if you gave a woman 120$ and got not even a card for your birthday.[she knew it] what would you think of her?
144402
I wouldn't waste my tiem on her nay more.  She has showed her true colors.
793220
I personal would tell her what she doing tell other people to give. She should give cause she want to not for a reward. She want it for for an ego. my question to her would be why do you have a big ego and think you better than everyone else.
559761
One year not so long ago...I found myself in a similar situation.  Money wasn't really the problem, it's just that I was so tired of the "traditional" gifts. Mom once told me that the most valuable thing you can give a person is your time....so that year I got some real pretty stationary and wrote her a long letter.  I thanked her for all the things that she taught me and how that I wouldn't be the person I am today without her as my mother.  I was real specific, even using particular examples both from childhood and adulthood.  Just to give you an example:  From you, mom, I learned honesty.  Remember when I was 5 and we were playing checkers and the phone rang?  You got up to answer the phone and because I was losing I decided to move some of the pieces.  When you came back you noticed and punished me by not playing any games with me for a week because you didn't play with "cheaters". From you, mom, I learned how to get the most for my money.  We were in a grocery store one time and I noticed that you were counting the slices in a loaf of bread.  I asked what you were doing and you told me that you were trying to get the most slices for the money.  I was a teen-ager then and rolled my eyes. Now that I understand the true value of money, I understand.\n\nI'm sure that you get the idea.  Mom cried when she read my letter, it was probably about five or six pages long.  What it did, was point out to her what she accomplished.  It honored, acknowledged, & respected her.  She said that that was the BEST mother's day gift I could have given her.  It took some time and thought but it was worth it...for many reasons.....mom passed away in October of last year.  I am so thankful that I was able to let her know how much I learned from her.  This Mother's Day will be my first without her, and I'm trying hard not to think about it too much.  \n\nOn another note, your mother and mother-in-law probably know your financial situation.  They won't (and shouldn't) be expecting a lot.  Acknowledging their special day with the meals you have planned is more than enough.  Maybe you could combine both meals into one????  This would be less expensive.\n\nAs far as the baby shower...concentrate on the mom. Buy her some pamper stuff...bath stuff, candles, chocolate, hair ties, etc.  She'll be getting plenty of stuff for the new arrival...she'll appreciate it and won't feel so unimportant.  Hope some of this helps.
534123
I went to a tarot reader, and didn't tell her anything about myself but my first name and date of birth. She proceeded to describe my then boyfriend, whom I had just met (2000 miles away), and proceeded to tell me what the following 12 months were going to be like. She was right except for one month.
25343
Obviously, I don't know all the legits about your situation with your mother, however sending a card never hurt. I believe that you should send your mother a card. If she still doesn't like you, at least you know that you tried.
21881
Well why didn't you ask her if she had anything in mind a few weeks ago? since its too late to ask if she has had her eye on something then get her a necklace or earings or something like that. Remember, even if you get her a crappy gift you can make up for it with a nice card to go with it.\n\nHas she hinted on anything at the mall or something like that?
245142
I'm the type of person that doesn't like to just give someone a simple old gift, I like to make it a little more exciting than that. Here is one idea. Hopefully you have some time before her birthday. This is what I would do if you have about a month or a little less time before her birthday. Each day, for 21 days, give her a small gift. This could be some makeup, a new purse, some cash, starbucks g/c, a day at the spa, cds, etc. Give her something for each day up until her birthday and then on her actual birthday give her something big, that she has wanted for a while, or something that she would like really like. You could give her a trip to Vegas or Atlantic City, or take her on a cruise, etc. This is where you would decide what to give her, what you think she would like the most.\n\nI think it would be especially neat if the little gifts added up to her final gift. You don't want it to be real obvious what it is going to be, but once she has everything you want her to be able to see the connection. Let's say you are going to give her a cruise. Okay, so you could give her some small (not travel size or it may be too obvious) lotions, shampoos, etc. you could buy her an MP3 player to listen to on the plane, some books, etc. Add things in that would be of interest to her, but also useful for her trip. You could even take her to the mall one day for a shopping trip and get her some pictures in one of those machines, then she could use the picture for her passport. Then on the day of her birthday you could take and wrap the cruise documents in a large box, like a sweeper box or something, then she will open it and it will just be the little envelope with the documents in it. You could also wrap her up a box and inside of it have a clue. You could create a map or use a real map that she has to use to find the next clue, give her hints where the clue is and then she has to hunt for it, it sounds  a little childish but because she will be going on a cruise I think it would still work. Plus, it will be a lot of fun for you and her.\n\nHope this helps!
878577
LOL. I bet she didn't get paid!  LOL.
118789
I agree, go help her, shouldn't you be there anyway if it's her birthday. If you took everyone elses advice you are already there are if not and you are still sitting at the computer reading this, then your might just be a jerk.\n\nHope it all works out!!!
248981
I would give anything for my mother.  One, she gave birth to me and two, she has given so much for me.  At almost 30, I still don't want for much because she will do whatever it takes to make me happy.  I have seen her work 2 and 3 jobs to be a good provider, so most definitely that would be the very least that I could do for her.
777545
don't get her anything stupid! my children have known me their entire lives and every year they buy me things i will never use, don't know what it is, or they buy things they can borrow, {actually my son is getting better}  but get her something she will use and that is just for her, do you know what perfume she loves but would never buy for herself? {it costs to much} or does she like to read? what authors? {it's important to know} doe's she cook, travel,wear earings?, what kind hoop or post? i know you kids have a way of waiting till the last minute then rushing out to get something that she will look at and say "it's the thought that counts"---sit down and write her a note telling her a memory of a time when you felt so much appreciation for her, or what you wish for her, something personal that will hit her in the heart put it in the card and send a check lol!
482319
i would call your assessment of her generous\n\nshe may be only a half-a-trick pony
725165
How do you think her friend will take it.? Do you think she will feel bad or ok with it.?  \n\nIf I were you I would give it to your daughter to give to her in a nice card.  If your worried that you daughters friend will feel strange have your daughter just give her the card saying it was from you.  "you know my mom, she loves giving people cards" then have her open it, with the gift card inside.  Depending on how she reacts your daughter could act like she did not know it was in there or how much was on the card  "my mom never knows what to get people, she feels its just best to give them a gift card".  or something like that.  \n\nOr you could mail it to her house and secret gift.  'a secret santa'  I have gotten those sometimes and have never found out who they wre from. I thought it was the cutest thing in the world. \n\nYour a good person for wanting to do this.
121240
First of all...that was very thoughtful of you to approach her with a gift on her Birthday (how sweet!). I think that her e-mail's are flirtations back at you and you should proceed with perhaps a lunch invitation and see how things go from there! Good luck! you sound like a really nice and thoughtful guy!
1126577
What you have just said is what you should put in your note. She was a sweet person, happy and friendly, and would do anything for you. That's a wonderful accolade! \nBelieve it or not, it DOES help to hear kind things about someone you love. No, your card can't change anything, but just letting the rest of the family know what a special person she was can help. \nFollow your instincts on this -- you're doing great!
667121
she should be tossed in jail...most likely she will probably get off with the legal system we have...how would you feel if someone stole your credit card number? I bet you would want them in jail for it.
183233
give her a big shiny pebble with smooth sides that you bought at the mall.  it proves you are irresponsible with money - chicks dig that.