What if you felt your wife was trying to find a higher paying job than yours to hold it over your head?
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swallow your pride, whats done is done, think of all the extra income, also talk to her about the way you feel or felt and both set some quidlines as to household chores shopping etc. good luck to yoiu both, god bless.
916269
You have a right to be upset with him since things are no longer "just about you" or "just about me". Marriage means decisions effect both of you. You're also allowed to be upset that you can't get a job that might be better for you until after this is settled.\nHe should have been more patient or at least come home and discussed it with you before he quit. Leaving like that and losing that source of income jeopardizes you both. This is something he should have considered. On one hand, you want to be happy in your job and you want to have coworkers that appreciate you BUT, you also need to have a job before you leave one.\nAs for being selfish- you both are to an extent. Its not something to be completely ashamed of- just because you're married doesn't mean you can't think about you...it just means you have to keep you both in consideration.\nWhatever you do, the best thing to do right now is just to be supportive of him. Let him know that it upset you that he didn't talk with you about it first but, don't place blame and don't discard the fact that maybe he really couldn't stay any longer. Good luck
356644
So you had a comparison. I use to be a graphic artist. My job required alot of creativity, long hours, bringing my work home  with me, Deadlines were important. I was juggling work, children, home, and my marriage. \n\nI spent time with my children when I had the day off and after work. I wanted to make sure that they were getting time with me. I was so exausted, that I would not pay attention to my husband, which at the time was working part time after his stint in the military until he found a full-time decent job. \n\nWe would argue about things, I would get forgetful and figured he should cut me some slack. I marriage was not doing well at the time. We had pulled away from each other and the only thing we would do is argue over little things. \n\nI think you have done what I did. get absorbed into your work. Your response is exactly the way I responded to him. I never got credit at home for working the long hours and bring in the money. I then figured out the reason why I didnt get the credit is because I ignored him and how he was doing. \n\nWe had issues, big ones. We finally sat down and talked about them. We agreed to start dating again, once a month we would get a sitter and go out, if we couldnt go out we would rent a movie. We'd talk not about work, but ourselves what we wanted, fun things. \n\nI think that you should tell her that you didnt mean to neglect her, that you have been trying to to what was best and have a decent job, that you didnt see that it was interfering with your marriage so much and that you would like to make things better. Offer a night together and some talking. \n\nThat is the only good advice I can give you.
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Check around and see what comparable jobs are paying. Then, armed with this evidence, request a private meeting to discuss the issue. Explain that your current situation si such that you may soon be paying to work. If she's not willing to budge, consider updating your resume and looking for a different position.
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"Psychic"... A psychick would be a psychiatrist's girlfriend.\nI checked what's going on in your and spouse's b'day's. Get through November, and you'll start seeing a little more light. Although you probably would not wanted to have done this, but, you would have been better off, by 'you' not working, reducing your income, thus, qualifying your family for temporary support. You could have gone back (*or still can) to school, because, next year, you would be in a great position to make a 'career' change, big time! Not only could you be doing something, that would 'pay' more, and be more secure, but, it would be fulfilling a dream, that you have had, but, almost have given up on...Are your children all from this 'marriage'??? If not, what's up with past due child support? No can do? There are organizations, that can assist with that, as well. As far as 'hubby' goes...I'm sure it was not entirely his fault that he was not employed for a 'few' months, it doesn't take long to suffer a set-back. I don't feel like he is doing the type of work, that he is capable of, and or enjoys. Government housing, sounds like a 'dirty word', but, there are many aspects to assistance, and aid. That is what we pay taxes for. Is hubby a 'vet'? does he have any benefits from the government? You don't always need it to purchase government seized property. Not only could you get caught up, you can instill a future for not only yourselves, but, your children, as well. If you further your education and training, you can be getting into a better occupation, within the year. As your income level rises, then hubby can go into some form of training and or trade-program, if he so desires. By the beginning of 2008, not only could you be in your own home, but have secure jobs and futures. Your kid's could be more optomistic about their futures, and their self-worth. Good-Luck!!!
