What do I do about my girlfriends flirting?
363843
Perhaps you are being a little insecure about the situation. Working in the same establishment as your significant other tends to put extra stress on relationships. I would suggest that you look for work elsewhere. Also, keep in mind who she comes home with each night, you. You may want to mention to her that several of the co-workers indicated to you that they felt she was "hitting on them". Maybe she is just really friendly and those guys are misunderstanding that to be flirting. I have noticed alot over the years that whenever I am nice to guy, such as make small talk with him, that he asks me out or gives me his number. Alot of men confuse being nice for flirting. They think because a girl is nice to them that she is hitting on them, which is not always the case. It's hard to see that going on, so I would suggest having a little chat with her about it and find a job elsewhere and that will relieve alot of the stress you are going rhrough. Couples can spend TOO much time together and then little things start to cause undue stress in their relationship. Good luck with this issue.
1063997
keep telling her you love her, but dont let the other guy get close to her. you guys sound so cute together, lol
1987
The truth is this, there is no way to satisfy your girlfriend, or anyone, for that matter.  Men and women, it seems, have this belief that they can "please" each other or "make" each other happy.  It is a nice thought, but it doesn't really happen that way.  Think about this, you are upset and your friend tells you a joke that makes you feel better...right?  Wrong.  You chose to feel better by seeing the humor in the joke and allowed yourself to open up enough to be influenced by the humor, losing your grip on those negative thoughts and feelings you had previously.  It is the same with women, in this case, your girlfriend.  \n\nYou can't satisfy her, but there is something you can do to improve the situation.  First start with you, being the best person you can be...to yourself, to others, and to her.  Be confident, be yourself, be all the things you want to be when fear and self-consiousness set in, and be true to who you are.  Then be selfless, helpful, caring, compassionate, diligent, and patient with those around you.  As for your girlfriend, you should follow your heart, care for her, give her yourself, be WITH her when you are around her, share, be thoughtful and kind, and show her that you care.  Although you cannot "force" or "make" her do anything, you can still be the best person possible, making each day you live worth living, making yourself a person of value, and creating a certain magic in your life.  All of these things will not only draw better people to you in your life, but your girlfriend will be more "open" to your influenc and "willing" to share whatever you wish with you.  \n\nA last note.  Women "feel" rather than "think" their ways into better relationships.  Men are mostly the other way.  If you love her and care for her, you should take the risk and tell her what is in your heart as often as you can, show her what you feel without the "act", and do for her what you would want done for yourself.  The best advice in any relationship, including the one you have with yourself, is this: "If you don't want people to treat you like an @ssho!e, then don't act like one".....in your case it would sound more like this "If you want to satisfy her, then let her satisfy you".  Do all the things to her that you want her to do to you (or have done to you, if you are content in the relationship).  Relationships are a balance, and if yours needs some adjustment, then make those adjustments.  Don't worry if you think you are working too hard, when she realizes what you are doing, she will be more than willing to do her part as well (if she is right for you, that is....and doing this will give you a good indicator if she is or isn't "the one"....)\n\nI hope this helped.  Good luck!
24214
answer all of these questions \n1. does she flirt?\n2. do you feel like y'all have known eachother 4ever?\n3. is she close and ready to help u through any shituation? \n\nif u can answer these 3 questions then yoe if not try to strenghthen ur relationship w/ her
691519
If you feel secure that you are not flirting with him, then don't let those comments bother you.  However, if you would just like to consider their opinion for a while, try to think back at some of the things you did that may have given them the impression you were flirting.  And then you can try to modify those actions.
