I have a housemate who is a narcisist and alienates me from my other housemates-how dare i speak to them help!
153010
There are two ways you can deal with this situation, your choice depending on your own view over your relanshionship with that person, or your personality.\n1. You can confront her in front of the other housemates (not speak bad things about her behind her back) but rather say how bad she's been treating you, in front of everyone so she'll feel ashamed and possibly not do that again. If you feel you haven't won the confrontation in the end just say (be sure your other friends are there) "You are such a b**ch, you know that!". This is only if you feel extreme pain at what she did to you, and want to get back at her. BUT, if you're willing to forgive her, and you care about her very much there is another way to handle the situation:\n2. Usually this things occur when one person feels frustrated with himself for one reason or another and then she takes it out by lashing at other, let's say more "timid" persons, in this case you. It is possible that, that person has love problems, or other problems. If you know of her having one such major problem, you should confront her in private and talk about her problem, try to listen to her and be suportive. Try to find out if she has a problem from her other friends, If no one knows about it, it doesn't mean she doesn't have one (it means only that she keeps it to herself and because of this she becomes incresingly frustrated). So, if no one knows about it you should confront her and ask: "What's wrong?". Her first answer will be "Nothing", but you have to continue "Oh come on, I know something's wrong" and give your reasons "You have been acting strange all the time(for example)".\nSo, you have two ways to deal with this. You either can be caring and gentle, or you can be agressive and stand up to yourself. From here, it's up to you, and how you feel in your heart you should act :). Good luck.
883501
File a complaint.  It's bad enough that she's disturbing everyone but if she's going to act stupid... why even listen to her?  Call the MPs and let them handle the situation; I'm sure that there are rules and regulations for everyone to follow.  Good luck and best wishes.
351541
There's not anything you can do ... just keep going in and being yourself,if you go in now and act all weird she'll pick-up on it and it will make the problem worse.Believe me all she wants to do is forget about it.
842973
Go find another place to live.  It's obvious this person is bothering you.  If you're worried about being raped, it's a no-brainer -- LEAVE!!
49360
you cant...however if this person pushes you away constantly, tell them how you feel, if that doesnt help, leave them be, sooner or later, they will come to terms
447358
Tell them you have to go somewhere. They will get the hint! Also, this really works, so don't laugh. If you stand a broom with the bristles up, right beside your door, it will keep away the people that you don't want to have at your house. :)\n\nBlessed Be!
1120258
Just make it increasingly uncomfortable for them - they'll get the message.   I've seen that happen (to me) and it didn't take long to figure out that I wasn't welcome... I moved on to greener pastures. \n\nYou might start by turning over a new leaf and changing a bunch of stuff around - then just keep on mentioning one more little thing...    \n\nLeave some apartment finder guides around the house too. \n\nCheers!
371989
Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
137498
I grant you exhibitionism is annoying, but can't you just close the curtains on the side of your house facing them?  It seems a shame for you to move out just because of that.  It's sort of like letting them control your life, isn't it?\n\nHave you tried asking them to close their curtains?
501135
Just don't hang out with them anymore.  Don't call them or email them, don't talk to them.  They'll get the point.  If they care, they'll ask you what's wrong.  If they don't, good riddance.
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
1187801
This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.
87560
If you're really frustrated living there, I would look into a different living situation, if financially possible.  Maybe live with friends/roommates if money's an issue. (That seems to be the main reason most ppl live with family.)\n\nBut while you're still there, work on communication with them.  Suggest a time when you guys can talk, and tell them about your concerns.  Using the "I" language helps reduce defensive behavior.  So, instead of saying "You never listen to me", try saying "I feel I'm not being listened to".  The first version can come out sounding accusatory, whether you mean it or not.  They'll hear the second version as you communicating your feelings.  \n\nGood luck!
996292
Stop trying to make them get along and don't hang out with them at the same time.\nThey probably don't like the idea of having to share you.
314540
Was raised in a house like that.  Believe me, I understand. I used to go to my room just to shut them out.  As far as the workplace, it's hard because you actually want to get along.  If we don't participate, people will soon learn that we are not going to fan their fires and turn away from us.  If they are face-to-face, I just have a blank stare for a short time and that reflects to them their words, not my reactions.
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
1109569
I would personally address this ex friend of yours and let her know that you are fine with the situation, and her cowering in the other room could make others uncomfortable, not to mention...it does make her look a little childish.  Hopefully that should resolve that particular problem, and if this is the way she acts, then I can see why she is your ex friend.