Im 33 years old ...dont have anything.no dgree!no husband!no job.no friends.got money.!liven flat alone.what??
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stop spending your foodstamps on lottery tickets - and GET A JOB
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The only person that can help you out of this situation is you. You have a mind set that everyone is leaving you behind and is going on with there own lives getting married gettin wraped up in there jobs. You should find what makes you happy and try not concentrating on what the people around you are doing. Be your own person.. and try to find the little things that make you happy. It also sounds like you might be a litte depressed... talk to some one if you can to help you release what your feeling inside.
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i'm 22 and single, and i know I feel like i am missing something, but I really want to get to a place in my life where it doesnt matter if I have someone or not...where I can just be content as I am!
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Get into a younger mentality! Have fun. Get together with some of your friends for a girls night out and laugh it up! If you lived around me, I'd go have coffee with you or watch a funny movie. I'm a fun person and tend to get everyone having a good time. Heck, just getting out of the darn house makes me happy! Lol!!!! Good luck hon! I hope you feel better soon! :)\n\nI edited to ask....are you married or have a stupid cranky man dragging you down?
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Dont worry - you could be thirty and living by yourself and they will still treat you like you are 12. Thats something parents do :)\nDont worry - move out when you can and move on. Love and respect your parents but sooner or later, you need to take responsibility for your life
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Wow!  That is quite a burden for a young man just starting out.  I live in the US.  Here and in most western societies it is common for women to work to help support the family.  I've been married for 28 years and did not work only when my children were very small.  Once they went to school I went to work.  How else can a family have a decent home and vehicles?  I'm sorry that your girl's family rejected you - maybe it wasn't meant to be?  Once you graduate and are in a better position financially try again.  Hopefully your girl will still be unattached and available if not then you know she wasn't meant for you and your real mate is out there waiting for you to find her.  I wish you good luck.
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Hi - seems you hit the lonely spot - you are looking at it the wrong way. You already have a life partner - you. Now for companion that's another story.\nLearn to enjoy yourself by yourself - once you are comfortable with yourself - you'll emit attractiveness and someone is out there looking for you!
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Stay busy. Keep moving. Treat yourself to a pedicure. Just don't stop moving or your situation will consume you.\nFind ONE great friend and you will NEVER be alone. If depression is a factor, I suggest you seek counseling that would fit your personal beliefs. I have suffered from depression my whole life which makes you afraid of being alone and scared all the time. Counseling was the best step I ever took, but you have to implement what you learn into your life.
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If you don't have a job go and get one, its as good a way as any to meet new people.\nPeople get depressed for many reasons, there's no point in killing yourself, unless you know for sure what happens after death.\nYou could try something extreme, go away on your own, maybe travelling or aid work, this will force you to meet other people and held get a purpose in your life.\nIf you feel like killing yourself, then you have nothing to lose by trying apsolutely anything you've never had the courage to do. Whats the worse that could happen?\nAlternatively try religion, its seems to work for many people.
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a few things - I live alone - had a partner for close to 27 years - he passed away.\n\nMy job - I know I will go home to sleep in order to go to work the next day - my job is ok - but I have 14 more years to go and I am anxious to retire - but I try to think how each day brings me one day closer - sometimes it works, but other times it doesn't.\n\nI simply have to be patient.
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Do you feel like there is something missing in your life? Odd to answer a question with a question, but think about it. Yes you have friends and family around you that care for and love you. But is there that ONE person, or even just some one a little extra special? You could also just b going through a really tough time right now. And I know that nothing can suck more than having a bad day and coming home to an empty house(and cats don't count as some one to come home to.) If you want to stop feeling alone then don't be alone. Surround yourself with fun and up lifting people. Do a girls night, don't eat alone and don't keep to yourself. You're feeling down, so tell those people who care and I promise they will help. Who know you better than the people that you love and care for? So it's those people who could probably offer the most help and support in a down time for you. We all have those times when we're feeling down, so you're never alone when it comes to feeling down.
