From the woman that hasn't had sex in almost nine months with husband.?
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You need to encourage your husband to repair the relationship with his son as well.  It's true that your son isn't a child, but that doesn't make it hurt any less that his father betrayed you- especially if he doesn't like the way your husband has treated you in the past.  I'm assuming since your son is 30+ and your Christian that you've been married for a long time- he might have different views over how his father treats you, talks to you, etc....  You also have to remember that your son caught him in the act, in the family home.  That's another betrayal right there- all the family holidays, all the memories he has have been tainted by his fathers act.  It also might make him question his ability to be a good husband or father if he's been using your marriage/relationship as a role model on how to do it right in this day and age.  \n\nHave lunch with your son, one on one, and explain to him that he's entitled to his anger, but that he does love his father- and if you can forgive him and try to work through things then in his own time, he has too also.  Encourage your husband to reach out to him, and keep at it until your son comes around.  Y'all are family- deal with it!  Good luck.
970186
I have a good friend who has also been married for 2 years. Her and her husband do not have kids and she does not feel the need to explain why. You don't have to give an explanation because no one is owed one. Why you don't have children is between you and your hubby. The next time someone asks why you don't have kids, tell them that you are waiting, or that you aren't ready and switch the subject.
781846
No sex for 8 months is BS.  Talk to her about it calmly and find out what her deal is.  Be ready to compromise.  If she still won't EVER have sex with you then something is seriously wrong and you need to escalate the situation (counseling, divorce, whatever).\n\nGood luck, bro.
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I would suggest that you talk her into seeing a Dr.; it could be her hormones, post pregnancy, etc.  There are medications that could possibly help, or she may just need to talk with a professional.  Please just be there for her, be supportive, and be patient.  As an older woman, I speak from experience here.......many times, a younger woman won't have as high of a sex drive, as she will later in life.  Stress can also play into how a woman feels sexually.  We have lots to do, and there is never enough time to get it all done in, so she may simply be too tired to enjoy sex.  You might try giving her a massage, give her a nice, long foot rub, run her a bubble bath, etc., with the sole intention  of relaxing her.  Don't make sex the main focus though, or it could backfire.  Just let her know that you want to help her relax.  It might also be helpful to just sit and talk with her, let her open up if she can, and support her the best way that you can.  I hope it all works out for both of you........good luck!!
981782
Wake Up and smell what is going on! Are you a stupid fat chick or something? You must like this shi** treatment, because staying with a man like that, your totally stupid. I am not trying to be mean to you, but I just saw your picture on your profile... and I am wondering if your mentally ill? Your far from ugly woman! Your dang pretty. Do you have an background that you would be able to get out? Think about this! Your already alone! Your husband sounds like a spoiled, selfish, prick, who needs to grow up. Your carrying his baby and he isnt showering you with kisses and affection. As far as the oral sex thing, a lot of men just arent into that. I wouldnt worry about that so much. I would however, worry about a man who places more effort into himself and his friends over his pregnant wife. Wake up! You have talked to this man, over over again, and he doesnt do shi**? Your in conseling and nothing is working? HELLO? He thinks you are stuck because your pregnant. Plan a way out and Get out. I am telling you this because I was married to a man just like this. He was an abussive selfish prick. Everytime I would even go the the concord mall back east, he would have a fit. Anytime I would buy my daughter something he would have a fit. He was selfish and cared less about me or our daughter really. He was also just like your describing. There were times when I about lost my mind with that man. I sought conseling and help and even blamed myself for the problems. Big Mistake! I am totally convinced that people dont change. He never changed only got worse and he is worse to his new wife now, then to me. My daughter went to visit and couldnt wait to get back home, the first words out of my little girls mouth were the following, " Mom, this person crys a lot because my dad treats her so bad. She does not even get to do anything." So you see, nothing changes.   My mother paid most of our bills while we were together. He did the same thing to me. He would cum on my back while I was trying to sleep because I didnt want to have sex with him anymore, due to how boring it was. He cheated on me constantly, twice that I can prove. He was lazy and a total moron. One day I had enough. I found a way out. To this day I have to deal with that idiot and trying to keep my daughter away from him and his new wife, who this woman  is also abused and sick. I am now remarried. I have another child and my husband never fails to take good care of me. He treats me like gold. You will look back on this, once your gone, and you will be thankful to God that you got out of it.
