I was bullied in school by students and teachers and i want to know why?
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firstly, well done on doing your nursing degree. When someone tells you that you wont go anywhere- use that as a determining factor- work towards being someone who is going somewhere. The fact that you are completing a nursing degree proves my point.\nI think you should find this teacher, ask if he/she remembers you and what they said against you. Then politely inform them of how well you've done. Dont be harsh, be cool, calm, collected and PROUD.\nwell done.
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It depends on what they are doing to you. If they are teasing you ignore them.  If they are physically hitting you tell your parents, tell your teacher tell everyone and fight back.  Tell your parents you want to take up karate and then make sure everyone around you knows that you know how to fight.  They will mess with you a lot less.\n\nEven if you can't do any of this just remember they are probably being bullies to you because you are probably a very good natured, sweet, kind girl and you are probably very sensitve too.  These are good traits to have, don't let anyone make you feel that they aren't.   \n\nWhen you grow up you'll probably do a lot better then those bullies.    \nI know it's really hard and it hurts, but just remember you aren't alone, let everyone know what is going on so that the bullies can be punished.  \n\nI went through it too growing up, and it's hard but try your best to not see it as them making fun of you, because they aren't, not really.  In reality it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. They are the ones with the problems and they see that you have what they don't have, that makes them angry and they take out their problems on you.  Don't let their problems become your problems though.  \n\nThis will help you out though, it will make you stronger and wiser then they can ever be.  Trust me on that one.
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I liked the answer on bullying, and I fully agreed on it. But, teachers can be bullies too.\n\nI read in a parenting magazine the other day that 42 states still allow spanking! Yeah, and whether or not YOUR child has had this happen to them, a girl in a public school system in Nebraska (I think it was Nebraska) was paddled with a board that was 2 inches thick with holes in it according to the article. That's f*cking insanity! \n\nAs far as the local school system around here, most of the kids don't know it- but it's legal. The school handbooks just say that it's, "STRONGLY RECCOMENDED NOT TO USE CORPORAL PUNISHMENT". It really bothers me. I myslef do not believe in spanking. I'm more than positive that a lot of parents around here would not be pleased to here that their child has been spanked. If that happened to my child, I would tell the school that it should not be just, "STRONGLY RECCOMENDED NOT TO USE CORPORAL PUNISHMENT". If they refused to do anything about it, I'm sorry, but here comes the violent side of me: I'd kick that teacher's a*s!\n\nI know many parents would do the same thing. And here's another thing I don't like about public school systems: The right to permanently take away objects from students. Yes, I know how hard most teachers work to get children/young adults to pay attention in their class room. But if they are to take say a brand new $359.99 iPod, umm,yeah, I might be a little more than pissed. I think that they should just put the item on their desk till the end of class and then GIVE IT BACK!\n\nFurther more, it seems like they just let any one walk in and become a teacher. A local teacher around here went to the local Mamasita's restaurant and saw a 16 year old girl sitting across the room. Little did he know, the waitress who was waiting on him was the girl's mother. He said to the waitress, "Get the girl over there a Apple Martini... oh, and also, give her this." He handed the woman a card. It said, "NEEDED: MORE THAN RATED R FUTURE STARS FOR THE porn site www.whateverthehellthesite'snamewas.com.\nOi! Was he ever in trouble!\n\nBut for some younger teachers, they aren't giving enough opportunity. A teacher applying for a job might see a "NEEDS MORE EXPERIENCE" thing in the mail from our local school. Well, how the hell are you going to get experience if no one will give it to you? This is about more than education of the students! Future teachers can learn more about teaching from their first teaching gig.\n\nWell, I believe overall, that there could be ALOT of improvements for the school systems.\n\nEDIT: Best answer?
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By my fellow classmates, yeah. Never by teachers.\n\n\nWith the classmate issue... by ninth grade I realized that if I didn't stand up for myself, highschool would be four miserable years of memories... and that I'd be a "victim" for the rest of my life, never standing up for myself.  I finally "stood up" to (Threatend is more like it - I'm ashamed to say) the main instigator of my misery and was never mistreated again.  In fact my friend base by, the time of graduation, was quite large.\n\nNaturally, this taught me that it's okay to stand up for myself.... and that people only mistreat me because I LET them.  And I NEVER tolerate abuse (physical, verbal) from people around me, either toward me or toward others.\n\nI'm not sure if this is what you were looking for.  Hope it helped.
