dose my husben want the samething out of life as i do?
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Dear Legggsss2002,\nThere is no one on this earth more qualified to answer that question than YOU....By his every action,comment and gesture he answers that question every day....all I can say is open your eyes and open your mind and the answer to that question will come to you. I sincerely hope you like what you find.\nAlso, thank you for your encouraging remarks about my poem,"Once".
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Sounds like you are having typical thoughts for somebody your age where you realize that you are not going to live forever and wonder if you have wasted your life. You see that the time you have left is getting shorter and there is so much you would still like to do.\n\nSometimes when we get older, we have to realize that it is probably too late to do anything earth shattering or to undo the things we regret. Still you are young enough to put your energies into helping those around you and shining where you are.
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So, here's the thing.  I don't know you, and an answer here will probably not help solve your problems.  I'll give you my answer to your question, but then you have to go and find someone to talk to about all of this.\n\nWhat it sounds like you're asking is "WTF did I do to deserve all of these gifts, when so many people around me suffer?"\n\nI believe (and this is my answer...you need to find your own), that we were all created by God to live with God and with each other.  One of the miraculous things about God is that He created us, and instead of micromanaging our lives however he wanted to, He gave us free will.  He placed a little piece of himself within each of us, and that part of us longs to be with Him.\n\nThe short answer to your question is that you didn't do anything to deserve such a great life.  And you did everything.  From the time you were born, God wanted only the best for you, just as He wants only the best for me, and for every other person on this planet.  He gave each of us the opportunity to make our own decisions.  \n\nYou talk a lot about your own attitude, and that is something that you can change.  You can choose to be happy and excited about the new opportunities that await you in your new location.  You can also be sad about the friends and things that you are leaving.\n\nI can't answer why bad things happen to good people...I'm still trying to figure that one out myself.\n\nSeeing as you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality forum, I think that you're seeking something outside yourself, something bigger.  I would encourage you to find a church in your area and to have a conversation with the ministers there...I think that it might help you.
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Sounds reasonable to me. I'd give it a year, and if you see one instance of him going back to his old ways, get rid of him. Don't live in misery just because you "love" him. You can find love/happiness without misery.
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They *always* want it, but it's not the *only* thing they want.\n\nBut, in many cases it may be the only thing some of them want from you, so that's what you need to separate out, and spend your time with the ones who want more from you.
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what I want them to possess and what they do possess are two entirely differnet things.  I can not force by wishes on them.  They are people in their own right with views that may be different than mine.  Just have to accept them the way they are and love them anyway.
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find another place to live hun
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Sure if you want to be miserable for the rest of your life.  Once a looser, always a looser.  Fine a decent guy, there are lots of them out there.
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No. I don't expect everyone to be like me! That would be very disastrous and boring! Imagine to be in a room where conversation would be the same, gestures, jokes, puns, etc will be the same. That would be very boring!\n\nTo wish everyone to be like ourselves is nihilistic, fatalistic, if not dictatorial.\n\nAll men are created equal: the same functional parts, the same amount of time, etc.  However, we must always respect individual rights and privacy.  And besides individual differences makes this world a more challenging and better place to live in.\n\nSo cheer up.  don't take it againts yourself or other people. Just take life easily with a few strides at a time.  Remember true contentment or true happiness is experienced only when you make someone truly contented and happy; thereby you reap the greatest of rewards - being happy by making somebody happy.
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I think it is totally unacceptable but at the same time I'm not in your situation.  At the end of the day you are still going to be your own person and make your own decisions.  If you do decide to carry it out then I wish you the best of luck and I really hope it doesn't blow up in your face.\n\nGood luck!!!
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resolve within yourself the need to be possessed - easier said than done...but possible. Can you accept that someone can love you for who you are. remember the world is something of a mirror of our own beliefs. (not completely) but be thankful this person is in your life - you picked them at some level...consciously or unconsciously. remember true freedom does not depend on how someone else behaves. If you make the change within youself the outer world will 'adjust'. guaranteed. This person will either adapt or the sitation will change to reflect your next lesson:-)
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sounds like a normal person to me. things get better however it may take some time. and if you want your life to get better then you have to change your outlook and attitude towards life
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Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!
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Guess what pal, itz not a bad thing as long as you don't control him or not allow him to-be-himself. You could learn a thing or two from him, and please don't be suspicious. Envy is okay, if it is productive, so if you end up bettering yourself thanx to this envy, you are fine. Otherwise, you are better off away from him. Let him be!
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No, you shouldn't have to except it if you are unhappy in a relationship. I believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason, But we also have free will! Get out of the unhapppy relationship and see where that takes you. Live life to the full!
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You are one of the few people who actually understand the true nature of a Hedonistic Philosophy.  Yes, following God's will is the greatest joy, so to a true Hedonist, that would be the ultimate life style.  God Bless.
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Hey I've been in that situation.  Sounds to me like the guy has a very big control issue.  He doesn't want you to have a life other than the kids and him.  I am telling you from personal experience.  It doesn't get any better.  The question is, are you willing to have no life at all, or are you ready to spread your wings and fly.  You are not doing anything wrong, so either he is doing something wrong to put the thoughts in his head that you are doing something wrong, or he wants complete control and when you go out, he is losing the control.  You need to be very careful in this situation, because it can and probably will turn violent.  Protect yourself and your children.  Right now, it is only verbal and mental abuse, but it will turn into physical abuse with not much provoking.