Are you overweight?, if so do you feel ashamed about it?, or does it matter to you?
370786
i was really overwight a few years back. i wasn't ashamed, but some people, espeacially guys, kept on giving me craps.(i kicked their asses when i lost all those fat btw) i was more uncomfortable than ashamed...\nno, i wasn't any nicer than i am now... i think i just looked jolly like santa clause, that doesn't mean i wouldn't snap back when annoyed. i share the same philosophy with garfield the fat kitty...
1180753
why are you ashamed of yourself when you did nothing wrong when you only wanted to express what you feel. by the way im sorry for the questions that i asked .. i hope you should not judge the book by its cover.
705679
No, you're not shallow, just human. We all want to be proud of our guys even if we're not so great ourselves! You sound very level-headed to me. So, don't feel guilty. My husband is bold and I hate it though I love him very much! We all have something in our spouses that we don't like, that even disgusts us. It's how you deal with it that matters. \n\nLuckily for you, your boyfriend's obesity can be changed. If you don't have the courage to talk to him upfront about this because you don't want to hurt him, get some brochures on how to lose weight and put it where he can see it. If he says something, tell him you think it's a good idea to lose some wieight for you are worried about him health. You can also persuade him to go walking with you. Whatever you do, don't dump a nice guy like this just because his overweight. Many of the so called Adonises are so full of themselves that they haven't place for somone else!  And if your guy loses weight, make a big fuss about it. It wil inspire him to pull through. Good luck!
472852
I have a question??\n\nWhy are you so Fat
223485
I would be unrealistic to say that it does not affect my professional life. To my knowledge it does not, but I am sure that I have been passed over for a promotion because of my weight. Socially it does not. I am actually working on a book about fat-friendly places in my city. I had a roomate in college who was heavier than me and she would always just stay home. I am different. I like to go out and have a good time with friends, of which I have PLENTY! I like to enjoy life! I enjoy dressing up and going to plays, the opera, etc. I even do full-figured modeling on the side. I've never had problems dating. I have a tremendous love for God, and He sees me through. I stay active. I walk, I swim, I dance. Being obese does not always mean being unhealthy. People who are obese have to have confidence in themselves. Ask questions. If you are afraid to go somewhere because you don't think you will fit in a chair, CALL AHEAD! Ask if there are chairs without arms! Do not let life pass you by from fear. Do not stop your life while you are dieting "until you reach your goal"! Live now!
982908
Definately weight and obesity. Man.. after your questions yesterday, it got me thinking on the subject and holy hell are people super sensitive about that subject! It doesn't matter what the question or statement is, it seems folk go straight on the defensive without even comprehending it properly. They instantly take it personally when it isn't and cry abuse if you so much as discuss it. Even though, it's a serious health problem, it seems that we can not mention the fact that someone is overweight! Oh and god help you if you use the word 'Fat'!
872084
That's what it seems like to me - jealousy!  It's ok to be happy with your wieght even if you're overweight, but to judge others for their successes is just wrong.  Whether they are doing it for the right reasons (it's not healthy being overweight) or for other reasons (just for looks), it's none of her business and not her place to judge!
25850
Being a BBW I never realized how much I actually do that. I think part of it comes from being overweight and being made fun of by thinner women. I also think it comes from fear and jealousy. I don’t want my man going to someone else, especially a thin person. It’s a feeling of not being good enough. It’s a fear of loosing to someone who doesn’t make you feel good. And yes in my case there is jealousy that you can be thin and I can’t. Well not as easily as it seems for you. I for one apologize on behalf of BBW's that have made remarks or made you feel bad for who you are. I agree that it's not acceptable.
867116
I think you are just a bit vain...GET OVER IT!!!!
968927
I used to weigh 280 and thought I was sexy.   I wasn't!!!    I have lost 50 lbs and FEEL SO MUCH SEXIER!!!    Weight Watchers has helped me learn so many healthy habits and opened my eyes to what I was doing wrong.  And the PLUS side... I am healthier and will live longer without all the risks of the diseases caused by being so overweight.   My goal is to be around 150.  I am 5'3.    AND I find myself looking at overweight people now just to gawk and remind myself that I don't want to be that way.   Lose it, you will feel better!!!!! I promise!
