how do I get my bf to open up to me about his feelings?
370042
tell him how you feel and tell him there is nothing that he can't tell you. . . you're both playing for the same team. . . so trust you enough to open up.
478204
Tell him in person.  It will mean more that way.  And try until you get a chance to say what you need to say.  Good luck sweetie.
241431
Be Open and Honest with him, tell him how you feel..communication is essential in any type of relationship romantic or otherwise so talk to him and make him understand that you care but, that the two of you have all the time in the world and there is no need for rushing into anything. take your time and don't be pushed into anything that your not ready for. Follow your heart and instinct. Good Luck!
404077
That's not true of all guys.  My last two boyfriends have been very open with their feelings, you just have to find the right ones. I think most men are just naturally closed off like that.
1138297
I mean you need to tell him how you feel before things get any more serious than they are already are, do you understand? Than you will regret it. You are doing the right thing by telling him that you would like to get to know him a little better. I mean, if he takes it personal than he takes it personal not to be mean, but sometimes people have to understand if you don't want them than you don't want them. They should leave it to that. But I hope that you build up your guts and tell him how you feel before his feelings get any stronger.
468739
Hi!,\nIt sounds like you would like your boyfriend to be more open and to communicate his thoughts more. If he does not open up and communicate what he is thinking, feeling or doing you would be left to think many things.\nMy first thought would be, has he always been of this particular nature, that is not open, or not very communicative? If so love him as he his.\nMy second thought is, you would like to have a partner that is open and communicative. Perhaps that is how you are (open and communicative), and you have that recipricating need. It would not be healthy heart trying to guess what another person is thinking. We are so often incorrect to try and guess what a person is thinking. What is, is, can be a simple thought. A person who thinks less could be more at peace, at least not so stressed. Try it. Try and be more like him, since you wish perhaps him to be more like yourself. Good Luck
331203
The longer he is with you - he will probably feel more comfortable opening up.  It takes some men a good while to fully feel that they can tell you things. BUT do allow him to express things to his best friend....that relationship is important too.   I don't think any things wrong, as so long as you see a gradual progression to opening up...over time.\n\nThe EX-GF thing - I think he should answer any questions you have about that...and always be open.  You have been together for 2 1/2 years so apparantly you love one another a lot and should be able to talk about these things.
257443
dont push him just give him sometime he will tell you how he feels most guys are better at showing how they feel rather than saying it i know it sounds like a cop out but if u think about it look at his actions the things he does for u him and ur daughter are those the actions of a caring man? if so does he really need to say it?\n\ntastrider hit the nail on the head!!!!!! it is so true
36797
Setting aside the fact that he probably doesn't want to, I'm guessing you are in a relationship with an 'unexpressive' man? Even though I personaly don't like the book, "men are from mars, women are from venus" would probably help you out. That aside, showing him that he can trust you completely, and that you understand him or his issues is the first step. If you nag him, he will NEVER open up. Guys dispise that.
731531
He probably wants to share your feelings and share your pain from your past experiences and comfort you. If he really truely loves you, he just wants to know where you are coming from and where you have been. To truly know a person inside and out, you have to know their past, their faults, their mistakes, and love them no matter what. He is probably just sad that you have never opened up with him before about that. Whenever it feels right to you, you should sit down and have a heart to heart conversation with him and get to know each other's past so you can love each other no matter what has happened.
790424
Ask more intelligent questions, for one.\n\nTell him how you are feeling and ask him what his feelings are.
628378
Well you have stated you have talked about your feelings.  I think the main thing would be to keep the channels of communication open...talk about how you feel, let things just flow from there.
265741
It's great that he's so open to telling you.  Definitly tell him.  As wonderful as it is to hear those words, they lose their meaning if it's a constant thing.  We only need to hear it a couple of times.  The rest of the day, show us.  Leave a note on the bathroom mirror, hide a note or card in their jacket pocket for them to find later.  Words are not the only way.  \nFirst you should tell him that you know he loves you and enjoy hearing it, but don't need to hear it all the time.
32215
If he already tells you he loves you, you should be thankful. It takes a lot for men to admit to their feelings and just because they don't say them as much as we would like, doesn't mean they don't feel them. As long as he's showing you he loves you, you are good! And I can totally understand how you feel about wanting to spend more time together, but you just have to make the best of the time you do have together until you reach a point where things are better.
312919
No, you are not the reason he is not opening up. But, yes, do give him space and time. When he is ready he will talk to you (or not). From my experience, men like to work things out by themselves, and if he works it out successfully he might tell you or more customary just act like it. You will know its all better just by his mannerisms.\n\nBut for now space and time, ok honey. It's all good, just be patient, y'll see. Hope I helped a lil.
1028011
ask him if he's ever been in love before....this will be a good way of getting him to open up about any feelings he may or may not have towards you.....if he only says yeah in the past or yeah once or twice and doesnt make any reference to being in love at the moment then he's not in love with you yet, or it could be that he is uncomfortable with sharing his feelings if he really loves you he will share it with you in time and when he feels ready....dont give up just trust your intuition...usually when a guy is in love he will want to share it with somebody.....you can always ask one of his friends, or a close buddy who he confides in to see if he has any hidden feelings for you if he is not opening up to tell you quite yet.....
157820
Slowly get him to trust you enought to open up to him.  Talk to him.