relationship help...?
368184
He is insecure.  Do you have a lot of guy friends?  I would recommend cutting down the time you spend with them.  If he doesn't calm down, then I would recommend ending the relationship.  You will not be able to change him.  Women like to try to change men because it is a challenge for them.  He has to change onm his own.  Maybe if he loses you he will change his jealous ways...It worked for me when my girlfriend dumped me!  I got the message!
436996
You are in a relationship... don't overthink it, just go with it. Enjoy what you have. Everything is a relationship... you have relationships with coworkers, family, friends.  It's more than just simple dating. And it isn't just a friendship. He cares for you and your daughter, I think that trying to define it will only complicate things. Enjoy what you have.
1103588
sorry girl they are annoying no matter what ya do!!!  sounds like he feels insecure about the relationship, is there anything you can do to make him feel more secure?  Are you providing him with his love language?  ( what ever makes him feel most loved, etc., gifts, words of affirmation, or acts of service?)  if not try something, anything that will help him know you are still in love with him.
130057
My most dificult time is right now upon me ... since I don't know what to do ...\nI've been with my girlfried for a while but things don't go exactely as I think they should (and for some time I thought she and I shared the same conceptions about life and love). She spends more and more time with a friend of hers (also a girl) and she's beginning to borrow this other girl's habits and views, views which stain my (which I thought was our) ideal of love, turning into some daily cheap thing. Realizing this kinda hurts but I'm not sure if I am entitled to tell her what to do or just let her go on the path she seems to be choosing.
162982
Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck
335603
I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
38183
Talk to him and tell him it's not working out.  Try to be cordial and just get it over with.  Dragging out the relationship is just going to make the break-up more difficult and painful when it finally does happen.
820765
just be there for him. maybe he thinks that it's just best to stay with the  g/f that treats him poorly (we, as guys, aren't all that bright sometimes). seems that there aren't a lot of good women out there these days. show him that you are one. DON'T ask him out yet. wait and see what happens with the relationship. if it DOES end, then there's your oppertunity. if it doesn't, then he probably lost out on a pretty good thing..............
193717
Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
425436
be completely honest with him...it helps you guys to understand each other and now each others mind...he really really helps..trust me...especially telling him when he does something you don't like...it really tightens the bond
309331
Talk to her and have her open up and tell you whats been going on. Tell her your feels. Be open, no secrets, that is the key to relationships.
1050585
I have been in your situation before. To keep things settle and not push him away, it will be best to leave things as they are and let time change his mind. Let each day go by and then he can realize the true you, well i am not saying that you are not being true, but he will realize that you are not out to harm him in anyways and the same for you from him. I know it will be hard not to mention it at times, but a man doesn't want to feel rushed into things like "commitment". Some are just terrified of it. Continue to have an open communication level with him so he knows that he can trust you. Good luck...and hang in there.
821927
Stop playing around, obviously the signals are getting mixed.  Stop driving yourself crazy and simply ask what's up!!!  It's better to know so you can move forward with the relationship or move on.
474622
you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
717700
you need to comfront him/her about it. you dont have to acuse them of anything, you just need to ask. if your relationship is strong enough it will all work out.
506695
Try to remember that he has a life as well as you do. If you want to see him more often, talk to him about it. I don't know the specifics on your relationship, but communication will help you figure it all out. Remember to listen to each other.
52826
There is no way you can get around not hurting him.  It is going to happen.  Sorry!  Just be honest and talk with eachother.  I'm sure you are grown and can handle the situation.  Best of Luck to you!