How do you help your lazy friend lose weight? She doesn't like her weight and it's affecting her life outlook.
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Be extrmely patient & understanding in motivating her to live a less worry-free healthy lifestyle. \nMake her realize that being fit & healthwise leads to a positive outcome result because, "we are what we eat."\nCompile news clippings or infos concerning about the benefits of weight loss and  also the possible extreme effects of weight gain...\n*try giving her a treat on a professional salon for a complete beauty make-over.\n*make her look fabulous on her wardrobe because it would catch men's attention.
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She needs to suggest that they work out together and start eating healthier.\nShe can say that she's been letting herself go and that she would like him to do some of the working out and eating healthier with her to keep her motivated.
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Have another serious talk with her saying "Hey I notice you havent been eating much, is everything ok??"  Don't accuse her of neccessarily having anerexia, as that woould put her on the defense...  Now you're coming across as a good concerned friend...  Maybe it has nothing to do with being aneroxic at all, maybe its a sign of depression...  Did she just recently lose someone close to her??  Or maybe a bad breakup??  Or heck maybe she just hasn't been feeling well the last few days...  See what she says...  If it's only been a few days or so since this pattern started and it's pretty sudden, it could be one of the above, just be there for her for the next few days till she slowly gains back her appetite...  IF however this has been an ongoing issue, whether or not she admits it (she'll probably be in denial even with herself) I would then say "well, you might say it's no big deal, but I am truly concerned for you..  I have noticed that all you ate today was a tic-tac and an apple, or whatever, and then tell her this is not healthy...  Mention again what you said about the running and healthy foods, which should be part of any healthy lifestlye, even if your not on a "diet", tell her you want her to help yourelf, but she's gotta do it when she's ready, and in the meanwhile if she ever needs anything to call you day or night to talk (even if it has nothing to do with food, like i said earlier there could be an underlying emotion helping cause this, the best thing you can do is just be there as a friend)...  From there back off for a few days or so, unless you see herself in an immediate life threatning situation, such as she's talking about suicide and stuff...  See if she takes your advice and starts to get help oh her own...  If she doesn't look like she's going to take responsibility for her own actions and seek help on her own, then you might have to...  Maybe go to her again and say "You know I noticed this situation hasn't getting any better (and possibly even worse) You leave me no choice but to go to the authority (whether it be a councelor, school nurse, trusted teacher) myself, that's my duty as a friend...  If you'd like we can go together to talk to them, and I'll be there every step of the way with you, but if you don't come with me, I'm still going to tell them..." She might be mad at you, but in time will thank youo....  Aneroxia is a very seriouos conditioon and needs to be adressed, don't let the possibility of having a friend mad at you, stop you..  I'd rather have a mad friend than no friend, and aneroxia is indeed fatal in the long-term...  Thing is it's one of those slow deaths where your body will just weaken to nothing, but your not going to die from starving yourself one day, many people fast for religious purposes, etc. for a 24-hour period...  Your body has enough fat and nutrients stored that you can survive, but over time, it WILL kill...  PLease talk to her today, don't procastinate...  Good luck to both of you
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You have every right to be worried!  First of all, does she have a chronic disease process that could cause this weight loss?  Is she diabetic? Is she depressed? Does she see her doctor on a regular basis?  If not, she should.\n\nTo help her eat, serve her several small healthy meals a day.  Sometimes a big meal is overwhelming when you don't feel like eating.  Crackers and cheese for instance, is a good small healthy snack.  Peanut butter on fruit, things like that.  Small amounts of protein.  If she eats several small meals like that she will get as much nourishment as 3 larger meals.  Also you can supplement with something like Ensure if she finds that to her liking.  If that is too expensive for you, Carnation Instant Breakfast mixed in milk has the same calories and vitamins and minerals as the Ensure at half the cost.  Please get her to a doctor too.  Bless you both.
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Unfortunately I have had many friends with eating disorders, some much more serious than others. Some will listen to advice and some only listen to the voices in their heads telling them that they are fat.\n\nIf you think that your friend is still at a point where you can talk some sense into her tell her something along the lines of...\n\n"Look, you are my friend and I care about you a lot. It really upsets me that you can't see how beautiful you are. It makes me feel awkward that you seem to have developed some competitiveness about being the slimmest. Life's too short to worry about dieting and being thin. Just be healthy and enjoy life."\n\nIf you think that she is resorting to skipping meals or making herself sick then you need to speak to her parents or get her to speak to a doctor or counselor asap.\n\nYou need to also work out why she wants to be thin; does she feel unattractive and have generally low esteem? Has she grown up in a home where the mum always diets and has weighing scales around the house? I have friends with mothers who are like this and comments like "honey, you've put on weight" slowly eat away at them. Are there other areas of her life that she feels she has no control of and uses her food intake as a method of feeling in control of one area of her life? There may be a few reasons but by getting to the root of the problem you are more likely to find a solution.\n\nI hope some of this helps.
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if she is close to you, you should try to let her know that she would be a better person if... (and you mention the things you think that she needs to change).\nbut if she is just a simple friend, ignore her and get a better friend. someone that doesnt give you anything possitive is useless.
