why does it hurt to love?
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When love goes wrong it creates an emotional in-balance in your brain chemistry, the result is a torrent of chemicals released into your bloodstream which in turn affects other areas of your body generating discomfort and pain based on the intensity.\n\nThe reason your brain behaves in this irrational way is to help protect our species. You see men are pain adverse. if you put your hands in the stove and get burn once then the next time you are more careful when playing with fire (note however, you will still use the stove.) In a similar fashion once you experience the pain of loosing a loved one you become more careful next time, this ensures that you will be willing to even give your life to protect the ones you love, g/f, wife, child, etc. Now, take in consideration that all this wiring in our brains come from less complicated times (Aka. prehistory.)
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Yeah, I have and still am. I guess, its suppose to hurt cause you cant always be happy. Love is really complicated, one day you're happy then the next day you're crying your heart out. You just have to stay strong...
502565
i understand what you are saying perfectly. after you have been hurt enough times, you don't want to go down that road again....when you are 18 and the first time in love, they really don't get it....at least not yet..........but, remember, if we do not love to keep pain out,,,then we also do not let love in.....it's a risk, but it's worth taking.. good luck
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It can be the worse pain you'll ever feel, until you realize its not going to kill you and it ends up making you stronger...its just that first love gone wrong puts you in unfamiliar emotional territory..you know its not going to stay this bad but not knowing for how long makes it seem like there is no end to the pain it causes...any broken heart hurts...but that first one...ooouch!
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Simple. Love does not hurt...you may be attracted to a person you think you like but it hurts sometime..then it isnt love..he are some thing to consider:Love \n1.Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love. \n\n2.Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.\n\n3.Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring. \n\n4.Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself. \nIf somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love. \n\n5.It is very easy to confuse lust for love. \n\n6.The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction. \n\n7.It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about your feelings and confusion.\n \n8.Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory. \n\n9.Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person or your desirability. \n\n10.Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated
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loving someone is getting to know them and truly caring about them.  being in love with someone puts a shield over you and u feel like life is perfect, but sometimes are in for a rude awakening.
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In order to truly love someone, you have to let them get close enough to hurt you.
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When you love that person so much it hurts and it drives you crazy that you think of them all the time. Remember: dont settle for the one you can live with but wait for the one you can't live without.
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THE REASON LOVE HURTS IS BECAUSE THE PERSON YOU ARE LOVING, YOU HAVE PUT ALL YOUR TRUST AND CONFINDENCE IN.  YOU THINK SINCE THEY KNOW YOU LOVE THEM, THEY SHOULDN'T DISAPPONT YOU AND WHEN THEY DO, IT HURTS. IT'S A SAYING "NO ONE CAN HURT YOU LIKE THE ONE YOU LOVE" REASON BEING IF YOU DON'T LOVE THE PERSON, YOU CAN BRUSH OFF WHAT THEY DO, BECAUSE YOU DON'T EXPECT MUCH OUT OF THEM.
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Because love = Insanity. Love is the one emotion that a person can have that can make you go crazy.  It can make you do some strange things. Its just as bad as Drugs. When Love is over you cant eat, you cant sleep, you cant think. And the sad part about it is there is nothing you can do to stop the hurt.  They say time heals all wounds. But one thing they dont tell you is it cant remove the scars.
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Painful but well worth it. So much love in the air and all your fears go away. Such a great time. You feel so much closer to the person you love. And you are also kind of nervous.
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The lost of a space being filled in your heart. It is a deep empty hole in your heart that can only be filled by love (Not sex). The need to be wanted and the need to touch another human being in a matter that needs no explaining. With love that is lost helps us grow into a more complete person and it does get us ready to meet, be and love that special someone that we all need and will someday meet. The worst thing about this pain is there is no pills or medicine that you can take to ease it. The only thing that will help is time. Take Faith knowing that you will meet that special someone one day and this is growing pains.
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It's a bit of both. \n\nHaving love is painful, lest you fear to lose it, yet at the same time, being in love is wonderful and can make you happy.\n\nYou must strike a good balance.
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Love hurts wen u love sum1 but cannot be with them and you'd rather die than be alone. A true romio n juliet love story.\n\nAs it is said, "IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED, COS NEVER BEING IN LOVE MEANS YOU HAVE NOT LIVED"\n\nWhen one is out of love, the breakup can he hurtfull, but not as hurtfull as losing a loved one.
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Best Answer! \n\nYou know you are in love when it hurts once its over!
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Yes, love does hurt..once its gone...Have you ever broken up with someone? ...
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It is two out of the three.  We all, well almost all, want to have someone to love.  And it is a feeling we have that we have no control over.  How many times have you looked back after a breakup and heartache and you are miserable and want the person back and say to yourself, "I wish I could just stop loving them".  Unfortunately, we can't choose what our hearts want, otherwise we would choose to not want them, and there would be no such thing as being heart broken.