i want to have intercourse with my boyfriend but i'm wondering when is the right time to put out?
151067
you'll know when it is the right time, when you both feel you are completly ready. It's best if you speak to each other about your thoughts. If your too scared to talk its not a good decision to give it up because it will probably be a mistake.
154184
it depends on your beliefs, i believe that you should only have sex when u know that you really love the person, and before you have sex u should become friends first and really get to know and trust each other, its not about marriage its about maturity and commitment,
453422
I dont know for sure if you could get the other person to do this but my best advice is to not do it at all if you need to be completely sure. If you must do it though you could be sure to use a condom, and birth control if you are on it. But hey if you think you gotta be totally sure just come out and ask it means that you care about your body and you have respect for yourself and your partner but I guess that it would not hurt to ask.
76258
Don't go against your religion.  God is more important than your boyfriend.  How long have you been going out with him?  If he has sex with you but there is no commitment, you will be in much worse shape in the end.  Wait until you are married so you don't get hurt.
656146
when you are ready... I look at it like this...\nIf you are mature enough (not embarrassed) to protect yourself.  If you can buy whatever you need to keep yourself from getting pregnant or contacting an STD, and not feel like you are doing something wrong or forbidden then add another year... then you are ready.  There is nothing wrong with waiting.
685397
Don't ever let any guy pressure you into having sex. You will know when the time is right. And if some guy really cares about you he will respect that.
63688
if YOU want to have sex, then by all means do it!  but if it is HIM that is pressuring you, you need to tell him that you are not ready yet.  if he loves you, he will wait.  'til then, there are plenty of other things that you can do to keep each other satisfied.
690074
You might want to really think about this when the situation isn't right in front of you, kind of like you're doing now.\n\nThere is a lot of room for variation in "I don't feel like having sex".  Are you feeling like you don't really feel like it much, or are you feeling like you REALLY don't want to have sex, that it would be a miserable experience for you?  \n\nIf it's a matter of not being in full mood, maybe he could be the more active partner and you can be more passive.  I don't think that anyone should have sex against their will, but sometimes I used to say no and it wouldn't have really been a big deal to say "yes" either.  Guys don't always need to have extended sexual contact and this kind of time would be a chance for him to sort of have an express lane sort of experience and then go to sleep.\nIt's possible you could become more interested in more extended lovemaking, or maybe you won't.  Who knows?\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to have sex, perhaps you could make a date with him to have sex the next day or in the morning or later that night or...\nwell, you get the idea.\n\nYou could even tell him why you don't feel like having sex--too tired, too worried, whatever.  My experience is that my guy doesn't really want to hear about it and he backs off.\n\nIt's too bad people's moods don't line up better sometimes!
373803
When you and your partner are both mentally and physically ready. Sex is not a game and shouldn't be taken lightly.\nDid you know that you can actually die from having sex.\n(aids) So use protection and do it only for love.
484856
I think if you're living with someone, it's perfectly acceptable to be having sex.  After all, you're in a healthy, committed relationship that's one step away from engagement/marriage.  The only thing missing is a certificate.\n\nWith that said, no I don't feel I need to refrain and... 67 days.
593639
I did it when I was 15, but I was with the guy for 4 years. I do wish that I had waited longer, but I wasn't pushed into it.\n\nDon't let people push you into things that you don't really want to do. If he keeps bothering you about it, then you need to tell someone. Like a counsellor or something. You don't have to tell them that you have already had sex. Just say this guy keeps pressuring me to have sex with him, I don't want to and he won't leave me alone about it. I know its easier said than done, but you should tell someone you trust who is older than you.
1080500
say it when you mean it. well done for not saying it just for the sake of it. be flattered that he told you that, i would be. it doesn't matter how long you are together, 2 days, 2 weeks or 2 months. whenever you feel it is the right time to say it!
35393
17.  At the time it seemed right but it did not last. Typical in youth relationships.\n\nYou want to be mature enough to handle the consequences of having sex. Liek STD, pregnancy, etc. Even if you protect yourself you have risks. Do not feel pressured into it and know that yu have your life ahead of you, Choose wisely it only gets better.
1175444
no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.
480498
This cannot be stated in a fixed period. You need to assess the level of understanding & closeness in the relation. Some people get closer and reach good understanding soon . In that case you can have sex soon . If you are still didn't reach good understanding better wait .
125829
Wait until you are positive you have fully matured mentally and have made every effort to think through it, then wait a few months and seriously think about it again.  Then make up your mind if you are ready.\n\nSome things to consider:\nMake up your mind about what you do and do not want to allow to happen before being with someone.  Set a line and don't cross it just because it feels good.  You set the line for a reason.  Maybe set another line for if you get really passionate and want to go further.\nAre you thinking this through while calm and not horny or around the other person?\nDo you want to marry a virgin?  If so, you might think about being one too.\nDo you want to risk STDs, some being incurable or causing death?\nDo you want to risk pregnancy?\nDo you want to risk sex becoming a big issue when deciding your emotions toward a person or whether you should stay together?\nHow will you feel if you break up with this person after having sex?\n\nI'm not saying sex is bad or wrong (it can be a great thing), but it is a serious issue that must be thought about appropriately.  Don't think that you have to have sex as soon as possible, it will still be around when you get older.  You can only have your first time once.\n\nAlso, discuss any boundaries with your partner so that he or she is able to respect them and help you keep them.
305027
Well just tell him, explain it the way you did here. Since you two are already intimate, no guarantee that he will wait around the three months. In the future wait longer before you become intimate with someone, instead of changing your mind after wards, and cutting them off. That is going to send some pretty mixed signals. Hope it works out for you, if he does stick around he's a keeper ;)