How can I understand that someone is lying to me?
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There are often cues and signs that someone may be lying. There may also be understandable reasons for the lie.\n \n1.  Look for body language that might indicate someone is lying, such as not looking you in the eye when speaking to you, being fidgety, or acting nervous or uncomfortable.\n \n2.  Listen for inconsistencies in what the person tells you, such as different stories on different days, different time frames, mistakes in remembering details or mixing up details.\n \n3.  Notice if the person steadfastly resists answering any questions. Extreme defensiveness could mean that he or she is trying to hide something.\n \n4.  Notice if the person accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you really haven't been. This could reflect the other person's own underlying behavior, which he or she is projecting onto you rather than owning up to it.\n \n5.  Listen to your gut and intuition. You may just know someone is lying. If you are not sure, don't jump to conclusions. Try to get some evidence to back up your hunch.\n \n6.  Consider asking directly if the person has lied to you. Many people feel bad getting caught up in lies, and find it a relief to finally be honest.\n \n7.  Try to be understanding and listen to the person's reasons for lying. Was he trying not to hurt you? Was she afraid you would be angry, upset or disappointed?\n \n8.  Look at your possible role in having someone lie to you. Are you someone who gets so upset hearing the truth that others feel they can't be honest with you?
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well chances are, she IS lying to you.  It may not be that big of a deal, and there may be some good reasons for it (although I dont think theres ever good reasons to lie)\n\neither way, I am sure she has her reasons, if you cant bear with it, leave her.
13253
he's lying.\n1) assuming the man is telling the truth, then the sentence "everything i say to u is a lie" is to be believed. so he IS lying.\n2) assuming the man is lying, then the sentence "everything i say to u is a lie" is a lie itself. So he IS still lying.
302255
possibility that he is. do you have more than just his lies to back up your question? Did he say anything, not say anything, or lie about something big? Ask him what is going on. he might just b honest with you. good luck!
62702
Everyone lies to some degree. Do you think that when you lied in the past that you had a certain look that everyone could recognize? You didn't. Only the people who knew you really well could tell you were lying, like your parents. Some people present themselves as being honest but almost all the time people find out they aren't. It is only when a person gets to know you really well, can they tell by your facial expressions and your body language that you are lying. There is no look or expression that tells other people you are telling the truth. People can tell how honest you are by getting to know you. I consider myself a pretty honest person and one of my friends told me, I was the most honest person they knew. I don't usually lie to people but on the other hand I don't always answer someone when they ask me something personal that I don't want to tell them or I think is none of their business. By not telling them, I don't think I am lying or being dishonest. I am guessing you are a kid. When you are a kid, the consequences of your lying are usually being kept in your room, not getting a toy but that depends on what you lied about. If you become an adult who lies, it could lead to much more serious consequences and once again it depends on what you lie about. You could lose a job for lying, lose your best friend. I hope you continue working on being honest. That is a good character trait to have. Hope I helped you understand.
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There are a variety of elements that come into play....\n\n- The skill of the individual trying to see if the other person is lying.\n\n- How practiced and skilled the individual is who is at lying.\n\n- How well they know each other.\n\n- The state of mind of the reader in that moment (i.e. how focused they are, the presence of mind-altering substances, etc.)\n\n\nKeep in mind that it's not only body language, there are tons of other subtle cues that the reader may or may not even pick up on a conscious level. This often plays out in a "gut feeling" the person is lying though the reader is unable to point to any external evidence.
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do u know to whom they lie they lie at them selfs \nyes thats true, they are not lieing at us.\n\nand how to deal with them will u cant deal with them no matter what u do they will always lie lie cz all of there life is a big lie.\n\ndont care about them just leave them cz trust me u wont get anywhere with these people
656181
good on you for telling her off.\nThey are probably continuing more discreetly.\nFace it, they both lied to you until you found them out.
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I would ask him straight out whether it is true or not.  Rumours have a nasty habit of being either completely false or only tell one side of the story.  Asking one of his close friends may be a good option, but bear in mind if it is one of HIS good friends their first loyalty is to him not you and they may not want to tell you the truth if they think it will cause problems for him later.  Also remember that maybe it is true but it may not be a black and white story.  Work out what you are prepared to accept and don't make any decisions on the spot.  Let him know upfront you will have to consider the situation before you give him an answer.\n\nGood luck!
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No one on here can tell you whether she is lying and playing you or whether she is telling the truth. For me there are 2 scenarios and 2 ways you can go about it:\n1) She is lying, her mother wasnt really killed in a car accident and she is playing you for a sucker thinking that you'll wait around for her forever. I know its not easy to think that this could ever have any truth to it but how well do you really know this girl? Especially since her mother happened to die just before you were going to meet them? Anyway the only way to really find out whats going on is talk to her friends.. you have to know who they are. Try finding a relations of her by looking her last name up in the phone book. Just do a little detective work...\n\n2) If you do find out that her mum did die in a car accident then she will be going through the worst possible time and all you can do is wait and hope that she comes back and looks to you for comfort. Just be there for when the time comes and she needs someones support. Losing someone you love is never easy.. she'll come back eventually.
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They will avert their eyes or fidget, They will also have to spend longer thinking about a lie and either provide too much detail of non at all.\nThe best thing to do is to observe them and the way they act while you know they are not lying. Then when they do lie it will be obvious to you.
840204
You are either lying, or you are one F**ked up individual.
1021813
It sounds to me like he's confused.  Worst case, he's lying to you or at least not giving you the whole truth.  Speak candidly with him, find out the entire story and make a connection with him!  How does he really feel about you?  When he answers, do you believe him?  Listen to your instincts!
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It depends on how well you know the person.  If you suspect someone is lying just ask round about questions on the subject in question and see how different the answers are.  Works like a charm.
1065011
One's truth may be another's lie.
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First you have to think this simple question, has he ever lied in the past?  Someone who has never lied to you before you should be able to trust more quite obviously.  Does this person have a reason to lie to you?  Remember that more than half of our communication is based upon body language.  Learn to read more than just his words.  Although there is no exact way to tell if someone is lying you can always do your best to learn how the person acts when they are telling the truth and when they are lying.  Without knowing what you think the person is lying about I can't really go into any more detail.  Just remember that in a relation trust is a key factor.  If you can't trust someone you really can't be that close to them.  Be as straight forward as possible.  Hope this helps, best of luck.
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Look at their avatar.\n\nAsk yourself "Does that person seem honest?"\n\nOnly the avatar will tell.