I'm 19 years old and back at home with my parents. They are running my love life now.....?
362953
My mom has congestive heart failure. My daughter and I had to move in to take care of her. Now I'm a 37 year-old single dad who lives with his mommy. And believe me, for a while she thought she had me under her thumb.\n\nThere's certain things your parents CAN tell you to do. No drugs in the house, don't burn the house down, don't kick the dog, and don't pee on the carpet are among them. Or did I get that backwards? Don't kick the carpet or pee on the dog? Well, you get the picture.\n\nThere's also certain things they can't tell you. Like who to date. But, don't say **** what they say, either. Be calm, but don't back down. If you stay calm, they know you are in control. No reason to get mad, it's not up to them. They can whine, cry and shout all they want. They know it's not their decision. And try not to keep secrets. If you have no secrets, there's nothing to be ashamed of.
1149994
You are old enough to be on your own ....they are your parents and will always love you...so they may be mad at first but trust me they will get over it....they always do sometime!...they cant stay mad at you forever.... It your life now and they cant control there little girl forever!
1068853
You go up to them and say Mom, Dad I'm in love.\n\nPlz give some details.\n\nAre you a minor?\nWhat exactly happened?\nWho are you in love with, an older/younger person?\n\nOK, now I understand, You are more worried about your Father's reaction to him being black than your Mother's. \n \nI can tell that you truly love him, and that you want to have a future with him. I know it's hard going against your parents wishes, but since He's who makes you happy, it shouldn't really matter whether or not your parents/any other family member/s accept him as a member. Regardless of the ramifications I still believe that you should invite him over to your house, tell your parents that you both have something very important to tell them. Then just come right out and say it, "Mom Dad, we're in love."\n\nOf course, you do understand that your parents love you and only want what's best for you, therefore you must make them understand that he's who's best for you.\n\n CONGRATULATIONS! on finding true love, and I hope that things go the way that you want it to go.\nBest of luck!
960131
Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
922558
Do what you want its your life!\nYou are still young dont limit yourself im sure you could be anything you wanted. Do somthing you enjoy doing.\nIm sure your parents just want you to be healthy and happy anyway.
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
633327
a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck
881573
Your young your parents are just looking out for what they think is best...talk to them dont fight with them sit down with you and your boyfriend and talk to them ... I live in NY and in NY what your doing is illegal in my state it called rape so be carfull and talk to your parents
206687
unfortunantly theres not much you can do- I also was 12 when my parents divorced--it hurt my feelings really bad...but I think my advice to you would be to just let them know that you love them both and that you wish they could work things out--but that if they can't you still love them and want everyone to be happy. I think if I were in your parents situation that would help more than anything--its hard but- in time things will work out one way or another, I wish you the best and hope you and your parents are all happy in the end.
294381
First of all I am a mother and I still have been overbearing to my 19 year. old but little by little I have let her be on her own, she is a hard worker, and when I was 18 I just moved out without telling my parents, but my mother looked into my purse and found the agreement letter for my apt. So I believe the best thing to do is tell your parents you are moving out on April 15, for example. Believe me they will be Hurt and mad, but if you believe in God. God will take care of your mom and dad. And move out. Later my mom wasn't mad at me any longer. So they will get over it. Just pray when u tell ur parents. But set up a move out date first..They will be upset for a little while so expect that..good luck.. a 50 yrs. old Mother that understands what your going threw..
635928
Man what a tough choice to make at your age,hell that's tough at any age! Have you thought about moving your parents to Cali with you? Maybe to an assisted living facility close to you so you can be there for them and pursue your dreams. You sound very mature and well put together for a 23 year old and I would hate to see you miss out on great opportunities and the woman you love so much,both are hard to come by. Do you have any other family that could help with you parents? I'm very close with my parents and I can see how hard of a decision this can be.\n \nGood Luck
761895
It may seem a great idea to stay with ur brother, no parents, be your own boss but believe me, you will soon wish you had gone with your parents when the novelty wears off. And this "friend" is only willing to come and see you because your parents aren't there proves he's not a real friend or he would have been to your home many times, and you to his. Which leaves your brother, just you and him, what if you fall out, and remmber your brother has his own life, he will not be able to provide the parental support and dedication that maybe you are used to. You don't realise how much you need your parents, or how much they mean to you until you are seperated from them. I would go with them if I were you as you have the rest of your life to live independently, as an adult, but I will tell you now that it's well overrated and you will treasure the time you were with your parents. I still pine for home and my parents and I'm 30 and lived out of home a long time now, though I see them/talk to them daily it isn't the same. Make the most of the years with your family because all too soon you will be fending for yourself. When you are older you will understand why I'm saying all this, and you will also have some real friends who know you and will be be there 4U when you need them. Enjoy your youth, you only get to live it once.
535996
Wee you need to let them know that you want to get closer. Parents tend to stay away if that is how they think you want it to be.  Try to spend more time with them. Go out to dinners, or make dinner for them.  Tell them you love them more and show respect. It may not happen right away, but it will.. Good Luck.
512812
your parents wont have to live w/ the love of ur life but of it doent work out u may have to go back and live w/ them
1159314
When i met the love of my life i was 18 i just passed high school and he was studying medicine with working in same hospital.We lived in same building but never met each other.We met online when he was abroad working(he had finished studies)and i was in college.He loves me and i know it since he waited for me till i was 24 years old which i am now soon we plan to take our relationship to next luck.So if he loves you hell be with you until you pass univ and have a job.As for not being able to do things he does he told me the same thing he never made it like it mattered to him that i couldnt go out party i was living with my parents studying he used to get off chat to say go study lol and he used to make sure i was protected and loved and possesive about me.So thats your answer if he does love you if its meant to be it will be.
763196
I'm sorry you parents are getting a divorce! My parents divorced when I was 19 it's a very difficult thing espally when your older because your whole life they were together and now their not gonna be! Its gonna be a difficult time for you but like for me my life sucked for a couple years my life was so off balance I couldn't work or anything I didn't even have a place to stay! But I'm a truebeliver that everything happens for a reason like this! Its gonna be tough but stand by both your parents strong and focus on you I know how hard that seems right now but seriously ! They are starting their lives over by getting divorce and moving on with life without another! So you need to move on focus on you & your future ! Be strong it will  take time to get your life back but you will!
449835
As a parent, education is #1 in our home as well. However, you are 20 years old and assure your parents that you understand their concerns and that they raised you well enough to know the "dangers" and "stupidity" that comes with your situation. They will never stop worring, that is their job! I say, have your relationship BUT, do NOT let it interfere with your college! No surprises and take it slow! Good Luck !