As a Daycare Teacher, I have a new child, 9 months old, who cries all day long. Any ideas? Thanks!?
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It will take some time.  Maybe even a week, by the 2nd or 3rd week, she will still cry some and may not eat much or play long with the other children, but she should not cry all day long.  Have her sit with you as much as possible so she will bond with you.  Remember that all babies develop a stranger fear around 10 months and don't like to be with people they don't know.  And they realize that Mama can leave them and they don't like that, so part of it is age.    Keep communicating with parents, they may have suggestions. Hang in there.  Thank you and God Bless you for taking care of children.
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get him to start telling you when he goes to the bathroom and change him immediatly, get him used to the idea of being clean and dry, let him run around without his diaper for a day and when he has to go have him go in training potty in the hall way out side the bathroom door. let him go into the bathroom when you go and make a big deal about yourself going and have him cheer you on. make it fun and not stresfull. he is probably trying to assert some control in one of the only ways he can by not going. so dont lecture him or tease him or god forbid force or punish him. this is going to take allot of time and patience and you may be in over your head you can seek out some occupational therapists in your area, the school system employs some, and you may be able to get some information from the head start program. good luck I hope this helps you
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Here am I.\n\nI asked a question for help reporting these types.\n\nAnother one needs his diaper changed.\n\nWhew what a mess !!\n\nBetter use plenty of baby powder.\n\nWe wouldn't want him to get a rash.\n\nStick a bottle in his mouth before the crying starts again.\n\nPut him on your shoulder and burp the little fella.\n\nThen rock-a-bye baby.\n\nPeace at last.
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I have a 6 year old boy. you are not alone. Kids are smart and they quickly learn how to get their way if the parents allow.  Try to sit down just you and him, in a place where there is nothing to distract him, and talk to him.  Don't stand over him since kids find that intimidating but look at him at eye level.  Let him know how much you enjoy doing things with him but there is a time and place for everything.  Kids need boundaries, and the crying is most likely a way of him getting what he wants. When it comes to behavior don't bribe him, but reward him.  When he cries, I know it's hard, but LET HIM CRY.  Say he doesn't cry for a while or doesn't start a tantrum, tell him how well behaved he is, and give him a little treat, cookie, stickers, extra 15 minutes watching tv. It is important to be positive towards a child. Kids are always looking for approval specially from parents and believe me you will see little changes. Remember you are the parent not his friend.  he has to respect you and the fact that you are the adult.\nAs to the anti-social, try to bring him around other kids more often like the playground, or mcdonnalds playcenter, places like that.  Even if he doesn't go off and play with them, he will watch and see how much the others are having fun, and soon enough he will want to play too.
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I was hoping you could provide a little more inormation as to what you are looking for.  If you are talking about time limits at mealtimes, I may have some good suggestions.  \n\nTransitions are hard for a lot of kiddos with Autism.  Warnings, and slow transitions, can work well.  An auditory cue (timer with a bell could also work).  Set the timer, and when it rings the first time, let the child know there are 5 more minutes, then reset it.  Be consistent...when that bell rings the 2nd time...it's over.\n\nI am not sure if this is what you were asking.  Please post some more info.  That would be helpful.  Best of luck!
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I hate to tell you this but some of this sounds very familiar to me.  Try some different professionals because if you feel in your heart that there is a problem, then there probably is.  Sometimes the "professional" can't properly diagnose because these kids choose to be on their best behavior when you take them in there, and they are actually trying to analyze the current situation or the doctor.  Good Luck
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First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
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Hmmm. . . has he always done that--the tiptoes, I mean--or is it new?  It may just be that he's trying out a new skill.  \n\nScreaming fits. . .my sister's kids were screamers.  I handled it by telling them that they had to go outside until they could calm down--even if it meant handing them their coats and pushing them out the front door.  At 4 he should be old enough to reason with.  But I'd also talk to him about better ways to express himself.  Years ago, I worked with a little boy to whom I gave a Nerf (Is that how you spell it?) ball and told him to put in his pocket and squeeze the dickens out of it if he felt he needed to scream.  I told him it was perfectly OK to say "I'm mad" but not OK to disrupt everyone else's day by screaming.  \n\nGood Luck!
