I just foud out that a good friend of mine is pg again and she wants me to take the baby, what should I do?
151788
You need to tell her that she's the one that opened her legs so she needs to take the responsibility.  She's just trying to get you take over because she thinks she has better things to do.  Well, you shouldn't have to deal with someone else's mistake.
940091
You're sweet to want to help your friend.\n\nMaybe the two of you could make an exercise routine together. For example, three days a week the two of you could go on a walk for an hour.  She can bring the baby in a stroller.  You can enjoy chatting with your friend and being active together!
681089
i think you need to ask her about adopt one child...hope she comes back to you,good luck.
976356
That my  friend could be a veryyyy tricky -situation to step into . # 1.) You two have been friends since highschool ( however long that was). And if the "chemistry" just wasn't there between you two then  to share a relationship... what  makes you think that now (& two kids later )  would be anymore of an opportune or better time for yous to get together ?   #2.) Do either  of you really want to take the chance of ruining an obviously good & workable friendship for the sake  of wanting to be more "intimately" involved ??  And perhaps even more importantly ; you are both involved in a relationship already . Whether either  of you are un-happy in ur current relationship or not... still i would suggest that you both first try addressing your matters at home & within ur present relationships before even considering getting together . No need for either of yous to bring "bad" luggage with you over into the next relationship.  \nAnd , even more important for yourself my friend; if you are really not  ready to "fill in the Shoes" of the actual father of that woman's children.... then do stop fooling yourself into thinking that you two will ever really be happy with each other as well. \nBut, in any event  I do  wish all parties involved the very best .
174995
Do you really want a man that will turn his back on his unborn child, let alone a man that supposedly is in a relationship with you that goes out getting his so called close friends pregnant. Wake up Sister...dump the creep. You deserve better.
87289
to her, you are still her baby, and she only wants what is best.trust me, i have been there.sometimes, though, they are right.they see things about us and the people we are with, that we dont see.take her advice to heart, but make your own decisions.kindly let her know that you appreciate her love for you, but that you have to make yourself happy, and make your own mistakes.
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baby girl, those are harsh words to say. i'm sure you wish to take it back and have a do-over. but you're right. any friends of mine that treat me like dirt; i would simply ignore that person. it's for the best baby girl. just deal with the sorrow for a while. it will pass.
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Hey who said all women were nice?\n\nOnly way to find out if the baby is yours is a paternity test and you will have to endure 9months of more psycho behaviour before you really know the answer to that!\n\nI totally advocate family units but I don't agree that someone should stay just because of a child - why must a child suffer an unhappy environment with bitter resentment? If you guys can't make it work then get up and go - if the baby is yours don't forget about it!\n\nThat said - how do you feel about her? Do you still love her - do you want to make it work? Are you ready for a baby? What will you do if it's not yours! Those are all the questions that you have ask yourself and only you have the answers to that!\n\nYou said you were moving overseas and not taking her with you - that's the route of your problem! Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and she is using not only the baby but your emotion against you!\n\nTough call........Good luck!\n\nXx
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dear sunshine,\nI am a 31 year old married man with two boys, i left my wife almost two years ago, cuz of cheating, i was about to forgive her and take her back, but i found out she is pregnant.\n\ni still have not decided if i even want to take her back and adopt out her baby, she wants me back, i dont know.\n\nbut one thing i will tell you sunshine,\ni know i loved her, truely\nfor she had the capacity to make me the happiest man in the world,\nand yet at the same time;\nshe could hurt me more than i ever knew i could be hurt.\ni believe that this is what true love is, and that it is unconditional- no conditions, such as; i will love you if you do this, or not if you don't.\n\ni will always love my wife, and have already forgiven her.\nbut that does not mean i want to be with her....\n\nyou should ask yourself this,\nif your man got pregnant from someone else, (God forbid, :) ) - would you take him back??\n\nn e way,\ngood luck.
561392
stick by her. What was she doing having a baby at 14, anyway? Be kind, and caring. listen to her, even if what she tells you has been said again and again.
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forget aboutit... forget maria.. \n\nyou can wait . til your friend & maria ia over
665120
You might want to ask a friend to intervene and let the person you want to go with that she was not a backup but somebody you thought you could have fun with. Good luck.
92085
She proved to you that she did not love you when you were away. Your best friend also proved that he could not be trusted. You know once you take her back and if you move in together that you are also responsible for the raising of the child. In my opinion you would be better off to find someone else for you. She has already screwed around on you once and by being with her you will feel that evry day when seeing their baby.
585528
i would but not for too long, i wouldn't want to get stuck with the kid to take care of. also why is she prego with out the man by her side... sounds kind of fishy, but everyone has their reason.
395071
do it! youll loose her if you dont.although if shes taken, sorry.
144535
You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.
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Tell her you'll be patient and want to work things through with her. Show her how much you love her and the baby but be firm in awhile and say you need her to pay attention to you not worry about him.... If she can't get over him than you better move on cause all you'll be is second best.