Why do women take so long to get turned on?
142939
Female anatomy and hormones work very differently from male anatomy and hormones...I'm sure you've probably figured this out by now.  It's really more of an evolutionary force than anything else.  To put it bluntly, men need to spread their seed and the male brain is programmed to desire sex as often as possible to procreate.  If a man does not have sex or does not msturbate after a few days...we ejaculate in our sleep.  That's how strong our programming is.  So yes, having the ability to be turned on quickly is normal for a man.\n\nNow for a women, their sexual appetite is more closely tied to their emotional state above all else.  You've obviously clued onto this since you know what you have to say and do to get to and past foreplay.  Again, a women's programming is directly related to evolution as well.  They can't just strip off their close and have sex like men.  Most need to know that a relationship may be possible.  They need to hear kind words and things that make them feel secure according to their emotional state. They're looking for a nurturing man than could suitably care for their offspring.  And they need to be emotionally free of their minds to function well sexually.  That's why most women don't enjoy sex after a certain age...then tend to worry too much about everything, whereas men....anytime...anyplace...anywhere will do.\n\nAlso, a lot of women are really out of shape these days and that definitely affects their sex drive among other things.\n\nMy best advice to you is to not deceive them.  If you can't be honest, you'll never build a strong foundation for a relationship.  Enjoy yourself when your young, but as you age the "wine-dine-bang-run" technique should be quickly abolished for success in your relationships\n\nHere's a great link for more info.\nhttp://preventdisease.com/yourhealth/sexualhealth/sexualhealth.html
700683
Most women with class and self respect have a time limit to when they will have sex with you, even though she is sending sexy signals , the signals are to let you know that when she is ready she will have sex with you but until then they will play coy and flirt with you like crazy. for me  i have 4 month rule.  and the reason for the 4 month rule is to make sure that the guy is all he says he is. and i will tell them from the beginning that i have a 4 month rule right away it weeds out the get em and hit em guys. and for me and my experiences not many guys last but the true man really do and for those who have waited the wait is well worth it . and that's when i know that i have a pretty decent guy lol
651991
This could not be further from the truth. In fact its quite the opposite, when a girl gets comfortable enough with herself that she can masturbate to orgasm she often finds it easier to orgasm during the real thing. Also understand that there is more than one type of orgasm that women can have, a clitoral, and a g-spot. \n\nAs for your sex drive question, different people have different levels of sexual anticipation its normal and you should consider yourself lucky.
1010294
Its because the guy cums to fast.  Women need more time.
577461
Maybe its your hormones.
384581
anytime dont you no that you need at least half an hour of foreplay, most guys just bypass this and go straight to sex. the more foreplay the more powerful the orgasm
699678
The plain fact is that some people are sexually boring and others are sexually exciting, I believe the higher the sex drive the better the love making. Maybe your lady is not comfortable with her body, tell her she's gorgeous and maybe she'll relax a little and forget any inhibitions she may have. Hope things improve .
564075
Because their libido is so low that its might as well state that it isnt there. By this age, most women would have already been through menopause. Remember menopause is when a the process that stops the woman from menstrating(or having her period) and can no longer produce eggs.\n\nThe body will register this process and hormones will change the woman. The whole reason for sex is to reproduce and have babies. Now if she no longer can have babies then, why would her body want to heve sex if doing so would be invain? Her libido will lower and her sex drive will weaken and not be as strong as a woman who is reproductive.\n\nThats why women after the ages of 60rs, dont tend to want to have sex. Its just not in them.
946265
I've seen studies that revealed men were more aroused by visual stimulus than woman. For a man, the entire sexual encounter starts with what he sees and how it affects his hormones, the more explicit things he sees the more excited he gets.Thats why I always recommend that couples have sex w/ the lights on, so the man can be at his best simply by seeing the sexiness of his woman.
798986
most women are afraid of losing control, which is why some women never have an orgasm, it is all subconscious.
32576
the first answer was good. if a woman does not feel sexy she won't want to have sex. that is absolutely right. i find that watching porn makes me horny...that's what its there for...even lovemaking scenes in movies. the best way to make a woman horny is to preoccupy her mind with sex...
899085
Actually, I thought it was girls who were always late cuz they take forever to get ready.\n-- just kidding  --\nJust for the record, except where traffic problems were the reason, Im never late....but I think alot of guys are late because theyre trying to make an entrance, or they are worried about looking good.\n\nCertainly not genetic, and surely some of us do like being late (not me)
662156
as long as you take time and please your woman and show your caring side 1st them she probably wont notice how long it took you to cum - just tell her that she turned you on sooooo much you were bursting she will take this as a compliment
29647
Some women think they should only have sex if they are feeling aroused. But the truth is, as she goes about  her day-to-day life, she might not think about sex all that much. So when you ask for sex, she won't be in the mood. Instead, try asking if you can snuggle, kiss, or give her a backrub. Make sure she knows that you won't have sex if she doesn't want to. After fifteen minutes of affection, you can ask if she'd like to have sex. She might be more interested at that point. \n\nTo be fair, you can also try to turn down your sex drive a bit. Try to spend a little less time thinking about sex or looking at things that make you horny. Instead, work on a hobby or spend time with your friends.
122100
It takes a good 20-30 minutes to get a girl fired up. If you cant stick her you better learn to lick her.
849084
They may get us faster, but easy come easy go. They also loose us faster. I am finding that the more class a women has the more I want her. Although I am a bit older now and flirtatious behavior can go along way.
218640
a woman can not orgasm if she is not completely relaxed, make sure she knows that you are very turned on by her and that you love every inch of her body men think it is them who make women orgasm but it is really the women who is in control of that