ok here goes, my husband says if he "occasionally uses crack cocain, its not a problem, I've never used crack,
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you should not believe him. i am a recovering addict, and i don't believe in using occasionally. it doesn't work that way. before long your bills and every thing will be behind. it is an expensive habit. i don't want to tell you to just leave your husband because that will make it worse for him. when my husband found out i was using he did tell me that if i didn't stop he would leave me and take my daughter. him and some of my other family has got me into Church and i have given my life to the lord. pray about it, God leaves no prayer unanswered. but we have to remember he doesn't answer them right when we want he answers them when it is the right time. now im not telling you to stay with him if he continues to use either. really open your heart to God and pray and he will put the answer in your heart what you should do.good luck and GOD BLESS YOU!!! if you need anyone to talk to you can email me or IM ME. MY im name is tootsjrfan.
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TOTALLY quit?  Ommmm....  I can't say drinking because that's still something I do once or twice a year.  Illicit sex?  never mind, bad example.  Furniture fornicating?  Bah, I just grew out of that.  Let's see....  Fattening foods?  Pffffth, maybe for a few weeks.  Maybe....\n\nNever mind, I haven't quit anything.  Move along, folks, nothing to see here.
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Crack/cocain is made from a cocoa plant, and therefore is not made from animal. It isn't made from pork.  Does it break any of the Jews rules?  No.  Can you get your crack blessed by a Rabbi?  Probably not.
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I am 35 years old. I've spent about 91 months of my life in prison. I am now a hard working, tax paying, law ABIDING citizen. I never thought anybody owed me anything. Telling your husband you want a divorce while he's in prison is a hard thing for a man to take. I don't know if you have ever been in prison or not but when your there NOTHING changes but the faces. Same food, clothes you can probably figure the rest out. So if a person who is incarcerated is LUCKY enough to have another person care about him means more than you could ever know. When we lose those things like that while locked up, it can drive a man insane. Being on the inside are hands are completely tied. We can't come see you, comfort you and do what we should of been doing in the first place, being at home with the ones we love instead of out commiting crimes. I am not in any way defending convicts even though I am one. If your husband can not change his ways I agree you should be free from that lifestyle cause it's not a pretty place. IF he can change......??????  He still is your husband and like they ( whoever they are) say "for better or WORSE." You both made big commitments by getting married. If he can't fufill his commitment by being there as a good husband that's his loss. Does he deserve another chance if he can straighten out?????? I went to prison for a meth lab, 6 firearms and about 5 pounds of weed. I ran with a rough crowd. I've been shot and I've shot another human being ( for this I will never forgive myself) HOWEVER,,, I'm leading a good life now, we CAN change. I hope this helped.
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No!!!! Absolutely not! You don't want to be arrested with him when he is carrying one day, and you don't know he has it. The cops won't listen and don't want to hear it. As far as they know your his crack whore. Disassociate yourself from him immediately!
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Honey, you don't need this and neither does your son. This is the role model you are choosing for your child. Is that what you want? If your guy had stayed in NA and had really tried to work this out, then I'd say to stick with him. But he really doesn't sound like he's giving it his entire effort. Maybe he does not want to give up drugs. So you have to tell him to make the choice... you or the drugs. I'll bet he chooses the drugs, thinking you won't walk out. But I know you will leave becasue I'll bet you love your kid a lot more than you love this drug addict.
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I smoke it at night to relax. I have M.S. and it makes my legs feel better. I also smoke when my husband and I go out to a bar. He drives to the bar because I don't drive when I smoke. When we get to the bar I don't drink anything but soda so he can drink. Then by the time we are ready to go in a couple of hours I am totally fine and I drive home perfectly sober. This systems works well for us and we take turns.
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i believe it is my husband is trying it now..time will tell
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my husband is, no sideeffects that he has seen
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Crack=Crack Cocaine.\nJust plain cocaine is the drug non-altered.
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I would certainly get help from the organizations that offer help. You must go and seek help even if the husband does not (or cannot) go. YOU must go and find out what CAN be done to save your marriage,your family, your life!You have to make up your mind that you have had ENOUGH the "lifestyle" of a drug user! MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND THEN MAKE A MOVE!