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Yes, she will lose weight. And muscle tissue and brain functionality,strength and endurance. She is dangerously below what she needs in a day (usually 1200-1600 calories are recommended for those who are extremely overweight). Sounds like she may need to seek counseling because if she sees something different than what really exists when she looks in the mirror, then her mind's eye needs to be reprogrammed. These are often beginning signs of anorexia and bulimia. Encourage her to talk to a counselor. She is in danger of harming herself by doing these things. This is not the time to keep your thoughts to yourself. If necessary, ask for help from a trusted adult to intervene. She may get mad at you, but it's worth it to save her life. Be encouraged.
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My best advice for you is to make sure you dont keep telling her everything shes doing wrong, the first thing you want to do is tell her look you cant do this and everything along those lines, right now she needs to be able to have someone to talk to about why shes doing what shes doing, More then likely there is a root to the problem, shes not as far as she wanted to be at this point in her life, or something, see if she will open up to you about why she feels the need to go out and party like this, more then likely shes tring to "numb" out something, You dont want her to think that your not on her side anymore, and if you tell her everything shes doing wrong she might take it that your tring to rule her life and then she will shut you out, after you see what the root of the problem is you can talk to her about it, tell her that what shes doing is going to make her loose everything she has and your commited to her as a friend to help her out of this hole shes found herself in, and that you care about her health and you dont want to watch her slowly disinagrate her health and you want to help her get past this hard part in her life and get her to trust your recommendations on what you think she needs to do, then once she says she trusts you to guide her out of this problem, (keep in mind you have to get her to see she has a problem, spoon feed it to her so she sees it on her own she has a problem, like wow you used to be able to keep all this going with out a problem, it looks like your struggling, she will know why and see why) THen keep reminding her that you will do what ever she needs, that you will hold her hand in a local AA class, or you will go to a rehab place with her, what ever it takes :)
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It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
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It seems that you have more of the problem.  No one will lose weght until they are ready to lose it. So even though you have helped her (which is a great thing), if she is not mentally ready to keep her weight off, then nothing you do or nothing she does will work. It's all a mental thing.  My husband and I are overweight, he is also a diabetic. I try not to force him on anything. We work out together twice a week with a personal trainer and it has helped him out. I just try and give him the support that he needs.  That's all you need to continue to do, give her the support and maybe exercise with her to get her moving. Other than that, if she is a great wife and a great person, you are a blessed man to have her in your life. You need to look at the big picture.
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Just keep being her friend.  Keep trying to encourage her.  Do the best you can.  You might not be able to change her, but in the future she will look back and realize how kind and helpful you were.  Stay with her.  And good job!  It's wonderful that you are concerned about her!
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if you've already been honest and open with her and expressed your worries which perhaps she hasnt listened to, maybe suggest you can go on a diet together?..so your with her every step of the way. and let her know that if she's not happy you are there to help. make sure she doesnt go below her ideal weight- you could suggest she could set a target weight to meet and once she's there to relax on the dieting and treat herself more often. if she is worried about losing weight remind her it is unhealthy and will make her feel worse about herself if she has no energy from lack of nutrients etc. it is more important to maintain a healthy diet and to excercise to keep the weight off rather than starving yourself...this can lead to problems later on in life, such as concieving and growth.
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it is so sad how someone can just lose themselves! she needs help and she also needs food, when your 5 ft 4 you should NOT be aiming for 95lbs, waaaaaayyyyy too light! there is NOTHING to be proud of about being under weight, too many people have lost their life's that way! poor thing, she really NEEDS to go to therapy or something, i am glad that her mother is concerned about her and she is doing the right thing, it is not your fault if she refuses to eat, she needs support and help to realize what is going on. \n\ngood luck and god bless!♥
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well what you do is you find a gym to work out at and then you find a friend to join you to help with your motivation.not saying that the friend would go everytime cause she may be slack and lazy but ya never know............
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The moral support you need is what comes from within you.  If you are ready to lose the weight you will stick with it and do it.  It doesn't matter what your friends say or do.    \n\nEat sensibly - fruits, vegs, lean meat and fish, whole grains, low fat dairy products.  Drink plenty of water.  Exercise more - build up to a long brisk walk everyday, or most days.  Start a weight lifting routine.  Check out websites about nutrition, weight loss, exercise, etc.\n\nStick with it.  You can do it.  You are the best friend you have.  Good luck.
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There are many reasons why surgery would be a bad idea for your friend,  most have been mentioned by previous respondees so I will not repeat them.  \n\nMay I suggest that you are looking at this the wrong way?  The problem may not be so much how to get your friend smaller,  but rather,  to get your friend to look at the causes of her being overweight.  There are many reasons why a person would be overweight,  either by choice (concious or sub-conscious) or a physical cause.  The most common emotional reasons are:\n\nA fear of being attractive to the opposite sex\nAn addiction to food (could be caused by many things)\nA fear of being "small"\ninsecurity\nLow self esteem\nA desire to be accepted\nA fear of being accepted\n\nand so on\n\nAs you can see,  these are pretty serious things and so I would really recommend your friend spend her money on therapy rather than surgery\n\nThere are also a number of physical reasons why your friend may have weight issues such as thyroid imbalance,  genetics,  hormone related problems,  medication,  IBS and the list goes on.\n\nMay I suggest that it would be a better friendship if you accepted her fully for who she is now and not what she may be if she fitted into societys ideal weight.
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I think you should go talk to a your guidance counsaler about  this....tell them exactly what you just said in this question....tell them how you feel and try confronting your friend and find out what she thinks.....but make sure you tell whomever really quickly it might be serious....just say i have this friend who seems like shes not eating well has had excesive weight loss and etc....dotn be scared your doing the right thing.