workplace bullying ?WHERE TO GET HELP?IN ILLINOIS?
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in less you work on a farm or someplace with little technology, in which case you will need to get creative, you can eliminate your tormentor with relative ease. computers and lightbulbs can both be rigged with explosives simply. if I elaborate, I might be an accessory to the murder, but I'm sure you can find out how to do these things using the information superhighway. after all, it got you this far.
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First of all, Blackscythe has been reported for abuse.  You don't threaten people over the internet, or in real life, unless you are a fearful little jerk with no sympathy, no compassion, and no human feeling.  And if you're like that, you're not much of a human, and you're certainly no man.\n\nI'm 38, a teacher in junior high school -- which by the way is NOT a cesspool whatsoever.  We have programs in place here, and more and more schools are everywhere, that target, define and help stamp out bullying.  Teachers are trained in the overt and covert forms of it, and are given practical advice on how to combat it. \n\nThat said, I was bullied when I was in elementary, middle, junior high and high school for a variety of reasons.  No one ever made me cry; no one ever broke my spirit.  They just made me stronger and unbreakable, thus doing the exact opposite of what they intended.  I was bullied for my weight, for being a smart girl, for not bothering to hide my brains.  Whatever.  When people bully, it says a lot more about them and their insecurities than it ever does about me and my talents.\n\nRecently, a weird, dysfunctional man in my neighborhood tried to bully me about public parking.  He wanted to "save" public parking places, and I wasn't about to put up with that.  He banged on my car window, and I just looked the other way and very slowly and calmly got my stuff together, hoping that my total lack of reaction would piss him off and throw him off guard -- of course it worked.  He tried to curse at me, and he got up in my space threateningly.  So, I got up in his space, took two steps forward to his one, and screamed and yelled and cursed louder and longer, with more force, more vehemence and more style.  I got up in his face.  I gave it right back with double strength.  And this macho Hispanic dude literally backed away from me, running, with his palms up, submissively.  And of course since that one time that I stood up to him, he has not bothered me since, and I've gained his respect.  He knows not to mess with me, because I don't take it at all whatsoever.\n\nAnd that was what I did to everyone who tried to bully me: I stood up to them, looked them in the eye, and NAMED THEIR BEHAVIOR, framing it in the rudest, most pathetic, disparaging terms I could, to make me look completely innocent and them look like bumbling, fumbling, incompetent, obnoxious morons -- which they were.  Every time, since childhood, these bullies slunk away and I never had another problem.  I felt massively relieved and rewarded.  There is great, great value in having a sharp tongue.  It's because of my sharp tongue and slice-and-dice vocabulary that I've never been in a physical fight in my life; I could just insult the h-e-l-l out of you so that you slunk away in shame.  In a way I realize that what I did bordered on or was verbal abuse right back... but it stopped the attack on me, and there was no other problems were had.\n\nSo, stand up.  Look the person in the eye.  Name their behavior.  Be aware that bullies are always, always cowards.  And once you stand up to these cowards, they always, always back down.  Bullies are scared and insecure, and that weakness can be exploited and preyed upon.  Whatever they are attacking YOU for, that is what they hate and cannot accept in their own selves.  Turn it back on them.  Watch them squirm.  And watch them RUN away.  This is called guerilla psychological warfare.\n\nSo, from an overweight girl who never took s-h-i-t from anyone, I became a confident teacher.  I am there for my junior high school kids.  I empower them, teach them to stand up for themselves, to evaluate themselves, their situations and each other as objectively as possible, and if at all possible, to laugh about it.  And I and all my colleagues watch out for bullying every single day, and we don't let it go.  \n\nTake heart.  The jerks are out there, but they're SO easy to disa
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I work in a nursing home and I'm a mandory reporter of abuse. The police can not always help. You need to get a hold of Department of Human Services in your area
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Tell an administrator. And depending on the laws in your area, after that you have the right to file charges for threatening or harassing behavior. just have all your facts straight and documented
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I don't know if your stepson is a racial minority, but if he is, his boss is braking the law by engaging in or allowing racial harassment.  However, your stepson made a big mistake by hitting his boss, and that would be grounds for firing whether he was being harassed or not.  But he can still make a claim for harassment on the grounds that it created a hostile work environment, etc.  The recourse for harassment is legal action.  He may be able to make a claim through a state human relations or employment agency, or through the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). You should be able to find something in your phone book or on the internet, or go to your closest state employment office for referral.
