Is it wrong that i want my parents to break up?/divorce?
404632
If you're a teenager, this could just be horomones,but unless they is a serious situation, you may be depressed or suffer from another kind of mental situation. I suggest you ask you mom to take you to the doctor. \nJ'adore\nConnie
174064
Children of any age resent any "outside" interference from sources such as yourself in their lives.  They always consider that maybe, the parents will return to each other and they will be "one happy family" once again.  And, if by chance, your "man" was widowed, the kids think of you as the "Wicked Witch of the West" trying to replace their mom.  After 2 years, I would think you'd have a better hold on everything, but it appears maybe you and the "man" hasn't really sat down and discussed these matters for the future. But you state, its "your feelings toward the children" that you fear, not their feelings toward you?  Evidently, you can't accept the children and only want kids between you and your man.  Now that's a major problem and if I were you, and can afford it, I'd seek professional help on this matter.  And if you can't afford it, maybe the welfare people in your state might assist in financial matters?  I'd find out ASAP and get this problem either corrected in my own mind, or split with this guy knowing you will never accept his children as yours.
489973
Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
70447
okay my parent s are divoreced but i know its for the best its better that to hear them fight and argue. I sometimes feel like im missing a part of me like on fathers day and i cant rememer the good times cause i was only little when they divorce. but i know very little about him but its better to leave it burid that to go digging for me anyway.
714907
Their emotions are all over the place. They hate that they are hurting you and splitting up the family, but for you, its better. Its horrible when parents are around and always fighting.  Its better when they are separted by law or houses - and they don't argue.\n\nUntil the divorce is over, their emotions will be all over the place, almost like yours. \n\nMy best suggestion for any child (young adult) is that they talk with their parents or school counselor and ask to see a professional therapist. They can help you sort through the adult stuff you might not understand.\n\nNo matter what, it affects you - but isn't about you. Both your parents love you - truly, truly love you. Don't ever think otherwise. \n\nOne thing to remember if they happen to say something negative about the other parent...at one time, they did love each other...that's how they got you ;-).\n\nAlso, if they do say something negative to you about the other parent...just ask them to neve say anything negative about your dad/mom to you. After one time of telling them this...they'll stop.\n\nHope this helps. Your parents are both good people but somehow moved down a different road. Your lucky to have both f them - even in separate houses.
1104398
I've never been married as I'm only fifteen, but my parents were married for fifteen years and got divorced when I was thirteen.\n\nI know that my mom asked for the divorce because she was tired of my dad coming home from work, eating dinner and then laying on the couch in front of the TV for the rest of the evening. He never helped out with anything unless she asked him to do it a half-a-dozen times, and even then sometimes she ended up doing it herself. He didn't want much to do with "family" things unless it involved a picnic that someone on his side of the family was having, then he expected us to want to go to those sorts of things. \n\nAlso, when they fought, he would give her the cold shoulder like a child; he would just ignore her and act as though she didn't exist for the whole day, sometimes the whole week and one it even lasted almost two weeks.\n\nShe got tired of dealing with it all and wasn't happy any longer. She tried talking to him about it on several occasions and he never did anything about it, so she asked for a divorce.
1080218
My advice would be to contact a family law attorney since there are so many legalities involved, and they can help with the best wording to make sure your parents wishes are carried out.
838247
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
263135
Hmm. I'm in a similar situation, however I'm not legally allowed to move out for a few more months, or at least not without going to court, which I'd prefer not to do. I simply (a) avoid them as much as possible. I go out and do fun things, and then both sides are happy--or at least not fighting--and (b) if something comes up, I take the easist route out. I'll defend myself for a little while, but right before it gets ugly, I let them think they're right. Now, never ADMIT that they're right, but just kinda pretend that you do. This will end the argument much sooner, because usually all people want is to know they're right. Even if you think this is cowardly, it shows you're actually much stronger and more mature than your parents. However, this can build up a lot of aggression, so remember to do something that will help take it out, like going to the gym or something. I clean and rearrange the furniture in my room. It helps, but I'm weird. *lol* But yea, best of luck!
1045595
If you broke up with him 4 1/2 months ago, it is time for him to move on, just like you have.  You don't owe him anything and I can't believe that your parents feel that you do owe him.  When you meet with him todday, tell him your true feelings let him know that you are happy and you have moved on and it is now time for him to move on.  Good Luck to you today!!
400818
honey you can't please both sets of parents. the big Question is " What do you want?" You have to set your mom down and tell her how you feel and what you want to do. That goes the same for your dad. Plus you need to tell your dad that it really hurts you when your stepmom makes those comments. You give me the impression that you feel like you have to please both parents and be perfect. You don't though. Sweetie be yourself and they'll love you. But you have to start by pleasing yourself first. GOOD LUCK
193622
You dont.... You should stop and take a look at what they offer you.\nYou wouldn't be here if it weren't for them.\nThey feed you and put a roof over your head. SO, whatever little petty reason you want to "get rid of them" you'd better rethink it. \n\nI can tell you from experience that times can be tough. And I am sure that everyone can tell you that when they were younger they at least once hated their parents. However, now that we're older and can look back at that... We realize why things happened the way they  did. As a child we like to think that we know what's best for us. Feel as if your partents are holding you back, when in fact, they are saving you from the worlds nasty people and truth... It's not easy in the real world. Enjoy your parents for as long as you can. They wont be here forever and then you will have no one to turn to. Charish every day that your parents are still with us on earth. Dont let a day end without telling them how much you love 'em. If you do... Someday, you'll be sorry...
1104931
Okay it all depends, do you love her, are yall gonna get married, if she supports u more than ur parents then go for it. Besides, ur gona have to leave the house at some point in ur life to have ur own life and be a man. And yea u took a risk, cuz u never know wat the future holds and u guys could breakup, but point is u left the house as ur own man with a life, and ur parents should cut the cord and accept ur decisions. Its time to make ur own decisions and they should do no more than say okay. Its understandable why they said what they said. My fiance and i been living together for awhile, we have a son and every decision we make is for the best for him, and we are HAPPY. So if our family dont approve, then they are losing out, we never told them to divorce or leave anyone they were with or else. But u should try to contact them a couple of more times, try to talk to them if theyll listen, but it sounds like they just wont let go, but both parties should consider each other and why they feel the way they do. IF you and ur girl are happy then great. this has nothing to do with ur girlfriend, its between u and them, and this can make ur relationship with ur gf and parents stronger if yall make a final decision of the end result. i.e. mom and dad are gonna do this, my gf and i are gonna do that, the end. Just remember they all love you.
689899
You never truly get over it but the first step is to realize that the relationship you want with your parents will probably never happen.  Your expecting something from people who have proven to you over and over they are not capable of affection of making you feel needed.  All you are doing be this is setting yourself up for more heartache and disappointment which you will blame on them thus forcing a bigger divide between you and your parents.  You have to learn to be happy with what relationship you do have and not to expect from them what they can't give.  If you are content with that and follow this then you can have a relationship with your parents.  It may not be the kind of relationship you would like but it is all you can get so either accept it or move on without them.
777457
I don't know your age, but at a certain age the kid is allowed to decide. You should tell your mom your feelings, or if you go to court again let them know. I'm sorry you're going through a divorce ): It's tough. Good luck
78169
This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.