So I do everything my man wants me to(he's only my bf)but he tells his mom Im not doin enough. Y is he mad??
367905
He sounds like the type of man who will never be pleased with you, no matter what you do. He'll never be happy enough and he's a selfish jerk. \n\nThe fact that he talks to his MOTHER about you and him... that would be enough to make me run in the other direction.\n\nCut your losses - it may be painful, but totally worth it as there are other fish in the sea who won't find fault with all that you do.
894781
I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
96026
Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
841231
I am sorry girl but it was disrespectful.  I dont blame him for getting mad...you made him look like an ass infront of his whole family.  Now they think that you are a bad person and if you love him you will have to prove yourself to him.  If not find another man.
996711
A good friend of mine is going through the same thing with her man right now.  I don't think his actions have anything to do with whether or not he loves you.  It sounds like he has a very demanding family.  If they are used to having him all to themselves, it is possible that they are being "catty" on purpose and trying to come up with reasons to take him away from you.  It is normal to love your baby boy, but not to the point where you become selfish and competitive for his time against a woman that he is trying to share his life with.  \n\nIf he has grown up being a "pleaser", he probably finds it very hard to say no to his mother and sister because he doesn't want to let them down.  There is really nothing you can do until he realizes there is a problem and sets them straight.  He needs to learn to stand up to them and say, "I'm sorry, I can't help you tonight...my girl and I already have plans...but I would be happy to help you tomorrow."  There's nothing wrong with that and his family is not going to love him less for saying so.  They're acting like little kids that will keep pushing to see how much they can get away with.
536565
i feel sorry for you. i have a similar situation. my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me as well. we have been together for more than 4 years now.  what i suggest is you discuss this matter with your boy and try to win your future mother in law.  if you can't just fix your relationship with your man and just ignore her.  what's important is that you and your man are madly inlove with each other.
243116
I've been in this situation a few times. No matter what you do or don't do your BF's mom will think you're not right for him...at first. Give her time to get to know you better. Once she realizes how much he likes you and that your not out to break his heart she'll back off. Try asking you BF to talk to him mom.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
570083
Sounds like he's trying to control you.  You need to nip that in the bud right now because if you adjust your life to pacify him on this matter, he'll just find something else to take control of.  If you allow that, in 20 years you will have no self esteem and not be able to make decisions or do anything without his approval or guidance.\nIn other words, you'll be miserable.\n\nHe's insecure about your relationship with your mother.  Tell him flat out and without an apology that you are going to continue the relationship with your mother.  Then do exactly as you say and be on the lookout for other control issues that may arise.
487563
I'm a guy...Ladies, if your bf is not giving you enough attention and you are not a spoiled brat (I'm not saying you are), then he isn't in love with you, not matter what he says! If a guy truly loves you, attention would be the least of your problems! If I love the woman I'm with, nothing else can get my attention. If you have to fight for attention, move on and find another guy...there are plenty to go around. Expecting 100% is expecting too much however, the guy does need a life and you should have one to. It is not healthy to be together ALL of the time...that makes for a dull relationship. Ever hear..."absence make the heart grow fonder"? Well it does, try it once in a while.
882039
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
30247
THAT GUY IS IGNORANT AND IT SOUNDS LIKE UR MOM DID A GREAT JOB RAISING YOU..AND YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB AS WELL..THAT GUY IS POOR HIMSELF..POOR IN BRAINS
882316
The situation is that his mom is pressuring you to work things out, but she has no idea what needs to be worked out.  \n\nManaging his parents is his job.  At a minimum, he should tell her to back off and leave you alone.  IMHO, he should come completely clean when he talks to her.  If he won't do it, then you can do it for him.  \n\nBe prepared for her to blame you for his infidelity.
226951
Your not being bossy, you are growing up and taking responsibility for your life.  I know it is probably hard for him to accept that he needs to grow up also but if he really loves you and his son then he needs to.  It simply is not ok to continue that life style when there are so many more important things in his life now.  He needs to understand that just because you are both growing older and you want to be more responsible isn't the end of all the fun in your lives.  It is just that the definition of fun needs to change.  It needs to be more family oriented.  Instead of going out partying till all hours of the night, you have friends over for a barbecue, you take a family trip, etc...
327100
Sounds like he wants you to be his mother.  I would just go seperate ways.  Good luck.
932667
i think you seriously need to tell your boyfriend how unhappy this is making you, and if he cares about you, he will listen and tell her to f**k right off
550347
I am very disappointed with the other answers.  They are obviously not parents.  Even though you are not your boyfriend's mother, you are still the mother of his child.  He should have done something special for you, especially you being a new Mom.  Father's Day is coming up...forget him.  He may know how you feel.\nI do not know if he appreciates you or not.  You only mentioned this situation.  Respect would be a more appropriate word.