How you will help a young person to lose the fear to talk to strangers?
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Use a progression:\nTalk with A Friend.\nTalk in a Group of Friends.\nTalk in a group of friends with a Stranger present.\nTalk in a mixed group of friends and Strangers.\nTalk with Stranger.
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You would not be nervous talking to any of these people individually, right?  You know your material, right?  \n\nThink of this presenation as a way of killing 2 birds with one stone, so to speak.  Just have the same conversation with the group that you would have with the individual and you will come off looking very relaxed and in control of the situation - and you only have to say it once instead of over and over again.  \n\nThis type of thinking takes this task out of the "Big deal" category and puts it in the "regular Everyday" category.  Truly, the only real way to overcome this type of nervousness is to simply do it a lot, until it does become mundane.\n\nAnd remember - we very often get what we expect in this life, so expect this to be easy and great!
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Here is a little story that might help you. It has helped me many times.\n\nWhen I was younger I would notice that my Grandmother always had people coming up to her saying hi and so on.\nI asked my great aunts after my grandmother  died why this was. They told me that everytime she went to a party and notice people that looked uncomfortable she would walk up to them and start talking to them and finding info about them. By the time she got done talking to them they were no longer uncomfortable.\n\nKeep Smiling if that happenes again try this if you still feel uncomfortable make a polite excuse and leave. If you are invited back to a party at that persons home I do not think I would attend.
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Ask why they scared, they may just be shy
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some kids are just shy.  my daughter is like that when she is around people she has met before.  she has to be around them about 10 times before she gets comfortable.  i just encourage her to speak clearly, look at people in the eye when she speaks to them and make sure she talks insteak of just nodding.
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The only way to get rid of fear is to face it. Make up your mind to face them.BE BRAVE!!!!
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I have the same problem, but I try to limit talking to anyone online though because thats just me. I know a lot of people tell me once you get out of high school you "break out of that shell". \n\nI am going to get a job which requires customer service and social skills though, I think if I know I have to, I'll be able to build the skill of talking a lot.\n\nIf you mumble, or stutter, or stumble on the words when you talk to people just think before you say something because I know when I try to say something really fast and then I forget I always stumble on the words lol.\n\nHope this helps :)
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I feel your pain--I was so shy when I was your age I would panic if someone talked to me, or a friend called me on the phone.  It was terrible.\n\nI am not sure by your question if you are wanting to overcome your shyness, but what I did was started reading books (back then we didnt have the internet) on public speaking, making friends, what to say in social settings, how to make small talk, etc.  I also read up on self esteem building, and many years later I feel comfortable in public settings, and also have done several public speaking engagements in my field.\n\nI am not saying you should NOT be shy or change how you are.  If you are comfortable with who you are, and your friends are not, then find friends who respect you for who you are.  I chose to overcome my shyness because it really was limiting my life.\n\nGood luck!  You have a great life ahead of you!
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There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!
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I think talking first to people he/she can trust and who will make her/him feel comfortable, or talking about easy things first. \nMay be first through jokes. \nTwo glasses of wine...\nIt could have a relation with confidence (either towards others , either toward oneself), so to build confidence?\nReally difficult to answer.\nVery interesting question !
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try talking to them like you would to children that don't listen......be firm and strong  ... it works for me i get all there attion ....good luck! take care!
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i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.
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Speak whenever you have the possibility to do so. Don't think a lot about grammar (I suppose you are non native speaker of English), say whatever comes to your mind.  I had the same problem, but with time I developed some self-confidence.Keep in mind that you are not the only one who has a fear of speaking, and it is something natural that must be done.Good luck!
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You have to be honest and calm to talk to your friend, you are really nice to your friend, I'm sure your friend will understand. Friends should understand each other, that's what friends are for!!!!! If you are good to your friend, I'm sure that you can overcome your fear easily.
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You can always give a friendly hello and smile. That should tell them something. If they're shy, think of a non threatening question and start up a conversation. No one ever said who should start the talking. At least not nowadays.
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It sound like you have a fear of public speaking, even in small groups.  It is very common and nothing to be worried about.  If you would like to work on it, force yourself to start up conversations with strangers you come into contact with.  If you want to get real bold and see real improvement, check into taking a public speaking class or acting class.  Even if you feel like your embarressed all the time in those classes, they will give you the practice you need to overcome your fear.  Most public speakers will tell you that they have a little fear all the time even if they seem totally confident on the outside.
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Although it is important to be nice to everyone, you need not try to be friends to just any one. Rememember, it is better to have one or two close friends that share your values than to have many friends that might want to use or exploit you. \n\nDevelope your hobbies and interest that will bring you into contact with others that share your values.  If you are the new person in a school, church, neighborhood club,etc  and you feel left out of the group, seek out another new person or others that do not seem to have friends and start your own click. Always choose your friends rather than having people choose you.  Be happy doing things alone until you do develop friendships. You don't need friends to go out to eat, go to a movie and such.\n\nAs far as being courage to be friendly, "fake it 'till it comes."  Tell your self everyday, "I am a wonderful person. I can be friendly. I may not be perfect, but no one is. Others may reject my friendship, but it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with me."   Also, make a list of the things you are fearful of doing such as smileing, saying hi, inviting someone for lunch etc.  Start by doing the least fearful on your list. Do it while afraid until you are no longer fearful.  Than move on to the next item. Do that until you gain confidence. In other words, take baby steps.  \n\nIf you continue to have trouble making friend, you might want to seek treatment for social phobia.