My wife and I are getting a divorce. She says her life is much better. We have a child. She is just mean, why?
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Well, I just left the guy that I was with.  At first I had a really hard time dealing with him.  He made my life miserable and he f'd up a lot of opportunities that I had.  I hated him so much, but I practiced a lot of restraint and didn't let my anger take over the situation because we had a child together.\nIt sucks that she is being so hateful toward you, especially since you have a child together and you'll always have to deal with each other.\nI do not know what happened between the two of you, but here is what I would suggest if you really want to help things smooth out between the two of you so that you can sucessfully co-parent together.  I would say:\nI am sorry for the things that happened between us, that things did not work out, and I respect that you have hard feelings and that you are angry with me.  I want to give you the space that you need to work through this and I will be willing to talk if you need to.\n\nThen from there, you really have to be willing to hear her out and don't interupt her when she tells you how she feels about you or what happened, don't try to justify anything, just let her vent.  It will help her to move on.  You guys are obviously not going to be friends anytime soon, but that's not the point, just make sure there is ample opportunity to discuss anything child related and leave it at that\n\nMost likely she is so mean because she is hurt that the relationship is ended. She resents you and with time it will hopefully get better, but unfortunatly there are women out there who never let it go and the best thing to do is to let them think they are right.  Remember, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...\nJust be the best father you could be, your kid is all that really counts anymore.\nDon't let her drag you into arguements about anything because if things get nasty, anything you say could later be brought up against your nature if you go to court over custody.\nBe the better person.
873794
get a divorce  why does either woman put up with it
1073833
The same thing here. My man's mother more than awful. She's one of those "christains" that quotes the bible and tell you that you're going to hell, but she does every evil thing there is to do. She stole from him, forged his income tax return, lied and manipulate every situation and she told me that if I was to concieve a child, she didn't want no parts of it. I'm writing a book about my experiences with her drama. I ignored her. I stopped playing nice with her after she attack him when he was in the ER. I told her exactly what I thought of her and I ignore her. Eventually, he cut her loose. It was his decision. It's been a year now since we last heard from her. Life has been great and less stressful without her.
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Its the effect a broken marriage has on kids. Thats why divorce is so bad.   Get some books on it an read. Promise yourself to do better as an adult.  You don't have to walk in your parents footsteps. You are a very unique person and have a lot to offer. So read things that lift your spirit and help you become the great adult you can be.
912002
Because they're jealous and regret not having their kids when they were younger. Now they're old and fat and miserable. So good for you and your wife.
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There could be several reasons; most of which have already been offered.\n\nHowever, it could be that she doesn't feel like she is getting equitable treatment in the settlement.  If that is the case, she may well be speaking with an attorney in an attempt to have a more equitable settlement drawn.\n\nOr it could be something as simple as she is just being pissy in an attempt to get even with her louse of a soon-to-be-ex-husband.
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yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
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She's rude! If you're married to her son- your family! As for the kids, the noise or mess may bother her, but that is still no excuse.\nTry talking to your husband, he can speak to her on your behalf.
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As long as there are people brain washing her and telling her bad things about you she probably wont come around. You know your a good mother it sounds like your ex needs to find a hobby and quit trying to ruin the relationship between you and your daughter. I havent ever been through this but if my husband were to ever turn our daughter against me it would just break in two. My daughter is my every dream come true and I cant even imagine how things are for you right now. I hope that she doesnt listen to all this garbage thats been said about you and hopefully she will start contacting you again good luck.
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Lasy you really need to get a life this is the second question you have posted and obviously you seem to think it is funny get off of the computer and go seek help a divorce lawyer sounds good to me.. GET A REAL LIFE. your poor husband I hope that you have no children you are teaching them how to disrespect themselves and others.. What a loser you are
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You SERIOUSLY sound like you have major issues with your wife, from seeing all the questions you've asked. For one, get a life or, two, for God's sake, get a divorce or something instead of just bantering every hour uselessly about your wife.
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Hi been there and it is horrid dont argue with your hubby about her as she obviously wants to destroy the marriage and using a child is low Play her at her own game and stop trying to be super woman her hubby doesnt want to lose his son and she knows it why not go and have some you time when he sees his son for an hour she will panic my hubbys ex made my life hell for years but she didnt win and you are a winner as you have him and she dont smile sweetly with perfect makeup and be civilised it works
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Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.
