I was too scared to tell him the truth....?
367120
i can understand where you was coming from. not that you should have hid it from him. but he must really love you and you should hang on to him, and always show him how special he is to you. i don't mean just tell him i mean show him. congrats on baby and new man. good luck, and GOD BLESS YOU !!!!!!!!!1
1006217
well one you should have told him everything from the start. two if he doesn't believe you then you can't do anything about it because no matter what you do or say you can't make him believe you. so all you can do it move on and forget about him.
725524
It sounds like he wants to tell you but is a little afraid to. I think its kinda nice that you can both still talk together. If he thought you were trying to control him then he wouldnt tell you at all.
361171
its sad that you have a fear of talkin to him. if you want to be in a relationship you have to talk to. just open up and tell him whatever you want to. that is part of having a good heathly relationship.
159092
I think he is afraid of the reaction other people would have if he told you that. Some people really do talk when they hear about relationships. Summing it all up; can it be fear?
470376
tell him/her what u feel..  nothing is wrong in admitting the truth.. yes, truth hurts but its how u face ur fears.. \n\nif he/she reject u.. go on.. move on.. let them go.. thats life.. sh*t happens..
953473
It sounds like you have a guy who loves you dearly and is naturally scared of hurting you. I honestly don't think he would feel like you are afraid of him - if you have talked about what happened, and he is being there for you the way you say he is, then he is simply trying to be there for you in the best way he can, and worries when he's not sure how he can help more.\n\nYou've picked well - don't let this one go :)
1031378
Wow.  I did read your blog and cried for you.  \n\nDon't listen to Meezerz.  It's not that she's bad, she's just misinformed and speaking from her fear.\n\nYour fear is the least likely part of you to tell the truth.  Fear is too biased to know the truth.\n\nI don't think you're nuts at all.  I think you have had that scenario playing in your mind in some form ever since it happened six years ago.\n\nI'm so thankful that you are in therapy and that you are giving the voices in your head a voice in therapy.  There's an odd sort of safety in blaming yourself.  But in the end, it's not as safe as it looks.  It ends up hurting you more.\n\nWhatever control is to be gained by assuming responsibility for something you could not control is not worth the guilt and the shame and the lie you are forced to live.\n\nThough he took the place your first lover should have, he was in no way a lover.  He was a disrespectful, sub-human, bully.  Don't put him and any form of the word love together if you can help it.\n\nIn the future, the man who really loves you, really will love you for the first time.  No matter what this experience took from you, or caused you to do in reaction, when you are free from the baggage this experience has thrust upon you, you will be free to love for the first time.  \n\nYou continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
245458
I can`t answer this question because I don`t know what you are scared to tell him, maybe if you would let us in on it we could help you
164072
EITHER HE IS SCARED OR HE DIDNT MEAN IT....THIS GUY I KNOW HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I KNOW THAT HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH HE'S JUST NOT READY FOR THE COMMITMENT. SO I'M JUST GIVING HIM A BREAK UNTIL HE CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS...ANOTHER THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND FIND OUT HOW HE FEELS BECAUSE THERE IS NO SINCE FOR YOU TO KEEP WASTING YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO CANT MAKE UP HIS MIND..JUST GET IT ALL OUT IN THE OPEN SO THAT YOU KNOW WHETHER TO MOVE ON OR NOT
525754
Tell him you do not want to talk about it you just want him to listen... i tried it . worked for me
435367
If that's how you feel then you have no choice but to put it all out there, just like that.  There's no time to beat around the bush, or hold back your words.  Worst case scenario, he rejects you- but then you'll at least know where you stand, and that you did EVERYTHING you could.  You don't want to have regrets later on, or wonder if there was anything else you could have said or done.  Good luck, and know that no matter how this turns out, you were true to yourself, loved him with all that you had, and fought for what you wanted.
162828
Yes, I think that maybe you should tell someone that you really feel comfortable telling. I mean after all this is a very serious situation. Things will only get worse if you dont do something now. Good luck!!
1007538
He's probably too scared that you'll reject him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens!
574881
The next step is up to him - congratulations on your courage to tell him how you feel - I know it wasn't easy.\n\nSee how he responds to you from now on.  Is he still friendly or is he aloof now because he, too, feels embarrassed by what you told him?\n\nIf he seems aloof to you, then he doesn't share the same feelings as you - ok - you tried - now go find someone who does share those feelings with you.\n\nGood Luck!
855770
What u say , i feel scared of . Because in chat our identity is false, age , everything is false. How can u depent on that. But may be he likes u. Join the chat room today and ask him through instant message"does he loves u or not" , if yes then move forward with ur relationship. And if not then just forget it out . I think this will be the best way of nowing ur answer. Thanks for sharing ur question and seeing it with my veiw. In future i would like to see more of u . Take care.
580123
tell him straight that he dont stand a chance.mention to him that he's scaring you..just tell him what you really fee..but in a nice way ok? goodluck!