Question for all parents  with children?
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She clearly wants no part of her daughters life if she hasn't been around in 3 years. Leaving it open for her to just start up visiting whenever she wants, could be confusing and harmful to your daughter. \n\nYes, if it were me, I would stop visitation, and may even consider terminating her rights, but only if you thought your daughter was in danger. Other than that, stopping visitation now, will not end it permanetly, and if she came around and was being good to your daughter later, then you could re-instate it later.\n\nYour daughter might want to know about her mother someday, and that will be a delicate issue. Hopefully by the time she does, her mother will have come around. See a lawyer, and they can help you handle the legality of it.\n\nMy eldest daughters father walked out on us when she was only 1 year old. She is almost 10, and he hasn't seen her since he left. Just the last few years, he settled down, remarried, and had another child. Now, he has really stepped up, taking advantage of getting to know her. Maybe your ex will come around someday, so give her that chance, but do what you can to protect your daughter too.
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Being a Mom. Also the most rewarding. : )
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Bad, bad idea...\n\nPlease, don't make your kids wear diapers... what a strange idea!! Just do the extra stops every once in a while...
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Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
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We use a time out! It is good to have like a time out chair! Also we use rewards for good behavior! We have a chart for attendance and then behavior all in one! Works great! They are so excited they want to get a reward. If you really have a problem -take the child aside and talk to them- depends on the age- speak with parents! Glad for your new job!!! Be blessed -may Gods face shine upon you and establish the  work of your hands-- for his glory! Go visit my 360  page if you can ! I would really like to keep in contact with you!!! Pray for me and my husband!   So much to pray about! bye
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I had a ex of my get it once. it was about 2 years ago.  I thought about it the other day, brought up the "what if" question, but i wasn't in the position at the time to devote everything to a kid, so I think of it that way.
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I think parents just want what is best for their kids and tend to go overboard sometimes.  I thought my parents went on too much and I still do!  I'm 25 now with two children of my own and I still feel like a kid, lol.  Maybe they feel the need to be repetitive to get their point across. Hang in there and remember, you'll be an adult before you know it and wishing you were a kid again.  Just remember, they want only great things for you...
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-How does your child learn best (visually, orally, kinesthetically)?\n-Is there anything your child is especially interested in?\n-Is there anything you think I should know in partciular about your child?
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an explanation to the mother/child thing please.
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really good question. i have 4 boys and 1 girl. my daughter and i have always been super close. she does so much for me, and is very loving and kind. my 1st son died a few years ago. my 2nd son is really good to me...lives down the street. he shows his love to me more through material things, but i know he'd do anything for me. my 3rd son is adopted...from birth...and is severely mentally ill (extreme drug and alcohol use while in utero). he's been extremely difficult and has brought a lot of fear, sadness, and trauma to the rest of us. but we've always shown him that we love him...he just doesn't have the capability to show love. sadly, he has chosen to live unmedicated, and his life isn't an easy one. he would probably do anything for me if i asked him to, but he has chosen to seperate himself from the family...it's sad. my son-in-law is very much my son too, and he shows me daily how much he cares about me...i'm very lucky to have these awesome "kids" in my life.
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Amazing.  \nYou are doing exactly what you should be as a Mom...protecting your children.  How did you learn this from a mother who won't protect her own...or even her grandchildren???\n\nCheering for you!
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This is a question for your parents.
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For my parents, it was grandchildren.  I'm always amazed at how mom can all of a sudden play tennis and go walking/biking/swimming w/ my little ones.\n\nAnd in many ways they make me feel like a kid again too.
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You go sister! Parents need to get away sometimes. You should had done it earlier though cause the first time I ever left my kids, I cried all night, wondering if they were missing me. You don't want that to ruin your weekend. But do not feel bad. Everyone does it and its healthy for you. My dr even told me one time, to find a sitter and go out. I'm a stay at home mom. He said that he makes his wife do it.
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This is a tough one.  You can help them to take it slow, help them realize it was not their fault (unless it was, which makes things worst). And if they have other children, tell them that they need to stand strong for the other kids who at this time need them more than anything else in the world.  And be there for them at all times, and make sure they know that.  Sometimes it is better to be just there and not to say nothing at all, just be there with all your love.
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I totally agree with you!! I don't understand people who have children and then don't actually take the time to raise them right!! It seems like alot of people either have no common sense when it comes to their kids or maybe just too lazy!! I will raise my own son, thank you very much!!
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Kids can be so confusing and frustrating at times! I have a 9 yr old daughter, and understand what you mean. I think she is just testing the boundaries, and wants you to be consistent. It's hard, and it's also hard not to give in to them just to keep the peace. But it's very necessary not to let her think she's the queen! I think most of us acted the same way as kids, and now our kids are doing the same things to us. Plus, when they see some of their friends/peers getting more than them, it's hard. I try to use that as a lesson as 'life isn't always fair' - she hates that talk! But it's important to talk to your daughter. Share with her your thoughts and feelings, and allow her to share hers. Maybe these links will help a bit:\nhttp://www.raisingkids.co.uk/9_13/pre_htp03.asp\nhttp://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=388910\nBest of luck, and hold strong! That's what she needs most - consistency and love from you.