my brother died 2 years ago .he killed himself after 3 years of suffering from lung cancer.where is he now?
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I wish i could answer this question for you but i dont think any of us will ever know this until we too reach the end of our particular journey in life. Just believe that in your heart he will be with you always and remember to hold onto all the good memories he surely will have given to you. I have a friend who had cancer and he has only just died last wednesday due to septacaemia. He was only 35 and i know that for as long as i live i will truly believe that he is watching over me be it in heaven or just another dimension that we may travel into. God bless you and your family. I am sorry i do not have the answer you are looking for but dont let other people fool you with their spiritualistic views, none of us know where we are going until that day arrives!!
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My Mum & Brother I did`nt have time to greave for my Mum before my Brother found out he had cancer and then from him finding out I only had 10 months before he died in fact I lost both of them within 18 months
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where did you hear he was dead, he just turned 60, lives in cambridge, seems his sister takes care of him since his mother died
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This probably sounds strange, but try searching on MySpace.  I found my estranged brothers through that site.
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I used to for about 25 years, I was complaining and feeling neglected. Then he got lung cancer and died, Now I finally watch sports just to feel him close again. I finally realize at least he was there. i wish i could do it all over again.
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im so sorry about your brother. i wish i could answer your questions but i cant :-(. all i can say is just pray night and day i hope you all pull through this and im sure you will.
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my brother's been in a coma for going into 6 years now, you're lucky you got out of it, be thankfull
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My dad shot and killed himself last november...I would bring him back because I miss him. He was only 46.
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i wish there was.you have no idea on how i wish this was true.  my dad whom i  love very dearly told me that he has prostrate cancer back in September. he told me that he was going to the "mayo" clinic. an extremely prestigious hospital for this treatment. with an above average sucesss rate. so i was very content with that. but as my mom and dad  go to Melbourne Florida every year to there winter retreat. he still hadn't gone to the mayo before they left. i questioned my dad why and he stated that he is going to seek full treatment in Florida with a doctor he knows and trust. well its late November and he hasn't gone for treatment of any kind. Ive called on a daily bases and spoken to him about it and questioned what he is doing to resolve the issue. his response is " i haven't got the time to take care of it yet" i questioned of "yet" to him. he explains of how he has to do this and that(things of no meaning). he is a vein man i know. and that is his issue. he is 75 years of age. Ive always known that your parents will die. but Ive never felt it like i feel it now.but the kicker is , i finally got to speak to my mom without him there. he doesnt have prostrate cancer. he has lung cancer. he quit smoking at the age of 33. but he worked his entire life as a journeymen electrictian. who knows what he was exposed to over all those years. so in answer to your question, i really wish there was. id read it to eternity. the bible as you so hiddenly speak doesn't tell you how to deal with this. if it does and you really see that it applies. then e-mail me about how i should read scriptrure...chapter... verse.... does it really apply? ask this of yourself before you offer advise.
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My husband thought he hurt his back at work. Went to hospital was told he had pneumonia and a cracked rib it got worse went back again. He was diagnised March 20th passed June 6th.  He went thru radiation chemo gamma knife procedure and took the drug tarceva. I miss himm so bad I cannot stand it. We threw barbeques for friends and family had parties went where ever he wanted to go ate what he wanted to eatwe even got up at midnight and played pool til 4 am. The hardest part was watching him disappear before my very eyes. And of course losing him. We do have children and thats the only reason I am still here. But it hurts so bad my heart is broken in a million pieces.I am still mad scared and empty. Yes do stay strong and let her know you love her and that she is important to you. So very sorry. Good luck
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It happened to me. My husband and my sister no less.  It ruined my marriage, even after 28 years I haven't forgiven him.  He ended up with a terminal illness- Multiple Sclerosis for 15 years. He passed away in 2004. I felt like I had to stay and help him.  His actions affected my relationship with my older son and my sister...not that she was worth a second chance. But, I did try.  My mother, father, and baby sister didn't talk to me for 15 years- yea, like it was my fault. My brother and I remained estranged until he passed away. All I did was stay with the guy.  Big mistake! My younger son is not really part of the family every one shuns him because he looks like my husband. My sister's daughter ended up being an outcast and tried to commit suicide twice. What should you do?  Move on...make a life for yourself, find someone that respects you and loves you for who you are now... don't wait it will only hurt you! I am 53 back in college and making a life for myself for the first time. I have never been happier. I plan on traveling and staying alive! With as much enthusiasum as possible..If you need to have someone beside you I am sure that there will be that certain someone around the corner.  For myself, I just love being myself. One day maybe I'll meet someone but, for now my happiness and peace of mind it what counts to me.
