how can u love someone who is  obsessional about u?
150870
that sort of behavior always leads to trouble, you get annoyed and they have their expectations ruined and get mad, or they expect you to be with them 25 hours/day 8 days/week
586193
you cant.  You cant help who you fall in love with.  You can try to stop liking them but you can never stop loving them
945590
I think you are obsessing about this girl.  It's not uncommon, we all did that...I know I did, boy after boy after boy when I was young!  The reason you can't sleep is you can't find an outlet for your feelings.  The only way to get rid of your restlessness and obsession is to let your feelings out or to act on them.  You know I bet if you were to talk to an adult about this...to a school counsellor, someone you trust to hold your confidence in this matter, they could help you.  Someone who knows you both could actually even pull you together, at least close enough so that you would TALK to this poor girl who is likely clueless to your feelings towards her.  \n\nWhat do you mean it's "a crush on her personality".  That sounds like you really admire her and have a great deal of respect for her, that she has qualities that you either like in a girl or would want for yourself.  Sometimes we obsess with people because we want to be like them.\n\nYou should try to get involved with her somehow, in conversation, in class, in a sport or event.  If all else fails you could write her a letter and tell her your feelings.\n\nJust say, hey, I have to get this off my chest because I can't stop thinking about you and I am very shy, but I think you are terrific.  I don't want you to panic.  I'm not going to stalk you, but I just had to let you know that you are the epitome of a woman and you just had to let her know....something like that where you are not saying I LOVE YOU!!! or making her feel scared or threatened or self-conscious. \n\nYou know even if you write these letters and never give them to her, you will do yourself a favour.  But you can't go on the way you are obviously...so one way or another the story has to end...or begin...the point is something will change when you make a move forward, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad, but at least you won't be "stuck"...which is the worst thing in the world...I know I've been there and sooner or later you gotta take the risk.\n\nYou sound like a really nice boy.  My daughter is goign through this phase in high school and I think girls like it when guys just be themselves and make a move and do anything...like this boy threw leaves in her hair today and she's telling me about it and yesterday he told her she looked goth with her hair the way she styled it...it's little baby steps that get you there...say nice things to girls...they like that...just be yourself as you would with any of your other friends and you're already friends with her brother...so let her see what a great guy you are when you're with him.  You're already IN there...get over that shyness boy! :~)
318701
Ask her why she is obsessing about you, and to stop stalking you.  People don't like to be called "stalkers".
362455
Im thinking you are obsessed, maybe a stalker???? did he dump you and you just havent gotten over him?????
522765
Love is hard to define. \nBut it would have to be you willing to do anything for that person.\nYou would die for them.\nThey contain soo much of your heart.\nTheir on your mind 24/7\nWhen your with them you already miss them, and when their gone, you wanna be right next to him/her forever.\n&& you catch yourself smiling for know reason when your with them.\nOr when you sitting next to him/her, && he/she looks you in the eyes, and just stares into them...Thats when you know. It's real. He's/she's real.\nLove goes in deep.\nLove can also kill a person.
592800
if you are obsessed you are not in love.  Love is willing to let go and trust and do your own thing because you know that it will be there when you get back.  obsession is just plain crazy it interupts your life you don't get anything accomplished ever!
1030758
Sadly, stopping to think about him is one of the hardest things to do. There´s no way to just stop. And you´re doing it cause he´s obviously a really important person in your life and you really care about him.\nSuggestions:\n1- Go for it! ask him out.. get a friend to set you guys up... or at least hang out with him more so he can see the great person you are\n2- Find someone else that wants to be with you... unless you´re in Love with this guy you´ll forget about him\n3- Wait... a long time... i don´t suggest this that much because you´ll go pretty insane. Either you´ll end up liking him less or just getting use to the pain and the obsession. But i really suggest either trying to be with him or going for someone else
298158
You lost her, just let her go.  Don't obsess about her, because she has obviously moved on from you.  It may look romantic in the movies, but in real life obsessing can lead to her filing restraining orders to keep you away or her calling you a stalker.  \n\nI've been there, she won't take you back.  Trust me.
942384
Depends on what level they are on!  If they just dream about them all day, knows everything about them, they are infatuated.  If the send them letters, gifts and cards on holidays and other important days, or feel like they will just die if they never get that person, then i would have to say obsessed.  If they hang outside of every spot that person goes to I would have to say stalker.\n\nLiking someone never hurt anything, it is how you handle that affection that makes the difference.
1173535
My love literally and my obsession figuratively.
1165938
mitr says.... if the person is close to your heart, he/she can never drift away....\nfollow this.....\n1. be different... probably he/she is bored of the same routinely YOU....\n2. do something creative for him...\n3. do something very special for him... which only a person does when the other one is close to your heart... \n4. be a surprise to him/her... it will bind the interest...\n5. give importance to that person, more than anythign in your life and make him/her feel special......\n6. say in a very romantic way that you wann be with him/her, more often than you use to... \n7. do not bind him /her... give space... loosen the grip.... \n8. FIND OUT THE REASON WHY THE PERSON IS DRIFTING AWAY FROM YOU........ if possible, cure it......
63790
That's my problem too, usually I just try to keep busy...keep my mind occupied on anything that doesn't remind me of the person. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. What's really awesome is when you find out that the person had been having a hard time trying not to think about you as well.
208810
Don't you mean obsession?
64433
Repeat everything they say to you right back at them. Or go into sociopath mode and engage them into conversations that dovetail into downright creepiness. Ask their opinion on issues affecting your daily life.
189337
Impossible u can't 'make' another person 'love' you.  If you try...it will be a disaster at some point.  You have to just 'be' you around that person and express yourself to her.  Be completely honest with yourself too.  Sometimes we really think we want something or someone and then once we have them we lose interest.  Just do not try to manipulate a situation...let it either blossom or wither.
1094971
It's called lust.  Probably one of the things that attracts you is that you feel you can't "get him".  Remember you can't always get what you want.  Try to think of the reason why you feel obsessed with him.  He's probably not all that.  It happens to everyone at least once.  Focus your attention on someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.