This older woman (40) and I (26) like each other, but she has a partner. Any advice of what to do?
363574
Don't worry. Just be her friend.\n\nA relationship is not only sex or living together.  She can be your friend and her partner too.\n\nHaving an attractive friend is not an issue.
841439
To be honest with you.  It is not about the choice of the two ladies.  It is you.  What you see in both these women is your ideal partner.  You may not be able to make a choice because whichever one you choose will disappoint you a bit. But having a crush on someone for 6yrs is something to cherish.  Do you feel guilty liking the new lady because you are so familiar with your 6yr crush? To make a choice I would be thankful to know what I want in a partner through meeting these 2 ladies and move on and find her.  If I was to be with one of them I will have feelings for the other as you said, they are pretty close friends.  So they both would always be in my life.  And the same 'what if' would be running in my head.\nLove is something you can't explain in words.  It is a overwhelming feeling that will never die.  It is knowing that you would do anything for that person and that you can picture yourself with them till death.  Love is like sharing with someone happiness, pain, experiences.  Love has no judgment.  You can love many people at the same time but you only fall in love one at a time.
596246
AGE REALLY DOES NOT MATTER!  ALL THAT MATTERS IS IF YOU RESPECT HER AND SHE RESPECTS YOU, THAT YOU CARE ABOUT HER, AND THAT LOVE CARRIES ALL RELATIONSHIPS!  IF SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY, JUST MINGLE YOUR WAY IN!  IF IT WORKS OUT, THEN EVERYTHING WILL FALL RIGHT INTO PLACE!  GOOD LUCK!
201978
age gap is not a problem really, but what is your actual age? are you in a stage to understand the difference between love and attraction? affection and passion? if not, Take the advise of the elders.
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
794648
You don't say how old you are or how old she is....It could be okay if both of you are of legal age.  I have a feeling one of you isn't.
438612
I think it's fine lad!\n\nThat is not a serious age difference. ther eis a lot worse, like MRS Stickmantons sister, who is a HO HO HO, Merry Christmas, and of course MRS Stickmanton herself is a beeeaaatch, oh what was I saying? Oh yeah MR. S's sister is 18 and she's seeing a thirty year old, thats a problem!\n\nAnd the UK doesnt take this age thing as seriously as us Americans do they? Is it illegal there?\n\nAny ways, if you do pursue this, you have to remember that there are things that she will want to do that you've already done. Dances, things like that. You can either do these things with her,let her do them,or lose her.\n\nAnd last thing, you must think with your head not your other... Part.\n\nGood luck lad. That bloody old hag of a wife is a callin!
1074744
tell her how you feel. maybe the two of you can work it out.
180009
If it was like 40 years difference that probably wouldn't work. I don't see any problems with a 30 year old and a 20 year old. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship.
633760
My brother in law married a woman older than him(I am not sure how much older).But she had a teenage daughter if that helps geuss her age.As long as both of you are agreed to see each other go for it.
353668
If it's been ten years and you've felt this way...go for it, dude. That's a long time to wait and I think it's for the best if you tell her. Otherwise, you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "What if?"
943313
If you are both adults, both not committed to anyone and you like each other age shouldnt matter. Ask him out.
352635
Well, I'm 26 and I have a crush on my professor 60! If it's bad for your, then it must be too bad for me, isn't it? :) Sometimes we can not explain why we are attracted by someone. Sometimes I thought that I'm crazy to fall in love with such an old man who worths to be my grandpa! But, i don't know. I can not stop. I do not know it's the right love or not but cannt keep my eyes off him. What I am trying to do now is to be close with him and find out whether we have something in common or not. Is there really a happy "future"? It may be just a first impression! There must be a lot of difference existing that require us to stand back and think! Calm down and take your time. I'm falling in love but still keep myself concious enough to identify the standard moral.\nAnyway, your case can be acceptable. The age gap is not that big.
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sounds like you better invest in some good running shoes & figure out which way is the quickest way out of the house. You sound very young to me, but just know that this woman is married and isnt likely to give that part of her life up the way she gave you other parts of her. I know it feels like love but it really isnt. What it is is lust, learn from these encounters with this middle aged woman and it will make you more worldly when you find a girl your own age to date or to marry..............
618100
its only 12 years, i know couples with a larger difference. if you put the time and effort into the relationship, anything is possible....as a older guy, i say go for it!!
520641
..Hi ...If you are serious about that girl..and you are shure that it is not a midlife crisis..you should talk to your wife..And eather stay with her/ or choose that girl...You cannot have both...You should make a fresh start then...and live with the consequenties...Think it over..and make the right decisson for yourself! ...People can advice you..but it is up to you...\nKind regards...And good luck..
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I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.