why am asking this question is becus my friend is one of the victim now after 2days the guy willl mak luv 2her
143843
if your friend is not ready to make love with the guy we tell her not to. if the guy loves her he will respect her decision of not doing IT with her..
867757
i have read this to be true as well...and if you think about it it makes a lot of sense. Friends/acquianrances have more access to the victims...making it easier for them to gain their trust and prey on them.
554338
if 2 people fall in love it just makes the world a better place\n\nother people's relationships are none of your business (unless somebody is being abused and then the police should be contacted to intervene)
538213
Why are you thinking so hard on this?  To you, and in your heart taz was your friend, that is all that matters.  He may or may not have been, what does it matter now except in your heart.  You said you trusted him, so trust or don't, don't beat yourself up over something that can only bring pain.
215719
It is not easy to leave someone you have been with a while.  When you are close, and you aren't meant for each other it is even worse.  Maybe you guys could become friends again after all the hurt is over with.
772350
That makes him a victim of abuse and he needs to seek treatment by a professional counselor. The thoughts he is having might be triggered by something else going on his life(if its been that long, its doubtful that he's gay). Since rape, and this was rape, is a typically a loss of control and a feeling of powerlessness with sex being the weapon used against the victim, its possible that something in his life has triggered these same feelings. Are you feeling powerless in a relationship or at work? Seek help to get these feelings out and resolved. While you were a victim and you didn't do anything wrong, you are now an adult and have a responsibility to yourself to get some help coping. Good luck to you.
113404
you're not in love with him your co-dependant upon him.yes it's fatal. if you give someone that kind of control over your life. change psyches. This person obviously isn't doing anything for your self esteem issues.
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This violence and disrespect is a form of abuse!  I was in the same position many years ago.  The reasons that girls stick around with guys who treat them this way are different.  Some feel that they really love the guy and that they can "change" him.  People don't change their ways that often, and when they do, it is because THEY chose to.  \n\nSecondly, it could be because she thinks that this is how a guy who loves her would act.  Violence and disrepect ARE NOT a way to show love.\n\nThird, if this guy is going this far as to do all of this, he could be telling her (as my ex did with me) "If you leave me, no ones going to want you" or "No man will ever love you the way I do."  If you hear things like this over and over again, you really begin to believe it.  This is also a form of abuse (mental abuse).\n\nI would sit your friend down and have a long talk with her.  Ask her why she is with this guy.  Does she feel she can't do any better?  Does she think that life won't go on without this loser?  Let her know: She's better than this.  Tell her that the next time he gets pissed, it might not be her furniture that gets broken....it could be a bone!  (People that have abusive tendencies and do things like this soon progress to physical abuse...TRUST ME I KNOW FIRSTHAND!) \n\nIf she refuses to listen to you, is there a family member of hers that you can voice your concerns to?  In my case, a friend let my parents know that I was being abused and they eventually got me out.  It may make her angry that you went to someone else, but she has got to get out of this situation before it is too late!\n\nNo person (man, woman, or child) deserves to be treated this way!  Tell your friend that she needs to get out (and there are various agencies that can give her advice and help her get out.....Find these numbers and have them on hand when you talk to her.)  \n\nHer situation will not get better, it will only get worse.  She needs to get out and get help before it goes too far!
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Some are attracked to jerks because they think that they can change them, which will never happen, they fall in love with the man he could be not the man he is. If she is getting hit then you need to talk to her about gettting out of the relationship and getting help. If you like you can write me poetry any time, I love it.
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Their are some people that need to hit their bottom, before they\ncan see the true light. You did the right thing trying to help your friend.\nNow the rest is up to him.\n            Be at peace with yourself, just be there if he calls out\nto you.          Sincerely,  Jerry
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That is really up to your friend. That's something that she is going to have to learn from on her own. When someone is in love with someone else, they do not want to listen to anything anyone is telling them and often times they know that it's wrong but they are afraid to admit it due to insecurity. They are afraid of letting go because they are afraid that they may not be able to find someone else or they are afraid of the painful consequences it is going to cause. \n\nYour friend is going to learn the hard way. That is how many of us learn is the hard way. Just let it be. The guy is a jerk and she is having a difficult time seeing that. \nIt is unfortunate, but she is going to end up with a broken heart, but only experience will be able to tell her that. \n\nJust support her and let her know that you are there for her if she needs you.
277725
you're right , and your  friend will end up getting hurt because this guy is just using her, if you tell someone she will end up hating you .  i think you will have   to wait and see what happens . good luck
594314
wow, must be pretty rough. i mean, no one expects you to get over it. look, i had a friend and the same thing happened to her and im gonna give you the same advice i gave her. some might say that you should take up counseling or go to a group meeting, but the sad part is that those meetings dont focus on just you and yourproblem. you have to find someone who you trust and love, usually a mom, sister, or aunt, and tell that person about what happened to you, and who did it. the guy who did this to you obviously isnt very considerate. just open up to a loved one and let them know whats going on. im sure it will help and they will be able to focus on your problem and not everyone elses.
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Your friend has a serious problem and I do not mean just the boyfriend.  She may have psychological problems leading her to choose to be in a relationship which is abusive.\n\nSome women seem to always choose this type of relationship, one guy after another.  If she does not see this problem, then there is nothing you can do for her.\n\nIf you believe that the couple may be in love and this is what is keeping them together, the best you can hope to do is confront both of them together and tell them that this physical activity is not "normal" and before someone gets hurt or is arrested, they should go to counseling.\n\nA quick temper is one thing.  Hitting another human is another.  If things get out of hand, call the cops yourself.  We do not need any more headlines to draw attention to this kind of problem.
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Ask your friend if everything is ok and explain your fears to her.Tell her you are concerned for her safety and you dont want anything bad happening to her. Tell her that if he is abusing her then you and her can go and get help together as a team and that everything will workout for the best.\nI hope everything works out.
180678
Betrayal is one of the most tragic things that can happen to a person.  Betrayal from a friend is the worst kind.  I hosnestly don't know what I would do.  I would be heartbroken for sure.  would it make you feel better to just go kick his a**? Really, I am stumped on this one.  I can imagine the pain of betrayal, and would be at a loss as what to do.  So, I guess I'd just go to the person and tell them how much he has hurt me and tell them that I'd never get over it, how much I had trusted him, and then try to get on with my life.
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that is really sad that you have been done like that .. but with therapy to help you deal you can live a normal life.some how the victim feels like its there fault ..