i am 14 years old and I am in love with a 35 year old teacher from middle school. what should I do???
141933
Hi there sweety,\n    This is SO like my story when I was your age. I was SO deeply in love with him, yeah, some people say that this is not love, that you cannot love, but they are wrong - they only say this because they haven't been in your shoes.\n     One thing is true though - it can never happen. You can choose what to do, but believe me, there is NO WAY he has feelings for you, he may think you are a bright student at the best. \n     You see, even if you feel mature enough for him and think that you can have something together - he is waaaaay to old and experienced to get involved with someone at the age of 20, let alone 14.\n     I guess that no matter what we say to you you would still love him, but do try to keep away from him and don't tell anyone about that. I wasn't so wise as to hide my feelings and my classmates found out and uh it was so embarassing for both me and him...\n     So best of luck, and let me tell you this - if you love him and not someone your age you probably are a bit more mature than your classmates but don't worry - in time you will discover love again.\n\n     Best of luck!!\n\nps: e-mail me on yahoo if you wish
1079539
You won't listen to this because you are young- but he is the 1st love, not the last. Forget the boys(I know that's hard to do). Concentrate on developing yourself to be a powerful, intelligent, and successful young lady. Trust me love is worth waiting for and it only becomes love after friendship and maturiy. You are 14/15...love will come when its right-he's hot, he'severything that keeps your mind away from yourself...love yourself for now and tell those boys who are waiting in line for you to hold on-you have you to think about at the moment. I hope that helps
822921
Ok, this is a sticky one.  Can you put your 'crush buzz' to the side and see the reality of 'what if it can work' set in? It will be national news, everything will blow up.  Can you honestly see her having feelings for you as well? Do you think moving in closer to her would work out for the both of you's or just you? remember she is married for a reason. Here's the good news, you have found someone that has shown you your 'ideal' partner.  What might have got you to have a crush on her is as a teacher it is their job to pay attention and help students reach there goals.  I know your not going to get that with a lot of girls at high school, hey they are young and still learning themselves, maybe you are more mature minded and that's great you have discovered your ideal partner which is a mature, funny, witty and with a great personality.  But as a teacher, not a good thing to do.  Just look at her and thank her in your mind for showing you an ideal partner =)
532866
What is wrong, and what is right?\n\nIt's just not common, I think. Well, I know you'll hate it to read this, but...wait for another some years. Fourteen year old is still young. \n\nAt least, wait until you're 16, then you'll decide whether the feeling you have is true or only for temporary.\n\nFor now, just be friends and concentrate on your study. ;-)
127654
Im 29yrs old and speaking as someone older i have this advice for you. Leave age out of it. Your older than legal age so it is not of concern. How do YOU feel about him? Really. if you love him, see where it leads. make sure he treats you right!! I had a friend who was 19 at the time and married a guy 29. they just had there first child - still very much in love. it depends on the situation. one step at a time. see where it leads and make sure he treats you right.
525469
wait two more years. theres nothing wrong with your age diffirence. just dont do something illegal. im 29 and my girlfriend is 18. we love each other. whats important is love not age. age is just a useless number we count so that we can tell ourselves we become wiser. what a file of siht. what we are and who we has nothing to do with age, and everything to do with ourself and wagr we think of ourselves. \n\nthe long and short of it is: if you love her and she loves you go for it. just be careful not to end up in jail.
680305
ther is no age i fell in love at 15 and i'm still with him now at 27
674692
He doesn't love you.  14 year olds are incapable of any love except towards their mommies and daddies.  He might lust after you, but his own feelings for you probably confuse him as much as they do you.  Avoid serious "love" relationships until you are at least 18.
74160
Wait til you get older and if you both STILL feel the same way then go for it! No illegal stuff missy!
129640
If you aren't sure, wait.  If he really loves you, he'll be willing to wait a couple more years.  Your parents are right, the statistics on marriages before 22 are much less promising than if you wait.  The reason for this is not to say that you aren't in love now, but so many people do a lot of growing between 18 and 22.  People can completely change peronalities, life styles, morals, values, and everything in those four short years.  Being married while going to school and going through this transitional time in your life, could put quite a strain on your marriage.  Talk to him, and see if he will wait.  Never go into marriage if you don't know with all your heart that he is the one, and the only one, the one you love with all your heart, who you can imagine spending the rest of your life with, and with no one else.  Good Luck! :)
247176
Honey you are 14 and your whole life ahead of you. Tell him\nyou want to be friends ONLY! If his feelings are true and strong enough he will wait till your older. You need to find you before something happens you can't undo. Good Luck.
164085
wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.
1138379
OK it is NOT NORMAL for a old guy that age to feel attracted to a girl 14 or even 18.  This is a serious issue. A girl who is 14 can not understand this...trust me i was 14 too. I dated a guy who was 20 when I was 14. I thought I "loved him" Now that i am older (25) I realize how sick htis is and how he had issues. Guys who like girls your age are guys that like to manipulate and try to confuse and control them. For her to be in a room with him alone is so messed up . She needs to stop talking to him cuz this will lead to more dangerous issues. She may look 27 or whatever but she is not and that is no reason for a guy that age to " want" her. You NEED to tell your friends mom right a way if oyu love her cuz if something would EVER happen to her then it owuld be on your hands. I know she might be mad at oyu for a little but trust me she will thank you later...plus it also will interefere with her future relationships. if you love your firedn help her NOw before she might be on America's most missing...
76151
i suggest as a person who fell in love at the same age that i am now which is 15, dont fall in love. for me as a guy it ruined atleast half my future,so just dont go their at all in the first place. but idk what you should make him.
1055278
I thought I was in love when I was in the 8th grade.I don't remember her name or what she even looked like.You will be in love several more times before you graduate college.Don't push it,just enjoy the feeling while it lasts.
1047688
i don't think its love at all.... it seems like you have a crush and he wants to be friends with you. he is too old for you anyways. you are only 14 and 1/2 and he is too old. maybe it doesn't seem like it, but he is. of course he would talk to you he is a neighbor. neighbors always do that.  I'd say mutual respect. he may have a chrush on you, but wait till YOU are 17/18 to go out w/ him if you ever do.
211401
It's ok to have a crush on someone older than you, I was a sophomore when I met my bf (who was in 8th grade) and it always feels like we're the same age.  But you should be careful, some boys can be real jerks, especially high school boys. so just don't let your guard down :)