What makes people change there mind about getting married? But they still want to be with you.Please help!?
407431
The problem is with the big "C" word,, commitment,, scares the hell out of them
812030
why would you marry some one that you knew ahead of time didn't have any feel ins you can't make a man love you nor want  you even after marriage. So while your waiting on his feelings to change what do you do in the meantime (be miserable)
374468
no, it just means that the other person is not ready yet.  Marriage is a HUGE commitment on either parties part. Of course you want both parties to want to take on the commitment that is ahead of them first.  I would talk to your g/f or b/f and just let them know that even though you feel this strongly about them, you are willing to wait until they are ready to take on such a serious commitment. There is not a rush to marry, and there is no rule that you have to break up if someone says no to a proposal...just make sure that they still want to be in the relationship in the first place.
995503
I think that as long as you think you want to marry her eventually she should be patient.  Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced and she needs to understand that.  People get all excited about the wedding but after that it's just you two.  If she forces it she will be pushing you away in the end.  Eventually you will panic and run.  She won't want that.
977627
no i wont marry you! but yes i most certainly believe in it!  the fact that people dont think they need to marry has led to the breakdown of the family and the problems we see now are the results of selfish people who have kids and then think they are under no obligation to stay around! i can say this cus i have done the same in the past myself. if we would have been marryd and committed to each other we would have work on our relationship instead of parting!
200863
Because they want to try to picture themselves with the man that proposed in about 20 yrs. because they want to make sure they dont marry the wrong man. Not to mention that marriage is a big commitment and you cant get out of it as easy as dumping someone.
1043796
I am sorry that you no longer want to get married, I just got married last month and it really feels right, but that is for me, not everyone is ready, and with saying that I believe the best way is to just tell them face to face, because if you wait til you get to the altar and leave them hanging it will show that you are not considerate of others feeling, especially the feelings of the person you were planning to spend the rest of your life with.\nJust remember one thing:   What if the shoe was on the other foot?  How would you want to be told such a painful thing?\nWhatever you do decide to do, just remember that, "What goes around, comes around"  Treat that person like a person with feelings, and just may be you two will be able to remain friends if you do the right thing.\nGood Luck, I hope it all turns out okay for you both.
753245
Sounds like at least one of you is afraid of being left. Or maybe you don't want to hurt each other by making a commitment and then leaving, so you just refrain from making a commitment... and you practice leaving.  Girl, you should only practice what you want to be good at !\n\nIn many parts of the world marriages are arranged. In other words, the sex is the first part of the relationship, and over time the couple can learn to know & love each other. \n\nI left my family & moved from New England to Minnesota, where my husband's family all live. It was a couple years of culture shock, but we're still together after almost 23 years of marriage.\n\nDo you trust him? Are you willing to trust ANYone?  If he changes, will you stay with him? (like, loss of health, financial worries causing depression, etc)... in my experience, Air Force fellows are top quality. Yes, the military changes a person -- military people  have been forcibly changed, so they can do their jobs & survive; that's not a bad thing, it's just a factor to consider.\nMotherhood changes a person, too.  Not all changes are permanent, but they're not all predictable either. That's where the trust comes in. Trust isn't a feeling; it's a decision.\n\nHe might have a need to be "at home" (in his case, it's Ohio); home is, by definition, where we feel safe.  Can you make your home somewhere other than Washington? I did. I used to live in rural Tacoma. I know how beautiful it is there. But family circumstances required I move, and I learned to appreciate New England. It took me 2 years, but I did it.\n\nMy recommendation? Meet his family.  (Wonderful guys usually come from nice families, so I bet they're nice). And marry him.
57028
You cannot make a man ask you to marry him!! And besides that, why would you want to? Personally, I would want to know that I am being asked for my hand in marriage because the man loves me and wants it, not bacause I forced him into it. Often marriages where one person or the other felt pressured in to it, don't work out anyway. Best off to wait for him to do it from his heart!
424925
Talk to him about it. Say something like you know I want to marry you but I'm getting worried that it may never happen because...\nHe may not even realize that it's that important to you and that's way he's putting it off. Or he may be doing it on purpose. But if he cares about you and wants to be with you i bet after he knows how important it is to you he will get on the ball. Either way talking about is the only way you will know for sure.
128337
Maybe he ...\n\n.. doesn't want to hear all sort of opinions about it from your close friends / family\n\n.. is afraid they will not accept you and he wants to let them know after you get married and there's nothing to do about it anymore\n\n.. he doesn't actualy love you and he doesn't want to tell them couse he's unsure of your relationship and still lookin'..\n\n.. he thinks you are bad for his image/reputation but he loves you so he just keeps you as a secret\n\n... or another 10 million reasons.. :P
240729
It takes two people to make a marriage work, and no matter how hard you try it is only you and it isn't going to happen.  I've been in that position before and in your heart your thinking there has to be something you can do to make it all better and to make them change their mind, but this is in the end just wishful thinking.  I think you need to go find a lawyer and start protecting yourself and your kids as soon as possible.  This guy is obviously a fool who is going to regret this choice some day but you can't wait for that to happen, plus you deserve a man who will love you and not cause you this kind of pain.  Your too good for him so move on and someday you find real love.
1048474
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
360211
First you need to ask why he refuses to get engaged. Does he want all his ducks in a row, i.e. good job, money, house, before he wants to start a family, or is he just scared of commitment. You really need to ask him. He may want his life in order before he has a family. If he's scared you might need to consider is he worth waiting around for?Also where are you at at this point of life? Do you want a family?
1175285
There are many reasons to want to get married... some good, some bad.\nA friend of mine had this theory that people were getting married because they were getting bored in their relationship, so they'd decide to get married so that they had something to talk about. And when the excitement of marriage had worn off, they'd move on to make children...\nIt's obviously a dark way of seeing things but I fear it's often close to the truth. \nI want to get married because I consider it a gift to my man, the promise to spend (or at least try!) my whole life with him... the ultimate commitment you can make!
1047794
Marriage takes work.  You have to decide to work on this relationship and actually communicate your needs as well as find out the needs of your mate.  Don't assume you know what the needs are.  Actually go somewhere and talk.  Talk about desires, hopes and dreams again.  You can do it as you did it in the beginning.  I think people just give up on a marriage because they don't want to try anymore.