How do you teach 2 boys under 10 how to behave without yelling at them??
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Show them that actions have rewards and consequences and each individual is responsible for their own actions. Teach them this by setting clear rules with clear consequences when not followed and rewards when they are. It's really as simple as "if you want me to do this, then I expect you to do that" or "I let you have xyz freedom and you didn't follow the rules, so you will have to re-earn xyz freedom"\nMy friend has a teen son who repeatedly takes her car and brings it home hours late without even calling her, I told her to tell him " I'm sorry, you are not allowed to use my car, because I can't depend on you to get it home on time. Find another way to go" If she would show him that she planned to stick to it, he would learn. But she never stood by any rules, that's why he does her that way. You don't have to be mean, just firm and consistent.
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Number one be consistent.  Demand that they are respectful, kind to others, tell the truth, and non-violent.  Put them in a time out chair when they do not listen or take away something that means a lot to them.  Don't letting something be all right one time and not all right the next.  Too many people confuse children this way. However, do not just focus on the negative.  Let your child know when he/she is doing well.  Children love compliments, and they love to make others proud.   If all else fails, call Super Nanny!
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Yes! Let it go.  They want you to react to their pissing and moaning. Who cares if they sigh, as long as they're doing what you've asked them to do? They're playing their role and the children. You should stay strong and continue be the parent.
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It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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One game we used to play in improv class (not sure how old your children are) is to create a story one word at a time. Each child says one word adding on to the story. For ex:\n\nChild 1: "The"\nChild 2 "Bear"\nChild 3 "was"\n\nand so on. It can get quite amusing and helps them develop their intuitive skills.\n\nGood luck!
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Just ignore them. Sooner or later, they'll see that you don't really care, but if you tell them to stop, they'll probably keep being mean.And don't worry about the things they said to you. You probably have a lot of friends. Those boys are just immature brats and don't go near them. GOOD LUCK:)
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explain calmly 2 teacher, ask son/other kids side of story
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Just dont say anything just look at them and say NO, I dont feel like playing your silly little game. Cya later. Then get up and walk(dont run) out of the room. If unable to leave the room just pick up a book and start reading. They have no control over you and connot "make" you do this. They are not teachers and you dont "have" to answer them. Stand up for yourself, If you won't no one else will either.
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Move around alot and over emphasize your actions. Kids like things that change constantly so if you move they will watch you and at the same time be listening.
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I have been teaching young children for twenty years.  We use a variety of behavior management techniques.  Here are a few:\n\nProximity Control:  This is the easiest behavior management strategy, and it works much of the time.  Proximity Control means putting yourself where the action is.  Sit on the floor or at a table with the children.  Play with them or involve them in conversations.  Often just having a teacher nearby prevents problems before they even start.  \n\nModeling:   Children learn from watching us so always think about what you are doing in the classroom.  If you want children to lower their voices, then make sure you’re not yelling.  If you want children to be polite to one another, you also need to be polite.\n\nDistraction:  Sometimes you can head off an inappropriate behavior before it gets out of control, by offering an alternate activity.  This is especially effective with younger children.  \n\nRedirection:  Similar to Distraction, Redirection works by taking the emphasis off the inappropriate behavior and replacing it with a positive behavior.  The difference is that Redirection involves actually moving the child to another area of the room.  For example if two children are arguing about who can build on the block rug, you could help one child find an alternate space to build.\n\nLimited Choices:  If a child is having a difficult time controlling his or her own behavior, we can help by giving more structured choices.  This is especially helpful if a child seems to be overly excited or stimulated by the activity in the classroom.  Make sure the child always has at least three choices to pick from.  (For example, “I’m going to help you calm down a little.  Right now, you can choose to draw, read books or paint at the easel.”\n\nTime Alone:  Sometimes a child has an extreme amount of difficulty controlling his or her behavior and it is necessary to remove the child from other people for a short time.  This is usually only done when there is the threat of danger to the child, another person or equipment.  If you need to remove a child for a short time, find a place where he or she can be alone (within view of a teacher) and give the child something to do. We never use “time-outs” as a punishment.  Our Time Alone is a way for the child to calm down and regain control.  We should not have a child sit alone for more than 3-5 minutes for this age group.\n\n\nLogical Consequences:  Sometimes it is appropriate to give a consequence for a negative behavior.  If you chose to use a consequence as a behavior management technique, there are two things to remember:\n\n1. The consequence always needs to be logical.  This means that it has to make sense to the child.  If a child knocks down a friend’s block tower, it makes sense that he or she helps to rebuild the tower.  It does not make sense for that child to miss gym time later in the day. \n\n2. The consequence should take place as soon as possible after the behavior.  Even our oldest children can’t always remember what they did two or three hours ago.\n\nFamily Support:  We talk to children’s families about their behaviors on a regular basis.  This isn’t so that we can “tattle” to the parents about what happened during the day.  Rather, it is important that the children understand there is a link between school and home, and that the family and teachers are a team.\n\nHope this helps!  Good luck at your interview.
