What do you do if the guy you're seeing has as kid?
369185
Well at lesast he is man enough to care of the child. some men don't do that. he is a man. keep him
699767
"I was just thinking how our kids would look like."\nEvery guy loves it when a girl we just met tells us that.\n\n\nJust ask him out, or use your feminine wiles, he'll notice you soon enough.
693350
yea, ok, stay with him, maybe, just maybe, one of these days in a fairy tale land far away he will finally wake up and come around.\n\nlast thing i remember about love was that you cared for a person and didn't let them down.\n\nif you are content with being in a relationship with a guy who cares more about his money than you and your KIDS, then so be it, i don't know what to say except hang in there i guess, eventually he should come around
1183250
You just tell them how you honestly feel. You can't concern yourself with if they are going to be hurt or not. Both men and women have a hard time finding a partner when they have young kinds, unfortunately its worse for the woman with young kids. Its a matter of choice, and if you prefer not to date someone with young kids, that is your perogative and you have the right to make that decision. What's important here is your happiness in life with another.
955334
honey to let you know i am basically going threw the same thing but i am the divorced one w/a child. and there is this wonderful guy.. put just give it time. if he really likes you he will let you know or just come out and ask him where you stand in his life. or you can ask him what he really want in life.. but don't push the issue. remember he does have a child and he doesn't want some body that is going to come and go in there life.. :)
234488
Then dont date a man with children!\nKathy
347980
of course a guy will date you!  but you're gonna have to grow up pretty fast.  having a kid is THE major responsibility in life and that should be your primary concern.  just make sure the father owns up in all ways with the child.  be positive
1094980
Well darling, while I always love to have a good time I must say my children come first. And I must say that I admire that fact that your children are very important to you too. Since our relationship is just starting out, I think it is best that we don't meet each other's kids. At least not just yet. That way, if it doesn't work out, (or I find you to be particularly creepy...vice versa), it alleviates the need for any explanations or awkward situations for either us or our children.\n\nIn the beginning, I need you to take it slow but not too slow. If you have a question or concern, don't be afraid to ask me, and I will be honest and upfront about my desires. Don't try to give me any illusions about who you are because I know about the man behind the curtain. And try not to be too controlling. I am in no hurry to jump into a strong, possessive and legally binding relationship. If that was what I wanted, I would have stayed with my Ex. I want to have fun, but I also want you to be a gentleman and treat me like a lady. Let's keep it light the first few dates, and if things go well, then we can gradually begin to include the kids. After that we can talk about expectations. For now, mutual respect is good enough for me...
545414
Let them know that he's a great guy(he is right?) and that\nyou are old enough to date.
1076736
You should'nt care if he's your x but if has anything to do with your kids you should probly listen to them
235968
Nothing. He's already showing you your future with him and how he is while in a relationship with someone. Men/women are creatures of habit.
820525
I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
400883
that's a rough situaltion.  you just got to keep talking and telling him that sometime this is what happens, and just let him know that you both love him very much.  it gets harder but then it will be ok.  just remember you have great kids and thats what matters
219668
Just stay away from him and find someone new.  That's your best bet.  The kid just wants to shag you that's all.
369767
Read the Break-up Book.  It is from the author of "He's just not that into you".  It helps you to set reasonable boundries in order to move on with your life without him.  In the meantime, asuming you are keeping the baby, begin speaking to a lawyer so you can get child support arranged before the baby comes.  Don't let this guy off the hook, it is his responsibility too.
474459
I'm 18 and have a 12month old son and single to. Even though he's with his mom most of the week. i know what your are talking about. i think you just haven't meet the right guy yet.
884292
COME ON ! ! YOU CAN ALL WAYS GET ANOTHER MAN ONE EVEN BETTER THEN WHAT YOU'VE GOT NOW , BUT YOUR KIDS ARE ONE OF A KIND. THEY ARE THE ROOT OF YOUR LIFE ,THEY MAKE YOU WHOLE ( YES  OR  NO  ? ) THERE ARE TO , TOO  MANY MEN IN THIS WORLD JUST SO YOU'LL SETTLE FOR THE ONE BREAKING YOUR HEART EVERY TIME YOU SEE HIM , THINK HARD SWEETHEART .