how long should you be in a relationship before you start to have sex?
357642
Yeah yeah everyone says married and very few of them were married when they first did it. Go with your heart and brain dear. Its different for every couple. The best time is when you are both comfortable with yourselves and each other on an adult level.
538279
Intimacy is important, sex is not.  As long as your relationship is loving, caring and affectionate, you will be fine.  Think about older people who are not physically capable of having sex.  Do you think they love each other any less?
473452
If you've waited until your 30's to have sex, then yes, I'd say to wait until marriage.\n\nI didn't lose my virginity until 31, and I have a few regrets.  I waited until I found a woman I loved and had the intention of marrying.  She had a few partners before she met me, and got scared at the level of commitment I was asking for.  That meant I lost my virginity to a woman who left me -- and then started sleeping with someone else not even a week later.\n\nEven though I've only been with one woman now, I want to wait until I get married.  I realize I can always have sex with anyone, but I want to wait until I can make love to someone.  I find I can't be incredibly passionate unless I know the person I'm with can truly appreciate the intensity of those emotions.
1176824
Personally I think you should have sex before marriage and live with the person. Marriage is forever you need to know if you can stand that person and their ways, all their ways. Now my religion says another but I listen to my instinct first.
97644
I am 24, and a virgin.  I told my bf early on in the relationship.  I think the longer you wait to tell him, the harder it will be.  If you are waiting to have sex, it's definitly important to tell him.  He will know not to pressure you.  If you just haven't had sex yet and are willing, tell him that too.  Either way, it is best to just tell him.  It can be scary, but if he's a great guy, he won't care.
286051
The question is are you ready to date? You will know when it is time to start dating again. I would still suggest at least three months by yourself first. Get to know yourself again.
660520
depends how long you have been dating, how old, is there lots of sex, etc.  \nIf out of high school more often, if dating for awhile more often.  2-4 for first couple months 5-7 after a few months
86893
dating probably 16...sex 20s...seriously wait for sex or you'll probably get pregnant and a life long disease... also learn to SPELL...when you can SPELL CORRECTLY THEN YOU CAN HAVE SEX...
883104
IT WOULD TAKE AT LEAST SIX MONTHS FOR ME.  I LIKE TO MAKE SURE THAT THE PERSON I SLEEP WITH IS GOING TO BE WORTH IT.  \n\nI TAKE PHYSICAL INTIMACY VERY SERIOUSLY, AND I AM VERY CAUTIOUS ABOUT THE KIND OF MEN I GET INVOLVED WITH.
185620
It would be best to wait until you are married.  Then you will have that perfect connection with the man you love and who loves you.  The man who truly loves you would be willing to wait.  Also a man's feelings develop deeper before having sex.  So waiting until you are married gives the man time to develop stronger feelings for you.  Finally, you want to have a spouse who you can do more than have sex with, so waiting until you are married will be a good way to make sure that you and your spouse connect in more than the physical.
1019357
How long have you been dating first off? Is just starting 4 months? or is it more like 2 weeks because normally before I even kiss the girl I wait at least till the 3rd date, or 4th.
1186946
If you've been together for 5 months, it hardly qualifies as a one-night stand.  If you're ready to have a sexual relationship with him, just be sure you've thought about all the possible consequences, such as pregnancy or STDs, and make sure you're protected.  You don't mention your age... and you haven't mentioned whether this will be your first time.  If it is, you should really think about whether you're ready to take that step.  Only you can decide, and don't let him pressure you into it if you decide you're not ready.
995912
yes you are to young and you should wait until you get married , how well do you know him or her ? do you plan to stay to gther after high school or have a future or are u just having sex for the heck of it if you love each other then sex can wait and make sure you want to be togther and can love and trust each other .
792727
I suggest a 12hr sex session... or 24hr, even better! You guys should be gagging for it if you've been apart for the past 6 weeks.\nMy 19yr old flatmate got a dr who figure and a haircut for her man for their aniversary this weekend. \nI think you really have to work this one out for yerself tho, you should know him really well by now, probably better than anyone, and you'll be able to find something i'm sure. \n\nI'd still go with the sex tho!
475535
You cannot define that in terms of time, there is a minimum amount of time that you should wait before considering it a relationship, 3 dates and by that I mean at least a 4 hour period of time with each other each date, but just because you do the minimum, does not make it a relationship, it just means you took the chance to develop the foundation for one.  Some couples know each other for years before developing a relationship, to confine it to time is a mistake.  I advise against making the mistake of believing in love at first sight.  I term that lust at first sight, ya it can work, but most of the time and I am talking about 98% type most of the time, it does not.  Make each other jump through the hoops that you normally would, no matter how much the first attraction is and define the time that the relationship starts after the 3 dates and when there is a mutual attraction.\n\nJohn B.
277483
no no no. you SHOULD be a virgin at the age of 17. i'm 16 and i'm still a virgin, planning on saving myself for until after i get married. sex is a symbol of love between a husband and a wife. it's not something you give to just anyone. be proud of such a thing and try to keep it until AFTER you're married. i think that when you do finally get with that right person, it'll make it much more of a special moment than if you do it before.
1171433
You should have sex, when you are ready and when you are in love. The age doesn't matter at all/ There's a big difference between having sex and making love. Do it when you know it's love and not lust.