What would you do if your best friend wants to become your girlfriend? Should I go there?
369407
The question really is "Do YOU want to go there?" Yes, relationships usually do work better if you are friends first...but the fact that you are asking makes me think that you have some doubt as to whether you like her enough to become romantically involved....
291219
i used to ask myself the same question about some chick....but yeah as much as you would like to think you're dating you're not dating unless you call it a date....but it seems you're close enough to the girl...so start making some moves man, i'm sure she wont mind...you know little things and stuff, try to make it offical and just talk to her about...i know my other friend was worried he might ruin it friendship by asking his best friend out...but i believe you got nothing to lose and all to gain
827249
That is what is sounds like to me, so since you also care for her and you are breaking up with your girlfriend. I guess your best friend is now going to be your girlfriend. God bless****
377281
If it's your best friend, then you owe it to them to do what is right.  An intimate relationship with someone close will change your relationship, maybe for the better, but maybe for the worse.  Are you willing to risk your friendship?
13265
Dating "best friends" is risky at best, and more often than not it doesn't work out. Girls (you don't say how old you are, by the way) tend to see close male buddies more like brothers at times, so making the transition from friend to sweetheart is often a stretch for them.\n\nThe one thing I can suggest is to be open and honest.  Try telling her at some point, but don't wait until she's dating someone else.
1112267
Go for it... if your best friend is really a friend, she will understand and get over it.
1027671
yes.....become friends first...if you love her wait to see if she loves you...go from there...
76712
thats the way it ALWAYS is - its your bestfriend that always gets your significant other ... if your friend is worth it just dont do it ... maybe later ...
251498
See best friends dont hesitate to sacrifice so tell ur friend for that or u do.\nThats the friendship
1186188
well first decide within yourself ...if you were to start dating ...and you broke up...do you want to risk losing your best friend... if this is a risk your willing to take...then go for  it.\n\nif not...then dont ... my male best friend and i joked about this a long time ago ...what if...and such...then we thought of the past relationships we both had...most of which .. well...most dont get along with their ex's so we decided it would never happen..and mind you we were just joking around.  \n\nsometimes...being best friends for a very long time...years and years can lead to romance..but by then you have done it all ..and both of you know all that has happened to each other...but for now ..i strongly recommend you sit down and think..about the what ifs... i personally would never want to risk losing the one person i can talk to about anything...and we never pass judgment on each other...and we never believe hearsay..cuz we know better...etc.\n\nthis is all based on personal experience...i have 2 female friends in my life...the rest are men...\n\nask yourself this...are you going or just recently went thru something in your life where your best friend was there in everyway for you?  if so....could you just be thinking ..wow...how come i have never noticed how wonderful you really are?  \n\nhoping this gives you something to consider before making the leap...and hope that it all works out for you in whatever you choose....good luck
461256
Look: there are two ways: talk to her, see what she feels.\nConsequence: A good friendship might be destroyed\nOr you will lose a friend and gain a soulmate(surely you're in advantage)\nBut it is not healthy for you two to just be best friends, if you say you love her. Trust me I've been there. And maybe she loves you to but she may lack the courage to say it.\nMy opinion: go ahead-stop torturing yourself with this good friendship-it's a fake(nothing good will come of it) tell her, gently and carefull what you feel. It worked for me !\nReally, you have nothing to lose. It is better anyway that she knows what you feel about her ! May God help you in your whish !
1104265
Ask your friend. I know you said ex-bestfriend but you r still friends right? If you arent then I would think you can go ahead and pursue her but if you are still friends then talk to your friend and find out how he feels about it first. Remember, friends sometimes last a lot longer than gf/bf relationships.
117402
If you like him alot then ask out he will probably understand I liked my best friend and know he is my boyfriend so go for it if you wait someone else might get there first
136881
You shouldn`t do that to the boyfriend because most likely he`ll be all hurt and that will be bad blood between the friends.\n\nBut that`s only if you don`t truly love his bestfriend.  If you do, then maybe you should go for who you love, given that you know for a fact that he loves you too.
1146413
well i try and be with her most of the time and "pretend" to be her best friend u no... go out of my way to do things for her buy her gifts and stuff, take her out and talk to her alot! then i sart dropping hints like hypothetic questions for ex: "what would i do if i should ask u out?" and see what she has to say!
249823
I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
932784
i think you sould tell her that you like her first, sometimes when you ask them to be your girlfriend there is more silence, tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way there souldnt be a problem in you asking her to be you girlfriend \ngoodluck buddy hope you get the girl