I'm in a bad situation..Please help, I'm very confused..?
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Life is confusing at 14. It's confusing at a lot of other ages too. Just look at all of the different answers you have and you will see what I mean. Here's my best advice.\n\nWrite your friend who moved and tell him that when you told him that you loved him it was true, but your love for him is a friend's love, not a romantic love. Tell him that his friendship is important and that you love having him as a friend, but the romance is not there for you. \n\nFind some ways to be around the new shy guy. It's ok to be shy at 14 - for guys and girls. If you get into some of the same activities you will have some chances to find out if there is a spark between you. Be patient. If you are both shy it may take some time. At 14, it's ok to use friends to pass along the message that you might be interested in getting to know him better. That can work pretty well sometimes.\n\nI like that it matters to you how your friend feels and that you are honest about your fears and feelings. That makes you a lot more special than some of the people who have answered you. I hope it goes great for you and that this works out just perfect for you. Good luck.
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Pray to God for help and guidance. In this situation, because there is obviously nothing you can really do, put it in God's hands. I'll be praying for you!! I hope this helps. :)
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Dear Fallen,\n\nThe first thing to do is get out if that is what YOU truly want.  You shouldn't run off with the first thing that comes along either.  No man is going to make you happy until you can first be happy with yourself, on your own (I know that sounds difficult especially if you have always been with someone).  You will never be truly happy with someone if are not happy with yourself.  Move or get out but not because you met some guy you barley know, this could end up being worse especially if this man is married and or conflicted.  Do what is best for yourself and your children, that should be first and foremost! Do this and continue to speek and meet this man if it is safe after you have a better situation for yourself.  Maybe a True love will grow and not just the idea of better life/love because this man seems better than the one you have.  You may find this guy isn't that great or that he is great but, take time to really find this out.  Get yourself where you want be happy and healthy, and then you might find that there is even a better man out there.  If you have fear of violence from your current man, get help! Call the police if you are going to move out and tell them your concerns before hand and they will probably send out an officer to assist you.  If that is not an option you want to explore there are many groups that can assist women in that situation.  The main thing is to protect yourself, get a brother or other male family member that can help you move or help protect you.  There is no shame in telling family, friends or people who are willing to help that you have problems and need help.  The shame would be in not getting that help and bettering your life.  Weigh your options and make the best decision for yourself and children, just understand all that is involved and what, if any long term concerns could/can develop.  Good luck and God bless.\n\nThe Good Man
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I am sorry that you are going thur a bad time. And I know there are some places that will help you. However you waited until the last minute to try and find help and these people usually take longer than a few days to help someone. But don't be discouraged. Still go and try and find help. Maybe you could pawn some things to pay the bill. Water bill are usually not that expensive. Or ask a friend or neighbor for help. Keep your head up! Good luck to you and your children. \nPS. And for the people who are leaving nasty replies. Stop it! You don't know this woman's situation. She may have been married and her husband died and she is left to take care of their children all by herself. Or she could have been laid off or fired! Or even if she did have four children with no job or husband she didn't give her children away. She is still trying to take care of them. Never be so quick to judge. You never know what the Lord has in store for you.
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You need to rewrite this and give some details if you want actual answers.  Right now this is not clear at all.\n\nWhat happened to you?  \n\nGoing to a manager though is usually a good start.  I don't know what happened to you, so I can't tell you what you should do.
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Dont wory everything happens for a reason, it may take a little bit of time, but you will find positive in the situation. And as far as losing your mind. You know you gotta go a little loco to stay sane that is the only way it works.\ndustinamoody@yahoo.com   if u need 2 talk ever.
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I'm sorry you have to go through this. Thats a hard desition. I would probably pray. Thats all I can tell you
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Ugh...what a mess. Look, no one is perfect and there are a ton of people on here who will tell you what a bad person you are because of this scenario. First and foremost, please remember no one has the right to judge you. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone hurts people...nobody is above this. Please don't listen to all the horrible words posted here. It doesn't make you a "bad" person...but you are troubled and confused and this situation is only going to lead to so much hurt and pain for so many people, especially the kids. I hate to say this, but most likely he will stay with his wife. I know you love him and can't imagine a life without him, but you have to right now. You're both obviously in marriages that aren't working. This is where you need to focus your efforts right now. If you're so in love with him wouldn't you want him fully devoted to you? I thought so. And if he truly loves you, then he'll want to be with YOU and only you. For your own health, well-being and safety, stay away from this right now. If there's any hope for the two of you, it will be later on when all the issues have been dealt with and all the pain has healed. I wish you all the best.
