How do you know when to say when in a relationship?
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Honey I would love to give you alot of information one way or the other but this is one question you will have to answer your self. \n\nI can offer a bit of helpful information\nDr. Phil wrote a book called "SMART LOVE"\nI suggest running down to the library and reading this book. It can really help you look at your relationship, and ask the hards questions only you can answer. It can help you evaluate your self esteem, your priorities in life and your relationship with the BF and decide if it is a healthy relationship with a chance at sucessful marriage, or if your still dating a boy, or a charity case who needs more time to mature. ( which you don't have time to baby sit) \n\nfact is marriage is tough. even couples who marry for all the right reasons experience difficulty when the "shi* hits the fan" and it will happen that much I can promice. \nNo marriage worthy of the name is going to be easy. \n\nread the book and face your fears. you will only be stronger for the information in the long run no matter what you decide to do. \n\nGod Bless. \nemail if you still have quesions )
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When do i think what?
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Don't stress...some guys just assume now you should know, so they don't say it as often.  He still means it, but is probably hoping you are secure enough in the relationship to know that without him saying it as often.
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try talking to him again, on how he feels about love. ask him when he think its a good time for a couple to say those words. \n\ni know how your feeling, I've been their. with the boyfriend i am with now. i wasn't for sure when to tell him i loved him too. we live in different countries so he wasn't sure if we would even work. \n\nits been a year now and where stronger then ever, even going to move in together. the moment i told him i loved it was about last fall or winter. he eventually saw how great and wonderful of a person i was and with him. he couldn't help but say those words back to me. \n\nyou pretty much just have to guess when to say it. you can't ignore your feelings, no matter if they get hurt or not. if you love him, tell him and then tell him why you love him. show him how you make him feel, by your words. \n\nif he can't appreciated that, then he's a loser lol. you've been together long enough to start talking about love. if you were to tell me you just been together for a week or two, then i would say no and wait more.
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I would say if you have happiness in the relationship. In order for you to want to stay married you must above all love the person you are with. Just saying the vows is not enough anymore! In order for those vows to mean anything you must understand them before saying them or else you just wasted your time. I would sit back and think about the things that you have done as a couple and that make you both happy. Although s/he might not always agree compromise is the second step. \n\nIf you want that person then you will love them and be happy amongst the worst of all things. You must first appreciate them and want them around. I know at times that person can drive you crazy and you might ant to leave and just say "I wish I never met you" to that person but regardless of what just transpired to cause that thought you must remember that sugarcoating it won't help. If you say your sorry and make up (which all couples enjoy more than the fight) you must mean it and not just say it because of the moment.\n\nIf things are bad now they will get better and if they don't then communication is something that needs to be open and the people must be unafraid of what they may say. The talker and the listener must try to be understanding.\n\nSo to answer your question, Communication is the first step, getting to know that person and liking them for who they are is the second step, third is happiness, fourth is compromise, and fifth is love. I hope that helps.
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Its whenever you are comfortable enough to do so, and where your values stand.  My now fiance and I moved in with eachother after only two months of dating.  Some people think that you should not live with eachother until you get married...I disagree...
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When a person is in love that does not stop them from talking with others. If you think you are in love you have to ask yourself is that you love the Ideal of being in Love or is it love. No one but yourself can say which one it really is. You might also need to give yourself and the one you have feelings for time to grow and get to know each other.
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If you are in a relationship with the person you want to tell, then tell that person straight up, "I love you." If not in relationship, then try, "I love you, ya know that?" It tells the person how ya feel but makes it lighthearted and non-commital. (also gives the other person an opportunity to tell you how they feel.)
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to me, physical stuff needs to wait until you love the person...in love with them (maybe even after marriage)  Having sex too quickly just...'ruins' everything.  It wouldnt be special anymore if you slept with every boyfriend/girlfriend you had.\nI expect my boyfriend (we live together) to leave me notes/texts/etc when he goes out with friends so I know hes ok and where hes at if an emergency.  I want to be called/spoken to everyday.\nWe talk about EVERYTHING.  Sex, Sports, Engineering, Fourwheeling/ATVS, hunting, building shelves/bird houses, etc.  The list is on going.\nWhen you're with someone, you should be able to talk about anything with them.\n\nGood luck in your relationship.  You'll do well.  Do what feels right.
