Why do married men, specific age grouping 40 to50, feel its ok to cheat on there wives?
374663
The men I have spoken to feel alienated and rejected both mentally and physically from their wives.  Apparently sex once or twice a year is considered normal for this stage/age of marriage.  Loneliness would probably be the best way to explain it.  They feel that they can fulfill their needs while still maintaining the quid pro quo of the marriage and family.\n\nWrong as it sounds that is what they tell me.  They actually feel like they are sacrificing their own happiness to maintain the responsibilities they have for family.  They see an affair or usually casual sex as a necessary evil.  Most have no intention of ever leaving their wives and they make that perfectly clear.  To them  a marriage that is tolerable is better than divorce.
1148098
You should not be sleeping with or cheating with Married women. Do you know that people will think of you as a home wrecker? I do not care to answer your question because i feel that it is wrong to answer you!
1066771
I believe that it is cheating when one fantasies about others. If one lust in their mind for some one other than their spouse, it's adultry.
57822
They rarely do it for any specific reason, it isn't about the woman they are with, often it isn't even about the other woman!!\n\nFor men who cheat, they do it because they can. \n\nIt's down to opportunity, geography and an assumption that they won't get caught.\n\n(The hallmark phrase is "it didn't mean anything to me" - as if that somehow makes it OK!).
944939
because they are married...not dead.  I look at men all the time.  That doesn't make me a cheater.
381759
you are constant flattery for him.  who wouldn't want the amazing, sexy, beautiful, married to someone else, girl i had a past relationship with, still thinks i'm the coolest guy, around?\n\nis adultery ever OK?  well i guess it depends on who you ask.  there are a lot of married people who are of the philosophy "i have the boy parts, you have the girl parts.....so what was the problem again?"  is this a right or wrong philosophy, not for me to decide.\n\ni think the most important thing in any relationship is that everyone knows what is going on.  adultery doesn't kill a relationship, its sneaking around and lying to a spouse.  no one wants to play the fool.
515207
Men cheat more because they want to feel they still have it! That he is still a man! But women do their share of cheating to because their husband are not giveing them what they need, they don't make them feel loved by them! I would probly go with 60% men and 40% women!
103405
for some men its a fantasy to be fullfilled, in other yes its a matter of maturity.. women now a day as men tend to loose the morals and maturity instilled in older generations. then again it could just plane fact that some ppl enjoy being with other ppl... as long as there is love why shoudl it matter.
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it's Men and Women.  Cheaters are classified as people who have issues with themselves and can't deal with conflicts in the relationship so they simply cheat to get their needs met.  Their needs can be anything from loneliness to neglect, lack of sex, lack of self esteem, lack of attention, lack of affection and so on.  IF these needs are not met, some people cheat to get them met.\n\nTHE PROBLEM with this method-cheating- is that these feelings that I mentioned in paragraph one are lacking with a cheater and most people don't understand that they have to tend to their own needs and not expect others to fix them. In other words, someone who is lonely has to help himself, not expect his spouse to and then when his spouse can't deliver, they cheat.\n\n  You see, most people who cheat are expecting their partners to fill these voids that I mentioned above when in reality, a person who is emotionally grounded understands that these are things one gives to themselves through proper self esteem and self love.   So many people lack those inner feelings (due to upbringing and environment) which is why so many people cheat.\n\nHow do you spot a cheater- you don't but you look for someone with self respect, self love, self esteem, honor, integrity, empathy, generosity and all those core values.  The more one possesses those qualities, the less likely they will resort to cheating when they feel a void.
1180746
yes, yes, yes!  I have been married with my huband for 11 years, with him for 15 and have never never cheated.  However, there have been many women who wanted him.  In today's women there is this idea that married men are better and will risk their own marraige to be with someone else.  Maybe they are bitter at their men and are getting them back.  All I know is that women today are catching up to the men with this dirtly litte secret.
794514
I feel like I'm already a mature man at age 26.  I've never treated dating as "playing the field".  I once heard that view of dating described like buying a car - "I want this color, not too old, not too many miles".  I think it should be much more than that.  I thought the point of dating was to find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.  (I'll admit to being a romantic.)  I don't understand why some men cheat.  It's disrespecting the woman, plus shooting yourself in the foot.  If you have a good relationship, why ruin it?  The same goes for womanizing.  Why move from one woman to another before you even get to know the first one?  I think things would be a lot better if all of us treated each other with the respect we deserve instead of treating each other as goods that we are trying to buy with cards and chocolates and dinners.
1002269
there are many motives behind an affair,the old line it just happened is a crock of bull,it is given much thought and for men i think it's a challenge for women it is a emotional thing the sense of being needed, attractive to another man.men also need to see if they still have it some do, some don't,  some never did,regardless of the reason it is wrong.if your sex life stinks make it better try different things,being a women i can't completly answer why guys cheat but i feel it's an ego thing or maybe their spouse is truely a louse in which case she has no reason to complain we women know men like / need  sex and if we are completly against making love then let him go no man or women should be forced to live without it unless it is for a medical reason,in that case then you should find other ways to satisfy each other.
1142846
That is a serious question.  I think about the poor 18 year old guys who got caught with their 17 year old girlfriends.  This is a very bull-headed move, right or wrong.
902180
It's called Mid-Life Crisis, They tend to fall in love with somebody younger, and could go on like that for years, some even leave their wives and later regret it.
708901
I have found that it's ok to chat to married men just because they are safe so to speak. Like there's no reason to have to worry that this guy is just trying to feed me a cheezy pic up line you know. Like I can totally relax, And I can appreciate that about a mature married guy. It may be just that you know.
88533
Probably for the same reasons Christians wives cheat on their husbands, they are selfish and feel entitled to have their needs met outside of marriage instead of putting in the time and effort to build a good relationship with their spouse.\n\nThey are lazy and disprespect themselves, their spouse and God.\n\nThis is not a man/woman issue, it's an issue of respect.
338007
it's because of the way we treat you!  You want someone a bit more mature then here we are.  You are at the perfect age when a guy in his mid 30's still feels young when he is with someone at your age