What should i do if  my 31 year old girlfriend is attached to her mother way too much?
146721
Talk to your gf.\n\nIt sounds as though her mother can't cope with the fact that she's got a grown-up daughter.  \n\nExplain to your gf that it's hurting you when you're constantly being ignored because her mother still wants to control her life.  Tell your gf how much it's hurting your relationship.  Be honest with her, and ask her to think about doing something about it.
415345
Well. that sometimes happen, but u need to talk her about the mom thing, she need to respect you that u need ur space, iis not everytime u want to be with her all the times. and she shd also know wat happen between the to of u shud stay between the two of u. ur mom aint the one also in the relationship. maybe shes obess with u. she just glad that she had u for very long and she just dont want to lose u. have faith u her. if the sex aint good try harder so u could satisfy u and urself. 2 years is long. talk it over with her. but if u are not happy in it u shud break it off, no matter how much it hurts her, she will have to stop crying.
587461
just slow the relationship down some. Cause your only going so fast to spate your mother
924951
If you don't believe that she is a threat to the well being of your children, perhaps its time to let the past go. I know that it's easier to say then it is to do, but little ones need both parents in their lives. Don't think of her as the person responsible for ruining your relationship, instead open yourself to the idea that it's one more person who will love your children. And come on in the end it is only the kids that matter.
1063647
there isn't anything wrong with you dating a woman old enough to be your mother. the problem only comes if you or she are doing it with an underlying motive. be careful.
904774
Believe it or not YOU ARE NOT your mothers keeper.  My mother went through alot of bad relationships.  It took a long time to understand IT WAS NOT MY PROBLEM.  You are old enough to be married so BE MARRIED.  You will grow old with your wife (hopefully, not all of life is guaranteed) Your mother will grow old with her choices.  You cannot change your mom or her choices
895945
Take her out for dinner. \n\nVisit her,  give her flowers and a cake. Tell her to give you a call if ever she needs help around the house (things that an old woman can't handle, emergencies etc). It's good that she has your phone number and you hers in case you need to look out for her or help her. Older women are prey to intruders and robbers. Always keep a look out for her safety. \n\nIf she doesn't have relatives over on special occasions such as Christmas, Thanksgiving etc, try to include her in yours at least once a year or once every other year.\n\nYes, you are a very thoughtful young man. Your parents are a success having a son like you and you are a great success for who you are. Bless you.
322541
Some Dude has a great idea - - move your mother if you can.  If not, definitely go stay with her at least until she gets adjusted to losing her sight.  Your boyfriend and daughter are young enough to learn to adjust - - your mother would have a harder time.  Also, you refer to her as "elderly".  She won't be around forever, and you can now really take the time to get to know her even better.  If your boyfriend really loves you, he will understand and be there for you when you get back.  If your daughter has a problem with it, just tell her to imagine that she and her new baby were you and your mother's ages, and what would she herself expect her daughter to do??  Good luck - I know it is a difficult situation for you.
402375
Mamma knows best, kinda thing.  Its hard for them to see us grow up and move away, it hurts them, while this is a joyous time for you guys, part of  your mom is realizing that your leaving the nest and she is sad.  While her controlling things annoys you, perhaps she sees this as a last chance sort of thing.  Humor her as much as you can, and try to be understand ing.  Sit down and let your mother know that although you are starting a new life with your soon to be husband (CONGRATS CONGRATS) she will ALWAYS be a apart of you and your life.  Tell her that no matter what you love her, and need her and want her in your life.  Because the real issue is the fact that your mom is hurting over what she considers "loosing her baby".  Your problem may be control, but her problem is far greater.  You obviously have a mom who loves you more than anything, so your off to a great start, just try to talk to her, reassure her that your not "leaving her" she is not loosing a daughter but GAINING a son!!  Best of luck to you, have a happy happy life.  God Bless your family and marriage!!
490304
how to you associate with this lady? if you have no obligation, then just avoid being around her, if that fails then speak with the mother, or do something about it yourself, it is your right and duty to protect your child, so maybe you can talk to the ten year old, it'll make her mother look stupid for not disciplining her own child
758717
Talk to her alone, and tell her how much you girlfriend means to you.  If you aren't willing to take a bullet for her or marry her once it gets to that point, then you should just quit right now.  I'm sorry if that may have sounded a bit harsh, but relationships aren't things to be played with.  I am only 16, but I have been trying to find that one person who is willing to stay with me for the long run, and not just for the few months.\n\nAnyways, just tell her how much her daughter means to you, and you would never want to hurt her in any way.  Tell her who you truly are, and your girlfriend's mother will truly appreciate how much courage and self-confidence it took for you to say all that to her.  Your girlfriend will also appreciate your care for her and how much you tried to make her mother accept you.\n\nIt might take a bit to build up all that confidence, but it will be VERY worth it in the end.  You now know what must be done, so good luck!
652914
Are they your children?  You need to sit her down and tell her what you are feeling!  If you love her and she loves you, then you can work on it. Most men just start yelling, and then we turn off to anything constructive. Tell her that you are lonely and you need more from her. Tell her what you want from her. Cheating would only cause more problems. If you are still unhappy, then make some major changes, but do it the right way. If the children are yours, you need to take that into consideration, and even if they aren't they will be greatly affected by your relationship with their mother. Children are very senitive to family problems. Talk to her about that too.  Good luck.
900209
She is already living the example that was given to her by her mother. You may not be able to disuade her from many bad decisions, they are after all, her choices. The very best you could do for this young lady is be a very caring and available adult. Trying to control her at this point will more than likely drive her away. Talk to her openly, but without judgement. Make your conversations thought provoking, encourage her to answer and solve her own issues with you.
389414
I've been going through that issue for like 5 years.  There's no easy answer.  The advice I would give you is to not back down from this woman, and to have your g/f speak to her mother about it.  Don't be rude to her unless she is rude first, however don't allow her to speak to you like you're nothing.  Just because she doesn't do it in front of your g/f, doesn't mean that your g/f should allow it to go on.  And if she doesn't believe you, then there is a problem in your relationship that needs to be fixed.
661867
Although I believe a child's place is with his mother, this woman doesn't deserve to have children. If I were you I would try to get full custody of the child. It is clear she will always use your son as a financial benefit for her not your son.Your son is a blessing for you, to bad for her if she can't see it. Get rid of that scumbag and devote yourself to give your child all the love that is obvious your wife can't give him.
1079612
Seems like you need to get away from your mother and boyfriend.\nI also think you should tell them that they are at the point of driving you insane.  If need be, get a boyfriend that will cause you less stress. Since you can't get a new mother, just limit your contact with her.
1017682
Although my boyfriend is grown, I had to watch him battle with his mother when he decided to get from under her and make life a better for himself. She did everything she could to undermind him. She belittled him, spread rumors, stole from him, brought drama to our home to break us up... You name it, she did it. Eventually he had to cut her completely from his life. It's been eight months since he last seen or spoken to her. What finally did was she lied and called the police on him, trying to get him arrested. I honestly think that something is wrong with her mentally.