Why do I want more sex than my husband?
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
69909
My husband and I have a pretty good sex life. It did go a little down hill when I was pregnant but that was because I didn't want anything. We are still young and have been married for almost 2 years, but we do have a baby and that sometimes changes peoples sex life, but ours is still GREAT!!! I still have that fire that I felt for him the first time we met. He also thinks that I am the most beautiful person in the world because I carried and gave birth to his child. If you want to keep sex in your marriage you have to keep love. I know that we might not have sex 3 times a day like we did when we first started dating, but 3-4 times a week is still very good. Sometimes it is more and when I am working my long weeks it can be less. If you are loosing sex in your marriage just find a way to get that spark back. If you are one of the few that looses your libido during pregnancy don't fret it will come back. I was a complete Nymph before hand so when I didn't want anything we both thought that was strange and I am not a nymph anymore but I STILL WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO MY HUSBAND. I just hope that I can say that in 20 years. Try things like porn or mild fantasies. Or even spice things up by really playing with each other. Just don't give into threesomes or if you are a man do not push them. My husband always wanted one until we met a couple who ended up divorced because of that fantasy. NEVER LET ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. That is a sure fire way to kill it. So if you are getting married enjoy the sex but make sure you let each other know when you want it and what makes it more special. Try to keep that spark going. I wish you luck. If you are already married I hope that you still do have that spark. If not try everything to get it back...
656944
It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
1050615
Me nor my husband never go more than 3days w/out having sex. So on a weekly average let's say 2 or 3, But on a good week honey we can go evey night and maybe twice a night on some night's. We have a good sex life and that's great, exp. when ur married
977793
I am a therapist and I know exactly what you are going through. I have treated many couples with this problem. Fifteen to twenty times a week is a bit excessive and that places you guys in the top 5% statistically. It is 100% humanly possible and normal to have sex many times a week as you describe. Now, what is not normal is that by doing so you submit your body to great discomfort. Sex is meant to be an enjoyable experience. If 15 to 20 times a week is not enough for your husband then that reveals that he definitely has a problem that needs to be addressed. If he is not taking any stimulating substance to increase his libido, which he obviously does not need, he is currently going through a chemical imbalance. He may or may not require medical treatment at the organic level. From what you described about him, I don't think he requires any psychological evaluation. Prepare a nice dinner for the two of you. Talk this out with him. Explain to him how you feel and how your current sexual activities are interfering with your body and your ability to function normally in daily life. Ask him if he has taken any substance that may have caused this change in behavior. Also mention to him that you would love to have sex with him at the rate of 15 to 20 times weekly that you are comfortable with. I am sure that he will understand.
830287
I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
1042710
Maybe he freaked out because he's not emotionally attached to you.  And you are bringing the emotional equation into the "casual sex" relationship.  He clearly doesn't want to be emotionally attached to you, because you are simply the "sex" he's not getting at home.\n\nHe will never leave his wife.  \n\nWhat are you doing?  What would your husband say?\n\nRelationships are not kleenex, you don't toss them out when things get soggy.  There are real emotions and people involved here.  How can you lie to your husband every day that you keep this secret from him.\n\nLike it or not.  He's pulling away because of the "emotional" attachment you are bringing to the "sex only" relationship.\n\nHe has a relationship, and that's at home.  He only wants sex from you.  As long as you give it, he will take it.\n\nAnd that's a Man, in a nutshell.
285081
Just try to do more things together that dont envolve sex, maybe something will spark and ingnite his passion again. It's not an uncommon thing for guys to not want sex that often. Check out www.psychologytoday.com they have a lot of articles about this topic there. good luck to you!
657618
Back off him for a bit for starters, he's probably exhausted! No men like being badgered into more sex, the pressure sucks and doesnt make it very enjoyable. FInd out when he likes doing it, try different things, get that spark back, just try asking him what he wants/likes!
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
266901
just being straight up would be best.\n\ni have to read between the lines, not many details...\n\nit seems like there could be several causes... hang-ups, priorities, miscommunication, not being in the mood, fear of the unknown, performance anxiety, him not knowing your boundaries...\n\ntell your hubby how you feel, and let him know what you had in mind, and let him know you REALLY want it, there will be no pressure, no judgment, and let him know he can't screw it up... even if it doesn't work right the first time, you want to try something new for excitement.
650124
no theres nothing wrong with you your partner just has a higher sex drive than you
318977
I say that if you have no prior history of homosexual behaviors, then it probably just has to do with your husband's inability to express his emotions. Women tend to see other women as emotional creatures. If you are wanting your husband to be more emotional or expressive in bed, then you may wander  how it would be if you were intimate with a woman.
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
102452
I think your weight is perfect. \n\nYour husband is not fighting fair.  Explain to him that's not acceptable.  Illustrate this by yelling "small penis!" if he does not listen and does it again.\n\nEdited to add that I am glad my husband (and 1st husband) love my curves- of course there are men out there that do!
935955
It could be a number of things....maybe they have kids and the woman is too tired?  Maybe her husband doesn't do the same things to/for her as he used to before getting married, for example, lighting candles, romancing, going out for drinks etc.  I think for me personally, I love having sex with my husband, but we have limited time to f**k around anymore, we have 2 small children.  We're both exhausted.  Maybe you need to make a date with your wife, compliment her all night on how beautiful she is, then ask her to go down......can't hurt you know?  Wow, I think I need to run home and have oral with my husband tonight ;o)