My new girlfriend has kids... should I tell my friends?
357378
You're obviously not comfortable telling them that matter although you know that there's nothing wrong with somebody having kids.  You don't want to be the receiving end of their gossip so don't tell them, after all, it's your life and you do what you want to do without exposing yourself to negative stories of certain people.  If you explain this to your girlfriend quite nicely, she will understand that you're not having an issue with her and I think she will understand you.  Good luck.
561650
Well in my mind. If this 'friend' knew you were still in love with your ex husband, she should never have even gone on a date with him. I feel you need to tell her how you feel about it, it things are not so serious between them she'll finish. If things are serious and they are in love, then I think you'd be best to cut all ties and move on.(which will be impossible if you have children with your ex) Just remember that true love means wanting the best for the one you love and wanting them to be happy. Sometimes you need to let them go. Try to get out more with other friends and get ome hobbies. This will help keep your mind off what they are getting up to, and before you know it. You'll not hurt so much. Time really does heal with this kind of thing. I'll be thinking of you!\n\nD*
985123
Sounds like she could use a friend...if your kids are buds with her kids, invite them over one day..or go out to a park with the kids if they're young enough to enjoy that...   Or just invite her over one day with the kids..or out for a swim at the pool somewhere...etc... Just ask her how shes been...and maybe say, you know its none of your business but you're a bit aware of whats been going on with her lately and you want her to know you've actually been through the same thing...maybe say, you know how hard it is...tell her something that helped you through and if she needs someone to talk to    you've been there so you understand... be short and sweet the first time you bring it up...   Maybe next write her nice card...Christmas time is coming up, good time to let her know someones out there if she needs a friend
526708
Girlfriend you are a true Christian, but come on. You are going to have to confront her and let her know that she really needs to increase her circle of friends. It is commendable that you open your heart and home for your husband's ex, for the sake of your step daughter but you have to set some boundaries...because she is totally taking advantage of you. I would take her aside and  tell her Enough is Enough! You would rather her take the responsibility of dealing with the child as a parent. While you want to be there for the child you are in essence enabling this woman to pawn of the reality of her personal responsibility off to you. She obviously knows not to engage your husband so she gets in any way she can.  Think about it.
1183250
You just tell them how you honestly feel. You can't concern yourself with if they are going to be hurt or not. Both men and women have a hard time finding a partner when they have young kinds, unfortunately its worse for the woman with young kids. Its a matter of choice, and if you prefer not to date someone with young kids, that is your perogative and you have the right to make that decision. What's important here is your happiness in life with another.
649964
Be honest and open. Don't hit her up if you don't want the potential of dealing with her kids in the long run. I'm sure she will be cautious about dating you. Don't act like a fool or you will get nowhere.
304950
Well first do you think he will be highly upset and uncontrollable if he found out? If so, you might tell him in a public place, like a parking lot of a walmart or restaurant. Etc.. Another approach is ask him how he would feel about the two of you having children. And then ask how about if it was soon. He will start to catch on. Also let him know that this is possible and that you are'nt sure yet.
973594
You shouldn't put your kids in this position.  I think it really confuses them about who has what role in their lives.  How old are they?  If they are old enough, tell them the truth, but if they are young, just tell them the necessary information.
1068763
This should be the woman's choice. She has to carry the baby, then ultimately has to raise it. Not telling her guy might save her from being bullied into something she doesn't want. Maybe she felt that if she told you, you would try to change her mind and she really didn't want you to. If you want a relationship with her , respect her decision and get over it. The time for a baby was not right for her.
883513
Yes. After I broke up with my fiancee, I set her up with my friend. I even DJayed the wedding.  They just had a baby, two days after ours, and we all hang out with no funky vibes.  Just be mature.
152959
Remind your wife that she knew you had kids before you were married and that she accepted you knowing that.  Don't just worry about her feelings consider those of your children.  Do you really think it will be so easy for them?  Your responsibility to them comes first.  They will always be a part of your life.  It is not fair for your wife to make you feel bad about taking care of your kids.  No matter what this will be hard on all of you and just remind your wife that you love her and your children and that it would make you very happy to know that she supports you in the good times and in the bad.
339002
My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
924786
I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
69306
No you are not to young for this, you took it on when you started dating him.  BUT tell him that one day a week the kids need to go to the sitter or a day care, and make that your day to pamper yourself.  Then tell him that you are missing his company.  I think that being up front is the best thing for you, you will go crazy if you do not tell him.
1151427
well he had the kids with her so she will never be out of ur lives.just ignore her let her play her games but do not pay attention 2 them.limit ur conversations 2 only talking about the children when she tries 2 change the subject just say yeah well have 2 talk about that another time or tell her straight out I do not want 2 hear it. if u stop listening 2 it and she sees she cannot get a reaction out of either of u she will eventually stop.
299597
well, i would tell him what i feel about it to the very small details, no matter whether it hurts or not. \nhowever, you are proud woman and i wish you the very best of luck. it is not easy. not at all. take care of your kids as best as you can. they have a great mother\n\ncheers\n\nnedzad
80086
You should definitely tell your mother that he has children. She's going to find out anyway, right? So sit her down and have a heart to heart with her and explain to her that you're very much in-love with this man AND his children, then ask her to please accept your new family into her heart as well. Most parents want their children to be happy. I'm sure that's all she wants for you.