how would a guy who's shy grow the balls to  walk up 2 gal and start a conversation?
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Seen those Nike ads?  JUST DO IT!  It will get easier and easier every time.  And guess what, you will get rejected more often than not, but you gotta shake it off!  Its possible you're catching her at the wrong time, she's a lesbian, she's in a relationship, she's too busy, or she's just not attracted to you.  Who cares though!  There are a zillion other Chicky's out there!  Keep on trucking!
607922
the conversation starters will come up spontaniously in your own mind when you first set eyes on him and see something 'more'. at that point it is make or break.\n\nyou will find you feel a strong urge to go and say something to him.\n\nseize the moment. there's no more successful way. \ni alwasy feel so stupid and guilty when i don't seize the moment! no joke, there's some special energy in that first moment which, if you can flow with it, will sufficiently buffer you against the perils of failure (you will just feel so great and exhilerated for being so honest and brave and acting on your feeling straight away!) and create such a charge in your eye, voice and actions that you will be at your most enticing!\n\nor at least you will be very interesting and a rare encounter for them for your honesty.\n\nthis is a fun and spontaneous thing to do, it becomes drudgerous and embarressing when you don't go with the initial impulse because of fear.\n\nlet it go if that happens and wait for the next opportunity! that's what i'm doing, rest assured they just keep on coming!
124678
I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
856694
You need to start coming out of your shell. You think you are shy, but I guarantee you that most everyone else is too. Just be your happy outgoing self and the right guy will notice you. BUT, don't forget, he is probably to shy to approach you too. So you may have to be the one to break the ice. Good luck. GaryT
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Just talk to them the way you'd talk to a guy you were being friendly with.  Be casual and don't feel intimidated.
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I'm very shy always have been.\n\nFunny thing is people think I'm outgoing, yet I often struggle as a quiet 3rd wheel in many interactions.\n\nHe should take a public speaking course.  (Check the Internet for a Toastmasters Chapter).  Although I've never been a part of that group, I understand it to be an excellent way to build even a little self-confidence, and to meet a few people.\n\nIn social situations, he can begin with a firm handshake.  A common interest item should be used for an ice breaker.  \n\nAt work, or school, he should enter the NCAA bracket contests.  Even if he is not a fan, it is an opportunity to talk about SOMETHING with people.  Events like that break social and sexual lines.\n\nHe needs to start small.  Build confidence, thick skin (not a thick head, though), and maintain a sense of humor.\n\nGood luck
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No, as I've gotten older I've found it much easier to approach others. But that's beside the point really. What you need to do is force yourself to come up to people in your class. Your teacher, and your friends out in public. Just start by saying "Hi" and go from there. :) People love talking and if you get a big "talker" then you won't have to worry about saying much. Never be afraid of what people think of you. You are your own person and you shouldn't care what they think. If you say something stupid, laugh it off! I have to a lot. Goodness, just the other day that happened to me and I just laughed. It's like walking into a pole in front of a guy you have a crush on. You just step back, say "wow, that was stupid" and start laughing! It's really freeing! Trust me, I have actually run into things around guys that I've liked in the past! Yeah, it's embarrassing, but that feeling goes away after a while and you feel more confident in yourself. Good luck to ya!
965608
some guys may be naturally shy and are afraid of rejection. try talking to him...sometimes you just need to make the first move.
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Talk about movies, TV, anything you have in common. You could find out if he like videogames, cars, etc. and talk about that. It just sounds like he is really shy so you'll have to make the first move.
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Some of us like the shyer guys but you just might have to look a little harder or in different places to find us.  \n\nI don't know how old you are so it is hard to offer suggestions about where to look.  But one suggestion that seems to work for all ages and in all places is to get a dog.  You'd be surprised how many people stop to talk to you when you are walking a dog.  The dog gives a point of interest, something to talk about.  \n\nCheck out your local paper to see what sort of events are happening that might attract different types of people. Join a different type of club or group depending on your age and interests - bridge, dancing, book or poetry reading, book discussion group.  Join a ccoking class or some other class.\n\nDon't give up ... there are lots of women who'd be interested in a shy guy.  Get out there and find them.  Good luck!
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Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
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find something that you both have in common and that you know you can talk about for long periods of time w/ out being/ sounding weird. start a conversation and work your way up. it all takes time. once you think that youre ready, take things to the next level with him all you have to do is pre- think things through before you talk to him and youre confidence will boost up.
712017
Just smile at him...\nhe will go up to you and try to talk to you. It happend to me..so yea...if hes not shy he'll talk to you
1052573
...start with some eye contact and once u get his attention proceed 2 the next level...\nAsk him how he is and then find something 2 talk about...
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Well if your shy sometimes it helps to try to joke about the subject.\n\nYou could walk right up to him and say "do you like girls?"\nHe answers yes.\nThen you ask well how about me.\nTada an easy and humorous way to ask even if your shy.
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It's hard when  your shy to talk to girls..but if you wanna girlfriend you have to get over this...start out small..start with saying just hi to a girl  you like..then start with a hi how are you..then add a little more at a time you'll soon realize it's not as hard to talk to people as you think...a lot of women like shy guys...you'll find some one just be yourself..
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For the shy male, start with the internet. This type of forum lends itself greatly to those who lack social skill. True personality decides how the relationship works. The level of safety depends on what you are willing to reveal about yourself. If someone is interested in you, you may have major keyboard time ahead of you. \n\nRelax and be yourself. People can sense when you have bad intentions or if you're not being genuine. Start off with friendly conversation. Don't force your way into someone's personal life. If they want to talk about it with you, they will.\n\nThink about what you have to offer in a relationship. People who can make people feel good about themselves have a better chance of maintaining a relationship.