The Fear of losing someone helps me love them the most Is it True?
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If you love someone, Let them go if they return they was yours if they don't they never was. I believe in this whole heartedly. I wouldn't want someone making me feel guilty just because I didn't feel the same way they did. You can not control how you feel. And if you get hurt then you still have to go on. And that doesn't mean that you don't still Love that person. You just can't tell them everyday.(at least not outloud). Just don't hate that person.Because he/she can't help how they feel either.
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No sometimes I find it the hardest.  When we love someone we like to give the benefit of the doubt (at least I do) So I have hidden from the truth when I should be facing it.  Wait so maybe then it is easy? Oh I don't know \nI have learned that you should follow your gut instinct no matter what!
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No, it does not mean that they don't love you. You can dislike someones behavior or what they say and still love them.  As you give no explanation as to why others are afraid of you, its difficult to make any suggestions as how you may alter this to have better quality relationships.  In the past, I had the impression that people were afraid of me.  I have a strong character and often speak whats on my mind, in a tone that one would of thought that what I was saying was "the only way".  In the past, I was more negative and angry, as well.  Over time I have learned to be more diplomatic in my approach to other people and tone down the way I express myself.  Also, I am much more positive then in the past; I guess it radiates through.
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I think most people love someone more then themselves. If they dontthen they are missing an important part of life.
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Keep on loving he or she. The love we give is the love we kept. Being deeply loved by someone gives her/him strength, deeply love somebody gives you courage.\nKeep rollin! Be patient. No pain no gain, you will appreciated more if you get somebody that is not easy to get, rather than just anybody.
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i believe in what ever u said. it had happened many a times.  sometimes i feel very down and later i come to know that the person whom i love is not feeling well. i can be anything. I could hear my mom scolding me if i 'm late to reach home. i get this uneasy feeling as if something is not just right.  Regarding the phone call i think it works. I definitely believe that there is some sort of communication happening even far far away
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It sounds like you have a guy who loves you dearly and is naturally scared of hurting you. I honestly don't think he would feel like you are afraid of him - if you have talked about what happened, and he is being there for you the way you say he is, then he is simply trying to be there for you in the best way he can, and worries when he's not sure how he can help more.\n\nYou've picked well - don't let this one go :)
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Yes it does! \n\nIt did for me. After my cousin died (over 10 years ago) I found myself incredibly empathetic in situations that I used to shrug off - I still am. I still cry when I hear about someone else's pain form losing someone, even when other's can keep it together - because it just brings me back to the day that Seth died. It's ok to feel that way, it actually makes you a better person and good friend to those who are going through what you've already experienced. I'm sorry to hear about your sister.\n\nSometimes I have incredibly vivid dreams where Seth and I just hang out together - like we did when we were teenagers, just before he died. It's great because I wake up feeling like I've spent the day with him, but then I feel like I've lost him all over.\n\nIt may seem ridiculous to still be so affected after 10 years, but Seth was my best friend, I don't think I'll ever get over this. It does (as they say) get better though. Hang in there.
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No, you cannot love someone too much.  But you can suffocate someone with love.  Part of love of recognizing when the other person needs space, when the other person needs a shoulder to cry on, when the other person is ready to talk or ready to be with you.  Sure there's all the comfort, inspiration and words of wisdom - but too much of that everyday will wear anyone out.  Love someone enough to know when enough is enough.
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if it is true love u  will feel something in ur heart and something suprising would surely happen . Either the person is missing u will call or u'll call the person
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I'm not saying I have all the answers, but it is pretty humiliating when someone doesn't want you. You're afraid of falling in love again; ok, you've been in love. Has anybody told you they love you, or has it been all theoretical and one-sided so far? You're afraid of love; have you been loved, manipulated, used or just misunderstood? How have you been hurt? These are questions you need to determine before you can decide what to do next. I'd say talk to a counsellor. Figure out what actually happened, what you want to do eventually, and what you can try next to achieve your goals. If you are still nervous after that, try to work your way up to it gradually. Start with just caring about people, maybe neighbors, children, the elderly. Do you know anybody in need? There are many ways to express love. Are you looking for a tender, warm caring love, or a rough, wild, sensual love? We all need various things from the ones we love at different times. Some people express love by sharing, some by providing, some by giving gifts or surprises, some by being romantic, some by being reliable, some by challenging their loved one to excell. Try to meet up with the pople who are looking for the same thing(s) you are. Good luck!
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It is because it is "safe" for you.  This is so common with people.  We are all afraid of love because we're afraid of rejection. We have learned that rejection is a reflection of us but it isn't.  People are gonna like you or they're not. Simple really.  So we as humans begin to feel attractions to things that are "safe" for us because we're not stable enough in our own confidence.  Swear it.  Sounds heavy but it is a psychological fact.  To overcome this, (besides therapy), you have to understand that love is not perfect because it is a person giving and receiving it and people aren't perfect.  Love will dissapoint at times and when it does, we feel that we will not be okay.  But we will.  We will be okay and it is safe to love a person once we define our boundaries and communicate them clearly to others.  So the cartoon enfatuation is really your subconscious saying that "I don't feel 100% safe and secure truly loving another human being cause I might get really hurt".  But it is okay to get hurt, and  you will be just fine.  :).   If you all think I'm silly, think about pedafiles and such.  This crime is a result of mostly men not every developing emotionally and therefore can only relate to intimacy through something that they can totally control.  Disturbing but this goes to show us all how many people lack proper develpment in the emotional and mental aspects of the brain, if you will.
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Yes. This something I do almost every day and how I've made some of my closest friends. I believe that every person has something good and beautiful inside of them. We all deserve love and attention. When someone is so low that they feel they don't want to live, that is when I feel closest to a stranger. I know how they feel because I've been there and I never have problems crying with them or helping them out. I'm always making friends because I wear my heart on my sleeve and offer anything I can to everyone. I love people and because I am so loving, they love me back. :^)
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Sometimes when people think they 'really love' someone whose actions hurt them (his breaking up with her, his distance and his silence) they are actually desperate to love and be loved, but the person they are focusing on is not "the one".  Instead, the one being hurt doesn't feel like they can survive alone, and they don't trust that they will find the true "one" in time to not die of a broken heart.  It's hard to make the decision to be alone when you feel this way, but it's the only way to open the door to true love, and it extends your misery until the day you decide to take the leap and risk being sad for a while.
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yeah i loved more then nything else my 1st grl friend.i was jst crazy 4 her n we had bout 1-2 year long relation.then she told me dat she loved someone else and not me.an witout me knowing nythin c was moving wid him.yeah i loved her but i didnot stopped her bcoz no use of dying 4 someone who doesnt care.i had lot of problem initially but m tellin u no use of getin sad.its of no use.u have your own life n no one have got the right 3 make it hell.why should u care 4 someone who doesnot value and respect your love.get up from it.der iz lott 4rm life den that person get involved with it.n watever hapens hapens 4 the good.there r obiosly much better things hidden 4 u. dis may noy b the perfect answer you r lookin for but hope so it can help it.i myself have xperinced it and is leading a much better life.BEST OF LUCK
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Wifey, Yes God does love you even though you don't believe he does. He did not take your boyfriend or Father away from you. God has a plan for everyone and we all have our time to go and nothing will stop it. God knows exactly when we will die even before we are born. He has plans for you also and one day you will know why. I am sorry for your loss and right now you are grieving and your thinking process is not where it should be. I have lost a love one and I know what your going through. You go through so many things that at times you will think your crazy and believe me your not, just the normal process of grieving. May God hold you close to him just as he did me when I was going through it.
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well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .