How do I fall in love with my husband again?
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hmmm as u fall in love before .recollect ur memory and once again feel same passion and love as u have before for him.i wish u good luck
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Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel.  It's natural for couples to "woo" eachother when dating - doing things the other person likes and what not, thats natural, it's compromise.  What you can both do now is communicate and find things to do together.  Find a hobby you both like and go for it.  You can also both compromise from time to time and do something that your spouse really enjoys but maybe you don't like so much.\nThe key is communication - let him know how you feel and that you miss doing things together.
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Sorry, but I don't think you love your man.  Look, deep, deep into yourself  please.  Why are you with your husband; same interests; why did you marry in the first place?\n\nThere are always lots of interesting guys out there, but, but, not to play with.  If you don't want your relationship, don't hurt him.  Get out now and move on and be very careful and date and date, and don't marry again until you know this is the guy.  \n\nI know.  I have been married 2 times -- and, well, what more can I say.  Think, ponder and get on one way or another with your life.  Don't hurt anyone....he doesn't deserve this ...\nluv Ava
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Thankfully the answer is "NO".  You will find that feeling of "true love" again.  I was raised to believe that there was only one person in the whole world that was right for you.  Every time a relationship broke up I worried, what if he was that one?  I can tell you from experience that you will fall in love again.
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It will not be easy, but the best advice I can give you is to pray and ask GOD to take away the feelings that you have for this man, and to renew the love,desire and passion you once had for your husband.
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I had the same feeling even though I see my bf almost every day.And I asked almost the same question here and someone told me to do all I can to bring that love back.Just remember what you used to do , do the same you did when you were in love , bring back in your life the things that made you to fall in love with him.It worked for me... Good luck!\nDon't listen people telling you "Long distance relationships NEVER work".It's not true!!!Where it's love anything is possible!
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I am currently in the same shoes as your husband.  It is tough when a man sincerely makes a change and tries to make good on promises especially if he hadn't in the past.  It seems that everything that is done in a positive manner is viewed as way of trying to influence the wife into coming back.  \n\nIf you can truly see that he is trying to change, but you are afraid of the pain then that is understandable.  Your feelings and "sanity" should be considered.  Here is the thing though, what are you doing to change???  Alot of times when someone is "done wrong", they feel that they didn't have a role in it.  Maybe you are the perfect wife, but I suspect that something that about you has played a part in your separation.  Not knowing your particulars, I would say work on making yourself a better person.  The change in you may make you understand the change in him.\n\nI sincerely hope that your husband has changed.  I hard when someone you love does not believe in you and the pain that is caused becomes unbearable at times.  But if he is fighting through all of that, maybe there is something about him that is redeemable.\n\nGood Luck and I'll pray for the two of you.\n\nWT
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Once the passion has faded and you've been living under this bad cloud, it's hard to change your feelings about someone.  It's been a lot of water under the bridge.  With respect to you family and children, it might be too much to expect that you will find the magic again with your husband, even though you've become able to stand your own ground.  Contrary to those that will advise you to go to counseling and turn to religion, my guess is that it is a lost cause.  Thus your choice is to remain, yet life a double life which includes a discrete affair, or just part ways and move on.  Good luck with this decision, it's not easy for anyone.  Enjoy!
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If your husband still touches you then he likes what he sees, not all women get a guy who loves them throughout the various changes in their life. Feel lucky and enjoy having a loving husband who isn't looking elsewhere, and eventually you'll feel confident in yourself again.
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Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
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Well given that I've been married for 7 years and known him for 10, I hope this helps. \n\nInfatuation: is like new found love or "puppy love," it's new exciting and makes you flutter like a butterfly in your stomach. you can't stop thinking about them, you want to be around them, know everything that there is about them, and just experience them first hand. With my husband (when he was my boyfriend at the time) was all I wanted to hear, talk to, hold, and be with. He was what I breath and thought about 24/7. \n\nIt wasn't until 3 years ago, that I realized what love was. Love is where your trust is validated, when he takes care of a bill without you yelling, takes care of the kids for you when you are sick. Cooks a meal for you and it's not your anniversary or birthday. But what really made me realize what love was it when I couldn't make love to him and I was sick. He stood by me through it all and nursed me without thought of his own needs. It's when u are satisfied with this person that you are with despite if they leave the toilet seat wet or up, if they leave their clothes and dirty shoes everywhere alone with the kids, shaves and leaves shavings for yout to clean up, loses his job and u have to work for two years, despite what people say about him you stay beside him because you know he loves you. He gains weight and now weights 300 pounds, he loses he's hair and looks more like your dad than your man. IT's where all material, superficial, and nonessential qualities are not the things that makes the relationship and it lasts because of the little things.\n\nI had four kids for him. gained 120 pounds. He made me feel like a queen despite I was huge and was paitent with me when I couldn't make love to him for 6 months. He's been there when it counted and that's why I love him. the infatuation and honeymoon is over for us, but the romance is still cooking.
