Should i forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me?
147381
Yes bacause u  might of cheated on her but she didnt find out.But you need to forgive her because when she is gone she is gone for good.
336122
Honestly, if you truly had a deep love for her, I don't think you would have cheated.  If the bond is weak enough that you both felt the need to stray, I'd have serious doubts about giving it another go...unless you both were willing to work hard to discover what caused these problems to begin with and were willing to work to resolve them.
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You really do need to tell her, if she finds out some other way and it comes out you knew she probably would never forgive you. But for telling her the truth she may be pissy for a little while but once she realises you were right and it all calms down a little she should come around, That is if she gets mad at you at all. I definately would try to go in there with some proof. Dont go in saying you should dump  his arse, just assure her you are there for her. Good luck
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It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
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Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
12411
Yes, you should apologize first...It's a sign of forgiveness and maturity to deal with relationship issues, even if it's not your fault..
461375
NO YOU SHOULDN'T FORGIVE HER, WHAT IF YOU WOULD HAVE WALKED IN 30 MINS LATER, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE WALKED IN ON???\nYOU DESERVE BETTER
1081353
Bygones r bygones.\njust let thm go;let them not affect your present.U love her and u say she loves u more.How can she b cheating u whn u say, she confessed about the facts bfore she proposed to u. What really matters honey, is, did she cheat u after u guyz r together? It is difficult to forget the past but if u keep hangin with, it it will only spoil ur present.try to get out of it.U r hurtin urself and the ones who love u.
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You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
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Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
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wel i think she lied to you because you she didnt want to hurt you or thought she would loose you.  I don't think thats cheating as you guys only started dating and it was too earlier for her to know where that relationship is going.\n\nI would be gutted tho and know how you feel> It really sucks but what can you do?\nIf you like her and she has been faithful since, forgive and forget and move on with your relationship.  FYI it probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you and i dont hink she did it to spite you!
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Yes forgive her, but move on without her.  You will never be able to truly trust her again.
716055
I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
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No one in here knows your girl like you do.  In fact, none of us do at all.  \n\nI will tell you what I would do if I found myself in the same situation.  I would tell her I realized that it was all my mistake and I am sorry. \n\nThats it, I would just leave it at that.  If she forgives you she will come back to you either right then or in a few days.  I suspect that she will forgive you.\n\n\n-------\n\nAside from the question, shame on all you who are mocking someones spelling when they are asking for a serious and heart felt answer.  English is not everyones first language, and it is a very hard language to learn, esspecially as a transition from Hindi or other such languages that have NOTHING in common with English.
100997
It is quite possible that she really does regret her actions and will never do it again, especially since she told you.  But, having been in your situation before, I've found it extremely hard to "forgive and forget."  Both of you have to be really committed to make the relationship work after a major setback like that, but if she is truly sorry and you think you can trust her again, it should all work out.
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if she broke up with you then she isnt your girlfriend any longer.. but if she was cheating on you when you were together then be thankful she ended it.. once a cheater always a cheater...let it go and find someone that you can be happy with.. if you think she was cheating then more than likely she was or had plans to... move on and have fun.. life is to short...
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Are you sure that your girlfriend knows about it? and is she "the one"? I am pretty sure she isn't otherwise you would've thought twice before you cheated on her. So if she's not the one, then I guess you could just let it go, I am not saying it's easy. And don't beat yourself, you made a mistake and you should recognize it in front of her, and you can also talk to her. But don't say to her that she cheated on you first; because that's not how you solve a problem, you would just put salt in the wound. Instead, just talk about it to her and tell her how you feel, if you want to be with her forever, than you should definitely clear this up now, if you're just having a fling that's another story. But whatever you do be honest, because once some one loses trust in you, it is extermely hard to come back and trust you. \nAs far as your friend...Well, if he REALLY was your true friend than he should've never been so cheap and told on you, a friend like this is worthless. If i were you, I would dump the friend before dumping my girlfriend, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings and is selfish.\nGood luck, and whatever it is, know that sooner or later this will fix itself and it'll be a lough years down the road, you sound pretty young and believe me even if you thought that your current gf is the "perfect" woman, God has ways to amazed you later in life. But one last thing, cheating is never good. And i am sure that you don't feel so good about it youself, so try not to do it again; you'll regret.