Why can't men understand tears during an orgasm?
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we'd be confused, not knowing if they are enjoying it or not. in our minds, a girl crying during sex is not a good thing.
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What the heck is this premature idea anyway.  Whenever a guy cums, he does, period.  Instead of fighting what is natural and normal, think of some little variations in how you handle it and it will work just fine.  It is not all or nothing.  Some times, we have quick good feelings and other times it lasts much longer.  All kinds of factors influence us guys.  Our thoughts are likely the most important.\n\nWe usually get what we expect.  If you expect a fast experience, that is what you will get.  If you expect more, that is what you will get.
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'the answer to achieving orgasms with a partner is this:\n\nIt depends on the sensitivity of your partner towards your erogenous\n\nzones - if you share sexual intimacy with an experienced, inept or\n\ngreedy lover, you are always pretty much left out in the cold.\n\n\n\nOne of the most difficult things, it seems, for women to do during\n\nintimacy is to clue in their partners to what they want.  For some\n\nreason, men seem to have no problem asking for particulars during\n\nintimacy but women seem to be shyer about it.  The first thing I would\n\nsuggest you do is to be verbal with your lover and communicate to them\n\nwhat you enjoy.  The best way to open a conversation about this is to\n\ninquire the same of your lover.  Thay way, you open the door to be\n\nable to communicate what pleases you.  Tell your lover "Do this" or\n\n"Linger there" or "Slow down!" so that he will know what he is doing\n\nthat makes you feel warm and relaxed.  Don't be shy about saying what\n\nis pleasing to you during sexual intimacy (or what is not) - contrary\n\nto popular belief, men can't read minds. Lol\n\n\n\nUnfortunately, many men (especially younger men) seem to operate under\n\nthe assumption that penetration during sexual intercourse is the most\n\nfulfilling thing they can do for a woman when, actually, the act of\n\npenetration is usually the ultimate goal of the male's satisfaction.\n\n\n\nAlso, men may sometimes rush to fulfill their desire for penetration\n\nand not think to be sensuous with a woman.  There is an old saying\n\n"Men give foreplay to get sex and women give sex to get foreplay." \n\nThis is certainly not true across the board but, by far, many women\n\nseem to enjoy the sensuous intimacy that precedes sexual intercourse\n\nwhile men seem to be running for the penetration goal line.  Lol \n\nPlus, foreplay is what enables a woman to relax and be able to achieve\n\norgasm.\n\n\n\nI don't want you to think anything is "wrong" with you, either,\n\nbecause you don't experience orgasms everytime you have sexual\n\nintercourse.  There are other factors to consider regarding this such\n\nas fatigue, emotional stress, etc.  If you happen to be in an\n\nout-of-the-bedroom situation such as stress on the job or having had a\n\ntiff with a friend, these experiences can affect your ability to relax\n\nduring sexual intimacy - even the thought "I should have washed those\n\ndishes first…" removes your mind from the intimate situation. \n\nConsider these factors and others as being the reasons you sometimes\n\ndon't experience orgasms.  Relaxation is a big key to this.  Sometimes\n\na small glass of wine might do the trick, too, to relax you.\n\n\n\nAs far as tips on experiencing more or frequent orgasms, here are some\n\nlinks that may be of interest to you:\n\n\n\nImtimate Fitness - The Kegel Method\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/sex.html\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/orgasms.html\n\n\n\nTantra and Tantric Sex \n\nhttp://www.oztantra.com/whatistantra.html\n\nhttp://www.tantra.com/\n\n\n\nA book is available here for $14.95 titled "Pathways to Pleasure - A\n\nWoman's Guide to Orgasm"\n\nhttp://female-orgasms.com/pleasure_4_women.htm\n\n\n\nWomen's Sex Health - An online pay site with intimate secrects for\n\nwomen regarding orgasm - $9.95 for one month accesss\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/orgasms_learn_more.htm\n\n\n\nGo Ask Alice - regarding women having more orgasms\n\nhttp://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0117.html\n\n\n\nMyths About Female Sexuality\n\nhttp://www.ualberta.ca/HEALTHINFO/Decisions/mythsf.htm
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I don't know if this is supposed to be a guy's problem...but my mother and I share the same problem. My mother is a little more severe in that aspect, though.\n\nI've never, ever seen her cry in my entire life. I can swear by that. Not even her eyes watering. She's an extremely tough, strong woman who'd never let the 'weakness' (she thinks its a weakness) of crying show in front of her children.\nI have no doubt she cries to herself at nights. But I've never seen her crying, and no matter how hurtful or great the situation is, she never breaks down. SHe's always tight-lipped and tension lines streak across her tired face, but there's never a tear.\nMy dad once commented to her, "I feel like I've married a man."\nI take that as a sort of compliment, that my mom, after having gone through several life crisises that wouldn't probably sent a whole family off a building or through the noose, she plough through it all, all without shedding a tear.