How many people here lost their virginity out of wedlock?
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are you asking if someone has had sex before getting married in general?  or are you asking if someone has had sex before marriage with the person s/he are married to?  or are you asking if someone has lost their virginity to the one person they are married to?  those are all very different questions and have very different answers with different meanings.\n\ni can say- yes, yes and no.  i am very happy i did not marry the guy i lost my virginity to.  i was too young and dumb.  i am glad that i have had some experience before i met my current husband.  do i wish i had waited until marriage to my husband to have sex, not necessarily.  but i do wish i had waited a lot longer.  \n\ni am happy that my husband and i lived together and loved together BEFORE marriage.  we were married a little over a year after we met.  we've been together several years now.  the marriage is AWESOME, our sex life is great (7+ times a week- no lie).  but we were not virgins when we met, but we did have sex out of wedlock and became married.  it all depends on your heart's intent, level of religiousness (interpretation) and commitment level.  it CAN and DOES work (against my strict protestant upbringing)!
639324
I believe I do... but i think i blew my chances. We dated for a year in high school, and things were perfect. I totally loved him and vice versa... but we were not intimate, and he was a virgin... he wanted to do it, and i was scared. I wanted his first time to be special and not in the back seat of his car. \nWe ran into each other 7 years later, and i have 2 kids by this time....my ex was locked up so i was a free woman. He came to my house and told me one night that he couldn't believe my kids were not his. and i knew he still loved me.\n\nWe keep in touch. he is married now and I am engaged, but i know he was my soul mate. and I still love him so much. I wish him the best with his marriage, and cant wait to talk to him again.\n\ncongrats Heather for marrying yours. That is special.. \n\nI can see myself on one of those reuniting shows way down the line, asking to get back with mine.... but as time goes we are leading seperate lives.
1053815
Nope, I was a virgin until I was nineteen. I think I was the only virgin when I graduated high school! But I was proud of that, and the fact that I didn't cave in to peer pressure.
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Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
235129
well i have not have it till now\n\ni am still a virgin
157359
No I do not believe in sex before marriage. I got married when I was 24 (a little more than a year ago) and that's when I lost my virginity, and I am damn proud of it.. no regrets, extremely happy about :o) People should try it out, it's not like they're NEVER going to have sex... besides, it's more special.
416809
No it shouldn't! I got married at 28 and I was still a virgin! And I am a wild woman in bed!! My poor hubby cant keep up with me!!!
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Well, so far, I've tried it 5 times. Yeh, really. I am married for the fifth time. I still haven't realized that marriage is not for me, because it is. With the right person it's great.\n\nUsually the divorce is both people's fault. It lies on both people because they should have been discussing things. That involves 2 people. But if one doesn't want to talk, or thinks that there's nothing wrong, it's usually this person who is at fault.\n\nIn my last marriage, my ex wife was no sexual in the least. She was gorgeous but was not sexual nor sensual. Within the first 6 months of our marriage, I turned over one night to get amorous and she turned away. I stopped right there and told her that if I didn't get it at home, I'd get it elsewhere. She said "Do what you gotta do". So, end of discussion. Our marriage lasted 11 years and I did not have sex with her 11 times during that time. it ended up with me running around and having sex with another girl. So you could call this both people's fault, but I just got tired of masturbating to take care of my needs, because she wouldn't. I wanted a live person, a warm body, real sex instead of my hand. So after many years of frustration, you could say it was my fault for leaving.\n\nOK, it's usually both people who are at fault but in this case, I do blame my ex wife.
721110
Sure I did.I never wanted to get married,just wanted to do my thing.One night I was doing my thing and brought this nice guy home...he never left,ever.We have been together 17 years,married 13.
641689
I was twenty years old and i lost my virginity the night before my marriage to my future brother in law.  Needless to say I should of never married and that the marriage only lasted three years.
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My fiance' and I are getting married in dec. and we are both still virgins and proud of it. We have saved ourselves until our wedding night. We did this to be honoring of each other and to be honoring of God.
23648
nope not a virgin, Not being a virgin is classified as penatration process. If it goes "in" your not a virgin anymore.
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I AM A VIRGIN FOR 16 YEARS
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I am all for abstinence.\n\n\nThis is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
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I had sex for the first time when I was 17 and had multiple partners throughout the years.  I am now married and I regret not sharing this special intimate moment with him first.  I admire couples who had waited til marriage.  But when you're young, you don't always think of those things.
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lets see I have been to 6 weddings and all six are divorced.....sick....\nWhen my wife and I got married we got married for life...there is no way out of our marriage because we signed a agreement under the Lord's eyes and in one of his buildings....
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i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.