i feel that i am a gay, how can i tell my relatives about it without making them angry?
138261
You cannot control how they will react.  I think coming out to relatives is overated, especially if you know they may not understand or get mad.  Why not just continue on with your love life and consider it none of their business?\n\nYou never have to lie about it, just don't offer the information.  When they ask you directly is the time to seriously consider telling them...
1013137
Visit your grandchild.  Whether you are gay or not does not  stop you from being a grandparent.  Who writes the rules anyways.  Hell, visit your family.  Just because you are gay does not mean you should drop off the face of the earth.  Being a part of that child's life may mean the difference between unjust prejudices.  Besides, you will miss out on so much love you would be a complete fool not to share it.
1001126
Do whatever makes you feel right, if you feel uncomfortable saying anything to your parents then don't, maybe your bi-sexual or you could just be going through a phase, there are a lot of sites that can give you any support or advice \nGLCC, PFLAG, GLBT, etc.. good luck
906174
Oh, my...That's tough.  I knew I was queer when I was 11, though, didn't have language for it yet.  I came out when I was 17, but I have a pretty easy family.  If you think that your families are going to completely flip, be careful but get support outside your home.  Do everything you can to get reassurance that your love for each other is a good thing. It might be helpful to find a queer youth organization in your community so you can find others to talk with.  There are a lot of folks in similar situations.\n\nGood luck...And ignore the person who said you're not old enough to know if you're gay.  Homophobic baloney.  They never tell heterosexual teens that they're too young to know they're straight.  ;-)
1104892
That really is a hard one to answer, a part of me would tell you to tell your parents yet there is a chance that things there could go sour. If I were you I would do my research i.e. stories out of the bible ( The good simaritain, the prodgical son... to name a couple. the prodgical son talks about unconditional love.)\nRemember being gay isnt against any belief its the sexual acts that arent liked in the church before marriage that goes for those who identify as straight as well,\nBut if you decide to hide it they will find out in the long run. Maybe drop hints here and there.
437797
The best way is to say nothing and keep it to yourself.  When is the last time anyone who is straight came out as straight?? Be discrete, they will all figure it out sooner or later.  The anouncement is unecessary, awkward, most always backfires by immediate changes in people's opinion of you.  Say nothing, be kind, be discrete, be safe, and have a decent and productive life.......
1184584
How does your family and friends feel about homosexuality? If they are open to this kind of lifestyle just invite them over and just let them know that you want to share something that is very important to you with them. If that made any sense.
1113431
First you have to be sure about yourself, once you have accepted the fact that you are gay and there is no way of changing the fact then you have to be strong, because over the years to come you will hear all sorts of jokes and comments that are cruel, but are based on ignorance. You have to understand, that you have had time to become used to the idea of being gay, and probably have for some time, but when you come out to your family, this will be the first time they have had it confirmed and it will take them time to get use to it. First level with them, just sit them down and level with them, don't do what most gay people have done in the past including myself and that is to try and hide it, because you can never get away from it. The next thing to do is to be the man that you are, being gay doesn't mean you have to be a pansy, you can still be the man you know you are and the man they thought you where going to be. Move out as soon as you can and avoid contact with them for a few months, this does two things. 1. it gives them time to discuss, fight, backstab and blame each other, without yuo having to hear it or feel guilty about it, because you didn't choose to be gay, you where born that way, and anyone who says other wise is a bloody idiot.\n2. This gives you time to explore your sexuallity without the fear of being caught with your pants down by your parents.\n16 is young, but at 16 I knew I was a raging queer, but it wasn't until I was thirty that I levelled with my family, during this time I explored straight relationships, gay one night stands, sauna's etc... But in the end I faced my fears and relized if I didn't level with my family, I would never have a chance of being happy with my own life and to me my life is the more important that the embarassment I caused my parents. For ten years I have lived in a gay relationship and now my family accept my partner as a part of the family, they now accept that they are not going to get grandchildren but now they have had the time to relize that I hadn't change, I was still the son they had 42 years ago, good luck kid, but careful there are some crazy mother----- out there, but be happy and have fun
797025
Welcom to the wonderful world!\n\nDont worry u are normal and fine - we are all intrigured by homosexuality but few of us admit to it....
