can't feel my girl when inside her......she can't feel me...why?
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Hmm... how to approach this... scientifically, and sensitively? It could do with size. But, I think I was on the right track when I said "sensitively." Nerve sensitivity could have a lot to do with it.\n\nIt could have something to do with several things. Being a guy, the first thing that comes to mind is circumcision. A circumcised penis is less sensitive than one that is not. Why? Because the more sensitive area(s) are more exposed at all times.\n\nAs far as the woman's body is concerned, I'm not sure what could cause a desensitising within, other than the obvious - a previous injury or trauma.\n\nI know it's not always an acceptible means, and a somewhat bold suggestion, but perhaps some "self-exploration" (aka mastubation) of yourselves would help each of you find what it is you can feel, and actually feels good to you. You could even do it together. Man, I feel like Dr. Ruth (or Dr. Drew for those too young to remember her) after suggesting that.\n\nAgain, I doubt it has anything to do with size. Women are usually quite sensitive in that general area, and able to feel even the slightest pressure and insertion of "things" (for lack of a better term). If she can feel a finger within her, she should very well be able to feel a penis, too.
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try caressing in general...you have 2 get her 'worked' up..some people orgasm on penetration,what u say whn making love, oral sex...you need to ask this question to ur gf shes b best suited 2 tell u how she C*** :) best luck!
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Explain to her that they are 2 seperate and different feelings for you!  Just like o r a l sex and regular sex feels different for her it does to YOU too!  Tell her every so often you like the o r a l better because its something different for a change for you.  Let her know it you didnt WANT her you certainly wouldnt want THAT either.  Im sure she will understand once she knows its a different feeling for u just like it is for us!  Good luck to u!  Or you can always have her give you o r a l first and then have her jump on and ride u like a carnival pony later!  lol  THAT way you get BOTH things you love all at once!!!  Good luck to u
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Understand one thing, my friend: For alot of women, sex is more then physical. It's emotional as well. For us guys, it's mainly physical. That's what's happening.  She letting her emotions go. Don't make an issue out of it with her.  She may become self-conscious about it. Enjoy it! She obviously feels emotionally connected to you.\nI know I'll take some shots from some guys for this one, but the two of you are making love, not just having sex.
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Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
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She could easily be faking it if those contractions are not present. (I'm a woman, but I've never understood the logic in faking it, when that only promotes the very thing that is leaving us unsatisfied.)... Anyway, I'm pressuming your fingers are inside her, and if so, you should be able to feel those contractions.  No matter how strong our inner muscles are, we can't really fake the strenght and frequency of orgasmic spasms.\n\nSome girls find it difficult to reach orgasm.  Often because of hang-ups or sexual prejudices (sadly, we've still haven't quite  overcome the old teachings that sex was something a man enjoyed and a woman endured.).  If she's relunctant to touch herself, she probably doesn't know how to best stimulate herself and cannot show you what works for her.  If she's not getting as wet as she could, your ministrations might very well irritate her and she's faking it so that you'd stop.  Or she might have some psychological block that prevents her from letting go of herself to that extent.  Orgasm is a very vulnerable time and sometimes it's hard to let go if you don't really trust the person  you're sharing it with.\n\nYou can also tell when a woman is having an orgasm by her coloring.  She would blush basically all over.  Her whole body would become warmer and her breathing should become more shallow (another thing you can't really fake. How self involved does a man have to be to be fooled like that?).  In some cases, you can even see her pulse racing.\n\nBy the way, this is a fairly anonimous site, so I wouldn't worry that she might be upset by you posting this question here.  I wouldn't suggest you discussing it with people close to her, though.\n\nAsk her.  Try to get her to open up.  That's really the best way to find out what she's really feeling... Good luck
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Communicate and then communicate more.  Different people have different ways of feeling secure and loved.  Which does she respond to best?  Gifts?  Doing a favor for her without being asked? Words of assurance and acceptance? \n\nHer way of having her "love tank" filled may be different than yours.  Find out what kind of fuel she needs and I suspect your sex life will improve too.
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It's always like that at first ... you have to get used to her ... you know get comfortable being around her first so the both of you can loosen up a little ... It just takes time... GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS with your new found love!!!
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try not having sex with her for a month, then tie a bow around yourself and stand there naked, but don't initiate anything, just stand there and tell her "I'm here if you want me" and if she doesn't initiate it then i think you should sit down with her and discuss it.  Women often initiate less than men, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.  Maybe she could make suggestions to you that will help her enjoy it more.  Listen, don't preach or judge, just listen.
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I bet she doesnt feel comfortable opening up to you.  Do more mouth zipping and listening, maybe she will come around.
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awww...how adorable!i wish i had a guy that felt like you!i would really love that!especially right now...but anywho, back to your question....what you should try to do now is to be more yourself to her and i bet anything she will more open to you!but hey dont get me wrong shy shouldnt be an issue here...
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You know if it was the first time i'd suspect that she would be sore, but on the other hand just maybe you are not using enough foreplay. After all girls don't usually get ready for sex as fast as boys.There's also a possibility that you are bigger than average size which might hurt her. Have a talk with her ask what hurts her. If you don't how will you know how not to.IF YOU LOVE HER
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girls are very proctective of their feelings because they are unsure on how you would respond.but all girls are not like that. most girls will tell you stright foward how they feel, but in your situation your girlfriend is probably afraid that if she tells you the truth that it could hurt your relationship. im sure if you give her time and make her feel comfortable about the situation she will come around and eventually tell you whatever it is.
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If you don't feel the love, maybe she doesn't.  Communication is always best, so talk to her.  Sometimes actions speak louder than words, i.e., do the two of you truly enjoy each other's company?
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try hugging her like hugging a bolster ..  :) it works..
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Listen up, the sooner you learn this the better.  When to have sex has and will always be her choice.  The best you can hope for is that she feels the same way about you.
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Just ask her!  If you're not convinced with her answer, don't press the issue.  Ask for ways for you to improve her experience.  If she's worried about your feelings, that will give her the opportunity to 'help you along' without embarassment.  Real men appreciate any advice from their lady- so the fact that she offers it- does NOT mean you've been doing it wrong.  And remember, you're not born a great lover, you BECOME a great lover- take any advice graciously.