my girlfriend has just told me that we cant have sex because shes trying to "change her ways"? wat shud i do?
410860
that is great!!! When someone vows to save that for YOU for marriage you should cling to that as a sign that she REALLY loves you!! Respect her is what you do.... be there for her b/c she can't stop doing those things on her own... I promise you will be SOOO much happier in the long run if you HELP her work this through!
414853
talk it over with her and find out why she wont. Have her comfortable with the idea and dont press the issue or else it could make he like it even less.
622420
You can not force anyone to do anything it's wrong and if you force her to have sex that is rape! Just be your self and supportive of her decision and when the time is right it will happen! Buy the way you type I would say you are to young to be concerned about a relationship so just be yourself be a teenager and wait till you are both ready!
940282
well tell her to get lost. Find someone who isn't going to play the blame game and want to work on a relationship with you.
100867
Ouch. Kudos to you on doing what you said you would, but for her it might be too little, too late. She needs to know that you will do what you say even when she isnt threatening you. Is there anything else about you that you know bugs her? Make an effort to change that too. She feels like you dont care enough about her to change, but you are doing the best you can now.\nLevel with her, tell her that you didnt change before but that now that you know how life is without her that you want to be just the man she needs.
152137
Well my best suggestion to you is to cut back on the sex and definitly cuddle more and be more romantic. If you get the urge too bad go to the restroom and masterbat to relieve yourself. Being a woman myself, I know how it feels to think that all a man wants from me is sex but the longer you two are together then she will eventually realize you love her(if you do) and sex isn't ALL you want
1100353
As hard as it might be since you LOVE her and want to be with her. Look you need to cut her off for a while, at least until she comes to a decission of what she wants. Fact is LOVE HURTS,but sounds like your gettin used. Why would you let her use you, I know in hopes she will stay, but have you ever thought she might come to a decission if you didn't let her use you. So next time and until she decides what she TRULY wants don't let her sleep over. Just tell her goodnight and send her on her way, let her think for a while. Besides do you deserve this think of your own feelings for a change. APPARENTLY YOU'VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT OR HEARD APPENTIENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. GOD BLESS and good luck
242550
why would you want to do that\n---\ndisowning is not the solution. try to be rationale and talk to her. the solution might be as simple as that.
546948
Assess your relationship. See what's changed and what needs to change. Sex and romance almost always go hand in hand with women. DO you talk anymore (bond emotionally), do you go out on dates and do nice things for her or buy her gifts anymore? If not, that's a start. Arrange a special weekend for her. Make her dinner, chill out with her. Buy her something small like flowers and chocolate. Talk to her and ask her what's different. If there's nothing wrong, then maybe she just isn't that into to you, or she's in love with someone else. Best of luck
470152
Men and women have completely different needs when it comes to sex, usually. No, you can't change her. But there may be a deep seated reason she is the way she is. Perhaps something she hasn't shared with you or some fear.\n\nIf it is that troublesome for you, see a sex therapist or start marriage counseling.
1123393
You don't seem very keen on her any more.  I'd suggest you go to relate or some sort of relationship counselling.\n\nYou could try making a new start: tell her you's like to reignite the spark of your relationship, that you think you've been taking her for granted.  Ask her if she wants to work with you to make things better.\n\nStart eating meals together and going out together.  Restart physical contact without expecting it to lead to sex - cuddles, kisses, maybe rub her shoulders.\n\nNotice if she looks good and tell her.  Take it in turns to cook and compliment her if she makes something you enjoy.\n\nDon't expect an overnight change.
1095919
ask yourself what went wrong the first time. what can you change that made her wanna ******** you before? tell her that you can change, unless she dumped you cuz you slept with one of her friends or something. it'll never work.
740368
Well give her time. May be its something going on in her life, that you might want to ask her, and l;isten to her, and help her out!\nMay be she was raped(God Forbid)\nMay be its something you did during one of your sex sessions!\n\nDont ask her for sex now or why she cant have sex with you now, \nTalk to her and dont be like without sex there is nothing that can happen between u 2!\n\nShe might even be pregnant and fearing to tell you!  Or she might have done some one else!\n\nTo know the right answer, you gota sit down with her and talk to her. Listen to her speak and dont interupt.
632910
If you are not so sure then you have to say No.  Tell her you are uncomfortable with it and that it will change the dynamic of your relationship, and not for the better.  Don't give in just to appease her,  you will not respect yourself or her.  If she loves you, she will respect your decision.
478987
I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)
959232
This is an awful situation. \n\nYou lie there with an erection, emabarassed not knowing what to do.\n\nYou have to ask her if you can kiss her, and see what happens.\nIf she says no, then you have to ask yourself what the point of the whole exercise is.\n\nThere are a good number of women who don't like sex out there.
1042993
work your way up to it. See how far she is willing to go without having sex. Or you can use the super dooper easy method and just ask!!!!!!!!!!!!!!