why is a bridesmaid required to pay for her dress?
374116
It is a priviledge to be asked to stand next to someone when they exchange vows with someone. I have stood in a grand total of 15 wedding in my 29 years (mine included;)and I purchased all the dresses for those weddings. They are mine, not the brides, so why should she have to put out the added expense for my dress? Why would I be so shallow to ask her to? The wedding I'm helping plan and stand in now, I bought not only my maid of honor dress and shoes, but since the bride and groom are doing this on their own, I bought her wedding dress too. I didn't have to, but I wanted to, for her.
532690
Im thinking it could cost at least $100. I have to get mine done soon. We spent $750 on the dress. I was a size 12 then, and now lost over 30 ibs. The dress was already alittle too long on me (im short) and its a halter, and the strap needed shortened. So, mine is probably needing about as much as yours needs done. We are looking around $100, and thats not including getting it cleaned and pressed before the wedding. You would almost be better to go somewhere like davids bridal. They have pretty dresses for a good price, and they have the $99 sale often. But if you love the dress you have, i say go for it and get it altered!\n\nBest wishes!
943520
Anyone who accepts an invitation to participate in a wedding in most circles has "traditionally" agreed to incur some expense to do so (see "Who pays for what" below). Is it a good gesture to offer to offset some of their clothing cost? If you know it would cause financial hardship then why not? If you know it wouldn't, then the question is WHY?\n\nMost people consider it an honor and privilege to stand up in a wedding. Most weddings are planned in advance so there is more often than not ample time to secure the funds necessary to acquire and pay for accoutrements. If you haven't brow-beaten or coerced your bridal party members then they shouldn't have a problem anteing up. \n\nThat being said it should also be pointed out that cultural backgrounds and individual convictions DO heavily influence the decision-making in Wedding Etiquette.  Nevertheless, the following is a general guide that should be construed as such...  and adopted as you deem fit:\n\nWho Pays For What?\n\nThe Bride typically pays for\nThe Wedding ring for the Groom\nGifts for the Attendants \nAccommodation for out-of-town Attendants\nThe Wedding gift for the Groom\n\nThe Groom typically pays for\nThe Bride's rings including the Engagement ring\nThe honeymoon\nWedding gift for the bride\nThe marriage license\nThe Groom's men gifts\nAccommodation for out-of-town groom's men\nFlowers for the Bride\nThe going-away corsage,\ncorsages for mothers, special ladies;\nThe boutonnieres for men in wedding party\nThe gloves, ties and accessories for the men in the wedding party\nFee for clergy person or judge\n\nThe Groom's Family typically pays for\nClothing for the Wedding\nTravel and lodging expenses\nRehearsal dinner\nThe Wedding gift for the newlyweds\n\nThe Bride's Family typically pays for:\nThe costs of the reception.\nThe Bride's Wedding attire/trousseau\nInvitations, announcements, thank you notes \nThe seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs\nPhotographer\nVideographer\nCeremony costs\nBridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories\nTransportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.\nAll gratuities for all services: parking, security\nBridesmaid luncheon\n\nThe Attendants typically pay for:\nTheir Wedding clothes\nTravel expenses\nWedding gift for newlyweds
95785
depends on their contract statement.  some say they absolutely have to have to payment BY the due date, not just postmarked
546553
If the parents of the bride are paying than she feels like she needs to be involved with everything.  But if not, she shouldn't have any say so in the matter.  She shouldn't of acted the way she did if it was her "baby's" day.  She should of behaved herself and let everyone enjoyed themselves without her crying and whining.
