To women....Why do mean behave different on their dates?
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Men just want to sleep with u. So they show their smarter side, or their better side, just like a sales representative does.
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Different doesn't have to be great always....go for your gut feeling...women's intuition is generally right
823905
It's not so much what you say, but how you say something. You could say any number of things to break the ice and be successful in your pursuits, but this is highly dependent on your mindset. Keep in mind that women (even the pretty ones) are not perfect or without their own insecurities. Most women are worried about the same things you are--their looks, attitude, and appearing confident to the opposite gender. Once you realize that the woman is probably as nervous as you, then it should become apparent that you both have something in common already. All that's left to do is ask how they feel, what they like, what do they think about, and so on in an attempt to learn what else you both might have in common. The object isn't to persuade this woman to be a date or something similar, rather it is your goal to see if their is enough common ground for you and her to be friends. If you cannot be friends, than she'll probably won't make for much of a date or love interest.
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She doesn't want to get the label, "Nerd", "dork", or "geek" so she acts stupid so people won't know she's smart.  I do that all the time.  I am a smart, nice girl and it's just like that saying with guys, "nice guys finish last."  The same is true with girls.  Only the stupid, flirty, gorgeous girls have lots of dates.  Us smart, nice, average looking girls have a hard time so we act dumb hoping to get the guys to notice us.
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Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!
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It's still the game of perceived leverage(gotta have hand). We don't want to come across as too eager, weak or needy. Not all are like that though hon. However, some men do have maturity and maintain old school values, treating women with respect and not playing games.
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You mentioned many good things to not only impress a woman but to keep her satisfied materialistically. However, in my experience, when a woman says that you don't care about her feelings that usually means she feels that you don't listen to or try to help her with her problems or you don't ask for or respect her opinions. Both of these will require you to work on your listening skills. In the case of her problems she may only require someone to listen to her, if you have any advice, guidance or help to give then by all means give it. If not, then let her know that you will be there for her if she needs something from you. In the case of her opinions not only will you have to ask for them but also do what she wants to do, even when you don't want to.\nGifts, trips, dates, these are all things that all women want, but they are far from ways that show that you care. Listening, offering your service, and respecting her opinion are but some of the ways to show a woman that you care about her feelings.
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Women aren't aliens - they are regular people.  When you talk to a woman just picture her as a regular person who you want to get to know better as a friend.  Maybe you are getting nervous talking to women because you are thinking of them as potential dates.  Think of them as potential friends and just be yourself.
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Sometimes, men actually want women to make the first move.  take me for example: i have never really had a whole lot of relationships, but when i got together with my fiance, i made all of the moves, except the first kiss.  I was quite often uncomfortable making the first moves because i was unsure of how she would react.  On the night of our first kiss, i really liked how sweet and sincere the kiss ended up being.  And i know that i would not have made my move that night, because i was far too nervous.  She could see this, and decided to take initiative.  I personally liked it.  It also shows me that the woman knows what she wants, versus "needs" the guy to make decisions all the time.  By the way, it sounds like if he doesn't really look at you, he might be a little nervous around you, and is unsure of how you'd react if he asked you. Go for it!!  I think that most men don't mind if a woman takes initiative, unless that man is insecure about himself and needs to feel "macho" or something by being the decision maker.
