there are many kids part of our life, whose parents are divorcing, what are healthy ways for our family2reach?
139423
Tell the kids it is not their fault for the divorce.Just be there for them to listen.\nAs a teacher you will be surprised how many kids come to you just to vent out.\nJust listen and don't judge !
276251
I am in that situation right now. I had a one night stand and got pregnant, which I was told I could never have children. The guy and I got together but we weren't in love. We made our bed so we are lieing in it. It isn't our son's fault that we didn't use protection. Besides I am happy I had my son. We feel that even though we are not happy, in order for our son to be whole with a happy life, that we are sacrificing our happiness. Divorce is really hard on the children and being raised by a single parent is sometimes difficult. All my son's friends are being raised by a single parent. Most of them come to our home to eat dinner and get dessert which they don't get at home. They hang out at our house cos their parents are out on the weekends trying to find another mate. One has gone down the wrong road, the other misses home cooked meals, the other one misses his dad doing father-son things even though there is visitation. If there isn't any abuse involved, I would say stay until they are out of high school.
1082057
every day just remember how much you love your husband and his child. that helps alot
726710
I have been there, Health and Money issues is an excuse for you to continue putting yourself and your children in an unhealthy environment.....that alone is disrupting their lives. Thank God one child is out of the house and trying to better themself with an education and the opportunity to find out----every household is not like the one they grew up in.\nTwo months after giving birth and with another child 20 months old, I packed two bags of clothes for each of my children, grabbed 5pairs of jeans and tops, a pair of boots and my tennis shoes, Drove 65 miles to the town I worked in and I did get very blessed to find a house to rent RIGHT NOW,  went to wal-mart and purchased a wind up clock so I could get up for work the next morning and one day followed the next. Fortunately, my childrens babysitter lived in the same town I worked in.\nIt took nine years to finally get a divorce, A divorce kit, his signature(his hand forced by his girlfriend), notorization, and filed that baby at the court house. End result children are now 20 and almost22.and he never paid child support until my youngest turned 18.\nGet Out yourself if you are that miserable, evidentally the other party is not as unhappy with the set-up you have now or they would have already left.\nEverything you are worried about leaving behind is material, this is sapping the life out of you and taking your Joy. Leave
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
592918
Hi: My husband and I have children from previous marriages and it is complicated.  The blended family needs a disclaimer: results may vary.  In my experience both partners need to give the other alot of grace.  Relationships can be difficult with our own children, let alone a new girlfriend/wife.  Some parent child relationships are difficult, some are easy.  Psychologists call this goodness of fit. We all have different personalities and we can't always relate to one another.  As for my husband and I, after alot of stuggle I think we relized we are not able to rescue our kids from the missing parent that left them.  Our kids are the ones that respond to the step parent, if they choose not to be responsive and enter into a relationship we cannot force them.  The wicked step mother applys, even when you are an angel from heaven.  Some kids never respond to the step parent.  Dr. James Dobson said in one of his books (paraphrased): The child takes on the job of protecting the family of orgin, they will ask when is Daddy coming home, they will say "you are'nt my mom."  It really depends on how old your kids are.  I think in our case, our kids were too old to start a new family.  My husband and I should of waited to get married until the nest was less populated.  In short if you married a woman with no kids, dont expect her to be perfect, and angel sent to make everything roses and sunshine for your kids.  If she is human she will have stuggles and make mistakes, but love is the greatest of all.\nGod Bless.....
230991
girl... divorce can do all kinds of things to the child... seein the parents lose it over evrything can hurt the child mentally n emotionally.. parents r supposed to b lovin and all.. n seein all this happen can jus warp her world.. turn it upside down... n if the child were to get into a relationship, this wld act as a stigma of wat may or may not happen.. the child will not have a gd outlook of relationship if it continues n noone sits n talks to the child...
65737
No divorce is easy, but there needs to be the right kind of communication between the parents and children involved. They need to know it's not their fault and that they will still have a family even if it means the father and mother not living together. The worst is when the child hears the one parents  bad-mouth the other, so that should be avoided at all costs. It makes the chil pick sides in defense and confuses them on the matter.
292685
You can't just stop, but you can let go.  Unfortunately it doesn't matter who you are and how good or bad your relationship was, when it comes to change it is scary.  You have to figure out how you are going to survive on your own and while you have a responsibility to yourself to be happy and end this relationship, you still have a responsibility to your kids to make sure they are taken care of physically and emotionally.  Take your time and come up with a plan that you can live with.  Talk to a lawyer and make sure that plan is in the best interests of you and your kids.  Then execute the plan so that some day down the road you can find true happiness.
240726
That's to bad for your family, and I'm sorry. But if things have been that bad for them to cause them to want to get a divorce, they both may much happier and that can only bring joy to your family as a whole just in a different way than your used too.
480751
Prevention is the only way that I see as a real solution. \nIt starts with raising your children to respect others and treat everyone as equal. Equally deserving what life has to offer.\n\nIt has to start with the parents. I am sure there are other ideas but all those are remedial.
663511
Quite the conundrum.\n\nThere are such things as survivable marriages.  Divorce really should be a last, last, last resort, especially once kids are involved.\n\nThat said, there can be a point where more harm comes to the kids with a bitter marriage.  Mom and Dad never get along.  One or both drink too much, are never home, abusive, etc.  \n\nKids are fairly resilient.  They recover well so long as both parents remember that through divorce the kids needs are most important.  \n\nI'm in a good (not great) marriage.  I could easily get "lazy" and neglect my marriage based on this.  (Cheating, withdrawing etc) but the kids need a stable family and my life really isn't all that bad.  (After all, I CHOSE my wife and CHOSE to have kids).  \n\nDivorce is NEVER good when kids are involved.  It is a question of which is the worse of two evils:  A less than good marriage with the family working to hold together or a impulsive divorce that destroys kids faith in adults, parents and family.
70447
okay my parent s are divoreced but i know its for the best its better that to hear them fight and argue. I sometimes feel like im missing a part of me like on fathers day and i cant rememer the good times cause i was only little when they divorce. but i know very little about him but its better to leave it burid that to go digging for me anyway.
611904
The law is the only way to handle these matters.*\n\nThe process through the courts may be slow but if you keep trying time will come around and the kids know you love them because you never give up trying to get them back.
767424
That is just an excuse.  A good parent will see thier children regardless of the reasons for the divorce.  It is just an excuse to not be responsible, which way to many parents do!  I wouldnt care if i got yelled at, called names or anything my kids are first and i would put up with whatever i had to in order to be with them!
808477
That's HORRID! Some ppl just don't care...\n\nBut obviously you're not one of them. So kudos to you and praise God. I hope your FIL and the KIDS heal speedily. Unf., the kids are the ones who really lose out in cases like this.\n\nWhat about browsing the Christian bookstore and finding a book or a CD that talks about healing after divorce and how God can use even the worst hurts to help us grow?\n\nOf course, your time and concern are the best gifts! I'll pray for your family.
560882
just think about ur kids.it really helps.