Why so many Chinese girls like going out with foreigners? Is it coz of real love or bcoz they want to quit Cn?
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Y DIDN'T YOU ASK THOSE CN GIRLS??\nOH .. PLEASE NOT ONLY CHINESE... KOREAN..FILIPINA..THAI...LAOS..VIETNAMESE...RUSSIAN...POLISH..IRISH... SCOTISH.. BRITISH..FRENCH.. SPANISH..MEXICAN..  AND THE REST OF THE NATIONS (WHATEVER I'M MISSING)... \nMAINLY GO FOR GREENCARD.. 2ND.. MONEY.. 3RD.. PROBABLY LOVE (TAKE A LONG TIME TO DEVELOP THIS STAGE AFTER GREENCARD)\n\nDON'T THAT DID NOT WANT TO GOING OUT W/ FOREIGNER CUZ THEY LIKE TO STAY IN THEIR OWN RACE AND CULTURE.
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As far as I'm concerned, I've got lots of guy friends who're Asian, and I did ask a few of them this online.\nMost of them are rather insecure about *certain things* (the whole size issue) and prefer to stick to the Asian girls.\nHowever, while many of them wouldn't mind dating other races, their parents would completely flip out seeing them bring home a black or a white girl (though whites are more acceptable, it's that double standard and it infuriates everyone, I know.) because most parents would just like their son to marry (they view dating as a process to marriage. Meaning, an automatic process) a "nice, Asian girl".\nThis is especially true for Indians and Chinese, though the Chinese families catch up fast (cept' the traditional ones) and if given enough reasons, they might just grudgingly accept the fact that you're the one their son/daughter wants, no substitutes.\nAnd yes, many Asian guys really dislike Asian girls to go out with other races. They view it as an insult to their manhood, something like how some blacks dislike their black girls to go out dating other races, especially whites.\nSome are pretty impartial to that, though.\n\nA few of my guy friends do want to date a black girl, and have friends who're interested in a black girl at school, but the problem is, they're a little intimidated by black girls.\nSome of them can be really aggressive and that scares some Asian men off. Also, they see it as 'surprising' that a black girl wouldn't mind dating them - most of them have the impression that it's the black girls who don't dig Asian guys.\nHope that helped.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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I have been with my polish girlfriend for 4 years and while our cultural backgrounds are not as vastly different compared with say an american and someone from india as you say,  I still think it is perfectly possible for a cross-cultural relationship to be successful. As you said, in my experience it's all about making compromises and being realistic. You can never expect the other person to totally give up their way of life for you, so you have to meet half way, whether it means learning their language, trying new foods and making an effort to socialize with their friends and family who come from a different cultural background. \n\n I think that it is not fair or right to expect someone to just conform to your own culture and traditions  (gender roles in particular), therefore maybe it will only work with the sort of people who are open minded, easy going and trusting . \n\nIf you have love staring you in the face, I reckon it is a mistake for a person to automatically write off the possibility of a serious relationship just because the other is from a different country, therefore assuming that things would never work out. I have seen this attitude before and I just think that its a bit defeatist  If its meant to be, its meant to be.
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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"miss.china d" must have had a bad experience with them..\nMy buddy can say all asian women are whores since his mom cheated on his dad and all his sisters are hoes and his ex g/f(asian chic)wanted to cheat on him with me.She's probably pretending to be asian w/fake avatar anyways-(it's common in this site)...\n\nI can tell ya that all races have there A-h o l e s...\nI know that asian guys are the same as any...I know alot from school/work/parties,etc. and most of them are pretty cool and kick it like any other.There are way too many breeds(thai,vietnamese,cambodian,korean,and the list goes on for ever)...you'll get alot unfamiliararities due to many different upbringings...it gets confusing but I'm use to it cause the heavy population of them where I live.Hope ya get good contacts.
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same with any westerners marrying Thais. Its okay, its win win situation, they want you, you want her. Life goes on.
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hohoho\ni'm an asian boy...\nwell not all, but i do shy...\nmay be because our eastern traditions.. \nwe just somehow over-dramatize about love.. (compared to western)... we are very emotional person.. we think love is somekind of sacred, precious... so we become shy ..\nit is like love is everything.. a big issue..\nmay be we don't want to test and try.. we want one everlasting love..\ni don't know how to explain it.. my english isn't very good..\nbut i think it's just me not all of asian guys..
