How do i get over or deal with my b/f for 3 yrs. when he cheated and still talks to other females?
371025
I think you should totally tell him exactly how you feel. If he truely loves you then he will change the way that he is to you and if not then obviously it means that you deserve better than. trust me on this i am in this same situation so i know exactly how you feel.
418549
girl guaranteed he be out cattin just let him go and believe me from first hand experience it is very hard when you love them but in the long run it is better to cut the losses now.  You can do better without him anyway\nI know cuz I was with  one like that for 3 years and we have a daughter together and the boy was cheating lying drinking, druggin, etc... finally (don't wait like I did) I got tired of tricking myself and letting him control me into thinking nothing was going on and left.  Go with your instincts--that is your inner self talking saying kick him to the curb
564091
I can understand how you feel ....You will always love him but  he did you wrong....because if he really loved you then he would have never cheated on you in the first place...He says that he loves you because he probably realized what he lost.....never the less he cheated on you...and i am pretty sure you trusted him with your whole heart and he broke it by being with another woman.....that is his fault not yours...You  just need to be honest with him and tell him its over, and that if he ever really did love you , that he needs to leave you alone cuz you need time to heal....So in the meantime just be strong and do something that makes you happy and not think about him.....even though i know its hard to do....
427321
Well I think you did the right think by breaking up with him. That takes a lot of courage. But now you need to stay strong and stick to that. He cheated on you and yea, he probably says he changed and won't do it ever again, but the truth is, you won't really be able to trust him again. You will always wonder in the back of your mind if he is cheating or if he will cheat again.\nIn the long run, you will just end up miserable. So yea, he wants you back, but too bad. His loss and he should have thought about that before cheating on you. \nDon't give in...Be strong.
58149
How would you feel if he was cheating on YOU with this other girl?  Stop having anything to do with him, if he REALLY TRULY cared about you don't you think he wouldn't be dating anyone else?  Start respecting both yourself and the other woman involved and just move on from this loser.  All he cares about is getting his peter wet, if he cared about you he would be showing it.
82127
Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
452632
You need to loosen his leash!  It's perfectly OK for your BF to talk to other girls.  It's the actions that you need to be concerned about.
306569
Just realize that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. And even if you did decide to take him back you'd have to decide if you wanted his infidelity to taint your relationship pretty much forever. Once trust has been lost in that way its really tough to get it back. And even then you are aware of exactly what he is capable of. Once a cheater always a cheater and don't think that isn't true.\n\nWhat you have to realize about people who cheat is they are always looking for the greener side of the grass and at any moment they may decide they have found it again. You deserve to be secure in your relationship and not constantly worried by this possibility.\n\nMy advice is to think of what you deserve to be happy. Don't be mean and spiteful, instead just do what he has done and worry about your own happiness. 7 years may be a long time, but the rest of your life is longer. You will know what is right for you. I decided to walk away and every day I thank god I did, because I am so much happier for it.
1046616
I honestly think he's over it.  is reactions to the other people are natural ones.  I would be the same way.  Doesn't mean he loves you any less.\n\nthis may sound weird, but when these issues come up, assert yourself more.  MAKE him pay attention more to you.  Do soemthing special for him to remind him of just why he's with you and not her.  Make him happy and never give him any reason to think there's weakness in your relationship.  The stronger you make it out to be the happier and more secure he will be.
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
408553
Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
1171412
Sorry to hear bout this but \nNO NO NO\nonce a cheater always a cheater. but what makes it worse is he lied. you won't be able to trust him and if there is no trust there is no relationship. you don't want to be spending you life wondering if he is with another woman.
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.
508836
Dont feel lost broken or confused.  These things have a way of working themselves out.  If he sees you for who you are and her as the cheater, then hopefully he will make the right choice.  You can always remind him of your loyalty.
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
662836
Get over him. He obviously has no respect for women or himself. He strung you along while he was out looking for something more convenient. Now he's with a married woman, he does not want a commitment.
229837
sweetheart, it hurts alot. i've been there. you are right in not being able to trust him. it's not always the case that there always a cheater, but it's almost foolproof. if he's done it before, why won't he do it again when he finds someone else that's more attractive to him? all you can do is wait out the pain. it hurts and it sucks, but try and move on. go out, have fun, meet new guys. you don't have to get married or anything, just go out and have fun. i hope this helps you sweetie, at least a little. if you'd like to talk to someone that's been there, you can email me. poetic_disturbulance@yahoo.com