I recently got married to an Anorexic Woman, Everything was fine until She put on 50lbs, What should i do?
356290
You are too crude!   you make me laugh...\n\n50lbs on an anorexic really can't be 'fat' as you call it...\nbut yeah, dump her..........
920987
u're a really cool friend to be looking out for her! are u sure she hasn't got an eating disorder...obviously not anorexia, but maybe bullemia?? it's just an idea, so don't go accussing her of anything! she might just have a really fast metabolism, but dizziness and tiredness don't sound right for that! i dunno, maybe u can just ask her if she wants 2 talk about it or sumting...u're obviously a spesh friend to her!!!
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Are things or situations putting a lot of stress on your wife? Have you and your wife had any kids yet? Have you gained weight yourself? What things have happened in your lives such as eating habits and changes in lifestyle that might have encouraged this weight gain? \nFor one don't divorce her. Two, hopefully you married her on a higher level beyond her looks even though that also was an attraction you had towards her. Also for her to ask you she is already aware of the fact that she has gained this weight and would probably would like to hear such things like, "We can do it together, take it one step at a time,etc..." Do things with her like eating healthy, and exercising, so she knows she has your support in it. Also, try different sexual positions, be more exotic and make love to her because she wants it not just because you want it. Sex can also be a very exciting and fun way to lose weight. If all this doesn't work and you still don't find her sexually attractive then this is beyond her weight and I would advice you get help.
900605
After getting married your mother-in-law will make your weight lose down! Its a general practice :)
836209
Leave.\nShe'll be in such miserable health in 3-4 years.\nYou gave her your opinion now give her an ultimatiom. Yeah thats not right, but shes not taking the healthy choice.\n\nLosing weight does not make you healthy. Eating right and working out does\n\nMy friend had gastro 5 years ago - she is only 30 and on disability, miserable, sick,her husband left her. She probably wont live too much longer.\n\nGastro is a sad "hopeful" thing.  She did look great of course right after.\n\nGood chance your girlfriends drs wont allow her to do it anyways, from what you say she is not obese.  Maybe you could edge a word in to her dr too.
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I WOULD!!! I MEAN IT'S NOT ABOUT WHATS ON THE OUTSIDE IT'S WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS! RIGHT! I SAY DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT SO MUCH BECAUSE IF A WOMEN CAN'T/WON'T EXCEPT YOU FOR WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THEN SHE'S PROBABLY NOT WORTH FOOLING WITH!!! I THINK PEOPLE ARE REALLY GETTING TO JUDGMENTAL NOW DAYS!!! SO, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! JUST BE YOURSELF!! I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING!! I'M 25 YEAR OLD AN HAVE NEVER WEIGHED MORE THAN 120POUNDS AN AFTER HAVING MY SON WENT TO 150! I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING TO LOOSE IT EVER SINCE!\n\nWISHING YOU THE BEST!!\nAN IF YOU JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME!!
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It seems that you have more of the problem.  No one will lose weght until they are ready to lose it. So even though you have helped her (which is a great thing), if she is not mentally ready to keep her weight off, then nothing you do or nothing she does will work. It's all a mental thing.  My husband and I are overweight, he is also a diabetic. I try not to force him on anything. We work out together twice a week with a personal trainer and it has helped him out. I just try and give him the support that he needs.  That's all you need to continue to do, give her the support and maybe exercise with her to get her moving. Other than that, if she is a great wife and a great person, you are a blessed man to have her in your life. You need to look at the big picture.
826806
it may not be anorexia yet but it can lead to it with the behaviors she is exibiting. talk to her alone about it and see what her reaction is. let her know that you think she is fine the way she is. if that goes nowhere and you are still worried you may want to get her parents involved.
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Yes, my fiance is 6'3" and weighs around 150 lbs. He's diabetic, and when he's upset he doesn't eat a lot. Not eating isn't good for his health 'cause of the diabetes, so I'm hoping that he'll really enjoy my cooking after we're married. I'm very pudgy, very very full hourglass figure, I look like the Pillsbury Dough GIrl. I hope some of it rubs off on him!
