wut do u do if ur boyfriend is pressuring u into havin sex but if u dont want 2 u think u'll lose him?
408762
dont give in to him..... if you're not ready, you're not ready. If he doesnt understand that, hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. the first person you should be taking care of is you and not anyone else. Make yourself happy  before anyone and everyone will be happier seeing you happy. If you ask me any guy that has to pressure you in doing something you dont wanna do isnt worth your time. its better this way in the long run. Dont lower your standards for anyone or else you are just disapointing yourself. If that was me i would let him know how i feel and if he is still pressuring me, i would drop him cause right off the bat he is thinking "me me me" and not "us"  and it takes 2 to tango. last time i checked it was called being a couple. Hope this is helpful. Much love
215750
It sounds like he's just really afraid of getting hurt.  I wouldn't say your relationship is only sex though, you've had some great deep coversations and have been friends for a long time.  I definately think there is the potential for a good relationship here.  The only thing is, he needs to be on board.  Don't try to force a relationship if he's not ready.  Talk to him about it, and try to gain his trust.  Sometimes when someone has closed themselves off for that long, they have a hard time opening up again.
414193
If your boyfriend is used to having sex with you, and you stop giving him sex, he will probably leave.  Maybe you should try asking him out on dates since he isn't doing it, or just breakup since you don't seem very happy.  Maybe the 3rd time will be the charm.  (It took me 5 tries to find the right one)
630446
Explain to your boyfriend how intense your feelings for him are. My guess is he feels the same way that you do. Trust me if they guy loves you and you and him are both ready for sex hes not gonna turn down an oppurtunity...or u 2 could take a road trip to a snowy area and have sex there...tht could always work 2 :)
440000
If you feel you're not ready, don't let the feelings of 'loss' cloud the way you actually feel. If you're being pressured to have sex when you're not ready for it, and he's leaving you because he disrespects your choice, he's not ready for someone like you! It might hurt now...but if having sex with you is the ONLY reason he wants to be with you, sorry, dear girl, but there's probably someone out there who will treat you with at least the same respect that you have for yourself.
852920
So what is stopping you? If you get into the heat of things, then just let go a little bit and let the hands wonder. It will come to you. You are right about not wanting it to hold your relationship up, so just relax some and let things happen. Be sure to make sure you want it though. Good luck and relax. That is the important part.....SAM
471534
I know what you mean. You don't want to hurt his feelings but he's developed a bad habit. What you do is talk to him honestly about how it's really stressing you out and the smart people on Yahoo Answers said that it may cause you to distance yourself from intamacy (meaning that it will hurt/delay your sex life which is NOT what he wants).\n\nIf you're at that point in your relationship, just pick a day/time/date where he can touch your chest all he (and you) wants, but that he needs to be a gentlemen the rest of the time.\n\nIf he's a good guy, he'll understand. Then whenever he tried, you remind him of his promise. He'll forget quickly, but learn eventually.
225547
girl say no. wat he's really sayin is "i dont want you as a girlfriend anymore but i want you as a sex buddy so when i get bored you will b there to cheer me up". he's jus usin ya. dont pay him NO attention
60536
If your not ready to have sex with him because hes not ready to commitment then you need to sit down and tell him that.  If he doesnt understand or just wont do it then too bad for him find some else that will respect your wishes.
638347
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you've realized you are not ready to jump into a relationship. We all miss-judge and make mistakes, he should understand that you were confused. I think he would appreciate your sincerity.
905699
Don't do anything you don't want to do!!! But it is good. Your boyfriend is completely normal, but don't feel pressured.
863527
Definetely tell him if you aren't ready. If he pressures you when you don't feel ready, you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him. If he's a real gentleman, he'll realize that you're worth the wait and not force you to do anything.\n\nAs for the fact that you lied, it would be a bigger deal if you had lied about being a virgin when you weren't. But, since that's not the case he shouldn't be too mad, and if he is, he is overreacting. \n\nGood job on sticking to your morals and not having sex whenever, wherever, you should be proud of yourself and don't let others eat away at your self-esteem. Doing something just because everyone else does it is rarely a good reason for anything. \n\nPeace and good luck!
518455
If the guy likes you he'll stay. Me and my girlfriend started having sex early too and she was having the same problem you're having now. She chose to tell me all her problems and she told me she thought that I lost respect for her giving it to me so easily. She also told me she wanted a real relationship; something more than sex. I love that girl and we've been together for a year a three months now and we're going strong. If he really wants a relationship, then he'll want the same thing. I know from experience.
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Treat your boyfriend as you would want yourself treated.\n\nThat is, if your boyfriend were in the predicament you were, what would you want your boyfriend to decide?  Would you like him to do what you are thinking about doing?\n\nMy guess is that he would not want you to do what you're thinking about doing.\n\nNow, if you break up with your boyfriend, that is another story as you will no longer be in a romantic relationship and do not need to consider his feelings when you are making romantic choices.\n\nOn the surface, having sex with your friend to me sounds like a very bad idea at this point in time.  If you break up with your boyfriend, I might have a different opinion.\n\nOverall, respect your boyfriend's feelings while you are in a relationship with him.
343467
find another boyfriend who doesnt put you under such pressure!
385974
hmmmmm  ......... ur fear is of loosing ur man and not of being horny ....... \n\ntalk to him n ask him if he wants sex ...... some guys wud luv to fu*k a pregnant girl while others wud simply feel guilty ........ \n\nin any case intercourse is outta the question n i m thinkin oral is the way to go .... \n\nur man is different from the rest n thats y u chose him so ask him n not others .....
1122297
Sit him down and develop a clear line of communication with him. You have to tell him how you feel and establish boundaries for what you are willing to do. You might want to give in to some of the simpler ideas, but he needs to understand that you don't want to be a human sex pretzel. Clear communication is what you need. If he can't understand have him take a good long look at your cast again. He needs to accept your feelings the same as you need to accept his, after that you compromise. That doesn't mean you give in, that means you look for an area in between that will work for both of you and go with that. Sex should NEVER result in broken bones!