A parent lives in a nursing home, all expenses paid by the state&VA. How much is expected of the adult child?
362236
It is her job....as a retired RN, I can tell you, nurses get very stressed by extremely demanding/noncompliant patients [which your dad apparently is]...the one thing you could do, if it's financially feasible, is to hire a sitter, so he won't be on the nurses' backs so much, but if you can't, it is, after all their jobs....If he had been a parent that wasn't so difficult earlier in life, I'd say you owe him one, but by the sounds of things, you really have gone beyond the call....do not buy into any of the guilt trips people try to send your way....in my eyes, blood is NOT thicker than water!  Take care of your own self, honey...people like your dad can drain every bit life out of you & you do NOT owe him...
939127
If you are responsible for 50% or more of her living expenses then you can claim her as a dependent if she lives with you or you have her in a qualified assisted living program. Talk to a tax consultant for the details on Filing. I have been taking care of my Mother-In-law for 5 years and claim her as a dependent.
1069903
My father gets extra for family members and some medical help. I don't know how it all works out for sure, but I found a website and you may find some information there?\n\nhttp://www.military.com/Resources/ResourcesContent/0,13964,38349,00.html
587577
Let me ask you a question... Does it cost money to live? Where is your guardian supposed to get the money for your living expenses? I'm assuming that if you have a guardian, that person took you into their home because they chose to not because they HAD to. You sound like you don't appreciate what your guardian is doing for you!! You could be living on the street!
1023710
If you want to give all your grandmother's $ to Banker's Life, then put it in an annuity.  You used to be able to protect $ that way, but not any more.  It might make her money last a little longer, but in the end the insurance company will get it all.  You're better off, at this point, keeping her money and then IF she goes into a nursing home, use her money to private pay.  This way you'll have more say in where she goes, what type of room she gets and the care she receives.  Of course, if you keep her money, you may be able to keep her at home, and that might be the best and cheapest option.
264063
You would need to reside in VA for one year in order to get the in-state tuition price.  Otherwise you will pay out of state for the entire time.  Your residency isn't necessarily relevant for admissions (although it can play a role).\n\n"Q: How long must I be domiciled in Virginia before I can be considered "in-state"?\nA: A student, parent(s) or spouse must be domiciled in Virginia for at least twelve continuous months immediately preceding the first day of classes. This means the student parent(s) or spouse must actually reside in Virginia during this period while simultaneously domonstrating their intent to be domiciled in Virginia. Intent is demonstrated by, among other things, paying resident taxes to Virginia, obtaining a Virginia driver's license, car & voter registrations."\n\nThe best plan going right now is to joing the Virginia National Guard before your freshman year.  They will waive up to 100 pecent of your college fees at Virginia state schools.  Also, you get some decent beer money every month and montogomery GI bill, which might cover your living expenses.  Of course, you might get to go to Iraq or Afghanistan for a year as well, but it didn't hurt me, so you can do it.  If you are a female, don't worry, there are lot's of jobs available.  This is how it works...you do split option training.  Basic training before your freshman year then advanced training before your sophomore year.  That way, you can't be deployed until after your freshman year (there is a fairly low chance anyway, unless you are in certain specialities anyway, like Military Police or civil affairs or transportation) because until you finish advanced individual training you are undeployable, but you still drill and get paid and get the benefits.  Pretty sweet deal.\n\nThe reason for this is that your parent's property and state taxes are going in Delaware's coffers now.  If your parents were savvy and started a 529 fund or a pre-paid tuition plan for you, then you can use it in VA.\n\nAnother option is to move to Virginia after high school, deferring your matriculation one year.  Move to the town where you intend to go and work for a year as wait staff, attending a local community college (they aren't always so strict about residency) to build up credits to get out of the awful freshman classes.  Then enter as a Virginia resident when you are 19.  You might already, with CLEP tests, community college credits, etc, be a sophomore anyway, and save big bucks for the rest of your education.\n\nPS, the above suggestion about using an address is considering fraud, so I would think twice before you do it and make Darenoid an accomplice to conspiracy.
