how do you get someone(family) to move out of your house with out hurting there fellings?
156642
prank them. i know but if its your last resort go for it. let a couple of rats loose and you'll see results believe me.
369411
Running Away?\n\nSometimes in life anyone of us may want to run away and solve our problems by leaving them behind. The facts are that our problems are following us, unless we solve them.\n\nWhatever it is that happens in your family and makes you feel like running away, it may be something you can help to solve.\n\nWhy not call a family conference. Write or print out the rules and give them to everyone in the family. Find a time when everyone living in the house can attend.\n\nRules may be:\n1 One person speaks at a time (you may even use a talking stick as the Native Americans do. The one who holds the rod, speaks, the others listen).\n2 Everyone may state the facts of how he or she feels within this family. This is expressed by, "When you say this, I feel like ..." Not, "You always do, or say..." This is accusation and should be avoided.\n3 Everyone may state their wishes.\n4 Everyone may state something positive about the others.\n5 Everyone who has a solution may say so.\n6 Only when everyone has been heard, a common and may be temporary solution may be formulated that pleases everyone somehow and should be agreed to by everyone living in the house.\n\nRegular family conferences should be held, at least once a week and whenever there is a conflict.\n\nYou may be surprised how bad others in the family feel about the present situation. The family conference may start to clear issues so that everyone in the house may feel better, more loved and appreciated. \n\nYou may want to try to help your family have a happier family life. If you cannot get through to them you may want to talk to/call a counselor or a married priest.\n\nWishing you a happy family life which you and everyone in your family deserves!\nCordially, India.Magica
965601
give them an eviction notice and tell them u will burn it if they pay what they owe with interest. if nothing happens evict them
770064
This may not be much comfort, but most people have screwed up families.   However there are only a few like you and I that will admit it.    My family is the same, sometimes it gets so bad I have to stay away from some of them for months on end.    I have learned that they may be my family, but sometimes you have to put some distance between you and  them for survival..
203910
express your feelings to your parents respectfully but sternly. I'm sure it's not their fault that they can't get a bigger place just now so don't kick them while they are down with imancipaton(a low blow to parents). if you can afford to rent a place, how about helping them rent a larger place?\nif not, getting on your own is far better with parents support and experience. don't cut that off!!\n\nlow is the one that helps you hurt your parents.
1141244
Tell him to get off his butt and support his family! If he is lazy, threaten to kick him out of the house. He's the man of the house, and he needs to pull his own weight more than anyone else.
585597
Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
1044238
You should let your family know that you are simply under the weather but you want them to go and to enjoy themselves.  You are simply not meant to make this trip today but you will rest up and another time, when you are well, you will make the trip with them.\nIf they insist that they won't go because you are not well - then don't fight them - let them stay home if they choose to do that instead of going.
161981
Sorry but your living under their roof (always hated hearing that) but its true. You'll have to get your own place to have any kind of real peace. The more they know it bugs you the more they'll do it.
814080
Do I no how you feel!! Welcome to the Black sheep of the family club :0)\n\nMove out of the house. You are the strong hold of the family. This is how I rationalized my situation. Now that I have been out for quite a while I get phone calls for help from my family. What should I do, or this is what mom is doing how can I....\nAs far as not being able to release the same way they do to you what I did is find others outside of the family....Parents are supposed to be there for there kids but in todays world this is not always the case.\nGood luck it will not be long before you are out on your own...
880614
The one thing you have to make sure to do is to get out, move, leave, skip town, get away from this, find a shelter, other family, friends, etc.......  best of luck to you.......
512449
Call them regularly and send them a card.  They will know that you want to be there but can't.  But if things do get worse you will have to find a way to go there.
1120258
Just make it increasingly uncomfortable for them - they'll get the message.   I've seen that happen (to me) and it didn't take long to figure out that I wasn't welcome... I moved on to greener pastures. \n\nYou might start by turning over a new leaf and changing a bunch of stuff around - then just keep on mentioning one more little thing...    \n\nLeave some apartment finder guides around the house too. \n\nCheers!
267883
try writing them a letter.  you know, ones that the post office delivers.  they might have forwarded their mail if their house got destroyed
780033
Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
587547
I know it hurts real bad...I know this from experience. I caught my brother with my g/f after he lost his job, and place to live so I moved him in with us..BAD MISTAKE!!! I left her at that moment when I caught them without turning and looking back...I just said we are through got my stuff and left...My brother ran after me and I told him to "go F*** off you made my bed now lay in it all you want" Two weeks later I went back to my house with a Sheriff and handed them both a piece of paper saying that the court has ordered them to vacate the premises. that following weekend I had a yard sale and sold all my brothers stuff and hers and they couldn't do anything because they had no reciepts so I said everything was mine. 7 years later they are happily living in a homeless shelter with 2 kids and I haven't spoken to either of them since the day they tried to get me for selling their *oopps* MY STUFF..lol...Just don't threaten or say anything you will regret as a person...You don't have to go to their level....You will be in my prayers and turn to friends they will help out alot...
76625
Send them options, make sure these offers are delivered. Get them thinking and comparing. Get someone to help them find a place, help them evaluate, tell them the problems that they have been facing and more to come.\n\nEventually, help them pack -if they were good help them unpack too.