how do you tell someone that you're lying to them when you don't want them to get hurt?
146394
If you have to ask then you shouldn't be lying.When the time comes when you know the answer,you'll know it's the right thing to do.
181560
You shouldn't. That person could really feel strongly about you, and you're using their feelings to get to someone else.\n\nYou should stop befor someone gets hurt. Pleas,e just break up with them, but give the honest answer WHY. A liar is less appriciated than a truth with bad consequences, trust me.\n\nGood luck. ^_^
1064288
I do not think it is necessary to lie to him.  Just tell him you need to go.  I am sure he will understand.
718049
if the guy ur with is very close to you and you know he is quite concerned about pleasing you (and he wouldn't find out) i guess it's ok.\n\ncoz guys can actually get hurt if they don't please you, (i'm talking about guys who are really in love with their girls.)\n\nbut if you lie and he finds out, it will be all the more hurtful for him. \n\nso you gotta use your discretion!!
478654
Make him feel comfortable, because if he isn't, he won't admit anything.  Tell him it's okay to share his feelings, and that you're there for him.  Be sure to tell him that you just want to help, and you're not asking to poke fun at him.
968259
here's something my grandfather told me to do when i was little about lying. \nEach time I lie I have to pinch myself or have a friend pinch me.
150695
There are often cues and signs that someone may be lying. There may also be understandable reasons for the lie.\n \n1.  Look for body language that might indicate someone is lying, such as not looking you in the eye when speaking to you, being fidgety, or acting nervous or uncomfortable.\n \n2.  Listen for inconsistencies in what the person tells you, such as different stories on different days, different time frames, mistakes in remembering details or mixing up details.\n \n3.  Notice if the person steadfastly resists answering any questions. Extreme defensiveness could mean that he or she is trying to hide something.\n \n4.  Notice if the person accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you really haven't been. This could reflect the other person's own underlying behavior, which he or she is projecting onto you rather than owning up to it.\n \n5.  Listen to your gut and intuition. You may just know someone is lying. If you are not sure, don't jump to conclusions. Try to get some evidence to back up your hunch.\n \n6.  Consider asking directly if the person has lied to you. Many people feel bad getting caught up in lies, and find it a relief to finally be honest.\n \n7.  Try to be understanding and listen to the person's reasons for lying. Was he trying not to hurt you? Was she afraid you would be angry, upset or disappointed?\n \n8.  Look at your possible role in having someone lie to you. Are you someone who gets so upset hearing the truth that others feel they can't be honest with you?
93315
It is best to tell the truth.  Not telling the truth can lead to a cascade of lies as you try to cover up your tracks.  While there may be a punishment in the short term, in the long run, you will have a lot more trust and leeway than if someone found out that what you said before was a lie.  They will be left wondering about everything you said and you will be unable to convince them even if you are telling the truth.
32717
It depends on if it was to protect you, or to hurt you.  Friends shouldn't lie to each other, but people do make mistakes.  Mistakes can be forgiven.  Use your own judgement, and go with your gut feelings.  Good Luck.
1135480
by not telling him your hurting him more. the day will come where you will crush him better to snatch the bandaid off rather then slowly peel it away. be open and honest and show respect but do it soon.
685659
Why start you relationship off lying...
153939
You know everyone lies to someone but your right are we just lieing to keep them from getting hurt or so they just won't get hurt by you only someone else?Any way someone always gets hurt in the end.
632181
He thinks he can avoid the fighting if he lies to you. What you need to do is let him know that it acctually makes it worse when he lies and you find out later. Tell him that if he tells the truth right off the bat, then you will try not to get so upset with him. If you give him alittle bit more patience and calm, he'll be more willing to tell the truth. He's just afraid of arguing.
319520
Be honest. You shouldn't pretend to feel something that you don't. Even though you know that it will hurt him, it is better that he knows how things really stand. Maybe you will never love him, then he will feel hurt AND betrayed that you lied to him too. Do you really want to hurt him that way? Plus if you lie to him, how can you be true to yourself. It is so unsatisfying to live a lie. Good luck
337740
Confront him about it,put him on the spot and let him know he has explaining to do! Dont be afraid to confront him,he need's to feel like an idiot for being so dishonest with  you and need's to know how that makes you feel. IF he doesnt stop this,then you need to move on,because that's never a good sign,and is never going to make it into a long term relationship. People lie for a reason,and obviously it isnt a GOOD one. lier's continue to lie because people let them get away with it,afraid to put them on the spot,afraid to embarrasse them,ect,forget that,embarrasse the crap out of him,it might teach him if he know's he cant get away with it,but make sure you know why he lied to you,that should tell you alot,and please,dont let him tell you a lie about his lie,and dont let him make you feel guilty about it either,liers will try and make you feel guilty about their lie,such as "I thought if you knew you would hate me and not want me anymore" or "I didnt want you to know,because that's not who I am anymore,you have changed me"blah,blah,blah
55142
Just be honest with them.  Don't beat around the bush and try to stall.  Just tell them out right.  He/she might be caught off guard or shocked, but you will feel so much better in the long run.
819302
The best way to go is to tell them the truth, if they find out that you were lying you will end up in more trouble. Tell them the truth, if they refuse to repair it offer to pay or get it repaired elsewhere.