Should we cry when our loved ones die in War or in other incidents? See details please.?
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Well, I would have to say that the grieving process is different for everybody and while I agree that you should pray for the dead, they understand that you cry because you're saddened at the loss of a person you loved. I see it as an expression of love, that someone cared about me enough to cry over my passing.
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Is It Normal to Feel This Way?\n \n \n \n\n\nA BEREAVED person writes: "As a child in England, I was taught not to express my feelings in public. I can remember my father, an ex-military man, saying to me through clenched teeth, 'Don't you cry!' when something had caused me pain. I cannot recall whether my mother ever kissed or hugged any of us kids (there were four of us). I was 56 when I saw my father die. I felt a tremendous loss. Yet, at first, I was unable to weep."\n\nIn some cultures, people express their feelings openly. Whether they are happy or sad, others know how they feel. On the other hand, in some parts of the world, notably in northern Europe and Britain, people, especially men, have been conditioned to hide their feelings, to suppress their emotions, to keep a stiff upper lip and not wear their hearts on their sleeves. But when you have suffered the loss of a dear one, is it somehow wrong to express your grief? What does the Bible say?\n \n\n\nThose Who Wept in the Bible\n \n \n\n\nThe Bible was written by Hebrews of the eastern Mediterranean region, who were expressive people. It contains many examples of individuals who openly showed their grief. King David mourned the loss of his murdered son Amnon. In fact, he "wept with a very great weeping." (2 Samuel 13:28-39) He even grieved at the loss of his treacherous son Absalom, who had tried to usurp the kingship. The Bible account tells us: "Then [David] the king became disturbed and went up to the roof chamber over the gateway and gave way to weeping; and this is what he said as he walked: 'My son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! O that I might have died, I myself, instead of you, Absalom my son, my son!'" (2 Samuel 18:33) David mourned like any normal father. And how many times have parents wished they could have died in place of their children! It seems so unnatural for a child to die before a parent.\n\nHow did Jesus react to the death of his friend Lazarus? He wept on nearing his tomb. (John 11:30-38) Later, Mary Magdalene wept as she neared Jesus' sepulcher. (John 20:11-16) True, a Christian with an understanding of the Bible's resurrection hope does not grieve inconsolably, as some do who do not have a clear Bible basis for their beliefs regarding the condition of the dead. But as a human with normal feelings, the true Christian, even with the hope of the resurrection, does grieve and does mourn the loss of any loved one.—1 Thessalonians 4:13, 14.\n \n\n\nTo Weep or Not to Weep\n \n \n\n\nWhat about our reactions today? Do you find it difficult or embarrassing to show your feelings? What do counselors recommend? Their modern views often merely echo the Bible's ancient inspired wisdom. They say that we should express our grief, not repress it. This reminds us of faithful men of old, such as Job, David, and Jeremiah, whose expressions of grief are found in the Bible. They certainly did not bottle up their feelings. Therefore, it is not wise to cut yourself off from people. (Proverbs 18:1) Of course, mourning is expressed in different ways in different cultures, also depending on the prevalent religious beliefs.*\n\n\nWhat if you feel like weeping? It is part of human nature to weep. Recall again the occasion of Lazarus' death, when Jesus "groaned in the spirit and . . . gave way to tears." (John 11:33, 35) He thus showed that weeping is a normal reaction to the death of a loved one.\n\nThis is supported by the case of a mother, Anne, who had lost her baby Rachel to SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Her husband commented: "The surprising thing was that neither Anne nor I cried at the funeral. Everyone else was weeping." To this, Anne responded: "Yes, but I have done plenty of crying for both of us. I think it really hit me a few weeks after the tragedy, when I was finally alone one day in the house. I cried all day long. But I believe it helped me. I felt better
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Let me give you an advice..\nDont let the ignorance go too high please..\nFrom my experience i have lost a person..\nSo i please beg of you..\nThis is coz i cant see something special go to ruin..\nMy best wishes to you to have everything fine..
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Sometimes this type of healing can take a long time.  But there will come a time that when you think of them you will smile instead of cry.  I work at a hospital and deal with death quite often.  Just remember, death is part of life, it is natural and it happens to everyone.  There are never any reasons or answers.  It just is.
