so my dad is 50, still married, and is in his 4th or 5th affair.  and some are overlapping as well.  strange?
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No it's not normal. Sorry to say, in my opinion it's sick. Your mom should kick him to the curb, and take him for all he's worth. I am amazed at some of the answers on here, I don't know what kind of men you associate with but cheating is not moral and it's disgusting. No one should tolerate cheating. And seeing these answers from women, wow, what in the world!!! I would not even consider dating a woman who is ok with cheating.
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Yes, you're like me and I married a younger man too.  But the age thing we've learned to make a joke of now - we were 29 and 31 when we met, so perhaps age has something to do with the way we handled it.\n\nI still refer to him as my toy boy sometimes, and tell him ke's got to keep fit in order to push me round in my wheelchair.\n\nGirls mature faster than boys, and I just think he has a little catching up to do.  But don't tell him that, whatever you do! ;-)
176663
WELL I BELEIVE YOUR SON WILL GROW UP LOVING YOU AND HIS FATHER, BECAUSE THAT IS THE FAMILY HE KNOWS AND IS BLESSED WITH. ALL CHILDREN GROWN OR NOT LOOSE THERE PARENTS...AND MISS THEM OR WANT MORE TIME. BUT HE HAS HIS OLDER BROTHERS AND SISTER, AND HIS MOM, AND FAMILY TO HELP HIM. HE WILL GROW UP LOVED. AND YES ITS SO TOTALLY WEIRD TO BE INTO OLDER MEN. EWWW
1030334
Nah. My dad called me his little girl til he died. I was 30. My son is 27 and still loves video games. I still love to party, just not as often. My girlfriend babys her grown kids that are married. Enjoy each other and enjoy life. It is so short.
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how many 50 somethings do you see at the school gates??\nhe has done the bringing up kids bit and is now prob just looking forward to a easy life now the responsibility of bringing up kids has gone \nyou really need to talk to him about this and not ask on here yes you'll get a lot of advise but no answers, you'll only get them from talking to your partner,\nfor the record im 38 and would never have another child too old but that's just my personal view and not worth toffee
635855
He sounds like he never grew up.  I have a son-in-law who is the same exact way.  In fact I'm wondering if you are my daughter who is writing this.  Whether or not he's cheating with another girl or not he's cheating your children and you out of a family life together.
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Im an adult woman but I feel I can answer this question.  You see, the man whom I call my dad is actually my second stepfather.  He married a woman (my mom) that had 3 older (grown) girls and a girl in high school and a girl in elementary school.  He treated us like his own.  I get a tear in my eye as I am writing this.  My dad was always there for me.  He showed me the meaning of love.  He taught me discipline w/out ever actually hitting me.  I have so many wonderful memories with this man.  He died 4 1/2 years ago and I think about him every day.  While he didnt adopt me legally, he was my father in every sense of the word.  I miss him so much.  HE was the perfect father.
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After just being married, I'm sure that your mindset is that EVERYTHING should be together.  Seperate accounts is what he is used to at the moment.  This is all new for the both of you.  Give him a little time.  As time goes on, I am willing to bet the accounts will merge.  This is what happened to me.  I'm speaking from experience.  Don't push too much right now.  Lay low on this and see where it goes.
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Basically, I think your mother is right. It is your job as a parent to protect both your children.  This situation is not good for either of of them.  This is your husband's father but If he is not able or willing to stand up for his children then you will have to take a stand with both your husband and his father.  He may feel more for one child than another but he should never let the children know that he has those feelings.  I brought two daughters into a second marriage, had three more children and my in-laws never made any difference between them.  It never occurs to my five children that they are anything but full blood brothers and sisters.
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If you hadn't said you haven't married for a long I would have probably known. I think you don't "know" your husband yet. I personally don't agree with such kind of behaviours but I think this unusual thing you see stems from somewhere else. This can be a "sign" to you which shows your husband has some sort of psycological problem which should be cured. You can eventually find the root of this if you continue your marrage. Time will show this to you and it cannot be hidden of course if you don't get divorced. Its your decision. If you continue your marrage and live with him you might as well be able to help him. If you just tell him not to do this action and even if he doesn't, you haven't solved anything, you have just covered the problem. But of course don't go up to him and say ' you have psycological problem' he might get upset !
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There is a rumor that he was married to a German women when he was in his 20s but Daddy would have nothing of it, especially considering our relationship with the Germans at the time. So, the marriage was kinda deleted off the records so to say.\n\nI don't necessarily believe that story, but I have heard of it before in case that's what you're trying to think of.
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I know this is a hard situation...my biological Dad left when I was 2 yrs old. I'm now 32 and have never seen or heard from him. Maybe your Dad is just more comfortable talking about the 3 stepdaughters because he knows them better and it's something to talk about to keep the conversation going. You've come this far, I'd probably go ahead and meet him while I had the chance. Then at least you've satisfied your curiosity and met him and then you can maybe put it to rest. You never know, it may turn out better than expected. I say go for it...you never have to see him again if you don't want to.Also, next time you talk to him tell him that you have some great kids and tell some stories about each of them.
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Wow, I have read all your questions and I feel for you.\nI think the most important thing are your 2 daughters that it seems like you both love. For their well being they need to have their father in their life.\n\nI think you really need to look inside and really think what is it that you want out of your life. I think you 2 are mature enough to not play games. If you do not have any reason to feel he is cheating, then I will not believe that he asked you that just to fish for information.\nI think that to have family dates on a weekly basis, should give you enough time to see if he is really changing, and to find out what are your true fillings for him. Also keep up the counselling together and each alone. I will stick to the dates and the counseling for now, until you are convinced that this time would be the last time.\nGood luck
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You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
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He is old enough to be your dad! There are sound reasons why this is frowned upon that have nothing to do with tradition or society. The relationship could never be totally equal.
395181
This is polygamy and is illegal in many states. You should encourage your dad to file for divorce with your mom.
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We are in like circumstances....my husband is 11 years older than I am.  I'm now 34, as he gets older they do get more watchful and ask a lot of questions about where I am or what I'm doing.  I think it is their youth slipping away and they don't want their youthful wife slipping away too.