This is something weird to ask but I need to know what to do...I am 23 female and have no sexual desire at all
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Depression could make you this way......what would you be depressed about?\n\nMaybe you are not clinically depressed, maybe you are apathetic?\n\nDo you need to do some soul-searching perhaps? Is there anything bothering you that you are holding back?\n\nIs this your normal mode of behavior? If not, do you recall your nromal moce of behavior?\n\nDo you mas_turb_ate? If so, do you think about your fiance`? (sorry....not trying to be crude with you. I pretty much tell it like it is, but it was an honest and sincere question). That if that's normal but your sex life is not, then that's a red flag. Understand? :)\n\nI guess I'm just asking you some questions that may help spark you into thinking about something that you may not have realized was bothering you.\n\nHow about past relationships. Any problems with sex like it is now?\n\nHow long has this been going on?\n\nI think if you can manage to pinpoint when this started you may be on the right track to what's bothering you.\n\nAre you being honest with yourself about marrying your fiance`? Do you think it's possible that you don't love him the way you think you probably should, but feel sort of helpless now that you are engaged? That perhaps instead of saying something to him, and to everyone else that you're making a mistake, but you feel he'd be crushed and your family wold go ballistic......so instead of dealing with all that stuff, your feelings sort of found their own outlet....their own release, and that is to let go of everything? There's no fear, no anxiety, no worry, but there's also no joy no excitement and of course....no sexual desires.\n\nI'm just speculating.....trying to be a sound-board for you. Maybe ask questions you haven't been able to ask yourself maybe.\n\nAlso.....let me point out to you dear one......normal is not what everyone else is or does or thinks. It's what's right for you. You are obviously going thru a growing persion with yourself. You're behaving in a foreign way, you recognize it but don't have any answers. Someone who knows themselves well, usually knows why they feel what they feel, and how they would react to certain situations.\n\nMaybe you've started obsessing about this. Maybe it really wasn't a problem to begin with, but if you are obsessing about it you have turned it into a problem.\n\nI'm assuming from your question that you actually did have a sex drive at one time. Did something happen between then and now?\n\nWhat about medications for whatever? Anything?\n\nJust throwing ideas to you. I don't have any difinitive answers for you. I hope you figure out what's going on tho.\n\nBest wishes to you, and I hope you have a happy life filled with love for always.
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i dont....i just want sex
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Well, how old are you? If you've never had sex and you're still young, it's probably just your period starting up slowly.\n\nIf you're an adult and are sexually active, that's just gross.
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You sound like a sweet and intelligent young girl...with feelings!  We have all experienced this once in our young lives and I want to tell you that you need to give yourself some room!  Don't worry about him or the guys, they will always be there, and believe me, you will be noticed!  Take some time to be young and enjoy your time developing into womanhood.  You are feeling strong desires and this is normal, but the question is, can you take control of these strong desires and urges?  We need to be careful these days since with everything going around and the traps we might fall into!  Don't be too hasty and jump into something you are not to sure about.  You do well to listen to people with experience and age.  Don't fight them and their advice!  They really know what's good for you and people your age.  If anything, give yourself some time too weigh things out and reflect on what you've heard.  Good luck and have fun!
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It's completely normal for relationships and individual people to go through highs and lows of lust.  Think about things that make you feel really sexy that you wouldn't normally equate with sex, and translate it for the bedroom.  If a new outfit is exciting, get some funky new undies to show off too.  If you like to exercise and enjoy your body, look up some new positions.  If you like to travel and see new sights, get down and dirty in anyplace other than your bedroom.  And don't feel quilty!  Guys' sex drives peak at about age 18-25, but ours peaks somewhere between age 30-40.  Plus, you feel like sex after your period becuase that's just before you ovulate, which is when you are most fertile and receptive.  Work with that.  But don't worry too much about it.  It's totally normal.
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I DO IT AS OFTEN AS YOU , AND FOR A FEW YEARS MORE. IF IT HELPED YOU TO LOOSE WEIGHT I WOULD WEIGH ABOUT THREE POUNDS BY NOW!!! SEE A DOCTOR, YOU MAY HAVE ANOREXIA. IF YOU FEEL HORNY, THINK ABOUT THINGS THAT TURN YOU OFF.... GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES TO YOU. AND DONT LET THE FIRST ANSWER SCARE YOU ITS ALL RUBBISH AND THE PERSON IS A FREAK.
