hoy do you not love someone after being together 12 years she up and left?
361770
I am a romantic like you.  I never thought it was possible because I couldnt just fall out and leave.  Some times its better of not trying to figure it out
809822
Many Many years ago I did just that. I was unsure about my relationship at the time and just wanted to get away from my life and responsibilities and got with someone whom I had no history with. It was an escape which is all it was designed to be. I returned to my life and have been married 21 years and never looked back and can't imagine being with anyone else ever again.
740294
Not at all!\nSince I broke up with my ex of 10 years my life went from going nowhere to me being the happiest I have ever been. It was the best decision I ever made...I wish I didn't wait until 10 years to break it off.
618100
its only 12 years, i know couples with a larger difference. if you put the time and effort into the relationship, anything is possible....as a older guy, i say go for it!!
726715
If you guys didnt really have anything in common and you were super happy with her, then you did the right thing. You should never settle for someone, or continue being with someone in fear of hurting their feelings. Its a hard thing to do, I know, because I am the same way, but you have to think, do I really want to spend the rest of my life being moderately happy instead of really happy? And its better to do it now then wait til later when you cant take it anymore and youre much older than you are now and starting over is that much harder.
637179
Been there done that...whats up with the 23rd year...Its alot of years, you'll never forget the past, my marriage was great the first 20 years, but I could see the dis-interest building as the months after pasted by...and she too felt she was no longer in love with me, however I later found out her interests were directed toward another...suggestions..Seek marriage council advice, put forth a 100% effort to resolve such conflict, and if it doesn't turn out happily ever after, if there ever was an ideal time to be single , its with a good job, no mortgage and your child a grown adult...very simular to my situation...its was 2 yrs separated and 3 years since divorce and those conditions were blessings in disguise.
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
23526
It is not a bad idea in fact you never know what might happen, old feelings may reappear.  At the same time if you do it be ready for dissapointment remembering that she might be attached.
651100
I dated my ex wife for 7 years before we got married...after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids she say's to me..\nI do not love you anymore,,,I need time to grow...\n\nNow bare in mind this was on my 30th B-day....oh yea she also said ....HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
360036
One girl I dated long distance for about 7 months, moved to Cal to be together, she left me for someone she met through her job.  Hurt like nothing else I ever felt.  Good thing is I met someone else who is like none other...Pain goes away a little at a time, then all at once.
188745
Not necessarily, she might not have been content in her first marriage, and that is why she did what she did.  Look at it like this, you are with her now and not her ex.  There was something missing in her relationship with her ex and she has now found what she was looking for in you.  Don't let your insecurities keep you from having a long lasting loving relationship.  Jealousy and not trust one another with break up any relationship.
1018309
Yes, And I regret that it never worked out.\nIts been years and I still miss everything about her.\nGood and bad.
547318
nope. you haven't been together long enough.
1167883
I met a lady on line and finally met her. She was about 10 years older than me and we both knew we didn't want to get serious, just have fun. We had a great secret and private relationship for about 4 years before she started to have physical problems.\n\nThose are 4 years, though that I will never forget. Unlike women my age, this lady really appreciated me and made me feel good. I went out of my way to appreciate her too. Sometimes I wish I could find somebody to take her place, but at least I can dream about her.\n\nTX Guy
1171011
Ask myself why someone I have been with for 4 years might want to leave...
859232
it takes awhile, sometimes a few years. (yeah, i know), but honestly would you rather that she stayed with you and lied about how she really felt? \ndon't both of you deserve to be TRULY loved by someone? it took a lot of courage to tell you she was unhappy and leave although right now i know you hate her guts! but it would have been easier to just pretend. and then you would be left loving a woman that didn't love you the way you should be loved.  \n\nit took me a long time to get over my divorce...i loved him, but i hated him at the same time. it suxs! but in time we came to realize that we were better off separated and we are friends now. we have a child together...so i am in constant contact with him. it's been 8yrs...and although some subjects are a bit touchy still....it's not so bad, and i don't hate him anymore. i might still be disappointed in some things...but the hate is gone.\nhang in there...
119708
Do you still love him?