what to do when my man breaks up with me cause i won't have sex with him?
150531
Find someone better. Relationships can't be based on sex and sex alone. Find someone who will respect you and your wishes.
531985
I was in a your exact position, and my advice to you is say bye to him.  I am also a very sexual person, and when my ex and I had very low amount of (like once ever couple of months) sex I tried to talk to him about it, he would ignore me as well.  So I tried to work it out regardless, and after three loooong years, it just had to end.  If you two do not have a satisfying sex life, it becomes a major issue.  It's not a matter of how many times  you have sex month, it weather or not you are both happy with it.  It sounds like you are not happy with the situation, just like I wasn't, and my self esteem went down year by year.  I felt like it was my fault that he didn't want sex, and it hurt.  In retrospect, I realize it was not my fault.  We just didn't click sexually, and even though we cared about each other, it wasn't enough to hold together a relationship.\n\nSo in brief, my answer to your question is, sex is not important as long as it is present in the relationship.  If it is absent, it becomes a major issue. If you have already tired to talk to him about it, and you feel like he is ignoring you, walk away.  You need to be with someone who understands  your needs and tries their best to fulfill them.
314268
From my expericence, I have learned that trying to show a man all of my great qualitites in order to make him appreciate me and want a more serious relationship has NEVER worked.  It only made me seem desperate.  Desperation has never made any person want to be with another person.  Even though you may feel that you can't let go of the person, it would be better to do so.  He has made it beyond clear to you that he isn't interested in having anything more than a sexual relationship with you.  In other words, you're good enough to have sex with but NOT good enough to have a meaningful relationship with.  That is horrible for your self esteem and self worth.  You deserve better and more.  Just because he asks about your activities doesn't mean that he cares about you.  He tells you flat out that he doesn't.  It may be difficult but you should consider stopping the sexual relationship with him.  He doesn't love you or care about you.  If he did, he'd want to have more than sex with you.  I hope that you realize that you deserve more than a quickie when he's bored.
680301
Leave him. All he cares about is sex. He's not worth it.
1097437
maybe he's not in love with you, if you are going further apart each day, love suppose to draw you closer not apart, just tell him how you feel and if he doesn't show no difference then just leave him, it's sad to be in love all by yourself. sex is not a way to keep a relationship going if that's what your thinking, if he can't love you just how you are then you don't need him, then again he just might be getting bored with the relationship sometimes we fall in love with people who were just not ment to be with us
261642
If you have to question having sex with him, then you shouldn't have sex with him.  If you want a meaningful relationship with him, it would be in your best interest to wait.
854410
Tell him you found out about his bet. Demand an explanation. He told you he loved you because he wanted to sleep with you. You don't have to "jump to conclusions"- the truth is right in front of your eyes. He wants to get in your pants- plain and simple. Tell him either he respects you and stops worrying about having sex or the relationship is over.
221504
Definately stop sleeping with him if there is no future. You can be cordial at work, but don't speak to him outside of work, it'll be hard but worth it in the long run. Guys will never cut it off so you have to be the strong one. Just tell him its hard for you not to have feelings for him when you sleep together. \n\nOnly you will know when its right to date again. Don't go out looking for someone to "get over him" with, it won't work out. It'll be months before you're over him, you were with him for a long time.
166174
He is pressuring you. If he loves you, he will wait. Also, if he says that you need to, then you need to leave him. In addition, you may need to "take the wind out of his sails." If he calls you a wimp, baby, or other degrading things (i can't mention) then you can possibly say "maybe I am a [insert word here], but I am not going to have sex.\n\nI know it sounds corny, but remember - No means No!
247691
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
414193
If your boyfriend is used to having sex with you, and you stop giving him sex, he will probably leave.  Maybe you should try asking him out on dates since he isn't doing it, or just breakup since you don't seem very happy.  Maybe the 3rd time will be the charm.  (It took me 5 tries to find the right one)
628197
your heart sounds like it knows something isn't right. you have time in with this guy so you have to part in steps. first stop having sex(it is possible) tell him you are not feeling good in the relationship and you need space. stop initiating contact. see what he does. he should work hard to prove to you he loves you and wants this to work. if he doesn't start trying harder then tell him you need some real time apart. don't date new people get to know yourself better. only no sex and time will really help you see clearly what's going on
955535
if your worried about what other people are going to think then break up with him.  but just remember other people aren't going to be the ones to keep you warm at night.  if you decide to be together, then use PROTECTION!!!(condoms, in combination with the pill or some other types of birth control)  or abstain till both of you want to bring a child into this world.
240683
I'm really sorry but you probably should not have had sex with him - and if its going nowhere now it probably means he was just into the sex.  Take is as a lesson learned and move on!
759758
Well... tell you what, if the gf's are not a good sub, then go out to a toy store and get a best friend, there are alot of toys that will do the trick if you miss him sexually.   If you are just missing his company then consider getting a puppy.  They really work!  I am a single mom of two and my puppy takes my mind off things, feeling lonely and so on.\n\n If your hubby is working hard to provide you and your future family with a comfortable life, be grateful!   He is not spending his time out there having an affair or partying with  his buddies and getting drunk and mistreating you.  He needs for you to be supportive.  I know it is hard sometimes, in some situations not to be selfish, we all want to be 100% happy but usually this spells out sacrifice.  Enjoy this "free time" on your own, once you start having children trust me...your whole world is going to be turned around in a 360.  Get a toy!  Get a dog!  Good luck in your marriage.  :)
1116539
Sounds like you feel he doesn't love you and just using you for sex.  You may have that feeling because he is.  If you feel that way you can't be enjoying your time with him , so do something that you can get into with him. Just spend some time together going out to diner or movies you may need some quality time together and rekindle your relationship.
1132397
Hey boy wonder , You're so cute I am sure you won't be lonely too long . I wish you would think of me ! I am sorry just teasing you . I know it is hard for you right now , But you have to remember that you broke up with him for a reason . Keep your chin up and remember that you are a special and unique individual , You have much to offer and a lot to give the right guy who will appreciate and love you for all you are , and all that you have to offer . Call friends and go out to dinner , see a movie , start a project , or take up a hobby  , volunteer someplace that needs your special talents . The truth of the matter is , No matter what advice anyone has for you it will be hard and you ultimately have to work it out on your own . Just make sure you have a good friends shoulder to cry on or ear to bend when you need it . Best of luck to you .