Married, Separated and Divorced.?
372206
NO, HE IS STRAIGHT. DOSEN'T LIKE BROKE BACK MOUNTAIN (HA HA)
1042139
Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! I don't follow. How are you two brother and sister if you got married? No where in the law nor the bible nor any moral code I have ever heard of does it state that after a divorce is your ex considered you sibling. Is this some kind of redneck thing? If so you have much bigger problems then the sin of divorce.
1051073
I married a pert... now... we're divorced...\n\nNOW she's an expert.  I think the same is true of you!
1148228
If your wife left you already, what are you waiting for? Don't miss out on what could be for what isn't. You don't have to tell your wife nothing about this lady you're interested in. You stated she left you. You can file divorce probably without grounds since you've been separated already. If you must tell your wife anything at this point in time, it could just simply be, we need to move on. Don't let life pass you by on this one.
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
496727
Get married if you're single, and divorced if you're married.
871087
getting a divorce doesn't mean that you are no longer married. you are still legally married. Cheating is only if the wife doesn't know and you both are together as a couple. Of course if you are getting a divorce, chances are you are not living in the same house. In that instance it would not be cheating since you and her have separated and parted your own ways until the divorce is final. The proper thing to do is wait until its final. Makes it better for everyone and then you wont have to ask this question.
584976
Not sure why the other kids live with dad, but you got to answer what you want first, then it's maybe what he wants, as long as it agree's with your wish's, it's your body, your life.  I assume separated means not divorced, that could make things kind of messy come court time yes?
413799
I really believe that you need to court each other again. I know it sounds silly but we're talking about the rest of your life here. In life sometimes we loose sight of how we got there. good luck!
386154
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
254060
After just being married, I'm sure that your mindset is that EVERYTHING should be together.  Seperate accounts is what he is used to at the moment.  This is all new for the both of you.  Give him a little time.  As time goes on, I am willing to bet the accounts will merge.  This is what happened to me.  I'm speaking from experience.  Don't push too much right now.  Lay low on this and see where it goes.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
306912
are you sure that you are married? i mean having a relationship w/out communication is worst than being divorced. My dear, if the situation is too stressfull for you try going out with ur friends and try to plan a trip into the beauty saloon.....make yourself beautiful and let ur husband remember that he chose you to be his bride a long time ago
768936
Unfortunately, if it wasn't written in the divorce decree, I don't think you'll be able to get anything from it. Remember, he is your ex, which means you have no ties to his pension. I know about this because of my divorce. Everything, including my pension, that was of value was put into my divorce documents. It also stated that from this point forward, everything was separate. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
1064029
If you know the court where the proceedings were held call the clerk of the court.  You do need to check.  My now-ex was not divorced before he married his second wife.  It was a mess.  If he loves you he will help or show you the signed AND court stamped papers.
45093
Hey single 20 something divorced female here and it has been so tough being divorced and single in my 20s I am just PRAYING my 30s are phenomenal!!
1171958
I was married and now divorced. It was a horrible experience being in that situation.  The worst part was she was my best friend and we had a child together. If you're in that situation, I feel your pain but it wasn't any easy last three years. Much better place now! Now before anyone makes any rude comments, I wouldn't accept that I was gay and thought their was other issues. I didn't get married KNOWING i was gay. I should have known but I didn't.