Do you believe that players(cheaters) can change and live a monogamous life?
139664
If they can put in the effort and have the determination to settle down with that special someone then sure. Most players/cheaters can do this, others are just fixated in their own realities of having more than one girlfriend/boyfriend. It all just depends I guess; but, I think that if they strived to be with just one person and not stray from their relationship, then yes I think they can.
1180943
Not that I advocate cheating, but maybe they don't know they are going to cheat. If they do know, they have a problem with domination and you don't need them anyway.
1059687
if you love someone set them free. and from experience, the cheating parties will end up worse than they where before because there relationship is already based on a lie, and the high they get from each other will end when the sneaking around does. if they would both spend as much time trying to love the one they fell in love with, then they would actually get more enjoyment in saving and creating than destroying. i have no degree but i have seen it happen to many of my friends. i have heard them cry, and watched them F things up even more, in the end there will be nothing worth saving. and the kids suffer the most.
457689
NONE, Its a crapy feeling when someone cheats on you.  Not to mention, if you really care about a person to have a commitment, then there shouldnt be anyone else.  If there is anyone else, then they shouldnt be committed.
4419
nope.  if they say they are, they're just looking for an easy out.  I know several men who have been in the same monogamous relationship for decades and have never cheated, and they're happy.  there are lots of men out there who are very interested in a committed, monogamous relationship - and they're the good ones :)
438435
It may be cowardly to cheat, but more so to lie about it. Admitting that cheating is a problem, a vice, could help one to stop. Admitting to cheating usually has the worst consequences, which is logical.\n\nCheating is a high, like a cigarette for a nicotine addict, a cheater must conquer a woman to prove his manliness. this in turn most probably makes him feel weak, which in turn makes him need to prove his "strength" once again, continuing in a vicious circle. \n\nThe reasons men cheat may vary, but there is also an explanation given in Evolutionary psychology. Humans are but an instrument of gene pools. Men can have 1000 different women and produce 1000 offspring. However many partners a woman has she is still limited to a maximum of 20 children. Weird explanation. \n\nSo you can say that men who cheat haven't evolved much from our Neanderthal ancestors. \n\nIf you've been cheated on, know it is not your fault. You are probably not the reason. \n\nIf you can be compassionate with the cheater and limit your relationship to a non sexual one until he has matured into the New Age, maybe then you can try again... \n\nGood luck and God Bless
937445
It's always possible for people to change. We're humans...we live to change.  It truly depends on the person and whether or not they are willing to change. If they're a "player" and brag or have too much fun with it..it's likely they will not change for awhile. Follow your instincts....
527068
Above and beyond all else, cheating is immoral, and people hold fidelity (or the lack of) very close to their hearts. People get all worked up for many reasons - it has happened to them, really screwed their lives up im some fashion, etc. This is usually a black or white issue for most people, therefore an extreme reaction will follow - even if the question is hypothetical.
467760
There are cheaters and then there are mistakes...u can't prevent a cheater from cheating but you can prevent mistakes from happening..I beleive everyone is capable of making mistakes, and for those which are truely honest mistakes, can learn from them so they are not repeated...it may end that particular relationship but they know better to make that same mistake in their next relationship...it sometimes takes good judgement to recognize the difference between the two to avoid being a victim of a cheater.
271489
I cannot imagine any circumstance where someone is always the winner, unless they are cheating. In sports, in love, and in life, we all win some and lose some.
493881
Probably they think being a cheater is fun.
766409
Negative on that roger. Once a cheater, always a cheater. For men or women.
840243
Some people will do whatever they can to get what they want, but other people might try to do the right thing.  Stick to the type of people that you yourself are.  Not all men are lying cheaters.
235492
while cheating is wrong, i think theres part of male subconsious that causes a man to want to spread his seed,\n\nin cave man times when kids died a lot and cave man wanted to get his genetics into the next generation he would go and try and impregnate as many cave women as he can\n\nthere are some species that I think are monogomous, I can't think of any off the top of my head but I think there are, I might be wrong,\n\nanyhow,  darwinian logical i would think would say, find as many partners as you can if you are male,\ndarwinian logic meaning try and spread your seed and win the genetic next generation olympics,\n\nin modern day america we sorta have a concept that monogomy is right, and cheating is wrong,\nbut because the modern male mind still gets these biological messsages in the form of heh i wanna go and have some more @ss than just my current partner, spouse or girlfriend, this discrepensy causes unhappiness\n\nmature men deal with it\njerks cheat
524828
No, not always I was rarely monogamous during relationships until I met and started dating my husband.  I am so happy and fulfilled in every way I don't need anyone else!
1016441
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
1058426
They are both wrong. For one when you get married you are vowing to be with that one person for the rest of your life. No matter what. The other for thinking that person they are cheating with, is being honest with them. Also the people that are cheating take the chance of bringing ruin into so many other lives. All the secrets and dishonesty and the energy it takes to be a cheater. And the diseases out there are another thing to think about.  I know this for a fact. Cheating just destroys lives.....