Females only please, are there any tips or pointers on having (reaching) an orgasm without sex toys?
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Have a man lick you.  That is what worked for me!
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You need to know yourself and what causes you to acheive orgasm, then you share with your guy or girl what turns you on. Some women do not acheive orgasm before having their first child.Some women never acheive orgasm.....If all else fails learn to fake.\n\nYou could also learn to control your pc muscles... this is done by exercising these muscles,act like you are trying to stop a urine flow and like you are trying to stop yourself from passing gas, these muscles are the the ones you need to exercise over and over if nothing else it will keep you tight and exciting.
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Try different techniques. There's more than one way to masturbate, and the longer you tease yourself, the greater the orgasm is. That's why foreplay is so important. Slow things down, tease yourself, enjoy it for as long as possible, then finish off with an orgasm. It's not abnormal.\n\nThen again, as I said, you could try different ways of masturbating. See the link below.
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First, get her very, very turned on. Whether orally or otherwise, the more she is excited and the higher her peak of excitement before intercourse, the greater likelihood she will have an orgasm. So don't skimp on foreplay. Being in a hurry here will get you nowhere in the end.\n\nAssuming you've done the above and you both want to assure that she has an excellent orgasm, teach her this little trick (I just hope you're old enough and mature enough to be learning all this). Regardless of the position you use, tell her that you want to touch herself, masturbate, while you are in her. Most women don't get stimulated where they need to be from most forms of male intercourse. The clitoris has to be given friction in some way for orgasm. If she manipulates herself and you do what you can, she will likely have the best orgasm she's every known.\n\nUnfortunately many men don't like to think that they can't make a woman orgasm just by themselves. Sometimes they can, but the way I describe above is almost guaranteed. Some women are too modest or are not used to self-manipulation, and they need to be assured that you want them to do this and will not think less of them for it.\n\nEnjoy. Please practice safe sex.
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According to Kinsey, only 15-25% of women can reach orgasm through penetration alone, so, she's not too weird...\nTry a simultaneous G-spot/or@l, see if that works...
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http://www.zestraforwomen.com/\n\nThis zestra? For intense orgasms? Never needed to try anything, but I say more power to ya if you do try it!!!
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Try a pocket rocket. Works better w/ a partner. If ur flying solo, use a shower massager.
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My girlfriend had the same problem,,,she finally had an orgasm after buying herself a vib***** and she was 25!  Poor thing!  She was sexually abused as a child and taught that sex was "dirty" and "bad"....If this sounds like you, buy a vib***** and consider going to counseling if you think you need it....And remember that trying to have an orgasm will make it harder to have one....relax, open your mind, and you will get there!  Good luck
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Yes girls do! How else can we have an orgasm?
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How long have you been trying? Both in the sense as to how long ago you started masturbating, and how long do you mastubate for?\n\nIf your clit is starting to hurt, then you are applying to much pressure. Just rub it lightly, you can also try using a lubricant so that your fingers just glide over it. Try vasiline, or lotion if you don't happen to have any KY around the house.\n\nAlso you need to have plenty of time, trying to rush yourself to an orgasm will always leave you frustrated.
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First it sounds like you are really stressed out about it. I think life would suck if I couldn't have an orgasm so I feel for you honey. I think if you want a drug, call your doctor and make an appointment. Try different positions, different lubricants, and different toys. Something else that might be causing your inability to orgasm without yourself involved is if you masturbate a lot. If you feel comfortable with it, google orgasm problems and read some articles about it. That might help you figure out what it is.
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Hey man,\n\nSex is really not that simple.  Theoretically, yes.  But in practice not at all. \n\nIn order for the woman to feel an orgasm, she must be turned on.  This is best done by foreplay.  For me, foreplay includes a nice dinner that I cook and a nice bottle of wine to follow.  This sets the mood really really well.  \n\nKissing before sex is also a MUST.  Don't be afraid to do explore her mouth.  Suck out her bottom lip gently.  Bite on it gently.  French her.  Do whatever, but you have to kiss and get each other turned on.  \n\nTouching and exploring her body, both naked and clothed, is also a must.  I can't tell you anything specific really.  Just explore her curves and face and legs and wherever else you want to go with your hands.  A good lover's hands never stop moving.  \n\nNaked massages also get my woman REALLY turned on. \n\nAlso, mutual masturbation is very hot before sex.  It is an amazing sensation to pleasure your partner with your hands while they do the same.  \n\nOral is optional, but in my opinion is really nice.  \n\n\n\nI guess the biggest thing is that your partner needs to feel like you think she is sexy and that you really care about her in order for sex to be "good" for her.  Also, sex is not like Porn, where you walk up to her, bend her over, and f uck the shi t out of her.  You have to show her that you care about her.  And if you don't you shouldn't be f ucking anyway!
