I need advice for my mom. She has diabetes, high blood pressure and cholesterol, depression,and is overweight.
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I suggest you get her depression treated and under control. She isn't taking care of herself because of the depression.\n\nGet her to talk to her physician about her depression. Get her on medications. Her physician can get her a phychiatric referral.\n\nIf you don't trust she will follow through with that, call her doctor .. he may not be able to talk to you about  her, but you can talk to him about your concerns for her and about her non compliance to taking care of herself. She may be angry at you for doing that, but unless her depression is treated, she will continue to not take care of herself and get sicker.
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i can only recommend not to push her or insist too much\nyou have no idea what that disease is like and how it affects one's life -i hope you never find out-\nhope you mom gets better soon
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First of all- you are a great kid! Thank You for being so caring towards your mother. It sounds like she needs a meds evaluation. I say this often to people on here who say their meds aren't working because yes, there are meds that may work better but she may not be dosed right either. Weight fluctuations can cause problems, etc. Her meds may not be working effectively because symptoms of depression are still evident. I would suggest that you and your Dad encourage her to see a Doc ASAP. if she has trouble paying bills, etc- re-delegate this task to someone else (Dad)- make sure she has help with household chores, etc. Focus on reducing her stress- regardless of whether it means having a hot meal on the table when she gets home, doing laundry, or whatever else needs to be done. Maybe she's due for a vacation- she should take one if she can- even if you stay in town and do small activities like going to the movies, going out for dinner, etc.
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I have had this disease for over 30 years... it was a gift from my mom who has had it for 65+ years.  The only complication that i recently have is weight gain.(due to taking insulin which is a protein for so long)  This is not the worse disease to have.  When I was first diagnosed the only sugar free item was TAB soda..... so i did stand out alot being "different"\nPlease go to the doctors with your grand child and learn as much as possible.  If she eats 5 small meals a day... tests her blood 4 or more times, exercises, visits her dr. every 3 months.... she will live a long healthy life.  Make sure she stays away from splenda items... this is a sugar.  Eating right and exercising is not a curse... get the whole family to eat the diabetic diet.....and play together..... let her teach you how to test the blood...have her test your blood.. see who has the best #\nThere are support groups for parents and children..... talk to her dr about where and when..... so she won't feel so "different" \nYou are a great grand parent.  I understand your worry... the main thing is to accept her.... go out for a s/f ice cream one night and talk to her about things... but keep an eye on her blood sugar levels... that is the most important...... You will be fine....
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I am a nurse and I was going to tell you to get check for diabetes. But you already have. so I would also get checked for thyroid disease. they can monitor it with medicine, it is not  big deal. I would differently talk with my doctor and if he can't find what's wrong get another doctor.
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Reading this was like reading something I had written about my own son who is also a teenager.  He doesn't have diabetes, but he is at the age where I can't tell him anything!!!  Needless to say, I can relate to your situation but understand how yours is different because your daughter's rebellion can impact her health.  Have you called your DR. since the visit when he didn't "back you up"?  I think I'd start by letting him know I wasn't really happy with his approach.  Maybe next time he will more strongly express the importance that she take a more active role in managing this.  \n\nWith my son, the thing I keep coming back to is this:  He's got to make his own mistakes, because he's not going to listen to or learn them from me.  If he misses the bus again because he can't haul out of bed in the morning, he's going to have to "pay the price" of suspension from school, no excuses from me.  In your case, since she won't listen to you (but could get seriously hurt by not listening) are there any pre-teen diabetic support groups that local hospitals have where she can participate with her peers and listen to dr's/rn have open forums about the issues of the disease?  It also might help her deal with some of the other issues she's facing like feeling different.  That's a big deal for this age group.  There have got to be others you would trust for her to talk to, since she's going to rebel against you right now.  Of course she needs you as support/love, but I've just found that right now, they want to do everything BUT what we suggest or ask them to do.
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actually, they think now that both parents have to be carriers ,but my sister has it, and we can only trace it through my dad's side of the family. but still, she is worried about passing it to her kids, to the point of not wanting to bare her own. diabetics can live full lives, but it is a lot of stress, and the complications can be pretty serious. it is understandable that diabetics would not want their children to go through what they did.
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if your mom is  sufferring from manic depression then take her to a doc. accompany her in her visit to the docs. give her love and support. be there for her. take her out and enroll her in hobbies or yoga classes or anything she likes to do. always be in a cherry mood.take her to parks and movies. encourage her to socialize. it will pass soon. good luck.
