is it the memory that is bad? Or is it the emotions attachedd to that memory that makes the memory bad?
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It is the emotions that make the memory an unhappy one, in my opinion.  A memory that is bad for you isn't necessarily bad for someone else so that makes an emotional response the basis for your reaction.  \n\nFor example:  I love thunderstorms, but a friend of mine hates them.  She hates them because she once saw a tree hit by lightning as a child and it terrified her.  Her bad memory came due to the emotional response of fear.
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Depression can cause long-term problems like this.  But, if it is short term or just forgetting certain things it is more likely caused by the way your memory works:\n\nYou remember things by making associations, you associate your muscle actions with riding a bike, names with faces, words with definitions... everything you remember is based on these associations.  If you can't remember it means your associations are not strong enough.  Trying to remember harder doesn't help either.\n\nIf this describes your problem try doing a websearch on mnemonic or memory techniques.\n\nGood luck.
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Memory is of two types. 1)recent memory that is lost with stress alcohol lack of attention etc. 2)remote memory --that is conducive to long lasting rememberance.\nMemory depends upon three factors  a)impression---the total concept, comprehension,and mental picture(we remember things which we understand) b)repetition---(the number of times we read or encounter a concept) and  c)association---relation of one thing to other.\nChilhood events have all these factors.Moreover reception in our brain(mind) can be  compared to a coating of cement.During childhood the cement coat is fresh and the impression is long lasting.
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It's not impossible, but why would you want to try to recall those memories?  Would it change the person you have become?  All I can see it doing is causing you pain.  I would chalk it up as just a weird dream you had because you used to have a crush on him.  And, if you were six when he moved way, maybe your recollection of how and why he moved are a little blurry.  Would you even really know if he had moved away in a "panic?"
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Sounds like you have a horrific childhood past and it's blocked. Did you know if a parent does something wrong the child represses these memories the most. I don't know what it is or who did what but sit a think as far back as you can. Writing is especially good when your in these kind of moods. I MYSELF FIND THAT i write stuff I had forgot about.
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Short of developing amnesia, you will and should think of that person. Even if it is a bad memory, it is an experience that you learned from. There is not one person that doesn't have someone that has been removed from their life. It doesn't matter whether that person was a cause of pain or pleasure..they should be remembered and thought of as either having been a blessing to you or as a valuable learning experience of what you want to avoid or change in the future. Key word here is "life"..you can't live without having memories of people. These memories build the fabric of who we are and who we will become.
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I dont know what the medical term is but I would say that it is some kind of memory problem
573679
This might sound really stupid, but I used to and still do a little feel the way you do. When I was seeking help about it, I was told to write my little disappointments or things I regretted on some paper, wad up the paper, and throw it away. It's like I needed that visual to realize that the past is the past, there isn't anything I can do about it except maybe learn from it and do better next time around. What good it is doing you just sitting around nursing these things ya know? Make up for it however you can.
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I have pondered this same thing..\n\nI can forgive someone for treating me poorly, but I will never forget how I felt when that happened.. \n\nI think it has to do with a little self preservation, and more to what you want to surround yourself with, and  not wanting to put yourself in a position to face the same types of offenses.\n\nForgetting it a very hard thing to do, because you naturally associate some things together.. like a favorite song from high school that instantly makes you feel a certain way when you hear it again, or the first time you laid eyes on your first born, or the first time your heart was broken.  You retain this data (I think) because it's all a learning process that later will help you value what is and isn't important. And the emotions tied to those things are memorized with your heart.
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Memory blackout can be a result of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but from what you said, it doesn't sound like you have that. Some people believe memory blackouts are the result of traumatic events that are pushed into the unconscious as they are too painful to deal with. Others don't believe that as traumatic memories are the most vividly recalled. Memory loss can be a result of many things, you should talk to your doctor about it.
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Memory is linked to emotional/personal value (think about your clearest memories...usually there's intense sensory or emotional stuff going along with it). Depending on what you want the student to remember, bringing in music, dance, games such as hand clapping patterns, etc. all can help tremendously. Repetition is a big key, too, for fact recall, so drill, drill, drill!
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Yes. I think it's because we were in similar-looking places or situtations in previous times and it's like that thing when you can't think of a word and it's just on the tip of your tongue. The memory's there, it's just a little screwed up. I don't think it has to do w/ previous lives
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The reactive mind does not store memories as we know them. It stores particular types of mental image pictures called engrams. Engrams are a complete recording, down to the last accurate detail, of every perception present in a moment of partial or full “unconsciousness.”\nSo then our analytical mind shuts down and reactive mind starts acting.It could b that engrams will not affect our mentality but sometimes they can have an impact due to associations which our brain forms during unconsciousness.\nThese associations, without logical analysis, may give rise to emotions such as fear, love, withdrawal, depression etc. which become active in similar conditions as those at unconsciousness.\nour mind never shuts down in unconscious situations too, for eg, a boy who might get dehydrated while playing on a hot sunny day, faints and lays unconscious, may hear voices of people around, like his frnds....call his mother soon, or bring some water, he may smell the mus on ground etc. Later in life he wud get a headache in sun, or may start avoiding that smell of mud, or feel uncomfortable in such a situation.He may avoid hot hours of the day, unknowingly, even if its not too hot outside.\nI did my best to explain, i hope that tells u what u wanted t know, if u already have the correct answer by now, plz do tell me about it.
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Memory is not well understood in humans. It doesn't seem to work like a computer, for instance. It isn't clear why some more or less random events are remembered, but other more significant ones are not.\n\nAlso important are the slow creeping in of false memories. This can happen in cases where a person tells the same story over and over. Slowly new details are "remembered" which in fact did not occur.\n\nThere are ways, I believe, to inhibit short term memory. But that won't help you. There are also people who have stopped the process which converts short term memories into long term ones, which is a terrible condition as they can remember their past but every thing that happens after a certain date is quickly forgotten.\n\nECT - electroconvulsive therapy, commonly called "electroshock therapy" can remove memories. ECT is not as bad as it sounds, but still isn't something to take lightly.\n\nUnfortunately there is no way to erase specific memories. What are lost are bits and pieces of things, without any real pattern connecting them.
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well i have a horrible past! and i built up walls to it. but i have recently found out that to move on from it---i had to break them down and deal with it---now i can move on from it! if you have never had a bad past, you can never fully understand how it effects your present! agree???? well life for me is better! but i have such a tendency to look for trouble and heartache...i guess it is still in me to live a troubled life......
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I've had a lot of "best memories". I don't think I could go back and pull out just one of them. I wouldn't say this memory is better than that memory. I can give you a worst memory though. the day my daddy died.
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Yes.  I had a repressed memory that only came back last summer.\n\nBut sometimes I do wonder if it was a real memory?\n\nBut that's just because I wish it hadn't happened