i am deeply in love with a guy but my parents r not agreeing for our relationship. how to convince them?
358780
Trust me at 19 you are gonna wish you had dated more, i was in a similar situation.  They guy and I dated for 4 or  rs although he was a good guy there was no motivation or goals I found out on my own and ended up leaving him for someone else. You have to ask what is your future with that person and is your family going o ever accept him?
879935
tell him that your parents don't want you dating until you are (whatever age or amount of time until you are able to) and be sure to say that you like him as more than a friend. he will probably understand that and probably become a very close friend while he waits
1148957
It is possible that your parents are judging him before they have a chance to get to know him better but there is also a huge chance that they are correct about him too. The word white trash is a terrible word to use no matter what it is they see in him when explaining to you why they don't care for him. It would have been better for you if they explained exactly why they don't like him. Remember, they are your parents and parents want the best for their children.  At your age and I remember it well, i felt my feelings for my boyfriend, at the time, were so strong that nothing would change it, not my mom or anyone else but my feelings did change and the advice my mother gave me was pretty accurate even though i didn't want to believe it. I continued to date his guy for six years, from fifteen to nineteen. We broke up my first year in college. I changed but for the better. One thing i learned was you can't change any one.  When i started dating again I met men who were closest to the things i like or admired. For all you know the mistake you think you made could be the best thing you have ever done even though it doesn't feel that way right now.  You have many years to find the right guy or one you don't have to change. Your parents might say things to you that will encourage you to do the complete opposite of what they want but parents do have an advantage over their children, experience.
185252
If they are as close to you as you say they are then you would never lose them over marrying this girl. If so they are crappy parents at giving unconditional love and support as they should be. How old are you by the way? If you are young that could be a reason. Parents are usually almost always right about these kinds of things. You are a grown @$$ man though and they need to back off and let you live and learn. Fallow you gut feelings, not your heart. Your heart will ALWAYS get you into trouble!
1112086
Just be patient with them and let them get use to the idea that you are now engaged. This is a initial reaction, and as a parent I know if my children are serious about a decision I might not like, I will eventually be won over by them being more mature than me. If your parents try to break you up, prepare your self's so that there is no miss communication between you and your fiancee', so their attempts will fail. The fact that you are of age and not luring this over their heads, and want their blessings tells me your probably both a pretty mature couple. In the meantime, just stay fast to your engagement, stick together on this issue, and give them time to realize that you are going to get" married" in time, and I bet eventually they will jump on the band wagon, and you and your financee' will have full support of the families.
214768
You will have to just tell them this is what I want and you are alienating the person I want to be with and the person I love. Say to them you don't have to agree with this but show me some respect and be civil to my soon to be partner. If you stand firm and maybe come a little clean about your part in the problem, this should help, but some people just are stubborn and you'll have to deal with that.
918398
well you could talk to your family and explain that you really love her. if they still don't like her and if you are dead sure that she loves you and that she can break her engagement without any problem, then i guess you should stay with her. because it is YOU who will love her and  not your family. and if you can persuade them that you will be happy with her then they should be tolerant and accept the situation. i could also tell you to face your family and fight for your love like they do in movies but this is unrealistic. i have faced a more or less similar situation some years back. i was in love with a boy. he is hindou and i am christian and my parents disliked him. i love my parents very much and i didn't want to hurt them and see them sad. so i broke up. but this was my choice. today i'm still alive and waiting for the perfect guy if ever he exist at all. i dn't know if i have regrets. what i mean is that the choice is yours and no one else's!
247049
look...i don't wanna sound like your parents but you can't love someone after only dating someone for 8 months...you can last but...i will be a lot of tension. don't you want to be happy with someone you parents approve of too?
235762
Tough one.  its very hard to change someones mind when it comes to race issues. Your parents are not necessarily racist, they may worry about how other people who are racist will treat you. I would suggest you have a heart to heart with them...ask if they'll meet him, and maybe his parents too.  But remember this...if you try doing it behind their back...it'll just cause trouble....show them how mature your being by being open and willing to discuss the situation. Goodluck.
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.
720030
Is religion the reason that your parents don't accept your relationship? If so I would sit down with each set of parents separately and come to some sort of agreement. Many family are multi-denominational, get involved in both churches. If you need to divide your weekends every month in order to fully appreciate both families beliefs and ideas then I think that would be a very worthwhile thing. \nTo be sure that the barrier between the two of you is religion I would start with speaking to my mother about it. Take a moment when it's just the two of you and have a heart to heart. \nTake things slow, decide what is most important to the two of you and go from there. No one can decide another person's destiny.\nGood luck!
908218
talk with ur parents and tell them everything clearly and if you think that you have a courage to talk with boy explain him softly that all these thing looks good if they are done after completing ur studies and tell him that if everything remains same after that period also offcourse u will accept the proposal and tell him that if he loves u he has to do something(in terms of career) in life to achieve u.so both of u have to wait for that period.
505235
well you didnt give your age, but either way, if your parents are against him, then they have their reasons, and they also know best ( i know i know, i never believed it either , but believe me its true ) find someone better, you can do it.. good luck
648630
I don't think it's much of their parents business unless they choose a partner of the same sex and they don't want to hide it from their parents... If that's the case I would say just be honest about it. Parents love you for you and even if they get upset at first, they will learn to except it.
911626
Yeah they are right..... You should really talk to your parents first or if you feel uncomfortable talk to your siblings and friends at least you would be considering their feelings....... But do you really love your boyfriend that much? Are you really sure that you two are going to live happily ever after like in the fairy tales? DO NOT ruin your life... Guys come and go but families are forever.
189559
oh please! dont even listen to them. just tell, \n\n"dad,mom, i am the one getting married here.i am going to live with this guy for the rest of my life and if i do not have feelings for him, the marriage will never last. i have someone i love and my heart is with him and i am getting married to him. i would really appreciate it if i could get ur blessings, but if not, i will still marry him"\n\nsimple and short! gurl, they wont live with you and this "certain" guy. if they reallly like him, guess wat?they can get married to him. or have him live with them. sheesh!\n\ndo wat ur heart tells u anyway!
244381
i have racist parents, and i waited to date outside my "race" until i got out of the house. if i had "fallen for" someone they wouldn't have approved of before that, i think i just would have dated the person without them knowing. (and i would tell the guy that your parents have issues, so he knows why you're not taking him home to dinner first thing.)\n\nafter you've dated for a little while, and if you really think it's "serious," then you can introduce him to your parents, after you make it clear that you waited to tell them because of their racist attitudes, and are only telling them because it's more than just a crush. prepare for a big argument. tell them first, BTW, so they don't make asses of themselves. surprise is not a good idea here. \n\n(and sorry you have to deal with such silliness. at least i hope it's just silliness.)