I am married but I want a girlfriend and don't know what to do?
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well hun its who u are u cant just shut it off believe me i tried. talk to your hubby see if he would be willing to let u see a girl. be honest with him. \n\ncongrats on being bi and admitting it.
1015943
Your a girl....there are tons of scum bags, uh sorry, guys who would take advantage of your situation.  You don't have to look far.  I'd suggest work on your marriage or get out of it.....why try to find the in between that never works out!
860156
And who do you think will want you? You obviously can't satisfy a woman or you would still be with your first wife. You have unreasonable expectations of others and don't hold yourself to the same standard, therefore you are also a hypocrite. Good luck with that.
49901
You'll have to be patient, she was married when you met her so you had to have expected the baggage.  But you're involved the way you are so just help her out if you can and stick with her and hope for the best. It's more complicated the way you're doing it but every situation is different.  If she wanted out of her marriage and started up another relationship make sure it wasn't just something to boost her ego or something before devoting your life to her though.
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It doesn't sound a very happy situation to be in.\n\nWhen you married, you made some promises to your wife. They were quite serious ones, and it was a permanent contract. What you think of that is your own affair. I have learned to try not to moralise about what others do because, when it comes down to it, I am no better myself.\n\nI think your first concern should be to write down all the options and find the way that will give all people concerned the most happiness (or the one that will cause the least hurt, if you prefer to look at the negative side of it). \n\nYou must also involve the others somehow. They are also people with as much right as you, if not more, to have feelings, to make a choice and to have a say in things. \n\nIf you are a very brave man, you would meet with everyone involved and discuss your problem with them honestly! A counsellor is useful as a mediator and 'chairman' in meetings like this.\n\nWhatever you do, however, you MUST be honest and open with yourself and everybody else and you MUST communicate. You certainly don't have the right to make decisions for other people, only yourself.\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that our lovers, friends and acquaintances serve specific purposes in our lives. We tend to make friends - and keep them - for our specific needs. We   nearly all have 'giving' needs as well as 'taking' needs, so the relationships are mutually beneficial.\n\nLove does not always involve jumping into bed with someone (sex is one of our needs, of course, and should be shared with someone we love). I would look very carefully at what it is you feel for this other woman - and what you feel is lacking in your relationship with your wife.\n\nIt's a hard decision and may take a long time to resolve. As long as you think carefully before deciding what to do, consider others' happiness before your own and remember that one can love someone deeply and, perhaps desire them, yet still decide not to follow the whims of Little Willy.\n\nI wish you well.
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't do when you were married, this will certainly make you look on the bright side of being single with no commitments.  As for trusting guys, there are plenty of good ones out there, unfortunately the good guys don't always meet the good girls first time round.
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I under stand what you are going through. I have been married now for 5 years. I just resently started admitting to my self that I do have feeling for woman. I did bring it up to my husband and his responce was the oppiset of your husband. He can't understand why this is happening now.\nI am also finding it hard to find some one that is bi to become friends with. A lot of people say go to clubs or some thing but what do you do when you don' know of any. \nIf you want to talk you can e-mail me at ladyjamie28@ yahoo.com.
602505
no girlfriend, but looking for someone that wants the same things in life that i do.
508240
Girlfriend your way to young to be considering marraiage unless your sure you want to pass on your dreams. \n\nThe book Smart Love by Dr, Phil McGraw might be a good way to start. \n\nMy plan was to date until I was 25 then get married. and i'm happy to say I'm glad I did. The person I dated at 19 and 20 absolutely drove me nutz and I moved on to find a more mature person and we have been married now going on 15 years\n\nget through college first THEN once you have some life experience to work with. make some decisions about what you want to do with your life. \n\nGod Bless
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Problem??? you dont want to be 'with" your wife??? then why you going to get married??\nwhat does she think? ask her this question\nmarried people should communicate TO each other and not online.\n\nTALK TO YOUR "NEW WIFE", COMMUNICATE TO HER!!!! \nSHE CAN TELL WHAT SHE LIKES AND TAKE IT FROM WHAT SHE TELLS YOU!!!\nDONT JUST DO IT THE MANY TIMES THAT PEOPLE SUGGEST ONLINE::\nTHEY DONT KNOW YOUR WIFE OR YOU.\nONLY YOU 2 KNOW HOW OFTEN YOU BOTH WANT TO. NO ONE CAN GIVE YOU A NUMBER!!!!\nBE CONSIDERATE OF HER FEELINGS. TALK TO HER!!!!!
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Wifey poo may not be keen on you hanging out with a female you just met. Get out there and look for a job. After you get the job, find yourself a hobby! (That doesn't mean hurl yourself down a flight of stairs in a box ---*L*)\nSounds like you also need a confidence boost. Never forget how unique and amazing you are!
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If that is your on the picture, then no.\nNo, seriously why do you want to get married? You're ONLY 30 and you have at least 5-7 years to think about it and find a right woman for you.\nBesides, if you keep looking anxiously for Ms. Right, the chances are that you may not find what you looking for in the end. Enjoy your life, go out, travel, be happy with your life and love will find you when you're least expect it.
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Living my life, huh?  I hated it...had the most gorgeous girls around me....asking for advice, crying on my shoulder, spilling their hearts.  I wanted to grab them and shake em and say...I"M HERE!!!!!  The things that make you attractive to these girls, as friends, will serve you well in the future.  Let the world call you gay, you be yourself!  Who cares if the furthest you've ever gone with a girl is holding hands?  (besides yourself, i'm sure)  One day...may be next week, year, 5 years...whatever...there will be someone who appreciates all those qualities in you.  They will appreciate your purity, your ability to listen, etc.  A marriage is a partnership, a friendship, it's love.  You can't force it my friend, it happens.  Most often, in my life anyways, when I least wanted it or expected it.  Sometimes, it even became feast or famine.  That was when my integrity, my loyalty, my trueness to myself had to come through.  I haven't always made the right choices, but am very happily married now to my life mate, my partner and the only woman who could ever love me for exactly who I am.  It will happen for you too.  You may need to be hurt as you seek that person, they may reject you as a partner for them, but that is good.  You want someone to love, accept and respect you for who you are....nothing less will do.  Hang in there Bud and be true to yourself and who you are.  It will get better.  Hope this helps a bit.
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You probably got married at a young age and didn't explore your sexuality enough..\nI do not believe in devorce,so I can unfortunately not give you any advice..\n\nYou need to spice things up with your marriage..\nJust talk to her..
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You are taking your affections outside of your marriage and that is cheating.\nHe was trying to be understanding with the first escapade but now it is becoming serious and you need to listen to him or your marriage will fall apart.  \nIf you abslolutely cannot control your need to be with a woman, you will have to stop telling him about it......
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That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.