you have been married for two yrs how many times can you forgive being cheated on?
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Never. If he doesn't love and respect me enough to remain faithful, then I don't want anything to do with him. \n\nA.H.
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cheating can always be forgiven if the cheater is truly sorry and you both really love each other and want things to work out. (so only 1 act of cheating)
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This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
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No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
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The lasting 'effects' of cheating are the possibilites of STDs, (lack of) respect and trust, and these represent HUGE barriers to most people who have to 'live' with the results of his/her cheating.  Very, very few innocent parties have the will, and the understanding of why they are willing to continue in such a relationship.  It takes real grace and forgiveness to move forward with them.  Sometimes this is the only reason why the other party will not do it again.  The overwhelming evidence on file, however, indicates that more than 50% will move on to another relationship, despite all of our efforts.  I lived 'in hope' for five years, and I never saw a complete repentance.  Instead of wondering, you have to prepare yourself for either possiblity, always holding out the hope that they will return to trust and respect...
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Truthfully, it comes down to a morals issue. Can you be with & stay with a man that has cheated on you? You need to ask yourself, Will he do it again? You have to be able to live with the decisions you make. If you think he's going to flake or not be there in 2 yrs, then you & your kids are better off not relying on him. He can still be in the kids lives, but you will need to step out & find another man who treats you the way you deserve.
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Under marriage & divorce - we can only assume you cheated.  It will probably go away in time...who knows how long...only you can say.  Hey, it happened for a reason...maybe he did something unkind to push you into it?  It may not have been all your fault?  \n\nDon't tell your hubby, that will only make matter worse and then he can bring it up years from now during an argument.  Confessing to him may make you feel better, but it will definately make him feel worse.  Short term it may work...long term it sucks.  \n\nThe good new is that the guilt will fade away a little more each day.  If you really need to share this with someone, then go to a church and share it with God.  Good luck.
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If cheating wasn't a factor of breaking up,go for the second time maybe it will go this time around,if cheating was a factor then let it go.
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Nothing. You must say "I'm sorry" one hundred thousand times, and then be prepared to say "I'm sorry" two hundred thousand times more. There will be days that something will cause him to think of your infidelity...maybe he hears a country "cheatin" song, or he sees the person you cheated with, or he will question what else have you lied about?, the list is a long one! Run, don't walk to a marriage counselor! Be honest, you will do the most work on yourself, and that's not easy, however you must understand what made you do what you did. When he needs to tell you how he feels, let him, don't shut him out. Lack of communication will end even a good marriage! Good Luck & remember to forgive yourself as well!
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The general rule of thumb is that when a relationship breaks up, it takes half the amount of the duration of the relationship to get over it. IOW, if it was a 10-year relationship, it can take up to 5 years to get over it.\n\nAs far as infidelity goes, it depends upon whether you are planning to continue in the relationship or not and whether or not your husband is willing to participate in healing the marriage.\n\nSome good resources for recovery from infidelity and rebuilding the marriage are:\n\nhttp://www.marriagebuilders.com/\n\nhttp://www.divorcebusting.com/\n\nA good book for recovering from an ended relationship is Letting Go by Tracy Cabot and Zev Wanderer. Following the steps in the book reduces your recovery time to 12 weeks. i used this during my divorce, and it really helped.\n\nBeing on the receiving end of the betrayal of adultery is the worst pain i've ever felt in my life, so i know how you are feeling. An excellent description from another betrayed spouse is that it feels like someone took a floor sander to your chest. :(\n\nThough i divorced my 1st husband, that was such a horrible experience that when my 2nd husband also ended up cheating on me, i chose to try to save the marriage instead.\n\ni am now 4+ years out from D-day (Discovery Day), and doing much better. It is no longer a daily pain. Even when i purposely focus on it (as in cases like this), it doesn't have the power to hurt me anymore.\n\nYou can recover and feel good again. It will take some time, but actively pursuing recovery will enable you to feel better sooner.
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If you really love him and you are sure in your heart he won't cheat again there is no reason not to give him another chance.  We are all human and make mistakes.  The key though is has he really changed, and can you truely forgive him.  If either of these isn't possible then move on.  If they are, then give it a try and be careful with your heart.
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I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
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my husband of 10 years cheated on me and when I found out about it I couldn't even touch him much look at at him he was disgusting and she was a fat old gal with hair on her face sick sick I divorced him. I never could forgive him. still can't and he is dead.\n\n\nDoddie
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I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
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I could forgive but I wouldn't stay with someone who had cheated on me. A good relationship has to be based on trust and love. Without the strong foundation of trust, the relationship will crumble. After someone has cheated you would always have to wonder and worry. Each time they were late, or didn't call, or acted differently you would wonder if they were cheating again. You can't have a good, loving, trusting relationship under those circumstances. I would also strongly doubt their love for me if they cheated. If someone truly loves you, then they wouldn't want to cheat on you. In their mind there would be noone better than you and they wouldn't risk the relationship with you for something as superficial as sex with someone they aren't in love with.
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everyone will say YES - but no one could be 100% sure until it happens to them - No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but can you live with him mistake "forgive and forget" is harder to do tham people think . I depends on how long you have been together, do u have any kids, was it just a 1 nite stand ot an affair, \nTake time out and think what is more important to you your life with or without your partner .
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I have been married twice. I divorced my first husband, not because he was unfaithful. In a nutshell, he was unwilling to work on our marriage. After many years of trying, I finally gave up. \n\nMy second marriage is very happy. We've been married for 20 years. My husband is the dearest person alive! He is my lover, friend, caregiver/nurse, companion, confidant, teacher, and more. \n\nWhen we married he had 4 grown children and a 14 year old. I had 2 sons, ages 7 and 12. He is a great father to them! My ex was a negative influence in their lives. He loved them, but was not a father to them. My husband was retired when we married so he was the parent that was home with them when they came home from school. He attended all their extracurricular activities, took care of them when they were sick, took them to the doctor, disciplined them. In short, he was their dad. My eldest son credits him with being the reason he chose to marry a woman with 4 children and become a step-dad. Both my sons believe their lives were better because I divorced their dad. They loved him (he passed away 2 years ago) but know the kind of person he was. They know how much my husband loves them and has always been there for them.\n\nMarriage is a commitment between a man and a woman to share everything the future brings, the good and the bad. It is a promise to be together until one partner dies, no matter what. Does it always work? I'm living proof that it doesn't. I'm also living proof of what two people can create if they are committed to making their marriage work. Certainly, we have had our problems, differences of opinion, arguments, etc. But we have never lost sight of our love for one another. We work on our marriage every day. Our love continues to grow. We honor and cherish one another.\n\nI generally don't give such long answers, but the more I told you about my marriage the more I had to tell. \n\nGod Bless!\n\nP.S. Below are some links to scripture from BibleGateway.com.