im extremely depressed. i feel as tho every thing that happens between my husband and i is my fault . im sick?
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Hi \nFirst u should be happy for what you are. It normal for women to put on weight after pregnancy. What you think is what u gets it all in mind. You’re taking it too seriously.\nAs your message tells you have tried all kind of health, excise and diet books. You need \nSomething else that is “YOGA” it as helped a lot of people from getting out off this kind of problems. It will help you…\n\nHey my personal word “please don’t feel low…everything is  goanna be OK…:-)"
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Been there, done that, it will pass, have faith and perhaps see a doctor.  You seem to be depressed.
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Hey sweety, I'm sure that what you think you're going through is very drastic for you, but keep in mind that your lady is going through it right with you.  She may feel like the fire is out because your isolating yourself and not sharing all your feelings with her.  I have forgive my husband many a bad decision for a couple honest words and a true desire to be in love with me.  I think you know how to fix this if your heart wants it.  Best Wishes
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I'm glad you are aware of your need for meds, and it's a shame it can't happen before December 1.  I don't like hearing about how your husband is behaving, but it's possible that because of your condition, you are feeling it more harshly than it really is.  I don't know if you've been on meds before, but you will be surprised how much clearer everything will be after you start and they kick in.\n\nFor right now, I suggest calling a mental health hotline so that you can get some perspective - and so you can have someone to talk with.  Being isolated is not a good thing.  Is there a place you can walk to - a coffee shop, a library, a church, even a store?  Just somewhere to be in the presence of other people can help.\n\nFinally, though I hesitate to suggest it, you might just watch some TV.  Stay away from the talk shows and tabloid stuff, just find a few regular shows - comedies, if you can find them - to pass some time when you have to.\n\nGood luck!
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u dont need JE to tell u if u loved ur husband, u already know that u loved him very much and i'm sure he felt the same about u. death is the worst thing in the world to deal with and i think u need comfort and understanding. talk to family and friends about how u feel. sorry i cant help with the JE thing but good luck anyway.
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Well it could be he is busy or he might be over you. ( Hate to say it.) Talk to him about it and you will feel better.\n                ~Lina~
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I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
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You need to sit your husband down and explain to him exactly how you feel.  Then you need to avoid your in-laws to salvage your mental health.  Allow your husband to visit them whenever he wants, but you stay home or go to a movie.  Seriously, my mother-in-law hated me and she broke up my marriage in the end.  It sounds like you need a vacation....
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This is tragic.\n\nI am very sorry for what has happened.\n\nI feel frankly that you probably should go back with your momma. Your husband is being silly and throwing away a good woman. Moving your life is hard and he didn't seem to realize that not everyone can just pack up and leave. You were sick as well, so how dare he?\n\nIsn't he supposed to respect and love you? You have held your end of the bargan. He has failed with his. I would definatly move back with momma and divorce him. If he isn't willing to work it out and cheats...there really is little hope.
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You need to talk to him.  Let him know how you're feeling.  Sometimes our spouses don't read our minds even when we think they should.  It doesn't make them insensitive just not perfect.  He may not realize your depression or the level of it.  If you're able to tell us you're depressed then TELL HIM.  Men and women have a different makeup and we don't understand each other most of the time.  Sometimes communication helps in understanding.  Just try to tell him how you're feeling.  ((((HUGS))))  Sorry for you loss.
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Yes sweetie, it does sound like you are suffering from depression. Please take these messages w/your email to the nearest doctor or clinic and get on some type of medication. Also, you MUST get out of the bed and start some kind of exercise. It will release endorphines in your brain and make you feel better. Keep me posted. Much love from someone who has been there.
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Don't let things get you down.  And don't beat yourself up because you are feeling badly about things.  It sometimes is easy to blame ourselves and to think we are alone.   I know it can sound easy to do, but just try changing your thinking.  Call a friend and arrange to go to a movie on the weekend, or just go for a walk.   I know it can be very hard at times and sometimes the loneliness can be rough, but just hang on and try to see beyond the rough day you've had.  Remember, today will pass.  Tomorrow can be very different.\n\nAlso, if you feel the need to speak with a doctor, go ahead and confide in one.  Perhaps the doctor can help you with some counselling.   Sometimes we don't see things as clearly as someone else -- the old saying, "can't see the forest for the trees" -- because we're not seeing things with the same perspective as somebody else.\n\nGood luck, and get a good night's rest, and a better day tomorrow.
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Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
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Best thing I can tell you is to take it one day at a time. Don't allow yourself to feel so overwhelmed, honey. I too have suffered from depression and the very best thing you can do is to not get drowned in all the emotions. You have a man who loves you, who seems to understand what's going on, otherwise he wouldn't have asked you in the first place. Try and realize that love is one of those things you have to take a chance on and sometimes it'll help cure what hurts.
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I sometimes feel the same way that you feel...and I hate it. I'm so sorry that you feel that way and no I dont think that it should be normal but everybody had bad days so what I try to do is find something to do so I want think about whatever got me down. I love you, so put a smile on your face! :)
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Yep!  It sounds like depression if it goes on and on and it brings alot of good caring people down this world is a sad place right now.  Things do get better and if you still feel out of it after a long while I would talk with your doctor.Hope you feel better real soon!!
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I know what you are going through, and I completely understand... missing your husband so much that it physically hurts.  It isn't the same seeing them on web-cam, or chatting in the Internet. Sometimes it helps to have a good cry (I always feel better after having a good cry), take a good long look at your kids, spend allot of time with them, watch them sleep for a bit, and hold them close... It will help.  Tomorrow is another day. Like the other posts said, start a journal, put all your feelings down on paper. Go see your parents or friends, get out of the house! Remember, take things one day at a time, and put your trust in god.  He will be there for you, he will shelter you, and he will take away the pain. I know this isn't really helping much but you will pull through this. I will pray for you tonight (and your hubby & kids.) Virtual Hugs (wish I was there to give you one in person) God Bless