is it embarassing to have herpes?
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Not only embarrassing but you have to make sure what kind of herpes you have in this way you can treat yourself and prevent from passing it on to others.
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no, herpes is in your system to stay
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I'm so sorry to even have the knowledge to tell you this. I contracted HSV from a boyfriend of a year after he had unprotected sex with some slut in Atlanta and then crawled into my bed. Now I am in new relationship with a man I've known for nearly two years. I will have to tell him about herpes too. After herpes, everything in my life changed, but it wasn't the disease that hurts the most -it's the stigma, hurt, and the inability to trust someone else. After the first outbreak it's pretty much smooth sailing except all those old feelings are brought up with every new outbreak. Three years ago, I had a relationship with a man who admitted after we had dated and had sex for nine months that he had herpes. At first, I was okay with it until I realized that he lied to me. He lied by not saying anything. He made the decision that I wasn't a person enough to decide whether I wanted herpes in my life. Then I wondered, "What other decisions is he making for me?" That was scary. Then Mr. I'm Getting Kicks in Atlanta took my ability to choose. He decided that it would be easier to not tell me that there was another person in our bed than to tell me the truth. Someone has already taken your ability to choose, but you and I have no right to do that to someone else. You don't want to go into your new relationship and have someone feel that way about you. Approximately 1 in 4 people have genital herpes and really it's no big deal. The stigma is the thing that ruins people's lives. If it didn't exist than there might be better relationships. I will be telling my next partner within as soon as sex comes up. Tell him in a relaxed setting (clothes on) and really talk to him. Tell him before you've had any sexual contact. It's okay if he's weirded out by it. Tell him, "I know what it feels like not to be valued as person because someone did that to me. I care for you and I want there to be no secrets between us. I have herpes." Give him an envelope filled with reading material so that he can see for himself. Then quickly tell him what herpes means, i.e. a noncurable skin condition. Try to be as positive as possible, he is going to look for cues from you to understand how to feel. Personally, I won't be choosing another sex partner now before marriage. I know this makes this harder, but I consider this a huge warning to not trust "Goodtime Charlie" with a go-round with my body. It's worth more than that.
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The answer to your question is yes. You can have sex with someone with herpes and not contract the virus. There are many reasons for this, one being luck and other much more in depth, having to do with the type of HSV ( 1 or 2) that the person has and anibodies that you have built in your system. \n\nThere are always questions of transmittability as it pertains to those who already have one type of herpes. As stated by Terri Warren, "it is true that having HSV 2 protects against getting HSV 1, but there is controversy about whether HSV1 protects against HSV 2 or not. There are two large studies with very different results. At a minimum, HSV 1 keeps the acquisition of HSV 2 more likely to be unrecognized. \n\nHSV-1 is the most commonly acquired form of herpes and is typically spread through a social kiss such as that of a family member. Due to the lack of immune response in children, new HSV-1 infections typically occur in childhood. Update: "Recent research indicates that HSV 1 is probably not more easily acquired than HSV 2. And now, the average age of acquisition of HSV 1 is in the teens, rather than childhood" according to Terri Warren.\n\nBy the time that child reaches adulthood, they will be one of 50% of American’s living with HSV-1. By the time a person reaches the age of 50, they will be one of 80-90% of those who carry HSV-1.\n\nNearly all HSV-2 infections are encountered after childhood when they began having sex. Those who have a prior infection of HSV-1 have an acquired immune response that lowers – but will not eliminated the risk of acquiring HSV-2. According to some studies, a previous infection of HSV-1 reduces the acquisition of subsequent HSV-2 by as much as 40%.\n\nA prior infection with HSV-1 orally greatly lowers the risk of contracting type 1 genitally. Studies have shown that the majority of HSV-1 genital cases are occurring in those with no prior history of HSV of either type.\n\nIn the absence of prior oral infection, HSV-1 can be spread to the genital area, usually through the practice of oral sex. In some countries, genital HSV-1 accounts for more than half of their entire genital herpes cases.\n\nSome researchers have stated that a prior infection of HSV-2 genitally will protect against infection of HSV-1.\n\nAnother common question is – If you have genital HSV-2 will your partner contract it orally through oral sex? The answer is most probably not! About 98% of all HSV-2 infections are genital.\n\nIf you have HSV-1 genital can you give this to your partner through genital sex? The answer is Yes! Though the risk is reduced due to the infection not being located in its “site of preference” which means there is far less shedding and much fewer outbreaks.\n\n\nIn some cases genital herpes transmission takes place when a person has an outbreak and has no visible sores at all. There are times when the herpes virus can be rendered active and run the risk of genital herpes transmission; this particular phase is called a symptomatic shedding. A person with herpes does not have to have an actual outbreak to actually promote genital herpes transmission. People often get genital herpes by having sexual contact with others who don't know they are infected or who are having outbreaks of herpes without any sores. \n \n\nA person with genital herpes also can infect a sexual partner during oral sex. There are those who believe that genital herpes transmission can take place by touching objects such as a toilet seat or hot tubs. Genital herpes transmission rarely if ever at all takes place in these ways.\n\nIn any case it is always best to practice safe sex. Of course the best safe sex is no sex, but in this day and age, that is unlikely. Condoms are absolutely necessary although they may not protect against all STDs all of the time. \n\nMy advise to all reading this would be to be screened for STDs with your partner before becoming intimate. This not only will let you both know where yo
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It is a form of herpes.
