what to do when you feel you lost someone nice by wasting alot of time thinking how much compatibal you are?
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Let the river flow around you grasshopper..There is allot to be said for compatability, As a Libra I'm an ill fit for a Scorpio.. Love is an interesting diety. If you push or force, you often wind up with an unwanted prisoner. If you hold on too loosely it can drift and disapate like smoke on a breeze..How would you know if you were to find love? Then you would only be interested in that persons happyness and not so much your own. Some birds should be free to fly, keep only the ones that wish to stay of their own accord. There may be many before one nests in your heart..patients..you have time
347820
You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
759523
Please listen to me.  This dude is gone; you are lucky that he is.  You are likely a loving a sweet girl.  You will never be able to forget him or what happened to you. MOVE ON and use this pain to motivate yourself; find some fun, some other friends, stop complaining and thinkabout your future.\nIt is difficult but the kind of guy you want is not this one.  You want to come home to someone who adores you and thinks only of you like you do him.  He is out there, and you will find him.\nHow to find him?  DO NOT LOOK, just be yourself and a friend will become something more.  Do not be anxious.\nWhen pain crosses your mind, think about something else, distract yourself; look toward the future.  Sweet one, life is just starting for you, and this pain is part of it.  Fight it and do not give in to it.
147107
no, try not getting emotionally attached to jerks. anyone that makes you feel bad is not worth the time.
439025
It sounds like you lost yourself, and all your stress is stem from the responses from people around you, do something for yourself and do it in a way that you love it with a purpose and forget about how others would think.
1174201
talk to her. Let her know that you feel unappreciated. Sometimes people get so wrapped up in their lives, that the little things are overseen.
121520
Stop trying so hard. Let things happen naturally. Get out and have fun, but don't think about it so much. Its always when you least expect it, that you find that special person, or good friend.  Any time wasted worrying, is one more wasted day.
327818
Don't. It isn't worth your time. It is beneath you. Being the good person in the situation may not feel like a reward, but it is. Stay strong, bite your tongue, and remember how much better you are than they are.
1152001
You deserve more. Find someone that makes you feel happy, not confused and sad. Is this only a one -time thing.....?
790920
Well, finding a person to make you feel whole is not the answer. Hang out with family and friends more. Also, get into a new activity that you've been wanting to try. Volunteer doing something that means a lot to you. That's how you start to feel whole.
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You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
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Why do you have to feel that way?\n\nDating someone doesn't make you any more complete. :)\n\nYou should be happy regardless. Although, i know that it's sometimes hard..but sometimes when you're not looking for it, you'll find one.
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You are your own's best support. Even I was having that feeling earlier but then I find out what are my likes and I concentrate on that things. Whatever make me feel good I start doing that. Try to be positive towards life and enjoy whatever you Have. Something is not in your hand to change but you can create a way to be calm/happy in that bad time. Its all up to you to live happy or down. All the best
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1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
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People with this amount of difference between them just should not be together in my opinion if you truly feel resentful, lonley, and unloved isnt it time to call it a day and find someone more suited to you. sorry if this seems a little harsh. good luk honey
587668
Hey your story touched me so i thought i would take the time to answer it, at least as best as i can! x\n\nFirstly, it must be dreadful to feel empty and lonely-as in a sense, perhaps you feel like you have lost half of your identity, as obviousley your mum is half of your biological makeup-and half of you!\n\nBut on the opposide side of this, is the fact that in that sense, she will always be a part of you, as you are half of her, which should give you some comfort. You are one of the closest people to her; so when you feel lonely and down think about this!\n\nAlso Never say Never either, and keep an open mind! Who is to say there isnt an afterlife? Its best not to think pessimistic, and say that you will never see her again. If she died, perhaps she died for a reason and is no longer in pain and is in peace.\n\nTry to talk to a close member of your family who would perhaps understand. Try not to dwell on the past and embrace the family that you have presently. At the end of the day your mum is in your heart and is a part of you, and that will never fade.\n\nxx
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Yeah!  I am very proud of you.  Do you realize how lucky you are?\n\n1.  You were dumped by someone who was not worthy of your love, and you did not have to waste any more time with someone who is not worthy of you.  How great to find out at your young age.  Now you don't have to waste any more of your precious time and life.\n\n2.  You realized that you make mistakes, and that makes you HUMAN and perfectly normal.   It would be not-normal to make mistakes and be mistreated, and think everything is fine.\n\n3.  You have a right to be restless because you are not taking good care of yourself.....you have given (temporarily) your self-worth and self-esteen to others....but now it is time to take it back.\n\nSo please - may we start again...Hello There\n\n1.  Smile, yes and smile everytime you pass a mirror, a big smile.\n2.  Now think, and make a list: - a list of all the bad things that are bugging you, and include those who have hurt you in the past.  Now realize that this is in the past.\n3.  Now make a list of the attributes and good qualities that you admire in others....and list the attributes and good qualities that match some of those you admire in others.\n4.  Realize that you need to walk more, yup, get out in the fresh air, and park in the farthest parking space (if you have a car) from any entrance hence you will walk more.  Try going up and down stairs 3-5 minutes each day....this will give you momentum.\n\n5.  When you are finished with the "what's bugging me" list, tear it up and throw it away.  It served a purpose, and that's to make you address who and what bugged you in the past.\n6.  Giver yourself time to heal...and the five stanges of grief for every loss - even the loss of a job, moving and of course the loss of what we think is love are:  denial, anger, bargaining - if only I did this -- then that would not have happened, depresssion and then acceptance.   Anyone who tells you to get over it....is in denial and let them stay there....These 5 stages of grief are what we all go through even though many times we don't recognize it..or is that more denial.\n7.  Check your nutrition - eat a good breakfast everyday...the o's with non-fat milk , add more fruit and vegetables,protein - low-fat and yogurt and fiber or fiber tablets - once a day....and don't forget to keep smiling.\n8.  Call your family and friends - just to keep in touch to ask about how they're doing, and to ....keep the focus off your problems.\n9.  Talk to any guidance counselors and ask for their advice.\n10. Hey - even University students have problems, hence a guidance department!!!!   Realize that we all have problems and that will keep you focused on your accomplishments instead of your problems....this starts changing mountains into mole hills theory.\n11.  You cannot solve all of your problems.  But addressing your concerns by making a list of what's bugging you will last for a lifetime...That's when you take back control of your life.\n\nYou have a right to be happy.  NOW GET THIS...\n\nYOU HAVE A RIGHT TO A ROCKIN RELATIONSHIP, so I'm so glad you got out of a relationship that was not Rockin 4 U....do you realize that I heard nothing...about even if you were happy...I just heart that you were involved.  And now you realize, that you require more!\n\nWHEN YOU TAKE BACK CONTROL, YOU WILL ALLOW THE UNIVERSE TO SEND YOU PEOPLE WHO ARE SMILING JUST LIKE YOU...AND want you for who you are.