I like a work colleague. We get along alright. The only thing is I'm gay and he isn't. What should I do?
414480
I guess I'm missing something. You want to tell him? You want to hang out with him? You just don't hang out with straight people? Or co-workers? You're 18 and a lot of your friends are going to come from work, school, neighbors or parties. It's a fact. If you consider him a co-worker with no friend potential, nothing to worry about. You two have a lot in common already with your work situation. If you have a chance at a freind, don't turn it down. Everybody can handle one more friend.
686739
Never dip your pen in the company ink. Yes, you made a mistake about being open to your coworker. He might take this as a hint. Keep work ...work and sex related things in another place. That is if you want to keep your job.
914720
Explain to him that you're flattered, but you don't date your coworkers.  If it doesn't work out, it could be rough...and if it does it could be even worse....
583280
liking someones company and wanting to be intimate are two totally different things. He's respecting you and the decision that you have made as far as your sexual orientation, why not do the same for him. That's the quickest way to ruin a friendship.So just suck it up and drive on. If it becomes too much of an issue for you you might have to rethink your friendship w/him.
980549
your allowed to think that he likes you, go ahead, but maybe hes new at the job or maybe there is a quality about you that scares him...like your eyebrows...no hahah im jk! if i were you i would ask him why he is scared, but dont ask him if he is gay
379687
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
92743
I would say, don't make the first move.  You could friendly flirt and see where things go, but don't make this hugely bold move that could cost him his job.  On a professional level,  you do still have to take his career into consideration.  Furthermore, what if things go on between you two and you end up with a crappy grade anyway...that'd make things a wee bit odd between the two of you.  good luck with this one!
983983
Girl lessen to me don't ever get involves with a co worker that way if he really wants something good out of this he would be the one to come over and say something, you guys are flirting so if you ask him he is going to say yes. take my foolish advice do not ask him.
1068036
Behave yourselvs at work and carry on with work as usual.  Romance out of the premises.  I did that and kept a secret for 2 years, people just thought we were friends.
807180
Sigh. This is an easy one. Go and buy an icecream. Say hello, tell him a joke, ask him what time he gets off work, ask him if he'd like a drink. Hint that your knickers will be hitting him in the face about the same time his backside hits the bar stool. Now, if he refuses he is gay, but you've got an ice cream so there is something positive about the experience.  Next question?
1103660
I think he totally likes you. I'm sort of going through the same thing right now...I totally have a crush on this guy at work but I have a boyfriend!! Just try to keep flirting down to a minimum so you don't lead him on but also to protect your relationship. And make sure you remain friends with him, it's always good to have a buddy at work  =)
66489
Get to know him. Mention a news story that you've seen on gay people or a friend you know is gay or tell him that you are gay/bi, and ask him what he thinks. If he reacts well to gay issues, just tell him you like him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way towards you, if he's comfortable with gay people you can still be friends.
452075
well, tell him how you really feel and tell him your sorry but your not gay.. just be honost in a nice way and tell the truth .. if he truley is your friend or likes you then hell undestand but if not then he's not your friend..
867485
if you're not really not into him(as you said, you're a lesbian), then you should not worry about how his reaction is going to be. besides, if he's a real friend (and not "acting" as a friend just so he can hang around with you), he would accept you for who you are. if he can't, you've got nothing to lose, right?
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
197786
It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.\nSo I'd leave it and be open to something new.  If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more.  Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.\nIf after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it.  He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.\n\nGood luck!!
51615
PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!