Why do Black Women make the mistake and go for a Thug?
357597
i am an educated black woman and can not stand thuggish men.  they are disgusting to me and we have nothing in common.  i disagree w/your statement and think most (educated and classy)sistas like brothas w/class and education. you may just be focusing on a few examples of nice black woman w/thug wannabes. you may just be meeting the wrong type of women and going to the wrong kick it spots.
973475
some women just want a bab y so bad they dont care who with....also some women thinbk it will MAKE  the guy love them (entrapment) and some women are just desperate
236934
Because they cannot mentally handle a relationship with a man who will be present in their daily life. It is a survival mechanism. Women who have been emotionally or physically abused in the past are often drawn to such unrealistic unions. They don't actually have to "deal" with the physical aspect of the relationship and  they don't have to financially depend on the incarcerated partner, two of the hardest aspects of married life. Think about it, if they choose a person who is unavailable in every way, then there is no pressure for them to perfom in the role as an actual spouse or partner.
255561
because that is who they are.  why do girls go after bad boys and ignore nice guys?
780235
Because them Hatin' kinds of blacks are Scared that Hate will find THEM!\n\nEqual Opportunity Destroyer
902297
Maybe the money? But I think its mostly because they think of themselves as victims. Maybe daddy was a drunk, and so they get stuck in a rut which will lead nowhere. Women who hang with drunks are dating losers. Doing so makes them losers as well. Sad.
1114329
Ok, I am black, I am a woman and I am 39.  \n\nHere is the thing, there are a TON of good men and I do mean BLACK men out here.  Its just that black women dont look at these particular guys.  They are not looking at Henry the mechanic, who is not the best looking guy in the world, but he is a REALLY a great guy.\n\nI truly can't say i have ever had a "bad" guy.  They were all different and all decent.  What they lacked in one area, they definitely made up in another area.  Sometimes you look at these beautiful women and these not so hot guys... and wonder, "what is that about".  Believe me, she knows. :)\n\nSynopsis:  If they stopped asking Thugs to be Good Men, and actually took the time to talk to the Mail man or the Mechanic, they would find one, right before their very eyes :)
1137514
all people are not created equal some are cleaver some are stupid, some are strong others weak etc.  it is human nature to ask where we as individuals fit in.  also it helps to be able to predict the behaviour and desisions another person may make so we look for patterns. e.g. when getting cash out of an atm we don't expect to get mugged by a 90 yearold woman behind us but will be more careful if its a black guy even though the chances are small.
863542
You're right. Do you want the honest truth?? We're scared. We figure one of them has a gun, or they're going to start a fight, or they're going to try to grab someone's purse. I'm sorry, I don't think anyone wants to feel that way, but we've been socialized by the media to think that black men are dangerous. The violent lyrics of rap music that glorify crime don't help that stereotype either. Another possibility for why they might look disgusted is that whenever I've been on the subway, groups of black youth talk so loudly and use offensive language that is inappropriate, so it is disappointing when a group of them come on the train because then you know that's the end of the conversation you were having with your friends. I don't mean to be offensive, I'm just trying to be honest since I think that's what you wanted.
1171256
they r confused...lookin 4 luv in all da wrong places...dey want 2 b wit a thug....feel he'll leave her if she dont allow it.....or maybe dey jus might like 2 b abused
96041
It depends on the type of black guy, I know some horror stories of what black men have done, but most are fine. It's just a negative sterotype that we do lots of crimes(one guy in my class did a essay on me going to jail). I treat girls right, my dad (he's not married) does, and most of the people I know do. But as with any man you still have to be careful.
506943
BEING A BLACK FEMALE IS DEFINITELY BETTER BECAUSE I AM ONE. BUT ON THE SERIOUS NOTE...EVERYONE LOVES A SEXY BLACK FEMALE.
611419
Because girls just want to have...bless their horny little black hearts. \n\nThat being said, if you caught something that was your fault. You should never trust a woman, since they lie.
1153672
When you find the answer it will probably also be the answer to "Why do men lust after little victim pricesses?".\nI guess men and women who pick the wrong partners for themselves are likely lusting after someone physically, and are convinced that they can help the other person. They either need to feel that they are better than the person they are partnered with, or they need to feel that others see their self inflicted pain as a sacrifice and proof of how much they care for the idiot they chose.\nYou need to start hanging out with older more mature women who enjoy their independence. Women who aren't trying to use you, because they have what they need in themselves. Women who want to share their lives with you. Stop hanging out with women of lesser intelligence, who enjoy drama, are lazy, and enjoy being victims of the circumstances they created for themselves. Stop looking for women who want to suck the life out of you.
571750
Probably because society just wants to make black people more insecure. They screwed with whities head, and now they spend zillions of dollars on wieght loss crap that only weakens their bodies so that Jewish doctors can rake in the cash for heart surgery. Honestly, black women spit in the faces of the oppressor....good job! You can tell them to kiss your big fat black a$$.
547293
Please don't take this as rude or mean, but....We are all raised differently. Back during slavery, the males were often ripped away from their families, so the women had to get extra strong. So alot of them got independant to the point that a man cannot stand up to that kind of independance. Then they had babies and passed it down. Not all black women are like that, not all of any ethnic group are. But I think it started as a coping mechanism. So many women (race iregardless) now believe that the only things that last is the mother-child bond. They expect the Daddy to ditch them. So he does. Perception plays a huge part in reality. White women never had to deal with having their men ripped away from them, or their families torn apart by things they could not control. So white females never had to be as tough in a generalized way. Nowdays alot of those black women are still getting their men ripped away. But its the guy's choosing (so still no choice for the female). Between violence, drugs, gangs, prison...can you blame black women for preparing their baby girls to expect to be a single parent?! Better to face reality and hope you get a good guy, than to live with your head in the sand. I bet alot of those black women are alot better equipped than their white counterparts to raise children and survive.
982302
Because they like to think they can get whatever they want .. like everything comes to them either easy or eventually ...\nAnd they like to be treated like dirt ... love to be teased ... i think they really hate believeing that they are not worth having a specific gurl or that a gurl can be special ...\ntwisted creatures >>> Tell me about it!! ;)