how can i help my friend who  has an eating disorder?
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ok well the if she is younger like under 18 and i know you dont want to betray your friends trust but the best thing for you to do is tell her parents even though she might hate you but its well worth it...i am only assuming she is younger because that is usually when most eating disorders typically start with girls in their teens and twenties if she is older try to convincer her to go seek help at a medical facility  good luck
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http://www.edauk.com/Home\n\nhttp://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/mentalhealthproblems/eatingdisorders.aspx\n\nhttp://www.equip.nhs.uk/topics/neuro/eating.html\n\nthese are just a few...\n\ntry typing it in in google and you will find a lot more...hope it helps but without any more info on what eating disorder you are looking for then those will have to do...\n\nhope it helps...\n\nx
940322
First of all maybe find new friends because there is nothing wrong with going to the cemetery and putting flowers on someones grave on their birthday when you loved them.  If they can't understand that they are not your friends.  With the eating disorder and rape see a counselor or therapist because they are trained to help you with that.  With your self confidence you have to learn to love yourself first.   Hope that helps, Good Luck
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Take this form me...if i no one thing its eatting disorders.. okay... are they depressed to? or cut themselveS? if so then DONT tell a counsilor... what do you think thehy'd do when they got home? just stop.. no the counsilor adds onto the stress... if it got out of hand then tell their parents... you need to be there for them, b/c i no they need you as a freind... or famiy or w/e you are to them.. dont force them to do anything.. unless its eat a little bit .... b/c if you threaten them.. it almsot always works honestly... but if you say put them in rehab no okay if you FORCE them into rehab it wont work b/c all they'll think is "ill show her.... ill lose even MORE weight...see how she lieks it then" u need to tell her thre are better ways so on give her the lexcture..that i hear all teh time " you dont have to tell me wahts wrong... but you have to tell somone.."  ok? i hope i helped this is a VERY delicate situation
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u're a really cool friend to be looking out for her! are u sure she hasn't got an eating disorder...obviously not anorexia, but maybe bullemia?? it's just an idea, so don't go accussing her of anything! she might just have a really fast metabolism, but dizziness and tiredness don't sound right for that! i dunno, maybe u can just ask her if she wants 2 talk about it or sumting...u're obviously a spesh friend to her!!!
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Check this site out from the BBC\n\nhttp://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/mental_health/disorders_eating.shtml
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dear, its not like your gonna sleep walk to the bathroom lol.... you'd know if you are or arn"t if you are heres a way i helped my friend get over it : i told her that instead of eating junk and throwing it up she should just eat healthy and imade sure at lunch she didnt get her usual ice cream sandwich cause i didnt want her to throw up again..any ways eat healthy and you wont feel guilty for it or have the urge to throw up
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If it is not "too late" (i.e. if she's not medically unhealthy), combat it with psychology. She is anorexic because she sees herself as fatter than the models she sees or women she adores. \n\nFirst, stop trying to feed her. That won't help at this stage.\n\nSecond, tell her how beautiful she is. Get her friends to point out good things about her body. Ignore the imperfections. Point out the parts that are beautiful. \n\nFinally, help her be happy to be who she is. Never call her fat, large, don't joke about her doughnut rolls, don't use any of the negative terms you think could hurt her.  \n\nMake her feel beautiful: Try a new wardrobe (that fits her current size, not dreamed-of size) so she won't feel the clothes being "tight" and hence making her think she is "fat".\n\nI could go on, but there are countless resources to help parents. See references below.
