why would a 10 yr old boy tell his mother he doesn"t trust her in front of a friend?
152013
He probably heard it somewhere else. On Tv, maybe his friend told him HE doesn't trust his mother, who knows? Kids hear things and then repeat them.
850353
its obvious your son shares your trust, id say yes leave him with the benifit of doubt, he is unmistakenly reaching out to you an letting you in because he choses to...so give yourself the credit that you deserve, your doing a great job raising him the right darl, congrats, as a mother i feel to have a child that confides in you is way better then sitting arond stressed out of your mind wondering what is going through there heads an what they are up to when you are not arond to guide them...it will send even the best of us over the edge.\nyou and your son must have a really great realationship.\nkeep up the good work mum.
535564
Sorry to say this, but sounds like something has happened along the way in her 9 short years in this world to have her mother think of putting her into a military type place for disipline. It should have never reached this point. Could it be maybe her homelife is a little unstable? Maybe if there is a relative she really cares about, she can open up and tell them what's going on. She may act like she is 14 or 16, but deep down, she is still just a little girl and it sounds like she may need someone to open up to vs military disipline. At 9 years old, Something/someone gave her the bullet-proof attitude you speak of, she couldn't just develope that for no reason. If you were a close friend of mine and you asked this question, I would tell you to try anything and everything to correct what's wrong with you/daughter, but don't send your 9 year old daughter away from home to a military type institution for disipline.
201893
something might be going on between the two of them - but lets hope not. he may just be trying to get in good with her so that she will approve of him - since she's ur daughter - yet ur daughter is disrespectful of u and he plays along with that. yet i think family comes first so i think u need to put this relashonship/friendship with ur "make friend" on hold. and u need to work thru things with ur daughter. was she acting like this before he came along? or did she start first acting like this when he came into the picture? she may really need u but she see's u puting some guy before her. i have 2 kids and i learned that no one will love my kids as much as i do. my kids felt neglected cuz my male friend was getting all my time and all my love. i seen the sadness if their eyes and i knew i had to let him go for the sake of my kids. but my kids r young. ur daughter is at a grown age. she may just dislike this one guy in particular. she may want u to find someone better. getting him to copy her by disrespecting u may be her way of getting u to finally kick him to the curb. but if ur daughter has always been disrespectful - even b 4 this guy came along - then u may just have to look over her.
653401
Why would you tell his mother? If he is of legal age, he can make his own decisions. If he wants his mother to know, then he should tell her. If he doesn't want his mother to know then you should respect his decision and leave it alone.
1091047
I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
567718
Relax, parents often jump to conclusions and assume the worst.  It is just a part of being a parent.  What you have to realize is that the reason she thinks this is because what you did do caused her to lose her trust in you.  I think it is important that you take some time to talk to your mom and discuss why you did what you did and what you really did do so that you two can bridge this communication gap that has led to her losing trust in you.  Then you need to figure out how you can rebuild her trust in you because once it is lost it has to be re-earned.
201347
She is an important person in his life, so you can't ignore her existence. If you love him & want him to be happy, you will make an effort. Speak to her privately. Let her know how much you care for her son, and ask why she dislikes you. Explain to her that you are speaking to her about it because you want her son to be happy, & the two of you being at odds, makes things difficult for him.Try to resolve the problem.
502922
You can do nothing from this point.  You have acted maturely enough if you honestly have asked her why she was acting this way.  \nSometimes it's best to address what is on you mind regardless of what reaction might be solicited.\nNow go about your business and no matter what she will not be able to deny you have both given her the opportunity to explain her hostility towards you.  \nShe will lash out a little more, but eventually, I believe, she will want to join your friendship and not stew over it.\nShe is still a mom and you are a woman that threaten the very fibers of her closeness with her young.  Every species has this process in it's life cycle, humans are no different.  She'll remind you of course that her bonds with her son are stronger as this is normal.  Hostility is not nor should it be tolerated by anyone much less than a close family member.  I'd like to add that if a man can defend you against his mother he will defend you against anyone.  Tough situation but I believe you'll make it through this.  Good luck.\n\nI hope this answer just changed your life.  Peace.
