chatroom dating is'nt working for this swing couple.?
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It really depends on where you are meeting these people. Most "social networking" sites and general "dating" sites have a prevalance of fakes, wannabes and picture collectors - thus leading to the type of cautious behavior you are describing.\n\nSites like myspace.com, yahoo, etc. are not really designed for swingers.\n\nMy advice is to find an actual swingers site, and connect with other couples there.\n\nParticipate in discussion forums, and as an active member of the site and you will soon develop a reputation as a "Real" couple.\n\nSome sites even have a "Certification" system, where other couples and people who know you can "Certify" that you are real.
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wel i speak from expierience. i'm engaged and very happy in my relationship. i have profiles on a few sites. i do it just out of curiosity to see what these sites see as matches for me. i have never done more then look at the supposed matches just for entertainment. but that is just me. he may be doing the same thing i am. you should talk to him about it and see what he says. for noone knows why they do something but themselves. i wish you the best of luck with this issue.
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Yes it is. If you received a picture of an attractive blond with a teddy bear right away. If you attempted any correspondence-you'll notice there are no direct answers to any questions-also, more pictures will be included-all of which look like a models photo shoots. She will "fall for you"with in the first 4 or 5 emails. Say how lonely she is and that Russian men are abusive. Her use of the english lauguage will suddenly become very coherent to the point where she has a better grasp than most people. I hope this helps. Notice: that cherry@emuzy sounds very much like a call girl kind of thing, not like somebody who works at a complex job. She will also say you are her first correspondence.
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In yahoo chat room...romance 40..lol
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Check out this FREE dating site, people are registered from all over the USA & other countries. Good luck!!\n\nhttp://www.plentyoffish.com\n\nIt really is a kewl site!!
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E harmony sounds good but that is a personality dating site. Depends on what type of people you want to date too. My brother uses adultfriendfinder.com. it has pictures and i think a chat room and webcam on there. but i think yahoo is pretty good. match.com. well there are some few.
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I have had a few experiences with the lifestyle called swinging. It worked well for us because we trusted and was committed to each other fully.\n\nFirst of all you and your girlfriend should be commited to each other fully. You should not be very jealous of each other. You should have a very stong trust with each other not just mere talk but a strong relationship with lots of trust and understandings.\n\nIf I were you I would attend a swing party to see what go on. I would make a pledge with my girfriend that this was just to go and see what goes on at a swing party. You should not take part in any of the activities, just observe the activities going on. While there you might try and talk with a couple about your age about thier likes and dislikes. Remember you are only there to observe and not participate. This is very important for you at this time.\n \nOnce you have done that, then when you are back at home discuss what you saw, what you liked, didn't like, what you would never do, things you saw that you are comfortable doing and things you saw you are not comfortable doing.\n\nYou might want try attending another party with the idea of observing again to make sure that you are sure about what you are getting into. Again remember why you are there only to observe and maybe ask a few questions, keep your objective in mind, don't just jump into something. You will have plenty of time for participation after you and your girlfriend have fully discussed the pros and cons of what you have observed. \n\nIf there is hesitation on either of your parts this life style might not be for you. One should not try and convience the other to try it it there are questions, that will only cause problems in your relationship. \n\nTake your time, be considerate of each others views, and don't be pushed into making decision unless both of you agree and are willing to go it. There might be some ground rules you might want to lay down with each other before your first experience, such as no oral on either of your parts. No kissing others while having sex. You have to decide which are for you and what will work for you. It might be that you must have sex in the same room and never apart from each other.\n\nIf you decide to attempt this life style, just remember that you will be sharing your girlfriend with other men. She and you will be having sex with others. It is normally hard for men because they normally find it hard to watch other men with their woman. Also remember men are not the only ones that have sexual fantasies, women have them to so when you decide to open up this avenue remember that she is gonna want to satisfy her fantsies also, not just stand by and watch you satisfy all yours and she is still trying to have another male along with you to have her threesome.
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I am a woman, but my mother gave me the BEST advice I ever heard.  She said, "If you want your marriage to FAIL, then go in the chat rooms!"  My husband and I vowed to never chat online with someone of the opposite sex.  Actually, we do NOT take our problems to the opposite sex at all.  That is how most affairs begin.  I am old fashioned, I suppose, but I think that married people need married couples for friends.  Anything else could be a little dangerous.  I know others will say it all boils down to trust, but even the most trusting person can be seduced.
