How long is too long to wait before going back for answers from past relationships?
370258
Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
824451
If it was a serious relationship involving love, there is no true time limit. It all depends on when your ready. I would say six months. You never know, but if you try going out and it doesnt feel right. You would know that means your not ready.
893083
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
114846
As with my boyfriend and I ...we like to keep the past in the past. There's no use in bringing up something that might make your partner mad/upset unless they ask about it or it is a serious issue that would concern them needing to know. For example: STD's, crimes...so forth.
413692
depends on how long u have been together, if you were friends b4 u started dating..etc...\nu mite want to try asking her if uve been going out for at least a year
963139
Is it to late to answer that question "i've being going out with this guy............should we get married?"
515725
You should give yourself some time before dating again because if you rush into another relationship it could be disastrous for you and the other person.Give yourself some time to figure you what you're looking for in a relationship and tell your future partner what your expeditions are if he can't deal with them,don't waste your time.
224367
Sex and the city = .5 times the length of your past relationship.\n\nIf you dated 3 years, wait 1 1/2 years before dating another.\n\nIf you dated 6 months, wait 3 months.\n\nDated 9 hours, wait 4 1/2 hours.\n\nhehe, etc....
449160
I'm not like miss conservative, but I don't see the harm in waiting a little bit longer to see where you two are in another month.. but it really is a personal decision.. and since you are asking here, I am guessing yuo aren't ready and he is?  Be careful, only do what YOU are willing to do without pressure from anyone.  That's very important for your self-respect.  ok?  Best of luck to you!
1093077
Never wait for a guy to "get his ducks in a line."  Relationships are supposed to be fluid and encompassing - waiting until "the time is right" is just another way of announcing that he is not ready - not for you at least, and maybe not for anybody.  Go out with #2 and see where it takes you.  If #1 "gets his ducks in a' row (sheesh) then maybe he will come back around and - if he does - THEN you will have to see where you stand in your own life.  You may be so "over" #1 that you'll wonder why you even considered waiting for him.
568284
At least one month for every year you were dating.  If you hadn't been dating for a year, wait a three weeks to a month.  It's hard to measure your own progress, but try to make it so that any new relationship has nothing at all to do with the old one- not in reasons you like the new person, in the way you proceed with the new relationship, your fears about it, or your rush to jump into it.
1141628
If you asked him a serious and imprtant question, and he can't even give a response, even if it is a response that says he needs more time to answer than you need to move on, this is tough to say, but he does not rank you very high on his priority list if he has not replied for over a week.  Move on, you'll find a better match for you!
285341
As long as it takes for you to truly know someone. Which is not a small task. My general rule of thumb is that by the time you've been together two years you should know if you want to be married or not. Two years has a lot of days in it good or bad and if you can make it through those, then you might need to consider being together on a long term basis, but only if the relationship is healthy for both of you.
4726
I'm with you...I would go back to when I was 16 because I would not get into a relationship with someone that I did at that age.  I would also think about going back 13 years to when I first met someone very special.  We lost touch but have recently struck up a great friendship.  I would have changed things then had I known what was happening now!
160317
You should wait 1/3 of the relationship.\n\nSay you went out for 3 months. So, you should wait one month before dating again.\n\nCommon trick- not too fast, not too slow.
45493
It depends. As long as it was before you and they haven't slept with anyone since you then why not leave the past in the past? Maybe they were just too embarrassed to tell you. On the other hand, I could see where that could bring up a lot of turst issues because they did not tell you before hand. Ask him/her why didn't say this before, and REALLY listen to what they have to say. It may just be because they didnt want to lose you or to think badly of him/her.