my boyfriend wanted me to convert to judaism but now he tells me that he's not ready to marry me and doesn't
153537
you should convert for religion sake, not for a boyfriend, apologies from a jewish guy, who for this reason, only dates jewish women. I hope you find many positive things in the jewish religion.
993034
if he told you he wasn't ready for marriage then he was very mature to inform you of such. trying to apply pressure to him to make him do something never works. i would advise you both sit down if possible and talk things out
539051
That would make you unequally yolked, and I don't believe God intends for you to marry someone who isn't a Christian.\n\n*EDIT*\n\nIf you two are deeply in love, then if she is the one, she will get saved.  If not, then she's not the one for you, and you should ask God for help with moving on.
878399
Wise? No. Love is never wise. Love is madness.\n\nIf he can tolerate and respect your religion, and you can tollerate his, it's all good. The one thing you DONT want to do is convert to his. I know that would give your relationship more understanding, but that would KILL your parents. \n\nIf he asks you to convert to be w/ him, dump him. YOU certainly aren't asking something so drastic of him, why should he care?\n\nAs for parents, if they're very conservative, it won't be pretty, but if it's a very serious relationship, then don't worry about it. Parents usually come around for things like weddings! I would, however, make it clear to my parents that I had no intention of deserting my own customs and beliefs. And that the man I was dating understood that as well and was not making moves to convert me!
1050031
REMIND HIM THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER HIS CHILD.... YOU ARE AN ADULT AND AS AN ADULT YOU ARE ABLE TO MAKE LIFE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN .....TELL HIM THAT HE RAISED YOU WELL THOUGH.... THIS IS YOUR DECISION YOU LOVE HIM  BUT THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOU NOW.... ALSO GIVE AN EXAMPLE LIKE MY RELIGION IS LIKE MARRIAGE YOU WOULD NOT WANT SOME ONE TO CHOOSE YOUR HUSBAND&#92;WIFE FOR YOU WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PICK YOUR RELIGION.... SAME THING.... GOOD LUCK..... BE BLESSED
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
134499
About your marriage?  It could be that he just got cold feet.  Have you tried asking him about it.  Maybe he is worried that he cannot support you.
1176141
Obviously he doesn't want to marry you.  Most likely it has nothing to do with you.  He is probably not man enough to tell you how he feels so he just keeps delaying.  Ask him if he wants to rethink marriage for a while and see what he says.  If he jumps all over the idea, there is your answer.  If he still insists you get married ask him to set a date and keep it.
354589
It sounds as if he is not ready to marry just yet. If this is okay with you than stick with him, but if you want to marry and start a family you might have to come right out and say hey we have waited long enough and if he gives some excuse then it might be best to re think the situation...Cejay
888752
Sounds as if both of you are not ready to marry.
669453
If you are uncomfortable with the religious experiences that you will be subjected to via your conversion, you will more than likely be unhappy in marriage with your girlfriend. If you are serious enough about this relationship to take the step of accepting her religion as your own, your best hope is to become as educated as possible about the meaning behind their religious rites and practices and to incorporate them into your daily life. From there you can discern whether this change is really for you, and if you become comfortable with it, then the rest of your problms should fall into place.
1056792
You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
522307
Drop it now. It will not end happily. Some of these people are naive beyond belief. If you and he actually believe in your religions rather than just adopting a label, then your love will not survive! The conflicts are too deep and too pervasive.
54935
If you think your religious differences might be handled and you will be able to respect eachothers beliefs while you are together, you should be with him. Religious differences are often too important for a relatioship to  work, but if you are able to do it, don't let religion ruin the love of your life. And about your parents, I know it is hard, but you can not live your live always as your parents would like you to live it. If you are ready to marry, you are also ready to make decissions without your parents aproval. Be strong and defend what you decide. They will probably understand it with time, and if not, the problem will be theirs, not yours.\nGOOD LUCK
257839
Do you plan on having children? What beliefs are you going to raise them up with? Will he want his children to speak in tongues? Are you going to teach your kids about your idea of the rapture? I am a Jehovah's witness and we are taught to teach our children about the bible when we lie down when we get up and basically all the time. My husband and his family share my beliefs as well and I never have to worry about him teaching our kids false teachings. If you both plan on maintaining your current differing faiths it WILL put a strain on things. I am not going to say No it won't work or Yes it will. But, I have a good friend who is married to a non-Witness and that particular aspect has been a HUGE struggle in their marriage not merely from differing beliefs from her husband but from her in-laws as well who are not JW's and are very nasty to her. I can tell you for an almost  certainty you won't have that problem from his family but how will you family treat him?I don't know if your boyfriend is a baptised JW or not or if he really was brought up to have an accurate understanding of the Bible as taught by us. But, I do know that there are some things about the pentecostal beliefs that he may seriously disagree with if you really practice your faith. Really, I recommend you both sit down and seriously discuss your religious differences if you are both going to stay together. \nBut just in case you didn't know... We are Christians. Someone above stated we are not Christains I would just like to set the record straight.\n\n  Yeah and Everything Heatherloves... said below--Well put Sister!
1107207
i hate to say this sweetheart, but i would not a) contine seeing him or b) marry him.\nthink about this. this will be the one thing you all will fight about the most. i know that you love each other, but when you think about it, God WILL provide someone else for you. i think once (if) you give up this relationship, God will take care of you. let me know how this works out for you, i will be praying.\n\nplus, the Bible specifically mentions that we should not be 'unequally yoked' with unbelievers. good luck, hun!