why my wife always thinks that i am out with some 1 else well i am not?
144212
1. you have cheated on her before or  2. she thinks you have\nbring her out with you next time...
426796
I'm misunderstood by my wife all the time. I misunderstand people, or misinterpret...I usually go to great lengths to accurately describe what I'd said to my wife so the misunderstanding could be cleared up...\n\nCommmunication can be tough...thats why I try to articulate myself as best as possible.\n\nIf its someone I don't really know...they can think whatever they want.
1123061
I think you are more infatuated with her than you love her. You got separated and she went to another man, why wouldn't she do it again if she has a problem with you again? Wake up man, this is simple commonsense. She just wants you, she does not need you, and you don't want to be in a relationship where you are just wanted and not needed. Thats not love. You will be used.\n\nWhat you need is a woman of your own and not one you share with another man. She is that other guy's wife and your seeing her is tantamount to adultery and that is treading on dangerous ground.\n\nDivorce? Well, she can get that to be with youbut are you going to marry her and take in that guy's children as your own? And do you see any reason why she won't divorce you as well when she has a problem with you? Don't be naive, you are believing that she loves you because thats what you want to believe. Sorry old boy but you will be a fool if you lick back what you spat out.
570506
Before examining your wife, lets take a look at this dude.  If he was a friend of hers, he wouldnt be making underhanded comments about you, doing things behind your back, etc.  If he was a friend of hers, he would want to be friends with you as well.  I mean, he is a dude.  He knows it is shady to do things behind your back.  Plus, he is putting your wife, his supposed friend, in a compromising position.\n\nNext issue, it is 100% your wife's responsibility to do the right thing.  You probably have a hot wife so you cant blame dudes for wanting her, but you can hold her accountable for doing the right or wrong thing.  She is the one that is married.\n\nSomeone else said this and it is absolutely correct, approach your wife with your feelings in a nonthreatening or emotional manner.  You gotta tell her how you feel and let her know that dismissing your feelings as jelous or irrational is not acceptable.  If this guy is truely a friend, he would hang out with both of you.  Tell her that you trust her and thinks its positive to have lots of friends of both genders, but texting, meeting behind your back, etc. is not something that wives and random dudes do if they are on the up and up.  If they are such great friends, he should come over to your crib to eat steaks and have beers with both of you.\n\nDont accept her acting shady.  You know as well as I do what is going on if she is shady.  Also, don't bite your tongue and be permissive because others tell you too.  You know in your gut if you are right or wrong.
456893
Well, obviously it is not a new idea to her, and it may be that your moodiness is exactly the problem that has made her think about it.  Honestly, you don't want to try to hold onto her if she wants to go, and you can always find someone new.  \n\nAs long as you have been married, you should have a little trouble getting use to dating again, but once you do you won't be sorry to be on your own.  \n\nThere are lots of single women out there to enjoy, so do it.  Let her go.  She has voiced it, and it is pretty much inevitable I think.\n\nYou could try counseling, if you want to save it, But you must do something.  Don't expect it to just go away.  Don't blame her for the timing.  Realize that this is something that has been building for some time.
137649
ur issue is not on how women think its how men acts..obvuiosly she was disgusted of you!!! married man wants to date another woman!!??? think sir...think of ur family........
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
155381
Sounds like your wife si coming around to make sure you are still going to be her back up. Just incase the one guy doesn't go so well she'll have you around. She can't let her little doggy get to far away on his leash. She has to snap you back. Since you have been talking to this other woman now, she has to make sure she reels you in. If you are the honest no gaming guy then she knows you'll tell this other girl. If you don't and reject her, well she gets the pleasure to break it to the woman. I would suggest you tell the other woman and send the wife back to the alley. Stay clear away from her ro you'll end up on a choker chain like a good little dog.
346003
hmm... she sounds a bit nuts. you certainly aren't the crazy one!! maybe now though, that she has 3 names to pick from, she likes yours best. \n\nshe might be doing it to spite the other guy. or maybe of the two husbands he has had, she sees you as being better and maybe wants you back, (at the moment, i'm sure not deep down. certainly do not go back to her!!).
1187507
She is confused, she has feelings for you but doesnt want you to be too close, meaning she doesnt want to get involve with you. And sends you sms or stuff just when she is in worry or has no one else. and when she finds someone else you are no more there for her, Also since she is more qualified and getting more paid, so you two are bound to have clashes, she will show her authority. And when you will not obey she will simply move out without any feelings. I have heard it happen like this. Unless she is in love with you and you know her for sure, and she doesnt change color so quickly, than go for her or i would prefer just forget her. There will be some girl who really loves you and is just not telling you, so find that girl, and when you will get your mind away from this girl the other girl you will easily see. Trying to get your attention but you ignoring her. Rest you have a mind can see things more clearly, evaluate. Its a waste to love someone who doesnt love you.
662123
You need to learn to communicate with each other, especially your feelings.  It is possible that for some reason your wife is not trusting you, or is angry with you.  You need to let her know how you feel (frustrated? unconfortable? confused? bewildered?  Only you can know your own feelings).  You also need to explore her feelings with an open mind and heart.\n\nOnce you have had an honest and open exchange about your feelings, only then should you explore the matter at hand.  Sharing your feelings can "tenderize" you and make you more receptive to each other's point of view.
135880
maybe she's feeliong underappreciated and is trying to make you jealous by reminding you she's been with other men.  If she's insecure in your feelings for her, she's probably looking to see how you react when she says this stuff.  It's childish, and will end up hurting the relationship if she continues.  I'd talk to her about it.  See how she reacts.  If she blows up over this, I'd say cut her loose and find someone else.  If she agrees to stop, give her a chance.
1039019
my wife was 13 years older than me....she had a problem with it...i didn't, sadly to say we are no longer together...she mistakenly thought i would prefer someone younger.So now i have lost her because of her false way of thinking.
391434
heck yea its possible i was that way for a long time,lol,i just make up stuff or let people give me ideas,have yall ever been able to openly talk about sex ,swinging,or stuff of that nature,she might be worried about what you will think if she really tells you,like hanin a menage trois,2 male 1 female ,that was really hard for me to tell my husband ,because i thought he would think less of me.
353653
well u know her situation better than us then ab she is lying or not u r the only person who can find it out...do u know her well before u asked her to go out with u ?if its several times that u asked her and she didnt come 1-maybe she is right(buy all of us even if e are too busy have some free times for ourselves) 2-maybe she cant tell u she dont wanna be with u(she is shying or ....)3-maybe she want u but there is something there ,whenever she wanna come out ,it warned her then she didnt.....i dunno more reason...ask her directly cuz even if she wanna be with u and this situation almost always happen ur relation can stand
1000737
sorry to say, it seems that she's using you because she knows you're weak. she knows she's your weakness, so everytime she gets bored in her current relationship, she comes running back to you. it looks like you're her entertainment while her husband's probably busy with something else. and then, as soon as she gets what she wants (your attention, and maybe something more) and her husband's ok with her, her attitude towards you changes because her ego has been satisfied and her time alone spent.\n\nyou may want to deny this, but i think you know it makes sense... if it does, you very well know what you need to do.
311077
You SERIOUSLY sound like you have major issues with your wife, from seeing all the questions you've asked. For one, get a life or, two, for God's sake, get a divorce or something instead of just bantering every hour uselessly about your wife.