should a person stay with a man that says his 2 previous  marriages were just a just a piece of paper...&?
369274
I'm not sure what the situation is for you. To me it was just a piece of paper too. Not because it meant anything about commitment but because I always felt it in my heart. Regardless I was willing to go through with it. Then we get divorced and theat piece of paper meant nothing. He's been burned twice before so he's been hurt and probably bad. Maybe you should come at it as the direction that you want the ceremony because it will make you feel good and see how it goes from there.
915566
Think about this for a moment if you will, if he took all the time and energy that he has spent on you this past 6 months and spent it on his wife, do you think he would have a bad marriage? Another point to ponder, the feelings he has for you right now, do you think he had those same feelings for his wife when they had been going together for 6 months? One more, if he has shown this pattern before, how long before he is bored with you and needs another woman to make him feel good? You are asking us if you should have a relationship with a liar and a cheat, I would not recommend it. What I would recommend though, is for you to step back and look at your relationship with your head and not your heart so you can actually see what you are doing to him and his wife.
970482
When i first met my husband he was still married to his ex wife.. They had been seperated for about 4 months... I loved him, and he filed for divorce, got custody of the child that they had together, she turned to drugs and got placed in a mental institution... So everything worked out great... We sense then had a child which i now 1yrs old... There is nothing wrong with dating a man that is married as long as he is trying 100% to divorce his wife asap...  And there no longer in contact or sleeping together of etc..
950818
The question is do he talk to you about what his exes want? I would ask questions instead of flaring off at times because if he has not shown you any signs that they are still involve it shouldn't be a problem. Do they have children together? If so that could be the conversation. You two should communicate much more than you do so you will feel more comfortable about the visits. I understand the hurt. First you should go to God for answers to your marriage because He made you two and He knows best for you two. God bless you.
698169
he's acting like that because you are going to be divorced soon and I bet he is married.... just from the way he is reacting, so move on dear - and give yourself time to heal completely before trying to get into another relationship. (you have to resolve all the issues that lead to your failed marriage - if you don't you'll drag that old baggage into another relationship.) If there was anything there you two would of met in person.... you talked for a long time without meeting and that should of told you something about him. (I've only met one man online who wasn't married and he was honest with me about his personal life and that's the man I'm married to! We talked for about 2 months and then we met in person - he helped me with coming to Canada to meet him.... and we "clicked" - and got married 3 months later! We have been married for 4 yrs. as of Sept.28th).... While I was single and chatting with men online for years --- they all turned out to be married or living with someone(with whom they had kids with).
1187760
You should be untitled to everything he has if you are legally married to him and there is no prenuptial legal agreement denying you rights to what he leaves behind.  Then there is the matter of the will,  but remember no matter what the will states, as his legal wife you are intitled to at least half of everything he leaves behind.  If you don't get it contest the will 'if it's worth it'.
573235
I suspect that the two of you were not telling the same story, although you think you are. But this is immaterial. Why listen to advice from other people? If you have both decided that divorce is the best way forward, then this is what you should do. Forget other people's opinions. These just muddy the water. Just be thankful that the two of you have made this decision and can still be friendly towards each other.
684225
Not if they agreed to break up. Cheating implies a degree of dishonesty, of secrecy, or underhandedness. If those things are not present, you don't need to worry. \n\nLook at it from this point of view. people use the word cheating as in cheating ON somebody. But it is more correct to say they are cheating somebody OUT OF something that belongs to them.\n\nIf a couple is married-- which means that they have made promises to one another to be exclusively each others' and nobody else's-- then to give the intimate benefits to a third party cheats the partner out of what is theirs by right of the agreement. If that is not what was intended, I suppose one could call it by a different word, but that is what marriage means, or the word loses its meaning and we have a difficult time talking about it.\n\nThe same holds true in less formal relationships. When two people get engaged, and feel that they have found in each other their "one and only", to give anybody else equal time is to take away from what the partner should have.\n\nIn the case of your sister, I am happy for her that she and her young man got back together. But since they were broken up (apart) for those two months during which she went with someone else, it was not cheating on her part. If they separated with the intention of not having a relationship any more, or if they agreed to just 'be friends', it was not cheating.\n\nIf they just drifted apart, it is possible that the matter was not discussed adequately, and that may be why hurt feeling remain. It is not possible for us to read each others' minds, and by far the best course to take in such a case is forgiveness. This can heal their present and future relationship. \n\nAlso, now that they know they can misunderstand each other in this way, a committment to discussing things beforehand will help to prevent similar problems in the future.\n\nThey must remember that every choice is a choice not only for one option but against all the others. Marriage is serious and should not be indulged in by those who wish to 'try' it or are not ready for the challenge of their lives. The rewards are on the same level of the challenge to which the members of the marriage rise.\n\nI am speaking of the danger of 'emotional cheating'. (I am not saying this has or will happened, but I am throwing this additional bit in, free of charge. You would be surprised at how many people have this problem later.)\n\nBy clearly defining the marriage committment, by discussing things beforehand, AND-- by taking all steps to avoid temptation later-- a couple can find strength and comfort in one another. Many people do not do this becasue it sounds so 'unromantic'.\n\nBetter 'unromantic', than 'unrealistic' and failure in the marriage.\n\nI wish your sister and her intended husband all the best in the world. I only wish that more couples who break up would get back together as they have. I think that they will look back on this in the years to come and it will only draw them closer and closer.
1138670
He is not cheating on you, but it seems like you need to get your act together and understand that he's not with you just for the papers. You are very special to him, and he is just confiding on an old girlfriend with whom he is just friends with.
101073
There are no guarantees.  Look at divorce rate.  Ask yourself if you truly enjoy this person's company.  Do you communicate well?  Is this person insecure/secure?
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
1107418
Ya most of the time the truth does come out,the only thing you can do is day your sorry. Balls in his court then. Me personally depending on what you said. I'd probably dump ya.
82816
Speaking from experience, you're guilty. If he's playing along with all of this, don't waste your time. He's a deadbeat anyway. What would you think if you were his wife?
399663
if the now relation is doomed --walk away.\nbut don't expect miracles!!, like living happyly ever after with eric.\n..live real!!, be well..
691898
One (or both) of them may be leaving the door open for a future reconciliation. The person doing this may not even know that this is the case. When I left my first husband, he said he wasn't going to file since I left him, I was the one with the problem, and there were financial issues as well. This went on for several years. At one stage, I did go back to him, and he dumped his girlfriend like garbage. I am not proud of this, she was a nice girl, but I think I did her a favor since he went on to drugs & crime. After going back & finding out for sure he was wrong for me, I did file for divorce.\n\nThis is NOT to say that this is the case with you. But it could be possible. Maybe she thinks in the back of her mind that he will come back. Financial complications are easily resolved by lawyers, ask him to see one. A married man is a married man, whether he lives with her or not. Neither the law nor time is on your side. Good luck.
343423
Nothing wrong with that, except that people who live together without that "piece of paper" are not entitled to many things that those who do marry are.\n\nDon't rush into anything, though (as I see you are not), you deserve some happiness after all those years of unhappiness.
1134736
You really have to ask! Okay, first answer no. second answer, it depends whether or not the groom is such a git that he deserves to be cheated on like this. and the third answer is, yes, but only if you couldn't give a damn about the sanctity of marriage and you don't care whether it lasts or not.