Why do women stay in abusive relationships?
150553
Usually it's a learned behavior, they may have been abused while they were younger or even watched as another person was abused; Mother/Father.  They need to get work on their self-confidence, get some therapy and gain strength on their own before they get into another relationship.
488150
In the early stages of any relationship, it's easy to have blinders on. To not want to see who and what the other person is made of. Don't be too hard on yourself, you aren't the only person in the world who has done this, and god only knows you won't be the last! \nMy question to you is this....Now that you know this info...what are you going to do with it? \nHoney don't stay with someone who emotionally, sexually, or physically abuses you. You deserve so much more!!!
359150
Are these girls still living? \nAs long as women still think it is normal to be beaten up by men who profess to "Love" them they will never be fully emancipated. Come on ladies it's the 21st century for gods sake!
743442
When we are in love we are willing to look past things-this doesn't mean that it is necessarily going to be a good result.  We see hope for a better future, we wish for the best, and we are more likely to forgive.  Unfortunately for those who are emotionally and physically abused, their self esteem continues to deteriorate until there is barely anything left.  When someone feels this low it is hard for them to realize they deserve better-they need good friends to keep encouraging them to be brave and to walk away from the abuse.  They have to take control over their own lives and start building themselves back up again.  This is very common - My tip-don't let abuse get away on you-at the first sign walk away-every woman deserves better!
1134541
I don't believe in abuse of women or anybody unless it is in self-defense.  HOWEVER, I have playfully slapped female friends when they were getting a little annoying, but the slaps were playful and painless.  I have punched guys, though, and got into lots of fights with guys when I was younger.\n\nDon't hit girls unless it's playful and harmless, and the girls know that it is just for fun.  Otherwise, it is abuse.  If your sanity is in jeopardy, stop hanging around with those girls for a while and cool off.
229637
I'm sorry about what happened to you and your family.  \nI can't understand why women put up with abuse, either.  I can only imagine that it's because those men have a power over the women's minds.
218414
Because feminists have stereotyped men as abusers . . . when VAWA (a woman's organization) did a report several years ago . . . which shows that women abuse men more . . . plus they abuse their children more than men.  Of course the number men who abuse women went up . . . so did the other numbers . . . but that is what they focused on when speaking to congress . . . that is why men don't get a fair shake . . .
301395
I was in a very abusive relationship and then jumped into another one (verbal only).  To break the cycle I turned to group therapy and individual counseling.  You don't need an abusive partner, respect yourself enough to realize that anyone who treats you like this doesn't love you.  \n\nGet as far away from this situation as possible.  It's not unusual to still love them, but remember, it's an unhealthy love and therapy can help you learn that.  It's weird but you need to retrain yourself in how to find someone who is healthy.  It probably stems from something in your childhood, and you need to work thru that.  Good Luck!
679384
A very complicated question, but I think the following generalization applies many times:  if an insecure woman (and there are many) get properly abused by a guy, they subconsciously think that he must be better than her.  Why?  Because he's confident enough to treat her badly, and she's going to love it because she's hanging with a better guy than her.  If he didn't feel superior, he wouldn't risk treating her bad for fear that she would leave.  It's human nature to want to be with people better than you.  This is an overly simplistic answer, but it's more or less the fundamentals of it.
718919
Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
503596
Because they don't want to be the 'bad guy' and do the breaking up. They are cowards who would rather the girl did the dirty work for them. \n\nActually plenty of women do this too.\n\nWould people please just be honest with one another about your feelings!
285768
Do not stay in any relationship that is not healthy. ABUSE WILL ESCALATE, WHETHER IT BE VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY. You are a worthy person and deserve the up most respect. Talk to a close friend that you trust or your parents. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, YOU ARE A SPECIAL PERSON!!!
633255
Women often stay in those types of relationships because they think they can't do any better than that (i.e., low self-esteem).  They also may not think they can "make it" on their own, especially if they do not have a college education.
410083
Now, this is a very interesting and intriguing question. Actually, the issues are really big since the victim would always be doubtful about your every move. She can't stop but think she could get abused again. But, if the man makes her feel real comfortable at first and gain her complete trust, there would not be any issue later. I would go out with someone like you but would want you to letme know whenever you feel insecure with me. That would, by itself, slowly get you feel secure and then move easily with me.
300025
people fight and us women are so emotional...we get over it though...physical abuse isn't by any means right...see what drives her to get so pissed and help her thruogh it..it also helps to walk away on a self time out when things get heated...love without fights are in fantasy worlds only..everone has altercations it's how we deal with them and how we choose to forgive...good luck dear...she may need counceling for her anger issues it only helps...no diss intended...anger managment can be a good thing even when you think nothings wrong...higher learning is your result and thats always a good thing.
851596
How about for the simplest of reasons:  Victims of domestic violence DO have another alternative -- get the f**k out of that abusive environment!
973572
Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)