i a muslim girl wants to marry a hindu guy? cant evn live without him.pls help.is break up the only option?
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If your love is strong and you feel like fighting for him, I think it's time you make a stand. \n\nSometimes in life, you have to give importance to your needs. Not what your parents or the society thinks. Do you think, you'll be able to forget him and live with somebody else the rest of your life?\n\nPersonally, I would feel incapable and weak If I did that.  Try to make people around you understand that you won't be happy with another person of your religion.  If your happiness means something to them, they'll compromise.\n\nIt's wise to avoid conflicts by both of you not asking to change another (typically religion). If nothing works, go and settle down in a place far away to try to establish peace after a while with your families. (This is, only if you aren't left with any other option)
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You must be strong in your faith, but he may be steep in his religion.  If he hasn't proposed to you yet, I think you should travel abroad confident with the reality that he had time to do so, and didn't committ in that ultimate way.  Has he even brought that topic up?  Has he made a promise to you about it yet?  \n\nYou say its been 15 yrs; do you want another 15 more to go by, not being his wife?  I personally know of women who have had children with men, but not been married to them; both Christians and Muslimahs.  \n\nGo get your education girl.  Stop stressing.  Make that your goal for now.
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Yes.  I am married to a muslim man.  I follow an earth religion and he is muslim.  We both practice our religion and are happy together.  We have been married for almost 5 years now.  I have learned a lot from being with him.\n\nYou can work things out, if you love each other and respect each other, religion will not stand in the way of it.
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I'm an african but i know a little about muslim marriage.He has to introduce you to his family,then he'll make his intentions to his family,thats to marry you.Then he will come with his family to meet yours.The lady's family does not go to meet the guy's family.it is isn't done anywhere.Just be patient.when your guy is ready he'll tell you when he's meeting your family.
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this is an imposible relationship , how could you even think about him ?! , i know that love has no rules but our relegion is the most preceious thing we have , God how could you even think about him ? this is a big ( HARAM ) action what you're doing , if he really loves you so he must convert , he must or else both of you has just to move on , and be sure that God will be with you and will give you the best , but don't sacrefice your relegion or enter any illegal relation with him , tell him that it's his choice and he must take his decesion , whether he convert to be able to marry you , and that's what i really hope to happen , or if he refuses so he doesn't love you , good luck .
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OK This question is truely for me..I have been through this. First: the dilemma of age and religion are two different things. Age is just a number, decied if you can live with yours. Where religion is concerned, I am a Muslim who married a Catholic. We both kept our religions. From the get go, we decieded on the perspective kids's faith, which was to be Catholic. I didn't care about forcing Islam on anyone, so the decision was easy. We kept religion totally our of our religion so far. She goes to church or not, not my problem. I go to mosque or not, not her problem. We celeberate all religious holidays and don't take carp from any reltaive and friends when it comes to our differences of religion. They don't like it, screw them !! There you go..Hope this helps. Feel free to contact me. I will luv to chat with you.  Jimmy
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yes, its possible to marry her..but at first you need to know werther if she really loves you deep down inside and be ready to convert to Islam to be married to you..?\n\ndo not force her to convert..it must be from her heart..but if she..reluctant to give away her christianity and that is not a good news to you..you might probally can wait for he until she finally says that she really wants you to be her life partneror maybe you have to forget about her..\n\ni think thats the only good way to do.. you're a muslim man..and as a muslim..you should know what is the best...\n\ngood luck my friend
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Tayeb,\n\n      Dating is not allowed in Islam.  You have to get married as per Islamic Sharia.  Make dua and Insha'Allah it will happen.
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you guys should never get physical. one of you should have left the room.\n\naccording to the Islamic Shari'a you have the right to divorce him.\n\nbut i just wanna give you a little piece of advice, try to work things out especially if you two have kids together. give him one more chance to change, if he didn't change then divorce him. but for the sake of your kids try to work it out.\nI'm sorry this is happening to you sister.\n\n---\nedit:\ni read the second part, like i said give him just ONE more chance to change after you tell him how you feel, get it all off your chest. \nif that didn't work\nget a divorce..\n\nmay Allah guide you both and grant you wisdom.\n\npeace.\n-----------\n\nEDIT:\n\nbroken bones??!! oh my God. there's no more chances sister!!\nI'm afraid you should get a DIVORCE ASAP.\ni want you to ask a scholar about Khul'. he should tell you how it's done whether there should be something done from the religion perspective or just go by the Law of the Land (filing for divorce in court).\nsee here\nhttp://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?cid=1118742803355&pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/Page/FatwaCounselE
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Different cultures make it difficult for people to stay married.  Before you marry your bf, visit India with him and observe the customs of how women are treated in the households and their roles in domestic life.  Be objective.  You may or may not like what you see, but at least you will be aware of the differences.
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I think you should forget about this married man. If he has told you he wont leave his family, then just cut your losses and leave.  Dont play second best to someone else, you're worth more than that.\n\nI cant advise you on the arranged marriage business as I am not familiar with how religion works but surely if you are not happy to be made to marry someone, you cannot be forced to do it.
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Why in this world would you two ever marry?  You two will self destruct in a very short time if you marry.  A christian should never marry a non christian.  It just makes the whole marriage very difficult, if not impossible.  You should tell him everything that you think BEFORE you ever marry.  He can not OK or deny you to go to hell, you will go there no matter what he believes, but for your own belief.  I think you are just looking for problems dating this person.
