How do i get my girlfriend to instigate the sex life instead of me?
371151
Hey, dont rush girls.  No matter how much we may say, at times we just freak out regretfully the next moment we're alone, believe me.  If she keeps on saying it though, she's probably toying with u, being glad to get ur attention.
936117
talk to your wife about spicing up your love life.\nyou never know, she might be just as lonely as you are, but before that maybe you should try to find out and understand why she's so against sex.\ngood luck!!
470152
Men and women have completely different needs when it comes to sex, usually. No, you can't change her. But there may be a deep seated reason she is the way she is. Perhaps something she hasn't shared with you or some fear.\n\nIf it is that troublesome for you, see a sex therapist or start marriage counseling.
1021390
You either have to accept it or find another one ... it's her choice you can't force her ...\nMaybe if you watch a few pornos together, maybe masturbate with her, oh and don't forget to give her oral as much as possible and she might come around.\nSome girls have flat out made their minds up and won't do this.  \nI think it's just another way to show your affection, love, devotion towards that person.\nI love watching my mans face while I'm taking all of him in, all the way down to my throat - it's nice to know I'm doing something right !
685413
Start acting like normal sex with her is unsatisfying.  For example, don't say much at all, and when you do make it seem like you are just saying it and not feeling it.  Also, dont' ejaculate until she gives you oral sex...but don't let her know what you are doing...see you're setting her up.  If she asks for sex or is in a sexy type of mood, beat around the bush (no pun intended), meaning try to get out of having sex a couple of times.  And whatever you do, don't talk or look at other women during this, cause she will just think that you are seeing another woman.  Show her a lot of love and affection, just make it seem like the sex isn't satisfying you.  Eventually she'll try anything to get you excited about sex...even oral!  Now, here is the kicker, when she does give you oral sex, OVEREXAGGERATE your pleasure.  Tell her it was the most fantastic think you ever felt!  And don't make fun of her or do anything to embarrass her while she's doing it...don't even look at her!  She might stop if she sees you looking at her and feel embarrassed and quit doing it.  After she sees how happy it makes you she'll do it again and again...and you have to keep up the act of how good it feels.\n\nIf after all this she doesn't do it, pay a hooker or get a new girlfriend.
327581
by stop calling her a sex friend and start calling her a girlfriend or such. Otherwise it sounds low key and open so that there couldn't be cheating.
427375
You need to sit down and have a talk with your partner.  DO NOT make it an accusatory conversation!  Tell her that you are satisfied with her sexually, but want to try new things.  Give her some idea of what you're looking for, examples, whatever.  Ask her if she has any ideas, also.  Throughout the conversation, reinforce that you are very pleased with her, you just want to experience new things with her.
1007464
do maximum fore-play with her.. and dont rush for intercourse.. defjietely she will like tahtt also shortly. encourage her for chatss and c couple of porn movies withh her \nbe patient
677943
I've offered this suggestion many times, and it has a great success rate...OR it shows you exactly what you have in store...Set up a nice, romantic setting - THIS IS NOT FOR SEX..DON'T LET IT GO THERE THIS TIME...Tell her that ahead of time when she sees the atmosphere.  Tell her you want to learn more about her needs and wants.  Have a list of questions in mind or on paper...show her you've really thought this out...example of questions you should ask...\n\nWhat turns you on?  Does the idea of candlelight and roses OR handcuffs and rope get you more aroused.  Do women, multiple people, couples, or just one man excite you.  Is there anything you've wanted to experiment with that you may have felt embarassed about?  Does playing with food, role playing, dressing up, anything possibly out of the ordinary.\n\nFind out what turns her on NOW...it may be very different from what you once knew...people change...and women change fast!!!\n\nMany times women have cravings that they are afraid or embarassed to admit...and nothing else fulfills them so they just put off sex because it's not worth it to them.\n\nOTHERWISE....\n\nShe's just done ...and you should move on...the way she reponds to your questions should give you some great indicators.\n\nGood Luck
293773
massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
1024441
Try letting her be on top more or control the pace. If she is in control, that shouldn't happen and when you want to be in control, just try to be receptive to her and not go in so far. I have this problem when I try to go hard and fast, but not so much when we use a position that isn't traditional and I can't get in so far. That way when I want to go hard and fast and can't get in so far because of the position. Anyway, there are ways you just have to be a little creative.
201321
Communicate and then communicate more.  Different people have different ways of feeling secure and loved.  Which does she respond to best?  Gifts?  Doing a favor for her without being asked? Words of assurance and acceptance? \n\nHer way of having her "love tank" filled may be different than yours.  Find out what kind of fuel she needs and I suspect your sex life will improve too.
93499
just have a talk!? communication is the best way... talk to her mother and tell to her that you don't want to have a sex relation with her because she's the mother of your girlfriend,the one that you love. And not only that, explain to her that it is bad to have a sex relation with her because you love her daughter and her daughter is the one you want to be with in your entire life. And her daughter will get hurt if she'll know about it and try to ask if she love her daughter. ok that's it...now it's your turn...
1179218
use condom, change position when you are close or try to please her with your other tools (hands or kisses.... depends on your preference)  this will give you time to slow down a bit.  don't wait til the last seconds to switch.
56421
there cud b some reasons for the inhibition towards sex...   may b past experiences...   i wud suggest that instead of medication u sud explore y she is nt interested in sex n try to remove that inhibition...   i m sure u ll enjoi much more than... :)
934842
It's probally just a phase, maybe she's overwhelmed with other things right now.  Try going back to the basics and romance her like you did in the beginning I bet she'll go crazy! Oh my situation is kinda similar....try with holding sex from her for awhile but you have to act completly uninterested and I bet you will see a tiger come out possible more so than when you first met!! Good Luck
499957
you don't have to convince her instead she has to convince you that what you are doing is a frank mistake!\nanal intercourse is really a hazard why do you want to hurt her?\nshe is right, try to keep your self away from it! it is dangerous even for you!