my husband is not into foreplay, what should i do???
371703
You might have to just deal with it.  My husband doesnt like foreplay either.  We usually dont even kiss during sex.  That or talk with him about it! Other than that I dunno.  Im in the same situation!\n\n-Lorah
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
121815
Sex is important to a marriage of course, but communication, trust, respect and friendship are VERY important. There is something going on with your husband and just reading your question, he seems to be distant and it does not sound like it's just about the sex for him. Try and give him some time of pampering him...massage him without touching him sexually, just make it relaxing. If he likes a favorite food & TV show set that up for him too. Don't bring up any conversation during this "his" time. Just let him know that you love him and you are there for him if he ever needs to talk about anything and say nothing else. If you make him feel safe and that you are his best friend, that is the beginning of intimacy and then on a different day, ask him if you can talk and be honest with him that you miss your physical relationship with him and ask him if there is anything that the two of you can work on together to try and bring intimacy back into your bedroom. When you share with him how you feel, don't be accusatory but just say "I feel" and also truly listen to how he feels. Good luck. Marriage is always something we have to work on.
411977
why dont u simply ask him ,whats wrong with sex?a lot marrieges came after,relax
112509
Play games again like in the beginning...flirt, kiss passionately and then just walk away, smack a few asses playfully while doing housework or when the in-laws are looking the other way.  Take more personal time with de-stressing activities like bitching to your friends, yoga, or excercise to make him/her miss you more.  "Marital aids" like small toys or (especially) lubes of various sorts add whole new dimensions to your sex life as well.
140861
B"H\nHmmm... try taking two weeks off from sex every month.  Show him that during that time you are STILL head over heels in love with him.\n\nThis is actually advice many marriage councelors give out to help people who've lost the spice get it back into their marriage.  While you may not have this trouble, this definately helps develop the intellectual and emotional aspects of a relationship as well.  \n\nLoads of ancient cultures practiced this (usually abstaining from physical relations during the woman's menstruation) and it has proven itself time and again to keep marriages in a prolonged "honeymoon phase".
738997
Gee Shells, why is it always hubby's fault???  Ever think that you ain't sexy in his eyes???   You need to look in the mirror and get sexy for him.\n\nThen, when you think the timing is right, you need to gently provide some oral stimulation on the right member of his anatomy.  Don't try to get him interested in making love to you, let him think of it himself.  Keep up the stimulation night after night.   Eventually, he will take the initiative and think it's his own libido that's driving the situation.\n\nJust don't try to pressure him or influence him too soon.  It's gotta be his idea.    Good Luck
1142569
This is just what turns him on.  He wants you to talk to him about this stuff to turn him on.  Some guys just talk about fantasies, but they don't actually do them.  If you too are married then you should consider that sacred and just fantasize.
585439
have a bath and completly relax... maybe you cant get horny cause of stress around you... make your man give you lots of foreplay or give him a sexy dance.. this will loosen you up and make you feel more attractive and sexy
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
307014
ok hun kinda know where you are coming from but need a little more info. First of all men and women hit their sexual peaks at diferent times in life so if there is an age difference that could be a factor. another thing is lifestyle changes new job or later hours. another thing to consider is the baby, how old? most men go through a stage that they feel the baby is taking all the time from them and begin to feel deprived so they withdraw themselves. and a final thought is that you are in a rut it is common in most relationships, have you been together for a long time? It is a very good possibility that he is just comfortable in the relationship and is just not as passionate as before... It is not that there is no attraction between the two of you because if i had to guess when you do have sex it is GREAT, right? I have been married for 8 years there is a 4 year age difference between the two of us and I have been in your shoes. I thought hubby was cheating and he didn't love me and so on and so forth. Almost lost him over my insecurities ao don't jump to conclusions talk to him about it and I hope I helped a little. WISHING YOU LOTS OF GREAT SEX.
722707
If he is your husband-then you two should sit down and talk it out! If he loves you then you can find away to work this out! Even if you have to go to a marriage counselor- depending on how long you two have been married, you could just be bored with what is going on in the bedroom-just remember that men are visually aroused, for women it is more mentally aroused-if you are having a lot of stress, then your urges may just not be there at this time! You should really talk it over with him-if you love him, then this is something you need to work out-and a counselor could be something that is best for the two of you!! Good Luck!! Have a great day! :)
447512
you might need to have more foreplay before the actual intercourse.  get your husband to play with you and spend more time turning you on so that your vagina losens up and gets more lubricated.  or you can just use some KY or some other lubricant and tell him to go slowly.
121648
try something new. be open to more stuff. maybe a little oral... a little anal... a little s&m... a little roleplay... a few 3-ways... and trust me, he'll be happy, dont be afraid to be a freak.
1152005
I am a wife for 20 and sometime can be! try goin to the sex store together, see if anythin gets your at. also try candles and a beach at nite with no one around or just the blanket dont need to see! baths together or showers and just be open with eachother and see what you end up with sometimes fe.will agree with alot more than you think, good luck!
110513
I just had  baby, so I know what you mean with the weird hormone stuff. What I found works is to find a time to talk to him when you are not PMSing. Find a way for him to nicely let you know that you are making him mad/sad. Make sure that you won't be insulted or hurt by the way that he tells you. ie: don't say shut up/ your a b**** or anything like that. Then take a moment to go to another room, even if it's just the bathroom and breathe. Don't think about it and try to relax, meditate, or whatever works for you. After you have taken a bit of time away, you will probably feel better and be able to see the situation in a whole new perspective. This will also prevent you from further hurting your husband's feelings.
463992
Oooh thats a toughy.  You don't want to offend him.  Maybe try suggesting new things...Or you could just flat out tell him out of the blue (not during sex)