Why is infidelity so accepted in American society?
366780
It is genetics. Men are created to spread their seed by many times in one day while woman can only bear one child in a nine month period. Infidelity is more accepted by women of the men than vice versa.  A lot of men can't accept another man having sex with their woman.  I feel it has been going on for a long time but was just not talked about as much as it is now.  Most men are happy with their wife or woman they have the main relationship with, they just want a little variety every now and then.  It is the nature of the beast.
589667
Good point, but first of all, we need to deal with adultery separately to murder and molestation.  The latter two are most definitely crimes, and society regards them as seriously now as it ever has done.  However, adultery is not in the same class, indeed, some, including me, would not call it a crime (I am not saying that makes it right or acceptable, just stating a fact).\n\nI note that you call adultery 'theft', but is it?  Theft usually involves the taking of anothers possession without their permission.  However, in adultery, one is not dealing in possessions, but people, and further more, people with free will - ie: one cannot steal another's partner because that partner's agreement is necessary.  It is not like stealing an object which has no say in the matter, adultery is a conscious and willing act on behalf of both parties involved.  Also, have you ever thought that, in some cases, adultery may be what keeps a marriage together?  Consider the younger wife of a much older husband - he has lost interest in the physical side of things and his wife is extremely frustrated.  It starts to cause problems in other aspects of their relationship, as she blames him for her frustration, and he feels guilty about it.  So, she takes a secret lover, her physical needs are satisfied, she no longer holds her husband responsible for her frustrations, and he thinking she is content with the way things are no longer feels guilty.  They still love each other in other ways.  Of course, the danger is in the secret lover becoming more important than the husband.  Just a thought.  \n\nOne also needs to consider motive.  Too complex an area to discuss here I feel.\n\nOverall though I do feel that as far as proper crimes are concerned, in the UK, we are not tough enough on criminals, and for a long time  the human rights of criminals have been considered at the expense of those of their victims.  Only recently have our politicians woken up to this fact, something society has been aware of, and complaining about for years!  How on earth people so out of touch with society can presume to govern us is beyond me!  But that is another topic entirely.
858184
its not immoral.. society wants us to think it is because the majority of people cant accept what they dont understand. They fear people who are not like them and therefore need to villify us because we do not fit the cookie cutter standards.
214676
The lasting 'effects' of cheating are the possibilites of STDs, (lack of) respect and trust, and these represent HUGE barriers to most people who have to 'live' with the results of his/her cheating.  Very, very few innocent parties have the will, and the understanding of why they are willing to continue in such a relationship.  It takes real grace and forgiveness to move forward with them.  Sometimes this is the only reason why the other party will not do it again.  The overwhelming evidence on file, however, indicates that more than 50% will move on to another relationship, despite all of our efforts.  I lived 'in hope' for five years, and I never saw a complete repentance.  Instead of wondering, you have to prepare yourself for either possiblity, always holding out the hope that they will return to trust and respect...
293001
I think society in the US is selfish and materialistic.  In general, we tend to judge by looks, not by the inner beauty.  We look for convenience as we tend to be lazier.  This once Christian nation is now more heathen than it ever has been.  We are a lost culture who picks up anything that sounds good to them and agrees with what they believe.  The fact that we are more acceptant of homosexuality, divorce, affairs, pornography, etc., shows how lost and shameless we are.  It is really sad to see where we came from (the founding of America and the writers of the Declaration of Independence and how far we have fallen.  It is truly sad to see what we have become.
576785
I believe that all men are inbred to commit adultery. Men have to have the adrenaline rush that goes along with the mindset of the HUNTER.......searching for the pry, spotting the pry and conquering the pry. It's all about the need for victory. And the bad part is that for most men it is a physical statisfaction, whereas for women we need the emotional satisfaction.
26890
Girl i agree with you. I've watched t.v and seen so many celebrity divorces and breakups like for example Brittany Spears and her first wedding lasted for like a day. You don't play with marriage like that you're telling god that you wanna spend the rest of your life with this person and then you see someone just say oops or i don't wanna be with him or her anymore we just did it because we were drunk or fun.(Las Vegas) I know that i am in love and i am engaged and getting married to my soulmate and he is my first. Now that's something you don't hear everyday. Slutty girls are makin it hard for the good girls because they make it so easy for guys cause they are so quick to spread their legs guys don't respect the good girls.
