do you ever think of becoming gay or a lesbian?
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no.  You shouldn't "become" gay or lesbian- you should already be and definitely know it if you are.  A natural desire should push you one way or the other.  Don't fight nature- she's stronger than you.
446502
Would it be so terrible if you did become a lesbian?  You are what you are.  Better to be true to yourself, don't you think?
214500
That's pretty normal...I think most people wonder about the opposite / same sex depending on their orientation. Be who you want to be, and do what feels right.
663916
do you really think people don't know if you are a lesbian or not
554547
The wife's instinct is closer to correct.  I married a man, who was and is a straight man, but wished to become a woman.  If/when he does that, he will be a lesbian--still attracted to women.
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Have you ever considered polyamory?
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If you are only sexually aroused by thinking about or looking at women, you are straight\n\nIf you are only sexually aroused by thinking about or looking at men, you are gay\n\nIf you are aroused by both you are bi.\n\nIn any case, you are you -- be happy with that and believe in yourself -- always.\n\nDwell in love.\n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org
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Sounds to me like part of you wants male companionship but deep down inside you want a lesbian relationship.  Can you not find a balance and have male friends and female lovers?  I have had kind of the same experience when I was younger and had to find a healthy balance.  Sometimes we just want to be with males because it is what is "expected" of us.  Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings and be honest with yourself to find the answers!
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I would still deffinately be a woman. That is the biggest misconception about gays and lesbians. That the reason we like the same sex is because we truly want to be the other gender. I had a friend who was a guy who used to always say, "I am a lesbian stuck in a man's body." My first reaction was, doesn't that make you straight? I was wrong. He felt like a girl. He felt he had the wrong body, but he still liked women. It was eye opening for me. But it works the other way too. Just because we like the same sex doesn't mean we want to change to conform to what society want's us to be.\n\nI mean sure women have their "women problems" but hey, at least the whole world doesn't know when we are excited.
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Fantasizing about the same-sex for women is quite common, and a "true lesbian" would be the easiest to experiment with.  I still love my ex-husband very much, but I am supposed to be with a woman.
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I am a woman who has only had sex with men, but I do think about being with another woman at least once just to see what it's like. I don't know if I ever will or not...... but it's a thought.
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you could be a lesbian if you want to ''do things'' w/ girls but you're actually normal. guys look at guys and girls look at girls. it's all normal! We all just wonder what it would be like to be him/her. but if you might have unexplainable feelings for girls then you might be a lesbian. but there is nothing wrong w/ that. gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are people too. we should not judge other people who just like the opposite sex or both sexes.
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Maybe you are bi-sexual?  Lesbians generally have no interest in men.  If you have feelings for both sexes, you are most likely bi.
67482
No. It is a matter of choice. A lesbian chose to be a lesbian. It is the sexual orientation of the person.
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if you think about physical contact with the same sex like kissing and your loins start tingling, then you're probably gay. if you get a bit of a gag reflex going, your probably straight!
902213
Now that is what gives us a bad name.  No offense, but I would not want a guy to think he can change me to being straight, was never there and never want to be.  I would rather be with a lesbian anytime.  So, the answer to your question is no, I have never tried to convert a straight girl.  Too many lesbians out there, more than enough to go around.  Have a good night anyway.
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I would say if you have feelings for members of the same sex and you want to act on them, or you do act on them then you might be gay. And if you're not at all interested in being with someone of the opposite sex, but only someone of your same sex. It's also possible you could just be confused.