I recently dumped my bf of 5 years.i know he loves me but i dont....shud i go back to him?
360487
NO. It's unfair to the both of you.\nHe doesn't deserve someone who doesn't really love him and you don't deserve someone you don't really love.
124813
And he shouldn't give up his love of 5 years.  You just need to start dating again, find things you enjoy doing and do them.  Don't sit by dwelling on what you can't have, instead accept the things you cannot change and move foward.  If you and this person are supposed to be together, you will, in time, for now it is what it is and you just have to go about living your life and finding ways to bring joy and peace to your own life, like attract like and if you are down in the dumps that is exactly the type of person you are going to attract, shake yourself up and open your mind for the goodness that you deserve.
1175349
OK I  just went through a situation where my boyfriend left me because his ex ccame back into his life..I feel so miserable without him and i feel sick to my stomach...You need to be careful about what youdo..It could really hurt your boyfriends feelings..There must of been a reason why you broke up with your ex..so why are you wanting to go back out with him? AND if your not sure you dont love your boyfriend then dont lead him on..you just reallly need to think
190142
well theres a reason u 2 broke up, so think bout that first. sounds like u have ur mind made up tho to go back to him so let him down easy, say its for ur kids.feel sorry for ur current tho probably got along well with ur kids, so now u gotta tell him where he went if u go back to thier dad.
540665
No you shouldn't go back with your ex. He is your ex for a reason and sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past and move on with your life.
280348
I don't think you have true love there or his love. If he loved you then he would speak up or for you. Time to move on and find some one else that will.
1101508
you know am feeling really bad for you...i mean you love him so much but seems he doesnt values it...i know how painful all this is...whatever you have written here gives a hint that he doesnt loves you as much as you do & i think you are aware of this fact very well...thats the reason you are writting here...i would make no comments about your decision of going back to him was right or not because there is no point pondering over the past but you should be able to take a decision for your future...just tell me one thing, why do you want someone to be around even when you know he doesnt cares...you deserve a lot better than this jerk (am sorry to call him this but i think he really is)...i know its damn tough but i would suggest you move on & find a different meaning in life...how long can you keep on loving someone who doesnt loves you...am sure this might be affecting your confidence & self esteem as well...am sure you also want to get away from all this & start living life on your own...please gather all your courage & always remember that we shouldnt stay in something we are not sure of...concentrate on whats important in your life, your studies & all...& pray  & believe that god has made someone who'll love you the way you deserve & the way you'll love him...\nGod bless you...
299649
if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck
1181194
i think you should leave him. if he really cared about you and loved you he wouldn't have slept with someone else. he has hurt you and you could "never forget it". and i agree with you, it should've been OBVIOUS what to do if he's been with you for 6 years! if you forgive him and let him back into your life, he'll be even worse and go "play" with a whole bunch of other girls. he isnt worth your time . . . you should try to forget bout him and look for new people. \ni hope this helped (even though i dont really think it did)\nbut GOOD LUCK!\nhope everything works out for you = ]
877352
Question is ---Why would you want him back?  Find someone that will not be ashamed of you and would be proud to have you around and meet his family and friends.  Good luck
694357
It's just like riding a bike. It'll come back to you.  Also, how can you be so sure that it was you who was doing anything wrong?  Sometimes people decide, for whatever reasons, they don't want to be in a relationship any longer or they fall out of love with the person.  Obviously your boyfriend just didn't want to be in a committed relationship.  Yes, it's hurtful to be dumped, especially by somebody you really love and who doesn't have the decency or the balls to sit down and really be honest about why he really left (because he wanted to be able to screw at will) and not leave you trying to figure out what you did wrong.\n\nForget his azz (literally and figuratively).  Pick yourself up, go out with friends, keep moving forward and one day you'll look up and he'll be a distant memory and you'll find someone new.
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
653811
forget him, if he doesn't want you back find someone who is better than him - he'll want you back then, just like you want him back now\n\nyou break up for a reason, why get back together?  did things really change?  (they usually don't)
953374
im in the exact same situation but the fact is, you'll have good days with him and then other days when you realise that you 2 arent dating for a reason. he is still the same person, and he is the one who DUMPED YOU, find another guy, make him jealous and let him know that he cant have it. bc this is wat he is missing out on.\nthen if he falls in loves with you, this time he will mean it and then, only if you make him work REALLY hard to get you back and take you seriously and not like a toy, you might give him another chance.\nthen he will truely appriciate you and there is a lesser chance of you getting hurt again, but there is always a chance so becareful with your heart cuz u only get one!\nif things dnt work out, there are plenty other guys out there :)
621088
Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
1053662
Why did you break up in the first place? How long have you known each other? How long has it been since you broke up?  Do you want him back?  These are all questions you should be asking yourself.  Then perhaps you'll know if it's right for you to pursue him again or to just forget him and move on. :)
1144512
I've had the miss fortune of doing the same thing, except it was in a text message. \n\nI say dont go back unless there is a significant change in the relationship. I mean, he broke up with you..and caused you a ton of pain (I'm assuming)....who's to say he wont change his mind again and hurt you all over again. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him. I think that before you consider getting back together really think about if that is what you want, because it might not benefit you at all.