PLEASE ADVICE!!!  Homie Lover Friends for OVER 2 years, why won't he commit?
148502
As long as you keep giving, he'll keep taking.  Is he even sleeping with people besides you?  Are you looking for the boyfriend/girlfriend titles?
547555
This guy is playing with your feelings. He's just keeping you on the line so that he's always got a soft place to fall. Make like a tree and leave. Two years is a long time to invest your feelings in someone who doesn't want a relationship. Tell him you don't have time to waste on waiting for him to make up his mind. I think he's already made up his mind and likes the way things are. You don't know how many other gals he's playing this sorry tune with either. He's got what he wants. I would suggest that you stop giving him what he wants and tell him you're not playing anymore. <*)))><
1051561
my friend is in this situation... the best thing to do is tell him, it may be hard but otherwise everything you do... will lead him on.  until you tell him bluntly you dont want to be more than friends he will always be hopeful and then hurt every time you like flirt with another guy etc.  really regardless of how hard it is, you need to tell him so that his healing can begin and you can go on the road to becoming the great friends you were before the whole thing started.  if you did decide to try things with him just remember that it could destroy your friendship and it sounds like you dont want that.
655333
Thats because he is worried abt the commitment .Men usually are like that .. so take it easy .. dont talk much abt it ..
617488
Single is good for awhile. My guy friend reminded me of the concept of "dating". You are going back out into the social scene and just meeting new people. Forming a friendship is the most healthy way to building a romantic relationship. Your giving yourself and your friend, time to really honestly, get to know each other inside and out. Jumping in is never healthy. If your jumping in for the wrong reasons (lonliness, a "need" for a mate), then you will soon find your relationship ending in a firey crash and burn. Practice patience with your new friend. It's ok to be attracted to him/her but keep a level head and don't let your emotions rule your decisions. I am experiencing this very phenomena about building a friendship first. Together, we are keeping level heads, (even though he is just so dang hot), and it is much more fulfilling and healthy, than any relationship I've had before. The communication is great, we understand and accept where we stand with each other, and we're keeping the door open for the possibility of a wonderful, romantic, relationship to develop. I admit, it's not easy. I am still learning the whole patience thing myself. But this is so good, and healthy. I wish you luck, and hope that you will not jump in to something out of desparation. Be positive, be patient, and ask God to help. God Bless you friend.
905069
Oh tough one. No wonder you are in a state of confusion.  If he is a close friend of yours anyway have you thought about suggesting outings and activities that are just for the 2 of you rather than with a group of friends. Spending more time alone with him should help you to gauge how he feels. He could be feeling exactly the same as you are and equally scared to say anything. Be patient. If you are meant to be together it will happen in the end but don't expect him to pick up on hints. In my experience men are remarkable dim in that department.\n\nGood luck.
1031437
Follow your heart, give him a chance. If they are true friends they need to respect your decisions and choices unconditionally.
1175176
Tell him you and him aren't on the same level as to what you both want out of life. While you love him as a friend, you want more and since he isn't willing to commit, it's best to end this now. Wish him luck and the very best then get on with your life.
247264
It's unlikely for good friends to develop into relationship.. i mean for men. if think or feel strongly that he really feel for you, then just ask. but i'm affraid that it's not gonna end well. my advice, change yourself. Be yourself but the other side of yourself. stop letting him feel that you're his buddy. let him know that you can be his goddess.
884121
You are going to have to bring it up with him if he won't. These things can be really difficult even for the closest and most articulate of people. Yours / and his possibly hearts are at stake here AND yours / his most significant relationship. He has been the only one that has endured over the past 7 years isn't he? Although I must add you didn't really give the others a chance by continuing to see and sleep with your friend, did you? You clearly actually love him on a lot of levels, which is wonderful but pretending that you are happy with the set up is just wrong and will ultimately make you really unhappy. If you are sure of your feelings for him then you must either bring it up with him or if there is some doubt in your mind that he feels the same way about you, you are just allowing yourself to be used. I'm sorry but it's true. I don't think any man would let the love of his life slip through his fingers, which may suggest he likes your relationship the way it is because there are no pressures/commitments etc... which men usually associate with a girlfriend/partner/wife unfortunately. Why do they think this? I don't know. Anyway, I would bring it up with him, it's clearly at the forefront of your mind and doing your head in. Maybe start by saying simply "We have spent so much amazing time together over the years and now more than ever, I never want it to change but I just feel I need to let you know how much I think of you. I love the time we spend together and you on so many levels". See what he says and take it from there. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being honest, in fact I would highly recommend it. Too much time is wasted in this life and we only get one shot at it (that we know of!). All the very best to you.
490474
Hey its not nice to be gready :)\n\nOn the serious note...I guess you 4 have been very close. And have the uniqueness that wows you. I think the thing you need to do is admit your feelings to them. Love isnt just 2 people...But a commitment is 2 people. The right man for you is not shy to tell you.
128553
In the army guys get exposed to a lot of other guys who don't necessarily have the best values.  Unfortunately sometimes the other fellas' behavior rubs off.  I'm sorry you're having a hard time with your friend.
422399
First of all, it's not your fault. Remember that.\n Some people (take Chandler on Friends as an example) just have trouble with commitment. Give him some time and just stay together. Anyway, if he's a man you're considering marrying you should know that he's faithful.
1117632
How long has he been your friend? I'm sure that if he hasn't tried anything with you yet, he won't. And since he's your friend, he probably knows that you are straight and won't try to put moves on you. It's not like he JUST turned gay, he's still your friend (I hope), accept him for who he is.
485239
what is his personality like? is he a player? your friends seem to think so. there's the possibility he will do that, even though you've been friends for five years. \n\nbut, he can only take advantage of you if you allow him to! just refuse to go that far with him. you have the power to control that. find the strength and be strong. get to know each other all over again intellectually from a "relationship" point of view.\n\ni have found that friends' opinions are usually right. they have a more objective view about the situation than the two people involved. plus, your friends are only trying to look out for you because they love you, and don't want to see you get hurt. however, in the end it is your decision.
482792
My best friend is a guy, and I've been a little in love with him for years.  He'll make some woman a great husband someday.  BUT... We've made it clear from the get go that there won't ever be more than that.  We're TOO close and know each other too well, in some ways.  And the chance for ruining the wonderful friendship we have? No way.  You have to be up front and completely honest.  I think your friends were not mature enough to deal with their feelings.  There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for your best friend, or even saying so, but to try to hide them or avoid them will just breed resentments.  Next time you get close to a female you don't intend to date, make it clear up front, letting her choose whether to stick around.  Some will, some won't.  But at least then you don't lose someone that you're already quite attached to.  Been working for my friend and I for 13 years now.  Good luck.
427503
If he is always like that there is a reason. He is to shy to let anyone know how he feels That sucks. One way would be to call him when his homies are not around. Tell him you like him and want more. I know it puts yourself out on a limb but you do not want to play with your feeling either.   See what happens next ime he and you are together with or without the hommies you should get some kind of reaction that will allow you to move on or get it on with this man.  Good Luck