how to keep a new marriage going strong?
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Relax and enjoy it.  Remember that a marriage is a lot of hard work, and takes a lot of commitment.  The more you share with each other the greater the reward.  Don't let arguments fester, and don't dwell on all the little things that ultimately aren't that important.  And last of all realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and that over time the intesity of your feelings will fade some but that is normal and not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship.
1088474
I have decided after two marriages that there are different kinds of love, you do what makes YOU feel the best.  You won't be able to change your husband, and I know from experience, they may try to change, but it rarely works out, and if so only temporarily.\nIt ends up not being fair to either one of you.  Don't take a chance on losing your new love...........
914271
Line of communication is a huge thing. I have been married for 11 yrs and above all else this a huge factor. No good marriage is easy. You have to love that person and like them because passion comes and goes and you need that friendship and unconditional love to fall back on
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
423259
In order to be happy in your marriage..the two of you should work it out together..but first of all put GOD in the middle of your relationship before anything else.\n\nI am a married woman with 2 kids..there are always ups & downs but you have to believe each other, trust, be faithful, sincere and honesty... That's keep a relationship grows and harmony to all of you..\n\nJust be yourself..don't pretend..and I assure you you'll be happy for the rest of your lives.\n\nCheers..life is so beautiful!
560058
Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
466124
You begin to learn each others quirks and idiosyncrasies.  You will struggle and have bad times and good times. You will laugh, cry, worry, and enjoy.  Marriage is only what two people make of it.  It is work, but just like a garden, it is well worth the weeding and pruning one has to do.  Don't give up when things get tough.  Communicate!!!!  I know you've heard it before, but take heed, communication is the key to an awesome marriage. A marriage needs 100 percent from both partners.  Live and learn from one another, touch and kiss often, and never say a word that you may later wish to take back, words are like feathers released into the wind, once released they are hard to take back.
588456
Marriages do not just happen they are like a motor vehicle they need maintenance. Its very easy to get into a rut or a boring routine. You need to put a sparkle back in your lives if you have kids get a child minder and book a naughty weekend somewhere in a nice hotel and health spa and pamper yourselves. Get a new outfit and dramatically change your hairstyle. I really hope it works out all the very best  Dirky
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I think that love and kindness plays the most important role. \n\nThink of the little things- kind words and thoughtfulness on a daily basis and taking time to talk will hold your marriage together. Grand gestures, great sex and money are nice, but aren't the glue that holds it together. \n\nHope this helps.
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Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!
580827
Married or not, yes, you should set up dates on occasion.\nEvery week? No.  When it works out? Yes.\nIt is important Not to let your relationship go stale.  Dates, or impromptu meetings for lunch are nice too.\nFor instance, call your mate and work out a quick meeting for lunch, or Even before work, Go to breakfast.  Keep things going and keep thing fresh, and you will have a good chance of keeping your relationship healthy.
140861
B"H\nHmmm... try taking two weeks off from sex every month.  Show him that during that time you are STILL head over heels in love with him.\n\nThis is actually advice many marriage councelors give out to help people who've lost the spice get it back into their marriage.  While you may not have this trouble, this definately helps develop the intellectual and emotional aspects of a relationship as well.  \n\nLoads of ancient cultures practiced this (usually abstaining from physical relations during the woman's menstruation) and it has proven itself time and again to keep marriages in a prolonged "honeymoon phase".
524551
It seems when things get tense we always imagine the worst will happen to our marriage.  It doesn't have to just because someone else did it.  We can always get past a tough point.  Maybe you just need more time together.
50151
Very possible.  Staying together over years takes alot of work and alot of other things.  Some of them are trust, faith in the other person and be willing to work through what comes your way rather than take the easy way out.  Now days most marriages end in divorce for many reasons because of a variety of things.  But by far the thing it takes the most is the willingness to work at the relationship.  They are alot like other things that takes alot of matinence to keep it going.  Love is not the only thing that will keep it alive it will take work every day to maintain it and allow it to grow and evolve as the years go by.  While love is very important it isn't the only thing needed.
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expect a lot of adjustments...stop thinking about yourself anymore....and remember...communication is a must!! in your lifetime together not just at the beginning...\n\nfrom what you said..you're lucky enough to know that you are marrying a wonderful man..\n\nbest wishes...cheers!!
573053
Seriously, the only real solution is to make plans to be together at some point if you want it to last.  Otherwise, it's just bound to get difficult to keep the flame alive.  So, as long as their is hope of being together in real time at some point, then you can keep it rolling.  Otherwise, it will fizzle in time.  \n\nMeanwhile...e-mails, phone calls, video chats....to keep the love alive.
496803
Don't let a single day pass without letting him know in word and deed how much you love, honor and cherish him. Make sure that you never stop talking and sharing the things that happen in your lives. Make sure that you create time for just the 2 of you, especially after you have children. A strong and healthy marriage is the foundation of a happy family.