is my best frend in love with my ex boyfrend?
368041
Believe her for the time being. If she says nothing is between them, nothing is between them BUT be aware because something is BOUND to happen because she is not telling you everything. While she's sneaking and lying to you, YOU have a decision to make. She's either your friend or she isn't. This has nothing to do with your "ex" because he is your ex, this is a friend who crossed the line and she must be dealt with. I'm not saying that you have to fight with her but you have to realize, this might be the first time and it might not be the last time she does this. BUT please before you react, give her the benefit of the doubt, let her decide which is more important, her friendship to you or some guy.
108808
You can't have both boys. (well, I suppose you could, but it wouldn't work) \n\nI'd say, since you're with his best friend, your chances are slim to none in getting him back.
873263
If you are telling your ex that you love her, then the best friend shouldn't mean anything to you. If you are having your doubts, forget even trying to mend things with your ex, and just go for the best friend. Just know that trying to go after an ex's best friend is a REALLY sensitive thing, but if both of you feel that way for each other, it could work.
579708
Your EX-bestfriend's EX-boyfriend?  um... you should ask him out on a date, and then go for it with him.  Because... well if she isn't your bestfriend anymore you owe her... nothing, and even if she still was your friend, as long as you didn't sleep with him to break them up... (which i am sure you didn't do) then you still owe her.... nothing.  How long have they been broken up? if it has been say over 6 months (which it sounds like it has if you have listed to his other girl problems) then I would say you have satisfied ALL of the waiting before moving in criteria.  Life is short sweetie, take a chance, and good luck.
393815
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
1006611
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
109273
Just brake up with him because your friend probably said she didn't care if you to dated in the first place but she really did. Trust me my EX best friend dated my brother and now we now longer talk at all because she began choosing him over me and everybody else and remember bf come and go and true friends are forever. Do yourself and your friend a faver and stop it now before it ends up like we did and stopped being friends all together.
1131255
Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
611852
if your ex's friend is willing to go out with you then he isn't much of a friend. there is an unwritten rule that you don't date your friends ex's. that goes for both men and women. it can create problems down the line and hassles that are just not worth it. now having said that you cant help who fall in love with. so if you both feel the same way and are ready for the possible consequences then go ahead and see where it might lead. he could be your soul mate. good luck to you witch ever way you choose.
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
635137
nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
609148
Well, I hope you're not friends with your best friend anymore because that's not what I call a true friend. She told you she would never go out with your ex because she loved you like a sister, but that's not the case. You should have never dated your ex-boyfriend's best friend either. If you like other guys such as your ex's best friend than you're not in love. You may really like your ex, but there are other guys out there. Your ex is not worth it. Not only is your friend doing you wrong he is to by being with her.
579003
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this other guy, I think you need to let your ex go and forget about anything that might take you back to him. You are not being fair to either guy by running to the other when you have problems. Instead, get on yahoo answers to help solve your problems...lol! just kidding. But seriously, you need to move on with this new guy. You might feel things for your ex and that is natural because you have a past together...but it's just that, a past. Time to look to the future and move on. Good luck!
404750
Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
138666
It sounds like everything has already worked itself out. Your ex is dating your best friend, and you are dating one of her best friends. \n\nIs there someone out of the 4 of you that isn't happy with the arrangement?
429758
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..