How do I tell the father of my child I don't want an abortion without alienating him?
362661
I am pro-choice too but if it's not your choice then it's not the same. You can't let him make you feel pushed into this. It's a big decision. OK there's a risk that it will be still born of miscarry. But if there is any chance that you will have a perfectly healthy baby then You should do what you feel in your heart is right. Sit him down and explain how you feel and maybe he'll see where your coming from. You need top think about yourself and that little child inside you. If you do abort it, you'll always be wondering if it might have been OK.After all you have already got one perfectly healthy child, who's to say you can't have another? Just don't make any rash decisions. There's too much at stake.
993255
take him to court to, get full  custody ,and point out the:\n no support and no contact of several years and now sudden contact. and joint custody becaues you want to move and get married. the baby`s sperm donor is being spitful. and does not want you to have a life of your choice..you can provied a better life for your daughter..
92006
dont have an abortion.  it would probably be hard considering how conservative the country is compared to the west.  however there are not places to help with the child like there are in the us.  best bet is probably to just do your best or move to the states for a short time but im not aware of any law
1050031
REMIND HIM THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER HIS CHILD.... YOU ARE AN ADULT AND AS AN ADULT YOU ARE ABLE TO MAKE LIFE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN .....TELL HIM THAT HE RAISED YOU WELL THOUGH.... THIS IS YOUR DECISION YOU LOVE HIM  BUT THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOU NOW.... ALSO GIVE AN EXAMPLE LIKE MY RELIGION IS LIKE MARRIAGE YOU WOULD NOT WANT SOME ONE TO CHOOSE YOUR HUSBAND&#92;WIFE FOR YOU WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PICK YOUR RELIGION.... SAME THING.... GOOD LUCK..... BE BLESSED
700690
Even though the girl is still a minor, she needs to give consent for this procedure.  The staff at the abortion clinic should discuss this with her in private, and if she lets them know that she is against the abortion, they will not perform the procedure.\n\nThe baby's father has no say in the child until the child is born and he is legally named the father.
603608
You do not need Guy advice, you need life advice!\n\nYou are Catholic so you can't have an abortion, but you can sex your boyfriend?\n\nRaise the kid as best you can with your parents and families help.\n\nDump that guy for good.  and probably don't ever see him again, he is abusive and dangerous. \n\nQuit haveing sex, and getting preggers when you can't support yourself.\n\nGet a education and&#92;or a decent job.\n\nHave some respect for yourself when looking for a boyfriend.  He should care for you and treat you with respect.  In the loving relationship above all else actions speak louder than words.
1056792
You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
867795
What is there to do about it? \n\nDo you not want to be on it? (dont see why you wouldnt) but you could always uh NOT take it...its not like he would be able to tell...until you get pregnant that is.
1075646
While the father doesn't have the right to contest an abortion, he DOES have the right to stop an adoption and volunteer to take custody of the child, so that sort of negates that one.  Otherwise, all I can say is that no one ever said life was fair.
738033
I have to try to help u, will go to the abortion issue later, 1st about the getting married, I also got married at 18, we were together all thru high school, I did just what u r going to do, but that is many yrs. ago wish I was 18 again!! Please dont make my mistake, I ended up staying married to him for 18yrs. I was so unhappy, that is a long story, but the bottom line is I did finally get a divorce, why look back now. What I ask u to do is ask yourself and be honest to yourself, why r u wanting to get married so fast? Please when u read this understand this is no judgement against your boyfriend, I want u to just sit by yourself and really give this thought, it took me yrs. to be honest with myself, I was finnally honest and my answer was I wanted to leave home, my father was a alcholic, I wanted also to be taken care of, even though I worked, I  just had to show everyone how grown up I was, needless to say he was not the same after we married, and as the yrs. went on seemed he was still thinking and treating me as if I were still a teenager! Please u and your boyfriend talk and ask each other if its real love why not just wait, your together anyway, but r u so sure or would just a 6 month wait help u both to be sure, I just want u both to be happy, wish I had been given advice, even if u dont wait at least I hope u r sure, remember I was 18 at one time to, hell never even thought or knew how fast time goes by! Whatever you and him decide I wish u both the best and my blessing, as for the abortion u cannot look back now, and believe me no one has the right to judge u, my situation was different but I had to have a abortion, my 2nd husband and I have been married 13 yrs now,happy yrs. and I became pregnant our 1st yr. but come to find