I am a lesbian and in love with my X girlfriend, which is now pregnant by him. What should I do?
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Oh my god, like so many things in my life im glad im not the only one in strange situations.  I dont really think this question has a viable answer that anyone can tell you. There is no black and white and this one, its all grey.  I believe that if you like her then you should stand by her, but dont wedge yourself between her and her Bf.  Show her your love and that you care for her, she will love you more for understanding than for telling her that she messed up.  and thats what i think that she more than likely did. You guys had issues, she was upset and thought it would be better on "the other side". Truth is no matter what one does things will always be bad untill they love themselves and who they are. She likes girls, she realizes that now.\n\nYoure going to have problems with the father of the child. (he has a penis). But because of the child he forever has to be a part of her life. Nothing you can do about that.\n\nJust take her in and accept her, help her through this time. If she plays with you then thats just life. We cannot predict exactly what she will think in the future.  If you really want to be with her, then just roll with it.\n\nsorry sweetheart, maybe im just babbling but i dont know what else to say. wish i could help.
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The question is, how much you love her? What are you willing to do for her love?\n\nAnd the other thing that you should know, how much she loves you? What is the state of your marriage and relationship overall with her?\n\nLets take a logical approach.\n\nIf this cheating was done by you, and say your act had gotten someone else pregnant, what will she do, and how will you feel about it?\n\nThe fact that she is pregnant now has nothing to do with the act of cheating. If it was an inadvertant instant that led one thing to another or was it something that she wanted to do all along and then the result is loss of trust between the two of you.\n\nIs she likely to break the trust again, provided the same circumstance or will she remember not to hurt your feelings?\n\nLove does not chain you to something, it is just the fear of loosing someone or something that you cherish. You do not want to do anything that will rock the relationship between you and the person you love.\n\nAbortion or no abortion, that does not seem to be the solution. \n\nIt is all in you two, you will have to see how you want the family to progress in future. What are the priorities and what will be the understandings. You have to learn to respect each other more and share the responsibilities too.
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They say when you truly love someone you would give up your life for them. and from what i see it seems that is exactly what you have done. you have no life of your own it is all about his life and no advice can help you you have to decide on your own. That does not seem to be your worse problem though you say you are 2 months pregnant? then why does your other question say you are having trouble conceiving
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Sweetheart, you are young and in love; I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, but just be her friend, you are both too young to have this kind of stress in your lives. Be her friend, and be a good friend, things have a really weird way of working themselves out, so don't worry, if you love her you will cherish any relationship you have with her. \n\nP.S. You sound like a guy that any girl would be lucky to have, but I have to tell you; this probably wont be the last time you feel this way. I wish you good luck and good love
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I have been in the same exact situation, instead it wasn't so much his girlfriend it was his baby mama. First of all  if he loved you or if you were the love of his life you wouldn't be asking this question because if he loved you he would have been dropped her ass. True love waits for no one. \n\nWhat that means is that if you were the "love of his life" ya would be together.\n\nWhat it is you giving him that booty and he just telling you want you want to hear. She must not be giving up like you are. Because you love him you give  it up to  him when he wants its. He might have a little a feelings for you because ya doing the damn thang but you are not the the love of his life and that is not to say she is either. \n\nBesides why would you want him if he would leave her for you..he would leave you for someone else too. \n\nThink about it. \n\nGirl just move on... ..
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First off forget about hurting yourself. You and your then bf made this child out of love, it has a right to be born and raised. It sounds like he at least wants to be there to hlep you raise the child and that's more than what a lot of girls get most have the guy just run off. You do however have to inform your parents, but before you do, the two of you need to talk it outnad figure out the plan for this new little one. The first thing the parents will ask is what are your plans.\n\nYou two may not have been thinking when you made this child, but for it's sake now you must think about a plan. The guy may never come back to you, sounds like he wasn't ready for a commited relationship. Be fully preparred to raise this child as a single parent and if he plans to marry you later than that's fine, but if you expect it you are just going to get hurt.
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Dont go out on a limb.  He is her boyfriend.  U have to accept that.  There really isnt a whole lot u can do to her and him- try to find someone who suits u too.  (MAybe a gallon of icecream)lol
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I'm not sure what you have to cope with; if he's bisexual, then he is.  You shouldn't treat him any differently than if he were heterosexual or homosexual.  Looking at it from the point of view of your interests, it seems to me you've got the best of both worlds if you can play your cards right: he can experiment with same-sex friendships when he's young (and thus you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy) whereas he won't have totally cut off the idea of having a family and giving you grandkids later in life.
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if you are secure in your relationship give her a chance to explore her sexuality an ask her if you may be present at time an go from there.i wish u best.
