Why do women hate it when their husband is close to his sister?
370954
If she thinks you are closer to your sister than to your wife, it makes them think that there is something wrong with the marriage relationship. Watch your actions and see if you tend to take your sister's side over your wife's. See if they get along and if not, why? Does it have anything to do with family/life ideals? Parenting? These are things that she cannot change about you or your sister and it is frightening to her, even though there is no threat of cheating, it is the same feeling. You are giving emotions to your sister that she cannot compete with.
162050
I have an older sister and a younger one. I don't think one sister exist in the universe who wants to push her sister away by intention. it is a wrong perception in younger sisters.when they grow up, this misunderstanding will resolve.
1037857
Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
748664
I think what you're feeling is just normal. Maybe you should stop chatting with your boyfriend's older brother because it isn't going too well between you two plus it's making your hubby jealous. Plus I think chatting online is not a very good way of getting to know your lover's relative especially when it's the same gender as him/her. There are other ways to get to know his brother but maybe just stop chatting him online and see what happens next. If the brother doesn't stop to be hurtful even when outline, just mind your relationship more with your boyfriend than with the brother.
85109
She's your SISTER.  the dud... lol, I mean the dude is just another n*gga... (crossing racial barriers here), the guy doesn't care if he offends his woman and doesn't care if he sleeps around with God knows how many chics on the side.  of course you should tell her.
906973
I'm not Muslim..  But your husband has turned her down...in the past.  So he does not like, want or love her.  Her feelings are one sided.  yes she is jealous you have the man she wanted but didn't want her.  I agree with others she is no friend of yours.  If at all possible I would exclude her from your house and set her away for the lack of respect she has shown you and your family.  If you have to be near her than I would ignore her be polite but stay away from her...tell you husband about what she does that you know it's childish and petty but it's hurtful and maybe he can talk to her brother about it.  But I agree never leave her around him alone she is spiteful and is likely to start another rumor that won't be pleasant for anybody.
819915
I am the youngest of three sisters.  Our ages are 36, 42, and 45.  I could not have better friends than them.  We are extremely close and turn to each other for almost anything.  We take weekend girl trips together and call each other for advice.  Two of us live within 20 miles of one another the other lives across the country.  But that doesn't seem to matter.  We always make time for each other.  It wasn't always that way however.  I was the annoying younger sister and the two older sisters rivaled one another.  It wasn't until we were all older adults that we became close.
851093
my sis is married to one\nthey r fine they just had a kid\nthey sometimes fight\nand he made my sis cry couple times
247732
What would you do if she were any other woman?  She's apparently willing to disregard your relationship, so you shouldn't be hindered by it in your response to this. \n   \nTell your husband, first of all, that you have noticed this.  The way that he's responding to her advances is much more important to you than the fact that she's making them, and probably the smoothest way to make her stop is to have your husband deal with it.  He needs to tell her something like, "I'm sure you didn't mean anything, but I'm uncomfortable with some of the things you've done and said lately.  It's important to me that my wife doesn't get the wrong idea, so I think we should not be quite so friendly."  If he won't do this, you have another problem altogether.  \n\nIf your husband talks to her and she stops, then consider the situation over.  You've made sure your marriage is taken care of; if you keep eyeing the woman suspiciously, or if you tell your brother anything, then you're just meddling in somebody else's marriage.  \n\nIf your husband talks to her and she doesn't stop, you need to confront her directly.  Odds are that will get back to your brother anyway, but if her behavior continues after you have spoken with her, then you need to talk to your brother, too.  \n\nIt sure would be nice if you could resolve this and all stay friends, but if that doesn't happen, just remember that it's truly her fault, not yours.  She's the one throwing away your friendship right now.
821881
You are definitely not wrong. Sounds like your sister has some major issues and you have every right not to like her actions and attitude.
