what should be done on marriage night?should they do sex first night?if yes then how?Romanticaly or hard core?
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My opinion is to talk during first night, just plain talking to make yourself and the opposite sex comfortable.
420492
Do something unexpected, I've been married for 20 years with three daughters, one day I came home to find the kids gone with their grandmother, the lights low, dinner on the table and my wife in a very sexy dress - she arranged for us to have a private date night - the first ever like this. But you figure out what you'd like to do just make sure it breaks the normal routine and gives him a moment to pause.
220928
Sex in marriage is a must, before that, NO!\n\nOut of marriage, sex is just an instinct full get together used to fulfill your passions or desires. You just do the body thing, get filled up, and that's all. Sex should not take place before marriage.\n\nIn marriege, sex complements the relation, helps the couple to get deeper feelings, respect, and all those kind of stuff.
1180712
lol...... I just laughed my *** off..... Are you really THAT conservative?!\n\nYou're American, right?! Only an American woman can ask something like that.....\n\nIn most countries on this earth, girls start having sex with 14/15/16, so they can't be married at that time.....\n\nIMHO, late sex can cause more problems than early sex, because sex is good for the blood circulation in that kind of area.\n\nSex will never cause any problems. The only exceptions are infections, but you can't get any if your fiance is also still a virgin.\n\nI recomment sex with your fiance before you marry. The day you marry, in the eving, you will not be able to have as good sex as in other nights, because of the whole stress about the marriage. \n\nIt's up to you, but morally and physically it's perfectly okay to have sex with your fiance if you really love him and want to marry him.
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I had sex before I was married. My wife, on the other hand, held onto her virginity. So, I'm the only guy she's ever been with. I never got "hurt" in a relationship, but looking back on it, having premarital sex was the one of the stupidest things I ever did. \n\nFour things premarital sex screws up:\n\nFirst, sex changes the relationship between the two people, no matter what. The entire relationship becomes far more serious and complicated. Understand that when I say "serious" here, I don't mean it in a positive way.\nPremarital sex seriously kills a lot of the fun and lighthearted parts of a relationship like a lit match in a cup of water. After all, when it comes down to it, sex is designed to produce an entirely new human being! This is true no matter what kind of "protection" you use. Sex is serious business. \n\nSecond, sex changes people. It changes the way they approach love. It changes the way they value the intimacy of sex. It changes the way they value a permanent, lifelong, romantic relationship. In my experience, sex forever changed the way I looked at and related with women. \nI'd kind of say that having premarital sex made it harder to be emotionally intimate (and vulnerable) with my wife.\nThe physical sort of "watered-down" the emotional.\n\nThird, sex really messes up your wedding night. When you do get married, it probably will NOT be to the person you're with right now. (Trust me, it was a big shock to me that feeling "meant for eachother" doesn't mean that you actually are.) In fact, by the time you get to the person you're going to marry, the relationships you are in now will probably seem kind of silly and meaningless. (I know, GASP! again) What I'm hoping you will avoid is knowing on your wedding night that you traded one special night with the person you love and have married with one normal night with someone that you now barely know and don't care about. It hurts. Trust me, I know.\n\nThe fourth thing premarital sex messes up is your relationship with God. Other people posted Bible verses about the topic. It IS sin and the Bible spells it out pretty clearly. Anytime we sin it messes up that relationship. I'd encourage you to pick up the Bible and take a look. Youth Bibles usually do a good job with commentary and study guides that deal with the topic of premarital sex. I'd also encourage you to look up the topic of salvation. Talk to a youth minister or shoot me an e-mail at jdawg2682@yahoo.com. I'd be happy to share a bit more. (I'll try not to ramble quite so much)\n\nAll I know is that I did a lot of stuff before I was a Christian. I thought I was right and knew what I was doing and thought I had things together. It was a joke. God flipped my life upside down in college and I've never been the same (sometimes good and bad). Ultimately, I found the two greatest relationships ever: one with Jesus Christ and the one with my wife. I firmly believe that God can do the same for anybody. Good Luck!
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Usually people take a trip somewhere romantic like Hawaii or Jamaca. They use the time to get used to the idea of being together all the time and to celebrate their new marriage. For people who saved themselves for eachother it is also usually the first time they make love to eachother. There are some people who spend all day and night in their hotel rooms doing just that. Otherwise you go sightseeing, swimming, hiking, scuba diving... whatever you like to do with eachother. Think of it as a romantic vacation just for the two of you.
369566
Having sex before marriage!
432138
Being the 1st night, we did but I think with most traditional wedding situations...it could be more romantic if it was the next day or so..because we were so exhausted that it was more of an act than passion...and it may have been the high light of the evening if we hadn't gone thru so much already during our wedding day.
