Is it ok to dislike a child?
413904
No, not as long as you still treat him the same.  I totally know what you mean, and sometimes you just have to take a deep breath, roll your eyes, and force a smile.  Little boys are hard to deal with, just don't snap, treat him the same as the others, and you'll do fine.  You don't have to like him, you just have to act like it.  Most of the time, just acting like it will change your view anyway.  But, if it doesn't, at least you won't have any regrets.
1106350
nope.  i dont dislike any specific group of people, to me it all comes down to the individual.  there are jerks in every racial, religious or ethnic group, but a few jerks doesn't make the whole group bad.
477196
You continuing to sit with her shows that you are mature. As long as you do not make her feel bad it is okay.  You do not like have to like everyone but treat all people with respect.  No one likes every person that they meet.
977367
I wouldn't hate someone just because someone expected me to. If someone expected me to hate someone or they wouldn't like me then they probably are not worth hanging around anyway. I'd also suggest they get a grip on reality.
639708
Many things like that will teach discipline and dedication but what matters is which one is your child interested in?  If your child hates it, then it will not have the effects you desire.  Whatever you choose to get your child involved in, it will have far more chances of giving the results you desire only if your child is vested in it.  If your child hates it, dedication will go out the window.  It is hard to practice something day in and day out if you absolutely abhor it.
618454
Your son may be resentful if you sever his relationship with his friend (yes even at 6). However, he is old enough to learn values, like materialism is not the greatest "ism" and all that. You know, some people really don't care about the kind of car they drive because other things are more important. A kid can understand that. He may draw his own conclusion with that information and realize this little girl is icky. Good luck. And I mean that sincerely.
943672
I would have to agree, there is nothing wrong with giving your kids nice things, but whn they get out of line for not getting exactly what the want, then they sh.ould be put in their place. I watch that show every now and again, and everytime I do I get pissed because of they act, its ridiculus
303062
well i have a daughter and when the time comes and she finds love if I didn't like him it wouldn't be because of his race it would have to be that he treated her like crap. Race should never be a reason not to like someone.
963150
if my parent tried to take my kid i would probably DEEPLy dislike them for the rest of my life.  ....just a thought.
1055770
There are a slew of people I do not like, but hate is a very strong word. I certainly hate alot of things people have done. Hate will destroy you.
160826
In my opinion, I wouldn't because you don't know much about them and people have a tendency to hurt small children. I'd get to know them before I'd ever leave a stranger alone with my children.
972117
No.\n\nTo answer the question, I don't, but there is a thin line between love and hate, it gets ones blood boiling.\n\nPossibly someone hates themself, and is taking it out on you.\n\nThat has been happening to several people lately, especially to a poster whose name I cannot pronounce.\n\nI didn't recognize you at first because of the new avatar, I liked the old ones.  I think it has to do with people being unhappy with themselves and taking it out on others.\n\nGood Luck\n\n\nEdit:  Sometimes it is easy to strongly dislike actions of one you love, because you do care about them and their thoughts, actions, and feelings.  And if you love them, it is easy for them to hurt you, because you have invested a lot of emotional energy in those people.
988851
I agree with you.  If a parent (mother or father) uses the child to get to the other parent the child will only end up resenting that parent.  I am a single parent and I do not do this.  I will admit that it is difficult not to talk bad about the other parent at time.  I do my best to let my children make their own opinions of their father.  If I need to say something against him I make sure they are not in the room.  My ex husband badmouthed his ex wife in front of his kids daily.  They did not turn against her but against him.  We all need to be careful and thoughtful of our children.  They need to come first - not ourselves or our revenge. \nGood point to make with this question.
1172437
We should always respect our elders and others around us.  So, if the kids are speaking their mind in a civil non-foul way, then it's okay.  If they do it in a crude way, then it's not.
164792
There will be always be someone that chooses to dislike you for something irrelevant. Don't worry about these people, they dislike you for their own reasons, nothing that you do will change it.
1032827
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Of course, you did nothing wrong to deserve such treatment. Sometimes parents actually select one child for abuse, but don't abuse others in the same household. It's called scapegoating. Forgiving is more about releasing your feelings of hatred than about bestowing some mantel of "forgiveness" on them. Holding onto hatred can hurt you. When you're ready, I think you would benefit from forgiving them. Of course, you will never forget. Respect is something they should have taught you by showing it to you. It normally is part of love. Rather than respect them, I think now you would be lucky to tolerate them. You may even need to limit your time with them for your mental health. Also for your own mental health, I would recommend finding a good psychologist to discuss the abuse you experienced growing up. Years of such of abuse is not healed quickly. Please be patient with the process. If you're not satisfied with your first psychologist, get another one. When you have children of your own, please consider taking parenting classes or child development courses from the community center or community college. Unfortunately, children of abusers sometimes become abusers themselves. Learning proper techniques of caring for a child will help ensure a happy and healthy relationship with your own children and an end to the cycle of abuse. Good luck to you.\n\nI haven't read this book, but Amazon gives it 4 of 5 stars:\nBad Childhood---Good Life : How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood by Laura Schlessinger
758689
No-one should disown their own children no matter what. A child grows up into adulthood reflecting the values that we as parents teach them. Just because we dont agree with what they do doesnt give us the right to outcast them - we dont own them.  The only exception would be if your child turned out to be a peaodophile - I couldnt accept that xx