when will you say that a person is "bitter" when it comes to relationships?
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bitter would refer to unresolved differences, like from things they haven't forgiven you for, from being hurt or feeling like they were done wrong
1167416
I do not assume the worst. I try to imagine a troubled person desiring a serious answer. I've also come to realize that I have a very matter of factly way of saying things that in the end seem jaded or very rude. Society however has taught us as a whole to be more emotional in a bad way. We are politically correct to a fault. If it isn't covered in rose petals and smelling wonderful it must be wrong. Not so. People need to hear more truth with out all the associated crap wrapping it up. Now if someone is simply rude- there is nothing that can be said on that besides simply put: Ignore them. I do believe however everyone is a person and you should have some mutal respect for them until they prove you othewise - then it's just not worth your time. Take care and hopefully you'll see the world in a different light.
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look Giacomo, I can see in your other questions you are going trough a rough time, therefore I am thinking that the "chitchat crap " remark is just your frustration with not finding what you lost.\n\nIf that is the case, Give it time, maybe you are not even ready for dating again. You should be ok with yourself first, before you can be ok with some one else.\n\nIf thats not the case, dont be the VICTIM, you can chat of whatever theme you want. If what you are talking is crap to you, EASY, just start a good conversation.\n\nI can see by other answers that you attitude is anoying.\nso, give it a chance, and give it time.\n\ngood luck amigo.
304344
Yes...  It's called compassion.  And it's a good thing, in moderation, of course.  A lot of people have a "who cares?" attitude and end up hurting people in their lives, whether important people or the random fellow shopper at the grocery store.\n\nThere's a thin line in the relationship of being brutal, mean, honest, compassionate, truthful, white-liar, etc..  The trick is to no when you're being TOO nice or when you're being TOO mean.\n\nPerhaps you can still be honest and sincere but not hurtful... like maybe respond with something like... "Yeah, I was thinking maybe next time, if we decide to go out again, we can do something like ----- fill in blank with ideas -----... what do you think?"  ... if he/she says a flat out "no"... hey... why bother making a 2nd date..  ya know?  And if he/she says it'd be fine with him/her... then you've got potential!
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Well, when someone says they settled for whatever type of relationship they are in is because they can not be alone and have no respect for themselves or their partner. It's one of those situations that solves being lonely quick. In the long run unfortunately does not work out and the one that settled is the one that is regretting and feeling at a loss...
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Tricky one.  \nI once went out with a guy who used to do lots of things which annoyed me, eventually I dumped him as it got too much.  In the early days, I was in his room and we were having a glass of wine and he got quite drunk and started being rather arrogant and stupid.  I had a choice at the time.  I could have played along and feel stupid, I could have left the room without saying anything or I could breakdown.  I chose to breakdown because I thought I didn't really want to be part of his arrogance and I thought it would have been just rude to leave.  Once I started crying, he stopped what he was doing and apologised and promised he wouldn't do it again.\nNow, I'm not saying this is the best approach and I wouldn't be surprised if you thought that I'm a drama queen or an attention seeker from that anecdote.  However, it is one way of making guys realise whatever it is they are doing is upsetting.  \nHowever, as my arrogant ex boyfriend only really did this once, it did not affect me day to day (though eventually the other annoying things about him got to me).  On this basis, I think you perhaps want to consider if this thing or these things your boyfriend does that irritates you will ultimately affect your sanity, you might want to consider looking elsewhere or dumping him.  I know you probably don't want to hear it but I learnt it the hard way, and my god, my ex was hard to get rid of AND I dumped him the hardest way, face to face!!!  Alternatively, you might just want to talk it over with him.  If he doesn't reason with you, definitely dump him, he's not worth it, sorry!  I hope this helps.  Good luck.
899988
I never know that bickering, jibbing and cussing at each other was a sign of a romantic relationship.  Get out while you still can!
112200
Well, if a girl says, Hey, I have no feelings, let's have an affair (or sex, I guess), and you say, I don't wanna hurt your feelings, let's not, then you're a liar, not a sucker.  And if you don't want to have sex with somebody you're not in love with, it's totally okay to say so.
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I have done that.  I hate to hurt someone's feelings and to say "I'm just plain tired of you" or I'm sick of your whining about everything", would do that so instead I've told him we need time apart to reevaluate our feelings. \n\nThe better way for me seems to be to say "I just don't feel we are meant for each other". "There are just too many issues we disagree on".  That seems to work without doing too much damage.\n\nIt isn't hard for me to make the decision to end a relationship because if I really want it to end, there is a reason and I just remember that reason is important to me.
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no its not ur fault bieing bitter after hurtfull experience...but on the otherside if u are bitter it would be hurtfull expernce for other person also standing in front of u...so dnt have so much hard feelings..life is beautiful u should enjoy it...problem comes and goes away...its time which is the best healer
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yeah it used to make me so angry!\nthe way i've learned to deal with it is make it very apparent that there is certain stuff I won't put up with. for the past 3 years i have taken no nonsense from guys i've dated. if someone lies to me, or i can tell is using me, i call him on it. i let him know it's unacceptable and i don't keep those types of ppl around. i am not a mean person; i will do almost anything for people in need and i don't look for fights but when i have someone close to me i do not want them to be treating me badly and i won't stand for it. because of this, everyone who knows me now knows i won't be used (a few years ago this guy used me 'til the cows came home.. thank goodness i will never go through that hell again!)\n\ni would be angry at myself and at them for using me. i've turned that frustration into motivation to keep my life and relationships cleaner and healthier and always think "do i really want this (how the person's treating me) in my life? is this good?"
990001
There is no way to say happy or unhappy.  It is both at times.  But I go t to admit convenience is a huge factor in staying with a partner.  No doubt about that.
69502
When the other person stops caring. In which I mean...if he no longer cares what you do, who your going out with and shows no interest in what you have to say. Especially when all he can say is..."whatever". Pack your stuff up, and leave!
39886
When he outright says so. \nAsk him directly if you have your suspicions but otherwise don't make any assumptions as you might be needlessly setting yourself up for a broken heart.
718933
They feel they need someone else's advice to weigh their love life. It shows your really not ready for a serious relationship if your depending on complete strangers to fix your love life. You have to go with how you feel, it's YOUR relationship, and it needs to be YOUR UNBIASED decisions. But hey...more points for me!
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It depends.\n\nPeople say hurtful things that they don't mean sometimes when they are angry and upset. If it was a one time thing and he apologizes, I don't think it's a dealbreaker.\n\nOn the other hand, if it's part of a larger pattern of poor anger management (or he just treats you poorly), get out and find a guy who will treat you with respect.
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All relationships require work from both ends and if that doesn't exist then they eventually fade away.  It is often better to let them fade away than to be angry over what you can't control.