Why do I have such a strong urge to cheat when I know it would just cause trouble?
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I dont know if some people just feel they have the right even tho they apparently love someone else... \n\ni personally do not understand it.
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I don't think I could ever cheat on my husband, I love him too much. I also have been the victim of a cheater in my own past, and had my heart torn to bits by a ruthless cheating bastard (my 1st husband). If you love someone and you simply cannot conntrol yourself enough to be faithful to them in every way, then perhaps you do not really know what love is?  Or you want to have your cake and eat it too.\n\nPeople who cheat, usually do not want to admit it or they try to lie, deny or cover it up, then it only hurts twice as much when the truth does come out. A cheater would probably try to lie, and that's just like stabbing someone you are supposed to love in the heart everytime you lie.\n\nA marriage often cannot survive cheating and lying, so if you love your spouse, you will not cheat in the first place!
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some people i know that are into stuff like that have a few underlying issues.  you  might want to figure out what they are.  those situations aren't always controllable.  you'd hate to get hurt.
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I am going to disagree with most of your posters.  Is it wrong for you to like affairs....absolutely not.  You can't control the emotion, excitement, or feeling of the secretively in the whole idea of an affair.  Yet, while you asked if it was okay to like them the answer it is NO?  It is important to know that it is wrong to act on them morally.  Just like I may love robbing banks and the excitement of it but it doesn't mean that I should run out and do it.  Maybe you should find ways to suppress the excitement in sleeping around.  While bank robbery is illegal it can seldom be seen as illegal to have an affair too.  I wish you the best in your struggle with this.
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Cheating!  And look what's become of you as a result of being with a person you don't, and should not trust.  You cannot stop someone from cheating.  You can however control yourself. Time to move along.  Better to be alone than to be driven to insane behavior.  Sure relationships require work, but not hard labor.  Is this how you want to live you life worrying and snooping?  There really are honest, true men out there, and there is one waiting for you.
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It's a biological drive. Not all men act like that, some women do. Some people will be deceitful for no reason at all. People are complicated.
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It's tht feeling in just about every relationship. Maybe you have been cheated on or hurt before? If you know she has never cheated then why are you worrying? Just relax and believe it when she tells you that she would never hurt you. All men do it it's a fact. My boyfriend does it every once in a while, my neighbors boyfriend does. My boyfriend gave her advice and told her the exact same thing I am telling you now. Stop putting stress on her if you know she isn't doing it. Good luck to the both of you.
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Why would you get into trouble? Something naughty?
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I'm sure men/women have their excuses for why they cheat, some are loneliness, temptation, not getting what they want at home.  They are all just lame excuses for doing something wrong, though.  They should deal with the real problem and not cheat and hurt other people.
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The forbidden pleasure is your neighbor's spouse - or, if a spouse, coveting someone who is not the spouse. (especially if vows of fidelity have been exchanged). It is forbidden because if people give in to such desires, there will be a trail of pain and distrust. Nothing good comes of infidelity in its affect on family, friends, even neighborhood and town. It is not very often that spouses can mess around with no negative consequences. Infidelity always intentionally causes pain. It cuts right to a person's ability to trust. There are always victims. It just makes sense. If you want to mess around, move on first. I'm not a Bible-thumper. I am not talking about open marriages, etc. This is about lying, cheating, and putting energy that should go to partner and home elsewhere. That is why it is a forbidden pleasure.
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HOw will that solve the problem?? Self-control boy!! Don't put yourself in positions where you can easily fall into temptation. If you know that sitting with a certain person alone in a room will cause you to sin, I'd advice u not to do so. If u are extremely tired you wouldn't have bad tempting thoughts, so try having a busy schedule. When temptations come anyway, try to think of anyother thing, such as a school math problem, a project, your schedule tomorrow. However, it ain't easy. If you can't handle it, don't date at all. I've been there, and I've managed to control myselft. Remember IT AIN'T EASY but IT'S POSSIBLE!
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I have never cheated but have heard that the main reason a woman cheats is because she is not fully happy at home. Something is missing, which could be a lot of things...
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People cheat because they have a lack of self control.  If you know that something is wrong, and you do it anyway, then you are showing an amazing lack of self control, and your immaturity is showing as well.  It takes strength realize the truth.  A person does not have to cheat.  You simply tell your significant other "I don't love you enough to respect your feelings, or care if I hurt you."  Then leave them.  Because that is the exact message you are telling them when you cheat.  You are just too chicken to tell them to their face.
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Despite the emotional burden, I think almost all women would want to know if they are being cheated on.  Cheating rarely has anything to do with the quality of the marriage but the cheater's inability to commit to a strong vow such as marriage and to control their actions.  If the marraige is that bad, there shouldn't be cheating and decietfulness, there should be divorce. The reasons cheaters tend to stay cheaters is because they don't want to change.  I think it can be changed, but the cheater has to learn a little bit about making decisions according to priority and responsibility, not impulse.  The cheater must also learn where their weaknesses are happening and how to deal with them in a proper manner.  They must learn to avoid cheating of the mind first, then they can free themselves of onsetting thier own urges.  They must change the way they think about cheating (it's not a positive, rewarding thing).   After that, it's all a matter of decision making and devotion.
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I have cheated everytime I am with someone. I think its because I haven't found someone who I CANT cheat on! When I do find this person I think that I will NEVER cheat again!!! BUT I will say I have NEVER BEEN CAUGHT!!! So NO ONE HAS been hurt!
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Well something like that is hard to let go. Because it keep replaying in your mind. If you are afradi of this happing again more than likely it will happen again. Because I had a ex-fiance that cheated left and right. He also told me that he would never do it again. But he did. Once they do it they contuine to do it. So your best bet would be to move on with your life with out him...
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Married or not if you have a commitment with someone you should not cheat. You should ask yourself if you are wanting to cheat on someone, why not just leave that person and let them move on to someone who cares for them. I consider cheating when you do anything intimately with another person other than your significant other. That could be holding hands, intercourse, kissing, and even sharing and in depth meaningful conversation. It is wrong because you are taking something sacred from your partner. People, I think cheat because they need some kinda of reassurance that they can attract someone other than they're partner. This is caused by low self esteem. If you are contemplating this don't hurt your partner for your own self gratification. ITS WRONG