my bf went to iraq and told me he didnt want me to put my life on hold for him is there a hidden meaning?
154243
I think it would be safe to say that he isn't going to forget you, why? he made the ultimate sacrifice for you. He told you to date others even though he wants you for himself. He could of said while i am gone do not see anyone else, but instead he put you before him. I would assure him that you are here for him and will be here for him when he gets back. A man who puts the woman first really cares and loves her.
514620
you are making an excuse "can't keep...living through him."\nif you wanted to be with him you would go with him.\nif you don't want to go overseas, don't.\nit seems completely reasonable that you simply prefer to stay where you are.\nyou are ready to settle down but feel awkward about pressuring him to do so.
405110
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
296168
Yes you are making a big deal. Can't you take a hint? He doesn't want to be with you, I don't mean to sound like a b*tch but it's true. He's telling you "oh I'm leaving" yet he doesn't leave.\n\nJust get over him, he's too much of a damn coward to give you the real reason. Forget him.
752219
Be his friend, write to him and send care packages while he is deployed.  Let him know you would be happy to come visit him when he returns from his tour.  Right now, be a good friend.  He doesn't have amnesia.  He remembers what you previously told him.  Perhaps this will be a good "testing" ground to see how you would handle deployments.  Maybe he was hesitant to get "involved" with you because he didn't want to put a "girlfriend" though a tough deployment.  Show him you got the moxie to stick it through (being his friend)....and then when he returns who knows...he may change his mind when he sees you can "handle it"....Remember...be upbeat, encouraging, help keep his spirits UP.  Show him you got the "stuff" to handle it.  Good Luck!
1175244
Why if she love and respects you whats the problem i would stick by my man whatever he wants to do. She should support you.\n\nMaybe she is scared that you will have to go to iraq or something you have to talk about it to her and you both have to be reasonable and she will have to give you good reasons. Good luck and fair play wanting to join up
971526
Iguess there's nothing you can do but to wait. Maybe he usn;t caaling you 'cause he knows you waiting and he wants you to feel sorry. don't call him anymore. if he cares he'll call
164072
EITHER HE IS SCARED OR HE DIDNT MEAN IT....THIS GUY I KNOW HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I KNOW THAT HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH HE'S JUST NOT READY FOR THE COMMITMENT. SO I'M JUST GIVING HIM A BREAK UNTIL HE CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS...ANOTHER THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND FIND OUT HOW HE FEELS BECAUSE THERE IS NO SINCE FOR YOU TO KEEP WASTING YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO CANT MAKE UP HIS MIND..JUST GET IT ALL OUT IN THE OPEN SO THAT YOU KNOW WHETHER TO MOVE ON OR NOT
650429
It means that you really don't love your boyfriend, he is just someone in your life that is wasting your time.  One day when you are ready you will learn how to be more patient and  stick it out when it gets rocky, trust me honey no relationship is all bubblegum and lolly pops.  It is hard work and if you are not ready maybe you should not have a boyfriend.  Tell the men up front that you are not looking for a serious relationship, they will get the clue.  Have fun, and try not to hurt anyone, because it will happen to you one day, and you don't want it to be because you were dishonest to someone.
1167836
Time to be harsh, honey.  This is YOUR life and you do not see a future with him.  Wish him well, tell him your reasons why, and STICK TO YOUR DECISION.  You don't do yourself any favors by continuing to take him back if this thing is over in your heart and mind.  What he is doing is a exerting a type of control over you with the crying and suicide threats.  You are probably a sensitive and caring person and he is playing on those emotions to continue a game that will have no winner.  \n\nIf you have really and truly made up your mind then tell him and let that be that.  You have no control over what he does at that point and if he hasn't seen it coming already and began the process of moving on, so be it.  Not your problem.  If he continues to call or come around, ask him nicely not to.  If it continues after that, call the police.  Don't send him mixed messages.  Your position is that I don't feel the same for you as I once did and I believe it is time to move on with my life.  And let that be that.
607122
lol - its true, you could be getting on her nerves :)\nit could mean a few things, eg.\nit means that she needs time by herself to work out how she thinks/feels about things in her life including you. It also means that she doesnt feel like she can say something to you that you wont like and she is building up the courage and finding her way to say it best. It also means that you and her are becoming too big in her life and that she cant balance her relationship with you with everything else she has to do in her life and that may be her fault or yours.\ncould be a whole load of reasons.\n\nall you really need to know is it is time to show some respect and independance and give her her space, if you care and love her then back off and find something to keep you occupied while she is finding her space.\nIf she is messing you around then maybe move on, I have asked for a bit of space before - it didnt mean i was breaking up with my gf or messing her around, I really needed it and she respected that and not having her calling me every five minutes concerned about if i love her and such was very cool of her, give her her space :)
1140008
He is just saying that to keep you, he knows thats something YOU want. He most likly doesnt want to get married and if he does not right now. Either you keep letting him ignore you or tell what you want  and follow through dont except anything less than what you deserve, but pressuring him would be the wrong thing to do. I think you should just let him know how you feel and then determine if he is worht waiting for, dont let him slip away if you know he is a good guy.!!!!
257929
Hell no!  It means he done lost his damn mind and you need to stay as far away from him as you can.
669951
Possibly .. I mean, here we have a solider who is going into a battle front and he may/may not be wounded, shot down, captured, all of the above, I personally want to thank him for defending our freedom's but as you can see this might have a "unfortunate" outcome. It is nice that you found someone that admires you and you him, just keep in mind of the possibilities that await you and all of the other families that have loved ones in Iraq right now. I don't want to tell you this is wrong or try to "throw salt" on the game in any way. BY ALL MEANS keep in touch with him he will need the correspondence, and if you "solider boy" make it back home, take some time to thank him properly.
654107
Most guys aren't like him... I think he's a real catch, honey.  Maybe he'll propose to you before he leaves for Iraq.  I hope he'll stay safe there!  If you want, you can email me or something and keep in touch, because I'd like to know how this turns out.
105219
It means you are undecided.  I have used it gettign out of answering someone I didn't want to be around and didn't know how to tell them without hurting them.
1002305
haha, i actually said this today. \n\nit just means that you may be wanting to do good, but your actions are evil. \nfor example, we went into iraq to supposedly bring them democracy, which is good right? but we killed tons of iraquis in the process, not so good. it just means that those actions ARE taken into consideration even if your intentions are good. the means do NOT justify the aims.