Should someone you care about be forgiven or should they have to earn it?
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Screw me once, shame on you;\nScrew me twice, shame on me.\n\nForgive, but be aware of your options, should your forgiveness come back to bite you on the *ss.
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We should not give with the intention of getting something back. The kindness we give to others is also a gift to ourselves.  If you feel that the people whom you are interacting with are not returning your kindness then you are with the wrong people.  Family is not a guarantee of kindness or loving or caring.\n\nWe are all alone in this world in some respects.  I am alone too.  \n\nThe first thing to do is to stop feeling sorry for yourself.  Stop making this the focus of your life.  There is more to life than this.  If you get busy and put it behind you, you may be amazed what happens.  Put a smile on your face.  No one wants to be around a dreary person who is feeling sorry for themselves.  Nothing will happen quickly but things will turn for the better if you start to feel better about yourself.  That is where the answer lies.  You must do the work on yourself first.  No one makes us happy.  We have to do that for ourselves.  No one makes us unhappy.  We allow that to happen.
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U may forgive the one by thinking that whatever happens....happens for good. \nAny way i liked this question as u have asked "How to forgive?" instead of "What punishment should be given to the person who takes ur money?" The person who forgives is always greater than than the person who takes revenge or gives punishment.
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If they honestly seek forgiveness for their sins
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I think the best measure of people who care about you is people who will let you apologize to them and then will not try to take advantage of it by always pointing out that you admitted you were wrong as if that means you are wrong again.\n\nPeople who are willing to apologize to you... ok, might be worth something, but it might not. Someone like Donald Trump or Tom Cruise "apologizes" to you, I don't think it's worth that much, it's more like "hey, I said I'm sorry so shut up, it's still about me"\n\nI think you can trust people who learn about a weakness of yours, and they try to build you up, and not take advantage of it.
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if you can forgive them and they can see they made a mistake than don't let love slip away. no one will think you are weak because you love someone so much that you can forgive them. God does it everyday to the worst of sinners,and we don't think of him as weak.
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You do not have to pay his fines because you were not in a rational state of mind when you offered. If your boyfriend is really your friend and cares about you he should not press you on it. He should take up his responsibilities and pay off the fines HE accrued on his own. HE is an adult. You could compromise and in a sober state of mind offer to pay a [small] part of the fines to help him out.
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Forgiving the dead can only be a healthy action made by the living.If you are seeking forgiveness after you die, or "stop breathing for the last time", you are still alive to ask the question. That tells me that I as a friend would do every thing I could do to ease your suffering. Of course not every body has a friend to forgive them after they stop breathing. Know this, I could be a friend,that would much rather forgive you in life. The question to me says "forgive me if I fall apart when you all need me the most". Please take care of yourself, and please try to find forgiveness in life not death. Have a nice day!
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The power of forgiveness is amazing.  It is the hardest thing to do but has amazing results when you do it.  It may just seem like the "religious" thing to do, but you need to release that burden of the past and put it back on them. When you don't forgive someone it only hurts you-- not them.  So let it go-- the best you know how.  I am a christian but I have seen the power of forgivness in my family who is athesist.  God Bless you and I hope that you don't have to live in this forever.  :)
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I think it has something to do with an understanding that everyone has that when you do something wrong, you are required by justice to pay the price for your wrongdoing. The problem is, most of the time we can't just pay things back; life is full of crimes and mistakes that go way beyond just stealing a candy bar and then returning later to pay the storekeeper. So I think it's really hard to forgive ourselves because we don't know if or how we can fully pay the price to make up for it, and sometimes we don't even know if it's possible at all to fully pay things back. There is hope, though, and it comes with something called the Atonement of Christ. Whether or not you consider yourself a Christian and by whatever definition, the Atonement is worth researching and coming to understand. What the Atonement does is it makes up for everything that we can not do for ourselves; it pays the price of justice so that we can feel peace. So if you feel like you're having a hard time forgiving yourself for something you've done, try turning to God for help. Ask him to help you understand the Atonement so you can understand how you can forgive yourself. This was a long answer, but I mean every word of it. The Atonement works. If you try it, you'll see for yourself.
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It depends, I think. What are you expecting to get back? Are you expecting monetary reward? Altruism is usually not pure. We feel good when we do something for others. Some people do stuff because they want to go to heaven, others fear negative karma. So we all expect *something* when we do something for someone. Hope I understood the question and that my answer helps.
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there should be no limit on forgivness. we are all human and screw up. does Jesus put a limit on how many times He will forgive you for your sins? no He doesn't so why should we. if the problem is big enough to where you can't trust him anymore then you probably would just be better off finding someone you can trust. there can never be unconditional love if there isn't trust. so basicly it depends on you how many times you want to forgive.
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Forgiving is good, grudges are bad. Forgive the person for yourself, if for no other person or reason. Besides, one day, you'll do or say something you'll need someone to forgive for, and you'll be hoping for the forgiveness. No one is perfect. We're just human.
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I can certainly relate to what you are going through.  I, too, am a giver, and I have felt so drained of everything after being repeatedly used by someone. Yes, it does hurt badly to be liked for only what you have or can give!  I agree that you should be quick to forgive, and not just when it feels right.  However, you can forgive someone but still keep a healthy distance from that person if they continue doing things to hurt you.  Someone who is TRULY sorry won't keep using and abusing you.  I would suggest you try reading the book "Safe People" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. It really deals with this very issue and shows you how to safely choose people who are not going to treat you as a door mat.  In the mean time, go on forgiving, but set up some boundaries for yourself and don't allow people to walk on you.  Choose your friends wisely.  You can still love them, and pray for them, that they will come to see how they have treated you, but you don't want to give them the go-ahead for mistreating you.  If they are truly your friends, they will stop and never do it again.  If not, it's time to meet some new people.
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You can't just make someone forgive another, they have to want to forgive. The friend who wants to be friends should just be nice to the other person. Maybe even surprise them with nice little treats or presents to grab their attention.
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i dont think you are ever justified just forgiven
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No, you should treat everyone as you would like to be treated, not as they have treated you.  Can you imagine a society that is out to get everyone at every turn that would be horrible.  Show that you are a better person, by forgiving them and moving on.  Since you have lost trust with this person it is best to just leave them behind.  Why it hurts so much is because they have betrayed your trust.  They were disrespectful and wrong.  I am sure you have heard the phrase forgive and forget, forgive them, but move on.  Forgetting will take time and showing them you are a better person by not reacting the way you want but how you should will make both of you better in the future.