Why when your in love does the other person hafe to cheat/leave?
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Your dilemma is one that is all too common. You are probably right when you say that it is not ?just me.?  It takes two to make a marriage or break a   marriage, and it takes two to have an affair. The fact that he has always been ?a flirt? suggests that, at one time, he was that way with you. You probably responded in a way that made him feel special, wanted, and needed, and reinforced his flirting behavior. This ties in with the first and main reason why men have affairs: to feed  their ego. The problem with us males is that feeling good about ourselves, or meeting our ?ego needs,? is our primary goal in life. Therefore, the first reason why men get involved in affairs is that it feeds their egos. \n\nDon't worry your not alone nor the only one.   :)
372599
Alot of good answers on here...I am going to give you an answer from the other perspective. I was a wife who was cheated on. Granted, we were only married 5 1/2 years but it was extremely painful. Imagine the person you love most in the world and have dedicated your life to coming home one evening and saying to you "I am seeing someone else and I think I love her." It makes your heart stop, your body ache, and the word "numb" doesn't even come close to what you feel. My initial response was "Oh My God NO! You can't leave me!" After a few days it was "Get the F**K away from me!!" If his wife were smart she would kick him to the curb. The two of you deserve each other. You are no better than he is.
483798
If you really love someone you should feel happy that the person you love is happy, even if it's not with you! Sometimes if you really love someone you have to let them go, so they can be happy....Not always we can be with the person we love, but trust me the best proof of love someone can give is wishing the happiness of the person they love no matter who they're with! I hope I made sense! That's what love supposed to be!\n\nSome people say that love is fighting for the person you love....and doing anything to be with them....that is NOT true, because if the person you love is happy with someone else, why would you even try to separate them if you know that the person is happy? That isn't called love, that's called "being selfish"....
828131
Sounds like you're interested in this other person, so it probably will lead to cheating. You aren't being honest with him or yourself right now.
1059687
if you love someone set them free. and from experience, the cheating parties will end up worse than they where before because there relationship is already based on a lie, and the high they get from each other will end when the sneaking around does. if they would both spend as much time trying to love the one they fell in love with, then they would actually get more enjoyment in saving and creating than destroying. i have no degree but i have seen it happen to many of my friends. i have heard them cry, and watched them F things up even more, in the end there will be nothing worth saving. and the kids suffer the most.
118657
coz u try too hard and u try to love one person loving someone is a good thiig but bad result for u \ndon't go search for lobe let love come to u \nlet that person love u more then u love hm/her
716614
ive yet to master the perfect relationship thing.17 years of tring,i can tell you this.being a jealous person can drive youan everyone else crazy.if you are truely in love,then you have to trust this person,if you cant then someone isnt truely in love,so if you dont trust them to go visit this person alone then you may need to be with someone else,plus you should be able to take your partner alone to break it off,with someone else.it just builds a good understanding,honesty best policy
14105
Never cheated, but been cheated on several times. *shrugs*  Personally, I put the hurt beside it self and focus on one thing.  There are plenty of fish out in the sea and I'm not going to waste time on someone who doesn't want me there.  Besides, I'm perfectly sure that there is someone who will like a faithful partner instead of the usual run of the mill.\nTo put it simply, don't cheat, it only ends to heartache and there is nothing that can justify it.  If your having problems with your partner, either work them out or close up shop.  Then you can move on to another partner, because if you cheat and take on another partner they might leave you because you lied to them.  Its a vicious cycle of hurt, end it, just because you hurt doesn't mean you've got to hurt everyone around you.
270138
If you love someone, than usually love makes you ALWAYS want to be around the person you love. Maybe it's just obsession or lust.
1151645
Most women I know who cheated were either bored with their married lives, or were in an unhappy marriage or relationship and could not or would not wait until they were out before starting something new.  I always say leave before beginning anything new.  Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
941150
well.\nyou said cheating.\nyou don't cheat when your in love.
223629
Because they aren't getting what they want from that loved one. Or maybe some men are just idiotic and selfish and think that the world revolves around them and they can do whatever they please. If you honestly feel that you man is cheating on you though, confront him and explain why you feel that he is.
514078
I feel for you on this one.......what I've noticed with the one girl that cheated on me is that you stop talking about your feeling for one another and try to hide what he did that night.  The shorter the conversations the more likely it is that the other person is cheating on you........
251494
Cheating is the worst way that you can betray the one you love. In my opinion you really don't love someone as much as you think you do if you can cheat on them. I know if my husband cheated on me,which thank God I do not have to worry about that, I would leave him because all the things that we shared and all the trust we built together would just be gone because of his infidelity. You have to understand that if you man doesn't stay with you because you cheated on him,you hurt him in one of the worst ways a person can be hurt, and thats a hard thing to forgive someone for. If he leaves you, there is nothing you can really do but understand why he left you. You man has to be really I mean REALLY compassionate to forgive you and stay with you after what you did to him. If you really want this man to stay with you all I can say is beg for mercy from him.Hope I helped!
216237
when you love someone its like if you are not making them happy but you know your heart is in there hands then love them enough to let them go and be happy. but then if you love them so much then you would both bend to compromise with each other so you are both happy. to me. NEVER let sum1 you love go. make it work first. the last solution is leaving. holla
514477
It doesn't matter if someone cheats on you or not.  Why would you lower yourself to their level.  You have to go through life liking yourself.  You have to look in the mirror and like who you are.  If someone cheated then the relationship is going to take a lot of work to be able to work in general.  If the other person cheats out of revenge then neither of you should be in the relationship to begin with.
507110
People cheat because they have a lack of self control.  If you know that something is wrong, and you do it anyway, then you are showing an amazing lack of self control, and your immaturity is showing as well.  It takes strength realize the truth.  A person does not have to cheat.  You simply tell your significant other "I don't love you enough to respect your feelings, or care if I hurt you."  Then leave them.  Because that is the exact message you are telling them when you cheat.  You are just too chicken to tell them to their face.