how can a guy that you were in a 4 month relationship with find someone else the same day yall break up ?
406007
Because the guy sounds like a jerk.  If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have found another the same day.  He sounds like he had it planned for a while.  \n\nBut I do disagree with some of the other posters.  Not all men are devoid of feelings.  I kinda got the same thing you did. \n\nMy girlfriend goes to NYC for Spring Break, I stay home because my cousin died and I went to his funeral.  \n\nBut she comes back from NYC, and says that she met someone up there she "connects" with, and wants to be with him instead.  She knew him 3 days.  She knew me three years.  \nThis happened about a month ago, "he" is still in NYC, she is back home in NC.  Hasn't seen him, but still wants him.  \nThis was the worst thing for me, because I really loved her.  And my heart was broken, into many pieces.\n\nI guess that some people can be heartless, and don't care about those they hurt, just as long as they get a brief good feeling.  \nBut I hope that for you (and for me) better, more pure love is waiting out there for us.\n\ngood luck.
297625
It is quite natural to still think about a guy you broke up with. Sometimes as someone said above, you might have second thoughts about what you just did or in denial that he broke up with you.\n\nHowever, time is a great healer. You only have to shift your concentration and free time to something else.. like answering in Yahoo! Answers, than questioning hehehehehehe\n\n.:Fishie:.
413098
You must have really liked him if you cant get over him when you were the one that dumped him. Think of a break up this way; you are one step closer to the one you are meant to be with. He can find someone that he can truly be happy with and you can find the love of your life.
1011839
if you separate you should give yourself one day of grieving for every month you were together. after that you should then try and find someone else. but first ask him wuts goin on with him. maybe he's having another problem and taking it out on you. try to find out wuts up with him and let him know that he's hurting you. then if things get worse or if he doesn't care you should end it for your sake. so you don't get hurt even more.
304567
U sould break up with the guy. but it is not your fault if u didn'i even no he was with someone else. Just be another b/f and every thing will be ok. Just try not to go out with someome like that.
1160507
he wanted to break up with you sooner, but he didn't want to hurt your feelings.  and when you found out, he was just being immature and wanted to turn the tables on you instead of confronting you and telling you that he wants to see other people.  forget about him...sign up on the same site and start talking to guys...or go out and do it, what ever your forte is.
329816
I think you should just walk away hun, I know it hurts but I was in a similair situation and he ended up finding someone to date and left me hanging on, and i held onto him for too long and it hurt even worse, at least this way you can get back to your life and finding that one for you, and come back with some of your heart. I just hate to see you hang on liek this and then if he leaves you for someonelse have you left brokenhearted and left to pick up the pieces.
570795
Keeping contact with him is what you're doing wrong, he is just making sure you don't date anyone else until he finds a replacement. At the end you will end up hurt because when he find someone else he will tell you that you guys were only friends.
1032939
there is a reason why you two broke up--it didn't work out.  don't be weak and get back with him just because you're lonely now.  it usually takes at least a few months before you get over someone...so stick it out and start casually dating (not meaning sex) in the mean time.
391152
You can find someone else who is a little different from him. Not a rebound. Before you know it your caught up with someone who you never thought you would be with and liking it.
117273
Wait for them to break up, and in the mean time look around, because you might find someone you like better. What ever you do though don't try to break them up.
526306
break it off and find someone new
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
150209
Forget about it. You were probably going to break up soon if he did like you anyway. That is how love goes.
662206
It is called rebounding.....You current relationship will end quickly when you realize that your new partner is NOTHING like who you were with.....
565262
Don't. There's a reason you broke up. It's hard letting go, but give it time, keep yourself busy, and eventually, you will move on and forget.
1081299
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!