if i let him go, will he come back if its meant to be?
367879
Yes, I was in a similar situation in the past.  It is very hard to find out that the person  you love doesn't have the same feelings as you.  I don't think you should let him go with the hope that he will come back.  It may or may not happen.  It isn't a matter of whether you let him go because is sounds like he has made his decision.  He is probably crying a lot because he knows that he has hurt someone that he does love.  This probably makes him feel guilty.  You really need to accept that he is leaving and make sure that you don't become an old crutch to him after he goes.  If he wants his independence, don't let him keep coming to you when he needs help or gets lonely.  This won't make him come back to you, it will only make let him have the best of both worlds.  It will be hard, but you don't want to end up a doormat.  Take the time to do things that make YOU happy.  Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't or wouldn't because you were with him.  Hang in there, it will get a little better each day.  Good luck to you.
819111
It depends on the circumstances for their breakup, and how he is thinking of her. I wouldn't mind if he was thinking in terms of getting over their relationship to find closure. I would mind If he is still thinking of her in terms of getting her back.
123943
I'm going through the same thing.. I want so much to wait until he comes back and he calls me off an on just to let me know that he's thinking about me.. It hurts so much... All I can say is if it's meant to be life will find its way to make it work.. but then again if it didnt workout the first time it's not meant to be. You need to move on as much as it hurts dont except his calls and keep yourself busy. If I can do it you can to your not alone so just remember that....
1101766
I will be happy that he is happy and as painful as it is I will move on. I believe if it was meant to be ,it will happen...if not there is a lesson to be learned. And if it is to be, the time is not there yet.  As for the memories we learn to live with it one day at a time.
597945
Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
602463
he wants to come back, and if he gets the chance, he will return. if he doenst return, he wants to make sure that you understand its not his fault. if he returns late, he wants to be sure that you will still be there. he packed stuff so as not to be bored. your not in his arms when he leaves, how content do you think he will be?
735145
Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
1089366
Ditch them both...\n\nWhy would you want him back after this?
238069
If he's worth it, to you,  go get him back. If not, move on.
614689
if he's changed from what he used to be like before.. then yes... unless you were the one who dumped him and now you want him back.. again that would be a yes..\nbut if he broke up with you and the two of haven't changed.. then no because that would just be a repeat of the relationship you had before.
394519
Well,Believe it or Not ! They Say If You Love Somebody Set'em Free! If They Come Back They Are Yours If Not They Never Were !\n\nWell ! Maybe you will get him back if you stop going after him
1022147
girl if you love or at least care about him there are plenty ways you can see him or her again, i was with this guy for a month and a half, and he unexpectanly moved back home because of this family and we made sure we saw each other at least once a month if not more. i just all depends on how each of u feel and if its meant to be it just is\nDONT GIVE  UP HOPE
213875
It happens.  Don't worry it will come back.\n\nOr....\n\nSomething is wrong in the relationship.  How do you feel about him?  Has something changed in him to  make you question what you are doing with him?
956241
Is he coming back again ?
92231
In a dating relationship, leaving when he most needs you is gonna make his hurt all the worse.\nPlus if you leave now he will know he can never trust you again. and there will be no later. \ngive him time he needs, if it was YOU in his position how would you feel if he dumped you? \nsmart choice is be strong, and patient. once he is emotionally stable again then if you decide to leave you can do so with a clear conscience. \nor if you don;t care how he feels. then by all means leave. but don;t expect him to welcome you back with open arms if you find him diserable again. he is more then likely to return the pain you gave him.
479188
Say goodbye. He will continue if you let him.
774156
worrying will do nothing. it sounds as if it is a done deal. if it is - roll with it (you have no choice) just pay a lot of attention to what happens after he gets back.