I had a boyfriend of 4.5 years.He broke up with me and now he wants to vacation together. Should I go w/him?
137948
NO!!!!  I'd tell him you want to see how things go for awhile before you go on vacation with him.  Not having sex is going to be hard enough on both of you going on vacation just the 2 of you is way to tempting.
906559
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
510785
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
16909
hey girl my ex boyfriend for 1year and a month he also went out with one of my friends when they were going out he relized that he should be with me just give the guy time and maybe you to will get back together just give him space and let him relize that you are the one for him
1163744
If he broke up with you to explore his options and regrets his decision now that it's not working out in his favor, TOO BAD! Do not take him back. He was selfish enough to end what you had to start something new, who's to say he won't repeat these actions. If you go back to him, he'll know you're weak and will prey on that as long as you give into whatever conveniences him. Just love yourself more than that. He doesn't even deserve someone as nice as you, you can do better. Good luck in love and life!
279570
he might simply be missing your company and want to try being friend (one of my best friends is a guy i dated for 2 years) if he broke up with you...and now wants to get back...let him explain to you why he left you, and why he wants to get back together...from his answer, you should be able to tell if he's serious or not.  and then make him work for it...but be careful...if you're unreasonable, you might lose him again.  just make him think that you might have moved on by pretending to be busy.  don't just see him at a drop of a hat...ex. tell him you're busy today but maybe you can meet up tomorrow etc.
286975
It doesn't sound like you want him so it would be WRONG to go back to him.\n\nAlso it didn't work out the first time, so it probably wont work this time.
136853
No, but you surely need to give him space to be around with his friends WITHOUT YOU sometimes.  You know you both had a life before you got together, and for your relationship to be healthy, both of you need to balance the time you spend together and the balance you spend with your friends/family.\n\nIt is not good to demand all his time for yourself
781388
You're right, they should. But maybe he's wishing for the single life again. Tell him to grow up and move home, or pack up and move on. He can't have you both ways.
274940
Well, I think you should ask for his opinion. Just carry on for a lil while, and if you both find that you cannot bear the circumstance any longer then maybe breaking up is good for both of you. At least you don't have to worry too much about meeting each other and the distance either.\nBut if you two (esp. him) feel that you can still carry on, and that the love is true and strong enough to help you overcome this obstacle, then just stand beside him and fight for it. Happiness just worths its name if it is gained from challenges and hardship. Nothing valuable is easy to get my dear : )\n\nStand firm, and if you two have the same idea, then just go with it, whatever it might be...
240763
It's not a good idea but it's a great idea. I think it's important for you to get back with your ex because you have to do it for your kids and their own future. But if the two of you argued a lot then it's better to have seperate kids with you because when a couple argue and there's kids involved they will affected mentally and physically. But it's still up to you, it's your decision.
330143
i dont think it would hurt anything if you were to go see him, but be careful he may think that you are trying to rub your success in his face and get really upset with you.  But if it were me and if it werent for my kids, i would have nothing at all to do with my ex.  Do what you feel is right for you
1021965
Personally, I wouldn't. Just based on my own experiences.\n\nI had an ex similar to yours, broke up for similar reasons, and he wasn't interested in getting back together until there was another guy in my life. He (years later) admitted to me that he always assumed he could have me back whenever he wanted me, when he decided it was convenient for HIS life! \n\nBut I wasn't willing to put MY life on hold until he got around to feeling like being a decent boyfriend.\n\nThank goodness I didn't. I moved on, dated other people, and eventually met and married my husband who was worth suffering every guy who came before him!\n\nIf you haven't really considered being with him again before now, my advice is, don't.\nIt's not 5 years wasted if you don't go back, it's 5 years of a lesson learned - don't unlearn it!
277901
If he's your boyfriend you are going with him. If your happy in which you   must not be as your asking this. Keep in mind no couples are always happy but the good and happiness need to be more than the not so good times.And if you've dated long enough you know what is not there for you .
414216
if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
706831
I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
1017516
He is taking advantage of his freedom and figuring things out.  Stop stressing about him and enjoy the other things you have in your life.  Not that that's easy though... There is always the chance that he might come back... but why do you want to be with a guy who broke up with you?  So that he can do it again later on down the road?  I think you should work on moving on... don't wait around for a guy that is probably sleeping around right now.