how to reduce overreaction and being hot tempered?
153723
I have the same problem.  Someone told me I need to control it... but it isn't as easy as it sounds...
940876
the best thing to do is to stop letting people bother you. if you don't you'll spen most of your time upset. that's no fun is it?\n\nmy moto "Please don't give me a hard time. My stomach hurts me when I laugh too much." :)
506019
Simmer down!!! (Calm your nerves) Get a massage, or something, take a relaxing bath. Do whatever to chill out.
6035
Well you have to sit and analyze what went wrong the day before. What were you in control of? What did you have no control over? If you made mistakes, figure out how you can make up for it. Look ahead. Look for the positive outcome. Instead of worrying over it, do something about it. And remember........always tell yourself you are a good person, even when you are feeling like the pits!!!
1051938
when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
397251
myself i train in martial arts ( Kempo to be exact ) i remove myself from my problem so i am not around the person or place. then i focus on the fact that i am in a area where no one can get to me mentaly to stress me out more. plus the exersise helps the fustration part of it. or i just leave and go to a cheap movie or something. but sitting around does not help unless your planning on sleeping. just make sure to lock yourself in the room and don't awnser the phone or door until you cool down. make it your terms of when you feel relaxed enough to go back, not cause you get called somewhere otherwise you carry the stress or anger with you.
175163
Stand up to them. Do this in a professional and respectful manner. Do not lower your standard to their level.Smile while you are doing this and last of all ask them if they need your help. Be sincere. Make sure you have had enough sleep the night before and if you take medicine to help you control your emotions, take it about 30 minutes before you have your day. Let us know how it turns out. You may want to practice in the mirror at home for a few times before you BLAST OFF. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
997764
There are so many of us who eventually have to face this situation. You can not change other people or control how they act BUT you have all the power in the world to control how YOU act. Be professional and cordial because this will only work towards your benefit. This is your job. Don't let anyone ruin that for you. It may be difficult but you'll be a lot less irritated if you keep a reasonable distance and maintain short , professional interactions. And exhale afterwards and let it go. Don't hang on to the irritation after you're gone home. Leave the bad feelings behind. It will make going to work so much easier.
10806
Force yourself to spend more time out and less time inside. If your having major panic attacks over this you should seek psychological help.
456679
SPEAK UP for yourself.  Stay away from those who put you down as much as possible.  If they confront you,  look them straight in the eyes, tell them to LAY OFF and walk away.  Mean people usually pick on those who they perceive as vulnerable. Keep you chin UP no matter how you feel.  Your air of confidence will make you FEEL more confident and also deter some of the bubble-bursters.   If you are being harrassed,  speak to your supervisor.  If your supervisor harrasses you and/or is unconcerned,  speak to his/her superior.   If you get no positive results,  start looking for a new job.   You deserve a friendlier work environment. (It's a possibility that you can file a "hostile environment" complaint against your present employer).  I suggest counselling to help you figure out why you are shy and nervous.   Focus on your accomplishments at work.  Build your self-confidence outside of work.  Find new friends. Seek outside activities and hobbies that give you a sense of accomplishment.  Read self-help books.   And,  yes,  an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication might help you cope with the stress until YOU change your circumstances.  (Noone else will do it for you).  Talk to your doctor.
761534
First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
1036579
Sadly there is not much you can do to cool him down or even prevent an episode of rage in him.  If you want to cope so you don't end up terminating the relationship all you have to do is when you sense his temper tantrums coming, leave immediately if possible.  Simply refuse to be around him because you know that his negative attitude will affect you...I'm sure it always does.  And if his temper is as quick as you say, then you may just be running away from him more than you stay around him, but that is the only thing that can keep you safe from his poison.
298742
eat healthy\nexercise daily\nand please, don't get mad easily as possible\ncontrol your emotions
991664
When I get mad, I get an adrenalin rush. Nothing I can say is going to "cool me off.'\nBut, if you are butting heads with someone you might try, "Why don't we just get a hotel room?"
1102181
Don't counter-attack in the heat of anger.\n\nCool off and PLAN.  :-))\n\nAfter awhile, the enemy will not be expecting it.
1075043
i m a student n i can easily understand ur pro. wt u can do is just be calm n when u hv anger eat something n think abt something that went best in ur life.
403000
Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.