Is it O.K. for a married man to have female best-friend?
411099
yeah--if it is your wife.\nseriously though--this is pretty treacherous ground.  monogamy is a fairly recent development, and human males have never been successful monogamists, statistically speaking (arguably, if you include fantasy, males are never successful monogamists).  so commitment to a spouse is really about commitment to a cultural ideal.  this ideal absolutely conflicts with other ideals, such as the universality of friendship.\nin any case, this is certainly a case of a man playing with fire.  whether he is aware of it or not, sex is present.\nthe most accurate way to think about it is this:  when a man makes a commitment to monogamy, he is committing himself to subvert the natural expression of his sexuality in order to achieve something he believes to be more important (to sacrifice all other potential coital unions in order to invest fully in a strategic marital union).  once he has done so, intimacy with alternative reproductive partners can only function to undermine his resolution.  therefore, engaging in such a relationship is an act that inherently questions the validity of his original commitment.\nas to whether or not it's ok...well, that's subjective.  but it certainly isn't indicative of whole-hearted devotion to the ideal of marriage.\nit may not be conscious--but this man is keeping his options open.
1026273
my real life best friend is male...and i love him with all my heart...and trust him with my life and vice versa.  and what is even better...is my man and my best friend have become very good friends...so i consider myself quite lucky.
60106
it is not possible to love them the same way. You will love them equally, but in different ways and there is NOTHING wrong with you and your hubby getting involved with the same woman. As long as she is ok with the fact that he married you why would it be wrong?
216132
Why not tell your wife that you want to have sex with her best friend? heck you might get lucky and get a double pleasure for your effort.
480063
Sometimes females have men for best friends this could be in your case or she would be done said something and not be planning her life with another man. So be her friend unless she comes to you. Because you may mess up a good friendship between you two.*
662426
She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
683338
I have a really really best guy friend ( woman here), been friends for 5 yrs now. He has been w/ me thru everything. I am married now but b4 now, he wanted to be more than friends. Told him I didn't see it that way, it would ruin our friendship I thought. That if he didn't see it same way, we coulndt even be friends no more. Still friends today!..Some things are better left alone!
892740
My best friend is a female and she's great in every ways. She's very pretty, outspoken personality, with a good figure, smart & patient. She's what every guys and girls yearn for. Most importantly is she has been my best pal for 17 yrs and we still get along very well.
499496
ABSOLUTELY!!!!! the woman whom I believed to be 1 of my very best friends {long ago} ended up going to bed w/ my  now ex- husband!!! she's now living in my house with my husband {ex} & enjoying the life I was supposed to be living!!! some best friend huh?!?!?!!! I've learned since then to not trust anyone that much ever again ... especially a woman!!!w/ my man!!!!!!!!!!!!
670248
why do you want a friendship with another woman when you have a wife sometines friendships become more.
868623
It is no longer uncommon to have women in the role of grooms"man" or even Best Women, standing on the grooms side. If you would prefer not to have that - then have her in your wedding party. The wedding, after all, is about both of you and should include those people you are close to, and those people he is close to.\n\nIf this woman is his best friend - chances are you will be getting to know her even better now that he is your husband - this is a good way to get that started.
692235
i kinda have a similar situation, but my bf is 36 and im 19 we have been together for 6 years and then i have a guy that i see he is married and i always tell myself that we are great together which we are.  we have been best friends for 14 years and i cant wait for the day that he divorces his wife but i now deep inside that, that will never happen no matter what they say they will never leave their wife's for us.  they are happy getting cake and eat ting it to what man would ever give up the opportunity to  HAVE TWO CHICKS.
252315
Hey this is me again...I don't know if I'm getting this or not..Are you saying that you are married but also want another woman, and that if your wife loves you she will accept it?  Wow, isn't that asking alot from your wife?  Not that I'm judging you.  I am the last person in this world that has a right to judge anybody!!Can I e-mail your e-mail address maybe you need a friend right now?
1179974
He is a married man, and has no business being friends with other women, if the friend ship doesnt include his wife, she has every right to be upset about it, as she shouldnt have to share her husband with anyone else under any circumstance.  He sounds like a disrespectful jerk to put her through this kind of thing as its not normal in a marriage.... So listen to your "other" friends and back off, you are over steppin your bounds!
390625
I looked it up and I dont see anything wrong with it. Most guys are willing to let the wife lead in all roles. Well, maybe mine is. lol.\nIf your wife doesnt mind and is willing to be the leader, tehn why not?
841797
Yes, my best friend since highshool (I graduated in 1971) is a guy.  We did date a couple of times but nothing ever came of it.  We valued our friendship too much to let romance get in the way.  We stil meet for lunch or coffee whenever he is working (owns his own construction company) near where I work.  I'm even God mother to his youngest daughter.  Yeah he's married too.
1078206
yes he have a girl friend &he married