How can you recover after a break-up? When do you know you no longer love him?
369066
You recover by taking care of you! I think a part of you will always love him, but at a different level. You will learn to go on and find a new love that you will love differently than the last. The love may not be a relationship, it could be a passion for a sport or activity that you discovered you enjoy but never did because you were in a relationship. Find a Friend and vent to her keep it between the two of you the more people you talk to about it the better the chance he will find out. The best thing for you is to know that you are going to survive and everyday is a new day and one day you will not so much remember the pain and will be thankful that you loved him and even more thankful you are not with him because of the great relationship you have. Without the bad relationships that ended you wouldn't have the opportunity to be thankful for the great relationships yet to come. Good luck to you.
64486
The main thing I would do is get my mind aff that subject. If you r always thinking about the break-up, then you will always be moping around. I recommend doing something physical like swimming or jogging etc. You could also paint or hang out with friends. Do you know someone who usually always makes you laugh? Hang out with that person. Try to be as happy as possible. Good luck!
730884
No one here can help you truly heal. \nReading your question brings me back about a year ago when my relationship ended after about 4years together. I really thought that i was going to die. And all my friends kept on telling me that time would heal my heart and while i am waiting the time away i needed to just surround my self with friends and family and keep my self busy. All good and well and so i did and the time did heal me a bit i stop crying every night and i was able to get back into the swing of things however every now and again i am taken back to that time and i face that same pounding in my chest and that feeling of heaviness on my heart Anything can trigger it but i find that a song or a smell and of course the Holidays.. This will be the second thanksgiving apart now i am in a new relationship but i will never forget that one love of a lifetime.\nI wish you well and know that you are not alone in your hurting.. \nAnd one more time Only time can heal your broken heart.
667808
Depends on how did you hurt him. Was it by not being faithful to him while being away from him coz that is the most difficult thing to recover. You could still try this..\n\nIf it was anything else and you are really serious about getting back with him, leave your ego, take a break go to him...fall on your knees, do anything that you think you must to tell him that HE is the LOVE of YOUR LIFE and you would DO anything to have him back..From my standpoint I don't think EGO should come in between when you love someone absolutely and want him to know that...
168306
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
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go and talk to him...tell him you missed him..and ask for forgivness if it is possible.\n\nsomethimes we should try to be humble and admit our mistakes..or even if we were right, we should do it for getting back our ex...\n\nshow love and kindness..;
1169936
Your a mess right now.  What you need is TIME to heal your emotional wounds.  If you are certain it is over (that is, if he has made that clear to you,) then I suggest you try to fall out of love with him.  Think of his flaws and maginify them in your mind.  Pick up a book called how to fall out of love.\n\nThose are just a couple of suggestions.  Good luck.\n\nm
945796
When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
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If you figure it out, please let me know!  I am trying to do that myself.  It has taken me about a month of being on my own to actually be able to look back and realize little things in our relationship that could have been better, and that is helping.  It is also helping that I am starting to see him not as the perfect person I thought he was, and that I am getting angry with his behavior.  But even after being angry and noticing flaws in our relationship, I still love him, and I have no idea how to stop that.
341317
AS in you broke up and are getting back together? \n\nAbsolutley NOT. Things have changed and you have to accept it....you relationship will NOT be the same.
521807
Hi hun, I am sorry you are struggling through this. Breaking off a close relationship is difficult and especially if the relationship is an intimate one. However, you feel that you need to do this so regardless if you get back together or not then you need to reconcile why you are feeling this way.\n\nRight now, take a moment.. an hour... a day... and get away from the phone, the TV, and the computer. Get outside or go somewhere it is peaceful and relaxing. Go to a bookstore go somewhere where you can take a look at yourself.\n\nAsk yourself: Why are you in a relationship if you don't know what you want out of a relationship or life? If you don't know what to do with this relationship how can you ever know what to do in any other relationship? Who are you? What do you want out of life? What are your dreams, your goals, your beliefs? Does this person want the same things? Until you can honestly answer these questions you will never no how to set boundaries and you'll cling onto a relationship just becasue someone makes you feel good. Then, one day you will wake up and realize that you made a big mistake. You'll wake up and realize that you helped someone else live thier life but you lost your identity. Don't do that to yourself.\n\nStart taking care of yourself by doing a self inventory as I mentioned above. At the same time, think about your past relationships and your family relationships and get to know who you are and see if you can identify codependancy and healthy relationships. Look at your relationship models and see what you've learned.\n\nRemember to take care of yourself by eating right, getting plenty of sleep, exercising, and to take care of yourself spiritually and emotionally. This is so very important. Talk and enjoy yourself with healthy friends. Go to a healthy church if you're into that.\n\nWhatever you do, don't let his pleadings and charm get in the way of you taking care of yourself. Until you find out who you are and what you want out of life you'll have difficult times with your relationships. Oh, by the way, please stay out of another relationsip for quite a few months until you work on yourself.\n\nI suspect you are a beautiful and wonderful person inside. So, treat yourself right. It is not selfish to discover yourself. Your future husband and a healthy family comes from an honest inventory.\n\nBlessings
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even though we say that he is no good for us..we still continue to miss and love that person..and that is the right way to heal..admit that you do or did love that person..next just reassure yourself that you WILL be fine..if you need to cry.. cry..let it out...I wish I could tell you move on..but the truth is that the sh*t hurts like hell..you heart is hurting..part of you feel like you cant go on...\nit took me 2 years to get over a guy that i feel in love with..I remember those sleepless nights..all to well..I loved that guy soo much and it hurt me to know that he could sleep with me and act like he wanted me ..but thats all he wanted was to sleep with me...and to be honest from time to time I still think about him....but today i am glad that we are not together...he is who he is and he likes what he likes...I have moved on but honestly if I see him today..i know that apart of me will melt..sometimes in life we have that one guy that just does this sh*t to us....treat us like sh*t..uses us only for sex..cheats.. lie..and all in all we still fall in love with them and they make us weak in the knees....he is one that we surrender to..\ngive it time...just accept all the emotions you are going through.\npray...good luck
61190
i know that it hurt and it way take time to get over him. it hurt because you put your feeling inside this relationship an you thought that yall was going to be together. you will be ok. so smile.
970987
get over him by making your self feel better. by this i mean go out and buy all new clothes, get a sexy hair cut and make him look at you. some call this retail theropy! the best answer i can give you is try and be round people as much as possible. i just broke up with my boyfriend and now i live by myself and its very deppresing. and always remember never leave the one you love for the one you like coz the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
307737
What you have to do is remember that you're x's for a reason, don't dwell on all the happy, romantic stuff that went on with you and him, think of why you broke up and how you felt and what the problems were.  There's always a good reason why we break up with someone.
627991
Time will heal any emotional attachments you had to him. Feel free to move on with your life at any time now...
288855
I'm going thought the same thing right now, he actually told me that he doesn't want me to call him anymore because every time we talk we get into an argument, regardless of all the crap we went through i still love him, i don't know your situation, but honestly there is nothing that you can actually do to get over somebody that you really really love, just live your life and eventually the feelings will die out. what you can do though is just go out and mingle with other people, i find that this is very helpful, hope ive helped!