Can former lesbian lovers be close freinds?
364210
i believe they can because two of my friends were together and they still play sports together, talk and sometimes hang out.
286739
Yes, I have several gay friends, a few lesbian friends, and a couple of bisexual friends. Even though I'm straight, I get along great with them! \n\nSo, why do you ask?\nOhhh thanks for answering. I was thinking we were all going to get bashed for having gay friends. ;0)
1128919
Sure. Many. But then I always wondered what it would have been like if I had had a relationship/marriage with one of them. I think It would be like any other intimate relationship. When you step out of the friend zone, things are bound to change.
905029
I value friends that I can spend long long long times apart from and yet when we get back together it is as if we parted only yesterday.  Once I went to a high school reunion and in many ways it was as if my crazy friends and I were 18 again.  It was fun to see them again and relive a little of my misspent youth with the advantage of seeing it from an older and hopefully wiser perspective.  I do not expect nor want to spend years parted from my lover.  If we were forced to be apart that long, I would not want our relationship to be frozen in time as was my relationships with my high school chums I had not seen in a decade.  If my lover and I were parted for that long it would be too painful and unnatural to immediately try to relive the "glory days" of our long past relationship.  Rather I would prefer that we would come together again with an understanding that we had both grown and changed and a gentle time of rediscovery to truly get to know the new person she had become and to share who I had become. \n \nWhom would I want as a dinner guest?\nA great cook, preferably of Italian cuisine.  It wouldn't hurt if she were very dazzling conversationalist.  I wouldn't mind if she were easy on the eyes.  It wouldn't bother me if she had an appetite like a bird so there would be more for me!\n\nWhom would I want as my lover?\nMy wife.  We have been together for many years.  She is the mother of our children.  She is the keeper of my soul.  I have no desire nor need to touch another.  However, I am a red blooded straight male, so of course I do find other women attractive, but to actually consider taking them as a lover is out of the question.  I realize for me, my wife being my lover is not merely a physical act.  It is part of the very fabric my life is woven from.  To risk all that is my daily reality for the short lived physical pleasure of a new conquest would go against every shred of wisdom I have gained from my years of life.\n\nWhom would I want as my close friend?\nSomeone who has a close relationship with God.  I am not perfect, so if we are to remain friends for a lifetime, they will need to be forgiving and loving.  The other advantage to having friends who have a real relationship with God is that the friends don't tend to make unhealthy demands of the relationship because they are being fulfilled through a spiritual relationship that no human relationship can fill.
866167
Maybe, she just has to get over you.  I'm a woman and it's hard to be freinds with someone that you still have feelings for.  Maybe in a couple of months she'll come around.\n\nGood luck
593357
Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
468710
It's easy to make emotional connections with people you're close to, regardless of your usual sexual preferences.  If I were you, I'd enjoy the happiness that being with her brings, and try not to worry about it.
1119343
She takes you as a really good friend. So my advice to you dont let your heart in too much... it could hurt and you cant blame her for it as you know she is lesbian. Dont blunder the friendship!
260259
i don't know any lesbian friends who would be willing to spend the night with you but my cousin stars in a lot of gay porn movies. he is quite the "man". he said he would like to spend one night with you and then you could give your opinion the next day of what you thought about your new adventure.
989913
Yes, it depends more on the people involved rather than their respective genders. What would be any different about your boyfriend having a gay male friend or you having a lesbian friend? Real relationships are based on trust and center on more than sexual attraction.
5383
Yes friends can be lovers.  Just be careful, sometimes being lovers can lead to relationships and then you can end up breaking up, and then you have not only lost your lover, but you have lost a friend.
69742
Well You Say You Have Been Friends For A Long Time And It Is Difficult To Tell Her, Mabe It Can Come Up In A Casual Convo. And Make It Clear That You Are Not Interested In Females, In Your ChildHood You Were Curious And Now You Know You Are Not Curious Any More, And Are Very Satisfied With Dating Men Only, Females Dont Interest You/Turn You On, etc.  Shes A Good Friend And Nothing Else,  I believe That If You Two Are As Close As You Say, Then You Should Know What To Say From Your Heart And She Should Be Understanding. I Wish You The Best Of Luck With Your Friendship ;-)
349618
are you a lesbian if you are email me at ciara11236cici@yahoo.com\n\nwww.lesbian.com
116892
Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
1049499
Yes.  I moved to another place about 6 - 7 hours away from my previous address.  Then all of a sudden a former female co-worker / friend of mine e-mailed me and basically professed her love to me and that she was willing to have a long distance relationship.  \n\nI was totally caught by surprise!  To make a long story short, I told her that I was not interested and that we should just be friends because most likely long distance relationships won't work.  Besides, I was never into her.  Sure, I was friendly to her, but I had no intentions in going further.  \n\nThen I got a barrage of hateful e-mails from her that lasted for 2 weeks.   I just ignored each of her hateful e-mails, and she never e-mailed me back, and I never heard from her again.
571698
I have several female friends and I am married..there is nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex,in fact it helps you to get their views on things..specially relationships..ignore the people that make the gay remarks they are shallow..just remember you can never have enough friends..and I am sure she is more of a friend than the ones calling you names
703089
Its normal to feel this way. The type of friendship that you two have is very beautiful. However, if you find yourself too close to her or attracted to her physically, you may want to question your sexuality. Other than that, you're cool!