how do you get love back into your relationship when you are the only one loveing and not letting go of the on
149880
Let her have her space. If she wants to be with you, she will come and get you. Most woman do not want a lost puppy tagging along or to feel like they are being sufficated. Stand back as hard as it might be fight the urge to see her. She will call you if she wants you. If she doesn't call then move on with your life. Don't play the part of the fool even if you are one.
369066
You recover by taking care of you! I think a part of you will always love him, but at a different level. You will learn to go on and find a new love that you will love differently than the last. The love may not be a relationship, it could be a passion for a sport or activity that you discovered you enjoy but never did because you were in a relationship. Find a Friend and vent to her keep it between the two of you the more people you talk to about it the better the chance he will find out. The best thing for you is to know that you are going to survive and everyday is a new day and one day you will not so much remember the pain and will be thankful that you loved him and even more thankful you are not with him because of the great relationship you have. Without the bad relationships that ended you wouldn't have the opportunity to be thankful for the great relationships yet to come. Good luck to you.
932483
You have to constanly remind yourself why you fell in love with him in the first place.  Remember the fun you had while you dated and how much you couldn't wait to be with him.  It's so easy when you're familiar with someone to focus on all the negatives.  Find the positive things in your spouse and focus on those.  Also, think of what it would be like if you ever had to live without that peson.  If today where your last day, would your spouse truly know you loved them?  So many people think that to get romance back into a marriage you have to focus on the other person.  Really, it just takes one, and since you know you can't change your spouse, just focus on the person you can change.... you!!!
263068
Whether it had been 1yr. or 10yrs. it's hard to let go of someone you have gotten used to being around and doing things with and now it seems like everything around you make you think of this person. I and millions of other people can relate but you are simply dealing with something called CHANGE and it is hard for you to move from one comfort zone to another because you are not allowing yourself to. Let go of the past, that is all it is now, and find new people to be around, do things with other people, family members, and friends, learn to be comfortable with being single for now, get a life. And when you get involved with another continue to still live a life of your own.
876970
Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and try to move on.  I know it's probably the hardest thing you could possibly do right now, but the longer you let it drag on, the harder it will be.  In the end, a clean break is the best and easiest way.  Eventually you'll get over it.\n\nGood luck.
1018192
yeah the first answer is correct. let time heal and if yuo still love each other i guess it's worth a try once more.\nbe honest and tell him you still love him and dont want to let go.\nwhatever his answers is. respect it. atleast you did your best and you tried lowering your pride. you wont lose anything for doing that. a more respect  for your self.
273610
Make sure you don't just miss being in love, so you think you are. Make sure that person isn't the rebound. Really think about what about that person you really love.
286455
You two need to go back in time and remember the special things you liked about eachother in the beginning and start to rebuild your relationship.  Sometimes couples take eachother for granted and after a while they stop doing and saying those little things that made each other feel special and they lose sight of the qualities they fell in love with in the first place.
533101
Just be honest and tell him how you feel. Be alone with him and tell him that you really love him and don't want to loose him. Ask him to forgive you and to try to leave it all behind and start over but this time instead of fighting, you guys need to learn to communicate and take things slowly. Don't jump into conclusions because that just makes arguments. Remember communication and trust are the key things to a communication. Trust in him and be honest about how you feel. It will be okay. All couples go through this don't' take it to harsh.
272492
ifU shouDON'Tave to stop and thyou're\niF THEY DONT UNDERSTAND maybe youre not ready and might get crushed.\nYou have to choose the one u love most and makes you feel comfortable.
635876
That's a real tough one. And millions of others have been through the same thing. I am not going to lie to you and say it'll be easy, especially since you work with him. It's a process that you have to go through taking one day at a time. I think it's a pretty sure bet that if you got back together that the same thing would happen again.You may love him but he has to find his way back to you if and when he realizes that it's you he really wants to be with. So as hard as it is, let him work things out for himself. If you have close friends or relatives spend some time with them and if you have interests then try to keep yourself busy without over doing it. It's hard, but I think a person has to learn to try to relax as much as possible in a situation and not allow depression to creep in and get a grip. Don't let obsessive thinking get the better of you. In a sense it is an opportunity for you to learn to enjoy just being alive and being your own person. Some men and women keep making the same mistake bcause they either let someone back when it's not wise because they love them and are lonely, or they get involved with someone new, too soon, and the cycle repeats itself. Like I said, don't fixate on it, but try to enjoy each day as much as you can. You will have down times, but over time you can and will recover and you may discover a brand new life for yourself. So allow yourself to grieve a little but let yourself have hope for your future too.
945244
I'm so sorry about what has happened to you... *HUGS*... You have to think hard about everything. Weigh things carefully. Should you and your wife get back together, there should be love for each other.  The first thing that you have to do is to fix yourself, physically and emotionally. Get help from your family. I know how it feels to be hurting inside, not knowing what to do with the feeling. It kills you inside. You want to cry but crying isn't enough to let your feelings out. Just fix yourself first. More importantly, fix yourself emotionally. From there, you'll know what to do next...
667808
Depends on how did you hurt him. Was it by not being faithful to him while being away from him coz that is the most difficult thing to recover. You could still try this..\n\nIf it was anything else and you are really serious about getting back with him, leave your ego, take a break go to him...fall on your knees, do anything that you think you must to tell him that HE is the LOVE of YOUR LIFE and you would DO anything to have him back..From my standpoint I don't think EGO should come in between when you love someone absolutely and want him to know that...
392209
I am in a situation like that but at the end of the day all it takes is trust. It is hard at first but then you get used of the idea that out there someone is wiating for me and really loves me.The important thing is that there is still love. And remember that love conqueres everything. It is only a matter of time before you are reunited.
1026467
Set him loose and tell him do what you think is best. Then you both either do or don't see others while away. If you guys are meant for each other then you will get back together...but in all honesty you probably won't. We all go thru it at some point. It sucks but we get past it.
1003294
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
335259
Be with the one you love! If you cant..try