What can I do to make myself more CONFIDENT and raise SELF ESTEEM?
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You've gotta psyche yourself out...don't give a damn about what anyone else around you is thinking.Learn how to accept rejection...invite it if you have to.Sometimes it pays to be an arrogant,conceited prick(only once in a great while to boost up your ego).No fear man!
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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just be yourself and confident in everything about yourself.
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look after yourself, your teeth and hair. Keep your clothes clean and tidy. Be confident, smile a lot, try not to be depressed all the time, people like to be around people who are happy and confident.\nIt doesnt matter what you look like, if you make the best of what you have by keeping groomed and clean and being happy and confident people will feel drawn to you.
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Forget what you were, and start living a new life. And read a lot of books on any subject under the sun to keep your mind occupied. As you relax, over a period of time you'll get over the low self esteem bit.\nAll the best!\nst
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Try putting post it notes around your house that you'll read. On these notes, put positive things about yourself. Start telling yourself when you wake up and before bed that you are a wonderful, smart person and you deserve happiness. The mind is a powerful thing. If you believe it, then its reality. So constantly telling yourself positive things should help give your self-esteem a boost. On another note, don't keep people around you that are negative. Start trying to find a silver lining in everything. examples...\nYour car won't start that morning...at least it failed at home, and not while you were out and about!\nIts raining on a day you planned outside activities...gives you a chance to read a good book or see a movie.\nA person you love died....at least they are no longer in pain.\nA person you really liked dumped you...better to know now than before marriage and a painful divorce.\n If you wake up every morning and try to be a confident, happy, positive person, one day you'll wake up and no longer be trying. It'll just come naturally. Its all about what you want, and how hard you are willing to work for it. And not letting people take your power from you. Others can only make you sad or upset if YOU allow them to. Life is all about how you spin it.
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You need to become more confident, and decide that people want to have you around.
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The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
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It's nothing you can't change...you need to boost your self-esteem.\n\nI gave you a thumbs-up for admitting there is a problem...THAT IS THE FIRST STEP !!!\nSEE BELOW:\n\nhttp://www.more-selfesteem.com/\n\nImproving Self-esteem \nThe first important step in improving self-esteem is to begin to challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice.\n www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem\n\nWays to Improve Self Esteem \nWays to Improve Self Esteem by Susan Angell ... Apply "self talk"\n www.dtda.org/insights/improveesteem\n\n365 Ways to boost your self-esteem \nAn ongoing list of way to boost your self esteem -- check back here every day for the next way to boost your self esttem...\n www.lifefocuscenter.com/365waystoboostyourselfesteem\n\nhttp://www.selfesteem4women.com/?ad=5
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When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
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Take karate or judo lessons, read a good self-help book on confidence and projecting a better image of yourself.  Eat well, bulk up a little bit, do situps and push ups every day, work out with weights.\n\nYou'll be ok.
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Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
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Simply believe in yourself. You could do anything just as good or better than any other person, if you really wanted to.\n\nTake TV commercials for example, you've seen some pretty stupid ones before, right? And you probably thought, "I could do a better job than that!"\nAnd more than likely, you could!!\nAnd so it is, with most everything.
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Love yourself. Give yourself the freedom to express yourself as yourself. "To thine own self be true" as Shakespeare said. When you start to feel insecure remind yourself that everyone is unique and different and that other people may be feeling equally insecure.
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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Believe in yourself ie your thoughts, what you want to tell them , your dressing, your all - I mean just everything that makes you. That way you'll definitely be more confident infront of anybody.
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Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done.  Our self esteem is partly our personality (what we are born to be) and partly from our early childhood experiences.  Many of us, therefore, do not have naturally high self esteem.  You can upbuild yourself by taking the time to love yourself in fundamental ways: eat well, exercise, and rest.  Tell yourself often (200x/day) that you are loveable, wise, funny, and attractive.  Take good care of YOU because you are worth your own attention.  Over time, your self care will show you how valuable you are.  And high confidence is very sexy!