I a guy having affair with a bisexual woman who's been with her partner for 6yrs - Continue or not?
152594
You are just wasting your time with her if you are hoping to have a real relationship with her.  She's not going to commit to you, she can't stay committed to her current partner.  I certainly hope that you are putting on a raincoat when you hook up with her.  If you know what I mean.  Who knows who else she's hooking up with on the side.  You don't want to walk away with a STD
485764
I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
1175505
Your situation is not unique. I lived with a woman freind of mine whose partner had been married twice both times for 10 years and had kids by both men.   They had a few lesbian friends who were in similar situation.  Married young and came out afterward.  Glad you found out early.
1114921
Bisexual, but with someone of the opposite sex right now.
371520
No, but I did know a guy once that after I had sort of fooled around with him (we didn't do very much) that we were talking and in the middle of some conversation he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that he was bisexual. I think he actually thought that if he came clean and said he was bisexual that somehow that made it okay, but when I asked if his girlfriend knew he said no he didn't know how to tell her. And I remember being a bit sarcastic and saying something like "You just say, hey I love you very much, but I want you to know that I'm bi." I think he just laughed and said it wasn't that easy. I asked him if he loved her, he said yes. Then I asked why he was out having sex with guys then (since earlier he had told me that he had met this guy and they did this or he met this guy and did this, etc). He said because he liked having sex with guys. I remember kinda scorning him a bit about not being faithful to his girlfriend to which he simply replied "But I'm bisexual". I remember saying very clearly "That doesn't mean that this isn't cheating. If she doesn't know and she hasn't said it's okay for you to sleep with guys or even to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, then as far as I'm concerned this is cheating." Ironically he had the nerve to contact me a few years later to tell me he was going to marry her. I asked him if he was still having sex with guys, etc. He told me he wasn't. Then I talked to one of my gay friends who was talking about a guy that sounded familiar that he had sex with a few nights before. I asked his name and sure enough it was him. I went to his work and confronted him about it and he admitted that he had had sex with my friend and then casually mentioned a few other guys I also know. I told him he better tell his fiance, since he still hadn't, or not marry her if he didn't want to do that and that if he didn't tell her and was still going to marry her that my friends and I were going to tell her. I guess that was enough because he broke off the engagement and eventually a few years later did tell her that he was bisexual. To which she calmly replied "Oh neat!" And from conversations with her about it she said that it wouldn't have bothered her if he had wanted a boyfriend, too, so long as the boyfriend was bisexual and it was okay for her to sleep with that guy, too. (to each their own I guess) The point was that he was scared to tell her and in the end she would've been fine with it. Last I checked, he hasn't even dated or been with a girl in a long time and is actually now in a long term relationship with a guy.\n\nAs for me, I'm in a committed relationship myself. I don't know too many guys that have been with girls and slept with guys. I have met atleast one or two straight guys that occasionally like to get a bj from a guy (I know because they often went to some of my gay friends to get them....which at first shocked me, but once they explained that it was better than masturbating and that really it would be better if they could just find a girlfriend but that you take what you can get....oddly many of them are now married and they met those girls through us gay men who with our help usually introduced them and everytime I see them they seem very happy, one that I know even has three kids already...and according to the girl, who was a friend, they have a very healthy sex life)
195121
well your answer lies on one thing where is she at now as well who else has she been with in this matter you feel for the oldest thing going that is being played for a stand in . i have been there did  it as well not worth it in my opion how do you think i caught my.ex. wife. she was cheating i had the sence to get rid of it. grow up like i did. nt worth it my friend she this woman you are talking about is a player if she was with you you might thing who else has she fooled with you dont want to end up in court over this woman she aint worth ita woman like that cant love she has something called a whoreing spree ?
828131
Sounds like you're interested in this other person, so it probably will lead to cheating. You aren't being honest with him or yourself right now.
1112830
All women are bisexual.  It is a natural part of heterosexual sex.  Almost all women leave this in the realm of fantasy.  Few will admit it to their partner unless you have the type of relationship where she can discuss stuff like this freely.\n\nWhat you need to be worried about are women who have had relationships with other women or anything more than a one time experimentation with anothe woman.  Often, these situations are disturbed and involve people who are inappropriate.  They are signs that something is wrong, mentally or morally with your woman.  They don't exist in a vacuum, by the way.  They are only one warning sign of many.  If your woman is relatively normal and treats you well, don't worry about.  However, if she has a repeating pattern of doing weird, even self-destructive things, get rid of her.
205640
You'll either have an affair or you won't.  If you do have the affair, I can promise you that no good will come of it but this may be a lesson that you need to learn on your own.  Your private life will be based on lies that you'll be required to tell and keep up with in order to maintain the affair.  And if he's cheating on his wife with you, you're probably not the first and probably not even the only mistress.  This man is not monogamous.
1125357
If you are attracted to both guys and girls, you are bisexual, meaning you are sexually attracted to people of both sexes.  There is nothing wrong with this.  If you have feelings for this woman, feel free to pursue them, but let her know you are struggling with your own sexuality.  Maybe she can help you figure out who you are.
732407
Hi, I think the only way to really know is to look into your heart and go with what you are feeling.  If you cant trust your partner then maybe you shouldnt be with that person.  I know its hard, but until they give you a reason NOT to trust them, try to trust their word.  Its miserable when you dont trust your partner, so just believe they have been faithful until you find out differently.  You might find that they have been faithful all along.  Good luck to ya, Debi
363244
Its really her business who she had sex with, and you dont care anyway, so dont discuss it with her if she is uncomfortable with it.  Go after both at the same time, and see which one acts better and makes you feel good-dont try to go after one and try to keep the other one on a leash.
461570
You are not wrong, you need to confront her about this. It's inappropriate for her to be spending all her time with another man who has feelings for her.
552037
You should consider yourself a lucky man. I think your girlfriend is bi sexual and she wanted to fulfill her fantasy as well as your's I'm sure. Have fun and don't think too much about it. Make sure you don't flirt or do anything with her friend when she's not there. She trusts you this is why she did this. I know from experience. Live a little.
763182
Looks like ya got a lot of stupid answers. Well,let me be serious.\n   My girlfriend was being honest with me when she told me of her attraction to other female bodies and she has had sex with other women.Let me say this.It is the honesty that turned me on even more than her admitting she is bisexual.So what;she is bi. Since that admission when we go out in public, she'll say,"hey what do you think" when she notices an attractive woman.It seems we both have the same taste.\n   Understand, we have been together for four years and it wasn't until our third year that she told me because she wanted our relationship to be honest and well, she didn't know how I would take it.\n When she wants to have sex with another woman,well, that's okay with me.  I don't, can't and should not have any say in that matter.That's her.\nI'll be honest with you too. It is a turn on for me.\nI'm sorry this was so long.
336122
Honestly, if you truly had a deep love for her, I don't think you would have cheated.  If the bond is weak enough that you both felt the need to stray, I'd have serious doubts about giving it another go...unless you both were willing to work hard to discover what caused these problems to begin with and were willing to work to resolve them.
766658
It isn't significant how many times they had sex, neither is his size... this is information that will not help you in any manner. What is important is that you don't believe her, that you obviously don't trust her. She sought out an emotional release that she couldn't get from anyone else, that she was unable to ask of you. If you want to forgive her, seek counseling, individually and together, and don't be impatient, it took time for it to graduate to the point you are now, it will take time to heal.