My 12 year old..........?
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You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.
1004309
A twelve year old could have a yard sale and sale some old toys you might have or clothes and shoes. Or you can do a lemonade stand or sell candy. Hope I helped and Good luck!!
1072897
no ...too young. you have lots of time. be patient
1012304
Please read this all the way through, my heart is with you. I have two boys 10 and 6 that did the same thing (flushing). Charging 10 cents every time I found the bowl full stopped my problem. But your daughter seems like she has hit rebellion already. My 6 year old became very sore and he learned his lesson at 4 about wiping. But with your daughter "dirty down there" is not going to work. She's 10 not 4, don't patronize her, think back to when you were 10. Let's face it we were all picking up info from friends about sex. You 3 parents have to get together as a group and realize she is not a child she is a young lady/woman. Lectures and threats are not going to work anymore. She needs to start making her own decisions, educated decisions. Talk to a gynecologist get facts about what could happen if she doesn't clean up her act. Pictures if necessary, of what these diseases can do to her body. She could pick up staf infection just to name one, and wind up in the hospital. (My husband being a fire fighter had a call at one time about a woman with an upset stomach. She wasn't a wiper either her whole body smelt of crap. When they got her to the hospital because no one wanted to check between her legs (which was where the real discomfort was) they found her vagina was infested, stuffed with maggots.)Please do everything in your power to educate her in a way that will help her to help herself make the right choices. Also is she happy with herself, looks, school, and friends. These are all very important to her right now. If she doesn't have it yet soon she will be starting her cycle. You think you have problems now, wait. This is the summer of change for your family. Make it that way, help her, she needs you all just to hear her, and realize she is not a little girl, or even a big girl, she is a young lady/woman. A new hair style, a light colored eyeshadow if not wearing makeup, a few new clothes, you might want to rethink the panty thing. Is she wearing panties that make her feel like a young lady/woman, or is she wearing widebottomed, widesided diaperwear. Help her to feel different about herself. Chin up, no one ever said this parent thing was easy, but think of the good times, keep an open mind, and email me if you need to. We have all been there in one way or another.
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
179508
Please, don't put your child's health in the hands of an amateur forum. Respect your child's mind and body. Consult your doctor. (I am a physician myself and this is the best advice I can possibly give you.)
648366
It is OK. But religion has nothing to do with this. Tell your 12 year that his time will come. he must concentrate on his studies.
153118
Are they her issues or your issues?  If it is bothering her, take her to her peds doc and ask for advice.  She isn't going to listen to you--trust me on this. I have a teenager that would listen to another 13 year old, rather than me. She will have to make some changes in her life, that you can help her with, such as choosing the right food, and exercise.  But she is going to have to be disciplined to follow through with the regimen.  Which is why I asked whose issue it is.
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Reading this was like reading something I had written about my own son who is also a teenager.  He doesn't have diabetes, but he is at the age where I can't tell him anything!!!  Needless to say, I can relate to your situation but understand how yours is different because your daughter's rebellion can impact her health.  Have you called your DR. since the visit when he didn't "back you up"?  I think I'd start by letting him know I wasn't really happy with his approach.  Maybe next time he will more strongly express the importance that she take a more active role in managing this.  \n\nWith my son, the thing I keep coming back to is this:  He's got to make his own mistakes, because he's not going to listen to or learn them from me.  If he misses the bus again because he can't haul out of bed in the morning, he's going to have to "pay the price" of suspension from school, no excuses from me.  In your case, since she won't listen to you (but could get seriously hurt by not listening) are there any pre-teen diabetic support groups that local hospitals have where she can participate with her peers and listen to dr's/rn have open forums about the issues of the disease?  It also might help her deal with some of the other issues she's facing like feeling different.  That's a big deal for this age group.  There have got to be others you would trust for her to talk to, since she's going to rebel against you right now.  Of course she needs you as support/love, but I've just found that right now, they want to do everything BUT what we suggest or ask them to do.
923195
Twelve is pretty young. I would tell her to wait a few years, she has plenty of time for that later.
505136
I don't intend to me mean, but it sounds like the issue is yours and not his.  Okay - so he isn't as affectionate, but he sounds affectionate enough.\n\nHe isn't the same guy he was years ago.  Let's face it, the testosterone levels of a 20-yr. old would kill him today.  His body just couldn't take it.\n\nLook - talk to him about it - let him know your needs.  It sounds like he will do what he can to accommodate.  However, if he really loves you and takes good care of your kid, you have it better than 90% of the rest of us.  Be happy in that.\n\nGood luck.\nC
1178959
Ask any 12 year old.  They can tell you.
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That's a tough one.  She's 13, so there's no way of saying you were doing something else that she'd believe.  You might have to bring her to some kind of family counseling place so she can let it all out.\n\nIn the meantime, please make sure your door is locked.\nHope your daughter gets over it soon.
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My 12 year old daughter says:\n\nMusic cd's\ncd player\ngame boys\nbooks (if he likes to read)\nhis hobby\nhis collections\ntickets to a game\ninvite him over for dinner \n\nper Chelsea
407733
I don't know in TX, but in another States 12 is the age.  But check with an attorney or even better try to deal with your child.
471187
Your fun may just be beginning. My daughter started at 12 and outgrew it at 19. Things got so bad that I let her go life with her permosques dad. She ended up living on her own at 17. Sometimes we must let go so they can grow. It sounds harsh but you must stick to your morals and principles. My heart goes out to you. To be honest, giving her to God was the only thing to do. She is now the mother of two. Her and her husband are so king and loving. It just takes time and patience.
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You didn't say where you were from...my daughter did LOTS of pagents when she was younger (she 10 now).  E-Mail (brat71825@yahoo.com) me or IM me and let me know where you are and I will see if I can help!!