My husband and I are invited to a wedding, do we take our 10 month old daughter?
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Please don't.\nEven if your kid is the best in the world, that is asking a lot from a toddler.\nDo you have a relative that can baby sit?\nWhat about a professional sitter at the wedding or near the wedding location?
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bride..and best wishes!!\nif you wanted to try and include your parents on the invite, you could do: Suzy and Tom, together with their parents, request your presence...
471187
Your fun may just be beginning. My daughter started at 12 and outgrew it at 19. Things got so bad that I let her go life with her permosques dad. She ended up living on her own at 17. Sometimes we must let go so they can grow. It sounds harsh but you must stick to your morals and principles. My heart goes out to you. To be honest, giving her to God was the only thing to do. She is now the mother of two. Her and her husband are so king and loving. It just takes time and patience.
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She was moving too fast as far as your daughter was concerned. Three months is not that long really, and if you had a problem like this with her this early in the relationship with her not be understanding about the sleeping arrangement, then she will not be understanding about other things that have to do with your kids. She is immature, and you are better off finding someone who has the same family values as you do. She wasn`t putting your daughter`s needs ahead of her own, and that is childish. You need someone who will think of others before themselves.
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its your wedding, you can have it anyway you want. I have 15 year old twins too, I know it might seem better that they are 15 but I have decided that they will be 2 of my brides-maids and my 11 yr old will be my Jr. Bride. maybe that's what your twins can be, Jr. brides. I'm going to have my 11 yr old ware white like me and my made-of-honor will be my fiance's 25 yr old.
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Love is an action as much as a feeling. Show your WHOLE family how you feel and you can't go wrong.\n  My daughter got married March 3rd. We are very close and it has been a challenge. She & her husband invited mom & Dad to help them get their new place how THEY want it inside & out! We are having a great time getting to know her new husband even better and feeling useful too. We also have them over for cook outs and to help us rearrange our home. \n  This isn't easy for any of us and learning to give eachother space can be just as important as keeping eachother close. I'm relearning much about my husband as we finally get alone time we haven't had for years!!! Just remember your loved and this is your chance to pass on to your husband all the love and caring your parents taught you. Love is always the answer!
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9.5 months after you get married
406305
Sounds like a fabulous opportunity for your daughter. Go for it.
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Have an evening candlit ceremony back home with a dessert or hors d'ourves buffet at the reception instead of a full on meal.  When I got married I contemplated eloping, but realized I would regret not having my dad walk me down the aisle or having our dance....so, depending on what means the most to you, you should be able to decide what is best.  Congrats and good luck!
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Karina, is this you? Sorry, but this sounds too much like my son who is 19, and his fiance who is 25. Took me off guard! I think that you shouldn't jump into marriage right away. At 19, my son is SO not ready to get married right now. He's just not mature enough yet to deal with everything that comes with being married. Being engaged is one thing, being married is another. I say, go for a long engagement. Take time to really get to know each other.  Put more effort into thinking more of the marriage instead of just the "big wedding" every girl dreams of. You both are young and are still growing and maturing in so many ways. What both of you want from life right now may be different for both of you in a few years. Especially him. If you're really serious about this, my advice would be to wait a few more years.
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Talk about role reversals, they are being childish about this and your being cornered to being the parent of their situation.  In your daughters situation I would simply say you are both welcomed to visit when ever your available, if you don't want to be around when they other is then you settle that between yourselves, your both adults!  As for other arrangements that require you to schedule time for each because they no longer live together...that will have to be dealt with on a individual basis or for the holidays ...birthdays...have the festivities at your place and welcome both...that gives them equal opportunity to spend time with you and your daughter...not to mention being a family for family sake.
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I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
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The two of you need to sit each other down and reach an agreement because you want different things. Together I'm sure that you will be able to reach a compromise, the thing is if you have a church wedding and invite friends and family they will expect you to have a reception afterwards. Or why don't you suggest that instead of having a reception you just take a few close family members and friends to a restaurant and have a meal, which would be nice.  Also wedding dresses come in all shapes, and styles explain to him that you don't want a fancy wedding dress just something that is simple. After all it's your wedding day and as long as the two of you are happy with what you decide to do then that is the main thing. It's your wedding you don't necessarily have to have all the extras. Remember the most important thing is your life after the wedding
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It's her wedding, so it is up to her discretion who she invites.  You have to decide how you want to handle this.  You can either attend the wedding single, or decline since you can't bring the escort of your choice.
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I feel like a pro on this type of situation. I'ts been a while for me. My daughter is 16 and I've been with my husband since she was 2yrs old. Keep your x in his place and your current in the right place. As long as you know who your with and who is the most important one to your future toether as a family. You will make the right choice. Uless your not sure who is in the right place in your life. Don't rush in to fast think, hearts are involved.
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Yes, by all means he should accept the honor and you should go to the party!  A good marriage is giving and taking.  I applaud you for the support you have given your husband.  (He definitely owes you one).  There will be other parties, but maybe not another Allstar Coaching opportunity.  I'd do exactly what you are doing...regretfully, go to the party and hurry home as soon as you can to celebrate with your hubby the honor of coaching the Allstar team.  He will love you for it.  You are a great lady with a big heart!  Next year, why don't you plan a trip that is not during the coaching season.
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I agree, give her very little if she is unwilling to be an active participant in your marriage.\n\nShe won't let you see your daughter.\n\nI'd get an emergency child custody order in place.  What she has done may be considered kidnapping.\n\nSpend the money on a lawyer to gain access to your child.\n\nOr better yet, have her bring the child and give her a one-way ticket back to Thailand.\n\nNow that I've given my emotional answer, consult a lawyer for a recommended course of action.