What do you think about arrange marriages?
373215
If you are forced into the marriage do you think they might be forced to be together?  I don't believe it in.  We should have freedom of choice to fall in love with whoever we want.  Everybody deserves to be in love with their mate.  Even choice marriages lack love.
705601
If you're going to be married, you better learn to compromise now.  In the end, is it really that big of deal?  If it means that much to him to have a ceremony, it would be nice to accommodate him and make him happy.
342497
I'm sure it's questionable for some people, but I have a feeling that it would be perfect for others. As people age, they are not looking so much for passion, but for true and loyal companionship. It seems that with this kind of arrangement, an American guy who has done well for himself can help out a woman from another country to share in his success, and in return she will take care of him and be good to him. If both parties go into it with the right attitudes, it seems like a good thing to me. My dad's cousin is a nice fella, but a bit homely and odd. He got his bride from Russia about 9 years ago and they are still going strong!
596529
Yes, I believe if two people are in love, they should be able to wed. If they want to make that kind of a commitment and are that secure in their relationship, which I doubt I will EVER be that secure, let them have at it!! I do have a problem with them raising kids though. And I would hate to see a divorce between 2 gay men. That would be one hell of a cat fight!! I think a lot of people are coming around to this point of view since a lot of states have legalized same sex marriages. It was a very good thing indeed!! Thank you for asking!!
394882
I believe.\n\nIt's the people who say that Marriage is sacred that are destroying it. All love is beautiful and Marriage is a social contract that two people deeply in love make. If you want to make holy pacts as well that's fine. I think people expect too much out of marriage, it doesn't fix problems and if you are not willing to adapt then you will likely have a troubled marriage. Compatibility is also a problem.\n\nI completely believe in all love. I think that same-sex marriage should be legalized, because to deny them that is like saying marriage isn't about love at all.\n\nHypocrisy breeds Chaos. When you try to limit who can participate in something like marriage or what kind of marriage another person should have, you begin to destroy what it should be about.\n\nWhen we accept marriage as a social contract between two people in love, and stop putting rules and control on it. Then people will stop getting married for the purpose of being married and there will be less problems with it.\n\nAs for cheating, I cannot understand why anyone would cheat in a relationship. I could never dream of doing that to someone I love. Though it might just be that you don't truly love the other person, you just enjoy the feeling of going through the motions of having a relationship.
1174446
I'm perfectly fine with the idea of gay marriage. Perhaps those against gay marriage just done want to be outdone by spectacularily fab weddings that are sure to be the result of gay weddings. On the downside, if gay weddings would be lavish, tastefull affairs can you imagine how nasty a gay divorce would be! Yes, I am being silly, but in all seriousness I think that whoever wants to get married should be able to.
989428
OK, we get it.  Your question is tongue in cheek.\n\nWell, one reason they should be allowed to marry is, their ceremonies would be ...... FABULOUS!\n\nAlso, if you don't like them, remember.... the divorce rate is 50%, so you'd be doing a disservice to half these people.
631882
Arranged marriages have their own benefits and disadvantages.\n\nTo get an understanding of this you need to know how the process works:\n\n1. When a person is ready to get married, his/her family spreads the word around.\n\n2. Family and friends recommend matches to the potential bride/grooms family. The recommendations are based on other family having compatible value systems, and compatibility in terms of social standing etc.\n\n3. The family then contacts people who know the other family to know more about the personality of the bride/groom, the parents of the bride/groom etc. (believe me, you can always find mutual contacts if you use your social connections just right  )\n\n4. They then contact the family, and propose a match.\n\n5. The other family does the same background check and if it all works out, they decide to meet and introduce the potential groom and the potential bride to each other.\n\n6. The two people then get an opportunity to talk to each other (unsupervised), and understand each other's perspective (may happen over one meeting or a couple of meetings -- similar to dating).\n\n7. If at this point the man and the woman like each other, then they tell the parents, and the marriage planning starts.\n\n\n\nThis process if done properly has a number of advantages:\n\n1. Both people have the same value systems, and have views on money, investment, which reduces the chances of friction. Remember: Most divorces in the western world happen because of money, or opposing value systems.\n\n2. Because both people don’t know each other as well, there is a greater amount of flexibility when they do get married (the bar is set lower because both do not know what to expect), so both partners are willing to work on issues. \n\nCompare this to love marriages, where both are getting married at an emotional high, both have seen the best of each other, and the bar is set very high -- in this situation, it is easier to fail meeting the other persons expectation.\n\n3. Because the families were involved when setting up the match, there is a lot of family support if there are problems in the marriage. Both families will get together to help/pressure the couple in solving their problems. \n\nThis may sound intrusive to a westerner, but this does help the marriages work out.\n\n\n\nThat said the disadvantages are:\n\n1. This system is only supports marriages if both the families belong to the same social level such as caste, money etc. \n\n2. Sometimes, strong willed parents may arm twist their kids into getting married even if they are not ready.\n\n3. Sometimes families may overlook checking for compatibility in value systems because the other family is very rich/powerful -- this is a sure fire recipe to unhappiness.
17800
You shouldn't really look at it from its advantages or disadvantages. Advantages are plenty, but so are the disadvantages. I think you should really ask yourself if you REALLY WANT TO GET MARRIED or not.
995885
Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. Parents make use of maturity and wise decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The mature decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern
565239
They vary widely based upon the perceived value of what they are offering.  Most are likely to be a huge waste if you discount for the number of true matches defined as : successful marriages that they facilitate.
1032560
what is it an arranged marriage? you should talk to your father and tell him that you want to speak to him and get to know him a little better before you marry him
877282
First love. Then marriage. Married life might turn out to be unhappy in the long run as the pot of love is half empty before marriage. \nHahahaha...don't worry its better than arranged marriages as you have a good idea of your would be spouse before you wed him/her.
894031
I think they should be able to marry...you can not help who you like and who you fall inlove with_
190005
Yes, very much so.  Not a complex situation here.  Have such types married and lived a long life together.  Yes.  But let's look at quality of life here.  You do best in your comfort zone.
245441
You would be surprised at some of the reasons some people marry. But being able to tolerate them is a priority. \nStrange. LOL
1095831
I agree.  Any marriage between two consenting adults, be it gay, lesbian, interracial, or interreligious, is perfectly fine in my eyes.  Love is love and should be honored, not condemned.