If there is any abuse in a relationship? how long until you left if it wasn't physical?
364847
my dad verbally abused me (he said he wished i was never born in his own "special" way and said i was a terrible son, husband, father, provider, etc).  i promised years before that i would scatter his ashes in an open waterway but if he doesn't leave me money for this deed, i will be glad to flush him down the toilet.  after all "all water ways lead to the ocean" (from finding nemo), right?\n\ni haven't spoken to him since and i don't intend to no matter what he brings to the table.
97141
First question are you being phsyicaly abused? if so you should like you need to ask yourself is do you want to stay in this. If you do you only asking for what is being handed too you. If you want to get out of it what you should do is seek a lawyer. if you can't afford it then seek Legal aid they can help you for a small fee or no cost. Some states sence he if he is phsycaly abusive you might be able to seek a court order for him to be exparte from the resendence and also request that Tempory Spoucal support be paid till the divorce is over. You can also in some states seek what is called a bed and board divorce. This means you get the marrial resendence. I would HIGHLY reocmmend if he is physicaly abusive to you contact a lawyer ASAP! If this is a problem you can file it down at the court house. And seek consoling as no women or man should ever have to put up with phsycal abuse.
477877
no I thought I knew him dated 6 years but now he turned abusive and I never thought he would do that.by the way thanks for your rude answer to my question.a person never deserves to be abused even if I was bitter which I wasn't I just wanted him to show he cared.but after being abused by someone I thought loved me and would never hurt me yes I am bitter now.
617277
Emotional is far worse than physical.  A spouse may go through a period of weakness - and seek outside physical contact - but that betrayal does not in any way mean that he/she has stopped loving their spouse - they just have a period of weakness --- However when you get involved emotionally outside the marriage, that means something else again ---- many spouse that cheat confuse emotional attraction and just physical attraction --- and the spouse may be temporarily ( 1 day 1 week or months) "addicted" to the outside influence that they think is emotional when it is only passion for physical contact with someone else --- In time a spouse that cheated will return and the love he/she has for their spouse remains ----  Love in a marriage means MUCH more than physical contact -- and that is not to minimize the hurt and brtrayal caused by a spous that cheats ---- but cheating by and of itself DOES NOT need to mean the end of the marriage ---- obvioulsy, there was something missing in the marriage for the betrayal to occur
1173447
This is a classic abusive relationship.  You have got to get away from this person before things get worse.  I know you love her, but you cannot allow someone to treat you that way.  Look at it this way, if the situation was reversed, and you treated her that way, would you expect her to stay with you?
312453
you just think you are in the way.you seriously nedd to get out of this relationship,do you wanna die?this is abuse and it is so wrong,im sorry you are going through this.plz leave before it gets worse,he thinks he can scare you into staying cuz he can beat you up.saying you are in the way is a copout.plz leave.it will only get worse.ok,once they start hitting,they dont stop,next your family will be planning your funeral.plz plz leave  best of luck
771421
Good for you for making the very difficult decision to leave. I don't know if you have gone to counseling. That can be a good step in moving on. Some shelters for abused women have free counseling programs even for women who have not lived there. Also there are often non-profit counseling centres. If you are in North America call 211 or your local community information center for more details.\n\nI had a bad five year relationship that began to be physically abusive by the end. In my situation, I found that talking to an experienced counselor helped. I also got involved in activities that I had let slide when I was with my ex. I spent a lot of time reconnecting with old friends. It's a good time to explore new hobbies too. If you can't think of one, think of what you most loved doing as a child (painting, singing, writing...) and maybe take something like that up again. This is your time to find out more about you. I wish you all the best!
76540
You need to get your act together, but you also need to leave if you are that miserable. Additionally, you need to leave if he has hurt you. You have already describe emotional abuse. Has he physically hurt you? If you have family start there. Even if you haven't been close with them family will usually come though for you. There are also shelters (some good and some are not so good), but you can get help there. Once you have gotten away you can get help with getting a place set up. there are community, church, and government programs for everything from relocation to training to child care. It is unlikely that he could get custody of the child unless there are drugs or child abuse on your side of things. It is also, however, unlikely that he would not get visitation. if you believe that he might take the child you want supervised visitation! In any case, keeping your safety in mind you will probably have this person in your life for some time as he is the father so you will also need to stand up to him at some point. But do that when you are in a stronger position and stronger emotionally.
218216
you should never have punched a woman.  you deserve for her to leave you.  men who abuse never change... go to counseling and try to work out your issues.
104376
That my dear is abuse and you don't have to take it.  I don't know what state you are in but he just might get surprised about just throwing you out.  If it were me I'd move all his stuff out, change the locks, change the phone numbers and see how he likes that.
1171786
no sure how long you two have been dating, but beware.  Guys who usually rush into marriage thinking should send up warning flags.  I was in a relationship that moved like that one, and he was very emotionally abusive, and would most likely have been physically abusive if we had gotten married.
916720
Sweetie, just because he isn't physically abusing you doesn't mean he's not still abusing you.  He's traded in the fists for emotional abuse.  That's what he's doing when he tells you he hates you and other hurtful things.  You need to get out of that relationship as soon as you can.  get yourself into some counseling so you understand why you chose to be with an abuser, and move on.  I understand completely where you're coming from, I've been there.  Since I've gone to counseling and stuff, I've come to understand myself so much better.  You will, too.  When you do, it will help you choose a different type of guy.....one that won't abuse you.  I've finally found my Mr. Right, and you will, too.  You just need to get out of this relationship.  Email me if you want to talk some more.  I'm a good listener :)
895555
Yes.  It depends on the charge and your location.  Go to a search engine and type in the name of your state, then 'state judiciary home page' and hit 'search'.  It should pull up the home page with the laws for your state.  You can look at the laws regarding abuse, sentencing, etc.  If someone is being abused, you need to talk to them and help them find the strength to leave themselves.  Otherwise they'll just go back because that's what they know, that's what's safe.  I've been there.  Be there for them.  Talk to them.  There are also restraining orders, which can be taken out at your local court house.  They're very cheap and affordable.  The police are also more than happy to put a trespassing warrant on your property for you, so if somebody walks onto your lawn, you can simply phone and have them removed without dirtying your hands.  Good luck.
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.
567923
LEAVE...NOW. you never knoe wen he will become violent with weapons. unless he already does but you are putting your life in danger by being with him. why would he hit you if he loved you? he just wants you there so he has something to hit. get help now! its your life you are allowing to be abused. STOP TODAY
219475
Slow down and take it easy..to soon for something that is serious enough that might lead to marriage. You just came out of one relationship that was abusive please don;t get caught in that web again...Lady
716758
You don't have to show abuse. If she drops the kids off with other people for months at a time, that is abandonment.  If she is moving around and living with different guys, that is neglect.