Can losing a mother (as a result of death) at age 13 cause anxiety or personality disorders?
370231
my mother died when i was young and my sister was about 13 and she is just fine
332063
When my mom pass away...i saw her spirit at my job. No lie!!! I freaked out...she was telling me she miss me and to enjoy my life. she visits me every now and then so I am not scared. She passed away 12 1/2 yrs ago.
610683
I'm sorry for your loss, many Holidays must be very difficult for you. If you don't feel this is too strange , when you go to visit her on Mothers Day bring a blanket with you and just sit there for a while. My Dad died when I was 13 months old, so when I need to feel closer to him, I take a warm summer day {Hopefully Mothers Day will be warm} a blanket, maybe a book or photo album and visit. Its amazing how peaceful it might make you feel. I'm sure she loved you very much and I'm very sorry your still so sad. I hope the rest of your family is a support to you. Take care and best of everything to you.
977386
No, I think it's a part of the whole grieving process.  When I lost my dad, I went through months of clinging to my mom and wanting to talk to her every day, etc.  The reality of losing your parents is what is scaring you; not you dying.  I'm sure you're sick of people telling you that it will get easier...honestly, it will.  I feel for you because of the holidays and all...it will be rough, but you will get through it.  Take care!
809212
I am sorry for you. I lost my mother 3 years on thanksgiving and every day I miss her. I lost her to colon cancer that spread to the rest of her body. I know what you are feeling and I hate that it hits me even more on her death day and on her birthday. I sometimes wish that I can see her alive just one more time so I can ask her if there was anything more I could of done for her when she was going through that. I was blessed to have taken care of her at home till the end. But you will always be sad for your mother because that love you received from her, you will get nowhere else. God bless you.
322965
No, but my Dad dies when I was 12 and my Mom when I was 18!!
331553
I've had a near death experience at a young age or 2 yrs. Ever since I've seen my dead brother talking to me. When my mother died I saw her playing with my very quiet children. My son has ADHD so that was unnerving to me. When I called out my mothers name she turned faced me and smiled. I paniced and ran down stairs and tried to call home. No answer and I felt sick inside. A couple hours later my sister called and told me of my mothers passing. But, before she could tell me what was wrong I responded that mom's dead huh. It freaked her out and me too.\n   It's a cool and humbling experience at the same time.
608690
I don't understand your question but if you have lost a grown child there is no real coping mechanism. When I lost my son I just determined to hold his memory in my heart and to share it with others. This way you in effect keep the loved one alive in the minds of others. If you are getting through day to day and allowing yourself to go on with life as the loved one would have wished you to then you are coping. I am sympathetic with you and with time you will get better at coping but it will always cause some pain, at least that's the way it is with me and I lost my son 15 years ago. I have watched his children grow and I admit that I took some solace in that.  I just looked at your site and see that you and I are the same age and that you have a grand daughter from the little that you say in your profile I think that you are doing real well. God bless
313641
Please remove the very thought that your mother is goin to die. I know its easily said than done. But if you are sad, naturally your mother will look more sad!!! Make her feel happy by doing what she likes!!! What she loves!!! Do not show the traces of sadness on your face. \nI too am praying for her well being!!!\nRemember one thing, your mother is not going anywhere but just discarding this body and going to another!!! All that matters is the SOUL!!! So, she loves you and so do you!!! She is with you and will be with you!!!
947406
There's really not much you can do to get your mom's attention back . She has decided not to care about you, and will probably stick to it throughout her life. You say that you have a 13 year old son, so your mother should be quite old . Usually, the aspect of having grandchilren will make elderly people forget troubles they had with their own children and accept them. But you say that your mom hardly knows him. That would mean that she just doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore. Maybe it's some kind of trauma she experienced when she had you and your brother? Mother's never ignore their children for no reason. You should really try to ask her..\n\nYou just have to learn accept what you are going through, and try not to act the same with your child. Give him the best attention and love that a mother can give, so that he doesn't have to live the life that you had..\n\nHope the advice was helpful to you.
