debate about anti divorce?
140997
Anti-divorce is definitely the way to go. \n\nYears and years of misery, acrimony, wasted time, and damage to any children involved are FAR-PREFERABLE to admitting that a mistake was made, and starting over.
254612
Yes - as long as there isn't any fighting back & forth over land/property/things & no children are involved. What you call a "starter marriage"! My first divorce was a piece of cake since we didnt' own a house & had no children. Six weeks & $300.00 & it was all over!! Good Luck!!
376023
I think the Catholic Church doesn't like divorce but never asked America to ban divorce.\n\nI think this should be the model.  Government exists to protect people's different religions. \n\nWhen someone says I am going to consider my religious believes when they run for something, I am all for it.\nIts not a violation.\n\nWhen a person wants creationism taught in a science class in a public school, this is I think a violation of church and state, and recent court cases seem to think it unconstititional to teach creationism in science class.\n\nI think Jesus and creationism should be taught in something called comparative religion, maybe it should only be an elective, but we need to be able to present the option for people to learn to become culturally literate if they desire.\n\nThats just how I feel.
512205
I have been through a divorce for this reason. I think if you have children and fight in front of them all the time, its best to go seperate ways so they dont have to suffer.
134841
There need to be more legalities behind marriage and less behind divorce. I did not have to take a blood test to get married. All I had to do was go down and apply for a marriage license and wait a couple days. And people do not have to change their name if they don't want to. \n\nYou have all these people that jump right into marriage and after a few years have to go through hell and high water to divorce. \n\nI think if we make it harder to get married only those that truly want to be married will get married and there will be less divorce.
343300
anything worth doing is worth fighting for... who cares if there is a mix... are you happy? Are your children happy? My family hates the man I married, and his family hates me... everyone seems to think that they know what is best... we love eachother, our son is fantastic, well rounded. We are a happy family and have been for the past 6 years... goes to show that sometimes the world is wrong... go figure
347516
With Aids, the only alternative is sex inside of marriage. \n\nIf people would make better decisions on their life partners and not just act on lust ( created by sex outside of marriage) and then determine within themselves to make it work, honor their vows, stay faithful (sex inside of marriage), then we might see a dedcline of divorce and dysfuctional families.\n\nSo sex inside marriage is the only answer for the chaos.
1161209
ha ha h ha\n\nstop gays from marrying! stop straights from divorcing!\n\nhow bout, 'it's none of your business!'
864861
If you really want to discuss this with her, and you probably should at some point, you will have to be prepared for her response.  Close-minded people need extra time to process information that falls outside their belief system.  I know this because I am still fighting daily the part of me that is close-minded.\n\nThe Bible tells us not to be "unequally yoked" to each other, and she may use that against you.  However, the only Biblical reason for divorce is infidelity.  Tell her you love her and that you need her to support you in the best way that she can, even if she can't understand it.  Don't let her drag you into arguments about who believes what until you're both able to do it calm and rationally.  It will be easy to get into a fight about whose beliefs are right and whose are wrong - it won't get you anywhere.\n\nBtw, don't judge all Christians by the poor examples we continue to be.  Good Christians should be living apologies to the rest of the world for the insincerity of thousands of people who call themselves Christians but are not true followers of Christ.  We aren't all fundamentalist wackos that are incapable of thinking for ourselves.
