how do I get a g/friend when im too shy to ask?
365658
From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself. Put the past behind you, concentrate on the future which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation.  Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.
48304
well, ask her out; ya never know unti lyou try.  Or if ou are 2 nervous see if you guys could play some 1 on 1 sometime.  Or you could talk to her more, like get to know her better that way she will get to know you. Good Luck!
378233
Just be casual. order something and try to have a light sense of humor while trying to make conversation. go easy at first..keep going in to order stuff and keep making conversation. girls like shy and sense of humor but be shy about it..u know..look cute..she will get the hint eventually..after u feel comfotable ask to have lunch or a cup of coffee w/ you....hey, let me know if it works..just remember don't be caulky like "i'm all that" girls hate that but don't be to shy either..be cute,sexy shy..
442691
Ask a girl out. Just cause you're shy doesn't mean you can't ask her out. It just means you'll be a little nervous doing so. That's just fine.
768283
Ooh... hopefully he won't... But everyone is afraid, the best thing you can do is talk to him, develop a friendship, and eventually ask if he has a girlfriend. The more you deal with rejection, the less shy you'll be about it. Just think up interesting conversation fodder and small talk, chat it up a bit, make yourself look your best and so on.
313601
There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
633696
If that doesn't happen so why don't you just go and ask them by yourself =D\n\nthey might be shy, you know.
943634
Just ask! Most girls like a guy who can just ask even if they are shy. You being shy and asking just shows how much you like her.\nThis is just my opinion. Maybe if you can't get the words out try-a a letter?!
576842
u should try to get friends, it might be hard but dont be shy =] and u will be fine GOOD LUCK. TAKE CARE, HAVE FUN, DONT CRY, C U LATER
83485
try giving her a smile and start a conversation. Dont be so nervous! Even if no dating ends up you might make a really good friend Be brave!!
1177791
take the plunge, and maybe set it up by telling her before hand that there is something you want to ask her, or email or text her and say there is something you would like to ask her, that way, she will ask you and maybe you will get the courage to ask.\n\nbe strong
952182
Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
540885
Lots of people talk.  Learn to ask intelligent questions and listen and you will find friends pretty fast.  And after they are your friends your shyness about talking will start to fade as you get to know them.
846491
If you are too shy to verbally ask her out then maybe you are too shy to be dating. Wait until you mature a bit then try again. How can a date work with just letter writing?▲
937219
Well, you need to get past this 'shyness' 'cause otherwise, you'll be stuck alone...for...quite some time. Unless some girl decides to talk to you first...but usually girls depend on guys to make the first move. Just take up the courage and (if you have someone in mind) go up and talk to her. CASUAL CONVERSATION, not some stupid pick up line...like...if you were a cardoor i'd bang you all night....of course, that's exaggerated. Don't annoy her though...cause that would be bad. Just have some casual conversation and see if she talks back to you and see how it goes. Also, with some girls, you can tell that they like you when they laugh at your stupid (really really really stupid) jokes and no one else is laughing. ALso, if they seek you out in a group, that could mean something.
982589
First off nobody needs a girlfriend. Being shy is a hardship for dating I know.I can tell you though just be yourself and someone special will find you. Try being friends with some girls first have some of your guy friends and some girl friends hang out somewhere. Having a friend that is a girl is a way to get to know what other girls like too. Good Luck and remember you do not need a girlfriend to be happy and go out and have fun.