My partner wants to try something new in bed but im not so sure i want to try it yet, (up the butt) help me!!!
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If you are not comfortable with it...don't do it...if your partner loves you he will respect your wishes...afterall...sex is soemthing to be shared with someone who respects and loves you...and should be enjoyed by both people. If you do want to...do some research..it's more complex than just doing it...there are alot of risks involved in it and certain things you should know about before you engage in that sex act...use lots of lube too!!!
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Honey, just because you are in love doesnt mean you should try anything he wants to try.  He needs to understand that its your body, not his.  If you are uneasy about it, then dont do it, cuz that type of sex needs complete relaxation, trust, and lubrication.  He needs to be gentle, and quite frankly, if you cannot relax, then I would suggest against it. Either way, it's your choice and if you say no, then tell  him to stop bothering you about it.
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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The more comfortable your woman is w/ you the more apt she will be to try new things.  I used to be very modest in the bedroom until I met my boyfriend. Women tend to be modest b/c they are afraid of what men will think.  Chances are...you girlfriend does want to try new things.  But it is your job to make her feel at ease. Also talk about it.  How will your woman ever know if you dont tell her what you want.  We are not mind readers :)
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Back off him for a bit for starters, he's probably exhausted! No men like being badgered into more sex, the pressure sucks and doesnt make it very enjoyable. FInd out when he likes doing it, try different things, get that spark back, just try asking him what he wants/likes!
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I say yes you should do it if this is a fantasy for both of you.  Its always good to explore your options and its great when you can explore with your mate.  You to need to get know your interselves.  Sex is a beautiful thing and it needs exploring just be safe.  The body is a beautiful piece of art, so I say go for it if you like great if not you only live once so feel like it was worth the experience.
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explore your body first, when you know all those parts that make you feel good, and you are able to have an orgasm, then maybe you can explore with your b/f touching each other and and maybe oral sex first, but go step by step
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It may be awkward, but going slow and talking about it both are best ways to find out. He may not know either, so may want to experiment. Talk about it before and after, so you both know if things were good and where things need to improve. \nIf you are feeling strange, 1. he will pick up on this. 2. imagine how he feels. He may wonder if you don't want to have sex with someone with his problems. Instead of silently wondering, try opening up with desire for him, and frustration at feeling strange and not wanting to hurt him. Tell him you want it to feel good for him.
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• Why even question something dat's goin' so great?\n\n...then again, I can understand da fact dat u're tryin to b considerate of ur man as well. Givin oral can b (believe it or not) pleasurable for da person givin it. I sometimes get a bigger turn-on by seein how my girl enjoys it while I'm pleasurin her. \n\nIf u'd like to know how he really feels, but u don't wanna just come out n ask him, try askin general questions or have an open n friendly chat instead. Havin both of u talk about intimate things will not only help him open up n tell u how he really feels about oral(without u being direct about it), but it'll also help him understand what u also like n dislike as well. Its a win win dontcha think?\n\nI once found out about a real cool (n kinky) fantasy my ex had just by talkin about da things we love to do in bed, favorite positions, fantasies etc. So I surprised her one day n made two or her fantasies a reality. How cool is dat huh?\n\n...good luck to ya!
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Do something you wouldn't ordinarily do with him.  Whether it is trying a new position or experimenting with other sexual activities, just be creative and I am sure everything will work out lovely.
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try showing your partner how to touch you, how you like! Sharing how to turn each other on even more makes the experience better AND the orgasms more regular!
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yes ...\ni think u need to try something not some1 new. give it a boost, try different positions, and places, maybe toys
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I think a good way to tell him would be to ask him what some of his fantasies are and let him tell you some and maybe try them out.  Then it is almost certain that he will ask you what you like and what some of your fantasies are.
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My advice to you is be honest and open with him, You can please yourself while he is making love to you. Communication is the key here. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't.
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you might have- maybe you want to tell him you wish to experiment more in bed because you love him so much. i've done different positions and places when having sex with my boyfriend. we also did it once while watching a porno- it gives you some more ideas to experiement with- just dont get to the point when you need it on everytime- thats not the point of experimenting.\n\nmaybe different foods will spice things up? or foreplay? i know my boyfriend & me have fun trying different types of condoms. i highly reccomended the scented ones. the stubbed ones are also great.
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do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
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Are you looking for just role play or to try things you two have not done yet like anal sex, toys, movies, ect... To role play, I would ask her what turns her on, like a man in a uniform, a boss/secretary, exotic men, ect. Then surprise her with costume/decorated room to the theme. She may be too turned on to turn you down. On the toys/sexual items, you should ask her and NOT surprise her, you might get socked! She should feel comfortable with whatever new things you guys try. If she is a little reluctant, try to push the issue a little because most people are afraid to try new things, but once they do it, they like it. If she is not budging, leave it alone and maybe ask at another time. Good Luck