i'm really shy.  i'm also homeschooled.  how can i get a guy to go out w/ me and not pressure me to have sex?
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ask him out,e-mail, letter, post a sign in his yard..lol and if he pressures you to anything you don't want to do..forgettabouhim!..If he's really pushy slap his ar$e into next zipcode!
31284
There are some nice guys.  One of my friends has turned down sex from girls because he thought they were moving too fast, and he wanted a long term relationship with a nice girl.  The problem is that these guys are not normally the "popular" ones.  Even though they can be very cute they are probably also quite shy.  Also, never let anyone pressure you into sex.  If the guy really cares about you, then he will wait.
1101449
Chances are guys are shy too.\nIf you are shy around guys, approach them with some other girls. That will add some intimidation on the guy side as well. Don't try to get rid of your shyness all at once. Take it a bit at a time and it will come naturally.\nGliding Squirrel.
1067479
Put your best foot forward and show that you have balls to ask him out. You'll be surprised that he will like your confidence and might follow you home. Make him feel what he would miss if he doesn't date you. So mentally prepare or rehearse before doing all this. All the best gurl!
860496
you seem like you are too into yourself.  try talking to guys, some guys wait for the girl to make the frist move.  i mean hell, if you live in ohio ill be happy to take you out on a date:) try to relax and be more friendly and more socialable...hope that helps
965608
some guys may be naturally shy and are afraid of rejection. try talking to him...sometimes you just need to make the first move.
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Oh...I know how you feel.\nThis is what you do:\n1.Send a note to him and tell him not to get the wrong idea.\n2.Send a note to him and tell him to be friends first.\n3.When he agrees, ask him out, but you must have an excuse for asking him out, or else I dont think he will agree.\n4.Ask him to go out to teach you school work or just hanging out.\n5.On your first date ask other people along, so you both wont get nervous.\n6.Dont bring 2 other friends that are dating because that would be a double date!\n7.After being good friends, you will then ask him for his address, email, and etc. etc.\n8.Contact him and ask him to hang out sometime with you- alone- I mean after a few weeks of hanging out with a few of his and your other friends.\n9.If you act natural and get him to know your background more and you know his background more, he may be able to accept you!\n10.You will be together forever- I mean not forever lar...LOL.\nOk. Thats my reply on your question.\nTry it out!\nIt happened to me once but I didnt use this method.\nI hope you will succeed.\nRegards,\nnyla
1125136
Well, Have you two had sex yet? If not don't go and why are you afraid to be alone with him? The problem appears to be deeper than your question...Good Luck either way!!!!
313601
There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
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first you have to get to know him because if you don't then going out with him could be a bad idea.  but if you know him you could bring up the subject and then just say "would you like to go out with me?" or you could have a friend ask him for you to avoide the nerves.
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Hey girl, don't worry about it.Get your flirt on and if he likes you then he should eventually come.but if you are impatient get some confidence and ask him.You aren't alone.i am waiting for a boy to tell me too.i am alittle shy in that area.
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Maybe you could ask if you could attend service or a church function with him.  Or if you want to go out on a regular date, just ask him.  Christians are just people, and they enjoy going out too.  There may be places that They care not to go, but dinner is always a good idea! Hey, the man's gotta eat, right? I hope it goes well!
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Since both you and this guy are rather shy you will have to get over your shyness in order to talk to him directly. You don't have to ask him out, but start to really talk to him and get to know him. Build up a "talking" relationship where he feels comfortable talking to you and you feel comfortable talking to him. When you're at that level you can see how you feel about him then and assuming you're still attracted to him you can move on to possibly dating.\n\nIn general, you should wait for him to ask you out, but there's no problem with you being bold and taking the initiative.\n\nTake things one step at a time, but take the steps!
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Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
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Some times I think it is down to being shy, have you told this lucky guy that you like him, and would like to date him?\nIf not, make that first move and ask him! x\nHope you get the answer that you desire.\nLove n light xx x
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I used to be shy, so I know where you are coming from.  You have to take the lead on this one.  You have to ask him out and everything because he won't.  A shy boy will not know what to say to you because he can't think of anything.  Just make him comfortable with you.
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I'm 31, and while not "terrified" of dating, it does stress me out a lot. Rather than putting a lot of pressure on yourself with "dating", I recommend simply focusing on having an active social life, on being involved in clubs and organizations where you can meet new guys. Invite them out on casual "getting to know you" type outings. If romantic potential is there, you can build to it.\n\nThere's no need to rush towards anything physical (in fact, it's better not to). If you find that you like a guy but want to take things slow, be open and honest with him about it. Same thing if you don't want a romance (and he seems to).