Should I tell my current boyfriend that the last time I had sex was 10 yrs. ago?
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I think you should be completly up front and honest...Honesty is the fundation of a healthy relationship.\nI know exactly how u feel...when i saw your question i had to respond right away, it has been 10 yrs for me also. my experiences have not been great either, not in the least.\nMy advice beyond being upfront is to start out slow and work your way into the deeper aspects of sexuality... Be emotionally intimate...that will enhance your sex life..have a lot of passionate, intense crazy make out sessions, you may become more and more comfortable with your sexuality that way.\nI think it is honorable that you haven't been careless and free with sex
1056108
I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have a lot to learn about yourself still. It doesn't sound like you have been in a relationship with this boy very long, and it also sounds like you are still learning what you like in a relationship, and in a partner.\n\nIf your goal is a long term relationship, I would definitely go slow with this. Rushing won't give you any benefits, and it can get you into trouble if your feelings about this boy are still so new that he turns out to not be as great as you think. Or if you just change your mind or find someone better later.\n\nIf you don't care about a relationship, if you are just looking for fun without commitments, you also need to be very careful because if he thinks this is serious and you don't, he could end up very hurt. then again, it could be the other way around, and you could end up the one being hurt.\n\nRemember, boys at 15 tend to care more about sex than they do relationships.\n\nYour best bet is to move slowly so you can be really sure you are seeing things clearly before you make any big decisions about what to do.\n\nI am sure a lot of people will tell you that 15 is too young to be thinking about a serious relationship, and it is easy to say "they don't know my situation"  That's true.  If you have any female friends that are older, ask them about their relationships when they were your age... and how they feel about them now. It could be that your perspective on this entire situation will be very different in a few years. It can't hurt to ask.
482946
no, i was with someone that was 10 years older than myself. age is only a number, & in the long run there should be no problems, because you both would be mature enough to know that age is only a #.
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
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I did it when I was 15, but I was with the guy for 4 years. I do wish that I had waited longer, but I wasn't pushed into it.\n\nDon't let people push you into things that you don't really want to do. If he keeps bothering you about it, then you need to tell someone. Like a counsellor or something. You don't have to tell them that you have already had sex. Just say this guy keeps pressuring me to have sex with him, I don't want to and he won't leave me alone about it. I know its easier said than done, but you should tell someone you trust who is older than you.
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Yes. Make sure you tell him in a way that he is not threatened. Tell him because you love him and want him to know this from you. That other guy could show up at anytime. Something could happen and it could come out. He should know. But first, you get him aside and tell him that you have never loved anybody or trusted anybody like you do him. And that you are afraid of losing his love, but you are more afraid of hurting him with a lie. That love is based on truth and trust. You must trust him. Ask him if you can trust him to still love you after you tell him something hard from your past. If he says he does not want to know about your past, then shut up. That is fine.\n\nBest of luck. BTW, I doubt that HE was a virgin when you first got together, either. And yes, fair is fair.
757725
what's in the past is the past as long as he doesn't have any std's then your ok.He wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you so get over it or you will lose him
881729
So you got tired  and bored of your booty call.  You really need to be straight fourth about it.  There is never any easy way to break up with someone but to be honest about it.  You always run the risk of her telling your 10 year long partner.  Just say something like you feel you are being unfair to her to continue in the relationship.  She deserves someone that can be there all the way and you can't.  Your feelings are not what they should be to continue the relationship that you have together so you have made up your mind to end it.  Good luck!!
670905
Don't be afraid to tell him.You might have a new boyfriend:)
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No you don't have to tell him. What you did during your break is your business and your business alone. \n\nHowever, know there is the possibility that he will ask. And by not answering or lying you will reveal more about your relationship than you might care to admit. \n\nAlso know that he may find out one day. People talk and you'd be surprised how small the world really is. He'll not only learn the truth but also learn that you kept it from him. \n\nI, personally. am always skeptical of relationships that have breaks, but that's just me. A lack of trust is hardly going to do wonders for your relationship now that you're back together, especially since you've already decided to part at least once.\n\nBut as I've said, you don't *have* to tell him.
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you can't change the past, so you have got to think about ways to make the future work. try to see him again in a casual setting, one that will highlight what a "good" girl you are. don't mention what happened. he probably doesn't want to talk about it anymore than you do.
73113
Don't bring up your ex-lovers.  And if he insists, then tell him as little as possible, and remind him that that was then, this is now.
69306
No you are not to young for this, you took it on when you started dating him.  BUT tell him that one day a week the kids need to go to the sitter or a day care, and make that your day to pamper yourself.  Then tell him that you are missing his company.  I think that being up front is the best thing for you, you will go crazy if you do not tell him.
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I am 24, and a virgin.  I told my bf early on in the relationship.  I think the longer you wait to tell him, the harder it will be.  If you are waiting to have sex, it's definitly important to tell him.  He will know not to pressure you.  If you just haven't had sex yet and are willing, tell him that too.  Either way, it is best to just tell him.  It can be scary, but if he's a great guy, he won't care.
97678
If I were personally in a situation like that I'd probably tell my parents but lie about his age. When you were younger that is a HUGE age gap but 1) you seem to be a rarity of lasting that long with the gap and 2)it won't make as huge a difference now. My husband is 5 years and some months older than me though I did meet him when I was 21. (We've been together since then, I'm now 29) I think my dad was more concerned about the fact that I met him on the Internet rather than his age. LOL
270846
I'd tell him. He knows I still love him and we like teasing each other, but it's different with each couple.
987700
You thought you were falling for a 27 year old so it sounds like you have an age limit in mind.  He might deceive you on the number of sex partners and so forth just because he has had more experience in life.  If you want to be with someone who will die long before you do, then go for it, if not, then you should move on.