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Have another serious talk with her saying "Hey I notice you havent been eating much, is everything ok??"  Don't accuse her of neccessarily having anerexia, as that woould put her on the defense...  Now you're coming across as a good concerned friend...  Maybe it has nothing to do with being aneroxic at all, maybe its a sign of depression...  Did she just recently lose someone close to her??  Or maybe a bad breakup??  Or heck maybe she just hasn't been feeling well the last few days...  See what she says...  If it's only been a few days or so since this pattern started and it's pretty sudden, it could be one of the above, just be there for her for the next few days till she slowly gains back her appetite...  IF however this has been an ongoing issue, whether or not she admits it (she'll probably be in denial even with herself) I would then say "well, you might say it's no big deal, but I am truly concerned for you..  I have noticed that all you ate today was a tic-tac and an apple, or whatever, and then tell her this is not healthy...  Mention again what you said about the running and healthy foods, which should be part of any healthy lifestlye, even if your not on a "diet", tell her you want her to help yourelf, but she's gotta do it when she's ready, and in the meanwhile if she ever needs anything to call you day or night to talk (even if it has nothing to do with food, like i said earlier there could be an underlying emotion helping cause this, the best thing you can do is just be there as a friend)...  From there back off for a few days or so, unless you see herself in an immediate life threatning situation, such as she's talking about suicide and stuff...  See if she takes your advice and starts to get help oh her own...  If she doesn't look like she's going to take responsibility for her own actions and seek help on her own, then you might have to...  Maybe go to her again and say "You know I noticed this situation hasn't getting any better (and possibly even worse) You leave me no choice but to go to the authority (whether it be a councelor, school nurse, trusted teacher) myself, that's my duty as a friend...  If you'd like we can go together to talk to them, and I'll be there every step of the way with you, but if you don't come with me, I'm still going to tell them..." She might be mad at you, but in time will thank youo....  Aneroxia is a very seriouos conditioon and needs to be adressed, don't let the possibility of having a friend mad at you, stop you..  I'd rather have a mad friend than no friend, and aneroxia is indeed fatal in the long-term...  Thing is it's one of those slow deaths where your body will just weaken to nothing, but your not going to die from starving yourself one day, many people fast for religious purposes, etc. for a 24-hour period...  Your body has enough fat and nutrients stored that you can survive, but over time, it WILL kill...  PLease talk to her today, don't procastinate...  Good luck to both of you
1122894
Dump her now.  Not because she is bad for you, but becuase you are bad for HER.  If you are so shallow that you can't get past her waist size, then get away from her.  If she has no self respect because of her weight, she won't have the guts to leave first, you do it.
907932
You could go hiking together, take up a new sport together (one that you're more-or-less on equal footing with), or just take walks.  Whatever you do, do not let her think for one minute that you don't accept her as she is or that you're trying to change her.  That will be the kiss of death to your relationship.  Believe me, she knows she has gained weight.  Don't do something "subtle" like buying her a bicycle or giving her a gym membership.  That is NOT the way to motivate someone.
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Accept her as she is. Nagging or pointing it out to her will not help her. It will actually make her crave eating more. Plus run down her self esteem. Believe me, a person who is over weight knows they are. Until she can come to terms with what is the root of her eating, and when she and only she decides it is time to change will she be able to do so.
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im in the same position right now. my partner is at least 100lbs overweight and im disgusted with him on many levels. not just the physical part, but his whole attitude. plus sex is unpleasant because i have back problems. i exercise, watch what i eat and am very conscious about my health. he his completely opposite. unfortunately, i cant go anywhere because im completing college and am financially dependant on him with my two children. its tough to be in this situation, i dont even sleep in the same bed with him because theres no room. we should hook them up together.
1041557
you should not worry so much what other people think, if you like her and she is beautiful to you, forget what other people say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.   and like you said, she is working on her weight, I myself used to carry around 20 pounds too much and lost them, with the help of my fiancee....but we worked together and had fun doing it together...but I did it because I want to be healthy and have a child.  don't make someone do something because you feel uncomfortable around them, good luck to you...God Bless.
597331
Sit him down and tell him exactly what can happen if he becomes anorexic again. Look him straight in the eye and tell him he is not fat. Tell him he cannot live off of milk for the rest of his life. Tell him his body needs food to function properly and with out it he could die, or become very sick. If that doesn't work, force him to eat something, like steak. I once read in Chicken Soup that there was an anorexic girl, but her father forced her to eat steak, and that night she realized there was a problem. Just let him know that you don't want him to risk his life because he thinks he's fat.
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R U saying you have a 21 y.o. daughter that likes to eat and you are trying to help her reduce it so she doesn;t get heavy or heavier?? IF SO...\nWhat I suggest is talking to her about exercising and maybe you or she can learn how to cook somethings that are healther.  But alos what I can add is I am currenlty losing weight myself and what God has allowed me to realize that most of the eating I was doing was NOT b/c I was hungry, but b/c I was lonely, bored, sad, depressed, angry, etc. (emotional eating). This maybe somethign to address with yoru daughter. I found that being heavy setI also ate more b/c I was overwieght. It's almost like trying to console yourself by doing soemthing you know is not healthy.  Eating for mea llowed me to not have to think or expereicne certain things for a certain amount of time (while eating) and even if it was 5 minutes of escape I woudl take it and even try to extend the time by eating 2nd's and 3rd's.  I suggest you pray and ask God to help you help yoru daughter an dgive you what to say that she knows you are not trying to judge or embarrass her but that you are concerned for not just her weight but her overall well-being, THEN speak w/ your what's really going on w/ her eating.