Why wouldn't my man want to marry me?
365927
Why buy the proverbial cow , when you're getting milk for free? He's getting everything he wants from you without any commitment whatseover. Any time he wants to, he can pack his things and leave. He's free to go and come as he wants to, with whomever he wants to. Do you really think he's gonna mess up a good thing like he has, by getting married?\nHE HAS IT MADE! For your security, and your children's sake, you need to "bring up" the problem. You have no recourse at all, or money, if he ups and leaves. DO IT! Talk to him......ASAP!! For you, and for your children. Good Luck!!
927362
why does he have to wait longer?...is there something that he must wait for??? hes just not ready for commitment! hes scared! that's why he keeps putting it off! dont wait around forever if you see he isn't making any progress to try to marry you then you should kick him to the curb!
494110
If he is wanting a certainty that you will be together forever, there isn't any and there never is certaintly, especially in relationships, sometimes things work out great and sometimes they don't, its just how it works. \n\nSo, if he doesn't take the chance then he will never know.  He can't go through life fearing what might or might not happen...that isn't living. If he is unwilling to make the commitment or to take the chance, there may be other things going on that you aren't aware of. Communicate with him, try and find out what other feelings or fears he has around marriage.\n\nHope this helps
134499
About your marriage?  It could be that he just got cold feet.  Have you tried asking him about it.  Maybe he is worried that he cannot support you.
455122
Maybe he has erectile dysfunction and doesn't feel like he can talk to you about it.  Maybe it is a similar issue, why do Women always jump the gun, unless you want it to be over and in that case why would you ask us (Yahoo people).  If you are ready to move then don't try and find every little 'bad' thing about your man, just do it.
424416
Commitment issues. =)\nEverybody has them pretty much. It is scary to think that you'll be with somebody for the rest of your life. No more scoring other chicks. No more one-night-stands. No more late beer nights with guys from the bar. Instead, every day, rain or shine, wake up in your wife's face. =) You should be glad. He's afraid of commitment, because he knows he'll only have you for teh rest of his life. This way, you'll know he doesn't think he'll divorce you. Marrying is a huge event. It changes who you are and your future life. It's a big step and he just needs some time to think when to take that big step. He wants to prepare himself so nothing will turn out bad.
1140008
He is just saying that to keep you, he knows thats something YOU want. He most likly doesnt want to get married and if he does not right now. Either you keep letting him ignore you or tell what you want  and follow through dont except anything less than what you deserve, but pressuring him would be the wrong thing to do. I think you should just let him know how you feel and then determine if he is worht waiting for, dont let him slip away if you know he is a good guy.!!!!
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
462980
He's testing the waters, but isn't completely serious yet. \n\nIt sounds like he really likes you, but it's early. I knew I would either marry my wife or know her forever after the first day I met her, but I spent a few months getting to know her first (and confirm if it just wasn't hormones).\n\nI wouldn't get too freaked out...well, unless you want him to propose to you.
1089819
I understand your question and I know the answer to it. You WANT to marry this man, not live with him. You should tell him, we either get married, or I have to move on. Then do what you need to do(and we both know he won't marry you) so you need to move on. Pretty simple really. He is NEVER going to marry you, if he has not in ten years. Good Luck!!
909173
Maybe in your heart you hoped that marriage would settle him down a little or you would feel more secure within the relationship.  Do you trust him?  Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?  Maybe you just need to communicate your concerns with him so he can reassure you of where he stands in the marriage.  Almost any woman would feel the same way in your shoes, and you did marry pretty fast.  Before you married, did you know each others beliefs on marriage, vows, family, careers, finances?  These are some major issues that both of you should be on the same page with - if not, seek some support and guidence.
51649
Your man's only problem seems to be he loves the skin you are in.  Take comfort and joy in knowing that he feels lucky to have you.  His eyes are on you and your booty, instead of every other one in front of you.  And Im sure he didnt propose to your booty, right?  Obviously, there are other things about him or you would not have said yes to his proposal.
628663
You can't "Get" a man to marry you until they are ready, or mutually like yourself, think the relationship is ready to take it to the next step. Think about it, would you want to force someone into marrying you now just because your ready only to find out later (after a divorce) that they weren't ready to be married?
420956
It could be that he just doesn't want to spend every waking moment with you. You're dating, not conjoined twins.
1014485
This is how I feel about "getting" a man to marry you... I would be insulted if I felt as though a guy was marrying me out of pressure or because he feels obligated. Best thing to do is talk about what you want and go for it with someone that wants the same things.\n\nYou are young, and you have plenty of time. If you are sure that this is a guy you can spend your life with and you believe that he really does want the same things you want - stick around for a while, stop the pressuring, and see where things go. \n\nIf things don't work out, then next time, make sure that you have someone that wants the same out of life as you do, and within the same genera time frame, before you get too involved.
313439
He was  not mature enough for marriage and now you have to cut your losses and make a better decision with the next guy. There are always signs when a man is not mature enough for marriage and you just didn't pick up on them until it was to late. Once he got married he felt trapped and like he had not fully lived his life. Eventually he will be ready mentally and emotionally to settle down but by then you might already have someone else. Marriage is a big step and he took it tooooo lightly.
1187417
Get rid of him he is only asking you to marry him so that you will stay around. He is afraid of losing you but does not really want to marry you. Get rid of him and move on there is a man out there that will love you more than you have ever dreamed and guess what he will not think twice when it comes to marrying you.