my daughter dies in a car crash and my friend goes nuts?
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6 years ago - what you're friend said to you was very insensitive.  It sounds as if she finally realized what she's done wrong, but if she acted as if nothing's happened and can't seem to recall the hurtful things she's said to you years before, mayB U need to remind her that what she said to you (when you were in a state a mourning) was very hurtful and let her know that her remark had placed a damper on your friendship.  Honestly, we're all human and we all do make mistakes with the things we say or do.  I'd say give your friend another chance, but be clear on the reasons why you haven't kept in touch with her all those years and be honest with how you really felt.\n\nAt least this is my opinion.  I've also learned from past mistakes and I've lost some valuable friendships, because I've never expressed to them how I really felt about certain issues.
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Yes you are I know there is not an excuse for being cruel and hurt full. But she has lost her son and the grief and pain of that is unbearable. She is not thinking rationally, she needs to blame something or in this case someone. Let this alone let her grieve I am sure she loves her grandchild and will come to her senses. In the meantime perhaps when all the do gooders come racing over to tell you every word that she has said perhaps you should tell them that you do not want to hear it! This keep you from being hurt and quite frankly helps these people realize that they are not helping anyone by running back and forth with he said she said nonsense.I am so sorry for rthe pain that you all are going thru. Perhaps the easiest way for you to have compassion for her is to remember how devastated you would be if you lost your little boy. Beleive me whether they are 3 days old or 50 a mother never recovers fully from losing her child.
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that was a very terrible problem...\ni'm sorry for what had happened to your daughter.\n\nsometimes life is unquestionable, even... it's unanswerable.\nwhatever you are going through in this life, god knows. he knows the best for your life, eventhough what had happened to you seemed so unfair. god said, god works in all things for your goodness. can you see the positive side from the problem you have?  if you havent, you will.\n\ni did something bad a few years ago i blame it on god, why did he let me do it. but... today, i know he let me experience it for my own good...\n\nhow can you bring your faith back? it cant leave you, it is inside you, you just have to awake it... ask for gods grace...
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dude.. u worry too much!! it could be worse ..she could wear black. to symbolise she was losing her daughter forever.
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First, I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. Your family didn't deserve this pain. You are a good mother for wanting to seek help and in no way was this incident your fault.\n\nhttp://www.shakenbaby.com/ is a support group for adults.
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When my 2year old twins died from a car accident comeing from the doctor office .They only had a simple cold and we went to the ice cream palor.Then on the way home a drunk driver came rushing by me and pushed me off the road and i hit a wall and was knocked out.When i awoke in the hospital they told me i had 3 crack ribs and a broken anckle.I ask to see my kids they said they were sorry they didnt make it i wished at that time somone would of shot me.the doctor told me that i was also pregnat and i need to have a dnc done because my unborn baby was also dead from internal bleeding.I am still haveing problems but with Gods help ill make it.It will be 8 years in 2 months.thats my story ,thanks for asking.
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That is very sweet. I am sorry about your daughter. God bless you.
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I would ask the county where this child died...but the real issue is the pain and grief your wife is still carrying.\nI think your wife is still grieving for her child.\nShe needs to have some grief counseling and support...other parents who have lost a child would be useful.\n\nI will pray for her and your family.
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i remember i was so upset when one of my schoolmate's died. she died in a car crash, and this was only a few years ago. even though i didn't know her, i cried for hours. what upset me even more was that, no one seemed to care! everybody continued to do there everyday stuff, no teachers talked about it or anything. a year before, another student died. she was a senior, a very popular one at that. when she died, the whole school was in mourning. this girl, mentioned above, was a freshman when she was killed (along with her mother in a car accident), and no one seemed to mention her. i will never forget how angry that made me feel....\ni think everyone should realize that death comes to everyone. it doesn't matter how old you are because people die at any age. it's very sad, but it's a fact of life. everyone should realize that
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depending on time of death i'd say he could be charged w/ some sort of reckless neglect. mabey even 2nd 3rd degree murder[ but it wouldnt stick unless he fourced the drugs on her.   my god if this is your daughter , i'm so sorry for you . i dont know how you will find any peace other than through forgivness.  the courts / police will only continue to "boil" your blood. as hard as it may be seek justice and solis in the lord not the system
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That is so awful.  They say you always lose people in 3's.  Anyway, it is important for me to tell you this...Before we all came to this place we had a plan already written.  In that plan we have 5 ways we can chose to leave this earth to go to the other side.  You sister was needed by God at that time.  She left to help God.  You great-grandson was never meant to come to earth yet, so God took him back until it was the right time.  Our world just wasn't ready for the great being he will now be in another life.  Your daughter had to go to the other side because it was in your life plan to take care of your granddaughter.  I know this all sounds really freaky but believe me... you are doing a great job holding it together.  You shouldn't be worried about helping other people especially on Yahoo!Answers, because your family is going through thier own grieving process and they need you.  You are their rock.  This is your plan.