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she shouldn't have sex with anyone but you, her husband.  i wouldn't let her do it.  the last thing it would do for me is turn me on.  even though it's seems like a good idea at the time, it'll only cause problems in the future
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Yes, something is wrong.  It doesn't matter how often you actually have sex- every day, every week, every month- as long as both of you feel contented. You are unhappy enough about it to be asking this question, so something is going on that isn't quite right.\n\nI've been in a low sex marriage (sex less than once a month, sometimes no sex for six months + at a time) for years and years and believe me, it isn't going to get better over time.  You'll end up being the "pursuer" sexually and emotionally, as I am with my husband.  Seek outside assistance now, while your relationship is still fresh enough for you both to invest in addressing this issue.  Otherwise you'll end up like me- wondering if you chose the wrong mate, wondering if it's still possible to fix it, wondering if platonic friendship is going to be enough for the next 40 years.
738069
She is probably feeling left out or something. Maybe she wants to get some of the attention. Or, at least see her husband again.
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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Nice one fidgety .Reminds me of this one!\nWhen their marriage went through a rocky patch, a young couple went to see a marriage counsellor. The male counsellor listened while the wife outlined her grievances,the principal one being that her husband neglected her.\n"We've only been married two years," she said," but he never seems to take any interest in me. He never shows any affection. It seems as if he is bored with me already."\nThe husband simply shrugged his shoulders,so the counsellor decided to take drastic action.He went over to the wife and kissed her passionately. As the wife slumped back into her seat in shock,the counsellor turned to the husband and said:"Your wife needs that at least twice a week."\nThe husband replied:" well I can get here Tuesdays and Thursdays."
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Not all women have low sex drives. The mood swings and being tired sounds like she is going through menopause. Women start menopause early even though they don't know it. It starts in the mid 30s on some women. Just be there for her and maybe suggest marriage counseling or try to get her to suggest it herself.
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Wow, sounds like that guy has serious girl problems.  I waited to have sex until after I got married.  It was the best decision I could have made and my husband respects me for it.  Which is saying a lot because I made him wait for almost two years.  But all people are different, sounds like your friend met all rotten ones.
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Have you tried talking to her about this? Is she aware that things have changed?  You both may want to talk to her doctor to see if you have any options on a medical point of view.  You may have to make some changes as to the way your sex life used to be while she is going through this. Let her know how much you love her and how she makes you feel and let her know that even though you don't understand what she is going through you are there for her. I think it is wonderful how you described your feelings for her. You also may want to do some research on menopause. It doesn't effect every woman the same way. If she is having hot flashes she may want to try Remifemin, which is over the counter. Of course, she should ask her doctor about this first. If he says it is okay to try and she would have the need to use it you can go to their website and they will send her a free sample. I believe it is enough for at least 2 weeks. It really helped me.  Good Luck to both of you.
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It is common for women to lose interest after a hysterectomy.  It's hormonal hun.  She probably can't 'help it'.  Much like men who have Erectile Dysfuncion because of blood pressure or diabetes.  \n\nI believe you need to have a very honest and open talk with her.  Sex is a PART of marriage.  It isn't the end all be all, but it is a part of it.  Explain that you are lonely and that you miss being close to her.  That you miss making love with her.  Is there anything that you have done wrong or are there things 'she'd like to try' or that 'she feels have been missing from the sex life'?  If the answers are all 'no progress', ask her if she's considered that many women have no sex drive after hysterectomy's and/or menopause, and would she be willing to see her doctor about 'female viagra'?  If she stil is unwilling or unopen to any solutions then you need to put it very bluntly but carefully.\n\nI am still your hubby, I still love you,  I still want you.  I am still WANT to be a sexually active man, what would you suggest I do at this point?  No suggestions have been acceptable to you, should we try counseling or what would you prefer that I do now?  Because for me, no sex period is not an acceptable option for me anymore.  \n\nBest of luck to you and I'll hope it works out for you both!!
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Sounds like a no. You have been having sex with him, probably living with him - he has no need to get married; you are giving him all that he wants and he is totally comfortable. Talk to him again, and get married before the baby comes!
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Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.