We've been together for 5 1/2 years now,I get nervous everytime her elder sister wants to take us for a meal
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y get nervous...has she been hitting on u, she may order something expensive, wat u scared of your wit ur girl so thas all that matters
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i have 2 sisters both can be quite bad so i no were you are coming from one is older than me as one is younger i would ask her what is going on try and sort it out but dont be to hard treat her as a friend and she might open up to you in a good way good luck any more advice needed you can email me on your friend waiting  lauzmargretjones@yahoo.com
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Hello Cooldure\n\nIt sounds like things are kind of tough on you these days. Are you the oldest child in the family? How long has your Mom been gone? Does your Dad's sister live there, too, and does she help you deal with the work it takes to look after everybody? Does your Dad help with the housework? If you are trying to do everything yourself that certainly isn't fair. If your Dad is working long hours to earn money to take care of you all, he probably complains about your mother not helping out. That's hard for you to listen too.\n\nIt's good that you are trying to teach your brothers and sisters how to behave and how to work to help you. I admire you for doing so. Lots of young girls would be trying to get away from all that responsibility. I'll bet you're tired a lot of the time, and you probably feel like nobody appreciates you. \n\nYou should relax a little and just be the young girl you really are. Let some of the work wait and have a big sister day with your little sis. Go somewhere together, just the two of you, even if it's just for a long walk. Take a lunch along and spend some time together just talking and playing. Let her know how much you care about her and how you only want her to learn these things so she can take care of herself someday. Also you should spend a little time together everyday, just the two of you. I don't know how old she is so it's hard to tell you what to do here, but fuss over her a little and show her your love. Give her a hug once in awhile and tell her she's a good girl when she is. She'll give you a few hugs in return and it seems to me that you need a few of those. She will listen better, and you will have more patience with her, when things are friendlier between you. As long as your sister knows you love her, it doesn't matter what your Dad says about it, does it?\n\nWhen you are getting along better with your sister, your Dad should stop saying these things to you. If he doesn't, remember this: nothing lasts forever. You are learning how to take care of yourself and other people. Someday you will be finished school and have a job. You will be able to move out and take care of yourself. You won't have to stay where you are treated unkindly. \n\nFor now also remember that your Dad is probably an unhappy man whose wife has left him. Unhappy people sometimes aren't very nice to be around. Keep your chin up and don't let this get you down. You have a whole life ahead of you and I know you'll make it a good one. A hard working girl like you can't help being a success. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too. I hope you have a friend that you can talk to and visit at times. You can email me if you want to. I had a step daddy who didn't like me much when I was your age, and I hated him, too, so I understand a little about your problems. I didn't hate him anymore after I grewup and he liked me a lot better, too. You and your Dad will work this out. Good luck, my dear.
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just be yourself.  if you feel she is anxious - ask her if she would like to go for a walk with you and your baby.  it will get her out of the house and away from all the company, which could very well relax her.  she's probably anxious around people and if you act relax she'll feel this and like being around you -- so don't be nervous that will only feed on her anxiety. calm down, enjoy your husband's family and have a good time. don't worry. happy thanksgiving (early, of course).
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my older sister, because she has always been there for me and i love her
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set up a dinner (cooked at home) by you & your sister, maybe find some old photos of them from over the last 17-20 years or so and make them a little album they can look at during dinner. best of luck.
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Well, I read the follow-up question (at least, I think that was you), and gave this some thought. Not that I know the answer, but here are things to consider:\n\nHow close are you to your step-sis and half-bro? Can you talk to your step-sis calmly, tell her you know she suspects you're having a relationship with her boyfriend, but you really don't find him attractive - you only tolerate him for her sake - and then, if she accepts this, ask your half-bro if she can come?\n\nIf not (or if she won't accept it, or your half-bro is determined she shall not attend), then when your step-sis asks, you tell her that you're going to your half-bro's. When your step-sis asks "what about me?" or words to that effect, you tell her "you'll have to ask our half-bro."\n\nThen you tell him, and his mom, that you know your step-sis is difficult, but you love her, and you love them all, and you aren't getting in the middle of this.\n\nThen you  back out.\n\nBecause it's up to him and his family who they invite into their grandma's house (it's technically up to his Grandma who's invited). It's also up to them to tell your step-sis why she's not invited, if they choose to do that.\n\nUnfortunately, family tensions do arise from time to time, but you can't control what other people think/do/say - so all you can do is be honest with kindness, try not to make things worse, and let people work things out for themselves. \n\nIf you get between people (for example, trying to explain to your step-sis why half-bro doesn't want her there), you'll end up building up the problem (the more people involved in a problem, the bigger it gets), and eating dirt from both sides for Thanksgiving. Good luck!
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don't let it bother you.\nShe is feeling threatened now that you might steal her "dear little boy"..and have more influence on him..\n\nIt is common !! They start to feel jealous !
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don't let her feel cornered. it's uncomfortable for both of you. just ask her and eventually she will tell you!!
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you may be having these problems cause of the issues u have with ur sis.. u are still u and just because ur twins. find ur own place as a person.. srry ur parents dont see it.. hold ur head up high.. succrrd in what ever u do.. dont let her bring u down.. u are special cause u are u.. honey as years go by things will change. u may have to sepeate ur self from her..
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Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
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You need to really sit your sister down and have a long talk with her...  Why does she do that to you?  Jealousy?\n\nYou need to tell her that you love her, but that you don't appreciate and are very hurt by what she is doing...  Give her an ultimatum..  If she doesn't stop, you are going to cut her off of your life...  It's mean, but maybe she will learn her lesson, if she loves you, she will stop....
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I understand what you're going through. And I hope that you will find something, someday that will make it all dissappear.\n\nAs harsh as I may sound, I don't think your sisters reaction is normal. She is being overly zealous. May be she should have herself checked out also. \n\nAlso, do you fight a lot. Is this just mere sibiling rivalry. Have you tried winning her affection?. If this is not the case, i suggest talking to your parents about your sister, and she might want to visit a behaviour consultant.
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You are jealous of their relationship and you have no reason to she is his sister, you are his girlfriend. He loves his sister and hopefully he loves you(I can't really say for sure, I don't know you all) but if you force a division between them in any way he will resent you for it.
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Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
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yeah the bigger the better...as you matured you see your perspective change.For now your girlfriend thinks its quite a burden for he..well time will come she can adjust to it.just don't force yourself too deep maybe she's scared..just let her feel comfortable as much as you can
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I'm in a similar relationship with my sister.\nThe only thing you can do is love her from a distance.\nCall her with little things like, "You were on my mind" and ask her how she's doing.  AVOID anything that might start conflict.\n\nKeep the lines of communication open, but keep your business to yourself.  Helps me.\n\n=^)