What do you do if a guy plays footsie with you and you aren't even going out?
146772
you'd better go repent-and fast!!! that's horrible.
603095
pull him aside and ask him if he'd like to get together sometime and have dinner or see a movie, or go to some social function...whatever, just all im saying is if you cant catch him alone... pull him aside..
1046981
dont get physical with him - thats going to make him want you even more, and then as a result hes going to keep going after you, its guna be hard but in the long run its worth it... thats usualy the way to get a player to stick with one girl...just keep things gong real slow, and im the meantime he might get with other girls, but you will always be at the back of his mind, hes guna be thinking that he cant have you, so he will definitly want you more than he does now, and he will definitly be thinking more seriously, rather than just a one night stand or a fling
465851
Ball is in his court as this point. You've done enough to make it clear to him that you're interested. Allow it to unfold at its own pace, and if it doesn't that's fine too. You've done what you could now let it take on its own life or not.
303150
How about going out with him alone and not putting out?\nYou DO have a choice in the matter you know.
791731
he is so not worth going after.. he probably doesnt have any money with him to take you out... but still that is no excuse for not showing up to see you... a nice guy who really loves you will take you out and meet you anywhere *food or no food* and he will love you until the world ends... you will be treated like a queen put on the highest pedestal... next time you see the guy who didnt meet up with you... tell him next time he wants to meet up with you , you will have another guy on your arm... (like the guy i described above...
36407
While you're hanging out some time, ask him a hypothetical question like "What would you do if we were going out. . .?"  Not exactly that question but something along those lines.  If he shrugs it off and doesn't seem interested, then you can just say that you were joking and laugh it off.  But, he might give some thought to the situation, and if he seems interested, then maybe you'll feel more comfortable asking him for real.
461140
I'd let him go...if he's not into you, is it worth it to debase yourself or do something you don't necessarily want to do to get back together?
1166374
I do not like playing games either, but I do not think that you should make yourself readily available to anyone. I mean most of us dodge our jobs and we KNOW that we are going to get paid for the time we put in. You do not know him well, you do not know where this is going. Slow down if he is what you think he is there will be plenty of time for the two of you to spend together. And on the contrary this is your world! Especially in this situation! All I can say is take your time if he is worth it saying well I kind of made other plans today is it OK if we reschedule this for (2 days later), will not turn him around. I think you are saying to yourself gotta get it while the getting is good. That's why you jump on it every time he calls. It seems that you would like to keep him around for some time so take some time. If you turning him down turns him away then that is just letting you know that he is not the person that you thought or hoped he was.
784428
Just because he is bored of being single, unfortunately doesn't mean he will automatically want to go out with you.  Maybe he wants to take your mate out instead.\n\nAsk him out yourself, to be sure.
390151
well u can tell him to meet somewhere, without c ing u, check on him & decide leave or stay. and go with someone else!its safer & u ll have more fun. just keep in mind that the world is full of psychos.
667201
Well, if it meant more to him than just fun, he would probably have done something about it by now.  If it happens again, turn him down. Let him know you are not his plaything, and if he wants to date you, he can.  Get control of the situation.
769278
I know that you don't play to long!!!   Why play hard to get if you like  him?  Life is to precious to be wasting time...get together and enjoy each other!
373289
As shady as it sounds, you're going to have to do some detective work.  Is he honest with you?  Have you seen or heard of him with other girls?  If he has websites or pictures, use those to form your decision.  But above all, make clear the fact that you WILL leave players behind.
755021
well if its been going on yrs he proberly has his options open.........and hes doesnt take you that serious.....if you were serious youd be together....stop playing
287403
Next time he's alone (again when he's alone) go up introduce yourself and ask if he's seeing anyone. If he's not ask him out.  Please don't try that pathetic flirt/hint crap that most women use. Most guys don't pick up on that subtle crapola!
612383
Ok I've said this before to others and I'll say it again. The best way to find out is to just ask. Start out by just jokingly playing around or something. But then if he plays back with you then it's serious.