One of my friends has fallen in love with a married man.?
372334
It is a foolish thought. \n\nHe will be telling her how unhappy he is, and that he and his wife no longer have sex. \n\nHe has the best of both worlds...one at home, and one on the sidelines. \n\nPlus, would you really expect, that he wouldn't turn around and do unto her, as he is currently doing to his wife? \n\nIt is not a good scene....for everyone involved.
1109525
First of all unless anyone has walked in your shoes they should not be judging you.  I am going through the same thing right now.  It has not been easy for me.  This person is a friend of mine and my husbands, he is also married.  We were chatting then one thing lead to another, the chat turned sexual and from there I formed an emotional bond with this man. Nothing has happend physically but  it has totally messed up my emotions, I feel like I am a mess since this has happend.  I have a great husband, and I am no longer communicating with our friend, but honestly I always think about him and miss him, why I don't know but it has been real hard.  This is one door I wish I never would have opened.  I don't know your details but the one thing I can tell you is to ask yourself what led you to do this, I had to do the same and I am in counseling right now.  Believe me I did not expect this hardship when I first started dabbling in this, it seemed harmless and kind of fun, but like they say when you play with fire, you will get burned and that I did.
1167349
If you can't be friends with him without "wanting" him you need to back away and respect the woman who is now his wife.  He chose her not you and the bond that they have now is sacred.   \n\nYou will find someone else to love you and treat you right but first you need to get over what you can't have and learn to love yourself.
953176
I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
190879
Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
662426
She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
113196
Just be yourself as you are when you're with your husband.   Your friend has to deal with his own feelings.  If you show some consideration for him, it just might fuel his feelings for you.  Unless you're on an ego trip, this will definitely be detrimental in the long run both to your relationship with your husband and your husband's relationship with his friend if he finds out.
116967
Maybe he could not stop he's feelings from loving someone married...maybe that girl is attractive enough for that guy
452951
I think you like him more than a friend too. I have rather recently started a relationship, and all I ever think about is her! I hope you are as happy in your thoughts as I am in mine.
469598
My best advice to you is to tell him how you feel. I told my best friend that and we have now been married for 2 years. If they dont feel the same, you can still be friends, you telling them might just get them to look at you in a different way. Good luck.
31449
Its matter if it was a close friend if it is he is off limits but not go for it, but either way talk to your friend and see how they feel first.
1095214
Sounds like your friend needs to get into marriage counseling.  Marriage is hard and if you don't work at it and really put the effor in to keep your friendship/relationship with your spouse good it will go sour eventually.
568895
HI ,\n I THINK U ARE RISKING THREE LIVES AT A TIME...\nACCORDING TO ME DO NOT INTERFERE IN UR FRIEND'S MARRIED LIFE\n  GO GET A NEW PARTNER... NOTHING IS PERMANENT IN THIS WORLD\nHAVE FUN
389620
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!
671847
Feelings are just that.. feelings.  They are neither right or wrong.  True love can't be made where it doesn't exist and can't hide where it does.  He is feeling that he somehow betrayed his friend.... He should discuss his feelings with him.
819663
Well, I would say if your "love" is married to someone else, then she is not YOUR "love".  Grow up, get over it!  She obviously wasn't in love with you the way you are her.  If you still talk to your "love", then just keep being her friend don't try to ruin anything between her and her husband.  If you really love her, be happy for her that she is happily married to the love of her life.
1172600
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY!  It looks like he made his choice already.  A man will never leave his wife to be with the other woman.  If you guys were talking before he got married and he still married the other woman...I'm sorry to say, but he is not thinking about leaving his wife for you.  He has his cake and eating it too..so to say.  You are only hurting yourself if you continue to pursue this relationship.  Save yourself from anymore heartache and just end it.