when you give someone a sympathy card it helps right? it doesnt make them feel worse if it was a tragic loss?
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Sympathy cards are helpful to both receiver -- who just needs to know that he's not alone in his grief -- and giver, who's often desperate to do SOMETHING that might actually help but has no idea what's the right thing to do or say.  Sympathy card plus brief personal note is even better.
820430
Yes. And it is amazing that anyone can say that they have because it shows that they care about someone else. I hate to see someone in pain and those close to me, can share the pain with me.
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I know how you feel. There is one fellow from a long time ago who was tormented as a child as I also was. One time, our collective tormentors goaded us into fighting one another, promising to end the torment of whichever one of us won.\n\nI have felt badly for years that the one I should have had the most empathy for was the one I ill treated, not our tormentors. \n\nBut does finding that person and apologizing make them feel better - or you? I asked myself that question, and realize that it would be of little benefit to the person I feel accountable to - it would only assuage my guilt. All I would be doing would be bringing up a long-past horror I know I don't care to remember. \n\nIf this person was ever going to forgive you, chances are they already have. Don't make them relive something simply for your benefit. Unless you were actually planning on reestablishing a relationship with  this person, take your lumps privately. It is the only decent thing to do.
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There's nothing wrong with you...everyone reacts differently. I lost a neice 2 months ago...i cried for maybe 2 days and then after that I kind of went on.....I also thought there was something wrong with me. You dont need to cry to mourn someone. Its best to remember them and laugh at the good times you guys had....remembering someone is also a way to mourn. So dont worry....your perfectly normal...and I am very sorry. My prayers go out to you and your family.
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This will bring some tears, thanks for the blessings , but of course when your lose someone you know has known you all your life and has loved you for all you done good and forgave or protected you as you didn't do the right thing at times.One of my sister is a drunk since our mom passed away , another calls and cries every mothers day and on what was our mom's birthday . One calls me and we will laugh at the times we had with our mom. I just take one call at a time and silently say Ilove you to her and say I miss you ! But painful yes, I remember all the pain she had with cancer and welcomed her death as she had . She said Dealth is something we all will face ,but she sure was going to miss all of you and I love you.She died years ago yet the pain is as it happened today . She was my freind as well as a great women and wonderful mom .She'll aways be loved and missed .
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There's nothing you can say that will really make your friend feel better so - just LISTEN.  \n\nJust being there with someone in mourning makes a huge difference.
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It's sad when people die because we're losing one of our loved ones. It's nice that they go to heaven, but the thought of never seeing them again is sad. We're grieving over our loss.
80630
I think the saying means that people would much rather be with happy people than unhappy people.  Still, there is such a thing as sympathy, thank God!  When my best friend, roommate, ex-husband, lover of over 20 years committed suicide this past December, I found I did not have to cry alone.  My friends rallied around me, and I will always be grateful.
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It is part of grieving.   Crying can be a release of  all of the emotions that center around the loss of someone.    I would say it is an important part of working through the grief for some people.  It allows them to move on with their life after having experienced  a loss.
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usually it makes you feel better if your sad.
608690
I don't understand your question but if you have lost a grown child there is no real coping mechanism. When I lost my son I just determined to hold his memory in my heart and to share it with others. This way you in effect keep the loved one alive in the minds of others. If you are getting through day to day and allowing yourself to go on with life as the loved one would have wished you to then you are coping. I am sympathetic with you and with time you will get better at coping but it will always cause some pain, at least that's the way it is with me and I lost my son 15 years ago. I have watched his children grow and I admit that I took some solace in that.  I just looked at your site and see that you and I are the same age and that you have a grand daughter from the little that you say in your profile I think that you are doing real well. God bless
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What helps is if u think about what good things that happenened to them when they died.  Like if they were sick or had a stroke or somthin' they should die other than suffer.  What also helps is if u relive the good moments that u had with that person or people.
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Yes, he should be upset.  Of course he should also take time to ask you first why you were hugging that guy.  I mean he would look like a total idiot if it turned out this other guy had just told you he lost a family member or something and you were just hugging him to console him.
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its not necessary for u to fell sympathetic... infact the last thing she would want from u is sympathy.. she would probably want u to treat her like everything is fine just be normal and when she does start talking about her grief listen to her and comfort her help her if she needs ur help but dont sympathise just understand her grief and be there for her she need u now the most.. u DONT HAVE TO FEEL SORRY just make HER FEEL HAPPY. The fact that she threw her wedding ring is actually a good sign cause she is trying to overcome the grief and start over there is nothing wrong in it. just be there for her
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=the person close to you is having a very hard time right now.  They are grieving.  See the link below in order to better understand and be a true friend.
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if i saw a girl sitting in the dark crying i would go up to her even if i didnt know her and ask her what is wrong and try to soothe her. cause i know how it feels to cry and have no one there to soothe me and I dont want the same for another person.
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perhaps it's more frustration or helplessness you feel?  That this bad thing happened and you care for your friend but you really don't know how to help, what to do, or to say?  Maybe you are thinking as well that this is going to change your friendship in some ways, that things are not going to be the way they were?\n Or possibly it has made you aware of life's fragility, that nothing is guaranteed and somehow shown you your own mortality and that of those around you