My wife is overweight, I love her body but I need advice how to spice up our sex life.?
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Are you looking in on me??? Boy do i know what you are talking about. my husband loves me to death and he slips too,we crack up laughing, legs over the shoulders, doggie style etc.... Our best is oral sex. When she is in the mid of orgasm you "will" have an erection, put her legs on your shoulders...guarantee she will have at least 3 orgasm's. she will yearn for more...get energy....foreplay will be greater and this will transform to her self-esteem. maybe the sexy clothes will come later. turn on the lights when making love.\nAnd Buddy while in the midst of a passionate kiss my husband will slide his hand down my body feeling me so lightly then feels me where im "wet" ready for him and aims perfectly. Jamming your penis on the side of the leg and other near by areas is not acceptable.You are saying you are too fat.AND NOT TRUE. One leg over opposite shoulder is very good too. MY husband has a beautiful body, weighs 160-180. im a size 22. But everyone laughs at me cause in my inside i feel size 5-10, no bigger and have the ATTITUDE. Have your wife email me. And kiss/peck her more (but not to smother)pat her on the butt at the grocery store. My husband says when he is on top of me it feels like a mountain...so when he is really ready for orgasms i'll sing to him "Climb Every Mountain". NOw you know what that does!! We crack up laughing. And then does he come after me. FIND yall's sense of humor.
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Yes, no, and maybe.  Sounds confusing.\nThe Yes part is I love my wife's body and I do adore it even though she is overweight.  When she dresses sexy or moves a certain way it sometimes gives me a immediate hard on (probably too much information) or it is a real turn on.\nHowever, there are times when she isn't as appealing.  That is the no answer.  This is usually when she isn't happy with herself and her body.  She is afraid to show it off and I think its part that but it is also part of her personality.  She doesn't seam as happy and as talkative and seams to get upset easily.  So even though her outsides are the same her insides are making herself totally unappealing.\nThe maybe part is when she gets like above.  I start to think about her in really sexy cloths and lingerie (stuff she doesn't even own but wich she would go and buy) and it really turns me on.
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serious talk, that is! i know it's hard but sometimes we have to take matters as they should...you have tried so many things to help her and i think it's about time to be honest & straightforward..\n\ntell her that you love her and you are concerned about her health...putting on so much weight can be tough on health...tell her that you want to stay with her for as long as you can, but how will it happen if she'll get sick by being overweight...big doesn't mean healthy and she knows that..ask her why is she behaving like this, there must be something bothering her...if none, be firm but reasonable..\n\ntell her that you want her old self back and you love her taking care of herself too...challenge her, tell her it would be nice if she'll look like your girlfriend and not a mother and sloppy...just be thoughtful when you suggest...\n\nyou can do it..
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practice.  try things for yourself.  your body may have changed over the years.  have your partner do different things or do them yourself.  don't give up.
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From the rear.\n\nSorry. Seriously, you need to move away from the dress-up games and work on increasing the true kink factor. I would make an assault on her mental barriers.\n\n1) Massage her until she is as limp as a noodle. Then (unless she demands sex) let her go to sleep in your arms. Repeat from time to time until she begins to trust you more. Do not let her come to expect this, however.\n\n2) Meanwhile, during the few times you do have sex, suck on her nipples a lot. This will increase the levels of oxytocin in her brain (making her feel that she loves you more).\n\n3) Get her to exercise, especially weight train. Weight training will increase the levels of testosterone in her system (yes, in girls too) and make her hornier. Testosterone is the sex drive hormone in females too.\n\n4) After a nice massage session, go dovvn on her until she is extremely turned on. Then go at it like crazed weasels. \n\n5) Keep doing it like crazed weasels for a few weeks, and then make your requests for makeup, high heels etc. She will do anything you ask as long as you keep the big Os coming.
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First you have to honestly ask yourself whether the changes you want are out of love for her, or out of love for yourself?  If they are out of love for her, then you'll definitely have to be an active supportive participant in this.  Exercise WITH her.  (Don't wear her out all at once; she'll be intimidated.)  Cook WITH her... try some low-fat cookbooks with lots of veggies and minimal carbs and meat.  Good-tasting food that doesn't make you look like a blueberry muffin IS possible, but it takes work.\n\nAlso, be sure you let her know that you love her and you're concerned for her well-being.  If she cannot accept that, there's not much you can do.  But if she can, you could really go somewhere with it.  One of my friends was very overweight... ate way too much and was extremely lazy.  Well, she is still overweight.  BUT she is losing some of it and eating more healthy and getting into shape.  And it's all thanks to the good influence of her boyfriend.  Now I don't think he's such a good influence in some other areas; but about that he's good.\n\nAnd finally... wear her out with some good sex.  hehe.  ;)  J/k... sort of.
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I don't think there is really any way to tell your wife and keep her, unless she is extremely forgiving and you are willing to change and be faithful.  Even then, not likely to work out.  On the other hand, you need to be honest and get this out, better she hears from you than figures it out on her own.
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Find yourself a BBW to be with full time. If you like them big make sure she knows that so she is not all self conscious about her weight. Then have fun.
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Be extrmely patient & understanding in motivating her to live a less worry-free healthy lifestyle. \nMake her realize that being fit & healthwise leads to a positive outcome result because, "we are what we eat."\nCompile news clippings or infos concerning about the benefits of weight loss and  also the possible extreme effects of weight gain...\n*try giving her a treat on a professional salon for a complete beauty make-over.\n*make her look fabulous on her wardrobe because it would catch men's attention.
