Is it wrong to still love your ex when both of you have moved on?
366390
You can tuck your X away in a little area of your heart.  But to fully move on, I believe you need to keep him out of your head. I also believe that you both broke up for a reaon.(or reasons)  However you may be remembering only the good times.  And NONE of the bad.  That is very common.
291350
really, you're not still in love with them. you just miss them, and don't get me wrong, you probably still love them. but being in love and loving someone are 2 completely different entities. you remember all the good stuff, and forget about why you broke up in the first place. if you were the one to break it off, then you've forgotten what it was that they did. if they broke it off, then you're definitely barking up the wrong tree. setting yourself up to be hurt again.
40252
You have to follow your heart.  if you don't have feeling for the person you're with, it's time to move on.  It's near impossible to not hurt who your with now, but in the long run you're going to feel better for it.  Plus, it'll spare the person your with of even more grief in the future.
610723
you don't do nothing, case closed, if you have moved on, and you have no feelings for your ex, leave it alone. you can't help who likes you in your lifetime, just don't do nothing to act on anything that will mess up your current relationship.
95659
I think dating someone new is ok as long as you realize that you are still getting over the other person. It is important to not use the person to help your hurt feelings go away. Let the other person know you are fresh out of a relationship and not ready to take it farther,
380373
if he's still single yes. coz there might be a chance that u and him get back together...coz thats what i still feel about my ex. but hey! if he's not. then i think it would be better for u to move on.. unless ur ex feels the same with u..then wait for him patiently until the time he made up his mind and wants u back.
527247
It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
141126
Firstly, I personally believe you can never completely stop loving someone if you truely loved them once. So yes, in my opinion it is possible for you to get some of your old feelings back when you meet your ex again. I guess if that happens, then you have to weigh up your options and decide what is best for you and what direction to take.
409177
you should tell the person you're with now your true feelings, that you love him, you care for him, and love him.. but you still have feelings for your ex... tell him that you're sorry, and didn't want to hurt you.. but he's gonna hurt more if you stayed dishonest to him.. tell him that he'll find the right "one" for him, and you're not the "one" for him.. and when you've done that.. maybe now you can work things out with your ex! tell him that you still have feelings for him, and that you couldn't stop thinkin bout him! =)
286110
You still have unresolved issues. No matter what the circumstances, when we leave things undone or unsaid we keep reliving those moments. You can truly love a person even though they didn't treat you well or love you back. I don't know why we do this either, but don't let your past ruin your future. If you need closure from your ex then by all means get it. Good Luck.
941972
Let it go, mate. It's just a fantasy that has been cooking away in your mind for years. Aside from the fact that you both broke up for a reason, 30 years on you are both different people.\n\nYou'd be much better off channelling your energy into finding someone who wants you for who you are now. Stop looking into the past for something that never was - look into the future!
1172068
No one can answer that question for you.  Only you know whether you are emotionally ready to commit to someone else yet.  I would be suspicious, however, if it was less than six months or a year after a relationship as important as the one you describe.  But people vary, and maybe you just lucked out and found the right guy.\n\nHowever, ask youself these questions:  \n1) Are you sure that you are not just looking for *anyone* to love you, after the hurt and rejection of your breakup?  Would you love the new guy if you had met him first?  IIn other words, be sure you are not grabbing for validation.rather truly in love.\n2) Is there any chance that you are attracted to the new guy because he is the opposite of the old one?  This is trickier, because you certainly don't want to end up with another guy who is just like the one you broke up with.  But some people swing too far in the other direction when they are on the rebound, and you need to watch out for that.  Obviously, there were *some* things about the ex that you found good, or you would not have been together for so long.  So decide whether the new guy is a real improvement over the old one, or just very different.\n\nGood luck!
657654
Obviously they are not over yet. If you love him, set him free. He needs to be reminded of why she is his ex. Give him some time.\n\nYou will not have trust now. You cannot have love without trust. Love is action. His actions do not show love.\n\nI know people make mistakes, but this sounds like the beginning of a bad relationship. Free him now before it gets out of hand.
524448
I understand about still loving your ex, I was married and when i got divorced I remained good friends with my ex, we still love each other but are no longer in love. This has been hard for many people to accept. It is the general opinion that you should hate your ex when you break up, I disagree, if  we didn't get along well then i never would have loved him in the first place. when people tell me that i am wrong for having my ex husband as my best friend I tell them to suck eggs. \nI don't think you should go back to your ex if you are not in love with him anymore, however I see no reason to stop loving and being friends with him.\nAs for the new guy, its a sticky situation, jealously and trust issues always are. I refuse to be in a relationship with someone with trust issues because its too stressful. For me it has to be perfect love AND perfect trust or I get out as fast as i can.
221280
well, old feelings, however bruised, can still be revived. most of the time, some people can accept the fact that they have moved on and found another lover, but not until the love replaced was greater than the previous one. if you want to try reconsidering old feelings, then make sure your promises this time are real.\n\noh, and by the way... HI MISS TRINA!!! ~^_^~
111090
In most cases it's best you just let go of the past and try to move on. It also depends a lot on how things ended and how things currently stand. My thought is, if it didn't work the first time for obvious reasons then chances are it probably wouldn't work out now. A few of my X boyfriends have proven to me after quite some time why it was best to end the relationship and never venture down that path again. The best advice I can give is just to move on and find someone to start something new with someone who is right for you NOW --besides fresh new starts are always a lot more fun anyways.
144545
GOOD question. It all depedns on both of your levels of maturity and self-restraint. If you had a good freindship before you might be able to keep it up after. Just be willing to distance yourself from him/her in the event you find someone to be intimate with. It never works out with your current man/woman to be spending too much time with the ex. Too much opportunity for "heart string pulling". As long as you have rules and bounderies things should work. I'm fine with my ex. She has the kids, her new girlfriend...No reason to be bitter. It's just how life panned out. Good Luck!