how do people react to peoplo who harm their self?
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it's hard to say how people react because everyones different.\nbut self infliction is not the way to get attention, and you could really hurt yourself. why hurt your body. take out your anger and pain out on something else.\nnever punish yourself, we are punished enough as it is.
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When viewing another person in distress, our reaction can be broken up into three components:\n1) an emotional response, which leads to...\n2) a motivation, which leads to...\n3) a behavior.\n\nIf a person's emotional response is EMPATHY, they will experience an ALTRUISTIC motivation and will engage in HELPING behaviors to reduce the other's distress.\n\nHowever, if a person's emotional response is PERSONAL DISTRESS, they will experience an EGOISTIC motivation and will attempt to ESCAPE the situation to avoid witnessing the other's distress.\n\nFinally, if the person's emotional response is SCHADENFREUDE (a German term meaning to take joy in the suffering of others), they will experience an EGOISTIC motivation and will DO NOTHING and continue to enjoy watching the other person's distress.\n\nHope this helps to answer your question.
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lil bro, you need to talk to your parents and teachers about this.\nabuse is abuse, and it's their job to deal with it, and help you.\ndon't listen to those that say to reply with violence. I don't think they read your question very well.\none answerer was right on that some kids (grown-ups too) try to make others feel bad to avoid dealing with how they feel about themselves.  keep that in mind. I know it sounds easy for me to say it, but try to not let it bother you. try to feel sorry for them instead of yourself,  obviously they're the ones with the problem.\ntalk to your parents, talk to your teacher.\nJake,  I really hope this helps. don't get bummed out.\nyou can write me if you need to . take care. peace
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Smile, and walk away. That burns the person because they expected something completely different, like confrontation.Don't give them that satisfaction.
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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self-injury/DS00775\nSelf-injury/cutting\nIntroduction\n\nFor people who can't fathom deliberately hurting themselves, self-injury may seem shocking and frightening. But for people who do injure themselves by cutting or other means, self-injury offers a momentary sense of calm and a release of tension. Unfortunately, that's usually quickly followed by guilt and shame and the return of other painful emotions. And with self-injury comes the very real possibility of inflicting serious and even fatal injuries.\n\nSelf-injury isn't a specific disease or condition. Rather, it's a type of abnormal behavior. It may accompany a variety of mental disorders, such as depression and borderline personality disorder. Because self-injury is often done on impulse, it's sometimes considered an impulse-control behavior problem. Self-injury is also known as self-harm, self-injurious behavior and self-mutilation.\n\nAlthough it's hard to estimate how many people engage in self-injury because some never seek treatment, it's thought that about 3 percent to 5 percent of Americans have deliberately hurt themselves at some point in their lives. Self-injury may be more common — and on the rise — in adolescents.\nSigns and symptoms\n\nWhat self-injury is and isn't\nSelf-injury is behavior in which people deliberately harm their own bodies in some way to cope with overwhelming emotions. Self-injury frequently is an impulsive act. You may become upset and spontaneously seek a way to hurt yourself, recklessly doing damage to your body. Other times, self-injury may be inflicted in a controlled, methodical manner. You may even plan it in advance, taking steps to avoid detection and to prevent infections.\n\nSelf-injury isn't the same as injury that arises from culturally sanctioned practices in some parts of the world, including scarring, piercing and tattooing, which historically have been considered forms of self-mutilation. Self-injury is distinguished from such practices by the emotional intent behind it — it's an unhealthy coping method for overwhelming feelings.\n\nSelf-injury also isn't the same as a suicide attempt. For instance, someone may try to harm himself or herself by taking an overdose of medication, but stop short of taking a lethal dose. In self-injury, the intent isn't to die, but to inflict bodily harm. However, self-injury can accidentally result in suicide.\n\nTypes of self-injury\nSelf-injury is most commonly associated with cutting, which involves making cuts or scratches on your body. Cutting can be done with any sharp object, including knives, needles, razor blades or even fingernails.\n\nMost frequently, the arms, legs and front of the torso are the targets of self-injury because these areas can be easily reached and easily hidden under clothing. But any area of the body may be subjected to self-injury.\n\nSome people don't feel pain while they're hurting themselves, even when creating deep cuts. Others do find self-injury painful but welcome the pain as a punishment or as a distraction from emotional turmoil.\n\nThere are many types of self-injury besides cutting, and someone may engage in one or more of them. Other types of self-injury include:\n\n    * Burning\n    * Poisoning or overdosing\n    * Scratching\n    * Carving words or symbols on the skin\n    * Breaking bones\n    * Hitting or punching\n    * Piercing the skin with sharp objects\n    * Head banging\n    * Pulling out hair\n    * Interfering with wound healing\n    * Pinching\n    * Biting\n\nSome experts consider overexercising a form of self-injury, as well as stopping medication in an attempt to cause harm to yourself.\n\nSigns of self-injury\nPeople who injure themselves often try to keep their behavior secret. It may be difficult to spot signs of self-injury.\n\nSigns of self-injury may include:\n\n    * Scars, such as from burns or cuts\n    * Cuts, scratches or other
