I am a wife and a mother of two. Life is too stressful and it's so hard to relax.?
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What's missing is a life that nourishes the individual you were when you were single and childless. When you cannot live your interests, you become trapped in a life you don't want because of the demands and obligations required of you - i.e., EVERYONE expects and wants YOU to SERVE THEIR INTERESTS.\n\nYou have to create your own world, private time, and special place that you can thrive in, that allows you to live your interests without neglecting your responsibilities.\n\nTo do this, get some 3x5 cards; on each card create a 10 minute chunk of time (6 cards equals 1 hour; 24 sets of 6 cards equals 144 cards for 24 hours).\n\nRecord on each card how you use your time. Determine how you use your time each hour for a full day. Repeat for seven days.\n\n(My time is up but I will return later to finish this).\n\nI'm back.\n\nCorrection: Repeat for 21 days (it takes 21 days to form a new habit, you will see a pattern in your routine when you reread your 21-day journal.\n\nYou can use a notebook pad as an alternative to 3x5 cards. And/or use a digital audio recorder to speak what you would write. The objective here is for you to become conscious of how you spend your time.\n\nStress equals conflict. Eliminate the conflict to eliminate the stress. If the conflict comes from being a mother of two (you can't eliminate the children), then the conflict most likely comes from the possibility that "their existence" has short-circuited your individual development (i.e., you can't do the things you wanted to do before motherhood, and now you feel trapped in a life you didn't plan for and/or no longer want - you feel that by the time the children are all grown up, your productive years will have passed you by).\n\nIf my assessment is correct, if you could do it all over again, knowing what you know now, you would have finished school, traveled, and would have done some other things while you were single and had the time, AND THEN you would have had children.\n\nRemember this principle (say it to yourself):\n\nEvery PRESENT action IS the FUTURE I create.\n\nWhat you do or don't do today shapes your tommorrow. What you don't realize is that you have always created your tommorrows unconsciously; AND that you can CONSCIOUSLY CREATE your tommorrow today.\n\nYou are the sum of your experience. Every past action shaped todays reality. If you were conscious of this principle in the past, you would have consciously chose what your life would look like today (who knows, your children may have not been in the picture, BUT if they would have been in the picture, it would have been by "conscious" choice).\n\nNow looking back over your past, consciously see what actions shaped todays reality. The 3x5 card concept is to mentally see and slow down time, and become aware of the present moment - because it is only in the present moment that you have the power to consciously create your desired future reality.\n\nOnce you record 21 days worth of time, review it, and look for patterns of behavior that shaped your environment. What you want to realize is HOW the environment is created, and WHAT causes the stress. Once you understand the source of the stress, you can consciously eliminate the source of the stress to eliminate the stress.\n\nFor example, if you cannot find time to do things for yourself because of a lack of a Time and Activity Management System, then you will know that you need to create such a system that structures and harmonizes all activities to the flow of your avaialable time (which you prioritize and create appointments for - i.e., make appointments for everything (especially the things you love), because appointed tasks always get done, unappointed tasks NEVER get done).\n\nBecause you can consciously create the future, define and create your ideal future environment, and determine what steps it will take to literally realize it, and then act on it.
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you could try doing things that you really like, or try yoga and listening to music maybe....i'm a total stress-head now esepcially with my exams and everything coming up
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Well for starts you get away from what is causing you the stress for a while. You then should do an activity you like which will keep your mind off the stress. But if you can't get away from it  taking a few deep breathes and relaxing ur mind will help a bit.
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Well that is not easy, I think alot of it depends on the woman, if she can juggle all that.  Some women feel they have to work to keep their sanity.  If the time a mother spends with her child is not good time, it is better she works and enjoys the time she has with them.  Sometimes being away from the children make you enjoy them even more :)
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I have a six month old and an 8 year old and being a mother is the hardest job you will ever have but its also the most rewarding. Take a bath with your child only a few inches of water please,they are slippery. Sing to him or her. Walk with your baby out in the air if possible. Also and very important take time out for you. Your body and mind have just been through a category 4 hurricane and hormones are nuts so breathe,smile,relax kiss your baby they are precious.
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I know that stress in life can be unavoidable at times. Why, any change in ones situation is considered a source of stress. Exam your life and your current obligations. Determine if there are some things that you are currently doing that you can stop or delegate to others. \n\nTry to schedule in some daily "me" time when you can just do something that you find totally relaxing, even if just for 15 minutes. Think about things that you like to do, that makes your happy, or that you find relaxing. Have a mini daily retreat where you can refocus, replenish, and rejuvenate your soul.
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I found a great stress website.\nCheck out ( http://www.reducingstress.net )\nGood luck.
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lack of sleep & stress.
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well you have to stop putting all the weight on your shoulders no one make you the person who has to bare all the problems don't sweat the small stuff . you have to let things just go as they do.. you can go to counciling or talk to a friend..light some candles and just relax ..go do something for yourself and forget the family for a few hours..talk to your family and tell them that this environment isnt healthy that something has to change
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take a deep breath & try to relax, or shake it hard
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Try Yoga, watching less tv, exercising more..even if its just walkin ,massages, candles, relaxing music..aromatherapy, writting ur feelings on a paper, figuring out what makes u tense and then fix it by organizing urself,time and priorities.
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What causes stress?\n\n1.  Illness of aging parents and in-laws\n2.  Rearing a pre-teen\n3.  Keeping up with housekeeping while working full-time\n\nWhat can I do?\n\n1.  Encourage them to get regular check-ups and get treatment for on-going medical problems\n2.  I'm open for suggestions on this one - all I can do is love and encourage him thru the lows and celebrate with him during the highs!\n3.  Realize that in all actuality, my house is probably cleaner than most stay-at-home Mom's, and as long as the kitchen and bathrooms are relatively germ-free - we're okay!\n\nCoping?\nPlain and simple - I pray!  I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that since God created me, He knows what's going on in my life and exactly how I'm feeling.  He even promised in His word that He wouldn't put more on us that we can bear!  He is my source of Joy and Peace and I couldn't make it through a day without Him - God bless!!!
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Simple just keep quit for some times and beeee  a   open minded you stressed  with   away from you really..... Its true its happened in my life...
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stress is very detrimental to you it can affect many aspects of your life learn to relax and dont sweat the small stuff
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For one thing our world has changed in such a way that we are affraid to let our children out of our sight or the sight of someone we completely trust. I think that as moms we figure if we are there anyway we might as well do something useful. I definately feel your stress and exhaustion. I am a wife and mother of two active girls, run a business full-time, volunteer in the classrooms, on the PTA board and of course there is the non-stop cooking and cleaning, oh and laundry!!!!\n  I was raised by a single mom of four children, she didn't have time to be involved, so I have gone to the opposite extreme. I joke that my kids are going to be so tired of me, but that is only if I don't die from exhaustion first.
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it depends on if it is a stressful experience for the mother it may be soothing
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Try and find the cause of your stress, and work on it, exercise helps a lot , along with a good nights sleep, and drinking enough water, in fact I think they have a book out titled STRESS AND WATER.\nIt is so hard today in our fast paced life styles, not to be stressed out. I could also say not to worry, but doesn't seem to fit with life styles today either.\nLaughter is so therapeutic, and is a good medicine.