\nAs for me, you can expect that because of her perception that crying is a weakness, I became somewhat eager to live up to her expectations (while my sister and brothers are whiny sobs...ok, well, they just cry a whole lot more, my sister being the worse.) and I became somewhat 'conditioned' not to cry.\nThough since I've had a fiance, he's been trying to encourage me not to be so 'angry', 'uptight' and close up all my feelings, I find it's helped a little, but I find it so hard to just 'let it go'.\nFor example, I was very close to my grandma. When she passed away because of breast cancer (she also had several stomach ulcers because she kept skipping meals to save money even though we were really well-off. SHe did it without our knowledge, because she came from extreme poverty with 8 kids single-handedly raised, and saving money no matter how was crucial to survival.), I was distraught, but I didn't cry.\nIt was an open coffin funeral. I remember seeing her lying in there dressed in new clothes, her eyes closed, like she was asleep. But she looked a little worried, I thought.\nI never shed a tear, I tried, I even closed my eyes and tried to run all the fond memories through my head of my beloved gran but not a tear could be shed.\nI was so...crushed. I felt like a robot. I still do. I find my emotions just swelling up inside.\n\nThe only 3 people who'd ever made me actually cry was my mother (she can be so hurtful at times, she was the first one who hurt my feelings during my childhood so much I curled up in the closet and cried.), my best friend (though we broke up long ago, she really was selfish and self-absorbed.) and my fiance (we've had a few big fights. He cried when he saw me cry. :|).\n\nI can understand it must be really frustrating, but for me, I realised we don't cry because a certain button in us has to be pushed.\nYou would know...have you ever thought or talked about a certain topic which you felt overwhelming emotion about? That's the button. One day, I suggest you sit down in a quiet spot where you can contemplate, and search that button and push it.\nYou might find that the tears that come out, might feel rather liberating.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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crying is thought to be a trait that men don't engage in.  well it's 2006. and men do cry!\nyour crying may be as simple as having a tender heart.  there's nothing wrong with this.  However, i believe (based on my own experience) that the source of your crying is depression.  if you're on a medication to treat depression, obviously it's not doing its thing.  you may want to ask your family doctor or a psychiatrist to:  a. increase your dosage    b. switch your medication   or  c. supplement your anti-depression with another drug to bost the level of medication in your system.\nyou don't need to suffer.  there is help available.  promise yourself that you will seek out this assistance so that you can begin to feel more in control of your emotions.\nyou have my sympathy!
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It's slang for semen. It can also refer to male orgasm in general.
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the body releases certain chemical which take your body onto a different level... many call this trance... it might last from a fraction of a second to several seconds depending... \n\nalso, there is huge energy release with the ejaculation.. and all of a sudden you get relief feeling !! \n\nstudies have shown that brain is the most active non-sexual organ in this process (of course your things are too )... and the response to it is given by the nerves on the sex organs... thats why you feel exhaust after orgasm...!
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Few Men are worth a Woman's tears......and the ones who are, won't make them cry....\n\nI wish I could give a better answer than that, because I really don't know. Some people are mean and do it just for that reason, thinking that it empowers them over another person. Others have so much of themselves invested in another person that even when something happens unintentionally, it can still cut like a knife.
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Most men are just as sensitive as women but conceal that for a lot of reasons. To other men sensitivity is a weakness and no guy wants to be looked at as weak. Some girls take advantage of sensitive guys. In many cultures men are still not supposed to publically cry. I could go on but you get the idea.
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This is a good question. It depends really. If you are crying because...well...it's that time of the month and you are very emotional and you broke a nail a real man will be sensitive to it, but not to worried about it. If it is something major we want to fix it and make it all better, that's what guys do, we want to fix things.
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Because men are supposed to be the emotionally strong and balanced ones. And crying is a sign of weakness...or so people think. I do not believe that.
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i believe men are weaker emotionally because women can "feel" what others are feeling and we aren't afraid of showing our feelings.....men think it is too feminine to show emotions.....i wish men could show them more cause it would make relationships alot easier sometimes!!!!!