1152301
Not stupid enought to tell you. That or I just don't feel like it. maybe both... Who cares anyways? (besides the perverts...)
253661
this is an sensitive subject so ill try and be as gentle as possible depending on your body mass and  If you are normally sedentary and are extremely overweight seek medical attention I personally have lost an considerable amount of weight but I still have a ways to go.  Back to you I say seek help because if you are extremely overweight there are certain health risks that have to be weighed before starting any diet and exercise regimen such as general health and ability you should be able to tell if you do to much but in some cases you cant don't play games with your well-being the most important thing is to believe in yourself and to understand it takes as long to take it off as it did to get it there so try not to get discouraged I at present have hit a plateau in which my weight loss has stopped but I'm still trying never give up only you can control your own weight and it is not necessarily how much food you consume but the types and when and how often you eat I learned that by eating foods high in protein and restricted my intake of fatty foods and certain types of carbs I was able to lose my weight 120 pounds so far and counting but if you feel the need there is always bariatric surgery its a little scary to me but it still comes into my mind when i think about my other obesity related health problems Just a little something to think about hope I helped a little instead of just sounding like an babbling idiot
107228
Ok so lets be realistic here NOONE is perfect and most people find it very difficult to admit when they are wrong. I had a friend tell me something once that I wont easily forget, he said "everyone has a weakness and you can use that for your benefit". After that I saw things differently. Not that Im taking advantage of them but knowing they are human too and being able to look for and find it helped my esteem cause suddenly we were all on the same playing field. now I dont need that to know im a good person and i dont take others as personally anymore either.\n\nThe best part was poking a little fun at my "perfectly skinny friend" who always had a better than me attitude about weight (not that im fat) But i realized she is quite flat chested and it does bother her a bit and that cut her down to size. we are better friends now than ever.\n\nI just thought of something else. If some one says something that bothers you sometimes it helps to repeat it back to them in thier own words. "so your saying....." this creates a little 'yes' in thier mind and builds rapport between you. It also lets him hear himself and think about what he has said.
552431
That is a good question.  Regardless of how others feel.  We are not to be judgmental.  REMEMBER What goes around comes around.....  \nI wish you the best of luck.\nKeep in mind some weight gain is not because you eat to much or exercise to little it is genetic.  I have those genes in my family back ground and weight is a factor.  I have to control my food intake and watch what I eat.  Maintaining weight is hard.\nI wish you the best of luck.
552008
Hey, don't worry about what other people think! Your weight is your issue to deal with, not theirs! And I don't think most people will judge you by your weight anyways..besides, there are plenty of other people there too busy worrying about themselves! Just get the courage to get out there, and you'll see that it doesn't matter! Have fun..and good luck!
722223
Why do you feel a need to generalize?  And what is is that you consider "fat"?\n\nSome people who are overweight don't eat well or don't exercise.  Some have genuine medical concerns (this goes for all people, not just North Americans).  I have polycystic ovarian syndrome.  I am a vegetarian who eats a low-fat, low-cholesterol diet with lots of vegetables, legumes, and whole grains.  I do not eat too many carbohydrates or sweets.  And I exercise regularly.  Because of my endocrine system disorder, it is very difficult for me to lose weight.  This is not because I haven't made a very conscious effort to do so.  I was at a normal weight for my height until I developed this disorder, which is linked to insulin function.  Then I suddenly gained 50 pounds within a few months.  So contrary to popular belief, it was not caused by being overweight--being overweight caused it.\n\nMy point is it's very unfair and misinformed to say that women are overweight because they're all lazy or don't have a proper diet.  Some of us (in the case of PCOS, 5-10% of women in the United States) are battling genuine medical conditions that cause us to gain weight easily and make it very difficult to lose weight.
554012
i don't think anyone is 100% happy with themselves. I think i'm fat, even though i'm really not. don't worry, i'm sure everyone thinks they have at least 1 imperfection.