mens rights,,how do or to be a husband and a dad and work and rest when no time for your self?
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Actually you have rights.  Nobody can take anything from you unless you let them.  So you are in control.  How about this.  I'd suggest that you do something just for youself every single day.  Start by taking a few minutes, say 5 or so.  Make that your time to do nothing except relax.  Make that time completely yours, no interruptions, not answerable to anyone at all.  It is yours, and yours alone.\n\nWhat I do is go for a short walk, something like that, all by myself.  It is fantastic, because you are in control.  And that is the point, it starts with you taking control of your own life and your own choices.  Then, gradually, you do things for others because you WANT to do them, not because you somehow think you HAVE to do them.\n\nStay happy.  Stay nice.
1001286
he needs to be a man and take responsibility.  He needs to stay out of jail.  Get a real job and send the money he can  most importantly be there as a father not just a paycheck.
567985
early to bed and early to rise.. makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.\n\nhavent you heard it?? ideal resting time for any individual is abt 6-8 hrs of sleep. but due to jobs today.. its hard to keep up with timings.. well, its a part of life now. well, good luck to you.
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That's an interesting question! I think responsible men should be caring and thoughtful towards their wives/children. They should try to provide a stable home in terms of income, but I believe women should contribute to this, too (working outside the home whenever possible in order to show children, girls in particular, that a woman doesn't have to stay at home). \nMarried men should be mature enough to not spend too much time with the "guys," concentrating more on their families instead. This doesn't mean don't go out and have fun with male friends, just that there should be a balance between that and family time. \nI believe that men need to provide positive role models for their children and demonstrate to their sons that it's ok to show emotions (what some call their "feminine side")...that it's not a sign of weakness. \nNot trying to be the boss, but allowing that the wife has a right to exercise her authority and place as co-head of household. I don't believe in "lording it" over one's family. \nI believe men need to learn to listen, and actually "hear" what is being said to them. Some men talk too much and aren't used to listening. I don't want my husband to "fix" problems for me, just hear me out when I need to talk about them.\nShows of physical affection...hugs, kisses...in front of the kids is also a good habit to have.
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spend time with your father.\nparents are special and precious
572204
Do you mean like in MR MOM? Well, we guys have different ideas about taking care of the house, but responsibilities are what they are. The bottom line is in how responsible your guy is (or you are?). Otherwise there isn't much of a difference and this is happening more and more across the country due to injuries of husbands or better jobs for the wife or whatever. Well, hope I helped a little.
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pack your stuff and leave while he is gone. leave a note or what ever you like. file for divorce and a TRO at teh same time
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Just let him talk to his dad on the phone about anything. There's not much you can do. Tell him daddy's at work for a little while. You're not lieing, he does have to work to get some money to come back. Oh, and did you ever think that your husband is lieing to you? Ya'll are having problems and he did leave before, have you thought that maybe he isn't comming back? You have to face reality, he might have found someone else. I know that's not something you're ready to think about, with a son and a child on the way, but some men are azzholes. It might be hard, but you have to do what is best for your children. A: You can sit at home all day and you and your child do nothing to move on with you life waiting on your man. or B: You can get up and do something. I know you're pregnat so maybe right now you're not able to get a job, but you can still take you son to the park, or swiming, or any activity. Something to keep his mind off his daddy gone for so long. And if your husband does come back, then everythings great, if he doesn't come back, then you've already started on taking his mind off of his dad, and you have built a good relationship with your child. And remember, what ever you're feeling with your emotions you're unborn baby can feel them too.
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I know it is hard to do this, with work and a baby, but pamper yourself.  Take an afternoon to relax and unwind.  You need to release your stress.  Once you are feeling better, then it is your husbands turn.  Babies are very time consuming and men tend to get jealous.  You need to make him feel like he is your number one priority.  This means that he is more important than work, money, and for the moment even your baby.  She has your attention every waking moment that the two of you are together.  It will be ok to let daddy come first once in a while.\n\nNext, think about the first five minutes when you see your husband.  Both before and after work.  The first five minutes set the mood for the rest of the day.  If the baby wakes you up before the alarm clock, roll over, give him a big kiss and tell him you love him.  This only takes a few seconds, and he will feel important.  Then after work, don't start in with how bad work was and how big a jerk your boss is.  Instead, greet your husband with a big hug and a kiss.  Give him time to relax and unwind.  He may have had an equally stressful day.  Just set the mood for the evening with a positive beginning.\n\nLast, find time to be alone.  Have a trusted friend or relative (this way you don't have to pay a babysitter) watch the baby for an hour or two.  Have a date night at least once a month.  More if you can get the childcare.  If money is tight, you can pack a lunch and just go sit in a park under a tree or something. If it is too cold for this, you may just go have a soda or coffee, something inexpensive.  The point is, spend time together enjoying each other's company.\n\nA really good option to going out, is staying in for a romantic evening while that relative has the baby.  You can get a few candles and light them around the house or just the bedroom.  Surprise him with a note, in a place you know he will find right away, telling him you've been thinking about him all day and you are waiting for him in your room.  (One time, I even made a path of Hershey's kisses from the front door to the bedroom.)  Be waiting for him on your bed wearing something sexy.  This will let him know that you love him and that you were thinking of his needs.
