I support my man and both his kids but  he never seems to have any time for me?
367495
Stop being a fool. You are just a meal ticket. Find someone who has a job and a future.
61561
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
758376
I am married to a man like this.  They live in a dream world.  Because they don't take responsibility for themselves they remain happy-go-lucky kids, which unfortunately gives them a certain charm.\n\nSit down with him.  Show him the bills.  Show him your paycheck.  Tell him you are struggling- which as a single mother I am sure you are.  Ask him for his help.  Then see if he steps up to the plate.\n\nYou don't need to give him any ultimatums.  But in your own mind you might say something like- if he doesn't have a job by the new year- he's out.  Then follow through.  When that time comes remind him of the conversation you had about the bills, of his promises if he made any- and he probably will, and tell him you love him but that you cannot afford another child right now.  You might tell him that if he gets and holds a job for at least 6 months you'll talk to him again.\n\nYou need to think about the example you are setting your children.  If they are girls you don't want them to wind up supporting some guy.  If they are boys you don't want them to think they can find a woman with a big heart and a full wallet.\n\nBe strong.  Be firm.  And tell me how to take my own advice.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
562885
You are so selfish. It's all about money to you. It would be such a convenience to you if could just move in with him, no regard for how he or your kids feel. Maybe he knows this and that is why he is not moving the relationship forward. You need to give the poor guy a break and move away, learn how to deal with life on your own, and then try to get into a healthy relationship...
713486
Excellent question.  It is hard for him to let someone else take an active role in his kids lives,  that's just how it is so tread carefully. You really have to be a selfless woman (and if you have a brother who is single and just like you, send him my way please !) You have to think about how you see yourself in the future. Do you want kids of your own? If so, stick with him, you all will be fine, but your relationship needs to be built on solid things like marriage in the future, you definitely being a mom to those little darlings and wether or not you have both really found yourselves. I wish you the best but the worst thing you can do to a single parent is lead them on. I think that if you broke it off like, NOW, he would still understand. Oh  and dealing with the mama drama is only what you make it, if you show respect you'll get a degree of respect and it wont just be from her but him also.\nTread carefully.
459147
yes im with one but it shouldnt matter whether hes got kids or not as long as he loves you and loves kids and doesnt put his own needs before your kids. good luck
258799
it sounds like he is always there for you and that is good. but just because he doesn't want kids right now doesn't mean anything in fact all that matters is that you 2 love each other fully and faithfully.
801460
why is he so far behind in child support? it seems to me like he doesn't really care about you or your daughter...\n\nif he really wants to be in ur daughter's life, he has to prove that he is serious about it...otherwise, i don't think u should move.
470386
I don't know why he won't work but you need to quit waiting for him to grow up and take responsibility.  You have a child now and she needs you to provide for her.  I know you probably don't want to give up on him but it seems like he's already given up on you and your daughter.  It's time for you to start planning a better life for the two of you.
192525
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
834875
1. why did he leave you and your children?\n2. have you been intouch with him since to sort out your issues\n3. You shoud never try and win someone back\n\nI have been in this situation before and its so hard to get back on your feet again. But when you see your children you know something has to be done for their sake, so sorting out where things went wrong and coming to some kind of compromise is a start. How you do it is up to you, this is the hardest part because it means you have to face him after he hurt you and your children, make sure your children are not with you for this part they don't need complications, and make sure he is alone, make him make time, after all he turned his back on you, so demand it.\nFriends and family are the best company of course you'll have their full support, surrounding yourself with good positive energies is good for you and your kids.\nMoving on is hard also, but make it a priority, you and your children deserve happiness and so shall it be, bring on the good times, when he sees that you are moving he'll realise that "Hey she can live without me" and maybe then he'll turn towards you and your kids. But don't try and win him back, he'll think you're being desprite, and probably even have a bit of a laugh, maybe even play on it for  while, you don't want that it will prolong the agony for your children, and cause you more energy than he should be for you.\ni hope this all helps I have been there and  when children are involved its important to get it sorted....
546567
It is very clear that he has a short fuse. He doesnt handle responsibility at all and he feels like you dont do much. You should probably explain to him in a nice clear firm voice what you are feeling like and what you need from him and you may want to ask him if there is something that you are doing to make him act this way. To every action is a re-action. You both have to be willing to work at the relationship and you will always be working at it. All you can do is make sure you are doing everything you can to make him happy and make sure he really fully understands what your needs are from him. Then you go from there, if he doesnt listen to you and your doing everything he needs from you and he comtinues then you need to go to the next step which would be counseling. Basically if he is not willing to put forth any effort to make your life better and happier then you really do not have a marriage there. And then at that point you may want to play the hard role , if all else fails you can just act as though you dont need him. Start going and doing things on your own and with the kids and do everything else as far as the household but dont pay as much mind to him. ( Start moving on with your life) That may very well stop him in his tracks. Start doing to him what he does to you and if he really does love and care for you he will see it and just tell him "thats what you've been going through and you only done it to make him see it first person."
1007487
He's worthless.....so start weaning your kids from him.  Never talk bad about him in front of the kids.....they'll eventually will learn and have their own opinions of him.  Any father who doesn't want to spend time with his children is a worthless piece of sh*t.  If worse gets to worse....you could always tell the kids that he moved far away.   Best of luck to you..........
1045392
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.  Let him know that you understand that his kids have to come first and they take up a lot of his time, but that you want to know if he has space for you in his life as well.  There is nothing wrong with him getting a sitter for a night on the weekends so you can go out.  \nThe thing you need to realize is that he isn't "single" anymore - he has 2 kids that depend on him to take care of them and be there for them.  Instead of trying to take him away from his kids why don't you try to be a part of his family.  Get to know the kids, spend time with the kids, go out together with the kids.  Just because he has kids doesn't mean that you should leave him or that he doesn't care for you.\nTalk to him and let him know how you are feeling.  Maybe you can both come to a compromise - a sitter now and then and also going out with the kids too.
154368
Men want to be able to take care of and provide for their families. He's not leaving you or anything like that. He's just trying to give you the best life he can. You should try to be supportive of him.
1142523
Time has a way of taking care of things.  You might be looked at right now a road block in him and his ex getting back together.\nHang in there, with all the kids and love in the family, it will not take long for their wall to come down.  Kids are a good starting point, they are honest and can't help being trusting and open.\n&#92;They will love you !