I had an arguement with my Fiance yesterday,we have made up but i really want to know if i did something wrong
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may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
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It's all a matter of trust.  Obviously if you are freaking out about this, there is something about him or about your relationship with him that is making you suspicious in this situation.  \nGetting obviously angry with him when there is no proof of wrongdoing will only make him angry and defensive in return, and nothing positive can be accomplished when that happens.  \nExpress to him (calmly) how this made you feel-- if he is at all worth your time and energy, he will totally understand how uncomfortable this must have made you, and be willing to discuss the reasons why.
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You know, I suspect you're not going to get many takers on this one.  You've got a lot of issues here that are very involved and nobody who knows what they are talking about is going to be able to give you an answer based on the "facts" you've presented here.\n\nRather than try to answer your question, let me ask you some more:\n\nWhat do you define as arguing?  Was it strictly verbal or was there any physical touching whatsoever?  \n\nWere any threats of any kind made during the argument?\n\nYou said the police saw marks on you from "making up"...which, frankly, is very suspicious to an old cop like me.  But the question is, what kind of marks?  Are you talking about a hickey or a bruise?\n\nWhen the police interviewed your husband, what did he say?  Did he perhaps admit to doing something that would have violated the law in your state?  And please - if you did not personally hear the interview between your husband and the police, you do not *know* what was said...you might know what your husband told you later, but if you didn't hear it for yourself, you don't know.\n\nDon't know if you're asking a question about the city or the state prosecuting, but if you are: not unusual for the state to prosecute a domestic violence charge, even if the victim denies it or changes their story later.\n\nIf you told the police the marks on you were from "making up", then they did take a statement from you.  Once you said that, the police may have felt that was all the statement they were going to get out of you - especially if the marks they saw were not consistent with what you said was "making up" (for example: most people don't make up by leaving bruises, swollen lips, scratches, black eyes, etc...if those are the marks you're talking about, I'm with the cops on this one).\n\nIf you had marks, the police certainly should have taken photos of them.  Some types of minor injuries don't show well in photos (especially depending on the equipment) so they may not have thought photos were worthwhile or they just simply didn't take them.  What were your "marks"?\n\nYou're asking what the odds are that he'll be found guilty based on what you say is the officer's testimony and your statement in defense of your husband.  Can't answer that one because neither you nor I have all the facts, I suspect.\n\nWhat did the neighbors say (or more importantly, do the neighbors have something to say; did they hear threats, did they hear physical violence, did they hear you say something that would suggest you were being victimized)?\n\nWhat did he say?  Maybe without meaning to, he admitted to a crime.  He wouldn't be the first person to do so...and if the cops were skillful interviewers, they may have obtained an admission or confession from him without him realizing he was doing so.\n\nWhat is the crime of domestic violence in Virginia?  You were smart to include that you're in that state because it certainly makes a difference (and unfortunately, I'm not from there).\n\nDo the police know you and your husband?  Either of you been arrested for domestic violence before?  \n\nBottom line: way too many "what-if's" for anyone to give you an educated answer to your question.  Depending on the answers to the questions I've asked, the chances of him being found guilty could be very good, or very poor.\n\nAnd finally: I've investigated domestic violence crimes for over 18 years as a police officer.  I hope everything you wrote here is absolutely true...that you were not the victim of domestic violence, and that you are as safe today as the day you were born.  I hope nobody ever lays a hand on you, threatens you, or abuses you.  However, what you've written here (and what I suspect your answers to some of my questions might be) is some of the most commonly-expressed statements I've heard from domestic violence vi
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I think that your unexplained absence at the event likely made her very upset and angry and turned her off for good.  You made her wait, you made her very anxious, and you made her lose face--essentially, you ruined the entire event for her.  That kind of behavior reflects very poorly upon you and is a good indicator of the type of man you are.  You have a right to change your mind, but out of respect for her, you should have called her beforehand to let her know.  Sorry, but I think you lost her for good.
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First of all, it takes TWO people to make a fight.  Your partner also has some responsibility for each & every fight.  I find it hard to believe that it is always & only your fault. \n\nEvery couple has issues to work out and that usually means some disagreements.  If those disagreements are always fights that make you so miserable that you are cutting to cope with the pain, BOTH of you need someone to teach you how to work out compromises & discuss issues without destroying each other.  That kind of help can be had from books, tapes, the clergy or professional counselors.\n\nYou two are preparing to marry & yet you fight everyday & the relationship puts you in great pain.  What do you think will change when you get married?  If you do nothing to improve communication & cooperation between you two, yor marriage is already headed for divorce.  Or perhaps, if there is no divorce , suicide.  \n\nThis difficulty must be worked out before you marry, for your own well being!  If he loves you, he will learn to communicated with you.  If you love him,  you will tell him how bad this fighting makes you feel. \n\nA relationship with your fiance should make you happy, not miserable.
