Am I a lesbian? I only get turned on when thinking about women, but the thought of a gay relationship=scary!..
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I can totally understand what you feel. I felt this way when I was 18 yrs old. Just the thought of it scared me only because I was brought up to think it is bad. I never heard of anything good about it. I had a sheltered life. So it is your mind that was conditioned to think it is bad and scary. \n\nIt did not happen overnight. It took some time to allow myself to think about it inside openly without being afraid of the thoughts. I also had to get to know some gay and lesbian people in the next few years to get to know who they truly are. It taught me to be comfortable and help my mind realize that there was nothing to be scared of.\n\nThe internet also helped me talk about my feelings without fear of rejection or judgment. So it wasn't until I was 25 that I was ready to start dating women. It was when I finally became comfortable with myself and had absolutly no fears for what I was feeling.\n\nJust go with what makes you comfortable and confident about yourself. Sexuality is not black and white. It is very gray. It is fluid. It is a matter of finding out who you are with both genders.\n\nFeel free to email me if you wish to discuss this further without judgment.
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No -- I am not lesbian but I think that if I were lesbian I would regard transsexuals as a sort of man. There are a lot of men who go for transsexuals and some hetero women do, too.
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Well, you're right- you shouldn't be worrying about it. You like who you like, you're attracted to whomever you are attracted to. It's confusing to be a teenager- hormones are a crazy thing. \nI think if you are a lesbian, you probably already know the answer to your own question, honey. On the other hand, if you've always found yourself attracted to boys and you've suddenly been exposed to something NEW (porn, I would assume), that doesn't necessarily mean you are a lesbian and I would caution you NOT to drive yourself insane trying to figure it out. You would certainly NOT be the 1st straight female to be "excited" by those types of images- as there are PLENTY of women who do, who also consider themselves straight.\nIf you have ALWAYS been attracted to other females, perhaps you do have some not-so-straight tendancies. But I wouldn't worry about that TOO much- it's not the end of the world, but it will take some time to get used to it and whether or not you are comfortable enough with it to talk about it to others. \nThe bottom line is to not make too big a deal of it. If you are anxious or nervous about how you feel, my advice would be to stay away from it until you know yourself a little better. Don't add more confusion where it just isn't necessary. Just relax and enjoy being YOURSELF- and finding out who you really are. Your sexual orientation is what it is and you WILL figure it out, probably sooner than you think.  \nIf you think there's anything else I can help you out with, feel free to contact me by clicking on my profile- there's a link you can use to contact any one of us here. Some "answerers" don't have themselves signed up to receive email from others, but mine is set up that way. Best of luck to you!
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I completely understand where you are coming from and yes it is totally normal.  I had only ever dated guys before and had also never been with a woman...and then one day everything changed.  I met the person I knew I was going to be with for the rest of my life and she happened to be a woman.  I have never been so attracted to anyone in my whole life, both physically and emotionally.  To some people gender may be a factor but for others it is not.  And it also may not necessarily mean that you are bi either...it may just mean that you find certain woman attractive.  For example, there are probably tons of people who find Angelina Jolie absolutely gorgeous, men and women alike, but that does not mean that all of the women who find her attractive are lesbians or even bi.  I would just recommend that you explore the feelings a little bit more to decide if you are attracted to women in general, or if it is strictly appearance based (like with celebrities, etc.)  Hope this helped!
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You say you definitely like women, but the question is in what way do you like them? You say you have fantasies with certain men, I guess you mean sexual fantasies? You than state you don't like men. I do not know what your sexual orientation is because you have provided few details. If you sexually fantasize about women only, then you would be straight. If you sexually fantasize about men only, then you would be gay. If you sexually fantasize about both, then you would be bisexual.
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This is just my opinion...\n\nIf you are a straight person who fantasizes about another dude sucking you off, you aren't gay, you might be a pervert.
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I started out the same way. I was attracted to guys. Had boyfriends all thru jr high & highschl. But i always found myself looking at girls, admiring nice a.s.ses and what not. It took a few yrs & for me to snap out of denial and now im a lesbian! Havent been with a man in yrs. & i dont really want 2. Sooo...maybe u just need to wait. You are young.
