How do I tell my fiance not to get fat....?
368655
Tell her not to beef up on you because you are concerned for her health.
682161
Ew...that's awful!  Your height and weight are pretty average in actuality.  Okay, so you aren't a skinny, boney model, but who is?!  If he's being mean about it, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings.  He only cares about what you look like.  Try talking with him at first.  But if that doesn't work, leave him.  There are plenty of guys out there that will think you're beautiful, even if you gained another 20 lbs.  No reason to stay with someone who makes you feel bad, especially over something as superficial as weight.  Stay true to yourself and good luck!
764079
You need to be dedicated to an entire lifestyle change. You need to cut out all soda, which by the way having one can a day will cause 15lbs in a year. You need to limit sweets to before 4 pm eat dinner no later than 6 pm. You need to have a healthy breakfast and make sure you are drinking at least eight glasses of water. Most importantly you need to start excercising at least 30min a day. Try taking a speedy walk with your man! Don't take diet pills, they will do more harm than good. But, you need to be dedicated and consistant. Good luck and I am sure that you will soon be addicted to a healthy thinner lifestyle!!
1119813
Don't! Start doing the grocery shopping and cooking.  Cook healthy low-fat, low cal foods. Have only healthy food in the house.\n\nAt night, rather then sitting down to watch TV, suggest going for a walk.  A romantic stroll.\n\nKeep her busy and away from food.\n\nOne day she will realize that she lost 5 pounds, say keep it up, tell her she looks good. Encourage her and keep cooking and buying only healthy foods.\n\nYou can even find a school or something that has healthy cooking classes, Gee Dear, you lost 5 pounds that is great.  You are on a roll,  I found these cooking classes that I thought would be fun for us to take together.  Maybe they can help you lose more.  I love you so much, I want you to live healthy and happy for a long time and this is such a great start.\n\nGet the picture?
48313
So she's not perfect....are you? If you want her to do something about her weight and you don't want to upset her there is only one way that I know of to do it. You don't tell her to lose weight. You could invite her to work out with you. Take walks together, go to the gym, or whatever works. If you have trouble getting her to do that then you should just simply say that healthy people should live longer lifes and you want to make sure that you are both around. Just make sure that you do the work too.
226917
You are right, what parent would tell their child they were fat!?\n\nDo one thing, next time you are at the doctor's office have the nurse weigh you and then ask the doctor how you compare to other healthy girls your age.  Then you will know if you are just being crazy or if you should watch what you eat.\n\nIf you should watch what you eat, then try this first:\n\nStop drinking sodas!(or pick the worst thing you do regularly, like eat french fries, or drink whole milk and stop that one thing).\n\nThen do this next:\n\nReplace your worst habit with a good habit.  Drink diet sodas (I know sometimes they taste bad, but it is better than nothing, even if it isn't quite as good as drinking a lot of H20).\n\nEasy right!  Just stop one thing and replace it with one thing.  Do it until you feel you love what you do.  It will help you to feel a bit skinnier, and successful.  You are being healthy!  Awesome.  Now, you can try another thing...like....you be creative.....always improving is what it is all about.\n\nOne last thing; if a new food or habit should come along (ie smoking) save yourself the trouble of having to quit it in the future.....don't start bad habits.  Don't start being addicted to cheesecake if you aren't already.\n\nLearn moderation while you are young, you will be so happy with yourself when you turn 30.  Haha.\n\nGood luck my friend
495162
serious talk, that is! i know it's hard but sometimes we have to take matters as they should...you have tried so many things to help her and i think it's about time to be honest & straightforward..\n\ntell her that you love her and you are concerned about her health...putting on so much weight can be tough on health...tell her that you want to stay with her for as long as you can, but how will it happen if she'll get sick by being overweight...big doesn't mean healthy and she knows that..ask her why is she behaving like this, there must be something bothering her...if none, be firm but reasonable..\n\ntell her that you want her old self back and you love her taking care of herself too...challenge her, tell her it would be nice if she'll look like your girlfriend and not a mother and sloppy...just be thoughtful when you suggest...\n\nyou can do it..
517544
show him that he is unique in his own way and have him tell you what he would feel like if you had been the one worrying about your apearance in weight. go for it girl!
