Could you forgive your mother for allowing you and your sister to be repeatedly molested as children?
146176
I really don't think something like that can be forgiven easily, your mother put herself before you and your sister and when something like that happens you you cant help but fear for your own kids.  Lots of people talk about unconditional love but I think there is exceptions and this is one of those.
344115
record it with a hidden cam corder. If she abuses you , she is more then likey to abuse others too. in my family this kinda stuff happpened too . it drove a space between me and my older sister, i hated her then and now i have little to no contact to her because she treats other still like that in her thirtys. some people need to feel as if they are in control and have the power. I dont want you to end up the tatel tail but if it was my child i would listen. Abuse is abuse no matter whos hand it comes by.
1166137
No. i would not forgive them. they are obviously not your good friend so you should not worry about what they think of you. you should find better people to talk to!
806480
You and your brother HAVE to call the police and report everything that this person has been and still is doing to you and your brother. \nNo matter how much you say you hate this terrible person you must never talk about killing him or you will become as bad as he is and you are not a bad person but a victim of abuse.\nMy heart goes out to you and your brother for having this creep as a father. No one should ever have to live the way you kids are living and I beg you to call the police now and not wait another minute either. The police will place the two of you in a safe place away from the abuse and it will be up to you and your brother to testify against this creep to make sure he's put away and won't harm you or anyone again. \nTake care and don't wait another minute to call the police either.
574333
You know forgiveness is a difficult thing.  I think if you are feeling it, you should do it.  It will be a lot easier to move on.  And really, how long does a person need to be punished for something wrong they have done?  I am not spiritual at all or even religious.  But a lot of people believe we will answer to a greater power once we leave this earth.  If you believe that, then there is no good reason why you need to carry around animosity for your mom.  You are an adult now and if she doesn't feel sorry now, she never will.  But I am sure she feels guilty and that is a punishment she will live with until death and then she will deal with whatever, after.  I think it takes a big person to forgive someone of such a huge thing as a mom leaving her babies.  My dad left my mom before I was born and then claimed I wasn't his.  It was a huge court battle and it was finally discovered he is in fact my biological father.  At age 18 he decided he wanted me back in his life.  I couldn't do it.  I wasn't ready.  I am a mother now and I have forgiven him and moved on.  He is now dying of liver failure and wishes he had more time with me...I am his only daughter.  So, he is being punished.  But not by me...but by himself and knowing that he did wrong.  Good luck to you.  You will make the decision best for you.
765169
mother have lung and liver cancer she could never annoy me,but she can still vex me but i forgive her.you only get one mama so make the best of what you got while it lasts.there is nothing worse than regretting you should have talked and listened
1048415
umm, ok, first of all, marrying your sister is kind of wrong, secondly why are you so in love with your sister, and thirdly you might want to think back to when you were a young child and remember any innapropriate touching that went on between you and your sister. then I would remove contact from your sister and recieve extensive counceling in another state so you can get over these innappropriate feelings you have. seriously, its not right to feel that way about your sister and you should not be asking HOW to tell your sister you should be asking WHY you feel that way. No offense but were you molested?
563328
How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
212602
I was molested by a cousin when I was 7 I didn't tell someone till I was 14. Please don't wait. These perverts could be out hurting other children. If you can't tell her write it in a diary and leave it in plain view. If you have kind of mother that's a little nosy, she'll read it and she will come to you. Or just write her a letter telling her what happened and how hard it was to tell her to her face. Getting these people off the street will help you feel better.
534984
Your feelings are justified, just remember, that it's your dad who hurt you and your mom, not the 7 year-old, he's just an innocent bystander
10954
Yes.  But trust me, you will be caught eventually, so instead of tampering with evidence, you should just leave the country and don't come back.  And "But she was sleeping with my brother" is not a successful defense...
628024
You did nothing wrong, and should never feel guilty about what happened. I know someone who had sexual contact with a child, and they received the treatment they needed in prison to allow them to lead a semi-normal healthy life once again. If you expose your victimizer, you will be doing them a favor. They are actually suffering inside as well. But, for you to have full "closure" in your life...you need to forgive, let go, and move on.
994252
Yeah.After all she's my mother.My mother did that to me once.She chased me and my daughter out of her house. It took me almost 3 months to recuperate and my daughter(she's only 4 at that time) who's obviously traumatized by the whole thing refused to speak to my mom ever since. After almost 2 years only we started talking back to my mom.It was hard and painful at first though but we managed.Good Luck whatever your problems are.
348144
Yes...they committed a crime, and should not get away with it just because you share the same blood line. The other family members should understand that what the person did was damaging to you .... and by not prosecuting you are only enabling him to do it again.
790244
I was also molested as a child and i learned to get over it. All your friend needs right now is someone to support her and you can be that person for her. In time she will let go of the past but in the meantime her family and friends need to be there for her.
1069362
In some states you get the death penalty for molesting children twice. (Just something to think about)
259372
Without knowing the circumstances it makes it difficult to answer your question.\n\nI think you have to go with what you feel.  If she did something to you that you don't feel you can forgive than no you shouldn't.