Why can't I find a nice guy?
144763
NOT LOOKING IN THE RIGHT PLACE.
76653
whatever, no women really want a "nice" guy. We say we do, but I've been with nice guys and I walk all over them. The balance is getting a guy that is mostly nice but has boundaries and will not let you walk all over them. a guy that has enough self confidence to stick up for himself and you know that he would be ok without you but he really likes being with you. Men that are like this are married. Men that are gay, I agree with one of the other comments, they are 'safe' and therefore we are more attracted to them. If they are not available you can't have them, and if you don't have them you can't lose them, and they can't hurt you.
917867
My best advise is this... make your own choices and build your life. You can't plan for a man to come into your life, and when he does it will probably upset your apple cart a bit... that  is what love does. To meet a nice, good, and strong, man you should try looking in quieter places and not night spots. Bookstores, libraries, coffee houses... those are good places to just relax and attract a few fellas. Good luck!
1105542
no problems, took me a long time to find someone myself.  Just be happy with what you got, keep your eyes open, not only for someone but for that little click that just tells you it's right.  Be confident as well.  A nice guy will come around when the time is right.  Just don't make yourself paranoid while you wait.
613814
Actually there are NOT a lot of nice guys out there.\nIt doesn't take BEING NICE to fulfill ALL the needs required!\n\nWomen aren't getting what they want, besides the obvious!\n\nI feel it is mainly the sensitivity woman have and want!\nAlso the appreciation we require!\nWomen are sensitive to all aspect to many things at one time. \nMen seem to be able to focus on only one thing at a time!
527031
my best advice would be to just go out on a date...it doesn't have to be with someone you're attracted to if that's easier...maybe a male friend...someone you know will me nice to you...so you can see how it should be.  Maybe meeting someone someplace like church would help...or a group in your area for people who've had abuse in their lives.
1034185
Are you being serious??\n\nYes, when u find a decent guy
920233
If you want a nice young guy then try religious functions/church. It increases your chances but probably not by much.
490546
Personally, I like a guy to come up to me first, I guess maybe that's because I'm a little shy myself. They say good guys finish last and I guess as the saying is also for girls that is why I am still single myself, but in reality although women may seem attracted to bad boys so to speak I think that all they really want at the end of the day is a nice good guy. Perhaps consider being more forward, I know it feels hard but women will respect you for that. If you're good looking and are really a nice guy then you don't need to worry about a thing, she'll come along soon enough.\nHey, if I had met you myself already I probably would have taken the need for you to ask that question straight out of your mind ;o)\nGood luck, relax and try to have fun out there. x
437922
Find a nice SINGLE guy. Married equals not for you!
977208
Actually there are many guys who are looking for commitment.\n\nIf you keep on having this issue it is because you keep on going after the guys who aren't looking for anything more than a good time.\n\nWant commitment?  You'll find it.  first I think you need to change the types of guys you think you're attracted to as they aren't the ones it seems that are looking for committing.\n\nSee we "nice guys", the boring ones are looking but you women seem to keep on going for the ones that are exciting.  There are "Dads" and "Cads".  The "Dads" are the guys who'll be there.  We aren't flashy and we don't always know what to say.  In fact we most often have no clue.\n\nThe "Cads" are the fun guys.  The guys who can sweep you off your feet in a bar, use you and then you pine away waiting for them to call back.\n\nYour choice on what you're really looking for in a guy.
333964
Hello, Im not a freak...yet I find it hard to find decent women. I dont look at appearances but the heart and soul...You can change that by being yourself ...sean. Ps. and when a quite guy like myself is afraid to approach you,maybe because im shy, maybe because im normal...go and talk to him....he may be the love of your life although he may not drink or dance like the other guys...
947731
First of all a nice guy will want to know a girl for who she really is  and he wont be so fast to date her really quick unless he really knows that she is a nice girl also. Second of all dont make him chase you. A nice guy with his own personality will see this as a game and he will quickly lose interest. See how he treats all people whether he needs anything from them or not, a nice guy will be nice even to a homless beggar. The most important thing to know if a guy is nice or not is if he really can communicate and share his heart with you. If he can and you wont also then he will leave u. Also dont expect to meet him at nightclubs as mostly scumbag men that are players and partiers are there.
627586
No, they do exist. Keep looking....they may not be the most flamboyant or even the best looking, but to find the nice guy, get passed the wrapper...
1048219
Nice guys tend to be in nice places. You won't catch a brook trout in a storm sewer. Join a church or the Young Democrats or the Young Republicans or the Sierra Club. Volunteer for a work day at Friends of the River. Join a gym. Look for single dads at your kids' activities. Stay clear of bars.\n\nTake it very, very slow. Assuming you are past 35, from the list of problems, you will probably have to settle for someone 10 - 15 years older than you. It is an ugly fact of life that there are about 2 nice women for every nice guy out there, so the guys can pick and choose.\n\nMy wife works in a large medical building with a lot of nurses. We belong to a large church, and I work for a meduim sized-corporation. The lack of reasonable men is astounding. I know just 2 single men I would not hesitate to introduce to anyone. I know a dozen women I wish I could pair up with nice guys.
486617
find another guy here, there are plenty of nice guys in this country, unless you are a big drama queen that likes the feeling of suffering long distance/impossible love. move on you are missing out on a real boyfriend.
438923
It may seem like it, but eventually life experience will teach you that nice guys don't finish last, most young girls just have to through the illusion of the not so nice guys to realize how they really want to be treated. If you are truly a nice guy, don't let the disappointments of other peoples actions make you change...they'll need you before you need them and they'll be the losers when you are the successful one... by then, they won't matter to you. Check out the "gorgeous" girls 10 years from now!