When in the military is it hard to relocate with your family.?
395856
umm.. every single time we have PCSd there have been difficulties.  It's harder coming or going OCONUS, with pets and with children.
1140033
Not only am I a Marine wife but I as in the Navy and I'm a Navy brat.  My parents both spent over 20 years in the Navy.  You do move a bit (usually every 3 years) and yea it's hard having you hubby gone.  I honestly thing the strongest people in the world (mentally and physically) are single parents and military spouses.  My husband left for Iraq right after our first child was born.  I was far away from family and didn't have many friends.  Not only did my son and I survive, we thrived!  I learned alot about myself while he was gone and our marriage is stronger for having gone through that.  \nI was born in Italy and lived in Peurto Rico for three years, how many people can say that?  I think it's wonderful!  \nYou're more than welcomed to e-mail if you would like to talk more on the subject.
511804
If you two are legally married, then if your husband is deployed to any other base, you will both be going together. The military does not force the spouse to leave the other spouse. Only if you are married however. If he is deployed to war...that is a different story. Depending on his job in the military as well. \n\nIf you need anything, feel free to IM.
634931
I recommend moving away from the mother-in-law.  I joined the Navy to make moving easier...and more frequent.
1006254
I'd really discourage you moving just to be near him. As you said, he'll likely be deployed soon and then you'd be left there by yourself. Since you aren't married you would have limited support and access to base resources. If it is meant to be, your relationship will survive this. If not...at least you will be moving forward in your career.\n\nGood luck.
487337
Unfortunately nowadays...it is VERY difficult for them to let go. I got a General Discharge under Honorable conditions while being activated under the Army reserves. My best advice is to get out if you are not deployed. Fail PT tests or gain weight. If you are deployed it will be that much harder...It will take time, but if you don't mind it is possible. Seek for a medical discharge or you have to file a claim against their beleifs...something like you are against war and can not be in the Army beacuse of your religion. It will take time, but it will be worth it. GOOD LUCK!\n...FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE NO CLUE, IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO CHANGE YOUR MIND, AND SOMETIMES YOU ARE NOT TOLD THE TRUTH, NOT JUST ABOUT THE MONEY, BUT TIME TO GO TO SCHOOL, HELP WITH SCHOOL, AND THE ACTUAL JOB YOU WOULD BE DOING. I SIGNED UP TO BE AN ADMINISTRATIVE SPECIALIST, AND I ENDED UP BEING DEPLOYED FOR POSTAL WORK IN SOME INFANTRY UNIT RIGHT IN THE HEART OF IRAQ. I HAD NO TIME FOR SCHOOL, WHEN I APPLIED FOR VA ASSISTANCE I WAS DENIED, AND MOST OF ALL WHEN I WAS SICK THEY PRETTY MUCH SAID 'WELL YOU LOOK PHYSICALLY OKAY, SO O WELL.' THEY FINALLY LET ME GO, WHEN I SHOWED THEM PROOF OF MY REGUALR DR. AND SAW THAT I WAS NOT OKAY!
263823
ok well i am not a spouse yet but i have been with a military man for 3 years now in that time he has gotten out and then back in...we moved to his home state where his parents were and just couldnt make it so he got back in...once you are in its hard to get out and make a living for yourself...and when someone does i give them all the credit in the world because we couldnt
46716
That is certainly a decision that you and your family need to do some serious thinking about.  My husband, and I were also in the military, so I know how hard it can be when you are deployed.\n\nDo you know what you will do when you get out?\nWill you have to serve another tour over in Iraq?  How long will it be?\nWould you like to make a career out of the military?\nThere is a lot more information that I would need to know, and how you feel about them, before I feel like I could give any amount of decent advice on it.\n\nThank you for your service to our country!
1129824
I'm not a single parent but I had to act as one while my husband was in Iraq.  I think that the hardest thing is not having someone to share the stress with.  People always asked me how I did it, I mean, I was pretty much a single mom while he was gone.  I always said the same thing, "I know my husband will be coming home.  I know I'll have help when his deployment is over.  I know that this is temporary.  Most importantly, I know, generally, around when my reinforcements (my hubby) will be arriving!"  I don't know how people do it when they don't have the knowledge of partner coming to help them soon.  I have an immense amount of respect for single parents.
56054
First off all my husband we in the military and got out in 1997, USAF. There are support groups for you already. Family Services on base has programs for wives. They should have play groups for children also. I think it would be easier for you to use the base since it is already done for you and then you can meet other wives and suggest going to lunch, babysite for each other, go to the laundry together, give each other rides to appointments. \n\nIt is a wonderful program.
476512
Too many times if of the one party's move to be with other it seems to fail. If not from the area this one of the stresses not being with your family. Trying to fit in the new area finding that job,  find friends, and other social actives it is hard all causing great problems in a relationship.
753245
Sounds like at least one of you is afraid of being left. Or maybe you don't want to hurt each other by making a commitment and then leaving, so you just refrain from making a commitment... and you practice leaving.  Girl, you should only practice what you want to be good at !\n\nIn many parts of the world marriages are arranged. In other words, the sex is the first part of the relationship, and over time the couple can learn to know & love each other. \n\nI left my family & moved from New England to Minnesota, where my husband's family all live. It was a couple years of culture shock, but we're still together after almost 23 years of marriage.\n\nDo you trust him? Are you willing to trust ANYone?  If he changes, will you stay with him? (like, loss of health, financial worries causing depression, etc)... in my experience, Air Force fellows are top quality. Yes, the military changes a person -- military people  have been forcibly changed, so they can do their jobs & survive; that's not a bad thing, it's just a factor to consider.\nMotherhood changes a person, too.  Not all changes are permanent, but they're not all predictable either. That's where the trust comes in. Trust isn't a feeling; it's a decision.\n\nHe might have a need to be "at home" (in his case, it's Ohio); home is, by definition, where we feel safe.  Can you make your home somewhere other than Washington? I did. I used to live in rural Tacoma. I know how beautiful it is there. But family circumstances required I move, and I learned to appreciate New England. It took me 2 years, but I did it.\n\nMy recommendation? Meet his family.  (Wonderful guys usually come from nice families, so I bet they're nice). And marry him.
12405
I have a Husband who is in the Air Foce and is deployed right now. I also have a brother in law who is Deployed. I have Alot of friends in the military as well that are deployed. My cousin too. My whole family has in ome point been military.
744894
When someone leaves on a deployment it's like you hit a brick wall.  They keep moving forward and you can't go along for the ride.  You have no idea what he's dealing with, and you can't relate when he tells you about his day.  You just have to listen, but chances are you won't understand.  You'll be worried sick while he's gone and stupid things will make you break down in tears.  Don't kid yourself.  Being over there and knowing your job is a lot different than being the one that sits at home waiting by the phone...Hoping that the conversation with him you had the other day wasn't indeed the last one you'll ever have with him.
282810
My hubby's in the army and it just depends...sometimes you live where you signed  up at...but at some point the army makes you go over seas for at least two years, we lived in Germany...you basically live all over never know where your gonna go next with the army..hope this helped some..
492076
what kind of family problems?If your going abroad is going to cause a rift between you and your family then you'd better think twice...you don't want to lose your family over a job...because even after you get a job and settle down you won't be happy.
90033
Hey! Last week is not very far... l think you will hear from your brother soon .definately, they don't take them by force! and if they are being taken by USA for military training..., its not easy but l believe  they will make it and soon get used to it. more hopefully everything will be alright...