I dated a guy for almost 4 yrs, and we ended on bad terms. I miss him ALOT. Its been almost 8 mths .?
139314
You are not alone. First love does take a longer time to get over, but trust me, you get over it. Be patient and give yourself time.
711749
hey, youre heart isnt in the right place man! you have a lifetime to wait but a lifetime to waste. your will must aligned to the will of God in your life. The woman you love 8 years ago will not be the same woman you love at this very moment. Put yourself in a mirror and tell yourself what a handsome guy like you wasting your life in waiting. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..Go back to the basic.
1038905
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.
360612
Meaning he's moved on from you.  It might be in terms of maturity.  Social class.  Lifestyle.\nHe feels like you two are in different worlds and am conflicted how the relationship will work anymore because of the differences.
73685
it takestime to heal from a broken heart. it took me awhile to heal from a 4yr relationship. i was cheated on for 3 of the years. maybe if you give him space he will eventually call you back. when he does explain to him that it was a mistake to break up and want him back. if it was meant to be, it will happen. give him time. good luck and hang in there.
980715
It's the most unsatifying answer but the only answer that works. Time. It's the only healer for your wound. Of course there are many things you could do to help the time go by fast but unfortunatly it will take some time for you to get past the pain. You have to put into prospect 8 years is a long long time and to end it completly you should be devastated. If you would like more help you can email me at mkaltenthaler@yahoo.com. I just ended a 4 year relationship a couple of months ago. I was in your possition for a month\nGo out with friends, take on hobbies, do the things you've always wanted to do but haven't yet. \nKeep away from: anything that reminds you of him, depressing foods, sad movies/songs, don't be alone for the first month. \nYou will get past this and eventually start over and have a completly new life. It sounds impossible but I swear it will happen. Best of luck to you and hope all goes well with you.
944662
You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
956967
I spend i year w/ a guy and we mustve broke up and got back together at least 10 times. i was young and stupid. there was no future and i was blind to that. i just liked the guy and funny thing was about 2 wks before we 1st started dating i hated him, couldnt stand him. funny thing how that all works out. now i dont see him a whole lot, we're just diff ppl. but hes a good guy, makes poor choices in girls tho. guess i just gave him too much and didnt take away enough.
514580
Not sure if im late here but here it goes.\n\nIt's ok to be confused because youre in the learning stages there are many things to experience like what the guy above me said.\n\nI've had 3 long term relationships at your age, and now 10 years later, when I see my ex's we laugh about all those crazy fights we had.\n\nJust take a deep breath and look out into the horizon, 10 years from now you'll just realize how funny this all was.\n\nOh course you love him, I loved all my ex's too and I;ve talked about marriage to all of them funny thing is, time makes breaking up less cloudy.\n\nAnd yes you are hanging onto him because of the memories and all the experiences you shared. But remember people don't grow when things are stagnant.\n\nYou're here for a reason, and its either to get validation for breaking up with him. Or understanding why you feel the way you do, so why do you feel the way you do??? \n\nI guess I missed your last post, but Im gonna assume its because youre not happy. Listen to the guy above me and go out there and live life!!!
108789
It doesn't sound like you invested too much time in this guy. The best thing to do is just move on. I'm sure there are many guys out there who would put more effort into getting to know you and having a meaningful relationship.
966086
aww hunni ive been there babes and its a horrible place to be.\nunfortunatly he obviously isnt interested and had moved on where as yuo havent as you want to know what happened and want to get closure.\nyou will have to forget this guy as if he hasnt even got the balls to tell yuo its over he aint worth it.\ngood luck babes x
124813
And he shouldn't give up his love of 5 years.  You just need to start dating again, find things you enjoy doing and do them.  Don't sit by dwelling on what you can't have, instead accept the things you cannot change and move foward.  If you and this person are supposed to be together, you will, in time, for now it is what it is and you just have to go about living your life and finding ways to bring joy and peace to your own life, like attract like and if you are down in the dumps that is exactly the type of person you are going to attract, shake yourself up and open your mind for the goodness that you deserve.
299649
if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
126284
Keep your mind open to further possibilities. Don't compare the guy that you've date with your guy. I know it must be hard coz on 7 years of your life you only figure out him as your 'prince charming' in your mind. Open your heart to find the qualities that maybe you need on the guy you date with. Maybe you don't even realize that yet.  Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. \nRelease your guilty feeling caused you date with other guys. It didnt mean you not love him anymore. Let your love to him be a part of your sweeties memory ever.  Don't stuck on it. Move on. Please believe that your guy doesn't want you feel sad and stuck on the past anymore. He must be want to see you happy again. So release it...
228002
How long has it been since you two talked? If not long like a couple of days, just give him some space. Try not to sweat it too hard, if it was meant to be it will happen. GOOD LUCK!!!
1032939
there is a reason why you two broke up--it didn't work out.  don't be weak and get back with him just because you're lonely now.  it usually takes at least a few months before you get over someone...so stick it out and start casually dating (not meaning sex) in the mean time.