How soon can i start a normal ( physical & emotional ) life with my new partner after getting a divorse?
361678
Whenever your heart decides to move on. There is no set time frame for healing.
459055
The best way to help your ex get on with his life is by getting on with your life. Show him that there's life after divorce, and happiness. Be courteous, but not over-friendly. Discuss what needs discussion, like the kids, or whatever, then have places to go, and things to do...don't spend time in useless dialogue. Also, as far as property goes, settle that as soon as possible. If you and he have no possible reconciliation, no need to spend a lot of time together. Move on!
597555
My personal philosophy has always been to jump in the water whole body, that way you get used to the cold faster.  I met my now husband and new I loved him before we ever dated.  We were married less than 6 weeks into our relationship and are still just as in love as we were then, 2 years into it.  I think sometimes people take too long to try to get to know each other and then if they do get married they have too much baggage from single life.  I say just jump in, if you heart gets broken, don't worry there is a towel just over there to dry yourself and your eyes and the towel boys kinda cute too, huh.  Best wishes
1166836
i think its normal to compare relationships. every person has their special qualities you may not see elsewhere. and since it seems that your previous relationship ended not so long ago, i think its still ok to somewhat miss the other at times. you shared a lot and here you are in a brand new relationship. it is possible that you did not completely get over the ex yet. give it time. you must also give your new relationship to develope depth and breadth and meaning in a way that you never had. it will happen.\n\ngood for you that your hubby is being so supportive. he sounds like the one.\n\njust know you're normal and that its ok. allow yourself to feel, don't squash it (out of guilt) every time it comes up, and you will get over it. g'luck!
834204
Here's what you'll do tomorrow:\nYou will take 5,000-7,500 steps. Make them count toward something before they bring you home.\nYou will take about 17,000 breaths. Don't waste them on your ex.\nYou'll feel lonely a few times, you'll feel unsure a few times more, but you'll pull through them. So you broke up with your boy and you're not looking forward to a test-- don't look at it that way. Instead, you're single and free, and you're going to be sitting at the beginning of a fresh chapter of science.\nCheer up, and keep your eyes open for new opportunities. You're in a perfect position to seize them now.
301614
Yes.\n\nI don't even need to know anything else about the situation. If you two want to be together, you can wait until the divorce papers are finalized.\n\n:)
153465
Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
847543
IF YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR OPINIONS YOU MUST HAVE RESERVATIONS.  I WAS IN A 2 MO. RELATIONSHIP AND WE MOVED IN TOGETHER, IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE, BUT WE WERE READY.  WE ARE BOTH DIVORCED WITH NO CHILDREN.  I HAD MOVED FROM NY AND HE LIVED ON MY BLOCK, WE BEFRIENDED EACH OTHER AND CLICKED, FRIENDS FIRST SEEMS TO WORK.  YES, I KNEW IT WAS SO FAST, BUT I CONSIDERED HOW I CARE ABOUT HIM AND FIGURED THAT WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY ARISES GO FOR IT, THAT IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.  IF IT DOES NOT WORK, I KNOW THAT I MADE AN ATTEMPT.  I FIGURED LIFE IS SHORT, IF I DONT DO IT, I WOULD ALWAYS WONDER WHAT IF.  GOOD LUCK!
435759
My ex husband, he asked when i would get back to normal about 10 days after I had his baby
1155280
Hon, from what I am reading you really aren't ready for another relationship right now if you are still hanging on to the memories of your previous relationship with the hope that things will happen for you both someday. Honestly, the chances are that they will are pretty slim to none, especially if you both are not on speaking terms.\n\nYou need to take some time to yourself and sort out your feelings for this guy. You need to make an honest assessment of what was good in the relationship, as well as what was bad, so that you have a better idea of what kind of relationship you want in the future. You need to determine what you will and will not accept in a relationship in the future, as well as assess what you both did wrong in the relationship that caused it to fail. This is especially important because one person is never solely responsible for a relationship's failure; both people are and to move on successfully you have to take responsibility for your own actions. Additionally, you will eventually need to forgive your ex for his contributions to the failure of the relationship, as well as forgive yourself. If you don't, you will carry that baggage into the next love affair you have and nothing will ever get resolved.\n\nIf you rush into another relationship now, while you are still reeling from the other one, you are getting involved for all of the wrong reasons: you don't want to be alone, you are afraid of being alone, etc etc etc. It will be a classic rebound situation. You won't be getting involved because you really like the new guy. You are getting involved because you can't handle being alone or you want to replicate what you had (when it was good) with your ex. Relationships like this are DOOMED.\n\nTake some time for yourself. Relax. Read, or hang out with your friends. Write your feelings in a journal; get to know who you are, sort your feelings out, and then, when you are ready, forgive your ex and yourself. When you feel positive about things again (including yourself) then and only then are you ready for another relationship.\n\nHow do I know this? Life experience. I am 50 now and I had to learn the hard way. When I was your age I was involved with a guy who I THOUGHT was the love of my life. It didn't work out, so in my panic, I rushed into a relationship with a guy who paid lots and lots of attention to me. I thought HE was the love of my life, too. What did I do? 2 years later we got married. OY! What a mistake that was. We were married for 10 years, and after 10 years of his craziness I finally was brave enough to get out of the marriage and get a divorce. He was NUTS - verbally abusive at first, and then he became physically abusive. When we dated I saw these things in him, but ignored them. I ignored my intuition - my gut told me he was nuts and that he was troubled, but because I was scared of being alone, I married him anyway. Why? Because he was romantic. Ahhh, nothing like lessons learned.\n\nI stepped back, assessed my wants and needs, forgave him and myself for our mistakes, and decided what I wanted. 4 years after my divorce and a few lousy relationships later, I met my second husband and married him 6 months later. That was 6 years ago and we are happy. In the end it worked out for me, but the stress of a miserable marriage because of my fears of aloneness made me sick. So don't do it. \n\nTake time for you, and sorry this is so long.
