Why does marriage make me hate so much. Why can't I just let go and stop caring about  my beliefs?
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Cauese you have your own opinions and would like for them to count for something. If your going to stay married to him you will have to learn to agree to disagree. He sounds like a selfish person who will not allow someone else to have what they believe to be right...C
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Yes it can it can totally make you begin to dislike them and even start to hate to be around them. This is a very serious situation and she needs to start taking you more seriously. It seems like this is making serious problems in your marriage. If this does not worry her then maybe she isnt concerned about losing you and her marriage. Try talking to her again and if she is still acting the same way leave it alone. she will see when she looks up and you will be gone
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Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
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It isn't anyone's place to tell you how you is right or wrong.\n\nI can tell you this. Hate uses up a lot of energy. \n\nI was face with a big forgiveness issue a few years back. I found for me that I first needed to define what forgiveness wasn't rather than what it was.\n\nIt is not saying it is ok what was done to me.\nIt is not saying I have to trust this person\nIt is not saying I have to let this person hurt me again.\n\nSo what did I conclude it was for me? For me it is just letting go and letting be. It freed me up to focus on going on with my life and establishing relationships with other people who would not be hurtful to me.\n\nMy two cents worth any way.\n\nI wish you the best.
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I WAS married for a long time and it took me a long time to get the strength to leave him. I should of done it sooner. If you are scared find some sort of support group or email me. \nOnce I was away from him, I realized how crazy things and it was way worse then I ever imagined. I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. But, it can be broken if things are bad enough.  Find a friend who you can depend on to do what you must do. If you have exhausted all hope of improving things, then you need to gather your wits and be strong and do what you need to do. I stayed way to long and it really harmed my two youngest children. They paid a huge price.
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Well i love someone but i will get married with someone i dont love. This is a big sacrifice for me, but i dont want to make sacrifice but i ma helpless, i cant do anything.\nThis is my life.... full of sacrifices...\n\nIs this same with you... tell me something more about your life.. email me on sam_kel2004@yahoo.com
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It's easy to understand your anger.  But, your anger is the same anger they have, intolerance.  I'll admit their beliefs are fucked up, but hating them only puts you on their level.  You obviously care about people being free and equal, don't let these assholes bring you down.
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My sympathies, I myself had to go through it, over ten years ago... and it is a hard thing to come to terms with. I hope for your sake that their marriage didn't end nastily, as that will make things easier for you. \n\nJust remember, it was nothing to do with you, you did nothing wrong, its just that they are two people who are unsuited to one another, and they are doing the sensible thing and moving in different directions. It is nothing to do with hating each other or anything like that, they just have to live their lives apart, and probably the key thing in their minds is that this doesn't hurt you too much. \n\nLife is full of trials, and it is how we deal with them that marks us as worthy people. You can either be a victim of the situation and sink, or you can rise above it, and become stronger. It is very empowering to know that you've survived something tough and come out smiling. \n\nBest of luck, keep talking to people, don't bottle things up, and you will be ok.
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What, did you just wake up! The real hypocrisy is being married to someone you don't want to be married to, and further, being sexually frustrated. Loosen up for Christ's sake! You don't have to be a Christian to say you're one! What your question anyway?"
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honey I so feel your pain. I want to give you some advice and please read carefully. Do not waste one more moment of your life fretting over this woman. This situation will always be a thorn in your side if you let it. DONT LET IT. You said your not a hateful person but if you let it this or she will make you one. Trust me I have been married to a man for 10 years and his ex is the beast master GOG OF MAGOG.I finally had to let it go but it just about ate me alive before I realized. I became bitter, hateful, obsessed, you name it. It will hurt no one but you.
