what is he wants when he asks u to leave for good but still cries for 2 hours?
146658
It means it isn't an easy decision for him to make but one that he feels he must.  He is just hurting and will get over it eventually.
779317
These people that are calling you "stupid" or saying "wise up" and all of these cut and dry answers are not being very sensitive. The way he is making you feel has got to stop.  That much is true. It's not as easy as all of these bumper-sticker type answers that you are receiving.  Like me, these people are not in your shoes, it's easy to say to "wise up" or some of the other suggestions. You are the only one that knows your entire set of circumstances. One thing, you say that you "convey" how it hurts and you are the type of person to laugh to keep from crying.  The very next time he calls you stupid or makes you feel like a low-life, don't hold back your tears! Don't just "convey" your feelings to him.  Cry your eyes out!  Show him immediately how badly it hurts you when he makes you feel that way.  You have got to overcome this "internalizer" thing you say that you are.  It will be hard I am sure.  It's been alot of years that you have held back what's going on with you deep down emotionally.  He is probably the last person on earth you could really feel like you could talk to about this.  If you want to cope with it, you have to bring it out in a big way to him and then see how he reacts to how hurt you truly are by seeing your emotions when you let them out. You may be pleasantly surprised. He may not realize how serious the problem is because you have never really let him know.  See how he reacts to your true emotions over the long period of time that you have held back and then take it from there.
297939
Depends on if he works or goes to school, he may be letting you know that he will not be there. If it is after the hours and he is there, then I would wonder why he dosen't want you calling.
780748
It sounds like need to move on. He is not satisfying your needs and he has anger issues. What are you trying to hold on to? It is obvious that he doesn't do it for you in more ways than one. Cut your losses and move on. Make that a birthday gift to yourself.
254078
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
372837
You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
720130
If after two years he states this to you, he obviously knows what he wants.  I know it hurts, but you can go on.  You may be lonely and want this man or a relationship, but think about this.  Try to involve yourself in other activities such as volunteering to give yourself that sense of pride that no one, not even a man can take away from you.  Move on.. one day at a time.  perleo@yahoo.com
144808
You need to cry.\nLet it out.
603216
Sweetheart, I went through years of hell with a man just like that; I stayed for my kids, and threw my life away.  I waited till the youngest was 15, then left.  My kids ALL said "what the hell took you so long- why didnt you leave him years ago", and when I said I had stayed for them, they called me all kinds of stupid, because they had been really unhappy and ashamed because everyone knew their father was a lush. I am 65 now, and just getting my life back.  What you have there is a self-centred, cold, thoughtless bastard who doesnt give a damn about you or the kids, hon, or he wouldnt treat you like a walking paypacket/ servant.  If you gave up your job and stayed at home what would he call you when he couldn't afford his drink and drugs?? YOU HAVE A LIFE; he has ruined his, dont let him ruin your OR your kids Get out of there girl; wheres YOUR anchor- he thinks its in your head, doesnt he? What this guy needs is an anchor tied round his neck and a swimming lesson.  Be brave; the first step is the hardest, but you can do this; do it for your kids, and do it for YOU.  God bless and keep you, and good luck in the great future you have waiting for you.
1110169
If it's just for a short time, then maybe you did something to make him mad.  Ask him, so you can clear it up.\nAnother possibility is he is worried about something (job, school, health) and it isn't because of you at all.  Again, you need to ask him so you can help or share his problem.\nA third possibility is he's wanting to break up, but just hasn't told you yet.  Might as well get it out in the open, so ask him.\nIf he won't answer, check with a friend of his.  Maybe he's told his friend what is bothering him.
394283
It is a hard thing to do I would be able to give better advice if I knew more of the situation. Just tell him you are sick of being hurt everytime you go out and end it before things get worse. Or talk to him about what he is doing and maybe he would be willing to fix the problem
92231
In a dating relationship, leaving when he most needs you is gonna make his hurt all the worse.\nPlus if you leave now he will know he can never trust you again. and there will be no later. \ngive him time he needs, if it was YOU in his position how would you feel if he dumped you? \nsmart choice is be strong, and patient. once he is emotionally stable again then if you decide to leave you can do so with a clear conscience. \nor if you don;t care how he feels. then by all means leave. but don;t expect him to welcome you back with open arms if you find him diserable again. he is more then likely to return the pain you gave him.
918202
I am not a man, but couldn't resist answering this one.  He doesn't want you to be out all night long, he is thinking if you are out all night long then you are spending the night with another man.  He says he is glad you don't care anymore, but his actions speak louder than words.  Keep on acting like you don't care and see how fast he wants to come back home.
401907
i think u should be honest..tell him exactly wat u've told us..if u want even mail him this question..show him how much u care for him..that u want others help in order not to hurt him..don't accuse him just ask him if he's happy where he's staying..no one reacts well wen being accused or screamed at..try to remember that..hope he opens his eyes to wats happening..take care
473475
wait till your official office hours are over- then if you leave and he calls, its his fault- not yours
628083
tell him ur 2 year old daughter died this morning.. he wont say nethin after that i promise
485763
that's kind of hard, he might still b upset with u 4 leaving him, my advice spend some time with him and c how he acts, if the vibe is good then try flirting with him a lil, but i think the best thing 2 do is let him know how u feel, tell him your sorry 4 what happened and that u were going through a ruff period.