why do guys feel ashamed to be with a fat girl?
356601
Personally I like a woman that is thicker. However some women are just to overweight. The problem is not men its the way that the magizines and TV have programmed everyone into thinking that an attractive woman has to have a figure like a pencil which I find revolting. There are men out there for everyone you just have to find him. Set your standards and never settle and you will have a great guy.
904512
Yes, you're a joke.  But sometimes guys just can't avoid being a joke over a pretty girl, once in awhile.  Happens to all guys.  You'll get over it.  Find another girl, and forget this ever happened.
41782
I know how ya feel, I've had girlfriends who were the same-I got in trouble if I "looked" at a woman! To be honest, he loves you & is afraid of loosing you, It's what ya call "insecurity".
261753
Its all down to the individual,most of the lads i know like a girl with a GSH and a big pair of boobs which aren't normally found on skinny women,i don't know wot puts someone in the "fat category" but if you are happy within yourself then others will find you attractive!!!!!
485848
I think that we (guys) should make big deal about their size, at least bigger than it has been in the past. It's funny how women like to put all the pressure about them getting pleasured on men. If a women has a great time having sex it's because the guy was good, if not it means that he was lousy. No wonder so many men suffer performance anxiety. It's always about the size of men and never about the girl. During sex, men generally do most of the work while women just lay or kneel there doing nothing else but enjoying themselves while we sweat like dogs. What most people forget is that men's penis don't change with age. It stays the same pretty much for most of his life. Some people may said that if you get fat it gets smaller, but it's not true, it's just hiding under all the fat. But women do get loose with time and specially after they have children. Now, I'm not putting women down, I'm just want to make the point that those who live in a class house should not throw stones. May be us guys should make fun of their size just like they made fun of us. \n\nThere are a lot of women here who are liars, they say that they don’t care about their size. May be they don’t think as much about it because they don’t have the same pressure that we men do, but I know that they care more than they are willing to admit. I’d bet you that it would bug then like crazy if we started telling them that they feel loose. Which is not always true or course. That’s something that no women wants to hear. I’ve read so many questions posted in here by women concerned about their size, that it’s obvious that they do care.
97863
why do guys rather have skiny women than of have fat women?
103604
there is nothing wrong with being fat, if you are fat and healthy.\nwe all need love, doesn't matter what our size.
1118678
Well, why on earth would get with any of those losers who probably tell fat jokes all day long with friends and co-workers. How dare you even consider taking a chance just because you lost weight and now have some self confidence. What about what you will do to that poor guy who loved you for you! Does he deserve to get hurt? It's going to make him resent women in general and make it hard for him to trust again. He should reap the benefits of your new slim figure, he should have those same guys that talked about him for being with a fat girl, now turning green with envy. He deserves that, because he fell in love with the true you, your personality, and not with the outer appearance of  you. Do what is right, or you are going to end up miserable. I know so many slim girls who get cheated on and dogged out by the same guys you are talking about getting with. They would kill for a chance to have such a nice guy. Don't be foolish sweetie. Stay with this guy, get married, have children. I guarantee you that he won't leave your side during or after childbirth, over the extra weight that you gain. He at least have already validated himself in that department!
538258
Dont worry,! hang in there i feel what u feel. there is a thousand guys out there ,, dont go on any dating services, i tried it, i met some one fat. not that i dont like fat people, they r cool, but anyway, keep ur chin up and be tall and strong it takes a lot of time to get over guys i guarantee u. but dont date one of his friends ,, thats the wurst thing ta do, stick it to ur gut. dont let him get to u.u cant stay sad 4 evur. dont lose hope on findin another guy to be with.
757012
i think that if you dont look smokin hot naked and clothed than you aren't worth the time. thats why i dont get all this cheating stuff. girls get mad at their men when they cheat on them but here is the real reasoning, in this day and age there is absolutely NO EXCUSE to be overweight and ugly anymore. so if you are getting cheated on then you just aren't trying hard enough to look good and if your man cheated on you with somoneone hotter and thinner than it shouldn't even count because it is your own fault
886707
The same reason why guys like thin chicks instead of heavy ones. They think the sex will be better....little do they know, it doesn't  matter..sex can still be great.
510869
Its all about how society see you. Unfourtunally they have the Misconception that fat people are lazy and smelly and sloppy. What you need to do is ignore all the negitive energy that they put out and keep believing that you are a great person. Who cares what others think about you. Anyone that makes fun of someone has insecurities about themselves.  Obvisiouly your not what people claim you are or else you wouldnt have found a wonderful man to marry you??!! Right!!
340081
not really, maybe it was just a coincidence...i'm a woman, we are so moody when in comes to moments in making love.one minute we feel passionately sexy and would like to make love like we've never had it before, and then the next minute we'd feel like we're the fattest gal,unfit to make love.but a guy should also be sensitive enough to know how her sweatheart feels each moment.the body language speaks alot...goodluck!
174951
For me (and a lot of guys) it's all about proportions.\nThat said , there are a lot of men out there that say the fatter the better, these guys aside most (including myself) think like this:\n\nFor example, if a "fat gurl" as you put it, has no or small breasts then we probably not that interested.  In other words if her gut sticks out further than her breasts it's not good!\n\nIf however she has big breasts (ie curves in all the right places) then yeah we're probably interested.  I'm talking about real curvy women here, not huge women
316745
I know how you feel, it would make me feel scared and uncomfortable too. I think men take a different approach to things, we are more sensitive and think about things before we say them. You must also think that maybe he was just saying that she was hott, maybe he just thinks that she is attractive. I know that doesnt make you feel much better but try not to assume if you really like him approach him and talk to him about it. Just say that i heard you thought so and so was cute? As long as you approach him in a non accusing way i think that he should understand. If you can't face him then just find someone new :)
515927
Just because some idiot told you you were fat - doesn't mean you are, or that you should lose weight.\n\nYou need to learn to love yourself - the way you are, not the way some guy wants you to be. If you change yourself for someone else, you will never be happy. If you do want to lose weight - that is fine - but do it for yourself because you want to be healthy, not for a guy who is clearly not worth it!\n\nAny person worth listening to wouldn't say that you are fat.
411185
They're just feeling insecure because standing next to you it would be even more apparent THEY don't work out. Most men wouldn't want a woman who is stronger than them or earns more than them or has a better career. We've got to be very subtle about these things lest we offend their fragile ego!