How do you explain to a child that their father was killed in the war?
142285
I beleive you don't have to tell them now that he was killed in war, but just say he is now with god we won't be able to see him but he feels us and he wants us to be happy and latter when they grow older tell them the truth
901025
You will want to point out the irony that both families loved their children but by refusing to let their respective children follow their own heart they lost both children.\n\nAnd of course the irony of both so much in love with each other that they gave their lives to be with each other.\n\nAnd then a comparison to modern day couples should help with length and filler in your essay,  along with how the tragedy would've been averted if the parents would've left the children out of the feud.\n\nGood luck.\n\nPeace.
1098916
Reality hit "home".  Also, one of the stages of grief, is anger.\nAllow him to rant, without delving into politics. \nWar seems like such an abstract thing, until you find yourself having made the ultimate sacrifice of your child.\nHis feelings may change in time, and, they may not.  It's something he has to come to terms with, on his own.  And in his own time.\nJust be supportive of him in this time of need.  He may thank you someday for being a caring, "bleeding -heart liberal".  His Republican friends may be spewing the usual "gave his life for his country" type of thing...which, as a father, he may not want to be hearing right now.
628083
tell him ur 2 year old daughter died this morning.. he wont say nethin after that i promise
970715
Go ask your son these questions.\n\nI someone put an M-60 to his head and pulled the trigger, would god stop the bullets?  If he was in a helicopter and it was shot out of the sky, would god catch the falling craft and place it safely on the ground?  If a mortar round was falling down on to your son's position, would god reverse gravity and make it fly back up into the sky?\n\nI'm sure your son doesn't believe god could do any of these things, so why do you?  What brings home men from war is TRAINING, and LUCK. Any soldier will tell you... when a soldier faces the moment of truth, he can act or he can pray, and if acting will save his life, and he chooses to pray instead, then say goodbye to the soldier.
966412
Easy as 1, 2 and 3\n1.  Decide what you are going to tell them...and start by writing one sentence about...what you are going to say.\n\n2.  Tell them - start this part by stating what it is you are saying about this piece of history (or any subject).\n\n3.  Summary - start this by stating in one sentence about what you told us...about that piece of history.\n\nNow go back and write 2 more sentences for 1, 2, and 3, and do this until you have the proper number of paragraphs or pages for your report.
643665
I recently lost my father, too. He always wore a blue baseball cap, and I have the one that he was wearing up until the day he died. It still smells like him, and I keep it in a fireproof box. I imagine that if anyone were to look in that box and see an old hat, they would think I was nuts - "Of all the things of value she could have put in this box, there's a hat..." That's how much it means to me, though. All I have to do is hug that hat to my chest and close my eyes, and I'm hugging him again. Everything that he left to me - I don't care... it could all be taken away as long as I still have that hat. \n\nIt's strange what we end up finding valuable when someone we love dies. I have so many things that remind me of him. I have pictures, letters, songs, books, etc. I even have a book that was made for fathers and daughters - it has all these questions in it with space to write answers, half for the father to his daughter, and half for the daughter to her father. I treasure that almost as much as the hat. \n\nI suggest that you keep whatever you come across, and when you find the thing that means the most to you, you will know it. In the meantime, you can also make things. Get a locket with some of his hair or a picture of him. Make a scrapbook about you and him. Burn a CD of songs that remind you of him, and one for how you feel about his death. \n\nMy thoughts are with you...
714624
I don't think these people realize that the military originally told the family that he was killed by enemy fire.  And then continued to tell them that even after all of this was known.  Only recently did they tell the family the truth.
723774
got this one - my dad died when i was a kid too. tell him you noticed. hell be flattered that youre paying that much attention.  then be straight with him.  tell him you dont know how to help, but youd like to.  hell tell you what he needs.  its a big deal to have someone pay that much attention.  i was just the same.  its easier to have someone admit they dont know quite what to do then have them try to pity you or ignore it.  this is really an "its the thought that counts" situation.  good luck.  \nalso, you really rock. no one was there for me- i got shipped of to military school.  this guys lucky to have your attention.
