How do you deal with people asking you why you still don't have a baby?
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"Why you still don't have a baby?"\n"Why don't you stop w-a-n-k-i-n-g?"\n"What does it concern you??"\n"EXACTLY!"
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If you don't feel you are ready then don't. Becuase if you aren't happy about the situation now, you won't be happy in the marriage. Do what you think is best--don't let anyone tell you that you have to marry someone just because they want you to.\n\nI am having this problem with my future mother in law about children. She thinks I should have kids becuase she did, my parents did etc. She also wants grandchildren. If she wants them so badly, then she can go and adopt them. It's my body, my decision, and if I want kids, then I will have them. Not because someone else said so, or because that is what they want.\n\nYou are in control of yourself--just because they are pressuring you, don't cave. Be strong and listen to your heart! People got on my back about getting married several years ago, and I finally yelled at them and told them to quit asking--it will happen when it does. A couple years later, we were engaged, but not because they said so. We did it when we were ready. That is what you should do too.\n\nDo it when you are ready.
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I have wanted babies since I was a kid.  I have had three miscarriages, and have no living children.\n\nMy second loss was in the second trimester, when everyone said I should've been fine.  I struggled with God a lot during that time.\n\nI didn't know why I lost my babies, but I did know that God could have prevented it, and I didn't know why He wouldn't.  I didn't want to live.  I wanted to be with my babies.  And I was angry at God.  I wondered the same thing, "Can He see me?  Does He care?"\n\nWhat I lost was a lifetime with my children, and that just seemed senseless.  But then I thought about eternity.  I don't get to be with my babies here, but I long to meet them and live in eternity with them.  I have that priviledge through Jesus.\n\nI know that God isn't in time.  Time has no bearing on Him.  But I wonder if the time that Jesus spent on the earth was the longest time God ever endured.\n\nGod was parted with His Son for 33 human years, so that I could be with my babies for eternity.\n\nDoes He care?  He cares enough that He suffered through that separation for me.\n\nWhat then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things?  Romans 8:31-32\n\nWhen my father and my mother forsake me,\nThen the LORD will take care of me.  Psalm 27:10\n\n\nTherefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.  I Peter 5:6-7\n\nAs a father pities his children,\nSo the LORD pities those who fear Him.\nFor He knows our frame;\nHe remembers that we are dust.  Psalm 103:13-14\n\nAre not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.  Matthew 10:29-31\n\nYou number my wanderings;\nPut my tears into Your bottle;\nAre they not in Your book?  Psalm 56:8\n\n\nYou have moved my soul far from peace;\nI have forgotten prosperity.\nAnd I said, “My strength and my hope\nHave perished from the LORD.”\nRemember my affliction and roaming,\nThe wormwood and the gall.\nMy soul still remembers\nAnd sinks within me.\nThis I recall to my mind,\nTherefore I have hope.\nThrough the LORD’S mercies we are not consumed,\nBecause His compassions fail not.\nThey are new every morning;\nGreat is Your faithfulness.\n“The LORD is my portion,” says my soul,\n“Therefore I hope in Him!”\nThe LORD is good to those who wait for Him,\nTo the soul who seeks Him.\nIt is good that one should hope and wait quietly\nFor the salvation of the LORD.\nIt is good for a man to bear\nThe yoke in his youth.\nLet him sit alone and keep silent,\nBecause God has laid it on him;\nLet him put his mouth in the dust—\nThere may yet be hope.\nLet him give his cheek to the one who strikes him,\nAnd be full of reproach.\nFor the Lord will not cast off forever.\nThough He causes grief,\nYet He will show compassion\nAccording to the multitude of His mercies.\nFor He does not afflict willingly,\nNor grieve the children of men.  Lamentations 3:17-33\n\nHe sees you.  He hears you.  He cares for you.  Just hold on.
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Only you can decide what to do, but keep in mind that there are good people out there like me that want more children and can't have them.  You gotta do what is best for your child.  Don't let anyone tell you what to do. If you just want someone to talk to you can IM me.
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Yes.  I was talking with a friend of mine and told her that a mutual friend of ours was pregnant.  Another friend that knew the supposedly pregnant woman had told me, and I trusted her because she was roommates with the woman at the time.  My friend said the woman wasn't pregnant, she was depressed and had put on a little weight.  I said no way (not very nicely) and my friend got angry.  A couple of days later, I asked the woman if she was pregnant and she burst out crying and told me about losing her boyfriend.  I was so embarrassed.  I called my friend and asked her out to dinner and while we were eating (she is a forgiving soul, and I was picking up the tab :)  ), I apologized and said what a jerk I was.  She agreed with me and let it go.  I try to verify things now.  If I am going to take a strong stand on something I say, I want to be well informed.
