At what point do women grow up and start appreciating good guys?
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it really depends on the girl, some start appreciating a nice guy when they're in their teens and others never really do.\n \n I think its funny when some women say they want a "bad boy" because in their minds their thinking a handsome hot rodder who plays by his own rules but yet is still a hopeless romantic, GET REAL LADIES!\n \n  They also say they want somebody who is more interesting, well how about they date a pyromaniac? He'll defiantly keep em on their toes. Or how about a guy with multiple personality disorder? then shes not just dating one guy...shes dating a whole LOAD of guys and they all have something interesting in mind.\n\n  I'm sorry i seem to have rambled, fact is, like i said, it varies girl to girl, and not to be one sided, guys need to start appreciating a good girl when they see one too.\n\n So close your eyes, toss a coin into a fountain and make a wish that you'll find that special someone who you appreciate and who appreciates you.
1093243
Wait a few years.  They will catch up and develop a more mature attitude.  Be warned, however, some men will never like the idea of dating women taller than them.
1039507
Many women say they wish there were more nice guys in the world. I bet most women want to know why there are so many A-holes in the world. Well I will answer that but most women will not like the answers. The truth is that 9 times out of 10 a nice guy will finish last. Face it a guy you call ‘a so sweet guy’ is usually followed by the word ‘friend’, not ‘date’. Nice guys are not exciting to allot of women, but bad boys are sexy. A bad boy represents danger, thrills, and excitement. All these factors go hand in hand with sexuality. I’m sorry to say that there are many bad boys in the world because they have figured out women love A-holes. Just look at how many girls complain about being with an A-hole, if you were with him he did something right. You do not see any posts of women complaining about the large number of competition for the squeaky cleanest boy in town.
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Good Question!\n\nWell…Over the course of my thirty-nine years of living, I’ve noticed this time and time again. And the thing that I find interesting about this is, most women that I’ve known over the years say that they want a good man, yet, they choose the opposite. It basically ties into the example of the male in their lives as they grew up. Most of the ladies, didn’t have a true example of a man or father figure that displayed how a woman was suppose to be treated, therefore, when it came time for them to choose their mate they had a tendency to choose the wrong one. Have you ever noticed how a certain lady can continue to choose the same type of man (abusive, etc.)? Well, if you would sit down and have a conversation with her then you will find out why she does so. Somewhere within herself she feels that she deserves it and she’s not worthy to receive love, which is not true at all. My sister was one of them, but now she’s learned how to love herself and the man that’s in her life knows how to treat a lady.\n\nBe blessed.
295789
Women always say they want a good guy. But between the ages of 18 to 25 women go out and party. Clubs, bars, Vegas, Spring Break anyone? The question you should be asking yourself is, what kind of guys was I dating in previous relationships? Why didn't they work? Then take a look at yourself and ask why would anyone want to be with me? What do I have to offer? Have some confidence in yourself, get to the gym, because we all need to work out and be healthy. Then get involved with something. Find a hobby. Then find people with the same kinds of interests. THEN YOU WILL FIND A GOOD GUY FOR YOU.
893182
I know how you feel. It seems no matter how much you do for them or how well you treat them they still disrespect you, show too little appreciation, and there never seems to be enough of a  balance, or reward in the relationship for men. IE women take more than they give and think about their own needs more than their partners. I can't give up though because I want to be happy with someone and will keep looking until I find that woman who gives as good as she gets
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First of all it's not in the human nature to see the good in people. Secondly, u cant blame anyone man or woman for questioning gestures especially when it comes to a man woman relationship (especially if ur dealing with attractive members of the opposite sex). Like if a guy approaches an attractive lady  and if the guy is attractive himself (or vice versa) the first thing on ur mind is usually not 'oh he's such a nice guy' it's usually where's the attached string or what does he/she want. Some people try to deny this NATURAL reaction and be like oh I didn't think anything of it. Granted, sometimes there aren't any hidden agenda's but unfortunately an evolution has occurred in the boy girl relationship world (partly thanks to the media) so u just gotta go through the whole process. Prove to whoever it is ur interested in that ur sincere and see if it works out.
