How do we know when our love is for real? does religion really have a basis in who we will end up spending the
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HE Chose Me really gives some good answers! I can tell that her heart is right with God!.
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I don't know.  Of-course you have to get to know somebody, but a lot is unconsciously inferred from someone's physicality and the way he or she interacts with another.  You might not think you know many details about someone after having or watching a conversation, but you know more than you know you do!  There was a recent study that showed that people could predit with a great degree of accuracy what their future relationships would be like within the first 30 seconds of interaction.  \n\nOf-course I'm a firm believer in getting to know someone.  Love- true love- often grows and surprises you!  And whatever you feel at first sight often fails you, as you discover things about your parter that are painful deal breakers.  However, something can definitely be exchanged between two strangers, and when it happens- it's very exciting!!!\n\nAnd no- I am NOT talking about lust.  Lust happens all the time.  It's not love, it's not infatuation, it's not anything but physical attraction.\n\nWith all my exes, it started with that special, hard to describe, mutual feeling- I am an atheist, but it felt like our souls were magnetized towards each other.  Amazing how with knowing so little about someone else, each time I had that feeling it resulted in years of real love.
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Yes I AM, THERES NO BETTER FEELING KNOWING THAT THE PERSON YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM, LOVE IS A  GAMBLE THOUGH YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPPEN SO U NEED FAITH TRUST AND COMUNICATION FOR IT TO WORK......
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Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not porvoked, does  not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never fails!!!!\n                               1 corinthians 13:4-8a\n\nOnly when a man and woman both know the Creator of Love come together to serve each other as well as others around them, looking outward not inward, can they truly experience what true Love is!\n\nFor when God is the binder and sustaner of a marriage no matter what hardships may come you know that it is God's love flowing through you that allows you to love you mate despite what my go on around you.\n\nWhen you seek God first then and only then can you truly find love for other, whether that be your mate or a homeless person dirty sleeping on the street.
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I'll assume that by "it" you mean religion, and the belief in God.  Love is the most special gift and experience that two people can share, on whatever degree of relationship -- friend, best friend, family member, spouse.  So if love is the most sacred value in life, why wouldn't God and religion be based around this principle?
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Yes, love is real.The fact is its hard to find and those who search of it never find it...
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When your in love with some you will know.  Like when your with them nothing in the world seems to matter anymore.  You will be able to know when your in love and can tell its real cause you wont be thinking about other people in the same way.\n\nHoped this helped
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I wish it were so simple an issue as to be able to say that If you love him and he loves you then your faith should not be an issue. Unfortunately, that is not usually the case when two people have different yet equally strong ties to a separate faiths.\n\nIn a relationship between two adults, religious differences can often cause tremendous stress and rifts in the relationship. Particularly when you are talking about a religion such as Christianity that believes that their faith is the only right faith and all others are condemned to eternal suffering in hell.  Right away, you are no longer an equal with your partner. Then there is the problem that comes from the questions of your future. If you stay together and decide to get married, will you have a Buddhist of Christian wedding? As a Buddhist, I would have no problem having a Christian wedding because Buddhism is less about pomp and ceremony and more about self awareness and compassion. I am sure you feel the same way.  But then comes the BIG question, if you have children, will you raise the child as a Christian or as a Buddhist? If you Choose Christianity, what will you tell you children when they see you practicing your Buddhism or reading sutras? If they ask about your faith, what will you tell them? Do you lie? This would be wrong. Do you tell the truth and watch as the conflicts between Christian ideology and Buddhist wisdom cause your children to question their faith in the Christian god? What do you do if a child chooses to become Buddhist? Would you husband let that happen or would it become a battle? \n\nI have seen the differences in faiths work. I know a couple who have lived a very happy life and have two beautiful children and they don’t fight over religion. But then again, neither of these two have ever felt so strongly about their faith that they would not be willing to make such concessions. \n\nIf your man is asking you to give up Buddhism, as your self this. Why must you give anything up? Are you asking him to give up his faith? If not, then why would someone that purportedly 'loves' you ask you to do something he is unwilling to do? That should tell you something. \n\nRemember, Buddha said that there is a cause of suffering, which is attachment or desire rooted in ignorance. To desire someone so much as to give up what is fundamentally apart of your beliefs is to give into attachment and thus give into suffering. \n\nI am a Chan Buddhist and we believe in balance. If your man is unwilling to give up Christianity, then that is his choice. We, as Buddhists, should not ask him to give up anything. However, he should not as us to give up anything either. Buddhists should be understanding of all faiths.\n\nIn summery, I think you should ask yourself what it is you hope to get from the relationship. If you can not believe what you choose to believe, then is this a healthy relationship or is it a relationship based on less then admirable traits?  Only you can answer. \n\nI hope this helps.
