I HATE my bf's sister. he thiks shse's swell, no matter what she does, and still wants my respect.?
157154
I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
827423
Ummm I don't know how old u r, but really that doesn't matter... stay away from the sister's bf....STAY AWAY FROM THE SISTER'S BF!!  All that will happen is drama drama drama.  Stick with your b/f or go find a better one...but you need to distance yourself from your sister's relationship now before it goes any further!!!
656451
I can understand your situation. The first thing to do is relax. What I would suggest is this:\n\nC.H. more than likely did something that he is not proud of.  That is probably why he is reluctant to tell you what he did.  You say that you want to drag it out of him but I think that is not the thing to do.  This is not something for you to get out of him...it is something that is his to give.  If you force him, he will only feel negatively toward you.  \nBasically, I would say to just give him some time and if he wants to, he will tell you.  If not, just remember that it is between him, his sister and his parents. \n\nHope this helps, \n\nNiels
489317
Honey she wanted this fight with you and the bf. She finally found that right nerve to hit with you. Now it is up to you just how much you love him and figure if this is the way you want the right of your life. She is never going to change if anything she will only get worse...C
935977
don't trust his sister. Ask his friends. I hope everything works out for you.
1081030
it doesn't sound like you respect her either, you slag her off and then say she is like family. i don't think you are good friends at all, from your actions and hers.
326806
Ouch!  Man that's gotta be the worse thing ever.  Screw your sister.  Ditch her!
654464
rather he likes her or not, that is not showing respect to you by doing that, its not his place to tell her that, you need to find out WHY he doesn't like her, she could have made a pass at him or something, and he doesn't want to tell you, so you need to find out.  Tell him not to do that anymore or you will start doing the same to the people who call there for him.
1013191
it is not your problem, just show him that you are a sister that can be trusted. for ex, if he has a problem give him comfort, help him to find a way to ease his prob. show him that you are a sister that can lean on.
487565
He needs to grow up! why do you bother with him when he treats you like that? he has no respect for you and by the sounds of it, for no other female either! it's rich calling you weird when he's the one with the problem! you can do better than that!
180964
Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
350236
HA u muppet bro!!! just dump her she is an evil cow! you know all she does is p*ss u off and annoy u, she has u round her little finger coz ur such a softy......look bro u know your a lovely lad ur polite, kind and caring get with someone who is the same not someone who treats u like s*it. trust ur big sis alright!!!! and ill catch u later for a beer!
495804
My girlfriend had a similar problem with her older sister, she was a brat that was spoiled by her mother.  She treats her younger brother and sisters like trash and comes home yelling and kicking when things don't go her way.  She would go to their room to eat and put dirty cloth on their bed, and would leave without cleaning after herself.\n\nMy girlfriend and her siblings finally decided to take action to stop this madness.  They changed all the locks on the doors and told her elder sister either she respect them like human being or don't come back.\n\nHer elder sister went mad and start kicking and screaming when she heard that. She end up being asked to leave and kick out of the house at 1am in the morning, going back to her own place.\n\nAfter that she started to respect my girlfriend and her younger siblings on the phone and in person, althought she hasn't made her presence in the house so far after that night.\n\nYour family need to come together and tell your brother that this is not the way to go; disrespect your family is never right doesn't matter who you are. Your family must take a stand.\n\nI understand most family don't want to be firm and stand their ground because they are afraid of losing their children.  But the fact is your family already lost your brother and the only way for him to respect and come back is to show him your determination to your ideal as a family.\n\nGive him time to think, tell him if he still wants his family, he just as to respect you and your parents like what a nomraly child would do.  You're not asking alot here.\n\nWhether he accept / understand is irrevleant, don't try to convince him right now (he's probably not gonna agree), just let him know what your family decided to do.\n\nYour brother is probably not gonna budge now because he has his own family, but somewhere down the line when things don't go good he'll remember his sister and his parents.  That's where he'll come back and that's when you and your family will have a chance of change him by accepting him back.\n\nIts going to take time and patience for him to come back, but you have to let him know where your family stand for him to come back at all.  Don't push him away, just tell him where your family stands and ask him to think about it.  \n\nIts time to take a stand for what you believe.
355153
Sorry friend, but this gal does not appreciate the man that you are.\nDo your self a favor and kick this little lady to the curb.\nYou can do better!!!!
1088172
i am sure your brother knows she is a jealous controlling woman.  He just thinks he can't find another woman.  First get yourself plenty of girlfriends and have him come over to fix something at your place, then have them make a move on him. find him a job so he can rebuilt his confidence.  i can only tell you what people have done, i do not condome revenge. Post her picture on paper flyers printed from your computer and have her number on it. put it in bathroom walls of men restrooms. the post should read I am a xxx so please call me and tell me that i am....next get a calling card and use it on a payphone. have your girlfriends call her and tell her things. when you visit so they will not know it is you.... order pizza to her job or place and give her name. so they will ban her from recieving pizza from that place when she makes them deliver and loose money..... call mental institutions and ask them to send you literature to your home address for your personal problem, such as drug offender, prostition, depression and give her name and address instead of yours, call from a payphone so it wont come back to you...call the school where your child goes and cuss at the nurse or the secretary and give her childs name and her name and ask to hold meeting with the princilpe and ask for a confirmation letter send to her address and use her name, when she fails to attend , they will loose faith in her....
19900
First of all, she can only control what he allows her to.  I understand that he does not want to disrespect her but she has too obviously butted in before.  Don't involve her in personal business and decisions. As a matter of fact, keep discussions with her on subjects about HER.  Try putting distance between him and her. It's really sad to say, but if he doesn't put an end to this, it won't end.
999733
I think you should try to talk to him.  Ten to one he wants to still talk to you but he is angry and doesn't want to show he's weak.  So you need to see what is wrong.\n\nMy sister's friend and her got into a fight and now my sister won't call her to fix it and I think that will be the end of her friendship.\n\nHope it helps!