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Have him come over to your house. Before you do this google picture and all these articles on anorexia and all the problems that is can cause including the long term effect--DEATH! After you do this have him come over and have a serious talk with him and say that you are worried about him.  Show him all the research and talk with him.\n\nIf this doesn't work, then you need to tell someone because he is hurting him self.  Maybe like a school couslner, mom/ dad, girlfriend of his, anyone that will have a bigger influence on him them you.\n\nI know this must be hard. But remember you can only help so much. He has to want to change to.  Good Luck
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I am sure that it is important to you that your friend has been able to trust you, so you probably do not want to share her secret and betray that trust.  But anorexia is a very dangerous thing and she will need help that you are not qualified to give her and it is imperative that she receive treatment.  I do not know the extent of her condition, so it could be that she has not suffered significant physical damage yet (hopefully this is the case!).  But even so, she will need treatment, even if it is only counseling, to help her break the cycle and learn how to control her disease.  Try encouraging her to tell a parent, a family member or a doctor.  You could offer to go with her if that would help her feel more secure and if you feel able to help support her as a friend.  If she continues to refuse, however, eventually you must tell someone who can intercede.  Betraying her trust is not nearly as bad as allowing her to destroy her body and possibly kill herself.  You could try contacting the eating disorders hotline at 800-227-4785 for additional advice and support.  Good luck...
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MySpace has many groups for different eating disorders.  There are so many people on there, you're bound to find someone who would like to talk to someone in private about what they've been through with this.  I have never heard of it, but it sounds like anyone with it would need some help dealing with it.  You can start a group on MySpace about it and you'll have floods of people want to talk to you.
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I guess I would first ask you if she wants to be helped. I don't think you'll be able to do anything for her until she has reached to point of wanting to change. Once she is there you have lots of options.\n\nFirst and foremost - she needs to see a dietician. Even something as simple as Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers. A self-regulated diet won't work. She needs a friend and a counselor to help her along the way (kind of like a sponsor at AA).\n\nThere are many other things to do, but getting professional help is the best thing for her...\n\nGOOD LUCK!
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Just be there for her.  Something's bothering her... it isn't just because she thinks she's fat.  but, in the mean time, try to get her to eat something...all the while reminding her that you are her friend and only want to help.
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There are many reasons why surgery would be a bad idea for your friend,  most have been mentioned by previous respondees so I will not repeat them.  \n\nMay I suggest that you are looking at this the wrong way?  The problem may not be so much how to get your friend smaller,  but rather,  to get your friend to look at the causes of her being overweight.  There are many reasons why a person would be overweight,  either by choice (concious or sub-conscious) or a physical cause.  The most common emotional reasons are:\n\nA fear of being attractive to the opposite sex\nAn addiction to food (could be caused by many things)\nA fear of being "small"\ninsecurity\nLow self esteem\nA desire to be accepted\nA fear of being accepted\n\nand so on\n\nAs you can see,  these are pretty serious things and so I would really recommend your friend spend her money on therapy rather than surgery\n\nThere are also a number of physical reasons why your friend may have weight issues such as thyroid imbalance,  genetics,  hormone related problems,  medication,  IBS and the list goes on.\n\nMay I suggest that it would be a better friendship if you accepted her fully for who she is now and not what she may be if she fitted into societys ideal weight.
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Sit him down and tell him exactly what can happen if he becomes anorexic again. Look him straight in the eye and tell him he is not fat. Tell him he cannot live off of milk for the rest of his life. Tell him his body needs food to function properly and with out it he could die, or become very sick. If that doesn't work, force him to eat something, like steak. I once read in Chicken Soup that there was an anorexic girl, but her father forced her to eat steak, and that night she realized there was a problem. Just let him know that you don't want him to risk his life because he thinks he's fat.
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I know some people that have had this and I'm sure you realize how serious eating disorders are. Try to help her decide to get over it. She must be the one that decides. Watch her because as you know, it can be life threatening. If she gets in too much trouble you must get her to a hospital. Until then, take steps to let her know it is a problem that needs help. If her family would help then get them to know.
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Encourage her to do things for her. Help her to raise her self esteem.  Let her know that she is important and that you care for her. Tell her she looks fine.\nAnd you can talk normally with her, I'd recommend don't say to her how pretty are top models or other women (above all if they are skinny or very skinny). You can let her know that the people very skinny can affect their health. That every one must find one their ideal weight, and it is the weight you feel confortable with and also is healthy for you.