How do you stop yourself from sounding like a complete idiot (i.e. rambling) in front of your crush?
367742
I would recommend that you just try and relax and slow down. Through personal experiences i have learned that 99% of the time you are worrying over nothing, and there is a good chance your crush is feeling the same way you are. I would recommend trying to break the ice by using humor or if your not good at that just talk about things that interest you. If your crush isn't interested in those things then you probably wont work out anyways because you have none of the same interests. Just remember there are plenty of fish in the sea, relax, if you don't get this one you will find another.
472699
First off... If you don't know what you did wrong, you didn't do anything wrong. Their problem is simple immaturity, possibly due to their own (unadmitted) crushes on him? \n\nSecondly, there really isn't anything you can do to make them stop talking about you. You can minimize the damage by NOT talking badly about them, in return. If someone mentions to you something they say, just respond with "Yeah. I don't get why they are saying those things, but that is their problem." This keeps you from appearing defensive and/or vindictive.
171070
just dont think so much. Calm down and act like you always would around anyone else. put the hotness thought in the back of your head and just let things flow.
96501
for me... NOT POSSIBLE ask anyone who knows me, has ever met me or spent ANY amount of time with me.\n\nIt's sooo very easy... just move you lips and words will come out... if there is sound you are talking... if no sound you are just thinking... verbalize your thoughts... how else will anyone know what you are thinking.\n\nDon't worry about what people are going to think... if it's your opinion it deserves to be heard.
639776
Don't worry about impressing her. Be yourself, and she'll feel more comfortable too. But if you do stumble over a few of your words, or forget what you were going to say, be willing to laugh at yourself. It will make you look more confident than you feel. Good luck!
403000
Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.
397094
Do you really think is necessary to verbalize your feelings?\nProbably your actions are doing the job for you already!\n\nIt's great to be in love with someone or have a big crush on, isn't it?\n\nBut if you have the feeling that somehow you will scare the guy, step back, take a deep breath and pay a little bit more attention in what his actions are telling you.\n\nYou are too involved with your own feelings right now. And it is not necessary. You know you like him, don't you?\n \nSo, try to work at your favor!\nPay attention on him, instead of trying to find a way to tell him how you feel. \n\nJust relax and enjoy the guy's company for a while, okay!?
259736
I know how you feel. In school, I was commonly made fun of for it. What you may want to try doing is pause for a moment and think about what you are saying, even if it's something simple, like, "Where can I find the ladies room?" or something. If you do, however, end up stuttering, have a sense of humor about it, instead of getting frustrated. That, or do what Porky Pig does and think of a different word in place of the one you cant quite make out.
978721
Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much. \n   Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams. \n   When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.
220126
Ignore them.  Instead, concentrate on yourself.  Emphasize your strengths and strive to improve where you have room for it.  Don't base your opinion of yourself on idiots flaunting themselves.
100222
Just do it.\nDon't try to do it. It takes you learning to keep your mouth shut. Everytime a wild thought pops in your mind. remember to shut up and listen to the other person.
405984
Just be the life of everything u do. Stand out, speak a little louder, smile more. dont be afraid to say something, to anybody. speak ur mind. dont be embarrassed.
865625
i had the same problem (till i found my girlfriend).  The key is confidence in yourself, without acting arrogant.  You just have to not concentrate on the fact that you like the guy, and concentrate on what hes chattin about.  You could tell him that you get nervous around guys you like, then you have an excuse when you stumble your words, and he'll be flattered.\n\nGood Luck!
956473
No, as I've gotten older I've found it much easier to approach others. But that's beside the point really. What you need to do is force yourself to come up to people in your class. Your teacher, and your friends out in public. Just start by saying "Hi" and go from there. :) People love talking and if you get a big "talker" then you won't have to worry about saying much. Never be afraid of what people think of you. You are your own person and you shouldn't care what they think. If you say something stupid, laugh it off! I have to a lot. Goodness, just the other day that happened to me and I just laughed. It's like walking into a pole in front of a guy you have a crush on. You just step back, say "wow, that was stupid" and start laughing! It's really freeing! Trust me, I have actually run into things around guys that I've liked in the past! Yeah, it's embarrassing, but that feeling goes away after a while and you feel more confident in yourself. Good luck to ya!
945590
I think you are obsessing about this girl.  It's not uncommon, we all did that...I know I did, boy after boy after boy when I was young!  The reason you can't sleep is you can't find an outlet for your feelings.  The only way to get rid of your restlessness and obsession is to let your feelings out or to act on them.  You know I bet if you were to talk to an adult about this...to a school counsellor, someone you trust to hold your confidence in this matter, they could help you.  Someone who knows you both could actually even pull you together, at least close enough so that you would TALK to this poor girl who is likely clueless to your feelings towards her.  \n\nWhat do you mean it's "a crush on her personality".  That sounds like you really admire her and have a great deal of respect for her, that she has qualities that you either like in a girl or would want for yourself.  Sometimes we obsess with people because we want to be like them.\n\nYou should try to get involved with her somehow, in conversation, in class, in a sport or event.  If all else fails you could write her a letter and tell her your feelings.\n\nJust say, hey, I have to get this off my chest because I can't stop thinking about you and I am very shy, but I think you are terrific.  I don't want you to panic.  I'm not going to stalk you, but I just had to let you know that you are the epitome of a woman and you just had to let her know....something like that where you are not saying I LOVE YOU!!! or making her feel scared or threatened or self-conscious. \n\nYou know even if you write these letters and never give them to her, you will do yourself a favour.  But you can't go on the way you are obviously...so one way or another the story has to end...or begin...the point is something will change when you make a move forward, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad, but at least you won't be "stuck"...which is the worst thing in the world...I know I've been there and sooner or later you gotta take the risk.\n\nYou sound like a really nice boy.  My daughter is goign through this phase in high school and I think girls like it when guys just be themselves and make a move and do anything...like this boy threw leaves in her hair today and she's telling me about it and yesterday he told her she looked goth with her hair the way she styled it...it's little baby steps that get you there...say nice things to girls...they like that...just be yourself as you would with any of your other friends and you're already friends with her brother...so let her see what a great guy you are when you're with him.  You're already IN there...get over that shyness boy! :~)
295344
1.  Avoid doing it online.  Your grammar and spelling are atrocious.  You'll only attract the morons.\n\n2.  Brush your hair and teeth, shower, shampoo, use deodorant (I'm not saying you don't; but if you don't, do!)\n\n3.  Ask about THEM.  Don't talk about yourself.  Everyone loves to talk about themselves to someone who cares.  Nothing is more flattering than a good listener.
735156
I used to be like you.\nI still hesitate to say something in front of my friends because how ridiculous it might end up coming out as.\n\nBut I learned that it doesn't matter. Just have fun with the conversations and if they laugh, laugh WITH them. : }\n\nYou'll grow out of the embarrassment.