Why does breaking up still hurt every time?
149200
its because you feel bad for yourself. if u think about it humanity is a bit selfish. now that your alone you wish you still had a partner.
388470
the worst thing to do is to keep thinking about it. it's really difficult not to because it affects you physically too. best thing to do is go to they gym, go hang out with your buddies doing the things you really like doing. meet new people, do new things, create new memories. people break up all the time. there are other people in the world. everytime i start a new relationship, it's always been better because you learn from your past experiences and can make (or should make) better decisions. good luck, you will feel better as time passes and add new experiences and people to your life.
534456
its hard but if you just cant do it then your probably not over her and still want to be with her. was it her or you who broke up
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".
1174520
It can be the worse pain you'll ever feel, until you realize its not going to kill you and it ends up making you stronger...its just that first love gone wrong puts you in unfamiliar emotional territory..you know its not going to stay this bad but not knowing for how long makes it seem like there is no end to the pain it causes...any broken heart hurts...but that first one...ooouch!
322147
I know very well what you mean ! i think that the worst is to know that you found your second half , your soulmate but because of the circumstances you have to separate . it happened to me 6 years ago , and even thou its not that painfull as it was at the start i still spend a lot of thoughts on him and on the time we shared . will i get ever over it ? i dont know , i just know that yes , time heals a lot of pain , i dont feel pain anymore but i still think !!!! you will learn not to compare with time and besides its a bad thing to do . of course i know that its not easy at all not to but even this time will teach . ok , in the bottom of ur heart ................but i am sure that you will manage . think that there are a lot of people on this universe which felt the same!!! i wish u luck and all the best !!!!
141253
that's usually normal if you really love a person, there will always be an attachment regardless of how long you had broken up. a good crying might help to release all your pent-up feelings (regret, more importantly). find a diversion to keep yourself away from drowning into depression.trust and love yourself.a good therapy is also advisable.
178863
Sometimes when people think they 'really love' someone whose actions hurt them (his breaking up with her, his distance and his silence) they are actually desperate to love and be loved, but the person they are focusing on is not "the one".  Instead, the one being hurt doesn't feel like they can survive alone, and they don't trust that they will find the true "one" in time to not die of a broken heart.  It's hard to make the decision to be alone when you feel this way, but it's the only way to open the door to true love, and it extends your misery until the day you decide to take the leap and risk being sad for a while.
473074
It's understandable you don't want to be hurt again. Nobody ever wants to be hurt. But you have to let someone new into your life. It will take a mental effort, but you have to do it! It's the only good way to move on. Figure out what you did wrong, g=to get hurt, and avoid doing it with the new guy that you find. Or maybe I should say, who finds you.
706605
From my own experience, breaking up with someone to "teach them a lesson" usually ends up with you getting hurt. Maybe he's missing you inm his own way, my boyfriend always says that just because he doesn't show his emotions on the outside doesn't mean that he's not hurting on the inside. Maybe he's trying to clean himself up on his own first, it sounds like he needed to gain so independence from you and be a better person without you before he can be friends/ be woth you again. I mean ask yourself, would you wan thim back in the state you left him in? Just give him some time and space and try and enjoy your own
1026177
If she breaks up with you again, let her go, you aren't a yo yo and deserve to be treated better(it hurts,I know when it happens, but you can't keep doing it, each time it happens, you lose some of the way you use to feel, and one day, you might just become"jaded" to things around you, so its better to start clean, than to keep playing this "game" and it seems thats what it is.)
721137
time is the only thing that can heal u,i spent 12 years with a person and then i was forced to divorce the person i loved the most ,it hurt for 2 1/2 yearsand i have rarely dated or been with another person but just a few times in 16 years,,, im over it but the scars run deep. but some people get over it in fifteen minutes
255091
in most cases yes. this is because the first time you're in love you are unaware of how much a break up can actually hurt and the long term damage it can do.(after all it would be your first time experiencing any of those feelings)
536267
Being friends after a break up always sounds like a good thing but ultimately people realize that down deep at least one person in that relationship is really hurt by the other or not able to get over the other person.  That is why most of the time when you break up with someone it is best to make a complete break and not have them in your life so you can honestly move forward and stop living in the past.
428043
Realize that for everytime you are hurt in life, it is helping you to become a stronger person. In the end, God will heal your heart and give you a new love, one of which will be so abundant you will not have enough room in your heart to receive it. It could even be the person that broke up with you, but maybe God has to work on that person and on you to make you perfect for each other. If not perfect for each other, He is making you and someone He will send to you perfect for each other. So just hold on, keep your head up, and have faith. Love will endureth in the end! You are in my prayers!
919016
I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
628415
Make sure he knows how you feel! But if he does want to break up and he decides not to because he doesn't want to hurt you chances are it's not going to work out in the long run and you should just do it know to avoid being hurt even worse. You will get through this. Good Luck!