Opposite sex friendship...a myth??
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You can have a friendship between a male and a female without it turning romantic.\nI have a lot more male friends than female ones. It just turned out that way because I grew up with 5 brothers and their friends. I feel more comfortable around guys than girls because there were no snide or catty remarks.
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Do men always assume that you want more than friendship?\n\nIn both questions: NO.
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It is a very real fact that men and women can be friends.  If the 2 people are satisfied with themselves (meaning that they don't have to continuously try to prove something or have hang-ups about if they are "cool" enough) they will be able to interact on a friendly basis.
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well I have to say as a man, and knowing lots of other men- I dont believe a man can be a good friend to a woman unless he had sexual desires first.  I think it is very possible to be friends after that desire calms down, but I think sexual attraction is the first thing a guy thinks of when he meets a woman and wants to be her friend. \n\nBoys, on the other hand- under a certain age can be friends with girls without that impulse- but puberty changes us.\n\nLots of women get angry when I say this, but being honest isnt always a popular choice to make.  All of my best female friends -started out as a sexual desire upon first meeting them.  \n\nLots of guys will deny this because women cant handle the truth because it disgusts them. Although I think the same goes for women in many cases too. \n\nMen and women really dont usually have the chemistry to be really close friends without one of them having some sexual attraction to the other, at least at some point in the friendship.\n\nI think it is changing though with the internet, because people can get to know each other without any kind of sexual stimulants such as physical attraction. My very best friend (and yes I adore her and yes I have sexual desire for her but...) started out as a complete mental interest.  I liked the things she had to say before I was distracted by her beauty, but of course I fell in love and NOW I think I have finally learned what REAL love is- by getting to know her as a person before I ever saw her, was a great thing.  I dont think it is foolish love, or marriage love as of yet- but I can definitely feel my love growing for her every day.
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hi i am having the same problem but the difference i am a boy and i am looking for a femail friend. so why don,t we both become friends . that might solve the problem.
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I think of women all the time. I have this crush on a dear friend with whom I have been friends since we were in school. We never had a relationship but have been there for eachother through many tough times. We had moved apart and after a span of 4 years reconnected at this time things fell into our close selves despite our new lives and situations. We feel a sexual charge when we are together wether it's with company or alone. We both sense it and it kinda shows. We still have never done anything towards or with eachother, although I think that it could and how I would love for it to, I treasure her true friendship more. I do think of her often. We 've had some very intimate situations but were able to keep ourselves in check.
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YES!!thats fine....why would you think thats wrong?!....hang on what kind of "friend"?
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Yes, my best friend since highshool (I graduated in 1971) is a guy.  We did date a couple of times but nothing ever came of it.  We valued our friendship too much to let romance get in the way.  We stil meet for lunch or coffee whenever he is working (owns his own construction company) near where I work.  I'm even God mother to his youngest daughter.  Yeah he's married too.
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I think having one best friend of each sex helps. You have to find some one you can trust. I have a best friend who is a girl and she knows everything and is always there for me. I have a best friend who is a guy that I can be comfortable around I don't have to pretend. And if I need guy questions answered he's the one I would go to. So I think both is good.
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Opposites DO attract, but often, eventually they repel. At first, someone with seriously differing viewpoints can seem very interesting, and challenging, especially if they are good looking. Eventually though you realize that when you differ so much, you argue, particularly if the differences are over really important things. In my opinion, being married to your "best friend" is the best option!
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No.  Girls are capable of having male friends without expecting to fall in love in the future.  At first a girl might want to be friends with a male to explore the possibility of a future relationship, but you can tell right away her intentions.  If she's overly friendly (flirtatious) then she's attracted to you.  But if she starts to mention other guys and starts to treat you like "one of the girls" then you hit the friendship wall.  \n\nGuys, on the other hand, will only have friends that are girls with the hope that "someday" they will be in the right place at the right time (when the girl is vulnerable and falls right into his arms). \n\nThere are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part the above is true.\n\nMaybe you can give us more details so that we can better answer this question.  Is there a certain way a friend of yours is acting?
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In my experience, it has a been a really good thing. It was good because we were both honest, and up front about it. We established that our friendship was the most important thing, and that we didn't want to ruin it. (Of course, there was an exception) but for the most part, even if one of us started feeling a "crush" or something, we talked it through. The one thing that I have to be CLEAR on is that we BOTH were honest. That we could be close to each other, and there were limits, and you had to stay within those limits. I don't know if I am just weird, but I have had some very special friends, and it worked. Most have moved on, but if we saw each other again, (in face I called one just the other day and we had a fantastic conversation) I know we are still friends, and they know I am still their friend as well. I KNOW there are times when men use that as a line, and I KNOW there are women who say they can do that, but they think I can change the guys mind. The reason I know this is because my guy friends told me that women did this, so I don't know if I'm just bizarre, but in my own personal life, I've had some FANTASTIC friendships, and they were friends with benefits.\nI forgot to tell you that when it worked this way with me, 98% of the time, we were friends First!! =o)\nBTW I thought I invented that term LOL
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i think there are guys and girls out there that are just friends...but there will always be that air of sexual attraction between them.  most of the girls i've been friends w/ have ended up in bed w/ me. =?
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Oh God, yes, women want straight male friends!! I've got more male friends than female ones - like a family of protective 'brothers' and I don't know what I'd do without them. \n\nIf you want to take a relationship further, though, you could always say, look, I like being your friend, but is there any chance you might come out with me for dineer/coffee/cinema/a drink sometime on our own?  Cos I'm guessing that you usually see females in company at work or socially.  If she's a friend to you already, she won't want to hurt your feelings and hopefully will turn you down gracefully, if that's the way it goes.  Then you haven't lost a friend, you've made her feel flattered (unless you are utterly repulsive - which you're not, are you!), and you never know, she might say to you some day after she's thought about it for a while, is that offer still open?  Then you can take it from there....
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we see all women as friends...BUT...we also see them as women, the first chance we get, the friendship is not as important anymore as it is to score...don't get me wrong though, we can be friends, just never give us the impression that we can be more...
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I definitely think they can.  I have several male friends who I'd never date or hook up with, we just talk and hang out.  It makes things easier to have a male's perspective on things.  Plus girls are so scandalous, I know my guy friends wouldn't steal my clothes or my man!!
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Funny you asked this question.  This is a constant issue with me.  I have male friends that my boyfriend is a little jelous of but trust me, they could never replace him.  My bf has female friends that I'm not threatened by anymore, but there was a time.  As far as my boyfriend and I, I say that opposite sex friends are perfectly alright as long as the couple knows where to draw the line and the "friends" and couple know not to cross it.