why is it so hard to get an honest husband?
146665
I would ask that about the wife to be honest with you
630775
Well, that's a hard one.\n\nOf course I would want to know.  Honesty is the most important part of a relationship.\n\nHowever, if the person has cheated, I would have a hard time sticking to the marriage plans.  I don't tolerate cheaters.  Or liars for that matter.
1063331
Quality men are hard to find nowadays.  Most men are either gay, taken, or like one lady said here, too brainwashed by the women they see on tv and in magazines they don't realize that most women don't look like that.  Women have realized that they don't need to rely on a man to take care of them, so they take care of themselves and in doing that they don't settle for any crappy man that comes along.
1155651
What I find most interesting about this very good question is the tem "politics."  That's exactly what marriage is, politics!  How do you meet the needs of your partner and have your needs met in return!?  Is it possible?  The interesting thing about political figures is they tell you what you want to hear to get voted into office, and then they seldom if ever deliver!  Relationships are much the same way, we're all guilty of it, portraying what you want the other person to see, what you think they want to hear, and then once your married,.....it's out the window.  Then the true colors come shinning through!  What happened to the amazing man or women I fell in love with??  We ask ourselves scratching our heads.........we bought what we wanted to see, not what really is!  Perhaps we don't change so much once we're married?  Perhaps we just turn into who we really are, then we're insulted when we're not well received, or worse, we feel betrayed by what we have received!?  \nI think this is the situation when asking for what you want or communicating what does or does not work, becomes an issue, because you're already feeling betrayed and or critisized, so it's hard to be open to critisizim.  \nI guess it would help if both parties were completely open and dedicated to keeping it going regardless of their own isecurities, needs or ego's!?  My experience has been no results, and only more pain.....  So I don't know!?  Is honesty always the best policy, or is it what they don't know wont hurt them?  Must we play games in marriage in order to succeed?  I don't know....\nI spent my whole life looking forward to having the love of my life as my life long companion in marriage, and what I've discovered about being married, is that I've never felt more alone!\n\nI'm not sure if any of this really answers the question's at hand, or if it's only triggered more questions!?  But I appreciate your intellect, and thought process and thank you for inspiring my own inquisitive rant.....\n..\nU
220173
It depends on what You expect out of the relationship and what you intend to put into it. There are lots of places you can look, some cost you money without real results and some are free. The hardest part for you is trying to find out who is genuine and who is in it for what he can get.\nIt is a tough one, however if you want to vet them you can use my email address and I will forward them to you.
287292
I myself look for someone with a common outlook on the major things like children, religion, morality.  Traits like honesty, compassion, honor, and respectability.  My husband is not perfect by any means but in the areas where it really counts we are on the same page.
307219
because when we go into a relationship, we really put ourselves out there, and give it 110% expecting the same in return, as whole heartedly as we can be, its really hard to find sincere people these days, but don't dont worry you'll find someone that will care and love you the way you really deserve, and put all their effort into the relationship, the same as your doing.
231233
Being a woman, I don't find myself all that complicated. woman as a whole, I admit...some can be knowingly be complicated. I feel that most women just want what everyone wants. To have someone whose honest,that they can trust,who listens, whose there for them,so on and so forth. I don't think in reality there is much difference between men and women.
189874
Take your time with dating, find who out who you are first so that you can find the right type of guy who will treat you with proper respect and love you for you and not who he wants you to be, and the reason why it is hard to find the good guy is because they are either married, gay or are looking for the right woman.
1142524
Funny, I'm having problems finding a match..\nOh wait, we might be looking for different things. \nGuess that's why we all have to either, wear a sign that tells everyone what we are about, or we have to sit and talk.\nOr do a bit of both.\nAnd then the hard part is being honest with that other person so that we really find out if we want what the other is offering. \nMany times people spin what they think the other person wants to hear to "win" them, then later those pesky little problems start popping up. And then the women want the men to grow up, and the men want the women to keep giving lap dances. Neither understands why the other changed or won't change from before the dating started.\nOoops did I let  secret slip out?
134499
About your marriage?  It could be that he just got cold feet.  Have you tried asking him about it.  Maybe he is worried that he cannot support you.
923361
Honesty above all honesty. That is why I married my hubby cause he was honest with me from the very first time we met.good luck and god bless happy thanksgiving.
635589
I'm sure most women likes a man who's honest from the very beginning. Being yourself all the time is much better for your conscience too than try to be impressive in her eyes and after awhile, your "true" self comes out, so she'll end up being disappointed in you. \n\nWomen likes men who are responsible in most things in life especially in their actions and of course.
1021652
The same way that married men do.... they are lonely and need conversation or perhaps they are sick and tired of their sexual relationship and wants something more exciting or different... but afraid to lose what they have .... especially if they are being financially taken care of...
658758
Yeah you have what it take to get a lady. Like for me i look for a guy who can have just a good converstation and i look for truth ness not a lier,player or a one nite guy. I want some one that can be there in the high and lows and overall get along well.
1018830
There are a lot of "good guys" around. It's just that half the time women aren't looking for a "good guy" and we're forced to turn into something we really don't want to be in order to have a girl around, or we're married and, being the nice guys we are, we're not about to cheat on or leave the women we made a vow to on that wedding day for any reason. I'm lucky. I haven't had to change, despite the fact that it is extremely hard for me to get a girlfriend when I am single. My advice to you: don't go looking for a good guy, you won't find him; let him find you. And don't rush into a relationship head-first (though you know that one I'm sure, I just want to state it anyways). Get to know them really well before you decide to take a chance and get into a relationship with them. As you know pretty well by now, not all of us guys are exactly what we show ourselves to be. Hope that helps you out some.
11580
The perfect wife is an impossibility.  Sorry, but we just weren't made to be perfect.\n\nHumans are not only very individualistic, we are also dynamic.  We change from day to day, and hopefully we grow.  And there is no way two people are going to mesh perfectly in their characters, much less their in their growth.\n\nIf you try to be the perfect wife for someone, something is going to give.  If you give up yourself, in the end you will never be able to have the emotion or intensity to make for a truly good relationship.  This is a soul destroying choice.\n\nInstead, go for being the best and realest wife you can.  This requires true honesty, not just of events but honesty of your own needs and desires.  It also involves compromise which sometimes means that you won't get what you want, and sometimes that your husband won't get what he wants.\n\nIf you have a relationship based on honesty and fairness, it will be greater and richer than any relationship you could have based on perfection.