891440
you could say:\n\n'i am sorry for your loss'.\n\n'i love you.'\n\n'if there is ever anything you need to talk to me or write to me about i will always be here to listen.'\n\n\nmaybe encourage her to write about the things she remembers fondly about her parents.... so she will have happy memories to hold on to....\nencourage her to write about her feelings and not suppress them\n\nif i lost my parents i would want to hear that somebody loved me\n\n\nGet her a book that deals with her loss,,, bibliotherapy style-\n\ntreat her the same as the others so she doesnt feel like a freak of nature\n\ndo some research----- here are some sites:
1066130
I don't know if there is really a way to tell them where they won't get mad at you.  But, they will learn in time to accept it, even if they don't agree with it.  You have to do what your heart is telling you to do.  They won't be so mad at you that they won't think about you every day, they'll still write, and await your arraival to come home.  And in the event that you don't come home alive you have the gratitude of a greatful nation.  Also, when in time your son grows up, he will come to realize that your sacrifice will undoubtably swell his shirt with pride that you thought enough of him, his momma, and this nation to fight and die (heaven forbid) for it.  Parting off to war is NEVER easy.  Never was, never will be.  If it ever gets easy or 'not-a-big-deal' then we are in trouble.  War is an ugly thing.  A thing where innocent people get hurt and killed.  It's one of the things that makes it be a thing to be avoided.  But I also don't advocate the 'no war at any cost' camp.  Thomas Jefferson said:"...those who will give up freedom for security, deserve neither."  So, go and serve your country, and make your boy and wife proud.  I was in the Navy for 4 years, and I honor ALL veterans from ALL wars, and peacetime.  Even though I'm a verteran, and can't go back in now due to diabetes, I can still 'root for the home team.'  Every job in wartime involves peril.  From the Commander of Coalition forces to the lowly mess cook.  To put yourself in harm's way on behalf of us here in the States, takes courage, selflessness, and pride.  Be proud of what you do, and someday, they will be prouder of you, weather you return home to a hero's welcome, or a hero's funeral. \n\nGood Luck, and God Bless you.\n\nI will pray for ALL our troops, wherever they are!
77247
First of all, let me say how sorry I am for your loss. As a combat Viet-Nam veteran of some twenty (20) months I know a little about the numerous questions you must have, at this most difficult time. If I may say, this is not the forum from which to seek the answers you must so desperately need. My advice to you would be to go directly to the horses mouth, so to speak. Contact the Bureau of Veteran's Affairs in your local area, you'll be on the right track then, with out getting wrong information and without shareing your grief with half the internet.    veteranpainter@yahoo.com
1091670
"I heard of your loss, and I just wanted to offer you and your family my sincerest condolences in your time of grief." \n\nThen just drop it. He may respond, he may not. But your kindness will be noted.\n\nGood luck.
1054515
Again, you are a lying sack of sh*t.\n\n1. How did you know he had two sons?\n2. How did you know one was 19 and one was 23?\n3. NO ONE would EVER say they support the war as long as other fathers' sons die.\n\nYou keep posting this crap, and I point out how you are lying.\n\nIf you were really doing what you said - and you are a proven liar - it would be considered a CRIME. I think I'll call the Mt. Clemens police and let them know about your acitivities.\n\nI live in Pontiac. Wanna come and question my decal??
241837
Before you do anything like that, I would sit down with the little guy and try to find out what he really means.  Kids that age may mean something completely different than what we take from their statements.  They just don't have a wide range of emotional vocabulary.  Anyway, see if what he really means is something more manageable for you.  Like, maybe assurance of your love for him even though a new little one is coming to steal you away from him.\n\nAnd if he really wants to communicate with his father, maybe a phone call will be enough.  Or maybe let him make a card to send to his father.  That might be enough to satisfy him so he can move on.\n\nYou can also redirect his attention to something more tangible.  Like making another book, but this time with people he's close to and sees frequently.\n\nI think in the end, you'll just have to try things that are possible for you to do until you run out of options.  I wouldn't tell him anything that would hurt his feelings, though.  I think I would make up something sooner than I would do that (and I hate to lie).
924795
I placed an item in friend and fellow Soldier's casket. It was a small medallion of St. Christopher 'traveler's saint'. \n\nTraditionally there is nothing against it - just ask the familiy first. \n\nI am sorry for your loss. To the Soldier - thank you for your service.\n\n 'Gratias Ago Tibi'
692853
You really want to learn a bout your dad? Maybe you should try going to military.com. If you have the info on his unit and such maybe some of his unit is still a bout and would know of him. You might go there join up and do a search for people who may have known him. Nothing would tell you more about him than the people who worked with him...