My ex bf is in jail but has promised to come home and treat me good and to stay out of trouble. What to do?
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You need serious help--I read your other post about you being pregnant with your current bf yet still loving this jailed ex-bf?\n\nDo you realize that the probability of the jailed ex--finding a job is slim to none.  Most employers will not HIRE someone that 1) has been jailed; 2) has been jailed for theft; 3) that has a record.\n\nI'm not saying your EX-is a bad person, I'm being realistic in telling you that the odds of him getting hired, and being able to provide for you and a child (from the other bf) is highly unlikely.\n\nStick to your current bf--he's the baby's father.  As sad as it may be, but you need to give up your WANTS for the NEEDS of your baby--you have to look out for the interest of your baby first.  Don't be selfish, and only think of yourself and not the baby nor the baby's father.  With children comes sacrafice, with children comes responsiblity, with children comes awareness that your life is no longer your own, but that of your childs.
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I would tell the inmate:\n\nYour parole officer should have some tips.  There are plenty of people who don't want you in prison rely on them and not on those who could care less. \n\nJust from a practical standpoint I don't want you in prison because you cost me money every day you are there.  Get out, get a job and earn your keep.  After all that is what you want to do anyway.  Sooner than you know it you will not have to check in with anyone and be a free man again.
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Ashley, you've asked this question twice now. This one looks like you did it. Doubt it, since I don't think you'd have a chance to play on the computer in jail. Your boyfriend, right? Better start calling him your "friend" and go play with another "boy", a good one this time!
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Get a divorce. It isn't fair for your spouse to expect your marriage to stay intact when they're in jail. Do you really want to be married to an ex-con? You don't neccesarily need to tell that you are having a fair but I would file for divorce while they are in jail and can't get pissed and come over and fight with you. He really can't do anything from jail. Congrats on finding new love and wasting away waiting for your lover to get out of jail. Move on with your life and be happy that you found new love.
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It's really your decision but girl the one in jail leave him alone that's just drama waiting to happen.The other on e your dating does he make you happy can you tell him stuff.  I say gurl follow your heart don't be scared it will always lead you in the right direction.
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First of all, congratulations on your clean time!  \nIf he has been in prison for 7 years, he is probably extremely nervous about what he will be facing when he gets out. It's easy to maintain a relationship while you are sitting idle, but now he is gonna have to live in the real world and he is gonna be obligated to find a job (no easy task after a conviction), satisfy probation/parole people, and most importantly try to live a lifestyle total foreign to him. He obviously shouldn't be around old friends or old hangouts and all of that is very overwhelming.\nIf you truly want to have a relationship with him I suggest that you are totally supportive and undemanding of him the first month or so.  If he makes good choices, things should go well.\nI'm sure his behavior isn't really about you, he's more than likely nervous, and any real man would feel funny about having to rely on his woman for support for how ever long it takes to get it together.  So just kinda follow his lead at first, but if you see bad choices, END IT immediately. The return to prison rate on parole rate is outrageous, because of the pressure.\n\nGood Luck to Ya'll, hope everything goes well, and your reunion is awesome.!!!!
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How long will he be there? Also ask yourself if your willing to wait a number of years for someone who has broke the law to get where he is now. Not to say you don't love him but he should have gave all these things some thought before getting himself into jail..K
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Ok, hun, he's an adult and I take it that you are a minor?  First thing, he should have never put you in a criminal situation to begin with.  Obviously he didn't care enough about you to keep you out of possibly going to jail, so I would just let him sit in there and think about what he has done....if he is a man at all, he should be the one apoligizing to you.
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U don't do anything, just keep loving the person. He will need your love and support while in prison. A lot times love ones are forgotten about when they go to prison. Never let anyone tell who to love and not to love. Make your own choices.
394519
Well,Believe it or Not ! They Say If You Love Somebody Set'em Free! If They Come Back They Are Yours If Not They Never Were !\n\nWell ! Maybe you will get him back if you stop going after him
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How long is he down for? How did you meet him? I know of some wonderful, loving relationships that started behind the wall, but there are just as many stories where it just couldn't work with the seperation and stories where the guy was just using a girl to pass the time then dumped her when he got released, so take it slow. And I have to give you two cents worth of personal experience here Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.\nIf I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees. \nIf you want more perspective from women who deal with this reality every day, please visit http://www.prisontalk.com
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i am  very  sorry  to  hera   this      i know   how  sad  jail  is      i ve  seen  quite  a bit   of  heart breaking   story   / however  ther  is  hope    you  need  to   contact  the  judge    state  attoreny and  a lawyer    i   dont  know his   offence    . however   ther  iss  a  chance that  he  can  be   on  house   arrrest    , if this  happen   its  is  SO VERY IMPORANT  THAT  HE  COMPLISE  100 PERCENT  I   DO   KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE ON  HOUSE ARREST   ITS IS TAKEN VERY SERIOUSLY  IF YOU GET THIS   DONT  LET  HIM  MESS UP  BECAUSE THINGS COULD GET WORSE
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Ok first off lets put things in perspective. Your ex is getting out of PRISON. That sentance alone should tell you who you should stay with, however, sometimes good people do bad things. So with that said, lets take another look. You are afraid that your ex will come back and take you away from this new guy that you really care about right? Well youve got to remember that this is your EX and hes called that for a reason. Whats your reason for calling him your ex and try to imagine being with him or with the new guy. If you truly feel you are happier with the new guy, then stay with him and tell the ex to leave you alone. If that doesnt work theres always restraining orders......
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Find out when he is getting out.  He should have a court date set to be sentenced or they could give him a bail amount.  It could take up to a week to find this out.  Alot of guys in jail have girlfriends but most of them arent even worth it.  If you love him you can go and visit.  Just contact the jail.
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Yes this is domestic abuse. It usually get worst no better if he do not get help. Try to get out as soon as you can but if you can not....\n\n1.take pictures of injuries- this can be use later if you need to go to court.\n2.Let someone know what is going on- incause something happen to you.\n3.Try save up some money, and extra fifty from the bill money (tape it under a draw.\n4.call the police, if it a shared space the police will take him to jail and you can get a restraining order.\n\nGood luck
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Depends on what he is in prison for and how much you love each other.If you love him and he is truely wanting to change his ways and loves you then stick with it.Love is worth waiting for but also worth changing for
284303
Let him go and tell him don't come back. Let him know your time and you are to precious to be messed with and make your actions go with that. There are to many other things in life to trip on than some troubled ex-bf.You know what I mean?