Is the menopause a serious cause of marriage break-up?
400943
I was never married to a woman with menopause, but was dating a woman who was very grouchy and had a hard time dealing with it.  I overlooked it best I could but she broke up with me.  I think the menopause had something to do with it.  Good luck, try to get past it......
482118
Yes, You should do an Internet search for menopause and read about the symptoms.  You can experience more than one symptom. And the symptoms can last up to 10 years.
31980
According to the latest research there are 7 main reasons:\n\nPoor communication\nFinancial problems\nA lack of commitment to the marriage\nA dramatic change in priorities\nInfidelity\nFailed expectations or unmet needs\nAddictions and substance abuse and Physical, sexual or emotional abuse\n\nLack of conflict resolution skills although not a reason certainly contributes.\n\nEvery case is different as every couple has unique triggers an stresses, but in general the above reasons would give most folks a run for the money to stay together.
265162
A couple theories here.Decades ago as unromantic as it sounds, women had more things to tie them to a marriage. Along with love, women usually weren't highly educated as they are today and most likely did not work out of the house. They were financially dependent on the husband.Also they had kids early in the marriage which solidified that bind even more. In todays society we are go-getters, we are educated, more often than not women are out there making the money and don't need the man to provide for them. WE also take responsibility for our reproduction and sexuality. We decide when we are ready to have a baby and don't just do it out of pressure to start a family. Also, women have more access to birth control methods that werent advertised decades ago.So sometimes we aren't as dependent on the man and have a desire to get out of the marriage and have the resources to actually do it. Also, marriages tend to last shorter because divorce has become more acceptable in our society. Not like decades before when you were looked at like scum if you had a divorce. Several reasons that marriages don't last. But there are always the ones that stand the test of time. I love my husband and would like to say our marriage will be the one that does last but in the society we live in today you just never ever know.
308125
Definately NOT, exspecially if you have children. If you no longer love each other you will only end up more miserable in the end, by staying together.  If you have tried all the avenues such as counciling, talking... and nothing has worked.  \n\nDepending on how long you have been married, if you have children, it can really take it's toll on them without you even knowing it!  They see and understand more than we know, and if you are miserable...they are!  \n\nTake time to explain to them. And if it is mutual, you both talk to them. Let them know it isn't their fault, and bear the responsibility. Never accuse one or the other in front of them. \n\nThe one thing I have learned about love, is comfort, and if you are no longer comfortable in your relationship, it isn't worth the time to waste.  \n\nIt's hard to tell anyone to end a relationship, but life goes on...a little hard at first, but it gets easier and can be better! Good Luck.
1171842
You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
91994
Do you mean "Why does it occur" or do you mena "How does it occur".\n\nHow it occurs is essentially ovarians failure. The ovaries stop producing hormones and there is a cascade of biological effects as a result, eveythhing  from cessationn of menstruation through to a loss of bone density and mood changes.\n\n(BTW menopause has nothing whatoever to with running out of eggs as Dr_n_ur_friend implied. A woman at menopause stillhas hundreds of thousands of viable eggs available.)\n\nWhy it occurs is because pregnancy is quite risky, women are esential in the raising of their offspring in the early years and human babie mature very slowly. As a result humans evolved a system whereby women couldn't risk there lives through pregnancy if they weren't going to live long enough to ensure the children survived to adulthood.\n\nMenopause is simply a way of stopping a woman having a child  if she is likely to die before the child turns 12. Instead she is able to devote all here resoucres to rasing any previous children or assisting in the care of grandchildren.\n\nToday of women commonly live far more than 12 years after menopause, but in a 'natural' state that owuld have been rare, and our bodies are still evolutionarily stick in the neolithic no matter how advanced our technology may be.
833417
No, menopause does not last forever---it just seems that way. ;-)\n\nShe needs to see a gynecologist right away to determine if it is menopause or some other health problem. How old is she? Perimenopause can begin in the 30's and menopause itself can last up to 10 years. \n\nPlease be patient with her. Advise her to see a doctor---there are lots of remedies for the symptoms, so she (and you) do not need to suffer through anything. Tell her that you love her and want her to feel well and be happy and to do whatever it takes to make it so. Good luck!
1149971
i don't think that would be a quite plausible cause for break-ups. sure, women who don't like football feel neglected but it's only a matter of a month, once every four years. on the contrary women should seize this opportunity to do things that their bfs or husbands would in normal circumstances won't approve. things usually go unnoticed during this period! like go for shopping n spend their money or anything else!
1136136
Yes and it was very difficult.  I think I broke my own heart as much as I broke hers.  I was with a very beautiful girl whom I had a lot of chemistry with.  I was in a committed relationship with her for a couple of years and so it occurred to me that it was time for me to ask for her hand in marriage or call it quits.  I wasn't so sure about marrying her, but I loved her deeply so I cut her loose.\n\nIt seems to me that as women age the likelihood that they will attract a man that they feel suitable for marriage decreases.  I liked being with her a lot, but I didn't want her to waste her pretty years with me when I didn't think I was going to marry her.  She meant a lot to me, in fact she still means a lot, but I know that it is better this way. \n\nMaybe if I didn't give a crap about her we'd still be together.  Yeah, there are tons of guys out there that keep their girls around coz it's convenient and a steady source of @ss.  Of course most of the girls are either clueless or in denial.
232103
One reason:  Menopausal Power Trip!
665167
Uhm, sorry but you're wrong. After menopause, they regain sex drive, but many are in commited relationships and their men have no sex drive or are unable to perform.
513384
I am with lady bug! When you pass menopause you do loose many of your sexual tools. Get checked out and ask your Dr. about hormone cream for that problem!
660983
If it is actually due to menopause symptoms, soy and black cohosh are supposed to be helpful.  Without knowing your menstrual history, still having problematic hot flashes after sixty seems as if the symptoms may have lasted a long time.  This combined with your statement that HRT did not help, makes me wonder whether the cause is not something else.  Have you considered consulting an endocrinologist?
444369
dont make the mistake\nmarriage causes more divorce
416095
There are quite a few things out there. Below, I've placed a link for herbs that can help with menopause and it's symptoms. Scroll down to Herbs for Fertility
234531
When menopause occurs prematurely, it isn't referred to as menopause.  It is POF - premature ovarian failure. \n\nPlease see your gynecologist for a workup to be sure you don't have an underlying health issue.  For more info:\nhttp://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/ency/premature_menopause.jsp