My big brother style mate has in my head started to become more than that-it is worth ruining our friendship?
408669
let him know how u feel
518864
Just step back and see this picture as it is. He is not the one for you. Move on. If you want to remain friends and have your feelings all mixed up for his benifit go ahead, because he is more important than you right? I did not think so, so just put this dude in your history book and be thankful he was honest enough to let you know who he really is before you fell more into him.
117466
having been that dorky nervous guy in a previous life, i can tell you this, you will hurt him.  No matter what you do, but how badly is something you can control. here is my suggestion:  don't slam him, don't tell him how you feel straight out.  when he is around talk about other guys your interested in, maybe talk about how you like certain things about them that he doesn't do, such as when they flirt they aren't annoying.  and when you talk to him about your relationship make it very clear that he is "like a brother" to you and that he is just such a great FRIEND.  if things get really bad you could start saying things like Jokingly saying "you are a rad friend, which is good cause i think if we ever dated We'ld kill each other."  or other things that make it obvious that you have no intention of ever taking the relationship to a higher level.
658026
It seems that you have a VERY genuine friendship with this guy. Honestly, I think you should keep the friendship, simply because it is a solid foundation that will take mother nature to rip it apart. \n\nBut it sounds like you have a very deep interest in him. The longer you keep it bottled, the more it will consume you. The worst thing that could happen is that he tells you to go to hell, but I doubt that will happen. Be honest with him. One of two things will happen: you will remain close friends, or he will become your significant other. But if you have such a strong relationship, there is a possibility that it could blossom into matrimony. That comes with time though. If he says yes, GET TO KNOW HIM EVEN MORE!!!! Because if you rush into a deeper relationship, and major problems that never before existed come to light, chances are that you will lose the friendship as well, which could be a "double whammy." \n\nRight now you have someone in which you can confide, and you will always need someone like that. Be careful, and continue to use good judgment.\n\nGood luck to you.  :)\n\nP.S. (I met my wife in 1998 (college) and I was just like your friend; I still am. I would do ANYTHING for her. I don't doubt that your friend has that same mentality. Just go for it and find out what's there.)
1032885
NO if they are doing that and she is trying to get ur rep messed up then why be with someone like that ....i can see that ur a loveing and careing person because u keep trying to forget about her bad side and look at the good ......but u need 2 think about if u did become friends again what would it be like and what would happen if u got in a big fight just like last time so think befor u do ! \nall luck 2 u \nxoxoxox
1020579
When that happened to me many years ago, it was devastating to loose a friend who I thought was "a friend."  Now, as time passed, I figured that she was an acquaintance, some one who comes & goes in your life time.  If she was that weak minded to just take his word for something as important as that without consulting you to straighten it out, then she's not your friend.  Get a new one who values your friendship.
382145
I've seen it before so many times and I sympathize.  I personally would re-assert the boundaries of your friendship with her in a nice way, emphasizing how that kind of behaviour could jeapordize your friendship with her and that you'd hate to lose her as the great friend she is over something like that.  Best of luck.
893178
hey but whats the prob,i thnk those wh r seriously involved r there 4 each other all the time and noone takes each other for granted,but yes one thng you can do is to stop making advances let him invite u,but dont say no bcoz that may licence him to go out
368579
nope and I'd further let him know that you value your time and are willing to include him in your plans but only if he shows up.  I'd make it clear and rock solid that if he does it again, the friendship is terminated out of a lack of respect for you on his part.  You don't have to be a doormat for this so-called friend.  The reason you may be the only friend he's got is because he chased off the other people who wanted to be his friend.  So.....you may be a friend to HIM but I don't see any parts of his being a friend to YOU.  Get ready to ditch this sadsack and meet nicer people.
965880
That's actually very mature for you to do!  However, you have to ask yourself what bothers you more, to lose his friendship or how hurt you are when you are with him.   Right now, he is getting everything he wants from you, and you're not!  Ask yourself who is more important, YOU or HIM!  \n\nI would certainly hope YOU!  I'd say cool it off from him and not see him for a while, only until you're completely over him...to the point that seeing him doesnt hurt you anymore!   Right now, with him or without him, you're hurt!  So why not just be without him.  \n\nIt might be one way of really knowing how much your friendship means to him!
161525
Yes, you need to talk to him about how you feel.  Admit that you've tried to be ok with his friendship with this person but as much as you try you really aren't ok with it.  Your suposed to be his best friend now, not her and if your uncomfortable with the relationship he has with her he should be willing and want to end it in order not to ruin what you two have.
975215
you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.
474499
Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
931941
well i think that you shouldn't be getting drunk n e more and if you dew make sure you are in the safty of your own home...also not hang around him again because that is not a true friend cuz a true friend wouldn't try to BONE you.
74037
Even though that answer by Jason was funny as hell, I don't agree with it.\n\nI think it's best that you come clean and tell your long-time friend how you feel about him.  If he ever ends up with someone else and makes a great husband or whatever, you will always punish yourself for him being the one who got away because you were too chicken to tell him how you felt about him.  You can mention to him how you don't want to ruin the friendship, but feel the need to let him know how you feel, and even if he doesn't feel the same way, you can maintain the friendship.  Look at it like the lottery slogan; "You can't win if you don't play!"  Also, it can go one of two ways, it can be the best relationship you ever had, or it can end, and you can remain friends, or it can end and lose the friendship, possibly.  I think you should go with you gut instinct and your heart.  Your friendship most likely won't end since you guys go back to the diaper years.  I really think you should take the chance.  Keep me posted, or if you have any more thoughts....gemfow@yahoo.com
1135326
It is already an obsession. You'll know your future treatment by the way he treats his mother and sister. You are already being isolated from your friend. There is a great book you should get . It's called All Men Are A$$holes and it's written by men.
1163025
Whatever you do you should handle it calmly and spare his feelings. Because right now like you said he hasn't gone too far but yes if you fear it will go beyond what you want it to be then is best to resolve it quickly. handle this face to face and be strong about it. Tell him that you feel that your friendship with him seems a little too personal and it makes you feel bad and you do not want to feel bad at all. That you cherish the friendship but it will never be anything but a friendship. If he can not understand or accept it then I suggest you end it completely.