should i be the one to tell my adopted son he is adopted or should it be his other parents and what age?
152058
If he's been living with you for all these years, i think it's best if you tell him. Hearing you're adopted is tough enough.. hearing it from strangers that are actually your birth parents would be terrible. Tell him, let him know you love him no matter what and tell him if and when he's ready, then he can meet the other parents.
212873
Very gently!  lol  Some children depending on their age may resent a new person coming into their dads life.  They may see it as a threat to their relationship with him.  Also alot of kids hang on to the idea that maybe someday their parents will get back together- even years down the road- so they put up a struggle and not want to accept this person in their lives.  Introduce them and take it day by day.  explain that they are NOT there to replace their mother.  That she will be here as a friend to them.  Good Luck
1013924
Here’s a link  to search resources\n\nhttp://www.adopteerights.org/search/internetresources.htm\n\nAlso you said "all he knows is his real name and surname". The correct term for this is "birthname". Saying real name makes it sound as if the name he was given by his adoptive parents is a "fake name" \n\nbest wishes and God bless
583495
If you're younger than 18, then you should probably tell them.  As a parent of daughters, it would be very important for me to know who my child is involved with.  This day and age it is the safe thing to do.  If you care that much about him, then your parents should understand .. they really do know a little about being in love! ;-)
97678
If I were personally in a situation like that I'd probably tell my parents but lie about his age. When you were younger that is a HUGE age gap but 1) you seem to be a rarity of lasting that long with the gap and 2)it won't make as huge a difference now. My husband is 5 years and some months older than me though I did meet him when I was 21. (We've been together since then, I'm now 29) I think my dad was more concerned about the fact that I met him on the Internet rather than his age. LOL
588913
No absolutely not. Your one of the few parents that would accept their children for who they r. \nThe fact that u r supportive is fantastic, it shows them u care, and since u know your son and his partner really well there would b no reason to worry.\nYour proud of your son. There is nothing wrong with that. Most kids would kill for a parent as supportive and understanding as you. \nI would just like to ad, that dont do that whole aaagghhhh cute and ask questions and stuff like that. It freaks kids out, no matter what age they r. Its embarrassing, besides if they wanted to tell u something they would have.
157227
When you adopt a baby, it will grow to know you as a parent, and have your beliefs.\n\nAdopting a child, or teen, is wonderful as they desperatly need to be adopted, but they come with a crapload of problems, are you ready to deal with that?\n\nIt is a question you will have to answer yourself.
89304
I dont know.  I know that I want to adopt but I do not know how I will know that child is for me.  I will just pray that God will show me.\n\nI am going to adopt from overseas and I will not specify if it is a boy or a girl or health.  I would prefer a child that was not mentally handicapped but if that is the one God wanted to give me then I would take it.  All babies deserve someone to love them.
235665
I am so glad you asked this question. I was adopted at about 1 year old. As the others said I don't consider my "birth" parents my real parents. The ones that raised me and gave me my values are my real parents. I had considered off-and-on searching for my birth parents ( and siblings ) but after much thinking about what really matters - I decided not to. If they cared they could have found me!\n\nI guess we will always wonder - but at the same time don't really want to know. We are-what-we-are thanks to the wonderful parents who raised us. After so...........many years of emotional struggle this is the decision I have come to. People not in this situation just haven't got a clue as to how tough this is!\n\nWell - I don't feel so all alone now - thanks for sharing your feelings!!!!!
1049424
Best thing to do, is to go to the website that they have, and contact them directly.  Put in your request to give all information to them about birth mother, whereabouts, phone number, etc., and if the child has a desire to find out, they will give him the information.  They will NOT contact him with this unless he wants to know and gets in touch with them.  This is to protect him.  I am adopted, and knew of my birth mother from day one,  so my case is different.  I can only pray he's asked, and they've kept track of him so when you finally give them the information, they will forward it to him.  They do have reunion and contact services....so that's a plus and a VERY good sign!  I wish you the best!  \n\nListed below, links to help, the first being the contact info for Catholic Charities, including an email address.
665089
Ask your adopted parents. And/or the adoption agency.
820525
I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
268561
No.  Some children have been born at 4 months and have lived.  Why not wait the pregnancy out and then put the child up for adoption.
1002206
1 Get yourself a adoption lawyer and tell him everything and take it from there. God bless you for looking out for the little man
883491
Well to me it would depend on how long you've been together.  I'm ASSUMING a very very long time if you go so far as to call the boy your "stepson" as otherwise that would not be appropriate.  So since you've been together so long and love the boy as your son I would have to say why would you not go with them?  The fact that you are questioning going is reason enough to me to not go - at least not for now.  Maybe let them go and get settled.  Then see how things pan out once his real mother gets out of prison.
750872
Well, the good news is, you can contact the adoption agency your parents adopted you from. Ask your parents...they know where they got you.\nThe bad news is,  it's going to cost at least $100 CDN to start the process...usually the agency contacts your biological parents...but if they don't want you to know who they are, you're at a stand still. The agency can't give any information they are not authorized to give. So, be prepared for all possible outcomes.\nGood luck.
1147168
Adoption is a wonderful thing...there are so many children that don't have parents or a home. If you have never had any children then here is an idea you might want to consider. Have you thought of being a Foster Parent? My husband and I went through the process in being Foster parents then adopted our foster child who is now our son. It's a great feeling when you are helping a child and loving a child who needs a parent and a home. It was the best thing I ever did and I would do it all over again!