When will I be able to join my husband after AIT at his first duty station??
357898
if your going to his graduation then you can see him there if not you can meet him where he is stationed dont worry itll be ok its alot to go through, i know i did. good luck make sure you get your communications clear when you speak to him good luck. if you have any other questions feel free to mail me ill help if i can
526743
It is an interesting experience. My husband and I have been together for only 3 years and we are on our second deployment. He is currently serving in Iraq. Be proud because your husband is doing something truly great. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
1123239
Re-enlist.  Unless you absolutely hate it.  My husband is up soon to make that same decision and I'm all for re-enlisting.
356792
Well, i am married (mil to mil) and if he gets married after basic training he might be a hold over, waiting for them to process all his paper before he heads to his A School. So i would tell him he might want to do it now and let the recruter do the paper filing and whatever else he needs to do. That is the recruters job, to do paper work or whatever needs to be done for your son to work for uncle sam. Dont let the recruter be lazy if he is acting lazy, it's a military thing. LOL If he gets married before boot camp then everythig will fall into place and him and his wife can be together as soon as he gets out of A School and he will have nothing to worry about other than finding a house. If you need anything feel free to e-mail me   tink41503@yahoo.com
853239
My hubby just got home in September!!! If you don't live on base and have military wives as friends, I suggest joining a Yahoo group for military wives... it's good to talk to others who've been there.. and are there for that matter!!!
746005
While in basic training, there are only three general types of discharges he can even be considered for: Punitive (misbehavior), medical, and what are known as Chapter 11 or Entry Level Performance and Conduct (called chapter 11 because it is the guiding regulation AR 635-200, Chapter 11). A punitive discharge he DOES NOT WANT. They usually come officially characterized as Other Than Honorable or Bad Conduct discharges (these are very bad) and those will haunt him on every job application or back ground check he has to process. Medical is possible and are normally officially declared as General or Honorable (these are very good). The drawback there is first he would have to get hurt real bad (don't want that), and 2nd it seems to take forever to actually get a soldier through this process - he won't be home for a long long time while he waits and the medical community evaluates and tests him. The Chapter 11 can only be applied for under 4 specific grounds: inability, lack of reasonable effort, failure to adapt to the military environment, and minor disciplinary infractions. A Chapter 11 is almost always characterized as a General discharge (not good, but not bad either), so it has no severe long term damage. The biggest blow will be a nearly complete loss of all veterans benefits. HOWEVER, it is critical to know that whichever discharge he applies for, the situation involving him is BONA FIDE (real and not made-up). The Army will investigate and his chain of command will be required to write formal memorandums attesting to the facts. Your husband will more than likely also be required to complete a formal Sworn Statement attesting to whatever issue is prohibiting him from service. If he has no ACTUAL issues, and it is proven, he can be prosecuted. On the other hand, if he truly is unable to adapt or incapable of performing the tasks directed, then a discharge based on AR 635-200, Chapter 11 (I copied a link to this regulation below) is what he needs to file. I am going to be brutally honest here, based on the information you provided, were I his Commanding Officer, I do not believe that he has a legitimate discharge application. So for your sake, I am hoping there is information you have not spoken about that does apply to the regulation. I wish you and yours the best - take this decision VERY seriously - its implication has more than just legal issues: how will your friends react? Your Family? The community? Your Church? Think all that through before acting - just a suggestion.
261431
Bootcamp is a short time. 13 weeks for Marines. (been there done that). However the hard time comes after that when you are actually able to talk on the phone or fly out to visit each other... If he is a reservist he will be back after boot for a couple weeks and back to training for his MOS school.. and then back home to his reserve unit.. If he is active he will be back from boot as well but once he leaves for MOS school he will go straight to his unit after that.. \nThen come 'floats' or wartimes or being sent here and there and mostly out of U.S... this is the time when you will talk to your bf maybe once a week and will not see him for 6 months or sometimes even over a year.. I would try to see what he really wants to do.. I do not recommend military to anyone who is doing it to get benefits and school paid.. If you are going in might as well stay in for the whole 20 and retire... \n\nif he doesnt he will come back after all your friends are done with their degrees and have nice jobs.. he will start from scratch.. start school or go work as a landscaper or a construction worker.. \n\nTalk to him and see what he wants to do.. If this is trully what he believes then he should do it.. do not try to hold him back because if he stays then he will blame you for not following his dreams.. \n\nIt will be hard.. go out with friends and keep busy.. stay away from clubs or bars.. and stay away from guys who will give you the ear and a shoulder to cry on.. he will just use you... (i got dropped when i was away... but its ok.. im married and very happy with someone else now)\n\nGOOD LUCK...
447602
It will depend on his MOS, the need and availibiltiy for his MOS at the places he wants.  Most first termers get One year Unacompanied billets to places like Korea first, regardless.
843617
http://www.dtic.mil/whs/directives/infomgt/forms/eforms/dd1172.pdf\n\nYou cannot get an ID card until he is in boot camp.  Even then, depending on the branch he is leaving for, it doesn’t happen overnight.  Within his first week at boot camp he will go through ID card issue.  Make sure he takes a copy of your marriage certificate with him.  It should already be in his record at MEPS, but I would take a copy anyway (same for kids birth certs).  The link to the form (above) will need to be signed by him before he ships.  Once he completes the ID card issue at boot camp your family will be enrolled in D.E.E.R.S system.  You can then take the DD Form 1172 that he signed to any military base, i.e. Navy Reserve Centers, Army NG bases in your city and get your ID card.
