Why is it so hard for me to be sexually confident after having kids?
155128
i wish you could see yourself as your childs father see`s you my wife had our first child at 23 and every time i see her i think of how she looked and what she did for us .. its an awesome gift .. to give a guy a baby
511179
i am like that. and i have 3 children now. the first was born 3 years into our marriage.it's not really a big problem.also, after your first pregnancy, the uterus normally goes into the right position.\nsome practical advice:\n\n1. use a pillow when you make love and he's on top (missionary pos.)\n\n2. keep him inside long after ejaculation.\n\n3. delay getting up after you make love.\n\nhelpmeets\nhttp://mwfrc.blogspot.com\n\nwhy not vote in our poll :)\nhttp://mwfrc.blogspot.com/2006/05/people-survey-poll.html
303703
My girlfriend had the same problem,,,she finally had an orgasm after buying herself a vib***** and she was 25!  Poor thing!  She was sexually abused as a child and taught that sex was "dirty" and "bad"....If this sounds like you, buy a vib***** and consider going to counseling if you think you need it....And remember that trying to have an orgasm will make it harder to have one....relax, open your mind, and you will get there!  Good luck
989024
Hm, could be that you are a little looser since the kids, might do some Kegel exercises. Might be extra heavy periods, I would suggest getting on the pill to make periods lessen.
24531
My husband kind of did something similar to me..and I can tell you dragging it out only hurt me more.  Although he cheated, lied, etc.  I did want to be sexual, he didn't always, but in the end my ex just wasn't ready to settle down.  It can be harder if you have kids (as we did) but you can still be in their life and be a good father if you and their mother are seperated.  Just make sure nothing else is what is actually bothering you...before jumping..grass isn't always greener on the other side.
859005
It could just be a mental thing, idk.   Try doing some erocit things, like when you move in, walk around naked, or build up your sex drive on a free day when you fave time to see what turns you on.
800241
I think that it's time to realize that our babies ARE having sex and could have babies themselves. Instead of denying it, we need to accept and move on from there.\n\nI had premaritial sex with my husband when I was 20. I had a baby before marriage. You know what the worst part was? My church shunned me. \n\nI should mention that I was against premaritial sex until then. I didn't even kiss a guy until I was 17. I was a prude! I'll even admit it. Now that I've grown older, I'm not upset that I lost my virginity at 20. \n\nI think at this point it's not about reinstalling value in the teens. It's about realizing that they are having sex and saying, "okay. If you have sex then you need to be safe." I would rather have my children learn about STDs, condoms and birth control and come to ME to ask for birth control then to hear a few months later that I'm going to be a grandmother or hear that my child has AIDS.
679708
I suffer from this too.  I was also told to keep an eye on my weight, so did more exercise and started eating more healthily. If you're finding that you're not managing to lose weight then it might be worth seeing your doctor/dietician to get some advice.  I was told that I'd still be able to have children, just that I might need to take some hormone supplements when trying to conceive.  Try not to worry hun, it's a really common problem and I know loads of people who have it and have managed to have children.\n\nWendy\nx
950296
Hi don`t no but you could try taking some supplements from internetshopuk.com i have been taking them and mine have firmed up after having 4 children and they also are getting bigger they are all natural supplements so no crap.
952684
I understand he might have fears about the baby, but other than that, I'm confused.  My husband actually requests more sex when he's stressed out.  It relaxes him.  I think he's being selfish personally.
102811
No way! I'd love to know people find me that attractive after having two kids!
1179880
yeah...i say talk to a doctor and see if there is anyway to "heal" it...and in the mean time, stop having rough sex, or any sex at all, you might be ruining your chances for kids at any time in the future
303584
Change is scary. Even a bad relationship sometimes feels comfortable because you at least know what to expect. But you made the right choice. You must think of your children first. You will be surprised how liberated and confident you will become doing things without a destructive influence by your side.\n\nI'm proud of you for having the courage and doing the right thing! Stay strong.
528489
I am actually surprised you have not talked to your child about this before, it is especially important that you do in this age of ours before he/she hears false and inaccurate information from his/her environment, because kids can be very curious but at the same time completely clueless.\n\nDo not be shy, and try to answer all the questions that he/she has about the subject without getting too graphic. Remember, show that you have absolute confidence in and knowledge of the subject and he/she will listen and believe you above all others. Make him/her feel comfortable even if you feel slightly uneasy yourself, and make sure that you establish that should he/she have any more questions, you will always be available. Remember that this is not a one-time lecture; it is a process that will help your child develop healthy ideas about sex and sexuality.\n\nYou essentially need to explain that it is a beautiful and pleasurable act of love that crowns the relationship between a man and a woman, and can even lead to the formation of new life, which would be your child him/herself. Talk about the value system behid it. Explain the basic biology behind it in simple terms, but don't leave huge gaps that will leave your child curious and unsatisfied. That will only lead him/her to go search for the answers somewhere else, and you do not want your child to be misled.\n\nBut most importantly, do not make your child feel as if it is a dirty, horrible and taboo subject. You do not want to shock him/her or make him/her feel guilty about wondering about the subject.\n\nGood luck!
249068
Sex, like so many other things is talked about more than done.  It is natural to be scared.  There are a lot of emotions involved and you need to have everything straight in your head before you leap into this.  Take your time and be choosey with your partner.  My husband told me once that there are two kinds of girls, the one you play around with and the one you want to take home to meet mama.  You me dear are definitely the latter.
333557
My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.
498507
It's a mental thing. Think and act sexy.  I have a very high sex drive, thankfully.  I stay active, think positively and stay healthy.  These all serve to keep me sexually healthy, active and enduring.