my husband and i fight all the time. he yells and curses at me all the time,one day last week we got physical,
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.
503824
I agree with your conditions and had the same in my marriage it lasted 28yrs. He cheated 3yrs in and I forgave him by the time we had been together 15yrs he was an alcoholic and I sttod by him and tried desperately to get him to go for help. Then 7 months ago he came in pissed and hit me.....end of the 28yr marriage!!!!! Haven't seen him since. Stick to your conditions.
896640
It was with my older brother. We always fight, it ends with him hitting me. : (
304348
I deliberately picked fights with my guy, to see how serious he was about the relationship. See, it's like this- he doesn't get mad- ever. And I had to know- if it came to a fight, would he get mean? Would he shout and scream and go psycho, or storm out? Would he hit me, or what? So, I was pretty mean to him, just to see what he'd do. I feel guilty about it, and haven't done it since.
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Its a mood thing.  I'm the same way.  Sometimes I'm heading home, just hoping for a fight with my wife. \n\nUsually, I keep to myself when I arrive till my mood changes.\n\nTry that.  Just let him know you need to be alone, your not in the mood for company...or to fight.\n\nGood luck darlin
663772
It sounds like you are very unhappy in your marriage. You need to find a lawyer. You have to be sure you are happy in this relationship - not just him. Good luck. I hope you find happiness.
1067329
Everyone goes through mood swings.  Guys aren't the only ones who are rude and mean - women do it too.  The key is communication between eachother so you know how eachother is feeling.  If your husband is just mean and grumpy for no good reason he might be dealing with some things inside of him that he isn't willing to share with you.  Either way, if it bothers you and you can't talk it out - there is nothing wrong with getting into marriage counseling.
997524
Yes, you have successfully overanalyzed this.  My husband always sounds horribly angry when I call him.  He isn't.  And most of the time he is glad I called (unless it was to nag him about something)  He has never been great at talking on the phone.  Some guys just don't know what to say to a voice on the other end of the reciever, despite that its their girlfriend, wife, mom, or Jesus himself on the other end.  And that's fine.  Relax.  You'll be fine.
883553
Five months before the wedding we were fighting constantly about a lot of stupid things, like what the color of the walls would be on our bathroom or how to buy the perfect toilet (this is no joke...), one day while I was inside our soon to be home, I was getting angrier by the minute because one of the carpenters was insisting on needing more money which I didn't have; that same day we were having dinner with both our families for a formal proposal and so that my father in law asked for my hand in marriage for his son (this is traditional were I am from), so I called my fiancee and told him about the carpenter and he told me to handle it myself since he was at work. \nWe both started shouting on the phone, and things got really heated. I hung up and by the time we had to go to dinner I didn't know if he was going to show up or not.\nSurely enough, there he was, standing outside the restaurant with my father in law, and as soon as I saw him I knew we were going to be ok.\nAll of this just to tell you that it is ok to have mixed feelings about getting married, you are starting a new life and parting with the old one can be stressful, so don't worry about it, think about how much you love the person and whenever you get nervous breathe and try to concentrate on that.\nGood luck!
987286
Because when he did it the first time, you took his crap and now he feels he can  and will do it whenever he pleases.\nI know from experience, the yelling starts and then the hitting will follow.  Granted it might take sometime, but you have allowed him to treat you how ever and so he feels no matter what he does you will take his crap.\nI suggest to you, get out of the relationship and find someone who will respect you as a human being and not treat you like a dog.  I bet if he has a dog it gets treated better than you?\nHe is a man on a power trip and it is time for the ride to end.  That is just my opinion, but I have walked many miles in your shoes.  I stuck it out for 7 yrs, hardest yrs of my life.\nHe has been through many relationship and married again.  Still continues to yell and  hit on women.  Even was in a motorcycle accident and he still does it with one arm.  So some guys will never change,
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Try getting some couple's counseling.  Staying together or breaking up is a decision that you need to make for yourself, but there are things you can take into consideration.  \nFirst, what is he saying?  If he is just yelling for the sake of getting his anger out, that's probably okay.  But, if he is insulting you or threatening you, that's not okay.  That's verbal abuse and it can be really hard on you in the long run.\nSecondly, do you feel threatened?  You can trust your instincts here.  If you are scared of him, get out.  If you aren't really all that scared when he yells, things will probably be okay with counseling or just talking to him about it.\nAnd finally, does he have a history of violent behavior?  If he is more violent, say, with brothers or friends, or if he condones violence he is more apt to become violent with you in the future, even if he has never touched you before.  Physical abuse can come about so gradually that you may not even realize that's what's happening to you.
854258
I love my husband very very much. Since the day we've met we've never had an 'argument', we've gotten snippy with one another, but never anything more than that. We always talk about what is bothering us and what we really want, no reading between the lines. If we are unhappy with something, we work together to fix it. we always eat dinner together, no matter what, we shop together and try and spend quality time together. We dont go to bed mad and we say we love each other all the time. Just a lot of little things that can go a long ways.
640624
You need to leave, NOW!  He is going to blow at one point and if he doesn't kill you, or someone else, he is going to hurt you bad!  If he has ever hit you, he will again...and harder!  He is already verbally abusing you, mental abuse, and is probably making you feel worse and worse about yourself.  You need to get out before he totally ruins you.  You CANNOT change him.  He has to make that choice himself and seek the help.  You have done all you can do and he has refused counseling.  Tell him that if you are ever to come back, he will need to go to anger management and/or counseling.  You can only blame your childhood for so long until you have to take responsibility...it is time he takes responsibility for his own actions.  Good luck, and please get out before it is too late.  Three women in America are killed each day by their partners, don't be one of them!
1108156
My ex husband and my fiance are both Scorpios. My ex will explode over anything, large or small. He has a horrible temper. My fiance, on the other hand, will only use his temper when it is absolutely necessary. I have been with him for over a year and have NEVER seen him angry. He did tell me that when he was in the Army in the 1970s, tho, he had to use his temper. There was this Navy guy (you know, the ones that are supposed to be the toughest) that was drunk and had tried to attack a 12 year old girl. My fiance beat the daylights out of this guy and put him in the hospital. To this day, he doesn't know how seriously hurt the guy was or how long he was in the hospital. He was not court marshalled due to the fact that the guy wanted to do that to a young girl. Even his commanding officer commended him for what he did! So, the guy he beat up had his reputation ruined in 2 ways:  no longer a tough guy--especially against somene in the Army--and someone that wants to attack children.\n\nMy fiance has told me that he constatnly keeps his anger in check due to the fact that he could badly hurt, if not kill, someone. And, he doesn't like to be angry all the time. He is the easiest going guy I have ever known in my life.
1059849
i know how you feel.  except mine is a 3 year old tantrum king!  spouse is deployed and we're far from home so i feel your pain...almost like being a single parent.  i enrolled him in a day program.  i feel like such a better parent when i see him.  i have a chance to miss him.  he is soooo feisty and just an all around boy he drives me nuts so having him burn his energy for 4 hours a day and then coming home...he's nice and relaxed and doesn't fight me when it's bed time.   also, you probably heard the saying.....terrible 2's, horrible 3's......lol
827689
arguing with your man, huh?  My husband is disgustingly calm.......never slams doors, never yells, that's what really pisses me off.
765600
GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!! that is an abusive relationship and what you are doing by pushing him is self-defense.i would get pissed to if someone would smash me across the room.please move out because he is abusive and might kill you one day by throwing you.What happens when you guys have kids one day and he does that to your kids?think about that.good luck!!!