How do to deal frustration and anger when having a heated debate with a arrogant neighbour?
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I have the same problem, My neighbour is also, very arrogant and thinks that she(and her family of 6) is better than anyone.  She seems to think that she owns the whole damn street...cause her hubby (a stupid stupid little man) and her kids are always on my property, I have now found a way to deal with her...I called the cops on her and now they have a record of their families stupid behavior, like terrorizing my dog, painting my truck, tresspassing on my property etc...now if the dumb bitch trespasses i will hold her for citizen's arrest and charge her and her whole family for trespassing....and if they piss off my dog once more I am seriously thinking of letting her go and get the S.o.b. that's teasing her...which is of course one of the younger children.\n\nFind out what your legal rights are...like I did, I found out that there are really good rules for neighbors everywhere and that you should look at your own by law place for answers...
767552
The easiest way to attack this problem is to put yourself in their shoes. How would you want to be told. In telling them you may find out there are things you do that annoy them. \nPick your battles. If it is something you can ignore or tune out then take that route. If it is something that is driving you mad. Share it with them. They may have done it for so long, it's habit and they don't realize there doing it.\n*Chewing food with their mouth open\n*Talking all through a TV show\n*Picking at their toes\nThese are some of my pet peeves. I on the other hand didn't get a very good reception when I shared these things with my man at the time. He took it as a personal attack, then turned around and pointed out my flaws. Hope you have better luck than I.
67885
Never fight in public; if you're angry at each other go separate ways until you cool off.  Don't tell your friends your problems unless you've tried to talk to your mate first.  Remember that if you discuss your problems with others, they will still remember long after you've let it go (and they will still hold a grudge against your mate; they love you and don't want to see you hurt.  Hold hands and let the world know you're in love.  Lastly, ALWAYS show respect for your mate, never let anyone put them down.
1120800
give a police complain......\n\nif thats not working too....\n\nset him up with other rowdys or rival ones....
373693
Firstly you should know that when anyone behaves like that they are being completely unprofessional. Never ever ever ever get drawn into that kind of behavior. You cannot win an argument by yelling. Remain calm, look the person straight in the eye, smile, if you can, and say.. I get the feeling that you are upset, would you like to talk about it, I am sure that whatever it is, it can be resolved.  This will catch them completely off guard and will probably get them to stop behaving badly.\nIf it is a job that you don´t care about, and you were going to quit anyway, let him have it..say something like..Who do you think you are talking to,you cannot speak to me like that.  If they have a superior even better, add that you will be speaking to thier superior. Stand up for yourself, because if you don´t, you will run the incident over and over and over in your mind wishing you had said this or that.. but never lower yourself to their level.  Stay calm.   and then slash his or her tires..lol just kidding
653436
Don't reason with a student when they are angry. Give them two choices and set out the consequences of those choices.\n\nWhen they have calmed down you may be able to discuss the issues raised with them further or find out what caused the outburst.
1037477
Hi Sajana!\n\nAggression is a possible result of discomfort.\n\nYou have to ask yourself, when being criticised, whether the other person DOES have a point, or not. A lot of time we get angry when being accused, because deep inside we know that the other person is right, but we don't want to admit it, since it makes us feel inferior to the accusing side. \n\nThe best way to go at it is to face the problem. If we get accused of something, while it might make us angry, we should tell the other party that we'll check out his/her accusations in order to verify whether we were really responsible for it. That way, we get a time frame, a breather, to sort things out. If the problem is really our doing, then we should look for a way to solve said problem, in order to come clean and re-gain the respect not just of others towards us, but our own respect towards who we are.\n\nIf the problem wasn't a result of our doing, try and explain to the other side your point of view. \n\nRemember, the fact that someone thinks you did something, doesn't mean he or she believes it. They might've gotten the idea from certain facts, but if you know you're not responsible, than just say so and explain, if you can, why not and you'll feel better with yourself.\n\nOh, and never suppress your anger, since it'll do only bad things to you in the long run. Try channeling the energy from your anger to things that are more productive, for example, if you feel angry at a certain moment, either take it out in a form of Martial Arts training, or channel the energy in order to pursue your hobby. Never swallow the anger. That's a big no-no.\n\nGood luck! :-)
979499
Pick and choose your battles wisely.  Stand up for yourself if it is something you really believe in.  Otherwise, if it's something he really believes in, listen, be understanding, and just let it be.  It's not worth the aggravation to always argue or that you always have to win.  I think its really important to only argue when absolutely necessary.  If you are not wanting to get into a fight; let him know, and stop the conversation.  Sometimes, later I'll even get an apology for it.  I just don't make a big deal out of it.  They appreciate that.
785448
Do the civil thing and talk to them first.  If push comes to shove, THEN call the police.  I hate noise pollution too.
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A spat or an argument between 2 or more people
829655
Turn around and walk away.   And never, ever discuss religion, politics or sports and also, whenever possible, mind your own business.  Do all that and you'll never be in an argumentative situation.\n-MM
422534
You totally can.  For starters, stop saying that you can't.  You must believe you can.  You destroy your opportunity to contol your anger if you don't believe/UNDERSTAND that you CAN.  If you're angy, tackle the reasons.  It may not be other people making you angry but rather... your perception of other people that makes you angry.  For instance, some driver is being STUPID on the road.  Who cares?  There are STUPID people all around... and some smart people too... and some mean people and some rich people and so on.  You can let things BUG you or you can NOT let things bug you.  You have COMPLETE control over your emotions.  If you didn't, who does?  Who has more contol over YOUR emtions than you yourself?  Understand?
445954
count to 10. while you're counting, using a very calm, rational voice inside your head, ask yourself, "In 6 months, will this still be an issue? Or will I even remember it at all?" if the answer is no, then finish the deep breathing and get on with your life...if you're still angry, get away from that person/people and do something to distract yourself--go outside, etc.
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just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
1178247
Be friendly to them.  Really friendly.  Apologize as if it were your fault, but not in a weak way - just say you're sorry, you'll fix the problem, if there's something you can offer them, do it.  Take care of it, but stay above it, if you know what I mean.  And in your mind, know that other people are with you, and that this person is just making a fool of themselves.  If you stay cool, you win.  Also, keep in mind that the rude person probably has major problems, and it's pretty pathetic that they have to take out their frustrations on someone they don't even know.  And if all that fails, imagine them as the children they once were, and wonder what terrible things must have happened to them, to turn them into such mean adults.
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plagaraize at first then put your words in where they seem suitable. you'll eventually get the hang of it or well...you'll yell and scream. if he's the one, he will get pissed, but stick around, if he ain't well, there are 3 billion people on this planet, gots to be someone else out there.
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just ask them in a polite way first by saying "excuse me but this is important , please allow me to finish" and if they persist then you have the right to walk away from them and continue your conversation elsewhere or if they persist you can tell them in a more angered way (in a nonviolent way of course)