My boyfriend used to be insecure and jealous, now it seems that i am insecure and jealous what do i do?
365935
Well he is tired as he is working and now he has other things to deal with,as in the baby and you.\nThis can take a lot out of a guy in the first year or to,as he now is dealing with 3 people and not just looking after him.\nIt's the mental side of things that is weighing him down,so plan something special,a candlelit dinner and a romp in the bedroom,just let him know that you appreciate and love him for what he is doing.\nAs for your jealous thing,it's the reason you are taking so much time in getting ready,you have changed in body and soul and you are not sure if he desires you any more.Wrong!\nJust do this dinner thing on a regular basis and give him your whole you,you both will be fine.
1013736
I assume you've started dating recently, because I only texted my bf back when we were starting out. It wasn't coz I didnt like him, but it's just the way I do things. Some people need more time to get used to others and are too shy to begin a convo with their partner. Maybe he's like that too. Just give him time. If you've been together for a long time and you feel he has changed you need to confront him.
1116661
my ex is also like that.. at first i thought it was cute of him being jealous... but as time passes by it really suffocates me.. its like you cant do anything without asking permission from him or him allowing you. He became very possesive and it really kills me... As if i cant live my life by myself... piece of advice girl... don't let your bf becum a monster you should talk to him...and tell him that its normal to be jealous but its also not normal if he's over reacting when he is jealous...
477970
being jealous could be a sign of insecurity or distrust or obsession..whichever it is, you have to get over it, sooner the better...why dont you try telling your gf..maybe she could once again assure her love for you..maybe her assurance was just the thing you needed to get yourself back on track again..
732095
Jealousy is the root to all eveil, if you are secure with yourself no woman or man on this earth could make you think other wise, 1st love yourself because noonelse can, men do nto like an insecure woman, or a needy one, read the attach article, go for a jog, meditate, go get a mani and pedi read the book he's just not that into you, and last havea cup of coffee:)
370594
He sounds jealous and that is his problem and not yours. This can wreck a relationship. Just tell him you are with him and to cut out making problems where none exist.
588846
well.. my ex-boyfriend makes me jealous ALL the time... but then i just stop and think that it doesn't really matter beacuse it's his life to lead mistakes and to carry on with what he wants. Jealousy should not lead your life.. but it should try and help you become stronger.
229404
I dunno, I haven't been able to master that skill yet.  Everytime someone's been jealous of me I haven't wanted them to feel that way and by the time I want them to be jealous of me they generally don't care enough about me to be jealous let alone any other emotion.\n\nProbably better to just let it go and move on.  Who knows -- maybe losing your fixation on getting him to care about you will make him jealous...
842167
I have a jealous partner! I love him to bits, (he had a tough time with his last girlfriend), anyhoo I have been with him for 5 years and just do my best to reassure him, If I meet new people I make sure he gets introduced to them as soon as possible so he doesn't jump to conclusions, I include him in plans and nights out because to be honest I prefer to have him out with me anyway, as I said I love him and enjoy his company! I think it would be strange to have a partner that doesn't get jealous....it would be like they didn't care! If you love the guy help him through it if you can't be arsed with the hassle dump him!
895357
This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.
161727
Dump him.  Boyfriend not trusting means he is insecure.  It is a sign of abuse.
739542
you need to bring it up, because if it hruts yo uand he doesnt knowthat it was an honest mistake it just may keep happening. i think the best thing to do it to sit him down and tell him thats your not being jealous and you understand how much they mean to you. yo ujust felt kinda bad that you had plans and they were broken, and yo uwere uncomfortable with her making it just so he goes you trust him, but you dont want to make him uncomfortable so you seem jealous. but the best relationship is based on trust and honesty and if he knows how you feel, hopefully it wont happen agian. let me knowif you need anything
967448
i can understand your boyfriend's insecurity.  MOST guys are friends with girls and would get in their knickers if the opportunity presents itself (not saying that your best friend is like that, but a lot of guys are) \n\nand your boyfriend is probably thinking, '... yeah, y'all friends now, but romance/lust/love/whatever-you-wanna-call-it has a way of creeping up on people' .. you've heard the phrase 'we were friends, before we were lovers..'? \n\nwith all of that in mind and possibly more, youre boyfriend probably thinks the less time you spend with the guy, the less chance romance/lust/love/whatever gets to creep in.\n\nso, right now, while you're still just friends and have ABSOLUTELY NO sexual/romantic feelings for your best friend, you have to make a conscious effort to keep things that way, and then turn to your boyfriend and give him plenty of re-assurance.  i know it sucks, but unfortunately, that's the way us humans are wired. insecurity needs reassurance. and reassurance could be in the form of while being with your best friend, speaking to your boyfriend on the phone, for example, and tell him how much you love him (vomit) in such a way that the best friend hears it and the boyfriend knows that the best friend knows and heard it. that make sense? its a bore but if you really love your boyfriend and you really have no sexual feelings/hopes for your best friend, you might have to do all that :(
368184
He is insecure.  Do you have a lot of guy friends?  I would recommend cutting down the time you spend with them.  If he doesn't calm down, then I would recommend ending the relationship.  You will not be able to change him.  Women like to try to change men because it is a challenge for them.  He has to change onm his own.  Maybe if he loses you he will change his jealous ways...It worked for me when my girlfriend dumped me!  I got the message!
473151
you need to be honest with him and with yourself, and that monster you are experiencing is called jealousy, don't let it get the best of you!
1118243
You need to talk to him and tell him he has nothing to be jealous about.  He needs to know that he is loved, respected, and is blessed with family and friends who care.  Ask him how he feels and try to find out why he might feel jealous.\nSuggest counseling - sounds like he might have some things inside him he hasn't dealt with yet.
991491
Talk to him about it. Im sure he will but mayb ... he feels insecure.