why is it that peoples parents want u to better than they did to not do the wrong things in life i get stress?
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Because parents love their children, and they don't want them to go through the pain they did.  Don't get too stressed, if you make mistakes they will love you anyway.\np.s.  It hurts them when you hurt.
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You can start looking at why they are making you stressed: Is it the nagging? Your parents care for you, but it and can be a down right pain - been there, done that, and screaming at them never worked.  They may not be aware of your inner feelings. Have you tried telling them what the effect of their behaviour is having on you?  You will need to be calm when you discuss this! so onto the next comments:\nTo calm down: Find a quiet spot away from the parents then do abdominal breathing exercises (see source below, or a school counsellor may be able to help you on this)\nTo relax: you can read a book, play an instrument, do something that you enjoy.  Or you can practice yoga and meditation (the techniques are good - you don't need to worry about the religious side of it).  These two exercises when practiced regularly will help you to cope with outside stresses much more readily, since they exercise your body and your mind. Meditation will also help with concentration - something that's useful for school!  But with all things, discuss with your parents on the suitability.\nA word of caution - drugs are not your answer - they will only add to your problems!
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Because they love their child. And they want to give it better future and life better than they lived. Thats it. You will also do same with your child.
181100
Tough break. No child ever wants to disappoint his/her parents. However, the best thing to do is to confront the issue with them. Choose a time when you know that they aren't already stressed out and gradually explain how this may have happened. Since you seem to be smart in general, this was probably a fluke or an outlier. Most importantly, don't beat down on yourself. It's not the end of the world, even though it may feel like it.
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Well, everybody has secrets to keep, I do have a secret and I guess I'll die with it, so, as U may understand I cannot reveal it here.\nBut, I think our parents deserve respect as U say, and sometimes it's better to hide some things that they would understand but, they would feel really dissappointed or would be worried about it all the time, so, in U have to keep those things in order to please them.
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I have dealt with this issue ALOT because I am the first to graduate from college and BY FAR the most successful career-wise and financially in my family.  I am always telling them NO for just about everything that they ask for and the reason why is because I dont want them to rely on me each time they get THEMSELVES into a jam.    Its not my RESPONSIBILITY to bail them out.  Plus every dime I send to them takes away from what I am trying to do.  Adults have to handle their OWN business, including his family.
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They somehow believe that children spend the most time with their parents or with people that their parents would otherwise disapprove of, but given that their parents have "no personal assertiveness" or are working long hours in difficult and unpleasant jobs they have no time to see what their kids are up to and hence from whom they are receiving their bad influence. Society also assumes that bad parents are a bad influence on their children, whom it is assumed spend all day watching and learning bad habits from mum and dad. I think offspring in any situation get to compare their own parents with other people's families. Every family is dysfunctional in some way. It doesn't matter how you start out, as long as you finish the right way.
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That's an interesting question . . . I think it's becuase of the enormous investment in money, energy, time, emotion, etc.  Parents don't want to see their kid "screw up" becuase they want to see their "investment" payoff. By that I mean they want to see their kid become happy, educated, successful, etc. That doesn't mean that parents know what their doing, but it does mean that right or wrong, they typically do try.\n\nBut there's another theory that claims that we're just animals that instictively take care of children because we want to pass on our genes to the next generation.
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That is just what they do!!  Especially if they are younger than you!! Gods way of punishing you for all the stuff you put your parents through!!!!
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Parents are not over protective of their children. Yes, it is true that some parents are more cautious about the things they let their children do and see than other parents. No matter how much you try to protect children, you can't stop them from being hurt. I hope this helps.
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that is a really good question.  Often times, family members know our weaknesses better than other people and they don't want us to be vulnerable to others who could take advantage of our weaknesses.  It's a double edged sword.  On one hand, you appreciate that it's their way of showing love and care but on the other hand, you want to be able to make your own decisions.  The truth is, however, that most of us don't make wise decisions all the time and we get burned because we don't have our guard up.  A family member doesn't need to have their guard up when they're not directly, emotionally involved.  They just get to be pragmatic.
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Everyone is uptight because they are trying to cram too much into too little time. It's stress, and I doubt it is going to get any better. That doesn't mean they can't be nicer, because pretty much everyone is in the same boat. The only thing you can do is try to set an example. Maybe if you are kind and patient it will make someone's day easier, and because of that, they will be a little nicer to soemeone else.
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Dont lie-you may not understand now why your parents do what they do...but later in life you will.   You should always be turthful!
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Controlling isn't always bad.  It just means that they care enough to put their foot down and say "I love you therefore I need to know where you are going, who you will be with, and what you will be doing."  Other parents that are toooooo trusting, most of the time, really don't care.
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Mothers want what is best for you.  They think they know, and they know a lot, but they don't know everything.  That is why they drive us nuts.  They love us soooo much and want what is best for us to the point that it makes us crazy.  They want us to not make the mistakes they made and they don't want to see qualities that they do not like in themselves in us.  So that makes it a battle between their will for us and our will. Trust me we are driving them nuts too!
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I don't know your parents, but if they are like mine, above all, they love me.\n\nI am older than you, but I can also tell you that looking back, there is VERY little that my parents made me do, or kept me from that was not from love and for my own best interest. \n\nDon't get me wrong, even parents are wrong at times.  But before you go too far, ask yourself if perhaps they are just looking out for you.\n\nThe largest predictor of a teens immediate future is the friends he or she chooses to be around.  Perhaps your parents are worried that the "rocker" friends you have are a bad influence.  right or wrong, they would have a case.\n\nLooking back, some of the friends I chose to make, were certainly the wrong ones to be around.  \n\nJust a guess, and I hope it helps.
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mmmmmmmmmm if they think this way then u r wrong , u must try to improve them , if they arent improving leave it and u better be on right track in life , they might be of old thinking but i think if something is wrong and when u know it wrong and then also u r deyning that its not wrong then its a biggest mistake u r doing , so i think if ur parents are doing this thing then its totaly wrong , anyways , take care , bye