How can you garentee a cheat free, faithful spouse and relationship?
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Marry a Cocker Spaniel.
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My psychology is to keep balance and make the marriage be happy. If he is cheating you should to  www.fling.com  is not to far. That's the way to get even and have excitement on both sides.
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you need to ask your WIFE\n\ncommunication is the key to a succesful marriage or relationship
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I feel sorry for you and your wife. The male hormones forces you to think from your .... Well it's too late to ask why you couldn't stay faithful, so I would suggest that you get counseling. Also stay away from friends who push you into adultery. One thing I can tell it will take a long time for both of you to get over. It will always be there, but marriages have survived and thrived on worse. Take care and hope things resolve.
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WAKE UP GIRL!!  Do you know how rare a find he is?!!?  \n1. Don't change a thing!  That is assuming you give one ounce of care about your future. Or your future spouse for that matter. Just what will you tell them, "it didn't really mean anything," "I really can be faithful to you"\n\n2. BIG MISTAKES start out with very very small compromises.  An alcoholic doesn't start out addicted, he starts by watching others, then thinking about it, then just one taste, ect, ect. \n\n3. Wake up and realize it now and save yourself the  agony of regretting it later. I know it's hard to imagine yourself grown up, look around you, it IS going to happen and you will never, NEVER be able to come back and rewrite it.  I promise you, you will never regret it, and that's one thing you don't ever want to have to live with regretting . . .
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None of your business. However, it's not a bad idea to have a chat with the cheater, and just reminder her that marriage is sacred and you're so glad she's decided to commit to being eternally faithful to him.
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The first question should be: Why did my spouse cheat? Don't know whether or not if he/she will answer the question honestly, but the most important thing in a marriage is that each spouse gives him/herself wholeheartedly. It must be done selflessly, to show the other person that this IS a blissful marriage, and if it isn't, then let's make it one.\n\nIf a person cheats, then usually it is because of some form of negligence, whether it's in the bedroom or if it is emotional. Who knows? The cheater.  There are some marriages that are sub-par, in a sense. There are some that were forced, or pretend. Even in some good marriages, some feel that they need a "thrill" and seek other means. It's wrong, but it happens.\n\nWill I be one of those thrill seekers? No. Will it happen to me? No. But if ever I'm wrong, I would want to find out what part I played and how I could learn from it.
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First of all, you must learn to compromise.\nWhen you argue, and you will argue, try to see things from your partner's point of view. Try not to be completely stubborn and unbending. Sometimes you both have to give up a little for the sake of your relationship. \n\nHonesty is also very important. With honesty, comes another crucial ingredient for a healthy relationship: communication. You have to learn to communicate. Talk through your problems and always be honest. If something she does upsets you, tell her. And if she has things she needs to discuss with you, listen to her. But, at the same time, don't forget to talk about the good things too. \nWhich brings me to my last point.\n\nNever take her for granted. Appreciate her. Always remind her that you love her. I don't think anyone ever gets tired of hearing that. Show her that she means everything to you and that you would do anything for her. Always respect her and stay loyal to her.\n\nUnfortunately, sometimes even when you follow all of these guidelines, things just don't work out. You have to remember that there really is no surefire way of holding on to a relationship. If there was, then no one would ever break up. Sometimes, things just aren't meant to be and we just have to learn to accept it. Believe me when i say that i know it can be very difficult. but we have all experienced heartache and we survive. Life goes on and we eventually meet new people.\nyou just have to hang in there and keep trying!
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I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
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Well, that's a hard one.\n\nOf course I would want to know.  Honesty is the most important part of a relationship.\n\nHowever, if the person has cheated, I would have a hard time sticking to the marriage plans.  I don't tolerate cheaters.  Or liars for that matter.
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Everyone answering your question is absolutely correct. However, I hear your plea and understand your plight so I have a suggestion for you that I take from experience. Your wife can also be your mistress and this adds excitement and eroticism to your relationship without cheating or leaving your vows of commitment.\nHere's how we did it. My wife would leave the house on a Friday evening shortly before me, dressed as if she were out for a singles night, and we had a planned 'meeting' place where she would go and I would find her there. For this 'meeting' we used different names, ones that each of us picked for the other. Upon arriving at the place of choice she would appear to be single and possibly there would already be someone attempting to make flirtatious conversation with her which only added to the drama of the plan. It was my place to search her out as if she was an available single female and show my prowess in gaining her attentions and affections. I won't go into the night of details as I'm sure you can fill in the blanks yourself but I am sure you can see how this could be very stimulating to your relationship without the need for a total stranger to satisfy your fantasy's.
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Wow,  see a councilor or you pastor.  If anything happened to your husband you would never forgive yourself.  You owe it to your marriage and each other to stay faithful.  Stay away from bars and build a network of female friends.  Scrapbook, learn a new craft or find a job to keep you connected with other people.  Break off the affair immediately and keep your self respect.
