My bf of 1 1/2 years & I broke up a month ago. Should I e-mail saying we can be friends & thats its ok?
365715
Don't stress about it.  Really, you're young and it's not the end of the world.  Take a look inside and see if you really do want to be friends with him or if there's reason enough to let him go.  (you may just be feeling guilty about not wanting to let go.) Picture meeting him as a stranger and getting to know him.  Is he a guy you'd want to hang with?  Yes or no, it's cool either way.  Take care.
206759
He may be trying to do either.  Just remind him that you are now ex-partners, and he needs to keep his social life to himself.  Refuse to get involved in this sort of discussion.  Sounds like it was a good idea to break it off.  He doesn't have clear boundaries.
274940
Well, I think you should ask for his opinion. Just carry on for a lil while, and if you both find that you cannot bear the circumstance any longer then maybe breaking up is good for both of you. At least you don't have to worry too much about meeting each other and the distance either.\nBut if you two (esp. him) feel that you can still carry on, and that the love is true and strong enough to help you overcome this obstacle, then just stand beside him and fight for it. Happiness just worths its name if it is gained from challenges and hardship. Nothing valuable is easy to get my dear : )\n\nStand firm, and if you two have the same idea, then just go with it, whatever it might be...
687650
Sounds like a great friend. Don't rush things, it's better to have a great friend than an ex-boyfriend. If he decides to change his way of thinking and date friends, I'm sure you will be the one he comes to. but for now just be happy you can spend time with him.
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
242265
Its time to leave him alone when you realize that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn't have a regard for you and your feelings. being a man, I can tell, he's just playing on you and your emotions.\n\nHe is now your EX - means that he is part of your past. Better move on and I am sure you will find someone who will give you decency and respect. if you'd like to be friends with him, not at this time. Once both of you are "settled", may be that's the time for you to consider being his friend (that is if you will still have time and energy to think even about it).
548583
I think you shouldnt even talk to your ex at all just ignore him, and you should tell your bf because he should know but just tell him andim sure it will be okay i mean you  you would want to know if his ex was emailing him right?
140648
If you have not even attempted to try and contact this person in a month why is it so important now?  I believe,if you haven't needed her in your life for the past month you don't need her at all. I would just leave it alone. It not nice to use people, if this person was really someone that you cared about you would never have asked ur question!
1155121
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
378266
i personally feel that the two of you should try and stay in contact you know be friends. this way it gives you and him the chance to develop a relationship on a higher level....communication. who's to say that he is the one for you, you might find out in the long run that he wasn't the correct choice for you and because you are taking the time to get to know him mentally you will  more than likely have no regrets. and if its meant to be he'll be there for you. plus the relationship will be a strong one because you took the time to get to know each other.  lastly even though you are going away to school you do get breaks and time off to go see your love ones...this can be the time you spend with him to catch up on the time you spent apart.
650925
Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.
773993
He took it a bit too far then. Just tell him you believe that you and him are not compatible and wish him success in his future pursuits of happiness. Send it  then block his emails.
11384
friendship is great but wouldn't it be better if you had that friendship and a mate all in one? you have the best of both worlds when you start as friends. just take the time to think about it when he is not around. then if nothing else send him an email with everything you want to say. if you dont send it thats fine but putting things down allows you to think it through first. but honestly he probably likes you too but he might think he has been sidelined as a friend and wants to be around you so he has settled for a friend role.
441424
Wow, that person with the whole exes are like poison has some serious issues.  Trust me, I've never had an experiance like that in my life, so I think he's just a little bit out there.  Re-infected every time you talk to an ex?  WTF?  Can we say "can't move on"?\n\nI've been able to remain friends with many of my exes, but I think part of that is because most of my break ups were mutual.  I think that if you got dumped by her, it might be harder.\n\nI would suggest writing her a letter or email with whatever you want to say.  Tell her that you were really hurt when you broke up, and you just wanted to say that you've made your way through it and would like to see if a friendship between you would be possible.  Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't respond, then don't push the issue further.  If she gives you a call or send you an email back, have coffee together and talk about what has been going on in your life since the break up.\n\nJust don't have coffee and re-hash the break up, I doubt your ex wants to do that and while it might make you think it will feel better, in reality it will probably just make both of you uncomfortable.  If you start feeling like a friendship is making you feel worse, then its not the right thing to be doing right now.\n\nWork on building a new friendship with an eye on the future, not on the past.
555592
Yes he should consider how you feel.  Break away for now and maybe in a few months or years you 2 can become friends.  You want someone to treat you with kindness and respect and do not take anything less.  Good luck.
765532
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
1034049
Please don't read too much into his casual email or in-between his lines. Key words in his emails are "babe" , "wet kisses", "hugs" so this is definitely not a good-bye, or dump-you email to set you back in your heals. I am a guy so I can translate his guy lingo easily.. all he is saying is that he is not in a position to give you an opinion on your life or anything, either he does not have the knowledge or that you two are not a "couple" to decide on things together. So all he said is that ..."please decide as you wish, on anything that needs to be decided on. I am not yet in a position to advise you on your life" He must be at work or in a rush when we wrote that email coz he just did not pick his words carefully. Relationships have become a commodity these days and people forget the value of emotions and feelings. If you like this guy and if you think he is a keeper, let go of what he said, its a harmless guy lingo and don't read between the lines. Most likely he said this and forgot all about it already. so next time you meet he will be giving you all the wet kisses and hugs. Please don't fret on this or lose a guy over it.