should i give up on my wife when she thinks we should just split up with really no reason other than not happy
357456
Honestly she's trying to get your attention about something.  She probably doesnt really want to split if she doesnt have a good reason.  We women want your attention and when we dont get it... we say what we can to get to you... try talking it out, I'm sure she's got a lot she wants to get out.
61549
It sounds like she has no respect for you and has no consideration for your feelings.  Why would you want to be with a woman like this? Would she be so understanding if you were spending your free time with another woman?  You need to take charge of the situation and put your foot down let her know that this is unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to put a stop to it you know that she is not the one for you.  Ultimately the decision is yours do you want to live this way and if she is not looking out for your childrens best interest than maybe you need to.
583921
well is she worth fighting for what cause the break up, are you willing to take your blame as well, if not lick your wonds and dust your self off and get back to living, because life isnt going to wait on you it is going to keep going. with or with out you.
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
476093
It's true that you shouldn't make your decision based on your feelings. If ou find that it's really difficult for both of you to move on like this, I would advice for the divorce.It isn't the nicest thing to do but if you feel you want to, go for it.\n\nIn other words, I would suggest that both of you take another try on your marriage and try to mend it. After all, you've been married and there's a reason to that. You marry because of the love you have for each other. Think about that. Think about the reason why you did it in the 1st place.\n\nYou do not just marry her for no reason. Try using that to mend your marriage. Talk to each other and understand each other better. Counselors sometimes can't be trusted and that's where your money runs. \n\nI really hope you'll think about it. Hope you'll last together and be happy! Hope this helped! Good luck!!
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
461970
Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
936774
Split up again. If both people are not happy it can't work.
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
871129
why did you get divorced in the first palce? I think you know the anser in your heart of what you want to do, especially if you had to ask online. She does not sound worth it, let her go and find someone that will make you very happy
437143
If you two arguing is upsetting the child, which it clearly is, then you should split up.\n\nThe child will be upset at first but thats cos its all she knows, as soon as she sees that you both are happier by not being together, which makes her happy, she will come around to the idea.
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
734848
You ask "how do I know WHEN to call it quits"  as if you assume it's inevitable.  Instead ask, "What do I need to do to work this out before it gets worse?"  The same way you would with a sibling or another family member.  You want it to work because they are your family, and you should view your husband the same way.  With a few rare exceptions, divorce shouldn't even be a consideration.  I don't hear anything in what you've said to indicate yours is one of those rare exceptions.
432873
First off I can understand your frustrations but you must not betray your wife. To betray your wife would be an unforgivable act and the clock cannot be turned back. The only solution I can think of is for you to talk to your wife about your wants and needs and try and work out a plan together for how you can overcome this. Maybe an ultimatum is needed? I can see that you have obviously discussed this with her before with no result. I think you both need relationship counselling, if she refuses, you could go alone. \nI was once married to someone who wasn't affectionate and gradually our love disappeared to nothing. I was never unfaithful to him though. We finally split and as it happened it was the best thing that ever happened to me and i'm now with an ultra loving man.\nYou can't make any decision without at least trying your best to resolve your marital coldness. It isn't fair on your wife and it isn't fair on you or your families who will witness the aftermath. It could be the cause of much ugliness. Does your wife deserve this? \nIts worth remembering that all relationships set out in "luvvy duvvy" mode and even this new connection you have met will be more than willing to be loving in the early days but would things still be so cosy after a couple of years of reality living? Thats something you cannot foresee.\n\nGood luck :o)
762629
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.