anyone know how to overcome a bad rep?
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If your bad reputation has spawned from something that puts a damper on your life, then maybe it should be removed, bad reputations usually have some truth to it.However if your rep has been created from something that should not be chastised, be your self and those who doesn't accept you for you don't deserve to be your friend anyway. I know this is easier said than done but pretending to be some one you are not will make you very depressed and lonely.Just be truthful!
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Just be yourself and don't worry about ignorant people who think they are better than you. These people have to degrade you to make themselves feel better. Let them call you names, joke about how you function in the world, and laugh at your personality,etc., it's just their way of turning the spotlight away from themselves because they are afraid if you look too closely at "them", you may find a few flaws. If they would turn on their brights, they would realize everyone is different; has bad points and good points; and acceptance brings people closer. Maybe they are just sooooo unhappy, they want to drag you down to their dungeon to suffer with them. Try extending an olive branch or making a peace offering, and if that does not work, forget about them, do your own thing, and sooo politely tell them to kiss your arse.   \nP.S.  I am a Redneck, shhhhhh....don't tell anybody!!(:
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Be friendly to them.  Really friendly.  Apologize as if it were your fault, but not in a weak way - just say you're sorry, you'll fix the problem, if there's something you can offer them, do it.  Take care of it, but stay above it, if you know what I mean.  And in your mind, know that other people are with you, and that this person is just making a fool of themselves.  If you stay cool, you win.  Also, keep in mind that the rude person probably has major problems, and it's pretty pathetic that they have to take out their frustrations on someone they don't even know.  And if all that fails, imagine them as the children they once were, and wonder what terrible things must have happened to them, to turn them into such mean adults.
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Find an accountability partner -- a spouse or a good friend that's around you a lot.  Make sure that person calls attention to you every time to swear.  You're probably swearing more than you think you are.\n\nCome up with some sort of "fine" for every offense; perhaps a quarter or a dollar that will eventually go to your favorite charity.  The combination of a partner and some "skin" in the game should give you the proper incentive to rid yourself of the habit.
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I've done some work with such people on a day to day basis  and, for what its worth, I found forgetting the problem and focusing on the person worked best! Find something that interests them, use that as a reward for less satisfying pursuits and don't think of them as a 'case' but as a fellow human being and treat them as such. (Token economies are useful too - earning tokens or counters for good behaviour which can later be exchanged for various 'treats', traded in for an outing etc).\n\nIt may take some time, but once they trust you they're likely to gradually open up and take an interest in what you think etc; then it becomes easier - 'pleasing' you can become a reward in itself and you can often get them to do things no one else has managed. (But be careful of sexual overtones etc., that can get problematic)
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Ask to speak with their Supervisor or tell them to call back when they get a better attitude.  Your the one who should be aggressive, it's your credit and money!
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Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
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dont do business with people you dont know..use common sense\n\n\nif you have doubts ..and you obviously do, dont do business with them...
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i had that prob for a while and its really disheartening when people refuse you when you know u could be better than some of the lazy scum bags who work there. just keep at it and dont give up someone will value your skills....good luck!!
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Practice saying no.\nYou can't please everyone.
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First thing is to make sure you are getting the service you deserve. Make a few calls, (get names!) and offer to send faxes of the documentation. Then, after a month of no action, find the information for the city property tax appraiser. Tell him/her you want a re-appraisal based on the failure of the city/county to clean the property. If you get no action in 30 days, hire a professional property appraiser, then send the lowered property valuation to him/her. You can use the lower tax to do the clean up, or you can watch Mr. Tax-Man do his little jig and dance. They may not promise to do it with a certain period of time. Tell him you either want the property taxed at the new, lower, assement amount, or cleaned. You may have to hire a shyster. My folks did after Charlie, and came out even. But put the bug in their ear. They are there BECAUSE you pay taxes. Always call the lowest man in the totem pole. (I.e., the county tax person.) He/She don't want to lose a nice, cushy job. And they, in some places, have pull to increase a property value.
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Don't fell bad about being rejected. Everybody gets rejected. You will get over it in time.
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If you are looking to get old customers back, write a letter or flyer and give them a reason. You have to make them an offer they can't refuse and then make good on the offer if they do come back. Track your efforts so you will know what works and what doesn't. Use email if you have a list (DO NOT SPAM if you do it will come back to bite you.)\n\nI have used this method and it does work. So give it a shot.
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I have found that when I try to hold a grudge it's usually harder if that person is making an effort to be cool wit me.  I think you should probably send him a card a explain exactly what you've explained here.  Give him a day or 2 to chew on it then try calling him.  If after that he's still holdin a grudge F*ck him.  It'll be more trouble than its worth.
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first you have to come up w/ answers to all of their excuses.  spend a little time on their side before just going after them.  offer them advice and options on how to best solve the problem.  you also have to learn to remove yourself from feeling guilty.  know that you did not put them in the situation they are in and also know that you are doing a job and it is nothing personal.  there should be training aids provided by your company to counter any response given by a customer, check into that.
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Find 3 or more (up to five) qualities that other\npeople don't have. Add them up and realize that you were put on this earth for a Damn REASON, that you are as good or even better than other dudes and don't slump your shoulders. I hated myself for so long until I was about 23, when other people had to tell me that I was good and a good friend to have around, that a lot of people found me attractive. Email me your circumstances.muirmatt@yahoo.com
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Why bother to lower yourself to his level?  I would think that you would want to forget the bad times and start making good times.  Use your energy to find another partner/mate/pal or whatever you call him and develop some great new memories to blot out the sour of the old.  Remember this, ugly harbors ugly.