I have something I need to tell my fiance but I don't want to tell my problem. Can anyone help me?
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You don't need this group, the two of you need a pre-marital consultation.
634223
Tell him just the way you explained it here. He'll understand about the complications and if he doesn't he'll just have to get over it. Take care hun!!!!!
456162
Well ask them what the issue is and they might be open enough to tell you if there is a problem.  Maybe it is there way of telling you that they are not interested in the topic being talked about.  All I can really say is just ask them.  Go from there.
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When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
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hahahaha!! we got exactly the same problem... well, i guess he really loves you but just can't express it the right way. Talk it to him.. tell him what you feel. I guess i have no doubt for his love but maybe he just don't know how to take care of you. so talk it to him so that he will know what you feel. I did that and my fiance is making progress.. i can see that he is doing his best to show his love to me and to attend also to my needs.. just give him a time don't pressure him..
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Communicate with him but don't nag.  Tell him simply in a nice quiet way and then let it go.  If he doesn't get it and it's important to you, your relationship may not be what you really want.
466131
Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth as simply as you put it here.  Tell him quality rather then quanity. Too much hurts plain and simple. If he cares at all about you then this will take care of your problem. If he doesn't care then you shouldn't worry about hurting his feelings and tell him to just get off.
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you should ask them for thier blessing and if they refuse then that is something that u will have to deal with if u love your fiance and she loves you then thats all u need talk to your family and let them know that it bothers u and your fiance and that they need to fiqure out how to control that and if they dont have anything nice to say then not to say anything at all and whether they like it or not u love her and she loves u and u to are getting married and u will not come around if they are going to keep treating her that way and u really dont want that because they are your family and u love them too. i hope this helps u.
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I'm in the same boat as you, I've been with my husband for 5 years and things are getting worse and worse, the happy life we had went down the toilet along time ago and all we do is fight. It's not easy i don't know how to tell him either, but the person I'm seeing makes me feel like I'm worth something, not useless. maybe we can figure out something, my email is under my info
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Don't push him but you can ask if he would tell you. If he says he doesn't want to talk about it, just say that you would really like to know what happened and if he ever feels comfortable telling you, you would like to know.
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Really your not fighting, your probably just bickering. Its like adult going pains especially if you just moved in together. My fiance and I were the same way. I even gave my ring back!!! but we went to a communication specialist (couples therapist) and learned some tricks to communicating. I know its hard and you start thinking that things won't work out, but if you are truly meant to be, you'll be OK.  We had all the same issues you mentioned.Try this, sit and talk it out, if one of you is a blabber use a 5 min timer so you don't get off track of the topic at hand. Don't allow yourselves to deviate off topic nothing gets solved that way. Each of you should list your gripes with each other and go through the list,pick a time where you can really talk( no TV, no phones).  It will take a few tries before you can get through it with out yelling. No name calling and no blameing, start sentences like "going foward  blah blah blah"Cleaning? write up all the chores that need to get done and you together, divvy them up, then once chores are committed to on paper, its a non issue. The hard thing is  understanding that you don't get everything you want anymore it's all about 50/50( which sucks sometimes, but that's life) And there is no shame in meeting with somebody once a week if that's what you guys need, its not easy, it's one of the most stressful times in  your life. In some cases your insurance will cover it under adult therapy or under the the wide range of depression (even though its not,they just bill it that way and its legit because the situation makes you sad and stressed, don't feel labeled as depressed). Best of luck to you both
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The best thing for you to do not discuss it anymore because he's expecting it and to start paying more attention to your needs. Such as, going out to dinner, getting your nails done, taking a class, voluntering at a local hospital, something that is positive and will show him that hey, you have a life and you're not going to bother him with anymore questions. All because you have better things to do.
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TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
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I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
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The only thing that you can really do is tell him all that you have just told us. And no offense, but from your question, it sounds like you concern yourself with material things and appearances more than you really should.
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Yes, I have told b/fs about the bd things bout me, if you don't let him know, and he finds out later, to me that's like lieing, in order to love and be loved, you have to let the bad things out as well.  Your partner is suppose to your best friend in all the world, if this is true, then you should be able to tell them anything and everything.
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You should be applauded for your deep sensitivity in caring about the X. AT least write her a letter stating how you feel and letting her know of your current situation - or an E-mail. Just remember it is natural to feel as you do, but it does not have to change things with your current lover/fiance. Remember time cures all . This will fade naturally . Trust yourself and your good intentions with your fiance.It is only one of a billion memories you will have in your life- not a big deal. Go on and live your life happily and lovingly so. Best to you.