1022053
So you would like to find a better argument than those you have listed above?  And you are going to throw a few vague statistics up here about hetrosexual divorce rate and an entertainment show called Desperate Houswives and some kid on Yahoo being a moron? as reasons why the instution of marriage is eroded and why it makes people who belive in it hypocritical? \n\nIf you come on one of these forums and place a question like this I suggest respecfully that you need to be more informed as to some of the reasons it might erode traditional marriage. Here are some actual facts and their sources that might serve to renew your faith in hetrosexual marriage.\n\nThe Percentage of Divorces in the USA as reported by the US Census Bureau for the year 2005 is  38%... .......(not 50 as you listed)\nIn the USA 14500 persons died of Aids in 2005\nIn the USA 1.4 million people are infected with aids of who 1.02 million are GAY,( the rest are infected by needle sharing and blood transfusions, hetrosexual couples are in this group)\nWorldwide, 3.3 million died of Aids in 2005 and the number is expected to increase.\nAccording to the LA times Gay couples are 50% more sexually active with more than one partner than hetrosexual couples.\nBy including Gay couples into Private Medical Insurance the cost to individual single and married couples would rise from an average or 350 / month to 840/month ( the amount that comes out of your paycheck each month would depend on how much the particular company you work for subsidized your medical Insurance (for instance right now I pay 120/mo and company pays 212))\nUS Medicare system says it would need an infusion of at least 12 billion to cover the costs of AIDS treatment of the Gay community, if an amendment to this effect did not pass medicare payments to current users would have to be reduced by 35%.\nDo you realize how much that would affect our parents and relatives who depend on Medicare for their health care?\nFor that matter, it would fall on us as children to start to cover their medical costs and with ever smaller paychecks.\n\nStill think voting for the institution of marriage is a bad thing???\n\nHere is the link to commentary on one of the main gay marriage advocates position and why it may be a bit faulty, its an interesting read. There are also some other things on this page that might interest you\n\nhttp://www.taemag.com/issues/articleID.19248/article_detail.asp\n\nOh, and just for the ones who think I am one of your Bible thumpers or something, I am an East Indian, Hindu, (not Christian) and my marriage was arranged. But I am a US Citizen
1158453
Well, look around you.  Nothing would be much different.\n\nThe number of single parent homes that exist now have nothing to do with the wedding or the divorce.  It all has to do with the people and how they react to each other in conflict and in calm times.\n\nStaying together becuase of the children wouldnt change at all, married or living together.\n\nI suppose lawyers would have less to do, or have to go into another avenue of Law.\n\nBut, we are not better off without marriage, not sure about the actual wedding ceremony, aside from the money so many people make off of it.\n\nMarriage, is a commitment to each other, not a piece of paper.  The paper is man made and just shows the legal contract entered into.  A true marriage vow is forever and is made with GOD as your true witness..  When the marriage vow is done with this as its true goal, you will be better off even in really hard times ( those times when you love your spouse for better and for worse, and it seems like its the worse part all the time)\n\nI know there are people on here that will quote that the Christian divorce rate is almost equal to the non Christain divorce rate, but no one has taken into account what I would call the true Christain divorce rate.  That would be of Christains that actually attend Church and read their bible regularly, not just on holidays or on sundays when there is no conflict with other things they may want to do.\nThat is a statistic that I would prefer to see.
1050776
(A friend huh? )  Why is it that when ever someone on this site wants a "quickie divorce",or wants to break up with someone,the first thing they say is: "It's not me-it's for a friend?"\n\n(1) First of all,why waste your time trying to get answers to your friends problems? Is he/she not capable of taking care of this him/herself?\n( 2) Do you think people on this site are able to determine why this marriage should end,without details?\n(3) Stop Lying!-Your the one who wants the " Quicky divorce" (wink,wink!). You probably got married just as quick,and as a matter of fact,you probably do "everything" quick (wink,wink). (Anyway) stop trying to do everything so "Quickly". Pay the cost to end the marriage,or prove to the Lawyers,that YOUR WIFE is capable of footing the bill!. \n\n(PS) Just to let you know,there is no such thing as "breaking away clean",from a divorce. Everyone will pay,suffer,or whatever in the long run. Don't forget about Alimony,and paying any bills she has accumulated over the years. Good thing there's no kids involved. (Good luck)
927296
Start here for more or less neutral look at the issue:\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same-sex_marriage#Controversy
183270
It's impossible to determine whether the fighting will stop without knowing the root causes of your arguments. From your description, it sounds as though you have been fighting about issues large and small, that perhaps might point to a deeper conflict. Perhaps part of the problem has to do with your expectations. Marriage and children are both overwhelming issues, and it might be premature to anticipate them so early on (and before you have entered into marriage). With all of this pressure related to the future of your partnership together, you might be stifling your present romantic life.\n\nHave a great future!
800735
well of course divorce is expensive and final, they say no one wins but the attorneys.\nLegal separation...not very expensive and I've known couples who have used that separation as their rock bottom and recaptured their once passion in the marriage therefore reuniting.\nBut for those who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they want to be finished with the relationship, divorce is probably the end all responsible thing to do, especially nice when it is uncontested. Might want to check into the "Tax ramifications though if that's an important factor.
249251
I believe that same gender marriages should be allowed and I am happily married and not cheating on my spouse.But I do agree with you. Divorce and adultry are blatant attacks on marriage so they should be banned to if they are going to use that arguement against same sex unions.
903212
No, I don't think they should get a divorce.  Everyone has their shortcomings and how beautiful is it when married people actually remain in relationships even when there is difficulty.\n\nPart of what makes a marriage work is letting the other person know it's okay to be vulnerable, real, damaged or imperfect and there is still a safe place in the loving arms of their spouse.\n\nThat's what marriage is about and anyone who thinks differently has much to learn about life.  It's my opinion when someone throws a relationship away they are selfish, frightened & insecure.\n\nDivorce is never an option - in my opinion.