i came from the situation that the family of my b.f dont like me, they treat me as nothing. why this happen?
357977
dont break-up.it sounds ur perfect(or almost) 4 each other.eventually, they will hav to accept u. o, and if ur bf loved u soo much, then how com he doesnt defend u wen his family is rude?
180582
yeah it is me ! n that gives me pain after i notice that people dont treat me as the way i do.\nnevertheless i like myself
460582
I am currently dealing with the same situation. I have found that by giving to much you leave nothing for yourself. People will use you if you allow yourself to be used. My problems are mostly from family. I have come to the realization that if i wouldnt let a stranger treat me poorly why should i allow my family to do the same. Eight months ago i made a list of toxic people in my life and have started the ellimination process. It is very hard, i wont kid you. But, It has to be done. You are already to considerate or you wouldnt have such a question in the first place. Write a list of people that make you feel this way and next to each name write the pros and cons of your relationship with them. Evaluate and treat accordingly. Your life is to precious and short and you deserve better. We as a society have been taught to give but we have never been taught to receive graciuosly. We dont know how to accept compliments. Writing off friends and family is very difficult but you are allowed to feel good any time you want without regret or remorse. Its more exhausting being nice than being honest and straight forward. As with any change you have to do it slowly. You will feel very bad for a time but keep your long term goal in sight and do not share your plan with anyone or they may try to convince you not to write someone off. You have to allow yourslef to be at peace with your decisions. It will be the loss of a friend or family , like a death. You must go through the mourning process. Be good to your soul and it will reward you. Stay focused and you will allow you to reward yourself with a healthy life full of wonderful people. Good luck to you and yours.\n\n\nJoe
247162
I hate double standards...its just not fair.This chick I was with, didnt want me around my family because she thought they were going to hook me up with another female . When it came to her family I never had problem being with her family but she wanted me to cater to her family but cut my family off.Im glad thats over.
137358
They are probably jealous that you are not with him. Just over look him . Nothing really matters except for what you think of your self not what others think.
838247
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
391605
I've had this happen to me, by my friends or family. It's usually because they're jealous or they feel like life isn't doing anything good for them.
390299
Unfortunately, even though it is wrong to reject family members for that reason, it happens alot. But tell them anyways. Don't ever hide who you are! Don't ever feel like who you are is wrong because they do not agree or approve! You never know, they could be cool with it. You can not change who you are and if anyone, family member or not, can not except you, then it is better off that that person is no longer in your life. Good luck!
205040
You are suffering from rejection in my opinion. What did this doctor say was going on? It sounds like you wanted your parents attention and didn't receive it based on what you have written.\n\n Perhaps you had other siblings that demanded their attention, or they just ignored you. I had the same problem. It wasn't until I was 29 years old and got counseling that I understood what I was doing. I went through an exercise in forgiveness and was able to move on in that area of my life. It has never been a problem since.
675658
I can't understand how adults behave this way. That means their minds still immature. Ignore their behavior, enjoy your life. Create your own world and live in peace. Sometimes people who are not of your relatives are more kind and gentle so create good relationships with others. Always help people, one day someone will be there for you.\n\nAt this time don't make their attitude put you down. Whenever you talk to any of them, just show them how happy you are for them that they are independent and have their own jobs, show them how proud you are that you have such sisters, ask them how they are feeling in their new job, and whether they need any help, just be kind to them, one day they will care. Never show that you are feeling bad that you don’t have job. Don't forget to pray for God to help you, he is always there to hear you, and keep on looking for a job and hopefully sooner or later you will get one.\n\nWishing you the best of luck!
962816
Don't ever ignore her, you need to speak with her face to face and tell her you are confused about the way you feel about her. Tell her you need time to sort out how you feel, and for the time being, you need to still remain friends. She should understand, the family thing about them ignoring you maybe you being paranoid, it happens. Be honest with her about everything and things should be fine.
817030
If your friends are abandoning you for her, they aren't really your friends.  I know this doesn't help your situation, or make you feel any better, but it's true.  If they are willing to listen to someone else and make judgements about you, they aren't worth knowing.\n\nStick with your cousins and ride it out.  They may come crawling back, who knows?  Just keep your dignity throughout, and never lower yourself to their level.  Know you are better than any of them.  It'll blow over soon enough, as long as you make out that you really couldn't care less.
1133482
try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
1113769
People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
232602
Boyfriends come,and go,Family is forever!!Sometimes we think we love someone that our family does'nt care about,as a way of rebeling.I dated a guy one time that my family hated,I even excepted when he proposed,I did it just to prove to my family,that they could'nt tell me who to be with.When I finally came to my senses this guy tried to kill me.He told me that if he could'nt have me,noone else was gonna be with me.When my family started acting like they liked him,it was like I woke up to the truth.
661007
You are probably a teenager. You need to find the person who you are. Be strong and communicate better with your family. Tell them you are going to make some changes in your life and if you do something or say something that upsets them or they do not approve of to tell you. Sounds like a major communication problem. \n\nBe strong you will survive this!
1102331
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.