How do i make sure, she wasnt a bad girl(being in love with many guys), before i marry her?
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How old are you? your question irk me! Please answer this, Are you the best for her? If you can't even convinced your heart, how would you be a good man for this woman? she needs more than your "doubts". It's not just your marriage you're talking about, it's her's too, and tell you what, she might have that very same doubt about you! imagine why the so-called strange words (as you said)! Grow up!
554175
Just love her. If you really do then all the stuff that would make her happy you just naturally want to do and will do for her.\nYou will always be thinking of her and if you go to a store you will look for things for her instead of yourself. You will think very long and hard to come up with little gifts she will be overjoyed with. and because you love her the best thing in the world will be when she is pleased by the thing or gift you got for her. your pay back wil be just watching her being happy.\nYou will go out of your way for her to try to help her out of a bad situation and you will always put her before the things you would like to do.\nAnd if she really loves you she will do the same for you and you should always be in harmony because you both love each other more than you love yourselves.\nThat is the secret of a happy and long marriage with minimal fighting and stress. This how we work together and for the unity of the family. If you care more for her and she for you than you do about what you yourself want it is going to be great! Enjoy!
839292
i think she just wants you to treat her like a bad girl....\nand i say you should....\nfor the sake of your marriage, treat her like a cheap slu t...\n-nny
553456
I think you are really sweet! Jeez, I wish my guy was that sensitive. I am betting she loves you the way you are, and I wouldn't really change anything. Just tell her what you told us about what is in your heart!!
285607
Sorry to say but you are shallow and might be incapable of true love, at least not at this time and certainly not with this girl.  If you truly loved her, she would be the most beautiful woman in the world to you.  So you obviously do not. Don't marry her as you would be taking away her chance at true happiness with someone who will treat her like the goddess that she is.  You give us real men a bad name!
200497
That would be a terrible thing to do. Yes, make her cheat her man, fall in love with her and marry you and expect one day to be cheated also.
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Do you really want me to tell you the truth?  The whole answer?\n\nHere's the deal...  I am one of those sweet women who seems very innocent.  I've historically always gone for the bad boy...  Here's the secret...  Good girls want to "save" the bad boys.  Bad boys want to corrupt the good girls.  They also want to be saved... And believe it or not, good girls often want to be corrupted, even if it's just a little bit...\n\nWe eventually (hopefully) realize what's going on... We have an unhealthy cycle of picking the wrong types of people.  \n\nFor me, it took a lot of things happening to get me to be honest with myself about the bad choices I was making.\n\nI made a conscious change and started having higher standards.  I stopped dating the bad ones and started picking people who were better suited to me.\n\nFor those good guys out there:  Be patient and don't lose hope.  There are good girls out there that will see the light, sooner or later.  Keep your standards high and keep a smile on your face.  Above all, try to keep from becoming cynical and bitter.  You'll be happier and healthier for it...\n\nJust a little clue... Although I'm currently in a wonderful marriage, maybe it'll give you a little hope to know that I had two previous marriages (although one of them was so short that it hardly counts)... Perhaps your future wife is married right now, but is acquiring the knowledge that will help her to appreciate you more fully when she finally finds you. :)  Chin up, my friend!  Be optimistic!
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why do you need to forgive her for things she did BEFORE you were married? Perhaps this is why we should all save ourselves till we are married....\nnonetheless, you married her despite her history, dont be so cruel as to call her names or think bad of her because of this.If you love her get over it and realise she married you. Her past life experience has made her what she is today.....the woman you fell in love with!\n\nall the best!
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do what she likes.\nbe yourself.\ntreat her with respect (like she is queen.. not TOO much)\nand love her with all your heart.\nSHELL LOVE YOU.\n<3
140843
Act as if the statement was true. You have nothing to lose. If it is true then you are trusting her and goodness will follow. If it is not true you still trusted her and the truth will come out in the end. If you don't accept its true and it is true then you will blow an incredible opportunity to be loved.
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Explain to her that you love her and if you could change the past, you would. Good luck!
881900
Take it easy.  It seems you have been struck by the lightning of love  and struck bad.  But Ricochet is right, true love should be accompanied by trust.  Without trust, love won't proceed further.  You have also to have faith in Someone up there, the Supreme Being up there, whatever you call Him, that HE knows what is best for you  and that HE will be watching over you.   Pray that, this girl would be the real one for you.  If she is meant for you, no matter what you do, she will be there.   So go to sleep soundly,  with that thought. Give her some space and trust her.  Because if you don't it will destroy the relationship.  If she loves you enough , (which I am sure, she does),  she herself, will see to it that she stays faithful.  Good luck.
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Don't rush, and if she's ready to marry you then she wouldn't be afraid to tell you anything.\n\nJust be good friends for a little while.
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Well, hopefully she will become your wife and you will live happily ever after.  Wasn't that the goal when you proposed to her?  If you are having some doubts, I'd suggest a serious conversation with your fiancee rather than asking a bunch of strangers here.  I hope that it all goes well!
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If she is your girlfriend .. Why is she spending lot of times with a guy that she doesnt like? It sounds very FISHY to me. WHy cant she spend more time with you to prove u that shes not interested in this guy that she doesnt like. I think she may be hiding her feelings about him and she might felt stuck between you and him.  Plus she might know u are worried or demanded to know an answer from you . so its a cover up thing. My answer may be wrong for you to know why.. if she knows ur insecurity and so on. she would have spend more time with you to prove it. Why she needs to be with the guy that she doenst like? on what condition is that? keep ur eyes on her and see if shes really the one for you before u decide u want to marry her ..
466225
She may be ruined...If you can trust her, you two will be alright. If you have any doubt you relationship will tarnish faster than that ring.
608015
Hey man, relax.\nFirst thing you can do is to trust her words: She said she wants to marry you. Then accept it.\n\nDon't worry too much. There is still time to talk about her attitude (accusing, do things that make you mad). Both of you should agree to change your attitudes to a level that is acceptable and comfortable with both of you. Otherwise, your relationship will always be on the rocks.\n\nTry to meet in the middle. and try to compromise for the good of you both.\n\nTrue love understands and cares. It is gentle, not rude, it does not boast, it keeps no record of wrongs.\n\nAll the best.