Why cant I unfall in love with an older guy who I cant be with?? signed...often obsessed princess...?
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You can't, unfortunatly, pick and choose who you fall in love with. If you really can't be with him, get out and date others. If he's out of sight, he's out of mind. Only time will get you through this.
727385
Don't beg or plead, you are much better than that! Let him go if he wants to go, he's the one who's going to miss out not you. PLus you are a nice caring young girl who had her whole life ahead of her. You don't need that b.s. in your life!! Find someone better!! Someone that is going to appreciate you and treat you like a PRINCESS!! Good luck and I hope that you find someone MUCH better! =)
1090102
Hey Hun....No you're not alone....I am also young but have never been interested in just getting laid...I've always been more interested in a strong long term relationship...For me...The relationships always start off like they will last forever...and then BAM! all the effort and love I put into those relationships are taken for granted....I'm dealing with this sort of thing now with my boyfriend of almost 1 yr and half...He just up and decided he needed a break...now when we talk it's awkward...and there is no love in his voice...it breaks my heart and I too feel afraid that one day I will wake up and be 40 and have no one....no kids and no life...and end up hating myself for not being able to find a real relationship where both people love equally....it's scary...but alot of people say "you're young and you will find someoen to respect who you are...and WANT to be with you as much as you WANT  to be with them" I know it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for everyone...But as hard as it is...what other idea can we really hold on to? I hope you find someone to share your life with too...GOOD LUCK hun....feel free to e-mail me...if you wanna chat more...or add me to msn....hoffababe@hotmail.com...caio
113404
you're not in love with him your co-dependant upon him.yes it's fatal. if you give someone that kind of control over your life. change psyches. This person obviously isn't doing anything for your self esteem issues.
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Hi Dear,\nWhat i may say may not be a perfect opinion but to some extent it may do u good.. First of all i would like to clarify one point-- you are not Obsessed or infatuated but you are Deeply in Love with this Guy.\n\nI don't know how old u are.. but by ur talks i can figure out that you know the difference between Love and Infatuation. Getting into arguments in a Bf/ Gf relationship is very common, but when u get into it u should be smart enough to tackle it and come out of it without being separated. And that's where ur MINUS point begins. U have said that you still communicated through text message, about missing each other and how things changed. "TEXT MESSAGE" cannot be related to "HUMAN FEELINGS" There is a vast difference in taking the pain and writing and Posting a Love letter than just emailing or scanning a love letter.\n\nI suggest you call him and meet him person to person and express ur beautiful feelings towards him. It does not matter even if you cry in front of ur intimate partner, because u will know and find a deep inner peace in your heart. A feeling that will later make you feel better. If he still loves you i am sure he will understand and appreciate your feelings....\nBest of luck!!!!
978560
find someone who likes you for what you are and who you are babe ,he aint worth it. \nyour prince wont be far away, i promise.
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move on. there will be others. as hard as it is to think about right now... and plus.. if he isnt "allowed to date" that leads me to believe you are younger.... sooo dont think that what youre feeling is true love. dont rush into being soo adult... you have a LOT of time.
866543
You must listen to your heart.  Are you really in love with this man or just adoring his mature ways?  Good Luck.
660109
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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Pancharito is right! I know you want to be friends with him, but you are in love with him. You will always be tempted to just crumble and tell him you want more. But you have to respect his wishes before those of your own if you truly do love him. *sigh* That's the part of love that is so hard. You'll never really fall out of love with him. But distancing yourself will make things easier for you. Get involved in activities you love and it will take your mind off of your heart. Besides, you might make some great new friends through your outside involvement. I do wish you luck........I know it is hard!
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I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
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Don't even go there. Going any further is potentially child abuse. 12 year olds are sometimes very mature these days but really, I don't think they're capable of being "in love", especially with an adult authority figure. you're in a position of power, and if you were to investigate further, you'd be abusing your position. If I were you, and you were concerned, have a chat to a colleague you can trust, and see if you can get that child moved out of your class.\n\nJust my opinion, for what it's worth.\n\nAudrey\nwww.animalhomebusiness.com
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Are you sure you are in love? It sounds like infatuation. You are to young to be so desperately in love with some who disses you. I am sure there are other guys out there. Don't waste your time on a loser. You will regret it later in life. Trust me. I had to find out the hard way. But you live and you learn.
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This just means that you are not deeply in love with this person. It will come. Once you get to know him better you will feel different. Whether your not attracted to him or you just cant be yourself around him. I've expierenced this situation and know exactly what to do. Follow my advice and you'll get somewhere in life.
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You need to realize that your not really falling in love with him but that you still have a crush on him and that your feelings are based upon the past and not on your current life.  He may be a wonderful guy but the reality of it is you really have no idea if you two could ever really be together and be happy together like you and your husband are.  The best way to deal with this is just to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to have the life you do and stop focusing on what you can't/ don't have.
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Oh dear. You think you love him? What is love, then? You are not yet in a relationship do not go there, yet.\n\nHow old you are is important. A lot younger does not tell us much.\nBy 18 a guy has a few ideas on how to start a relationship, you need to let him start it.  If you are too young (>16) please do not do anything with him even if he does start it.\n\nAsk yourself why you want to be with him.\nIs it to be the cool girl dating a much older guy? (That's bad).\n\nIs it because he is a guy you have become comfortable with and developed a crush due to the level of familiarity? (Date someone your age with similar qualities, REMEMBER eventually you will get comfortable with them).\n\nIs it because he pays attention to you? (Other guys will eventually).\n\nIs it because you have sincer feelings?
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I'm not gonna read it...but should you give it?Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.NO.OK OK,I'll read it...hold on.Ok I'm back...perhaps you should stick to writing poems or something,I'm really quite touched.No NSA you say?Who are you kidding?Please,your real prince will find you.This dude is taken.See what happens in another 90 days.What if his girl gets hold of it?Some guys are just like Bit(c)hes...like to see there partner get jealous...they love the attention.God you fall in love so fast...do you fall out of love that fast?Lets hope you do this time...this may spell trouble.........for some reason I think you're gonna do it anyways.Well,I hope it all works well for you.