How can I get my Father in Law to quit smoking????
368842
Tell him that.  I have to warn you though that no matter what you say you will most likely not be able to get him to quit smoking.  It is a very hard habit to break and I think the tobbacco companies are making cigarrettes even more addictive than they need be.  Until he decides that he wants to quit and seeks help to do that, there is very little that you can do.\n\nYou might tell him that an internet friend of yours is now forever broken hearted and alone because her husband would not even make a serious effort to quit smoking.  He died 4 months ago of lung cancer.  Tell your father in law that it was an ugly, painful, lingering and finally humiliating disease and a horrible way to die. it is a terrible thing to put your loved ones through and they will suffer forever when the smoking finally kills him..... and make no mistake, it will kill him. \n\n For his sake and his family's sake tell him, I personally beg him to try and stop befor it is too late.  My husband had no symptoms and he was already 4 stage when he was diagnosed  they gave him 5 years to live. He did chemo and radiation and everthing and still he died in 9 months.  Your father in law might have less time than he thinks
1186526
what i am currently doing may help you also...\n\nbuy 1 carton of quest #1 low nicotine\nbuy 1 carton of quest #2 ultra low nicotine\nbuy 8 cartons of quest#3 NO nicotine\nbuy a two pack of endit fake cigarettes (aromatherapy) no nicotine\n\nstart with reducing nicotine...the hardest part for me was stage three on quest cigs...i actually went thru withdrawels for about 4-5 days...dang near smoked one after another...wasn't very satisfying...but i made it...im in 7th carton of #3's and will go to endit next...i know i can do it...maybe you can try this...\ngood luck...its soooooooo hard to quit
113775
you are married so i think you musrt be mature enough. there is only one true answer to  this. he doesent want to argue with you.he says he stoped smoking,but he is not strong enough to do it yet.but still,he doesent want to hurt you or he doesent feel goog to admit he is too week and cannot stop so easy. but if you are not repressing him with that,and if you support him and show him you love him no matter if he smoke or not, it will be different. so,show some empathy here.its not easy to stop smoking for some people. you'll see ,he may be stronger when see you wont make a big deal from it
642276
giving up smoking is HARD.  I have done it several times, this last time for several years.  I am still smoke free, but it's kind of like being a alcoholic.  You need to just quit cold turkey.  No patches, no gum, no tapering off.  It's nonsense.  Just don't light a cigarette.  You will need something to replace it with.  People will tell you exercise, walking, etc.  People are crazy.  You aren't ready for that.  I recommend baby carrots.  No, i'm not kidding.  Eat a baby carrot everytime you want a cigarette.  They take about the same amount of time to eat and they will give you something to do.  Baby carrots cost about 1.50 for a plastic bag of them.  It's cheaper than cigarettes and no one ever got fat eating carrots.  And they are even healthy.  I quit for my son too.  I want to hold my grandchildren someday.  You CAN do it.  Congrats on your decision.
977718
Make a bet!  I hate losing a bet and my husband I make bets ALL the time.\n\nIt's gotta be worth it though, because smoking is as hard to quit as heroin is. Make the bets small at first and gradually make them bigger. Taylor the rewards based upon what she likes. It's even better if you offer to do (or not do) something as well.  \n\nFor example: If you don't smoke for 1 day, you get this or I'll do this. (small reward. Breakfast in bed, dinner out or made by you, etc...)\n\nAfter she wins the first bet, she'll feel confident and will be much more receptive when you suggest another "bet".  This time it will be more difficult (naturally) but the reward will be bigger.  \n\nIt's a slow process and I know you'd prefer a fast one, but it just may work for you. If my husband makes bets with me for breakfast in bed, a massage, a housekeeper (him or hired!) for a day, a great pair of shoes, a weekend getaway or piece of jewelry, I'm ALL over it!\n\nIf your wife is at all competitive...she'll be up for the challenge.
7823
Be direct and tell him that it's great that he chose to quit and that U R willing to put up with the mood swings. Enlighten them with harmless comments and try to laugh about what kind of an ass he's become he will eventually laugh along with U.\nBecause let me tell U after he is over those moods he will become one of the most annoying people to all his friends that still smoke and friends will be a little less tolerent than a loving wife. \nGood Luck
207387
Keep him busy. Create an environment that does not allow smoking. Every day he should wash the dishes, vacuum the house, dust, clean the toilet, do the laundry, wash all the cars, etc. \nMake him physically understand that his behavior is unacceptable. You run the show. You are the parent...show him who is boss.
517003
he is being completely unfair and trying to push you into having a cigarette so that he can feel better about himself, dont do it, be strong, u dont need to say anything, just dont have one. I'm not saying this just off the cuff, I smoke, I dont want to stop right now, but you and me both know the tricks ''if he has a cig first, then it's ok for me to have one too'' etc etc. If you want one, have one, if you don't, then don't. U know the first one will only make u feel dizzy and sick and then guilty and pissed at yourself, keep going you CAN do it xxxxxx
320931
Just quit. My husband quit about a week ago. He just came home from work, said I quit smoking today, and hasn't touched one since. He used Nicorette gum the first couple day, now he chews regular gum. I know it's hard, but if he can do it, so can you. (He's been smoking since he was 14.) Just think how much healthier you will be and in better shape to play with your kids. Plus, you are setting a bad example for your kids by smoking. By having a parent that smokes, they are twice as likely to smoke themselves.