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This is ridiculous. Does religion or religious people bother you that much. How do you know that you won't meet someone that believes in God that is also really nice and worth spending time with. Atheist are no better than the rest of the religious groups. "Are way is the true way." Keep separating yourself from people. I'm sure that will really help you grow as a person or maybe you have grown all you care to? Why can't people be free to live and believe as they choose. If you make this atheist nation and the children born there want to believe in God and worship are you going to kick them out? I believe in God does that separate us so much that I am not welcome to be with you? Why do people feel the need to group together. Can't you have your own beliefs and stand alone? I would hate to think that your child would not ever get a chance to play with my child because of what us parents believe. Of course all this is based on the hypothetical.\nLove & Light\nSharon\nOne Planet = One People
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i feel that the two religions you have pointed out use scare tactics ,,,just as they have always done ,,,,,,making you feel like your worthless and that you will be in some sort of eternal hell if you do not believe LIKE tham ,,,,why people fall for this is beyond me .......i went to many churches as a young person and always left with a bad taste in my mouth ,,,,instead of teaching love ,tolerance ,compassion ,instead of teaching forgiveness all they seem to do is judge and go around in there own little world and think they are RIGHT.but do they live up to the ideals set down by Jesus ?????NO ! \nmuslims have there problems too and some of them [not all of course}actually are so filled with disdain for anyone outside their relgion well ,,,,,,you get the idea .,,,,,,\nthe desire to be RIGHT and then turn it around like they are doing you a favor by expounding there beliefs is pretty gruesome if you ask me ......\npound pound pound /brainwashing -------------------thank goodness i chose to keep an open mind and not go around insisiting people believe like me .........or making them feel sorry or afraid for the way they believe ------------------------------\ni am a spiritualist ,,i  do believe in a  higher spirit ,but my God loves and does not hate or judge ,,,,,,,,
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Do you believe in ALL parts of the Catholic religion? Do you follow all the beliefs of the Catholic religion? If so, then stay in your marriage. If you have doubts about some of the old fashioned ideas in your religion and do not wish to remain in a marriage where neither one of you could be happy, then get a divorce and move on with your life. If there are children involved, then it is unfair to them to live together just for the sake of the religion. They deserve happy parents, not ones that stay together for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't want to teach my children that no matter how bad their marriage is, they should stay because of their religion's belief. That would set them up to remain in an abusive marriage and possibly end up hurt or killed. I personally do not believe that the Lord would want me to live a lie and stay with a person that I was no longer in love with. I think he realizes that we make mistakes and I think he would be fine with us finding a remedy for our mistakes. If however you think that there is a chance to get back the feelings you had for your wife, then I would first work on fixing the problem. Maybe trying counseling either through your church or through a marriage counselor. I think that trying to work it out, unless the reasons for your changed feelings cannot be resolved, is the best thing to try first. I believe the Lord wants us to be happy, so do what you need to do to be happy!\n\nS.S.
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Good questions!  I like good subjest matter.  God is not some bug eyed monster up in the sky.  Why would he be all hateful when he needs us as much as we need him?  We do have free will, and i can do whatever i want because of it, but heres the rub, i was created by something with a view of the bigger picture.  So by virture of where i was born and my personality there are huge sections of human reality that will never even occur to me to do because of who and what i was made to be. Example : kiss my boyfriend, you betcha!; eat chocolate covered ants, hell no!
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SOMETIMES RELIGION..DOESNT REALLY MATTER JUST GO FOR THE ONES WHO WANTS TO STICK TO THERE RELIGION..IVE BEEN TO A LOT OF THEM..SAME OL SAMEOLE"..JUST FOCUS ON GOOD MARRIAGE..THATS WHAT MATTERS...ANYWAY NOTHIN TO BE SCARED OFF..I EXPERIENCE SAME...IT JUST ALL "BRAIN WASHING"
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Depends on the reason you hate people and the world and how often you feel this way, as well as how strongly.  If it is an all the time feeling, then you need to get to the heart of why you really feel that way, and work on what you can do to change it.  Seeing a therapist might help you to get there, but you must make the journey.  I would not suggest talking to a minister about those feelings - I tried that, and was only made to feel worse because of my "sinful" feelings.\n\nIf it is an occasional thing, then it is a normal thing - everyone feels that way from time to time.  Sometimes the emotion is quite intense - in those cases, the best thing I've found to do is to do something to get my mind off whatever is bothering me (FPS games help).
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I have no earthly idea why people keep insisting on defining marriage!  Why is this such a big deal?  There are so many things that are truly imporant that we can put our energy into solving rather than someones desire to marry someone of the same sex.  You certainly wont stop them from having a relationship.  What are you doing that the government will decide to ban next?  Frankly, whatever goes on in my underpants is none of the governments business.  All of those who are in support of BIG GOVERNMENT telling you how to conduct your private lives had better watch out, you may get more than what you bargained for.  Obviously, since this question keeps coming up over and over, there are more people out there that have little else to do but worry about this nonsense.  If this has to do with Christianity, divorce, partner swapping, adultery, sexual abuse, spousal abuse, etc. have already made a mockery of marriage so who cares if homosexuals want a part of it.  I think there is something in that big Bible that you all are thumping that says that we have all have free will....Please stop trying to legislate morality and personal decision that have absolutly nothing to do with you.  If you dont want to marry someone of the same sex, DONT.  And no, I am not gay, I am just not so hypocritical that I feel I need to impose my lifestyle on others.