I am a married man who might be gay too.  I'm confused, horrified, yet I know it's there.  What do I do?
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Figure out what made you question your sexuality first-- Then consult your wife about it. But... your sexuality shouldn't matter if you're already married to who you love. Some people never "come out of the closet" so the fact that you're wondering may be a beautiful thing. There's nothing wrong with being gay-- society just makes it seem like it's the devil's work or something else just as ludicrous. It's something you can't stop-- It's also pretty misunderstood. Hey, put it this way- there are lots of famous people who aren't straight too! =]
454256
I don't know why I'm gay. I don't remember being given a choice. Perhaps you could tell me when you chose to be straight?
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I am straight...I don't know how I got here on this topic...\nsilly yahoo...
66993
what heterosexual identifying people don't realize is, if you ae asking this question, you are not straight...\n\nbut that's really no big deal.\n\nif you love your husband and your relationship is working, you can enjoy learning this new thing about yourself without messing up a good thing.\n\nif you guys have a good friendship, you could probably let him in on your little secret.  you might be surprised at how fun scoping together can be.\n\nstill, remember that loving relationships are so much more than sexual.  if you love yourself and you don't fear what's inside of you, you won't feel the urge to betray the one you love!
759909
If a gay married couple were to move in to my neighborhood, next door to my house, it would be the end of my marriage.\n\nMy marriage is that fragile.\n\nreally.\n\nAnd my box turtle is terrified!
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you may be lesbian, but right now u r confused, nothing else.\nThink about your desires, and then make a plan. leave confusion, and accept whatever u r. If you want to live a normal life, stick with your bf, and leave those thoughts of being homosexual. you may cosult a phsycologist.
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Girl is you crazy? Don't convience no other women of anything about your husband! If they want to think he is gay let them think it! This way you don't have to worry about them hitting on him! However keep your eyes peeled. Not all of those friends really think he is gay and they are trying to throw you off their trail of secretly liking your husband. \nAnd whatever you do, do continue to watch sex and the city and bond with your husband. And whatever you don't do, don't make him feel bad because your so called friends haves you thinking he's gay. I mean because you may watch a ball game or action movie with your husband does't make you gay. So why such it make him gay for watching a drama with you. But this is are secret remember! Do not tell your girlfriends!  Good Luck to you and your husband!
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I am sure your are a guy and you are gay!! LOL\n\nand all these people have fallen for your trap!
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I think everyone is a little bit gay... and everyone's curious, even if they don't admit it.  I say do what you want to do.  No regrets.  As long as you don't hurt anyone else in the process, go get yours.
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Deal with it. \n\nAccept it, and say that you are not gay(unless you are...).\nTell him to accept you as a hetero.
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Ok, so I was in the exact same situation when I was your age (I'm 37 now).  I had a great gay friend tell me that I was gay.\n\nI was in denial, but I was also confused.  Take your time and let things work themselves out.  Don't be afraid to question your sexuality and don't let anyone try to influence you one way or the other.\n\nGood luck!
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I was married and now divorced. It was a horrible experience being in that situation.  The worst part was she was my best friend and we had a child together. If you're in that situation, I feel your pain but it wasn't any easy last three years. Much better place now! Now before anyone makes any rude comments, I wouldn't accept that I was gay and thought their was other issues. I didn't get married KNOWING i was gay. I should have known but I didn't.
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Well I am a gay male who got married because of societal teachings and presures!  While in my marriage I participated in sexual acts because I felt I had to, I got myself into this mess I could very well just not do anything. A lot of people still to this day think when I tell them that I used to be married think that I used to be str8 as well but I can assure you I was never str8 I just denied my true sexual orientation and hid behide the marrage to a woman.  I figured nobody would susspect me of being gay if I was married to a woman.  After experiencing M2F sex and knowing that it was not for me I had to try being sexual with another guy if for no other reason then to prove to myself that the sexual feelings I had been having all my life for other guys was real. I placed an ad in the news paper, rented myself a mail box at the post office and started getting responses from other guys. I was stupid and kept the letters (and some of them were very graphic in the way they were writen - guys telling me what they were like physically and what they would like to do to or with me sexually) my wife (at the time) found the letters and read them.  I will never forget that gay as long as I live!!!  The look on her face, the body language - it was so bad, so bad!!!  So you might say that I was kind of kicked out to the closet! LOL\nIt wasn't funny at the time but now I can look back on it and have a bit of a laugh!\nAfter that I just started to see more and more guys cuase now I knew that's what I liked sexually.  Eventually my wife left me so now she is my X and I came right out of the closet and have never looked back not that I would want to anyway.\nSuch a large weight was lifted from my shoulders when I finally, totally came out.  Now I could be myself instead of pretending to be somebody, something that I was really not! I have no regrets about coming out I just wish I had come out earlier and I wish I had never got married and hurt another human being the way I hurt my X (of course I am taking about hurt emotionally).  She has never forgiven me and never treated me the same since and it has been over 17 years now! :-(\nHope this is helpful. *hugs* JAC<
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You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men. \nShould you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel).  If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going. \n\nIf the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's  probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.
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Yes it is gay sex, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are a homosexual for life. If you're worried, just masturbate (Except for the $100,000 thing. You can use a little of the money for therapy.)
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There's no need to declare yourself anything right now.  In a year or two, you will know if you are or not gay.  \n\nYour attraction may just be envy of guys who have matured physically ahead of you, or perhaps what you want to be  That doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.  \n\nRead up on it if it still nags at you.  Ask more questions.  Talk to someone you TRUST.
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Stop thinking of it in terms of gay and strait. As a matter of fact forget the two terms exist at all. Then just pay attention to your emotions toward everyone around you and the answer will just kind of come to you. Thats how it was for me.