I'm a female attracted to my female best friend.  What should I do?
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Here are some questions to help you think about this.  I know it's hard to see your friends objectively, especially when you're attracted to them.  Still, try and be honest and ask:\n\nIs she likely to tell someone else what you've said to her? (Does she tell you the secrets of her other friends?  If so, you can't really trust her with yours)\n\nIs she single?  (If she's not single, the answer is no, don't tell her.  She'll tell her boyfriend- and even if she doesn't tell him, there's no future in it)\n\nIs she serious about an anti-gay religion? \n\nHas she ever mentioned any curiosity about lesbianism?\n\nOkay- my honest opinion is that it's a bad idea.  It's a rare friend that will be able to handle that kind of confession without getting weird.  As with most friends, a sexual attraction isn't worth losing the friendship, especially if you can't really see yourself going into an all-out lesbian relationship. As it stands, you're going to confess you want to hook up with her- for what benefit?  Say she's interested in experimenting with you.  You hook up, and then what?  Are you still friends?  Will you be jealous when she still wants to have sex wiht other people?  Think about the long term consequences.  \n\nWhat if she isn't interested at all?  At best, she'll pity you, and mistake all your friendly overtures in the future as attempts at seduction or puppy love.   \n\nBest case scenarios: you tell her, you hook up, you both discover that this works for you and you start a long-term committed sexual relationship.  Or, you hook up, one night only, you both think it's fun but agree you both need a dick for full satisfaction, end of story.  \n\nChances are these fairy tale endings in which you're both on the same page won't happen, and you'll lose a good friend in the process.
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The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
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i agree, i dont think u really want to have them in your life anymore...find someone else that you will love even more than her! your best friend is going out with a girl you love. a true friend wouldnt do that...so think about it like that. you will find someone that is perfect for u so dont worry about it! \n<3
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That happens alot when you're best friend is of different sex. You hang around every day, you talk all the time, so you start to have a crush. You can like him, but you should be aware that if something does happen between yous, then your friendship may never be the same agian. Though you may be happyily in love forever, if that changes, the friendship could be lost. My best friend is a male, and I never had a crush on him, mainly because I know how he is with woman, so I could never date him. Alot of times, girls wish they could have a guy like their best friend. Just think about what you really want to do, and act on it. You only live once.
121172
Just be a real friend to both of them. They both like each other. If you make a move for her, you could lose both of them. There may be another chance later on if this is meant to be.
462245
Well how do you feel about her?  Do you like her a lot?\nDo you have fun together?  Do you confide in each other?  \nThese are some of the things that equal a best friend.  And if you want her to be your best friend, than you need to be her best friend as well. Then to be sure, you can just ask her...and she will tell you the truth!   :)
526572
See where it goes. From the outside looking in, without details, I would say you are blessed. Every woman should be so lucky to fall in love with her best friend and vise versa. Knowing that you have found someone who can truly appreciate all that you can bring into his life is a wonderful feeling. \nAnd the same with you, knowing what his faults and strentghs are, put you both ahead in the game of love.\n\nEnjoy it, in my opinion, you are both blessed.
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My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
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i think you were attracted to her because she grows different comapred from her childhood.\nif you love her, don't make the temptation lead in your mind. face the reality. god is watching us and he knows what we are doing. if you can't hold it, live it to the god because he find way to put you in right situation. just pray.\n\nin addition : i think you are a good guy. god give you a trial to confirm that good guy still exist in this world.\nif i'm right, hope my becoming bf is like you.
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I wouldn't make a move on my best friend without being 100% sure he feels the same thing. You might be risking a lot if u tell him and he doesnt feel the same. \n\nSo i'd say if u like other guy start from there... maybe it works with that guy and u forget about ur best friend... if it doesnt work then just wait u have something more concrete before telling anything to yur best friend.
651179
If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.
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I'd say just give it time. I felt the same towards a girl at my school and we spent a lot of time together but it was never going to happen. It sounds like you know that as well. Stay near her but don't cross that line.\n\nI never did with my friend and everything was good. It was still 5 years after that until I came out. I'm not saying that you are lesbian. I never had any sexual feelings for this friend - I just liked her more than others.\n\nLike you say - don't go obsessing over her. You will become more clear about what you want if she can keep a straight mind. It may just be a fantasty thing because you seem no way inclined to go lesbian. It may just be hormones and discovering who you are or you may just have a natural curiosity.
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well i know im bi-curious not sure if its the same, but i know cuz i want to be with a guy, but i get very attracted to women sometimes, i think its more of a casual thing, but i know its normal for a women to be attracted to the same sex or at least curious, women know what women like! and women are usually better looking they were built to be admired and looked at. when a beautiful woman walks by, everyone looks not just men, even straight women! for your friend, me and my best friend were both curious and got together a few times and it was great felt as if it made our bond closer, but if its only one sided you can tell and should drop it and maybe look else where for your feelings, you dont want to scare her especially when shes a close friend. im sure if you are close enough she might be able to sit and listen to your concerns and maybe even help!
843207
How does he feel about her? The noble thing for you to do is to confirm the platonic relationship btw you and him to her if he is interested in pursuing.\nIf not, your female friend shouldn't feel hurt on account of you. It's not your fault if he doesn't feel the same way about her.
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I take it dat u dont dig d best frienhd.in an ideal world d best friend shud back off,n let her friend b happy.d girl dat u like wuld probably b feeling guilty if her going out with u wuld break her friend's heart.or she might just take u.\nu might want to wait n see how things work out for a while..until d bst frriend finds sumone else to like?den ask ur dream girl out.GUD LUCK..
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If he truly is your best friend as you say then you will do the right thing.  Let her down easy and tell her that your friendship is more valuable than some girl.
569068
I'M IN A SIMILAR SITUATION LIKE THAT. ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS A MALE AND HE EXPRESSED HIS FEELINGS FOR ME AND I TOLD HIM THAT WE WOULD BE BETTER AS FRIENDS. WE ARE STILL AS CLOSE AS WE EVER WERE. I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD FEAR LOSING HER AS A FRIEND BECAUSE IF YOU ALL ARE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS, YOU EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS TO HER SHOULD NOT CHANGE WHAT YOU TWO HAVE. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST AND YOU SHOULD JUST GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK...