this boy that live with me is learnig  discipline and he be lying to our family about not having it .why he li
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well then you need to sit down with him and tell him that you are the boss and he is going to have to listen to you or your parents.or he will go back to where he came from.
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Give him some space,  if there is some family problems going on, maybe he is just stressed out, and he lashed out at you.  Dont take it to heart, but give him the space that he needs, but dont wait for him either.  Go on with your life, and when he realizes what a jerk he was to you, he will call you.
1154183
You seem like you too are young. You need to tell his parents to get him into some type of help program quick. Even if he's upset with you for it, this may save his life.
499653
Tell him it's your son and you don't approve of him doing that.\n\nIf he does it again either keep him away from your family or kick his a@@.
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Well, the best advice i can give you is to talk to him about it.  You need to explain to him that that's not the way to talk to your family and he needs to explain his differences with your family differently and more respectfully.  Include that you will not put up with his crap and that he needs to get his act together or you don't need to associate with him any more.
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Well you can't stay with him through guilt you have to be fair to him and yourself!\n\nExplain to him that you love and care for him and that you don't want to hurt him but quite obviously he is not in a great mental place right now!\n\nIf you truly believe that he will do something silly you need to let his family know so that you and him will get as much support as possible!\n\nGood luck i hope things work out for the best!
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This is one of the reasons I quit teaching.  Parents need to take more responsibility for their children's actions.  If it comes down to the word of your child vs. the school's, it is a good bet that the school is correct.  There are counseling opportunities that your son could use in his school to help him with the issues that he is dealing with, which may be manifesting in the form of poor behavior.
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yeah im working on this too but my parents are all about grades and shit not that stuff. uhhh what im doing, and it seems to be working, is to take more responsibility and like do crap around the house without them asking. come home when ur told, do stuff u wouldnt normally do, make sure u can do everything to help them out that u possibly can. suck up, be a tool, good luck.
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Why did your Mom tell you this? Is he telling her these things,and if so,why? I would tell him to lay off or you will slap a slander suit on him for telling others, lies about you.
412093
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
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My first response is to smack him!....No don't..lol...it would help if we knew how old he was. But parents, and I am a parent, we do stupid things. Sometimes or most of the time, without realizing it. If we are busy we pass things off on our children to do and when we hear complaints, whether legitimate or not, we don't want to hear it. We just want what we said done....done! We don't listen to reason. And we think, we know it all. That's why, I talk to my son all the time and not like the "after school special" talks, we simply talk about anything and everything and I try my best to be completely honest with him, even when I have done something wrong or bad...(not parent like). \nYou really need to sit down with your parents. You need to do this without your brother being there. It should be somewhere other then your home and you should be completely honest with your feelings and how they are treating the situation. If that doesn't work, try writing them a letter. If that doesn't work, then if you are older, realize your brother may be going through some changes in his body and mind, try talking to him and letting him know your feelings and see where that gets you. It is truly your parents problem and not yours, however, you are stuck in the middle. I hope this helps. You sound like a sound kid just looking for real advice and you deserve respect from your parents and brother.
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what an idiot.... he is hanging on to unresolved issues.. probably that you moved on and lived great without him.. He's a bully, and he no longer, and hasnt for ages had any hold on you, but being a bully, still feels the need to hurt you, IGNORE HIM at your sons graduation, he dosnt exist, its a shame you have to be at the same venue, at the same time, maybe just a nod in acknowledgement, nothing more, dont, for gods sake get into a convo with him, he will try and bring you down, cause he's still an arsehole, and that will make him the WINNER, cause his bullying has worked again... so IGNORE HIM....please
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I have no doubt that you have been trying to instill values of the clean nature in him for a long time. Here he is almost 18 and has yet to adapt. Soooo, I am relatively sure you are asking for help, but not expecting any miracles. You know that you have probably already exhausted every avenue that any one of us might tell you. I have sons also, and when you describe your son its as if you were talking about one of my boys. I have no solution for you,... I just wanted you to know you are not alone in this aspect. There is one thing you can "teach yourself" though that might eliminate some of your frustration about him. Don't take it personnel when he does this! Save your energy. Choose your battles! Keep instilling the lesson of what he needs to know, but don't worry about him not doing it. Try a role change with him on occasions,... when he needs you to do something, tell him "just a minute", or "I will get on that soon", or "I meant to do that, but forgot", ...throw his lines back at him and watch him get frustrated. Its good clean amusement for you, I promise!  My boys, and I am sure your son, too, are 'good' people, and yes, lazy people. But as long as he is staying out of real trouble, you really have no problems compared to some Moms out there. They do grow up, and when you go to their homes in the future, he will make you proud. I know!!! You are me, 14 years ago. Hang in there, its going to be alllllright!
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That is just inviting problems, deception and breaking trust in your family unit. He has some serious issues and needs some counselling. I would never accept it. No wonder he isn't getting any love from his family, they don't trust or respect him.
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i am a mother of 4 all boys . i try not to treat the youngest any different but i do and it is because he is the last one there is not going to be any more baby steps in our house it will be the last of the last . the other reason is i am tired i have said it all 3 time before by the time the 4th one goes to do it i am just tired . so he does have more freedom and he mother away with stuff .
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THAT GUY IS IGNORANT AND IT SOUNDS LIKE UR MOM DID A GREAT JOB RAISING YOU..AND YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB AS WELL..THAT GUY IS POOR HIMSELF..POOR IN BRAINS
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if ur sure tht wht he is gotten into is really bad...u need to tell the parents. save the kid from making a big mistake. he might be angry at u for a while but when he grows up he will understand tht u meant only good .