I'm a newly wed my husband is in the navy how do I get over being sad at times?
414186
Go out and make friends with other navy wives. Join their clubs and ask them the same question as this one and see how they cope when their husband are overseas
874065
We were stationed in Germany when my hubby deployed the first time.  That was for Desert Storm.  It was hard being in a foreign country.  However, I chose to stay there and I'm glad I did.  The ones who went home basically lost everything.  They lost housing, sponsorship, overseas pay, contact with the unit and updates on how their hubby and the unit were doing among other things.  \n\nHow things work out depends mostly on you.  You already don't seem to be handling the stress well.  It doesn't matter what unit you go to or where you're stationed, there's games and politics.  You seem to be in a particularly bad one.  If you don't trust your hubby, you'll be in a world of hurt.  They'll play off that and give other women ammo to go after him.  Trust me, your trust and faith in him will have everything to do with what happens.  In 18 years, I know my hubby has never cheated on me.  I don't question him and I don't second guess him.  I keep him happy at home.\n\nI would suggest that you don't press the issue.  I'm sure the unit is following the rules.  They can't risk not doing it.  There's no CO or 1SG that wants to lose their position.  Things like  you're talking about can cause alot of scandal and ruin a career.  If you try to handle it in your own way, you can make things tough on your hubby.  If he has issues, he can take it up the chain of command.  However, it's not wise for you to interfere with the operations of his unit.  That puts him in for alot of stress and such.\n\nBe strong and trust in him and your marriage.  While he's gone, travel.  There's so much to see and do there.  Most of the time, it doesn't cost alot because you can get discounts or units or chaplains sponsor tours.  Write to him often and keep the letters up beat.  Try not to add to his worries and stress.  The time goes faster than you think and you'll find that you're a whole lot stronger than you thought you were.  You'll find your own independance and still rely on him.  \n\nGood luck!!
983837
Find a support system. Though a husband is supposed to be part of it. Get out there and make friends, people who share your interests and viewpoints. On the husband, make mentions of whats going on in your mind. He may feel as insecure as you do about living in this new place and may not know how to comfort you if he cannot do it for himself. Most people keep things inside and queitly seeth. Its rare to find people who can communicate well in a relationship. Find someway to open the lines.
421897
DON'T  do anything!! hoepfully you have not acted on these feelings, but if you have, you need to come clean with your husband. Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling,and what made you go out side of your marriage. I am telling you now, it is not going to be an easy task. But there is always hope. Pray about this situation and ask the Lord to restore your marriage.\nDon't Let the Green Gress fool You!!
688873
Being in the military, especially the Marines, is a high stress position currently. You're going to have to allow him some room to be stressed and to find a way to eliminate or blow off some of the stress somewhere.\n\nIn regards to him blowing up at the kids... be prepared for him to flip when he hears this, but record him. Find a time when it's just the two of you and play it back for him to hear. Do not approach him in an accusatory manner but simply, "Honey, do you have a moment to listen to this?" He may not realize that he's going off the way he does. Talk to him as a friend and confidante (you should be anyway since you're married). Be prepared to listen in a non-judgmental fashion and let him know that you feel the family needs help through this. Don't put everything back on his shoulders... sounds like he's already got a full burden. \n\nGood luck!
385469
Are you officially married?  Do you love the person your with? Were your guests your close friends and family?  If yes, then most likely, the guests were just happy to be there to share such a joyous event.  What the event looked like, or actually cost, or what the service was like, means nothing compared to the joy, happiness, friendship, and company that's shared on a wedding day.  If you still feel upset about the reception, invite some of your closest friends/relatives, and throw a backyard bbq or small dinner.  That way, you can share some special time with the people you care about without having to worry about everything working out perfectly.\n\nCongratulations! Best of luck with your new marriage!
431034
No, to be honest, nothing you can do, my hubby's in the army been gone for four months and won't be home till January of 2007....and my heart aches everyday and I still haven't found a way to stop it..sorry, God bless
525692
i undesrastand what you are feeling... i have the same problem... i won't say that you can get rid of it that easily, but it would help it if you talk about it with your husband.. i have my GF living abroad and can't see her or talk to her much, and i can't tell you feelings i had... but just once i decided to tell her and just that helped me feel good and safe... \ni know you care so much about your husband and that's great... so try to talk with him... he'll help you out deal with that. and just the fact of telling him will help you.
