Christians who believe in the the sacrement of marriage, help! what do i do to save my my marriage?
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It sounds to me like you have a disease, the depression, that you are not dealing with.  Are you on medication for this?  So you do anything to try to not be depressed?  Depression doesn't simply go away without some kind of help, either medicine, or counseling or even a support group.  I'm bipolar, I fight it every day, if I don't...I become useless, which makes the problem worse.\n\nBy letting your husband to take over all of your responsibilities, you're allowing him to help you stay sick.  You need to get up and take responsibility.  You have to do this to feel better, not wait until you feel better to do this.  That won't happen by itself, you have to make it happen.\n\nIf you truly believe that marriage is forever, then you need to get help for yourself.  It sounds to me like you are tired of the effort marriage takes and you are looking to get out, so you've decided to say you're considering it for him.  That way, your conscience is clear.\n\nWell, that's not right.  If you're not giving the relationship 100%, then the problems are your fault.  Depression can be overcome, you just have to work on it.  See a doctor, find a therapist, read some books about it.  But don't just crawl into a hole and give up your life.
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I just start praying and telling myself truths like the devil is a lier and he is decieving me. Think of all the bad things that can come from it. That is how I get through it. My fiance and I are trying to stop having sex untill marriage because we just recently go back into church. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but don't give up never give up, that is the worst thing you can do. Even if you slip up just keep going and try again.
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Sister, you have obviously shown that a fear of you husband is greater than your fear of God. Secondly, since you have done this, you have tried to fill a infinate hole with only a mortal marriage by forksaking Jesus. I don't mean to be harsh but that's what it is. Christ said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No man come unto the Father but by Me!". Islam teaches Christ to be a prophet, not the only Son of The Almighty. Sister, just evaluate your situation with prayer and run to Jesus.
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I've been married 28 years ,and it's still in doubt .It seems the spirit and the flesh are somewhat incompatible .You can do what you want, it seems to quench the spirit tho for a time .
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If youve made a marriage commitment you have no excuse to dishonor it.\n\nOtherwise, look into the reasons for the failure. Its important to overlook trivial things. You will have trials in any love relationship. If you cant take it now, how will you handle the really bad? \nHow do you know it is doomed to be a waste? My guess is youre guessing yourself. Or that youve already decided. I seriously encourage you to inquire of God rather than us here who have so little knowledge compared to the Most High.\n\nPrayer is your most valuable tool. Use it. \n***************************\nTo therealdeal deal below. Divorce is wrong always. God only permits it in severe situations and even then it is not pleasing to Him. After all He puts up with us and takes us back each time we betray Him.\n\nMatthew \n31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.\n\nMatthew 19\nDivorce \n 1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. \n 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" \n\n 4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." \n\n 7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" \n\n 8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." \n\n 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." \n\n 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
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I am so sorry God forgive me but sentimentals answer was hysterical. my husband is here and we are just tickled, of course he wasnt serious. i hope.\nyeah one wife is the biblical way to go.
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Go to www.marriagebuilders.com.  The info on the site and the member forums literally did save my marriage.
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Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
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It pains me to read this, that a man would do this to two women he loves. I pray for all involved. I'm a Catholic, deeply believing in marriage and its sanctity.\n\nYou have many questions. I"ll try to tackle them organizedly.\n\nI think, more important than a discussion of the sin, is the damage that is being done to the spouse and to the family and to him and to the OW. Those who say sin has no consequences beyond the sinner are sadly mistaken. We can talk about what the sin means and where there was sin and what punishment is merited later. Right now what matters is for him to cease in this sinful way.\n\nIt is true that the Blood of Christ means forgiveness; but HE HAS TO STOP SEEING HER in order to really and truly accept that forgiveness. Catholics seek this through Penance, non-Catholics through direct prayer or accountability groups or whatever practice they have interpreted to be correct.\n\nAll Sins are against God alone, but there are sins (small s) against several people here:\nHe is sinning against the spouse for very obvious reasons; "love, but not in love" is not a good enough reason to be unfaithful.\nHe is sinning against his family.\nHe is sinning against the OW by not loving her (love is a choice, very true).\nHe is sinning against the community by breaking his marriage vows.\n\nFirst, where is there Sin? There is Sin in the extramarital affair on its own - and this sort of Sin begins in the heart; he doesn't love the OW by choice, so the love is not in the heart, and that is the Sin of lust. There is Sin in being unfaithful in marriage, and I consider this to be the worst because it is breaking the marriage vows. I think the Church would consider breaking the vows the most grave Sin. I can go on and on, but the case is made.\n\nThe punishment for Sin is death; he may feel guilty, he may wish to repent, but it cannot be a sincere repentance until he stops seeing the OW and gives his heart time to forget her. The Sin and sins end at this point because:\n\nThe marriage has the chance to be made whole.\nThe hurt stops being piled upon the spouse.\nThe lust of his body ends.\nThe lust of his heart will fade.\nThe family has stopped being rent and can begin to heal.\nThe community sees that the vow is again being honored.\n\nIf he is not truly sorry for his Sin, whether he stops or not, this is for the Lord to know. The Lord may condemn him, the Lord may complete the good work begun in him (per Phillippians) and eventually admit him to Eternal Life, as the Lord may do to all of us. But to persist in unrepented sin is a grave decision.
