when i get very mad at my parents what should i do please be honest?
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First cool off and then try to tell them how you feel. I have been keeping foster kids for years and well in all of our trainings they tell us to use feeling words not blame words to tell them what you are thinking... Say... I feel....... way when this happens... \nif you are still having problems and this is not working then find another adult you can talk to a school counselor or a pastor.... dont act on you anger .. think things through first... i wish you the best of luck.. \nwe adults can be so dumb sometimes and remember we make mistates also and we are far far from perfect... Good luck!\nLori
137032
Maybe because your parents really love you so they become possessive, try to talk it over when things calm down. Don't talk about it when they are mad and high-tempered...
292761
You need to confront them in a straight forward manner after you've gotten past the really angry stage.  You need to let them know how what they have done has affected you and what your reaction is to this, if it is leaving or what ever.  Just don't let your anger and pain control the discussion, you need to be clear headed so you can make good choices about what you want to happen for your future.
998818
stick up for yourself assretivly, tell them you arent stupid, you dont appreciate the insination or accusation that you are and you would prefer if they never said that to you again. dont be mean, dont yell, be calm and say what you feel, then dont back down or feel guilty for it.
30891
Be honest.  Hopefully she will respect your honesty.  Remember that she is your mother and you can tell her anything.  Just tell her.  Trust and open communication between you and your parents are the most important things you can have with them.
913422
Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
1149994
You are old enough to be on your own ....they are your parents and will always love you...so they may be mad at first but trust me they will get over it....they always do sometime!...they cant stay mad at you forever.... It your life now and they cant control there little girl forever!
1141257
Being open with your parents is the best thing. Sit down and talk to your mom or dad.  Tell her you love her and you would like to talk things out. When she tells you things that she expects out of you, try to be understanding and help her. If your mom is sensible, she will come around. Don't talk back to your parents in a disrespectable tone since that will only make things worse. It will take a great deal of control on your part to sit and listen and when you talk, don't get emotional and keep your head. Talking to them when everyone is calm is the best thing. Level heads come to an understanding. Being a teen is hard, and being an adult is even harder. Trust me on this one. With age come a great deal of responsibility. Show your parents your maturity by talking to them. Its ok to stick up for yourself but do it in a mature way.\nDon't forget, things always change, hopefully, by being open with them, it will be better for you!!
1013588
You should just ignor him don't drop what your doing and isolate yourself.  Ignor him.  If you can't concentrate just leave without saying a word.  If you listen it will bother you and make you want to yell back.  If you yell back he will be even more upset and that may lead to and awful fight.  Just tune him out.  I know my dad was a mean old man and blamed everything on me even though I was his little princess.  I tune him out and go about my business.
567319
ack bird my parents used to be like that its crap having to miss out on stuf when your friends can do it. my advice is never be honest with them it gets you know were. clean the house if it gets you out. wear makeup if you want its your face just make sure it looks good not a big orange face lol. do what you can get away with but be careful. your only young once. but try an understand they only do it because they care you'l relaise that when ur older
815874
I was neglected as a child, abused as an adult. The only way I got over these conflicts in my life was by FORGIVENESS. That may seem strange to you, but your anger towards people are only holding them to you. They don't suffer for what they've done, but you have placed on yourself MORE suffering by not forgiving them. \n\nWrite them a letter, tell them how you feel, rip it up and burn it...don't send it to them. Forgive them in your heart, it will free you to go on with your life without them. Don't confront them, they will deny it and make your anger worse.\n\nThey abused you, now you are abusing yourself. Let it go. (and if you are religious, pray and give them and your anger towards them to God to handle, He will!)
177681
When parents scold they are often looking for body language that they are getting through. Once they see it they will soften and begin winding the scold/lecture down.\n\nGive this a try next time - communicate that you accept what they are saying and will comply earlier in the scolding process. Listen attentively, show respect, and seek to please quickly. Communicate that both with your tone of voice and with your body language. I bet you will find that the scoldings will be much shorter.\n\nTwo of my four children were polar opposites. One responded quickly to being fussed at and I found I didn't need to push to know that he 'got it' and was going to change. The other seemed to feel like she lost a war if she showed 'weakness' by softeneing when she was being fussed at. With her I  felt like she didn't 'get it' so I droned on and on which didn't make either one of us happy. I never yelled, but I sure could lecture. LOL. One day when she was about 11, the light turned on. She quit making corrections a contest and I was able to correct with merely a short instruction. She is 15 now and we both laugh about it. She says that she hopes her children learn it isn't a battle younger than she did.\n\nNow, I am turning a corner here . . .\n\nIf you are fully complying in spirit, tone, body language, and in following through to obey and yet your authority figure is still not winding down, it may be that they have anger issues. This person may himself have not been treated with emotional respect and has not learned good emotional boundaries. \n\nI experienced this with my dad, so I understand. He would stand there yelling at me for crying. My mom tried to help him understand that I would comply with a mere talking to, but he seldom understood that. I was about as tender-hearted a kid as they come. I constantly tried to please my parents and it broke my heart to displease them. My relationship with my dad was a very difficult one. \n\nI am 40 years old now and he is in his 60s. He still has a problem with his temper and has alienated nearly every relative and friend he ever had. He very seriously hurt me and my family about five years ago when I allowed healthy boundaries to slide, so I do have to diligently maintain a few boundaries to protect myself and my family from hurt. But he knows I love him, and he knows he can count on me. He will probably never master his temper. I can chose to alienate him because of it, or I can chose to grow enough to love him, respect him as a father, and set/keep healthy boundaries.
577273
Admitting to your parents that you have a problem even again will not "make then mad" your parents love you.  They helped you the other 2 times you needed help and they will help you again.  You should talk to them and tell them whats going on.  You should even express your fear to them that you get scared to ask for help.  See what they say.  And yes sweetheart you need to get long term help, you should never hurt yourself.  Having a problem like this is not your fault, it is a mental illness that you have no control over.  So if you need help ask for it, don't be ashamed or afraid.
875438
well an accident is an accident, be it to the good or bad. the best thing to do is sit down with your dad and talk about it. just keep in mind you live there because he loves you and he wants to help you. thats what being a parent is. so don't punnish him by being mad. just easily talk it out and things will work themselves out.
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It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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Your mom is trying to look out for your best interest.When you are older you might appreciate that more.Perhaps you could take your anger out in other ways such as drawing,singing,or taking up a sport in school.It may be a good idea to see some professional help b/c your anger remedies right now can do a lot of harm to you1Good luck and I hope things work out for you!
724727
well, parents are really overprotective, especially if your the only child, or the youngest and you have older bro's/sis's that have gotten into trouble and they are just cracking down on you. but let your parents know that if they are too overprotective, that its not gonna keep you from doing things they are against, its going to make you want to do it more. Sit down, and talk to them, ask them why they are treating you how they are, and let them know how you feel because if you never express your feelings with them, they will just keep on doing it. If they do not stop, just try to stay away from home, i dont mean run away, but after school go hang out at a friends house, go shopping, go somewhere for a while so when you get home, all you have to do is do homework, then go to bed. If your almost 18, you only have a little longer to put up with this, but seriously NO parents should blame things on you if you didnt do them. Let them know how you feel, and then work from there. Good luck!