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I'm looking for a person to date who shares my values.  I'd like my relationship to be something that helps me out in my life and I'd like a partner who can complement my strengths and weaknesses.  If the guy that I'm dating and I aren't moving towards the same goal, I don't think I'm interested.  I'm sure you're a nice person, but I want somebody that I can grow with.\n\nAlso, if I'm dating someone and I really care about him, why wouldn't I want him to experience the happiness I feel from following the teachings of Jesus Christ?
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if they're truly in love, they will compromise to make it work...\ntake me and my fiance for instance...\ni'm wiccan, he's atheist...\ngranted that not like being a christian and an atheist...\nbut it's still the same in the sense that i have a belief system and he doesn't...\nbut we compromise... i don't shove wicca down his throat and he never chides me for having a faith...
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I don't think there is. You can only be content. Once you get what you want, you add more to the list. You will always feel something is being neglected and at times unhappy. As for true love, I don't believe so. I think you have to build love.
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A relationship is built each day, element by element. Watch the content of its structure. How is it based? Is it for money, beauty, sex or for your personality?\n\nYou are the one that can define whether it is real or not. But do not try to think of love like a rose, cause in fact it is two person sharing one life and there are much to understand and compromise. Good luck!
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God.\n\nGod is Love.\n\nI'm not religious but spirit real.\n\nLove is the one attribute of God that exists in all of us. It is eternal and is the one thing we all seek.\n\nLove is the "voluntary" commitment to the welfare of another, to nourish them and give them life. When you truly love someone, you "give" love. With all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your might, you "voluntarily" commit yourself to the welfare of that other person - without expecting anything in return.\n\nWhen you truly do this, you will experience "true" love.\n\nFor the only "love" that is true is the love that is given.\n\nFor God so loved the world, that He gave Himself...
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No. The more we love someone the more our expectations grow and hence the gap between expectation and reality always remains. \nIf our reaction to love is related to our expectation then comparision is meaningless and become more of mathematics for e.g Lets convert love to numbers to understand this better\n\nSuppose u get a small amount of love (say 20) from someone whom u dont have any expectations ( say 0) the love has an intensity of 20. On the other hand u get large amount of love (say 80) but ur expectations are high (say 70) then this love appears much lesser than the first one. Thats why we need to remove the factor of expectations to experience love in its true glory.\n\nLove is an absolute expression, it cannot be judged on factors like expectations, time, intensity etc. It has to be enjoyed, devoured and felt like the raindrops on our soul.
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No, I have a strong relationship. There is a difference. Religion dictates belief while a relationship is nutured over time. I read the Bible and ask God to give me the details to understand. I have pastors that I mentor under, but I will challenge them if I think they are in error. It is not often, cause I got some great teachers.
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TRUE LOVE is not real. When you meet the right person you will think that you are in love with him or her but everything will change when you get to know them.
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When it's meant to be, you won't have huge doubts.  It sounds like you need to move on... you'll know when you've found the person for you, because it won't matter whether that person has savings or not, or whether they have rhythm or not... you won't have doubts when it's right.