How soon is too soon to date a widower?
369105
when ever she feels comfortable enough to
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
856228
i don't think so. you definitely don't know each other well enough yet. it takes years of getting to know each other and experiences and getting through hard times before you can be sure. don't jump to any conclusions too quickly and just see how things go.
638221
Start from scratch.  Do not resume this relationship where you left off.  That would be the mistake.  People change.  If you are interested in getting back together.  Do not date for six months.  Let your old love mourn the loss of the marriage.  This will allow your old love to clear his mind first.  Start dating and take it slowly to find out how the marriage has affected him and why his marriage failed.
370173
I am sure that most people would need a recovery period emotionally before dating after a spouses death.\n\nMy mom didn't date for several years after my dad died when she was 39.  She remarried in 1995, 8 years after my dad died.
95091
"Too soon" varies from person to person, but if this guy feels ready, then it is not too soon for him.  For now, just act as a friend in front of the children (it would help to know how old they are) if you think that they will cause problems if they know it is more. But eventually they will have to accept the fact that their father's life goes on, and he has a right to be happy again.
288177
Two weeks is a short time.   I have been separated for two years now and my divorce should be finalized in two weeks.  LOL... it is always two weeks.  I still don't feel ready to date yet, but I am.  What ya gonna do?  Turn down people when they ask you?  Where have I met people, lets see... at the grocery store check out lane, at the car dealer waiting for my Van to be repaired, at Johnny's New York Style Pizza parlor, my neighbor, on yahoo... gosh, everywhere.  Only go out tho when you are ready.  I worried for the longest time that I just wanted to go out with guys to prove that guys would still find me attractive.
149991
Love your spelling. When you say older, what do you mean? If a younger woman approached me, I would be skeptical of her motives. She would have to be an intellectual equal for me to consider her more than a booty call. What kind of dates would you both feel comfortable on? If he is seen out with you, what are others going to say? Is he married? Will people tell? There's some pressure here.
706520
It takes time to find someone whom you have mutual chemistry with.  I had went on thirty or so dates before I met someone I wanted to even date a second time, let alone have a relationship with.  After about 4 years of dating, I finally met that one.  We dated for 2 years and have been married for four.  Don't give up, don't get discouraged, just make sure you keep improving yourself so you are ready to make a go at a successful relationship.
644870
Your talking about a life time. Give atleast 2 or 3 more months. Don't rush nto anything quit yet. Do you know his family, ex's? Did you do any research on this guy? Just find out more. I will hate to see you turn into one of those Lifetime movies. " Sweet girl falls in love with a serial killer". Just wait, take your time, pray about it.
647635
I've been dating my GF for just over a month and we both know it's right.  They say when you find the one you will just know, so I don't think it matter's how long you wait to get to know them.  You are going to learn something new about them everyday, even after 50 years of marriage.  I love my GF in a way that I never thought was possible and I just know that she's the one.  My grandparents dated for 2 months before they got married and they just celebrated thier 48 anniversiary and are in love more now than when they got married.  Just trust your heart!
681392
It's not too soon to fall for him, but it is too soon to know what's in the future. Strong relationships take work from both sides; I've been happily married for 8 years and have to remind myself to treat my husband like I did when we first got together ( love at first sight ... literally ).\n\nThe main reason relationships fizzle out after the first year or so is that the parties involved become so comfortable around each other that they stop putting effort into the relationship. While you don't want to come across as trying too hard in this early stage, you need to continue to show genuine interest while not clinging too hard. \n\nFrom the information you've given, this could be "the one" and you could very well have a future with this man.
62174
Too much too soon is bad. But, once you're committed and serious about each other I don't think it is.
348663
I met my husband at our workplace & he is 12 years older than me.  We are quite happy & been married for 6 years.  With this experience, I can say that you need to take it slow, don't load him down with your "emotional baggage" of the past, but be yourself.  Just don't give your entire life story right away.  Let him gradually get to know you.  Being nervous & apprehensive is normal.  Breathe & take it easy.  Things will be okay if you be cool, but not icy cool of course!  Talk about stuff, but also be breezy in your conversations.  If he wants to get to know more about you, he can pursue you gradually in future dates & learn a little bit more about you each time.  Most important (besides being yourself & not pretending to be something or someone your not) is to: Think Before You Speak.  That way you'll bypass your fear of saying something stupid.  Remember that it's okay to have silences between each other.  No one needs to chatter incessantly. Go slow & don't go too far or jump into bed together. Relax & have a great date!
216440
I was in love for 10 years and I'm 39 years old. I found love again but it took me awile. you will find love again if you do the following. first and the hardest you must let go of your former lover. I understand you are a widow but try not to think, talk and dream about him all the time. he's gone and he is in a better place and I'm sure he want's to see you happy again. do not compare,be open minded.take your time do not rush into anything.do not judge the person on the first date or two you may not be able to find out who that person really is. people tend to ack and be not them selfs when trying to impressed.and never ever sleep with him to soon, make him respect you first.
147393
what!? the only reason to let your wife date other men ( or women for that matter ) is if you are dying; in which case i hope it is quick & painless and you have lived all your dreams into reality; but dude, really. UNTILL DEATH DO WE PART means after you die. answer: after you die is when to let your wife date.