Struggling in college... how to cope with everything?
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Well, this is not really a way to cope...but a bit of cheering up :) Eventually the classes you take are going to get harder, and it's not going to be possible to cram for them...that's when you'll shine. You already have the foundation, and you can bet that you will remember the info far longer than your friends who cram the night before. So keep your chin up, as hard and unfair as it seems right now, cuz eventually your hard work will pay off! Just my two cents.
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Have some alcohol...teach your liver to bounce back from wild nights of partying.  Don't stress too much, have fun your freshman year and live in the dorms.  Living in the dorms is one of the best experiences I can recommend, as you make some of your best friends that way.  Go to class when you aren't too drunk to go, and even if you have a hang over, try to go.  :)   Make fun, be social --- unless you're a med student, I think the point of college is to learn to socialize with others correctly so you can do business in the real world.  I can't emphasize this enough...HAVE FUN, because after this, it's all work.
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Future - I'm applying to college this year... very stressful
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Find something to do to keep your mind distracted and not thinking about the letters. You can start a jigsaw puzzle with friends, rent all the movies you haven't seen, have some outdoor fun (frisbee, skating, etc).\n\nRelax and think positively. College is just another step in life, and, contrary to popular belief, it does not define your life (personally or professionally).
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Such is life!  College = Stress.  Start working on the paper now and you should be fine.
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Do something else, anything else that gets your mind off school for a while...a few minutes, a few hours...a day if you can afford it. Come back to it with a fresh mind. I never was able to learn anything by forcing it...taking breaks are essential for me and I think you would feel better too. \n\nAlso, if you are just bored to death by the subject, go look around at some other resources (books, internet) that talk about the subject. Everyone likes a different way to learn something and maybe you are getting frustrated from the method of which you have to learn. You might find that a different way something is explained could help. Or perhaps by a diagram, brainstorming, outline, who knows, a cartoon may help. One of the first classes I took in college was about the way people like to learn and everyone has their own way to understand something best. :)
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School is tough at times - no doubt!  It's good that you are stressed... it means you care!  Of course feeling stressed isn't much fun, though!  Sorry to hear you're having a tough time.\n\nFirst, because you care, you can pull through this!  I've been in your shoes before... I'm now on the other end of a college degree and lovin' it.  I wasn't a scholar by any means, but asked for help and ended up on the Dean's list my last five semesters.... believe me, if I can do it, so can you!    \n\nNot knowing you or how you approach things, it's hard to address specifics... rather than making assumptions, I'll cover a range of things in case any of them pertain to you... with that being said, whatever you're doing right now isn't working, so obviously you need to find a different way of studying, etc.  Here are some general tips... feel free to take 'em or leave 'em.\n\nAre you giving 100%?  If so, unfortunately our best isn't always good enough to get the results we want... but at the end of the day, when you look youtrself in the mirror... there's something about knowing you did your best.  If you continue to try your best, you will sort it out.  Of course if you're not trying 100%, then that's where you start... commit to do it!\n\nI would first start by going to your professors or teachers... go over past tests, papers, etc. and see where you didn't do well.  Ask for advice on how to study for his/her class... and find out if he/she knows of any study groups or other students from whom you could receive some additional help/tutoring.  If the class is small enough, they may be able to offer up other observations/suggestions as well.  Also, let them know how you feel and that you want to improve... they are human and all "signed on" to do this as a profession... they are there to help!\n\nThen... examine how you study... and where you study... find a place that is conduscive to studying... if you're near a TV or singing to a song on the radio... or near others where you are being distracted, it's time to find a new place to study.  Also, are you a morning person?  Know yourself... what time(s) of the day are you most alert, etc?  Try to study during those times... your mind associates certain places with certain activities... bedroom = sleep, kitchen = eating, etc.  I found going to the library and getting away form everyting was the best thing for me... and once I got into the routine, I noticed my grades improved... I knew once I stepped into the library, it was study time.  Establishing good sleep and other habits helps as well.  \n\nGo to class every day... skipping is a easy habit to get into - I've been there & it'll do ya in!  If ya don't skip, don't start!\n\nDo you cram for tests?  If so, it doesn't work... not usually anyway.  Procrastination will kick ya in the pants too... and can burn ya!  I had a coach that once said, "fail to prepare, prepare to fail."  Same holds true for school.  If in college, there should be some free academic assistance or tutoring centers that have staff that can address this stuff... same goes for proof reading papers before you hand then in... in in High school, there should be someone who can help you find these resources. Remember, no one makes it alone!  I'm assuming if you can ask for help on Yahoo, that you'd be willing to ask for help at school.  Smart people know when to ask for help!      \n\nRemember, balance is key!  Your future (in a career sense & lifestyle) depends on school... take care of business first... work hard when you have to, then play hard when ya can... finding the balance is key, because you do need both.\n\nSometimes easier said than done, but tell friends that you're struggling... let then know what you need or don't need from them... if friends undersatnd, that helps!\n\nStudy tip... take notes... first, make sure you're t