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you could have herpes.  call a doctor or go to the nearest clinic asap
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Herpes can be misdiagnosed if an outbreak isnt showing. It can be iin "hybernation" where you dont have outbreaks but can still pass on to others. Herpes is different for everyone. Some people can go their whole life with no outbreaks or knowledge that they have it. Most OBGYN's will tell you that its recomended to get checked out WHILE there are concerned outbreaks showing so that they can properly diagnose the infection. Having un protected sex with or without an outbreak is NOT safe and NOT reccomended. Its still possible to pass it on to others. And not fair to others.\n\nthis is a great site and you can find out everything you want to know just by reading. hope this helps\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/content/article/52/49874.htm
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No. \n\nTo get genital herpes you need direct skin to skin contact or you need to have sex with the person.\n\nSo if he were to use to toilet, and then you used it after him, you would not get the virus. It is not direct skin to skin contact. \n\nI was worried about spreading the virus to my younger brothers when I first got it. I shared a bathroom with them for five years! Neither of them got the virus from me and we didn't take special precautions like wiping down the seat after I used the toilet every time. You need direct skin to skin contact to contract the virus!
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Yes, you can spread herpes even if you never have any symptoms. \nThere are cases where a person can have the herpes virus and show little or no symptoms, often referred to as asymptomatic herpes.\n\nIt is possible for a person to carry the virus without knowing that they have it, in fact, up to 80% of people who are infected with HSV-2 show no signs of the infection. So it is possible for a person to unwittingly transmit the infection to their partner.\n\nThe symptoms of the infection vary greatly between individuals. It might be totally unnoticeable in one person, but cause severe blistering in their partner.\n\nThe herpes virus can lay dormant for various time periods, and may be in your system for a time period before any symptoms begin to show. The usual incubation period of the virus (time before any symptoms show) is approximately two to twelve days after the initial exposure to the virus.\n\nThe virus can remain inactive in the body for long periods. Most of the time when Herpes sores are not present on the skin the virus remains in a latent (inactive) state in the central nervous system, where it does no damage.\n\nWhen the virus reactivates (wakes up), it travels nerve paths to the surface of the skin, sometimes causing an outbreak of symptoms.
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I have no idea, but I would see a doc if it continues.  One thing I have learned:  nothing is too embarassing for doctors--they have seen it all and I am sure that they will not view this as embarassing, but certainly annoying and can prescribe something for you.  Good luck!
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It will not make you infertile!!! I can't stand the naivete of these people.  Also, with or without medication and even with the use of a condom, this disease can be spread.  Really do your research if you have HSV and learn to read your body for symptoms of asymatic shedding.
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Herpes can be spread through kissing. Anytime bodily fluids are mixed there is a chance. The only way to avoid getting STD's at all is bY TiTTiE FUC*KING! AND LETTING HIM FU*CK YOU IN THE NOSE AND EAR TILL YOUR BRAIN IS NUMB!
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If everyone in your grade had herpes would you want some too? \nHit the books and study, shorty. Dont worry bout all that right now.
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Unfortunately, the answer is yes! There is a common misconception that Herpes is only contagious when you're having a breakout; it simply isn't true! Herpes is always contagious...it goes through "viral shedding" this can happen at any time. For this reason...it is highly contagious! That is why some people say..."casual" sex isn't so casual anymore!
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Yes I have. My bf had this on his. He had it since he was ten years old. Before he was sexually active. It has never bothered me. A person can get acne everywhere, why not on their genitals. For all the other ignorant ppl answering this. Its not an STD dumbass. Go to the dermatologist. There is a specified cure just for this. And its not herpes.
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Its the start of viral herpes.\n\nCoach
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Women with the herpes virus infection can have healthy children despite the infection, and the risk of transmission to the foetus or newborn baby is low, especially if the infection is acquired before or during the first half of the pregnancy. It is important to know that women may shed the virus with or without symptoms and that they are infectious despite the lack of obvious symptoms. Your partner should do a blood test for the herpes virus and if he is negative, then you should consistently use condoms or dental dams.  \nI found this site, you can read more about it.\n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/hw/genital_herpes/hw264763.asp