A question for Goths???
362709
You have to realize that high school goth has nothing to do with real goth.  For them it's a fad and a fashion.  Real goths don't have a set way of looking.  But I have to agree with you that teen "goths" all look the same.
633328
most people dont really use that lable anymore that are "goth" and most that do are in their teens\n\ni think for a lot of them it has to do with teen angst and depression\nthey dress they way they do because they feel like theyve been rejected from society so they want to reject themselves even further from the people who they feel dont understand them\n\nhowever, the 18+ "goths" i think its more about the artisic expression - the really white vampire-like skin and the dark clothing and makeup and hair .. there are also different styles of gothic people.. some have the more victorian style, where the makeup isnt as extreem but its very antiquy.\nthen there are the vampire type goths that just sort of want to become vampires or roll play as them, and thats where the really white skin and the wierd contact lenses and stuff and fake blood and blood play with knives and stuff come in\nthen there are the more industrial type fetishy club goths.. its really about the look with them, those are the ones that look like the arrived on a gothic spaceship with the goggles on their heads and the big snynthetic dredlocks and the vinyl and synthetic clothing and the huge boots\n\nthen there are those that wear vinyl and are into fetish that you might consider goth, but i dont really consider them gothic.\n\n\nit's also kindof based around the "goth" bands..\nkinda a lifestyle that goes with the music\n\nfor some laughs there is a really funny little book that is called "What Is Goth?" and its like a joke kindof laughing at and with the gothic culture.\n\n:D
556138
Goths generally like certain kinds of music, but that doesn't mean they hate everything else. I like some kinds of R&B, hip=hop and rap. You've most likely only been exposed to the fakey stuff on the radio. That's not real rap or hip-hop. And it probably isn't the music you hate, it's the ideas; misogyny, violence, materialism, the glorification of poverty and ignorance. Take away these unflattering items and all you have left is a style of singing and musical beats that may or may not be to your liking. Hope that cleared things up! ;)
36926
Gothic is just a label.  There are nice goths and mean ones, just like every other group.  Most of the ones I know are nice.\n\nYes, you can be gothic an believe in God.  I know a couple of Christian goths, including a very devout Catholic.
654375
Sounds more like a gothic metal band or a grunge/indie band - I kinda like it, I know names's a little gross but it's hard with attitude just like metal music so it goes with it quite well.  And this is from someone who doesn't like metal so you've got a full unbiased opinion there!!!!  Clever little boy you've got there I must say!
592853
Don't do it FOR HIM. If you want to go Gothic that's fine as long as you are doing it for you, because You want To!  If he truly cares for and about you he will accept you for who you really are. Have Fun :-)
203472
I think some of the Gothics do summon Devil, we call them Satanists also.
331829
Hee hee, that's so true.  For teens who dress goth, without understanding what goth is all about, it's just a fad that represents rebellion against normal fashion.  Truth is, real goths don't care about standing out, they just want to be themselves, and they're not rebelling against the system.  It think the spooky kids just dress that way to piss of their parents, which teen "punks", "hippies", and "greasers" probably did in past generations.  It doesn't do any harm, but in hindsight it's silly.
602940
It seems like you're arguing semantics to be, but here's my best guess.  Goths have a mindset that accepts death, while dark guys actually like death.
329468
I think it's dumb, but at the same time I am a self-injuring goth. So I don't know. I was self-injuring before I became a goth, but I don't think my becoming one had anything to do with that at all. It just kind of happened. I didn't know any other goths and I hadn't seen many, I just liked black and it went from there. Goth is more than clothing, anyway. And self-injury is more than making a few little marks on your skin. They don't know anything about what they did the study on.
289080
Who cares what she is or how she dresses I am 50 years old and have met goths many times who are very decent people. If you are concerned about safety issues or there have been some problems you deal with it the same way as you would if it was a safety issue from anyone else.  Your bestie is still hanging with you isn't she and to her you are different but she lets you be who you are
913400
Goth is a kind of music that has developed subgenres--and therefore, it has become its own subculture.  It has nothing to do with Satanism.  Goths can be Satanists, but they can be of any other religion, too.
1168959
I love and respect him, he tells it like it is, and he doesn't care what others think about him. People fear the unknown and people who are different, that's why most dislike him. And i dont understand why people don't like goths? They like the style and we shouldn't use the name "goths" do classify people who like black and chains and stuff. Maybe we should classify peeps who like the color orange and like donkeys!
949729
Being "goth" makes their anger and bitterness the "cool" thing to do.\n\nPlus black is actually slimming.
776775
Very few goths cut. Your remark is bigoted and ignorant. Would you throw up to look like a bulimic?
968748
No, goths won't hurt you.  Don't you watch the news, its the seemingly normal people who do the crazy things.  As for gothic culture, being goth has nothing to do with what clothes you wear or music you listen to, it is a way of thinking and seeing the world. The clothes that goths wear and the music that goths listen to is just a reflection of that mindset. Goths see that there is extreme pain and evil in the world, along with the good. Instead of condemning it or ignoring it, goths accept these things as a part of life and try and enjoy the good along with the bad, since they can't stop the bad from happening. They are not obsessed with death, they just accept it as an inevitability. They do not try and cause more pain in their (or anybody else's) lives, since there is plenty to start with.  Goths tend to be kind, intelligent, non-violent, emotional, and artistic.
25757
They like music about feelings---which is what mainly sets them apart from goths. Ususlly if they are true Emos they will dye their hair black and make a patch of red. Thats usually the best way to distinguish them from normal people.