How can I help my boyfriend open up about his fantasies?
367179
He probably just doesn't want to say what he'd like, or hasn't thought about it that much, but there is probably something.  Let him know what you would like to try and it will most likely turn him on.  I had a girl tell me she wanted me to titty-f her and I liked it because she wanted it.  Cheerleader outfits are great.  Anyways, he'll get more comfortable if you are and he'll probably tell you something he'd like to try.
47465
"now seems like he only pays good attention to me in bed" - That would be your problem. I have no insight into the mind of your boyfriend. However, I would say (coming from another man) that he is after just one thing. Then again, perhaps I am wrong. It is hard to be sure about such a concept when it is through a written medium and we've never met the person. Good luck anyhow.
525295
Primal sex is quite often a fantasy of most guys, if I were you I'd have a chat with your hubbie, theres a good chance he will be happy to help you, as long as your not asking him to hit you or anything like that, just tell him that you want him to come home from work and with out saying anything to you, throw you up against the wall, hike up your skirt and rip your panties off and have at it right there on the kitchen table...I serious doubt he will have any problems with that. Talk to him thats the best advise I can give you...Hope this helps, IM me n let me know
1149864
the only way to find out is to ask him at a relaxed time when you are just talking about other things.  \n1) he may not want to, considering it not something he is interested in doing.  depends how his fantasies go.\n2) it runs the risk of him becoming attracted to the other woman and visa versa.\n3) it may be all that your fantasies have made it to be.\n4) remember that fantasies are still fantasies as long as they are not acted upon.  some are great for thoughts while making love to your husband but are only thoughts.\n5) have you thought fully how you would feel afterwards? no jealousy? \n6) if it is decided, make sure the ground rules are set up ahead of time about how it would work. discuss details, if he is interested of how it would work.\ngood luck, smithsjim05@yahoo.com
401777
That's a good question,  I just went threw trying to teach my girlfriend some of those things.  Just being there, being active, showing interest in things he does, trying to take part in things he likes.  It can be tricky because doing them sometimes oversteps your bounds and you seem clingy.  As for things, honestly your better off showing up nude then buying flowers.  They are a nice gesture and all but most guys honestly have a one track mind it's sad to say.  Don't let that become the basis of a relationship though, but if your guy can show his sensitive side flowers, small stuffed animals, a "promise" ring, a poem, a song, a burned cd with all the songs that make you think of him.  Just something that truly shows that you care and you think about him. Hope that helps
770932
OK, here it is. First of all, ALL men, yes ALL, have fantasies and they all want to have a spicy intimate relationship with the one person they have to chose to be intimate with. Now, all you have to do is gain some confidence in yourself and have some fun turn this issue around to where it's no longer an issue. Yes, I know it's easier said then done. Listen to me, tell yourself how great you are, how lucky any man would be to be with you. You have to carry that attitude around because if you can't feel good and comfortable with yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? Think about it. When you feel confident, you welcome other people to get closer, and when you feel fear, you build an invisible shield that even you can't get through eventually. Stop what you have been doing, because as you can see, it isn't working for you, and put a smile on your face and get what you want! I really believe that your lack of confidence has created this problem. Didn't your boyfriend fall in love with you for the way you look? Well, you are still you, love yourself the way he does...for you. If you lose yourself, he'll lose who you are too, and that makes for a very unhappy relationship.
764457
Think specifically what that guy "did" for you.  Frame what he did into words, and then tell your husband that you want him to do those things for you.  Don't say you got the ideas from thinking of another guy.  Do tell him this with an attitude of love and playfulness.  It will probably excite him to hear you state your desires assertively.
479538
Most guys like to hear about your fantasies while you get it on. It's good to hear that your lady is human and sometimes doesn't think just about you. We men don't expect to be the only thing in your life that turns you on and are genuinely interested in hearing about the rest. It helps us to please you better and can bring a little rollplay into your bedroom antics!
