is waiting for the divorce to happen wrong?
397106
More info is needed..\n\nif you mean you are waiting for a love interest's divorce to happen than no it is not wrong... I don't think... \nWhy would that be wrong?  It is noble...
1119436
Hi Cammy,\n\nIn my experiences I've found that a trial separation can be healthy sometimes in efforts to renew a marriage provided that both parties are in mutual agreement. Also, I've watched others go through this who have waited to do this when the relationship had degraded so much that each person left for the separation with intense animosities and in my opinion that will only make working things out all the more difficult. I've found that if two people are mature and recognize the need for 'space' during a relationship and don't wait until the arguing and fighting have begun to dominate the relationship then it's much easier to be apart and still genuinely want to work through the problems.\n\nBest of Luck!!
755820
I think it's better to be happily divorced than living a lie married to someone who treats you badly, like i did stupidly for 17 yrs, til one day i woke up and realised that actually i did deserve happiness and staying married to someone just because i had got married in church, was wrong, especially as really the way i had been treated, my ex had already broken his vows in the first year i married him!
367650
I don't believe there's anything wrong with it.  Additionally, if you and your partnner are going to be together long-term, the exwife will just have to realize that it's unrealistic to expect for you to not be in the children's lives.
680869
First and foremost, did you talk to her about this? If you have done this and many other things to save the marriage but nothing has changed, show up with divorce papers and tell her you want a divorce. But I suggest you talk things over first.
292585
Firstly - Divorce is wrong according to the bible. Thinking with heart instead of mind I would say that if you love someone you want them to be happy even if it isn't with you. It is hard to accept and very painful but it is sometimes what has to be done. This includes relationships before marriage as well. If divorce can be avoided then rather take that path, work on it. Love is not always a feeling it is a choice!
785858
I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
51798
I agree with Dragon on this one.  Yes you are heartbroken and yes it wil take some time.  They say divorce is like death.  The processes of grieving are very similar.  The only difference is that the one that you love is still alive and kicking.  Take this time to examin what you want out of life.  Appreciate this time alone and do things that you could not do when you were married.  Enjoy the lack of nagging and complaining.  And enjoy that you can act as you did before you got married.  Time heals all wounds and with this time, you have the ultimate chance to reexamine your goals and proiriities in life.  Take it one step at a time and you will be fine.  I know the pain that you are going through and I know that it hurts.  But trust me, your heart well eventually stop bledding and once that happens, chances are you will see that one true person that you are meant to spend your life with.
946420
Like I said in your previous q's, it is pretty stupid.  If you were going to get a divorce anyway then why didn't you get a divorce first before going back into the dating scene?  The reason I said to divorce first is to avoid the very complication you are in now, which, as you stated, your wife wants to get back with you.  \n\nAlso, keep in mind that you are not being fair to the person you're seeing.  You are dragging her into your drama.   If you want to date other people you should start with a clean slate.  Divorce first.
1096006
It depends on who filed first.  If you filed first, then your court date is first.  Have your lawyer talk to hers, let them sort out the legal details.\n\nEither way, you're getting your divorce, which is a good thing.
342846
Enough is enough...I find nothing wrong with protecting your marriage, why wait until its gone to far...not really knowing all the details but that he did break it off tells me that you had good reason to snip this at the bud...and that in all fairness he wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot...I'm glad for the both of you.
301614
Yes.\n\nI don't even need to know anything else about the situation. If you two want to be together, you can wait until the divorce papers are finalized.\n\n:)
669348
well, hindsight is 20/20, u should have waited for the divorce.  Sounds like he wants to retain the respect of his children and not tell them until after the divorce that he is living with you, so stop sweating the small stuff...BUT, if after the divorce, it's still the same....kick his a$$ out!!  good luck!
1047985
If you think it will affect the divorce, wait until all of the papers are signed. You can expedite the process by filing for divorce via adultery. It's still considered adultery if you are married and separated. However, if you start dating before the divorce is final, then you will not be able to file for divorce on those grounds. Do not get back together with him at any point in time after the adultery either. In both cases, it would represent your endorsement (or lack of condemnation) of it, which the courts would reject a divorce on those grounds then.
670607
Please do not put too much of your heart into this new man, you need all of your senses and energy to finish the divorce and to be centered to a healthy balance before starting a new romance. It is not fair to the new man or yourself to rush this, ....if he is the ONE for you then he will be patient and wait....use your wisdom that God has granted you to get thru these time and pray for support daily from the heavens.
118650
No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
42247
yes you can.  try to wait if you can still work it out together. go marriage counseling.  if u will continue to file the divorce, u might regret someday when your marriage is getting better.