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how do you start dealing with grief,,,not that we are taught that now are we.\n\nI lost my dad 4 years ago xmas eve ( so when people are getting all happy ready for xmas i'm not) and he died also suddenley,.\n \nI see rest of family getting on with it so I think why cant I, but are they???, they prob feeling the same.  think of him at times and then I get upset.\n\nI think also because it was sudden doesnt mean it hurts more than if u know someone is going to die before hand, like my friends mother who had cancer.\nThey prepared themselves for her not being round much longer.... but\n Shock of loosing a loved one is that SHOCK.\n\ntalking does help, listen to me hey lol i can only talk to strangers about this.\n\n its hard cause they ie parents have been there all our life we have known them forever and now they not there.\n\n\n\nSo as far as i know it is normal still to greive, cause you dont think about them doesnt mean you have forgotton them\n\n\nI hope this makes sense sometimes you cant get your words out.\ngood luck sweetie xx
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I lost my father at the age of 16.. not only did it send me into an emtional and mental spiral... it affected my work, my hobbies, friends, self-image, you name it.. i started to go down hill at it.\n\nYou will NEVER "get over" the loss of that loved one.. nor will you ever forget them.    \n\nI however, believe that eveything happens for a reason, when the Lord says....."child come home"....... nothing matters, the age, sex, how much they are need here on earth, how "you" feel it wasn't there time.   Everyone is taken when they are...because that is the will of God.\n\nI pray for you...  peace and contentment, strength and understanding.  I hope that through these tough times that you face now and will continue to face some happiness and good can come of this.  Do not be mournful or feel sorrow....   for stuggle is ordained, as is life and death.    \n\nRemember them for who they were, what they did and how they touched you...   do not fill you life with resentment and bitterness trying to understand.  \n\nGet a journal, talk to a counselour... confide in your family and friends.     They are there for you!\n\nPeace & Love
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You cannot deny the realities of life...war unfortunately is one reality.\nWhether we see these wars as 'Necessary' or 'Justified' doesn't really matter.\nWhat really matters is that the "soldier" out there fighting that war is just as much a part of our family (the family of Man) as anyone of us. With a 'heart' and 'soul' just like you and me. With the hurts and the pains just like you and me. With the aspirations, joys and other worldly desires we all share. God bless each and everyone of them...they have my love.
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No, I believe that after a womans husband dies she should wait until she feels better off and isn't grieving anymore.  After that she should be able to go out and go find someone else.
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It is part of grieving.   Crying can be a release of  all of the emotions that center around the loss of someone.    I would say it is an important part of working through the grief for some people.  It allows them to move on with their life after having experienced  a loss.
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Well, crying over a death probably combines a number of feelings. \n\nYou're sad about that empty spot in your life, now that the person is gone and you can no longer be with them.\n\nYou're sad for the dead person, that they didn't live longer or perhaps that they suffered when they died.\n\nYou're sad for the person's family, who now is left without that person's presence.\n\nYou're sad over death in general -- the fact that people even have to die at all.\n\nYes, it's possible to be upset more for your own loss than anyone else's, or to let yourself wallow in grief without letting yourself adjust and heal over time, but in general I would be more worried if you didn't cry or feel loss over someone's death. \n\nIt's natural and healthy to be sad.
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YOU NEED TIME TO GRIEVE...YOU WILL GET BETTER OVER TIME...DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU TO "GET OVER IT"...AT LEAST YOU HAVE A HEART...MY SYMPATHY TO YOU...AND I'M NOT ASHAMED TO SAY "GOD WEEPS FOR YOU TOO. HE GETS NO PLEASURE IN SEEING PEOPLE SUFFER." CRY WHEN YOU MUST...SOME OF US HERE CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS...BEST TO YOU...Phantom of the Blog
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yes some men cry. i cried at my mothers funeral and the day she died. i also cried when my son was born. your bf is either depressed or thinks playing sensitive will get him points with you. how women react to a man cring is up to her. my gf at the time of my moms death was very compassionate and held me and listened to me about how i felt. my son is now 2 yrs old and my wife still talks about how sweet she thought it was to see me cring because i was so overwhelmed with happiness to hold my new born son. again though it is all up to the individual on how they react.
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Read Isaiah 58- it is a matter of the heart. We need to make sure we are doing it for the right reason. Not our own glory or benefit and not while we engage in things that displease \nGod. It is to afflict our souls. Jesus said Blessed are they that mourn.
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Time.  That's what you need.  It always seems to hurt a little less.  Don't pretend the person is not gone, but.... don't dwell on it either.  Make sure to stay in contact with those that you love for support.  Those that care for you will come through NOW- more than ever.
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Well Well. \nLooks like your in for a hefty pay cut for your Anti-US Military Propaganda Machine.\nI am surprised that you have not asked everyone to say a little prayer for your departed friend.\nNo the war unfortunately will not be over in a few Months. But with his kind out of the headlines.\nHopefully it should make things a little easier.\nThe US Military got one, I hope they get the rest of them soon.\nI am just worried about how you are dealing with the loss. \nHave a Nice day.
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everyone is different.  however long it takes you to get back on your feet, it could be 6months, it could be a year. but whenever that time comes there is no need to continue to be in mourning, of course you should never try to forget the death of a loved one.  but moving on is necessary both for you and the children.  just take it slow, and things will fall into place.  she wouldn't have wanted you to continue to live lonely.
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death especially of my loved ones