if you love a person with all your heart should you be crying like every week? should i say goodbye or stay?
143586
You need to talk to this person and discuss the issues that are making you cry.  If you love each other it is possible things can be worked out.  If not then you will have to end this relationship because I can't imagine spending all your time crying when you should be happy instead.
371025
I think you should totally tell him exactly how you feel. If he truely loves you then he will change the way that he is to you and if not then obviously it means that you deserve better than. trust me on this i am in this same situation so i know exactly how you feel.
386292
You have a perfectly valid reason for being upset. If he loves you he should respect your feelings. He basically lied to you. You can do better.
844740
I would stay. Because if you knew that you made each other happy and that it would mean they leave this world happy. You cant ever give anyone the gift of happiness greater. Even thought it would be hard knowing that they could slip away at any moment, i would personally stay with them
944433
you should do what you think is best if you sdon't want to go just tell him you love him and do what u want
329816
I think you should just walk away hun, I know it hurts but I was in a similair situation and he ended up finding someone to date and left me hanging on, and i held onto him for too long and it hurt even worse, at least this way you can get back to your life and finding that one for you, and come back with some of your heart. I just hate to see you hang on liek this and then if he leaves you for someonelse have you left brokenhearted and left to pick up the pieces.
1152658
i don't know what to tell you...this is a touchy situation...i understand the situation you are in because i have experienced similiar things....it's hard when you love someone and they act like that...you know deep down in your heart that sometimes it's best to go on with your life without this person and never look back....but it's so much easier to say then do.. you have to just take one day at a time and look at things and ask yourself...Is this what I want to go through for the rest of my life?  Weigh your options...look at the advantages of your relationship with him compared to the disadvantages of it...this is something nobody can tell you what to do...you have to not only follow your heart on this one but you have to consider what your mind says too...
638616
Its always easier said than done.. but say goodbye now..!! Why because experience speaks for itself.. I had the same problem i forgave him once, but then it happened again and again and again.. It was the hardest part to say goodbye to someone u love too much, but its rips ur heart apart to know they're abusing the love and affection you give them...!! And remember this, wen women hurt, they hurt badly and then there comes a point where they go COLD and then theres no turning back... so its best to say goodbye now and save yourself from the more despising feeling of anger and hate... Best of luck with the decision u choose :o)
519692
if you feel like you have to really watch over his every move than you probably have too instinct is always rite I would tell you to leave because nobody should have to live their life that way except a private investigater if you "have" to go that far you will only be paid by breaking your own heart why go through all the drama just leave before you let it run you that crazy no guy is worth all that! save your precious energy for a better guy
607342
im not going to judge you like others...if you love him like you say then you cant help what your heart feels.\n\nhas he been with you while he has promised to leave his wife? how long has this been going on? you need to take these into careful consideration.\n\nin these cases there are a few options:\n1. he stays with his wife while you keep hanging\n2. he leaves his wife and he dumps you\n3. he leaves his wife and you have a wonderful life together\n...is it any wonder why youre so conflicted?\n\ndepending on how long your "relationship" has been going on and how he feels about you (if he claims to love you too) you will most likely have to give him an ultimatum. because if someone REALLY wants to leave the person they married they would do it regardless of what stands in the way. plenty of men have left wonderful wives behind for selfish reasons...so if its just not working out with him and her then he needs to face that and move on.\n\nwhen you give the ultimatum and he says that he cant leave her...then theres nothing more you can do. if he says to wait some more, explain how you cant keep putting your heart on the line to wait for him. and NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS you must walk away. perhaps it will make him understand the situation he's in and make an appropriate decision - whether its you or her. \n\nand who knows - maybe even if he doesnt make up his mind right away he'll end things properly with her and come back to you. still, unless you leave (even temporarily) he will find it easier to just deal with the two of you to avoid any more drama than whats insued.\n\nthe best of luck to you in this situation - my heart goes out to you! make sure to protect yours!
141253
that's usually normal if you really love a person, there will always be an attachment regardless of how long you had broken up. a good crying might help to release all your pent-up feelings (regret, more importantly). find a diversion to keep yourself away from drowning into depression.trust and love yourself.a good therapy is also advisable.
156080
I don't believe you can love someone too much but you can be so attentive that a person can feel smothered. It would depend on what he considers too much and the actual circumstance. If you are devoting 100 percent to him, then its too much. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time focusing on self then it is way to much. Sometimes what your giving is great but sometimes it is not received like that. I would spend time really looking at the situation, maybe sharing your thoughts with family and friends who know you both and see what their assessment is as well.
67670
Well I think its good to be emotional in a relationship. But the same time you jus cannot forget the practical side. There's gotta be a balance between the two, somewat like, you should be emotionally dependend on each other but the same time it should not hurt too much to anyone of you if the other person goes away tomorrow.
515382
When the bad feelings being with him begin to outweigh the good feelings, then you know it's time to let go.  Being without him will hurt, but you will heal if you just let yourself--but if you are hurting when you are with him, there will be no end to it as long as you stay.
970709
The longer you stay with him, the more painful the separation will be when it comes. Its better to break up sooner, so he doesn't get his hopes up too high. Its going to be painful for him no matter what, if he thinks he loves you or something.
367879
Yes, I was in a similar situation in the past.  It is very hard to find out that the person  you love doesn't have the same feelings as you.  I don't think you should let him go with the hope that he will come back.  It may or may not happen.  It isn't a matter of whether you let him go because is sounds like he has made his decision.  He is probably crying a lot because he knows that he has hurt someone that he does love.  This probably makes him feel guilty.  You really need to accept that he is leaving and make sure that you don't become an old crutch to him after he goes.  If he wants his independence, don't let him keep coming to you when he needs help or gets lonely.  This won't make him come back to you, it will only make let him have the best of both worlds.  It will be hard, but you don't want to end up a doormat.  Take the time to do things that make YOU happy.  Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't or wouldn't because you were with him.  Hang in there, it will get a little better each day.  Good luck to you.
1104303
Wow your question is deep. I agree that you must daily make the choice to stay and make things work with your loved one, but also if you really love them, the "loving" part shouldn't be that much work. Unfortunately, many people give up on their relationships these days because "the grass is always greener" and you never know until afterwards if you made the right choice.