My sister just told me she wants to leave the boyfriend that beats her I am going to help her but what do I do
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The best thing you can do is be supportive during those times when she is wanting out.  I would recomend trying to help her hook up with some of these special battered women assistence organizations.  They can help her get relocated so he can't find her and help her with financial assistence if she needs it also.  What ever you do don't give up on helping her out of this situation.
523565
When you return, and if he ever hints again at the possibility of being violent, get away from him as fast as you can. Then get a restraining order. He clearly has a violent streak. And if he can punch his sister in the mouth, then I would take him seriously if he says he'd kill you if you break up.\n\nDon't put your life in danger. No matter how much he says he loves you, he WILL hurt you eventually.
318551
baby gurl i don't know where 2 begin but i do know u need 2 convince her 2 leave him cauze if she don't it will get worse. i can understand how both of yall feel, i went wit dis boy who wazz real abusive towards me and all my gurls kept tryin 2 tell me 2 break up wit him but i kept denying tha way he wazz treatin me and it got even worse if it wasn't for my best friend i could be dead right now so i'm telling u don't give up on her keep talkin 2 her and giving her reasons why she should leave him i can understand how she feels but she can do betta den dat cauze no matter how much she loves him she can do betta all dat ain't worth it she should be giving her luv 2 someone who luvs her back and treats her right so please keep tryin and tell her she can do betta and she deserves betta and if u know dis boy PLEASE tell him dat kokoa butta said " Don't u know a womans worth?"
231755
I think you are the one who is not in love with your boyfriend.  You should leave him.  And no man has any right to beat anyone, but you make it worst staying with him after he has beaten you
1153353
this is dangerous, and i know u dont want to lose him, i feel bad for her too, but if u choose to help her i would do it cautiously if i were u, that is someone else's relationship, and u and ur man have ur own relationship, and u shouldnt do anything to put ur relationship in danger if u plan on marrying him, but it seems that him and his brother has been putting ur relationship in danger. He dont deserve her and his selfish stupidity has spilled into ur family(aunt). i love to help ppl in need and if she love him she has a gut feeling of what he's doing, you know- that woman's intuition that all of us females have- where the guys think theyre getting away with thier foolish acts but we know we just dont say anything cause we want to be sure(getting concrete details). that speaking highly of you to help someone you dont know, but just first think about whats more important to you- do it seem like ur relationship is on the marriage route or are yall just waiting for the first person to say their final goodbye. If u want to talk to her urself, ask her to go out with you shopping, yall could have girl talk. if you do it anonymously find her number or work number or where she work, leave her a message,HINT:if he's stupid enough to cheat he's dumb enough to get caught, u can find evidence somewhere so shell know ur not lieing\n\nDoes ur bf find what he's doing ok cause if so, 9 out of 10 u could be in the same boat as her.\n\nBut out of everything just said consider not telling her cause in due time shell find out, and u never know she might know already shes probably playing him for a fool too. Just consider EVERY thing.
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I am truly sorry for you and your sister, but sometimes the only thing that can be done is to wait for her to hit rock bottom, and ask or accept your help.  It may come soon or never, all you can do is be there for her, try to keep her fed, but do not give her money for drugs or a place to stay until you know she is clean.  I am also sorry to say but when you see her you need to make sure she is not holding any drugs, because if you get busted your life will become really crappy, real fast.  Good Luck, I know we never met, but I have strong shoulders so if you need to talk e-mail me, just click on the avatar and my e-mail is there.
81816
IF THE PERSON IN QUESTION IS CONTROLLING YOU IN SOME ASPECT'S, THEN YOU NEED TO LEAVE THAT PERSON BECAUSE THE PERSON'S GOING TO WIND UP HITTING YOUR OR POSSIBLY WORSE.\n\nIF YOU'RE STAYING JUST FOR THE KID'S, THEN GOTO  AN AGENCY THAT WILL HELP YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON WITH THE PROBLEM'S THAT YOU BOTH ARE HAVING DUE TO THIS NATURE!\n\nTRY TO GET THEM TO GOTO COUNSELLING, MAYBE, THAT'LL HELP FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GET BETTER AND BLSSOM.
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You know what must be done, if you have hard evidence confront him as well as your sister. Especially you are sister should be one that you should be more angry since she's blood related. Either that you could just forgive them and go on with your life, find a better guy.
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tell her to call Social Services wherever she lives or go to the nearest police station. They will direct her. You cannot help her---what if her abusive husband comes after you! This calls for professional help. But you are nice to want to help!
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just be there for her and make sure she knows she is not alone she needs to see good in herself and a good friend usually can help i used to be that way untill i found a few really good friends that showed me i belong and i was important i fit in and from then on there was no stopping me of course i still see alot i don't like about myself but i see alot i do like now too your boyfriend should apriciate the fact that you want to help his sis besides if things get real serious in your relatinship it is good to be friends with his family just talk to your boyfriend and don't blow him off but he should understand somtimes a girls night out is what is needed be honest and open all of this could bring you closer together
477906
Okay, forget what you should do this weekend. Wondering whether or not you should hang out with your girls isn't what you should be worried about. If your boyfriend is violent then you need to get out of that relationship. There is no excuse for a man to lay a hand on you. Tell someone you trust what's happening. Break up with this guy. Keep someone around you at all times in case he tries something. If there's physical evidence then go to the police. Just get out before it's too late and you end up in a hospital or ditch somewhere.
1040210
Your sister needs a shrink...\n\nShe may be your sister but she acts like your girlfriend
643124
sounds like his a real jerk, she will get fed up. next time u see him out. call her let her see it for herself. than she will change her mind, i pray she gets out soon , this is not the man for her, he cheats alies an now is hitting her, do u no her family, call them . good luck to you an her, please be careful .
784129
You should do it because if not she might be abused and even killed. Then would you hate yourself? She might be very thankful that you told her about it before it gets to serious. Tell her soon
574353
i think it is a very bad idea to go after her bf because she is your sister and that could ruin your relationship with her. but say something like how are u 2 how do u feel about eachother see if u can somehow get thru to her that shes not treating him well
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First of all, i would say she is your sister first and only then your flatmate! If she and her boyfriend are earning more than you or if you are in a tight economic situation because of this issue, I would suggest that you discuss this with your sis explaining it to her.Otherwise, i would say let it be....she is your sister, she would NEVER imagine ripping her brother!!well, as for the part of the whole house being occupied by them, it is easy to sort that out!Do what you would do in your house as it is yours too.
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It is going to be the hardest thing you do right now. At least it is for me. im going through the exact same thing right now.You should let that person go,because you dont even want to try to be with someone who does not want you.