Mixed up 14 yr old boy?
400849
I knowm it is hard, but give him some space for right now.  He is very mad and once he calms down - hopefully he will come to terms after thinking about it.  don't pressure him in to seeing you, it might make things worse.  Good Luck!!
1099607
He sounds like he likes to play games.......I myself didnt like mixed signals growing up.  Honestly , you should move on and let him grow up a little
505235
well you didnt give your age, but either way, if your parents are against him, then they have their reasons, and they also know best ( i know i know, i never believed it either , but believe me its true ) find someone better, you can do it.. good luck
1081516
You did something you thought would help, unfortunately you got screwed over in return.\n\nNot much you can do, if he continues to say that you've done this then you'll have to find some way to prove that you didn't. \n\nEither way if he lays charges you're branded a sex offender. See a lawyer first, maybe talk to his grandmother, find out if he has any..............um...............other issues going on about why he would lie (I'm assuming your innocence). The fact that he is 18 does play in your favour, he is an adult and as such has the right to make his own decisions whether or not others think they are the right ones.\n\nIt's a hard one, I don;t want to tell you never help another, because then where would you be, but you have to think a little harder now about whom you decide to help.\n\nBest thing to do if this situation comes up again is have the names and phone numbers of a few shelters on hand.\n\na plus is that when the cops came they didn't arrest you they just told you to tell him to go home.\n\nBetter off not to have anything more to do with this kid either.\n\nHope it workls out for you.
713758
Hmmm?\n\nI don't know that I see the problem.  What's your son going to think when he gets old enough to realize?  He's going to think "Daddy likes to wear girl's clothes.", or, if the sex change has already happened by then, then he'll have another mommy, I'm assuming.  Neither one is going to scar the kid, or even really affect him.  If he grows up knowing that there's nothing wrong or weird with his dad doing that, then he won't think anything of it (so long as the outside world doesn't know and tease him about it).  It'll just be one of the things daddy does, like mommy liking to put on her sweatpants to do the laundry or something similar, you know- just a little idiosyncracy.  And so long as he sees/understands that other men don't necessarily do it, he won't go raiding your closet (unless of course he wants to, which, in that case, you can't change it).  He'll grow up fine and healthy- just approach this with reason and rationality and show your son that you love him and your family is normal.\n\nGood luck!
457677
No, after all the 14 yr old is just as you say they are ... 14.  You know that at 14 your decisions are less than mature.  Why do the same thing the 14 yr old is doing?  Be a parent, stand firm!  Prayers =)
855017
He's obviously an @ss, I would get some psychological help for your son as soon as possible so he doesn't end up with abandonment issues and blaming himself for his biological (only) father not wanting to see him. Good riddance to him, sorry for you and your son.
921880
Man, he sounds like a real child.  You on the other hand sound like a real grown up.  You should be proud of yourself!
671399
I'm pretty sure that your son is old enough to choose who he wants to live with.  There is a certain age they turn and are able to choose. Check into it.
119045
OOoOO,thats a tough one, and to top it all off she wants you to help HER find out who the father is!! At 14,im sorry this is happening to you two in this point of your barely started lives- This looks like the time to call JERRY SPRINGER,or MAURY. DNA
630037
b or c\nparents can be real pricks. wait for skool and ask him why.Or you can call that # and get his.
602716
At 14, your son is still trying to sort out the divorce and loss of his Dad. He is young to understand that Mom needs somebody to love her. He has a lot of things going on in his own mind with puberty and hormones himself, so it's not easy for him right now. If I were in your shoes, I would sit down and talk to him rationally, and tell him that you love him and all your kids, but at the same time, you also have needs in your own life. BC fills those needs very well , and makes you happy. You might be surprised to find out how mature he really is. Do not try to "force" BC on him....he will fight it tooth and nail. Just assure him that he is loved, but that your heart is big enough to love more than one at the time. Good Luck! Patience is the key here!
1089397
I'm confused too...I don't know how many boys are in that story...but to me it just sounds like being a normal young person....thats what crushes and obsessions are all about. You kind of just have to ride it out and try not to do anything dumb (not an insult to you, but I definitely remember doing dumb stuff bc of boys)
403164
yeah you should talk to him. just start by saying"so you coming to my sons birthday paty?" and just go from there. it wont be so bad!!!Good luck!!!!:)
571755
Think if he has a ****** then he might just be a girl. Go see doc.
695269
Mixed....  Just the way Dad did it when I was a kid.
909624
If I could keep the years I have already had and swap now I would swap with my friends little boy. He died as soon as he was born and never got a chance at life. So I would give him what I have left if he wants it