738450
Well if you love her you will love her regardless, because it is what is inside that counts.  If she complains about her weight and is self conscious and unhappy, you can offer to go walking with her or join a gym together.  You can spend evenings together fixing healthy but yummy snacks.  She has to want to lose weight and then you can support her.  There is no way to tell her that she is fat, and 150 for a 5'5 girl isn't all that huge.
500174
u can show her what will happen 2 her if she continues 2 eat the way she does. Don't take snacks n general away from her. Tell her if she eats healthy all day, she can eat one snack, or if she's more willing, she will eat healthy the whole week, a chose one day where she can have a nice dessert or something. If she doesn't want 2 compromise, then u should get her some help, because obesity can b fatal.
1093379
I believe I've asked the same ? and here is what i've learned....\nYou have to strat out with baby steps and do it with him.  Sttart by slowly changing what you bring into the house....if he (or you has to have chips try the Light of Baked, try flavord water instead of even diet soda.  More veggies..(ive found that grilling marinated vegetables gets my husband to eat a lot more of them (he's even requested them once or twice).  As for the physical aspect....that can be much harder.  Ask him to jion you for a "romantic walk" in the park or after dinner just for quality time.  Swimming at the pool or beach with the kids...foolproof way to have fun.  My mother has terrible joints and body "issues" and not only does swimming help her, its easy, doesnt hurt, and actually is even great do do after a work out because it stretches you out.  Make it seem less like a workout to him and more like fun... it wont happen overnite but it will happen.  Just dont always resort to throwing heart problems and diabetes etc in his face - it will work against you.
418491
I'm really sorry that you feel this way.  First and foremost, you have to look after your own health.  Try to lose the weight.  Don't change the amount of food you eat, just make it healthy food.\nI'm not sure how accepting you are of his flirting and visiting porn sites but I would have a complete cow!!!  I can tell that you love him so, ultimately you must decide what is best but, to me, it doesn't sound like he has a whole lot of respect for your feelings.\nLose the weight.  You are the one that will be there your whole life.  You will have to deal with it.  A lot of health problems can crop up because of weight issues.  Do what is right for you.\nTell him that you still want to look good, for him, but, you are worried about your health.  Ask his opinion and see how he responds.  If your well-being is a priority to him it shouldn't be that big of a deal.
834557
Well just let her know  in a nice way with out hurting her feelings weight  gain is a touchy subject to us females and by the way if you really love her you would try to help her out rather than be judgmental
717732
If she is gaining weight at all, then you do NOT need to give her anything to make her "get fat". Get a new doctor!
89722
I stare in the mirror for awhile and say to myself, "Look how fat I am, I don't wanna be like this forever!" Then I get mad and determined. I play lotsa music and start pep talking it in my head "You can do it." I try to make tiny goals to start out with so that I'm encourage by results. I set aside a time of day that is conducive to exercise and when I have energy (for me that is right before bed). My husband exercises as soon as he gets home because if he sits down he won't get up (The flop and drop syndrome). Routine is the most important thing, just like brushing your teeth. If you don't do some forms every day then you will loose interest in the week. Start out with the same stretch every day (followed by different stretches and exercises) so your mind has a trigger, "It's time to exercise!" Think about how good you'll feel once you get into shape!
598198
He is out of line. He didn't have to throw away the cake.\nCalling you fat is so degrading. That's rude ansd mean. He\nneeds to realize during pregnancy and after aome women tend to pick up weight. That weight can go away by exercising, \neating lots of veggies and fruit, eating baked fish, yogurt,\ntaking vitamins and minerals. If he wants you to lose weight\nthen he should go about it the right way. Being rude about it is going to help or motivate you. Taking you by the hand and encouraging you is the right way. But if he loves who you are then your weight shouldn't even bother him. Beauty\ncomes from within and shines on the outside. If he keeps \nbeing rude about your weight then his love is limited and\nbased on how you look.
698722
Don't tell her you think she's fat.  Tell her you are uncomfortable at your weight and that you want her to exercise with you because you want to spend more time with her.   If  she mentions she has a weight problem then you can say something about working together on it.\n\nThe Cooking Light magazine someone else mentioned is a great idea!!    Good luck!