working parents have problem children?
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i agree with this. my dad works at the hospitable and is usually not home until 7:00
244213
Our priority's need to be on the home again. Not money. Parents need to be accountable for the behaviors their children demonistrate. Train them, raise them up in the way you want them to go. We all need to stop being so materilistic, and then surprised when our children act out. They are ashmed of their parents and their behaviors. So they rebel.\n\nOpen a dialog with your kids..... it is us aginest them not kids aginst their family.
213129
If the kids are not:\nlearning\nbeing TAUGHT \nor\nare being worked or ignored rather than educated\nparents are abusive\nkids are in trouble
587506
If they are only good for arguing fire their sorry a$$es and find some new parents. Better yet get a job, move out on your own and support yourself.
990162
You may have made mistakes, sometimes critically important mistakes, that wounded your children in some way. Most parents, even under the best conditions, will make such a mistake at least once during their childrens' lives. \n\nHowever, your children are middle-aged now; they need to own whatever happened to them, accept that what is done is done, heal their wounds the best they can, and take responsibility for providing themselves and their children with a better life than perhaps you were able to provide for them when they were small.\n\nYou need to tell them that if they expect to have any happiness or success in their lives at all, they have to quit blaming you and start taking responsibility for their own lives now. There's nothing you can do to undo whatever hurt they experienced as children; but there is also nothing you can do to undo whatever hurt they're experiencing in their adult lives...because it's NOT your job. If they expect to have any happiness in their lives at all, they're going to have to work on themselves and do what they need to do for themselves to have a better life.\n\nUntil then, ignore their accusations. They are just guilting you to take the spotlight off their own failures as adults to cope.
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Parents without Partners
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If there is no sign of abuse, and the children are being fed and taken care of, then it is possible that one or both of the parents are "messies". This is an ADD-like condition in which people are seemingly incapable of cleaning their surroundings, because they have serious organizational problems. This is an actual disorder. There is even an Messies Anonymous organization. However, this doesn't make the kids' lives any easier. They'll still suffer from the stigma of living in a rat's nest, even though it's not their fault. \n\nIt's hard to say what to do in this case. If the children are fed and not abused, there may not be anything that you can really do for them.\n\nHere is one website among many for messies who are trying to recover. Notice that one of the greatest fears among these people are having their children taken away, which is something that could realistically happen if the wrong governmental worker comes around:\n\nhttp://www.squalorsurvivors.com/index.shtml
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maybe terorists  parents
924537
Heck no!\n\nParents aren't parenting well if that's the case.\n\nJust do the right thing and ignore the parents in this case.
277960
I would have to contribute this partly to the parents.  These days, parents are not as involved in their children's education as they once were.  Also, there is a growing number of parents who condone WHATEVER it is that their child is doing (even if it is the wrong thing).  The parents will always come to the child's defense and blame everyone else.  Additionally, there is a lack of discipline in the homes because parents are afraid to firmly (spanking) discipline their children because of legal retort.  And last, I will have to say that the government is doing very little to support educators (teachers and instructors).
517280
It's good you recognize a problem.  Call your local health department and see if you can get a referral for a parenting class.  A parenting class can teach you stress reduction techniques and give you better tools for managing yourself and your child.  If your job offers health benefits, you might get a referral through your health care provider.  Make that phone call first thing tomorrow morning, okay?
1089720
Who is the boss ?  YOU ARE.  Dont let them rule your life.  Let them know there are consequences for not doing as they are told.  Toys that dont get picked up, get thrown in the trash and make them put them there.  I bet things will change then.  Discipline is key and children need and crave it.  Schedules are important.  There should NEVER be an argument with your children especially at this age.  What YOU say goes.........Get strong.  Good luck.
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I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.
911071
Police work is different from parenthood.  Policemen are in danger of violent reaction from persons that they apprehend unlike parents or teachers wherein the children do not usually react to punishments.
992487
It depends on why they are troublemakers.  Is it a discipline problem, is there a problem with their home life, or do they have special needs?  If it is discipline, they need stricter guidance.  If there are home problems, they need counseling.  If they have special needs, they should have them addressed.
411520
The job is not as important of a factor as what kind of parent they are.  I know messed up military kids because the parents hate the schools and pull them out to homeschool everywhere they live, and I know some well-adjusted disciplined military kids.  I know of similar situations with civilian parents also.
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You can never say, unless you know the mothers involved.\n\nSay the Working Mom is lazy.  Goes to work, yes.  Comes home, does not cook or clean for her child.  The child gets what it wants just so the mother can have peace and quiet.  It stays up late and falls to sleep whenever.  She constantly forgets to wake him up for the bus and has to take him to school, come home, rush to get ready for work and looks a slob all day.  Their values are self first in everything, get what you want, others don't matter.\n\nSay the Working Mom is industrious and clean.  Cooks dinner every nite and makes sure Timmy does his homework, takes his bath and goes to bed on time and behaves.  She gets him up in time for school, gets herself ready for work and is never late, looking great.  Values would be, think of others, be responsible (be on time, think of others, dress nice for them, don't rush, start early), your actions count, put your best foot forward, etc.\n\n\nSo, just because 2 working moms (are working) doesn't mean negative things can't be attached to one.  The same thing is true with the Stay-at-home Mom, she can either do a good job as a wife and mother or NOT!