Why do people think that love is supposed to just fall right into their laps without  having to work for it?
401047
AMEN to that sister.  By the sweat of thy brow, thou shalt eat bread.  \nIf you don't work you cannot reap.  Sometimes we forget the word maintenance - it means you have to do what it takes to keep the engine running or else when it fails or runs out, then we would know what that means.  Guys maintain your ladies and keep her happy.  Stop being boring, and being toooooooo tired.  Buy her nice things, take her to dinner, surprise her sometimes, be spontaneous, etc.  We will love you more. Stop cheating..............Make each time we meet the first time ever..
499040
Love and need are a little bit mixed up, but I think you fall in love with someone that you want to be with, and then once you are in love you end up needing them too because they are so important to you.\n\nYou can just need someone to stop you feeling sad or lonely, but that doesn't equal love.
836784
Yeah pretty much.  \n\nAnd while we're at it, let's let this one fall out of the bag.  \n\nA lot of us never really fall in love with our hearts.
213620
i guess u know when ur in love when all u do is think about that person and the minute ur away from their side u can't do nothing but think about that person or maybe u just feel it in ur heart! and it's a right time for anything if u believe and feel that its love. don't just sit back and let love past u bye because u think ur to young for love or just not ready cause u could be giving up ur chance of findin true love or maybe ur not and if u love that person then i guess they is the right person because love doesn't come with a name on it but if u feel or know u love this person go for it it doesn't hurt to try and if their not right person then try again cause that person is out there somewhere u just have to be pacient and let love find u because good come to those who wait!
1104500
I disagree with your analogy...your love should be never ending, those  who choose to limit what they can offer because they are afraid the heart ache may be unbearable are cheating themselves out of receiving an equal amount of love in return...I can understand what your saying if you give and give and give with nothing in return, but that's just wrong choices, and only you can be blamed for that....One must know themselves well enough to recognize and limit their choices to those who can full fill their expectations, thus live happily ever after, I've come very close...and look forward to soon meeting someone more suitable...which could be thee person to complete my life...I choose to be patient and choose wisely...blessings to you.
271878
True love is not something that just happens. True Love is the result of two people who come together and are able to understand the needs they can and can not fulfil for the other person. Then, they work dilligently to meet those needs that they can.  (no one person can meet all of your needs) This creates the happiness that is associated with what we consider "True Love". I believe we can have "True Love" with many people in this world. Although there may be the *potential* for True Love with some, if they are unprepared and unwilling to do the work it takes to make a "forever relationship" actually be just that, *forever*, then they can never manifest that True Love WITH you. At that point you must know that there are others out there who may be capeable of creating this kind of love with you. But first and foremost, YOU must be "THE ONE" and then you should be able to attract YOUR ONE, to you. Never let the concept of True Love capture you in a bad relationship. I've always found a lot of freedom in the following quote "I love you, but it doesn't mean I have to live my life with you." Good luck in becoming and finding The One.
115683
I dont think we fall in "love" and it's not just getting laid either it's just that we are insecure about ourselves sometimes and are afraid of getting closer to someone without letting them go if we need to....
542944
My friends and I were just talking about this last night...We have came to the conclusion that Love is a very strong word.  So many people today believe that they are in love, but love is to give unconditionally... love is putting someone elses needs before your own.  I have thought I was in love 2 times, I am now divorced with three kids and I can honestly say I have never loved anyone the way I love my children... If you can honestly say to your self that I would die for them  I mean being truthful to yourself and saying I would die for you... that's love... and I have never felt that way before.... and you don't have to be in love to be with someone...if you enjoy the company why say it's over... just enjoy your life  you only have one.
232932
i think that most people just know, and at the same time many people question it, they always wonder : can this be it, is it really going to work, and so forth. the way i look at it is: when you look at the person do you think of anyone else, do you see yourself with this person "forever", do you want to grow old with this person. no one else but you can determine if you are in love or not, this is your question to answer, not ours.
438074
It seems, to me, that it would be true love if you don't have to ask and if people (including yourself) can't talk you out of it.  At least, that's a better indicator than asking the public....  Or, are you just gloating because you're in love??   ;)
100834
Love is everything kiddo, it makes the world go round and round. And people love because it is a natural tendency of one to connect with another. It is not a waste of time but yes, love hurts but with the pain it brings, there also comes growth, wisdom and more love.
93144
Falling in love happens so smoothly, its when youre just getting to know each other and you love all those lil things she/he does for you,  The once you ahve been in love fo r along time, all that wears off, adn its about maintaining that love and keeping things fresh, which is hard.  You fall into ruts adn do the same things and its gets old.  Its hard work, but well worth teh reward, to know you have someone in your life who would do anything for you and wants to sepnd teh rest of their life with you.  (If you couldnt tell, im still in love!)
489879
Well, Life is about chances and so is love...  Some people hurt us intentionally, but some don't..\n\nI think that the people we love hurt us, because they don't know how to appreciate it.  Take it for granted and take it as a vulnerability. (So they take advantage of us)\n\nBut don't give up on it..  We have to go through a few bad seeds, before we finally find the right one..  : )
549529
I think the first answer you got is sooooo true. By you asking then you obviously not! If you were you would know it. It's a very hard feeling to describe and I think many people mistake lust for love, and many people will settle for less than what they deserve. When it comes your way you will know it with every bone in your body. Don't settle for being with someone to just not being on your own. There's a big diff between loving a person and being in love. You can love your family but you sure as hell not in love with them. All good things come in time, so be patient and it will happen one day. Just don't confuse lust for love, or loving someone and being in love....... There's a BIG difference.
160025
If you are talking about real love then its not feeling and it not thought to. Real love come from heart which you cant control. If you love someone you think its feelin or that you think about it but it not that? Love is a secret which no one knows about and what is it. !!!
359614
Maybe they think you are feeling something other than love.\n\nI don't think a person can actually love too much, but I do think a person can have an unhealthy obsession for another person and still think it's nothing but love.\n\nIt doesn't really sound like that's you, though.  Glad you are so happy.
303272
Because one must open oneself completely for love to occur. Very vulnerable state, which also requires honesty. It is very scary, even though exilirating. Sometimes it is too much. Sometimes, we are too scared to be honest with ourselves, or do not feel strong enough to risk the hurt.\n\nIt's like jumping out of an airplane, but you're not only not sure your parachute will open, you're not even sure you're wearing one.