how can i cope up with kids behavior especially if they are hardheaded n doesnt want to follow rules.?
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The best way to fight ant injustice is not to tackle it upfront, but to create a scenario that outdates the existing scene.\n    Show some living examples to the kids, who are very good and are worthy role models of being emulated.\n    Give more attention to their good deeds and praise them.Don't give much attention to their bad deeds and affirm to them that u love them and want them t become good and grow strong and noble.there's nothing like a mother's encouragement and love, which will change any truant into a good person.
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Video tape them when they are fighting like that.  They need to see what idiots they are being.  Also, inform the councelor of this problem when you take the kids there.  It's a shame that many parents do this in front of their kids.  It's called selfishness and there is no room for that with parenting.  If you don't have a video camera, invest in a tape recorder.  They need to see and hear how they are behaving.  It might sound like it won't work, but believe me it does.  You have no idea of how good this works.  Thank you and good luck.
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Doctors diagnosed me with ADHD when i was a kid  for the same reason. Its a phase most likely cause she might get her way with her father when she acts out like that so she automatically thinks everyone else will give her way when she is like that. My suggestion corner or worse help with household work kids hate doing both and its way worse then a spanking. But do not give in to there temper tantrums ignore them or set them in the corner. She will soon realize her actions have consequences and will stop eventually but children will always look for alternative ways to stump you. Beware of the pity face and the Innocent looks there dangerous ignore them at all costs. Try taking away a favorite toy if the corner doesn't work or taking a privilege that she likes. like plying with her friends or cartoons. Let her know that newtons law for every action there is and equal or opposite reaction to every action is a true statement be the PARENT and not the child?
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First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
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Treat the children as equals, provided they are not your children.  Even if they are yours,  do not talk down to them, and don't be hypocritical.  Play the game as they play it.\nRemember how much fun it was to just let your imagination go and play, play, play.
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I pretty much agree with everyone else. Talk to her, just do it tactfully. People are very sensitive these days especially when it comes to their children. Volunteer to help her out if necessary, the most important thing here is that the children are well taken care of.
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Number one be consistent.  Demand that they are respectful, kind to others, tell the truth, and non-violent.  Put them in a time out chair when they do not listen or take away something that means a lot to them.  Don't letting something be all right one time and not all right the next.  Too many people confuse children this way. However, do not just focus on the negative.  Let your child know when he/she is doing well.  Children love compliments, and they love to make others proud.   If all else fails, call Super Nanny!
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I would have been more consistent with discipline.  If you threaten to take something away, then do it.  When you use certain actions with certain problems, continue to do the same everytime.  Therefore, the children know what is expected of them and the consequences otherwise.  Good luck!
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Um...from what I could understand, I'm just going to give you the advise I would use.  If your child is having trouble, consider either changing schools, homeschooling your child, talking to the parents (no matter what difficulty there may be) and the kids themselves as well.  Step in and be authoritve about this.  This time in life is part of the time that shapes your child so keep her as safe as possible and talk her through what's happening.  Those kids need to be stopped, and you need to do as much as you can not only for yourself, but for your child and the help you give and example you set.  \n\nIf you really can't do anything though, change schools as soon as possible.
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Some of the responses on here are nothing but a blatant display of ignorance.\n\nI am dealing with an 11 year old with similar issues and we are having a VERY hard time. It's been this way since he was very small. Early intervention is a good thing.\n\nOne thing I found very helpful when my son was about 8 was the book 1-2-3 Magic. It's a deceptively simple discipline plan and it really worked for a while for us. Not so much these days though. It's definitely worth checking out of the library. I did that and then went and bought myself a copy.
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oh i have a brother that acts the exact same way\n\nsometimes it the friends this person hangs with, or it could be the kid just wants attention -- what you can do to get them to listen is just emphasize on all the good things that they've done-spend time doing some things that they want to-just don't cater to their every whim. \n\n...if they do anything drastic, i suggest therapy\n\n...and personally, i don't think it shows bad parenting because sometimes theres just nothing you can do-the kid just wants their way, & doesn't want to compromise
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using behavior management to stifle a child's natural energy and creativity.  At least that's my opinion.
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kid? which kid?\nLike all kids? Or just like one?\nPatience is the key.\nDon't let it get under your skin\nKids are kids \nand it just a phase\nIgnore it if possible\nTake a deep breath\nand relax
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you dont spank them,talk to them and give them trust and love just be thier parent  spanking them at that age will cause your daughter to rebel,treat her like a real person
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Show them that actions have rewards and consequences and each individual is responsible for their own actions. Teach them this by setting clear rules with clear consequences when not followed and rewards when they are. It's really as simple as "if you want me to do this, then I expect you to do that" or "I let you have xyz freedom and you didn't follow the rules, so you will have to re-earn xyz freedom"\nMy friend has a teen son who repeatedly takes her car and brings it home hours late without even calling her, I told her to tell him " I'm sorry, you are not allowed to use my car, because I can't depend on you to get it home on time. Find another way to go" If she would show him that she planned to stick to it, he would learn. But she never stood by any rules, that's why he does her that way. You don't have to be mean, just firm and consistent.
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You discipline a hearing impaired child the same way you discipline any other child. Your difficulty is in communicating, not in discipline. Always make sure the child has line-of-sight with you before you communicate. Does this child hear with a hearing aid, or do you communicate with sign language? In either case, always make sure to establish clear communication before defining rules or providing consequences.\n\nProvide clear rules, and ALWAYS be consistent for rewards and consequences.\n\nProvide natural or logical consequences as much as possible. For instance, the natural consequence of not listening to "watch out where you're going!" is a nasty bump.\n\nLogical consequences relate in some way to the desired behavior. "Clean your room, or we won't be able to read a story tonight." (Having to navigate a messy room takes the time and energy normally put into reading a story.)\n\nIf you do believe in spanking, keep it to one open bare-handed swat on the bottom, and only after the child has been taught the rule, provided a warning, and at least one logical consequence, and continues to misbehave. There should never be bruising, etc. and you should NEVER hit in anger. There is nothing like letting a kid know (when it is truthful) that you are too mad to give them the spanking they deserve, to raise their anxiety levels.\n\nAlso, make sure to notice the things they are doing right, and give a simple praise for it (e.g. "Good job.").
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the only advice i can give is none.  Your kids are adults, they'll have to learn from there own mistakes.  Just don't judge them or treat them different.  Only thing you can offer is your love.