I feel betrayed and somewhat being coaxed into a situation.  I am not sure what to do now.?
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i don't think you should marry her.  if you can't trust her to share important details when you ask, then you won't likely be able to trust her about other things.  you have no obligation to "do the right thing" for her.  you do have an obligation to do the right thing for yourself.  i believe that obligation is to find a woman you love and trust if you intend to be married.\n\ngood luck
305936
I'm sorry that you were treated so badly. I recognise the anger you feel. I've had the same experience myself and I know how much it hurt me. \nBest advice I suggest is do nothing. \nThis person has probably long forgotton about you. Getting your vengence on this person more than likely will not make you feel any better. If anything, you may even end up feeling a little guilt. \nThe things that happened to you were wrong, but its happened and you can't change that. It might help to find a way of dealing the anger you feel in another way that could maybe help others. \nI guess this may not be what you are looking for. All I can say is, its helped me.
892029
If she betrayed you, then she's not worth a second thought. I know that's easier said than done, but it is possible to get through. Think of it this way, does it hurt more that you're not with her anymore, or does it bother you more that she made you feel like you weren't enough or good enough by going to someone else? I know that sounds mean, but I don't mean for it to. Just stop and think if maybe your ego is hurting more than your heart. Don't let her actions turn you against other girls, because there are PLENTY of them out there who would love to have a boyfriend and who would treat you like gold ! No matter how hard it is to think of that right now, you WILL find someone else, if you give it time. Just don't go back to the same girl who cheated on you! If you take her back, she will think she can do it again, and you'll take her back again- once a cheater always a cheater! Don't waste any of your time on her- take care of yourself, work out a little( anything to boost your self-esteem), and you'll be surprised at how easy it is to get over her and find someone new! Especially if you are feeling good about yourself!
169791
Read the writing on the wall. If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, it's a cheating husband. You are lucky that he is an ex now, though. If you feel like he cheated, then he DID. Plain and simple. Trust your intuition, a female's intuition is a very powerful thing. Getting over the hurt? Well, that is a hard one. . .You've been betrayed. Lean on the support of friends and family ALOT. Talk about it ALOT to people who will actually listen. Buy a little notebook and spill your guts out and cry as you write in it every night before bed. A therapist can help, but if you have good friends and family, then why waste the money???
350706
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
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hey i really wanted 2 help u out.. but...\ner... i don understand ur q....\nplz... don feel bad...\nsorry...
129531
At first forgive him, because he is a fool and really poor minded. But then try to move on, you deserve someone who cares and loves you in return.\n\ngood luck :-) I know how you're feeling
892897
Hey man, you have to look out for yourself and your integrity.  Always do the right thing and you will feel better for it.
309811
my dear the hurt and pain belong to u and not him and therefore you need to make a decision based on what u feel is best for you. ask yourself if he is worth all the pain you undergo? does he meet your emotional needs or is it just baseless love? choose what it is that works best for you  \nif he did that without telling you what about those things he does behind your back which u don't end up knowing \nthey may be more hurtful than this.\n\nTrust me gal a bad guy is like a disease Keep off early enough to avoid contamination
62663
You cry.  You scream and yell and throw your own pity party, if that is what you feel like doing.  But most importantly, you take time for you.  Heal, and then move on.  Take the knowledge that you have learned from them and make your life better with it.  Good luck.  I'm so sorry that this happened to you.  But things are not always going to feel this bad.
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look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
589608
Do what you heart tells you to do. but first,and fore most take care of your needs, and don't be afraid to talk to  them about what is going on. I do not agree with the above answer, you should never be sneaky, because you can not be sneaky without be dishonest with yourself, and the ones involved
516507
I am probably the wrong person to answer this, but I wish it was like it used to be, (not that im an old man, but actually it has gotten bad in such a short amount of time)I have always trusted people, and believed in people, I have been screwed over so many times and lost alot of things in my life by trusting, but I feel like I am a better person because the times I have not been screwed over, it was so worth it. I would say go with your gut feeling!
1010729
I'm going through a similar situation because of things I did years ago.  They never really trust you again. Not fully anyway.  It is always there, waiting for the opportunity to show up and force you to feel guilty about something.  I've been going through this for 13yrs.  It hasn't gotten any better.  Maybe you need to learn from your mistake and move on. I don't know why I stayed,but I wish I hadn't.
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
768754
All these are intertwined, Its good that you have discussed to someone but more importantly , like most people have mentioned here; you need to seek professional help and also disclose this feeling to your near and dear one provided you trust them as many a times it can make matters worse. It is not unusual to feel down in dumps, depressed and anxious at times, most people do some of the times, but suicidal feeling are rare and indication that things have gone far enough. I would suggest you to seek professional help asap and make your feelings and thoughts aware to your near and dear ones, your colleagues or neighbours but go and see your GP today
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Oh HON,\nPlease don`t feel like that. I bet it would break her heart if she knew you felt like this. Please.. SHE loves YOU, Isn`t that enough?? She chose you. She could have chosen anybody else but, SHE CHOSE YOU. Don`t dishonor that by feeling this way. Hold your head up and be proud.. Don`t worry about other folks. \n\nDO they pay your house payment?\nDo they feed you all?\nDo they take care of you?\nAre they there when you need someone?\n\nDon`t worry about other people and what they think.. Just enjoy your life with your wife and count your blessings.. Be happy and don`t worry about this stuff..\n\nGood Luck and God Bless..{:-)\n\n<><