why are men so difficult when it comes to any kind of relationship?
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Being a guy, I think guys are pretty simple and the ladies are the ones who are difficult to understand.\n\nHere is an example.  If a guy wants to go out, he'll say, let's go out on a big night on the town.\n\nIf a lady wants to go out, many will not DIRECTLY say this.  They'll say things like, "I wish you were more romantic" or when shopping they'll say, "Oh, I like that dress, I wish I had somewhere to wear it."\n\nLadies, guys are pretty simple, we are very direct, and for the most part, if we are not saying anything, then things are fine.  We are NOT holding things in like many of you might be.\n\nWe don't see relationships with different levels. (What does it mean when you say, lets take this to the next level.)\n\nWe want to be appreciated, we want to be respected, and we want you to rock our worlds in the bedroom.  For the most part, thats it.  We want you to be our friends, companions and lovers.\n\nWe don't want you to take us on as a project.  We are people, not fix-it-uppers.  If you don't like who we are, then find one you do like, or learn to live with the fact that men and women are different.\n\nWe are emotional, do you see how excited we get a sporting events.\n\nWe don't get excited about a marriage or our friends new baby.  But our hears are broken when our buddies 1970 Chevelle SS is smashed by some idiot soccer mom paying more attention to her phone than piloting her SUV full of kids.\n\nI think we are pretty simple, different, but simple.\n\nFinally, we are not mind readers, so if you want to go to dinner at a certain restaurant, here is the secret code phrase, "Honey, I want to go to Chez Spiffy's sometime, do you want to make the reservations or should I?"
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One of the true difficulties of life.  Both men and women play the game - letting on only a little at a time.\n\nThe only way you will know is to let out a little rope and see if he does the same...scary isn't it!
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Not all men are the same.  There are some who finds it challenging to be beaten by women.
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Guys are not confusing. We are TERRIFIED of making a mistake. So we do nothing, say nothing. Better to be safe.\n\nBlame it on society. We are the breadwinners, the soldiers of the family, the protectors, the primary money makers.\n\nNow, everyone tells us this - but NO ONE tells us how to do all these things! So we stumble along in life, learning on our own these things. Does not build "character," just makes us an emotional wreck. That is why you read about so many guys "loosing it" and ending up doing amazingly stupid things.\n\nOnce we figure it all out, we make great companions. But it just takes a long time. Be patient, be kind, and it all works out in the end.
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Some guys are afraid to open up and as they are afraid of being hurt, teased, ridiculed, etc. Trust me when I say that it can be anything from something as petty as shyness stopping them to something as serious as major mental problems. It all depends on the guy. No matter how close you are to a guy, it takes a wee bit o' time before he can really begin to trust enough to open up and then there are guys like me....who open up and are honest from the word 'go'. I recommend a book titled: Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus. It is both a good read as well as offers great insight into both the male and female aspects of a relationship.
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Men's minds are a whole world that is probably very dangerous to go any further into. But they do tend to mentally mature at a slower rate than women do. It's all that testosterone, I bet.
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Women and men communicate differently and we need to be aware of this. Men are straight to the point when they talk and sometimes their words can sound strict or hurtful to the woman who speaks with feelings and emotions and flowery words. Men become frustrated with all the floweriness and don't listen to the message hidden within. We need to respect the way each other talks and find the meaning within. That way we can learn to get along.
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It hard for some of us guys to get over relationships too.\n\nYour used to having that person there, talking to that person.  \n\nIt's hard to get ready of an old pair of jeans or an old pair of shoes.  Your used to them and they became a part of you for a while.\n\nJust give it time.  Meet people.  Do things. It helps.
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Why do say MORE difficult?? Have you ever tried forgetting a woman? Let me put aside the idea that you're bisexual...\n\nMen are hard to forget simply because they are different from woman (obviously, i know) and once we've captured them in our hearts, we are hooked.\n\nMost women who have a strong relationship will feel wanted and needed by their lovers. And unfortunately, women crave and hunger for that type of attention. And once we have it, we're trapped.. and most of the time, blinded. That's why it's tough to forget and let it go.
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My my.. and I'd think that men are sayin the exact same thing..\nWhy in the world are women so complicated.\n\nWell, we seem complicated to each other because we have different ways of thinking, hence its complicated to them because they do not understand how we think, and they are complicated to us because we do not understand how THEY think.
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BC men are warriors and built for battle, our bodies are not made to be cuddled and spoiled w/ affection... instead we are built to withstand physical abuse.\n\nWhereas women are softer and need reassurance that they are protected by the man.
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most men like easy A**. and they are scared of responsible and commitment
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I've been wondering about this lately too.  I've never been in a same-sex relationship (yet)...but I'm convinced that men and women are soooooooo different in their priorities, ways of communicating, and needs that it probably would be easier to be in a relationship with a woman.  Unfortunately, I am MOSTLY attracted to men...and obviously, pro-creating would be much more difficult in same sex relationships!\n\nI think the real answer is for both sexes to try harder to compromise and understand each others' needs better and that might help.  But it still seems impossible sometimes for couples to make it in the long run.
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men dont like the whole relationship thing simply because they get a tied down feeling....i think its alot like getting old,.... we dont want to do it mainly because we know there are things we have to give up.   maybe because we are not able to do them....
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It's not easy, usually us guys tend to think were bothering you, we usually won't call unless we have a reason for it. Just give him a reason to call, borrow something, need help, etc.
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men have huge pride and authority issues. If they show their feelings, to them, it's like showing a weakness. Just because they don't say it doesn't mean they don't feel it. they just don't like to show their weaknesses, because then they're not manly anymore.
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if you find the answer tell me plz. Guys are hard to understand, they never know what they want and are too prideful, well most guys.