what if you fall in love with the bff of your boyfriend ?
363158
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
1054521
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change the way his best friend feels - and the worst thing you could do is try to come between them.  \n\nI'm sure that she does have strong feelings for him because that's what happens when you are best friends with someone and you really care about him.  This doesn't mean that she's in love with him though.  Love requires giving and receiving and, if he is in a relationship with you, it's clear that he is not returning her feelings for him.  This has probably only magnified her "feelings" for him because we always want what we can't have.\n\nI would suggest continuing your relationship with him as normal.  It is probably quite painful for her to see the two of you together and she is probably scared that you will take his friendship away from her.  If you make her feel included and let them continue their friendship as they always have, she will realise you are not a threat and will respect your time with him in the same way.  \n\nJust keep in mind that he sees her as a friend and he always has.  Being in a relationship with you will not suddenly make him believe that he loves her.  If you trust him, don't get jealous and don't try to compete with her, he will appreciate you all the more and realise he would be silly to lose you.
151532
when you love your best friend, you can assume it's a true love, because you really know him. You know his best and you know his worst, yet you still love... if it continues to relationship, it will be a smooth journey.\nHowever, if he doesn't love you back as much as you love him, that's when you have to try hard to keep the friendship as good as now, and this is the hard part.
195825
if you love him/her, accept it, but if you aren,t you can tell him/her, he/she is friend for you couse this is the best relationship for you and her/him now. tell him/her if it become more than friend may be your relationship become not close again!
59299
these things have a way of working out. trust me. Its possible to still be best friends with everyone and still be attracted to one of them. Your other friend is just going to have to accept that PEOPLE fall in love with each other especially if they r close. That means if she is your really your friend u r going to have to tell her what's happening she deserves it. maybe you're going to have to make some "rules" for all this to happen. just remember theres nothing wrong with love
1116854
It actually won't matter what you get for him if you guys love each other as best friends. As long as it comes from the bottom of your heart, he will like it no matter what it is. You should make it if you want it to be the best! ^ ___ ^
219083
Well..We don't want your boyfriend to get jealous...Who ever you have feelings for the most, go for...But know that you will probably damage their friendship...And ask yourself is it worth it...
262509
Sorry but this sounds like a Jerry Springer episode.  I can tell you that your boyfriend doesn't love you, because if he did he would never have gone out with your best friend.  And as for your best friend, they are a dime a dozen.  She was never really your best friend to begin with if she has the galls to do this to you. You don't need this.  There are many men out there that are trustworthy and honest so don't let these two backstabbers get you down.  You control your own life to have them make you think otherwise. \n\nRise above it and break all contact with them.  They will someday hurt each other or wind up getting hurt the same way as they hurt you.  Remember what goes around comes around that is a fact.  If you let them both back in then they may think that they can get away with it any time they want and you still will end up hurting or later emotionally scarred.
52663
Honey, my boyfriend is my best friend.
624449
Because you are currently friends and you do have feelings for him, it is important to value that friendship.  I would mention the importance of your current relationship to him.  BF/GF stuff can get emotional and it is easy to mess things up.  So maybe you should start very slowly, to sort out your feelings and to work into this gradually.  I think the biggest issue is that you continue to respect eachother.  \nIf you keep communication open and honest, you should be able to sort out friend from boyfriend.  Make sure you have similar expectations.  Big things to look out for that break relationships and friendships: cheating, sex: moving too quickly or moving too slowly, independance and growth.  \n\nIt sounds like you are young, so talking about what he thinks it means to be bf/gf will be good too.  Telling him you are haven't done it before gives innocence and an easy way to resolve issues that will come up.  \n\nFake it till you make it....we all do.  Relationships mimmic what we see in life and in the media, so do the things that you admire in others relationships, with your own style..."playing house" in a sense,  until you can identify your own standards and grown identity in relationships....  \n\nsounds great! good luck!
448866
i have been dating one of my bestfriends ex-boyfriend, and weve been together for 3 years, we also plan on getting married. You cant help the person you fall in love with, and who are you to stop something that could be one of the best things that could happen for your best freind? if she really is your best friend then treat her as such dont let something like that bring your friendship down. let them try and see if it wroks out for them, if it does just be glad she found something a lot of people dont get the chance to, and if it doesnt work dont give an i told you so, compfort her as you would if you didnt know the guy. Keep smiling and find you someone who you can have fun with a be real with.
1063289
If you are in a trusting relationship with your boyfriend, then you need to tell him what his best friend is up to....if your bf doesn't believe you, then you need to end your relationship.
437147
Here is a defining moment in your life.. \nPut yourself in your friends shoes.. as exciting as it may be to be you right now.. \nHOW would you feel if the sitch was reversed.. NOT too fun to get screwed over by your best friend and boyfriend.. \nDO you become a good person, and decide your BEST friend is more important to you then a guy.. \nOR do you become a beotch (sorry, but that is what you would be) and take your best friends man with no regard for her, or her feelings.. I'm saying.. That would be pretty fu**cked up on your part.. (actually what you're doing right now is pretty f**ked up in itself.. just plotting )to do it.. YOU should be more of a friend then that.. And just remember Karma is a beotch, and who's to say he wont leave you for one of your friends.. ?
523710
Ain't love strange. Us poor humans get all confused about the whole thing don't we? \nWhen you think about it love is what makes you feel good. It makes your heart go a flutter, keeps you awake at night, makes you smile all day and fills your heart and soul with the greatest pleasure that anything on earth can.\nSo.......love, like it's all the same and it doesn't matter who or what you love just remember as the saying goes; " if it feels good do it "\nTheres nothing wrong with having a friend that makes you feel good. Your boyfriend need not know because it really is all about you...not him.
935148
It's not uncommon.  It is more prevalent thatn you think.  You are probably just infatuated with him a little maybe because of the way he looks or the way he acts.  If you don't want to lose your man then don't pursue his best friend.  Just accept things the way they are and don't worry about it.  Sooner or later you will lose interest in his friend.
540348
yes, bestfriends can become lovers...i even think that it's actually better because you know each other really well, you care,trust and respect each other and you have the strongest bond: love... i think that you may not have heard from him because he is as confused as you are...he doesn't know if what he did was right and if you feel the same way for him...this kind of thing can be confusing, you see...you want to have this relationship but you're both so scared that if something goes wrong, you lose the friendship you have...since you love him too, i suggest that you do the thing that you said you didn't want to do: confront him...he did the first step of telling you how he feels...it's your turn now...tell him you feel the same, tell him you're scared too but if you talk about it, you cand find a solution together...tell him you don't want to lose your best friend even if things might not go the way you want them to...tell him that you want that 2nd kiss too...hehe!good luck!i hope you work this out... ^_^
1072575
umm stay with ur man u guys just gota do somethign diff to spice things up... from my experience dont go after ur BFF's ex..my ex and i broke up and she went out with my best friend... they ended up breakin up and she tried to get back with me... now i dont like either of them.!! its just not right and could cause a bunch of problems like not ever talking to ur bff anymore and u said he is your friend then if u guys break up u might not be friends anymore.... so stick with ur man!!!