im moving out of my parents house and???
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Yuppp....ALL of your clothes, bed, personal products (shampoo, toothpaste, soap, stuff like that), dresser(s), You will need furniture, Food, tableware, cookware,
263135
Hmm. I'm in a similar situation, however I'm not legally allowed to move out for a few more months, or at least not without going to court, which I'd prefer not to do. I simply (a) avoid them as much as possible. I go out and do fun things, and then both sides are happy--or at least not fighting--and (b) if something comes up, I take the easist route out. I'll defend myself for a little while, but right before it gets ugly, I let them think they're right. Now, never ADMIT that they're right, but just kinda pretend that you do. This will end the argument much sooner, because usually all people want is to know they're right. Even if you think this is cowardly, it shows you're actually much stronger and more mature than your parents. However, this can build up a lot of aggression, so remember to do something that will help take it out, like going to the gym or something. I clean and rearrange the furniture in my room. It helps, but I'm weird. *lol* But yea, best of luck!
1147616
Do you have a job?  Or are you going to college?  I would suggest going away for college, at least 20 minutes away.  Your parents will physically have less control over you because you will be on your own and be able to do as you wish.  You will also meet tons of people in college and obviously it is good way to find yourself and figure out what kind of career you want.  You are 19, a legal adult.  You have every right to make your own decisions now.  The sooner you break away, the sooner your *own* life can start.  Good luck!
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I take it that you are commuting to college. \nI graduate and start college in January and will also be commuting.\n\nI gave a lot of thought to the whole "moving out" ordeal.\n\nThe first thing you need to do is make a budget and find a stable well paying job.\n\nIf you are smart and use student loans, you may be able to have your rent covered in off campus housing (my sister does this.)\n\nMake a list of your estimated expenses: car payment, groceries, cable, cleaning/laundry, clothing, entertainment and leisure, beauty products (shampoo makeup etc.), unexpected purchases, phone line and anything else you may need.\n\nI made two columns, one for the expense then across from that i put the estimated cost.\n\nMy monthly budget was 1,280$ and i subtracted each expense from my budget. Keep in mind all of this is without taxes.\n\nIf you are living with your mother as of right now, who will take care of your child while you aren't home? You don't have to move 50 miles away from your moms house. Ask her if she would be willing to watch her grandson while you go to school and maybe help out a little.\nYou would be better off living an equal distance from your mom's house and from the college. (To save gas)\n\nAnother thing, make sure you open up a bank account if you dont already have one. Try to put a decent amount in from every paycheck so you have something to live on if you do happen to run out of money.\n\nYou probably have an idea of most of these things, but you really need to think hard about this decision.\n\nIf your mother doesn't have a problem with you living with her then why not just stay.. hey its free living quarters.\nIf you dont mind staying for a bit longer, you should save up a decent amount of money for a security deposit, and a few months of rent.. just to get yourself going and both feet on the ground.\n\nLook around at flea markets and yard sales for furniture in good condition (or the classifieds). Instead of going and spending all of your money, you can find decent pieces for a lot less than you would normally pay.\n\nFind ways to save money and use it towards things you are going to have to pay for in the future.\n\nIf you have any more questions you can send me a message\n\nI hope this helps and good luck.
268361
you can become emancipated from your parents, which something like divorce.  why don't you see a lawyer.  you'll probably need a ride from mom or pop.
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I think that you are forgetting that moving out is a lot harder than just moving out.  There is work, bills, insurance (since you will be out on your own, your parents cant cover you any more) if you want to go to school add that on.  There is so much to moving out alone!  Never mind the rest.  I dont think people realize just how much, they are in too much of a hurry.  I moved out when I was 18,.  wasnt the easiest thing to do but I did it.  My brother is still at my fathers house and hes 22.  There shouldnt be any hurry.  its a hell of a lot harder out side the parents house.
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enough so that i could move out of my mothers house
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
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Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
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it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
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Before you even consider moving , make sure you can take care of yourself.Obviously it is to your advantage to stay at home as long as you can, go to school-get a job- then worry about entering the "real world".  Its a jungle out there whether in KS or In or whereever -be prepared
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I grant you exhibitionism is annoying, but can't you just close the curtains on the side of your house facing them?  It seems a shame for you to move out just because of that.  It's sort of like letting them control your life, isn't it?\n\nHave you tried asking them to close their curtains?
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Yes I think you should leave go to the hospital and ask them for help they will help you and tell you where to go for help get out of the house now!
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I understand your problem and I think that no matter how much you talk to him thing are not going to change unless he wants too do it all on his own.  And since moving out isn't an option at the moment I suggest you find something to do with your time other than staying at home.  Like finding a job or going to school (assuming your not doing it already)  Going to the library or donating your time to charities.  Something you enjoy.  I know you love your family but YOU are 20 and you need to start making a life of your own Maybe when he sees what your doing he'll start appreciating you better.  As for your real dad start writing to him get that job and save up to go visit.  Where there is a will there is a way.  Good luck at what ever you do.
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First of all he shouldnt be living with you all anyway!Next\nas long as u continue to except it he's gonna do it. Through his cheap, mooching, unconcerned ass out of that house and let it go. You dont need it and certanly your parents dont need all the extra stress on them. You need to be woman enough to handle that situation.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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Before removing your self from mortgage, why did you leave the property?\nGo to a lawyer and take his advise pronto.