when im with this kid, it all feels right. but i cant help but think that he doesnt feel the same. HELP!?
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Im in a situation like that right now and I need some help too. When Im with him the relationship is alright and cool, but when we're not together all I find myself thinking about is, "Do he feel the same way about me?" He's very shy when it comes to me. He came from Abilene, and he was in a relationship down there, but sometimes I have to ask him are we still together.
601221
age isnt the issue if u feel ur matyure enough u should and u know he feels the same way personality and maturity isnt defined by age -- so do what ur heart says asl long as u think first -- hope that helps email me and IM me anytime -- pinkfeverpink@yahoo.co.uk
790101
You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)
50426
I know for a fact that parenting is not an easy task, maybe he's not ready after all. You said it already "his jobless and irresponsible." In that case i'm not so sure if he could be a good figure to your kid but please don't spare the love ur child needed ok. But honestly, I can't comment on the part that you being in love w/ him, there's no explanation it's all up to you. And everyone is stupid about love so ur not just the only one. LOL!  \n\nKeep smiling ... enjoy! \nI hope you get to know your soulmate!
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If you feel that by his "silence", he is uninterested in what you have to say about your child, then you should let him know how you feel, irregardless of whether it seems "a little silly".  Forget about figuring out "the puzzle of the male brain" - figure out what your own feelings mean to you and act upon them.
511355
It seems that he feels you have issues and you feel he has issues. Maybe there's a way for you both to compromise. Maybe you can promise to fix what it is that he thinks you ought to fix, and maybe he can attend some kind of anger management class and fix his problem too. If there is a child involved, you both have to be willing to do something to make the world better for the little one.
221267
It's not wrong at all if he makes you feel good while the two of you are together.  But you have to think realistically about the long term thing.  He's still very young so he may see things differently then you do.  Just enjoy the time that you do have.  That's all you can ask for.
256227
Ok this is really tricky. This is not any ordinary boy; this is someone that is identical to you. It happens to a lot to twins to feel confusion, and feel sameness, I don't know how much you dress alike or if you feel that you are struggling to feel different and to create a separate identity. If your relationship is very close and you feel a strong bond, that means that on some level you and your brother are one and this act is a statement from him that he feels that you are an extension of him. I can't say that this is harmless, since I don't know much of your relationship with you brother. \n\nThis would not be the only case of touching and experimenting among twins, since on some level when twins have not reached a separate psychological identity they can feel that touching their twin is the same as touching themselves.\n\nNow the first thing to do is to see what is really behind this touching. If you feel in some way that your brother by touching you is saying you belong to him, this might happen again, and if it is something that you do not want, then you should talk about it or find a way to make it clear that it was not okay and begin to establish clear boundaries of what is you and what is him.
835119
I think it sounds like you are using him for all his "treats and gifts". This must make you feel good, but think what he must think if you don't feel the way he does.
207026
Honestly explain to him first that you feel like you're not trusted with the child and let him know how that makes you feel. If you two are in agreement then you can approach the mother in a non-threatening way and let her know that you'd like to be more involved. you are a step-parent here and should be.
251281
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
1028012
Think like a soldier. When you have an impassable problem what do you do? You still get past it. That is what you must do. Have you told him of your fears? I tell ya what, if your kids are all okay with it, then you better hold on to him, that's rare! Go for it!
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if he makes you feel like you are the only one, then go for it.  If you feel uncomfortable because he has kids the are like 10 years young that you, then just talk to him and end it.  never buckle down to what anyone says about your relationship.  You decide who you care about and who you chose to be with.
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
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I was babysitting my best friend's kids shortly after her dad died.  I was in the kitchen making lunch when I felt like I was being watched.  I looked around and didn't see anything but still had that feeling.  I took a deep breath and said, "The kids will be fine.  I'm taking care of them".  The feeling went away.  She said after I told her what happened that she thought her dad was coming to visit.  I'm sure he was!
953178
I'm in 1 too...ask him if he still feels the same way...if he does he will create a time 4 u 2 to b together!!  Tell him how YOU feel
310803
if your sure that he feels like he does for you, then you should defiantly go for it. Specially if you are sure that you cant work things out with your husband. your kids are old enough to understand at their age. Just be sure that you know what you want, so you can make yourself happy