I have the man of my dreams, but I am not attracted to him. What can I do?
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You know, sometimes you just have to understand the difference between a good friend and someone you feel romantic and passionate about.  The worst thing you could do to him and yourself is to be with him when you have no feelings for him.  There's nothing more painful than being with someone who does not love you in return.  It is bad for you too because in the end, you're more likely to feel boxed in a relationship.  Your values will be different than his and you won't be able to connect on a emotional/intimate level.  This will eventually cause problems in the future.\n\nI wish you the best...
1108410
Well, I think you should just explain to him that he is a nice guy but you just don't feel the spark. Explain that it's not him, it just is not there. Hopefully he will understand....
450436
It sounds as if you are a bit confused, Look at yourself, what this individual likes in you, what about you attracts him.when you find out then you can be the person he loves don't be pushy, give him space make suggestions, never dictate. Ask for his input in things you both do together. Be a lady not a woman, The times you both spend together should not necessary be quantity but quality, find out what turns him on be caring and loving but don't be too frivolous. Give him things to always think positive of you, Be honest in all you do and say
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you are sprung.  you wrote, " but i know he's not right for me. he lies alot. but i cant help it."  so he's hot?  so he's 'the ladies man? sure.  what the f ever.  i've seen this 1000 times.  i've been there 100 times.  and you have to get the f over this man.  he's a bad boy for life and you'll be another trophey on his shelf.  just another story to tell at the bar before he picks up his next one.  if you are smart enough to connect to the internet, you are smart enough to get over this man.   if you do him/it once, you'll no longer be his object to be desired.  you'll be his object conquered..  stay a mystery.  it's so much more fun to smile at him and make him wonder, than to blush and make him proud.
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This person isn't interest in you because .... Let's me stop you there. If he is not attractive to you, he not attractive to you. You could have every physical characteristic he wants, and he still would not be attractive to you.\n\nMen are visual so they see everything. They see the physical, they see behavior, they see their mothers, etc. Whatever they see is what they see.\n\nIf you are attractive to someone, and he is not. You are obviously seeing the same thing differently. You can not help being attractive to someone; nor can you help not being attractive to someone either.\n\nYou are not pretty enough does not help attractiveness. It may get the initial contact, but you have better more than a pretty face.\n\nThe easiest thing I can say is to be patience and that you will meet someone who is attractive to you. But frankly, you need to clean house and take stock on who you are, what you really want, and how you are going to it. If you want to share a life, you must have one.\n\nOne last point, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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He has B.O. (Body Odour) .\nYou'll have to learn to love the smell (or change him for another one)
85215
No he isn't holier.  But I know what you mean.  I think that you need to see how close you are to him.  Is he your friend? Does he even talk to you?  With these type of men they seek realy spiritual women that will be a help in their ministry. Try to talk to him. Start trying to be friends first.  Then see how it turns out.  I agree with the person that wrote that you might just be infatuated with the role and not the person.  It is realy easy to get that way.  Just start by being friends that way you can see if it's the man or the role that your in love with.
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you move on.  He sounds really insensitive.  I think when someone shares their tender feelings of attraction that the least the person on the recieving end of it could be is nice.  It sucks when they don't care.
484164
Go with that feeling, because he doesn't really love you. There are millions of other guys out there.
776551
Go for it\nThe reason you give for not being with him are shallow, and I suspect that your real feeling run much deeper than that.
920098
There is nothing wrong with you.  We can not help who we are attracted to - that just happens on it's own.  If you found yourself attracted to a man of another race I am sure you would (as you already have) given it a try to see where a relationship might lead.  You haven't had luck so far and maybe you never will - or maybe you will in the end.  There is no way of knowing - just be open to love and it will find you.\n\nxoxo!\nPeace!
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You've got a simple case of wanting what you can't have!  You don't really want him; you just want him to want you.  Once you realize that's your problem, you can move on and have a healthy relationship with someone worthy of you.
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if you dont want to be with him for what ever reason you really cant help seeing him unless you dont want any contact with him whatsoever and i dont think thats the case..so what i say is admire his sexiness..shoot..that wont hurt anything now will it lol...just keep thinking of his as "just a friend (no matter how hard that will be)
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He does not love you,nothing indeed.Find a a man, who will love you indeed.
1130316
Spice it up.  You two both MUST have a fantasy, try that.  I donnt know if it is un-attractiveness, or if it is a case of your bored..you know "same ole' same ole'" type thing.  Just put alittle sugar in your sex life, try new things.  Good luck, hope things get better for you!!
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It's very common, and I don't think it's wrong, unless you act on it. It might be awkward if you are working with him, but I don't think that you should change your plans just because you're attracted to him, unless you find a better position. There will likely be more bosses and unavailable coworkers in the future that you will find attractive, so if you want to live your life, you might just have to grin and bear it.
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Ignore him and concentrate fully on yourself.  Spoil yourself.  Do your favorite things that have nothing to do with him.  He sounds immature and not ready for commitment.  It will hurt for awhile but eventually you will find your perfect man and it will seem funny to you that you ever wasted any time or thought on this guy.