ok , another question ......i dated this one guy , his 13 year old son molested my daughter , the state says i
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Get a restraining order.
937623
Yes he's still liable.  He can still get time for molestation of a child and to think it all happened because you lied.  Shame on you.
651515
I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
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If you find out what the man actually did, it might put your mind at ease. He is not necessarily a pedophile. \n\nDo some research. If he is on probation, call his officer. Find out if he is someone you really need to worry about before you get all paranoid.
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You are in a pickle...you did not say a few things that are very important.  Your age and sex, their age and sex.  Molestation sounds like inappropriate touching as opposed to rape.  Molestation also is the term when the accuser is underage.  If this is the case, how underage are they?  Why did they not use the term sexual assault or rape?  Are they to young to know these terms?  This may be the deciding adjective on whether or not this really happened.  Good luck to you.  By the way, interrogators are hip to a lot of crap, if this person is lying there is a good chance their lies will be detected.
395195
Yes.  And you might want to check with a lawyer to find out the legal age in your state as you may have committed statutory rape.
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i was in your almost same situattion i was 17 (pregnant) he was 31. I lived in Nh i ran away to NYC. He got very possesive than that turned to abuse. Go back to your family, you dont knpw what you are putting them through. Atleast let them knoe that you are ok to let them know you are alive. I did see my mom for year & half & she wasnt mad please let them know you are ok. Do you know what its like to have the FBI contact your family saying they have a teenage girl that matches their daughters description. well thats what happened to my mom & i regret the hell i put her through. If i could only do it over. I now have a daughter & hope she never puts me through what i put my mom through.\nremember family is forever. please go back & if you need anyone to talk to email me.
791120
Yes you should. I know you don't want anything to happen to that little girl. You're probably not the only one he molested.
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I think you're blowing this way out of proportion. UNLESS he murder, tortured or deal drugs to kids or worse then I don't see how bad a thing he could have kept from you that would warrant a background check. I my wife were to do that I'd dump her and try my hardest to get custody of our son.\n\nI would have helped giving you an answer if we knew what it was that he lied about.  For a few years I lied to my wife about a girl I had dated when I was secure enough with our relationship I told her. She was a little takeb aback but quickly got over it. I claimed to have dated a really pretty girl she new in passing but in reality we were just friends. You my wife is very beautiful and I don't consider myself handsome at all. So I was insecure with regards to her physical attraction to me. So I lied to make myself look better. It was silly and stupid but I did want I thought was right back then. This was 14 years ago and we are now married with a beautiful 7 year boy.\n\nTry and get some perspective on the lies and see if they're worth getting worked up over and maybe putting your marriage at risk.\n\nGood luck to you.
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What was his offense? It's pretty easy these days to become a "Registered Sex Offender"... I know one guy who wound up charged with sex crimes when "Drunk in Public" would have been the appropriate charge...he urinated in public (the parking lot) and did not zip back up... and now must register as an SO for the next 5 years... all I'm saying is that there may be more to the story and this guy may not be any danger at all, to anyone...If the dad truly should be kept away from his daughter, she should contact a victim's rights advocacy group for advice.
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It would be unfair to make such an assessment without knowing more including "his" version. To make it simple yes he can gain custody. Peeping issue was he convicted? Like I said no one can truthfully give you a good answer as none of us know your situation
595415
I was sexually molested by my step father and he talked me into doing things with my sister so I know how she feels.  I had a hard time too but i now see a therapist from the state Child Advocacy Center.  she needs to do that because it has helped me a lot.  Good luck
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Well, if you ever get over it, then you are either colder than most others or you just don't give a damn. I have had my step-daughter molested and my soon-to-be-ex-wife raped by a so-called caring father-in-law. The guy is my wife's dad. He hasn't gone to jail or anything as the cops say it was a friend of mine and all because they knew my in-laws wouldn't lie about something so serious. I haven't gotten over that and I even though i live in a small farming-type community, I don't trust very many people with any of my lady friends. I have had a friend almost get shot all because she was outside on her own front porch while two house away a bad drug deal was going down and they thought that she might have seen something. You can never really get over those fears I believe...you only can alleviate some of the fear you feel about it.