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Hello, sounds like you have alot on your plate! Working, financial, raising a child, depression...\nI was wondering that you might possibly see a doctor to help you through the depression! There is nothing wrong with medication - I'm on it! At first I thought it meant I was crazy, but I was told, and it's true: that if someone has diabetes they have to take medication, and it's the same thing.\nI was a young mother of two, career, bad marriages, traumatic childhood, and severe chemical imbalance.\nQuote "No one said life would be easy". \nI know that's crappy, but (quote) "time heals" - even though I'm 45 and still trying to get my stuff together...\nSome days are better than others - And I've made it this far! Learned alot of lessons too!
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I believe you mean diabetes. This is a very serious health condition where the blood sugars are either too high or low.  Diabetes can be genetic, brought on by poor diet and inactive lifestyle or pregnancy-when the hormones become inbalanced and they inhibit the production of insulin in the pancreas.  Diabetes, if left untreated, can cause a myriad of other serious health issues-high blood pressure, high cholesterol, circulatory problems, heart disease, blood clotting, vision problems, migraines, seizures...the list goes on.  The good news is that if you detect it early and treat it seriously-by following the doctor's orders, strict diet and regular excercise, you can live a very long and healthy life.  My father has controlled his diabetes for years, without medication.  He follows a good diet-he allows himself to misbehave once a week, and plenty of excercise.  Some individuals, because of genetic, or a refusal to take ownership of their health, must also rely on medication-which ranges from glucose medications to insulin injections.  I wish you well and hope that you make wise choices.
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I'm not a doctor, but it sounds like your mother has a form of agoraphobia and is very depressed.  She needs therapy and perhaps medication to deal with it.  She also needs patience and understanding from you because this is not anything she can help on her own.  Try to find someone you can talk to also because this illness can be as hard on the  family as it is on the person who has it. Hopefully you can find someone, (an adult), at school or church, or even a friend's parent to help you or at least help you find help.  There are groups for children with parents who suffer from mental illness, see if you can find one.  Also, very very important, do not take her behavior personally.  There is nothing you have done or can do to change this . . . . . she needs professional help.  God Bless You.  Let us know how you are doing.  Many of us care.
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Is she overweight or put a  lot of weight on recently or is she losing weight?\nShe may have an under or over active thyroid, if so she will need to have blood tests.\n\nMy Mom had this (overactive) her voice went really hoarse and her hair came out in clumps and her face went unrecognisable. She went to the doctor and had to have loads of blood tests and was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid.\n\nShe took thyroxine tablets every day for the rest of her life which controlled it.
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Your mom's doctors are limited in what they are permitted to do, under existing FDA and AMA guidelines. There ARE, however, dozens of safe, effective, and affordable alternatives that WORK. Try a visit to www.cancertutor.com and be prepared for a "rude awakening" about the "real" world of medicine. If you do a little searching, you'll find that your mom's condition may very well be completely reversible, with alternatives.
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Try contacting the american diabetes association.  www.diabetes.org
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Your mother should be doing exercises of any kind.  bike riding is great and will increase her pulse, but first, she should undoubtly see a doctor.  This is not normal at all.
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Wow Mellow you need to Mellow Out! She is here for advice not verbal abuse. She recognizes there is a problem and is trying to fix it. \n\nI would first take your daughter to the doctor and have blood work done to exclude any health threats (high blood pressure, diabetes, Thyroid issues, cholesterol) Then change your entire family's attitude towards health and nutrition. As a family, you can all work together at eating healthy meals then take family exercise breaks. Ride bikes together, join the YMCA, Walk, hike, swim. Just so everyone in the family works together. If you focus on only your daughters weight issue she could develop a complex. (Anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, low self esteem)  Always include yourself. Say we as a team need to get healthy!
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It seems that you have more of the problem.  No one will lose weght until they are ready to lose it. So even though you have helped her (which is a great thing), if she is not mentally ready to keep her weight off, then nothing you do or nothing she does will work. It's all a mental thing.  My husband and I are overweight, he is also a diabetic. I try not to force him on anything. We work out together twice a week with a personal trainer and it has helped him out. I just try and give him the support that he needs.  That's all you need to continue to do, give her the support and maybe exercise with her to get her moving. Other than that, if she is a great wife and a great person, you are a blessed man to have her in your life. You need to look at the big picture.