My boyfriend cheated on me he wants me to forgive him but I dont think I can!?
357900
You can't when ever you try to be intimate you will think he is thinking of someone else and you will never be able to trust him. You could look on the bright side that you aren't married to him. You have to think more of yourself and tell yourself that you deserve someone who will be faithful.The first time he cheats and hurts you it's not your fault. The fault comes when you let him have a chance to cheat again. And im sorry to say once a cheat always a cheat. If he loved you so much he could betray you once he will betray you again. Good luck
234936
It takes time, patience and a real willingness to want to forgive and forget.  If you can't forgive and forget, then you will never learn to trust again.  Think of it this way.  No one is perfect, even you and I have made and will continue to make mistakes (sometimes big ones).  Just give yourself PLENTY of time and take baby steps.  It may take a few years even, but if the relationship(s) are better afterwards, it will be worth your while.
399703
yes i think it's time to forgive him....put the past behind you he may be a diferent person....give him a chance.
233835
You should move on!! To start with he cheated on you and even after you forgave him which i never understand that but people do he still lied to you about little stuff. This guy you will never be able to trust. You have already given him too much information to play you with. He knows that you still love him and that you think of him all of the time and its hard for you to move on talking to him. So the next time he calls blow his mind. Tell him your fine just been hanging out with friends and even found a guy that caught your eye. I bet that will end that. Dont subject yourself to being hurt again. There is more than one guy out there and you deserve a good one!! Move on and dont look back.
189016
You sound like your having break-up remorse. First of all could you forgive him for what he did if he did do it? Lets just say he did, do you love him enoughf to let it go? You have to have relationships with trust, trust is the most important part in a relationship. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Also remember that there are alot of potential people out there. Everytime I broke up with a girl I dreaded it and wanted her back, then when I took her back, I really wish I didn't because all I thought about was why I broke up with her in the first place.
481489
I have to much respect for myself to EVER stay with a man who cheated on me. Regardless if he begged for forgiveness or not. You should move on to someone who truly respects you.\n\n\nhttp://groups.myspace.com/closetednerd
412387
Once someone cheats on you there is no going back.  I tried the whole forgiveness thing with my fist wife and ultimately it is something you just can't get out of your mind and since he already cheated on you before it is much easier to do it again.  I think he blew his chance with you and you will be better off with someone else.
603710
It's worth trying.If he's still with you that means that he's got strong feelings for you but he also can't get over the fact that you have cheated on him becouse he THINKKS you don't care for him as much as he does for you.\ndon't play games with him.if you love him too,try to get his trust again..
1041332
wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
872422
Sounds like you are having second thoughts about giving him a second chance.  Not only did he break the trust in your relationship, but he did a little shattering of your confidence too.  You can't let anyone shatter your confidence, so if this is torturing you and making you think thoughts that are killing you, then it may be something you need to let go of.  When you forgive someone that means letting go of all the hurt and moving on to the next step and it seems like something that you are not able to do.  If you love him and you think that he is heartily sorry for what he did, then let it go and move on with your relationship.  If not, then you need to let him go and do whatever he has to do and you go do what you have to do.  It sounds like you still think he is misleading the both of you and you can't live like that!  It will kill you!  Make that decision on your own, don't wait for it to backfire.  Usually your first mind is your right mind. You are more important than anything.  I was in a situation like that once and it didn't work out for the good, not saying that is the case with your situation, but you should always go with your first mind. I know it will be hard, but it will work out better in the long run.
41703
I wish I could say "forgive" and forget. But "once a cheater-always a cheater." Actually, if you will listen to the wisdom that is inside of you, you already know what to do . . . \n\nThe reality is that being able to cheat is a huge character flaw. It means that person does not respect you or themselves. Plus, that person is able to lie and not feel guilty enough about it to break and tell the truth. I am no kid ~~ and if you are young, please learn from those of us who have been around the block and few times ~~ respect yourself and without a lot of drama -- tell the guy goodbye.  \n\nAre there ever cheaters who change? Yes, but you will find that those who have usually had a deep life-changing religious experience. Those who are "sorry" and say "they will never do it again" without a deep internal overhaul, are the ones who cheat again. \n\nI have experienced it all. I have been cheated on, I have been hurt until I didn't think I could hurt any more, I have forgiven, and I have been hurt right back again. This is not a vindictive response. This is a word from one older sister to a younger one -- stay away from the cheaters. They will only break you heart.
75868
Confront him first. If he blames you for his cheating and shows no remorse then give him the boot!
244072
Even if it wasn't physical it sounds like it was emotional and that is still an affair.  He gave his feelings and heart to another woman, just not his body or so he says.  He has no right to think that forgiveness should be easy or that he should be forgiven at all.  You need to decide what is best for you and what you want in the future.  If you feel that you can't truly love him or trust him ever again then you need to end this relationship and find a man who will love you and only you.  Personally I think if he really loved you he would realize that there is no way forgiveness could be an easy thing or think he actually deserved it.
831100
I've been there done that and i wouldn't make it easy for him if i did take him back. You need to make sure that your the one that he wants and he's threw messing around on you and if he feels the need to cheat on you again he needs to be man enough to tell you that he wants to see someone else. Tell him he has to earn your trust back.
491967
Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
309031
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!