I have a band.I am a singer.The other singer isnt that well. How can i tell her w/out hurting her feelings?
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tell her that you might need, say, another drummer or something else that she'd be good at. but still feature her, so that she's not feeling like she was just put in the back for you to have all the glory. hope this helps!\n\n.:Lark:.\n\nlark_rose12@yahoo.com
551663
Well, definitely don't say anything to them in front of the heavy girl, that will just embarass her more.  I think I'd call both of them individually at home (or go see them) and say something like, "What you all are doing is really mean to _______ and it probably hurts her feelings.  It's going to stop and if you can't stop it, then you need to find another team to play for."  I'd definitely speak to them individually so they don't start acting stupid in that "group mentality" sort of thing.
913710
Dude, its a good thing yer ma doesnt like your music all part of the growing process, its your job as an almost teenager to start testing the boundaries.  If you really wanna piss her off get Rage against the machine and stick on "Killing in the name of" and watch her face as the main chorus kicks in "F*CK YOU WONT DO WHAT YE TELL ME!" classic, followed up by the live recording of Metallica playing "Am i Evil" :-D
14868
"How can I politely tell this girl that it isn't working out and that I am no longer interestd in her?"\nYou're doing a great job already... Tell her exactly what you've told us. She'll probably be hurt, but that's life. At least she'll understand why you guys aren't working out and she can work on it in her next relationship.
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Depending on the comment. If someone is trying to 'constructively' provide you with some information to help you - I'd listen. Also be careful of the source. If someone is just mouthing off because they fear you, or don't like you, I'd shrug it off. You have to be strong in your own spirit to accept comments of any kind from people. As a singer, I heard them all. Even the praises can be misleading and misdirectional. People will do what they can do get what they can out of you. You must be alert and aware of the deceptions that take place. Ex. If a teacher told you something that appeared negative - it is probabaly something to help you. Listen to the way people tell you things. Their tone of voice can indicate if they really have your best interest at heart, or if they want to hurt you. Listen up.
850906
I see your problem. You don`t want to make her mad by telling her she shouldn`t be so obsessed, but you can`t take it anymore. For right now, all I can tell you is to nod and pretend your listening.
4999
Figure out what insecurity is within you that makes you worry so much about somebody else. And if it's just a distaste for this person, be honest about it and she'll go away. A little hurt feelings is a lot more efficient than suffering through something because you're uncomfortable. And she'll get over it.
758354
Try spreading the word by putting up banners of his band on your websites.  Some people no madder how good their music is just don't properly advertise themselves sometimes, or they just prefer to stay "underground".
655344
You are not going to get her to stop unless you embaress her. Or you need to talk to her about what she is doing and how it makes your feel. Telling her to shut up is not the way to go.\n\nAlso you need to ask yourself why do you want her to stop. Are you jealous of the attention? If it is not hurting you why should you be worried. People that lie like that will get theirs in the end. She'll bury herself in her own hole without any help from you.
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maybe it is not you who got the problem - \nmaybe it is the girls around you and that band... she is afraid to start a relationship since she doesn't want to hurt much.\nwell, just continue to court her and shower her with the love you have... talk to her about your band and assure her.
50417
Straight out tell her, "look, you say I hurt your feelings yet I have no recolection of this. I apologize if I, without meaning to, offended you". Something like that, let it be known that you did not do it on purpose, that way she'll know you're not apologizing for something you did, but for something she thinks or feels you did.
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yodeladyhoo....that is carly simon....not the carpenters! mr.crawley, i've seen some of your answers (especially to me), i cannot imagine that you would have a problem with rudeness. tell them that they need to get over themselves, and for once in their pathetic life, they are not being talked about. be straight up...take the ego down a notch.
73732
Pray for Him ( if you pray ). Also, tell him he's annoying. He deserves honesty about how his ridiculous behavior is annoying everbody. After all, If no one is letting him know he's ridiculous, he may think everyone likes him. Tell him he sucks at singing if he does, but if he's a good singer, tell him he's a good singer but that doesn't give him the right to touch everyone. It's very couragous to be honest to people. It is so much easier to follow the herd and gossip. This guy has a family somewhere you know, so treat him like you would want your dad or husband or son to be treated at their work.
8087
Don't worry too much about hurting her, she should get over it if you advise her that her bragging is making her look like a snob.  Friends shouldn't let other friends be snobs.
168955
Know someone in the band!
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excuse my language but F*CK Ya!!!!!!!!!!! thing that will, could, or did happen to you is wut they are singing. It will pull something from deep within you to the outside and help you live your life.\n\nThink, love, listen, be a minority. If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, you jaust have to tell them to F*ck off.\n\nSTICK IT TO THE MAN!!!!!!!!-quoted by Billie Joe Armstrong
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tell her to f**k off and what you want to do with your body is your bussiness. there always going to be people who are going to be jelous and in most cases you should ignore them but telling her off might make you feel better and put her in her place at the same time just dont be so loud or let it escalate into a fight or you might get fired