I care for a 14 month old girl daily. How do I discipline her not to hit and push the other children?
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One year old- one minute time out. Sit her down for that minute away from other kids and explain to her what she did wrong. Do it consistantly- every time! When you let her up if she hurt some one have her say she is sorry and if she can't say that yet give a hug or kiss.\n\nPlease don't teach a child not to hit by hitting them. That just teaches them they can hit as long as they are bigger or tougher than the person they're hitting.
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Don't be too strict...don't let them run with the ball...but if they lift there pivit foot once don't sweat it...Let them touch each other but don't let them intentionally do it...if something is questionable let it slide...At that age the kids are just now learning the game...and calling every little thing won't help anything...all it'll do is make it a stop and go game...which no one will enjoy
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Be creative, be fun, be caring, be patient!\n\nCome up with ideas, fun things to do, be active with the kids, sometimes, sacrifice a little energy, kids love it when you can keep up with them, but you need to know when to say no, you can't teach them it's okay to just jump and climb on people. \n\nThey're little boys, get some trucks, get some games, get some movies that are kid appropriate, most likely a cartoon about racing, or legos, something of that nature. nothing controversial because it's a church family. You want something that's not going to upset the parents if they see it.\n\n--Get them involved in drawing, or sitting in a circle and play catch. observe the way things are dealt with in a preschool and a kindergarden, and mimic some of the teachers. smile a lot, but don't smile when they do something wrong, speak quietly, and tell them to calm down. don't yell, ever. \n\nMake sure to keep a soft expression, even when you're upset, you don't want the kids scared of you, but you want them to listen. read them a book before they go to bed. (( 3 and 4 might not be so easy to read too)) ...the 3 and 4 yr old will probably be extremely energetic, so when it's time for them to go to bed, you might have to put up a small struggle, but don't give in, and don't be harsh. \nThe best thing to do is to get them tired out, put them to bed, or close their doors and turn off the lights, if they're scared of the dark, use a night light. - but keep the doors closed. if the kids see things that they can do to stay awake, they'll do them. be fun during the day, and boring when it's bed time. \n\n\nPatience and love is the key to children. and, relax! have fun.
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Lots of supervision still needed at this age but they think they are independent and love feeling like a big kid. I would say this is in general, a jello phase. You have to start instilling kids as soon as possible with good habits, just like you add the fruit before the jello sets.\n\nKids this age are definitely capable of learning manners. Please, thank you, excuse me, thank you NOTES for gifts, even if they just draw a picture and you help by writing the note on the margin...also other social skills. Sharing is a biggie. Quiet voice. Learning how to accept the answer they don't want to hear. Learning to be patient, wait in line, take turns, etc.\n\nBig helper time at the age of 3. Can have a lot of fun just following you around the house while you do ordinary jobs and making it fun at this age gets them started on life skills with a good attitude. 3's can help you in the kitchen by dumping ingredients in and helping you stir, matching socks and folding washcloths, picking up toys, even learn the motions of dusting, sweeping, etc even if you go behind them or their spray bottle has just water in it. It isn't ever about perfection or helping you get things done faster, it is about having a good attitude to pitch in and their satisfaction at contributing to the task, as well as practicing the basic motions of those tasks.\n\nHygiene and self care. Can start brushing his own teeth, but you would go behind and help. Handwashing and finishing up the potty training, a new skill most times at the age of 3. Can probably help with washing himself in the bathtub...and hair if you use a tear free shampoo. Can probably dress self if you lay out the clothes for him...pull-on clothes, will be working on snaps, buttons, zippers, and getting things on frontwards and right side out, etc.\n\nKids this age are pretty fluent talkers and will love learning new words for things. Body parts, things in the city, animals, colors, stuff in the house. Help him identify stuff in his world. \n\nKid-friendly museums might be an excellent learning opportunity. And library time is great.\n\nStill too young for reading and math but some letter identification and counting, as well as being read TO, will be a great start on literacy.\n\nEmotionally, kids at 3 will benefit from learning how to identify their feelings. Questions will help. What kind of face is this? Was the boy in the book scared? When you see an emotional outburst, good or bad, you can ask him if he is feeling what you think or say something like, "I'll bet you are pretty happy now!" or "That would make me mad, are you mad?" Getting in touch with feelings at an early age will help kids manage them as they spring up.\n\nPsychologically, kids at all ages, particularly young, need solid boundaries, and a lot of supervision and structure. Kids this age need regular snacks and lots of rest. Try to alternate between quiet time and rowdy time. Try to do things the way the parents do at home. And give clear simple directions with direct consequences and if you have to discipline, keep your word with what you say will happen. CATCH THEM BEING GOOD! meaning to heap on the praise for doing the right thing, they will not misbehave nearly as much in trying to please you and get that reinforcement if they know you notice. Try to stretch attention spans by avoiding things like 10 minute cartoons or 5 minute books, but at the same time, recognize that kids have a rather short attn span and memory.\n\nKids this age love to explore and be busy. Nature walks are great. When I was a nanny, we used to collect leaves, pine cones, sticks, sand, etc then use them in art projects. The family was religious and we called it God art...sand was God glitter...we glued a surface and put sand on it, shook it off. We always loved coming up on a busy ant pile or a new bug or animal. For games, hiding games, races, dressup, are great. For sit down, matching games are good. Chutes and Ladders
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try talking to them like you would to children that don't listen......be firm and strong  ... it works for me i get all there attion ....good luck! take care!
