o my boyfrind is ready to have sex but i am not i love him alot but i am scared that if i don't he will dumpme
144026
Honey, if he'd not willing to wait. Then he dosen't love you and respect you. Remember you are a woman no matter what anyone tells you, sex dose not make you anymore a woman that what you are right now. Be smart, kick snoopy to the grib.
1129251
depends on how old you are,if you're below 16,I'd Say yes it's too early,if you're older then I'd say there are no real rules,what really matters is how do you feel about having sex with him? Do you trust & love him enough to take that next step?And more do you feel like having sex ,do you feel ready for it? According to me it's the only valuable question you should ask yourself,your feelings have got nothing to do with any schedule.
1123282
dont feel like you have to do it just because hes ready... if your not ready then dont do it you dont want to end be 15 and pregnant like i was... when your ready youll know it and you can tell him if he loves you hell wait till your ready... trust me its so much better when your ready too. good luck
385974
hmmmmm  ......... ur fear is of loosing ur man and not of being horny ....... \n\ntalk to him n ask him if he wants sex ...... some guys wud luv to fu*k a pregnant girl while others wud simply feel guilty ........ \n\nin any case intercourse is outta the question n i m thinkin oral is the way to go .... \n\nur man is different from the rest n thats y u chose him so ask him n not others .....
251474
If you don't want to, you are not obligated to do so. Sex is a great thing, and it is to be made with the correct person at the correct time. Just tell him that you don't want to; if he's your real friend, he will understand and respect your decision.
755381
If your asking than your not ready.  Don't do anything.  Trust me, there is time enough later when your more comfortable with the idea and the responsibility that sex brings.
251012
But if he loves you he will wait until your ready ,dont do anything you dont want to  boys will say anything to get you to sleep with them ,trust your own feelings .
689885
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
78275
If you "do it" with him, do not have any false expectations that he will become your boyfriend. You will be disappointed and you will not feel any better about yourself. You will feel used. Better to find a real boyfriend who likes you for something other than just sex.
546519
listen, if you don't know how to tell him, then that right there is a sure sign you're not ready. you need to feel comfortable talking about it, including birth control & protection. make sure you're really ready and that includes talking to him. just my advice.
574323
There's a lot more issues than whether you're "ready" and how long you can wait.  Contrary to stereotype, not every male is instantly ready for sex at every opportunity.  If you can't grasp this then you're not emotionally ready for sex, or even a serious relationship.  If you as a couple can't discuss this issue openly then the two of you aren't ready for sex.
562854
Wait until you are ready.  Don't be pressured into it.  Tell him you're not ready, if he really cares about you he'll be happy to wait until you are ready. If he carries on pressuring you he doesn't really care and only wants sex, and you're worth so much more than that.
988843
Don't have sex if you are not 100% ready
63688
if YOU want to have sex, then by all means do it!  but if it is HIM that is pressuring you, you need to tell him that you are not ready yet.  if he loves you, he will wait.  'til then, there are plenty of other things that you can do to keep each other satisfied.
206802
Well if you are scared then that means that you are not ready and you need to wait for the time when you are ready for it. Also try talking to him about it and see how he feels about it and maybe he feels the same way you do. Then again he might not just let him know who you feel. You never know how it might turn out!
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
967512
You should hold out until you feel it is right to have sex with him.  If you have sex with him right away becasue you really like him and think he will be with you because you gave into him, there would be a good chance he will dump you because he thinks you sleep around.  If you hold out to long and he leaves you, then he was using you and he isn't worth being with.  You will know in your heart when it's the right time.