What to do??? Husband walks out on wife and child.....?
356278
it's easy to answer this. i have several for you to consider:\n\n1) if you're a God-fearing woman, you would let him back in the family as he IS your husband (considering neither he or you got re-married). a marriage, in God's eye, is sacred.\n\n2) if you don't care about God, and all you think about is you and your child, let him out of the family. he's hurt you and your kid already...what are the chances of him hurting you again?\n\n3) if all you care about is yourself, seek professional help.\n\n4) if you also care for your child growing up with a full set of parents, invite your husband back. do whatever it takes to make it work, keeping your child in the center of your relationship.\n\n#4 worked for me and my wife. we had a terrible time but we both agreed that our kids (ages 5 and 2) don't deserve not having the other parent. we love our kids so much that they helped us withour marriage, believe it or not. of course, I prayed to God everyday to help us inprove our marriage and I'm sure my wife did too!
244620
There is no doubt you should leave.  You need to because it is what is best for you and for your kids.  It also may be the only way he will reach rock bottom and truly work on his problems.  You and the kids deserve a life as hard as it may be that isn't lived around him and his problems.  You've given all you have to this marriage but he obviously refuses to give as much of himself.  You deserve more, and your kids deserve more.
727306
Wow this is one for the books.Don't they realize how they are hurting your children and there very own son.does your husband have brothers & sisters.If he does he should try getting in there good grace.The way they are treating you after loseing your baby I really don't know why you would want anything to do with them.It was their grand child. Good kuck,but I think you should move on with your own family.
670046
Listen honey I have been in a bad relationship myself and know where you arecoming from you have to stand up for yourself and move on you say you can't leacve Why? they have got you to the point where you are wallowing in self pity just as they like you. What is happening here is domestic abuse and it has to end before you end first. For your childrens sake leave him if he don't like it tell him where to go ****himself or tell him if he loves you to stand up to his family for you though from the sound of it he is week as s**t no man should ever allow anyone including his family to run you down. I wish i could do more for you but sadly I can't if you need to chat though send me an email and I will keep chatting and offering no strings advice I am a voluntary member of the samaritans and will make timwe to chat if you need me.
151641
If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
601971
I am sorry, but that is pretty much the stupidest reason I have ever heard for leaving your husband esp. if you gots kids - you need some serious help...
761878
Go to your husband's parents!\n\nFailing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.
635403
You need to get a different perspective - change your job.  You also need to develop a different strategy over your children.  Put yourself in a position that shifts the focus from the difficulties you have with your wife  that will continue obviously at least for the present, so that your children are not affected at least by your side of the argument.  They need you to be there and be strong.  They need a frame of reference with their father that will steady them and keep them grounded.  Kids pick up instability in their parents very quickly.  Do not do anything rash but continue on being a stable, grounded human being yourself and put your own issues with your wife away.  The kids now need a new life with both of you.  Please make the journey for them is as free from your own and your wife's issues as possible.  They do not need the bitterness, retaliation or confusion that comes with this.  As for God - pray and ask His direction.  He loves your kids too so you definitely need His wisdom.  Ask for it - you will get it.
1168903
First off, what did you do to make your wife leave? Because you probably did something wrong. Second, praying probably won't help you at this point. She's gone, homie.
251968
This really depends on the exact reason he left like the others said.  My opinion would be if you truly wanted him back.  No man should leave his family because he is having some personal life changing issue.  My husband and I have literally been to hell and back and not once have we ever walked out on each other.  The key is open communication.  You obviously didn't have enough open communication for him to just leave.  My husband and I talk through everything.  We always keep our kids in mind when making any life changing decisions.  Kids are too young to understand and more often than not will blame themselves for what has happend with their parents.  \n\nIf he comes back or more importantly, if you decide to allow him back after this, you both need to have a very long talk and seek some sort of counseling.  Either professional or through a church.  He seems to be too young to have to walk out or leave his family.  In my opinion, he either wasn't ready for his family, or he is too self centered to care about how you and the children would react to it.  You MUST have an open relationship!  For better or for worse!  Isn't that what you said when you go married.  He should have thought about that then.  \n\nYou shouldn't put up with it.  If I were you, I would have a change of life yourself.  Two can play the game.  Keep your head up and don't let this get you down.  Let him see you are not concerned with the fact that he is gone and that you are perfectly capable of doing it on your own.  I'm not saying it will be easy, but look at your kids and know that no matter what you will never leave them and you will be there for them until the day you die.  That will pull you through.  \n\nI pray for the best for you.  Good luck and God Bless Y'all!!
785101
From a woman's point of view it sounds like she's not over your husband. She's aware the little boy is the last link to their relationship and she's refusing to move on. The fact that the hubby has moved on and married you has made her want him back. There's no easy way out of this one. If you guys ignore her, she may well pull the little boy away or become a bigger problem than she is already. But if you are too reasonable she will walk all over you. Just be assertive without being rude (i know it's hard!) and be there for the little boy. His relationship with his dad should be of the most import to his mum and everyone involved. Hope you can work it out...good luck.
48491
Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.
288524
What would *I* do?  I'd take the kids somewhere safe (and our bags, because we're leaving at this point), be sure to p*ss him off real good when he comes home, have an all-out brawl in the living room, and after I've made my point, go to a good shelter.\nIf you're in this situation, and you wonder what I think YOU should do...  I think you should get in touch with your local police station, any churches, social services, etc., and find out how to contact your local womens' shelter.  Call them, and ask if they have room for you and the kids.  If they don't, get a list of other places nearby (we have 5 or so within 2 hours of here), and call them too.  If they do, only pack what you will need, and the childrens' favorites, and get gone.  Don't worry about food and clothes and toiletries if you're in a particular hurry, because they have TONS of that stuff donated all the time, and it's in storage.  If there's something you need that they don't have, they'll get it (like special formula for babies, etc.)\n\nI've stayed in a shelter like this.  They're great.  If you need to get out, do it.  Before he kills you, or he drives you crazy enough to kill him.
307795
Get all the pics and other evidence and then sue his girlfriend for Alienation of Affection. She took your husbands affections away from you and the kids. Once you win in court, have her paycheck Garnished. \n\nNow that you've done this, DIVORCE THE SOB!!
700602
Ugh...what a mess. Look, no one is perfect and there are a ton of people on here who will tell you what a bad person you are because of this scenario. First and foremost, please remember no one has the right to judge you. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone hurts people...nobody is above this. Please don't listen to all the horrible words posted here. It doesn't make you a "bad" person...but you are troubled and confused and this situation is only going to lead to so much hurt and pain for so many people, especially the kids. I hate to say this, but most likely he will stay with his wife. I know you love him and can't imagine a life without him, but you have to right now. You're both obviously in marriages that aren't working. This is where you need to focus your efforts right now. If you're so in love with him wouldn't you want him fully devoted to you? I thought so. And if he truly loves you, then he'll want to be with YOU and only you. For your own health, well-being and safety, stay away from this right now. If there's any hope for the two of you, it will be later on when all the issues have been dealt with and all the pain has healed. I wish you all the best.
468660
To F*uck his wife & have kids.
434484
Talk to a lawyear. You can't just leave while court in underway. You need to try and win sole custody of your children than you can leave the state. The thing is, you need to prove to court that you are afraid of your husband, and that you are afraid he might hurt the kids. Lawyer will help you put everything together, use your bad experience with your husband as evidence for abuse. If you ever went to hospital or kids because of his abuse use that even if you said you/they fell.