How do i deal with a friend who is gay but i am against it?
361913
if you are a TRUE friend  u would put it behind you..you may be doing something that they are against (i dont mean being straight either)
877675
I'm going thru this right now, the guy is straight; we always talked at work to pass time, but now that I quit my job, he's the only one that calls me to small talk and to make him a cd. He knows Im gay and I know he's straight, but my feelings for him is there, and I dont dare to do anything cuz I will lose him as a friend. He tells jokes at me that Im like his big brother/sister. I showed him a different side of gay people, that not every homosexual is a flamoyantly Fag and respects me, so I remind myself that he's a good friend that asks for my help if he needs it, its rare to turn a straight guy to a gay guy. Since I know he would never read this forum I would like to say, "I love you very much Robert, I'll be there for you." How can I ignore feelings?
540848
Strike up a conversation about someone who is gay and see what their stance is. Then tell them if it isn't too terrible.
812286
If you are really his friend you can mention that you are open minded enough to not care if someone is gay or straight without putting your friend on the spot by asking him if he is gay. If he is in fact gay (and you don't know if he is or isn't) he will tell you when he is comfortable enough to tell you. Just let him know that he can tell you anything and you will stay friends with him because of the person he is, not because of who he likes.
570718
Your friend may or may not be homosexual/bisexual, he could just be curious. To advance on you in your sleep is a bit odd, I must admit. \n\nIf you were not comfortable with the situation, tell him immediately, even going so far to say you do not want to spend the night with him again. Do not attack him for being gay or curious - he made a mistake.\n\nAnother aspect that probably will not be covered, is that this was a private moment for him and your having this against him makes him very vulnerable. Don't blow the friendship completely out of the water by telling anyone who walks by what happened. Just talk to him about it and move on.\n\n~Miss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
27735
I don't know if there's a good answer for that.  He obviously is "in the closet" and I am certainly sympathetic to that.  But I also imagine how hard it must be to have to deal with that kind of pressure.\n\nThe only thing I can come up with that's pretty pointed but not rude is, "When it happens, I promise you'll be the first to know!"  I hope it helps.  And thanks for being such a good friend to him.
996947
i have straight friends that do that. if he just acts gay around your friends, its most likely to make them laugh. you said he doesn't act like that all the time, so he is most likely not gay. but whatever he is, as long as he is a great person then he should be worthy of friendship.
1070865
Get better friends, I don't mean that in a harsh way but if this friend  knows your brother is straight but keeps acting this way towards him it just seems to me that He is Not being a very good Friend at all Gay or Straight
121226
He may be gay. Have you given that any thought?\nOr his life goals could be taking another direction and he may be truly not ready for a relationship,Respect that and dont force the issue.It takes a lot of self control to sacrifice basic drives and instincts for a high&#92;er purpose.If you force the issue and he gives in he may end up resenting that down the line.Stay close tell him you support and respect his determination and see if he will be willing to be your friend at this point and let fate lead .
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
802096
If maces is really your friend and you want to continue being friends with him although he is gay then you should let him know that whatever he does with his personal life is not your business and that you will continue to be his friend.\nIf you don't want him to 'hit on' you in that way, let him know as well.\nIf however, you feel that you cannot under any circumstances continue being friends with Maces then you should part with him amicably and move on!
465131
You may not be gay, but your actions have now opened a can of worms.  If your friend is a true friend, she wouldn't be spreading rumors.  The best thing you can do is to talk to her and try to straighten it out.  If that doesn't work and the rumors persist, there isn't much you can do except to ignore them.  Ever hear the phrase "The lady doth protest to much"?  The more you try to deny something, the more people will believe it's the truth.\n\nGood luck.
836618
First of all I think it is awesome that you are such a good friend to him and will support him no matter what!!!  Some people would just turn their backs on their friend if they found out something like that, which i think is ridiculous.  I think that you should tell him that you have suspected for a long time that he is gay and would just like to know if it was true.  Then just tell him that you will be there for him with anything he needs..a shoulder to cry on, a friend to talk to, or just emotional support...Good Luck
925194
Tell her the truth bro...The whole "Gay" thing will backfire on ya because then she will tell everyone you know and then people will think your gay....Tell her the truth...I would rather people think that im an A-hole for telling the truth...then think that im a fag for lying.
871750
no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.
845373
Feel the situation out.  Do you know how he feels about gay people?  In the right time and place you will be able to tell him you are and how you have felt.  If he is not gay then you can't change him, don't try it won't work and do'nt push it.  Many straight people have gay friends.
850707
be honest and tell him ur not gay and that ur not interested. if he continues to makes u uncomfy (on purpose) then he's not respecting u and thus not a good friend\n\nbut how do u know he fancies u? has he said? or u being sensitive just cos he's gay and ur male?