bf doesnt want nothin to do with a kid?
370417
get a paternity test then you will know for sure. the situation seems like she just wants him back i would get the paterity test and if it came out that i wasnt the dad i would not take calls from her or talk to her ever again
588833
HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!!!!!!   and there is nothing wrong with you!!!!  I'm sorry if this will hit you hard, but from what you are saying something is definetly wrong with this guy, and he is just using you!!   If he is telling you to get away, then you may need to make some Big changes with yourself and your baby
597556
You should just respect his decision instead of thinking that this is just a challenge for you.  Some people really do just want to be left alone!  It may be he that he came out of a bad relationship & is trying to get over it, or he may not be at all interested in you & is just trying to be polite.  If you harass him about it, he'll just get annoyed.  Leave it alone.
420956
It could be that he just doesn't want to spend every waking moment with you. You're dating, not conjoined twins.
459147
yes im with one but it shouldnt matter whether hes got kids or not as long as he loves you and loves kids and doesnt put his own needs before your kids. good luck
1099607
He sounds like he likes to play games.......I myself didnt like mixed signals growing up.  Honestly , you should move on and let him grow up a little
1094980
Well darling, while I always love to have a good time I must say my children come first. And I must say that I admire that fact that your children are very important to you too. Since our relationship is just starting out, I think it is best that we don't meet each other's kids. At least not just yet. That way, if it doesn't work out, (or I find you to be particularly creepy...vice versa), it alleviates the need for any explanations or awkward situations for either us or our children.\n\nIn the beginning, I need you to take it slow but not too slow. If you have a question or concern, don't be afraid to ask me, and I will be honest and upfront about my desires. Don't try to give me any illusions about who you are because I know about the man behind the curtain. And try not to be too controlling. I am in no hurry to jump into a strong, possessive and legally binding relationship. If that was what I wanted, I would have stayed with my Ex. I want to have fun, but I also want you to be a gentleman and treat me like a lady. Let's keep it light the first few dates, and if things go well, then we can gradually begin to include the kids. After that we can talk about expectations. For now, mutual respect is good enough for me...
1071121
I think that you should get sterlized for the simple fact that you are almost to the age where you should be enjoying raising your children-not having them. Tell him how much you look forward to "you and him" time when the kids grow up and get out of the house and you both are still at an age to where you can enjoy life like take cruises or buy vacation homes or something. You are going to have to tell him you are deeply sorry that you've prior children and this is just something your partner is going to have to deal with. Definately encourage their honest feelings to be out in the open and make sure you go into this together-not seperated by feelings. Try some quick counseling or even reading a book together about it......good luck!
1165732
Okay, how about you stop worrying about what he wants?  What about what you want?  How old are you?  Have you even had a chance to experience life?  It really sounds like he doesn't know if he wants to be with you or not but is going to continue stringing you along until he can make up his mind.  What are you going to do if he comes home, gets you pregnant and then decides he's not ready to be a husband and father?  Where does that leave you?  Can you be absolutely sure that he will not do that?  If the answer is no, then maybe you need to tell him that you need things to slow down. You don't have to let him call all the shots.  You are a person as well.  You have a right to decide, for yourself, what you want out of this life. There is much more to experience in life than being someones girlfriend/wife/mother.  Don't get me wrong, I am married and have a beautiful little boy, but I experienced life for myself before I did so. And we were married 7 years before I got pregnant so we could experience life together.  I wish you luck and hope you make the right decision for you!
992833
Leave him well alone sweetheart, he is cheating on his girlfriend with you. You and your babies dont need that sort of hassle in your life........ My mum always used to say "if it's meant for you it wont pass by you". Let him sort his life out if it's meant to be he will  come back to you without the baggage though. good luck beauty !
697047
he is avoiding u b/c he is scared of what will happen if his gf finds out or if ur bf finds out.if i were u i would examine the sitiuation very closely, then pick either him or ur bf and make him decide also
443442
If he doesn't want to be with her she should understand that and be a woman, she should also stop using there kids as a crutch he can be with you and his children without sacrificing or neglecting anyone it will just take some hard work and time on both parts. but seeing both parents aren't adults it will be considerably hard. goodluck.
891736
Move on...\nIf a man doesn't accept your children, then how can you possibly want him?  Your kids come first...ALWAYS.
1153013
BUTT OUT!!!! \n\nHe is going to have a relationship with his ex FOREVER. Get over it now. His kids are most important. If you get mad then its because you are immature. Do not come between his children and ex, otherwise you'll also be an ex.
524621
You need to take responsibility. YOU chose him as the father of your kids right??? You girls make the mistake of doing whatever they want with no regard to yourselves or your unborn children........Then whine when they "turn-out' to be idiots...Remember.. IF YOU PAY ATTENTION, Guys tell you who they are. LISTEN!
485438
You need to go with your instincts. If they are telling you to not introduce your kid to new g/f, then dont. You obviously have your childs best interest at heart. Good Man!
966031
Hard to say, but lots of men believe that women think if their man doesn't want kids with them, he must love them less.  (Which is not true, by the way.)\n\nSo maybe he's trying to make you feel good (by telling you that you would be an excellent choice as a mom), while at the same time reinforcing that he just doesn't want kids.\n\nMaybe he just needs some reassurance that you don't feel unhappy about the choice for no more kids.\n\nJust a guess.