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I have already readed it, it's very usefull.\n"\nA Bigger Better Orgasm \n\nBoth men and woman can use the following techniques to make orgasms longer, stronger, more intense and, ultimately, more healthful. \n\n1. GAIN PELVIC MUSCLE CONTROL The pubococcygeal (PC) muscle group, which supports the pelvic floor, is the one that spasms when you have an orgasm. If it's in good shape, more blood will flow to the pelvic area during arousal and the PC will contract more strongly, making orgasms last longer and feel more intense. To paraphrase a statement about scientific discovery, "Orgasm favors the prepared body." Kegel exercises are a simple way to strengthen PC muscles. To do them, squeeze the muscle you use to voluntarily hold back your urine. Hold for two seconds and then release. Repeat 20 times, three times a day. \n\n2. CONTROL VOLUNTARY MOVEMENTS IN SEX You may already realize that some of the phenomena happening to your body during sex are under your control. While you cannot voluntarily increase and decrease your heart rate, you can take charge of various voluntary activities and thereby improve your sexual sensations. \n\nAs you approach orgasm, try speeding up your breathing and alternately tensing and relaxing your arm or leg muscles. During another session of lovemaking, practice squeezing or fluttering your PC muscle. The main behavioral principle is to choose one physical aspect of orgasm that you can control and overpractice it. Soon you will have trained your body so that all of these responses will work together effortlessly and occur spontaneously during future orgasms. \n\n3. MONITOR YOUR AROUSAL LEVELS As you make love, note your arousal levels on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being orgasm. As you reach each level, briefly stop and allow your arousal to subside so that rather than shooting straight for the moon, your arousal rises in a wave-like pattern. This technique, known as peaking, results in intense orgasms, possibly because it optimizes endorphin release. \n\nIn a related exercise, plateauing, squeeze your PC muscle, change your breathing, change your focus or change your speed in order to stay at high arousal levels for a long time prior to orgasm. Learning peaking and plateauing with a partner helps you develop a shared language of arousal and orgasm. "
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I've been looking into this a great deal lately.  We should all be physically ABLE to have a vaginal orgasm, but only like 36% (read it in cosmo yesterday) can actually reach it.  Takes some work!  You should check out cosmo b/c I'm not real sure what I can say on here...but they are pretty thorough.  Good luck!!
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Good grief, doesn't anyone have a REAL answer for her?\n\nTo enjoy it more yourself start by finding out what touches you like best; develop fantasies that arouse you; if you're of age, check out some story sites like literotica.com and find things that make you hot & bothered, use those things when playing with yourself; find toys you like.  Vibrators are good.  There are all kinds.  If you're self-concious about going into an adult toy store, go to Wal Mart or some place and buy an electric personal massager.\n\nMost importantly, make sure you have time and privacy to do it.  Nothing is a mood killer like wondering if someone is going to walk in on you.
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Let her ride on top of you, but put some hand lotion all over your lap first so she slides around really easily.  The absence of friction will let her move freely and with small effort on her part, and the pleasure will be much more intense, which will enable easier and faster orgasms, and that is intimate!
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I'm very fond of my jack rabbit; it's both a rotating dildo and a vibrator. I primarily use the vibrator, but the dildo's fun too, on occasion.\n\nI see nothing wrong with using sex toys to enhance or vary your love-making or masturbation. It's fantastic that some women can get off in 30 seconds, but for the rest of us, there are plenty of options. In fact, in some ways, I find that not being to orgasm easily has enriched my sex life because I can actually enjoy the act of sex in all its varied aspects for longer. I'm not sure I'd appreciate the intimacy and experimentation I currently do if I always popped off thirty seconds after starting.\n\nAnyway, if you're curious about sex toys, check out a website such as mypleasure.com where they have a large selection AND well-written, intelligent reviews from both employees and customers. If you do your research first, there's no reason why a few toys couldn't enrich your sex life...used in moderation, of course.