What are the principles of anger management?
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For better anger management first you have to know, what causes anger?\n\nAnger is a natural response that all people have. It is caused by two basic things:\n\n(1) Frustration: Not getting what we want, especially if we were expecting to get it;\n(2) Feeling that others do not respect us or care how we feel.\n\nThere are many specific things that may cause anger, but they all come down to those two basic principles.\n\nManaging your Anger as First Aid:\n\n\n 1.Walk away!  Come back later\n \n 2.It's easy for others to say "count to 10" but there is some merit in doing so slowly.    Concentrating on counting, and just giving yourself time will help.  \n \n 3.Take deep & slow breaths, thinking about nothing except your breathing \n \n 4. Go out for a run (or walk) around the garden, in the park, around the block, or along the beach etc (or bike ride)\n \n 5. If all else fails - thump a cushion, kick a bean bag. Just kidding (DON'T do anything that will hurt yourself or someone else) \n \n 6. When you feel calmer - learn to talk to those you were with at the time, and explain why you were feeling that way - calmly!\n\nIf you feel unable to control your anger, then it would be wise to seek help - from your doctor.\n\nor you can read a book for help: "Anger-free" by W. Doyle Gentry. \n\nand always remember "There is nothing either good or bad\nbut thinking makes it so." --William Shakespeare. \n\nIf my answer satisfy your quire, feedback me  firozreza@yahoo.com \n\ngoodluck.\nfiroz
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My best outcome for angry people is to just leave them alone until there feeling better ,then approach them with concern and kindness,they will be more open to you and apologize if they took their anger out on you...
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There are tons of web sites on meditation and relaxation. Anger is not an inherited trait. It is a learned behavior.\n\nYou may find that you do need to see someone ie; a therapist but I would start with the simple things. Take a look at your life. Are you under too much stress? Are too many demands put on you daily? Also don't compare your self to other people either.\n\nSome people can handle a lot and others very little. So start by simply trying to relax. When you get angry take a deep breath and count to ten slowly. Go for a walk. And by all means start meditating, you will find that it will help you more than anything else once you are able to master control of yourself and your ability to concentrate.\n\nGood Luck and Blessed Be,\nSirk\n\nI have attached some helpful links to get you started.
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Talk with her.  You need to get counseling for anger management.  If she is willing to stay with you then let her know whats going on, she may need to join you at some point.  If not, you still need to get counseling for yourself and for any future relationships.
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Consider a career change;  barring that, examine WHY you are becoming so angry.  Practice deep breathing to achieve a relaxed state while NOT angry and once you can achieve it on a regular basis, begin using deep breathing to manage your anger and stress levels.
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either suppressed anger\nor life conditions that are beyond your control that are preventing you from thriving.\n\nfrustration turns into depression\n\nchange the environment, life conditions that are causing it.  form new relationships, new ways of making money, new living environment, etc. \n\nfor the anger thing, get away from the thing that is making you angry or deal with it in some way to resolve it.
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deal with your anger issues
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usually i would back off and let the angry person be angry and get the anger off his or her chest.... whoever it might be coz, a person who is angry usually is too tense to deal with.... after the person cools off then you try to talk and get the problem that the person is facing and try to help or solve it together.... it might be you that caused the anger so you might as well try to not make this person angry again...
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Realise that you are angry and try to focus on happy thoughts,funny moments and something to think that is hard to think like a puzzle, equation or something.\n\nRealise that anger leads to nothing and finding a sulotion to the source is by claming down and think.
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Anger comes when you suffer grievance.  Its a response to unwanted and undesired change.  Anger's mission is for you to gain strength to do anything to stop this change.  You must surrender to your pain in order to discharge alll of your anger. This includes all mechanisms  that you have deviced to deal with denial, and acceptance.
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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Meditation can certainly help you to control anger.\n\nThe whole aim of meditation is,\n1. to calm your mind, and\n2. to focus the mind on one thing.\n\nIf you sit down and close your eyes you will notice that your mind is jumping from one thought to another. Even though you want to concentrate on your breath you will find other thoughts also coming in between.\n\nIn learning to meditate you must first learn to calm your mind. You do this by following every thought that comes into you mind. You must be like a Manager of a Hotel who stands at the entrance and observes the customers coming in. Without getting attached to the thoughts try to observe them. You will find that a thought comes in and that it goes nowhere and another thought follows it - try following that too - with same results. This way you will find that your thoughts gradually subside. Do not try to force out your thoughts.\n\nOf course do not expect results in one or two days. Practise it for at least 40 minutes every day for at least 2 months you find that you have 'killed' your train of thoughts. I have practised for 1 1/2 years and still vagrant thoughts come in.\n\nThereafter start concentrating on your breath. Notice the breath coming in and going out. You should not concentrate only on the tip of your nose. Notice the breath coming in and thereafter your lungs getting filled and then gradually exhaling the breath.\n\nAfter you finish that for the day start to think of a person or several persons whom you hate most. Having those people in mind start to think in a compassionate manner "may he be healthy,  may he be happy, may he go up in life, may he live long".  Keep on doing this for about 10 minutes a day for a few months you will find that you do not get angry even when you have to get angry.\n\nYou should be able to get some guidance from the following sites,\n\n1. http://www.dhamma.org/vipassan.htm\n2. http://www.meditationexpert.com/  and click on the free articles on yoga meditation - it includes articles on all types of meditations including christian and muslim meditation.
