Can someone help...legal issue, single dad here..need to move out of state, with 14 yr old son..emergency?
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Talk to X and get written permission.  If she is unwilling, talk to attorney or Friend of Court.  Might try calling Court Clerk (something called pro per package you can fill out yourself).  If you move w/o X granting permission, could be in a heap of trouble, unless you are in Florida at present time.
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Sorry to hear about your current situation. :( \n\nThe first thing I would do is figure out what city/town/state services are available to you. There is a lot of assistance with housing/food/child care/employment/legal fees/ECT. Your state government must have public welfare/need offices around the area. I would just go in, explain your situation and apply for aid. This is what welfare is supposed to be for, someone who is in immediate need of financial help for a temporary time. They also assist you in going to college if you are interested in that. \nI think you are very courageous to leave him. You only live once, so might as well be happy. Not staying with a person addicted to gambling, drinking, and spending money. Good luck. Feel free to email if you have any questions. \n:)
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Hi chrismarie1511,\nDo you have joint custody? You need to contact a lawyer. Look in the phone book for a lawyer who gives a free consultation in person or over the phone if you cant afford one. Good Luck: Blueladybug
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you need to go straight to a lawyer. I live in Australia so i don't know the laws where you are perhaps living. But you could go to social services or child welfare and tell them that you now have care of the child that your husband has legal rights to. Those rights would also have obligations on his behalf. I don't know how old the child is but asking what they want is a good start and then seek all the professional advice that you have to to resolve this. This child like all children must have love and stability. Going back and forth to dad when it suits him could have long term effects on this child. You never mentioned under what circumstances he was awarded custody. I have to take you at your word as i don't know you but if you love your child and feel that they will be better of with you and you can provide for their needs, all of them, challenge the ruling and do what is right for the child. Someone professional to help your child through all these confusing times and transitions is probably a good idea. Good luck to you and i hope the little one gets through this turmoil with as little scarring as possible. Looks like that's up to you.
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You need to go through the courts.  Have a child support order made by the courts, with an income deduction order, so that the money is just taken from his check and deposited into your account (no more bounced check worrries).  I went through what you are going through for years until I finally went to the courts.  By this point my ex was $14000 in the hole but had purchased a new car, enrolled in college for his masters degree, and was living great.  But whenever I questioned him about it, he would tell me how hard he was struggling and that he just couldn't do any better.  I, however, was living on a prayer and wish, maxing out credit card for grocery and clothing for my son.  And wondering if I would ever be able to get out of the hole he'd made.   \n\n\nIt took 10 months for the courts to straighten everything out.  I requested that I keep my son's insurance on my policy because my exhusband was very unstable and changed jobs a lot.  They had no problems with that.  They garnished his income tax refund for the next 3 years and made it very clear to him that his child was first in his life, not his new apartment  or car or school. \n\nHe pays the very least a non-custodial parent can pay.  I was not trying to break him, I just wanted my son to have the benefit of both parent's income.  Which I think is his right.  \n\nThink of it as fighting for your children.  You would never let anyone else take anything from them or cheat them.  Don't let their father.  If they lived with him, he wouldn't have a choice about taking care of them.  He shouldn't just because ya'll aren't together.  \n\nYou don't need a lawyer.  Just go to your local office for Child support enforcement.  If you don't know where it is, search child support and your state's name.  \n\nAlso, think about life insurance policy -- child support orders normally require both parent carry one because you need that assurance in the event of an untimely death.  \n\n\nGood Luck!!
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Give him written notice that his rental agreement is being terminated.  You'll have to give him at leat 30 days to move out.  He's a parent so there's no excuse for him to not take care of his own family.  If he wants to accuse you of abuse it'll most likely be dismissed but if there's any suspicion the agency will require him to get the child out of the household, so that'd be a bad move on his part.\n\nGood luck.  I say just set a date that he has to be gone by, and don't back down.
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Yikes!  Ask some local attorneys what options you have.  Some may take payments in increments.  It could be that if you take him to court he'll have to suck up most of the cost anyway, even back child support since you have been separated.  Never hurts to make some phone calls!  Much luck to you.  I think you'll find this is easier than you think, it's just annoying as hell.
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Sounds to me like this is a case of divorced parents? Assuming it is and the mother has legal custody and depending of course on what state they live in, its unlikely the father could interfere with the legal process. Personally, I would not get involved in family matters where custody would be a factor. As for the rent, if the boy is requesting emancipation then he's asking the courts to recognize him as an adult and empower him with legal custody of himself. If he wants to be an adult then he needs to have adult obligations so I say the rent is fair.
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you have 6 month from the time your divorce was filed here in ca.  If I were you, I would consult a Lawyer.  He has no business being a father.  He sounds very unfit.  Sounds like you have very good grounds.  First though what I would recommend is documenting. for example, I keep all emails I send to my ex that way if need being I have the written proof for the court.  basically say to him, that he was scheduled to pick so and so up, but you got a call from the school saying no-one pick her up.  something along those lines.  without documentation, you won't have a chance.
