my momma does want me to be with my boyfriend?
355997
my mom didnt like my bf but im with him anyway. she will either grow to like him or not. whatever you do, dont run away to be with him. that could totally mess up your life. just stick it out and see what happens.
780716
if she was really your friend she would respect your relationship with your boyfriend and would also understand that though you care for her you are not a lesbian and she can not force you to be one. \nJust explain to her (calmly) that you enjoy her friendship but you dating someone right now and that you arent interested in being with her romantically. If she still tries to push you into something you dont want I would get myself out of that friendship PRONTO!
1149013
I'm going to hazard a guess based on your typing and grammar and say that you're under 15 or so... and in that case particularly (but at any age really) mom's usually know what they're talking about.  I know it sucks to hear that, but trust me, it's true.  (I'm 19, btw.. I've been there very recently, so I'm not out of the loop here.)\n\nWhat you should do is sit down with your mom and say "Hey mom, I don't want to get in to an argument about this, but I really want to know what it is you don't like about ____."  Listen to what she has to say.  Most importantly, do not get defensive.. the minute you start yelling at each other, you don't stand a chance of working things out.  Take the points she makes (and ask her to be specific.. point out specific examples of how he's controlling, not just say that he is) and think about them for a day a so.  Tell a close friend (*not* your boyfriend, very important) what she said and see what they think.\n\nIf after that you still think she's wrong, tell her you really thought about it and got a friend's perspective on it, but you don't agree with her, and ask her to respect your opinion.  That being said, do not disobey your mom.  Boyfriends come and go.  Your mom will always be your mom and it's more important than you can possibly imagine to keep a good relationship with her.\n\nAnd, as an aside, just my personal opinion, if you are young, as I guessed, you really don't need to date one person for that long.  I dated the same guy from the age of 14 to 17, and thought it was great at the time, but now, I really wished I wouldn't have done that.  It's kind of hard to explain, but just take it from someone who's been there.
396938
If you love him got back out with him. What you could do is avoid going to you boyfriend's mum house for the time being. Maybe in time she will notice and see how much you love her son. Then it will be an opportunity for her to change her ways. Some women can be protective over their 'little boys'.
133472
Answer them truthfully like you aren't doing anything wrong... cause your not! And your mom just wants to be a part of your life and make sure your not with a dirt bag!  If your mom had a new boyfriend wouldn't you want to know about him?
660963
I think he likes you a lot. He wanted you to meet his mom but did not know how to tell you or his mom that he wants to be your boyfriend. It does sound strange but some guys get nervous like that. Tell the boy sorry.
79653
Just because he wants to be with his baby doesn't mean he wants to be with the Mother.  You should first determine what it is that he really wants before you make a decision.\n\n*If he only wants the baby, visitaion rights can be obtained.
1044029
I have similer problems. Me and my girflriend love eachother but her mom doesnt want us to go out. Right now her mom doesnt even know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I can only call her about once every week. What we decided to do was be boyfriend and girlfriend but start going on actual dates when we are 16 so that we can drive ourselves. Just ask your dad if he can come over or soemthing and see if that works
598211
bring your boyfriend to your home one time, and have your mom talk with him, I'm sure that your mom would let you go out with him if she has met him and thinks he is a nice guy. (of course let your mom know you're doing this, or she'll be even more furious)
69166
Alright, I believe that's 2 questions. Pretty smart way to conserve on points. Well as for the 1st, I'd say that's it's probably time to find a new boyfriend. As for the other, Maybe mom would be happier if she did'nt see you waiting around the house for a week wondering what up with the boyfriend.
505307
if he was a christian he would respect you for your decision. I think you are doing the right thing.  Think about this...Dont worry about why he's doing it.  Its the Devil talking. God would love for you to be around Christians, and of course the Devil would not.  Don't put God after your boyfriend. God first, ALWAYS! God Bless You!
143403
Lol..lol.. Maybe he, like myself is confused in what heck you're talking about? Are you trying to get rid of him too? That's his mother, and honey, you might be treading deep water on this issue, and drive him away with her...lol
540845
First of all, you should always respect your mother, secondly, you being 14 should not be having a boyfriend to begin with. I am siding with your mother. but against it because you shouldnt have one. You should be no where near his house alone. Understad how she feels and abide by her rules. I know it may seem unfair now but you will understand when you get older. trust me. and let me tell you this, once you are alone with him, he is going to want to do something. DONT DO IT.
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
294769
If you plan on being a major part of this man's life than you will also be a part of his child's life.. His ex has to deal with the fact that they are not together. You shouild meet her because she has every right to know who he has around her child and who is a part of her child's life. But when you do meet her don't be disrespectful and try to understand where she is coming from. Tell her that you are not trying to take her place. Don't upset yourself(most important) and you really don't want to do anything that would jeoparadize you boyfriend's relationship with his child. "Baby Momma" relationships are hard to deal with because they have a child, they have a bond. If you really feel for him then try your best but his chils should always come first. Good Luck and sorry for wrapping you up!
493560
Don't tell her. You're only 17 the chances of you and this guy being together beyond HS are slim to none. Why go thru an unneccessary battle with your mom now? Wait until you're own your own and have a new boyfriend.
891232
I went through this when I was 9. Me and my mom have always been tight but I said, "Mom hey you have to promise not to be mad but at least I am telling you. I got my first boyfriend and I am so happy and I would really like your support!!" My mom was happy for me and supported me in every decision and I wish you the best. Your mom should be happy for you if you are happy with yourself. Good luck I hope you get the Guy.