At what point do women grow up and start appreciating men who are good to them?
367870
mostly at the point where it doesn't matter anymore. \n\nwomen very easily become complacent about guys in their lives, especially the ones who are good to them. \n\nthe solution would be to make her realise that she's taking you for granted and that you don't like it.\n\nseeing u respect urself will make her want to respect u more and the rest will neatly fall in place.
568816
alot of woman are afraid of rejection, just like some men, they dont approach a man their interested because of that, the sad thing is, you never know what the other one is thinking, they may have the same feelings for you, and if you dont get to know them, you could be missing out on a good thing. As for as the guys asking where all the good woman are? A woman who respects herself isnt just gonna go up and hang all over a man she's interested in, she'll sit back and wait to be approched or introduced to you.
161456
Females tend to grow up, emotionally, faster than men. But eventually men catch up. Some say from 16 years old till 20 women grow faster than men, but when men go into their mid 20s, the catch up with the ladies.\n\nI would dare to say, without really knowing, that you are dating "inmature" males...
984632
Women like older men because they are at the same maturity as the woman and they are more experienced.
303510
You nailed it right on the head. The women you are referring to want their handsome boy toy to play around with, and they get used and abused for years and years, then towards mid life, they decided that they want someone decent and loving. I reiterate what you just said, why should the good guy not have to settle for damaged goods, which they are,and with certainty, they will have psychological at the very least.It is quite refreshing to see someone like you call it like it is.
1115980
As long as you are a good person.. what does it matter what guys like.  You are what you are... they can take it or leave it!
499837
Women look for protection and maturity from men . They find these 2 qualities in older men .
390164
This is only true when women don't really know what they want!  I have so many girlfriends that tell me how lucky I am to be married to such a sweet and sensitive guy, and how they want to be married and having a family.  But then, I witness them meet nice guys all the time, get bored, and then dump them!  I tell them, yes, I am lucky!  Lucky that I found a sweet and sensitive guy, and also lucky that I encountered enough A-holes before him to appreciate him!  They will appreciate and love the nice guy, once they've had their share of the bad, and are really ready to settle down!
6176
If you are trying to say that girls/women are nice at the beginning and then not nice further into things...I would say guys can be the same way.\nIt takes time to truly get to know someone...and no one is perfect.
962101
It is not that women like the bad blokes - it is just that the bad blokes make them feel so good (at first ofcourse).. it is the bad blokes who tell them how great they look/are, who take them places etc and do all the chasing at first..\n\nOften nice guys won't be so full on and quite often women interpret the considered approach of nice blokes to mean that they are not interested or indifferent..\n\nMost women would ditch a bloke once they found out he was not all he seemed and unfortunately that cannot always be easy to establish - the bad blokes are good at leading double lives/lying etc \n\nFTR - most women just want a bloke who loves them and who they can love..they want to care for/be cared for/ they want to know their partner only has eyes for them..\n\nSo hang in there - if you are a genuinely nice bloke you will meet someone and she will thank her lucky stars you are not an idiot..  BUT as I say don't wait for her to come to you, next time take a chance and put more effort into the wooing stage.
478948
I look at each man individually .I look at their maturity and their hearts. So within 6 to 10 years either way older or younger.
276689
When she's ready for it, matured enough to find a good man , regardless of the age.
922998
You will grow up attracted to men, so don't sweat it.
688265
Or when, don't you mean? How do you know what you look like to others? \n\nIn the eyes of the person who will matter most to you, you are already lovely, and you will only improve with maturity, like a good wine... \n\nYou know what? If you have children with them, you will always be the one they look at first, even if you have horrible scars all over you! \n\nLook, I have two stunningly beautiful friends - one is very happily married with no less than three children, and her husband spent four years in college getting up the courage to ask her out between b/fs. She had a lot of trouble with guys from when she was 15 to 23, when she finally met her husband-to-be. So did I! - they were all pompous brats who cried on my shoulder that if only they had enough money she would date them again. They were obsessed with the way she looked, and dropped out of the 'race' as soon as a 'better man' - richer, more confident, older, came along - they were also pests whom she couldn't relax with. One of them was her uncle, how horrible is that?! Their own cowardice & shallow ideas defeated them. Her husband was the only guy brave & humble enough to put up with this & hope that she would be free when his job brought him back to the city. We were friends, all three of us, because she was so funny & terrific company, when she was relaxed, before her crowd of silly fans closed in and she just went silent for the rest of the night.  \n\nMy other friend is also really beautiful and is single - and guess what - her parents told her she would never marry because she was so plain. She's happy with her life & career & has her own house, but also has a lot of weird guys hitting on her & getting really moody because she doesn't want to go steady with them. She says that she reckons she can't rely on any date to mean what he says. \n\nIt would be nice to have the choice - to think that anyone you see will be brave enough to ask you out; especially when they ask out loud enough to hear what they are asking you! \n\nIt's really hard to have to say no thanks, and must be harder to have to keep saying it to guys who seem really eager to date you. Worse to have to back off and break up with someone, after seeing them for a few dates, when they rely on you to tell everyone that you are happy to be seen with them. Especially if most of their hurt is pride, and they don't even hear how insulting that is.  \n\nBoth my friends know they were popular, felt they were too popular, hated all the attention, were embarrassed by the over-exposure and the way everyone hassled them. They tried to be nice to everyone, hated having to be firm with too many eager people, never enjoyed the fame of it. \n\nThey never knew they were beautiful. They thought they were OK-looking, and wished every total stranger would stop watching everything little gesture they made, so damn closely. They felt like a spy, a fugitive. In the eyes of the people who only saw their skin or eyes or lips or figure, they were gorgeous. The person being stared at felt always that they had done something Wrong, to be so watched. \n\nGrowing up, it was for them like the word went around that they had won the lottery. It wasn't any fun for them, and it was a frantic, feverish competition for the guys who wanted to be seen with them. They are really genuine friends, and have been for about ten years, and can see through any falseness as an added quality - I so value their opinions! They have a brilliant sense of humour and are not bitter about life, and are really decent people. \n\nGod, I do feel for you, it would be nice to feel special to someone other than your parents or their friends! If you like someone who is beautiful, they are probably shy for a reason, afraid of attracting attention, and might like to be asked out, believe it or not. \n\nHonestly, now, I would hate to have been beautiful in my teens. I know that now if I have a huge spot on my nose, I
612341
Not all men are clueless. Some get it and know how to treat a woman with respect.
134022
i think they feel more appreciated. older women are more appreciative of little things than younger women, and they understand a little bit better what it takes to be a good gf/wife than a younger woman might. This is just a guess, of course
905847
First of all it's not in the human nature to see the good in people. Secondly, u cant blame anyone man or woman for questioning gestures especially when it comes to a man woman relationship (especially if ur dealing with attractive members of the opposite sex). Like if a guy approaches an attractive lady  and if the guy is attractive himself (or vice versa) the first thing on ur mind is usually not 'oh he's such a nice guy' it's usually where's the attached string or what does he/she want. Some people try to deny this NATURAL reaction and be like oh I didn't think anything of it. Granted, sometimes there aren't any hidden agenda's but unfortunately an evolution has occurred in the boy girl relationship world (partly thanks to the media) so u just gotta go through the whole process. Prove to whoever it is ur interested in that ur sincere and see if it works out.