I have a 4month old that cries when his sister is by him why? she also don't live with us?
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It's hard to say with a four month old, but I would watch her around him.
439568
try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
361726
It will take some time.  Maybe even a week, by the 2nd or 3rd week, she will still cry some and may not eat much or play long with the other children, but she should not cry all day long.  Have her sit with you as much as possible so she will bond with you.  Remember that all babies develop a stranger fear around 10 months and don't like to be with people they don't know.  And they realize that Mama can leave them and they don't like that, so part of it is age.    Keep communicating with parents, they may have suggestions. Hang in there.  Thank you and God Bless you for taking care of children.
528883
i was a spoiled little sister, cant do much, youcan beat her kick her and all that others are saying. it wont get you anywhere b/c she will screamm bloody murder and get away with it. if my sister barely touched me i'd scream and yell and my dad would come running to punish her. i feel bad now that i am older.just try and deal with it for now , hopefully she'll change when older . good luck.
954355
I understand what you're going through. And I hope that you will find something, someday that will make it all dissappear.\n\nAs harsh as I may sound, I don't think your sisters reaction is normal. She is being overly zealous. May be she should have herself checked out also. \n\nAlso, do you fight a lot. Is this just mere sibiling rivalry. Have you tried winning her affection?. If this is not the case, i suggest talking to your parents about your sister, and she might want to visit a behaviour consultant.
59822
my sister is mean to me. if you ignore her she will stop trying to bother you because it appears as if you are not bothered. she is only being mean so she can annoy you.\n\nGood Luck.
804681
Why can't you still be close to your parents without dealing with your sister.  If your sister is at your parents' house, then just don't go over there.  If she comes over while you are there, then pack up your kids and leave.  If her oldest child is mean to your youngest child, grab her oldest child and tell her to stop.  You're sister and her kids will only do what you let them get away with.  You can't change how your sister behaves or how she raises her children, but you don't need to let her stress you out either.  And nobody is forcing you to spend time around her.  If you want to spend time with your parents, do it when your sister isn't there.
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sometimes at 5 months they just need to cry- if that is what this question is about?  Kids at this age get overloaded with stimulation and they vent the frustration by having a good crying fit.  Just put her somewhere safe and let her be alone or hold her if you have the patience!  Letting your baby cry will not make you a bad parent- it will help your child learn to comfort herself.  Good luck!!!\nIf this is about general every day care- love her, feed her and keep her safe.
923779
Peace in the home is so important.  Try to find a way to get along with them.  Perhaps use a counselor.  Maybe, if you give it a chance, you can actually become close and enjoy a relationship with them as sisters.  Good luck.  I'm sure there's a lot more to this story than is presented here.
481120
My heart really goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through with your daughter. It sounds like you have made a great start with the day to day stuff and i think this is the best thing to do -concentrate on each day and don't look too far ahead. Rely on your family and friends and don't stop talking about it, play with your baby and wait. The waiting is the hardest part, but if you take it slowly and don't set a time limit - don't say for example that by next week you will have stopped crying, or that by next month you will be over him and don't judge your own 'get over him' time by someone elses, everybody does things in their own way. But i promise you that if you keep doing what you're doing it will go away, it really will, you just have to wait. Wishing you all future happiness xxxx
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All of mine did that put a few little toys in his bed and let him entertain himself. If he cries let him. it will break your heart but he will be fine. just get up the first time check his bum and his belly if both are fine kiss him and lay him back down. it usually takes a week or two but they realize you aren't going to entertain them and give up. hearing them cry is the worst part but be strong.
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What do you mean by neglected? Maybe your friend has brothers and/or sisters and she might just FEEL like she's being neglected, even though she's not. Or maybe she just feels neglected at the moment because her parents are busy?\n\nIf you are sure she's is actually being neglected, tell a trusted person about it.
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Sounds like she needs some mental help, with her mood swings and attitude. She has been your step-mother for 8 years, I think that is enough time to adjust. I would just do what she says, and don't give her any reason to get mad. Then, if she doesn't change, talk to your dad and tell him what is going on. No parent should choose their own happiness and partners over their children. If possible, and she doesn't change, go live with your mom. That is about your only options. Unless your step-mom gets on some meds to straighten her mood swings out. Good luck sweetie, and be strong for your sister. :)
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she may be controlling but she is your sister and when she is gone you will miss her because she wont be there to talk to (boss you around LoL joke) spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves trust me i had a friend i was not close to before he left to go to Iraq and he has left and i feel bad that i didn't get to spend much time with him before he left hopes this helps
728079
I have a little sister too and she walks in on me all the time. But the way I've dealt with it is to tell her that we both have things that we need. She needs to be alone sometimes and so do I. So together, we made foam door hangers for each others rooms, I made hers and she made mine. We bought the stuff at a craft store and whenever I wanted to be alone, she'd leave me alone because my door hanger said Please Go Away. And I'd leave her alone when it said Please Go Away. That way, she still feels like she's a part of it. The other thing you need to tell her is that you each get an hour of alone time a day (or however long you think you need). Then, tell her that you'll hang out with her other times. Then, set a limit. If she bugs you 10 times while you are in your alone time, or 3 times when your door hanger is on Please Go Away, she loses an hour of play time with her sister. Trust me, she might be a little upset about it at first but after those hours start going faster and faster, she'll get the picture and start to leave you alone a little more. Don't shut her out completely though.
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You answered your own question within the body of the explanation-you said "My daughter is 3 months old and I can't do it without them" -- sounds like you have made your decision, which it is YOUR DECISION! Major decisions like this shouldn't be made on a yahoo forum. Why not talk to all of the family and your boyfriend and explain to them how they are tearing you apart and ask for suggestions from the people involved? A solution just might present itself.
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Lack of attachment/bonding between an infant and the primary caregiver is a serious cause for concern. This can affect the child for life. Without bonding, the child will have developmental, behavioral, and learning issues later (needs that trust and comfort from the caregiver for proper brain development).\n\nIf you are the caregiver, ask your physician or local human services department about referral for counseling support to help you find that positive spark within. Just that you are worried enough about your feelings to post here, shows that deep down you really do care for that little kiddo. Hang in there, and get yourself some support!\n\nIf you are not the primary caregiver, talk to that person (if you are friends) in a gentle way to try to get them to get help. There is no way to force them to get help, unless they are actually directly abusive to the child, and we certainly hope that is not the case. Sigh.\n\nIf you are not the primary caregiver, but spend regular time with the infant, do lots of cuddles, gentle songs, and be there for the baby...teach him/her that someone really does care when he/she cries, that food and a dry comfy bottom happens regularly, that hugging arms can be soft and wonderful place from which it is safe to explore the world.