How to act smartly when your boss scolding you loudly to make you resign for nothing?
373693
Firstly you should know that when anyone behaves like that they are being completely unprofessional. Never ever ever ever get drawn into that kind of behavior. You cannot win an argument by yelling. Remain calm, look the person straight in the eye, smile, if you can, and say.. I get the feeling that you are upset, would you like to talk about it, I am sure that whatever it is, it can be resolved.  This will catch them completely off guard and will probably get them to stop behaving badly.\nIf it is a job that you don´t care about, and you were going to quit anyway, let him have it..say something like..Who do you think you are talking to,you cannot speak to me like that.  If they have a superior even better, add that you will be speaking to thier superior. Stand up for yourself, because if you don´t, you will run the incident over and over and over in your mind wishing you had said this or that.. but never lower yourself to their level.  Stay calm.   and then slash his or her tires..lol just kidding
795598
When i first started reading, I had a feeling your performance is not up to expectations and he trying to motivate you, but now I think he has a personal ego problem. Why dont u try and tell him that u have several urgent tasks and look busy? I know it is annoying, but leaving is not the solution. You will probably end up with a boss that has a bad temper or personality flaw. \n\nWhy dont u try and send him an annonmous note telling him that everybody hates his ways, but make sure he will never find out.
556726
Tell him that u got a better opportunity or tell the truth whatever it is. Y to hv a hitch dear friend. Face the boss boldly. He is not going to eat u. Try to be polite and use a very humble and sweet tone while facing the boss. Boss is also a human being like u and me. So, y to worry.
415512
Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
218350
one way to get terminated is to curse out your boss.
493706
There are 3 ways to handle a problem like this:\n\n1.  ignore it.  If it's minor, this might be the best option.  There are no consequences for ignoring, except the behavior may continue.\n\n2.  Speak up about it.  You have your choice of speaking directly to your coworker, or to your boss.  The risk of speaking to your coworker is they may become offended and the behavior escalate.  It's best to find a quiet time to speak to them.  If this doesn't work or you feel you can't confront them, speak to your boss.  If it's your boss causing the problem, speak to their supervisor.  I would do everything possible to resolve the situation without involving lawyers.  Using the law should be a last resort.\n\n3.  Quit and find another job.  Use this tactic if you can't resolve the situtation, or if you can find a better job.  Remember that you might want to use this position as a reference, so don't burn any bridges on the way.
982872
Hon, as a long time girl of being embarassed and angry for many of the "same reasons", let me tell you how to handle this and a few words of insight on people.\n\nFirst, you cannot "demand" anything but the bills you need to pay at your office.  \n\nThe only thing you are in control of is your reaction to this jerk ball.  He may have an opinion about you and your job, but that's his opinion and only that.  What you needed to do is just look him in the eye smile as if he's complimented you.  Yes, if he was your boss, this might be a bigger issue.  The thing I've learned about myself and you can learn as well is that no one "makes you cry" You are the only person in charge of when the tears come on.  Yes, outside events can trigger an emotional response, but you are ultimately the only one who allows the emotion to errupt.  Either way, it does not make it easy to deal with sometimes.  If you are totally confident in your ability on the job, then let him say and think what he wants.  You know the facts, and remember them no matter what your co-worker says.  You are good at your job and you are there for the reason that many people do not have the orginazatoinal skills that it takes to do your job.  Maybe you have some underlying feelings that you really are only a pretty face with no skills?  At any rate, look into yourself to realize what exactly got your nerves on edge that day.    It is something deep inside of you that wells up and then you choose this jerk to "lose it" on. (maybe?)  Remember the facts and keep your chin up,  he's probably just got some unresolved issues as well.  What I might do, is jot down the date and what he said that offended you.  Keep a running tab of derogatory and positive both.  If you have to set it up like a spreadsheet, do so.  If you get a large amount of statements that are negative, then you have a log of it and you've recorded while it's fresh in your mind.  IF you end up with a large sheet with dates and statements, then you can start your demands.  This is a math problem, like everything in life.  Aren't you glad you know math so well.  Good Luck.
