How do I deal with my wife?
368542
THANK YOU!! women hit hard and men are beaten a lot adn the women are never punished but if a man touches someones shoulder to hard BAM! you get a restraining order and a filthy record. the answer is do the woman thing and call the police. she as a woman is hitting u and putting u in the position of the classic woman. so do what the classic abused woman shoudl do and call the police. have HER arrested...damn good of you..
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
817111
Sorry I am a woman, but you need to confront you wife with this.  It's disrespectful to you and to your marriage.  Sit her down and tell her you know what her butt is up to.
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
880637
Both are new to each other, so firstly I suggest u to understand your wife, her likes and dislikes, tell her ur ambitions, goals, etc about your future plans how to lead ur life, so that u both would be leading a happy life in future without any divercifications of mind, be crystal clean in your talks now only.
303169
This is one of the hardest things to resolve in relationships, unfortunately. Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is also your wife's mother. I'm sure you already know that most people try to please, or at least placate, their mother. You're in a difficult position, but there are some things you can do:\n\n1. Communicate with your wife ... constantly. The two of you must not allow this to interfere with your relationship.\n\n2. Communicate with your mother-in-law. Do NOT retaliate in kind ... EVER! Do NOT lose your temper! She obviously angers you, but you have to be bigger than that. Ask her what it is that bothers her about you and offer to try and change at least some of those things ( IF you can and IF they are not part and parcel of who you are ).\n\n3. If you can afford to, you and your wife should find a competent marriage counselor to help you cope with this problem ... soon!\n\n4. When the baby arrives, I suspect your mother-in-law will want very much to see him/her as often as possible, particularly if this is her first grandchild. This gives you an excellent lever. Stress to your mother-in-law that this is both YOUR child and HER grandchild, and that both of you should want to do what is best for the child; and that her berating you will definitely NOT be good for the child. As an ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT, if you and your wife AGREE on this, BOTH of you have a talk with her mother and tell her, as gently as possible, that the TWO of you have decided to not expose your child to your mother-in-law's berating of you. Stress that, if she is willing to stop it, she can visit anytime the three of you agree. Let me stress again that this is a LAST RESORT, and should only be used if BOTH you and your wife truly AGREE!\n\nGood luck with this, and don't foget to seek that which is best for ALL parties involved.
930820
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
615595
I am not a man, but who better to explain a woman, than a woman? When your wife is going through PMS, it's hard for her to control her emotions, and hormones. Sometimes she will lash out at you or others, and to her amazement, she doesn't even understand why. We are very emotional creatures especially at that time of the month. The best thing you can do is to be understanding and not judgmental. This doesn't mean that you have to take crap from your wife just for the sake of an argument. \nMy suggestion to you is if you have a feeling that she is PMS'ing...try to be extra nice to her, and more supporting. Help out more at home, don't make her ask you to set the trash out more than once. Help out with the kids, (if you have kids) or do the dishes for her. This will take added stress off of your wife, especially if she works outside of the home. \nI wouldn't suggest this just around PMS time, but actually all through the month! If you do this, I promise you that you will see dramatic results with your marriage. \nHowever on one last note, if your wife seems worse around that time of the month, she may want to go to the Doctor. Some women have a harder time than others, and she may need to be put on medication. I wish you the best of luck!
244754
First, make sure you're not ignoring something that genuinely needs your attention. People need validation, and if this is true with casual aquaintances it's doubly true of spouses. But if you've eliminated constructive dialog from the equation, then you have to find your "center" and zone out until the wave has passed. No one can argue by themselves; it takes (2) to sustain the conflict. Realize though, that what I just said is a practical tactic to handle things while you're in that moment and feeling pressure to respond or explode. During cooler moments, you need to find a strategy to deal with the main source of the communication difficulty. It could be as simple as turning off the television and looking her straight in the eyes while she's talking, or it could be a matter for a counselor to walk you both through. People usually raise their voices when they don't feel acknowledged or heard in any other way. Once you're sure that's not the case, get some competent help in developing your communication skills together. Good luck.
384289
1. she keeps things within her....\n2. she takes things very emotionally even when it's no big deal\n\n\nLook at those two. SHE takes things emotionally of which YOU THINK THEY'RE NO BIG DEAL!!!!\nThey are a big deal to her! and you ask yourself why she keeps things within herself?\n\nThere's no easy 2 minute solution. My advice is: LISTEN to her. No comments, apart from that you're sorry what she has to go through. No solutions! (unless she asks for them)She finds them herself, what she wants is compassion and loving.\n\nWhen she takes "kidding" serious it's probably that she sees the morsel of truth in your kidding and it bothers her. Tell her how great she is and how much you love her.\n\nAbout making love... well she seems to enjoy it but did she have that earth shaking big O before you finish??? You don't know??\nOh my, you've got a lot to learn!!!\n\nI've got to add that you should be grateful she doesn't just fake, but is honest. and I don't think she wants to get back at you for something.\n\nWomen are very complex creatures and their mind works on many things simultanously. That's why they can watch TV, talk to their husband, read a magazine and watch over the kids at the same time. If their relationship bothers them, they think about their problems and also about what their partners will think when they speak their mind, that's why they often just keep their mouth shut. \n\nIt would take a lifetime to explain everything, and the only advice I can give you is the above: listen to her, take her seriously, never say what bothers her is no big deal and just love her and show her all the time what she means to you... you will be surprised what she has to give once she feels safe and loved with you.
331582
hey man listen she is your wife treat her like it give her respect and treat her like you would be liked to treated give her some privacy if she didnt like you she wouldnt marry you so believe in her and give her some space!
60391
Dint you realise whom are u getting married to in the first place and if not.. now if at all you want to separate and move away from your marriage then i believe you must be having a strong feeling of hatred towards her... if you do then why are you bothered about her mind and her not agreeing about things... just consult a lawyer and get your way cleared...\nBUT... if you are worried and bothered about her mental state then somewhere you still feel for her... get those feelings ahead and try to give yourself a second chance...\n\nRemember LIFE is NOT about quiting the tough tasks in your path... go around ... fight them .... Make situations turn ... Life then would be worth living...\n\nAlso dont forget...Once a looser always a looser... Be a fighter.. After all she's your wife and who would know more about her than you do... Tackle her in her own way...Humans do change... \n\nAnd moreover for a Wife, her Husbands love can definitely do the magic...
438843
It takes 2 to tango.  You could try being a polite grown up, grit your teeth and deal with her only in a respectful manner and she will eventually come around and do the same.
498510
When my wife is with me.  It's just not quite the same without her.
750773
Why dont you discuss it with your wife.  You said that she is a sweetie, work it out with her.
750980
have a good talk with your wife you can get in to a lot of trouble talking to a norther one so cool it talk to your wife let her know how you feel good luck
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Don’t tell us, tell her.  Communication is the key to any relationship.  Be open, be honest, express your feelings.  Ask her to tell you how she feels.  Listen to what she says without getting defensive or attempting to “solve her problems.”\n\nAsk if she feels the same way.  Kids or no kids, the two of you need to start interacting again.  Right now you are probably avoiding one another.  This is not healthy.\n\nIf it turns out that you can communicate better, then your problems are half-solved.  Just continue getting closer.  If it turn out that the two of you cannot communicate, then get professional help.  If this does not work, then accept that your relationship may be over and take steps accordingly.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, do something.  Life is to short to eat sour grapes and drink bad wine.