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Well since that happened to me a yr ago, I suggest that u tell him that it's over and that u want him to be part of the baby's life. In my situation her and me have an understanding where I get to have him for 2 weeks out of the month and so does she. She just came out and told me, I wasn't so happy about it but I got use to it and realized that she really wanted it to be over. Anyways if U need some more advice on this e-mail at elguapo_v12@yahoo.com Well good luck and remember just sit down with him and tell him what u really feel...
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I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.
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It depends on what your beliefs are. You're girlfriend may be alright with it, but it sounds like you're having a problem being with her. If you're not sure of what to do, then don't get involved with her until you are absolutely sure that there is nothing wrong with being homosexual. If you believe that it's wrong then it's wrong to you. Everyone is not going to have the same beliefs, so you can only go on what your gut feelings are concerning this homosexual relationship.
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You should try to see things from the gfrends perspective as well she is carrying his child and this entails responsibility from him! Don't forget that he could've left her before she fell pregnant but chose not to! Ask him why and if he is so unhappy he still has a choice he can leave her and still support his child and be with you there will be harsh consequences to face but if he loves you the way he says he does then he'll fight all odds! Talk to him name his choices and if he still refuses to change his mind and follow the more difficult road then he is playing games with you and with his girlfriend!
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Why the F*** did you do that?  Odds are you are too young to know what love is. . . . and shouldn't really get involved with anyone if you are fooling around.\n\nLet me get this straight . . . \n\nYou are in love (supposedly) with Guy 1\nBut you are pregnant with Guy 2 baby.\n\nOdds are you were playing both guys until Guy 1 turned your head about it . . . (thus you are a cheater).  Because Guy 1 cared for you . . . really cared.\n\nNow you are pregnant and you don't want to tell Guy 1 anything about it, because you are afraid in losing him.  (In my opinion, you should lose him . . . but I will still try to help)\n\nQuestion #1: Do you want to keep the baby?\n\nAnswer 1a: If the answer is no . . . tell guy 2 that you are pregnant and ask what are we going to do about it . . . the answer you want is to have an abortion.  Both of you are to go to the abortion clinic . . . he pays. . . if he doesn't say or do anything within a week then you go by yourself to the abortion clinic.  After the abortion dump guy 2 and never tell guy 1 anything.\n\nAnswer 1b: If your answer is yes, I want to keep the baby . . . may I ask why (and please don't say religious or moral reason . . . because it is a major sin to have pre-maritial sex and it is also morally reprehensible in today's society)  But if you do decide to keep the baby . . . do what any other girl does . . . \n\na) don't tell the guy 1 . . . have sex with him and say . . . "oops I'm pregnant, you are going to be a daddy."  And hope that he will marry you . . . (and he would be a dumb a** if he did).\n\nb) dump guy 1 and force guy 2 to marry you.\n\nc) tell guy 1 . . . and risk the chance of him dumping you . . . if you had sex with guy 1 prior to you getting pregnant - plan a may work still.\n\nd) if both guy 1 and guy 2 . . . dump you . . . sue for child support . . . but make sure one of them are the father . . . . DNA test at child birth\n\ne) give the baby up for adoption . . . which I high doubt will happen . . . because if it goes full term . . . the mother will decide to keep the baby at the last minute.\n\n- - - \n\nThis should give you a lot of options . . . \n\nBut in my opinion . . . you should have an abortion . . . go to college . . . and make something of yourself . . . you can still have a social life . . . enjoy yourself . . . you are still young.\n\nIf you don't . . . take my advice (opinion) . . . hope you like poverty . . . because those boys are young . . . and haven't reached their potential . . . and with a wife or kid . . . odds are they never will (because you have held them back).
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what you just said in the question sounds like a good start to me.  you have the right to be happy and if the relationship you are in right now does not make that happen, then you shouldn't have to stay.  it doesn't matter if your significant other is related to hers, you should do what makes you happy.  just try telling her what you wrote here.
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You need to be honest with yourself. \n\nIs she pregnant or not? She could be tricking you into leaving your girlfriend to come back to her!\n\nEnsure that she is pregnant before making a decision! If she is then stick by her in any means possible - be honest with your current girlfriend and see who you feel the most comfortable with.\n\nJust because a girl is pregnant with your baby does not mean that you have to get married! As she is only 16!\n\nGood Luck!
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first of all..you must think what would happen next after you got pregnant..think about your baby if how will he/she will live?and if ur boyfriend will still be your boyfriend after the pleasure besides he can broke up with u because ur not married right? and make sure you're ready to face challenges..because having a family is not a joke...its really hard..think about it..ok? yes i know you love him also but never get to the point that you'lll give all of yourself to him..remember you must not give yourself to a person without leaving something for yourself because someday somehow, you'll realized that you gave everything for the wrong person without leaving something for the right one...if u need advices.... email or im me OK?\n\nmy yahoo id: bugs_41099@yahoo.com\n\nhave a nice day!