why does my boyfriend drive behind females on the freeway and he looks in their mirrors at them?
367621
Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u
1013515
Most likely this girl hes staring at has BIG T-I-T-S, TIGHT PANTS, a HOT A-S-S, alot of SKIN SHOWING, too much MAKEUP on,  a wild SLUTTY HAIRSTYLE, or has too many TATTOOS or EARRINGS on her body. Either way it probably means he wants to f-u-c-k her!!
411273
could be, there is the fact that you are a tangible "what if?" that is constantly in front of him. there is also the fact that as a guy, we think about sex pretty often and when we are with a girl we have been with and are no longer available to, it sometimes comes strongly to mind. \n\nit could also be that his gf is not happy with him talkign to you.
168165
This is one of those things that it's all in the persons point of view. He may just be viewing it as a form of pornography which wouldn't be cheating at all and may just be getting himself all warmed up for a night with you. OR he's losing interest within what he has and things need to be spiced up a bit. If he starts acting differently towards you than I would seriously consider having a sit down and talk session with him and get both of your view points out and let him know that you don't approve of him watching other girls on the computer while they pleasure themselves.
1164682
You sound like you have your head on your shoulder.  What your boyfriend lack isn't experience.  What he lacks is self esteem.  He compares you with other woman, which is a bit demeaning.  Guys who are secure in themselves do not have to compare women because they know they have a great girlfriend.  He always tells you he's a good man.  He's looking for your approval; secure men don't need your approval.  He's out of town and freaks that you'll cheat on him.  Again, secure guys don't freak out about their girls saying hi to other men.  \n\nYou're man is insecure and you need to sit him down and tell him that there's no one else and try to get him to feel more confident about himself.  From the sound of it, you're a little turned off by his insecurity.  So, have a heart to heart with him.  If he still comes off as insecure, it would be best to let him go to find his confidence.
1168978
he is insecure with himself, he's scared if you realize how pretty you are you'll leave him for someone more attractive.  However you need to be careful with this one because sometimes men like this like to be over controling of their girl friends and wives.  take good care of yourself.
837782
You didn't state your age, but...\n\nSince your boyfriend has a girlfriend (you), he has been "tested and proven."  Meaning he has something going on and is dateable.  Plus, people often seem to want what they can't have.  If he hasn't shown signs of being unfaithful, then best to not worry too much about it.  It will only keep burning at you inside until you become angry and resentful.  Then your boyfriend might start taking a more serious look at these other girls.
380619
Your problems go deeper than just him wanting to look at other women.  This is not usually a serious problem as most men appreciate looking at women, even if they have no intention of doing anything with them.\n\nYour basic problem is your own insecurity.  If you had spent more time communication with you boyfriend instead of nagging at him, things might have taken a different path.  Communication is the key to a good relationship.\n\nIf you are ever going to be in a relationship, then you need to get help.  You obviously cannot deal with this problem on your own.  It will just keep getting worse until he gets fed up and then starts doing more than looking.\n\nYou say that you love him, but love is based upon trust.  You seem to be unbalanced by his "looking" because you do not trust him.  By nagging at him you are forcing him away.\n\nGet professional counseling.  Work on your self esteem.  When you know that you can form a long term relationship and trust the other partner then you will stop this destructive behavior.
288878
Men are very visual creatures. If they see something they like, they look. Hell, women, look, too! There is no shame in that. The most important point of the matter is that even if he is looking at other women, he's going home with you!
1077131
Poor thing. Have you been burned recently? I feel your pain. Ok. Mind games. Men have egos, huge egos. When a woman he thinks is his (and 'only' his) is seen with another man, even a friend or anything similar, ego says "Hey, if other egos sees my lady with someone else, I am less of a man. This is unallowable. I should make her jealous to make her focus on me." \nThis is a broad generalization of course, but it seems that this is the case a lot of the times, and guys hate to admit that they are not in control of the situation. Everyone judges us by the kind of mate we can find. If you have a chunky girlfriend, you are a chubby chaser and cant hack a fine chick. If you have a fine chick, guys envy you but also try to ruin what you got. Its a bit of a juggling act, and mind games are just one way to juggle so many balls in the air at once. On behalf of the thinking man, sorry for the mind games, its a defense mechanism.
1024735
I suppose he've cheated you.\nOtherewise some kind of accident occurd.\nNow its hisduty to contac with you.\nYou are a nice girl look at your future.
286462
PERHAPS HE CARES FOR YOU SO DEEPLY,HE FEELS YOU MIGHT GET "CONVERTED" OR "CORRUPTED" BY THEIR LIFESTYLE...OF COURSE,YOU HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND THE WILL TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU DO...MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE THOUGHT OF OTHER WOMEN EYEING YOU--AND LOOKING YOU UP AND DOWN. IN ANOTHER WAY,HE'S SAYING,"YOU ARE SO PRETTY--THEY MIGHT TRY TO MOLEST YOU!" TAKE THAT FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH, OH DIVINE MISTRESS....
782246
OK, that's hardcore flirting and a prelude most likely to them exploring more. It's totally disrespectful to your relationship and if any more of it occurs I'd inform him to hit the road and not come back. Keep your eyes open on that one.
318096
she is, and of course!  its kinda surprising actually that he wouldn't want to be around you while you're having fun with girlfriends.  most likely, it is a problem with his self esteem, he is probably jealous of you\n\nif he doesn't like that aspect about you, but you feel it is an important aspect in your life, you need to seriously weigh whether staying with him is worth giving that up.
757883
It's quite possible he is jealous... For some reason we are that way (think it's an ego thing)... We may not want her but we don't want her to be with anyone else either..\nYes I know, it doesn't make sense to me either... It is real however.
545720
This is normal male behavior.  Be honest, you looked and noticed she was "hot" too.  We all look at other people.  Don't make a big deal out of nothing.  If he's doing more than looking, or looking online and in magazines then, I might move on.  If he's not happy looking at you, the real thing, then you don't need to stay in his sights.
957550
You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.