210717
I smoked for 7 years everyone tried to get me to stop but i loved it only because it helped my depression and made me not think so much but as years went on i did nothing and let things go it has messed up everything i ever wanted to be cause it made me lazy and sleep all the time.you should get more involved with him go hang out and eat with him let him know you care and show him pictures of what it can do to your lungs.If that does not work then put your foot down tell him he will stop and you will know cause you can buy home drug test at wal-mart or drug stores.You must not give up or he will get up hie future and could end up in jail or as well as the cops coming to your home for a search if some neighbor calls.There is hope just try hard.It takes time to get over the withdraw but he can do it!
214276
This is a hard one my dear.Since you do not smoke and you can't stand the smell you have no choice but to leave him.No really don't do that.Send him to the doctor to see if they can help him.Remember nicotine is a drug your body craves.So he will act out of sorts until his body rids itself of all the nicotine.Sometimes it can be several years depending on how long and how many he smoked each day.I hope this helped a little for you good luck and keep me posted okay.
719223
That's great that you WANT to quit!  That's half the battle right there!  Think about the baby you and your husband want to have someday...how healthy it will be if you don't smoke!  Smoking is an expensive, disgusting habit that is hard to break once you are hooked on nicotine.  If you haven't tried the patches that are available, ask your doctor for some help.  Put aside all the money you WOULD have spent on cigarettes and go on a trip!  Buy baby things!  And as far as gaining weight, be sure to have lots of veggies at home...carrots and celery, and lots of fresh fruit.  I don't buy junk food at all, because if it's here in the house, I WILL eat it!  If it isn't around me then I won't be tempted.  Try taking up a dance class or join a gym.  GOOD LUCK!!!!!  BE DETERMINED!
18583
Your father is going to have to want to quit. When dealing with addicts nothing you do or say will convice an addict to stop unless the addict believes that their addiction is a major problem and cares enough about their life to want to change. Usually they have to believe and be fearful of the fact that they are going to die soon if they don't stop using. That is what it takes. Its called hitting rock bottom and it is never pretty. All you can do is express the fact that you want him to be in your life as long as possible and you will not do anything that will enable him to continue his addiction. That means not buying him cigarettes, etc. But it almost never works. They have to want it.
77199
I've been battling this addiction for years myself.  It is not an easy thing to kick! But coming from someone who's been there let me offer a few suggestions:\n\n1.  Support, don't condemn. What I mean is realize he is acting on very normal impulses, but seeking relief in unhealthy ways. If you make him feel guilty about it, it'll only compound the problem.\n2.  Get him to agree to be held accountable for his actions.  If you are his wife/partner, encourage him to talk to you or someone else he trusts whenever he feels he cannot resist the temptation.\n3.  Get him to seek spiritual help.  I am a born again believer in the Lord Jesus Christ.  It's only by His strength I can and will overcome this addiction!\n4.  Encourage him to take it a day at a time (a minute at a time if necessary).\n5.  If he stumbles, encourage him to confess it, ask forgiveness from God, and get back on the wagon (knowing he's been forgiven).\n6.  NEVER give up on him! And do your best not to allow him to give up on himself.\n\nThere may come a point where there's nothing more that you can do for this man (save pray for him).  If that time comes, don't be afraid to leave him in God's capable, loving hands.  You can't heal him, but God is eager and well able to do just that! I, on my part will endeavor to pray for you and your friend as I'm reminded to do so.  If I can help you further, drop me an email.
391809
Yes, my sister's husband just found out he has cancer, he's only 41.\n\n\nHow is your father in law doing?
316642
Put the cigarettes down, throw away everything pertaining to them, and then walk away. Do not gravitate towards people who do smoke, don't have long fantasizing conversations about how you used to smoke, and do not give in to the urge to smoke. Just say NO!\n\nThink of it this way: When you put a cigarette in your mouth and start to smoke, and then after a while you get the urge to do it again, and you can't control that urge, who is really in charge of your life? A little rolled up ball of tobacco? Give me a break, I used to smoke and I could never stop until I decided to walk away. It was a life changing moment, and between me and God, I told Him I would not smoke any more. That was over 6 years ago, no patches, classes, gum or anything! Every time I saw a smoke, I told my self "You will not smoke that." \nI can honestly say that it did take a few months for the thought of smoking to go away, but it was nothing I could not handle, and after 6 months I realized I do not even like the smell of smokers around me. And I haven't considered picking up that nasty habit since. Thank God!
83246
Go to www.Anti-Smoking.com. There are valuble guidlines and tips that will help you convince him/her, such as the illnesess. For drinking, go to alcoholism.about.com/od/support/.