My husband & I have been seperated 3 years, I still love him so what should I do??
147276
things seem to happen for a reason. it is time for you to move on. maybe you will always love him, but your relationship will never work. the two of you hurt eachother enough, start the healing process and see what happens.
1023064
You need to talk to him. The best way to do this is to go out to a quiet restaurant for dinner together one evening. Stay positive but get your point across to him about how you feel. You also need to ask him what has happened, at least in his opinion. Also, talk about the good times the two of you have had together. STAY POSITIVE! This will help both of you. This could be the start the two of you need to open up the talking again. The more the two of you can talk and stay positive, the better the chance you have of saving your marriage! I can tell that you still love and care for him, I wish you luck!
753327
You have quite a dilemma there and that actually happened to me .I was married and didn't love him anymore and didn't have the balls to tell him and looking back i wish i did . I could have saved us all alot of misery. If i could do it over I would've saved up some money and just moved out and left him. That's what you should do .Plan your next move financially and emotionally it will be easier for both of you .
485109
Oh man, my hubby and I will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary this Oct and 5 years of being together. It has taken us a long time to figure this one out. The answer sounds so simple but it can take ALLOT of self control and discipline. The key to a successful relationship is having a forgiving, unconditional love for your partner. Being able to accept blame and admit wrong doing and knowing what to do to change is a big key. When we talk "fight" we do not tell the other what we don't like about them but what we recognize they don't like about us. This way its not assigning blame and creating defensive walls but acknowledging wrong and working together to change. We are best friends, lovers, and we embrace all things together as a team. Marriage is the HARDEST thing to do in this journey we call life but I PROMISE it has the largest rewards! My husband and I got divorced last year and realized on the day of our divorce in the courtroom that we were running from our problems and making the biggest mistake of our lives. You have to go THROUGH your problems, you can not avoid them in any way. Good luck to you
1167813
My husband is 17 years older than me and had just gotten out of his 13-year marriage when we met.  He had been deeply hurt by his previous wife.  You just need to love him.  Let him know constantly how you care for him.  We have been married for 3 years, and only in the last year has he finally come to believe that I love him and am not going to hurt or leave him.  It takes time.  Just reinforce how much you love him.
1169280
I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
229046
i would say give him a little more time cuz i understand where he is coming from getting married after a divorce is scary. every relationship you have your afraid that it will turn out like the divorce. dont leave him becuz he wont marry you explain to him you wan tto be married and you'll give him say another year and if he can't marry you by then you need to go your seperate ways. if he doesn't understand or appreciate where you are coming from then it wasn't ment to be. sorry i hope i helped.
953178
I'm in 1 too...ask him if he still feels the same way...if he does he will create a time 4 u 2 to b together!!  Tell him how YOU feel
1113469
It sounds like you 2 want to be together, seperation doesnt do any good, if you dont go to the problem,and come to somekind of middle ground of ageement on the problem truthfully, you will always come back to the answer to seperate not ever solving the problem, be honest with each other no matter how each other will respond. and remember dont answer by your feelings only by your heart which is not a desire, feelings,and desire are controlled by your flesh, your heart is controlled by your will.
81301
It is going to be hard since the two of you are now apart.  Sounds like you are a little unsure about the stability of your relationship.  If you want things to slow down, tell him. Marriage is something that you take slowly to ensure the success of it. You don't want three years from now to end up in divorce... or cheating. take a deep breath and talk to him about the situation.  Maybe you will realize that the two of you are ready, or perhaps the two of you will make the mature decision to take things slowly!  6 months is not very long to be getting engaged!
727782
Stop whining...Is life good for you?  If yes, then let it go, it's only been 1 1/2 years.  I could see if you were past 3 or 5 years.  Give the man time.  You have obviously never been through divorce before.  He's gone through it twice!  Do you know what that does to a person?  Give it a rest for a little while and if it's meant to be it will be.
809905
Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
820355
Well, you should start talking to someone else too. Maybe that will help you get over him and what he is doing. The fact that you seperated because you "needed time to grow" should have told you that he was going to date other people. What did you think was going to happen? You were going to seperate and then just wait around for eachother? If that`s what you thought, you shouldn`t have seperated at all. You need to get out there and find a new man. Just let this guy go and do whatever he wants to do. If it was "meant to be" you will end up back together. In the meantime, you should go out and have your own fun and not sit around worrying and wondering what he is doing. Do your own thing and let HIM wonder about YOU.
22576
You could do something that reminds him of a time that both of you were loving each other.  If that does not work, you have to accept that people change and have to move on.
919016
I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
71084
well, i he loves you then make him work for you. you are obviously a good wife cause you still stay by his side, but that only means you deserve the best. tell him how you feel. if all gets worse then you should think about talking to God. He cares for you and your child. if you ever need more advice feel free to email me. i hope all turns out well.