what can i do to change a possesive partner?
367308
from my experiences i can surely say that it's not easy to chance men -especially one who is possessive.\ntry talking to him about how much you love him but still you've got work to do.if possible invite him with you.\nbut i don't think these would work.\nso the last thing would be changing your partner completely :(
255300
Give him a chance to change on his own, don't push him or you might lose him.  If he is really worth the effort, take your time and don't put too much pressure on him.  It must be his decision to change, or it will not work.
639421
You can change the clothes on the leopard, but the leopard will still keep his spots...You cant change a guy. Trust me they resent it hate it and wont put up with it for long. You have 3 options...Learn to deal with it and accept him, wash the dishes for him or move on.
316951
You can't. You cannot make someone else change something about themselves, especially if they don't want to. You can only change something about yourself - with difficulty. Please don't think it is your responsibility to make sure that your husband makes it. You can only sort out yourself. Far be it for me to cite organisations but check out an Al-Anon meeting if you can. They can show you some signposts. It is up to you how you choose to follow them. Take care of yourself. Best of luck with your own recovery.
1008269
You'll  probably be better off consulting with a lawyer.You will have to petition the court for termination of his rights,be required to post a public notice,usually in a newspaper, to announce your intention.A lawyer could very possibly make the transition faster and easier,especially in regards to your husband adopting her, and the subsequent name change.
1076470
people change..it all depends on how she changed........if you love her, you can deal with it
641213
make pet names ..call them constantly... intrude on the guy time... change his ways... complain alot... lie about something... cheat on him... hmmm there could likely be a lot of ways
744198
your asking the wrong person talk to your partner she should have the answers
803721
Get rid, I don't think anybody should be controlled. Find somebody who loves you and is genuine. Just because he is sweet it does not mean he can't be nasty. He's shown his true colours. No women deserves to be manipulated and grounded. Good Luck
611326
Move away for a longer time (rent a place elsewhere or move in with a friend or family member) till he no longer knocks at your door. And change your handphone or house number to a private number and make sure you give number to trusted friends or family only.\n\nI used to know a guy who does this, I moved away and changed my phone number and become uncontactable to him.
221214
if you can't change the person you must to communicate with try to change your attitude towards him: for example, try to find some strong and positive features and try to excuse weak
678561
Anyone can change, but only on a personal level. No one can create a change in a person, or cause reason for change. love is love and hate is hate, but only the person in question has the ability to choose how they will react to stimuli.\n\nTrust is also hard to repair, its can be hard to trust an abuser after you have been the recipient of their abuse. Besides that it is natural human behavior to want retribution for suffering, in that, if the abuser truly changed they would have to understand the complex emotional trauma that must be undone and dealt with in the people they have abused. \n\nIf you, or a loved one, is subject to physically OR emotional abuse from a spouse, parents or some other family member please encourage them to get help. Abusive behavior is the result of wanting to gain control, an that control is kept by silence. Just as much as the abuser needs professional help, so do all the recipients of that aggression.
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to thine on self be true...be who you are and don't change just because you think someone else wants you to.  When the time is right, there will be someone out there who appreciates you for who and what you are, you won't have to change anything to be with him either.\n\nHang in there!
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YOU can't change anyone.  If a person is going to change, they are going to change for themselves and if they attempt to change for you, you are going to be surprised later on.  It is not right to try to change a person.  You are saying you don't like the way they are about something.  If you can't handle the way someone is - we all have "flaws" -- then just step away.  What if someone wanted to "change" you????
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Contact a local law firm and ask them to write a letter on your behalf to your former partner. I have found that the implied threat of legal action is generally low cost and sufficient to get action.\n\nBest of success.
149305
Changing the partner between rounds.
574991
resolve within yourself the need to be possessed - easier said than done...but possible. Can you accept that someone can love you for who you are. remember the world is something of a mirror of our own beliefs. (not completely) but be thankful this person is in your life - you picked them at some level...consciously or unconsciously. remember true freedom does not depend on how someone else behaves. If you make the change within youself the outer world will 'adjust'. guaranteed. This person will either adapt or the sitation will change to reflect your next lesson:-)