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yes! me!(i'm a girl & gay means when people liking guys right?well,if i wasn't gay,then i'd be a lesbian!!!!!!!!lolz)ok.ok.just kidding,so are you a gay or a lesbian?(just kidding again hun!)cheers!
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Maybe you are bi-sexual?  Lesbians generally have no interest in men.  If you have feelings for both sexes, you are most likely bi.
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... you're kidding, right? I get turned on whenever I even THINK about hot gay guys... yes, yes, I'm a girl, but I'm a voyeur first and foremost. *smiles* \nSex weighs on the mind of EVERYONE, not just guys. Guys are purportedly turned on "more easily" because they don't hide it. We gals are just a little more discreet...
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I think that would make you bisexual or at least bicurious. Not that there's anything wrong with that. I just think if you are straight you would not have those thoughts.
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Have I ever seen a lot of lesbians, doing lesbian things.  I am not ashamed to admit that I like what people call 'gay bars'... thats where all the GOOD MUSIC is, I dont want to hear the latest top 40 hip/pop every hour on the hour, thanks.  They are not as violent and competitive, not as many tramps, I like to dance, all night long, and I dont like to be bothered. Frankly, they usually smell better too.  I do wear a spiked belt, it seems to keep strange men's hands off my waist, though I dont really attract that kind of attention much.  \n\nI dont like lesbians, and they are not sexy at all to me, they are kind of anti-sexy.   Once I realize they are lesbian I am no longer interested.  Why torture yourself?  I will watch them walk by like I watch any shape I am fond of, I mean: they can be attractive and everything, but I dont sit around and fanticize about them.  I did have the opportunity to engage in activity with a couple of girls.  It was uncomfortable, I was like: WTF?  I mean, I got over it, but I didnt jump at the chance when it came up the next day.  Thats right, I said NO.     \n\nBut its 'cool' to like lesbians, because they are so hot... so really, its a man thing, if you dont like lesbians, you must be gay, etc... etc... thats bs.  You can thank the adult entertainment industry for that one.  Granted, there is a certain amount of logic behind not wanting to watch some man's :    : in action, but I for one am secure enough in my sexuality to not care, I mean, what girl wants to watch a couple of lesbians with her man?  Oh, y'all are watching it alone?  Sounds like reeeaal fun!\n\nThe main reason I dont like lesbians is that they dont like me.  I wouldnt wast time and effort thinking about or acting on a lesbian, I have no fantasies of making them 'switch teams',  I have lesbian friends, and I have even gone out with a bisexual, I dont persue them.     \n\nLesbians make good friends too, because you dont have to worry about them falling in love with you, or them thinking that you will fall in love with them.  So it takes away a lot of the tension that normally occures between men and women.  I dont have many guy friends... most men irritate me... drooling at lesbians, and stuff...lol
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Many people find themselves falling off the fence, (as they say... LOL) once they actually get same sex lovers.  In most women's cases, the discovery of lesbian sex makes them realize that men and penises are vastly overrated.  \nDoes that mean you're a lesbian?  Well, lesbianism isn't just about sex, it's also about love.  Many straight women don't really care much for straight sex, but they fall in love with men.  So they're straight.  If you can't see yourself ever loving a man, then yes, you're a lesbian.  But if you're unsure, well, then you're unsure.  And that's fine, there's always time.
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i wont conclude your sexual preference as of yet. until you actually act out your fantasy and consistenly repeating the behavior. are they the only one you have fantasy about? can you picture having the same fantasy with famaous celebrities? having same sex encounter is not unusual, some even have incest dreams as well. it's just part of very active brain cells crossing signals thats all.
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I appreciate and admire the beauty of both the male and female bodies and though I have had intimate encounters with both genders, in all honesty, I do prefer men over women. Does this in turn make me bisexual or a man who is denying his true sexual orientation? Personally, I feel our need to categorize and pigeon-hole ourselves and each other is unnecessary and a complete waste of time. Just think of Bisexuality was a way of loving the best of both worlds.
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I am a woman who has only had sex with men, but I do think about being with another woman at least once just to see what it's like. I don't know if I ever will or not...... but it's a thought.
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Well, I'm not straight (bisexual), but I have a strong preference for men, and I'm a virgin of each, so maybe that puts me pretty close to straight gals.\n\nI like gay girls.  They're fine; I don't have a problem with them.\n\nWhat do YOU think about them?