My mother in law is coming between me and my husband, what to do?
401589
Tell your husband that he married you, which meant that you come first. If you are upset with the way you are being treated then tell him. Also talk to her about it. Set up times to call and times to come over. Also, if it is affecting the way you want your children to be raised then he needs to be a man and tell her. He also needs to cut the apron strings. I'm speaking from experience, I'm a huge momma's boy, or was, we still have a great relationship, she just doesn't come before my wife.
912839
Hopefully your husband wants your help and isn't putting out signals to attract this type of attention.  That's another whole problem altogether.\n\nBut what I would do if this is just some ordinary floozy putting the moves on your guy--and I've seen this done very well--is to go up to them and join the conversation with the attitude conveying complete confidence that you are welcome in the conversation.  HE will welcome you, right, even if she won't?  Maybe put your arm around your husband.  If he becomes standoffish, again, that's a problem; he needs to welcome you into the conversation.\n\nThen be sweet as pie to her.  Ask her about herself.  Take an interest.  Never betray that you are anything but completely assured of your wonderful relationship with your husband.  Ideally, bore her with prattle until she leaves on her own (getting her to excuse herself from you two is the best way, it's a much stronger position than walking away).  It doesn't matter if she's interested in you, believe me, in fact, use the fact that she isn't!  Then stay nearby your husband in case she comes back.  If you can't bore her to death, you and hubby will have to excuse yourself from her company and move on.  \n\nIf she gets too pushy or nasty to you personally, say something very pointed in a very nice tone (like "peddle your wares to someone who's interested, honey").  But never, NEVER get bitchy.  It's beneath you.
484401
Gosh my mother in law moved in with us last year and was here for 9 months 10 days. The day she moved out was awesome. I like the lady but can not live with her.. Get out and get your own place.
829206
your husband is the one that needs to put his foot down! tell him what is going on..and that you would NEVER put up with this kind of behavior if it were your own mother/sister. \nyou married him, not his mother...yes she is part of your family but she doesn't and shouldn't have a say in YOUR life together. \nhonestly i would look to move away! * that's what i encouraged my husband to do when we got married. we moved my mother in law to Hawaii! * \nif your hubby won't put his foot down then your going to be the one to say something. it may be hard, but YOUR HIS WIFE! that car you borrowed is YOURS as much as it is your husbands...you need to stand up for yourself.\nbe firm but cordial, and tell her that you understand that she loves her son very very much, but so do you. and you are his wife. \nhe is a grown man, and you two want her to be part of your life, but you don't want her controlling it. tell her that you feel like she doesn't like you, and that your trying your best to be a good wife to her son. but you will NOT let her make you feel guilty about the decisions that you make together as a couple. ask her how she would feel if HER mother in law butted in the way she did? \n\nperhaps talking w/your father in law might help? or a brother in law?
519272
Have you seen the movie Monster-In-Law, cuz your problem is the exact same.What you should do is confront her don't be scared I did it and I'M about to get married to her son.Just do what what u do best.confront.
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
479426
tell your hubby how you feel. If your not comfortable living there anymore, tell him. Let him know that you have nothing against his mom, but you've also got your lives to think about. You two need time to yourself, need your own privacy, and need your own space. Tell his mom, that even though it's her house, you have rights to, and need your space. You could always move out to a place of your own, maybe your hubby will follow, maybe he just wants to support his mom for the rest of his life. Talk to him, he might have things on his mind about the situation to
953071
Tell your mother in law she needs to get a tonguectomy.  LOL\n\n\nYour mother in law is always telling you what to do, but are doing what she tells you?  It's very simple.  The two of you together need to tell her to keep her nose out of your personal affairs, and if she can't manage to do that then she will be out of your lives for good.  The choice will be hers to make.
263795
TELL HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK WHAT SHE THINKS AND THAT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO YOUR MAN. AND THEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO LIKE OR KNOW YOU WELL THE HE*LL WITH HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK. I MEAN DAM*N HOW MUCH OF A BI*TCH DOES SHE HAVE TO BE. TELL HER TO GO FU*CK SOME DI*CK AND CHILL OUT AND STOP BEING A BI*TCH. MY HUSBANDS MOM WAS LIKE HER SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM MAD AND WHEN HE GETS MAD HE IGNORES EVERYONE FU*CK I DIDN'T DO SH*IT. SHE WILL JUST KEEP GETTING HIM PISSED OFF ALL DAY! TELL YOUR MAN THAT EITHER SHE STOPS BEING THE WAY SHE IS TO YOU OR YOU GO AND IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WILL TELL HER TO STOP THAT WETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM AND THAT'S IT!!!!!!
