Book Recommendation on splitting bills in relationship?
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You should do it by percentage.  You each put in the same percentage towards household bills.  This way it will be fair for the both of you - no one person pays more than the other.\n\n    For example, you put 6% of your take home pay and your parter puts 6% of their take home pay.
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My wife and I were both previously married.  We have a joint account for the majority of our money and then she has a small separate account so she can buy gifts and stuff without me knowing.  I think a relationship that is based on trust and sharing includes the financial side of things.
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Financially, you need to talk every issue out before you move in together.  In marriage I'm a big fan of whats yours is mine and what is mine is yours and no financial separation.  However, when it comes to living together, I think the best way is split everything based upon the percentage of total income each of you brings in.  Other things you need to consider are questions regarding items that you buy together and things such as the lease where both of your names are on legal paper work.  Plan for what if you break up now so that in your life together there is no misunderstandings how things are.  \n\nAs for the rest of moving in together, be flexible.  People change and act different when living together.  Set rules for schedules and cleaning and normal day to day expectations.  If you talk this all out and have know what to expect it makes it so much easier to actually enjoy living together which is what this should really be all about.
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The one thing that worked for my husband was to SEE our budget and understand that, when his check went into the bank, I had already divided it up between the bills needing to be paid and the other stuff we needed/wanted to do (like saving for a vacation).  He has a 'blow fund' (in the budget) and I NEVER ask him about what he uses it for UNLESS he comes asking for more.\n\nWe have a 'budget meeting every time he gets paid, before I pay bills, so he can see where the money is going and IF there's anything left over.\n\nFinancial Peace University was a GREAT class for us to take together to help work-out and understand our financial differences and start seeing eye-to-eye.  Check it out at the site below.  Ramsey also has a book called Financial Peace.
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There's an excellent book on Landlording by Leigh Robinson. Get it worth every penny. The link below has rental agreements too. But get the book, very very useful.
298807
Compromise.  Meet in the middle and see how you can both have what you want without giving up too much.
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I'd suggest the books _Total Money Makeover_ and _Financial Peace_ by Dave Ramsey.  Thousands of folks in your situation have followed his plan and are now debt free.  Check out the site:\n\nhttp://www.daveramsey.com\n\nI've no affiliation, just use the plan.\n\nGood luck.
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May I recommend a book on the subject?\n\nHe's Just Not That Into You  \nby Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo \n\nThis is a fantastic book for anyone who has recently been dumped, or is currently dating someone, or who has ever dated any man, ever.\n\nIt is totally empowering, and basically the point of the book is:  if he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you - so if the one you're with doesn't really want to be with you - move on.  Someone out there does.
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get a credit card but make sure you pay every thing back the same month. I'd suggest buying The Automatic Millionaire. Great book about money.
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The first thing you need to do is sit down and figure out what your expenses are. What are the bills you *have* to pay:\nrent\nelectric bill\nfood\ngas\ncar payment\n\nThese are all non-discretionary bills\n\nThen subtract your total monthly non-discretionary spending from your total monthly income, this number is what you can use on discretionary spending. Then agree on a personal spending allowance (play money) for each of you that you can spend each month. If he wants a new toy then he's going to have to save up his play money. The rest of the discretionary money should go toward common goals like paying down your debts and nice things for the both of you.\n\nThe link below is a great link to an excel spreadsheet that helps you calculate this. Just plug in the numbers and it does the rest!
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yeah it is but you always have the option of splitting assets. or get your money right and offer her a lump sum all at one time. buy the greedy b*#@$ out of your life.even if she raised the kids and worked when you split it's time to hold your own and move on.women lokk at this and learn have a career of your own. being a housewife is not a damn career. washing your husbands feet will not get you paid when he divorces your ass
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it's very hard to leave when your lives are kinda of one. you feel bad for leaving. since most of the stuff you share are in your name and you don't want to leave him with nothing. i understand how your feeling right now. i really do. in some ways I'm in the same boat.as i sit here 1in the morning have way to much on my mind to sleep.looking for people to help or dealing with a similar situation.if you feel you can sit down and really talk things over with him no fighting aloud.get all the bill that are in your name.close them or ask that he be taken off.set up a account so its not hard on you when you do get your own place and if i were you i would tell him to do the same. the best thing is try not to fight it will only bring more problems along the way.since both cars are in your name and one is paid off. see if he wants the other car he would take over the payments and get it put in his name just in case later down the road something happens your not responsible.i know its hard but you will work everything out and move on happy that you did. you ever need to talk e-mail me brooke_sittner@yahoo.com
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I would suggest getting the book "He's not that into you" by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo.\n\nIt clears up alot of thinking, it helps woman to clarify and focus on their relationship.\n\nIt is not a difficult read at all.\n\nJust remember you have to take care of you and your two children in the end of it all.
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I've been in this situation many times and it is incredibly frustrating.I feel your pain...I would maybe hold half of the cost of the utilities from his deposit.This way your not eating the whole amount but,he still get's a break.Maybe offer this,first as a compromise-show him the bills-be very open with him-show him your payment history.Next time,next roommate, make sure you make it very clear that utlities are not included in the rent.Unfortunatley if it's not in writing there's not much you can do about it now.Well,at least you've both learned lessons from it all.
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Dress up.  They probably won't want to rent a nice big house to a bunch of college guys.  My other BIG suggestion is writing up a rental agreement between you and your friends.  In there, you need to have stuff about how you're splitting the bills, what penalties if they're not paid on time. how you're dividing chores, rent, maintenance issues that come up with the house that the landlord won't fix or that you want to fix on your own.  Also, what happens if someone loses their job, etc.  One of my roommates lost his job and was out of work for 2 months.  We had to come up with a bunch of money to cover his share and his lazy butt didn't do any chores around the house while he was out of work, either.  Cover your butt and put everything in writing so nothing comes between friends.  Also, go to an office cupply store and get a receipt book.  Every time a bill is due, write everyone receipts as they pay their share.  This will help avoid confusion as to who paid what and who hasn't paid yet.  This gets really confusing as time goes on.  While inspecting the house, look at the ceilings.  If there are brown discolorations, that means there are plumbing problems causeing leaks.  Look for any cracks in the walls as this indicated foudation problems.  See if any doors won't shut or windows that won't open.  Also, go look at the thermostat.  If the thermostat has to be running at 90 degrees to keep the house at 70 during the winter, your untility bills are going to be HUGE.  If you're in a warm area, switch the scenario with the same result.  Long response, I know, but I hope it helps.
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Possibly yes. It's a good idea to keep separate bank accounts - that way you will be able to always show that you have good credit. And if you buy something jointly you will probably automatically become responsible for it, especially as she already owes money elsewhere. :-/
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In the short term they manage fairly well, then the separations, travelling and expenses become too much.\nIf it is a serious relationship or if it could become one I suggest one of you moving closer to the other.