What can u say about black husbands who love their former grown up children and people more than his new wife.
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In reading your story it sounds like you have more issues than just your husband maintaining relationships with his grown kids.  Your husband and most men AND women (its not a black thing) will not sever relationships with their kids just because they remarry.  You should never expect that.  Once you have children of your own and they're grown...you'll understand.\n\nHowever, you have other issues, first is he planning a future for the two of you?  From what you've written, it would appear that this is not so.  Second, did you not know, before your union that your husband expected you to be a financial contributor to the marriage?  Again, it would appear that you're finding these things out "after" the marriage which brings me to my next question, "Was this a marriage of love and were these things discussed "before" the wedding?"\n\nI noticed the twenty-year age discrepancy between the two of you.  Age means nothing if you're in love.  But the key here is "if" the two of you used "love" for marriage and not some other reason.  Only "you" know the answer to that.  Bottom-line: it sounds like he 'doesn't' love you.  If he doesn't, you need to ask yourself if you can live under his "conditions."  If you can, GREAT, if not, you need to make plans for moving-on and finding a man who will love, respect, and give you the family that you desire.
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i believe that people can love many people and even at the same time, just because he has a family with her doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, but sometimes love just isn't enough.
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Where are you getting you information to be sure that this is true? Unless you interviewed and surveyed each and every Black man, White man,  and women of all races on that subject and got those answers that you are posting,  you are just generalizing what you see around you not actual fact. I live in New York and see quite the opposite of what you have seen. I have seen people all of different races going out with and married to Black men. I have a friend who name is Arthur that is married to a Japanese woman and a friend who passed recently, that was married to a Chinese woman and they have a son together. As far as Black men and Hispanic/ Latin women, I have seen plenty of my Black male friends married or  engaged to Latinas that  they have children with. I am wondering what area do you live at because where I live, it is really diverse and that is my truth.
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As long as your new husband is not abusing the kids, everything should be fine.  Just give the kids some time to get to know him.\nMom of B & D
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Just because you get married does not necessarily mean you love your parents less.  The way you love your husband is obviously different from the way you love your parents.  You should love them equally.  Different, but equal.
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you idiot what do you really mean. do u mean interacial or do you in the family well either way its nasty im mean really who wants to marry anyone that is black and who wants to marry their family
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OK I am confused you say they fantasize about us 24/7 and then you say your husband dates black women are you a man married to a man or a woman married to a woman? OK it's not a matter of white women being attracted to black men it's juts today people find mates without looking at the race before many just didn't look outside their race as it was taboo. I started dating black males when i was 17 and am now 49 and have never changed. black men to me are more sensitive to a woman's emotions and needs. now it may be hard for me to judge as i never really dated white guys except when a teen but my dad and  uncles etc are all white and most of them were abusive now I'm not saying black males aren't abusive either but from past experience I would never date a white man. Of course my husband is black and we've been together except for a few years of separation for 28 years so I am not looking for anyone period. you find love where ever it is and race should never be a factor I personally just have never been attracted to white males since i started dating black men by the way they are all built the same some have large penises and some just average but they sure know how to take their time to please their woman
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Black  that is her married name.
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Because they love him than they themselves
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many wives like better with other men
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Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
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Blacks are not immigrants.......if you were born and raised in the US, you are not an immigrant. Yes our black heritage traces back to Africa but I am not an immigrant. Your whole idea of the black race is screwed up because maybe you watch too much TV, or you applied your few bad run ins with blacks to the entire race which is wrong. Its crazy that your husband is black and you want to change him, in essence you want to strip him of his heritage and want him to embrace what you feel, he say the things he says because he has been a black man all his life in which thats all he know, you can't say anything about him or how he feels towards whites until you lived in a black mans shoes or a black womans shoes for that matter. Your whole stereotype of blacks is crazy. I am black and well educated. If you feel so strongly about the miseducation of the black people why don't you reach out and try to help rather than put us down!! Then the whole religious aspect you are trying to imply is a whole different story and I do not want to get started on that with you because I am a God fearing woman myself..........BE BLESSED!!
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Yes, he SHOULD love you more than he does the kids, but very seldom does that happen. In my case, I definitely loved my kids more than I loved her, and we ended up divorced after 25 years. If I had loved her more than the kids , it might have ended up differently. If I had it to do over however, I think I would still love the kids more......they're MY flesh and blood!
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I LOVE BLACK PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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man prefer his family over any other relations
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When they are grown and married.
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If two people can find each other and connect, that's what really matters.  I always tell my kids, I'd rather have them be with someone of a different race they love that loves them and treats them well, than someone of the same race that doesn't.  Love doesn't know color.