How is it that we don't value life until we lose someone close to us?
362423
its not that we dont value it, we just take advantage of it. people dont really think that them or someone close to them will die very soon. people that have lost someone close definately appreciates their health and trys to be a better person, if they have not become depressed.
1174465
If these people were dear to you, you can't expect to "get over it" in such a short period of time.  When someone we love dies, the mourning period could take a year or more.  The best advice that I was given after my mother died was to not try to rush the grieving process.  That way, when I ended up in tears, I knew that the healing wasn't complete yet and that that was okay.
327612
I don't know surely but I think I can even die to rescue a completely unknown person if I feel to do so. It's all about feeling and about what your heart says. If you feel for someone whoever he is then you will not be afraid to lay down your life for him. But if you have not that kind of feelings then you may hesitate to even risk your life for someone you closely know.\nReally, It all depends on how we feel !!!
347820
You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
249230
If you are willing to give your life away for another person because you care so much for them, it's true love. If you are not willing to sacrifice yourself for this person then it's not true love. True love for a non-relative can only come through years of living and learning about that person. Most mothers have instinctive love for their offspring and would not think twice about sacrificing themselves for their child. That's true love.
386698
Life is so expensive, people are thinking about day to day survival, not what is going to happen after death. People do not want to think about, or discuss, or spend money on their death. I do not think it is selfishness at all. I think it is often lack of resources, and always human nature.
1021444
i m facing the same prob my dear friend , i can understand ur feeling bt its true we hav only memories of our love n nothing else left , we can only think of our love which was there once in our life , n it is very diffcult to say weather we meet our beloved after death or not , its better trust GOD n think of ur future . GOD BLESS U ALWAYS , TAKE CARE , TRY TO BE HAPPY.
1100362
Hi ..When someone we love dies, it hurts us. ..We feel sad that the person will no longer be around to talk to or to have fun with... Their absence leaves a big hole in our lives. Maybe you had a pet that died.... Remember the first few times you walked into the house after your dog or cat was gone? It was strange not to have your pet there. Maybe you cried - that's OK... We need to mourn, or grieve, over losing people and animals and other things we love. ..But just like when you skin your knee, the first, intense pain will go away after a while. It takes time for your knee to heal, but it hurts less and less each day. It's the same when somebody dies... That doesn't mean you forget the person who died, or that you stop missing them ..After a while, we can go back to our lives, still loving them and remembering them always... \n\nRemembering people we love who have died is one way to keep them a part of us... Pictures help us do this. Looking at a photo album can help us remember fun times we had together. Lots of families bury the bodies of loved ones in a cemetery. Then they can go and visit the person's grave. It's not that they think of the dead person as really being there, but it is a special place to go and think about how much that person meant to them...................\n\nTo the asker: Let Manic not , get to you!\nI have seen .. that he has comments, on my question,to;/  ........\nKind regards!:) ..
285372
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  Whatever you do - do something.  No matter how insignifcant whatever you do may seem to you at the moment - it will mean more than you can imagine to the family.  They understand the distance in miles associated with this loss.  God bless you and yours at this time!
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You are not death yet, so how can you be so sure ? lol\n\nBut who loves you more and which one is your real love ? Is there anything else in your life you value more than love (your marriage, finance, kids ...).\n\nThere are cases people sacrify love to keep other issue/es.\n\nThere are cases people give up everything else for a true love ...
475874
Well, I think that in some ways you are trying to be responsible, but if you dwell on it to the point that you miss out on the life you do have left, then you need to rethink things. See the point is this, I lost my daughter when she was 13 1/2. It was very unexpected. I know someone who went into the hospital for a minor surgery and died, I also had my brother in law die from cancer. You never really know when it's your time, you have a terminal illness that yes you will someday die from yet you could be killed in a car accident tomorrow. Everyone is dying, from the moment you are born your body starts the process. It is a part of life. There is no one alive who won't face it one day. I got a fortune cookie after the death of my daughter and I have it taped to my wall, it was rather weird to get it when I did, but I understood all to well what it meant.... Counting your time is not so important as making your time count.....Death is not something to be feared but rather just another step in your progression. I hope you enjoy life to it's fullest and go listen to Tim Mcgraws song called Live like you were Dying I think that's the name. It's a great song. I wish you the best and hope that you enjoy the simple pleasures and the friends and loved ones that you share this journey with. And remember\nCounting your time is not so important as making your time count.....Tomorrow is not  guarunteed for anyone.\n\nA great book to read actually a couple of them are\nGrieving the Pain and the Promise by Deanna Edwards. It talks about all sorts of grief and about dying\nhttp://www.deannaedwards.com/\n\nThe Message by Lance Richardson it is an incrediable story!\nhttp://www.americanfamilypublications.com/
243274
Ummmmmm No, I don't.\n\nGod let's you choose to make choices in your life, and you choose.  Life DOES continue to go on outside your realm - for example people dying....that's not something God DOES TO YOU, that's a decision God made for the person that died.  We are supposed to rejoice death because we know our loved one is with God.  \n\nSo at the end of the day, my heart says absolutely not in reply to your question.
581203
People die when it is their time to go - there is a mixture of good and bad - in all of us - some of us show more good than bad, but others seem to be completely bad and they hide their good aspects.\n\nI am guessing that you lost a loved one recently - my condolences to you if you have.\n\nThat good person left a very good person behind - YOU - and you are not alone.\n\nJust remember all the good things that happened between you and keep those wonderful thoughts alive in your heart and soul - and that good person will never completely die as long as he/she lives in you.
54679
life is so short but we are not wasting time in here. life is too precious so we have to look for ways that can make our life meanigful here on earth and if you found it, you could say that life is really short and u need more time to accomplish everything. try to leave your mark so that when you passed away, somebody would remember you once in a while.
173684
you can't i just lost my husband in oct. and it's been 5 months and you don't get over it. unless you throw yourself into something. and sometimes that doesn't even help. and of course friends mean well but they don't understand how you feel. it's up to you and you alone. you just live and take life day by day and that's all you can do....
129977
I've felt that kind of thing too. I can't say for sure that the person was really present, or if they were just present in my mind - but either way the people we've loved and lost truly remain with us forever.
397984
Pray about it and carefully consider what you are thinking about doing. Life is a gift from God and we should not posess the power to take it away. However, there are circumstances where you must choose. I personally would probably rather die myself than impose death on someone else, especially a loved one. To be quite honest, if you are looking fo ra quick and simple answer, there isn't one and never will be.