how should i tell my mum im with an older woman?
362693
If you are serious (really in love) with the woman you are seeing, then eventually your mom will see that and get over her freak out.  It is not for you to worry about what she will think of the woman because she is not dating her-you are.  If you are not in love and have no future plans of staying with this woman, it would probably save you some drama if you just keep it to yourself.
1057870
Tell your new "Mother" to shove it and shut the h*ll up.  Tell her off.  Tell her what ever you need to to make her stop talking like that.  If you are unable to or unwilling to.  Then looks like you got to tell your dad what's up or continue to bite your tounge.
707286
How about mum and daughter time luch a spa and some pampering together enjoy your mum and her love and spend qulity time which money cant buy
607910
she's ur mom... love her.. have an open communication.. talk to ur dad too.. and find for urself who tells the truth..
849984
The best advise you can get is from your mother. Don't be embarrassed. She can help you out.
536768
Wow, This is alittle complicated.  I would only say something if it's really effecting your husband and you. I don't know that it's your place and the family may think you're just creating extra drama. You don't want that. Also, this isn't an excuse but she is 16 after all. She's not an adult yet. She doesn't have the life experience you do. If you want to talk with her as a friend that's one thing but if you just want to tell her to get her act together.. I don't think it's a good idea at all. \n\nYour hubby knows his family best and there is probably a reason why he's not saying anything. With saying that if she's not disrespecting you in your home or whatever.. There's really not much you are going to be able to do about it. I seriously think that saying something will cause extra drama for this family. Allow them to figure it out.
1095113
This may be the hardest thing you have to do so far in your life and I wish you the best of luck!\n\nHopefully in 5 years you will look back and laugh at how scared you were to tell them. \n\nI don't know your family but if I were you, I would take my mother to a neutral location such as a park and go for a walk. Tell her how much you love her and that you would never do anything to hurt her. Tell her that you need to talk to her about something very important to you. Then tell her in a way that's best for the both of you. Give her a few minutes to absorb this new information. Ask her if she has any questions. Tell her that it is nothing that she did or didn't do. Tell her that she is a great mother, and that you were born this way. Tell her that you are still her daughter, still the same loving girl you always were. Hopefully she will come to accept this in time. It may take a while. (She may already know) Either way she may be able to help you tell your father and the rest of your family. In time they will learn to accept you for who you really are, and love you just the same. Best wishes!!
230483
Tell your friend to go straight to the police, can she talk to her mother if so i know it is a hard thing to tell someone but mum needs to know
801148
I'm an older woman. You should tell him exactly what you wrote here. you can't make anybody change or act a certain way. You have to accept them for who they are or move on. Tell him your feelings so both of you Will know what you want.
213901
Be honest.\nYour mother wants the best for you; if you need help,\nshe'll be happy you came to her.\nFind a quiet moment when you can approach her without being interrupted.\nGood luck.
801187
If you love her, tell her.\n\nIf you owe her any apologies, apologize.\n\nIf you want to know anything, ask her.\n\nTake solace in the fact that you have the opportunity so few have been given.  My mother and I had a "falling out" over ten years ago.  During that whole time we never spoke or communicated in any way.  Four weeks ago she died in a car wreck.\n\nUse this chance for all it's worth.
1065330
old enough to be your gramma likely!\nYou then tell her straight out.  why beat around the bush,  honesty is ALWAYS the best.
733802
Sit down and tell her how much she means to you and how important it is to have a relationship with her. Then, show her the printout of this and your question and all the other answers here.  This could be the start of an open communication between the two of you.\n\nBest to you and your mom.
25343
Obviously, I don't know all the legits about your situation with your mother, however sending a card never hurt. I believe that you should send your mother a card. If she still doesn't like you, at least you know that you tried.
725910
You mother may like to spend time with you.....can you take her to lunch?.......and get her a small pin or earrings (if she has pierced ears).\n\nMost of all get her a beautiful card....or make one.....just to show your love.\n\n......My mom passed 4 years ago at 88....and she was the best!
86651
ur mum maybe already knows that u r a lesbian but maybe she just wants u to admit it to her.... u should sit down calmly n talk to her tel her exactly how u feel.... if age doesn't matter to the both of then its done already.... a relationship only happens betweem two person other people's opinion doesn't matter.... like me i m a butch but i dun care... no matter how people look at u it doesn't matter.... wat matters most is how u look at urself n wat ur gf thinks... bout the distance u should organize who should take turns in visiting each other maybe once a month... my gf n me live in two different countries but we can still stay loving.... try to talk on the phone more often or even going on9, exchanging pics... it'll be even better if u have a webcam... trust me n believe in urself n ur gf... it'll workout....
666322
unfortunately, you should do nothing - unless you think james fancies your mum too.  Then maybe you can tell james.  Otherwise you should really stay out of it since they are both grown ups.