why my friends never understand me and they leave me alone in life as i m completely honest to them?
364764
do not get entangled in emotions.its good that you try to help your friend,keep this habbit when ever possible and get new friends,donot expect much. but friendship is not 50:50 partenership, it is 60 :40,give 60% ,expect ,its only thing 40%.many times you will get  nothing ,do not think much in it.have self confidence.
240665
You cant tell your friends what to do. what you have to do is either just let them be who they are now, and hope they will eventually go back to normal. Until then, you keep doing your own thing and being your own person!! more props to you for being urself, that is a hard thing to do.  If they dont come around, find some other friends that are themselves, then you all can have fun! meeting new people is fun anyway! good luck!
307445
I might be wrong, but I believe that the problem is that you are trying to behave the way everyone wants you to. What I am about to say is such a cliche, but nevertheless true: just be yourself. If those people don't hang out with you anymore, than they haven't been very good frineds to begin with. You are better off without them. \nAnd the fact that you are lonely is not necessarily related to the fact that you are alone. You can also be lonely in the mids of a crowd. Hope I gave you some food for thought........
1078129
I think thats something we all want to know.  I have the same problem.  I think their not worthy of being your friend though.  Just tell him/her how you feel.  Good-Luck!!
157912
I don't know.  Maybe they're intimidated by your syntax and spelling, but as you never have a chance to meet them except over the Internet, you haven't yet had an opportunity to show them what an eloquent and thoughtful guy you really are.
818918
Sounds like there is alot more to the problem then u r saying but i can understand u not wanting to go into it. I have a problem with trust and i tend only to befriend my family i have no friends either but choose not to cause down the track they will only stab u in the back. Good luck.
16559
Don't deal with it.. Get a new friend.. If they think that you are jelious then they are really not a friend at all.
670001
thats not something someone can answer for you, you need to try to do things that make you happy, and be around your friends, eventually you will be able to let them go, just know they are always with you....
677317
Based on the lack of information you've provided, it's impossible to offer you any insight into why life is so hard for you. As for taking insults and mockery from both your white and black friends, this is driven by their own insecurities in who they are and possibly even they're jealousy of who you are. You should just be yourself with respect to that. As for making life not so hard, I would be better able to give you advice and suggestion if I knew more about your circumstances at present.
322031
Everyone has their flaws.. I have two friends like yours too, and they're my best buddies... Sometimes, both of them are there for me, sometimes it's just one of them, and sometimes neither.\n\nWhen neither are they for me, it's time i question their loyalty. But then i realised that maybe they just aren't comfortable dealing with the problem i have.. because they are clueless of what to say. sometimes they have other bigger priorities, like family... I dun think we can expect our friends to be there for us the 24/7\n\nMaybe you should spread out and find other friends.. to help you deal with different situations. we can't hold on just to several people.
127430
In order to have a friend you must first BE a friend.  Never expect anything from your friends.  Thats just not cool.  You could wind up loosing them.  Take a look inside yourself to discover why you may be doing this.  You might be insecure w/in your own being.  Once you become secure w/ yourself, you will not expect anything from your friends but truth and honesty.  And you will end up giving them so much more.
792338
What? Of course its not wrong to be kind/honest/friendly/caring! Its part of being human to do this. If you don't ever, you are a psycho. If you do it all the time, you are Ghandi or something and people should build statues to you.Without those four things, society would fall apart. Horrible and ugly? I hope your friends are just kidding. Besides, no one should tell someone else how to live their life. You are you. If that you is a good person, so much the better. Too bad your current friends are so weird and mean.\n\nSomeone who merely talked about those four things might get boring after a while. Someone who acts on them never will. Keep it up!
145531
Try to trust your true self, and also your friends too, you will find satisfaction, It is only because you yourself hide some part of your frankness from your friends so you feel dissatisfied.
146933
Just be yourself and don't worry about ignorant people who think they are better than you. These people have to degrade you to make themselves feel better. Let them call you names, joke about how you function in the world, and laugh at your personality,etc., it's just their way of turning the spotlight away from themselves because they are afraid if you look too closely at "them", you may find a few flaws. If they would turn on their brights, they would realize everyone is different; has bad points and good points; and acceptance brings people closer. Maybe they are just sooooo unhappy, they want to drag you down to their dungeon to suffer with them. Try extending an olive branch or making a peace offering, and if that does not work, forget about them, do your own thing, and sooo politely tell them to kiss your arse.   \nP.S.  I am a Redneck, shhhhhh....don't tell anybody!!(:
966189
Human beings are wired to seek acceptance from others.  It is not quite so simple, but since we are social animals evolution has put social wiring into our brains so we can get along and improve survival for the species.  Read "Social Intellgence" by Daniel Goleman for more about this.\n\nThe problems that you discuss are not just an abstract question about acceptance from others and so are not so easy to answer.  There could be many things about your particular life, family, friends and genes that could be involved.  Sometimes people play with others trying to control them by withholding their acceptance.  Many people who have not gotten out on their own or grown up and detached and gotten a more objective perspective of life can be caught up by dishonest or manipulative people.\n\nI would give yourself from time to grow up, and forgive yourself for not being perfect.  Trust yourself, from your post you sound senstive and intelligent, so as you go forth in life look for those people you seem to connect with and let go of people who want to manipulate or use you for some reason.\n\nSometimes it is hard to find out the truth about one's self, so it might be useful for you to either find a good friend and talk intimately if you can trust them, or to get some counseling.  Ultimately you will want to move into a place where you trust your own self, your gut and have the strength and confidence to be yourself ... don't worry, it will happen.\n\nIf you think you are really depressed or sick you should see a doctor, but remember that in many ways doctors are still in the early days of really understanding this kind of thing, so be careful and do not do anything you do not feel comfortable with or do not understand\n\nThat's my advice.
381613
You seem like a very nice person. At some point, you have to quit letting them treat you like dirt. It could be because somehow you value or long for their friendship. Make them see things from your point of view for once. Some people are just mean, and they do not consider the feelings of others.But, some of these excuses (although they seem lame to you) could be for real. If the same person is doing this over and over ( 3 is my magic number), drop them like a hot potato. Not everyone is like that.
826357
Wow, you sound a lot like me.\n\nI have problems trusting people too.  But sometimes... I can't stay quiet and I start trusting people.  But then I get afraid and I runaway from them.\n\nYou need to find a friend you could trust and try your best to not runaway from (if you are anything like me).  \n\nEmail me if you want and I could try to help.  It seems we have a lot in common.