What if you live in the dorms and he stays in there 2.yet you dont spend that much time together?? What to do.
363313
School is a priority.
985285
Does he hide his on-line relationship?  Why?\nThere is your answer. \n\nYou are living together, yes, but you are not 'basically' married.\nLiving together is not the commitment that marriage is. \nYou are someone, a girlfriend, who sleeps with him\nand shares expenses with him...a roommate with benefits.\n\nI say kick him out, or move out, and see him on line.\nHis actions are NOT those of a contented husband, happy boyfriend, or committed lover.
113904
Okay, so I'm still in highschool, and my sister probably isn't a real "roommate" but it's a fairly similar situation.\n\nWe don't get along very well because we have very different goals and personalities.\n\nI wish my sister was a bit more understanding, because it's difficult to even have a conversation w/her without her becoming defensive about something or other.
351687
Get pissed off and fuck his brains out, then do not call or talk to him for a while.  If he knows whats good for him, which is only you, he will stay with you and drop the other one.
263908
First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
395151
He's waisting your time and so are you!  If he is living with another girl, and he left you for her, you're never going to be able to forgive him for it.  So if I were you, just tell him that you're not in the mood to be playing games.  Dont call him, dont answer his calls, and dont try to meet up with him anywhere.  Hes playing a game with you and if you let him win, then what else to you have to look forward to?  You need to be strong and stand up for yourself?  do you like to be pushed and toyed around?  Didn't think so!  Honey, there are plenty of wonderful men out there, this one is not the last and only one for you!  Just give it time, and good things will come to you!  And the best part is, it will come to you when you least expect it! take care Sweetie!
1001742
not if he knows your just roommates and you're sleeping in separate rooms.
425686
Relax.  Your grades are not as important in college as you think.  Experience is going to get you where you need to go.  And as far as your girlfriend moving away, it happens.  I have personally gone though it.  But if you want it to work out, you have to work at it.  Stay in constant communication.  And if it is meant to happen, it will.  RELAX!  It wil be painful, but if it does last, and you see her again, it will mean all the more to you and her.
203668
Date the dude you like still.  This will lead you into a new direction in your life.  You are young, experiencing all you can is what life is all about.  If the dude you love will be hanging out with you then leave it at that.  After all being just friends is achievable.  Maybe that is why you love the one away at college, you miss his friendship.
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maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
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I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
1023057
The more time you spend away from each other, the more time spent together is meaningful. Give him space so that no one gets attached. Sometimes the healthiest part of relationships is the quality of the individuals' personal life.
61211
college is very time consuming my boyfriend now of over 2 years and i see each other for dinner and sometimes spend the nights but besides that were in the books or with group give it some time it'll be ok . . . and if not this is my yahoo account message me and i'll talk to you more about your situation . . . i've been there before
1084722
I would definitely talk to her about it.  If that didn't help, talk to your roommate.  This apartment belongs to you and your roommate, not his GF.  If his GF pays part of the rent, then I guess I'd just try to wake up a little earlier.
54417
I can't answer that for you, but I agree with Denise. I wouldn't let him in your bed anymore, he may be seeing someone else, maybe a few someone elses and trying to decide which one he actually wants to be with. In the meantime you're heart is breaking. Take that break and don't let him in your bed! Give him time to figure it out but don't wait forever, give him a time limit! I know it will hurt but when that time limit is up and he hasn't made up his mind leave and don't look back. I'm having a similar situation with my boyfriend, we will be together but I am having to wait and it is killing me. We are having to work our problems out long distance. He is in Kansas and I am in Colorado, that makes it harder. Good luck and take care...
1065384
I think you should just talk to your parents about moving to the dorms. Maybe they will understand. Just tell them how you feel and that you want to be on your own and more responsible. Personally, I don't think college is the same if you live at home. You need to take care of yourself, experience more freedom, have more responsibility, and find out who you are for yourself!
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I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?