If your mate says they prefer you slimmer/biggger, do you accomodate to keep them or tell them hit the road!?
375038
I'll tell him if he can't love and accept me for what and who I am then he can kiss my A*S
580339
You have attracted him.\nHe likes your confidence.\nHowever, it seems he'd like your confidence in a toned-eown body.\nDo you want that too?\nHow much do you want that?\nHis 'hints' should come across as a blaring loud speaker.\nOtherwise, the road may go a few blocks but its still a dead end.\nOne advantage is he won't charge you ...money, that is.
446984
Lots of men like women with some padding.  Compromise...don't gain and only lose enough to be in the healthy range...not to have an anorexic appearance.  Be happy that he isn't that type of man to leave you because you aren't the slender thing he married...men have been known to do that.  Count your blessings!
54291
Lady of your dreams?  My granny used to tell me to wish in one hand and poop in the other and see which one get full the fastest.\nBy limiting the possible females that you wish to interact with, you are probably ignoring the perfect mate who might be 5'7" tall, 129 pounds, 24 1/2 or 55 1/2 years old with blue green eyes, strawberry blone hair and a 33-28-35 figure who jogs 10 miles daily, eats some junk food, can out wrestle you and wants to have as many as nine children by a retired jarhead.
615056
Never settle.  It is not shallow in the least to expect an attravtive mate.  I feel the same as you, I won't become involved with someone I do not find attractive.  A good looking body is a sign that a person respects themselve and is  mature enough to maintain themselves.  These are good quaities in a mate that the outside look is a clue too, and I expect no less.  Just remember to find someone who is attractive in the inside too!
794553
He has a weak character. I think it's probably virtually impossible for him to compromise. I know guys like that. BUT there are probably some other guys out there who would be so into being close to you, they would not care if you are fat... and some who think you're sexy as you are. Find them instead, and let this guy feel your absence and hurt about it a bit. Maybe he'd learn something valuable.
841006
My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
603586
hmmm, delicate situation! tell her you love her (just lie!), but you can no longer bear to be with her because she makes you nauseated. if she does not understand, then she is a screwed up bitch. \nscarface is good, but to ensure she really hits the curb, tell her she is getting fat.
812803
no. tell him to back off. he is obsessed with you and he needs to stop. tell him to leave you alone. if he doesn't, tell authorities. then if he doesn't, get a restraining order against him. \nWho cares how much you weigh? whoop de do- you're 135. i'm 142 and 5'7". who gives a crap??? why is being 95 lbs. so damn special??? she's just a stick- most likely anorexic or bulimic. i feel sorry for her... and if he likes you- he wont like your stupid friend if she's a cheater. just tell him to leave you alone and quit worrying about your weight. trust me, most guys with any brains at all dont give a shit about how much you weigh.
182127
Yes, but nothing major.  When I ask my husband if he thinks I'm pretty he damn well better say YES, even if he doesn't mean it!!!  (and of course he does:-)\n\nWhite lies of this nature (you're pretty, you're not fat, of course I want to go shoe shopping with you, etc..) are okay in my book.
629405
Hmm.. which one to choose...\n\nAbout 2 months ago I agreed to meet a guy that I had met off of a certain dating site. Lets see.. he said his body type was average ( for a hippo maybe ) and that he was 5'6". Now I am 5'3" and I was eye to eye with this guy.. maybe his gut had pulled him down 3 inches I am not sure lol. \n\nAnyway the comedy of errors started with dinner. It was a cute little Italian place. The portions were huge and my date proceeded to eat his entire plate (which took like an hour because he eats so slow) and in the process managed to drop alot of it on his shirt. YUCK!! Then came the bill.. he kept scrounging around for his wallet.. didnt produce it and then went to the bathroom forever... I felt sorry for the server and paid the bill myself, hoping he would at least leave the tip. When he finally came out and saw the bill was gone, he asked if I was ready to leave. I mentioned that she might need a tip and he flipped 2 bucks out of the wallet that had been missing in action 20 minutes ago and put it on the table. No thank you for paying or anything. As we were walking out to our cars, he asked what else I would like to do. Um.. go home was all I could come up with lol. He leaned in for the kiss goodnight and got the famous one handed pat on the back.. the kiss of death on dates!!
603310
Totaly depends on what you like, your partner likes, and how comfortable you feel, some women get a complex about it because they don't like the way their body looks etc.  It's nobody's duty and depends on what feels right to you
409042
im not a man but i think he is staying becuz he likes you!sometimes i wonder that about my mate, why does he stay becuz in the relationship he carries most of the weight, but i believe its just true love!!be happy and give him rewards, and big appreciation. they wouldnt stay for sex becuz there way too many girls out there that will just give it up for nothing, or money. so i think he is staying for love!!
682161
Ew...that's awful!  Your height and weight are pretty average in actuality.  Okay, so you aren't a skinny, boney model, but who is?!  If he's being mean about it, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings.  He only cares about what you look like.  Try talking with him at first.  But if that doesn't work, leave him.  There are plenty of guys out there that will think you're beautiful, even if you gained another 20 lbs.  No reason to stay with someone who makes you feel bad, especially over something as superficial as weight.  Stay true to yourself and good luck!
556893
Refocus your anger to getting your figure back.  People often say that if you love someone it doesn't matter, blah, blah, blah...Bottom line is that looking good for your significant other is sign of respect for yourself and him/her.  Doesn't matter male or female obesity kills just the same.  If you grew 30 pounds that last 5 years, what about the next 5 years?  Another 30 pounds?  Lose the weight, make him drool, then dump his sorry a** and go get a real man
161996
Give her an extra unexpected compliment. I believe some of the best compliments come from a look, a touch, or even a naughty smile when she has on less clothes and may feel less pretty. Men lose weight faster then women anyway so the both of you should find something she can do that may help speed up her weight loss. Be supportive, but let her know how you feel and that you are in this together, it's not a race and in the end you both will be winners. At this point you are starting to look different and she may not be at that point yet. It's hard for the both you, talk and try to make things eaiser.
874649
It shouldnt be down to the size, it should be what you feel about that person, You and many other males in this world bang on about big women, stating that they are easy lays and that they are up for anything that goes, but how many women do you hear making remarks about a blokes size, whether it be in their pants or just general body size, not many, so why not the male gender take a leaf out of the ladies book and stop being so cruel to women with uncalled for remarks and start being a bit more respectful,