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Dear Friend,\n\nThe best thing to do is get a lawyer.  There is no substitute for your own legal counsel.  That said, here are a few ideas -- not legal advice, just common sense.\n\nFirst, document everything having to do with this incident.  Write down all of your recollections of the encounter.  Get a copy of the phone record that you called 911 (in connection with this woman) which will make the real reason for ther retaliatory claim obvious.\n\nNext, did you get the names of the police officers who responded to the call?  They might be able to testify as to the condition of the car, the circumstances of the meeting, her talking about (or not talking about) any scratches.  If you didn't get the names of the officers, the police might still be able to tell you through their dispatch logs.  Few people make better witnesses than the police.  If they won't voluntarily appear on your behalf, consider getting a subpoena to compel appearance (as a last resort).\n\nAlso, were there any other witnesses?  Make a list.  Talk to each of them and see what they saw.  Did they see damage to the cars?\n\nIf this goes to court, demand proof.  Demand a chance to have your own mechanic look at the "damage."  Demand an explanation of how toddlers caused major auto body damage.  If she has pictures, ask how we can tell what date they were taken.  Demand to see her police report, mechanic report, insurance report.\n\nIt sounds to me like a shakedown.  If so, tell her you won't pay her one red cent.  \n\nYours in Him,\nFrancesois
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If that is true then I have to blame myself for my daughter dying of a cocaine overdose and I do look back and see how I could have been a better parent.I think it is some genetics and some environmental.We do feel quilt when our children have problems but I guess none of us are perfect.
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Get your daughter into therapy.  It's not only for "crazy" people, but it will help her deal with the situation.  Whether or not anything happened to her personally, she may have some confusion about the whole thing in general, and it really helps to talk to a third party about it.  Good luck.
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Ah, dear sweet mother that you are, don't you know that as much as you love your daughter, that God loves her all that much and more?  He will grant her peace.  He will show her how much you love her, and help her to understand if there was any unresolved issues between the 2 of you, and come to a certain peace about it.  \n\nYou say she was bipolar.  If this ever caused her to do things that were questionable, I think God would not ever hold those things against her.  Please do not worry over her salvation or anything like that.  God is not so cruel.  Would you ever send your daughter to a place of torment?  Of course not!  And God will not either!  That is pure and simple.\n\nLosing a daughter is the hardest loss that anyone on earth probably ever has to face.  I cannot even comprehend it.  You are feeling totally natural things.  Do not feel guilty for the way you feel.  I wish I could give you some kind of magic words that would ease your suffering.  But I do not know them.  Please know that even now, I am crying for you.  Tears are blurring my vision now!  I feel so sad for you.  And I do not even know you.  But I can tell you are hurting, and that you truly truly were a good mother, even if you are unsure of it right now.  I will pray for you.  Do not feel ashamed to seek counseling in this situation.  No one could be prepared for the loss you've endured.  I bet some counselling may help.\nAnd I'll pray for you.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
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kids are resilient.  they understand things sometimes a lot simpler than we can and just trust.  it's your decision and you should do whatever you feel most comfortable with. but keep her informed.  my dad's dad died when my dad was young, and he wasn't kept informed at all, and it hurt.  death is a part of life, and she should be exposed to that, but make sure you and other family members are there to help her understand and to just hold her when she cries.  i'm so sorry that you have to be in this situation.  it's so tough and heartwrenching to lose someone you love.  it sounds like you have family with you- hold on to them. this tragedy in your life will make you stronger (you'll see it eventually), so just make sure all of you hold on to each other.  don't be afraid to cry and break down sometimes.  your little sister will be alright.
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I had lost alot of young (between the ages of 20-26) and i had lost an Uncles that was 20 in December of 2003 in a car accident traceling from Wisconsin to Wyoming to work. I can tell you, tell her your sorry and to always remember the good times. It really helped when everyone of my friends just sat and talked about the good times we had partying and stuff. It will take her time, i am still sad and not the same. Its a very hard thing to deal with. Another thing is, sometimes i just wanted space and noone around, and my friends thought i was being rude but thats just how i felt..Hope it helps u out.