My daughter n law had a 8 month affair with two married men.  Should someone tell her knew lover?
365866
Was she in a relationship at the time of these affairs?
583495
If you're younger than 18, then you should probably tell them.  As a parent of daughters, it would be very important for me to know who my child is involved with.  This day and age it is the safe thing to do.  If you care that much about him, then your parents should understand .. they really do know a little about being in love! ;-)
842764
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
1088826
Don't it is not your place.  That priviledge belongs to her husband.  You can however, get some concrete proof, pull him aside and let him know you know and that he needs to do what is right.  Guilt will play the biggest role, next to fear you will say something.  \nThis is between two married people, not three.  Of course your going to say , "there is three", but not in their marriage.  This is something that  they have to work out between them.  \nThe best role you can be is when he does tell her, and she needs a shoulder it should be you.  You should not let her know that you know, at least not until the two of them handle this in whatever way they need to.  \nIt is going to be very difficult for her and hard for you to remain silent with the information that you have.  \nPeople cheat for many reasons and the reason they cheat has many sides, or variables.  One thing that remains a constant with infidelity in a marriage:\nTwo people make it, two people break it.\nSomething is lacking in their relationship from both sides and in order for them to find out what that is and make a decision to work on it or not, they both have to acknowledge responsibility for the good and the bad.  \nStay out of this, be there for your friend when she needs you.  \nI assure you, once he knows that you have evidence and that you, as her friend know about the affair, he will come clean.  That doesn't mean the marriage is over, or will recover, but it will certainly allow them the chance to fix whatever is wrong between them. \nYou may be a "best friend" but you do not share "pillow talk" and you certainly are not priviy to their personal intimate conversations that husbands and wives have.  \nDo the right thing stay out of this.\nAs with Bill and Hillary Clinton, this is a maritial problem, not for the cover of your local gossip column.  \nIf they love each other enough, things will work out for the best, no matter what that turns out to be.
61443
this happened to a friend of mine.   keep ur mouth shut and if u talk to her, talk to her about keeping her mouth shut too and let her know the consequences for if the secret does come out.  also remind her that it takes 2 to  tango
525819
ya its absolutely fine wit not to disclose their names but i would rather suggest that if they dont hav kids then all six of u sould clarify the matter among yourself!but they hav children it would rather be better to get away to some other places so that they donot meet again in future!its necessary to do so for sake of their children!\nand as so concerned for their luv time will teach evrything!
19158
that ones easy...BECAUSE THEY'RE MARRIED!! Why would you want to go and ruin someones life then take responsibility for it? What if her husband is so in love with her and shes all hes got? If this other guy took responsibility on having an affair with this girl...lets just say her husband might be in jail for a really long time.
755159
Tell her sensitively and tell her what she deserves to know. Tell her that the relationship with her father did not work out, and that he was a naughty man. Tell her you love her, and you are lad you are here and that she is beautiful just the way she is, and that God wanted her to come into your life so much. Tell her she has a wonderful family, and that it may be better to not know her other half of her family, as you know nothing about them.
914975
Yes she did and she should tell her husband. You, on the other hand, need to stay out of it.
720686
Sit her down and explain to her that although she told you that she didn't want to hear anything about your past, you feel that it is important to tell her something. Once you have her attention tell her that you were married. I'm sure she will understand why you told her and hopefully the two of you can talk it over and maybe even forget about it after you break the news! Good luck!
289105
It's not suggestable...but many have done things out of 'love' that they probably shouldn't have done..\n\nThe facts are, if she doesn't love her husband she should divorce him, but she should do this before dating you. \n\nThe divorce stages are mind boggling and become very cruel in most cases, especcially when infidelity is an issue. (I have seen SO many people that have made a mistake of cheating), and they paid for it...any proof of the affair is brought up in court, and some have had to pay monetary damages to their soon ex-spouse for cheating and breaking their marriage contract.. One that I know of not only received money from the spouse.. but also the person they had an affair with...So.. no it's not a good thing to get involved with a married woman.  \n\n'Her son'..or 'their son'?  Because if the boy is a result of their marriage and relationship..it is the husbands son too...and he (the husband) will always be connected to your lady friend through their child.. as they should be. \n\nThe child, depending on his age could react in many ways..if he's really young the divorce would probably pass by with some uncertainties of "If mommy got rid of daddy, will she get rid of me too?" And if he's old enough to understand, then he may resent you for being the guy who caused it, even if you aren't THE reason .. you will be the easy focus for a kid to understand. \n\nIf you truely love her, respect her enough to leave her marriage alone until she is able to decide that she loves you enough to disolve the marriage and date you. My gut instinct is.. you're a fun on the side distraction to her, and she doesn't plan to leave her husband for you...and everyone desrves something more than just to be a 'second best waiting in the wings' (Just being honest)
709221
no she shouldn't have an affair if he doesn't get the picture then she isn't comming right out and saying it and you telling her to have an affair....you are some friend.
1127634
No...you shouldn't tell him, nor should you be involved or get involved with him. So long as he is married there is that chance no matter how slim that he could reconcile with his wife, and you shouldn't be there to make that impossible or harder for him to do. You are also only opening yourself up to hurt by being involved...best to stay away.
580715
No. It would be better for her to marry FOR the sake of the kids, than to set a poor example by being permiscuious. Secret or not, it wouldn't be right. She should find someone who will love her and her kids, get married then have sex (guilt free).
928982
no I wouldn't confront her. I would talk to my husband instead. I don't have a relationship with the girl. But I'll make sure that she knows the guy she is having sex with, is married. \n\nHave you heard about the saying that goes "the sweetest revenge to a cheating husband is to give  him to his mistress?"
145963
yes .. you have to tell her , right now .. pick the phone and tell her ..\nshe won't like it later when she finds out that you knew that he is a cheeter !!
240952
If it were me (which it's not) I would keep my mouth shut.  But you just have to think about what you would do if you were in her shoes.  Would you want someone to tell you or what?  Women generally have a "gut feeling" when their man has been cheating, so it's possible that she already knows and just doesn't want to admit it to herself.  Talking to him is definantly a good idea.  But why would he cheat and then ask her to move with him.  Maybe you can plant a guilt trip on him and he'll tell her.  But I think it's his place to spill the beans!  Good Luck!