How can I make my lazy boyfriend get a job?
400964
you might hafta lay down the law...and just be direct..tell him to either get a job or get lost...no beating around the bush.
822205
As long as he gets free room and board from you, he has no motivation to get a job.  You must take a hard-line stance against this.  Tell him he has 30 days to shape up and get a full time job, or throw him out.  Get your friends and loved ones to help you.
139132
it isn't your boyfriend's fault that you are unmotivated and he shouldn't be expected to entertain you all the time. You need to get a job. Most people meet friends outside of the home, which is where you stand a better chance of meeting them too. If you have agoraphobia (fear of going out into public) then you should get some help with it.
67100
I'm not clear about whether it's your husband or your child you want help from, but either way...Make specific requests....don't say "The dishes need to be washed" say to him "I need for you to do the dishes today" \nInstead of "It's trash day tomorow" say "You should put out the trash tonight"\n\nAs for the whole "won't get a job" thing...give the kid a deadline..."You have to either get a job and begin to support yourself by March 15, or find another place to live" and stick to it. Encourage the kid to sign up with the local job service or enroll in a training program, and close your wallet! Don't give anymore cash unless some specific agreement is made that the kid will do something to earn it...beyond being a responsible member of the household... something big, like cleaning the garage or attic not just doing dishes.
295077
Seems to me a lot of people are making assumptions that you are lazy. Sorry for the ignorance of many. My assumption is that you are looking for a mate and do not have enough money for dating. Hope that is what it is. Try asking her out for coffee that is simple and inexpensive and then maybe you can go for a walk in the park or something. I met my man, 19 years ago and shortly after he left his job, certainly wasn't lazy, but he couldn't afford much, but you know what after all these years we still haven't got a great deal of money but we are still together. Take a shot at it, not all women are so shallow that they can't see a good man even if he has no money. I wish you the best.
1139113
Find another guy who isnt lazy, rude and works for his money to make things easier for you.
353744
I'm of the opinion that you can't "get" anyone to do anything.  They have to decide they *want* to do it.  You need to have a serious talk with him if his lack of employment is starting to jeopardize your financial future and try to come up with a solution together (as a team). Starting off conversations that are as sensitive as money are hard and need to be done when both people are calm and make sure no guilt or blame or agression is used.  This is a situation that you are both in so it's something you can work on together.  If he's not willing to communicate with you, then I would suggest professional counceling.  These are the types of situations that can tear a marriage apart.  Good luck.
452679
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.
564949
You can't make him do anything.  If he *wants* to give you that something, he will.   \n\nYou need to show him you deserve that something.  You need to earn it.
634988
As your brother....get a job
1093820
Well, it's hard to help out a guy who doesn't give many details.\n\nIf you're tired of working for other people, then you'll have to do some old fashioned saving, or if your credit is good, ask for a loan from a bank.\n\nStart your own business, like a: I'll sell your stuff on Ebay for you type of thing.\n\nOr if you're lazy, try to hurt yourself and get on Social Security for disability, but they're really stingy right now, so chances are you'd get really hurt and then no one would want to hire you and no one would pay you.
797437
make him take you ought ot a nice rest. in town and order a big meal then dump him.....that way youre fool and done with him...im a guy and he is a turd
199383
I'd give him an ultimatum, say one month, to change his ways. Tell him if he hasn't found a job in that time, you will leave him. And if he hasn't, do it.
751001
why did u marry him?he sounds like a bum u could prob do a better job on your own without him what sort of example is he setting your kids i could maybe understand if he was at college part time but to be that lazy i mean ask yourself is it gonna get better or worse?does he care about the stress this situation is causing you in your condition way up the pros and cons of being with him and where u see yourself in the future and if he cant or wont step up u might think about shipping him out good luck
192525
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
1038719
Leave a little card in his coat pocket or brief case.  Somewhere so when he is at work, he will find it.  Offer to help him clean his house or do yard work.  Offer to join him when he goes to do whatever it is he does as a hobby.  Try to make an effort for your lives to collide more often.  The way I show my boyfriend is by being there for him emotionally when he needs it.  I don't live with him either, but I love to sneak cards in his lunch before he heads off to work.  That way he knows I am thinking about him even when I'm not near him.  I really think if you just find little things to do, he will notice them.
531307
How broke is broke? Something made by you is always great. Try making a birthday cake in the shape of a heart...bake the cake then cut it out. \n   Dig out the paper and color pencils and make your own coupon book; Good For One Hour Long Backrub, Good For One Home Cooked Meal By Me, Good For One Day We Do Anything You Want To..ect. \n   Make a plack out of salt dough then paint it; put his name on it, write your favorite poem on it, decorate it any way you want. *Look up salt dough on www.google.com\n   Catch him while he's at work/school on his birthday then go in and clean his place for him. \n\n  What ever you end up doing I'm sure he'll love it! Good luck!