I am too depressed today,just in tears...i dont know the reason for this..i'm missing my mom loads.....?
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I'm an old lady, I lost my mom to cancer ten years ago, and I still miss her too.  I know it must hurt even more to be missing your mom at your young age.  I can't magically make the hurt go away, but here's a couple of ideas that might help a little:\n\n1.  Go ahead and talk to her anyway.  I do.  I am not a religious person, but I choose to believe that her energy is still here in the universe somewhere.  I believe that both of our moms are still looking out for us.  So go for a long walk on the beach or along a peaceful quiet river trail where you can be completely private, and have a good long chat with her in your mind.  Or even out loud if you want.  She will hear you.\n\n2.  Find another female mentor.  No one will ever replace your mom, but it is still important for you to have a female role model you trust and can talk to.  If there isn't anyone in your family to do that, how about someone who was a good friend of your mom's?  Or if no one else, see if there is a chapter of Big Sisters in your city.\n\n3.  Remember that more than anything your mom would want you to be active and happy.  Think of the things she would likely encourage you to do... studies, sports, crafts, music or the arts, community volunteer work... and really apply yourself to excel in her honor.  Dedicating your efforts to her will make her feel closer, and staying busy and active will help you keep from getting depressed too.\n\nYou are doing the right thing to reach out to people when you feel this way.  Now the next step is to do it with live people in your immediate environment rather than with strangers over the internet.  Be brave and empowered about asking for what you need to feel safe and happy.  It's ok.
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I am sorry for you. I lost my mother 3 years on thanksgiving and every day I miss her. I lost her to colon cancer that spread to the rest of her body. I know what you are feeling and I hate that it hits me even more on her death day and on her birthday. I sometimes wish that I can see her alive just one more time so I can ask her if there was anything more I could of done for her when she was going through that. I was blessed to have taken care of her at home till the end. But you will always be sad for your mother because that love you received from her, you will get nowhere else. God bless you.
1161879
Really?  I'm so sad to hear that.  I'm feeling pretty good right about now.  Why do you feel miserable??
546619
I last cried on my birthday, 4 days ago, cause I missed my Dad, he died four years ago and I miss him:( It sucks he's not around for special occasions!!
381775
My thoughts and prayers go out to your friend Dim.  He has lost his mother but we have all gained an angel.  God bless him and his family.
44099
It's still very soon...don't put too much pressure on yourself.\nWhen my mom dies, I expect to pretty much die as well...you're still alive, so you're not doing so badly. \nMy friend lost his mom a year ago, and it's still hitting him very hard...you can wait it out, talk to a therapist, maybe try an anti-depressant if you think it's too much to handle.
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when you really care for someone you will always miss them... I miss my mom and wish she would come back already... but she's gone for good...has been for 3 yrs. now.  Just appreciate the people that come into your life and cherish the good times...always...
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Registered Nurse Here; Well hun, I think most of us feel this way from time to time, however when this starts out numbering the good days.  It would benefit you greatly to see a Physician, your family doctor, he or she, may decide with you to try a medication or they may suggest a psychiatrist.  Not sleeping well and crying spells are two classical symptoms of depression.  I know  your having a hard time, and there is no need for you to suffer to this degree in the era of medication and modern technology, you can be helped and assisted to feel better.  Please seek medical/mental attention,  there is MHMR, or a family practice doctor.  Both of these can put you on the road to recovery.  Thank you for the opportunity to address such a sensitive question.  Please seek some help.
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I'm sorry about your loss. I lost my mother 2 1/2 months ago and will soon be going through a first mother's day without her. Because Mom was such a jokester and loved life to the fullest, when our spirits droop and tears threaten us, we share memories of something she did or said that made us laugh at the time. It's what she'd want to see within the family.. not alot of depressed and unhappy loved ones mourning her loss. It's really ok to laugh and smile.. dont spend too much time grieving over her loss, rejoice that you were blessed enough to know her as long as you did. Get the picture albums out and remember those things that made you smile and laugh. It's a great connection and keeps the memories strong of the woman you both loved so dearly.
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Because it is sad!  I lost my sister awhile back, and it just left such a void in my life.  I think I will always be sad.  When I get really down, I try to remember the good times that I was able to have with her.  Keep your chin up!  :)
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hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
732853
I have not lost a parent. I have lost a brother. We were approx. 12 months apart in age. He died drinking and driving when I was 20 and he was 19. I was devastated, but never cried about it. He and I had talked about death but not our own. There isn't a day goes by I don't think about him. I am sad, on the inside, but not depressed. I can talk about him with great pride and conviction without crying a drop. And about the loss..... is there anyway to describe the feeling of emptiness and loss? No, but we can not dwell on what we can not change. I do know that my life would be completely different if he were here. I moved 1000 miles from home, just to get away from the sadness, it didn't help. But it did change the whole direction of my life. I will not say that it is a mental illness to have feeling like this, but it is very difficult to express the way you truly feel. I try not to talk about it but feel better when I do. His birthday was last week 10/25. Mine is today.
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hmm, i guess cause of how special your place in this universe is, the wonder and the joy your birth must of been to people who created you. Its also a day to remember your happy days and your sad days on this year, the friends you now have and the ones you have lost. Its special as a marker to, how much you have grown and how much you need to grow. I hope on this day you take time to reflect, be thankful, cry maybe, but mark it because of your special place in this universe and how you touched everyone in it. Also its a day if you can, to wish your mom a lot of love because without her this day would not of been possible.
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yeah, I know the feeling...I am just experiencing one...cousin-sister passed away last weekend, I am about to loose my job, my kid was diagnosed with ADHD last week, my sex life sux and my best friend told me I was a b*i*t*c*h...now I got PMS...but you know what? there is always tomorrow...another day, another chance....hang in there...
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Wow!!!  Don't know what else to say.  I lost my 18 yr old in June, 2005.  And my mother 10 days after him in June, 2005.  And I thought I was having it BAD!!!  I guess that old adage that my mother used to say is true.  "There's always someone who has it worse".  I am sooo sorry, that I don't know what to say.  All I can do is to tell you that I am on yahoo messenger, as americanhousewife2005 and my email is americanhousewife2005@yahoo.com...I'm truly there for you to talk to!!!
708702
Why do you feel sad?  We reap what we sow.  You were alone today because you haven't gone out of your way to make it any different (make friends).  Do you aknowledge anybody elses birthday?  I'm just asking these questions because I had the same thing happen to me years ago and I realized it had everything to do with my decisions.  \n\nHappy Birthday--we are here!
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I am so sorry to hear about your mom. my mom pass away not long ago so  I know your pain, I can tell you that you never stop missing her and it's hard around the holidays. I will pray for you that God comforts you doing your time of sorrow. he already has your mom and although you miss her and still need her she is pain free and in a better place.