How Do You Deal with Suppressed Memories When They Come Back to You?
369797
When dealing with abuse of any type (can also be the same as dealing with any type of emotional hurt/pain) it needs to be exposed to someone.  To simply suppress emotions and feelings without dealing with them and/or the issue will only cause things to get worse and when they come back, they'll hurt worse.  You need to find someone who will listen and help without being judegemental.  When we run into someone that is being judgemental or basically calling us a lier, we need to remember that we ALL are human and fall to sin and then find someone different to talk with.  Suppressing feeling is like a splinter.  You know it's there and if you ignore it, it can fester and become infected causing it to turn ugly colors and cause even more pain.  Find someone to talk to.  It can be a good trusted friend, it can be a trusted family member, a christian consoulor, pastor, ...    Find someone and talk about it, deal with it and work through it.
925397
It sounds like "old memories" type of deal. Maybe subconsciously when you go back home, you are remembering it and you feel like you can't recover in front of these people, so the fear comes back. Does that make sense to you?
672119
Sounds like you have a horrific childhood past and it's blocked. Did you know if a parent does something wrong the child represses these memories the most. I don't know what it is or who did what but sit a think as far back as you can. Writing is especially good when your in these kind of moods. I MYSELF FIND THAT i write stuff I had forgot about.
879317
ignore them.  you made certain choices in your life, as we all do, and as a result people perceive you in a certain way.  now you're living your life in a different way, and those that are open-minded (read:  worth your time) will shift their perceptions accordingly.  those who are clinging to your past mistakes will eventually be cycled out as you meet and form relationships with people that respect you enough to pay attention to who you are and what you're doing NOW.  \n\nyou can't control what other people think of things you've done in the past, and you can't control how fast they let go of it.  efforts to 'change their minds' will only bring more attention to the past by making it the focus of your actions in the future.  what you CAN control is who you surround yourself with.  choose carefully.
625409
You don't have to forget, but you must move on. Put them in the back of your mind, don't take sand to the beach. Summer is almost here have fun.
519015
How about instead of forgetting... remember the good times. Only time with help you with that sorry. However after awhile it wont hurt so much and you will be fine.
863787
You can stop when you stop checking up on him. As long as you dig around to see if he is okay or listen to stories about him, you are feeding your fantasy/dreams/neurosis.\nStop all check/sightings/following. Then when you start to think of him, repeat the mantra "I distinctly remember forgetting about him." This will help reprogram your mind.
124999
Sure.  In fact, the problem with recovered memories under hypnosis is that you can be hyponotized to remember anything, whether or not it actually happened.
872715
no...you can go to therapy.. i think if there was a way to erase memories alot of people would be doing it. i for one have had a horrible like, i was molested as a child rapped 2 times as an adult was a drug addict and you know what i survived i have all these horrible memories inside my mind but i live with it and you can too.
1022390
I've had a pschologist give me this advice.  first, before going to sleep, once you've laid down, with the lights off, remind yourself that you intend to remember your dreams.  Second, if it's practical, if you wake up in the night, after having a dream, make a  few quick notes or record some comments on a tape.  Finally, first thing in the morning, make an effort to recall as much as you can.  I mean, the moment you are fully awake, don't get up until you have replayed your dream(s) as fully as you can.  Don't wait until later in the morning because the memories are not as full or real as a real experience.  The memories fade fast.\n\nFrom my experiece, any memories can be  made to last by writing things down, either a few notes and names, or written out in long form.
226073
Sit in a comfortable quiet place.\nClose your eyes.\nClear your mind of all thoughts.\nThoughts will keep coming back into your mind.  When they do, simply stop thinking them and clear your mind again.\nKeep repeating the last step.
1054841
u have to relax your mind inhale and exhale well and let ur mind do the rest for you when your memory bank is ready to let u know.
699369
First of all, I remind myself that at some point in time, the bad experience will be behind me.  Then I imagine myself in the future and how I want it to end, and consider what actions I can take within the present moment so that when I do look back on it, I will at least have maintained my dignity.\n\nTo cope with overwhelming emotions, I especially find it helpful to listen to music that reflects and draws out those emotions, and I sing along as loud as I can -- for me it is an excellent release.  My son is more physical than vocal, so his release is through physical activity -- usually jogging around the neighborhood or shooting hoops.  If you have a boxing bag, that is another excellent way to channel some aggressive and angry feelings.\n\nI also like to journal about the situation and my feelings, because it sometimes helps me look at things from a slightly different perspective.  Venting to a friend that's a good listener always helps, and if there is someone I feel I can turn to for constructive advice, I will do that as well.
54677
When you really are too old to remember any longer
204576
Bacause you have created a bond with that person while with them, and you have shared a part of you lives together and it is hard when things don't go as well as thought that they would because so much time,effort and love has gone into a relationship that didn't survive the test of time, but you are left with memories and things left unsaid and undone and maybe a few wonder what ifs. Time will fade the thoughts and memories but, for now they are your way of trying to come to terms with losing a part of your life that used to mean so much.
209335
hmmm things youve created to make memories more appealing hmmmm alterations to block out stressful memories ..some of us have enough power to alter memories so well we beleive them our selves.... especially if we dont want to remember ...im very good at this one and now have very limited recolection of the memories ive altered \na high tendeny with cases of post traumatic stress disorder or bipolar diseases
819812
Mine does the same.  Just remind her that past is history, future is a mystery and present is a gift - so live in the present and enjoy it.  There is no use in bringing up bad memories from your past.