how do you get over a longterm relationship?
372229
You go on get your fishing pole,if you continue to get back you can expect the same results that you have now but at a later time all over again.You have started the process to move on , go fishing take your past experience with you and get a better catch lots of fish in the ocean
684552
Obviously painful. Try to settle finances and get yourself into a comfortable position asap. Also, remove all physical evidences that remind you of your partner. Finally, restablish contacts with all your friends you never had time to meet, join a dance class and get tickets to the opera you've always wanted to do. Spend time in community service, that helps.
206232
Ending a relationship hurts.  Just take time for yourself.  Do the things you didn't get to do as often when you were with her.  Try something new.  But definitly don't rush into a new relationship.  It's only been a day, like you said.  It will get better, I promise!
1002198
My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
7299
Someone once told me that it takes 2 times the length you had feelings for the other person to get over that person.  If your feelings lasted 4 years, it will take 8 years to heal!!\n\nI agree that time is really the only remedy for a broken heart.  Take some time to think about how life was before you started the relationship.  Think back to those "happy" memories.  Do things on your own or with a few close friends of yours.  Keep yourself busy.  If you can find lots and lots of thing to do, the time to heal will flash by in a blink of an eye.  There are many things to do to keep a mind occupied!! haha
786713
Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
1077283
getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
338658
I don't think what you are going through is all that much different than what most of us go through when we lose someone we really care about.  A year may sound like a long time but it really isn't if you really loved someone.  The problem here is that while you know the relationship is over, you haven't really put it into its proper place in your life.  The memories are not going to go away and since a lot of them are good memories there is no reason to want them to go away.  So treasure those memories for what they are and that is some really happy times that are part of your past.  What you have been doing is letting those memories control your life.  Memories are very strong things and over time they actually gain strength because the details are blurred and all you focus on is the best parts of them.  This means that when you compare them to current situations they always seem so much better.  The reality is that they really weren't.  You have just chosen to not remember the bad times or the parts that made it more ordinary.  You need to stop living in the past because nothing is ever going to compare to memories that have all the bad stuff removed.  You need to realize that you deserve to be happy and the only way to do that is to let the past be the past and make new memories and stop constantly comparing your current life to those old memories.  Trust me, we all do it but we all find that in reality there is a lot more to life and always more wonderful memories to be made.
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
83228
Try keeping urself busy, if u keeping thinking about the breakup you'll nevr heal, hangout with ur friends, find things that will keep ur mind off the breakup\n\nWho know maybe u'll find someone else. =-)
881229
You need to get over your ex first hun. I have been down that road recently and thats what you gotta do first before you move to another person. If you dont you will just compare your next bf to your ex and end up ending things with them because you still have that hope of having your ex back. It's not easy letting go but in order to make yourself happy get over your ex before you start a new relationship
236533
1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
53612
Slow down a bit.  Get your mind off of that matter.  Breath some fresh air.  Get you feet back on earth.\n\nLet the relationship bloom on it own course without any help from you.  In time, you'll learn the appropriate action to make happen.
476642
Hmmm...the best way to get over your ex???? Get a group of friends together and go out and have a good time! Go dancing, go to a movie, even invite them over to hang out. Do anything you can to keep your mind off the ex. Then, throw out anything the ex ever gave you. Get rid of it all, burn it if you want. Have a "cleansing". Take a nice long shower, indulge in some bubble bath even, do something nice for yourself. Go spend some money if you've got it, and then, when you are ready, go shopping for another person to be with!:) GOOD LUCK!
1017707
Yes it is normal to feel a little sad when you break off a long term type relationship.  You did the right thing if you were feeling overbear-ed.  Just have to do things to keep your mind off him.  Hobbies, video games, hang out with friends a little more just keep you mind off the break up.
1094794
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!