Advice, And Seriously If You Don't Take This On Board Like Many humans You Will Find Yourself gettig Lost In A Constrcution Of Unreality\n\nIm Guessing You Daydream, Think And Have Many Thoughts Come Into Your Head Alot, When You Sit And Detach Yourself From Reality\n\nWell Firslt You Need To Regain Your Cerebral Control Agin, And Undersatnd That Everything ARound You Is For You To Expereince And The World Is Large And Adventurious, The Only Thing That Stops People Is That The Goverment Has Created A World Were Everything Is Built Upon Socity And Order, You Have No Money Your Out Of Socitey, You Have Money Your Back In And You Live The Dream World, Well To Undersatnd You Must Find Things That you Wish To Expalnd On, \n\nIf You Have Little Money\n\nTry Reading Self Teach Books\nHanging Out At The Park And Finding New Freinds\nBuilding Confidence With Your Bodylanguage\nthe List Goes On\n\nMost Impotantaly Don't Goe Inside Your Head, Only Do This If You Wish To Develop A Skill And Visiualise A Postive Outcome...Any Negative Thoughts, Or Sayings Will Be Mirrored Onto Your Body And Hae Long Term Negatice Effects\n\nBy The Way Many Will Tell You That You Need To Find God, What This Really Means Is That All Your Fears, Anxietys And Stress Would Be Placed Upon A Non Existent Figure, Although this May Work In The Short Term, The Relapse Of This Is Very Dangerours, Many People Who Have Gone Into Relgion To Beat There Own Thoughts And Problems Wold Tell You That There Problems Have'nt Gone Away But Been Buried Deep Away And That God Looks After Them...Don't Fall In This Trap - As You Get Older The Brain Will Kill Away The New Brain Cells And Revive The Old Ones (Which You Buried Long Ago - Some Call This A Mid Life Crisis Others A Relapse Or The Cortex)\n\nIf You Want Help I Can Help. But Remember Im Not A TRained Practicnair\n\nAlien Boy
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It's nothing you can't change...you need to boost your self-esteem.\n\nI gave you a thumbs-up for admitting there is a problem...THAT IS THE FIRST STEP !!!\nSEE BELOW:\n\nhttp://www.more-selfesteem.com/\n\nImproving Self-esteem \nThe first important step in improving self-esteem is to begin to challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice.\n www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem\n\nWays to Improve Self Esteem \nWays to Improve Self Esteem by Susan Angell ... Apply "self talk"\n www.dtda.org/insights/improveesteem\n\n365 Ways to boost your self-esteem \nAn ongoing list of way to boost your self esteem -- check back here every day for the next way to boost your self esttem...\n www.lifefocuscenter.com/365waystoboostyourselfesteem\n\nhttp://www.selfesteem4women.com/?ad=5
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im not so sure cause i think i have the same problem with myself. i still in the mist  of trying to convince myself that i am beutiful. i think that our, or your fist step would be to think of something that you dont like about yourself and say you do, maybe you can convince yourself!!!!!!! i hope i help and thx for the 2:)
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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This is no joke. Hold your tongue on the roof of ur mouth for a few seconds. Its also good for brain freezes and hiccoughs. \n Try it , it really works.
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Hi Joy\nI think the other two gave good advice, but I would like to recommend something else in addition to their suggestions, which really helped me.\n\nKeep a journal and write in it every day.  Keep it private and safe.  Write everything down.  I don't know why it should be, but the simple act of putting it down on paper is a kind of unburdening.  And since you're confiding in nobody but yourself, you can be as open as you wish.\n\nWhat I am suggesting costs nothing, involves no medication, no other person and can do you no harm.   Please give it a go.\n\nTake Care\n\nOh and eat good food, get gentle exercise, sleep well, all that stuff you already know about...
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I dont think your problem is reinventing yourself?  I think your problem is mentally refusing to accept that any physical change will most possibly have pyshical side effects?\n\nAccepting that as part of the change is essential.  \n\nI know what you mean by reinventing yourself though. Visualise what you want to be and live as if you were that new person. Talk to people as if you are that fit healthy person, you are aware of yourself, you are aware of others etc.\n\nTHEN be forgiving of yourself that your internal thoughts/feeling are taking a little bit of time to catch up with your new external persona.  This is not you being false.  Its not you NOT being yourself. Its just you working towards the petson you want to be.  Dont be too hard on yourself.  \n\nOh and other people possibly already perceive you as the person you are striving to be.\n\nGood luck x\n\nhmm have gone back to edit this as I saw a few typos.  This is my latest resolution of not being too hard on myself!!  So I will acknowledge the typos and try to not correct them..lol
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I had this problem too being an actor (stage) so I just came up with this philosophy...."You are you most comfortable being around?"  Yourself so all you gotta do is just pretend that you are talking or singing to yourself and block out the world around you.  No one will think you are crazy for talking to yourself but this method helps me majorly.
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I have body dysmorphia and nothing has helped me.  I've seen therapists and been on and off some drugs.  It is damn near impossible to change the mental view of yourself and no one outside of yourself and others with the disorder can understand it.  I think you just have to try and trust others.  If you feel that you need to talk more about this...then you can email me at foxyboxy1045@yahoo.com.