425142
My husband enlisted over 10 years ago at the age of 28.  Plenty of older first term enlistees in all the branches.  As long as you meet all requirements, there's no reason not to consider joining at a later age.  The maturity level(hopefully) will provide a better basis of training.
745236
I'm assuming that he is still in the Delayed Entry Program and hasn't been sworn in at MEPS yet.  If this is the case, just talk to the recruiter and he will be able to get out of it.  They can't force you to go to Boot Camp, but once you are there, it's done.
88750
Within 30 days of completing AIT so your unit can update there battle roster. If over 30 days you might be considred awol. You will lose all benifets including bonus'. So as soon as you get back go see your Unit Adminstrator ASAP.
1052947
Not much contact during basic. Lots of letters though. There MAY be a SHORT break before AIT, but no promises. However, he'll have much more time to call you during that process. Nothing to worry about though. I certainly wouldn't let the kind of time we're talking about stop him from enlisting. \n\nThe benefits vary by state, but our here in Texas are pretty good (looking at getting back in that route myself). Great tuition reimbursement programs & such. Do some research. He'll either end up loving it or not.
937660
Here is a answer from a x navy person i retired a e-5 for those of u that dont know what that is it is a 2nd class petty officer, tell him to read the fine print, make sure if they say there are sending him to school that they are sending him right after boot camp, also tell him to get a rate with a enlistment bonus, he gets it after he reports to his first duty station, not after boot camp but the jobs with the bonuses are good, for another reason if he decides to re enlist the bonus will be higher than other rates that dont have it. but mainly read over that contract before you sign 4 good years of your life away. oh and another good thing about air force your pretty much getting shore duty hopefully in the united states. Trust me it was hard enough to spend 8 months away from my wife at a time i hated it air force is a good way to go than any other service.
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Navy mom here. First----((((BIG HUG))). Next, you need to learn the Navy Mom mantra. Probably applies to all military moms--No news, is good news!. Unfortunatley, it's true. \n\nHe should have, but is not guaranteed, been able to call you the night he arrived at RTC (Recruit Training Command). There are a variety of reasons he might not have been able to, so don't worry. And I know, it's hard not to do. Since you haven't heard from him, you can call (847) 688-2405 and give them his full name and social security number. They won't be able to let you talk to him or get a message to him, but they will tell you he's arrived and what Division he's in. Once you have his Division number is, you can then got to the website I've posted under sources below and get his mailing address. \n\nYou'll probably get your first "real" phone call about week 3. But again, there are MANY variables to this including who his RDC's (Recruit Division Commander aka Drill Instructor) are. Your son may be doing quite well, but if someone else is messing up, they may all lose phone privileges. I know. It's not fair. But...\n\nBe sure to check out the other information they have at the website, including Pass in Review (Graduation). You will be able to watch for the date of his PIR on the website too. If there is ANY way you can go, then go. I promise it will be one of most moving experiences of your life. Start making plans now to attend.\n\nI can NOT stress this enough. Start writing him ASAP. Send as often as you possibly can. It's doesn't matter the length. A few lines on the back of a napkin is like gold to them. But don't try to send him any type of care package. It won't be allowed.\n\nShortly, you should start receiving a few things. One will be a "form" type letter from him with his address. But you can beat the letter if you call for the Division number. You should also receive "the box" any day now. The Navy is the only branch that does this and it can be heartbreaking. It will contain every stitch of clothing he was wearing and anything else he took with him. I sat down in the middle of the floor and cried like a baby when our son's came. Then again, he will be given the option to donate his clothes to charity so if the box doesn't come, don't let it worry you.\n\nYou may also want to check out navymomsonline.com. They are a SUPER group and will give you all kinds of support and information. \n\nAgain, I can't stress enough to write, write, write. And when you don't get much back, try to remember that they are only allowed to write on Sundays. \n\nTake care of yourself and try to remember that your son has given you a very special gift. He made you a Navy Mom. You may not understand it just yet, but the day will come when this new honor will touch you to the center of your soul and make you weep with pride.\n\nNavy Hugs.
882090
It depends on where your stationed and how long, the military could say hey thats a great idea, or they could send you to alaska, so its a very unstable thing, if your a spouse you can move wherever you want as long as its near your home of record which is near the meps station you inprocess in before getting shipped to basic, good luck.
1134601
I think that maybe at first it might be kind of hard for them to leave their friends,especially when they are teens.Because your not sure where your husbands duty station is gonna be.But once you find out you can call there and ask about what kind of activities they have on post for teens and get some kind of idea of whats going on there.I guess you know that you don't have to live on post if you don't want.But I also know that it is a relief knowing that all your bills are paid except your phone,cable,etc.The cost of living is high in alot of places and that makes it harder when you do live off post and your kids might enjoy that better.It might take some time but I think they will adjust and  they'll be okay.As for the deployments I guess I would have to say nobody is ever prepared for those and it all comes down to everyone has to support the other.Living day to day knowing your husband could leave for a year or so is never easy on anyone.I hope things work out for ya and the kids do okay.Have your husband keep checking his AKO and hopefully you will find out where your going so you can get prepared early.