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
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Lots of one year olds aren't talking yet, so don't get too worried.  Set up situations where he has to talk to get the reward - for example he doesn't get the juice until he says "juice".  And don't give him too much pressure - he will talk when he needs to - possibly he gets everything he wants now without having to talk??
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As a male, he is by nature aggressive, you cannot and should not try to teach him not to be aggressive.  You can, however, teach him control.  Let him know he has choices he can make in his behavior.   Get him in to sports or some other physical activity that will keep him moving and expending energy.  Guys hormones just do that to them.  If he is just a toddler, play, rough and tumble (and I do mean tumble, teach him somersaults) helps with balance and coordination and helps in falling skills in older children. When you know the child will fall, they need to know how to do it properly to avoid injury.\n\nIt's very hard to teach a child not to hit, this seems to be an ingrained protective response.  The child has not learned the differences in pain.  Physical pain vs. emotional pain.  All they know at this time is  They Hurt D-a-r-n it! (typed the regular way it looked like the OTHER word)  I did, however let him hit back IF the other child hit him more than once.   Turn the other cheek doesn't work well with children, and they need to know they have a right to defend themselves.  By allowing one hit  and not  cringing, his behavior would show the other children that he understood the hitter was upset and his character was big enough to allow that one hit. After that, it was self preservation.\n\nThis stood him in good stead.  The teachers in seeing this type of behaviour could see he didn't want the fight but was pressured to ingage. \n\nThe best you can do is teach him to think, and to think clearly and to see where his actions can lead.  When my son was in 2nd grade, he was suspended for throwing acorns.  After speaking with the Principal, my son and I sat down on a bench outside  under the Principal's office window and discussed the punishment.  It was during recess and I pointed out the acorn war going on to the oblivion of the teachers.  I explained why he was being punished.  The Principal overheard, came out and reduced the punishment to just the rest of the day.\n\nOn the way home in the car I gave him my true thoughts on the situation.  By seeing the example on the playground, and what resulted from our conversation, he realized that words of negotiation need to come first, then physical action is not always required.  People behave badly when they feel threatened.\n\nI apoligize for the long anecdotes.  After that long explanation, I now tend to believe you may have intended the word violence.  Thank you.
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Well, if it's really small children, it's a good idea to get at their eye level when you talk, that way you're not so intimidating. dont use unnecissarily long words, but dont dumb it down too much for them- they can think, too. Like anyone else, they want to be listened to1 If you ask them to talk about something, listen and respond to what they say! dont just set them off rembling and then direct your attention elsewhere. : D. Also, a good way to get kids to maybe stop doing something they shouldnt be is the 'I know...But...' format. Such as, 'I know you want to play for five more minutes, but our dinner will get cold if we dont leave now' \n\nI hope this helps a bit!
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Hi! mom of 2 boys here 11m & 2yr.  I chat occasionally in Yahoo's Parenting chat rooms.  Just ignore the bots!!
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I have a 6 year old boy. you are not alone. Kids are smart and they quickly learn how to get their way if the parents allow.  Try to sit down just you and him, in a place where there is nothing to distract him, and talk to him.  Don't stand over him since kids find that intimidating but look at him at eye level.  Let him know how much you enjoy doing things with him but there is a time and place for everything.  Kids need boundaries, and the crying is most likely a way of him getting what he wants. When it comes to behavior don't bribe him, but reward him.  When he cries, I know it's hard, but LET HIM CRY.  Say he doesn't cry for a while or doesn't start a tantrum, tell him how well behaved he is, and give him a little treat, cookie, stickers, extra 15 minutes watching tv. It is important to be positive towards a child. Kids are always looking for approval specially from parents and believe me you will see little changes. Remember you are the parent not his friend.  he has to respect you and the fact that you are the adult.\nAs to the anti-social, try to bring him around other kids more often like the playground, or mcdonnalds playcenter, places like that.  Even if he doesn't go off and play with them, he will watch and see how much the others are having fun, and soon enough he will want to play too.
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There's an article called "Manners and Etiquette resources for kids online". There are different links to follow and it is quite interesting.