Why is it so hard for me to date a guy that doesnt turn out to be a jerk?
155856
Well maybe you shouldn't worry about the looks.  You need to find a guy with a good heart and keep him  They are hard to come by.  But, when you find a good man try not to push him away.  You are so young you have a lot of life a head of you.  Take your time and have fun.  Life is to short to worry about the small things.
1152512
Women don't like jerks, they're just kind of biologically drawn to them...\n\nWomen love confidence.  Even when they're not confident, jerks are typically a bit cocky (which ironically, is a sign that one lacks confidence).  Cocky resembles confidence just enough to get the girl.  Being a domineering control freak is also an attribute that women commonly mistake for confidence, and as a result, such men often get the girl while the nice guy loses out.  Meek & indecisive are the two most effective female repellants out there!   \n\nWomen also love mystery.  Jerks are not open with their feelings, which makes them a bit mysterious.  Nice guys are frequently open with their feelings which kills the mystery.  While women CLAIM they want a man who's open with his feelings, deep down they much prefer a man who keeps some mystery about him.  \n\nIgnore what women SAY they want in a man; instead, pay attention to what they RESPOND to.  Generally, the key with women is to be "the man with a plan" (e.g. don't ask her where she wants to go on a date, just take her there) who's fun to be around (most important: make her laugh) but doesn't talk too much (don't tell her your life story right away, make her work for it), all without being a domineering a-hole.
271995
A guy would be falling head over heels if you find he gets really shy around you are has trouble talking with you. Its mainly that, or if ur dating already he does nice stuff for you all the time and is super clingy.
13340
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
70488
I bet you've given in to some of those jerks too and let them in.  You know not all guys are like that, you see them everyday.  You just avoid talking to good guys b/c you love the attention you get from the rest.
1034271
Because being a bad boy means you are a CHALLENGE baby! Nice "sweet" guys often come across as predictable and boring, and that is why even I am not a "nice" guy. \n\nTo sum up, dump those losers and come roll with me - but I'm picky! lol
1060063
Sorry but you can't really. Any guy that lets you know he likes your mate more than you is a jerk. Don't waste your time and find someone decent. After all, you don't seriously want to be known as someone who only accepts sloppy seconds do you!\n\nI'm talking from experience here, I had the same situation as you but with girlfriends! DON'T DO IT!!!!!!! Get rid of him first!!
590122
its hard because i dont want to hurt your feelings,but the guy doesnt wantt o go out with you,honestly i think he went on the first date to see if there was anything there but from you say he is not interested dont be heart broken you will find someone else who will approach you
1000080
Listennnnn... Can i be real with you? I can... thank you. First off not all guys are jerks i know ladies i know there are dogs out there but there are some female dogs ( i aint gonna say it) out there too. But if you always on look out you might push away some real good guys. A good way to tell is look at his friends and how he acts with them if most of them are assholes he might be too. Ask other girls about him. Other thing is most girls let there friends pick there male counterpart I say what do you think do you feel he is? So Listennnnn to ya boy give him a chance you only live once.
6404
could be:\na. Trying to hard\nb.  Standards too high\nc.  oblivious to your surroundings ( i.e. dont notice the guy who likes you)\n\nChances are there are plenty of potential prospects, but you are making it difficult on yourself by comitting one of the above...\ntake a look around..
365883
if there jerks at first, then there not gonna change. Get a good guy, a sweet one you just called friend.
240583
'Cause it sounds like you're trying to protect yourself from him turning you down, or making fun of you. Us gals sometimes have to test the fella, to see if he's sincere. It's unfortunate that some gals have to do that, but if they've been hurt before, they learn to protect their heart from jerky guys. <*)))><
597700
Maybe he is just shy that you wouldnt want to date him. OR he could be waiting for YOU to make the first move... You know, trying to play hard to get... But usually, guys wont do that, not that any I know anyway...
307957
i'm  shy person to, so i try to get to know the shy guy so that i can get close to him then date the guy, i really like guys that r shy that also have a mature side tothem cuz i'm around loud guys that always speak their minds and it gets really anoying after a while! so shy guys are always my first choice
1074548
I think it has to do with liking ourselves. I married my bad boy and I'm sure not that thrilled about it. Nice guys finish last, I'm telling ya. For some stupid reason, I'll choose a jerk over someone who would treat me like a princess any day. I think it might have something to do with Karma. Perhaps, if you dont believe you deserve to be treated well then you really don't. Find a girl that doesn't have emotional baggage. If there are any. I dont know I've got more baggage than any 15 people I've met... Safe guys to marry huh? is there such a thing?
247400
because you set expectations...you had high standards...\nregarding to those you like, they are not just the right person for you...and you shouldnt be looking for the guy...love comes, never search for it.it will come in the most unexpected place and time...
697394
All guys have different taste.  Being yourself is the most important thing.  Don't ever change.  You have to like who you are to be likeable.  I'm sure you are a wonderful person, and who wouldn't like that?  Always present yourself in the most honest way, and the right guy will notice you.  Don't be in a hurry.  Enjoy life.  If you are not dating right now, focus on God, your friends, and your hobbies.