How do you make a relationship work with an older man??
364335
If you like older men, that really isn't a problem.  The things that make a woman interesting to an older guy is no different than for a younger guy.\n\nThe best advice is, do not act your age.  If he is older he probably will not be interested in an immature, childish, kid.  He wants a woman, not someone he will have to baby.\n\nIf you are a minor, however, remember that your actions can irreversibly damage his life for the rest of his life, and only a foolish man is going to risk the potential disaster of a relationship with you.  Do you really want a fool for a boyfriend?  You can send him to prison on nothing more than your words alone, and that wouldn't be a very wise risk to take, would it?
622504
well, I'm hoping that your relationship does work out. I'm in the same situation, but my bf is a year older that yours. We are talking about moving in together after I graduate next year, and the talking has already started. I believe that if both of you are willing to work on it, then there is no reason that your relationship will fail. Good luck.
774316
Well if he is just mooching off you then you need to tell him get out and stand your ground..... sounds like these two are close just remember anything you do to him may effect your relationship with your boyfriend..... you need to disscuss this with your old man and see what he says if he diagrees just put it out there you guys can hang out do whatever but he ned s to get his ouwn place or I am leaving and if he lets you leave then he never really cared in the first place...... either way you go someone is gonna get hurt...and plus the longer you allow this to go on the harder it is going to become to fix it.... Good Luck
650524
Try to sit him down and discuss your concerns with him. Try to make each other aware of your concerns without trying to make the other person guilty for them, and try to improve your communication dynamic. If you love each other, you will be able to work things out: try counseling, if you think you need some tips you can't develop on your own. Good luck, and best wishes.
239134
it actually depends on both of you! Always put into thinking that you must understand each other... You both have your differences, and as time goes by... you will continue to discover a lot about him, his atitudes (maybe good or bad)... and at times you will also have tough times together.  but it's your love and trust to each other who will make your relationship work and last.  take myself as an example... i'm into this relationship for almost six years (goin six this april), it's both our first.... we started when we're only 18.... and i myself have been afraid at first... but as time goes by....i continue to learn what love really is.... truly, LOVE is a word that cannot be explained.\n\nGoodluck!
507975
working together with your dads sounds like a recipie for disaster. however, if you want it to work it can. i know lots of happy couples who are so far apart in age
726273
It depends on the age difference and your maturity level. If you can handle whatever may come along with being involved with an older man and the baggage then do what makes you  happy.
896712
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
866970
How old are you guys? Maybe he's having a midlife crisis. 13 years is a long time. Don't throw in the towel if you feel there is still love in the relationship. One person can save the relationship even if the other person doesn't think it's what he wants. \n\nYou have to have faith in your relationship and find out what the issue is for him and show that you are willing to work on them. Go to counseling (see if your workplace offers anything employee assistance). Go to church more, get in tune with who you are and what you want. \n\nThe meds are a good start. But he won't see the changes for awhile so let them kick in and make a commitment to stay on them of they help you.\n\nI went through a similar situation and hubby and I restored our relationship. It can be done. He kept asking if we'd make it and I told him that people survived far more difficult obstacles.\n\nif you think it may be a midlife crisis try these sites..\nwww.midlifeclub.com\nwww.ojar.com
1075855
If he leaves you because of an age difference there is no future with him anyway. I know many couples where the woman is older and they are just fine.\n\nSimply tell him and let him decide if he's a man who can handle it or a boy who can't.
1025939
Just be patient, and show him your different that your always there and won't break his heart. Or follow your heart age doesn't matter love is.
391461
I'm 42, going on 43. I can honestly tell you, it could take \nany thing from 4 months to 1 year. It's possible the guy is shy or feels too busy, depending on time and location you see him. Try to get to him by expressing yourself to him, and or by expressing your self to someone close to him (perhaps his mother?).
333381
Its not at all about the age. Its all about compatiability. You guys should be on the same wavelength and you should have trust. being able to communicate properly is also one of the major criteria.\nAge difference does not matter.
660616
Ask him. If you're mature enough to be hanging around older men, you should be able to ask him if he's looking for a relationship or not.
392047
"To thine ownself be true" i think that you are young and need to do what you think you need to do. If older men are attractive to you, then by all means go out on a date with one, or have a sexual relationship with a few of them. You don't want to stay with your b/f if the only reason is because you two have a long history, or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.  You have to do what is right for you.  And you are still so YOUNG! you have plenty of time to find that special someone. Go out and have fun so when you do end up with the person you are suppose to be with for the rest of your life you are not looking back and having second thoughts about what you should have done. Life is the ultimate experience, live it up, because you only live once.
2645
Patience and remember when you were that old how much the attention of someone older meant to you. Go do something you both enjoy and make your own space for when you just can't stand the little blaggard anymore.
577821
Keep trying, don't give up. Talk to him about the things he likes and enjoy doing. Make him his fav meal. Try to pin point what exactly it is that's that not working between u two. Once you found out that it'll be easier for you to avoid that and hopefully things will work out better.\nGood luck.