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Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
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They might be jealous of you. People like to mess with people and hurt their feelings. When I was in school they always called mr names. You might be a cool person to be around. Be yourself and don't think what others think of you. You're just as good as anyone else.
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I know what it's like. Always being picked at, Laughed at, and even shoved out. But I learn from them. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. anywayz, my advice to you is first you need to tell someone about it. whether it be your teacher or your parents. if the bullying doesn't stop, take matters into your own hands. i'm not saying to fight the guy (although that is an option for a much, much later use) but to sorta use your head to out smart him. If he still continues, take a stand and MAKE the school move him to another class and to keep him away from you or else you sue.\nI'm pretty sure that you'll won't have to go that far but just try and find out what's his problem and try and help him. Hey who knows maybe you'll actually become friends.\n       Good luck ;)
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It's a horrible feeling to think nobody cares but I garuntee you there is lots of people who do care and you don't realise it.  As for school, don't worry about them it might seem like a long way away now but believe me before you know it you will be out of school in the real world with real people who have more important things to do than bully somebody, and you will meet people who accept and like you for who you are.  Chin up!!!!
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why do bully's pick on weaker kids, if u can answer that ,i have answered your question
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High school, about 1963.  I smarted off to a bully who was pushing a smaller kid around.  I got my face scratched (yeah, it was a guy but I was too fast for him to sucker punch).  He got brused (I was smaller and faster).  Nobody won, we were both kicked out of school for two days.
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I think it happens because you decide to let it happen. Change your mindset and make yourself one of these people who isn't a target. It is easier than you think. You just need to decide that enough is enough.\n\nI was bullied up until about 1993. Its ludicrous, as I am quite a well proportioned individual. I would say that once a loser always a loser is untrue. But you need to develop techniques to handle bullies and bullying, like I did.\n\nHere are some tips:\n1. Don't take them on in their own territory (i.e., dont get involved in name calling, etc as they love all that monkey business). Deal with them like you'd deal with a logical problem - find the shortest path to handling them and do it.\n2. Some martial arts or other self defense training helps build physical confidence. You're not expected to ever use it, but its nice to know.\n3. If you are getting bullied don't kid yourself that you aren't. It can be dealt with, even without help or support. \n4. Drop people in your life who are not supportive or who treat you badly. This erodes your confidence.\n\nThe most positive thing to remember is that you recognise that the way you are treated is bad and wrong. It took me a long time to come to terms with that and once I did the rest was easy. After all, how dare people treat you like sh**? Who the Hell are they? You ought to think that way the next time someone looks down their nose at you, mistreats you or makes you feel bad in some other way.\n\nGood luck!\n\nR
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I'm a teacher in the UK and very aware of bullying in my class/school.\n\nThis is such a big issue. I never suffered bullying as a kid, but I am suffering as an adult at the moment. What has helped me is a special phone line and friends that I can talk to about it. I have also told my union and human resources and they are giving me help and support.\n\nI try to instil in my classroom ethos a sense of respect and rapport for others. We use circle time to tackle issues and I am known as a teacher that will listen to both sides of an argument. I do not have favourites.\n\nThat is not to say that I do not have children in my class who are not being bullied. It is unfortunately a characteristic of human behaviour.\n\nRecently I noticed a child behaving out of character, very withdrawn and depressed. When I tried to talk to him he would not share his thoughts with me. Later that day I was told by the head that the parent had complained about her child being bullied. I was upset to think that: 1) one of my children was suffering. 2) neither the child or parent had confided in me.\n\nHe did confide in me later and we eventually were able to work on the problem.\n\nWhat I have learned as a teacher is:\n- that the victim needs support as soon as it is noticed, but it may take some time before they are ready and willing to face the situation/name names/admit there is a problem.\n- that the children need to have a way to communicate with you. They need to know that they will be listened to and taken seriously.\n- that the children need to know what true bullying is. They need to try to avoid the 'cry wolf' syndrome as it leads to parents/teachers/adults not taking the true cases seriously.\n\nIt does help to have an overt school policy that has a no tolerance attitude to bullying.\n\nIdeas that have been suggested in out school are:\n-playground buddies\n-school councillors/mentors\n-bully boxes (this tends to be abused)\n-assemblies about bullying\n-secret buddies (where the children pick someone's name randomly from the class list to be nice to them that week) At the end of the week the children try to guess who their secret buddy was. They suggest the name of someone that has been nice to them that week. Names that are mentioned over and over again are praised and rewarded).\n\nThere are no easy answers to this. We have to be supportive and patient with the victim and firm about what is acceptable behaviour and what is not to be tolerated.
