why should I butter people up with compliments they don't deserve?
372774
Why don't you try and find something genuine to compliment them on instead?
13985
respect her. show her that you think of her as a person, not just some dummy you want to fool around with. I know a lot of guys that don't respect me, and that automatically puts them at the bottom of my list. Even saying somthing in the wrong tone. Also, compliment her a lot, like if she's really good at painting or has a cool hairstyle that day. Just make sure it's not always about her appearance, or she might get the wrong impression, but a girl does like to be complimented on beauty every once in a while.
217849
First off you should never have to feel like you have to do something to get someone to notice you . If the person is complete oppsite of you , you should never try to become like them . Changing who you are just to satisfy someone else will never make you happy , because it's not who you are. They should just like you for who you are , if they don't their not worth it. You don't need to do ,or change anything . Being confident in who you are indivitually should drawl itention , because being like everyone else tends to bore people .
1039199
the compliment can be flattering but after i see the same thing i had on yesterday on them it'll get annoying especially if your trying to have your own style and if they look better in it than you.I advise you next you go shopping together pick out some pieces for her advice her on something that looks great on her that doesn't resemble or come from your closet
1113720
Dearie a person does not derive self esteem from what other people think, that's why its called SELF esteem.  Love yourself for more than your looks, whether its your sense of humor or kind heart these are the things that really count.  And as cliche as it might sound how will anyone ever love you if you don't love yourself!
124981
It's more or less just that they crave attention.  Sometimes it can be funny, but in the sense when friends are joking with friends (i.e. you make fun of how your friend's hair looks like he/she stuck their finger in an electric socket).  Unfortunately (and it's been this way for years and years) the status quo is such that (and has been such that) when one makes fun of another it boosts his/her self esteem and morale (and that of his/her friends) at the cost of another's.  Most times this behavior is conducive to a lack of self confidence and a need to prove oneself to his/her peers.  Also, it indicates a broken history (even if the person in question comes from a prestigious background).  They just don't get enough love, so they've got to be a*holes...  It's just a fact of life.
156937
People gossip about others when they are feeling insecure about themselves and feel that they have to "belong" and to acheive that, they need to make up things about people who they think are perfect. As soon as you become one person's target, those others who are also insecure would also use you as a target, though not realising how stupid they all aare. Don't be upset because of what people say, because as long as you know that in you heart you didn't do it, then you are innocent.
970796
Honey, they are not worth having as your friend if they care that much about how you look. Sounds like that is what they base their decision on and that is not worth it. Find some new people you would like to hang out with and be happy! You shouldnt have to change yourself to make others happy.
682622
Try not to show off by bragging about your past conquests, and don't fish for compliments to boost your ego. Relax, be comfortable with yourself and express yourself naturally
1183723
take it from a man and compliment his underpants, sweetheart. don't argue with my logic; i have reasons to back this theory up:\n\n- everybody gets some compliments about there eyes, their hair, their talent in burning things but never, NEVER has anyone complimented someone elses underpants. if you do, he will realize you are selfless and are not the jealous type... instead of being jealous of his panties, you are telling him, "you know, i'll admit, those are nice."
450485
I actually just read an article written by a black woman about how she was tired of men assuming she was just some big-lipped, big-butt sex object.  Whenever guys payed her compliments (especially white males) it usually had something to do with how they were "into her chocolate love" or "wanted a black girl to boss them around in bed" or something else racist and degrading.  She wished people could just tell her something nice without pointing out that she was black.  How about we just compliment people for who they are and forget their skin-color-stereostypes?  There are millions of nice things that can be said of all women, and each woman is different -- they are all beatifully and wonderfully made; they are individuals.
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to please people, as long as it's not at your own expense.  you don't want to be a doormat, right? don't worry, it will probably cure itself because when people know you'll do anything for them, they'll use it as long as they possibly can (opportunists) and one day you'll probably just get fed up and know that you deserve more.  i would work on your self-image and books that have to do with confidence because i think that a lack of confidence leads to trying to please people constantly.  hope this helps!
889659
i think they do it to make themselves look better. the only time I give a thumbs down is if the person is just being rude or otherwise obnoxious in their answer. Personally I think it's pretty dumb to do.
338603
Because part of they're job is detecting problems and it becomes second nature to them to start doing this in they're social life. They see a motive behind every compliment, a problem behind every statement and an insecurity behind every boast bless em.\n\nSort of gets in the way of caring and loving someone.
50917
Either they don't notice, or feel insulted at the way your appreciation is being expressed, and thus ignoring you.  Girls get a lot of attention they don't want.  They wouldn't be insulted that you appreciate, just the way you do it.  Try nodding, saying hello, if you have the chance to talk to them ask them how their day is going, etc.  Girls like that sort of attention.
1148224
You can't satisfy anyone without pulling yourself apart trying to accomodate them. You can't make everyone happy. We try to seek approval from others because it adds to what we think our self worth is. We want people to be proud of us and like us, it is just the way we were taught to put others opinions and values over our own.
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Some people can only feel good about themselves by targeting others.  Unfortunately, these people have an overdeveloped sixth sense about who to target - they can sense insecurity or those with a sincere desire to fit in.\n\nDon't try to impress anyone.  There's simply no need.  Be happy with who you are.  There's a difference between constructive criticism and sheer bullying.  Bullies are cowards - they hope that no one notices that the color they're wearing makes them look a bit yellow, so they call someone else out and say that the victim's butt looks big.\n\nThey're selfish, pathetic and scared poopless that other people will find out they're not even close to being wonderful.  Pity them.  Be yourself ;)