HoW dO yOu MaKe fRiEnDs? AnD hOw Do YoU gEt RiD oF sHyNeSs??
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Well. What do you like about yourself? That's step one. We're all unique (and, if you're into it, thank God for that!). So you have some special something that no one else has quite as much of.  I act and play music.  My son rocks at math, my daughter does art. So what do you feel like maybe you do best (not 'better than' someone else, but better than anything else you do)?\n\nFind that thing. Concentrate on that, you'll need to for other things in life, anyway. Now the trick is: feel good about that, but don't get snotty about it! Balance!\n\nNow, then, you are primed and ready. You have or know or do something quite unique. Keep it a secret for now. \n\nStep 2: When you are feeling shy, think of something related to your secret. Something to do with where you are at, at that moment. Example: I play music. I'm in a mall. A cute girl is near. The horrid muzak is playing.  I take a step near her and say, "Man, I wish they'd play some Green Day!".\n\nIce breaker!\n\nNow go with the flow, do not get too excited: you're just talking to another human.  Listen mostly.  If they say something you know for sure, add to it. \n\nContinue my example: The girl freaks me by saying "Nah, I love Classic Rock. How about some Zeppelin?"\n\nWooo Hooooo! I know about classic rock. We talk back and forth. I find out she lives 2 blocks from me and we agree to see each other around some time.\n\nAcquantance, not friend, but a great start!\n\nIf I didn't know classic rock, I wouldn't diss it. So if you don't know about something they say, the rule is ASK a question.\n\nMy example: "I don't think I've heard of Zeppelin. What are some of the songs they played?\n\n\netc.. etc.. hope that helps some!
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How to make friends!\n\nBelieve it or not....... You can make more friends in a shorter time by becoming interested in other people \nrather than trying to get other people interested in you.\n\nSit back and think about it! Why should people be interested in you, unless you are first interested in them?\n\n \n\nMaking Friends\nMaking friends can be difficult, especially these days with so many peer pressures. You're the odd one out if your clothes are different, your hair is the wrong cut or colour, your shoes are bought on a budget and don't display the designer label, you happen to enjoy listening to the wrong kind of music, your folks are not as trendy as they should be, etc....etc...\n\nLet me tell you a secret!\nIf you want to develop a more pleasing personality and make friends.......... become genuinely interested in other people. Show kindness........ you may be wearing the latest designer label clothes, the hottest brand shoes and the coolest jewelry but if you display sourness and selfishness you'll have a battle ahead of you to make good friends.\n\nSmile\nSmile.....smile and continue to smile. It costs nothing, enriches those who receive it, happens in a flash but the memory lasts forever, it creates happiness in the home and classroom. A smile can not be bought, begged or borrowed, it comes from the heart. If you want other people to like you....... make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely!\n\nArguments\nSome people thrive on arguments, it gives them a sour disposition and creates a depressing atmosphere around them. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. If you are wrong admit it quickly and apologize. If the other person continues in an argumentative manner, excuse yourself and walk away. Don't bite..... as the saying goes.\n\nDoing the wrong thing!\nChoose your friends carefully. If others try to persuade you to smoke, take illicit drugs, steal, gamble, fight etc... dare to say NO. Doing the wrong thing is the quickest way to lose friends.... honest, good and upright friends. Stay on the right track and be a respected citizen with a sincere reputation. Remain on the right side of the law! Deep down in your heart you know what is right and good. You know when to say 'no' and you know when its time to walk away.\n\nBe Strong!\nBeing mentally strong is not always easy but let me assure you..... the more you practice it the easier it becomes. Soon those who thought they were trendy will want to dress like you, talk like you and be with you because you have a personality which is different. People like being different! Think about it.... if you dressed and acted like 10 million other people, are you different? NO........ So be yourself and don't give in to those horrifying peer pressures.\n\nDanger!\nIt is dangerous to follow a crowd. Crowds get lost in even bigger crowds. By being an individual with your own personality you can achieve the very best experiences in your life. You may not ever have many friends but let me tell you that it is better to have one good friend than ten dishonest friends who will stab you in the back at the very first opportunity that arises. You're treading on dangerous ground if you mix with the wrong type of 'friends'.\n\nGood luck
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Hang out where the shy girls hang out.  They will be glad to know you, too.  Quiet places, coffee shops, book shops, the corner of the cafeteria.  Good luck
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Make acquaintances before making friends. not all acquaintances become frineds. Don't be afraid to meet with new people, this is the only way I can think of.
