My grandfather died a week ago tonight..?
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I still feel that sometimes, and my grandfather died 20 years ago.  If you had a strong bond, it's normal.  Either that or we both are crazy.
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my grandfather was the kindest sweetest man alive. he died 16 yrs ago and there will never be a man that will replce him. when i do bad i think hes turning in his grave and i feel horrible. my grandma is 92 and shes still as spunky as they come and shes a trip. she whacked my son with her puse recently!! love them both but gramps took us fishing gram took us shopping
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I don't think your crazy.........Since he died at a time and place of his own choosing he may have set some of these things up prior to his death......I have known people to do that before they die.......Mom's dying of cancer will buy birthday gifts for their children to be given out at the right time? Just a thought.......The other things you"feel" can be any number of things but I believe he is with you when you need him.....I am sure he was in a lot of pain at he time of his death but I am also sure he loved you. Enjoy your quiet times.............You will heal soon.
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First, I am so sorry for your lose. It is going to take time. My brother passed away in 1998. And to this day I still miss him so much.  What I did for my brother is I put together a memorial run in his honor. By memorial run I am referring to a motorcycle run. I meant for this to be a one and only type run to help me in dealing with his passing. He was only 49 when he died. The run was such a success that I did this run for five years. OH just for your info ANY and ALL money raised from this event I donated to Veterans homes. But this worked for me. What might help you is, if there was a favorite place your grandpa liked to go. Then go there, sit down and talk to him. I know this sounds crazy, BUT you'd be surprised how much it will help you. But know in your heart that Grandpa would want you to be happy for him as he is in a much better place now, and he is waiting for you to join him in another 70 years or so. You might also think about having a mass in his honor on some Sunday in the future. It's summer now, so maybe you can have a cookout with your family. And make sure to set a place for Grandpa. Really, I'm not kidding. You'd really be surprised. But I hope I have helped you in your time. If you want send me an e-mail if you have questions. Take care and God Bless you and Grandpa. I'm sure Grandpad is proud to say from above "That's MY grand daughter"
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spend as much time with him as you can before he passes, you will appreciate that later....after grief however you please and get on with you life instead of dwelling on his death...more than likely it is what he would want and im sure he'd be proud of you
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Sounds like he died fighting a good fight.  Good luck to you
747134
My favorite uncle died of throat cancer! Our situation was similar, he lived next door but I strayed away in his final days. I regret it too but I always try and remember him doing the good times and all the funny jokes he told. I search for the positives in his life and think of those times. I also strive to do well for I feel that he's watching me and wants me to do well in life.
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I'm sorry for your loss, Puddin tain. I think that everyone grieves in their own way, and there are many responses people have to a loved one's death. There may be a time when you will need to cry about this, but it may not happen for a while. I don't think that you are a bad person.\n\nIf you are concerned about others' opinions of you because you are smiling, I wouldn't be. If you loved your grandfather, don't worry about smiling. Perhaps he gave you many reasons to smile. If you feel the need to, share with others how you feel about your grandfather. They will understand your words, if not your facial expression.\n\nWhen my grandmother died, we played some polka music at her graveside. I got up and started dancing. Others joined me in dancing to it. She LOVED polka music and it gave her joy to dance to it. Was it cold to dance "on" someone's grave? Not in this case. It was done out of love and respect, not anger or revenge.\n\nAre you "cold" for not crying but smiling? No, I don't think so.
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First of all nothing is your fault. If you allow regret to take over it will and it will also bring you down and it's very hard getting back up if you let it control you. I'm really sorry to hear of the death of your great grandfather. I know the feeling of losing grandparents. I have none left from both sides. I just lost the last two grandparent last year. My grandmother died in March and my grandfather died in April. They died a month apart from each other, and I was extremely close to them. I didn't have a chance to say goodbye to them, but the one thing that I have is their love and the memories. No matter what's taken away, you still have the memories of that person, and nobody can take that away from you. Just because he's not here in person does not mean he's not with you. His spirit will always live on no matter what. It's going to take some time to get over, but believe me you will be able to go on. The pain will always be there because you'll miss him, but over time things will get better. He wouldn't want you feeling regret and blaming yourself so don't do that. Would you want someone you loved to be here on earth feeling regret and pain??? He doesn't want this either. His love is still with you, allow it to heal you and know that things will be alright.
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Mom, he is going to be fine. He is going to be with God and all of his pain and suffering will be gone. He won't hurt anymore. I know that it is hard to deal with; It hurts me, too. But we have to be strong and leave it all in God's hands. Grandaddy will be overjoyed to see God and we should rejoice with him. Lets pray for him because I know that is what he would want.
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My father's death....
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This sense of loss you feel is real.Everyone grieves for diffferent periods of time.I can relate to how you feel since both my parents died almost 3 years ago. My dad was sick for some time and when he died it was almost a blessing to see him at peace.My mother dies 10 days later and it was such a shock.I tried to deal with my loss by talking about my feelings with my family.I found comfort in making a scrapbook about them. Sometimes it is the little things that will remind you of them. It may be hearing a song, seeing someone who vaguely resembles your loved ones, scents from perfume  or something so commonplace you associate it with your parents.These  memories while they give you sadness at first they later give you comfort when you realized you loved your parents and they loved you.I hope I can share a small prayer that I had read at my parent's funeral ."The Lord shall have their souls to keep, And I their fond memories when I sleep."
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i had just lost my grandfather and my 3yr old son within three days of each other. i was currently at Ft drum NY and had to fly down to AZ with my sons body for the funerals. i stayed with my family for the upcomming week, and the nite before the funeral i woke up at about 4am or so and saw my grand father standinding at the bottom of my bed smiling. he was surrounded by a very bright light and in my head i heard him say "Every thing is going to be O.K., he's with us". My wife awoke and saw the same image.by the time we looked at each other and turned back to the image, it was gone.
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I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
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I’m really sorry for your loss.\n\nYour experience is very normal, and I’ve heard as much from other people, especially if they had a good steady relationship with the parent who died. My grandfather died recently (he was in his 90's), and my mother is going through the same thing, even though she was prepared for it.\n\nEven deep friendships have the same sort of “resonance.” One author wrote about his best friend dying in an unexpected accident and said that every time he saw a white SUV of the same model as his friend’s sitting in a parking lot or passing him on the road, he had to fight the urge to pull over or turn around and look for him. His head knew that his friend was gone and not coming back, but his heart kept hoping anyway. \n\nThere are so many cues around us that we associate with someone we care about, and even when they are not there, we are still cued to respond.\n\nI know it’s distressful, but unless you are doing some dangerous things because of the feelings or find yourself unable to function on a daily basis, I would just say you’re very normal. \n\nLook at it as a clear indication of how much you loved your father and what a good relationship you two had together: Even though he has died, his presence still seems very real to you. \n\nHe is in a sense “always with you.” \n\nThat’s actually something special -- it's an experience that some people never have with their parents or anyone else. In a way, although you are suffering his loss, you are still very blessed.
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I understand how you feel I lost my grandmother the same way. We were close and I am sure you were with your grandmother, she just wants to comfort you and let you know she still loves and not to be discouraged because she will all ways be there to watch over you. Don't be afraid it will all be okay.
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I'm very sorry to hear of the sudden, tragic death of your uncle.  He was obviously very dear to you.\nTry talking with your mother and father about how you feel.  Maybe they can tell you more about the good times they had with your uncle.  If you have any other uncles or aunts, try talking with them too.\nGrief is a terrible thing to endure, but try to remember that your life goes on.  You can best honor your uncle's memory by living your life to the fullest, just like he would want you to do.\nHope this helps, even a little bit.