My  2 year old child may have to sleep at her father's house, even though she is not comfortable with him!
363757
get a lawyer. i think you could win with his past history and her being a baby girl.
457248
Hey... If her father does not accept you.. or her... or both of you... Then there really is not anything you can do... If ya'll love each other than that should be enough... You make his daughter happy... and that is all that should count.. She may hurt her father by going against his will.. But... Love is more important than Obediance.
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None, teh facility is privately funded allowing them to have your child removed from their faciility at their discretion.  Schoolds have stricter regualtions.  Talk to his provider about allowing him to do something quiet while the others nap or simply to lay down and be quiet.  Afterall you are paying them to deal with him for the day nto simply when he is behacing...it snto like hes biting chidlren.  he just doesnt wanna sleep.  Find a new care provider if necessary!  Most of them deal with kids who wont nap instead of calling mom to pick them up.  (They should credit you for the days you had to get your child too.)
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I have a degree in early childhood development and have dealt with many such situations. There is nothing that can "cure" the problem that isn't mutaully agreed on by both sides. ie. NEVER discuss adult issues in front of or to the child in adult terms. Nor should you cause a traumatic event to be added to by telling her that she will have to do anything that isn't court ordered. Your friend needs to discuss these issues with her father not argue or verbally attack, nor should she mention what her daughter said (this will make him defensive and most likely confront the child). Explain how it is effecting her behavior and that it was said that he had filed. Please don't......Then, and always she needs to be reassured and told often that she is loved and that daddy loves and misses her too. Just because mommy & daddy aren't together anymore doesn't make them love her any less. And remember 2 happy loving homes are better than 1 unhappy home. Also, everyone who is caring for her not to over compensate and allow behavior or regression problems. This will only grow into something that will eventually cause an unruley teen and a lousy adult. She needs a set schedual (routine is comforting) and have set boundries, with consequeces. TIP my son started sucking his thumb, I only saw it once, but I didn't use hot sauce as most people suggest because it would hurt if it got into his eyes. I used powdered alum and made sure I got it under his nails. If you don't know alum is what makes pickles sour and has quite a bite. It worked the 1st time.
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I agree with you.  Stick to you guns.  They shouldn't be sleeping in the same room.  If the dad will put the boy in his room for the night, she could stay in his room.  (I don't know how you will KNOW, but I would at least suggest that as a possibility.)  She is your girl.  Protect her.  I can't imagine the courts going for that sort of a sleeping arrangement with kids of that much of an age difference.  It is definitely a bad situation.  She needs her own space.\n\nYou might need some professional evidence here.  If that is the case, enlist the help of your pediatrician.  Surely he/she will know about the dangers that you are trying to protect her from.  If the child has a therapist, she could do a letter as evidence for the court.  Any professional that you could use as a backup resource would be helpful to you are you argue this out.  Go prepared to make your case.  Your local social services agency may be able to help you and/or offer some guidelines that they follow for these situations.\n\nHere are some links that may help:\nhttp://www.casoxford.on.ca/html/faq.html#8\nhttp://www.familyfun.go.com/parenting/child/dev/expert/dony127fasharebed/\nhttp://apu.3.forumer.com/a/sharing-rooms_post6015.html\n\nThere are so many more.  Try a www.ask.com search about Should opposite sex siblings share a room?  Or Google: opposite sex siblings sharing rooms .  I found lots of opinions about this.
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something might be going on between the two of them - but lets hope not. he may just be trying to get in good with her so that she will approve of him - since she's ur daughter - yet ur daughter is disrespectful of u and he plays along with that. yet i think family comes first so i think u need to put this relashonship/friendship with ur "make friend" on hold. and u need to work thru things with ur daughter. was she acting like this before he came along? or did she start first acting like this when he came into the picture? she may really need u but she see's u puting some guy before her. i have 2 kids and i learned that no one will love my kids as much as i do. my kids felt neglected cuz my male friend was getting all my time and all my love. i seen the sadness if their eyes and i knew i had to let him go for the sake of my kids. but my kids r young. ur daughter is at a grown age. she may just dislike this one guy in particular. she may want u to find someone better. getting him to copy her by disrespecting u may be her way of getting u to finally kick him to the curb. but if ur daughter has always been disrespectful - even b 4 this guy came along - then u may just have to look over her.
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You are not taking away your daughter from her dad..He can visit. It isn't healthy for you to stay if you don't love him. Ya can still be friends! good luck!!
