What's the best way to tell your "very catholic" parents that you have a steady and serious GAY relationship?
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Tough one.  My first (gay) boyfriend was, and is, a serious and observant Roman Catholic; I went to Mass with him once and he goes every week.  So the two things are not totally incompatible.  I'm middle aged though so I didn't have parents to deal with.\n\nI'd suggest contacting PFLAG for support and advice.
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TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
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Do what you feel right for you. If you're sure this guy likes you back then you can fight it together. Does his parents know he's gay? If they do it'd be even better they can talk with you parents and let them understand.\n Just remember one thing: GOD DOESN'T HATE GAYS, no matter what anybody tells you just remember that sentence and you'll be just fine.\n\n I know exactly how you feel, I'm gay too and my parents doesn't know either and I'm really scared of telling them but I know I have to someday.\n\n If you're 100% you're gay then you have to tell them, you owe it to them, they need to know and then they'll decide. If you're still living with them then don't tell them until you move out so they won't kick you out.\n\n Hope everything works out good for you.\n  Keep in touch (Click on my name and then click "Contact Michael" if you would like to send me an email)\n         Chao                                  Peace
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Best thing is to only tell people you trust, like a close friend preferrably a girl, they seem to be more understanding than a typical guy friend. I wouldnt tell your parents just yet I would hold off until it feels right, it seems to me your learning about yourself right now and you found something that interests you, and it may be something that passes and it may not so I wouldnt alarm anyone just yet. Take a deep breath and think about what it is your looking for and go for it. When the newness wears off and your sure you will always be this way, then tell your family because then you will be more confident that this is how you are and they have to accept you. I have seen alot of parents go to the extreme when finding out their child is not as perfect as they hoped, or they have different looks on thier life than their parents expected, just something to think about. Lots of luck bud...
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Um gay people are everywhere.  You need to ask your parents about that one.
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Perhaps your mom is trying to find a place because she wants you to know that she understands.  \n\nI hate to say this, but I did the same when my son came out this summer.  I think I was the last person that knew he was gay.  I am sure it's denial that I've been in; nonetheless, I felt somehow that I needed to show him that I care and understand...and accept him no matter what.  How does one show that when presented with new lifestyle?  I told him that I could attend groups that support gays and was advising him to hang out with other gays so no one picks fun of him.  It may sound ridiculous but its just a mother making sure her child is "safe."  We may accept and understand but we know others do not and we just want to protect ours.\n\nSo you could really sit down with your mother and explain to her that you pretty much know what you want to do but let her know you appreciate her attempts to help you.  You can reassure her that you are not depressed, that you are also not bipolar.  \n\nSometimes when a parent doesn't understand (or accept readily), we think something else is the cause.  Just be frank with her so that she understands that you know what you want in life and that this is it...that she doesn't have to feel she needs to "orchestrate."   My son is 26.  He had to tell me because I didn't think I was doing that.  It's hard not to "mother" so much.  :)
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that's very good of you as a parent . check the LGBT organizations in your town  http://www.lagaycenter.org/site/c.mvI4IhNZJwE/b.879315/k.D7A3/Homepage.htm\n\n this link might  help , the  best is that he get all the information about the bad things he will be exposed ( as teen no necessary for being gay ) and how to handle her orientation in the best way to  have a normal life and hopefully meet is life partner some day and pursue a good education  5 thumps u for being a good father
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First, I am assuming you are young from your question.  The phrase "strict Catholic family," has no meaning.  A strict Catholic in Boise, Idaho and a strict Catholic in Malankara, India are completely different.  Second, speaking as a Catholic, God gave you a mind for a reason.  He expects you to use it.  You are worried about their reaction, but you may be a blessing to them.  I would be utterly shocked if you believed the way they do and I would be shocked if they believe the way their parents did either.\n\nSecond, my guess is that your family is "proper."  That group, regardless of their religion, is the guardians of every society and group.  They are society's policemen and firemen, quite often they are physicians and lawyers.  It is common for them to be bankers and accountants as well.  Likewise they are often schoolteachers and homemakers.\n\nI suspect you are not.  If you were, you wouldn't be having these issues.\n\nI have a set of recommendations for you, they will require some reading.  If I knew where you lived, I could probably recommend people to talk to instead.\n\nFirst, pray.  Prayer is amazing.  You will be surprised where you will end up.  Join with them in prayer too, so there is no mistake you are abandoning the family.\n\nSecond, if you are changing denominations, find a Catholic priest to talk to.  Not to change your mind, but to help you understand and be coherent.  You need a spiritual guide in this.  This isn't about changing sides, it is about intellectual honesty.\n\nThird, you view your parents as children do it sounds like.  I would view your parents as any other adult.  You need to begin this process of simply understanding them as any other adult.  This requires a lot of maturity.  I would suggest reading one of two books, if not both.\n\nThe first is "Gifts Differing," by Isabelle Myers.  The second is "Type Talk," by Otto Kroeger. Both are good books to understand other people, and yourself with.  You may find there is more difference psychologically than there is spiritually.\n\nFinally, you need to be able to look deeply at what is going on with your parents, from their point of view.  I would suggest "Why Do Catholics Do That," by Kevin Johnson.  It is likely you disagree with things simply because you see them as wrong.  They may be wrong or you may be wrong.  If they believed the sky was green, strictly, you may not be able to disuade them unless you take them outside.  Since you generally cannot take away or erase anyone's personal experiences of religion to take them outside, you need to try and understand them.\n\nFinally, if you are remaining Christian and especially if you are remaining Catholic but see it differently, pick up the bible and read the four Gospels.  Listen to them and let them speak to you.\n\nI bet they will surprise you.  Don't go in as a child, go in as someone they respect.  Pray, read, talk with others, especially others who share your parents view not yours.  If you talk to people who think like you, it will just be like talking to yourself.  What is the point in that?\n\nFinally, let them get offended.  It is their right if it is necessary.  That is part of adulthood, but don't go in to hurt or break relationships.  There is no point or value in that.