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As far as I've seen, the student is always covered under a parents insurance until he finishes his schooling or turns 24.  The student must be an official resident of the household and a dependent of the parent.  If a student lives in temporary housing due to schooling, he is still considered a resident of the parents home.\n\nIt's possible the people at your father's new job did not understand the situation
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Sorry this is so long, but bear with me.\n\nThe law begins with the premise that you are the father and share in the obligations of your own child's upbringing. What you are asking is to have an exception or an easing of the costs based on need because of financial strain or unfairness due to the inequity of paychecks. Your side will be the one to have to convince and persuade because her side has law. In the end, even a good persuasive argument may not stand if there are no laws with which to draw on in your favor.\n\nLook closely at your side then. I am not trying to attack your side by these questions. I am merely saying that such questions may be asked by the legal decision makers or legal financil aid providers and you need to know your side has the strength to convince. Here are some questions to be prapared on:\n\nIs your limited income due to irresponsibility - Did you have to get a new job because you were fired from your old one? Have you wasted reasonable opportunities to have a better job - For example, do you have a degree and qualifications for a better job but chose a low paying job instead?\n\nWill your income likely grow again in the near future - Eight years ago we moved to a new state and my husband had to begin over again on the payscale. We began that first year on less than 18K, but we moved up quickly to now being quite comfortable by regional average income standards. If you are likely to move up in pay, that will be taken into account especially if you are asking to be excused altogether from the burden of support.\n\nHow much money is needed to raise a child in the location in which this child is being raised - Surely 70K/year would be far in excess of expenses where we live and perhaps where you live. However, if your child is being raise in many of the large cities in the Northeast or California it may take about that much to survive there.\n\nIs the $70K all the income from your wife's side? Has she remarried and has her husband's income too? If so, is that 70K a combined income from her own and her husband's income?\n\nHave you provided more than monetary support? Have you been a father beyond the child support payment? If you have been actively engaged in your child's life you will have a more convincing argument than if you haven't had anything to do with him.\n\nWhat were the conditions leading to divorce? Obviously if divorce occured because she was unfaithful you will have a stronger side than if you were unfaithful or abusive. Some would think that if you messed up in these ways you made your own bed and by paying you are reaping what you have sown.\n\nHaving such information as her being able to afford Cancun while you are barely able to afford groceries is very helpful, but make sure no holes can be poked through it. Did she really use the child support money for that vacation? Was the vacation specifically in the child's interest. It doesn't sound like it, but again it is your side that will have to do the proving not hers.\n\nOK. That is the end of the questions. I hope you understand my motives are just to make you realize that you will be the one with the uphill battle. If you are using an overworked public attorney and she has an elite, smooth talking lawyer your side cannot afford to be unprepared for such questions.\n\nI do feel for you. I want to tell a true story that I feel applies when it comes to grace under unjust circumstances. I know a pastor who lovingly was counciling a man who asked him for help. This guy was having a secret affair with the pastor's wife the whole time that this pastor poured his energies into being a help to him. It all came out when she got pregnant. The pastor wanted to save the marriage in spite of it. Instead, she began lying and demanded a divorce. This poor man lost his pastorate becauset he congregation didn't want a divorced man leading their church. Because he lost that job, he couldn't get full custod
832788
thats a really hard question to answer because of the legality of it from who is going to pay the parent... out nation cant really afford to pay at home parents especially because of this war were in right now.... if this were a perfect world i would say deffinately but i dont really see it being a possibility
996584
Yes it is a Life Estate.  If she moves, though, the estate is terminated, unless it is to somewhere such as a nursing home.  If it is used as a rental, the occupancy is terminated.  The key word is "Occupy".\n\nTechnically, they do have the right to occupy the property as well.  They own it.  Unless there is a stipulation that states she is to pay for everything, she can stop paying the taxes, etc., and it's the owner's responsibility to pay it.  Unfortunately that means all of the children, not just who is living there.\n\nGood luck  :)
262223
Vanguard has very good rates for annuities.  However, if you are making the arrangements, that suggests the geriatric patient may not be in good health, and does not have a long life expectancy.  Annuities are best for people who have a long life expectancy.  You may need to talk to an insurance agent.  Unfortunately, they charge a lot in commissions.\nYou don't make your position clear.  Are you a health care worker and this person is your patient?  Are you a relative, and you're trying to make your parent self-sufficient so you don't have to support them?  The advice is quite different depending on the situation.  Tell us more!
