Relationship problems!!! Please help me!?!?!?!?
362206
Remember this: it's his loss. if he can just leave you like that then he is so not worth it! It's a really hard thing to hear, especially from someone you don't know, but trust me, I've been through it my self. You need to move on.
828367
noooo do not break up with him!!!!! why mess up your relationship because of ur friends??? u should tell ur friends ur own self!! it would be alot better because ppl like to lie and say other things!!!! soo im sayin it would be alot better for u tell other ppl yall are dating!!! and what ever yall do together is yall choich not ur families or ur friends! its all about what u do with him!
634967
This guy doesn't sound like he's taking your relationship seriously. He doesn't appear to take you feelings into consideration and wants a life which does not include you in it. He seems very selfish, and you should ask him outright - and don't let him give excuses! Tell him straight that you need to know where you stand with him, and you don't want to waste your time hanging around with someone who doesn't want you around! Take control - be strong & determined and tell him exactly where HE stands with you. Relationships are two-way things, and 'give and take' means from both partners, not one gives and the other takes. Be strong, and if you don't get satisfactory answers, then move on and find a guy who will appreciate you for yourself. You are worthy of better treatment than this guy seems capable of giving you. If you still want to be with him, hopefully he will come to realise what he is about to lose if you leave him. Don't give hime the satisfaction of dumping you first, though!! Good Luck!
250708
obviously he doesn't care about you!!!! dump him and move on!!!get some of your own self-esteem first before getting into another relationship...and don't hate the girl.
1005258
You are very strong for asking this question. You are certainly not asking for too much. This is not a problem she has with you, but a problem she has with commitment. She, for some reason, is not prepared to be as selfless and giving in a relationship as you have been with her. Maybe something is going on with her that is , creating this distance between the two of you. All though you probably already have, I suggest that you confront her and ask if their is an outside issue. If there is an outside issue and you help her through it, then you're relationship will be sstronger than ever. Best of luck to you!
650524
Try to sit him down and discuss your concerns with him. Try to make each other aware of your concerns without trying to make the other person guilty for them, and try to improve your communication dynamic. If you love each other, you will be able to work things out: try counseling, if you think you need some tips you can't develop on your own. Good luck, and best wishes.
434817
dude, seriously, I had the same situation a couple years back. I'd get out of it ASAP. Sorry if you love her but if she's not willing to make a decision, that shows some serious commitment  issues that are going to stay with you too. If you can, just be her friend and move on. She's probably going to be really shocked if you do this, but STAY OUT OF dating relationships with girls like this. It only ends up biting you later!
920623
Your boyfriend can't fix you so quit trying to make him say things about you. All that will accomplish is driving him away. You need help but to expect him to fix you will only ruin your relationship. You need to get counseling so you can deal with your problem. Your boyfriend is not a counselor he is just a guy.\n\nTrust me I know this from personal experience, my girlfriend totally ruined our relationship with her constant neediness. When you act this way it ends up being all about you and his needs usually go unnoticed. Get out of yourself and into him.
458021
i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
938888
It sounds like you have a really great guy there but the relationship is too intense. Tell him that you are feeling uncomfortable because you aren't ready for such a serious relationship. He needs to back down a bit. Good luck. I hope you can make it work.
303430
I answered your last question, but now that I know more of how you are with things it helps me to understand it a little more.\n\nI agree that you should pray about it, and give it to God.\n\n  I would talk with her about it and let her know that you have to work on yourself more before you can give yourself to someone else.  Tell her that you do like her, but let her know that right now is not the right time for the two of you to be together and that you would like to stay the amazing friends that you are because she lights up your life when she is in it.\n\nGood luck and God bless.
646119
Don't date the other guy yet, it will make him worse. He sounds very insecure, like he needs therapy. Keep going out with your friends. Ask his friends to help you and keep him busy, so he has less time to think about you. Try not to talk to other guys when he's around if it gives him amunition. IT's not love he feels for you, it's obcession! Tell him you're sorry it didn't work out for the 2 of you, but he needs to get over you, and you both need to get on with your own lives. Ask his friends to talk to him and tell him he needs to get over you. In time he'll get the message. If he is violent, or you are scared maybe you need to get the authorities involved. Good luck.
375461
just go talk to him.tell him how u feel.\n communication is the key to all relationships.\nif he cant get over it move on leave him alone it will be hard but with time it will get easier.
1049423
You are being used sweetie!  He is not ready for a serious relationship, and he is making sure he has you to fall back on all the time.  He is immature and selfish!  He is a cheater and cheaters very rarely stop cheating.  Get out of this  lost relationship.  He doesn't love you, he loves himself!  Toss the trash in the garbage where it belongs.  Don't waste another minute of your life with him.  There are many guys out there who will treat you with love and respect.  Your self-esteem should be rock bottom by now and this jerk is going to keep knocking you down and hurting you inside.  Get on with your life and I know there is someone out there who will love you for the beautiful, loving person you are.  Good luck!
193717
Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
86990
He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
615843
get back together. tell him that you still like him. then when you do get back together then dont break up with him unless you have a good reason. learn from your mistakes.