i am feeling shy for i having no girl friend. is it a really a problem?
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
1142459
I thought i was the only one who felt so. I guess there are some things to keep to yourself, some moments you have to be alone....Better find an e-pal for youself, takes some time, but works out.\ntake care,\nbest wishes
736359
wow you sound a little down I hope things get better for you and not all guys feel like that some feel like there not a girl they can't get
664949
Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!
353443
That's your 1st road block. You don't NEED a girlfriend. Having that attitude probably causes you to act needy. And that will make any girl run in the other direction! Just focus on your life and the things you like. Live your life and stop worrying. Build your confidence! That's the fastest way to attract anybody. There are girls all around you...your just sending out the wrong message.
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Chances are though that a lot of it is just in your head. I bet they're are boys out there that find you cute, if not maybe you haven't me the right people yet. sounds like maybe your suffering from depression. We all get that sometimes. \n\nIts common to sometimes feel left out of the world and alone. If you feel these feelings to often maybe you should talk to someone.
166873
it is not a big deal as you think by yourself.just relax and meet with girls around you.any girl... and you will see that your problem is resolved then.
770479
hey, my names john, im 16, i used to be exactly like you, until last year i had never even held a girls hand i was so shy, but some things have helped me get over it, send me an email at sox5d@yahoo.com and ill help you out, right now you are being offered one of the greatest gifts i've ever received, you'll be with so many more girls, reply if you're interested...\n(this isnt just about girls but about being the best possible person you can be)
1082822
Truthfully, you are never truly alone, unless you believe you are truly alone.  The mind has a powerful trick over the heart.  Just don't give in to the sense that you are alone.  Look around, and find people to talk to.  I know you will overcome this sense of alone-ness. I went through the same thing.  Just trust yourself, and what you believe in.  You'll always come out on top of your problems if you just try.  Trust me.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.  Don't let the feeling of alone-ness get to you.  The worst of things can, and will happen if you do let the alone feeling in to your heart.
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You can feel alone even when you are with someone. More than likely you are more mature than the guys you have been running into and have more of an intellect. When the right guy comes along he will notice you. Besides you may find if you go out with some of these guys you mentioned, that they are very shallow and have no real personality. You don't really want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. I would not let not having a boyfriend bother you. In fact, I would use the time you spend by yourself to allow you to become more independent. This may sound corny, but if you can be a friend to yourself and be happy being by yourself when the right guy comes along, he will see your self-confidence and that you know who you are on the inside, and your relationship with that special guy will last for a lifetime. When you run into that special guy on your journey through life, trust me, you will sparkle.
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U shouldn't feel bad because ur the only one who's not married. Ur time will come when it's time, so enjoy the single life. U say all ur girlfriends are married ( BUT ARE THEY HAPPY)\n\nI'm the only one of my friends who doesn't have kids.And I don't feel left out \n\nSo I bet when u meet the right man and the time is right u will do the married thing
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It depends on the day of the week, the time of month or if your close to valentines or christmas etc.\nBeing single is ok, I am completely independant, am not answerable to anyone and very rarely disappointed.\nBut that doesn't stop me feeling lonely when I'm sat in on my own, sadly answering question after question on here... \nI think it would be nice to find companionship, but then I meet someone and before it develops into a relationship it gets all heavy or complicated and think I can do without the hassle.. \nI have plenty of friends and will keep it that way until someone totally special comes my way.\nNot getting into something on the premise I am lonely, if I did that, I could let any kind of scumbag into my life, and they would probably leave it just as quickly having stripped me of my confidence. I am not prepared to let that happen.
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I do not think this will be to much of a problem it appears you are shy and may have a fear of rejection until you overcome those fears it may be you asking this question ten years from now.  Start talking you are the only one that can help yourself get out of this situation.  Heres a good tip go out with some guy friends \nif you see a girl you would like to meet and are scared see if one of your friends would break the ice for you like saying hi my friend would like to meet you it could be that easy.
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It's hard when  your shy to talk to girls..but if you wanna girlfriend you have to get over this...start out small..start with saying just hi to a girl  you like..then start with a hi how are you..then add a little more at a time you'll soon realize it's not as hard to talk to people as you think...a lot of women like shy guys...you'll find some one just be yourself..
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well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
676484
As they say practice makes perfect. Just try casually talking to different girls and see what happens. You could also try joining a club or something that alot of girls are in so you can be more socialized and to face you fear of shyness.
346115
of course it is!!! All MY friends are blokes and it doesn't bother me (or them) that i don't have any girl-buddies (except one, which i met just a few days ago). there is nothing wrong with boys. they can be just as good, or even BETTER friends than girls! they r sooo much more fun and easy to be with that once u get to know how cool they r, you might not want to spend ur free time with girls any more! of course that depends on the type of person u r. i myself never felt too comfortable around girls, and even as a kid i only hung out with boys. \n\nso take it from me, girl: if u enjoy their company, don't let anyone tell u that it's wrong! and if that fella u call ur best friend TRULY sees u as a friend and NOT as a g/f, then u should be proud to have him! he could be the best thing that happened to u! do u have any idea how much he can teach u that a girl would NEVER be able to????