How should I ask my boyfriend about marriage??
370707
If I was dating someone for 7 years and they haven't popped the question yet,.I would start to think if I am waisting my time or not.  No offense but If this man doesn't want to get married and you do,..then maybe he's not the right one for you.  You need to just be strong and try to tell him that you want a life long partner, not a life long boyfriend.  You only live once so take the time you have and make the most of it!!  good luck
691749
Since I love flowers, that's what I would talk about!  Maybe ask them what kinds of plants they grow there... veggies, flowers etc... people grow things all over the world!\nFood, is always a good thing to talk about, everyone eats!Ask how to make certain things, if you let them TEACH you something about THEIR interests or passions, they will love you forever.  \n\nBe a good listener, don't talk too much about yourself (unless you are prompted) but always try to politely ask THEM questions. Ask about the seasons and what's it like  "in the winter" there... Ask about your boyfriend's family tree (sometimes you can find out about interesting lineage!). Ask about where THEY vacation, and what so they like to do on a regular night out. Ask about the funniest moment they remember about your boyfriends childhood.  Get them to open up and laugh, make them feel warm. And smile. Smile whenever you can, not a fake forced smile, but a relaxed smile.\n\nBut best thing to do is find out what their passions are... Listen, learn and relax.  Be yourself and enjoy!\n\nHave a great time!
1013971
First thing is you sit down and talk to him about what you think marriage is and ask him what he thinks it means to him. Then you ask him if he want to still be married and if he says yes insist on going for counseling. If he says he doesn't want to be married then you have your answer.....you leave.
1154231
My husband proposed after we were together for 3 months and we got married a month after that.  We have been together for almost 5 now and happy as ever.\nIf you love him and he loves you (do you guys say you love each other) than I say go for it.\nLove is love and if you know it and you are happy you will make it work, love has no time limit, when it is true and pure the possibilities are endless.\nGood luck!
79900
I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
71225
You need to figure out if you are ready for marriage. Have you accomplished all that you wanted to while single? Are you in love with the man, or in love with the idea of being in love? You need to sit down with your boyfriend to find out if he to is ready for all this and find out what you both want from life and from marriage. Then you decide what is best. I got married right after my 19th birthday. It's not right for everyone, but I have been married for 11 years now, and have no regrets. Just keep in mind, that neither you or your partner will be the same person you are today 5 years from now. You are both still growing up. I have had a wonderful time "growing up with my husband" (he was 21 when we got married. It has been fun discovering new things about eachother over the years.
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
840152
With Christmas coming up.. make mention of a ring some how. Even by making small talk in bed before sleep, bring it up somehow. He deserves to know how you feel and what you want! And if he doesn't want that yet or what not.. understand! Don't be in a hurry.. live life, have fun, and if things are meant to me between you two, a ring and a kid or more will happen!! It just takes time. Trust me, live life and have fun while you can, before you know it you'll be changing stinky diapers!. Enjoy your freedom of going out when ever you can, and not have to worry about finding a baby sitter or telling your friends you have to stay home with the kid. Plus.. a wedding and a kid shortly after is EXPENSIVE. Save up your money. Because once you have a kid.. you have responsibilities for the rest of your life.. enjoy life while you have the chance girl!!!
605120
See if he introduces you to his mom, and how he does it. See how he relates to her. Watch that movie "Monster in law" with him and if he laughs or cringes. You'll know if he's the one by subtle hints. Buy a wedding magazine and see if he freaks out by it. Ask him how he sees his life in five years, what his goals are. There are ways of finding out without being obvious and pushy. Good luck!
975394
He knows, you know, you both know that is going to happen. You just have to be patient and wait. He knows that you are the one for him and if you have already discussed marriage and children, then it's a clear indication that it's going to happen soon.\n\nMen that don't commit won't even mention the "m" word and will back off at the minimum indication of getting too close or too serious. He is not scared about discussing marriage with you because you are the one for him. \n\nDon't set deadlines or ultimatums or conditions for it to happen, they are NOT necesary. Accorduing to what you wrote, he is planning on doing it so don't spoil his plans by becoming frustrated and impatient.\n\nMost couples get engaged by their second anniversary, besides, Christmas, New years and Valentine's day are around the corner too, you might be in for a surprise.\n\nMy advice to you is to wait until your second anniversary before becoming anxious. It's not necesary for you to feel this way, you have the perfect man, ther perfect relationship, so don;t ruin it by becoming irritated. \n\nHe will ask you and there is no question about it, wait a little bit more... proposals are way more romantic when they are a surprise and men really love plan something special and having the perfect ring ... let him give you what you deserve ...let him surprise you and enjoy the relationship. \n\nHe is THE ONE sweetie... be patient.\n\nCongratulations and good luck!
1064937
well marriage is just a piece of paper after 4 yrs together you should know that he is  committed to you.   IF he is going to ask you to marry him it should something is wants to do and make a surprise  you don't want to him ask just because you are forcing him to.  i say go with him.
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
411371
hi ,yes its fine to ask a guy to marry you ,but its not very nice what he said to you ,its not his turn ?? how many times does he want to get engaged ?? this could all to do with the MALE EGO thing !! he asked someone and probably got hurt ,and doesnt want to get hurt again ,marriage when it comes down to it is a bit of paper and a ring ,what you have this now is him and you and a future together,enjoy that and things will work out and anyway you never know he could be the one to ask you  good luck have a greeat life together XX
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
410741
There is nothing that you can do to make your boyfriend marry you. You have to decide if you want to continue to date someone who is not interested in marriage at this time. Take this time to decide on what you want to do to prepare yourself for marriage. Talk with boyfriend, find out his feelings. I wish you the best.
62396
You have to look at all aspects of your life, not just age. Take into consideration finances, future goals (school), and even all the details (where you'll live - apt or house -- will you still have separate bank accounts or share your money -- do you want kids together?) Then make sure of how much you love him too. Sometimes just because you're ready for marriage, doesn't mean that he is either. When the time comes to talk about it make sure to cover all the bases and find out what you agree and disagree on. It'll give you a much better chance of staying together.
507489
hell first i am a guy.....i am a newlywed of 1 year...when my wife had told me she wanted marriage it was great news to me..i acted like i knew nothing of it..meaning i knew she wanted marriage..we talked about it..this was so exiting for me..if you know for sure he is wanting to marry you...then wait..don't approach him again..why? well alot of guys are the same i knew she wanted marriage so i thought about the perfect way to ask her..i thought about all the good things that i wanted as well..i think to sum this up...he wants to think of the perfect wedding..he wants this to be the most beautiful day for the both of you..he will come around give it time...please take this advise from a man who has went through the same exact thing