How do I tell my wife that I cheated on her?
366997
First go out and get a  protective cup, and a bat. Then go to your wife head hung down in shame tell her and hand her the bat and tell her to have at the groin. After the therapy and learning to walk and pee standing up again, you'll have been about 2 years without sex and not have to worry about doing anything so stupid again.
553176
None of your business. However, it's not a bad idea to have a chat with the cheater, and just reminder her that marriage is sacred and you're so glad she's decided to commit to being eternally faithful to him.
338084
Telling might ease your conscience but it could ruin your spouses life. I'm so glad you came to your senses and ended the affair. It's refreshing to see someone take the responsibility. What a blessing you are still in love with your spouse.\n\nYou need to talk to someone, I just don't think it should be your spouse. How about your minister? Everything you tell them is confidential. Or another professional counselor. You need to get to the root of why you started an affair to begin with. If you continue to live with the guilt your marriage will suffer for it. Talk to someone. Work through it and let it go.\n\nI pray you'll be able to forgive yourself and have a happy life with your family. God Bless!
982581
You still have to tell her. Blood is thicker than water. Besides, she'll be a lot madder at you if you know this and say nothing. Tell her you're sorry, you didn't know, but that's what you know now. In the long run, it will strengthen your relationship.
7865
First......I think you just did say you were sorry to her for being a boneheaded idiot. The first step is finally realizing what she was trying ot say to you. I have a feeling you realized this......just a tad late. The key is now letting your wife know that you understand. I have a feeling that she felt you spent more time on your bike than with her. Perhaps you were truly caring for this bike......pampering it.......polishing it........tinkering with it..........all while she had to look on. Now that you realize that the bike was dispensable.....make sure you show her that she is not. Care for her.....pamper her......tinker with her.......polish up the marriage. Flowers do nothing.....trust me. Actions......mean everything. Spend time being "present." Stalk her in the most fun loving ways you can imagine. Let her see that you can't stop thinking of her........that you need her........and nothing else will ever come between you two again. (she so needs to know this!)\n\nI so hope you are ok after the accident. I have a feeling that was another issue. She loves you so much and couldn't stand to stand back and wait for you to get hurt. Assure her you won't put yourself in any danger at the risk of losing her. (ok was that too mushy? That might have been too mushy.....aahhh but try it anyway.....what'll it hurt. *wink*) \n\nGood luck......I'll be rooting for ya!!
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
1142942
OH BOY. THIS IS NOT GOOD. BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? WOULD YOU CONSIDER TELLING HER THE TRUTH, OR SIT WITH IT? WOULD YOU BREAK IT OFF AND LEAVE THE SITUATION ALONE? IS THIS A LOVE THING? MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO COME CLEAN ABOUT IT ALL. SORRY, I HATE GUILT.
345997
Well you do have a mess on your hands. The indiscretion was bad, deceit about it was a lot worse. It is obvious she was aware something was up or she wouldn't have kept asking. She probably knew and just needed evidence or some kind of proof.\n\nWhen you're caught you're caught. Unless there is a way to really cover it up, you just have to bite the bullet and fess up and hope for mercy. The ongoing deceit only makes her think she has no reason to trust you now and in reality she doesn't.\n\nJust about everything you do not reminds her of the 24 months you ran this game on her. There are all kinds of triggers and reminders and to top it off you did cheat and you did so with a family member! Ouch.\n\nYou can assure her you aren't cheating now but you will never take away the doubt. She has to overcome that herself. She is thinking why did you do it the first time and what's stopping you from doing it again?\n\nI would ask her if she wants to break up. It's hard but giving her that option might show her the reality of the situation and calm her fear that you're holding on to her and doing your own thing. Having you cake and eating it too, so to speak.\n\nGood Luck!
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
55414
Why are you with her? Get out of that relationship. No one deserves to be cheated on. You deserve someone who will come home to you and only you. Please don't keep hurting yourself. They aren't worth losing your self-esteem and self respect. There is someone out there who can make you so much happier than the person you are with who insists on cheating on you. The only way to help you stop hurting is to get together with a bunch of friends after kicking her to the curb and keep the good times flowing. I am so sorry you have to go through this but once you're done with this relationship you are going to be so much happier. If you feel like she is remorseful about her cheating and says she can change give her one more chance. Lay down the law and say this is the last time you are putting up with it and if it happens again send her packing.
268811
Just tell her. If you're married she'll understand and listen to what you have to say.
306402
You perpetrated the ultimate betrayal!  You betrayed your wife with her own sister.  You not only have destroyed your marriage, you have destroyed the relationship of two sisters.  And, chances are, the news will become known to the family and you will have devastated them as well.\n\nYou need to confess to your wife immediately.  Let her move on to someone who deserves her.  She will never be able to trust you again.  You can have the sister...I think you deserve each other..after all, she betrayed her own sister.\n\nYou know it is only a matter of time before you are discovered so it is best to come clean.
772822
Under marriage & divorce - we can only assume you cheated.  It will probably go away in time...who knows how long...only you can say.  Hey, it happened for a reason...maybe he did something unkind to push you into it?  It may not have been all your fault?  \n\nDon't tell your hubby, that will only make matter worse and then he can bring it up years from now during an argument.  Confessing to him may make you feel better, but it will definately make him feel worse.  Short term it may work...long term it sucks.  \n\nThe good new is that the guilt will fade away a little more each day.  If you really need to share this with someone, then go to a church and share it with God.  Good luck.
729422
You've done something pretty bad I take it, and here is your first problem in trying to get your wife to give you another chance- you keep calling whatever it is - a "mistake". Big no no.\n\nYour wife wants you to accept full responsibility for what you did. Say "I was wrong", etc. Calling it a mistake is minimizing your role in it. Like maybe you "accidently" had sex with another woman, or punched her, or gambled away your kids college fund, or whatever.\n\nI don't know what you did, but your approach to get her back is backfiring on you. I know from experience.
717867
You gotta come out and tell her.  But before you do, consider what you're risking.  Is she worth losing just cause you want to have sex with others?  \n\nYour wife deserves care and protection.  She entered into marriage expecting you to love her, forsaking all others.  By engaging in risky behavior, you're exposing her not only to heartache, but potentially deadly diseases too.
214459
look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.