I am married have kids two great jobs my co workers love me but i dont have any friends why??
356854
Most people make their long term friends at school (Highschool or university). If you didn't keep in touch with them after you hit the 'big adult world' it's difficult to make true friends after that because there is less history. Marriage and having children also take priority because going out with friends takes a backseat after the kids and hubby/wifey come into the scene. Your co-workers are your friends now.
218311
The only person that can help you out of this situation is you. You have a mind set that everyone is leaving you behind and is going on with there own lives getting married gettin wraped up in there jobs. You should find what makes you happy and try not concentrating on what the people around you are doing. Be your own person.. and try to find the little things that make you happy. It also sounds like you might be a litte depressed... talk to some one if you can to help you release what your feeling inside.
645517
As I will do with others! Workplace is Workplace there is no friends no enemies all are colleagues. Yeah, after work though I explain her/him why I said like this.
700932
Dating and working. Working & playing. Sounds contradictory, right? \n\nWrong.\n\nYou can no more control your heart than you can stop breathing. \nBut ask yourself if what you are feeling is LOVE or LUST.\n\nDating a co-worker (to your EMPLOYER) means you have been slacking off on his time-clock; something that may cause problems between you and the co-worker in the future. By merely posing the question, you indicate your fear of on-the-job-involvement. You are attracted to him/her, but you are afraid to commit.\n\nThink about what that means. You are not SURE about this co-worker, are not prepared for a failed relationship among your peers, and are reluctant to completely give of yourself before you know answers.\n\nI have learned that "when in doubt, DON'T." \n\nYou have made a valid point. If things don't work out between you, more than likely, EVERYONE at the job will know about it. \n\nBesides being "awkward," you risk losing your job, your reputation and your appeal to perhaps, a more suitable partner.\n\nBUT - on the other hand...\n\nLove (true love, that is) has NO Address. This means it is entirely possible for you to meet your soulmate while dating a co-worker. \n\nTherefore, my advice is for you to: \n1. GO SLOW (don't rush into anything)\n2. GO PUBLIC (get to know him/her initally in the company of other co-workers at a restaurant, snack bar, etc.)\n3. GO AWARE (learn about his/her past relationships. You just may be another conquest or victim #___ on their playa's list)\n\nEnjoy the attention but always be aware of the RISKS. And if true love prevails, welcome it. \n\nI wish you well, my friend. Thanks for posting your question.
1068036
Behave yourselvs at work and carry on with work as usual.  Romance out of the premises.  I did that and kept a secret for 2 years, people just thought we were friends.
792622
Hi lady, Ya know I am kinda the same boat. Ive been married twice, the first one for 14 years. She is a great lady and all but we just grew apart. The second one was right after my first!!!!!!!! Bad judgment on my part! I found my second wife, I think too soon, because I was so lonely. Ive been divorced from her for almost 4 years and Im very happy. I said all that to say this, I dont know your whole situation but after my second divorce I realized it was my turn. I didnt have a lot of friends and found myself at home a lot cleaning or reading a good book. Now that sounds boring , but I was content at that time. I needed more, as well as you, I wanted to have some fun , as you I didnt get in the bar scenes so I thought I was limited. Well guess what , the few friends I did have were waiting for me to ask the same question you asked.  First I started going to football games with friends then to some races and now we have a group that meets every saturday at rotating houses to watch the races and socialize. Ive really found a great group of friends both new and old and havent been to a bar yet. My advice to you is to turn to your friends and tell them your delima. I guess my answer is FRIENDS!  By the way Im 43 and now scuba dive, play tennis and many other things all due to my few friends! good luck , you sound like a great lady
919060
It sucks but sometimes when you are in a position of needing the job, you have to find ways of dealing with it. Just remember that its JUST a job, its not your life, and everyday when you leave the parking lot leave your job there to. Go home and have fun with your kids. Maybe if you were to look at it that way and just have an I DONT GIVE A RATS ASS attitude then it will get easier to deal with and it wont seem like everyone's out to get you. Then maybe you'll get along better too.
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U shouldn't feel bad because ur the only one who's not married. Ur time will come when it's time, so enjoy the single life. U say all ur girlfriends are married ( BUT ARE THEY HAPPY)\n\nI'm the only one of my friends who doesn't have kids.And I don't feel left out \n\nSo I bet when u meet the right man and the time is right u will do the married thing
748307
I think that you need more than a friend...I think that you need someone that you can talk to who can help with why you are feeling this way.  Best of Luck!
106780
friends and boyfriends arent alike.... just feel lucky that you have lots of friends though u aint have a boyfriend... maybe its not the ryt time for you....
71904
because they are shallow i bet you are a fun an nice person but some people are raised to think they are better than every one else. i know how you feel i am alone my self its not a good feeling not to have any friends you can talk too.
867800
Your number one, and that should always come first!  Friendships can take a turn in either direction at any given time. Job opportunties aren't easily available and when opportunity knocks, open the door!
726957
You need a freindly colleague who cares for you always. In childhood there was your mother to look after everything about you. Now when you are adult your life partner(wife) takes her place to look after you. This is vice versa to your would be. Its an essential relationship without which however many freinds you have with you, you will miss her/him.
99510
I just got out of a really bad four year realtionship and left all my friends behind because they were people I shouldnt be friends with anyways. I have no firends right now either. I have a three year old little girl and she keeps me company but I feel lonely at times too. I understand how you feel. You can email me if you want anytime. babypeaceful@yahoo.com
250290
The best advice I can give you is to try and make friends with your co-workers or neighbors.  When I moved to the city I live in now, I became great friends with my neighbors and we hang out all the time.  Also I met people through work. And have made great friends that way too.  Another idea might be to join a class with some kind of interest to you and make friends that way whether its a cooking class, an aerobics class, or an art class.  These places are great for women getting together and hanging out.  Its easy to make conversation at places like this.  Once you've started a conversation and after a few times going to a class or talking to people at work its much easier to start planning things outside of these areas to go and have a drink at a bar or catch a movie or go shopping together.  Women aren't that weird about meeting new people and accepting new friends.  It has worked for me and now I have plenty to do in my free time.  I go get my nails done with a woman from work and another friend from work and I go to have drinks now and again, and my old neighbor I mentioned, we get together and our kids hang out.  When I took classes at college I met all kinds of nice girls to hang out with and we would go to the mall or grab coffee and hang out.  There are lots of women out there just like you looking for the same thing.  I hope I helped you!
182359
A lot of times, people are so consumed in their own problems, they don't even realize what they are doing.  Hang in there.  I have come to realize that if we have one awesome friend, we are quite fortunate.  I am sure you still have people around you that care about you.
876473
Sounds like you have a good heart and an open mind. My advice is to just let it go. A person like you will have no trouble making more friends, and maybe these two will grow up a little and it'll work out. Don't worry about it in the meantime. Just look on the bright side, you know you're a good friend no matter what.