Has anyone dated someone that they were'nt necessarily attracted to but then got to know them better and fell
412754
Happened to a friend of mine.  That is why it is so important to get to know someone before judging them.  Some of the handsomest guys are the nastiest people you could know...just as some of the plain ones are the best.  (Same goes for girls but we are talking guys here.  Often those that are very attractive have lousy personalities, are self-centered and think they are "all that" but are usually the worst people you can know.)\n\nGive him a chance...you might find out that, despite the fact you are not drawn to his physical appearance, he is the nicest guy you ever met.  Stranger things have happened...
741664
Since you only dated this guy for a very brief time you didn't really get to know him enough to fall in love; therefore, you created a fantastic image of this person. I'm sure your fertile imagination introduced someone incredibly irresistible and that is who you cannot forget. It's time for you to face reality and respect yourself enough to move on and expect the right person to enter your life. The past is over so please stop looking back over your shoulder because you'll never go forward until you let go of what no longer exists for you.
351730
That's been an ongoing problem that I've struggled with, but in the last month, I've realized that I like guys that are already in relationships because I subconsciously know that I'm not ready for a serious relationship. I know that's not always the case, but you might want to think about that :)
627030
I think you can be drawn to them, but honestly you can't love someone without knowing them.  You just love the idea you have of them.
1030230
Yes because I have.\n\nBut I have to like them to begin with before I consider going out with them.
69998
You want to. You have a classic case of being physically attracted to one person while being emotionally attached to another. \n\nHard to say what to do. I say stick with the current girl and see if the physical attraction comes back. It's a lot harder to find someone that you're a good emotional fit with as opposed to physical.
724676
mine is funny well i was lookig for a place to stay and he had an extra bedroom by his flat so i did move in temporary till i got another place.then he just got attractive to me we starting going out then well???????????
735945
yes. we got to know each other as friends.. didn't really share many pics. talked for fun.\n\nmet  3 mos later when he was in my state and decided what the hell and to meet for coffee. we had 5 amazing dates before he had to leave and we got to know each other even more when he left again for 3-4 mos.\n\nwe had to work our schedules around talking being on opposite sides of the world. really got to know the real other person b/c we were friends first and talked about a million things. read books and discussed them. asked questions from several dating books. had to communicate with words, written and spoken. didn't take each other for granted. \n\nwe had lived and worked just 10 minutes from each other but were too busy with our jobs to meet otherwise. we now live together and have 2 cats. we started talking may 2005. the dates when he was home was aug 2005. he came home dec 1 2005. we recently moved in together because we were really only apart for about 15 days in the last 8 months.
160095
i will admit that a physical attraction often leads to a relationship but,i have dated men of all sizes.If a mans personality turns me on i do not see him as too thick or too thin.The trick is to get someone to notice the you inside.People who cant do that tend to be shallow and are not worth your time.You will find her.Hang in there.
698665
I have many a times!\nEither the relationship gets boring as hell, or the pace of it is moving too damn slow!
103336
Let them know you are attracted to them.
1182326
How about something like you have really enjoyed getting to knowing her and hope that you two will become closer in the future?
376333
quite possibly, if all I knew of someone was their on-line personality, and even if I have an accurate picture of them, it doesn't mean that upon meeting in person that I will feel the chemistry I am looking for in someone I want to date.  Often in person it just isn't there.
572999
Yes!! I have a perfect example for you in this.\n\nI'm...let's say...scholastic. I have a bachelor's degree and I am heading to Law School next. My "type" has always, from the first time I dated, been a book-smart guy. In fact, I was so picky that I would not touch a "blue collar worker" with a 10 foot pole (as far as dating goes - not in general). I was just into dating someone with whom I could sit down and discuss books and theories, ect. (yes, I am a dork) and one of my requirements is that he had to be either working on a degree or already holding a degree.\n\nThen I met my current boyfriend. I didn't give him a chance at first - no degree, ect. ect. blah blah I'm an idiot. He's a firefighter for a living and that just wasn't my thing. However, the more I talked to him, the more I fell madly in love with him. He's perfect and treats me 10 times better than any book-smart guy I have ever known. I wouldn't trade him in for anything or anyone in the world. \n\nIf nothing else, he has opened my eyes to see that "types" are ridiculous. My new "type" thanks to him? The type that treats me well and makes me happy. Thank God for him for that!
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Its weird, but I sorta have this switch in my head that one day I look at the guy I'm with and all of a sudden, he's the most obnoxious, ugly guy I have ever seen in my life!  I think... "how did I do this?!?!"  I don't know what does it, but it happens all at once for me.  I have dated a few people where I fell out of love just as quickly as I fell in love, and I don't know why either happened!  Fortunately, I am in love now, and have no plans to fall out of love unless he does something to make it that way!!  ;)
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well it depends. nowadays, beautiful people are 'evolving', 'cause they soon realized 'brains' are needed for survival not just their beauty. \nnow back to your queston, yeah. i will try dating them. who knows if i could get a good catch afterwards? if they're not worth your time, try to tell them politely and it'll be over soon. trying won't hurt, can it? you won't lose anything with it by the way. just your time, lol!
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im not so sure its possible. i mean you could love certain qualities about that person but you dont really know them as a person. you havent ever spent time with them you havent had time to build a relationship. you might like to look at them and drool over them but i really dont think your in love with them.