why there is a homosexual? was it a choice or a given?
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It must be biological for one simple reason. In our country right now, to be homosexual is possibly one of the worst sorts of people to be. Honestly, what sane person would CHOOSE to join the ranks of the most hated people on the planet? It makes no sense. Not to mention the level of social stigma one has to overcome to admit to being homosexual, to live one's life well one must accept the hatred and move on. I doubt many would choose such a life.
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i think it's fate. god made gays and lesbians that way much like he made judas to betray him in the end. god knew that judas would betray him but as judas was destined to be that way, god did nothing and let fate have its way. indeed, god did nothing to change the destiny of judas because it was his destiny, his fate. thus if god could make people's fate like that of judas, who says he can't  make gays and lesbians because after all he's all powerful. it's not so much about the misconception that god does not like gay people. that's bulshit. if he did't, he would have struck them down with lightning and thunder the minute they were born. \n\nbeing gay is hard and if these gay people had a choice, they would not have been gay.  the fact of the matter is that they don't have a choice except to be themselves and suffer the discrimination brought about by people who think that they are so righteous and superior to those who are gay. the truth is they are just arrogant, narrow-minded and obnoxious people who think so highly of themselves.  if it were really a choice, the choice would have been between being discriminated against and being untrue to one's self. is there really a choice?
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People are giving you answers to two questions.\n\nSome people are telling you no one has to have sex.  That is true.  Celibacy has always been around -- some religions are very keen on it.  So, a person can choose not to have sex.  I could choose not to have sex with my partner, I could even choose to force myself to have sex with a female.  It makes my physically ill, but I could force the issue, at least I think I could.  Likewise, a heterosexual could force himself to have sex with another man. He could choose not to have sex with women.  In NEITHER CASE would the person change.  the homosexual would still be homosexual, the heterosexual would still be heterosexual.  What they would be doing would in both cases be unnatural for them.  But they could choose.\n\nThen there is the question of choosing how you feel.  No, there is no choice there except for bisexuals.  I have never found a single woman even vaguely attractive sexually.  I get along with women well enough, though the vast majority of my friennds are straight males.  I've had the same male lover for nearly 15 years, but I still notice other males, I just choose not to have sex with them (back to that choice thing again, in this case the same choice a straight man in a committed relationship makes).  \n\nNo one knows the reasons for this, it may be a cocktail of reasons, or  it may be genetic, or chemo-genetic -- both the eyeblink logitudnal study and the pheremonal response study imply that it is one or the other. What it is not is environmental.\n\nAs for our friend who thinks he turned gay because he wanted to see a penis at 6.  I think you feel guilty inside for being gay, and you concocted that as an excuse.  I saw penises and vaginas all my life -- my family was not big on modesty inside our home, and it was no big deal.  However, I began to realize what I liked by 8 and fully understood it was sexual by 11.  So you were interested in penises earlier, as I was - and then you realized what it meant at 10 -- not that much different from me, but without the self-acceptance and family support -- therefore, instead of realizing that it was self-recongition, you make it into a cause.  It isn't, you were not born straight.\n\nIf people have questions do not hesitate to email me.\n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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the difference between gay and straight has not been officially figured out... or else they would offer a "cure" or something-- like for people who think it is a sin or for those who don't want to be gay.
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A current theory of sexual development, the lovemap theory states that we develop our sexual attractions at a young age, based off of experience and genetics. So whether we are attracted to men or women, short hair or long hair, tall people or short people is determined around the age of 3.\n\nHomosexuality being a choice is very unlikely, because it's not a choice that 5% of the population would make if they were aware of it. Who would choose to be ostracized by society, hated, treated like a second class citizen, given dramatically less chances to find love or be accepted? As such, it appears very likely that homosexuality is not a choice.\n\nThe problem becomes that if you follow the Christian religion, saying that homosexuality is not chosen becomes problematic. It implies that a loving God would curse some of his children to never be allowed true love without damning their souls through sin. So many people prefer to think that Homosexuality is a choice in order to make them fit in with their view of how the universe works.\n\nMe? I was born gay. I didn't choose it. It's who I am. And I'm not ashamed of it.
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I just saw an article today in the paper that said men's sexual preference is decided before birth. I did not read the whole article...but if a baby comes out of the womb and sees good window treatments he is gay...just kidding. I dont think you should categorize that evil is done by most straight people and good by gays. I have seen a little of both from both sides... I don't think sexual preference has anything to do with the good that you do- that is an individual thing that comes from the heart not your groin. Just be happy with who you are and if you think you were born gay then so be it. Why is important to debate it? You will never change other opinions who are homophobic.
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Wow, I am shocked at the majority of the answers. Perhaps they think that ACTING on being gay/lesbian is a choice?\n\nAnyways I do agree with you. People JUST don't understand that you can't control feelings. You DON'T get to choose what sex you like. Why do you think a big percentage of gays in denials kill themselves? Many try to like the opposite sex. but you CAN'T choose what you like. I just can't stress it enough. I don't know from personal experience, but I do know I couldn't pretend to like women because deep down inside I never would have sexual desires for women even if I wanted to. You can't force yourself to have sexual desires for something you don't want it for, and that is why straight people think being gay is a "choice".
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I don't know why I'm gay. I don't remember being given a choice. Perhaps you could tell me when you chose to be straight?
