just wondering if i should worry that my husband has a friend as a girl that calls him and talks all the time.
139084
You should worry... I mean she is talking...and hes just doing what? listening? like with his hand in the pocket???
319411
I understand how you are feeling. Not that it has happened to me but I can imagine how it would make you feel. I am married and if my wife were conversing with another man over the internet, I would be concerned. But if she went to all the trouble to wipe out the conversation logs. I would be doubly concerned. Yea, he may give you some reason as a matter of security, but he should have no problem in letting you see those logs before he deletes them. \n\nSome time ago, I was talking to another woman over the internet but as a rule, I would never say nothing negative about my wife. Of course you should not anyway. But we all get mad. And if we start talking to another woman or man about how we are unhappy about our spouses, we are opening the door for an internet affair. Another thing is I would try to get my wife to read the logs because I would let her know I talked to an online woman and I wanted her to be secure. \n\nTalk to your husband about it. Tell him you need to feel more secure about this. People are leaving spouses all the time and flying across the country for people they never seen. And tell him it would protect him too because you love him so much
39025
This is absolutely wrong. He for one should respect his wife and her feelings, so he should either find a nice way to tell her of his friendship with other ladies and introduce them to his wife and try to find a way to convince her to accept him having female friends or just love her and respect her wishes and not have friends she does not approve of.
726883
There is such a thing as emotional affair and sometimes affairs start out this way.  If your wife is confiding with another man other than you, it shows a lack of intimacy in your marriage.  Also realize that time spent talking with this "friend" is time taken away from you.  The way I see it, you are her husband.  If she has issues with you, she should be communicating with you instead.
1154687
its okay, but i could see why your husband would be uncomfortable or think it was shady.  as long as your husband is cool with it and you don't feel any attraction to the guy, i think it is fine, but if your husband doesn't like it...you should really ask yourself, what's more important...maintaining a friendship with this guy, or keeping my marriage as calm, peaceful, and happy as possible?
245304
No, it's certainly NOT okay. I think it is inappropriate for your wife to be spending a great deal of time with a male friend. If they have any reason to be discussing things quietly together (as you explained), they should do it in your presence or include you in the conversations. I think you should trust your gut instinct on this - you know it's wrong for her to be involved with this guy, but you probably hate to stir things up with your wife by complaining. Is there anyway you could learn to like him, accept him as a friend? If not, then you need to tell your wife how you feel. \n\nAs Princess Diana mentioned once...a marriage becomes a bit crowded with 3 people in it. It's meant for two. (who have become one...)
554208
Absolutely it is!! He needs to cut the cord, throw away the security blanket and be married to you! What do they possibly have to talk about? Didn't they break up? Didn't he marry you? She can't be giving him marriage advice that is going to have a positive outcome for you. I dealt with the same situation and my husbands ex put him through hell but she still had this "something" over him. Well, after many heart to heart w/my H, I had to take care of it, its like they feel bad for them or something? Remember, you are the WIFE! Who the hell is she? See ya, go away, bye bye! Or my favorite, turn the tables. Find your little black book (you know you still have it, we all do) and start reconnecting with your old ex's - opps, I mean your old friends. Im sure a few would love to hear from you again. Trust me, your H will loose the number real quick. Good luck "WIFE"
124063
i recently found myself in the same situation, so i know what you're going through.  the guy gets mad because he's worried that (like the other dude said), you guys are talking about him behind his back.  he may also be worried because you two may find out that he was cheating on both of you with the other one...as in my case.  Regardless, if you two really are friends and have lots in common, then screw the guy and thank him for a really good friend.  It'll really piss him off...
455996
I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
188477
Well, for starters, I would let your boyfriend know that this is happening. I hate to imagine what he would think if he found out that this other guy is contacting you all the time to try to woo you and that you never let him know. That would certainly make him suspicious about why you weren't telling him. Of course you also need to speak with this guy that is bothering you and let him know that you have no interest in a relationship and that you appreciate him as a friend but that you will have to end the friendship if he keeps pushing the issue. He needs to know that this makes you uncomfortable and is inappropriate. If he still continues to contact you, stop accepting his calls. If he still bothers you, I would contact local police to see what actions you should take.
295268
I think that you should probably talk to your husband about this.  \n\nIf you are simply talking to other men - your boss, your minister, your banker - that's probably okay.  \n\nIf you have male friends, defining your relationship with those male friends may be someting to talk to your husband about.  By that, I mean that your husband may not appreciate your male friends calling at 2 a.m. to ask if you can pick them up from the bar because they are too drunk to drive home.  Your husband may also not appreciate you being ALONE with another male.\n\nYou definitely shouldn't be intimate with other men - that should go without saying.
351114
Don't feel bad; your husband is probably thinking about another woman. That doesn't bother you, does it?
1017381
uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
954924
You should be asking him not people here. If you have not asked him, why not? Is his actions really that bad? Sounds like you are slightly jealous, but why? Do you feel he is attempting to impress another female?\n\nOther than being jealous I don't see a motive for this being a huge issue.
795722
No kidding, I couldn't agree with you more...My wife has a friend that she talks to on the messenger and this guy is so freaking obsessed with the girl...He'll even go as far as to report someone who doesn't like her, and if you talk crap about her around him, he gets mad and goes off on you. Talk about being obsessed, that's just sick.
508672
They really should not get mad unless you are married. If you are married then leave the friend and stick by your wife. If you are dating and she is jealous that is a sign that she is not the girl for you. Move on!
944852
A friend to a guy is different from a friend with a girl...Usually guys have lots of girlfriends because the idea creeps in of "keeping your options open"...men seldom have girl friends (2 words) and it not go through the man's mind at some point that his friend has been considered for something more.....one major exception is if the girls he talks to are girls he knew for a long time...through school, church etc....then it feels like brother and sister...but if he has just recently met these girls then in all likelihood he is keeping his options open...