If your spouse was incarcerated, by being a Christian, how would U handle the situation? would U leave R stay.
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Hello, my name is Veronica and I wanted you to know that my spouse is incarcerated. He has been incarcarated for 6 months and has 6 more months. We have 2 children and are Methodists. I feel as though only God can judge. I will never judge him and I will never leave him. Especially when he needs me the most. I love him and always will, no matter what. If you would like to visit my 360 page, I type all the letters that he sends me.  I hope I helped a little. God Bless. Veronica
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No this is not true. My husband is in prison. He is the same person there and when he was home. A person does not just "change" but may claim they changed to keep you. However people can change and make improvements in their life because they want to. I would not recommend getting married until the person is home from jail or prison to give them a "trial run". \n\nIt takes a long time for a person to get out of being institutionalized and get back into a regular routine. When that process is over then you will begin to see if they really learned from their mistakes and making progress to move forward in their life.
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When I met my husband, 1988, he was just falling away from Christianity, and I, being at that time a non-Christian, pulled him even further. We got married in a registry office (Gretna Green, Scotland), and after being married 6 years or so, things weren't great between us. Then God virtually hit me over the head one day, I had a shock revelation that God was real, and I became a Christian. My husband was adamant that I was being a fool by believing in all that, but 2 years later and after much prayer, he came back to Christ, that was a year ago. Now we have a great marriage, we lead a house group together. Our marriage may not have survived had I not believed that God wanted me to stay married (it says so in the Bible.) There are faults in all marriages, whatever faith you have, but for us, seeking God's will together has put all our troubles in perspective, when we have money problems we know God is helping us through so that cuts out much stress. Also raising our kids to know Jesus makes parenting easier as there is a higher authority to refer to.
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If he was in jail. it would appear that he is not making very good choices in his life.  Therefore, I would not want him contributing to choices in my life.\n\nPeople are subject to change though.  If it were me, I would not get back with him right away. I would wait and see if he learned anything from the experience.\n\nIf it is "true love", AND he has made the appropriate changes, love will find a way.
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I stayed for 5 years longer than I should have.\nIt was an abusive relationship but it started slow and I kept believing his promises to stop and how sorry he was.  We found what I thought was a good church and things seemed to get better for a while but it was back to the 2-3 times a year yelling and shoving dominance establishing routine.  Nothing I ever did was good enough but I did not want my marriage to fail.  I kept hoping that this really was the last time he was going to be so horrid to me.\nSomeone eventually asked me "How much more of your life are you going to waste?" right around the time that he really lost it.  So I hit my f**k this s**t point and moved in with mom.  (Oh my god I had to move back in with my mommy.  I was an adult and I had to move back home.  How big of a loser was I?)\nAfter I moved out and all of a sudden he was really sorry and he did want to go to counciling after all and he really was going to change and we could take that trip to the mountains (3 hrs away) that we never had before.  I was angry that he was willing to change after I had left but I wasn't worth it before.  And that church I thought was so cool told me that I should forgive him amd move back in.  And they are supposed to be so supportative of women.  Guess I know better now.\nOn the up side, after I left I met the love of my life and we have been together for over a year.  Nothing like marrying your best friend.  And with what I have been through in the past I am well aware of how lucky I am to have a REAL husband and not just a spouse.
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WOW! What a situation...The advise given above is very good...You sound like a Christian, ( you chose my answer about "if today was your last day. etc". So, first of all, as you already know, prayers are a neccessary part of the answer. Pray very hard to keep your distance from the wife. That would really complicate matters, and you have a chance here, to show strength, in spite of "obstacles". As some of the others have said, move ASAP! When the arguing starts, either pray, read the Bible, try to talk to them and tell them how they are affecting everyone else, especially their kids. Remove yourself from the situation, call some other friends and go out, etc. or even take their kids somewhere fun. \nThis couple needs some real help, (Why does she stay wtih him, if he's messing around? ) Suggest that they get help, or temporarily split up, as the kids must be seeing some horrible behavior. Why do they fault you for their problems? If you feel like a time bomb, ready to go off, you gotta get outta there!!!\nGod must have allowed you to be in this situation, so you could do some good here....think of it as a "test or trial"... but do the right thing, stay out of their problems, and find somewhere else to live, as soon as you can.  Best of Luck, and God bless you...
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Each of us have his own PRISON !!! religions , traditions ... etc.
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Yes, this is hard!!! I have two people I care about locked up...one serving life for something he did not do, the other awaiting trial and it sucks rocks....one thing that keeps me sane is this place http://prisontalk.com/forums/\nIt is a support and information community for people with loved ones in the system. Check it out.
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Pray; Its in God's Hands. And Commiting Adultery to him is a Sin!
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None of the above.  He'd probably be locked away in a nice secure (padded) room, just like everyone else these days who believes they are the second coming, or that God talks to them, etc.\n\nThere's something for you to think about...
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Go to http://www.prisontalk.com and look in the PTO lounge, there are many prayers there for a wide variety of specific situations and for the general well being of incarcerated loved ones.\nGood luck
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O.K., I love to tell this.\n\nWhen I became a Christian, I could no longer tolerate my unsaved, drinking, running around husband.\n\nI prayed, "God, please, give me a Christian husband instead."\n\nI knew God doesn't like divorce, so I didn't have any idea what He would do.\n\nYa ready?\n\nHe saved my husband. God is great all the time.
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There would be plenty of evidence to convict me. I would be in jail. People would be coming from everywhere and telling the judge how much I Love my Lord and serve Him. Even if it means going to jail, I will keep serving Him. A good web-site to learn more is all about God.com. God Bless You.
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you made the vows to god, so you should do what you can to keep them. its like making vows to a spouse. how can you make it ok to break them? you cant.
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Sir. You suggested "rearranging your lives" around the child. I know you suggested this, because in you heart you are alrady convicted this is the right choice.\n\nWhat most aren't aware of is, we were all breathed into by God Himself. Thus, we all have a conscience of good. Don't resist this truth in your heart. Take responsibility as a man. Be the father you know you should be.\n\nGive your heart and life to Christ. Let Him guide you in fatherhood. Think about it, who is a greater father than Christ?
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Pray about it. Think about it. pray about it. take care of yourself and your spirit because if you chose to be a messenger of God. You must be prepared for the possible suffering that comes with it. It isn't just telling people about the Gospel..it is about leading by example and living Christ-like. Read again Philippians on how Paul who was imprisoned instructs us how to live and endure like Christians. May God Bless you on your endeavors. Keep me up to date.
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Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!