My sister is living with my first love, is it normal to feel jealous eventhough I am married?
408735
Yes. It is normal and should be a rule never to date any of your sisters ex boyfriends. For that reason. Once you were ever involved with someone..that should always be yours and sisters should never tress pass onto your territory. Even though you are not involved with him any more..it is your memories not to be shared with a sister in that way. If my sister was to get with any of my ex's..that would be to uncomfortable,with good reason.
555693
wow how do you know she is jealous of you... you seem very conceited, i don't think i would be very nice to you either! um hello she could be going through some shit at home, just fucking chill out and stop asuming shit!
1038430
1) Not at all.\n\n2) Instinct.  No males in the animal kingdom will let any other male to associate with his female.  What, you're not an animal?\nOkay, so we're a little more evolved than that.  But considering that you feel deprived of her attention and time, it's a valid reason to feel slighted.   \n\n3) Tell her only about how her speaking with her ex makes you feel.  Don't say anything about how wrong she is or what a dork her ex is, and etc.  She must know how you feel inside without you or her getting defensive or judgemental.  Your feelings should not be a secret to come between you two.  You're seething and at the same time, feeling guilty for not being a man enough to tolerate her male acquaintance.  This is not a \npositive feeling to harbor alone.  Once you communicate how you feel about her talking to her ex, she will understand how valid and right you are and should stop doing what makes you ill at ease.  \n\n4) Disassociate away!  I completely agree with you.  Personally, I tear up all my ex's pictures and leave no trace of them lying about, a courtesy to my husband to spare him of thoughts you are experiencing.
554225
I know what you say.Ihave experienced such a feeling,myself:everything is ok,and you still feel unhappy.I think s.th inside you must be changed.S.th about your sprit,about what you want to get from the life.Maybe you dont get a true love from your family,or it is not in the shape you really want.But the most important thing you must know is that HAPPINESS IS S.TH WHICH MUST COME OUT FROM INSIDE.WE CAN GET JUST SOME SMALL PARTS OF IT FROM OTHERS.\nThink about your relationship with GOD.He is the only one whose rememberance can dedicate calmness to your heart.
733875
Hi.  It sounds as though you have an underlying depression.  I would say that of course you miss your finace when you are away from her but I doubt that is the underlying reason for feeling down when you are away from her.  Just wondering if you have been subtly depressed most of your life (dysthymia).  If you have true clinical depression then it wouldn't matter if you has zillions of dollars, a fantastic job, gorgeous fiance and tons of friends.  Real depression shows no mercy to anyone---no matter how great your life is and all the things that "should" make you happy.   If your body has a chemical imbalance (even a slight one) then nothing on the outside is going to take that empty feeling away.  I would definately talk to a doctor if you are not feeling good.  Doctors today treat depression regularly and are not judgemental.  I know because I have everything to be thankful for, great husband, great son, good health, nice home etc... but for some reason I sometimes have a sad empty feeling that seems to creep in out of nowhere.  That is just mother nature screwing with my physical self.  Being away from our fiance may trigger depression but it is not the underlying cause.
808324
Wow, I would be jealous also, but at the same time you knew he was already married.  Just pray on it.  You will figure out a way to keep yourself from hurting.  Ooh, I would not like it at all.  Five years is alot of time to catch up on.  All I know, if it were my husband, he would be sleeping with me the whole time....lol...lol.  And because I feel the way that I do (jealous) I would be around them at all times....Wow, girl, I feel for you.  Maybe she just wants to meet the young lady who has stolen her heart away.  His heart is with you just remember that.  He has been yours for two years.
60391
Dint you realise whom are u getting married to in the first place and if not.. now if at all you want to separate and move away from your marriage then i believe you must be having a strong feeling of hatred towards her... if you do then why are you bothered about her mind and her not agreeing about things... just consult a lawyer and get your way cleared...\nBUT... if you are worried and bothered about her mental state then somewhere you still feel for her... get those feelings ahead and try to give yourself a second chance...\n\nRemember LIFE is NOT about quiting the tough tasks in your path... go around ... fight them .... Make situations turn ... Life then would be worth living...\n\nAlso dont forget...Once a looser always a looser... Be a fighter.. After all she's your wife and who would know more about her than you do... Tackle her in her own way...Humans do change... \n\nAnd moreover for a Wife, her Husbands love can definitely do the magic...
