Can a man "nag" to the point of divorce?
367825
I've been married for 3 years now, and let me tell you it has been hard at times.  My husband is very very compulsive about cleaning.  I however am the opposite.  He will come home from work and nag and complain NON STOP about everything about the house. When I do the dishes, he'll come in and yell at me because I'm not drying the right way, or I'm not stacking the right way.  We really had our breaking point when at 530am he was getting ready for work, and he took down the curtains because he wanted me to get a start on cleaning and making him breakfast.  Now I work full time too, and my alarm was set for 7am.  We had the biggest fight. I finally told him I couldn't take it anymore, he was bringing me down so much that I was starting to hate my self.  Just saying that too him killed him.  He had no idea that I was so unhappy.  After getting so much out he now makes an effort to make me feel better, he makes me breakfast in bed every Saturday.  And when he gets ready to complain or nag he holds back and simply offers the advice "take it or leave it"
912751
Doesn't sound as though you can do much. Pointing it out to him or suggesting counselling will only add fuel to the fire right? On the other hand...who wants to be around someone who constantly complains, b*tches and brings everyones mood down because he's a jerk?\nYou can always tell him you're taking the kids and screwing because you can't tolerate this and it's cruel to the kids. Beware though. You call his bluff and he calls it....you'd better be ready to follow through or you'll never, ever gain any ground again.\nGood luck with Grumpy!
398300
I have to say no.  My ex-husband and I tried that but it doesn't work because even if you don't say how you feel it doesn't mean you don't feel that way.  Then it seems like everything is bottled inside and eventually you blow up.  It's a nice idea but not very plausible.  Another thing in marriage is it's not always so hard to forgive it's the forgetting that's the problem.  So, my advice is find another way counseling, talking, or if that's not an option I hate to say but divorce is better than being your spouses "roommate", you can't just stop caring even if you think you can.
213063
Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
997617
ASAP get a divorce...\ndid the boarder sign a lease with all property owners agreeing?\nThe boarder might be able to get a restraining order. If hubby is harassing you you can get one too.\nI'm just guessing here but could the boarder be male?
347850
i myself are in a relationship for more than a year and things tend to get a little aggrivated lately.  The best adivice i can give you is to just take things as they come and just talk everything over with your man that comes up.  If you argue about things, thats ok. don't think it is your fault at all. if your mad, its obviously him thats doing something to make you mad.  just tell him whats bothering you
1080062
well sometimes we can't help who we fall in love with and believe me I fully understand your situation. There are several reasons why men that say they are unhappy at home won't leave, sometimes it's because they might be unhappy but the wife has no idea there is a problem. But sometimes there is no real problem at home and he just wants something more. What you do depends on how long you are willing to wait if you can't take it anymore then it might be time to move on.
749708
This is a tough situation you put yourself into...I suggest you take the mature way out and Tell his wife. Telling his wife will get his marriage in shambles and then you and her can begin the sueing process. It is in your best interest to sue him for emotional problems and the lifestyle he has given you. Good luck ! IF you need a good lawyer call 1 800 ask gary hes no mumbo jumbo
208562
To be treated like a child is definitely not fair!  The typical first response is to confront him and to retaliate, that is pretty much what everybody else has said here.  However, rather than creating conflict, I would try a more discrete tactic.  First of all, thank him for the notes, he will be dumbfounded, and you will definitely get his attention, but there won't be a conflict.  Secondly, try do more that what he writes down on the list, that will definitely impress him, and make him question the necessity of the notes.  If you can't think of any additional things to do beyond his list, then call him up and tell him that you are done with the list, and if there is anything else that he could think of that needs to be done, if you can't call him, then ask him when he gets back home!  Basically this will show him that you are proactive, and want to have things done just as much as he does, and even more by doing additional things or asking him for additional things.  I realize that I am not giving you an easy answer but in real life there is no easy answers, and no easy people to deal with.  Life is hard, and it's a struggle.  And unfortunately marriages have to be built, and rebuilt, and worked on being improved and enjoyable!  The good thing that your husband has going for him, is that the has you for his wife, he is very fortunate indeed!  Hope this helps!
980445
If one party claims that the marriage is not irretrievably broken, then the court can suggest counseling.  I don't believe, however, that they can actually require it, but it can certainly delay the divorce.
168378
Huihui, I think you mean "Why don't men want to let you go when you are already in the middle of divorcing them?"  \nright?\n\nWell, it depends on the person, of course.  If the divorce was your idea and he resisted, that's natural.  If he has a big ego, then maybe he thinks if he just holds out long enough, he will charm you into coming back.  And maybe he is so possessive, he can't stand the idea of you being with anybody else.
527511
You can't force someone to do something.  If he wants a divorce, give him one.  Run to your lawyer as fast as you can, and get papers drawn up, including child support.  Do not let this ruin your life.  You control your destiny, not him.  Good luck to you, and I will say a prayer that God helps you deal with what will happen.
1184638
hmm?  Do you mean to say that women are nags even though the men work their "butts" off???  Well, if that IS what you're saying, then it isn't true.  Women nag men when their doing the wrong thing.  It's as simple as that.  If they were doing things right, then the men wouldn't hear the nagging.  Right?
36559
depending on what state you live in yes. Is there any chance of working a deal with him out of courts? If he is unwilling/unable to make your relationship work will he split 50/50 and walk away?\nmost states have a website where you can search your situation and you have definatly have some legal grounds since he entered a verbal aggrement to be married to you with no intention of doing so but as to the extent depends on where you are.
521864
Not until they have both completed counseling.\n\n\nDivorce doesn't get to the core of the issues - it only provides a band-aid to cover them up.  And if they aren't dealt with, the same thing can happen in the next relationship.\n\nBest to talk it out with the wife until a viable conclusion can be reached.
414753
you need to divorce him...NOW!!!!
171395
Not necessarily. He might need time to relax from the argument. If he tried to talk to you while both of you are upset, he might say something he will regret later, and so will you. For that reason, many smart men, who take their time cooling down, will wait until they are relaxed. That seems to be what your husband is doing. For him, hometown is a relaxing setting and helps him to cool down quicker.\nThat is just my opinion. Hope it helps.