what do i tell my children about being in dark places at night? they don't believe me about pedophiles.?
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Wow, where do you live?  Hehe.  Um, I don't know what you can tell your kids other than you really think they should find alternatives to hanging out in dark, secluded areas.  You should know that if they are old enough to go out and do things like that, that if you forbid them to do something, if they have a rebellious nature, they may do what they want - against your wishes and better judgement.  \n\nMaybe instead of trying to preach to them you could provide them with an alternative like your driveway, or backyard to hang out in and do whatever it is that they're doing in these spooky places.  It's never too late to teach your kids about entertaining people in the home.  That's something we don't do enough of in our culture anymore, as far as I'm concerned.  (That isn't to say bad things couldn't happen in the home either, but at least then they would be in a more controlled environment, and you [if you were there] could see who was coming and going...)\n\nOther than that, I don't know what else to tell you other than maybe to give them a curfew which doesn't permit these types of activities.  \n\nGood luck.
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Tell your children to not drink and fluids before bed, pee before bed, try not to eat liquidy food before bed. And make sure thw way to the bathroom is well lit. They might get scared if it's dark.
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Your problem is that you are keeping all of your troubles bottled up inside.  If your family is treating you unfairly, you should tell them.  "Look mom or grandpa or aunt, I'm a responsible 19 year old who has a job, is very hardworking, and can look after herself.  I should be rewarded and not punished by having a midnight curfew.  I should be able to stay out to 2 or 3 in the morning.  Movies after midnight are very awesome.  You only live life once, you want to let go and enjoy sometimes especially when you have worked really hard everyday.  The nightime experiences are not as wondrous when you are older."   It think something along those lines should be good.  If perhaps they still don't listen, look them in they say and tell them that all these restrictions make you very depressed and unhappy, especially since you believe that you are a good kid.  Also, tell them that kids with strict parents are more likely to exhibit bad behavior than reasonable but fair parents.  I think that I should also note that some parents are strict because they are afraid that their child could get hurt, make bad choices...so they are trying to protect them.  If this is the case with your family, let them know that they are selfish, because through their fears they making you feel untrustworthy even though you are a good kid, and preventing you from living life and being happy.  They KNOW you are responsible and smart enough to make wise decisions.  Just remember to consider their feelings if you decide you tell them.  Be honest, but not rude.
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I applaud you and your family.  I strive towards that all the time, but having been brought up in a home that had all the conviences, took things for granted, ate whatever looked/tasted good etc. etc. I have trouble breaking away from what I grew up with.  I am moving more towards vegitarianism slowly, but surely and try to use homeopathic rememdies as much as I can.  I know that I am no where near you and your family, but I try.\n\nAs a social worker though I would have to say that although I envy your lifestyle I would still be concerned for your children.  Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they are just fine, but I have seen many children who for whatever reason have not been exposed to TV, public schools and mainstream culture who are maladjusted and or taken advantage of when they are older.  I'm sure you can do your best to teach them about some of the nightmares society will offer them, but some things just aren't learnable/teachable, they need to be experienced.  My concern for your children will be how will they adjust to other people, to society at large, how will they maintain this lifestyle with all the pressures from others, how will they stay safe when they may be ignorant to some of lifes obsticles.  I think it is great to live the way you do, I would just do everything in your power to ensure that your children don't get shell shocked when they leave the "comfort of home".
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Check with your local law enforcement. Sex offenders should be registered. Pedophiles target children, not older adults, but to be sure, contact your police department before jumping to conclusions.
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Who told you that? i guess priest of your church . Keep away from him since most of them are child molesters.
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Please tell me what he is bragging about? Do you realize there are single parents, who rehabilitated former sex offenders? They have as much right as you do to make sure their children are getting a good education. They have as much right as you do to attend the play, concert or sporting event their child is in. \n\nOne of you said something about the other children in the school being a temptation. I guarantee you that they are more of a temptation to an offender that hasn't been caught and hasn't gone through sex offender treatment therapy than the registered offender has.\n\nYour child has more chance of being harmed sexually by a relative, a close friend of the family, teachers, coaches, scout leaders, bus drivers, etc than they have of being harmed by a rehabilitated former sex offenders. 90 to 95% of sex offenses are committed by someone known to the child and to the family. You need to educate your child about good touch/bad touch. You need to teach your child that NO ONE, not even another child is to touch their private parts. You need to teach them to NOT talk to strangers. The main thing you need to teach them is that if anyone, including and most especially, someone known to them, ever touches them they need to tell you immediately. Get through to them that they will not be harmed for telling, but they will not be put through this again. Also, let them know that you won't be harmed because they told. Let them know that the person who offended did wrong and must pay his/her debt to society for that act. Make it plain to them that they are NOT the one that did something wrong, the adult or the other child is. Yes, there are children on the registries. However, I feel many times, with the younger ones this is normal child exploration the courts feel differently. There are 6 and 7 year olds on the registry in KY for checking each other out. Also, if your child is ever offended, please get counselling for them. This is highly important. \n\nI was molested twice as a child. I have forgiven the two that offended me. I am a survivor and I detest the word victim. Make sure your child knows that they are a survivor, they are strong because they did the right thing and let you know. Keep their self esteem  as high as you can by letting them know they are a survivor and not a victim. \n\nThe MOST IMPORTANT thing is that you supervise your children constantly. You don't let them go out to play alone. You don't let them go bike riding alone. Just think what you and your child can do together in that respect. You are enjoying time together while you are both getting excercise.\n\nI am the Mother of three and the Grandmother of 4. My children didn't leave my site and the two grandchildren I am now raising do not leave my site. It may bug them, but at least I know they are safe.
