how do u decide to have sex or not to have sex if u love a guy so much?
144932
If you're asking this question then you definitley are NOT ready to have sex with him. When you are ready you will feel it in your heart and you won't think twice or have to ask someone's opinion, so probably after your married would be best.
1092215
I'm not sure but I personally would not have sex with someone I didn't love. I know others don't have a problem but for me love is having someone you can't imagine yourself without. Someone you want to grow old with and have babies with and be with in sickness and health , rich or poor. Sex is important but not important enough for me to just do it with anyone. EW!
947330
Hello:\n\nI've been with guys who have pressured me in the past, and trust me - it's really hard to say no. But ultimately that is what you have to do. If you are not comfortable with something, that is your decision. And if your guy loves you, than he has to respect you, and that means he will wait for you. \n\nBe strong and stand up for yourself. When I am in a situation where things start to happen, there are a lot of signs and ways that I can stop something if I wanted to. The first would be being in that situation in the first place. It is possible to hang out with your guy without being in a sexual situation. Maybe you need to plan group events, I mean he's not going to try to get you in the sack when you are hanging out with 5 of your friends. \n\nI hope this helps, and good luck!
411307
I say DONT HAVE SEX  with him and is you two back together or what. And don't rush yourself (never let a boy rush u into what u don't want to do) And u will be having peddity sex if u do cuz u is only doin it because u scared he might leave u. But first find out what he wants and tell him tha truth on how u feel about having sex. Don't let anyone tell u that if u don't have sex with them then they will break up with you. Remember your body is not a playground and its not for everybody.
174272
you should have sex when you know you are ready and you know that you will not reget it in the future! If you do feel right having sex or you are jus doin it cuz every1 else is you should not do it\nGotta love me :\nNina
837797
Love and Sex are totally different entity.\n\nLove is something which will last forever. Its a feeling. Related to heart. A dedicated, pleasant experience. There will be sometimes in Love relationship you will get lot of pain. But still you will hang on, because you love.\n\nSex is an action. Its a pleasure, and for Fun. Its what you think. Related to mind. A human body is programmed to have SEX. The purpose of a Man & Woman, and the whole human generation depends on this ecstatic, pleasure activity between two people. \n\nWhen you are denied of sex, you will not feel that bad. You can masturbate and sleep well.According to me,  the most sexiest organ in a human body is MIND. But when you are denied of love, you don't get sleep. \n\nSo Love is more powerful, and precious than SEX. You might get a chance to have intercourse with many, but if you didn't gain even a single person to truly love you, any case, then there is no point in Living.
290863
I think that if you think you really like him, then you should spend time together to see if the feelings are real and not just infatuation. Don't do anything stupid like have sex with him. A boy that really likes you for you will not pressure you into ever having sex. Make sure you never give away your self respect, and you will never have regrets .
1066876
If you really don't want to cheat on him, you will not. I don't believe sex desire is stronger than real love. Besides, that is what makes us different from the animals, we can think and decide, we can hold our sexual desires. \nNow, there's always a way to enjoy sex all by yourself, just use your imagination!
177899
Its mean you don't love him you just want to have sex with him and nothing else. ok you better leave him and choose an other healthy person as a boy friend for you who can satisfy you sexuly and you have a orgasm.
1008204
With sex comes great responsibility, and if your not ready to handle the consequences of what sexual  contact creates physically as well as emotionally....then waiting until you have a committed partner vow to continue life with, may it be good or bad or in sickness and health...is the smartest decision you could have ever made.
929735
ok you if you don't love the guy in a sexal way do you think you just love him as a friend cuz i think about this dude all the time but i know i love him as a friend you have to find out rather you love him as a friend or as a lover and if you choose lover tell him
422100
Well, if your looking for a guy for more than sex than don't give him any until you get to know him.  You'll see his intentions if you hold out for a while. Then when you think this man is true to you, then you may want to proceed to another level.  \n\nAs women, we usually have good insticts about these things so if it feels like a guy just wants to use you for sex...DON"T DO IT!!!  YOU HAVE A SAY IN IT TOO!!!  \n\nDon't use sex as a tool to keep a man....if he want's to be w/ you he will stick around.
52124
If you don't want to, then don't. you have as much say in it as he does. There is no "magic age" when you should have sex.
330412
another way for him to express his love is to respect u enough to wait until ur married to have sex.\n\nif he's not willing to wait, then he is only interested in sex and ur better off without him, even if u think u cant survive without him.\n\nu have to ask him is he's willing to wait for u bcos that's the decision u have made. if he;s not willing then u have to move on. there;s no other way around it.\n\ndont get forced into anything u dont want. dont sleep with him just to keep him, bcos if sex is all he wanted he will leave after he gets it.
684282
YEAH CUZ TO A GUY SEX IS SEX AND THEY LIKE IT NO MATTER WHAT BUT TO A GUY IN LOVE SEX IS WAY MORE PASSIONATE AND HE SHOULD VALUE THAT A LITTLE MORE AND YOU REALLY NEED NOT WORRY
567891
if ur not ready then dont do it! coz u should be aware of the cosequences that would happen if ever you will get involved into sex and if he loves you then he will respect ur decision and wait for the right time..
985556
Tell him you love him, but don't want to have sex with him every single solitary day.  tell him if you are nothing more than sex to him then you'll just be moving on the a better man that knows how to treat you like you are more than a piece a of tail\n\n\nsorry to be so blunt and mean but I am dealing with a similar issue.