how can i break up when i care about him and he still needs me ?
140963
I been there and done that, I thought maybe the relationship would change and things would get better so i gave it a chance and i ended up having a child with him and still our relationship had no spark but i was stuck at least thats what i thought. I gave him 5 years of my life because i didn't want to hurt him but we have been broken up for 10 months almost and hes gotten over it fine even thou he told me he was going to kill himself and a million other things .... hes moved on and so have i....  you have to make urself happy before you can make someone else happy and if theres no spark and you can't see yourself being together forever then honestly i wouldn't wait around like i did ..... good luck and don't stress yourself out about it so much * hugs *
841688
You don't have a rel'ship with this guy, no matter what he may think.  Tell him so.  If you try "breaking up" with him, you are saying you DO have one.
113431
The only way you will know rather or not he still like is by you asking how does he feel about you? If he said that he still like or love you is a good thing. Maybe you guys need time apart to really see if things can work out by taking one step at a time. If he say that he doesn't care for you anymore, then you should move on.  It's not fair to you, to keep putting your heart out there and he's being happy with someone new. Love hurts but you have to keep it moving for your sake. I know how it is to be in love by yourself.
514617
Well.....definately you have to do it in person, trust me....I'm not ashamed to say that I've been dumped through the phone, and trust me that hurts like a b**ch!\n\nWell, there isn't a way to break up with someone without hurting them, if they care about you of course they're going to get hurt, but they'll understand, if you give them good reasons for wanting to break up, and if you're dealing with an understanding person, I'm sure he or she will understand! Just try to talk to the person and be completely honest! Think of a way you would like someone to break up with you and try to follow it with the person you want to dump, you know what I mean? Well, anyway, just try to be sincere and try to be soft, you know? I hope that helped you! Good Luck!
325767
Either you are having problems or you are not.  If you are having problems in your relationship, he may have thought of breaking up with you, and you will actually be doing him a favor by doing it for him.  If you are not having problems, you can fix them or leave him.  If you fix them, you will not need to break up with him.  If you leave him, there is only one way to do it.  Do it quickly.  Do not let him talk you into keep on trying and just one more week, or one more dance, or one more anything.  It will just make it harder on BOTH of you.... It will be prolonging the pain when at the end of the one more whatever, you have to break up with his still / or again.
449295
dump him and find someone who will send time with you and treat you right...
408762
dont give in to him..... if you're not ready, you're not ready. If he doesnt understand that, hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. the first person you should be taking care of is you and not anyone else. Make yourself happy  before anyone and everyone will be happier seeing you happy. If you ask me any guy that has to pressure you in doing something you dont wanna do isnt worth your time. its better this way in the long run. Dont lower your standards for anyone or else you are just disapointing yourself. If that was me i would let him know how i feel and if he is still pressuring me, i would drop him cause right off the bat he is thinking "me me me" and not "us"  and it takes 2 to tango. last time i checked it was called being a couple. Hope this is helpful. Much love
456826
Stop freaking. Wait at least 24 hours. Then call him with some drama. Then break up with him.
19155
This is tough because of what you said...you're still in love with him (how long were you guys dating?).  You need to find ways to distance yourself from him, and to do other activities which will take your mind off him.  Hang out with other friends, go take a class on something, do something fun and exciting.  If he calls you as much as you may want to talk to him you need to not answer the phone...in time you'll feel comfortable being separate and may have a chance at being friends then, but if he's playing games with you you need to avoid the situation as much as possible.
474622
you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
697115
Get over him.  If he is just making excuses not to be with you then he doesn't want to be with you at all.
99902
COMMUNICATION... Let him know what you want out of the relationship. After all, you don't want to waist your time,or his. Then again, who cares about his?
694614
Dump him first and keep your self respect. You cant force him not to break up with you and if you are wrong then he will tell you.
701252
if he's such a guy, i can tell you, he isn't quite serious about you. he maybe doesn't respect your feelings or you yourself. if he's reallly such a guy, if i were you, i would just divorce him or ditch him straightaway on the phone, MSN, or right infront of him. tell him the relationship between you and him is alr over. if he answers you, "break up then break up lar! like i care." such of this kinda ans, i tell you, your prediction before breaking up wid him is 100% correct.
496205
if you still care about him you will talk to him about it.  If not, then you need to break up with him.  you both will need to move on.  But it is best to be honest.
1033910
leave him he isnt worth a broken heart\njhnrks@yahoo.com
486750
Just tell him that you don't want to hurt his feelings or lie to him by staying with him when you just don't feel the same way for him so it is better to break up. Honesty is always the best answer. It may hurt still, but its better than a lie.