Is it hard these days for men to commit to a long term relationship or marriage?
366883
It all depends on the man. Some men are built for marriage and commitment, some men just aren't. More and more our society is encouraging men to nurture their anti-commitment tendencies. Even empowerment of women (something I think is great) is having unintended effects in this direction. As more and more women are feeling it's okay to be promiscuous and casual in their relationships - men get even more reinforcement that this is the best way. It surprised me, but I've even had the thought "where can I find a woman who wants to settle down?" run through my mind.
426061
i believe in lifetime relationships... but a  good man is hard to come by..
1018202
these days it's harder 4 2 find a good person, good people r out there but not like in the olds days when people wanted 2 get married and b loyal, these days everyone thinks it's cool 2 cheat and not settle down. so da good ones that r out there feel hopeless.
1141706
Marriage is the legitimate way to go for people who love each other AND who want to be together. I do think, on a man's standpoint, there's nothing a woman can/should tell us to get married. See, if a man gets married because you convinced him to, then it feels as if it was not our decision, and later down the way, resentment adds to all those roadblocks marriage is known to unearth. \n\nI kinda feel like him. I have been married. I have a family, and I have been through ugly things that I would not have gone through if I had stayed single. \n\nNow this is what you should do... since marriage is going to put y'all together on a 24/7 basis, then test the water. Start spending a lot of time together, doing every thing together, then if things are still nice, move in, and live together, doing every thing together which will put y'all in a married-like situation. And then and only then, if you guys really love each other you guys should go thru every thing just fine and pass the little disagreements and tie the knot. So don't rush, let marriage be a logical outcome of a long lived situation... who knows, something might be wrong with him for him to be divorced twice (he gotta be doing something wrong), you might save yourself some ugly things and a divorce... good luck!
411573
i think there are a number of reasons why people are no longer getting married like they used to.  our society has changed drastically just in the past few decades.  divorce rates have rocketed and the number of people who believe in god, or practice christianity faithfully has decreased.  marriage isn't really taken seriously anymore.  another reason people are just dating is because women have become so independent in the past few decades.  no longer is our role to get married and be a stay at home mom raising six kids and cleaning house, etc.  many women are going to college to pursue degrees and aren't graduating until their mid to late 20's.  i know for myself, i am more focused on finishing school and enjoying time to myself before i decide i want to settle down and get married.  this is just a few of my own opinions on your question.  hope it helped a little.
679821
no, commitment issues have to do with men and relationships\n\n(I really don't know the answer but I hope you've got a smile on your face from my stupid joke!)
1076733
Commitment.  Some women are afraid of it.  A married man very seldom divorces his wife for another, so it is a SAFE relationship for the women who wants no strings.  Just like women who marry men in prison for life and on death row.
515083
Men have been succeeding in relationships for centuries. The ones that don't get all the bad press.  When it does happen it is most likely because they have not had a good example of a long term lasting relationship to pattern them selves on. Why the good ones go unnoticed is a question too.\ntake care ~A~
190005
Yes, very much so.  Not a complex situation here.  Have such types married and lived a long life together.  Yes.  But let's look at quality of life here.  You do best in your comfort zone.
602854
we "modern humans", both men and women, i have seen have started getting such tendencies to seek a relationship outside even if they are satisfied .\n\neven in countries like mine - India - which is much more conservative and where marriages are by and large done once in a life and they survive till both die\n\ni attribute 2 reasons for it - greed and the need for change.\n\nGreed because man & woman want more and more out of life in the area of sexual and emotional fulfilment. Meaning they want such things from more than 1 people\n\nChange because like every other thing, many people have started taking relationships as a commodity, which should be changed frequently. Instead of understanding the partner, they just live them alone for self-good.
267312
I worked extremely hard at a relationship for 25 years.  I truely believed that was what it took for success.  Then true love came along in the form of an old flame and I realized how incredibly easy real love is.  I realized all the spiritual energy I used up over the years.  I was spiritually and emotionally exhausted.  A single meeting with my old girlfriend and it was all replenished and overfilled my soul.\n\nRelationships that require hard work can endure depending on the strength and will of both parties.  But you risk being very hurt if either finds their soulmate.
394134
As you can see it all depends on the man. Everyone is different and has different values and morals...some good some bad. Some are looking for sex partners, some for financial stability....real mature men are looking for women with a strong sense of values who love them and are committed to building a relationship together.
361307
in some cases, yes. There are all types of people out there and some women love the "challenge". I know I got a lot of attention when I got married. Maybe some of the women felt safer talking to a married guy or they would want to be the "other lady" who gets the side attention without the strings; there's been both!! So...I guess it all depends on the guy and what he does in that type of situation.
425021
When you find your soulmate, you will know it.  Keeping them can be a problem IF you don't work at the relationship.  Relationships are not always 50-50.  There are times that they are 20-80, etc.  \n\nMany relationships don't last today because the one or both bail at the first sign of trouble. It is far easier to give up or divorce than it is to work it out.  So many people want everything to be easy and that isn't how it is.  It is a constant give and take that requires love, respect, love, honesty, love, compromise, love and most of all, love.
1123453
yes, if the two people are willing to work through hard times! there will always be ups and downs in a relationship, we need two people who are willing to work through it all.
361058
Not all men do. I know that I, as well as some of my married buddies, take our relationships and marriages very seriously.\n\nSome men just want to conquer women s#xually, and then they move on. Some men get bored and want some excitement, and some are like little kids in a candy store, unable to keep their hands to themselves.\n\nUnfortunately, it is up to women to separate the wheat from the chaff, if you will.
151682
Yes, and anyone who has to ask that question is too young to be married. Marriage takes a great deal of very hard work and I'll tip you off to a secret no one tells you before you're married.... Some days the hardest thing in the world is simply not to walk away, to stay and just trust that it will get better. There will be days that you can't remember why you ever even went on a date with this person, let alone agreed to commit to a lifetime with them.\nIf you cannot imagine a day where you don't want your partner anywhere on the same planet, you are not mature enough to get married.