Why is it that I feel completely out of place here in my hometown?
414655
You need to move; stretch your wings & see where you "fit". Travel is fun & exciting. I've only found 2 places where I feel I belong...Israel & Alaska.
1185795
Please do not get disheartened moving to a new place i s avery difficult experience everytime even for the most adaptable person. But all one needs to remeebr is that these difficulties are all temporary. soon, u will start finding things that you will like in this new place and one by one things will start falling in place and you will have a great time here. So keep the faith and remember to keep a smile no matter how hard the times are..the good momments are around the corner.
1140646
Good question, tough to answer. I left my country 50 years ago. I was very homesick till I had my own family , kids and all. Now that I am in the winter of my years I dream about my country and my friends still there and I long for it often. I feel my heart is here and my soul I left there and there will always be a hankering for both, wherever I am I miss one of the places. I know that does not help you much but you have to start forming your own roots where you are now or go back.
985002
I feel this way all the time. I do not "fit in" anywhere.
1143673
My word.  That is a lot of people and stress.   Is it possible for you to move into a place away or maybe down the road form your relatives, just to get you out of the chaos?  There are usually places that offer low/reduced rent for fixed incomes.   Maybe your children can do things to help around the house so when you come home you have some peace and don't feel like you have to race around and clean, cook, do laundry etc.  Good luck.
148324
I would think its normal to occasionally have flashbacks and feel shaken over it.  If you are feeling like that ALL the time you might want to get some professional help. It was a pretty traumatic event for the nation, let alone Yew Yorkers. If you dont get professional help make sure you talk to friends or family.  Im sure that will help.
303635
i get like that too sometimes! its what u feel inside is affecting ur outside world! u have to start feeling good about urself! go out with your friends make them talk to you! trust me sometimes they cant see how u feel so show them!
304161
Sometimes.\nI get this claustrophobic feeling whenever I'm in a crowded place, and I start jumping from one quiet spot to the other in that whole, crowded place, just trying to 'blend' into my surroundings.\nAlso, because the place I'm studying at is a small town (Small towns are good for studies because you've got virtually nothing to do but study! :P), everyone's rather narrow-minded. The state I'm living in is pre-dominantly people of my race, the people in the country I'm living in are Multi-cultural, yes, but they don't live together in harmony, but in harsh racial divisions going about their business and being wary of the next race.\nHence, the people tend to really frown upon racial mixing (it's somewhat like a voluntary form of racial segregation or apartheid, with different districts holding an excessive majority of one particular race), let alone multi-racial relationships.\nWhenever my fiance (of a darker skin, and therefore in this country - EVEN more discriminated upon! The irony is that the rest of the races aren't so white themselves! They're brown!) and I walk out we find ourselves in merciless public scrutiny.\nThe worse thing is that while at least he's being ignored, I get the brunt of the telling off by some self-righteous middle-aged - older guy about mixing with other groups, about myself being 'cheap' because I mix with "such people" (meaning people of tanned and darker skinned), or I'm seen as some promiscuous girl hanging off the tetherhooks of some charming, evil dark-skinned man because of status, wealth, charm, boredom, rebelliousness, etc.\nWe find ourself literally 'hiding' when we go out. And mind you, we don't even hold hands in public, all it takes is just being in close proximity to a darker-skinned man to warrant disapproving glares from even the racist younger men  and women, who look at me as if I'm a paid prostitute walking around with him because I'm paid! \nIt's frustrating, and we've come across some extremely racist people, to the subtle racism (pretending not to hear my fiance speak, only speaking to me but in a rude tone, or speaking in a very rude, insulting, dismissive tone to my fiance, etc.).\nSo yes, while we aren't afraid of what people think of our relationship (We're engaged! It's not as if he's a 3 month fling or something!), we prefer not to create conflict, and find ourselves sometimes 'hiding' from everyone.\nIt's not unknown to have racial attacks where I'm studying at now.\nWe just can't wait to get the semesters over with and move over to our next destination, and just be ourselves!\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
769911
I don't know...and that's a shame because i use to live there.