894242
Well, in the "old days" the bridesmaids dressed exactly like the bride, so that the bride wouldn't be kidnapped. Seriously.\n\nIn "old days," wedding gowns could be any color. Women copied Queen Victoria back in the 1840s and started wearing white like she had. Queen Victoria was also the first to wear a delicate veil of lace.\n\nPeople used to serve a Groom's Cake as a wedding favor for guests to take home after the wedding. What we call the wedding cake was refered to as the Bride's Cake.\n\nThe newlyweds used to drink a sweet, honey wine for a month after their wedding. We call this the honeymoon and we make it a vacation.\n\nThe saying "something old, new..." ended with "A sliver sixpence in her shoe." Since the sixpence really isn't around anymore, a silver coin is used -- if even at all.\n\nI hope these funny old traditions help you out.
855369
BE PREPARED TO PAY.  UNLESS YOUR A FLORAL DESIGNER WHO IS GOING TO ARRANGE THEM?   PLEASE DONT SAY YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY!!!
1024071
On a date, I go for the rule of whoever asked the person out should pay.  So if I do the asking I treat.  If he does the asking he treats.  \n\nI think many couples planning on getting married share the expenses of the wedding, although traditionally I think it's the bride's parents who pay.\n\nSome men like to pay for women, it makes them feel gallant or gentlemanly, which is fine sometimes, but I have to say I like to pay, at least for myself if not also for him sometimes, because I don't want to get too dependent on him!
703177
The bride can have the wedding wherever she wants.  It's her wedding.  Maybe the groom has a special reason for wanting it there.  Maybe it is significant because that's where their relationship really blossomed.  When you let your daughter be the flower-girl you should have been prepared for the cost.  You have no right to complain  because it's not your wedding.\n\nIf you simply can't afford it you might talk to the bride and delicately explain your situation.  She may offer to help or let you off the hook.
324152
Buy the dress and don't remove the tag. Take it back and get your money and buy the costume if you need it.
943249
the host needs to be able to provide. so yeah, be ready to pay..just in case, but usually people bring their own money.\nhappy birthday!
544047
As far as I know, yes, they usually do – it’s up to you though.  Having more than one flower girl is slightly unusual in itself, so there’s not a solid tradition.  If all your bridesmaids are wearing the same thing, I think it would look better if your flower girls also match each other.  Congratulations!
856473
In the United States, the bride might have several bridesmaids, but this is the position held by the bride's chief attendant, typically her closest friend or sister. If married, the title Matron of Honor is used.\n\nThis person is usually responsible for helping the bride to dress and prepare for the ceremony, to carry the groom's wedding ring to hand to the bride during the ceremony, and similar tasks.
992735
Well, it kind of depends on what your bride wants you to do, but some basics, that is normal for most MofH is the bachlorette party, (you can use the other bridesmaids to help you with that) making sure the bride has everything on her day.  Make your self a little kit...like a sewing kit, just in case something falls off the dress, I am sure someone can sew if you can't, every lipgloss, or lipstick, anything you think she might forget, um safety pins, stuff like that....Also ask her, if she wants you to be in charge of keeping certain people away from her on her day, or if she wants you to make sure everything goes as planned, like pictures, and cake cutting, and such....make sure they are on the time...that sort of thing....you are there to make sure everything seems to go perfect for her on her day.  I would make sure you bring all of the something old, new, blue, borrowed and such, just in case.  Also a penny for her shoe....if she knows about that one.
848800
I think it's a wonderful idea.  Not only are you wearing a dress that was special to someone else, it's saving you a bundle on expensives.  So, I would consider it lucky.\n\nIf you love the dress, and feel beautiful in the dress, then please by all means wear it.  You have the most happinest and most wonderful weddings of them all...\n\nGod bless us all....................
204891
My sister got our bridesmaids dresses at David's Bridal.  We did have to order them, but they didn't take that long to arrive and were a great price.  Plus, they come in just about any color you want!  She was able to get the exact color she had in mind for her wedding.  And, I actually LOVE the dress!
51002
I honestly could not care less what celebs wear. It is kind of annoying to realize they make so much money and yet, the outfits you see, they did not have to pay for, they were given them. But thats apart of life...even if I had the money, I think it is ridiculous to spend $10,000 on a dress you can wear once, though most of them do not pay it anyway, so I guess thats a null point anyway.