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An orgasm is a physiological event that occurs at the highest point in sexual excitement and is usually associated with a wave of intense pleasure. During orgasm, both males and females experience involuntary muscle contractions. In males, contractions of the muscles of the prostate, vas deferens and seminal vesicles induce emission (movement of semen into the urethra) and ejaculation. Females experience rhythmic contractions of the vagina and uterus, thought to facilitate the transportation of sperm. Also called climax .
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Orgasms\n\nMost Orgasms\nFor 22 years, Doctors William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian of the Center for Marital and Sexual Studies in Long Beach , California , have been faithfully recording the orgasmic response in their laboratory. After hooking up subjects to blood-pressure and heart-rate monitors and various sensors in the vagina or anus, the doctors would sit by the beside and take copious notes as the subjects busied themselves. In an attempt to head off accusations of prurience, they say such research is stupifyingly dull, saying they had to "struggle to stay awake." However, they overcame the tedium to spend 10,000 hours in the laboratory. After several false starts (originally they had the subjects push a button whenever they had a orgasm, but during the heat of the moment they usually became too preoccupied to be concerned with the cause of research), the study continued apace, eventually encompassing 751 individuals. The most orgasms they recorded in an hour for a woman is a staggering 134, while the best men could do was 16. How we lesser mortals can hope to achieve anything in that vicinity was not discussed.\n\nLongest Orgasm\nMale Yet another example of inequality in the sexes. The typical male orgasm lasts anywhere from 3 to 8 seconds, though its possible through deep breathing and regular exercising to extend it to…oh, maybe 10 seconds or so. Pitiful, you may think, compared to the Herculean orgasms accomplished by some women, but sex is usually measured in terms of satisfaction of the male; in fact, the anthropologist Margaret Mead uncovered societies in which the female orgasm is unknown. So I guess it all evens out in the end.\n\nFemale As you probably know, women are capable of multiple orgasms without having to rest between. However, as fellow savant Cecil Adams expounds in his book More of the Straight Dope, women are capable of so much more:\n\nWhat you probably didn’t know is that women are capable of sustained orgasm, called status orgasmus. These start with a 2 to 4 second "spastic contraction" and last twenty to sixty seconds. Masters and Johnson (1966) published a chart of one woman who experienced a 43-second orgasm, consisting of at least 25 successive contractions. Status orgasmus is usually the result of self-stimulation, but a woman can experience it at the hands (or whatever) of a suitably skilled lover.\n\nFastest Orgasm\nMale Certain rare individuals—1 in every 1250 men, to be precise—can ejaculate by deliberately concentration on sexual fantasies without any genital manipulation whatsoever, for a total time to orgasm to be…well, right around zero seconds. As Kinsey put it: "In such a case the psychic stimulation is entirely responsible for the result." Truly, the mind really is the most powerful sex organ.\n\nFemale In his book, Dr. Kinsey & The Institute for Sex Research, Wardell B. Pomeroy recounts the case of one extraordinary woman who had near-godlike powers in the sack. His words: "I remember one woman who was capable of from fifteen to twenty orgasms in twenty minutes. Even the most casual contact could arouse a sexual response in her. Observing her both in masturbation and in sexual intercourse, we found that in intercourse her first orgasm occurred with two to five seconds after entry." [My emphasis] Ladies, eat your hearts out.\n\nLargest Ejaculate Volume\nBesides us, who else would be concerned about ejaculate volume? Why, fertility experts, of course. If ever in the vicinity of a large library you might want to dig out a fun article entitled "The semen of fertile men: statistical analysis of 1300 men," by Aquiles J. Sombrero, MD et. al. and published in The Journal of Fertility and Sterility. The data were collected from an outfit that performs vasectomies. Prior to vasectomy each man was required to submit a specimen in a special container, on which was recorded the time of collection and the duration of abstinence prior
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We are men, we don't cry usually but we definitly are moved and come close to tears.  Just because we don't show our emotions on the outside doesn't mean that they don't exist.
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Well, I think there is some truth to the stereotype that guys have issues with their feelings.   Many of us certainly don't have the emotional vocabulary to describe our feelings like the ladies do.\n\nAnother reason is sometimes it's not "safe" to express how we feel.\n\nFor example, if we feel rejected because we are not getting enough sex from our wives, we are called sex crazed by those same wives.  Why would anyone continue to share their feelings if those feelings are invalidated.\n\nMen don't have the corner on this market, women invalidate their man's feelings with similar frequency.\n\nI agree, there are ladies who refuse to share their feelings.  They may sulk, pout, or put the walls up, but when you ask them what is wrong, what is the first word past the lips, "Nothing."
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Sounds normal. Women aren't wet anymore after they orgasm, just like men aren't hard anymore after they orgasm.