why always women feel shy from coming out their thoughts?
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it's there way of expressing, all in the eyes,
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I can totally understand what you feel. I felt this way when I was 18 yrs old. Just the thought of it scared me only because I was brought up to think it is bad. I never heard of anything good about it. I had a sheltered life. So it is your mind that was conditioned to think it is bad and scary. \n\nIt did not happen overnight. It took some time to allow myself to think about it inside openly without being afraid of the thoughts. I also had to get to know some gay and lesbian people in the next few years to get to know who they truly are. It taught me to be comfortable and help my mind realize that there was nothing to be scared of.\n\nThe internet also helped me talk about my feelings without fear of rejection or judgment. So it wasn't until I was 25 that I was ready to start dating women. It was when I finally became comfortable with myself and had absolutly no fears for what I was feeling.\n\nJust go with what makes you comfortable and confident about yourself. Sexuality is not black and white. It is very gray. It is fluid. It is a matter of finding out who you are with both genders.\n\nFeel free to email me if you wish to discuss this further without judgment.
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they're scared.\nOf what?\ncommitment, rejection, change, opening up and being emotional... depends on the guy\n\nalso, remember that generally women are the feelers and men are the thinkers.  maybe they think some things are implicit and don't need to be said.  Or they just don't know that you want to hear it.  Communicate with them!  They're humans too!
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Personally, I am very cautious and only say it when I mean it, because somehow it does scare most men.  In my opinion (just my opinion), some women are insecure and feel if they say that, it will show that they are giving affection to only YOU, that one special man.  Just like men, women aren't always honest and sometimes say what they think the man may want to hear or that it will benefit them in some way.
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It's much more difficult for us to be open with our emotions.  As we grow up were told to be tough and "act like a man".  In the end we realize that in order for us to function in the world and for people to be able to rely upon us we need to be stronger and work through or past our emotions in order to get where we need to go in life.  So, when we come upon moments where people want us to "open up" and admit how we're feeling, we not only have difficulty letting our guard down, we also sometimes don't even know how we feel until we really think about it and try to reaquaint ourselves with what we've been bottling up.
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My guess is that you are a man & that is why.\nNot that women aren't but we don't fill every ounce of free space in our minds with those thoughts.
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Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
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Michelle, some of the responses you're getting may depend on the age and maturity of you and your friends. Many people won't admit to these feelngs because they fear or do not understand them. Others may have been conditioned by their parents or friends to ignore or downplay these feelings. Often, the degree of openness on any given subject is directly related to the fear of embarassment or rejection.
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sometimes it takes time to open open when women get hurt alot it is hard to open up. she need to feel comfortable around you and needs to know that you don't plan on going anywhere just don't push her to hard or to fast.
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ptoms of shyness\nblushing \nheart pounding \n"butterflies" in the stomach \nstrong feelings of uncertainty \ndifficulty carrying on a conversation \nPossible causes of shyness\nlack of confidence (ok... that's too obvious) \ninferiority complex (you are a creature of GOD, why would god discriminate in his creatures? think about it... and stop feeling inferior) \nyour thinking pattern (of negative thoughts, so fear creeps in, and your subconscious mind reacts according to that) \nlack of knowledge about the expected behavior in social situations \nsometimes, its based upon your previous experiences \nFirst of all you will need to learn how to relax. Shy people often get anxious or "tensed" in social situations. When I say "tensed" I literally mean it. In social situations, where you feel shy; you get tensed up, your muscles tighten, all of your body literally builds tension (like if we stretch a rope). All you have to do is to loosen yourself. Anxiety Cure\n\nThis may help:\n\nEvery night before sleeping lie down on your back. I will recommend removing the pillow. Put your hands beside your body (so that they point to the feet). Now take some deep breaths. Say to yourself my body is getting relaxed. Imagine all of your body parts going into the state of ultimate relaxation one by one. Start from head to toe. Imagine all the tension in your muscles is getting out from your body through the fingers of your hand. Finally all of your body is completely relaxed and you are experiencing ULTIMATE RELAXATION. At this time imagine a golden light which is giving you infinite power to help you succeed in every aspect of the life. This way you will get a very sound sleep also. \n\nNow again coming back to social situations... if you start getting tensed... just say to yourself "RELAX" and imagine all the tension easing out from your body (as you do while sleeping). Ease your shoulders and loosen up. You will be more calm and cool then. Now say affirmatively to yourself: "I am in control of how I think and feel - no one else on earth has this power unless I give it away." And this is a FACT. In this way, take control of your attitude, and you will take control of your results.\n\nNow the technical stuff explaining why the muscles get tensed\n\nWhat happens in our bodies when we are under threat. It's very much chemistry. When subjected to a threat or fear, such as real conflict, your body will release chemicals to help you fight with the situation. These will affect your body and mind in certain specific ways. Your heart beat will increase. You start loosing control over your tongue. You no longer remain who you actually are. Your mind stops working and you know what to say. \n\nThe SOLUTION - How to loose fear?\n1. Let me make it clear... FEARS HAVE NO REALITY (yes, I am shouting). They doesn't simply exist. They exist only in one's mind. I will make it clear. A small child can be paralyzed with fear when a playmate says there is a monster under the bed who will grab him in the night. But when the parent turns on the light and shows there is no monster, he is freed from fear. The fear in the mind of the child was every bit as real as if there were really a monster there. The thing he feared did not exist. In the same way, most of our fears have no reality. They are merely illusions. \n\nMost of the fears exist more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.\n\nOk... let me tell you an another story when I was young (say, 15 years old). I didn't know driving. I had a fear in my mind that I can not drive and will not able to drive for my entire life. I really feared driving. But, then I started to learn driving. I used to drive very slowly, fearfully. But gradually, I learnt to drive perfectly and all of my fear was gone. And now I can drive as rashly as you can imagine without any troubles or fear. So what we learnt from this? What we learnt is that... we should face the fears
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most girl are afraid of rejection just like most guys. that or they are just shy.
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um....sometimes it has to do with insecurity...but society also tells us to be shy......so we do what is expected of us.....
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Hi,\n\nDear friend, small or big breasts dont matter. What people say is not important, why you should feel shy, small breast is not a problem. Increase ur confidence.\n\nbyeeee
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This is going to solve ALL your problems! To put it straight forward, stop being a wuss and start livin life man! women tend to lean more to a dude who is a bad boy then some shy pushover. Its time to stop being unconfident and start being a trouble maker! it worked wonders for me!!
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Possibly because your worried about what others think too much? Just say what your thinking and don't worry about anyone else's opinion. Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said, " No one can make you feel you feel inferior without your permission."
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It's hard to say your wrong due to stubborness and not wanting to actually admit any mistakes on our part.  Even when we know we are wrong, we want some type of right to come out.  Guilt, fear, and low self-esteem can contribute into making things hard for us to admit when we are wrong.
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Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!