How do you celebrate Mother's day for both sides of you and your spouse's family, without leaving 1 side out?
369193
Move far away from both of them and send each flowers for Mother's day.
580540
I am convinced that all days are special days for honoring our mothers.  I find it ridiculous that some people tend to forget all about their mothers but still think that showing up with chocolates or a dinner invitation on Mothers day is a big thing.  \nI'll continue to honor my mom everyday, and I would urge you to do the same. (in case you are one of those...!)
94173
block their #s from your phone. write to your in laws (return reciept) and tell them point blank: this is MY husband NOT your little boy. you've done all the raising of MY HUSBAND that you will ever do. mother in law, if you have a husband then HE needs to provide for you. MY HUSBAND does not need to provide anything for you. that's YOUR husband's job. and to sis: do you have husband? no. then you are your PARENTS responibility. go get a life i got mine. and tell your husband to get a SPINE and use it. he chose you not his sister.
161711
Whatever you feel comfortable with.  I tried to call my inlaws mom/dad, but it didn't fit.  I didn't "feel it".  And I felt odd when my parents and his parents were at the same place and I'm calling my father in-law dad when my father was there.  I just phased it out and now I call them by their first names.  It's the same way with my hubby.  He calls my parents by their first names.  Although,when we give them gifts or cards it's addressed mom/dad from us.
860975
Ooo, the fun of managing etiquette at "split family wedding" time. Points to you and your parents for keeping things civil, even friendly, up until now! Many people don't manage it.\n\nSo what can your mom give that won't upset that great situation?\n\nNothing sentimental, unless it involves both of them - for example, a beautiful frame for a photo of the new bride and groom, to be displayed prominently, with a note that says, "May you build many happy memories together." Ditto for a really nice photo album - especially if you already have photos of them together that you can put on the cover, or inside.\n\nUm, lamp, passing torch... you know them all better than I do, but see, it isn't up to your Mom to pass the torch to her successor... unless all three of them already have some sort of in joke to that effect, one you know they ALL find amusing, I'd pass on that.\n\nNext choice -- see what they've registered for and pick something from the list. Hard to get in trouble, unless they're registered at a lingerie shop. Hard to misinterpret a set of matching serving spoons or a vase, especially if they've chosen it for the registry.\n\nNext -- a set of goblets or glasses, etched with his first initial, and hers. Also something your mom and you could do at home (craft stores have kits - practice on glasses from a thrift store until you're ready to do the gift glasses - it's easy to do).\n\nGood luck!
312949
If she has grandchildren get a t shirt and material paints and have them leave handprints with their names on them. \n\nMake up a scrapbook with photographs of your childhood up through your adulthood. If you have any brothers or sisters do the same with their pictures \n\nOR you can even have a dvd personalized with the photos going from birth up to current. \n\nAt that age, they love the memories and the happy times. \n\nHave a nice dinner for her with roses and a nice cake. \n\nMake the day extra special for her. Do some chores for her. Make her queen for the day. :)\n\nOh Yes, Happy Birthday to your mother. :) \n\nFrom Michelle and her kitty Gunther. :)
1090425
You and your husband will have to make a real effort on this one, and be the bigger people so to speak.  I don't think it's normal for a mother to act like that towards her son and his fiancee, now his wife.  Something is definitely wrong with her mentally.  Just remember that you can choose your friends, but not your family.  I think you and your hubby will have to speak with his mother about the wedding thing, just to get past it and clear the air.  She needs to know how it made you feel to be let down on your Big Day.  You can choose to forgive her or forget it, but you have to be able to move past what's happened in the past.  I don't really have any big words of wisdom other than to take the high road and don't play into her games.  Sometimes you gotta call a Spade a Spade!  No matter how bad she treats you, turn your cheek and be extremely nice back to her.... it gets them every time!
929616
Try to avoid leading questions...that make the family think you want them to answer a certain way. You want to make sure all families feel included in this activity. Maybe some fill in the blanks, that way it keeps it simple. \n\nIn December, our family celebrates ____________________. We like to eat _____________________ and play _________________ as part of the celebration. We share our celebration with these people: ____________________________________________ ____________________________________________. We help others celebrate  when we _____________________________. \nWe celebrate by giving each other _______________________ to show our love and joy. \n\nThere's a start for you. Have fun!
1082057
every day just remember how much you love your husband and his child. that helps alot
1124800
GIVE HER SPACE ..AND MAKE PLANS TO GO OUT AS A FAMILY AND ONLY YOU AND HER AND IF YOU HAVE KIDS REMEMBER IT NOT THE KIDS FAULT YOU ARE THE ADULT AND YOU NEED TO OPEN UP ...MAKE HER FEEL YOUR THERE IT WILL BE HARD BUT HEY ...THAT HOW YOU START THE BOND ....................AND YES SHE IS PART OF YOUR HUSBAND LIFE SO ...MAKE THEM BOND ALSO SO SHE WONT FEEL YOUR IN THE MIDDLE OF THEM....LET THEM HAVE QUALITY TIME...ALSO...SO IF SHE IS HOME SICK PLAN TO DO THINGS OKAY..AND BE A MOTHER TOOO...OKAY..SHE IS A DAUGHTER BECAUSE SHE IS IN YOUR LIFE A HEY 3 WEEKS IS NOTHING ..SO HEY SHE NEEDS TO EAT SO HAVE CONVERSATIONS WITH HER ..OR SIT WITH HER AND TELL HER .....DO YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING AND ......HEY SHES JUST 11 ...SHE IS A CHILD..
