i married a sex offender and the state has my child and says i cannot have her back unless i leave my husband.
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Wait a minute people, did you bother to read the whole thing or just react to the first lines? We are talking about 2 kids and vengeful parents and probably a very vengeful little girl.\nA good attorney should be able to get a reversal based on nothing more than the facts!\nThis guy was 18, GF was 16, had been together 2 years, she gave it up, and probably enjoyed it more than once! Then, as often happens, they both change,as they are still maturing, and go separate ways. Girlie's mad so calls the cops. Did you people remain virgins until you were over the age of consent? I DOUBT IT! Just because it is a GIRL the courts feel justified,l I highly doubt there is any thought in the guys mind of little girls in this case!\n\nREAD THIS:\n\nHe was 18 and she was 16 when he got charged with a sex offence, they had been dating for 2 years at the time. When he decided to end it, her parents turned him in.
1067376
You should first contact the courthouse and find out the exact details of your visitation rights and then go from there. But just by the way you r describing it, I'm pretty sure it is a violation of his probation. (Not 100% though, sorry.)
605738
Sorry to hear about this situation. There are many cases like this out there and I hope that you friend get the help that she is in need of. The reason that she is facing charges by the state is because husband(bastard) filed charges first and he made it seems like self defense against her. Check in your area for a legal aide lawyer or counsel for help not only for the case but for help for her. Tell your friend to keep praying, God is going to turn it around.
889110
You should discuss this with a lawyer.  Your wife should not be able to keep you from seeing your children without some sort of legal protection.  And from what you described, there doesn't seem to be any reason for that.  Definitely get a lawyer.
510084
I moved away over 1100 miles to get him to see I don't want him anymore. I had an order of protection and he got it removed cause like you he had people in the system to remove it. I stated a new life and my daughter lives with him and he still wants and loves me over 7 years later but living happily with new husband and as they say out of site out of mind....
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I think you are stuck.  Your rights as a mother are no stronger than his rights as a father.  You both have rights as parents, and that means that neither of you can pick up the child and move out of state without the permission of the other.  Would you like it if he decided to move to California with your son but not you?
707321
It sounds like you have a case of Kidnapping in your hands. You did not mention any kind of court order sigend by a judge, allowing him to have visitation rights or anything else for that matter. Mothers have a bit more rights than a father (at least here in TX) because the mother bears the child and gives birth.\nSince he is not in the brith certificate, even thought he is the biological father of the child, he in a sense has no parental rights to the child unless it has been stablished by the courts, which in this case you have fail to disclose such information.\nShame on you for letting your son go, knowing the lifestyle your ex has.\nYour best bet at this point is talk to your ex and DEMAND that your child be rturned to you or you WILL file a police report with the local authorities.\n\nbest of luck
512840
Your playing with fire there. The court could very well take them away from all of you. You want child support from the biological father you file for it at the prosecutors office, and they handle it.
432196
I'm sorry to say that your post is a little difficult to read and understand your question.  I suspect though, that it was a little more of soapboxing than a question.\n\nDCFS/CPS cannot just come into your home and remove your children for 'no reason.'  They have to have valid and documentable evidence that your child is in a dangerous situation.  They are not the only ones who get a say in making this decision either.  The evidence and defense must be presented to a judge who decides whether the child is remanded to the custody of the state or returned to its natural parents.\n\nThis doesn't mean it's a perfect system.  In my years in social service I saw many children returned to parents only to be abused again and again and worse each time.  I even had the sad experience of seeing one die of abuse.  So if mistakes are made on that side, it's not inconceivable to believe that mistakes can be made on the other side as well, and a have a child removed when it's not warranted.  I'll be honest, I've thought about myself in a parent's shoes and I would be angry, scared, etc.\n\nThe best thing you can do for your family and that child is to hold it together.  Get an attorney (if you can't afford one, the court must provide you one) and follow his/her advice to the letter.  Concentrate on getting your child back and not on your anger at the system.
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Get a lawyer - it's your only hope.  And why did you send your child away?  And it's up to his guardians (father and step-mom) to decide who best to be able to contact the child.  Did you do something to upset them this much?  Or to the child?  Seems to me like there's info here that's missing.  If it's due to you not being able to afford to keep him home, you should have tried harder.  I have 2 children, and never would I ever consider sending them away, to their father's or anywhere else in this world.  I have worked 2 jobs for 10 years to make a life for them, and I spend as much time with them as possible.
