How do i spice up our relationship? Read details?
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I recommend writing about this yourself first of all.  Try jounaling or even writing it in a letter to her.  It always works best for me to get my own thoughts and feelings worked out completely before tackling something like this.  You need to look back and think about what you first felt when you met her.  Why did you feel that way?  Once you identify those things, it will be easier to work on bringing them back into your relationship.  \n\nI have been with my partner for just over five years and went through something similar.  For me it was the fact that when we first met, we were eachother's first priority.  We got dressed up for eachother. We tried to impress eachother still.  Now, our first priority is usually letting the dogs outside and figuring out what's for dinner.  It's not sexy or new or romantic anymore.  To combat this we've tried to plan ahead and build suspense.  For instance, even though we've lived together for a very long time, we try to plan a date.  We make sure the house is cleaned, homework is done, the bed is made, dinner is planned and groceries are purchased ahead of time.  Sometimes we still shower and get dressed up for eachother instead of just hanging around the house in our frumpy clothes.  We light candles.  We drink wine.  Sometimes we go out for dinner and a movie.  We make sure to really pay attention to eachother when we're talking.  \n\nAnyhow, that's just one suggestion.  You need to figure out what exactly it is that you're missing so you can figure out how to get it back.  Also, talk to her about this and let her know how you feel (of course be nice and tactful, don't attack her or it will be counter-productive).  She might be feeling the same way and you'll certainly make more progress if you work on this as a couple.  I recommend checking out a copy of "The Couple's Comfort Book" (I believe the author is Jennifer Louden) at your library or local bookstore.  It is full of great ideas for just this problem.  \n\nGood luck to you both!  \n\nFR
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Suggest doing something together that you guys have in common,(i.e jogging, reading, movies, traveling). He'll see how much fun you guys have together and then the rest is history. Good Luck!:)
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talk about tryin new things to gather. you just dont want to spring something on her shes not ready for. For starters try watching dirty movies, role play or even try out each others fantasy.
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Buy him some hand cuffs for a start and ask him to use them on you. As he gets more excited by it encourage him. If he begins to get more excited and interested, let him know how much you enjoyed it when he (insert action here). Let him think he is the one coming up with the ideas, and make suggestions, "Would you like to .... " With my husband, it was a small bit at a time at first, but after a bit, he came round big time.
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=do something fun together that is unusual for the both of you.  Have fun doing it and laugh a lot.  It will put both of you in the mood.
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Start light :)\n\nSmile at her. Tell her you are going for a nice evening walk and ask her if she wants to come with you. In that order. Repeat often~  \n\nAlso, if you have a small yard or a park nearby Bocci Ball is a fun way to get yourselves standing, bending and walking back and forth in the open air. It's a good low impact activity (like a quiet sexy elegant italian version of bowling) that could inspire more physical fun in your day to day life. If you have kids they can join in. It's so fun. If she won't play sober add a glass of wine to the invite. She'll like that. And one glass of wine a day has health benefits. And can spark romance. Ohh La La. ;) Go for it!\n\nIf you have a yard plant a vegetable garden with her. It's nice light physical work and spiritually healing. You'll be eating more veggies which means more energy, less sleeping.\n\nWalk to restaurants instead of ordering in. If you live in too rural an area to do that, drive to the restaurant but park a few blocks away and walk over.\n\nPose these things as small little daily romantic adventures that you have planned for you and her. These are things you are doing for her, and you as a couple so you can both continue to find joy in being alive and well together for a long time.\n\nMore motivation techniques:\nHold hands, kiss her in the kitchen, hug her in the den. Just small acts of physical affection will make you both feel more energized. Plus the chance that her husband may sweetly flirt with her will make a woman want to do more things to make herself more attractive.
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1)Both of u take a break and go for a holiday somewhere exotic...the change in scene might do good.\n2)bring in an element of mystery in your sex-life...play sex games.\n3)get sexy lingery and initiate sex.
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Well, there are all of the cliche things that you can do, like a romantic dinner, or a walk along the park, however I would suggest a different path. Think of something you might have done as a child, and do it with him. Think of something completely stupid to do, or even a little childish maybe. I know my gf and I do a lot of things like that, and that is when we really bond. For example, catching fireflies on a summer night, or baking cookies together. Just think of everyday things, and do them together.
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Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routine we forget how we got there in the first place.  There are ways to rekindle the passion: go out on a date (just the two of you) once in a while, make a "just us" evening once a week like sitting and listening to music together.\nMy partner and I usually designate Friday evenings for "us" time, we sit and watch a movie together (no matter how silly the movie is).
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do you two like any of the same activities? if so then do that together, do something to have fun so you will both be relaxed and not so focused on forcing the other to talk
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You need to spend a day away from eachother. . .Send him off doing something he loves and then doll yourself up girl for when he gets home it's tim efor a little seduction ( ; \n\nUse that Extra lb to ride it harder than ever before ( ; He'll love it girl ( ; \n\nI hate to be blunt but, truly it will be good for both of you to do that ( ;
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You should respond like this:\n\nLook great, smell great and smile when he opens the door.\nBring beer or wine (oops or coke if you are younger than that) and hope he was smart enough to have snacks.\nRelax.....sing, play guitars and have fun.  \nThere is no need to read A THING into anything...that is the problem these days.  \nIf it happens it does...if it doesn't that is even better.  \n\nThe best thing about a new relationship (which yours sounds like) is the mystery and nervousness and the smells and the surprise.  Just enjoy!
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Do fun things with your guy.Learn about each other.\nand it will go just right.
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give him new ways of making love
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Ok here goes i am gonna talk here for a while so i hope i dont bore you lol. Romance her and spoil her rotten ... Treat her like a queen. Make sure you let her know and feel how special she is to you every day and how sexy and pretty she is! Love her in actions and deed and tell her how much you love and treasure her and that she means everything to you and that you are so glad to have her in your life as she makes you really happy! Hold hands and spend lots of time together with her. Buy her little gifts here and there just because and cards too! Buy her a special pretty necklace! Take her to dinner at a romantic resturant like the Olive Garden or something like that! You do this enough it will become and habit and a way of life for you! The secret is to treat her the way you want to be treated and love and cherish her for who she is! Always find ways to make her feel special and call her throughout the day too just to say hi and that you are thinking of her and that you love her! Also be a good listener and communicate with her. Always be honest and faitful and never hide things from her and be committed no matter what.... If you do this trust me it will work and she will be yours forever!
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There is ALWAYS time for things that are important enough. I suggest you do something to spice things up. Try something romantic...like secret admirer notes left for her....or try something different. Perhaps she has asked you to do something that you have said "no" to. Well....do it. Surprise her! That's what she's asking of you. \n\nMake dinner or have lunch/dinner/breakfast sent to her job/dorm room/home. Make a webcam video of you dancing aound seductively..it will either turn her on or make her laugh. Either way it's good. \n\nJust be consistent and maybe encourage her to help spice things up too. I mean....sheesh..ur probably a lil bored at this point too.
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do what you need to do! was there something you two did at the beginning of your relationship that you don't do now? if so, do it! try surprising him with something special (not just gifts but if that works for you then do it). Be spontaneous!