does first time sex really hurt  that bad?
152694
It depends on the person. It didn't hurt for me (that could be cause the guy really sucked.) But sex is something that should be wanted by both people who really care about each other so don't rush into things take it slowly.
1013086
Simple, well it is simple for a woman. Sex for the first time hurts, and it is only something to sharewithsomeone you love. When a woman has not had sex yet she does not know how good it can actually feel. Next she does know that it is going to hurt. Would you put yourself in pain for someone you don't have feelings for? I dn't think so.
163983
OFCOURSE IT HURTS!NOT JUST THE FIRST FEW STICKS BUT THE FIRST FEW TIMES.AFTER THAT YOU LL SEE THAT SEX IS A BEAUTIFUL THING.OFCOURSE IF YOU DO IT WITH SOMEONE WHO AT LEAST RESPECTS YOU! GOOD LUCK :)
141220
My advice to you is...first and formost...don't let anyone do anything to your body unless you are absolutely ready. \n\nYes. The first time can be painful if not done with care, patience and tenderness. \n\nIf you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that you want to lose your virginity, you MUST set the ground rules. Make sure your partner knows that if it becomes too uncomfortable that he is to stop what he is doing IMMEDIATELY. A condom is essential. You never know where someone else has been. Another essential is a lubricant such as KY Jelly or Astrolube.\n\nBefore you just let some guy ram his bone up inside you, make sure he opens you up GENTLY with a lubricated finger. Have him work it in and out, gently at first... then faster and deeper as your body permits. Then when this is comfortable, try a second one. You must relax if you want it to be less painful. Then when YOU feel that you are ready for something more, you decide wheather or not to go further.
1005995
Happy married life! If this is the 1st time ur having sex with ur hubby, then there wil quite a pain while making love, & also some slight bleeding too. Not to worry. There will be some fluids coming out from your vagina which acts as a lubricant. Nothing to worry.
867572
It may or may not hurt, depends on how great the foreplay is. If the foreplay is great and you're lubricated enough, trust me, you won't feel as much pain, in fact it can get very pleasurable after a while. If the foreplay sucks, and your not wet enough, believe me, it's gonna hurt, but just relax and make sure your totally ready!
993397
It is different for each girl.  My first time did not hurt and I did not bleed, but I know others that had pain and a lot of bleeding.  What you need to do is make sure you have a partner who loves you enough to be patient and go slow.  They may even need to stop before they finish.  It is important to be with someone you trust and love, take the time to make the right decision.  If you aren't sure, don't do it.
638750
my first time was completely painless.  why?  cause the guy was tiny, i'm talking pinky finger.  so it wasn't a problem for me.  good luck!
1004966
lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!
440738
Honestly i feel funny answering, but, i will. At first hell yeah it hurts! It hurts worse than when I lost my virginity...but if the guy really lubes up, and doesn't put "it" completley in than it can be pleasurable...u cant just ram it in an out w/that position..be easy and gentle and she just may enjoy it.
1075249
The first few times one has sex should be rather uncomfortable or painful.It shouldnt hurt after a bit.
42227
i know the obvious answer that many are probably thinking, if he loves you then you will be fine. in fact the is not at true as most people would like to think. Your not just talking about sex you're talking about intamcy as well. WHen you do have sex for the first time i won't lie it hurts. The reason it will hurt for the most part is because oyu will be so nervous about be nakeed and having sex that all of your muscles will be conctracting. Which will then in turn make it that more difficult for your finance to enter. just remeber that when  you have sex with him that he loves oyu he won't be juding you in anyway he will be overwhelmed with the fact that he is with you for the rest of his life that he will just be in awe. also keep in mind that the first time is going to be a little bumpy because you two don't know each others movements yets. so yees it will be awkward. having sex for the first time is different for eeveryone. but it may be easier, since it seems to me that he has had sex before, if he were to get on top. so that way you won't feeel that yopu have to do everything. Something that might make it easier is buy some kind of lubercation it makes it easier to get sttarted. with the lubercation you put it on him to make it more arousing for him and this will give you and oppurtunity to see, and feel what your husband feels like. make it fun for yourself. while you are doing that for him he could be doing something for you. either kissing your neck messaging your inner thighs. if you have a little for play it might take away some of the tension. It is most definetly going to be hard for you to be doing all of this. but just remeber that it will get easier. don't forget that he's not the only one that is there for fun. soemthing that might also arouse him and you as well is take is hands and put them on various parts of you and then you return the favor while he carressing you you do the same. moving on to the sex part of it. pull him towaards you so that he knows to get on top. then opoen your legs so that it is comfortable to you and he can get his whole body in. if you don't feel comfortable adjust and then proceed. when he starts to insert in to you MAKE SURE HE GOES SLOWLY. if anything starts to hurt tell him adn he should either stop or pull out. the key is to communicate. IT will be uncomfortable the first couple of times that you do it. but the lubercation should help out to some degree. After he has entered all the way, now is the time when you should be more relaxed. Now the hardest paart is over. While haveing sex make suree at all times that you are comfortable if your not then sex just won't be the same later. if your lower back hurts put a pillow under neith your back and continue. if you don't know how to move your body then have him move your body so that you both will enjoy it. and if you feel comfortable enough you amy want to get on top. If you do get on to, then just bend your knees so that they are by his hips, and sit directly over top of his penis. oncew he is back inside then move back towards is knees slightly and begin to move. if you don't know how take is haveds and put them on your hips and let him know that he needs to help. once he gets you going you can do it on your own. Of course this is all just a suggestion and you should do what feels right to you, i hope that i could help you CONGRADULATIONS and good luck. just remember RELAX.
207411
I honestly didn't think it hurt too badly, but everybody has a different tolerance level for pain.  After a few minutes, the pain will get better because the area will go numb and you'll be used to the sensation.  Good luck!
166955
You should probably see a gynocologist.  Every female is not made the same, some have little problems with the hymen ("the maidenhead") and that can make sex really painful. It is not all that common, but not completely rare, either, and unless you are "doing it" wrong, like up the wrong opening (I have heard of virginal people doing that by mistake), the pain should subside after the first time or two unless something is not right.  Your gynocologist will really help you out here, and can inform you about birth control and avoiding STDs, as well.  Don't be embarrassed to be open and ask questions, that is why the doctor went to school!
50958
I don't know how old you are but the fact that you said "relations" gives me a clue that you are definitely young and/or unexperienced in the realms of sex. I feel that the best answer really depends on your body type as a female. You see, before all women have sex, we have something called a hymen, a thin piece of skin that covers the opening of our vaginas. Not trying to give you all the science of it, but it is important. Basically all women's hymen's are totally different, because there are 4 different ones. When you first have sex (as a female), the penis breaks through the hymen and into the vagina. If your hymen is very tough to break through, it will continue to be painful until it is completely broken. If you start with a hymen that is not very hard to break, a few times after having sex for the first time and you should be fine. You have to tell your partner to go slow, and not just ram himself into you. SPEAK up. If it hurts to the point you can't take it, stop and find another position, another day, whatever. I hope I aswered your question to the best of my knowledge. As a female and a mother, I also say wait as long as you can, but I also want females to be equipped with the proper knowledge of their bodies and how everything works.
1067538
I'm not a guy, but I have to speak up here.  I think that down the road, you will regret having sex for the first time with someone who means nothing to you.  However, I suspect you don't believe that now.  My advice, if you go through with it, is use a CONDOM!
637799
first time really hurts but after that u get used and the pain disappears