how to communicate with a father who is cold and inconsiderate?
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Perhap's you may never be able to comminicate the way you would like to be able to...but don't let that stop you from trying! You didn't say how old you are,but if you are young (younger than 18,say)you might try finding out something about  the other person and do some research on it so you can bring it up in conversation sometime. Maybe it could be something about his childhood..almost everone likes to talk about themselves!\n If you are older (an adult) you may have to face the fact that being distant may be the only way he knows how to handle himself. Or you could try taking him out to a function that you think he may enjoy,something that he is interested in. This would give the two of you some common ground to discuss. Maybe this would open the door to other conversation!  Good Luck. And try to remember something I had to learn some time ago...if you can't make the people in your family love you, let the people who already love you be your family.
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Find a time when he is relaxed and watching tv. Ask him if you can talk about something that is really important to you and that you need his help. \nWhen expressing your feelings we teach children to do this:\nState what you are feeling:\nDad, I am really lonely. I love you but I am getting really depressed and it scares me. When I am home alone during the day, I feel really lonely because......................\nthen say exactly what you feel and speak from the heart.\nIn the end, ask if he can help you.
92224
respect the fact that he doesnt want to talk to you but try to find out WHY he doesnt want to talk to you and fix the problem
387490
Just wait, don't worry.  However, don't give him things unless he asks for them.  Like food.  I knew a guy who didn't talk until he was like 5 because he got everything he wanted without needing to talk.  Try refusing to give him what he wants.
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Happy Father's Day!  I like the idea of asking him.  Even though it is your day, ask him if he knows a good activity/place for celebrating Father's Day.  If he picks a place that is totally for him, ask him if that is something a father would enjoy.  Or, go to his place first, then tell him about yours.  Another option would be to pick somewhere that the two of you can be alone.  Enjoy the time you have together before he grows up.  (and he becomes too cool to hang out with his father or becomes too busy)  I like the kayak idea.
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Send a letter, email, IM phone call or in person, which ever way you are most comfortable with. A closed mouth does not get fed so if you don't step up and tell him someone else will before you get the chance and you will miss out! Good luck
421623
If you feel that by his "silence", he is uninterested in what you have to say about your child, then you should let him know how you feel, irregardless of whether it seems "a little silly".  Forget about figuring out "the puzzle of the male brain" - figure out what your own feelings mean to you and act upon them.
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Dear Jessica,\nI'm sorry.  \n\nPray about the broken relationship and be patient with your dad.\nFor the time being just send holiday cards or Thinking About You cards and don't expect anything for the time being.\n\nWhen something your son does reminds you of your dad, write a note and tell him about it.  Send a picture.  Be genuine.  Love him.\n\nAbove all draw near to your heavenly Father who loves you, your husband, your son and your dad.
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Be sneaky. What is your fathers favorite thing to do? Partake in this activity once a week. He is probably feeling lonely because he thinks you find him to be a burden. Garden together and plat his favorite fruits and veggies!  Take him fishing! Reassure him that you love him and that you are with him because you want to make sure he taken care of. Take him out to eat......\nGet into life together.....\n:)
707647
ask him to lay off. you and the baby come first not an over bossy father
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Tell him his Dad that he is an idiot.\n\nHe needs to a diet specialist.
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Spend more time having conversations with him. Don't let anyone use baby talk on him and don't let him watch shows like the teletubbies
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You need to tell your dad that work is work and home is home and that they need to be kept seperate. That you want to be treated like all the other workers (if there are any) and that when you are at work you will treat him like he is your boss and not your dad. As soon as you both leave for the day then resume the father/son relationship. \n\nIf he is a decent man he will understand this.
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Dear Skittles ...\n\nHe has lost his father and needs to have other grown men (who have their head on straight) to be with and to talk with.\n\nThis is very important, and he might not realize what is going on with him.\n\nHe is at an age where this is even more important.\n\nSee if he will have a look at the website below.
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DAY at a TIME. If you still love him then try reverse psychology. Be nice to him, agree with what he says, and he will not know what to do or say. Be mature and tell him, ....OH, I am so tired of us not getting along...it is so old. Interfere in your life? He is still part of your life because of the kids, and he will always be a part. Try it, what could it hurt? I went through the same things, my kids would say....she wants us to call her mom... Then I said ...how lucky...you have two moms. ... And honey, if something were to happen to me, then she would take care of you. IT works !!  I used psychology to get control of any situation..  Oh  and if you want to get him back , just tell him.. I had a dream of us, when we first met, do you remember or say positive things, like...the kids did something today and it reminded me of you, they sure are just like their father. If you are still married, there is still hope if that is what you really want. Good Luck !
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Simple: Ask him what the problem is. \nIf he doesn't have an answer, then start ignoring him. It will make you feel better and he might then start wanting to talk to you.
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Talk to him tell him you want to take things very slow