Thanks for the input, let me rephrase the question. Is it okay for your mate to destroy things when?
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I would be leary about the mate destroying stuff. That might mean there are more things going on that you don't want to know about.
192508
What would it destroy? stuff we wouldn't know about anyway unless we dug it up?  I'd say its more useful than destructive.  And if you disagree, go talk to indy about it, he'll probably kick the crap out of you steal your woman and run through some mayan pyramid using his whip to swing from some dramatic cliff.  Thats what archaeology is all about my friend.
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Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
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I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
290050
NEVER AT ALL!!! come on!! think about it... use your common sense. why would you tolerate it when he has cause harm on others... if you'll tolerate it then you are also enjoying it both of you... please have a heart...
804250
If he is doing these things I would say he has acted on them, thinking about it, or is going to...I am sorry.  This could end your marriage, it needs to be thoroughly discussed.
399712
I say.\n\nEverything is dangerous. Live with it, but be careful.
717802
All relationships require some give and take on both parts,but it isnt healthy to praise someone for bad behavior.This will only encourage it more.Your friend should have stood her ground.Just my opinion.
707839
I think this would all depend upon his age, either way explain the rules of the house to him, and that this sort of behaviour is unacceptable. He will argue about this but its not his house its yours. If he is under 18 you have more issues to deal with then just this, perhaps grounding could work in this case, and if any of these partners are over 18 consider pressing statutory rape charges against them.
1021900
Yes it's wrong.  You are fighting fire with fire which puts you and him in the same boat.  Take the higher road.
430900
Everything is relative.  There may be different best-case scenarios for a variety of situations.  Although being rude or spiteful does not rank so high on the maturity ladder, I would not say that there would never be a time when this response would be the best thing for cheering up your friend, assuming that no one else would suffer any real long-term harm.
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I don't see a problem with it. I had a mate before who was afraid to talk to me bacause he started goin out with my sister and he was a couple of years older than her too. All depends on what kind of mate he is.
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Ask yourself this Question.Who are you hurting by this behavior?You won't change "a##holes" this way,and in fact you are playing into their paws,"cause they see they're getting a reaction.Isn't it better to just ignore their s--t,and bide your time?
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it doesn't sound to good, he sounds like he's a nightmare to live with. my advice is leave him before you get hurt anymore.
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ahm...nothing really...but there was this situation about a man who loves his wife that he did everything to keep his wife fit....but to no avail...she was as sloppy as ever..\n\nhe asked for an advice...i think it's really cool for a guy to be concern about his mate, that he'll take an extra step to help her or improve their relationship..
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I'm a woman, and will probably get blasted from my fellow ladies...but if she wants to talk like a man, and act like a man and HIT like a man..she probably deserves to get hit back. I don't normally condone violence of any sort..but, come on. I lived with a girl a long time ago. She would  always have her bf over, and they would hang out in her room. One night I heard her screaming and crying and my girlfriend and I rushed in there. He had hit her. We told him to get the F*ck out. A few days later he was over, and we heard all the screaming and yelling again. We busted into the room just in time to see her reach into last week and belt him. We told her that we weren't going to get involved anymore. If she wanted to throw the first punch, she should be able to take the consequences. If I'm going to tell women to stand up for themselves and not accept abuse, how is it appropriate to not tell men the same thing?
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Your love obviously isn't being returned.  This person is using you and you don't deserve that.  By letting them get away with misbehaving you are just telling them that what they are doing is ok.  You need to put an end to what ever this behaviour is even if it means ending the relationship.  If you give your love to someone then you deserve to have it returned properly and if they can't do that then you need to find someone who will.