Do you it's wrong for a married man to view pornography when it makes his wife upset?
370148
Yes it is wrong, cheating or adultry begins in the heart and the eyes are the door to the heart. Even if she is not upset, he shouldnt be looking.
1002290
well, i would be asking myself a few questions....\ndo you not like it b/c it's porn or do you not like it b/c you feel that he is fantasizing about something that you can never be???\n\ni don't think that you're necessarily wrong....our feelings aren't ever wrong, but you may be overeacting a bit.\n\ntalk to him about it.  explain how it makes you feel...whether it's him just watching porn or if it's the asian factor....talk to him.\nmaybe he can only watch it alone since it bothers you.  or, maybe if you both like to watch the porn you can get some that you both like.\n\nusually women's and men's tastes in porn are different...so, try to work it out instead of just getting mad about it and demanding he stop.\n\ntake care and i hope things work out.
453472
Yes, it is. \nI found porn on my hubby's laptop, and (after I deleted it all, of course), I REALLY let him know how much it bothers me. He hasn't watched porn since. \n\nYou are his wife, and he should respect you, and to not do what bothers you. Contrary to popular belief, men do NOT have to look at porn...it's not a necessity for them to continue living. \n\nMy suggestion to you is to talk to your hubby about it...seriously talk. Also, consider all the reasons why he would be looking at porn. For example, if you two are not as intimate as you once were because of busy lives (jobs, kids, ect...). If this is the case, then do whatever you can to make time for him. Men need to feel attractive, desirable and wanted just like women need to. \nI wish you best luck!\n-Pegasus
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What transpires in the mind, also transpires in the heart. If a married guy glances at another gal because she's attractive, there's nothing wrong with that. But if he ogles her and undress her with his eyes, then it's an issue.\n\nThere's a book titled: 'Pornography; an Affair of the Mind'. The author's husband got addicted to online porn.  The mind responds to certain stimuli; some good some bad. The key is to reinforce the good stimuli and avoid the bad.  Check out the book and read it with him.
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As long as you're both comfortable with watching it, I would say no. It can spice up your sex life and possibly introduce you to new ideas, although porn sex isn't usually that realistic, especially as far as women are portrayed. If you both have no moral or religious reason not to, why not? After watching some, you can check in with each other to make sure that you're both still comfortable and not jealous or anything like that.
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we jsut pretend to hide it so when you find we can be all " omg what are you doing looking through that stuff! my friend sent it to me" in reality we just dont care. want your man to stop looking at porn? then supply him with enough pics and videos of you wearing, doing, saying all kinds of kinky stuff. chances are we will still look at porn though.
921920
Yes, it is too much to ask.  I don't see what having kids, him being on call, how often you have sex, or who you live with having anything to do with it.  You state these things but you don't say how they are relevant to your wish.  You haven't stated any reasons why he should not watch porn.  Now if you're saying that he watches it in front of your kids, masturbates to it as your in-laws walk through, leaves it on when he goes out on a call where just anyone could see it, and doesn't have sex with you more often *because* of porn, then you might have a complaint.  However, you say none of those things.
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Sit this silly little idiot down and tell him YOUR house rules!!!!!!!!!\n\nNO PORN DVD's\n\nNO ADULT TV.\n\nFor God's sake - he is supposed to be an parent.  How would he feel if another man came into his house and showed his children pornography.  If he doesn't get this then kick him straight out the door.\n\nMen like to make women feel that unless they put up with his little porn collection then we are prudes......BULLSHIT!\n\nI have been married to the same man for 20 years.  We have three daughters who live with us.  If he ever thought that my children should be subjected to images that are not only inappropriate but offensive then it would be the end of him.\n\nNO COMPROMISES.......if he need porn that bad he can make HIS choice and go and get it - but not in your family home.\n\nAlso, it's a little strange, if you ask me, that he like to leave them around small children - are you sure he's ok?
92179
Yes, if not a physical affair, then an emotional one.  When a married man is sharing his time w/a single woman, he is sharing intimacies with her that should be reserved for his wife.
885695
You will get 100 men answering this question saying that all men watch porn, let it go, yada, yada, yada--I hope these same men tell their daughters the same thing...Porn is complete disrespect to marriage and all women..I aint puttin up with it--period.\n\nI bet every man who writes to you is a so called "Christian"--but these same guys ignore Jesus and The Bible which says that "Any man who looketh at a woman in lust has already comiited adultery"...\nPORN IS A SIN.
907376
No i would not be offended if he masturbates in fact i would love it if he makes me watch lol.Nothing is really wrong just like how we might have a  ravenous appetite they also have 1 if he was masturbating wen he gets a thought about me then i wudnt have any problem at all in fact i wud encourage him
733953
All men are visual creatures.  Most men like to look at the female body, we find it attractive.  We do not have sex with a woman based on the way we "feel" about her, it's about the way she looks.  Just because your husband is getting the visual stimulation from watching porn, it doesn't mean that he isn't attracted to you.  He propbaly lied to you about the porn because you admitted to watching it "to make him feel okay" and he believes that you dissaprove of it and he doesn't want to offend you.  So, if you are truly okay with it, let it ride.  If not, he'll keep hiding it.  Nevertheless, boys will be boys, don't let it get to you.
