I think my boyfriend mind is focused but hes not thinking about sex but hes sending signs what should I think?
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try to talk to him to see what's wrong.
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Try this test.\n\nThe next time he asks for sex, decline, saying that you are just not in the mood.\n\nIf he presses on, it's jsut the sex he's inetersted in. If he accepts your request, it is something deeper
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Dear Penny,\nBefore asking any questions, or even analysing the myriad of eye movements, hand gestures and pupil dilating which probably indicate commitment, think what YOU want from this relationship. \n\nThe previous respondent talked about friends with benefits, but in this instance I have the feeling it applies to you also. \n\nSo: how do you feel about him? Honestly? Do YOU want to commit? If the answer is yes, be brave, be honest, and let him know you're ready to take this relationship to the next level.\n\nGood luck!
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Guys tend to express lack of interest by avoiding time together, not being as intimate with you, and being unclear about any future plans.\n\nIf he is a decent guy, I think you should be able to get a direct response to the question "is there something wrong lately?  I feel like you are being a bit distant".  List the reasons you think so, and ask whether you are being ridiculous or not.\n\nI suggest doing that soon, rather than waiting and analizing everything he does.  You will drive yourself nuts, and likely cause the relationship to end on a bad note as your angry/fear/worry all get bottled up until they explode (usually not in a positive way).\n\nI hope it works out for you.  Talk to him.  If you can't do that, it's not a relationship anyway.
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This is a really sensitive issue.  Your boyfriend seems like he has real commitment issues.  The best thing to do would be to sit down and have a little chat.  Tell him you want to be in an exclusive relationship and nothing else will do.  After your chat, you should both sit on the couch and drink some heavy lager and eat a couple of bowls of bran each.  Then you will both find out what your a-holes are really for you couple of mincers.
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By not making up his mind, he has already made up his mind.....he''s not interested in a relationship with you. When people are interested, it's NO problem to make up their mind, and you WILL know it. Move on! Find another man that CAN make up his mind! Good Luck!!
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Hi Juhl. Are you asking because a person you're in a relationship says hes stressed out as a means to escape intimate relations?\nHe probably just needs some 'space' either physically or emotionally'. \nSome guys cannot perform if their mind is elsewhere. Talk to him about what is stressing him out and be patient. Think about him, your time will come.
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Honestly, guys don't plan this... they just have a different level of thinking about what is important.\n\nI'm not saying your concerns aren't important to your man, but his thoughts and logic are somewhere else unconnected to these issues.
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It could be he is stressed out about his work,or overly tired,you should really sit down and try to have a conversation with him,and see if there is anything going on in his life that he hasnt been able to express to you.Different people have Different sex drives as well,you really need to work it out with him and compromise.Let him know how your feeling.Also I reccomend that you consider marriage,sometimes the guilt people feel shacking up affects the sex drive.No offense! Good luck!
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who says he has a problem? maybe he just really wants to be with and is hopin he's readin the signals wrong. you can't always be passive aggressive with things. sometimes you have to flat out say what's on your mind and everybody else be damned. just tell him and move on, stop p.ussy footin it
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Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
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If you guys haven't been together that long then probably. Men also tend to say things because they  sound good. There is really no telling in this situtation. And another thing, sorry to say it, he could just want sex, and feels he will get it if he says he loves you.
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Hi!,\nIt sounds like you would like your boyfriend to be more open and to communicate his thoughts more. If he does not open up and communicate what he is thinking, feeling or doing you would be left to think many things.\nMy first thought would be, has he always been of this particular nature, that is not open, or not very communicative? If so love him as he his.\nMy second thought is, you would like to have a partner that is open and communicative. Perhaps that is how you are (open and communicative), and you have that recipricating need. It would not be healthy heart trying to guess what another person is thinking. We are so often incorrect to try and guess what a person is thinking. What is, is, can be a simple thought. A person who thinks less could be more at peace, at least not so stressed. Try it. Try and be more like him, since you wish perhaps him to be more like yourself. Good Luck
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Is he depressed, stressed or something else?  Will he see a doctor.\n\nA healthy man will usually have a healthy sex life.  I think you should be honest and tell him this is destroying your love for him and you would like him to address the issue.  \n\nIf he doesn't know how, then suggest that he start with the source of being tired.\n\nOne other thing that popped into my head.  Does he just say that to avoid a long conversation.  Perhaps he doesn't feel "safe" talking about what he really feels and thinks because he is judged or criticized.
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Those indicates that he loves you. My advise would be, to get more intimate with him, just the way he wants you to, and see how he reacts. Even after doing as he wants you to if he questions your work, then he is just saying things, and not being original. I think that's the only way you can surely test if he is being honest with you or not.
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What does your boyfriend think about this??
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Because now that you're together, he thinks your his 'property' and he can do anything sexual, no matter where you are! If you don't like it, tell him to stop. If that doesn't work set ground rules, if he's still ignoring you, dump him! You want a boyfriend not pervert!