Can anyone give me serious advice on how to deal with a jerk boss.?
359850
You asked for serious advice so here goes, usually when individuals act the way your boss does, they are very insecure people. Now here goes the hard part, if you like your job well enough to stay there and hold your position, then you have to pray for him, I hope you like to pray because I have found that it is the only way to get ahead in life is by prayer, not getting upset or mad at the man, but just let it roll off, and know who you are in God's eyes, you are God's child and He loves you and He will promote you, these are all very trying learning experiences for all of us at one time or another but the ones who hang in there and do their job to the best of their ability, will prosper, how do I know this?o.k. It happened to me several times, and even though it was tuff to pray for someone I personally had no feelings for, I thought well , the Word teaches us to pray for our enemies, and right now this person was my enemy, so I prayed that they would be promoted clear out of my life,,LOL and guess what I was the one that got promoted to a great new position, and with great people that I had a blast with, I mean God is awesome, He knows exactly what you need, sorry to be so long winded, but just want you to know that things can change, and you are not the victim, he is. Keep on girl and you'll some out ahead!!!!!WhEEEEEE!
833676
He's trying to keep his job secure by being the one that does all the work. If everybody is picking on him, then he has to feel vulnerable to being fired. But if he is thew one getting the job done, then he's good to have around. You need to talk to him again and explain that you need to be able to do the work too. And maybe you could stick up for the guy on occasion, that might help too. And by the way, your supervisor is an azz for belittling and making fun of the people under him especially in front of other employees.
66912
It all depends on your boss.  does he know that he is ineffectual?  If so, you can feed him ideas.  Use social engineering to help him on his way.  Having no backbone is a common trait in state jobs.  No one dares make any waves!!!  If they are kind to you, dont force them to be the wave maker.  You don't want them to stress about job security.  Read dilbert cartoons religiously.  Pay tithe to Scott Adams, for the ideas expressed by his cartoons will only help you on your journey.
736695
It's time for you to go over your immediate bosses head to upper management.  Before you do, I would document and entire weeks worth of instances along with date, place and time the harassment takes place.  I really feel for you and I hope your situation improves soon - God bless!
633594
call one of your workers into the room preferably a small guy,then to blow off some steam proceed to batter his head of the wall over and over until you are satisfied.if this doesn't work buy a punching bag and imagine your with one of you most hateed colleagues it always works for me
222998
I used to have an "unruly" boss.  He made my life and everyone else's miserable at work.  I just swallowed my pride and remembered what the Bible tells us to do.  Eventually he got fired and things at work became much better.
136435
Oh my gosh, did you work at the same place I did?  Your story sounded exactly like the situation I had.  Management and supervisory positions had changed at my work and from then on, the nightmare began.  The witch who rose to power was a narcissitic, egotistical backstabber who made it so unbearable for everyone. She continuously found it amusing to berate, belittle and degrade each and every employee in the company by telling us that we were underworked and so grossly over-paid (we all made more $$$$ than her). Someone who is in the psychology field said that this supervisor's had low self-esteem issues (she weighs close to 300 lbs.)and it is satisfying to her to put others down in order to feel better about herself.  She can't control her weight so she tried to control others.  Unfortunately, confronting this supervisor only compounded to the problem, as she could not take constructive criticism from ANY employee...and talking to the owner of the company proved to be useless, as he always avoided any type of problem or confrontation issue.  Since I did not have an advocate or anyone I could really turn to, the stress of going to work every day was taking it's toll on my health.  For peace of mind and sanity, I gave them my two weeks notice but did not burn my bridges upon my resignation. It is a good idea to have something lined up to go to, especially if you need the income and medical benefits.  You really don't want to be at the mercy of your current employer when it comes to recommendations or verifications.  Good luck.....
830376
You're only spell can be changing your attitude. If your employer is egotistical, then buy into it. Tell him ow wonderful he is (not directly), but with statement like, "What a great idea!" or "You're so smart", or "I wish I'd thought of that". If he wants things done his way - even if it's wrong - do it his way, but show him what you think is the right way, too, as though it is his idea. Everyone loves an employee who makes him/her look good. Unfortunately there are a lot of bosses who let their positions go to their head and usually they will self destruct over time on their own. The only thing you can do is laugh internally at his idiocy and become the best you can be. I've learned a lot more from bosses I couldn't stand than the ones that I loved. Good luck!
