How can I get my friend to understand that when he don't call me it hurts?
370232
HES NOT MAD AT U BUT U HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT HE MAY HAVE OTHER THINGS GOING ON IN HIS LIFE WHERE CALLING U MAY NOT BE THE FIRST THING ON HIS MIND NOT SAYING THAT HE DOESNT WANT TO TALK TO U ITS JUST THAT HE MIGHT EVEN BE BUSY AND IF YOUR GETTING MAD BECAUSE HE DIDNT CALL IT MAY BE BECAUASE YOUR STARTING TO CATCH FEELINGS EVEN THOUGH HES FAR AWAY. also if u had other things to do and were busy then u wouldt pay that much attention to it and also if its that much long distance i dont think his phone bill is to happy things change and so do people so dont get upset try to remain calm and open minded his situation may have changed
518089
Tell him that life isn't as bad as it seems. He needs to look at the bright side of eveerything. Do you really want to stop being his friend because he is someone who doesn't see the good of things? Think about it. You said you were friends. Don't let him go because of his problems. Help him through it. Make your friend let him know gently that they don't have a chance. Just do things lightly, and think more about him. Don't ditch the dude for his personal things he needs to take care of.
1171252
The truth will set you free. when you finally get in contact with him you make sure you tell him everything, Like how you didnt appreciate when he wasnt callin you and checking on you or nothing. Its alright to hear his side of the story but you give him a piece of your mind, and make him feel shity. you spending your time waiting on him to call, and he out doing other stuff. let'em know girl
306813
The most important thing is to be honest. Tell him that you just don't feel the same way he does and you only see him as a friend. Don't be mean or rude about it, just tell him the truth. If you lie or try to say stuff like "it's not you, it's me" it'll just make him mad that you couldn't just tell him the truth. \n\nIf you're good enough friends, he should be able to accept that. Rejecting someone is never easy and you have to take their feelings into account. Just tell him the truth and be sincere.
1045115
My first question is this: are you sure he's ignoring you? There may be a perfectly valid reason. Did you send him an email and he just hasn't responded? Did you send him an IM that he didn't reply to?  Did you call and leave a vmail and not get a call-back?\n\nFirst, make sure that he is not out-of-town on a family emergency. If you are positive that he has been receiving your messages and purposely not responding to you, only then should you proceed with what I call my secret weapon: the handwritten letter.\n\nWrite him a letter that says the following:\n1. Intro paragraph. Tell him that you really value your friendship and that you are concerned about him. He has not been responding to your calls/ims/emails like he normally does, and you would like to know what's wrong.\n\n2. Body. Tell him that you are not sure if there is anything going on in his life (maybe he is depressed and not speaking to anyone? maybe a relative passed away and he is trying to cope with the loss?), but that you want to be there for him because you care about him. He should know that he can call you any time, day or night.\n\n3. Body, Part II. Tell him that if nothing is wrong, that you were worried that he was angry with you. Describe your last interaction and how you thought that all was well between you at that time. Apologize in advance if you offended him and assure him that it was completely unintentional. Finally, tell him that if it was something that you did, that you would like to talk about it.\n\n4. Finally... Tell him that you miss talking to him and hope that everything is ok. Tell him that you were thinking of some fun time that you guys shared together and that you hope to see him soon. Tell him to take care of himself and sign it \n\nYour friend always,\nXXXXXX\n\nThen, deliver it straight to his door or mail it to his house. Either way, nothing has the impact of a handwritten note in terms of sincerity and thoughtfulness. Try it. I promise he'll be back in no time. ;)
1107005
I know that feeling (the terribal feeling not very well)\nTry to be nice, if you are not feeling what he is... Just be honest, your friendship will change of course but he knows it will, he took the risk by saying he loves you...\nDo not be rude he is just been honest, but you do not share the feeling so be clear state it correctly... \nRelation will change so be prepare you will never look at him as it was before, but you can be mature enough to go over this bad feeling you have and time will put you back together again and you will someday laugh about, if you both are real friends OK... sooner or latter you will accept him as he is.
1124300
Next time he says hold on just be like, Just call me when you have time, or just hang up and if he gets mad just tell him u called to talk to him not to sit on the phone
193688
Maybe he realized that he crossed the limitations...he has cross the off-limits zone..Judging from the way you reacted it seems that you kinda missed this guy,right??? If you still wants to be his friend call him and tell him directly that you're just Friend so that he won't cross again. If he will not talk to you, then fine the least you can do is to let him know that you want him to be your friend.
897631
have you really tried to sit down with him and talk about the way you feel maybe he just needs a little nudge in the right direction he may not be telling you how he feels because he does not want to be rejected and just remember if you do tell him it may or may not happen and that friendship line would be crossed so think about it really hard before you act upon anything good luck
881449
if he calls u shouldnt get mad cuz u asked him to call, if he doesnt call then again u shouldnt get mad cuz he doesnt want to get u in trouble cuz ur grounded..no ofense but u sound soooooooo imature
703441
well when you get home call him right alway and tell him what happend and make sure that next time you two are going to meet up be prepare for everithing and your friend that didnt want you to have the # he probably realy cares for you so talk to him and tell him y is the reason he didnt give it to you
330977
if you fell uncomfortable..and you cant say that to him..then he isnt being just a friend. You should just not hang out with him anymore. If he is a friend then you should be able to set bounderies and such without hurting his feelings. Even if he isnt meaning it in a certain way..its how its coming across to you..and he needs to know that...either way if you cant be open and honest he isnt a good friend.
1013490
First of all, you don't owe him a thing.  Secondly, do you really want to be friends with him?  Sounds to me like any friendship you might have would only make it harder for you to break things off, and your heart will just get trampled.  You know the score.  You know he's not going to settle down.  As hard as it might be, the best thing to do is ignore his calls for now until you're stronger, because most likely he will not take no for an answer, and will manipulate you and use guilt to continue to get his way.  Don't forget he has other girls to fall back on.  Best to let him go now with your pride, dignity, and heart still in tact.
601329
It sounds like he llikes you. He may be scare he will get hurt again. If you and he become an item then that may spoil the great friendship you have and then he'd he hurt if he loses that too\n\nSo just bare with him he's trying to deal with this and the last thing he needs is to lose another.\n\nThe feelings u feel is just him having fun with his friend and may be u just in hopes that theres something there
674798
Just ask her if it was an accident, or what the deal was. You can read her face when she answers you. Remember accidents do happen. If you don't believe her just simply avoid her and move on you don't have to be rude or if you cherish her friend ship forgive her and don't believe everything she says that way you don't get hurt again. Just accept the fact she lies. It all depends  how valuable your friendship is. I had a friend like that once, she called 5 times a day, I mean I really didn't have time for all that, it got on my nerves so bad I unplugged my phone for 3 months. I finally got it out of my system and now we aren't that close, I avoid her most of the time cause I don't want to get her started again.
165062
Unless there's a legitimate reason for him not calling you back, "he's just not that into you". You make it sound like his behavior is consistent so if you're making the relationship a priority and he isn't, it may be time to move on. Make yourself less available. I would spend more time with friends and ignore his calls. That way you're out there meeting new guys and he'll either come around or you'll find one that returns phone calls.
89685
I would tell him that he hurt me whether he was joking or not and if he apologizes, accept it. People say a lot of things they don't mean when they're mad. If he is truly your friend, he'll apologize, if he doesn't then I'd say, "Ya know what? When you decide to apologize, I'll listen, until then, I would rather not be around you."