What is your opinion about gay/lesbian couples adopting children?
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There was once a star trek episode that explained specific points that dictate whether something is an organism or not and one was that you had to be able to reproduce.  Man and women can, in general, reproduce but woman and woman and man and man cannot?  Together it is impossible for them to reproduce (with the exeptions of hermaphrodites whose case is arguable)  I believe in God and he made man and woman to be together. It was such an ingenious plan that we are perfect puzzle pieces foreach other, but like the humans we are (carnal and unable to easily overcome our inadaquacies) choose to go the direct opposite of what God intended.  I'm sorry to the homosexual population if you are offended. I honestly am.  I do not hate you but I do not have to agree with you.  I have many friends that i love but do not agree with and some of those are homosexual.  Its just that if you did not understand your sexuality in the first place then why do you think you are for sure homosexual?  I do not believe it is a natural affection but purely choice (which thank God we have) Choice.  You choose your feelings but I do not condemn you for that.  I dont condemn you at all but I condemn homosexuality.  Its not natural but you can do what you wish.  I just think that if you cannot naturally have children as a couple, let others who lost the opportunity but do have it naturally as a man and women, adopt.  Do you understand? I think I'm just being confusing. sorry.
853768
what is your belief of homosexual's belief of procreation? Do you believe that because they cannot physically create another human being together that don't want to have children? If that's the case you are mistaken. Many homosexual couples have the same desires for family as heterosexuals. Therefore adoption, or even surrogacy are options they would choose to accomplish that goal.
1021660
Without an actual poll being conducted, there's no way to say what percentage of people were born gay as opposed to .... choosing? it.  Just to put your statistic in perspective.\n\nThey've been taken out of the gene pool....wrong.  If by that you mean that they can't have kids, that's not true.\n\nThey don't have the desire to procreate...wrong.  I don't have that desire, in fact I find it abhorrent.  But I'm not gay.\n\nWho cares if it's abhorrent to us?  And of course they CHOOSE to do it, just the same as we choose to do what we do sexually.
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I am 33 and female. If my child were gay I would accept it . It is what is on the inside that counts. I would rather my son be gay and a loving human being, than straight and a jerk. Think about it this way. If anyone one loves their child, truly loves them, than you can accept them no matter what their lifestyle choice. If someone would say that they would not love their child anymore, than they never really had true love for them in the first place. I do have a son, so this is coming from a Mothers perspective. Understanding, trust, and Love are truly the most important things
694670
No I don't think its right.  The only plus to it is that the kids gets a home, The downfalls out weigh the 1 plus.  I think its sick if you ask me. Poor kids.  I mean I am sure that gay couples are good people just alittle confused.  I watched a thing on Tv once about this guy couple who spent all this money to make a child with their sperm and an egg doner.  I just about vomited!! I am sure the child will be loved and all but like others say.  It isn't good on the Physo side of things.  These kids will be raised to think that okay my dad and dad are gay so I must be too.  No ONE IS BORN GAY!!! ITs a choice.  These kids will really have no choice.  Its sad really sad to see what this world is coming too.  Its more about the sex thing.  If you ask me thats what it is.  Gay is a sex thing, not a relationship thing.  I can see someone loving their friend and thats it. Its not "in love". The whole thing is just wrong!
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I think it is a good idea. After all, you pointed out that homosexuality exists whether we like it or not and we can't really keep kids heads buried in the sand for the rest of their lives. If you are a teacher, I also feel that you can do a better job of approaching this issue with objectivity than some parents can. I would just point out that it is a choice that some consenting adults make and leave it at that.
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Good for your fathers!!! This should teach some people out there that a child raised by a homosexual couple doesn't have to be a sick person. And that gays aren't sick, either, just because they are gays.\n\nI'm not gay, but I'm close to an adopting family, and I think that is the most beautiful act of love you can perform for a child. If you have a child the "biological" way, that child may have been unwanted, or a miscalculation, or the result of rape. But if you're an adopted child, you know for absolutely sure that you were wanted, looked for, expected and loved from the very beginning. If gays (just as much as straight people) can do that, that shows they're much sensible than many people who keep on nagging them.
1011622
from a straight male. Those people that you refer to are afraid of anything, any thought, or any deed that is contrary to their own. Unfortunately, that line of thinking is shared by the mental midgets that run this country. I think that a child better off raised by 2 loving parents, regardless of their sexual preference. I support "gay marriage" because as taxpaying US citizens, gay couples should be afforded the same freedoms and protections that the hetero couples enjoy. ie; insurance dependancy, benefactor, pension, SS survivor benefits, etc...
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I support gay marriage, and here's why.\n\n1. Gay marriage would in no way threaten traditional marriage any more than it is already. Straight couples do a good enough job of that themselves.\n\n2. Sure gay couples can't have biological children of their own. But if it's gonna be illegal for that reason, then straight couples who can't have kids shouldn't be able to get married either.\n\n3. While some religions prohibit gay marriage, this should have no bearing on US government policy. Separation of church and state, remember?\n\n4. To those who say homosexuality isn't natural: how many animals have you watched lately? There's plenty of gay cats and dogs and whatever else.\n\n5. Kids aren't any more likely to turn out gay with gay parents than they are with straight parents. Considering that most gay people today came from straight families, I don't see a correlation between sexuality of the parents and sexuality of the kids.