1011939
Your story brings tear to my eyes. Maybe all you can do is emotionally fall apart. You need to grieve, and better now than having collapses when your baby is a toddler and getting on your nerves. It is going to be a whole new life for you, and you have to be prepared for some real suprises from him.  Get you court case ready - be prepared for even worse things - you don't know who your husband really is until you divorce him. Many men fight for custody when it comes time to think about child support - so be "prepared."  HE ALREADY HAS A NICE LITTLE STEP MOTHER THERE AND READY - SO STAY AHEAD OF HIM. Yes life is very cruel that when you are at your most traumatised you have to think about such horrid and practical things - but that is the way of divorce. It is the worst hell you will ever experience. I feel so sick that this is happening to you while you are pregnant and so terribly in need of protection and love. You have to starting thinking about the man you love as an 'opponent' now. It is easy to say but I know that it is a very difficult thing to do. Feelings are what thay are. What you need is to find people out there who will listen to you and let you cry on their shoulder. People are VERY IMPATIENT and they will expect you to get over things very quickly, so have more than one friend to lean on. You have a precious baby on the way and taking care of that baby (alone) will be fill up many spaces because of the overwhelming responsibily. You really have to find compassionate non-condemning, humble friends who can be there for you. You will be poorer - for sure so find some single mothers with babies - because they will be your greatest support system. Your social status has just changed dramatically - and that is one of the most difficult parts of single parentig.  So be "ready." I am sorry that I have very little that is positive to say. Just know that my heart breaks for you.
463690
When I divorced my first husband I swore I'd never get married again. Well, a year and a half later I fell in love. Six months after that I remarried a terrific man who helped me raise my sons. That was 20 years ago and we're still together and very much in love.\n\nI agree with you about the bar scene. I was fortunate to meet my husband through my family. Many churches have singles groups for adults. \n\neharmony.com seems to be a great place to meet just the right guy: http://www.eharmony.com/\n\nIt is scary when you first start dating. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and say yes to that first date. You already know the things that you don't like from your first marriage. Use that knowledge as you get to know your dates. I'm not saying carry that baggage with you, but it can be a yardstick to measure by. Take your time and don't rush into anything.\n\nOnce you know that you're going to get married, then introduce him to your daughter. Talk to her ahead of time so she knows what to expect. Let their relationship develop at its own pace. \n\nMirror.co.uk has an article that may give you some guidance: http://www.mirror.co.uk/sexandhealth/sexandrelationships/tm_objectid=16872368&method=full&siteid=94762&headline=will-a-new-man-upset-my-child--name_page.html\n\nI found my true love after a disastrous first marriage. You can too! God Bless!
197625
Yep it is hard to get back out there after being with the same person for a long time.I Have been divorced for over 3 years separated for over 6.If you just got a divorce you probably should not jump right into a relationship.But is hard to be alone so find yourself some old friends and hang out.If you are interested in a certain type of activity hang out there and find people with same interests.I myself cannot wait for the racing season to start at the dirt tracks....And am looking forward to going to hang out and drive the go carts in cottage grove.So hang where you are interested like baseball game... and find someone female that is interested in same things and build from there.I am also from Minnesota. Good luck.
534696
just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
84757
Sounds like this hit you hard. Sounds like you didnt know it was coming. They have support groups for divorce people. Try going out and doing something for yourself thats make you feel good, and dont blame yourself.
182901
Why are you so worried about getting married so soon ????? your not even divorced yet....take this time to enjoy yourself ,try new things, meet new people, if you find someone great, but this is the time for you to think about what you want in life, what have you always wanted to do but didn't.....this is your second chance ..... enjoy
54828
only when it feels right. don't rush into anything and recognize that arbitrary time intervals and milestones might put you in a situation that's not right for you. you're going to carry that experience with your ex all the time, because every experience makes you who you are -- so make sure you are ready to carry all of this into your next relationship.