405527
kirstinlilloth!  the beatings will continue till morale improves!!!  every time i treated my employees like people, i got screwed.  how about my employee who told me she was having a tough pregnancy and may lose the baby.  i let her go home early so many times because she was feeling bad that it was like she was a part time worker.  THEN i find out from another employee that she's not having a difficult pregnancy at all---she's going SHOPPING every time i let her off early.  guess who felt like the biggest chump in the world?  ME.  kick the whiners into submission, i say!\n\nlol---i'm such a chump!  probably my favorite was when a letter informing me that our utilities were about to be shut off due to non payment landed on my desk.  digging through the mountains of paperwork on the AP persons desk i found 3 months worth of electric invoices that hadn't been processed.  i sat down with the ap clerk and we had a "Come to Jesus" talk.  but it didn't do any good.  i later had to let her go because she would rather talk then do any work.\n\noh, here's another thing bosses have to put up with---employees who abuse funeral leave policies.  one of my employees got caught trying to take funeral leave for a 2nd cousin twice removed or some crap like that on her ex-boyfriend's side of the family.  lol!\n\nlol!  you guys are funny!  it's easy to tell from the answers that none of you has ever been a boss.\n\nthese are the kind of things bosses have to put up with:\n\nlate, tardy or absent employees\n\nemployees who take off a day without asking\n\nemployees who spend too much time on the phone with 'personal' calls  (a friend of mine once had an employee who spent over 40 hours in a week on the phone!)\n\nemployees who lie or steal\n\nemployees who abuse sick day policies\n\nemployees who abuse dress code policies\n\nemployees who take long lunch or regular breaks\n\nemployees who see the workplace as a place to socialize\n\nemployees who bring their sex lives to work\n\nemployees who use the company's property for their own use\n\nemployees who miss deadlines\n\nemployees who do shoddy or inaccurate work\n\nemployees who constantly whine about going home early\n\nemployees who work overtime without permission\n\nemployees who won't use the time clock properly\n\nemployees who can't think for themselves\n\nemployees who aren't good managers of their time\n\nemployees who let work pile up on their desk because they are too busy visiting\n\nNOW---in addition to taking care of all the ABOVE things, you as a boss have your own job to do.  why isn't it done?  sometimes you spend all day babysitting your moronic employees and then have to work late to get your job done.  i used to say that i could start on 'my' job at 5pm, when all my direct reports went home.\n\nand you wonder why the bosses are mean
1094189
This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
1167688
If you were written up and given a final warning, that means you have had other disciplinary action. If not, then it is your first warning and you can not be fired. You also need to look at your own behavior.\nYou start off by saying you were improperly disciplined by an administrator then complain about the other person involved not getting in trouble and you admit to "yelling". It doesn't matter what is happening to the other person, this is about you, your job and your behavior. "Yelling" at another person in any setting is wrong, you are a professional, in a professional setting  and expected to behave in a professional manner. You have the right to respond to the reprimand and that response will be placed in your file as well. You also need to advise the union rep of your situation and how you feel. You say this person is abusive to you, if so, you need to move to another department or floor. You need to be proactive about your situation, take care of yourself and if it means getting away from a person that is abusing you, do it.\nAs nurses, a lot is expected of us and pressure can be difficult. \nIf you can't figure out a way to get along with the person, move on or you could damage your reputation. Pointing the finger and hoping someone else will agree with you doesn't work. If this person is mean, that fact will show itself sooner or later and you can't let it effect you!
79626
This may not sound too nice but you have a right to be a little selfish...you have the seniority. If the other person is the one initiating the change, you have a right to express your wishes as well. Just tell your boss that you don't wish to move & that you hope he or she wil respect your wishes. If you are a top-notch performer, you can also point out your various good points that should keep you in said position while also noting that, "I shouldn't have to feel like I am fighting for the job & currently have...but..."\n\nGood luck!
1169392
That is a no win situation.   No matter what you do, you are not going to come out ahead.   A bully doesn't listen to reasoning.  Assertiveness doesn't work on a bully boss.   I would advise you to quit that job and go somewhere where you may be respected.
9671
1.  Be absolutely certain you have a solid job offer, in writing, before you give notice.\n2.  Prepare a list of your current projects that will need to be handed off to someone else.  Also list things you can complete before you want to leave.\n3.  Stealthily remove every personal possession from your workplace that you couldn't live without.  Completely erase any personal email or files from your computer -- don't just put them in the "recycle" bin.\n4.  Ask your boss for a meeting, give him a written resignation letter, saying only that you're leaving the company to advance your career.  NEVER, NEVER, NEVER say anything negative to him about the job, the company, or any co-workers.  \n5.  Propose a date (at least 2 weeks) for your final day, but be prepared to be walked to the door.  Be polite and positive no matter what sort of shit he gives you.\n6.  If asked to participate in an exit interview, answer with vague generalities and no specific complaints.\n7.  Thank him for being such a good boss.\n\nOne day you'll want to use him as a reference, or that company.  Imagine what they'd say about you -- and a little self-control can do wonders.  Making a scene, saying you hate him or the job, or dumping on co-workers will come back to haunt you.
318053
Just let them do it, but keep the docs notes.  Start a paper trail of evidence just to cover yourself in any eventuality.  If they do dismiss you, then take legal advice and (possibly) sue on grounds of unfair dismissal.  Don't hint to you company you are thinking of this as they will be able to make your life awful without firing you, in an effort to get you to resign.  You could let them do this then speak to your bosses boss if you would feel comfortable doing this.  It does seem like they are acting unfairly, but tred carefully and plan your moves, don't get angry and aggressive.
259751
Actually it sounds like you want to prepare a letter of resignation.\n\nThat is, a letter to inform your boss that you are resigning your position.\n\nHere are a link to some samples you can use as reference:\n\nhttp://jobsearchtech.about.com/od/letters/l/aa030998_6.htm
249824
It depends how bad you need the job, but if you have options, call him/her on it.  When he is cruel, tell him you do not deserve to be treated that way.  When he is self-serving (show me a boss that isn't), don't make it easy on him.  When he is lazy, tell him you are simply too busy to do trivial tasks and ask if he could please do it.  Bottom line:  Stand up for yourself!  He will respect you more if you stand up for yourself then if you roll over in submission.