my friend told me that she liked another guy....how will i deal with it?..i have crush on her....?
369173
Well, in all truth, the most mature way to deal with it is to accept her wishes.  You can still be friends with her, and maybe if the relationship she's pursuing doesn't work out, it might move toward a romantic relationship between you and her.  You can always let her know how you feel, but if you try to hold on, you may only be disappointed.  And even worse, you might create ill feelings between you and her.  But by learning to accept her decision and keeping her as a friend, you may make a better impression on her.  After all, if given the choice, would you rather have her in your life (at least as a friend), or not at all?
659994
You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
1063997
keep telling her you love her, but dont let the other guy get close to her. you guys sound so cute together, lol
752906
Personally, I don't think it's right for your friend to be looking for ways to get closer to that guy when she already has a boyfriend. \n\nI think perhaps you could wait for sometime to observe if your crush likes you? You can tell him your feelings and see if he feels the same way. But I don't think it is entirely right to keep ur friend in the dark too. You should tell her how you feel about him soon. Yeap. If she is really your friend she will understand that you have a right to crush him too :)\n\ngood luck!
51959
Well that's pretty tough...Well be her friend you know talk to and stuff. Soon you'll find out why she likes the guy you hate and who knows she might change her mind. Hope this helps!\n\nP.S. thanx for answerin' my question.
450727
Well, if she just beat you to the punch, not knowing that you had the same feelings, you should support her, Now if she knew you had a crush on this fella and she asked him out, find a new Friend.
587796
no she is not your friend and she might try to talk to you after and she might try to be nice and everything but you need to keep in mind the next time that you both like the same guy be careful if she starts saying things.
312906
No, I don't think you should stop her. You know that the guy you like isn't interested in her. And if she is your real friend, then she will tell you her real feelings. But if she knows you like the guy, then she will fight what she feels, so that she won't hurt your feelings. And I also think it's better if you tell her what you feel about that guy.
930120
You could try talking to her and let her know that you are concerned about your friendship.   If she is really into this guy then it might be hard to get her to see your point of view.  But I think you should definitely talk to her.  Good Luck!!
1086752
You should probably have a talk with her, your friend.  Tell her that you guys are friends and that she means the world to you.  Be as gentle as you can in telling her that you just don't feel that way towards her right now.  If it's meant to be, then it will.  If you like this girl Summer, then by all means ask her out.  Just don't parade her in front of your friend, that will pour salt on the wound.
54101
what's worth more to you, your friend, or that boy? but, could you be able to be happy or at least neutral if you know your friend is going out with the guy you like? but, if you tell her that you like him, and then if she thinks your flirting with him, how mad will she get?\nif it was me, it'd just leave him for my friend because to me, my friends come before a possible boyfriend. if i can't be happy seeing them together, i'd just find some way to avoid them when they're together. but, the one thing i wouldn't do is to admit i like him, that'll probably make it harder on her and then i'd feel guilty.\nbut the choice is really up to you, whatever comes first in your heart and can you bear it to see them together? and telling your friend, decide if it's better to tell her or not to depending on how she'll react to it
1103180
Well tell her how you feel and maybe if you're lucky she might feel the same way. If she and this guy aren't close then maybe she likes someone else and doesn't want to get too involved. She may be waiting for the right guy to sweep her off her feet. You should be that guy.
967103
If he shows off, than be very careful. He may start to make fun of your feelings when/if he realises them. How much does he like this other girl? Does she like him back? If you two are friends, then you have it very easy to tell him you like him more than a friend. Tell him that ou do not know what it is happening. You are feeling for him something more. Tell him you realised you liked him when he told you about the other girl. If you are not so close friends, than tell him the same thing as above. Tell him what you felt when he talked to you about the other girl.
204962
I've been in this situation before and i know how u feel. YOu want to go out w/ the guy but u want to stay loyal to your friend. I think you should confront your friend and tell her how you feel about him.. ask her if she would mind if you asked him out or something...if she gets mad..is that really a good friend? i mean of course your a "bit" jelous of her and she is most likely a "bit" jelous of you...well she certainly will be after you tell her your feelings..but thats ok..like i said, is she really a friend if she gets mad that you like him, and want to go out with him? we all get feelings about people and we cant control them..thats part of growing up..part of life..everyone goes thru it..just try to get past...live your life at your most!! hope i helped!! best of luck to you! =D! <3
811337
babe, you just answered your own question.\nyou obviously dont want to waste your time on someone who isnt really interested in you , he's more interested on your friend.\nwhy would you let yourself have feelings for him when you know that he dont like you like that. and you know that you're gonna get hurt. dont do it to yourself. just be honest with him and be like you want to be with someone who likes you back and not your friend.\ntell him that you could find someone else that likes you coz of you not coz of your friend. \nbut, why did you ask him out in the first place if you knew that he liked someone else??\nplease dont be blind and leave the guy and go for the other one who really likes you the most. trust me, you'll be a lot happier with the other one.
694598
u know its funny...this has happened with me and my extremely close friend just recently...we always flirt and it feels like something more than just a regular friendship and i want that...but she is confused and doesnt want to lose me.  i still have feelings for her and we talk a lot and are very close.  i am still trying to be myself yet i am trying to develop a different and closer relationship.  i say you just keep trying to do what you want and just see how it turns out.  whos to say another guy wont come around if this doesnt work out. good luck
474499
Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!