I've only been with one guy (4 months) i'm 14. I think i'm in love, but it could be lust.should we have sex?
141499
well u think it is love no girl it is not love belive me its  lust u only been together for 4 months got weit a long time DONT HAVE SEX WITH HIM!
302354
Girl, if you have known him for 4 years like you say, you SHOULD meet. Whether for sex or not, you should have physical attraction as well as spiritual and intellectual.
97658
only if the feelings is mutual. if all you want is to have sex also, then do it. your probabaly young and when your young, its all about the sex. the serious stuff will come later. enjoy yourself and him. `
910813
How do I put this delicately?\n\nI would suggest that you are head-over-heels in 'love' (or at least lust). Where the mind goes, the body follows (an important principle in foreplay, that is) - and, from the sound of it, noone else is going to be pushing your buttons while you have this person on your mind. As long as it doesn't enter the realms of crippling obsession, it's not the 'mother of all evils' (whether the sentiment is returned or not).\n\nIf you're old enough to cash in, go for it. If you're below the age of consent, then just live with the crush...
299153
Sure, but only if I was old enough to understand what love is and to actually know that I am in love. If you are like 14, your not in love you just think it..
630535
There is no magic age (except 18) :) It is okay to wait. Despite the message of the "new virgin" crowd you really only do get one first time. Once you are in a relationship with someone that you care about (beyond just a physical attraction), then consider it. You will be in a very vulnerable emotional and physical position, and you have to absolutely trust your partner. Has he/she been honest about his/her past or disease status? Is he/she really committed to you or is he/she just trying to get in your pants? Once you can pose these (and other) questions, and know in your heart that you have gotten and honest answers, then it is too soon for you no matter what your age.
1056108
I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have a lot to learn about yourself still. It doesn't sound like you have been in a relationship with this boy very long, and it also sounds like you are still learning what you like in a relationship, and in a partner.\n\nIf your goal is a long term relationship, I would definitely go slow with this. Rushing won't give you any benefits, and it can get you into trouble if your feelings about this boy are still so new that he turns out to not be as great as you think. Or if you just change your mind or find someone better later.\n\nIf you don't care about a relationship, if you are just looking for fun without commitments, you also need to be very careful because if he thinks this is serious and you don't, he could end up very hurt. then again, it could be the other way around, and you could end up the one being hurt.\n\nRemember, boys at 15 tend to care more about sex than they do relationships.\n\nYour best bet is to move slowly so you can be really sure you are seeing things clearly before you make any big decisions about what to do.\n\nI am sure a lot of people will tell you that 15 is too young to be thinking about a serious relationship, and it is easy to say "they don't know my situation"  That's true.  If you have any female friends that are older, ask them about their relationships when they were your age... and how they feel about them now. It could be that your perspective on this entire situation will be very different in a few years. It can't hurt to ask.
433067
sex isn't just an act there are emotions that will go along with being with someone in this way . If he really loves you he will wait dont comprimise your morals  your only a virgin once once you have you cant go back  yes you can remain from having sex but your so young sex will always be there. i dont know him  but the guys i dated will tell you what ever it takes to get you into bed the good ones wont pressure you    i know  its hard  we have all been there   also if you happen to get prenant are you really ready for  all that respnsiblity  it will change your life .  some people are more mature than others at this age  just write down your thoughts  maybe seeing it on paper will help you decide    go talk to girls your age and get there input the ones that have babies on just the ones that have been through this stuff   you said you have morals and goals    if you are a religious person  go talk to a  teen  counselor than can help without judging  you . and if your parents  change their mind and decide to press legal charges against him because of his age  prison isnt going to be a place for him    dont risk  doing that to him     even if you dont want them to they can still override  and go to the law    i'm  not trying to scare you  just want you to get all the  facts before you make the decision   i wish someone would have told me about all the emotionally things that go along with sex    i have been with several  guys  when i was your age  i'm 20 something   and i still have  emotions from my first time  and  the times after  that.  there is so much life to experience  take it and run but be carful.
