Why do people judge people before they get to know you??
365700
i don't. most goodlooking girls or guys are real assholes
677292
yes people do that. It's apart of society. It's really sad because there are so many nice and good people out there that may look or act a certain way, but have a heart of gold. I've done that myself and I'm sorry to say because i did that it took a long time to find out a certain person was as nice as she could be. I just though because of how she looked and acted that she wasn't worth the time to get to know. Plus the people i rolled with or looked up too didn't want to deal with people that wasn't like them or worth the time to use. After growing up and learning the hard way that this mind set only brings u pain and sometimes embarassement. Because so many of the girls that were popular in school are now like haggs. Gotten fat and look old because of the way they lived. SO, it doesn't pay to judge or even think that u are better than anyone else. Because the best person in the world are those that aren't considered worth anything. So hun don't worry about what they think or feel about u, be u and confident in yourself. SOmeone out there will come to like u for u. Trust me I know. I would be glad to get to know u and be your friend. I don't meet strangers, you only become a stranger to me if u start acting like a butthole. So, look for more people like me there are some out there. God bless u hun.
327810
Those kind of 'friends' you don't need.  Drop the loser!  Some use a so called friendship to get close enough to hurt you and make themselves look better.  Those people have low self esteem and bolster it by hurting others and making them look bad.  It is the same as bullies.  They cover up their insecurities in different but similarly hurtful ways.  Eventually, people will get to know these losers for what they are.  Try not to let it get to you, it just feeds the fire for them.  Tell people who listen to these persons to consider the source, to consider what kind of person he/she is and what they like to do to people.  Tell them that if they want the truth, to ask you...otherwise, they are just as bad as the rumor mongers.  Sorry for your mess, I hope this helps a bit.
608006
A lot of times yes. Or insecurity. They are not sure of themselves, so they have to create a big scene or just act an azz so that they feel better about themselves, or so that they will appear a certain way in other people's eyes.  And its a shame cuz usually people can see right through them.
673093
I wish I could give you ten points for even asking this question, you are a true and real genius!!! This is how it always ends up doesn't it?!?! I think that lost people see nice people (people that have found their inner selves) and try to take advantage. Those people try to gain what they need from nice people because they lack this!!They latch on like a parasite, but only if they knew that they have to achieve that task on their own. In other words usually people that pick on nice people, 9 times out of 9 have issues lying within thierselves and unfortunately nice people are bombarded with this destruction!!
289440
I guess by looks is the fastest way to judge someone but that isnt very useful.. While looks can sometimes tell you what a person does for a living they are almost always wrong about who that person is.  If you really want to get an accurate impression, say hello and see what you learn.
654760
Not all people are like that.  I'm not.  The outside of a person wont tell you how a person is inside.  I want to get to know people and easily people do judge but no its not right.  When i meet a person i make an effort to find out what that person is like...i dont look at colour, what clothes they are wearing or what car they drive or how beautiful they are.\n\nBeauty is on the inside and always will be.
224811
Yes, people do judge others by their dress, bodily markings, interests, methods of speaking, etc. For instance, when I see you, I automatically think "Hippie". I don't know if it is the red hair, or the mermaid tattoos.
351724
some people do not go after looks.  I never did, it just all depends on how you feel about the way the person is treating you.  if you treat others with respect, chances are some of these people will respect you.
397359
Because they're afraid to be judged infront of their "guy friends." \n\nGood luck!\n\nMichelle
1097180
people judge others by their looks because they are shallow. I use to be horrible when I was a teenager, but the older I get the more I realize I have no right to judge people. Especially now that I have kids, I don't want them to be little jerk teenagers like I was.
303557
maybe b/c people might see us as weak or unloveable. no one wants to be judged as that.
371629
I used to judge people as well for different things, clothes and looks and the way they talk and all but i now know that it is not my place to judge anyone. \nI dont want anyone to judge me just because I am different. We all life different lives with our own likes and dislikes and faults and no one is just like ourselves. So no one should judge nor be judged by others. We all do what we do!!!  WHO ARE WE TO POINT OUR FINGERS AND JUDGE OTHERS
363257
they think they can tell how a person is by just looking at them. I've misjudged people many times only to find out that they're really good people. Eventually, I stopped doing that because judging someone usually ends up to be wrong.
401433
Why do you judge others? Let em live their lives!
261007
Some people make judgements against others based on the color of their skin, the clothes they wear and the way they speak.  I have people watch me quite often, and I have fun with it, stare back, make comments about the stares, stuff like that.  I am a hispanic female, with tattoos, peircings and such.  No one even realizes that I am a college educated person in a management position. I get more stares when I am with my black fiance and my three white kids, but it is all because people are ignorant.  I have met some really cool people, hard workers and loving family men that looked like they came out of that movie stand and deliver.
24271
because they're afraid of judgement.  they judge others because they feel judged themselves.  i hate people that don't like me, but i don't try to, it just occurs that way.  we can supress or express our hate, but it's still there.  people hate as often as they love.  the end... i suppose.