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Living in a fantasy world is not the answer.\nyou got to much free time on your hands.\nBecome a volunteer at a nursing home and help someone.\nThrow out your TV
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what an option.\n\nI guess your wealth is independent on whether you are married or not.\n\nIf you stay single, you can date and have "fun" with alot of people. Some might be deep and good relationships, others may be superficial and wacko. You might have a baby or two - who knows, and you'll be dependent on your surroundings; family or friends to babysit if you want to keep up your happy life.\n\nIf you marry, (for love that is) you can work on a relationship. You can deepen your feelings for each other and this will maybe make you more happy on a long term - who knows. If you have babies, it or they will be borned in a family and this makes a more secure structure if one of parents for instance die or ... something.
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This is a very long answer! I am sorry, but I had to write this! Bear with me....\n\nAs a woman who is 50 and who went through her own mid life crisis (and divorce and self reinvention) over the last ten years and  who felt very much as you do now, I would like to share some things that helped me to get out of negative self talk. I have learned how to view mid life as a wonderful time of growth, which got me out of a bad mind set.\n\nHon, the first mistake you are making is defining yourself and your personal value on whether or not you have a boyfriend or husband. You are not unique in this mindset. I did the same thing, but no one defines us or determines our self worth and value, EXCEPT ourselves. Thinking that a man will define your self worth and your placement in this world will only serve to make you depressed and feel as alone as you do now. The only person who defines you and your self worth is YOU. No one else can do this. Instead of thinking that someone else is responsible for definining you, LOOK WITHIN. You are a unique individual, with your own skills, gifts, ideas, mind and thoughts that make you who you are. If you only seek out men to define and complete you, you will feel alone, as you do now. You feel alone and empty because you are not looking within yourself to find the things that you possess to bring you self nurturance and self love - to define the woman you are now.\n\nMost women define and value themselves as complete when they have a boyfriend or husband because we are socialized by our families and the media to believe this is the case. We are taught that to be of value we must achieve the ultimate goal in life: to get married, have a family, own a house, and so forth. Those of us who decide to have a career, in addition to marriage, are taught that having "it all" makes us more worthy. If we choose not to marry or have kids, then something is wrong with us (although this is changing, thank god). If we wind up getting divorced, we are viewed as being failures and that because our marriages failed, we are not capable of having a relationship or worse, something is wrong with us. Married friends may shun us (or not), family members query us about whether or not we are dating, or if we will ever remarry, and as a consequence, we feel anxious and apart from society. We feel as if we are outsiders looking in. When we believe this, we feel lost.\n\nDivorce is hard, especially when you are in your mid forties and going through perimenopause. That adds to the confusion and the negative feelings we have. With hormones rising and falling, we feel different and are different in many ways. It is a time, generally - and without divorce - of questioning and assessing our lives, what we have accomplished or didn't, what we want to do in the future, and what changes we want to make. We fear aging and growing older, and dying too young or too soon. We fear the changes our bodies are going through. Our looks change somewhat and we feel old, ugly, less attractive. Even though this is a scary  and a weird time in our lives, we needn't feel this way. Experience and wisdom comes with age, and even if our bodies are not as firm as they once were, and even if we gain a bit of weight or have tons of gray hair, we are still beautiful. I feel better and more beautiful NOW than I did in my twenties and thirties! I may not be as thin as I was, but that is okay - I accept and honor the woman I am now. I receive the beauty I possess now with welcome arms and more confidence than I ever had before. Why? I accept the woman I am today. It gets better, really and you CAN GET THROUGH IT.  \n\nSome suggestions: One of the best things I ever did when I got divorced was to go to therapy with a psychologist who specialized in divorce. She also held a weekly group session (for an hour an a half) with her other female clients (6 or 7 of us) and we worked together on finding our paths AND releasing our hurt, and anger towa
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I want to move in but I don't have enough money............. I want my own place and I haven't a job yet. That's all!!!
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Utilize the places that you could meet other single parents such as school functions, parent groups etc. Also they have community fuctions in most towns that are for singles to get together to meet.  Read you local personal ads in the paper as well.  I wouldnt be so tough on yourself.  Just because you dont know where to start or to look does not make you a loser and you should definately not give up...everyone deserves happiness and there is someone terrific out there for you...keep searching!!! Good luck to you.
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you're miserable, its quite hard to advise you without knowing what is making you so unhappy; if youre lonely then i would advise to try to get out there and mix with others because there are so many lonely people all wishing they had more in life, how about pen friends or chat rooms? anyway i hope things improve for you soon.