i have a crush on an older man, im 18 what do i do?
360886
If it's short term anything goes...\n\nhowever,when you're 35 and he's pushin 55-60...hmmmmmm.\nJust food for thought
391226
If you don't like him then don't talk to him.  If you really like the older guy, then go and talk to him.  Don't talk to someone just because they like you...
595803
Sounds like a real love "crush" and the only way to know if its the real thing is to get to know the guy.  You know more about his details then all of us do, so start using what you know to be around him and then strike up a polite conversation.  Smile, dress nicely, you know--flirt a little.  See how he reacts.  Sometimes these things need time and effort, so don't be hasty.  My husband took a whole year before telling me how much he liked me and now we've been happily married for 16 years.  Good luck and remember to take long, slow deep breaths whenever you feel like you're gonna pass out, OK?  :)
520993
You should find someone else that he's been friends with for a while, then build that person up so that he won't like the old person anymore. I have had so many crushes in my lifetime, and that's what I do, sure... it takes a while, but it's worth it in the end.
780344
u're right, at ur age u should be able to go straight to him and ask him if he feels the same way...u have to do that, there's nothing to loose especially if u say u have very strong feelings for him.\npull urself together and tell him how much u like and appreciate him and if he feels the same ask for his phone number.\nas for ur friend if her brother likes u , well then too bad for her...she'll just have to accept it.\nmuch courage to u !
187461
Be honest to yourself and him. Tell him now or you will regret it when you get older. Write it down or tell him face to face. Tell them upfront so when you get older you wont think of it as much, at least you will know how he feels about you good or bad. GOOD LUCK
578154
Why not be there for him, and wait to see if he asks you out? Then you will be sure that he accepts you. Be careful though. Older guys are not always the gentlmen they should be. Keep your dignity. You have a whole life to live, and you want that life to be a happy one.
629057
The older the man is the better for you because women tend to look older than men especially after giving birth. So dont worry about that guy being 3 years older, in fact up to 10 years older, it still ok but not more than that. Meanwhile, let him make the first move, inviting you out for a first date. Then you see how things will work out. You both have yet to know about each other better than to just plunge deeply into a relationship. You should try and know about his past. He may have certain weaknessess you may not know off. So just go slow and takes things slowly. If hes willed to be with you, he will be, otherwise you just like chasing in the wind. May God Bless you with the will to decide wisely to pursue the relationship with him.
1047688
i don't think its love at all.... it seems like you have a crush and he wants to be friends with you. he is too old for you anyways. you are only 14 and 1/2 and he is too old. maybe it doesn't seem like it, but he is. of course he would talk to you he is a neighbor. neighbors always do that.  I'd say mutual respect. he may have a chrush on you, but wait till YOU are 17/18 to go out w/ him if you ever do.
943313
If you are both adults, both not committed to anyone and you like each other age shouldnt matter. Ask him out.
818779
if you like him it really doesn't matter what your friends thinks...besides, being older can be an advantage in a relation.\nand if you waited for three years, come on! you shouldn't give up just because some fuss\nif you leave him just because of the age, and because of your friends, it would be really silly and insensitive with your own feelings.\nIndepending on the age, you can be good together, and when your heart is broken and you feel alone, there's nothing your friends could do for you (nothing like being with the one you want!)\ngo for it.....care about your feelings....
211401
It's ok to have a crush on someone older than you, I was a sophomore when I met my bf (who was in 8th grade) and it always feels like we're the same age.  But you should be careful, some boys can be real jerks, especially high school boys. so just don't let your guard down :)
74160
Wait til you get older and if you both STILL feel the same way then go for it! No illegal stuff missy!
910813
How do I put this delicately?\n\nI would suggest that you are head-over-heels in 'love' (or at least lust). Where the mind goes, the body follows (an important principle in foreplay, that is) - and, from the sound of it, noone else is going to be pushing your buttons while you have this person on your mind. As long as it doesn't enter the realms of crippling obsession, it's not the 'mother of all evils' (whether the sentiment is returned or not).\n\nIf you're old enough to cash in, go for it. If you're below the age of consent, then just live with the crush...
438441
Well if this message is for me then, I guess I already know.\n\nYou may not want to tell him because once he turns 18 he can't show any romantic relations for you do to the law.\n\nBut, say you will wait for him, if he promises to wait for you to turn 18. This is for him to stay single or true to you, hopefully. Its not an exact relationship to be in but hey; its love. If he feels that the two of you shouldn't date or what not he should be kind enough to tell you nicely that it may not work between the two of you.\n\nBut, feel free to tell him that you have a crush on him. It will make him feel happy to know that he is adored by younger girls.\n\nI sure do hope to God that you didn't mean the word CURSE!
1136566
When someone is 24 and her crush is 22, the age difference isn't so much of a deal. If you're younger, though, it can be a big contrast. Think about how much a girl changes from ages 11 to 13. Since guys mature slower, it's possible your crush might not be up to your level. That said, it'd be a shame to pass on a guy who's interesting, smart and cute just because of a number. There's certainly nothing wrong with liking a younger dude, just be sure he doesn't think all girls have cooties! :)
344180
Focus on the intellect piece. I would just tell him how much I have learned from him and that you want him to mentor you. Older guys really strive to lead by example. Focus on the Physical is so common nowadays, so try alternative approach. It works...\nI would not focus on expressing my feelings directly because they may take it as just a temporary infatuation and younger girls do have tendency to look for a "father figure". and it does come across as just a crush. so if you want more, you need to show him that you are actually interested in having intellectual discussions with him and it will just grow from there.