Does anyone know how to rise above the sexual instinct?
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Nah just collapse into into the orgastic instint and behavior. Its more fun Dr.SPOCK.
144818
maybe you want to do something to be more sexy and attractive
761053
OK - I'll take into account the info provided in your other related question as well as the info posted here, as you may have best results. Also I'm speaking from experience here - I was in a similar place to your b/f for a long time - which is never made easy given the stereotypes males are chained to as being the sexual horn-dogs in the human race.\n\n    First thing to do is deal with the stress/health/energy problems. Look at where diet may be impacting things - although hyped up, what we eat (or don't eat) makes a huge difference. Also exercise - try even making part of the exercise routine something you can do together (try doing a few gym classes together). By doing this you not only encourage each other to keep going, you're enjoying doing something new as a couple - plus you're sharing each other's company in a physical environment.\n\n    The other area to tackle of course is the physiological/emotional issues - encouraging him to come out of his shell in the bedroom (or anywhere else you chose for that matter). Part of the solution is to talk to him about how you're feeling, and encourage him to explore the sensual side of the relationship - help to create an environment which encourages exploration and imagination.\n\n    You could even start introducing a few toys or movies into your love life. Or try setting a day (or even an evening) aside each week that is set aside exclusively for romantic activities, and tease the crap out of each other over the preceding days to build up the sexual tension. Send a few erotic emails or text-messages TELLING HIM what you want him to do to you...make it fun, so that there isn't that stress or anxiety which is probably attached to the whole affair at present.\n\n    You may have to start this ball rolling, but with a little effort you may well find it proves more than worth it.
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the hard answer (no pun intended):  take up some advanced meditation.  there's a most excellent book called Taoist Yoga and Sexual Energy.  it'll help you.\n\nthe easy answer:  wear baggy pants and shirts from the tall section of y'local Big'n'Tall.  always carry some sort of newspaper or book that you can rest on your lap in an inconspicuous way.
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I DON'T KNOW.\nI GUESS THE FIRST STEP WOULD BE TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROM TEMPTATION.\nGET AWAY FROM WOMEN .\nOR TRY TO LIMIT CONTACT WITH THEM.\nDON'T SET YOURSELF UP FOR SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS.\n\nMEDITATE.\nPRAY.\nDON'T WATCH T.V.(IF YOU HAVE ONE)
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I am a HUGE fan of improving fitness for improving ANYTHING related to the body. I would say if you want to improve yourself sexually, then get in better shape. Run, swim, lift, bike, box, yoga, etc. The better shape your body is in, the more it will reward you in EVERYTHING you do with it. You will have more energy when you are awake and you will sleep better when tired. Cut down on stuff like booze, and TOTALLY cut out smoking. It affects blood vessels which affect alot of things INCLUDING erections. Eat well, exercise, etc etc and you'll see big differences.
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"More hornier"?  Is that like "more betterer? Learn the proper use of English and then you can worry about more hornier.\n\nI hope for the sake of the rest of us that you do not reproduce.
585439
have a bath and completly relax... maybe you cant get horny cause of stress around you... make your man give you lots of foreplay or give him a sexy dance.. this will loosen you up and make you feel more attractive and sexy
243080
By now you should know what drives her crazy physically..so, start the seduction sooner than that...do a chore that she normally does, clean the house, do the dishes. Start wooing her with those things before you get frisky. Then when you do get to that point she will be much more relaxed and open...maybe ask if she has any fantasies you can fulfil or just explore her body and ask along the way what she likes. Good luck!
1149648
You can't but to combat it, develop your own fetish...like sticking feather dusters up your partners bum and making them squawk like a chicken. See how long they want to suck your toes after that.
529202
Sorry but you cant increase her sex drive.   What you can do is, encourage her to want you more often.   Heres a few suggestions.\n1) Set the mood.  Maybe cook her a meal, light some candles etc\n2) Give her a sensual massage (massage everything)\n3) Let her know how beautiful you think she is.\n4) Be sensitive to her needs, as well as your own. \n5) Surprize her.   May a picnic, a movie,etc.   Just something you know she will love, and you wouldnt normally do.\n\nI hope these help.   Good luck
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Endorphins from a good sweaty work-out has proven to increase sex drive. Also eating healthier has shown to boost sex drives. From what you are telling me, you may need to see a doctor. There are libido increasing pills that are very safe that your doctor can talk to you about.
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i know this'll sound a little weird but try a few yoga classes. if you don't belong to a gym or prefer to work out alone there are yoga videos and books especially for generating blood flow and increasing sensitivity to the sexual organs. you can try amazon or your local book store.
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Pay more attention to your partner than to yourself.\nLearn control.
296645
Transcending beyond your "typo", I would say: Seeing others in action or letting others watch you (through visual stimuli of videos, magazines, Internet sex/web cams, etc.) + securing/prolonging the moment of climax for as long as possible via mental control, applied pressure techniques, etc.    Remember, the brain IS the most important sexual organ - what it likes you WILL like too!  ...Hey, we are talking advanced advise here!!!  :-)
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Many men sexualize their emotional needs. You can begin by journaling. Journal daily on your moods & feelings. You can start with the HALT method; hungry, angry, lonely or tired. As you become more aware of your emotional needs, you can begin taking active steps to meet those needs in healthy ways instead of eroticizing them.\nYou may also want to consider an accountability partner and/or some good therapy. I think there may even be some sexual accountability groups online.
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I'm in the same boat as you... just use this time to re-center yourself.  Go out and just sit and have a beer by yourself.  Just sit and think.  A similar soul might approach you and share in your misery for a while.  Eventually, it will pass.  If you want a shortcut (which I'm not recommending); playing on a girl in a weak situation will make you feel powerful if a little guilty.  I am NOT advocating date rape of ANY SORT!  However, alot of guys are too nice for their own good and don't realize that a 24 year old woman is completely in control of her situation.  Smooth talking and being a player does not necessarily mean you are taking advantage of someone.  Girls like sex just as much as guys, and almost every girl worth her salt has some douchebag at home that they are on the rocks with.  In other words, go hook up with someone hot, by any means necessary short of physical force or breaking up a marriage.  It will boost your confidence in the short run, but don't forget the "re-centering your self" part.  It's the only way you will find true happiness.