so if you have a long distance relationship? Part 2?
151823
Ok, the first 2 answers are right if you are ready to move on. But, if you want to make the relationship work for the long term then I suggest marriage conseling. Because even though you two are together now there can be alot of unresolved issues that need to come out and be explained. For one thing your trust has been violated and you will be wondering while away from home if another episode is going to happen. Another thing is that if a guy who has cheated on a woman will feel like he is forever be expecting him to do it again. Which in that case he will just to do it. Now, what you really have to ask yourself and not your family is am I ready to have my child around someone that will possibly be the childs stepfather. And if so, will he be alright with being a father figure. Maybe not THE father figure but lets face it, when you are involed with someone and you have a child he's not only dating you he has to be around your child. So you have a major decision to make and I suggest you take your time and maybe read up on the subject. Then, maybe you could ask family and friends. Know that your decision does impact your kid and yes they do watch what you do at all ages. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!
689439
One. You can ask in the very first email, if you are charming enough and clever about it. Better yet, get her to ask to meet you.\n\nBe sure that you two are able to physically meet each other fairly easily - in other words, not living so far apart that it becomes a hassle to meet. While long-distance relationships can and do work, for many people they are just too much trouble and nearly impossible to pull off well. So, be sure that both of you are comfortable.\n\nJust ask, and be confident. There is no "prescribed length of writing" in these sorts of relationships.
1129389
I know what u mean....my BF lives in Houston.....where I am in College Station....TX.....it is almost 2 hrs away....BUT....we talk on the phone EVERYDAY......send emails everyday.....& he just drove up here today....out of the blue to see me.....of course we only got to spend 4 hrs with each other...it was amazing.....I have had long distance relationships before.....but this one kind of grows.....every time we see each other....we grow "fonder"....they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....I really like my BF too.....it is hard for us because of the distance...as well as our work schedules....but we make it happen......what I like about him....HE comes to me, more then I go to him.......Just be patient.....like one other person said....let him figure out a way to come to u.....if it was meant to be....something will work out.....GOOD LUCK!...
1110214
you like him but are you willing to do the long distance relationship, truthfully? And do you think he really "likes" you just as much and is he willing to do the long distance relationship. In my opinion, if its only "i like you and you like me" type of feelings don't bother, its just going to be too hard.
1161024
I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.
1003178
Long distance relationship are a real challenge.\nTrust is a must. It sounds both are trying to test each other by means of jealousy?
1095786
I've done the long distance thing..  You two are doing everything right in my book anyways.. lol.  My advise is to stay busy with friends.  That way the time will go by faster.
1158565
I was in a long distance relationship for more than two years - we lived an hour apart - & at first we talked all day too & were together whenever we could be - but the last 9 months or so he stopped callin - it tapered off to once a day, then only once a week & we didn't spend so much time together - well, he ended the relationship a month ago with no explanation, just an e-mail. \nSo it sounds like even tho ya'll love each other, you are starting to drift as we did - it happens & it's hard to keep it from going south unless one of you can change to spend more time together. I was the only one making the effort there, too, for a long time - I drove to see him, never the other way around. I don't know - you may have to let this one go & move along. It bites, I know. Good luck.
852086
Long distance relationship hardly works.
1128358
No there is nothing wrong with that keep your long distance relation but you always need to complete it with a local physical contact relation... That will work...
178326
Yes but it depends on how the relationship is long distance. If it's temporary( like away at college) then yeah if both are willing to make it work then it will work. If it's some type of 'i met him on the internet but he lives in another state...' then i don't think so.
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It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
250033
I agree with pretty much every one on this page except the ones who say that long distance relationships DON'T work! C'mon.. be more positive!\n\nBTW, thank you for annswering my question and I am glad that I helped you :D.
118655
Yes, my bf lives about 500 miles away, we've been together for about 5 years, i moved here for my job, and he stayed there to finish his career.\nHe visits me about 3 or 4 times a year, and i go there about 3 or 4 times a year too. \nWe are ok, he is about to finish school, and i'm not sure yet what will happen, but we are ok by now.
692086
Neither. I would have to say it depends how long you have been dating. I have seen people move in with each other that had a long distance relationship, it turns ugly. Remember if you or she moves a long distance you might regret it, being together all the time is different the just talking on the phone and seeing each other once in a while. I know because I left to college and it was better when I was far but when I moved back situation got worse with my boyfriend.\nBe careful and if you have cold feet or second thoughts DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!
703636
what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
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Ask yourself if you really love her. Long distance relationships are really hard. If you can't keep it together because she is so far away, then end it. Love requires sacrifice