Ex refuses to refinance marital home as ordered by divorce judgement.  Says it's too expensive.  Can't afford.
138738
Seek court costs and interest.\n\nI made a mistake in my divorce and thought I had 6 months to sell or refi the home.  I only had 60 days.\n\nI had to pay my ex-wife a small amount of interest plus court costs on the $7K I had to give her from the home.\n\nSo the court can award interest, on top of what she owes if she continues to be late.\n\nIt doesn't hurt to ask the court to pay you for her mistakes.\n\nHTH
270981
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
665206
Yikes!  Ask some local attorneys what options you have.  Some may take payments in increments.  It could be that if you take him to court he'll have to suck up most of the cost anyway, even back child support since you have been separated.  Never hurts to make some phone calls!  Much luck to you.  I think you'll find this is easier than you think, it's just annoying as hell.
821069
For now, all I think that you can do is RENT the HOUSE. At least rent it out for the mortgage payment. Call the Real Estate Agent,and tell him. See what your "contract" allows. There are some Real Estate Companies that offer to buy the house if they can't sell it in 3-months! At least we have that in Canada. Make sure that when things settle down, that you take legal action against your EX - in Civil Court. There are many Lawyers that will take your case, and not Charge you until the end result! Look into that. I am so sorry about what happened to your little girl. Are you getting some help for her? I hope so. I bet your kicking yourself, once again I tell young people, to go slow, in relationships, especially where there are children involved. One Never Knows. Possibly, you could speak to your bank and see about "bridge financing" - if you qualify, the Mortgage would be paid, through Bridge Financing, and when the House is sold, the Mortgage Company gets their money first. The Lawyer, who closed, all costs, and the leftovers (if there is any) go to you. That is about  as much as I know you could try. Good Luck, and God Keep you and your Children SAFE. Maybe I am the first, Merry Christmas, and a Happy and Prosperous New Year.
920547
It appears that you are dealing with a probate issue as well as issues related to ownership of property. \n\nI would suggest that you seek legal advise, in the form of a lawyer, or mediator. The legal issues are complex and technical, as the will will likely will have given direction, but clearly has not resolved issues. this will therefore have to be contested, and unless the other parties are willing (which does not appear to be the case) this will become a complex and time consuming situation.\n\nAt $ 100. to 150. per hour (or more) you can see that it would become very expensive to resolve this matter. \n\nanother approach may be to suggest to the other parties to have the property appraised by certified appraisors (not realtors)\n(each party to do their own) and agree that the average is the base price to work from, and then to use this number as the value from which you all negotiate a buy out at terms that work for all parties.\n\nKeep in mind that neither of the parties may be able to come up the money to buy any one or more parties out,so it may require each of the parties to become creative and allow for some private mortgaging to one or an other.\n\nI assume you are all family in some fashion or another, so the emotional side of all this is another consideration and may make my suggestion something that allows each of you and the respective family to move forward and keep relations civil and constructive.\n\nTher is likely little incentive by the parties using the property to resolve the matter, but if everything else fails the courts will have to resolve the matter, and trust me "everybody will LOOSE".\n\nGood luck
641562
Go to court.  Or counter-offer if that is out of the question.  Like ask for a long term lease with a set rent increase each year.  If the house is his before the marriage, you don't have any claims on it so stay there as long as you need to.  If you don't want the store, get alimony.  Go over all of this with your lawyer to get your options quantified.
244678
He should check with a lawyer about joint custody. The support would probably be 50/50 and the custdy would be 50/50. I think she could move either way. I think she might be pre-preparing for supporr court. More time = more money? Either way she'll get the money (arears) and the chidren will suffer in the meantime. If the get along well they could work it out (legally) in the form of a contract. He could use the threat of court as leverage, but I would chek with a lawyer.
874448
The answer is:\n\nThere is ALWAYS some sub-par Mortgage Company that will approve her for a Refinance -- and she is going to have to spend a lot of time looking around for this type of financing.  It is going to take weeks of time -- yours and hers.  \n\nIn reality -- this interest rate is going to be high -- and the payment will probably increase, and I doubt she has thought of the issue of having a proportion of the Taxes and Insurance (as well as most likely being required to purchase Mortgage Life Insurance) added on top of the basic principle plus interest payment.  \n\nIs there a reason why SHE is wanting to buy you out with a shaky credit history?  Why are you not buying her out -- or both of you just placing the home on the market in the meantime?  \n\nI suspect she is doing this because she would have difficulty either purchasing another residence, or can not juggle her budget to accomodate rental units either.
1099258
Yes - I agree.  Get a lawyer and appeal.  My husband worked for 30 yrs. or so and finally had to quit because of bipolar and his meds.  He applied twice, was turned down both times.  We finally found a reasonable attorney and just last month, my husband received his first check for 1,100.00.  Just don't give up - keep trying, okay?
195390
It is best in matters like these to get a lawyer..I know that they are spendy but in matters like these it is well worth it.  I found one who would take payments.  About the house the only way to get your name off the Morgage is for him to refinance the house.  The lawyer will prepare the documents that you have to sign.  If he refuses take him to court and a judge will handle it.  Be strong!! Let him know that this time you are done and you mean business!!\nBeen there, and Won!!
216505
Honestly, you could prob. get the $$ back; but it would cost you, and might not be worth it. Anyway, you could get a lawyer in CA, and have him look into it.\n\nMy step-son had the same headache. It was cheaper for him to let it go and move on.
511782
First of all he violated court orders. Talk to your attorney about reporting that and taking his fool butt back to court. \n\nSecond, you need to take copies of those court papers to the bank and deliver them to who ever is in charge of the debt. Since you have these, you are not liable for the debt. If they continue to bother you, you may need to get your attorney involved to shut them up. Best of luck.\n\nAdded: Be sure to add court costs to any suit you bring against your ex or the bank. That should help reduce your own costs. Heck, just sue the ex for any costs you incure due to his lack of action on those court orders. Take care.
209410
Well, conmsidering he is active duty you're either living in government housing or paying rent/mortgage out of his governemnt paycheck since he gets an allowance for housing right? Either way, he's responsible for the house, so technically he has every right to stay there and can order you to leave. I don't think the court will think that his divorce reason is valid if you 2 are still living together though.
1110096
I doubt the lien would be enforceable since he had no ownership interest in the house when judgement was entered, but I recommend consulting a lawyer, things things vary from state to state.
750761
Quite a lousy situation.  However, my take on it is this.  Sounds like your boyfriend holds some of the cards here.  Unless his ex had a signed contract with him regarding the money she had loaned him, she would be hard pressed to get it back unless she is willing to go through some major legal wrangling.  And yes, he was being used as a "storage unit" so he should definitely be entitled to the market rate of what that would have cost the ex had she done it properly.  I know what I would do.  Don't pay her a cent and dare her to try to take it to court.  In fact, you probably would have a better chance to prevail in a lawsuit you would bring against her considering the lack of 30 day notice as added ammo as well.  You may want to consider small claims court, since you could most likely do this on your own w/o lawyering up.
527261
Talk with your lawyer or either call the courthouse and they will help you.........
610980
you may not have enough equity to even consider refinance..Basically look at the interst rates of your existing loan and the rates that are currenlty being offered. Is there more than a 2 point differnece? Has homes in your area in the last 6 months gone up in value considerably? Don't forget with refinancing also comes clsoing cost, points, assesment, and attorney fees. Talk to you finance company. Otherwiwse look at possibly a second mortgage or line of credit (again depends on equity though)