722890
I think part of you knows you are making a mistake.  If you didn't feel this way, you would want to share the good news with your family.  You wouldn't be worried about their reaction.  Slow down a little bit.  Get to know this guy better.  Finish school if you haven't already.  You have all the time in the world ahead of you.  One month is not enough time to get to know someone.  Marriage takes so much more than just the feeling of love.  Believe it or not, the infatuation you are feeling now will fade and when it does, you will find out if your love is deep enough to sustain  throughout life's challenges.  There's no way you can know that yet.
720377
No, 14 is just waaaay too young.  Having sex comes with a lot of consequences, emotionally and physically.  \n\nWait until you're older and meet someone you really love, and whom you know loves and cares for you.  \n\nOnce it's gone, it's gone, so make sure you don't regret it later.
133179
Take your time with this relationship.  But no sex, or you will end up sending him to prison and end his military career before it begins.  Both of you are young, you may be very mature, but the law requires you to be older to give consent to having sex.  If he is willing to be in a relationship without sex until you are 18, then go for it.  If he is not willing to wait, don't get him in trouble by having sex with him.
521178
If you have a sensible head on your shoulders and know how to handle yourself then why not? It may be illegal for him to have sex with you where you come from though and he'll be the one that could get a criminal record if it is! But generally speaking, four years age difference is nothing! Just be very careful, is all I can suggest. Many older men have desires for young girls that are not altogether healthy.\nJust use some good judgment and keep safe!
866926
Age is a important factor in your question. If you are very young maybe he signed one of the abstinence pledges, to not have sex until marriage. If you are older, you may want to talk to him and find out if he is serious about your relationship and if he thinks about marriage at all, find out where he is at, or you are wasting valuable time, where you could find someone who is serious about your relationship, don't be a filler for when he has nothing better to do.\nTake care of yourself. You deserve to be happy. Good Luck.
831043
Yes! For sure! Love knows no age limit. But if you are the 15 year old girl, you best be careful. Make sure that You are safe, and the guy is not using or abusing you. Only stay in the relationship and make the commitment if you think it is true love. And don't kid yourself if you know that the relationship isn't going anyway, or worse still, if it is abusive. \n\nJust make sure that you know what your doing. Don't have sex if you don't want to. Don't do it just to please him. Don't do things just because he forces you. And probably you should discuss it nicely with your parents too. Also, if your having sex with him, it better be protected sex and safe, unless you want to have a baby. And if you do want a baby, you better be sure that the both of you will be able to suport it. But I am getting a bit side tracked here aren't I?\n\nIf you are the 15 year old girl in the relationship, I wish you good luck!\n\nP/S: Here's a nice movie you might like to watch, it's so moving: Mum at 16
845381
You say it is someone you think you are going to have sex with and not someone that you love. Relationships with age differences can work, but they are more difficult to make work and require a loving relationship. Since you didn't mention love, I don't think he is too old, I think you are too young.
851469
Oh dear. You think you love him? What is love, then? You are not yet in a relationship do not go there, yet.\n\nHow old you are is important. A lot younger does not tell us much.\nBy 18 a guy has a few ideas on how to start a relationship, you need to let him start it.  If you are too young (>16) please do not do anything with him even if he does start it.\n\nAsk yourself why you want to be with him.\nIs it to be the cool girl dating a much older guy? (That's bad).\n\nIs it because he is a guy you have become comfortable with and developed a crush due to the level of familiarity? (Date someone your age with similar qualities, REMEMBER eventually you will get comfortable with them).\n\nIs it because he pays attention to you? (Other guys will eventually).\n\nIs it because you have sincer feelings?
1035240
At the young age of 14 you are not able to distinguish love from lust at this point.  Love is not only an emotion, it's commitment, trust, patience, and giving your all to someone for the purpose of marriage.  Wait until your education and career are established and then when all of YOUR needs are met by YOU, then you can tell if you love someone.  Years to go young lady.!!!  This young fella doesn't need to complications of another person wanting him either.  Chances are that he needs as much time to find himself as you do.  True love will feel richer once you know what you're doing in life.  If you two were in real love then you wouldn't need to ask strangers how to show your love to someone.  If both of you were mature enough to be in love, he would have created an environment that you would be comfortable enough to express your love without even asking.  Take your time. ok.