In the relationship, if your partner promises many things, but not willing to do. What do you do?
156667
I would tell my partner I didn't force the promise, but once it is freely given, I expect it to be kept, and will be offended otherwise.\nIf however you forced him to an agreement, he will feel resentful about the coercion and refuse to do it, actively or passively. The key is always convince him to agree with your position freely, to give him some sense of free will/choice. If you fail in that, not only the promises would be broken, the whole relationship might be.\nAnd if you succeed, you will have things done, and convince him in the process it was as much his idea as yours. Then you both ought to be happy with your relationship.
1043991
Don't let it mess up the relationship. He is with you.  If you trust that he wont stray, let it go.  But if you don't trust him you should let the relationship go.
1022620
If your partner pushes you past your comfort zone, then the relationship is one sided.  The other person is acting selfishly and it's not true love. You can never undo something once you've gone so far.  The next time you are with that person, they will continue to push the limits.  \n\nAs you mature, you will become stronger and wiser.  Set your boundaries and live by your rules.  You will gain respect with this.
880889
I can promise you that this relationship is going to end badly.  You are only going to get more and more resentful of each other.  The more he wants it, the less you want it, and then it spirals, and then he'll cheat.  Sorry.
1014158
tell your boyfriend that ultimatums don't make anyone happy, least of all the person who makes them.
757480
He wants to keep his options open... not be tied down. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him its all or nothing. Dont let him run the relationship.... it is supposed to be 50/50. Tell him that you need to be commited to him. If he really cares about you he will comply!
550664
It's a 50/50 situation. Sometimes I make decisions, sometimes my boyfriend and soulmate Tony does. But we always help each other when we're in the process. We talk things over and come to a conclusion. Otherwise, we will always think about each other and the consequences and such before making a decision if the other isn't there to discuss the decision with. We love each other so we compromise or come to a conclusion.
410736
if you want your marriage to work you are going tohave to draw a line under it. i know its easier said than done. try and think of the good things in the relationship whenever you feel yourself distrusting him, thats what i did.
622824
show it to him on paper. maybe he just doesn't want to commit
321519
First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.
1162879
GIVE IT TIME... however, if he's not ready and you are, it may be time for you to re-evaluate your relationship.
524345
trying to be controlling...\ndon't let him...\nmy boyfriend tried that too.....but he didn't get his way...
15133
Don't try to force anything. If it's meant to be it won't be so hard.  Go with the flow of the relationship and listen to her when she says no. Lots of us men don't realize that when a woman says no she means it. Don't be posessive, be kind to her and see how it goes.
204062
Love and Respect go hand and hand. Wouldn't you feel disrespected if you found that your partner lied to you?
410828
I go with the attitude . . . if you have to compromise . . . then you are with the wrong person.
799366
Just tell him how much it bothers you that he isn't keeping up on his promises, and he needs to start calling you when he says he will.  Let him know you are serious about it.  If he still keeps not doing what he says he will, then yeah you should dump him.
209088
You want more out of this relationship than he does and he's already getting from you want he wants. Do you understand?