How can I solve my shy problem with women?
364017
The fear of rejection is tough.....but how will you ever know if you dont try....she might be thinking the same things and if you dont take a chance you will never know. Which would be better......to never know? or to try and find out that she is totally crazy for you? Even if she isnt im sure you could still be friends........but i say that it doesnt hurt to try, just get brave! Good Luck!
823905
It's not so much what you say, but how you say something. You could say any number of things to break the ice and be successful in your pursuits, but this is highly dependent on your mindset. Keep in mind that women (even the pretty ones) are not perfect or without their own insecurities. Most women are worried about the same things you are--their looks, attitude, and appearing confident to the opposite gender. Once you realize that the woman is probably as nervous as you, then it should become apparent that you both have something in common already. All that's left to do is ask how they feel, what they like, what do they think about, and so on in an attempt to learn what else you both might have in common. The object isn't to persuade this woman to be a date or something similar, rather it is your goal to see if their is enough common ground for you and her to be friends. If you cannot be friends, than she'll probably won't make for much of a date or love interest.
853600
I do not think this will be to much of a problem it appears you are shy and may have a fear of rejection until you overcome those fears it may be you asking this question ten years from now.  Start talking you are the only one that can help yourself get out of this situation.  Heres a good tip go out with some guy friends \nif you see a girl you would like to meet and are scared see if one of your friends would break the ice for you like saying hi my friend would like to meet you it could be that easy.
169920
I understand if you say you get nervous. But if you think you are shy, you aren't ready to propose her. You should be more comfortable talking to her whatever you want.
749262
Just try to be yourself. Ask her out sometime and do not be shy about that, it's so natural. I mean, if you want someone open the door to you, you at least(!), have to knack in it...\nHow more simple can it be?
341965
i use to be shy just liek you. but get comfortable. it depends what kind of a gurl she is. if she is one of them flirts then you have to take control...if it is one of them shy gurls u gotta go say wassup and do ur thing. evreyone has thier on type of game but you just gotta do what is in ur heart.
501402
You don't have to call yourself pathetic. It's ok to be nervous when talking to the opposite sex. I used to get nervous talking to guys when I was younger, but somehow I learned to manage and now I have a boyfriend. I'm still a shy person and I guess that's part of my personality. I guess you have to give it some time. Think before you talk. What is it that makes you stammer? Think of interesting topics to talk about with girls. If it helps,write some of the stuff down that you think you'd discuss with a girl. Then rehearse it so it'll prepare you for next time. I know it may sound stupid but you can give it a try and no one has to know. The key is making yourself comfortable when talking to girls and talk to them like you casually talk to your friends. Once you get the hang of it, I'm sure you won't feel nervous anymore. It's just a phase and it'll go away with time. Don't worry, just relax. Good luck!
557816
Hmmmm... I think that you might want to seek professional help with this problem.  See the thing is confidence isn't something that you can teach.  A professional might be able to help you unwrap why you are not confident to begin with, but I am not sure anybody is going to have a magic pill for you.  Well here goes something.  Dude, the key to sexual prosperity, is rejection.  I know that sounds dumb but listen, every time your faced with an attractive woman, you get tense and lock up why? because you're afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser right?  Well just decide not to feel that way (easier said than done but it doesn't have to be hard).  Try this exercise, go to a bar, and identify 5 women that you are attracted to, and go and introduce yourself, i promise at least 1 will want to at least TALK to you, and then when you feel a bit more confident with talking you can start romancing.  See love, and dating and courtship is a numbers game, and every time you hear a no that is one less you have to hear till you INEVITABLY get a yes.  There are like a billion people in India right? 500,000,000 women, trust me at least 100,000 will want to talk to you or go out on a date with you.  So never take anything a woman says personally, and welcome rejection, as one less hurdle to your inevitable GUARANTEED success, and you may find that you can talk to women after-all.  Good luck bro, and I hope this helps.  I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works.
177956
Well you're shy, so then the confidence thing will only work if you're slightly cocky.  So we'll ignore that approach.\n\nYou're best bet is to find something in common with the girl you're interested in.  If you can't strike up a conversation with somebody, it's not going to happen, YOU GOT to be able to casually strike up a conversation.  If it's someone you 'sorta' know, be able to say hello & find something that relates to her & you.  If not, then say something random that you like & see if she responds (NO PICK UP LINES!!!)  It really doesn't matter what you say, just the fact you said it.  \n\nNow from there you can ask for casual dates, if you are not comfortable asking for 'dinner' or 'going back to my place'  You need to be able to find out what she is interested in & then find something that would interest her in doing it with you.  If you're talking about movies, find a great movie nearby & ask if she wants to go.  If she like coffee, go for coffee, if she likes plays, find something like a play.  IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE AWKWARD!  All you need to say is 'Hey you like ______?  Me too!  They're showing ____ at the ______ on _____!  Would you like to go?'  If she says no, than move on.  If she says sure, casually ask for her number so you can 'coordinate' it & give her one phone call so she knows it's all arranged & off you go. \n\n* Important at the end of whatever you're doing don't just go straight home, find something else that can detain her for awhile, so you can talk about whatever you chose to do.  This'll show your interest & then you can plan (Or run away) for what happens next*
196216
Like attracts like, maybe the problem starts with you.  Take a deeper look at yourself first and see if there is something about your personality and or approach is attracting these type of women.
