im talkin to a girl but i miss my wife.?
155381
Sounds like your wife si coming around to make sure you are still going to be her back up. Just incase the one guy doesn't go so well she'll have you around. She can't let her little doggy get to far away on his leash. She has to snap you back. Since you have been talking to this other woman now, she has to make sure she reels you in. If you are the honest no gaming guy then she knows you'll tell this other girl. If you don't and reject her, well she gets the pleasure to break it to the woman. I would suggest you tell the other woman and send the wife back to the alley. Stay clear away from her ro you'll end up on a choker chain like a good little dog.
285239
Um...yeah...your not a very decent man. Hate to sound mean here, but I say go with the one you ran off with and let your wife find someone who will treat her better.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.
452323
Get on messanger and have your do same you can chat to each other about all the little things that happen daily that you are missing by not being together. It is also a lot easier to be honest about feelings in writing, maybe when she hears how you are really feeling you'll find out she feels the same and decide to stop having a long distance marriage. Find out what your priorities are. Your family or money. If you can find time to have a "FRIEND?" You have time for your wife. Remember your sacred vow to love her till death. Would you want her doing what you are thinking of, because you know  looking for a friend may sound harmless but it won't stay that way. Please try and be more realitic.
108004
It's true that by now she might be married, but who knows, she might still be single and thinking about you too. I think it's either love or maybe you just need to clear up your feelings for this girl. Sometimes the only way to do thid is to go to her and once you are there with her, and tell her how you feel, you will know. Go find her and clear things up with her. Hope this helps, and good luck!!! :0)
354421
buddy the last thing you want is for your woman to want you only for your money. look if she goes with the other chap well consider yourself saved. its hard but welcome to the real world. life goes on! cheers. there will be other women believe me.
994239
damn son!! you can write. that's the problem about love from 1 side only. nothing good could come out from it. i guess you'd heard about time will heal all wounds. in your case it will take longer than usual. keep yourself busy. join an activity. trow away any things that reminds you of her. have a good cry. and try not to stay @ the same place as you both once shared. and why do you still consider her as a saint. she's a ho. face it and call her that. you'll feel better.
759798
Look, Dude.  Fantasize all you want but don't act upon it.  Once you cross that line, you fu*ck up everyones life.  Enjoy her in your mind.  Bring your passion for her home to your wife.  Sooner or later, you'll let it go.  It's just a harmless crush, unless you move on it.  Don't.
252315
Hey this is me again...I don't know if I'm getting this or not..Are you saying that you are married but also want another woman, and that if your wife loves you she will accept it?  Wow, isn't that asking alot from your wife?  Not that I'm judging you.  I am the last person in this world that has a right to judge anybody!!Can I e-mail your e-mail address maybe you need a friend right now?
951804
been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
558353
Hello nic@nite! This sometimes happens wen we are missing something in our lives that we once cherished a lot! This is a way by which our subconscious lets us know that we need to do something to fill that void. It may or may not have anything to do wth that girl, but it surely has a lot to do with how you felt wen u were with her. Pls do a bit of intropspection and find out wat aspect in ur life is 'suffering', be it emotional, n so on.. I'm sure dat u wont be hurting again if you do dat, as it is just a reminder to let you know that u need someone or maybe just urself to fill that void. Blessings!
453677
Dude if it hurts you to talk to her than I would avoid her. I went through a similar situation years ago. When you're with someone for a while and you develop strong feelings, it's hard to just get rid of those feelings. So if talking to her brings back any of those feelings you should avoid her.\n\nThere are plenty of other women out there man. Get out, do things you enjoy doing and soon those feelings will disappear. Hang in there bro. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
36812
How long have you been married?  From a women's point view you def. need to talk with your wife, tell her your hopes and dreams for your marriage, let her know you still care and that you'll be there for her.  Why? Because you still love her.  But let her decide what she wants.  She said she needs time, give it to her, but don't lose touch with her.
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
51201
Let her go. I'm so sorry to say this but you will be better off. You have the right and oblogation to be a good father to your girl. Any woman who truely loves you would understand that.
325967
why don't you just call her and ask her if she's missin' you?  Skip the other stuff--she just might be trying to repair the damage you 've done by pretending to be attracted to someone else-