836662
Hey, I was thinking about a similar question! I know some people can't love children who are not their own 'blood', but I feel all children are the same and I'd happily adopt any orphan. I don't know about the expenses, so can't comment on that, altough I had a school teacher who wasn't even very rich, but he had an adopted child....? So maybe there are different ways of adoption, from less to more expensive.\n\nThe 'problem' is that people find it more logical to have their own child. It's more unique, has their features and their genes. It's a symbol of their love and relation with their partner. Till some extent, I can understand this and I feel there's nothing wrong with it either. Bearing your own child is a unique experience and why would you deprive yourself from it? It might sound egoistic, but it's rather logical and a matter of emotional attachment. \n\nHowever, when a couple can't have children for some reason, why would we prefer to go for IVF, surrogate mother or other treatments? In this case, I do believe adoption is a far better option and a way of accepting it as God's wish, while you still get the pleasures of nurturing a child. Also when you can afford it, I think adopting an orphan and giving him/ her not just your money, but your love also, is one of the most nobel things we can do as human beings. \n\nA solution to overpopulation in my opinion is stopping the birth of an unwanted child by taking sufficient precautions (abortion is not option imo!). Besides, people need to realise that it's not important to have many children, instead it's more important to give enough love and care to each of them. I don't know why people who can't afford it decide to have many children. I'd rather have one or two and take proper care of them! And last but not least, giving birth to more and more children just waiting for a son to be born, is something that needs to stop also!
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Two people who willfully choose to join themselves in a committed relationship and who plan to stick it out through the good times and bad times, come hell or high water.\n\nSince this is the LGBT forum, I will add this. I am really angry about all the hoopla about gay marriage going on in my country (US) right now. So many people keep saying marriage is a one man + one woman only affair, but the fact of the matter is that marriage, at least in the US, is a LEGAL MATTER. If you choose to have a religious ceremony, it isn't legal until you get the marriage license issued by the state. Since it's a legal contract, I find it obscene that anyone wants to legislate that it can only be between a man and a woman. If marriage was simply a religious affair, then I would say it was up to the religious leaders of that faith to say who can and who cannot be married, but I find it repugnant that some people are not allowed to enter into a binding legal agreement simply because they happen to be of the same sex. The simple fact that I have two X chromosomes, and my partner is an XY gives us, automatically, all sorts of rights and privileges that are denied to other couples because they are the same sex. I am weary of people saying, "well, they can go to an attorney and make sure that they inherit each other's stuff, and they can go to an attorney and legally adopt each other's kids, and they can go to an attorney and give each other medical power of attorney, and they can go to an attorney..." because all of that stuff was just given to me and my husband when we married. No one in a committed relationship should have to spend thousands of dollars in legal fees getting their ducks in a row so that when something happens to one of them they can end up with a rotten judge in court and have it overturned in favor of "next of kin", who are, sadly, not always mindful of what their dearly departed would have wanted. It's all just offensive to me. \n\nOkay, sorry for the outburst. I will put my soapbox away now.
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I do not necessarily agree but here is the argument.  The purpose of giving a married couple special rights under the law is to make it easier for them to raise children and pass their physical wealth  and property on to the next generation.  This is assuming that the partnership is a lifetime commitment and that children are raised (these may not be valid assumptions).  A gay couple can not directly produce children.  This is not to say that they do not raise any children, just that biologically they cannot produce children.  The main purpose of marriage in Western culture is the production of children.\n\nWhere the gay community is falling short is in their lack of appropriately enlightening the general public about their problems having long term commitments without legal rights.  No human alive is without moral sin.  Some do not recognize that intolerance is a sin.\n\nWhat complicates the issue in today’s American society is that there is still no scientific proof as to the reason people are gay.  The general population fears that being gay is a learned response to environmental factors has little to do with genetics.  Many assume that gay couples would raise gay children.  This would defeat the purpose of marriage in their eyes.\n\nThose that wish to make a moral issue out of it tend to be intolerant to others who are not part of their own subculture.  Those who are misinformed tend to have no understanding about the legal issues with shared property, hospital visitation rights, insurance problems and others details of which you know but that they have never considered.
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that is a tough question- i mean i am gay myself and i wouldn't want to disrupt the life of a child that i may have in the future.\nbut i also think that there is not one family in this united states that is 100% normal, many things will f&*^ up a child's head not only homosexuality, but drugs, beatings (physical abuse), profanity (verbal abuse) i also beleive that children will be suseptible (?- sorry i can't spell) to all sorts of things in life and there is no way of changing that. gay people exsist we will be here forever, as will drugs, alcohol, cursing, sex and the more we try to keep children away from 'immoral' things the more they will be confronted with it and at least they'd have a head start if they knew about it before hand to defend themselves. if the child had gay parents at least the child may have more of an open-mind when growing up but the only thing i think of is when they go to elementry school and s/he tells the other kids that s/he has two daddys instead of the typical mommy and daddy, or just mommy, or just daddy (u see all families are disfuncional LOL). i'd feel completely responsible for that child being made fun of all thru their school life and if i had the chance to stop it before-hand i would by not having a child and i'd have to think of that (possible) child's life before my own for it would be selfish to want a child knowing that s/he may have problems coping with it- so it is a tough question that i can't even truthfully answer.....
