why do, other wise perfect husbands visit the porno sites in the absences of wife?
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Some men go to porno sites and some buy magazines with nude girls. Of course, some women do the same. It is one of those things where they honestly cannot help themselves. Just make sure the ones he is admiring are not children, if that should happen cut his dingy off. \nIt is natural. Hurtful to you. He is sorry and loves you much. Pray, pray, pray.
157940
It can spice up a relationship that needs help or help you take care of your own needs once in a while, but too much of a good thing can cause problems.  Sometimes when people watch porn it gives them a false image of how things should be.  A happily married man becomes uninterested in his loving wife, because she doesn't look or act like what he's seen.  I say use with caution and sparingly.  Once in a while isn't bad, but you don't want to become an adict.
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Sounds like your husband has issues about his ex, not about porn.  You might want to question his wanting pictures of an ex when he's married to you.  Why doesn't he have naked pictures of you?  If you don't care that he looks at porn tell him to get rid of the pictures of his ex and take pictures of you.  No, you're not being sensitive about it.  If I had naked pictures of my ex, my wife would cut me off from sex, stop talking to me until I could explain it to her in terms that would make sense to her as to why I have them.  Oh, and he's not mad at you for not understanding he's mad at you because he got caught.
967220
In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
508148
by not going to porno websites
619650
Men are strange creatures. They think in ways that don't make much sense sometimes at least to us (women).\n\nIts apparent he still loves his wife or he wouldn't be putting himself through the whole counseling bull.  \nAnd maybe deep down inside he wants to find out why he is cheating, and he is looking for answers.\n\nI suppose it is possible he wants his cake and icing too. But I don't think there is anything wrong with him per say.
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Because they wanted to make the most of their new lovers and enjoy every bit of the moment they share!\n\nWhat is the importance of their cheating if they don't enjoy and make the most of it?
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I bet the most common reason is having been neglected. Boredom can be a factor, too. Some women are super insecure and need attention. If they aren't getting that from their husband, they will get it elsewhere. It's usually more emotional for women than it is physical (like it is for men.)
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Good question.  I'm also happily married (although we are separating because my 7 year old whops me).  I went out with a guy for 3 years, & we watched lots of porn & looked at porn magazines.  (We never had sex.  I was waiting until I got married.)  What I noticed about the girls was the skimpy clothing & their poses, the artistic qualities of the shots, stuff like this.   Maybe a girl looks too young, another is clearly a virgin, & yet another has had a c-sect.  This is what sort of things that I noticed.  I didn't really find it significantly arousing.  Fast forward to being married for about 10 years.  Porn is everywhere on the internet.  The porn emails are sneaky.  One cannot avoid the porn.  Sometimes, it is arousing sexually.  But, I can just delete it!  I don't need it to satisfy desires or fantasies.  Sometimes, a position looks interesting, so I keep it in mind for next time we are making love.  But, I don't involve lust after anyone I see.  I turn myself on just fine.  I think that men usually do lust after the girls that they see.
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You can approach this with the knowledge that he is probably not cheating as porn fills that need to go outside the home. Guys are hardwired to have multiple partners and often porn fills that need. \nThe other over riding truth is men have the ability to view women in porn very differently than they view their wives. You , as wife, are the bastion of decency and honor not some cheap hussy who would appear on video. Therefore the women in film are in no way a comparison to you. Nor do we want them to be.  They are tawdry lust, you are our wives. Whether this makes you feel any better may be debatable. \nI think that, in a quiet moment , you explain what you discovered.\nTell him it disturbed you more than you thought it would, just as you did here.  Talk about your feelings instead of what he did which take the accusations out of the loop.\nIf you have not perceived some lack of affection or loss of sexual contact you can rest that it is not about you. The women there are detached objects which do things we would not request from our wives. They don't say no. They always make noise. They don't require affection. Consideration for them is not an issue. Unless he is hung like the proverbial horse the guys are not like him either.\nAsk him if there is something they do that he is missing with you.\nApart from frequency I'll bet he does not name much.\n\nGood Luck\n\nWomen view sex as a statement of intimacy. Men view sex with their wives like that sometimes. There are times when it is about release, plain and simple. It is release without dealing with any requirement to consider the feelings of anyone except themselves. There is a component which says just do it and requires no effort. I'll wager ther are few wives who would deal with the amount of sexual encounters required to totally deal with that because what goes with that is Wham Bam Thank You Mamm.  So unless its affecting your time together it is not about you. \nBTW the addiction thing is wrong too.
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Because its all the sicko's that make the make chatrooms, i have asked myself the same question.Most of them cant find a woman in real life, so they get on the internet. Or some that cudnt think of cheating on there gf's or wives so they do that sick shit, thinking that its not cheating.
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I don't know, I think good husbands should just do their best to not let their thoughts about other women bother their wives.  I think it is sadly pretty ingrained into guy's minds that they should be checking out chicks for the rest of their life to prove their manhood or something.
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porno, well men usually want to watch pornos when they don't have a hot babe to be with.  \n\nif a guy does have a hot babe sometimes he is looking to "enhance" the relationship (like adding adult toys into the bedroom).  \n\nmy final thought is he is addicted to internet porn and replaced the hot babe waiting for him with the myriad of internet babes having sex with other guys, girls, themselves, etc., etc., etc.
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If you have been reading some of the Q & A's here then you would know, apparently is just porn, sex and big boobs. I think the hormons are bothering a few people. There is alot that can make a guy happy, best way to find out is to ask him!
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They're very secretive. I mean who wouldn't especially if you still live with your family? lol\n\nAnd if they doesn't mind to make it a secret that they watch porn, you could always tell they're addicted to internet porn when they spent HOURS on the computer to look at the same/similar porn site(s) and most of the time, they usually do it EVERYDAY.
958269
Unfortunately these men are chauvinists. Chauvinists in general tend to be somewhat jealous of women.
868071
You're just not fulfilling his fantasies, he's using porn to try to get his imaginations to come to life...............be grateful he's not running off to someone else who will.  Porn is far better alternative than cheating or leaving all together.  To be honest, porn is quite healthy for a relationship.