i am depressed about my boyfriend that died 10 months ago and am scared that i am never going to get over him.
406085
Your heart will always belong to Robert, and dealing with a death of a loved one is so hard. How does your boyfriend now feel about it?  Does he try to be understanding?  No One will ever take his place, but you must go on, because he's never coming back, and you know that noone will ever fill his shoes, but you have to look past that if you want to make another relationship work.  You have to move on but always keep him in your heart, no one will ever blame you for that!
900628
Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
786713
Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
1170601
It is totally normal to be feeling like this. They say when you break up with someone that you love it congers up the same emotions as it does when someone dies. You are in mourning for your lost relationship but don't confuse this with love. It takes time for your mind and your heart to come to terms with these situations but it will pass. Talk to you friends about everything you are feeling, even the stupid things, you may feel silly at the time but once you have got all you feelings out you will feel a load has been lifted of your mind. Every time the thought of your ex comes into your mind, change it and put your boyfriend in his place. Don't keep thinking back on things you and your ex used to do, go out and try new things with your boyfriend, these new memories will move the other memories out of your mind and you will feel yourself letting go of the past and moving on to happier times. Trust me, this has happened to me before, i nearly let my new relationship break down because of it but i got past it and am happier than i have ever been. Don't be afraid to let go, you will always have the time with your ex to look back on in the future but don't let it destroy you chance of happiness.
858633
I feel bad for you.  I'm so sorry that you have lost someone in your life that sounds like a soul mate.  I hope you will always be friends with this person even if you are not "in love with each other or anything like that."  I would not accept loosing this person in my life if I was you.  Not with computers and pen and paper and phones.  I would talk to my Mom about it and I would contact him and tell him how you feel, that he is important to you and that you would like to remain friends even 3000 miles apart.  Good friends are worth the effort.
406428
Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
500016
You don;t need drugs. You are going thru a normal period of grief and mourning for a relationship that has ended. This is entirely normal. Although the situation is harder because you do still have to come in contact with him.\nIf the crying and feelings of sadness continue for more than a few months I suggest you go and speak to your doctor at that time.\n\nAll the best to you.\nIt will get easier as time passes. Hang in there!
218114
If this happened to you, I'm really sorry. Allow yourself to grieve - that is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are sad and don't try to hide it. You have every right to feel sad, angry, sick - whatever it is you feel. Just know that with each passing day, it will get better and you will learn to cope. You will never stop missing that person, but the thoughts of grief will slowly be replaced with fond memories.
226937
you need to put yourself together. Go out and do things that you like [ helps take your mind of him ] Find someone to share your life with. In any event you need to move on. Life is to short, to sit around and do nothing. Know how you feel, been there. Hope this this helps you. Don't think about what happened. move on
503165
Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
255588
I lost my son 10 years ago on Nov.25 and I still think of him daily. It took a long time but now when I think of him I can laugh at the warm good times we had and it doesn't hurt so sharply. I know the pain and it is almost a physical thing, isn't it? It starts in your stomach and it feels like you want to scream and scream and scream. This will pass. He knows you love him. Trust that fact. And you will always love him trust this fact. And you will see him again when it is time to do so. Until that time you are responsible to him not to waste the life you have grieving for his loss of life because his life began again that day. He is in a wonderful place, God can take a lot better care of him than you or I ever could. He has all the answers. I know how much you miss him , and I believe they miss us too. He is busy and so should we be. the time till we are with them will seem shorter that way and we will be doing what is our reason to still be here, that is to be busy and to love others by giving help to those we can help. Bless your heart and Bless your Loving Parents heart. It will all be answered someday and you can trust that fact also.
1039660
I lost my dad to suicide when I was young,so I know how you feel!!!!! Try support groups where you can talk to other people who are going through what you are,trust me it helps a lot to know that other people can help you to over come this!!!! My heart goes out to you!!! Later on when I was a teen,he came to me in a dream,he didn't talk to me,but I guess he was letting me know,that everything was ok now!!!
860774
I used to and I thought it would never go away. Stangely enough when my father passed away recently I didn't feel as bad as I expected. It is hard when they have been with you for so long and all the things you have shared to know that one day they won't be there. I miss my dad terribly sometimes and although I can't talk to him in a physical sense I like to think that he is still around somewhere watching. Enjoy the time that you have with them as whenever they go it is always far too soon.\n\nTake care.
319683
PRAY. I KNOW IT MAY BE HARD BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM I KNOW I'M GOING THROUGH IT NOW FIND SOMETHING TO OCCUPY YOUR TIME. PLEASE DON'T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF JUMPING INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOU WOULD BE DOING IT TO GET OVER HIM YOU MAY THINK THAT IT IS GOING TO HELP YOU RIGHT BUT IT WILL HURT IN THE LONG RUN
432705
as life moves on and as you meet new people you will understand that he wasnt your whole life he was just a part which could be again filled with love so dont worry i know it will take much time to forget those precious moments you spent with him but they sure will take a backseat soon just meet your family and friends and try to solve their problems if they have some you will surely forget yours..
1174465
If these people were dear to you, you can't expect to "get over it" in such a short period of time.  When someone we love dies, the mourning period could take a year or more.  The best advice that I was given after my mother died was to not try to rush the grieving process.  That way, when I ended up in tears, I knew that the healing wasn't complete yet and that that was okay.
528514
The only way to really deal with it is in your own way. You have to let yourself feel the greif that comes with losing someone close to you. Remember that you are in no way to blame for your friend's death. Many people belive that they could have done something to prevent it but the sad truth is that you really have no control when a person wants death. It's going to be a hard process that will take time because you were close to this person but don't try to avoid the feelings. Pay your respects at the funeral to get some closure and maybe talk to their family. They are going through the same kind of emotions you are right now and you may be able to support eachother. If you find that you just can't function don't give up and seek some help from a psychologist. Anyone going through this kind of greif can use someone unbaised to talk to so don't feel bad talking to a counsellor of some sort. Above all just give it some time and try not to bottle up your feelings. It will get better and you don't need to feel guilty when you start to become happy again. Your friends would have wanted it that way.\n\nTake care.