what is the best way to commuacate with a loved one who has died?
145537
Just talk to them- out loud or in your head. You'll get an answer one way or another.
1091670
"I heard of your loss, and I just wanted to offer you and your family my sincerest condolences in your time of grief." \n\nThen just drop it. He may respond, he may not. But your kindness will be noted.\n\nGood luck.
607891
I am so sorry for you loss.  It might help to talk about it with your family...\nLoosing a family member can not only be hard...but stressful and draining.  So many things can be done...so many things can help you.  The thing is finding what works for you.  \nIn every life...there is death.  Neither one can be fair at times....I am so sorry.
285372
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  Whatever you do - do something.  No matter how insignifcant whatever you do may seem to you at the moment - it will mean more than you can imagine to the family.  They understand the distance in miles associated with this loss.  God bless you and yours at this time!
330875
Since you're at a loss for words, it appears you are attending to give your condolences to a friend.  Funerals in and of themselves serve as a last chance to say goodbye to someone we've lost on this earth and show support and concern for those who've been left behind during their loss.  To know that you're there is usually the kindest gesture you can make to those family members and if you're uncertain as to what to say it's best to keep it simple.  Offer your condolences, your assistance if they should need it and just let the moment occur.  I've learned, however, that a card or a brief note sent a couple of weeks afterwards will mean much more than you know as this is the most difficult time of adjustment after all the arrangements have been made and visits are over.  Just feel good that you're going, God will handle the rest.  You're a blessing.
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That would depend on state and funeral home....it varies\n\njust call where they are now and let them know that you need transportation arrangements made quickly if they have passed on and arranged if they will be passing soon.\n\nI am sorry for your loss..and what you are going through.\nPrayers and thoughts are with you.
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in the arms of a loved one
801701
Sorry for your loss! It's hard to decide what is good enough for a special family member during times such as these. I didn't write a obituary but I read to "To Where You Are" by Josh Groban at my mother's memorial service. Very beautiful!
135260
Start asking them what they want at their funeral, maybe they will get the hint! lol or just have their doctor lay it on them straight!\nplease pick a best answer-we are real people taking time to answer!
24300
When you say goodbye to him/her, give them a hug.  While you're doing that, sneak a kiss.  The rest is history.
1038735
Having lost family, I can suggest the following:\n\n1.  First, know the prognosis. How long is she expected to live? What can be done to improve her chances of longer life?\n2.  Know your mother's wishes. This is her life. How does she want to approach this? Is she willing to fight? Does she just want to accept this and settle her affairs and live the rest of her life in peace?\n3. See to your mother's comfort and her state of mind first. Believe me, you will have time to dwell on your own grief later. Consider this a healthy postponement of your grief.\n4.  Accept the fact that sooner or later, we lose our parents. It is a part of life and how we deal with it will be an example to our own children and grandchildren. We want them to live on and thrive, not spend their lives in heartache and sorrow.\n5.  Create more memories now! Enjoy your time together as much as possible. It is difficult to watch a loved one struggle through hard times, but being there for her, just holding her hand, showing your love will send her off with a feeling of deep satisfaction and leave you with fewer regrets.\n6.  Say what you've always wanted to say now.\n7.  Cry. Allow yourself to feel the sorrow, helplessness, even anger at this situation that we have no control over. Grieving cannot be denied. Cry it out.\n8.  But have hope. Always. Cling to the hope that there is a higher purpose for all things. Hope that the truth is we will be together again with our loved ones who have departed. This is only a short separation. They will be able to see us, visit us and whisper softly to us even though we, in our earthly bodies, will not be able to see them. We will be able to feel their presence. We will be reunited again.\nYou see, my grandmother, my father and my little boy died within one year. I can't describe the heartache. But I can describe the hope. And I have heard their whispers to me! So joyful, so hopeful, so encouraging! I feel their love. They can't wait until we are together again!\nUntil that time, please, please, spend your moments together caring, loving, laughing...then weep in dark rooms when you are alone. Have courage, my friend. And always hope.
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Sure - it will bless her heart PARTICULARY because you haven't spoken to her for awhile.  \nOur real grief very often doesn't settle in until a month or even months and months after the death of a loved one.  I volunteer at a grief center as a grief peer counselor and I know for a fact how much it means to receive a sympathy card even months after a loved ones death.
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spendin time with loved ones......
211836
Enjoy the time you have with her and make the next three months unforgettable!  You both need to accept the fact that she is dying and get past this as soon as possible.  Then all you need to do is enjoy each other as much as possible.  Always remember that knowing the situation, puts the two of you in a very unique position.  You don't ever have to say that you wished you would have said or done something when you had the chance.  You have that chance and that chance is now!!! Use it to your full advantage!
883733
Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
1130028
First, please accept my sincere condolences.   I lost my dad the same way about 10 years ago.  I'm going to be brutally honest with you because you need to know and knowing what is coming will make it easier for you to deal with.  Her lungs will fill with fluid.  They may try a couple of times to drain them but, eventually, they will advise that treatment is no longer effective.  They will keep her heavily medicated with pain killers, usually morphine.  Morphine effects different people in different ways.  Some sleep, some hallucinate.  Be prepared.  At the end, she will lapse into unconsciousness.  Her breathing will become more and more labored and, eventually, it will just stop.  \n\nBe there with her as long as she is conscious.  Let her tell you how much she loves you, even though you already know that.  She needs to say goodbye.  In that last vigil, hold her hand.  She'll know you're there to ease her passing.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
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That sounds like a thoughtful alternative.\nWhen my dad died, we received so many flowers, cards, and fruit baskets (oh my, the fruit flies were horrible!).\n\nMy mom was a widow with three minor kids, and she appreciated the people that volunteered to watch us while she made arrangements, or the meals that were prepared so she didn't have to worry about it, and the ladies from church who came over and cleaned our house up a bit.  If geographical restrictions aren't an issue and she is your mother-in-law, maybe you could send a fruit basket or gift basket, but also volunteer your time or talents.  Just a thought...