why there is extra marital affair and is it right?
372497
No it's not right ! It's because people are selfish and only think about themselves .\n\nAngel
1101502
FIRST OFF, PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE BECAUSE OF MUTUAL ATTRACTION, SOME OF THE SAME WAYS AND ALSO DIFFERENCES.  SECOND, NO AFFAIR IS JUSTIFIED.  IT'S AWFUL AND IT WRECKS LIVES.
397106
More info is needed..\n\nif you mean you are waiting for a love interest's divorce to happen than no it is not wrong... I don't think... \nWhy would that be wrong?  It is noble...
1115251
Yes.  I think is cool.  We are all human and find certain things appealing about one another.  As you said, you don't cheat so that would not be an issue.
436767
It may not be cheating in the usual unedrstanding of the word, but it most certainly is not being faithful. Consider how you would feel if your spouse had fallen in love with some bimbo on line and was sneaking off to have hot sticky computer sex when you weren't around? \n\nDon't betray your spouse.
1135901
No its not wrong! I was with my husband 10 yrs and had 2 lovely kids,we got married then within 18 mth of the marrage he slept with 2 others and moved out! He said he felt diffrent since we married and to tell you the truth so did I! we are working through stuff but we both agree that we wished we had left things the way we were! If you's are happy why take a chance and spoil things? Good luck to the both of you!!
353547
Some people think it is, some don't.  You can't please everyone.  What's important is that it's the right thing to do for that particular couple.  If they're comfortable with it and if that's what they want.  They're not hurting anyone by doing this, I presume.
415072
I am going to disagree with most of your posters.  Is it wrong for you to like affairs....absolutely not.  You can't control the emotion, excitement, or feeling of the secretively in the whole idea of an affair.  Yet, while you asked if it was okay to like them the answer it is NO?  It is important to know that it is wrong to act on them morally.  Just like I may love robbing banks and the excitement of it but it doesn't mean that I should run out and do it.  Maybe you should find ways to suppress the excitement in sleeping around.  While bank robbery is illegal it can seldom be seen as illegal to have an affair too.  I wish you the best in your struggle with this.
293971
Personally I think it is wrong. It is something so personal that it should only be shared with your husband/wife. I think having sex before marriage only leads to complications and jealousy
842207
An adultery is only an adultery when people care about each other, in which case adultery is pointless and is not to be justified!!
510577
Because you know it's wrong.  They is NOTHING wrong with desiring another, the wrong is in acting.  Respect for your wife, respect for yourself, love of your home/car/belongings should help too.  Get away from her if you can, find a way to turn this off, and for the love of god don't tell your wife.  Good Luck.
1162266
In my opinion the two people involved are obviously unhappy with their lives so they need to decide what exactly it is that they want and move on. If you're unhappy in the marriage let it go and be together but if there's still a chance that they can salvage the marriages than they need to walk away from the affair. In any case a decision must be made. It's not fair to anyone involved if things stay the way that they are.
1133285
Yes, I do.  Any time you bring a third party into a relationship it is cheating.  Now if you have an open relationship and your partner doesn't mind then that is a different story.  If you are in a good healthy relationship why would you want to involve another person?
1139572
Yes it is..You really get to know your spouse..what their feelings are toward marriage, having kids and respecting each other.. We went for a weekend and it was really alot of fun.You meet alot of of other couples also..
123972
I think both are extremely wrong.\nPre-marital sex and Adultery is one of the reasons why we have AIDS and HIV rampant all over the world. \nOnce a person has premartial sex, he or she starts the ball rolling, and many move on to Adultery.\nWhy?\nAfter having sex with different people, some even with strangers, will he or she appreciate his or her loved one's body? Will the temptation of no strings sex lure them into having an affair?\nThere has to be something sacred in marriage and in a person's body and that's his and her virginity. This may sound antiquated but would you, want your boyfriend and girlfriend to have had sex with 10 people and marry them? \n\nWould you appreciate this person more if you knew he or she fought of temptation EVEN BEFORE they met you because they are governed with such strong belief and respect for their future spouse, in all seriousness, they knew the marriage up ahead would be no joke, a lifelong commitment where both would share mind, body and soul?\n\nThis is not to say it should be a law where pre-marital sex is forbidden, but it should be a personal choice made, to have self-discipline and self-control, not to let loose like a crazed animal in heat.\nAll this gives rise to disgusting sexual conduct like bestiality and so on, because no one appreciates, or respects sex as a sacred act between two, married, committed people.\nIt's not a game, it's not something you can play with.\n\nThat's why our world is full of horrible pornography where women are humped and co-erced into sex, treated like animals by the men.\nIt's disgusting. And before someone tells me, how would you know the person's sexual preferences before meeting them, or he or she has the right to do that because they are two consenting individuals - \n1. You wouldn't know your own sexual preferences if you hadn't had sex. That's why marriage is so wonderful, two loving, innocent people can explore each other legitimately and their sex lives and preferences evolve together as they live their lives together.\n2. It's true. Two consenting adults, go ahead, do it. However, wouldn't the two of them appreciate each other's deeds and thoughts of them? Wouldn't they know how commited and how thought out the person's beliefs were because this was already thought out before they met each other?\nCan a man feel comfortable hearing about his wife's ex-boyfriends? He prefers not to hear it and pretends it doesn't exist because he can't look at his lady knowing she has been with another man! And a woman, can she accept that her boyfriend or husband is a cassonova in his days of youth, can she absolutely say she knows he won't go out where his lust leads him? Temptation is all around, look at the amount of sexually permissive people around the community, the world, even, and say you're sure. Would you love him better knowing he has saved himself for the ONLY woman he'll ever have sex with, knowing how sexually active men are? This deed itself presents so much to appreciate and love in your man.
1111944
No - adultery may be hurtful and wrong but it's not criminal - the state should not get involved in people's lives on a personal level.
920259
I would say that is normal. Often great romances and happy married couples grow from long friendships.  I hope the  feelings of more than friendship are reciprocal and you both have a happy life.