How should pursue a guy I like that just got out of a 6 yrs relationship a month ago? Should I wait? how long?
142757
Become friends first!  He needs that and so do you. It will also make the transition into a relationship easier.  He's more comfortable with the idea of a relationship because your friends! And you don't appear to have been waiting in the WINGS all this time, looking desperate!
735135
Contemporary male wisdom is to "keep her wanting more". Hopefully, he is just trying to get you more interested in him by keeping his distance. Is it working?\n\nIf it is much longer than a week, I would probably try to contact him. If you get no response, you should probably move on.
1160096
Well if you haven't heard a thing from him for 6 weeks then i would say he has probably met someone else.   Your best bet is to forget all about him.
108789
It doesn't sound like you invested too much time in this guy. The best thing to do is just move on. I'm sure there are many guys out there who would put more effort into getting to know you and having a meaningful relationship.
391461
I'm 42, going on 43. I can honestly tell you, it could take \nany thing from 4 months to 1 year. It's possible the guy is shy or feels too busy, depending on time and location you see him. Try to get to him by expressing yourself to him, and or by expressing your self to someone close to him (perhaps his mother?).
345788
It sounds like your on the rebound, so maybe it's best to stay single for awhile! Figure out what you want and hopefully this will help you attract a good man!
1012601
I would advise you to get to know the new guy first, become friends with him, and get o know what he is about before any rash judgements are mad. You dont want to drop Mr. Six Years for someone wh might not be interested or may have problems of his own. (Sidebar: DAMN, SIX YEARS AND NO RNG.... SEEK OTHER OPTIONS)
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
1065060
hey life's short, make it fun while you can, you never know where it could lead, and if you find a mutual attraction, GOOD FOR YOU, good luck, and i hope he calls back- just take your time, lots of nutcases out there
1017312
You know what they say about Opportunity not knocking twice, well now it did. You should first ask yourself, “Am I still in love with this guy?” and “Given the current situation of my life and his life, are we still compatible?” If you can answer these clearly, that you’ve forgiven him and that you understand why he dumped you in the first place, then by all means, go for it. If not, if things are still unclear, it still wouldn’t hurt to get in touch with him again. After all, you were best friends.\n\nGod would not give you situations you cannot handle, and if in this new process you get hurt again, or if things go wrong, then at least you can say to yourself that you’ve loved and lost, and join the millions of people out there who are so sick of love songs. But that is being pessimistic.\n\nIf we all become wise guys and say you can’t do this and you shouldn’t do that, then you would just become paranoid because there would be a gazillion rules on love and not getting hurt. If there was a specific rule to follow so that you won’t get hurt again, then why are there countless heartbroken people, and countless heartbreaking songs?\n\nThe bottom line is, even though you are one who would like things to become safe, perfect and happy, you should not hold yourself from things that you know would affect your life in a profound, meaningful way. You should ask yourself every now and then… “Why not?”\n\nIf things go wrong, this time, you can say your goodbyes, learn from it, and move on.\n\nIf things go right, then you just did what God wanted you to do. After all, when you feel that you are happy with what you did, it was meant to be.
1078735
The BEST thing you can do is go back out there and meet new men.  Date them, laugh with them, have fun.  You will discover that you're a much better catch than your "ex" made you feel.  It will take time, but you will get over him.  If you can force yourself into going on at LEAST three dates in the next month, you will help yourself far more than you may believe.  It's not about him anymore, it's all about YOU.  You're special, you're desirable, and the right man will KNOW it.
801644
YAWN.... he likes you. Persue him. PERIOD. Hell give in and you two will get together. You say he doesnt believe that you got over your ex but i can see how you have if your ex wasnt good to you. Its easy to get over a jerk. So go for this new guy. Persue. I know guys are supposed to persue, but i think it will be to your advantage to persue this fellow. Good luck!
1081299
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
254253
Six months seems like a long time.  Usually after just a couple of dates you start to know if you love someone.  After six months you should pretty much know if this relationship is going to be long term and the word love should be something easily given.  Maybe I'm just quicker to love than some but six months seems like forever.\n\nIt is obvious how important those three little words are to you, and I agree.  I think you are at a place where all you can do is sit him down and talk to him.  Ending a relationship is always hard and before reaching that point I think it is important to make sure you know absolutely from the other person their feelings on the issue.  Then you can honestly make your choice without having made an assumption.
960224
He is getting his cake and eating it too.  He is able to get the companionship without the relationship and that is not fair!  You have to find a rebound guy.  I know this might not sound right but you need to have someone else spark your interest to get your mind off of him.  Or if he continues to contact you like he does after another month or so and he does not get another girlfriend there still might be a chance for you.  Just hang around and always be there when he calls but at some point you have to cut him off and see what his reaction is.  If he wonders as to why you are not as available anymore that may spark feelings that you are looking for or you might just have to go with the rebound guy.
323109
If he has just come out of a long relationship, don't push this too hard.  Just be there as a friend to start with, and let him know you are there for him.  When he's ready for a relationship, he'll let you know.
881226
Well just wait a while and make sure that you are ready to date some one new because you never know what could happen and getting into a relationship even though you know that you still have feelings for your ex.. isnt the perfect way 2 start a new relationship. wait a few days see if you still want your ex back if u do talk to your ex and try 2 work something out.... it worked for me and we've been dating for two weeks now (yea i know not 2 long lol) but my advice sweetie is just 2 wait dont rush your self it aint necessary :-)