why do children rebel against their parent around the age of 14 -17?
362993
Hormones for one, and the natural process of becoming independent for another, which requires asserting independence. Rebelling is really nothing more than that - asserting independence. The unfortunate thing is that we don't realize how much we DON'T know until we get a little older. Another unfortunate thing is that this natural process can become VERY ugly if the teen has a lot of built up anger over past issues. We say that children are resilient, but what they are doing is bottling it up, and it WILL come out eventually. But, even perfectly healthy teens will rebel in some ways.
111909
Maybe you grew up too sheltered. Some parents will try to protect their children from anything harmful and in return the children only learn fear from the things they were protected from. I've heard of cases like that.\nCould also be past experiences.. but there are alot there.
244213
Our priority's need to be on the home again. Not money. Parents need to be accountable for the behaviors their children demonistrate. Train them, raise them up in the way you want them to go. We all need to stop being so materilistic, and then surprised when our children act out. They are ashmed of their parents and their behaviors. So they rebel.\n\nOpen a dialog with your kids..... it is us aginest them not kids aginst their family.
792
Well there are a number of reasons> \n1. They feel like there parents were so old when they had them. \n2. Peer pressure is a big factor. (But all the other kids are doing it)\n3. There life is surrounded by sex, drugs/alcohol, & lies and they don't know really which one to turn to.\n4. Some were raised up that way ("Have children now because i want some grandkids")\n5. Lastly, some were raped as a child and dont know where else to turn.\n\nSo there are many reasons, but i just gave you some.
244100
Because most trouble is caused by teenagers. Adults can't trust kids, they think they are too young to understand things and just want to against everybody even they know it's not right. They just wanna make adults pay some attention and impress other teenagers that they are cool. That's what I think.
173459
once your child is 16 you're no longer responsible for their actions. it depends on the situation, however, because if they child decides to move out on their own then they're allowed and you're no longer responsible. at the same time, however, if you're refusing to take care of your child when they need it, you're to blame.\n\nit more so depends on the situation, really. if it's something you can't control, then you're not responsible.
647041
Because you could be the only voice they have .A lot of children don't no what is happening to them or that it is wrong and sometimes what we think is ok my not be to them .A child sometimes don't understand until the damage has been done .Or until they are older and it comes back to haunt them .This could be their only resources.
481269
Why not just be an adult and ask the other set of parents?  Let's try to stop putting children in the middle of our quarrels.  It sounds like there is a bit of a feud going on here, so keep it off of school property.
279426
arguments are never ending with parents..the peak of arguments ive had is when i was in my teens. Most of my arguments were why i shud'nt do all the things they told me not to do ! I tried to find out some of them, after unsuccessful arguments...but i realised much later that iam glad i didnt win all the time..
268871
Maybe your kid is acting out in response to your need for strict discipline. If someone was trying to do things like send me to boot camp, and I was 8, I'd be all, 'fuck you, pops. I'm outta here.' And then I'd go smoke a cigarette and TP someone's house and maybe even put sugar in your gas tank.\n\nDon't know, but that seems a bit young to me. Make him into a soldier when he turns 18. Then he can die proudly like a pubescent teenager.
666825
I think its because their parents let them do what ever they want when ever they want to do it. I'm 14 and i don't support any teenager doing that kind of stuff they should Wait till marriage.
1121831
Well, dear, I'm the mother of 5 kids, only one is a girl, so I do know what you mean! One of the boys is now 20 and another is almost 12. The 12 yr. old behaves the way you asked about. And the now 20 yr. old did the same thing when he was that age.  My thoughts are that they act that way, cuz they aren't as mature as girls the same age are. And for some reason, they think they are cool when they act like that. Don't worry too much about it, they will mature to your level in the next few years, just ignore their crazy behavior. I think they do it for attention of both girls and the other boys their age. I always found that killing with kindness seems to be the best way of revenge... if they truly don't like you, it will drive them crazy that you're nice to them and they will eventually leave you alone.  And if they do like you and you're nice to them, you'll find out that they will listen to you and not act like an idiot when they are around you.
676291
They do it because the were not taught respect by their parents. The kids now a days are totally out of control!
399575
First you need to find out why they will get mad. Is it money they can't afford to spend?  Is it that they are over protective and don't want to see you get hurt?  Sometimes parents "act" angry towards kids because they can't afford things that kids ask for but are too ashamed to admit it to a child. If it is neither then you need to find out the underlying reason and solve it.  Then there will be no reason to refuse.
986481
It's just kids being kids...competition, the desire to be liked and respected by others (to be popular), just learning how to deal with others in more adult situations and emotions and hormones that weren't there not too long ago...\n\nIt can take a while before kids learn what is and is not kewl behavior...that lies can bite them in the butt, and that there are consequences for their actions...
611427
It's called rebellion.  I had 3 teenage girls at the same time.  A teen feels they are old enough to make their own decisions and don't need their parents telling them what to do.  You don't realize that your parents were once teens also and they know and understand what is going on with you because they went through it to.  truth is, you are not old enough to know better.  You think you are, but you are not.  Parents only want what is best for their children no matter what age.  As hard as it may be, try listening to your parents.  Sit down and talk.  Ask them why they are being so forbidden on certain liberties that you want.  You will be surprised how understanding parents can really be.  Don't give up...it gets better, believe me.
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HI,\n please go through these and think twice you will get the answer....\n\n1.Article:Why Do I Fight With My Parents So Much?\n\nThe clothes you wear. The food you eat. The color of your bedroom walls. Where you go and how you get there. The people you hang with. What time you go to bed.\n\nWhat do these things have in common, you're asking? They're just a few examples of the many hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child. As a kid, you didn't have a say in very much that went on; your parents made decisions about everything from the cereal you ate in the morning to the pajamas you wore at night. And it's a good thing, too - kids need this kind of protection and assistance, because they aren't mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own.\n\nBut eventually, kids grow up and become teens. And part of being a teen is developing your own identity - one that is separate from the identities of your parents. It's totally normal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it's what prepares them for adulthood.\n\nBut as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting. They aren't used to the new you yet - they only know you as the kid who had everything decided for you and didn't mind.\n\nIn most families, it's this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. You want to cover your walls with posters; they don't understand why you don't like your Sesame Street wallpaper anymore. You think it's OK to hang at the mall every day after school; they would rather that you play a sport. Clashes like these are very common between teens and parents - teens get angry because they feel parents don't respect them and aren't giving them space to do what they like, and parents get angry because they aren't used to not being in control.\n\nIt's easy for feelings to get very hurt when there are conflicts like these. And more complicated issues - like the types of friends you have or your attitudes about sex and partying - can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are.\n\nThe good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teen has a right to certain opinions and an identity that may be different from theirs. It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though. In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can.\n\nSometimes this can feel impossible - like they just don't see your point of view and never will. But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach compromises that make everyone happy. For example, if you are willing to clean your room in order to stay out an hour later, both you and your parents walk away with a good deal. Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that in most cases, they can relate to what you're going through.\n\nReviewed by: Jennifer Shroff Pendley, PhD\n\n\nThen  as your duty do do these things to ur parents\n\nListen Better, Learn More\nIn one of the Family Circus cartoon strips, the little girl looks up at her father, who is reading the newspaper, and says: "Daddy, you have to listen to me with your eyes as well as your ears." That statement says almost all there is to say about listening, whether in our personal conversations or in learning in school.\n\nDo Listening Skills Affect Learning?\nListening is not a school subject like reading and writing. Many of us seem to feel it comes naturally and that as long as we can listen to directions on how to find the restroom, nothing more needs to