Do you think its wise to date a guy who has kid? What has been your experience?
151506
i don't see why not? i have dated alot of guys who had kids and i had no problems with the guy (regarding the child), the kid(s) or the baby mamas.there are boundries u dont cross where the child is concerned.i had no bad experiences, u got 2 know the child comes first its his priority.he's going 2 have to get child space and my dear dont forget he's going to have to be in contact with the child's mother.
1085008
Well honey he met you first, most people won't marry someone to be there for their kids.  \nHowever with out more information I couldn't tell you, other than that I would say he's marrying you for you AND your kids.
440788
I'm fine with it. my past 2 relationships have been with women who have kids.it all depends on the the type of guy you are,if your guy who really like kids like me, then it won't be a problem.it's only a problem if the female is looking for a father for her kids more than a boyfriend or husband.I love kids and relate to them very well,hell I still watch cartoons and play video games so for me it's all good.
689221
People have kids...it's human nature and what keeps our planet populated.\n\nIf you don't like/want kids, then don't date someone with them.\n\nIf you do, than think of it as, you missed out on some of the crying/pants pooping years and it will be that much easier.\n\nAs a woman, I think, "cool...I get to be a p/t mom with no pregnancy or labor pains".
869250
i believe i can answer this...from both sides of the fence...being a single w/o children, meeting someone who does have kids, unless your really looking for Friends With Benefits and not thinking about getting serious, some would think the kids would get in the way. Now if you are the opposite, looking to get serious and not FWB, the kids are a good way to show the woman that you have a caring and nurturing side to you. \n\nNOW...the otherside of the fence...being a single with children, since i do have a 6yr old but he doesnt live with me....\n\ni find it hard to find someone who is willing to date me because they dont want to get in the middle of "baby momma drama"...the same as a guy doesnt want to get in the middle of "baby daddy drama"....but if there is no drama...then i say hook up...hang out...and see where it goes...
319037
Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
400261
That depends on what you're comfortable with. I would never date someone who had a kid myself. Also what kind of woman is she? Some women take advantage of guys and try to get them to support children that aren't even theirs. I'm not saying she's like that, but some of them are, especially if they're feeling overwhelmed. Also keep in mind if you get married and you go through the teen years with them they'll go through the oh so painful "you're not my daddy" phase. Just think carefully about what you're getting into.
560112
i know people who have. it takes attention/energy away from the children to be channelled to the girlfriend/boyfriend. children sometimes become resentful; rarely turns out as a good situation. i work in child protection and abused children are often at the hands of their parents' gf/bf.\nbad idea all around. if i had children and somehow ended up single, i think i'd hold off on dating until they were older. the problem is that if you date someone with kids, you aren't going to love those children as much as your own unless you are absolutely amazing, and so many lie to themselves that they love their sig.other's kids but then they have a bio kid of their own together and suddenly that child is more important- your own flesh and blood. i'm dead serious i see this all the time.
329159
Run and never look back.I have three kids with this guy and he does nothing for my kids and he's in the same town, what do you think a guy would do living in another country? unless you are financially stable enough and your prepared to raise this baby by yourself then don't do it.
554606
If a man had 3 children by 2 ex wives and was a good father to them, then no I wouldn't be put off. If he was a single parent due to an unfortunate circumstance absolutely not I'd still would trying dating him. BUT if he's a male whose a baby daddy (regardless of race, age, or income) of 2 different women then that would definitely put me off. Especially if his 3 children are very close in age that makes me question his respect for women, his children, his views on relationships and safe sex, also if he's a man (achieved status) or a male (ascribed status).
460771
You know when you are ready to accept all the consequences: the good and above all, the bad. When you think you are ready to raise a child if you get pregnant, or to live the rest of your life with a sexual transmitted disease like aids and syphilis. If the guy then is worth it and you are prepared to tell your child why you had him/her, then go for it. If you can't accept the possibility and probability of any of the above, then don't.
245864
YES IT IS OK YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, AND YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A BABY FROM SOMEONE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO STAY WITH HIM. JUST MAKE SURE THAT THE PERSON WHOM DECIDE TO DATE IS LOVING AND CARING TO YOU AND YOUR CHILD.
260874
As a guy that has dated a single mother before - it has never come down to dealing with the ex-husband or the children being an issue. It has been an issue in the communication between the woman and myself. I expect that the kids will take precedence. I expect that she will need to talk to the father of her children and sometimes interact with them on a day to day basis. If you are up front and honest with the prospective boyfriend and communicate with him about the needs of your children and the interaction you have with their father it will help matters. You may find that looking for single dads may help as they are familiar with the needs of communicating with the mother of their children.
236689
You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
167684
You are in for it. If he spends lots of time with the baby and its not alone. (at his ex's place without you) THen he's probably doing something with her and you. SO if your not into that, you have a lot of thinking to do. Its better to love and lost and never loved at all. (men in black)
122868
Well, in my opinion, i think it is a little too young to have children. I mean it is a big responibility. You should think it over before having kids. Have you found the right guy, and are you in love? Questions like that! Hope this helps!!!! ^.^
1098670
When my husband and I started dating, I had a 2 year old and a 5 month-old. It'll happen, just be patient.