Why do family members always pick on the learning disable in their own families and expect them to do more?
374737
It sounds like you guys could use some family therapy.\n\nIt also sounds like maybe your husband and older son don't really understand your younger son's disability. I wonder if maybe they have been too lazy to learn more about it. Either way, their behavior towards your younger son is unacceptable. What they are doing to him amounts to bullying, pure and simple. Stand up for your younger son, and let your husband and older son know that their behavior will not be tolerated.
367590
Because intelligence is threatening and causes most people to compare themselves to you. Alot of adults will treat a child who is smart more like a child to ensure they know their "place". An adult wont likely want to give up their "authority" in a situation and one way to gain authority is to know more than someone. So again, they will feel the need to "put you in your place" so to speak. Its unfortunate, however only lasts for a little while.
118639
It's an inverse relationship. \n\nNah.\n\nHelp is appreciated and a little can go a long way. Too much involvement and the parent ends up doing the work; the child does not learn independence.
1104446
From here it looks like you were ungrateful to your parents who you admit spoiled you as their only child...surely they would be concerned if you hung out with the older cousins of a bad influence (even you admit that they looked like gangsters and got into trouble). Yet you complain about not being able to compete with your good cousins that did well in school...Your parents likely only wanted the best for you which you couldn't comprehend because of your youthful rebellion and now that you're a parent you want to deprive your kids of the companionship of well-meaning grandparents? Take them to see your parents on a regular basis --- and be nice to your parents because they deserve it.
678029
It is a strange thought, the idea that people only ever know 1/2 of what they should, it means that all things are only ever half done, it makes you wonder when you go flying etc.\n\nBUT i think that this is  only true of SOME people, i choose to do what i am doing now, i have no parents pressuring me.\n\nIt makes you think about the boundaries of being  "good" parent.\n\nVery deep.
641624
people who insist on limiting their own education through whatever means...\n\n-they don't want to learn a language\n-they don't want to learn a culture\n-they don't want to learn from the source that which they are curious (ie...they learn catholicism from their protestant leader, they learn about mormonism from a catholic priest etc)\n-they insist on carpet statements or generalizations\n-they prefer to live in ignorance and neglect\n-they choose to not be accountable for their actions \n-the community and society pays for their lack of education\n(ie. lack of car insurance, poor presidential decisions)
749118
sometimes things are not challenging enough for them so they dont feel the need. other times they just cannot be bothered from laziness or lack of interest in the particular subject
590778
I think the more parents get involved, the better. However it would be a positive involvement like they shouldn't force their children or be strict with them about studies. I have finished my studies and I can remember that from the day one till my last day I used to tell each and everything about my school and studies to my both parents because they were never strict. In fact in my exams they used to say that I should not take exams as a matter of life and death and keep myself happy because happiness matters more than good grades. Even if I got bad grade they would say that its OK I can do better if future. They have always encouraged me
28422
I don't think "most" do that, but for those that do, it's because they're stuck in a dysfunctional pattern. They get so mired in their own addictions that they don't think clearly, and their priorities become all messed up. Often their own parents did the same thing to them, so they never learned any other way.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
940021
I'm sure they do it for different personal reasons, some reasons may be "to fit in", they think it might be easier, they are having personal conflicts with their family and its a way to rebel. Some may go back to their families beliefs and heritage later - I don't know just my thoughts (dime a dozen)
1118923
I think that education is as much a family thing as it is a schooling thing. There are so many parents these days who have no interest in what their kids are learning. A child needs the basics to be supplied at home before any teacher can get them interested in learning.
807425
As my Dad says, you don't have to experience everything to know it. He'll say stuff like, if you get hit by a car, you dam* well and know it's going to hurt! You see my sister does a lot of stuff, makes her mistakes and then says that's how you learn. When one makes mistakes and has bad things happen to them. My Dad doesn't buy it. I think in most cases, you don't have to directly go through the motions to learn the lesson.
640655
You can't take responsibility for the actual learning, only for making it as available and likely as you can.  You can't cram learning in, they have to accept it.
637327
Yes!  The reason kids are acting this way is because no one is taking responsibility for them.  Parents would rather point fingers at school systems, the media, and society, instead of taking responsibility for what their kids learn.  If more parents did this, we'd be in a much better place!
997589
Absolutely.  I'm right with you on that one.  Sounds just like most of my family. But hey, you gotta practice on someone.  You will feel better if some times you are the bigger person and do the right thing regardless of what those jerks say, right?  Just don't be their slave.
565769
I think they are because they wanted to do stuffs in their own way because when they were a kid they cant do ir so they want kids to be good but they don't show themselves as a good model so they are basically hypocrites.. If im gonna be a parent someday I'd be the best parent so the generation/tradition/culture of being a hypocrite will stop. and oh yea stupidity has also something to do with it.
513783
It is informally called No Child Let Ahead. They will hold back the smarter, more ready to learn kids untill the unmotivated, uninterested kids finally "learn" something.