why does everyone think that there are no second chances?
143962
Don't listen to people on here they are so negative most have been really hurt and are down on even putting in the effort to make it work. They are the cup is half empty kind of people. You know what is in your heart. Give it a second chance!! I did with mine and I am so happy I did. He is my soul-mate.
952841
Every single person you see who passes you in the street has made mistakes, not one of us are exempt from making mistakes, that is because we are human beings.  We do what we do for various reasons...could be the crowd we hang around with...peer pressure.....it could be because we are hurt and want revenge...it could be for a lot of reasons.  But we all grow up, we all learn about sociably acceptable behaviour and that only comes with experience and time.  If we didnt make mistakes, we would be pretty boring people because it is only when we make mistakes do we trully learn who we are.  What has happened in the past had to happen, simply because it did, you cant go back, you cant change it, but you can certainly change the future.  You can choose not to make those kind of mistakes ever again.  Forgiveness is pretty easy if you have a logical mind.  If you can think that the mistakes you made were because of a particular situation in your life, and you did what you did because that was your frame of mind at the time, then you will be able to forgive yourself.  You are not that person any more....that was the old you.  Sometimes I look back on my past and think to myself...."that wasnt me"...and it wasnt.  I am the me I am now,  the me who made all those mistakes and it is those mistakes that has moulded me into the nice person I am today.\n\nIf you dont learn by your mistakes then you wont grow.  You know they are mistakes, so you have learnt and you will become stronger for it.  You need to put your mistakes where they belong,  they were mistakes of the past, so keep them in the past.  Your future is where the positive stuff lay.  Guilt is such a wasted emotion because the only thing it does is make you feel bad, it doesnt change anything...it cant change what has happened...so think logically about it...you cant change it, so what is the good about beating yourself up over it.  Use the energy you have with guilt and put it to more constructive use.  Move forward, do things that make you feel good about yourself, maybe go and do some voluteer work.  Start thinking good things, start doing good things and you will find out the mistakes of your past gives you the knowledge you have today.  You could use that knowledge for good.  You may be in a position where your mistakes could help some person in the future because you have been there, done that.  Use your mistakes to your advantage....learn from them.  You can do it.  We all make mistakes,  it is something we have all suffered from at some time.  The reason I know you are a decent and wonderful person is because you feel bad about your mistakes....that shows you have a conscience, therefore you cannot be a bad person because bad people dont have a conscience.  Move on...go on to achieve wonderful things and you will have your mistakes to thank for your success.
104881
I think that when something terrible happens, its human nature to want to be optimistic. Can you imagine how it would feel to hear that someone you know was "dead" instead of being "missing"? It's like killing all hope that they may still be alive. It doesn't happen often, but miracles do happen and it doesn't hurt to have a little hope. The media is not often very considerate of the words they choose, but when they say "went missing" they do sound somewhat compassionate.
737138
She can forgive him because he wronged her.  The rest of the world has nothing to "forgive".  The rest of the world only has an opinion! (low as it may be)
879316
Everyone regrets some things so yes I gues it is normal. Sometimes it seems as if you can never do anything right doesn't it? I felt like that when my first wife and I were going through a bad patch prior to our divorce but things even themselves out in the end. For every cloud there is a silver lining and as things go on the good feelings arrive with them.
1056538
I believe in the law of retribution.  I've lived to see that what goes around comes around and what you sow, sooner or later you'll reap.  Sure, a lot of people have unfair things happen to them and it's not their fault.  But there's a kind of justice and equity in the universe too.  Many times people get exactly what they deserve, but we don't always have the satisfaction of knowing it.  For instance someone who's done you wrong will eventually have it done to them by someone else, but you won't know so you keep on thinking that they got away scott free.
892923
Good Question!\n\nPersonally, I don't believe everyone who dies goes to a "better place" - but that's what my religion (Islam) says about it. We believe that our life on this earth is a test, and that after we die, we will be held accountable for our actions.\n\nGenerally however, and to answer your question, it seems that it is easier for people to assume that everyone goes to a better place. It's *easier* to believe someone will be in comfort than in pain, and its *easier* to think that when you die, you will also be in a better place.
101180
I think it might take some time, because people are unwilling to tell themselves that they have been living the wrong life. But I think that once that happens, it might take a few years for people to start understanding what really went on. But sooner or later it will hit them...HARD.
338803
Because of the answers the first two gave.  No one is trying to understand what the other feels, and everyone thinks that one person alone cannot make a difference.\n\nPeople should put themselves in the shoes of others, and individual people should share their ideas with others, so something could be done.
808248
There is a world that lies just beyond our own. It's just on the other side of a dream, or beyond the looking glass. Most of us go through the motions of our daily lives, never realizing it is there. A lucky few occasionally catch a glimpse, however.\n\nChildren seem to be those most likely to have the second sight. Perhaps it is because they are innocents, not yet corrupted by the skepticism of adulthood. Adults, you see, are taught that certain things do not exist. We have been fed these lines for so long that many of us wouldn't recognize fantasy if it bit us on the behind. How sad for those folks.
744295
There is no time like the present. None of us can throw stones, if we believe in God  or not and are sorry for anything we have done, and where possible make amends, that is all one can do. If we treat others as we would like them to treat us, can't be bad. By the way Catholics do not have their sins forgiven if they have no intention of trying not to sin again. Anyone should know that!
536853
you can only know that you trust someone unless you feel it in your heart if you know for a fact that they havent broken a promis or lied to you then you should be able to trust them but watch your back cuz ppl do change and i believe that ppl do deserve a second chance cuz everyone makes mistakes and they learn from them "sometimes" but after they break there second chance then they are no good and you dont deserve to trust them watch and listen for bullcrap lies if someone is telling you something and you dont really feel it in your heart and if something is telling you that something isnt right then usually its a lie so just be carefull and listen to your heart dont let anyone fool you and dont let your mind interfear with your heart and LOOK OUT FOR LIES!!!! and you sould be fine\n\nhope this helps\ngood luck
1063127
When you realize that all that has happened, is just about the only way it could work out, then you can accept the past, and begin to forgive, and forget. It sounds dogmatic, and implies predestination, but it's true. Go in peace...
212392
no matter what the charges are, every kid deserves a second chance. to add more, every human being should....duhh
115314
I have pondered this same thing..\n\nI can forgive someone for treating me poorly, but I will never forget how I felt when that happened.. \n\nI think it has to do with a little self preservation, and more to what you want to surround yourself with, and  not wanting to put yourself in a position to face the same types of offenses.\n\nForgetting it a very hard thing to do, because you naturally associate some things together.. like a favorite song from high school that instantly makes you feel a certain way when you hear it again, or the first time you laid eyes on your first born, or the first time your heart was broken.  You retain this data (I think) because it's all a learning process that later will help you value what is and isn't important. And the emotions tied to those things are memorized with your heart.
199050
Many times, in many areas of life, in just about anything.  It seems nowadays no one takes pride in anything they do, nor are they made accountable for mistakes.  Therefore, everything in general is not as good as it should be.
879234
Because everyone is busy with their own business, they dont have time to go back and correct it and our planet earth too moving forward only, if somebody can stop its revolving, then definitely can find a Time machine  to go past, but remember It is always better to think forward than about thinking past.