Ok, My family seems 2 argue alot over me, & I always watch wat I say, but it doesn't work. Wat should i do?
358598
You really should tell them how you feel, and find out what the fight is really about. It may or may not actually be about you. Maybe it's more they are fighting over you. There could some deeper issue involved. Yep, it's official, I've been watching way too much Dr. Phil.
296656
kill her with kindness... when you act upset and she causes turmoil in your family, she is getting what she wants.  As hard as it sounds. ignore her!!
60854
When they ask you to do something, do it right away.\nMake sure you are having a good attitude about it.  When a thought come into your mind like, "that's not fair", or things like that, push them out of your head.  When you start thinking that way, it will just make you mad at your mom, and dad, and you will not want to obey.  \nAlso, try to think often about the good things that they do for you, that will help you with your attitude, and will help you be more thankful for things.\nAnother thing you can do is tell your mom and dad that you love them.  Give them hugs, and thank them for things.  This will help you to have a better relationship with them, and will make you want to obey them.
709090
You should sit your parents down and let them know that having to hear them fight so much hurts you.  By making them aware that they are hurting you it may help get them to stop fighting so much.  Hang in there.
1035453
Its family, There will always be conflict, thats just the way it is.\nTalk to the person about it. if that doesnt help, then try your parents or an adult you can trust. they will help you solve this problem.
807034
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
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Don't be angry, my dear. =) If you want my honest opinion, you have a problem with your temper. Didn't you noticed how you replied to the girl who gave you her heartfelt opinion to help you out? She was just trying to help, but you shut her out.\nYes, I don't know you... that's what's good about it! I don't have anything against you. So, I can freely say, I am speaking from my heart.\nHonestly, I want to help you. You are 13 and your brother is 16. Don't ignore what your brother is doing to you. Be calm and seek deeper the reason why he is so mean to you. If you do find out, be honest to yourself and try mend everything. Patience and humility are two of the greatest virtues in life.\nWith regards to your parents. Don't judge them that quickly. yes they might not have noticed the gravity of your situation, but that doesn't mean they don't care about you. Believe me, they do care about you both!\nTake a deep breath and stay as calm as you can. Keep yourself busy to keep your mind away from the word "revenge". I could see myself in you when I was your age. =)\nHope everything goes well with you and your family.
514997
Tell them you don't want to be pulled in two directions because you love them all.  That might get you out of it and maybe that will guilt them into settling their disagreement.  If they don't listen to you, stay away from all three of them if you can.  You can't win in this kind of fight.
412093
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
69164
It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
93567
the phrase "actions speak louder than words" comes to mind, I was once told that sometimes your own family can be your worst enemy, their are some mistakes that you will make in life that will be so bad that you can't fix them, all you can do is make amends, set things right as best you can and muddle your way on through, and that's life!!
202422
well first talk it over with your family decide as a family make a meeting and make sure everyones opinion is heard and just because you dont agree with sumones opinion dont throw it out make sure everyone is comfortable about letting you know their opinion
1032316
Do u mean like everyone in your family HATE each other? MY family is just like that. I'm 13, i just try to ignore it, stay  away and just talk to someone who really listens.
264225
Try not to listen to what they say and ignore their comments as much as you can. The less you talk and act like you have time for them, then the more they will get the picture. Set an example for them on how one should be. They just might learn something from you indirectly.
1131673
Your family sounds awfully insensitive. Sometimes people hide their insensitivity through humor (like Jay Leno). Your parents are not realizing the impact they have on your self-esteem. The only way to stop this is to have another adult intervene because (unfortunately), people don't tend to take children seriously. Talk to a school counselor or your teacher or any other reliable adult to have a serious discussion with your parents ONLY if you feel your family problem has not subsided within a period of time.\n\nLastly, people make fun of others to get a reaction out of the victim. If you don't respond to their insults with anger or any type of emotions, they will stop because it no longer becomes "fun".
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Yeah ur right but u know some ppl ought to shut up and watch u ..to see if u can do whatever without help. Learn to step back and let other ppl do things too. Had a mother in law that just had to tell me what to do every second she was around me. drove me nuts. So i told her to have at it and step back. That shut her up.