do parents treat children different?ommy is successful but receives no $ then sis who does no work gets $?
406799
First of all, parents are people and therefore are no more perfect than people in general.  They can be just as illogical, unjust, and wacky as anyone else.\n\nAs far as why parents "expect" (maybe "wish" or "want" is better here) the more successful sibling to help the less successful siblings, I think it's primarily because of two things:  one is that the parents worry for their children and want to be reassured that they will manage after the parents die and the second thing is that parents would like to think that siblings will continue to have contact after they die.  True, handing money to the less successful sibling isn't much of a relationship, but sometimes even that seems more contact between them than a parent really thinks will take place without the parent there to be a link between the two.
495910
Basically, in the "olden days," the roles of mother and father/husband and wife we clearly defined. The male was the bread-winner, went to work every day, and made money, while the mother stayed at home and tended to the family and the household. But now, the opportunity for women to have professional careers has changed the structure of families with two working parents. Also, in modernity, it's almost financially impossible for an average, middle-class family to live on one salary: this, combined with the women of today's general desire to be in the work force, has changed the structure of the modern family. Now, all kinds of questions are raised: who will stay home and watch the kids, if both mom AND dad are at work? Should one parent sacrifice their career to stay at home and tend to the kids? If so, is it FAIR that one parent has to sacrifice, while the other can accomplish their dreams? The ultimate struggle of career/family has reached its ultimate peak with the changes that modernity has brought to the households of today.
332214
It's up to the Aunt what she wants to do. Child Services can be contacted and the kids could be put into foster homes. Running the risk of all being seperated. But unless she's the appointed caregiver for these kids, she's not obligated to take care of them. It's all a matter of how she feels. If it were one of my sisters, I wouldn't hesitate to help her children. But I also know that she wouldn't expect me to do it.
864624
Happiness in step families depends on a lot of things. The exes involved. How well you get along with them. Whether the children are willing to accept you. Sometimes kids hate you for no reason other than the fact that you married their mom or dad, and they already have a mom or dad & do not want you trying to take their place or tell them what to do.\nI could write pages about my own personal experience. But I will keep it short & just say that I didn't get along well with my stepmom 30 years ago, but now I am almost as close to her as I am my real mom. It takes time for things to settle & work out. It takes time for the kids to mature and everyone to figure out exactly what their role is. Kids eventually figure out that nobody is trying to take their real parent's place, and that when a step parent tries to tell them what to do it really is for their own good.\nBut, it can be difficult before you get to that point. It's how you handle things that determines whether or not you will ever be close & have a good relationship.
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In most states, NO! The government tends to only reward single-mother's who don't work. These women's sugardaddy, uncle SAM, seems to encourage single-mother's to stay at home and live on some type of assistance until the end of time, I say this because SAM will take care of them only if they don't work and never marry. And on top of that if they have more children, they get more benefits, crazy. There are so many single-moms, and dads like me that work fulltime with no help from anyone, I don't mind this but there are some that are on the edge of finances and need just a little help to stay afloat but SAM refuses because they make too much, or they own a car that's worth 2-3,000 and are denied any benefits. Help the people who try not the ones who give up. Good Luck.
996298
Well I'm a stay-at-home mom.  I miss working, I had a great job in the Navy that I really enjoyed but my son is more important.  I don't feel like I contribute as much because I don't earn a paycheck.  I know that what I'm doing is contributing (cleaning, cooking, organizing, paying bills, watching our son so we don't need daycare) but I still fell guilty.  I was going to start watching other children so as to earn money but I'm pregnant again so that's out the window (no one wants you to watch their baby when you're only going be able to do it for a short time).  It works for our family though and I cherish the fact that my son doesn't spend most of his waking hours with some stranger.
697104
you poor thing. no parent should treat their kid that way. or act that way around their kid. tell your mom that you love her, but your relationship is being strained. you are acting as the enabler. if the roles were reversed, would she seriously let YOU "mooch" off of her?
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I am the youngest of four, although 2 have since passed away. I was in a unique position because my parents were away from each other for many years. My oldest sister was 16 when I was born, my brother nearly 10, and my other sister almost 6. As a result, I didn't get to play with them as such, but they did become surrogate parents especially as my parents got older and less energetic. I was pretty well raised by them. My parents provided financial and physical support, but my siblings were the ones I went to with my problems. I don't think I grew up spoiled, I had to compete with nieces and nephews from an early age. As the youngest, the tables are turned now and my elderly parents need me. I still have the stamina I might not have had if I were older.
