Need help with teen kids with listen to you and not doing what I want they to do?
148922
Said it a kind way and not smart way!!!!!!!!!!!!
471102
Work around them.  If your in charge of them have them stand at attention facing the wall all day without talking.  They might get bored and quit.
1079654
I worked as a middle school teacher... First, you must listen to them, and understand that they act crazy and do stupid things because they are learning about life and they are going through so many changes. Explain to them that they have the right to be heard, but for that they must SPEAK, and not yell since as soon as they begin yelling adults will not listen. Make them think about their actions! \nTeenagers overseas might be easier to work with, since American kids... are spoiled. GOOD LUCK!
1065161
Be open and honest it is better to talk with them and for them to know what's going on.  Parents may be disappointed YES, but that doesn't mean that they are going to stop loving you.  It's like I'm trying to teach my kids, I may not always like everything you tell me, in fact somethings I might even get upset over, but that has NO impact on just how much I LOVE YOU!  It's hard to believe but most times when we get upset over something it's because we've been there and done that, we know the mistakes you are making and how painful the pitfalls can be, and we hope to prevent you from making some of the same ones. But you also have to grow and learn and even though we would like to lock you up and never let you out you have to learn to make wise choices and that doesn't happen with out screwing up occasionaly.  We also like to think that our little girls are never going to grow up. It's tough for us to see you making grown up choices. Honestly though, parents know more than their kids think, and sometimes it's easier to turn a blind eye.  It's killer to think of your kids doing those things, one day you will understand.  I have eaten my words of "I'll never be like you when I'm a mom" "I'll be understanding"  Yeah right, as a teen you can't  fully understand parents because that's God's gift to us. We on the other hand have the experence and knowledge of our youth, and the smarts from learning from our screw-ups.  and you can learn alot from sitting down and just talking about this with your parents.  It can also bring you closer.  Parents like it when their kids do take the time to confide and trust in them.  Just tell them that you want to sit down and talk. Decide on a time, make an invitation and give it to them, saying the date and time.  Then plan out how you want to tell them. You could always write a poem and stick it in the poem.  Or you could write it in your journal and leave it out in a open place for them to read.  Of coarse I'm sure they already know where you keep it and could already be informed and are just waiting for you to come out with it.  Just remember that know matter how upset they may seem at first, they really do LOVE YOU!!!! I guarantee it. \nAnytime you want to talk feel free.........Your parents are not the enemy!  Learn to trust in their love for you. In closing I really hope that this isn't my daughters friend Becca, I might just have to whop you myself when you get back. So much for the pleasantries sounded nice though lol...........but really it is true. Just alittle humor there, who knows maybe my daughter put you up to the question. OH that would be really bad!!!!! OK, don't let my thoughts get the better of me.  It's tough being a parent, and really we don't get paid nearly enough. Take care and stick with the game of softball and those bases, it's much safer.
688691
I've had friends like that too. And you can only do so much. Sometimes, they need to learn on their own, as much as it may hurt you to see them get hurt, but at least you know that you have trie to advise them well. However, let them know that you are there and that you are willing to listen. Perhaps, you can find a place where they help teens with problems and get help together.
1141803
Tell them when they are done fighting and being kids then you will talk to them. Till then walk away. You don't need to get in the middle of THEIR fight.
864663
get a room for kids and get teens to babysit them so that parents can come and not have sitter issues
69164
It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
279416
Don't yell. Don't raise your voice. Speak very quietly in simple language. They will have to stop to listen and hear you. They know empty threats, don't threaten what you will not follow through on. i.e. "If you don't behave you'll have to stay in your room for a week." They KNOW that isn't going to happen, but for 2 hours...maybe.\n  You can't steer a car by honking the horn, and neither can you guide children by yelling.
442564
There is a person I listen to every Sunday night who helps teens and even goes as far as getting them help. If your interested then call this number or visit his website in the source(s) line. I hope they can get help here. These people are very caring.\nOh! Forgive me. Yes, it is very confidential.
389724
IGNORE IT! EVENTUALLY THEY'LL STOP. THEY WILL REALIZE HOW SMARTER YOU ARE AND THEY'RE GONNA HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT! GOOD LUCK!
921221
Talk to them and explain things to thing. Tell them they need to listen to you and not speak until you are finished. Dont run away thats stupid how far would you get etc.... what is the point it will make things worse. Explain you are 16 and you respect them and their opinions but you need to live your life and make mistakes. College and stuff will come honest if its right for you, go with your idea and see if you like it.\n\nGood Luck
1029837
I suggest being straightforward with the people and tell them right off that they cannot use those words around youre children. whether theyre youre friends or not(i dont know) you should still tell them immediately to stop
1182359
First of all, how many kids are you in charge of? Have you considered that maybe you are overwhelmed?\nSecond, when kids misbehave our first impulse is to punish them or to become more controling. Turns out that WE are the grown ups and it is up to us to keep our heads cool, to take a deep breath and sort out these situations.\nI have four kids and they used to drive me crazy. Now I have learned a few basic things to AVOID their rebelions:\n1. Basic needs first: make sure they are fed, rested and clean.\n2. Keep them busy: chores, homework, engaging games always work to keep them out of trouble. \n3. Give them attention while you are with them. People who hate playing with kids, shouldn't be taking care of kids in the first place.\n4. Have fun with them! Notice the cute little things they do and how beautiful these little miracles are.\n\nTo avoid that my kids 'kill' each other out of boredom, I usually keep a good stock of craft materials like finger paint, paper, glue, glitter, crayons, bubble wrap, etc I also have a large library of PG movies and indoor toys for the rainy days.\n\nGood luck!
299866
Try being a little bit more strict, not to the point of being harsh though. Just let them know that you are their teacher, and they need to stay on task. Also be consistent with your punishings. For instance, if one week you punish a lot of children for talking, and the next week you slack off a little bit, then they may get the idea that its okay to talk whenever they want to. Hope this helps. =)
889539
You can't mold children -- they aren't clay. The smarter a kid is, the less likely they are to listen to you. The best way to get your kids to listen to you is by having a history of fairness and consistency, and being the kind of person that your kids can personally believe in, so that when they do have questions about they decisions they're about to make, your advice is the advice that they rely on.\n\nThere are plenty of programs like that. Big Brothers, Big Sisters is one example, but there are also peer mentors in High School and College; and there are therapeutic staff support technicians -- social workers who spend evenings being friends with certain kids that they're matched to. The YMCA and YWCA are both prime examples of associations that were meant to serve the purpose you're thinking of. The problem with them is that they get the reputation of being fruity and embarassing because they're designed to help kids -- but when that's all you have, you make the best of it. I had a TSS worker when I was 14, and she taught me a lot about music and movies and making friends.
621723
You can only listen, advise and try to get them to seek professional help. Ultimately, its up to them. They need to help themselves.