ive gone out w/ my best guy friend 4 times, but keep breaking up with him, shuld I go out w/ him again or not?
368495
Um.. no.\n\nIf you broke your leg every time you jumped off a cliff, how many times would you jump off it?
722290
Well actually I would distance myself from the bf.  He is taken and no matter what you should respect that. \nThis happened to me once too. And I acted on it.  I pretty much lost a great friend.  \nBottom line is ...  Guys come and go.. but friends are the ones that stick around.\nYou need to ask yourself.. Is this guy worth your friendship?
524350
Ask him out although your friend may be crushed. If you break up then she can ask out.Or the three of you could date each other
671947
I would say neither of you should go out with him. Because even though right now you both maybe saying its ok if the other one asks him out deep down do ya really wanna see him (the guy you like) kissing your best friend? I think it would cause hard feelings. I always lived by this saying when this happend to me in highschool\nBoyfriends come and go but a true friend is forever.
492638
From what you wrote, DON'T go out with him or even tell him you like him or anything unless you want to say goodbye to your friendship with his girlfriend forever. Find another guy. They're easy to come by.\n\n(Just follow the golden rule: would you like it if your friends hormones stole YOUR boyfriend? You would think she was seeing him even before you decided to break up. Put yourself in her position.)
602047
Ask her if its ok to go out with him. After all, its her ex and its wise to ask as certain people find it unsettling to see their ex's going out with another person already even if its with their best friend. It also depends upon how long they have been seperated. If it was quite long ago, ask her else look out for someone else.
1078887
Let him know how you feel.... He may not realize you have those kind of feelings for him.  But you need to realize that if you start to actually date him, you may lose him as your best friend if you break up.  Will that be worth it?
122185
just go with your heart. Im sure which ever one you chose will be the best for you. I personally think you should go out with the guy that you talk to more. The other guy youve dumped before so youve had reasons to not like him.
828143
`Is the guy single?  Is he dating your friend?  If he is, would you want your best friend to stab you in the back?  If he is single then perhaps it may he may be fair game?  In any case, I would choose friendship over love.  Plenty of people out there in this world to date.
528054
His problem might be the way that you refer to this long time male friend in terms of endearment... as someone who has been there for you through the good, the bad, the ugly, etc. \nNobody wants to hear that, and it's not going to boost his self confidence or trust by being compared to your other male friend. \n\nI'm wondering why you're going out with him, instead of the friend who has given you much already?\nIf you're not attracted to your friend, then you should decide who you want to be with, and who's going to be there for you when YOU need him. \nOtherwise you're going to keep on hurting the man you're with, \nby wanting to keep your options open when you feel the need to find alternative support from another guy.
363158
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
674719
Ha...well, there's no such thing as "kinda going out" with someone, she either is or isn't going out with them (but you knew that). \n\nAnyways, since you're good friends, you don't want to ruin the relatioship by putting her in an uncomfortable situation and make her choose between you and her boyfriend, so don't. Either wait for her boyfriend and her to break up, or move on. \n\nAnd please remember, don't make your move too quickly after the breakup, or it'll look like you're taking advantage of her vulnerability, which is most definitely NOT good for your chances with her.
1069510
Well, you could tell him that you are really sorry but, i don`t think we should go out anymore I mean please don`t get mad when i say this but, i feel that it`s best if i stay single because, i mean i want to have a boyfriend that i see all the time and i don`t see you that much so i think it would be best for the both of us if we start seeing other people. I am sorry please don`t be mad. We can still be friends, if you want.
659502
Your probably looking for someone to tell you its ok. Well I'm not going to lie to you.  Guys have this rule bros before hoes.  Its totally wrong for you to go out with his best friend.  Even worse if you sleep with his best friend he will eventually tell your ex everything you guys do.
266295
go out with someone else like his best friend or better yet ask him out
634426
i've had the exact same problem + since i kept breaking up with my bf, he finally got tired of me doint it + now he wants to go out with this other girl cuz he got over me in the time i took deciding whether to go out with him. you should decide what you are going to do or else that may happen to you. the thing that's hard is if you keep breaking up with him, then a part of you must be over him but if you keep wanting to go out with him then you must still like him, even if it is just a little bit. what you have to do is decide which feeling you agree with more, liking him, or not as much and then after you decide you have to put it into action and stick to it or else it will never work. my best advice is listen to your heart, for it is never wrong. :)\n\ngood luck
473594
I think if he really wanted to go out with you, he would do it.  Even if guys leave the door open, they are still stringing you along.  Sometimes they like to have options.  Jump on that friendship train and then date someone else.  If he really wants ya, he will tell you when you are inevitably with someone else.