606080
I know mothers can be difficult, but appreciate her and what she has done while she is still here. Mine died 3 years ago at the age of 42 and I wish I had her here to meddle lol
419998
I'm sorry about your loss. I lost my mother 2 1/2 months ago and will soon be going through a first mother's day without her. Because Mom was such a jokester and loved life to the fullest, when our spirits droop and tears threaten us, we share memories of something she did or said that made us laugh at the time. It's what she'd want to see within the family.. not alot of depressed and unhappy loved ones mourning her loss. It's really ok to laugh and smile.. dont spend too much time grieving over her loss, rejoice that you were blessed enough to know her as long as you did. Get the picture albums out and remember those things that made you smile and laugh. It's a great connection and keeps the memories strong of the woman you both loved so dearly.
960803
Absolutely not.  It is selfish of her to even ask.  Especially with your mother recently widowed.  Making sure you mother is OK through the holidays should be priority; and she should understand that.  I know that the holidays can be the most trying for someone right after they have lost a loved one.  Hold your ground.  Stay where you belong.  I am sure she will get over it.  Good luck and happy holidays!!
624627
Sometimes when I'm laying in bed at night and not able to sleep my mind starts racing about things and I think about "what if I passed away over night or something happens tomorrow" and I get that really worried feeling in my stomach and have trouble falling asleep. Death scares me at my young age. I wouldn't be ready to die now before I get to really live life.
307907
I'm sorry for your loss.\n\nMy father died unexpectedly when I was 27. \n\nI don't remember much of the first year without my dad, other than some pretty messed-up holidays.  This is a protection mechanism. The first year is the most dreadful, because of holidays, birthdays and the awkwardness of figuring out how to celebrate something supposedly happy with the air of absence and sorrow hanging over it.\n\nWhen people initially told me in a few years it would be better, I was furious with them. I didn't want it to get better and I didn't want believe it would--a part of me felt that I would be a bad daughter if I stopped grieving. As I started healing and felt less pain...TI worried if I was grieving too little. And I thought maybe I had grieved too much, as well! Very confusing. I felt like I was doing everything wrong.\n\nBut this wasn't the case. I was grieving just right for me. And after a few years, it was still sad but not heartwrenchingly so and it kept getting a little better with each passing month. I realized that I wasn't a bad daughter. I realized that I was healing and getting on with my life and that by going on, I was, in my own way, honoring my dad. My father has been deceased for seven years now, and there are still times when it's painful, but it's not crippling or scary any more. And I remember much more of our happy times, too.\n\nPeople grieve at different rates and I feel it is wrong to try to put a timeline on healing. Our society is very timeline-based, even if those timelines don't properly apply to messy, organic processes like recovering from the loss of a loved one.\n\nIf however, you find that your grieving is truly interfering with your family, work and social life after year, you probably need some help working through your sorrow. Books, videos, chaplains or ministers or therapists are all very helpful in situations such as yours.
354772
I had a close relationship with my mother.  We talked every single day.  Sure when I was a teenager she annoyed me and we fought.  But that didn't mean anything.  Once I got out of adolencense, I appreciated her.  Out of all my family members who have died, I miss her the most.
591493
Not actually liberated but let me tell you a little about my situation. My mom died Dec 2004 of cancer and it was devasting. However, my mom had always mentally abused me by letting me know I was not wanted, if abortion were legal she would not have had me, how I reminded her of my father who she despised,etc. So my whole life I tried to please her so she would accept me. Well I had been in counseling for years and basically was told I was in a abusive relationship with my mother! My psychiatrist told me I had to stand up to her because her deragatory statements I would never allow from another person. Well, long story short, she had become very sweet during chemo and never said any negativity. Well, she went into remission and the real meanie was back in force. I finally got the courage to tell her that until she could treat me with respect (I was 31) I would not be around. She had started talking bad about me to my son!! Well, she died 8 months later. Although I did speak with her the last 3 months of her life we never spoke about anything but her getting better. How guilty I felt when she died!! However my doctor told me that what I had did was NOT WRONG it was just unfortunate that she died before we ever resolved my past issues with her. I definately feel much more in control and powerful since her passing because I would never allow anyone to treat me or my son the way she did. Take care and learn from your upbringing. Don't treat your children the way you were treated and stay strong.