Look I cook for her breakfast and dinner( on a daily basis) and I work to jobs just to support us, am I wrong?
405565
Why would you stay if it is that bad? This doesn't make any sense to me. If the marriage is bad then take yourself out and live your life in peace...Lady
813216
i would like to work to make my own money. my mom always told me you was relay on a man. and the cooking part--- i love food and i love to cook so that's no a problem. the cleaning part --- i would like to have someone clean for me.. i think that's where the money comes in.. with out a job you cant paid the maid.. but it would be nice to have a lot of money and just chill back..
907963
I have a job like that: pleasing my BF.  I put in my time 3X a week, it's a duty but also a pleasure and I am not compensated monetarily for it, at least not directly.  That would make me a ho.  LOL.
1165697
No it is not your duty to pay for her university. She needs to grow up and realize that life is hard and she is going to have to start paying her way sometime. I agree with you. Make her work part time, it will teach her to value money. Many universities have jobs on campus that will work around her schedule.
751290
No. My husband and I both work and I respect him very much, as he does me. And in today's world, at least in the US, you need 2 incomes to keep a household running.
335566
Start making her pay for her own share.There is no reason why she cannot support herself,since she is obviously employed by the job you got her and her other job.As for her getting mad,make a tally sheet of what she has cost you in car stuff,meals,groceries etc and if she starts getting snarky about it, hand her the list and tell her she either pays up or shuts up.I know it's tough, but she is walking all over you and you need to put a stop to it.As for the job, either talk to HR or your boss.I know it's tough to do, believe me, but things will be better in the long run.And if there are still job issues, worse case scenario:talk to a lawyer about discrimination.Good luck!
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
688384
If you are baby sitting at her house I do not see why you would charge her. If she helps around your house and cooks for you then baby sitting her kids is a great thank you. Just make sure she keeps the stuff they need in her house because that isn't your responsibility to provide. If you are babysitting at your house then have her send their lunches.
501071
just because it worked for her doesnt mean it will work for you.  see a dr and have them help you plan a diet that will fit your lifestyle and food choices so you will be able to stick with it without sabotaging it because you cant follow it.
789900
Oh I know it is a job babe...I have the same one. Think about it you are a full time maid, nanny, chef, landscaper, and sex factory....and you are paid nothing for it ......yeah it is the hardest and least appreciated job ever. But I think of it this way. I am paid every day in love from my son and my husband. That makes it all worth it. Plus my hubby treats me well and appreciates me so it is all good.\n\nPeople who think it isnt a job are ignorant!
1023419
I agree she should not only be bringing food home for you, but your entire family as well.  How cheap of McDonalds to not provide free food the the employees and their families. How dare these other people speak to you of morals when McDonalds is ripping the most vulnerable of our society off?  They have these poor kids working for minimun wages and not taking care of them.  I mean, they still have to pay for gas to get back 'n forth.  What is wrong with these stupid idiots above me answering this question?  Don't they realize that we have to build these kids self esteem and some how manage to get them to realize they are worth so much more that minimum wages!!! They are exploiting our kids.  I am completely in shock that they don't receive food during work.  I am boycotting McDonalds starting now....and I'm writing a letter to the BBB and the President of the McDonalds Corporation.  They should be ashamed of themselves.  It seems that they expect you to pay to drive your kid to work there, you should be sending them a bill for gas.  In fact, I would do just that.  If they at least paid for the gas then you would not be taking money out of your pocket to drive your kid to work there.  These big corporations suck!!  I think I'm just going to help myself the next time I go there to a free Big Mac.  I'll teach them.  Don't listen to these dufusses you are the best mother around, you are teaching your daughter to take what she is worth and not take any less.  There should be more mothers around like you!! You Rock Mimi!!  Thanks for setting a GREAT example for our kids.
1149520
WOW!!,YOUR A BABE!!.seriously,you are very beautiful.If you were my women i would give you my paycheck plus do the cooking and cleaning,you would be spoiled..LOVE bill.
1051009
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
471548
Depends on what you cook for her.  Most women love a man who cooks, partially cause then we don't have to do it ourselves, partially cause it's nice to be pampered by someone else taking care of us for a change.  But, if you cook like say , my dad, don't.  He was banned from the kitchen for life and relegated to BBQ duty only after an unfortunate incident involving snails and my mom's teflon pan.
771337
Having been in that situation before, it's understandable how you feel! But if you want to make her work without feeling you are letting her down, consider this: You aren't going to always be around. You'll move away, or perhaps you'll move on with life, meet new people. So will she. YOU will probably be more successful. And she won't have the experience to get along on her own. If you still care for her, despite all mooching, dump her (gently) on her bum and let her know she's got to learn to get around on her own two legs. No more help.\n\nOffer advice. Get her started with a step or two towards finding a job. But beyond that, refuse all help. Let her know that the job industry isn't always about who you know, but how much work you do.
95915
Yes, if she has a partner who supports her, gets home by end of school hour, and has at least three days off per week, like Sat, Sun Mon.  And she has good health so she is not sick from the work load.  Good for you if that is what you are striving for.
1148211
Not at all.  It sounds like you're a level headed person, and that you really love your wife and want her to be happy.  You've done so much more than others in your position might do.  If I'd had a hat on, I'd tip it to you!  You're a class act!