this is long but i need an answer.....please help..be mature about it!!!?
368031
The best advice to give to you is just keep seeing him then you will eventually tire of him and you will stop having feelings for him coz if you stop seeing him now it will just torment you..the same thing happened to me and I got the courage to walk away once I couldnt take anymore.
623377
Your g/f is very immature. I know you said to answer yes or no. But you need to know something...If she is this immature and selfish (which is what it is) then that means she will "growup" in time. When she does its very likely she will also "out grow" you. I don't mean this as putting you down. I mean it as a warning to you. You have accepted this behavior in her. When she changes she may very well decide that she doesn't want a guy who would put up with this. DON'T put up with it. Its rude. And she needs to know you can't treat people this way.\nGood LUck To YOU!
600142
Depends on one's age.  And it merely sounds as tho you're both at a tender age of not knowing what you want in your lives just yet.  Some take longer than others.  And some need many experiences and lessons along the way.  Do whatever you feel comfortable with.  Please dont make any life committmants until you're totally ready yourself.  :)
651182
he sounds More of a annyoing little brother then a real boyfriend!! break it up!! tell him you can't stand it anymore!! IF HE CAN'T BE MATURE THEN FIND SOMEONE WHO CAN BE!!! Good Luck!!
500292
Does it matter what we think? You seem to be mature and smart, and you must be aware of some of the risks by now - so if you are enjoying each other, and would like to take it to another level - go forth. Keep your expectations realistic, and go slowly - you never know what could happen.\n\nGood luck.
113126
if you think it can work out then give it a try, whats the worst that could happen? give him a chance if it doesnt work you gained another experience in your life. sometimes people just need a little push to realize theyre immature. give it your best shot and i hope it works out
238203
if you think he needs to mature...then girl yes...WAIT...men do not change overnight...just keep your options open though
769060
ok - this is going to sound like i don't understand how you feel, but i think i understand all too well... but at 14 there is no way you could know about the kind of girl you could spend the rest of your life with. you haven't had a chance to grow up and neither has she. i have been with my partner since we were 19, and it is still a struggle at times because you change so much as you are growing up - and the changes through the late teens into your early twenties are some of the biggest.\n\ndon't put this girl on a pedastal, as there are few things more frightening than having someone think so well of you. just spend some time talking with her and having fun. make her laugh. and realise that there are heaps of other amazing girls out there if nothing happens with this one.
785571
Please move on for your own sake.  Find someone who will be with you through thick and thin.  Obviously, he still does not know what he wants.  And with a 13 year old, he should definitely man up and stop just coming around when he feels like it.  So DATE, you will feel better about yourself.  You deserve better than what he is giving you right now.  If he does change, and proves to you he has changed, and you want to be with him - then great, it was meant to be.  Until then, don't let him run your life.
438783
I know where you are coming from. When I was 8years old I met this guy that is now a family friend. He use to live with my dad and step mom. When I was 15years old, he was 29. I have feelings for him too. But I lost my virginity to him and yes I do regret it. But I am still in your boat because I met this guy and he is 28 but I am 17 and he has 4 kids n his girlfriend broke up with him. I love him to death no questions asked. But not to long ago I found out he use to work with my mom and step dad. And my step dad was his boss. So its kind of weird talking to him now. But all I have to say since I was in your shoes before. Tell him how you feel and go from there. I still havent done that with this guy get because of him knowning my family. Just kind of freaky. But tell him your true feelings. And if he feels the same then go from there. But dont tell anybody about it because he can get arrested. But if you want more help just email me at  Always_Follow_Your_Heart_128@yahoo.com\n\nHope I helped a little bit. \nGood luck!
945794
6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?
1093180
I was in a relationship where the girl was 3 years older then me and It never really bothered me, Until she starts telling her friends and telling me and saying it as if she was embarrassed. So i ditched her and so learn from our mistake and don't pick at him about it. But age does not seem to mater if he is mature and you care for him then your very lucky. Good luck I hope this helps.
917036
Just let it go.  Why have you wasted 4 years thinking about some guy who's being childish about something so simple.  A real man would have talked to you.  All he had to do was tell you that he either just wanted to be friends or if he felt the same as you did.  Instead, he decided to be immature.  I think the real reason he's mad is because you moved on with someone else and instead of giving you an answer, he realized he blew his chance.  Let him fester in his own misery.  You don't need friends that immature.  Good luck!!!
1114088
Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.\n  Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.\n  Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.\n   I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.\n  I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.\n  If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.\n Good Luck!
567810
it's not what should you do, it's what can you do. looks like b/f has made some choices. all you need to do is get your mind around the situation. there are more guys out there. another one will come along, it all happened for a reason. the reason may not be obvious right now, but will become obvious someday, you have heard the saying when one door closes another one opens, hey the door closed, be thankful you found out now, before you had your 2.5 kids and caught him banging your friend. you expect your b/f to not like a gurl throwing herself at him , I can hear it now from you EX b/f oh please don't give me oral sex, yeah that's gonna happen. maybe you need to find some new friends, you won't lose much ditching the ones you have now. they don't respect you , that is obvious. good luck and don't take all that stuff too serious, you have a lot of heartache ahead of you, lol
668917
You should ask him and see what he says. If you are mature enough to feel real love then you should also be mature enough to talk about it with the guy you have feelings for. You need to clarify how he feels...if he shares your feelings, great...if not, then you need to move on.
1174316
When you are with this person, are you happy, do you have fun together? Can you trust the person you are with, and the most important question... are you old enough to even think about being in a serious relationship. I never understood why people in their early 20's or younger are so hell bent on being in a serious relationship. You need to go out there and experience life because there will be a time in your life where you will be ready to settle down with that one special person and understand what "True Love" really is. Don't let your peers pressure you or your loins for lust fool you into thinking you are in love. Most of you here don't even have a clue as to what love is or what it takes to keep it. Learn life's lessons so you can make wiser decisions as you progress through life.