how do i know when or if i am over my ex, whom i know i love or did love?
368802
You know you are over her when you stop asking yourself "am I over her?" Her memory will stop dominating  your thoughts and it will stop physically hurting to think of your life without her.  Probably you will never be totally over her but that's okay too! The saying "love never dies" literally means love never dies.
803661
No one can tell you when youre in love.  Think about it, how can they?  Only YOU know your heart.  It is true however that those around you might observe the signs that you are truly in love, but to be able to tell you the exact point at which you know for sure is not an answer that anyone can provide for you.  You have to search your own heart.\n\nThese questions may be helpful.  Do you have more concern for you partner than you have for yourself?  Can you see yourself with this person until you die, faithfully?  Can you see yourself with anyone else?  How would you feel if suddenly your relationship ended?  Can you live without him or her?  Consider this one:  if your partner became a vegetable, would you remain with him or her?  Would you want out of the situation?  Does this person give you a feeling truly unlike anything youve ever felt before?  Just  a few things to consider.\n\nGood luck!
339419
You need to move on. You can't get over your ex because you keep listening to the love songs that you listened to when you were with him. You need to realize that it is over and tell yourself that you will never be with him again. Listen to some different music. Music that sings about a women getting out of a bad relationship and moving on with their lives. It won't be easy. It will take some time but, eventually you will get over him and find someone else to love. Maybe when you are over him, you can become friends and that spark might rekindle and you will get him back. But, for now except that it is over. Allow yourself to get over him.
1171190
You can still care for him, but think about the reason why he is your ex.  And the fact that you haven't talked to each other since the breakup shows that there was obviously something wrong with the relationship.\n\nDon't waste your time dwelling on the past and wondering "what if..."\n\nLook to the future and think about your own needs.
527247
It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
384779
When your in love with some you will know.  Like when your with them nothing in the world seems to matter anymore.  You will be able to know when your in love and can tell its real cause you wont be thinking about other people in the same way.\n\nHoped this helped
881229
You need to get over your ex first hun. I have been down that road recently and thats what you gotta do first before you move to another person. If you dont you will just compare your next bf to your ex and end up ending things with them because you still have that hope of having your ex back. It's not easy letting go but in order to make yourself happy get over your ex before you start a new relationship
429687
you shold be able to tell if you dont, then there probably is a reason for doubt... and you should ask her. why not?\nand... she's your ex? you don't knowif she cares about you? that's unusual.
1147344
Depends on if you have the same feelings. If you do, then explore if your relationship with your new significant other is healthy, and if you don't then just tell him the truth! :)
388288
Whatever the reason for your ex being your ex. Put yourself in their shoes and think about the situation and what you would do. Be true about the considerations...it only help u know wether it's worth trying to get back together.
985904
you definitely care about him and you'll miss him...whether you love him, i dont know, you should figure that out...
238945
u should choose someone who loves u more , and u should check the character of both in my guess u should choose ur current bf ,
893200
honey if u say ur over someone u should truly be over them.  if u didnt wanna truly end it u should have just confronted him about ur probs and maybe u could have worked it out.
254168
Assess your emotions first, who do you love more? Who treats you better? Do you really think your ex still loves you or does he just want someone to help him with his baby? \n\nAnd before you do anything with your ex, talk with your current boyfriend.\n\nDon't just follow your heart, use your head as well.
1129099
You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!
891005
Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
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First, I respect your courage for writing here, but I would take the most serious advice from those who know you best... those closest to you. There aren't enough details in your story for anyone but those who know you to give you good advice, but a lot of people have similar feelings. When I was single I always pined for my ex's... the bad times didn't register and all I remembered was the good times. This doesn't mean that they didn't happen and that what drove me from my now ex's wasn't real. We did break up for a reason, and our incompatibility was something to be considered. No matter what you do, even if you did get back together, you can't relive a memory. This isn't to say you shouldn't talk to your ex or figure out what you're feeling, but I'd say take your time with it. If the feeling is really real, if the relationship is meant to be, then it's worth waiting for. A lot of times things seem good at the time, but if we waited, we lose interest or realize what a bad decision it was. Even so, you have a fractured relationship, and it's going to take a lot of care and thought to bring it together... either way, protect your own heart and take your time. Find someone you really trust and talk to them about it and let them speak into you... tell you a no bs assessment of what they can see from the outside. Even if you don't agree with them, it'll get you thinking. I wish you the best with your relationship, whether it's meant to be repaired or not. God bless you,\n\nBrian