I want to marry my Boyfriend but caste problem?
407683
Intercaste???  Can't run with you?  Is he wearing a cast that the doctors put on his leg??Or like, are you talking about a intercest(incest)? Dreams?  What the heck are you talking about?  You don't make any sence.  Sounds like you have several things going on in the what ever kind of question you asked.  You need to reconfigure your question.
203417
I understand your position very well. Where I come from, the society finds it hard to accept inter-tribal marriages into the mainstream - surprisingly even if both of you are Muslims.\nIt is very hard to convince Muslim parents to accept an 'non-believing' daughter-in-law, mother of their grandchildren etc. In your case, one can say it is justifiable (Islam only allows Men to marry PIOUS Christian and Jewish Women). Conversion to Islam, may help soften their (Your Man's Parents') hard position; I don't know about your's. \nOne thing worthy of consideration is that, contrary to modern secular opinion, in deeply traditional societies like yours (and mine), one marries into a whole family, not just a member of that family. So, by marrying him, you are kind of, inducted to his entire brethren (and sisteren :P) and vice-versa. Although both of you are educated and having jobs of your own, you will be surprised to find out later after your wedding how deeply rooted in tradition both of you can be. You may end up judging one another according your individual religious/cultural standards, and THAT can be a problem ("ALL THIS TIME I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME JUST THE WAY I AM; PERHAPS I MADE A MISTAKE!!!). This spell trouble with capital T! especially from the Man's point of view.\nI know you are seeking some 'constructive' ideas, but I can't help but be selfish. I'll want to advice for you to convert to Islam (with sincerity on your part and lots of help, patience and perseverance from your Man), get married with HIS parents blessings, move to another area (possibly another country - to lessen friction between families) and settle there.\nI hope this helps...\n(A-K-B)
347536
Sarah, since you are a girl, I think to marry someone who truly loves you if certainly better than one who loves you too but not truly. Since he loves you truly, he may be more sincere and faithful to you and even if you dont love him enough now,  due to his love and sincereity, your love for him will grow eventually. Best of luck to you, do make a wise decision because marriage is a life-long committment.
958644
I understand your dilemma; however I thinks cultural differences are good for a marriage.  I am African American and my husband is of Yemen descent.  He was raised in Tanzania.  I think he has chosen to follow his heart and look at people for people.  We sit and create our own world and not let family, culture or society dictate the love we have for one another.  I love him with all my heart and despite the approval of my mother and sister, because of his Arab background.  He stands by me and I will for him. If you stop looking at her as a Hungarian and start looking at her as the women Allah gave you; then everything will work itself out.
154410
marry him!!\nowh wait..before that..\nfirst of all..only you can sort this out..if you think you can cope with problems you may face..(due to the 'no qualifications' thing)..then you should indeed marry him..\ni advise you that its the best anywayz..but ever heard of this?\nwhen poverty knocks on the door,\nlove and trust flies out the window..\n\nmake your own decissions..age is no issue!~
769085
My boyfriend is amazing too. He would do anything for me and I would do the same for him. We are a team and we have been together for almost 3 1/2 years. We are planning on getting married when we graduate from college. My boyfriend doesn't mind talking about weddings, he wants me to have whatever I want. He looks better than any man I know. He is tall and milk chocolate, like Morris Chestnut or Tyson (the model), but better! The way he loves me confirms that God sent him into my life.
629520
Where's the problem?  Do you parents or friends dislike you dating someone white?  Sounds like it's not a problem for you, as if you were against dating someone white then he wouldn't have made it to boyfriend status; keep loving him and let anyone who objects know your feelings.
994136
I'm not Indian, but if some guy wanted to marry me without my father's permission, I would not be down with that. It's tradition and that can be important to some people. Obviously not you, but for your boyfriend. If you married him, it would be his marriage too, so it would also be good that he be comfortable with how that marriage begins.
222424
I think you are mature and caring, and kudos to you for not taking this guy's virginity before breaking up with him.  (Would that more guys would act this way toward their girlfriends!)  Good for you, also, for knowing that you are not ready to make this commitment.\n\nIt's good to be honest with him and share your concerns about racism, about your need for security, and so forth.  Of course he'll be heartbroken, but now it's up to him to deal with it, and I hope he deals with it well.  I also hope someday he'll become strong enough to stand up to his family and pair up with whichever girl or woman he wishes, regardless of race.  I hope that when you are ready to marry, that your man's family will love you too, but if they don't, that he'll be strong enough to ignore his family's wishes and stand beside you, and you'll stand beside him.\n\nDo you know the song "Society's Child"?
539364
are you sure it's only because of the looks? if it is, then sorry to say that's very stupid! have you told them you love him? if you haven't, you should. if you have, you need to tell them you're beyond the stage of caring about looks. if you truly love him, at least try to fight for him. their problem is hardly even a problem - explain that YOU have to live with his looks, not them. I'm an indian and my parents wouldn't dream of getting me married to someone who THEY think is good/bad looking. that's the last of their criteria! stand up for yourself
1106758
Oh my...how complicated indeed. Love story like in the books, but I guess yours is reality. Stop and think for a moment here...what is your intention? The only person in this triangle relationship who really seems to be in a mess is you.\nDo you really deserve to feel this way? What did you do wrong? The answer is nothing....this whole situation is not your fault....and now you add to your misery, the need to explain your every move to someone who hasn't really done everything he could to be with you...Oh, believe me if he really wanted you ...no matter which culture...he wouldn't have just married the girl his parents wished for him to marry. Even in India nowadays ( I heard) young people go against their parents wish and marry who they want to marry. Wake up and face reality. You don't owe him anything...no justifications...nothing! You lost him when he married that woman...and he lost you....now don't lose yourself, too. Take care and start loving yourself for a change.
579056
HI,reading your question makes my heart ache.first of all u should not be living with a boyfriend-at least our religion ISLAM does not allow it.try to find a husband instead.secondly do not take any abuse from him.leave him instantly.a man who does not care for u now would never do it even if u marry him.\nTry to stand on your own two feet-have dignity and cut all ties with him.sincerely wishing u the best.
418594
Just live together and don't get married until he becomes a citizen.  If he really loves you, he will do it.
1048474
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
771085
Different cultures make it difficult for people to stay married.  Before you marry your bf, visit India with him and observe the customs of how women are treated in the households and their roles in domestic life.  Be objective.  You may or may not like what you see, but at least you will be aware of the differences.
410741
There is nothing that you can do to make your boyfriend marry you. You have to decide if you want to continue to date someone who is not interested in marriage at this time. Take this time to decide on what you want to do to prepare yourself for marriage. Talk with boyfriend, find out his feelings. I wish you the best.
720498
go an see maniratnams Bombay, my advice is dont change ur religion.. that will be stupid thing to do.\nToday u will change ur religion, next day u will change something else.. \nman u ask urself, do u love each other ? if yes, then why religion coming in between. U can even marry her without changing religion.\nTry to convince her the same, she is probably afraid of her society. Tell her not to worry as nothing complex will happen.\nYou both need not change anything just stay where u r, and love each other.