How do I get my ex-girlfriend back after we've been broke up for three years?
398231
You need to do the things that lit the spark the first time around and show her that your are serious. If you just sit and talk about getting back together then it more than likely won't happen. Send her flowers, show her you care because more than likely her feelings were hurt when you broke up with her.
1149386
After three years it is clearly over. Time to move on and leave the girl alone now. Try to get out more with friends and build a new life for yourself then in time you will feel ready to meet someone new. Good luck.
307420
You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.
1166692
Just make it clear that there are conditions to getting back together and that one of them is that the past is the past and that you two are working on a future.  If the past becomes an issue then there is no relationship.
111565
Stop being selfish and let her be happy for once.  Even if you could get her back, it would never be the same...she will always have some bit of resentment towards you.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
336737
I kinda` understand your girlfriend but the situation you`re caught in too...I think that the love chain brought the two of u back together everytime you two broke up.It`s hard to stick without your beloved.The fact of ignoring her love was not a good idea at all,even though i believe that u have done it just to satisfy you self-ego...and now you are the one who wants to get close to her again...After brokin up several times i think that it`s better to take it slow,show her that u care about her ,without pressuring her cause this will scare her away even though i`m sure that she still loves u...She`s hurt...and all u have to do it`s to gain her confidence again,dip a deeper place in her heart than u already have.By rushing her u will not receive anything.Do simple things for showing her how much she meens to u,that u can change and that the two of u together can work it out.It`s all about motivation and how much do u really want things to work out...and of course...u need love from both sides...\n I hope that my answer will help u in some way... :P
713166
No way man. An ex is an ex for a reason. I'll give you a link to go to and read why you shouldn't even be talking to her. If you want any chance of getting her back go no contact. Start dating other woman and let her find out. She'll come crawling back and saying everything you want to hear. Don't buy it. She just wants what she can't have and when she gets it BOOM you mean shyt to her again. There's a 1 in 100000 chance that says she wants you back for the right reasons. Move on. The damage is done. She's damaged goods and you'll never have as healthy relationship as you think. She may say she wants to see you happy in the long run and personally you'll be happier without her. She won't allow you to move on until she's stable in her own life. Don't let her mess with you. And don't even be her friend. Until you are totally over her. Nothing you say or do is going to get her back. I PROMISE. Good luck and find you a new woman. AT CHURCH
738845
good luck. try to win her back.
331346
First analyze what made you break up.  Has enough time passedc for both of you to realize what each of you have done to damage this relationship and make changes to yourselves?  \n\nMaybe she is not aware that you want her back.  Once you have thought long and hard about it, sit her down and tell her how you feel.  Let her know that you repect her dating someone else, but you know you two will be together again and you will wait patiently for her.  This will not only flatter her but also instill doubt in her mind about the person she is with.\n\nAfter that, just be patient and kind to her and treat her with respect and consideration.  Be her friend and listen to her.  Be there for her.  Don't let he take advantage of you, but be the one she can turn to.  Sooner or later she will realize that she loves you still, also.
533475
Five Ways To Win Her Back\n\nAdmit it: You messed up. You said or did something to drive away the most beautiful girl in the world, and now you want her back. But here's the rub: She's moved on, or at least appears to be going on with her life, living and loving it up with guys who happen not to be you. So what do you do to get back into her good graces without completely throwing your pride out of the window? How do you repair the rift and still remain a "man's man"?\nReach Out\n\nYears ago, a guy would have had to stumble through an uncomfortable phone call or write an embarrassing letter to reestablish the lines of communication with his lost love. These days, sending your ex an email is the easiest way to go. It's a quick and modern way to exchange light-hearted communications and your girl won't think you're groveling if you dash off a quick: "How's it going?"\nBe Contrite\n\nI know, I know. Admitting you're wrong is sometimes hard to do, but this simple technique goes a long way in showing a woman that you care. After you've reestablished the lines of communication, drop a few hints. Phrases like: "I'm sorry I said that" or "I didn't mean for that to happen" cause a woman to want to listen more to what you say to her. By the time you swoop in for the kill, she'll be ready. Unless of course you really screwed up ...\nBe Available\n\nIf you followed the methods above, the two of you should at least be on friendly terms. The next way to get her to warm to you is by showing her that you're there. If she needs a ride somewhere, take her; if she's moving, handle the biggest of the boxes; if she's fighting with her mom, listen to her whine about it.\n\nMaking yourself available doesn't mean taking over the role of "girlfriend". It means that when the girl you love has a problem, or needs a shoulder to cry on, it'll be your shoulder she cries on - not some other guy's.\nBe Busy\n\nWait! Didn't I just say to be available? Isn't that a contradiction? Not at all. Even though you're following the rules to get her back, you don't want her to know that you're trying to get her back--not just yet anyway. Go out with your buddies and continue your normal activities. That way, when you speak with her, you'll have funny stories to tell and new things to add to the conversation. If you're waiting by your phone or surfing the 'net checking your email every five seconds, then you'll have no great adventures to impress her with. And then she'll think you're lame.\nBe old-fashioned\n\nYour ex should be on her way to being your "next" again. Once things have progressed and you're sure she likes you again, ask her out. Think hard: what does she like to do? Perhaps your lady doesn't like the usual movie/dinner/clubbing scene--in that case, get creative. If she likes theme parks, rekindle those flames on her favorite roller coaster. If she's a reader, find out when her favorite author is in town and take your ex to see them. Is she a horror film buff? Take her to a film festival or rent the classics and stay in for the night. Make sure you've got her favorite snacks and drinks on hand.\nBe yourself\n\nDespite everything listed above, all a guy really has to get back with his ex is, well, himself. Turn on at full speed whatever you had that made her want you the first time. Remind her of how great things were in the beginning. Mention highlights that give the both of you good feelings. Don't be afraid to let her know that you had some of your best times with her, and that you wouldn't mind having more good times.\n\nWhile you think it might be easier to hold onto your pride, move on and forget about the one who got away, why chance it? Listening to your friends who think you're a big jerk for trying to work things out will just keep you alone, or w
830605
my ex is trying to win me back.....  i say give her space.\n A girl wants time to think about what she really wants. \ndon't bug her.. send some flowers and a letter and let her know exactly how you feel and let her decide .
1068811
Contact a local law firm and ask them to write a letter on your behalf to your former partner. I have found that the implied threat of legal action is generally low cost and sufficient to get action.\n\nBest of success.
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
43839
Say "Good-bye", give a great "Sponge Bob" wave.  \n\nDon't waver from this...unless you want to look foolish.  If your ex wants you back, they'll let you know.  So, you can hold your dignaty and bow out, or you can beg and beg and beg only to be rejected more and more and more.\n\nIt hurts, all I can recomend is find something that makes you happy...Go find happiness.
941972
Let it go, mate. It's just a fantasy that has been cooking away in your mind for years. Aside from the fact that you both broke up for a reason, 30 years on you are both different people.\n\nYou'd be much better off channelling your energy into finding someone who wants you for who you are now. Stop looking into the past for something that never was - look into the future!
353573
I recently went through the same exact thing.  We dated for over 3 years, and then she broke up with me.  The only advice for this scenario is that time will heal all wounds.  This break up hit me hard but I eventually learned that I don’t need to be chasing after someone who isn’t going to love me back.  A relationship only happens when both hearts are into it 100 percent.  All you can do is move on and meet new people.  If you are still in high school or college, talk to some girls in your class or your project groups.  Eventually the wounds will heal.\n\nAnd any girl that would break up with you doesn’t deserve you anyway.