Is there something wrong with me? I am married but get 'turned on' by men my fathers age!?
409503
Not that I am a psychiatrist, but I'm sure there is some logical explanation having to do with your history and past why you seek the comfort of older men unconciously and so consciously you are attracted to them? Who knows? I find the same, as far as being attracted to older men goes. However, I'm not married, I'm engaged, far from divorce. I think its normal to be attracted to older men. Women traditionally want to be taken care of by a strong, wise man, which we somehow invision as an older man, and that's why I am attracted them. They offer stability and knowledge, or so my subconcious thinks so. lol...\nAnyway, I wouldn't worry too much about the being attracted to older men part.\nIf I were you I'd be more focused on my marriage, and what an affair could do to it and my kids...
921307
There's nothing wrong with you at all. Lots of women complain about less sex drive after having kids and being settled.\n\nI suggest that you make your husband horny for you. I'm guessing that sex has become somewhat of a routine for both of you. I think it will turn you on when you see that he's hot for you and can't wait till he's with you. Write him a dirty message. Rent some porn. You have to make sure that you really, really want to have sex, then it'll be easier getting an orgasm. I don't know what kind of stuff you're up for. Dirty talk is always good. Have your husband tell you how bad he wants you. \n\nBy the way, your clitoris can NOT be overstimulized by a vibrator. The nerve endings there will be intact unless you have some disease or accident that affects your nervous system.
964566
Well, you could be a lesbian. For some it takes time to figure out their orientation. It sounds like you aren't willing to admit your feelings to yourself and accept your sexuality. Oh, and what your father is doing is abuse. Get as far away from him as you can. You don't need that negativity in your life. It sounds like no matter what you tell him he's going to degrade you though. Just get away from him for your own sake.
610909
Depends on his upbringing.  If he's either culturally or religiously conservative, he could be EXTREMELY sexually into you but really honestly want to be respectful of your dad.  (And don't say you're horny online, you're bound to get all kinds of guys hitting on you lol)
502089
Your not necessarily placed in the "dead" category, just the "old enough to be my father" category. Most younger girls find it creepy to be with a man who is the same age (or close to) their father. So, it's not necessairly that your've lost your sex appeal. There are plenty of older men I find attractive, but would never date (this is assuming I wasn't married, which I am), because...it would creep me out. (I'm 21 by the way)\nAround 35-40, most women are trying to find a younger guy to feel young again themselves. Women are now starting to have mid-life crisis's and are looking for younger ones, just like men look for younger.
315363
You need to stop this fantasy ASAP. All you are doing is creating drama - You are either bored in your marriage, or are having problems that you'd rather avoid. Maybe you're thinking he can get you out of a situation, or "rescue" you in a sense.....Maybe you're not happy with where you are at in life at 34, and are trying to relive certain aspects of your younger life, before you made the choice to become a married woman...? Whatever the case, please recognize this for what it is......An unrealistic diversion from your REAL life. You can't possibly fix whatever is going on with your marriage until you devote to it 100% - And the preoccupation with this young (kid) will interfere with that. My advice would be to come back to reality, before you take this attraction to some other level, and come back asking what you should do then........
1142569
This is just what turns him on.  He wants you to talk to him about this stuff to turn him on.  Some guys just talk about fantasies, but they don't actually do them.  If you too are married then you should consider that sacred and just fantasize.
900918
I used to only be attracted to older men.  At nineteen I met an older man and married him.  That was 29 year, three kids, and two grandkids ago, he is still my hero.   Age doesn't matter as long as both are legal consenting adults.
854769
hey,\n\ni'm not entirely sure because i don't know the whole story,  were the two of you showing affection to each other ( kissing,cuddling, that sort of stuff?), if so than maybe yes it was the whole age gap thing, because in reality he is old enough to be you father, but all power to you for dating an older guy, i hope i can still get a girl as young as you when i am that old.\n\nbut i must also err on the side of caution, just think when he is 60/70 you will still be in your prime and also pretty much at the back end of your body clocks prime time. then people will either be thinking he is your father for real or think you are his carer, if he gets ill.\n\nsorry if i sound as though i'm against but i like to try and look at things both ways ( pros and cons)\n\nhope this helps
499538
It's probably the meds he's on.  My Dad is older than your guy but he started talking blood pressure medicine, plus lipitor and my mom says their sex life is down the tubes.  If you really love him stay with him....and get married!!!
196073
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!   Don't deny your sexuality.  There is NOTHING wrong with you.  There is something wrong with our society if we think it is wrong to have a sex drive when you aer old.  KEEP FEEDING THOSE DESIRES!!!
682216
I think its normal for a man to want sex at any age...i don't think you libido ever dies it might slow down but it doesn't leave...so yes its very normal...we are human and humans have urges...enjoy
307014
ok hun kinda know where you are coming from but need a little more info. First of all men and women hit their sexual peaks at diferent times in life so if there is an age difference that could be a factor. another thing is lifestyle changes new job or later hours. another thing to consider is the baby, how old? most men go through a stage that they feel the baby is taking all the time from them and begin to feel deprived so they withdraw themselves. and a final thought is that you are in a rut it is common in most relationships, have you been together for a long time? It is a very good possibility that he is just comfortable in the relationship and is just not as passionate as before... It is not that there is no attraction between the two of you because if i had to guess when you do have sex it is GREAT, right? I have been married for 8 years there is a 4 year age difference between the two of us and I have been in your shoes. I thought hubby was cheating and he didn't love me and so on and so forth. Almost lost him over my insecurities ao don't jump to conclusions talk to him about it and I hope I helped a little. WISHING YOU LOTS OF GREAT SEX.
1012631
You are a 22 year old whore...You need to know the damage you are causing with his family and perhaps children. He's married, he belongs to another woman for one. And two. he's married. And three this man is old enough to be your dad. I'm surprise he hasn't gave you worms..I hope he does and that would teach your azz a lesson.\n\nGrow the hell up, get your azz a job and your own MAN!\nBy the way, that particular age group risk for HIV is high as well. I hope he gives it to you!
464181
Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
251118
I am assuming that you are a female and your mate is a male.  If this is the case here is my answer.  I am a 40 yr old man, and I have had a lot of expirience in this category.  If the problem is not medical I can almost guarentee that this will help... you cannot have any inhibitions!  You must convey to him that you are as into what is going on as possible.  There is nothing more exciting for a man who loves his patrner that to see her turned on.
647272
Don't worry about it. Kids your age have lots of confusion about sex. And don't have sex yet. Wait. You are too young. Just because other kids are doing it doesn't make it right. You could ruin your life if you do something stupid like that. \n\nI hope you can have an open discussion with your father or another relative about sex in general.