i have 4 kids with my husband but he keeps walking in & out what should i do?
374774
Tell him to STAY out the next time he leaves...  that way you can have a more stable life for yourself & your kids.
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
539259
Tell him to get comfortable.  If you ahve kids, make sure they are asleep.  Have his favorite food and dinks on hand.  And let him take off his shoes.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
229151
If he's doing these things purposely then it would be some sort of a jealous act, OR he feels that he is the outsider (I'm betting on the outsider). He's looking for attention and he'll take any kind of it negative or positive. Take your stepson out just the 2 of you.  Make it a fun day of shopping, either for the house or for him; take a walk in the park and do lots of talking and listening etc.  Let him know that your alright and your not the mean wicked stepmother.  Put up a chore list along with a rule list for the weekends and make it fair and fun to all the kids.  Don't try to be his mom he already has one, so be his friend and show him your not taking sides that he is excepted into your family.  By doing this your husband will have to look after the other kids for a day you have out with the one.  And he'll also see that your trying and hopefully follow you.
190769
Love your kids first.  Always.  An ideal man for you will love you and your kids.  I know it is hard not having a father figure around and I also know it is hard not having a spouse around to help.  Take your time with it.  Find a man that treats you and your kids like royalty.  As for the guy you kicked out...good move.  You can do better for you and your kids.  Pray about it.
877649
First, if he attacks you about such things, tell him to talk to your husband when he gets home, then close the door. Then your husband should ask about a written form that states whatever rules he may have, which is actually something you should have gotten when you moved in. If he is making up the rules as he goes along, then next time your husband can tell him his 'new rule' is not in the written agreement and close the door on him.
1182397
I would tell him what is going on, but ask him not to say you are the one who told him. To have him kind of "spy" on the situation when he is around and for him to see his g/f not caring for the kids and being on the computer all the time. This is not healthy for the kids. No one should leave a 2 & 4 year old child outside alone! No matter where you live. I think you would be doing the right thing by telling him. Personally, I know I would tell him, if it was me.\nGood luck.
529801
Well you just cannot continue this pattern first of all. It seems to me that he has changed quite a bit so if the only thing you have a problem with now is that he will not help around the house you need to decide if him not helping around the house is worth your family and marriage. If you feel that it matters that much to you that he help around the house then yes leave after you seek counseling. You owe it to the children to use every resource available to make your family work. But if it is not going to then atleast you done everything possible.
435333
Any man that just left his wife and 2 kids isn't in ANY place to be wanting it to last.  Even though you might, and he probably says pretty words, why would you WANT to stay with a man that is still married- therefore cheating on his wife with you?  Does SHE know he's already moved on?  It seems like he moved straight from her bed to your bed- why would YOU want that?  What about his kids?  Be the bigger person and wait until the divorce is final.  Divorce is messy enough without additional people thrown into the mix.  If it's true love he'll still be around then- and his kids will be able to respect you.  If not, you have your answer.
657563
Maybe you should continue to stay separated but start "dating" again and work on your issues. Having children in the relationship I feel it could be detrimental to them to have him continually coming and going into the home. I would continue being involved in your church, praying for him and your marriage and continue marriage counselling. If after a few months and giving it 100% there are still no changes in him/willingness from him to work on his issues then I would sit down and seriously contemplate if this situation is right for you and your children. But hopefully with prayer and God in your life you will see some changes. I definitely think baby steps is the way to approach this situation. God be with you.
433758
Well to be honest he should have a problem letting you go see your family with your kids it is obviosly that he doesn't spend enough time with you and your kids because of his work, put it this way talk to him and explian that you don't undertand why he is not letting you go visit your family & ask if he doesn't trust you I don't think is that becuse you can even cheat if you want in your home town you don't have to travel tell him that you would like to be trust as you trust him or do you have any problems on not trusting him because he travels, get together and have a serious talk about this besides you are traveling with your kids 7 & not alone like he does good luck & hope things get better so you can travel & see your family .....
236347
First of all he is lying to you so that is a red flag. The phone calls from other women, him talking on the phone and walking away is enough of a hint that something isn't right. You have a lot of red flags in front of you and the fact that he is physcally and verbally abusive doesn't help either. I know you love him but you have to think of yourself and your kids wellfare. You should leave before you or your kids get hurt. Try to get some professional help too.
94344
Get a pet!  And even when your kids move out that doesn't mean you can't still talk on the phone or visit.  Keep in touch with the kids and get a dog or cat (or both)!  Also, this is a chance to spend some alone time with your spouse and get to know him again (assuming there is a spouse)
244419
You have to tell him to stop sweating the small stuff, let him know that if he expects to have a good relatinship with your children then he needs to learn to be more understanding. I went through that with my husband, I have a child from a previous relationship, my sons dad is still very avtive in his life but my husband feels like he has to be the one who sets the rules for the stuff that goes on everyday. I told my husband excally what i told you. Also if you want to encouage a better relationship with your new husband and you kids, you should have them do activities toghether, just the 3 of them with out you there. If you have a boy have them do Boyscouts together or if you have a girl have him get involved in what ever sport she plays or have him teach her a sport just them together with out you. It wil be hard at first, but it will help your new husband to form a bond with your children, and then he won't be so hard on them, you have to rmind him that they are just kids and you have to remind the kids that he is new to the whole parenting thing, If you show that you care from both sides everything will work out!!
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!