Is my husband being too sensitive or am I just being a jerk?
366747
Yes, you're like me and I married a younger man too.  But the age thing we've learned to make a joke of now - we were 29 and 31 when we met, so perhaps age has something to do with the way we handled it.\n\nI still refer to him as my toy boy sometimes, and tell him ke's got to keep fit in order to push me round in my wheelchair.\n\nGirls mature faster than boys, and I just think he has a little catching up to do.  But don't tell him that, whatever you do! ;-)
199802
Was your husband serious? Either way, this is a major issue. If it was a joke it was in serious bad taste and you need to tell him that. If he was serious, you need to tell him that you're not chattle! If it was a test, tell him to go to hell! If you want to save this marriage, I recomend counceling and getting to the bottom of this. If not, say good bye.
459359
no its not a bad thing to make him cry that means hes human and is not a hard core asshole. maybe it was that you were quiet and your usually not that shocked him or it was that you told him that he has you forever and always men are so hard to read i have been married for 9 years and i can honestly say he says that i am ignoring him but i not his thing is he thinks i am pissed off all the time and i'm not i have 3 kids so when they go to bed i am done talking. i think your ok and just be open and honest with him and you guys should be fine
574689
not sure how to answer you sounds like you are married to a jerk. He would probably leave you if you did the same thing. Get out and get a life
701145
Since your husband seems to like living his life by a schedule, ask him to start scheduling time for YOU! ... Like maybe a 'household business meeting' once a week, a 'social hour' a few times a few times a week, AND ... don't leave out scheduling romance.\n\nWhen married people expect communication, caring, and romance to "just happen" or "be spontaneous" ... that is a recipe for NO communication, caring, or romance. These things happen when you plan for them and make them happen. \n\nDoes a great dinner appear on the table spontaneously? Of course not, you have to plan the menu, plan the shopping. Just give him a day-planner or calendar and ask him to go over his schedule with you. Point out (nicely, without nagging) that he isn't scheduling any time for his marital responsibilities.
931545
Your husband needs to grow up and be more considerate. If you are doing the chores, you dictate the indoor temperature. If you get too warm, you'll become fatigued more quickly and perhaps dehydrated. \n\nSounds like you're stuck with an inconsiderate jerk who probably has an online addiction.
638099
Some jitters and questioning are normal and I do not think you are over the top on that. There are things you may want to change about yourself by not nagging as much. All men are moody and only you know if you will be happier with him. The mother in law issue could bring real unhappiness and she is way over the top. I have to ask myself why he would tolerate her screaming at you. You are marrying a family as well as your husband.
60528
Learn to be patient. If you are not married yet, I would suggest you to leave him. I know it is awful living with an inconsiderate man. But I honor marriage and think people should try their best to stay in their marriage in better or worse. So please learn to accept him the way he is. Anyway, it's your life and your decision. I won't respect you less if you decide to leave him. Wish you the best.
997524
Yes, you have successfully overanalyzed this.  My husband always sounds horribly angry when I call him.  He isn't.  And most of the time he is glad I called (unless it was to nag him about something)  He has never been great at talking on the phone.  Some guys just don't know what to say to a voice on the other end of the reciever, despite that its their girlfriend, wife, mom, or Jesus himself on the other end.  And that's fine.  Relax.  You'll be fine.
715749
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
114620
You need to tell your husband exactly what you posted here in a nice non-confrontational way because when we need some empathy they are thinking about ways to fix whatever is bothering you. Or they are trying to let you know they feel you are wrong in your thinking and how to fix that.\n\nHonestly they just don't know, they just want to fix it for you.\n\nMy husband did that and I told him, I don't need judgement, or for you to fix this. I need you to just listen and even if I say something totally irrational I need you to agree and just let me vent. If I need you to help me fix a problem or a need a solution I will ask you that, but right now I just need you to be supportive.\n\nAfter I told him that he has been very empathetic, and a wonderful support system in everything! :D
1089211
No, I don't think it is a turn off.  It is just your own natural reaction to what is going on at the time.  It doesn't mean you are weak, or that your wife stronger simply because she doesn't cry.  You both just react differently to a situation.
553456
I think you are really sweet! Jeez, I wish my guy was that sensitive. I am betting she loves you the way you are, and I wouldn't really change anything. Just tell her what you told us about what is in your heart!!
799745
maybe your hubby's just have an immature behavior.. i guess he's a also a loner who has his own world.. many men are like that by the way.
1124108
It is obvious you are just trying to p i s s your husband off. Have fun with that.
341549
I think perhaps you are being to patient.  You should be more "Assertive" not necessarily agressive.  Put him on the spot and don't leave his office until you start to get some sort of resolution to your problem.  If he needs to get info/approval from other departments for certain things make him do it IN FRONT of you, that way you know it is happening.