how do not invite my friend to my birthday without hurting his feelings?
360795
If he is your friend then you should be sticking up for him. Your other friends should be more appreciative of your other friends. Is he not cool enough to hang out with you in public. He must have a different background if the others make fun of him. You should at least give him a choice of whether or not he wants to come. Invite him and tell him who is on the guest list. He may not want to go either if he gets a hard time. Don't push him to come but he should at least be invited. If he does come then make sure that he feels welcome and tell your other friends not to pick on him. If they are your friends then they should respect your wishes if not then are they really your friends. On the other hand if he says that he will come then that is a measurement of what he is willing to go through because of your friendship. I think that the choice is right in front of your nose but you need a push to do the right thing.
543458
Go and have fun, life is full of disappointment. call them up and wish them happy birthday, the same would happen if the tables are reversed.  Enjoy your trip. be lucky you can go.
528721
don't be rude, but try not to be overly friendly with him.. if he keeps insisiting on doing "friend things" then tell him how you really feel, because you don't want him to lead him on, or have him get the impression that you want to be friends with him..
1151170
Some of these people are obviously too stupid to understand the question....which is perfectly clear to me.  You are saying that you AND your boyfriend don't like this girl.  Well, your boyfriend shouldn't have to spend HIS birthday with someone HE doesn't like.\n\nSince, you say that this girl knows that you guys don't like her(and that would mean the friend knows that, too) I would cancel plans anytime he invites her without your permission.  Maybe, he will get the hint.  That way you don't have to come out and say it but still get your point across.\n\nIf she(and he, obviously) knows you don't like her, then he shouldn't have been so rude as to invite her to hang out with your boyfriend on his birthday.  So, be just as rude and cancel.\n\nWhy would she want to hang out with people that don't like her, anyway?  That doesn't even make sense.
24943
You can't, if you are worried about hurting feelings because of who you don't invite, then  just go elope.  That's what I'd do, it's your day, not thiers.
197603
tell him your going to a friends surprise reunion party
863196
You sound like your trying not to hurt this person by rejecting him, my dear, there are many ways you can be nice about rejection,  be considerate, dont be rude about it, smile when your rejecting him, but for goodness sake, be honest. As for the friend, depending on how close friends they are, I think I would leave going out with him for awhile, but explain this also to him, let him know that you feel at this time it would inconsiderate to his friend.  Maybe they dont discuss things because I would have thought if they are real friends, they would have discussed that either one was asking you out. That way if they are setting you up, in other words, sometimes men, boys, make stupid bets with each other to see who can conquer you first, it will also let them both know, you are not an easy target, but anyway, be friendly and pleasant to both of them, but be on your guard also.  Good Luck
403164
yeah you should talk to him. just start by saying"so you coming to my sons birthday paty?" and just go from there. it wont be so bad!!!Good luck!!!!:)
504443
Just tell 'em staight forward that you dont like being called that, and if they cant accept that, then maybe these friends arent the best ones for you
330977
if you fell uncomfortable..and you cant say that to him..then he isnt being just a friend. You should just not hang out with him anymore. If he is a friend then you should be able to set bounderies and such without hurting his feelings. Even if he isnt meaning it in a certain way..its how its coming across to you..and he needs to know that...either way if you cant be open and honest he isnt a good friend.
703441
well when you get home call him right alway and tell him what happend and make sure that next time you two are going to meet up be prepare for everithing and your friend that didnt want you to have the # he probably realy cares for you so talk to him and tell him y is the reason he didnt give it to you
734471
tell him your not trying to be mean, but you really don't want to have anything to do with him. That you don't feel comfortable around him.
947188
Just a general : "Your invited" Birthday invitation\nthe Over the Hill gets on your nerves
690279
Have a mutual friend ask him about it without letting him know you were behind it. You don't want to scare him away if he's a good friend.
689322
tell him no-one will want to be his friend if he carries on acting like that.....none of his friends will ever want to come round to play cos they will know you have baby toys....they wont want to see u with ur diaper on....etc etc...just keep winding him up
684086
Yep!  I wouldn't invite her.  Just be prepared to answer her when she asks why.  I think it is VERY INCONSIDERATE when friends cancel plans with friends for a better deal or for other non-emergency reasons.
481807
You should just pull her aside by herself and be very honest with her.  If you don't, you are going to have a lot of unnecessary drama and I'm assuming that that's probably the last thing that you need or want on your birthday.  She will probably get her feelings hurt (think about how you would feel) but she will probably appreciate it a lot more coming from you instead of someone else.  Heard of the game telephone?  By the time it gets back to her it may become a situation that is totally blown out of proportion.  If she is a close friend of yours, I do like the idea of going out with her seperately, maybe with a couple other friends without the guy that way you can have the best of both worlds.  Good luck!!!