Argument with mother, shes gonna throw me out, any advice welcome?
398166
She's not going to throw you out she's just pissed.  Give her some time to herself.  Stay out of her way. DOn't say anything to her.  When things simmer down swallow your pride and apoligize for being disrespectful and hurting her feelings but reconfirm that you didn't steal the money.  \n(I pray to God you didn't steal that money for real because if you did and she has insider proof you did you are soooo screwed and you are moving out)  Not now but right now!\n\nAfter that shut up and listen to whatever crap she wants to say and don't say anything else but sorry cuz  you are on thin ice.  \n\nUnless you have an alternate source of housing you need to just swallow your pride.  I know she's being irritating but she does care about you.
646436
show her you are mature by cleaning the house, not whinning when she tells you NO. help her out and dont fight with your siblings(if you have any). dont talk back.
458498
Since she is saying you can't go out, I'm assuming you still live with her. I'd say what you need to do is move out. Two kids, a FT job and school is a pretty big amount of responsibility, yes, but if you're relying on her heavily as unpaid daycare and free rent, she will be able to continue to lord it over you and with a certain amount of justification.\n\nYou're sorta in a position where you've gotta pick your battles. You can attempt to sit down with her and have a mature conversation about how far you've come and what your future plans are, and that you do have a lot of responsibility, and you need time out with your friends to wind down now and then. I personally would either skip the tattoo for now - make it something that will be a 21st birthday present to yourself.\n\non the other hand, if i'm right that she is providing room, meals, and/or daycare to you free, you really AREN'T being a full-fledged adult. My advice to you is to move out and BE a grown up for real. I can tell you from personal experience that ANYONE can figure out a way to make this happen. find low-income housing, check in with WIC for help on some expenses, get the kids' dad to provide some support, etc. there are tons of resources out there if you look. To be a real adult you MAY have to go on welfare for a while, you may have to live in a much different type of situation than you are used to, but you'll be truly independent and self-sufficient. plus if you are no longer a dependent on your mother, she can't claim you on her taxes, which means you'll be totally seperate from you and you can start applying for need-based financial aid for school.\n\nNow, all this said, maybe you already are living on your own, she isn't babysitting or doing other stuff for you free, and she's just all up in your business. if that is the case, i'd just lay it on the line in no uncertain terms. i did that with my mother and we didn't talk for several months. she was furious that i would stand up to her. but i was totally on my own - she had no reason to rule my life. eventually she realized this and we're great now. and in your case, she'd probably come around sooner cause she'd miss the grandkids too. anyhow.\n\neither way, good luck. parents can be more exhausting than kids sometimes...
422660
Ask your mother to sit down with you and talk to her.  Don't say "You", but do say "I feel".  Parents know we make mistakes but be sure to apologize, and be open to listen.    If you're to nervous to talk face to face and you're afraid  your mother will interrupt you and not let you get you point across then try writing her a letter.  Please though drop out "you", because we don't want your mother to feel like she's being attacked!
785749
ok, so mum is being manipulative as all get out!  \nthis is your day, your wedding, your life.  get on with it!  i speak from experience.  my mother pulled the same crap - do it my way or else!  well i gave in to her a lot and almost lost my fiance, [now husband], over it all.  thank god i woke up and stood up to her.   \nas calmly as you can reassure her she will always have a place in your life, and you want her to be part of your life, but it is your life.  \ntell her you want her at the wedding but will respect her decision if she chooses not to come. \nand tell your sister the same thing.  don't let them turn it into a discussion - you are telling them how its going to be and then stick with it.  \ngood luck kiddo, stay strong and marry your man the way you want to do it.  its your day, your life, your happiness - your family needs to realize that.
728706
You need to be honest.  You shouldn't lie as you can see it will bite you in the butt down the road.  Be honest and she will respect you in the future.  She, of course, will be upset at you.  You will have to pay the consequences for your actions.  Next time, call your mother before you decide to do anything that would worry her and ask permission.  This is a small price to pay for what bigger things that could have happened.  She sounds like she really loves you.  Show her some respect and tell her the truth.
233486
Turn her in!  No circumstances about it.  If you punched someone you would be charged with assault.  The rules do not change because it's your mother.  In my opinion, it's worse!
300614
Move in with some other family members but ask her first sounds like you both may need a copy of days apart. But you tell your mom don't fight with her, Moms love there kids but you to young to see this.\nYou will one day.
1140561
I assume you mean drugs?  Best thing to do is be honest and face the consequences.  Your mom probably will not "kick" you out of the house but she might insist you go to drug rehab.  Your mom loves you unconditionally but she will be very hurt, angry and disappointed.  I am sure she wanted better for you and expected better of you.  You let her down.  Expect her reaction and give her time to cool down.  She will then help you.\n\nIt is time to take responsibility for your actions, come clean and stay off drugs.  Good luck!
697982
Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
1160106
Talk to your mother....you need help
500666
Walk away. Either she doesn't care what you think or she is deliberately trying to provoke you. Ignoring her is the best way to handle it.
282454
no offense but,,,tell ur mother she  can go to hell,,,it doesnt mean that coz ur only her daughter she can control ur lyf....if i were u,,,i tell my mom its a pleasure to kill a mother if she insist,,,,,,ur old enough to know wats rite or wrong......good luck.........and plz. check ur grammar,,,u gave a headache....
781234
your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
493208
OMG!!!!!!!!!! I hate her already. First, tell her no calls past ____ (fill in the time). Say it wakes the kids. Next, if she goes to the store for you, tell her you need the exact change back, because you are saving up for ____. If she wants her kids to play with the toys, let her know that she can have them come over and play, (just watch that they don't leave with them). You have to be upfront with her and let her know that you feel that she is taking advantage of you. Explain all of the reasons. Ask her if she would like to be treated that way. Let her know that your household will no longer support her alchol problem......if she sneeks three beers out the back door that is stealing. Alchol (misspelled, sorry) is a legal drug, if she feels the need to steal it.....then she has a problem with it. Also, tell her that you will not support her smoking habit. If she is bold enough to buy smokes with your change again, aks to see them, then when she hands them to you, put them in your pocket, and say "Thank you". I'm sure she will wonder what you are doing. Say that she bought smokes with YOUR money, there for they are your to keep. I bet she will never do that again. As far as her saying stuff to get your husband in trouble....Let's say she saw your husband look at another chick, if she comes to you saying that, say, "Was she ugly? Cause I heard ugly rubs off. Tell him not to look at the ugly ones." (LOL) And, about bumming toilet paper, why would your mom let someone live there if she can't afford the bare essential??? Sounds like you sis-in-law has a problem about getting something for nothing, no matter what it might be.
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hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
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I am so sorry.\nI am sure that you can get a restraining order if she has threatened you.\nI had a mother from hell, but never thought about a restraining order, I would have loved to have seen her butt in jail.\nGood luck and may GOD bless you in many ways to make up for your mother.