When a father punishes his child, that shows his love for the child. Agree or disagree?
366240
It shows his love for the child because you care enough to give a crap what your child is doing. Your child may hate you but never fails when they see their friends being able to date early, stay out all hours with no curfew, not having to clean their room whatever the scenerio is...at the time to your child and even the other child they seem hapy but the ones not punished are always the saddest ones because they never had guidance. A child longs for that even if getting punished is the outcome and when they don't get it then they become isolated and feel like they were raised by uncaring no participating parents and feel tell the kids that were punished how lucky they are that they had parents who cared enough what they did to notice.
986832
i think the only people who can judge how someones punishing their children, is someone who has children, and most of the time,  i still dont agree with it.\nmy boyfriends sister Yells at her kids. straight out screams at them. i disagree with this, since psychologically it doesnt work. but its how she chooses to disipline her children, so whatever makes her happy. but then again, i agree with spanking, and many parents dont.
143685
Maybe the problem is not the daughter, but the father. It could be that he is feeling guilty for something, or has pity, or remorse or something that is not letting him stand up to her and advise her to change her slovenly habits. Sorry, the father has to realize no one can control him unless he lets them,
820525
I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
1183278
In most cases...I totally agree. I do believe there are some crimes that don't fit in that catagory. \nIf someone molested my child and my husband went after that person and killed him....I do NOT believe that he should get the same. I believe that the justice system is so messed up its unbelievable.\n\nRight here...locally...a man shook his 4 month old baby boy (there was a twin sister)shook him so hard it killed him.....2 years later...he is sentenced to 5 years. Thats when I believe in your therory. That man should be put in general population and have it announced over the intercom system what he is in for.\n\nI believe any act of crime against a child should be a maximum penalty.....bar none.....why does this criminals rights get taken into consideration.....The child will suffer and remember what ever happened for the rest of their life.....if they are alive. And we worry about the rights of the criminal.....I have to wonder..if a judges child has ever been a victim....would it change their beliefs?\n\nOK..Sorry...this really hit home for me....very good question !!!
676101
Ummmmm.....you still don't quite "get it".  You almost make it sound like a demand for popularity and a demerit system.\n\nChristianity is based on love, not on punishment.  Those Christians who preach focused on hellfire and brimstone, mean well....but, their efforts only try to "scare" relion into people.\n\nThe truth is....our God is a loving one, who loves us..as we love our own children....even more.  He doesn't want to see us fail....just as we wouldn't want that for our own children. Get it?\n\nAnd, just as being a parent is sometimes, less tha pleasant....so is life.  Sometimes the negative things have to happen to provide learning and growing opportunity. \n\nChristianity is much more complex, and also much more simple ...than what you have come to conclude.
327972
Welcome to the reality of the criminal justice system and child abuse.  I'm surprised she got any jail time at all.  Most abusers get a slap on the wrist and some counseling and get their kids back.  Not uncommon for them to kill them later on in another fit of rage.  Shows how much our society values kids and sees them as property of the parents.
1124821
I really don't think so. That will never get your relationship back. Your hurting and I bet he really is hurting. Unless he did something to you or your mother that caused him to go to jail. Than that is another story, that I really do not know about. But to hold a grudge on your dad is rough on him. He is all ready in jail, lost his wife... should he loose his daughter? I am sure he truly loves you, as you do him. Give him another chance.
874002
Guilty..\ni'm so sorry to say that.... but in the eyes of law, he is gulity..\nbut i will say that the motive is noble...\nThe motive is right, but the act is wrong..\n\nif the wife knows that she survived at the expense of other, how would she feel... and now the husband has to go to jail, and she remains poor..\n\non the other side.. somebody  husband just died because his medicine was stolen. and they had spent so much on it..it will then be unfair for the patient and his family..
1131182
I agree but parents don't think about what they are doing in those terms.  Most claim to only want what is best for the children,  as they sit on their independent high horses claiming the "best" to be their selves.  It's turned into a "how can I get back at or hurt my ex",  the children's needs are rarely considered.  You are also correct that most often, it does seem to be the mother's doing this.  It actually makes me ashamed to be a female at times.  Women are often very bitter and vengeful when they have been hurt but feel they are "right" in their behavior because they have been "wronged".  It all boils down to little more than the fact that mommy and daddy forget how to behave like adults,  therefore their children suffer.
769243
I am in a somewhat situation.  Baby's father has been gone for 2 years with no contact or request to see is his daughter.  Today he shows up at my work place in disguise of hood and glasses?\n\nI am custodial parent due to his absence.\n\nMy feelings are that if a "parent/father/mother" held an interest in their child, then why cause such an absence?\n\nLaw states that after a period of one year that the parent has "abandoned" the child.  Then why allow that parent any right to see or visit the child?\n\nAfter this period the child no longer remembers nor feels any level of love or safety with the unfamiliar face.  The lack of continuous contact has depleted the bond between infant/child and the absent parent.\n\nTo simply pay an amount of money to the Mother/Father for the sake of "child support" shouldn't give that parent the right to visit the child.\n\nThe comfort level, ease and knowledge of an otherwise stranger, should be considered on behalf of the child.\n\nI feel that if an absent parent is void of contact, yet pays child support,wishes to see their child, it should NOT be allowed under the child safty act.\n\nWhile the law may say that the lack of child support payments should not void a parents right to see their child?  I beg to differ!\n\nI say that if a parent loves their child then it is unreasonable to abandone that child.  And to simply pay some amount of money does NOT give you a right to be in that childs life!\n\nCustodial parents are there to comfort the child when they cry out at night, get a boo-boo, need dinner, sick, afraid or feel harm, pay medical bills, do the birthday party and are there to explain Princess Fiona and Shrek.\n\nWhere is the "absent" parent?  The lack of "moment" does NOT negate parental obligation and committment.
1137471
I see it a lot.\n\nSome people just can't LET GO...\n\nSome people think that if they make another person's life WORSE, that means their life gets better.\n\nThey won't do the WORK to keep him.. but they will work their A-S-S off to PUNISH HIM.\n\nI find it amazing.
204271
I can accurately say child protective servies would not have an answer for you. Most parents do believe in corporal punishment with slight variations on where the "line" is marked differentiating abuse from discpline. I would look in professional journals such as Psychology today to find the actual stats.
821899
I always find it interesting that the classic gay argument in favour of gay parenting is something like, "I suppose it's better for two heterosexual serial killers to raise a child than a nice gay couple!!"\n\nLOL!!!
78057
I would say it's kind of like comparing discipline and child abuse. A loving parent will discipline his/her child out of love. For example if a young child runs out into the street, a mother might discipline the child because she is concerned that the child will get hurt and she wants to teach the child not to run into the street. The intention is for the child's own good. On the other hand, if a parent beats a child for no reason and enjoys doing so, clearly that would be abuse. As a Christian, we should take the same view as the loving parent. For example, to love people and want to share the gospel with them so that they can be saved and avoid hell would be an example of "preaching the truth out of love." But if we enjoy telling people how bad they are and how good we are, then we are judging.
986503
If child services has said something like this it is most likely because the father has a history-it may be child sexual abuse but it could also be a history of physical abuse which may include one or more child fatalities.  This is a pretty extreme move by children's services so it is probably a significant and serious history.
804764
Ultimately, he's the one who's gonna regret he wasn't closer to his child. As our parents' children, we grow up and eventually find stability and happiness in our own families. On the other hand, they don't grow any younger and someday this father will be old and sick and wish the child he drove away was next to him while he's in his death bed... It's a pity some parents do that, they don't really deserve to be called parents.