My colleague told me she wanted to go out on a date. I am married and not interested. How do I tell her nicely
357698
I am engaged and I have just smiled and said "That's very flattering, but no, I'm married" Pretty easy and to the point.
253322
There's no rule that says you can't go out as friends.  Funny, I was good friends with my husband before I found out he liked me and we started dating.  It was much easier because I could be myself around him, so he knew the "real" me.  But DO NOT plan a "romantic"-type date if you do not feel that way about her.  Don't string her along.  Do something buddies would do.  Who knows?  Maybe after you get to know her as a friend, you might want more.  Good Luck!  ;)
288130
That depends on how bad the first date impression was.\n\nIf she thinks there absolutely no chemistry, no hope, no nothing, pretty much nothing you do will work.\n\nOtherwise, if it was just a blah date, then tell her that you would like to take her out again since you realize the first one wasn't how you wanted it to go.\n\nThen try again.
1135212
For most people, going out is a way to become acquainted. You meet, you share a meal or movie or other amusement, and see if there's compatibility to explore. Of course, there's gonna be some people who view going out as an invitation to the bedroom. It's always a good idea to just express what you expect and want from your date. When you get to your doorstep, tell your date you had a nice time and head inside if you don't want anything further to happen. If you'd like to go out again, that's a good time to say, "This was fun! Would you like to go out again next Monday?" If you want it to become more intimate, invite your date inside for a drink and conversation. After 2-3 dates, you can open the discussion about something more serious. When you both agree that you are BF/GF, then it's official, but that can't happen without conversation. Don't assume. Discuss your relationship.\n\nBest wishes,\n~Tia~
41208
I would give it at least a week, unless you feel that person is attracted to you as well. The longer you wait, the more receptive they may be and say yes. Also, the first time (or 2), make it a friendly date...try asking what she thinks of certain movies that just came out in theaters and if she says she wants to see it, tell her that you wanted to see it too and be like "hey, we should totally go see that! Wanna go this weekend?" Or ask her opinion about resturants or new drinks...you get the point. Just make it seem like it is not a "date", but just hanging out. After doing that a couple times actually say do you want to go on a date? At least by that time she will have gotten to know you and will not have felt that she needed to act a certain way or be uncomfortable because it is a date :D GOOD LUCK!!!
1085454
I had this girl come up to me and say that we should hang out sometime. I knew that she would go out if I asked her and she had not asked me out so she had nothing to lose. \nShe scored a date and we ended up going out for a little while. \nOpen the door doing something like that without putting yourself all the way out on the line.
151068
maybe you should ask her out on a date, but only as friends. go somewhere she would like to go. maybe the mall or a roller skating place, something like that. if she says "no, i don't want to go out with you, sorry", that's okay, just act cool and try to get over it. if she says yes, just keep being friends unless she makes the first move or she talks to you about being boyfriend/girlfriend.
840541
Well you are on the right track you just need to think of it a little more. Dinner yes seems like a date, but how about lunch, lunch is a nice casual thing that friends do, and if you pick the right place it will just seem like you are just hanging out, dont go to a fancy place but dont go to a fast food place. ASnd it all depends on if you are driving, Dont pick her up, cause that is kinda datish, and if you dont drive find a place you might be able to walk to etc. And movies are the same thing go in the day time not in the night time, and it would look as much like a date
158802
Walk up to her, open mouth and ask her out for something casual. If she says no then its her loss and time for you to find someone worthy of what you have to offer.
646734
Start off by letting her know that you aren't looking to be tied down.  That you want a casual relationship for now.
877934
Find out what time she gets off work.\nIntroduce yourself properly.\nWait a couple of days.\nShow up at the end of her shift and \ninvite her out to a late snack.\nNot sometime, that keeps you waiting,\nand wondering. Ask right then.\nIf she can't go then, ask right away for\na date on Saturday.\nThis tells her you are serious,\nand that you really like her.\nThen you will get your answer right away.
59571
Rock and a hard spot there aren't you? So you have a crush and a friendship and a co-worker all wrapped up into one.  How much have you actually learned about her? Other than what movies and food she likes?\nWhen you are having dinner is it general conversation that you could talk to your buddy about? Or does it go into what simular interest and goals you have? How sure are you of the hints she gives, or is she just a very caring individual who think of you like a brother who gets where she is coming from, enjoys doting on as the maintaing friendships side and meanwhile enjoys the attention you are giving her.  \n\nThe last thing you want to be to her is someone she needs to "save" from your own situations to make you comfortable, it sounds like you are a "fun non judgmental release" for her to ease her "very busy life" as you say. \n\nYou need to test it without being a set up? Resolve that SHE IS YOUR FRIEND and she wants you to be happy, so begin seeking out other people and give yourself room to breathe before you end up in a panic attack. Ask her advice about dating, and see what kind of responses you get, at least then you will know what her rules are for being on a date date or just being out with a friend.
743374
Ask her out on a date.  If she says not right now or we could hang as friends she's not interested in being anything more than friends with you.  If she accepts she's interested.  Sometimes women flirt with men they just want to be friends with just to get attention.
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I think asking her out to lunch is a fantastic idea! I would advise against breakfast however since she runs night shift. (Most N.S. workers sleep till 10am-1pm. and it is not advised to wake up someone if you want a yes)\nI think a couple of 1hr+ lunches spaced out over 2-3 weeks is enough to begin developing a friendly relationship between you two.
948530
give her a coupla weeks since she knows you're interested...then ask her out on a date and make sure to emphasize that its just a date, nothing more nothing less...just to get out and have some fun.
353999
Try sending her an invitation to take her out to dinner. But do it by sending her a nice card, through the postoffice, you know stamp and whole but. This will get her attention. The number that she may reply to, or have and RSVP card so she can send it back to you. Make it a nice place so she gets the idea it is a date not just an outing with a friend. Hope this helps.
91802
Just be honest.  Tell her you like her and youre interested in taking her out.