who should initiate first on the first night of marriage....boy of girl??
369944
shouldn't it just happpen? me and my partner never really "initiate" things...they just seem to happen. it shows real sexual chemistry when no one person feels the pressure to "initiate" things
1152247
First off...\n\nA boy want's sex first.\n\nA man tries for Love, but Still has Sex before Love.\n\nA Real Man Want's Love, and Waits for Sex for after marriage\n\nBig Difference.
693640
I'm an LDS or Mormon; we believe that boy's and girls should practice reverance and practice the vow of chastity; no sex until marriage. However; boys and girls do date just like many others their age; no grabbing; groping; etc. Use some manners; respect that vow of reverance and chastity. If a boy were to kiss a girl; it should be more of a polite kind of kiss; holding each other would be okay as long as it didn't end up with the un-allowed heated-up version that would break the vow of chastity. Mary
813320
when you both are truly ready. not 1 second before. age doen't really matter...unless your like 14...then i would say to wait a little while. i am only 20 and i am happily married to a man of 26. we have a 1 year old son and another son due in December.
556590
When a man marries, he marries WIFE. She is FIRST. If the relationship grows and blooms, and contractural promises made to each other are honoured, she should remain first. Children come along secondly. They are helpless and you and WIFE are responsible for their protection as the number one priority in your lives. If WIFE fails to protect children, WIFE needs to be protected by you. The way you do that is to consider children FIRST. The fragile people in our society must always be protected. Your children should be the fragile component of your family, unless the adults are not mentally incomptent.\nIf is a philosophical question. Thanks.
359933
My opinion is to talk during first night, just plain talking to make yourself and the opposite sex comfortable.
883975
Who ever sleeps with him first!!
541349
DO IT!  You only get married once (hopefully!) so make it the night of your dreams!
520883
Even though it may seem hard... just ask him. I had to make the first move with my baby, but I'm happy I did cuz we are planning our wedding. The worst that will happen is it won't work out, but you will have grown stronger/ more (for lack of a better word) agressive which allows you the courage to take risks and go after what you want. In the long run no matter what the outcome you'll have self respect and a new experience under your belt. Good Luck Honey!!! I'm sure you will get your man.
614854
Hey, as long as you guys are communicating openly and honestly about it, and you are both comfortable with the situation, then go for it.  Nothing wrong with it at all.  Just make sure that you both talk over everything and that you still both trust and respect each other when it is done.  Set up boundaries and rules before hand and let him know a head of time what is on and off limits so there are no awkward situations.  If this is your first time, map out the way the night is going to go with the third person from start to finish.  Who is going to do what, touch what, where at, what position and so on so that nothing is in the way and no one is left out.  Tell him what you want out of this and have him tell you what he wants out of this. Maybe even talking about what you are planning on doing will lead to some hot discussions and lead to a great night of sex before you ever even invite someone into the bedroom!   Good luck with this!   Love, Angela
534269
Don't think you should meet him for the very first time wondering whether or not to have sex with him.\nSee each other....get to know each other...see what developes...but running into a bed...shouldn't be in the agenda..\nHave a wonderful time....hope he is Mr Right!
334541
I disagree with enterity.  I am waiting for marriage to have sex with my fiancee.  Although we have had sex before(with other ppl)we want 2 wait to make things right!  It has only brought us closer!  Yes, it is hard at times!  We feel its strengthen our relationship not only within us, but with God as well!
303415
if u havent been intimate with ur wife before, then take it slowly the first night. hold her and kiss her. \n\nshe might not be ready to have sex the first night. and the last thing u should do is to insist on it as that will just lead to future problems in both ur sex lives!
828365
guys family shoud go first..you are the princess honey and kings never go to people and ask if they could marry her daughter.. boy's family should come first with presents..if you want to give the turkish family presents: vase, tea,clothing or make up for the young relatives..etc..it can be anything that you think as a present in your country..but i think the most important present is your attitude..turkish people give a big importance on respect..show your respect to the olders and always smile..if you serve something to eat or drink at first if they don't accept don't give up..insist on!! as a tradition turkish people usually reject the first offers.this is referred to politeness..but there are no strict rules!! they don't live with strict traditional laws..the idea is to have fun..good luck :)
671183
WOW! WHAT A QUESTION. HOW CAN YOU PUT THE WORDS MEANINGFUL AND RELATIONSHIP IN A QUESTION ASKING FOR A ONE NIGHT STAND. THAT MAKES A LOT OF SENSE!
263492
As a person married to a spouse of a very different religion, I can say that anyone who offers an "easy answer" has probably not been in that position.  Make no mistake, it can be difficult.  That said, this is decision time for your daughter and prospective son-in-law.  \n\nIf they are ready to be with each other, they are going to have to get used to navigating religious and cultural differences.  And this is an opportunity to decide whether they wish to cleave to each other or to their respective families of origin, to the extent there is some conflict between those two loyalties.  If they cannot prioritize being together over parental approval, the marriage is better off not starting, for its future is not good.  On the other hand, if they establish that their love for each other is something they wish to put at the center of their lives, learning that now can create a valuable opportunity to build a foundation for a future marriage.\n\nI would encourage them to:\n(1)  Engage his family's rabbi (or another rabbi, if his family's rabbi refuses to participate) in the dialogue;\n(2)  Talk about mixed-religion marriages with others in similar marriages, particularly Christian-Jewish pairings;\n(3)  Pray to their shared God/G-d in their two very different ways for guidance and help for their relationship.\n\nBtw, even in Orthodox Judaism conversion for purposes of marriage, and marriage to converts, is acceptable.  Try the Book of Ruth.  Possibly this is actually about cultural, rather than religious differences.\n\nImho, despite the challenges of interfaith marriages, they may play a very important role in moving our world from the present mutual hostility of all the world's faiths towards greater mutual understanding and peace.  And that is certainly a noble pursuit.\n\nMy blessings and my wishes for good luck to them and to both your families, which may yet become one family.
142262
The best start is to pick someone you don't know that well. Let your wife set the rules, so that she's comfortable and stick to them. As to your relationship, it will change. You are sharing something that is supposed to ba an intimate expression of your love for each other. Inviting someone else in will change it. No one can predict how your feelings will change. That is why you must think carefully as a couple: should this stay a fantasy? If you are happy with the risks, as a couple, then go for it. But no recriminations if things go badly.