I am fat, is it being fat the reason why i am not always accepted during job application?
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There are plenty of overweight people out there who are employed. You've gotten some good suggestions. Here are some of mine.\n\n1. It's a rare person who doesn't have to deal with some anxieties about job interviews, whether it is appearance-related, grade-related, employment history-related, etc. There are no perfect applicants out there. Remember that during the whole process.\n\n2. Do everything you can to look clean cut. That image works for most employers. For men, that would include a short haircut, clean shaven, no earrings, etc. Find the perfect interview outfit. Nicely shined shoes, pressed pants, a suit and jacket if appropriate. The preppy look works well for most office environments. Once you get the perfect interview outfit, set it aside and save it for just that purpose. In general navy is the best suit color. A nice pen and a nice portfolio might be appropriate. Always arrive on time. Sometimes it helps to do a practice run to find the place ahead of time.\n\n2. Check out books on interviewing. Rehearse answers to frequently asked questions. Think about past work-related accomplishments that you might be asked about. Don't bad-mouth former employers at all or say anything negative about past situations. People don't want to hire whiners. If they ask why your leaving your current position say something like you'd like new challenges, increased responsibility, higher salary, something to that affect. \n\nCheck out the books in that regards. Act enthused. People want to hire people who want the job. Even if you are not sure, talk like you are excited about the opportunity. You can always decide later after you get an offer.\n\nAsk them what a typical day is like, what they like best about working for the employer. Interviewers like to talk about themselves sometimes.\n\n3. Make sure your resume is error-free. Consider tailoring your resume to different types of positions. Borrow some of the buzz words off employee ads to describe yourself. For example, if you see ads asking for high-energy, motivated, individuals with excellent intepersonal skills, use something like that on your resume to describe the kind of person you are. \n\n4. Make sure they see you as someone high energy and hard working. I think a stereotype of someone overweight is that they are lazy and slow. Try not to walk real slow if possible. I've known some really sucdesful overweight professionals and they always dressed well, seemed energetic, spoke with enthusiasm, etc. That really helps. Don't forget to smile and make eye contact. A firm but not constricting handshake is good. If given an opportunity let them know how hard-working, energetic and efficient you are.\n\n5. Ask each interviewer for a business card afterwards if they haven't already given you one. As soon as possible after the interview send a letter to each interviewer thanking them for the opportunity to interview. Reiterate the interest in the position and how you feel you can help them.  That really is the bottom line, they want someone to help them.\n\n6. If for no reason other than your health, I would suggest walking to help your weight. I know very few people who haven't dealt with weight issues sometimes in their lives. \n\n7. Have some references if asked. Try asking people you have worked with in the past or teachers, etc. Make sure they can give a good response. \n\nThere's a job out there with your name on it Ryan. I don't know which one it is, but God does. Do your best, keep the faith, and trust God to lead you to it. He will. God bless you.
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It's all relative... I would say that you may be carrying around a few extra pounds, but aren't "fat." Someone who is 5'3" and weighs significantly more than you would think that you were thin. All that matters is that you exercise regularly, eat right and have a BMI of less than 24%.
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I appreciate your consideration to others.Usually it happens due to ego, ie to show selfdominating attitude. One will not be ready to set their position below anyone in any field. Another reason for this may be highly active nature of the individual. Certain hormones secreted will keep the indivdual highly active. Itdepends on the individual.
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You sound perfectly normal and average size for your height.  Stop stressing about it!  As long as you are healthy, eat a fairly balanced diet and keep yourself moving then you'll be fine.  If people call you fat they are putting you down and not helping you out by saying this so ignore them and instead concentrate on what you think and how you feel.  You're an intelligent person, you know what's good for you and what's not so just remember that!
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No. They won't think of you as seriously. It sounds stupid, but that is how those people think. You have to treat this as if you're applying for a very important job.
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Hmm, so by you're own admission you're basically fat AND stupid...sounds like the perfect military candidate to me!
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You should be a model, for real.  Go to some open calls or type in some searches--go to model search america--you will get a job--i went there this year and they chose people like you--all the big namd mags and tv stations are there.  You will get in!\nIf you can see your bones, that is an indication that you may be too thin.  I mean if they stick out bad.  Good luck.
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yes, sadly.  looks are so important in our world that people only see the outer layer of our beings.  why should it matter if you are a little overweight? a little older? not too pretty?  these are the hidden prejudices.  and don't let anyone tell you they aren't there. \nolder employees are a valuable resource:\nolder women re-entering the work force aren't looking for husbands and trying to start families, so they would be more liable to stay in your employ longer.  \nolder employees aren't apt to be phoning in 'sick' [read hung-over /stoned from too much partying].\nmany men, and women, miss out on wonderful relationships because they are looking for that 'perfect' person.  and employers are the same. sad but true .\nif i were in h.r. i would be different from the norm and hire that gal that is a little frumpy or that fella with the 'not so perfect'  teeth as long as they fulfilled other qualifications.  i would suspect they would be far more loyal employees than the 'pretty ones' if only because i gave them a chance.  pretty people don't have to try as hard as they quite often can get by on their looks.\nhaving said all that there are exceptions to every rule!  my theory may not always prove to be right, but i'm thinking it is most of the time!
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Well you could loose weight but do it for you, because you want to.  If someone cant accept you how you are then its probably not even worth a date.  Maybe you are looking to hard.  Im sure it has someone who is admiring your beauty but just a bit shy or intimidated to approach you.  You never know.  Sometimes it is important to find yourself and then someone will find you.  So dont be discouraged about not finding a date.  It happens to the best of us but be a bit patient and things will work out.
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just trust urself and dont care what others say about u \ni think u r not fat
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You are not at all over-weight. Get ur BMI(Body to Mass Index) checked. If its 24 or less, I think you are just doin fine. You really dont want to be called skinny, do you?
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you're not fat no matter what anyone tells you!!! you are beautiful just the way you are!!! Jesus loves you!!! i am praying for you!
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there is nothing wrong with being fat, if you are fat and healthy.\nwe all need love, doesn't matter what our size.
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There really isn't any "getting around this."\n\nYou are obligated to tell the truth on job applications.  You'd definitely be in worse shape if you got caught lying about it.\n\nYour best bet is to collect some fresh, respectable references who will speak to potential employers about you, or who will write a letter in support of your job applications.\n\nGood luck.
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Sounds not bad to me, have you big bones or slight build cos that also determines what is considered overweight.\nYou must know what u look like  OK...long as you are healthy n happy then all's good.77kgs sounds just fine...
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Honesty is best. Tell why you fell that way. What traits do you model about them that will benefit the job you are applying for....Stuff like that
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i think there is a difference between discriminating and being selective. of course there is always going to be prejudice. but putting that aside.. a company may be searching for a particular type of person. i know companies that insist that u know how to play golf.. because that is where a lot of contracts.. are negotiated and settled on the green.  also suspose you need someone to do a lot of traveling in a fast pace business with a host of luncheons.. dinners and late night negotiations.. and a person applies that appears to have health issues.. not in shape..  then what? is the ceo wrong to hire a slimmer more fit person.  so there r many variables.  yes .. tall .. handsome.. and white.. fit the profile for a lot.. but in a alot of cases..your presentation in an interview is everything.