What do you do if your boyfriend broke up with you then you find out that his mother pressured him to?
363485
Well first of all, his mother isn't the one controlling his feelings. \n\nIf you love him and really care for him then your best bet is to talk with him about whats going on. Ask him if he does care about you! \n\nDepending on your age and his age, its hard to say whether this will work or not because if you're young, it will be hard to see one another without the parents but if you're older... you can definitely still see each other, who's stopping you!? No one! Go with your heart and tell him to do the same. GOOD LUCK!
285139
If your boyfriend believes her over you, you should be happy to get rid of him!! For real send her a thank you card if she gets him to break up with you, just say it wasnt worth fighting for you could of just asked nicely and i would of handed him over along with his shot record from the dog shelter and his favorite collar.... if he picks her over you he wasnt worth it!
606920
it is partially what u want and partially who ur mother wants.but u cannot solely base ur opinion on ur mother's wants.i say that u shud be alone for as long as is required and think this through.what happened with me tho,is that i did this as well,i sat down in my room all alone for a while,but nothing came to me,i was still confused.but when i did realize what to do,i was in a taxi,and was not even realy thinking about it.it jus dawned on me what was best.hopefully u will discover soon as well,because u cannot simply think about ur family and freinds,u need to consider urself and the 2 guys involved.which one is better to you?which one is it u think of when u going through a tough time?or a happy time?who is it u think of before u go to bed or when u wake up?and aslo ask urself why u and ur ex broke up in the first place..because even if all ur answers indicate that he is supposedly the one for u,the reasons for ur break-up may be precisely the reasons why u shud not go back to him.
110825
there is a big possiblity that she would try her hardest to get him back. and as long as he is living there there will always be problems in your relationship.
764967
You might want to really consider a relationship with this person.  That he dated your mother, previously, and now that you are dating him, makes for situation in which he has to operate with some deception.  I wouldn't worry if he was straightforward with you but given that you suspect he lied to you and you haven't discussed this with him, you're relationship might be in trouble.  If you aren't able to communicate to him freely and he with you, then you will need to reconsider your relationship.  Is he lying to you?  Most likely he is, but you have to ask him yourself. Consider the state of your communications in your relationship and consider his answer to your suspicions.  It will tell.  If he comes clean then its ok.  If not, then you might want to consider other options before getting more involved.  Good luck, cheers!
323167
He is in the wrong in this situation. It is not your fault that your mom got in the middle of something an could not control her words. If he is mad at you for something as small as this then he is not worth it. Even if you do love him, he does not have the right to make you feel bad like this. just make sure that his cuz understands that it was not you. You also have to remember that you are a strong, beautiful woman and the he should be honored to even be friends with you! :)
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
118010
I was in a similar situation.... It was really weird but I cared about him so much. We finally went our seperate ways and I never did find out. I would not recommend confronting him though. Depending on how long you have been together, it's almost like a violation of trust. You just have to trust your instincts and do what feels right. \n\nGood Luck
980453
I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
345516
you need to leave him love. sorry but i was in the same position as you, but i was the ex. he went away and i knew what he was doin cause he admitted to me he had a baby with someone else, and i had dumped him. however, he kept coming round me BEGGING me to return to him. so you need to be careful bout what he is telling you and what he is telling her. you are worth more than that. dont put up with the insecurities you have over him. he will only make them worse. an in my opinion the last time my mum was wrong about something, was wen i hadnt told her the whold truth. your mum obviously dont like him, and she wants the best for you, even if it dont seem like it sometimes she does. trust. go and bond withyour baby. have a nice summer with no man pisin you off. okay. gudluck.
882316
The situation is that his mom is pressuring you to work things out, but she has no idea what needs to be worked out.  \n\nManaging his parents is his job.  At a minimum, he should tell her to back off and leave you alone.  IMHO, he should come completely clean when he talks to her.  If he won't do it, then you can do it for him.  \n\nBe prepared for her to blame you for his infidelity.
946427
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
882039
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
684231
Wow, what a tough one...\nI feel sorry for you. He has obviously been a victim of manipulation. She has stooped really low here. She realized that tactic would work on him, and she is playing it for all it is worth. He needs to stand up to her, and tell her that kind of logic isn't going to work anymore, if he really feels that way. He can reassure his daughter that just beacuse Mom, and Dad don't get along, it doesn't mean that the love they feel towards her, individually, has waned. She screwed up. Not him. If he wants to fix things between the two of them, there is nothing you can do, though. He needs to figure out what he wants. Unfortunately, you are in the wings right now. The best thing you can do, is be patient. He is confused, and needs time to get his mind straight. If he truely loves you, and you him, he should see that, and come back to you. Be supportive for him. He needs it....
268805
In a wierd way yes cuz your dating him, but at the same time no cuz you gotta respect his mother just like he does to yours. Find out y she yelled @ you.
570671
try to make him see what his mother is doing,try to keep her out of the way,if you know she is coming over you two go out,dont inform her of anything you two do,and let him understand that if she is going to interfear then your relationship is not going to work and he will need to step up to her give him the ultimatum does he want mamma or boobooo
987436
It sounds like he isnt very mature- you should talk to your mom and let you know how you feel. It is possible he twisted the story to make himself look better and that isnt right. I cant really say because one of my ex's used to do the same thing and my mother would never side with him unless she heard my side first. I'm her daughter and she wouldnt betray me like that. I think they both have issues. Talk to her.