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Do you think he is sincere and really apologetic? If so, then yes; you should forgive him and go on with your lives. I think it was messed up that he would think about cheating on you, just simply because you had a miscarage and lost a job! That was the time he was needed and you were needed to be there for each other! Talk to him and be very open. Explain how you feel and see what he says. From there, you'll know if he's sincere and ready to start over. When you do start over, don't bring up the past and bring up all the negativity when you argue in the future because that's only gonna cause problems and more conflicts! Good luck and try to get some counseling for the both of yall. It helps usually.
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If it is an established, recognized and well-accepted FACT that you guys are dating each other, and she still did THAT to you, then something is definitely wrong. One of you is NOT doing something right in the relationship. \nIn order NOT to have a shouting match that will end up with disastrous outcome, I think, as a guy, you may have to be the one to find out what is missing - by persuasion, cajoling, begging or any other method that you know yield results while you are together.  \nThen it is time to decide on two things... Forgiveness and Commitment! Decide whether you'll want to undertake any of these thing or NOT.\nIn the end, it is your mutual agreement on what to do that matters... NOT what anyone of you did unilaterally.
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Have a sit down put all the cards on the table. Key word here is honesty can't have anything without it. Good luck. Hope it works out for ya. Sorry had to rush out the other night late for work, but as i was saying you have to figure out what causes all this hostility. You said both of you have done things you weren't proud of. So that tells me there are some unresolved issues here. That could bee the root of the whole problem. Advoiding a situation because it's uncomfortable doesn't make it go away. Hope this helps
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you should never go to bed mad at each other! if you do the argument from the night before carries on into the next day because you automatically wake up in a bad mood. try to get your gf's views about the argument, give yours, and then find a compromise about the situation. if all else fails.."YES DEAR" is always a winner!! make-up sex is always the best way to end the night happily!
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Simply apologize.  Let him/her know why you are sorry.  Anyone can be sorry and not know exactly why they are.  It has to be sincere.  You have to allow them to let you know how you made them feel and not be defensive.  Own up to the mistake you made.  They will see that you really mean what you say.  If the person values your relationship...they'll look at the circumstances and may be willing to make peace with you.  This does not guarantee that your relationship will be the same.  If it does not return to the same relationship; know that you did everything you possibly could to resolve the matter.  Respect their decision.
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Sometimes it's easier pointing out our partners flaws then our own.But we all have them. Tell him that the situation opened your eyes on seeing how he felt towards it and ask him to forgive you. In the end he'll do the same even if it takes a while. Just note that every time you have an argument remember whats important like when you first met and how you would get those butterflies in you stomach and just reminisce. It really helps ease the situation and it reminds you that arguing with someone that you care that much about is stupid.
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Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
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Yes of course you did something wrong. You didn't give us the intimate details.\n\nI suggest you add more of what happened in great detail.
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I think you are both in the wrong here. He was a jerk, and you overreacted. While you do have every right to be upset here, I don't think this is as big of an issue as you are making it out to be. \n\nSit down and have yet another talk with him. Do not let your temper get the better of you. Calmly explain that you feel that what he did was an intimate act, reserved for couples. Not something to be done for a casual friend, especially since you sat there watching the whole thing. Remind him that he even admitted he wouldn't want a guy doing the same for you. After you've said how you feel, then apologize for loosing your temper like that. You wanted to express your feelings, and things got out of control.\nIf he can't see your point of view, and apologize in return, then maybe it's time he spent a few nights on the couch while you take the bed.
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You broke it....you buy it!  It is you who's supposed to apologize to him, not him to you.  He just acted defensively against you, cause I can imagine what kind of things you said to him.  \n\nYou go to him to reconcile, and he will say "sorry" to you too for hitting you back.  Just don't expect too much from him...cause is you who made the damage....not him...he just tried to cover himself.  If he doesn't forgive you...move on.\n\nNext time...watch out for what you say.
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We need more details to help you out here.  The best I can do with what I know about your situation is a general appology.  Be sincere, and don't try to explain your side of it.  If you do, this may come accross as an excuse.  If you are truely sorry for what you did then say so and never say, "I'm sorry but...".  This will make the person think you don't really mean it.  Take full responsibility for your actions and admit what you did was wrong.  Ask them to look down deep in their heart and please forgive you.  Remind them of what your relationship means to you and how important they are to you.  Finish the letter by saying over again, "I really am sorry for hurting you.  I will do what ever it takes to earn your trust and restore our relationship."\n\nGood Luck!
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i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)