What do do with a confused husband????
373901
Look I went through the same thing with my ex wife ....I started to realize it wasn't any thing I could do.... Cause it wasn't just up to me it was up to her too.....You can only carry some one for so long before you end up being the same person....I know it will be hard but maybe it is time to move on ....Don't be anybodies fool... You need to start a life that gives you some comfort and happiness..Sounds like you need it....And I know you have a child ,but wouldn't you rather have you child have all the love he/she could get from you ? Rather than you being so worried about what your husband is doing late at night.When you woory about what your husband is doing you take away the focus your child needs .... Hope that helps a little\nEXPLAYA here
440039
emotionally dilemma for him..\n\nget a grip and don't rush things...let him settle his matters with his wife first...before you proceed with your relationship..
277007
Go to a local marriage counselor.  Do it before the marriage is really in trouble.  Or there may be psychological problems that can not be fixed.  It is great you know he loves you.  Good luck
611903
How about setting some time aside just for discussion. Ask him about the things you don't understand, give him a chance to explain thoroughly his attitudes and thoughts on as many subjects as you would like. Do this a couple of times a week until you feel comfortable with your feelings and understand. Do the same for him because chances are he doesn't understand some things about us African American women either.
1036749
Do what he wants and make him to think of you first, slowly he will be understanding what u r, what u like, What u expect from him.\nThe normal man always want to provide all the things to his wife but forgets to understand her which creates problems....\nDon't Worry, Cheer UP, Every thing will be fine. Be BOLD For your thoughts in matters of Mutual Understanding.
483757
Always talk to him. If you keep things inside and dont resolve, it might create misunderstandings. Be sure to listen to him to and to think positively together
598142
OKAY GIRL, OVER SHARE!!!! I MEAN REALLY.  OKAY, NO.  BUT EVEN IF HE WOULD, SWEETIE THAT WOULD SERIOUSLY STAY BETWEEN US.  HOWEVER, IF YOU'RE LIKE FREAKED OUT ABOUT IT AND YOU WANT TO PLEASE HIM, BUT YOU'RE NOT SURE IF THAT'S JUST DISGUSTING, ALL I GOTTA SAY IS TO EACH THEIR OWN.\n\nYOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO AND WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING.  IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE, THEN YOU LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW THAT YOU AIN'T GONNA GET DOWN LIKE THAT YOU HEAR?  YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO SH*T YOU DON'T WANT TO, I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE MARRIED!
974904
Dear,\nPlease do not ever work on guess and doubt when it comes the relationship with your husband. \nThe more improtant is his love with you...if it is intact.....do not spoil yourself in doubt...\n\nBut still if you have some strong proofs to prove it, talk to him very openly. Tell him why you doubt and let him to clearify himself also........make a open debate....do not hide any thing.....\n\nAnd if you feel...one day he will betray you...\nLEAVE HIM NOW.......show him women are not weak......
147616
BEING LOST.....or......BEING A HUSBAND!
862135
Sweetheart...not sure why you titled this bi-polar husband...but your husband IS physically, verbally and emotionally abusing you and you need to get out NOW.  If he is bi-polar he can see a doctor and get on medication and then if you still want, the two of you can work on your marriage.  But for now...you need to leave...you are not helping either of you.  GBU
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
933587
If he's not into it, you don't want to keep throwing questions at him. I assume you want to save your marriage, right? You have to remind him of how things used to be, what changed from the day you got married? What can you do to reignite those fires? What about your 4 year old? Wasn't bringing a new life into the world a beautiful time in your relationship? But he has to be willing to work on things too, and for him to just come out and say I don't love you anymore, that's total bs, nobody just falls out of love! You have to sit down and talk to him about this, but first you have to convince him that a talk will help clear the air about everything. Have an Amnesty Hour and get everything off of your chest, both of you, not just him. Then try to work through everything, please don't give up, do it for your baby. But if you can't work it out, don't put the child through an abusive relationship where nobody loves anybody. You just try your hardest and do what's best for you and that baby.
745508
follow your heart but communcate that with your husband...and for god sake stop worrying about this stuff and consummate the marriage..its been long enough and im sure hes irritated.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
944403
Tell him to stay put.  \n\nSee if you can get you and the kids on an even keel. See if he can get on an even keel.  \n\nIf he can call, come by, treat you guys with respect, maintain his job, his car and his home, his bank account, and take the kids sometimes to give you a break, then you might have something.  \n\nPay attention to his decision making skills.  Can the man make a decision and stick with it or is he all over the board?  \n\nDate for awhile.    DON'T let him sleep over at your house, unless you want your kids totally confused.  Give yourself enough space to objectively evaluate his behaviors.  Then decide if this is a healthy, loving, family relationship for everyone involved.
958487
ummm..leave him.   you needed an asnwer to that?!?!?!?!
903717
If you feel uncertain, then ask him. If he says he loves you then take it at that and don't look so deep into things.  Constantly questioning a mans love shows insecurity and that can push them away. I am 27 have been married for 7 years tomorrow and have 3 kids with the same man and I have gone thru my insecurities and I have learned FINALLY to be secure with myself and not only to I turn my husbands head ALL the time, but others as well....Confidence can be the best strength a person has!