I'm in this relationship and well to say my boyfriend tries to control me in the relationship what do I do?
366239
Talk to him and if he doesn't stop... get rid of him. Believe me, I've seen what it can do, not pretty!
1044617
Boyfriend, don't do it! \n\nBe blessed and don't jump into that forced mess.
706426
Get rid of your boyfriend, not your friends!  He's too controlling and that will create major problems for you later!
242317
This isn't a situation of boyfriend advice. It's full out relationship common sense that's on the table here.\n\nFrom your description, your boyfriend wants your attention exclusively. Which is why you're great when alone together. He's not comfortable sharing you with others for whatever reason. Maybe he feels they'll convince you to leave him, or maybe it's that he doesn't like your friends. I don't know, but there is a reason. Whatever the reason, it needs to be discussed between you two and sorted out.\nIf you don't sort it out and you stay together it means only two choices. Either you're the fighting couple or you'll be your own company and not have other social activities.\n\nWhat this comes down to is what you want for your life. Remember, this is a relationship, a two-way street. If you want to still have your friends and he doesn't that is his choice, just as it was his choice to stop having his friends. Yes, you made the same choices, but you want to turn those around and have your friends as well as have him.\n\nTalk with him. Find out why he's so jealous. If it's something that can be worked out, then great. If it's not, then you have to take a look at the direction the relationship is going and what you want for your life. Decisions will have to be made and they won't be easy ones.\n\nI wish you the best and I hope I helped in some way.\n\nUpdate:\nI just saw your update and wanted to add this.\nYou've had these talks and from your description they're not moving anywhere.\nFrankly, it's time to make a decision for yourself. You can't hold back your life waiting for something to become resolved. Take action and make a decision. I think you should lay it on the line and tell him that either it's got to change or it's over. From all you're saying that seems to be the choices that are out there. Don't be afraid to put it on the line and make the hard decision.\nIt will all work out. I'm sure of that.
890225
Please do not start anything with him or anybody while in a relationship with another. What goes around comes around and you will be asking for the same in your relationship with that person.
861994
Perhaps it's in his nature to be obstinate. Tell him if he doesn't stop this behaviour, you're going to dump him. If he appreciates you enough, he'll stop.
586686
Get rid of him.  If he won't let you be your own person he's not worth it.  Also if he doesn't trust you then you have to ask yourself if you can trust him.  Believe me you can do better!
917558
wow small world i tell you. i love my bf and he loves me and would do anything for me as far as i know.hes ina different state and hes movin back in a few months. theres this guy that keeps hittin on me tho. honestly theres nothing you can do about it you need to talk to the gurl and have her talk to him about if she truly loves you she will handle it the way she feels it should be handled.thats all i can say i hope everything works out for you guys
906524
Acutally you hit upon the problem you said he manipulates you, that's NOT love.  That is seeking control and that IS a type of abuse, that usually turns into physical abuse later on.  What you should do is to decide if you want to be with someone who would stoop to manipulate and control you and possibly get physically violent with you later on in the relationship or if you want to be with someone who loves you for who you are and appreciates and respects you.  It's your call.
908494
What kind of drama was his aunt talking about?\nI think your boyfriend wants his cake and to eat it too.\nYou sounded really good and I was proud of you....for a while....until the last 3 words..."I don't think"\n\nWhy would you let someone treat you this way? He humiliated you, lied to you...what else? People will only do to you what you allow them to do. \n\nTo get respect, you must demand respect.\n\nShame on him.
514117
You don't need a boyfriend who tries to control what you do.  Move on.
564523
Your 'creature' is controlling you! This is NOT a good relationship, nor is it healthy for either one of you. Draw the line now! Speak to whomever you want. If he gets mad, tell him, "Goodbye." Short, swift, and mean what you say. Don't wishy wash on this, or you will be in for some serious problems from now on. It will escalate to beating, abuse, you name it. You are in a bad relationship that is not going to get better.
1113585
I think he's a control freak and you're a fool for keeping him around. Send him packing and find somebody you can trust, somebody who'll treat you right.
270474
Don't let the people get in between you two. If it's the real thing, work hard to keep it. Then again think about why they are trying to come between you two. Do they fear he'll hurt you? If so talk to them about it and tell them you can make your own decisions.
939257
hey\n\nwell you know my intake on that! definately not love. he  wants the power over you to control you .  and you dont want to be with a guy who just uses you.
1181584
Some people like having ultimate control over another and you can change everything about that by simply not being vulnerable to it. Tell him you are human and you don't want a romance between you two to become a burden. Let him know you will have your friends and if he dislikes one or all of them, he doesn't have to deal with them...but that you are to also be trusted. \n\nSounds like a lot of tension on his part too, sometimes being the best thing that ever happened to someone is scary.. but you have to learn to stand up and fight back against things that bother you. If he truly loves you, you can never really mess it up unless you're being unfaithful or cruel to him in some way. If you are innocent, I say you do what you want and help him get over it as well.
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NOBODY DESERVES TO BE IN THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH TRUST ISSUES. IF YOU GUYS REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YOU TWO HAVE TO STAY STRONG AND DON'T GIVE UP ON EACH OTHER. TELL HIM EVERYTHING THAT IS ON YOUR MIND AND JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT IT WILL BE OVER IF YOU HAVE TO ACCUSE HIM FOR DOING SOMETHING. TELL HIM TO BE HONEST AND IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE GIRL YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO BE STRONG AND LET GO . YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM IF HE IS GOING TO TREAT YOU LIKE 2ND'S YOU NEED TO BE FIRST . SO GOOD LUCK AND STAY A STRONG WOMAN