How do i overcome office politics?!?!?
145627
My philosphy is that I didn't get my job to make friend.  I have friends.  I got my job to make money.  It can be touchy when others have friendships, esp. with bosses in your office.  Go with the flow.  Sit down, be quiet, and don't rock the boat or they will throw you overboard!!  Good luck...I know that it is no fun.
857357
Align with her instead of going against her.  Just let her know you like her idealism but explain how things work in the office and that part of being at work is learning not to make excuses but just do your best each day.  Make sure she knows the bonuses are extraordinary.  Telling her other companies would not "put up" with her attitude will only make her dig in her heels and fight you.  \n\nRemind her you're all in the same boat and she needs to help with the rowing by doing her part, which is to behave professionally, and it wouldn't hurt to suggest she notice other people's jobs and how many there are that are just miserable - she's got it cushy.
683935
There is a book I bought a long time ago called "Coping with Difficult People" which is like dealing with difficult people. You can buy it at any bookstore under the self-improvement section. Also, talk with your boss and maybe he can resolve your problems you may have with a co-worker. Don't worry, we've all been there. I sympathize with you. However, just a suggestion, you may not want to use that kind of language on Yahoo Answers.
502889
I would offer them some coffee, tea or soda as peace making gesture.Of course you will want to spike it with ex lax or lobelia, either one will keep them occupied and out of the office enough, that you won't have to put up with their crap.An added plus is you will shine as the employee who is always there getting the job done.
517430
1. ALWAYS REMBER TO HAVE FUN (Yes, you can be the boss and have fun. Burnt out people lose there grip on things) \n\n2. Don't let you position go to your head. (No one want a bossy that think that they a God)\n\n3. don't ask your staff to do something that you won't do yourself.( once they see you do it  once they will gladly do it)\n\n\n4.Be firm and never waver from it.( Yes, be understanding and compassionate but firm if your staff see weakness they will take advantage of it)\n\n5. If you have question always ask. ( It is better to be safe than sorry.
993078
Re-evaluate your job and what you were hired to do.  Just do your work, do it well, stay out of office politics.  Stop chatting so much, because whatever your talking about, it's controversial and provoking others to snitch.  A competent boss may one day decide to rid the office of the both of you, just to serve as an example to others to "just do what you were hired to do and save the cattyness for your off duty hours".
325644
office drama is tricky to deal with. If you dig yourself in by getting revenge its going to escalate into something that will get management involved and may get you both fired. Do nothing to the person. But also realize that you can use this person. Don't tell them anything you don't want repeated but if you want everyone to know something, tell them and they will. Also, make sure you keep notes about everything. Keep your evidence hidden so when they do try and get you in trouble you'll have proof of where you were and then you can turn around to your manager and point out all the things that you have noticed this person do that's against company policy. Good luck and tread lightly!
1075936
I've dealt with this on a limited basis.  What I've found are three rules to keep in mind:\n\n1) Don't make the difference the issue.  Your working relationship ought to be developed on a value-added basis primarily, not on the cultural, ethnic, religious, or other differences you may be able to talk about.\n2) Be sensitive to where they may be coming from.  There are issues that will come up that they're going to feel differently about.  Be aware when they're going to feel like the outsider or awkward.\n3) Keep it authentic.  When bloopers happen, deal with it directly and face to face.  People sense when you're coming from an honest desire to get things done, and when you're just trying to be politically correct.
1162609
Unfortunately, office politics/gossip will continue regardless of what you do.  However, if you build people up instead of tearing people down, you will earn a certain level of respect that may exempt you from the office politics/gossip of your work place.
349470
I have had the same problem in the past well it was kind of a mutual thing.  Things are different now  because we have history.  The best advice I can give you is to use the time you have at your job to do it well and exceed your boss's standards.  After some time, they will see that you are a great asset.
1159970
Just be smart about it.\n\nMake a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.\n\nSee if he says something back.  If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.\n\nJust don't flirt openly in front of colleagues.  And if he's married, leave him alone.
882934
I don't know your type of business, but can you remove the chairs from your office so it is a little less inviting?\nIf that's not possible, you may just have to say "Can I talk with you later? I have to get this work done right now."\nI agree that's not easy, but some people just don't "get it" unless you spell it out. Good luck to you.
763100
Be frank with them and tell them to grow up! Tell them that you are an adult and can speak to whom ever you please. Let them know that they are also putting unneeded stress on you at work and that is not fair to you.\nThe problem they have are between the two of them and they need to quit bringing you in the middle of it. Tell them you aren't going to stand for it any longer...end of discussion.\nIf necessary, go to management about it. If they get upset about it, tell them that you didn't know what else to do and that you deserve to come to work without having to deal with their crap.
1020789
Ugh ... I'm sorry you're office is going through something so dirty. \n\nI've been in situations where I've felt totally alone having to fight dirty politics. When I look back on 'what i could have done differently,' one major thing comes to mind: FIND ALLIES.\n\nYou can't fight alone. You've got to have a group of supporters. Even countries have armies. Your staff can rally, and garner support from outside offices or groups, and through the power of numbers, can fight for change.\n\nDon't let discouragement reduce you towards 'dirty politics' of your own. This is hard. When I was going through my own crisis, I got a lot of advice to "sling some dirt of your own," but I never did. I'm glad I didn't. It reduces you and you end up losing self-respect. \n\nFind at least one ally who is in a position above you. If you can find some higher administrative support, you'll be in a much better position to advocate for change.\n\nGood luck! Hang in there.
1008781
Try to be your sweet self....no gossiping on people at work.Speak out loud with confidence on the work you know the best....show off your talents....never show people can get to you.\nIt will pay off sooner or later
485810
Read "The Articulate Executive" by Granville N. Toogood (yes, that is his real name). An excellent book for fine tuning communication and leadership skills in the work place or whatever situation in life.
457855
Be competent at what you do.  Do not engage in office politics.  Trying to make yourself look better usually makes you look like a brown-noser.  Just do your job to the best of your ability.