what happens when 'just friends' turns to 'friends with benefits'?
405954
allthough it doesnt work for everyone maybe you should try it sounds like you really like each other so you should just be carfull and try to have fun
407420
I have had this happen. It is a disastrous feeling when you do all you can and the imposible to get to a person's heart and get the dissapointing mention of "just friends". Sometimes that friendship is lost sometimes it is made better. The final point is that people shouldn't do that and stop being so shallow. Everybody diserves a chance.
492875
Its harder to go from lovers to friends because of the intimacy. You now KNOW that person and their body, whereas the opposite, you just know their personality and dream of their body.LOL
266582
I believe that it depends on the nature of the attraction. I mean if there is a strong emotional attachment there  it can be figured as a friendship because friends do hold a strong bond to one another, however if there is indeed a sexual attraction that is something all together different because then the sexual tension would be uncontrollable and you would end up as "friends with benefits" or girlfriend/boyfriend
109697
Why not be totally honest and tell them you want friendship only?  No sex.
221638
you will have alot of bf's you only get \na very limited number of "best friends"\n\nguys have a saying\n"bros b4 hos"\ni would imagine the reverse is also true\nmaybe\n"buds b4 studs"?\n\nPS if they are willing to \ngive up what they already have.\ndont you think that they might\ndo the same to you when they\nhave already gotten you?
966653
First you need to figure out why no female seems to be interested in going out with you? Are you only asking a certain type of female, are you being open minded? Friends with benefits can be good but you have to be careful occassionally, one of you starts to let the heart take over and the other still just wants to be friends with benefits.
426228
I think eventually one of the "friends" is going to develop stronger feelings if they haven't already and are just acting like they don't.  It is hard to be intimate with someone without romantic attachments....maybe not at first but in the end.
1032066
when they quit having sex with your friends
595804
I'd say that depends on the depth of your friendship.  If you're truly great friends, the friendship *can* survive.  But I'd really recommend talking it over thoroughly first.  One of you might want a strict "friends with benefits" arrangement while the other falls in love, and that ain't gonna end up well.\n\nI've had several "friends with benefits" relationships, and they ALL ended up remaining good friends.  But, of course, your mileage may vary.  It's up to the two of you to evaluate your friendship - is it worth the risk for a little fun on the side?
915107
Well, neither of you truly knew where the relationship was going to end up.  If you start throwing sex into the mix then the feelings involve get very confusing.  I would say you are going to have to talk to him about it.  Let him know how you feel and don't let it carry on any longer.  The longer you go on with these feelings the more it is going to hurt him later.  Stop sleeping with him for sure.  He will decide if you are still going to be friends, if you were truly good friends he will probably come around and be friends with you again.  It might take some time though.  You might not want to date anyone else for awhile, especially don't introduce them if you do. Friends and sex usually don't end up with positives, but you might be lucky.
1022520
I'm a 21 year old female, kinda of mature for my age, so add a few years.. Anyway, the title "freind with benefits" is implying that there is more to the freindship. When someone is more friendly with another we would refer to this as flirting... So what would be more to a freindship?   When the word "benefits" is attached to "freind," what this really means is that the two are taking advantage of each other with no such thing as a commitment; which includes sexual activity.
406482
well,, friendship is a friendship, keep it that way\n\nI feel that you do not want your friendship to change, so going out with him "may" change this.  Could you say, we can go out, but as FRIENDS, I do not want anything more/less.  I'd hate to not have you as my friend anymore...
836627
Thank you for your maturity on this subject.\nYour wants are describing the "FRIENDS" part of FTF.. There is nothing wrong with actually being friends.\n- a little communication never hurt anyone; be honest and just tell him.\nYou simply want to move from your concept of one night stand to friendship with benefits.. He's probably already in tune with that.\n- good luck
963821
For me its cold turkey all the way.  If we didn't work out we didn't work out.  Why do we have to be friends ? We didn't meet to become friends.  Do we really want to stay friends and then double date with our new partners ? Will our new partners be ok with our ex being our friend ? Nothing good comes of it.
446881
I have had mostly guy friend all my life...so...I think it can happen.  I don't know if they have thought about having sex with me, but none of them have tried anyway...\n:)
685319
Never do the friends with benefits thing!  It's always bad.  One person usually goes into it thinking, eventually, this can turn into a relationship.  The other person says, hey, physical pleasure for free!!!  One person gets romantically attached and the other just wants pleasure for free.  So that's how it gets complicated.  If you seriously only want pleasure and the other person is dumb enough to agree, then have at it.  But if you like the person or start having feelings for them and it's clear they only want the free pleasure, dump them and start respecting yourself.  You deserve more than a friend with benefits (truthfully, this friend is using you thereby isn't that great of a friend).  You deserve a real relationship!  Good luck!