i luv my gurl 2 death but its another woman that is emerging as my new true number 1 how should i choose ?
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all above have told you what you already know  and I agree with most.\n\nto that I add\n\n\n\nIt does not seem like you have any clue what love is.\n \nyou seem to be in lust.\n\nLove is respect honor when you are really in love all others are not seen like that any longer.\n\nSeems you still have not found true love.\n\nI pray you will know it and be loved too.
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Does it really matter to you that your a capricorn and she,s a cancer?I know that it might to you but that should'nt matter.If she's the one for you go with, it if you don't then you will most likely regret it.It would probably mean alot to her if you went to church with her,don't you think?Ibelieve that if you feel right about her in your heart and that you could'nt imagine not being with her then the Lord is guiding you.It does'nt matter what you do for a living,brother,she obviously doesn't feel like it does.I know how you feel though,I never really sought further education out of high school.My wife is a successful business manager and pretty much everything is in her name(house,car,etc.)I tell you now ,true love is real and absolutely does not depend on how much money you make or how many degree's you have.If you love eachother thats all that matters isn't it?Don't stress over this,its a waste of your time together.I never really answered a question like this but for some reason I felt I could help.Good Luck
309173
Pick whoever you like more, pick the one that complimets you the best and will be there for you when you need her. Sounds like miss x needs a boot.
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your mom probably hates "losing you" not your wife. Spend some time with your mom, one on one... let her know she is still the number one girl in your life, but would love if she could accept the number 2 girl. tell her the things you like best about your wife and that she takes good care of you. then be sure to stay in contact with your mom, including that one on one time every once in a while. your mom probably feels replaced
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The number is NOT important, her past is her past. You should be more concerned about her health than her numbers and name calling.  *Note: if you like/ love someone if she had said 1 and been telling the truth that would be to many for you.
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If you truly like or love her:\nBe honest, be yourself, at all costs. Even if it results in her turning away. Because if you like her, then you will want the best for her, which may not be you. If you are truly a better match for her then she will come to you.  \nIf your just attracted to her and don't care what happens after you get her (of course I don't recommend this):\nFind out what she likes, save up alot of money, and try to outdo her current boyfriend. The smarter the woman(it could be a man but..) the harder this will be, at best she will be easily won, showing the weakness of her current relationship, at worst, she may just end up confused. At this point you have the advantage! Why? Because she already knows what she doesn't like about with the guy shes with, but not whats wrong with you. Just find out the bad stuff about the other guy(do this before you buy her stuff), then don't do it, as long as you keep yourself visible she will remain interested and then, wait.
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You should be applauded for your deep sensitivity in caring about the X. AT least write her a letter stating how you feel and letting her know of your current situation - or an E-mail. Just remember it is natural to feel as you do, but it does not have to change things with your current lover/fiance. Remember time cures all . This will fade naturally . Trust yourself and your good intentions with your fiance.It is only one of a billion memories you will have in your life- not a big deal. Go on and live your life happily and lovingly so. Best to you.
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Enjoy the time you have with her and make the next three months unforgettable!  You both need to accept the fact that she is dying and get past this as soon as possible.  Then all you need to do is enjoy each other as much as possible.  Always remember that knowing the situation, puts the two of you in a very unique position.  You don't ever have to say that you wished you would have said or done something when you had the chance.  You have that chance and that chance is now!!! Use it to your full advantage!
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i was in the same situation!!go with your heart.who will make you happier??
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To be honest with you.  It is not about the choice of the two ladies.  It is you.  What you see in both these women is your ideal partner.  You may not be able to make a choice because whichever one you choose will disappoint you a bit. But having a crush on someone for 6yrs is something to cherish.  Do you feel guilty liking the new lady because you are so familiar with your 6yr crush? To make a choice I would be thankful to know what I want in a partner through meeting these 2 ladies and move on and find her.  If I was to be with one of them I will have feelings for the other as you said, they are pretty close friends.  So they both would always be in my life.  And the same 'what if' would be running in my head.\nLove is something you can't explain in words.  It is a overwhelming feeling that will never die.  It is knowing that you would do anything for that person and that you can picture yourself with them till death.  Love is like sharing with someone happiness, pain, experiences.  Love has no judgment.  You can love many people at the same time but you only fall in love one at a time.
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Life seems terrible like that sometimes. I think you should face your fears & confront her. Tell he what you feel now & ask her if she feels the same or if there ever will be a chance of that happening. 1 of 2 things will happen if you do that.. yo might get lucky where she accepts your proposal or you may not be lucky where she will reject you. either way you will have a guaranteed answer without a loose end to haunt you for the rest of your life.\n\nIf you dont confront her, you wont know if there was ever a chance or if she simply didn't want to be with you. In this case you will forever be haunted by the questions beginning with 'what if..'.\nFurther more you would have created that pain all on your own from self-pity & disappointment in self pride as a man.\n\n\n...I've said my say now its time for you to do what you think is best for YOU.\n\nAnd finally.. if you do decide not to confront her & you find yourself losing her in time & space. Your only option will be to force yourself to forget her otherwise the pain will eat at you forever. How do you forget? Change your lifestyle & meet new people & create opportunities for yourself to fall in love with someone new.
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Ask her if she would feel more comfortable having a 3rd GUY there, instead of your fantasy of having another woman.  She just might say yes!
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i think you havent found a true person at heart. if that perso lives you she will not have a problem in how long it took you to be in another relationship so dont go around looking for something you dont want but rather keep looking until that which you want also wants you in return regardless of your circumstances
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If you like them both, flip a coin, let fate decide. If fate decides one guy, and your first reaction was... DANG... I wanted it to be the other guy. Go with your gut.. choose the guy you wanted it to be!
727120
you need to take a deep breath and think about the reasons you care about these two people, then figure out what qualities you are looking for in someone you want to date...sort out your priorities and choose who you care about more..in the end you will make the right decision for yourself good luck =]
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I dont think that you should start a relationship with someone else if you are still in love with #1. You need to end the contact with #1 so you can move on with your life and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. No one deserves to be treated the way #1 treated you. I would try to explain to #2 how your feeling and maybe he can help you get through the feelings for #1. Guy #2 sounds like a very good guy and maybe he can understand what you are going through.
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if i were in that position i would probobly choose the one that i most likely have a connection with and the one who of course has good loooks and  a great personality well those would be the   thoughts in my head..well good luck =)