Why would a person who claims to love their family force that same family into poverty thru constant gambling?
154668
Gambling is like a drug. It's an addiction. It possible that the person is trying to quit yet is having trouble concentrating due to the affect gambling has on the brain. Many gamblers don't even realize they're gambling money with chips until, you know, it's too late.
387472
Somehow you've got to find the motivation for this.  Is he in desperate straits and really needs money to stay off the street?  In that case he needs to be punished and set straight by the entire family, and hopefully some people will care for him enough to help him find a cheaper apartment or give him a temporary job or something.  Maybe demanding some restitution once he gets on his feet financially would send the right signal of hating the sin and loving the sinner.\n\nSince it's been going on for so long, I have a hunch he's a kleptomaniac.  I don't know much about this condition--maybe it's a way to express anger, or maybe this is a sick bid for attention.  If it is a serious compulsion I doubt it can be cured by scolding or ostracizing.  Maybe this will be a hitting bottom experience that will drive him to get treatment.\n\nGood luck,\nHouyhnhnm
563606
you do not say too much to work with on this. i will say be very careful in your decision making. weigh the pros and cons on this issue before making a decision. If it should hurt your family then that is  the first thing you do not want to do. you never want to cause hurt or shame to them. whatever your cause.... does it come before family values...something you must ask yourself. remember when there is an action there is always a reaction. you must ask yourself what will the reaction be to your gamble.
767294
if the person has a lot of cash all of the time and don't have a job, they are likely a criminal. if your dad is good to you and your family, why bother. if he is not good to you, go for it.
839075
That they need to stop using people. They always give such a hard luck story. They don't want to hear your's though. And when you need help, they don't know you. \n\nOoh, let me get off of this now, because I could go on and on. I have a user in my family. She won't do anything to help herself. She wants us to do it.
799992
No, I have some family members that are just the lowest forms of live ever. They have stolen from other family members and lied so much none of us believe a word they say, in fact they are not even invited to any events at all.\nBeing family has no bearing on how they treated others and you can't excuse someone just because they are related.
366729
I don't know how you feel about 12 step programs, but someone very close and dear to me did Gambler's Annonymous and it REALLY helped him. At first he was skeptical, especially because they talked about a "higher power" and he's not the religious type and didnt want to join some cult - but he found an idea of a higher power just as a better life that is meant for him that he can have if he gives himself over to it and there were all types of people there. I'm not sure exactly how it works, but I can tell you that he has not only stopped gambling but he has a better relationship with his family, is dating and working, is a more open and honest person and just generally happier.\n\nIf anything it wouldn't hurt - you are not forced to stay if you dont want and you are not forced to pay money for it, so worth a try. \n\nI wish you the best!
1016833
YES...someone I know very well is the user. He started at only 14 and HIS OWN FATHER WANTS TO KEEP HIM HOOKED. He lies about everything, even small things. He wants everyone to love him or hate him.He flirts with girls just to get their drugs.He abuses his family and friends until they leave him just so he can get away with doing whatever he wants. Even when he is clean for a few months, he picks at himself until he bleeds and has mood-swings with tantrums. He is selfish.His mom spoils him, even gives him money for drugs and she abuses him too.The saddest part is that he has a baby that he can't take care of for even one hour.
490724
To the best of my understanding, it means that a man who deliberately, and consistently causes chaos within his family would not have any family or inheritance for his old age. The second part talks about people who act like there are no consequences for their actions(the fool says in his heart, 'there is no God'). They would be made servants to people who are wise in heart.
98894
Definitely.  Someone who is addicted is full of empty promises, over and over again.  Unless his will power is strong, he won't seek help until he falls just as low as he can, then and only then, can you help him and you can only do that if he willing.  Take it from one who knows, their intentions are good but they just can't help themselves.  They are sick.  It's kind of like banging your head against a brick wall;  all the talking and threats doesn't help him or you.
1108582
Turn her a_s in. By doing nothing you are feeding the problem and by not ratting her out you are allowing one more bum the ability to dig into our pockets. The fewer people we have to support the more we get to keep for our families. Let the Welfare fraud line know that she is living with a man that makes enough to support her and her 3 kids; they will investigate and act if necessary.
314341
I think a family can bring the bad luck gene to you based on karma or good luck. Take a look at the Kennedy family. enuf said...  Balance life and create your own or let life create it for you. There is no answer Grasshopper. Happy Trails my new friend!
507950
Well, it is very unfortunate for a person to be decieved like that. For a person to show characteristics of love and not actually have love for other people is the lowest thing that anybody can do. Maybe someone would decieve others like that because they have a twisted view of what love is. I'm talking about greed, selfishness, envy, etc. When searching for love doesn't go the way exspected, a person could be seeking revenge on random people. But the idea is to not give away the love you have; share it. Don't give up because the treasure is within you.
496824
I REALLY UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT, IT IS VERY SAD TO HEARD ABOUT IT, BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE THEM OTHER HAVE TO PAID THE CONSEQUENCES, THIS PERSON DO NOT THINK ABOUT OTHERS THEY ARE SELFISH, THEY MIGHT BE SOMEONE IN REAL NEED. WHY YOU DON'T TELL THEM THAT IT IS WRONG? THINGS ARE NOT ALWAYS GOOD. AND WHEN THEY REALLY NEED THE HELP, THAT HELP WON'T BE THERE, IF HER BOYFRIEND HAS A GOOD JOB AND HELP TAKE IT. AND HELP THE COUSIN WITH MONEY, TO SELL HOT DOG, SOMETHING LIKE THAT. BUT DO NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE AND PRETEND TO BE A SINGLE MAM. SHE IS SCANNING THE SYSTEM (WIC) BELIEVE! DON' YOU SEE IT?
981972
I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
90062
Why would you want to do that?  Being charitable is nice, but have you seen what % of people become repeat offenders.  Keep your distance from them and save yourself a lot of heartache.
270475
the reasons are many. none of them are good. I think that for the most part there is a common denominator for why they lie, cheat and steal, etc. I believe they do it in an effort to gain something for nothing.