please help... my mother is very sick and she needs a nursing home?
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Be extremely careful when chosing nursing homes. There are few out there who truly care for their patients. Call social service organizations, bb bureau, and any place you can think of to check out her home. It is possible to find a good one for low income (I hope).
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If the property belongs to her, and she can't afford to pay for the nursing home expenses, then the government will take the house to cover expenses.  If she has signed the property over to you (or someone else) prior to seven years before she goes into the nursing home, then it would be clear of risk.
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Call the utility companies, be prepared to give them a copy of the death certificate or obituary.\n\nSo sorry to hear about your mother.
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I'd always been extremely close with my mom & we did everything together. Two years ago she had a heart attack & died. They weren't supposed to revive her, but did & she spent two years in nursing homes. I've lost every cent I had in savings paying her bills, she got kicked out of the nursing home because her medicaid wasn't re-approved, so I work a full time job, take care of my two children & try to care for my handicapped mom now. Even tho I love her, I never wanted to be a nurse. I don't like anything I have to do for her. She didn't have her finances in order & now I'm going to have to declare bankruptcy in order to keep from having my wages garnished by the nursing home to pay for her bill. So we are not as close now because she's mentally vague & I'm full of anger & resentment.  Not a good way to live.\nYou never know when it could happen to you - get your finances in order!
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Your friend is ill, she needs professional help and hopefully her Mom will help her get it.  You are being a good friend to her, stay that way and help her throught the next months which are going to be difficult for her.  I wish her well...;
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Hello\n\n Boy that's a difficult question and one I am also going through right now with my mother.  I don't think anyone is going to be able to answer this for you and your family, you all know your mom the best.  I can only tell you what we have done.  My mother knows she has lung and heart problems but she really doesn't understand the severity of the problems.  The last time she was hospitalized she had to be put on life support, and the doctors told us she has about 6 months. She is terrified of doctors and hospitals and worries about dying.  She's been really sick for years now.  As a family we decided not to tell her what the doctors said because she gets so scared and we want her to get the most out of the time she has left without being scared and worring all the time.  So only your family knows enough about how your mother to make this decision.  Is she the kind of person who would want to get her affairs in order or would it only add to her suffering.  I hope this helps some. Good luck and God bless.
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I'm sorry but their isn't much u can do.Just show your mom you love and support her and help keep track of whether or not she is taking her meds.If she does go in the hospital just stay in touch with her as much as you can.
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Depending on your state regulations it may be that she is eligible for Home Health care.  If it is getting too tough for you to try and do it all, maybe they could at least help.  I believe they will offer at least four hours a day, maybe more.  I lost both my parents at a young age but I remember how tough it was to take care of my mom because she was sick for two years before she passed.  Its easy to say you should take care of her yourself, but until a person has to actually deal with the issue its hard to understand how draining it can be, both physically and emotionally.  Good luck.
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You need to visit the National center for Elder Abuse and they will help you evict your brother for your mom/  Do you plan on finding other care for your mom?  Caring for the elderly is a long hard process.  You might want to either find a private care service or find a more suitable senior living environment.  \n\nGood Luck.
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The hospital will have a "discharge planner", usually a nurse or social worker who can guide you through the system. Medicare will pay for nursing care for dressing changes, injectable medications, and assessment of rehab needs.. If your mom has rehab needs, Medicare pays for that, too. However, if she needs custodial care, you will have to pay for that out of pocket unless your county or state has a program to cover those costs. You may want to consider a short stay in a nursing home until she is able to take care of herself.
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Call around to local hospice centers or hospitals. Don't forget about shelters for victims of domestic violence as well or group homes. Working in a group home might help her if she can see people who are more in her age range who are less fortunate than her. Also, check with churches since many of them have soup kitchens for those who don't have a place to go or will be able to help you find one where you can volunteer.\n\nGood luck. I think this is a wonderful idea and anyone you help will appreciate it.
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I know medicaid does my mom had it when she had some type of surgery and she is diabetic and handicapped.  Medicare might cover some of it, but they are more likely to cover it in a skilled nursing home.. On what the other person answered.  \n\nYou need to call her medicaid.. If you are the guardian for her for her care.  I would suggest calling them and seeing if they will cover it.  \n\nIf you take her to a nursing home(skilled) the people in the office will help you fill out all the information with you.  They did that with my husbands mother she has dementia.. alzhmiers and its bad.  It was a hard decision, but it was for her safety as well as ours. \n\nMedicaid and Medicare covers all of his mothers needs.
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I think its best if you personally help her--if worse comes to worst scenario happens.\n\nAs of the moment, try to ask your nearest government office and present her situation.\n\nI do hope you mother will get through all these trials. Good lUck!
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There is an organization called Caring Voice.  They can be contacted on the web at CARINGVOICE.COM  Try them.
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Well for my grandmother they took her home,car and her S.S. check to pay for her room at a nursing home. It hurt to see everything she had worked for just go. I would check into different nursing homes and their prices and would also contact your local S.S. office to find out more information pertaining to your certain situation.  Good Luck!
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I found two websites that may be of some help to you or possibly lead you in the right direction.Patient Advocate Foundation\nwww.patientadvocate.org\nOr call: 800.532.5274\n*Provides education, legal counseling, and referrals concerning financial issues.\nCancerCare\nwww.cancercare.org\nOr call: 800.813.4673\nProvides financial assistance and referrals.\n\nPlease let me know if these do not get you help. My mother passed away in Sept from breast cancer. She waited too long to get treated and had insurance. Go figure....I wish I could help financially, but cannot. I will do whatever to help you find resources. Good luck.
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Your grandfather has Alzheimer’s and it will only get worse, there is no cure for this. My mom has it and I am taking care of her. No you are not overreacting about sharing a room with an eight-year boy. Can’t they fix the basement or attic into a room for one of you or add on a room in the back for you. Grandpa needs to be close to mom as it is very trying to care for a loved one in his condition. Your mom will need all the help she can get and if you are helpful you will stand a better chance of getting a separate room. I think there are laws about boys and girls sharing a room if the youngest is of a certain age and eight sounds plenty old enough but if you go to the authorities about it grandpa will end up in a nursing home and your family will be terribly upset with you and you will regret what you did to grandpa in the future as nursing homes give terrible to no care. If worse comes to worse maybe you can put up a divider wall in the middle of the room. I wish you and your family the best of luck.♫