What should i do with a friend who is backbiting me in my professional life. he is a friend since 20yrs.?
372238
First of all, if a person is doing you harm behind your back , that person is NOT a friend!!\n\nPeople do vicious things to other people for various reasons.\nFind out WHY he is doing this.  Then find a compromise or common ground the both of you can agree on to stop this from happening.  By doing this you can create a win-win situation, which will improve your reputation among your peers, and prevent further damage.
300683
Back him off, keep him at arm's length and force the interaction back to just professional. Otherwise, someone is going to get a broken heart, and it isn't going to be you.
89685
I would tell him that he hurt me whether he was joking or not and if he apologizes, accept it. People say a lot of things they don't mean when they're mad. If he is truly your friend, he'll apologize, if he doesn't then I'd say, "Ya know what? When you decide to apologize, I'll listen, until then, I would rather not be around you."
815374
This is suicidal employment at it`s worst. Nothing worse than having to see an ex every day. Even close friendships at the workplace can backfire as well.
1169959
If he annoys you, the problem is in you. Deal with it. As a former friend, you should at least treat him with civility. Use "politeness" - do not backbite and gossip. Do not attempt to change his life for your convenience. That is not nice, much less "Christian."\nDeal with him as though he were a mildly amusing stranger. Evidently (since you used to be friends) you once found something attractive about his personality.
684473
Just make it clear that your work has nothing to do with your friendship. Work is work, and your friendship should not enter into what you do there.
508093
It's hard to take that step back in a relationship.  If he/she is really your friend, I would tell them you just don't want to do that anymore and see how they react.  If they aren't into it, maybe you have to stop messing around all together.
959200
If you want to keep your friend I'd stay away - at least talk to him about it first!
1053175
Life is too short to dwell on a petty persons actions isn't it? \nYou know the rumors are not true, and so would a friend, so anyone who can be turned against you so easily, sadly wouldn't have been a true friend.\nI am sorry she is being so bothersome, it can really disrupt someones life to have that happen to them, and I hope things settle down soon for you.\nAs you've already said, about her actions not speaking of intelligence, it sounds very true.\nShe may have a lot going on in her life, but it is not fair of her to play such childish games.\nLive your life, and don't give her the satisfaction of letting her know it bothers you, she just wants to get your goat. \nIn fact, just brushing it off completely, and being happy that you are not the one being so impish would even be better!
224477
Gossip is an ugly habit.  Ask him not to do it again.  Give him another chance.  But just one more chance, and if he shows that he'd rather gossip than be your friend, drop him.
411998
That's really "iffy." You have no clue what's going on in their life right now and the reason could be anything! So try to be the best friend you can back. But don't be a door mat. This has to be balanced. If it's the worse possible case scenario and they were BSing the entire time and they really weren't your friend, then don't hng out with them anymore and look for other better people to be friends with. There are more fish in the sea than just this one person. What really matters in the end is how you handle things if you did stuff right. That makes you a much stronger person than said "friend."
435350
Someone that talks bad about you to others is not a friend! forget him and find true friends. Good luck!
784147
When dealing with an envious co-worker, I kill them with kindness, and I'm not talking about lip service. You must be genuine when doing this for it to work. Obviously they have massive insecurities, and perceive you as some kind of threat. I would also suggest keeping ones personal, and professional life mum. In essence, do not give anyone a reason to hold you in contempt. The old saying is true, "keep your friends close, your enemies closer".
153447
There is no guarantee that he won't get mad at you because he is the one who gets to choose how he reacts. I would confront him anyway, because YOU wouldn't be a real friend if you didn't... and if he gets mad, the best thing to do is hope that he matures, realizes what he was doing was wrong, you WERE doing what's right by telling him and he'll get over it... and THANK you!\nI know it's a tough situation to be in, but doing what's right despite the other person's reaction (no matter how much you love and care for them) shows good character and integrity.
225342
It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.
952625
he's obviously NOT a true friend. A real friend would of known this would offend you.
99361
If my friend did like that i will sack him/her.actually a person who hurts ur sentiments is not a friend at all.Then how can u call them as a close friend.