My husband wants to separate.  He says we are not "compatible".  What does that mean?
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it is probably the only lame excuse he could come up with
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Legal separation means that the husband and wife live apart and both are not free to marry since their status has not been changed to unmarried or single person.    From Wikipedia:    "Legal separation is a possible step towards divorce under United States law. A couple are legally separated if they have successfully petitioned a court to recognize their separation; simply living apart does not constitute separation for these purposes. A period of legal separation constitutes grounds for divorce; the length of that period varies from state to state.    Legal separation does not automatically lead to divorce. The couple may reconcile, in which case they need do nothing in order to remain married. If they do not reconcile, and wish to divorce after the statutory time period, they must file for divorce explicitly."
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Society has nothing to do with you and does not become happy or sad by your conduct. You decide yourself whether going to your 'true' partner will make you happy and whether he will still accept you or not. It appears that you do not trust your husband fully. That is a weak bond. Decide early, and do not procrastinate with pretexts like 'society' etc.
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he will go back to the same old stuff once you agree to stay, unless you resolve the underlying problem and if the problem is a behavior thing of his you arent going to change it. sounds like you are done and when that happens there is no going back. look if the guy really cared about the marriage he would've changed things when you said you were unhappy instead of waiting until you said i'm leaving. do you really want to spend your life with your bags packed because thats the only thing that gets through to him? yes you said better or worse, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. only you can decide that, to me it sounds as if you already have. if you've already given him 100 chances to step up to the plate he obviously isn't going to and 100 more won't be enough either. good luck to you, things will work out!
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Settling is wrong, and if thats what this feels like MOST OF THE TIME, then think about whether or not someone else could make you as happy as your boyfriened does when he isn't ticking you off. Sometimes someone annoys you or makes you sad sometimes, but you still love them more than anyone else in the world, and you're still happy with them most of the time. \n\nThen, realize that some males think that arguing/debating is a way to keep things fiery. I've had to explain to my husband that I hate fighting of any kind because I grew up in a very explosive household, and that sometimes the smallest disagreement will make me incredibly nervous and sad. He responds that if I have a different opinion, he wants me to express it. Neither of us are wrong, there just has to be a compromise.\n\nI suggest you tell him that if he wants to debate with you, fine - but it MUST NOT become personal - at all. Also, tell him that if he doesn't respect your opinion or think its "good enough" then he shouldn't bother arguing with you about that particular subject. You two can debate - but not argue. He needs to understand the difference, and understand why it matters to you. Tell him you want most of all to get along with him and make him happy and be happy, and that constantly expressing your different opinions makes that very difficult to achieve.\n\nGive him time. Lots of it. \n\nI hope I helped.
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let go of your expections of your partner. or the things that couse conflict.                                           dont let go of your relationship and the things that make it work.
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So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.
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I think "trial separations" are another way to say "I don't want to break your heart all ant once and get it over with, I want to drag it out for months, maybe even years". Time apart means less time for communication, which means more misunderstandings and more hard feelings.\n\nThe only way you are going to make your marriage work again is by making time for each other, talking about the issues and working thigs out together.  Find a good marriage counselor. If either of you are not serious about it, though, don't drag it out, just get it over with. \n\nIf I may suggest, if you have the money, one of you move out and plant to "date" each other again. Go steady for a few months, find the spark again. But don't "separate" it is just a preparation for "divorce".
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Talk to your husband and ask him what it is he wants to to change if he is being reasonable take his suggestions into account and try to implement them, but don't go out of your way to make him happy at the expense of your own happiness. You love each other so you can work though this to make it work.
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You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
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U can't force him 2 be somewhere he doesn't. Why would u want too? That would make things even worse in my opinion and he would take it out on u therefore making ur marriage in an worse situation than it is right now.. U 2 need 2 sit down and talk, marriage is suppose 2 be 50/50 and obviously urs isn't. And he needs 2 understand that u have needs as well and if he loves u as much as he saids he does then he will compromise.
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Why can the two things not coexist?  Perhaps it depends upon your definitions of loving, supporting, and independent.  I don't see whereas a wife can not be independent while still being loving and supportive of her husband.
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Separation does not mean divorce.  You still have to get the legal paper work done.  Check with your state to see how this is done.
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hi, \n It is a hard thing to be married to someone who does not share ur beliefs.... the Bible states that when a man and a woman r joined together in marriage they r not to separate.... 1 Cor 7:12-16 gives a firm direction from the apostle Paul for the very situation u r in and why he feels this way....\nGod bless and be with u in this time\nShaz\nx x x x x x
103537
Just tell him that your relationship is not going anywhere an tell him that you and him should move on to other things and go your seperate ways.
95850
Compromise, compromise, compromise. My husband and I are both very stong willed, hard headed individuals. But when you learn the art of compromise it a breeze! It is hard not to always be right all the time, but then how fair would that be if you were all the time? Good luck!
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Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.