how can i be happy avoiding all the responsabilities i dislike?
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As they say, Ignorance is Bliss ... But you can't be truly happy if you avoid responsibility.  Handling responsibility helps us to grow and mature.  The feeling of accomplishing a difficult task is something that CAUSES happiness.
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You asked how to be happy and wholesome. Cool. You asked the question of non-Christian folk. OK. Lets remember what you didn't ask ... How to attain enlightenment, or get to heaven, or please any Deity. Fair enough. So we'll just stick to those first two things ... How to be happy ... Learn to be content with things as they are. That means to practice simple acceptance of other people, places, things, circumstances, etc. When you can accept things as they are you can live without trying to change those things or control those people or etc. You get the idea. While you're accepting others as they are in order to be happy don't forget to extend that same acceptance to your self. Its just a matter of letting everything be what it is, and knowing that its that way for a reason, and ... that's OK. So far ... HAPPINESS = ACCEPTANCE. Now, wholesome. A dictionary definition of "wholesome" is: #1; Promoting good health or wellbeing, healthful. #2; Improving the mind or morals. #3; Looking healty or vigorous. ... Whoa! You're not asking for much, are you? lol Its not that complicated, really. Give life a little thought. Keep your self and your space clean. Get some exercise. Try to eat a ballanced diet. Take a multiple vitamin daily. The health aspect isn't all that hard. That part about improving the mind and morals? A little more work. Improve the mind? Exercise it a little. Read. Watch a little History Channel. I think you know how to exercise your mind already. Just do it consistently. Your morals? That's simple. Simple ought never be confused with easy. Pick a moral code, and ... LIVE IT! Which one? Hey, not my call. Suggestions? Sure. Center your life on (and you don't have to be any of these things to use something they have that YOU find useful) ... The Wiccan Reede. The Jewish 10 Commandments. The "Golden Rule" of Jesus. Whatever. Picking is the easy part. That's simple. Now, living it, that's another story. Be consistant, but be loving with yourself when you make a mistake too. Just DON'T GIVE IT UP! BE CONSISTANT! And last, but not least, get out of self. You do that by helping others and being there for them. It also gives you the exercise you need in acceptance AND your morals. Neither of those work well in a void. ~ Peace & Blessings ~ ;-)
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Get to the basics. Let go the ego and the false pride. Accept mistakes and compromise.\nLive happily everafter.
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You are just focussing on the negative.  A lot of things go the way you planned but you just don't notice it.  Sit down, relax and have a good look at what is really good for you in your life.  Gratitude is a very important lesson we need to learn in life.
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Make a list of their bad habits or traits that irritated you so much...\nRemember all the bad things about them and be glad you have another chance at happiness in life...\nThis is a blessing in disguise...\nI have been there and done that...\nIt seems terrible at first, but later on, you look back and think, what was I worried about...\nAnd you find yourself in a better place than before...\nBest of luck...
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you might benefit from cognitive behavioural therapy. talk to your doc and he should be able to refer you to one. \n\nit just helps you to change the way you look at a negative thought, and think through some other more positive thoughts. you could try it for yourself.\n\nwrite down a situation then how you felt about it. you can then try to write three alternatives that are more positive.\n\nfor eg, what i did, was write that in a meeting i thought that some of the others looked at me as though they hated me. to this my  resonses could have been,\ndont they always look like that? and yes they do with others as well as me!\n\nthey may well hate each other, and i have misinterpreted the atmosphere to be my fault!\n\nand so on... life is too short to worry about these things, try to be positive in the face of adversity even though its so  hard and you will find it gets easier.\n\ngood luck my friend..x
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create a positive attitude about yourself.  Be honest and try to include all in your life.  Your favorite family member is the one you are with at the time show it. If all are present show no favoritism but equal love and respect.  Soon you will overcome the feeling of being negative.
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Quit thinking about the stuff you don't want and start thinking about the things you do want..  Go after what you want and don't focus on the negative things in your life....
