If you move in with a man and he still has all of his ex's things there how would you feel?
147928
It sounds as though he has not achieved closure in his first relationship. Until he does, it will most likely continue to haunt your current situation.\n\nSince this marriage was "forced," the timing may not have been right. He will always have a link to his ex via his children, but it sounds like he has a bond to her, too. That needed to be broken before he moved on. Now, if you try to insist that he break it, it will probably cause turmoil and resentment between the two of you.\n\nIt's frustrating when a spouse has to pay a lot of child support. That's something you know going in, and you have to be prepared to deal with it. If not, it will become handy fodder during fights.\n\nIt sounds like a case of bad timing all around. It's possible that it can be salvaged, but your husband would have to be willing to implement a plan to make a complete break from his ex (other than things having to do with the children) and you would have to make a plan to deal with the financial frustration.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
848572
Now, I would find it strange if someone said that their ex was better than their new man.  He shouldn't be your new man if you can say that!!
879823
Kind of hard to answer without knowing the specifics, and it really depends on the relationship all 3 of you have.\nI lived with my ex and his fiancee for a while, which was slightly awkward but mainly worked out OK, but that was only for a few weeks, not a permanent arrangement. I think to answer we need to know WHY you're in that situation, and what it is you need to know about it. Good luck.
902555
It's YOUR stuff.\nYou can do with it as your please.\nProbably good move getting your stuff while they were gone.
974571
I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?
62441
i would not forget about him, if he is moving there then i would get his address and write him it might not be the best thing to stay boyfriend and girlfriend but no way i would not forget him.
1085180
depends on how you feel about living with him, and if you are ready to make that big leap in him knowing every thing you do.. i lived with a boyfriend for a while and it sucked..
740771
i would say no. cause i was with someone before he went home from college and maybe two months after he was down there and calls me up and tells me that he found someone new. after all the things that i had done and all the time we spent together it seemed like it was for nothing.
708121
NO!  I beg of you, use your head not your heart.  Wouldn't he have called you or a friend or a locksmith for that matter, if he were locked out of his place?  The fact that you knew where the girlfriend lives and works makes it seems as if this is not the first time and you and the ex has a (fighting) history.  Find someone more loyal, more discreet or maybe a little smarter... How on earth did he let her get the phone?!\nGood Luck!
981071
I honestly believe that it is.  Even if your ex-husband says "go ahead...i'm okay with it"...trust me...he's NOT okay with it.  How would it make you feel if your ex-husband started dating YOUR best friend??  Always think about how you would feel if these things were being done to you.....  On another note, after a divorce or a break up, find yourself, and then find a FRESH relationship, one thats not going to continue to remind you of the one you just had.
852661
No...those are YOUR memories and nobody has the right to tell you to delete/remove/forget them...besides how will you feel when this relationship ends, and you gave in and discarded memories of previous relationships?\n\nAnyone over the age of about 12 nowadays, knows the person they are with is likely to have been in other relationships...perhaps several, perhaps serious, perhaps intimate...\n\nThe idea of requesting someone to throw way or delete pictures is a sign of jealousy and insecurity...now if you had pics of you and an ex in frames around your home or your desk at work, then yeah...he'd have a valid reason to be upset...\n\nTalk to him about why he's upset...it's not just because there's a pic of you smooching on someone who is no longer in your life (at least in that capacity)...what's the REAL reason he's bugged?
986281
They were married and it's part of his past.  Are you expected to get rid of every picture of every man that you were ever with?  \n\nDon't stress over it...everyone has a past.  It doesn't mean that the person is their future.
1120831
no you need to move on and if something happens in the future like he comes back and both of you want to still be together then that is fine but both of you r going to go through a transition and u will both most likely change with him being in a different city with different friends, activities, and etc.
409384
Unfortunately you will probably have to just let the stuff go and just walk away from him since he is treating you badly. Material things can be replaced. The time wasted trying to retrieve those items can't.
613989
i'm sure my friend got married and she still has all her shopping cards. you need to get rid of him if he wants you to loose the cards!!
267419
Why is he your old boyfriend? There had to have been reasons for breaking up and if I were you, I would take that into account. Also, would you be moving in together or just near him? Is it economical for you to move, will you be able to work, find housing? I don't know, it just doesn't sound like something that you should do...find a new boyfriend, one that lives closer to you or one that would move to be near YOU!
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.