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Don't counter-attack in the heat of anger.\n\nCool off and PLAN.  :-))\n\nAfter awhile, the enemy will not be expecting it.
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get an anger management classot psychologist
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Often based in a sensation or perception of threat, anger can be considered an emotional component in the increased threat response (part of the broader "stress response") whereby the charged emotional state produces physiological effects (increased adrenaline, cortisol), thereby producing behavioural effect of heightened stress and aggression.\n\nAnger may be "provoked" (or triggered) by perceived threats, like conflict, or by abstract concepts such as injustice. There are many physical conditions that increase the potential for one to become angry. Common contributors to irritability include fatigue, hunger, being in pain, sexual frustration, recovery from an illness, or the use of certain drugs. Other causes are hormonal changes, such as those associated with PMS, giving birth, and menopause, physical withdrawal, and bipolar disorder. Research also shows that some individuals can be genetically predisposed to higher levels of anger.
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We all at times would like to get revenge so we feel better. The best thing to do is really wait and don't act while your angry , sit it out and let it go for awhile and see if that feeling doesn't just fade away..
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ANGER MANAGEMENT 101\n\nWhen you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know -- take it out on someone you don't know. \n\nI was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I had forgotten to make. I found the number and dialed it. \n\nA man answered, saying, "Hello." \n\nI politely said, "Could I please speak with Robin Carter?" \n\nSuddenly, the phone was slammed down on me. \nI couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude. \nI realized I had called the wrong number. I tracked down Robin's correct number and called her. I had accidentally transposed the last two digits of her phone number. \n\nAfter hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again. \n\nWhen the same guy answered the phone, I yelled, "You're an a_s_s_hole!" and hung up. \n\nI wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it, and put it in my desk drawer. \n\nEvery couple of weeks,when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, "You're an a_s_s_hole!" \nIt always cheered me up. \n\nWhen Caller ID came to our area, I thought my therapeutic 'a_s_s_hole' calling would have to stop. \n\nSo, I called his number and said, "Hi, this is John Smith from the Telephone Company. I'm just calling to see if you're familiar with the Caller ID program?" \n\nHe yelled, "NO!" and slammed the phone down. \n\nI quickly called him back and said, "That's because you're an a_s_s_hole!" \n\nOne day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking spot. \nSome guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for... I hit the horn and yelled that I had been waiting for that spot. \n\nThe idiot ignored me. \n\nI noticed a "For Sale" sign in his car window, so, I wrote down his number. \n\nA couple of days later, right after calling the first a_s_s_hole ( I had his number on speed dial), I thought I had better call the BMW a_s_s_hole, too. \n\nI said, "Is this the man with the black BMW for sale?" \n\n"Yes, it is." \n\n"Can you tell me where I can see it?" \n\n"Yes, I live at 1802 West 34th Street. It's a yellow house, and the car's parked right out in front." \n\n"What's your name?", I asked. \n\n"My name is Don Hansen," he said. \n\n"When's a good time to catch you, Don?" \n\n"I'm home every evening after five." \n\n"Listen, Don, can I tell you something?" \n\n"Yes?" \n\n"Don, you're an a_s_s_hole." \n\nThen I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too. \n\nNow, when I had a problem, I had two a_s_s_holes to call. \n\nBut after several months of calling them, it wasn't as enjoyable as it used to be. \n\nSo, I came up with an idea. I called Asshole #1. \n\n"Hello." \n\n"You're an a_s_s_hole!" (But I didn't hang up.) \n\n"Are you still there?" he asked. \n\n"Yeah," I said. \n\n"Stop calling me," he screamed. \n\n"Make me," I said. \n\n"Who are you?" he asked. \n\n"My name is Don Hansen..." \n\n"Yeah? Where do you live?" \n\n"Asshole, I live at 1802 West 34th Street, a yellow house, with my black Beamer parked in front." \n\nHe said, "I'm coming over right now, Don. And you had better start saying your prayers." \n\nI said, "Yeah, like I'm really scared, a_s_s_hole." \n\nThen I called A_s_s_hole #2. \n\n"Hello?" he said. \n\n"Hello, a_s_s_hole," I said. \n\nHe yelled, "If I ever find out who you are...!" \n\n"You'll what?" I said. \n\n"I'll kick your a_s_s," he exclaimed. \n\nI answered, "Well, a_s_s_hole, here's your chance. I'm