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That really is a hard one to answer, a part of me would tell you to tell your parents yet there is a chance that things there could go sour. If I were you I would do my research i.e. stories out of the bible ( The good simaritain, the prodgical son... to name a couple. the prodgical son talks about unconditional love.)\nRemember being gay isnt against any belief its the sexual acts that arent liked in the church before marriage that goes for those who identify as straight as well,\nBut if you decide to hide it they will find out in the long run. Maybe drop hints here and there.
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Well Sweety, honesty is in most cases the best policy. Don't you think that she will find out one day? I would sit down with her and tell her that you need to tell her something that she might find shocking or that she might be upset about. Then, tell her, "Mom, I want you to know how much I love you and what a good mother you've always been (if this is true), and I need you to hear me out and try to stand by me, because I really need you now." Something to that effect. You may want to pick up some literature on parental understanding and support for parents of gay children. There's no real easy way to do it but I can tell that it's something you must do for your own peace of mind. I'm a mother and I can tell you that for most mothers, there is nothing that will change their love for their children, even if they are upset. The bond is so very strong between mother and child that I'm willing to bet that she will not stop loving you. She may be upset and unaccepting at first but if you keep the lines of communication open, you will work things out. Good luck, Honey. Here are some websites that might help you:\nwww.gayfamilysupport.com\nwww.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html
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tell him the truth in a respectable fashion and decide on a way to continue to share the responsibilities of raising your children TOGETHER.
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The best way is to say nothing and keep it to yourself.  When is the last time anyone who is straight came out as straight?? Be discrete, they will all figure it out sooner or later.  The anouncement is unecessary, awkward, most always backfires by immediate changes in people's opinion of you.  Say nothing, be kind, be discrete, be safe, and have a decent and productive life.......
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tell them you're gay.
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well just let your parents know about him and let them see that you are a responsible adult by letting them know. you shouldn't hold it in and then they find out on their own and then it will all go down hill from there. that's my advice.
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My little sister please hear me out.\n\nMatthew 6:33 says "But seek you first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things will be added unto you."\n\nThere is nothing like just spending time with Jesus, in His word, in prayer, and in worship, all at our masters feet. Yes there is a bit of pleasure in kissing or in the other drives that God has made us with, though all in His time, it is like a beautiful flower that blooms. Love is patient and it is kind. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together then in God's perfect time, by His perfect will, then you both will be together. If it is not God's will then know this that God has someone so much better for you then you could have ever imagined. Please don't just read God's Word, the Bible as just another book, for it is 66 love letters from God to you, and for you to grow and mature by. The love of Jesus for you can't be compared to by anything else, no human relationship or even what we have, for all will seem dim when I am with Him. Seek to really know God first, and in His proper time, You will see that the love that waits will be rewarded. \nTrust God and obey your mom and dad. \nYour in my prayers. God Bless You<>< + ><>
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You don't say no. You tell them that you are flattered and that you like them to, but that you are not allowed to date anyone because you're parents still think you are too young. \n\nThe truth in this situation really is the best way to go because you don't want him to think that you don't like him.
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How about this:\n\n*Tell her it must be okay, because Catholic priests and televangelists do it all the time...\n*Remind her that Jesus himself said that the faithful should be able to handle snakes...\n*Tell her that the first people really beloved by God were always naked.\n*Use the old "Be fruitful and multiply" approach.\n*Ask her if she knew that the phrase "Oh God" is the most common phrase women use during sex, so there must be a connection.\n*Don't even bother using any of these lame @ss ideas. Just dump the little goody-two-shoes. She may be hot, but a 7 that puts out is infinately better than a 10 that doesn't...\n\n-SD-