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Wake up sir and please for once be more realistic! \n\nLove has nothing to do with caste! If you love her with your whole heart and you know that she'll be the only one that can make you happy, then go for it despite your parental objection.\n\nSometimes in life we have to make our decision. Our parents wants the best for us but IT IS ONLY US THAT KNOWS WHAT WE TRULY WANT AND WHICH BEST IS RIGHT FOR US!
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I am neither Indian nor Hindu (nor Buddhist), but I think the answer depends on several factors: a. How strong are both of you in your faiths?  b. How much do you both have in common?  (The more things you share in common the more compatible you will be.)  c. How much do you fill each other's emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs? \nIf one, or both, have strongly held religious beliefs, there WILL be conflict in your marriage, especially if neither are willing to compromise.  (Personally I don't agree that you should compromise your beliefs.)  Compatibility is more important than physical attraction, because looks fade, and after a while you stop noticing what the other person looks like.  And how well he treats you, day after day, year after year, the feelings you get from being with him, are more important than money in the bank.  Money gets stolen, or spent too fast! but emotional security is priceless.  If he has lived in Mexico for a long time, or you in India, then you both have some cultural things in common, which is a good start.  But if you are both from completely different cultures, the outlook is bleak.  You would have to work extra hard to overcome that handicap.  There.  Has that discouraged you enough?  (Just kidding.)  It all comes down to you personally.  What do you want?  Are you willing to take the time to get to know him well enough to know whether he's the one for you and that you're compatible?  It does take time, unfortunately.
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hey, sorry to know.. you're probably hindu, and she's muslim/christian (or the other way round)... i've been in exactly your situation, we were together for 5 years and had to end it...\n\nif you don't want her to hate you... the best thing for you to do is to cut her out from your life now... right away, and as soon as possible!! .... can't do it? feels impossible?\n\nwell put yourself in her shoes... forget about yourself, coz you love her more than yourself. she can't forget you, until you make her do so... as long as you guys keep in touch, she will never even think of moving on.. she won't be able to handle it if your parents need you to marry someone else at this stage of life, and you say yes. in the meanwhile, you'll keep stringing her along... and then, she WILL hate you...then it will be total injustice to her.\n\nbut..... if you let her part now, completely... she'll be hurt for sometime, she'll tell you she hates you for a few days.... but then, she'll back down, she'll be forced to see a new direction in life...she'll be forced to start living for herself, rather than living for you - which is pointless and... if you let her do it, very selfish.. don't give in, no matter how hard she tries to meet you/talk to you again.. it will be the worst and hardest thing you'll have to do.. but it will be the best thing for her...\n\nyou want the best for her, so let her go.. and don't turn back.. she WILL understand one day.. but if you want it to end in you two being friends at least one day, please do the right thing, for her first.. and then for yourself!
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I love how everyone has a prick up their @sses right here. Clearly you love him enough to be seriously contemplating a seerious relationship. In that case, compromise is the word here. You have no faith, but clearly his faith is important to him as well. \n\nIf there are children, it wouldn't hurt for them to learn about their father's religion. I have known many many people that have come out of mixed faith relationships. Some are devotely religious, some are supposedly "muslim" and just don't care, and ssome don't believe in Islam at all. Anything is open, and you have to keep in mind that in the end, this will be your children's choice. They will be exposed to two different ways of living, a whole other world that you have never known. Of course there are going to be problems, many of them, but you need to keep lines of communication open and be willing to budge.\n\nMaybe try telling him to avoid the topic of religion to his children until a certain age, but they can learn arabic if he is willing to teach them? In exchange, they won't be exposed to Islam until they are old enough to understand, or at least ask "why does Daddy not eat for a month right now?" Or something like that.\n\nAnd there are things that are truly just about comfot levels. Will it kill your children if they didn't eat pepporoni pizza or any other pork products? In return, it won't kill them to not go with their father to the mosque, or avoid any religious ceremonies or events. That's a "sacrifice" that both of you are going to have to deal with.\n\nWhatever you choose, keep this in mind: You are influencing what your children will be exposed to for the rest of their lives. It would almost be cruel to hide them from a way of life that is so important to their father, and yet at the same time it would be ridiculous to assume that they hvae to adopt a whole other mode of living, especially in a foreign country. It is not easy. But in the end, your children will end up deciding what they will and will not believe when they're ready. In the meantime, if you truly love each other, then your children's faith will be somethign that you both work on together.\n\n[Edit] To all you spouting out of your @sses that Muslim men do this, you'll be beheaded for that, you have to wear this and that, do your research for God's sake!!!! Islam is as diverse as CHristianity in terms of how devote its followers are. How many of you Christians follow every word of hte Bible literally? I can answer that: None. Not all of us women wear the scarf, even fewer of us wear the veil, and contrary to popular belief, the veil was a functional, practical garment that came about not from Islam, but from leading the life of a farmer hundreds of years ago in the sandy, blinding hot sun of Saudia Arabia, not for the cold climate of Britain. If any of you have gone to the desert, you'll know that covering up is actually cooooler than getting the full rays of the sun straight on your skin. Not all of us go around in bikinis begging for sun cancer.\n\nOther than that, no you have the full freedom of choice to stay un-religious. And to all of you idiots mentioned above, if she's fallen in love with him and known him for almost a year now, then she knows what he is all about. Clearly she knows how to lead her life better than you guys. And clearly, she is much more open minded and willing to experience other people's cultures than all of you.
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Dont do it. You will hurt ur parents and she will hurt hers. N u will have lots of prob coping wz each others religion. \nFind som1 ur own religion n get married without breaking any1's heart