my husband has suddenly high sex drives. He is 45 years old, what causes this sudden increase in his libido?
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just have sex with him alot.
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I do not think there is any such thing as "normal" in regards to this question. Each couple will have their own desires, their own wants, needs, urges and motivations. Sex is tied to emotions and other factors besides two willing bodies. In other words, it may seem normal for your husband to want sex more often, but if his mind is on work, worries, children, responsibilities etc. He may not be able to perform as well or as eagerly as he would without the stress issues.  There are also medications that can affect one's desire (or lack of desire) so all of these kind of intricacies in your OWN relationship may make what is "normal" very different for each couple. \n\nMy husband and I did not get married until we were older (late 30s for me, early 40s for him), and I must admit that the first two years was a lot hotter than the last 8 have been, but I have had a surgery on my back, and my husband has had some health problems that have had a profound effect on our sex lives. The part that really matters is that we are both happy and satisfied (not only with the sex, but with each other)!  We were friends before we were lovers, and if for some reason one day one of us is no longer able to have sex at all, I don't think either one of us would walk away from the other because of it!\n\nI guess it's a lot more important if you are young, and maybe there are ways that you could approach and talk to your husband if you want to know if HE is happy, and if YOU are not happy...then I think you should try talking this over with your husband (PRIVATELY) before you are tempted to invite others into your bed!  It may be that you could spice things up a bit to make the package more appealing. If you could just offer him a massage and if he relaxes so much that he goes to sleep, then let him sleep. Let him know that you are not doing nice things just for the purpose of seducing him. Maybe try some feminine lingerie, and instead of wearing your fuzzy pink bunny slippers and terry cloth bathrobe, put on something that will remind him that you are all HIS and that he is a very lucky man. :)  \n\nIf you have changed in weight or attitude since you got married maybe he would appreciate your efforts to improve yourself. So if you can be more helpful, less demanding and show him that you really do want him to be more attentive or less attentive (which ever the case)...Perhaps your feelings will seem more important to him. \n\nBefore you feel tempted to cheat or anything like that or if you are suspicious that he is cheating, ask him to go with you to a marriage counselor, or if you both are invested in a church, you may consider asking the Pastor, Priest or Reverend for "couple's counseling".  If you go to counseling, be honest about your feelings, and encourage your husband to open up too. If there are things in your marriage (like sex) that are not satisfying to both of you, then maybe you could find ways to make them more balanced through work and compromise. Sometimes we cannot always have things as we always dreamed they should be. There is NOTHING wrong with sharing those dreams with your spouse, so that both of you can work towards a happier marriage that is mutually gratifying in many many ways!\n\nGood luck, what is "normal" is what works for you and your husband!
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i'm around that age too and my libido is odd these days. sometimes i'm gagging for it but most of the time I can't be bothered. I think it depends on the relationship, if you are still in love, if you still find your partner attractive sexually, if you are feeling depressed/stressed, also hormones play a big part.
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sounds like he`s not sexually conservative no more.hope she don`t have a mid-life baby-women can be very fertile at this age.
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He's probably in his prime where all he wants is sex. Men tend to want sex, but later on, You probably will be the one wanting sex and he'll be thinking what you're thinking now. (Men's sex drive kicks in before the women.)
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Hmmm, just be careful. I can tell you one thing, he is probably in his 2nd sexual prime at about 40. He might not be as active as you either... LOL. I am 45... Hmmm, where are the rest of the 27 year olds? (Todd)
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Agree with others, age may be a factor here; but erectile problems are, in a physical sense, basically about blood flow. So in this respect, age is not necessarily the main factor here. So, I'd start with a 'physical.' \n\nED can sometimes be a by-product of diabetes. Are there other classic signs, thirst, excessive peeing, etc.? Is there an enlarged or aggravated prostate problem? Enlarged prostate can interfere with blood flow. A general cardio-vascular problem? Is he getting regular exercise?\n\nSometimes, it's 'all in his mind,' meaning psychological stresses from work, or other sources. If he is worried, it will just shut him down, totally. So, maybe ask him, not like an inquisition, but maybe just tease it out of him, about workplace/relationship with coworkers issues?\n\nSpice it up? I don't mean to go for handcuffs, etc. (no offense to those who enjoy this, whatever floats your boat), but after a long time with a partner, even though things can still be hot, they can also become very 'routine.' Are there varying ways you could stimulate him? Alot of guys don't realize that pretty much the entire pelvic floor of the male body is packed with G-spots. You wanted to hear from a guy, so I can pass this along to you: if he is stimulated from the bottom up, the blood flow is more increases, and produces a better erection, engorged to the max, and therefore all nerve endings usually buried within folds of skin, are now exposed in full sensitivity.\n\nI am not trying to be (porno)graphic, just plainly honest. it's basically anatomy 101, and simple, natural physiology. it's the way a guy's body 'works.'\n\nDon't know if this helps, but it is submitted as a serious and honest answer.\n\nGood luck!
