It's been said a man ends up treating his wife the way he treats his mother, what do you think?
156599
I don't think this is true, BUT I do believe that if a man has a negative relationship or is man who has a manipulative mother, chances that may place a negative shadow over the relationship , but as all things go some individuals have the personal strength to overcome these things
1120647
I would knock the hell outta my mans baby mama...she is always trying to hurt him with his son and fails to take proper care of the child---ohh and did I mention how she uses the money to pay cell phone bills?...watch out b*tch because we know what you been doing and soon he will be living with us!!!
87334
yes she did. Just cuz she gave custody up, she still \nstill played a major roll in his life as his mother.\nmy mom and I didn't always live together but she still \nraised me.
1073833
The same thing here. My man's mother more than awful. She's one of those "christains" that quotes the bible and tell you that you're going to hell, but she does every evil thing there is to do. She stole from him, forged his income tax return, lied and manipulate every situation and she told me that if I was to concieve a child, she didn't want no parts of it. I'm writing a book about my experiences with her drama. I ignored her. I stopped playing nice with her after she attack him when he was in the ER. I told her exactly what I thought of her and I ignore her. Eventually, he cut her loose. It was his decision. It's been a year now since we last heard from her. Life has been great and less stressful without her.
422664
I wouldn't say likely. But if a man is abused as a child it is a possibility. I think though that if he witnesses his father hitting his mother he might be more likely, if the mother does not show her pain. There were studies about it, but I can't recall where I read them. I don't know how true it is, but the reasoning is; if a man hits his wife in front of his children, the children see this as normal, especially if it doesn't seem to register with the mother. So if a woman bottles it up, it seems it can actually be more damaging to her childrens perceptions on relationships. So the girls tend to date abusive men and the boys sometimes grow up to hit their wives, because it's how they were raised. This is NOT always the case. In many cases where boys witnessed their fathers abusing the mothers and the mother showing mental anguish, the boys actually grew up to be more considerate husbands, possibly overcompensating. I wouldn't think that children who were abused would be more likely to grow up to abuse their children, simply because they understand the pain and fear of an abused child, and would not wish that on their kids, on the flipside, some might view it as the ONLY way to raise their kids, or get them to listen etc, or might just be taking out their deeply imbedded anger and frustration. So like any other kind of abuse, it's really a mixed bag. People are so complex that everyone responds differently to every situation and every trauma. I know some people who were not physically abused, but do so in their relationships, just because they're screwed up in other ways and have a lot of pain they have not dealt with properly. Either way, abuse of any kind is never right, and people who were abused (I don't like the word victim) shold seek professional help if they cannot come to terms on their own. I guess all in all I would say yes, mostly because to many it may seem the norm to be violent and the only way to be or the only way they know how to be in a relationship, however, you should not use this in judging people and never assume that because someone has had such a past that they will be like that.
277332
It's not a bad thing as long as you are mature and can stand independent of her. I think mama's boy and being respectful of your mother is in many cases the same thing. There is nothing wrong with that.
1094924
my goodness me, it is the indian way. whatever would your dear mother think?
993619
well some men do treat there women really bad and i think they get it from there parent on how there dad treated there mom it to bad how some men can be real ass hole but the women have a choice to they can always leave but the funny part about it is that the women that leave come back to there man i dont under stand that
384040
One thing is because your mother allows this man to treat her this way. Really there isn't a thing you can do except love your mom. She needs you more now than before. She will come to terms that he is doing something that is harmful to her and hopefully before it is to late...N
827765
In my opinion, one should not follow a strict rule on whom he should follow or not.\n\nThe only criteria shall be to have his head firmly in control and the guts to say to both that right is right and wrong is wrong. No hanky panky here.\n\nI, however, personly give more credit to my mother than wife becasue they have taken care of me to bring me to a level where I could marry my present wife.\n\nSo definitely, a person should be thankful to their parents and ultimately should know what is right and wrong and be able to convey that to both of them as well.
716169
Absolutely. I never had a good relationship with my father. I also hated the way he manipulated my mother. I always said to myself that I would never allow a man to treat me that way. I'm sorry to say this, but my experiences have led me to take this out on my husband. He tells me from time to time "Just because you didn't get along with your dad means that you can take it out on me!" and he's right. I dont' allow him to tell me what to do. When I want to do something, I do it without his approval. I also dont' trust men, due to my parents relationship. So I thought "let me do it first before he does it to me!" and I did, I cheated on him! That's something I terribly regret. \n\nI do think it's possible to break this pattern if I were to mend my relationship with my father. But it wouldn't be easy. It's a process and something that you really have to let sink in before you're able to change your perceptions.
265351
Yeah, I would pretty much say so.\nOf course I'm no expert or anything, but anyone that has romantic feeling toward their mother has to have some serious problems.
833136
I am. It's because his mother comes first, then the kids, then me. He says terrible things to me that hurt my feelings and isn't sorry. We've been through marriage counseling twice. His mother interferes in our marriage and if I say anything, he gets defensive. He tells her, then she gets mad. She's trying to turn him against me.
328668
Not all men like women. Some men like men.\nSome men like boys and maybe some men like animals.\nWho knows but for me I like women that remind me of my mother.
248152
A mother is very connected to their children and they spend a lot of their life protecting and nurturing them.  That creates a bond that is very deep and established over a very long amount of time.  It is hard for a mom to let go because that bond has become such a large part of who she is.  Mom's come to rely on that bond to always be there for them and as a part of their lives.  When a son gets married, that bond is broken and the moms life and relationship with her some are forever altered.  Sure she wants him to grow up and be happy, but she doesn't want to be disconnected and shut out of her sons life.  Some times though that is what happens, but most of the time eventually the mother and son establish a new bond and share that bond with the daughter in law.
205688
probably nothing. unfortunately my mother has done the same thing to me and succeeded, that bitch. it's a competition thing, the mom wants to feel young and sexy, and better than her daughter. tell that woman NO. older women like that think all young boys want an older woman fantasy fling, maybe so. but dont enlist the mother of someone u have dated b4. let her sleaze on elsewhere
904774
Believe it or not YOU ARE NOT your mothers keeper.  My mother went through alot of bad relationships.  It took a long time to understand IT WAS NOT MY PROBLEM.  You are old enough to be married so BE MARRIED.  You will grow old with your wife (hopefully, not all of life is guaranteed) Your mother will grow old with her choices.  You cannot change your mom or her choices