she has lost interest in sex?
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There are a lot of reasons women lose interest in sex.  Depression is a big one.  How old is your child?  Could this be postpartum depression?  Some prescription drugs can cause loss of sexual appetite as well.  \n\nAre you showing her attention outside of the bedroom?  Women crave intimacy and many of us need to talk or just be listened to in order to feel like we are important to our spouse.  \n\nAre you making her feel like she is the number one priority in your life? Other than God, your wife should come before EVERYTHING ELSE in your life.  YES, this includes your job, friends, parents, kids, sports, TV & even your computer.  She must "FEEL" loved.\n\nAre you speaking her "Love Language"?  Gary Chaspman wrote a book called the "The Five Languages of Love".  Every married person should read this book.  It helps us understand how to express I love you to our spouse in a way that they will get the message on a regular basis.  There are five love languages that are discussed:\n  1.  Words of Affirmation - Praise her, tell her how great she looks,  tell her what a good job she is doing, ect.\n  2.  Quality Time - One on one paying attention to her needs, wants and desires.\n  3.  Receiving Gifts - Buy her stuff: flowers, jewlery, candles, lingerie, goodies, nic-naks, etc.\n  4.  Acts of Service - Do stuff for her:  Wash the dishes, cook dinner, rub her back, run her errands, take your kid to the park so she can take a nap, anything to lighten her load.\n  5.  Physical touch - NOT SEX!  Touch her in a way that is not going to lead to sex.  Let her know that you enjoy being close to her even if you may not get some right away.  This is kind of like banking.  You can't get money out of the ATM if you haven't made any deposits.  Make deposits in your wifes "love bank" and soon there will be enough to make a withdrawl.\n\nThe last thing that I thought of is maybe she doesn't feel sexy after having a baby if her shape is not as cute as it was or she is just plain tired and needs a rest.  Make sure you complement her in a sincere way so she feels like she is still pretty and desirable.  \n\nDo you have a relative who can babysit for you?  A weekend away just might do the trick.  Make it romantic and cater to her needs.  Light candles, use massage oils, sprinkle rose petals on the bed and make sure she knows that a romantic interlude is going to be ALL about her.  Her wants, desires, needs.  Don't worry, you'll still get yours in the end and she will be a much happier wife.\n\nHAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE!!!  Make her happy!
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Dude you cann't make chicken soup out of just water. The point being you can't make her something she not. Seems your sex drive is no where close to hers. It could be you two just don't match up.\n\n It will not get better, maybe you jusy don't turn her on. With a lady its about all things the way you treat her and talk, how you make her feel. Its also maybe your just not  sexually incompatible. You need to think she is not enjoying the sex as much as you.\n\n There is alot more to this then can be talk about on this short note.\n\n Also you could try this, either cook her a nice dinner or take her out to dinner. when you get home just put on some good music just make the connection that you once had. \n\nIts not good to have her think all you want is sex. \n\nHave a nice day Don
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How about less pressure from you? Many times women lose appreciation for sex when the "spark" has faded and their partner just becomes a horny jerk who sees her as a recepticle for his own self-gratification. If you really care about her, you'll stop trying to get her into the sack and take her to a nice restaurant, enjoy a romantic getaway, be attentive and a good listener. Be the man she fell in love with in the first place.
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The plain fact is that some people are sexually boring and others are sexually exciting, I believe the higher the sex drive the better the love making. Maybe your lady is not comfortable with her body, tell her she's gorgeous and maybe she'll relax a little and forget any inhibitions she may have. Hope things improve .
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I haven't met many men who were disinterested in sex, no matter what age, however, performing is another subject.  Many women also experience a decrease in libido as they age,  there are other ways to satisfy ones sex drive that are perfectly normal and do not break the marriage vow.
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wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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Women in their 40's often to experience a drop off in their sexual drives. They are often concerned about getting pregnant at a time when they are moving on past the childbearing years and concerned that if they get pregnant there will be a high risk of genetic defects. They are also experiencing a decline in physical energy compared to their younger years. Considering these factors, the lack of interest is probably not related to the relationship so much as her own body's aging. However, intimacy is much more than what happens in the marriage bed. It is what happens through the day. Improve that, and you will inevitably improve both emotional and physical closeness.\n\nYou need to consider your wife's personality. If you are not sure, research love languages. There is a book by that title if you cannot find any onformation on the net. Basically, some people feel best loved when given things. Others feel loved best through words spoken. The third type feel most loved by spending time with them. The last type feels loved through gifts of service.\n\nFor my type of personality and age (I am 42), a racy sex toy would not be a turn on. I would feel like the gift was a shout saying let's skip real intimacy and get to the sex part. Intimacy to me is based on an emotional relationship as first place. My love language is time. One on one time doing activities that are out of the ordinary to everyday life would draw me closer. A hand in hand walk through the neighborhood, a surprise candle-lit dinner, being beside me in the work of the day around the house, etc.\n\nIf you speak the language your wife needs, I am sure intimacy will increase. As conversation allows a natural discussion of it, communicate what language you like best. It will make her feel good to be filling your emotional love needs too.
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Sounds like she's not interested...
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She's going out at night more with "friends"\ncell phone bill 5 or 6 pages thick now\nshe doesn't want sex with you anymore\nsoiled / crusty panties
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I would suggest that you talk her into seeing a Dr.; it could be her hormones, post pregnancy, etc.  There are medications that could possibly help, or she may just need to talk with a professional.  Please just be there for her, be supportive, and be patient.  As an older woman, I speak from experience here.......many times, a younger woman won't have as high of a sex drive, as she will later in life.  Stress can also play into how a woman feels sexually.  We have lots to do, and there is never enough time to get it all done in, so she may simply be too tired to enjoy sex.  You might try giving her a massage, give her a nice, long foot rub, run her a bubble bath, etc., with the sole intention  of relaxing her.  Don't make sex the main focus though, or it could backfire.  Just let her know that you want to help her relax.  It might also be helpful to just sit and talk with her, let her open up if she can, and support her the best way that you can.  I hope it all works out for both of you........good luck!!
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if you've been dating a short time, she probably isn't interested in you anymore.\n\nif you've been dating a long time, she's probably getting her sex from someone else.  sorry.
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to be honest it sounds like she's losing interest, try talking to her about it, and do something sweet for her
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Sit down and talk with her and tell her how you fell about her and sex. If that does not work than maybe you and her should think about getting some help. Marriage conslour!! I wish you the best of Luck!!
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Marry her, then she'll lose her sex drive. ( Ask any man that has been married for over three years ).
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its from a lack of something in the home. We got along with everything else, except for sex. We could play and tease all day then at night I would be all worked up and she would roll over in bed to sleep like nothing had happened. I tried talking with her about how I felt and about her lack of interest. She would acknowledge her lack of sex drive but would never do anything about it.
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Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
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Men and women have completely different needs when it comes to sex, usually. No, you can't change her. But there may be a deep seated reason she is the way she is. Perhaps something she hasn't shared with you or some fear.\n\nIf it is that troublesome for you, see a sex therapist or start marriage counseling.