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I sort of agree with the second responder here, but I'd elaborate.  Homosexuals didn't exist partly because the word didn't exist, but also people didn't think about sexuality in those terms.  These days, we call someone a homosexual and we refer to it as if it is an innate part of their personality.  Among the Romans (and Greeks, and lots of other places in the world), sexual activity of one kind or another wasn't attached to people as an innate quality but just as something people did.  \n\nThink of it this way: lots of people play soccer.  For the most part, we just think of it as something people do, not who they are (unless they are professionals, but I'm talking generally).  But, some time in the future, we might decide that playing soccer is a really important indicator of who a person is, so we'll come up with a name for *anyone* who plays soccer - not just the professionals.  That's what happened with "homosexual" - same-sex sexuality used to be an activity.  Now it's an identity.
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I don't know, no one has come forward and announced he or she was gay. They would be welcomed in our church, but the church would hope the individual would change their lifestyle, since it is against the bible.
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The British Minister of Equality didn't answer this question because he knows there's no way in Heaven or Hell that he can answer it in such a way that will please everybody.\n\nAccording to most religious people, homosexuality is definitely a sin.  Meanwhile, all the agnostics and atheists in the world (who are an extreme minority compared to the religious but have all the sociopolitical clout for some reason) say that anything a religious person says is inescapably flawed, and so homosexuality is NOT a sin, and thinks that gays and lesbians should recieve medals of courage just for being who they are.\n\nHere's the thing though.  Nobody, NOBODY is born to be a homosexual.  As a sexual species, a human male is supposed to be genetically programmed to mate with a human female in order to continue the species.  Homosexuals of today get confused with gender roles (if a guy is especially skinny and he enjoys the theater, he MUST be gay, right???), and the more we support it, the more people will follow their example.  Homosexuality is a result of faulty human programming, and how society deals with the error.\n\nBut if homosexuality IS a sin, then you're supposed to love the sinner and hate the sin, right? :P
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What the hell does AIDS have to do with homosexuals? A man can get it from a women just as easily, man. Homosexuals are still here because it is THEIR choice and it should be respected because they are people just like anyone else.
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Well, if people would use common sense, they would realize that being born "Gay" isn't logical. Why would a species be born attracted to the same sex? Can they reproduce? \n\nMost species on this earth, are born to reproduce and create others like themselves. In order for this to happen, there needs to be a Male and Female species and a attraction to the opposite sex. This is how every species on this earth is created. \n\nI have heard thousands of people talk about genetic research and how it proves that Gays are born Gay. Genetic research also proved that cloning was possible, and look how that turned out.\n\nI have also heard many people talk about how their cat or dog was seen having sex with another of the same sex. I've also seen a dog eat it's own waste too. Animals can become confused just like humans, although I assume that Humans should have more sense. \n\nSo why do we have Gays and Lesbians? Well, actually it is very simple. Things that happen to a person, wether it's at a very young age or in adulthood, reflect on how that person thinks. Many have been abused in some way or another. Either by being molested as a child, or treated as an outcast when they were young. Many grew up in broken homes and were without one of their biological parents. Many were not taught how someone of their gender should behave. There are many different reasons, and what usually happens is this. Individuals who have not had the so called "Normal Life" will seek acceptance from those who are similar to themselves and this is normally the same sex gender, because they easier to relate too. A bond is created and the trust and affection they feel towards each other for accepting one another, becomes Love. This kind of Love is stronger than most people realize, because it fills the void that someone in our society has created. Someone, Sometime, Somewhere has done something to each of these "Gay" people and caused their lives to change forever. \n\nThis is where "Gays" and "Lesbians" came from, and there's nothing we can do to change it. There will always be different types of people, but our society created this one. \n\nA Gay person can chose to live a Straight lifestyle and be happy. A Straight person can also chose to be Gay if they want to and live happy also. How? Because they are both Human Beings with feelings, and feelings can change. If feelings couldn't change, there wouldn't be any such thing as a divorce. \n\nI have also heard the remark many times about why would a person chose to be "Gay", since our society hates "Gays" and "Lesbians"? The answer: Many didn't chose to be "Gay". Situations in a persons life can alter their feelings towards certain beliefs. For example: Would you chose to be with your abusive biological family or a loving adoptive one? Your instincts tell you to stay with your biological family but your feelings tell you to go to the adoptive one because they won't hurt you and will love you.\n\nI'm sorry this is so long, but it seems that there are so many people out there that don't look outside the box or they refuse to see beyond their way of thinking. Hope this helped you to understand in some way why the world has Gay people.
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Because God's Word (the Bible) forbids homosexual acts, it is clear that it is a choice.  For some it may be a very enticing choice, but it is still a choice.\n\nFor more info, see:\nhttp://www.onewayonly.net/ishomosexualityasin.html\nhttp://www.onewayonly.net/asoberingthought.html
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Born Gay.\n(and since you're trying to prove a point you can use these sources to help you prove it).
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Why do you say "a problem"? I think most homosexuals and a lot of straight people would argue with your characterizing homosexuality as a "problem" in the first place.  Getting beyond that major issue with your question, I don't believe that there is any good answer as to the "cause" of homosexuality. There is some evidence for all of these as possibly leading to homosexuality, but I don't think any single one of them is the cause.
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Taking the religious aspect out of homosexuality...think for a second how incredibly unnatural it is.....females were designed to produce offspring and that takes a male counterpart. If homosexuality was right and natural then how would we ever continue the human race??? Please name one other animal on this earth where a male is with a male......I know people would say you can't compare humans to animals but we are. We are the more intelligent species of animals but we are animals. Heterosexuality just seems a little more natural to me....