Did it hurt the first time that you had sex?
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My advice to you is...first and formost...don't let anyone do anything to your body unless you are absolutely ready. \n\nYes. The first time can be painful if not done with care, patience and tenderness. \n\nIf you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that you want to lose your virginity, you MUST set the ground rules. Make sure your partner knows that if it becomes too uncomfortable that he is to stop what he is doing IMMEDIATELY. A condom is essential. You never know where someone else has been. Another essential is a lubricant such as KY Jelly or Astrolube.\n\nBefore you just let some guy ram his bone up inside you, make sure he opens you up GENTLY with a lubricated finger. Have him work it in and out, gently at first... then faster and deeper as your body permits. Then when this is comfortable, try a second one. You must relax if you want it to be less painful. Then when YOU feel that you are ready for something more, you decide wheather or not to go further.
638985
Yes usually it hurts the woman. Be careful and gentle and take your time. If it hurts to much take a break and maybe talk about trying another time. I hope you will use protection and be responsible.
421555
It is only obvious to be curious at your age.  It is funny I had the same questions and by being too embarrased to ask a grown up and the false information I got from my peers allowed me to explore  for my self.  However, the 1st time I had sex I was 17 my senior year in highschool. It was with my highschool sweet heart.  We had been together since 9th grade and he was already sexually active and constantly tried to convince me to have sex with him,  I wanted to wait til I got married but he would say it doesn't matter because we were going to get married anyways, he also advised me if I got pregnant it wouldn't matter because he was going pro in football so he would be able to take care of us.  However, he did go off to college on a football scholarship, got injured in college, never went pro, works a mediocre job, has 4 kids by 4 baby momma's and we broke up his first semester in college (honestly).   \nSweetheart you are 14 years old try to put your curiosity into something else more positive (education), trust me boys will be around and sex isn't going anywhere. When you are ready and the time is right you will know it there won't be any question about it and make him wait that will show if he really cares.\n\nTo answer your question honestly, sex is definately worth waiting for, the first time you have sex it will hurt. It will hurt probably the first few times and you will be extremely sore and probably never want to do it again. Basically it is like someone is hammering something large into a tiny hole (your vagina) the walls around the vagina will be inflamed and extremely sore.  (Imagine the felling) However, the boy will not experience the pain you are feeling and will probably try to continue ignoring your pain. If you do decide please make sure this is with someone you trust and cares about you. You will probably feel uncomfortable being naked especially at your age (i was) Initially it is not the most fun thing to do and nothing about the first time you have sex is fun or beautiful (even after you get married).  However, waiting for sex is definately worth waiting for and rewarding  because it is the most intimate relationship you can have with someone.  A man will truly admire the fact this his wife is a virgin and the only person they have been with is them.  I was glad I waited until I was older (17), but if I could have waited longer I would have.   REmember your body is a temple and don't let anyone enter it unless you know they cherish it and cherish you as well.  I hope this helps you make the right decision.
700825
I loved her, respected her, and cared for her very much.  I was very, very gentle-and listened to her every wish during the event.  It was a little painful to her, to say the least...which made me feel bad, but she loved me also, and made me feel not so badly about it.  It's not really like having "sex"-that first time.
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Well, yes and no.  If you are properly prepared, then the pain shoud be minimal or nonexistent, but its ALWAYS gonna hurt the very first time.  Those sphincters are being stretched to a whole new extent.  Just think of how your body feels when you try a new exercise and hyperextend a muscle... its the same concept. There are ways to make it easier, though.  Experiment with various sizes of marital aids first and "work up" to the size that's right for you.
553102
it is not necessary for a virgin girl to bleed in her first time having sex. Bleeding is due to the tearing of the hymen during penetration of the penis, but the hymen can be previously torn during active sports, like gymnastics, horseriding. But that said, even if her hymen is already torn, a virgin girl having sex may experience sharp pain and soreness 'down there', because the vagina is being stretched for the first time.
430349
try it gurl in de first time it would hurt a bit and then u gonn like it
445976
I was really lucky. The first time I had sex it was with my best friend. We where both virgins and it was really bad for both of it. But it was fun to explore each other because we both knew each other really well and we are still really close friends today and can talk about anything. Many people don't have that in their life and so I can understand why you are asking this question. You will know, when you know. It can happen at anytime. You can plan a certain night for it to happen or it might just come as a surprise. You might want to wait a little longer. And after its all done. Even if it was planned you still might have regrets. But don't worry. Its a common thing among many teens and young adults. Don't be afraid to talk about with people.\n\nThis is a website full of first time sex stories:
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I'm not a guy, but I have to speak up here.  I think that down the road, you will regret having sex for the first time with someone who means nothing to you.  However, I suspect you don't believe that now.  My advice, if you go through with it, is use a CONDOM!
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The first time can hurt- especially if you are feeling tense, because the vagina is a muscle.  It's important to feel relaxed.  My first time really didn't hurt at all.  Sex feels good.  We are lucky to be a species that can enjoy sex for pleasure and not soley for means of procreating.
637799
first time really hurts but after that u get used and the pain disappears
61912
I Made Love for the first time on my wedding night. I was 28 years old at the time and it did hurt a little bit but, not much. It did feel good & hubby did a lot of forplay before hand. I did bleed a little bit. Afterwards I felt tired but, about a half hour later I was ready to make love again!  We got to the hotel at about 12:00 AM that night and didn't get to sleep until about 4:00 AM! We made love 3 times that night and once more before we got up at about 9:00 AM!
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Yes, it does hurt, but it is totally bearable and worth it, if you are ready and want it. Just make sure you are ready and there has been lots of foreplay and you are relaxed as possible (although you will be understandably nervous). Your body will tell you when you are ready. Make sure you care about the guy and he cares about you. Not trying to preach just want to make sure its is a happy memorable moment.  Oh and dont expect it to be perfect. Sex has awkward moments, especally if he is a virgin too. So good luck and be safe and have fun.
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for some it does for others not. If your having sex with a girl for the first time, the most important thing to do is take your time entering her. Also make sure her pu$$y is really wet. cuz if it's not it may hurt you too.
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I agree with Lovebug.  Sorry honey.  If he wanted to call you or write you or see you, wild horses wouldn't keep him away.\n\nIt sucks that it was your first time, but don't listen to those unkind Christians telling you your virginity was a "precious flower you can never get back."  What a load of crap.  The first time you experience sex with someone who respects and adores you will be a "first" to remember- and the fact that you broke a bit of biological tissue last weekend won't take away from the magic when that happens.  \nBe mad, cry, talk to your best friend or mom or priest or shrink or mentor or whoever it is you go to.  Just remember to forgive yourself.  You were younger last weekend than you are now.  If you had known then what you know now, you would have acted differently.  Forgive yourself- because there's nothing to forgive but youth.  Being disappointed, being taken advantage of- this is a part of growing up.  Remember, all experiences have the potential to make you stronger or weaker.  Choose to become stronger from what you've learned.  \n\nAlso- don't talk too much to others at college or in your social circle, because as you've seen just on this forum, people can be cruel, and you don't want this story to follow you around once you've grown beyond it.
61425
Sex hurts when is the first time, but after that feels gooooddd, and it depends on the positions too but still good!!
207869
Not really coz it did hurt. I even swooned lol but then after 3 or 4 times it gets better as u learn to relax and  understand the way yr body works and what makes u excited. U can tell yr partner what u like and basically it depends on how lubricated ur. There are various lubricating gels available in stores these days and they are quite helpful. Being emotionally close with yr partner makes the sexual experience with him even better !