how can i help my bestfriend about her over weight and her habbits eating junk food 3 times a day?
157008
Accept her as she is. Nagging or pointing it out to her will not help her. It will actually make her crave eating more. Plus run down her self esteem. Believe me, a person who is over weight knows they are. Until she can come to terms with what is the root of her eating, and when she and only she decides it is time to change will she be able to do so.
1052295
She needs to suggest that they work out together and start eating healthier.\nShe can say that she's been letting herself go and that she would like him to do some of the working out and eating healthier with her to keep her motivated.
847372
Change what types of food are available for this person. If the eating is uncontrollable, then have good foods around. If the junk food is not available, then they will have no choice but to eat the healthier foods. But, make them easily accessible.  \n\nHave the carrot sticks already cut up. Let them eat pretzels instead of Fritos or Cheetos. Instead of soda, have tons of cold  water bottles in the fridge. Yes, they will complain but hey...if you don't bring the junk food around, they can't eat it!
585516
Seek professional help. First you need to tell her that she is pretty rude for thinking that you won't tell anyone that she is hurting her bestfriend, (herself). And if your friend is really you. Tell an adult at school or your parents, or a doctor. either way, this is not healthy behaviour and it is disgusting.
173987
I am sure that it is important to you that your friend has been able to trust you, so you probably do not want to share her secret and betray that trust.  But anorexia is a very dangerous thing and she will need help that you are not qualified to give her and it is imperative that she receive treatment.  I do not know the extent of her condition, so it could be that she has not suffered significant physical damage yet (hopefully this is the case!).  But even so, she will need treatment, even if it is only counseling, to help her break the cycle and learn how to control her disease.  Try encouraging her to tell a parent, a family member or a doctor.  You could offer to go with her if that would help her feel more secure and if you feel able to help support her as a friend.  If she continues to refuse, however, eventually you must tell someone who can intercede.  Betraying her trust is not nearly as bad as allowing her to destroy her body and possibly kill herself.  You could try contacting the eating disorders hotline at 800-227-4785 for additional advice and support.  Good luck...
796675
It sounds like your friend has an eating disorder. You can't fix her by yourself no matter how much you care. If she is doing horrible things like forcing herself to throw up after she eats and taking laxatives to make herself go to the bathroom a lot, this is very very serious. Even though she might get mad at you, talk to her mother. It is better for your friend to get mad at you than to die from this disorder or do permanent damage to her body. \n\nDo not tell her, "Stop this or I will tell your mom." She will just hide what she is doing a little better. This is a sickness that needs a professional to treat. She really can't control what she is doing and that is why she needs help. Talk to her mom privately as soon as you can.\n\nYou are a kind and caring friend. Do the right thing.
299391
She probably is fat.  Tell her to lose weight.
558625
Well, first of all I would suggest medical help for her.  This is not something you can enforce by yourself.  She needs proper psychological help if she has an eating disorder, so if she is not receiving help for that, I would suggest trying to convince her of that first.\n\nAfter that, it is up to you as her friend to provide lots of positive encouragement, and make sure that everyone else who knows and loves her does the same.
1179407
First you have to honestly ask yourself whether the changes you want are out of love for her, or out of love for yourself?  If they are out of love for her, then you'll definitely have to be an active supportive participant in this.  Exercise WITH her.  (Don't wear her out all at once; she'll be intimidated.)  Cook WITH her... try some low-fat cookbooks with lots of veggies and minimal carbs and meat.  Good-tasting food that doesn't make you look like a blueberry muffin IS possible, but it takes work.\n\nAlso, be sure you let her know that you love her and you're concerned for her well-being.  If she cannot accept that, there's not much you can do.  But if she can, you could really go somewhere with it.  One of my friends was very overweight... ate way too much and was extremely lazy.  Well, she is still overweight.  BUT she is losing some of it and eating more healthy and getting into shape.  And it's all thanks to the good influence of her boyfriend.  Now I don't think he's such a good influence in some other areas; but about that he's good.\n\nAnd finally... wear her out with some good sex.  hehe.  ;)  J/k... sort of.
