My G/F always has to get drunk before we make love.  Is my lovemaking that bad or does "she" have the problem?
401135
Ask her, not us, go on get and talk to her!!
1041616
I AGREE WITH EVERY OTHER ANSWER, MAYBE YOU BETTER NOT APPROPACH THE SEX AS A SPORT ...\n\nMAYBE YOU BETTER UNDERSTAND THAT IF YOU ARE "WELL ENDOWED"\nyYOU MIGHT BE PROUD, AND NEED TO ACHIEVE YOUR OWN SATISFACTION,,  BUT FRANKLY WHEN ANY OF MY LOVERS WERE VERY]\nLARGE, IT WOULD BE  UNPLEASANT,, AND NOT EASY TO TAKE, AS YOU MAKE THEM  VERY SORE INSIDE, AND THE "THRILL I S GONE"\n\nWHETHER SHE FAINTED, OR SLEPT, GET THE HINT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH\nDONT USE HER LIKE A "CORPSE"  if she STOPPED, AND SAID NOTHING THAN THAT IS PRETTYY OBVIOUS SHE WAS TIRED, AND PROBABLY SORE,\nAND SHE IS NOT A PIN CUSHION,,\n\nHARD AND ROUGH SEX IS FINE IF BOTH PARTIES ARE UP TO IT, BUT IF ONE IS NOT ABLE TO KEEP THAT PACE, YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A REST,\n\nYOU WERE PROBABLY BORN WITH TEN FINGERS,  OR JUST LET IT GO AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE CLOSENESS, AND THE PERSON LYING THERE] TRYING TO PLEASE YOU,,THAT WILLL TURN HER ON AGAIN\nIF YOU LET HER REST, CATCH UP TO YOUR ENERGY LEVEL,,\nHOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF SHE WAS AT A FAST PACE SHOVING SOMETHING INSIDE YOU....OUCH
990002
Sounds like its fun for you and her friend but that she is only doing it to please you.\nAsk her if that is the issue because if she is doing it to please you and it goes against her feelings towards herself you are playing a very dangerous game with her.
101827
Just ask her!  If you're not convinced with her answer, don't press the issue.  Ask for ways for you to improve her experience.  If she's worried about your feelings, that will give her the opportunity to 'help you along' without embarassment.  Real men appreciate any advice from their lady- so the fact that she offers it- does NOT mean you've been doing it wrong.  And remember, you're not born a great lover, you BECOME a great lover- take any advice graciously.
1034636
She may not be relaxed enough. My BF has to give me a full body massage first or a couple of drinks, or better yet-BOTH. Then it's great.
251928
My girl is the same way and I am 23. It's sorta weird for me not to be in control of when we have sex. I believe if she didn't want to have sex so much then I would. Its a weird situation but I think its true.
88263
Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
709672
If she doesn't like it, she does't like it.  However, if she's never tried it then she doesn't know what she's missing.  I like it, not all the time, have to be in the right mood for it.  The first time I tried it I honestly was wasted drunk, my b/f had been trying to get me to do it and when he saw the opportunity he took it.  He's lucky I enjoyed it though, or else it could've been rape.  I am not suggesting get her drunk, you've got to talk her into it.  When you go down on her, just as she's about to cum, push a finger into her ass so she cums with your finger there.  She may want you to do it again.
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A chick huh? Don't refer to her as being a chick:D\nWhy don't you want to help her around the house? You really should, ladies like that, it's a big turn on. I like it when my sweet man helps me in the kitchen and helps me around the house. It is very bonding and good for the relationship\nI am sure she has her reasons for making you sleep on the couch. \nHelp her out, you'll thank me for my advice later :D
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I have the same problem, I'm guessing you get too much of a jolt when she sucks on it so you have to stop all of a sudden. this is normal the blood flow to your penis is making it too sensitive, so instead of receiving pleasure, your just receiving stress. try having her do oral without actual suction and see what happens.
