Mature teens and parents only!?
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From personal experiences growing up, I know how much that can hurt; I'm very sorry you're going through this. \n\nMy best advice for you would be to ignore the cruel things she says and does to you. I know that it's very hard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes that's all you can do.\n\nI would also suggest that you not try and be friends with her. You should be courteous to her, but you do not need to be her best bud. If she is such a mean girl, do you really want to become her friend? Girls like that are very charming and manipulative. They can get you to do things you would never dream of doing. I once became good friends with the "mean girl" of my school (just so she wouldn't be mean to me), and she pulled me into the peer abuse with her. Before I knew it, she was having me say and do horribly mean things to the girl that had been my best friend since I was 4. I did horrible things to her, and I live with that guilt every single day of my life, even though now we're both grown women and she has told me that I am forgiven. It's a horrible feeling, let me tell you.\n\nSo, to sum up this short novel I've written: Don't pay attention when she does crap to you. When you try and fight back, you're just feeding the beast. Kill her with kindness, but do not try and become her pal. It will only hurt you in the long run.\n\nI truly hope your situation gets better real soon!
821924
Do you know a mature 13 year old? J.K. Perhaps that 13 year old's parents should screen it first.
1152171
Sooo very sick!  It would be nice to have more adults asking questions!  Or, should I say, mature individuals?
708044
I think between ages 11 and 13 or 14, young people are considered preteen, not fully teenagers? \n\nI guess teenhood starts at age 15, if not 14. But anyone is different; would you think some are probably more mature or mature earlier than others of the same age --physically, mentally, emotionally etc...?
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Teenagers these days need morals given by their parents and enforced. A lot of parents don't open up to their child by these issues until its too late. Not only do teenagers deal with this problems, but so do pre-teens. Some parents think, "Oh Jonny is only 11 years old. We don't need to talk to him about that yet." Unfortuantly, many of them are very wrong. Most kids are learning about sex and drugs before they are a teenager.\n\nSociety & the media plays a huge role in a childs mind. There are more bad infuences than great role models out there. A child gets confused. \n\nMorals aren't set into the childs mind. Discussions about sex, drugs and its concequences. Its not taught in school until after a child has had its glimse of drugs and sex. They are already tring to figure it out on their own because they are not getting other help from anyone other than their friends who are already experiencing this issues. \n\nParents need to open up with their child and visa versa.  Family discussions and meetings can connect a family is positive ways. Its not only beneificial to the child but the parent. Sometimes family counciling is very helpful to families with difficult issues. \n\nWith all that aside, A teenager (or pre-teen) who feels threatened by the peer pressures of drugs or sex. Just say "No thanks".  Its not worth the concequences. Enjoy your life as a kid, follow your dreams and reach them. Be knowledgeable and make something good for yourself. If you fall into the traps of peer pressure, you lose yourself. There is only one "you" out there. Make "you" someone good, someone great.
596400
how old are you ?...didn't your parents already have this talk with you
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I'm totally for teen driving restrictions..it gives you time to learn in a more restrictive way without so many distractions before you "go it alone", I am however not at all supportive of raising the driving age...I want my son home the first few years he's driving (when people are likelier to have accidents) so that by the time he's 'going it alone' he's got a few supervised years experience under his belt...plus, as your parents- we love you & want you safe :)
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16 but with your parents' permission
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Seems to me your parents need help with you.\n\nWhile I think 16 is a bit extreme for makeup, it is your parents' rule - and you can't even handle something as simple as that without disobeying.  My children won't be having Instant Messenger either - I think your parents care about you and you're being a typical, petulant snotty teenager.  Why SHOULD you be allowed to go out if you can't even do your chores?  What are you, a princess?  Too good to help around the house, but dang if you don't want your party time.\n\nI suggest you grow up and start acting like a responsible young person.  Maybe then your parents will start treating you like one.
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I don't think there is realy an age that is appropriate, because all people have different maturity levels at different times in their lives. I lost mine at the age of 16 and I'm 22. My boyfriend got my drunk and basically took advantage of me. Don't get me wrong, I could have said no, but I didn't. Today I wish I would have waited. Thinking about when my son gets older and if he ever asked mom, when did yo first have sex. Most parents would never hear that so I probably won't, but what if they were to ask? Although, I would never take it back because it got me where I am today, I've been happily married for two years with a gorgeous ten month old son. People make mistakes, but hopefully they learn from them. Society isn't the problem I don't think. i think the parents and schools need to start at a young age teaching values, because they are lacking somewhere.
