I have cybersex somtimes and my bf doesent know. Am I cheating?
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Yes, you are cheating. Some people say cybersex is not cheating because you do not engage in Physical contact with that other person, but remember that you are engaging in an act of intimacy and sexual content with someone else, BEHIND YOUR BOYFRIENDS BACK. If thats not Cheating, Then I dont know what it is.\n\nI  think cheating also has to do with what the couple considers cheating.\n\nSome people dont think Oral sex is cheating(Remember Bill Clinton) I read an article about guys who had oral sex outside marriage but Never intercourse, Because they didnt think it was cheating.\n\nOther men go as far as stating that, If you do not love that other person, then intercourse is not cheating , because you are Not Making love, you are just having sex with someone(this, I think is just Bullshit LoL)\n\nFor people in an open relationship, Sex with other partners is not cheating, as long as they keep committed to each other and are honest about it.\n\nKissing someone else is also a way of cheating, and, In some cultures, even flirting or hitting on someone whos not your partner is considered cheating.\n\n\nI personally believe that any act in which you engage in things of a sexual nature, behind your boyfriends back, Is cheating.\n\nNow, think of your particular case. Why are you hiding it? If your boyfriend found out, would he get mad? If you found out your bf is having cybersex, would you consider that cheating?  If you answer yes, then I think you are cheating.
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you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
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I think you are paranoid.  Until you have some kind of solid evidence you are just looking to far into it.  Besides what if you set him up and find out that he isn't cheating.  He's gonna be pissed when he finds out.  Do you really want to risk it for a hunch.  You need to talk to him about it.  Just come out and talk about it.
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Well, all sorts of issues going on here.  For one, were you snooping around, looking for stuff, do you not trust him, has he cheated on you before?  Basically there is a trust issue here, but i'm not on the guys side, he should also be open if he's being invited to girl's parties, and he has alot of girls numbers that you don't know?  Not a good sign.  Figure out if you guys still trust each other, if not, after 4 years, get out, do your own thing, learn to trust.
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Not sure about cheating, but if he is keeping secrets from you that sure isn't a good sign.\n\nK
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no i'm not cheating......i love my guy n i'd never leave him no matter how hot the guy across the street is....you have very good princeples,don't let these idiots trick u into thinking cheating on ur partner is cool,cuz it's not hun.....it just hurts people n gives u a bad reputation..........good luck,luv ya
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If it was my man then I would flip out...first of all it started off as work ?  blah...sit down have a talk with him tell him that you are on to his online cheating because it is cheating and that if he is not willing to quit being online then you will have to move on and move on...if he is looking for love online he  obviously does not love you.
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If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
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Maybe he gave them to you so you COULD snoop to know he's not messing around. \n\nMaybe he did it to throw you off and he has a whole other screen name he uses for the things he doesn't want you to find. \n\nMaybe he did it in hopes you would give him your passwords. \n\nEither way, you trust him or you don't. If you deep down honestly truely did, you wouldn't snoop. You'd forget every password you have of his and go on about your own business. If you have even a little doubt in your head, maybe you should rethink the relationship. He obviously trusts you enough to give you that kind of personal info probably hoping you'd never have to stoop so low you'd spy on him.
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If you feel like you need to keep it a secret from  him, then yes it is wrong.  If you do it for more than just casual companionship, then it is cheating even if its not in a physical sense.
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I would be pretty upset if I found out my husband had “secret female friends,” I'm sorry I mean “private friends.” It sounds fishy. I would be suspicious. You need to ask more questions...If it is so harmless then why would he hide it from you for so long? Why are all of his private friends female? I wouldn't accuse him of cheating entail there was prove. But you should defiantly keep a close eye on this situation.
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YES ITS STILL CHEATING OF YOUR BF DOESNT KNOW BOUT IT
169159
That's a ridiculous question. How should anyone on the internet know whether your boyfriend is being faithful or not?
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happyhere,\n\nThe fact he is going to a website doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  Speaking bluntly, he masturbates, he looks at other women, he picks his toenails, etc.  In short, he does all the normal "guy" stuff.\n\nI know it might be difficult to reconcile how he can be "so in love" with you and be involved in these "distractions" but it is very possible.  He might be curious, he might have decided that he wants a certain kind of relationship with you and he will get other devious needs fulfilled outside of your relationship.  It might also mean he secretly wants you to do some of that stuff, but he doesn't have the guts to ask.\n\nLong story short, if this bothers you, and it obvioulsy does to the point that you threatened to end the relationship over it, consider talking to him about this.  You don't have to tell him you caught him a second time, but you should ask him if he is really fulfilled - both emotionally and physically...or ask him on a scale of 1-10, or some other way that might get him to open up without feeling threatened - it won't be easy because this is a delicate subject.\n\nAnyway, good luck.\nC
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Dumo Him and move on. Tell him of the STD and HPV. and leave. I am a believer that once a cheater, always a cheater. he is/was very sexually active it sounds like. be careful if you stay with him. It may not have been his first, and not his last. If he does not choose to change is activity, he wont.\nAlso kick him in the nuts. (as Cartman would say...haha) jk
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I think that it is cheating as well. Like you I am in the same boat. At first I was very angry and upset and so I asked other people if I was over reacting. The thing that sucks is that every one has their own opinion. I was getting different answers from them all. I say once you have seen one you have seen them all and there is no point to wanting to look elsewhere, otherwise what the heck are they with us for, just a recepticle? I am in a predicament my self but with strip clubs and porn so don't feel all alone. Keep your chin up and try to work on a resolution and compromise. I hope this helps a little to know that you're not alone. Just so you know if you let it continue to bother you it will become a trust and respect issue. So don't badger him to change because it won't work.
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if it's more than one person independently telling you then he is probably cheating.\n\nlook at the character of the people telling you and decide if they would want to hurt you; or keep you from hurt