what yould you do if you were in this situation???
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I don't feel there is anything really to be done.  The only thing I would be concerned about is the fact that if these two men are your best friends and you share everything together, then why didn't tell you in the first place instead of you finding out like you did.  \nI can understand the frustration and surprise at finding them in that situation.  As for the crush, only thing to do there is to get over it.  There isn't a chance there.  I would talk to them.  Be honest.  Why didn't they tell you?  Is there a trust issue that you were not aware of that they couldn't tell you up front?  That sort of thing.  I think it's the best advice I can give.  I hope it helps you out.
921234
Think of yurself in that person's position, and wat u wud do.
288800
Kick them out 2 stay wif u ;)\nxxxooo
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
48871
Pray to God for help and guidance. In this situation, because there is obviously nothing you can really do, put it in God's hands. I'll be praying for you!! I hope this helps. :)
688597
All of you step back and take a breather. Spend a bit of time alone before doing anything as you still sound a bit confused about your feelings to be honest. Then you'll make a good decision
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Reverse the situation--what would you do if you found out your husband was cheating on you with your best friend?  \nIf your answer is "I'd join in", forget I answered your question.  \nBut if your answer is something like "I'd leave him", think about the consequences if your husband ever found about your indiscretions.
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I would just be upfront about it and spit it out. Find a non-uptight moment and sit down and explain the problem. Decide on what would be best to fix the problem and do it. Just talk it out with them.
541094
Heck no!!! take full advantage of you situation. ha ha just kidding. Its really up to you.
1121755
Be at peace.  You are with people that love you.  In the end that is all anyone can ask.
316925
set the place on fire... then your out of work and you didnt have to quit or get fired.\n\nhaha no pun intended
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Put everything in perspective...what's the worst that could happen as a result of everything you mentioned above?\n\nCan you find some other interests?  Meet new people?\n\nThings will turn around soon, nothing remains constant.
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THATS UP TO YOU. WHAT IS YOUR GUT FEELING??? IF YOUR HEART IS SAYING GO WITH HIM THEN GO. IF YOUR HEART IS SAYING NO THEN STAY HOME.
1068260
i'd say hold on---go in my house..grab a pillow..scream in it for a minute---then go back and say yes
1160542
If you feel like you REALLY should leave, I say go. Unless you want to go through the hassle of counseling and such (which some men will not even consider). I dont know how I would just do whatever is in your best interest.
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that's a good one\ni really don't know, i don't think anybody would know in a situation like that....\nmaybe gather your most intimate friends and laugh it out, move on.\nplan your new life better.\nalways remember the do's & dont's of the game
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I love this question!!!\n\nOkay, well, are you asking what I would do? or for advice what to do?\n\nI have personal experience with this question as this has actually happened to me.\n\nYears ago, I was dating a girl that had an infant daughter.  She lived with her mother in an upscale neighborhood that shared it's borders with some "bad" areas.  The two of them were extremely beautiful and very petite.  The topic of being home alone and having the doors locked at all times, came up often.  Looking out the front door gave you a false sense of security as the surrounding homes were very nice and well kept.  Friendly neighbors, etc...\n\nIt was summer and I would have been at work, but it's hard to landscape in the rain.  I had called home to tell her that I was on my way.  She told me that she had put the baby down for a nap and that she would be "ready" for me when I got home.\n\nWhen I walked in the front door, quietly as not to disturb the baby, I heard struggling and the baby crying!\n\nNow, at that time, I had been a bouncer for 4 years, a bodyguard for two and a martial artist for 7.  Fear, well, didn't have any of that.  I guess you could say the only thing I feared at that moment was that I was too late.  I made my way up the stairs as fast and silently as possible.\n\nThe baby's room was the first I would encounter so I made sure to evaluate her first.  Peeking in to see that she was only crying for typical baby reasons, I made my way to the next doorway.\n\nI was lucky, that the baby's cries concealed my movements.  For our misfortune was that there were TWO men in the house.  One in her room and the other seemed to be looking for things to steal and began yelling at the other to leave the "b!tch" alone and grab some shiite.\n\nThis is were lots of training helps.  You really need to keep your cool if you're going to get involved.  I knew there wasn't enough time to wait for the police.  The police in Pontiac, MI SUCK anyway.   So, my actions were the only chance she and the baby had.\n\nThe cover of sound was my only ally.  With both mommy and baby screaming, the guy attacking her would never know I took out his friend, if I did it quickly and quietly.\n\nI don't want to sound like a bad Steven Segall movie, so I'll spare you the details of my techniques.\n\nWith ROBBER GUY #1 down, I only had to deal with the guy on top of mommy.  Now, some people have asked me before why didn't I go to her first?  Well, if I went to her first, guy #1 would have come in to help his friend.  Now, I can take on two guys, but why if I don't have too?  Besides, she was doing a pretty good job fighting.\n\nWhen I entered the room, I didn't have any time to think.  She had just broken free of his grasp and luanched for the door.  Bad timing as we collided with each other and sent her back a step.\nI grabbed her and threw her behind me, as I did this, he too grabbed for her and his nasty crack  pipe nails dug deep gouges on her shoulders.  The scars from which, she still has to this day.\n\nI took a couple steps back and when I heard the baby's room door shut and lock, I yelled out, CALL 911, my phone is on the floor.  I had thought far enough ahead to leave my phone in the baby's room.  Knowing, that once free, mommy would go straight to her.\n\nIt seemed like an eternity, we stood there in a stalemate.  I was quite a bit bigger than he was, but I could see the crazy drug induced haze in his eyes.  The desperation that comes from need, fear and confusion.  He yelled at me and I cursed him...\nI think what happened next may have changed my life more than any other event in my life.\n\nI heard the sound of a cartridge being chambered into a semi-automatic handgun.\n\nHis friend was back on his feet and standing behind me with a pistol pointed directly at me.\n\nYou pretty much only have one option here.  PRAY\nwell, pray and shiite your pants.\n\nHowever,