Does anyone here have borderline personality disorder? I need some advice.?
152272
go to yahoo groups and join a group. I personally like the group called NO FEAR SAFE.
404257
Take some prescribe medication and combine that with real good psychologist.  One who would be able to help you working through your emotional problems if you have any.  The important thing is you have to really want to be cure.  If you want to really be cure you will make the effort to work through all emotions.
532034
Highly suggest you talk with a good therapist. During that time and now realize what you want in life. Therapist will help. I have learned from (others/family) poor behavior. Use this as a TOOL! One can not make others happy. YOU need to find happiness within. I know nothing of your friends and where you live. I highly suggest... to continue having a friend is with respect to them. Your problems may get worse if "you" end relationship through aggressive behavior to your friends. Religious believing can wait. Just know there is someone to talk with during quite time alone. I do it all the time. It works. Many of my guestions have been answered. Stop asking yourself why to everything. Concentrate on what "type" of person others see in you. I have a clue possible Bio Polar in your family. Trust me. My life at one time was similar. Go to a therapist. Let them help you. Most of your questions will be answered.\nBest of luck!
810692
This sounds really difficult for you. I can tell you that you might want to talk to a real professional about this, not just us internet people. You may be suffering from depression, which is not just a psychological disorder but a chemical imbalance in your brain. I know it's hard for you to reach out, but PLEASE try to get yourself some live help. You would be surprised at the difference it will make. Good luck!
234259
Speeking from someone who knows, I have BPD & an eating disorder and bi-polar. My husband goes throgh exactly what u are.I too have ngaged in bi-sexual acts, and too have slept with someone under 18, & I was 31. I myself just like to be left alone for awhile and then I seem to come around eventually. For me medication is my therapy, though I do go to one-on-one sessions.\nIs she on any meds? That might help.\nGood Luck
693454
You're not alone at all. There's lots of people who feel exactly the same way you do. I've destroyed my life countless times and been in the hospital a few times as well. I've been on loads of different meds as well and am now hopefully on the right ones.
581423
I used to try to explain them..... now i just live them. Through much therapy it was determined that my choatic rollercoaster, aka life, is the way it is because of my intense emotions and impulses which are a result of my Borderline Personality Disorder. Now, i know that it is a fault of my emotional coping and my inability to control impulses that causes most of my highs and lows. Now that i know why they are there, i can focus on making it a little easier and how to cope better, make better decisions, and of course get treatment for my disorder.
810028
Ask you doctor to refer you to a therapist.  I have been where you are and it practically destroyed my life.  Therapy helped enormously and I am back on an even keel now...;
530534
My mother has bipolar disorder. I know what growing up with a depressive is like and I also know I have occuring syptoms of it. My best suggestion is to keep a diary or write poetry of current feelings... never look back. And get a pet or something to talk to, take care of and love. Try to be as independant as possible and continue taking your meds. Because it gets way worse when you don't. Independance, love, and ablity to write out your feelings help. Also I'd suggest talking to a good friend who might be able to help you make sense of yourself... my mother uses me as her thought sorter to help her understand better. Hospitals are the worst thing I believe you could go to... gives you no personal care.
1017349
As a person living with bpd, I can tell you that it can be rough at times, and it is NOT normal, even though it is extremely common. \nIf you are contemplating suicide, have recurring thoughts of hurting yourself or have ever done physical harm to yourself, it is imperative that you seek psychiatric treatment. Most people will tell you that counselors are there to help, and they are in some ways, but it is likely that if you tell them you intend to harm yourself they will require that you check in to the hospital. I had this happen when I went to interview a day program and I had to stay at the hospital for 6 nights. It was very frightening and didn't help a lot, but I learned to "play their game." When I left work I didn't want anyone to know, either, but I told them I was going to a hospital for medical reasons and left it at that, no one needs to know more. Please feel free to contact me at cobaltlava@yahoo.com if you need someone to talk to. You are not alone. I am living with the scars, both physically and emotionally, from years of bpd without treatment, and believe me it may be hard, but it is worth it. \nAlso, you may want to check out some books that I found really helpful: Lost in the Mirror, and I hate you, don't leave me are two good ones. \n\nAlso, it can be really hard for someone with bpd to find a compatible dr/counselor, so don't get discouraged. After 4 unsuccessful tries, I finally found someone that I feel I can trust and it has definitely helped although progress is slow.
