what do you do when you do not like to associate with husbands friends.  They are a married couple.?
367509
Tell your husband you don't like hanging around with them and why.  If the reason is good then he will probally respect your wishes and plan less things together as a group.
438643
I am with you 100%. AMEN! I can not stand fake people. I am honest but, it is hard to fine honest people. I am the type of person that will tell you like it really should be done. I try not to hurt people feelings; my husband has to shut me up sometime. You seem honest and stay that way and try to find a friend like you.
1095214
Sounds like your friend needs to get into marriage counseling.  Marriage is hard and if you don't work at it and really put the effor in to keep your friendship/relationship with your spouse good it will go sour eventually.
582877
Boy, this is such dangerous grounds.  You want your husband to know what a slimeball his friend is for making passes at you, but you don't want to start a fight between the two of them or get in between them.\n\nI would wait it off for a while.  Try to make a huge point to your husband's friend that you are *not* interested.  Be rude right back to him if you have to.  If that doesn't work, then you will probably have no choice but to tell your husband to get the issue resolved and get his friend to back off.
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First off, she is NOT your wifes best friend if she would make advances towards you. If I were the wife I would not want to know if it has all been stopped and I mean stopped. Do NOT ever be alone with this woman again. She (and your stupidness) could ruin your marriage. I've been in this situation with my spouse of 35 years. I was the stupid one and I too came to my senses. When he tried again I told him it never happened. He got the message. I vowed never to put myself in that situation again. I did NOT tell my husband and the other person eventually disappeared from our lives.  I am glad I did not tell.  There would have always been that doubt planted.  I know I have behaved ever since but he might wonder. Should the best friend decide to tell then you have your problem to deal with.  Avoid her unless wife is around. Some will say it was just a kiss but there is a seriousness here.  Good luck
388946
You gotta be careful, your playing with fire and you don't want to get burned. You should really try to work things out with your husband first, he shouldn't live alone so much just to go out with friends. Talk to him and tell him how lonely you are and how much you need him around if it doesn't work then go ahead and have the affair (what the hell he might deserve it) but be prepared for anything and don't get your hopes up with your friend 'cause he might hurt your feelings...Good luck!!!
745508
follow your heart but communcate that with your husband...and for god sake stop worrying about this stuff and consummate the marriage..its been long enough and im sure hes irritated.
1154687
its okay, but i could see why your husband would be uncomfortable or think it was shady.  as long as your husband is cool with it and you don't feel any attraction to the guy, i think it is fine, but if your husband doesn't like it...you should really ask yourself, what's more important...maintaining a friendship with this guy, or keeping my marriage as calm, peaceful, and happy as possible?
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anything that you do on this earth whether good or bad people will talk so why worry abt them. stop worry if only your husband knows him and is wife is ok with you around her husband then please stop listening to what people say. and one thing, don't try to explain any thing to any of those people for they will have more to say. stay as if you never heared any thing and don't see your friend. good luck
60472
I think it is possible to have friends of opposite sex, but what concernes me about your story is that he  is not open with you about this friendship. He should have no problem with you being present during his conversations with her. Another thing is after you get married, friends fade away a little and your spouse becomes a focus of your life, so it is unnatural to spend that much time even with your closest friend. If you have concerns about her, tell him about it, and if I was in this situation, I would insist that he only talks to her when I am around at least for a while so you could see for yourself that there is nothing more to the story. If she is just a friend as he claims she is, he won't have a problem with you being around while he is talking to her. But make sure you keep track of all the conversations you are aware of and see if those are the only ones that appear on the phone bill, but do it without him knowing that you are keeping track for two reasons: you won't come across as insecure and controlling and if he is doing something wrong it will be easier to catch him. I hope I'm making sense. Try not to accuse him of anything right away, just tell him that his relationship with that woman makes you unconfortable and you want to work out a situation that will work for both of you.
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Have your friend make plans to go out and to tell the husband all about it; if he wants to come along, he will.  Otherwise, he can sit at home and wait for her while she goes on living her life.  I'm not saying for her to do anything wrong, just continue living and if he wants to be part of her life, he will come along with her.  That's how I did it!!!
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Just stay out of it.  It is none of your business, let the friend take care of it.   The husband either knows about it or will find out about it in time.   Time always has a way of working things out, trust me on this one.\n\nIf you have ever heard of the statement "don't shoot the messenger"  there is a reason for it.  You bring bad news to someone, guess what happens......
834122
Cut ties with his friend, and spend more time with his wife. (cut all temptation, don't want to have a "slip-up".)
515552
I would not be nice to these men anymore.. if they dont respect your marriage they do not respect you. Tell them to F oof and leave you alone. Heidi
570506
Before examining your wife, lets take a look at this dude.  If he was a friend of hers, he wouldnt be making underhanded comments about you, doing things behind your back, etc.  If he was a friend of hers, he would want to be friends with you as well.  I mean, he is a dude.  He knows it is shady to do things behind your back.  Plus, he is putting your wife, his supposed friend, in a compromising position.\n\nNext issue, it is 100% your wife's responsibility to do the right thing.  You probably have a hot wife so you cant blame dudes for wanting her, but you can hold her accountable for doing the right or wrong thing.  She is the one that is married.\n\nSomeone else said this and it is absolutely correct, approach your wife with your feelings in a nonthreatening or emotional manner.  You gotta tell her how you feel and let her know that dismissing your feelings as jelous or irrational is not acceptable.  If this guy is truely a friend, he would hang out with both of you.  Tell her that you trust her and thinks its positive to have lots of friends of both genders, but texting, meeting behind your back, etc. is not something that wives and random dudes do if they are on the up and up.  If they are such great friends, he should come over to your crib to eat steaks and have beers with both of you.\n\nDont accept her acting shady.  You know as well as I do what is going on if she is shady.  Also, don't bite your tongue and be permissive because others tell you too.  You know in your gut if you are right or wrong.
170993
I have a friend who's husband talks incessantly. People have asked him to stop, but he can't seem to. He doesn't seem to have a clue. He really gets on my nerves.
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Well, I think there are lots of reasons I would talk with my friends at work rather than my hubby. I've been married for almost 13 years and sometimes we need someone else to talk to, someone outside the relationship that can take an objective look at things. That being said, I wouldn't hang out with the "guys" for hours at a time after work out of respect for my husband, I wouldn't like it if he hung out with the "ladies" and didn't come home. However, it does boil down to trust.\n\nIf I felt I couldn't talk with my hubby I would want someone to listen to me and validate my feelings. You said yourself she quit talking to you because she feels you don't want to hear about her day, maybe she feels like you don't care or hear her.\n\nYou said your relationship was good before she started hanging out and talking with the guys, but are you sure she thought everything was fine? Unless you talk about your feelings with one another you have no idea if you are on the same page or not.\n\nI'm not a counselor or anything like that, but it sounds like there may be a lot more going on in your relationship than her just discussing stuff with co-workers. It sounds like you have some pent up resentment or frustration over the fact that you have so much on your plate with the kids, errands, house, etc. I think you two should set down and have a long heart-to-heart, lay everything out on the table so you can move past this.\n\nGood luck!