(boys only) why do boys say they" love you "when they don't mean it?
412369
reasons that come to mine\n1. they feel pressured to do it.\n2. they think they mean it at the time, but later on they second guessing their themselves.\n3. they are selfcentered but have learn what to say to get what they want.
727866
Eh. it's a tuffy. Some guys show it differently. Like maybe they will laugh at you & make fun of you, like most immature boys, or they will come right out & tell you. Guys are very...weird with their feelings. They're just too complicated. Haha.
181697
Because he will act like it.  Love is an action, not just a feeling.\nIf he is telling you that he loves you, but is treating you like crap, he doesn't.
597129
It means he doesn't want to offend you I would imagine.  No offense but girls get mad about the stupist things (yes I know men do to)  A guy that is saying what ever you want to do is usualy trying not to make a mistake.
70148
Friends love each other all the time.  I have a male friend (for 8years). Almost everytime we talk on the phone we "I love You".  I don't think you will scare him off, but I'm worried that if you say it, you might not get the same response, and that might hurt your feelings.  Don't let it though, if that's what happens.  People feel things at different times, so don't take it personally. \nExpress yourself to him.  It's better to have tried, and know, then not to try and never know.
1119853
Ugh, another teenager asking a relationship question.\n\nBoys are immature, so expect them to act that way.
414489
no way - nothing wrong with you...boys are dumb and want what they can't have. It's the battle of who cares less. If you act like you don't care, they love that...let THEM do the chasing.
37737
SOME GUYS DO IT TO GET YOU IN BED BUT OTHERS DO IT BECAUSE THEY ARE SCARED THAT THEY WILL LOSE YOU IF THEY SAY THAT THEY DON'T AND SOME ARE SCARED OF THOSE THREE LITTLE WORDS. SOME HAVE MIXED FEELINGS AND DON'T KNOW WHEATHER OR NOT THE LOVE YOU OR NOT. IT'S NOT REALLY THAT THEY DON'T KNOW IT'S JUST THAT THEY ARE CONFUSED.
103679
I think the first thing is to tell him. Boys or men, we can really be funny and unexplainable. Sometimes we, as men need to know from you how you want to be loved. Is it holding hands while walking, is it flowers weekly, tell you how beautiful you are. \nFor some of us, we really do love you, we just don't know what loving you is to you.
93131
There is something between I like you and I love you, and that is NOTHING.  My motto is if you don't feel it don't say it.  Yes, I love you are three over used words that we take for granted and don't truly realize that love is more than a word, to me love is an action.  It isn't so much what you say but what you do.
137073
Most guys try and hide thier feelings from someone they love because they don't want to feel/ make them selves look vulnerable. They are afraid of rejection just like some of us. Sometimes they are just playing hard to get and want to make you work for it. That and the whole "boys don't cry" thing that has been ingrained by society. Society had screwed up many men...
79750
I don't know why some boys act like that but it probably means he has a crush on you. It's sort of like how little kids throw temper-tandrams to get noticed.
768453
Well for me it does not matter how long you have been in a relationship when you say i love you, i think you should ONLY say it when you mean it. I think all the teens and dont Think i am some adult thinking bad of teenagers actually i am in the 8th grade so i am basically talking about my friends they toss around '' i love you'' to anyone and everyone and i dint think that is right you should only say '' i love you'' when you truly do. If you love him then just say it but go with you hart if you think it is too early or he might not ''love'' you then dont, other wise say it.
531429
Because we invest ourselves into relationships. We forget that having a relationship doesn't define us. They don't really know that the hurt goes so deep. Remember, their experience as kids is mostly with other boys.\nAlways remember to say what you want and be honest. Anyone who can't handle that is not worth your time.
188495
Love isnt something that is expressed verbally, love is something that is shown. If he buys you flowers, sticks up for you infront of his friends, goes out of his way to do something just to make your day go a little bit smoother, then yes he loves you :) If he shows you things like this then you know, he could say he loves you a billion times but untill he shows you, you wont really know, keep in mind that all guys show love in a differnt way, some buy you flowers and give you money, others call you just to tell you that your beautiful and take you out on picnics at the park, so dont rate his love on what you expect from him but on how much he tries to show you :)
1128917
I understand what you are saying to an extent. I like to say, "I love you," but I don't want it to be an automatic response, either. I don't want to say I love you, just because he said it. When I say it, I want to say it because I mean it and it doesn't have to be prompted!\n\nI don't know if that's your case or not.\n\nIf it is, just find ways of saying I love you first that are comfortable for you, such as writing notes, saying it when you wake up in the morning, or just before going to bed at night... Plan how you are going to say it, if that makes you comfortable (like the reasons you would give, if you want to say more than just I love you) or just make it spontaneous - say it before you lose the nerve!\n\nIf responding with "I love you, too," doesn't suit you - then what you need to do is find some way of saying "I love you" that makes you comfortable.\n\nBut, YES, it is important to say it, because it makes the other person feel good. If you really love him, isn't this important to you? Sure, I know what you're thinking: they should know it already, right?  Consider this: if your boyfriend thought you were beautiful, intelligent, wonderful, whatever nice thing you can think of - wouldn't it feel better to hear it than to just assume he thinks that because you are dating?\n\nLook, it's the *easiest* way in the world to make your partner happy, because it just requires you to say three little words... Think about making the effort for it.... It's not just important to him, but I think it's important to find a way of expressing your feelings, too. Maybe you could try keeping a private diary for a little while, so that you can get used to the idea of expressing your feelings? If you're just expressing it to a diary, then you can say whatever you wish - no judgments - and it's preparation for opening yourself up emotionally to a real person.\n\nI hope you find something that works for you!
519945
i know! my bf does it too. but he always says in a funny voice after i get mad " i love you" it is soooo cute and silly. he is always joking around about something with me. i dont really know why they do that but i think it is just that when he gets comfortable, he likes to play around more. like mine is always tickling me. he knows every spot. there are just a few he isnt allowed to get. yet. i get mad too. its just a guys nature to do that i think. but i can always ask too. he says that its just because they love us that they do it. they dont really mean to hurt us. at least he doesnt. but i think that is really it.