782760
there from my hometown?\n\nlol
100099
u probaly have 2 live wit the fact that u can't live in  this society and that be looked at as ok maybe if u moved 2 another country but not here it just wouldn't look right but ultimately what matters is how you and her feel just be ready 2 face alot of grief
697398
I can completely relate to your question - particularly the London aspect - I work there and it can at times look like the whole of the capital is having a party that you weren't invited to.\n\nThere is nothing on this planet worse than feeling lonely to me - it can be all consuming. Sounds like you're doing all the right things - good for you for getting out there - maybe you just need to relax a bit and be patient. \n\nI think Guinea Pig is spot on when they say that all these people who look bubbly and like they've got loads of friends could well be lonely too. I think we're all lonely at some point in our lives.\n\nAt the moment I'm trying to be comfortable with myself so that I don't have to rely on other people and be needy and desperate. Not only is it unattractive but it scares off potential new friends too. I'm not talking about you here in particular by the way - just making a general point and I've seen myself be needy and not liked what I saw.\n\nSo anyway, hang on in there, and while you're being patient - I'm happy to be your 360 friend if you like.\n\nTake care :-)
1020268
Well I would have to guess that maybe your looking for something that you havent found. I am  not sure but you are really the only one that can decide what that might be.. If your happy in a place and you still want to move then it just seems you cant help but think there is something waiting for you somewhere else. Kinda hard to tell with not knowing more about you or how you have lived your life. I do know it isnt normal to want to move all the time tho. \nI hope you find what your looking for in life and maybe you will find the true you while looking. good luck to you..
693746
This is a difficult one if you are in a foreign country and not too familiar with the language.  Firstly, homesickness is not a weakness - it is perfectly natural and human to miss what is familiar.  Secondly, get to know your new community.  Are you in college?  Join a group of people with similar tastes, interests.  Get more familiar with the language by joining a discussion group - your local library may have English discussion group notices pinned up.  You are obviously computer literate, so you could still stay in daily touch with some friends back home, whilst looking for new friends.  Good luck, Samir.  And keep smiling.  You will look back on this downer with nostalgia one day.
134201
Its really hard to say not knowing where you live .... i would look up on the internet for your area and see if there is anything offered. Just a suggestion too... for 12 years i was told i had depression and anxiety, come to find out after i freaked and drove my car to portland lost it and me and dont remember it, i was told i have bipolar , you may want to have that checked, but a regular doctor cant tell you this.... I hope you find help i know how frustrating it is.
15971
maybe your personality/look just isn't compatible with the people you are surrounded by. i dunno i think that's my problem. everyone here hates me or treats me bad but people i meet from the other side of the country are nice and interesting. i'm definitely moving one of these days.
38952
well, some people feel that they may be living in a small town, where in that case, everybody knows you. You could also not want to join all those clubs that everybody suggests to meet new people. You may feel inadequate where you reside and even though you would love to move, can't find a job where you want to live yet. at the same time, you can always network on the internet as well. there are so many people I've met over the internet that would love for me to visit them, and yes I would be careful, but I've known them for years. I have a friend in California who's dying for me to visit her, which would be cool becuase I wouldn't get lost in L.A.. I have a friend in D.C. who's got my back as well. I'm not dating them, but they are friends that I would never meet where I'm living at. Most folks just want to meet like-minded people and the internet has tons of them. you don't have to be shy, but yes I've met alot of shy people on the internet. I don't mind it, it's connecting everybody and nobody's shy over the internet, there are some bafoons, but hey, you can meet those in a club or where ever you go. I haven't met a quality chick out here, but I met a couple over the internet who live on the other side of my state, and that was cool, I didn't date them becuase they live too far, but it's  nice to know I have friends out there. if people are lying, after a while you can tell, unless you have intentions of dating them. I say make frieds with them, with any luck, you'll meet their friends.