I have 4 guys who want to take me out but all four have defects but should I just go out anyway?
374755
it depends upon what kind of defects. mental defects, physical defects or just some flaws in their personality? be more precise please about their defects
33883
They may feel bad later on, but I doubt you will ever know it. Unless they end up in a 12 step program and decide to make ammends. I have been hurt a dozen times and never had an apology. What I have done is remember to keep my side of the street clean and learn from my mistakes. The right guy will come along, but you need to be in the right space to deal with him. That means taking care of yourself and not being to co-dependent, not to mention, guys will have more respect for you if you keep your independance and don't let them walk all over you. I had to learn this the hard way! Good luck.
468485
That's kind of a question you need to answer yourself. But I can give you some advice. What you need to do is sit down and think. Get three separate pieces of paper and write down all of the good things/moments about each guy and see which one has the most. Don't end it at that though. Think it through and see which guy you would be better off with. Who cares what your friends think? The decision is up to you. Whichever guy you pick, tell the other guys you're sorry and you think __________ is the best for you. They will eventually move on and get a separate life. I hope my advice works out for you and good luck. -Cody
473594
I think if he really wanted to go out with you, he would do it.  Even if guys leave the door open, they are still stringing you along.  Sometimes they like to have options.  Jump on that friendship train and then date someone else.  If he really wants ya, he will tell you when you are inevitably with someone else.
1085253
Why don't you go out with you man with his friends. You can find this out for yourself. Or ask were he's going then show up unexpectly. Or on the other can, why can't you just trust him that he's doing the right thing. Good luck hun
764106
Some guys want to tap the town ho but they don't want to be seen with someone every other guy may have had, too. Not saying this is what you are, but it's the mentality of some guys if something comes easy. It seems like he is already on his next conquest. He may contact you for a booty call down the road, but you need to decide if that's all you want from him. Move on dear, you are calling the shots with guys, remember. You have what they want.
622565
Don't put all men in the same class.  Not ALL of them are scum-sucking maggots.  Above all DON'T PLAY THEM!  Let you be you, the real you, and you'll and might just get lucky and catch that one-in-a-million guy.  Don't try to be dominant.  But then again, it is wise to guard up.
1153839
u don deserve any of them. \nmayb u shud try getting a girl who has 6 other boyfriends.\nprobably then u'd get an answer to ur question.
294873
That is definitey wrong.  If you want an exclusive boyfriend then you have to be mature enough to make a decision that you are ready to be with "one person".  Sounds to me like you're still unsure of yourself and maybe afraid of being alone, but if you keep playing around with 3 guys, behind their backs, it's gonna hurt a lot worse than not having a boyfriend at all.  Maybe you should reconsider whether or not you are ready to commit to one person?
907281
all 4 of those guys have good value i wouldnt just give them away by dropping them, try a two for one if you really need to get rid of some guys.
201799
Nothing's the matter with you. Don't rush it and don't lower your standards! He will come along, just be patient and don't give up looking. Have some fun in the meantime so you don't get bored, but never settle for second best.
1160368
Hon, what you have to do is search 'em out, and take matters into your own hands. BUT---once they have agreed to go on a date with you...remember to revert back to "you're the one who wants ME" role. At least until you get the results you're looking for.  Hope I was a little help to ya....good luck!:)
791731
he is so not worth going after.. he probably doesnt have any money with him to take you out... but still that is no excuse for not showing up to see you... a nice guy who really loves you will take you out and meet you anywhere *food or no food* and he will love you until the world ends... you will be treated like a queen put on the highest pedestal... next time you see the guy who didnt meet up with you... tell him next time he wants to meet up with you , you will have another guy on your arm... (like the guy i described above...
1146260
Sweetie, you are suffereing from the "I am worthless" syndrome. Get over it NOW! You are the same person you always were, have the same merits and weaknesses, the same love for others locked inside. One bad relationship does not mean you will have another. IF what you want from a date is a quickie, go for it. IF you are looking for something more, wait until you have your ego and self-worth back together. We all have been there, but ... unfortunately, I have found that being asked to go to bed is NOT a compliment, it is just what it is...the same guys who want to bed you down will go down a line to the first who says "yes." It is amusing to watch it in bars...Try watching and laughing. You will get a great sense of perspective. The best of luck to you...nothing in you has changed.
298960
Wow. Looks like you have your hands full. You should let someone go before someone gets hurt if none of these guys know about each other.
354095
If you chose to go out with him that is your choice. However know that you might get hurt. Go into it knowing what your expectations are and let him know and do not expect more out of him then you think you can handle.\nI think it would be much easier to be with someone you can trust though that is just my opinion
1136631
Don't go after anyone. Let them come to you. There's no reason why you shouldn't go on out with other people now since you weren't in a serious relationship.At least go out and have fun.