When should a woman cheat on their deployed husband?
362944
If a woman marries a man in the military, she should expect that he might go away someday. If she can't handle that, she shouldn't marry him. There are added responsiblities with being a military wife. I am one myself. When he is at war he shouldn't have to worry about his wife cheating, he should be comforted by the fact that she is at home preparing for him to come back. He has enough to worry about. I think all the women who cheat on their husbands while they're at war dodging bullets, ied's, watching their friends and comrads die, and stepping over dead bodies on a daily basis, are sorry bitches. If they can't handle the lifestyle they sould get out and let him find someone who wants to be there for him.
526743
It is an interesting experience. My husband and I have been together for only 3 years and we are on our second deployment. He is currently serving in Iraq. Be proud because your husband is doing something truly great. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
66105
I am a navy wife, my husband goes on long deployments quite alot. You dont have to say anything at all. Just kiss her, hold her like you arent going to let go and say her name quietly. Thats all it will take. Believe me, I know. Besides, if my experience is anything, once you see her agian, you will not be able to say anythng anyway. You will be speechless and overwhelmed by emotion. So dont try too hard, cuz you will only draw a blank.
727890
This is his issue, he needs to resolve this one himself...He needs to know tho, that not everyone is the same.  Because he was cheated on before doesn't mean it will happen again.  What you need to do is move on, as hard as it may seem at the present moment, in the long run it will be fore the better.  Just know this is not you, its him and don't wait, he will come back with the same issues.  \nI was in the military and i have seen oh so many times relationships end because of one or the other cheating and heck how do you know he wont cheat? it works both ways...If he really truly loves you maybe you can work things out but, know this trust is number one in a healthy relationship, no trust, no relationship....He really needs to fix himself before getting involved with anyone....
874065
We were stationed in Germany when my hubby deployed the first time.  That was for Desert Storm.  It was hard being in a foreign country.  However, I chose to stay there and I'm glad I did.  The ones who went home basically lost everything.  They lost housing, sponsorship, overseas pay, contact with the unit and updates on how their hubby and the unit were doing among other things.  \n\nHow things work out depends mostly on you.  You already don't seem to be handling the stress well.  It doesn't matter what unit you go to or where you're stationed, there's games and politics.  You seem to be in a particularly bad one.  If you don't trust your hubby, you'll be in a world of hurt.  They'll play off that and give other women ammo to go after him.  Trust me, your trust and faith in him will have everything to do with what happens.  In 18 years, I know my hubby has never cheated on me.  I don't question him and I don't second guess him.  I keep him happy at home.\n\nI would suggest that you don't press the issue.  I'm sure the unit is following the rules.  They can't risk not doing it.  There's no CO or 1SG that wants to lose their position.  Things like  you're talking about can cause alot of scandal and ruin a career.  If you try to handle it in your own way, you can make things tough on your hubby.  If he has issues, he can take it up the chain of command.  However, it's not wise for you to interfere with the operations of his unit.  That puts him in for alot of stress and such.\n\nBe strong and trust in him and your marriage.  While he's gone, travel.  There's so much to see and do there.  Most of the time, it doesn't cost alot because you can get discounts or units or chaplains sponsor tours.  Write to him often and keep the letters up beat.  Try not to add to his worries and stress.  The time goes faster than you think and you'll find that you're a whole lot stronger than you thought you were.  You'll find your own independance and still rely on him.  \n\nGood luck!!
1118484
I think it all depends.  If you've been in a relationship with someone for a long time and you know they'll be back, then it's ideal.  Military wives do it all the time when their husbands go and fight.  However, if you haven't known the person for very long, and have never even met.  IE:  Online love.  Then screw that.  There's no point in having a long distance relationship with someone you don't know REALLY well.  Long distance relationships often fail because you two can't even be together that much, causing a series of emotions that aren't healthy.  If you're in a long term relationship, make sure it's right for both of you and you're not just doing it because you can't let someone go.
819222
Many military wives cheat on their husbands, especially the young ones.  Many of them aren't very independent and are built of fragile or weak constitution.  When there husband goes away, they fall apart, so they need another man.  It is pathetic, but that's the kind of woman that marines marry and the kind of woman who want want to marry marines.\n\nI'm sure that most military wives don't want to hear this, but it's true.
421600
from what i understand, the guy got somebody pregnant a month after leaving his girl to join the army. if he can't control himself while he's away, then the relationship might just as well go down the drain.
363616
I can truly say that i have been there.  I chose the one that was leaving to the army for 4 years and he cheated on me 2 times.  he has been back for 1 year and although i have a hard time trusting him, we are together and are happy so far.  You just have to think whether or not you want to go thru with it and forgive if it happens or if you think you deserve better.  Good luck
759236
I was in the military for 8 plus years, I watch about 50% of the "men" and I use that word loosely cheat.  I never did, but it never failed, we would get overseas, and the first night on the beach, about 50% of the married guys were chasing women.
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
104317
I think men cheat because they need to know that they are still desired. \n\nI feel they reach a point in their marriage where they know in their heart that they are loved by their wife....but they start to question whether they have been all they need to be. Perhaps his wife doesn't tell him how "necessary" he is anymore. Perhaps his wife doesn't seduce him the way she used to. Perhaps she doesn't brag about him to her friends the way she used to. He needs to know he is still worthy. \n\nSo one day.....someone notices him.......and man...it just feels so good to be noticed again! And then maybe he sees her again the next day......and the next day. And her smile starts to become addictive. He becomes intrigued about who she is......and why she has noticed him. It might start out as a smile.......but it will become a kind comment.....and then a need on her part to 'run into him' just as he has found it necessary to run into her. \n\nMany times the affair is not intended. But all of a sudden it starts to fill a hole and fulfill a need that he realizes needs to be filled. She tells him how necessary he is........she craves the intimacy.......she tells him what a wonderful person he is. All the things that were lacking in his marriage. His needs are being fulfilled.........just not by his wife.
766409
Negative on that roger. Once a cheater, always a cheater. For men or women.
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
29306
I think some husbands cheat on their wives for the same reason why all men cheat... they want to see if the grass is greener in other pastures. They may not be getting the attention they want at home or they may simply just be jerks and not care about their wive's feelings.
852341
As a Gulf War Vet myself I think that was sweet of you. And I want to thank you for the support you give your spouse. Some wives are not so supportive. They think it's a time to play. Instead of taking care of their family affairs. Thanks again!
86271
This is probably not what you want to hear, but let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff. The freind doesnt sound like much of a friend. You might have to let your wife find that out by herself. Also Good for you for not breaking up with you wife/girlfreind when you where called to duty.  I saw it happen so many times, before a deployment. So many broken hearts :(