979379
Just tell her exactly like you did here. I think most women would understand. They'd be honoured if you called them "mom" -- and I think that applies to m-inlaws, and stepmoms, but don't expect it, and understand it if you cannot. I cannot call my inlaws mom & dad -- and both my parents died young -- they're fine with it -- maybe disappointed deep inside -- but they understand as likewise, they felt the same about their inlaws...and so it goes.
77091
Forget the whole multiple-party thing.  Nothing says that each get-together has to be a bash.\n\nMy parents are divorced, and what I did until recent years was actually have three or more gatherings, but only one "party".  I'd tell my parents and my wife's parents that we're just going to have a quiet celebration at home the evening of our daughter's birthday, which would include only me, my wife, whichever daughter was having the birthday, and our other daughter.  We'd make the birthday girl's favorite dinner, have cake and ice cream, and open presents.  For that at-home dinner I'd hang some streamers, put out a birthday tablecloth and do the silly party hat thing.\n\nThen some other weekends or weeknights, we'd just go visit the other relatives individually or they'd come visit us.  My mom and dad both lived in town, but my inlaws lived a few hundred miles away, so it was expected and understood that we would catch up with everyone whenever we could, and just "stretch out" the birth DAY celebration into birthday season.  Often those secondary gatherings were just an afternoon together, or perhaps we'd stretch into dinner hour, or even go out to dinner together so no one had to cook.\n\nThis worked well for us for a few reasons.  It took the pressure off anyone to have to get along all together at one celebration.  Also, my daughters are born less than a month apart, so sometimes with one relative (especially the out-of-town inlaws) we'd just do one celebration for both girls during the same visit roughly midway between the actual birthdays.  This way I figured my daughters still recognized they were loved by everyone, and I always made sure to emphasise the importance of the actual day with the smaller family dinner at home on the actual birth DAY.  \n\nThis also meant that we didn't bother with a cake or other festivity paraphernalia for any of the "secondary" celebrations.  And that's really what those were, too; they were truly "secondary" celebrations.  Since the small-family dinner thing on the actual day was primary, everyone else was on an equal secondary status so there was no worry as to preferential treatment as to which grandparent got to visit on the actual day -- none of them did.  Usually all three sets would call on the actual day to wish happy birthday, but all understood their chance for in-person celebrating would happen another day.   I should note that I set the tone for birthdays early on with the first birthday of my oldest daughter, so I never had to adjust anyone's expectations, this is just how it has always been.\n\nMy father passed on a couple years ago, and now I'm divorced with custody of my daughters, so I follow the same formula now, except there are more "secondary" birthday gatherings, and her mom and I have to trade every other year as to who has the girls on the evening of their birthdays.\n\nThe only exception to the single primary "party", multiple secondary "gathering" rule has been years where one of my daughters has decided they wanted to have a big party with all of their friends.  In those cases, we still had the single primary "party" as a family, but then we also had another party with her and all her friends.  \n\nFor example, this year, my youngest's birthday was on a Friday, and so that evening she and her sister and I had our "primary" party that evening.  Then on Saturday afternoon I had rented out a room at a local arcade center and invited her scout troop and the girls from her class, and did the party thing there.\n\nThe result for me is that we might be celebrating continuously for a while, but none of the little parties individually has nearly as much stress as if I'd tried to do one big huge humungous party while somehow trying to simultaneously manage duties as party host, family political mediator and day care dir
186885
Hey thats terrible that she is upset on mothers day. Could you get her flowers and cook her a meal. Get out the family photos and sit down with box of chocotates. Go over all the funny things and have a great old laf and remember the good old days.  And most of all remind her that she is the best mother in the whole world
633139
although I am a mother, I also have a mother!  I will go and visit her and take her a plant and a card, give her a kiss and tell her thanks for being such a wonderful mom!  I just don't believe so much in all of these special days for things.  Why focus on one day.  My daughter is young and she tells me all the time what a great mother I am, or brings me cards that she made me, or makes me gifts.  What I really want for mothers day is to know that I'm loved all year round...not just on a certain day but for all the years to come. :)  We should never wait for a certain day to let someone so special know how much we love them.
85650
Take yourself out and do someting that you dont do often for yourself, massage, tan, manicure whatever will make you feel GREAT, splurge on a new outfit that screams "I'M A ANIMAL, BABY!".  I also suggest if your Mom's really a special lady, take her out or do someting wonderful for her.   Valentines Day doenst have to be just for couples..It's a day for love.
159858
you know what is best for you. your mother might be a pain in the a** how ever she just lost some one close to her and she needs you and your family more than you know. for now think of her for a little while then you can do what is best for you. even though we all know how mother in laws can be you can do it hang in there heath.
858206
I WISH I COULD HAVE MY MOMS B-DAY AGAIN SHE DIED IN 98 SHE WAS 42 SO YOU NEED TO SHOW HER AS MUCH AS YOU CAN THAT YOU LOVE HER \n\nYOU CAN JUST SPEND TIME WITH HER AND GO OUT SOME WHERE LIKE THE ZOO OR THE PARK AND HAVE A PICNIC JUST SHOW HER A GOOD TIME MOMS WILL LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO BUT PLEASE TELL YOU MOM HAPPY B-DAY FOR ME \nYOU COULD ALSO TAKE HER TO THE MOVIES