how normal is it to want to be 'alone' forever?
364937
You don't need to decide right now if you want to be alone "forever" or not. If enjoying time to yourself is important to you at this point in your life, then go for it. You may or may not decide down the road to enlarge your social circle, but there's no need to put pressure on yourself to do that until you want to. For now, though, don't burn any bridges. Keep in touch and spend some time with loved ones, because one day you may regret cutting them out completely. Just let them know that you're really focused on certain things and you're going to be spending much of your free time alone for a while. It's healthy to keep a few important people in your life, because you never know what's around the corner when you might need them. So don't cut anyone out completely, but be honest and let them know what you're thinking. And, no, I don't think you're crazy. It's your life and your journey. God bless.
286141
I wouldn't want to live forever. I would just want to live life to it's fullest, doing everything I can. Because otherwise, it'd be boring. You wouldn't have the joy of taking risks, or if everything was perfect, there would be nothing to spend time on to improve. It'd be pointless because if you lived forever, you would be able to do everything, not get those feelings of when you have to choose one thing. I don't know, I just think it'd be better to be on "a restricted time frame"
888535
It's not so unusual to be unhappy about being alone. If that yearning for another weren't built in, we'd never be willing to make the compromises necessary to have a relationship.\n\nEven though you're unhappy alone, you weren't willing to stay with Ms. Druggie just to have someone in your life. Being unhappy alone is what you have to go through to get to the person who is right for you and not just take the first one that comes along.\n\nIt is very unwise to depend on your children for your happiness. It's great that you spend time with them. But they will grow up and have other things to do. That is as it should be. If you love them unselfishly, you must be prepared to let them live their own lives.\n\nIt is very, very hard to go through dating and finding a mate. The payoff is worth it. If you have your own business, you know that was hard to do and probaby took a while to accomplish. You didn't get discouraged there. Don't get discouraged during this process either.
275390
why dont u find yourself first.  i mean, dont u just sit there and expect that a girl from heaven will fall in front of u.  give yourself a time to have fun.  most professionals are too busy to collect money.  that's not how it is.  yeah u are right...being alone is boring.  why dont u go out once in awhile.  but hey, 29 is not old.  dont rush buddy.  dont expect that love will find u if u are hiding.
114330
You shouldn't be desperate if you don't want to stay single for long.  Being desperate connotes that you want something real bad and there's a saying that if you want something bad enough, you scare it away.  There's some truth to that because the message you're sending to the universe is that by wanting it so much, you still don't have it.\n\nIf you want to create that situation for yourself wherein you will be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, you've got to get into that mindset first EVEN IF you don't currently have a partner.  Then when you're not even looking, that's when it will manifest.  All creation starts with a thought and when the thought is right, the universe will manifest that thought for you.  So don't be desperate. Be complete. Then you will Have.
615176
Actually, I have watched 4 of my friends do it.  It is a mix of things.  It's the fear of being alone, it's the proverbial ticking clock, it's desperation (if doesn't marry me, maybe no one ever will), it's status (I'm marryable.)  There's more to it than that, but basically it's insecurity and the clock.  Recipe for a bomb if you ask me.  I'll stay single, thank you.  I'm very picky.
392758
You'll meet the right person wether you're into dating or not. There isn't anything wrong with you, I don't much take any interest in dating either, Although I'm only 13. (well i'll be 14 May 1st). But I don't find it very enjoyable. I enjoy just sitting around on the computer most the day and leaving for school and church, There's nothing wrong with you. Or there would be something wrong with me too. So it's ok, You wont be alone forever unless it's meant in gods eyes for you to be. Which I don't think that's so cause god made man and women to be togather. So you wont be alone forever, just have faith. All things are done through god. oh, and Good Luck finding your true love.
1082822
Truthfully, you are never truly alone, unless you believe you are truly alone.  The mind has a powerful trick over the heart.  Just don't give in to the sense that you are alone.  Look around, and find people to talk to.  I know you will overcome this sense of alone-ness. I went through the same thing.  Just trust yourself, and what you believe in.  You'll always come out on top of your problems if you just try.  Trust me.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.  Don't let the feeling of alone-ness get to you.  The worst of things can, and will happen if you do let the alone feeling in to your heart.
67513
The first factor of being afraid of being alone is the age. If you are already in your late 30's, so you are afraid of being alone forever. But if you are still young and still afraid of being alone, that is an indication that you have a kind of phobia and that can be treated by consulting a psychiatrist. It doesn't mean that you are insane if you seeks help from a Psychiatrist. You just need to open up and free yourself from any fears..\nHope this helps you.. goodluck...
835454
The person may become withdrawn, depressed, act like they're "in a fog," want to be alone, or alternatively, want to be with someone (a friend or relative) all the time because they're afraid to be alone.  He/she may become angry and develop obsessive behaviors, such as washing/showering all the time, and may become upset with his/her appearance.
1142459
I thought i was the only one who felt so. I guess there are some things to keep to yourself, some moments you have to be alone....Better find an e-pal for youself, takes some time, but works out.\ntake care,\nbest wishes
450546
Companionship. Nobody wants to ever be alone.
1081529
Ya wanna hear something goofy? When I was a teenager, I felt just like you! I would wish to god I was a Siamese twin, just so I wouldn't feel so alone. It is hard to explain, I wasn't really lonely cause I had lots of friends and people who loved me, it's more a feeling that all of them and the whole human race belonged to this,(something) what ever it was except me! I could be in a room full of people yet feel all alone. Then one day I started asking myself: WHAT DO I WANT? As I lay in my dark bed   crying myself to sleep, I would ask: WHAT DO I WANT RIGHT NOW? WHAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL AND FILL THE VOID IN ME? Perhaps something that would make me a part of something! Well I don't really know what to tell you except I volunteered for a suicide hot line, I served underprivileged children dinners, I  worked at a mission, helping the homeless, I sat with the elderly etc. and as time passed, the awful feeling of being alone gradually went away! That was quite a few years ago and I haven't felt that way since. I don't know what happened, but what ever it was, it sure worked for me. Maybe it will work for you too! Good Luck!
549031
Of course. Just look after yourself. I'm a mere 30 and have just had heart surgery on my own. My ex girl friend Left for another man at the time too. It was not great knowing no one close was there for you. Am no longer scared of death now though, A side effect of being alone, no one there what's the point. The choice is yours. I'd marry if i were you. A bit more of a fight if you don't want to leave your lover behind. Good luck
455142
I'm going to be (gasp! choke!) 33 at the end of May. I have a lot of UNREALISTIC desires that I still kind of pine away for in my head, but as far as 'realistic' ones go- I'd have to say that I'd really just like to get to a point where I can be at peace with my past & with who I am. \nI'd like to believe that all of the other inconsequential stuff would kind of fall into it's proper place if I could get myself in check, you know?
748976
Yes, it is normal.  What you choose to do with those feelings is the real question!!
792556
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.