One of my best bud told me that he wanted to commit suicide SOON! What should I do?!?
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Well just the fact that he told you, means he is asking for your help. NO, NOT in doing it. In his head he wants to commit suicide, BUT in his heart he knows this is wrong and by telling you, he is actually asking for help. So I think the best thing to do is to get him some help. Call him up and ask that he meets you somewhere. And sit down and see if you can't get him to open up as to why. Maybe its a girlfriend thing where he just got dumped. Maybe it is more serious. But first find out why. And try to talk him into going to the hospital for some help/ Here in MA they have a crisis clinic. This is a place where people can walk in and get help. Since it is voluntarily done they can choose to walk out as well. BUT if an assessment has been made that there is some mental things going on they can commit him. BUT this is only if the session has gone that far into the game so to speak. AND if all else fails go to the POLICE who have access 24 / 7 to the proper professional medical help to prevent him from doing any harm to himself. GOOD LUCK and GOD SPEED.
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I'm surprised the docs at the ER released him after one day. Suicide attempt sounds like a good candidate for an inpatient stay (but there are often a lack of beds in some hospitals).\n\nIf he is an imminent danger at any time you or his parents or anyone can call 911 and have him taken against his will.\n\nIn the meantime, my experience is to use a bit of tough love to get people to actively seek and participate in help. They are cognitively buried in that day's pity.  \n\nI go through a list of questions. "Do you remember a day when you were happy?  Or not depressed?"  "Did you want to kill yourself then?"  "What changed between then and now?" "Do you realize that hurting yourself might be a permanent solution to this problem? If you make an impulsive decision in this state of mind, do you realize you don't get to go back the next day and take it all back?"\n\nThen I bring up the selfishness of the suicidal mentality (not in a harsh way but tough love, and pointing out that the person is loved and people are there to support him/her).  Does he care that little about you and his family that he wont accept help during this period or that he will run away from you all permanently?\n\nBasically the final steps of the conversation should be a mutual agreement that he needs help doing what's best for him and everyone who cares for him is right there beside him and that you will both go right away to start packing for an inpatient stay or looking up doctors for outpatient therapy. If I were you, I would consider the inpatient because one day isn't long to get over whatever he was battling that day. My guess is a serious convo about the situation will open him up and you'll see his real emotional state.
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First whatever I say don't take it to heart. I would hate to say something that would make it worse. This seems to be a very sensitve subject and I don't want you to necessarily follow what I say. Visit your guidance counselor or one of your teachers. Do you have any friends that you do trust? Really the best thing you can do is talk to someone. Find someone you trust enough to let into your life or your situation. Whenever you feel suicidal it is always helpful to talk to someone you trust or who knows you. I feel for you and will pray for you. And I'm sorry about whats going on .
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killing yourself is not the answer!!!!!  if you ever think that agian go to talk theopy, or talk to your doctor about it.  i am doing those 2 things right now, and i'm taking zolof (50 mg), and i'm going through it.  u have to deal with your problems.  god doesn't give you what you can't handle.  for the past 8 years every guy i dated was a jerk, and 2 people that i know dies.  personally, what i read from you is nothing compared to my life.  my life sound much, much worse.  keep working at your job, the last thing u want is to get fired, and become even more depressed.  tell me how it went!  if you need me for anything call me on my cell- 218-988-2780.
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I am sorry to hear that. That is a very painful process.  Every minute it's always the person in your mind.  I know how you feel.  Well, I would suggest a few ideas, they might not be the best.  However, time will eventually heals and I hope soon. My suggestion would be: (1) go out and meet new friends.  If you can't find new friends, at least hang out with the old ones (2) take a break and go for vacation with some friends if possible (3) take on hobbies - gymn, dance classes, swimming, meditation, etc .... (4) volunteer working at nursing homes and hospitals because sometimes seeing the others who have worse situation than you will make you realize how fortunate you are compared to the rest (5) watch movies, DVD's, etc ..... (6) if you believe in GOD, then you should also start praying. The bottom line is, you must keep you mind occupied most of the time. Therefore there is no room for him to bug your mind.  You must take courage to accept it and move on with your life.  I hope you find these tips helpful.  Meanwhile, I wish you the best.
