How can I start a fight (physical confrontation) with someone without being a jerk?
362483
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
323572
First,there is no harmless revenge!Talk to your friend. explain that your feeling were hurt by the rudeness. Go for the compromise and enhance your friendship or risk damaging it further.Demonstrate how you would have handled the situation without being rude.try a little role reversal action and act out each others part in the rude situation.
800805
how long has it been going on?.....usually if you "dont do anything" it gets old and he'll back off and move on to someone with a reaction...but im afraid if you do punch him, that will give him more of a reason to never back off. If you have to do it, Iunderstand you need to take a stand try and do it infront of administrators so it cant go too far, their job is to bring down violence.....but remeber for someone to abuse someone else by picking on them it is because they feel inadequate and need to feel better about themselves. He must have serious mental problems and insecurity.
860635
I used to fight, but now I just hang out and watch fights.  I was simi-pro for 4 years and during that period, I never lost a fight.  The first advise I would give you is;  This piss me off thing needs to go, as this will get your a*s kicked good!!!  You must be in to it mentally as well, as physically.  I used to love it when someone lost their temper with me.  I wanted them to loose it, and charge me like some bull.  That is when I would knock their a*s out.  DO NOT ever think you fight better when you get mad.  That has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.  Set you off?  Are you kidding me?  You'll get your a*s knocked out in a hurry!  If you wish to hit hard, then you must work with a bag.  One of those big swinging bags.  The small bag is for getting your speed up as in speed bag.  The heavy weight of the big bag helps you to learn to move weight with your punch without breaking your wrist.  This is why one tapes their wrists up before a fight.  When fighting, you must try to punch through the object you are hitting.  What I mean by that is; to step into your punchs, and put you weight into the punch.  The idea is to send your punch through the object you are hitting, and using your weight to push it through.  It's kind of like driving a nail with a hammer.  You can either bang at the nail, or you can let the weight of the hammer drive the nail for you.  It takes much practice to unserstand what I'm talking about, and punching something as practice to perfect the punch.  When fighting, you can tell where a hard punch is coming from, by watching the weight shift to that foot as the punch is being thrown.  I used to pay close attention to the other boxers feet.  This way I knew where and how hard the puch was coming at me.  Throwing a knock out punch is different than jabbing to set up the punch.  Lets use a uppercut as an example; what you are trying to do is; pick the person up off the ground, but you are trying to lift all there weight with your punch.  You know that just the punch will not lift the person up without using your legs to get strength to pick them up with.  I could talk for days about this, but I'm not going to.  Just know that a mad (pissed off) person makes mistakes, and when you get into it with someone who has training, you cannot afford to act without thinking.  The best thing you can do sometimes is let the fight come to you, and act accordingly.  You must assume the person you are fighting is going to kick your a*s, and you are there to defend yourself from getting knocked out.  Always assume the other person is better, until they prove it different.  The very person that's going to teach you a lesson, is the person you most think you can beat.  You will see what I mean.  You can't beat someone if your eyes have been beat shut.  The best thing to do is; fight defensively, never get head strong, or loose your cool.  You may think you fight better when you are pissed off, but that will get your head ripped off your body, believe me!  By the way, my neece fights professionally.  She fights out of a Gym in Columbia SC, and has fought Layla Ali before.  Layla knocked her a*s out, and I think that was because she was over confident, and had no respect for Layla.  I told her, she must change the way she fought in order to beat someone better than her.  She didn't listen, and got knocked out.  Now she is training her behind off and trying to get another shot a Layla.  If you are serious about training and becoming a boxer, then learn some skills, and train even harder than you think you can.  Running down the road a 4:00 am doesn't win fights, but it does get you in shape to go the distance.  I hope I have been some help to you.  Good Luck!!!
996783
You need to get some self confidence and I don't mean that in an ugly way.  That is all that you need in order to hold your ground.  You need to know that you can keep it together when someone is putting you down and realize that it is just words and like the saying goes, sticks and stones break my bones but words will NEVER hurt me!  Listen to what they have to say and if its something that you did, apologize, then just stand there and take what they have to say with a stone face.  Show no emotion!  Some people will keep doing hurtful things to people because the other person will take it and get upset and hurt.  The person that keeps doing it is usually a sad person themselves and needs someone that is "smaller and weaker" than their own selves to make them fell better.  Remember that the next time it happens and maybe they will stop.  If they don't stop doing it to you, then at least you will have walked away with the self respect and self confidence that is needed to conquer whatever the rest of the world is going to dish out.
243050
you can start being civilized to them without apologizing, just show them the new you, i'm sure they'll get the message and start accepting your un-told apology, actions speak louder than words....
266535
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. You need to, sooner or later, bring up the problem to this other person, but if there's the risk for physical damage bring someone capable of dealing it out... who's on your side. A bodyguard of sorts, ne?\n\nIf physical damage isn't apparent, the best thing to do is face the music. I'm sorry I couldn't answer the way you probably would've like me to answer, but I've been in a slightly similar situation. Sure, the other party/person/whatever will probably be angry, but there's nothing you can do about that.\n\nI'll sum up:\n*Doesn't take out anger on you: Talk to them. Explain your problem as objectively as you can, with clear benevolent (good) intent.\n*Takes out anger on you: Bring a bodyguard.
55670
Punch them before they know what happens! Then tell them when they stand up that you thought they were someone else!
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
87339
Talk about it with your friend. When you do, don't start a fight because that will make the problem worse. Think about this. What's more important, the guy or your friend?
797545
The quikest way is to stand up to anyone trying to take advantage of you. Stand up for yourself and do not allow anyone to walk on you. Learn to say NO. And do not be afraid to smack someone that won't take No for an answer. Please only resort to violence as a last resort though.
155108
I won't tell you to slap him, because that would be wrong. ;)\n\nMaybe yelling at him as loud as you can when he's bothering you?
1116893
You need some anger management or some help. Why do you have to ask the general pubic, WHERE TO PUNCH SOMEONE??  You have a problem and hope you get some soon......
773179
what about going to gym, or buying boxing bag and everytime u feel like getting violent, u simply punch that, instead of hurting someone. u can yell during that as well:]
294524
no, fighting never works. Instead use a confrontational method...and explain your feelings to the other person such as "I feel that you are..." Dont say YOU do... , this puts blame on a person, you can't get into trouble for your feelings.
418870
Smile, and walk away. That burns the person because they expected something completely different, like confrontation.Don't give them that satisfaction.
1118144
NEVER stop fighting! Take a form of defence like Karate for a class cuz it teaches u all types of defence moves. Bite. Kick punch YELLLLL as loud as u can. Don't walk where there aren't any people or houses alone at night.