Am I being insensitive?
414497
7.25pm on a weekend or even a weekday is reasonable time.\n\nYes, you may blast off before the no-noise time, IF YOU'RE JUST ABOUT YOUR RIGHTS.\n\nBut the problem for your lady neighbour may not be about the time you play your music, and neither is it about your rights.  \n\nA sensitive person would think, - my taste of music may not be another person's.  For lateral argument sake, how would you like her to play her boring ethnic classical music on the same volume as you played yours on your woofer?\nAnd you hate that type of music, but you know she has her right as it is still early.  Wouldn't you have WISHED that she was more sensitive to your feelings, THAN just be concerned about her RIGHTS?\n\nWouldn't you have wished that she puts her civic consciousness and neighbourly thoughts to the fact that her music may not be to your liking.?\n\nIf we would all think about others and feel how we would feel in situations, INSTEAD OF DEMANDING OUR RIGHTS, our neighbourhood would be a lovelier and more peaceful place to be in.\n\nOur human RIGHTS have actually been overly used without much consideration for harmony, inter-relationship and empathy. \n\nIt is not the address that makes the neighbour, it is the people in it.  \n\nI rather live in a less prestigious neighbourhood with nice and thoughtful neighbours than in an up-market neighbourhood where Human Rights have gone overboard.\n\nYour kids are away, so you can let your hair down so to speak, - well & good, enjoy that time to yourself.  You have to get up at 5am, but that doesn't mean therefore others have to cope with you.\n\nYou feel you deserve a good time and want to hang loose, great - go to a pub or take your CDs with you, hop into your car, go to no man's land and blast out till 5am and go to wherever.  That's your choice.  But it is insensitive to put people through your personal agenda.
119918
Well its your choice what you say.  You can be honest without being rude.  As far as  hurting her?  There is probably nothing you can do about that.  Unfortunately we all get hurt sooner or later.
295820
I try to, in that I figure that it takes minimal effort on my part and too many poeple are overly sensitlve and quick to take offence now adays. I just couldn't be bothered with dealing with them.\n\n   I could care a less if anybody else does, and make no comments or harbour any bad feelings if someone says something non politically correct.
774731
Is this a serious question or just an exteriorisation of your prejudice?
1034301
Apologize the best way you can. I made a comment in an email to someone  and the comment offended them. It was unintentional so I explained and apologized.  Sincerity counts, otherwise forget it.That is the best you can do.
954727
how insensitive can you be???\nI was on a Y.T.S. you know!!!    damn you!!!!
1056571
I would bet that something else is bothering him, and you triggered an emotion.  It doesn't mean that there is any deep seated issue, and it doesn't mean there isn't.  In situations like that, I ignore the instance and bring it up later in a neutral and non condemning manner.  Then I see how the individual reacts once removed from the situation emotionally.
1164160
Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.
131195
Maybe you are being a little over sensitive and some people are just mean. As for grammar skills pay attention and you will learn them and you are right not everyone knows everything that is for sure though they certainly like to believe that they do.\n Keep your question short and to the point and check your spelling it won't hurt you. If you are unsure if the word is spelled wrong then put a (sp?) after it. YOU know someone will correct it for you. Good Luck and don't let the pettiness get you down
936614
im sorry but honestly i would not care too much about it because he may get offended so make sure if you talk to him about it your careful about what you say
755873
Maybe he is being REALLY nice.LOL! I wouldn't say anything unless he like says something gayish. like want to go out or wut eva. Then definitely say something, but if he just said that one thing, then i wouldn't worry about it. but that is my opinion. If you feel like it is really bugging you, then say some thing. Good Luck
414298
No, then he would think that there is a reason you are doing so.  Just make it seem like it doest bother you and act natural.  That way if you seem true and not up to something he will be more at ease with you, it might take some time.
811914
I don't think she is trying to offend you, you could even take it as a compliment because she feels so at home with you and her sibling. I don't know what kind of person she is, so I don't have the right words, try talking to your significant other about how to handle it since she is his/her family. If it really bothers you, I would definitely resolve it quickly before you get too heated or something happens.
918162
It depends...I've been down this road with the "dears" and the "huns".  The only time I let that slide (sometimes) is if it's an older person...like 70s+ as they (most of the time) mean no disrespect and are just doing that out of habit for anyone young enough to be their children or grandchildren.  HOWEVER anyone else I will always let them know as politely as I can to please don't refer to me as "dear" or "honey", etc.  I ask them to please use my name when speaking with me.  I've gotten a few eyes rollin' or a quick look, but never had a bad comment or repercussion because of it.  It's just disrespectful I think to call anyone that - especially in a working situation.
209712
Do you want a relationship with an insensitive person?  If he doesn't want to put the effort into your relationship at this time what you makes you think he is going to be an acceptable partner for you in the future?\n\nYou need to look deep inside your heart and give a lot more thought to what you are doing here.  If this man is depressing you get the heck out of the realtionship and find someone who wants to make you happy and share in your life goals dear.  Hold onto your respect and your dignity...might be best to let this one swim in the lake with the other fish!\n\nNo one has the right to make another feel worthless dear!
1182293
The words you used initiative and adult do not have any thing negative attached to them.  I think it is all according to what they said and how they said it.\nPerhaps they are a very close friend of yours and they were trying to be helpful with their unsolicited advice.\nWhat you observed as critical could quite possibly have been constructive criticism.\nRead the e-mail over again and keep and open mind while doing so.  Try to think of who this person is to you and what they mean to you.  Would you think of them causing you harm or having your best interests at heart.\nThen I would talk to them directly and see what they are trying to say to you.  \nI say hear them out and give them a chance, you might be giving up on a very good friend who really cares.
636182
I find that it's like the "N" word.  They use it all the time, but if you do, you are being "insensitive".