HELP! I'm in a bit of a decision-making crisis about love!?
365500
pssst, it's me.  We talked on YIM a lot.  ;)\n\nMy opinion was that you should see how 1 date goes.  If you both have a spectacualr time, then at the end tell him your age.  He won't care whether of not you're 15 if he enjoyed the date.  : )\n\n\nLet me know if ya need more help, Good Luck,\n-Alexis
483643
in this case ur mind and heart wud chose two diff options.. follow da choice of ur heart... it wil never let u down
662849
There are a lot of factors you have to consider.  Where do you see your relationship with him another year down the road?  Can you go with him?  The other question to be answered before you can make your decision is "Do you love him romantically, or more like loving him because he's become one of your best friends and are way close?"  Good luck, but you have to search your heart and soul.
201620
No offense, but if you have to ask, niether relationship is probably a good one. When you truely love somone, there is no doubt in your mind as to what decision to make in this type of situation.
1119027
I know most people will tell you no, but I think it is possible to care deeply for more than one person, and isn't caring deeply about someone what love is about? However, the problem here is that if you truly love both people, you will have to come to accept the cold truth: you will have to hurt one or both. If you love them both, then this will be a difficult decision. If you don't choose, though, you will hurt both people by default. I would think that you would want to save the love of one person, instead of losing both, so you had better come to a decision before it's too late. My recommendation would be to save the 11 year relationship. At least you know that love has staying power, but what about this new one - will it only be thrilling when it's new?
720659
Sadly, there really isn't alot that you can do. If he has made up his mind, all that you can do is tell him how you feel, and let him know what it is that YOU want. After that, it is really out of your hands, because you won't be able to force your wants onto him. That will only serve to push him even further away. Nobody said that love was easy, or that it would make everything work out the way you want it to. The best rule to go by is " What is meant to be, and what isn't can not be forced." If you two are meant to be together, then you can pretty well figure that so long as you make your own wants known, then you will be together. If you aren't, nothing you say or do is going to help. Let him know what your heart is telling you, and then it's up to him. Good luck!!
298800
i was in the same situation!!go with your heart.who will make you happier??
966010
Listen to your heart man ....life is all about taking a decision , its only time that tells later if your decision was correct one or not ..... \n\nListen to your heart ..ask yourself .... and do it if you feel its right. Also there is never a right time to get married and have kids.
111348
Whatever your heart feels, go with it. Who knows?? You may just have your pot of Gold! Good luck!
957968
Wow - that is a tough question.\n\nIf the two of you are still close, I'd just ask outright, but be prepared a bit of heart break if the answer is no...\n\nYou're at a really difficult time in life (I remember it...) and just recognizing that your head and heart are disagreeing is pretty impressive - I don't think I was that mature back then.\n\nAsking outright gives you a quick resolution to your dilemma.\nKeeping your options open, but maintaining some display of affection (holding on) may drag out the pain.\n\nIf your head says move on... then you probably should - your heart will move on eventually as well, and you'll certainly find someone else, even if it doesn't feel like it now... (sounds sooooooo cliched...)\n\nGood luck,\n\n-dh
803951
Don't rush things.  Go to the interview and weigh all of your options if you get a job offer.   If you turn down the interview you might regret it and might resent him for your mistake.  He's already told you he's not ready to make a major commitment yet, so just things play out the way they should.  Whatever you do don't force him to make a declaration of love to you just because you might be leaving.
1177319
I think you should give it more time. I can understand what you are talking about when you say you wonder if you should go for something. But me  I try to just wait awhile before I jump into something, but just give it more time. Then if you want to follow your heart, just think it though carefully with whatever decision you make.
723809
All depends on what YOU want. \n\nI'm in the same boat. I hella don't want to be in a relationship right now - I wanna play the field....but there is this one guy that I REALLY like a lot...and if he wanted to be in a relationship, I'd do it.\n\nSometimes you just can't pass up the possibility of love or something special. \n\nAsk yourself one question.....will it be worth the risk?\n\nIf you wanna go ahead & get w/him, I'd take it slow. Be light & breezy. No heavyness, no drama.
125853
Blessings.\n\nMay I answer your question with a questions of my own? First, are you sure that these feelings you have for this new guy (let's name him "Ted" for the sake of easier understanding) are legit (real)? If not, that is part of what I think you should question yourself... along with asking "Ted" if his feelings for you are legit.\n\nSecond, if you are "committed" to someone else (let's name him "Al" for the sake of easier understanding) but these feelings that you have for "Ted" are so overwhelming, why are you in this relationship with "Al"? And if these feelings that "Ted" has for you are so overwhelming, why is he in another supposedly-committed relationship with "Sue"? It would seem, in my opinion, that you would tell "Al" (and "Ted" would tell "Sue") how you truly felt instead of leading him on to believe that this love that you two (you and "Al" -- "Ted" and "Sue") share is being reciprocated when, in fact, it is not.\n\nIt would be wise, I would imagine, to put this situation into perspective. Consider what it is (and who it is) that you truly wish to be with. Think carefully and tread softly for the waters (and feelings) you tread upon can be disturbed. You don't want a typhoon to come ripping apart your life. Trust me, I've been there! God bless!\n\nHope that helped!
198187
For now, just keep thinking of him.  See if your feelings change over a few weeks.  Maybe you'll see that it's not worth getting associated with a troublemaker, and maybe not.  But time will make this decision easier to make.
357113
What is the rush? It sounds like you don't really know this guy and that is a risk. Don't you want to know who you are considering spending the rest of your life with. I would urge you to slow down and try and be more objective. Learn as much as you can about him. It sounds like you are caught up in a fantasy about romance. Fantasies and dreams are nice, but what we wind up with is the real world. Put you fantasies aside and look at what is in front of you.
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u dont have to make a choice right now. just continue as it is. u will know which gal to choose when the time is right.