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There's no harm in asking the history, if you don't want them to know you think the house is haunted, then don't say anything about it, just tell them you are interested in the history of it.  Working on a house will stir up the spirits, I know it has in my house.  But talk to the oldtimers in the town, they are always full of info on old houses. Also, children can see thing til they are about 4, spirits think they are innocent til they are about that age and show themselves to them.  If they don't hurt you and your not scared of them, then leave them be, but they also say that if you tell them to go to the light that they will eave, that they just need someone to tell them where to go.  I fully believe in ghosts, but they don't scare me since I live with them in my own home.  good luck with them, and some people will think your crazy, but others will believe.
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Young kids are really concerned about the basics like what will happen to them. How will the practical things in life change for them....home school, friends, being loved. Next they want to know what will happen to you. Give them honest talk about what you believe. If you have not engaged in talks about faith, then doing a "some people think this. and some people think that" talk gives them a variety of things to chose from to find the one that comforts them the most. When they ask what you think, tell them. It is an opportunity to model to your children loving parenting in the preparations you make for their security, and also how you meet your death will be the greatest lesson they may ever learn. Fear of death is one that all humanity struggles with. Those who have no fear, live life most fully I think.  I recommend levity in the heaviest places. I especially recommend being a part of life until the moment you are not.
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You could do like everyone else and have them log on here.  We'll tell them for you.\n\nBut if you insist on doing it yourself, I suggest you wait until they start asking questions like "Where do babies come from?" and "Why does my little sister have a vagina and I have a penis?"  \n\nYou should handle them individually and not at the same time because they are not the same age or gender and can't process the information identically.\n\nAnswer all questions honestly and leave the stork to parents that lie to their kids.  And whatever you do, don't villianize sex, but simply say that there is a time and a place for everything.\n\nNOTE: Your goal is to make them as comfortable as possible when discussing sex with you.  Don't overload them, and never scold them for stuff that is only natural.  If you do, you can be assured of being left out of the loop when it comes time to discussing whether or not to have sex with their BF or GF.
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Lol...omg. That's funny as hell. Truthfully it depends on if the kids are old enough to understand the joke and laugh at it...but they wouldnt be going to bed at 9 pm. If u want to scare the kids into sleeping, tell them if they dont, the monsters under the bed will eat them....or if you actually want them to sleep, tell them no more presents on their birthdays & such.
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I am 26 years old and still afraid of the dark. I sleep well either drunk or completly exhausted.  If I am not either of those, I sleep with a light on and music playing.  The reason for me doing this is because I was molested as a child.  I later heard that many surviors also do this.  Maybe you were hurt as a child and that is something that you felt that you could control by being able to see your surroundings?  Good Luck!
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Maybe you should tell your neighbor about the kids but while you are telling make sure you don't have an attitude. Just tell them calmly(if u can)about the situation.
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I kind of like Grand Old Pedophiles myself but Going Out of Power works for me too. Anything to p them off.
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Be no a fool.Those folks get way too serious.If you must,you would need to be invisible.I have studied,I can think of no way in.Even if you could tunnel,they would get you.At best you could peek over a hill and see the lights.Forget it.
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I am not sure I want my kids to be intermingled with ANY religious group AT ALL!!!! They are ALL starting to sound a bit scary to me?
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Hi there.. i answered your question about your scared child.  So yes, I do believe in this.  The fact that she is telling you that there are bad angels, says that she does see something.  She is too little to make it up.  Just go with her into rooms, until she has a way of dealing with it.  You can even talk to these bad angels when you are with her.  If she sees that you believe her, that will help, and maybe it will help those images to go away.  Does the house you live in have prior history?  You can email me at kelly_200159@yahoo.com