Someone Told Me To Get A Boyfriend, If I Took Her Advice By Heart, Would I Be Committing Under Adultery Sin?
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I would seriously question if she is indeed your FRIEND at all.\n\nFriends do not advise us to do things that would be hurtful to ourselves or to our families.\n\nAs to would it be adultery YES it would being with someone other than your Husband is cheating.\n\nYou need to take a closer look at this so called friend.
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Our culture predetermines that coveting and lusting with the eyes is simply unavoidable. The issue here is what are your intentions toward this person..if you feel a love and commitment that is headed for a lifetime spent together then in effect you are lusting after your own wife. If you see her not as a sex object but as a person worthy of respect as well as the admiration for her feminine beauty then you are simply doing what comes natural. Have you ever read Song of Solomon? Yeah...desiring your partner is not sinful..however, there is something to be said for modest dress and staying in appropriate venues while spending time together. Even for young unmarried christian couples the temptation is there. Right now everything is geared toward weakening your defenses...girls going around barely dressed letting all their business hang out everywhere, access so easy to porn, condoms and birth control, privacy..both in the parents home and set up as a young adult in dorms and apartments, not to mention the pervasive message that sex and love are synonymous when actually they have nothing to do with each other in the long run. Being single and a christian in this American culture is torture at times...just keep praying, talk to her and confess how you feel, if needs be set up perameters and ask her to dress modestly for your sake...or heck..the best bet is..if you guys are of age...GET MARRIED! What ya waiting for? If you are too young to be marriage minded and are not ready for a commitment..then you shouldn't be dating...that's my opinion though and who am I but a frumpy house frau. God bless you though..cuz you do care and you want to do what's right..just pray, stay in the Word of God and you'll be fine. Love in Christ, ~J~  <><  P.S. Jesus was speaking about adultry...lusting with your eyes for someone else other than the person you are "MARRIED" to...however, if you are lusting after your girlfriend and all 10 of her friends plus and also every other female that crosses your line of vision..well, then..perhaps this verse does apply to you. Catch yourself and get in the habit of stopping cold those thoughts...it can be done..this is called self disapline.
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I, for one, work with my family daily to not say this as well as other things that sound similar to things relating to Jesus.  But I want to say also that I chose not to call someone else something that I could be as well.  Think about it, has any one of us, even the best of us, ever been able to completely follow the 10 commandments at all?  The Bible states to even look at someone in a lustful way is the same as committing adultery.  I would never commit adultery but who is to say that when I was a teenager and looked at the boys I went to school with I did not think that way unknowingly.  You understand I hope.  I will never call someone a hypocrite, I want to love the sinner and hate the sin and leave everything up to God =)  Best wishes and Happy Resurrection Day!!!
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Jesus says that whoever wants to be greatest, let them be a servant. In God's kingdom, the first to be the servant--wins. Women do not realize that they have the most awesome position available to them, and that is to server the one they love. This is God's type, His model of Christ and the church. Do you love Jesus? I know that you do. Treat your boyfriend like you would treat Christ. Carry that on into marriage, and you will already be halfway home.\nTo the boyfriend I have this to say. Love your potential mate as Christ loves the church. Be a strong leader, and by leader I do not mean lording over the potential mate. Rather, a Godly leader who is constantly finding new ways of drawing both of you closer to the Lord. This is your leadership role, and it is the true mark of a man. Keep her pure until you are married. This is your leadership responsibility as well. Stay sober and draw close to God and talk of Him always. Read the Bible together and pray.
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In reference to your reply to the question I posted,  it doesn't surprise me at all that a guy would cheat on you based on your attitude alone.  As you said in another one of your posts, "Be polite..."  Why don't you try exercising that advice.
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You're conscience is already telling you that it is wrong to engage in premarital sex.  If you are a Christian, that is God's way of giving you a strong warning.  It may be that your emotions are strong, but obviously, you have already been pushing the envelope a bit and getting a little deeper involved in the touching, etc. and you are getting close to the point of no return.  You may need to try to back off from what you are now doing with your b/f and make sure you will not be put into the 'moment'.  Your will may be strong, but it is not going to help you if you keep putting yourself in such a strong temptation situation!  What will happen, is you will eventually get so far along that you will say, 'what the hell!' and just go all the way.  I know, I thought I had a strong will.  I opened up a whole trove of problems with that one what the hell.  It will probably destroy your self will.  I got involved in drugs and other stuff as a result.  I opened the door a crack and the devil kicked the door right down.  You will do what you want to do...it will be your choice.  You do not put a gun to your head with 5 loaded barrels and say, I am lucky, and fire.  It is a dangerous game you're playing and one day you will get burned.  I hope you can hold to your values and truly be able to back off now, before it goes too far.  Blessings.