318609
I'm planning a wedding and dealing with a mother-in-law... \n(and we're in a similar situation)\nIf you want more people to come offer to pay for them!  I konw traditionally it's the bride's family that pays for the reception and all that... but if you would really like to have a few more of your family members there then I'd say offer to pay and talk to them about it.  It's a lot to ask for an extra 25-30 people.  That can be thousands.  \n\nAlso, Your son is a man.  Let him handle it.  But if you decide to get involved don't do any passive-agressive stuff cause that can get between him and his fiancee.  I'm sure if he had a problem with it he'd speak up.\n\nMy future MIL is always blaming me when anything dealing with her son is to her disliking.  They are adults making decisions and plans together.  Speak with them about it and make sure that you view them as doing this together.\n\nAnd this is just my 'blah blah blahing' but please try to make sure that you're not expecting too much from your son's wedding.  It is his wedding and his fiancee's  wedding.
875777
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation.  I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year?  Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.\nAlso, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
748209
Remember this is your battle with the inlaws not your sister in law's.  Do not make her choose sides.  Be happy for her that she has a better relationship with them than you do because I'm sure you wouldn't wish what you are going through on another.  Maturity is called for here.  Stick to your guns for yourself, don't expect other's to choose sides.  She sounds like she's attempting to be neutral.  If you don't like hearing about what's going on with them, simply ask her not to go into detail about them or what they do or don't do.  Keep your friendship.  That's more important than allowing the in laws to drive a wedge between you two...and likely, that's what's happening.
1090425
You and your husband will have to make a real effort on this one, and be the bigger people so to speak.  I don't think it's normal for a mother to act like that towards her son and his fiancee, now his wife.  Something is definitely wrong with her mentally.  Just remember that you can choose your friends, but not your family.  I think you and your hubby will have to speak with his mother about the wedding thing, just to get past it and clear the air.  She needs to know how it made you feel to be let down on your Big Day.  You can choose to forgive her or forget it, but you have to be able to move past what's happened in the past.  I don't really have any big words of wisdom other than to take the high road and don't play into her games.  Sometimes you gotta call a Spade a Spade!  No matter how bad she treats you, turn your cheek and be extremely nice back to her.... it gets them every time!
785505
Your first mistake was giving a cell phone to a punk 12-year-old. \n\nUnless you are planning on divorcing your wife, the woman who is your mother-in-law is going to STAY your mother-in-law. That being said, you have a few options:\n\nOption 1: Do not retaliate against her. She knows what she did was wrong. Instead, focus all of your energy on getting right with your 12-year-old, including - and maybe most importantly - counseling, to help the child figure out what is behind all the self-destructive behavior. Sounds to me like this is one angry kid, and, given the dysfunctionality of your family, I can't say I blame the child. Sounds like there is a lot to be angry about.\n\nOption 2: Get a lawyer and file charges of false reporting (which lead to your arrest) against your mother-in-law. You may be awarded compensatory damages like loss of wages and defamation of character (which is pretty hard to prove). This result would put a few sheckles in your pocket, but will certainly do nothing to bring any peace to the family. By bringing charges against your mother-in-law, you will effectively drive a wedge between her and your wife, which may already exist and will certainly be made worse by this action. You have to decide if it is "worth it" in the long run. It is highly unlikely that your mother-in-law will be sentenced to any jail time, so, put that revenge pipe-dream to rest.\n\n3. File action(s) in Court to prevent your mother-in-law from having contact with your children. This will likely not be granted, as one of your kids is already in her custody. The best you can hope for is that the Court will agree that the woman is somehow a threat to the children and will mandate that her visitation with the children be supervised. \n\nCourts make decisions based on what THEY perceive to be "in the best interests of the children". Judges have seen it all and don't really care how mad you are about what happened. Your best bet, in the long run, would be to arrange for family counseling. This action on your part will go a long way to show a Judge that you, too, are taking the children's best interest to heart, and putting their welfare ahead of your own agenda.\n\nI understand why you are so mad. YOU need to understand that your anger - while justified - will likely not get you anywhere given the way Courts look at things these days. Keep a level head and you will be more likely to prevail. One last thing - my own personal experience in Family Court is - the one with the most expensive lawyer "wins". Sad & disgusting, but true.
131010
girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
191627
Man, throw 'em away! You don't want your mother-in-law to know your an alcoholic.\nBesides, she might want to drink yer stash for the morning.
767935
Tough situation, but the mother-in-law always seem to win.  Don't feel guilty for not going out with someone who makes you feel unwanted.  Since it's your husband we are talking about, don't you get to spend time with him anyway away from his mother?  He's your husband and you can have your way with him  anytime you want.  Stay home and wait for him, speak to mom, and keep it simple.