Help.... Psycho! I really love my boyfriend but he's psycho?
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Get away from him. \nNow. These are giant red flags that he is not a stable person. \ndont let him guilt you into staying with him, he's counting on that.\n\nRun far far away
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
1136822
Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
118233
your behavior seems very irresponsible.  look at yourself.  take responsibility for yourself, your feelings, your actions.  Learn from your mistakes in this relationship
774948
seriously i think that both of u are really messed up and confused at the moment. give each other some time to calm down and think properly. wait for him to initiatiate, but if he doesnt then u need to learn to let go. it is much easier to let things go than to hang on regardless the mental and emotional pain.
432986
Very possessive people have an emotional problem.  Your boyfriend needs help.  If you are serious about him, talk him into treatment.  If he refuses to go, either life with this (and it will only get worse) or leave.\n\nJealousy is not cute, it is not based upon love, it is based upon "possession."  If you want to be the "object" then leave it alone.  If you need to be treated as a person, get him help or get out.
688877
Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
381525
You need to get a grip on yourself. This kind of behavior is what drives people away. Trust is key in a relationship. If you do not trust him and he has given you no reason to doubt him, then you need to let it go.
951575
It doesn't sound like he loves you necessarily. Though, if he seems preoccupied with you, then he may have deep feelings for you... or just maybe is trying to hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable I think the best way to resolve these issues is to break up with your boyfriend (if you cheated on him you are probably not satisfied completely wtih him) and then tell the guy you really like exactly how you feel.
484440
well if ur in love with 2 people then lemme tell u something honey, ur not in love. your looking for an outlet to get revenge on ur boyfriend who is treating u badly.
329739
Diana..this is what i think u should do..sit down and talk to him about the way he treats u..tell him first about the good things that u love about him..but then tell him that he needs to trust u when u go out with your friends or if u just go out by yourself..(shopping or grabbing a bite to eat)..tell him in a kind way that if he keeps this up..u won't put up with it cause u want him to be part of your life and not your whole life..if it gets messy where he does hit u....stand up for yourself and have him arrested then gey a restraining order on him..its that simple sweety....please please don't be one of those gals that end up in a abuses relationship...
895215
Hopefully the feeling is mutually (meaning your boyfriend loves you). If so, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. If your boyfriend is a mature individual he will not listen to outside sources. If he feels that something may be true than he should come directly to you...go directly to the source. Just remember people are petty. People will do anything and everything to get what they want...especially if they are involved with someone else...you always want what you can't have.
1157727
You're going to hurt him one way or the other.  Just be honest and tell him you're feelings have changed and you don't want to date him anymore.  He'll get over it after a while (unless he's psycho).
193243
How can you say that he is not abusive!?! Wake-up girl and stop trying to fix this jerk!!! He is not Bi-polar he is an a** and you picked him and kept him for quite some time. Worry about you and figure out why you chose a guy like him so you don't end up with the same guy in a different pair of pants!
869839
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
944631
Maybe he's just feeling insecure about himself? I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we've definitly had our ups and downs..\n\nSounds like you're being very sincere and care about him SO much.......if YOU really love him stick with him make him see that YOU are NOT doing anything other than trying to help him and wanting to love him....Just make sure you follow your heart and if you decide to leave him make sure its for the RIGHT reasons ....
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My boyfriend and I have a fantastic friendship. I love him, he does not yet feel the same way about me.  I too am an INFJ and he is an ENTP.  We are possibly too sensitive for the type....ENTPs are rational and find it hard to express themselves. He probably needs you as much as you need him.  How do you know he couldn't love you....he may be expressing it in his own way.  It is near-on impossible to have a friendship with someone you are in love with - you will never be able to give your heart to someone else if part of it belongs with him.  You are young....there are plenty more fish in the sea.