me and mate are getting bullied by this horrid boy at school, how do we stop them?
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The general advice given out is don't suffer in silence.\n\nThe best thing you can do is to tell someone who can do something about it. Bullying needs to be stopped at the earliest possible point. \n\nCheck out http://www.bullying.co.uk/children/pupil_advice.htm for some practical advice on how to stop the bullying.\n\nPlease remember that you are not alone.
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You are being bullied.\nDo not put up with it.\nBy-pass your teacher and go to a senior teacher or the Principal.\nIf it is not easy to get to see either of these people to arrange a meeting, then make a request by letter - you could hand it to the secretary to pass on.\nMake sure you use the word 'bullied' in your request.\nYour parents could help you to sort this out with the school, though you sound strong enough to do it for yourself.\nI hope you solve the problem soon.\n\n**ADDITIONAL**\nIf the school will not help, you could appeal to the Superintendant of Schools for your area. There will probably be a website something like 'www.weymouth.ma.gov/schools'. Do not give in; make a fuss. You might also consider threatening litigation against the school for not protecting you.
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It looks like that those two girls have nothing better to do but take their problems out on somebody else and it looks like that you're their target, if it keeps bothering you, you should report the situation to a teacher or the principal and they may put a stop to it, school bullying should not be tolerated at all.
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Definitely do tell people about it! My daughter was bullied at school, and hated life until she was moved. Talk to the school, BUT if they do nothing, then go right to the state teaching board (not 100% sure how things work in the US) but if the school does nothing, go right over their heads. My daughter had proof that this other student had stolen her wallet, yet the school didn't want to know about it, or the many other ocassions.
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Tell your parents.  No one deserves to be hurt like that.  Your parents will most likely talk to his parents.  And if his parents are little stupid babies about it, then they are probably the cause of their son's behavior.  Now, see, if this was a girl bothering you, it would probably be because she would like you.  But in this case, the bully is a rich snob that don't now squat that's a boy.  Ask him why the heck he does this to you, and I just bet he'll say " Cuz it's fun."  If he says that, tell him it's not for you and that you're seriously bothered.  He most likely won't listen, so tell people that will listen.  Weather it's the school counselor, or your parents, just anyone who will take charge of the situation.  The best of luck to ya!
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sweetheart the best way to deal with this is either move to another table or stand your ground since no teachers care you can start putting it back on the ones that do this to you, by throwing it back at them. another thing is there a guides counselor you can go and talk to about this? that may work because more or less this is bullin and most schools dont tolerate this act. i hope i helped you some hugs sweetie, best of luck sunshinelady_40940
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Believe me, the only effective to stop them is fighting back, if you can beat the crap out of them, it's best, if you can't, it's better to get beaten up by bullies than just sitting there doing nothing, resort to cop/parents/friends can only provide temporary relief, if you want to end it, you get to stand up for yourself, there is no other way around.
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how long has it been going on?.....usually if you "dont do anything" it gets old and he'll back off and move on to someone with a reaction...but im afraid if you do punch him, that will give him more of a reason to never back off. If you have to do it, Iunderstand you need to take a stand try and do it infront of administrators so it cant go too far, their job is to bring down violence.....but remeber for someone to abuse someone else by picking on them it is because they feel inadequate and need to feel better about themselves. He must have serious mental problems and insecurity.
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If you're being bullied, you need to talk to your parents or teachers and get it stopped. You shouldn't have to go through that.
