How can I sound louder? I feel I'am shouting at the top of my voice, but in vain, people still say I'am soft.
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ptoms of shyness\nblushing \nheart pounding \n"butterflies" in the stomach \nstrong feelings of uncertainty \ndifficulty carrying on a conversation \nPossible causes of shyness\nlack of confidence (ok... that's too obvious) \ninferiority complex (you are a creature of GOD, why would god discriminate in his creatures? think about it... and stop feeling inferior) \nyour thinking pattern (of negative thoughts, so fear creeps in, and your subconscious mind reacts according to that) \nlack of knowledge about the expected behavior in social situations \nsometimes, its based upon your previous experiences \nFirst of all you will need to learn how to relax. Shy people often get anxious or "tensed" in social situations. When I say "tensed" I literally mean it. In social situations, where you feel shy; you get tensed up, your muscles tighten, all of your body literally builds tension (like if we stretch a rope). All you have to do is to loosen yourself. Anxiety Cure\n\nThis may help:\n\nEvery night before sleeping lie down on your back. I will recommend removing the pillow. Put your hands beside your body (so that they point to the feet). Now take some deep breaths. Say to yourself my body is getting relaxed. Imagine all of your body parts going into the state of ultimate relaxation one by one. Start from head to toe. Imagine all the tension in your muscles is getting out from your body through the fingers of your hand. Finally all of your body is completely relaxed and you are experiencing ULTIMATE RELAXATION. At this time imagine a golden light which is giving you infinite power to help you succeed in every aspect of the life. This way you will get a very sound sleep also. \n\nNow again coming back to social situations... if you start getting tensed... just say to yourself "RELAX" and imagine all the tension easing out from your body (as you do while sleeping). Ease your shoulders and loosen up. You will be more calm and cool then. Now say affirmatively to yourself: "I am in control of how I think and feel - no one else on earth has this power unless I give it away." And this is a FACT. In this way, take control of your attitude, and you will take control of your results.\n\nNow the technical stuff explaining why the muscles get tensed\n\nWhat happens in our bodies when we are under threat. It's very much chemistry. When subjected to a threat or fear, such as real conflict, your body will release chemicals to help you fight with the situation. These will affect your body and mind in certain specific ways. Your heart beat will increase. You start loosing control over your tongue. You no longer remain who you actually are. Your mind stops working and you know what to say. \n\nThe SOLUTION - How to loose fear?\n1. Let me make it clear... FEARS HAVE NO REALITY (yes, I am shouting). They doesn't simply exist. They exist only in one's mind. I will make it clear. A small child can be paralyzed with fear when a playmate says there is a monster under the bed who will grab him in the night. But when the parent turns on the light and shows there is no monster, he is freed from fear. The fear in the mind of the child was every bit as real as if there were really a monster there. The thing he feared did not exist. In the same way, most of our fears have no reality. They are merely illusions. \n\nMost of the fears exist more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.\n\nOk... let me tell you an another story when I was young (say, 15 years old). I didn't know driving. I had a fear in my mind that I can not drive and will not able to drive for my entire life. I really feared driving. But, then I started to learn driving. I used to drive very slowly, fearfully. But gradually, I learnt to drive perfectly and all of my fear was gone. And now I can drive as rashly as you can imagine without any troubles or fear. So what we learnt from this? What we learnt is that... we should face the fears
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I believe that actions speak louder than words.  Words are nice to hear but anyone can say something and not mean it.  With their actions, you can tell if they mean it if they show how they feel and keep doing it.  It's very rare to get that, but it can happen.
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Totally, I scream and now one hears me, and i smile when i want to cry. I don't think people really want to know how u are when they ask.
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i sound like crap but sing everywhere i go. i dont care! im singing right now as a matter of fact. and guess what? im not wearing pants!!! (just joking)
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Try saying brrrrrrr...over and over...as in "...brrrrr it's so cold!" Say it without sound first....feel the vibration it produces....not burrrr....it's brrrrrrrrr....over and over....without sound then add sound when you feel it tremble- feel it tremble I tell ya!...you can do it! Learning how to whistle is the same.....keep at it...until all of a sudden - voila! You did it!!!!
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Try talking first; give them the benefit of the doubt that they don't know they're bothering you.  I always say something vaguely guilt-inducing like "I'm sure you would never intend to be loud, but these buildings are really old and the walls are thin, and I can hear a lot."
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You can't.  It's just your emotions flowing out. I am like that too.  Don't worry.  It's ok if you cry a lot.
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Shhh! Don't speak so loudly, someone might hear you and get offended...
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i have the same problem...it actually harder for me in front of people that i know...oddly enough, strangers i have no trouble with...but that may just be me. but here are my guild lines\n\n1st know what you are going to say...practice your speech to the point that even if you start freaking out you can still say everything you want to say without thinking\n\n2nd when it comes time for you to make the speech...be calm...close off your emotions as much as you can...almost to the point of not thinking...this does help me\n\n3rd when i was starting out i couldn't make direct eye contact with anyone while giving the speech...this msy not be the case with you but it sure helped with me\n\nrecently i was kinda trust into a position where i had to give speeches about 2 time a week...i can honestly say that the more you do it the better you will get at it...and the easier it will become...so if you are going to have to give a speech quiet often it will get easier\n\njust to let you know after giving a speech i was so nearvous that i would almost be crying at the end of a speech...i am not normally the emotional type but then i was...now i can give speeches with relative ease...still not as good as i want to be but better none the less.\n\ni wish you the best of luck on your speech
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go to remote place where you can shout loudly preferabaly in early morning.try to speak or sing loudly. with repeated efforts you will find encouraging results.\na good acupuncturist can also help.\nsome aurvedic medicines like glicerriza and pippali,also can be tried.better take it under ayurvedic physicians supervision.
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Get the "I don't give a fuck attitude", and just know that you're better than everyone else... and believe in yourself. I hated speeches, but this has helped me... haha... It's ok if it's a bit conceited.
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cardio and practice.  Yep, talking to yourself will feel weird, but that's the only way to strengthen a muscle.  Try singing as you run.  That'll help.  Headphones are a must there, otherwise people will look at you funny.
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If you're still going through puberty, then your voice may still be "cracking".\n\nIf you're past puberty, then try speaking from your diaphram.  If you project from your throat, then your voice will be weak.  Practice speaking while flexing your abs, as if you're pushing out your voice from your stomach.  Do it forcefully so that you're loud.  Once you master this, you can project a deeper voice without being excessively loud.\n\nHave you ever taken Karate?  If so, then it is just like the Kiai yell.\n\nAnd if you have a naturally high voice, then there's nothing wrong with that.  It doesn't mean you're gay or straight.
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Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
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I was always the quiet one, but when you do finally speak up people definitely listen.  I prefer to be the listener and watcher.  See how people interact and react.  You can learn a whole lot more being the one who listens instead of the one who talks all the time.  Be open when you want to be and speak up when you feel passionate about something or someone.  You'll be fine!
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Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.
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if you talk in a quiet voice, people think your subdued, shy and don't stand up for yourself. they think you won't do anything about it. I speak in a quiet voice to and that's what I've noticed so far.