i need some advice to lighten me. please help!?
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First of all, you shouldnt have started an affair with a married man. Whether his marriage is on the rocks or not isnt important. Its a sin to break up familys. That being said now since you have a child with him you have to think about her too. You cant force the man to leave his wife because they have a child too & it isnt fair on that kid either. The best thing to do is to let the man make his own decision but if its possible try not to keep seeing him behind his wife's back. Put yourself in her place. If he can do it to her he can definietly do it to you too.
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Ok, this has gone on long enough now.  pmsl\n\nyou are very shallow.  Look how you have teased these poor people.  They logged in to answer questions and help people and you've made you're little joke, but you keep going!  Why?  Because you don't care about people, as you've said.\n\nJust keep playing your little tricks and try not to hit your head when you fall out of your chair laughing.  I just did that over your last question and it smarts.\n\nThanks for brightening my day btw.  :)
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Take it easy and act stupid. Don't walk or talk and you will be fine. You can be a leach and get all the free food you want. It didn't work for me, see if it will work for you. \nYou are such an adorable baby.
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Find something that alleviates stress like running and playing an instrument. Cry when you need it and dont convert sadness into bitterness.\n\nGoodluck it's common....\n\n\nhttp://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/
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Best thing to do, seriously, is not ignore it. It only makes you look like you are mad. Just laff it off with them and make a joke back. No big deal. Alot of people make jokes at other's expense because they feel insecure themselves. It makes them feel bigger, better. It's lame. Just smile and laff, and know inside, they feel like a loser.
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Get back up. I'd probably be laughing at me too! :) have a nice day! :)
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Breathe.\nPray.\nMeditate.\nCount your blessings.\nHope for sunshine. Sunlight always makes a better mood.\n\nDon't forget to have hope! When you're completely down, it can only get better. Think back on the good times before this happened, and don't let it get too much in the way of life.
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be thankful for your complexion. if you want to lighten it up just wear light colored clothings and less makeups. and yes, shine through your smiles and people will love you for who you are and not your color.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking care of yourself. Why should anyone have to help you when you can help yourself? \n\nWAKE UP and take a look around you! Life can be very unkind, and unless you hit back and make the most of it (without depending on the help of others) you are going to be stuck in a "miserable" life.
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do something that will make you feel better like\ntake a bubble bath or something that you really enjoy\n\n\nheres this email thing i got and it makes me feel great everytime i read it\nhope you enjoy it\n\nThink about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one.... IT DOES MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD, especially the thought at the end.\n\n1.Falling in Love\n\n2.Laughing so hard your face hurts.\n\n3.A hot shower\n\n4.No lines at the supermarket.\n\n5.A special glance\n\n6.Getting mail.\n\n7.Taking a drive on a pretty road\n\n8.Hearing your favourit song on the radio.\n\n9.Lying in bed listening to the rain outside\n\n10.Hot towels fresh from the dryer.\n\n11.Chocolate milkshake\n\n12.A bubble bath.\n\n13.Giggling\n\n14.A good conversation.\n\n15.The beach\n\n16.Finding a 20 dollar bill in your old jeans.\n\n17.Laughing at yourself\n\n18.Holding a newborn baby.\n\n19.Midnight phonecalls for hours\n\n20.Running through sprinklers.\n\n21.Laughing for absolutely no reason at all\n\n22.Having someone tell you that your beautiful.\n\n23.Laughing at an inside joke\n\n24.Friends.\n\n25.Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you\n\n26.Waking up and realising you still have a few more hours to sleep.\n\n27.Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner)\n\n28.Making new friends or speinding time with old ones.\n\n29.Playing with a new puppy\n\n30.Having someone play with your hair.\n\n31.Sweet dreams\n\n32.Hot chocolate.\n\n33.Road trips with friends\n\n34.Swinging on swings.\n\n35.Making eye contact with a cute stranger\n\n36.Making chocolate chip cookies.\n\n37.Having your friends send you homemade cookies\n\n38.Holding hands with someone you care about.\n\n39.Running into an old friend and realising that some things (good or bad) never change\n\n40.Watching the expression on someones face when they open a much desired present from you.\n\n41.Watching sunrise\n\n42.Getting out of bed everymorning and being grateful for another day.\n\n43.Knowing that someone misses you\n\n44.Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.\n\n45.Knowing that youve done the  right thing no matter what other people think\n\nhope you feel better soon
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Get into a younger mentality! Have fun. Get together with some of your friends for a girls night out and laugh it up! If you lived around me, I'd go have coffee with you or watch a funny movie. I'm a fun person and tend to get everyone having a good time. Heck, just getting out of the darn house makes me happy! Lol!!!! Good luck hon! I hope you feel better soon! :)\n\nI edited to ask....are you married or have a stupid cranky man dragging you down?
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It's weird, if you 'lighten up' too much, you might be considered shallow.  There has to be a balance.
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.
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relax smile and try really hard not to say something stupid.Try to be sweet and confident
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Keep a list of good things to refer to when you are feeling down - things that you have achieved or that make you happy. Be your own best friend, who reminds you of what's best about yourself. \n\nDon't stay in with the computer all the time - go out, get fresh air, smile at people, be part of your community. Also, have a proper routine for the jobs that have to be done - cleaning, self-care, paying bills, etc - you will feel better for being on top of them. You can give yourself a reward for each job completed....\n\nThink about the activities you enjoy most or are best at and plan more time for them in your life, and in ways that involve other people.\nSo if you are a good cook, cook good meals for yourself, but also volunteer to cook for a local project. If you enjoy singing, join a choir. If you feel you have no particular skills, why not take an evening class to learn a new one. \n\nExercise is good for your self-esteem as it makes you fitter and better able to cope with stress, but it has to be the right exercise for you. If you are not into team sports or the gym, consider walking, cycling, jogging or dance.\n\nImagine that you are a photographer or journalist with an assignment to record something beautiful or joyful every day. This will make you go looking for the positive things in yourself, in other people, in nature and in the world around you.\n\nBudget for a small treat each week, whether it's a magazine, a movie, a bright scarf, a new picture for your wall, a manicure, whatever you enjoy.....\n\nMake a list of ten things you would like to achieve or experience in the next few years, and start doing them! Don't get anxious about things you have not yet done - you still have them to look forward to.\n\nDon't give into negative thoughts about yourself or other people, or guilt about the past. Treat each day as a fresh chance to do some good in the world, to look for the best in other people and in yourself and to enjoy life.\n\nGood luck!
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Drop em like we dropped Republicans.\nBest advice.  Stick with the people that make you happy.
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Maybe try writing it down then throwing it away, exercise, clean out a closet or refrigerator, go shopping or read the jokes under entertainment most are stupid but they will make you smile.  GOOD LUCK.  I'm sorry you feel down.