what do you do if your family disowns you and your afriad to talk to them???
153354
Whatever it was that made them disown you will surely dim as time passes. Give them time to cool off, do a lot of growing up yourself then you make the grand gesture yourself. It may take years, and pride will surely get in the way (on your part or theirs) but in the end having family means everything. Once you grow up and change your ways (if that is it) they will surely see the light.
602374
mmm, have you talkeed to her about it?\n\npeople generally don't just disapear without reason. \n\nare there fights in your family?\n\nIs she happy with her life where he is?\n\ncan any of the problems she's having where she is be fixed.\n\nmake an effort to make her life better and she wont want to leave it.
913182
Just say no and apologize.  If they are friends they will understand, but you also must be a friend to them.  You may need to cut a few ties and keep just a few close ones and the others can be aquaintences.  Or you can have on big party a few times a year to make up for it.  I have too much family, seriously.  I can't possibly see them all as much as I''d love to.  But I can't dump them either.  My kids and husband come first.  It's very difficult but it's the only way it will work.  Have a great day.  Wow, I think this is the 3rd question I answered of yours.  Honestly I"m not stalking you.  You are just where-ever I am.  Wierd...
322162
Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
192618
tell her you need a little space.\nor perhaps that you moved to canada.\n\nbut i just try to avoid them.\nlike if i'm on the phone with them and i don't want to talk very long, i tell my mom to yell at me to get off the phone.\nthen act all bummed that i have to get off the phone with them.\nalso, if they want me to go somewhere with them or do something, i tell them my mom said that i can't.  and pretend to be mad at her.\n\ntrust me, it works.
738386
You need to just call him and tell him that you know that you've made mistakes, but you really miss your mom and you really want to be a part of your sister and brother's lives, if he'll give you that chance. Explain that they are your only connection to you mom and though you weren't there during her death you want to be able to remember her with the people you love. I know the way I said it isn't how it happened but he's going to be much more likely to believe you and let you spend time with your family if you go along with his side of the story. Just talk to him and ask if you could maybe take your siblings out to lunch and talk to them about their lives and your mom because you really need to reconnect with them. Just be humble with him and honest about your feelings. I know what it's like to be completely disconnected from your family and then to try to reconnect after a tragedy and it's hard. People tend to think that you're being fake and you'll leave right after the tragedy is averted. Make it clear to your step-dad that you are there to stay and you want to be a part of their lives.
1007234
well,. you could always make a quick account on some random site and email her from that.\nbut the main point is- find some way to contact her ( maybe through a friend, by phone, by letter) and explain it to her.\ndon't let it evolve into a family problem, because nothing good will come of it.
941310
What can you do? Apologize and if that doesnt work, its not like you can NOT let your child go there if he/she wants to... ya know? I think your family should DEF forgive you for things that are that far in the past, but its not my call... Good luck sweets.
858076
Have her killed and thrown in the river that's what I wish I did. My ex's family all hated me even though I was the one who supported him and treated him better then they did.But after 6 years he still wouldn't stand up for me so I got sick of the drama and left his jobless ass.My point you ask is this.If they won't die just stay the hell away from them cause once a mother has it in her head that your not good enough for her baby boy not even death is gonna change her mind.You could die tomorrow and she'd probably dance on your grave(mother in laws like that are all the same)
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
761072
It's your day.  Invite your mom and step-dad, but not whoever they might be with.  Stress that the invitation is for them alone.  Also, tell them tht if they start arguing or fighting, that they will have to leave.  It's not worth it to have them there if it makes you unhappy.  If that makes  them mad, too bad.  They don't have to come.  Remember, it's what makes you happy that matters.  If they make it worse, just don't let them come.  If they love you, they should accept the temporary peace you're suggestong.  After all, it's just for a day, isn't  it?
970590
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
614821
Worst thing that you could do to your family??  Directly?  Indirectly?\n\nAnything can be forgiven if the one who is guilty of the transgression toward the family goes to each one of them, sincerely apologizes, and never repeats the transgression.\n\nUnfortunately, it will be up to the individual whether or not they are willing to forgive you.  Also, just because you're forgiven doesn't mean you will be allowed back into lives.  You can forgive someone; but you, very seldom, will allow them close enough to ever hurt you again. \n\nForgiveness from anyone is not a ticket to putting a relationship back where it was before the betrayal, and it's a very thin consolation for losing the trust of family. Sorry.
468756
your still gonna have to talk to them. eventually.\n\nor will you ?????
196552
Did you try telling them..If not just don't be anywhere near them alone. Tell your parents and take appropriate action.
292761
You need to confront them in a straight forward manner after you've gotten past the really angry stage.  You need to let them know how what they have done has affected you and what your reaction is to this, if it is leaving or what ever.  Just don't let your anger and pain control the discussion, you need to be clear headed so you can make good choices about what you want to happen for your future.
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.