i hav this major problem of 'inferiority complex'.im smart, funny & n xtrovert.how do i get ovr this?plz help!
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I wish I had you as my daughter.  Beauty is only skin deep and some day, all that outside beauty is going to turn into wrinkles and fat.  TRUE beauty comes from within...and that kind of beauty radiates from a person's heart and their eyes.  If a person is looking at you for only your outer beauty, then they are missing the BEST PART of you.  All my life as a teenager, I felt like you...scared and insecure.  But now I'm older, I'm here to tell you, all that worrying you do is for nothing.  Now I'm older, none of that stuff matters anymore.  First, love yourself.  Look in the mirror at how your inner beauty comes thru your playful beautiful eyes.  That is what counts...not what you wear.  The Bible teaches us to not judge anyone or we will be judged.  I believe that is true for the tongue is the first thing to cause us to condemn ourselves.  Put your head up high and conduct yourself as a lady...use your sense of humor because I've seen even the ugliest of people with a great sense of humor go farther than the Barbie dolls with tons of beauty but with no brains.  Love God first, trust in the gifts that he has given to you and all will be well with you.  I will leave you with one final thought.  Your life is your gift from God....what you do with it is your gift TO God.  Namaste
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1) stop using the term "superior genetics". Honestly. It makes you sound snobbish and arrogant beyond belief.\n2) Don't describe women as ordinary.\n3) Compliment them on their good qualities frequently.\n4) Be willing to make jokes about yourself. I don't care if you're Adonis, Einstein, Michael Jordan and Paul McCarteny all rolled into one, you DO have some flaws, and acknowledging them will make you seem much more approachable.
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How about this one: "I'm O.K., You're O.K.". It's an old book but many times underachieving is caused by low self-esteem. Good luck.
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Work on your sense of humor. If you're funny you can't not be liked. But don't ask me how to get one. I was gifted with ti from the start.
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im not so sure cause i think i have the same problem with myself. i still in the mist  of trying to convince myself that i am beutiful. i think that our, or your fist step would be to think of something that you dont like about yourself and say you do, maybe you can convince yourself!!!!!!! i hope i help and thx for the 2:)
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I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
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Low self esteem and depression go hand in hand. You need to make a list of everything uyou like about yourself, and everything you hate.\n for example, are you smart, sensitive, good business sense? This should give you a basis to start at.\n\nThink of solutions to the things you hate, and tackle them one by one! Why do you hate them? is it actually you that hates it, or your peers? \n\nYou are Unique, and you need to find what you are good at.\n\nGet involved with a hobby, try a sport, volunteer somewhere. This will giveyou PURPOSE. Learn to cook well, and enjoy preparing healthy meals. Take a class! (you dont have to tell anyone about it!)\n\nSome people can never get a "built" body, no matter how hard they try, or whatever steriod they take. You should try a different way to tone and build your body. You more than likely will excel at a sport such as running, Martial arts, cycling or swimming. These suit those with "whippy" skinny people! \n\nHow proud would you be to boast, i know martial arts, or i am in our local cycling team, and to be able to face people with confidence? How many of those body builders have reliable friends, or how often are they actually nice people? Usually all they have is a serious dose of "im better than you, im bult, therefore you arnt worth my time?" THINK ABOUT IT!\n\ncheers.
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Look at all the characteristics you can give to your group, and the characteristics you are missing in a group, look for them.  Try not to get anyone to bossy.  Definetly, don't go for anyone who thinks they're smarter than everyone else because we are all equal.  Look for someone you can get along with, but when time is needy can get right down to business!
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The best advice that you can get in a situation like this is going to come from a trained professional--a therapist.  It just might help you find a way to excel on your own, and find the confidence to be anything that you want to be.  Gl, be strong!
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I would say try some tongue exercises, but that might tire you and make speech even more difficult. Still, it might help. If not, look at it this way. People who speak slower are viewed as being more intelligent. Just look at them like you are giving their conversation a great deal of intellectual thought, and they will probably think you are brilliant. \n\nSeriously, talk to your doctor about this and ask if there is something you could do. Perhaps there is therapy for this problem.\n\nGood luck.