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I know how you feel, but there is hope. \n\nI am currently in the Bahamas with my Mother who has Terminal Lung Cancer. There is a clinic here that has been in operation for over 30 years. We have been here for 4 of our 8 week stay, everyday is really neat. A lot of the patients stick around in the meeting room/ waiting room to visit, and share stories and catch up. There were 40 people all talking and laughing, talking about cancer and life, the returning patients talk about how bad their cancer was 4, 8, 10 even 18 years ago when they started coming to the clinic, the cancer that has since disappeared. There is nothing dangerous or foreign to the treatment, just building up your immune system in a very effective manner. If you want to know more contact me or go to www.immunemedicine.com I cannot tell you how impressed I am with what I have seen and how my Mother has already improved. I know one man who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he skipped all US, conventional (poisonous, dangerous) options and went to the Bahamas and is doing great now. Another man who has been coming here for 18 years that had prostate cancer. People with just about every type of cancer. But, they are honest here, you send them your medical information and they will tell you whether they believe they can help you or not, and they will send you home if they don't think you are benefiting. \n\nMy mom has shown drastic improvements and is feeling so much better. and we are in the Bahamas so we are having a good Mother-Daughter vacation.\n\nI have also done a lot of research on the Cesium Chloride/DMSO treatment and think that it has merit and you can do it at home.\n\nThe clinic here believes that a supplement/liquid called VIBE works really well in addition to other treatments, I am going to look in to that some more.\n\nUS doctors push chemo and radiation, but when you look at the statistics and side effects it is not a good option for most people. My Mom had both before we came here and now that I know more about them and have researched them I feel horrible that I let her go through them. She was lucky (so far) the only long term side effect she has shown is short term memory loss. \n\nThe stories I have heard from the other patients here about how they were treated by US medicine astound me. One lady went home to have a shunt put in her liver so she would be ok to come here, but they refused to put it in unless she agreed to do chemotherapy, is that what our country is about? Denying helpful procedures unless we agree to dangerous, toxic ones? The drug companies run US medicine at least when it comes to cancer treatment and it is sad. Most doctors will tell you not to try alternative medicine and some will refuse to even see you again if you do. To some degree they are not to blame, they have not been taught anything about it other than that it is evil and wrong and they would be rejected by their colleagues if they suggested alternatives.\n\nI would also like to tell you about another lady staying at the house we are staying at, she is 86 years old and has breast cancer as well. She arrived at the clinic the same day we did and is doing very well. Her immune system continues to improve and she gained 2 pounds since last week. She is absolutely thrilled with this treatment and knows that it is helping her.\n\nPlease whatever you do, research first. \n\nOne very helpful website is www.cancertutor.com\n\nGood luck!!
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I am very sorry for your loss as well.  I can't imagine what you go through everyday, but you are a hero in my book.  In every tragic thing that I have worked with people in past on, they always tell me that they hate that statement, "Time is the great healer", but it is.  I know that doesn't help you much right now, but eventually it will.  What can help you now is knowing that there are times in life when we feel we did everything perfect and still fail or lose.  Know that you did everything you could for him, and that there are times even when doctors and all their technology use methods way better than CPR and they still lose patients.  Your a great brother, and I think you are concentrating a lot on your technique of CPR more than you were the one who stepped forward to help him.  You were the one who had the courage to take charge and say, "I'm going to do the best I can to save him."  Sadly, through all your efforts, it didn't work out they way you planned.  I would suggest that you write a letter to your brother and tell him all the things that you never had time to say and either go and read it to him, bury it, or burn it.  Let go of this way of thinking that you failed because you were the only hero that took charge that day.  Before going to bed, think of the best times you had with your brother instead of the day he passed.  It might help with the nightmares.  Remember, your way of thinking about this situation will help you recover faster or slower.  \n\nI wish you the best.
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The reports you need would have been filed in the state and county that he died in. Any death,to my knowledge that is not by natural causes is a coroner's case.Your first call should be to the coroner's office in the county of which he died.Most coroner's will sit down and talk with you if you have proof of who you are and make an appointment,generally the ones I've spoke with are very nice.The coroner could give you a copy of the death certificate because he or she would have had to do the autopsy and sign the death certificate.They would be able to answer almost any questions you would have or point you to any other office you might need to go to depending on what questions you have.If you have knowledge that this was not a death by natural causes then you would need to tell the coroner and the police.After doing an internet search,I realized that because you are in Hawaii,laws may be different,so I am listing some sites I found that may help you get started.Also you could do your own search.Just type in your search bar on your computer: how to get autopsy report in hawaii then click the search button.You might come up with something different than I did.Also you might want to speak with a lawyer before you speak to anyone else about your legal issue.You did not say which state your brother became deceased in,you just said you were from Hawaii.Just do an internet search,just like I told you above,just at the end of it put which state.So sorry to hear of your loved one's passing.Was glad to help you.
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thats really really sad. i kind of know how you feel. one of the guys who went to my school got killed in a hunting accident and my great grandma died a couple of years ago. i know it really hurts i wasn't even really that close to the guy who got shot and i still am not really over it even though it was way back in november... i will pray for you and if you need to send someone something you can use the contact me thing in my profile.
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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my mom.  she died in march of 2005 from lung cancer at the young age of 67.  she left big shoes to fill as a mom, grandma and great grandma.  she was the epitome of AWESOME.  i miss her and love her and hope she is ocmfortable and in no more pain.  SANTA ALTOBELL MCNEAL was the most awesome person God ever created!!