984502
My first suggestion would be to visit a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist that specializes in mood disorders.\n\nI am Bipolar and I've been under the care of a Psychopharmocologist who specializes in mood disorders and a CBT Specialist as well.  In addition, I've spent the last 6 months educating myself on the disorder, treatment and drugs.  I also attend group therapy twice a week in a clinical CBT group and also attend a BPD support group.\n\nBefore I started getting treatment, I was living a life full of rapid cycling (vast change in moods, can be hourly/daily/weekly) high risk behavior and never really knew who the real me was.  So you can say I was having an identity crisis and was suffering from bipolar depression.  \n\nSince being treated, I've been able to manage my condition and live a very productive and healthy lifestyle.\n\nIt's difficult to self diagnose, but if you're looking for an opinion, I would suggest visiting sites with good information on mood disorders and perhaps some discussion boards.\n\nI would also be happy to help if you want to send me an email.  \n\nHere are some helpful sites\nhttp://www.dbsalliance.org/info/aboutmood.html\nhttp://dbsa.invisionzone.com/index.php?showforum=6\nhttp://www.crazymeds.org/\nhttp://www.crazymeds.org/cgi-bin/yabb2/YaBB.pl?board=bipolarquestions\n\nGood luck
710052
Borderline Personality Disorder - best course of treatment - well, 2 things I recommend\n1. Individual counseling with a counsleor who is an LCSW, LCPC, or LMFT (these are license initials after their name) - they don't prescribe drugs - they offer real world solutions - ask them if they have experience with BPD. \n2. Group work with Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - best program currently existing for BPD. \nBPD involves long term treatment in most cases - be patient, even though it's not likely an attribute of yours. \nPeople who live with BPD generally have survived abusive experiences - get help for your underlying needs too!\nGood luck!
1156060
I have it and was diagnosed at age 26.  I got depressed and the bottom dropped out fro under me at 18 and I went for years being only diagnosed with depression.  I never attempted suicide but contemplated it for about 6 years every single day.  There were, however, manic days, where by all appearances I seemed happy to others.  I was ecstatically happy to the point that people had to make me calm down.  But when alone, the depression would immediately return with a vengeance when considered relative to the manic highs.  At one point, prior to my diagnosis, I became so consumed with my own political / religious philosophy that I went for several months in a highly delusional state until the point of psychotic hallucinations after several sleepless nights.  I was hospitalized for the first time after that and they still didn't diagnose it.  Of course I was scared and didn't tell them about the hallucinations, because I feared they'd think I was crazy. They instead treated me for alcoholism - I didn't even drink.  Finally, a couple of years after I got married, I became fascinated with a political idea that I had and began to put it to paper.  After weeks of writing incessantly and causing domestic disturbances, I went to the doctor with my notebook with me and told him that I could not stop writing - I couldn't relax and give it arrest.  At that point he diagnosed me as bipolar and I have been taking lithium and effexor every since, with limited levels of success from time to time.  There are still those moments when I'm capable of making an ass of myself with wild ideas and my enthusiasm for them.  I do not take anti-psychotic medications though as they seem to "labotomize" me and stop my thinking process cold.  I can't deal with that.  I am still highly intensive when it comes to religious or political debate.  Those are my two primary areas of obsessive compulsive thought.  I simply am not able to not think of these things when I "relax".  I can however control the pace with sedatives.  A regular sleeping schedule also helps.  \nWhen I am at my lowest low, sometimes I consider electroconvulsive therapy, but have not yet done it.  It is a bit frightening.\nGood luck, I do hope you find yourself not to have it.  But if so, there are ways to cope and control it to some degree, but I don't believe it can be totally controlled.
726949
Self mutilating is another issue. I'm sure you had to see a Dr. to determine that you are Bi-polar. PLEASE,PLEASE go and talk to the Dr. I had and I mean literally HAD a friend who was Bi-polar, and was also a cutter, and she did such a good job, that she is no longer here in this life. The only way to help yourself is to face it and get the help you need. Praying for you...
414024
Do you know which disorder?\n\nTest yourself first then tell me!\nhttp://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
1037323
you probaly need to go to therapy
107942
i think you really need to seek professional help.im not being nasty but i think its the only thing i can suggest like see ashrink or sumfin