How can be life (maried, realy love my wife and realy love an other girl) how can it be ? what can i do ?
140321
If you really love your wife, you shouldn't love another woman.
252315
Hey this is me again...I don't know if I'm getting this or not..Are you saying that you are married but also want another woman, and that if your wife loves you she will accept it?  Wow, isn't that asking alot from your wife?  Not that I'm judging you.  I am the last person in this world that has a right to judge anybody!!Can I e-mail your e-mail address maybe you need a friend right now?
452323
Get on messanger and have your do same you can chat to each other about all the little things that happen daily that you are missing by not being together. It is also a lot easier to be honest about feelings in writing, maybe when she hears how you are really feeling you'll find out she feels the same and decide to stop having a long distance marriage. Find out what your priorities are. Your family or money. If you can find time to have a "FRIEND?" You have time for your wife. Remember your sacred vow to love her till death. Would you want her doing what you are thinking of, because you know  looking for a friend may sound harmless but it won't stay that way. Please try and be more realitic.
521999
Here's the problem.  Another person can not make you feel alive.  The thrill of infatuation may be getting you excited but once your together that original rush will fade just as it did with your wife.  What you need to do is take responsibility for your own feelings and emotions.  You feel dead? So do something about it.  Spend more time with your family, get a hobby, take some self help classes or get therapy.  This other woman may make you happy for a moment, but if you want to be truly happy it has to come from within.\nHopefully one of those things that will make you happy is not tearing apart your children's home for an infatuation.
520641
..Hi ...If you are serious about that girl..and you are shure that it is not a midlife crisis..you should talk to your wife..And eather stay with her/ or choose that girl...You cannot have both...You should make a fresh start then...and live with the consequenties...Think it over..and make the right decisson for yourself! ...People can advice you..but it is up to you...\nKind regards...And good luck..
794896
If you already know you are going to marry her, make it legitimate.  Let this be the special life altering thing that is truly is (no matter what you call it) make her feel special and loved, and let her step up to the plate as your wife and life partner.  You WILL cheapen it by calling it by another name.
36812
How long have you been married?  From a women's point view you def. need to talk with your wife, tell her your hopes and dreams for your marriage, let her know you still care and that you'll be there for her.  Why? Because you still love her.  But let her decide what she wants.  She said she needs time, give it to her, but don't lose touch with her.
319076
why did you get married to her if you are getting a divorce four months later? that is just silly! i don't understand what the problem is or was. can you explain more? you should love your wife no matter what. and at least you have had sex more than i have and i have been married six months.we are still very happy and plan to keep it that way. you don't have to have sex to be happy. that is not all marriage is about.
80729
The question is, how much you love her? What are you willing to do for her love?\n\nAnd the other thing that you should know, how much she loves you? What is the state of your marriage and relationship overall with her?\n\nLets take a logical approach.\n\nIf this cheating was done by you, and say your act had gotten someone else pregnant, what will she do, and how will you feel about it?\n\nThe fact that she is pregnant now has nothing to do with the act of cheating. If it was an inadvertant instant that led one thing to another or was it something that she wanted to do all along and then the result is loss of trust between the two of you.\n\nIs she likely to break the trust again, provided the same circumstance or will she remember not to hurt your feelings?\n\nLove does not chain you to something, it is just the fear of loosing someone or something that you cherish. You do not want to do anything that will rock the relationship between you and the person you love.\n\nAbortion or no abortion, that does not seem to be the solution. \n\nIt is all in you two, you will have to see how you want the family to progress in future. What are the priorities and what will be the understandings. You have to learn to respect each other more and share the responsibilities too.
215026
Living my life, huh?  I hated it...had the most gorgeous girls around me....asking for advice, crying on my shoulder, spilling their hearts.  I wanted to grab them and shake em and say...I"M HERE!!!!!  The things that make you attractive to these girls, as friends, will serve you well in the future.  Let the world call you gay, you be yourself!  Who cares if the furthest you've ever gone with a girl is holding hands?  (besides yourself, i'm sure)  One day...may be next week, year, 5 years...whatever...there will be someone who appreciates all those qualities in you.  They will appreciate your purity, your ability to listen, etc.  A marriage is a partnership, a friendship, it's love.  You can't force it my friend, it happens.  Most often, in my life anyways, when I least wanted it or expected it.  Sometimes, it even became feast or famine.  That was when my integrity, my loyalty, my trueness to myself had to come through.  I haven't always made the right choices, but am very happily married now to my life mate, my partner and the only woman who could ever love me for exactly who I am.  It will happen for you too.  You may need to be hurt as you seek that person, they may reject you as a partner for them, but that is good.  You want someone to love, accept and respect you for who you are....nothing less will do.  Hang in there Bud and be true to yourself and who you are.  It will get better.  Hope this helps a bit.
240689
The sad and simple truth is that you can't. It takes two people to make marriage work, and one person working overtime to salvage something that may or may not be there is very heart wrenching and quite simply not fair to the person making all the sacrifices to make things work. Eventually feelings of resentment kick in and you end up fighting more than you did to start off with, because you're trying harder than the other person.\n\nThe best thing to do would be to accept failure (both your spouse's and yours,) and try to move on with your life from that point. Trying to hold on to the past when you're the only one working toward a brighter future only brings about more pain when the "end" eventually comes (i.e. divorce). Start preparing yourself for the worst, but know that you have done everything in YOUR power to save your marriage.\n\nLife will eventually work itself out, and you will be a happier person in the long run. Finding love again with another person can happen when you least expect it!! Good luck..
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
528722
why did everyone take the extreme and is trying to give the guy lots of warning,, dear listen to me, i'm sure you love your wife and what ever is going with her sister is probably just an infatuation that will pass, or maybe u have feelings for her but ur a bit confused about how ur feeling,, maybe its not really being in love, maybe its admiration , what i'm trying to say is don't just think ur in love and act according to it, but if it really was true love then there is 2 thigns u can do\n1 - try to figure out what do u love about her and try to find that in ur wife, or if she doesn't have it try to find something equivelant\n2 - try to remember why u marreid ur wife, take her somewhere far from her sister and try to revive ur relationship ,, fall in love all over again with you wife\n\ni really hope this helped, but whatever you chose to do with the relationship, make sure u can justify it ,, otherwise u won't be doing the right thing:)
322429
I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
161068
Of course you can love them both.......But you will have to love one better than the other. You will have to make a choice sooner or later as to which you love better. I imagine you made wedding vows to your wife. Did you promise your coworker anything? Who did you make promises to first? Will you have to break your promises to one of them in order to continue loving the other? If you think you can love them both the same, you can't.
77488
You certainly can , I have anyway . Love is hard to explain and understand for that matter . Love can  make us do things that we never thought possible . I will tell you this much though if you do love two people you are in for a rough ride . Your best bet is to be honest as possible with both of them or you could lose them both .
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.