459845
How funny... these people that answer that flirting is too far are all probably very young. \n\nWe flirt every day. Little girls flirt with their fathers, and it's often where they learn the power of their smile or batting their eyes. \n\nFlirting is a pretty wide line. If it's simply boosting your or the other person's ego, it is likely harmless and can do nothing but good. If anything goes beyond it, say a phone number, touching, or continues on a few times, then maybe it could be considered inappropriate. Does the wife know about it? How does she feel? Does she think it's wrong? If so, the line is drawn AFTER she speaks to him about it.\n\nIs the waitress/barmaid someone he sees a lot - is he a regular at the bar? If so, he's probably mentioned her name to his wife. \n\nTo the younger folks - you might think flirting is leading to more contact. To those of us with a few more years - flirting is often just an ego boost and can be very beneficial to a loving, monogomous relationship.\n\nWP
723154
talk straigth- to the point- FLRIT....woemen knw that its not friendship when guys flirt ( friends dont flirt)\n\nAlso ask her out and pay too too too much attention to her...(freinds dont care how freinds look etc)\n\nBuy her cute presents and tell her you care for her ( and be honest- coz otherwise that wil be just freind zone)\n\nso u see the bottom line is honesty and being straigth forward and telling her that it aint freindship
795405
i am a girl so im gunna say what girls wanna hear and see when they are flirting. girls love to be complemented so give her a nice complement about her jewellery or hair... sheel love that. also i'd suggest to just give her a nice smile. ask her some questions about her... but dont get too nosey. some people say that teasing is a way of flirting (i do not suggest this). if you believe you like her too ask her out... just go for it! sheel obviously say yes! stay in touch like msn or texting.... and if you do go out with this girl i'd suggest these four places for a date... picnic at the park or at the beach, a theme park or fair, go see a band you both like, or have brunch in a nice cafe'... hope i could help good luck!
922822
Well you could spend all your time being suspicious and continue to listen to gossip and hang out with the guys that say they are doing stuff to your girl? What the Fu-------? If you love her deal with it or leave her. She could be lying, they could be lying. Bottom line is if she is cheating on you your relationship is in trouble, if she isn't cheating she will be if you are accusing her of it all the time. Tuff problem. It is all in what you want to happen with her. I can't imagine 3 guys telling you that if it wasn't true though. Do you know the guys? Or are they strangers to you and each other. If they 3 of them know each other it is possible they are fuc-ing with you, more details is what you need. \n\nWrite out the problem, pros and cons, but whatever you do figure out one way or another what you want or it will tear your heart out eventually.
522118
You are asking for trouble. You will betray your wife, and even if she doesn't find out (which she probably will) your relationship will never be the same. A lot of girls flirt with married men (sometimes because it is easy because they are unavailable), so if she is just flirting you may also lose a nice friendship with your neighbor. Either way, she doesn't have anything to lose, and you have everything to lose. You could end up having both women throwing you out on your ear - and you would deserve it. You would be a lot better off not flirting back and not spending time alone with her.
196918
Hey, he's not married! Flirting isn't like adultery... as long as you don't know the girlfriend then all's fair!
128669
have a long talk with her.  i was going to say spy on her, but then if she catches you that proves that you dont trust her.  you have to trust your girlfriend.  talk to her first.  if you won't talk to her, and you have a very strong feeling she really is cheating on you, then prepare yourself for the truth.
519546
be smart, funny, witty and caring and stuff..... do everything but flirt with her... thats when they are on their guard and resist more.... this way, she'll keep wondering why u dont make any advances and be interested in u.... and this is when u make ur move.....sometimes the best way to flirt is not to flirt at all..... and the best trick of all- tease her unmercifully as much as possible without turning her off and without being mean... then spring a small compliment somtimes in the middle of ur conversation. keep the compliments rare and the teasing high.... she'll beg for ur approval after sometime....
640385
Make fun of yourself and how you get into trouble.\n\nIf you can make her laugh, then act like a friend for a very long time without being pushy.\n\nIf you don't have this kind of patience, get a new girlfriend.
119484
Ok, so you live elsewhere other then california. Your girl's IN cali, but you like to flirt with other girls from the same state she's in but you're not? Doesn't sound like you have a problem with long distance relationships. Sounds like you just don't want to be in one with your current girl. Let her know so she can decide for herself whether she wants to be with you. You owe her that much. 'Sides...statistically...she's probably doing the same thing. Good luck!
55414
Why are you with her? Get out of that relationship. No one deserves to be cheated on. You deserve someone who will come home to you and only you. Please don't keep hurting yourself. They aren't worth losing your self-esteem and self respect. There is someone out there who can make you so much happier than the person you are with who insists on cheating on you. The only way to help you stop hurting is to get together with a bunch of friends after kicking her to the curb and keep the good times flowing. I am so sorry you have to go through this but once you're done with this relationship you are going to be so much happier. If you feel like she is remorseful about her cheating and says she can change give her one more chance. Lay down the law and say this is the last time you are putting up with it and if it happens again send her packing.
1181659
Tell her to fess up to whatever she was untruthful about.  Its not good to deceive anyone especially someone you have feelings for.