It is almost impossible for person who is very shy with girls so how can he start firstly talking then dating?
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You don't need to look like Brad Pitt or drive a Mercedes to sweep a girl off her feet. Those things, by themselves, will never work on a woman really worth courting. Here's how to let that special girl you've never talked to know that she's appreciated, without being creepy. \n\nSteps \nFind something about her that is truly special. Does she have anything about her that is really unique? A subtle little quirk or feature that you find endearing, but that no one else seems to notice? \nLet her know that you think she's special, without expecting anything (a phone number, a date) in return. Here are some examples:\n\n\n"Hi, I don't mean to make you feel weird or anything, but you've just got the prettiest freckles I've ever seen."\n"Hey, I'm sorry to bother you, but I just wanted to let you know that I've never seen a girl with eyes like yours."\n"Excuse me, but I can't walk out of here without telling you that you have an amazing laugh."\nShe'll probably smile, say thank you, look away, and maybe even blush. Remember that even if ultimately, it doesn't work out, you've at least made her day by giving her a true compliment. However, if she's good looking, she probably gets several compliments a day. Don't come across as needy. Unless you really have your life together, you'll just be one of those other guys. \nOffer her your company, and walk away. That is, right before you leave, give her your phone number, or offer a time and a place to meet, and let her know that if she chooses not to take you up on your offer, you'll never bother her again. Don't give her a chance to accept or reject you. Make your offer and run. Give her a chance to think about it by herself, and wonder "Hmmm...I wonder what he's like." If you do this confidently, she'll feel compelled by her curiosity to get to know you better, and she won't feel like she's being pressured or chased. Also, the fact that she might never see you again will encourage her to follow up on any glimmer of hope she has about you being the guy of her dreams. \nDon't look back. If she doesn't call or show up, leave her alone. She's not interested. Don't take it personally. But if she DOES call you or meet with you, you've probably swept her off her feet! The rest depends on chemistry and compatibility. Good luck! \n\n\n\nTips \nHere's an example of what you can say: "Hey, look, I've gotta go, but you seem like a really amazing person, and I'd like to get to know you better. Here's my number; call me and I'd love to take you out for a cup of coffee and talk. But if you're not interested, that's cool, too. I just didn't want to let this opportunity pass." \nFor inspiration, watch the movie 'Office Space' and study the scene where the main character goes up to the waitress (Jennifer Aniston) and lets her know that he'll be at the restaurant next door. \nThe key is to make a woman feel special and appreciated, but there's a fine line between admiration and harassment. If you cross that subtle line and make her feel uncomfortable, you've ruined your chances of sweeping her off her feet. \nIf your intentions aren't genuine, and your words aren't honest, then even if you get the girl at first, it's bound to end in disappointment. \nSteps 1 and 2 will probably sweep any woman off her feet, even if you've been married for 25 years. \nTry to toe the line between a feel-good compliment and a cheesy pick up line. Be sincere about it, but don't go over the top. \nRemember that all girls are different, and there's no one way to make any girl fall for you. For alternative takes on making a girl get butterflies in her stomach, check out the Related wikiHows below. \n\n\n\nWarnings \nOne thing girls can't stand is when guys are fake. If a guy says, "I thin
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first thing, quit talking badly about yourself. the thing that is least attractive to me in a girl is when she has no confidence in herselfif you are more confident, the easier it will be for you to get what you want.if this guy is shy like you, and has a hard time talking to the opposite sex like you, you are already showing some signs of things in common. just build up some courage, walk up to him and speak to him......about anything, it doesnt matter. when i was your age, i would have killed to have a girl come up and talk to me. i was very shy  and had a hard time chatting up the girls. after a while, i started gaining confidence and it made my whole high school years that more enjoyable, cause i figured out if you were confident, there was always someone to talk to, and if i talked to more girls, the better chance i had to get me one, or two. anyway, suck it up and talk to him, and the next guy and the next. it will always get easier as you do it more.
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For the shy male, start with the internet. This type of forum lends itself greatly to those who lack social skill. True personality decides how the relationship works. The level of safety depends on what you are willing to reveal about yourself. If someone is interested in you, you may have major keyboard time ahead of you. \n\nRelax and be yourself. People can sense when you have bad intentions or if you're not being genuine. Start off with friendly conversation. Don't force your way into someone's personal life. If they want to talk about it with you, they will.\n\nThink about what you have to offer in a relationship. People who can make people feel good about themselves have a better chance of maintaining a relationship.