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well, in my case...i will talk to you any chance i get. a sure sign is the infamous line when we call you, "well, i just called to say hi!" we might as well say, "dude, i'm in so love with you". a line we often use is the "we should hang out sometime," line. it puts it out there without putting a timeline on it.
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Knowing what to say and when to say it.  It's all about timing.
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You need to look at it in 2 streams of Thinking. The first stream is the words and actions that you both use to be in the relationship to develop it. You both have to interact with each other to form a communication that helps to develop a relationship. This is the core value of any relationship. The key that puts your relationship together is in essence the words you will use talk to your girlfriend, and intern how she will talk to you. The sounds that come out of both of your mouths are determining how your relationship is developing. This is a crucial understanding to getting to the bottom of answering your question. The words you use to talk to her should be questioned by you. Are you being responsible in how you talk to her and are you being responsible in questioning how her words enter your mind? Do you just react to things she says? Or do you Think first and make sure that what she is saying to you is based on what she is thinking at the moment. There is a movie playing in her mind at that time when her mouth is opening to talk to you, just like it is in your mind. Never take for granted that how you both behave or as to how you both use your body language is true. She could one day say to you that “I don’t want to talk”, you could intern react to this and say “Why, how will we ever fix this. I love you and I want to make this work”. Should you even say that? The point here is that what ever she is feeling at that moment in her life is based on feelings that are going on in her mind, her environment. What she rather here you says is that “OK, I understand, I will call you back later when it’s a good Time, I love you”. The difference between this way of reacting is that you are both making sure that you “understand” each other and treat each other as intelligent persons. Understanding of each other can only happen if you actually do it. Every word that is used by both of you is very powerful. “I hate you” can have a lasting impact on anyone. People are very fragile creatures and this fragility is all based on how we think the sounds of words are impacting us. How we create thoughts in our heads about how we presume a person is thinking about us. When we don’t understand the power of Thoughts is when we live like everyone else reacting to our egos, winning battles of words. We have a hard time figuring out how to communicate with each other’s way of thinking because we don’t take the time to understand what each persons needs are. We didn’t know that to speak you only have to move your mouth and not wait for the right set of emotional states to develop. This is very true when we can’t talk to our parents about personal issues. We don’t know how to approach them. And this is the very reason we have trouble working out relationships. We learned to act from other people’s way of thinking because we didn’t know any better.\n\nThe second stream is very basic in that when you have children and your child comes running through the door after school and tells you “Daddy, I learned what One plus One is, its Two!” How will you react? Will you say “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you” or should you be saying “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you! I want you to tell me why does one plus one equal Two. I want to know how you Think my son.”. If you understand how to work with relationships now with your girlfriend, it will benefit you as a father, both of you.
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when you blush as he/she approach.  when your heart starts being faster and faster when you see each other.  when you feel comfortable with that someone.  when you trust each other.
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As long as it takes for you to truly know someone. Which is not a small task. My general rule of thumb is that by the time you've been together two years you should know if you want to be married or not. Two years has a lot of days in it good or bad and if you can make it through those, then you might need to consider being together on a long term basis, but only if the relationship is healthy for both of you.
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Six months seems like a long time.  Usually after just a couple of dates you start to know if you love someone.  After six months you should pretty much know if this relationship is going to be long term and the word love should be something easily given.  Maybe I'm just quicker to love than some but six months seems like forever.\n\nIt is obvious how important those three little words are to you, and I agree.  I think you are at a place where all you can do is sit him down and talk to him.  Ending a relationship is always hard and before reaching that point I think it is important to make sure you know absolutely from the other person their feelings on the issue.  Then you can honestly make your choice without having made an assumption.
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Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
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theres no time and matter when it comes to relationship snad kissing as such. You shouldnt ask when do people generally kiss. its just somethign that cant be answered. its soemthng for one person to experience on their own when the time is right. dont stress over whether or not something is right. when the time is right it will be right. it will not evenmatter to you whetehr or not you did it right or at the right time. the only thing that matters is the momory of it. hope this answers your question.