What to say when someone say a bad thing about you to your husband?
375642
There is NO problem. The ONLY problem there would be is if you and your hubby had the problem.As long as you both are fine with it then all is well. It's your guy's life not there's. I'm 31 and my hubby is 38 and we make an awsome couple. As long as you both are cool with it then it's NO ONE Else's business...
954650
you should do your husband, the man you pledged your love and life and faithfulness to, a favor and let him go and get on with his life because you're really disrespecting him.
388104
well, sorry to tell you this but it's all depends on your partner..but here's what yOu can do. First of all never starts anything with lies. no matter how hard it seems, no matter how bad they'll hate you after, dont lie. say anything you want to say, say everything you have to say, and never try to make things better with saying, "it's not you, it's just me..." and other self-blame-cliche-excuses...and let them know that you still want to have a good relationship with them cuz no matter what they still a part of you right? but then again, you have to respect their decision if they refuse you at first cuz it's really tough to accept the fact that you cannot be with someone that you really care...am i making a point? dont think bout it too much..time heals..
184090
Be gracious, and of course, it is always respectful to respond with "Yes/No Ma'am/Sir." Above all, be sure not to forget or ignore your husband in trying to tend to them, that wouldn't be very good. Be yourself, even if you are nervous, maintain eye contact when you are talking with them. Smile often, and be sure to thank them for bringing such a wonderful person into the world and rearing him as well as they did. If you think it is appropriate, you could say something like, "I have been so excited yet sort of nervous about meeting you both, even though (husband's name) told me there was no need to be nervous." I think you'll have to make that call on what the atmosphere is like. They already know at this point in life that you will be feeling somewhat nervous, at least it shows you are up-front and honest. You all already have something in common, you all love your husband...But anyway, be yourself, treat them as you would anyone else you appreciate and respect, they did raise your husband, after all:)\n\nI'm sorry--I missed the extra details that you added at the bottom. Well, the above all still applies; the fact that so much time has passed will naturally feel a little weird for everyone involved at first anyway, but "better late than never." I believe that it is a person's heart and character that matter, not race. Hold your head up high and maintain grace of character, regardless of if they have issues or whatever:)
308103
Just stop and think of all the good things your husband has done and the reasoning behind you marrying him! Change the subject every time you find your self getting ready to nag! I nag alot too but I just have to stop and think can I do anything about the situation, then I try and do it! As long as you know you are doing it at least this is the first step into getting better, You can do it just slow down and think before you speak! Also know there's a time to be quiet and a time to speak out loud! Certain things that really get you mad just talk to him about them and see if he can help you with any of them, others just try and do whatever it is your self! Good Luck and God Bless!
472699
First off... If you don't know what you did wrong, you didn't do anything wrong. Their problem is simple immaturity, possibly due to their own (unadmitted) crushes on him? \n\nSecondly, there really isn't anything you can do to make them stop talking about you. You can minimize the damage by NOT talking badly about them, in return. If someone mentions to you something they say, just respond with "Yeah. I don't get why they are saying those things, but that is their problem." This keeps you from appearing defensive and/or vindictive.
485268
I think it would be rude if you are with adults.  I know your wife means well but I guess it depends on how your wife does it.  I teach students that speak English as a Second Language.  A strategy that we are taught is to not come out and say, that's not how you say it.  What we are supposed to do, since they make many grammar mistakes is to repeat what they have said in the correct way.  For example, if a student says I runned to school this morning, I am supposed to repeat with something like: Oh really, you RAN all the way here? Who ran with you?\nThe kids don't feel bad when they've made the mistake.
751625
You can try to address it jokingly, at least once, with him to see if he gets the hint.  Say something like, "Dude!  Need my personal space please!" (and gesture the amount of personal space you would like) or "Quit trying to wrestle with me!" or "Hey, don't mess the 'do!"  Or have your husband jokingly step in and pull you away and put his arm around you, saying "Hey, this one's mine, yours is over there!"\n\nIf he doesn't take the hint, you can try approaching him discreetly and privately, and telling him that while you enjoy his company, the physical rough-housing isn't as much fun for you, he doesn't know his own strength, you prefer a little more personal space, etc.  Or you can go to  your friend and ask her to talk with him.  Be sure to stress that it's nothing personal or negative against him, it's just not your thing.
104040
respect the person you love. listen to them and respect their view on issues you discuss,even if you don't agree. Don't talk mean to them or treat them bad. do special things for them that you know they like. ask them how their day went. Make them a special dinner or dessert. Help them work to make your home a place that you both are proud of. respect their family even if you don't like them. one of the worst things to do is talk bad about your mates family, it will eventually come back to haunt you. show them love and compassion. a hug,loving touch or kiss. take the time every day to show them in any way that you care through bad and good times. these are the things i do because i know that i have a wonderful man and thank god everyday for him.
93567
the phrase "actions speak louder than words" comes to mind, I was once told that sometimes your own family can be your worst enemy, their are some mistakes that you will make in life that will be so bad that you can't fix them, all you can do is make amends, set things right as best you can and muddle your way on through, and that's life!!
1182431
wife to husband: did you miss me?\nhis reply: with every bullet so far\n\nman to ex-wife:  god don't like ugly\nher response:  he must hate you then
196790
When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
50132
Of course you should feel free to express your opinion, but, remember they are the mom and dad of your spouse.\n\nDon't act hatefully towards them.  Accept a level of responsibility that is equal to the task out of love for your spouse.  Just do it.  Get it over with.  Then move on.
199802
Was your husband serious? Either way, this is a major issue. If it was a joke it was in serious bad taste and you need to tell him that. If he was serious, you need to tell him that you're not chattle! If it was a test, tell him to go to hell! If you want to save this marriage, I recomend counceling and getting to the bottom of this. If not, say good bye.
804266
well you best talk to your spouse and let the in laws hang because they are on the outside and the important one at this point is the one your with. but explain what happen and that you meant no harm.
510937
They do that because they know you will cry. So you have to turn the tables on them. Gird up the woman power and tell\nthem to back off. Put some sterness in your voice. Don't\nback down. You see they think you are weak and a wimp. But \nyou can prove them wrong. When your husband does that just\nlaugh it off, make a joke about it, or ignore it. As for the\nson he is out of line and he need to stay in a child's place. You need to take his prize possession from him. Ground him until he learns to respect you and obey you. You have got to take a stand and let them know you are not going to put up with their crap no more. That is your house too and you need to take control. Let them see the ugly side of you. That'll scare them.
296459
Sometimes, I have to tell my husband about the things I am doing for him (or not doing to him).  Sometimes he has to do the same for me.  \n\nI know, in an ideal world that if you do the right thing, everything else will just fall into place, but that has not been my experience.  We are human, and as such, we are sometimes completely self-absorbed. When we are in such a state, we will never see the kind actions of our spouse, no matter how wonderful they are.\n\nGently point out to your husband the things that you do out of love.  My husband and I reached a turning point in our marriage when I finally stood up and said "I AM a good wife, and here is why..."  It made him look at me in a completely different way.  He began to see things he had overlooked before, and consequently, began to appreciate me more.