id like to slow sex drive so that i may love my lady again how can i go about doing so?
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Well my best suggestion to you is to cut back on the sex and definitly cuddle more and be more romantic. If you get the urge too bad go to the restroom and masterbat to relieve yourself. Being a woman myself, I know how it feels to think that all a man wants from me is sex but the longer you two are together then she will eventually realize you love her(if you do) and sex isn't ALL you want
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massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
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take it slow\ncommunicate about what feels good and what doesn't\nuse condoms
468205
you could try hypnosis.  there's also a book on falling out of love.
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Take your TIME! \nTry LONG and VERY SLOW! \nJust play, gently and passionately for hours, keeping her aroused, and close to coming, but not actually letting her go the last few yards.
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I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
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well try meditating or a cold shower or pick up a bible that should help if not go to a sex therapist.
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Pay more attention to your partner than to yourself.\nLearn control.
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First you must have her trust, second you will probably need to communcate the following things to her:\n\nYou would stop at any time if it is too painful, and that would be okay. \nYou will go VERY slowly. \nIt gets better and easier over time.\nJust explain that you are curious, and it is something you want to try.\nYou will use copious amounts of lube.\n\nAlso do not push her to do it if she really does not want to.
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I don't think the money issue has much to do with not having sex for 4 years.. right? Well, to be blunt, maybe your/she's bored? You should probably think of ways to get the spark going again.. Maybe make a romantic gesture, do more activities together, etc..  If your wife wants you to hug her and kiss her there's not much of a problem with her.. Kissing and hugging lead to sex.. It's just a long dryspell you went through.. I'm sure you guys can work things out. Best of luck.
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Start light :)\n\nSmile at her. Tell her you are going for a nice evening walk and ask her if she wants to come with you. In that order. Repeat often~  \n\nAlso, if you have a small yard or a park nearby Bocci Ball is a fun way to get yourselves standing, bending and walking back and forth in the open air. It's a good low impact activity (like a quiet sexy elegant italian version of bowling) that could inspire more physical fun in your day to day life. If you have kids they can join in. It's so fun. If she won't play sober add a glass of wine to the invite. She'll like that. And one glass of wine a day has health benefits. And can spark romance. Ohh La La. ;) Go for it!\n\nIf you have a yard plant a vegetable garden with her. It's nice light physical work and spiritually healing. You'll be eating more veggies which means more energy, less sleeping.\n\nWalk to restaurants instead of ordering in. If you live in too rural an area to do that, drive to the restaurant but park a few blocks away and walk over.\n\nPose these things as small little daily romantic adventures that you have planned for you and her. These are things you are doing for her, and you as a couple so you can both continue to find joy in being alive and well together for a long time.\n\nMore motivation techniques:\nHold hands, kiss her in the kitchen, hug her in the den. Just small acts of physical affection will make you both feel more energized. Plus the chance that her husband may sweetly flirt with her will make a woman want to do more things to make herself more attractive.
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Make sure you don't have any physical reasons that it is lacking.  Have a full physical to rule out anything that would interfere.  Diabetes, high blood pressure, adrenal exhaustion, thyroid conditions, hormone imbalance.  Sometimes a low sex drive is a signal that something's going on.  Check it out.\n\nMake sure you're getting plenty of rest, water, and vitamins and minerals.\n\nMake sure nothing in your past is getting in your way.  Remnants of past relationships, bad experiences, anger, guilt, fear - all drain the drive right out of you.\n\nMake sure your relationship with your spouse is good.  Low sex drive can be a signal that something needs repair in your relationship.  It's worth the work to resolve it.\n\nMake sure you are someone you are happy being.  When you love your life, take care of yourself, and love your spouse the rest takes care of itself.
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do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
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You shouldn't.  Sex is a natural process.  Abstaining is unnatural.  The human sex-drive is second only to the hunger-drive.  Just use protection and don't knock her up!
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Most men can go through moments of temporary impotence. This sounds like a purely psychological problem rather than a physical one. This might sound cheesy (no pun intended) you could try watching an erotic movie together, only if your girlfriend is willing though. Don't try to make love like you have it fitted into your daily agenda, be spontanious to keep the exitement alive. If you plan to have sex you will start to worry all day long i.e "what if i can't get an erection again, she will think i don't love her anymore, she will start looking for someone else, i can't satisfy her anymore" etc....It is probably only a temporary thing. If you are going through a stressfull time that can have an effect, if you are suffering from depression that can have an effect. Reassyre your girlfriend that you love her, don't keep your fears to yourself, talk your problem through. You should be ok though.
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You don't seem very keen on her any more.  I'd suggest you go to relate or some sort of relationship counselling.\n\nYou could try making a new start: tell her you's like to reignite the spark of your relationship, that you think you've been taking her for granted.  Ask her if she wants to work with you to make things better.\n\nStart eating meals together and going out together.  Restart physical contact without expecting it to lead to sex - cuddles, kisses, maybe rub her shoulders.\n\nNotice if she looks good and tell her.  Take it in turns to cook and compliment her if she makes something you enjoy.\n\nDon't expect an overnight change.
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Marry her, then she'll lose her sex drive. ( Ask any man that has been married for over three years ).