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Everyone is entitled to have an off day.  Don't take it personally unless it becomes habitual or there is a threat made.  At that point inform your supervisor/manager of the activity.  There may be an Aggressive/Anger Behavior that needs attention by people that have been trained on how to deal with the problem.  Your supervisor/manager should have a crisis number to call if he deems necessary.  If it’s your boss that has the issue call your HR Dept. (HR will handle the call or direct you to the proper party). He may have had previous issues with others and this is information the company needs to take action one way or the other.\n\nEveryone is expendable.  But at the same token everyone is valuable.  It all depends on weather the individual has a valid case of harming or damaging people or property.\n\nDoes this issue involve a Union?  This would simply require filing a grievance.  \n\nTaking action or replying in a negative fashion is often acted on prematurely, wait a day and then reply.  Sometime what you think happened was actually what your mind made of it without thinking things through.\n\nGood Luck
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Is your boyfriend in a union? This should be your first point of call if not try going to your local citizens advice bureau. Tell them you have a bullying issue. They will be able to set you on the right track.
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Start at your local Legal Aid.  They should be listed in the phone book.  If not, try a local shelter or city council to recommend or refer you to an agency.  Please do yourself a favor and stop using his name.  This will only hurt you in the long run.  You are walking a fine line in the ethics department, and legally, it might go against you to put this guys name on the internet.  Calm down and do things in a manner that will help you, rather than cause you more pain. Actually, your employer should support you in this matter.  That why they are required to carry insurance on employees.
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If your company has a human resources department that will be you first line of defense, candidly speaking with the person concerned with interoffice relations and staff management about concerns you have regarding attitude and how that may be effecting performance in the work place wouldn't hurt.   The trick is to be very diplomatic and approach the subject as a concern for the well being of the company. \n\nAvoid making accusations and pointing fingers, initially.  See if the company is able or willing to resolve the problem within itself.   \n\nIf the harassment continues or escalates do some research into employee right agencies in your area.  Contact them with your concerns.
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Look up 'hostile work environment', get a lawyer.
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Go to a friend (I can think of one right now) and let your steam out at that person.  That will help you straighten things out in your head and prevent you from unleashing yourself in such a violent manner.  Personally I think what you are doing is better than bottling it up inside; for then that could lead to hidden rage and then finally you could snap and just kill someone or something! Still though I highly hope you take my advice, it doesn't even have to be to the person I'm thinking of.  Just know that the person will not judge you and will give you his/ her input.  Don't worry it isn't a counselor, doesn't even want to have that as a career option.  That person just wants you to be happy.  There is no hidden agenda. Don't all friends want their special friend to be happy?
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Try this website: www.gottrouble.com/legal/employment/harassment.htm
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Absolutely there are laws to protect you, but what you have stated is somewhat vague, you should try asking a more specific questions, where did the icident take place home, work? what kind of harassment? sexual, physical,or verbal was it your boss or a coworker.
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I'm a teacher in the UK and very aware of bullying in my class/school.\n\nThis is such a big issue. I never suffered bullying as a kid, but I am suffering as an adult at the moment. What has helped me is a special phone line and friends that I can talk to about it. I have also told my union and human resources and they are giving me help and support.\n\nI try to instil in my classroom ethos a sense of respect and rapport for others. We use circle time to tackle issues and I am known as a teacher that will listen to both sides of an argument. I do not have favourites.\n\nThat is not to say that I do not have children in my class who are not being bullied. It is unfortunately a characteristic of human behaviour.\n\nRecently I noticed a child behaving out of character, very withdrawn and depressed. When I tried to talk to him he would not share his thoughts with me. Later that day I was told by the head that the parent had complained about her child being bullied. I was upset to think that: 1) one of my children was suffering. 2) neither the child or parent had confided in me.\n\nHe did confide in me later and we eventually were able to work on the problem.\n\nWhat I have learned as a teacher is:\n- that the victim needs support as soon as it is noticed, but it may take some time before they are ready and willing to face the situation/name names/admit there is a problem.\n- that the children need to have a way to communicate with you. They need to know that they will be listened to and taken seriously.\n- that the children need to know what true bullying is. They need to try to avoid the 'cry wolf' syndrome as it leads to parents/teachers/adults not taking the true cases seriously.\n\nIt does help to have an overt school policy that has a no tolerance attitude to bullying.\n\nIdeas that have been suggested in out school are:\n-playground buddies\n-school councillors/mentors\n-bully boxes (this tends to be abused)\n-assemblies about bullying\n-secret buddies (where the children pick someone's name randomly from the class list to be nice to them that week) At the end of the week the children try to guess who their secret buddy was. They suggest the name of someone that has been nice to them that week. Names that are mentioned over and over again are praised and rewarded).\n\nThere are no easy answers to this. We have to be supportive and patient with the victim and firm about what is acceptable behaviour and what is not to be tolerated.
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ILLINOIS DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN RIGHTS\nThe Governor's Commission on Discrimination and Hate Crimes was established...\nhttp://www.state.il.us/dhr/news_rel/HC_Com1299.htm
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This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
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If you reeeally need this job, I'd go to the Labor Board. It sounds like A$Shole wanted to find a reason to get rid of you.  You might come out on top in this one, but even so, will your employers make your job a living hell by always looking for legal ways to fire you again and again? Just think it over.  "Choose your battles" was some of the best advice I ever got.