Would it bother you if you are separating from your husband and?
370780
He may not be slapping or punching you, but forcefully grabbing you is physical abuse. If he is verbally, emotionally and mentally, sexually you need to examine whether or not you want to stay married to him. It doesn't sound like he respects you or your wishes. If he did he wouldn't be forcing kisses and hugs on you when you need some space to sort out your feelings. Only you can know when you've had enough and are ready to leave. What you are describing is abuse. You may not want to see that, but I heard your story from hundreds of other women in the 11 years I worked for a domestic violence program. I'm sorry if it upsets you to hear it, but I hate to see any woman treated this way.
615445
I would miss being around him, his hugs, his kisses, his love....  But that's good, because when you get home.  It's going to be like a honeymoon again...\n\nSometimes it is healthy being away from your spouse.  Gives you a chance to miss him.\n\nHAVE FUN ON YOUR VACATION...
220947
Personally, I don't care one way or the other. It depends on how the guy fells about it. It doesn't bother my husband, although it is a pain to clean up afterwards.
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.
794898
wow!  I have been married to my husband for 9 years this January.  We have overcome some horrible conditions.  I do not want to go into detail here online.  However, I love my husband despite the things we have been thru.  Infidelity was not one of the issues, but we were involuntarily separated for 3yrs 8 mos.  We have been thru things with our ex's...just about anything that could go wrong has...Now, we are best friends and know each other inside and out.  Trauma brought us closer...it is often not that way in marriages.  We're blessed that way..I had to spend Thanksgiving alone again this year...but we will get thru this.  So, the answer is yes.  Despite everything and everyone, if you want to overcome, you will.
454176
Your grieving. It is normal.  Divorce is a death. The death of a marriage. Like any death it takes time to grieve.  No matter if you wanted the divorce it is the end of a relationship.  When you spend the majority of your life with some it is really hard to stop caring and wanting to talk to them.  You will feel sad and cry. Something will remind you of him.  You have to remember why you felt you had to leave him. It will get better with time.
1101036
None of the above ... I'm in the twilight zone of not divorced , not married seperateness that does not go away... cause when neither cares to remarry and yet you are still friends , why divorce?
924567
You need to quest yourself for following :\n1. Is your (both of yours) feeling same like earlier (or may be more intimacy)\n2. Is the reason making you separate (which U've not mentioned) is really resolved.\n3. Does he really feels and cares about you and if to live without you will be painfull for life?\n4.  Has he back with immidiate requirement of physical togatherness or the feeling has brought him back.\n5, And the last but most important, take some time of your own and ask to your heart without involving your brain. You will be getting the best answer!!\n\nAll the best. kindly let all of us know  (who has answered your question) about your decession and also in future about your happiness on these decession.
1160467
Hi there,\nI can somewhat relate to you in a sense that I was in your shoes when my boyfriend (now my husband) was doing the same thing like your wife did.  I think, I forgave him since we're not really together (I was in another state).  Yes, I was grossed out when I heard this and the thought of 2 on 1 is disgusting.  We decided that not to associate with those kind of people, which helps me to cope.  Out of sight, out of mind.   The most important thing about this ordeal is having trust in this person again and make sure that it won't happen again.  Yes, then your can feel more secure and comfortable being with this person again.\nBest wishes,
72555
If you need to ask this question then clearly there are some warning signs. How long have you known this guy? Did you date him while going through your separation and divorce or did you recently meet him?\n\nHow long were you separated? Did you have any down time for healing and self exploration? Have you resolved those issues within yourself that brought division into your marriage?\n\nYou do know that you contributed in some way to the downfall. No one is exempt.\n\nYou need to take your time. Look and listen for warning signals. Write down the pros and cons of the relationship.\n\nHow is he around others? Your family and friends, his family and friends? What about when you disagree? Is he disrespectful? Does he shut you off? Does he allow you to express yourself?\n\nThese things are important. Don't glamorize him. Take it just as it is. You also need to consider children. His and yours if there are any. How does he treat them? Yours and his. \n\nIs he selfish? Does he provide for you? Do you fear him or are you your true self? How about religious beliefs. Do you believe the same or are you unequally yoked?
671124
My hubby and I were having mega problems and i was on the verge of leaving... when i finally told him i was leaving and taking our 7 month old daughter, he straightened up right away. We talk about what really bothers us and we fix it... we compromise...every marriage has problems and if people say they dont they are lying! Sit down and have a conversation...nto an arguement ... first decide who goes first... tell what you hate and move on.... then dont throw it up in each others faces after this...just keep it in the back of your mind. For example... my hubby hated when i would gripe about little things like him leaving a dish out.. and i hated when he wouldn't seperate his laundry into the right bin. So we both corrected the problem and we moved on...(this is not why i was leaving.. he had a drinking problem)
24531
My husband kind of did something similar to me..and I can tell you dragging it out only hurt me more.  Although he cheated, lied, etc.  I did want to be sexual, he didn't always, but in the end my ex just wasn't ready to settle down.  It can be harder if you have kids (as we did) but you can still be in their life and be a good father if you and their mother are seperated.  Just make sure nothing else is what is actually bothering you...before jumping..grass isn't always greener on the other side.
1105218
Very possible...when I was married I loved my husband dearly however I could not stand that asshole..soooo I divorced him and I'm happy again...:)
342846
Enough is enough...I find nothing wrong with protecting your marriage, why wait until its gone to far...not really knowing all the details but that he did break it off tells me that you had good reason to snip this at the bud...and that in all fairness he wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot...I'm glad for the both of you.
894953
Not sure.  I'd feel pretty heartbroken, and probably would be very near to ending the marriage.  It depends on whether or not my husband was sorry.  Haven't had this happen to me, so I don't know.
269844
Being apart is just a part of military life that you chose to accept when you got involved with him.  If there are other things wrong in the relationship then you need to decide the relationships fate based upon those things.  Regardless, he is your babies father and he will always now have a role in your life regardless of if you are together or not.
233313
It depends on your relationship with your husband.  If he's mature, secure in himself and your relationship and he honestly wants you to be happy...he should want you to have friends.  I still get along well with most of my ex-es and my husband is totally cool with it...because he knows I'll always be coming home to him, no question about it.