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Sounds to me like you two need to grow up.\n\nIf you two don't want to get divorved \nDON'T GET DIVORCED! no matter what her mom says.
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I have much REspect for you.Please be STRONG for your children!I am a married woman.I'm 34(he's 35)and I have been with my spouse since high school(15yrs old)!Lately,I have been thinking Alot about divorce!We have had our share of problems in this marriage!(we've cheated,seperated,etc!)Please don't fill like a Failure!You are a mother!Although you may not be a wife,anymore.A mother is the most IMportant thing you could ever do in your life!And you should REspect yourself for that!I have two beautiful daughters as well(ages 12&8).And,they do not want me to seperate from their father.However,I am not happy.I am miserable.It really seems as if we have grown apart throughout the years!Although he will NOT admit it.And he will not leave!Because,he would have to go and live with his mother.He was laid off,collected UNemployment for 6 mths.Now,He has ZERO income.But,it's not even about the money.I have a decent Income.But my money goes I pay all of the bills,etc,etc!With no help from him.He ignores me alot lately.He yells at me if I ask him when he's gonna start to look for employment.We do not sleep together,anymore.(Rarely)!But yet,I won't get rid of him because I am AFRAID!I am afraid of being alone!I am afraid of being a single mom!I do NOT have much support!No family or friends that wanna hear about it!My only family is my mother and she flips out when I mention his name!Because she despises him.And thinks he is an UNfit father and husband,she has even tried to fiX me up with others.Don't get me wrong,He has worked in the past.But there aren't alot of great jobs here in our area.But I thought since he isn't working he would help me around the house more!He does a lil bit but NOT much!He just sleeps constantly,OR plays that damn XboX,or watches Tv 24-7!And it is starting to drive me crazy!We could be tottaly broke need gas,need bread and milk,everything.And he would sit all day and play xbox/or watch tv and act like everythings all good??Please is anyone else out there eXperiencing this with their man/hubby?I would love to hear from you!I would go craZy without this site!lol.I am so ready to call it quits!But,I am just so afraid of being alone.But,It would be so GREAT to find a man who loves me like I love him!One who works,likes the outdoors,fishes,hunts,etc,etc!And one who is good with children!Believe me hun,they are out there!They are just hard to find!But,don't give up!Pray!I bet you time will heal the hurt you are feeling now!And,when you do meet someone else you'll be ready!And hopefully happier than you ever were with him!And I agree with the above look into some support groups they will definately help you!(maybe I should take my own advice,huh?lol)Plus,you may meet someone there you never know.Or at least make some NEW friends!Hey GOOD luck to you!And hey your not all alone dear!You do have us!lol Even though it's just a website.We are all here to help you and give you advice!Sometimes I think I would rather be ALone!Than be with someone who is abusive.And makes me feel Unloved,UNwanted and Neglected!But then again,I might freak out(seriously!)I am just so dependant on him.Even though the marriage is done.And it's stale.I continue to stay?Yes,I am in counseling.But, no that hasn't helped much either!I am on anti depressants,and a whole bunch of other meds.But,I still feel the same.Maybe I'm too afraid to be loved?I don't know what it is anymore.But think of it this way,At least you can be proud of yourself for standing on your own two feet,and raising your children!May I ask why you got divorced after so many years together?Was it your idea or his?If you don't mind sharing.I am really curious about what happened?Thanks!Take Care and good luck to you and the kids!
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It will never get better that is for sure. You have to ask yourself are you wanting a life with someone who has no respect for you. This child is going through a lot with her parents going through a divorce and than in steps another woman..no wonder the child acts the way she does and no it is not normal for most but remember what she is going through....Cejay
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have you tried going to counseling? there are more was to abuse someone than just physical, there is emotional and mental.  so you feel he is being that way to you? i am divorced also,i did not give up on my marriage until he did not want to be there.  he didn't want to be there because i started fighting back, he had gotten physically and mentally abusive.  i had two small boys at the time and they were effected by his behavior also, even though it was not directed at them.  it was my son was 4 years old made the comment that we should live elsewhere, that i realized everything was over.\ndo i regret getting divorced, no, because i felt i tried everything to keep it together, and was hanging in for the kids sake.  when that was said to me i realized it was better to get the kids away from him.  if you can leave with a good conscience than do it.  no one has the right to take away your self respect or self esteem.  good luck in whatever you decide.