This may seem dumb but I'll ask anyway: Why are there so may divorces, even in the Christian world?
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The only dumb question is the one you don't ask.  But you're absolutely right.  Divorce is a very sad but true fact of life in today's society.\n\nThe underlying reason is probably how materialistic and selfish this society has become.  It is no longer "I need to do my part and be patient", instead it's "What have you done for me lately".  \n\nPart of it maybe the fact that men and women communicate differently.  But that's always been the case throughout history.\n\nThe other part of it is permiscuity.  Statistically, 80% of divorces are because of infidelity.  The reason this has become so is directly attributable to pre-marital sex.  People will continue to deny this, but the statistics are very clear.\n\nThink about it from a psychological point of view.  Once the heart is broken (i.e. after one's first love), it can never be put back to it's original state.  The emotional scar may heal, but it will never disappear.  This creates mistrust between the sexes.  Ultimately, people get numbed to it and it becomes a predatory game.\n\nAlso, after leaving the first partner, one becomes very curious about all potential partners.  Whereas if intimacy is saved for the institution of marriage, then the partners learn how to fully satisfy each other without any temptation from outside the marriage.\n\nThe problem only gets worse with every generation.  Once a child grows up in an environment that does not hold marriage sacred, then they will end up taking it even a step further.\n\nWe all have to learn to "love the one you're with".  No one is perfect.  Instead of listening to that little voice in your head that nags you about how annoying your partner's habbits are, learn to love those habbits.  They are what makes your partner who they are.  \n\nWe have to learn to appreciate the good and the bad.  After all, it is for better or for worse.\n\nAnd God only knows best.
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BRAVO! BRAVO!!\nYou got it that right, for sure!  I have spent the last 15 years of my life in Bible study and enjoying that relationship with God, \nand studying prophecy, etc - even the Biblical languages --BUT:\nI do not attend any church. Why?  Because the churches are so steeped in the traditions of man, and church systems that they are biblically illiterate.  If they knew what the Word really says, and lived by it, they would not be judging anybody to hell.  They  make a divorced person sit in the back pew and treat them as a second-class christian, for example, when the Bible does not declare divorce a sin - adultery is the sin, not divorce.  And,\nupon repentance it is wiped away-gone- God doesn't even want it brought up again in prayer.  And, a person is free then to re-marry.  Salvation isn't free, it was bought with an awesome price,\nso that with repentance we could be free in Christ.  Sometimes I wonder where they do get some of their nonsense from - I can tell you - it certainly isn't from God.  Mans traditions make void the Word of God.  God states that a Christian who acts "holier than thou" is like a smoke in his nose - do you know what you do when smoke gets in your nose? You get rid of it.
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If they are both Biblical (not dogmatic and legalistic) Christians. I don't see why not.  Cultural differences can be a stumbling block no matter what.  Its up to them to decide whether its worth it.
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LOL! Are you serious; another di-vorce!\n\nI can tell you why...for the same reason all these other marriages keep busting at the seams; without the One who created the institution of marriage, as the head of the marriage IT WILL NOT LAST! It is rare if EVER that you hear Hollywood couples (or couples period nowadays) reference God in their marriages. Marriage is not all about money, sex, having cute cuddly babies, lavish weddings etc; it's a commitment! The commitment is not just to the "person", but 1st and foremost to God. The bible says not to make a promise to God that you can't keep, and all marriage is, is a promise to love, forsake, honor, etc.\n\nIf people had more relevant relationships with God and stopped looking for something they are never gone find hopping from pillar to post, all these short lived relationships would not exist.
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Very much so.\n\nThey where viewed as prity much worthless with out a husband, and only then to serve god and there husband.\n\nNuns and other religous women where the only acception and they where still veiwed as being of less worth than your avrange man.\n\nThankfully modern culture has kind got the church to turn away from that part of the bible and they don't try and act on it anymore.... heck many curch members don't even know it's the case.
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Adultery is the only scriptural reason for divorce with a view to remarriage for the innocent party, although there are several reasons given for seperation: abandonment, cruelty, etc... The Bible mentions unclean conduct; I think that would include flirting, seducing, sex (in all it's forms) and suggestive talk.
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There are many reasons why some couples prefer marriage as opposed to just living together, probably the main reason is the ingrained religious idea that living together without marriage is 'living in sin' and any off spring are considered to be 'bastards' (born out of wedlock)!\nThese outmoded religious ideas are now 'going out of the window' along with superstitious religious thoughts and beliefs. A couple living together have exactly the same legal rights as any married couple.\n'Bastard' no longer has the same stigma as it used to have(who really cares if your friends parents were married or not)!\nTimes are rapidly changing, and for the better as far as I am concerned.
