I am in my mid 40's and always had a high sex drive.My wife is attractive. Why do we have a problem in bed?
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She wants you to "defend her honor" like a gentleman is supposed to. Not exactly even say something to the other guy, but to just ask her, "How dare he openly ogle you, can't he see we're married?"\n\nAlso, "Mr high-sex-drive", your lady might not be as into bedroom play as you are because you're probably lacking in the foreplay department.\nAnd, don't mistake sex for intimacy...they're not the same thing.  Make sex a little more fun for your lady, and flirt with her, not other women.
1046697
I haven't met many men who were disinterested in sex, no matter what age, however, performing is another subject.  Many women also experience a decrease in libido as they age,  there are other ways to satisfy ones sex drive that are perfectly normal and do not break the marriage vow.
830287
I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
1180975
If your sex drive is higher than that of your wife.. perhaps you should seek out marital counseling or sex counseling.  There may be reasons behind the differing drives.\n\nIf she is not "freaky" enough for you, that could also be addressed in counseling.\n\nHowever, I don't believe you have earned the right to get some on the side... that comes with work.  Paperwork.  *divorce*\n\nI'm very sorry that you have gotten to the point in your life that you would ruin someone else's just to get off.  That is one of the most selfish things I have heard in quite some time.\n\nIf you don't believe it would hurt her, start a thread on people's opinions on those who cheat.. you'll get even more angry responses than you did in this one.\n\nIf you honestly cannot get enough sex, masturbate.
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Does your husband watch porn or check out xxx web site?  Do you know if he masturbates?  If the answer is yes to any of the above, then it's not his sex drive that's the problem.  Most likely he's bored with and tired of you.  You've been married a long long time and most guys (whether they admit it or not) get tired of doing the same woman after too many years.  You were 26 when you guys married, and probably a nice young hot chick then.  You're now 50 and perhaps a bit baggy, saggy and old ladyish... you remind him that he too is also an old fart and not that hot young stud he was when he was in his 20s.  How does he feel about you otherwise?  Does he still love you and care about you?  Other than the sex thing how is he as a husband or as a father?  If the other things are positive then maybe his desire for sex or specifically sex with you has waned.  Maybe if he got some strange (not meaning to be crude, just honest) or some young chickie his attitude about sex may change and he may become a new man.
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Age is only a small factor in a mans sex drive.  At 43 depending upon his job and if there are other factors in life stressing him out he may only have time for sex a couple of nights a week.  On the other hand if life is good and everything is going great he may feel like having sex every day.  At 43 though unless he is in really great shape his body is starting slow down a bit and while he enjoys sex just as much it probably takes more time to get him excited and he probably doesn't recover as fast after.\n\nNow after all that I have to say that your decision to marry him shouldn't be about sex unless there is a major difference in your sex drives.  I think there needs to be some compatibility in sex drives but it shouldn't be even in your top 5 of things to consider when deciding to marry someone.
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You didn't say how old he is or how long you've been married.\n\nYou should talk to him about how much you miss the physical closeness because you love him so much, and ask that he please see a doctor, if not for his own sake, then for yours.  ED is probably a lot more common in men than they will admit.\n\nWhile stress or external factors can interfere with sexual desire and performance, it is also possible that a serious medical condition exists.  Perhaps it's something easily treatable, and getting a diagnosis can relieve his mind and improve the quality of your marriage.  On the other hand, it could be due to a serious condition, such as prostate cancer, and delaying a diagnosis because of assuming it's just stress or because of fear of hearing bad news can be deadly.  Problems only get worse when you don't face and resolve them.\n\nThis is one time when it's okay to nag your husband.  Men are notorious for neglecting their health by failing to seek appropriate medical care, and trying to "tough" things out.  It's not just about the sex; it's about his health.\n\nBest wishes.
395763
maybe you fantasize older women to get you off? What is wrong with your wife you don't want to have sex with her?
724574
There is more to marriage than sex! But you must be honest with your potential wife and tell her about your problem. If she still wants to marry you, then go for it! There are other ways of satisfying a woman's sexual needs. And it is also possible that your ED either can be treated now or will be treatable in a few years.\n\nIt may even be possible for you to father children. Don't let this difficulty keep you from having love in your life.
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i am almost 35 and my sex drive is higher than ever.
956832
women' s peak starts at their forties,their libidos pop up.regarding "some"married women,could be the stress of daily life,taking care of husband,children,job,relatives,friends..a lot of things.being with the same man who doesnt offer much of an excitement either,well,what do you think?\nactually,women in their forties are pre-menopausal,their hormones start to get mixed up,this is the time that their sex drive ,and urge is more,cos of more experience,she is more relaxed now,kids are grown up,career is at a secure level,she is financially secure etc.she knows what she wants in life and men,she craves fun ,adventure and satisfaction in and out of bed.so don't  get worried my dear,if i were you,wait til you hit your forties,and u will surely know.i know,i am  now at that phase in my life....
90436
Women in their 40's often to experience a drop off in their sexual drives. They are often concerned about getting pregnant at a time when they are moving on past the childbearing years and concerned that if they get pregnant there will be a high risk of genetic defects. They are also experiencing a decline in physical energy compared to their younger years. Considering these factors, the lack of interest is probably not related to the relationship so much as her own body's aging. However, intimacy is much more than what happens in the marriage bed. It is what happens through the day. Improve that, and you will inevitably improve both emotional and physical closeness.\n\nYou need to consider your wife's personality. If you are not sure, research love languages. There is a book by that title if you cannot find any onformation on the net. Basically, some people feel best loved when given things. Others feel loved best through words spoken. The third type feel most loved by spending time with them. The last type feels loved through gifts of service.\n\nFor my type of personality and age (I am 42), a racy sex toy would not be a turn on. I would feel like the gift was a shout saying let's skip real intimacy and get to the sex part. Intimacy to me is based on an emotional relationship as first place. My love language is time. One on one time doing activities that are out of the ordinary to everyday life would draw me closer. A hand in hand walk through the neighborhood, a surprise candle-lit dinner, being beside me in the work of the day around the house, etc.\n\nIf you speak the language your wife needs, I am sure intimacy will increase. As conversation allows a natural discussion of it, communicate what language you like best. It will make her feel good to be filling your emotional love needs too.
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well you must be as old as me or older and i ask why are you wasting time on here talking about something that important.  I got lucky and found this site to stop me from being bored out of my mind at night at work but other then that i spend time with my woman and take care of her in any and every way.  So your wife probably isn't the problem.
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This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
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Nothing wrong with that, Dude!  It's what makes us married guys stay with our wives.  THe better your imagination, the longer you will find your wife attractive :-)  Also can make the "session" over more quickly - allowing you to get more sleep.
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
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This could be a number of things. Age could be a factor; boredom; stress; lack of exercise. First identify what has changed in your life from the time when you had no erectile problems to now. It's hard to say unless you give more information. I can only speculate. However, it could be one of the above reasons. Ask your self the following questions; "am I happy with my sex life?", "am I bored with the same old sex routine?", "do I still find my wife attractive?", "are there any health problems that may be causing an erectile problem?". You should get a physical done, any way, just to see if every thing is working optimally. If that checks out fine, then look into any psychological possibilities. Good luck!