How can i tell people in a nice way that i cant have my own children for medical reasons with out being rude o
147223
you may say : I like children a lot but can't have it for medical reasons. I thank you for your concerns and love you have always shown towards me. As I am always surrounded by loving and caring people, I forget about it and can enjoy with  them. I really thank you for your concerns.(with smile)
171988
You didnt say how old are you, and what you mean about privacy and life by your own.\nYou have to talk, talk and talk, comunication is the tool to get everything you need. But to talk, comunicate and convince others you have to have very strong arguments.\nAnd as you want them to understand you and think about you, you have to understand them and think about them for a while, parents will be parents for their whole life, and you will be their baby, it doesnt matter how old you are, how independent you have became, or how strong you feel. \nGive them information, so they can feel the security that you will be ok, and that you can deal with the problems and issues you find in your way; so they can let you go easier. \nRemember they do whatever they do, because they love you so much, that you can't imagine, you will figure it out when you become a mother.
617138
Ok this made someone else laugh in here that I was offering advice to, so maybe it'll make you grin.\n   A friend of mine was potty training her son who was almost 3. She could get her son to go pee in the toilet, but when he had to poo he'd do it in the litter box like the cat did. Poor women thought she'd never break him of that.\n  My own kids.. kids' are something else lol. My 15 y/o is going blind so he's at the blind school all week and comes home on weekends. I always let him choose what we eat that weekend because school food isn't mom food. He wanted liver and onions (did I mention he'd not normal?). So I fixed it for him and asked him, "How's your liver?" and he shot back. "Fine until I start drinking." \n  When I got pregnant with my last son, I was breaking it to my kids. They wanted to know how I knew I was going to have a baby because my belly wasn't big yet. They were 8 and 10 then,  so I showed them the test stick and told them, "One line means I'm not pregnant and two lines means I am pregnant." My oldest asked, "So what does three lines mean?"  My then youngest son replied, "It means dad is pregnant!"\n  Last year my 4 y/o was being a brat and his daddy told him to stop or he was going to get a swat on his bottom. My son ran into my bedroom, locked my door and yelled out, "How you gonna spank me now?". \n  The best way I know to forget about your problems is to laugh. \n  To those that are pulling this, "You shouldn't complain because my life is worse then yours."  I take care of my mother who is dying, I have cancer, bi-polar, thyroid problems, fibromyalgia, HS, PCOS, endometriosis and insulin problem, my brother has a disease that's slowly killing him, my oldest son is going blind and my husband lost his job because there is no work coming in at the shop. But everyone has problems and everyone has a right to ask for help even if it's just to make them laugh. It's not the time to stand back and say, "Oh I've got more problems then you so suck it up." It's the time to say, "hey, I feel your pain. What can I do to help?". I don't feel sorry for myself and don't expect anyone else too. It's a wasted emotion but if someone needs help or even a little empathy so that they don't feel so alone then I'm happy to help. \n  Remember the old saying.. I used to complain that I had no shoes until I met a man that had no feet.
209489
1st question?   Are you?\n\nIf yes, then go up to the people saying it and say "its really to early to see if there will be any complications and i would prefer if you didnt say anything"  \nor just stick to the good ole'  "Im not pregnant and I CAN PEE ON THE STICK FOR YOU IF YOU WANT BUT YOUR GONNA HAVE TO BUY IT"
65009
I would have to agree with some of the previous answers to a certain degree.  Just in case you haven't done this, try: \n\n-Saying exactly what you want (i.e. our child is ill, our child needs some medicine) \n-Calm down and simply try to say it a little sweeter because you sound really pissed right now\n- Make it an urgent call and be sure to say that it is extremely inportant that he calls back ASAP \n\nJust some ideas.  It sounds like you and your child's father do not get along which could be the reason why he has not called back yet.  Remember that your feelings don't matter- JUST THE CHILD'S! Sometimes you will have these problems and you have to remember that you can only control you and your child.  If he does not want to talk to you then let it be. \n\nI wish you all the best!
153737
You can not control how others will react or feel by what you say. If someone is crossing your boundry line,it is up to you to say so, they can't read your mind. Choose your words carefully, say it kindly and all is done. If someone thinks that you are rude and you have been as kind as possible then that is their problem not yours.\n I need to do this quite often. So many people are touchers to even complete strangers and I suffer from chronic pain where sometimes even the lightest breeze can cause pain I would wish on no one. I just have to tell people straight out, or my husband does, to be gentle with me. I won't break, but I will suffer pain. And you know what there are people who are then offended and think I am rude for not wanting to be punched on arm or bear hugged, some people just have no thought for anyone but themselves
184160
If something goes wrong with the procedure your parents will have to know.  Are you sure that you want an abortion?   You will be left with a lot of emotional scars and may not be able to have other children.  Couldn't you carry your child to term and then put him/her up for adoption?  Maybe your parents would want to help you raise your baby.
83898
If you don't want to tell them then show it to them. Do things that you wouldn't normally do for another person. Be nice to them and show them that you care.
108595
Just know that you are special and it is not your fault what they said or did. Know that God is with you and always has been, and focus on just being the best person that you can be. Be successful, and be greatful for life, also know that your parents probably didn't know any better, and forgive them, to make yourself be even better. Know that you overcame that, and can think about it and rationalize it, and get past it, knowing you are a really good person inside, who wants a good happy life. \n\nAnd when it does feel like it hurts realy bad, just thank God that he was there to help you through it and for the ability to now think positively and rationalize why you are such a good person who deserves so much. And know that you will be happy in the future and will make a positive difference in making people feel good, especially when you ever have kids, so that you can be everything to them that you never had.\nBasically:\nJust have HOPE and keep FAITH.
182557
lara u sound like a very mature person and u already said that ur parents know about u taking birth control pills so i don't see any reason for u to not go and see a normal doctor. but u are still under ur parents decisions .so all u have to do is let ur parents know about how u feel about ur pediatrician not being capable of dealing whit u .and what else? u have to accept whatever they chose. don't forget they are ur parents and they want the best for u.
1158908
you should have your tubes tied.  you obviously are too stupid to raise a family.  i'm sure the government will give you a suicide pill.  PLEASE take the pill, so we no longer have to support you and all your welfare babies.
189507
Use it to your advantage by ignoring them but hearing the message and doing something about it. You have a long wonderful life in front of you so why not begin an exercise program and diet plan and whoop yourself back into shape. \n\nSo use their rudeness as a motivation tool for yourself.
362468
Well being open and honest is the best, if you really want to have a child  then talk to him about it, just let him know that this is what you want, and ask him his oppion on it, it is better to be open about these things,
1105212
You just have to learn to say no. You can be nice about it\nbut just tell them you can't do it, you don't need to explain why. Being that nice will only get you taken advantage of.
367295
see the doc. i have a family member that could'nt have kids until she was in her 30's or 40, somethiong like that, but anyway something about her overys, but she finnally had kids after being treat from a doc.
417603
Just block out those people for a while...and if you want kids you can always adopt them
31440
just tell her that ur kids dont like to show much affection...to strangers... i dont make my kids hug touch or even say goodbye to someone they dont want too unless of course they are just being rude.  If she doesnt respect this then find a new friend.