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Contact social services and start some type of child support\nYou will need the help \nhe probably thinks he can get off scott free
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you need to get a lawyer, try legal aid they may be able to help you as long as you are in there income guidelines, he can stop you from being able to move and this will probably affect the current visitation agreement you two have. It will probably come to one having the child during the school year and one during the summer, also alternating holidays. that is if that's what he goes for, he could also go for total custody. Before you move you need to get the courts permission or else you can be charged for this. Be careful, it sounds like you may have a fight on your hands, don't let the thought of you wanting to move in with your current boyfriend, make you lose your child, do everything the legal way so you are all legal and still retain custody.
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You need to get some real free legal advise. Are you saying you can't afford to pay for one either? If you have no major ties to him it shouldn't be too difficult. Go to your local court house and start asking questions. I don't think it will cost as much as you think.\n\nI would not worry about your dignity right now. You would not believe what others are going through or have gone through. If they are true friends they are not judging you.\n\nIf you pay for it think of it as you leaving and not him letting you go.
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You need to leave, taking your son with you. If your s.o.'s prior domestic violence was severe enough to land him in jail, you and your son are in danger! But I think you know that. You need to go to your version of the Family Court and apply for an ex parte Protection from Abuse order to start with. If it is approved, this could give you temporary custody of your son and even possibly give you possession of your place of residence (depending on a lot of situations, of course.)\n\nOnce you have done this, get in touch with your version of the Legal Aid Society. They should be able to advise you about the legality of the recordings you have and help you at no charge. Also, check out the Domestic Violence Center. If you have nobody you can live with until this comes to a full hearing, they may be able to find you a safe shelter.\n\nOnce you go to a final hearing, if you get a FULL Protection from Abuse order, you can try for custody. You MUST try to do this, despite the threats. If you don't, you KNOW there will be more trouble and possible violence. If you DO this, you will at least have SOME chance that things will get better and you will have what you want and need.\n\nPlease -- take care -- but get help soon!
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First of all there was a lot you could do and it would have been much simpler to do it, you should have taken your son to a safe place, and left that crazy,immature,self centered,imbecile of a girlfriend of yours to do whatever she chose to do.\n Now you have opened a serious can or worms, even with a good lawyer you are in for a nightmare.child services can get involved,and you probably have no witness or way to prove any of your story,and even if you did,your still going to have to deal with kicking and striking her ,and to compound it ,the child was in the house at the time.\n What you need is a good lawyer,voluntarily get yourself enrolled in parenting classes,and counseling,and try to get your parents or some responsible adult to petition for temporary custody on the grounds of best interest of the child.\n Once this is resolved,petition for custody of the child,or a declaration of guardianship for your son, and petition for your girlfriend to have supervised visitation with her son only.\n Good luck, get enrolled in parenting classes and counseling today,to demonstrate your responsibility and intention to the court ,they aren't going for the "what else could I do" defense, and get yourself a good family lawyer who specializes in child disposition cases.
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MOST STATES HAVE LEGAL AIDE SERVICES THAT CAN HELP.IF THERES LIKELY TO BE A CUSTODY FIGHT I STRONGLY SUGGEST HAVING AN ATTORNEY. ALSO SECURE THE CHILDS RESIDENCE BEFORE HAND.....SUCH AS MAKE CERTAIN THE DADS RESIDENCE IS LISTED ON ALL PAPERWORK,SUCH AS SCHOOL OR DAYCARE RECORDS ETC...HE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO PROVE THE CHILD HAS BEEN IN HIS CUSTODY. DIVORCE CAN BE VERY UGLY,ESPECIALLY WHERE KIDS ARE CONCERNED.I WOULD DEFINATELY SEEK ADVICE FROM THE LOCAL FAMILY COURT OR DISTRICT ATTORNEYS OFFICE BEFORE TIPPING MY HAND.
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email me at corbett11@yahoo.  Depending on your income, you may qualify for a public defender.  You can also try a Volunteer legal services project.  They are lawyers who volunteer their time for these matters to lower income ppl.  Try to be amicable with the father as it is in the best interest of the child.  Go for joint custody.  Allow the most for relationships with both parents.  You can hate him if you want, but dont use the child as a pawn.  My ex is and I didnt get to see her for 3 months.  Not cool.  Also, File for Child support tomorrow, along with a petition for visitation/custody.  Your parents and his have rights as grandparents and can be entitled to time as well.  Try to take a parenting course that deals with the psycholgical aspects on the child (A.C.T. - Assisting Children with Transition) or something similar.  The 0-3 yrs are the most crucial in development for your baby.  Keep that in mind.  This is when the relationships and bonds are formed.
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Are you certain this is the way you want to go? Your son is only 17. He is probably going through alot of crap already, and he may say he doesn't want you to be his father, and who knows, maybe he's correct in thinking that you shouldn't be in his life, but until he's an adult it isn't really up to him. \n\nDo you currently pay child support? I suggest that you speak to your ex-wife about the situation. You as a father have a responsibility to your son wether he wants you to be a part of his life or not. \n\nI suggest you continue to do what you are doing until he is an adult and you are no longer responsible for child support and then you see what happens. It's not much longer before he is an adult anyway. You're relationship may change drastically in that period of time.