What do you think about swinging?
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Swinging has been a very fulfilling addition to our lives.\n\nWe have been in the lifestyle for several years, and it has completely improved our marriage, and the way we communicate with each other.\n\nMy main advice for you is to make sure you set rules prior to actually swinging, then make sure you have lots of discussions before and after each experience so that you can make sure that you are still on the same page and that your rules are working.\n\nYou are exactly right about swinging sex being fun. If you are already able to separate sex from love, you are 3/4 of the way ready.\n\nPlease make sure you read the articles located at http://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1 about setting rules prior to swinging - without rules someone is likely to get their feelings hurt at some point.\n\nYou also need to develop code words and signals - for example, my wife and I have a code phrase of "I need a cigarette" - which means "Let's talk" and one of our rules is that whenever one of us uses that phrase, we stop what we are doing and talk - no matter what.\n\nWe also have phrases that let us talk about being interested in someone like this: "I want a drink" means I'm not interested, "I NEED a drink" means I'm interested.\n\nNonverbal signals are also important.\n\nRead through those articles and let me know if you have any questions.
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The swinging lifestyle doesn't even show up on the CDC list of risky lifestyles for HIV or STDs.\n\nPlease do some research before launching into a "disease" tirade.\n\nThe facts are that swingers get tested a lot more for STDs than the general population AND use condoms and dental dams much more than the general population.\n\nSwingers parties can be very enjoyable experiences as long as you are prepared.\n\nMake sure you take an "essentials kit" with you.\n\nHere is an article I wrote relating to the things you may wish to include:\n\nThe Perfect "Essentials Kit"\n\n\nOne of the items you will find useful when swinging is what we call an "essentials kit".\n\n\nThese are items that we've discovered ourselves wanting or needing during our adventures in the lifestyle.\n\n\nFor those new to the lifestyle, this article should be helpful in planning what to take with you to your first party, convention or club. For veterans, you may find some new ideas or suggestions here for your kit.\n\n\nTo start with, you'll need a "bag" to carry your kit. The one we use is actually a picnic basket. We took the plates, napkins, etc. out, but found that the compartments, and holders are very useful for keeping things organized.\n\n\nAs most clubs and parties are bring your own booze (BYOB), we left the wine glasses that came with the bag in our kit, this is useful because we always have a glass, and we always know that it is clean.\n\n\nWe also recommend a good quality combination padlock, this way you won't need to worry about keeping track of a key while you are trying to have a good time, changing into club wear, etc. We have found that the pocket on the picnic bag is very useful for keeping the padlock seperate from anything breakable - wine glasses for example - in the kit.\n\n\nThe picnic bag works great for carrying bottles of wine, lingerie, club wear and other assorted items.\n\nAssorted Items\nSome things we have found to be VERY handy in our kit include:\n\n\nTylenol - someone always seems to have a headache, sore back, or other ache pain or gripe, and typically at the worst moment, a small stash of pain relievers can really help to keep the party going.\n\nBreath Mints - Use them, 'Nuff said.\n\nCondoms - Not only is it wise to play safely, but in some clubs and parties it is required! Be prepared with some non-latex condoms as well.\n\nWe always carry some Dental Dams as well to protect ourselves and our partners during oral encounters.\n\nFemale Condoms are another great item to have handy in case of size issues for standard condoms.\n\nToys - Naturally everyone has their favorites, here are a couple that we keep in our kit. 1. silver bullet, 2. a vibrating cock-ring (I REALLY like to ride him me when he's wearing this). and 3. A standard vibrator of some sort.\n\nExtra batteries - all that toy goodness just goes to waste without the juice to run them!\n\nAnti-Gas Medicine - Feeling bloated and gassy can take the fun right out of an evening, so we always keep some of this in our kit.\n\nYour favorite lube - Even if you don't normally need it, sometimes situations or environmental factors can lead to dryness, not to mention that you may decide to try to make that "double penetration" fantasy come true!\n\nThe little blue pill - viagra may come in handy as well.\n\nThis is by no means a complete list, but by being prepared, you can increase the chances of an evening without unpleasant surprises!\n\nHave fun!
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Well, I like it. As far as it being healty, i have heard that it releases alot of sexual tensions. and it just feels good to shoot a load.
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Did you ask your wife or husband about this?  How does he/she feel about it? what ever you think they would say is your answer.
