Should I Stay or Should I Go?
142577
Well first let me say thank you for the job you are doing, I certainly can't believe it is all you had hoped for.\nAs for your wife, she sounds immature and selfish from what you say. You are already away from her and have been for three years, you don't say how long you were together before marriage to her. MY heart says leave her, kinda like you can't lose something you never had, kinda thing. If that makes any sense. This basically goes against alot of how I feel about marriage, though I certainly believe there are always mitigating factors to take into account.\n If you divorce her, you know longer will be smacking yourself upside the head and can get on with life. Yes you love her and that makes it hard to let go. To tell you the truth it sure can't be any harder than the thankless job you are doing right now, of which I commend you and those with you. \n I am truly sorry that your wife is so immature and refuses to discuss issues with you, but that should tell you something. This is just what I think because I hate like heck to see anyone suffer at the hands of another. Please take care and stay safe.
283959
If you have a nest egg to hold you over until you find a new job then no, however, if you were living check to check then maybe you should have found a new job BEFORE leaving the one you had. In the end, if leaving helps you maintain your sanity then that's what's most important.
76321
I was actually in a similar situation.  What I did was I sat down and made a list of all the reasons why I should stay with him and all of the reasons why I shouldn't.  Once I came up with 2 exhaustive lists, I was left with 2 lists of equal length.  Then I sat down and started realizing that the reasons why I should stay were things like "because of the time I've invested" "I'm afraid to be alone" "I don't want to be labeled as divorced" "it will be hard on him" ... the reasons why I should go were things like "I can't carry on an intelligent conversation with him; therefore, he never stimulates me" "he doesn't fit in with my lifestyle" "he is not supportive of me furthering education" "I'm not happy/satisfied".  Realizing how shallow my answers were for why I should stay made me realize the answer for myself.\n\nThis is a question that only you can answer, but maybe taking this approach will help you to think about it logically.  I hope you find your answer and I hope that you find happiness.
893402
Why do you want to? If you have a valid reason then ok, but if it's worth staying for then stay! Think, you get paid for it and it is nearly xmas!
552410
I'd go with the fact of it's not a good fit for you, you feel you have no opportunity for advancement, and that you've gone as far as you think you're going to go with that company, and that you're looking for a change. \n\nGood luck!!!
120105
moving to another state is almost ALWAYS the right decision. it will demand that you grow a little. and that's never bad! :)\n\nto reassure yourself... ask yourself before you go to sleep: should i go ahead with this move? or, am i making the right decision?\n\nask it outloud, and really focus on the question.\n\nthen go to sleep... when you wake up, don't get distracted with the alarm or the cellphone. let your mind drift until you remember your dreams. hopefully, your dreams will answer your question clearly and you can continue or change plans.\n\ntry it a few nights in a row if you're not convinced!\n\nour subconscious minds are powerful. deep down we know answers to many troubling questions. it's just a matter of tapping into the subconscious!
906559
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
1154731
that all depends on you and your spouse! if you are secure with staying at home taking care of the family then stay, but if you want to work then work! this is something you and your spouse should discuss
826089
It depends what you want from a job. If you don't mind putting in extra hours and really need the money, then go for the other job. However, if you really like your current job and are happy there, think hard before you make a decision because there's no guarantee that you'll like your new job and it always bites to leave somewhere where you had it good.
710188
I think he should stay where he is.\n\nCoach
1142764
Do what you feel is right. Aside for the salary increase, I believe you'd need a new work environment as you already mentioned your dissatisfaction with your present work. Go for it and just be glad you have such choice. :)
112102
Depends on your situation and the available of housing.  Sometimes going back home is the best choice since you can save money and be able to afford to live in a "nicer" place.
244620
There is no doubt you should leave.  You need to because it is what is best for you and for your kids.  It also may be the only way he will reach rock bottom and truly work on his problems.  You and the kids deserve a life as hard as it may be that isn't lived around him and his problems.  You've given all you have to this marriage but he obviously refuses to give as much of himself.  You deserve more, and your kids deserve more.
1012817
A lot of people are going to say: "Do what your heart tells you." Sorry but that's bull honky! You have to do what's best for you and those you care about...even if that means going away to get a better education or job. So depending on the circumstance...think of your future.
1129972
hmm... easy answer... nope.  I think you should stay as you are.  It's obvious Christ worked in your life in an awesome way.  God's blessings to you:)
1161917
i think if its an abbusive relationship then they  should leave, but if u just leaving 2 b with some 1 else then u r wasting your time cuz the new person could always leave u and then u will regret it and it  will b 2 late 2 go back to your spouse u left.
902669
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.