How important should sex be between married partners?
151766
Ofcourse sex is very important in a relationship.But it shouldn't be the number 1 factor in deciding a relationship,but it often is!Women will leave you in a flash if you can't satisfy them sexually!It's very important as long as you are healthy but when you get older you'll see that sex will become less and less a part of your life.I look at older people that I know haven't had sex for a good 5 maybe 10 years maybe more! So when you get old [and we all will get old]it won't be about the sex, it will be about having someone by your side!
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
449879
That's fine, lots of couples wait until they are married to have sex even though they have had sex with each other before.  It just makes the honeymoon better because both of you will be extremely horny, so you will enjoy it more.  He's a good guy; just wait.  I promise you, it will be worth it!
641901
Talk to your wife; communication is key.  A healthy sex life starts in your brain!  Ask questions: What are her preferences?  What are your preferences?\n\nContrary to the belief of a great deal of men, a good sex life doesn't just happen.  A good sex life---one that is not selfish on either part---is one that is learned like dance steps to each different song.  You don't do the cha cha to a slow waltz melody and get a very satisfying dance.  So, if you don't learn to dance together, to get each other's rhythm to be as familiar as your own, then "dancing" will be clumsy and usually not very enjoyable for anyone.\n\nBut when you both love the music, you both are familiar with the dance steps, you both know each other's bodies and how they move to the music, then you can feel like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers.\n\nTalk--this is the person you've shared your life with for 36 years; you can talk about anything!  Communicate, listen, and share with each other.  Then put on some music and start learning to dance together.
312744
I think that it's up to the ivdividual couple. Me personally, enjoy making love to my husband at least once a day....one day we had a record of 16. It should be as often as you like though. It shouldn't be a scheduled thing...like "hey honey, it's tuesday, 8:00, let's git it done." Having sex should be spontaneous and romantic, not just every night before bed. I think a healthy married couple should make love about 4-5 times a week, although, in my marriage, we very often far surpass that...but we're not the average married couple.
1180673
It is important to have GREAT and VARIED sex all of the time as often as possible in a relationship to keep the fire in it . . . \n\nSex before marriage I say . . . Try before you buy!!!\n\nand internet relationships well is new to me so we we will have to find out baby . . .
381973
You should see that you are physically compatible. What if you found out on your wedding night that the sex between you, for purely physical reasons was not ever going to be any good? It would mean for a potentially unhappy marriage. I say go for it!
962263
A healthy sexual relationship is a must in a relationship, it is what brings 2 people together that no other way does, it also relieves stress for both parties, and can also just be great fun, there are different ways that sex impact a partnership.  Sometimes the intense, I need only you in my life, the sharing.  And watch this, sometimes when things get 'testy' between 2, a lot of the time it's because they have neglected that part of the relationship, that's the stress breaker, and it opens doors to talk.  And the just plain fun?  That's when both parties are not looking for a soul matching moment, the 'core of them' it's when one of you just sneaks up on the other, just to enjoy!  Without sex / love making a relationship starts to build walls, feelings are hurt, doubts start to creep in, and not only men cheat!  It's healthy, very important, and really great ;)  As for not falling in love until after??  Well that's not always true.  My hubby and I knew each other for sometime, enjoyed each others company, and loved spending time together.  We had a sexual relationship for a few months before the L word came out, and it was great, and a moment I'll never forget, and one my hubby still asks remember when??  So I guess that could go either way, but don't mistake great sex and good times for 'falling in love' there are too many other things that play into a good relationship.
538279
Intimacy is important, sex is not.  As long as your relationship is loving, caring and affectionate, you will be fine.  Think about older people who are not physically capable of having sex.  Do you think they love each other any less?
540798
If you think that you should wait until you're married to have sex, then that's the ONLY opinion that matters here!  Have you not read some of the answers that people give in Answers?  You already sound smarter than most of them.
513841
I think you have to be careful and use protection - but I think that, even if you are married, if you are not ready to have children and do what it takes to raise them for 18+ years, you should still use protection.\n\nI think it's a good idea to know if you are sexually compatible with someone before you make a commitment to be with them for the rest of your life.  People say it's not important but you hear so many people use the excuse that their partner couldn't satisfy them or they were on completely different levels when it came to sex when explaining why they cheated...obviously, it's more important than people want to admit.\n\nAt least TALK about it and make sure you are both into the same things before making a commitment to marriage.
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
1020440
I think that this is possible since sex has been proven to be a stress reliever. It also takes two people who are in love and have the ability to talk to each other. Now if by having sex this allows him to open up more to you than great! Hopefully you are doing the same with him too! If you both stay positive and talk to eachother then you will have very few issues within your marriage. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and she is my best friend, my confidant, my lover and my wife!\nGood question
1126205
The benefit has to be better sex, there would be complete understanding between you both of what each of you are comfortable with, but remember to respect your partners decision.
1063158
Sex in marriage is a perk.... and no matter what eventually it will wane between two who are together for a long time.... \n Sex when someone is ill can be very difficult for both partners and sometimes it is in the best interest of both to just stop doing it. Not that they are not intimate, there is so much more to marriage... we have been together for 20 years now and my illness has made this impossible for the last year. My husband loves me enough to have given that part of his life up. Sad to say because that fun is gone but  there is always other stuff....
582704
I believe in sex before marriage. I don't believe people should just sleep around though. If you've been with a person for awhile and truly loves them, I think it's ok to have sex.
1111826
sex should be with someone that you love and respect. and they should love and respect you.\nshould wait for marriage.\nthere could health problems when a women reaches 35yr. there are more health risks for the baby and the mom.\nI wish I waited to be married before having sex. I thought I was "missing out" on sex too. started seeing all my classmates around town and they were married and on their second kids.\nthought I was missing out, so I wanted to know what "it" was like too. but then got pregnant and the baby on my own. not fun after the fact.\nhaving sex is a HUGE RESPONSIBILITY AND YOU LEAVE YOURSELF VULNERABLE TO THE OTHER PERSON.\nso PLEASE WAIT FOR MARRIAGE AND IT WILL BE WELL WORTH THE WAIT BELIEVE ME PLEASE WAIT.\n\ndont be in such a rush to "fit in" or "know what it is like" just to know. take your time and know what kind of person has the qualitites you want in the other person and that you take of yourself financially and emotionally on your own.\n\ngood luck and WAIT FOR MARRIAGE: YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DO.!!!!