How do you deal with a competetive,  jealous colleague?
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You have to be realistic about this one because it will come back to haunt you if you're not. If at all possible distance yourself from this person. In other words, stay out of his or her target range. Next start racking up useful accomplishments for the office and your own time. For example, take a CPR and/or first aid class, earn credits or certificates important to your corporation, or do volunteer work on your companies behalf (i.e. Habitat for Humanity, Big Brothers & Sisters, Red Cross, etc.). If there is some activity important to you boss do that too if you have time. After your accomplishments be sure your boss knows what you have done but don't talk about it with others at work so your jealous colleague won't find out for a while. If things get bad at work because of this person you will now be in a much better position to leave with all your new contacts and accomplishments. Good luck.
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Think about what you have that is positive in your life.  There will always be someone who is smarter, better looking, funnier, more talented or whatever you are measuring.  You will find yourself much happier if you "compete with yourself", rather than some ideal standard.  \n\nIt is big of you to try to be happy for the person you are jealous of and you should do that as much as possible.
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This person obviously wants to maintain whatever competitive edge they have within your company.  My first thought is to try and befriend this person.  Let them know you are not trying to step over them, you just want to help your company put out the best product possible.  One way to befriend people is to invite them to lunch or to a poker party after work, or some other function.  If it's real bad, and doesn't get better, maybe the boss needs to find out.
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Is it possible to change jobs and move to a competitor?  Or, another sales job in a different industry?  Being able to sell is an amazing talent to have and very transferable.  \n\nIf you're the best sales person in the region, that's a fact and it doesn't matter what your boss says.  Sometimes you just have a crappy boss who is never pleased with what you do.  The problem is the boss and it's probably because they feel insecure.  Try to find compassion for the other person (i.e., maybe he's scared of losing his job, maybe he was picked on in school and you remind him of someone, etc.).  \n\nAlso, instead of worrying what they think, focus on what you know about yourself.  In your case, you know you're the top sales person.  Own it.  Be proud of it.  Broadcast it.\n\nSometimes, managing perceptions is all it takes.  Put some effort into communicating all the hard work you do.  If you don't get sales, talk about all the calls you made and then just shrug it off.  \n\nYou could also try speaking with your boss about this issue.  However, the key is to not do it when you're pissed off.  The other thing is to try to really listen to what they're saying even if it comes out sounding like crap.  Some people lack communication skills.  Really try to focus on a solution and a common goal.  \n\nSometimes being really honest helps too.  Rather than act like you don't care what he thinks, tell him you value his opinion and you feel very demoralized when he does x and that you were wondering if your perception of the situation was a bit off.  Don't blame.  Always chalk it up to differences in how you communicate.
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controlling and jealousy
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There's nothing you can do.  The more effort you exert the more they will resist.  People of EGO feel others are jealous.  So whatever you do will be interpreted as being jealous.  Just allow them to grow out of their ego's.  It will happen one day, provided they live that long.  Life alone can teach them that they are not all they believe themselves to be.  Then again, ego can be a positive, provided it's not over inflated.
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Prepare well for the test so you know your stuff. Don't think you're competing against your peers - you're competing against yourself. Settle in before you start - sort out on your desk or table all your stuff. Then get on with it - like you are in your own world. Ignore the other people in the room - ignore the room. Do your best. If that doesn't work. Stop for a minute and think of me.
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I would keep out of it, and keep away from them. It's not your business to manage her. \n\nIs there a boss above your boss? If it becomes an issue in work performance, go to that person or go to HR.
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Present yourself in a nonthreatening manner. State it in question form. Let the superior think it was their idea. When you build a rapport with the superior overtime, they will learn to respect you and then you can get to a relationship where you can offer input and the superior may ask you for your ideas.
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well try to be polite with them and let compliment them or make them feel good about themselves...if they are jealous ...then it's THEIR self confidence..you shouldn't feel bad about that.
