I am a high school girl basketball player but i am very shy ,quiet and i get teased easily?What should i do?
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Ok well...I think as long as you try to get over your shyness and whatnot, youll make it. As far as making friends, maybe...are you interested in other things besides basketball? Like, things you could do with other people? Maybe if your school has other clubs or groups or whatever you could join one you like to meet people. Keep your head up and smile at people. Thats a great way to make people feel more comfortable around you. If you always look at the floor and just sort of sit there, its not too encouraging for them you dig? I dunno, maybe ask people to play basketball with you somewhere outside of school?\n\nAs for your getting sad when people talk about you...Eh, dont worry about it. Its just a normal part of High School. Everyone gets talked about at one point or another. Its really nothing to get worked up over believe me. Just do your best to smile and be nice to everyone. When people talk to you, dont give like...one word answers and then look away. Do your best to be friendly and people will most likely return it. I think thats pretty much all the advice I can give you. But if you need more help, feel totally free to contact me and ask. Without bragging too much, I'm very good at helping people with these kinds of problems. So, good luck to you!\n\n\nPeace
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i am a cheerleader and i stutter. i thought that i wouldn't make the team but, now i am head cheerleader. no one will make fun of you. if they do then laugh along. make a joke out of it. its not a bad thing. Your just unique like me! lol. try not to let people know you get angry when they say things about it. they will stop and then you'll just be awesome and you'll fit in perfect.
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First of all, it's great that you're out there playing every day after school... you'll never get better by sitting at home playing NBA 2K6 or whatever the latest version is.\n\nThis might not be easy (but few things that are worthwhile ARE), but ask the coach to show you some drills you can practice to improve the weaker aspects of your game... \n\nBelieve me, it is in the coach's best interest to help you improve, since you'll eventually be playing for him (we hope!).\n\nIf you're an exceptional rebounder, that's great! There are way too many players out there who don't play a good all around game because shooting is THEIR only skill. And they're a dime-a-dozen. \n\nCoaches consider good rebounders to be worth their weight in GOLD!  Forget Dennis Rodman, ever hear of a guy named Bill Russell?\n\nIf shooting is the weakest part of your game, then practice your shooting...\n\nBut don't worry about practicing 20 foot shots... if you're going to be a center, you need to be a proficient offensive player around the basket. Ask the coach to show you the proper way to shoot turn around jump shots in the low post position. \n\nAlso, work on being able to shoot with EITHER hand. If you can shoot with either hand while you're in close to the basket, it'll be a HUGE advantage for you in game situations. This way, you'll be able to shoot no matter where you are in relation to the basket (sometimes, you'll find that the only way to get a shot off is by shooting with your "off" hand, especially under the basket, in traffic). This will also enable you to get a lot of shots off without having them blocked.\n\nBut as I said, don't worry about outside shots, you can practice those once you get proficient around the basket (and they'll come easier once you develop a bit of a touch).\nBut DO practice free throw shooting. If you become a good offensive player around the basket, you'll find yourself at the free throw line more than you think. Especially if you're a good offensive rebounder!\n\nAsk the JV coach to work out with you one time after school...he'll be able to tell what your strong and weak points are, and then give you some exercises to improve your weak points. \n\nThe earlier post was also correct about upper-body strength. You will NEED this big time as a center.... the coach can put you on a weight workout routine (probably every OTHER day, not every day), but make sure you stick to what he tells you, and don't cheat, because you'll (all together now, kids) ONLY BE HURTING YOURSELF .... very good, kids.\n\nAlso, DO run a lot... but rather than running a mile every day (not that there's anything wrong with that), work on sprints.  \n\nBasketball is not a marathon, it's a game of starting and stopping. And it's the starting and stopping that tends to wear you out, especially if you're a big guy. \n\nIn practice, basketball teams run what they call 'suicide' drills... in this drill, which is a running drill, the players line up along one of the end lines... they then do the following:\n\n1) run and touch the nearest foul line (or a spot on the floor even with the foul line, this way the players can be spread out more)\n\n2) Run back and touch the starting line (end line)\n\n3) Run and touch the mid-court line\n\n4) Run back and touch the starting line\n\n5) Run and touch the foul line at the other half of the court\n\n6) Run back to and touch the starting line\n\n7) Run to the far baseline on the other end of the court\n\n8) Run back and cross the starting line.\n\nIf you don't have an actual court available, you can do this in your yard, or in the street (make sure there's not too much traffic of course!).\n\nThe distances to these points are: 15 feet to the nearest foul line, 47 feet to the mid-court line, 79 feet to the foul line furthest from the starting line, and 94 feet to the other end line.  And if
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i know its hard baby girl..but you have got to get a backbone and love you for you...YOU MUST ignore everyone else and be happy with yourself..i've been in your shoes before ..wondering why everyone is popular except me...or what made me "lame"........or how come couldn't be like everyone else....but I had to learn that everyone is DIFFERENT your supposed to be DIFFERENT.....\n\nTrust me NOBODY is going to give two shits what those popular kids did when they were in high school, once you leave that little world you know as middle school and high school you will see that there is FAR MORE in this world to worry about ..(trust me).....IF YOU TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE ELSE IN THIS WORLD..THEN YOU WILL END UP HATING YOURSELF...WHY?...BECAUSE YOU CANT PLEASE EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD......one way or another someone is going to have something to say about you...and you have just got to learn how to keep your head up and tell them that hey..if they dont like YOU FOR YOU..they can just buzz off......\n\nDONT EVER TRY TO CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANYBODY..BECAUSE IN THE END YOU ONLY NEED TO PLEASE YOU....IF YOU RESPECT YOURSELF,AND  HAVE DIGNITY, AND DON'T TAKE ANY BULL SH** FROM ANYONE..THEN PEOPLE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO RESPECT YOU OR LEAVE YOU ALONE......\n\nyou want to be so "perfect" in everybody else's eyes...but have you ever tried to be "perfect" in your own eyes first?.....please you, be happy with you FIRST....YOU COME FIRST,,,,,so pick up your backbone put it back in your BACK and walk like you have some pride young lady.........YOU are UNIQUE ..\n\nthink like this..YOU DONT NEED TO PLEASE ANYONE, THEY NEED TO PLEASE YOU!.....
