what should i do? how do i get friends? i need loads of them and they need to be in my year! i'm really shy
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It's a nice symptom tht u r judging u'rself as a shy person. Now you have to try and come out of the shell. \n\nWords do a lot of things.. speak..\nAnd have that beautiful smile in your face always.. 'coz someone may fall for you!!\n\nBe happy.. do good.. u'll find friends come your way..\n\nAll the best.
667654
Being new is always tough. I'm a very shy person, so when I started at a new school I was scared to death. Try joining an activity that interests you - whether its the soccer team or the french club or the art club or the drama club or track. Just find something that you think you might enjoy - don't worry if you've never done it before. I tried out for volleyball, and even though I had never played before I had a lot of fun and made great friends. Just remember that you are not the only nervous one- I'm still shy when talking to new people - the other person is probably nervous too. Good luck!
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I would suggest that you get involved in a school activity so that you can make new friends and get to feeling more confident in yourself. Find a positive group of people to be around so you won't be lonely and you'll be busy with the activities too.  I was shy and bashful at one time.  The drama club at school really helped me.  I see why that person is an ex-friend. Even if something happened and the friendship ended, that's no reason to make fun of you.   Hang in there and don't become like your ex-friend - making fun of people. You be the better person.
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Be yourself, only then can you find true friendship.\nJust wait, someone will need you as a friend.
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hey! i just finished my sophmore year. so it's fresh in my mind. \n\nit's almost like freshman year, but you'll probably (depending on your school's curiculum) have more classes with upperclassmean, which is a great opportunity to make new friends. a great way to make high school in general better, get involved in a club, sport, activity that you like or are interested. if there isn't one you know of that you like, go to a club that one of your friends goes to. having someone there you know will make you more comfortable. don't be afraid to try new things!\n\nhaving something besides schoolwork to focus on while at school (for example i'm on drumline), like a club, will give you a more positive idea about being there. some of the best memories of high school i have so far are of me and my friends hanging out in the empty school during drumline practices. \n\ni hope that helps some! don't worry too much and have fun.
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i went to junior high far away from the middle school that i was going to go to, and my first day i didnt know anybody. but the way i started making friends was being myself. i know that sounds kind of cheesy, but its true i was hyper, crazy, and outgoing. pretty soon i knew a lot of people. i takes time, but u ALWAYS find some one, i promise, even when u think its impossible. just start small conversations, and then work ur way up!\nGOOD LUCK!!
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From what I read there was too much drama going on so that means......MOVE ON and make new friends!  You sound pretty young, so here's some advice...unfortunately in life, you will meet people who claim to be your friends when in actuality they aren't. So you just experienced that part of life early, so now you can just learn from it. Focus on school and important things. You will find better friends soon!
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Confidence and being outgoing makes one popular in school. People who generate positive energy (they love life) attract people the way honey attracts bees. In short people who are themselves earn respect from peers.\nWhat you can do to make friends is take up various new activities in school, get involved..have fun, be confident.. make the most of your young years. You will miss it!!Trust me.. Don't worry about having many friends, a true friend is more significant. Look for a TRUE friend. She/he will always be there for you but others can be decieving. So be careful what you wish for.
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why don't you try joining a group like the college paper or a team? something that helps you and others meet new people. just make sure it's something you like, if it isn't then you wouldn't make friends that you would want to hang out with.
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If they're friendly and your age group...Mingle with some of them.  Hopefully in a class or two, or just meet up with them in the hall.  Ask if they're a closed club, or can you be a part of the group.  Otherwise, befriend one, and just kinda blend in.  My question to you is what's make this group one you'd like to belong to???
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First you have to show yourself as being friendly!  Approach people with confidence, and a smile.  If this doesn't work forget about it!  I know a friend that will be your friend for life, and will never let you be lonely again.  GOD.
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Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!
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the higher you go in grade level, the more is expected of you. not saying this to scare you, but is a fact of life. keep all your old friends and also make some new ones. don't give in to peer pressure or become someone you're not. might want to consider some extra-curricular activities for social and academic reasons. just have fun and relax.
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I'm just finishing up my freshman year in high school. Don't worry! You're going to be fine. Get to know your teachers and the building. Ask friends who are upperclassmen what it's like. Joining clubs or doing sports are an awesome ways to meet people. And the best way to get noticed is to just be yourself.
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Make acquaintances before making friends. not all acquaintances become frineds. Don't be afraid to meet with new people, this is the only way I can think of.
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No, as I've gotten older I've found it much easier to approach others. But that's beside the point really. What you need to do is force yourself to come up to people in your class. Your teacher, and your friends out in public. Just start by saying "Hi" and go from there. :) People love talking and if you get a big "talker" then you won't have to worry about saying much. Never be afraid of what people think of you. You are your own person and you shouldn't care what they think. If you say something stupid, laugh it off! I have to a lot. Goodness, just the other day that happened to me and I just laughed. It's like walking into a pole in front of a guy you have a crush on. You just step back, say "wow, that was stupid" and start laughing! It's really freeing! Trust me, I have actually run into things around guys that I've liked in the past! Yeah, it's embarrassing, but that feeling goes away after a while and you feel more confident in yourself. Good luck to ya!
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Wow...you must popular.  No matter what you say, it's going to hurt.  Just be nice and say "you are cool and all, but let's be friends!".  Then never call them.