i am a very sensitive youth from kerala.i feel nervous when i am in conversation with others.howcani overcome?
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Firstly be very careful who you try to speak with, second try speaking with your mouth closed, it might not help your shyness but it sure as hell will be a fun turn at a party!
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I dont know how old you are but i went through a phase of not having a lot to say i was happy to just listen.\n\nMy parents interpreted this as me being rude or a sulky teen. But i felt that where i didnt have anything particularily constructive to say or add to a discussion, there was no point.\n\nJust be yourself when you are comfortable enough and confident then talk if not, just enjoy life as you please.\n\nAt the end of the day it its your life. You are NOT boring you are a thoughtful individual with your own ideas.
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I don't think you have a mental problem. Maybe you're just thinking of something else or you feel awkward talking to someone. I lose my words when I try too hard to communicate with something. Just don't think about it.
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I don't know what it is exactly but it seems like you may have  some anxiety issues surrounding social interaction and maybe some negative self talk. The best way to deal with both things is to surround yourself with positive people whom you feel comfortable with and just relax and enjoy life. Think about your strengths and less about your weakneses. Life isn't an IQ test.
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my mother! and a close friend. she is in India. they r the ppl who i can talk about damn n e thing (simple ANYTHING in this wrld) and i wont feel uncomfortable n insecure!!! coz we understand each other,. we can easily sense when we need each other and if anything is wrong or if any one is upset coz of something.. \n\nyeah... it takes time.. or u can say a lifetime to get a friend.. i mean, in the real sense of the word!
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I know how you feel, many people do.  I get anxious about being around people I am unfamiliar with.  As for starting new things, I've just found that it gets better with practice.  The more new things you can get yourself to do (start small) the easier these things will become.  When you do acomplish something, give yourself praise for summing up courage.  \n\nThis does sound like social anxiety disorder.  My psychology professor said that a great first step in conquering S.A.D. is by simply smiling or saying hello to people as you pass them (like at a park, or in your neighborhood).
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POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE!\n\nTell yourself that yes, people are interested in you, they do want to hear what you have to say, and they want to hear it clearly and consisely. Practice at home. Rationalise the way you feel! Why are you scared, and what is the worst that could happen?\n\nIt is only by facing our fears that we eventually grow out of them.
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I have that problem when I'm anxious. It seems my mouth is ahead of my brain. Just relax, and you should be fine.
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Hi there!\n\nI was terribly shy all through elementary school, middle school and high school. I think the main causes for mine were partly it was my personality, but also we moved alot, my dad was in military and i suffered some serious abuse from a young age...\n\nThese are some things that helped me and I hope they help you. First, I forced myself to take a public speaking class in high school and to get a job dealing with the public. It was very scary at the time and hard, but it did help me to start overcoming the shyness. Don't stay away from social situations, place yourself in them so you get used to talking, socializing etc...\n\nDon't think you are weird or strange for being so shy. Many teenagers and grownups as well suffer from shyness to some extent. Mainly it is caused because we want to be liked, want to say the right thing and are afraid we won't. I know when i was a teenager i was very afraid of boys because i didn't know what to talk to them about, when i finally started talking to them i found out they weren't that much different from the girls i was talking too. As you get older, you tend to lose some of the shyness, because you are working, maturing, extending your experiences and with confidence developed out of those situations you lose that insecurity. \n\nI know that you must have hope. If you had seen how shy i was at your age (I couldn't even go to a store and make a purchase that is how bad it was). I never looked anyone in the eye, etc...And now I am 49 years old, never meet a stranger and a people person! \n\nMy friends say that people gravitate towards me and everyone likes me. You know why? Because i always remember how it felt to feel uncomfortable, shy and out of control/insecure - those feelings have made me an empathetic person and i try to put people at ease when we meet. I give them a big smile, am friendly, ask questions about them to show i am interested in them and this makes them feel good! So use your shyness as a tool. First, remember that we are all insecure and scared in certain situations - I mean how many people do you know that hate public speaking? We all want to be accepted and liked and then just get out there and take chances and try to turn your shyness around - don't worry only about you try to focus on the other person and make them feel at ease...see what happens!\nIdentify the reasons you think you are shy and wk on changing them as well...\nDon't give up you sound like a great person and it takes time.\n\nsincerely,\nalaska friend
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Learn to talk to people.  I think many people are painfully shy when it comes to talking to all but their closest friends.  I think that shyness stems from a lack of confidence and the idea that no one wants to look foolish in the eyes of others.\n\nYou must realize that everyone has the same concerns, even if it seems that they don't.  When you are in a group of people, pick out someone who also seems to be in the same boat as you, and start a conversation.  Share your interests and you will be amazed at how quickly you will make friends.  \n\nBest wishes.