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OMG!  How did you get through high school?  Teens have been bullies for YEARS!!!  All kidding aside, just think of Columbine and the effects of ridicule are just the tip of the iceberg.
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Teachers are there to help you - I asked my health teacher about a problem with one of my friends, and she pointed me in the right direction, so don't be scared to talk to them!\n\n**I mean my friend was having a personal problem - so I asked the teacher.... I wasn't talking like a cat fight with one of them, it was something different....
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You are right about being bullied.  You need to go and talk to someone you trust at the school who wields some power and have this behaviour stopped.  If it makes you feel any better this boy probably has been mistreated during his life and this is the only way that he knows to behave for attention.  Having said this you do NOT allow him or anyone else to victimize you or anyone else.  By staying silent you are as guilty as the bully.  Put a stop to this right now and speak up.
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I am a teen and I have known people who have gotten bullied and my advice to them was to tell the guidance counselor and if they don't help (which is most of the time) then fight back because they are the ones responsible when you tell them.
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poor you! I was there too. But dont say 'people' as then you refering to all, but eg I am not doing it...\n\nI was bullied by my boss. It was horrible. It was not about me but him. He just was looking for ways to hurt me, just as he notice I cared about something, he went exactly for it!! If he noticed I was sensitive about something: that what he laughed about. Then he got fired.\n\nSo the moral of the story is: you can win!! Just be LOUD about it!! and record record.. and insure people can see it. When safe stand up to it. But also: STOP worrying the way you look. Abviously you have shown a sign that you were hurt or needed to justify youself. I am sure you look good and have great personallity!\n\nI just looked for the best site there was: www.bullyonline.org, but can see it is closed now. \n\nSo there is my staff for you to read from my presentation (my investigation) I did a while ago.. (I wish I could attache it for you)\n**************\nBullying\n**************\n‘The silent killer’ \n\nWhat is bullying?\n\n  constant nit-picking, fault-finding and criticism of a trivial nature - the triviality, regularity and frequency betray bullying; often there is a grain of truth (but only a grain) in the criticism to fool you into believing the criticism has validity, which it does not; often, the criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication \n  simultaneous with the criticism, a constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions and achievements or to recognise your existence and value \n  constant attempts to undermine you\n  being belittled, humiliated, demeaned and patronised, especially in front of others \n  finding that everything you say and do is twisted, distorted and misrepresented \n\nA bully is a person who: \n\nhas never learnt to accept responsibility for their behaviour \n  wants to enjoy the benefits of living in the adult world, but who is unable and unwilling to accept the responsibilities that go with being part of the adult world. \n  abdicates and denies responsibility for their behaviour and its consequences (abdication and denial are common features of bullying) \n  is unable and unwilling to recognise the effect of their behaviour on others \n  does not want to know of any other way of behaving \n  is unwilling to recognise that there could be better ways of behaving\n  denies everything, counterattacks, feigns victimhood or feigns persecution \n\nThe bully is an adult on the outside but a child on the inside;\n             he or she is like a child who has never grown up  \n\nThe bully: \n\n                has a Jekyll and Hyde nature\n\nThe bully is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature - only the current target of the serial bully's aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as "charming" and convincing enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde side is frequently described as "evil"; Hyde is the REAL person, Jekyll is an act \n\nThe bully is non-arrestable criminal \n\nThe bully: \n\n\n  is a convincing, practised liar and when called to account, will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment \n  excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive \n  uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy) \n  is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and lots of form - but there's no substance \n  is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will outmanoeuvre most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of conflict \n  is often described as smooth, slippery, slimy, ingratiating, fawning, toadying, obsequious, sycophantic \n\nThe bully: \n\n\n  relies on mimicry, rep