Good friend stole my job. I innocently mentioned the job opening to them. Am I now justified to end frienship?
157140
I should say NO, do not end it. Distance yourself though, this is the reality of life and you have learnt it without loosing your life.\n\nStop pouring yourself to them anymore. Just be friends, remember if she ever turns around for help to you -if you can offer without an effort that is, make it a point that you do this as a favor. Make him/her obligated to what you have done for her. Mind you, do not loose yourself as you make her realise what he/she has done.\n\nRemember, we pay back our debts in this world -be patient, you will get your chance to collect, with interest.
1020579
When that happened to me many years ago, it was devastating to loose a friend who I thought was "a friend."  Now, as time passed, I figured that she was an acquaintance, some one who comes & goes in your life time.  If she was that weak minded to just take his word for something as important as that without consulting you to straighten it out, then she's not your friend.  Get a new one who values your friendship.
104702
Your relationship with your boss in only "Business". If you have taken it beyond that then .... no solution. \nAs long as there is only business ties between you both, you are not obliged to your boss beyond business. Find a job, give 2 weeks notice and walk out. \n--x--\nOr, you can find someone to replace you before you leave. Some one you know who needs a job, and you think would best fit the position. That way atleast you dont strand him, you give your friend a job, and you are peaceful.
694936
i think you did the right thing- but i feel you may be letting people take advantage of you- should he be mad?  whats that about? why worry about that? he should be reported to the manager, when EVERYONE works together as a team things get done alot faster and they are alot more happier and people would really enjoy and love going to their jobs.  really life is to short, people now days need to love each other just as they would want to be loved and treated.
136141
Will the outcome of this all effect your job? Do you feel in your heart he is innocent? If so then stand by him, if not then gracefully decline to be any part of the situation and yes, find another job.
561461
You are in a tough position. It points out the wisdom that you really cannot be friends with folks whom you boss. You have to remain a little bit apart. Now mean-spirited people are going to make comments no matter what. You have to maintain your sense of fairness. \n\nBut think of it this way, what if this guy were a gal? I am sure that if you were befriending her and having long conversations with her, people would start to talk, too. So cool the long conversations business. Keep business as business. Look for friends outside of work. Avoid the least APPEARANCE of impropriety.  Harsh but true.
107803
no not at all. If you consider this person a true/close friend you shouldn't just end a friendship like that. Have you talked to your friend about why he didn't come? if he has done a lot, don't throw your friendship away its not worth it.
770500
here's the deal, try and work it out.  did you ever let her know calling you at work was not acceptable?  do that.  if it doesn't work......let her go and remain friends.
841310
Forget about it.  You did nothing wrong.  Don't even mention it.  All you'll do is put your friend in an embarrassing situation.
659542
You did the right thing by dropping her as your friend. forget her and hang out with your good friends who would never do what she has done to you.
915640
Nothing, now. I have spoken up in the past and all that happened was trouble for me, even to the point of losing a job. Its a myth that you can speak up about these things and the company can't touch you. If they want you gone, they will find a way.
145627
My philosphy is that I didn't get my job to make friend.  I have friends.  I got my job to make money.  It can be touchy when others have friendships, esp. with bosses in your office.  Go with the flow.  Sit down, be quiet, and don't rock the boat or they will throw you overboard!!  Good luck...I know that it is no fun.
654521
Alright, little idiot.  I do not think you should do that.  In fact, if anyone who knows you knows you posted this question and you DO decide to do that, it could be construed as an attempt to MURDER your friend.  And I use the term FRIEND loosely in this instance because you don't sound like any parts of a friend if this holds even the slightest bit of appeal for you.
684473
Just make it clear that your work has nothing to do with your friendship. Work is work, and your friendship should not enter into what you do there.
806172
No.  Would you stay in a 'lover' relationship you don't like?  Participate in a club whose values you don't care for?  A job is no different.  You said you lost respect for the company but need the job.  You need the money...not the job.  Either quit and look for another job or discreetly look for another job while still employed with them.
988656
15 years ago I started a job. I had a coworker who befriended me and showed me the job. On one of my days off I was driving down a highway and I ran over a dog. I got out and made sure the dog was dead and drove off it was like midnight. \n\nThe next work day the guy came in and told me about how his dog was ran over and he had to bury it. It was the same kind of dog as I ran over. I asked where he lived and it was his dog. \n\nEven though we have not had that job for years and years we have remained good friends. I have never told him it was me that ran over his dog. \n\nI feel guilty but worse then runing over his dog is the fact that I have not told him for 15 years. I guess I am waiting for the right time.
239585
You should always be careful when it comes to friends and your own livelihood. I have run in to a similar situation more than once myself(shame on me).\n\nRule of thumb:\nDon't vouch for someone unless you would hire them to do an important job in a business that you owned yourself. People still believe that birds of a feather flock together, so if your friend screws up in a job you reccomended him for, it reflects badly on you not only for being the one who reccomended him in the first place, but by association as well.