I feel so lonely since my ex and I broke up un July of  '05?
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You are not going to find mr right . . . there is no such thing . . . because we are not F***ing perfect . . . and neither are you . . . \n\nWe all have our own problems. . . and we don't want to carry you to fulfill your needs . . . would you take our needs into consideration . . . from you Question and Background comments . . . No . . . selfish.\n\nThe clubs are just a meat market . . . only for one thing . . . sex . . . join a club or group that shares the same interests as you . . . like an outdoors camping club . . . or something like that.\n\nWhat else can I say . . . you have to make yourself happy . . . be happy with yourself . . . you can't expect someone else to make you happy unless you can make yourself happy first.  \n\nMen are not here to please you (God . . . you know how many times I heard that from women . . . lol).  First get yourself in order . . . then when you are happy with everything about yourself . . . look . . . but don't look hard . . . because a positive person attracts people.\n\nPS: And I don't mean become celebate . . . because women need sex as much as men now-a-days. . . but use it as stress relief.\n\nRegards,\n\nA decent and not so decent man
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So am I, in love and feeling lonely and uncared for :-(
778372
I'd say she's feeling lonely and want you back. If you still love her, move your butt out of that computer chair and ask her to have lunch or dinner with you. I wish you two best of luck. Remember, there may not be any 2nd chances like this.
1110527
oh dear.. this has happend to me too. The best thing to do is try your hardest (though challeging) to move ahead with your life. Time to look for new friends! Be confident, and calm. In a month or so, call up your old friend again, maybe by then she will have missed you, and ask to be friends again. If not, well, there are plenty more fish in the pond. It is the cold, hard truth!
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Well if you're concerned that you might be heartless, that automatically shows that you're not! \n\nSo either like everyone here is saying, you weren't really emotionally vested anyway, and you can shrug it off as an unfortunate experience...OR....you didn't allow yourself to deal with feeling whatever you were feeling at the time she broke it off (this wasn't a mutual decision? Then you might have some resentment or anger buried there) I'm only saying this because obviously SOMETHING about the breakup is bothering you...so just figure out what it is, deal with it and move on.
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Yes that is normal.  You need to have time for yourself and to get rid of the bad feelings.  I am not divorced (yet) but it has been a year since we seperated and I have no desire to be with anyone.   \nJust relax and don't listen to people who tell you you need to be dating, you will when you are ready.
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I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
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i broke up with my bf in october, and it is still so hard for me not to pick up that phone and tell him to come home... he moved everything out and i havent felt like i am at home in my apartment since... its hard for everybody... you just have to let it go for awhile, why don't you call up some friends and go out... you will see, he will be back before you know it.
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there is a reason why you two broke up--it didn't work out.  don't be weak and get back with him just because you're lonely now.  it usually takes at least a few months before you get over someone...so stick it out and start casually dating (not meaning sex) in the mean time.
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Well, you should start talking to someone else too. Maybe that will help you get over him and what he is doing. The fact that you seperated because you "needed time to grow" should have told you that he was going to date other people. What did you think was going to happen? You were going to seperate and then just wait around for eachother? If that`s what you thought, you shouldn`t have seperated at all. You need to get out there and find a new man. Just let this guy go and do whatever he wants to do. If it was "meant to be" you will end up back together. In the meantime, you should go out and have your own fun and not sit around worrying and wondering what he is doing. Do your own thing and let HIM wonder about YOU.
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u r just feeling a bit lonely now ..just get urself engaged in some kind of work and pls mention how old r u\n the true person will come looking for you so don't worry\nits happenes sometimes that ur frnds get very busy with their life i'm sure ur frnds will come and meet u one day and u can cherish the moments u had in ur life together
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Because that is a part of life. Don't worry it will get better but after a break unless you aren't a feeling person at all you are going to feel bad!! I remember how it was it sucks! But there will be more guys and hopefully better guys that will treat you better!!  Sorry girl if you need to talk email me at jreneeh251981@yahoo.com
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Aw sweetie you sound so sad! I know it probably feels like the end of the world at the moment, but it does get easier I promise. It's never easy to get over someone that you really cared about, but you will be happy again, with someone who feels the same way. It seems that this guy cared enough about you to tell you that it wasn't working, rather than lying about his feelings. \nIt happens the other way round too, and you may find yourself going out with someone in the future who likes you more than you like them!\nIt happens because you are learning about yourself and growing as a person all the time. It takes a while to figure out who we are and what we want from a partner and from life. \nAppreciate that we learn something from each person who passes through our life, good or bad. See that he just wasn't right for you and that means you are available for someone who is!
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Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
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show them you care. that you want them back. if they really did like you in the past it's hard to totally get over that so there's probably some feeling still there. \n\nGood Luck!
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Your chances are low right now, I'm sorry.  You didn't give the circumstances surrounding the break up; but the fact is that when you feel lonely, even the people you trust most aren't going to be attracted to you.  That's human nature --- to shun the needy.  She isn't likely to view the potential of your relationship in the long run; more likely, she'll see you as a desperate man with no self respect.   \nYou use the word "ever", so if you get over her, find someone else (someone you are truly happier with), you probably will make her jealous.  Do NOT believe it if she says she would be happy if you found someone else!  That's, in fact, a bluff whether she knows it or not.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!