57822
They rarely do it for any specific reason, it isn't about the woman they are with, often it isn't even about the other woman!!\n\nFor men who cheat, they do it because they can. \n\nIt's down to opportunity, geography and an assumption that they won't get caught.\n\n(The hallmark phrase is "it didn't mean anything to me" - as if that somehow makes it OK!).
182356
I was cheated on once in my life and it wasn't a fun experience. I believe women and men cheat for different reasons - guys usually cheat for sex or different sex then what they are getting, and women usually need more of an emotional attachment. This is totally my opinion and not necessarily true in every situation.  I also believe that once somebody cheats and a trust is broken, it is very hard to remain in that relationship and be happy.
97447
I don't think people look for it as much as they just find it.  With both people working in a marriage, you spend more time with co-workers than you do with your spouse.  When that happens, work relationships can turn into sexual relationships.   One day at work I turned to a co-worker of mine and I said to him, "Do you realized that you and I are the only two employees here that haven't been in an affair?"  I worked with about twenty people and the next month he was in an affair also.
348110
The forbidden pleasure is your neighbor's spouse - or, if a spouse, coveting someone who is not the spouse. (especially if vows of fidelity have been exchanged). It is forbidden because if people give in to such desires, there will be a trail of pain and distrust. Nothing good comes of infidelity in its affect on family, friends, even neighborhood and town. It is not very often that spouses can mess around with no negative consequences. Infidelity always intentionally causes pain. It cuts right to a person's ability to trust. There are always victims. It just makes sense. If you want to mess around, move on first. I'm not a Bible-thumper. I am not talking about open marriages, etc. This is about lying, cheating, and putting energy that should go to partner and home elsewhere. That is why it is a forbidden pleasure.
1042147
No, It's not. It definitely can be termed as a compromise but not prostitution.There might be more than one reasons to marry such a man/woman. As you raised a point about poor countries, some women would do it to help their families. It could be a sacrifice on their part as they feel by compromising on their own selfish qualms of marrying an"ideal" lover, they can, may be open doors of prosperity for their families and their generations to come. On the other hand it could be that they value money more than their own so called "self esteem". Or they prioritize monetary security over, more often failing, love marriages. I think its just a different way of thinking. Just because you can't come to terms with such an idea doesn't make all of 'em hos.
274350
I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
447878
Obviously those who do the cheating say it is a good thing and those who are cheated on say it is a bad thing.  It is all from your own perspective and beliefs about relationships.
507110
People cheat because they have a lack of self control.  If you know that something is wrong, and you do it anyway, then you are showing an amazing lack of self control, and your immaturity is showing as well.  It takes strength realize the truth.  A person does not have to cheat.  You simply tell your significant other "I don't love you enough to respect your feelings, or care if I hurt you."  Then leave them.  Because that is the exact message you are telling them when you cheat.  You are just too chicken to tell them to their face.
643168
It's my opinion that it doesn't matter whether it's a woman or a man...I, myself, would not get serious or even date someone I knew had not be faithful.  Even if that person was unfaithful only once.  I could never trust them.  It takes a lot of &*$^%* to cheat!  I've been the victim of one who cheated on me.  We were married.  It seems to be a thrill that they seek, even when the consequences of getting caught could devastate their life.  Who would be stupid enough to take that chance?   I don't understand.
82365
Well, i am not particularly a fan of it, but i dont necessarily think itsa bad thing either. The idea of it is marry first, fall in love later.  Iprefer to find my own mate, because if the marriage fails, then it was my fault and atleast i can say, i did love him and for all the went wrong, look at what went right.  When the marriage is aranged and fails, then the tendency to harbor blame and anger exists.  But i think in a way, it still exists all over the world, even in USA.  Being set up  on blind dates, meeting ppl through friends...etc are all formsof arrangements, just not so final.