why dont men exspress feelings of lovet heway women do i share all good or bad?
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I don't understand the bit about fear that he'll get better, but look at it this way:  you seem like an outgoing talkative type and that makes you a good match for a quiet, introverted guy.  He doesn't have to strain himself to keep up the conversation, and you're probably entertaining to be around.  And you like having someone listen to you.  Two people who both want to talk a lot can wear each other out.  So opposites attracted, and it works for the most part.  It's no big surprise that--guess what--you're different.  Not every man is like your partner--some will talk your ear off and others are puppy dogs.\n\nIt's not a matter of being too affectionate.  If you want more sharing you might have to adapt to his style, and he might have to practice at it.  Try drawing him out, with follow-up questions, and realize that quiet types need time to think through an answer before they say much; if they feel rushed they resort to short answers, or aimless rambling.  \n\nThere's an interesting book called "You Don't Understand Me" that talks about the different ways men and women communicate.  Maybe that would be helpful.
404077
That's not true of all guys.  My last two boyfriends have been very open with their feelings, you just have to find the right ones. I think most men are just naturally closed off like that.
487811
Don't haggle with it dear...we want what women want-sometimes not in the same order...that is all.The majority of us do/will settle down when the timing seems fit.For the meantime we cannot deny what nature has designed us to do...we must indulge in it or be at constant war with our inner being.If women could just understand that and feel what we feel for just one day...the majority of them would not post all the "Why are all men/Why do all men" questions anymore!We know that we can't live without women...but when will you women admit that?\nNothing personal miss..just food for thought,thank you & have a goodnight.
84351
hmm, not all men and women feel that way.  You should get some therapy.
610922
the feeling is not always right. sometimes that feeling means you have an infatuation, and infatuations can be with many bad men. be careful!!
590276
i think u should hold ur feelings back cuz its not normal at all..\nthink more about men.. take me as an example ;)
1094299
That's why i only date close friends who I know have great respect for women. I'm a lady and I deserve the respect I give to men. No questions. I'm glad you feel the same way. good luck to you.
79844
If you know a lot of men who enjoy seeing women suffering and crying, then you are hanging out with the wrong group of people.\n\nThere are many, many men in the world who are kind and would do anything to see their woman smiling and thoroughly enjoying life.\n\nHopefully, you'll be able to meet those kinds of men.
40655
Personally, I am very cautious and only say it when I mean it, because somehow it does scare most men.  In my opinion (just my opinion), some women are insecure and feel if they say that, it will show that they are giving affection to only YOU, that one special man.  Just like men, women aren't always honest and sometimes say what they think the man may want to hear or that it will benefit them in some way.
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Love isnt really the question here.  Often a man can feel self concious because he doesnt know what to say or how to comfort the woman. Once you get to the point where youre both comfortable with it: able to talk about it without feeling awkward, things will probably get back to normal.  If you want to see things from his point of view, think of how you would feel if he had a testicle removed.  Unfortunatly, some superfical men can take a "damaged goods" attitude.
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A man once had true feelings for me, we didn't just have sex. He held me, kissed me, cuddled and watched movies, and he made me feel wonderful. I loved him and it felt great. I came to believe that if this is so bad, why is it so wonderful. From then on, I felt no shame and believed truly that love conceurs all.
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Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
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cuz women smell good, are softer, and more intimate to be with.\n\nPerhaps a good man is still in your future, have fun for now
48297
Well, I think there is some truth to the stereotype that guys have issues with their feelings.   Many of us certainly don't have the emotional vocabulary to describe our feelings like the ladies do.\n\nAnother reason is sometimes it's not "safe" to express how we feel.\n\nFor example, if we feel rejected because we are not getting enough sex from our wives, we are called sex crazed by those same wives.  Why would anyone continue to share their feelings if those feelings are invalidated.\n\nMen don't have the corner on this market, women invalidate their man's feelings with similar frequency.\n\nI agree, there are ladies who refuse to share their feelings.  They may sulk, pout, or put the walls up, but when you ask them what is wrong, what is the first word past the lips, "Nothing."
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Men and women feel love EXACTLY the same way.  Don't be fooled by cultural machoism, any more than you should be fooled by the 'sensitivity' and 'helplessness' of women.  These are merely thin layers of cultural prejudice that each sex has learned to use to mutual advantage over the history of humanity.\n\nWomen are just as capable of callous disregard for a man's emotions as any man would be.  And men are just as capable of empathy and compassion, and bruised egos as any woman.\n\nLove is love.  It's just as valid and powerful from either sex, as it is from common household pets.  Your dog probably feels a more pure form of it (male or female) than anyone you've ever met.  My advice is to ask your dog.  He'll let you know right away, and he's a guy.  What does that say about your theory that men are unemotional?
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Most women are good ones,as most are not going to walk all over you.If you can't tell them that you feel this way then it will always happen.You don't have to be in charge ,just let them know that it is a two way street.
312793
women can make men weak but they are strong, by you feeling weak lets you know that you are in love with her you are willing to go out the way for her and make her happy, keep a open mind, keep it real with her, and you to will make it