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i don't think you are a man until you have responsibilities and take care of them.  that doesn't mean chores but things such as bills, yourself (without all financial help from parents), and family. age has nothing to do with it.
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Currently, you should concentrate on taking care of your children and keeping yourself healthy and your thinking rational.  If your husband has capital for business, talk to him and find out what he is doing to make money because you will need to know what resources he is working with whether you stay married to him or not.  Right now, you do not need to become entangled with another man, especially one you do not love.  The needs or your children and yourself should come first. You must take charge of your own life and stop depending on men to carry you. You do not need confusion.
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I experienced a similar situation in my marriage: I have a very demanding career and it often requires long hours.  My ex-wife couldn't understand why I was working so hard: I explained it to her but she would provide her own explanations: for example, I was not interested in staying home with her and the kids.  Even today she called me a sperm donor!  Well, marriage is tough.  On one hand I understand a woman expecting to have her husband around and when he is not regardless what the reason, I can understand how she would be unhappy about that.  But a woman who is giving and flexible would understand that although it may not be the ideal situation, her relationship with her husband is the most important in her life and that marriage is supposed to be till death do us part!   Nowadays there are more options for women and more temptation so women are less inclined to work through the difficult times as was once the case.  Even though you still care for her and miss you child, if this is the kind of person she is, then she probably did you a favor.  If you guys get back together, then I wish you the best of luck.  But if you don't I hope that you meet someone who will love and support you come hell or high water - because that is what any good man deserves!
504389
you answered your own question, seek counseling to resolve the issues you have with your father, this will take care of the authority issues you have with your current or any future male  boss
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Wheneva u have a responsible man around...
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Good Lord No way!!!!  My poor hubby works 12 hour days as well as Saturdays.  He comes home so tired and worn out but he still makes time for me and our son.  Sundays he spends mowing lawns, and weeding, and working on our vehicles.  My poor man goes thru torture every day just so I can be a stay at home mom!  If I did switch places it would be so he could stay home for a day and relax on the couch watching Dr.Phil!!!!  He deserves it!  I would not want to have his day!!!!
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If he works to support you, and you are not working outside the home then you really have no right to complain.  I mean, you do get to stay at home, so why should he work 8 hours a day and have to come home to help you.  I don't think you are being fair.
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This is one of the most difficult questions I have seen here. There are only a few ways to do this...do you have weekends together? Plan one weekend a month where mom (either, or alternating) agree to take care of the kid and GET OUT OF TOWN, at least get away to a Motel...sometime sleezy, sometimes nice. Leave the TV OFF. Concentrate on each other...talk, coo, pet, soothe, console, hold eachother, do things together that have NOTHING to do with the home...like sneaking out on a date, cram as much of eachother into this time as possible. During the week, a 10 minute quickie initiated by one or the other...always be responsive whether you feel like it or not..given the chance, even a tired body responds well, often better than an energetic one. And, it doesn't take sex to make for a passionate affair. And unexpected call, flowers for no reason, a kiss on the back of the neck. Show interest in each other's lives. Support eachother, avoid arguing ...takes work on both parts but it is well worth it. Love, romance, and union are not always about sex. He could watch the babies for an hour or so to let you take a long, relaxing bath by yourself ... alone time is necessary for a good relationship. Work, work, work is the only true way to make a relationship joyful and rewarding. Take when given, give when it will be taken...was all love to please our partner...show your partner that they please you, turn you on...leave nothing to guess on their part. Smile, laugh, and when you are so tired you cannot take another step, remember your other half is in the same boat. Be super considerate. YOu do not have time for fighting, for that takes time from positive, reinforcing love. Remember, the kids will grow faster than you can keep up with. Be united in your efforts to raise your children on a path that is nurturing, loving, with definate boundries you both agree on. A united front towards the kids provides no room for arguements. Pay the bills on time and no arguements will arise for the electricity being turned off. Phone, gas bills...someone has to pay them...make arrangements with your bank to pay these bills with online payment..takes very little time. Share duties for food  and prep whenever possible. The couple that works and plays together stays together..with common goals that are not obsessive. There must be time for play, as well as family duties. We all to often spend too much time in percieved duties at the expense of what really counts...the relationship. It would be greatly beneficial to have one of you get another job...one more conducive to more time together AND more time apart ... we all need personal space. Too often, in misguided romantic notions, we feel that we should be everything and all to our love...that never works. We both know that. With compromise and agreement, you will reach a great, healthy and workable balance in this life. Work for it after agreeing to it. Know that agreements will not always happen, but one or the other has to give now and then. We can only bend so much before we break. Do not let it come to that. I wish you the very best of love and luck in this. YOu deserve it and can keep it with firm resolve to put your lover's needs before yours...within reason. I do care.