lam in love with agirl who say "lm not ready yet and we can be friends"and l just cant what shall l do??
369260
I've done that...\nThat means No, she doesn't like you on that way.\nBut I'm sure you really good Friends.\nEnjoy the Friendship if you think is worth it.
1099911
hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
834288
Be yourself, if she doesn't accept you for you are then maybe she should be the one to change.  You can't go into a relationship hoping that the other person will change and you sure can't try to change them.  Maybe you should rethink this!
959246
Give it one more try Ali...it sounds like she is stringing you along or setting you up as a back up plan.  If she responds the same, then just agree, "good idea, lets just be friends" smile and walk away.
574471
MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
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NO IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! I'm not an expert, but as someone who has been close to the edge...it's a personal thing. She is responsible for herself and her actions. YOU can be her friend, encourage her to get the help she needs, and be a shoulder to cry on. Last but not least, you can't make a heart love someone, if she can not get beyond her romantic feelings for you, ask her what SHE WANTS...you out of her life or you as a friend (once she's in a relatively "normal" place). GOOD LUCK,  MY BEST WISHES ARE WITH YOU.
607049
She needs a break and she is about to say "Let's be friends".  It is usually a bad sign.  She may love you, but the real question is if she is IN love with you.  Ask her.
63475
im in a position like that.\nits really hard\nspecially when you think (you can see) she (he) loves you too, but both of you cant talk about it at all!\n\ni think its on you, if you can eliminate the distance, then tell that person, what you feel,\nand tell her (him) what are you going to do!
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Honesty.\n\nPart of me wants to just say "Do it ~ there's someone in my life that I wish would tell me that."  But on the other hand, I know {and he knows, too} that now isn't the right time.  We're so far apart.  No matter how much you love each other, it will be really difficult to keep a relationship of that sort going when separated.  I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult, as you know by your relationship as it stands now.. I know it, too.  Friendships themselves aren't easy to build or keep.
327951
Just tell her your not ready for anything more than a friendship right now.  She probably will get hurt, but that's called life.
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maybe he isnt ready for realtionship right now, keep in contact with him as friends and if you both meant to be together you will be. good luck.
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Tell her that you cant wait for her, and tell her that she needs to do something fast, because you cant take the Sh!t ne more and you are ready to settle down and let her now how you feel and make sure shes just not trying to use you, make sure you tell her everything on your mind and whats in your heart
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unrequited love sucks ass!!!!\ni too am in your boat all you can do honestly is try and stay friends and if something happens which it could quite possibly  could let it happen but remember dont throw yourself out there untill you know she has fallen for you.\nbe yourself and lets hope it wotks out for both of us.\nhope is a great thing my friend and anything is possible
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Who's fool are you?  Yes it is possible that they can just be friends but seems to me the seed of doubt is already there. Where there is no trust there is no relationship, and it sounds like you don't trust her. Get out while you can and don't be the fool.
166775
O.K. Here's the solution... try to follow along...it's not like it's rocket science... ready... here it is....CALL HER!!!!
807661
You really have the patience and you do care for her a lot. But i feel that she does not deserve someone like u. Find someone else.\nI know that it will hurt. But reality sucks and you have to accept it. I am really sorry dude.\nBut them again, if you really love her. Give her one more trial. None of us are prefect and we commit mistakes. Just conside this as a foolish mistake by her and give her one more chance.\nForgive & forget. As long as it does not hurt u.
893448
Maybe she is just afraid of what your reaction would be. Maybe instead of hinting you should just come out and say what you feel. It sounds like maybe you are both hinting to one another but neither one is stepping up to the plate. Even if she doesn't see you as botfriend material right now she might later if she knows the opportunity is there.