To be an interesting hubby, what a guy must not do, and what must? 3 points each please.?
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The answer is to worry about being the best you, because you want to be the best you.  If you aren't interested in being your best, why should she settle for less than the best?  Read books, find things that interest you and learn about them and become good at doing them.  Increase your range of expertise.  Diversify your interests.  Work hard.  Stay in shape (I don't know how many guys get married and put on 50 pounds...I've heard of freshman fifteen, but it's unfair to the spouse, that the person he / she fell in love with / married feels that since they are tied together for better or worse, that he / she can allow better to change to worse...)  Basically, be an interesting person.  If you aren't an interesting person, why should somebody stay with you?  Do not be an a-hole, do not take her for granted, do not cheat on / disrespect her.  Remind yourself that of the 3.25 BILLION women on the planet, this is the one you have chosen to throw your lot in with.  And of even greater importance is to keep in your mind that of the 3.25 BILLION men she COULD have chosen, she chose YOU!  Work...Work hard... know that it won't always be easy.  There are always ebbs and flows to all aspects of life, but it has been my experience that whatever people look for, they find.  If you look for a reason to be unhappy with her, you will find it and the peaks won't be as high and the valleys will be even lower.  The opposite is true too though.  Look for the good things.  Know God.  Lean on Him.  He can handle your burdens a lot easier than she can or than you can for yourself.  Give of yourself freely and without reservation or expectations of reciprocation.  know LOVE.  Good luck
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There are no particular sexiest thing to a man,it's depends on each individual,but something you must remember that keep some "secret"from him,keep on "changing" for him,keep on explore "his needs"on him until you sick and tired ,then you use my "three steps" for the other "your man."
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Mr curious is boring!!!\nThere is nothing wrong with spicing it up. Marriage is something you have to work on, every single day, and part of marriage is intimacy and sex. I have been married for 2 years and find that doing something special and out of the ordinary sometimes can do wonders for your relationship. I like to find out when he is coming home and then leave him a note at the front door directing him to the next note in another room and so on and so on. Put a little message on each note telling him to remove an item of clothing and then go to the next note. By the end of the trail, he will find you wearing something sexy with candles and massage oil. Something he will keep thinking of for weeks.
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Melissa, what does your man really like to do in his free time, besides dating you? I mean think of things he talks about and does as a hobby? I know that in one birthday it was cool as hell when my lady, at the time, surprised me by gathering my buddies and family in her apartment Club House for a surprise party. She pulled off the whole thing famiously. Called all the people, organized who was brining what, organized the decorations and kept me in the dark for 3 months. I mean that kicks ass. \n\nOn another front, I know that if you man likes doing a particular sport of hobby you could take part in it with him. I would love for my now wife to get on the back of my Honda crusier and ride with me. She has an honest fear of being on motorcycles so I can understand why she does not. However, the point being is there something that your man does which you could share which possibly you have not at this point? In either case it may just mean the world to him!\n\nPeace and good luck on the ideas.
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a casual guy, who isn't afraid to have fun.\n(if you're honest, and a great sense of humour that helps too..)
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You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
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Prepare him for it let him know you want to try something new. We like new things. Don't go crazy at first and take it as far as you want. Truth is he'll probably like it that you can get dirty.
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Hey but shit !!   ....whats a guy to do if he IS uptight and serious ?\n\nOK ...I'll try and lighten up and won't even put in 6 links to useful; sites and quote Wikipedia and Google......but its not gonna be easy !!
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good looking\nunderstanding\ngood cook\nintelligent\nworking\ncreative\nloving nature\ncompromising\naccept things easily\nrespect his other relations like parents, siblings, Friends\nobeying\ndon't have habit of asking the reason\nalways yes & never no
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I remember my first date with my extremely shy now-husband ten years ago. We had been friends for probably six months, and we both knew *something* was there but were both so hesitant. All of our friends but us were going out of town one weekend, so we agreed to see a movie together and afterward grab a couple of beers. There was a simultaneous *move* in there somewhere. So my advice is to take it really slow and add some mood relaxers to the mix. If you feel confident enough, go for it. Even now with my husband, if I waited on him to do anything, I'd be sitting an eternity. If you're a strong woman, take control!
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A typical macho man married a typical good-looking lady. After the wedding, he laid down the following rules: \n\n"I'll be home when I want, if I want and at what time I want... and I don't expect any hassle from you. I expect a great dinner to be on the table, unless I tell you otherwise. I'll go hunting, fishing, boozin', and card-playing when I want with my old buddies and don't you give me a hard time about it. Those are my rules. Any comments?" \n\nHis new bride said, "No, that's fine with me. Just understand that I have rules too. There will be sex here at seven o'clock every night - whether you're here or not..."
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Why involve your husband?  Handle it yourself.  Tell these guys that you are not interested in adultery and that if you change your mind you will let them know, and until that time arrives please keep your come-ons to yourself.  That tells them in no uncertain terms that you don't want their attention.  If they persist, then call them out on it at the dinner table.  Things will change pretty quick right then and there.
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Buy him some hand cuffs for a start and ask him to use them on you. As he gets more excited by it encourage him. If he begins to get more excited and interested, let him know how much you enjoyed it when he (insert action here). Let him think he is the one coming up with the ideas, and make suggestions, "Would you like to .... " With my husband, it was a small bit at a time at first, but after a bit, he came round big time.
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Think specifically what that guy "did" for you.  Frame what he did into words, and then tell your husband that you want him to do those things for you.  Don't say you got the ideas from thinking of another guy.  Do tell him this with an attitude of love and playfulness.  It will probably excite him to hear you state your desires assertively.
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most important....a great sense of humor..I can't handle a guy who doesn't have one..\n\nalso, I like guys who are witty...smart...I don't mean book smart, though that's ok too, I mean someone who can figure things out..that I don't have to explain everything to..someone who loves his family...is good to his friends, loves animals..someone who believes in being faithful...compassionate, loving...
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be yourself. a little flirty and fun, but let him know that you can be sereious. a perfect combo.
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just being straight up would be best.\n\ni have to read between the lines, not many details...\n\nit seems like there could be several causes... hang-ups, priorities, miscommunication, not being in the mood, fear of the unknown, performance anxiety, him not knowing your boundaries...\n\ntell your hubby how you feel, and let him know what you had in mind, and let him know you REALLY want it, there will be no pressure, no judgment, and let him know he can't screw it up... even if it doesn't work right the first time, you want to try something new for excitement.