Advice abt my Hubby:his masterbation practices?
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If it's not taking any fun out of your sex life, why is this a problem for you?
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How about seeing a doctor together and maybe getting a referral to a sex therapist.  There may be some medical solutions.  Even if there isn't, there are a whole host of things that a sex therapist can open up your mind to, that could help bring the spice back into your sex life.  \n\nYou are a very honest person and obviously love your husband.  So, try reaching out with the same question to a professional physician or psychologist who can get you back on the same path together.
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Find out for yourself what works. In other words, masturbate. Then, when you're with a guy, for God's sake don't do him any "favors" and fake. DON'T!! You'll regret faking, trust me!! I did it with my first husband and wound up having to do it for THREE YEARS. Don't be afraid to tell a guy what works and what doesn't.
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First off, you are tired.\n\nMasterbation is easy , less active and gets the job done the right way.\n\nthat being said, you have 2 children under 3.\n\nEven if your a stay at home mom its exhausting. all the running around and lack of sleep.\n\nPlus you associate his penis with pregnancy, and that is off limits now.\n\nInitially it was exciting to think you could have his baby, and pregnancy was a fun idea, and now you know that pregnancy ends with a baby and that is no longer FUN its work.\n\nAnd if you had a ruff delivery, and alot of tearing down there, sometimes they just don't sew up the snatch correctly and it hurts, or if you tear at the top, \n\nbut personally for me its the hormones, mommy hormones\nfirst we breast feed, and it takes at least 6 months after breast feeding to enjoy sex. cause your homone levels are up.\n\nso its a dual problem physical and emotional.\n\nOk so here is what you do to fix it.\n\nGet yourself some help, if your hubby doesn't do it then get a friend, your mom, sister whoever.\n\nBut you gotta give the man his sex. you know that right?\n\nGo out to the dollar store and the sex store and pick up some goodies. Candles, and a vibrator. and anal play devices.\n\nmusic , chocolate coverd strawberries, champagne, and whipped cream.\n\nNow wait til friday night, kids are away, and he has no idea,\nget comfortable with the idea.\n\nWatch porn, and pull a julia roberts in pretty woman.\n\nYou need to stop masterbating so often, cause you aren't saving it for him, if you want to masterbate during sex then fine but not before.\n\ntrust me you will get it back but it takes time and if you stop masterbating you'll start enjoying his touch again.\n\nRoll playing can help, talk dirty and tell him what to say to turn you on.\n\nAnd make sure he is licky licky before he sticky sticky's\n\nand if not then tell him to enter from behind and masterbate while he does his thing,.\n\nif this doesn't work email me for more pointers.\n\nGood luck \n\nMeg\nkovasmomma@yahoo.com
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I feel for ya. \nBy the way, I noticed your question about premature ejaculation, and wanted to help.\nTo help him help himself, get him to excercise his "pc" muscles--stands for pubococyxx, or something like that, and you have them too. When he urinates, have him clench down to stop the flow--those are his pc muscles. The simplest way to excercise them is by stopping and starting urination. Then, when you two get back in the bedroom, he can clench down to stop ejaculation--although it does take willpower.\nFor external help, there are several possibilities, depending on how kinky you want to get. Wearing a thicker condom is a good solution, most of the time. There are also creams availible. And of course, you can try a c0ck ring--or c0ck rings. Play around, have fun with it!\nAnd in the meantime, feel flattered that you excite him so much.
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Have you tried a nice warm massage with scented baby oil while enjoying an nice romantic candle lit bedroom or dim lights. Well for me personally that help me a while back, u see i created the mood instead of him doing all of the creating, create your own dream world with a little reality and settings and u can have a night of passion and sex. But remember to always relax and let your body take control of  the flow and the moment and you will see. \nCreate an atmosphere of daring and challenge, a little of being able to be on the wild side.
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Play games again like in the beginning...flirt, kiss passionately and then just walk away, smack a few asses playfully while doing housework or when the in-laws are looking the other way.  Take more personal time with de-stressing activities like bitching to your friends, yoga, or excercise to make him/her miss you more.  "Marital aids" like small toys or (especially) lubes of various sorts add whole new dimensions to your sex life as well.
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well, for a little while and then let him get involved.  Not just sit there and watch you go to town and make yourself orgasm.  When I'm going down on my wife, she will sometimes push my head away and do it herself for a while.  It"s hot, but then I want to finish what I started.
