is this wrong for a cultural female to have a drink with her own husband.?
365178
Yeah that is just wrong. No matter what culture you are from you should not be forbidden to drink with your own husband. In a marriage you are both one in each other. =)
1077839
I think it is okay, but in moderation.  One or two drinks is fine as long as you don't overdo it.  I'm a Christian and I enjoy having a few drinks with my Christian friends.  \n\nBut Beware.  Some Christians think it is pure evil and will jump on your case, call you a sinner and a drunkard.  If this happens, be polite and go on your way.  As long as you and God are satified with your lifestyle, you have nothing to worry about.  \n\nOther Christians don't get you into heaven.   Jesus does...  Who are they to decide?
334710
iam with a woman, woman can give woman things that a man cant, and really shes going to do what over powers her more, if a woman gives her what she needs ,, you LETTING her doesnt mean a thing, even if you were home, if she felt that need she would do it.   becareful over there.... hope you guys and gals come home soon.
360520
The question isn't about whether or not he's an alcoholic. That's besides the point. The real issue is that his habits are preventing him from being a responsible, reliable husband and father. What happens if you decide to have a few drinks while relaxing at home one day? Who will pick up the kids then? Who will buy the groceries to feed the family? What if an emergency comes up and both of you are too intoxicated to drive? Why is it fair that he can lounge around and drink, leaving all of the responsibilities to you? You need to have a long, serious talk with him. Don't make the issue out to be that he's an alcoholic. Alcoholics are in denial and that will only infuriate him. Make the issue to be that his "habits" are preventing him from helping you with the daily household responsibilities.
456201
I know exactly what you are going through!  I've been married to an alcoholic for the past 23 years.  He has always worked and provided for us.  We have two children, one who is grown already(22) and a son who is 13.  You need to sit with him and have a heart to heart talk with him, when he is not drinking (that's very important).  He sounds like a good man with a problem, just like my husband.  If you continue to let this go, even though it's already affecting you, believe me, things will change and not for the better.  After so many years, our marriage has gone down the drain, he even left me for another woman for several months. (A woman that drank and partied with him, of course).  He's back home with me but it's never going to be the same, because he's still drinking even though he's detoxed several times now.  I wish you the best of luck.  And one more very important thing.  Make sure you have resources to take care of yourself and your children.  I was left without any, and I'm making sure this never, ever happens to me again.  I won't allow it.  Take charge of yourself, because if he doesn't change, it's not going to get easier.  Take it from a pro. If need be, look up an Al-Anon meeting in your area.  They are very good in making you realize ways you can help yourself.  If anything do this for your kids.  Even though they may be mentally challenged and he doesn't drink around them, doesn't mean it's not going to affect them.  They are still young, but they won't be for long.  And if this affects you, it will definitely affect them.  Children have a sense of when their mommy is not happy.  Believe me.
542157
I think you shouldn't be worried about why he wouldn't drink the coffee you made him. But why is he acting in this manner?? What is wrong? Why haven't you tried to ask him if everything was ok with him? Instead of trying to pressure him on drinking his coffee. There must be something terribly wrong going on in his life for him not to even acknowledge you. That's what's more important... Talk to him and see if everything is ok with your husband!!!!!
483920
If it was a drink to root out adulterating women and not babies, does that make God a misogynist instead of a baby killer?  Interesting that no one is concerned about the men that cheat.  Further interesting that God encourages a woman to be punish for cheating by death (the penalty for cheating was death for WOMEN, not men.  There is no penalty for cheating for men except his wife is allowed to divorce him and marry someone else -- according to God; she can't divorce him if he beats her, but if he cheats, well alright then). \nAnyway, how the hell is a drink supposed to tell if a woman cheated?!  Is it a magical drink that differentiates between her husband and her lovers sperm?  What if she douched?  Kill her anyway, just in case?
343651
I would start learning your husband's native language seriously. Show some respect by at least trying to learn his culture (by learning the language first). He will be so impressed by your willingness. Let alone your in-laws! And also, it is OKAY to remind (or tell) them occasionally to please translate the jokes in English. Or tell your husband that you like to get involved in the discussions and have him translate it for you once in awhile. \n\nAnd some insider, it is not that easy to have somebody speak in English (or whatever language you both share) every single time when English is not even their native language (this goes to the man. So appreciate him even more).
1179974
He is a married man, and has no business being friends with other women, if the friend ship doesnt include his wife, she has every right to be upset about it, as she shouldnt have to share her husband with anyone else under any circumstance.  He sounds like a disrespectful jerk to put her through this kind of thing as its not normal in a marriage.... So listen to your "other" friends and back off, you are over steppin your bounds!
307879
as long as she's going home with the b.f. what's the problem?\n\ntalk about it when she's sober and decide together how many drinks each will have. \nwho knows, maybe there is an underlaying problem she might discover. he needs to be supportive and not walk away if this is the case.(what comes around goes around)
884771
Sweethart for one thing you were drunk and his mom shoud take that into consideration anything you said or might have said is cause you were drinkin and more than likely upset. As for him not comin home that is bullshit if he wasnt planin on comin home he should have not set a time that he would be home. You have every right to be upset for that but stand tall and behind everything you said and if they don't like it they don't deserve you in the family!!!!!!
1086457
It is wrong because one of them would not be his wife. I am not the type to castigate you for what you believe in and want to do, but i think a man should only do it with his wife.
538136
I dont necessarily think its wrong as long as its with another adult and you arent doing it with children online.  I would suggest going out on a date rather than online stimulation.
361613
Yes it is wrong. Your wife will take it as a criticism to her own sense of style. As her husband it is your job to love her just the way she is and not to try to change her fashion style or anything about her. What are you doing checking out unknown women anyway? no wonder she's mad at you.
582257
no. i like to do that with my husband. it's us against the rest of the world....you're not doing anything wrong. you're wife needs to boost her own self esteem so she won't be so paranoid.
697971
As long as any girl takes the extra time and doesn't make anyone wait on them, I see nothing wrong with doing all the above. Some of us don't have to get drunk to have a good time. Some of us can come home with the same glow that we left home with. I find that to be very sensual for the guy.
598142
OKAY GIRL, OVER SHARE!!!! I MEAN REALLY.  OKAY, NO.  BUT EVEN IF HE WOULD, SWEETIE THAT WOULD SERIOUSLY STAY BETWEEN US.  HOWEVER, IF YOU'RE LIKE FREAKED OUT ABOUT IT AND YOU WANT TO PLEASE HIM, BUT YOU'RE NOT SURE IF THAT'S JUST DISGUSTING, ALL I GOTTA SAY IS TO EACH THEIR OWN.\n\nYOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO AND WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING.  IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE, THEN YOU LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW THAT YOU AIN'T GONNA GET DOWN LIKE THAT YOU HEAR?  YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO SH*T YOU DON'T WANT TO, I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE MARRIED!