What should i do if i was raped by my own first cousin n we called the police but they never sent him to jail?
356654
I'm sorry you are living in such fear, but you are letting him continue to harm you by living in that fear. He does not deserve to haunt you, instead he should have been punished. You did the right thing by telling and you should be proud of yourself for not being silent.\nPlease go your parents or another trusted adult and let them know how you feel. You need to go thru counseling and a support group to help you and how your feeling. \n\nI wish you the best of luck!
1021079
There may be an on going investigation that you are not aware of.  Please speak to the policeman that you gave the report to and ask for an update.  Sometimes what we think is a done deal, is not enough for our courts to hang someone with.  I'm glad you had the courage and fortitude to do something about it.  Good for you!
332138
Have someone in a different place from you (in case they  have caller I.D.) call the police and ask.
1092013
Having been charged and convicted are two different things. If I knew for sure that someone had been convicted I would delve in to the matter a lot more. At one time, I would have said mind your own business, but in view of all the horrible things that have happened to children, I would have to bring it to social services. Please do not proceed unless you really have something solid and well founded. This little girl has obviously been traumatized a lot being taken away from her parents. Depending on the charge, some people can change. Did you read about this person in the newspaper or did someone gossip about this situation? Which ever way you go, let your conscience be your guide.
241552
Girl! I am going to tell you the truth because I am worried and I don't want anything to happen to you. You are a weak women because you let this man hurt you. Yeah, he doesn't do now but he will. I know because my aunt went through the same thing. She told my uncle who she loves more than anything to stay out of it. One day my aunt husband was waiting at my grandma's door because my aunt wanted to see her mom. My mom was there too and she knew that her sister might not come back because he was mad for some reason. My grandaddy had a knife but my grandma told him to put it down. that was when my uncle went outside and he punch my aunts husband in the face. Then he got on top of him and was choking him to near death screaming "You made my sister hate me!" Then my grandma came up behind my uncle and took a broom and knocked him off of my aunt's husband. Then she told my aunt's husband to run and don't look back because my uncle would have killed him. The police had arrested my aunt's husband and we never saw or heard from him again. This is something you don't want to go through but it will happen if you stay with this man. This story is not to scare you but it has a message. This is a true story and I hope you don't go through what my aunt had to go through.
502262
When you suspect somebody is abusing a vulnerable child/adult and you know the suspected abuser you are NOT SNITCHING.  You are protecting the vulnerable person.  If your cousin is under age eighteen you can call Childrens protective services in your county and tell the caseworker what you suspect.\n\nIf you are sure your aunt is abusing your cousin, then you are doing your cousin a favor.\n\nLook at it this way, abuse tends to get worse as it drags on.  Ask any woman who escaped domestic violence.  Ask the family of someone who didn't escape and ended up dead.\n\nWhat if your cousin ends up dead, or in a coma at the hands of your aunt.....and YOU HAD THE POWER to do something and didn't?  How would you feel?  How do you feel when you see your cousin come to visit all burised?\n\nSometimes the bonds of family MUST BE BROKEN.  Your aunt is hurting a vulnerable developmentally disabled cousin. You have the power to see that abuse end.\n\nCall CPS or an agency that helps developmentaly disabled people.  That is the only honorable thing to do.  If you love him, you will.
904887
First of all, this isn't your fault it happened. And don't worry about your mother. YOU have to do what you need to do to help and take care of your own children. And if that means taking them to counseling or reporting them to the police-then do what you need to do!!! \nIt's up to you whether or not you report your son, but either way, I'd keep him away from your daughter. I would also seek counseling for your daughter if she isn't already. This is a very sad and sensitive issue. But she probably needs to talk to someone.  You may even need to talk to someone yourself. This must be terrible for you as well. I couldn't imagine going through something like this. It's always best to hear the victim out-and that is your daughter. Good luck in what ever you chose to do. You're in my thoughts.
1060908
IF the man actually raped her, then I would tell her to go to the Police with this information!\n\nNow, if she doesnt, then I wouldnt put too much stock in her being raped, and that she was just unfaithful, and that any time you two dissagree, she may turn to this man, (and thats why he calls, to see if she is available again), for comfort, and that being in a sexual nature.\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
868236
Glad you aren't related to me! Yikes!  But, really though you do sound like you have some problems you need help with before you do something you will regret.  Call a mental help line or your doctor or if you really think you might hurt somebody just call the police & they will take you to a place where you can get help.  Please call them BEFORE you hurt or kill anybody ok?
264944
First of all, you can make people AWARE. Awareness is your best weapon. I was raped at 4 years of age. I also was made aware of what to do if something like that should happen to me. I screamed, yelled, kicked, bit, etc. Because I did so, the teenager who raped me was caught and prosecuted. Because my parents were aware of what to do in such cases, they got me help right away. Children AND parents need to be taught how to prevent it, and what to do if it happens. I suggest that you also lobby for more strict legislation to deal with sex offenders. Perhaps form a community group at your childrens' school.
20847
if you are serious, report this to the police immediately.  this is borderline molestation/incest.
380097
Look in the phone directory - find the phone number for the Rape Crisis Service.  If you can't find one, look for a telephone counselling service (Eg Lifeline, Samaritins).\n\nRing that number.  The people there will be able to give you advice and tell you about support services where people will be able to help you deal with what has happened, when you are ready to.\n\nThey will also support you if you want to go to the police (and if you don't, it won't make any difference to how they treat you).\n\nNo-one deserves to be raped - it wasn't anything that you did, and it's not a punishment.  It just means that someone else out there is very screwed up.
256048
You shouldn't have to prove yourself. Knowing you didn't do it should be a comfort and be more important to you therefore making it your cousins problem!!
100763
Talk to a local attorney. They usually offer free consultations and can tell you what if anything was wrong with what happened in the situation. If you feel there was something wrong with the situation then maybe there was. If anything maybe you can at least get an apology from the chief of police even if there was nothing legally wrong with the situation.
1176999
The police should have done something about the theft of money and the theft of your car, but you didn't say you called them then, only when he threatens.  If he does steal anything from you, call the cops, press charges and have him locked up.  When he's 18 tell him he's on his own til he can straighten up.  Though you may want to check your state's law regarding the age of concent.  In some states it's 17 and you can throw him out now.  If he assaults you again, talk to a lawyer about an order of protection and removing him to a juvenile facility.
1035286
You absolutely did the right thing by calling the police....imagine if that was your child, or you out there...people really need to get more involved in these situations, maybe our world wouldn't be so screwed up!!!!!
597571
I'm old skool because I think you need to round up your male cousins and relatives, tell them what is going on and have them take the guy out to the woods and kick the crap out of him;  and when they are done, they just leave him out there to walk back...it should  be at least a mile from his home so he has to walk back and think about how he came to this state of ruination.  Now make sure you send one level-headed guy...you just want to teach him a lesson, not kill him.\n\nBelieve me, he will never call the cops and he will stay the heck away from her.