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sweetie you are not a nympho...you are perfectly normal and so is he...a males sex drive goes downhill as they get older and a females sexdrive just keeps going and going and going...no matter what age you get hun you're gonna wanna do it all the time...thats just you...he just dont wanna admit that he cant handle your sexual appetite
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Do NOT listen to this other drivel...Sometimes men, just like women lose some of the intensity of their sex drive for certain periods of time. He could be dealing with issues that you know nothing about...such as stress at work or with family, he could be having some problems with his libido... sit him down and talk to him, you won't find your answer by asking total strangers..only he can satisfy your curiosity. Peace.
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See a doctor.\n\nYou may have a hormonal problem or there may be psychological issues in your relationship.  Did he or you lose a job?  Is money tight? Did he or you gain weight?\n\nIf you do not want to see a doctor, take 4 gms of arginine 2X a day, on an empty stomach (before bed and in the morning - dont eat for at least 45 minutes) and take DHEA.  This will increase your testosterone levels which may increase your sex drive.
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Actually, I think mine is a bit higher than normal.  I can't say for sure there's a correlation, but I do know that if you are Insulin resistant, as many PCOSers are, you have higher level of testosterone, which can account for a heightened sex drive.  If it is related, it's one of the lesser symptoms, though.
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well, let me tell you.  find yourself a 35 year old woman.  I am 35 and can't seem to get enough these days.  I am horny all the time, hubby can't keep up, have had to pursue other avenues.  good luck.
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This one's easy to answer! The fact is that a man in his 20s is in his sexual peak (the only one he gets!) so he is filled with sexual energy and tends to seek more personal gratification than mutual enjoyment...hence the long-lasting electrified sex. When men mature further, the sexual edge begins to soften, and they become a more sensitive lover, which often has the side effect of reduced libido and less energy for the physical act of sexual intercourse. Combining the two? Only one way to do that, and that's to be with an Aries! :)\n\n(if you can handle them, that is...individual mileage may vary, results typical but not absolute)
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There's a testosterone patch (Intrinsa) that's under evaluation for women to boost the sex drive. I don't know when it's supposed to come out or what the status of it is right now. Check with your GYN. He/she should know.\n\nI got divorced after 17 years. That worked for me lol (actually that's not even a joke)
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This is a good question.  My husband would love to know the same thing.  Currently my sex drive is low because of menapause.  I'm going through it very early.  Usually a bottle of wine and somd actual romance will help.  You do know what I mean when I say romance.  Dinner without the kids, rose pettels on the bed,going out on a date with eachother, slow dancing in the livingroom.  These little things open opportunity for flirting.  Thus increasing the want for sex.  b4 menopause I worked sooo much.  My joib made us do a mandatory 15 hrs overtime per week and it took me 2 hours each way to get there.  Then once home still had to check homework cook dinner make sure the house was in order.  I was constantly going and you have the nerve to want what?  Switch roles for a day. see how you feel..  or. start helping around the house if that is the ccase.  but remember  flirting.
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Does your husband watch porn or check out xxx web site?  Do you know if he masturbates?  If the answer is yes to any of the above, then it's not his sex drive that's the problem.  Most likely he's bored with and tired of you.  You've been married a long long time and most guys (whether they admit it or not) get tired of doing the same woman after too many years.  You were 26 when you guys married, and probably a nice young hot chick then.  You're now 50 and perhaps a bit baggy, saggy and old ladyish... you remind him that he too is also an old fart and not that hot young stud he was when he was in his 20s.  How does he feel about you otherwise?  Does he still love you and care about you?  Other than the sex thing how is he as a husband or as a father?  If the other things are positive then maybe his desire for sex or specifically sex with you has waned.  Maybe if he got some strange (not meaning to be crude, just honest) or some young chickie his attitude about sex may change and he may become a new man.
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I'm 52.. libido is variable but it helps to find a lovely concubine! It depends on who you are with who can help to light your fire. Perhaps the other answers do play a part.. not smoking or drinking too much.. In addition if you have too much weght lose it and to dress and behave younger may help.. If you have a good feeling about yourself it can help alot.