Why do people, married or single, give into cheating?
151963
could be any number of reasons. here are a few; temptation of the flesh, not getting what they want from their mate, lost interest in mate, found something new and exciting about the new partner, insecurity, etc.
961435
I have wondered this myself. I think all the morals in society have gone down the drain. I would never do that to anyone, if I decided I wanted someone else, other than my husband/bf, I would leave them rather than cheat. But if I make the marriage commitment, then that is for life. The moral situation explains the divorce rate also. I guess some people are brought up better than others.
419514
I think it has to do with devoting your entire life to one, single other person.  I mean, marriage involves living together, children (not always), monogamy, putting someone before you... these are, like, the hardest things human beings do.  You have to be unselfish, which is why so many marriages don't last.  You don't have to do any of this kind of stuff when you're single or dating, becuase you don't have anything invested in it-- there aren't any binds.  Unhappy?  Go find another, start over.  Married and unhappy?  It takes work.  Marriage assumes hardship, and knowing that someone is ready to make every sacrifice for you is extraordinarily special.
1147179
well, i think people fall out of love or the relationship got boring and maybe that is why they do things, but i think people need to just say OK things are not there any more it's time we move on and not cheat because to cheat on someone is just bad period.
1091539
No, guys are not honest enough to answer this. But I'm going to try anyways.\n\nMany *people*, not just guys, have this limitless capacity to love and care for others. Often, they feel obligated to share it with as many as they can safely.\n\nNobody trusts a single other person enough to put their life in another's hands these days. Nobody at all. After all, is it not foolish of a thing to do?\n\nAnd entire lifetime of focused attention and loving on one single person is scary and creepy. It's literally obsessive - which is not necessarily the BAD thing people make it out to be. But they still make it out to be bad. And people, even madly in love, can only tolerate so much from one another before one becomes "smothered" and burned out by the relationship. Which is EXACTLY what is trying to be avoided.\n\nAnd the person that needs the loving more will find it one way or another - because they give it just as much.\n\nFinally, these days there is no standard of coupling. There is no example to follow. There is really no concept of a "right relationship" anymore, either. Even a monogamous, married couple is nigh-impossible to live as, these days. It works well for "simple givers" and "simple takers", but many people these days need to be both - and 90% of them don't feel like being "takers" - even though that's really what it's all about. Once you're a couple, be a little selfish, and trust each other with your wants and needs. And with lack of standards, many people don't really have "expectations" to judge their relationships by, either.\n\nIt doesn't help that secrets, lies, affairs, and drama are *highly publicized*, almost to the point of being worshipped.\n\n*Sorry if that's a little long winded...*
602771
I'm sure men/women have their excuses for why they cheat, some are loneliness, temptation, not getting what they want at home.  They are all just lame excuses for doing something wrong, though.  They should deal with the real problem and not cheat and hurt other people.
295098
Married or not if you have a commitment with someone you should not cheat. You should ask yourself if you are wanting to cheat on someone, why not just leave that person and let them move on to someone who cares for them. I consider cheating when you do anything intimately with another person other than your significant other. That could be holding hands, intercourse, kissing, and even sharing and in depth meaningful conversation. It is wrong because you are taking something sacred from your partner. People, I think cheat because they need some kinda of reassurance that they can attract someone other than they're partner. This is caused by low self esteem. If you are contemplating this don't hurt your partner for your own self gratification. ITS WRONG
182356
I was cheated on once in my life and it wasn't a fun experience. I believe women and men cheat for different reasons - guys usually cheat for sex or different sex then what they are getting, and women usually need more of an emotional attachment. This is totally my opinion and not necessarily true in every situation.  I also believe that once somebody cheats and a trust is broken, it is very hard to remain in that relationship and be happy.
682110
I don't think marriage fails, we do. Marriage is a great concept, it's people who mess it up.\nI was married for 15 years and finally got up the nerve to make him get out.\nI never cheated on him, I don't think cheating is EVER the answer to anything.\nIf a person feels they need to cheat to prove a point or to find something missing, then by God , grow some balls and end the relationship.