out I had a tumor that made having a baby dangerous, I know what a abortion is, scary and of course sad no matter what the circumstance, I also have a friend since 7th grade and her parents made her have a abortion so in a way I know how u must feel, if its anything like my friend, she was a mess, and bitter with her parents, I can only imagine how scary it must be to be in a abortion clinic at such a young age,and against your will! It makes me sad to think of it, you went thru hell and o thers dont have a clue, unless they have been there! But dont worry u just like my dear friend will when its the right time have a beautiful healthy baby, and I just know u will be the best mom! By the way that friend I told u about was only 14 at the time, she stayed with her boyfriend and they were married at the age of 20 and this yr will be their 30th anniversary!! See were old now!!! Big 50!!LOL, and they have 2 wonderful sons, and now a grandbaby!!! All will go well for u just make sure u r doing what is right for u!! If u do get married now, please take at least a yr.before having your baby, that way u have time to enjoy each other, and be more stable. Once u have a baby believe me its a whole new life, dont take this wrong I loved having my daughter, the feeling was like oh what a miracle!!! But u have so many changes remember u and your husband will be responsible for a new life!!! Now thats amazing when u look at it that way! You will want more for your child than u had we as good parents do, remember the most precious gift u will ever give your child no matter how old he or she is will always be your love,time, and support,and beyond even that make sure your child can always come to u and talk, I wish I could have with my parents, but I never could! My daughter always could and still does and I cant believe she is 30 see what I mean how fast time goes by!!! I have a grandson so I have been blessed again! Bless u and do whats in your heart, but give my words some thought, wish u the best in life!!
1118840
To bad for you....you going to have some mayor problems if you are pregnant...but if you are don't go getting no abortion...you opened your legs now you gotta take the consequence. First you let go of guy #1...tell him its over....and guy #2 who you think you pregnant from..you don't gotta lie to him about anything...if you are pregnant..he needs to take care of you and your baby...He's not Innocent either..he had part of it... to bad for his girlfriend.. Not saying yah gotta get married and all that but at least let him be part of it...
229612
Unfortunately you have no control over what someone else does.  If your baby's father cares about your feelings, he will ask that girl to stop calling him.  Otherwise, you probably need to look for a new man in your life.
572900
First off, you know that he's had "UNPROTECTED" sex with at least one other woman besides yourself. . .  Think about that for a minute . . . take a few if necessary.\n \nYou do not have to justify what you are feeling.  People come into our lives for reasons, seasons or lifetimes, where does he fit into the picture...what have you learned from the situation(s) you two have shared besides two wrongs don't make anything right, it's still just TWO WRONGS (I'm talking about the cheating).  \n\nAre you willing to live with the fact that he has a child with another woman that he will have to communicate with frequently because of the child.  History between you and your 'baby's daddy' is just what it is, HISTORY.\n\nIf you're willing to chance that risk of what could happen, then by all means do what you want to do.
798718
Here again It's my body and my choice. If my religion decrees that I don't have an abortion and I am a religious person then whom is anybody to tell me that I should have an abortion? As for the men they should have a voice in the subject matter when they can carry a baby for nine months. Then go into labor for it. \nYou know the worst that can happen to a man if the woman decides to have a baby and keep it is they have to support it for the next 18 years.\nWith the woman she has to make a moral decision rather or not to have the baby. IF she decides to have it and keep it. Then she has to raise it and support it too. Just cause daddy gives some money doesn't mean it's covering all the expense. \nSo until you can sac rife as much as a woman does then forgot having a voice.
1052422
Tell your parents as soon as possible...do you want to keep the baby, give it up for adoption, terminate your pregnancy?\nThey will want to know who the father is.\nYou should have been spending more time learning to read and write...how did you get through grade school being illiterate?
810818
I'd put my energy into raising the 3 children I already have instead of risking my health with another pregnancy, but the decision is up to you and the potential fetus's father.\n\nWhen you have this issue sorted, get sterilized.
287470
I had an abortion when I was 28 and it was the worst decision I've ever made.  I didn't regret it until it was over and then I had severe depression and problems in my future relationships because I couldn't forgive myself.   I'd encourage your friend to talk to her parents.   Believe it or not, there are other options out there.   Tell her to have faith - and good luck.