How do regain those loving feelings?
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It'll be hard to do and even if you do regain those feelings it's going to take time.  Seperating myself from my other is helping me miss those feelings.  Not a hundred percent sure if we'll make it, but unless there is too much at stake no one should fake it till they make it.  Good luck and atleast you're trying.
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Make sure you don't just miss being in love, so you think you are. Make sure that person isn't the rebound. Really think about what about that person you really love.
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How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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You can't change anyone, only they can change themselves. You can however, change how you feel about them. You can just learn to accept his aloofness and you will be more relaxed. Or, you can figure out why you need more affection from him like, were you starved for it as a child or do you want the same level that you are used to?\n\nMy suggestion though might help. Get a bowl and a few dozen pieces of paper. Write on those pieces of paper things like;\n1 minute hug\n2 minutes kissing\n10 minutes cuddling\n30 minutes one on one talking\nand naturally, anything else you require\n\nHave him pull one or more a day, like taking a pill or an lesson, it will help.
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Nope. Once someone states that the love is gone..Well that's just it.\nMove on, and get someone who deserves you :)\n\nBest of luck
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feel the feelings . They are yours.\neverybody has life surprise,  None of it is what we thought, Get on your knees , give thanks, get up and go serve somebody in this life. Give back the chances that were given you. Become Love, because you are,
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There's always a good side to everything, or there couldn't be a bad side.  Try focusing on the positive things that have happened because of it.\nYou can't change feeling hurt, that takes time.
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You must accept that it's over before you can begin to heal.  Forget about them and move on - you are in control of your thoughts.  Challenge your thoughts... which will change your mood, feelings, and behaviour.  But, you'll have to do it over and over again until it sticks.
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hey sweety,i know how u feeling.. how to move on? think about yourself! u deserve so much joy, ur killing yourself with the anxiety. fight it, keep that friend connection. grow as an individual, improve n develop yourself in the mean time. sounds to me like u will get back together!! wake up each morning n look in the mirror tell yourself that ur the best thing on the planet, dance n hear James Brown wen u walking.. Aaah, feel goood!!!\n\neven if things arent the way u want them, so wat? live life the fullest n enjoy yourself each moment. stop pinning away, be optimistic about yo ex- u will get him back!! relationship issues need time, be patient n it will come to u!! maybe your differences are being worked out by the space n at the same time look yummy for him (eat yo heart out, dude!!) n any other guy out there. u never know..Morris Chestnut, or Brad Pitt (ha!!) maybe watching!!!\n\nlove yourself to death, ur beautiful, talented n he thinkin of u twice as much! why else wud he keep in touch all this while?don feel sorry or wrong, u were right to discontinue yo relationship-u did say twas inevitable, ain it? so enjoy life girl!!\n\nu can do it!!! don u know u unstoppable girl??!!! hey- u got a cute smile..do that often!! smile, i mean!!
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I wish I had the answer to that. You can't make him love you if he doesn't - you can't tell his heart what to feel. If you think he doesn't love you anymore, maybe the two of you could sit down & talk about your feelings? Maybe you are just reading him wrong & he still loves you but you don't perceive it that way. You may need to tell or show him what you need to feel loved - & perhaps he wants something from you to make him feel more loved as well. Try to communicate your wishes & desires to one another, your dreams, your plans for the future, your hopes. If you love him, let him know that all of those things include him for you. Good luck & best wishes.
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Just sit them down and as nicely as possible tell them what you want to say. I mean, honesty is the best policy, but if you still care about the person you can try and cushion the blow by saying something like, " I don't feel like I once did about you, things have changed, I'm sorry I don't love you anymore" ect ect. If they ask why I guess you could tell them and get into that if you really want too and have the energy for it. Basically, I guess what would help is if you imagine yourself in the other person's shoes and think about how you would want them to tell you the same thing.
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Remember how you acted when you first met the other person?  Remember the special little things you did?  Holding hands, sneaking a kiss and an hug?  Walks on the beaches, a quiet dinner out...\n\nGo back to that time and get the feeling back.
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You need to fall in love all over again.  Try planning a weekend at a hotel together.  Pamper a woman and make them feel that she is all you want.  Women love to have attention and if she gets that from you, she will return the same affection.
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You can't.  If you feel pressured to prove your love, then nothing will ever be enough for that person.  It's a reflection of their own insecurity or feelings of worth, of feeling "loveable" and you can't change that no matter how hard you try.
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Go check out the buffet darlin!.. take a sea cruise to mexico, meet a bull fighter, learn some spanish..live out on the edge for a year or two. You will come back stronger and wiser..Yea it hurts like hell now, but eventually.. you will love again, better than ever, sweet as ever!
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GO TO CHURCH.... EASIEST WAY TO GET SOMEONE WHO IS TRYING TO REBUILD THEIR LIFE ON A POSITIVE NOTE JUST LIKE YOU.... SOMEONE WHO DOESN;T WANT DRAMA WHO WANTS SOMEONE TO JUST LOVE THEM.... GOOD LUCK GOD BLESS
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The best way to get over one is find another. That's what my momma always told me & it's true. Lifes too short to pine away over someone who doesn't return your feelings. Move on sweety! You can do it! Have a positive attitude & find you another! Have a great day & God bless.