my girlfriend had sex with 3 people before me and i dont feel special. what must i do?
144706
how many did you have sex with before her? if you had it why shouldn't she?
1091878
Dump her before u get std. Then u will have something to worry about.
174725
never done that, but i would feel guilty too. Sex is supposed to be between one man and one woman (in the context of marriage, by my belief) not a couple of each. She feels guilty because she doesnt feel right about what you did.
271183
As much as I would love to have a 3some, it's very damaging to your relationship. So I suggest that if you really care about her, don't even bring it up.
435166
You sound like a girl with a lot of love to give. I suggest you give it to someone who deserves you! If you think being with someone when you're not around will make him happy, then he doesn't love you enough, sweetheart. \n\nYou need to take care of yourself and don't let him make you feel like you're not enough woman to make him happy!\nAnd if you decide to let him date another girl, I hope it's on equal grounds where you can have someone else, too.
896432
First get laid by someone else.......you are way too serious over someone you have never met . Things are totally different when you get first hand experience. Just don't put yourself so far out there, when there's a possibility that you could be disappointed.
921605
Look....you have to decide, were you with her because you thought she was a virgin?  I am pretty positive that there was much more to her than that.  So, her not being a virgin should not make a difference.  Women are funny when it comes to relationships....they almost sort of WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN after each relationship.  Not just with the words they say, but they actually do it mentally.  Men like the notches on their belts to show off and brag about, but women literally like to FORGET it ever happened, especially if it was not a good relationship.  So, maybe in her mind she had a bad experience, and did not want it to count.  That does not make her a bad person, because if you look at it, that could be a plus for you.  At least you know it is her past, it is over, and she does not even want to think of it.  Maybe if after you were together longer, she would have come out and told you, you never gave her that chance, you went snooping in places you should not have been.  Maybe it was just internet talk also, you do not know that she did not say all of that online, and then chicken out when it came down to it.  Talk to her.  You want honesty and trust, then trust her an talk to her, and own up to the fact that you snooped through her private stuff.  You BOTH need to be honest to each other.
766658
It isn't significant how many times they had sex, neither is his size... this is information that will not help you in any manner. What is important is that you don't believe her, that you obviously don't trust her. She sought out an emotional release that she couldn't get from anyone else, that she was unable to ask of you. If you want to forgive her, seek counseling, individually and together, and don't be impatient, it took time for it to graduate to the point you are now, it will take time to heal.
16086
You did the right thing... don't worry bout it ... u'll find someone else!! i'm sure another girl would appreciate u better!!
211974
I am in the same position, but (without wanting to get into a competition) probably far more into the many side of things.\n\nBasically you don't need to tell them. You don't make out that you're a virgin, but much as it's none of a guy's business how many guys his girl has been with beforehand, it's not a girl's place to ask you.\n\nJust make sure she knows that you have seen girls before her but they are no longer important and that she's the only important thing. Another thing to prove that the others aren't important is that they are exes. If they were so great they'd still be around...\n\nTough one, but you're likely to see a lot of reaction to this one from pre-teens. They have no experience in such matters so their opinion should be disregarded.
840618
you deserve everything you get.  You should have never slept with her.  Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.....
81365
talk to your girlfriend about this new girl and ask her what you should do. I know that this sounds crazy, but it pays off. then really question your self. Y do you like these people? is the reason you like this other girl better than your gf that you never see her or is it because you don't have chemistry? Don't just blindly make a decision. That doesn't help.
112807
she needs to ease off the haterade becuase she's hating on you for what ever reason.  Some you doing that she wish she can do or have.  And if this guys are really your boyfriends they would respect you for you and not sleep with a hoe.. YES a hater hoe.. You need to shake them all off because they are nothing to you if they are doing this.  Don't try to be friends with her either because that's not going to work for her to leave you alone.  You trying having 3 best friends sleep with your boyfriends.  I just throw the trash out with them all and start over.  Its hard but you have to because if not your going to be hurt.  Don't play her at her on game becuase god knows what she might have for sleeping around. your better then that and she knows it and that's why she's hating.. one thing you don't want to do is show her that your all booty hurt over this again because that's what she wants and your showning her that she won. Good luck!!!
869097
If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
820650
i feel you man--but if shes making you happy than make her happy aswell. it might be nasty but do it for once in a while. this is what i did, make a deal with her, for every 5 times she gives you head, you eat her out
463447
learn fro this experience\n\nBe true to your self\n\n\nBrake it off with your boyfriend. \nStart anew Everyone deserves to be treated with honesty, you have broken respect  for your relationship.
804507
just think differently and try to relax, he has been with other girls as well, so don't worry.\n\n:> peace\n.