Why do I crave an intimate relationship, then push them away once I have one?
370663
Maybe you have not found the right one that gives you the right intimacy you are craving.  You will, hang in there.
792556
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.
707478
I am guessing that emotional closeness scares you?  Either you are afraid that he might see something he won't like, or you are afraid that you may get stuck with someone when someone "better" might be out there.\n\nJust my 2 cents.
978432
No; you are realizing that sex is not satisfying your longing. You may be feeling either lonliness or a need for intimacy. Only your inner heart knows what the underlying longing is, but you are beginning to recognize it is there.\nClose your eyes; go inside. What feelings are buried in there? THAT is the need you should work on satisfying instead of burying it in sexuality.
369360
Because in reality they DONT know what they want...  They're all just hormonal pigs who need to get smacked around every now and then to keep them in line.\n\nAlso, I found if you're not having sexual relations with the guy, he goes behind your back and finds it somewhere else.  Now that's no reason to start having sexual relations with him...  That's just a reason to get out of the relationship, because he's not worth the room he takes up in your life.\n\nThere are plenty of good guys out there that won't cheat or be as$h0les behind your back...  It's just a matter of time and searching before you find the right one.\n\nGood luck.  :]
230875
Sounds to me like you are trying to talk yourself into staying- talking yourself into the idea period.  It doesn't have to be a horrible relationship or an abusive guy to make it just "not feel there". Do what's in your heart.
339918
You better do something fast because the honestly, there are so many times where sexual desire and the need to fulfill that will overcome a person's feelings for their partner. It's sad, but it's happened a million times on this earth.
645659
i could see how you can think it would and it might, its easy  to please yourself but at the same time it makes you sad if you have to do it too long because your wanting that intimate sexual relationship with someone so ya i can see how it would make you depressed, just hang in there and dont stop looking for that right person but dont go out and be premiscious either to many deseases out there! hang in there youll find someone!
105985
Are you truly attracted to him or do you just feel the need to have a man? I find it kind of odd that you do not wish to even physically kiss him (a sign of physical attraction) yet you feel the need to make love to him when he is not around. Maybe you need to look deeper and find what you truly seek.
226633
It feels wonderful and it can bring you closer to someone if you are comfortable with them and you decide for yourself that you want to do it, however it can make you feel wretched if you are pressured to do it before you are ready or if you are with someone that you don't really care about.
582172
Because, deep within your heart, you still want to trust that person no-matter how your mind denies that desire.  Let-Go is always the most difficult task, take it slow and, be gentle with yourself.
270138
If you love someone, than usually love makes you ALWAYS want to be around the person you love. Maybe it's just obsession or lust.
541989
I think everyone who is committed feels like they want to be free sometimes.  You have to realize that you are committed and before you go to someone else you have to end what your in the middle of FIRST.  Being in a relationship is worth it but you have to work hard at it.  AND BE FAITHFUL.
366013
I believe people have a natural need to be with someone who loves them.  I think people take it way to far though and that is how they get into bad relationships.  They are just so desperate not to be alone that they will take the first person who comes along.  \n\nSo I think people like to have someone they love, but they don't need it as much as they think.
906568
in my case, it's always the friend,never the girlfriend.. i don't know why, but i guess i always give off the feeling that i'm not ready for a more intimate relationship. it has to be the reason.i know why i do this. it's because i'm always afraid to to look like i'm too eager.. i like to play it cool but i always end up being the loser!!
392407
Because the more that they don't want you is all the more reason for you to want them.  I'm not sure why, but you always want something you can't yet reach... i.e. the cookie jar on top of the fridge.  It's all about will power and whats best for you
271951
First off, good for you. Don't let other people pressure you into finding a boyfriend, that will only trap you in a pointless relationship. They pressure you because they feel like they're helping, it's hard to tell them all their interference makes the situation worse. Tell them, 'I will have a boyfriend when I find one I like.' If that doesn't stop them, tell them you're thinking about becoming a lesbian.