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what you are proposing is a good thing.  yes, learn how to please your husband.  \nHere, let me talk to him for a second:  DUDE!!  masturbate for her.  show her that you love her be being intimate this way with her.  It's good for your relationship.\n\nhave fun!\ntom
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This one is easy...GET ON TOP!!!! And make sure he understands that he doesn't c*u*m until you do. He needs to tell you if he needs you to slow down during intercourse so that he doesn't get off before you. Now, straddle that man and get busy, girl. Make sure you kind of lean your hips forward so that your clit is resting on his pelvic area. The back and forth motion that you make while you're riding him will drive your clit crazy...and eventually you will c*u*m. It may take a while...just don't give up. It's a proven fact that most women have to have some sort of clitoral stimulation in order to get off. There's nothing wrong with you. And if all else fails...break out the porn when you're gettin' busy. That will make it more fun for both of you, I'm sure!
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practice makes the man perfect... so, do more to better yourself. and dont forget to make it two way(make your partner also participate actively).
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has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
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Masturbation Techniques for your male partner\nPartner Masturbation (Hand jobs)  are a great way to pleasure your man. They can be used by themselves, or while performing oral sex on your partner. Below is a listing of hand job techniques. It is better to perform these using a lubricant. \n\nPressure\nWith one hand, pull the shaft's skin toward the base and wrap the fingers of this hand around the base to act as a cock ring. Using the other hand, rhythmically pick various points along the shaft of the penis and squeeze opposite sides of the penile shaft at these points, releasing pressure either immediately or after only a brief period of time. \nFire\nRub the penis between both palms, as if rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Be sure to use plenty of oil. \n\nGlans Head Massage\nHold the penis in one hand with the head sticking up. Using the well-oiled palm of your other hand, slowly and sensitively massage the glans head. Reverse directions every once in a while. \n\nHealing Stroke\nWith the penis resting on the man's stomach, take one hand and cup the testicles. Then glide the heel of the palm of the other hand up and down the underside of the penis. \n\nTwist and Shout\nPull the skin of the penis toward the base with one hand. With the other hand, corkscrew the penis. This can be done with the thumb and first finger or with your entire grip. \n\nAnvil Stroke\nStart with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top, all the way to the bottom. When you hit the bottom, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat. \n\nBookends\nPlace both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. \n\nDoorknob\nTurn the head of his penis like you're trying to open an oily doorknob. Now try turning the other way. Repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base. \n\nDouble Whammy\n\nBring your well lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some penises are so big they require both hands; if your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his testicles, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time. \n\nMilking\nStart with one hand lightly grasping the bottom of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the bottom all the way to the top. When you hit the top, release the penis. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the bottom of the penis and repeat. \n\nPerpetual Penetration\nStart with one hand lightly grasping the top of the penis. Then stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom, letting his penis "penetrate" into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous. \n\nRing\nMake a ring with your thumb and forefinger and pump up and down with it. When you get to the top close the ring. Then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom. \n\nShaft\nStroke only his shaft, ignoring his glans head. You will notice his glans head swelling and turning red. When it's bright red, use Doorknob, Glans Head Massage, or Perpetual Penetration. \n\nShuttle Penis\nTake the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding onto the loose skin of the shaft. Do this stroke for a while to allow tension to build. \n\nSpot Pinch\nLightly and slowly run a finger up the underside of his penis. Ask
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I too have NO sex life due to a sick hubby right now and wish i was in your shoes on some days.  I guess - how much do you love hubby?  Enough to sacrifice your physical needs?  Could he ever recover and be the man you need?  If no to both, then leave hubby and get you some, girl!!!
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If he won't let you get a toy, tell him that you are having some slight back pain and could you get a wand massager (the kind that plugs in).  Get the Hitachi Magic Wand Massager and when he is around use it for your back.  When he isn't around, use it to get off.  My wife can have an 0rgasm in under a minute with this thing, it is so strong.  And she keeps really, really happy with it.  \n\nOr just really tell him how you feel and that it isn't cheating, just that he never gets you off but he gets to have his 0rgasms, so it is very unfair.  Just tell him you'd like one small di1do, or a magic bullet, or the wand massager I mentioned above.  \n\nI wish my wife could be more horny like you, she never really wants sex with me, even before I got her toys.  I want it several times a day.  Such is life, eh?  And we are 28 too.
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Who cares?  Maybe he's just thinking about getting off.  That's what I think about when I masterbate.  As long as he has sex with me and is faithful, I don't care what my hubby thinks about when he jerks off.
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This is so funny! So refreshing to hear of another hubby with a sense of humor. Did it work? \n\nThank your lucky stars you don't have me! I was upset at my hubby years ago when he wanted me to rub his back with Icy Hot. I lovingly did that for him even though I was mad at him at the time right before bedtime. We went to bed and I spooned behind him gently and lovingly cupping his "jewels" in my hand as I always had. The only difference was that I hadn't washed my hands. I know I'll probably get raked over the coals from you guys out there but it WAS funny. He was "dancing in the sheets". Get it? He forgave me though as I did him for what he'd done.