my friend's bf is sooo mean to her friends and she is to scared to dump him cuz its her first bf wat to i do?
362939
thats can be a tough one. maybe talk to some other people and of her family members that may have the same concerns. get together as a group...not a very large group. maybe you a friend and a fam member...keep it small so she doesn't feel like she's being attacked all at once. tell her your concerns. get some information ready on women in abusive relationships....ie: support groups or counsellors that specialize in that area. cause this sounds like its developing into a pattern that you want to nip in the bud now before she really gets in the deep end. explain to her that its out of love and concern for her and her well being. there are some obvious self esteem issues there for her if she feels she can't stand up for herself or let this guy treat her like that. all you state though is he is being mean. how is he mean. there is no excuse, but, what the situation is will have something to do with how to handle it. cause he may need help of a couples counsellor. he may not be aware of his behaviour and how its affecting her. and if they talk it out it may be able to resolve the problem. if he is hitting and being physically or verbally abusive......then she should get out. cause someone does not need to put up with that for any reason. he needs help no matter what...but if its gone to that then talk to her. maybe get feed back from other people phone a victim support hotline on the situation. i'm sure it can be anonymous if you call
772859
Your friend needs to LEAVE!  There is no good reason to openly hit a girl.  No matter how abusive another girl is to me, the worst that I'll do is grab her hard to restrain her.
917558
wow small world i tell you. i love my bf and he loves me and would do anything for me as far as i know.hes ina different state and hes movin back in a few months. theres this guy that keeps hittin on me tho. honestly theres nothing you can do about it you need to talk to the gurl and have her talk to him about if she truly loves you she will handle it the way she feels it should be handled.thats all i can say i hope everything works out for you guys
413700
your friend should try being single for awhile...and if she doesn't like him then she shouldn't have gone out with him in the first place even if she was trying to be nice...that's just mean
383721
If she complains about her bf ask her then why are you going out with him if things about him make you unhappy .... ask one of her friends if they maybe know whether she still likes you if they say she does then after she breaks up with her bf go for it if she doesnt break up with her bf in like a couple days tell her how you feel about her :)
1111142
why is she supposed to hate you, ask her if you don't know, ....I am sure her bf didn't just go up to her and say "hate this boy" and  she said "OK Honey bunny" but if she is dating someone else be patient, be her friend, and wait your turn, and don't be  all obsessive that is kind of creepy
173711
Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
540145
i think you should talk heart-to-heart with your friend why she has started disliking your boyfriend when she earlier liked him. MAY BE she herself had feelings about him and this is the way she is expressing them after you have got together with him. this is perfectly normal and anyone would react that way. i think you should jus leave things like that. i am sure she'll get over these feelings on her own. just give it time.
352779
First, I think you need to look inside. Do you have a good reason for hating him or could you be jelous or something of the attention that your friend is giving to him or maybe of what it appears that they have? If you do have a good reason, talk to your friend about it. If she's really your friend, she will be open to listening to your concerns. Don't expect that she'll leave him, though, just because she's listening. Like it or not, you may just have to except him as part of the group. If you can't do that, you may have to find another friend. Good luck!
805212
Your friend did you a favor and now you want to stab her in the back with her boyfriend?\n\nThat's dirty and low down. You need to find your own boyfriend and leave hers alone.
813399
If she was truly your best friend, she wouldn't even think about your boyfriend.  And if he showed her the slightest hint of attention, he is not worth it.  Tell her this, and if she does not back off, dump her.  If he flirts or contacts her in anyway, dump him.  Either way, choose your friends better.
870617
If your best friend is going out with him, then she's not a very good friend is she? If she's not, she respects you a lot. Be there for her when the guy dumps her for someone else, and if that someone is you, remember what happened, and tell him to find someone else's heart to break.
269133
It sounds like he still likes you.  If you guiys are still on speaking terms I think you should talk to him and ask him about all the shit hes been spreading.  If he's just mean, you might have to get your bf to avoid him and his friends or if the situation gets really desperate tell someone who has more control over him(your ex)
899587
you must be desperate to lose your friend real fast. but how can you be a friend when your trying to hurt her by being with her boy friend. you are a very lousy person.
433290
I think that this desicion is not up to its totally up to your friend. Thats her bf, not yours. She have to see him every day. She might see something into him that you and others dont see. Other ppl sometimes dont get this. let her make this chhoice.
960790
It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
277725
you're right , and your  friend will end up getting hurt because this guy is just using her, if you tell someone she will end up hating you .  i think you will have   to wait and see what happens . good luck