Is it bad to want to be alone a lot?
366182
Super no! Right on with having your personal time! I myself am just learning to be independent.Its nice to know that other people are functional and happy enjoying their own company! Thank you for your question!
296092
i would like , but afraid to go alone !
116543
I felt the same after I left a relationship that wasn't making me happy.  Sometimes you miss being single if you're with someone who isn't right for you.  Glad to hear you didn't stay in the relationship just to be with somebody.  Too many people would rather be unfulfilled in a relationship rather than be happy being single.  And when you're happy being single, you'll attract other happy people.  Then who knows what could happen?  Good going.  You'll do well in life, my friend.
682984
Well, first of all, the older I have gotten  (I'm now 36) the more I appreciate my "alone" time, plus I have found out that a lot of people that I considered "friends" were never that much of a friend at all, they were very selfish and jealous of every little thing that I didn't do with them or if I should be dating someone ( which doesn't happen that much) because I tend to see thru a lot of men's b******t and I'm just interested in REAL people....men or women, I'm getting too old to play games with people, I need to surround myself with people who bring me up NOT down.  Which leaves me alone a lot.....I've learned to really enjoy my time.....I love to hike, spend all kinds of times outside, and read, read, read....I could spend 4-5 hours in B&N with a coffee and a nice comfy chair!!   Don't get me wrong, I love to go out and have a good time, laugh, dance but if you can't do it with people that you enjoy being around....then what's the point??  \nYou have to remember that most people keep so incredibly busy and go out constantly to bars with a bunch of friends, but I think for the most part, they are lonely and looking for "something" and I can tell you right now that that "something" is not going to be found outside of themselves....they have to start looking inside first and learn to love themselves, that makes all the difference in the world!!\nI don't consider a person a "recluse" just because they aren't afraid to spend quiet time alone....they are usually the stronger kind of people!\nHope this helps!!!  Take Care.
230809
You may be confusing solitude with loneliness.Solitude can actually be a very positive thing.Loneliness is the negative thing.However,SIN is the biggest soul disease of our or any other time in history.
933410
So you're hangin in there out of fear of being alone?\n\nHmmm, really bad basis for a relationship.  No one else can make you happy.  You're the only one who controls that.   He's obviously not producing positive feelings in you so time to walk away.\n\nYou do need to find something though that interests you (solo) so that you can learn to feel comfortable in your own skin...ie: being alone, loving yourself for who you are, etc.  \n\nThere's nothing wrong with you.  The sooner you love and respect yourself, the less you'll choose (unconsciously or otherwise)  to be bothered by him.  Sounds like your feelings aren't so mixed.
10225
Take time for your self, in every relationship we are in we seem to lose a piece of ourselves, we need to gain that back before we have anything to offer in a new relation, find out who you are, grow from the experience. Some times I think people are afraid to be alone with them selves for awhile, it's ok to be single. I think I got your question right if not good advice any way I think.
792577
sadly yes and i live alone so i am getting really bad at being independant and not relying on others, this is bad.
748460
Of coarse!  It's a hoot!! especially when you want to be alone with someone in particular, just say to everyone to hide in couples and you (couple) will seek, then don't look for anyone, just do whatever in the hiding place of your choice. It's funny how long some will wait and not take advantage of the time alone!!?! Man, that was in the 70's, isn't it still going on? or am I still seeking and everyone has gone home!
1019170
What a great question! In fact, I think sometimes the ones being social might be the ones with the disorder! Half the time they're out and about cos that way they don't have to deal with their issues or look at themselves.  I used to feel guilty and worry about not being "normal" because I like my own company, I enjoy solitude and I don't want to go out every single time someone asks. I'm with you and I say there's something wrong with the dingbats who make such a big issue out of it.
674160
Yes, in a way, you can. That is, if you equate loneliness with boredom. Exciting people are never bored. If you focus on your interests and spend time doing things you feel a passion for, you will love yourself and have less need for others to validate your existence. Then again, I suppose you might come around to wishing you had someone to share your passions with...
305919
not so good... but sometimes it actually feels nice to have the whole house to urself and just enjoy some alone quiet peaceful time!!! :o)
1049717
By the way you describe your relationship, you want out. I know that you are feeling stuck, confused, and completely stressed because you feel like you are in a relationship where you are being suffocated and you don't know where you will be if you get out of something that you are so used to. I don't need to tell you you need to get out, you basically said it in your question. If someone is holding you back from your goals and dreams for their own selfish motives, why stay? Also if the bad out weighs the good what do you think that does to your happiness? Life is not meant to live it unhappy, you make make what you want of it. Also each day that passes is a day that you will never get back, and to live them miserably is not worth it. You seem to be looking for excuses not to get out because you are afraid to be alone. Loneliness is not a fun thing, but it's almost if you have been alone with this guy who does not support you. You have your daughters and you have your ambition to progress in life. You can definitely love again! Then are BILLIONS of people in this world, I'm pretty confident that you will find love with someone who will treat you how you want to be treated and support your ideas. It could just be one of those co-workers or friends that have been complimenting you. Good Luck!
534796
I love spending time on my own occasionally.\nIt is one of the best ways for me to relax, being along in my apartment, listen to music and just do day-dreaming.\nOf course, I would not want to be on my own for a long time or forever.
185996
Don't feel self conscious about it. I do it all of the time.Sometimes i prefer to be alone so that i can leave when i want or stay as long as i like.Find a bar where lots of after work people meet .I bet you will see you are not the only one who comes alone.Also I  have met lots of interesting people this way.If it is still uncomfortable maybe you could find a co-worker that would want to stop too.It does not look bad to me when i see someone come in alone.At all.But I do remember feeling the same way you do when i first started stopping by myself.
67513
The first factor of being afraid of being alone is the age. If you are already in your late 30's, so you are afraid of being alone forever. But if you are still young and still afraid of being alone, that is an indication that you have a kind of phobia and that can be treated by consulting a psychiatrist. It doesn't mean that you are insane if you seeks help from a Psychiatrist. You just need to open up and free yourself from any fears..\nHope this helps you.. goodluck...
926779
It might be some sort of anxiety problem, but if it's not giving you major problems, it's probably just a mild anti-social issue.  I don't like parties or large groups either, I prefer a small group, and I definitely need time to myself every day.  It's pretty normal.