101153
Everytime somebody does something like cheating it springs form an inperfection they prcieve in themselves. Usually fear of a stable relationship is because the people dont feel they are capable of holding up their end.
353072
its not worth it, I was in the navy and I have seen hundreds a married men cheat on their wifes and I have seen hundred of women sheat on their husbands get the picture, humans rarely have enough self control to stay faithful!
54219
Some people do that because they may be afraid of committment. Others because they have a trust problem. They had bad relationships in the past. So they have a hard time trust their spouse. Or because they are stupid.
856827
Despite the emotional burden, I think almost all women would want to know if they are being cheated on.  Cheating rarely has anything to do with the quality of the marriage but the cheater's inability to commit to a strong vow such as marriage and to control their actions.  If the marraige is that bad, there shouldn't be cheating and decietfulness, there should be divorce. The reasons cheaters tend to stay cheaters is because they don't want to change.  I think it can be changed, but the cheater has to learn a little bit about making decisions according to priority and responsibility, not impulse.  The cheater must also learn where their weaknesses are happening and how to deal with them in a proper manner.  They must learn to avoid cheating of the mind first, then they can free themselves of onsetting thier own urges.  They must change the way they think about cheating (it's not a positive, rewarding thing).   After that, it's all a matter of decision making and devotion.
279276
When it hits the point that a spouse cheats there is no longer a marriage, obviously if they genuinely love the person they would not cheat for any reason.
1151645
Most women I know who cheated were either bored with their married lives, or were in an unhappy marriage or relationship and could not or would not wait until they were out before starting something new.  I always say leave before beginning anything new.  Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
997339
I know several cases were people were married for 60/70 years and their spouse passed on and they never cheated.  If you love your spouse and respect the sanctity of marriage then it's very possible.  My husband was in Iraq and I had MANY chances to cheat.  (the female to male ratio in this town is about 250:1 so even if you're 200lbs overweight, if you have boobs, you can get some).  Anyway, I love my husband and I refuse to risk what we share for a night or two with some jerk who doesn't care about anything.  I love my husband and I stayed faithful.  I'll continue doing so now that he's home and for the rest of our lives.  I have no doubt in my mind he will do the same.
877742
Cheating is one of the most destructive things that can happen to a person or a relationship.  It's an act of cowardice and happens when a person doesn't love himself enough to expect more of himself.  They rightfully feel that they are a sh*tty person, and so, instead of feeling ashamed of that and working towards improving themselves, they wallow in it and revel in their "badness".  They figure that if they're bad anyway, then there's no reason they shouldn't be completely shameless and callous and go the whole nine yards.  The trouble is that the worse they behave, the deeper they dig the hole they've made for themselves and the more difficult it becomes to turn around and face what they see in the mirror.\n\nCheaters are bad people.  They are low-quality people, not because they don't possess other fine qualities, but quite simply because they have defined themselves as such.  Their failing is in their choice to care about their own selfish WANTS more than about the NEEDS of others.  I don't know about anyone else, but my opinion that is THE definition of a bad person.  At least it's someone I wouldn't want to be associated with.\n\nAnd people who enable cheaters are just as bad in my book.  It might sound strange coming from someone who agrees with swinging, but one of the criteria we have when we had looked for "playmates" was their relationship.  We absolutely refuse to play with anyone who is cheating on their partner, or with people whose relationship is obviously on the rocks.  That, to us, is just unethical.  We work hard at our marriage and have no respect for those who try to cut corners and get out of the work.  \n\nIMO, there is NO justification for cheating.  None, nada, zip, zilch.  There's just NO excuse for lying to your spouse.  I don't buy the "I was protecting her feelings" excuse either.  Your spouse is an adult in an adult relationship; he or she deserves to be given the dignity of a choice as to whether he/she thinks you are worth staying with.  If you're afraid that you're not worth staying with (and that's why you didn't offer him/her the choice), then thurr's yer trouble.