how do i get a women that tells me she doesn't love me but tells other people she does?
358885
Sit her down and explain to her that you heard from other people that she likes you and ask her why she tells you the opposite. Maybe she is shy and thinks you do not feel the way she does about you. If you like her as much as she does, then, be straightforward and let her know that you like her as well. stop beating around the bush. Maybe she did this so that you can confront her about this and to give her some type of courage to letting you know how she feels. If you don't like her, let her know that,too.
895507
I would just straight up tell her that if she likes you that the way you play it is that she doesn't get to lead you on and needs to be straight up with you and honest.  Tell her what you are looking for and if she cant' give it to you then you deserve better and then find someone that wants what you want and someone that won't lead you on or talk to other guys while your "talking".  She sounds like she just wants to date around and not get into a relationship.  So tell her what you want and go from there with her your way or find someone else.
579834
Too bad we can't tell her just how much you don't deserve her. For all you know she could be the most loving person you ever met. If she isn't your type, just say so. Don't slur her, it isn't called for.
830655
First step would be to learn that love has nothing to do with how you feel or how you can make a woman feel. Actions speak louder than words buddy.\n\nExtravagant gifts and etc., dont impress people as much as simple expressions of love like listening when a girl needs to talk and sharing her problems without wanting to hear you're advice on how to fix it. \n\nFind out the things she enjoys, for example when I was 18 I met a girl named Kim. I had her brother go into her room and find out what kind of perfume she used. I then got her some for her birthday and she absolutely loved it. You see, simple things like that!
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
186699
Well this hard to answer. I've been through that with my family and friends. If she has an answer machine maybe you should tell her how you feel, since she doesn't talk to you. Tell her that you love her and that you don't want to argue, life is too short for that and tell her that you will be there for her. Even though she doesn't see what you do, you should just forget about it. Maybe soon she will see what you do and if her friends is there to see you do this they wont agree with her or maybe even listen to her. It sounds like she is very spoiled. Everyone doesn't have a lot to give people and she should see that you are helping her. Maybe even write a letter telling her how you feel about her. Hopefully your family can help you with this problem.
391504
There is a good chance it’s not just you she is lying to. She has probably done this most of her life and most of the time she isn't aware she is doing it until it’s done. She probably lies about things that are so small, the truth wouldn't hurt either. Most people that do this are doing so because they feel their life or the truth is so boring, they don't think anyone will care about them. It’s a cry for help and love. Show her she doesn't need to do this anymore.\n\nSet here down, sometime other when it is not an issue. Look her straight in the eye, while holding her hand; tell her how much you love her. Then talk to her how important trust is in a relationship. Explain to her that you are aware of her deception and it is because you love her so much that, most of the time you can see it in her face. Talk to her about how other people that do not love her and don't have the ability to look over this one issue to see the really great things about her, view her. Explain that you cannot live with dishonesty and mistrust, (and you cannot) but you want to help her, because that is what two people do when they love each other. They work through issues that have the potential to tear them apart.\n\nThen, every time she lies, and there is no one else in the room, give her that look. I know you have one. That look that says, Honey, do we need to talk about this. After a few times, she will respond, straighten up and tell the truth. You may even go through a phase when you might share a chuckle about it. It will take a while, but YOU can turn this around. If you don't, no one else cares enough about her to do it. It remains to be seen if you will stay together but if you help her through this, she will be in dept to you for the rest of your life and you will feel beter about any decesion you make.\n\nGood Luck.
983197
put your self in other people shoes. Even she keeps saying whatever she wants, she cannot destroys the person you are interiorly. Let her say whatever she wants it's a free country, don't worry about rumors, maybe she went through the same thing she's doing to you. Keep doing the good things, and people will appreciate you.
542180
Maybe you should carefully confront her about it . She wouldn't waste her time with you if she didn't love you . Maybe she's just uncomfortable with public affection or affection in general . I doubt it's anything you've done , but don't be pushy for her affection .
143745
This is an easy question. How old are you and your girlfriend and how long have you been dating? If she told you she is not in love with you, then she has probably been feeling this way for awhile and finally got the courage to tell you. If you want her back, all you have to do is ignore her, make yourself busy and when you talk, be somewhat short with the conversation. If she still cares about you, more than likely your unavailability will pull her closer. If she really doesn't like you anymore, that will be obvious too. If that is the case, then you should definitely try to not call her as much and find other things to entertain your thoughts so that you can move on.
19934
Honey, I'm going through the same thing myself. All I can tell you is that you can't make her love you. If things are meant to be, they will work out.  But in the mean time, realize that you don't need someone to love you to feel like a whole person.
359463
I understand your question. There are plenty of women out there who will love and understand you.  Don't waste your time on those who use you.  You're setting yourself up.
601404
You cannot force her to love you. Move on, find someone else who will love you too.
445075
She sounds as if she doesn't treat you the way that you would like to be treated. I wouldn't like it, but I am not you.\n\nYou sound like you need someone to hash all of this over with to make sure you know what you are thinking. On observation, you have not been close acting for a while. If you can't tell her, write it a couple of times to get confidence. Then drink a beer or a coffee one day and tell it to her straight. \n\nThen do what you have to do to be happy. No use wasting the rest of your life pretending. Time to be free to be true to yourself.
203478
It sounds like after she got to know you a little bit she found you were not the typ of guy she was looking for,no offence you may be a realy great guy,just maybe for someone else.If you want to work it out sit down with her and explain to her how you feel.If she gets upset right away and doesnt want to talk about it,that is a sign that she may not love youlike you love her.
907377
She is definitely sending you mixed messages.. If you can't be yourself around her you need to find someone who appreciates you for who you are and stop trying to be what she wants you to be..
1181659
Tell her to fess up to whatever she was untruthful about.  Its not good to deceive anyone especially someone you have feelings for.