If your spouse cheats on you, should you retaliate and cheat back?
150364
my personally opioinon is yes. i would give him what he deserves and then after he sees ive been cheating ill leave him. a cheater will always be a cheater. if he cheats on you once he will cheat on you again, even if he tells you he will stop if you stay.but truth is he wont.so if you choose to cheat on him back, that would hurt him and then to see you leave will make him know he ;ost something great.if i were you thats what i would do.
1117149
Well, yes a marriage can recover from an affair.  Many marriage have made it inspite of.  But you will need to communicate because obvious something was missing for him to cheat (because you did not say he was a bad guy).  But you might need to go to counselor to repair the damage.  I know from first hand experience, it does hurt when a spouse cheats on you.  But you can get past it.
528709
That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
385590
Just remember, if he's a big enough jerk to cheat on his wife, he'll screw you over too.  You're very wrong for entereing into a relationship with a married man.  Marriage is a sacred bond, and you are coming in the middle of that.  Just think of how you would feel if you were married and your husband cheated.....although it would be just the payback you deserve.....
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
1068917
I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
994552
everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
278062
yes..especially if youre drunk..or youre hurt..or you wanna get back at him for cheating.
277215
I would dump his sorry a$$. Once you know he is married, you are willingly contributing to his wifes heartache when she finds out (and trust me, she will find out).\nHow would you feel if you were married and your husband cheated with someone who knew he was married?\nLet's pretend he is going to leave his wife for you (which he will not), you will become the person he cheats on.
275988
it has to be a mistake unless you are the one cheating.
369754
While a lot of people believe that adultery is only defined by the physical aspect (i.e., intercourse), I tend to think that the root of all adultery stems from the emotional infidelity.  Regardless of whether the betrayal is of an intellectual, emotional, or physical nature, the most painful, to me, is that knowledge that my beloved one's feelings for another were as strong as or stronger than her feelings for me.  I don't really care what you do with the person, or whether you'll never do it again.  The pain of that betrayal will endure more than anything else.\n\nIt is up to you to decide if you can come to forgive him, and move past the pain of that feeling of betrayal.  The most important thing to remember, however, is that if something makes you feel a certain way, then you have a right to feel that way.  It doesn't matter if he didn't "do anything" with her.  If he hurt you, then you have a right to feel hurt, and to address that hurt with him.\n\nI say give him a chance to acknowledge the hurt that he caused, and to allow him the opportunity to try to make amends if he's truly serious.  If he betrays you again, or fails to understand the reason behind your hurt, then leave him.
973320
No infact it would be worst because you are doing it out of spite. You may get temporary satisfaction by hurting your wife, but if you still love her, the best thing to do is to give it time and try to work it out. You should read the article on my site titled "12 Ways To Build Trust In Your Relationship" you'll find that here...\n\nhttp://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com\nHope that helps. Because building back trust is indeed the next step. If not, your marriage is doomed.\n\nBest of Luck,\nDrew Bryant\nhttp://howtospotacheatin10days.com
1035192
I'm sorry you have been cheated on. Where does this rant really get you? My opinion is you should be taking care of this with the person at fault than talking to us
244799
like a fool i took mine back and we were married a week later, but i still find it hard to trust him. even tho hes the one who told me he was cheating. we have been married for 2 years now and together 6 and so far he hasnt done it again ( that im a ware of) if i had it to do over i would have left him.
1139044
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
427729
If the spouse has done something to make you suspicious, it is okay to snoop. How else are you going to find out if something is going on or not? You certainly won't get a straight answer out of them and if they are trying to hide something, they will try to cover their tracks better because they'll think you're on to them. So when you feel suspicious, you should snoop right away - don't give them the chance to hide any evidence. You will either confirm your suspicions or realize that you were overreacting.
425543
It wouldn't really be a second chance if you hooked back up because you will make him pay for his mistake until you get even.If he endures the punishment because he loves you so much you can live happily ever after.