How do you overcome pride and a big ego?
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Realize how small you are compared to the huge and expanding universe.  Realize that when you die after your very very brief smidgin' of a life, you will be eaten by worms!
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
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Stand in front of the morror and flex those muscles and say I am great ten times.  Or realize you are only human and stop caring so much what someone else thinks of you and as long as you are being a good human, you have no worries.  \n\nI bet you are just fine.
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do something good so you can brag about yourself.you can try to irritate the person and constonly brag about yourself Maybe the person whos bragging too much will relize how annouying it is and they will eventully stop
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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Be happy with who you are.\n\nCoach
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There's nothing you can do.  The more effort you exert the more they will resist.  People of EGO feel others are jealous.  So whatever you do will be interpreted as being jealous.  Just allow them to grow out of their ego's.  It will happen one day, provided they live that long.  Life alone can teach them that they are not all they believe themselves to be.  Then again, ego can be a positive, provided it's not over inflated.
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You are probably trying too hard to impress.  Be yourself and your true personality will show.  Ultimately, you want to be with people that accept you for who you are, otherwise you will need to "put on an act" everytime you are around them.\n\nOne way to take the edge off your personality, is to join a group like toastmasters or take a night class that deals with public speaking or even "acting", improv, or similar.  You'll be amazed to find that when you are around others who are relaxed, it rubs off.  \n\nIn the end...relax, be yourself and don't be so hard on yourself.  Everyone is human.
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Remember who you are.\nKeep your pride.\nKeep yourself.
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You gain confidence by believing in your abilities.  By succeeding in things you do.  They don't have to be big things, little victories count too. What qualities do you possess that others admire? Make a list if you like.  \n\nIf you can see yourself succeeding, your confidence will grow. Put yourself in a position to succeed in whatever you do.  Good luck!
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Get a diary. Make two columns. In one columns, write about things you love or like about yourself and in the other, write things you would like to change or improve. Sometimes, it is surprising that we find a quality that we think is endearing but we still want to change it like helping out others. Everytime someone I helped talks rudely to me or says or does something bad about me, I feel like giving it up but then I find, it is the quality that makes me a better human being than I otherwise would be. SO, I choose to keep it. Hold on to such qualities. Work on other qualities one by one. Do not try to do it all at once. Prioritize. Start with one thing and work on it until it changes for better such as reducing weight is my top priority now. Next thing will be to make my verbal skills in English better. You have to choose your own priorities. Once you think, you have done enough, move on to next thing. Don't try to be perfect for it will take a lifetime but do enough to satisfy yourself. Make a goal that if I reach this level, I will move to next thing. Highlight your accomplished goal with golden marker for that is an achievement. Hope it helps.
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another thing to do is to say it, blog about it, tell everyone what you are doing, your accomplishments and your failures (which in the long run there are non)\n\nRemember it's a long journey.\n\nAnother thing that has helped me is finding a motivational buddy. Someone I can relate and talk to, and someone that can kick my ass when I'm not doing good.\nTry finding one, if not I can help you out.
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Think about what you have that is positive in your life.  There will always be someone who is smarter, better looking, funnier, more talented or whatever you are measuring.  You will find yourself much happier if you "compete with yourself", rather than some ideal standard.  \n\nIt is big of you to try to be happy for the person you are jealous of and you should do that as much as possible.
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write down the good and bad things about the decision, sleep on it, talk to someone you trust, talk to someone who has been in the same situation.  Never do anything that you can't point to and say "I did that" with pride. If your not proud of what you did, it's not worth doing.
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Figure out what your problem is. Realize your problem isn’t who you are, it’s what you have used to protect your physical and emotional well being. It’s hiding who you are: a beautiful human being, a wonderful source of awareness, knowledge, creativity, love and joy. If you practice self-esteem based on the faith that this is who you really are, then your problem will dissolve. \nFigure out who you are. Take self-evaluation quizzes. Learn as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. Self-knowledge is a key to success. \nDecide what you can and can’t control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. \nAccept responsibility. Finding self-confidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness, and recognizing that you are a product not only of your genetic code and your environment, but of the choices you make. Begin your day with the words "I am responsible." \nMake anxiety your ally. Write down your worries for 30 days. Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination lose their power on paper. Amazingly, after writing them down the anxieties begin to fade. \nRecognize that mistakes are opportunities. Keep the setback in perspective. Most mistakes are not personal tragedies; rather they are problems you now have the opportunity to solve. "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right. \nCompete to improve yourself not to beat someone else. \nBe ambitious. When setting goals, remember that you are distinct from what you have and what you seem to be. If you let others define who you are, you may not find happiness. Pursue your own dreams -- not your parent’s, mate’s, or your best friend’s. \nBe brave and take risks. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Risk-taking builds confidence. When considering any risk: define a clear goal. Review the positive, practical and potential losses. Determine whether the risk is one of trust, identity or something larger. When you focus on risks that have a larger purpose, you can’t go wrong. Even if the risk doesn’t turn out as you hoped it would, you will gain from it. Act. Take a risk. Be confident -- you have earned it. \nThink and speak positively. If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them. An Arabian proverb puts it neatly: Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed he who repeats it. \nLearn something new. Create a new hobby. Increase your vocabulary one word a week. Take on a new physical challenge or activity. \nSpend time investing in your personal growth. This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life. Read self-help books and act on the knowledge. \nDecisions: the next time you ponder a decision, think of everything that could go right and say to yourself, "What do I have to lose, really? \nSmile and be courteous. Use the words please and thank you consistently. \nBe aware of media’s messages. Their goal is to make you feel bad about yourself so you will buy what they are selling. \nKeep good company. Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative. If you choose to be around positive people you in turn will become more positive. \nReward yourself. Give yourself and others positive rewards for being and doing well. \nDon’t accept messages that damage your own self-esteem. It is much easier to improve or change your behavior when you believe you are lovable and capable. \nBe aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think negatively about your worth or ability. \nYou can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable. Use "how to" statements in your head and take action on the answers you rece
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Get a life coach to reinspire you to evaluate your good points to focus on instead of evaluating your own negativity.\n\nIdentify your good points and cross reference with suitable jobs. in the mean time volunteer toassist a charity favourable to your beleifs to get used to a working enviroment and by default will start feeling good about yourself with out the pressure.\n\nThrough the networks of the new relationships you will build by default will get new and fresh opportunities.