752747
If she's your "BFF" you NEED to tell someone so she can get some help.  She may be mad at first, but I think she'll come to understand that as a friend you are almost obligated to help her.  In fact, the fact that she told you that she is anorexic could be a cry for help, in her own little way, without actually asking for it.  \n\nThe fact of the matter is that anorexia is a BIG problem...a life threatening one, at that.  You may save her life.  Would you be able to live with yourself if something awful happened, knowing that you could have potentially saved her life if only you told someone...\n\nIf you love her, tell someone...she'll thank you one day...
1008693
Talk to her tell your worried about her and that she really needs to stop what ever shes doing because if shes bulimic and or anorexic she could end up dieing or in allot of trouble such as not being able to have kids. Her teeth will look disgusting if she making her self perg and if shes not eating she can get very sick and not even be able to move if she keeps it up. She needs nutrients in her body and she needs help QUICK you should tell her everything that can happen and you should tell her mom your Aunt your mom anyone to  get her help if shes between the age 13-15 tell her to read the book Perfect by, Natasha Friend because i just got over my eating disorder because i read that book. Its a really good and help full book.\n- Good luck and remeber tell someone of the family and talk to he about everything\nHope the sources i gave you help i got them by going to google and typing in eating disorder
48313
So she's not perfect....are you? If you want her to do something about her weight and you don't want to upset her there is only one way that I know of to do it. You don't tell her to lose weight. You could invite her to work out with you. Take walks together, go to the gym, or whatever works. If you have trouble getting her to do that then you should just simply say that healthy people should live longer lifes and you want to make sure that you are both around. Just make sure that you do the work too.
611969
Tell her to stop eating so fast or talking too much while eating. It is caused by air going down her esophagus.
272882
My best advice for you is to make sure you dont keep telling her everything shes doing wrong, the first thing you want to do is tell her look you cant do this and everything along those lines, right now she needs to be able to have someone to talk to about why shes doing what shes doing, More then likely there is a root to the problem, shes not as far as she wanted to be at this point in her life, or something, see if she will open up to you about why she feels the need to go out and party like this, more then likely shes tring to "numb" out something, You dont want her to think that your not on her side anymore, and if you tell her everything shes doing wrong she might take it that your tring to rule her life and then she will shut you out, after you see what the root of the problem is you can talk to her about it, tell her that what shes doing is going to make her loose everything she has and your commited to her as a friend to help her out of this hole shes found herself in, and that you care about her health and you dont want to watch her slowly disinagrate her health and you want to help her get past this hard part in her life and get her to trust your recommendations on what you think she needs to do, then once she says she trusts you to guide her out of this problem, (keep in mind you have to get her to see she has a problem, spoon feed it to her so she sees it on her own she has a problem, like wow you used to be able to keep all this going with out a problem, it looks like your struggling, she will know why and see why) THen keep reminding her that you will do what ever she needs, that you will hold her hand in a local AA class, or you will go to a rehab place with her, what ever it takes :)
495162
serious talk, that is! i know it's hard but sometimes we have to take matters as they should...you have tried so many things to help her and i think it's about time to be honest & straightforward..\n\ntell her that you love her and you are concerned about her health...putting on so much weight can be tough on health...tell her that you want to stay with her for as long as you can, but how will it happen if she'll get sick by being overweight...big doesn't mean healthy and she knows that..ask her why is she behaving like this, there must be something bothering her...if none, be firm but reasonable..\n\ntell her that you want her old self back and you love her taking care of herself too...challenge her, tell her it would be nice if she'll look like your girlfriend and not a mother and sloppy...just be thoughtful when you suggest...\n\nyou can do it..
834557
Well just let her know  in a nice way with out hurting her feelings weight  gain is a touchy subject to us females and by the way if you really love her you would try to help her out rather than be judgmental
795992
give your friend the support a good friend would tell her that it is important to stay healthy and not worry if shethinksshe is fat she sounds like she is just right or a little to thin she should be proud that she doesnt have much bigger issues such as health etc.