Have u ever been N a abusive relationship?
365443
no cose i am not dumb enough to stay with sameone that would beat me up thats just plan stupid cose its only going ti get worse
261588
Yes - my ex-husband hit me three times during our marriage.  I was raised in a peaceful houselhold, so the first time he did it it caught me completely by surprise.  However, I realised that I didn't want my young son to think this was the normal way men should treat women, so I divorced him.  He's on his fourth relationship now.\n\nI married again 23 years ago.  When you are a victim of domestic violence (and mine was pretty slight compared to some stories here) it toughens you up not to accept it again, so the first time we had a row and my then fairly new husband raised his hand to hit me, I told him ' if that connects, we disconnect.'  And I meant it - and he knew I did.  We're very happy together now!
319295
My ex husband was very abusive. The day I left, he had taken my car keys. I had to walk 2 1/2 miles down a road with hardly any houses to get to help.\n\nI found out later that he had driven up and down that road for 2 hours immediately after I left, looking for me, but he never saw me. It was like I was shielded from his view. Very strange and terrifying, because the entire time I expected him to find me.
848623
"Yes", I certainly have. But, in my situation it was the other way around.. I got into a really "Bad, ugly marriage" for 7 years, and my best-friend, who I'd known since we were 12 & 13, would go and tell all our other friends all of my domestic problems, and I'd tell them to her in "The strictest Confidence", well when he & I devorced, it was like she didn't want anything to do with me .. It was as if she liked it when I was all down in the dumps, and being abused.. And someone to talk about.. Once, she no longer had anyone too "Gossup" about, it was like she had no time for me. Not to mention she was so insecure, I think she was worried I'd put the moves on her hubby being that I was now "Single" and all.. She would talk badly of me, behind my back, to some of our closest friends who would in turn tell me.. Because, they knew me better than that.. And that she was all "Full of it"!! She just wasn't happy, unless, I was going through something bad, how sad, is that!! Nor did she have any time for me, unless she had something bad to tell everyone about me!! When things were going really well for me, was always the really quiet times, that's when I never heard from her. How sad is that?!! My family always told me, she was just "Jealous" of me! Oh well, I saw her, 2 summers ago, and we played "Catch-up", she owns a home down the street from my father-in-law.. And when she found out that this same house will be left to my daughter,when he passes,,away, and that being that its a corner-lot, worth probably a good 2-3 million dollars, that her little house didn't hold a candle to what my daughter will inharet, one day.. she was so mad, she couldn't contain herself.. She kept argueing with her husband in front of me, that thier house would be well worth more, one day.. He had to shut her up finally by telling her, Kelly its a corner-lot, our's isn't !!! Dah-Heart!!! So, I totally understand, how you feel... I love her, she's like "Family" I've known her so many years.. But, I cant stand that side of her. Its really sad, that she's not happy unless she has someone to put down, or to make herself feel better, she just has to have someone to put down.. I feel sorry for her, more than she hurts me, you know. Oh well.. I would just have a talk w/ your friend and try to get him in on some of your "Successes" along with you. That might just be part of his problem. He wants to grow with you, and be up there along with you, you know. Otherwise, you two dont really have alot in common, and may make him feel alienated, from you & your friendship, you know.. Just allow him to take part in some of your successes some how, and that might help your friendship, or just dont bring things up to him, if his friendship really means alot to you....Then dont share your "Achievements" with him anymore... You know.. Sad, but that might be what you have to  do to save your friend from being insecure around you...
860924
Well, you answered part of the question yourself co-dependency. They are also embarresed confused lonely hurt scared. It is a pattern and until you are comfortable enough and not afraid of what may happen will the other person leave. It takes alot of strength and guts to get out of a abusive relationship because most of these people see themselves as failures already. They need to learn to understand there is help out there and they can survive on there own.
1144292
PLEASE GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nTHE SIGNS OF AN ABUSER ARE DEFINATELY WHAT YOU DESCRIBED!!!!!!!!\n\nIT CAN ONLY GET WORSE!!!!!\nHE CAN GET HELP BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD STAY WITH HIM.\nYOU TWO NEED A TIME APART WHILE HE GETS HELP THOUGH.\n\nI DON'T KNOW ABOUT ANY PARTICULAR PROGRAMS BUT I'M SURE YOU CAN FIND SOME ON THE INTERNET OR IF YOU ASK AROUND.\n\n\n\nBUT GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!
1174890
Have been many times.... wide array of reaction.\n\nHave retorted with an insult of my own, have laughed at them maniacly until they got embarrassed, have ignored it completely, have taken it like a woose, have gotten in their face, shoved, told them off, everything short of punching out
930213
I think most of us have been there.  I'm glad you got out I know it isn't easy.  I don't know why we get and stay in those kind of relationships maybe we have to learn something about ourselves, that we are good enough to be loved and treated well.  I hope you see that about yourself now.  Make the next relationship a wonderful one you deserve it.
218216
you should never have punched a woman.  you deserve for her to leave you.  men who abuse never change... go to counseling and try to work out your issues.
107233
I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
125706
Yes, I have had many love/hate relationships.\n\nFor example, I may love the way someone looks but hate their personality and/or intellect (or vice versa.)\n\nI think my last relationship was a kind of love/hate situation. We both cared for each other deeply but also annoyed the hell out of each other.\nIt was fun.
470035
Abuse. The sad thing is I probably would have stayed in that relationship a lot longer. But, then it happened! I had my son. The day I had him I knew I would never allow him to be exposed to that kind of a life. I remember thinking to myself, "My husband may be good enough for me but, he will never be good enough for my son because he doesn't care to change." Thankfully, now I know he wasn't good enough for either of us. I left the day that I got out of the hospital and never returned. My son and I lived happily ever after.
796655
No, but i have had some relationship issues latley and i must say your question has shocked some sense into me.
121915
I am sorry to hear that. The same thing happened to me a long with physical and mental abuse. \n\nI sought counseling and I am well again. Not everyone is bad and not eveyrone will treat you like crap. \n\nHave you explained the situation to your partner?\nthat helps as well , believe me.
809054
Yes, I was thrown off a cliff in high school because the guy I was dating was an ass and was abusive. He thought it would be funny to listen to me scream for help. Which I did. I had to be rescued by firefighters.\n\nI had had head trama from hitting my head on the way down.\n\nNo Lie!
948104
Yes I have been in many fights but I have only lost 2. One was my best friend. I walked up to him and was going to kick him in the a$$ when he turned around and I ended up sacking him. At the end of the day I took the beating that I deserved.\nThe other one was my older sister. I was being cheeky and disrespectful then I slapped her. She laid a licken on me like you wouldn't believe. ( Never disrespect you older sister in front of her friends...)
11217
FAR too many..\n\nI would say 80% of the women I know on yahoo either their previous relationship was abusive or their current one is.  Maybe thats why they come here....\n\nMental abuse abounds.\nControl issues top the list.\nFollowed by Attacks on self esteem\nPhysical abuse is alot more rare but I would still say 20% or so of the people I talk to have had a physicly abusive relationship...\n\nSomedays its enough to make you cry, and wonder why we are so sick.