how should i tell my sister her boy friend is hitting  on me ?
152522
First figure out if he's really hitting on you.  Make sure that if you were to tell her what he did that it's actually really "hitting on you" and not just being nice, friendly.  You know?  Last thing you need is her taking his side and thinking you're weird.
574353
i think it is a very bad idea to go after her bf because she is your sister and that could ruin your relationship with her. but say something like how are u 2 how do u feel about eachother see if u can somehow get thru to her that shes not treating him well
840937
That's going to be a tough one, but it's good for you to let him know how you feel about this leech he's dating.  When he's available, have a sit down with your bro, tell him to keep his calm, and that the following words you'll utter are not meant to raise his ire in any way.  Express your criticism of her (in a detailed, but not an overly emotional way) and see if he understands.  Tell him that he is a good guy who deserves better, and there are great single ladies out there who would not suck him dry of money, etc..\n\nHe may or may not listen.  But at least you gave it a shot.
263501
Regardless of who does more, be mature about this and don't tell everyone or tease her about it.  I'm sure she is already humiliated and you don't need to permanently damage your relationship with your sister over it.
1094685
I am not going to lie this is bizarre! Honestly though it could work out pretty well and everyone could be satisfied with the outcome. \n\nFor that to happen you are going to have to express to the guy you like what is going. Be upfront and tell him that you are not interested in his brother and you want to pursue something with him. Then he got a choice, either live by an unspoken code of not dating your brother's girl(since he has a crush on you, you are his girl) or have fun with you. Chances are though if you don't say nothing, things will stay the way they are now.
435442
Hm, I have to say that depends largely on how is your relationship with his family (particularly with his sister). If you really care about them, (you really shouldn't have sex with him in the first place. You're so young...!) you should come and talk with her. \n\nApologize first. Admit that you'd done wrong.\nMake her understand why you did it. (Your boyfriend should talk with her too) How you feel about her brother and that it is normal that her brother is going to belong to someone else (that is, his wife).\n\nIn time (especially if she has a bf on her own) she would understand.\nBut assure her that nothing will ever change how her brother feels for her, and how YOU feel for her.\nAND remind her that it IS a wrong deed, and she should never follow your step.
939668
Stop listening to your sister and start trusting your own judgement.  If your man is true to you, you'll know it by his own actions.  If you have too many opportunities to be unsure of what he says, that gut feeling is probably right, and if you get to that point, you don't need proof, you just move on.  Someone who makes you wonder repeatedly, isn't giving you what a relationship is supposed to be about. If you have no reason to doubt him, you'll feel that too.  Stay in touch with your sister, but if she's an instigator and frequently negative, tell her you don't want to hear that stuff and if she continues with it, hang up.  You only get one family.  Don't shut your sister out but just don't buy into gossip or games, and learn to trust in your own judgement.  It's usually the best guide.
894956
I agree with Rico, you need to think how much you value your friendship and what could be potentially just a shag. If you have real feelings for your pals sister and want something more, you need to find this out from her and talk straight with him.
723251
talk to your sister first of all, because its your life, your decision. if you don't feel that way about him its best to let him know now so you don't end up dragging him through a more hurtful experience.
85109
She's your SISTER.  the dud... lol, I mean the dude is just another n*gga... (crossing racial barriers here), the guy doesn't care if he offends his woman and doesn't care if he sleeps around with God knows how many chics on the side.  of course you should tell her.
911278
The fact that you are even on here asking for advice indicates that the "bottem" of you heart may not be all that deep. If you loved him that much, you would have no problem telling your friend this & that you do not want to date her bf's brother. You need to take a long hard look at yourself & your relationship with Steven. You may not like what you see, but you need to be honest with yourself & him.
150324
Tell him to leave you alone because your sister means way more to you than he ever could.  Then decide if you need to tell your sister.  I vote yes, but it is tricky because she may be hurt and blame you or not believe you.  Regardless family first...
382026
Have a talk with her and tell HER to stop and get a man of her own!  Does she feel  or percieve herself as THAT worthless  that she has to go after another girls sloppy seconds to feel desired?  Her and her clitoris may cost you your friendship with your best friend. Don't take sides with your sister in something like that! Just because she is your sister doesn't take away from the fact that WRONG is WRONG!  If she doesn't stop sleeping with the gentleman, inform your friend.  She will appreciate it as I'm sure you would if you were in your best friends shoes!
128092
it would have been easier if she was a friend or something you could have ignored her completely\nbut as your own lil' sister has a crush on your boyfriend it can get a lil' complicated\nfirst ask her(nicely) if she likes your guy\nit could be she jus likes him as a guy whom you going around with not the kind who she wants to go around with (you getting it)\nif she like likes him then sit and explain it to her (again nicely) that he is your guy and you like him a lot and you like her too and over a guy you don wanna loose a sister \nhave a talk explain it to her that he is your territory and she should find some one else for herself
144002
If your mom could help your brothers ,then tell her .If she finds out later and knows you knew, she would be even more hurt.
367621
Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u
449533
First of all, i would say she is your sister first and only then your flatmate! If she and her boyfriend are earning more than you or if you are in a tight economic situation because of this issue, I would suggest that you discuss this with your sis explaining it to her.Otherwise, i would say let it be....she is your sister, she would NEVER imagine ripping her brother!!well, as for the part of the whole house being occupied by them, it is easy to sort that out!Do what you would do in your house as it is yours too.