my husband and i argue about this!?
364256
I'm a cop. I never wear my badge without my vest. I sweat all day in Texas but it's a necessary evil.
331191
arguments are arguments. I've had many in my 6 years. The bigger person (stronger) needs to step up and patch things up...FAST! the last thing you want is a argument to carry on for too long. That will cause a ripple effect and cause serious damage to a relationship. After things are patched up be sure to 'talk' about it, that way that situation can be avoided. As long as the argument is not about cheating than you and him will be A-OK!!
569515
Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
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the odds are against you.\n\nbut if you can each find respect for your partner's opinion, and realize that this is one of those questions that no one knows the answer with 100% certainty until they die, then maybe you can just agree to disagree.\n\nrespectful communication is the key.
315527
wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
682150
I think a husband should be open and honest with his wife.  If he disagrees with something, he should say so.  It doesn't make for a healthy relationship if you bottle it all up and pretend to go along with things all the time.  She needs to know you have thoughts and feelings too, and she needs to be prepared to face them.  It doesn't have to be a blazing row, either.  Civil discussions can be had...
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i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
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Problem #1 - You argued so much about buying a home that you stopped talking about it.  This tells me you should not be buying a home together and perhaps shouldn't even be married unless you plan to get into some heavy-duty counseling.\n\nProblem #2 - You told him to go ahead and buy the house he likes.  That was childish because you did not mean it.  Never say something you do not mean.\n\nProblem #3 - He did it.  That was even more childish.  He should never have made such a decision without you, no matter how upset you were when you told him to do it.  Suppose you'd told him to "Go ahead and have an affair....?"\n\nProblem #4 - The house is in his name.  Of course it is.  He couldn't have put your name on the house without you signing anything.  Of course this means the mortgage is also in his name... and actually since the home was purchased during the course of your marriage, if you move into it, it's marital property considered to be the primary residence where you will cohabit, so you could divorce him and get half of that house in settlement no matter whose name it's in in most states so maybe that's not a problem.  If he dies, it should go to you, but I'd check that out too.\n\nProblem #5 - The biggest problem... is that this is no way for a married couple to behave.  This was a controlling and obnoxious thing for him to do and it sounds to me like you're married to a total jerk (no offense intended) and I rather doubt this is the ONLY controlling thing he's ever done.\n\nYou can always tell him "I said buy the house you like.  I never said I would live there with you" and leave.  Or, if you jointly own a house now, you can refuse to sign off on the sale of that home so he probably won't be ABLE to purchase this one and you'll still have the home in which you currently reside.\n\nIf you currently rent or whatever, then that won't work obviously... but I think you just need to seriously re-evaluate your selection of a mate or at minimum the way you interact together.  Sorry    :(
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good Lord Amberlynn!  you sound just like one of the yokels that appears on Judge Judy!  you and your husband BOTH need to grow up and start at least acting like adults!\n\npuhleeze!
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I don't think that means he doesn't believe you, but you're definitely right that he is avoiding controversy.  Unfortunately, with a teenager in the house, there will be plenty of controversy, and you will have your share of arguments.  It's normal for a teenager to start to question his/her parents' authority and way of doing things, but this is also the stage when you and your husband need to show a "united front" whenever issues are raised with your teenager.  You won't be sending him the right message if the two of you don't agree on the message you're sending him, and if only one of you is sending the message and the other one is avoiding it, then you two are not sending the same message.  I think you should sit down with your husband, start by saying you are very concerned about this... and tell him why you would like him to get more involved for the sake of your son.
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In my home, we use reason and not gender to settle differences.  We also use religion.  It's not about male/female being right because that isn't a marriage.  What makes a marriage is communication, honesty, openness, and trust.  If these things are missing, you end up in a constant cycle of arguing.  Personally, I don't like it.  Oh, and most of the time, I am found to be right after proving him wrong with undeniable facts.
902504
Hi been there and it is horrid dont argue with your hubby about her as she obviously wants to destroy the marriage and using a child is low Play her at her own game and stop trying to be super woman her hubby doesnt want to lose his son and she knows it why not go and have some you time when he sees his son for an hour she will panic my hubbys ex made my life hell for years but she didnt win and you are a winner as you have him and she dont smile sweetly with perfect makeup and be civilised it works
417098
Heck no...Don't let some Lawyer or Your Husbands Lawyer tweak with anything..Specially when it comes to your kids..You are your childrens protectors and from what I'm reading you wouldn't still be fighting with Lawyers and your husband if it weren't for your kids..So stand up and get what you think is fair..Anyways you are the one who is paying for this Lawyer so he should do exactly what you want...Thanks your Friend....
807034
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
715749
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
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Oh Jeeze...This is an obvious mis-communication in languages from man-speak to woman-speak.  You said,"What's wrong?" and he said "Nothing," but you already had it in your mind that there was something wrong, so you persisted.  YOU ARE NAGGING HIM.  Now he has something wrong - you.  Leave him alone, and let him have his space.  He'll call you later (it's been less than 1 day - you'll be fine).  Sorry to sound so rude, but I've had this too many times.  I would end up argueing because nothing is wrong, and I have to think of something to be wrong when she insists on an answer, when I'm really just tired/moody/blah.