my husband was stabbed by anAids and Hepititus infected homeless person.Please tell me how to handle this?
371280
I'm very sorry to hear this and I will be praying for you and your husband. \n\nThe only advise I can give is from God's Word because He has all the power to help you.  Here are some scriptures for you that have helped me, and are helping me, with my faith and trust in the Lord.\n\n"Therefore, since we have been justified through faith we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand.  And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.  Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perserverance, perserverance, character, and character, hope.  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us." Romans 5:1-5 NIV\n\n"So do not throw away your confidene; it will be richly rewarded.  You need to perservere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised."  Hebrews 10:35-36 NIV\n\n"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.  This is what the ancients were commended for...all these people were still living by faith when they died.  They did not receive the things promised; they only say them and welcomed them from a distance.  And they admited that they were aliens and strangers on earth.  People who say such things show that they are looking for a country of their own.  If they had been thinking of the country they had left, they would have had opportunity to return.  Instead, they were longing for a better country-a heavenly one.  Therefore, God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared a city for them." Hebrews 11:1-12, 13-16 NIV\n\n"Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on teh tablet of your heart.  Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.  Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."  Proverbs 3:3-6 NIV\n\n"I remember my affliction and my wandering, the bitterness and the gall.  I well remember them, and my sould is downcast within me.  Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.  I say to myself, "The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him."  The Lord is good to thoe whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him." Lamentations 3:19-25 NIV\n\n"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade-kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God's power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in teh last time.  In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.  These have come so that your faith-of greather worththan gold, which perishes even though refined by fire-may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed." 1 Peter 1:3-7 NIV\n\n\nStay faithful my sister in Christ.  God bless.
540961
Been there and done that...not fun!  I feel for you but you have to be strong enough to GET OUT!  I had family and friends to help me out behind his back.  I planned carefully because he was smart and inquisitive, very controlling.  Get mad and smart too!  Figure out his work schedule and get it all done in a short amount of time.  Get a restraining order against him before you go so that you are somewhat protected when you leave.  Go somewhere safe where someone is with you all the time and has speed dial.  Get a plan B so that if this is not an option you have somewhere else to go.  Don't make him mad.  Above all don't let him see you are nervous.  Keep him calm and level headed until you pull it off.  Don't change your routine or compromise yourself.  Be sure to delete all "help" calls off the phone and alert the police of what you are about to do and the day and time.  You can also have the police escort you out once they know the situation if you need to do it that way.  My prayers go out with you!
569201
yes, worry about it - better safe than sorry. keep your eyes open, if you live with a room mate/boyfriend/family, tell them what happened. if i were you i would be keeping a baseball bat handy at home. if you have some mace, start carrying that in your purse.\n\nif someone follows you like that again, DO NOT GO HOME. keep driving, try to shake him off. try to read his license plate as you're driving and memorize it. if you can't lose him, drive to the nearest police department or police barracks. if he follows you into the parking lot, go inside and have a chat with the police.
189201
there is not enough info to this question.It almost sounds like someone defending themselves.Is the man married?does he have a wife that is up at night praying he comes home safe?does he have children who are without their father?If so he needs to turn to them for hes escape.god knows the men aren't the only ones suffering from this tragedy.My heart goes out to all sides of this nightmare.I couldn't judge him but in his wife's shoes...its different.
521472
Really sweet of U bubbly... Gosh.. I wish I had friends like U!! May his family possess all the strength they caould muster...I dont trust in God, but I hope ur friends do recover from this ordeal of theirs.. And Hope is a strong feeling.. Hope, I will.. \nKeep me posted about their condition, if u dont mind please @ y4yogi_dilboy@yahoo.co.uk   \nGood Luck dear...
648579
Your husband has a good chance of going for a night or two and maybe having a hefty fine too.  It doesn't matter that your husband was hit with a rock first, it is still assault because self defense can not be claimed if you retaliate with more force than is necessary to defend yourself.  Your neighbor will face legal action too though.  If you and your neighbor mutually agree to drop charges then you will both walk away with no action, but chances are that he won't drop charges if you and your husband are wishing to press charges against him... it is a sad fact of how our legal system works.  I can honestly say I would have done the same thing in your husband's shoes, but I'm sorry to bring you this unfortunate reality.