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Would you want to go through all the bs that they have to, like dealing with you, for what they get paid?? \n\nI didn't think so.
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I think so but then as I ponder the question, I came up with the following thoughts:\n\nThese labels are so subjective. A guy who may not make as much money as I do may be a better manager of money, which could put him on a different level financially. Should he be willing to compromise his wealth because I can't balance my check book? Probably not, but would it be socially unacceptable for me expect him to help me out? Nope. It would probably be frowned upon if the situation was in the reverse because men are looked upon as the "breadwinner" or "provider." Alot of men evaluate their manhood on the ability to provide for their family. Which I think is the source of the insecurity and intimidation.\n\nOn the flip side...\n\nIf the women who have it "together" knowingly deal with men who are not on the same "level" and are willing to put up with them, it would be expected that they would be willing to support their man in whatever it takes to make the couple a stronger unit and also promote a health self-esteem/ego for the man. That is if the man feels the need to change. If he is okay with the fact that his wife/girlfriend/partner makes more money or has more education, then it should be okay with the other person.
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If she did that to me, I would look her in the eye and say, "Ask your husband to come here." Most likely she will back off. "If you do not feel comfortable calling your husband over to see what you are doing, can you imagine how it makes me feel?"
504875
if you succeed at everything you did you would have a job now looser
645433
You can't go giving huge  salaries to people.  This woman seems like she would undermine all you have accomplished.  Find someone else, there are many out there.
279367
Don't you think that looking for money as opposed to love is a little shallow?  Money doesn't buy happiness, and if your rich woman has any sense, she will do a pre nuptial agreement.
1075718
Mine was so jealous of my standard of living, that she sabotaged my marriage. I don't know really. Maybe it's because they will always be an outsider that they feel the need to be part of evrything that's going on whether they're welcome or not.
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I don't think it's you.  It's probably the low-level jobs you've worked in the past that make you think you have ME.  Have you ever noticed that the higher-paying jobs are always the ones with the least amount of work and stress involved?
996660
my wife is going through that right now!\nshe gets a little feeling of confinement and not having her own money(as she says). like you she has worked ever since she was old enough a very responsible person and high wage earner, executive actually. now she is totally a stay at home mom and we are living paycheck to paycheck....financially it's hard but if you have daycare there is little advantage. you only have a few precious years to spend with your child before they are gone off to school and you will never get those times back. you are doing something that is WAY more important than yourself....you are helping mold a new person to go forward into the world, give yourself credit for that...it really is a worthy endeavor and you can always go back to work when the child is in school full time. \ntry doing something on-line from home while the baby sleeps if you can.\nBest Wishes, Have Fun:)))\nStu
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sound like he didn't think you would get the job.  I'd remind him of what he said.  If he still feels the same way I'd head off to the new job telling him he can join you if he'd like.  If after what you would consider a reasonable amount of time he still feels the same way I'd take my job over him.  He's being selfish.
566206
Sometimes you have to go where the jobs are or settle for under employment. Here is a link.
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I experienced a similar situation in my marriage: I have a very demanding career and it often requires long hours.  My ex-wife couldn't understand why I was working so hard: I explained it to her but she would provide her own explanations: for example, I was not interested in staying home with her and the kids.  Even today she called me a sperm donor!  Well, marriage is tough.  On one hand I understand a woman expecting to have her husband around and when he is not regardless what the reason, I can understand how she would be unhappy about that.  But a woman who is giving and flexible would understand that although it may not be the ideal situation, her relationship with her husband is the most important in her life and that marriage is supposed to be till death do us part!   Nowadays there are more options for women and more temptation so women are less inclined to work through the difficult times as was once the case.  Even though you still care for her and miss you child, if this is the kind of person she is, then she probably did you a favor.  If you guys get back together, then I wish you the best of luck.  But if you don't I hope that you meet someone who will love and support you come hell or high water - because that is what any good man deserves!