Do you think people should have to "apply" to become parents in an attempt to avoid neglect and bad parenting?
374521
It wouldnt eliminate it. It might not even help it. Neglect and bad parenting come in all forms. Even those who rank higher in society.\nYou never really know what happens behind closed doors even in the most prestigious of houses.\n\nA person can win you over on paper but that doesnt make them a good parent. Just like a person who wouldnt neccesarily look like a good parent on paper could make the most caring loving parent.
619978
Yes! I believe if parents want the reponsibilty of raising children that also includes knowing their where abouts at all times. If the parent is going to be neglectfull and sit in the house and watch tv and let their kids go outside and play by themselves and then someone grabs them and the kids get hurt or end of dead, i definitly believe that the parents should have the same punishment as the person who hurt their kid. Because if the parent would have been watching their own kid(s)- their kid(s) would be unharmed. Parents need to take care of your own kids and not allow a stranger to take care of them for you. If parents do their job, no one gets hurt or goes to jail, end of story!
804728
Children are like a blank slate when they are born.  As a concerned and involved mother (and a social worker), I realized that my daughter would get "tapes" in her head from somewhere....and I decided that I would put tapes in there first!  \n\nI have been diligent in teaching her that "Good choices give you a good life; bad choices give you a bad life," and then illustrating that through actions.  Each time a situation arises, I see it as a learning experience. \n\nMy daughter is now 16 and just realizing how powerful it has been to have a mom who cares so much.  She is abroad as an exchange student and is now instant messaging me about the "dysfunctional" family in her new country.  She is learning that the things I have taught her (the tapes) from the beginning are now making sense.\n\nI do believe that we imprint our children.  In many ways we leave our lessons with them.  So, I think that we guide our children into observing and learning certain ways; THEN I think that the child formulates their own opinions.  But it is our job to guide them, to give them information to make good decisions, and to be there to help them through problems.\n\nSo, essentially, I do believe that parents and "superiors," do put things into kids' minds.  However....each person is an individual, and we each have our own personalities.  Therefore, the messages (or tapes) we get from our parents/superiors blend into our own personal experiences and individual (DNA..if you must label it) personalities.\n\nThe combination of what we learn from others and our own unique blend of personality makes us what we are.
1042417
I'd love to go to a class or classes to become a better parent.....Inspiring to answer your question.....I think if someone TOLD ME I needed parenting classes then I'd be offended....
455627
Personally, as a parent, I think they are a bad idea. \n\nI do not know your situation, but if there was a reason I was estranged from my parents, its probably enough of a reason that I would not want my children around them either.  My child is mine to care for and raise, and I should not be forced to let him visit with people I do not want him visiting with.  Not to mention the complications it would bring for all the partied involved because of the feeling between you and your children.\n\nAlso, my son has a deadbeat father who is not a part if his life. He does not know his biological father and never will.  Should the court be able to force me to allow tha parents of his deadbeat father to visit him?  Then I have to explain who those people are and why his father is not around...\n\nBUT, I don't have grandchildren, so I can't give you an opinion from that perspective.
955586
No I don't think people love their children more than in the past.  It takes a lot of selfless love to teach your child to do the right thing no matter what.  Over protection is not love.  In my opinion it is parents giving in to their own fears and neglecting their duty to their child.  I think todays children have overwelming things to fear and the parents job is the same as it always was.  To give them the tools to overcome these fears.  I love the tv shows that teach parents how to parent.  The love has been and always was all a parent had to give.
868550
It depends...a person of integrity would feel a moral responsibility to share in the commitment of raising a child they helped bring into the world. \n\nSome people (men and women BOTH) just have no ethics or character and they simply walk away clean. An "on to the next one" attitude.\n\nThen, an innocent child is left without a mom or dad for guidance, love, and yes- Financial support.\n\nA court order did Zero for me, my ex moved to TX & worked "under the table" to avoid child support garnishment and the IRS taxes. \n\nFunny, I was hurt more that he left my son to grow up fatherless  than I was about the money he never sent. My son's 16th b'day w/ his new drivers license...and not a dad in sight to share his joy or explain cars, nothing. Just Absolute SILENCE from the father he SO wanted acceptance and approval from.\n\n... it breaks my heart knowing my son internalizes that rejection- every single day- and I am helpless to fix it.
