When one person wants a divorce and the other does not...does the love ever stop?
366241
I am sorry to say this but in most cases the lover does stop.  If he gets upset everytime he sees you then that usually means that he still has feelings for you.  I know your heart breaks but if he does not like you anymore then yes you will go through a time of grief but you wanna know what will help.  friends and lots of chocolates!!!!!!!  Go out and have some girl time w/ your friends.  give yourself some space.
224829
They choose bad lawyers.\nThat isn't true maybe you feel that way  but "always" is a strong term.\nWhen a marriage ends both people are "screwed" out of the future they planned .the one that was to last a life time shared.\nGL\nDon't worry about losing.  If it is right, it happens - The Main thing is not to hurry.  Nothing good gets away.  ~John Steinbeck, 10 November 1958\n\nWhat is the opposite of two?  A lonely me, a lonely you.  ~Richard Wilbur
243665
i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
287100
that is sick... you should have one partner for life all these people getting divorced are not willing to try and make it work... they arent really in love and dont want to change a little bit to please the person they love... communication is key in a good relationship without it we will all end in divorce...
447125
No I think its okay. No one can stop love. Love is really powerful and if you love him/her then don't let anyone try to stop you two from being together. You're together for a reason and don't let anyone take that reason away from you. Follow your heart, be true to it.
548249
Separation isn't really the end. It doesn't mean a divorce is headed your way. Separation is actually what saved my marriage. The time away from each other is what we needed, and made us realize that we didn't want the divorce. We're happier now than we were before. Separation is a time to see if a divorce would be right for you. If it isn't, talk it out with your husband, see where he stands on it all, and take it from there. One thing married couples need to understand is that no all marriages are perfect, you'll have your ups and downs but when it comes down to it, you still love each other. My husband and I have the most dysfunctional marriage I've ever seen, but it just works for us, and we really are happy.
817069
you have to back off and let them work it out. Let the guy know you'll be there for him, but people make mistakes and they are still married. If he still wants the divorce it'll go on. But you need to step out of the relationship because she could use that against him now that she is wanting him back. I've been there done that. I was the wife who made mistakes and wanted my ex back. He didn't want to make things work, so we divorced. Good luck and don't make things worse.
932293
As soon as you can come up with a 100% accurate definition of love, you might be able to have this question answered for you. As it stands now, "love" is many different things to many different people. The answer one can give to this question is, he probably loved you, and loves you, "in his own way". I.e., some form of attachment is certainly present - but whether or not his conduct is compatible with *your* definition of love is a whole another question. I'm guessing that if he has done bad enough things that forced you to file for divorce when you had a baby on your hands, it is unlikely to change if you ever got back together. That's just my feeling. If you can think back at the hurtful things you have experienced, and honestly say that you can tolerate them over and over as they continue on happening in the future - then your reconciliation might stand a chance. Otherwise, you will only be prolonging the agony and wasting your time; in this case, I would encourage you to move on.
632435
Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
723076
No one can control their feelings. If you love someone it kinda comes naturally. When you and that person stop talking it takes a while to really get over that person especially if you were really in love. Even  though some might say that they don't love someone  any more 9 times out of 10 it is not true. We have to let nature take its course.
47168
Yes, Loves does exist. May not seem like it at times with the divorce rate high like it is. \n\nK
1084948
of course you can be happy its not easy in any relationship but if you really want it you can always find a way for it to work!!!! theres alot of us out there that have gone through divorce and have found the right one out there, enjoy the feelin of love and keep it goin , dont worry about the small stuff, kids will get use to the idea and warm up to it,
414428
haha~... yes, its possible and its happening for quite sometime already... but its HIGHLY not recommended... as you might probably be doing "ONLINE" divorce soon you found out its not the right choice~... haha~...
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
470924
Well if divorce is not an option, I can't help you.. Although a loveless marriage is no way to live, it would be better of separating and finding a new love, you can always visit or have your kids visit you...
164852
if you really love each other no it isnt time to end it. Me and My gf are going through a simuliar phase. Fights are expected in a realtionship. There are two people involved and two different views. SO you can expect fights. Me and My gf usually have at least one fight everyday. Manly this is my fault because I am under a lot of stress due to being so far in debt and working so many hours. I take a lot of it out on her although I dont mean to. My gf is going through the stage of life where she is making a lot of deciesions ( whatever that means I am not sure just what some mutual friends have told me) Therefore she gets upset at me alot. LOL But before the night is over we make sure everything is fine between us.   Good Luck I hop everything works out/
1128347
Well, as a wife and mother of 5 children and married for 23 yrs...I can honestly say love is unconditional and is sometimes a rollercoaster...if you are not already married, you still have a choice...but do know this friend..."what once was, can be again"...sometimes you have to return to your first love..the things you did...what you said...how you treated each other...now, if those "things" you refer to are harrassing, violence, and such...a sit down talk in a "neutral" spot is the answer there. Be honest if this must be done...be specific..& don't leave it "open ended"...like "we'll see"...I need space for now...needs to be clean cut...best of everything!