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I think this question stems from a general misunderstanding of exactly what "swingnig" means.  I have personally done quite a bit of research on this topic.  What I've found is that it's not just people going off alone to have sex with someone other than their spouse.  It's actually about *sharing* a sexual experience WITH your spouse.  \n\nThere are many different ways to "swing"... from the very tame, "soft swap" (meaning people who just want to have sex in the same room as two other people having sex.... ideal for exhibitionists and voyeurs) to "mild swap" which normally means touching and oral between all willing participants in each couple, but saving actual penis-in-vagina penetration for your own husband or wife, to "wild swap" which means completely trading partners for the sex... but even then, many swingers choose to do this in the same room as their spouse, some even go as far as to say it has to be in the same bed!  \n\nBasically, I said all that to say that it's not fair to stereotype and categorize everyone into one huge lump when everyone is sooooo very different.  People do still get married b/c they love one another.  Swinging isn't the same as infidelity... cheating is HIGHLY frowned upon in the swingers' community.  That doesn't mean there aren't people who do it... just that a large number of swingers are in it as a lifestyle choice... to take their marital relationship to the next level, so to speak... kind of like changing careers, going back to school, or buying a sports car at 40 b/c you want to try something new and different to spice life up a bit :)
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I like it.  I like variety.  Do what you like then do what he likes.  Etc. Communicate what you want.  Communication is much more important than the position or the technique.
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Sultans of Swing..of course hehe
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Simple answer...because you are a swinger!!!  It all depends on what your wife is comfortable with, if she's comfy with that arrangement, more power to y'all!
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Right and wrong are many times left up to beliefs and religion.  What does yours say?  If you are jewish or christian than the answer is yes.\n\nOne thing to look might be to look at if it's good for you or not?\n\nSwinging will put you in touch with other sex partners that are in touch with other sex partners.  Basically, a lot of bodily fluid swapping.  Many people may use condoms but many of the STDs out there are not stopped by condoms.  So, your likelyhood of getting an STD goes throgh the roof.  Do you want that?  Do you want to take that chance?\n\nPsychologically they say this will have an impact on your future relationships.  Studies have shown that sex is one thing that helps keep a marriage happy and healthy.  It does make a difference to a happy marriage.  By having sex with lots of partners, doing the swinging things, etc it changes your view of sex making it have less of an impact on a happy and healthy relationship.\n\nBasically, if you are concerned with just short term fun then it might be great.  But, the long term consequences have a great chance of being life altering.
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Personally I love it all... However I would rather go out and go to the lake, dirt bike, etc... It's much better outdoors. I think most would agree, why be cooped up while you could be out having fun doing things? I mean just to sit and eat under candle light doesn't sound all that great, only if you want to unwind alittle, and talk alittle... I really think most will go for the outdoors.
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I think what you did was hot!!! I'd love to try it sometime....as for being gay or bi, noooooo. It was FUN!!!\nKeep the fun going, and please don't listen to close to these close minded goofs that don't know what we know!!!
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I love it and I love to do it.  It's healthy, it's natural, and it helps women understand their own sexuality, which is always good.\n\nWhatever could be wrong with it?
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I commend you for being able to live with a woman and not be sexually active in any way, this includes fantasizing. I could not have done it.\n\nThere is noting wrong with shacking as long as there is no sex involved.
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i think incest, consensual, is fine, so long as nobody gets hurt...we have a some very parochial ideas about sex, we put a lot of labels on things, we like to control other people by forbidding certain activities, but if everybody is having fun, then i say go for it! just be careful and smart (no disease, no pregnancy) like you would with anyone else
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It was in you all along - but the second time around - you happened to meet the right girl to get you off.\n\n\nI wish all the guys were bi & would swing both ways.   Oh how that would be cool.   I would love it.
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I'm hearing ya. Its all part of the fun. Just enjoy it!\n\n!
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we like the pendulum, bf gets on all four, (girl has to have some strength) girl wraps legs around hips and arms around neck, girl lifts up and swings.\n\nAnother one we like is a reverse girl on top, bf lies on back, girl lies on her back on top. just when he's about to cum arch your back to get him all the way in and really push down with your butt on his pelvis. my husband says it feels RELLY good.\n\nMy husbands favorite position it a flat doggie style, girl flat on stomach, guy on top, this way the guy can control how "tight " it is by moving the girls legs in or out.