867565
I know how you feel and its not as bad as you might think it is.\nActually the others dont really care much and the only one who would care is the girl that would be your first hit - and I wouldnt even tell her. Because its no one elses business actually.\n\nIf you are worried about people thinking you are gay- well just occasionally mention some "hot" chick you seen crossing the street, or how you got drunk and lost your wallet in a strip joint.\n\nJust dont take it too serious - it really doesnt matter :)
800599
There's really not much you can do, since you probably won't change your other friends' minds about this situation.  However, they might be hurting because they feel like they've been betrayed - maybe they think that this person they thought they knew isn't the person they thought he was at all.  Maybe calling him names is their way of venting this frustration.  If this is the case, maybe you could talk to them about how hard it is to admit one's sexual orientation, especially when family relationships are at stake, that there was a reason he had to keep it a secret.  Make sure you keep supporting your homosexual friend, because with all of the opposition (especially the family opposition), he really needs you right now.  If these people can't accept your decision to remain friends with this person, then they probably aren't friends worth keeping, if they were ever really friends at all.  In any case, I don't believe in homosexuality myself, but I hope that you and your friend are able to find peace in resolving this situation.
804820
I'm not sure what the actual question is here... is it a bad thing that he might be gay? What would you do if he was straight? If you feel like you need to act, just make sure that he knows that you love and support him no matter what. If he is gay, it will be extremely difficult for him to admit it to you and your family. The next time you're talking to him you could bring up one of your gay friends in passing (or make one up if you don't have any) so that he knows that you are okay with homosexuality (assuming he is gay and assuming you're okay with homosexuality).  However, just because he doesn't share his personal life with you doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. My brother is straight but doesn't particularly like to divulge information about his personal life to any of us.
1132901
Just be open and honest and with them and remember to be patient with them.  Even if they dont agree with you sexuality remember their still your parents and they still love you.  Here's a link to PFLAG's website, you can contact them through that and they're really goat providing support for you and your parents.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/
1073206
I didn't make up my mind about being gay (which I am), but whether or not to accept it in myself and then decide how to tell other people about it.\n\nMy mind, my self, and my soul were already there.  I just had to learn to accept what was true about me.\n\nThe factors for me that showed me who I am were: by your age, I had absolutely no romantic feelings for or attraction to the opposite sex; on the other hand, I did have those feelings for my own gender. I had tried to force myself to have feelings for the opposite sex and failed dismally; I had had sex with guys and I enjoyed it thoroughly.  I would look at porn with women... just nothing.  \n\nI know the parental and cultural thing, coming from rural Southern Baptists.  Oy.  They have very little to do with me, so I have largely made my own "family" who don't care about my sexuality, they care about me as a person.  I think that if my parents are not able to accept all of me, then it is their loss... something friends have also said.  \n\nDon't rush your decision about coming out.  Don't feel there has to be a schedule, and don't say anything in anger or during an argument.  It would forever taint what you have to say.\n\nThink "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" and try not to get killed! =)  Now, think what advantages this gives you: you are tackling difficult social and personal issues when many of your contemporaries are merely worried about their complexions.  Already you are a more complex, sensitive, and concerned individual because of what you are facing.
317332
Hey,\nThis must be really hard. But why did you tell your parents you wernt?\nWhat you need to do to feel better is tell them the truth. They will love you no matter what. Theres nothing wrong with being gay!
656246
well tell her its ok and not to feel bad being adoped is not a bad thing you juss have a different family your family didnt want to tell you or else your gonna get sad and upset well thats the same thing your familt will never trust you again
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.