How can I stop being insecure?
146259
Just be yourself. It sounds to me like youre worried about impressing people. And to be honest, the only way to really get people to like you is to be true to yourself. You need to find confidence in yourself by figuring out who you are, what you like, your personal beliefs and likes and dislikes. Knowing yourself gives you more confidence then anything. be yourself, be a good person with morals and values and self respect (but not arragonce, although it doesnt sound like thats a problem) and people will like you. you dont have to try as hard as you think. you sound shy, and that sometimes makes you more likeable, believe it or not. you dont have to worry what other ppl think about you, just what you think of you. then the rest will come with time (and its easier then you think)
655679
First improve your body language. Sit up straight, always have a slight smile on your face even if you are not doing anything(this encourages people to be open to you and even ask what your thinking), look directly at the person so they will feel trust. Ask questions and really listen to the answers.
750922
Insecure.  That is always the issue.
1017083
Focus on yourself. That doesn't mean that you should become self-centered, but it means that if you spend too much time worrying what other people think, then stop.\n\nI know that it's easier said than done, but be yourself no matter what. It's hard, but it's worth it.\n\nSometimes buying a new shirt or getting a haircut gives me a boost of confidence. It's only temporary, but sometimes it's the boost I need to get working on other areas of my life.
611899
well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
826357
Wow, you sound a lot like me.\n\nI have problems trusting people too.  But sometimes... I can't stay quiet and I start trusting people.  But then I get afraid and I runaway from them.\n\nYou need to find a friend you could trust and try your best to not runaway from (if you are anything like me).  \n\nEmail me if you want and I could try to help.  It seems we have a lot in common.
946457
Ahh I'm occasionally insecure about this kinda stuff too and what my girlfriend does really helps and makes me feel better.  She takes me aside, looks in my eyes, and explains how everything is all right, and that nothing happened, and that she loves me, and kisses me.  Make sure you're truthful though that's the best way to build trust.  One lie can ruin all the trust someone had in you.  Don't jump to sex as a way for him to trust you, of course it's a good way to show you love him, but it's not always the best option in these kinds of situations.  Just be truthful with him always, and love him with all your heart  and things should work out =).\n\nhope this helped and good luck =)
1124781
Try Confidence Club.com, the cds they sell may be useful, either that or try a confidence coach, maybe even some counselling.  I know exactly how you feel and I have tried all the "positive thinking" techniques but sometimes you do need a little help.
948843
You can't live your life trying to please others and worrying what they think about you. Just be who you are, you sound pretty confident and self assured. You go girl!
791481
Try listening to your subconscious mind right before you react negatively.  If you can do that then you will find out what it is that is offending you.Example....  When someone trips most people get embarrassed and some people laugh at you cause it was funny.  You seem like the person that would trip, get embarrassed, then immediately following that feeling you would get mad.Am I right?  If so, you have an insecurity problem.  Just work on your self esteem and you will not be the way that you describe yourself.  Good Luck!!!
580292
Some people are insecure because they have had bad things happen to them
1153077
well if you continue acting insecure then he will leave you. He chose to be with you, enjoy his company, enjoy him, there must be something really special about you that he sees you just have to learn to see it too!  Be confident!
641097
Not insecure but immature
875877
I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
436818
Yeah, generally you don't wanna do something that might upset her/him or turn them away from you. So you feel insecure. Nothing wrong with that, it shows they're too important to lose.
59369
You have to get out of the negative talk in you head that keeps you feeling self conscious.\n\nThe best way to do this is to do something selflessly for someone else. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, or at a hospital, put change in someone’s expired meter without them knowing, go volunteer at head start , do at least  3 selfless acts a day, with no concern of how you will benefit and or gain from it and I promise you will begin to feel better about your self. \n\nAlso do something nice for yourself at least once a week, paint you r nails, get a facial, and take a relaxing bath, what ever you like. \n\nThe best way to feel good about your self is to give, give to other, give to yourself, and you will begin to receive all the confidence and self worth that you need and more!!
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Talk to him about it. Im sure he will but mayb ... he feels insecure.