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Wow, that’s really tough....I am glad to hear you have a plan!!\n\n12 years with the same organization looks great on a resume, especially since you were in management. Bravo!!\n\nWhen I am down I do all (or a combination of a few) of the following:\n-Listen to motivational CD's/Tapes. I always feel on top of the world after hearing a good speaker (I will list some personal favorites at the bottom of this message).\n-Play music that sooths and puts to rest my fears, I enjoy Yanni, Enya, Dido, The Cranberries and the like....all depends on personal taste.\n-Set my home (and every drawer in my home) into perfect order, throwing out extra items and give it a complete cleaning. I do this because when I get that next job or project I will be ready...no running around in the morning hunting for things while I am trying to get ready for work.\n-Go to a one day seminar or expo on a subject/event/skill that you find motivating. \n-Take a college course or go to a one day event at your local college. There are TONS of non-traditional students in classrooms today; I should know...I am one of them.\n-Begin a low impact, simple exercise plan. I do Pilates, take walks, ride my bike or just work in the yard....the fresh air is good for the mind (I do my best thinking and get my best ideas while outside)\n-Reading is good as well....read up on the current events in your field.\n-Polish up your resume, and write a few cover letters, you will need them. A good website to gains tons of advice from is monster.com\n\nThe whole goal of your "break" is to prepare yourself to do better and reach higher when you get that next job. This is no time to watch TV or bum around. Use your time wisely; put yourself into "ready-set-go" mode. \n\nYou will be A-OK, don’t worry.\n\nHere are the titles as promised:\n\n-Stop Screaming at the Microwave!!, how to connect your disconnected life-Mary LoVerde\n-Stand Up for Your Life-Cheryl Richardson\n-ReInventing Yourself-Steve Chandler (this one changed my world)\n-Lets Get Real, or Lets Not Play-Mahan Khalsa\n\nBe wise, good luck.
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Take a foreign language, all the advanced courses you can get, and get an allowance from your parent that doesn’t just include books and food.  You will need to blow off some steam now and then (don’t use that dreaded word “party”).  Allow some budget room to hire tutors, and don’t be afraid to admit that you may need help.  For me a Physics Tutor meant the difference between an A and a D.\n\nCheck out the introduction courses offered by your college, and take them first.  Some colleges offer an introductory seminar and that would be most helpful.  Try to at least visit the campus before school starts.  Learn your way around campus.  Check out the bookstore and price the books that you will need for your classes, try and get them before class starts and at least read the introduction to them.\n\nA car, moped or even a bicycle can be helpful.  It will get you around faster and easier.\n\nLook at the extracurricular activates available.  They can help you blow off steam, and learn more about your favorite hobbies.  An honor society can give you an edge in school and when you are looking for your first job.  But, don’t let all that is available over whelm you, especially booze.  Find your limit and don’t go past it.  Falling down stinking drunk may seem like fun, but it isn’t.  The physical after effects aren’t worth it—isn’t cool to wake up with a hangover.  Doing stupid things while drunk may seem fun at the time, but the people who are laughing, are laughing AT you not WITH you.\n\nGet a book on speed-reading and read ALL of it.  It will help you a LOT.\n\nA computer with Internet access will be essential.  You should also have antiviral software and a program like Microsoft Office.  To do your papers (ah, spell check is sooo useful), a Power Point Presentation will make your project come alive, and Excel can make an accounting class a breeze.   Learning to touch type and it will make things a lot easier.  If you have a notebook you better have a good lock (to secure it when you are out), and require a password to gain access.  There is a good secure system that sounds an alarm when the computer goes more than 20’ away from you.  You will have to keep your notebook with you (on your body) at all times that you are out with it.  That computer could mean beer money for a month to a thief.\n\nYou must realize that you have left high school and childhood behind.  You have now entered the professional world.  For each hour of college credits you take you will need to spend AT LEAST two hours studying.  Things will be easier in a Junior College, but in a real top of the line college you will need to study even for a P.E. class, and expect written tests!  College is now your JOB, and it’s a professional job.  Look at the hours young lawyers have to put in, or architects and engineers.  You must approach college as if it is that kind of a job.  You can play some games and goof off now and then, but put the X Box, Game Boy and Nintendo away.  Bring only a couple of computer games with you and resolve to not spend more than an hour playing them each day.  Don’t bring a TV for at least for the first year.  You will need the time to study.\n\nFinally enjoy yourself.  Have fun, make new friends, do some things that you couldn’t do at home.  Take your fun to your classes, ATTACK your courses.  Be aggressive; ask the teacher when you don’t understand.  Sit near the front of the class so you don’t miss things.  Read your assignments BEFORE the class covers it.  Take good notes and form (or join) a study group.  For the next four years (or more) this will be your LIFE.  Go at it with gusto and win!  With this attitude you will be a success and have more fun doing it.  All the hard work may not seem to be worth it, but every good job requires a LOT of study.  Even plumbers have to go through an apprenticeship period, before they earn those top salaries.  A college degree is the MINIMUM you will need to enter th
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welcome to the real world. Hey this is going to be a big step in your life. You are now becoming or are now an adult. This is going to be your opportunity to grow into and experience the world out there. Dont worry, if you stress out and worry, then your years in college will suck. Make time to enjoy(partying to a limit) and then stay focused with school work as well.  You will be able to party 20 times more harder after college, but make the most out of the years in college. If I had a chance to, I would LOVE to go back to college, those were the best years of my life....seriously, you will enjoy it.  It is a whole new world.
