A very delicate relationship issue: it's our 4 year anniversary tomorrow but I don't feel my girl's into it.
358419
Wow. I don't think your being unreasonable with how you feel, but she did just start a new job. Lord willing, there will be more annaversaries, but she is probably very stressed right now from the change. Give her some time. If she doesn't want to party, ask what she wants. Find something that works for her and you. She will probably do better once things get easier.\n\nThis breaking up and getting back together thing concerns me though, and might have something to do with it all. Sounds like something hasn't been going right in your relationship. Perhaps something neither one of you is even aware of. You might want to get some councling on this.\n\nBut you should sit down with her and talk to her about the lack of attention she's giving you. I wouldn't expect her to e-mail you back every day on her cell, and she may feel smothered by too much attention. It may be that you aren't giving her enough space, and she's withdrawn. It may also be that she enjoys your e-mails, even if she doesn't respond all the time. Talk with her about how she feels about it all, and ask her if you could improve in any area.\n\nGive it some time and be patient, but she should do her best on this to let you know that she cares about you, and that even with the new job, she still loves you and more than intends to make time for you. This may not happen instantly, so don't be too pushy, but do be plainspoken and truthful. But, if she refuses to at least care about your feelings on this, and that not caring continues, you may want to look into finding a new girlfriend.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
633439
at this point in the relationship it really does not matter. if she told you she was not feeling you then take it as she said it. SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU....so in her world it doesn,t matter how much you love her,she doesn,t love you. sorry
744895
she sounds bored.  try something new.  remember what it was like when you first met?  those feelings are still there, you just have to find them....be THAT GUY again for her...flowers on the pillow, candles, some alcohol, a motel room, you remember those days??  i have been married for 10 years and it is just as spicy now as it was then...just be THAT GUY again for her.
1119694
I don't think she loves you, and I praise her maturity in not saying it when she doesn't mean it. Maybe you should re-evaluate your feelings and see that maybe you are just infatuated with her.
136823
I have an idea for you. It's a bit cheesy, but romantic as well. Do the following. \nHand her a not asking her to meet you outside your house @ a certain time. 6pm-7pmish is cool. Then, when she gets there go for a walk and just spend time with eachother. You can walk the dogs too... JUST MAKE SURE YOU TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE! There is nothing more annoying or insulting than a person answering their phone during "quality time". Then come back home and share a romantic dinner for her... which you have prepared. If you suck at cooking, find out what she likes and order it. Have it delivered or picked up ahead of time. PLAN PLAN PLAN... Then afterwards, you guys can head off to the living room and you can hold her as you watch a classic romance flick... ;)
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maybe you two just spend to much time together. yes it's normal to feel this way but if you two don't give each other just a little space it won't work.if she still get on your nerve after a couple days apart then i would split. it has to be more than two days though. spen like three days out of the week together and the rest with friends
57446
If you are uncomfortable with this issue, I would say to talk to her about it.  Let her know how you feel.  Let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not interested.\n\nIf she does not respect your feelings, then you should move out.
944334
if she is uncomfortable or not ready yet then as an understanding boyfriend you should hear her out on this one. dont let the wanting and needing to be physical with your girlfriend be the only reason why you want to be with her. if the only reason why you wanna be with her is to touch her and not acually be with her, then that shouldnt be. you should wanna spend time with her no matter what goes on. day or night. and if she says no physical anything then you should respect it. if you wanna be loving and show her that you really do care about her then you can try writting her a love letter. decorate it with prettey designs and mail it to her or send it to her on the computer. buy her a neckalace or a bracelet if she likes wearing them. maybe some prettey earrings. give her some of her favorite flowers if she has any. if she doesnt have a favorite flower then get her some pink and red roses. be gentle with it and make sure its coming from your heart and not just because you want to gain back enoguh trust to be physical again. good luck. im a poet, so if you want me to write you a poem to give to her then i will use one of my own.
345845
Tough to say but I think she really is afraid of comminting this time. It's a very weak analogy but its just like going for skydiving classes. She knows everything about skydiving and loves the idea of it but when it's time to jump she has reservations. I don't think it's her way of saying she's not interested. Why else woul she spend time with you? It probably has more to do with her. I'm guessing it has hurt her self-confidence especially with regards to "keeping a man" than it is about you. \nGive her time and space. If you really feel something for her a little bit of waiting shouldn't hurt. As well, don't tell her that she will never be hurt if she commits to a relationship with because personally i won't buy it (and she's probably heard that before). Instead assure her that you're not perfect yourself but you love her (or like her) enough that your willing to try. \n\nHope that helps and i hope it works out for you.
342118
really plan the day well. firstly you can make her breakfast in bed, then you can maybe take her out to watch amovie, or do her favourite hobby together whatever it maybe walking in the park, reading together, cycling, then maybe you could do something the both of you can experience for the first time so it will really be memorable, maybe a rollercoaster ride, bunjee jumping, hiking a hill, skiing, and buy her a present that simple and touching. that i cant suggest for you bcoz it has to come from the heart. lasly have dinner together and sleep together or stay up the night and chat about anything that you feel comfortable sharing or just plain girl things. hope it turns out well and remember whatever you plan to do nothing is actually worth it if you dont do it with love. so to complete it all, the most crucial thing is to tell her how much you love her and appreciate her okay. hope i helped, good luck to you!!
272154
tell her exactly how you feel. if she still wants to then yes. establish that you are not interested in anything more serious.
715625
You're afraid of commitment. If you love her, or care deeply for her...just run with it. You need to trust this girl. Long term relationships can be very rewarding. You should give it a try.
232681
there's two possibilities... one is you really changed through out these years... maybe you aren;t caring for her enough or you dont talk like you used to... girls can get very sensitive at somethings she thinks its important... try to put it up with her..... try to think what are you missing... the second possibility is that she's cheating on you but she's trying to build up an excuse for a break up sooner...
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Throw money at the problem. Go all out for the anniversary. Surprise her and take her somewhere fancy or if moneys tight make a nice picnic or sing a song at her window (!) But if you cheated on her, don't expect her to be thawed out by tomorrow. Make her a card and tell her heartfelt things about how much she means to you. Girls love that stuff.
709927
You can't force these things, she either loves you or she doesn't.  Sounds like she doesn't.  Also possibly because your relationship is long distance you romanticise about it too much.  If you lived together day in, day out, the rose-tinted spectacles may have come off long ago.  You sound like a lovely guy, you deserve better.  Let it go and find someone who will be there for you and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
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If when the relationship started you wanted to please her (for what ever reason). But now you are together you don't make the effort to show her how you feel, in a way she understands.  \n\nYou can't take affection on trust, it has to be demonstrated.  It might be you are not demonstrating it anymore.