He just dumped me... do i still go 2 work tomorrow...i'm devistated?
365221
Poor baby..hey take a sick day...and use it to find another job..Tomorrow...because if you break down and cry on the job they are going to fire you so ...don't go in if your feeling this way...JUST don't You will really feel like crap ...if you lose your man  and your JOB...Girl please DON'T GO IN
915687
Sounds like you regret breaking up, but if he's leaving in an hour, there's really nothing else to do, except answer his letters if he should write to you. If he's going to Iraq, he'll probably need to keep his mind on staying alive.
777436
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
89198
Depends on how you broke up...\nif he ditched you then theres nothing you can do\n\nand if you ditched him you should be "nice" and let him be happy with someone else.
150202
He has already broke up with you. So dont call him, email him go over his house or nothing.  Just know next time he see you, you must look the BEST, The Bomb, the Freshest.  Stay FLy.  He will want to call you, watch.  Or, you can let him see you by being somewhere you know he will be.
573677
You're just asking to be hurt...Honey...don't you think more of yourself?? This is not the one for you...you are HIS loss. Get  your self back in the game..
40011
It totally depends on the reason he dumped you.  If it were for another female....NO.\nIf it were because of misunderstanding ensure that you outline your expectations and don't give in to easily....make him earn your love, but generally I'd say\nNO...YOU HAD YOUR CHANCE.
433763
I was "dumped" by a man who lead me to believe that we were working toward marriage. I don't really know how to say this other than just be blunt... I was not physically attracted to him at first, I am 5'11". he was 5'7", our social stations were night and day, I don't claim to be a knock out, but I am above average in the looks department, and he was just kind of non-descript...I realize that we were not a physical match... but I thought that he really appreciated me for who I am on the inside, not what I look like on the outside, because that is how I felt about him. (he was 57, I was 34) total opposites.... but I was in love ( or so I thought). We continue along our road of stupid bliss for months.... with him traveling out of state on business on a regular basis... all the while he is seeing his ex-wife when he leaves. After spendind the weekend together, I left on Sunday afternoon still in love etc.... thinking everything is just fabulous....Monday morning I am reading my e-mails and there is one from him... he dumped me in an e-mail!!!! Told me that it was him and not me, and that I should just "take care". I was devastated to say the least, I have never been dumped in my entire life!!!! The humiliation was total, I couldn't get out of bed for 3 days, and I couldn't stop crying. He refused to take my calls etc.... and the worst thing ever was that we work in the same building, I have to see him almost everyday. I have since worked through this, and was feeling pretty good about life in general and had even gone on a few dates here and there....when *asshole** walks into my firms reception area (where I happened to be talking to the receptionist) and made bee line to me. He asked could we speak privately, I said no, say what you have to say now. So he asked would it be possible for me to come to his house that night for old times sake.... why should we "deny" ourselves just because his ex-wife was back in his life....well, I called him a few choice names and slapped the crap out of him--open handed across the right cheek. Left a pretty good impression of my hand too... that slap felt SO great, I can't describe it even today. I am now involved with a fabulous guy who actually appreciates me for me.... and couldn't be more happy. So, I guess all things happen for a reason.
773631
Bottom line...you had a good time, but for whatever reason, it's over.  No need to feel stupid or ugly.  Time to move on.  Tomorrow is another day.  Nothing gained by living the past.  Let it go and enjoy the future.  Enjoy life!
485763
that's kind of hard, he might still b upset with u 4 leaving him, my advice spend some time with him and c how he acts, if the vibe is good then try flirting with him a lil, but i think the best thing 2 do is let him know how u feel, tell him your sorry 4 what happened and that u were going through a ruff period.
299649
if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck
157900
Don't be upset. You live and work with the guy and he tells you he cares about you and I'm sure he tells you that he loves you. V-day is a day for telling people you love them , not materialistic things that is hyped up to be. I'm sure he does things for you that make you happy, those moments count. He said that he will get you something on Friday. It is a work week and he just happens to be busy. It happens to all of us .Since you live together, do something romantic together, such as cook together or cuddle. I wouldn't worry.
751969
WOW HOORAY 4 MY MAN HE IS HARD AND READY WHEN I AM!!!!! HUMM I BETTER CALL HIM AT WORK 2 COME HOME BYE!!!
279570
he might simply be missing your company and want to try being friend (one of my best friends is a guy i dated for 2 years) if he broke up with you...and now wants to get back...let him explain to you why he left you, and why he wants to get back together...from his answer, you should be able to tell if he's serious or not.  and then make him work for it...but be careful...if you're unreasonable, you might lose him again.  just make him think that you might have moved on by pretending to be busy.  don't just see him at a drop of a hat...ex. tell him you're busy today but maybe you can meet up tomorrow etc.
736660
How did you respond when he told you he loved you? Maybe he didn't get response he was hoping for...And chill out. It's only been a day!
803331
Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
595628
I totally relate to what you are going through. I did this too. I worked with and lived with my ex-fiancee. Leaving was one of the hardest things to do, but it really was the best thing and my life is so much better now. When you are done with that relationship the only way to leave is to leave it all. You should start looking for a new job now. If you feel like that company depends on you, then hire and train someone to replace you. Unfortunatly (for your feelings) you are replaceable and the business will go on without you. You aren't screwing them by moving on. You deserve more than what you are getting. Start looking for a new job, give your ex-boyfriend/boss 2 weeks notice and start focusing on yourself. \nYou are allowed to have feelings for him, he was in your life for a significant amount of time, your feelings are valid. But right now, you need to put yourself first. Have faith in yourself, trust yourself. You have to let go of what you have to get something better.\nI would love to talk to you, listen to you and offer you support.\nGood luck