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Yep...sounds like you got a little social anxiety.  Have you ever thought about talking to a professional?  Sometimes it is a little easier said then done when it comes to being social.  You aren't by yourself, it is fairly common, but can be treated with counseling or medication.\nReally though, if you just bite the bullet and smile and even just try to change your body language a bit, that might help.  Good luck.
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yes i did and i know why you do, your probably have a huge fear of being embarrassed in front of a lot of people or worried about what people think  if you say or do something silly or make a mistake when your talking  or something along them lines.When you with one person its OK but when you have a lot of eyes staring at you when you make a mistake its a horrible feeling! i used to be afraid to talk in class when i thought people would laugh at my voice,comment or answer 2 something . But thank God i don't have that problem now, you just have 2 tell yourself whats the worst that can happen speaking in a group? your not going to get hurt or die maybe you might be laughed at but It will all be forgotten in a few days time. So my advise to you is just try to be more strong minded and don't care what anyone thinks of you,  life is to short to let other people dictate it or ruin it.:-) hope this helps.peace.
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What I do, is just focus on someone I know, and talk directly to them.  dont read off a paper or anything and remember to shift your eyes around the room while still focusing on that person when u feel nervous.
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Dont worry. You are normal. Just mix up well with all. Dont try to impress others. You have a superiority complex with known friends and inferiority complex with new friends,\nDont try to be Unnatural and try to attract attention.Attend more parties. Read a lot on various subjects, Be a good conversationalist. In all parties there would be various small groups, small circles centred around one or two heroes or heroines , just switch from one to another, wherever the topic talked is your favourite subject just get attached to it. \nDont open mouth or volunteer information to unknown groups and unless you have real knowledge on that topic.\nOver a period of time you would be liked by one and all.\nDRESS WELL PRESENT YOUR BEST ALWAYS.
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preoccupy your mind a little will make you not become so edgy and nervous around others. place two marbles in your pants pocket and roll them around. sound stupid doesn't it but you may be surprised at how they will help.
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You don't have to call yourself pathetic. It's ok to be nervous when talking to the opposite sex. I used to get nervous talking to guys when I was younger, but somehow I learned to manage and now I have a boyfriend. I'm still a shy person and I guess that's part of my personality. I guess you have to give it some time. Think before you talk. What is it that makes you stammer? Think of interesting topics to talk about with girls. If it helps,write some of the stuff down that you think you'd discuss with a girl. Then rehearse it so it'll prepare you for next time. I know it may sound stupid but you can give it a try and no one has to know. The key is making yourself comfortable when talking to girls and talk to them like you casually talk to your friends. Once you get the hang of it, I'm sure you won't feel nervous anymore. It's just a phase and it'll go away with time. Don't worry, just relax. Good luck!
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Lol...join the crowd. But you need to understand they see something in you that makes them feel at ease. Use your skills to help them if you can. You may just have information to assist them. I found that and have helped many people over the years. At first I thought it weird, but then I went into the field of psychology and could better deal with them.\n\nAlso, some people have wishy-washy boundries, they may need some one to talk to and will tell things to the first one they feel comfortable with...not wise, but it is done often.  Again, you have an opportunity to help if you can.\n\nBe kind, listen carefully, maybe you have some important life changing information for them!