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there are sooo many things to do to increase your sexual drive... if that's the question... \n\ngo to a sex shop. they have fun games (not necessarily vibrators), and lotions... and things that tast good, and warm up that you can put on her body... find out what her needs are, or what she wants that you dont do for some reason... try something new... and make her body feel like the sexiest and beautifullest body you have ever seen or touched.
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Any exercise will give you more energy, thus increasing sex drive. A healthy balanced diet will do the same thing. Spicy food gets your blood pumping, try roleplay, foreplay etc. If it's endurance you're after, then ask your ladyfriend not to touch you intimately until just before penetration. Also try focusing on giving her pleasure, and not yourself. Good luck!
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When she asks, just bend down and kiss it and say it looks fine to you, then hug and kiss her and hold her close to you.  Don't make an issue of it.  Tell her she is sexy and her body turns you on.  I know my wife's belly does.  It doesn't bother me at all.
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Unfortunately, you know what you are missing because you've had so many multiple partners. Talk it over with your wife. Hopefully, you both can communicate with each other. When you go down on her ask her what she likes. Get her comfortable to acknowledge that it is ok to ask what feels good. Hopefully then, she will ask you. If not, be gentle and let her know what you like better. But, under no circumstances are you to bring up the other woman. Put them out of your mind. One of your primary goals in your marriage is to learn how to turn your wife into the most beautiful flower by the way that you love her. \n\nAlso, try some personal hygene. Make sure you have taken a good shower and your poop shoot don't reek of a sewer. Trim your hair and make sure your pole is slick as a whistle. Let her enjoy you because she wants to and not just becasue you want to gratify yourself.\n\nAs the golden rule says, "Do unto others as you wan them to do to you." Well, pucker up there good buddy, stick out your tongue, and show your wife how its done!
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Comfortably get her to watch porn movies that are for newbies.  Then you try new things with her and get her to feel comfortable with her body enough to try new things with you. You know her background, so be patient and slowly introduce to the life she has never known. She needs to feel sexy enough about herself to let out the kinky in her.  Buy her lingerie, sexy massage fruit oils.  Tell her you want to try new things and experiment with her in the heat of the moment.  Sometime a little loss of inhibition does a woman well.  Don't get her drunk..just where she feels sexy enough to try what you want.
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Sorry but you cant increase her sex drive.   What you can do is, encourage her to want you more often.   Heres a few suggestions.\n1) Set the mood.  Maybe cook her a meal, light some candles etc\n2) Give her a sensual massage (massage everything)\n3) Let her know how beautiful you think she is.\n4) Be sensitive to her needs, as well as your own. \n5) Surprize her.   May a picnic, a movie,etc.   Just something you know she will love, and you wouldnt normally do.\n\nI hope these help.   Good luck
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FitGuy ... ever hear the story of the jar full of jellybeans?  Yea, you know the one ... take a full jar of jellybeans and take one out for every time you have sex prior to marriage.  Then after the wedding you put back a bean for every time you have sex ... and the jar will never be full!\n\nWell that's just garbage and don't fall for it!!\n\nBut let me give it to you straight from a woman.  A woman's sexual desire is more tied to how she feels about herself than how she feels about you ... no matter how good you look!\n\nI've been married for 17 years and we are having the BEST and most frequent sex of our lives!  Only because I finally started being more selfish and less selfless!  As one of your responders said, woman have a habit of taking on the world's problems and making them her own.  It's hard to feel sexy when your stressed about the kids, the bills, the job, his feelings, does he still find me attractive, etc!!!\n\nMost of us get caught in this trap, even I did for many years.  It wasn't until I hit the gym, lost 65 pounds began bodybuilding and seeing myself as Hot and Sexy that I was able to get rid of that baggage.  If a woman feels fit and sexy on the inside, she will have the need to express that on the outside and her sexual appetite will totally increase ... it's just natural ... trust me!!\n\nMy husband actually likes the fact that I have this selfish side as he is the one who benefits from the overly active sex drive it created.\n\nOK, why am I telling you this?  Well, it's obvious from your photo that you are in great shape ... could she be a little self concious about that ... is she in as good of shape?  The reason I ask is because it doesn't matter how many times you tell her she is beautiful if she doesn't feel it for herself!  She just won't believe you.\n\nAlso, does she share your fitness lifestyle?  Working out together can be very uplifting and sexy ... couples who work out together stay together!  \n\nIf you feel this is not her problem, and she has a great self image, then perhaps a little variety could jump start things.  Try initiating sex in an uncharacteristic place ... be spontaneous ... use a toy ... tell her she is the best sex you've ever had ... find out her fantacies!  Spice it up ... you're her main squeeze so you should know what turns her on the most.\n\nMost of all, do not think a woman's sexual appetite is tied to marriage.  Sex and marriage are two totally different things and each takes work to make them last.  A woman's sexual appetite is tied to how she feels about herself.  No matter what is going on around her.  If she feels sexy, she will want sex!!!  \n\nTrust me, we women love sex ... we want to be told we are the sexiest, and best lovers there are out there ... and a man who can tell us this and make us believe it will have all the sex he can ever dream of!\n\nBest of luck!
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Communicate and then communicate more.  Different people have different ways of feeling secure and loved.  Which does she respond to best?  Gifts?  Doing a favor for her without being asked? Words of assurance and acceptance? \n\nHer way of having her "love tank" filled may be different than yours.  Find out what kind of fuel she needs and I suspect your sex life will improve too.