why is it some girlfriends do not sleep with the boyfriend until a year into the relationship?
363971
Lets see a year is really more than enough time for each person to get to know the other person.  Its good to take that time to see if you even want to be with that person.  A year is full circle and is therefore sacred.  You can take that statement however you want but if more people took that time then maybe more relationships would last.  Its too easy to fall into the sack at the beginning but will it last or was it lust? So i would say its good to wait.  Too many people out there just sleeping around and not thinking about consequences until its too late.
906434
at yoru age they want sex...some day they will grow up and want girlfriends...hang in there if they want a dirty girl...it really shows the kind of guy they are...find a nice one that wants brains.
1100082
Depends on how long we've been together. But personally, I won't be in a relationship where we are not intimate. I'm not saying that she has to sleep with me right away, but if we do get into a relationship and consider ourselves monogamous and are boyfriend/girlfriend I want to be intimate with the one I'm with. But the difference here is that I am old enough to be in that kind of relationship. I don't know how old you are, but based on most of the posts here, the majority of people are under aged and should not be worrying about having sex with their partner. Wait til you are old enough to make wiser decisions before involving yourself in a intimate relationships.
772889
Lots of reasons... it could be anything from he actually loves the chick and wants to be with her, to the sheer fact that he knows she'll let him sleep with her and he doesn't feel like making a lot of effort trying to sleep with another chick.\nPersonally I haven't a clue. I've got an ex who wants me back... and I want him back... but I don't know what I'm going to do yet because we've broken up twice, once because I cheated, and once because he did. (Neither times were *technically cheating*, because we didn't sleep with anyone else, but since when is cheating a technicality?)\nBut anyway good luck figuring it out... it really all boils down to your judgement of the situation.
716305
Not true because you can be in a relationship for years and if either one of you are feeling it, you'd cut the making out and get down to it.
612392
They don't like to cheat, well some don't..it's that they are immature about problem solving...they don't know how to end the relationship, or cant push past the temptation..It's all about maturity
456493
if she says she isn't ready, she isn't ready but the best relationships start out as friends.  and I'm sure she wouldn't mine that.  its possible if your there when she is ready supporting her now could make you desirable when she's ready.
1123424
Ouch.  I am sorry for you.  In relationships, people don't always want to spend all of their time together.  What is interesting about our comments is that after 2 years the "honeymoon" phase of infatuated love is over.  So the real relationship starts, and this is when most relationships fall apart.  I don't know if I would get over the fact that he slept with someone within moments of the two of you have a  possible break up.  You need to talk to him and figure out what is really going on.
111479
Maybe...maybe not.  It could be neither.  We are all human beings attracted to the opposite sex whether in a relationship or not.  I think alot of times it has nothing to do with what her boyfriend has or hasn't done but everything to do with her lack of what a commitment really means.  Temptation is something we all are confronted with.  Don't be so quick to judge.
688747
In most cases, it probably because he wants to keep a standby girl friend to use when ever needed. Becareful from him, he is just using you because you are letting him to.
1116518
love... im fourteen and my boyfriend is 17. we've been dating for almost four months now and never once has he asked me to or pressured me to have sex with him. actually i was the one who brought it up but he said he wanted to wait. i said that's fine with me. we love each other so much and i know he's the one for me and he feels the same way about me. i would do anything for him. there's nothing wrong with a 17 year old boy and a 14 year old girl together. the age difference isn't that much and it is said that women mature faster than men. i love having a mature boyfriend. unlike the other boys my age. mabey he feels like the other girls are way too mature for him and he wants to actually go out and have fun instead of always being bitched at lol. too much drama with 17 year old girls
633255
Women often stay in those types of relationships because they think they can't do any better than that (i.e., low self-esteem).  They also may not think they can "make it" on their own, especially if they do not have a college education.
995904
Because they don't love their girlfriends or they don't believe in being monogamous.
1145855
Scared of commitment. They are usually unsure of themselves. My boyfriend still plays his little games that push me away and draw me back in, and they are trying to see how much you will put up with from them, you know kinda like seeing if you're in there for the duration.
291952
Personally I wouldn't. I mean a relationship needs intimacy, and sex is the pinnacle.\n\nI know if my girlfriend didn't have sex with me... well she would be an ex girlfriend pretty quickly.
406025
Get tested asap and not sleep with them without protection ever again.  How long has it taken them to mention it? It doesn't change them as a person, but you need to ask about their honesty from the beginning - the same with any relationship.  If there has been a lot of secrets/lies you need to ask yourself if you can trust them ever again.
215750
It sounds like he's just really afraid of getting hurt.  I wouldn't say your relationship is only sex though, you've had some great deep coversations and have been friends for a long time.  I definately think there is the potential for a good relationship here.  The only thing is, he needs to be on board.  Don't try to force a relationship if he's not ready.  Talk to him about it, and try to gain his trust.  Sometimes when someone has closed themselves off for that long, they have a hard time opening up again.