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Sex before marriage is not a good idea. I would rather have waited till I got married however, I was young and foolish and wanted experience. Well, after you're experienced what is there to experience more? You keep on having sex, right and so if I were to change this I would have waited for the right time. But this is just my opinion. Different people have different opinions.
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That is easy...Love and Romance...Sex and Romance...Romance Your Your Lover With Feeling and Thoughts From Your Heart...Use Words Like Love...Use HallMark Cards...Use Flowers...Use Sex...And There All Kinds Of Differant Ways To Have Sex...Styles and Positions...Oral Seems To Be A Favorate For Most Men and Women...Set The Mood With Candles,Dinner,Bath,Low Lights...And Do All These Sugjestions Regularie Not Routinely...
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
226935
After Marriage.  Marital sex is a beautiful thing.  It should be more than just an act of physicality.  It is an expression of love, respect, and commitment.
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Sex is a big part of marriage.  But a successful marriage is a lot more than sex AND love.  Think of it as a business contract.  Or hiring a team member.  Look at the person's qualities.  Honesty, loyalty, compassion.  He she a person of character?  Gives to charity?  Passionate about life?  Educated, if not at least wants to be?  Can you imagine this person the parent of your children?  Will you be proud of this person at thanksgiving dinners?  \n\nLooks go a way too, not just the sexiness, but the ability to dress properly at different gatherings.  To talk and walk properly when needed.  You dont want a ghetto girl hoochie mama who cant put two words of English together, or sits or walks like she is a teenager.  Or a guy who is born with a stick up his butt, overly judgemental, not compassionate, narrowminded.\n\nOf course you cant even picture the one you love in these words right now.  But step back from the infatuation and look carefully at this person.  There are soooo many factors that play in a good marriage.  How does this person deal with a crisis?  With your parents?  \n\n\nNow onto sex.  It IS important. If you are not having good sex, then you will want to have it, and if you dont know how to please yourself at least, you will begin to want it from others.  And if others hit on you sometimes, you may make the biggest mistake of your life.\n\nYour partner may not be very experienced, but may be willing and eager to learn and with a few months practice, you guys may be having a great time.  So dont shut the door if sex isnt great.  It could be that he she is young and innocent.  Believe me, having someone inexperienced but willing who turns out to be great is wonderful.  Its develops a loving romantic sensual relationship and you have all these memories of your silly mistakes, ideas etc.  Its great fun journeying toward great sex together.\n\n\nON the other hand, you could have a man who doesnt want to touch you down there, or a woman who doesnt like positions you really like.  And your partner could be very closed to that.  Or maybe the frequency is not as much as you like.\n\nIn this case you have to see if you can change yourself.  Do you really want to lose a really really good person, because of one factor?  It doesnt seem right.  Sometimes you may have to adjust yourself for the marriage.  (this happens in non sex related things all the time).  If you can please yourself that may help.  Or YOU may be the one who needs to experiment to find what works for BOTH of you.\n\nSo.. sex is a big deal.  But marriage is much more than sex.
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There is no best time for sex. Any time that you are in the mood and they aren't get them in the mood. Make sure that they are awake though. Sex is good anytime, day or night.
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Unfortunately, most guys tend to think of sex first in their reasoning for marriage.  This is extremely shallow, I know, but I am assuming that you are looking for a genuine answer.\n\nDepeding on the person, there are other things that they look forward to as well.  I couldn't wait to decorate for Christmas in our own house, and wake up together, and open presents by the fireplace - just the two of us.  I looked forward to creating special "her" days, where I cooked dinner, and created an itenerary of fun things to do throughout the day.  I consider myself to be somewhat of a romantic...but in all honesty, I was really looking forward to the sex, too.\n\n(Of course, I had sex for the first time on our wedding night.  The case may be different for guys who have sex before marriage.  I'm sure you'll be able to find one or two of them to get input from on this site).
1175451
Well first of all SEX!! If HE wants. I think you should go for a nice \ncandle dinner. Make it Romantic. Make sure he knows you are his man nobody elses.
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When you're ready to have sex you are ready to have sex.  If it's before marriage, cool.  If you're not ready until marriage, that's cool too.\nI think sexy before marriage is a good thing.  People speak of how it's more special when you save it.  But honestly if you wait until you're married you're going to suck at it.  Not being able to please your spouse on your honeymooon (a very special occasion) would be a shame.  On the other hand, if both partners are inexperieced they'll at least have a chance to grow and learn about sex together.\nHowever, I think it would be foolish to marry a person you've never slept with.  Sex is a very big part of relationships and if you marry a person without knowing  whether or not they can please you sexually you may find yourself in a very dissatisfied marriage.\nJust think about this:  Would you buy a new car without ever giving it a test drive?