Is it hard to have a friendship with a guy you didn't choose to have a boy/girlfriend relationship with?
148351
It depends on the person you turned down state of mind.
559406
I am not like that and I am a girl.  Friends are the most important for me after my family of course.  Boys come and go, but real friendship never.  I know it is hard to find a friend. I came here 5 years ago and in the beginning I though that in New York no one cares about anyone but themselves.  However, with time I was able to find couple of special people:)) It just takes time and I guess luck. So, good luck!
112127
Actually it doesnt always-my best friend was a male and we set boundaries-sadly he was killed last year in a motorcycle accident-loved him dearly,havent been able to find a friendship like that since...
965462
Hello, Well you could try to be his friend, but you couldn't have a normal friendship because there would allways be that feeling of rejection that he had toward you. And the fact that he's acted like an *** in the past probably means that that the future with him wouldn't be too solid. Really the best thing to do is find another guy to start new with - because I think what you really want is more than a friend relationship and that's a love relationship...right?  You can speak to him and have a casual frienship but look somewhere else for a guy who can make you feel special...Love is what you really want...and I hope you find it...good luck ...ok? ....bye bye
611136
By being a good friend and then finding out that he has a girlfriend and he and his girlfriend have a daughter together.\nBut even though after you find that out that you can still be friends.
200557
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
585761
Maybe he's one of those rare, one in a million guys who actually just want to be friends with a gal.  Just go with out.  You sound quite lucky to me.
269467
Some of us can. I have a girlfriend I am completely happy with. The ONLY interest I have in any other women is as a friend. As for those who can't, they're probably wondering why you can't just accept that they don't want to just be friends. If you just want to be friends, and a guy wants to be more than friends, don't bother with him. You have different ideas about where your relationship should be headed. Or if you do choose to spend time with a guy like that, make it very clear that you're only interested in being friends, that you're not comfortable with him trying to be anything more, and if he makes any advances on you, don't tolerate it.\n\nAdded:\nIf you don't hear from them after you've made it clear that you only want to be friends, the only interest they had in you was as more than a friend. They weren't willing to settle for less, and they have as much right to make that decision as you do to decide that you just want to be friends. Simple as that. What you wanted wasn't enough for them, what they wanted was too much for you. Best to go your separate ways.
38735
It is possible, but not very...  Most men and women that become friends usually end up sleeping together or developing feelings for one another in the long run.  I would recommend against it...
1154858
As they say ,,,,Men come and go , but a friend is hard to find. I wouldn't risk my Friendship over no man. To many men,,,not enough true friends,,so if you have a true friend,,choose the friend, and in my eye,s if she is a true friend and you told her how you feel about him, and why you wont date him, for fear it may cause friction between you and her, if she is a true friend,,,,,she will stay away from him also, out of respect for you!~
384990
I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
1149576
I definitely think they can.  I have several male friends who I'd never date or hook up with, we just talk and hang out.  It makes things easier to have a male's perspective on things.  Plus girls are so scandalous, I know my guy friends wouldn't steal my clothes or my man!!
857735
Yes it's possible. I'm friends with a guy since we were in elementary. We hang out, but we don't get all close. we're just friends. and we've been like that for 4-5 years. We talk and stuff, but we're not interested in dating anybody yet. And he has a lot of friends that are girls, but no flirting, just friends. ;)
1127647
Well, I was guilty of messing around a little bit with his best friend... but never went all the way (and I am glad).\n\nI went on Vacation and he had a long talk with my bf while I was gone... so, you can imagine that I had some explaining to do when I got home...by the way ~ it didnt help my relationship any if that's what you are wondering...\n\nLet us both ponder this... what "friend" would even consider getting with their homeboy's girl?  Maybe friend isn't the best word?   hmmm?
446881
I have had mostly guy friend all my life...so...I think it can happen.  I don't know if they have thought about having sex with me, but none of them have tried anyway...\n:)
774366
Yes, it is possible. I have several male friends who are straight. We even talk about other people we go out with together. It's not a big deal. We enjoy each others company but in a purely platonic way.
1152179
first r u a boy or a girl??? cause if ur a boy r u gay??? well anyways boyfriends r so hard 2 find cause u may think that right when u walk up 2 a person u know u r going 2 become boyfriend and girlfriend but it isnt that easy. u need 2 be friends with that person and get 2 know that person u just cant know ur going 2 get together cause if u say that that person is not right 4 u.