are children of divorce more likely to divorce themselves?
142736
yes they are most likely to divorce or have children out of wedlock . . . because that is what they learned from their parents.\n\nthey are also more likely to lie and be dishonest and go to prision too . . .
54320
No, either of them. (One was my idea, one was hers.) I regret what I did that caused one of them, and always will feel guilt about causing someone pain. The actual divorce, however, in both cases, was a relief of stress. Some bridges just have to be burned. I have since matured and been remarried happily for a long time.
272144
I feel the only good reason for a divorce is for the welfare of the children.  Too many people stay together FOR the kids and they r the ones who suffer.  Sooooo divorce FOR the childrens sake!
1000910
I think it would be really hard to try and not be selfish at a time when the world is shaking apart. Divorce, even a divorce that was a long time coming, causes a division of family and assets and emotion. \n\nI think it takes a strong person to put that aside and do what's best for their child without wanting to ignore the world to deal with that pain and stress.\n\nGood job in working it out though. :)
660425
Yes it has.  I also work in the legal field and our practice is mostly family law.  My divorce was pretty cut and dry.  I learned not to marry the first man you meet that is nice to you.  I also learned that there is life after divorce.  I'm married now to a wonderful man and have been in love with him for 20 years.
341901
As long as you are just dating, yes, the child gets more attention and love.  However, in a marriage, the spouse MUST come first.  This is the main problem with marriages today - putting the kids ahead of the spouse.  Why should you stay with someone who doesn't care about you and pay attention to you????  I love my children dearly and hope one day they have wonderful, sucessful, loving marriages of their own.  This will make my husband and I happiest - to not sacrifice our marriage for our kids sake.
88935
Absolutely.\n\nI usually have to remind myself that my daughter is capable of getting her cereal in the morning, because I'm usually on autopilot til she gets to school. \n\nI think allowing kids to do things for themselves, provided it isn't anything that could be dangerous, is a good thing in helping them build their confidence and independence.
578158
yeah sometimes they do, but that relationship often doesnt work out either. i see your dr phil nickname,, i watched a program of his a couple years or so ago where they stayed in touch with people where they met when one or both were married, had an affair, and then eventually left those marriages and moved in together or got married. the divorce rate of those new couples was HIGHER than the country avg of about 50%. it turns out that the trust issues transferred into the new marriage because they both already knew how deceitful they could be and started wondering if the same would happen to THEM now. it usually spells disaster. if the married person is unhappy they should leave the relationship and be on their own for awhile before starting something new. instead of stringing everyone along.
780634
I think that if a marriage is miserable and efforts to make it better have failed, a divorce is the right thing to do. So that's a yes from me I guess.\n\nI'm happily married though, so as for my own marriage, I'd say no.
13166
I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
860040
Yes, I DID stay unhappily married , for the kids' sake. I did it for a long time, but I could not stand the thought of not being there for them.Their Mother was not the most stable person, so it was necessary for me to be there for them until they got older, and could take care of themselves. I don't regret doing it for my kids, but I sometimes hate my best days are behind me now. If I had it to do over however, I would do it again....for them!
722912
have you exhausted all other options?  example: talking to a trusted friend/family member, seeking counselling from a higher up in your church and or counselling from a professional?  dont just jump into divorce, you may live to regret it.  my ex husband does..
131555
I think it's a great idea!  My husband and I were married for 8 years, divorced for 7.  We had 3 kids. During our divorce, he remarried, had another child.  When their marraige failed (we all knew it would), he came back to me.  We remarried.  We are now expecting our last child.  \n\nInitially, we got married very young.  We were both selfish and immature!  The time apart during our divorce enabled the both of us to mature!  We have come back into this relationship with a more mature attitude ... knowing what we both want from this relationship!  Our kids are much happier, and so are we!\n\nI say don't be afraid of it.  The best part is that you already know him ... you know his good points and bad points, and hopefully you are both more capable of dealing with the adversities in marriage than you were before.\n\nToo many people want to look at the downside of divorce and say not to give it another chance .... I say divorce was the best thing to ever happen to my marriage.
368939
Divorce usually works.
88582
I think they'll add to the divorce statistics. Running away from the problem never works. And getting married to do so only adds new ones.
191995
studies have shown that if youre in your mid twenties youre the least likely to get divorced. (also if you are both college educated, and make greater than 50K/year also helps). but statistics aside, its really whenever they meet the person they're truly ready to commit to for the rest of their lives. i know success stories from people who got married when they were young and old, as well as people who got married at all different ages who got divorced.
781756
Better to get divorced now, before there are kids in the picture.