Relationship Troubles?
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My story is very much like yours\nI fell in love with my high school sweety\nwe dated for five years, I got pregnant at the same time I wasn't feeling all that in love anymore.\nI married him because I knew it was the right thing to do.\nI struggled for years, not feeling the love for him that I knew I should.\nOur relationship sucked, but he was good to me, totally loved me, was an awesome father and good honest man.\nIn our seventh year of marriage we went into counseling, I found out that I could tell him all of my feelings, hurts and disappointments I felt during our stressful marriage.\nHe cared and we both changed our hurtful behaviors.\nI found out that I always loved him, it just got buried under a ton of stress(having an unplanned child) and repressed hurts.\nAfter we spent a year in counseling, we both fell madly in love again and things were better than when we first met.\nMoral of this story - \nLove takes work\nLearn how to communicate with your man\nLove can go \nLove can come back\nWhen it does it can be better than it ever was\n\nGive yourself time and talk about your feelings\ndoing it with the help of a counselor will help you find your answer and gain greater intimacy with your fiance\nThis is a huge decision - its worth the investment
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Don’t tell us, tell her.  Communication is the key to any relationship.  Be open, be honest, express your feelings.  Ask her to tell you how she feels.  Listen to what she says without getting defensive or attempting to “solve her problems.”\n\nAsk if she feels the same way.  Kids or no kids, the two of you need to start interacting again.  Right now you are probably avoiding one another.  This is not healthy.\n\nIf it turns out that you can communicate better, then your problems are half-solved.  Just continue getting closer.  If it turn out that the two of you cannot communicate, then get professional help.  If this does not work, then accept that your relationship may be over and take steps accordingly.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, do something.  Life is to short to eat sour grapes and drink bad wine.
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Maybe you need couples counseling.
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You need to get some Professional Counselling.. I dont think Yahoo Answers is the place for you to seek help.. Your relationship sounds unhealthy, but there are always 2 sides to every story.\n\ncheers
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Sounds like a communication problem.  If you want this relationship to survive and grow you two need to sit down and come up with a plan to deal with these issue and any others you have.  Some times people who argue and complain a lot just need to have a set way to communicate those things in a helpful manner instead of the current method which is destructive.
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I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
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If you are both now struggling which mean you have developed some form of romantic feelings between each other. then it would be wise to just break up now, unless you are ready to commit adultery.\n\nIts painful, but just try stoping seeing each other for a while. You both need to maintain your dignity.
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You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
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sit down and talk it out... explain to him the pros and cons of the issue and see whats good for both of you...
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Struggling with what?
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I would let her know where you are coming from. It also depends on what level you are with this person. Are you married? Girlfriend? Dating? In any case, you should let her know where you are coming from and that you want to come to some kind of understanding on how you are going to resolve the issue. \n\nP.S.\n\n2 wrongs do not make a right. Communication is key here. Talk it out.\n\nAdditional Details\n\n1 second ago\nOur relationship is very good because we communicate and everything its just sometimes she says the wrong things and I let her know . . . . eventually\n\n\nMy response: It appears as though she is not to sure how to communicate her feelings and in turn says things that hurt you. She also could be saying these things because she is unsure of how you feel so she is trying to get a REACTION out of you. SHE NEEDS REASSURANCE. Communication is still key.
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Stop playing around, obviously the signals are getting mixed.  Stop driving yourself crazy and simply ask what's up!!!  It's better to know so you can move forward with the relationship or move on.
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definitely try to communicate!! it will probably help your relationship, but, even if it doesn't, it'll help YOU in the future, trust me.
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Who needs a relationship that's this difficult? There are better ones out there. I'm not saying he's a bad guy. You two just sound like a bad fit. Find someone who is more in tune with you.
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you love him? does he love you? any kind of abuse going on?\n\nIf the answer is no, then what's the problem?
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Don't be hard about it. You don't need to end it by telling him all that is wrong with him. Just tell him that you are looking for different things in a relationship and you need to just back off and regroup. Take some time to really search your feelings so that you are sure about what you want. If he wants to argue about it be kind but firm.
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Talk to him and tell him it's not working out.  Try to be cordial and just get it over with.  Dragging out the relationship is just going to make the break-up more difficult and painful when it finally does happen.