how do i keep from contracting herpes from my possible partner?
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You have to be very careful. There is prescribed medication that he can take to (Famvir or Valtrex) decrease occurences of the herpes virus. You should never have sex with him during the viral shedding stage or if he has a visible outbreak. To protect yourself you can also use female condoms. They cover the lips of the vagina. Remember, you will be taking a chance everytime when you start having sex with him. It seems like u do care about him. Let him know that this bothers you. If you're not comfortable with the fact that he has herpes and may spread it to you then the best thing for you to do is leave him. Hope you make the best decision for yourself and your health.
230487
I wish everyone was as scared of Aids as you are.  You are wise for getting checked.  I annually get checked.  Never have unprotected sex.  Even if you are in a long-term monogamous relationship, get checked 1x year.  Although I hate to say this, you never know if your partner is sleeping around.  Protect yourself under any circumstance.\n\nWishing you all the best.
352671
as a person with herpes (unfortunately) i should know that it is possible to have it and yor g/f cannot. you could have had it for a period of time until something triggered it. Stress, anxiety, a cold anything. the best thing to do is when you have an outbreak DO NOT HAVE SEX. this will decrease the chance of her catching it. granted it is not easy to tell someone that you have that but if the person cares abotu you they will understand. go onto websites to give yourself better knowledge about it. hey if you have any questions feel free to ask them. dont be afraid to ask, that is the only way to find things out!! it isnt that much easier for a woman to see than a man. it all depends on how u handle certain situations. my stress may cause me to outbreak more than your or vice versa. \n\nloveless816@yahoo.com if you need to ask anything.\n\n\nP.S. it can lay dormant in ANYONE, not just women
1001920
Don't freak out. It could possibly be a folliculitis (which is a hair bump) or bacterial vaginosis. The best advice I could give you is to pay the doctor a visit. Since you have never been with a person who has a herpes infection, I wouldn't be too worried about it.\n\nBut also know, that if a person has a cold sore, it is a herpes virus. If they perform oral sex on you with an active cold sore, you can develop a herpese infection in your genital area. A person who has genital herpes but isn't currently having an outbreak can still transmit the disease. The only reason why I am telling you these things is because I never knew until someone told me. \n\ntry not to worry too much and take care of yourself
682765
Herpes can be transferred pretty easy. I got it after having sex ONE time with a guy who had it! \n\nI've read that there are couples who have been together 10 or more years, one partner has herpes and the other doesn't. I have been with my fiance for 5 years, I have it, and he doesn't. That doesn't mean that he will never get it though, he just hasn't so far. When I am on a breakout, we absolutely do not have sex, no matter what.\n\nIf you have a new partner that doesn't mean he will get it. To be sure though, and safe, you might want to use condoms every time! I hope that answered your questions. Good luck!
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None. STD's are transmitted by sexual activity. \nYes, the herpes virus causes cold sores. so if your partner has a cold sore on their mouth/lips you should abstain from kissing otherwise you can get a cold sore on your mouth. But, a cold sore on your mouth is a cold sore, not an STD. And, yes when a partner has a oral cold sore they should never perform oral sex on their partner, they could easily give them genital herpes that way. But, the asker asked about kissing, not oral sex. Lastly, yes you can get chlamydia and other bacterial STD's infections in the throat, but it extremely rare and is not rountinely tested for. And, one would not be able to contract that through kissing, but through oral sex and the asker asked about kissing. \n\nashastd.org\nplannedparenthood.org
988602
Yes. It sounds like your relationship is in trouble anyway. I got genital herpes from my boyfriend of 4 years and he didn't tell me he had it. Now I have this virus the rest of my life. That wouldn't be fair of you to not tell her. Women can have more complications with genital herpes. Most women have to, or choose to, have a C-section delivery when they are pregnant. Babies can get the virus from their mothers and have severe complications and even death (rare). Even if you two don't spend the rest of your lives together, when she becomes pregnant someday she'll have to take extra precautions. That's not fair to her or her future baby. Please let her know.