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Work at a daycare!  I used to work at my sons' daycare and got 50% off of the tuition plus I got out of the house.  tell him you want to get out of the house more so you won't get bored and that your toddler would love to have more friends.  then explain how working at a daycare will benefit you both, you and the baby!  if you have to tell him you will only work partime, which could be half days all week or just a couple days a week. so it won't interfere with housework and won't be "abandoning" your child
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Interactive play and comforting behaviors help enormously to bring this type of child out.\n\nThe use of ASL is a great idea, but should be kept as informal as possible in order to avoid pushing the child to oppositional behaviors (since he's already defiant of society in his refusal to communicate orally).\n\nDoes the child have cognitive differences? Does the child allow other methods of communication? Does the child show an interest in any social activity?\n\nIt has been my experience that most children exhibiting some form of anti-social behavior are in fact in need of 'empathetic parenting'.\n\nA teacher can do this and maintain her professional stance by shoulder touches, meaningful smiles and by creating a more natural learning environment which gives room for alternative behaviors and encourages basic curiosity and fairness.\n\nGood luck. I hope you are able to reach him.
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I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!
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you should try to put him in a day care or a place where there are a lot of kids around and where he doesn't have you to hide behind talk to the teachers there or who ever is in charge and tell him what his problem is. they are usually very good at making activities so that the kids become friends and stop being so shy.
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Did you have any problems in the family that could have triggered his behavior? Usually children will lash out their feelings. I have a 12 yr, 10 yr, and 9 yr. My nine year old was very angry and got in trouble alot when I and his father seperated for divorce, he not only took it out on me and his father he took it out on his friends, teachers, grandparents, but we have since then talked to him and he is doing alot better.
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i know how you feel.  except mine is a 3 year old tantrum king!  spouse is deployed and we're far from home so i feel your pain...almost like being a single parent.  i enrolled him in a day program.  i feel like such a better parent when i see him.  i have a chance to miss him.  he is soooo feisty and just an all around boy he drives me nuts so having him burn his energy for 4 hours a day and then coming home...he's nice and relaxed and doesn't fight me when it's bed time.   also, you probably heard the saying.....terrible 2's, horrible 3's......lol
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I guess if there is no daycare center at your school, maybe you should take correspondence and seek a transfer to another school.  You could also check at your local support group and ask about special classes or programs.  You might be able to do it online.
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I went through a very similar situation and after months of being told by the teacher and the principal that there must be a problem at home, I found out another child was having the same problems mine was.  The other mom and I got together and came up with a plan.  We each got our child to tell us why the other child was having so much trouble.\n\nTurned out there was another child in the class bullying and intimidating ours so badly that there were days they spent all their time huddled under their desks.  \n\nWhile I still could not get the school to admit to a problem, I did find a sympathetic vice principal who allowed my child access to her office at any time he felt he could not handle being in the class anymore.  \n\nIt wasn't the perfect solution but it got us to the end of that school year and I made sure I had some say in what class he went into the next year.  Things improved after that.  \n\nIf you truly are not having discipline problems at home and the only place there really seems to be a problem is at school, then I would be looking very hard at why there is a problem at school.  Don't take the teacher's word for anything...that teacher may very well be the problem.  Talk to other parents and find out if anyone else is going through something similar to what you are.  Make sure your child understands that you know there is a problem and you are doing your best to help.  Let him know he has you on his side.  \n\nGood luck.  Sure would like to know the outcome of this one.
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Wow.  You take me back.  I had to handle school and four children from age 2 1/2 to 7.  It was a long time ago - 25 years.  And I was younger.  But I know how you feel.  I always thought "when I have the time, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown, because I deserve it."  Funny, huh.  \n\nTry to make sure you get enough sleep.  Without it, school is so much harder.  See if you can get help with babysitting.  I wasn't aware til my last year in school that the state would have paid for babysitting for me.  See if you can talk to a counselor there and find out all the programs you qualify for that might give you some help.  Enlist any friends or family and don't feel guilty about it.\n\nI felt a lot like I was not giving enough attention to my kids, and maybe I wasn't.  But now they have children of their own and they grew up ok.  \n\nTake some deep breaths.  Know you can do it.  And that it too will pass.  (I wondered at the time if that light at the end of the tunnel was really an oncoming train.  It just didn't seem to end.)\n\nGood luck to you.  And, in a funny way, thanks for reminding me of things I have been through.  I admire you greatly.  By comparison, the things that are going on in my life right now do not seem so bad at all.