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Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask simple friendly questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice.\n\nFor other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. A few jokes from time to time can also be a great ice breaker.\n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.\n
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What helped me was someone telling me that shyness is really a form of self-centeredness. If you think about it, people you encounter don't really care even a fraction as much as you do about how you come across. They have their own problems, concerns, etc. to think about. In fact, many of them are probably shy themselves but may be a little bit better at hiding it. \n\nIn group situations, shyness is a form of selfishness. You've got a lot to offer (your unique outlook, life experiences, advice, etc.) and to withhold it from others is selfish. So resolve to share more of what you have instead of keeping it to yourself...thats one way of overcoming it.\n\nOne of my friends joined Toastmasters International. Its an organization with social events in which people take turns giving toasts--its good practice for public speaking, especially when you realize how many people are also nervous and shy about expressing themselves! Similarly, you can sign up for acting/improvisation workshops. You can learn techniques there to get over your self-imposed inhibitions as well as how to be and project an image of being open and outgoing (one tip: learning to listen to others and respond accordingly.)\n\nGood luck!
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As I posted earlier:\n\nEasiest way to get friends is to become interested in other people. Look around for people with similar interests. Ask them questions about what they think about those interests. Get to know them through common interests, and you're on your way to making friends.\n\nBe their friend more than trying to make them your friend.
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Keep your chin up, believe in yourself, and make new friends. Think outside of the box and go to new places where you can meet new people. I moved to a new town and knew no one... I found a couple of charities in the phone book and volunteered... I met lots of great and caring people that have become friends. You could also look into attending a church in your area. They usually welcome you in and have lots of activities regardless of your age. Remember that people who claim to be your friends and then ditch you were never really your friends at all... look for a better group of peers.  Good Luck!
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Most people find it hard to make friends when they're trying to appear to be someone other than themselves.  The true part of you, the part that makes you different from everyone else, is the part that can be loved.  If you're hiding that part out of fear, then no one can get to know you.\n\n\nAs hard as it sounds, you've got to learn to relax.  You can do this by finding things that YOU like to do, and join a club or take a class in it, or go where people gather to do that.  Then you will meet people who share your interests; and you will also have something to talk about besides the weather. When you start having fun, people will be attracted to you naturally.
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First off, sit back and figure out why people dont like you.\n\nDo you keep your appearance clean?  Are you friendly to everyone?  Do you participate in school activities? Do you lie or do you prefer to be honest?  Do you make a conscious effort to make friends?  Are you a bully?  Do you do something disgusting at school?\n\nI say if you are trying to make friends, sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone.  If needed, get a life makeover.  CHange the activities you do to get around people with the same interests.  Usually friends are gained when you become a good friend yourself.  When people know they can trust you and depend on you- they usually gravitate towards you.\n\nJust be true to yourself...
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To make a friend, you first must be one. Make conversation with someone you like but don't know very well. Everyone has to start somewhere. Good luck sweetie!
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sorry, i don't add people i do not know personally.  as for getting more friends.  just randomly request friendship to others, who knows maybe you'll be lucky!
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Do you go to church?  A lot of churches have clubs that you can join for free.  Or how about joining Big Brothers/Big Sisters?  Again, free and you get a rewarding experience out of it.  I am shy too but there are always ways to meet wholesome people like us out there.  You just gotta look.  Good luck
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Make an effort to learn people's names(something I'm really bad at) and greet them in the halls. Join a club, go to your school dances, be nice and helpful with everyone. Make a goal to learn 1 person's name a day. If you're really shy, start off with small conversations. Getting involved at school really helps a lot. I met so many new people when I joined my school's choir. Above all, if you're afraid, just swallow your fear and meet people. Don't wait for them to meet you. You'll eventually make some friends. Good luck!
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I did that a few years back and it was tough. I found that the easiest way for me to make friends was by joining sports teams and clubs. That way you find people with interests similar to yours. \nGood Luck!
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i'm really quiet too.  i don't think other people think quiet people are annoying, i think they get offended when someone dosn't talk to them.  i think to get yourself more social you could think of people that you would want to be friends with and start by nicely smiling at them and sometimes they will start a conversation with you and you can choose if you want to be their friend and if they don't start a conversation with you, you could just say hi and see if they answer.
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First you have to show yourself as being friendly!  Approach people with confidence, and a smile.  If this doesn't work forget about it!  I know a friend that will be your friend for life, and will never let you be lonely again.  GOD.