I like this girl but she says we are from ifferent backgrounds so it won't work. Is this true for the long run
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Listen this girl is clearly trying to break it off with you.  If she keeps saying it won't work why would you want to be with her?  She seems very negitive and dull.  Break up with her and go out and have a good time.  You will meet someone who wants to make it work no matter what.
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I have been with my polish girlfriend for 4 years and while our cultural backgrounds are not as vastly different compared with say an american and someone from india as you say,  I still think it is perfectly possible for a cross-cultural relationship to be successful. As you said, in my experience it's all about making compromises and being realistic. You can never expect the other person to totally give up their way of life for you, so you have to meet half way, whether it means learning their language, trying new foods and making an effort to socialize with their friends and family who come from a different cultural background. \n\n I think that it is not fair or right to expect someone to just conform to your own culture and traditions  (gender roles in particular), therefore maybe it will only work with the sort of people who are open minded, easy going and trusting . \n\nIf you have love staring you in the face, I reckon it is a mistake for a person to automatically write off the possibility of a serious relationship just because the other is from a different country, therefore assuming that things would never work out. I have seen this attitude before and I just think that its a bit defeatist  If its meant to be, its meant to be.
1160000
Sounds like she is shy and maybe alittle afraid of telling her parents that she has met a nice boy and would like to start dating him...I think you should wait for her...Respect the way she feels right now and give her time...I'm sure things will work out for both of you...\n Clowmy
938036
i think you should just be yourself. i dont know you, but you're probably great and if she doesnt like you, her loss.\n\nand if u were meant to be with her, you will be with her. fate will always find its way.
775526
If I was truly involved and falling for someone, I highly doubt their immigration status would mean anything to me.  It's just a piece of paper.  I would certainly continue dating.
849694
sometimes people make connections where u least expect them. if she can spend 2 - 3 hours talking to the nerd, it means they have got things in common, and they like talking about it. \nstrange as this couple seems, i personally think they would make a very cute couple. \nalso, u might need to know how long this has lasted. like, they might be attracted initially. opposites attract, but will it sustain? if they have been having these conversations for sometime now, they REALLy  have found a connection!
140906
if you see him for his ethnicity, there is a very low probability a relationship would work. try seeing him as a person not a race.
698129
Question back: Why would you be afraid of dating someone who is different racially? If it's anything to do with family and 'values' let me assure you that eventually, whomever you choose to marry is your own family and you'll have to cut the strings sooner or later. I've personally never dated a guy of the same racial background as I am because I find it overly boring...difference is sexy! There's always something new to learn and explore.
1060221
im not dating anyone at the moment but color would not enter my decinson to date.its how the person acts toward you thats most important.
573655
why not? everyone is different and grew up in different ways. you wont find someone that is exactly like you, how boring would that be!
339683
you both sound young, so i would wait and see what develops. i not saying wait forever, she sounds like she isnt ready for a steady relationship and wants to have fun while she young and thats understandable. keep in contact with her and im sure over time you will know whether she is the right one for you.
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wow hun you have sooooo many years ahead of you to worry about that. I know you like her and you just wanna be with her.. but chances are it wouldnt work out anyway.. not because you arent a great guy.. but because relationships that young really never work out. you will find someone much better further along in your years. for right now concentrate on school and your friends. there will be plenty of time for dating later :)
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I hurt with you. A lot of things should not be an issue, but they are in family situations. All four of our children are from different races than my wife and I. It took one side some time to get used to the idea and relearn what racism smells like.\nOur two oldest sons are Asian married/relating to white women. A little brag - the women's parents think our sons are such great material, they are thrilled. Thus:\nLesson 1: Only bring quality material home to mother. The girl will know how to handle her by praising and showing interest in your heritage.\nLesson 2: Show your own interest in your heritage so your mother will know her "life" will not be forgotten.\nLesson 3: This is neither new nor unique to you. Latino's and blacks, previously Roman Catholics and anyone else, my good Irish stock w/ English, in dating it was my lower middle class vs. upper class. Hang in there. You are helping make a new world.\nAt last.
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I'm a Malay and currently having a  chinese girlfriend as well. Interacial relationships are very common now.The thing is, there are gonna be more obstacles than any relationships you can have with someone of your own race. Go for it man!!
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well you just need to be yourself, if she really likes you she will take you for who you are and not what you can/cant do. before my current partner of 3 years i was having it all the time but since i have been with this guy it doesn't really get mentioned, because we take each other for who we are.
394199
She might be, but you never no. If you really like her then take a chance. If it doesn't work then oh well just keep moving on...
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I think it's a very natural transition...you'll start having conversations about what she is looking for in a relationship, what you are looking for and if you both meet each others' standards for that.  If you do, then the next questions will be if she is interested in having a one on one relationship with you or interested in taking things to the next level.