My fiance and I broke up, a week later he had profiles on-line looking for bi-sexuals, do you think he is gay?
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First of all I want to tell you that I am very sorry that you broke up with your fiance. It must be a very difficult time for you. I believe that relationship on the way to marriage should be running pretty smoothly. There should be no real problems whatsoever. For what ever reason it is that you broke up, you probably should stay broken up. I don't mean to sound harsh, but its true. Also, do you really want to get back together with someone who has posted personal ads on the internet right away? I know people will say that he is hurt and whatnot. But if your boyfriend is gay or bi, do you really want to be in the middle of all that heartache? I think that there is a strong possibility your ex boyfriend may want to do a little experimenting. I think you need to think about moving on, how hard that may be. But you deserve a happy relationship without secrets, lies and deceits. If your ex is really gay, do you want to subject yourself to STD's? I am not saying anything against gays (I have two uncles that are brothers who are gay), but I am talking of cheating... I would rather have my ex break up with me than live a life filled of lies with me. Its not fair to both of you.\n  I would not take him back but that is my opinion. If you were really sure about this guy you would not be writing on here. It sounds like you have your doubts as well. Trust your instincts and what your heart is telling you. That is the best advice that was ever given to me.\nGood luck.
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If you found just a bra I'd say maybe he was cheating. With everything else it sounds like he may be a cross dresser.
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Wow. What a shock to have to go through.\n\nSounds like he is just starting to accept his own reality that he is gay. He may have thought that you two living together would be ideal, and I'm sure he had or maybe even still has feelings for you, but is attracted to men.  It happens and sometimes people don't come within the realization of it until a long time aftwards.\n\nAnd yes, you can be gay and in love with someone, but you also know that the relationship may not be for you. People like this can be confused for a long time since they may not know which direction to go to. Do they stay in what society terms a "normal" relationship, or do they risk ridicule and go with their real insterest, which is the same sex. Tough world we live in.
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Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
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ha! he looks like a gay wad! hes old too! Is he married himself? \n\n::)\n\ni wouldnt trust anyone who can sweet talk me online. if he/she is so smooth why are they still single? online scary stories of rape and killings scary me!!!
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You did not mention how long have you been seeing him "exclusively".  Were there any indication from him or any agreement that he will stop seeing other while you two are going out?  The evidence, based on the limited facts indicated on your question, does not necessarily indicate any "foul play" on his part... HOWEVER, I would dump him ASAP!!\n\nGut feelings is all you can have at this point and it appears that your gut is saying something negative about him.  I would definitely go with your instinct and RUN AWAY ASAP.  There are other nice guys out there in the real world.  I am NOT against Internet dating, but there are more sad stories than positive ones these days.  I would also suggest double dating with friends if you still prefer to meet guys from the internet.  \n\nOnce you get serious with a person do your homework and do a quick reference check on the guy.  There are various "free" site that you can get public information on individuals such as your local dexonline.com, city or county govt (for marriage licenses/divorces), and background checks from Rental companies.  I have also been in projects that tied local jail population to the web so that external users can see if a person (male or female) has been in our local jail systems.\n\nGood luck and please take care!!!
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Did he buy you a Hot-dog and a cold drink?\n\nIf no! He is a inconsiderate muther-chicken...You need to ''Dump" him and dump him fast!!!       j/k      ....  lol\n\nHe is excited about you! he has those butter-flys stirring-up\nI am in no way by any means GAY! \nBut he sound like he has cute personalty and I hope you two\nexperience a fun time of getting to know one another..\n\nGood luck I'M happy for you,
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there are plenty of men that are gay and married. anyway\nI do not think he is gay or it would of been all over the place by now..
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Doing it together with his friends is a bit weird....\nIs he gay?
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I'm going to ask you one more time...how's your husband going to know if the people that you talk to online are gay or not  ???
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do you love him? or are you angry?..Was he gay to begin with of just in the closet?.. None of that matters really of course. If you like the friendship, but can't handle "gay" part (I'm guessing he's bi) Then you have some options. One you need to dtermine what kind of sexual behavior he exibits. Destructive? Thats when he'll do anything with anyone anywhere. If this is the case I'd get out, get checked and walk away. If he has a regular long term lover then you may be able to keep the relationship if you can deal with that side of him.. Personaly (as a bisexual) I will NEVER understand why people who are bi (and they know it going in) are not honest about it. I don't keep secrets with lovers. It's amazing how many women are just fine with that.. You can even find a permanant relationships where every one knows everything. But where I live there are litterally tens of thousands of married men who are bisexual living secret lives, destructive lives at that. They put everything they suppossedly car about at risk and thats not right.\n  Now youhave to decide weatehr or not you want to keep on going with this person or not. My own situation is BiPoly. bisexual+polyamorus (I'll wait while you look that up)..Everything is like a marriage of sorts between like minded people. Maybe thats for you if he's mongamous with his male lover and monogamous with you. Guess that would be duomonogamy. But you get my drift. For gay and bisexual males its rare to have these types of relationships. Socienty has forced them into the alleys and closets so its been a catch as catch can situation. By forcing it into the blue area it has gaurenteed anonamous stranger sex is a given. . But this is changing and more things are out in the open. It would be nice if everyone could just be open and honest with out fear of retribution, but that is not how it has been. Being suppressed is like slavory. you do what you have to do to be free wen you can be.
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you're bi-sexual which is ok but you need to be open with your fiance and have some sort of understanding with each other. remember if you don't think you should marry him(as much as a nice guy he is) then dont cos it will cause more grief in the long run.both of you deserve to be happy. good luck
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It doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.  Thats a very sensitive place for men, maybe he just wants to see what if feels like.
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I seriously doubt that he's gay but I don't know if he's married or not. Maybe you could ask him yourself somehow.
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You say in your profile that you are sexy....and intelligent.\nSo show some intelligence. He is not your soul mate - you are his sold -mate... bought and sold good and proper. \n\nWhat is this 'love'? A reaction to the way he is mis-treating you? Does it align with how you were treated in the past? \n\nIf this were true 'soul-love' there would be no question. He is clearly lacking in integrity... the girlfriend with kids are not being properly looked after, and neither are you. If he leaves them for you - how could you trust him. \n\nThere are plenty of other men around who would be so much better for you. Don't get so lost on the physical attraction, coz that's all this seems to be. Not love... love is reciprocated. This doesn't appear to be. \n\nOkay, so we're only getting a short bit of one side of this, but read all of the comments here, girl... we've all seen enough - on both sides of the gender divide - to know when you are being done over.\nAnd you are. \nLike a kipper.
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Well, I dated a guy for like 18 months who I didn't know at the time was a little bit of a cross dresser.  But he was all sorts of weird things!  The kinkiest it got when I was with him was that he liked a n a l and liked to fantasize about men...but then w/his next girlfriend he did a lot of crossdressing and planned to have a sex change.  But last I heard, he changed his mind about all that.   Guess it was just a phase?
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I don't know about right.  People have told me to put on online personals either looking for male or female, but not to put both.  I guess that's just so people know what you are more into.  I always identify myself as bi if asked.\n\n~Daniel