should i go out with a guy who cheated on me before?
141608
If you really love him and you are sure in your heart he won't cheat again there is no reason not to give him another chance.  We are all human and make mistakes.  The key though is has he really changed, and can you truely forgive him.  If either of these isn't possible then move on.  If they are, then give it a try and be careful with your heart.
234438
well considering y ou cheated on him should he trust you ?\ni have a bf that is the same way im not allowed to even tak to guys i cant visit my sister caz she lives with her bf and my x always goes over there to see them and i never cheated on him i only cheated on my x wit him and he wont 4get that and you cheated on your man jst ask yourself whether you'd b able to ever fully trust him if he'd cheated on you
854641
first of all, i am so sorry you are in this position.  i was in a similar situation not too long ago.  i dont think it is a bad idea to date someone.  you just have to be sure you are honest with the guys so that they know what they are getting themselves into.  i dont think you should stop living because this guy was a creep to you.  asfor the trust issues, i think it takes a long time to feel safe again after you have been betrayed (believe me, i know) take your time and dontr rush into anything.  God bless you and you baby.
591108
well if you weren't in love with him. then why did you go out with him? why did you sleep with him? when you sleep with a guy before marriage they tend to leave.. i know this all too well. and if he cheated on you . then maybe he doesn't deserve you. you were in love with another guy while you were dating another guy that you didn't love .. did you go out with him because he was a charity case or to make the other guy jealous ? in the beginning?
282037
i would dump the person\nits alot of stress to go and cheat and it is obvious you dont care about the person nemore if you would even think about cheating on them\nlike i said you should just dump the person and find someone new
338089
You should be able to tell since your already dating him. Guys usually don't go out with girls they like unless it's on a blind date or something. So everything should be ok.
491967
Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
884575
he has a guilty conscience, dump him, forget him and move on to someone more deserving of you. Once a cheater always a cheater
968073
Ok.  What do YOU think??  If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??\n\nYou know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......\ndo you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??  \n\nHoney, I hope you're smarter than that.  I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life\nwith this guy.  Cut your losses and move on.  A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
175255
If you have any concern, I think that you really should talk to your boyfriend.  Despite you have been together for 6 years, you are still very young and you are still learning so much about yourself.  He may or may not be cheating on you but there is a question for you, why did you get back together after he cheated on you last time?  Did you think that he would change?  Personally, if someone cheated on me once, it is very difficult to rebuild that trust for I know that even if for the rest of his life, he never cheats, I would still wonder if he is whenever he is late from work, have a business trip....so that will not be fair for the man!  Why do you want to be in a relationship that is second guessing?
998326
i truly dont think u should accept... trust me when other people including i, say this... once a cheater alwayz a cheater... believe me i went through the same situation were i truly loved a guy n he cheated on me... i thought that if i gave him a second chance he'll change... i was wrong... this goes for many guz... u may not kno it...jus move on.. i kno its hard but trust me there is alwayz some else better out there 4 u... i thought that wasnt true, but now i am happy and in love with my bf of almost one yr.!!!! i just hate seeing people especially girls get treated this way...
229837
sweetheart, it hurts alot. i've been there. you are right in not being able to trust him. it's not always the case that there always a cheater, but it's almost foolproof. if he's done it before, why won't he do it again when he finds someone else that's more attractive to him? all you can do is wait out the pain. it hurts and it sucks, but try and move on. go out, have fun, meet new guys. you don't have to get married or anything, just go out and have fun. i hope this helps you sweetie, at least a little. if you'd like to talk to someone that's been there, you can email me. poetic_disturbulance@yahoo.com
723348
don't really know, never cheated on anyone, don't understand the need to cheat.  i figure if you feel like cheating then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.  but maybe him being in a relationship with you is just a way of him boosting his own confidence up a little for personal braggin rights such as "yea, i got a girlfriend".  either way just dump him and move on
326054
Well, if your ex cheated on you, then it shouldn't matter who you date. Even if it is his friend. Hard part about that, is you won't be able to hang out with him when he makes plans with your ex. So there will be a bit of drama more so between the guys, but I also think it's silly to keep things locked up. I hate hiding things, so I would tell the new guy that he should speak up. I dunno, it always sucks being in those kinds of situations. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
7962
No!  Pass on the sloppy seconds.\n\nHe cheated on you once, he will do it again.\n\nFind someone that is worthy of your attention!
1059263
If you really want this relationship to work, don't do it. You'll just end up making the trust between the two of you even worse. If you forgive him, you forgive him. It sounds to me, like you need to tell him you want to see other people, because you are not sure he's the one anymore. Tell him you cant trust him, and until that trust is rebuilt, you feel you should date around. good luck.