Im not gay i just have a question...?
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No, but I did know a guy once that after I had sort of fooled around with him (we didn't do very much) that we were talking and in the middle of some conversation he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that he was bisexual. I think he actually thought that if he came clean and said he was bisexual that somehow that made it okay, but when I asked if his girlfriend knew he said no he didn't know how to tell her. And I remember being a bit sarcastic and saying something like "You just say, hey I love you very much, but I want you to know that I'm bi." I think he just laughed and said it wasn't that easy. I asked him if he loved her, he said yes. Then I asked why he was out having sex with guys then (since earlier he had told me that he had met this guy and they did this or he met this guy and did this, etc). He said because he liked having sex with guys. I remember kinda scorning him a bit about not being faithful to his girlfriend to which he simply replied "But I'm bisexual". I remember saying very clearly "That doesn't mean that this isn't cheating. If she doesn't know and she hasn't said it's okay for you to sleep with guys or even to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, then as far as I'm concerned this is cheating." Ironically he had the nerve to contact me a few years later to tell me he was going to marry her. I asked him if he was still having sex with guys, etc. He told me he wasn't. Then I talked to one of my gay friends who was talking about a guy that sounded familiar that he had sex with a few nights before. I asked his name and sure enough it was him. I went to his work and confronted him about it and he admitted that he had had sex with my friend and then casually mentioned a few other guys I also know. I told him he better tell his fiance, since he still hadn't, or not marry her if he didn't want to do that and that if he didn't tell her and was still going to marry her that my friends and I were going to tell her. I guess that was enough because he broke off the engagement and eventually a few years later did tell her that he was bisexual. To which she calmly replied "Oh neat!" And from conversations with her about it she said that it wouldn't have bothered her if he had wanted a boyfriend, too, so long as the boyfriend was bisexual and it was okay for her to sleep with that guy, too. (to each their own I guess) The point was that he was scared to tell her and in the end she would've been fine with it. Last I checked, he hasn't even dated or been with a girl in a long time and is actually now in a long term relationship with a guy.\n\nAs for me, I'm in a committed relationship myself. I don't know too many guys that have been with girls and slept with guys. I have met atleast one or two straight guys that occasionally like to get a bj from a guy (I know because they often went to some of my gay friends to get them....which at first shocked me, but once they explained that it was better than masturbating and that really it would be better if they could just find a girlfriend but that you take what you can get....oddly many of them are now married and they met those girls through us gay men who with our help usually introduced them and everytime I see them they seem very happy, one that I know even has three kids already...and according to the girl, who was a friend, they have a very healthy sex life)
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Just because you find another person of the same sex cute, doesn't mean you're gay. You're only gay if you know for a fact that you would never want to have sex with a girl, but instead with a guy. Don't ask us, ask yourself.
58973
People don't "turn" gay.  You either are or you aren't.  It might take you a while to realize it or come to terms with it, but you don't suddenly become gay.
975260
If you still look at girls and wonder the same thing, no your not totally gay.  You should experiment and find out for yourself.  You could be Bi?  and no there's nothing wrong with that.  If you need somebody to talk to email me... fordsamjoe@yahoo.com
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being gay is not something that someone chooses for themselves they are or they are not.  You can change a behavior, such as not having relationships with a same sex partner, but no matter what if you are gay, you are gay
471017
Kindly tell him that you're not gay and therefore not interested. He should understand. And it's up to the both of you to make sure it doesn't get weird and you remain friends.
798500
Why would anyone choose a difficult life?  Especially when it would be so easy according to straight people to "choose to be straight."  If so, I have a question for them.  Why don't they CHOOSE TO BE GAY?  See all those emotions running through you straights right now?  That's how we feel.  We feel "how can we change, if we could, wouldn't we?  Same as straights who are asked to think gay."  They find it incomprehensible to think about men, as I do about women.  Its just not normal for me, sorry, does that sound like a choice or something I'm stuck with?  I cannot remember feeling anything other way from the age of 5 on up.  The men were always attractive the women were always the nice ones.  So, while it may be a choice for some, it was not for me.  The very idea that I could have CHOSE this life is laughable.
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If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
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ur gay for asking that ?
1004258
He's gay anyway. Oh, are you a man... sorry... don't know the answer to your question
486357
I'd say no, sorry that's not my style... OR Id say I'm not gay but I suck guy's c0cks how are lol
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Hi there. I agree... these people answering can show more respect towards u as an individual! Man ppl... it's just a question... ANSWER IT!!! Anways, I read ur question and personally, u maybe have a tendency to lean towards bisexuality... however, since you didnt mention ur age or anything, it might be hormones. I do believe no matter your sexuality, people need to show 'respect' & 'dignity' (as these p-r-i-c-k-s didnt), you need that! It doesnt really matter on ur sexuality, I personally do not think being bi or gay is morally right, but it is a choice ppl make. I hope this helps u and i hope u find out more soon!!!
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Don't change who you are. Your not committing sin for  being Gay so don't worry about it okay.
261773
Why do YOU care specifically?  Although I'm not gay, I really don't care who is.  I have better things to think about, like world peace, pollution and hungry people in the streets.
851388
You could be gay and you could be bisexual.\n\nIt's up to you to figure it out.
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HONEY, WHO CARES IF YOU ARE GAY.  MORE POWER TO YOU FOR BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF.  I AM A STRAIGHT WHITE FEMALE, BUT I ADORE THE OPENESS OF ANYONE WHO IS HAPPY.
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No, I am straight...but nothing wrong with those that aren't :D