would it be better to be loved and forgotten or to be feared and always remembered?
155150
I would rather be loved and forgotten.  Love is the ultimate. It would be terrible to be feared like Hitler and always remembered.
220765
I have been the reciepent of both.  The scars run deep and are life long.  However, with time you start not dwelling on it every day of your life, only when someone asks about it.  It is very humiliating and demeaning, and uncalled for. I will never get over it, it is always with me.  I have tried putting it in the dark recesses of my mind and have pretty much succeeded.  I really don't want to talk about the details.  Hope this has answered some of your questions.
389908
now is the time. "it better to have loved and lost then to not have..."
568205
I am not, and I will never be, because I shall always be striving hard to be genuinely that person. . . If I could reach that (theoritically), then why should I continue to live? . . .\n\nOnly those who love me truly percieve me as "perfect", it is their love, not my qualities. . .
987668
Try reading a bit on both Dependent Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder; along with Anxiety Disorders as these (the varied anxiety disorders) address irrational beliefs/fears.    Your question, based upon what you wrote afterwards, sounds less about "creating fear" and more about "filling a void...a hole in our soul" so to speak.  We need to learn to tackle our fears in ways that are not destructive to ourselves or others, facing them, journaling about them, talking to someone we trust and feel very safe with.  A direct answer to the question you posed, in my opinion, would be, "Yes.  We can obsess over our fears of impending doom or losing someone, etc.  That obsession can then immobilize us with overwhelming fear and anxiety."  Hope that helps.
706238
On the front         " It is better to have loved and lost...."\non the back        " than be stuck with some psycho for the rest of your life!"
507088
Yeah, unfortunately, many of us feel that way, though our loved ones usually think we're crazy when we say so--and they often feel the same way about us. We should love ourselves more than that. We should think often that we're fabulous and that no one could do better than us. Imagine what we could do if we thought that way as much as we think the other?
740853
There is an evolutionary advantage to fearing the unknown... or at least being prudent when encountering something unknown. Knowledge is safety... it allows you to discern whether something is dangerous or not. An "unknown" is something that could potentially kill you. In prehistoric times, an instinctive fear of the unknown would keep a child safe inside the cave at night away from the saber-toothed tigers - hence, this gene trait would continue to be passed on.
731129
No, you should treat everyone as you would like to be treated, not as they have treated you.  Can you imagine a society that is out to get everyone at every turn that would be horrible.  Show that you are a better person, by forgiving them and moving on.  Since you have lost trust with this person it is best to just leave them behind.  Why it hurts so much is because they have betrayed your trust.  They were disrespectful and wrong.  I am sure you have heard the phrase forgive and forget, forgive them, but move on.  Forgetting will take time and showing them you are a better person by not reacting the way you want but how you should will make both of you better in the future.
881481
better to have loved then to have never loved at all.\n\n\nlife doesnt give you what you want, life gives you who you are.
969435
I believe that "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."  I would rather know the feelings of love than to go my entire life without it.
1145962
Depends on what you plan to do when you see your "very old friend/worst enemy." If you're out to make amends with him/her, that's one thing, but if you're out for revenge, I'd classify it as obsession.
248438
It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
39620
No one possesses the wisdom to know what is best in the long run.  We might succeed in making our lives more comfortable but cause unbearable suffering to some future generation.  Or we might change the forces that caused us to be born at all.  In which case we would not be born to make the change and cause a paradox.  \nWhich might be cool.
92696
Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.\nWhen you get a chance, love with all your heart and passion!\n(and hope that you lose)
376524
The past shapes what we are today. Good and bad memories both will influence your judgement. Consciously using memories can reduce the risk of prejudices because you are aware of the foundation of your judgements.\n \nGood memories can as well help live through adversity - the knowledge that things can go right. While really bad memories might be hard to shake of - the experience of things going really wrong.
1121823
No doubt love is important,but if you have some responsibilities to perform and love is coming in the way and you are disturbed as you are not true to any one of then.my advise is take your responsibilities like a man and if you have to sacrifice your love for responsibilities,sacrifice that...Just look at martyrs,you will get the answer.