why do mens love womens who hurt them. a good woman don;t stand a chance.?
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for the same reason women do go out with men that hurt them
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people dont fall in love knowing they are going to be hurt. true the potential is there but i would hope that they are few and far between.
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Just like women we dont want 2 be hurt either. I just think that men are not programmed to be that way, its sad but true. We also dont want to feel like a wimp so we hide those feelings and never really show the real us, until sadly its to late.  Words of advice ask once, then try other ways of finding out what u want to know.
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Your hurt is very understandable.You can't allways know what the other person is doing in a relationship and this is where trust comes in.We all want to trust someone and not have to think about what may happen if they do go astray.Not all men are this way.Some of us would love to meet someone that feels the same way and would respect a bond between 2 people.Maybe you are attracting this type of person.Look at where you have met these men and see if there is any connection as to the locations.I'm not suggesting that you hang out in the wrong places but maybe the men you meet are there for the purpose of finding women.Just a thought.
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I know how you feel. It seems no matter how much you do for them or how well you treat them they still disrespect you, show too little appreciation, and there never seems to be enough of a  balance, or reward in the relationship for men. IE women take more than they give and think about their own needs more than their partners. I can't give up though because I want to be happy with someone and will keep looking until I find that woman who gives as good as she gets
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She won't stop beating you up.  She is an abuser.  Just like men are abusers.  How can you like someone who abuses you?  Please try to think better of yourself.
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I would say by your question that a woman has just burnt you pretty bad. There are men out there the same way. I hate it when a woman or man takes another person that loves them so much for grant and then burns them. Like the old saying goes...one bad apple spoils it for the whole bunch......not all people treat other people badly. If they really did love that person they would NEVER treat them bad. If two people really do love each other there is no reason what so ever to manipulate the other for power, or anything else for that part. It should be 50/50 no  matter what.
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You nailed it right on the head. The women you are referring to want their handsome boy toy to play around with, and they get used and abused for years and years, then towards mid life, they decided that they want someone decent and loving. I reiterate what you just said, why should the good guy not have to settle for damaged goods, which they are,and with certainty, they will have psychological at the very least.It is quite refreshing to see someone like you call it like it is.
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Hi Alayna:  My heart goes out to you for what you suffered when you were younger.  Many women who have endured abuse find it hard to trust men again, and have a hard time putting what happened in the past where it belongs - in the past.  A man can sense when a woman does not trust him, and most decent men have an inborn desire to protect a woman, not abuse her. Be warm and open, but cautious - there are still alot of creepoids out there.  Here is a website that I think you will find helpful - trauma survivors@googlegroups.com.  You can communicate with  other women who have  suffered the same abuse and rape trauma as you.  May God bless you and heal  your hurt, and help you move on to a happy life with a good, loving man.   JoAnn
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sigh, alas tis the truth with many of the females...because i hear that all the time too, the whole 'i want a good man, i ain't settlin for no scrub, he has to respect me, blah blah blah" and right after that they can't let go of some alchoholic that beats them, or some playa that cheats on them constantly but "oh i still love him, if he does it again he's GONE"... when he shoudl've been gone in the first place.\nYou know what's even worse?  LOOK AT THE YAHOO QUESTIONS!  A LOT of women are askin "what should i do, i love him but he's cheating on me what do i do?" \nor "i like him, he's a great guy, but he watches porn and flirts with other women..what should i do?" I mean you see a hell of a lot of questions like that...so that's a good question, what ARE women's defense to that? Cause i'm one of the good guys, and THANKFULLY i've found a sensible woman who actually KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!  But i've dealt with the gullible and confused girls that dissed me for the a*shole, and then had the nerve to say they're just stronger now after gettin over it, when in essence they shouldn't have been in it in the first place!  \nWhat is up wit dat?
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Some men feel threatned by a strong woman who can hold her own in the world, it shows up their own weakness, you should find other men who can apreciate you instead of these insecure guys
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THANK YOU! Some women cannot be pleased no matter what you do for them and we as men get tired of trying and move on to someone else. Most people are not happy unless they are miserable.
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If you got along well, men rarely turn away from a woman he knows likes him.  Men are usually only putzes because they doubt woman like them.  Be very upfront about what you want, and I bet that you can get it.
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well there is your answer, sometimes guys are afraid of getting hurt, so they distance themselves from women to find out if she's a heartbreaker.
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
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It is hard in the world to find a good woman and if you have one hang on to her. Women can be foolish at times and have their bad days but so what we do also. That young stuff doesn't really want you. What they want is the quest of seeing if they can get you.............
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Women deal with emotion differently than men. Women who are hurt are truly hurt deep down into the very depths of their souls. It takes a while to heal something that deep. Men on the other hand, are physical beings and have less problems getting over things. It's just the way things are.\n\nSo, men, if you like a woman who has been hurt, be patient with her and don't push her. She will come around when she is ready.