433007
sweetheart, it is not that they don't want the good guy first ...sometimes you just can't tell the difference. unfortunately for women, there usually are no flashing lights and ringing bells to let us know that the guy is one of the as..... out there.
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Don't listen to the person above. Nice guys arent always left behind. It just takes more time to get ahead but once you get ahead you stay ahead. For starters don't ever change who you are just let some qualities fall and others high light them more. Let say if you always hold the door for someone then one day don't. I can guarantee that you will respect yourself everytime you hold it after that. Just by making the smallest gestures you can change someone's life so don't think its going un noticed its just foggy right now. My website is below
958525
guys can be jerks ... and some never grow up. some are just superficial and never outgrow it. there are a few of us good guys out there... but there are becoming fewer and fewer of us by the day.. because parents these days don't teach their kids to respect women the way we were. I mean kids running around calling women ho's and such..and hitting them. not good shows absolutely no respect for women.
763133
Yes there are decent men out there....love us never having to say you're sorry, because if you love someone, you wouldn't hurt them in the first place....a women's worth is so high, they are the life bringer into this world.........treating a lady is easy... if you truly love them....IT comes so naturally...
605928
cuz women smell good, are softer, and more intimate to be with.\n\nPerhaps a good man is still in your future, have fun for now
1003644
Good girls are the types that will be respectable enough to settle down with. When a guy  is a man-ho, he's doing a ton of woman-hos. He doesn't respect them and therefore won't settle down with them. A respectable girl is the one that will keep his attention, mostly because she's such a phenomenon in this world. A chick that won't flap her legs because a dude has a wad of cash or a flashy car is harder to find than a guy that will appreciate it.
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Best Answer!\n\nI detect that recently you have come to a conclusion that men are demanding or suggestive towards what a woman should be. So much so they make you feel inadequate or less of person because they seek something from you that you cannot achieve in a short period of time.  \n\nBottom-line - It takes balance - mentally and physically to maintain a healthy relationship. \n\nA good man in time will develop confidence in his ability and will express a sense of being proud for his accomplishments as a good provider / home maker / etc. What most men have to learn is the type of woman he has on his team. Many of women will respect a man for his ability to be a good man, but do not want a man constantly reminding them he is the KING of the castle type of stuff.  Typically cats that get into that type of assertion need a pat on the back or someone to stroke their ego to make him feel like a man. That's not balanced. \n\nWomen on the other hand can enhance that assertion by not vocally/mentally showing up when its needed. She may play into the role of being needy and horribly insecure. She may always allow him to make decisions and suggestions - not learning to speak up and share her opinion concerning issues. So he figures he has to  take lead all the time. This too is not balanced. \n\nInstead of figuring this or that about what a man or women should its best to learn to communicate effectively ( not argue) in all areas of the relationship - from the bed to a night on the town learn to speak what's really good for both of you verses having this underline expectation of what a person should do. It will not take away from things naturally happening, but instead amplify things because you remove the doubts and negative uncertainty. This will clearly lower negative comments about a person not doing "their part" or feelings of someone is putting you down.
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I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
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there is lots of women that like nice guys. the bad guys usually get the attention because they make a move first. go ahead and be nice, but not shy.
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That's interesting!  What is a good woman?  I'm a life-long psychologist without will to serve other patients since I'm not yet done with serving myself.  I'm some kind of data hop/pig/greedy for it!  Knowing a thing just get my mind into euphoric excitement.  like WOW!  I DONE LEARNED ABOUT A NEW MENTAL ASPECT OF SOMETHING SIGNIFICANT!  I think, I search my mind's places and look into the tiniest boxes and what do I garner on the aspect of a 'good male,' and I'm a male too, one and all, there is no good male.  So yes, hop back to it, what is a good woman?  PLEASE TELL ME!