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I am so sorry to hear. It must be very difficult for you and your family. \nI hate to say this, but if my son had this many charges against him, I would have to let him deal with the consequences. Otherwise, the only thing he would learn is that "mom and dad (or one or the other) will bail me out." I've seen this happen to someone who I am very close to and she is on the verge on losing everything, including her mind, trying to keep her son from dealing with the responsibility of his actions. What happens when mom and/or dad are no longer there to bail him out? When does he start learning responsibility for his actions? Chances are that he will outlive you and if he doesn't learn now, then what happens to him? Not to mention the people he has harmed by committing these crimes. It is harsh, I know, and I'm sorry. I know this has to be extremely painful for you. \nHaving said that, if I were determined to try to help him, what I would do is contact an attorney for a consultation. Many atty's give initial consulations for free. I would contact Legal Services which is for people who cannot afford to hire an attorney and is usually located in the blue pages in your local phone book (if your phone book doesn't have blue pages, I mean the section for government phone numbers). I know in our area they have certain times each week you can call, speak to an atty and ask for legal advice, no charge. \nThe website is for a criminal defense lawyer in Lubbock. Don't know how close you are to him but his site says initial consultation is free.
907066
Contact the local agency for abused spouse or ask the police for advice on getting lodgings until you can move back to where you came from.
831544
I knew someone that went through this. The cops are useless, unless he physically hurts her or the kids -they won't do crap. Since he's been there more than 6mo he can claim residency even if he wasn't paying anything. But since he's paying the bills she'd Have to get the eviction order for the cops to do anything. Plus he could fight the order on the grounds he's paying the bills there. She's lucky it isn't a common wealth or they'd be married and she'd need a divorce. Honest! \nGuys like this are preditory parasites! They find a single mom & a nice person, then they terrorize and threaten this parent so that she won't fight back. Normally, they chase off any friends so the person is isolated. The system don't work for these people, they have lives and don't want to leave their home. Worse, for those with kids, they don't have anyplace to go with their children.\nAnd don't say shelters - more desperate parents fleeing abuse lose their kids in those shelters. They're told that the kids will be placed in safe homes, til the parent can get settled...trouble is try and get the child back afterwards. It's almost impossible! And they brainwash young children into saying they were hurt or abused by the parent. I got that bit of information from an ex-social worker who got disgusted with the lies and stuff she saw.\nMoney given as donations to organizations and persons to find and aquire young male and female children for waiting adoptive parents. \nVices that rule the world - Sex  Money  Knowledge\nthree powers that can control anyone anywhere - everyone has their price.\nThe mom I knew only escaped due to friends finding out what was going on and coming  to her and her children's rescue. Moving her and her family out of his reach and keeping tabs on him for 2yrs so he couldn't follow - including false leads as to where she was living.\nThey supplied the money, they supplied the moving truck and they stood guard when he came to try and stop her or take the kids...(none of them were his so it would have been kidnapping) but they kept him powerless so she could escape.\n\nThis mom doesn't seem to have that option. Sure, she could take what money she gets, take her kids and flee. But what about where to go? She's not able to drive so how can she afford to pay to get away and get a place to stay. She most likely doesn't want to tramatize the children or depending upon the age of the kids - she may be afraid of being able to keep an eye on all of them. Depends on her visual ability. Being handicapped (visually - in her case) she's limited on options even more. \nI'll bet she's tried saving up money but then he's found out about it and drained it all. That's what happened to my friend. He was always making sure that she was dependent on him, afraid of what he'd do...the threats to her kids...and they say that terrorists are non-americans....ask some of these women that have lived with the all american terrorist male butthead!\n\nI hope someone will come to her rescue like we did for the mom I know. She's got her life back and has never looked back. Thankfully, her children don't really remember much about that time either...not clearly. I hope some of her friends can figure it out and save her before it's too late.
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You did the right thing. I am so sorry that you were put that abuse. \n\nStay on the right track; and do not allow his words of "sorry" etc let this man back into your life under any circumstance. He is unstable right now and anything could happen. \n\nAlert any and all neighbors if they should see his vehicle around to contact the police. I know that sounds bad; and you don't want your personal issues hung out on the clothes line. But you don't have to give them a reason other than he is court ordered to stay away for serious reasons. \n\nThis man should not be allowed visitiation of the children unless it is supervised either. You need to protect yourself and your children around this man. I would get that in the works as soon as possible.\n\nHopefully he will get some help and this will cease. \n\nStop feeling low about it because you're allowing this man to continue to abuse you by taking on his issues. Be proud of yourself and thankful that you are alive today! Let it go and concentrate on your future. You are strong and I am so very proud of you. \n\nGood luck to you sweetie and God Bless.
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You need to file a petition with the court.  If they ordered that he has visitation rights and she is breaking that order they can haul her back.  They also can suspend her child support payments until those visitation rights are restored.  Just don't do anything without going through the court.
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I live in Georgia and am a man. My ex wife is abusively controlling. After our divorce she turned into super mom. Having to control every tiny thing about the children to the point of obsession. My son wants to be with me and my attorney says the judges have to consider a request at 12, strongly consider at 13, and no choice but accept the request at 14. Unless the request isnt in the best interest of the child, ie... the requested parent is a crimminal or drug addict etc...
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i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???