how to get rid of lonelyness?
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Hang out with friends and family, chat on net, talk on phone, date, make out, get laid!\n\ngood luck.
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It might sound corny, but I always lie down and listen to music with headphones on. Always seems to cheer me up if I can find lyrics that really connect with how I feel.\n\nBut if you want a better but less immediate solution, go out to meet new people, make new friends. But don't let yourself be desperate and befriend a bad crowd. Be smart about it. You can even find friends online in chat rooms (the Yahoo chat rooms on messenger used to work for me) or if you're a teen, teenspot.com is really cool. Just let yourself be heard and don't be too shy! Friends are anywhere, sometimes where you'd least expect them. Just gotta keep your eyes open! =)
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Try going alone when you know there's hardly anyone around like early mornings. When you do go, reward yourself with something nice besides food. Work on your postive self-talk. I had the same problems with being self conscious when I'm alone but I went and did it. What helped was having a radio or cd/tape player to distract you from your own self-defeating thoughts.
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It sounds like you need some kind of activity or even a change of lifestyle to fill the void.Have you considered\nvolunteer work of some kind? You meet new people and get the feeling of satisfaction from helping others.You don't\nfeel empty when you're being stimulated like that.
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Your emptiness cannot be filled with people, I don't think. Find something creative in your life, something you can do all by yourself. That way your boyfriend's presence in your everyday life would be sufficient. Use your sense of loneliness to create. Try to sing about it, write about it, or draw it. A creative project may easily be used as a form of therapy. A good artist is one who uses his feelings in his line of work. You have your feelings, now you need to find the right application for them. In some community college in your town they ought to have art classes or crafts or something you can learn. You seem to have lots of creative potential that needs to get out so that you wouldn't feel miserable. To me, it's a clear question of self fulfilment, or lack of it, that troubles you. I think you want others to fill that hole inside of you that only you can. \nBut if I am wrong, here is another idea. Try to find online friends, then you wouldn't need to live close to them. And if you think that you need to make friends faster, you have to change your attitude. Don't think of your shyness or aloofness while meeting others. Think instead, picture it in your mind's eye, how those strangers become the friends you are comfortable with, how they replace the 5 you lost.\nPicture it as something that has already happened, due to your efforts. Feel the sense of ease and pride, because it is behind you. That kind of creative visualisation helped me to overcome my own shyness and reach out to others when I needed them. And it would still be better if you had something behind you, some creative ability, diploma, something that would remind you of your worth. This would give you the necessary confidence for continuing meeting new people, in spite of all the fear and reservations. Whatever you do, the way to diminish your loneliness is to change your attitude. It is hard, as I well know from personal experience, but quite possible, especially with the right kind of motivation and creative imagery. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
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listen to some good music... *\ngo out with friends\nGo to some quiet place and enjoy the nature *\nTake some time off from work so that u dont get depressed in first place:)\n\n* these are the things I do
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do something during your free time. have fun with friends, read books, go shopping, listen to music, watch movies (not alone of course), try to learn something new (an instrument or maybe a sport), exercise, join clubs and meet new people.. and the list goes on..\n\nexplore. there's more to life...\n\noh, if you feel depressed or something, try writing it down. trust me, it helps. makes you stronger =)
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you're miserable, its quite hard to advise you without knowing what is making you so unhappy; if youre lonely then i would advise to try to get out there and mix with others because there are so many lonely people all wishing they had more in life, how about pen friends or chat rooms? anyway i hope things improve for you soon.
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When you are dealing with loneliness..read a book, watch tv, listen to music, or watch movies. \nI know its hard being single, but you dont need a man to be happy! \nYou probably do have so much to give, but take your time you have a life ahead of you. Right now worry about yourself. Make life plans. Write out pros and cons of having a relationship, make out a list of what qualities you are looking for in a guy. But, don't rush into anything if you aren't ready for it. A relationship is a major thing, cause you have to deal with both your life and be in his life at the same time. Please take it from someone who knows, I finally found someone to be with and I'm happily engaged, it took 5 years, but I waited and I found the man of my dreams!
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i totally understand. I'm an expert on coping with loneliness. heres some things i do. \ntip 1: learn to love yourself. be content, satisfied being you, learn to like what you see in the mirror. When you love yourself, everyone else will follow suit. and even if they dont, it doesnt matter bc all you need to be happy is you\ntip 2: straighten out your priorities. look at your life and learn how to live it. basically, make yourself desirable by living your life how it should be lived, with passion and contentment. \ntip 3: you will always have moments after a chick flick when you want someone to cuddle up to you and hold your hand, but leave those feelings for those times. dont let it consume you.\ntip 4: DONT blame yourself for being alone! it is not your fault. i want you to look at yourself in the mirror everymorning and smile, tell your reflection this, i am beautiful. i am happy and fun and all i need is a smile to make my life complete. next step-believe it. \nalot of times we think we dont have boyfriends bc we're not worth loving. that is NOT true. you just havent found a guy worthy of your daydreams. that may sound cliche, but truly, good guys are hard to find. dont settle for losers. \nok. im goanna stop before i REALLY ramble:)\nanyway-be happy with yourself. and know that youre loved.
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Everyone i guess, always gets the feeling of being lonesome. It usually happens when you tend to act on your own and it seem that you don't wanna trust outside. You lock yourself in your own world. TRY TO OPEN UP TO LIFE; TO THE WORLD itself.Celebrate life at the moment, by seeing the presence of others. Once you do this , you will find people around you who accept you, recognizes you and loves you just the way you are.
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find some new friends.\n\n:)
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Talk to people in and around where you live.\nSee what they think of you.\nTry and get friends that really like you for you, not online.
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Try church.  If you don't find love there at least maybe you will feel better spiritually.
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find a couple small things that give you joy, and set aside time for yourself each day to do them - maybe as simple as walking quietly on some path by your house, or painting.\n\nFind ways to connect with other people in a social setting - take a community ed pottery class or something.\n\nFind a group of people who are worse off than you and volunteer some time to help them.\n\nJoin a support group for people going through a divorce.
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You can do that on chat.yahoo.com\nHowever, I would suggest you to not look at that as some sort of healer for any problems you might have faced with having friends. I can tell you that is notgoing to help at all. If you  arel ucky, you might get a few good people to chat with for some time, but that is rare , i mean, if you have to make sensible converations on chat, it should be either in places meant for it, and such places are very rare, or you have to do that wuth people you know. \n\nI would suggest adding your old mates to your yahoo messenger list, and chatting with them instead.
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1) Go to the art gallery and wonder around aimlessly, being absorbed in the mystery of objects that can be interpreted any way you like. \n\n2) Take up a community course on cooking or dancing (you're bound to meet some nice available girl), or languages if you're interested. \n\n3) Go to the gym or do some other sport that takes your mind out and gives you a good workout at the same time. You'll feel much better afterwards.