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I have alot of experience with this and I have learned one important thing....there are one of these people at every single job/workplace.  If you are not his supervisor, do nothing.  It seems the boss likes him so your best bet is to go to work, do your thing, keep to yourself, then go home.
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This is really something that might be the cure for it .. \n\nhttp://annoyingcoworker.com/\n\nan example from that site - When I see a bony, fake, ego-maniac, sap-sucking, hopelessly tardy leech like you I am greatful that I don't have to deal with you during the weekends. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle annoying coworkers? -- http://www.physorg.com/news10939.html\n\nAnnoying co-workers are blessings in disguise - - http://www.dailyutahchronicle.com/media/storage/paper244/news/2004/02/24/News/Annoying.CoWorkers.Are.Blessings.In.Disguise-616487.shtml?norewrite200611032031&sourcedomain=www.dailyutahchronicle.com\n\nhttp://monster.typepad.com/monsterblog/2005/08/cant_stand_your.html\n\nHow Can I Deal With A Difficult Co-Worker? - \nhttp://stress.about.com/od/officepolitics/f/coworker.htm\n\nHow to Deal With a Negative Coworker: Negativity Matters -- http://humanresources.about.com/od/conflictresolution/a/negative_worker.htm
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Be clear what you want to say before you speak to her/him.\nDo not be negative. Be humble. If complaining about something the main thing is to offer a better solution. Just dont bring up problems one needs to offer solutions.\nThank them for the opportunity they have given you for the conference. They have a boss too  and they have stricter deadlines than students so be mindful of that. Bring something to the table. and ALLLLLWAYS thank them they dont get paid enough with what they have to deal with! TRUST ME!
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Well, first of all, find comfort in knowing that she is the one with the problem, not you.  People like that can make you judge your own sanity, but be assured that she is the bad guy.\n\nAvoid her as much as you can.  When you do have to interact with her, have all of your questions/projects lined up and ready to go, so you can go right down the line and move as quickly as possible in getting your work details done.\n\nIf the problem escalates, calmly tell her that her behavior is inappropriate, and then document her behaviors in case you need to provide them to HR.  Unfortunately, this might not work, because these types often see their behavior as completely normal, either due to a psychological problem, or just plain immaturity.  My guess is that she'll tell you that you need to "lighten up".\n\nI truly do wish you the best.  I work with a guy who has Asperger's, and every single day is a struggle with him.
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Approach her about this.  Tell her, politely, to own up to her responsibilities there or you'll tell the boss.  Tell her that you understand that she has a life outside of work but so do you.  You cannot keep covering for her because it reflects poorly upon you.  She can seek help.\n\nIf this is a temporary problem, wait it out.  She'll owe you one and may keep this in mind during finals time.  Chances are, she's carried a load or two for you, without you knowing it.\n\nIf she shrugs you off or does not promise to improve, then go to her boss.  Tell him that you do not mind handling the extra responsibility if you are compensated for it.  However, you currently are not being compensated for your efforts and you've already got a great deal of responsibility within and outside of work.\n\nIf nothing happens, go above his head.
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Jealousy of another's superior skills or abilities engeders negative actions such as spreading false rumors about that person.  Another is a common mistake, arguing with co-workers about politics or religion. A former friend can turn on you once he or she discovers you do not agree with their beliefs.  Aggressive ambition also contributes to cutthroat practices such as sabotaging another's work, blaming another for your mistakes or taking credit for someone else's ideas. My best advice is to never tell anyone at work more than the barest of personal information, be pleasant, don't complain or join in ranking fellow workers. Also be a good listener and most of all, keep your mouth shut about your best work ideas until you present them to the proper supervisor and leave your strong opinions on non-work related issues at home. If you must vent or preach, write a letter to the editor or find a chat room online.
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I understand how frustating that could be but don't get yourself all worked up over it.  Keep doing what you are supposed to do.  Don't worry about your co-worker.  I'm pretty sure that your employer will catch up to him or her eventually.