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You're not ready for sex. Nothing wrong with it, in your own time and space you will be. I think you feel fear because you're rushing into this cos your friends have done it and you don't want to seem left behind. Forget about everyone's need for a change and start focusing on your own. Say no and if they cannot accept it, they are not worth your energy.
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What you are - you are you - a unique individual - with feelings different from anyone else and experiences only you have had. \nYou need to do some thinking/soulsearching - You don't need to have sex with a guy to work out if you are bi/lesbian! Do 'straight' people have gay affairs to realise they are straight? No! \nFirstly - Are you attracted to men? Have you thought, imagined longed to be held by a man, for him to make love to you? How do feel about penises? Testicles, firm muscles and chest hair? Think about these and note your reactions inside, what you truly feel. \nRepulsed, intriguged, wanting etc. You say you have a girlfriend -  but don't rush to label yourself - I've seen people announce they are lesbians then later regret it a few years/months down the line because they are attracted to both sexes. \nI'm a lesbian I've never slept with a guy because a)it repulsed me the whole penis thing and b) I've never, ever been attracted to a man. I always preferred womens company, friendship and I was attracted to women before I knew what lesbian or gay even meant.\nIs it your friends that have more issues with this? I know we are in the 21st century but sadly some friends can never accept slight degrees of difference, you need to be one thing or the other - you don't - you have to be what you want to be. \nI advise doing an internet search on the Lesbian and Gay Switchboard finding the one local to you (they are everywhere Brighton, Lancaster, Birmingham, London, Isle of Mann etc) - emailing or telephoning them - perhaps getting some support from qualified staff and support group information. You stay strong and don't rush into anything - the most important question - What do you want? Who do you want to be?
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Talk to somebody you know and can confide in about this.  This is not something a young girl like you should be asking on the net.  Not only is it very improper, but you are also leaving yourself open to sexual predators.  DON'T RESPOND TO ANY GUYS WHO MAY WANT TO CORRESPOND WITH YOU ON THIS MATTER!!!
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maybe u re premenopausal?i would surely consult a doctor first not an Internet. it also can be a tumor in brains which is developing in the area responsible for the sex drive. please hurry to a doctor, it's not a joke
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Find yourself some hobbies that keep you active physically.  Talk with your doctor sounds like your libido is over active.  Talk with your doc.
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im freaky but sorry im not exotic bl. \ni dont want to date i just want lots of sex
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i'm around that age too and my libido is odd these days. sometimes i'm gagging for it but most of the time I can't be bothered. I think it depends on the relationship, if you are still in love, if you still find your partner attractive sexually, if you are feeling depressed/stressed, also hormones play a big part.
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Although not common, this is not unheard of.  It is important to differentiate between a desire to have sex, and the enjoyability of the act.  \n\nIf you find you have no desire AND you don't enjoy it, then you may suffer from an asexual disorder.  As mentioned by others, this can be caused by a number of things, from physiological (menopause, hormone imballance, etc), to psychological (stress, acute post tramautic stress disorder, etc).  However, there is a small number of people who just do not have a sexual drive.  Although the reason for this is yet unknown, it is beginning to be studied more and more.\n\nIf you find you have a desire, and just do not enjoy sex, then you would find yourself in a MUCH larger population.  Believe it or not, it is quite common for people to say they are incredibly dissatisfied with their sexual enjoyment, and this goes from men to women.  The causes can be the same as mentioned above, or they could just be due to an unfulfilling sexual partner.  In either case, if you wish to change it, there are a plethora of ways to go about it, starting with self-exploration (talking about looking inside yourself, lets not get gross in here).  There are many books wich can help with this.\n\nFinally, it is important to note that although not everyone feels this way, there is nothing inherently WRONG with you.  This does not make you a freak or anything.  This, like anything else in life, just means you are unique, and is an opportunity for you to explore your uniqueness.
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You probably need to find some sex books and try new things....BE VERY OPEN MINDED!!!!!!
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there  is nothing wrong with being sexually active.You're at that age when your hormones are racing.Just make sure you use a condom.
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You don't!!\n\nAND for all those answers that have given you the advice that you SHOULD anyway, they are OBVIOUSLY in the wrong forum to give advice!!\n\nYou don't want sex....DON"T HAVE IT!\n\nLet the person you'd be involved with pleasure themselves...watch them do it even, that could be a turn on for both of you.  Maybe then you'd like to.  Voyeurism is really erotic.  Watch and see what turns them on, maybe turn yourself on...but if you aren't ready, you aren't ready.  Don't have it unless YOU want to.  IT"S 2006 FOR God's SAKE!! \n\nRESPECT YOURSELF!!