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well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
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Cute girls and the same as plain girls. You need to start small. Tell yourself that you are worth listening too. This will boost your confidence. Try to stick to topics that you know. Think about what you want to say before you say it. Look the person in the eye and smile. You can do it. Tell your self that and eventually you will begin to believe it.
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How about being geniune first and foremost, cos girls well most can suss out phoney's who are after only one thing...\n\nStarting a conversation is a start without being crude, asking her questions whilst listening about herself and dislikes ,likes etc..\nThen some info about what you like to do etc is a start....
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Ask yourself is the possibility of getting this girl worth the effort of overcoming your insecurities and shyness? Is holding her, seeing her smile, laugh, waking up to see her face in the morning worth putting for effort to change?  You're the only one that can actually do that, though here is a little advice that may help you in talking to her:\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nAs for the no being able to relate to others because you don't drink of dance... You're not the only one, a lot of people don't enjoy the bar and club scenes, you'll find others that feel the same way. If the people you want to hang out with do goto these places you can go with them everyonce in a while. You really don't need experience to be with friends at most of them.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful tod
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uhhhhh first of im not bi, or and im not a girl either.\n\nBut dude, maybe its becuase your a little shy?  Go on and test it out, by talking to the cutest girl around the area randomly and introduce yourself.  try to start a conversation from there. annnnd if you cant do it.  It Definitly means your shy.  \n\nAnd there are no particular steps you should follow, becuase if i was gonna sell you my guide to love,  you would need to have my personality to actually make it possible for you.  \n\nAnd plus there would be millions and millions of books out there if we all sold ours you know?\n\nSo bro, he that smile ever heads your way again, just smile back, and maybe 5 minutes later, appoach that person... Oh yeah and there is 2 kinds of smiles.. the one that tells you hi ;D   and.... eww hi..  try to see both of them, becuase they are hugely different.
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Let me tell you from someone who suffers from shyness.  It gets you nothing face up to it and just tell him next time you are alone with him and he will tell you his feelings. (I know it's easy to say, but all you have to do is get it started and the rest is easy)  Tell him you have something to say and just say it let him know your nervous and he will understand if he's a decent person.
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haha yes, there's another guy out there like me! Yeah, he shows that he's interested. The thing with shy types are that a lot of the time, they won't start the conversation as readily, so you'll have to start it, but once they get more comfortable with you, it will get easier :)
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I would suggest approaching them within the first three seconds of noticing them. Don't think about anything. Just go up to her and speak. Make sure to maintain eye contact. Make sure you smile.\nJust speak honestly, tell them your mostly shy, but you want to get to know them.\n\nIf you fail then don't worry about it. Don't kick yourself in the arse - its not the end of the world. Every time you do it, you'll get better at knowing what to say... just make sure your attention is on the person your talking to (not on your own behavior or attitude). Women like confidence. Even if you can fake it.
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As they say practice makes perfect. Just try casually talking to different girls and see what happens. You could also try joining a club or something that alot of girls are in so you can be more socialized and to face you fear of shyness.
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I do not think this will be to much of a problem it appears you are shy and may have a fear of rejection until you overcome those fears it may be you asking this question ten years from now.  Start talking you are the only one that can help yourself get out of this situation.  Heres a good tip go out with some guy friends \nif you see a girl you would like to meet and are scared see if one of your friends would break the ice for you like saying hi my friend would like to meet you it could be that easy.
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well i was always she when talking to girls. i chated with a good friend alot on IM and got to know her and others. if you are really shy like i was. start off talking to someone you already know or chat with someone on the computer it is a lot easyer then in person.
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If you aren't that comforatble around girls, get with a shy one so it can seem like you are more brave... =) But if you want to break out of your shell, get with a girl that isn't shy and will always have something to talk about, so you wont have to think about what to talk about.Don't try to get a GF rite now, you should talk to a lot of good girls and get comfortable first, then get a GF.
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Well... as a guy myself, I personally don't think that there's any great secret to getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. If shyness is a really bad problem for you then... just sit with some guys and join in their conversation a bit (btw go with your friends though). Seriously the guys probably won't mind.
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Always have something to say when you are around them. It doesnt have to be the most refined statements that you have to make, but anything simple will start a conversation. If not sure, ask every day questions and you will get an answer. That may lead you to asking another question and you get another answer. Probably then you too will be asked and you answer back. By and by, you will realise that you are warm with this person or persons and the shyness will become history.   :-)