is it the proper thing to do to ask co-workers to my daughter bridal shower & wedding if they haven't ever met
370695
If they have never met it seems to me the only reason they would be invited is to bring gifts. That's pretty selfish.
333438
No it is not rude. In this case it is reasonable weddings can have rather strange time frames. early wedding reception later? wedding immediate reception? pictures? cocktails, food, receiving line? it could take hours with set times between or not. But it is not bad manners to ask when any party is expected to end, especially if it is not stated on the invatation. It allows not only for the guest to plan for themselves, but it insures that they do not overstay their welcome. After all we all have had the "GUEST THAT WOULD NOT LEAVE". you know the one that thinks you  could not possibly be tired, have other things to do and so forth.
842877
this is your day tell them both how you feel and if you want them to both be there ask them to hide their difference for just one day. dont sit them next to each other either at the ceremony or at the reception they dont have to talk to each other or dance together.but i would think they would want what makes you happy. good luck to you and congratulations
125127
Not sure!  But if you do get in touch with her people, can you ask them to contact Prince's people and have them get in touch with my people so I can book him at my next pajama party?  \n\nThanks!
334227
It isn't proper etiquette to have a second one, but maybe they weren't planning on a second child.  I think that not inviting all people in the office is really tacky as well as asking for donations, but it is her party.  I think I would just give a small gift certificate and then not show up.  Part of having good manners, though, sometimes may mean ignoring others' bad manners.
544449
Don't play guessing games. Call everyone you invited and make a complete and accurate list of everyone who is attending. There should only be a 'yes list' and a 'no list'. Do not allow inconsiderate people to bully you into creating a 'maybe list'.\n\nWhen you call those who did NOT do the RSVP, it is becuase their invitation was obviously lost in the mail. None of your friends would be so thoughtless as to simply not bother responding to your kind invitation, now would they?\n\nWhen you call those who DID do the RSVP, it is "to confirm" the names of every person who plans to attend. If you were unwise enough to use expressions like "and guest" or "and family" on your invitations, this is even more necessary.\n\nBesides giving you an accurate head count, these calls allow you to re-assert your control of the guest list. Be prepared to say things like "Your new boyfriend sounds wonderful, and I look forward to meeting him ... but this occaision is really only for people we know" and "I'm so sorry, but we're not having children." \n\nIf someone tries to clobber you with "If I can't bring my (whatever), then I can't come either" your response is "I hope you'll change your mind. If you do, just let me know by June 17th."
96465
I think it is very appropriate.  Even more appropriate in this case.  It gives those people who won't be attending the ceremony an opportunity to share their wishes with the bride to be.  Plus, it's not like the bride has the shower for herself...!  Others who love and care about her have decided to honor her by having a party to celebrate the fact that she is marrying.  I say go for it, and have a wonderful time!
535334
Well, I think since she is inviting you and your wife to her wedding, there is no chance that your ex still wants you. I'd say something casual like, "I just got an email from xxxx, and she invited us to her wedding" and laugh. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation it seems.
309541
Absolutely. People will sometimes call them "men of honor" or some other clever name. Talk to a wedding planner even if you don't use them. Just tell them you need help with an etiquette question and you don't know what to call your best friend who is standing up for you at your wedding. \n\nAs far as if it's ok or not..yup. It's your day and you can do what you want. I've seen wedding that have had men be the "maid of honor" so to speak.
488819
Print new invites if they haven't been mailed.  If not, do the line-out method.  Labels will look tacky, so I recommend avoiding that.  If they have already been mailed, you'll have to print an amendment card for everyone.  Something simple that just says "Please note the date of Jan & Joe's wedding is now January 1st, 2007.  All other details remain the same."  You could even include an apology and a 'we hope to see you there'.  : )
792915
You should include  your BF in the number of people coming from your family in the  RSVP.  I think I would have been offended  if my good friend  invited my sister but not me personally  in the invitation. why did'nt she send it  to you and  include your sister in the "  rest of the family"?  I'd just let it slide though and just wish your friend and her hubby wishes for a long life together.  This is'nt  bad enough to ruin your friends day over.Yes,you should buy them a gift too.
40259
This is her special day, and she wants you to be a part of it. The Hostess is a big role! There could be a number of reasons why you were not asked to be a part of the wedding party (Bridesmaid/maid-of-honor). It is only right for family to be chosen BEFORE friends. Some brides go against that, but truly, that is the proper way to handle choosing your wedding party. Don't take offense.\n\nYou should not confront her. If you are that upset about not being chosen to be in the wedding party, you can always decline being her hostess and just go as a regular guest. No matter what, the fact that she thought of you to have a role in the wedding shows she thought of you. Nothing starts up comotion like having to choose your wedding party. Your friend needs your support, ESPECIALLY DURING THIS CRAZY AND HECTIC TIME!
241405
go to department stores and tell them you want to find out if your friends are registered for gifts and then you can find out names and dates of weddings. just get a diffrent person each time to do it and not at the same store... have fun.......
350801
BAD idea. Invite her. If you two do not get along, chances are she would not come anyway. If you don't invite JUST her, word WILL get around. If not before the party, then after. Someone will slip. It's not fair to other co-workers to ask them to keep quiet about the party. Invite her. Be cordial to her at the party if she shows up. Don't let her ruin your party by being miserable all day.
794893
Depends on the formality of the wedding.Why not ask someone in the Bridal party.
690490
I wouldn't think it necessary as far as regular rules of etiquette go, since it was an indirect act (it wasn't donated in the name of your sister-in-law). I would definitely thank her, and possibly giver her a token or gift of appreciation, and tell her how much it meant to you.
802572
Don't show up at her job. Try to wait for her outside of the school, when he is out of her job. Don't forget the flowers. That wouldn't be creepy. I'd call it a nice surprise. If she says no I don't want to see you and you still show up again - yeah, that would be creepy.