How do you make friends in the new place when you move to different state for work by yourself?
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Take a class.... it could me a class toward your master's or just something for fun (at a local community center or dance studio) like horeback riding, dance, ice skating whatever interests you.\n\nAlso, maybe try to get involved with some volunteer work, although I tried this myself and I had a hard time finding something but it seems like a good idea.\n\nAlso, just start doing fun stuff by yourself (go to the movies or to a club).... It may be hard at first but you'll get used to it and maybe you'll realize you can have fun even with out a lot of friends.
419802
I am/was in your situation. Get a job, take some classes, get a hobby. You need to make this place your home also, so get involved in groups around that area and make some friends!
167703
Make acquaintances before making friends. not all acquaintances become frineds. Don't be afraid to meet with new people, this is the only way I can think of.
957068
Just join the clubs you are interested in. You'll soon make friends.
80195
Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. For other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. Jokes are also great and the internet has lots of them. Make sure to ask simple, friendly questions about the person.\n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful to
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Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask simple friendly questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. \n\nFor other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. A few jokes from time to time can also be a great ice breaker. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.
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Start posting at a forum first.\n\nYou'll make plenty of friends that way.\n\nBaby steps!\n\nGood luck.
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Go to sporting events, libraries, work-out\ngyms, tours, church and other places where\nyou will find brand new friends who never\ngo to bars but have lots of fun doing other\nthings (movies, cards, games, restaurant,\nseeing the country, ballgames, etc)
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There is not a certain place to meet new people now that you are single. You have to go outside of you comfort level. Just try going to places that you normally wouldn't go..for example museums, festivals, health clubs, networking things like that....
125828
Meeting new people and new surroundings and which people you can trust and which people are Problems for everyone..\nStay away from them!!
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Definitely make some new friends.  Even or especially if they seem to be totally the opposite of people you are normally friends with.   Join an activity/club/course (sports league, book club, cooking class, etc.) and new friends will come automatically.  You may also gain a skill that makes you more confident.\n\nAlso, going to the gym or riding a bike, taking a walk, etc. will make you feel better b/c of the endorphins that exercise naturally provides.  Do little things for yourself -- like even taking a different route on your way to work/school/errands, or taking a walk in a park you've never been to, can make a big difference!
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Katie, don't expect to go from super-shy to outgoing all at once. Take baby steps and stretch yourself just a little bit at a time. Practice just smiling at people. Say hello to just one stranger a day as you pass by them. Ask a sales clerk a question, even if you don't really need to. Tell a girl you see that you really like her shoes, hair, nails, etc. - when you see that you get a positive reaction to being friendly, it will encourage you to do it more often. Just remember, not everyone will be open to you because they might be shy, too. But most people are willing to at least smile and say hello to others.\n\nTry some volunteer work - start at your local animal shelter if you feel more comfortable around animals than people. Animals love you unconditionally and can really help bring a shy person out of their shell. If it's possible, and you don't already have one, you might even consider getting a pet yourself. Other volunteer work is also helpful if you're allergic to animals or something - go help out at your local food bank, soup kitchen, homeless shelter, etc. \n\nWorking with people is really important if you want a good job. You have to be able to impress employers during interviews and you have to be willing to stretch yourself beyond your comfortable boundaries. Good luck! :)
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Challenging being outside being with friends meeting new people exercises.
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Making friends cannot be rushed, but be confident and introduce yourself to folks. As time goes on you will get to know which ones are friend material, but you have to put yourself out. \nDo not  make hasty conclusions about the people you meet in your new school, just consider how you are feeling, maybe they are feeling worse and acting up. \nBe as nice as you would want your friends to be to you. Keep on a good genuine smile, nobody likes a grouch. Above all dress decent, and clean, people are drawn to nice people.\nSee if you can meet some of your classmates on line, you can get acquainted on line and then it will be easier when you meet in person.\nAlso learn to like your own company, find things that fulfill you as an individual, friends will like your company better, when they realize you are cool even by yourself.\nBest wishes to you.
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You must have an intrest outside of work, so join a local club or group and take it from there. Also, they say that the local supermarket is a place to bump into people.
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ive lived in melbourne, philadelphia, NYC, atlanta, Aspen, and currently live in Dallas.\n\nHated NYC when i first moved there WAY too much going on, but after a while you get used to it. the thing is, being from the suburbs, you get used to your comfort zone. you, your yard, your house, your car... etc. in big cities you have to encounter people... unfortunately a lot of people are selfish  unknowingly... but you notice it... the thing is all big cities have good and bad. all have just as much good and bad... the problem is, bad is usually in your face more.\n\nno matter how big a city is, you eventually find your own niche... i say you start feeling comfortable at 6 months, and by 2 years, you are completely in your element... just go ino it knowing that the first 6 months will most likely stink... read books.. explore on your own.. the first thing i do whenever i move somewhere new is either walk or drive and get completely lost... its a great way of getting a feel for a place... and clearing your head..\n\naustin is awesome, but if you are looking for somewhere where you can be in more of a comfort zone ft. worth is a driiving city with a nice downtown and great parks.. dont go to church myself but the people who i know that do are super friendly...\n\njust don't let a few rude people blind you to all the great people out there, because there are tons of them.\n\ncheers
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Go talk to people...anyone...mailman, passing stranger on the street, somebody in line at the supermarket. You make friends by just chatting and making pleasant conversation. Also, try to get involved with the community, walk around your neighborhood (you'll get to know the neighbors!) and volunteer. Those opportunities usually work...as well as taking up new hobbies (like quilting groups...or anything that interests you). Hope that helps!