what is the difference between love marriage and arranged marriage? which is best?
361755
luv marriage is suicide.. arranged marriage is organised crime...lol\n\njus kiddin!! : )\n\nkirukku.. scene-a question kaetu vachchirukka?? thala.. appadiya yen answer -a best answer-a choose pannu enakkku pathu point vaenum
8238
I dont really see a difference. Surely there is differences . Like most of the time judges marry in court houses or their preferred spot. I'm not sure what the judge says, but i'm guessing its pretty similar to what a priest says in his church.
210644
LOVE is a feeling, a true feeling that is devoted to someone else by yourself.\n\nSEX is a physical interaction between two (or many).\n\nOnly different is money can buy you SEX but NOT LOVE!
1037774
y do you have an arranged marriage..............thats dumb.
956864
Actually, there is a difference. Dating, well...I'm sure you know what it is.\n Courting is sorta like dating, but it is slightly differ ant and now, the only people who really do it much are those who are religious and actually care about saving sex for marriage and people who are looking for someone to marry. Courting is not a 'sport', as some would describe dating. Anyway, say a guy wanted to court you...first he would ask your parents for permission and if they said yes, you and him would start hanging out together with either groups with your friends or family. You wouldn't hold hands or kiss or anything physical. You'd only be getting to know each other. If you ended up really being attracted to each other and you decided you would like to get married, your would both ask your family's advice and then the guy would ask your dad for your hand in marriage and you would get married. Big difference from dating!
804888
I believe in love marriage. Indian girls should have the freedom to date if they want to. Why? Because this is 2006, not 1906. I have an Indian friend who's parents arranged for him to meet this girl, and the girl rejected him because his skin is so dark. Now he has a complex about it. I believe in freedom of choice.
226277
i am from the west and i have been to India and yes i believe so.   However i think they work for different reasons.    There is a sense of obligation to your family when the arrange your marriage.  I met people who were not in favor of arranged marriage but did not want to disobey or shame their parents so they would go through with it when the time was right.  I divorce in that sense would shame the family.  Also because it is arranged and in many Indians case Dowry is exchanged it is more like a business deal.  In the West our parents are not involved.  For the most part you decided even if your parents don't like them.  So if it does not work you get a divorce and no one is ashamed of you
494978
i have an whole essay on the topic. if it has to be arranged then, i suggest it shld b moral values. they dont teach u in schl how to love. they dont teach u how to live, they teach u how to earn a living. it shld b moral values. but parents tend to look 4 educational stuff, cuz morals can be faked. how would u judge a boy at first sight. he might turn to be a rascal when he is married with the girl.\nin my opinion, it shld be education+morals(though more prefrence to morals)i'm in delhi. plz contact me. i have answered u'r 2nd question also. plz reply. i am a relationship expert(i solve luv problems) i study in d.r.s.r.k.puram. i'm 16. if possible, mail me u'r phone no else mail me to know my no:   kamalrishi@gmail.com
1030502
well for me it is better a love marriage... :-)
563095
For the vast majority of western people, no.  But, I am sure that there are some families who still practice arranged marriage.  I don't personally know any, though.
873527
Dating is better than marriage as you have the opportunity to date many different people.  Whereas with marriage, you are stuck in a monogamous relationship with the same person.
546278
I used to believe it was quite archaic. I always believed in love, and considered it the prime motivaton for marriage. I believed it was the couples sole decision, and no other enity should be involved.  However, as time progessed, my feelings have changed.  In AMERICA, the divorce rate is 50%.  Somethings wrong with the system. I'm rethinking the idea of planned marriages.  They seem to last quite a bit longer.
46610
It's a bit of both. \n\nHaving love is painful, lest you fear to lose it, yet at the same time, being in love is wonderful and can make you happy.\n\nYou must strike a good balance.
1133189
If you truly Love eachother,and you are ready and willing to be strong and stand up for yourselves.Then do not let anyone stand in your way.I am assuming that you belong to India.My best advice is that you are going to have to make a choice between your happiness or making others happy.This is your life after all.You may face all kinds of issues,but if your Love is strong enough you will be together.Have faith in God and eachother.Dont get married illegally.Just go to a court and have a court marriage.Your families may not accept you.Be prepared for that.I wish there was some better advice in the universe.But always follow your heart no matter what.Because you wont be happy unless you do.Regardless of culture never allow anyone to control your life.
795570
Arranged. the parents picked the bride and groom for their children and did not ask their permission instead they thought they knew best and would marry them to whoever they wanted. They usually looked for good, respectable families who were hard working and possibly rich, the boys parents would have the right to ask for a dowry (which was money gifts, cattle, anything of value) and the girls side would be expected to meet this requirement.\nMany children respected their parents and did not question their decisions but with time this all is changing now, people still have these type of old fashioned arranged marriages but they have a slight modern twist they meet each other and may even go on dates before a decision is made- it depends on the values of the family and the tradition and education they have received as to if this still happens.
91926
i prefer "love marriage" because that way you marry someone you know and love and yoou know exactly what you are geting yourself into. you already know your partner's strengths and weaknesses and you know which areas you have to work hard at in order to make the marriage work, unlike marrying a complete stranger
996552
You could always break up the engagement. Marriage is about a life long commitment. Its not about making your parents happy. Does everyone in your culture do arranged marriages? Could you break up and your family not shun you? If the girl you love could commit forever to you (ask her!), then I'd say break up the arranged. But you need to talk to the new girl and see if she is that serious about you, if you only want to stop the arranged marriage because of her. Personally, I'd stop the arranged because its not a person I picked. We are talking about your spouse, the mother of your children, the person you'll be sleeping with the rest of your life! This isn't something your parents should be picking. I understand that its traditional in some cultures, but not where I live. I'd be scared to know who my parents would pick for me if they could have. Definately not the guy I married. It took years for my Mom to like him, but we've been married almost 9 years and still very much in love. \nI guess it just depends on if you want to spend your life with your parent's choice or yours. But you have to live with her, not them!