how should i tell my parents that im in love with the opposite race meaning my bf is italian and im black?
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you both are in love so dont care what ever you are black or italian.love doesnt see  anything. just be strong and tell your mom , i am sure she will agree.
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show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
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me bcuz i have gay parents
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Your parents are only strict just now, because they love you so very much ! And what seems to be your mum's 'racist' attitude is only the outcome of your local society's responses towards all 'mixed' associations - due to several generations of living under an illusion of 'white supremacy' ! \nWait patiently until you can grow-up a wee-bit more, and become a legal 'adult', dear : Then, you can speak your own mind, and act as you wish - and NOBODY else can decide as to who you should associate with !\nYou will also be a bit more mature then, and be able to judge better - about what, or who, is really good for you. \n...Here's hoping and praying that the anti-Black fervour of your community would also have died a natural death, by then !
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Do you love him?  If you do, you shouldn't have a problem saying it back unless you're harbouring intimacy issues.  If you don't love him, you need to tell him that.  He deserves to be loved, or at the very least he deserves the truth!\n\nIf you do love him, perhaps you need to look within and discover why it is you have trouble expressing your feelings.  Has somebody hurt you?  What was your parents' relationship like?
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i say go for it. dont worry about what other people think. if they wont accept you because you're black, then you shouldnt want their acceptance anywayz. focus on making yourself happy, not others. its all about the music!
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1. How old are you? 30\n\n2. What is your race/nationality? Black American\n\n3. Are you male/female? Female\n\n4. Have you ever dated outside of your own race? Yes\n\n5. If yes, What was the experience like? Wonderful\n\n6.Do you believe that interracial relationships can be used to measure racial tolerance? Please explain your answer...\nWell yes,  because 36 years ago they were illegal in most states.\n\n7. Do you believe that people in interracial relationships face challenges and barriers that the same race relationships are not exposed to? explain your answer....\nYes, When me and my bf go out black guys always ask if I’m alright or why am I with him.  Black women always are so angry at me for not wanting a black man.   They say I am selling out or I think I’m too good for a black man.  I think they are jealous because they secretly want to date outside their race.  Same race couples don’t have to deal with perfect stangers critiquing their relationship. \n\n8. How do you think interracial coples can overcome these given barries?  \nIgnore, Ignore, Ignore.  My bf and I know that we care for one another and why we are together.  So ignoring stupid statements and remarks is just part of the territory.\n\n9. Do you believe that interracial relationships can work?  \n\nYes,  I believe that as long as you keep the lines of communication open in any relationship and both parties are open and honest and know where the other stands that any relationship regardless of race can work.\n\n10. what are your peronal views on interracial dating? \nI love it.\n\n11. do your family/friends agree with intteracial relationships?\n\nMy mom and family thinks that I should sit around waiting for a black guy to be interested in me.  I’m like time I wait for no one.  My friends the white ones are totally supportive the black ones are not. My dad says that he doesn’t blame me for going outside my race because he thinks that the black  men of today are lazy, irresponsible and immature.  \n\n12. what do you think about gay interracial couples? \nI say if you have the capacity to love,  you have the capacity to love anyone.
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The easiest way to tell your parents is to simply sit down and ask to have an adult conversation with them. It's best not to sugar coat anything, just keep it real. Tell them you have a boyfriend and it might be nice if you tell them that you would really like them to meet him and get to know him. That way they feel like they are involved in your life. Whatever you do don't put it off any longer because the longer you wait the worse it will be when you tell them.
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Gangstadad's Answer:\n"Your parents are protecting your future. how many white male friends do your black guy friends have? I will bet it is zero, they don't like white people, you are a trophy for them."\n\nMy Response:\nI have to say that I disagree with this because I am a black guy and I think that I have more white friends than I do black.  All black guys do not hate white people.  If you want to convince your parents into letting you go to the prom with this guy then let him meet your parents.  Believe me, all the white girls that I have talked to let me meet their parents and now they enjoy my company more than anything.  Like this one white girl that I know; Her dad gave me their number just so I could play tennis with HIM and with her at anytime.  So just tell him to chill, so that you can set up a meeting between him and your parents.  Your parent must be able to feel like they can trust him first.  By the looks of it, I bet they have never even seen the guy.
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I think love is love, in any way, shape, or form.\n\nI really don't care about ethnicity as a deciding factor of who to love! If someone behaves in a certain way that fits a generalization of that ethnicity, then that's their behavior. If you love him, then no matter his background you should at least see how things go.  Try things out for a little while, and show your family you really are attracted to him; they'll back off.
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If you don't feel apart of the race, then don't. Do you feel you have to be apart of the white race to feel complete? In my opinion, your culture is in Italy and that is what matters more. What race you identify with does not identify you personally or who you are. Remember "race" is more of a concept than factual
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date an other mixed boy!!!
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Maybe your mom just isnt comfortable with you dating a black guy. She could possibly have issues that go deeper than you think. You should talk to her about it. Im black and im dating a white guy. My parents love him. There is an on-going stereotype that is felt about black men. If your b/f is truely a good guy you should try to point this out to your mother. Tell her that he may be black but he's not doing what a lot of other guys like him are. That should work.
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I'm black and my husband is white.
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I hurt with you. A lot of things should not be an issue, but they are in family situations. All four of our children are from different races than my wife and I. It took one side some time to get used to the idea and relearn what racism smells like.\nOur two oldest sons are Asian married/relating to white women. A little brag - the women's parents think our sons are such great material, they are thrilled. Thus:\nLesson 1: Only bring quality material home to mother. The girl will know how to handle her by praising and showing interest in your heritage.\nLesson 2: Show your own interest in your heritage so your mother will know her "life" will not be forgotten.\nLesson 3: This is neither new nor unique to you. Latino's and blacks, previously Roman Catholics and anyone else, my good Irish stock w/ English, in dating it was my lower middle class vs. upper class. Hang in there. You are helping make a new world.\nAt last.
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First of all you shouldn't be worried about what they think or anyone else for that matter. When you are nervous or scared it shows in your voice and body.\nNext you have to choose a setting, take them out or make dinner for them one night and just let them down gently, no matter what your sexuality your parents will love you no matter what.\n\nThe best way for you to tell them is " mom, dad, I am a homosexual." tell them not to say anything until they hear you out. and state your case let them know that you are happy and that you aren't willing to sacrafice that happiness so that they can be comfortable with you. Accept you the way you are.  trust me parents are more forgiving then the outside world.\nKrissee
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Just be open and honest and with them and remember to be patient with them.  Even if they dont agree with you sexuality remember their still your parents and they still love you.  Here's a link to PFLAG's website, you can contact them through that and they're really goat providing support for you and your parents.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/