need some good answers on how to get a bicth back for telling me she loves me but then has sex with an old bf?
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I've got a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other.  The devil is saying, "Nail her then move on".  The angel is saying be nice to her and let her know what a good person you are, but let her know that you did not like what she did and that you will never date her again.\n\nI like the angel's idea best.  That will drive her nuts and make her want you like there is no tomorrow.  Now the devil side is starting to like that idea too.  :-)
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Hi Che,  The way you ask the question with all the information, You both sounded like a happy couple. I don't think you did anything wrong,(if you didn't leave something out). She is very confused about her love for you,or she has found someone else to replace you.It's one or the other. I would find a nice girl who know's what her feeling are. That way you don't have to go through this again. Your right us girls don't all do this.I have a old man and i would never do this to him. Good Luck My Friend.\n\n  Clowmy
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Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
341349
Dont go backwards. History has a way of repeating itself-move forward is it really worthwile putting yourself through emotional turmoil again? She wants you and someone else???? You are worth more.
788247
she wants you back cuz ;the other guy is not meeting her needs!!!  she is lonely thats why she is with him, she is hoping you will call so the two of you will reconcile.
739443
wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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Move on. Mid life crisis is a pathetic excuse. \n\nYou'll never be able to trust him again. And why do you want her leftovers back?
857513
Wow, buddy, it sounds like you really did screw up.  That sucks for you.  If you truly want to try and make things work with this woman, slow down.  She's probably really hurt right now, and she doesn't feel like she can trust you.  Start with little things, like a sweet email.  Send her an ecard to apologize.  Show her by your actions how much you regret what happened, because we all know actions speak louder than words.  The biggest thing, though, is to back off if she asks you to.  It may hurt like Hell, but you could earn some of her respect back if you comply with her wishes.  Best of luck in finding your answer.  I hope this helped even a little bit.
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There's not much you can do.  If you tell her, you risk the chance that she'll think you want to get back together.  Are you really sure your not just being paranoid?  Not everyone plans their life around their enemies.  If you really have proof, just go up to her and ask her if the other guy is what she really wants. hope it goes well.
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Ouch!!\n\nOK to me you are doing the right thing in being honest and stopping the sleeping part of your new found friendship with this lady but I cant help feel this new friend is trying emotional black mail on you if she is living with her ex as you mentioned and who isn't to say she isn't sleeping with him why she has been with you?\nI would be more concerned about STD in this situation than her letting go.\nJust stand your ground and be firm and stick to what ever you decide.\nI think your current relationship will rekindle if you both put time and effort into it like you are.\nThey say a break is as good as a holiday.\nSadly some people can think they are in love because they are craving for any type of attention which they could be lacking in there own life or present relationship so they go and search for it else were.\nWe are all guilty of that at some point of time in our life! If we are honest.\nSo once someone nice like you seem comes along and gives them that attention and gives them the inner emotional needs like sex or comfort,then financial help and any other type of assistance whether its companionship or just a cuppa and chat and most times can be taking out of context making it hard for you in this case to break away or "get away".\nSadly some people cry wolf when they see another vulnerable person like them selves which is an easy target to latch on to.\nAs she has found with you!\nPlease just end this other connection with this other lady but sadly I cant help feel she may start giving you a hard time if not your partener of 2 years. \nAs she will feel jealouse of you going back to her and most probly wonder what is wrong with her for you to leave her after a month but honestly this her thinking and doing and not yours.\nDont fall for any emotional words as they are based on making you feel guilty..\nBe strong..And good luck.
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well talk to her about it. don't ask straight forward because she'll likely lie to you. just ask her casual questions like "hows it been going" and try to figure it out from there. but it really should come down to if you want her back.
893255
Your big mistake was telling your gf  that it was your ex that taught you how to tongue kiss, and maybe you shouldn't of told her you couldn't eat for nine months after she broke up with you...or maybe it was the fact that you told your sex life with your ex ''to the women your suppose to love'' this women has never had a relationship with another male before you '' not even a kiss'' yet you took it upon yourself to hurt her as a women and wife to be...yeah from your suppose to be soul mate...no wonder i get angry with you...let the ppl answer your question with all the truth ''over and out''
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I've been there and tried to do that. Except it was ex bf. I only realized that giving him time was the right thing. He came back to me with his own self. Taking him back is the only thing that bothers me now. But that's not the point. Knowing what you want from your relationship is! You, both, have to be open like a book. If both of you feel like you want a relationship than accept her when she comes back to you. But still give her time. (If she doesn't, than that only means that she's not right for you.) Usually it's much easier to get along if you are understanding your needs and wants. But if she is depressed, like she is saying, that must be the relationship she had at the moment when she was with you. Though finding another guy - is not the answer either. I say get yourself busy, and let her live. If she wants you, she will come back, and will appriciate you for being there.
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I would hold her bags and let her do what she needs to do. When she came back, I would ask what that was all about.\n\nI realize that she has a past before she met me and she may just be friendly. But I would remind her that in a successful relationship, there are few secrets withheld.\n\nI have the right to know if this guy is out of the picture.\n\nIf she starts to get upset, i would advise her as to what her reaction might be if I did it with an old girlfriend.\n\nI would also remind her that I am not paranoid or possessive, but just wanting a clarification as to our relationship.
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Simple...Ditch HER!!!  I WAS your Ex in the past. Sex isn't just SEX she was opening her legs to someone else! I learned my lesson never to be that person...REVENGEFUL! Revenge sex doen't help anyone in the end and nor will it help your relationship...you will always have it in the back of your mind. A relationship takes more than LOVE it needs EMOTION!
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Yes, I would say that you are. I believe the only reason she talked to you was to transition and to fill a void that her BF left and then when her former BF changed it was a reason to give him another chance. I understand you think she likes you, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Leave them alone and if she gets hurt again you will know when to make your move.
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First analyze what made you break up.  Has enough time passedc for both of you to realize what each of you have done to damage this relationship and make changes to yourselves?  \n\nMaybe she is not aware that you want her back.  Once you have thought long and hard about it, sit her down and tell her how you feel.  Let her know that you repect her dating someone else, but you know you two will be together again and you will wait patiently for her.  This will not only flatter her but also instill doubt in her mind about the person she is with.\n\nAfter that, just be patient and kind to her and treat her with respect and consideration.  Be her friend and listen to her.  Be there for her.  Don't let he take advantage of you, but be the one she can turn to.  Sooner or later she will realize that she loves you still, also.