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The question isn't about whether or not he's an alcoholic. That's besides the point. The real issue is that his habits are preventing him from being a responsible, reliable husband and father. What happens if you decide to have a few drinks while relaxing at home one day? Who will pick up the kids then? Who will buy the groceries to feed the family? What if an emergency comes up and both of you are too intoxicated to drive? Why is it fair that he can lounge around and drink, leaving all of the responsibilities to you? You need to have a long, serious talk with him. Don't make the issue out to be that he's an alcoholic. Alcoholics are in denial and that will only infuriate him. Make the issue to be that his "habits" are preventing him from helping you with the daily household responsibilities.
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Rock cocaine is exceptionally dangerous. Pot isnt dangerous at all. But I would seriously be careful with the coke. That stuff has been proven to kill brain cells. As well as you can never be certain what other chemicals and things have been slipped in with it. If I were him I would stop smoking anything for 6 months to a year. If he wants pot, tell him to make brownies. There are recipes online. But the coke I would definitely stop. Good luck.\n\n\nPeace
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Depends on who's crack he is addicted to....
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I agree totally with Bella -- what is the husband's problem???  A big factor here, as well, is that if you yourself are questioning doing something that someone wants you to do, then somewhere in the back of your mind, you are not comfortable with this and that is a GOOD sign!  Follow your instincts!  I would ask your husband why he thinks you need to take these pills and does HE understand what is involved in taking medications; their affect on your body, your life?  Ask a doctor!
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Oh, Hon.  This is a BIG one.  We have several issues here.  First, porn should ALWAYS be a problem.  You see, if men would stick to a couple of mags a month, no problem, but that is not the case.  You see, porn is a slow poison.  First he does it every once in a while and then before you know it, it consumes him.  He will tell you he does not look at it that often, it is most likely a lie.  Porn addictions are just as bad as crack additions.  It is VERY hard to break.  Not impossible, but VERY hard.  With this addiction he is taking time away from you and your kids to fulfill his selfish needs.  We he looks at porn, it is mentally cheating on you.  \n\nYou are right, when you leave home, it will only get worse.  He will neglect the kids so that he can sit in front of the computer for hours looking at naked women.  The kids will eventually see him doing it.\n\nYou know there was a situation like yours that was recently in the news.  Sarah Evans (Award winning country star and contestant on this season's Dancing with the Stars) had to leave the Dancing with the Stars completion because her husband has a porn addiction and their young son walked in on him watching pornographic materials.  Her son was devastated.  She dropped out of Dancing with the Stars because she had to take care of her son.  \n\nWhat I am trying to say here is, you children will suffer because of this addiction.  Not only will they be neglected, they will be hurt if they run into this material.\n\nThis porn addiction is about to be kicked up a notch because he is going to go crazy when you are not home.  He will be like a kid in a candy store.  He will have free reign to watch all the porn he wants.\n\nIf you are strong enough to take the computer from him, then do it.  It is not about you trying to be controlling (which any addict will call you if you try to stop them from indulging in their addiction), it is about you taking care of your kids even when you are not at home.\n\nBe warned your husband will eventually want more than the porn, he is going to want to start touching what he is seeing. It is called natural progression.  He has a bad habit that will only get worse.  \n\nYou and your kids do not deserve this.  You are going to be out there busting your butt for your family.  You need and deserve the security of knowing that your kids are not going to be ignored while you are at work.  You also need to know that you man is being faithful to you in EVERY way while you are gone for the day.  He needs to be faithful to you, mentally, emotionally and physically.\n\nBy the way, children are very impressionable.  They stay innocent for such a short a time.  They don’t need to walk in on their father indulging his fantasies with a computer screen, if you get my meaning.  He is getting aroused by the porn, and he is going to want release.  This could be at a time that your kids need him for something and that will really upset him.\n\nTake the computer if you can or if you don’t need it for work, cut the internet connection (but most likely he has downloaded a lot of stuff and saved it somewhere on your computer).  He needs to get into some counseling. So do you.  His porn watching has had to have some effect on you and your self-esteem.  Try one or two sessions.  Just talk to someone.  Nothing is worst than having the man you love constantly watching other women.  Even if it is only on a computer screen.  I wish you the best and God bless.
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i must agree with Andy.when people are under the influence of drugs they are unable to properly prioritize. in his mind there is nothing that comes before the need to get high. and until he makes up his mind to do something about it there is nothing that u can do except get tough! don't be an enabler by allowing him to be in and out of your life at his convenience. since he has chosen drugs, you hafta choose your child and your sanity and leave him alone until he has gone through a program and ATLEAST 6 months of sobriety. \np.s. remember that even if he does get clean, he will ALWAYS be an addict. consider that before u allow him back into your life.