how can I help some one in depression ?who I live with.?
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Well from personal experience, be a good listener for them.  Encourage them to talk to you or anyone that they can trust about what is bothering them.  Above all don't let them fall through the cracks.  Encourage them to keep doing the things that they need to like go to work if they have a job or go to class if they are in school.  If they stop doing these things, matters will only get worse.  For example, if they get fired because they haven't been going to work that will add to their depression because then they feel like they are worthless, so to speak.
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Talk to someone you trust, either family or friends. If they cannot help, see a doctor, try psychotherapy support, ask the specialist if anti-depressants may help you. \nAlso try to enjoy yourself, go out, look for a hobby, there must be something of interest to you, go to the movies, mix with happy people that make you laugh. Try to laugh a lot even if you feel you can`t. Good luck!
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Depression is like a downward spiral where the person cannot stop thinking in a negative pattern, this feeds on itself and can become crippling to the point where the person can hardly function.\nTelling the person what they need to do will normally not help, in fact it sometimes makes the problem worse because they may feel that blame is being added (like it's their fault they are feeling this way).\nPersonally, I would do my best to be a good listener, remind them of their good qualities and encourage them by mentioning some positive things through the conversation.  They won't get better overnight, it will take some time and a number of talks.
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You are a very strong and kind person and I wish you all the best of luck with your gf.\nMy friend is a manic depressive and her partner has been with her for 5 years now. He loves her to bits but at times has felt like he was making himself ill aswell. He learned that he had to put his own wellbeing first sometimes, so that he was able to give her the best he could. At one stage though, he did try to reason with her, by telling her that he had 'stood by her all this time' and she still wasn't getting any better. At this point, she ended it, blaming him for the way she was (she had been depressed from a young age) and evidently got worse. When speaking to her, she felt that he was only with her in the hope that she would get better. This was an awful pressure on her because she knew (as well as he did) that there was every chance that things could get worse and she may never improve.\nSo, I simply give you this advise, take care of yourself and satisfy your needs and ambitions. If she pushes you away, don't retaliate with any blame or make her feel that she owes you something for your time spent with her. Simply allow this to be the oppurtunity where you get some time for yourself. Meet with friends, take up a hobby, whatever. Most importantly, don't make her feel that you are leaving her, always be contactable and tell her where your going and when you will be back. Simpy let her accept and know that you are always there for her but also for yourself.\nPlease also understand that she may or may not improve. If you can't see a future with her if things don't improve, then maybe you should rethink your situation. \nMy friend is improving (and happily living with her partner) and is now working. She is a lovely person and I admire her strentgh. \n\nI wish you all the best of luck,\n\nHappy Birthday for Monday!!\nxx
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surround yourself with positive thoughts. set simple daily goals that you can achieve. stick to a routine as much as possible. give yourself a compliment at least twice a day. write things down in a planner or journal to help you stay focused. and if all else fails... seek professional help. depression is nothing to play around with. sometimes we need outside help and that's okay.
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Severe depression will usually require the help of a medical professional.  Please seek one, and you'll be much better for it.
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Make your friend understand that you are here for him/her and that sadness or bad situations never last, try to give him/her hope and if it's really serious advise him/her to see a doctor who could bring light to such mental ordeal(hope you understand what I mean)
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people become complacent, stagnant, we take each other for granted and get into routines, we forget what it was like with out the other person...talk to him, tell him you are sad and depressed and want to reignite the flames that got you started to begin with...if he doesn't listen or take you seriously, you have to  make him listen, by leaving...that may wake him up
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I have had depression for many years and have tried many things.  The counsellor is very important and necessary.  As far as medications go, it takes a while to find one that will work for you. If you are not suicidal, I would try other means of treatment if you do not want to take medications.\n\nI have had good results from accupuncture and vitamins.  Unfortunately neither are covered by my medical plan.  \n\nIf you go see a naturopath, they might be able to help you find some vitamins and other supplements that would help.\n\nExercise is also very important as it releases natural endorphins, and helps burn off stress.  Try to get your heart rate up for half an hour at least three times a week.  \n\nTry avoiding chemicals in the food you eat, as this can throw off your brain chemistty.\n\nTry not to sit at home and watch TV a lot.  Get out and do things because this will help take your mind off things.\n\nIf you don't go to church, try to find one...studies show that people with religious beliefs tend to be happier than those without them.\n\nAlso, do you live in a northern climate, or a place where it rains a lot.  I live in Vancouver, BC, and it rains most of the winter here.  My depression is worse in the winter because of the lack of sunlight.  If the lack of sunlight is a factor for you, get yourself a SAD light (SAD = seasonal effective disorder).  If you do buy one, make sure that the light that comes out of it is white.  Many products say that they are a SAD light, but they have an orange light.  In order for the product to work, if has to be a full-spectrum light, which is white.\n\nOkay, I hope I have been some help.  I wish you luck.