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Sorry to hear about your current situation. :( \n\nThe first thing I would do is figure out what city/town/state services are available to you. There is a lot of assistance with housing/food/child care/employment/legal fees/ECT. Your state government must have public welfare/need offices around the area. I would just go in, explain your situation and apply for aid. This is what welfare is supposed to be for, someone who is in immediate need of financial help for a temporary time. They also assist you in going to college if you are interested in that. \nI think you are very courageous to leave him. You only live once, so might as well be happy. Not staying with a person addicted to gambling, drinking, and spending money. Good luck. Feel free to email if you have any questions. \n:)
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Get busy girlfriend!!!  I am talking get involved in anything. Turn your negative energy to positive.  Suicide is not the answer.  You were put here for a reason.  Without you, your task cannot be completed and that could involve affecting a lot of people you have not even met yet.  Counseling should be an option if you are really serious about wanting help.  I have lost family to suicide and its so painful for the ones you leave behind.  I can't help my brother who left this world in 2001, but if I had a second chance this is what I would tell him.  "I know it seems you were dealt a bad hand in life.  But "we" can get threw this, together.  Let me help you, you are not alone.  I know you think leaving this world is the answer and the people around you would be better off.  That is so far from how it is.  You have a very important role here and you can't leave yet.  We love you and care about you more than we tell you and for that we are wrong.  Leaving is only permitting the ones you love to cop out when things get bad with them.  Please don't leave that message for your family or friends.  Lean on me and never, ever give up."
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Call 911 and get help.  If you are so bad off that, you are doing those things to yourself, the odds of you pulling yourself out of it are quite remote, but the help out there for you these days is just awesome.  \n\nIf you are in a situation that you have no health benefits that will pay for this kind of medical care, go out and find a job that has them, even if it means taking a step back financially, in the long-run you will be much better off financially as well as mentally.\n\nJohn B.
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you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
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Tell him you're confused and ask him what he wants. I'm actually in a similar situation right now.
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Get out while you can. Seriously. It's bad enough, what are you waiting for? You need to live a happy life. Get away soon.
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PLEASE GO SEEK SOME HELP/COUNSELING FROM SOMEONE. YOU REALLY NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST, SOMEONE YOU LOVE, A FAMILY MEMBER, A DOCTOR, A FRIEND, A TEACHER, A PRIEST/RABBI, A COUNSELOR, THERE HAS TO BE SOMEONE THAT CAN GIVE YOU POSITIVE GUIDANCE. PRAY TO GOD, HE HAS ALWAYS HELPED ME THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS IN MY LIFE, BUT PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE SO YOUNG AND HAVE A WHOLE BEAUTIFUL LIFE AHEAD OF YOU,I DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU ARE MAD AT TIMES, BUT PLEASE WORK ON GETTING SOMEONE OR A FEW PEOPLE TO HELP YOU, I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THIS BEAUTIFUL LIFE GOD GAVE YOU. I HOPE TO HEAR BETTER AND MORE POSITVE NEWS FROM YOU. ALL THE BEST TO YOU! :)
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hey, \nOnce a man has made up his mind it's over. Also, it sounds like he is getting what he wants and more from this other girlfriend of his. Besides he left you before you went to the hospital! Doesn't that say something! You deserve someone so much better. She may not even love him. but when something happens like; she doesn't give him everything he wants. He will leave and come crawling back. There really isn't anything you can do. I have had this same experience. Not as bad, but I know how you are feeling. AS soon as you come to accept it, it gets better.
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pretty big mess!!!!,\nBut there is nothing talking can help.............\nJust call him, talk to Him, It'll solve a lot Of problems..............\nBest of luck :-)