How would you know if youre not inlove with your husband anymore?
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If you are asking this question, chances are much better than not that you aren't in love with him anymore. While I don't think divorce helps kids in the least bit, sometimes staying married "for the kids" does more harm than a divorce would.\n\nYou have to decide for yourself and for your family which is truly in everyone concerned's best interest. Don't count yourself out. If you want to make a go at it, then get counseling, talk, do what you have to.\n\nIf it's time to go.. then it's time to go. Don't be afraid to fight for what is fair... just really look at what is important and try to keep the proceedings as amicable as possible.\n\nGood luck, it won't be easy but I am sure you can do it.
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When did your feelings change?\n\nWhat happened outside of your marriage at that time?\n\nYou may simply be looking for an excuse to leave him.  Your likely some where around 30 and that is a tough time in a marriage or out.\n\nKeep in mind that marriages take a great deal of work and nearly all of them have challenging periods.  That’s when you knuckle down and find a way through the tough times.  Your feelings changed once and they can change again.  Just imagine yourself ten years down the road after you have left him, simply because you didn’t try to work through a tough patch.  \n\nIt sounds as if everything else is okay and since you’re the one disturbed, maybe it is you.  If it is you, you might consider that your feelings toward him are relative to your feelings toward someone else.  \n\nMy wife and I have been together 51 years and married 46 years.  It has taken lots of work through tough times, but somehow it has maintained.
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How do you know you don't love them anymore?  Because there's no "tingly" feeling?  You'd be surprised how much you'd miss them if they were gone.\n\nUnfortunately we live in a day of disposable relationships.  We traffick in souls like commodities.  Our emotions and feelings are good servants but poor masters.
524888
Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
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i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
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Dear,\nPlease do not ever work on guess and doubt when it comes the relationship with your husband. \nThe more improtant is his love with you...if it is intact.....do not spoil yourself in doubt...\n\nBut still if you have some strong proofs to prove it, talk to him very openly. Tell him why you doubt and let him to clearify himself also........make a open debate....do not hide any thing.....\n\nAnd if you feel...one day he will betray you...\nLEAVE HIM NOW.......show him women are not weak......
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U are in love with ur husband..  I know how u feel..  Believe me you are needing him more and it is not obession.  U love your husband and u miss him very much when he is not around you when u need his attention .. WIth other men ,  they gave you attentions because u are enjoying it very much.. Same with my fiance, he works and works. we see eachother less than we were before. I know hes working hard to save money for the wedding . I dont want to sound so selfish but i had good times being out with men for fun.. NOTHING SERIOUS.. but when i think of him. i wish he was with me to give me a long kisss which would mean anything to me. But in ur sitaution u are little lonely and needs his attention ..so, u are pretty normal ..\n My fiance is getting better to spend times with me more now than he was. but it takes time to make him realize how lonely i was without him because i am in love with him soo much. He knows how much i am needing him . SO i can feel where ur situation is at ths moment .. Just think positive and STAY in faith to ur husband ..Maybe u can have a nice talk to explain ur feelings for him to be aware of ..  So dont be tired of him .. just be happy that u have a husband to love you and take care .. than u go for an affair which will be an ugly mess to suffer through for nothing ..  STAY IN FAITH!
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Good for you, Emotional affairs can lead to worse.\nGet the book Love must be tough by James Dobson, and the Proper care and feeding husbands by Dr. Laur Shlessinger\nMake sure that all ties to this other man is over!  \nWork on your marriage and start seeing the first reason what made you want to love your husband the first place and why you married him.  \nAsk god to help you to restore your relationship>\nKeep your focus, and start being accountable for your actions, and be very sincere with your husband.\nI would go into long info for you, but I am running out of time, but the resources I have given you will help, and look on line as well of restoring relatinships.\nCheck your medical info make sure that there isn't no culprit hindereding your happness.
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i think it's easier to know when someone is not in love with you! when you love someone you can't help but show it but when you fall out of love it stands out a mile.\n\ndoes she flinch when you touch her, doesn't want to be intimate, conversations end more quickly, she seems to be a lot more busy than usual, she avoids you, you hardly do things together anymore, or you can see it in her eyes, she doesn't look at you the same way anymore?\n\nthere are a lot of things but if you just have 'that feeling' sorry to say, but you are probably right. if thats the case, you have to let her go. don't try to fool yourself that it can all be good again. that never works!
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Maybe your're in the "I'm 30 depression".  If you're not happy in your marriage, get out of it.
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Maybe you should try counseling first if you still love him.
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If your wife was cheating you'd see a lot of changes in her like not showing affection staying out late and acting like you mean nothing to her.. Just my observations
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I'm sorry to hear your situation but I'm sorry too that you have a men like that. He dousn't deserve you, he should at least had cheated when he was away and not while he was station in your home town. That sure tells you something.\nWell it all depends what do you feel for your husband?\nask your self do you feel in love with your husband, do you like when he touches you and that will sure tell you the truth. From there you can easily tell if you are in love with the other guy or just getting  back at your husband. Lovers tend to make  you feel like your the only one and that they r your soulmates, but beware because its usually a big flame of passion \nI'm also in that situation and I have found out that I don't feel that I'm in love with my husband no more but I also have 2 little girls who I think about there well beign.\nMy husband also cheated on me but the difference here is that I cheated with my ex. He is married and has 3 kids and he told me that he loved me he asked me to go live with him that he would leave his family but I never agree I was afraid. Good thing I didn't left with him a month passed and he went back to his family. That show me he wanted only one thing and like I never gave it to him he grew tired and left\nSo my adviced to you is talk it through with your husband see where he stands but don't tell him you cheated too!!!\nand if you want to keep on with your lover cvuz I know is fun ;-) kind of makes you feel alive don't fall so easily be open minded that way you won't get hurt\na friend that cares\nsweet angel
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No, it doesn't mean you don't really love him. Some of the things my husband does embarasses me. If I think he could be a 'better' person, then I suggest to him about changing. Sometimes I just live with it. :-)
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Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
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If he/she is distant.\nif you find yourselves arguing over stupid things.\nif he/she is now irritated by all of the little things that he/she used to find cute about you.\nif he/she doesn't call or want to see you as often anymore.
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The usual signs: avoiding you, acting suspicious, being secretive, lieing.  Ask your mte about it.  He will probably want to come claen with you.  My husband always does.  He is relieved after i find out.