I want to have a baby with my older parter, but how is best to approach it?
362468
Well being open and honest is the best, if you really want to have a child  then talk to him about it, just let him know that this is what you want, and ask him his oppion on it, it is better to be open about these things,
767362
Just let things take their natural course, and you'll be surprised!\nLet him come after you, after you have the baby, it is quite likely he will. Just let it happen. Relax and good luck with your baby.
976356
That my  friend could be a veryyyy tricky -situation to step into . # 1.) You two have been friends since highschool ( however long that was). And if the "chemistry" just wasn't there between you two then  to share a relationship... what  makes you think that now (& two kids later )  would be anymore of an opportune or better time for yous to get together ?   #2.) Do either  of you really want to take the chance of ruining an obviously good & workable friendship for the sake  of wanting to be more "intimately" involved ??  And perhaps even more importantly ; you are both involved in a relationship already . Whether either  of you are un-happy in ur current relationship or not... still i would suggest that you both first try addressing your matters at home & within ur present relationships before even considering getting together . No need for either of yous to bring "bad" luggage with you over into the next relationship.  \nAnd , even more important for yourself my friend; if you are really not  ready to "fill in the Shoes" of the actual father of that woman's children.... then do stop fooling yourself into thinking that you two will ever really be happy with each other as well. \nBut, in any event  I do  wish all parties involved the very best .
508223
They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
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If you do not even know how your partner can get pregnant, how did you team-up in the first place ?!\nAnd considering the fact that all your Questions till now are focusing on 'pregnancy', anyone will suspect that you are actually just a 6-7 year-old kid !
912434
Get married, or have a baby.  It worked wonders for my wife.
372211
Give the baby up for adoption. you will be suprised to find out how many woen cant have kids and would love you child very well. You might be able to find financial aid in the process or establish an open adoption where you are involved as well!
608088
baby keep them both..y decide when u can have it all!
1028986
Well being that you used the word appropriate to ask this question I will assume you do not care about the actual legal age. First you should make sure he is not the right guy, but a good guy you know the responsible type. Usually these are the ones that take precautions, and they take their time with you. Most importantly you should do it because you feel it is the right time for you no one else can know this but you. You should always make sure that the other person is clean, and you should talk to him about it first if you feel ready. I will give you an example. \n  I had sex when I was 16. With a guy I only knew for a couple of weeks. And I tell you the honest true 4 years later now we are married, and we are planning on having our first child. It was not that way with my Mother you she she had sex when she was 16, and got pregnant with me, and my biological father left her to raise me alone. My aunt had sex the first time when she was 19, and by the time she ended up with th second child with her partner they split up. So you see it is different for every one. It all depends on you, and your partner. I hope this helps, and I wish you the best luck.
896311
just do it, it is better for the baby, the rest does not matter for 18 years.
1180116
I agree with most people in this forum ... you're never too old.   \n\nWomen are often cautioned, however, about planning to have children once they reach their late 30s and hit 40 since the chances of giving birth to a child with a genetic anomaly (ex. Down's Syndrome) increases quite dramatically.  You can still bear a child if you're willing to accept the risk or can adopt and, of course, you can marry at any age you feel like.
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Book her an appointment for a pregnancy massage. She will feel like a new woman trust me. This is one of those anniversaries where the hubby is to pamper the wife...sorry. But maybe you can go out to dinner where you had your first date like my hubby did. Very romantic. Just let her know how much you appreciate her and be very sympathetic of carrying a baby (it is very hard in the last months). just a couple of suggestions!
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then you become a woman and either make the choose to keep it or, adopte it out , or abortion.  (which i'm against).  if you decide to keep the baby. then be a woman and take care of . who says you have ot have the other half to take care of a child.. then as far has him saying its'not his. child support hun. they will give you a partentiy test.. i hate men that are all there for you until you get knocked up,, then they don't want nothing to do wit you.. ass holes..  but you gottta make the right decesion for you. whats best for you .. i know were your coming from i'm a mother of 5 .. two of my kids don't even know thier dad..
189509
fly anyway and go home if that's what you truely want.  trust me, i know- it's not alright to be alone while having a baby. be with family or real friends.  otherwise fly someone you know out to you.
1094047
have the baby. you should have waited till marraige.  shame on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
438860
What if she is your one true love?\nI say go for it, because true love doesn't come around much these days and when it does, people are usually too distracted with whatever is going on in their lives to notice anyway.\nBUT if she did have the baby and kept it, be prepared to be a part of that kid's life. That is a major commitment. It adds a completely different dynamic to the relationship, it'll still be worth it if she really did satisfy you the way you say she did though.\nAs for this other guy, you say you USED TO call him so, you have no obligation to him. F*ck him. Just make 100% sure that she feels the same way about you after all this time before you make your move!\nGood Luck!!
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Anxiety that it will all go well. You have been through it before, she hasn't, so you worry about how she will cope.\n\nYou are both identifying with her (empathising with her) as though you were her, and worrying about her, because she is not you, and you feel protective towards her, at the same time. These emotions tug in different directions.\n\nThe risk of giving birth to a Down's Syndrome baby starts to increase after 35. Is this at the back of your head?