Is it shallow to break up with someone because of hereditary genes?
144632
Actually I don't think it is shallow at all.  What is wrong with dealing with reality?  If you know what you want, and that is to be married and have children, why waste your time with someone that you are not going to have that with?\nI think you were protecting yourself from making a selfish mistake in the future: risking having children doomed to have problem.\nI think you did the right thing, and shouldn't be ashamed of it.
418991
Everybody should have requirements in all relationships.  But, rather you should break up with him is your own decision.  Go with your heart.
290824
Biologically it's wrong, since if your father were to have sex with your sister and they were to produce a child, that child could have all the heritable traits from that family times two, and in that case it weakens the species, as you can see in royal, insestuous families who eventually died out because of heritable traits that became heightened because of the lack of genetic diversity. Imagine those people procreating with others outside of their family after such an incestuous line, it could weaken an entire gene pool! \n\nPeople are born with a general sexual aversion to their parents (although Freud would argue with me) and as we grow older and spend all our shildhood days knowing and respecting our parents, siblings, and grandparents (etc.) we absolutely block inscetuous thoughts from our minds. It's become a taboo within many cultures, but I think from the legal standpoint, it is illegal perhaps mostly because of the biological reason I mentioned above.
853933
You said you're working on the relationship, but if he isn't, it probably isn't worth while.  If he has been like this forever, and you thought you could change him....yep, think again.   If he is as self centered as it sounds,  you moving out probably just gave him more free time to do what he wants.  Don't kill yourself working it out if he won't give 110% also.  Habits are hard to break, and no one is perfect, but feeling like dirt on the bottom of somebones shoe is not expected.  Your girls should be learning repects from both parents.
43781
Just tell him you are too shallow to continue the relationship. Quick, simple, and apparently true.
841525
Yes, it's wrong and if you continue in this relationship, you are a homewrecker. I'm sure you're a nice person but you need to find someone who has no baggage and can commit solely to you. You won't be happy in the long run otherwise. You deserve better.
36003
Dump him for someone who is mature and considerate of your well-being.
221480
No, but take a close look at your family history and I'll bet you find some mental instability on one (or both) sides of your family.  Even if it's great-grandparents, that gene carries on.
631266
Hi\n\n   I would say it totally depends on the reasons you broke up with him in the first place.......
222424
I think you are mature and caring, and kudos to you for not taking this guy's virginity before breaking up with him.  (Would that more guys would act this way toward their girlfriends!)  Good for you, also, for knowing that you are not ready to make this commitment.\n\nIt's good to be honest with him and share your concerns about racism, about your need for security, and so forth.  Of course he'll be heartbroken, but now it's up to him to deal with it, and I hope he deals with it well.  I also hope someday he'll become strong enough to stand up to his family and pair up with whichever girl or woman he wishes, regardless of race.  I hope that when you are ready to marry, that your man's family will love you too, but if they don't, that he'll be strong enough to ignore his family's wishes and stand beside you, and you'll stand beside him.\n\nDo you know the song "Society's Child"?
1070221
If your talking about interbred families, that is morally objectionable.\n\nThe isolation of genes would cause a horrible and has caused horrible results from the offspring. Not only that, society looks down on that kind of thing.....the child would have major social problems if any of his classmates found out that his parents are related. \n\nAs for the parents, that is sad. They knew the risks....I'm not saying that they couldn't be in love, but for them to fall in love.....well....is weird. It also depends on how closely related they are. Either way.....the family will have problems.
1128722
That is pretty shallow; but at least you care enough to wonder whether it's wrong.  Under the circumstances, it may be more right for you to leave him alone; you may end up hurting him more by giving him false hope, and end up turning him bitter about women in general.\n\nOTOH, if you can get over your own vanity, you might find that your intuition about him seeming perfect is more true than you realize.  This could be a real opportunity for growth in your life.
73080
Ok, so I had this problem too. My friend told me that I should tell them that they aren't my type. That way, you aren't exactly telling them what you specifically don't like about them. Or you could make him break up with you by making yourself unattractive or doing things that he doesn't like.
1034944
NOPE! Thats how you know someone really loves YOU. Your personality is the catcher unless someone is shallow.
146044
As long as you truly love the girl, then I honestly don't think those other characteristics are a key priority in a relationship. She's out there somewhere for you :) but just remember, don't rush into marriage.
180117
yes...you let them go. It would be selfish not to. After all when you truly love someone you want their happiness.
225494
Not at  all. But if, you begin to ponder this while dating some one perhaps, you should stay single. Monagamous relationships are not for everyone and just for those who are mature to hande it.