what do you do when you love someone who will be leaving you and you don't know when?
365478
I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
21788
Keep your chin up, and understand that will be a lot of time apart from each other. But if you really love the person, don't give up, no matter what. It is not easy, if there is not an official commitment to each other, but just keep the love in your heart no matter what happens.
371167
a relationship which is weak cannot last. Move ahead in life if he has already decided to breakup
592759
When you feel the time is right to move then go ahead and do so. If you don't feel ready then take some time for your self. Remember you can always find someone better and you did not have him in your life when you met him so you don't need him now.
744929
if he doesnt love you honey you need to move on and find some one who does and fall in love with them.  you can love more than one person in your life trust me i'v been there.  if he isnt still in love with you and with you then you need to find some one else and i'm sure there is osme one else out there that is more perfect than this guy.  if he's moved on hes moved on and probalby does not love you anymore...if he loved you he'd tell you guys are straight up like that most hte time.
999731
Think about the stress he's going to be under. He will see a lot of things he wished he wouldn't and do things that might stay with him forever. God forbid, but he might get wounded or worse.\n\nI really think you should ask him if he wants to take the lead in this. Would he like to stay in contact with you? Would he understand your feelings of confusion?\n\nSince you aren't in love yet, it seems like you should see how it goes. He might be over there a year before he comes back, and he might or might not have changed in ways neither of you can predict.\n\nI guess the main thing is to establish how you are going to stay in contact, and above all promise that you will be honest with each other in your communications.\n\nGood luck to both of you.
1104965
Well you can throw a hissy fit about him leaving and make him feel so bad that he stays but you feel guilty and he'll never know what he could've done if he would've left. Or, you can let him go and be totally supportive!! I choose choice # 2!! Letting someone go is really hard and no-one really wants to say goodbye to anyone.. especially their significant other!! Let him know how you feel about him moving but if he is going to move and you can't stop him, show him that you're the kind of girlfriend he needs in his life. A supportive and down chick!! Good luck hon!! i know how hard that is!! Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!!
414935
Unfortunately we don't usually get the choice. If it's headed to a bad place you can try and salvage at least a descant departure. However, if it's from someone you really loved you can't help but be hurt regardless who ends it. Sometimes it's just not meant to be!
214969
if its ment to be you will be together.\n\nYou should stop hanging out with and meeting him. He will miss you and if he loves you and if you are the one, he will realise it.\n\nRemeber- if you love something- let set them free. If it comes back it will always be yours. if it doesnt it was never yours to begin with.
92592
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
1070224
what he/she should do is to start to let others know about his feelings for them... coz it might be too late for him/her. He/she might lose someone who could love him eternally
308188
You have to decide what you want - be ultimately happy in the end by accepting the painful reality that he doesn't want you anymore and pcking up the pieces and moving on; or be miserable loving him knowing full well that he doesn't care for you.  A relationship always takes two persons.  If you love him, then, just wish the best for him, pray for him but take care of yourself too and go to a place where you won't be hurt anymore.
123436
What do you mean your lover left you and you don't know what to do.  You keep on living that's what you do!  There is no garauntee that when two people get together it's forever, sometimes it ends before you would like it to, but when it does you have got to pick yourself up at the boots straps and move on.
261834
find someone else to love just don't rush him give him time to think and see what he wants to do but if he doesn't want to love you then find someone to love you back
721765
he's probably trying not to loose you (for now) by telling you he's leaving.  if he tells you he's leaving he has to deal with hurting and leaving you.  by not telling you he avoids that. you're gonna be hurt when he leaves either way. he might be trying to hang on to you for now. he may just be protecting feelings.
1133796
If you are not sure if he love you, ask him if he love you its ok, but if he doesnt all you have to do is move on with your life. no use stuck with someone that dont love you
883314
if he's already out of love at this early in the relationship then let it go, your ship has already sailed, move on and find someone who will actually have concrete feelings for you and not be so wishy washy about them....