589737
I guess mothers (over their sons) are really nosy...and in terms of the opposite...protective behavior aside...maybe she's looking into how to make herself feel young again? Not too sure...but either way...my gut tells me you should confront the issue and find out what she's really getting out of it...
586443
If she is your best friend...why would you even talk to him knowing the things you know. She is the only one you need to worry about and be true to. You owe him nothing. And if there are children involved then all the more reason to stay away from him. If he found out where she is, then he could harm all of them.
882316
The situation is that his mom is pressuring you to work things out, but she has no idea what needs to be worked out.  \n\nManaging his parents is his job.  At a minimum, he should tell her to back off and leave you alone.  IMHO, he should come completely clean when he talks to her.  If he won't do it, then you can do it for him.  \n\nBe prepared for her to blame you for his infidelity.
892433
Depends how he was raised...I knew a guy who was very close to his mum and she had him at a very young age too. They had a relationship more like they were friends than mother and son and they talked about everything. She was his best friend. i didn't think it was weird, she was one cool lady, the kind of mum you could take out clubbing with you. She just raised him to be totally open with her about everything and that if he needed advice she was the one to ask. Don't get too freaked about it, he was just obviously raised differently to you, that's all.
758111
She told you because she does not want to do this thing.  She told you knowing that you'd help her not do it EVEN if that means telling a parent or counselor or some other adult.  That's what she asked of you, otherwise she would not have told you at all.  \n\nIt's a tough place for you, but don't feel like you're betraying her.  At some level, that's exactly what she wants you to do.  Get her help.
565834
Personally, when I found myself in this very predicament, I made a conscious decision to approach the situation from an honest, adult perspective and expressed my concerns to both my friend and my boyfriend. \n\nBecause I trust my boyfriend, I explained how uncomfortable my friend's behaviour toward him made me, and asked that he help me by not reacting positively to her flirting. He was happy to do so, because he found her behaviour just as inappropriate as I had.\n\nI explained to my friend, privately, that, although I value her friendship, her flirting behaviour toward my boyfriend made me uncomfortable and was jeopardising the future of our friendship. I asked her to tone herself down and respect my feelings. When I discovered that she could not oblige me that, then I did, and still do, my utmost ensure that my boyfriend and my friend spend the least amount of time together as possible. It doesn't mean I don't see either of them less frequently, I just don't see them at the same time anymore.\n\nIt may be that my friend is jealous of the fantastic relationship between my boyfriend and me, and either consciously or not, wants us to split up so that I may be as miserable as she is in the relationship department... who knows. \n\nEither way, the key is to remain adult in your thoughts, and not give in to the childish part of yourself that goes "OMG what a b*tch I can't believe she's trying to steal my boyfriend I'm going to make her pay" or similar, and to trust the man you love.
1076956
I don't think that means he doesn't believe you, but you're definitely right that he is avoiding controversy.  Unfortunately, with a teenager in the house, there will be plenty of controversy, and you will have your share of arguments.  It's normal for a teenager to start to question his/her parents' authority and way of doing things, but this is also the stage when you and your husband need to show a "united front" whenever issues are raised with your teenager.  You won't be sending him the right message if the two of you don't agree on the message you're sending him, and if only one of you is sending the message and the other one is avoiding it, then you two are not sending the same message.  I think you should sit down with your husband, start by saying you are very concerned about this... and tell him why you would like him to get more involved for the sake of your son.
477430
I think his mother is scheming to pretend to disown him to find out whether you're a gold digger should you leave him (after he's "disowned"), then she'll have a point to prove to her son to justify why she doesn't like you and thinks you're wrong for her son and that you're only after the money. Women can be canniving like that. I mean, other than that, I don't know why else she would want to disown her only son unless she wants all the money to herself - which proves she's not a very good mother. So this means if I were you, I wouldn't give a rat's @$$ about her because this is really showing her true colors. Don't let someone like that ruin your happiness. If you know deep in your heart that you love your fiance and that you are definitely not going after the money, you two should go on with the wedding and be happy together. If you ask me, this will anger the mom even more and THAT is satisfying! :)