How do i get my ex boyfriend to understand me?
362564
Well I hate to say it but if he truly loved you he would have crossed all barriers to make it work . You would be setting yourself up for all kinds of hurt if you let him sweettalk you into something you know in  your heart is wrong . Why do that to yourself and prolong the agony ? You have already made your feelings known now the ball is in his court ! How does the old saying go "If you love something set it free and if it comes back to you its yours and if it dont it never was" Just DO IT ! It could save you alot of heartache on down the road .
307420
You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.
614659
I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.
279570
he might simply be missing your company and want to try being friend (one of my best friends is a guy i dated for 2 years) if he broke up with you...and now wants to get back...let him explain to you why he left you, and why he wants to get back together...from his answer, you should be able to tell if he's serious or not.  and then make him work for it...but be careful...if you're unreasonable, you might lose him again.  just make him think that you might have moved on by pretending to be busy.  don't just see him at a drop of a hat...ex. tell him you're busy today but maybe you can meet up tomorrow etc.
247691
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
626372
Honey, I know what you're saying. My ex does the same to me. One day, he's the best thing you could ask for, the next he's unbearably mean. On a good day, I accept that we've had a good day. On the bad, I hope the next will be better. Don't call him for a few days and see the change in his attitude. He's gonna treat you like dirt as long as he knows you're waiting for him.
902403
have nothing more to do with him .. when he calls just dont  talk to him .. the more you communcate with him the more he will see it as you may want to get back together
43839
Say "Good-bye", give a great "Sponge Bob" wave.  \n\nDon't waver from this...unless you want to look foolish.  If your ex wants you back, they'll let you know.  So, you can hold your dignaty and bow out, or you can beg and beg and beg only to be rejected more and more and more.\n\nIt hurts, all I can recomend is find something that makes you happy...Go find happiness.
784911
Pick up the phone and ask him to meet you somewhere near , but private enough to talk. Like a park or maybe a nice restaurant maybe. Tell him you just wanted to know "Why did you put your brother up to tell me you wanted to end our relationship?" Your still dumb. Let him tell you that it's not true. Then go on to ask do he still have feelings for you. Is there anyone else since you alls separation. You know everything will fall into place. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
986542
either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.
949702
there could be a lot of ways to show your ex that you want him back & that you still care about him..however, things happen for a reason & there should be a reason why he became your ex..sad to say, if things are not really meant to be, no matter what you do, no matter how you try, you can never win him back..so it would be better to just show you still care but if he doesn't care about you anymore, just move on & find someone who's more worth the efforts..Ü
240623
Just have a face-to-face talk with him, communicate your feelings (as gently as possible) and be up-front. There's no real easy way to go about it...my ex of 2-1/2 years broke up with me a little while back, she broke my heart, and I still think about her alot, but it would have been much better if she would have been more straight-forward. So tell him exactly where you're at, it might hurt at the time, but you'll both be better off that way!
254168
Assess your emotions first, who do you love more? Who treats you better? Do you really think your ex still loves you or does he just want someone to help him with his baby? \n\nAnd before you do anything with your ex, talk with your current boyfriend.\n\nDon't just follow your heart, use your head as well.
661319
talk to ur ex and tell him it was a misunderstanding. unless it's the truth, then u better break it off w/ him.
376714
This sounds more like it's confusing than like an actual problem.\n\nTry to relax and let your ex make up his mind.  He's obviously not sure what he wants at this point.
796569
why not send him a card and in the card let me know how you feel - if you are truly sorry - and want him back in your life - tell him this - let him know that this was the very thing he had to do to you to make you grow up and respect him.  but, remember, you really have to mean these words, you just can go back to your old ways with him - because the NEXT time, (if he forgives you, and, i think he will) he may not change his mind.   you can just get so many chances - until the person you are hurting, gives up on you. so hold true to your word to him, if you go with this idea. i wish you well.
72802
Most definitely bring him.  It will help your ex get over you.