415512
Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck
339185
NO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT .WHEN YOUR OLDER AND HAVE A JOB AND HATE YOUR BOSS.WHAT WILL YOU DO WALK OUT .YOU WONT  YOU WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT  BECAUSE YOU WILL HAVE BILLS TO  PAY
1031376
I have a boss like that also.   I just show up, do my job to the best of my ability.  I have learned to block out the noise of this tyrant.\n\nThe boss is setting a good example of what type of boss and person NOT to be.  Learn from that.\n\nOne day he will either have a stroke or have a heart attack during one of his tirades.
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
556726
Tell him that u got a better opportunity or tell the truth whatever it is. Y to hv a hitch dear friend. Face the boss boldly. He is not going to eat u. Try to be polite and use a very humble and sweet tone while facing the boss. Boss is also a human being like u and me. So, y to worry.
799266
I am in that situation everyday. I have to work with someone that absolutely annoys me and is so difficult to work with. Because I am a mature individual and I want to display professionalism, I have to put my grievances aside in order to get the job at hand done.
787386
Nobody likes it and you can put a stop to it. Here is the deal, people will treat you exactly how you allow them to treat you. That is the top and bottom of it. Let these managers know what you will and Will not tolerate. If something bothers you that they have said or done, let them know in a calm as possible manner exactly how they have made you feel, right at the moment they do it. And, make sure you are looking them directly in the eye. Do not let anyone let you feel belittled. If you can take charge of what you will and will not tolerate, you will earn some well deserved respect. Also remember, everybody has a boss..let your hiring managers know that you know that.
602017
First of all, i'd like to say that all bosses are not like that, but the "crazy ones" make up a greater percentage. \n\nI used to have a boss like that in my former office but all I found out when I left was that God put me there to learn PATIENCE, and that is helping me today in my relating with my boss in my new place of work.\n\nYou have to understand that it isn't every body that is like you. A lot of people come to work with a lot of problems from their homes, and, they transfer it to you; only if you are sensitive to that, then you will be able to work better with him/her.\nTIPS:\n(1)Try to please them and be so caring (especially if it's a woman) by asking "how was your night" or "how is your family", and you'll see that the person will soften up and even begin to confide in you. \n(2)Smile always with them.\n(3)Flatter them.\n(4)Always try to please them: because you don't know how much they stay awake all through the night strategising on the next business moves that will yield your next salary. Remember, someday you will be a boss too.\n\nThink about it. With this you should have a better relationship with your boss.
982872
Hon, as a long time girl of being embarassed and angry for many of the "same reasons", let me tell you how to handle this and a few words of insight on people.\n\nFirst, you cannot "demand" anything but the bills you need to pay at your office.  \n\nThe only thing you are in control of is your reaction to this jerk ball.  He may have an opinion about you and your job, but that's his opinion and only that.  What you needed to do is just look him in the eye smile as if he's complimented you.  Yes, if he was your boss, this might be a bigger issue.  The thing I've learned about myself and you can learn as well is that no one "makes you cry" You are the only person in charge of when the tears come on.  Yes, outside events can trigger an emotional response, but you are ultimately the only one who allows the emotion to errupt.  Either way, it does not make it easy to deal with sometimes.  If you are totally confident in your ability on the job, then let him say and think what he wants.  You know the facts, and remember them no matter what your co-worker says.  You are good at your job and you are there for the reason that many people do not have the orginazatoinal skills that it takes to do your job.  Maybe you have some underlying feelings that you really are only a pretty face with no skills?  At any rate, look into yourself to realize what exactly got your nerves on edge that day.    It is something deep inside of you that wells up and then you choose this jerk to "lose it" on. (maybe?)  Remember the facts and keep your chin up,  he's probably just got some unresolved issues as well.  What I might do, is jot down the date and what he said that offended you.  Keep a running tab of derogatory and positive both.  If you have to set it up like a spreadsheet, do so.  If you get a large amount of statements that are negative, then you have a log of it and you've recorded while it's fresh in your mind.  IF you end up with a large sheet with dates and statements, then you can start your demands.  This is a math problem, like everything in life.  Aren't you glad you know math so well.  Good Luck.