how to get my girlfriend to feel comfortable when i touch her?
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That is something that she is going to have todeal with on her own and that will take time it always does. Because unless she's told you you may not know this but there may have been something that has happened to her in the past that has cuased her to feel uncomfertable with the way you are touching her so the only thing you can do is talk to her and find out why she is uncomfertable and if she doesn't want to tell her then let it be at that point the only thing you can do is to be there for her as she work it out on her own and comfert her in a way she is O.K. with till she is over it.
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Tricky...everyone's different.\nIf you're already good friends then she's used to you touching..to an extent.  increase the hugging and gazing into her eyes and maybe link arms more when you're walking somewhere.  try a spontaneous hand-hold and see how it goes.  don't be icky about it, though, there's a fine line. she'll get the hint after a while and if she'd interested back you'll notice b/c she'll give hints too. then tell her how you feel...or just grab her and kiss her like you've never kissed anyone before.\nif she just doesn't get it...you're jsut going to have to go bold and tell her...\n\ngood luck!
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maybe nerves.\nTry something.\nNext time you're with a girl, do not focus on sex. Focus on intimacy instead. Start by giving her a backrub. Make sure you've got some massage lotion. Then move on to her arms, her hands, her butt, her legs & feet. Make it slow & sensual. Don't forget her neck & face! Even get a few scented candles & put some instrumental music on in the background. \nAs you do this, you'll be focusing on intimacy. Your ability to relax with increase as you're talking...touching...getting to know each other. Both of you be nude. But keep it focused on her being pleased & you being relaxed. Maybe go down on her, but you refrain from getting off until you feel comfortable.
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Go to a bath shop, and look for "Body Butter". There are many different scents, and it rubs in like a lotion. It soaks in and doesn't leave that oily feel afterwards. It DOES leave the skin feeling very smooth though, so it's more inclined for women than men. Although, I have to admit that I enjoy rub downs with it as well. lol\n    Try not to use the finger tips so much, but rather the flats of the fingers. Gentle kneading methods, much like kneading dough for rolls works good. Start at the neck, working towards the shoulders, and arms. If he is giving her a rub down, he should make sure to give her a back run first, all the way down, including the feet. THEN, he might ask her to roll over. But it shouldn't just be about the sexual contact, although there isn't anything wrong with that either. ;)  Good luck, and have fun!!
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massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
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Touch, You touch her body
520292
Lead your hand up her leg rubbing her smoothly... make her feel comfortable and them slowly go in.
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make her feel it in your kiss
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if you and your gf are close,,,ask her for help.ask her desires and how you should or can fulfill them.what she likes,what she doesn't like.be open to her to be open with you.have no fear.
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if you are barely starting to feel on her then go on top of the pants. do that a couple of times then when she gets comfortable that's when you slip her the finger. heehee
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It's not what she says, it's what she does and how she makes you feel. Don't pressure her. I've found in my experiences to just go with the flow. In the past I have always thought in order to have a great loving relationship with someone, you had to work hard to please them, NOT the case. I have recently found the woman that I will be with for the rest of my life. Its easy for us to communicate with each other and that's the key. If you are having doubts about how your girlfriend feels about you then you should be able to talk to her about it. Here is a good question to ask her. "If I was in an accident and became paralyzed would you wipe my ass for me?" It sounds funny but let me tell you if you can wipe someones ass THAT'S REAL LOVE.\nGood Luck
467321
touch her in places that will turn her on. kiss lightly on the neck without being too obvioys rub her arm gently, offer a massage. there are a lot of ways to get it started without coming out and saying a word.
600779
if you had good conversation the rest will come. If the eye contact doesn't come though and the relationship keeps progessing then when you have sex with her you should do her doggy style. That should take the pressure off.
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just take your time and relax...do what feels natural and don't put so much pressure on yourself, if she feels the same way about you it will be a great night for you both
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Think of what you would like and think of what might freak you out, mostly if someone comes on too strong.  Have fun, do girl things, do things that get you in contact with each other, put your arm through hers as you walk down the street as a friendly having a good time gesture but don't let her go.  Holding hands in public might be too much right off.  Keep it subtle and easygoing.  If you enjoy yourself then she should enjoy herself and then maybe you can enjoy each other.  Good luck.
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great question, seeing guys ask something like this makes me feel like theres hope for this country and the men in it. There are some great ideas from other people already , but I would like to stress again a few - for sure try all the small cute things like putting a note for her to find about how much  you love her, sending her something to work so that evryone can see is also romantic and she will feel very special even if she says shes embarrased - trust me she still loves that kind of thing. Make her that bubble bath from time to time - after she gets home from work and just always LISTEN and take care of her. Thats all a girl really needs.  =)   As long as you share yourself and your life with her she will be happy
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Write her a well thought-out sweet note or letter.  The pen is mightier than the sword.\n\nThe first step is gathering trust.  Let her know from a distance that you appreciate her, write down your feelings on paper and share them.  That's communication, although protocol isn't clearly defined for love.  The key here is "do not betray that trust".  Be true to anything you say or do.\n\nThe second step is ensuring that she is comfortable with you.  If the response to the written word is favorable, and you've invited her to dinner, etc. then you might try to make 'light' physical contact.  Usually a 'hug' is sufficient for this step.\n\n  If you meet her again later, you might other light physical contact, such as stroking her arm.  If on a second date, you could also try petting her hair, and perhaps running your fingers through it.  If she does not react negatively, then perhaps she may be comfortable with you in her physical 'space'.\n\nBefore you even get to the point where you "fertilize her eggs", consider treating her to all of the physical sensory input she would like.  Ask her along the way whether or not she enjoyed something you had done, whether it was a hug, touch on the neck, running the fingers through the hair, etc. or whether it was something that she didn't notice or enjoy.  Remember that.\n\nThe best way to make love with a girl is to determine the best way she would have love made to her.  Communication is the key.