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Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! I don't follow. How are you two brother and sister if you got married? No where in the law nor the bible nor any moral code I have ever heard of does it state that after a divorce is your ex considered you sibling. Is this some kind of redneck thing? If so you have much bigger problems then the sin of divorce.
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I'm not totally sure why people don't join Christianity. But- I think it might have something to do with it contradicting itself constantly. Another reason might be because people like Evangelicals preach messages of Christ's love-only to turn around and use the Bible to perpetuate xenophobic ideals.
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I dont care if they do. As a matter of fact, I think they should. Seperation of church and state, marriage, legally, is a state issue.\n\nHowever, a friend of mine, a Christian, does not support it, because it contributes to the moral decline of marriage. My point to her was "Doesnt the 50% HETEROSEXUAL divorce rate do that too?" She had no answer.
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They almost always end in divorce if they ever do get married/ bitter breakups.\nHate, unfaithfulness, etc...\n\nI have never seen one last more than a few years. It is quite sad really.  God's design is ALWAYS the best.
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I would have to say because people here are selfish and dont want to put the others above their own needs and desires... We live in a selfish and self gratifying society here in the states.... It is supposed to be til death do you part but today it is most of the time til one person is unhappy do we part..... Very sad indeed.... Also states like NV allow divorce for most any reason and that is very sad too.... You need to be committed when you get married and be ready to be married! I only feel divirce is necessary for 4 reasons... Adultery, Fornication , abandonment with no intent of ever coming back and if the unbelieving person wants out and also in cases of abuse to the point one person may be killed and also if the kids are being sexually abused and hurt by either partner and they are not willing to get help or change.... These are the only reasons i believe in divorcing.... This is mainly my opinion here but alot of it is Biblical as well...... I dont know all of the answers to this and i hope others can shed light on this as well!
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I can see why you feel this way. I am a Christian but the ones who say they are Christians are they using it as a name tag or are they really saved or not and living the walk instead of just talking the talk? People should not hide the fact that they are Christians or saved either for that matter. But we have to understand as Christians or saved people that sometimes the only Jesus people see is us! Are we doing and living the way Jesus would and treating others the way he would have .... WWJD What would Jesus do is something to ask ourselves before doing anything that may be questionable in God's eyes. Do we treat others the way Jesus would? Sorry I am rambling on here so i will get off my soap box now lol. Sorry! Real Christians should not have affairs either or ever. But we are not perfect either and can slip up and make mistakes and err but we need to get out of it and ask for forgiveness from God and move on and not live any longer that way ! God hates divorce and adultery!
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O.K., I love to tell this.\n\nWhen I became a Christian, I could no longer tolerate my unsaved, drinking, running around husband.\n\nI prayed, "God, please, give me a Christian husband instead."\n\nI knew God doesn't like divorce, so I didn't have any idea what He would do.\n\nYa ready?\n\nHe saved my husband. God is great all the time.
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Actually, you are not biblically an adulterous, the Bible does allow for divorce in certain circumstances.\n\nAnd even if you were .... would you go to church and wear a big t-shirt that professed you were an adulterer and demand that everyone accept it?  Would you ask that the church teach the adulterous "lifestyle" to it's children in order to promote more understanding between those who are not adulterous and those who are?\n\nWould you ask to be the leader of the church?\n\nThat's the problem the church has with homosexuals.  Most who sin do so as privately as possible and would never ask that others accept their sin as a part of their nature.  But homosexuals ask that very thing.  This is really the reason why they are not accepted into the church.\n\nBut be a Christian and gay?  Sure, everybody sins, Jesus loves 'em all anyway!
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i think there are a number of reasons why people are no longer getting married like they used to.  our society has changed drastically just in the past few decades.  divorce rates have rocketed and the number of people who believe in god, or practice christianity faithfully has decreased.  marriage isn't really taken seriously anymore.  another reason people are just dating is because women have become so independent in the past few decades.  no longer is our role to get married and be a stay at home mom raising six kids and cleaning house, etc.  many women are going to college to pursue degrees and aren't graduating until their mid to late 20's.  i know for myself, i am more focused on finishing school and enjoying time to myself before i decide i want to settle down and get married.  this is just a few of my own opinions on your question.  hope it helped a little.
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I agree with you 100%. It is very sad to think that these people are missing out on the privilages of marriage just because of some moral objection to their lifestyle. I was under the impression that there was a separation of church and state in this country.