How do I set bounderies with my friend without hurting her feelings?
410985
wow that is a hard one, tried doing wat your doing in the end realised that you cant stop it so stopped answering the phone, they knocked the door asked me wats up, had a big talk she cried i cried still mates harsh but works, you cant help her she can only help herself mate xxxx
264923
Going through this right now with one of my best friends and the dumbest part is we are in our 30's (way too old for this crap) anyway, I have decided to let it be for now, but I assure you while I won't be a complete jerk to her I have no desire to be as close as we were, because obviously she doesn't value our friendship the way that I do or this would not have happened.
369173
Well, in all truth, the most mature way to deal with it is to accept her wishes.  You can still be friends with her, and maybe if the relationship she's pursuing doesn't work out, it might move toward a romantic relationship between you and her.  You can always let her know how you feel, but if you try to hold on, you may only be disappointed.  And even worse, you might create ill feelings between you and her.  But by learning to accept her decision and keeping her as a friend, you may make a better impression on her.  After all, if given the choice, would you rather have her in your life (at least as a friend), or not at all?
57553
you dont. you shouldnt ruin a good thing. be grateful you even have a best friend.
276002
Be the friend that you are and tell her. Just remind her that you care about her and her feelings and would never to anything to break her trust or see her unhappy, you just care for her. It would work for me.
1056667
don't let her feel cornered. it's uncomfortable for both of you. just ask her and eventually she will tell you!!
598757
tuff.... well unless you can go on about a 2 wk vacation to relax not sure what you can do besides slowly distance yourself from both friends... slowly but surely take urself out of the circle... she must think your special if she wants to hang out with you all the time... if you hurt this friend you might just loose your best friend.. so either choose to accept them both, or distance urself from both... sounds like your only options to me... or you could i guess change jobs !!!!! God bless
421889
You need to be upfront and honest with your Best Friend. Let her now how you feel.  But you are still calling her your best friend so maybe if the two of you talked about what makes you uncomfortable about still being friends, it can be worked out!  But make sure you are honest with her.  Just because you don't have the same beliefs as her doesn't mean you need to disrepect her and her disrepect you.  Good luck to you!
1185999
Set boundaries. If she refuses to accept no, then leave. Any time, anywhere. Don't just take her abuse. Tell her that she is smothering you and the more she does it, the less you like being around her. It might even be good to back off alot and not see or call her as much. Its not up to ya'll to make her happy. Its her own issue to deal with. When you go to visit, tell her days you'll go over, then stick to it. If she calls alot bothering you, screen your calls or say you are busy and hang up. But don't keep letting her do this to you. Leave next time, don't let her force that cake on you!
248331
Trying to "convince" her will only alienate her. You are friends because you love and accept each other the way you are. You need to consider this: Does she try to convince you that your belief is wrong? For now, live and let live. Take your worries to God in prayer. Pray for her and pray that she will be saved. When it comes right down to it, after all, faith is a gift of the Holy Spirit, it is not arrived at by argument or pushing by you.  Live your life as an example, let your own faith shine, be happy and feel blessed. You have been brought into her life for a reason, but if you drive her away by being difficult to be around, or making her feel unacceptable in your eyes, or "damned" for goodness' sake, you will have accomplished the opposite of what you want. When and if the time is right, God will do what needs to be done. Also remember this--none of us can truly see what is in another's heart and soul, only God can. You may be worrying for nothing. People are very complex and often say things they don't actually feel for complex psychological reasons.  So relax, enjoy her friendship, and have faith that all will be as God plans.
735354
If you bhave already asked someone...and she is looking forward to it you should take your friend from home.  Explain the situation to your girlfriend, Im sure if you are open and honest about it she will understand.
700066
If you are really really really good friends, do something personal for her.  Make something for her using your computer.  You could make a book with pics of you and your friend and stories about fun, crazy, or memorable times you had together.  Get the book bound with a cardstock cover you make yourself.  You can have binding done at Office Depot and other such stores.  Kinda like a scrap book but everything is computerized so it is much faster and professional.  I made one for my friend and she cried she liked it so much, but we have been friends for years so we had a lot of memories.  Good luck on the hunt for the perfect gift.
705000
Take yourself out of the middle of this equation. Casually tell her that you didn't get around to asking them if they wanted to hang out and suggest that she call them and ask them herself. Let them have to explain themselves.
142540
Tell your friend that it looks like she wants to go a different way in her friendships and that you don't have much choice but to watch her go.  Let her know you're there for her if she needs a friend but not to bring any hate or meanness to the table when she does, to leave it with the hater she's wanting to hang with now.  It's tough to watch a pal go off in a direction you think is hurtful, KNOW is hurtful.  Part of growing is discovering what you're really about though and there's something in this new friendship that she's trying to find in herself.  There may also be an emerging masochistic nature to your friend that she's not shared with you before and this new friendship may be REALLY appealing in a way you can't relate to.  My guess is that if you give her space, she'll remember who she is and what she's about and reconnect with you.  If not then you need to understand that there are an awful lot of people out there who don't have the courage of their own convictions and are wildly uncomfortable with who they are.  You sound totally grounded but I get the sense that your friend isn't.
575690
You can`t ... If you don`t want to be friends you should be honest. But you will hurt her feelings.. good luck..\nGod bless <><
1103233
For now, just let her be.  She's really smart to isolate herself after getting such evidence that she is too trusting, and has poor judgment in who to trust.  Let her take her time, get close to people slowly, and find her "comfort zone."  If you are her friend, then she will probably trust you more than others, even if she is cautious even about you.  She's afraid to be hurt because she's been fooled before.  That's not irrational, after all.  She just needs time.
1154566
There is no other way except the direct way. Tell her in no uncertain terms that she should not come over uninvited, nor call you anymore, as this is an invasion of privacy. What I am saying is harsh , but this woman has to be told the truth in words she can understand. It seems like etiquette isn't bgetting you any results in resolving this matter. Good luck.