129088
silly. nothing wrong with watching it .maybe you should watch with him it came do wonders to your sex life
815418
Odds are he is looking at internet porn. But don't worry...EVERYBODY looks at internet porn. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It just something guys do. Ignore it. (my wife just makes fun of me for doing it)
976719
Its not your fault, he is looking for excuses and you are the one he is blaming.  I dont have a problem with men or women looking at porn, but when it takes the place of intimacy between the two of you then I consider it a problem.  You shouldnt have to have sex with him in order for him to stop looking at porn, he is looking at it anyway, so nothing you can do and have done has been able to stop him.  If your sex life with him was enhanced by his looking at porn it would be a totally different matter, but its not.  It sounds to me like sex to you now is a duty rather than being a pleasure.\n\nI think this man has a problem and you are taking his problems and placing them on your shoulders.\n\nI dont know what the answer is because you have done and are doing everything and he is still blaming you for an unsatisfactory sex life.  What is he doing....is he comparing the women he sees in the pornography with you?  If that is the case it is wrong.  He has to stop it.  You need to tell him that his watching pornography is getting in the way of a healthy sex life, and you need to tell him straight that its not you who has the problem, its him.\n\nWhilever you accept the blame for his shortcomings, he will continue to treat you like this.  Its seems you are doing all the doing and he is doing nothing to cement your relationship.  If I were you I would just tell him straight, tell him if he doesnt enjoy sex with you and would rather watch porn then it is a waste of time having sex.  Turn it around on him,  make him feel "bad" for a change.  He is having it all his own way and what are you getting out of it?.....A whole lot of stress.  You probably do not feel attractive, sexy or even worthy.  You have to stop lowering yourself in trying to make him happy.  Its called reverse psychology.  Withdraw the sex totally and see how he likes it.  Tell him if he is not satisfying you and all you feel now is having sex with him is a chore and you wont do it any more.  You could even go as far as telling him that if he doesnt find you attractive and he is not interested in satisfying you, then you are sure their would be plenty of men who would.  Take the hard line with him.  He's got you over a barrel...he is blaming you for the lack of intimacy.  You are doing everything right, yet it is still not good enough for him.  Hes just a selfish SOB and you need to tell him that.  Your needs are just as important as his needs, so stop seeing yourself as inferior to him.  You are his equal.  Yeah, maybe you do have some insecurities, but I bet if he loved you like he should your insecurities would slowly disappear.  I believe your insecurities are being made worse by his behaviour.  He needs to take some blame in all of this because I honestly think he is the one who is more to blame.  He is the one who is making you insecure.  Stand your ground with him, be strong.  Stop pandering to him all the time.  Be strong and make him accept his part of the blame.\n\nYou deserve much better than this, you really do.
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all it is ,is a fantasy .As long as they are just watching porn there shouldnt be a problem my husband does it and he only does it while im sleeping and it can be better soemtimes cause you could be real tired so just  relax and let him do his thing.
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You can approach this with the knowledge that he is probably not cheating as porn fills that need to go outside the home. Guys are hardwired to have multiple partners and often porn fills that need. \nThe other over riding truth is men have the ability to view women in porn very differently than they view their wives. You , as wife, are the bastion of decency and honor not some cheap hussy who would appear on video. Therefore the women in film are in no way a comparison to you. Nor do we want them to be.  They are tawdry lust, you are our wives. Whether this makes you feel any better may be debatable. \nI think that, in a quiet moment , you explain what you discovered.\nTell him it disturbed you more than you thought it would, just as you did here.  Talk about your feelings instead of what he did which take the accusations out of the loop.\nIf you have not perceived some lack of affection or loss of sexual contact you can rest that it is not about you. The women there are detached objects which do things we would not request from our wives. They don't say no. They always make noise. They don't require affection. Consideration for them is not an issue. Unless he is hung like the proverbial horse the guys are not like him either.\nAsk him if there is something they do that he is missing with you.\nApart from frequency I'll bet he does not name much.\n\nGood Luck\n\nWomen view sex as a statement of intimacy. Men view sex with their wives like that sometimes. There are times when it is about release, plain and simple. It is release without dealing with any requirement to consider the feelings of anyone except themselves. There is a component which says just do it and requires no effort. I'll wager ther are few wives who would deal with the amount of sexual encounters required to totally deal with that because what goes with that is Wham Bam Thank You Mamm.  So unless its affecting your time together it is not about you. \nBTW the addiction thing is wrong too.