what sould i do when my mother doe's not like my friends and my boyfriend.?
398511
do you let your mom try out all of your boyfriends?
1090425
You and your husband will have to make a real effort on this one, and be the bigger people so to speak.  I don't think it's normal for a mother to act like that towards her son and his fiancee, now his wife.  Something is definitely wrong with her mentally.  Just remember that you can choose your friends, but not your family.  I think you and your hubby will have to speak with his mother about the wedding thing, just to get past it and clear the air.  She needs to know how it made you feel to be let down on your Big Day.  You can choose to forgive her or forget it, but you have to be able to move past what's happened in the past.  I don't really have any big words of wisdom other than to take the high road and don't play into her games.  Sometimes you gotta call a Spade a Spade!  No matter how bad she treats you, turn your cheek and be extremely nice back to her.... it gets them every time!
471086
Don't do anything. For whatever reasonit is she just doesn't like you and if she really doesn't have a valid reason, such as you doing something to her or her son, she just won't.  Any little thing you do OR don't do she will take it as something negative and will always have something to complain about.  Always be courteous to her and love her son dearly.  Never change trying to make her happy because you will make yourself unhappy.  Hey if her son loves you is because he likes YOU, not what his mother might want you to be.  Try to live away from her as comfortably as your boyfriend will budge to and when you guys visit just be yourself.  One of two things will happen , she'll eventually warm up to you or hate you even more. Either way don't lose your sense of self.
387425
First, try to resolve things with your best friend, if you can't try and talk to another friend about everything, friends always help a lot. Second, break up with yor boufriend, he isnt worth it if he is threatening you! Thrid, try to start talking to your mom again, after all, she is the one who gave birth to you, keep in touch with her! hOpe I helped!
683862
If you love this man then by all means marry him. If you allow your mother to rule your love life you will be miserable for the rest of your life.\nMy mother hated my boyfriend. I met him when I was 13, we got married when I was 19 and have been married 10 years now and together 16! My mom still isn't too fond of him, but has learned that he isn't going anywhere and she just has to deal with it. \nGood Luck.. hopefully your mother will come around and see that he makes you happy.
554794
When she behaves like that ask her how she would feel if you treated her the way she treats you.  \n\nYou are not her mother so there is very little you can do.  You have to let things go because she is not your child.  Unfortunately, her mother is raising a child that will turn into an uphappy adult.
357974
The best thing you can do is spend time with your mother to show that you care about her. Even though she might have done things to you that make you upset.\n\nDeep down we truly love our mothers so we should show it by giving spending quality time together. Whether or not we are rich or poor.\n\n\n(So that's what I plan on doing)
750605
i have been in your situation and ill be honest and state that it enver worked out between us because of our familys different point of view, there was also a racial difference and my father found that very difficult to handle. but if ur mum and dad are in an age gap marriage then they should understand, id sit your mum down and just explain to her, possible have your boyfriend wth you at the time. that way then she may see that he is there to stand by you and does not want to hurt you\n\ngood luck.
340901
I would consider her no longer your friend.  Especially if she is running away from you.  I think she may be jealous of you and your boyfriend. If she can't talk to you and tell you what is going on than I think you need to leave her be and find a new friend.
374438
kids of that age are very hard work as any parent will tell you.  The first rule with out knowing your circumstances is not to try to replace the mother that i assume they have lost for what ever reason.  You must be the adult and keep respect on both sides.  As one of the other answerer's says try going to the park, have fun join in with them, give them your time it is worth more that any money.
327475
You and your Mom don't get along? Is that something you want. Decide whether you want to keep her in your life and if so, tell her how you feel...that a relationship with her is important to you, etc.
479344
Yes. You need to communicate better with the son, and your girlfriend. If you tell someone you are going to be somewhere, but something comes up, call and say so. Perhaps the 2 of you weren't on the same page. You thought she'd be ok, and she thought you'd be with her. Nobody's wrong, you just didn't see the situatuion the same way. That's called life. Right now, or as soon as possible, go over to their house. Sit the mom and son down. tell them that you know they are feeling slighted, but they need to know that wasn't at all your intention. You were overwhelmed with responsibility at the time, and you should ALL do a better job expressing expectations. A SIMPLE CALL FROM EITHER ONE OF YOU TO PUT YOURSELVES "ON THE SAME PAGE". Even if you disagree, at least the other person will know where you stand and know that there was no bad intention. the son actually sounds like a pretty good communicator for his age!!! Tell them that you love them and you feel terrible that they were upset.Often, when we take the responsibility, it opens up the other person's eyes to the fact that this was not something that you should turn into a bad situation, and we are all human.\nBy theway, the $ issue. tell her exactly what you told us. tell her you'd love to lavish her like the queen she is to you, and give her lots of attention.
1118660
wow... i guess try to tell her you have things under control. but it sounds like there is more to it if she is that worried about it. so either she knows every minute of your day or you are going to have more contact with the detectives. hard to tell you what you should do. sounds like  you have a major issue in your life going and then a complication to add to it. but good luck... i guess always remember... your day is always just seconds away from getting worse... so be happy with what you have. at least your mom loves you.... like i said... it could always be worse
13746
She's your mom. If she hasn't let go at this point, she probably won't. Make sure she knows you love her, then do what you have to do. She'll get over it. Moms are like that.
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
952772
You're trying to be friends with your Mom and sometimes thats just not possible. It sounds like you two have a lot of issues. She's your Mom and she won't just go away. You have to figure out what YOU can do to make the situation better. Its up to her to realize that you have your own life and although you love her, you can't be there all the time to help whenever she needs it. Figure out whats bothering you so much. Is she a drama queen or maybe too controlling? Try not to get so worked up about it and just look at the problem.
883487
Get sam or the carrot to do it for you. maybe your crazy mother will help.