Is calling your employees fiance a loser bad form?
145142
The answer is obvious, but there's probably nothing you can do about it, except quit and find another job.
204938
Blowing things off for management to do is ok but it's really not the answer.  Management expects the employees they pay to work out their own issues.  \n\nIf an attempt to work this out with her has already been taken (you've actually DISCUSSED this with this lady) and nothing was done, THEN you discuss it with management.\n\nIf you haven't talked to her already, then talk to her.  Let her know what the problem is.  She honestly may not be aware that she has a problem.\n\nAnd you would be doing her a greater service talking to her personally rather than letting her hear it from management and then finding out that everyone was talking about her behind her back.  Bad form!!!  Talk to her.
1187381
I've dated a boss of mine.  Heck, even the girl who worked my job before me -- she quit because she married my new boss!  Go for it.  Just remember -- work is work, relationship is relationship.  And wait until he ends it current one before you move in on the prize.\n\nI actually work with my fiance -- he's not my boss, but we met here and have been together for 2.5 years.  Studies show that us overworked Americans are turning more and more to workplace relationships and employers are becoming okay with it.
645211
You feel guilty because he was a good guy who couldn't conform.  But to run a business, you need him to respect your decsion, whether or not it's about how well he does at his job.  You did the right thing.  Feeling bad is natural, no one should want to hurt another person, but he was wrong and he knew it.  He took the risk and has to accept the consequences.  Hopefully he learned from this experience and will move on well.  It was hard to make the right decision, but you did.  You should congratualate yourself.
296587
Getting involved with someone you work with is NOT a good idea. Any time there is a problem in the relationship, it can cause a problem in the work situation. If the relationship fails it can cause problems for you at work. Many businesses have rules against employees dating, because of the problems it creates in the work place. It can be grounds for termination if your company has a rule against employees dating.  If you truly feel a person is right for you, I suggest that one of you find a new job before getting involved in the relationship, or at the very least, make sure there is no company policy against employee dating.
241787
Many, many years ago, I once had a boss tell me that he expected more from his better employees than his slackers.  Not fair, but I can understand the reasoning behind it and I also think kinda the same way because some people have more talent or abilities than others and more should be expected of them. Boy, I'm going to get into trouble for this!! What I liked about him  was that he was honest about it.  \n\nNowadays, it seems we have to be careful about everything we say. Where is this screwy country headed? Things like the above could be grounds for a lawsuit I suppose.
469373
Yes, you should most certainly report your a** hole boss. He's a creep, and that kind of talk should never be forced into the workforce.
783652
If the email truly was as bad as you indicate, then I don't think that your boss actually thinks that you are sensitive, despite what he said. He probably feels a bit of responsibility for not dealing with the situation earlier, and now feels compelled to justify his lack of action. He may feel that by labeling you as "sensitive", then he is off the hook for not taking corrective action earlier, because he "didn't think it would bother you". I have a feeling he is trying to say "Wow, I failed to realize that this was a situation worthy of my intervention, and I'm sorry that my lack of action caused you suffer." The first part came out as "The guy is an a**" and the second part came out as "I didn't know you were so sensitive". This boss is just a poor communicator and is looking to defend himself. I wouldn't worry about looking like a "composed professional" in his eyes, as he is not acting like a true leader anyway.
440728
Close. That's actually the definition of a bad loser.
741650
I wouldn't be his back up. That is what it sounds like. He keeps her incase you 2 dont work. I duno whats wrong with him. He sounds like a catch. Not. I feel bad for you. What an ass.
114744
No... when someone calls in reference to their employment you can't "slander" them. But if they ask, would you rehire them you can say NO! Or if they ask if they were on time... if they weren't you can say no to that also.
654225
well does she act diffrent around the owner ? if so i would talk to her about it and then if she didnt lighten up then i would talk to the owner .. i also had this problem and most owners dont know about it or tolerat the fact that they are treating the worker s badly ... mine got fired... sometimes you do what you have to
690296
I couldn't agree more. My sister in law was going for a job and had to put down names of references on her resume. She put down a name (my ex mother in law) that the employment officer knew. The name was the surname of my exhusband. The employment officer queried my sister in law to find out if she knew me. My sister in law said that she did, and the employment officer went about saying how much a bitch I was for treating my exhusband the way I did!!! She rambled on about things she didn't even know about, things about me and things about my children. Apparently she is the employment officer for my exhusband and he has set about telling her things about me that is none of her business. To top it off, he lied through his teeth about me to this woman, told her personal stuff, and she passed it on to my sister in law whom she doesn't know from a bar of soap! She doesn't know me and I don't know her, we have never met, yet she shares false information with the general public. I now know her name and I feel like applying for a job through her agency, just so I get my chance to tell her who I am and what I think of her defamatory remarks. What do you think??
734715
I would have a quiet word with her manager, presuming he is not the offending party. If he is then I would go to the person above him. You need not go into details, just say that you have been told in confidence that that man had wandering hands and that younger females of staff resented his approach. Say that you feel that the problem needs addressing as it could get the firm in hot water for not protecting their female staff but it is not up to you to deal with the situation as it is not in your department.
806172
No.  Would you stay in a 'lover' relationship you don't like?  Participate in a club whose values you don't care for?  A job is no different.  You said you lost respect for the company but need the job.  You need the money...not the job.  Either quit and look for another job or discreetly look for another job while still employed with them.
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
990329
In this day and age I would say no but it really depends on what this person means by it.  I've had female co-workers call me that and I wasn't offended because I know they aren't flirting with me. I think of it as sort of a term of endearment.  But if a this guy is trying to get a date or just in your pants then I'd have to say no.