How do you deal with a compulsive liar?
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If he truely is a compulsive liar, the only thing you can do to help him is to suggest he seeks therapy. It is a mental sickness that would be very hard for him to curb on his own.\n\nMy mother is a compulsive liar, and I never realized it until I was an adult. It got to the point where she "needed" to talk to me about things, and everything was just a pack of lies. She was hurting my feelings, and comsuming all of my time. I had given her an altimatum (forgive my spelling) to either seek help, or no longer call me. I do not have the patience of a saint, and could no longer take the time to deal with her illness.\n\nIt's so hard when you consider that this person is a friend, and he considers you an asset to his life...\nThis is just an opinion, but perhaps he does it to seek out your attention. Perhaps he feels that he is boring, and does not live up to anyone's standards of being fun and exciting. Therefore conjuring up stories to boost his appeal?\n\nIt's just an idea. Hope it helps
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Confront them.\n\n"Why would you say such a thing?"\n\nIt will leave them speechless, and they will think twice before prejudging someone again.
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She is lying to you. Find someone else.
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Most people lie because they don't think people will like them for who they are, so I would simply say "I'm sorry but I don't believe a word you say and until you stop lying to me and yourself I think it would be better if we put our relatioship on hold" If that's too bold try calling her on it everytime you know she's lying. But I think the 1st option is the better only because u tried confronting her and that didn't work. Propose therapy; that's why I love my horses--they don't lie and complain! It's sad to say but we can't change others the only thing we have control over is ourselves and our behavior other than that it's all in God's hands, baby! Good Luck...
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There is a good chance it’s not just you she is lying to. She has probably done this most of her life and most of the time she isn't aware she is doing it until it’s done. She probably lies about things that are so small, the truth wouldn't hurt either. Most people that do this are doing so because they feel their life or the truth is so boring, they don't think anyone will care about them. It’s a cry for help and love. Show her she doesn't need to do this anymore.\n\nSet here down, sometime other when it is not an issue. Look her straight in the eye, while holding her hand; tell her how much you love her. Then talk to her how important trust is in a relationship. Explain to her that you are aware of her deception and it is because you love her so much that, most of the time you can see it in her face. Talk to her about how other people that do not love her and don't have the ability to look over this one issue to see the really great things about her, view her. Explain that you cannot live with dishonesty and mistrust, (and you cannot) but you want to help her, because that is what two people do when they love each other. They work through issues that have the potential to tear them apart.\n\nThen, every time she lies, and there is no one else in the room, give her that look. I know you have one. That look that says, Honey, do we need to talk about this. After a few times, she will respond, straighten up and tell the truth. You may even go through a phase when you might share a chuckle about it. It will take a while, but YOU can turn this around. If you don't, no one else cares enough about her to do it. It remains to be seen if you will stay together but if you help her through this, she will be in dept to you for the rest of your life and you will feel beter about any decesion you make.\n\nGood Luck.
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Lie him too... might work! Try cheating him also.
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Well, I was married to a narcissist so I can tell you exactly what to do.  First, remember that they will always want to have the last word.  So give it to them.  You can answer for them before they get the chance- that really throws them off.  \n\nEx.  "Yes, I know, you're the best tennis player that ever existed on the planet."  Yes, I'm aware of the fact that you're smarter than everyone else around."  "Yes, I know that your opinions about everything are always the most true and correct."  After you say something like this you should laugh out loud, look them directly in the eye, smile and shake head.  Not only does this take the wind out of their enormous sail, but sometimes it even makes them embarrassed!\n\nAs far as the manipulation goes, don't react to their bullshit.  Look them in the eye and listen intently and when they're all finished yelling, lying, or what ever their pleasure.  Say, "Well, that was entertaining, now, back to the real world...."  And stay very calm.  \n\nThe best thing you can do to stay in control is to remember that this person is sick.  Don't take their behavior personally.  This is not about you- this is about their illness.  Don't let them see you get upset because this is exactly what they want.  If you need anymore help, send me an e-mail.
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Some people become addicted to lying. Others do it casually for cover. People constantly worry about what other people will think and the consequences of revealing the truth. Therefore, they lie to make things seem better than they actually are.
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Well Fari just call and tell her that they lied to her about tell her all the truth and if she doesn't want to answer your call just keep insisting until she belives that you are saying the true. Wish a lot of luck and hopefully she'll understand your situation.
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Talk to her directly. Tell her that you are not exactly pleased about her lying to you for you feel that she didn't need to lie to you because you would've let her visit Sam if she had asked. There isn't a reason for her to "fear your wrath" but she does need to know that you are somewhat disappointed with her.
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Stop lying to her maybe ??
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I know exactly what your saying! A person in my immediate family does this constantly, and it gets to the point where you don't know what to believe and what not to. And in my experience, if they are habitual/pathological liars, calling them on it has little effect. Sometimes I wonder about the things they lie about ( in particular a card game that never occurred). If I were you, I would reevaluate my friendship/relationship with that person and consider if it's worth the time and effort...Hope it works out for you ..
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well, sorry to tell you this but it's all depends on your partner..but here's what yOu can do. First of all never starts anything with lies. no matter how hard it seems, no matter how bad they'll hate you after, dont lie. say anything you want to say, say everything you have to say, and never try to make things better with saying, "it's not you, it's just me..." and other self-blame-cliche-excuses...and let them know that you still want to have a good relationship with them cuz no matter what they still a part of you right? but then again, you have to respect their decision if they refuse you at first cuz it's really tough to accept the fact that you cannot be with someone that you really care...am i making a point? dont think bout it too much..time heals..
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My best friend is an excellent liar, he's lied to me so many times that I reallly don't think that I will ever know just how much he's lied to me.  The good thing is that I know the way he is now so I now know not to trust him immediately.  In the back of my mind there is always the thought that he could be lying to me.  So I simply don't trust him any more.   I don't know if this helped you or not.  If other people see your friend as a liar then it might be true.  Just go with your gut feeling.
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-He lies about where he's been\n-Leaving the room when he's on the phone\n-Strange people calling \nwhen you know the person is cheating and you have some proof that the person has lied, confront them by saying that someone you know saw them with another person at whatever loctaion you are aware of it happening, when they deny it pick up the phone call the time and temp number and pretend to have a conversation with somone about what they saw. It works with almost any lie as long as the person is the type to get defensive and angry  they will want to know who told you.
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learn how to lie a lot
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A liar makes a horrible boyfriend. You might want to consider trading up. But if you want some information, I'm putting in a Website that might help. Hope this helps.