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girl back off and take a look at him. no joke, my ex/and baby's dad, said the same to me. i have had him arrested twice, since sept. 2005, and i have a 1 year restraining order on him and a no contact order against his dad's ex girlfriend, who considers herself his step mother. he's never seen my daughter, and never will! watch out
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She needs to be thinking of your children right now, and focusing on their needs. Clearly if she bearly knows this guy, it is not appropriate for her to expose her children to him. The reason that they got molested, is because she didn't screen the guys she marries in the first place to make sure that hed be a fit parent or not, hence she married and had kids with a loser who is now behind bars. She needs to give her children more attention, since there is clearly a problem since it took her a while to find out about the molestation. I do think that she is trying to move on with her life too quickly, and should stop and take time to think whats the next best move for her and her children. Also the children would definately need therapy of some sort, and by moving on with her life she is indirectly telling them to move on with theirs and implying that what happened to them didn't matter. Her children might interpret this as neglect, and not feel that they are important to her, which could be a floodgate for future incidents or behaviour that they may be involved in. She should think of her childrens future and not just her own. Especially not while shes blinded by her latest love.
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Yes, my youngest brother, 12 years my junior, was a school teacher.  In 1998 he was arrested for molestation of three girls (two were his students).  He plead to the charges and went to jail for four years (not long enough).\n\nYou see, I had been molested as a child, not by a teacher but that mattered little.  And, I work with many women and even some men who were molested as a child.  I became so angry that I made myself ill.\n\nEveryone in my family suffered horribly.  My parents, in shame, not knowing who or what to believe (they know now its true) spent every weekend going to see in him prison.  They had just retired and their retirement plans were blown away.  Even if we wanted to have a family event and have them miss a weekend, he would cry and manipulate them into going.  They went from happy and healthy people (in their 60s) to tired and aged by the time he got out.\n\nI have gotten help for my mom and she now accepts what happened and that she is in no way to blame.\n\nMy poor neice and nephew had to go into that awful place to visit their dad.  He deserved it, they did not.  After he got out they were not allowed to see him at all.  To make matters worse, they lied to my neice about why he was gone.\n\nThe rest of us also suffered because our family was torn asunder and our children and grandchildren were deprived of their grandparents as well.\n\nAnd his victims...well, their lives are a mess.\n\nI have come to terms with it and forgiven him, but never will I forget.  He stole my parents good years, he hurt his own children emotionally, and three girls out there will NEVER be the same.
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I just found out that there are at least 8 people that are around me, all within about 3 miles of my home... I also live near a school.. \n\nAlso found out that the guy that lived next to my parents is one.  Wow, crazy but we didnt even know it until I went to a site an paid $5. to know where they are at.. And this guy seemed to be very nice, and he had kids of his own... After finding out that he was one, it didnt change much of my thoughts that he waa nice, but made me think twice about letting my son go there to play..\n\nIf you think about it.... This guy that lived next to my parents... He could have done this years ago. Meaning 5 years or something, and not within months... Some people change, though not all of them.. Trying to kow what ones have is hard to do.  \n\nThe ones that have been in jail more than once, shouldn't be able to live near a school.. You have a good point.. BUt some of these people have to be reg. for about 10 years or so... What if it was an 18yr. who was dating a 16yr. and they made out, and the girls parents are the ones that turned him in.. Being under age, means that your parents are the ones that also have a right to call "rape".... This guy and girl was dating, never had sex, just messed around with each other... \n\nAll these you really should take into mind... A few of these people that are this way have learned from it.. And only had it on them once.. But for those who are repeated offereds, shouldnt live near school...