911153
Avoid him like the plague! Demonize him if you have to to get yourself to blow him off. Don't answer his email except to say "no thank you. I'm sorry if my flirting got out of hand. I don't date married guys." Then don't respond to any more. \n\nMarriage is sooo hard when you have kids. People rarely have time or energy for sex like they use to and falling in lust with someone new all the time is just so much fun! But you would be doing something that you will feel bad about and you don't deserve that. Guilt sucks all the fun out of it. And you would be contributing to his guilt and potentially a lot of pain for his wife and kids and him if he lost them. He may be desperate, but you don't have to be. Just remember, guys who do this to the mothers of their children would and will do it to you, too if you bother going there.  You'll end up wasting some of the most precious time of your life with some guy who may even be a lousy lover and that you'll feel bad about the whole time.\n\nIt would be SO much more fun for you to be flirting hot and heavy with some luscious thing that you can feel good about and have the potential of developing a REAL relationship with. And if you just want a hot quickie romance, there are plenty of single guys who've sworn off commitment just so they can have fun without hurting anyone. But whatever you do!!!... USE A CONDOM!!! (at least a female condom. You can buy them online) Avoiding getting pregnant or getting herpes or some other nasty is totally worth the effort. \n\nSex isn't always all it's cracked up to be, but especially if you act irresponsibly. You can be a "bad girl" and have an outrageously good time without hurting anyone, including yourself. Just be smart and honest and have fun for real!
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That is a a false rumour.  Oral sex is fine as long as neither person has open sores in the mouth or on the female genitals (or male penis).\nIf you have a cold sore on your lips you can give Herpes Type I to the woman, so avoid it then.\nIf you enjoy receiving oral, then it is only fair that you give it to her. So wash well, be monogamous, and if you are too worried you can use a dental dam, or square of rubber to be between your mouth and her genitals.\nYou won't be harmed if the girl is clean and has no venereal diseases.
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hey, it not just the babies that you need to worry about, you have those diseases that can kill you. You tell him to wear a condom or leave you alone.\n\nIf you want to have unprotected sex then you have him go to the dr and get tested for every STD known to man. Then have him prove he hasn't been with anyone between the time he took the test and when you are ready to spread your legs.
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You can't catch herpes from NON physical contact. But seeing as you have little ones, and are concerned for your own well being, i'd take extra precaution while your friend is staying with you. If possible, you could talk to them and explain your concerns, but good on you for not excluding her or not welcoming her into your home.
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you have to tell him somehow, it depends how close you are, if your really close and can confront him do so as he needs to get checked out aswell, and any previous partners.\nyou can arrange for your gp to send an anonymous note to him if in UK, if your elsewhere im not sure if you can do this but then you could send him an anonymous note. start wearing condoms from now on if you continue to have sex. herpes is an std and if you have this condoms wont protect you as this can be all over the genital area, in which case when you can see or feel sores get a special herpes crem from your chemist and dont have sex for a few days, 3 of my friends have this and aparantly its very painful even to pee if you dont use creams. i think the cream is called aclicovir.\nyou need to find out exactly what stds you could have. these cannot be treated yet by the way, only the effects softened as with herprs.\nhopefully if yu do have something it is just an sti which can be treated. although if you have stis for a long while it can cause fertility problrms and pelvic inflamatory disease, so this may be how you got pid. good luck.
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i don't know of anything that can totally stop a herpes outbreak but i know there are alot of medications out there that you can take to reduce the number of times outbreaks happen. \nI see one on TV all the time but I forget the name....\nI would say to ask a doctor about it, or do some online research to find out about the medications
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genital warts usually are pasted from partner to partner during an outbreak.I would use protection though because your partner can be vulnerable to an out brake and not have signs aware to the human eye.Avoid unproductive sex when sick because the immune system is not strong enough and you can very much allow you to become infected.Once you have been exposed the virus stays in your system and you become a carrier.
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Yes Herpes simplex, whether oral (usually HSV type 1) or genital (usually HSV type 2) can be transferred to a sex partner through skin contact.  Transmission rates to a partner is significanly lower during times when there are no obvious lesions, but still possible.  There is a much higher rate of transmission when there are visible active outbreaks.\n\nHSV 1 has lower infectivity rates compared to HSV type 2.  Prophylactic therapy days prior to sexual activity up til days after it with Acyclovir at least 400 mg twice a day may decrease risk of contracting herpes, but is not a guarantee.
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Yes you can. Make sure that you don't touch your b/f if you have one or anywhere around his area. I get cold sores all the time. My doctor told me not to do any oral sex with my b/f because he may catch herpies. be careful they are contagious and other people can catch it ( drinking from the same cup, kissing, touching it)
346153
You'd have to...It will eventually come out if you plan to stay with this person. It is always best to be honest. If he/she leaves you because of the STD, then so be it, but at least you were honest so that he/she doesn't go out infecting others because of your silence.