how do you let your husband know your a lesbian\nhusband know you are \ngay?
375096
Wow, that does not sound like an easy problem to deal with.  I suppose you have to do it as gently as possible.  I wish all the luck in doing that.
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
1103438
I tell my husband as often as I can, you never no where death lies and at least they'll know how much we love them. Keep telling your husband how much you love & care for him, he should feel like the only man on earth with the only sweetest woman on earth. You will have a long and happy marriage.
587364
I'M A LESBIAN....GO US......
1175505
Your situation is not unique. I lived with a woman freind of mine whose partner had been married twice both times for 10 years and had kids by both men.   They had a few lesbian friends who were in similar situation.  Married young and came out afterward.  Glad you found out early.
263795
TELL HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK WHAT SHE THINKS AND THAT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO YOUR MAN. AND THEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO LIKE OR KNOW YOU WELL THE HE*LL WITH HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK. I MEAN DAM*N HOW MUCH OF A BI*TCH DOES SHE HAVE TO BE. TELL HER TO GO FU*CK SOME DI*CK AND CHILL OUT AND STOP BEING A BI*TCH. MY HUSBANDS MOM WAS LIKE HER SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM MAD AND WHEN HE GETS MAD HE IGNORES EVERYONE FU*CK I DIDN'T DO SH*IT. SHE WILL JUST KEEP GETTING HIM PISSED OFF ALL DAY! TELL YOUR MAN THAT EITHER SHE STOPS BEING THE WAY SHE IS TO YOU OR YOU GO AND IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WILL TELL HER TO STOP THAT WETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM AND THAT'S IT!!!!!!
436940
Well if you're not what u say you are then just be honest and tell her who you are.  But this is the Internet so there are two possible situations in which you might want to take greater care.  1.) if you're a lesbian, fine.  but if you're a lesbian and you have feelings for her- don't tell her about it.  I mean, she can know about your sexuality but if she's straight there's no reason to try anything with her.  that's like a four year old who has a crush on his teacher.  What's the point in saying so?  she wouldn't date him anyway.  \n2.) if you're really a man?  she'd probably not speak to you again.  if you want to continue being her friend, keep pretending.\n\nif it isn;t either of those, then spill the beans in a non confrontational way and don;t offer excuses for not telling her sooner- just apologize.
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signs baby, its all about it.  What kind of hint is she giving you, what messages are you sending to her.. dont be so shy, im in the same boat. i am bisexual, i do not flaunt it nor hide it. just be comfortable with yourself, oppportunity will arise.
516093
Find a lesbian, and you got yourself a new reality tv show. ;-)
393093
how can she be a lesbian when she is a man..
723083
I under stand what you are going through. I have been married now for 5 years. I just resently started admitting to my self that I do have feeling for woman. I did bring it up to my husband and his responce was the oppiset of your husband. He can't understand why this is happening now.\nI am also finding it hard to find some one that is bi to become friends with. A lot of people say go to clubs or some thing but what do you do when you don' know of any. \nIf you want to talk you can e-mail me at ladyjamie28@ yahoo.com.
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are you a lesbian if you are email me at ciara11236cici@yahoo.com\n\nwww.lesbian.com
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You go ahead and be a  dignitary Lesbian, and be proud! You tell em sister! I'm with you all the way! D.K. FOR PRESIDENT:) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1005335
Okay, I know Im a gal, but I must say this.....I LOVE the fact that my husband speaks his mind. We have had arguments of opinion, but I would HATE him if he just agreed with me to please me. I want a MAN not a wimp. I fell in love with my man for being who he is, not want he thinks I want. We have a very strong relationship because even when we disagree at least we are comfortable enough to be who we are without fear. Love that about us!
349294
Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
43599
Fantasizing about the same-sex for women is quite common, and a "true lesbian" would be the easiest to experiment with.  I still love my ex-husband very much, but I am supposed to be with a woman.
867485
if you're not really not into him(as you said, you're a lesbian), then you should not worry about how his reaction is going to be. besides, if he's a real friend (and not "acting" as a friend just so he can hang around with you), he would accept you for who you are. if he can't, you've got nothing to lose, right?