I do not want to feel like the other woman but I am and I dont mind bcos I love him?
363859
And he hasn't left his wife? well it doesn't  look like he feels the same even if he says he does he is just saying that b/c his heart is still with her, there are billions of men out there, why one that is married. You should end it, have more respect for yourself that you are implying that you have, you are portaying yourself to be a homewrecker.
515100
although you seem to be going through a lot of pain, and i do feel for you, the problem  is still the same...you want two wives! can't do that man, sorry. there is no way that you can fully love two people the same. you have to let one of them go. you might not think it's fair to you, but that's selfish. have you ever thought about what the women want? stop being selfish and let one of them move on and find someone who is willing to be with only them.
689885
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
219962
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
724036
dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
379384
yes, because you will start to want to feel that way and he isn't doing it for you. you wont be happy and you will either leave ir cheat or be miserable. not fair to either of you.
637419
you don't love him or you wouldn't have cheated on him. You are just feeling jealous cause he wants someone else and not you. Leave the guy alone.
393011
I feel that it is all a matter of contentment.  If you are content with the relationship then you will not care about what else is out there... on the other hand, if you feel that you may be missing out on something then you probably are.
139750
Not really, she is 3 states away though. I feel confident he loves me, so it is all good. As to if I was the one that the jealousy was directed at, I imagine I would feel fairly apathetic or maybe even a little sorry for the girl who couldn't just feel good about herself.
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It sounds like it's a matter of how you feel about him, rather than how me could make you feel loved.  Love can take time to grow, but when you do have that moment, then you will know it when you experience it.  Until then, You should be honest that you don't feel love yet.  If you hide it or are dishonest about it, you'll only be doing yourself and any bf you're with a disservice.
245954
Be honest with her.  Just ask her if there is something going on. Don't be mad at her, but you as a boyfriend have a right to know if there is anything going on with her and another man.  Tell her that you love her and don't want anything to happen between you 2 but you just need to know because you are feeling uncomfortable with things without knowing.
371836
You need to evaluate how you are choosing men to sleep with and why you dont feel good about yourself. You need to be in love with yourself in order to love others completely.
1084701
You yourself could answer this question...You feel that you are living a lie....and you are feeling guilty for living a lie and not being yourself....someone other than your boyfriend is trying to convince you that you are living a lie while your boyfrind is trying to convince you to stay with him..Is he in the light? seems to me the tunnel is the darkness or wrongness you are feeling the voice in coming from within the darkness and your boyfriend is in the light...someone is trying ot convince you that your life is wrong but you feel that this voice is somehow coming from the darkness...although your boyfriend may seem needy he is in the light and you can see him and the voice you cannot see therefore less trustworthy..your are torn between two lovers the one you are with is clingy yet you feel this is what is right the one in the darkness you cannot see is less worthy of trust  but he is telling you that you are living a lie...have you cheated with another man? is the darkness guilt? is the other man teling you to leave your current boyfriend? Is the current boyfriend needy? is the other one less trust worthy or are you having a hard time giving your trust to the other man? have you lied to either or both of them? you have to make a decision based not only on what is best for you but what is right and wrong...and guilt is playing a big part of your dream....
801148
I'm an older woman. You should tell him exactly what you wrote here. you can't make anybody change or act a certain way. You have to accept them for who they are or move on. Tell him your feelings so both of you Will know what you want.
705536
You should feel special and irreplaceable, but it will take some time, are you sure you want to stay with him, ask your self is me and my b/f headed down that marriage path? if the answer is no, than why are you with him? your wasting your time, if the answer is yes, get some counseling together, and work things out, fight for your relationship (not the girls he was txt'ing) but work hard, and it will blossom, it will take some time, are you willing to put in that time?
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Normally I wouldn't touch this type of question with a 10 foot pole.  To the asker:  you didn't provide any details about why your guy felt "like the woman".  There's a bunch of things that might be affecting that feeling, some of which may be your issues and some of which may be his. We aren't privy to anything like that so nobody here is going to be able to give you very good advice.  If you're both feeling insecure or its a problem but you want to work it out, I suggest couples therapy.  \n\nNow, what prompted me to reply was the first responder to this question, who said that you could "CONTROL a man using.. femininity and submission" yet you would not love/respect a man who allowed you to "DOMINATE" him.  Sorry, sweetheart, but control is a type of domination. You can't have your cake and eat it too.\n\nWe live in a world where gender roles are not clearly defined, and it puts a lot of extra stress on relationships because people have to determine what works for them as individuals and as a couple.  Sometimes our self-identities don't allow us to form a coherent twosome vision with another person, sometimes we can compromise a little.  However, being "feminine" doesn't mean being a backdoor manipulative woman, so I'd throw that concept right out the window (and probably relieve any major stress about being "someone you're not").  Best wishes!
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Don't feel bad; your husband is probably thinking about another woman. That doesn't bother you, does it?