where can I find grief counseling for the suicide of my brother? He was african american and we need help.?
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Go to your local church. The pastor or priest is trained to help with grief. Sorry for your loss. We'll be praying for you and your family.
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I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your brother you and his family.\n\nDo not stand at my grave and weep\nI am not there; I do not sleep.\nI am a thousand winds that blow,\nI am the diamond glints on snow,\nI am the sun on ripened grain,\nI am the gentle autumn rain.\nWhen you awaken in the morning's hush\nI am the swift uplifting rush\nOf quiet birds in circled flight.\nI am the soft stars that shine at night.\nDo not stand at my grave and cry,\nI am not there; I did not die.
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Wow, I'm so sorry about your brother.\n\nI don't think that she thinks that at all.  She loves you for who and what you are: YOU.  Displacing your feelings of grief and pain onto her by putting feelings that she most assuredly isn't feeling onto her isn't really fair.  \n\nMy opinion: See a bereavement counselor.  After my mom was killed in 97, I went to one for about 6 months, and I'll tell you it helped so much.  If you call your local hospital, they should be able to refer you to one who won't cost you to go to them.\n\nFor what it's worth, I think that your mom loves you and just wants you to make the most of your life because she's learned the hard way that life is short, and that you have to live it to the fullest.  She just wants to see you do that.  And of course she misses your brother...she wouldn't be normal if she didn't.  But, she can have it both ways...she can love you for you and still miss him.  Sit down and talk to her about it.
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http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html\n\n1-800-SUICIDE   1-800-273-TALK \n1-800-784-2433   1-800-273-8255   \n\n\n1-800-799-4TTY (4889)\nDeaf Hotline
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It's against the law in all states.  I am sorry that your brother did this to you.  You are doing the right thing for him as well as for yourself.  There will be healing that will come with this.  Keep you a head up.
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Call one of these numbers and talk to someone. You dont have to give your name.\n\n\ncrisis intervention/suicide\n\nBoys Town Suicide and Crisis Line: 800-448-3000 or 800-448-1833 (TDD)\nProvides short-term crisis intervention and counseling and referrals to local community resources. Counsels on parent-child conflicts, marital and family issues, suicide, pregnancy, runaway youth, physical and sexual abuse, and other issues. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week.\n\nCovenant House Hotline: 800-999-9999\nCrisis line for youth, teens, and families. Gives callers locally based referrals throughout the United States. Provides help for youth and parents regarding drugs, abuse, homelessness, runaway children, and message relays. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week.\n\nyouth\n\nNational Youth Crisis Hotline: 800-442-HOPE (4673)\nProvides counseling and referrals to local drug treatment centers, shelters, and counseling services. Responds to youth dealing with pregnancy, molestation, suicide, and child abuse. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week.
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If he is talking suicide, then you need to get him help. You could call the cops in the area were he lives to go get him and take him to a local ER. The ER doc will evaluate him and committ him if needed. I hope the best for the both of you.
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You mention suicide, but just in case, please read here:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watc
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My son, who is age 16, didn't go as far as your friend did. He just recently got out of a special hospital here that deals with this type of situation. I honestly know how you feel, but mine goes deeper because it was my son. His depression started when he lost his best friend to suicide, and I've been helping him try to cope with this, it happened in March. Then, the next thing I knew, we went for a regular checkup at the doctor's office. And then I heard him say he tried to cut his hand off when he was at his dad's house, but a neighbor stopped him. That's when the doctor put him in the hospital. Now, he is on medication to deal with his depression. We both get counseling together with a therapist and separately we see different psychiatrists to help us both cope with everything. You don't say exactly how you caused him to flip out and get depressed again. But, I have learned that I wasn't the blame for my sons actions. I felt that it was my fault, that I had said the wrong thing to make him upset. He was depressed from not only his best friend committing suicide, he was getting pressure to do things from friends his age, alot of things was building up inside his mind that he couldn't cope with the world around him. Your friend may have already had problems built up inside that whatever you said may have just triggered past emotions. Not what you had said in that moment of time. You mentioned that everyone cuts ourselves, I'm sure that you meant that when we peel potatoes or apples, that sometimes we may cut our finger by accident. We don't purposely do it. The best advice I can give you is to stand by your friend because he needs all the support you can give him. I'm sure the doctors will give him medication to help his depression. It may take time for the meds to work, but you seem to like your friend very much. Even if you can go to a support group, which several places have free support groups to help cope with your friends depression and it may help you understand that it isn't your fault. Good Luck and if you need to talk to someone, you can get to my email by clicking my name. The email address is hidden.
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http://www.exodusglobalalliance.org/findinghelps5.php\n\n God knows your brokenness  and will heal you on the inside , then outside
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**********************************************I tried to respond to your email but Answers says your email address hasn't been confirmed yet. I truly do want to talk to you more and help you in any way that I can. So, please get your email address confirmed and email me again! Hugs and Blessings, Marty (Martha)*******************************************************************\n\nSometimes life throws so much stuff at you that you cannot see how you are going to get through it. At those times it takes all my strength and God's to get through the day. With Him on my side I can do anything. Those days I sometimes take it minute by minute and rejoice that I've made it through each minute. The "magic" way through the really tough stuff for me is relying on God and His amazing strength. I pray and pray and pray! He has gotten me through depression and suicidal thought. Through my husband's many illnesses, surgeries and hospitalizations. Through my brother's suicide and my Dad's death. Honestly, without my faith I would not be here today. You don't have to pray formal prayers, just pour out what is in your heart. God loves you so very much and wants to lighten your burdens. Trust in Him. He won't ever let you down. God bless you!
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=I am sorry for the loss of your classmate. The guidance counselor is always there to help you as well as keep talking about it because it helps process the grief you are feeling.  Try to go to the wake and maybe the funeral with someone.  It would also be a nice gesture on your part to send the family a sympathy card telling them why their loved one was so special to you.  God Bless.
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Get some help:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, knitting or visiting a
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I'm very sorry for your losses. Allow yourself to grieve, even if you have to be strong for everyone else. Find someone you can talk about it with, even if they only listen. Find a friend to talk to that has lost someone and can understand how you are feeling. You could also find an online chat for people dealing with a loss. I hope things get better.
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Talk to the people at ALANON.  They will put you in touch with an appropriate grief counsellor who has dealt with this before.
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I'm sure there are organizations around your area where you could go to and get help in what you should and what you should not be doing.\nas one the other people here rightly said, you can only help your brother if he wants to be helped. Meanwhile however, you should also have some one to turn to! Because seeing a loved one go down on the road of addiction, can be very damaging.\nand you're not the first one in this situation. Therefore find these organizations with people who can help you to hopefully help you brother..
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I am so sorry for you loss.  It might help to talk about it with your family...\nLoosing a family member can not only be hard...but stressful and draining.  So many things can be done...so many things can help you.  The thing is finding what works for you.  \nIn every life...there is death.  Neither one can be fair at times....I am so sorry.