I need help talking to my boyfriend?
363216
Most guys do that, but i think you should at least try to talk to hime about it. Maybe if you let him know how you feel he might try to change. If he doesn't care well then he shouldn't be your boyfriend.
148875
You should be able to tell him!....if not then something is wrong in your relationship....if he wont listen to you then obviously he isnt right for you or good enough....try to talk to him again....things will turn out ok in the end!..dont worry! :)
497481
the best person to ask for tips is your boyfriend. Talk to each other while you are at it.
471101
Talk to her about the problem
491687
He may be going through problems and does not know how to deal with those problems.  He may be trying to work those problems out.\n\nHave you sat down with him to try to find out what is going on in his life?  Maybe he is having problems at home that you are not aware of and it would help him to talk about those problems.\n\nI would suggest that you don't go into a relationship with him again if he is still dealing with the same problems.\nInstead, be there for him, but if he keeps that wall between you, then there is really nothing you can do.  He is going to have to work it out on his own.\n\nGood Luck to you both
141576
I've started and deleted this a couple times and thought about what to say to you, but am having a hard time.\n\nI can't map in for some reason, so I apologize if my response is a scatterbrained collection of thoughts.\n\nOn one hand I hesitate because you don't want to be his 'mom'.....coming to rescue him.\n\n1st....he may not feel good about being rescued by a woman. I'm not taking a shot at you or anything....I happen to be open to someone helping me if I need it, but I don't think (most?) men warm up to that......unless they are insecure, and then you don't get a man for your partner, you get an adult momma's boy.\n\n2nd....he may not like a woman coming on to strong. He may regard your advances as just that, and regard it as another element to deal with.\n\nIf you've offered coffee, and other such things and have been turned down....that's male communication for.....'thank you, but not now'.\n\n3rd He may have an ego......one that may preclude him from admitting to himself that he needs help at all.\n\n:)\n\nMen like to tackle things completely (most of the time I think) and then move on to the next issue to deal with. It's possible that you are on the 'list'...so-to-speak. I'm sorry for making you sound like a line item. I don't think that, but for brevity I phrased it that way...and to help illustrate what I'm saying.\n\nIt's also likely that whatever he's going thru is deeper than you realize and it requires all his attention. Men (most) are somewhat single-minded and throw a lot of attention on one problem at a time, depending on what it is. This could be one of those situations.\n\nHe may regard the starting of a relationship...even a new friendship right now to be a taxing endeavor that he just doesn't want to deal with.\n\nI'd say that if you've made the offers.....then take stock in that......he knows.....he knows you're there. Don't be pushy.....we men really, really don't like that. I can speak for myself on that one....lol.\n\nDon't keep asking him for coffee....he'll just think you're a pain or think you have stock in Juan Valdez (geeze is he still around?) or something....lol.\n\nThe best thing to do is be a friend. Don't be a pain, don't be annoying and just hang.....being helpful to HIM won't be your idea of 'helpful'. And if you want to ingratiate yourself to him...you will have to figure out how you can be helpful to HIM. Do you know what I mean? That may just be being an ear for him if he wants to talk, sending him some jokes on the internet.....whatever.\n\nDon't be selfish with what you want.....do what is best for him right now.\n\nHope that helps....a little anyway. I hope it works out.....send me a wedding invitation....k?\n\n;)
763615
well, for starters...open your mouth and practice the art of communication! What you said here is perfect for letting him know!\n\nGood luck!
409390
this isn't the end of the world. \n\nrealize that talking to him isn't a big deal! you're a big girl! you can do it! take a deep breath, and talk to him. start out slowly with hi.\n\nyou'll never know what he wants until you talk to him!\n\ngood luck, and best wishes!
873852
trust me, it sounds like a bad idea to even talk to him because you will get even more confused, if he actually tried ruining your life then i dont think he deserves shit from you except maybe a black eye. hun, dont let yourself get hurt, and dont hurt your new boyfriend, just dont answer the phone and hope he gets the hint, if he doesnt... then answer and tell him straight up.
478204
Tell him in person.  It will mean more that way.  And try until you get a chance to say what you need to say.  Good luck sweetie.
1155873
Dearest,\n\nWhile you want to help you boyfriend with information on the Internet, nothing can substitute meeting with a professional face-to-face. There is so much more to communication than just words. Body language and positive reinforcement are other communication components that people suffering from emotional problems need in order to get better. He needs to speak to a licensed professional. \n\nThe best advice I can give you is to have him find a professional in his area that can speak to him face-to- face. This is important because depression is a serious condition and finding someone for him to speak to face-to-face just might save his life. The information shared is kept confidential as long as he is not planning to cause bodily harm to himself or someone else. A professional therapist can do a good thorough assessment and make recommendations for further treatment options. \n\nGood Luck!
260292
just be open to him on this issue abt what you are missing,that u need some kind of help and you need friends also.\nall the best
374552
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns.  If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that.  There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings.  But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want.  Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable.  You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.
887555
Have your boyfriend forward that forwarded message back to the girl friend. A few people may grow up a bit.
814860
My boyfriend also has a difficult time talking.  We've been together for almost 2 years and while we are not a long-distance couple yet (he's joining the military) right now he's in university so I only see him once a week or sometimes even once every 2 weeks.  We try to talk on the phone, but our conversations are boring.  I don't want to talk about what groceries he bought from the store that night.  So I try to schedule times when we are to discuss important issues.  In the past I have e-mailed him my concerns that I feel we need to talk about.  That way he has an idea what it is that I need to talk with him about and he has a chance to think about what he wants to say.  Sometimes I think guys need time to come up with answers (they're not as quick on the ball as women are).  But so far, we haven't been able to discuss anything important over the phone.  We wait until we are face to face.  This is a huge concern for me since all long distance relationships require communication.  If you can't talk openly and have meaningful conversations with one another, a long distance relationship will NOT last.  Good luck.
763800
I don't think you love him...not yet, especially if you and he can't have a conversation over the phone yet.  A lot of guys don't like the phone, and they aren't like girls who can just sit around talking about things.  Don't call him unless you actually have something to say to him...whether it be, "hey, come over for a while", or "what do you want to do this weekend"...don't just call and make "what did you do today" the whole conversation.  Maybe what he is doing isn't even worth mentioning...in his eyes anyway.  It seems to me that you need someone that can stimulate conversation, and in this relationship that's going to have to be you.  Ask him direct questions and you will get direct answers.
761299
if you have already talked to him about the problems you are having (you should have already if you havent) then tell him that, the reason you are breaking up with him is because of those problems, and nothing has changes. be honest with him dont be too hard but dont be too easy. if your with someone you dont want to be with then end it the longer your together the harder it will hurt.