443969
Did you ever hear of the story of the theif who got stuck in the restaurant oven hood for robbery and later sued the establishment and won. Your best bet is to avoid personal injury. Get as much information about the assailant and follow protocol.Give as much information you can about this guy to the police. If he turns on you then you have the right to defend yourself.
788470
Tippy, the only way you are going to be able to deal with this is to forget it.  When you start remembering, stop.  Imagine something brings a smile to your face.  It's not wrong to stay with a man that you love, even if he's cheated.  But honey, it's your mental health that is taking the punishment.  You are going to have to forgive and forget to make it.  It's not easy and it's not going to happen over night.  I am sorry, your heart breaking is got to stop before it completly breaks.  \n\nDoes your husband help you?  What I mean has he ask for forgiveness?  Does he show you emotional support?  Honey, you need for him to help you with this.  Believe it or not, you need him to help heal from this wound.  He needs to be more loving, and shows that he cares that he hurt you.  If he's just blowing it off, like it happen-get over it-then you may never be able to fully forgive him and stop the tears.  He's the kleenex, he's the one that needs to wipe them away with his love.  \n\nHoney, you must remove the images, clean out all the thoughts of them together.  You are grieving in a sense, you have been betrayed, and it's like part of you has died.  It hurts, and it's so hard, but it can be done.  If you want to save your marriage, you are going to have too!  Your husband may have be so wrong, but now it's your turn to make sure you don't make it worse.  If you feel the tears coming on-focus on something else. Anything, but that.  When you start, or catch yourself thinking remember this...it's in the past and today's a new day, each day it will get less and less.  Your husband has got to do his part sweetie.  You can't make a marriage by yourself,  No matter how much you love him, unless you are going to be a silent wife, and just let him do what he wants when he wants.  You deserve so much more than that.  You deserve to be loved and respected, it's your choice your decision rather to forgive, and if this is what you want to do, you must not dwell on it any longer.  Kick yourself in the butt, if you have too.  I am so very sorry, no one should have their heart broken like this, but you aren't alone, and many marriages have become stronger from living thru what you are going through right now.  So, please dry those tears, take a deep breath, and remember it's all your choice how you deal with it.\nPraying that your heart mends, and the memories are forgotten, and that you have the strength to know you are worth true love and respect from the one you GAVE your heart to.  \n\nGod bless us all............
379265
Try to get him some help, hes been traumatized by that event and doesn't know how to express that. Good luck to you guys!!
1115615
Lisa, this is a truly selfless act of generosity, but you cannot help this individual. He has got to have professional help. If he id denying professional help then he is not truly ready to kick the habit. He needs other medications besides the ones you listed above. All of those are not gonna help him with the intense withdrawals he is going to experience. All those meds he is on are gonna do is keep him sedated and groggy. I have no addictions, but I was given everything you listed above for insomnia. Now, insomnia and heroin withdrawals are a whole heck of alot different. Has he ever tried to get on methadone therapy? I am frightened that you are in a situation that is gonna backfire on you. If his last "fix" was this morning he has not even started experiencing the absolute worst yet. You called him an aquaintance. Right? Well, you need to remove yourself from being SO involved in the scenario. Really, for your safety. I have never experienced knowing anyone with a  heroin addiction, but I have been close to friends and family who have had alcoholism, pill addiction......and I'd never put me, my family or my belongings at risk again, especially when there are free or low cost clinics available to these people. If this man decides to go get another fix he is going to, no matter what you say. If he doesn't have money he will steal whatever he can from you. It doesn't matter how serious he is about quitting. When the wothdrawals and pain start to set in he is going to want that feeling to end and the only way it is going to end is another fix. If you truly want to help then talk him into going for professional help. Get yourself out of the situation. It is seriously so nice and thoughtful of you to want to help this man, but this addiction is bigger than anything you, me or most people could even fathom. This is going to totally disrupt your entire life if you do not get him out of your house. Love yourself. Don't put yourself in the position to get hurt and that is exactly what you are doing if you allow this "aquaintance" to stay with you. Remember this, too: an addict will lie to anyone and tell you exactly what you want to hear and turn right around and rob and steal you blind. The drugs have ripped away any conscience that these users once had. God bless you for trying, but this is way bigger than you are.
