ok, been dateing a guy for 4 days and he is already obsessive and trying to contrl me,what should I do?
369438
RUN!! Trust me, I've been there, I dated a guy for 2 years who was like that and it was a huge mistake on my part. But I let him control me to the point that I wouldn't even leave him when he told me not to. Don't get in that situation. You'll be very miserable. I'm now with a wonderful guy who I'm getting married to in a couple of months. So great guys really do exist, so you don't have to put up with jerks!
355338
He sounds like a nut case. Are you enjoying the roller-coaster ride or is it time to get off? Try to find somebody normal to spend time with and you'll recognize the difference.
805555
Well, everyone has some obsessions, and since you have a mild case he can probably relate to it in some ways. I'd start out with light hearted comments "Oh, I'm just obsessive" as sort of an icebreaker and then you can tell him more about it. Just reiterate that you don't feel it controls your life, though it does affect it some.  If he asks questions you may want to point out examples of your past obsessive behavior - so that he can better understand how it affects you and potentially your relationship.
113581
He is crazy about you.  He thinks you are the hottest chick he has ever seen and if you catch him checking you out he will go dive off the roof.  serious\n\nBe bold.  Stop him or something.  Dis him, "accidentally" touch him.  Ask him to change your lightbulb.  Maybe he just needs a little encouragement from you.
985711
Well it's only been 3 weeks and he has made it quite clear that he wants to go slow, and he's explained why.  If this is not good enough for you then forget the relationship.  Otherwise just relax and let things take their course.
289298
probably he is used to these stuff that you ask him to do for you. make him miss you ;) by keeping away from him for the meantime..
528681
Oh bad mistake, let him call you. But now that you called, just wait for him, you dont want to see stalker like or obsessive.
1067090
stay away from this guy otherwise he could force you to go alot farther then u want to, he seems like a person who would do date rape, be careful
38457
Yeah, I guess he's a possesive guy - be careful with that, he may not be the guy of your dreams...after all, a relationship is based on trust. Think again.
14486
If he has additional signs of commitmentphobia, dump him yesterday.  If he arrives awfully late to meetings with all people and has no other signs of commitmentphobia, start arriving 2 hours late to your dates with him or come on time with an interesting book and enjoy your boyfriend!\nLogan\n(For a list of the usual signs of male commitmentphobia, check the web or buy "Men Who Can't Love".)
1075381
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
99245
From the very core of my being....\n\nRUN LIKE THE DEVIL HIMSELF IS CHASING YOU DOWN. Cut ALL communication, don't fall prey to that "but it's the strongest pull I've ever experienced, it's different with us" bu11shit !\n\nBottom line is this, he has problems, not at home, but within himself, and is looking for something to distract him from his feelings of worthless-ness... \n\nBelieve me.... There is NO WHERE stable and good you will find with this guy...\n\nYou've been warned, to the best of my ability... \nGood luck !
670233
he's using you...\n...\n\nhere's his mentality....\n... since you went to his house on the first date\nand let him grop all over you, he thinks you're easy...\n... i don't wanna know if you actually did give him\nhead or not.. but you've made enough mistakes...\n\n... your best advice is to leave him...\nBUT... if you think you have something really special\ngoing on, then here's the best choice..\n\nMAKE HIM WORK FOR IT...\n... little things like breaking off a date because\n'an unexpected incident at work..' or something like that..\n...\nif he gets mad and frustrated.. or over reacts,\nthen i suggest you leave...\n.. \nif he understands and asks for a date convenient for you,\nthen he's a keeper...\n\n....\nthe most important thing for you now...\nis to REDEFINE YOURSELF...\n.. he's probably got you tagged.. "Easy-to-get-some girl"\n\nyou've got to make him work for you... it's not too late..\n\ngodspeed
164072
EITHER HE IS SCARED OR HE DIDNT MEAN IT....THIS GUY I KNOW HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I KNOW THAT HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH HE'S JUST NOT READY FOR THE COMMITMENT. SO I'M JUST GIVING HIM A BREAK UNTIL HE CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS...ANOTHER THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND FIND OUT HOW HE FEELS BECAUSE THERE IS NO SINCE FOR YOU TO KEEP WASTING YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO CANT MAKE UP HIS MIND..JUST GET IT ALL OUT IN THE OPEN SO THAT YOU KNOW WHETHER TO MOVE ON OR NOT
429443
That depends on how long you have been seeing this person. Most people only "freak out" when they feel like someone close to them has either been hiding something, or else outright lying about something. In any case, the best move is to be up front about it. The more time that passes that you withold this information, the less likely he is to respond to it in a calm and rational manner - and thus the less likely your relationship will survive.
454147
He sounds a little scary to me. You definately should not call him, he sounds like the type of guy who will turn out to be a stalker.\nIt's much better to be with a man who will give you some space and not leave 4 messages in two days. If you didn't call him back after the first message he should not have called you again.\nFor your own sanity and safety, find a man who isn't so desperate. At some point, this behavior he has shown will drive you crazy if you pursue this relationship.\nGood luck.
166141
I would definitely not go out with him, because a)  he's afraid to be commmited.  Really, why be with someone who will dump you in 3 weeks or less? b)He thinks he is better than you- why should someone like him go out with someone like you? *please, I'm not trying to offend you* c)he's not even sure if he really likes you.  Come on, why else would he keep it a secret? d) he's afraid of what his friends/coworkers/parents might think.  If he's afraid of what they might think, chances are he's easily persuaded by others and doesn't even trust himself(or his decisions), which will make it hard for you to trust him. e) he's using you! who says he doesn't have another girlfriend and that's the real reason he doesn't want anyone to know?  Don't let yourself be used!