men only boyfriend can't get it up is it me??
156527
Please don't think it is you.  There are many reasons why men can't get it up.  It happened to me once and the reason was my b-friend was doing drugs.  I thought it was me but it wasn't.  Medications can also cause this to happen.
720546
It could be someone else, but not likely because that wouldn't make him half erect or come to quickly.  High stress jobs and health problems usually cause ED and usually viagra fix's the stress parts.  I'm sure someone will suggest that maybe he's gay, but there again, doesn't explain the weak erections.   You are in a tough spot and i'm sorry for ya.  Try to talk to him, as hard as it is going to be to do, and yes his feelings will get hurt most likely, and explain to him your problem.  That he needs to put out a little effort to make sure you get your pleasure too and that you love him, they are other ways for him to please u and his still get his.  If this doesn't work out, best advice is for you to move on and get another boyfriend, cause even though u love him, u are going to be very miserible and will end up falling out of love and cheating.
1093410
Well that is not normal I have the same problem he probably was just to big for you ask him to just be gentle until you can get used to it and if that dont work then you may have to change partners GOOD LUCK
1149786
not to sound gross but i have noticed it happens sometimes when my hips are lifted up a little higher during sex than the rest of my body...but it is SO SO SO embarrasing, luckily it has only happened a few times!  my boyfriend is so into the moment though, he could care less if it happens!
874300
I don't know that I quite understand all of your question.  What are you saying about your boyfriend masturbating?  Are you worried that because he masturbates, he's not horny enough to have more sex with you?  Believe me, masturbation doesn't change your sex drive; it merely takes care of it.  If he has enough desire to masturbate, he's got enough to have sex with you.\n\nAs for oral . . . no, not all men like to do it.  Some dislike the smell/taste, some find it difficult to do (I've heard things like complaints of tongue cramping, believe it or not), some feel it's beneath them (that a 'real man' can satisfy his woman through penetration alone), some merely don't care about her orgasm and won't do the work for it, some are nervous or feel inexperienced and don't want to do it because they're scared of failing (they don't know how to locate the clitoris; and some women are slightly hard to get off).  Or it's just not really their thing.  A lot of guys love to do it, but a lot don't, too.\n\nI can't say if your boyfriend's gay; you'll have to decide that.  But, if it's worth anything, there are straight males out there who masturbate often, don't like to perform oral sex on women, and don't have sex as often enough as their wives/girlfriends would like.\n\nHope that helps.
141999
A. He could be Cheating.. Which would explain why he can't get it up for you. B. You could touch his balls and feel if their not tight. *this does depend on if hes came or masturbated in the past day or so* C. You could just ask your husband I mean you are married to the dude and relationships require communication. D. You could do the nuts thing and follow him around and see what hes really up to.E. He coul be just wanting to spend some time with you because he realizes your marriage just isn't about sex. Or maybe you make it seem like its just about sex or want sex to much and he doesn't want that for your marriage. I donno.. You really should ask him seeing how we're not him.
791786
Why can't you approach him? Has he lost his libido? if so you have to talk if you don't explain to him how you feel and that if he doesn't talk to you about it he may lose you to someone else.if he loves you he will talk. Masterbation works for some and not for others..invest in a vibrator (if you haven't already) and some naughty mags/ vids (honestly they help) and try that way, it won't go away and soon you will begin to feel resentful...best thing to do is talk and perhaps dress in something 'WOW' so he'll sit up and take notice if he doens't  something's going on...perhaps he feels he's not good enough etc....you gotta talk Good luck
67760
No, there's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of women out there who cannot have vaginal orgasms, only clitoral ones. So when you guys are doing it, tell him to come closer to you (if missionary) and the rubbing will get you off. If you're in some other position, stimulate your clitoris yourself. On the other hand, maybe you're just not in the mood of having sex when they do. Ask yourself, do you get completely aroused? Is he hurting you? Is he too big for you? Who knows? maybe it's something more simple than you think ;o)
228931
It's hard - find out what he's doing and maybe try and be involved.\n\nA blowjob works wonders - believe me I've been there...!
56241
The ultimate orgasim might not be possible with your BF, it depends on a lot of factors. I could tell you all kinds of tricks but if he doesnt have the tools needed then it wouldnt make any difference. Narrow it down or provide more info
1178422
Mabey he isn't feeling your spots and what will make you cumm.  My man can tell when I'm close to feeling it, so he'll just go after it and conquer it.
1132657
Be more specific, so much for proper english you can't even get to the point dear. Oh I will give you the respect of answering your question though, because I'm not rude like you are. You should talk to him about it of course, but if he's just not into whatever intimate thing you want you might have to find a new boyfriend.
402626
whoooo.... these guys obviously have no concept!  listen to them telling you that if you lead he will follow.  Pleeeeeeeeease... I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt sister.  I'll bet you try and try to do new and exciting things for him and he just soaks it all up like a sponge and keeps doing the same old crap 'cuz he's at a place where he's totally selfish and routine about sex and just wants to get off.  It's the porn age.  Men complain about women "false advertising" with make up, weaves, and push up bras, but men are totally frauds when it comes to the bedroom.  When you first get with them they're so attentive and eager to please.. but then once they've hooked you you realize we're living in a porn obsessed age where men's concept of sex is that women exist to service men.  Men don't have to do anything, they just lie there and get serviced.  I wish I had the answer for you..  I wish you all the best and if you find out... pleeeeeeeeeease let me know!!!
1046955
it means the guy can't get it up to have sex.
425390
Is your bf trying to make you climax through vaginal intercourse alone, or is there some clitoral stimulation going on?  Many women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax, it's surprisingly rare that a woman can get there with vaginal penetration alone.\nDo you even try to make yourself climax?  Maybe if you get some nice sexy stories and explore your own body you can get yourself off.  It might be a nice place to start, for me it was so much easier to climax with a partner once I had figured out how to do it myself.\nIf neither of these things works for you, you might try getting an adult toy that vibrates to help you along, if THAT doesn't work, then you might want to see a doctor.  There might indeed be something wrong with you, but be patient and work with your body and you will probably not need an MD!
1155230
He's the one with the problem not you...rise above it and hopefully your boyfriend will sort it out...if he's the sort worth having!
253101
May be you need to be stimulated more .Tell him what you need.Increase foreplay.Ask him to stimulate your clitoris ,opt for a diferent position like dogggggy style where in your G - spot will be stimulated .ALL THE BEST