when your involved wit a man wit kids should you trust him?
151017
it all depends how much time he spends with the kids an dhow much time he spends with HER...
322805
If you don't trust him, you need to ask yourself if you should be in this relationship.  My husband has lazy moments too but it would never cross my mind for a second that he'd cheat on me.
234488
Then dont date a man with children!\nKathy
516831
Trust is a big component in a healthy, long lasting relationship.  You have to use your good judgement and from what you know about him now, evaulate if he would be capable of playing you or have cheating tendencies.  Nobody wants to be hurt, but let him know how important it is to you for him to be honest and trustworthy.
293774
I don't believe it is hard to trust men in general. You probaly have experience with untrustworthy men. Don't let your judgment of a few men include all men.
517489
I think that you should just relax and do you thing,,and sooner or later you will have something he will ask you about and then he will have to wonder just like you did. trust can be tricky some times
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
853275
No. It's not that he might be unworthy of trust, but sometimes guys do a turnaround after the baby is born. His priorities might change a lot once he has a kid. Hopefully he will jump in and help raise it, and be apart of its life. In that case, his feelings for his child's mother may change. If not, are you going to be supportive of his new commitment? \n\nNow, what if he doesn't want anything to do with the kid? What will you think of him then? Do you really want to be with someone like that? \n\nI suggest you keep it cool until the baby is born. He has got a lot going on right now, and things might change dramatically in the near future. Protect yourself, and be prepared to share him with another woman's kid.
591393
Is this type of behavior desirable in your future husband, the father of your children? You already know the answer by your question. So trust yourself and do what you need to do.
57503
Focus on improving your own life. Avoid relying on him at all, and don't offer him anything. If you're staying together "for the kids", realize that they will be growing up around a negative influence anyway. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, and cheating on him will only make you as low as he is. If he was not being his typical self when it happened, he will confess and apologize and won't do it again. But don't give him too many chances!
841299
Well if hes nice and you can trust him and hes not too old for you then you should
700117
Run Run Run.  You should not be with a man who you are afraid of.  What do you want to show your children, is this the kind of relationship you want for them?  If he is accusing you of cheating it is probably him that is doing it.  Good luck
31910
Wheneva u have a responsible man around...
732323
Most guys think that they'll have to take on the responsibility of taking care of you and your kids and it scares them. They dont want that. Even though you tell them you dont want that from them, they dont hear it. There are men out there and wont care you have 2 kids, but they are few and far between. I myself have a son from a previous relationship and I have found a man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I never thought anyone would want me because of me having a son, but I have. He considers my son his, and I couldnt be more happier with him. All I can say is, dont look too hard. Eventually you'll find someone who will respect you and your kids. Dont just jump into a relationship. Be friends first. That way he can get to know you and your kids. Best of luck to ya!
810097
Most kids my age, I'm 17, I wouldn't trust alone for a few hours let alone an entire night.  Kids are quite disgusting and I remember back to when we were 14 was when things stopped being so innocent with most kids.  Some of the nicest, smartest and most responsible kids I know are the ones I have recently found out are quite irresponsible with their dating habits.  I was a bit shocked and hurt to hear some of their escapades from them.  \n       But I am quite proud of the fact that I can be trusted and my parents do trust me.  I know that you could leave me and my boyfriend in the same situation and nothing would go on.  \n\nSo it comes down to trust and responsibility...\nIs he like every other kid?  or is he an exception?  \n\nWhat is their relationship like?  Are they quite physical or no?  Have they been together for a while?  Are they thinking of being together for a while (and 14 is a bit young to be seriously thinking that... so much changes in just a few more years)?  What do her parents think?  They should be involved in this decision as well.  What are the other couple like?  A responsible parent should be concerned about them as well.  \n\nWhy do they want this sleepover?  Will they be alone at this house?  (hopefully not... if so I don't think their motives are pure)  If it is parentless... why can't they have it at your house?  You can promise to leave them be and have the peace of mind of knowing nothing is going on.  If they refuse some supervision I would throw out the idea.  They have to be willing to compromise if this is something they want to do and there are no hidden motives.  Even if it won't be a sex party... will it be a drinking/drugs party?  Kids were drinking before they were having sex.  Will they have access to a liquor cabinet?  Talk to the other parents.  \n\nIf he is as responsible as you believe him to be then he should recognize how much he is asking from you.  If he gets too upset about not going then he isn't that responsible.  \n\nBest Luck!  Put thought into it.  If you are terribly concerned then don't allow him.  Offer an alternative if you're cool like that.  Maybe check for some all-night bowling alleys or laser tag?  That's what we like to do after school dances.
99083
You have a heart don't you? you will know. Secondly do you two get on good together is he understanding etc. And finally is he good with kids. You don't need to worry that he won't love you because of the extra You just have much more to give.
518150
NO you SHOULD NOT take them off.  \nWhy? \nIf you do get any "winks" you'll end up telling them anyways about your children...\nSo you may as well be upfront and honest at the beginning.  \nThis way you'll meet the men you want. You don't want to meet someone who doesn't want to have anything to do with children. Correct.\nGetting everything out in the open at the begining is the best thing for any relationship.\nGood luck in the hunt. \nRemember be true to yourself and your children.