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Is it right, might be reworded as, "is it a sin".  The short answer is yes.  However, let me clerify the christian viewpoint on sin.  All People sin.(Romans 3:23).  Sin has a penalty(Romans 6:23) God sent his son to pay the penalty of our sin (Romans 5:8). If your heart is right, God forgives your sin, through the death of his son (Romans 10:9).  Now to the fun stuff.  Jesus died for all your sins, even the ones you'll do in the future.  If that were not true, he would need to come back and pay for them again.  So all your sin has already been covered.  All your responsable for right now is to grow as a christian (1 Corinthians 3:2 & Hebrews 5:12).  If you are a christian asking this kind of question, then God will reveal your answer through his word. until that time it is a sin what you are doing, but that doesn't stop God from loving you, or prevent you from getting into heaven.  As you grow in other ways, God will deal with your 'self love' too.\n\nIMHO
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Know the definition of lust according to the Bible .... if you know that in your heart you would have sex with the woman you are looking at, if she walked up and asked you for sex, would you do it?  Then you've already committed lust in your heart.\n\nJesus said that if you've committed it in your heart then you've already sinned.  So if you look at a woman and see enough material to go have a good time alone by yourself, but would never cheat on your wife, then you are okay.  If you look at a woman and yes, you'd have intercourse with her, then sorry guy, but you've ALREADY done wrong.\n\nMost folks don't understand that to admire someone's looks is okay, and to feel sexually aroused at someone's looks is okay as well .... what is NOT okay is to know in your heart that if the moment of cheating came, you'd do it.
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My opinion about your situation is...\n\nIN God's eyes you are already married by virtue of having fornicated.  Thus, if you  make it legal by civil marriage, then in the eyes of God, technically you are fine.\n\nYou have already asked forgiveness, and God does forgive.\n\nIf you saved yourself for your boyfriend, and you have been with no other person, and in love you have fornicated, as you say, then you ARE married, by God's definition.\n\nNow, in the eyes of the "law" you are not married, but that can be solved once you give yourselves to eachother legally on paper.\n\nOf course, I don't know your age, and this advice is given with the understanding that you are of age.  Else, I would advise against such activity, until you are an adult.\n\nOf course, you already feel guilty and are giving in to his desires.  Yours may not be as strong, or might be once the guilt is removed by virtue of marriage.  ON the other hand , he should respect your wishes to be chaste, until you are married.  That will truly determine his love for you. This is a hard thing, because you love him, and the unknown is whether he would wait and also be faithful in the process.  \n\nI hope it works out for you..
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Mathew 5:27-28 "You have heard it said that you shall not commit adultery BUT I say to you that everyone who looks on a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart". So much for pornography.\nSex for pleasure (outside marriage) I Corinthians 6:9 "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God.  Do NOT be deceived, neither fornicators, nor idolators, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, .....  will inherit the kingdom of God".   So much for fun sex.
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I'm going to take a guess here since I can't be sure what a buch of ***'s refer to. Here are the precepts that can be gleaned from the Bible regarding sexual practices between married couples.\n\n\nIs Oral Sex A Sin - What Does the Bible Say?\nCouples often ask, "Is oral sex a sin?" The best place to look for answers is in the Bible. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." The first point the Bible makes very clear is that sex - all types - is designed specifically for married couples. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex. \n\nThe Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider. \n\n\n\nMutual Consent - 1 Corinthians 7:5 says, "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." This verse indicates that each sexual activity should be mutually agreed upon. \n\n\nAdultery is Sin - The Bible is very clear that any form of adultery is sin, even if both people in a marriage relationship agree to it. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God." Adultery also includes "swapping" or adding sexual partners. \n\nViewing Pornography is a Sin - Matthew 5:28 is very clear. "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Pornography viewed alone or together as a couple is sin. 1 John 2:16 says, "For everything in the world - the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does - comes not from the Father but from the world."\n\nIs Oral Sex A Sin - Practical Application\nWhen answering the question "Is oral sex a sin," it is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love for married couples. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a "beautiful expression of love," then changes need to be made in that couple's sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that oral sex is a sin, however it may not be appropriate for every couple. \n\nIs Oral Sex A Sin - Questions to Consider\nConsider these questions when answering the question "Is oral sex a sin?"\n\nIs oral sex voluntary and have both the husband and wife agreed to it?\n\n\nWhy do you want oral sex? Is it for pure sexual pleasure or is it to fulfill a sexual fantasy derived from porn?\n\n\nHave you or your spouse been convicted by the Holy Spirit that oral sex is wrong?\n\n\nDoes oral sex edify and fulfill both you and your spouse?\nWhile answering these questions, pray for guidance from God. He will reveal the answer to you - for your relationship. \n\nhttp://www.allaboutgod.com/is-oral-sex-a-sin.htm
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Not to discredit anyone, but luv_2sing06 is so wrong. Nowhere in the 10 commandments does it state ANYTHING about premarital sex.The closes it comes is "Thou shall not commit adultery". In fact, if it is so wrong in the eyes of God, why did Jesus hang out with prostitutes, thieves, killers, and tax collectors? In fact there is a story (John 4:4-26)in which a woman is talking to Jesus and she tells him that she is not married, and he replies that she has been married 5 times and is living with a guy. BUT NOT ONCE does he say anything about it being wrong. Also in John 8:1-11, Jesus says "Let the one without sin cast the first stone."\nNo sin is greater than another.
