I am 47 f and seeing 50 yr old m. We are compatible in every way. He is a bad boy and I am an exciting girl.?
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You may be compatible. But sounds to me he needs some working on. Older men tend to get set in there ways. At the\nbeginning all is going smooth, but things start changing when it gets late in the relationship. It's not you. It's them. At times they have to remind themselves they have a\nlady and they need to tend to her needs. Some have been\nby theirselves for so long til they forgot what it's like to\nbe in a relationship. I had a friend who did the same thing to me. Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him what's on your mind. Tell him how you are feeling about some things. \nthen go grom there.
212520
It's wise as long as he's a filthy rich man. Girls are likely to be attracted to rich old men. Don't feel guilty. However, make sure he is not married.
524272
Yes but it is his problem. If he wishes to see you,he will find a way.After you both decide if you are a couple,take turns.He should come to meet your folks and let them get to know him first. This is age dependent of course. Peace.
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My boyfriend is 43 and I am 25.  We have been together for 3 years now and it is the best relationship I have been in.  I couldn't imagine ever dating somebody my own age again.  They are so immature and in this relationship I feel like there is stability.  I think he will definitely stay with you because men like younger women and if you are good to him and he is good to you, it will work.
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wow, that is a huge age jump. Its hard to span that much age, hon, especially at that age. Just play it cool, remind him you love him, and thats about all you can do
412994
All of your thoughts are definetly valid ones.  You know that the beginning of "where's this going" relationship stuff is NO picnic.All I can say is, keep your eyes WIDE OPEN.  Pay close attention to any RED FLAGS along the way (if there are any).  You know, it's just one of those things in life that really, only time will tell.  By all means don't put yourself in the position to feel obligated in to rushing in to anything.  I WOULD recommend paying close attention to his ACTIONS.  Be cautious of charming talkers.  Please, allow time to take it's course.  \n\nI would be curious why he feels it's necessary for you to know where he is, even if it is work related.  To me, it's just a bit odd.  That would get on my nerves after a while.  I mean, his employer is the one that really needs to know where's he's at all the time, not you. That's merely MY opinion.  Is he borderline needy without actually being needed?  Not that there's any crime of being 45 years old, having never married.\n\nAhh.  Like I said, just allow time to take it's course.  If it's really meant to go anywhere, then it surely will.\nDon't be too hard on him, or yourself.  Just be smart, okay?\nTake care.\n\nP.S.  Hey there c68!  I sure hope this turns out to be something good for you.  Be patient, enjoy each other, learn about each other.Maybe this is one that deserves your time.  I really do hope he's a good person.  Keep on your toes.  You seem to be a smart cookie.  Keep it up!\nI'm thinkin' about ya and if it helps, I'm pullin' for ya too. (Well, you know,...for both of you)  Take care.
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Um.... yes, i think thats why ur name is crazy chic. That is insane. You may feel like you love him but you dont. trust me. He's 30 so he knows all the best things to say to you that you might think are sweet and thoughtful...well, hes had 30 years of experience. you may think he loves you and all but a 30 year old man wants nothing from a 17 year old girl except sex...even if you havent had sex yet, you will because he'll pressure you to. He's 30 for god's sake. he's old enough to be your father!!! trust me please, i have been in a situation like this before, i am also 17 and was dating a 27 year old guy. Dont let this man hurt you like i let mine.
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What a question! Being an older guy myself, I'd say yeah, but you need to show him how serious you are. You wouldn't believe the number of younger women who are after me. Go for it.
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He's too old for you.  You haven't lived enough of your own life to even know if he's "the one" or not.  Also, have you asked him how he feels?  I bet if he knew how serious you were about him, things would cool.\n\nI'm sorry, but men's egos are boosted by having a young woman on their arm.  It's called Eye Candy.  That's no reflection on you, it just says something about him.\n\nGive yourself some time and life experience.  What's the hurry?
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If you think she is hiding something, she probably is.  I am 38, and I would have to say we don't have any certain characteristics.  I am assuming you are involved in a relationship with this person?  If thats the case, you need to reevalute the situation.  Seems to me you are lacking trust, honesty, and communication.  Why would you even want to persue it?
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I'm sorry to be the one to break this to you...\n\nBut it's not so much the AGE DIFFERENCE as it is HIS MATURITY that is the problem here.   The SHORT TEMPER, especially with someone who's YOUNGER... Is just NOT acceptable.\n\nIf he agrees to be in a relationship where he gets to date such a sweet young thang... the "logical consequence" is to deal with the age difference.\n\nFind someone your own age... it sounds like your 31 year old isn't mature enough to deal with the 12 year age difference.
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god forgive me for stereotyping but I only have limited info for going on! from what you say, there is only one adult in the relationship and it's not him!!!\nok, he sounds like a typical man, wanting to have his cake and eat it too - basically he feels it's a bit wrong to be with you, but he wants you to make it ok.\nso he's being cautious and flaky so that most of the hard work comes from you and you end up saying all the stuff people usually don't want to be the first to say (ie tell me how you feel/why are you sending out mixed signals - making you look needy)- don't fall into that trap. as much as you want some clarity, pull back and let him do the hard work. it is obvious he likes you despite the age diff (dirty old man - just kidding) so he will try to engineer the opportunity to kiss you again- at which point, i think you should play a bit hard to get so he has to SAY those things he is obviously avoiding saying  in case it all goes tits up, i presume. \nanyway, only my opinion, so let me know if i was totally wrong - and good luck!!!
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he's too old with too much baggage, if u feel he is playing, go with your gut...find u a nice 22-25 year old and let him keep his baggage and games....
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It sounds like your relationship is great but one thing that worried me - you said you were worried his family wouldn't like you - you should meet them first, and make sure he meets yours first.  \n\nWhen I first started reading your post I had my doubts, BUT \nI don't think the age difference matters in your case.  In some it does, but your relationship does seem more mature.  People always think I am too young also.  I'm 19 and getting married next summer too.  I love this man and he is my best friend and my life partner.  We've been together since I was in middle school and we've grown up together and are still growing together.  I think it's amazing to find a love like this when you are so young.  Don't worry about what everyone else thinks - count your blessings that you have something that some people NEVER find.  \n\nJust be sure you have the same goals, and plans for the future.  For example, in a few years you are going to want a son or daughter with him also.  I am sure you love his son like your own but the time will come when it will drive you crazy that he is not your own and you need to make sure he will be willing to have more children.
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Sometimes it's true that women's maturity level progresses faster than younger men's. In your case you might be feeling a bit uncertain because that statement does not apply to you. \nRemember: Age is only a number. So is salary.\n\nIf you can love him no matter what and want to work things out with him, no matter what, then he is the one for you.\n\nEveryone has differences in taste, his is 80's music and an early bed time.. so what? At least he isn't a drug addict and abuser. Take it for what it's worth... if he treats you well, is financially stable and willing to work on your relationship, you've got a winner!\n\nGood luck, and look out for yourself--
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If you do he is a lucky man.  Age isn't a huge factor in every relationship.  The question is really is this the right guy and the right relationship for you?  A age difference like this will always present some problems but nothing that you can't deal with or predict if your honest with yourselves.  Think it through and don't worry about what others think, do what is right for you.
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wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.