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where i come from if u are found out u get charged and u can find your self in jail if convicted but personally am not a gay basher nor like them either. i believe our country's laws on the issue are achaic and people should be allowed to do with their lives as they wish though it aint natural at all.also for me personallly gay priests or gay couples adopting kids is a BIG NO!!!
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My answer, no. And as a matter of fact, I find that homosexuals happen to be the most enjoyable, honest, compassionate "group" of people I have met. "What harm is their choice, doing to your life", is my response to homophobes.\n\nBUT ... Boy is this going to set a few people on their ears if the findings are true !!\n\n( released today - 2/24/06)\n"The arrangement of a mother's genes could affect the sexual orientation of her son, according to a new study."\n\n"The finding, detailed in the February issue of the journal Human Genetics, adds fuel to the decade-long debate about whether so-called "gay genes" might exist."\n\nhttp://www.livescience.com/humanbiology/060224_gay_genes.html\n\nMakes one wonder if this finding is confirmed, if the pro-lifers will allow abortions for these "misfits & sinners". After all, God created our genes, didn't he ?? *ahem*
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I think its' ok. Look at it like this. If gays are allowed to marry, some will want to adopt and have a family just like everyone else. They dont mind adopting the children that others dont want. If abortion is made illegal, there will be a huge increase in children being given up, right? Who's going to adopt those children? Gays dont 'raise children gay'. There has been many studies on this. They are actually less rigid and judgemental to the children they care for, probably because they were given hell by their own parents. Most children raised by gays turn out straight. This makes sense cause only 3-10% of the population is born gay and gay people dont generally 'recruit'. Banning gay marriage is just like the Jim Crow laws of the last century. It is discrimination and bigotry. The problem is that gays are only a small percentage of the population. Even if every single one of them marched to make their voice heard, it would be dwarved by the Civil Rights marches of past days. Is it ok to bigot against them just because they are too small a minority to force change? Look into the other reasons for gay marriage, like your gay partner being able to make medical decisions for you in emergencies, power of Attorney, inheriting property or estate, funeral decisions. These people are mostly in commited loving relationships that last for many decades, but when a crisis happens they are pushed aside, have no right to decide care for their lover, can be called to testify against their partner, can be shoved aside by the sick ones family.
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The conservative standpoint on the protection of marriage:\n\nWe do not want the government to give gay couples all the rights and privileges of heterosexual couples, because this involves all the rights to adoption. Marriage is primarily about raising children together, because anybody can already live with whomever they want, and sleep with whatever they want.\n\nWe cannot allow children to be raised in same-sex households. Before you start labeling me a hatemonger, perhaps you should think of the child instead of yourself. Growing up in a divorced household is bad for obvious reasons, the child's interaction with thier mother or thier father is limited. It is always a tragedy when a child loses a mother or a father. Gay marriage effectively takes away a child's right to a mother and a father.\n\nLike it or not, children need both male and female parents, to have as positive role models, and to be so selfish as to deny a child a mother and a father is to be too immature to be a parent to begin with.\n\nBecause gay couples in most states already get all the same legal protections and tax benefits of marriage, and because they can "get married" whenever they want by a private ceremony with friends and family, they have all the same rights as married couples do.\n\nThe only issue is child adoption.\n\nYou can argue, well, having two fathers is better than no one.\n\nThat is true, but even heterosexual couples cannot adopt children unless they are married and have a stable household, and single people cannot adopt. There is no double standard here. The fact is, children grow up healthier and more well adjusted in a household with a mother and a father.\n\nFinally, homosexuality is a choice adults are free to make. But it is psychologically harmful for a child to be raised by gay couples. If you do not believe me, research it yourself. Too many children raised by same sex couples end up in therapy and way too many of them turn out sexually confused.\n\nWho cares? Any loving parent would care. Allowing a child to develop naturally in a family with a mother or a father allows them to choose for themselves which gender role they want to have later on in life. Growing up in a same sex household denies them the experience of having either a mom or a dad.\n\nMost conservatives do not care what people do with other consenting adults, nor to they "fear" or "hate" gay people. We simply do not want to introduce impressionable children to alternative lifestyles until they are really old enough to make choices for themselves, thats all. This position is based upon unselfish caring and love, not hatred or bigotry.\n\nBy the way, if I am such a hateful person, why does the majority of the gay community support me on this? Less than half of all gays support the redefinition of traditional marriage.\n\nIf you cannot reason without attacking me personally, then don't bother commenting on my response, because it shows your intolerance and prejudice towards people you disagree with, and reveals your hatred. We should be able to have a civilized discussion on these issues without labeling each other bigots.\nDon't treat me with contempt.