227421
Just do your best to listen to him, even if he doesnt say much about it. My best friend in the Marine Corps was killed while we were in Iraq, and all I wanted from my fiance (wife now) was a shoulder, if I felt like shedding a tear, and an ear to listen. That is all I needed. She was there for me, and it helped a lot. You will never understand what he is going through, especially if they were very close, but you dont have to understand to be able to help. Dont press the issue if he doesnt want to talk about it, but I would mention it, in case he does want to talk. Ask how he is doing, but dont try to get any details from him. I feel for both of you and I wish you well.
456994
support him in his journey through military \nit's gona be hard, but if you really love him, support him. but if you feel like you dont love him, dont let him think you love him and then dump him while away. thats the worst thing.
21314
I'm a military spouse and have to deal with that myself.  Of course, number one, don't fill your hours talking to or spending time alone with someone of the opposite sex.  That will make it too easy to at least have an "emotional" affair, if not slip into a physical one.  But try writing letters and e-mails to your spouse, bettering yourself while he/she is gone (working out, learning to cook, joining a club or group, volunteering, taking a second job, reading, painting, restoring furniture, taking an evening or online class, etc.).  I try to make sure my focus while my husband is away is on what I will do better when he's back - don't lose the focus on the spouse, or that will make it harder! - and on staying busy so I don't have time to just sit and miss him.  Hope this helps.
505826
...been there brother...it hurts worse than anyone will ever understand.\n\nFriends and family are great, but you know as well as I do, that you can only be around them so much.  Sometimes you just need time alone.  Try not to spend too much time alone.  I know, I still struggle with that and my divorce was final 6 months ago.  \n\nMan, I could write a book to you right now.  It is just SO hard dude.  \n\nWhatever you do, don't spend all your time thinking about all the great times, the great traits of your wife and, most importantly, beating yourself up over the situation, (kicking yourself over anything and everything you could have done better, blaming yourself for not making her happier and feeling like you failed).  THIS IS WAY EASIER TO SAY THAN TO DO!  I know.  This is the trap that I fell in and caused me to become WAY, WAY depressed.\n\nYou are gonna ride a roller coaster of up and down emotion for the next few years.  The low times are gonna be LOW, LOW, and the high times will be pretty good, believe it or not.\n\nWriting has become my happy place.  Actually, it doesn't really make me happy, it just releaves me of the pain that I am experiencing at the moment.  I don't always write about the divorce, feelings or depression.  Sometimes, I write about current events, events that really touched me, friends, etc.  It really doesn't matter.  Writing just gives me an outlet to release emotion without bothering others.
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
867922
It's only natural for a husband , or wife, to be feeling that way; especially since you two will be apart. It's sad to say, but since I live on a military base, you do see ALOT of that going on and maybe that's also why he feels the way he does. Alot of other soldiers may be putting "so-called" thoughts into his head, also. All you can do is be honest, sincere, faithful, and loving. Hopefully he will have enough faith in you to trust you completely. Being too jealous and suspicious can certainly pull people apart, also.
49971
What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Just because you are married and love your husband does not mean you are dead. I am sure your husband is not perfect and neither is the other guy. It's like the new car smell, eventually it wears off as the car gets older.\n\nBe a friend to your friend and keep it that way. There is nothing wrong with feeling for someone that you like and admire. Just keep both of your families in focus and everthing should be okay.
486837
The first few days will be the hardest.  My husband and I have been married for a year.  Out of that year, we've spent 6 months together. My husband  was in Missouri for 2 months, we spent 2 weeks together, then he was off to Germany.  Now, I'll get to Germany next month, and he leaves for Iraq in August, for a year.  You'll get used to it after a while.  It's all part of being a military wife.  Don't let yourself think about it too much. Keep busy!  Hang out with friends or do something with your family.  Try to stay occupied at all times.  Trust me, things will be great once he gets back!