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Marc C spot on - I have tried it - met this nice guy spent time together - lots of it still do! he sends of body language that every-one picks up - he's met my kids and guess what he still chats on Personals. Don't get taken in you will get hurt!!!\nYou guys out there please explain why you do that!! why you give of false vibes!!!
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A very BIG YES it doe's work. I found my soon to be wife thru match.com. But before that I had alot of dates and fun before I found her.  So do it, it works.
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it depends on what your chatting about.it could be dangerous, you just have to chat the right conversations and never try and hook up with that person, that could be dangerous!!
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What do you mean "date"? Just make sure you are both on the same page.Are you marraige minded or playing?Age difference is okay.There are other things to think about here.
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After 14 years of marrage I would hope you would know your wife better than some guy on Yahoo! \nbut, with all the chatting on line that may no longer be the case.
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My wife and I have an exceptionally happy marriage. We've been together for 15 years, and still love every moment we spend together.\n\nMy wife is bi-sexual, and I am straight, and for years she had fantasies about inviting other women, and other men and other couples into our bed, as did I.\n\nAt some point it became a part of our pillow talk, we talked to each other about our fantasies, and engaged in sharing fantasies as part of our lovemaking.\n\nAfter a few years of that we decided to invite a friend into our bed.\n\nIt was a disaster! We hadn't done any research at all on how to be successful, and foolishly thought all we had to do was enjoy ourselves.\n\nA few more years went by and we continued to share fantasies, and again the subject came up - needless to say we were more cautious this time, we actually found some swingers discussion boards, and became participants - asking questions, and learning how successful swingers did it.\n\nWe joined a couple of swingers match making sites and started to understand what we were looking for and how it matched with what others were looking for.\n\nWe found a great magazine about swinging (I'll put a link in the sources section), and read it cover to cover.\n\nWe looked online and found a swingers club in our area and decided to visit the club.\n\nWe went to the club and get so excited that we couldn't wait and ended up having semi-public sex with each other (which was one of her fantasies - she is very exhibitionistic).\n\nThen we went home and again had fantastic sex.\n\nWe went again the next weekend, and found a couple that looked fairly unthreatening and asked if we could sit down - they were very helpful in explaining all of the etiquette of the swingers lifestyle, and what the expectations were, so we sat with them all night and basically had them do a brain dump of everything they had learned in 25 years of being swingers.\n\nOne of the things we kept hearing was that we needed to set rules - which explained the disaster we experienced in our first attempt - no rules! We didn't know what was expected, there were guilt feelings and jealousy, and recriminations.\n\nWe sat down and developed a set of rules designed so that we would both know whet was okay, what made each of us uncomfortable, what was strictly off-limits, etc.\n\nWe discovered that getting ready to go to the club was so exciting that we almost didn't even need to go, the anticipation, the time we spent naked while bathing, grooming and getting ready, the conversations we had with each other while getting ready, watching her get her sexiest outfits on, and try things on for me, excited both of us so much we almost always had to make love before we even went to the club!\n\nAs we got more comfortable and confident (because of all the open conversation) our sex lives again improved, we couldn;t keep our hands off of each other, riding in the car became really hot, getting ready for work in the morning became really hot, getting ready for bed, going out to dinner, all of our daily activities became huge turn-ons because we were so hot for each other.\n\nWe would spend time talking about things we wanted to try, and watching attractive women walk past would cause secret smiles to cross our faces because we would both be wondering if that sexy soccer mom was really a closet, back scratching, climb-the-headboard s lut!\n\nOne night at the club, after months of playing with just one another, we met a married woman who followed us back to a room and joined us.\n\nIt was incredible! We both felt completely confident in our marriage and in our rules, and fulfilled a couple of our fantasies right then!\n\nWe met her and her husband for dinner a couple of nights later and immediately hit it off - the hardest part of swinging is finding a group of people that all like and respect each other, and find each other attractive!\n\nWe started having foursomes - extremely erotic and enjoyable, and became
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That's my story and I'm sticking to it.  Met my fiance on line almost 3 years ago.  Neither of us were looking for any type of relationship but we soon discovered that we had much in common and that we were very compatible.  If we had met say 20 years ago things obviously would have been different but the time was right and I am grateful each and every day for finding this woman to share my life with.  Trust your gut instincts and they will not lead you astray.
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Yes, I know you can.  My girlfriend met a guy on yahoo chat several years ago.  She has a handicapped son and he had 5 kids.  I was very skeptical...thought it would never work.  They got married and he has been her knight in shining Armour!
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i don't think it will ever work unless you meet and actually hit it off in real life. Some people are different when you talk to them on the net and when you talk to them in real life.