me and my bf made a deal that for valentines day we arent buying anything for each other.. what can i do??
138082
You can still give him a gift. Something you can't buy. Something that you have made just for him - a painting or something like that :)
151573
keep all of the stuff that you bought and reserve the cabin who says that you only have to celebrate your lvoe one day a year. so it next weekend. be different. do somthing that he wants this weekend and then do somthing that you want next weekend. have a good valentines day i hope that  you both enjoy it. just don't get married in vegas
531521
I like the answer above, treat others the way you want to be treated....but hey, your bf suck, if he's bad with dates, why he keep asking what you are going to get for him, he should have forgot his own bday as well! selfish!
927301
Remember, it's not the cost of the gift that matters!  If your boyfriend truly loves you, he will be pleased with whatever you give him.  It is so sad that the world we live in dictates that we should spend large sums of money to try and impress those we care for.  Don't buy into that mentality.  Do your best with what you have.
113543
I would be a little irritated, but not for too long. Obviously your b/f is kind of taking liberties with the expectations of a gift, and of course when you exchange gifts everyone expects some type of equitable balance, but I tell ya, this is just in the U.S!. In general, it's OK for a boyfriend to go all out with a gift just to show his love and appreciation. In latin America, that type of display is actually OK, like filling up a room with roses or bringing a whole band of mariachis to your house to serenade you. Maybe he has that concept of chivalry or something. Just let him be and enjoy it. Maybe go for the $10 stuffed bear instead of the $5.\nOh and P.S. Don't mention anything to him about the cost or how he wasted money. That's rude and hurtful. Trust me, in about 3 years he'll be getting you the $10 bear at Walgreens.
827414
Be honest witn your boyfriend. It was very sweet of him to get you a promise ring, but accidents to happen. If he loves you, then he may be a little disappointed but it will be ok.\n\nMention to him that you found one just like it online and that you would like to get it. If he offers to get it for you, then let him. You can do something special for him in return. And if he's ok with the idea but doesn't offer to buy it for you, then go ahead and get it. \n\nHopefully it will eventually turn up somewhere. But if you try to secretly replace it and it turns up after that, you would have some explaining to do. - Just tell him what's going on.\n\nDo the two of you live together and use the same car? Could it have gotten lost at his place or in his car where you wouldn't have found it?
806267
Slowly....buy him something you want him to wear. Make a suggestion to him. You can convince without being obvious. Gingerly putting suggestions out there at the right time. It won't happen overnight, but eventually it is possible if you are patient!
814447
Make a sentimental time capsule.  Have him place things in there from the time you were dating that means something to him, important events, special items, etc.  You can do the same thing and then bury them or place them somewhere you both won't touch or open them for years then as you get older together you can designate a date such as an anniversary and open them together.  Very sweet and cheap that will mean a lot.
80892
I would just to spend time with my special guy, what we do wouldn't really matter, it could be a candlelight dinner for two, a picnic on the beach, a Valentine's couple-only party...it really doesn't matter. Just buy or make hime something nice and tell him how u feel about him and hopefully he'll do the same and u'll both a magical day/night.
999901
Tell him the truth that you aren't happy with the package...\n\nAnd move on... You have to have standards!!!
18810
Actually I think it is sweet. But my instincts tell me that he doesn't need you to spend money on him. Some fun and romantic gesture would be that much more meaningful. One time I did a really fun thing for a guy I was dating at the time. I wrote about thirty little things on pieces of paper and folded them up and put them in a jar I decorated. That whole weekend we kept pulling out little slips of paper and doing whatever they said. Some were real spontaneous involving jumping in the car and going somewhere. Others were more intimate. :D Others still were fun loving and silly and goofy but great fun. Think of things you know he likes to do. (Hockey, baseball, reading, writing) and center some of the activities around that. Still again center some around things you like to do. Its a great way to get to know one another at the same time you are having a blast! Good luck and I so hope you see this two months later!!!
853225
spray your perfume on a blanket that you buy him and those are like 20$ at the most... u can get some for like 8$ at biglots...and then wrap it up and he will think of you every night... and its a turn on if u wear perfume that he bought ya...\ngood luck and happy 24th to ur bf
715565
He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.
154625
first stop buying things for a child who you owe nothing to and second did he have the baby while the two of you were together because if that is true then he might think he loves you but does he respect you
27734
Make a love basket.  Fill it with kinky things like sex dice, whip cream, lingerie, grapes, wine, chocolate, body butter, etc.  Then you get the benefit out of the deal too!  Or make a type of love coupon book.  A coupon may say massage for 30 mins.  Or pedicure and manicure that you will do.  Or that you will fix his favorite meal.  Be creative.  Think of the things he'd like best!
17093
you must still be friends?  or did he just happen to get you a gift maybe trying to get ya back...if its friends then what ever you think he will like..i dont think the cost matters i think its the thought...if he is just tring to get you back..then no need to get him ne thing..........depends on if you want him around or not i guess\nbut dont spend 40 dollars just to spend it...find something he likes even if its 4 bucks...it could mean a lot more.
869828
try being sweet. sometimes romance can get you alot farther than gifts.