How do I get this guy to not be afraid of a relationship?
358066
All you really can do is stay by him thought all his hardships he'll one be very greatful and if he knows that your always there for him then you'll stay be him in a relationship....But if he has been hurt before(which at 14 it can happen trust me) then it is going to take him alwhile..Just be his friend for now and see what happens.
773009
you talk to his friends, so oneday when you see him just say hey, n ask him whats up\nfind something he likes and you like too, great convo starter when you have something in commen\njust take a deep  breath n talk to him, its not hard, just get over your fear n do it
276330
Just tell him that you dont want to have a relationship and that you just want to be good friends!!  Good Luck?
766693
He does but he's afraid.\nMaybe you should try asking him out on a date.\nYou have spent enough time waiting for him to make the first move, so try it yourself.
692694
Sometimes, when you yourself look or feel uncomfortable, the other person starts feeling the same way.  Other times, it's just them.  No matter what the reason is, best way to break the ice is to go out and explore interesting places.  Break the ice!  Maybe go to an amusement park or a skating rink or watch a movie or go out clubbing.  When the focus is not you, or him, you both become more comfortable.  Also, talk to him.  Ask him if why he's nervous.  If he can't explain it as well, then just let things flow.  Moving from friendship to a romantic relationship is a big change.  It will take time for both of you to adjust.  So, I suggest, don't rush.  Take it slow.  Enjoy moments together.  Tell him that although you are now in a relationship, your core foundation of friendship still stands true.  That means that you don't have any big expectations.  That you still see him not only as a boyfriend, but also as a good friend and confidante.  Follow what your instinct tells you. We women are supposed to be very good at this.  \nJust a note:  Congratulations!  The best and the most lasting romantic relationships usually starts from friendship! Enjoy the ride of your lifetime! =)
136993
i know exactly where you are coming from.  remember, us guys like girlfriends.  for the longest time i was in the same situation as you (up until a few months ago).  i never did get the courage - she told my friend who told me.  if you really think you cant ask him with the fear of rejection you could ask a friend of him and you to ask him casualy if he would go out with you.  hope i helped - goodluck
804719
trust his friends. he is prob just the kind of guy who takes a while to get comfortable in any relationship w/ ppl, but wen he does I'm sure it will all be worth it!\nyou just hav to act however u naturally would because that is what obviously attracted him to you in the first place.
878597
I'm sure You didn't scare him away....the one thing I can tell you from experience is Just be yourself...most guys like it when you don't have to fake who are with them!
840058
best advice is to take your time, you have all the time in the world Hun this isn't a race to see who can get what boy and how fast is it? spend time with him dont force the issue be patient and he will get the message. It will happen naturally, he is perhaps scared to death of you, i know when i was a young man i was so respectful of some girls that they dumped me because they thought i didn't want to bed them. to be honest they frightened me or i always thought of them as not that kind of girl. he may think the same. Take things slow and chat to him about other things to take the pressure off once he gets more confident being around you it will happen if it is going to. I am sure you are a very attractive well presented and well manored young woman, this is what he may be afraid of. "his angel isn't like other girls" so to speak. or on the other hand if you are outgoing brash and pushy you may scare the sh*t outta the poor guy. If you want this thing to happen be patient and talk to him as a friend.
159092
I think he is afraid of the reaction other people would have if he told you that. Some people really do talk when they hear about relationships. Summing it all up; can it be fear?
365481
Keep him.  He is one of the rare men who has a lot of respect for you and doesn't want the relationship to be intimate until he knows you well enough to have feelings for you.  He is interested in you for who you are, not just for how close he can get to your body.  \n\nHe is more comfortable with his friends because he knows them and knows what is acceptable and what is not in his friendships with them.  He is nervous around you because he is afraid he will screw up and you won't be interested anymore, or worse that you will turn him down flat and humiliate him.\n\nGive the guy a chance, and he will warm up to you.  The fact that he isn't acting like all the other guys, clawing all over you, doesn't mean there is something wrong with the situation; it means that there is something right about him.
947330
Hello:\n\nI've been with guys who have pressured me in the past, and trust me - it's really hard to say no. But ultimately that is what you have to do. If you are not comfortable with something, that is your decision. And if your guy loves you, than he has to respect you, and that means he will wait for you. \n\nBe strong and stand up for yourself. When I am in a situation where things start to happen, there are a lot of signs and ways that I can stop something if I wanted to. The first would be being in that situation in the first place. It is possible to hang out with your guy without being in a sexual situation. Maybe you need to plan group events, I mean he's not going to try to get you in the sack when you are hanging out with 5 of your friends. \n\nI hope this helps, and good luck!
233390
If you never talk, then get up the courage and talk to him. Its the only way things are going to change. It doesn't look like he's going to make the first move, so you'll have to. Guys like that.
1112140
Ok there are two possible answers to this question -\n1.) He likes you but doesn't want to/is scared of commiting to a relationship - In which case run for the hills and carry on with your life (including meeting other men) you cannot wait around for him!\n\n2.) He is doing the dog in the manger thing - ie He doesn't want you but doesnt want anyone else to have you as he likes your attention and the knowledge that if he really was at a loose end he has you to fall back on - In this situation RUN, don't answer the phone and basically tell him to go away, go out and enjoy your life without him hanging over you like a cloud. \n\nHope it works out in the way you want. Good Luck
1000873
Don't be afraid to make the first move.  Some guys are more nervous than you are.  Great if he says yes, and if he says no, who cares he's not good enough for you if he can't realize a good thing when it's staring him smack in the face asking him out.  I did, and now I'm married to a great guy. Good luck.
608894
1. don't frighten him by being too forward\n2. build his confidence in you by being non-threatening in actions or words\n3. develop privacy in a cozy place with nice music and good ambience\n4. tell him that you like his hair, his lips, his strong arms, etc\n5. after that, he will do what you want but guide him the way you want.
718208
He surely havs taken much place in your heart, because he was there with you when you were going through life's upheavals and downfalls. Time after time he helped you, be there with you. And you think the this guy is the one you need, because you know perfectly well, that he wants to help you whatever troubles that you will have.\n\nWhy he turned you down when you ask him out? My first impression on this issue is that he had set some boundaries between you two; avoid further commitments. May be he noticed that you now are well and able to live happily. There is no need for him to be close to you and support you.\n\nHe doesn't notice your feelings, yet even if he does, he still chooses to stay away from you. Because he sees that you do not need him in order to be strong. And he knows his role in this relationship; once you are well, he will back down or walk away.\n\nThat may explain why he doesn't talk to you; he fears if there is something more that you expected him to do or want him to commit. A friendship is really not a problem to him, I guess. But if you ask him to have stronger relationship with you. That, he cannot allow himself to do so.\n\nThere are limits that he set for himself in the first place, and he will not bridge those limits. He may fear that he can never be as caring as he used to be; and he may not have enough confidence to love you the way you want him to be.\n\nYou said it yourself; he is your first true love. That may be the very thing he fears of. Sorry, I cannot explain why. It will be best for him to answer it himself.\n\nThis is my perception on this issue; I hope that I'm not too sharp on you.\n\nGood Luck