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let me tell you the first thing about women... never take advice from women about women. Let me prove that one to you. I once asked my sister two questions. The first question was "what do you look for in a guy?" I got the typical "i want a guy that treats me good, does sweet things for me, and blah blah blah". then i asked her to describe the guys that she has had the longest relationships with. well I'll be damned if those two answers weren't the farthest away from each other as they could be. Now some girls you ask may get a good piece of advice in there once and awhile, but let me tell you the three "C's" of what a women looks for in a man. Confidence is probably number one. Not to be confused with arrogance, confidence is not having a self esteem problem. Know in your head that you are good enough for a women, but don't think that you are better than her. The second: Control. Control is about being your own person and in control of your own life. Being a decision maker and being confident in the decision. Taking charge of a date for example. None of this crap about i don't know, what do you want to do. This is where many many men falter. Control in this manner is not about controlling what a woman does. it's about being a take charge guy. One word of caution about this is that there may be feminist or two out there that don't like this kind of crap. Those women need to be kicked to the curb. The third is a challenge. Never let a woman think that you are a loser. Women want what other women want. Let her think other women want you. never wait around for a women and beg her like a puppy dog. you have your own life, live it. and if you don't, pretend. go out with your friends, go on dates with other women. And if and when you start dating a women, remember that you still have friends. never let a women tell you "let me think about it". that's just postponement for her to tell you no with hopes that you will forget about it. I'm not in any way telling you to treat a women like crap. a lot of people assume that from me when i tell them this stuff. you need to treat your woman good, but do not be her little bi***. Bottom line, women want a man to be a man. The big protector. Be a gentleman. Open doors, and treat her like a lady, but be a man about it, not a p**** whooped fool.  You sound like you're ready to hand over your testicles.  you will "worship the ground they walk on"... if it doesn't work try something else.  accept that you need to change
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No.\n\nA woman makes an unconscious decision in a matter of seconds about whether or not she'd date you upon meeting you. \n\nIf you're in a position of constant contact, sometimes that opinion will change but most of the time I'm sure the woman would most likely think of you as a perv stalker loser before they think of you as dating material...\n\nUNLESS...  \n\nYou have A) LOOKS  B) MONEY  C) POWER\n\nIf you have B or C it doesn't matter WHAT you look like.\n\n\n-- EDIT --\n\nTo answer the chick below me -- Uh.. yeah it is.\n\nMaybe not in the podunk midwest areas or the south but in NY, LA, Miami, or any large metropolis, it is.  \n\nAnd, (even in the podunk areas), it's a sense of security that women seek - and money & power give a sense of security.  Does he have a farm?  A great tractor?  A few head of cattle that would provide food and money from the slaughter??  (hehee.. a little stereotypical, yeah.. but you get the point, right??) \n\nAnd as for looks -- well, when you're young you want someone hot.  It's just the way it is.\n\nTell me something - would you get together with a man living on the streets that smelled like p!ss and couldn't take care of himself, but had a great personality and treated you right?  \n\nYeah, I thought not.
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Yes and No. Yes its shallow, because maybe she was just nervous when she was asking you out. You know most women don't do that very often, so when she was asking you out she probably reverted back to how she sounded in high school or something. Also you could have been a bit closed off and you didn't express in anyway that you were open to her asking you out. So that causes more nervousness in some women.  Now for the no part of it, I think if a person that is a sales rep and has had a college education, they should be capable of delivering a decent proposal to ask anyone out. I mean they have had the training to be able to talk to clients and different people like that, so I don't see why she couldn't used those same skills to ask you out properly. But just for the record that was funny as hell, "Like harder Benny!" Totally classic, dude.
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maybe your not assertive, you may give off the look of that you don't want to be dated, etc... maybe there are rumers, who knows. idk you so i cant say a specific reason
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Men don't express emotions the same way women do. We say how we feel. Boys show it. If he did all that for you & the two of you had that great a time together, ask him. Odds are he's going to agree with the next date.
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I have never had a problem finding dates for two reasons and I will never be accused of being a jock. I am well read and considered smart by all the women I have dated. Secondly I am a musician which always helps. However the problem I find is that my relationships always ends with the woman saying "You think you are always right"! Which of course I find very ironic, so ironic I am currently writing a book about it.
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Well, it's something that cannot be answered just like that.  A woman just knows that a guy is for her or not for her.  It's instinct.  Hard to describe.  I would want to know if you're seeing someone or married.  That would be my first question if I met you in public.  You are good looking, BTW
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yea it can mean something is on there mind or they just did something bad and there concious is bothering them. Or maybe they don't want to be bothered sometimes females can be smothering and need to know a man likes to be alone sometimes. Don't call him as much show that its not stressing you . When he wants to go out say have fun.. Me and my baby are like that and his friends say we have a best friend relationship rather then a couple relationship