i need everyone's advice...What can i do to fix my friendship???
364707
This is a tough situation.  This person has been your best friend for some time, but has taken a big turn for the worse.  My advice is to call or write her, and without getting too emotional, tell her how much you were hurt when she didn't come to your Quinceanera.  Hopefully, she will understand that this meant a lot to you, realize the importance of your friendship and try to make it up to you.  However, if she doesn't even after you've explained how much she hurt you, then she isn't acting like a friend any longer.  It will be hard, but you'll need to let go of her.  You deserve to be treated better than this by your friends.\n\nGood luck, and if I can be of any help - just write.
1154444
talk to both of them, not at the same time.  first try to work things out with the friend thats like a brother.  fix things there before its too late.  then go bacl to your so- called Best friend and talk to her. ask her why she betrayed you. try to work on it. you can still be friends. i just wouldnt trust her as much as you used to
89155
All you can do is keep it real. Let her know that you love her to death, which is pretty obvious b/c you been sticking around anyway. Just let her know that true friends dont just sit around and argue and fight over everything and that you are getting sick and tired of it. Let her know that you want to be her friend but if yall are gonna keep fighting for no reason then there's no point of you two holding on to something that is no longer there! Everyone enjoys a good friend not someone that is going to bicker with them every chance they get. Good Luck!! I hope that you guys can work this out. Frienship should be priceless!!!
1067837
If your friend is really a friend and you want to salvage your friendship, I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you really feel.  You should let her know that it really upset  you when she did what she did, and that you don't relish the chance of that happening again, that it's not acceptable behavior from someone who says she's a friend.
1130192
well there's not much now that you can do..he knows the truth and that is good. You should just apologize to all of them and praythat their friendship isnt ruined because of this.
316088
Well my friend, looks like you and I are on the same boat. Haha...we're screwed. But really though....I think if you just keep up a long term friendship eventually something will happen.
641187
she has a bad issue and getting friends i bet? sweetie you just have to slowly slack from her, so she can get the hint, and also tell first and see how she acts by telling her how you feel about the friendship you both have. tell her that to listen to u for a moment and let her know. u seem sweet to let a friend hurt you. be sweet and don't stoop to her level.be straight foward. if he doesn't work and she bitch at you. then she is not a true friend. you can find better.
253215
I think your instinct is totally on. Let sleeping dogs lie. Now, how do we stop the propaganda that happened years ago? You have to prove to these people and show them the real you. Your peers must be part elephant, for them to remember and hang on to, 2 year old gossip! Are you sure that someone isn't keeping the gossip alive by some chance? That may be your problem. Any how, talk is cheap. Action speak louder than words. When you go to school Monday, you raise your head high, brush your pearly whites and smile. Make eye contact and start saying hi. If the chance presents itself, do favors or small tasks that could help them out. Waiting this long to try to correct a problem has put you in a bad position. But not a permanent position. Following this simple guide line, you will be alright. As far as your friend, the next time something like this happens, talk to her right away. It sounds like to me, she could be jealous of you, and want you to be her friend alone. But you can change that too. Just include her in with the things you and your new friends will be doing. Now its all left up to you, to take charge and end this once and for all. You go Girrrl.........!
888406
i wuld be real honest with her but also remember to be kind.it's alot harder to do then say i know.i am in a similar situation & it's never easy when it comes to ur friends.it culd be that ur friend is having a hard time & need sometime right now.she knows ur there & that's good.that's what friendship is.\ntake care,\nang w.
141388
Be there for them...and let them know how important they are to you and that you enjoy hanging out with them and that you value their opinion...and every now and then do something unexpected to let them know how much they mean to you....just remind them how much you appreciate the friendship.
334554
I tell my best friend everything. And she tells me everything. Why do you need a friend to talk to? jm_potter1957@yahoo.com If so e-mail me
684916
you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.
681456
Sit down with her,at a table. Privately. Put all the cards(sorta speak) on the table. REFRESH your FRIENDSHIP. Just like the computer REFRESH. Start over even with introductions. (this will stir a giggle or smile) Shake hands. Apologize to each other...hug.Vow to each other ..never to take the dishonest road again. True friends hold no secrets, if somebody wants to share a "SECRET" shun it. Remember the burns from the last time.\nBlessings to you .
518089
Tell him that life isn't as bad as it seems. He needs to look at the bright side of eveerything. Do you really want to stop being his friend because he is someone who doesn't see the good of things? Think about it. You said you were friends. Don't let him go because of his problems. Help him through it. Make your friend let him know gently that they don't have a chance. Just do things lightly, and think more about him. Don't ditch the dude for his personal things he needs to take care of.
264439
Just do it.  Man up, pal and your friend will at least have to talk to you.  If things get worse, then you know you tried to resolve the issue.
186484
I am so very sorry for your lose. But as the saying goes, Time heals all wounds. And No, I am not trying to be funny. It will take time and as that time passes, keep in mind that your bestfirend is in a far better place and holding a seat for you when your time comes. When you can sit down and have a conversation with your friend. You'd be amazed at how well this works at times. I truly believe that your conversation will be heard. It will also help if you sit down with another friend who also knew this bestfriend. Maybe not as well or as close as you were, but someone who knew your bestfriend. It does help to bring closer.
485400
If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.