What do you do if you know someone who is a cutter?
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Is there a manager or nurse at your work that could possibly talk with her?  They could tell her that some of the employees are asking about her and are worried about her, and wondering if she is o.k.
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What your dealing with is a "Rite of Passage", don't do anything against those who are participating unless they start talking about cutting themselves to be equal.  (Only a trained Plastic Surgeon should do such)  In such cases, the bonding established will last long after the original taunting is forgotten, so if you want your friends to not carry the scar and develop werid internal responses, remind the taunted of things they excell in so they do not internalize the pain of being made fun of.
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Support them for staying clean if they are. Ask them about their experience because they probably have a lot they want to share. Offer your friendship if you are a non user. Be positive and cheerful and let them know how much you care about them and how proud you are of what they are doing. Plan fun things to do with them that are good clean fun, or become their gym buddy. Whatever you do, dont put them down or treat them with scorn because they were in rehab. they made a very positive change in their life and its good for them.
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Just talk about honesty,  a lot.  then talk about something in the middle for a little while, then ask her "I saw a scratch/burn or your *insert body part here* the other day, what happened?"  Then she'll be honest (see above topic) with you, and if she's not, just ASK HER IF SHE CUTS.\nI have a friend who cuts, her name is Julia and thats what I did with her and it worked.\nI wish you the best of luck,\nEmily
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Hi there,\n\nTry talking to her. If she is cutting she is screaming out for help but just doesn't know how to get it. \n\nIf she doesn't want to talk to you it is very important that you see if you can find some-one she will talk too. If you can't think of anyone call LIFELINE or KIDS HELP LINE to get some help!!!\n\nLife line 13 11 14\nKids Help line 1800 55 1800 \n\nYour a good friend to be concerned.
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have them imagine that they need help/assistance and what having other help them feels like.  Then have them imagine the same scenario w/o anyone to help them.  Then tell them that they can fill those voids and be that person that's there to help.  Tell them that there are tons of different ways they can help.  They can be on the front line or behind the scenes. They can help out animals or humans.
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Cutting helps people deal with emotional pain.  When it is easier to deal with physical pain than emotional pain people cut.  It gives them a release they can't find anywhere else.  However it is not a healthy way to go about it at all!  There are many risks involved in cutting.  You could get an infection or accidentally hit an artery.  Either one could end up in death.  Just be careful and find someone to talk with that understands.  Like a friend, doctor, pastor, counselor.  Depending on your age you could even talk to a counselor at school.  I really do wish you luck and happiness.  I hope whatever is hurting you so much is resolved.  If you have the strength to cut you have the strength to talk to someone, you just need to realize it!
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Talk to their friends and ask pointed questions. Observe changes in eating, sleeping, personality, sociability. If you suspect without any proof, go on a vacation w/o any contact with him. When you return, watch for reversing. She might even tell you without asking. Just don't paint her into a corner with questions. Use silent inquisition.
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You can either wait until they are ready or you can move on to someone who is ready. You might want to try and show them that you have no intentions of hurting them and that you are not like the others.
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Call the police and warn the person whose life is in danger,assuming it's not you. Then keep your distance from\nthe person in question,he/she obviously has problems.
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Strange how a worthless piece of metal can become a prized possession.  I'm really glad you want to quit,  you don't deserve any of this.  Try to take things one day at a time.  And don't try to quit all at once. All it does is make things a lot worse.  Quit slowly and quit because YOU want to not because someone else wants you to.  Otherwise you never really get over it.  Ive been a cutter for about two years as well but I haven't for a long time.  Try snapping rubber bands on your wrist or ankle.  or squeeze a salted ice cube (sounds weird but it burns like hell) I know of a website that really helps.  Its got tons of ideas on how to quit sent in by real people of all ages who self injure, not some doctor who thinks they know it all.  Check it out.  They also have some really cool art, stories, and poems worth a look.  http://recoveryourlife.com/Self_Harm_Recovery/default.aspx\nYou can make it, I promise.  I know that probably doesn't sound like much coming from a 14 year old cutter....But I really believe anyone including you can quit.  Don't give up.  You really can beat this.
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ppl cut because they are exchanging one kind of pain for another, but you seem to know this. YOU can not help her except by trying to talk her into getting the professional help she needs. you can only be her friend.To start off with I suggest you do all the research you can on this. do a google search, go to the library, go to a med. clinic, go to the school councler, etc... do NOT mention your friends name, YET, .. get all the info you can, then sit down with friend and show her all you know about it... then warn her that if she does not seek help, YOU will..... this is NOT a game.... give friend a certain amount of time to study and look into all this, about a week, anything more is asking for trouble..... then if she has NOT complied to the warning then you must go to her parents or anyother adult you TRUST... you must understand, that untreated cutting leads to  even more serious problems that can result in death !!!!! she will be mad at you for a time, thinking you betrayed her, but the betrayal is by her, to herself !!!!!! When you speak to her uplift her spirits by saying how much you love her, have faith in her to do the right thing and make sure you tell her how much you would miss her if something were to happen..... do NOT pour any guilt on her, or point the finger or blame her or anyone for this... be as positive as you can... BUT, I warn you, this will not be an easy task for you...... YOU must be willing to go all the way with her..... I mean do not just start this and then forget about it if she does not seek help herself...... you take the first step you have taken on a commitment !!!!!!!! so if you do not wish or have the ability to take this on, then PLEASE, take this to an adult you TRUST and let them handle it..... your friend will never have to know you took the loving step to save her life............. God bless
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I know exactly what you mean, when you have that feeling, you just want someone to sit and listen to you, and not judge you. Personally, I think it depends on the person you talk to, you need someone close to you, who knows a bit of what your going through, but who also knows that you aren't out just to get attention (this is most cutters main worry- and often this stops them from talking to people.) Explain your reasons for self harming and tell them that your not aking for their help- you can get this from professionals. You just need someone to listen and actually HEAR what your saying.
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talk to someone you trust.
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If your friend is cutting herself you need to tell someone.  She could really hurt herself and the longer she does it the worse that it will get.  She has to resolve these issues with her mom somehow in order for things to get better.  Your friend might not want you to tell, but for her own good someone needs to know who can help her.\nHave you thought about talking to your mom about this?  Your mom might be able to help and/or talk to your friend's mom about whats going on with her.  Maybe even have your friend talk to your mom - someone needs to help her with her emotions and the problems she is having at home.
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this is a very serious, yet common thing for many young girls to do. The reason people do this is because they are in so much emotional pain and they do not know how to direct it. They cut because the physical pain feels better than the emotional pain. They cut because when it hurts physically, then its a reason to cry and it's like a catalyst to letting out some of the emotional pain. Some cut because they feel completely numbed emotionally and they just want to feel something. Your friend needs help. Encourage her to seek some counseling. If she is a minor, she needs to talk with a school counselor and/or her parents. No boy is worth going through everything she is going through. I know of a really excellent article that discusses this subject in more detail.
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Tell them how you feel about their smoking however pushing them to stop cold turkey is not the answer. Tell them what happens to smokers and go from there , besides is it really worth the relationship that you have with them?