i don't want to hurt my husband but i want love and romance not a business partnership am i wrong?
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If you 've truely been unhappy for 15 years, I'd say you've been married for 14 years too long.  However, my initial response was that a marriage is very much like a business partnership, but you are right that it also needs love and romance to flurish.  \n\nWhat concerns me is the apparent infatuation with this other guy.  You must have found something appealing about your current husband that you wanted to marry him.  And something worthwhile to stick it out for 15 years, my gosh.  I am concerned that once you leave your husband, which I think you should, the novelty and infatuation with the new guy will wear off.  Living with someone is always much different than "dating" them.  \n\nI think you should leave your current husband only for issues you have with him, not because you think you may have found a better replacement.  It would be really sad to leave a good provider to find out the new guy is not up to par in some bad ways.  Get out of the marriage first, then take the new relationship as it comes.
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You need to let him know that while you are married to him you are not his possession.... you are not a TV or a couch, or a car! He has proven his love for you in marriage but being your husband is a privilege and a joy that he needs to earn everyday... and in return there is no greater gift in the world than a woman who feels respected, loved and desired by her man... My wife is the best part of my life and there is nothing that I would not do for her... Your hubby needs to not take you for granted just because you said "I DO"... he should be romantic and earn your love!
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Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel.  It's natural for couples to "woo" eachother when dating - doing things the other person likes and what not, thats natural, it's compromise.  What you can both do now is communicate and find things to do together.  Find a hobby you both like and go for it.  You can also both compromise from time to time and do something that your spouse really enjoys but maybe you don't like so much.\nThe key is communication - let him know how you feel and that you miss doing things together.
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A wise man once said, "Love is not a feeling it is a commitment." Are you willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work? Are you willing to face every possible obstacle that life WILL put in your path?\n\nIf your answer is YES... then you have true love
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so????  You are just looking right, no harm in that.  Even fantasizing about him while with your hubby is fine, might make it more exciting (I am sure he is thinking about a Pam Anderson or a Angelina Jolie some nights), as long as it's not physical you are in the clear!
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It's not wrong. It's all about how you feel for your relationship. If you feel it's not going for you then it aint mistakening you for wanting a better relationship. If you feel something for your relationship but you chat to someone else online, then you're in denyal. Besides, look on the bright side. You know there's a good side. Always remember that each situation has two sides so follow the bright one than the negetive. Look for what makes you happy. G'luck
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We as people are easily blind--especially when it comes to something that will hurt us!! We want to believe the best in our partners (or even kids for that matter) if we just think happy thoughts than nothing can be wrong right?? Well this is what people do all the time! They think that if you can't see it isn't really there, it is away of protecting ourselves from getting let down, having a broken heart! No one wants to be hurt or get hurt, but it is away of life something we have to come face to face with eventually! Nothing is ever 50/50 although in marriage it should be--however there are always three sides to every story:HIS, HERS, and the TRUTH!! I am not here to judge-you or anyone-I have no right to that, and I am very sorry for what you are going through, I pray that you will be able to work this out with YOURSELF!! Remember, it is not forgive and forget-us as people never forget, and forgiving is something you have know you have in you, I am not a forgiving person, so he would be out the door for me, however, if you are please consider consoling for the family, not just you and your husband but for the kids to!! Good Luck to you all!!!:)
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Enough is enough...I find nothing wrong with protecting your marriage, why wait until its gone to far...not really knowing all the details but that he did break it off tells me that you had good reason to snip this at the bud...and that in all fairness he wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot...I'm glad for the both of you.
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you'd be lucky to find any romantic men out there.  My husband of 10 years, doesn't have a romantic bone in his body.  I wish he would.  But since I've never been romanced I guess I'm not missing anything.  It sucks that i don't have it.  Oh well.
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I don't think that you should have to drop him as a client in order to have a relationship with him.  Business wise, there's no need in losing money like that and as far as your personal life goes, if he makes you feel loved or cared for, why miss out on the chance for your happiness?  The two of you should be able to separate business from personal, but if it's not possible, I say keep him as a client and date others.
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No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)
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Sorry, but I don't think you love your man.  Look, deep, deep into yourself  please.  Why are you with your husband; same interests; why did you marry in the first place?\n\nThere are always lots of interesting guys out there, but, but, not to play with.  If you don't want your relationship, don't hurt him.  Get out now and move on and be very careful and date and date, and don't marry again until you know this is the guy.  \n\nI know.  I have been married 2 times -- and, well, what more can I say.  Think, ponder and get on one way or another with your life.  Don't hurt anyone....he doesn't deserve this ...\nluv Ava
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Its obviously possible, because you are feeling that way. Are you newly weds? If so, maybe you just aren't quite comfortable with all that yet. You should wait until you two feel comfortable.
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I totally disagree!  I am married and in love.  The romance doesn't HAVE to leave just because you get married.
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You were in the RIGHT, 100%.  And, it shows just what kind of shallow person he really is. You say you still love him but, do you really want to be with a person who'd be willing to walk away from the woman he supposedly loves over such a thing?\n\nSaving yourself for marriage is a wonderful gift for your husband. Find a man who'd be willing to reicprocate the same kind of gift for you.
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there is only one tru love be hanest to your self and find your tru love then go for it.but if you have children stick to your marej and forget the other one.you will fall in love with your husband agen.then DONT EVER EVER let this hapen agen!!!
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You know what? I don't think it is fair what some of the others have said..i think it is entirely possible to lose abit of that...and what you need to do is relive a lot of the past...remember a lot fo the romantic things you did for him and sneak those things back in to your repetoire...by that I mean...I sent my wife an Easter card when she went back to see her family in South America and she loved it..my wife and I started off by writing and emailing and while we've known each other for 11 years we've been married for 7.  I always try to do things, read old letters, look at pictures and read diaries of things we did together and I try to do them again...go to fine restaurants (tough with a child) but we do what we can.  I haven't fallen out of love with my wife but I think that it is necessary for you to start dating your husband on a weekly basis so that it doesn't happen again-FLIRT WITH HIM-go park..hehe whatever.....life is a long journey..sometimes it seems as though your priorities with children and work that sometimes you may lose the spark a bit..just light the pilot light again and do what you can to get his attention and it doesn't have to go back to the bed-especially if you are trying to see where his feelings lie with you...(no pun intended)...yeah that will get his attention in the short run..as it will in most men...BUT....it won't stand for the long run...so there has to be more.  maybe play hard to get a little..make him feel as though he has to give chase a bit...don't play the game too long...but...entice him..take him out for ice cream or even to a ball game EVEN if you HATE baseball or football...or a concert if he doesn't care for sports...\namusement park..you get the idea...do things that he LOVES to do that you would normally not care so much for because you CARE about doing stuff he is interested in...it is just an idea...surprise him...