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girl i have 2 boyz 11&3 and let me tell u i talk to my big son on a regular bout self-love and self-awareness, we talk all the time bout the kids at school, i even left work earlier so i can meet the kids he hang out wit at lunch (thou my boss wasn;'t happy but u no wat my children come first) if he was being bullied i would b up at that school so fast i would want to meet wit the teacher the princapal the parents and let them no i don't take this lightly, but i think the best thing is to try and aviod it from happening, get involed wit school activise from the start let the children in the school no who u r and the chances of ur child gettin bullied is next to none, don't b a chicken bout it thou do wat ever u have to do to mek sure ur child is safe even if that mean calling the police, DON'T TEK IT LIGHTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will in the long run mess up how ur child feels bout him/herself and that alone will lead them to stray!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Unfortunately, having to interact with persons that you do not like is good training for the "real world".  We all have to work, at some time, with someone that we do not want to work with.  The best way to deal with such a person is to treat them with kindness.  If he's looking at you in a threatening way, then smile, and say "How's it going, Man!" and then go on about your business.  If he insults you, then say something like "Hmmm.  I see where you're coming from!" then go on about your business.  In other words, don't feed the fire, and by being "cooperative" you will confuse him when he does not get the reaction that he expected.  On the other hand, if he is threatening you with physical harm, then do not walk away but look him dead in the eye and tell him to "lay off".  Hold your ground, and your eye contact.  Most bullies will run when confronted with determined opposition.  And do alert your teacher or principal if you feel that you are in real danger.
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I got the same thing. Im sitting next to this boy thats a faget. He talks to himself, hits like a maniac and is a big B****. The teacher probably does that so we cant talk. You can always sit next to a person you dont want because maybe your teacher hates you. I hate my teacher and he hates me.
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I myself had these situation before.Here what I did \n1.I ask my child who is the Bully?ASK Your kid every detail\nand write it down.\n2. Contact the teacher and Principal and communicate with both at the same time.\n3.Talk to other parents and see how many time this boy or girl attack other children.\n4.I went to the Principal and file a paper with her or him.\n5.Give the Principal a chance to act.Then if not go to the school District and tell the superintendent and see if he or she wants to stop.If not Call the attorney and One PAPER FROM THE LAWYER WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.\nMAKE SURE YOU TEACH YOU CHILD ABOUT BULLY.\n6.ADVOCATE EVERYONE IN YOUR CHILD CLASSROOM ABOUT BULLY KID.MAKE SURE YOU CAN VISIT YOUR CHILD OFTEN ESPECILLY BREAK TIME AND LUNCH HOUR.
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All threats MUST be taken seriously.  Tell your parents.  Tell the principal.  If no action is taken, call the police.
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Just talk to him and tell him to start standing up for himself. All it takes is a little courage and strength. Tell the bullies to back off and give him some room to breath. believe it or not if he never stands up for himself he will continue to keep getting bullied. people tend to pick on those who they know wont do anything or say anything back to them, but when they defend themselves the bullying will eventually stop.
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"A girl is being bullied by my best mate..."  By "best mate" I assume you mean your boyfriend.  Is he picking on someone weaker and more sensitive than he?  If so, what does that say about his character?  Is the girl a belligerant bully herself and he's trying to put her in his place?  If so, do you have an attraction to bullies, male or female?\n\nThe issues here are 1) your right to choose your own friends; 2) being considerate of people's feelings.\n\nDo you genuinely like this girl for herself?  Do you feel a motherly or sisterly need to protect her?  Are you trying to redeem her or change her or help her grow up or cope?\n\nThink about this.  You might talk to your "best mate" and tell him that you retain the right to choose your own friends, but you want to know if he has genuine concerns about this girl and if she is safe for you.  If he's making fun of her purely for his own enjoyment, tell him you don't like such behavior and you want him to stop.  If he won't stop, forget him and dump him.  The boy who bullies others will also bully you.\n\nIf you decide you want to pursue a friendship with this girl--and if she is a safe person--I suppose you know what to do: talk to her in the hallway, join her in the cafeteria, call her on the phone, and all that. If she responds well to you, wonderful!  \n\nWhatever you decide, keep developing your backbone and your heart and your brain, and I hope you have good friends and good mates!\n\nP.S.  If your "best mate" is your best female friend, my advice is basically the same--although I would have a tiny bit of sympathy for your "best mate's" jealousy.  But don't let her jealousy rule you.\n\nRead the book "Blubber" by Judy Blume.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.