There has been no sex in my marriage for over a year.  What should I do?
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This is common for long term marriages. After 14 years of being together things get routine. Try to heat things up a little, place Hersey kisses on the bed with rose petals or give her a lap dance. Try to remember what it was that she like about you sexually and being that out again. There could also be medical reasons for the lack of interest in sex. The best thing is to have your daughter spend the night at a friends house, you fix your wife a candle light dinner. Be very honest and tell her in an adult manner without argument about your concerns for your sexual health. Be very understanding and supportive with her and listen to her.
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IM BISEXUAL AND LOVE A MARRIED MAN. STRANGE RIGHT? I KNOW. NO SEX INVOLVED. THIS IS A STICKY SITUATION AND ONE THAT SHOULD NOT INVOLVE YOU. IM NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH HIM. HE NEEDS SPACE AND HE MADE THIS PART OF THE MESS AND PROBABLY DOESN'T WANT TO SUBJECT YOU TO THE FUCKING DRAMA.MY ADVISE IS TO LEAVE AND MOVE OUT. HE NEEDS TO BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT HE WANTS AND YOU LET HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THINGS WILL WORK THEMSELVES OUT. IF NOT, THEN YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE. EVER HEARD "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR"? I GUESS IT IS.YOU WALK OUT AND SAY GIVE IT A YEAR, CAUSE DIVORCE IS MESSY.AND IN THIS CASE IT DEFINITELY IS. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET THEM GO. IF THEY COME BACK TO YOU THEN....THEY ARE YOURS..{SMILE I KNOW YOU ARE SAD} . BE STRONG GIRL,LOL HOPE THIS HELPS.LOL MEXXXI
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Hmmm why do people feel the need to add third parties to their marriages when they are having problems? Why not discuss the problem with your spouse and maybe try counseling? And marriage is about a lot more than just sex. If you're ready to just drop your pants and jump in the bed with another man maybe you don't need to be married. Get a divorce, be single and screw all ya want!!
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why did you get married to her if you are getting a divorce four months later? that is just silly! i don't understand what the problem is or was. can you explain more? you should love your wife no matter what. and at least you have had sex more than i have and i have been married six months.we are still very happy and plan to keep it that way. you don't have to have sex to be happy. that is not all marriage is about.
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Yep, get a marriage counselor.  I mean, getting into the relationship you knew ahead of time he was 17 years older and that there would come a time when your sex drives differed from each other.  This should have been taken into consideration from the start.  Just be sure to look inside yourself and find the true reason you are having issues.  Don't lie to yourself and say that you "are getting distant and there is no more sex" when part of the reason very well could be the fact that you want a man your age.
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That is awesome. U should be happy it is totally normal. most couples eventually lose interest in sex but im so happy that it doesnt to everyone that gives me hope. I have only been married almost 2 years and i can only hope we are like u when we have been married 15 years
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That is very strange...my husband and I are going through the same thing right now.  We've been married for 11 years  It has been frustrating.  Lack of passion has been the worst I think.  We are however determined to get through this funk.  He is reading a book called "For Men Only" and I am reading the companion book called "For Women Only" it's by the authour Feldman, Shaunti. Another good one is "His Needs, Her Needs" I can't think of the author off the top of my head but it's a good read too.  I hope that helps and I hope that you two will become more passionate and in love because of it.  Best wishes...   :)
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why dont u simply ask him ,whats wrong with sex?a lot marrieges came after,relax
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Sex is important to a marriage of course, but communication, trust, respect and friendship are VERY important. There is something going on with your husband and just reading your question, he seems to be distant and it does not sound like it's just about the sex for him. Try and give him some time of pampering him...massage him without touching him sexually, just make it relaxing. If he likes a favorite food & TV show set that up for him too. Don't bring up any conversation during this "his" time. Just let him know that you love him and you are there for him if he ever needs to talk about anything and say nothing else. If you make him feel safe and that you are his best friend, that is the beginning of intimacy and then on a different day, ask him if you can talk and be honest with him that you miss your physical relationship with him and ask him if there is anything that the two of you can work on together to try and bring intimacy back into your bedroom. When you share with him how you feel, don't be accusatory but just say "I feel" and also truly listen to how he feels. Good luck. Marriage is always something we have to work on.
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Well if divorce is not an option, I can't help you.. Although a loveless marriage is no way to live, it would be better of separating and finding a new love, you can always visit or have your kids visit you...
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GreenGrasshopper,\n\nWow! 8 years! Many people don’t last that long without any real problems. First, I salute you, it is in doing the tough things well that we discover that God is real. Congratulations for being so loyal and loving.\n\nSecond, do something about it. If your husband doesn’t desire sexual pleasure, then don’t try to make him perform or enjoy it if he isn’t interested. You – on the other hand – are interested and there are other ways for him to satisfy you sexually without intercourse.\n\nIt’s an old movie and quite possibly before your time, but in “Coming Home” a paraplegic with absolutely no ability to perform sexually made Jane Fonda very satisfied. I’m not condoning adultery as the movie did, but my point is that your husband’s problem need not necessarily be your problem. If he loves you, as you love him, then he must be willing to do something to satisfy you sexually. It is his duty to do it. It is not the ideal way to enjoy sex to see it as a duty – it takes the fun out of it – but it is each partner’s joy and duty in a marriage to satisfy their mate.\n\nI think personally it would be hard for me not to be able to have children. You don’t mention that so I assume that it’s not a problem for you.\n\nI am happy that you are a Christian. It makes your life much easier in one sense. Talk to God honestly, and ask Him to fix it. He loves you, and He does not want you or your husband to suffer with this. Your husband must be demoralized and discouraged by his inability, too. Insist on change, and don’t quit until you see the change that you desire.\n\nI really suggest that you and your husband pursue this matter together. Go to the doctor with your husband. Go to a marriage counselor with your husband. Keep going and keep doing whatever it takes until you succeed. You have been a loving wife for a long time, and the way I see it this is being a loving wife, too.\n\nDivorce is horrible, and it is not the only solution. Do not quit until your problem is solved no matter how many doctors or psychologists it takes or how long. Just make up your mind that you are going to change the situation, and it will change.\n\nAgain, I really admire you for making the right choice and staying in your marriage.\n\nGod bless.
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Sounds like you've done everything I would have suggested. I guess just keep talking and try to figure some things to make things interesting. Maybe try creating a different type of relationship for awhile. Try not having sex for a year or so and engage in activities that may remind both of you of sex but are in no way related. Go talk to a sex therapist. Sorry, that's the best I got
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I think that you should initiate sex with your husband! Turn him on!...Then get on! And if that doesn't work than ask him straight out" Why don't you want to make love to me?"Good luck!
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I'm married and have not had sex in a year! (Idiot for a husband) Actually, it varies from person to person due to psychology and hormones.
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Go to a local marriage counselor.  Do it before the marriage is really in trouble.  Or there may be psychological problems that can not be fixed.  It is great you know he loves you.  Good luck
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sex is not everything that is true but having no sex even after marriage is something unnatural if that persistsmay lead to unwanted situaton if your partner feels the same only than it's ok
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It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.