I have a friend Kaitlyn, who has a huge grudge against one of my friends, Carly. What Side should I go on?
144909
Both sides. Get them together. Talk to them one by one in different rooms. Ask them about the huge prob. Get them in the same room. You get out of the room. Hang on to the doorknob.. put your ear on the door and listen. If thingz go wrong go in and get thingz straight. If they don't talk.. just keep standing there unless if you really feel that you want to get into the room and see them apologize yourself.
919020
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
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No, I disagree.  What you didn't tell us is why he doesn't like her.  Maybe he has a very good reason.  Maybe your friend is doing/saying things behind your back.  Putting them together would be volitile to say the least and used as a last resort.  Blackmailing them into getting along would not be advised.  Though that might help on the surface, it would fester.  Does your BFF like him?  Maybe she likes him too much?  Just wondering....
202139
Wow, that's a tricky one!  I'd say confront her about it.  If it makes you upset, you need to let her know.  It's not like you need a "right" to be upset... if you're upset, then you're upset, so be real with yourself and with your friend.  If she's a true friend, she'll understand and back off.  And if she acts the fool and tells u you have no right to be upset, she's prolly not the kind of friend you want.  There are no laws or rules governing this sort of thing... you just need to keep people in your life that respect you the way you want to be respected.  The last thing you wanna do is seal your lips, because she needs to know it's not cool with you before it goes any further, and give her a chance to decide how much your friendship means to her before it's too late.
588503
The more you try to keep Krystal away from Ashley, the more she is going to be drawn to Ashley. If you know Ashley is a troublemaker, just let Krystal know that you are there for her, anytime, then just let things happen. You are helping to blind Krystal to Ashley because you are telling her all of this negative stuff, and Krystal hasn't seen it for herself, yet. Let her see it. STOP telling her about it. Ashley may be a professional at making herself look good in front of those who she wants to be close to. And, she may also be a professional at making those she hates--look bad to their friends. Chances are, you are helping Ashley do just what she wants you to do, which is look bad in front of Krystal. Just be there for Krystal. She will need you to pick up the pieces when Ashley lets her down time after time. Show her the qualities in you that Ashley does not have. The more you push Ashley, the more she is going to talk about you. \n\nAnd, so what if Krystal did tell Ashley that you don't like her. YOU DON'T, right! \n\nCall Krystal or write to her and apologize, even if she was the one who was wrong. It will go a long way. Tell her that you understand that she has and makes other friends, but that you were feeling left out, and you would like to spend some time with her. But when you do get to see her or talk to her--BITE YOUR TONGUE when it comes to talking bad about Ashley. Don't say a word about her. Just talk to Krystal like you used to. You will see a difference in her attitude, if you don't talk about her new friend.
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First, I think you need to look inside. Do you have a good reason for hating him or could you be jelous or something of the attention that your friend is giving to him or maybe of what it appears that they have? If you do have a good reason, talk to your friend about it. If she's really your friend, she will be open to listening to your concerns. Don't expect that she'll leave him, though, just because she's listening. Like it or not, you may just have to except him as part of the group. If you can't do that, you may have to find another friend. Good luck!
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If your friend is really a friend and you want to salvage your friendship, I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you really feel.  You should let her know that it really upset  you when she did what she did, and that you don't relish the chance of that happening again, that it's not acceptable behavior from someone who says she's a friend.
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Tell your friend that if she wants to be friend with this girl that you dislike, then its fine with you, but you rather not be friends with someone who talks badly about you. Tell your friend that if the friendship you both had together was so bad and that she thinks she has to be like that to you, then maybe the friendship you had together was not worth it in the long run.. Being friends with her may not be the best thing... Tell the girl that you dislike, that if she thinks she can talk bad about you, then fine so be it, but yu dont have to deal with the crap. Tell the girl you dislike, that she needs to take a good look at her life, and maybe she'll be able to find true friendship. That friends dont just grow on tress but you have to make them the right way. That it will bite her in her butt in the long run.. No one wants to be friends with someone who talks bad about others, or lies to make friends.
607806
It sounds like they both need to grow up.  They are putting you in the middle of something that is between them.  Neither of them should be punishing you because you like the other.  That just isn't right.  You have the right to like whomever you please.  You all just need to sit down and talk about how you can all get along, or how each of them can have seperate time with you.  What they are doing is totally unfair to you.
50861
First you have to tell your friend that you would really appreciate it if they dont ever bring over the person you dont like. And tell your friend why you don't like them and the reasons, so they can understand your point of view. ok
146131
It's really not your choice - it's hers, good decision or bad.  \nYou advised her with your opinion, she knows where you stand.  Now it's time to stay out of her business - if it bothers you that much, perhaps you need to find a new friend.
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Honestly, do you really believe that she is your friend? If I were you, I would tell her how inconsiderate she is for actually dating someone she *KNEW* I had the hots for. I could see if she *didn't* kno, but she *DID*! That's so foul and disrespectful, and truly, I would re-evaluate this friendship with her. She doesn't sound like much of a friend if you ask me! If you allow your "friends" to continue to disregard your feelings, you're going to have a hard life ahead. Friends *DON'T* do things such as that. Guard your heart, hon. God bless you!\n\nHope that helped!
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She can't be that nasty if you consider her a friend!!!! She was good enough for you at one time, so why not now???\nYou should think about what brought you 2 together in the first place and if she did something that you don't agree with, talk to her about it! You should talk out your problems and try to remain friends!\nGood luck!
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
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this is a very hard situation to be in believe me i know how you feel! my two best friends hate eachother too! one is a cheerleader and the other is a music buff and hates cheerleaders! i tell them both that i don't want in the middle of their little cat fights and they actually don't put me in that situation. if you're really their best friend, they won't make you sit through that kind of stuff. mine actually don't have a problem with eachother if i'm around with them both. every now and then i get into conflicts with one saying i'm paying more attention to the other but i just ignore that fact. what can i do, i have more classes with the cheerleader than i do with the music buff. just make sure they know you don't want anything to do with their little fights and they should let you out of their fights. it may take a little while, especially if they get into a huge argument! they might expect you to choose sides, but don't do it. stay strong and stick up for yourself! let them know who's boss in your life lol! i hope this helps and wish you luck!
227061
Sounds like she is trying to be you.  She definitely isn't worth being your friend, but I don't know about picking a physical fight---just seems like a bad idea, especially if she could press charges.
898115
Honey, this girl will get you into trouble, it sounds like this girl wants you for her own!! my advice steer clear!  I have had a similar situation with a Friend of mine, she had a girl that hung around her like a bad smell, and she hated me, she treated my Friend like a minion and called her one!  I must admit she was a bitch 2!!  I think you might just need to sit this girl down and talk to her, perhaps she doesn't realize that her behavior is just a little OTT. The jealousy thing tho, this is harder to resume, but you have to ask yourself, why does she do that?? could she be insecure?  my feeling on this one from reading your little statement is that she is making you unhappy and that is wrong, why should she ruin your life, you are spending time thinking about her and your other Friend, there are times when being a little selfish, taking a step back and saying- 'whoa' this is not about 'me'...is good, do something for you, personally if she is as nagging and annoying as she sounds, you need to click your fingers to the left, click your fingers to the right and click your fingers to the left, (practice this now) its cool!!! and say to this girl- I don't need this drama' and walk away, because when push comes to shove all that matters is you! xxx