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It is not understood really how many people actually do this but its thousands and thousands. Don't worry your not daft neither stupid. Dont listen to people that say its for attention!\n\nYoung people who self-harm have often had very difficult or painful experiences or relationships. These may include:\n\nBullying or discrimination. \nLosing someone close to them such as a parent, brother, sister or friend.\nLack of love and affection or neglect by parents or carers. \nPhysical or sexual abuse. \nA serious illness that affects the way they feel about themselves. \nOther young people may start to self-harm as a way of dealing with the problems and pressures of everyday life. Pressure can come from family, school and peer groups to conform or to perform well (for example in getting good exam results). Young people can be made to feel angry, frustrated or bad about themselves if they cannot live up to other people's expectations.\n\nYoung people who self-harm may have low self-esteem. For some this is linked to poor body image, eating disorders, or drug misuse. Understanding why young people self-harm involves knowing as much as possible about their lives and lifestyles.\n\nPeer pressures may occasionally be the most important reason for self-harm.Young people may find themselves among friends or other groups who self-harm and may be encouraged or pressurised to do the same. \n\n\nSelf-harm as a way of coping\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n \nExtreme feelings of fear, anger, guilt, shame, helplessness, self-hatred, unhappiness, depression or despair can build up over time. When these feelings become unbearable, self-harm can be a way of dealing with them.\n\nReasons young people have given for their self-harm include:\n\nWhen the level of emotional pressure becomes too high it acts as a safety valve - a way of relieving the tension. \nCutting makes the blood take away the bad feelings. \nPain makes them feel more alive when they feel numb or dead inside. \nPunishing themselves relieves feelings of shame or guilt. \nWhen it's too difficult to talk to anyone, it's a form of communication about their unhappiness - a way of saying they need help. \nSelf-harm is something they can control when other parts of their life may seem out of control. \n\nFeel free to ask me questions.
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It's alot more than just cutting yourself. Many people do it because you need to feel, and they become emotionally numb. Self Injury, SI, is common believe it or not, many people do not advertise the scars or use medicine to help heal the wound to cover it up. All of my scars can easily be covered by shorts and a tee shirt. The worst thing you can do is be negative to the person. It sometimes is the only thing that can make you feel alive! I do not agree it is about the pain, most of the time you do not feel pain, it is more about the blood. People who SI usually do it more than once, they dont die the first time. A common misconception is that is is a call out similar to suicide. SI does not mean the person is suicidal! SI is different for many people, men and women both SI. If you are interested in more information I have included a website below that should help. The website was written by SI's for SI's and their families and friends. I'll put this question on my watch list if you have anymore questions please ask.
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Well, at the risk of you or someone else flaming me.....\n\nAlot of young people do not have the resources or the trust in other adults in thier lives to ask outright, so they come to places like chat rooms and yahoo answers to try to figure out what to do. I personally have answered some questions in here based upon my personal experiences. If I can help someone else thru a crisis, then that's all good IMHO. I personally do care about my fellow human beings and have much compassion... and that is where I come from.\nTake care-\nCat\n☼   ♥  ♫  ♀
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Very likely such a person does not see herself as morbid -- which she is -- but as caring and concerned.  What she doesn't realize is that every single time she brings it up, it's like she rips the scab off a wound that is still tender.\n\nYou need to be direct and say, "When you mention this incident, it brings back bad memories and makes me feel bad.  I'd rather move on and try to heal my life, and to do that, I'd appreciate it if you didn't mention it again."  That's a very reasonable request.  \n\nIf she can't abide by it, then she may be passive-aggressively hostile and looking, in a morbid way, to bait you.  She may thrive on being a "foul weather friend" -- ie, someone who loves to be there and be depended on when people are low, but who hates it when people start getting better.  It's not a functional emotional response at all.\n\nShe simply needs to be told, but practice saying this a few times first so your voice won't betray too much emotion because she's likely to feed off this.  You're going to have to confront her.  Obviously she's not picking up your non-verbal cues of emotional discomfort that I'm sure you send out.  \n\nDon't allow her to turn this around.  Don't allow her to become a martyr, or to claim that she CARES about you.  If she uses that line, then tell her that if she really cared, she'd respect your feelings and not mention it because it makes you uncomfortable.  That's all a reasonable person needs to hear to change her behavior.\n\nIf and when you run into this person again, be prepared.  She may "accidentally forget" (which is passive aggressive hostility) and try the same thing on you.  In that case, without saying a word, turn and walk the other way.  There is no better way to let someone know that what they said was unwelcome and intrusive than to turn your back and walk.  It's non-confrontational but it sends a powerful message.  And I'd bet you that she never does it again after that!\n\nGood luck.  Sorry you have to deal with a boor (boar?). \n\nCheers, K\n\nP. S.  I had a best friend who constantly brought up how I should have a baby after she had hers and was over the moon.  I have never wanted a kid.  I tried all the above, and we are now no longer "best" friends, but more of long-term acquaintances.  \n\nSounds like this woman isn't a best friend, but just someone you see occasionally, so maybe you won't have to suffer through having to hit her over the head with any major confrontation.  I had to confront my friend and tell her that her happiness would be my personal hell, and things were never the same after.  But such is life, and it's her loss that she didn't realize that not everyone lives their lives the same way.  I wish she had been more respectful of my life choice.