770580
Do some self assertion classes, they really help you cope with shyness...;\n\nSteer clear of the alcohol suggestion, you could end up with more problems than just shyness!!!
561526
your just shy, what you can do is try to say some nice things to a women that you might have a crush on, you can tell her that she has a pretty smile, pretty hair, tell her that she looks nice with what she is wearing. if you can't say what you want to say in words to this special someone you can try writing it on paper, or you can call her if you have her number or you maybe can email her if you have her address. hopefully this will be some help, good luck in whatever you try.
460914
Its hard to get confidence enough to girls.  Take it in small steps. \nFirst find something about yourself that you like and are proud of.  You don't need anyone to know about your achievements and they probably don't care, but they aren't good at what you are good at and that makes you unique different in your own right.  Knowing that in the back of your head can give you the pride and confidence you seek in yourself.  When you can see that in yourself others will and those others will be girls.  \nWhy would someone want something when it’s thrown at them. Value comes when there ain't enough to go around. So let them take interest in you for you, instead of you trying to convince them that your worth it let them see it before you give them the chance. That’s a rookie mistake.\nNext up, start with a "Hi". Say "Hi" when appropriate to one girl you know each day. Start with ones you know then get used to making eye contact with and saying "Hi" to girls your don't talk to. Don’t go stalker there. Just a normal “Hi”\nThis will help you get used to talking with women.  The next up is talking to women.  The best is to talk to women your not into, just as people.  Then work your way up to women who are decent and finally to women who seem out of your league for now.  A good starter is “Hey do you know what the time is?” (Don’t be wearing a watch or have a phone on you.\nOnce your talking with women they will see you as a decent guy and not a serial killer.  By the way have guy friends. Other wise you might end up a yip dog boy. The guy friend to all the girls that doesn’t get laid and isn’t gay.\nThe next step is showing interest and asking them out for coffee. Start slow and keep moving. Soon you will be gaining the confidence that will enable you to have the "Game" you desire.\nOnce date around have some experience under your belt, you will be strait pimping.  Then it’s to the next level of women.  The right girls for now girls.  Then to the last level the right girl.\n\nIt all starts and ends with you.  Remember it’s all about you, until you meet a cool chick that you dig a lot and then guess what. It's all about you.  When she starts being not worth the time and doing you wrong.  You are back on the scene.  Master the game my friend, it will pay off.
378233
Just be casual. order something and try to have a light sense of humor while trying to make conversation. go easy at first..keep going in to order stuff and keep making conversation. girls like shy and sense of humor but be shy about it..u know..look cute..she will get the hint eventually..after u feel comfotable ask to have lunch or a cup of coffee w/ you....hey, let me know if it works..just remember don't be caulky like "i'm all that" girls hate that but don't be to shy either..be cute,sexy shy..
997351
Make female friends.  Don't be pushy or needy or seem desperate.  I have found that all women are somewhat insecure and respond positively to indifference.  Go with the numbers.  Be a guy that a woman can feel comfortable around without being constantly dogged.  Spend a lot of time listening to them and not talk about yourself.\n\nHere are a couple of tips.....  Eye contact.  Make eye contact and hold it briefly (longer than a glance but shorter than a stare).  If her eyes hold on yours she is probably interested.  If she instantly looks away move on, she's not interested......  If  a woman knows you have noticed her and she begins to primp or play with her hair it's a good opportunity to strike up a conversation.  Again, don't be overwelming or seem desperate and don't try to move on her the first time.  Introduce yourself, be interesting, then move on with indifference.  The next time you run across her she will feel more comfortable in your presence.  I always try to find common ground, build on that, and leave her with something to think about.  I will get them interested and then leave them hanging.  It's like having to put down a book at an interesting point, you can't wait to get back to it to see where it goes.  Good luck!
61758
First off, most girls do NOT like being referred to as Chicks.Other than that, meeting women involves risk and alot of trial and error. Get out more! Go to where girls/women are likely to be and always ask your friends if they know female friends who would like to meet someone.Saying Hi to a random girl is a good way to start a conversation. Avoid pickup lines, fancy outfits, and bar scenes and just be yourself. Being confident about yourself and curious about other people is very appealing to most women(at least in my experience). Don't see rejection for a date as failure, simply move on and accept advice from your rejector if she gives you any.
68513
First of all you need confidence. If you learn anything, women appreciate confidence. Women appreciate being able to take men anywhere and having the man be able to speak to anyone and carry himself in a high manner. The best thing to do is start off slow. Ask her out to a movie or to coffee or whatever is appropriate. Instead of flat out saying "I like you" give her the opportunity to know your personality before you go blabbing all your feelings. Spend some time alone together and if you still feel the same you should let her know. Just be confident! I have faith in you.