the best way to handle an overbairing mother-in-law to be is???????????
151422
I struggled with mine for years.  Will she talk to you about it?  If you can't talk to her about it face to face try writing her a polite letter.  You need to stand your ground now because if you don't it is only going to make things worse later on.\n\nIt's kinda like a bully if you let her keep pushing you she will expect to keep your first born.  But yet at the same time you don't want to upset her because she will be your family.\n\nYour fiance needs to be aware of what is going on. And you need to be together on the issue otherwise it could create more problems down the line. But don't let it affect you and your relationship. It's her problem not yours!\n\nWe no longer talk to my husband's family but I really hope you can work it out it makes life so much easier!  GOOD LUCK!
930290
stop talking about my MIL that way LOL LOL
804266
well you best talk to your spouse and let the in laws hang because they are on the outside and the important one at this point is the one your with. but explain what happen and that you meant no harm.
857594
Tell grandma to relax and let someone else chew up the air for a while. She's your grandma, she's older and deserves courtesy, but she isn't made of glass so she won't break and she knows better than anyone when she's overstepping the boundaries, unless of course, she's been running amok for so long she doesn't recognize them anymore. In which case, point them out.  Say to her "This is my wife, she is here because she enjoys your company, I am going to do some chores for you and I expect to get her back in the same cheerful mood I am leaving her with you.  Got it Grandma?" and then smile, wink or kiss her on the top of the head or the cheek, so that she knows you love her, but that you aren't letting her blacken you or your wife's mood.  Give your wife a flag to waive if you have to, but bring grandma down to earth once in a while.  Leave if you have to, in the middle of your chores or your wife's visit, if she doesn't heed your warning. \n\nExpect from  your grandma the same as you would from anyone else.\n\nEverybody loves to run amok, older people, young people, we all do what we want until someone tells us no. Say no.
875777
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation.  I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year?  Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.\nAlso, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
353550
First of all, when did you guys officially become husband and wife - you made no mention of that in your question.  If your wife is a grown woman and is allowing her mother to act that way, what can you do.  It is sounding like she has given control to her mother.  Check yourself.  Make sure you have not done anything to offend your mother-in-law, if so then get it right.  Try talking to the mother-in-law.  Ask her why she is acting out so bad.  Coming to your job is definitely over the top and you should definitely ask her never to do that again.  Get in touch with your wife.  Explain to her that you cannot go on like this.  Her not coming back on her own is sounding like she doesn't want to be with you.  Ask her point blank what her intentions are.
662922
tell mom-in-law to do things your way in your home or hit the highway...[its your life] make your own choices..
602405
I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
305594
say "lo siento" and then report her to INS regardless of whether she's illegal... that way she'll be busy dealing with them and you can do your thing with her daughter.
858076
Have her killed and thrown in the river that's what I wish I did. My ex's family all hated me even though I was the one who supported him and treated him better then they did.But after 6 years he still wouldn't stand up for me so I got sick of the drama and left his jobless ass.My point you ask is this.If they won't die just stay the hell away from them cause once a mother has it in her head that your not good enough for her baby boy not even death is gonna change her mind.You could die tomorrow and she'd probably dance on your grave(mother in laws like that are all the same)
668184
shut the hot water off when your not using it\nempty the frig...now food no mother in law..\nshut of the cable TV..put up the old rabbit ears with two stations for her to watch...\naccidentally put bleach in some of her clothes when in the wash..oops..sorry...\nget back up late at night and have loud music and dance...and wake her up...then when she gets up..shut the lights off and go back to bed..\nand when she asks whats wrong ..say with a smile..why nothing what ever gives you that idea..\nor you could do most of thees without your partner even knowing it is being done..and then when she complains to him/her..say I do not know what she is talking about...then put salt in her coffee..\nSMILE
519272
Have you seen the movie Monster-In-Law, cuz your problem is the exact same.What you should do is confront her don't be scared I did it and I'M about to get married to her son.Just do what what u do best.confront.
934163
You could be blunt! Tell her you feel unconfortable when she does this.. and that your happily married. Then point out how would she feel if everytime(old ugly whats his name) did that to her,,, how would she feel?
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
326823
She's not your mother.  Let your husband do it.  It's his mother, he needs to do it himself.
738973
TOUGH!  I kind of had the same problem.  I talked to my husband about it, and made it very clear that I adored her, but feared her meddling would come between our relationship.  I also told him that I in no way wanted to come between him and his mom....but we needed to set ground rules.  He understood more than I thought he would...and he talked to his mom about it.  After all, he knows her better than I do...so he knew how to express this without upsetting her and making me look like a bad person.  It has worked very well, and we are ALL happy now.
270913
Be nice, you don't have to hang around her or be around her especially if she is a problem. You don't have to put yourself thru any missery, know matter who it is, family or foe. Life is too precious to put up with people like that. I would stay away as much as possible but don't let it come between you and your spouse. Love conquers all. Pray too.