How can I stop cutting /reduce the urges to cut?
368476
the fact that you recognize that it's a problem and you want to stop is a great start. i used to cut and still sometimes get the urge. the best thing to do when you feel the need to cut is to call someone and talk about whatever it is that's making you feel like doing it. and if that person doesnt answer the phone or feel like talking call the next person, and the next person. if your still in school you can see a counsler and if not you could talk to friends, family, co-workers...even someone online you dont have to tell them your cutting but talking about whatever happened that made you want to cut will help... good luck. \n\ni also think it's really awesome of all the people who come on here and share their stories it helps to know you're not alone and it's much better than someone telling you "don't cut it's dumb"   =)
103794
Don't bother, the only way to get rid of a temptation, is to give in to it ;-P
899990
if you wanna stop all you have to do is use self control. it will be hard if your that "addicted" but if you put your mind to it, i think you can stop.
1106145
You just need to build up your self control. When ever you get..."urges"... try to think about something else or buisy yourself by doing something like exercises or go for a walk. I know the temtation is hard to over come but with time it works. Praying for strength might help too ;)
1136871
I hate giving this answerbut the only answer is Self_control... Good luck...Try cutting back and using some sugar free candy...
871868
I'd go down to the next lower step and see how your urges are.\nHope you succeed in your attempt to quit.
953949
Cutting is an interesting action and one that causes great concern to a parent. I know kids that just outgrew the need.  If you have developedd the skills to cope without cutting yourself, it may be time to develope the skills to discuss this with your parents. You are the most important person to them and they are hovering because they do not want you to hurt yourself - just at the time in your life when you would like more freedom. So work on getting that trust and independence balance back. Start with a chat. But remember, you are not a renter in the house so you will not be ignored - you are a family member and need family interaction too.
603238
well it seems clear to me you need to stay away from alcohol ! Good luck ! if you're tempted - grab a friend to hang with and stay busy til the urge passes.
1047951
Cutting is primarily associated with Borderline Personality Disorder.  Perhaps you could look it up for further information.
335049
you don't want add cuts to your body \nyou want your body to be cut\n\nlower your fat (running, swimming, biking, etc)\nlots of reps (do the exercise lots of times) with weights (keep the weight at a level that is challenging but not so heavy that you can not do at least 15)
681877
Take estrogen to dampen your male urges.  That is guaranteed to work.  One point worth mentioning to you, we women have incredible self control which you men lack--hahaha.
696098
I have been a cutter since I was 11...I am now 18. I have also been in and out of rehab. You need to take it a day at a time. I just kept telling my self " I am not going to hurt myself today" and if I had to say it over and over and over again, I did.  Try that... if you mess up, dont get upset, just keep going.. So what if you mess up, just keep trying not to do it...its not the end of the world if you slip up. I also paint...I find that able to get some of my emotions out. I havent  cut in maybe 1 month...and you know what treat yourself to things and do things for yourself since you deserve them. Someone told me that you have to be selfish and focus on yourself in order to get better. I hope what I've said helps. If you belong to a church you might want to get involved in group with people your age. You might be suprised I did that, and I found that people were going through the same things I was. \nYou can email me if you want to talk. \nSavedbygrace2_8@yahoo.com
726778
First of all...CONGRATULATIONS!  Every day you are sober is a day to be celebrated.  You should be very very proud!\n\nNow, as far as the urges go...no, they don't go away completely.  That's what sucks about this.  My only advice to you is to try and get to a meeting and get yourself a sponsor (if you haven't done this already).\n\nAnd, of course, no matter how tempting...even one drink could put you right back to square one.  It is your choice to drink or not to drink...but once you take that first drink...then the alcohol takes over and really bad things happen.\n\nOne day at a time, my friend.  One day at a time.\n\nAgain, congratulations!
586539
if the counseling is not working, find a new counselor, psychiatrist, etc.  some people go through quite a few before finding one that works well for them.\nmy own history is rather full of self cutting and as for myself i just sort of outgrew it as the desire became less and  less over the years...but it wasn't like i outgrew it in a year, it was more like ten.  and some of it gets hard as to what to count or not.  i always greatly enjoyed skateboarding and always skated better when i was depressed and thinking of cutting myself, so i guess it was a f*** it if i get hurt thing going on there.  i also went through numerous piercings before i realized i was doing it since it was more socially acceptable to have a hoop than a self created scar.\nas for understanding it...its not really something you probably can, people either seem to understand it (cause they have been there) or not.  it was almost like self medicating for me, like a reset switch that would refocus me and i would feel better for awhile after wards.  it definitely wasn't a healthy habit and i came close several times to killing myself which is scary now to look back on but at the time wasn't bothering me all that much.  most cutters i have known though, there "habit" hasn't really gotten worse, meaning that, a cut was a cut and there wasn't a drive to make bigger or more cut/s intentionally next time.\n...it felt very "real," i felt "alive" again after doing it, and able to focus more, it was like i could snap myself out of being depressed by cutting myself.  being yelled at about it didn't help at all, if anything it made me feel worse.  though i was fine if i felt like someone was talking to me, trying to understand why i did it and not being overly judgmental about me for it.  so i would recommend very neutral conversations about it with her for awhile.\nwriting really helped me alot to work things out, though it never stopped me from cutting myself...but a writing hobby can't hurt any.  you might want to try to determine if she is taking "trial" runs at a real suicide attempt, though really try to be very neutral and diplomatic about this.\nits also something that doesn't really seem to ever go away 100%, i am rather fond of my scars, though i know many people who are ashamed of theirs, and i still think about it ever so often but for some reason just don't do it.  i guess i should add i was always most prone to cutting myself if i realized i was going into a depression, or when i was coming out of one, so maybe that might help you determine when she is most at risk, though i'm sure it varies for different people.  anyway...i don't mind talking about really, so feel free to email or message me if you want.  hope this helps some.
726949
Self mutilating is another issue. I'm sure you had to see a Dr. to determine that you are Bi-polar. PLEASE,PLEASE go and talk to the Dr. I had and I mean literally HAD a friend who was Bi-polar, and was also a cutter, and she did such a good job, that she is no longer here in this life. The only way to help yourself is to face it and get the help you need. Praying for you...
174205
you need to give yourself a little bit of what you want otherwise you'll keep craving it and then you'll binge, just cut down slowly but you dont ever have to cut it out completely, just eat in moderation, also try lollipops coz you get the sweet taste that should take the edge off the cravings
554106
When I feel the 'urge' coming on, I sit down, at the table, grab and ice cold Water, and drink it slowly BEFORE YOU EAT. And think, do I really need this sweet junk? You know the answer. YOu dont have to totally cut it all out, just replace.\nfor example; quakers chocolate chip rice cakes instead of a choclate bar\n\nlow fat ice cream\n\npopsicles, smoothies, yoghurt, pretzels are sweet but healthy.\n\nIf urges are super-bad, swallow some vinegar.