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Realize that your life can't get any easier than in college...and grow up.
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1-2. Go to college full time if you can. Working full-time and going to college part-time is the pits. It can be done, but you don't get as much out of your classes. \n\n3. There are lots of grants and scholarships for many different kind of students. I don't know of any that require six arms.\n\n4. People who live in dorms have so many friends compared to folks who live off campus. I even did it in grad school in my thirties, and enjoyed it thoroughly. I'd do it again if I didn't have four cats!\n\n5. Oo! So many! Great if you can learn from someone else's mistakes and not have to learn from your own!\n\na) Don't watch more than about an hour of TV a week. Use that time to sleep, study, or socialize.\n\nb) Don't avoid your professors. They are not the enemy. They want you to pass. They want to explain to you what you don't understand!\n\nc) Don't wait until the last minute to begin a research paper! When the paper is assigned, go to the library and dig around interesting topics until you find something that works. If you're stuck early on, your professors will be able to help you. If you're stuck the night before, no one can help you!\n\n6. This is what your faculty advisor is for. But I applaud your choice!
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You need to do your very best to put this behind you for the sake of your test. I'm hoping that your sporatic typing is evidence of how stressed out you are so I am not going to go on that too much. Slow down, take a deep breath and concentrate on your studies. Don't take any phone calls and don't let anyone harrass you. If you do get someone on the phone, tell them that pressuring you doesn't help and politely say goodbye until your test is done. I really feel like you may have more deep seated problems than what you are telling about here. I would deal with those as soon as you can. Counseling may be a good idea for you. It would also do you well to learn some good relaxation techniques. Do some running, play some good music, don't over study. I hope it all works out well for you.
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- Never give up.  \n- Keep learning about technology or you'll be left behind.  \n- Keep asking questions about how and why. \n- Understand that *everyone* - from your mother, your teachers, the people who write your textbooks, to the guy on the news, everyone-  has an opinion and has a purpose for saying the things they say.  If you don't understand who is making the statement, you won't fully understand the statement itself.\n- Don't waste your time with people of bad character.\n- Find an older person you can look up to to confide in.  Ask them about trials they faced when they were your age.\n - My father told me, "Since you get OK grades, you'll get into an OK college.  Get good grades, and you'll get into a good college."  This is very true, and a good college will help you stay on top of the competition.\n- Don't waste time in chat rooms.\n- Treat everyone with repsect, especially girls and those in authority (even if you think they don't deserve it).\n- Again, never give up.  Try something you don't think you're able to do.\n- Make good use of your summers away from school.  Learn a skill, get a job, get exercise, read a lot.\n- Be proactive.  Search for opportunities to better yourself.  You will find them.
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i have the same problem in college. Just tell yourself that if you get the work done now you'll have more free time for doing what you love. Keep the work done ahead of you.
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Haha, with a boyfriend, college, work, and every other thing in your life, of course you are going to be stressed. That's just life for you. I think maybe to be less stressful youself is to realise that through your entire life, you will have to face a lot of it. I don't think to be an average, healthy person there is anyway you can eliminate ALL stress in your life. Instead you have to learn how to deal with it. Try doing just the simple things that you enjoy doing more often. Try to relax and take breaks even for just a short while.\n\nAlso, remember, we're all in this together. I've had some really bad luck and fucked up times in my life so far, but you gotta learn to move on and get passed those things. Gotta remember there are people much worse off than you and I. Be thankful for what you have... you have a boyfriend, you're going to be graduating college, you have a job, I mean, you already sound like you have a decent life. ;p
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study + work.\nIf you think it's too tough to handle, take a few subjects, and extend your studies..