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Start tithing.\n\nYou'll find yourself working and budgeting to give back the first fruits of what you make  rather than to be unsatisfied with senseless purchases.  You will derive TRUE happiness from knowing you are helping others, and find yourself with less of an urge to purchase stuff to be happy.\n\nPray about it...see what you think.
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Stay away from the people who are bumming you out. You have to put the most important things to do in your life first! Try to stay away from the things that stress you out. as far as the environment change it if you can. I hope this helps. keep motivated by doing things that you enjoy. if not all the time, most of the time. And if you have to many things going on your best bet is to eliminate some lesser thing you do not need to do.
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How can YOU improve OUR quality of life....\nLead by example  :-)  Use your manners, be socially acceptable, dress appropriately, act appropriately.  Choose your words carefully, apologize where apologies are due.  Turn the other cheek.  Be forgiving.  Learn from your mistakes.  Don't blow things out of proportion (ex.  Me, when something bad happens:  Well, that sucked.  What's next?).  Refuse to engage in conflict, especially petty conflict.  Express your opinion, but do it nicely.  Make your morals and values known, but only if they're not highly controversial.  Don't waste your time trying to change other people, because it's not your problem.  Don't waste your days away trying to fix their problems, because they're not yours to fix.\nEverything in moderation; this is not simply superficial  ;-)
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It's perfectly OKAY to feel like that. Do not become dependent on what others tell you is right and wrong but follow your inner instinct. It's your best guide and you'll always be content with a decision you make. It's you, not the people, that ultimately determine the level of happiness you can reach. Before letting anyone tell you your feelings are wrong, ask yourself if/how that matters to you and whether you need to change your process of sorting out what you think/feel because of that....again, its really you that should drive this process, not the others.
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get rid of it \neliminate it from your life u will be happier\ndelete it
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Live your life to the fullest!! enjoy your new discovery's, be open to explore what is exiting to you. be your own judge on what is right for you.  check your own standards and morals, if you are comfortable with your desires and actions then enjoy all that you are . do not let the opinions of others dictate your level of happiness
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Start enjoying life for one thing. You can't always do everything right, that is why it is called life and we are here to practice life each day. That is why we get another chance the next day.  So make your mistakes, that is the great thing about a mistake is not the regret, but that you learn from them.  If you never make a mistake you will become a very dull person.  Everyone thinks once in awhile, I could have probably done that differently. Then the next time it happens you have your chance to do it differently. So give life a chance and live it. Your mind is your worst enemy, let it go before it holds you back to much. It sounds like it already has. So the next time it happens, tell yourself, STOP!  And just do it.
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First of all just know that your intention to be happy and cheerful is half the battle. If you want it bad enough, with practice, you will absolutely succeed. \n\nYou say you've been this way since childhood and that your mind tends to go in the same direction all the time and right there is the key. After so many years of your mind running your life in a negative direction its now time for you to take over.\n\nYour mind is replaying over and over what it has learnt and now its time for you to retrain it. It takes time and vigilance but with practive you can make it happen. As soon as negative thoughts come up exchange it for something positive. Remind yourself all the time that life is filled with great things going on all the time. \n\nStay away from negative situations and people. Cling to the positive with all your might. Your mind will fight you but after time will learn to let go. Lets say for instance tomorrow you awaken and it raining. Your mind will tell you what a horrible day its going to be. Stop and say out loud "No, its going to be a great day. I am grateful for the rain and all the wonderful things this day holds for me" Everytime you exchange a negative for a positive you will see the change and be encouraged to continue.\n\nI was there, now I am here. Just keep looking forward. Forget about what you did in the past, its gone and can't be repeated. Today is all you have and you can make it a great Today, every single time.
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I hate it when people are negative all the time. It makes me wonder what they have missed in life because of that. If you constantly think something won't work or won't be fun, etc.. it only limits the opportunities in life. I say be happy, try stuff and if it ends up "sucking" then oh well, move on!\nWHY DO PEOPLE COME ON HERE AND WRITE A BOOK FOR THE ANSWER? JUST GET TO THE POINT. NO ONE WANTS TO READ A FRIGGIN ESSAY ON THE SUBJECT.