Guys, would you date a girl with kids?
360379
No, I think it makes you stand out even more. I give you a lot of credit doing what you're doing. I would date a girl with kids, as long as the kids weren't complete Hellers.
477507
if you guys are dating, sure. the girl won't be surprise if you guys are dating, or bg and gf.
124332
I think the question you need to ask yourself is are you looking to settle down and get marrired or are you just looking to have a little fun.\n\nIf your only goal is fun, there is no reason you can not see the man with kids (especially if he is only looking for a casual relationship).
567513
I'm in my late 20's and have to consider this question while dating women often and this is what I come up with.  I have no problem dating a single mother as long as a few rules are adhered to. Don't let him meet your child until the relationship is at least a couple months old, because you don't want your child to have to meet a new guy every couple of weeks.  Know what you want out of the man, a relationship, or just a fling or what not. Lastly, and this is a tip and my personal opinion, but most men that would treat your child with respect and love will want another child........my personal pet peave with single mothers is that they don't want any more children.  Any man that would be a proper adult figure for your child will dream of one that comes from him too.  That's not to say that he will treat your child different, but dreams are dreams and any man who want's to be a father, will also want a child that both of you concieved.
929628
Just for the record, I'm not a guy. But this DOES NOT make you a jerk at all. You're obviously just looking for someone that would have more time for you without having to worry about a babysitter. There's nothing wrong with that.
649964
Be honest and open. Don't hit her up if you don't want the potential of dealing with her kids in the long run. I'm sure she will be cautious about dating you. Don't act like a fool or you will get nowhere.
61561
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
151506
i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
549442
no, sorry. but there are a lot of people, men or women, who just think 5 kids are too many. but i'm sure theres someone who loves kids just as you do, and wont mind it. \nit probably also depends on the age of your kids.
319037
Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
224814
Completly depends on the woman. You see single mothers have a reputation (which I'd say was justified) of looking for a man to enter a comited relationship, to suport her and the child and to give her child a father figure. Ofcourse this is about as effective in warding of men as a woman with a beard... sorry girls but guys just don't like entering a relationship with the idea of commitment. But that doesnt mean we don't want it, just we will only think about it when enough in love for the idea not to terrify us. \n\nIf the single mother has the right attitude, and is not too needy or clingy, good fun and everything else that comes with being a good woman, then there is no reason for not dating her. Chances are your kids are absaloutly adorible too. If commitment IS what she is looking for then just allow him the control in the relationship to think about that when it occours to him. Hope it's clarified things alittle.
376951
yes i would. i am 29 and cutt off is 39. i dont date more then 10 years older then me.
389243
go with the definite safe one, the friend.  this isn't a date, it's for a special cause, you can definitely have fun with the first girl but you may be too nervous to enjoy yourself with the second.  It's about the children not your date...just have fun and enjoy your friendship.
580715
No. It would be better for her to marry FOR the sake of the kids, than to set a poor example by being permiscuious. Secret or not, it wouldn't be right. She should find someone who will love her and her kids, get married then have sex (guilt free).
1156222
no! go have fun! you date again when YOU are ready, not when your ex is ready or when your daughter is ready for you to date...ITS YOUR LIFE! Grab life by the horns! (thanks dodge for the catchy line)
627225
I know guys who date (and marry) women with kids.\n\nStill, it's hard enough for a single man to marry a woman without kids, take on the responsibility of that relationship, and use his time and energy for her sake rather than his own. \n\n(Obviously, this is why some of these single women have kids and no husband -- the guy used her, then skedaddled when the pressure got to be too much.)\n\nFor a guy to take on a woman with kids is even more overwhelming. Not only does he have to be care for his wife, but there are many other concerns:\n\n1. He has to keep a steady job, to provide not only for his wife but for children. (He can no longer pick up and relocate easily, quit a job he dislikes without serious thinking ahead of time, etc.) That's scary, and a big commitment. \n\n2. He's expected to be a dad, but has NO experience with kids -- as opposed to the mother, who started out knowing nothing and learned with the kids as they got older. He's got to start cold, halfway through the process. That's intimidating.\n\n3. If the biological father is around, he now has to deal with HIM ... possible confrontations if his wife or kids are being harmed or not dealt with properly.\n\n4. Dating a married woman means you're not as flexible, have to always juggle the kids in order to go out, etc.\n\nConsidering a guy could start fresh with a childless woman and not have to worry about this stuff, it's no wonder many opt out for the easier situation. He wants to avoid as much pressure as possible, and he wants to create his OWN family when he finally gets around to it, rather than caring for one someone else created.\n\nI don't necessarily think these are "good" reasons, and I think a real man can overcome them for a woman he cares about and is attracted to, but they are some of the typical considerations for a guy who is dating a woman with kids.
36919
I would say it depends on how old you are and whether the date went well or not.  If you are consenting adults, I'd say "yes"