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Please clarify...do you mean cheat their wives? As in cheating them out of something or do you mean cheat on their wives as in being unfaithful?\n\nIn both cases, I would have to say selfishness. To cheat someone you supposedly love out of something is just plain greed and selfishness. They are putting their selfish desires and needs first.\n\nTo cheat on someone is essentially the same, they want more sexual partners or more sex or ??? ... in either case, it is that they are putting their selfish desires first. Who knows? Maybe you married a child...not a grown man. Maybe his ego is so weak and shallow that only way he can feel good about himself is through what he gets from other women - clammoring over him, groping him. Maybe he is an adrenaline junkie andis addicted to that high that is always at the start of a relationship. Maybe it is time to ask yourself some big questions? Do you make him feel wanted? Needed? Desired?\n\nIt also depends on what you define as cheating and if you and your husband had a monogamous agreement? Maybe there wasn't an agreement of exclusivity?\n\nI have been travelling the world and you should see what I have seen in some cultures! It boogles the mind what some people are willing to accept.\n\nSome men might try to say that they are just "programmed that way", that they are hunters. Don't buy this for a minute. Not all men are that way. They truly aren't and it took me a long, long time to TRULY know that one. Try giving him that same story and see what a hypocrite he turns into.\n\nYou also have to take an honest look at who and what you are in the relationship. How long have you been together? Has some of the sizzle, the "magic" died out? Chemistry is a fickle thing but it can be brought back to life. There are videos - like the better sex series. I haven't used them myself but I have heard good things from people who have.\n\nDo you have children? Do you both work long hours? Multiple jobs? Do you still take time for each other? You make dates together like you had back when you first got together? You HAVE TO make set-in-stone dates with your spouse that have nothing to do with cleaning, home repair, visiting relatives, the children or pets - if there are any. You need time just for the TWO of you. \n\nRemember what it was about your marriage that made you two fall in love in the first place - (assuming that this was not an arranged marriage or that you were not a mail-order bride! (^-^) )\n\nMen are problem solvers! Don't *nag* and *whine* to him. Tell him, matter-of-factly how you feel and ask him for his help in solving this problem. Tell him all the good positive feelings you have for him and all the plans & dreams you have for the future and that you don't want to relinquish all those dreams. Tell him that you are willing to fight for you...as a couple.\n\nI don't know your situation. Maybe he is cheating because he just no longer cares??? If that is the case, then you need to re-assess if you really do want to fight for the two of you. Maybe it isn't salvagable. Some things end for a reason. \n\nYou don't need anyone to make your decisions for you. Only you know what is right. Listen to your gut. It will give you the answer....\n\nWhy do you ask "airman", was there another girl in some lonely port?
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Seek counseling immediately.  AACC can help you find a Christian counselor.  I don't understand from your question whether you have cheated or been cheated on by your spouse.\n\nThis is tough to answer, and much depends on the nature of the relationship you have and other factors.  I think your spouse should know.  You may need to get into counseling first in order to have a support system in place when the fireworks go off.  You may need to tell him/her first, because if your spouse finds out you've already been to counseling, he/she may feel betrayed further.  Hard to say.  Pray for forgiveness, that God will strengthen and encourage your spouse, and for wisdom in knowing how to proceed.\n\nIf you are the offending party, you're going to have to face up to it.  That means answering the questions and giving your spouse space to feel his/her feelings.  You have known about this, and he/she has not.  It will take time and it's perfectly normal for feelings to fluctuate.\n\nDo not demand forgiveness or expect it too soon.  You'll need to show that you are trustworthy (fruits worthy of repentance).  Remember that forgiveness is a process and not a magic spell that takes the pain away.  This may be an arduous process, but it can be worth it.\n\nThere are some really good books and resources, but I highly recommend counseling.  You need someone who can sit down with you and help you process everything.  You may need to go separately before it's okay to try to work through things together.\n\nAACC to find a counselor: http://aacc.net/resources/find-a-counselor/\n\nBooks:\n\nHidden Keys of a Loving, Lasting Marriage, by Gary Smalley:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1151721150/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155\n\nTorn Asunder: Helping Couples Recover From Infidelity, by Dave Carder:   http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802471412/qid=1151721623/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155  -  this is the workbook, but it will give you an idea what the book is like.   Hopefully you can find the book on eBay or another online bookstore.\n\nBoundaries in Marriage, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310243149/qid=1151721831/sr=1-4/ref=sr_1_4/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155\n\nThis is a difficult task to undertake.  Do all you can to strengthen yourself and your spouse.  Get as much help as you can and is appropriate.\n\nMay God bless your efforts to restore your marriage to what He wants it to be.
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be honest and dont cheat again
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You DON'T!\n\nSleazy, promiscuous behavior is really stupid.  You made a vow when you got married about forsaking all others.  That kinda eliminates sleazy swinger trashy behavior.\n\nNow, be happy with your hubby.  Be LOYAL to your marriage vows and your husband.  Same goes for your husband.\n\nWhere is Dr. Laura when YOU, and I mean you, need her to slap some sense across your face!
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TAKE HIM FOR HIS WORDS.\nThe only sign that a spouse is cheating is when he/she becomes cold and seems to be lying a lot.\n\nJUST BE A GOOD WIFE (sexy, presentable, decent, smart, skillful, etc.) and pray for your husband that God will protect him from being tempted by other ladies out their.\n\nI wish you a happy marriage.