Is my heart ready for marriage if I'm in love with my fiance, but find this other guy very attractive?
362932
Finding someone attractive does not me u are not ready for marriage. Lk into your heart and see if your fiance and marriage is what u want in life right now
587911
You need to be honest to the guy you are with and let him go don't lie to him, if you say you love the other guy then go with him, it is obvious you know what you want, don't waste you time and his time by staying with him knowing you do not love him, I hope you make a decision soon. Good Luck
313046
Try to use your brain to make a logical decision.  Are you really, for instance just lusting over this someone else?  Do you have a long-term committed relationship that you'll ruin by following your heart?  Or are these both people you've had some kind of relationship with and you simply can't decide.\n\nIf it's the latter, who will be better over the long term.  Sometimes we make choices based on short-term goals (like having a great sexual relationship) rather than long-term goals (like finding a kind person who will be committed to you).\n\nThink before you leap!
851575
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.
1097495
yes, i believe in love at first sight.  i'm engaged to my fiancee' now after noing him only for a few weeks.  we are now going on our 3 month anniversary.  As in marrying 2 weeks after, I would say no to that cause you still need to get to really know them.  The way i knew that my fiancee' was the right one was when we looked into each other's eyes and we asked the same question together was what do u see in your future and we said at once each other.
863416
go with your heart, it sounds like the second one has more of the same life style as you do, go for him.
580804
You need to consider your engagement. Maybe you are not quite ready to settle down with your fiance'. If you are questioning what you should do, my suggestion is that you should not get married just yet. You are obviously not ready to tie the knot. A lot easier to deal with before you get married than after. You need to do a lot of soul searching. Don't make a mistake that you will regret.
1046446
Temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  It's okay to have a little crush on this "other guy" for now, but just weigh what you and your boyfriend have and what you and this "other guy" have.  It sounds like you and your boyfriend are strong, moving past a problem like cheating, but obviously, you like your boyfriend MORE than this other guy.  That's why you're with him...YOu LOVE him, right?  If it is as you say, then you definitely don't want to give that up.  You tried the other guy 4 months into your relationship with your boyfriend, and you didn't decide to run off with him, but you stayed with your boyfriend instead, meaning that you want your relationship to work out with him, and he seems like he is prepared to stick it out with you as well.  If you truly love him, then you won't leave him for this other guy, even if it may seem more exciting or if you still have left over feelings for him.  The goal is to leave feelings from the past, in the past.  Since you have a commitment with your boyfriend now and you love him more than anything, the other guy is merely a temptation.  Like I said in the beginning, temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  We're all human...we all have hormones, adrenaline, sexual feelings... ;) ...Even happily married couples have temptations, but it doesn't mean they drop whoever they're with and move in with the other person.  Theres that self control and rationally weighing what you could lose if you go either way.  Now ask yourself, is the other guy worth losing your boyfriend over?  As time goes on, and you realize how much you have and don't want to lose, the temptation will subside.  If however, you realize you don't have much after all (and you don't actually love your boyfriend), then you should look further.  Don't make a decision until you are absolutely sure, because you may not be able to turn back.
837280
hahahaha, if you only LIKE him, there should be no proposing going on!  Fall in love first, then get married! mkay?
1112747
the guy i've been dating for the past 3 months i think is my soulmate. We can talk about anything and everything w/o worrying what we are saying to each other. We are both very stubborn but when it comes to arguments neither of us leaves w/o resolving the conflict. I've never felt this way about any other person and he has once but that was b/c the other chick was good in bed. We haven't slept together, and yet he's already talked to his immediate family about a wedding in the next 5-7 years. I wouldn't imagine marrying anyone else.
203009
I am married.  I love him and still lust him, with all my heart.  He turns me on both mentally and physically and he makes me feel like I am special in his life too by doing things for me all the time.  He's kind, gentle, honest and hard working.  He makes me laugh, he loves me unconditionally ... my heart still skips a beat when I think of him :) ... just talking about him here, makes me smile and realize how lucky I am to have my soul mate with me!!
163780
I would be flattered. :)\n\nI am not sure if this is your case but....\n \n If I were in a situation where I was in love with those same two men and I felt like I had to choose between the two men, then I would choose neither. That would be an unfair situation for everyone.
711457
you're definitely not in love. its all infatuation. would caution u to think twice before making such decision (to marry). when u have doubts, don't do it.
12539
well honestly it goes hand in hand.....i think you need to be true to yourself before you can find that specail one....and when you find that person you WILL know....and i would also have to ask....are you ready for the marrige if you can't find the person....
258936
Hell yeah! been there done that, Married him.=)The fact that you love aperson withou even seen her/him means you have fallen for this person´s way of mind his toughts, ideas, for what he really is (of course counting on the fact he is honest)this goes beyong physical attraction. I fell for my hubby without even seing a single pic of him and traveled from america to Europe to meet him I guess I had Luck cuz I happened to like to what I saw but anyway my mind was set to meet the guy I loved and would certainly love no minding if he was fat , short ...LOL my whole family and friends told me I was crazy....;)\n\nPs. When 2 ppl meet face to face one does everything to impress the other person and some even pretend to be what they are not so with time it comes to an end, by chatting some people can really open and express what they really are , anyway as i said above counting on the fact this person is honest and serious.
907601
yes, I would be anyway.\n\nworst case, its very very flattering. Might only happen every decade or so for some guys, if that. \n\nif he and you want each other then maybe more, find out I think.\n\nHappily married or not? It matters I think.
645218
take your time, Love will reveal it's self.\ndoes he call you, or do you do everything in the relationship. test him, see if he really cares. don't bug him about it or give him a big list of what you are looking for, just let him be and see what kind of guy he is. you can't change people so find out if he is really suitable for you through experience in time. you are probably young enough that it isn't crucial that you get married right now. take your time if you can....it reveals many things!