why cant a person be open and honest about there feelings about another person?
138282
rejection. When you open up you feel very vunerable.So many things can go wrong...worst one being that the other person doesn't feel the same way. Life would be so much easier if people were just open!
934906
To tell you the truth, we have to be, we can't let our true feelings or emotions surface. If we do then were not considered stong, rather, people see a man do this and seem to lose respect for him. It's the world, even you ladies find it bad if we do any thing of the sort. And believe me, when it comes to us gentlemen, we pay the price for it.
629680
Probably same as me.  Unable to open up completely to someone.
480080
totally agrees with you.  The world is full of ppl we can connect with without acutally "knowing" them.  Like if they eat with thier mouth closed, do they put the toilet seat down, turn off the shower thing on the tub when they get out, etc etc etc.  I think you can develop feelings if you talk to someone for a long time, yes, but I think it is far from love.  In order to love someone you have to see all the negative and positive at least to make a judgment based on fact and not just what they might type to you.
968442
I think at times when people talk about feelings they kind of shy away from it cause of fear of getting hurt. You may have to just be patient with her for now. Good things do come to those who wait.
1033628
people do not want to look in the mirror and face themselves....\npeople never want to dig to deep into the truth because their too scared to ruffle a few feathers....\n\npeople are generally a**holes and thats about all I can say...\n\nim a BRUTALLY HONEST person..which is why most people dont know how to act around me or ask me any questions because they know I will tell it like it is .....and most people do not want to face the truth....
327988
You CAN'T force help on someone who doesn't want it. That's enabling behavior which is also wrong.\nBut, you can share YOUR heart; your pain; your sorrow with him. Typically when someone wants to get another to open up, they have to make themselves vulnerable by disclosing something of significance to earn that other person's trust.\nTry it. You may get the window of oppurtunity you're looking for.
1124117
That's way too honest.  People can't deal with the truth.  They're too afraid of their natures.\n\nI say "I want you" or things to that effect a lot more than the others you've mentioned.  I've gotten over being afraid to tell a woman that I want to use her for my pleasure regardless of emotional connection.\n\nThey're human too... they're looking for the same thing we are.
332001
People are too scared to tell you how they feel to your face.  I get talked about behind my back but I also have a problem with saying things about others.  I always thought it was human nature, though not okay to do so.  I don't like doing it, and I am trying to stop, but I just find that I am a cynic and I just have trouble telling people what I really think of them to avoid confrontation.  So, I say it to someone else.  I definitely don't think it's okay, I never have, but old habits are hard to break.  I know that it is wrong...judge not lest thee be judged, but it is hard to change, right?
868540
she may not feel comfortable telling you, or may feel like you will tell someone else.  She may also feel a little silly discussing it with you because you're younger.  It doesn't mean that she's trying to hide anything, she may just think that her friends can relate better because they're older or have already had situations that you haven't experienced yet.
471897
This is like most relationships. Its give and take...Your friend wont be a real friend if she cant deal with your feelings and opinions. You may be wrong, so what, you have the feelings correct or not. If you talk things out you will find a common ground.
1126069
If the real reason is just to let people know and not to gain anything yourself, most of the time I would say it was okay.  I trusted someone for years, with my deepest secrets only to find out they were telling everyone.  No one was nice enough to tell me what she was doing behind my back.  I would have appreciated the honesty.
26554
If you can not be open and honest in your communication with members of the opposite sex, then you are a Player.  To you, Life is a game.  Marriage is not.
303272
Because one must open oneself completely for love to occur. Very vulnerable state, which also requires honesty. It is very scary, even though exilirating. Sometimes it is too much. Sometimes, we are too scared to be honest with ourselves, or do not feel strong enough to risk the hurt.\n\nIt's like jumping out of an airplane, but you're not only not sure your parachute will open, you're not even sure you're wearing one.
582000
Because they think they're better than others, or either they're insecure about themselves and try to find fault in others just for the heck of it. It happens a lot nowadays, you just have to learn to be more open-minded. If people dont like you for who you are, that's their problem.
102520
maybe your sensitive and emotional.and im sure there is someone who can understand you.try to understand exactly how your heart feels that way it will be easier for you to tell people how you feel.so you wouldn't get hurt that easy.
865498
my best guess is that he doesnt know how to bring his feelings to the surface and present them to you. mabie for fear of rejection or even out of fear of accecptence.