Iv'e been dating my man for 4 yrs@im starting to fall for another man. HELP?
374567
First off, did you all of a sudden realize the current relationship was unhappy only when your new savior arrived? Or was it already crumbling? If the former is the case, then the fact is you're looking for something new and need a copout. But if the relationship you had was already on its way out, then let that fall completely out and see how the new thing goes. I warn that this may just become a quick fling. Infatuation in rebound over a long-term relationship occurs extremely frequently. But if that's what must be, then let it be. Just understand that you're probably not on the way to a new romance with the sitter's brother, but rather a stepping stone on the way to recovery with the soon-to-be-ex. I hope that if you take this course of action, you do not end up regretting it and realizing you had it so good with the ex and now it's too late because an impulse got you to think you found something that just wasn't there with an old flame.
126284
Keep your mind open to further possibilities. Don't compare the guy that you've date with your guy. I know it must be hard coz on 7 years of your life you only figure out him as your 'prince charming' in your mind. Open your heart to find the qualities that maybe you need on the guy you date with. Maybe you don't even realize that yet.  Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. \nRelease your guilty feeling caused you date with other guys. It didnt mean you not love him anymore. Let your love to him be a part of your sweeties memory ever.  Don't stuck on it. Move on. Please believe that your guy doesn't want you feel sad and stuck on the past anymore. He must be want to see you happy again. So release it...
725336
honey, if your having a hard time keeping your man's attention then you need to find a new man that is more interested in YOU.  but  while your still out with your man and you notice him paying more attention to the 'scenery' than you... you should look around yourself and as soon as you see someone else that looks good, keep your eyes on him even if your man starts to talk to you.. show him what it feels like not to have all of your undivided attention! ;)
1014210
My first thought is your not in love, you have not found Mr. right, so I suggest to you to break it off with the guy of 3 months and move on.  ALSO use protection it is a hard world out there and it is better to safe than sorry.  \nJealousy is the root of all evil......  It will get you no where FAST
378537
Well, obviously you need to make a choice.\n\nHave you and your current boyfriend really grown together that much if you can have the same feelings for another person almost immediately?\n\nIf not, perhaps you should talk to him about where your relationship is going.
816453
never go against ur instincts.. if u feel as if u cant trust a person then dont!! and as for the other guy .. give him another chance.. see if he can work it out this time and u never know wut u will find!!
195158
I'm sure there is another out there that you will love..Noone needs to trust a guy like that!!! He will keep on doing this no matter what you say or do. Believe me honey he's not going to stop!!! Please do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship before you get hurt!!!!!
488758
I say listen to your heart. Be true to yourself. If that other guy really loves u then i wouldn't take my chances messing that up for this one that just wanna come around all the sudden.
940346
continue being in the relationship I am in now
236118
Give up??\nhun..u cant just give up on the man that you love..firstly its great that you both are still on good terms, and hes coming to you for advice,thats absolutely brilliant..\nhun never give up on ur firneds..try try try again..explain..drill..make him realise..maybe hes not really in love wid dat other crappy lady..
764544
well dear , i think you are still too young , he is already 13 years older than you even though the age doesn't matter SOMETIMES, but you both can not be like each other much , because he is nearly grown man and your so young . And its very soon for you to start relationship with a man , am sure when you get older ; your ideals will be changed , and may be you will regret for choosing him and may be not as well. As you know relationship in young ppl would be ended very soon, because its not strong love , and no enough reason , most of them are sensitive decisions. And  i think its better you fall in love slowly but sensibly \n, if you do that your Love will grow by age and your relationship would not be finished so quickly and nothing can disturb this.\n\nGood Luck darling
405467
Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
970802
Have you just asked him.  Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her.  Then ask if he had to choose who would it be.  if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear.  If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else.  but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him.  He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you.  You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
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I think that whatever the reason for your intereste in this other man, it is telling you one very important thing: you probably arent ready for marriage. as much as you probably do want to get married, maybe this is a way of telling you to give it a bit more time. it doesnt mean that you dont love your partner. perhaps you should just take a bit of time before deciding on marriage, and spend it on analysing your relationship and if this is really what you want. marriage should be for life. so your partner should be the only man in your life, when you decide to marry. perhaps just for now, take time to enjoy eachothers company and maybe you can look forward to a Valentine's Day Proposal in a few months time!\nWhatever you decide, follow your heart. The decision either way has to be right for you, as you are the one living your life.\n\nMaybe discuss with your partner your concerns? &#92;\n\nBest of luck in your relationship
381169
Well, from experience, I told my gf one time (ONLY ONCE) that before I marry, I would like to date around a bit. She never forgot that. That was a comment I had long forgotten. More than a year later she brought that up in an argument about a reason we should break up. My feelings had changed and I didn't feel that way anymore, but she never forgot, and I bet that's still an insecurity in the back of her mind.\n\nAnyway, being a guy, there's no way around it. You may not want to hear this, but that fact that you're having interests in other men (let alone going out with one) is not only going to break his heart, but shatter it. \n\nI think, seriously, if you feel that way now, you might as well give the ring back. Because really, what is marriage? It's a complete committment (complete fidelity) to that person. If you're giving up on that before you two are even together, are you really sure you want to be married to this man?\n\nThe best thing you can do for him is to tell him the truth and get it over with. The longer you wait, the more it's going to hurt. AND if you do get married and have these feelings (and go out with another man you're interested in), you'll be cheater (if you don't condsider it cheating already). That's like a DWI, it doesn't come off the record too well. \n\nI think you need to take a good hard look at your feelings and your future plans before you start planning a wedding.\n\nLastly, honestly, bluntly, I don't think you need more time, I think you need to find another. 4 years is a heck of a long time, andd certainly long enough to decide if you really love this man or not. If you're considering other guys now - it's over for the two of you. Let him down gently.
910511
sometimes it takes time for love to grow...  And maybe he is realizing now that you two are in this together.  But show him you love him two men sometimes need that reassurance.  Best of luck..
1058857
stick with the one you like more and let the other go. dont hold onto someone when he could be finding someone who will care for him more