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Be honest with yourself and get to the core of your feelings. \n\n Why aren't your current feelings fine? \n\nIs it that she is getting attention you'd like to have?  \n\nWhen women are pregnant, the conversation is dominated by people who tell pregnancy stories, child birth stories, baby stories.  This can alienate people who cannot relate. \n\nIt dominates the energy in the room, and your special experiences may 'pale' in comparison; which can make you feel less important, maybe?\n\nIs it because you are just not into children?  \n\nThere is nothing wrong with not being 'into' children.  Many of my girlfriends in school have no plans of having kids or only want one kid.  They are enjoying life and their careers and having too much fun without the 'burden' of having to care for children.\n\nDo not ever deny your feelings--feelings are not rational! You are never wrong for feeling the way you do. \n\nThe game plan is to get to the core of your negative feelings and letting them teach you about yourself.  Then deal with what you makes your feelings negative. \n\nUse this time to take care of yourself.  Develop friends and other relationships with people whom you share common interests and goals--that way you do not feel left out.  If having a family is your sister's 'thing' that is great.  Figure out what your 'thing' is.\n\nIf you are very content with your life, then you would be in a place to be happy for someone else without feeling guilty about how you feel.  \n\nYour life is too precious or too short to worry about what you SHOULD feel--embrace your feelings and let them teach you something about yourself.
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How can you say you're ready for a baby when you don't have the financial security to raise it?
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Think long and hard about this. If he knows you're pregnant there's got to be a reason he's holding out. Communication is the key... find out where is head is first. You never know, he may be planning to ask you.
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People tend to assume the worst...   I had this happen to me. \n\nMy husband and I were dating for 3 years and were suposed to get marred a year later after he asked me.  But I didn't want to wait any longer so at that point I asked him if we could just move the date up.  We planned the wedding for 2 months later.  Everyone thought because I we were young and since we moved the wedding up - that I just MUST be preg.  \n\nIt was frustrating - When time told the truth - and now big belly or baby came... I still had my Mother-in-law say to me at one time -  "Don't worry - Miscarriages happen - I'm sure everything will work out next time"   What?! -  So here she (and I'm sure other people) were thinking that since I wasn't having a baby 4, 6, or 8 months after our wedding date -  we must have had a miscarriage!!  \n\nGo figure -  Like I said - People just tend to imagine the worst for some reason.  :(  \n\nJust do what you know is right, and don't let all those oppinions get you down.  Enjoy being married and get pregnant when you guys want to... Who cares what everyone else thinks!!
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One response you can give is to smile and say, "Why do you ask?"  Sometimes you can then ask them the same question they asked you.  The key is to not get upset about it.  If they were trying to annoy you on purpose, they get annoyed because you aren't annoyed.  And thus, they cannot take advantage of you.\n\nIf the asker is very sincere, a better response might be, "That's something that I don't feel comfortable answering."  They're likely to appreciate the honesty.
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Because your time has not come yet. Just because everyone around you is having babies and may be married does not mean that you must be too.  Do not base your life on everyone elses nor try to copy what they do. Life your own live and do your own things, when the time is right the rest will all fall into place. There is a plan for each one of us, and when the time is right, that plan will take affect, for now live life loud and cheerfully...
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Ask the other person, "are you in a relationship" after they answer either wait for them to ask you or say "Oh really? I'm not" or "I'm single as a pringle baby!"
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1st question?   Are you?\n\nIf yes, then go up to the people saying it and say "its really to early to see if there will be any complications and i would prefer if you didnt say anything"  \nor just stick to the good ole'  "Im not pregnant and I CAN PEE ON THE STICK FOR YOU IF YOU WANT BUT YOUR GONNA HAVE TO BUY IT"
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Its very possible that your boyfriend doesn't want another child at this time and is happy with the current situation.  Truth be told, unless you want to leave your boyfriend and form a relationship with another man, I don't think pursuing a baby with him is a good idea now.  If he is avoiding the baby discussion, then I think you know how he probably feels about it.  If he WANTED another child, I think he would be initiating the dialogue with you.  I would not give any weight to the fact that your cousins have more kids than you do or that you daughter is an only child.  Having a baby to give your first child a friend is a poor reason to get pregnant.  You have to do what is right for your family unit and your situation.  So are your feelings based on envy or the biological clock?  Its very likely that they are, but this is one decision that SHOULDN'T be made on emotion.  The question you may have to ask yourself is whether ahaving nother child is worth losing your boyfriend over.
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The lies the tell themselves are:\n1.  The baby is a blob and it won't feel anything\n2.  I would be a horrible mother and the baby would be better off\n3.  I don't have the money to raise a child\n4.  It will be a quick proceedure and I won't think about it much when it's over\n5.  My life will be better without a baby\n6.  It is the best thing for everyone me, baby...everyone
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The comment I get is "You don't look old enough to have 3 kids in college!". I take it as a compliment. \n\n(I DON'T look old enough...)
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Be firm. Say "I want to enjoy what I do. I want to be an OB/GYN because (put reasons here). I know that it isn't what you planned, but I still want you to be proud of me." \n\nIt's better for them to be angry at you for a bit than to be miserable for your whole life. \n\ngood luck!