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i know its hard baby girl..but you have got to get a backbone and love you for you...YOU MUST ignore everyone else and be happy with yourself..i've been in your shoes before ..wondering why everyone is popular except me...or what made me "lame"........or how come couldn't be like everyone else....but I had to learn that everyone is DIFFERENT your supposed to be DIFFERENT.....\n\nTrust me NOBODY is going to give two shits what those popular kids did when they were in high school, once you leave that little world you know as middle school and high school you will see that there is FAR MORE in this world to worry about ..(trust me).....IF YOU TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE ELSE IN THIS WORLD..THEN YOU WILL END UP HATING YOURSELF...WHY?...BECAUSE YOU CANT PLEASE EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD......one way or another someone is going to have something to say about you...and you have just got to learn how to keep your head up and tell them that hey..if they dont like YOU FOR YOU..they can just buzz off......\n\nDONT EVER TRY TO CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANYBODY..BECAUSE IN THE END YOU ONLY NEED TO PLEASE YOU....IF YOU RESPECT YOURSELF,AND  HAVE DIGNITY, AND DON'T TAKE ANY BULL SH** FROM ANYONE..THEN PEOPLE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO RESPECT YOU OR LEAVE YOU ALONE......\n\nyou want to be so "perfect" in everybody else's eyes...but have you ever tried to be "perfect" in your own eyes first?.....please you, be happy with you FIRST....YOU COME FIRST,,,,,so pick up your backbone put it back in your BACK and walk like you have some pride young lady.........YOU are UNIQUE ..\n\nthink like this..YOU DONT NEED TO PLEASE ANYONE, THEY NEED TO PLEASE YOU!.....
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ive been thr also keep ur head up u have your frnds and family tell them thr a ******* loser and 2 **** off and if they dun like the way u r **** them my teacher alwys told us over and over "you are valuable don't let anyone make you think your not!" and i think that goes 4 every1 hope this helps ya out \n\n                                                    -Kyle
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Maybe its an inferiority complex!! 8o) LMAO Thanx
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first, stop asking questions like this one.\nthen, do some push-ups and get a car.\n\nokay, okay, just kidding...kind of. but also try this...\nsmile more. and don't just smile more, but laugh more. and generally enjoy life more. be a bit more silly and spontaneous, and yet, aim to be remarkably intelligent with purpose. get involved in more activities. learn new facts. give more compliments. (some of this may seem irrelevant but i'll pull it all together soon...). try new fun and exciting things (and no, i do not mean drugs).\nbecause generally speaking, the more fun have, the more intelligent you become, the nicer you are, and the better you get at embracing the best in life -- the more interesting a person you become. and it shows. and all people (and "all people" definitely includes girls) want to be around someone interesting. someone who seems to make their lives a bit more interesting too.  \n\nbut, if all of that doesnt work...do some push-ups and get a car! ;)
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Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.
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first of all you need to stop comparing urself to other ppl....no two persons are alike,remember that, take some time out by yourself and seach ur heart...ask urself ,what has happened to you in the past which may influence you to feel this way,because sometimes things happens to us which affects our entire view of ourselves,and untill wefirst deal with those issues we will be forever trapped within ourself. take my advice....get out of your house...take a long walk..listen to some music...take it slow...u dont have to judge yourself by the characteristics of others..in doing so ,you are ignoring your very own unique characteristics.we are all beautiful sweetheart......never put yourself down ..,
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Find 3 or more (up to five) qualities that other\npeople don't have. Add them up and realize that you were put on this earth for a Damn REASON, that you are as good or even better than other dudes and don't slump your shoulders. I hated myself for so long until I was about 23, when other people had to tell me that I was good and a good friend to have around, that a lot of people found me attractive. Email me your circumstances.muirmatt@yahoo.com