an Ex has just contacted me after 4 years of splitting up.?
148394
Shove it into her face how successful you are.
881408
the slight possibility and the only now and again says something....he may want to get back with her, so just leave him to it...don't mean to sound bad when i say this but i think it's time to just move on...he has stated that he wants to be just mates with you...so respect him for being honest...you'll find someone else, but waiting around for him is a waste of time...he still has it for his ex
257813
There is a reason why you split, just cause he is going away is not a reason to get back together.  The details you are giving are slim,  how long were you together, was there ever any talk of marriage, how old are the 2 of you.\n\nI would say, stay in touch, but move foward with your life not backwards...
714531
If you just recetly broke up, then just leave her alone for a while.  Let her get on with her life while you get on with yours.  You could send her a Christmas card but; don't write anything like, "I miss you", just a simple holiday wish is plenty.  If your reasons for wanting to keep in touch with her is to stalk her or possible hopes of getting back together in the future, let her alone.  Chalk it up to one lost and move on.
441424
Wow, that person with the whole exes are like poison has some serious issues.  Trust me, I've never had an experiance like that in my life, so I think he's just a little bit out there.  Re-infected every time you talk to an ex?  WTF?  Can we say "can't move on"?\n\nI've been able to remain friends with many of my exes, but I think part of that is because most of my break ups were mutual.  I think that if you got dumped by her, it might be harder.\n\nI would suggest writing her a letter or email with whatever you want to say.  Tell her that you were really hurt when you broke up, and you just wanted to say that you've made your way through it and would like to see if a friendship between you would be possible.  Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't respond, then don't push the issue further.  If she gives you a call or send you an email back, have coffee together and talk about what has been going on in your life since the break up.\n\nJust don't have coffee and re-hash the break up, I doubt your ex wants to do that and while it might make you think it will feel better, in reality it will probably just make both of you uncomfortable.  If you start feeling like a friendship is making you feel worse, then its not the right thing to be doing right now.\n\nWork on building a new friendship with an eye on the future, not on the past.
1250
Not necessarily. I bring up my ex sometimes to people and its not that I am not over her because I totally am, but its just that most of his experiences in relationships(good or bad) may have been with her and that is all he knows. I know this be the case with me. I know I am over my ex because we still keep in contact and when she calls me or I call her I have nothing to talk about. Just lots of awkward silence. Ask him and see what he says. Have a heart to heart.
281811
Maybe he is still friends with your ex.  Now that the big head is thinking again he may have some remorse.  He may have really just been trying to get his leg over as well.  If he doesn't call you, move on.  There are to many guys out there that would give you a bell after.  Go give one of them a try.  All the best.
401325
yes. Usually exes don't call if they are sure the relationship is over, if they don't have kids and the ex is calling that means its not clear to her that its over. If all else fails beat her ass.
662021
On the market at the moment,but i have a crazy ex who thinks we are still together!!
469639
Hell yeah!!!  SOunds like she wanted you and your ex to split so she can make her move.  Kick her to the curb girl.
959946
this is a tough one.  its hard to find your balance after a divorce.  do you think he wants you back or is he trying to maintain some kind of friendship?  i think you should just tell him.  if he severs contact with the kids then maybe thats not such a bad thing for them.  why should they have to deal with a sometimes dad who doesnt put them first?  if he is that immature then maybe they are better off.  it is hard to make decisions that may do harm on your kids especially when they are too young to truly understand.  my ex does the same thing.  i just limit the contact as much as possible.  also when he calls, you could just put one of the kids on the phone.  eventually he would get the point.  good luck.
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
517175
Be sure of your self dude , by the way she is your EX...\nor maybe she did not have a good connection at the time, it happens man , these new cell towers are not working right some times ;-)
644343
I would ask for a stronger defination of your relationship.\n\nFlip the tables back on her. How would she feel if you were still in contact with your ex?\n\nHer answer dictates your next step.
1083590
Nope.  You were broken up - which means you weren't together - which means that you were both technically single.  Maybe he/she was talking to a friend or relative - or maybe he/she was just lonely.  Phone calls on a phone bill don't mean anything - especially if you weren't together in the first place.
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
1145044
Don't call him! and it is a good think that you changed your phone number.\nAfter 5 years together he just takes off with no explanation?! I know it's very difficult for you and it's going to take sometime for you to get over it, but he is a jerk! If I were you, i won't talk to him even if he comes by and drops on his knees!!