Why do women say "he seemed nice at first", when in fact she knew he was a jerk from the start?
363338
they usually say this as an excuse as to why they hooked up with the guy in the first place.
384927
Because nine times out of ten the jerk has the nerve to go up to the girl and talk to her. Or that's been my experiance from tlaking to girls. They want the nice guy, but they want the nice guy to go and ask them out not just be-friend them and beat around the bush.
696157
Women have the impression that guys are jerks and thats why they cannot trust any guy. Maybe it's because they have had bad experiences with guys. Not all guys are bad but you even know that guys think with the wrong head
71360
As a guy, I can tell you without hesitation that some women have a way of turning something back on you.  If you tell her you're mad about something she has done, hasn't done, etc., you get a load of crap designed to turn it back on you.  Including trying to make you feel guilty for even bringing it up.  Some even try to clear the anger by attempting to inspire sympathy.\n\nThat's just speaking from personal experience.  It's very hard to bring up sensitive issues with some women because it's impossible to carry on a serious, purposeful discussion of the problem without being emotionally manipulated.\n\nJust my opinion.  And please don't think I'm issuing a blanket statement to cover all wome.  That's why I said "some women".
165954
Wish it would but guys just don't speak the language women do so they will probably think that nothing's the problem if you don't speak up.  Chances are, when he finally notices that you're giving him the cold shoulder and asks you why and you reply "don't you get it?" as if it were obvious to him why, he will genuinely be surprised and offended at your drama queen antics and be more upset at you for not telling him there was a problem in the first place.
507432
I'd be very careful with him. First impressions are usually correct, and your first impression was the guy was a jerk.
13340
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
863975
Look this same exact thing happened to me and i swear i was about to go physco on this guys a**, but he wasn't sincere at all in his apoligy, so if you said you were sorry in a certain tone of voice she might have taken it in a way like you didn't really mean it, and maybe the 2nd time you said it nicer and she knew you were sincere, so it could just be the way you said it.
1130094
From what you said it seem to me what went on with buddies of mine when we were young and stupid. I have had buddies that could not stand their girls. And when the sex got boring it was time to bail. If they heard rumor from the girl's posse that she was thinking of dumping him, or that she had dumped him and he was not told yet. they would do a 360 turn and be the most charming you ever seen. To get her liking them again or take them back. Then they DUMPED HER. So, the official story is that SHE did not dump me, I dumped her. I think that is what he did. She came back, he had the power. And he used it. He was never really into her so much as to be the one to turn on and off the tap. She lost. She better just move on.
345272
A guy who liked me used to always call me stupid though we were like the smartest kids in school, so it could be.\n\nDepends how he says it. The guy who liked me said it ina playful way, with a smile. If he says it in a hateful way, it means he thinks you're ugly.
601318
I knew someone who was in an abusive relationship and yes, she did repeat the cycle. It was really sad but it seemed like she would only date guys who were jerks. I think women who are in this cycle have such low self esteem that they really don't know that they deserve better.
977221
We women have this awful bloody problem that when things go wrong we automatically assume it's OUR fault or something WE did!!!!\n\nSome men don't like women who have an opinion or a voice!\n\nTo be honest maybe it's good that he has ended the relationship, he sounds like he may have more baggage than you know about. It shows commitment to meet someones family and if that's whats scared him off your better off without him, girl!
186781
If your man makes comments like that in front of you, not only is he rude and inconsiderate but a jerk too!! Seems to me that he is trying to get a "rise" out of you, either way he's a jerk and you should move on to someone who will treat you with more respect! Good luck.
892323
So what is her problem? she has serious esteem issues if you ask me! and Im a woman, she needs to get a life. Its no wonder some men are afraid to open their mouths in case of such an idiotic reaction.  If she hasnt been complimented in 5 years, maybe she needs to work on her people skills and be approachable.
441778
yes youre exactly right. sometimes we as men (yes i am a man) get caught up wit our selves. he prolly was lovin the fact that she was flirtin wit him and when you told them off he felt like he had been embarrassed and felt that when she cursed u back out that she was sayin all the things he wanted to say and couldnt get away wit.
268848
Nice guys finish last doll and it takes us dumb women a long time to see that, we want the bad boys and sometimes it gets us in trouble.   \n\nI also believe that foreplay if you will starts at the word hello it's that soft touch, a hand on the shoulder or the small of a back or the slow dance that makes the night, jerks that look at you and nod their greasy heads towards the floor well that's being forceful. \n \nAlso to explain something else my husband use to be one of these jerks.\n\n When I meet him the first time he was just a jerk looking for a smoke, \n\nthe next time I saw him he was shooting straw papers at me from across the bar, \n\nthen I meet him again and he was a short order cook and I was helping his girlfriend hold onto him,\n \nA month later he asked me out and I told him no I wanted to be friends, \n\nand now 13 years later I married him, he has changed, and we have a son, \n\nso for some these jerks there is hope, but then some not.\n \n\nBut you darlin if I weren't married to a nice guy you'd would be 1st on the list. hope that boost ya a liitle by the way nice 360, yeah i had to check it out, sorry.\n Black belt huh, wow ok good night.
1152512
Women don't like jerks, they're just kind of biologically drawn to them...\n\nWomen love confidence.  Even when they're not confident, jerks are typically a bit cocky (which ironically, is a sign that one lacks confidence).  Cocky resembles confidence just enough to get the girl.  Being a domineering control freak is also an attribute that women commonly mistake for confidence, and as a result, such men often get the girl while the nice guy loses out.  Meek & indecisive are the two most effective female repellants out there!   \n\nWomen also love mystery.  Jerks are not open with their feelings, which makes them a bit mysterious.  Nice guys are frequently open with their feelings which kills the mystery.  While women CLAIM they want a man who's open with his feelings, deep down they much prefer a man who keeps some mystery about him.  \n\nIgnore what women SAY they want in a man; instead, pay attention to what they RESPOND to.  Generally, the key with women is to be "the man with a plan" (e.g. don't ask her where she wants to go on a date, just take her there) who's fun to be around (most important: make her laugh) but doesn't talk too much (don't tell her your life story right away, make her work for it), all without being a domineering a-hole.