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No, it's not a sin. In the Lord's prayer, "Give us this day our daily bread." which means "Give me food."\n\nIt's not a sin to ask for a guy as long as you don't an him sexually and for no other purpose. The bible speaks of how it's good to marry.\n\nI'm not an expect at this, though. I recommend asking your priest or pastor. But that's my two cents on it.
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Yes, it is called fornication. You can fornicate with yourself, which is sin against yourself. Corinthians teaches that it is better to marry than to burn with passion. \n1 Corinthians 7:9\nBut if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.\n\nI Thessalonians 4:3-5:\n"For God wants you to be holy and pure and to keep clear of all sexual sin so that each of you will marry in holiness and honor--not in lustful passion as the heathen do, in their ignorance of God and his ways."\n\nMatt 5:28\nI tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.\n\nImpure thoughts can lead to impure acts such as mast***ation. Having lustful thoughts is a sin. \n\nPhilippians 4:8 says that we are supposed to think about good, truthful things. Lust is not good and imagining sex in your mind is not a truth. \n\nPhil 4:8 \nFinally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are PURE, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
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No.\nJesus kept himself for the Lord. Paul writes on the topic of marriage to one of Corinthians; (1 Corinthians 7:1-7:3) "It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband." NKJV. This doesnt mean it is a sin to get married or have relationships it just means that because of our inadaquance and temptation, we are given the opposite sex to relieve temptation. See also 1 Corinthians 7:6-7. " But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that." Paul was single. He realized the gift that is to be able to serve God with your entire self. But marriage alike is also a gift of God. Paul recognized the gifts of celibacy and marriage. Jesus being the Son of the Living God served our Lord with his whole self. It would not be in the character of our Savior to tie himself up with a woman to suit his own carnal needs. He was able to overcome sexual temptation.\n\nAs far as "what-could-have-beens"... You cant conjure up hypothetical alternate outcomes for our Lord and Savior. He didnt become who He is by accident. It was destiny. God sent him to accomplish a purpose knowing the future already. He didnt send Him down here and cross his fingers hoping he didnt screw up.\n\n***\n\nThis is the same answer I gave last time someone asked this question.\n\n***************\n\nJust because it was in the Hebrew religion doesnt mean it was God ordained. The pharisees had all kinds of weird rules they came up with to make themselves more holy. For example: if a chicken laid an egg on the Sabbath you could eat the egg but you had to put the chicken to death for laboring on the Sabbath....
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OK let's think about this... a man you were with for six years left you because you were in school trying to educate yourself and have a better future. Instead of supporting you while you were in school he chose to forget all about the six years you were together and get with someone who got him off more often. You mentioned before that you are a Christian so I am assuming you know what the Bible says about adultery and sinful lust so we won't get into that. But I think you're a smart girl so just ask yourself... do you really want to settle down with someone who compares his women to illegal drugs? Women are queens and should ALWAYS be treated as such. You need a King beside you... not someone like the man you described. If he is not willing to stay by you through school how would he handle you having a job, or children, or other things that require your attention. This guy does not even seem worth a second thought. Don't sell yourself short. And I know it sounds cliche but if he did it before, he'll do it again. He didn't make a mistake... he knew what he was doing and he thinks he can just keep you dangling but you're worth so much more than any lie he could ever tell you. It's good to forgive but you don't need someone like that holding you back.
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well, whatcha gettin at? ya got a problem in that department? lookin' for advice from us brilliant people? well i am a sinner! a real naughty sinner and i wouldn't be the best person to turn to for advice unless you are trying to get 'permission' to be naughty too...then you came to the right person...(lmfao) so meet ya in the vault and we will discuss your plan of action to overtake the married guy? k? oh and to answer your question...i like unmarried guys...less complicated that way...