I met someone when i was 28 and he was 21 , my mom and dad do not like him?
366094
A word of advise from a grown up person is sometimes good enough to show you what could be in stock! But I dont believe this person cant change not to be bad tempered as this could be a hinderance in your relationship. Think about it and when you see that you can handle the heat; then why not being around with him
365695
At one point in time if you asked me this question i would have said you aren't wrong, but after some life experiance i have to say now you are. I was very hurt and lost when my parents got divorced, my mother started dating her old high school sweetheart almost immediately, i was moved not only from the home i knew, but also from the state i'd lived in all my life. I was rude and hurtful to this man and in the long run he abandoned my mother. Now 13 years later, i often look back and wonder if it weren't for my actions would he still have left her? Even though we all want our parents to be together, sometimes it just isn't possible for two people to be together and be happy. No matter what both your mom and dad have the right to be happy, and if this new man in your mom's life makes her happy, then you should at least respect him for making a positive change in your mother's life. You don't have to like him, but think of how he feels in this situation. He is just trying to be with your mom and be happy, he isn't trying to replace your father, i hope, and if anything he just wants to be accepted as is. i also married a man who had been married once before with two children, at first i had some difficulty with the oldest child saying some very hurtful things, it was a very difficult situation to handle, but i knew from my experiance in the past he was going through a hard time and i gave him his space and things worked out. I have seen and lived in both situations, and what you are doing will not benefit anyone, including you. Happiness is like perfume, you can't spray it on yourself without getting a little on everyone else, so try to be happy for your mom, and as for your dad he will find happiness elsewhere it will just take some time.
472128
I lived this situation for 10 long years!  Sometimes, parents have a valid reason for disliking their daughter's man.  How does he treat you?  Does he take care of his child?  Does he hold a job?  If it's just about social status I would tell your parents that it's your life and your decision and stick to it!  If there are valid reasons for their opinion perhaps you should re-examine your choice.
1008264
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
518724
Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
1019996
Because they've been there and done it - good or bad your elders deserve respect.  You may not like the person, personally but he/she deserves your respect if there's a big age difference.  While what Gus brought up may be digusting and distasteful to you - edging a bit on sexual harrassment (if there are any ladies around) - he's an old guy reliving his glory days.  Sorry to burst your bubble but belive me you'll be there a whole lot sooner than you'll ever expect.  Give the old guy a break. When you grow up you'll understand.
355997
my mom didnt like my bf but im with him anyway. she will either grow to like him or not. whatever you do, dont run away to be with him. that could totally mess up your life. just stick it out and see what happens.
788537
The time to discuss these issues is when your dad comes to pick you up or drop you off to your mom's ... just as you will change boyfriends when you start to date til you find one you really like, he has divorced your mother because of differences between them and found someone he likes better.  its not about you and you should not approach this as a competition between you and your stepmother.  Usually the reason step parents don't get along with their kids is because they are both competing for the attention of the husband/father.  She has a responsibility as a parent to help you grow up safely and she also needs to be treated as a "mom" by you two kids.  That means you should not exclude her and only talk to your father, This is an extended family. You can choose to be part of it or you can choose to fight against it for the attention of your father.  This is not fair to anyone, not you, not her and not your dad.  You might even sit down with her and ask her what her expectations are of you two kids so you know where her thinking is  in this relationship
997983
well, my mom is the same way and im 13!!! i tell her that he is just a friend and she trusts me so just say that he is a friend, and if your parents are around, don't show any emotions toward him like hugging or cuddling!!
905577
You didn't say your age, but I'm assuming you still live at home--hense the "grounding".    Parents have reasons for why we do things.  Sometimes they may sound silly and unreasonable to our children.  But, you need to respect your parents wishes and avoid that friend.  Perhaps in the future you will understand why your parents want you away from that person.
338555
Older but not old enough to be my dad.
1143379
No, Don't get offended. Sometimes a son always see the person that is with their father as someone who is trying 2 replace their mom. But, at the same time, he does what to show his dad that he loves him. That said, does not mean he don't like u. He just loves his father more, & the wife is gonna go with whatever works for her husband.
1016929
I think in a few years you will regret that he is so old.  Go out with your friends, party, be young and have fun!!  \nHe is old enough to be your dad, and in a few years you will probably think he is acting more like your dad than you want him to.
987436
It sounds like he isnt very mature- you should talk to your mom and let you know how you feel. It is possible he twisted the story to make himself look better and that isnt right. I cant really say because one of my ex's used to do the same thing and my mother would never side with him unless she heard my side first. I'm her daughter and she wouldnt betray me like that. I think they both have issues. Talk to her.
99405
Sure,go out with him. You have to like him first. If your parents don't like him,you can't bring him home. It all depends on you. If you respect your parents (and you should) find out why they don't like him. Then work on correcting that feeling. You will do this if the guy means enough to you. If he doesn,t,then move on. Good Luck!
75100
dump the loser! If he wants to grow up and have an adult relationship with his children, he will. If not, you must instill them with values that will prevent them from becoming like their father. They WON'T HATE YOU IF YOU ARE LOVING MOTHER unless you spend your life obsessing about what a bum their dad was.
633327
a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck