Can I get my son back?
360513
I answer this question on the basis of intitution and prayer there are ways to get back your son but not without great effort and penance but it is with you everything a friend of you or her is in the way but keep this confidential.
298040
You definitely need to contact somebody... Try starting with your local DVACK shelter... DVACK is for domestic violence... Tell them that you are scared for yourself and your child and get a protection from abuse order, he won't beable to come near you or the baby, and you can get your court proceedings started from there. you definitely need to talk to your local SRS office and tell them you want to start the custody to make sure you have residential custody, because if you don't, he has every right to that child just like you do.  He will beable to take her and there is nothing you can do to get that child back until you go through court and ask for visitation. That can take months to do, if he gets the child before you start the proceedings,and no child should go months let alone days without seeing their mother. If you hurry and do that, if he does take the baby, they could then issue an Amber Alert and put his butt in jail! Good luck, but act FAST, seriously!!!!!!!
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
855017
He's obviously an @ss, I would get some psychological help for your son as soon as possible so he doesn't end up with abandonment issues and blaming himself for his biological (only) father not wanting to see him. Good riddance to him, sorry for you and your son.
209369
If their only son doesn't want it ask him to sign over his claim to it to you and or talk to a lawyer
671399
I'm pretty sure that your son is old enough to choose who he wants to live with.  There is a certain age they turn and are able to choose. Check into it.
1037636
It is very sad that has happened but unfortunatly that may be his best option. Does he still pay his child support? He needs to continue paying it even if he is not seeing his son because if they do end up back in court it will look better on him. I know that if you do not have a child back from visitation on time the police can be called, I wonder if it works the other way to. ( like she's not having the boy there for his visitation time if he can call the police on her) He may also try to contact his local DSS office and explain the situation to them and see if they can help or they may know who to contact to help him. Good luck to your friend!
954139
wow hard one to answer and only you knows the answer to that,i guess it depends in what ways your fellow has let you down.\nYou cant keep forgiving him and will he allways be that way as it wont just be you he lets down but your child together to.\nYou need to take each day as it comes and lay down a few hard rules and see what happens,trouble is will you follow your head or your heart\ngood luck
53141
Heavens, that's no reason to cancel your son.\n\nHe's young.  He was impetuous.  He deserves a second chance.
799258
I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
1141923
That is hard. It depends where you are at. Here in the state of KS at the age of 12 the child can decide who they want to be with. You should ask about that law. Im sorry to hear what your son is going threw. Tell him to be strong.
1105782
yes and no. It would not hurt to help him out a little bit while your son is with him. Send him some money to help pay for things. After all he has helped you out alot. maybe not 300 but maybe 100 to pay for anice dinner or a day at a ball game or something. if nothing else to even say thank you for the break.
611904
The law is the only way to handle these matters.*\n\nThe process through the courts may be slow but if you keep trying time will come around and the kids know you love them because you never give up trying to get them back.
839104
No since you are married, you have suitable care for your son while youre away. If questions come up tell the court its only temporary til you find another job. Not alie as no job is permanent. But I see no problem here.
936601
When I left my first husband, he chose to punish me by refusing to visit our son. Our son is 22 and his dad hasn't seen him since he was 18 months old. You can't force the dad to suddenly becaome a good person when he isn't, but you can affect your son psychologically by how you deal with it.  I guarantee your son doesn't care about the paperwork. If there is a man who is treating him like a son, that's good enough for a healthy self-image. Even if there isn't, you can keep him healthy if you keep a healthy attitude yourself. Be very careful that signing over parental rights isn't about YOU punishing your ex.
735476
i beg to differ but yes you can \ngo to social services and apply for government\nassistance and tell them\nthe bum won't help you with the childs welfare\nand just see how fast he goes to court
369380
take him back to america... and to a pediatrician immediately... a baby can compensate for things being wrong but not for long...