A girl I met at college wants to maturate me, should I let her?
157119
Listen to Manager123 - He speaks the truth
270401
I think you should tell her...you said there's a 99% chance of her rejecting you...but you will go on regretting that 1% for not asking her...which might be a yes...So wheres the harm in that..Take your chance..
479662
don't do it if you don't wanna, it'll just seem a bit fake. I'm sure you do plenty for her anyway or she wouldn't be your girlfriend! just be yourself.
370610
First get a grip of yourself.\n\nSecond, if u do feel so strongly about her, go ahead tell her. what's the worst that could happen- she could like you said 'reject' you- then you do what you are doing right now- love her from a distance and keep trying to win her over. \n\nThird, point to consider. Maybe since you quit college, she thinks you are a loser. Don't prove her right by messing up your job situation. You are trying to win her over not shoo her away by proving to her that you are not worthy of her love.\n\nGood luck!
1131746
no, im not saying she has to be desparate. lol no need to cuss im just gonna say she doesnt seem to be so interested in u. that is if ure trying to make her like u.....if not then just go with wat u feel like u should say.
441335
I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
315173
Man you're killin yourself thinkin about it...just go for it!Worry about that in summer...you'll be sad either way towards the end.But if you get w/her now you can bring some sweet momories w/you to college...
362229
Yes, You should tell her how you feel and do it in a romantic way! Take her out, tell her you just want to go out before she goes to college and make her think that she is just going on the date as a friend. Then you tell her your feelings!
425686
Relax.  Your grades are not as important in college as you think.  Experience is going to get you where you need to go.  And as far as your girlfriend moving away, it happens.  I have personally gone though it.  But if you want it to work out, you have to work at it.  Stay in constant communication.  And if it is meant to happen, it will.  RELAX!  It wil be painful, but if it does last, and you see her again, it will mean all the more to you and her.
1052599
She would probably be very happy if you let her have her life the way she wants it.  Forcing a situation may strain your relationship with her.  If you are set on this, find an event you two could attend together where there would be a mix of people including men her age.  That way it doesn't look like you are forcing anything but rather giving her an opportunity to meet people.
466548
wrong approach: "hope you don't mind"  , if you don't think your worthy, why should she?   Instead, tell her you saw something that you wanted to share or made you think of her, compliment her on some attibute that you find attractive ( her laugh, her brain, her quirky sense of humor, etc....)  Leave an opening, or ask a question. to encourage a reply. But this is your first written interaction, take it slow, let her warm up to the idea of corresponding, leave her your IM address.  And don't freak out if she doesnt reply, its spring break, why should she check her email account?
712081
yes,give her her fantasy,u had ur share of fooling around,let her have her share under ur supervision,coz after that she will be married to u and no more foling around,so grant her her last wish before marriage.it is only fair thing to do.
805263
Dude, Their isn't a way,, and if their was you shouldn't do it. Be yourself so she gets to know you and grows to perhaps like you.
834944
As long as you're  begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to......  IF nothing else works out for her.  From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway.  Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young.  (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.)  Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy....  But, know what?  You're young, too.  Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of  your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus.  You know, something that you're really interested in.  You' ll probably  find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building  your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.)  You might just find out that  you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.)  I know this is very, very difficult advise to take.  You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be.  For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.  There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet.  It's sad if you choose to cling to the past  at such a young age.  And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't  so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her!  Think about it - and, best of luck to you.\n\nPEACE
1027864
Hey i think u should now concentrate on ur studies..i feel she's trying to get u to feel jealous..just move on with life...answer her calls once in a while and tell ur movin away and u want to concentrate on ur studies..cuz this is the age where ur whole future depends on ur studies in college..dont waste time tryin to tlk to her...MOVE ON DUDE! All The Best.Tke Cre.
129109
you dont 'show' her...we are not animals....just tell her your feelings are growing rather quickly...but for god sakes, man, dont scare her away...maybe shes a late bloomer...she'll come around if your sincere...peaceout !
1001034
Mhmh...yeah..of course you should! So that she would understand how much does she mean to you.. ;)\nGood Luck ;)