how do i deal with a stalker / fatal attraction type of thing?
368967
Call the police Seriously, don't take it lightly, my best friend was murdered by her stalker and her mother was shot in the face. He was try in to kill her too. So I don't think there is anything funny about that type of thing. She thought she could handle the situation, but she couldn't. GET SOME HELP!!!
660812
Stop being a stalker.
697445
Smile at him, on purpose, and make eye contact, every time you see him. When he smiles back, don't get shy and look away. You can even say, "hi," if the spirit moves you. Let him look away first. He'll talk to you.\nP.S. No stalking.
824236
The best thing to do is not rush anything.  That is what freaks guys out the most. You can paint paintings but do that kind of thing in moderation.  Don't smother or be clingy.  Resist the temptation to go all goo goo gaa gaa over him right off the bat.  It isn't wrong to feel that way about someone just keep some of it under wraps for right now. If it lasts there will be plenty of time for that later.  Just take a deep breath and relax. If you get some big bubbly surge of lovey dovey feelings just bite a pillow or write it in a journal.  Don't call him and go "I looooove you much I don't know what to do!"  Don't go to the extreme of pretending you don't like him either. It works for some guys but to others it is a turn off. Good luck.
281421
I would say ignore them but that only makes them want you more. You have to TOTALLY ignore them. You have to avoid all contact because the slightest thing you do will only make the attraction stronger.
1174643
Keep a journal of everythnig he is doing.  Also, check with your local victim/witness advocate's office to see if your state has "stalking notices" that can be served on individuals.
531358
It may be that she is obsessed for some reason - what sort of contact have you had with her?\n\nIf she has created an impression that her attention is/was wanted then she may have become single-minded on that. She may be physically attracted to you or you may be the only person that has been pleasant to her.\n\nI am not saying that you have brought this on yourself but you do need to take precautions to prevent her continuing her behaviour. If necessary go to the police and don't wait until something 'bad' happens.\n\nIf you are being stalked online then take precautions and use whatever facilities are available on your mail, web-page, etc.
298158
You lost her, just let her go.  Don't obsess about her, because she has obviously moved on from you.  It may look romantic in the movies, but in real life obsessing can lead to her filing restraining orders to keep you away or her calling you a stalker.  \n\nI've been there, she won't take you back.  Trust me.
64320
Well first off, why do you need to forget them? If they are just an impossible goal, let them go by KNOWING that it wasn't meant to be, and that you WILL find that special someone for you. Destiny....that's what it'll be, and you'll know it when it happens.
1106613
If he thinks your stalking him, he is obviously not romantically interested in you.  Try to find someone who shares your feelings and returns your affection or your just asking for disappointment.
933897
you should at least start by talking on the phone with him but DON'T give him you're number.. have him give you his.\n\nif he turns out to actually be the nice guy he claims then yes, tell him you'll meet him in a VERY public place. (shopping mall, crowded restaurants etc.)\n\nif he starts to get creepy, don't be afraid to report him.. just remember that there are online stalkers out there.
554873
wut ar u like their faithful stalker or something?
63790
That's my problem too, usually I just try to keep busy...keep my mind occupied on anything that doesn't remind me of the person. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. What's really awesome is when you find out that the person had been having a hard time trying not to think about you as well.
648990
Well, you seem to have defined your position to him multiple times and that has had zero effect. Perhaps you should take a logical approach to this problem and escalate accordingly.\n\nStart off by writing him a brief letter, more of a note, explaining your feelings and why he is wasting his (and your) time. Be nice but be firm. And keep a copy...\n\nWait a week or so and see what effect that has. If his behavior hasn't changed by that time then it is time to seek legal counsel. At that point you need to take out a Restraining Order that will exclude him from approaching you in person, or your house. This is perfectly valid as by this time he will officially have become a stalker according to the law.
956144
Sure sounds like stalker material to me.  Just stop seeing him/returning his calls and eventually he lose interest.
455353
A stalker can turn dangerous..\n\nA creep is just annoying....\n\nBe careful, some creeps BECOME stalkers....
315188
NO! you need to find out why you can't let go! you sound like a stalker. move on with your life. if this person give a damn about u they will contact u when they're ready.