My parents are extremly hompphobic so how do I tell them that I am gay?
362005
I have a son and if he came to me and told me that he way gay, I would definitly be shocked and surprised. However, I love my child no matter what. If he is in a loving and caring relationship and is being treated well, then I would get over it and accept it. A parent generally loves their children no matter what. If they do not accept it, than that is their problem. Good luck to you.
571393
TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
127533
ask them.  be respectful.  have trust with your parents. and most importantly dont ask to go to something you know for a fact they wont let you.
1169991
Well you shouldn't feel uncomfortable, (but most guys are homophobic) Just tell them nicely that you are not interested or that you have a girlfriend. They will get the point, no need to bash on them. Respect others that are different from you.
1140727
just don't tell them I told you.  They'll strap me down and torture me if they find out I told.\n\nIt's a J*(&*^^%&(*#@&* ARHGHHH  HELP!   THEY'RE DRAGGING ME AWAY!!!!  DON'T LET THEM HURT ME!
838566
Wait until it gets serious. And when you do tell your parents, make sure you tell them BEFORE he shows up for dinner.\n\nJust call you parents and arrange to have lunch with them. Tell them you have something important to share with them.
594692
If you're a teenager, tell them and let them deal with it. It's not like they have that much control over your anymore (or, if they do, it's not healthy). If you're preteen, you probably shouldn't be going on a date, but just tell your parents your going out with a friend, and make sure they thing you're just their innocent child.\n\nJust as parents like to "put their children in place", parents also occasionally need to be reminded of what their proper place is. If you can't honestly tell your parents that you are dating, you will have a really poor relationship with your parents. And just immagine telling them you're getting married or are having a kid.\n\nBe honest and if they have a problem with it, that is their problem. But don't make it a bombshell like, (as said from a 14 year old boy) "Dad, you remember my best friend Mike? He's not really my best friend. We've been meeting up for gay orgies for the past 4 years. Oh, and I used your icepick to give myself a Prince Albert."
1046624
I would NOT tell your friends about this.  You are only 15 and there is nothing wrong with being bi at all.  BUT your friends may turn into morons and tell everyone on the planet including your parents and it could make things awful for you!  Keep this to yourself for awhile!
808056
I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
332296
tell them your gay. or tell them you got your gf pregnant.
1058110
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
329606
Look for support before you come out, so you don't find yourself totally isolated. Also, you can get ideas from others who've been in a similar situation, and be ready to address any concerns that your parents have.\n\nWhile I hope for the best for you when you come out to your parents, I'm sure you know that this can't be assured.\n\nSupport groups include Affirmation, a group for gay mormons: http://www.affirmation.org/ . Also, get in contact with your local PFLAG chapter. If you live in an area with many mormons, it's probable that there are others in your area who've had similar challenges.\n\nBest wishes to you.
152739
Coming out to your parents can be a tricky thing…especially if you’re going to be living with them.   I have heard stories of parents crying, and others where the parents think it’s no big deal, and of course others where the parents already knew.\n\nI should say that the only people I personally know whose parents freaked out were hardcore Mormons from Utah. So unless your parents are fanatically religious or have expressed deep homophobic statements in the past, you should be OK.  I even have a friend in Orange County whose dad is a Baptist pastor, and his parents still love him and spend time with him -- in fact I think they still pay his rent!\n\nRegardless of if you move back home or not, you should eventually come out.  You will feel a lot better about yourself and will probably find that you are closer to your friends and family than ever before.  People who remain closeted for too long can experience depression, and you are too young and the world is full of too many cool things for that.  There are plenty of books on coming out, as well as some good movies.  If you have Netflix, they have a lot of them, too.\n\nAs for juliart’s answer, she needs to STOP answering gay-related questions, because she does not know what she is talking about.  She regards homosexuality as perverse and lustful, and thinks people can simply decide not to be gay.  Even though she says otherwise, she is in fact being judgmental – in one of her responses she told an 18 year old gay college student, “What a waste of a perfectly good man.”  Being gay is not a choice – true some people have chosen to repress it, but it is ultimately very destructive to them.  My friend’s uncle chose to repress his sexuality and got married and had three kids.  He ended up committing suicide in the bathroom while his daughter was just a few feet away.  People like juliart need to realize that the way they feel attracted to people of the opposite sex, is the same way gay men and women feel about people of the same sex.  And it’s not just about sexual attraction, most gay men I know will tell you that emotionally they are attracted to men, too.  Gay men and women feel love the same way straight men and women do.  You cannot repress this.\n\nFinally, I have to touch on another thing juliart wrote.  She asks if he is gay because he is “just going with whatever is popular…”  Wow, what an insensitive and incredibly naïve statement.  I know a lot of religious conservatives think that gay portrayals in the media are now making more people gay, but this is ridiculous.  Most of our society, however, has realized that it is destructive to ask people to repress their identities, and have become more accepting.  So there is not a higher percentage of gay people than there were in the past, there are just more who feel comfortable and accepted enough to be open about it.
905111
Of course you are scared--you have every right to be especially when so much hatred is directed toward gays and lesbians in this society.  \n\nFirst, I suggest you visit the PFLAG site and see if you can go to some meetings at your local chapter (I'll provide the link below).  Next, before disclosing, be sure that you have social and economic support--it is, unfortunately, not unusual for some families to respond by kicking out the child from their home.  Third, make sure you choose a time that will not be interrupted and is private.  Talk to them frankly and honestly.  Lastly, this may or may not be a shock to them; however, they will need time to adjust to the news--you've been struggling with the issue for a while before disclosure, they will  need time to process the information.  I suggest that they get support from PFLAG, too, if they want it.\n\nAll the best to you.
1017882
First off, don't listen to that Big B guy... he is obviously some ignorant nut, thinking he can scare people into behaving in a way he finds appropriate, and he doesn't mind lying to accomplish this. Homosexual sex does not cause AIDS. A virus does. If neither person has the virus, neither person will suddenly get the virus just because the two people have sex. Big B, shame on you for spreading your lies here.\n\nAs to talking with your parents, the safest thing to do, if you think they would react badly, is to not tell them until you are out of the house and able to support yourself... whether that be after high school, after college, etc. That way, they can't do too much that would negatively impact your life, apart from in the emotional sense. (This is what I did.)\n\nHopefully, though, you have a good relationship with your parents, and can talk about this eventually. You might start out by testing the waters a little... mention a news story about Pride Week (which just ended) or something about gay people in the news, and see what sort of reaction you get. Ask them what they think about gay marriage... something like that. All without mentioning anything about yourself personally.\n\nThen, if things look favorable, you can work into talking about yourself.\n\nGood luck to you... I know this is a difficult time.
117821
Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
1132901
Just be open and honest and with them and remember to be patient with them.  Even if they dont agree with you sexuality remember their still your parents and they still love you.  Here's a link to PFLAG's website, you can contact them through that and they're really goat providing support for you and your parents.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/