should I be angry that a soon to be boyfriend got back with his ex?
356452
Be thankful!!!\n\nYou don't want a guy like that.  Don't you want a guy who's into YOU and only YOU???  You escaped with very little heart damage ... run play ... and find another guy someday.
883579
No you shouldn't try and get back with him. He's saying that he's enjoying the single life, due to this reason he's not going to want to get back with you is he?\n\nYou obviously still like him, but he is your ex for a reason, besides which is is dating someone, whether or not its casually, he is seeing someone and you don't want this girl to have a go at you. So just leave things as they are. You are still on speaking terms but leave it at that don't let it go any further because in the long one you are the one that will come of worse
191322
I don't like that fact, but would not be mad. The Ex is EX.
218653
Sure, why not...I'm mad at my ex, but he thought I liked a friend of mine(and thought I was cheating with the guy) when he was cheating on me!  Long story, but just use your intuition on this one.
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
672245
I think it is dependent. My boyfriend is still good friends with his ex's and a couple of them I have to admit are better looking than me. At first I was suspicious of being just the flavor of the month for a while, but the key thing is to talk to them. Tell her that if bothers her that she does this on her own. If she is going out with an ex that you would like to go with her for your own peace of mind. I did that and I can tell that there is nothing left of that previous relationship, and have moved on. Now he'll spend hours studying with them sometimes and I don't care...then again we've almost been together for two years.
342246
forget snooching32 advice!! you think, if you were in a twelve year relationship, would you be able to stop contact with that person completely,? NO DIDNT THINK SO, my girlfriend was with someone for 7 years, and they still have contact, i dont like it and i feel insecure and sometimes inferior to her ex, but like me, you will have to learn to deal with the ex being on the scene for some time, but eventually, this person will start giving you the attention and the ex will fade away into the background.\n\nthis person has been honest with you and told you his ex was there, and that nothing happened, the two of you hve a special thing, you can communicate, you talk a lot everyday, that is hard to find, dont throw that away, tell your friend how you feel, go round, take a bottle of wine with you and sit and talk it out, see the outcome, you will find a lot more out about each other and its the only way to find out how he really feels for you\n\nyou might be pleasantly surprised. but you will never know otherwise!\nthere are a lot of negative people on here, dont listen to them
409062
Why are you messaging your ex boyfriend? I think you are creating drama for yourself. So wallow in it, you deserve it.
1165491
Jealousy is a character flaw, I personally think that you are a mature person , whom has moved past  the initial bad feelings, this is a good thing. Your new girlfriend needs an attitude adjustment and a reality check, she is your current love interest. The only reason she told you to break off your relationships with your Exes, was to try to control you.
1050061
a soon -to -be  ex relationship
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
1176033
I can relate.  First off, make your boyfriend get a lawyer to defend his rights and make sure the childs rights to him are met.  That way she can't use the child against him, for her guilt purposes or manipulation.  He doesn't want to look back and have crap over his head that he should sort out now and be done with.  I think that alone will put an end to having to deal with the ex only for about the child reasons.  Then have a talk with confidence about the ex situation.  She is trying to make him miserable and if putting trouble in your relationship is a way she will use it.  Don't sound jealous or too upset, just concerned and caring about what you two have now.  Let him understand that being with him also means you are part of this equation and your feelings matter,  Then afterwards have a great (you know what I mean girl) evening with him so he doesn't forget that working things out with you ALWAYS will pay off.  GOOD LUCK!
393780
Because he has still continued some form of relationship (you say they are friends) for your entire relationship, plus they have 9 months of intimacy that preceded your relationship?\n\nBecause he still hangs out with her?\n\nThat's legitimate, right?  Do you maintain friendship or go to public places with your ex-boyfriend?  Even if other people were around, would your boyfriend have a problem with that?  \n\nIf it bothers you and he doesn't hear your complaint, it's still going to bother you.  Even if he doesn't think it's a big deal.  Even if he can rationalize it.\n\nI highly recommend "Getting To Yes," by Roger Fisher.  It's not a love relationship book, but great for negotiation/communication.  It sounds like you need help convincing him that it's as big a deal as it is to you.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0140157352/qid=1144087981/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/103-4668860-3658249?s=books&v=glance&n=283155
189954
oh no, your in for it now. I won't go back with him or else you might have lots of drama. I know I've joked around a bit in here but for all seriousness. Your boyfriend will be pissed off and you'll never hear the end of it.
1066383
you're not expecting to much, but everyone is different..i'm friends with several of my exes to..but if a significant other really had a problem with it i'd do my best to come up with a comprimise..generally exes are exes for a reason....he should also respect your thoughts and feelings...and not just say it's being jealous...
90188
You need to cy and let all your anger go. You should not keep it to your self. Cry for him now but in the furure not. He doesn't deserve you to be crying for him. If he din't tell you why you two broke up then he doesn't deserve you.
568152
First of all you need to tell your ex to get over himself! Hes the one that messed up therefore he shouldnt be trying to get back at you! And even if lets say you were the one to cheat first then oh well lifes tough and he needs to move on! You and the "new" guy shouldnt even pay attention to your ex. I mean he is your EX hence the word EX as in he doesnt matter anymore! You guys should just ignore him and be happy!!