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Dealing with a depressed friend is never easy.  I know all about it.  My best friend in the whole world has suffered with deep depression since her car accident last August.  It is difficult sometimes to find the right words to say to her.  I keep telling her to look at her positives and don't focus so much on her negatives, perhaps this will help your friend.  \n\nYou may want to approach him to do some investigative work to pinpoint for his ownself what person(s) or thing(s) make him feel depressed about.  Then after he does this, ask him if there is anything he could change to correct the problems.  If he says "no there isn't" then ask him to make a list of all of his good points and acknowledge all his accomplishments in life.  See if you can focus on the good and positive things in his life as opposed to his negative things.\n\nAlways encourage your friend as best as you can.  Be willing to listen to him and be as positive as you can not only with him but with yourself.\n\nLet him know that you care very deeply for him and let him know that you will support him with all of his decisions.\n\nEvery once in awhile, mention to him about therapy and seeing a doctor about his depression.  Medications and therapy go hand in hand.\n\nGood luck to you and your friend!  I hope he feels better soon!
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Write it down on paper. Be very honest about everything.\nI had to tell my dad this way about my depression and how I felt about him and my life.  It helped a lot.\nAre you getting medication?  You need to find a good doctor....and medication that suits you.  It may take a while to find but hang in there.
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Pray......ask someone to pray with you.........i'll say a prayer for you!\n\nOtherwise.....get together with some positive and uplifting friends.....go do something fun......\n\ndo something good for someone else.......its odd how that will boost your spirits........\n\nsmile at someone!\n\nif it gets too bad.....see your doctor about a possible antidepressant to get you through a slump......or maybe a counselor to help you resolve whatever is making you so unhappy\n\nMay God bless you with His love and happiness!
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Reaching out is always a good but tough step.  The best person to ask would be a local mental health practitioner - be it a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist or therapist.\n\nBeyond that, it would depend on the area that you are in or would like to go to.  I've attached a link to the National Mental Health Services Information website.  You can click on your state, then click on the 'locator', choose your city and see what services are available.\n\nI'd also consider contacting the Depression and Bi-polar Support Alliance.  It is a patient run support organization and they are in nearly every community and might be able to refer your to a good residential treatment facility.  Depressed Anon is similar and might also be able to help.\n\nAdditionally, the American Residential Treatment Association might be able to help find a facility nearby, though they are limited.
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I've gone through spells of depression that have lasted months.  The only thing that got me through was prayer and friendship.  I'm not one who goes to church every week nor do I talk continuously about my spirituality but I can say that when I have been struggling with dark thoughts I pray and talk to friends and somehow I get past it.  In your new city, make yourself get up early each morning and get fixed up.  When you get out of the house you will immediately feel a little bit better.  Look your best and that will help you to feel more confident.  Call on a friend from home, maybe a sibling or close family member when you feel your lowest.  One of my closest friends lives miles away and her friendship still gives me a great deal of support.  Just talk to someone and tell them the truth about what is going on inside.  It will be a great release and you will not be going through it alone.  Remember to pray for yourself, ask for courage and strength of heart..I promise that you will be better before you know it.
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If someone is suicidal or/and depressed LISTEN TO THEM. Do not tell them it is all in there minds. Don't say that there lives are so much better than everyone elses.\nDo not ignore them. listen and take them seriously.\n\nYou humans have a lot to learn...
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first ask if there is a problem the next get out and do something invite yourself in a group do anything just get out of that room and quit being a depressed person
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Your regular physician will refer you to a local pyschiatrist if he feels you are depressed. I hope you get the help you need soon.