My Best Friend cheats on his wife, what should I do?
357883
Wow hombre,\n\nThat's just tricky enough to warrent bringing out the big guns and asking the team of experts at Yahoo! Answers.\n\nYou are, however, still screwed.\n\nTake lots of mental snapshots of what it was like to have both of these people as friends because those days are coming to a close soon.\n\nTrust is foundational in healthy relationships.  You've allowed a couple of relationships grow for 10 sitting smack dab on top of a fault line of lies.\n\nNow your buddy's wife can't either trust you or face you without thinking of the 10 years of betrayal you enabled to continue.  You can't trust your buddy nor face him without thinking of the harm he's caused his wife and you by his actions.\n\n10 years of lies and manipulation that get bottled up in relationships don't just drain out like a bathtub my friend.  No matter how the truth comes out it's going to be like a needle to a balloon.\n\nBest get it over with sooner than later so there's more time to heal and move on.
691210
I agree, and let me ask you this? Put yourself in the wife's shoes. Would you want to be her??? You are acting very selfish. He is a married man, period. He is taken and he will never be yours. How can you have a relationship based on any kind of trust? Aren't afraid that maybe someday you will be where his ex wife was? Like if he can cheat on her, he can do it with you just the same. You are better off just breaking up. There are plenty of fish in the sea where you do not need to date a married man. You do deserve better. But you are at fault too, even though this guy is a scumbag you are contributing to the mess as well. Try to move on, easier said than done, but if you break up it is for the best.
18658
Wow tough crowd sweetie!  Don't judge the man, what's done is done.  And he never said he was going back to his wife, he just said he wanted to dump the affair.  Well it takes one to know one (I'm in the same boat dear but on the other side) and you need to sit down and talk with the girl you are having an affair with.  If you explain to her that you care about her and love what you had, but can't go on like you are.  Be honest with her...hopefully she will be mature enough.\n\nAnd by the way, the next time you ever plan to have an affair, have it with another married person. This way the playing field is equal.  You obviously have never been to my website or blog and read the rules of smart cheating (see below)
1130192
well there's not much now that you can do..he knows the truth and that is good. You should just apologize to all of them and praythat their friendship isnt ruined because of this.
602894
Are you sure that your girlfriend knows about it? and is she "the one"? I am pretty sure she isn't otherwise you would've thought twice before you cheated on her. So if she's not the one, then I guess you could just let it go, I am not saying it's easy. And don't beat yourself, you made a mistake and you should recognize it in front of her, and you can also talk to her. But don't say to her that she cheated on you first; because that's not how you solve a problem, you would just put salt in the wound. Instead, just talk about it to her and tell her how you feel, if you want to be with her forever, than you should definitely clear this up now, if you're just having a fling that's another story. But whatever you do be honest, because once some one loses trust in you, it is extermely hard to come back and trust you. \nAs far as your friend...Well, if he REALLY was your true friend than he should've never been so cheap and told on you, a friend like this is worthless. If i were you, I would dump the friend before dumping my girlfriend, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings and is selfish.\nGood luck, and whatever it is, know that sooner or later this will fix itself and it'll be a lough years down the road, you sound pretty young and believe me even if you thought that your current gf is the "perfect" woman, God has ways to amazed you later in life. But one last thing, cheating is never good. And i am sure that you don't feel so good about it youself, so try not to do it again; you'll regret.
1183545
TELL YOUR BESTFRIEND TO GET A LIFE.. AND GET HER OWN BOY..  DON'T TOUCH WHAT'S NOT BELONG TO HER.. \nYOU CAN GET ANOTHER BEST FRIEND.
49140
YES! But if possible, come bearing proof! Your friend may be upset and even think you are lying; your friendship may be hurting for a while depending on the kind of person she is, but YOU are her BESTfriend, you should give her the respect and loyality that title deserves. You WILL NOT be responsible for their break up...her man will. Break it to her gently and tell her first that you would never do anything to hurt her unless it would hurt her more not to know. Reverse the rolls...if your lover where cheating on you and your bestfriend knew...would you want her to tell you? How would you feel if you found out and KNEW she didnt tell you about it months before??
75868
Confront him first. If he blames you for his cheating and shows no remorse then give him the boot!
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
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I would dump his sorry a$$. Once you know he is married, you are willingly contributing to his wifes heartache when she finds out (and trust me, she will find out).\nHow would you feel if you were married and your husband cheated with someone who knew he was married?\nLet's pretend he is going to leave his wife for you (which he will not), you will become the person he cheats on.
206089
first be sure. if it's true find a new best friend and a girl friend. if she's cheated on you she'll cheat on him and he'll know how you felt. but don't give either one another chance.
243001
forget it all together - you don't need the headaches. If he cheated and she cheated most likely they will cheat again. Unless you want to live a soap opera - move on to a different crowd of people.
32660
drop him like a use rubber. once a cheater always a cheater. the will never change.
793489
You are a moral corruptor and your wife doesn't deserve you. Stop talking to this friend of yours and focus on sex with your wife. How would you like it if you found that your wife was talking to her friend whom she really wants to have sex with?!
318077
I hear you. We have just been discussing this, but its crazy cause you dont want to be the bearer of bad news, but then again what kind of friend would just allow their friend to be hurt (no matter how). You say this guy is your friend, well, your a man, lift your chest up and confront him. If he doesn't come clean to his wife, you could always give him the ultimatum  that if he doesn't you will.  It will hurt her, yes it will whoever tells her, but truth hurts sometimes...\n\nIt is also very true that other people's love life, you most stay, way out of. So, I cant tell you what to decide...\nbest wishes
199913
Hopefully,  she realizes that you are a true friend ,  and she has a dirtbag for a spouse.  Reality check though,  she will probably find a way to blame you for trying to seduce her husband .  It would be a lot easier than admitting that the man she wishes to spend the rest of her cinderell story life with,  is a lying cheating Puss-Bag.  Sorry hone,being you would suck ,  I would hate to be in your shoes,  But if it's any comfort,  I applaud  your courage and honesty.
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My wife has a family member who cheated on his wife. They since then have had a decent marriage, and he hasn't cheated since. They've raised two kids in the time.\n\nFor some it will work out, but YOU have to be willing to look past it. Granted you will never forget what happened, but you can't let it drag down your marriage. \n\nI think with most men, if they are not surrounded by the wrong situations, they won't cheat, but regular visits to the bar, strip joints, long hours at work with the opposite sex can often time creat situations that could lead to cheating for some men who don't have will power. \n\nHe needs to have his own friends, and his own life while married, but he also needs to understand that he has a wife at home. He should't put himself in circumstances that could create problems. \n\nHe needs to regain his trust with you, and that will take a LONG time. That is something HE needs to understand, and he should work to regain your trust. If he blows it off as no big deal, then obviously you aren't that important to him.\n\nIts a long hard road, but if the two of you work together, you can get past it.