How can be in love with a woman and a man, at the same time?
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how can you like chocolate chip cookes and peanut butter cookies at the same time?\nits a strange example i know, but you can like more than one thing at the same time...with people however, it is important to be respectful, choose one, or let both people know and if they are ok with you loving/dating both of them then fine. but lying and cheating about it is not ok.
1126564
I think a person can be in love with two people at the same time. However, I think it's wrong for them to carry on two relationships simultaneously. They should choose one person, and let the other go.
271598
Hard call. The human mind and heart are so complex and not completely understood that anything is possible at this point. Do you have different levels and intensities of love? Yes. Is it possible that while loving one person you discover someone else who has different attributes and things about them that attract you? Yes. Does it mean you love your other love any less? No. So anything possible. What he needs to do is choose. It's human to have feelings all over for different people. (we have that capacity, intelligence and coimplexity of emotions) But our society dictates that you must be faithful to one and only one. So....he has to pick.
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Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
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It takes a bit of time.  I knew I was in love when after several months, I found myself wanting to spend more time with the woman.  Infatuations occur for me, when I don't have much information about a woman.  I have strong feelings, but I don't know if I have much in common with her.  Love is when I know about the details of a woman, and I still have strong feelings.
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Sure.  You can be in love with 5, 10 or even 20 people, they are called Family.\n\nIf you are asking if you can love with one or more men at the same time then the answer is yes to that also.  It is easy to love different qualities in different people.  You may love the style of one and the brains of another.\n\nTo be IN love, is different.  It is all consuming and there is only room for one there.
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Honstly I dont think that you know what being in love is.It is apparent to me that maybe you are attracted to both men for different reasons but your actions by cheating dont spell love.\n\nIf you really did love either of these men, then in no way could you play one guy against the other like you are doing. When you really love someone you dont cheat on them. I dont mean to be blunt but reading your question made me feel sorry for the guys, this isnt fair to them what you are doing.\n\nMaybe you need to re-evaluate what your concept of love is, because when you deeply love someone, their best interests come above yours.\n\n             Here is a good model of REAL Love;\n\n            Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.\n                 1 Corinthians 13:4\n\n\n    Something to think about:\nReallove has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give — which is everything. \n\n     When you are truely in love, you will see that is is so consuming and wonderful, there is no way possible that you could feel that way for 2 men. From what you wrote, you are speaking about attraction, not love.
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Attraction is not exclusive. You can be in love with more than one person at a time, however it isn't fair to cheat on either. Your feelings are your own, your actions will affect the people you love and may hurt them.\n\nUnless you live in very unconventional circumstances, one of your loves had better remain unfulfilled. That's a fairly common state of being, really - how many people still pine after their first great love even though cosily arranged?
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firstly, if the one loves the other then that doesn't mean the relationship wont work out unless its been a few years (or a long time) and theres still no equality in the emotions, then the one with less emotional levels should rethink the situation. secondly, say that the man and woman do love each other but one loves the other more that also doesnt mean that the said relationship is off balance, it just means that one has stronger feelings than the other and that's okay. as long as there is love for each other from both parties the relationship should be more than successful! it may seem kinda jumbled up but if you read this over a few times and feel emotions stirring as you read it then that means you understand what i've suggested. lastly but not least, FOLLOW YOUR HEART! if it says that theres something wrong with the relationship and the track its on then you should focus on that. there's no better way to solve a problem (or delimma) than to follow your instincts.
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It's possible, just most people don't have the mental capacity for it. If you don't have the mental capacity for it, you're going to think it's not possible. A good friend of mine has two girlfriends he loves beyond physical/sexual attraction, and they know and hang out with each other.
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Unfortunately (considering the circumstances) yes.  you never love the same way twice.  So you can love one person very much, and another person just as much, but love them differently and for different reasons.
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I do not think that love comes from ability. If you are in love with someone, obviously you will not think that whether you are able to love her or not. So, I always think that I am able to love someone if that someone is my other part.
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it all possible. love good for people.
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I too had those feelings/questions years ago and I now have close relationships with both a guy and a girl...I love them both and each relationship provides me with different needs.  Just be yourself and when you are with a person you love and are physically attracted to, the rest will come naturally.
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when you love someone; truly love them you do not judge them.  You look beyond their data (age, job, status) you love them for who they are and who they have become.  You love the myth (the person that they wish they could be ) when they are not presenting themselves to the world as the person they are required to be (like at work for example).\n\nCan you love 2 men at the same time.  Yes you can, but not for the same reasons.  Each person has qualities that attract them to another person.  These men do just that.  The questions is now can you decide which man poessess the qualities that you want in your life?  Can you live without the qualities of the other man?
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I believe you can love more then one person romantically at the same time. Maybe I just feel that way because I'm a man, don't know why I just do.
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I personally do NOT believe that you can be IN LOVE with two people at once. I believe you can love two people, but being in love is so very special that if you are in love with someone, there would never be anyone else to catch your attention, let alone your heart.