i have this new boyfriend and i really like him he's a bit older than the guys i usally date how do i tell mom
141009
Tell her calmly after some good news, so she'll be so happy with the other thing that she wont really pay attention to that. Tell her how great he is and introduce them sometime, but tell him to act like a gentleman and not to try to act up, cause I don't think your mom will like that.
969730
That shouldnt be embarassing but if it is then make up a different excuse. Tell him you like him but you dont want a boyfriend right now or be honest and tell him you would but you cant because your parents dont approve. Whatever your more compfortable with, good luck!!
756887
hey my mom is dating a guy 15 yrs older than her. its workin out great for them.and they've been going for over a year now.
151213
Does it really matter at this point? If they like him enough to accept you living with him, I doubt they'll care how you met. I really see no need in telling them...but if it really bothers you just say " I'm sorry I didn't tell you about how I met so and so....we really met online but as you can tell we're really happy together so I hope you still accept him."
244381
i have racist parents, and i waited to date outside my "race" until i got out of the house. if i had "fallen for" someone they wouldn't have approved of before that, i think i just would have dated the person without them knowing. (and i would tell the guy that your parents have issues, so he knows why you're not taking him home to dinner first thing.)\n\nafter you've dated for a little while, and if you really think it's "serious," then you can introduce him to your parents, after you make it clear that you waited to tell them because of their racist attitudes, and are only telling them because it's more than just a crush. prepare for a big argument. tell them first, BTW, so they don't make asses of themselves. surprise is not a good idea here. \n\n(and sorry you have to deal with such silliness. at least i hope it's just silliness.)
35566
aw thats hard but maybe give it some time and if u still dnt like him explain ur reasons to ur mom in a mature way and have proof. but whatever u do b mature and dont whine
511437
I would be careful, because if you dont like him, most likely your just falling in love with what you think he is.  What if he only seems shy and caring because you dont talk to him?  Perhaps hes just a sexist insensitive pig, and he just hasnt opened his mouth yet.  But you cant judge if you dont know him, so get to know him slow and find out what you too have in common.  If you dont have much experience with guys, which sounds like it due to your description of your mother, take it slow and get to know what hes really like.  Im sure your parents wouldnt be too terribly upset---kids date, your growing up.
243116
I've been in this situation a few times. No matter what you do or don't do your BF's mom will think you're not right for him...at first. Give her time to get to know you better. Once she realizes how much he likes you and that your not out to break his heart she'll back off. Try asking you BF to talk to him mom.
670905
Don't be afraid to tell him.You might have a new boyfriend:)
804125
Sounds like your mom is picking them based on the color of their skin.  \n\nSo far neither one has picked you. Pick the one you like.  \n\nIf you're not sure, tell both of them you like them and want to spend more time with them.  See what happens.  Try out one date each and see how you feel.  You don't have to be exclusive on this first date, because you know that first dates don't always work out.  Don't get too physical, because then you'll get a bad reputation.\n\nOnce you start dating, Sebaastian should stop talking to other girls on the phone.  If he continues, he's just a player and you should pick someone else.  SAme thing does for this other kid you like.  Remember, guys will flirt a lot just so they can get someone.
553575
She's an adult. I say go for it. Your not that much older anyways. Just 11 years. My mother and my dad are 8 years apart.. and my mom has dated a guy that was 13 years younger than her. Now she is dating someone that is almost 20 years older than her. I say as long as it's legal, than age ain't nothing but a number!
705614
I too have a preference for older men and have been there. First off don't be offended when your family starts in with the what does he want someone so young for. Most occasions when an older man is interested in someone so young it is because there is something wrong with him. That being said there are some relationships that do work out becuase both are really in love and only time will tell this. I suggest that you tell your parents that you know that there is high percentage of varying age difference relationship problems and the two of you love each other and discuss the topic often and want to do your best to work through that and feel it is worth it. More than likely you will get oposition concerning this but don't get angry. There is reasons for their concern and respect that. There does have to be a point though after your family has met him and he has proven time again that he does love you that you need to take a stand and say that's enough he has proven that he loves me regardless of my age and his only negative aspects are normal and I can live with them so I suggest everybody else to just accept my relationship and get over their expectations of me finding someone your own age because it's not going to happen.\n\nOn the other hand if their fears eventually get confirmed then don't be so hard on yourself. We never see it for ourselves until it is too late and going through what ever you may go through could have ended up being a wonderful relationship but you wouldn't have known unless you tried.
719959
What is a little underage? Another thing is sometimes, mom knows best. If you are not allowed to date, then sweetie please wait. But if you must tell mom be ready to do it like "an adult". Be honest and frank and be ready to take her reaction. The best way is to take her aside and let her know.
133792
Tell him you've got a boyfriend
552365
Well, I'm 35 and my boyfriend is 23....so go for it! You're both adults. If you both consent, to hell with what anyone else thinks. I met my boyfriend two years ago and my mother just hates it!! But, she has to endure because we're about to have a child together (any day now). I'm not ashamed to admit that I initially pursued him because he was hot! I don't regret any of it either. \n\nA word of advice though: the age difference will crop up, no matter how hard you try to ignore it. I'm not just talking about what other people will say. It will crop up between the two of you. There are just some things you can't change and the big one is that you have way more life experience than he does, no matter how mature he may be. How each of you handles these moments will determine whether or not a relationship will work....along with all the other relating factors. Age difference doesn't have to be an obstacle if handled with care. I've had to remind myself on many occasions that I used to be his age and I used to think or act as he does. I can't change him...he's going to things his way...after all that's how we all learn.\nThe very fact that he reminds me of myself at that age is one of the reasons I love being around him. It makes me feel understood and not so alone in the world. I never had that with any other man.
545414
Let them know that he's a great guy(he is right?) and that\nyou are old enough to date.
739018
If your dad says that you are allowed to have a boyfriend, why not have a chat with him about it. Don't necessarily tell him that you have a boyfriend, but just mention that there is a boy that like you and you think that he is nice, but he is just a friend. How would he feel if you went on a date with him. Doing it this way you are just testing the water so to speak. Just mention it casually too him, and then leave the situation for a while.\n\nThe thing is you don't want your dad to hear about you having a boyfriend some someone else, at least if you start testing the water, its a start to try and gage what your dad's reaction will be