Is it generally advisable to start a relationship with a girl who has been your best friend for years?
150818
Absolutely... The best relationships are the ones that start out as best friends...
186679
The best relationships are usually ones that comes from being best friends first!  I say tell your best friend and hope that a beautiful and wonderful relationship comes from it!
924423
If she is also your "best friend" then she will be there for you, and you will feel so confortable with her that she could be your sister or cousin or something like that.  However, don't be surprised if she doesn't call you her "best friend" right away.  My best friend and I have been friends for 6 years, and she didn't say the words "best friend" until about 2 yrs ago.  She also taught me that she can be your "best friend", but she may have another "Best friend", as was the case with us at the beginning.  But if it is a true, "Best friend", long lasting relationship, you will just know.
1027671
yes.....become friends first...if you love her wait to see if she loves you...go from there...
377281
If it's your best friend, then you owe it to them to do what is right.  An intimate relationship with someone close will change your relationship, maybe for the better, but maybe for the worse.  Are you willing to risk your friendship?
829819
Yes. It is possible. I have been friends witha guy for years...nothing's changed...we're just good buddies...
788953
I had a best friend that we were attached at the hip from 4th grade till a year or two after graduating highschool. \nThen our lives just took different roads, we still run in to each other from time to time.
293492
No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose
523810
in that case, i would think that u should move on since u had known her 4 to 6 years yet she only treats u as a friend.. i have a friend who has a crush on a girl for 8 years.. but in the end the girl didn't accept him and instead flew to russia to do medicine.. it is a bit hurt but u have to move on.. there is no point hurting yourself in the end..
206569
I was in love with my best friend and I told him. He didn't feel the same way as I did but that didn't hurt our relationship either, it actually brung us closer and our bond grew because of it. It's a huge risk to tell her but if you really feel strong enough, I say go for it. Who knows, your best friend could always become the best girlfriend you ever had and if nothing else at least she will understand how much you care about her.
304820
No, it's fine. You've been together a very long time. Why not make things more convenient?
482792
My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
492322
If the person is involved in a relationship at this time or you are, you should keep it to yourself.  If both of you are not in relationships, you should tell the person how you feel.  As best friends, you already have a great level of communication and the other person may be feeling the same way as you but is afraid to spoil your friendship.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  You will still be friends no matter what and even if the other person doesn't look at you that way now, they may start to consider it and you may have a chance in the future.  Good luck!
1079370
So you know each other for 2 years..I think it a quite a bit of time in which you might have known each other.\n\nIt is very natural that best buddies often think of next higher level.You also told that he openly confessed he likes you.Now make sure that you also have the same feeling before you go ahead because you said 'I think I like my friend'. Make sure that "I think I like my friend" becomes "I like my friend".\n\nIt is wonderful to be in relationship with someone you know for a long time.\n\nAll the best!
1045643
My bestfriend and I have known each other since 7th grade, however, we wern't really friends till 11th.  We have had our rough patches, but no matter what is going on we would always be there for one an other.  Recently I needed to borrow a faily large amount of money for a settlement on an old debt.  She let me have the money (my family would not do this for me), since I have paid her back.  I think that people may have bad expirances with so called friends because one trys to take advantage of the other.  We would never do this to each other, it is far more importaint to me that she is always a part of my life.  She has been my bestfriend for 10 years and I don't plan on that ever changing.
821434
My best friend since high school (25 years) is a man and I wouldn't have it any other way.  We share everything, when we were dating (other people not each other) it was always nice to have someone of the opposite sex to ask all those why and what if questions to.  \n\nMany people thought we should date but we didn't want to change anything about our relationship it wasn't worth the unknown.  We have been through each others marriages, boyfriends and girlfriends that are now over but the two of us are still together as GREAT friends.\n\nStick to your guns and don't let anyone tell you who to date, sometimes dinner with a friend is way better then with a date (you can pick off a friends plate - haha)
255700
You didn't word the question in correct English, but I think I got the idea. Yes, you should date your best friend! That is the most ideal mate any girl could ever ask for.