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Hang out where the shy girls hang out.  They will be glad to know you, too.  Quiet places, coffee shops, book shops, the corner of the cafeteria.  Good luck
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yea hun i understand your pain.. im a cheerleader to0 but im also number 8 in my class and am very successfull in other sports.  Im not a bitch to you unless your a bitch to me and if your nice to me i'll be nice to you.  Im also not a slut, i dont date from guy to guy, and am a virgin. I dont think it's fair when people say stuff like that but just dust it of, tell them to grow up, and stop carring what others think about you b/c once your out of highschool, you'll probably never see 99% of thoes people again.
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i bet people don't hate you..maybe you are not putting yourself out there enough...i know a lot of nice girls who are shy, so they would never talk to people, but once they started to open up they were awesome and we all hung out...way to be nice..that's the best thing ever, because girls these days, well, they are something...and keep up the hard work at school...try to be more social maybe? good luck
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Hey, I'm a girl, yet I can totally relate. My self confidense is always going up and down, and guys I like gived me mixed messeges, and people have told me I should go into modeling! So it has nothing to do with how you look. I would just try to build up your self confidence by focusing on all your sweet and attractive qualities. Eating right and exercising will also help you look and feel better about yourself.\nIf you are still in mid, or high school, then just be patient. Those are such awkward years, i graduated two years ago, believe me, it gets better after high school. Girls are more mature. Don't try to go after conceited b****s. They don't deserve you. Just be yourself and try to just build up a friendship with a girl that you want to get to know better. \nShe may start to want something more once she realizes how cool you really are. Some of my biggest crushes in high school were on average guys who were kind of dorky, but who were just really sweet and funny, and natural around me.
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There is really nothing wrong with you. Like you said, you are nice, smart and have a good sense of humor. Shyness is okay; guys do go for shy girls. Maybe you are just trying too hard. Take a break to rejuvenate your life. When people see the change in you, they will come to you like bees attracted to honey.
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You mean you are reserved, you have a bit of dignity, good manners?  What's the problem?  If you want to be popular, just be as much of a giggling, mindless idiot as all the other girls.  But if you want to retain your self-respect, stay as you are, and accept having a few close friends instead of a gaggle of geese!
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Sounds to me like you suffer from low self esteem.  You don't think you're good enough for other people to like you, so you are worried that they won't.  You are so obsessed with what they think of you, that you aren't even paying attention to them.  So, they probably won't like you...no one likes to be ignored when they are talking, which will only make your problem worse.\n\nIf you want to get comfortable with someone, you have to get to know them.  The best way to do this is to get them talking about themselves.   Listen to what they say.  Respond to them.\n\nNerves can be bad, but there is no magic pill that will fix what your problem is.  Only practice can help.  Don't worry about what the other person thinks about you. The worse that can happen is they won't be interested and you move on.  Try not to pressure yourself and try to relax and be yourself.  Girls aren't looking for un-nervous guys, we're looking for guys that pay attention to us.
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Hi! The most powerful weapon you have is your voice. Although you are afraid to speak up in class, I do encourage you to do so. I was the same way. I was even voted most shy in high school. However, through my service in the Air Force, they have you take "toastmasters" (or public speaking) courses. I fell in love with public speaking. I think the thing to remember is that many of your classmates will undoubtedly feel the same way you do about speaking. Go for it. But, if you choose not to, the best way to avoid being called on, is to sit up front, give the teacher great eye contact. Do not write notes, or keep your head down.  When he/she asks a question, do not avert your eyes, maintain direct eye contact, until he has called on someone (preferable not you). As an African American sister myself, let me tell you, I encourage you wholeheartedly to take a speaking course through your school. Good luck.
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I would suggest that you get involved in a school activity so that you can make new friends and get to feeling more confident in yourself. Find a positive group of people to be around so you won't be lonely and you'll be busy with the activities too.  I was shy and bashful at one time.  The drama club at school really helped me.  I see why that person is an ex-friend. Even if something happened and the friendship ended, that's no reason to make fun of you.   Hang in there and don't become like your ex-friend - making fun of people. You be the better person.
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First of all, you need the talent and the body. If you don't have that, you're almost screwed. Next comes the work ethic. If you have time, go practice dribble moves, shots (not just jump shots, but catch and shoot too), cuts, etc (all the fundamentals for basketball). If you don't have the time, find time. Then play against people who are better than you. Ask them for help too.
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
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I know where you are coming from. Find something that you are good at, and do it. If you are crap at everything, find something you WANT to be good at, and work your ass off until you are good at it. Being talented has a remarkable way of boosting your self-esteem. My personal suggestions... cooking, music, conversation. You also sound young. I don't mean that in a derogatory way, so please do not be offended. Awkwardness is the natural state of affairs for adolescents. It will pass.
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ok all you need to do is gain confidence i was the same for the last 3 years of highschool i have been pretty quit this year i am extremly loud. find somthing good about you self for exmple i have lost weight and now have a flat stomach maybe you have good abs or nice eye show what you have to your freinds. anthother thing to do is sart with people interest like sport or fashion" hey! i heard your playin gin the soccer fianal good luck hope you win"\n\ngood luk practise make perfect( hint: don't be rude to ppl)