what is the real love after marriage?
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Real love after marriage is just a stronger love than when you first fell in love, its dedication and promise to be there emotionally, physically, and spiritually (mind, body, and soul) through anything and everything good or bad that may happen to you both in what we call life. \n\nThere will be times where you will want to pull your hair out with frustration, because you will not always see eye to eye, but its knowing that you gave your word and heart to that one special person and there will always be comfort in knowing you will go to sleep everynight together and wake up everymorning together and start each new day as a NEW DAY, a new experience for you both to go through together.  \n\nI hope this helps in some way, I am only 20 and am experiencing real love. Best wishes!
551505
(m)\n\nMy definition of love used to be this overwhelming warm, fuzzy feeling. When you see her, the world seems beautiful, the birds are singing, and everything reminds you of her. Your heart races whenever she walks into the room.\n\nThat is "being in love." This emotional reaction is a lot of fun but we shouldn't confuse these feelings with love itself. Some people think that they can tell how long a relationship will last based upon how powerful the feelings of attraction are. They spend massive amounts of time trying to decide whether or not they're "in love."\n\nWhat they're overlooking is that love is a decision to do what is best for another person, even if the warm fuzzies are long gone. But it's not enough to want to do what is good for the other. We must form our minds according to the truth that God has revealed so that we know what is good for the other, and we are not just doing whatever feels good. Once we know what is good for the other, all that remains is to follow through and live out that love in our actions.\n\nI think the biggest difference between love and infatuation is that love does not "happen" to couples--it is something they do. It is a task. If the initial excitement of a relationship tapers off and we conclude from this that love is gone, we can be sure that love was never there to begin with. After all, if love is simply about having romantic feelings, how could a bride and groom promise each other that their marriage will last "until death do us part"? More likely, it would last until boredom do us part. Therefore, you can not determine the worth of a relationship by measuring the intensity of emotions.\n\nSuppose you're married and your pregnant wife has food cravings. It is four in the morning, and she wants you to go to the grocery store to get her fudge-brownie ice cream, pickle juice, and beef jerky. You roll over and look at your bride and she does not seem to be glowing like she did on your wedding day. At four in the morning, your world is not looking beautiful and the singing birds have gone mute. But after kissing her fevered forehead, you walk out the door and drive to the store. Has love gone away? Actually, it's more real than ever.\n\nSo, how do you know if you love a woman? Pope John Paul II has answered this question perfectly by saying that "the greater the feeling of responsibility for the [beloved] the more true love there is."(1) The greatest example of this love is Christ. He alone perfectly reveals how to love a woman. If we ever need to know how to properly love a woman, all we need to do is look at a crucifix.
283811
true love is the one who accepts you with all your good an bad thing, It's only by loving yourself, and by living your life to the fullest that you will find true happiness, and perhaps true love.if you really want to test your love,dont restrict set it free, if it comes back to  you\nthats ur REAL LOVE.
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First love. Then marriage. Married life might turn out to be unhappy in the long run as the pot of love is half empty before marriage. \nHahahaha...don't worry its better than arranged marriages as you have a good idea of your would be spouse before you wed him/her.
615428
yes their is no wrong with it but sex after marriage will let u enjoy more
977788
You get married because you love that person and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. You want to really love that person and you know you are meant to be with them. There is not a time limit on love. You just choose.
21941
There are two kinds of love: "in love" and real love.  "In love" is actually physiological in nature, and it goes away somewhere between six months and two and a half years.  You have this time to turn "in love" into real love.  It sounds like you've lost the "in love" without building a strong enough relationship to create a true love. \n\nOTOH, it's not that unusual to have doubts when the relationship reaches a new phase, and planning a wedding is certainly a new phase.\n\nSince you have over a year to plan the wedding, I suggest that you continue with planning where you can without committing money.  This way you won't be putting "I've already spent a thousand dollars how can I cancel it now?!" pressure on yourself.  With some breathing room on that front, it's time to do some serious talking and working with your SO.\n\nIt's going to be very scary to do this.  It will upset your SO, and people don't usually get upset in constructive ways.  And that's going to make it even harder to determine if you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.  \n\nI have three things I've learned from personal experience that indicate whether you're in a good relationship.\n\n1.  A relationship should make your life richer, not poorer.  You shouldn't find yourself limited by your SO.\n2.  You should be each other's cheerleaders, and you should always expect to be treated the way he treats you (and vice versa).\n3.  The test of a good relationship is not how it goes in the good times.  A truly good relationship will become stronger when there are conflicts, while a poor relationship will get battered.  \n\nI must recommend therapy as well.  Our culture teaches very poor relationship skills and a therapist will help you overcome any bad training that you've received.  \n\nAnd remember - it may seem hard to break off an engagement, but it is 10x harder to end a marriage.
298093
I am in love with my husband and I have been for years.  Is it child love?  Much better than first love and we will always be each others only love!  We are the beginning and the end to each others lives.
236273
You should get married only after you figure out what YOU want out of life.  It's hard to keep someone else happy when you don't know how to keep yourself happy.  Children should only come from a stable, loving home.  So, kids come a few years after marriage, but many couples don't have kids at all.
764993
It depends on how much later.\n\nThe couple should be married in the Church before enjoying conjugal bliss (having sex).\n\nWith love in Christ.
500276
Listen to the people who love ur/her mother or father or any one whos is thinks of your/her goodwill...\n\nWhatever they say is for ur own goodness. These kind of love is only good for movies as they donot show the consequnces and after marriage. Real life is different ...
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Over a period of time, marriage is even more than I/we had expected! You see when you start out, it's the two of you and think this is it! How could life be any better than what I am feeling right now?How could love grow? Then you go through great times like births, going to other weddings, going places, adoptions, all of it, and then you go through really hard times,thoughts and feelings, why did we get married?What are we doing here?Is this what I/we wanted? People change over time, people are different. You want to learn and grow together along life's journey. You also go through deaths, kid's sickness,surgeries, is he/she cheating on you?All of it, and after years, not of abuse,never ever accept that, but you just realize how Blessed you are to have this full,married life with beautiful kids(the good and the hard there too!!)An awesome feeling to know that somebody in this world, is there for you, knows you and loves you anyways!!:) So after 20 years, can honestly say, it is more than I ever expected, it is awesome, but it is a journey,it is work, it is fun times, hard times, but you do it together and that love just grows beyond your wildest dreams!!!
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Well girl if you're happy now that's what counts most. In the real world after most marriages there is a lull that is sure to happen. The most important thing for you to remember is to remain best friends and always keep that door open for communication. You may very well have a bright and happy future.
295988
There is no such thing as real love. Because love is there if you work on it. If you love with pure heart thats real love for you.
338664
I have had "true love" and never realized it until recently...After 12 Years! You won't understand until its time to understand, for now live for the moment, do what feels right, and .... just have fun! Really the words to live by, JUST BE HAPPY! at he end of the day, only TIME can tell, the old saying, if you love him let him go, if he comes back it was meant to be! Its soooo true!
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until you are married
235003
after marriage, whatever age