My boyfriend and I picked out an engagement ring in Septemeber, the big day was sometime this month..?
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Marriage is a big decision.  Perhaps your fight has caused him to reexamine the relationship.  This is a good thing -- if more people slowed down and examined their relationships to determine whether or not they were compatible before jumping into marriage, we might have a lower divorce rate.  What he is doing is being cautious and you can't fault him for that.  He still cares for you.  He just wants to make sure you are the one.
714002
Go shopping together just to "check out" rings and watch for a reaction to see which style they like.  Then figure your budget and when your ready pick a ring based on what she liked.  This worked for my husband.  I saw 4-5 rings that I really liked and he went back and purchased one similar to one of my favorites.\nGood Luck
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I'm not sure why he would even bring it up if he hasn't found the ring yet. I think he is feeling you out to see how you feel about it.In my opinion if he wanted to do it right he would have said nothing, found a ring and then proposed. I think he's scared you don't want too. No he has not technically proposed.
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YES, YES, YES!! It is more than worth the wait. It's better to wait, than not to wait and regret it. What you have is very precious. You can only give it away once. Let it be to your husband. He will appreciate that you guarded something just for him. It's the most loving thing you can do for your future. There's just so many reasons to guard what you have. Many will tell you it's no big deal...because they already gave theirs away. It IS a big deal. Take it from one who gave it away at 18 and regretted it very much later. Even though my hubby forgave me for the loose life I had led before we got married, I still have all those memories of wasting myself on jerks and idiots. All they wanted was a good time. All I wanted was someone to love me. The guy I married? He's the only one who didn't want to use me like that. He wanted more than a one night stand. Don't think that passing up those guys was a mistake, especially if they didn't want to get to know you as a person without getting the perks first. You just continue guarding what you have. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will appreciate it very much...with a wedding ring. <*)))><
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The ring was a gift, so no need to give it back.\nJust tell him you are not going to continue to date him.\nHe will not change, abusive people's true colors eventually come out.\n\nGood thing you found out now, instead of getting married and then found out.
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Already founf my soul mate.  Engaged and set a date
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Wow, that's a long time.\n\nIMO by the time my wife and I had gotten married it WAS just a formality...it was as you say, "just a piece of paper." \n\nHowever, that did not come from apathy...not in the least. It was that my wife was so special to me, I had already decided by that point that this was the woman I was to spend the rest of my life with. The whole point of the ring and marriage is for validation...if he is waiting so long then it appears as though he is avoiding something. \n\nIt really sounds like he just proposed to make ya happy or, forgive the phrase, shut ya up. If he had really intended to engage to you, he would have bothered to plan for a ring. It took me 6 months, the opening of my first credit card (at 27), and a lot of freaking raman noodles...but I'd be damned if I wasn't going to provide the love of my life with some sort of validation. \n\nThe ring, ceremony, etc. is just symbolic...but if he isn't willing to put up, I can't help but wonder where else he will slack later. \n\nBasically this is something I would call a problem...but please don't take my speculation or anyone elses for what is really going on. It sounds as if you guys need to have a serious discussion and decide where you are going. It sounds like you have been through a lot together, and none of those trials and tribulations are going to be over soon. \n\nYou really need to know where you stand with this guy. Good luck and hope it all turns out.
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The most expensive gift I've ever recieved from a guy I was seeing was a diamond ring.  It was only .25 carots, white gold.  He was a drunken a**hole and after I had ditched him I gave the ring to a little girl I passed by at a fair because I felt it was bad luck to keep it.  ...I wonder if she still has it... No definately not still with him, really wouldn't mind never seeing him again.  :-)
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First off, I'd like to say that angel_baby0824's idea is super romantic :)  Now, I decided to get my boyfriend a ring this year (one for him, one for me kind of thing).  You can get them with any message on them at http://www.personalizationmall.com  But, they also have TONS of other great ideas.  They even have a Romantic Gifts section.  Good luck :)
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wow...that sounds really beautiful and I hope it comes true for u. As for me, my fiance and I are paying for our own things. We are having a nice wedding (with a wedding dress and tuxs). for the reception it is going to be one with  hay...music...liquior and a bbq. it is us. We arent the whole fancy stuff. Like a country barn dance like u may see in some movies.  It looks great in my head so I pray it looks good out of it.  2 months to go.
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You could actually tell that a guy is ready to commit to you for a lifetime whenever that guy has already plans for the both of you in the future. It is not all about the diamond ring that a guy gives you on your engagement day, it is not also just about what you both have in the present but what you will be having in the future. You could tell that a guy is ready to commit to you for a lifetime if guy plans already on what you both will have...it is not only "I" that he would be taking into consideration but it would become "WE". In all things "WE" counts.
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If you don't have the moola, you can still have a great evening.  My boyfriend once took me on a late day picnic.  He had made simple things but all which I had mentionned I like.  He wrote me a wonderful card and then he sent me a treasure hunt around his house for a surprise (for me it was earrings but you can use anything cute that you know he likes).  I think if most of your effort go into planning, he will definately see it and enjoy it.  Happy anniversary!
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My husband and I got engaged early and We both should probably of waited a lil longer.. We don't regret it now... \n\nBut we both do look back and think we needed to grow and learn a lil more about life and being together as girlfriend and boyfriend.\n\nI'd say wait it out if you both feel like you should be together forever then it's worth the wait.\n\nAnything is possible and you should weight it all out... Should I rush or should I take my time?\n\nAsk yourself that because in the end your heart knows what's best not your inner-voice.\n\nJust take it one day at a time and see what happens!\n\nGood Luck!
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Your wedding day is a joint venture!  A lot of brides forget its about the groom too! hahah I say - SURE if he's that interested in the details and you both agree on the style of dress and theme if he wants to buy your wedding dress - how special is that? Thats wonderfully sweet of him. Just make sure you both agree on the details. The japanese theme and kimono sound beautiful.
797476
Most definitely! An engagement ring is to show that you're engaged to the person that gave it to you. If you split up, you're no longer engaged, so the ring HAS to be returned.
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It depends on how elaborate you want it. I was engaged Oct. 31,2004 and got married Dec. 10, 2004. It wasnt fancy, but it was what i wanted.
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Oh, Honey, how awful! I hope the original ring turns up but until then, here's what I would do...replace the ring and tell him AFTER he gets home...no reason to have him upset while he's deployed, but when he gets back you two can do something special, maybe recreate the proposal, with the new ring... I hope that your "real" ring turns up...it probably will, the day the jeweler is done resizing the new one....most of all,I hope his homecoming is swift and safe