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Wow, I'm SO PROUD OF YOU!  You are mature beyond your years!\n\nSometimes, we risk others being mad at us when we do things to help.  This is very serious, and you definitely did the right thing.  If she does find out, and gets mad, it will be hard for you, but not as hard, as you said, as if she were to seriously harm herself.  I hope you told an adult.  If it continues, and the adult doesn't do anything,  you need to keep trying until someone does help her. \n\nSomeday she will know that you were a true friend to her.  Hopefully, you won't have to deal with her anger.\n\nGOD Bless You!
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Talk to someone, you are asking people now, but do you have someone you can talk to close by? I agree with the others and seek help, ask family or a close friend to go with you. Feel free to e-mail me and I will talk with you! When you feel the urge to hurt yourself think about something else to do, like go for a walk, make something to eat, draw a picture, anything! Sometimes people dothings to themselves because they need attention, or someone to talk to, or a friend. You are reaching for help, so you are headed in the right direction!
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self harmers are very unlikely to hurt someone else - by stopping them from travelling you are infringing their human rights as they are unlikely to be a threat.\nSelf harmers hurth themselves by feeling alienated by society, by publicically alienating them you are making them worse, not treating the root problem.
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I'm a sensitive soul.  I don't think anything hurts me to the core like knowing I profoundly disappointed someone who I respect and care about.\n\nI can be tough as nails and hold my own.  However, my mom tells me that when I was a child just a look of disappointment was all the punishment I ever needed.  I'll still really chide myself if I've done something plain wrong that causes someone close to me to be disappointed in my actions.
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Many people think about suicide when they are hurting. They just want the pain to stop, be it physical or emotional. I haven't done this myself but I once watched a friend try to kill herself without being able to lift a finger to help! She ran across two lanes of traffic than got down on her knees and sommersaulted across the meridian and two more lanes of traffic. When she got to the other side (thank god!) she turned around and sommersaulted her way back again. There were too many cars passing for me to do anything but grab her before she could try it again for a third time. She had a guardian angel looking after her that day. They say God takes care of fools and drunks and I believe it now! I swear I lost five years off my own life that day, watching her go! She was horrified at what she'd done when she sobered up of course. Friends should always stick with friends when they are trying to drown their sorrows. You never know what they might take it into their heads to do while they are intoxicated. Not that I was much help at the time! It all happened so fast that I was caught flatfooted. You are lucky your friend was there to help you and I'm glad that you appreciate it, and that you are both still good friends. Many people avoid others after displaying such abberrant behaviour in front of them. That's what happened with me and my friend. I reminded her too much of what she'd tried to do and she was ashamed. Not that I said anything mean to her about it, but she only had to see me to remember everything and she didn't want to be reminded.
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that is a good question.\nbut if you saw someone being hurt or threatened constantly, wouldn't you want to help?\ni am just hoping this doesn't esculate too much.
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This is true,I once got so upset--think it was cuz I didnt get the mail I was expecting and I needed $$$---So I took it out on my best pal,especially when he couldnt lend me any$$$$.Then I even said I wished I could just kill myself or self mutilate.(when I was younger I used THAT to get attention--yeah I got attention all right, I got made to start seeing a pyc --a shrink' ). \nOverall acting like a kid--a crazy kid.hunh!!
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I can't answer for anyone else- if I see someone fall I almost always run to that person and help them.  If they are really okay and laugh about it, I'll laugh with them.   It seems funny only if the person isn't hurt.  Now, whether or not the person was really hurt, I would never laugh at someone who has physical limitations (elderly, handicapped, etc.) and fell, that's blatant behavior!\n\nI can be quite clumsy, walk into stuff, bang my head on things, I trip over my own feet sometimes.  I always laugh at myself, even when it hurts, and I hope that others laugh with (or at me).  I don't know why but that's always my first reaction.  I'd rather have people laughing about my fall than making a big fuss "oh my gosh are you okay?" and checking me over for bruises and such.\n\nEver watch america's funniest home videos or the planets funniest animals?  A lot of it is people/animals falling, getting hit, etc.  You can't help but laugh.   \n\n - Any Psych majors out there that can help answer the Q?? :)