Girls-what hapens when you've like someone for 5 years and want him, but not sure if he does? What do I do?
367520
I feel u, im in the same position but its only 3 yrs not 5 ;p well i told him abt 4 months ago that i have feelings (he's my best friend btw) and that i need 2 take a distance to get over him and we stayed like that 4 a month and it didnt work...try 2 get urself involved with other ppl, convince urself that u like some1 else...(i have no idea why am I giving advice) just try 2 get urself 2 think of some1 else
507888
Well, if you really feel like you're not into him and the relationship isn't going anywhere, what's the point in staying with him? Go find someone that you acutally like and let him find someone that actually likes him. I wasn't very into my last boyfriend, so I let him go after a couple of months. Why drag things out for no reason?
757925
That's a no-brainier.Do what you did to get him the first time and keep it up.If you think he still likes you, don't just think it, ask him,don't waste your valuable time on wondering.A yes or no answer is the only thing you should settle for.Even if it's not the answer you want at least you can move forward with your life and not waste if on maybe yes or maybe no.GOOD LUCK. I HOPE YOU FIND HAPPINESS!!!!!!!!!
485239
what is his personality like? is he a player? your friends seem to think so. there's the possibility he will do that, even though you've been friends for five years. \n\nbut, he can only take advantage of you if you allow him to! just refuse to go that far with him. you have the power to control that. find the strength and be strong. get to know each other all over again intellectually from a "relationship" point of view.\n\ni have found that friends' opinions are usually right. they have a more objective view about the situation than the two people involved. plus, your friends are only trying to look out for you because they love you, and don't want to see you get hurt. however, in the end it is your decision.
407245
A year is a long time.  Now you make your decision.  Either go straight up to him and tell him how you feel, or move on.  You shouldn't dwindle on this any longer.
469459
Well I think that if you really like him just let him kno how you feel about him and see wha he says. Maybe you could even ask him how he feels about you. You dont have to ask him out or anything but just talk to him and see how he feels about you maybe he is with someone else right now that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with you right now.
85945
If she has moved on,then she has moved on. IF you do like her as much as you do, just tell her how you feel and tell her you'll wait awhile for her and then serouisly wait a while but not for ever. But if she just plan out says there isnt a chance any more then just move on.
936483
hi, if a guy has been chasing you for over a year it probably means he is very interested in you, you will have to do what women all over the world do and that is if you like him go out with him and just hope that he is genuine...you will only find out one way, so have fun finding out rather than worrying what if...plus he may get fed up chasing you thinking you are not interested and how would you feel then seeing him with another woman....good luck
1137383
Alexandra, i think when you like somebody...or love somebody you should not wait...just you should go and tell him...god knows within a year if he finds his best match then what will you do?  so just go and tell him that how much you love and wanna spend life with him....best luck!!!
768082
What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
1152181
I'd suggest the most obvious thing to do...Say hi.  Don't scare him off telling him you've had a crush on him for 5 years...just play it calm and casual and be cool :)  You'll do fine, its a simple hello.  And hes known as the 'boy next door' who knows, maybe he feels the same way
790755
Don't be afraid! Do you want, one day to look back on your life and say: I wish I woulda..... No so just tell him that you like him and are attracted to him and see what he says. Life is short, you have to go after what you want and if it is meant to be it will unfold as such. Its like the lyrics to a Rolling Stone's song " You can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need. "  Take a chance!!!
491368
You are 12... don't grow up too fast. Relationships this early aren't too good because you could get into it and then he could go and break your heart. Love being young because you won't be that young much longer. I agree, be friends love him for who he is not what he looks like. Break it to him if you want to. I think he will understand if you explain that you have liked him for 5 years not just recently because of his looks. That will get you in for sure if you say you thought he was funny and kind and whatever!\n\n\nGood Luck!
852757
This guy has:\n\n1) "Been Chasing me for ages and ages (even when i was in a serious relationship)" - shows persistency, and also means that you are not just a fling or a crush for him.\n2) "He Always compliments me and makes conversation with me" - could be that's he's trying to get points, or that he simply is a nice guy. find out if he also compliments other women/people. about the conversation, it shows that you guys have chemistry.\n3) "i always catch him looking at me" - and he always catches you... :)\n4) "he doesnt flirt with any other girls" - now, i don't know you so  i could not say how you found this out, or if you are just supposing it. it ccould b that he does when you are not around, as well as that he could really be a no flirt type of guy (good :))\n\nBUT:\n\n1) "he only texts me at the weekends to meet him out" - maybe he is busy/ maybe he thinks YOU are busy/ maybe he is "busy", if you know what i mean (another person...)\n2) "he asked how im enjoying he single life (as if just come out of a 5 year relationship 8 months ago). I said i was enjoying it!" - now, you are, but why do you wonder if he likes you? :)\n3) "He said he wishes he could meet some like me (when i was in my previous relationship)" - it could be that he considers you a good friend and a good person. depending on your relationship, you are the best judge of the meaning of this sentence. he could be cueing you to think you are the right person for him, but it could also mean a sincere compliment.\n\nDoes he like me?Any advice?\nit seems he does, but again, YOU are the best judge for that :)\nit seems to me that YES he does.
762561
I would just ask him.  if you have been friends for 5 years, then it should be okay.
1072241
Well, why'd you start liking him?? Does he still have that quality? Or was it one of those "You only want what you don't have" things so now that he does want you, you don't want him anymore? I know, i'm supposed to be answering YOUR question. no vise versa.\njust some things to think about.\n\ngood luck
951979
so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...