when a mature women has less sex drive , what is her husban to do ?
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Being a mature woman myself, I have to tell you that it will take patience & work on your part,but do know that it will be well worth the trouble. Most women ,of any age, need to be reassured that they are attractive & desirable. Try to think of your Wife as a Girlfriend that you are trying to impress.You will find yourself being more romantic & thoughtful towards her. This will help her start to like herself again & her sexual desires will return. IF YOU ARE PATIENT ENOUGH.Or should I say...IF YOU LOVE HER ENOUGH!! You could also ask her if she has any  sexual fantasies,or if she would tell you what she would prefer that you do. Sometimes, when a woman isn't in the mood... It would please both of you if she were to please you ;-). This should be expected only on occasion. It sometimes works also to make an agreement ahead of time,to just cuddle,kiss & rub your hands all over each other,but DO NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE. Just knowing that it is just for stimulation & nothing more,will excite both of you. Then plan for the next time to do the same ...BUT... agree that if she wants to go farther you will,if not,enjoy the closeness you have achieved & go for the next time. As I said, PATIENCE. IT WILL BE WORTH IT FOR BOTH OF YOU, I PROMISE.   P.S. If you are as mature as she is... Your time is coming too.
490292
Sex drive might go down, but you can still enjoy sex. I was at my grandparents house on day and in their bath room was a bottle of viagra (not something I wanted to see) and the are in there 60's almost 70's.
975639
Beats me but here's what works...guarenteed. The more you pretend to not like sex the more she'll want to have sex. See if you give her the impression  that you don't want to have sex with her she'll think she's undesirable and there's something wrong with her. So she'll need to prove to herself that she's desirable. Got it?
367759
This is common for long term marriages. After 14 years of being together things get routine. Try to heat things up a little, place Hersey kisses on the bed with rose petals or give her a lap dance. Try to remember what it was that she like about you sexually and being that out again. There could also be medical reasons for the lack of interest in sex. The best thing is to have your daughter spend the night at a friends house, you fix your wife a candle light dinner. Be very honest and tell her in an adult manner without argument about your concerns for your sexual health. Be very understanding and supportive with her and listen to her.
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Assuming that you are not having sex because she wants to wait until marriage(but maybe I am wrong in this assumption): I think even for someone who is planning on abstaining before marriage sexual desire is there.  Abstinence is not an easy thing because the person still has the desire.  If she does not have the desire maybe she is repressing herself or just isn't attracted to you.\n\nI'm sorry.  :(
1042153
well, im not 60 yet. but, i'd rather have someone with a personality, lately i'm not too enterested in sex. havent had any in about a year.
1115836
well you can try to mix it up alittle. try role playing or throwing some toys into the mix that usually makes it interesting. if you are seeing her lose intrest as well you could change your outlook on see how many times you could get her off or even tease her till she gets crazy. diffrent things you can do go to some websites and look up fun weekends or games to play will add alittle spark here and there to peak your intrest and im sure your wife will greatly appreciate it as well.
517636
Depends on how much you really like her.  If you do then I would maybe try holding off for awhile ( it's just sex - you can take care of it most of the time on your own if you had to )  If you aren't willing to give up sex for awhile then move on and find yourself another 40 year old that looks 25 .. or even better find yourself a real 25 year old .. they're in their Prime !
848600
She loses it because she chooses to, in most cases.\n\nit ebbs because she find sex a bore and wishes it would just stop
32576
the first answer was good. if a woman does not feel sexy she won't want to have sex. that is absolutely right. i find that watching porn makes me horny...that's what its there for...even lovemaking scenes in movies. the best way to make a woman horny is to preoccupy her mind with sex...
1099406
Sheesh!\nYou need to abstain from sex if it is draining the life force out of you.\nYou've got to stop enjoying yourself so much and start navigating this hell we call our lives. \nSmarten up and get happy, damnit!
739443
wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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Well my best suggestion to you is to cut back on the sex and definitly cuddle more and be more romantic. If you get the urge too bad go to the restroom and masterbat to relieve yourself. Being a woman myself, I know how it feels to think that all a man wants from me is sex but the longer you two are together then she will eventually realize you love her(if you do) and sex isn't ALL you want
1042993
work your way up to it. See how far she is willing to go without having sex. Or you can use the super dooper easy method and just ask!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
140841
FitGuy ... ever hear the story of the jar full of jellybeans?  Yea, you know the one ... take a full jar of jellybeans and take one out for every time you have sex prior to marriage.  Then after the wedding you put back a bean for every time you have sex ... and the jar will never be full!\n\nWell that's just garbage and don't fall for it!!\n\nBut let me give it to you straight from a woman.  A woman's sexual desire is more tied to how she feels about herself than how she feels about you ... no matter how good you look!\n\nI've been married for 17 years and we are having the BEST and most frequent sex of our lives!  Only because I finally started being more selfish and less selfless!  As one of your responders said, woman have a habit of taking on the world's problems and making them her own.  It's hard to feel sexy when your stressed about the kids, the bills, the job, his feelings, does he still find me attractive, etc!!!\n\nMost of us get caught in this trap, even I did for many years.  It wasn't until I hit the gym, lost 65 pounds began bodybuilding and seeing myself as Hot and Sexy that I was able to get rid of that baggage.  If a woman feels fit and sexy on the inside, she will have the need to express that on the outside and her sexual appetite will totally increase ... it's just natural ... trust me!!\n\nMy husband actually likes the fact that I have this selfish side as he is the one who benefits from the overly active sex drive it created.\n\nOK, why am I telling you this?  Well, it's obvious from your photo that you are in great shape ... could she be a little self concious about that ... is she in as good of shape?  The reason I ask is because it doesn't matter how many times you tell her she is beautiful if she doesn't feel it for herself!  She just won't believe you.\n\nAlso, does she share your fitness lifestyle?  Working out together can be very uplifting and sexy ... couples who work out together stay together!  \n\nIf you feel this is not her problem, and she has a great self image, then perhaps a little variety could jump start things.  Try initiating sex in an uncharacteristic place ... be spontaneous ... use a toy ... tell her she is the best sex you've ever had ... find out her fantacies!  Spice it up ... you're her main squeeze so you should know what turns her on the most.\n\nMost of all, do not think a woman's sexual appetite is tied to marriage.  Sex and marriage are two totally different things and each takes work to make them last.  A woman's sexual appetite is tied to how she feels about herself.  No matter what is going on around her.  If she feels sexy, she will want sex!!!  \n\nTrust me, we women love sex ... we want to be told we are the sexiest, and best lovers there are out there ... and a man who can tell us this and make us believe it will have all the sex he can ever dream of!\n\nBest of luck!
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Only in the bedroom? Then have it in other rooms :))\n\nIf she does not have interest in sex at all, there is no way to compel her. May be find out the root cause.. It may be due to some psychological factor... Take her to a sex therapist - which might help but she should be at least open for that. no forceful tactics here. Goof luck.
641998
Exhaust your body doing something else, like runnning, rock climbing, cycling, whatever. Your sex drive will still be there, but you won't notice it as much.