759201
Usually, if the parents are decent people. Many children would be better off if they had no contact with either parent.\n\nIn societies where parenting is more an age-grade thing than actual biology, children have many parents, and are probably the best adjusted psychologically of any.
215582
I think your right but to answer the question you asked...I think it depends on how they raise them.  If they provide a good lifestyle and do their best to raise them right then I blame it on the kids or maybe it is their father- or no father.  but I dont think its right their "mommys" covering their butts to protect them.  especially if they are doing cruel and life changing things.  I wouldnt doubt if those little girls go postal later in life.
186249
lots of love an effection. They need to be expose to society to. Alot of parents want to keep hem away from it, but its not good.
876833
Yes and I think you should have to take a test and pass before you can become a parent!
51102
I believe that parents get wrapped up in their jobs and trying to provide for their family.  They also, sometimes, get wrapped up in their own lives.  Im afraid that I know of too many families that parents are too wrapped up in their selves to even pay attention to their children.  I dont think its right.  Parents should spend quality time getting to know their children.
883509
I'd start out by saying something like people need to take responsibility for their actions and continuing to point a finger isn't going to fix anything.  It might be hard to admit that their kids did something bad cause then it might mean that they aren't being very good parents.  Pointing a finger of blame may be the easiest way for them to not admit they aren't doing a good enough of job.
688719
Yes, they should be encouraged.  There are over 1.5 million couples in the United States who would like to adopt a child every year who are not able to adopt a baby in the US because of the shortage of children to adopt in the US.  \n\nForeign adoptions provide two benefits.\n1. They provide the 1.5 million couples who would not be able to get a child with a child.\n2. It provides the child from the foreign country the chance for adoption because they are coming from a country where no one will likely adopt them.  For example, China and Romania have far more orphaned babies than the people in either country want to adopt.  So these children have no hope for adoption unless they are adopted by a foreign couple.\n\nFinally, many foreign adoptions are done in conjunction with providing these children with medical care they cannot receive in their native country.  The US couple is able to provide that medical care to treat a severe disability, and then the child has a loving home and the disability is taken care of.
1102126
Yes.  But it has to be done at a young age.  That's what parents are suppose to be for.  But sadly in the times that we live in today.  Parents are not teaching there children ethics.
865340
basically good environment is necessary to become good individual. if both the parents are educated without major vices there is a possibility that children will also grow in good environment. parents should not quarrel before children for the reason children take cue or guidelines from parents. upto 10 years the child is to be brought up in care. from 10 to 16 years he must be treated as slave and during this period he /she has to learn how to work. after sixteen years of age the parents should be  like friends. they have to respect the ideas of the grown up boy/girl. if they commit any mistakes it is better to point out smoothly the right way. raising the voice beyond certain limits, shouting on children will give negative impression about parents. this should be avoided. as far as possible the financial position should be discussed with the children and they should also join infamily budget and decision making. this gives an idea in the young minds that they are also recognised. if the father smokes and ask the child not to so means it is a futile exercise. the parents should be a "ROLE MODELS" to their children. certain amount of freedom and at the same time discipline is necessary for childre. the parents are the best guides to their childre. they should not point out the small mistakes of children but patiently explain the children what to do and what not to do. so the parents are the guides, friends and philosophers to their children. care and concern for genuine problems of children gives positive attitude towards parents. attitude is nothing but state of mind. all these factors contribute forthe development of an individual .good health is also a wealth. healthy person with positive attitude will achieve any thing. nothing succedes success like success. but it requires determination .problems are to be surmounted with courage. these factors helps for the total and proper development of an individual.
580317
I think yes. We all should look for SC/ST mothers and get ourselves adopted!\n\nI think it will be much easier even if we pay big money to get converted and then get admissions easily rather than wasting our time studying hard and making so much effort