Help! Guy's perspective?
152086
Sounds like he would like to get to know you better to decide if you're someone he wants to spend more time with or not.  Talk is cheap and can lead to more and better stuff.
442517
I've been in that situation. Tell the guy up straight what you truly think. He will be grateful later for your honesty.
624180
Please, if you can see him this very moment, go and tell him all your mind. I mean tell him the way you feel for him. Many gurls have missed their right guys by simply obeying this "un-written" rule that a guy should make the Ist move. I'm not, and will never be, part of that conservative idea. Do you know, if that guy is being restrained by his background? That is, culture and religion, which in most cases are responsible for many guy's timidity. I was once a victim but a nice, loving, caring, and fearless gurl bailed me out. I'll never forget her in my life, NEVER. Please, I beg you, help this guy out, I assure you that he will never forget you. Cheers!
732745
Girlfriend: there're 2 scenario's! Number 1 is he's playing you. Now I know you don't wanna hear this, but keep an open mind! He's either met someone his own age (or younger) that might not 'intimidate' him as much, or he's just being stupid. Second scenario: he really digs you, but he's too shy/afraid/clueless as to how to tell you this. (Let's both hope for your sake this is the true reason for his being distant...) Either way, keep your chin up, and your head open. Don't go losing your heart to this guy just yet... Good luck!
237732
I met this guy at some chats last year. We realized that we were really serious about each other.He proposed that he find a really good job in my country (we're one oceans apart), just so that he can be closer to me.He's not here in my country YET but yeh, he got a GREAT job already and he's arriving at the airport THIS SUNDAY!!!!! I'm very optimistic about our relationship face-to-face.. It's definitely going to be better than chats.. at least we can touch now ;) Just take note of this. If he's serious about you, ask if he can go to YOUR place. You'll know how much he's serious then. \nAnd it also depends on how serious YOU are about him. Think about it yeh? Good luck!
1182406
I think it is not that difficult to read. Guys are generally very open when they are interested, especially if you show interest too. If this particular person is really shy you need to be a little more forward and let him know your interested. Then I think he will make his move. Encourage
1139609
Hey but shit !!   ....whats a guy to do if he IS uptight and serious ?\n\nOK ...I'll try and lighten up and won't even put in 6 links to useful; sites and quote Wikipedia and Google......but its not gonna be easy !!
247697
Don't rush into anything. If he wants more, that's up to you. If you're not ready, then he should respect that. You should keep track of your goals and not get distracted. But you could also have your guy. You could make a packed to be together and not see other people, but let him know that you have goals you need to get through them. So there may be times you can't focus on him, but you won't be seeing anyone else. He should understand :) Good luck
1112819
First thing I notice: clothing. what you wear says a lot about who you are. generally I look for clean clothes, comfortable, perhaps buttoned shirt or polo. Jeans and their fit say a lot about a person. a person who wears jeans that expose their posterior and most of their boxers says "I'm a faux gangster tryin' to live tha thug lifestyle before mommy comes and picks me up. I have no ambition and fewer prospects." (I should mention that I'm in my early 20's, and this is still the impression I get about guys around my age) a guy who has slightly baggy pants, but shows no a** tells me "I'm relaxed and easy going overall. I'm not too conservative, but I'm decent". a well dressed man in slacks and a nice shirt says "I'm corporate. I make money and I'm doing well for myself". guys who tuck in their shirts and wear tight jeans with big belts say "I'm a dude, and I don't take S**t from women" (basically, it appears they have a stick shoved in their rectum... and who wants to date that?) guys in dirty or seriously ripped clothing says "I don't care about me, and I'll care less about you". and guys in all black with black hair and black painted nails scream "I want to suck your blood and make love to your corpse". Run!\n\nThe next thing is build. since I'm a bigger woman, a man with a small frame is not a good suit for me. I'll break them in half before anything good gets going! then again, huge muscles are kind of creepy, in my opinion. a medium build of medium height is sufficient. weight doesn't really bother me all that much. it's preferrable to be shorter than the guy, but I'd hate to be accused of being sizist. you just don't know who's a good guy until you look.