Can Someone help please....need to move out of statewith 14 yr old...but ex is stopping this...need legal help
145280
Just go. Let him be the one to do the legal thing. My husband's ex-wife did it (new husband in military) and they moved to Hawaii (we live in Louisiana). We have not seen my husband's daughter in almost 3 years because they transferred again and we've no idea where they are.
918614
Well, if I were you I would seriously concider finding a job in a far away state and moving.  Your ex sounds like a slimeball and Grandma and Grandpa sorry to say sound like they cannot drive.  Then if they want to visit you can meet them halfway and go to dinner or something.  Good Luck, and make sure your child knows to wear their seatbelt at all times.  I think that you can go to the Police Department and for a fee get the copy of the accident report since it partains to a court case.  They are public record.
1095637
The answer is really simple. I myself has just gone thru this. You Must submit to him in writing that you are moving to another state(if it's over 100 miles) and is taking the child with you. he has 30 days to respond by taking you to  court. if he does take you to court, be prepard to give concessions such as you will drive your son for visits with his dad, etc. another concession to give him equal custody (joint) as he would have a more say so in how the child is raised. this case law is from louisiana so the law differs from state to state as far as moving out of state. best to research the subject by going to your local library where they have law books and should help you to know exactly where you stand. Hope this helps
932416
The support he pays to her or the court is not payable to you as a minor. She decides how and when to use it. You have the legal right to file a suit as an individual but I think it would be hard to find an attorney to represent you because for one if you loose he can't come against you for payment since you are a minor. Your best bet is to think this out and perhaps in time things will get better. You should talk to social services legal office in your area for advice, this gives all notice of your thoughts and perhaps they may intervene for you.
997753
Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
793924
She will have to prove to the courts that she and the daughter would be better off moving. Most courts won't look kindly upon her picking up and moving without a guaranteed job wherever she is moving to. Tell her to get her ducks in a row, then issue a written 30 day's notice to the father outlining the wheres and whys of the move. If he fights it, she'll at the very least be equipped with a good arguement.
845834
GO TO FAMILY COURT FIRST. REQUEST THE DNA TEST. IF IT'S NOT YOUR KID THEN NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. IF IT IS START CUSTODY PROCEEDINGS. GET AN INJUNCTION FROM THE COURT BARRING HER FROM LEAVING THE COUNTY WITH THE CHILD WITH OUT YOUR PERMISSION. IT WILL BE AN UPHILL FIGHT BUT IF YOU CAN PROVE THAT SHE IS UNSTABLE AND IS IN NO WAY CAPABLE OF CARING FOR THE CHILD YOU MIGHT HAVE A SHOT. A LITTLE ADVICE ONCE A CHICK CUTS OUT TO ANOTHER STATE DON'T TAKE HER BACK. DOCUMENT ALL OF HER CRAZINESS.  GOOD LUCK.\n\nYOU CAN STOP HER FROM LEAVING BUT YOU HAVE TO PROVE THAT IT'S YOUR CHILD AND THAT THE CHILD WILL BE BETTER OFF WITH YOU IN IT'S LIFE.\nI DID IT TO MY EX WIFE. SHE WANTED TO MOVE TO SOUTH CAROLINA AND A JUDGE IN NYC BARED HER FROM MOVING WITH MY KIDS. SHE WAS TOLD THAT SHE COULD MOVE BUT THAT THE CHILDREN WOULD HAVE TO STAY IN NYC. NEEDLESS TO SAY WE STILL DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER. (7YEARS) AND I KICK UP 1K PER MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT. BUT MY KIDS ARE WITH ME EVERY WEEKEND AND 1 MONTH IN THE SUMMER.
196172
You need to move out immediately, stop talking to him, get an attorney or go to your town's general assistance to find legal aid if you cannot afford one, if you don't take anything but your clothes, he is going to keep everything, let him. Get on with your life! Start fresh, I know this works and is the quickest way because my sister did this, then my brother, they're both very happy without the poison in their lives. GOOD LUCK!!
418958
Please don't think like this. I know life is scary and sometimes complicated but things in this life are temporary. Just because the ex-wife is trying to cut you out doesn't mean that you are out. If you love your child do anything and everything to be his/her dad. There are plenty of lawyers around that will work with you about fees if that's what it takes. Children need their dads just as much as they need their moms. Remember, suicide is never the answer. It will only hurt your child. Emotionally scarred forever. It takes courage to be a parent and have to make decisions that at the time you don't even know is right. It takes courage to withstand. Suicide is cowardly. Please don't be that kind of example to your child. Love is stronger than that. If you ever need to talk just email me: jacquelinebrns@yahoo.com. Good Luck; you're in my prayers.
506074
you can petition the court to order a new guardian. kinda long process, but it'll eventually work out. explain how your relationship won't work and you've tried counseling and it's not a healthy environment for you. but first you should get the person you want to live with to want to accept the responsibilities. together you can even contact a lawyer to see about them getting cutody. you may also be old enough to be emancipated
915547
Need to give more info on the question.  I will try to answer, if she is moving with children, I don't believe that she will have to get another court order, I think the present court order will stand up in that state.  To be for sure, you will have to seek legal counsel.
760078
Ex-husband or boyfriend? If he has no legal claim over the house call the cops. If he does then leaving with your kids sounds like the only reasonable option.
541677
Unfortunately, while not fair, the law usually favors the tenant. Has your daughter offered her anything to move? That might be the only way. Or court?? Good luck to you both.
144111
Talk to X and get written permission.  If she is unwilling, talk to attorney or Friend of Court.  Might try calling Court Clerk (something called pro per package you can fill out yourself).  If you move w/o X granting permission, could be in a heap of trouble, unless you are in Florida at present time.
107187
Are you bound to the state you are in because of being the custodial parent and your divorce decree states you must get permission from the court? I would suggest you speak to your divorce lawyer for correct advice. \n Or If you are on probation or paroll or something like that, in which you would need very specific permission from the correct authorities .\n Otherwise, I don't think there are any prison states... at least not yet, so we are still 'free' to move anywhere in this country, reguardless of our maritial status...
104806
Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
1176361
Hopefully your ex isn't being a total B*&%$.\n\nMy kids did the same thing to their dad when we divorced. I literally had to pry them off my neck to make them go with him. I sat them down and talked to them and things got a little better. \n\nIt is hard for kids to understand mom and dad not living together anymore and the child prefers to stay at the home that is their main residence.\n\nMake sure that when you do have your child you spend plenty of quality time with them. Taking her for a day at the park and playing is free and makes for some good quality time together. Also a nine year old child usually does not place a lot of attention on fathers day like they do mothers day because they are not in school at the time to make that sweet little card or gift.\n\nTry talking to your ex and voicing your concerns to her. If you can work together for the good of the child that would be a great thing.