hallo, my question is that why could my former boyfriend have pretended with me  so much that i did not notice
370144
I say get rid of him...if he cant show u the affection around his friends just cuz he wants to appear single then he doesnt love you...if he did he would want to show u off. hes using u.  he wants his cake and wants to eat it to...looking single to the world but behind closed doors hes taken.\nto me that sounds like a reciepe for cheating.  get rid of him and find a guy that cant wait to show u off. u deserve better
397384
because the person you have with you now is the real him...sorry but he faked you out... he's a wimp
745222
He might have just wanted to tell you that there were girls there incase you hear it from someone else. If that happens you'd start to question why didn't he tell you about it and wonder if he's hidding something. He's just trying to play it safe and be honest with you by keeping you updated about all the things that are happening.
843152
Maybe he didn't expect his ex to attempt to hack into his account?? Just a thought! Whether he goes on porn sites is no longer any of your business, and I doubt he still loves you with no contact... I don't wish to be cruel, but it's time you tried to move on.
940901
He wasnt your boyfriend was he? You both talked to him so why would you be mad you are not with him now.
176732
you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
1037266
Look for uncommon distance.. shrugging you off on things that use to be personal is a good way to tell that there is a problem.. If all else fails snoop around a little....but i would suggest to be pretty sure something is going on before you resort to that... cause it could cause more problems than good....really just pay attention to little things...especially eye contact if you ask him about it... i have found that most ppl cant look you in the eye when they lie to you!  good luck!
910702
You have every right to ask him how he really felt.  Go ahead, ask.  Make sure you tell him you aren't interested in getting back together, but that you just want to know how he really felt.  If you feel like it was all fake though, I'd trust your instincts.  Can you trust him not to lie to you about how he feels now that it's over?
923522
OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.
762110
I would end the relationship, and always wonder what other things I did not know about this person. People who do these heinous things can never really be "friends" with anybody, lest their secrets somehow be discovered. I'm sorry for you if you were duped. It is a real betrayal. Don't blame yourself in any way for not knowing. These people are experts at deception and duplicity. Good riddance is about all you can say.
817974
Of course he is going to deny it. He seems very immature and apparently has issues. Tell him that you will get the police involved if necessary and have your phone number changed. That's bizzare, since he's the one that broke up with you. Steer clear of him. Something just don't sound right.
144346
Ouch... I'm guessing you probably wouldn't be willing to talk to him about it? Definitely not the smartest or most honest thing to do... but maybe he was just using it to meet new friends? Probably easier to find people willing to talk to you if you're not already taken. If you've already decided to move on though, then I don't think it matters either way.  I'd just hate for something to become hurt and distrustful over a misunderstanding <=^)
993013
very likely, most people who cheat or are sneaky will occasionally try to project this trait onto the other partner to take away any feelings of what they are doing wrong and to make it look like you the other partner is just crazy and the one actuallly doing the wrong.
376502
If it is really don't put it here.\nhowever it's meand if be true deream, you hidden some thing  for your new boyfriend, you must be clear with he.\nEnd
376422
the fact you are trying to hide it is what shows so obviously...no one can hide true feelings... get a rebound, thats the only way to get over someone. your ex sounds like a jerk!
753795
when my bf cheated on me he would be really nice to me sometimes for no reason and i later found out it was when his guilt hit.\nhe cut his hair and went shopping for new clothes (changed his look a bit) \n\nstarted telling many stories about this "old friend" of his\nwas very suspicious of me and always thought i was cheating on him.
423601
He is being nosy and wants to see if you found someone else.\n\nHe also may be doing it to torment you, some guys are sick that way.  They are hoping that you will beg him to come back.