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This is a seemingly growing problem. Years ago people were together more. Now it seems we barely get time to say hi and bye. Life has changed the dynamics of relationships these days. However, it doesn't mean it's impossible to reconnect on an intimate level with your hubby.\n    You asked can you fall out of love with your hubby after 5 years? And the answer is a simple, Yes. Can you also reconnect and fall back in love? Again a simple YES! \n  The first step was the realization that there is a problem. The next step and maybe the hardest step is to change the way things are. In order to make changes, (and I know I have said this before, but I think it's worth saying again) You have to do the exact opposite of what you are doing now. Which means stop doing what you are currently doing, it's not working! You mentioned you had no "us" time, and that is what I would start with first. MAKE COUPLE TIME! Put your child to bed and sit down and watch a movie together. Try to go to bed together and if nothing else, just cuddle. Talk about your day, and how you can make tomorrow better. You each need to talk about your dreams, goals, and what you want for the future. You each will have separate goals, but you will also need goals as a couple. \nI would also recommend counseling. You can use your pastor, (if you have one) A close family friend with whom you trust and can be neutral, or a professional counselor.\nOther things that you might want to try is a "date" night for you and hubby. Get a babysitter (one you trust) and go away for the weekend once every 3-6 months. Spend quality time together as a couple. it doesn't have to cost a fortune. All you need is a desire to want things to change and a creative mind. I wish you all of the best!
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It depends: do you have faith in him? You need to consider what happened with your last relationship. Was it something he did? Was it something you did? Try to figure that out first. That way, if you do choose to start over, you can fix it.\n\nNext, decide if your relationship can be salvaged at all at this point. Has too much gone wrong between you? If so, then make a clean break. Or can you be together without getting too awkward? Do you think there's too much pain, or do you think you can be together without having what went wrong throbbing in your heart each day? If so, then you may be able to save your relationship.\n\nAnd finally, do you want to start over as friends? So far, your husband's intentions and attempt seem genuine; it seems that he really wants to save your relationship by going back to the beginning and fixing the things that went wrong the first time around. Are you willing to go back to square one? And are you ready for if it doesn't work out?\n\nIf you choose to do this, then I think he's right when he says to take it slow. It would be hard, and expecting everything to fix itself quickly would make it harder; it's expecting too much. Chances are, it might even take longer than the first time around because last time, there wasn't the awkwardness or discomfort of a marriage gone down. It's risky, and it won't be easy.\n\nWhatever you choose, good luck and I wish you the very best.
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My mom once told me to know if your really in love you have to look deep into your soul and ask yourself if you can see your life with out that person.. try to picture that person living a life with out u in it, a new gf, ect.. does it break your heart? if none of this phases you, then your not really in love.. but, your already married,  you to a vow , try to remember what made you fall in love with him in the first place.. remember that cloud 9 feeling, the giddiness..if you love him, really love him.. then find that giddiness again, and look around at your gf's and their husbands or bf's.. if their anything like my gf's alot of them are dealing with a-hole husbands , disrespect, drinking, wondering eyes, being a dead beat ect.. and you know what.. it makes me realize that although sometimes my marriage isnt as exciting and not the romantic novel i hoped for, I have a pretty damn good husband, that loves me, and doesnt treat me badly.., hes a great dad, and i could of done so much worse.. so im pretty damn lucky.. \n\nDont rush into thinking that he grass is greener on the other side, u didnt say but im guessing if u love him dearly that he must be a pretty alright guy.. and they are hard to find, and many woman would do just about anything to have a good man by their side..\n\nGood luck.. and find the love again, if u had it once, surely u can find it again if you just look hard enough for it..
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You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!
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I can relate to your question. Last week my wife of over 20 years told me that she was not in love with me anymore. She said she loves me but is not in love with me. I have spent some time in the local library doing some reading regarding relationships. I would recommend the same to you. What I have found is several things. 1st is communication you have to talk. 2nd look back at some of the things that made you a happy couple in the past and try and find out what has changed. 3rd if there are things about you that your husband is trying to change to make him love you than he doesn't... My issues are simple. my wife wants me to be something I am not. I am not her auto mechanic. I am not her errand boy and I am not her handy man. I told her that projects are fine if we do them as a team. but don't expect me to always mow the lawn, paint the house clean the garage clean the attic etc... We are a couple and couples do things together. maybe it's time to look at your relationship like your roomates? take equal responsibilities for what you have. Become an equal to him. If he is the bread winner then better yourself. Find a job that makes you more the equal. take on more responsibility. If the car breaks take it to the shop and get it fixed. Go out with him more often, take time to date again. Find things that you both have in common and do them. Find new things that you can do together...Relationships are an ever changing part of life so keep on living. if it alls fails then get out. Don't be miserable for the rest of your lives. Maybe read the book "falling out of love" read it from cover to cover. It's a short book follow the examples and see what happens.
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Well girl it's hard, i think we only love once. Fall in love and love that person once. Like you with Larry, he was and is your true love. your heart belongs to him and no you will never find no one to love the same way.All you have now are the great memories and the best thing because they say to remember is to relive those moments. I don't know what happened with you and Larry, but if you do have an oppurtunity to  look for him do so. Good luck.