653465
I wonder the same thing. I try not to think about my sister hating me but it is really hard. My sister has caused problems between me & my mother just by doing things like you said: she would pick everything just to hurt you. I have shown my mother proof from my doctor that I am really ill & that I am dying but oh no my sister tells her that I am lying so now my mother refuses to talk to me. She says I made everything up even the letter from my doctor with his signature & the letter was written on letter head paper. Go figure. I made it all up. I wish that I wasn't dying. My sister says that she can't deal with my illness. I passed out one day asked her to take me to the hospital, says she can't deal with me. I don't know why she hates me. and I don't know how to handle it except for focusing on one day at a time. I have my husband and my daughter with me. She even told my husband something that my daughter did at her home, she was grounded for 8 months and then 2 months ago I found out from one of my other sisters that it was all a lie. she wanted to cause problems between my husband & I. She thought he would leave me over it. She has major problems. She has 2 daughters by her 4th husband. but actually the 1st one belongs to his brother but she confided in me not to tell him and I haven't. It has been 7 years and he still does not know. I don't cause her problems why cause me problems. Why can't she just love me? I love her with all my heart. I wish your sister would love you too. Maybe they are having emotional & mental problems and they have focused on us to take it out on so that they can live with it. I wish  you the best of luck in working things out with your sister. I am trying but to no avail.
485831
These people are so mean. It doesn't matter how old you are or she is. My brother married a woman 20 years older than him and they are so happy together. Just tell her how you feel and ask the question. Good luck
812101
Sounds like shes got some deep seeded issues, marrying a man that is 4 years older then her son.  The kind of mom that secretly hopes her son will walk in while shes dressing or something... eww.  Sorry you have to deal with that, but it sounds like at least you have someone with whom to share this unfortunate experience with, namely your new sister in-law.  I'm sure the two of you will be able to help each other.  \n\nMommy dearest needs to realize that you didnt "take him away", he probably RAN... and the only person to blame is the one that stares at her from the other side of the mirror.\n\nGood luck geting that through her head though... as sad as it is, help is for those that want it, NOT those that need it.
157154
I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
1005534
I do. If some woman was slobbin on my husbands nob, I would be PISSED. There is a certain level of intimacy to such actions whether it is recognized or not.
678500
My sister and I are three years apart and fought like cats and dogs when we were younger.  I'm 32 now and she is 29 and we are just getting to the point where we can have a conversation without jumping all over each other.  Our birthdays are only a couple weeks apart as well and we are both Aires...probably a bad combination.  I always thought that we were radically different from one another but then there are times when I wonder if it is that we are just too much alike to really be close...I'm still not sure.  \n\nWhat I am fairly sure of though, is that when sisters fight it is rarely about the thing that started the fight...she doesn't yell because you asked her to do a small favor.  She yells because there are huge under currents of emotion between the two of you that she doesn't know how to handle any better than you do.  You are two teenage girls living in the same home and there is going to be a lot of jealousy, resentment, anger, and self centered emotions coming between the two of you for a while.  The best thing you can do is give her space, you enjoy your space, and make up your mind that no matter what mean things she says you aren't going to treat her badly.  If you make up your mind that nothing she can do will make you hate her and you do your best to not say mean things to her then you have more than 50% of the control.  Know that when you get older and your parent(s) aren't around to hold the family together anymore it will be up to the two of you and any other siblings to remain close for the benefit of your children.  You can't control how she feels about you and what other issues she is having in her own head concerning you but you can decide that having a sister is more important than hating each other and not speaking for years.  \n\nSometimes you have to bite your tongue, I do it a lot with my sister, but not saying something mean is better than having her actually have a reason to be mad.  If you kill her with kindness and stay out of her way she will get over it at some point and you will have been the bigger person.
978361
my husbands ex wife is the same way. she wants to be at ALL of his family gatherings but she's so stupid because no one liked her before and they dont like her now she just looks pitiful. anyway she only has one child with him which she held over everyones head like bait or something and now i have two so she only looks dumb because no one wants to see her they only want to see his son.