Parent  Problems!!! Help!!!?
151545
Sounds a lot like my parents. I have shown in every way that I am a good girl, I get good grades, I fulfill my family responsibility, I stay out of trouble, and etc. And yet, they still are strict. Of course, this is unfair b/c I believe with my record, trust should be easily given. I talked to them about what I wanted (a boyfriend) and why I deserve it WHILE presenting the reasons why they should, how good of a person I am, and how happy it will make me if they let me, and how sad and upset I will be if they didn't. If they still say no to whatever they are strict with, ask them why. Ask for an explanation, why they do not trsut you, or why they shouldn't let you experience something that may be valuable to your life. \nWe're in America, we need a little more freedom.\n\nGood luck
1118874
Sadly Liz there is not much you can do except keep a cool head when around you is craziness and encourage both parents to talk, not yell or use spiteful abuse towards each other. Maybe then there is a chance if they can listen to each other, but always remember it's never the kids fault, the problem lies in their relationship. Goodluck I feel for u!
632018
Ok here is what you do.  I am a school bus driver and if the bus company has cameras on the bus they can pull the tape to see if any of the things you say are going on. Also, tell your dean or counselor at school they can help you. My daughter has the same problem and I nip it in the bud real quick.  Your mom is not over dramatic she is just trying to protect you.  Please do the right thing. Fighting him back may feel good at first but if he does not get caught and you do, all you will feel is more angrier. See if your school has a cease and dissist order to sign. That also works very well.
296371
i have been there and done that! first children will test you to see what they can get away with, do not let her do this! spend special time with only her, just have a daddy -daughter day, then tell her that mommy needs that kind of special time too, tell her there are things mom and dad talk about that she would not understand and that she is not to behave like this.when talking try and include her as much as you can, but you need to let her see you will not except this, she should grow out of it soon, but she  needs to know mom is not her equal, and that you love them diffrently, GOOD LUCK
1070825
Talk to your parents about the situation. If they don't seem to help talk to a counselor at school.
411672
wow. you're right. she is psycho. she's going to have lots of problems later in later if she can't handle and control herself.....hurt herself???If i were you, I'd worry about her hurting YOU FIRST!!!....keep your parents appraised of what's going on... try to avoid contact with her, if possible...hopefully, with time, she will move on.....hopefully, she'll move on to a THERAPIST REAL FAST!!
24639
CALMLY talk to your parents. LISTEN to what their concerns are. I am a son, parent, and soon to be grand parent ... Although I rarely took my parents' advice and changed my life because of it, when I did LISTEN, it made my life easier. My parents realize (and I realize as a parent) that kids will NOT do what they want them to do, but if the parents are HEARD, it makes life easier for you, your parents, and the "mate" you are talking about. Think about what they are saying to you, DON'T ARGUE or MAKE THEM THINK like you think - that ain't happening - You allready know your opinion, now PLEASE take 10 minutes and hear the opinion of your parents.
1057652
This is a cooperative effort. BOTH parents and the school need to have open communication with this issue and stay on top of it consistently. The child needs to feel comforable enough with both sides to share whatever issues he/she is having and then the three sit down and try to resolve the issues/conflicts that are occurring. The key words here are consistency and communication between the three:parent school and the child.
170731
Concerning the teacher talk to her and tell her how her blatant disregard and disrespect for your plans bother you. Try to discuss with her how you two can come to a middle ground and an agreement about what to do with the children and activities for them. Concerning you dad you REALLY need to consult your family physician QUICKLY!!!
846120
You need to talk about it & not keep it to yourself. It's been 7 years and it's still bothering you. Your parents might feel that you need counseling. Or if you're really close to your mom maybe just talking to her will help.
629981
Karo is absolutely right. First step: Tell your parents, then your responsibility is done. Then you go on doing the right thing so your parents can handle your sister and not worry about you.\n\nOh, wait--I just read your details--do your parents already know?  Then they are going to have to get outside help. Unfortunately, it is fairly expensive. Tell them to start with the doctor, she will need medical evaluation, a psychiatric workup, and then probably placement in a rehab. My husband and I just put his 16 year old son in a place in Utah. First we tried two different military schools, but his bad behavior just escalated.\n\nFirst step:  enlist help of her pediatrician or doctor. Also, talk to counselor at school.\n\nAnd again, you need to be a help to your parents here, but the biggest help you can be is to just be your normal, good kid self-- do your homework, keep your body, room and clothes neat and clean, don't sass your parents, and stay away from bad people and drugs.
1036888
That is a very hard question. Could you somehow talk a little more to the girl? if not I guess the best thing to do is stay out of it. You could tell her to go to a counselor and tell them her problem and then the counselor could talk to the parents.
151875
This was in response to the other question that you removed:\n\nIt sounds like your parents have a lot of their own issues, and they may be taking them out on you.  You are just a kid -- IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.  Of course, if they ONLY yell and curse when you have done something against their rules, then you need to realize that they will get frustrated with you.  But they should NEVER threaten to hurt you.  If you really get scared for your safety or for someone else in the family, you have to tell someone.\n\nI would recommend talking to someone you can trust outside of your family (school counselor, priest/minister/rabbi, teacher, family friend or neighbor), who can help you learn to cope with what's going on.  In time, you'll want to find a way to approach your parents with your concerns; but that will take some preparation for you to think of a way to talk about it without setting them off.  Or maybe, in a moment of calm (riding in the car seems to be a good time for my son and I to talk) you could say that you are tired of fighting all the time, and suggest family counseling so you can learn better ways to communicate with each other.  \n\nRealize that you and they are humans, and we all make mistakes.  They probably do NOT WANT to hurt you, but they may have their own stress or pain inside of them that they haven't learned to deal with.  For now, try to behave within the rules and don't act out of rebellion (you won't like the result).  Hang in there and remember that with time and patience and love it can get better.
100792
I am sorry to hear about your father. Sounds like your mother may need some help.  I can't begin to give you advice, but my heart goes out to you and your family.
1097608
If this is a serious question, you should talk to someone other than your father regarding his request.  It's a very inappropriate suggestion.  You deserve to be protected from this type of behavior.  Don't be afraid, tell your mom, a counselor or any adult that you can trust.
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
934820
Talk with your parents about this, and perhaps the schools guidance councellor.  The children there seem quite unruly and I think what you describe only happens when there is no adult supervision around.  They may have no clue it's going on ... except for the broken items you mention.  You need to let adults know there's a problem .. start with your own parents and follow their guidance.