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It's called rebellion.  I had 3 teenage girls at the same time.  A teen feels they are old enough to make their own decisions and don't need their parents telling them what to do.  You don't realize that your parents were once teens also and they know and understand what is going on with you because they went through it to.  truth is, you are not old enough to know better.  You think you are, but you are not.  Parents only want what is best for their children no matter what age.  As hard as it may be, try listening to your parents.  Sit down and talk.  Ask them why they are being so forbidden on certain liberties that you want.  You will be surprised how understanding parents can really be.  Don't give up...it gets better, believe me.
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YES!\n\nat 13 you might think you know it all, but child you DON'T!\ni know they say that kids are growing up faster than they used to nowadays, but i don't believe that's true. i just think they've learned how to fake it better... at 13 you don't even know how to blow your nose correctly and you're going to at like hot stuff and strut around with some guy..  please! and i'm almost sure that you're talking about dating an older guy.. am i right? hah, i knew it.! \n\nlook, let me tell you a story... this 13 year old girl, who acts like she knows it all and says she's already a teenager and should be treated like one... is allowed by her mother to date, next thing you know she's going steady with a guy who is two years older than she is...\n\nhe's an older guy, he's been around the block a time or two.. he starts telling her how beautiful she is and how in love with her he is... now her 13 year old mind remembers all those romantic movies she watched on lifetime and she falls head over hills for all the bull he's feeding her, next thing you know he's whispering in her ear, writing her letters, telling her he wants her to have his baby.. so like the mindless follower that she is, she loses her virginity to this guy that she's been dating for 3 months! \n\nnext thing she knows, she's 14 years old, pregnant! with a guy who hits her and makes her stay home while he goes out with friends and cheats on her with every girl he can get to sleep with him.. \n\nmissing her homecoming because her baby's sick, staying home on weekends instead of going out with her friends because she has no money for a sitter, juggling school, parenthood and a horrible relationship. missing prom because her boyfriend forbid her to go and finally catching him cheating on her with someone else... \n\nso this is what thinking you're an adult at 13 gets you.. a high school drop out with a kid, a restraining order against the older boyfriend who verbally, mentally and physically abused you... (this is my 16 year old sister i'm talking about btw)\n\nall because you want to be treated like an adult...... then act like one and respect yourself, and be grown up to know that at 13 there are somethings you just aren't ready for.... \n\ni hope you heed my advice, there are too many girls like my sister running around these days..... what a waste!
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Simply relate to them.  Don't act like a know-it-all adult because they'll shut you out quick.  If a teen says something R-rated, don't act like they did something wrong, or like you can't talk to them about a topic like that.  Apparently they know enough for it to come out of their mouth, so talk to them in a mature way about the topic.  Bring up MY SPACE.  All the kids are into that.  Tell them you want to see they're page, and then comment on it.
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
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Well for one thing would you have gone to your parents at that age? Why are they asking? Because this is a time of their life when so many things get thrown at them and they are confused. \n I have no problem answering them though it upsets me when someone answers the question incorrectly or sarcastically. Everyone needs to go somewhere, would you rather they just talk to their friends who know as little as they do? \n As for children being delinquent well that has been forever, it is nothing new in this generation, or the last.\n What should be done, well help these kids with as much knowledge as you can. You don't need to encourage them but there is nothing wrong with their asking a question. I care a great deal. I have a 13 year old grand daughter and no one is going to tell her something about sex except maybe on here or another similiar forum. I can only imagine my daughters response if she asked her a question like you mentioned, I am open minded but I am not even certain how comfortable I could be trying to answer that question to her face. \n What should be done? Nothing, think about it the more information that they have the better decision they can make hopefully based on facts and not sarcasm or narrow minded thinking..
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Being open with your parents is the best thing. Sit down and talk to your mom or dad.  Tell her you love her and you would like to talk things out. When she tells you things that she expects out of you, try to be understanding and help her. If your mom is sensible, she will come around. Don't talk back to your parents in a disrespectable tone since that will only make things worse. It will take a great deal of control on your part to sit and listen and when you talk, don't get emotional and keep your head. Talking to them when everyone is calm is the best thing. Level heads come to an understanding. Being a teen is hard, and being an adult is even harder. Trust me on this one. With age come a great deal of responsibility. Show your parents your maturity by talking to them. Its ok to stick up for yourself but do it in a mature way.\nDon't forget, things always change, hopefully, by being open with them, it will be better for you!!
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I think that it is absoutely okay!  Mature people have more experience (learnt from their own or other peoples' mistakes)... They can give better advise than someone of her age group