\n\nNext I look at what they are doing. are they flirting with everyone? not really a good choice. their attention is easily divided. are they having a good conversation? that could be interesting. are they looking around? they're interested in what's going on, and so might be easier to approach. are they approaching me? sure, I'll give you the time of day. are they being infantile? Sorry, I'm not a pedophile. I want to be with a man! there are many more situations that can make me assess things in all kinds of ways. but the number one rule: if they are with another woman, HANDS OFF! you automatically assume he is interested in her, and poaching is not cool.\n\nThe last thing to scope is the face. look at the eyes. You really can see a lot about a person in their eyes. knitted eyebrows, small, hard eyes, round, open eyes, laugh lines, etc. all the little details in that area give clues about who you are talking to. the mouth: is it tightly set? is it smiling? scowling? laughing? frowning? going up to a moody guy is not my idea of fun.\n\nOther than that, it's a free-for-all. That's just the preliminary 2 second staredown that I give. for more permanent situations, I'd have to write a book, which I don't think many people would want to read. hope that answers your question!
132270
I agree with Ted's assessment entirely.  I am a big fan of the "brutally, but compassionately honest" school.  If you allow someone who has no shot at a relationship with you to believe that such a shot exists and is within his grasp, he will only hear that but for the enumerated shortcoming, you would like him the way that he likes you.  It is best to tell him that, despite many wonderful qualities, you don't feel attracted to him in that way and you don't see that changing.  Be nice and polite, but be straight with him.  Reasonable people appreciate the avoidance of mixed signals.  Best of luck to you.
1000080
Listennnnn... Can i be real with you? I can... thank you. First off not all guys are jerks i know ladies i know there are dogs out there but there are some female dogs ( i aint gonna say it) out there too. But if you always on look out you might push away some real good guys. A good way to tell is look at his friends and how he acts with them if most of them are assholes he might be too. Ask other girls about him. Other thing is most girls let there friends pick there male counterpart I say what do you think do you feel he is? So Listennnnn to ya boy give him a chance you only live once.
579134
Before   you  get  involved  with  this  guy,  do  what  any  reasonable   person  would  do. Weigh   the  PROS  and   CONS of  getting  involved  with  him. This  guy is   supposed  to   make  you  happy  not  drown   you  in   worry so  do   what's  best  for  you .Liking  him  is   not  a  bad  thing  all  I'm  saying  is , don't  put  yourself  on  the  line because  of  this.
821186
OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
865310
My advice, be wary.  You could just be his 'off chick'.  Don't invest too much, he doesn't sound too serious.
749415
Yeah, sounds a bit fishy. Being a guy I would say he is hiding something, maybe he has another bird on the go. look most guys, trust me, if not all guys want one thing and not necessarily from one place. do some investigating, surprise him and see if you can find anything. sorry if it seems harsh but I know the signs\nI tell you what, if you have any suspicions like he's said something that sounds odd let me know and I'll interpret it based on personal experience.
87349
Hi guys in away are not that much different than then the ladies, most are easy to make small talk. \n\nThe guys like compliments, IE i like your jacket, your shoes, maybe your paints exc. If you don't not get a conv. started either there not interested or bashful/ shy. I would say the latter.\n\nHave a great day. Don
196811
Is it normal...hummm..yes, for a guy to ask. People get to a point where they want to experiment or try something they "heard" is new or exciting. However, if you feel uncomfortable or your "womanly" sixth sense is alerting you to something, then I would becareful and listen to it. \n\nAlso, talk to him and let him know your feelings and what are your concerns. You will know by his reaction whether you two are on the same page or feel the same way.  If this is something you are not ready for or would NOT ever do, then stay true to yourself. There ARE men out there that have outgrown this need or feel differently as they mature. Just my $0.02.