what do you do if you are in love with 2 guy 1 about to leave to states and will return in 4yrs and the with?
363616
I can truly say that i have been there.  I chose the one that was leaving to the army for 4 years and he cheated on me 2 times.  he has been back for 1 year and although i have a hard time trusting him, we are together and are happy so far.  You just have to think whether or not you want to go thru with it and forgive if it happens or if you think you deserve better.  Good luck
728944
this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
110843
I don't think there's any rush. While he goes to Iraq, wait for him, and see if your feelings change for him. If you still love him when he comes back, even though your love has been tested by the separation, you are one lucky person. Don't feel that you have to get married immediatly. Wait until you're atleast 20, and then get married. Don't you want to stand on your own two feet for a while before settling down? Either way, good luck.
12032
Ricos Love,\nI have been married for five years now.  Prior to that, my wife and I endured a four year separation when we were both accepted to professional schools halfway across the country.  It wasn't easy, let me tell you.  But three or four things helped.  Even though it was a long haul, we knew it was temporary.  There has to be a plan to reunite.  Second, communication was key.  We stayed in contact on the telephone, and took every opportunity to meet.  There was a little college town in Kentucky that was exactly half way between our schools, and we arranged a mini-vacation a couple of weekends per year.  That made it possible for us to be together even though we had little time and couldn't afford plane tickets. Third - committment.   It takes hard work and dedication!  You (and your partner) need to go out of your way to feed and strengthen the relationship. You need to trust each other and be comfortable with each other.  Otherwise, the distance will just breed jealousy.  Finally, luck.  In any relationship, long distance or otherwise, you are taking a chance.  If you want to win the prize... you have to buy the ticket.\n\nGood luck!
992282
Leave it for a while, 4 months really isn't that long. Leave it till your one year anniversary.\nYou would make any normal bloke run away by talking of living together after 4 months especially a commitment phobic.
870964
Oh sister! If you love this man and he - clearly - loves you too...hang on to it. Do the best you can with the distance. Or just agree to email, write, talk on the phone and see where you both are after the 2 1/2 years are over. Real love between two people is too rare to let it go. If you believe in your heart and mind that you are in love with this man and you feel his love in return - do whatever you have to do to make this work...even if that means waiting for him.\n\nI hope he comes home safe. Best wishes for happiness!!
230185
OK, first of all obviously you're already attached to him because you said that he's the one.  Is it a guarantee that he will be going back to Mexico?  And if he is, does he want the relationship to end?  Do you really want the relationship to end? Are there any underlying issues of concern that you're not mentioning? Are you willing to move to Mexico?  You have to weigh all your options sweety, and what sacrifices you are willing to make for this guy you claim to love so much.  It seems as if it doesn't matter which way you go once he leaves you'll be broken hearted anyway.  If it is a guarantee that he will be leaving for Mexico for good and you feel you don't want to go through the heartache later on, I think you can answer the question on your own.  Just let everything flow, what's to be will be.  Follow your heart.
76891
This is a hard one. If you love both the same, you cant really tell who is your true love. So what I would do in this situation is stay with the one you are with now. If the first one left you before.. he can definatly leave you again.. making the pain that much worse. Besides you are already with one you love. You wont be leaving anyone but continueing with what fate has brought you.
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
666656
You won"t know! Usually long distance romance doesn"t work out. I found that out from personal experience! He moved to texas and three months later I got a call from a family member telling me, he was engaged to the bosses daughter!Show uo unannounced and visit!!!
766492
if you two are really meant for each other, love will overcome any obstacle, but for now you just have to know him  better, with the technology today i dont think thats a problem anymore, we now have video calls, and there is the internet, there are a lot of ways to communicate with another person while he is away from you, its just a matter of how much you wanted it. . .  after all its really up to the both of you, how much you really want to push through thus so called relationship of yours. if you desperately want him then go for it, he would be worth it in the end, and he would be a big regret for you if in case you wont try anything to pursue this. . .  goodluck  to you and GODBLESS!!!
984904
Yes and no. Many things can happen in 4 years but if you two love eachother that much to wait then go ahead. you only live one life
308311
Go with the flow. If there is a possibility that you can get together on a permanent basis than great. If he/she is not going to leave there mate then you need to break it off and move on. Life's too short to cause yourself so much grief.
556491
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
1171011
Ask myself why someone I have been with for 4 years might want to leave...
921165
Well, you made the move so you will need to end it with the man you love. Why the move though? Why leave the man you love behind? I'm sure it was a real good reason to leave him. You can try to continue your love but there will be difficult times ahead. Prepare yourself. It's is time to move forward. Good luck.....SAM
533077
This is a situation that takes lots of time and consideration. I know what you mean I'm in the same boat. I'm 23 with 2 kids and I love my husband dearly, but there is one old boyfriend who makes my heart skip a beat but I know that we weren't meant for each other or things would have happened differently. You love your husband, if you didn't you would've left him by now. The only thing that's different now is the new guy. My advice to you is not to tear up a family of 3 years just because the grass looks greener on the other side, because it never is! Women are hopeless romantics and we would do almost anything to be swept off our feet and ride off into the sunset with prince charming on his white horse. But if you were to leave this man of 3 years what would be different with the new one? Three years from now will be the same story. You have to learn how to make things in your current relationship stay fresh and vibrant. You have to keep the flame burning. When a fire starts to die you just add more wood. Not wait till it burns out and then start a new one. Trust me, if both of you work at it and you keep open and honest communication between you and your spouse you will have a relationship that is almost unheard of now a days!