how can one getred of a unfaithful wife?
368939
Divorce usually works.
213137
My husband cheated on me too.  It took a couple years to stop thinking about him with this other woman. It was very hard to stop feeling betrayed.  I don't think theres any certain methods.  Only it takes two.  He has to reasure you that he loves you, and he has to prove to you that he's not going to do this again.  But, you have to accept this, and learn to trust him again.  Youll never forget this, but, It'll only be a foggy memory.  it just takes time, and no one else can tell you how long, it's different for everyone.  Good luck. stay strong...
210827
Although adultery may actually be against the law where you live, and although you may have a cause of action for alienation of affection, what you really have is mislaced anger.\n\nThis woman was not coming to your home.  She was invited to your home by your husband.  She was not making out with him.  Your husband was making out with her.  And she did not get pregnant.  Your husband got her pregnant.\n\nThis woman did nothing to you.  Your husband did.  Make sure to divorce him.  Get a good settlement, maintenance and child support. \n\nThe best revenge is a life well lived.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
575363
Unfortunately for you, there is something about your relationship or you that caused you to cheat.  You have risked at the highest level your relationship.  If you never tell her, you will be in constant fear she will find out from someone else, and that is 100 times worse than hearing it from you.  If you tell her she very well may leave you, and rightfully so.  Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you destroyed that forever.  You say you will never do it again....but you did it in the 1st place so you really don't know if you will do it again or not, and she will never really trust you and she will always have that to live with,and it should be enough for her to leave you forever.  What you have done is unforgivable,take it from someone who was married and in her position.  It never is forgiven and it definitely is never forgotten.  You have to tell her as kindly as possible, and you should not try to justify your behavior, excuse it, or try to plead you way out of this.  She has every right to get angry, sad, and betrayed, and you not only should allow her to feel that way but also not try to manipulate your way back in.  Let her decide what she wants to do with no pressures from you.  If you pressure her she will leave you for sure, or should do so.  Learn from this however it turns out and in future relationships don't do something you will regret.
830879
I suggest you talk to her about it. Decide whether it is something you two can work through together, if it isn't then seriously consider calling off the marriage. You shouldn't accept that from anyone you are worth someone who is faithful. But people also do make mistakes. The question is can you ever forgive her? and is she someone you want to marry?
151641
If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
981634
So, you got caught writing sexy letter to other women, and claiming in the letters to be single.  Now, you are hoping one of us can come up with some magic solution, one that convinces your wife that it great for her husband to be chasing after other women.  I have no magic solution, and doubt one exists.  Beg forgiveness.
877553
forget about her and the ring , u r a married man now so act like it , put the past in the past
343870
The only thing that you can do is wor on becoming the best you that you can be. You made some big mistakes in your marriage. Work on becoming a better person and learn to accept yourself for the changes that you have made and are still working on. You cannot and will not change the way she thinks..........until you change you.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
996227
You will never be able to forgive yourself.Sooner or later you will be caught and you will have to fess up.Where will your marriage be than.
624117
get a lawyer and fast...you need one. A good lawyer will use the tarnished reputation of the girlfriend to prove that your husband didn't do it. don't say a word and let your lawyer talk\n\na good website for legal advice\n\nhttp://www.expertlaw.com/forums/index.php
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
505807
The only solution to this mess you have gotten yourself into is to come clean with your wife. Your marriage couldn't have been that happy if you felt the need to cheat in the first place. Maybe through counseling you can salvage your marriage. \nThis casual affair is not asking that you call this child yours. It IS your child regardless of whether you like it or not.\nYou made a mistake by trying to bribe this woman or asking for an abortion. That would make any woman angry.\nYou need to come clean NOW, if you wait, it WILL  come back to haunt you later.  Make sure you tell your wife yourself. it will be so much worse if she hears it from someone else. And believe me she will hear about it. You upset the other woman and she will tell whoever will listen about you.\nGood Luck!
931547
You have answered your own questions above.\n1. you no longer love your wife.\n2. you have been neglected.\n3. your marital relations leave you sleeping alone.\n4. you have started another relationship -although platonic for now, with someone else.\n5. all you need is some guts to tell her the truth and be done with it, why drag it out-not helping you or her.\nHer gambling is HER PROBLEM, not yours, remember that.\ngood luck.
997012
talk to a counsellor.\nthis is very unhealthy for both of you.\nshe 's never cheated you and why this bothers you...\ninsecurity...\ndon't let this garbage be back in your house..or you would keep on cleaning it..talk to her and share your feelings..\nbeing in marriage is being one..if one hurts, the other is hurt too... ask for forgiveness and give time with each other.