Why don't I ever have sex with guys that I actually date?
371836
You need to evaluate how you are choosing men to sleep with and why you dont feel good about yourself. You need to be in love with yourself in order to love others completely.
593855
simple guys are horny and r in such a rush to do it they don't even care if it's with the wrong person.fortunally there are good guys out there who are willing to wait for the right time. stick to those boys
446881
I have had mostly guy friend all my life...so...I think it can happen.  I don't know if they have thought about having sex with me, but none of them have tried anyway...\n:)
549971
I have the same problem with guys, maybe we should hook-up ;D
255507
Guys are just like this, makes them feel macho if they tell the guys they've had sex,  all  you can really do is tell people no you didn't and ignore it...something else will come up and they'll forget all about it...
580175
Not everyone is out for sex. Some guys actually have honorable intentions. Sounds like you may have run across one. My advice as a guy is HOLD ON TO HIM. The sex fiends are a dime a dozen.
1126640
Well you probably have one of a couple problems.\n\n1) sampling problems.  Where are you trying to find dates?  Are you going places where openly gay people congregate?  Because you're not just going to have the perfect gay guy drop out of the sky.\n\n2) are you openly gay?  I mean really openly gay.  Because once it is common knowledge that you are gay, then most women will stop hitting on you.  \n\n3) are you a loser?  That sounds harsh, but I'm serious.  It is so critically important, in my opinion, for a guy to come to the point where he is happy with himself and his life and is secure and confident in who he is BEFORE he tries to get into a relationship. If he enters a relationship without being confident and secure, then he is only going to dump his problems, his insecurities, and his self pity on the person he tries to end up with. I believe that it is self-pity, lack of self-esteem and lack of self-respect that people find unattractive and hence make some people unable to get dates
743371
Honey, you're only 16 and now you've gotten yourself a reputation.  Guys talk about this stuff!  Then guys will ask you out for sex only.  Guys who have never gone out with you will tell other guys that they have "had" you.  The guys who really like you are having trouble respecting you.\n"If I don't do it, they won't like me."!!!!  If you don't do it, what have you really lost?  Only someone who is using you, but you do gain back your self-respect, even if you are the only one who knows why.\nThe sad truth is that you may never be able to shed the reputation as long as you are going to that school.  The good news is that in two years, you will have graduated, your world and the people in it will change and you will be able to start anew. \nThis happened to me when I was in HS, and I never even had sex!
309939
No, I think you shouldn't have sex with a man you've never met before. First you should try to get to know him better. And if he is the way you "saw" him via internet, then you can move forward. Good luck!
743032
Sounds like he has intimacy issues. Most guys would jump at the chance to have real sex with a real woman. Obviously, this guy is in love with his fantasy life, the idea of exploring his needs through detached means.
367115
maybe some things have happened it your past that make u feel u are not worthy of being happy and giving a guy a chance, you probably havent met the guy that you want to fully be with...it's a click that you feel almost immediately...keep being honest & kind....the right guy will come along and you DO deserve him......
945000
YES, a lot of guys are like this, and if you wanted more than a quick fling you should have made that clear before, not after.\n\nI think you're too young for this, even though you feel like you want it. Stick to boys your own age if possible, although that's still no guarantee of not getting hurt.\n\nWhen you're older, if you want casual sex, that's your choice, as long as you're careful, but for now this isn't a good idea. \n\nI know it's not easy when you're permanently horny, but remember to respect yourself or nobody else will.\n\n(PS, I don't want to sound rude, but are you sure this really happened, and you didn't just fantasise about it? Because if you did, then that's cool, best way to go about it.)
631910
Thats not a bad thing. You have the right to make an informed decision on who you want to date. BUT, be honest with the guys. And try not to make them feel like  they're being played.
577839
Have you ever though you should slow down and get to know some of these men. Dont confuse sex for love. Please dont let no man miss use yor body. You need to learn to love your self.
661677
It may not be a problem with you, but more of a problem with the guys that you are dating. They probably aren't satisfying your needs for reassurance on these type of issues. In the future, look for guys that will provide these things and see if there is a difference.
116357
he could be a really nice guy and like you for who you are. I didn't have  sex with mt girlfriend or pressure her for 2 months. some guys think sex is a more serious thing and want to wait for the right moment.
62497
Probably because you let him into the relationship without realizing his true motives or his true self.  Most guys go into a relationship to play ball.  To see how far they can advance around the old bases.  And in today's world sometimes the girls are just as bad.  When you date a guy, don't get physical, like at all.  If he likes you for you, he'll stick around.  If he just wants to bed you, then he'll leave and all the better for you.  Yeah, it will be a little lonely, but at least  you won't be hurt.