why are people take for granted the poeple who care for them?
395679
some people don't realize what they have in front of them.they soon realize it once they are long gone and need someone.
513262
They just realize that it makes people feel good to take care of themselves and treat themselves special.
956274
How can anyone tell you the reason without knowing anything about you.  What care is it you need?  Are you handicapped or something?  Are you very young?  \n\nOr do you mean "care for" in the sense of "care about;" love you, want the best for you, etc.  An emotional thing.  The most likely explanation then is that there is something dysfunctional about this family; is there drugs or alcohol?  That catch-all term, "mental illness"?  Or is it physical illness, with no one who is physically fit to meet your needs?\n\nOnly you know why.  But do be grateful that there are other people who do care.  No matter how you meant it.
356789
My wife works with people with disabilties funded partly by the state. \n\nSurprisingly, these people are given excellent care. But i do see your point. \n\nI guess some of the human race forgot what compassion meant, unfortunately.
813462
It does make you feel better but ideally you are giving someone who is struggling a hand up.  Sometimes someone just needs a break - a little help (due to all sorts of reasons).  Could you imagine not having money to eat (or not being able to feed your child)?  Not being able to stay warm?  I haven't had to struggle with these things myself and I'm grateful. Treating someone with compassion is always a good thing.
585934
Because they like fame and power - maybe some people think than they can make a difference and help people - but they are either very few or get lost along the way.\n(Or maybe they can't hold a real job!!)
682186
Ultimately we like people who care about us.  If you care about someone they are more likely to take an interest in you.
128171
Not everyone is a bit#h. I'm not. I try to be nice and help people. You shouldn't generalize like that because some of us do care.
300878
that is a really good question.  Often times, family members know our weaknesses better than other people and they don't want us to be vulnerable to others who could take advantage of our weaknesses.  It's a double edged sword.  On one hand, you appreciate that it's their way of showing love and care but on the other hand, you want to be able to make your own decisions.  The truth is, however, that most of us don't make wise decisions all the time and we get burned because we don't have our guard up.  A family member doesn't need to have their guard up when they're not directly, emotionally involved.  They just get to be pragmatic.
455793
If they are doing it through arrogance its because they live in a world of superficial happiness. Feel sorry for them.\n\nIf its family or loved ones they may do it because they think you will be happy for them and vice versa, which is nice.
607662
There are so many people who should receive money (or help) \nand don't: people in charge of sick family members or spouses, people in charge of children with special needs or disabilities, people in charge of their elder, even mother with young children. I agree with you that families who have to take care of ill children should receive help or money, and maybe be put ahead of those with kids who have learning disabilities (as illness requires more extensive and expensive care), but I wouldn't take any helps already received away... It seems so hard to get any!
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I dont know if some people just feel they have the right even tho they apparently love someone else... \n\ni personally do not understand it.
903655
We are all guilty of this to some extent, aren't we?  On one hand, it is proof of how comfortable we are around our family members.  On the other, why is it so hard to offer them the same respect when they are so much more valuable to us than a stranger is?  We all should work on that, I think.......
261959
Because family is all about love, respect, protection, and caring for each other.  These things are important but because of the closeness of a family they often get in the way of us being individuals.  Family members do what they do because of the above things and often forget that you sometimes need to experience life for yourself, and the forget that sometimes they are wrong.  Love them anyway though because they are your family.
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being caring and nice
1125722
Thinking of ones self will take you very far in life in some areas. It maybe a lonely ride to the top but it is a surefire way to get there. If you count out how much doing the right things for others has cost you or people around it almost makes it seem stupid to consider anyone other then yourself but if you can remember how you felt in lending a hand or sacrificing something it really does mean something. To each there own and however it helps you sleep at night being selfish or generous are up to the indivual and there needs at the time.
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You sure do have the right idea.  Very few actually understand just who they are.  To do the most good for others then it is best to do the best you can for yourself.  Don't think you are selfish by taking care of you first.  In most cases if you don't no one else will.