Would you stay in a mediocre marriage for your child?
138972
Im a teenager, and let me tell you right now, do it, divorce be happy. The only thing that is hurting your daughter even more is watching you fight. Shell be much better off knowing you are happy with this other woman you are talking about, its like a relief, just so you wont fight with her mom anymore. Its better off seperating than living a lifetime of unhappiness for you and your daughter. You should definetly talk to your daughter about the whole situation, shes barely 14. Let her live comforatably even if that means you seperate from your wife, because together you obviously cant be.\n\nI hope I made sense, I know im only 15 and youre wondering what i am thinking telling you to divorce your wife, but my parents are unhappy sometimes and I think they stay together because of their children, but I dont want them to be unhappy because of us. Theyre people too.
461678
If you are staying in a relationship for your children, you are making a big mistake! I did the same thing and have regretted it since! When I left my ex-husband, it took awhile, but eventually my children were much happier. He can still be a part of their lives. Make yourself happy and your children will be happy!\nHave you ever heard the saying, "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" It is very true!
1101112
If I had to do it over again I would NOT marry my husband again.  We are miserable but have 3 children to consider so we tolerate each other.
624272
I used to in my first marriage because it was so bad but not in this marriage! It depends on the person and if they are happy in their mariage or not....
942522
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
354995
I would definitely consider it.I have no interest in having what is not mine,nor do I have an interest in losing all I have acquired should a marriage fail.\n\nThe only thing I would insist on is that it be spelled out what if any changes will be made should children become part of the picture,as I believe that changes things and it should be made clear in an agreement as well.\n\nWe all want marriages to last or at least that is what we all SHOULD want,but reality is that lots of marriages don't last and it should not result in losing everything you worked your whole life for on top of the heartbreak.
449349
As long as it isn't putting your child in a bad place, e.g. bad schools, worse chance at life, I don't see why not.  Why not get married first?  Will your parents let you back if you decide it isn't right?
340887
If you stay home and raise your family then they will turn out better than kids that have working parents that do not spend time with there kids that much. Plus with each parent working it puts stress on the marriage which is why marriage failures have increased within the last 50 years.
849163
I have 2 kids and would love more.Unfortunately my partner can't have kids.I have accepted it.We would have liked our own child,but he treats mine as his own.
612526
No - I like me the way I am.  And that would be five less years I got to spend with my kids.  Not worth it.
1076974
That situation wouldn't make me feel any different than I do now. I have a good job and I am able to take care of my kids myself. If I don't get married, it won't be the end of my world.  People can be too dependent on each other.
860040
Yes, I DID stay unhappily married , for the kids' sake. I did it for a long time, but I could not stand the thought of not being there for them.Their Mother was not the most stable person, so it was necessary for me to be there for them until they got older, and could take care of themselves. I don't regret doing it for my kids, but I sometimes hate my best days are behind me now. If I had it to do over however, I would do it again....for them!
97577
Well, I don't think marriage is necessary. Some people stay partners and committed with our marriage. I think in the sense that it will confuse your children that it might be benificial if you got married. I think it would be tough to explain a commited relationship to kids, when you are not married. \n\nIt will also help in terms of medical coverage, and any medical problems that could arise should some one need power of attorney in case a decision needs to be made on life support.
1156498
Happened to me. We have been married now for almost 4 yrs and we have 2 kids.
891070
Sounds very selfish. Someone who would do that doesnt care about providing the optimal home enviorment for the child. There is obvisouly no commitment between the parents. My question is What is the reasoning for not getting married? So if things don't work out one of them can walk away? What kind of lessons are you teaching that child. Can one person raise a child? Yes, Would two people be better? Yes, Would two people who are in a legaly binding commitment be better than that? Yes, Would a Mother and a Father in a legally binding commited marrige be better that that? YES!! Why would you want anything less than the best for your child? Where have standards gone??
214240
Although you need to do what is right for your child you should be with (girl B)  If you stay with the baby's mom you will most likely end up in divorce or resent her for not being the one you love.  If you are only with her for the baby it is also not good for the baby.  Learn from your mistakes though and make sure you children do not suffer.
920146
I'm never going to marry again.  It is better to stay with someone because you want to than to stay because divorce is expensive, or there are children, or you don't want to go through the whole ordeal or some other reason.