My parents are arguing???
153428
Try talking to them one at a time probably when the other one is gone. I dont know how you parents are but if its a serious problem you dont wanna make it worse you know so just ask at different times. Good luck mama!
151875
This was in response to the other question that you removed:\n\nIt sounds like your parents have a lot of their own issues, and they may be taking them out on you.  You are just a kid -- IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.  Of course, if they ONLY yell and curse when you have done something against their rules, then you need to realize that they will get frustrated with you.  But they should NEVER threaten to hurt you.  If you really get scared for your safety or for someone else in the family, you have to tell someone.\n\nI would recommend talking to someone you can trust outside of your family (school counselor, priest/minister/rabbi, teacher, family friend or neighbor), who can help you learn to cope with what's going on.  In time, you'll want to find a way to approach your parents with your concerns; but that will take some preparation for you to think of a way to talk about it without setting them off.  Or maybe, in a moment of calm (riding in the car seems to be a good time for my son and I to talk) you could say that you are tired of fighting all the time, and suggest family counseling so you can learn better ways to communicate with each other.  \n\nRealize that you and they are humans, and we all make mistakes.  They probably do NOT WANT to hurt you, but they may have their own stress or pain inside of them that they haven't learned to deal with.  For now, try to behave within the rules and don't act out of rebellion (you won't like the result).  Hang in there and remember that with time and patience and love it can get better.
663164
Cool it!  You are still young, and your mother is still your mother and she LOVES you!  You were wrong to go off on her like that.  She knows you are a teenager and teenagers go off easily with little provocation.  But your rage and rants still hurt her.  No adult would to that to a parent.  It was still an adolescent rant.\n\nNow, go take a hot soaky with lavender bubbles and listen to some mellow music.
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
727791
DON'T YOU JUST HATE WHEN PARENTS USE THAT LINE LOL......\nmy mother and father were the same when i was living with them they would both say that to me and i was like shut up let me learn things for myself but they would still put in what they thought.... even if i didn't want to hear it. I'm 20 and now living out of home and they don't interfere don't get me wrong if you are still at home i'm not telling you to move out cause it's not easy belive me, but you really need to put your foot down. i belive at the age of 20 you are old enough to make your own decsions whatever they may be wheatehr they like it or not. parents always worry and try to take control i think it's just in them lol. you have to tell him that he would have once had to learn for himself and now it's your turn and it's time for him to let you grow into being a good man, tell him that you were raised to do the right thing and he sould trust you.\ntalk to him mate\ngood luck and i hope your dad realises that you are old enough to make your own choices \nmel
132821
As the saying goes "Money is the root of all evil."\nYou have no control over your parents behaviour.  I hope you don't feel their fights are your fault in any way.\nI'm sorry to hear that they fight in front of you, causing you pain, that is selfish and irresponsible on their part.\nYou could try letting them know how much these arguments upset you by saying something like, "Please, if you feel  you have to fight could you spare me and do it some place else, or when I'm not around?"  Tell them it hurts you to see them fight. It MIGHT do some good if you bring to their attention how it makes you feel. However, I wouldn't get my hopes up too high because I doubt if they will change, especially if it has been going on for a long time.  \n\nHaving a spiritual relationship with God is what I suggest for bringing you peace of mind.  Prayer is what works for me. Find a special scripture in the Bible and think of that in times of stress, and when you have a troubled (sad) heart.\nGood luck,...and God Bless you.
714907
Their emotions are all over the place. They hate that they are hurting you and splitting up the family, but for you, its better. Its horrible when parents are around and always fighting.  Its better when they are separted by law or houses - and they don't argue.\n\nUntil the divorce is over, their emotions will be all over the place, almost like yours. \n\nMy best suggestion for any child (young adult) is that they talk with their parents or school counselor and ask to see a professional therapist. They can help you sort through the adult stuff you might not understand.\n\nNo matter what, it affects you - but isn't about you. Both your parents love you - truly, truly love you. Don't ever think otherwise. \n\nOne thing to remember if they happen to say something negative about the other parent...at one time, they did love each other...that's how they got you ;-).\n\nAlso, if they do say something negative to you about the other parent...just ask them to neve say anything negative about your dad/mom to you. After one time of telling them this...they'll stop.\n\nHope this helps. Your parents are both good people but somehow moved down a different road. Your lucky to have both f them - even in separate houses.
78169
This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
133490
If it doesn't have anything to do with you, politely tell both sides that you'd prefer not to get caught up in this and that they need to solve their disagreement themselve. You do not want to take sides and it's best to just walk away and let them fight it out. Good luck, =)
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
1044063
As an adult who was recently a child, I can sympathize with parents thinking that they understand what's going on in their child's head (my mother still thinks that), and with parents making decisions that don't seem right, and sometimes aren't. Parents are people and make mistakes, however, you should stop to consider that you'd be much worse off without them. They might make decisions that cause you to miss out on things, and they might make you do things that you don't like, but they are older and wiser, and can make more informed decisions. This does not mean that they will always be right, and if you think they are wrong, you shouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them. However, screaming or throwing a fit would only show that you aren't mature enough to make very many decisions for yourself. You should have a say in what you want to do, and I'm almost positive that, if you think about it, you do. Also, if you gracefully accept some things your parents say that you don't agree with, they're more likely to let you make more decisions, or at least more heavily weigh your opinion.
159735
Do not loose yourself to tensions my sister. If already nothing has gone wrong, try to get a job first. Be positive. When you have a job you will have some authority. Then it would be easier for you to convinvence your parents. Parents too love you more than anything. Therefore you will succeed no doubt. Good luck.
191277
well talk to them to find out why u r in trouble then pray that God gives you the ability to continue to respect your parents.they are there to help and protect you so please make it easier by listening and trying to understand what they are saying. it will come in handy when you strike out on your own.my mom & dad were the meanest parents in the world. and i thank them for it thier disipline & love is what made me the person my husband fell in love with. if i can be even half the person my mom is i will be lucky.
447076
Be adult about it and just ignore them. They are trying to upset you and you are allowing it.
1138914
I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
24639
CALMLY talk to your parents. LISTEN to what their concerns are. I am a son, parent, and soon to be grand parent ... Although I rarely took my parents' advice and changed my life because of it, when I did LISTEN, it made my life easier. My parents realize (and I realize as a parent) that kids will NOT do what they want them to do, but if the parents are HEARD, it makes life easier for you, your parents, and the "mate" you are talking about. Think about what they are saying to you, DON'T ARGUE or MAKE THEM THINK like you think - that ain't happening - You allready know your opinion, now PLEASE take 10 minutes and hear the opinion of your parents.
449920
Indian hubbys are real chicken...Give him some hard time...he will back on the negotiation table. But the parents...they are real hardcore...depending on the level of education ....Once in a while put the parents on the spotlight....then try to get 'em hooked up to some guilt trip for any good reason. Share this little secrets with your daughters so that they think it's a game and they don't get affected by this crap. At the same time....on of these days they have to deal with their husbands too!