should i get married or not????
359707
I think you should wait and if that person truly loves you they would also agree. You are young and should not play house now; your just a child.  I would at least wait another 3-5 to make sure it's done right. You do not won't to divorce, Right. My aunt married at 17 and still married but, this is rare. \nYou all should take your time. Good Luck!!!!
705894
There is no definite time to get married - i was with partner for four years before we got engaged and another four years before we got married.  Bring the subject of marriage up and see how the conversation goes.  If you both decide not to get married, you should definitely make a Will each to ensure the other is taken care of should anything happen.  Not being morbid, but unfortunately people often miss out on taking care of their partner due to not being married and making their wishes clear.
351834
Everyone gets off on different things - but if you have issues with it, maybe you should try to figure out if you can handle it. There is no point getting married unless you are 100% sure, otherwise it is a recipe for disaster
1175285
There are many reasons to want to get married... some good, some bad.\nA friend of mine had this theory that people were getting married because they were getting bored in their relationship, so they'd decide to get married so that they had something to talk about. And when the excitement of marriage had worn off, they'd move on to make children...\nIt's obviously a dark way of seeing things but I fear it's often close to the truth. \nI want to get married because I consider it a gift to my man, the promise to spend (or at least try!) my whole life with him... the ultimate commitment you can make!
1016755
i think the question here is, do you have someone who you think you may want to marry? never say no to anything that may bring you happiness. love is the best thing in life. if you find it, GRAB IT AND RUN!!! always be open to love. \n       best of luck hun......."E"
237644
If you are over 18 there is nothing your family can do to stop you!  It's a tough situation, but maybe once your married they will come around.  Although, I think you are a little young to get married.  You have to remember, marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.  If your not ready to be committed to something for your entire life, I would wait.  If your in love, then it shouldn't matter when and if you get married!  Take your time and think it over alot, you don't want to lose all your family over something that may not last!
774035
H.  I don't know why you have to ask what you should do.  To marry because you don't want to hurt family, or to save yourself from embarrassment is ludicrous.  No one should enter into marriage unless they love their fiance and plan to stay with them til death do they part. It is really not fair to your fiance to begin this union feeling the way you do, and have you even considered what kind of life would any children have if you did not love their mother.  There really is nothing to contemplate.  You should break off the engagement, stop the wedding and go on with your life.  Marry only when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the chosen one. Good Luck!
709258
please its just a ring, i would much rather have a happy marriage, than a bad marriage and a big ring, get whatever you can afford and do it.....\nps whats the point of being engaged if u do not want to be married?
239017
If you don't feel you are ready then don't. Becuase if you aren't happy about the situation now, you won't be happy in the marriage. Do what you think is best--don't let anyone tell you that you have to marry someone just because they want you to.\n\nI am having this problem with my future mother in law about children. She thinks I should have kids becuase she did, my parents did etc. She also wants grandchildren. If she wants them so badly, then she can go and adopt them. It's my body, my decision, and if I want kids, then I will have them. Not because someone else said so, or because that is what they want.\n\nYou are in control of yourself--just because they are pressuring you, don't cave. Be strong and listen to your heart! People got on my back about getting married several years ago, and I finally yelled at them and told them to quit asking--it will happen when it does. A couple years later, we were engaged, but not because they said so. We did it when we were ready. That is what you should do too.\n\nDo it when you are ready.
71225
You need to figure out if you are ready for marriage. Have you accomplished all that you wanted to while single? Are you in love with the man, or in love with the idea of being in love? You need to sit down with your boyfriend to find out if he to is ready for all this and find out what you both want from life and from marriage. Then you decide what is best. I got married right after my 19th birthday. It's not right for everyone, but I have been married for 11 years now, and have no regrets. Just keep in mind, that neither you or your partner will be the same person you are today 5 years from now. You are both still growing up. I have had a wonderful time "growing up with my husband" (he was 21 when we got married. It has been fun discovering new things about eachother over the years.
579377
I wouldn't worry about what others say. As long as your happy, then that's all that matters. Your still young, you have lots of time ahead of you to get married if you want to. Wait until you find the right person. A lot of people don't marry until they are in their 30's or 40's. They want to make sure the person they marry is the right person for them to spend the rest of their life with. I say ignore the remarks from people and enjoy your life.
1184610
Stay strong in God's Word.  The very fact that you are concerned and asking about this is His sign to you that it is not right.  He will lead you to your heart's desire.  When you get married you will find that waiting was THE best thing to do and the RIGHT thing to do and you will have NO REGRETS.  Stay strong and stand firm and you will be blessed.
129719
You are young yet, so I would wait until you reach the age of 18.  Are there any specific reasons why you would want to get married now?  Or do you both feel its the only way you can have any freedoms that your parents wont allow.
824998
If you are concerned about the legal benefis when you marry someone then you should probably not get married. Marriage is about love, not material things you'll receive.
317864
I would say depends on how long you know each other. I would not use marriage just to show that you are together. You might consider just living together for a while/years and if the mood strikes you and both really WANT to get married then do so. It should be your choice, not the choice of people around you. Good luck!
660025
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
1163036
I keep passing on Dear Abby's advice, but people keep asking this same question.  No one should get married until they are financially and emotionally able to support themselves.  Neither one of the people is old enough to do that, so no they shouldn't get married.