How can a motherchange the last name of her 12 year old child without the deadbeat dads permission?
154406
You can ask the court to "release his parental rights".  Then you can have the childs name changed.  But, this also takes away your right to fight for back child support.
1114161
Hmm, technically if his name is not recorded anywhere on anything legal, you could claim you don't know who her father is.\n\nThe court would publish a notice of the intent of adoption in the local papers for a few weeks, and if the father doesn't appear to object, then all goes through without a problem.\n\nIf you had acknowledged anywhere that he was her father, you would still have to notify him and get his approval, but I would just play dumb and say you don't know who her father is.\n\nUnfortunately even if the father doesn't visit the child, pay child support, etc. he still has rights in the eyes of the law.  Stupidest thing I have ever heard of, but oh well...
925634
It really is a personal decision - there's obviously no law that requires anyone to do one thing or another. I never changed mine, I like my name, and simply don't see why take a new name that doesn't have the same significance for me. My mom has never changed hers, and it's never been a problem. It depends what is important to you, and what significance you attach to your or your husband's name. From the purely practical standpoint - it makes absolutely no difference.
911161
u won't unless it is in a court.  contact family member or person who is handling his affairs.
422920
In that case I'd give the baby the mothers last name. If he isn't proven to be the father than he has no rights.
751531
Try to harvest this side, you may be able to change an existing form.  (e.g child custody and visitation right).\n\nBut I would let a lawyer formulate this: especially in a life threatening situation (surgery) you need a lot more (and there is maybe also the sons mother involved).
1104120
THIS  DOES HAPPENS ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS GO TO YOUR LOCAL D.A. OFFICE AND EX PLANE CALL 866-480-6081 SOME TIMES SOME ONE HAS THE SAME NAME  ..ALL YOU DO IS ASK FOR A PATERNITY TEST TO BE DONE IT IS NO COAST TO YOU IF THE PARENT THAT CLAMES YOU ARE THE FATHER IS WRONG THEY MUST PAY THEN WHEN IT IS OUT IN THE OPEN ASK THAT YOUR NAME BE REMOVED FROM THE FORMS AND THE CHILD .. TAKE THE BOOD TEST   ..THIS HAS HAPPEN TO A FRIEND
245590
If the letters sound like love letters rather than fatherly, get that man out of your house. Report him to CPS. Protect your child from this guy. If you don't and he does something to her, you will be held responsible for not protecting her. \n\nPlease believe this, because I am a CASA and every day I deal with parents who didn't believe their kids would be or were being abused by their mom's boyfriend or current husband. These kids have problems that you can only begin to imagine. And through this, some women will stick by the men rather than their own children. These women lose custody of their children. The kids face years of counseling, and some will never be able to get over it. No man is worth this.\n\nPlease, get your child away from this man. No man writes "love letters" to a 12 year old. There is nothing fatherly about that. Chances are if he is doing this, he is abusing her already, even though he denies it. He denies it because he knows he could go to jail. Your child can not defend herself. She is totally dependent on you to take care of her. I know this is a very difficult thing to do, but you really need to protect your child from this man until you can be 100% positive that she is not being physically abused.
986840
Hypothetically speaking, that depends, if the father was absent or present for that matter, and the mother put his name down on the BC, then, no.  If the mother was smart and only put her name on the BC, go for it.  \n(This is not legal advice, please consult a lawyer concerning laws in your area.)\nGood luck!
79757
i think it depends on the state you're in. in my state the support cannot be changed simply because someone remarries. when someone asks the court to modify the child support, here in my state, they only take into account the amount the father and mother make - not the "household" income. try calling a local law library for the specific rules in your state.
188787
I would say Yes, they may change the fathers name on birth certificate though.  Pretty noble men there, both of them. \nSeems like more men would run away, as fast can be.  The child is lucky to have two men that want to be a father to them.
25216
You'll have to be more specific.  Are you trying to change your name, change the name of one of the parents listed on the certificate, or something else?  Clarify and I'll see what I can do.
778139
Only a court can do this. You need a lawyer. \n\nI got a great-nephew no one in this family knew about until he was two. His maternal grandparents wanted to adopt him. If the father is of a decent sort (which my nephew is) and he is *game* to pay child support, it's easier to come to a friendly agreement (especially if the father has decent parents who will absolutely adore their grandchild).\n\nThe is the kind of thing best discussed by the family over coffee, and not in a courtroom.\n\nYour post, however, suggests you and the father have some serious ill-will between each other.Child visitation/custody and child-support issues are sometimes used as weapons in such disputes. If he is paying child support, and short of him being an unfit parent (hard to prove) you really don't have a leg to stand on. \n\nYour child should not become a weapon to use against his father. It will only warp him.
22532
Try the source listed below.  In Connecticut you can change your name anytime.....for $50.00 (but it has to be published in local papers that you are petitioning)\n\nGood luck!
511792
you have to petition the court and do all kinds of paper work. you also have to puit it in the newspaper and let ask if anyone wants to object it can go to court on this day and give their say why he/she should not change their name.it is a three month process. good luck!!!
298162
Go to options, then general prefrences and you should be able to change it on there.  It has a field where you can change your outgoing name.
949262
You have to go to court, get a change of name. It is pretty easy and doesn't cost much.