What can my gf's ex husband do if we just stop taking the kids to him every other week?
361809
He is still their father.  Payment of child support is not a condition of visitation.  The odds are good that he won't do anything, but he could drag your g/f into family cort and ahve her compelled to bring them over.  If she refuses she could be held in contempt until complies.  She is looking at fines and possible jail time.  Rather than just stopping she should speak to him and ask if he has any objections.
959946
this is a tough one.  its hard to find your balance after a divorce.  do you think he wants you back or is he trying to maintain some kind of friendship?  i think you should just tell him.  if he severs contact with the kids then maybe thats not such a bad thing for them.  why should they have to deal with a sometimes dad who doesnt put them first?  if he is that immature then maybe they are better off.  it is hard to make decisions that may do harm on your kids especially when they are too young to truly understand.  my ex does the same thing.  i just limit the contact as much as possible.  also when he calls, you could just put one of the kids on the phone.  eventually he would get the point.  good luck.
984740
Do not by any means let them go w/ their father again is must be hard specially if the kids are asking to see him. I ve been thru the same thing he took my son away and at the time there was no court order so when i did call the police saying he didnt want to give me my one month old son back all they could do was stare at me and tell me there was nothing they could do since he was the father. He was very abusive and consumed drugs at the time but still nothing was done plz dont let them go for the saftey of your kids its hard i know but looking im pretty sure you will find whats just right and get the help you need
1153013
BUTT OUT!!!! \n\nHe is going to have a relationship with his ex FOREVER. Get over it now. His kids are most important. If you get mad then its because you are immature. Do not come between his children and ex, otherwise you'll also be an ex.
105005
Do they have children together?If so no.He will allways be a father and need to be in contact with her about the children.If no children are involved and they just talk to have something to laugh and giggle about,yes tell him it bothers you.\n\nSorry I thought you said ex wife not family.\nHow long were they maarried?I am divorced,was married for 12 years,and my ex stays in touch with my family,it's ok with me and her new husband.If they were married along time they probably feel he is a part of their family.Bonds grow with family during a marriage,and just because him and his spouse didnt get along,dont mean her family dislikes him
790496
you're his wife, now and given the past I would demand that they only talk when it involves their child and with you there.If he has a problem with that I would wonder what those two are REALLY talking about\nHe left you for her once,so beware, sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.\nI hate to tell you, cause it hurts, but in my opinion, he's clearly not over her. If I was in your shoes I would be angry and insecure as well.I won't tell you ,you should leave cause that's easier said than done, when you love some one. But at least talk to him.\n\nyou can't control what people do, but you can control what you let them do to you.
318320
You could try, but it would be up to the judge.  I think you'd probably need some pretty clear examples of how she is causing significant harm.  \n\nAnother avenue may be to get the custody agreement to stipulate that this girlfriend cannot be present.  The problem may be the court assuming you are a jealous ex-wife and not taking your concerns seriously.
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.
850911
If he is the biological father of your kids then get the miserable SOB back into court and apply for  child support and make sure you get it backdated too.
709223
You must let them both go. A friend had this happen to her also and they got together got married had two kids and now they are in divorce court. She never got over the fact that her g/f did this to her, but now she sees that she mulled way too long over this. I would not be friends with her anymore as you may never be able to trust her.
522140
Unless there are children involved get a RESTRAINING ORDER!!! If children are involved than set limits and use a court appointed mediator if you have to..
61941
I agree with Jayz wife. Hell no she shouldn't let the children be with her at her "new" boyfriends house. I believe the children shouldn't even meet him. She's prbably doing it to make you angry and do something so she'll gain full custody. Just play cool for now, cause she's the fool not you. That ain't right at all.
505191
I have been in almost the same situation. my bf got his ex gf pregnant while we were on a short break. I went back to him and now the child is almost 3. The ex is CRAZY, wont leave us alone. We have to pay 127 a WEEK in child support, which we cant afford and havent been able to pay the whole 127 a week so my now husband will be going to jail fairly soon. To make matters worse the ex had another son 6 months ago, 10 days before my daughter was born. and is now claiming it is my husbands. SO all I can say IS LEAVE HIM. It will never end. You will be alot more happier without him. ' YOU DONT WANT DRAMA WITH HIS BABIES MAMA'.
990638
You would want to consult with your attorney, but that is almost certainly going to be governed by your specific divorce and custody agreements. I know my wife's agreements with her ex-husband prohibit either of them from moving more than some number of agreed upon miles from the other as long as my stepdaughter is still living with us.
412186
Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!
208241
well i really dont think he deserves you are his children the only reason he wants you is because she dumped him.dont be his second choice you should have been his only choice if he did it once there is a chance he will do it again and hurt you and the children again you deserve better.YOU STILL LOVE HIM BUT LOVE YOUR SELF AND THE KIDS MORE NOT TO TAKE HIM BACK
861667
I'm sure she could go to her attorney and file  a motion to change the terms of their agreement.  However, I would urge her to be cautious when it comes to the issue of having someone (a b/f) move in with her.  It's not healthy for the kids to get use to someone who may not always be around.  Have her make sure the relationship is going to last - marriage would be better.