girls i need your advice about something!!! its reallly personal......?
375137
Thanks but what is your question????
777178
Well, I think you are wrong.  I tend to have the same problems.  You are too serious even in your approach.  Girls just wanta have fun.  If you approach a girl with such a straight forward attitude you'll scare her off.  Big Yes on the self-confidence though.  You need to come across like you're fun to hang out with and you're looking for others that are fun to hang out with.  Friendship first buddy.  Ask general open-ended questions then listen.  School, work, hobbies, pets, etc  LISTEN to what she is saying and don't let your mind wander.  I know what happens.  She's talking and your thinking, oh crap what do I say, she's pretty, does she like me, how do I look, how can I be funny, what do I say, oh crap... If you're not listening then you can not 'join' the conversation.  The more you talk the more you both will loosen up.
990429
ask a mutual friend to go to this girl and ask her what she thinks about you without her knowing that you sent her to ask.  Just let her know you do not want to hurt her feelings.  Just by having someone else ask for you it will not ruin your relationship with her if she is not interested in you.
630674
I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
661455
you sound like a sweet person, and i have been where you are, i just told him i needed some space, that i had alot on my mind, nothing personal, but there are some things you need to work through. that seemed to work! oh yes tell him you really like him , but things are just going to fast. GOD BLESS and good luck:)
448108
You def. only have an idea of this girl..like that other person posted...def. meet her and talk to her alot more in person...its a whole other character face to face....you'll have to suck that up and get comfortable in person..otherwise..you have no relationship...
963163
I would tell her, and here's why.  It's a strain on you, and you should probably put a little distance between the two of you for your mental health.  Tell her you've developed feelings for her, it wasn't on purpose, and you don't want her to feel pressured, but because of this you need to put a little space between the two of you for a time while you refocus yourself.  Then be friendly, but cut your contact with her WAY down.  This does a couple of things.  It lets her know your thoughts, which is important in an honest friendship.  But it doesn't give her the instant upper hand she would get if you "confessed your love" then waited around for her to do something (and what would that be? dump the BF?  decide if she feels the same in return?), which almost always has a bad result for the confessor.  Treat your developing ardor as a personal weakness of your own, perhaps a slightly embarrassing one, and assure her you're going to get over it without bothering her, you just wanted to do her the courtesy of letting her know why you can't hang out with her so much.\n\nOnce you go into "recovery" phase (spending less time with her) it does two things.  It lets her know you aren't a lapdog, hanging around, waiting for whatever attention she'll give you.  It actually gives you the closest thing to the upper hand you can have.  She'll also see less of you, giving her the chance to figure out if she misses you a lot.  If she does, she should be the one to bring up that she wants to see more of you.  When she does this, you can say (be nice to her, always be very very nice) "that would be difficult for me without the chance to date you... I'm concerned my feelings are to strong."  Be kind of wistful.  Then give her more space.\n\nYou're trying to get her to come to you.  It's the only way you have a chance after a confession anyway, but it can be very successful if she likes and depends on you, but has been more or less taking you for granted.  It also gives you control over your life, which is always adviseable.  One more piece of advice?  Flirt with some other girls.  But don't overdo it, and never be mean to anyone.\n\nMake sense?  Good luck.
332911
Advice on a guy . . help . . .
793095
I think you should tell her, bring it up when you're doing the things you normally do with her to make it less awkward. Don't drop everything on her at once (meaning the L bomb,) but make your feelings known otherwise, hold her hand etc. Don't go all the way until you get a signal from her either loving what you're doing or running away.
566294
Why tell her that in the first place. If you know you can't just say the good part without leaving the bad one out, then don't say anything at all. I have seen girls do terrible things to themselves just because someone told them they were either ugly, or too fat, or too thin, or too busty, the best thing is to just leave that part out. Trust me
830529
sounds like a bunch of drama.  just confront your friend telling her how u feel.... but i donno how much thats gonna work.  this situation sounds like middle/high school stuff
1129185
how long have you known this person?  i'm assuming you're not in any sort of relationship with her.  i would wait until the both of you have established some sort of relationship.  but i think it's really very sweet if you told her that after some time, just not immediately or she may think you're being very desperate or stalkerish.  most all girls want to hear that sort of commitment though!
829734
Oh, kind of an embarrasing situation. I would first talk to my best friend about it. Have her pave the way and tell u if he fancies u or not. If u get a positive feedback, start by taking him out to a movie or something along with your friend, once things are cool, u guys can start the real dating
422097
hmmm... this is tough.. when my guy told me this.. i believed him because he treats me right..\ni know you've been a good b/f to her! because only someone who is really in love would ask for other ppl's help because they want to know what's best for their girl... i think you should take her somewhere nice.. then tell her :)\nbut take it slow, so she knows that you truly care\nhope this helps
250218
If you really care for your girl tell her.  But be gentle about it because you know how woman tend to think other wise when it comes to certain thinks.  I know cause I'm guilty of it too.  Let her know you care about her and you are not saying this to hurt her, you just fell that she should know so maybe she can talk to her roommate.
438920
Hey she has to understand that some people have their own oppion. But you should still have made sure that when you said it you need to be really nice about it. Some girls are more sensitive then others. i think you should chill a little and then just go up to her and say you didn't mean anyoffence. you didn't actually mean to hurt her. and that it does look ok. Even if you don't like it. It does involve some lying but at least someone does not hate you. I bet if you try that she will not be mad at you anymore. But whatever you do just try to realax!
1105934
Talk to her and tell her to just stop talking about them, To just go on and let them do their thing and if he has any feelings for her still then he will come back to her on his own.And if not then they are friends anyway and keep it at that.Make sure she knows that you are not into all the gossip and to find something different to talk about...like the guy she has a crush on.