i have been brought up in a family with no rules but have been sent to a family with strict rules........?
370732
Is it really that hard to behave?
960131
Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
177343
No one ever told me I had to like my family. I don't. They don't support me so I really don't need them. They're not good people and I try not to associate with them unless I need to.
188168
No, it's not fair.. but then it sounds like NONE of it is fair.. it sounds to me as though your family has much deeper problems than whether they should accept your engagement or not.  That is a very minor thing, I think.  There are problems there that should be faced and they have absolutely NOTHING to do wtih your fiance or your engagement.  Try to look at your relationship with your fiance objectively.. and your relatinship with your family also..  as harsh as it may sound, being disowned in some situations is not the worst that can happen.  I hope that is not the case with you.  Listen to what they have to say.. hope that they listen to what YOU have to say.. and then think it through with an adult and responsible mind.. and do what you feel is best for YOU. No one else.. you have to look out for yourself, ok?   Good luck.
815421
I have three grandkids, number four on the way. the eldest is twelve; she lives with her father, her mum is my oldest daughter. She left her with her dad five years ago and went away to work. Her dad is a muslim, and up to then, my daughter had reared her as a christian. I have no problem with this, her dad is a lovely, kind man and I have a great relationship with him . The problem is, the child is totally confused as to what the rules are as regards religion, dress code, behaviour codes, etc. This is leading to a backlash from her as she is starting to rebel. My heart goes out to her as she has been pushed around a lot during her short life. I have considered offering to have her live with me; I know she's happy in my house when she visits, but I don't know how her mum or dad would see this.
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
94173
block their #s from your phone. write to your in laws (return reciept) and tell them point blank: this is MY husband NOT your little boy. you've done all the raising of MY HUSBAND that you will ever do. mother in law, if you have a husband then HE needs to provide for you. MY HUSBAND does not need to provide anything for you. that's YOUR husband's job. and to sis: do you have husband? no. then you are your PARENTS responibility. go get a life i got mine. and tell your husband to get a SPINE and use it. he chose you not his sister.
1051243
Im trying to support my own family...not everyone else
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
1023042
Sounds like he is very controlling.\nIf he separates you from your family them you will be all his to gain control over.\nAsking you to do that is also very ignorant and dissrespectful to you. If he has any love, concern and respect for your feelings he wont expect you to do that.\nMen come and go, families do not!
818918
Sounds like there is alot more to the problem then u r saying but i can understand u not wanting to go into it. I have a problem with trust and i tend only to befriend my family i have no friends either but choose not to cause down the track they will only stab u in the back. Good luck.
616168
Don't listen to constestame. Don't stay quiet about it. When I was seventeen my step dad did some pretty bad things to me. He wanted me to stay silent but I didn't. My mom chose my step dad over me and I lost the whole side of my mother's family. I loved my family so much and it tore me apart to lose them, but I'm glad that I stood up for myself rather than staying quiet. It cost me my whole family, but at least I don't have to live with the sleazy pedophile. Some people are just Fu*ked up and it has to do with power. It makes them feel bigger, but you've got to stand up for yourself. It will make you stronger. If your family doesn't stand by you, then good riddance. You will always have someone there for you as long as you have a good heart. Friends become family. You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. I don't know how long ago this happened, but I hope you have already reported her. Make your family aware that she has taken advantage of you.
121517
Yes! Your parent must not like your wife and they thought that if they invite you they would have to invite her. It seems that you love your wife and her kids even though they are not your own. For your family to take it out on you shows that they are not good parents. Also your sister who has her own business should no how to help you out with the trouble you are having. My mother has wealthy sister that are willing to help her out because they care about her and my grandparents do the same too. I know you would help your family out if you could and for them to be shelfish and mad because you married this women that they need help as well. I think you should go on the internet and find help for yourself and don't worry about your family unless it is very serious meaning someone is very sick or had died. This is about you and wife and kids now. So do this for them.
112309
Stop going to family events ... when they ask "why" you aren't or weren't there ... tell them you didnt' have the energy for their drama ...
1018055
You are a bad man, you should let your family arrange something.. You are going to shame them all.
1022042
You have to keep in mind if their are children involved they will always be the first priority.  You should never expect a parent to choose you over their kids. In-laws I'm a bit shaky on. But you are  not the only person w/this kind of anxiety.
412664
That is definately a tough one to deal with. Unfortunately the answers are not what we really want to hear. You see God set up the family system to work a certain way. You see all troughout the Bible that families come in many shapes and sizes and all of the children from both or from previous honored and obeyed their current father. \n  Now the good part!  The Word indicates that when two people are wed that they shall leave their father and mother and give themselves to each other.  They have essentially become a new family unit.  In that unit the husband is set up as the spiritual leader and the woman gains profound blessings. By that you are no longer under the authority of either of your parents.  Honoring them is still important as well as honoring each other. However, obeying every whim is not necessary. \nI do not know the situation you have but I can tell you putting God first, then your husband, and then family, will really help in a lot of things.  Father in Laws may be full of good advice and wisdom but we are not bound to use it any longer.  Listen to him. Honor him by living a life worthy to his son. But do not feel like you have to be what he wants you to be. Your family should be different than theirs.