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Ceebra had some great answers. You can also do follow the leader kind of this where they copy what you do. Also you can set up a simple obstacle course where you can encourage them to balance along wide beams, crawl through tunnels, step along stepping stones or in between ladder rungs on the ground. You can put a track on the ground made of masking tape where the children have to walk along the line like a tightrope walker. If you want more physical exertion, try running races (eg "show me how fast you can run (or walk/crawl/fly etc) to the sandpit and back again"!)
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Doctors diagnosed me with ADHD when i was a kid  for the same reason. Its a phase most likely cause she might get her way with her father when she acts out like that so she automatically thinks everyone else will give her way when she is like that. My suggestion corner or worse help with household work kids hate doing both and its way worse then a spanking. But do not give in to there temper tantrums ignore them or set them in the corner. She will soon realize her actions have consequences and will stop eventually but children will always look for alternative ways to stump you. Beware of the pity face and the Innocent looks there dangerous ignore them at all costs. Try taking away a favorite toy if the corner doesn't work or taking a privilege that she likes. like plying with her friends or cartoons. Let her know that newtons law for every action there is and equal or opposite reaction to every action is a true statement be the PARENT and not the child?
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I was your daughter, once upon a time. What my mother did with me was to inform me of the consequences if I did something & then she carried it out...consistency is the only way to deal with this. I was an only child so I had just about everything a kid could want in my room. When I was bad, I was not allowed to play in my room; instead being relegated to the end of the couch in the living room where she could keep an eye on me while she went about her daily chores. There was nothing in this world that I hated more than being made to sit at the end of that couch because there was no TV, no radio, no nothing. I was told that, if I put even one foot on the floor & didn't sit there like a little lady, I would get a spanking...it worked wonders.\n\nAs for sharing - if your daughter has a problem with it - try the following. If I refused to share a toy with a little friend, my mother would take it from me. She'd put it away for later but she would tell me that if I didn't learn to share, she was going to give them away. It was just my mother's luck, I guess, that soon after this first incident, a friend of mine was having a birthday party & my mother had gotten her something that I also had & she knew the girl particularly liked. While it is true that she had to take me home from the party early because I launched into a screaming & crying fit (thinking the girl had been given my toy), you can bet that I learned that lesson immediately :) It wasn't until I was in my thirties that the subject came up one day & Mom realized what was behind my little fit...not fun to have your parent laugh at you when you are an adult :)\n\nBTW, a friend of mine uses a variation of the sitting on the couch routine when her child is bad. Difference is, she makes her kid sit on the sofa with the computer, radio & television all in the same room & turned off...drives her daughter crazy. Another friend has a kid who loves video games &, when he is being difficult, she takes them away & lets his brother play them in the other room; within the child's hearing. I, personally, think this is a little mean & somewhat harsh, but it seems to work for her son.\n\nI think that is really the trick to getting them to behave in that every kid is different & you have to find out what gets under their skin. Its not to be mean, of course, it is so that you have that leverage that you need to keep them in line. I can assure you that by the time & was six or seven, my mother only need look at me in a particular way & I would not only shut my mouth, but immediately try to make myself invisible. At the same time, I never lived in fear of her...only of her being angry with me...big difference...\n\nGood luck!
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First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
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It would take a supremely huge effort for me to EVER slap a kid in the face, however, I have to admit that I've been tested a time or two. Spanking, however...well, I am a firm believer in "spare the rod, spoil the child". I am a bit older, however, I know that many people do not believe in this today.\n\nI will, then, share with you a family situation. I am the oldest of all of the grandkids & we are all now adults. I was spanked when necessary but not, of course, beaten in any way. My cousins, on the other hand, were never spanked or even smacked to save them from doing something stupid or harmful. My cousins, I have to admit, are some of the most spoiled & self-centered adults that I have EVER come across. Only one even approaches what I would consider normal & I think that this is only because she got lucky when she got married...he makes a fortune & she doesn't have to worry about anything other than taking care of their kids & shopping. Still, she's quickly learning that she can't raise her kids the way she was raised. The other two? All me, me, me...to the extent that one of them expected her parents to help her finance en-vitro because she couldn't have kids on her own. Now she has three that run wild...while she blames everyone else for having to work so hard to support them.\n\nI know this is just my family but, geez, it should be a little snapshot into the adult effects of not spanking your children when they misbehave...at least it has been for me...
