hi used drugs and my girl used to. now we r not talking because we lapse. i konow that she loves me how can be
372326
Right now you don't need to worry about her or getting her back into your life.  Focus on yourself and your drug use.  Stay off the drugs and things will work out the way they are supposed to work out (not necessarily the way you want them to).
336737
I kinda` understand your girlfriend but the situation you`re caught in too...I think that the love chain brought the two of u back together everytime you two broke up.It`s hard to stick without your beloved.The fact of ignoring her love was not a good idea at all,even though i believe that u have done it just to satisfy you self-ego...and now you are the one who wants to get close to her again...After brokin up several times i think that it`s better to take it slow,show her that u care about her ,without pressuring her cause this will scare her away even though i`m sure that she still loves u...She`s hurt...and all u have to do it`s to gain her confidence again,dip a deeper place in her heart than u already have.By rushing her u will not receive anything.Do simple things for showing her how much she meens to u,that u can change and that the two of u together can work it out.It`s all about motivation and how much do u really want things to work out...and of course...u need love from both sides...\n I hope that my answer will help u in some way... :P
988302
If she truly loves you-she won't.  You stated that you love her alot and as long as she feels that and you have been honest with her who cares.  Life is too short and when you find someone you love-let go of judgement and hold on tight to love.  People that are secure and confident might actually find your past adventure a turn on.
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Right now buddy, the best thing that you can do is to love yourself... If you don't know how to love yourself, how can others love you back... Always remember that ok? I know that you are in a very tough situation now, that's why you find it very hard to eat and to sleep, and that's normal, but you should take care of yourself because that can lead to too much depression which can be harmful for you... About getting her back, I think that you should follow the advise of some of your friends who are girls because they understand what a woman feels after a hurtful situation like that, unlike us guys who are tougher and can handle situations like that... Always remember that girls are emotional and its really hard to earn back their trust, you must first prove to her that you are sincere with your apology and show her how you still love her by waiting her make-up her mind... Give her time to think because girls always want assurance before they make a tough decision... And always be prepared and be open-minded whatever her decision will be, you should learn to accept whatever her decision is because that is your consequence, you are the one who cheated... And don't be too aggressive on her, let her think... Actually, your girl is too kind coz she still accepted you to be her bestfriend for now after wht you have done... The only key to get her back is give here some space and time to think and prove her how much you love her by waiting and accepting patiently for her final decision about your relationship... Goodluck buddy... And don't do that again because it is not only her trust that you will lose, but also the trust of your future girlfriends if ever...
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withdraw yourself for some time. don't make it worse than it already is! she is 10 years older than you. even if she loves you, she might also be totally confused now.\n\ntime will solve it.\nin any case, you did enough because you told her about your feelings. don't go crazy if she is quiet. get yourself busy with your own things for a while. maybe you can make peace some time later.\n\nlook. I also did like this with my closest male friend two weeks ago! (what a coincidence). but here the reason was different: I fell in love with HIM. and we also had a fight before that.\nof course we had, cause everybody was expecting something else from the whole relationship than he/she got!\nso it is the same: we don't talk and also don't write now.\nI told him not to!\ncause I can't take it any more, cause it hurts, cause... blahblahblah!\n\nbut the truth is that now after two weeks I calmed down and I would really want to make peace - if I only knew how!!!\n\nI think it is best you give her and yourself TIME.\n"and time can do so much...\noh myyyy love.. my darling, I hunger for\nyour touch\nalone"\n:-)\n\ncomm'on, put some good music and cheer up.\nyou are not the only one on this planet who messes up friendship for love!\nhere is another one, hellooo there!\nbut this one, over here.. ye she is female.\n \n((maybe you want a younger woman than 31? can we exchange ur ex-friends? instead of writing them poems? well, I haven't started writing poems yet, but I must tell, I am not far from it!!!\nI already sent him songs! hm.\nit is only the world cup keeping me mentally busy now, otherwise I would be writing poems and crying all day!\n\nI am OLNY 25, by the way! don't despair, the sea if full of good fresh fish!!!))
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its ok......u both are changing....\ngive urself sumtime clear out misunderstandings n stuff talk to her maybe she needs help.......but if it still's not working   break it\nbut at least u wont regret not trying...right????
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I would suggest taking a little break..tell her that if she loves you she wont mind taking a break\n\nIf you only take like a weekish break the felings shoudlnt change especially if she loves you as much as it seems..
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i do not think you are stupid at all, you must really love her I mean real, true, deep love to forgive her for that. since she cried so hard and begged your forgiveness, and since you are the only person she opens up to, it means that she does love you. don't think because she cheated she dosn't love you, it has to do with something that you weren't giving her thus she had to look elsewhere. This could be sex, attention, love, support, a million different things to be real. if you really want to work this out then you have to be willing to forgive and forget. you also need to have a serious talk with her about why she cheaated. Just simply ask her why, what was her reasoning. if you want to ensure that she dosn't cheat again then you have to make sure that you are giving her what she needs and fulfilling your part of the relationship deal, but if she cheats again, its over, and there is no hope. I just went through the same thing except im the one who cheated and he said he would forgive me but then he didnt act right read my last question for what happened cuz now he wants me back that im gone. he is B in my question if you want to take a look. Good Luck to you. Hope I helped.
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Well maybe you loved her and you didn't even noticed it before,and now you are truly feeling for it,but there is only one thing you can do,go talk to her about because we never know,what if she loved you but never said anything?Maybe she gave up on you and found somebody else...Good luck
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honesty hurts, bad. but, it usually works out ofr the best. try withdrawing from her and the things you do together. its not going to be easy but it will be best for both of u
801313
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
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I had the same problem he loves you he has been hurt before and thats why he wont express his feeling sober but when he is drunk he lets his guard down and it all comes out me and my man been together for 8yrs now and he was the same way going into the 2nd yr he started telling me how he felt when he was sober and it was the best feeling in the world that he finally shared his feelings good luck honey
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I think you have to talk to her. I'm sure it sounds about as much fun as getting teeth pulled, but I think you really must  do it. You can never know how people really feel about you until they tell you themselves. Some people just don't show how they truely feel and maybe she doesn't know how you really feel. If you really love her, you should take the risk and find out for sure. And if worst comes to worst and she tells you that she doesn't feel the same way about you at least you will know and will be able to move on without always wondering .
730337
Hey John!\nShe should be no more your girl friend or something like that.\nHowever, she needs proper mental, physical and psychalogical treatment, it should be continued to recover her.
513164
If its someone you love and care about confront them and take action. Don't let someone on drugs ruin their lives. The worst thing you can do in this sort of situation is let it happen!!
213321
Write her love letters, call her sometimes, keep things light and simple. It's hard when people can't show each other their feelings, but physical aspects of a relationship aren't everything. If you know you're around people you trust to keep it quiet, do little things like hold hands. I know it will be hard, but if you love her like you say you do, it's worth it :) good luck!
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You don;t need drugs. You are going thru a normal period of grief and mourning for a relationship that has ended. This is entirely normal. Although the situation is harder because you do still have to come in contact with him.\nIf the crying and feelings of sadness continue for more than a few months I suggest you go and speak to your doctor at that time.\n\nAll the best to you.\nIt will get easier as time passes. Hang in there!