Anyone know of any good online support groups for women whos partners are addicted to internet porn?
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Young lady there is no better place than church to chat about sin, God is the answer to the problems of the world. How do you expect to beat this sinful problem without going to our Lord Almighty. If you have a Bible (New International Version) turn to Galatians 5:19-26 and find out more about this. I was the biggest porn junky there was before I studied the Bible with my church members and got saved. To God be the glory!!!!!
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Hun, i know what you are going through, I have been there done that and get this, i am not even married....my fiancee and i have been living together for almost a year now, engaged for almost 2 and yes, the sex drive has gone from 100 to 0...for him, not for me, it's still strong as ever. when i asked he always told me he was tired or just wanted to cuddle or something like that, so yeah, i know how you feel. i am sad to report however that he was hiding something from me....his addiction to porn....he'd rather look at pics and vids than be with me...pretty low huh? well anyways, we are still together and trying to work through the issues and yes things are looking up....so just hang in there and hopefully things will start to get better!
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I don't mind. My bf goes onto porn sites, but he doesn't ALL the time and he doesn't let it rule all his time when he's off work. He doesn't get too into it. I actually watch a little my self, sometimes. It just depends on the TYPE of porn he watches, as long as it doesn't get too wild and perverted, and he doesn't watch it all the time...I'm cool with it.
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Hey!  Women like porn too, ya know!  \n\nYes!  I am one of them!
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http://adultfriendfinders.com
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http://www.bpdcentral.com/support/email.shtml\n\nTry this one hun, then just google BPD Support Groups, there were many
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Yup... Did it for years. It's not easy. You just take everything day by day. If you're looking for some support, check out Yahoo Groups and other Blog sites like MySpace and Xanga. They usually have groups, and you can link up with people in similar situations. If you need to chat, drop me an email: krustaccean@yahoo.com.
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Try an eating disorder support group.\nNow where did I stash that Snickers bar?
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If you have an addiction to porn, it's more of a mental thing than a sexual problem.  I don't know any websites for you, but all  you really need is someone to talk to about it.  One thing that really helps people is doing something for others, that's always the first line of defense for taking your mind off of your own problems--because no matter how bad off you are in life, there is always someone worse.  \n\nFind a mentor, friend (or even your mom/dad) and get it all in the open.  Getting yourself off of an addiction is never fun, but you'll be glad you did.
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I am a recovering addict that thought that getting married would solve my problem. Honestly- many guys become addicted, but society tells them that it is no big deal, all the other guys do it. Society tells them that MB is no big deal and everyone does it. Some men (and even some women) become addicted. Many of them think that once they get married and can 'have the real thing almost anytime' that the problem will just go away. Well for some it might but for many it doesn't. I did not marry my wife because I wanted her to fix my addiction (I didn't even consider it an addiction at the time)- but I thought that once I got married my urge to look at porn and mb would just go away. When it didn't, I spent a lot of time convincing myself that it really was not a big deal (and found plenty of sites like this one with people saying I shouldn't worry about it). I even started to think that my wife was the one with the problem, she should just relax and not get so uptight. \n\nLet me tell you how it affected me. The more I used- the more I became frustrated with my wife, and the less I tried to connect with her in any way other then sexually. I was not there for her in any way shape or form- emotionally, spiritually, and as a friend. I think she could sense that and it caused my marriage to discentegrate. She became frustrated with me and I needed an outlet and the cycle just kept getting wose. \n\nIt is a big deal. He may or may not be addicted- you can't tell at this point because you don't know if he has tried to quit. You do need to confront him for your and his sake. I suppose there are some people out there that can keep it under control- keep it from getting wosre but I guarantee that there are many who don't realize what it is doing to them as a person, and that they are getting worse. \n\nI can absolutly tell you that once I quit (after getting help - I couldn't quit on my own)- that my relationship with my wife improved drastically. You don't really know how much more sweat and wonderful your husband could be if he didn't use porn, because he has probably had this problem for as long as you have know him. I will guarantee you that if he abandons it he will be able to be there for you so much better then he is now. A man cannot look at that stuff and not have it affect his opinion of women, he cannot consume it regularly and not have it effect his ability to connect with people. It is distorting his perspective of women, it is distorting his perspective of intimacy, and it is keeping him from reaching his true potential. I am way more in tune with my wife's needs now that I have abandoned it.  \n\nI will tell you I am forever greatful that my wife didn't just let me have that vice (EG:She didn't let me keep living beneath myself). I am so glad that she was willing to be vulnerable enough to let me see how it really affected her, how it really hurt her. I am also glad that she gave me the chance to change my behavior, and that she was patient with me while I went through some relapses. She was also very open with me and didn't let me think that relapses were ok, she didn't let me keep giving her excuses. I had been trying to abandon it for years, and she finally came to a point where she left me because I was not really getting better. When she did, I finally 'hit rock bottom' and got serious about getting help. I made some dramatic progress toward recovery because I really did love her and did want to abandon the addiction and when she finally made it clear that I couldn't have both- I decided to choose her! (I sincerely believe she did not do this as a manipulation- but that she had finally hit a point where she just couldn't live with a man who kept emotionally cheating on her, and was not able to be there for her).  \n\n\nIn my opinion, the best thing to do is to be very clear and honest about how his decision to consume porn makes you feel
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I had that problem with my ex-hubby I caught him constantly spanking the monkey online, calling 900 numbers It is an addiction just like drugs or alchol except they are addicted to the fantasy that the porn and other things gives to them. The problem lies with him not you. Blame him not you and if this is how he really is trust me you are better off by yourself.
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I've been battling this addiction for years myself.  It is not an easy thing to kick! But coming from someone who's been there let me offer a few suggestions:\n\n1.  Support, don't condemn. What I mean is realize he is acting on very normal impulses, but seeking relief in unhealthy ways. If you make him feel guilty about it, it'll only compound the problem.\n2.  Get him to agree to be held accountable for his actions.  If you are his wife/partner, encourage him to talk to you or someone else he trusts whenever he feels he cannot resist the temptation.\n3.  Get him to seek spiritual help.  I am a born again believer in the Lord Jesus Christ.  It's only by His strength I can and will overcome this addiction!\n4.  Encourage him to take it a day at a time (a minute at a time if necessary).\n5.  If he stumbles, encourage him to confess it, ask forgiveness from God, and get back on the wagon (knowing he's been forgiven).\n6.  NEVER give up on him! And do your best not to allow him to give up on himself.\n\nThere may come a point where there's nothing more that you can do for this man (save pray for him).  If that time comes, don't be afraid to leave him in God's capable, loving hands.  You can't heal him, but God is eager and well able to do just that! I, on my part will endeavor to pray for you and your friend as I'm reminded to do so.  If I can help you further, drop me an email.
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Addictions are serious things to leave.  Viewing pornography is very addictive and you need help to get out of it.  Talk with your husband and install some parental control on your PC, with the only condition that you will set the password protection in it, so he cannot turn it off.\nIt's not impossible and it can be done.  Just make sure you are both in the same page, otherwise its going to bring you a lot of misery and shame.
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The Mrs. and I used to go to a website called:\nwww.clitical.com\nIt used to be a .org, but now it's a .com. It was down for awhile but now it's back with aggresive amounts of advertising and less actual advise and answers.\nI'm assuming your looking for personal mastrubation tips so this site should help as it is geard more towards the ladies.
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You have a big problem, get help. Any addiction and you called it an addiction first is bad. If you love your wife talk to her show her you care more about her then the smut. She is having your kid and studies show that one of the most common times men cheat is when the significant other is pregnant. Good luck bro.
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I am SO sorry that you are going through this right now.  Your wife is definitely addicted to the internet and needs help.  However, she can't get help if she can't admit that she has a problem.  You need to document all that you know and all that you have.  You should also have your hard drive analysed in case a judge might need some proof.  \n\nSince you have had suicidal thoughts, you must know that you have depression.  Please get help for this and get medicated.  You're not going to be able to do this on your own.
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i have the same addiction, feel like Kirk Franklin sometimes, and I have a wife. I'm good looking and I just can't keep away from porn. My wife is satisfied with me sexually and physically, if she knew about my addiction she would probably start to feel insecure. I feel the need to "look", no one that knows me will ever guess it, and I am a very outstanding individual in my circle of my city. I want to get professionall help, but I know that it will hit the airwaves. I can feel your pain, if you feel as if it has become a burden to you.