How can I help my partner help me have an orgasm?
366492
kick him in the nuts about 4 times and then tell him to do it right!  If that dosent work then leave him!
1032521
one way is called the squeeze method. basically you tell you partner when you are going to orgasm. you pull out before you do and have your partner squeze your cash very tightly for 5-10 seconds. continue on as normal and when you do have an orgasm it will be timed normally and it will feel much better.
405532
Well, there are many ways to make a woman have an orgasm easily...first of which is attentiveness...be attentive to her and build a rapport....then play. Play with her clit, her vagina, and for God's sake man, make sure you pay attention to her if she indicates she like something take note of it, and be gentle ....unless she likes it rough but she will tell you all of that through her body language.  But most important....ENJOY her and you will enjoy yourself when she has that mind blowing orgasm you want her to have.
1030313
Every time that you do it ith your spouse doesn't necessarily mean they are going to give you that wonderful orgasm.  All we can do is be there to satisfy their needs, b/c you don't want him to go elsewhere and get some now do you?  Just please your man and try your hardest to get you.
1050628
I didn't have an orgasm through intercourse for about a year after I lost my virginity to my fiance.  I was anxious and nervous and I saw it all as a really big deal which stopped me coming even though oral and masturbation made me come.  When he asked me to marry him, it was like someone switched on a tap and I now orgasm every single time that we have intercourse.\n\nYou could try having your boyfriend stimulate you until you are almost at orgasm before stopping to have sex for a while, then continuing the manual stimulation etc until you orgasm whilst he is inside you.  Different positions might work, try missionary with your legs up over his shoulders or a cushion under your bum, doggy style with him reaching round to stimulate your clitoris, you on top stimulating yourself or having him stimulate you.\n\nGood luck!
71139
You could try clitoral stimulation during or even before, from your partner or youself. If that is'nt enough you could try this all natural pill you can get at bodybuilding.com called Sexual Surge, for men and women. It WORKS!!
353612
Oral is usually a sure bet for most women who have trouble climaxing.  You should try having your man use a vibrator on you, or incorporate it into your sex life.  I'm sure he'll do whatever it takes to get you off, because most people love seeing their partner climax as much as they like it themselves.  \nSorry I can't be of more help, I can't really relate too much...I'm very blessed in that department.
794852
There is a way. It is a secret you learn from experience. You see orgasm is a physical thing with men. But women are a little bit more tricky its a mind and body thing both have to be on the same page. Try on top if you are waiting for him you will be sixty by the time you orgasm. On top you can accomplish clitoral and cervical stimulation by a rocking back and forth motion you will have to determine how slow or fast. but again I say you have to be mentally motivated. Good Luck.
1120825
Try to do workouts and more kegals..... Also talk with your doctor and see what they suggest. He also needs to make sure you are really lubed up and ready for him. He should try oral on you and let you climax and then use ky jelly and be gentle and slow and take his time so he does not hurt you. Have you tried being on top so that you can control things? Try buying a couples toy so that during intercourse you both are stimulated.... I hope this helps you some and i wish you the best.
601035
teiamaria115 has answered the question perfectly however I would just like to add that lubricant may help. Sometimes a woman doesn't produce enough and it can become sore and feel very tight.\n\nAsk your man to be gentle with you and instead of just going at it like a pair of animals, ask him to take his time. Easing himself in and out of you a little at a time allowing your body to produce it's own moisture. Make it fun for both of you because sex should be fun and you shouldn't have to worry about it either before or after.\nSomething else to try could be a vibrator. Try practising with it yourself with and without lubricant and if you feel comfortable with it, your partner can join in too.\n\nEnjoy x
323259
Personally, I think the best way to please me and to have simultaneous climax is to make sure you're stimulating the clitoris while you are having sex. I've found the two best ways for me is with the man on top if he moves upward so that his pelvic bone is stimulating the clitoris and I move my hips up that way he can feel me getting more excited and I can feel him and then we find a rhythm together. Since it's usually harder for women to orgasm the man usually has to wait for the woman to start and then kinda let themselves go when they feel her kinda tighten and make more noise. The other position that works for me is spooning. I can keep my legs together which gets more stimulation and he or I can also use our hands to help stimulate the clitoris.
575080
Try new things... \n\nBut one thing that I have learned over the years is that if you play with yourself you will know what turns you on... That way you can give him little hints on what to do to get you off. \n\nAnother tip is that when you do reach an orgasm think to yourself what is going on??? are you breathing less or more? Are you taking long slow breaths or quick and fast? are you playing with your clitorus??? (some women that is the only way they can orgasm.) If the last is the case you can train yourself to orgasm without as much clitoral stimulation.... When your having sex with your man. get into the doggy style possition and let him play with your clitorus... After a while your body will associate the other stimulation with orgasm also.
656688
Hey it happens...men are pretty sexual beings and they are lucky to have the ability to have such immediate responses...sometimes. Try to get him to slow down...spend some more time focusing on you and your body..and giving you pleasure first...then take a minute before letting him do his thing. As a man he is really in tune with the sensation of about to reach climax...get him to realize this and he,,or you can stop it grasping him right behind his testicles and apply some pressure to that area until the sensation subsides. It will take some practice. You need to apply the pressure to the underside of the penis, pushing up and in where the testicles are up against his body. This is an ac-cue pressure point that relieves sexual tension. After trying this a few times in a session your partner should find that he can last longer, and won't loose his erection. Another trick that works, but not as practical is to have him masturbate about 20 min or so before sex then he should have better staying power. Good luck and have fun!!!
388519
You need to know yourself and what causes you to acheive orgasm, then you share with your guy or girl what turns you on. Some women do not acheive orgasm before having their first child.Some women never acheive orgasm.....If all else fails learn to fake.\n\nYou could also learn to control your pc muscles... this is done by exercising these muscles,act like you are trying to stop a urine flow and like you are trying to stop yourself from passing gas, these muscles are the the ones you need to exercise over and over if nothing else it will keep you tight and exciting.
296471
Well, let me tell U that I was in your shoes for many time, I had sex and it always felt good, I had orgasms but not during sex, I was so desperate, and frustrated, but one time I had sex with my bf and nothing happened that time, still he didn't give up, and continue doing things to make me get the orgasm.  After three months of having sex with him, and we had tryed almost everything, he told me that I needed to focus on the point, I mean, when I was doing it, I always was thinking in something else, and that didn't make me feel good.\nI found that the way to get the orgasm was being on top, so I did it, in the beginning it was really difficult, but at the end it happened.\nSo, my advice is: focus on the point that U're gonna get it, think that U can get it, no matter your past experiences, if U trust on yourself U'll be able to experience it.\nI'm telling U this, because now I can enjoy it, I have an orgasm during sex and in other situations, like o.r.a.l. sex, been m*stur*b*ated by my bf or myself. and it feels really great.
354290
there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
632424
No.  Mostly, it's a matter of finding what stimulation gives you an orgasm.  Explore yourself, and then let your partner know what pleases you.  If you have a caring partner, he will do whatever it takes to make you have an orgasm.  If not, get a new partner girlfriend!!  My partner makes sure I have mulitple orgasms before he ever lets himself have one.  Also, if you are young, don't worry; the older you get the better you know yourself and the more orgasms you will have.  I think that I was too self-conscious when I was younger to let myself go and have an orgasm.