I can't seem to get over him?
369296
GF PICK UP THE PIECES AND MOVE ON DONT WAIT 4 HIM HE AINT WAITING 4U.LIFE IS 2SHORT 4 U 2B CRYING START PRAYING NOW. PLEASE NO LOVE SONGS THAT WILL HURT MORE BE A DISTANT FRIEND DONT SEND MIXED SIGNALS,IF HE WANTS U THEN MAYBE U CAN BUT NEVER GO BACK 2 BROKEN GROUNDS SOMETIMES IT ONLY HURTS EVEN MORE THE 2TIME IT MIGHT HAPPEN FROM THE SAME PERSON.
660109
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
7858
if you really like him than go for him but the best thing to do is just forget him and what happened and go for some body else it wil be hard at first but you will get over him.
870044
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
919016
I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
98996
try to forget him , I know it is hard , but you will make it :-)
1043202
You obviously cannot trust him to be anymore than a short-term and very unstable relationship... it's best to refuse to go out with him. As for how you "get over him", you can try finding someone else that you like, or you could busy yourself with other activities as a start. As for the Jazz band performance tomorrow, good luck! I know you'll do well, just practice your part and you'll be fine. Take care.\nAloha,\nDavid
128212
It is hard to move on and most of us have been there.  The worst thing you can do is dwell on the man and the situation: what could I have done differently, maybe if I had....STOP.  \n\nFigure out if the emotions are in fact toward him, or the rejection.  Sometimes sadness can be overwhelming and you cannot differentiate between, was he really right for me and I miss him so, or damnit I was dumped and I feel horrible.  \n\nSTAY BUSY and surround yourself with people who can make you laugh, keep you preoccupied with an activity as opposed to your thoughts.  Try not to be alone...everything will remind you of him.  \n\nWork out.  I know it's one of those flippant answers like "get a makeover," but it really does help.  Not only can you release the frustrations, tension, you will look better!  \n\nSay to yourself: Ok, I'm going to allow myself one more day to wallow in my misery and that's it.  That's enough.  I'm better than this and he will not get one more tear!!!
173300
i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
971805
I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
221689
Aw sweetie you sound so sad! I know it probably feels like the end of the world at the moment, but it does get easier I promise. It's never easy to get over someone that you really cared about, but you will be happy again, with someone who feels the same way. It seems that this guy cared enough about you to tell you that it wasn't working, rather than lying about his feelings. \nIt happens the other way round too, and you may find yourself going out with someone in the future who likes you more than you like them!\nIt happens because you are learning about yourself and growing as a person all the time. It takes a while to figure out who we are and what we want from a partner and from life. \nAppreciate that we learn something from each person who passes through our life, good or bad. See that he just wasn't right for you and that means you are available for someone who is!
339419
You need to move on. You can't get over your ex because you keep listening to the love songs that you listened to when you were with him. You need to realize that it is over and tell yourself that you will never be with him again. Listen to some different music. Music that sings about a women getting out of a bad relationship and moving on with their lives. It won't be easy. It will take some time but, eventually you will get over him and find someone else to love. Maybe when you are over him, you can become friends and that spark might rekindle and you will get him back. But, for now except that it is over. Allow yourself to get over him.
289709
Sorry mate you can't - especially if you truly loved that person. It does get better with time but you still have your bad days and good days.I lost my soul-mate 2 years ago and I still miss him to this day even though I'm with someone else now.I know I will never love anyone like I loved him - I just don't think its possible.If you ever need to talk plse feel free to contact me thru my e-mail
817026
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
802520
I, too, am in a similar situation. I know what it is like constantly THINKING about him, it, the situation. I have not gotten any closure yet either. My advice to you is to contact him. Ask to meet up for lunch or something. Discuss your feelings. Life is too short to be spent wondering. He's not married yet. You never know. You guys could be 'the One'(s) for eachother. Evaluate your feelings for your boyfriend now. Make a pro/con list. GOOD LUCK and let us know what happens!
939537
i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!
990229
You will never totally get over him, but you can move on and find somebody who deserves you and will treat you right. He will forever occupy a small place in your heart. If you accept that and just let it be there, you will eventually start to hate him less and then just remember the good times that you have shared in the past. You need to take care of yourself first. Its hard, but time will heal this wound. good luck to you.