should i get married with a stingy man? why? pls help me out. thanks?
370181
No, because you would spend a miserable life. Marry someone who is kind, generous, loving and shares your values. Marry someone who makes your needs as important as his own. Do the same for him. Then you will be happy.
498249
It's still early on in the relationship. If you don't feel it's the appropriate amount to spend, I'd talk to him and let him know how you feel.  And maybe come to terms with a spending amount for both of you. I know you may want to get it for him to make him happy, but then you may resent it and this feeling will not be good towards the start of your relationship.  You have to do it from the heart.
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
154268
Sweetie he just wants to be able to take care of you. If you can tell he really loves you give it time...be patient. Good things come to those who wait. Take it as a good sign that he wants to work for you and give you all he can. It shows he is concerned about your well being. Trust me I went through the same thing and now I am happily married and he makes good money. This may sound very strange but tell him to watch for a hanging orange or red cloth...maybe many cloths hung in a row outside (like flags in size but not flags), gently moving in the breeze. If he sees this tell him to enter the place within and his luck might turn. Worth a shot anyways! Many blessings to you! :D
154410
marry him!!\nowh wait..before that..\nfirst of all..only you can sort this out..if you think you can cope with problems you may face..(due to the 'no qualifications' thing)..then you should indeed marry him..\ni advise you that its the best anywayz..but ever heard of this?\nwhen poverty knocks on the door,\nlove and trust flies out the window..\n\nmake your own decissions..age is no issue!~
193063
well, if he marry u then its something wrong . Check out yourself what is happening .May be something fishy going on....
1015361
Absolutely...I'm getting married in March. I'm so in love. I thought I was "in love" before but that was infatuation, idealism, or whatever else...but it was not what I feel now. Also, my parents have been married for forty years, as his parents have. It's hard work and sometimes hell; but, as I've heard many times, "When you're going through hell - keep going!" His parents and mine are living proof that it still happens. People just get screwed up by thinking it's all easy and there is no hard work.
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Oh Emilio, i couldnt agree with you more.\n\nEveryone's different; some people really want the dress, the cake, the whole shibang; some are quite happy to go off to Bali and get married under a palm tree with just the two of you.\n\nSome people dont feel the need for any of the above, and go on happily as long term partners.\n\nI personally think the whole white weding thing is ok if you keep it resonable, and affordable. But when it gets out of control, and you find yourself in debt for the rest of your days just so she can have the whole fairytale, then it's a problem.\n\nMe, i opted for a quiet little ceremony; it doesn't diminish how much i love my husband, and we've still got our sanity and our bank balance in order.\n\nEach to their own, good luck matey.
261457
I am amazed at such simple questions, which really can't be answered without more background info.  Does he love you?  The most important question.  Will he do everything in his power to better your life?  Will he charish you til his last breathe?\n\nIf you can answer yes to all of these, and do all the same things for him....then you SHOULD get married.\n\nIf not, don't rush in, unless you want to get your first divorce out of the way.
310337
poor man i love... money wont buy you the feeling that you get when loving someone and being loved in return... besides he may get rich someday...
83226
Not necessarily.  You just need to be careful, because marriage is a big thing.  I am assuming from your nick that you are a girl so..... Marriage at any age is a big thing and not to be taken lightly.  I have to agree with the other person that answered and said as long as you feel that it won't be an obstacle for you later then, no you are not too young.\n\nWhy don't you ask yourselves these questions and then maybe you can come to the answer to your question:\n\nApart from being in love with this man and feeling all the tingles and so on, do you see yourself living with this person for the rest of your life?\n\nImportant: Do you two have the same religous beliefs, morals standards , etc...to build a solid foundation and therefore later on stability for your children? \n\nWould you die for this man?  ( I know this question is a bit harsh, but you know what, my bestfriend asked me that when I was deciding whether to get married...it really sheds a light on things).\n\nMarriage isn't all tingles...babies come along, diapers, bills, arguments, etc....if you two can go through all that, then that's really LOVE.\n\nHope I didn't confuse you.
1002792
Hell no!  LOL!  I know, I know... some women are into that, but it ain't me.  Dating is an interview for marriage imo, and if he can't support me on a little thing like that... why would I expect him to be financially stable on anything else?  Now, later on in the relationship... after you've been together say, at least 6 months... then I could see helping a dude out if he needs it.  I've given my man $20 here and there for gas when he was having a rough time.  But in general, he knows how I feel about those things.  Luckily for me though, he feels the same way... has pride about providing for "his woman" or whatever.  heh.\n\nP.S. Why are you asking this?  Is it out of your own concern, or is it because he *refuses* to pay more than 50%?  Cause I think that makes a big difference in how it should be addressed...
440051
Just sit him down and be totally honest, do it before the wedding plans get too far advanced, and might cause a financial conflict...GL;)
705601
If you're going to be married, you better learn to compromise now.  In the end, is it really that big of deal?  If it means that much to him to have a ceremony, it would be nice to accommodate him and make him happy.
315235
From what you are saying, it sounds like you may be all ready for a relationship, but he is not.\n\nThough, honestly, if you already have children with the guy and yet he is still not "ready" for a commitment - then you probably need to get rid of him. He is not for you. If he does not have the maturity to take responsibility in his life to care for his lady and his kids by at least becoming a legal husband and parent, then there is most likely some serious issue he needs to get over.\n\nI would recommend seeing a counseling psychologist, believe it or not. They really can help in these kinds of situations and will be able to offer some excellent, customised-for-you-and-him advice. That is probably the best route, if you cannot get anything out of him by sitting down and talking, seriously, directly with him. He needs to understand that not only do you want to be married, that you also feel that it is right to get married.\n\nSaying it's "too expensive" is a total cop-out, no questions about it. If two people really wished to (and, hey, when I marry I plan to do something along these lines), they could have a tiny wedding, and cut to the chase right away. "You want to get married? Yeah? Okay then. You're married." Not difficult at all.\n\nAnyway, you need to talk to him about this, and if that does not get you anywhere, try speaking with a personal counselor. I loathe to sound cold, but you may be with a guy who just does not deserve your time and patience.
79583
Here you go.  Get to work.\n\nhttp://www.whitepages.com/10001/search/Find_Person?firstname_begins_with=1&firstname=&name=Right&city_zip=&state_id=\n\nEdit: I disagree with Leigh below.  What do I need a rich man for if I can provide for the both of us?  I want a man-slave.  He can mooch off me as long as he cooks and cleans and has everything looking nice & tidy when I get home.  The only women who want rich men are the ones who aren't capable of earning a living on their own.  ...that's why they need a rich man!
1121218
I think that you should over think this! You shouldn't get married to someone that you are not in love with. Liking someone and loving someone is completely different. Once you marry them that should be it. You shouldn't go into marriage counting on the divorce card as a back door. You really have to stick together through good and bad, sickness and health, richer or poorer and it should be forever 'til death do you part. People that go into marriage half-hearted are the ones raising the divorce rate. If you feel this way, you should talk to him about it. If you know that he's going to propose and you go and date someone else...that's a sure way of knowing you are not ready to settle down with him. You should be truthful to him and yourself. At the same time, you should marry someone that you can be yourself with. Best wishes.