720270
ok, if you have to ask then you already know. NO IT"S NOT RIGHT!!!! Ugh, you are destroying your own family out of selfishness. Women like you are called house-breakers. Ever heard of that? Your husband obviously loves you, he married you!! It's clear that the feeling isn't mutual though. You are causing so many problems for yourself and you don't even know it. I feel sorry for your husband...he deserves better and you deserve a reality check. Wake up....you're wrong!
1088401
Oh HON,\nPlease don`t feel like that. I bet it would break her heart if she knew you felt like this. Please.. SHE loves YOU, Isn`t that enough?? She chose you. She could have chosen anybody else but, SHE CHOSE YOU. Don`t dishonor that by feeling this way. Hold your head up and be proud.. Don`t worry about other folks. \n\nDO they pay your house payment?\nDo they feed you all?\nDo they take care of you?\nAre they there when you need someone?\n\nDon`t worry about other people and what they think.. Just enjoy your life with your wife and count your blessings.. Be happy and don`t worry about this stuff..\n\nGood Luck and God Bless..{:-)\n\n<><
683283
He might be right but only you will know how you truly feel about it. It's possible to love and care for someone and not be able to live with them or have a relationship where both people are really happy and neither is suffering to make the other happy. \nPeople aren't right or wrong for eachother, it is what you make it. It's normal to miss someone you love but not be able to tolerate them. \nEver have your bestfriend stay at your house for a week or two? It's the same concept. Just because you miss him doesn't mean your decision to leave was wrong, you tried to get back together and things still were not right. Now you feel the same way again but even your husband see's how this won't work. It could be he is just that disheartened after all the ups and downs but unless he outright says that then what he says is really how he feels and you two finally agree on something. I say you should stay apart till you can think outside of your emotions. You can still talk and it's not like one of you has died although I know there is a feeling of loss. Remember that nothing undoes your past together the good times or bad. If you decide you want this to work, really want it. then be grateful that you have him and remember how miserable you are when he's gone and keep that in mind when your thinking about digging a shallow unmarked grave for him in the backyard after a disagreement. I'm joking but the point stands. I would think if he is willing to make another attempt that this really will be the last try and you have to make it count. So it all comes down to you and your willingness to live with him when you take into account everything that IS him. he's not just the things you miss. Again I'm not pushing toward divorce just to think this through logically.
497662
It's natural to feel jealous in a case like you described.....\n\nThink about the reason(s) you refused him in the first place. In time you'll get over it.\n\nBut it sounds like the guy is just looking to have himself a quick meal.....if U know what I mean.
104744
no..it feels horrible...coz once u realize the one of them loves you with all thier life...its shameful to think that you're treating him/her wrong and they could be the one person in this world that would love you more than anything...
1063000
You know, it is funny that you mention this because a friend of mine was telling me the same thing the other day.  I think in her case that it was just a really strong attraction, which really isn't a big thing.  You just cannot act of those feelings being married as you are.  It is normal to find other people attractive and think that they are awesome to be around.  You are married, sweetie, not dead!
700108
Actually, you are both right.  She is right when she says that she feels hurt because you two are not close.  Who are you to deny her what she feels to be true?  Feelings are not based on facts and truths of historical circumstances.   They are feelings.  Don't look to deny others their feelings.  You are right, too, when you state that you have a different life or different lifestyle than your sister.  You are two different individuals so naturally you will do things differently, and with differences conflict is inevitable.  You can resolve whatever conflict exists between you and your sister by talking to her more often.  Communication doesn't by itself solve all the problems of the world but it certainly smooths out the bumps in the road.
1182354
you can be jealous of a friend just like you can of a loved one\njust because he is spending time with another , and this makes you feel left out doesnt mean that you are in love with him
292314
You don`t do it..If you are a jealous person then you don`t need to do it..If you did then you will have nothing but trouble with your marriage because after you did it you won`t beable to trust your only love one because you made a stupid choice..Then you lost your only love..
385469
Are you officially married?  Do you love the person your with? Were your guests your close friends and family?  If yes, then most likely, the guests were just happy to be there to share such a joyous event.  What the event looked like, or actually cost, or what the service was like, means nothing compared to the joy, happiness, friendship, and company that's shared on a wedding day.  If you still feel upset about the reception, invite some of your closest friends/relatives, and throw a backyard bbq or small dinner.  That way, you can share some special time with the people you care about without having to worry about everything working out perfectly.\n\nCongratulations! Best of luck with your new marriage!