Any guys there who are abused by their partner?
364951
Happened to me for a while. I had to leave cos if I hit back I would have killed her
212390
My buddy, "Ken" got into a motorcycle wreck and became a quadriplegic. He would lay around in bed all day until he concentrated enough to levitate himself and float around the room. Soon he was taking a trip down the street, going into markets and passing right through strangers he used to bump into.\n\nWell, his girlfriend still had to take care of him, feed and wash and change his bedding. I felt so sorry for her and she was at the age when a woman has needs. At night I would visit her in the parlor and I am sure Ken could hear her giggling. In the morning we wheeled Ken into the breakfast nook for juice and toast. He told us about the levitation he had learned and also he was very distraught with the events concerning his girlfriend and I. He went on to tell us of his plan to levitate himself upon the next time of our engagements and that he would satisfy his jealousy one way or another.\n\nWe only played along and tried not to aggravate him any more than he was but, that evening me and the girl went into her bedroom to consume ourselves with passion. Ken, as he promised, levitated himself and went into the den to retrieved a heavy instrument intending to bludgeon me with it. What happened next has caused me perpetual legal jeopardy, for on the way back from the den, Ken mistakenly went into his own room and beat the living hell out of who he thought was me!
1163492
Men only change if they want to...not because you wish they would...I know this from experience.\nNo matter how much you try to change them, it won't help. \n\nMen have no right to mistreat women...if he is abusing you you should def. get out of the relationship.\n\n\nYour best bet is to move on and find someone who has respect and dignity for himself, loves you and can treat you properly. \n\nbest of luck!\n:)
237028
No. Why?\n\nI was in the military, and let me tell you, it is extremely easy to deal with an abusive military spouse. First you simply tell his CO about it and that should fix the problem most of the time. However, if you need to take it further, you can have him thrown out of base housing and they will garnish his wages while he has to find a place to stay. I really don't understand this question. Spouses of military people alway have a HUGE upper hand in the matter.
508052
I've been through this before, and i recommend that you leave him.  If he did it once he will do it again, believe me.  Eventhough, he might cry and scream that he will never lay a hand on you, chances are that he'll do it again.  If you have any self respect you should not put up with anyone mistreating you.  Be strong; there are plenty of men out there that can fill his shoes.  Good luck
107233
I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
664101
I have never heard an abusive man described this way, to be honest. What I have heard from women in this kind of relationship is that they hate how the guy treats them, but they deserved it cos they said something or did something stupid. Soooo wrong!!\n\nThese women are wholly lacking in self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence. They've been put down for so long, they truly believe the guy is right. They are so low on confidence that they will continue to state, Ohh, but I love him. I think that is because they see no way out..they feel they can't make it on their own, especially if they have kids, and they truly are SCARED to go it alone. They want someone to take care of them...and no, they really DON'T want the abusive guy, but they won't do anything about it until they learn to build up their self -esteem and truly believe that they are worth so much and have done NOTHING to deserve this kind of treatment.
1176239
ehh...i put a guy in a hospital once...i came to MY house and he was sleeping with my girlfriend. and just coming from work i still had my wrench and i pulled it out and started beating him.
593467
my ex-husband beat me for 3 years, it took 3 years for me to get away from him (he killed somone) and another 4 years to get him out of my life. once they hit you, they will always hit you. we where together a year before we got married, and he seemed to be a nice person, after we got married he started yelling at me and bring me down mentally, then the hitting started, by that time i was telling myself... he loves me, i need to stop making him mad, i asked for it... but all the time he never cared about. it was a control issue on his part. my exhusband was also 6 years older then too. he made me lose a baby...was mentally locked up for 3 months,locked me in a closet and set it on fire, hit me in the bas with a shovel and stompped on my face, also shot me in the arm etc, just to name a few things.. it got to the point that i knew he was going to kill me or i was going to kill him, and i had no were to go. i have to tell you that it only gets worse, and you need to leave him with your children. i also want to warn you that because you have children, he will think that he can harsse you this way also, if you do let him see the kids, please watch them for misgiven...any little sign, and cut him out of there life too. i am not saying that he will hurt them, but most of the time they do, when they can not get to you. my advice...get help, there are a lot more porgrams and places out there now then when this was happening to me.
194398
Yes, I have.\nThat was someone who hurted me in every possible way - body, soul, dignity, etc. I was absolutely out for a year.\nI deeply hated that person and I wished he was dead more than anything in the world.\nBut after some time I realized that my hatred of him is bad for me only and I overcame it.\nNow, I don't even remember him, except that answer to you. :)
229295
I didn't realize then, but I was abused sexually by my ex. I thought there was something wrong with ME.\n\nHe was always groping me whether I wanted to or not, even in front of our children. \n\nOf course there was more things, but whether being abused sexually or physically, I'm glad I'm out of his clutch.
1153493
Absolutely NO ONE deserves to be abused, no matter what the abuser says. Get out ASAP before things get much worse. Go to a shelter. Go to your parents, if you can. Go to a friends place, if you can. Go to your church, if you go to one. If there are kids involved, take them to the shelter with you because without you there, he could abuse them in your place and blame them for you leaving. There are always ways to get out, with or without money. There is NO excuse good enough to stay in a relationship where there is abuse. I know. I have been in that situation.
1165364
Some men need to feel like they have control over EVERYTHING.  Believe me-been there done that.  I dated a guy who was extremely controlling, manipulative, and verbally abusive.  Took a year before I gave him the boot.  He needed to be in control of everyone and everything around him.  I think it's a sickness.
95484
No.....I use to be in an abusive relationship and now way no how....would I ever go back.
1092547
I have been there. My ex-wife accused me of abuse..the part she didn't tell was she had a boy friend and she wanted lot's of $$$$.\nThank God she didn't win..it was thrown out of court..I wish I had it on video tape. She became confused in her story. I could have got some very serious time in jail. I could have sued the hell out of her..but I let it go
95476
i have never .. \nand my ex husband wasnt anything like you just described !!\npoor fella . i hope you find a good one next time
56234
As a survivor of several years of domestic violence and as a happily married woman, I can relate to your situation.It can affect a man in very many different ways. It really depends on what your situation was and if you have any emotional disorders now because of it. If you explain the situation to your significant other and he understands and is supportive really the only affects should be empathy, and a sense of wanting to protect you and wishing it would have never happened. If you have some emotional baggage that comes with it then he should still understand as long as you explain the situation and how you feel completly and don't leave any of your feelings out. Good luck! If he loves you he will understand.