relationship and a child?
142542
Most courts will grant mother with custody -- unless there's abuse, drugs, etc. involved.\n\nYou'd probably have to contact your local Family Court for more info.
389987
Be very careful my friend, you could be setting yourself up to be hurt. You may have feelings for this other person, but you need to remember that you "do" have two children to think about. It is belief of many that the truth will set you free, but in this case, it may end in the suffering of the most innocent of all, the kids. Please, consider holding off with this second relationship long enough to realize what you want. I know you want your children in your life, dont jeopardize that for anything. Have a nice day!
203029
You can be emotionally free of that person, but you will never be freed of the responsibility of the child you both made. You owe the other person respect as the childs parent, but nothing more. Tell him your relationship is over, and other than conversation about the child and the childs needs, you have nothing to discuss. Do not argue, do not meet anywhere. Drop the child off at his mothers when it's time for visitation and pick the child up there. You have to separate your personal life from him.
421745
I am sorry you seem to be having problems with communication and you aren't alone. A lot of couples don't know how to communicate, and even when they do it's not constructive communication. My suggestion to you is to seek counseling. Even if she isn't willing to go along, at least it can open your eyes and maybe you will be able to sort out your feelings. You do have a daughter, however do not make the same mistake so many others have made. Don't stay together just for the kids sake. Believe me, children sense when the relationship isn't happy. You have to do what's best for everyone involved. So good luck to you!
440788
I'm fine with it. my past 2 relationships have been with women who have kids.it all depends on the the type of guy you are,if your guy who really like kids like me, then it won't be a problem.it's only a problem if the female is looking for a father for her kids more than a boyfriend or husband.I love kids and relate to them very well,hell I still watch cartoons and play video games so for me it's all good.
85653
You need to decide if your in this relationship for the long haul.  If you are then his kid is a major part of his life and should be in yours.  While I know you can't be on call all the time you can help him make arrangements for getting around.  He is also going to have to adjust his life for a few months and realize that there may be times when he simply can't be some where.  However, he should always be there for his kid and if your committed to this relationship so should you.
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
675942
Congratulations! A baby is always a blessing in disguise. Talk through your concerns with your partner, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. Good luck!
1040106
Loving them and simply hugging them almost everyday since birth make our relationship really great.  I always tell them that i love them so much and they know it because they see it and they surely feel it with my kisses and touch. The level of relationship that you and your children have can be determined thru the respect and love you give each other and most of all thru the understanding you find with each other for each other which others actually don't know.
199872
I personally think it depends on how old the child is.  I did live with my boyfriend when my child was 2-3.  We eventually broke up and no harm was done b/c they didn't remember the situation much.  I am now dating someone new 8 years later.  We are even talking of marriage but I refuse to live with him until we are married.  If something does happen and we break up it will definitely send the wrong message to my child.
654084
Wow, you have a child, and that makes things very complicated.  It is often said that by the time you think you need help in your relationship, it is toooooo late.  Because there is a child involved, and you didn't say you two were throwing things at each other and doing other irrational things, I think in your place, I would indeed seek some professional help.  It is really no fun out there being single raising a child, let me tell you.  And it may be that the things you liked about him in the beginning are still basically there.  You can always leave.  In your place, I'd give therapy a try -- before going make a list of the things that concern you, and have him do it too.  That will give the therapist something to work from, and get to the problem earlier (and cheaper!!!).  It may indeed be that your relationship is irreparably damaged, but as I said, you can always leave...Good luck
236689
You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
584819
some people have some really dumb answers.....sorry about that. I hate to say this but you already know what you are going to do. I only hope you have the support around you that you need. You as the mother of your childern have them to consider first and formost. If you love this guy but it is going to harm the childern, get out. don't look back. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and bite the hard one and make it on your own, (getting help from friends and famley is still making it on your own terms) If bf is going to change he can do it someplace else and demostrate his sincearity with out draging you down with him along with all his other baggage. Make a plan, sit down and do some real sole searching and make a long term plan for yourself and your childern. Once you have a goal it is easy to make some good move towards that goal and away from the emotional roller coster you have been on. Look at yourself and see the honest value you are. then look at your bf and hold this measure to the picture. Every relaytionship is built of certain durable materials. the first of these is truthfulness.If you cannot look into his eyes and speak out always the truthful thought and feeling with the simplicity of a little child, there can be no real love between you. Trust is the first requisite for making a friend: Faithfulness is the first requisite for keeping a friend. and trust and faithfulness cannot endure without truthfulness. Love can exisit with out friedship but friendship cannot exist with out respect. Look, look deep within and you shall find your answers.....
1019433
In my opinion.  You should not introduce your kids to someone you are dating, unless you know for sure that you are planning a future together....\n\nIf it doesn't work out, and you start dating someone else.  The kids won't be meeting different people....\n\nSee where the relationship is going first.....\n\nGOOD LUCK!
32882
I would say try to make it work if you can, it sounds that he is good for your kid.\nDId you loved eachother at apoint?\nIf there is no other way just talk to him
848222
This is an easy one.  Why not imagine that you had a daughter your age and that it was she not you, that was involved with your bf.  What advice would you tell her?  Simple isn't it?\n\nYou know what to do.  Love is not a competition.
1164732
How about an Honest Christian?\n\nCrap, that wasn't a choice.\n\nHow about someone who respects her, has the same interests, and is a pretty decent kid.\n\nI would have been doing good to stick with those at that age.