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Suicide is no joke. I would tell his parents or close relatives/friends. If they don't do something about it, you yourself have every right to call a pscyh facility and report it and have him evaluated.
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has  he gone insane????\n\nHe definately needs a counsellor.......................\nWhat about he flirting along with another guy ot flirting that guy???
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The fact that you asked the questions shows that you have doubts about committing suicide and that means that deep down you know that there is something to live for. I've seriously comtemplated suicide before and I don't think anything in particular convinced me not to do it, I just held on to what little hope I did have and kept telling myself that things would change and get better. If you need to talk to someone directly, you can look in your local yellow pages for a suicide hotline. Or if you'd rather email someone you can send anonymous email to the Befrienders http://www.befrienders.org/support/email.php You will get a personal response and they can help you sort through some of your feelings. Please don't commit suicide. As dark as things may be for you now, they can and will get better, even if you can't see that right now. Try to think of some things that you like in life or hobbies that you have. Pray, meditate, exercise, read, just keep yourself occupied with things you enjoy so you don't focus so much on what's making you suicidal.
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No, Don't commit suicide. there is some who's :-W for you. Please if you feel like you need some one that you talk with contact me.
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Hi, I answered your other question you posted about your boyfriend.  I was glad that I was able to help you out a little bit.  I was troubled to see you spoke of killing yourself if something should happen to him.  First, Try to get that thought out of your head!  Suicide is never the answer for anything.  You cant just give up like that.  Now is the time you need to be strong, for your boyfriend, and more importantly yourself.  If you need to chat with somebody, You can always email me jam961@yahoo.com  Things may appear rough for you right now.... But they can get better.  Instead of worrying about the "what if's" of life, you should focus on what is going on right now.  Enjoy being with your boyfriend now.  Build some memories to last a lifetime, and try to be happy.  If you really love this guy, you should be happy that he has been....and still is a very important part of your life.  Once he has a place in your heart, even if God forbid, he does take a turn for the worst, he will always be right there with you... In your memories, and deep down in your heart.  But don't even think about that now, just enjoy being there for each other.
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whoa NELLY! You need some help dude. Seriously! CALL AND GET HELP NOW. Im worried about you! SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER! PLEASE DONT DO THAT!
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It sounds like he just wants attention. I've been to the suicide place before too, and all I wanted was to be loved and cared for. A lot of the time when people talk about suicide they merely want attention. But you really can't pay attention to what they're like when you're around them. You have to see what they're like when they're alone because most people will act like normal people while they're out and go home and kill themselves. There are a few things you could do. Tell his parents, his friends, the police, take him to church, a doctor, on top of all that just be there for him.
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Tell her that you love her as a friend and if there is anything you can do to help. Trust me i thought about sucide and that helped me when my friend said that to me and made me feel loved. Tell her you don't wanna do this just think of all the people you will meat later on in your life and there r so many thing to look forward to. I hope this helped you and i wanna wish you the best of luck
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hmmm...sounds like a suicide attempt. I  wanted to ignore your post, but I want to tell you, there's counselors in almost every community.  \nSeek help and don't slice that wrist.
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Oh my goodness that is horrible tell him how important he is to you as a friend and doing that will not only upset you but crush you completely . Hang out with him and get to know why would he feel he needs to take those actions . Be his support line or seek higher support this is serious.
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You need to take action right now. Either tell his parents or call 911 and shown them the text messages. He may get mad at you but if you really care for him you have to take the risk. He will eventually be very thankful that you were there for him when he needed you. He is crying out for help, all treats of suicide are crys for help. He has reached a point where what ever emotional pain he feels is too strong for him to deal with on his own. He needs and wants help or else he would have said nothing and acted on commiting suicide. But if you do nothing he may think you don't take him seriously and feel traped to attempt suicide sine he made the threat. Help you friend the only way you can by getting him help from his parents of the emergency system. You may be the only one that can. How will you feel if you don't and you find out he is dead tomorrow?\n\nLet me know how this works out. Good luck.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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You should tell everyone what really happened. your real friends and family will believe you. But let the friend off the hook too. i mean, he is your freind, right?