How should I get my boyfriend to belive that he shouldn't be afraid of my older brother?
142334
I find it hard to think much of a guy who says he loves you but would let your older brother get in the way just because he is scared of him.  Tell him to grow a spine and fight for the one he loves like a real person.
687975
Your girlfriend is dead wrong.  You were right to protect your little brother.  That's your job.  From your brother's reaction your instincts were right on the mark as well.\n\nYour girlfriend doesn't want to see the mean spirit behind your "friends" taunting of your brother.  The fact that they didn't respect your wishes further demonstrates their mean nature.\n\nFrankly, you need a better class of friends.\n\nGood job on standing up for your brother.
550487
You have to talk only with your sister.  Help her see that she is staying where she is because it is "comfortable."  (maybe not comfortable as you and I see it, but a comfortable situation for her, because she doesn't have to face the unknown.)\n\nDon't betray her confidence, unless she is in physical danger.\n\nWhat a good sibling you are for caring so much!  I hope you can help her!
913311
well u are right, they both are important. But think about it, if your brother dosent want u to like him, then clearly its for a good reason. maybe he sees another side of him that u dont see when they are together at practice. if he was a good guy i think he wouldnt mind you two being together. i suggest u talk to your brother and ask him why it is that he doesnt want u to be with him. If he gives a good reason then listen to him, if he says somethin dumb or he doesnt even know the reason why then just tell him how u feel about the guy and he should understand that he means alot to you. hopefully, he'll come around.
677651
Your have legitimate fears, and there is no reason you should have to live in fear, or be responsible for three drunks.  First, you must eliminate them one by one....Don't invite your boyfriend over as often. He should have more respect for you and your feelings.  Then,  have your mom tell your older cousin to stay at his house more often.  Then maybe your older brother won't have the desire to drink alone and climb poles!   You and your little sister have the right to feel safe in your own home!\nGood luck to ya!
361737
honey i have a little brother who is 6 and he is always hitting me well you should ignore it and it will because it will be old to him. getting a reaction out of u is what he craves!!  Or if it is getting worse aet an adult like ur mom or pop or who ever you live with so they can give hi dissplanary action riight away!
280319
This is a little tough, but to avoid confrontation between the brothers don't date either one of them. Just be friends with them and find someone else to date.
972495
Have you spoken to your brother about it? Tell him just how you feel. Tell him how uncomfortable you are and ask him to speak to his friend.
625675
If he is violent or has threatened violence then he can be comitted by you.  There he will be examined.\n\nIf there is no violence, then you must convince your brother to seek help.  You mmight do a little research on his symptoms and what disease you think he might have.  Use this infrmation when you talk to him.  Try and be non-threatening.
1123869
Act like nothing happened, see thats what i do with my brother, when he does really mean things then i just act like nothing happened, and that way he cant get mad, and then he wont have a reason to fight with me, see my brothers 2 years older then me and can be a reall big pain in the butt,
74174
Is your brother older or younger than you? If there is an age gap than it is inevitable that you two wont get along. Maybe he just doesnt understand you. Try to understand some of the things hes interested in so that you two can have something to talk about.
322162
Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
104945
listen, tell this to ur bf and say tht u r hurt by his opinion and plz donot behaved rudely,just be kool and try to more attentive on him and when he will tell bad about ur bro just say if do this kind of things in future u will not able to continu this relationship,be strong and if he really love u then he will stop to say bad thing about ur bro,and if he donot care about ur feelings and understand tht he doesnot love u.i know this opinion is really harsh for u but it is true.
954789
Well, I read the follow-up question (at least, I think that was you), and gave this some thought. Not that I know the answer, but here are things to consider:\n\nHow close are you to your step-sis and half-bro? Can you talk to your step-sis calmly, tell her you know she suspects you're having a relationship with her boyfriend, but you really don't find him attractive - you only tolerate him for her sake - and then, if she accepts this, ask your half-bro if she can come?\n\nIf not (or if she won't accept it, or your half-bro is determined she shall not attend), then when your step-sis asks, you tell her that you're going to your half-bro's. When your step-sis asks "what about me?" or words to that effect, you tell her "you'll have to ask our half-bro."\n\nThen you tell him, and his mom, that you know your step-sis is difficult, but you love her, and you love them all, and you aren't getting in the middle of this.\n\nThen you  back out.\n\nBecause it's up to him and his family who they invite into their grandma's house (it's technically up to his Grandma who's invited). It's also up to them to tell your step-sis why she's not invited, if they choose to do that.\n\nUnfortunately, family tensions do arise from time to time, but you can't control what other people think/do/say - so all you can do is be honest with kindness, try not to make things worse, and let people work things out for themselves. \n\nIf you get between people (for example, trying to explain to your step-sis why half-bro doesn't want her there), you'll end up building up the problem (the more people involved in a problem, the bigger it gets), and eating dirt from both sides for Thanksgiving. Good luck!
767385
ok, so i lost you there at the end, but... there is always someone who gets all weird & acts distant to the family. they usually have other issues & i really suggest just staying out of it all & avoid such drama. making a fuss is only going to piss the brother off instead of making him WANT to be around the family. you can't assume it is only the woman who wants to keep him to herself. unless he says that. there may be much more to the situation than what you realize. so, i would just enjoy the family you have & accept your brother for the decisions he chooses to make.
425710
hope it will help..it does appear simple to do but maybe hard to accomplished..but check this out !!= )\n"they knows your brothers..but they don't know you..."\nwhat not to hang out with your brothers for a while..and see how it goes..if you still have the same kind of answers\n..then..try to avoid all of them ..while walking ,eating..etc..with your brothers..and you see his friends..or who else..(who use to ignored you...)approaching and get there to talk..etc.. in front of them you really show them ( ex; get in front of your brothers and say..see you later guys..quietly and on smother motion kinda..and do not look the others...and go!)to show them you're leaving before they get to say anything.....now after you had did this few time..(give the time that they noticed what  you are doing...)someone should realize that and acknowledge your presence and include you as the sister!!as a respected person...that they can also talk too...( but make sure your brothers..still cool with that..because some brothers are really protective..and wont like they friends..or..getting friendly with their sister).so keep it cool with both side...:still cool with your brothers and only keep it cool with the others once they acknowledge you!! okay..hope it helps!!
1158756
He is just being a big brother... He probably will always see you as his responsibility... Some siblings are just made up that way... If you were hurt, he'd hurt and would want to find an outlet...\n\nJust let him know you appreciate the kindness... And if you need any help, he is the first you'd approach, but some things you need to go through yourself without a safety net... Then kiss him on the cheek and wink at him... :D