husband that doesn't care?
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That doesnt sound like a healthy relationship.\nSome people think if they do not talk about their feelings that they will just go away. Truth is communication is one of the key parts of a relationship and that talking about your feelings makes things better not worse. \nThat if you ignore your feelings they just grow inside you and become stronger and worse feelings.\nYou two need to figure out a healthy way of communicating. You need to learn how to talk to each other about tough feelings in a positive way.\nIf not like you said you guys will just grow apart until one of you ends it completely. \nA relationship is nothing without communication
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Darn spouse...he always makes me feel guilty..if he comes home from work and i am sitting there watching the last 30 minutes of oprah...he'll sit down next to me and say,,What the hell are u making me watch now
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Yes, but not in front of my husband.
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COMMUNICATION... Let him know what you want out of the relationship. After all, you don't want to waist your time,or his. Then again, who cares about his?
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Was he that way before you married him? If so, why would you expect it to be different now?\n\nIf he wasn't, then--as said above--you've probably run rampant at home and he doesn't feel the need, or is trying to "balance" the situation. Could also be med/psych reasons too.
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When you don't feel any love or care for your spouse and visa versa.  You don't even bother to fight or spend time together, because in order to do that, it means you still care.
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Studies have shown that husbands who do more of the work around the house/with the kids get more sex than men who don't because the wives resent their husbands sitting around doing nothing while they're doing everything. \n\nI would say that the #1 reason I hear from women for lack of interest is the men using their wives' bodies as if they were a 3 minute "penalty" box. The guy only wants a 3 minute quickie bec that's all it takes to satisfy him and 99% of all women are NOT interested in 3 minute quickies unless it's just to get the husband to stop bothering you for it. So in other words -- why bother getting undressed for bad sex?
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he doesnt care as long as both love each other. simple as that.
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I have a friend who's husband talks incessantly. People have asked him to stop, but he can't seem to. He doesn't seem to have a clue. He really gets on my nerves.
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Yeah! These people are aTTACKers, aren't they...but helpful, too. Don't delete your question because I'ma watchin' it, girlfriend!\nWell, I say if he has the NERVE to check you on YOUR DAILY WORK, then you can get that same nerve.  \n\nThat is the trade-off, right.  And he wouldn't want to switch with you.  Tell him on a Saturday morning or a day off to track what the heck he does all day! Projects take longer than men think.  I like to get everything done in the 1st two hours of of the morning hustlin. Then, no matter what I do it's just done and the happy husbands off\nmy friggin' back.  \n\nTell him if you spent as much time cleaning up after HIM as you \ndid on the other household, necessary daily chores, he'd HAVE\nthe neat, sparkly perfect home he desired.  He'll get mad, that's just that tender little species of fragility and gentleness called\nTHE MALE EGO.\n\nTo those people who are working do NOT assume SAHM is\na dream job.  Its not for lazy bums.  Not the hardest work, \nbut important and challenging, more than you'd think.
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Anger, like any other emotion, is specific to the individual.\n\nIf you can understand the thing that sets your husband off, you can probably figure out how to remove that thing.\n\nSometimes - in men especially - anger is a very superficial emotion that covers "hurt" and "sadness".\nperhaps what your looking for is there.
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I actually just told my husband to leave me alone the other day,but he asked me what was wrong and I said,'hormones...just leave me alone'. He did though and I felt better after having some time to myself. I think your husband needs to realize that no one is happy all of the time. We all need time to ourselves and it is good for you and good for the marriage to be able to take this time. As for having a big blow-out about it...I would've walked away. I don't take that crap anymore. It isn't worth it to me to talk til I'm blue in the face,trying to explain 'why'. I shouldn't have to. An argument doesn't really get you anywhere. I tend to wait until things have settled down and then have a conversation about it and find out what he is feeling then. I gave up a long time ago on trying to justify myself to him. We actually have a better marriage this way. Good luck to you.
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maybe your hubby's just have an immature behavior.. i guess he's a also a loner who has his own world.. many men are like that by the way.
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Good riddance to him. He is not a supportive husband. He is useless. Don't regret what you have done.
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I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
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Your hubby needs a hobby.
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It sounds like only one of you matured.  If he is going to treat you like a room mate, then why not return the favor.  Stop doing his laundry, stop cooking him supper, just you and the kids, stop making it easy for him.  Before you do that though, get the kids off to mom's or someplace they will be taken care of, take his keyboard, mouse and monitor and hide them and tell him he can have them back after the two of you talk.  Sit him down and tell him how you feel, let him know that you feel neglected and more like his live in maid than his wife and that you need more.  If he fails to respond, stop doing for him and when he asks why, you can let him know that since you are not having your needs met by him, that you do not find it necessary to meet his.  If you still can not get his attention, just set up a week vacation for you and the kids, don't say a word about it to him, just go to your mom and dad's or bothers or sisters for a week.  Let him come home to an empty house where he has to do everything for himself and take care of the dogs.  If he does not like it, let him know that if you do not get some of his attention, he will have it like that everyday of his life when you leave him for good.