How would you not fall to temptation?
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I'm in the same boat. First, make sure you really love the lover. If you're not married, and it's a serious problem in your relationship, you still have an out. If you are married, it's just something you're going to have to work through. \nAbout the resisting though, it takes discipline. But really, the best way is to just avoid the situation that tempts you, no matter how much you want to pursue it. If you never pursue it, then it's not too hard to resist. If you make the mistake of falling to temptation once, then it's a habit and you have to fight harder. \nIf you see a hottie at work, don't hang out with him/her outside of work. Don't think about him/her in inapproriate ways. It's hard, but keep your thoughts pure. Stay faithful.\nI know how it feels, and I know how much it sucks sometimes, but if you really, truly love your partner remember that if you wander, it's going to be the most painful tihng you could ever do to them, and I know that's not what you want. A few pleasures aren't worth the bigger pain. \nBut also, breaking up with someone because they're not a "sex goddess" isn't right either. Try talking to him/her about it. Let her/him know your needs and that it is important to you.\nIf you're really in love, you won't want to go anywhere else.\n\nGood luck.
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The best way would be to not put yourself in a position where it would be hard for you to say no.  Go to public places, have other people around you - that way you are not tempted to do anything.  Keep yourself busy by doing other things that interest you.
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It's not a sin.  Enjoy yourself.  Just don't get too obsessed with it.  All things in balance.
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GOD SAID HE WILL ONLY GIVE US ENOUGH THAT WE CAN CARRY... ALSO, HE SAID LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING.. IF WE DO NOT HAVE STRENGTH, WE GET IT FROM HIM......FEEL GOD IN YOUR HEART, IN YOUR SOUL AND IN YOUR SPIRIT.....GOD DOES NOT LIVE IN OUR THINKING, BECAUSE SATAN AND TEMPTATIONS RESIDE THERE ALSO...GOD LIVES IN OUR INNER BEINGS...LET SITUATIIONS GO THAT YOU CANNOT CONTROL....GIVE THEM TO GOD..PRAY ON THEM AND THEN LET IT GO...GOD WILL HANDLE EVERYTHING.....REMEMBER, WHEN YOU PUT GOD IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT, KEEP YOUR HAND OFF THE STEERING WHEEL!!! YOU JUST DO YOUR BEST, LEAVE THE RST TO GOD!!! GOD BLESS YOU
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Here are a few ideas to ponder:\n\n1. God gave you sexual desires to help in your future marriage and ultimately to glorify Him. The desires aren't bad, but pointed in the wrong direction, as thoughts often are, they become sinful.\n\n2. Treat these desires like the habit of over-eating. The right kind of food is good in moderation, but when you binge or constantly crave food, it becomes your drug or even your god respectively.\n\n3. Think of the particular females who are currently the object of your lust as people who need your unselfish, godly love. Ask yourself what their greatest needs are, and minister to them. I wish I had done the same when I was in your stage in life (not long ago).\n\n4. Since the problem is bigger than you are, don't keep it a total secret. Confide in God and in a friend or two you can trust, who will hold you accountable.\n\n5. Don't just stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Replace these thoughts with godly thoughts. Carry around a stack of memory verses, for example.\n\n6. You're already so far ahead of most Christian men your age because even to strangers in this forum, you can express the problem honestly. Way to go, brother!
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The Bible says "Flee temptation!"\nDon't see how close to the line you can get - stay as far from the line as you can!\nIf he really loves you, he will respect that.\nIn fact, The Bible says it's the man's responsibility to be the protector in the relationship, so HE should be the one drawing the line, but many guys today don't know that, so you need to tell him that you're uneasy about where your (physical) relationship is going, and remind him that he is your protector (in this case, from himself). A real man will understand.\n\nSex is God's idea - He thought of it! have you ever thought about that? Since God invented sex, that makes Him THE sex expert. God limited sex to marriage for some very logical and loving reasons. God wants you to have the best sex ever! and the key to that is following His guidelines for sex.\nThere's a great book that deals with this subject called "Love, Sex, & Relationships" and you can get it here:\nhttp://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/easy_find?Ntk=keywords&Ntt=dean+sherman&action=Search&N=0&Ne=0&event=ESRCN&nav_search=1&cms=1\n\nThere's also a short version online here:\nhttp://www.lastdaysministries.org/articles/sexandsingles.html
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Temptation is not from God necessarily, we have a choice to chose to sin, and succomb to temptation.\n\nThe trial is usually what comes after we have made a promise to God or prayed, say, for 'patience'. It is a learning process to improve who we are. Some learn quickly, some are not fast learners from their weaknesses. If you get through the trial you will be stronger, and more clear about God's desire for us in life, as to our purpose and servitude, soldiering, ministering unto Him. It is usually a gift that we didn't realize it was going to serve Him and deliver others to the Savior. Life becomes more beautiful, it is a cleansing in your life...trials and resisting temptation. You will need to pray so much to be successful through trials and temptations.\nBoth, can be good if you do good and live righteous...temptations are\nnot desireable when you love God.
