Is it always best to keep in touch with ex-girlfriends, or should I just stop talking to them all together?
157311
Move on.. grow up. If you parted ways on a positive note, keep it that way. So when you "accidentally" meet them elsewhere someday, you can still say "HI" with both your heads up.\n\nStop keeping in touch... this will give them false hopes - unless you intend to get back together. Just move on with your respective lives with no hurt feelings.
745438
Its tempting to go back to your ex for consolation.  Especially since he's known you so well.  But its not worth the hassles.  When i have such an urge, i like to sit back in my room and distinctly plan on how to solve my problem - in a constructive and POSITIVE manner.  Chart out practial steps to solve your problem and follow it step by step.  It is quite empowering.  Dont get frustrated between steps.  everything is a process.  If you do need someone to talk to, slowly take someone into confidence.  its hard to find one person that you like to tell everything to.  you could share some things iwth a friend and some things with another friend - whoever you think will understand.  But its important not to dwell in your problems cos it will just make it seem worse than it really is.  Remember that nothing is really as bad as it seems.  its really that simple.  understand that first.
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
863657
Yes, you should definitely call her. It's not completely over unless she states so. Probably she's holding onto the same ego that you are by not calling her.
488114
It depends on the situation. If you were still dating him when they got together, that's messed up and that's not a friend. But if it was an ex boyfriend, I think that's okay. As long as she comes and talks to you first about it. Not asking for permission, just letting you know what her feelings are. That's a true friend. I don't see anything wrong with friends dating other friends exs but they have to remember that friends come first
521521
If you really find her to be worth pursuing, go for it.  But if you have doubts about her separating herself from past relationships, it would be best to sit back (and maybe move on) and wait to see how she's going to be after a while.  If she's still having emotional issues with her past, the best thing to do is to move on completely, before you become her past as well.
708868
If my mate kept contact with his ex-girlfriend it whether or not it would bother me depends on what type of friendship they had and what reason were they keeping in contact for. If he was honest with me and told me they were now just friends and that he valued her opinion in many things no, it would not bother me. It would also be okay if he told me they were to have lunch together once in a while, as long as he took me along with them or even if he was just honest without taking me along I wouldn't be upset. But if he calls her sneakily and tries to lie to me about the type of relationship that they have together and tries to sneak around just to be with her, than yes that would bother me.\n\nJealousy comes from insecurity, which is why I try my best not to overreact or make myself appear jealous when there is nothing to be jealous over. A male and a female can have a strictly platonic relationship as long as he/she agree to do so in those terms.\n\nI broke up with my ex almost three years ago and we still keep in touch. Even if he were to fall in love and marry someone else I would still want to know and still want to be a part of his life likewise with him, because we means so much to each other.
412497
i tried staying friends with my ex. Seems whenever he was alone then I was OK but whenever he met someone then I was not. If you still love her then I would suggest not staying friends it is heartbreaking every time they find someone new. Then one day they will decide to marry and they will not want to stay friends.  Better to let go now rather than having heart broke time and time again.
133388
Yes yes, this just recently happened to me. I stopped talking to the girl because she dumped me for some dude. then as soon as she breaks up with him it's "I'm sorry I never meant to hurt you it's was all me. I didn't want to bring you down with me." So I am like cool I haven’t talked to you in a couple of months. She is all like I would like to be friends then I like cool let go do something give me a call. I haven’t talk to her since.\n\nIt's because she wants to let there be a possibility of a future when and if she wants it. Also she doesn't want me blaming myself for her dropping me like dog poo.\n\nYeah this situation totally sucks if you cared for the girl. But the best thing that I have found to do. Is forget her and find the next one.
1156919
you should try and get over them..or at least still visit and keep in contact with them.
1010281
well in a way it's a good thing that you're avoiding her..but dont like shut her out completely. once she realizes that you've moved on,she'll probably start to miss you. you know? hah,i sound a lil silly,but i guess what you're doing is okay. give her a call,see if she's in a talkative mood. you can tell if she doesn't wanna talk if theres awkward silences,or if she comes up with a lame excuse to get off the phone. : ]
63769
I'm a guy and I don't stay "friends" with my exes.  As Sam Kinnison put it "Oh, friends, like some kind of emotional tampon, only without the sex".\nNot trying to be crude, ladies.  I'll be pleasant if I see them on the street, but I won't ask them for coffee so we can "catch up" on each other's lives.
31921
Honeesstlly? Bad bad bad idea, coz one time or the other you'll keep getting to see your ex, and thats not too good unless you have something else on your mind ;)
1114393
no, if you just broke up she should maybe give you some time. If she talks to you everday, it will seem like before. So at first it's probably not a good idea. But if its been a while then its fine if it doesn't bother you.
1089342
The new girl isn't going to fill any voids - she might keep you preoccupied for a little while, but thats about it.  You need to let your feelings for your ex come out - and you need to deal with them in order to really move on.
574317
ugh baby you are in the wrong soup.sweetheart take a break from her & meet new gals without any extra baggage.well if she is so indecisive she'll keep going back to her ex.at the moment she is having fun with you as well as her ex n these exes never disappear from the present dating scene.they keep popping up.just chill & staying friends will hurt all the more as you had thought of being more than frnds & her ex'll also pinch you alot.you should really dump her coz she's not worth a dime.let the time pass by while you continue moving with it which'll help you heal better....\nTAKE CARE & GOOD LUCK!!!
287063
Um, you can keep in touch with her like a friend, think of any of your friends , how do you keep in contact with them? Do the same thing.\n\nBut if yor feelings are still fresh and strong, try not to talk to her in a long time, keep busy, after a few months, you will begin to cool down. Everytime you want to talk to her, think of how she feels and remind yourself that she does not want to come back to you.\n\nHave you imagined how it would be like if she came back? Trust me it will be never be the same  knowing that she once wanted to leave you. You will never be sure about her or her feelings again.\n\nSo let the healing begin. I have been there , so I know what am talking about. And what helps is that you two can still talk.\n\nSo do not speak to her like for a month, then may be call her after and then do the same after a month. But keep busy during this time, do the things you love the most. Hang out with your friends more.\n\nBut if you keep talking to her, your healing will be delayed.\n\nHope that helps. I know what you are going through but you will come through. Good luck.