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Some effective ways to get a child to behave is ether to put them in time out, don't let him/her play with the other kids for a period of time(same as time out i know),have a good behavior chart to put stickers on only if they're good and if they get a certain # of stickers they get a prize out of the prize box ooooohhhhhhh......,or talk to the childs parents about the problem.
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I have been teaching young children for twenty years.  We use a variety of behavior management techniques.  Here are a few:\n\nProximity Control:  This is the easiest behavior management strategy, and it works much of the time.  Proximity Control means putting yourself where the action is.  Sit on the floor or at a table with the children.  Play with them or involve them in conversations.  Often just having a teacher nearby prevents problems before they even start.  \n\nModeling:   Children learn from watching us so always think about what you are doing in the classroom.  If you want children to lower their voices, then make sure you’re not yelling.  If you want children to be polite to one another, you also need to be polite.\n\nDistraction:  Sometimes you can head off an inappropriate behavior before it gets out of control, by offering an alternate activity.  This is especially effective with younger children.  \n\nRedirection:  Similar to Distraction, Redirection works by taking the emphasis off the inappropriate behavior and replacing it with a positive behavior.  The difference is that Redirection involves actually moving the child to another area of the room.  For example if two children are arguing about who can build on the block rug, you could help one child find an alternate space to build.\n\nLimited Choices:  If a child is having a difficult time controlling his or her own behavior, we can help by giving more structured choices.  This is especially helpful if a child seems to be overly excited or stimulated by the activity in the classroom.  Make sure the child always has at least three choices to pick from.  (For example, “I’m going to help you calm down a little.  Right now, you can choose to draw, read books or paint at the easel.”\n\nTime Alone:  Sometimes a child has an extreme amount of difficulty controlling his or her behavior and it is necessary to remove the child from other people for a short time.  This is usually only done when there is the threat of danger to the child, another person or equipment.  If you need to remove a child for a short time, find a place where he or she can be alone (within view of a teacher) and give the child something to do. We never use “time-outs” as a punishment.  Our Time Alone is a way for the child to calm down and regain control.  We should not have a child sit alone for more than 3-5 minutes for this age group.\n\n\nLogical Consequences:  Sometimes it is appropriate to give a consequence for a negative behavior.  If you chose to use a consequence as a behavior management technique, there are two things to remember:\n\n1. The consequence always needs to be logical.  This means that it has to make sense to the child.  If a child knocks down a friend’s block tower, it makes sense that he or she helps to rebuild the tower.  It does not make sense for that child to miss gym time later in the day. \n\n2. The consequence should take place as soon as possible after the behavior.  Even our oldest children can’t always remember what they did two or three hours ago.\n\nFamily Support:  We talk to children’s families about their behaviors on a regular basis.  This isn’t so that we can “tattle” to the parents about what happened during the day.  Rather, it is important that the children understand there is a link between school and home, and that the family and teachers are a team.\n\nHope this helps!  Good luck at your interview.
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a good beating always works. mostly I just smack her ass very hard 10 or 20 times and after she's done crying I make her service me. I know I know I really should do it during the beatings but no matter how many dirty socks I stuff in her mouth I can still hear her wimpering and that just turns me off
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My g-ma also. Lucky I was not the injured party, but You can only hurt her. There is no other way. And you may scare her away. My family just keeps away from her. You must always put your child first with no regards to others feelings being hurt. There is no other way.
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You're welcome (and mean it.)\n\nBe a Good Manner Model\nIf you don't often hear your child use the magic words-Please, Thank You, Excuse Me-notice how often you use them yourself. How often do you say these words to your child? Or to your spouse? Or to the cashier at the supermarket? Ever catch yourself yelling at inconsiderate drivers? (Who's taking notes in the back seat?) How good a sport are you when your favorite team loses a game?\n\nModeling courteous behavior is the best way to teach your children. They're always taking cues from how parents behave, says Dr. Leman. "Parents love to think about discipline as something that's passed down to children. But the fact of the matter is if you have a disciplined child, you have lived a disciplined life."
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just tell her that ur kids dont like to show much affection...to strangers... i dont make my kids hug touch or even say goodbye to someone they dont want too unless of course they are just being rude.  If she doesnt respect this then find a new friend.
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I pretty much agree with everyone else. Talk to her, just do it tactfully. People are very sensitive these days especially when it comes to their children. Volunteer to help her out if necessary, the most important thing here is that the children are well taken care of.