707251
He needs what is called a dependancy waiver.  They are making sure that you will be able to make on the starting pay in the military.  Counting you he has three dependants that he has to care for.  Even though his daughter does not live with him I'm sure he pays child support on her.  They are also going to cover her with the insurance because she is his daughter.  It's really not a big deal.  It'll be fine.
262322
Sounds like you want your mom to have the house if you die or get divorced, and leave your husband with nothing. You can't.\n\nThis is not how a marriage works, usually the husband get the stuff if the wife dies and vice versa. If you want to get around this then your mom should own the house. Not really something you can do since presumably you and your husband are paying for it. If you die and he is still paying how can you say the house should be hers?\n\nIt is quite natural to have a concern for a parent if something happens. Consider instead using a will or living trust to leave her with some money, not all of both of your money, just some. Say you and your husband have $20,000 in a 401k plan, leave up to "your half" of it to her or up to $10,000. Don't be surprised if this upsets him, I know it would me if my wife wanted to give all, or even half of "our" money to her mom. But then she can trust me to give her mom any if she needs it where maybe you can't.\n\nIf you don't have a retirement account of any sort then start two one for your husband and one for you. Put an equal amount into each and when you open the account put your moms name as the benificiary of "yours" and let him have a say in who is the beneficiarry in "his". \n\nMost likely you will outlive your mom so the money will truly be for your retirement. If something does happen then she will have a little money to help her out. That is probably the best you can do.
989169
I would say contact your local Department of Social Services....they may assist in the bill, or pay all of it...or even suggest a location where this service may be free or at least on a reduced pay plan?  Good luck!
992110
I hope you are ready to hear this, but she may be getting ready to die. Have you looked into nursing homes? When it gets to be too much for you to handle, you might want to look into hospice care, they help the patient and the family for the inevitable. But when a person stops eating, they have given up and are preparing to die. When looking at nursing homes, don't get freaked out by the price, because they usually don't stay too long. I'm going through this with my dad right now, actually he wants to go because he knows its getting too hard for mom to take care of him. Best wishes.
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Go to the site below.  Look under Current Compensation Tables.  In order to know the true figure, you will need to know how many dependents (wife, kids, parents) he claims.\n\nThe result will be anywhere from $1,277 to $1,637 (tax free) per month.
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Good for you.I am glad you are taking action.My dad is in a nursing home and they are all bad places.The patients don't get fed all their meals,they are left wet,the are abused both verbally and physically.The pick on the most vulnerable.These nursing homes esp. the ones with the rehab centers are breaking medicare and you and I won't have any retirement money.They are big business and making a living off these folks.Your attorney will try to get a settlement and the nursing home will probably not want to go to court to keep out of the news.The nursing notes will be especially important and don't be surprised if they try to change them.They will also look at the physician's progress notes.You should have gone to the nursing home and requested to see her chart they have to let you and you can get copies for a small copying fee.You'll need help from her doctor.Your attorney will need a legal nurse consultant who can testify that she had negligent care,someone who is a expert in long term care.They are short staffed and don't give a damn about the patients.They are out to make money off this vulnerable population.Write your congressman.Good Luck I hope you win big time.