782772
I am not sure on the legalities but if I were you I would take those things you need and go someplace he can not find you for a couple of days. Remember the worse time to be hurt badly or even murdered is the end of a relationship. Make sure the things you are trying to keep don't get you killed. There are shelters and such to help you just call your women's help division of the state. If you can not get help call the women's YWCA but get out of the paces he can find you until you can properly gage his anger and limitations. If you have children do it for them you must live thru this to even have property to worry about. Be safe and good luck hon.
516870
Whatever bit him it was nasty. Since there is no anti-venom it really doesn't matter. Get your brother in law to see a doc asap. He's unlikely to die of a bite but secondary infections could be lethal. More likely the longer he goes without treating it the more scarring and other possible damage that can be done.
738907
With a moment of silence and think about what might have been had he been allowed to live.  Then commit yourself to doing something worthwhile for your fellow man tomorrow on Thanksgiving instead of just feeding your face.  If you live in a town with a military base, it can be something as simple as having a serviceman share your Thanksgiving dinner.
1182277
I feel bad for your situation. What most people don't realize is how many people are in this same situation. There are millions of people in jails, that eventually get out and want to be a productive citizen of our society.  I believe it is wrong not to forgive a person, if they have paid their debt to society.  Isn't that what the bible says! Jesus died for us to forgive our sins.  I only hope your faith stays strong during this trying time and support your husband in this time of need.
317977
don't worry about stuff like that until you know for sure, my husband is infantry and he has lost 8 guys with about 12 seriously wounded, if i was scared all day long, i would be crazy by the time he came home, plus, i have been there, not infantry but transportation, and i can picture his day to day life right now, so it is hard, but hang on, he will be home soon.  Also, I deal with it this way, if my husband does not make it home,  i know he was doing something he thought was right and wanted to be there and i would honor him for that.   go to the department of defense website, they list causalties. the address is dod.gov/releases/
389309
FIRST LET ME START OFF BY SAYING THAT I'M SORRY THAT THIS IS HAPPENING TO YOU. NOW EVERYONE IS TELLING YOU TO LEAVE HIM. IT'S EASIER TO SAY THAN TO DO. YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 8 YEARS I SHOULD KNOW AND I'M ONLY 25 HE'S 40. I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE ALONE ALL OF THE TIME. I'M NOT GOING TO TELL YOU TO TAKE HIM TO A REHAB CUZ THEY WILL NOT ACCEPT HIM IF HE IS NOT WILLING TO GO. I'M NOT GOING TO TELL YOU TO CALL THE COP'S ON HIM OR THE DRUG DEALER CUZ YOUR HUSBAND CAN FIND DRUGS IN JAIL AND THERE WILL ALWAYS BE DRUGS ON THE STREETS. BUT I WILL TELL YOU THIS HIS DRUG IS HIS WIFE NOW HE HAS TO SUPPORT HER AND BE DEVOTED TO HER. THIS MAY BE THE HARDIEST THING TO DO BUT IF YOU LEAVE AND COME BACK YOU MIGHT COME BACK TO A EMPTY HOME. WHAT YOU CAN DO IS THIS EITHER TAKE HIM ON A TALK SHOW AND LET THEM HELP HIM OR SIGN HIM IN A MENTAL HOSPITAL IT WILL BE FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS BUT IF YOU WANT TO SAVE HIM THIS IS SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TOBE DONE YOU CAN ONLY DO THIS IF YOU ARE HIS LEGAL WIFE. BECAUSE HE IS COMMTING SUICIDE BUT IT'S JUST SLOWLY.
696340
Wow!  That makes you sick in the pit of your stomach!  Why was he allowed to get away with it?  Seems like the higher up you are the more support you have.