Why do women say that a good man is hard to find?
367841
THANK YOU! Some women cannot be pleased no matter what you do for them and we as men get tired of trying and move on to someone else. Most people are not happy unless they are miserable.
201766
I didn't think good men get over-looked...you've got it all wrong.  It is the good women who are always overlooked.
370556
I think it means that she only has to find a guy she want's to say "yes" to.  Most women have to find a good guy AND get him to ask her.  A beautiful one already has the second part taken care of.
31334
Girl, it always works like that.  Us women tend to set our standards so high that when we meet that guy who has good looks, good job, great body, nice car, nice house, etc...we immediately fall for the material things.  What might help in this situation is to try and find someone who is not to fine, but ok in looks, not how much he makes, but if he is a provider, and hard worker, not Vin desiel, but cares about his health, not how fancy his car is, but if he has transportation, etc.....\nThose men tend to treat us woman like queens even though they may not have as much as the others.  They love you for you,and guess what.....you'll love them in return.
641697
You sound like a great guy to me! We can appreciate a good man but the problem is we may not have good men around us, so unless you live anywhere around any of us we will still go around saying that we can't find a good man.
903721
Shouldn't a man also appear to be "hard to get"\nThis shows either you are a "Thinker" or there is a girl in your life who is making you feel weak for her. Well men and women are the same, both have feelings.. there is no need to make it difficult to get but it apprears so because females don wanna be friendly with all males. They think about their security. Men feel safe so they take the first step in a relation
397715
Woman, do want guys with a good heart, however sometimes those guys are too easy to obtain and women sometimes need to feel like we put some effort into the relationship in order to make it work. i've dated my share of jackasses,but what i really want is a niceguy.... you might as well ask the meaning of life.
67491
women look for different things but it boils down to them looking for a guy that complements her. If she needs stability in her life, then she'd look for a responsible guy with a good job who comes with no baggage. If she needs some fun in her life, then she'd look for a funny, party-loving guy who will help her relax at the end of a stressful day!\n\nThe best thing guys can do, is just be themselves. The right woman will realise that you're just what she needs!
343394
Their static programming drives them towards sex all the time.  Any man who tells you otherwise either isn't being honest or doesn't know himself.\n\nHaving said that, some men are jerks, some are indifferent, and lots of men are good people who really do want to find emotional and spiritual intimacy with the person who is also the object of their sexual desire.\n\nThe good hearted should not take any shame for being thus.  \n\nTruly, women are this way also, though perhaps in a different proportion.
237613
WOW you some up all women in just a few sentence. I think most women look to find that someone that makes them happy physically and emotionally. Most will find just what they are looking for, and other may not but will not settle. You will find women that are perfectly fine with out this so called perfect mate or soul mate but would never settle they are just fine. It is so easy to put people in catigorys whether they fit or not.
490166
I have a history of long-term relationships but lately have had trouble finding someone interested in something long term.  Hard to find a good man sometimes.
383658
It's not just looks. How about charm? honesty? trust worthiness? You might say so but looks aren't all you look for in a woman, in the same way, that's not all women look for in a man.
56921
There are alot of good women left out there, you just have to take the time to find her she may be right under your noise but most men would pass her by good luck with your search
433007
sweetheart, it is not that they don't want the good guy first ...sometimes you just can't tell the difference. unfortunately for women, there usually are no flashing lights and ringing bells to let us know that the guy is one of the as..... out there.
891
Some guys never figure out what they really want & others think that the sole aim in life is to have someone that will sleep with them on a regular basis. There are, however, good men out there...it just normally takes them awhile to gain the maturity needed to be a partner in a relationship.\n\nWhy do they lose you & then want you back? Simple; some are incapable of seeing how good a thing they had until it is gone & immature enough to think that a little "I love you" will make everything better. They don't understand that, if a man really loves a woman, he doesn't intentionally hurt her...whether physically or emotionally.\n\nGood luck & keep trying! You'll find a good guy. I know they aren't all taken :)
186870
They have low self worth. They see the 99% that is "good" about such a man and forget the 1% of bad choices (prison record) which should make a difference. Everyone is "good"; you set your standards in the "faults" and unhealthy choices which you tolerate. \n\nThey maybe bend a little to other girls telling them that they're "materialistic" to want a guy with a career and stuff going on for him. \nThey see their friends date the same types of guys. \nThey aren't assertive enough to refuse the attentions of such men. \nThey don't know how to live with themselves or how to be happy alone. Or they're in the NYC or LA areas where it's too expensive to live alone and mistakenly believe that a boyfriend is easier to live with than roommates. \n\nThis convienently gets rid of many "nice girls" so that the gold diggers have less "competition" and ruin guys for their middle age after which they becomes a dirty cynical old men or "just after sex". \n\nEither way they get over it, or they don't.\n\nHopefully this didn't sound too much of a ramble...
861341
I don't think that having standards is a bad thing. In fact, I think it's great that you are looking for someone that you can form a meaningful relationship with. However, just because someone doesn't fit every single criteria you have listed here, doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a chance. Some of these things aren't necessarily bad qualities for a woman to have, unless they are doing it to the extreme, for example, the being emotional, and even being a bitch. sometimes, you need both of those. You need to look at the individual, and not just the standards, because often times the one you will love will have a couple things about them that you never would have thought you could have wanted in a partner until they came around.