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Find another stay at home mom in your area to spend time with - preferably one with a car so you can all get out of the house sometimes.  You may even be able to trade babysitting and get yourself some time alone during the day - even an hour or two will make a difference.  Don't be afraid to ask for help from neighbours and friends on occasion.  If my neighbour knocked on my door and said she was burnt out from dealing with a two year old all the time, I would gladly babysit for an afternoon.\n\nFrustrated, burnt out, tired mommies are not effective parents.  Make sure you're eating properly and getting enough sleep, at the very least.  Try to take your child for a walk every day, no matter what the weather.  The exercise is good for both of you.\n\nRead to your child - it doesn't have to be a book he/she is interested in.  Some kids just want the attention and like the sound of their mommy's voice while falling asleep.  You can read anything you want, as long as the content isn't inappropriate.  When I couldn't handle another reading of Where The Wild Things Are, my son often went to sleep listening to me read Carl Sagan or Robertson Davies.\n\nAbove all else, keep in mind that the terrible twos won't last forever - before you know it your little one will be grown up and gone away.  Enjoy your child as much as you can while you have him at home.
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Well like some of the other answers have said, schedual some alone time with your hubby.  Either at night when she is asleep or have someone watch her while the 2 of you go out.  But also you must include your daughter durring the day.  She really missed daddy when you were separated and needs to rebuild her relationship with him too.  The whole family needs to be rebuilt and even though it is irritating, it is really good and healthy that she wants to come and snuggle with you and daddy.  Let her for a while and then distract her with an art project and that you will give you some snuggle time with out her.\n\nBest of luck to you and I really hope that things work well this time.  It really sounds like you both want to make this work and are willing to try.  that is wonderful.
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Yes, you have to get a lawyer.  The fact that you don't feel safe around him or feel your child is safe hints at a serious issue.  The main reason for a lawyer though is to ensure that your kid is taken care of.  There is no way that you can do that on your own without help.
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I am afraid it is up to your daughters maturity. A five year old irl can be mature enough to handle it, but also they can be volnurable to the point they will be scared and you will be making a two hour drive in the middle of the night. \n\nI know people hate to hear this, but you are the only one who knows if she is ready.\n\nGood luck
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Just let her talk about it. Accept everything she says about the incident as valid & acknowledge her point of view. Let her talk about her feelings of fear & allow her to repeat herself as often as she wants. Bedtime will seem like a trial for a while, but by telling you, she is putting all her feelings of fear into a safe place so she can relax & sleep. Let her enjoy talking to you at bedtime. Time will come when she no longer needs to talk as she settles down to sleep. In years to come you & she will be glad you had those regular quality times together....
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You are ONLY human, and facing more tests and trials than most people do in a lifetime, all at once. You are tired, to the point of exhaustion even, and you need to be able to rest and recuperate some. Unless dad is abusive(which he is not), then you need to let him keep her at least part-time. You ARE NOT, neither will you be, a bad Mother if you let Dad help you with his daughter. I know it's a tough thing to do, but hopefully, it's temporary, and you can get better. Then you can resume your keeping and caring for her . Good Luck!!
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try the naughty step my daughter was the same till i used it give him 2 warnings if that dosent work put him on the step it can be anywere (but when at home keep it in the same place!) for 2 mins if he is two and three mins if he is three and so on then after the time is up tell him why he was on the step and make him say sorry it works just takes time good luck
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She is considered as an adult , so there's nothing you can do legally if she left with him willingly, the best thing you can do for your daughter is to just support her on her decision and when things don't work out, be there for her, let her know that NO MATTER WHAT you are there for her and that your love is unconditional, what you don't want is for her not to want anything to do with you and when things go wrong she'll be scared to come to you and end up in a worst situation.
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What do you think is the problem??? what is wrong with the dad??i do not know why the children cannot spend the night...i would need more information>>>>
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Whatever you do, do not stay in the same room or rock her to sleep. If you do, she will become dependant on that behaviour, and will not sleep otherwise. If she has a "dark" issue, or a "monster issue, try using a nightlight. For monsters, I take a bananna and put it in a paper bag, say that monsters LOVE banannas, put it under her bed/in the closet and after a few minutes say "Got 'cha!!" and say you got the monster, and there is nothing to be afraid of. And throw the bag away, so the monster can't come back.=)