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There were still lots of temptations and evils preying around us so the best thing to do is to have a deeper relationship with God. This way no one and nothing can lead u astray and He will always guide you to righteous deeds.\nBest of luck buddy!
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By faith. Trust Jesus Christ. He's the only One who can save your soul from damnation. He loves you and wants to save you from hell. Please consider His most wondrous offer, it's free! You can't earn it.
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You can't, if you turn away you were not savesd to begin with. If your salvation is real ypu will change your behavior to reflect it.
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don't think too much\njust follow your heart
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Mrs. C., homosexuality, pornography, and "dirty" thoughts about people (anybody) are all sins. we all deal with sins and we're all tempted with them. you're specific sturggle, although black marked by society, isn't any worse or much different than anyone elses and you have to deal with it the same way.\nfirstly, I strongly suggest talking to a church paster or elder whom you trust. \n\nthere are a few verses that really help out in times like these. I've really learned to use them a lot:\nthe first one is 1 Corinthians 10:13 (I'm not going to quote them because it'd be too long) just take not the last part of that doesn't say he'll take the temptation away. but give you strength to deal with it, which you may have to endure the rest of your life. \nthe second reference is Ephesians 4:22-24 which gives you a (adimatably ambiguous) step by step way of dealing with sin. the key in it is training your mind. *you have to take control of your thoughts and MAKE them be submissive to God*\n\nwe all have our struggles and trials and vices. they're hard, but thanks to God, we don't have to be victims to them anymore. we have the strength and help that God provides. this doesn't mean it'll be easy and this doesn't mean that they'll leave us alone, but it does mean theres hope for us to stay away from all out sin. \n\nI'll be praying for you. I do hope you see a paster or someone that can help you, and please, stay away from the porn, if nothing else, it'll definately limit the sourse of temptation.
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Always keep one thing in mind, what you send around will come around.So do unto others as you would have them do unto you.I am not a church going person but these two sayings carry a lot of weight.
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i'd rather ask 'who'? It is only 'you' who keep yourself from accomplishing your goals. Now, what makes you do that?...here are some things maybe...\npast failure (which u must get over)\nlaxity (which is a bad habit u must break)\ndoubts/hesitation (which u must decide to confront)\nreality (meaning, your goals might be too big for u, or maybe they're not right for u- u were meant to do something else)\nlack of encouragement (in w/c case u should seek friends who could honestly and wisely advice and encourage u about things)\n\nbest wishes, pastor's wife. http://mwfrc.blogspot.com
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Make a quality decision to quit. Decide what circumstances or people around you help you to quit the habit or continue the habit. can you realistically and practically establish boundaries to help you quit. How bad do you want to quit? answer that before you do anything so you don't set yourself up for failure. Surround yourself with other people support and respect your decision and wont provoke or tease your about your decision to improve your life. Last but not least ask for Jesus to help you stop a bad habit He really wants to help you and me in every area.
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I don't know that there is any sin which you MUST commit. There are certainly many sins which I CANNOT commit.  For example, one command is that a king shall not gather for himself many horses.  If I had a great deal of money I could buy a great number of horses, but no matter how many I collected I still would not be commiting sin in this matter since I will never be king.\n\nSin at the most basic level is improper clothing for our soul.  We clothe our soul with our thoughts, with our speech and with our actions.  Most only think of their actions as being sin, but it is deeper than that. The things we say to one another can also be sin. Our words can also lead to sin. But before the words come out, the sin exists in the thoughts. Think before you think. Your thoughts have an effect on everything else that occurs in your life.\n\nEven if you pridefully think that you have conquered every unworthy thought that comes to mind, you are only decieving yourself. Continued repentance is needed. It is said that you should repent on the day before you die. But since we never know the day of our death we must therefore repent every day.  Reflect each night on the things you did that day and repent.
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It's called addiction. Addiction is a hard habit to break.First, you have to be willing to make a commitment to stop doing things that you know are harmful to you.Second, you need to learn self-discipline(telling yourself no)and Third,you need to pray and ask GOD to give you strength everyday so that you won't do the things that are harmful to you