Husband or wife who shows more sexual interest usually? Why?
358055
usually the male \nas women have children their libido goes, they r tired\ntheir hormones are all over the place.\nmost men think their other halves arent interested but with alot of women their hormones are at the wrong level which leads to a lower sex drive
1157502
Sex was "more and better" after marriage. But then, there came the kids. We obviously couldn't have sex as often when the kids were young. They required too much attention and at all hours of the night. Now, the children are older, and we have a little more time to ourselves. Both of us work, but we often actually schedule time for our lovemaking because we enjoy it so much. After all these years of marriage, we are still finding new ways to please each other, and different methods of enhancing the acts that we already enjoy. The sex is definitely better. Not as frequent, but better. I'd love to have sex with her everyday like before we were married or before we had kids. However, the anticipation adds to the excitement.
1012034
only the one i am married to.  i think women who are homewreckers do it b/c they think the grass is greener.  like that saying that the good ones are always taken.  also i think married men are more pasionate b/c of the love making, not just sex.
625227
Simple answer...because you are a swinger!!!  It all depends on what your wife is comfortable with, if she's comfy with that arrangement, more power to y'all!
860882
I think, both.  When I first met my husband he was the complete opposite of me.  He was sporty, muscular, he liked anything to do with sports and cars etc... I instead was more the intellectual type who liked to read, go to the movies, take a walk in the park etc... so I was attracted to this person who was so different from me.  As the years passed we learnt so much about each other and discovered that we aren't as different as we thought.  We actually like a lot of the same things !
230195
Depends on the female and what kind of sex drive they have.
965374
Abstract\nBoth men and women prefer someone with a “good sense of humor” as a relationship partner. However, two recent studies have shown that men are not attracted to funny women, suggesting the sexes use the phrase good sense of humor differently. To investigate this question, we measured the importance participants placed on a partner's production of humor vs. receptivity to their own humor. Men emphasized the importance of their partners' receptivity to their own humor, whereas women valued humor production and receptivity equally. In a second task, participants chose whether they preferred a person who only produced humor or a person who only appreciated their own humor for several types of relationships. Women preferred those who produced humor for all types of relationships, whereas men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships. Our results suggest that sexual selection may have operated on men's and women's preferences during humorous interaction in dramatically different ways. \n\nKeywords: Sex differences; Sexual selection; Mate choice; Humor appreciation; Humor production \n\nhttp://www.sciencedirect.com/science?_ob=ArticleURL&_udi=B6T6H-4HWXM5P-1&_coverDate=03%2F31%2F2006&_alid=485679278&_rdoc=1&_fmt=&_orig=search&_qd=1&_cdi=5031&_sort=d&view=c&_acct=C000050221&_version=1&_urlVersion=0&_userid=10&md5=e7ce361d57541e3bfcfbe312a9dde04e
267503
No!\nMy wife and I have been together for 8 years and I think we can safely say that we are more in love than ever. Most people find, however, that over a period of roughly 4 to 7 years of marriage, the intensity or sense of romantic passion fades and is replaced by a sense of comfortable security that can sometimes seem somewhat uninspiring. Security in love can make people “lazy” in certain way. Relationship therapists can suggest various ways to liven things up and put the “spark” back into married life, but I’m not sure how successful these strategies are in the long run. A related issue is that a lot of people find that marriage ruins their sex life. Personally, I think this is pretty much natural for long-term monogamous relationships. I suppose you can always come up with some examples of a couple who has been married for 40 years and still have a hot monogamous sex life, but at the risk of sounding pessimistic, I think this is incredibly rare, and I think that a lot of people unnecessarily beat themselves up over their inability to stay sexually interested in their spouse. I think the high rates of cheating and divorce provide good statistical support for everything I’ve said so far.\n\nMy wife and I have a lifestyle that works well for us (tho I don’t claim it will work for everyone!) We have an open marriage. This has several amazing effects. For one thing, I think it keeps us both “younger” in some sense. We can openly explore erotic and/or loving relationships, and this means that life can be periodically charged with what is sometimes call “new relationship energy” (NRE). This is that energetic feeling of “walking on air” and everything seems bright and beautiful in the world. Most married people are afraid of this sort of thing, and of course for some people it can lead to jealousy, but in our case it is good for BOTH of us. I find that my freedom to love others increases my love, appreciation, and erotic attraction for my wife.\n\nOf course a lot of people put us down and claim that their love is better than ours because we are missing something or whatever, but they don’t know us, nor do they have any deeper clues than we do about the true nature of love, meaning of life, etc., so I don’t let this bother me – although I do sometimes (like now) get on a soapbox because I think more people need to realize that healthy, happy people can explore alternatives to the standard monogamous marriage script.\n\nIn any case, I don’t see marriage ever killing our love-life.
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
861283
Flowerkid,\nKind, caring, loving, gentle, trusting, honest, interesting, intelligent, understanding, christian, sexy, giving, sharing, etc. These are some of the things that made me attracted to my wife. She has always been a good listener and she is always there for me when I need her most. Never selfish and always willing to make me happy. In return I have always tried to do the same for her to the best I can. We have been married 35 years and I would not change a thing.\nTDCWH
749185
I've heard about 1-2 times per week is average.  That's my husband, usually.  I can get him every 2 days if I play my cards right...but my sex drive is MUCH greater than his...I would never cheat on him, and he would never cheat on me...but sometimes regardless of how um...satsfying it is for me...I want more.  So for some people it is stronger and for some people it is not strong at all...and that is normal.
633789
Same partner, I have been married for almost 6 years. A partner can give you more pleasure since they know you and what you like. A one night stand leaves you frustrated. Especially the female.
1106577
neither  \nthere are reasons it would be neither\ngreat lovers are doing something other than sleeping..\n\nthe guy who has a different lady every night  may learn what pleases him but is not staying around to find out what pleases the woman he is with\n\nthe guy with one woman   may or may not know how to please his lady. A lot of married women seem to have had years of trouble with their partners  poor bedroom performance. the two of them may both have started together as virgins and never learned anything better than the missionary position.
381930
most of us want cuddling and alot of foreplay. but, sometimes we want hard and fast too. it depends on the mood, how much time we have etc.
926594
could be you are just excited about something new.  this would be the time to try something new with your spouse and spice up your sex life.  good luck
1166772
Honestly (and I say this as a woman who has been married for 24 years) I think men are turned on by just about anything a woman does. Except if you ask them to do chores or change a diaper.
837005
Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.