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You have a problem here.  You need to tell her how you feel.  How much she hurts you and how it hurts you to see her abuse alcohol.  She had a drinking problem and needs help.  As long as you continue to spend time with her, she will hurt you.  In a minor way, you are an enabler for her because you do nothing to stop her.  Yes she has a self control problem.  If she doesn't listen to you or gets defensive about it, tell her that until she gets her act together, you just can't spend any more time with her.  Tell her that she embarasses you, injures you and hurts you deeply within.  Tell her that until she can give you the respect, consideration and friendship that you have been giveing her, you can't afford to spend the energy and emotion on a losing cause...that she is draining you emotionally and physically.  Otherwise, she will keep using you (that is what she is doing) and abusing you.  It is tough to do this and she may get mad and be verbally hostile to you, but it is for her own good...and yours.  Good luck.
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why are you so worried about that ? do you love her ?\ndo you feel that this is getting to you to much ?\njust trust her man she is a woman and she chose you to be with ! don't beet yourself up about this ! She loves you and wants you that's all that matters ! are you a virgin !\npast is history does it matter what she is ?\n:) always smiling !
409242
it depends i guess. sometimes i go in like 5 mins. sometimes it takes me 20. so yeah it's normal, just remember how much your g/f is going to love it, you shouldn't get bored then. lol maybe tired, but hey..you gotta do what you gotta do.
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It is normal.  She probably feels like you're replacing her, or that it's kinky,etc.\nThe next time you're in the mood try to make her be in the mood.  I know that sometimes I claim to not be in the mood, but after some persuasion I can heartily change my mind.\n\nGirls don't get turned on by sight, but by touch.  The next tiem you want some, go after her, but be romantic and tender too.  Tell her how beautiful you think she is, and how much you long for her.  Kiss her neck, and eyes, and smooth her hair.  Compliment her like hell, and be as sugary as possible.\n\nMake her realize, that you wouldn't have to masturbate if she were more open to sex.\n\nAlso, encourage her to take a multivitamin with you.  Alot of women don't have enough zinc -- so they have hard time getting wet.\nThey don't have enough niacin, either, so they don't feel good.\n\nGet her to take evening primrose oil for "her hair", and flax seed oil  to help prevent cholesterol issues for both of you (buy smart balance too, so that this sounds more plausible).  Once she starts taking those magical four (zinc, niacin, evening primrose oil, and flax seed oil) she'll have a hard time keeping her hands off of you.
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Just to correct a couple of of bits of misinformation...\n\nED can be physical, psychological or a mix of the two.\nAn erection is best described as a "psychohydraulic experience.."\nIn the case that you describe, if everything functions normally during masturbation, then the issue might be psychological, possibly performance anxiety or some kind of issue with the lady of the moment..\nPerhaps the timing's wrong, or you're trying to rush things...\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that, during masturbation, it's all about you - your attention is focused solely on your own sensations and enjoyment.  Sex with a partner is a lot more complicated, and it's not just mutual masturbation.\n\nThe best thing to do is to talk frankly with your partner.. presumably she is aware there is a problem... and it's certainly in her interest to get it sorted out, as well as yours.\n\nIt might be that you're not getting the right amount/kind of attention from her that you give yourself...  not enough foreplay...  too fast, too slow, too hard, too soft...  there's a million variables.  \nTry letting her watch you masturbate, so she can see what works, then let her take over... \n\nMost importantly, relax, take your time, and don't let stress get to you... worrying about it is the worst thing you can do.  Relax and enjoy.\n\nHope that helps, and good luck
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um this is really gross but try having a w'ank before sex so you arnt so excited...if you havnt had a long term girfriend its prob just lack of experience so dont give up and try not to worry...you will make a great lover one day ...more than i can say for a lot of the guys on this site!....also when you are doing it and you feel like you are about to come stop for a second to get yourself composed before you start again and maybe try just concentrating on her for ages before penetration....good luck you will be fine dont let it bother you.\nand you dont need some doctors drugs....
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Act like you don't know what's really going on, and be sure to "prep" yourself for several minutes prior.  If you're with an experienced woman, she won't expect you to perform for long.  Really though, its all about what you do and don't know in bed, so as long as you act clumsy and shy, you should be fine.