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well dear i work full time as a housewife mother and grandmother.  my pay is zero but one thank you is worth it. I also work part time and make very little but it is fun money. The joy of doing this is much more than the pay
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I feel your ambition and desire to "earn" money is impressive for an eight year old. All my kids did was to put out their hands and ask for money just because they felt they had in coming to them. \n\nHere was my solution for them. It seemed to satify their money wants and needs and also taught them the value of a dollar.\n\nSince, at around your age, a regular job was impracticle, not to mention illegal, I offered them this option. I will create a list of duties and chores they might do around the house and within our home. Alongside these items, I put a dollar amount, which I would pay upon their satisfactory completition of those tasks. Most were basic things that are routinely done. Others were tasks that would come up from time-to-time. Below is a sample list.\n\n1. Taking out the trash         $2.00 each time\n2. Vacuum and dust the house    $5.00 once per week or each time as needed.\n3. Wash the family car.         $5.00 per car, per request\n4. Clean the family bathroom    $3.00 each time, each bath\n5. Make my parents bed          $1.00 per day\n6. Do the Laundry               $2.00 per load (folded, of course)\n7. Painting                     Price Negotiable\n8. Cut the grass                $10.00 more or less depending on the size of your lawn.\n\nAnyway, I think you get the picture.\n\nThis will not only teach you the effort involved in earning money and it's value, it will require you to meet the standards of excellence your parents (your employers in this case) demand for their money. You see, in all jobs an employee is evaluated periodically for the quality of his or her performance. If they do really well, they may get a raise. Usually they are evaluated after the first 90 days, then every 6 months or year thereafter.\n\nPlease remember this! In all jobs, employees whose performance is poor or does not meet the expectations of their employer(s) (in this case your parents) could get fired or terminated. They may also be reprimanded for things like insubordination (talking back), misconduct or such things as not meeting the required deadlines. Things like these may delay "raises" and bonuses. If your parents are creative they might offer bonus' like a new pair of jeans or shoes, etc.   \n\nAsk your folks if they would agree to an arrangement like this. If they say yes, contact me and I will help you make up a Contract (A formal Agreement). This, for you, will be another great learning experience. By the way, things like raises and bonus' could be included in your Agreement with them. Think about it.\n\nGood luck.\n\nTennis Ball
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Could it be the dispute between mothers & non-mothers and how each percieve working after child-bearing.\n\nSome say women should be able to work and be treated the exact same and have the same expected of them as their co-workers.  Others argue that it would be better for society if mums could stay home and focus on raising their children insteadl.
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mothers who work are more reliible than ones who stay at home bcausei consiter at home moms lazy because all they do is sot on the couch and watch soap oprahs all dayintill there children come home.
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oh honey! The very fact that you stop to think about the welfare of your kids and worry about leaving them with a babysitter shows you're not a bad Mum.\n\nIf you need the money then you have to work...sods law!\nAlthough there are plenty of work from home schemes these days. Make sure you double check them though - some will scam you as soon as look at you!\n\nMaybe try and find a careers advisor that can put you in touch with some work form home jobs/companies.\n\nMaybe Grandma could be persuaded to babysit once a week or so instead of 'Ashley'...?
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I would have to say the oldest child; they get the strongest discipline from the parents, being that they were the first child. And they end up taking up the family responsibilities when the parents are not available, including taking care of their siblings.\n\nI'm the youngest child and I feel for the older siblings. They can get blamed for what goes wrong when parents are not around, even if it's out of their control. \n\nBe blessed.
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I would give anything for my mother.  One, she gave birth to me and two, she has given so much for me.  At almost 30, I still don't want for much because she will do whatever it takes to make me happy.  I have seen her work 2 and 3 jobs to be a good provider, so most definitely that would be the very least that I could do for her.
611781
no,i have a much better life than you, I am rich and have one sister and we have a maid. Also my parents don't believe in beating children. maybe you will one day be like me. hahahahahahahahahhahaahhah like that's ever going to happen.
414328
Ok, first off, kids are with their parents all the time, and do things all the time, and get tired of it. Kids who really like to work really like to spread their help around, and not just towads the parents. IF you feel she is responsable enough, sure, let her have a job. BUT! She needs to do it like everyeone else. She needs to start at the bottom, and work her way up. Just because she is a kid, does not mean she gets any special treatment. Now if she is not responsable enough, she probably shouldn't have a responsability like that. Keep her to doing things you are most comfortable with. I mean, who is the parent, and who is the child? It is all up to you!