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As a previous answer states, it's because of their upbringing and ethnic ties. My daughter has dated an Asian guy for about 3 years. His sisters and brothers accept her, (parents are deceased) but his older aunts, uncles, etc. Do not approve. His brother also dates an caucasion girl. They are brought up to date and marry their own race.
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Thank you "Lady Wyn"...very good answer...I am 42 and my girlfirend just turned 21 and It has nothing at all to do with her age on why we are going out....its all about liking the same stuff....we love the same music, the same books, the same tv shows, the same places to eat....we both love to play pool and love the beach...and in general just enjoy each others company. I have dated women from 18-50 and had a great time with all of them and I don't keep looking for one certian age group....its whoever appeals to me and who I also appeal to...so stop being so shallow!
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Don't be in too big of a hurry. Some girls will shy away from someone from a foreign country. If you are going to be here a while take the normal course. Be friends, be very close friends, fall in love, then marry. And be totally honest about your intentions.
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It isn't strange for a Japanese woman to do all that. I have lots of them working in the same company. Hugging and kissing and more are common. You need to do a search on what Jap schoolgirls are up these days - it was in the papers here. It'll open your eyes.\n\nMost of them (and most Asians) are very modern in their outlook like their western counterparts as Japan is a highly industrialized and modern Asian country. It is stereotypical to think that they should be demure and chaste (you'll get a shock when you come to Asia if you think that). Women compete just as much as men in the job market and they are decidedly aggressive like their western counterparts. Only difference is that they speak softer when they compete but they are not less competitive / not less political when it comes to office politics nor less outspoken. Above applies to all Asian women. \n\nWell, you were played & she's one of them (lied when she said she didn't have a BF right?). She's just flirting with you  & she's certainly not serious about you. And now looks like she's done flirting and moving on. What you described is a gal who's a pro at this. Gets on with him, gets bored, brings up jealous BF to lose him & say sayonara. Having a BF did not stop her in the beginning now did it? How modern can that be? You didn't know what hit you? Sorry.\n\nPS: Of course nice gals exist like in the eastern countries. But she's not one of them from what you described.
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The way I figure it most of us are in someway bi-sexual.  Depending on who you are and how accepting of yourself and how accepting your society is depends on how much you lean one way or the other.\n\nIf you love this girl, see if she believes she is completely straight herself.  See what can happen.  I am unfamiliar with Chinese views on Homosexuality, but if it's anything like India it's pretty underground.  \n\nBe open, be honest, be true to yourself and your feelings.  Don't let society dictate your actions.
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i myself am a FULL FLEDGED asian (vietnamese chinese). we stick together because we need each other in this world of hate and racism. we are just scared that we are just going to get made fun of and beaten up. there are just a whole lot of racists in the world. also because we don't really find any other asians to hang out with, and it's cool that we get to meet some of our kind once in a while.
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because everyone likes to feel desire the one there with. so if they start feeling that the person they are with doesn't desire them no more they will go out and find someone that will desire them they way they like. which breaks up couples
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Some people are not very friendly but most should at least be fairly neutral. It's the communication problems that normally put people off rather than any acutal unfriendliness; it's hard to build up any kind of meaningful relationship or friendship with someone if you can't understand each other as a large part of it is based on communication and conversation. If you can get a dialogue going you're probably in with a good chance. Should the first people you try not want to know, just ignore them and move on.\n\nStill, your english skills seem quite good (far, far better than most british people's chinese proficency, that's for certain)...... heck by the look of the internet it's better than a lot of so-called native english "speakers" :-) so good luck.
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Like a stable, long term girlfriend? Relationships are tricky, and every person is different so there's not one clear answer. If you're friendly and respectful, you're bound to meet someone you connect with. If you think the girls are leaving because you're too pushy, maybe that's your answer. Don't feel like you have to rush or pressure anyone to be with you.
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Young and Vibrant, only last so long. Do your thing, that keeps you alive. There's nothing wrong with going out dancing with family and friends. When two people get together, it shouldn't be where you dictate to one another. The age difference maybe, one of your issues. He has been there done that, 23 it's your stage to go through. LOVE does not trainee you, it sustains you,  when no one else will.  All we can do is truly LIVE for ourselves. Share Great Times with the ones who really LOVE You being You!