403346
• Why even question something dat's goin' so great?\n\n...then again, I can understand da fact dat u're tryin to b considerate of ur man as well. Givin oral can b (believe it or not) pleasurable for da person givin it. I sometimes get a bigger turn-on by seein how my girl enjoys it while I'm pleasurin her. \n\nIf u'd like to know how he really feels, but u don't wanna just come out n ask him, try askin general questions or have an open n friendly chat instead. Havin both of u talk about intimate things will not only help him open up n tell u how he really feels about oral(without u being direct about it), but it'll also help him understand what u also like n dislike as well. Its a win win dontcha think?\n\nI once found out about a real cool (n kinky) fantasy my ex had just by talkin about da things we love to do in bed, favorite positions, fantasies etc. So I surprised her one day n made two or her fantasies a reality. How cool is dat huh?\n\n...good luck to ya!
1160005
it depends , if he is just thinking about it , thats not bad ,, everybody has perverted thoughts, as long as they stay thoughts and fantisies,the fact that he told u about them and that he admits to  them is a good thing, it shows trust , its the thoughts that he dose'nt tell u about that is what u may want to think about, ,, tryexperminting, maybe u could dress as a cheerleader, it just be some deep seeded want from childhood, where as a girl of that type would not go out with him, talk to him about , keep ur concerns out in the open, and just go step by step
1169897
tell him what your wearing (undergraments work the best lol).....tell him what you want to do to him when he comes home.....be sexy....tell him how much he turns you on.....tell him what turns you on the most about him.....hope that helps......
869716
It is the taboo of curiosity that has set his mind to this. In todays culture, you can hear about so many different experiences and the possibility is there. If your sex drive has increased as of late, he may feel that you might be up to something new. The curiosity alone is nerve wracking and the desire to change things up a little or spice things up even more can be a nagging thought. Ensure your feelings by keeping the communication lines open, enabling the point that he is all you want or need. Be willing to accept the fact that he may think he wants someone else, but that you are not ready for that. Maybe try the tactic of letting him know you are greedy for him and him alone. \nHell, if I had a wife like you.....anything I needed or wanted in the bedroom, I would probably not know what to do with myself. Just make sure that you keep your mind open to the avenues of conversation but hold onto your values and thoughts.
181990
I think, especially from a spouse, there is an unconditional acceptance of anything...including a fantasy, which taken correctly, could enhance your relationship. I know it would have helped mine.\n\nGood luck and acceptance is KEY.
269099
tell him what you want. consider what he wants. then contemplate the situation.
46721
If you are sure its not too serious And you dont plan on taking action on the situation(like breaking up with your boyfreind over him)Fantasizing is A healthy thing~within limits.Some things though are better left unsaid~If you tell your boyfreind it would probably hurt him~whether he would show it or not!
150393
Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies\nSex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there's one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it's your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favorites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you've had in years? Just follow this step-by-step guide.\nFantasy #1: He's a virgin  - and you're Mrs. Robinson\nWhy it appeals to you: It's a power game and "forbidden" sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter.\nWhat you'll need: A "sexy secretary"-type outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.\nThe action plan:\nThe trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You're seducing him, and he's struggling  - torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mom say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you're going to fix a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge room with your drinks. He sits on the couch, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your skirt high. He's not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you'd ask your son's friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another  - saucier  - level. Tell him you don't think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you're attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic  - and tries to hide his erection.\nAt that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband's. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.\nIn between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he's ever made love to a woman before. He'll squeak out a no. Ask him if he'd like to make love to you, and tell him it's okay  - you won't tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You're still the grown-up  - so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his pants. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex  - stopping just short of orgasm.\nUndress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don't let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you're both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control  - which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you've played your part properly!\n\nFantasy #2: He's your sex slave\nWhy it appeals to you: Having someone at your sexual beck and call has obvious benefits. You don't have to worry about the "no, you first honey" niceties of sex; it's all about your pleasure, and your pleasure alone.\nWhy he'll love it too: Something happens to women during this scenario; they start suggesting things they wouldn't dare during "normal" lovemaking. Who wouldn't love a wild woman in his bed?\nWhat you'll need
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That sounds like a pretty good answer to me. My suggestion to you is not to let him think that you don't know what head games he is playing with you, that will just make his head even bigger than what it already is. You are smart and let it be known!!