How do you get over depression after breaking up with someone you truly love?
371949
i understand this cuz i just went through that...it all depends what kinda person you are .. me i got 2 jobs that kept me busy.. i wrote a lot in a journal so that after i write i can read it out loud cuz sometimes that will get your emotions and thought untagled.. as long as you had a reason that is good enough for you.. you need to understand that you should stick by ur gunz but no matter how much you miss them you need to do what is best for you..
330128
First off, ask yourself this:  Why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?  You two were obviously not meant to be.  That is harsh and I know it hurts but when we are broken hearted, we tend to glorify the "good" things in the relationship and forget the bad.  Try and write what you liked and disliked about the relationship.  Talk to someone who you can trust and who will listen to you.  We have all been there and it is a very hard thing that you are going through.  Please try and remember that this pain is temporary...God bless and Good luck...xoxoturtlegirl
817026
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
635876
That's a real tough one. And millions of others have been through the same thing. I am not going to lie to you and say it'll be easy, especially since you work with him. It's a process that you have to go through taking one day at a time. I think it's a pretty sure bet that if you got back together that the same thing would happen again.You may love him but he has to find his way back to you if and when he realizes that it's you he really wants to be with. So as hard as it is, let him work things out for himself. If you have close friends or relatives spend some time with them and if you have interests then try to keep yourself busy without over doing it. It's hard, but I think a person has to learn to try to relax as much as possible in a situation and not allow depression to creep in and get a grip. Don't let obsessive thinking get the better of you. In a sense it is an opportunity for you to learn to enjoy just being alive and being your own person. Some men and women keep making the same mistake bcause they either let someone back when it's not wise because they love them and are lonely, or they get involved with someone new, too soon, and the cycle repeats itself. Like I said, don't fixate on it, but try to enjoy each day as much as you can. You will have down times, but over time you can and will recover and you may discover a brand new life for yourself. So allow yourself to grieve a little but let yourself have hope for your future too.
602550
get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
703253
I hang with friends, do my artwork, I find things to take my mind off of the person I just broke up with.  Go for a ride, take a walk.  Focus on better things than think about the break up.
64486
The main thing I would do is get my mind aff that subject. If you r always thinking about the break-up, then you will always be moping around. I recommend doing something physical like swimming or jogging etc. You could also paint or hang out with friends. Do you know someone who usually always makes you laugh? Hang out with that person. Try to be as happy as possible. Good luck!
1017707
Yes it is normal to feel a little sad when you break off a long term type relationship.  You did the right thing if you were feeling overbear-ed.  Just have to do things to keep your mind off him.  Hobbies, video games, hang out with friends a little more just keep you mind off the break up.
771096
try your best to get over it . do NOT sit around listening to sad love songs. It does not help. it actually makes things worse. hang out with ur friends. Keep urself ocupied. dont let ur mind wander to him. plus u cant get him bak if hes the one who broke up wit u.
679050
So sorry that you are going through this. I can relate 100%.\nThe pain and depression from a break up can take over your life if you let it.. It did me for a while and I still have my moments. (I was w/ my now ex for 19 yrs.)It has been 9 months since my break up...\n(he also walked out on his 2 daughters)..\nDrugs and alcohol can consume a persons morals and soul...\n\nHere are some things that helped me and some I still continue to do:\n\nWrite a letter to her, but don't mail it, this is for you to express your feelings...burn it after reading this letter.. write and burn as often as you wish.. it does help.. this helps me to let go..\n\nKeep a daily journal of how you feel each day. \nJot down a POSITIVE word to describe yourself (loving, caring, compassionate, outgoing, and so on.).\n\nTake a long brisk walk, go for a swim, go to the gym... do something just for your self, something that you like and brings a smile...\n\nMake a  pro/con list of the relationship you had with her.\ndon't nit pick or sugar coat this list...be HONEST....\nThen make a list of the things you want to find in a woman(NOT HER)..don't over load this list, no one it perfect..\nI had to redo my list a few times....\n\nGo out with your freinds or family, DO NOT ISOLATE YOURSELF from others or life.... it only makes life harder for you!!!\n\nRemember and remind yourself that she chose her life and you can not change her.(I tried to change my ex and waited for him to grow up and change his life for 19 yrs., I lost out on a lot more then just losing him)...\n\nRemind your self that YOU are a GOOD person and you have control of your life, you can't change the past BUT you can change your future and make it happy if you choose.\nYou have control of you!!!\n\nAgain I'm sorry you are hurting so deeply. \nIn time you will feel better and begin to start your life over.. look to make friends with other women first..\nDo NOT rush into a new relationship just to be with some one and not be alone... THIS WILL NOT HELP YOU...\n\nIf you want to chat, email me, I'll be your chat pal.\n\nI hope this helps..
325148
First allow yourself to grieve and own up to what went wrong without blaming another person.  That is how we grow up.  Then start to dream again.  The past relationship wasn't right or else it would have worked out.  So, start dreaming about that perfect person.  What would they look like, how would they make you feel, what would you do together.  The more you can let go of the old and welcome the new the better.  Look at it as having a white canvas where you can begin to create once again.  Enjoy the process and do a lot of nice things for yourself that make you feel good.  Start looking for the joy in your life from other ways.  Good luck.
485760
Use this hard time to take care of yourself.  Take time to do things that you enjoy that perk your spirits(bubble baths, yoga, workout, massage, etc.) and keep your heart healing.\n\nYou have a pretty good perspective on what you want to do and how you want this breakup to work.  No matter what you tell yourself in your head, though, your heart will still hurt for a time.  Good luck.
1038905
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.
406428
Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
658202
The best way to get over it, is to move on. Get a new love in your life, and devote 110% of your time and attention to him. You'll be amazed at how soon you'll be "over him'. Good Luck.....
1015190
Take a break from anyone.  If you can't be happy alone with yourself you'll never make anyone else happy.  Go take a walk on the beach, ALONE.  See what a big wide world is out there.  You don't have to stop dating forever but give yourself a break.  You don't need any guy that just broke up with his girlfriend.  Give it a couple of weeks without him and see if he misses you.  In the mean time just enjoy yourself doing peaceful stuff.  Good Luck
160815
Those really bad breakups tend to cripple us all to some degree.  Unfortunately there is no set amount of time that you can wait and then you are magically ready to move on.  The key is that while you are struggling to get over the bad breakup that you are doing things in your life to make it a life that you want to live and can love.  One day you will suddenly realize that your life is wonderful and that the bad break up is now a think in your past and nothing more.  As for who would be right for you, simply don't settle for anyone less than what you really want.  The right person will love you for who you are and make you feel special and they will be an addition to your already wonderful life and not someone who pulls you down and interferes with what you've created.  It will be someone you can give your heart to fully without fear and the will do the same for you.