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Pray; Its in God's Hands. And Commiting Adultery to him is a Sin!
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you made the vows to god, so you should do what you can to keep them. its like making vows to a spouse. how can you make it ok to break them? you cant.
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If neither one of you is willling to make an effort then you've already lost this one, 50% of your married life is spent in the marital bed, more than any part of the household. If you cannot find sanctuary, salvation and more importantly fullfilment in the bedroom, then what else is there to hope for?
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Remember your marriage vows? For better or worse ..... You can't just walk out on a marriage just because it's done every day. It's not acceptable in God's eye sight. He instituted marriage. He won't dismiss us when we make him unhappy neither should you your husband. \n\nThat's why they say it is not to be taken lightly. It is a covenant.
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is he save.\nGod can and will forgive you for a divorce, just like He forgive sin.\nman has a hard time to forgive.\nMatthew;19-5\n1 Timothy 3:1-7\n1 Corinthians 7\nwe must try to save the marriage first.\npeople read part of the Bible.\nAnd forget the rest. must take the whole Bible, not part here and there.\nGod does not want us to get a divorce,\nbut did God put u 2 together, or did u do it?\nGod not in all marriage, when 2 sinner marry, where God in their live, they not following God\nwhy believe God put them together\nread the places i toll u about
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its a question-maybe-I let my x back -but the marriage was never the same-but the most important thing is to pray and let Jesus into your heart to forgive even one lie in our life and help us do better-amen  Revelation 3:19&20 -he healed my heart and I am ready to trust again-only in a new marriage Lord willin---WILL BE PRAYIN FOR YOU TOO
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Do you believe in ALL parts of the Catholic religion? Do you follow all the beliefs of the Catholic religion? If so, then stay in your marriage. If you have doubts about some of the old fashioned ideas in your religion and do not wish to remain in a marriage where neither one of you could be happy, then get a divorce and move on with your life. If there are children involved, then it is unfair to them to live together just for the sake of the religion. They deserve happy parents, not ones that stay together for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't want to teach my children that no matter how bad their marriage is, they should stay because of their religion's belief. That would set them up to remain in an abusive marriage and possibly end up hurt or killed. I personally do not believe that the Lord would want me to live a lie and stay with a person that I was no longer in love with. I think he realizes that we make mistakes and I think he would be fine with us finding a remedy for our mistakes. If however you think that there is a chance to get back the feelings you had for your wife, then I would first work on fixing the problem. Maybe trying counseling either through your church or through a marriage counselor. I think that trying to work it out, unless the reasons for your changed feelings cannot be resolved, is the best thing to try first. I believe the Lord wants us to be happy, so do what you need to do to be happy!\n\nS.S.
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Hold the bus!!  "love him for who he is" sounds like a nice, feel good statement, but let's anylize what that is really saying.  It is saying to forget God's command not to be unequally yoked, that denouncing Jesus as the Son of God is ok, and that "human love" can overcome God's knowledge of what is best for us!!  \n\nAbout marrying someone who isn't Christian: you are not going to have an easy road.  What church are you going to go to?  Is your husband going to want to tithe to a Christian church?  What are you going to teach your kids?  Who is right, Mom or Dad?  Are you going to teach them that any religion is ok- and then they are going to read that Jesus is the ONLY way to Heaven???  How are you going to explain that?  \n\nYou are choosing to become one flesh with a man that has not asked Jesus to pay for his sins.  There are consequences for that- like not spending eternity with God.  Since God is also Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and this man has said no to Jesus, then God isn't going to make him sing praises to Himself for eternity, and this man will go to Hell.  You will be sleeping with a man that you know is going to Hell.  That might not sit well with you.  \n\nGod has a specific plan for you.  This guy might be a part of this plan- just not until he surrenders his life to Christ.  I know how it is to be in love here on earth.  It is probably not easy to hear that this man isn't your Mr. Forever right now.  What can you do??  Talk very openly with this man about your convictions.  Chat with God daily about your feelings- He understands!!!  He just might have a plan that is bigger than you can see right now.  Ask God to start convivting this man and opening his eyes to the love of Christ.  You can give reasons for why the Bible is the ultimate authority if your boyfriend asks, but living a Christlike lifestyle is the biggest way to show others that you have let the Holy Spirit run your life.  Have a daily quiet time reading your Bible and praying with God.  I can see how this is possibly one of the biggest temptations you will face- should you marry the man that you love right now, or should you follow God's command even if you don't understand it right now???  I have already been praying for you.