Is blood thicker than water and would you stand by your Family or a child molesting husband???
368212
all child molesters should be put to death....
787534
We all do.   It is easier for me because if I don't make an effort to communicate with any given family member, other than moms, there are no further contacts unless at a funeral.  I do not value extended family because I do not see what makes an extended family member any more special than someone I meet anywhere USA and find a lot in common.  Relatives are accidents as far as I can see.  \n   As to a parent or a sibling, these people have a presumed access to us.  If any of them are evil, cut the cord.  Evil is defined by you.  That brings me to O.J. Simpson and his children.  They are now late teens or young adults and as far as we know they have a relationship with their father.  I don't know how that can be.  They know he murdered their mother and Ron Goldman and have a set of grandparents who are good people and took them in while dad was incarcerated and what are we to believe?  There has to be something wrong with any or all of the children if they have any kind of relationship with the sociopath.  Most likely he has bought them off and they lack the character at these ages to do the right thing.  \n   If mom is a ----- she can age and grow out of it.  If not, then tell her you won't be in her presence until she can learn to treat you and others well.  It is her choice.  Grandma is usually the puppetmaster.  If she's a puppet, well look at who raised mom.  If grandma admits she is hopeless in mom's presence then take pity on her and just be decent.   No law that says we have to talk with anyone in this life.
1035983
Sorry you are dealing with 2 psychos that don't know their place.  I'd ignore them as much as possible, but I would put my foot down if they tried to run your life. Your hubby is going to deal with them as he chooses b/c they are his family, but I think they need to see that you are not to be messed with.  When you say no, don't waver.  They can leave if they don't like it.  Let them try to manipulate all they want. It's up to you to not allow them to mess with your life.  Your husband will see them for who they are. And he may step up and tell them to back off in private so they save face. But either way, you can't control him or them....just put your foot down.  Good luck. My mother in law is a manipulative witch.  My husband just  wants to move far away from her and gets tired of her behavior, but feels he can't change his mom.  I think he's right.
806641
You are very Amazing and smart and more forgiving than your wife deserved .....Troy&Mike were being abused by a violent child\n\nAnyone who would ask you to get rid of part of your family Exspecialy after you forgave her sick twisted past secrets \n\nDump the liar ...you deserve better
670591
In my logic NO he shouldn't have, but by the screwed up justice system sadly yes.  I know if I was molested or raped and my husband or dad found out they'd kill the other person.  It would be premeditated - that would be the courts case.  Now if the victim did it in self-defense it might be a different outcome.
589130
I think I understand your question.  My husband worked for years for a family owned business.  I can tell you, that know matter how close you think you are to some of the family members, thy will never let you say anything that is negative about their blood family members.  The best advice is from now on, just see the good in other people and uplift them.  Then you won't have any more worries about it...you know..??   Good Luck...
1026205
First off I would grab the child away from it...yes IT! They are less then human.  And Lord help the thing if it should try and retaliate.  \nThis would bring forth so much adrenaline into my being..my mind would not control my fury.  Then as the child is safe I would definitely call the Cops....  This is from ONE who has been that CHILD.  You carry this with you all your lives...so if by chance a predator reads this....remember We Do Grow Up!\n\nAs far as revenge goes well I think he lives in his own Hell now...he placed himself there..because of his actions...no one will associate with him...only his mom really..Actually I kinda..maybe feel sorry for the lost soul.  Don't get me wrong He brought this on himself....But everything you suffer in life has a reason...If not for what I went through...I may have not been so carefull with my own children...I was a stay at home mom....now a stay at home grandma...I learned at an early age how evil man can be.  There was no way I would allow my children to be placed in the care of strangers...or for that matter people I know...You never know what goes on behind closed doors.  I myself am a very protective person when it comes to my family....sure I could have more money if I worked outside my home...but when it comes to the safety of mine.....there is not enough money in the world to relinquish them to The Horrors.  Also mine is not to crucify...I leave that up to my Lord.  I have learned to forgive...does not mean I have to associate with the person.  I suffered years of torment...but not anything as near as what he is and will suffer in the end.\nAnyways thanks for acknowledging my answer.\n\nOne last thing I do find a sence of humor helps me alot....I just had to ask....Do you find yourself to be a molester detector?
1176531
Family is huge!!  They are your backbones.  The protectors.  Something that you really need to keep up with.
770064
This may not be much comfort, but most people have screwed up families.   However there are only a few like you and I that will admit it.    My family is the same, sometimes it gets so bad I have to stay away from some of them for months on end.    I have learned that they may be my family, but sometimes you have to put some distance between you and  them for survival..
265990
Personally, I think there's a difference between someone who is just plain nosey and needs to be in everyones business than someone who is a witness to a crime of some sort.\n\nIf you knew your neighbor was molesting his/her own children... would you mind your business or do the right thing?\n\nIf you see someone on Yahoo answers looking for child porn or wanting to learn how to crack Yahoo passwords, would you ignore the post or report them for abuse?\n\nMe... If I become a witness to a crime, whether it's a "small" or not...I am responsible to do the right thing.
495099
You know what must be done, if you have hard evidence confront him as well as your sister. Especially you are sister should be one that you should be more angry since she's blood related. Either that you could just forgive them and go on with your life, find a better guy.
1135907
Never, blood is thicker than water. If you do you will regret it in a long run. family members will stick their neck out for you no matter what the situation. A friend will only go so far. FAMILY FIRST!!!!! Good luck hun
683043
We can't answer that for you.  Your primary concern should be your daughter, so concentrate on that.  You were a witness to the event, you need to make a judgement call.  The fact that you are having doubts about his character (wondering if he's a pedophile) make me think there must be more to this story.  If you seriously think this is possible, maybe you need to end the relationship. And if you choose not to, don't you dare leave your daughter alone with him!
781565
If dad was having the affair, I'd have to live with mom, but if she was making my life a living hell for something I didn't do, I couldn't stay with her either.  I'm over 18, so I'd just move out.
470035
Abuse. The sad thing is I probably would have stayed in that relationship a lot longer. But, then it happened! I had my son. The day I had him I knew I would never allow him to be exposed to that kind of a life. I remember thinking to myself, "My husband may be good enough for me but, he will never be good enough for my son because he doesn't care to change." Thankfully, now I know he wasn't good enough for either of us. I left the day that I got out of the hospital and never returned. My son and I lived happily ever after.
881813
Sometimes, blood is NOT thicker than water. Your are his wife, and now become #1, in his life, along with children, if you have any.\nGoodness, what going on, it's a wonder that you both have not just said\n"enough is enough", and shut them out of you lives. Your husband is in agreement with you.\nWhy not discuss it with you husband, and tell him how you feel.\nYou do have to be rude to his mother, and stup to her level!\nSure, they keep ringing......They want you both to help them now.....\nWhat were they thinking before...that you both would just forget, and forgive?\nAsk you husband, if you can politely say.....Thank you for the birthday wishes,\nhowever, we have a life of our own now. I am sorry, but our hands are tied,\nand we cannot help you in any way....something like that.....\nLet your husband speak to them also.  No way, you both have made a life, without them,and put up with all the abusive language from them....\nTell them to move into the property that was put in the daughters name.\nDo not feel guilty!!!!  and do not change your lives, not with that kind of in-laws.\nGo girl, and your husband.....do not put up with it....you both only live once, and its Your Life and Your husbands!!!!
426255
If my hubby tried to do that to our son, he would wish like hell he didn't. He'd be finding out real fast I don't play that and he's lost his damn mind if he thinks I'm going to keep quiet about it and step back. I'd fight him first and I fight to win especially when it comes to my kids.