my babydaddy say he loves me, but i know he's married and i know that he wants to be with me. what should i do
146168
Leave him & sue him for child support. \n\nYou have to think of your son now, who needs a REAL man for a dad.  Don't put your child through this, and in the future, RESPECT other people's marriage vows, whether they do or not!\n\nI don't mean to be harsh, but you have to know that you've gotten yourself into a mess by now.  Does he have children with his wife???
267542
I went through the exact same thing and know exactly what you should do. Tell him that you're young and really just need to find out who you really are. That you just need time to find you, and that you love him and know that if it is meant for you'll to be together you know you'll will. If he really love you he will understand and give you time.
674263
He thinks of u as his, like ur his property, u have to make up ur mind do u what him back or do u what to move on with your life. I'd say girl ur much better than just being a baby momma. I don't know you but ur God's creations so he has plans for you. He has no right to tell you what u can or cannot do, just like u can't tell him what to do. I say he wants you and he wants his freedom, that's nice and all but it's not ur problem. I say do what makes you feel happy, and whatever you do, do it for you and your baby and he'll be eating out of your hand. When you feel happy and confident it shows and men love confident women. BE INDEPENDENT
494122
I can see this ending in tears.\nYou need to forget about him and move on. He has a baby with someone else, and you'll end up taking that baby's daddy away if you pursue him. His wife needs him, they have a family. If you want a family too, I am sure you will have one one day, just not with this man.\nPlease move on, don't be the home wrecker. Have some pride, move on, and realise that you are a beautiful person who doesn't need to be with someone else's man to make her feel like a woman.
925660
hi, just wanted to say sorry for all the hurtful answers to your question.    i cant really say either way if he truly loves you or if there are other motives as to why he would keep in touch after so long. maybe he is hoping to have a relationship with his child at some point?  maybe he truly wants to be with you?  maybe you are a distraction? \nits hard to say. all you can do is pray, and ask for forgiveness for your sins, and ask to find the happiness you are longing for.\ngod bless
587446
Oh, honey! This man means you no good at all. You need to ask yourself, do I want my child to be raised up by this man who I know in my heart wishes that this child of mine was never born? You baby needs to be brought up in a Loving stable, and supporting environment. Always do what is best for your child, because they depend on you, and they are the ones that need you the most!! cut him loose. For the marriage thing, he could have had all of that taken care of by now if he really wanted to! Please believe me I went through something very similar! keep your head up, and raise your baby the right way with lots of Love! It will take a minute to get over him. It took me awhile, so I do know! Have him court ordered to pay support, that will help you out with medical bills, and all other things that your child needs! I wish you, and your child the very best!! You can do it!! I did!!
33740
try to tell him about the situation if he is meant for you and that he loves you he will understand and who knows because of you he will become one of God's children and that would be really great isn't it?  But if he will not understand let the feeling go maybe it's never meant to be...
109344
It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
1100054
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
544070
If he doesn't love your baby, he doesn't love you, no matter what he says.  If he says he loves you but refuses to love your child, he has a warped idea of what love is and you deserve better.  Get child support payments from him and force him to live up to his responsibility.
885769
You have to remember that you guys already have 2 kids together. I think you should try to work the marriage out, you've probably tried talking to him, but if that doesn't work out then you two should seek counselingl.
464600
I hope he asks you!!! That would be great!  I hope the best for you.  Thats so great that he likes your son too!  He probably will ask you soon... and I hope he does!  It sounds like he might.  But i understand what your saying about gettin ur hopes up.  That would suck.  SO.. if he doesnt ask... then maybe further along in ur relationship... talk to him about if he would ever marry u and maybe hint to him that ur ready to marry him. Good luck!
680634
It is a little late in the game to be asking that question, it should have been asked and answered before you got married.  I think that you should look at his actions to see if he loves you.  Does he tell you that he loves you?  Does he make you feel special or worthless?  Does he do special things for you?  Does he build you up or tear you down?  Is he abusive...physically, sexually or emotionally?  You should talk to him and ask what he is feeling towards you...tell him how much you need the reassurance.   It sounds like it may be silly, but you need the reassurance and this is the only person in the world that you should be able to be completely open and vulnerable with.  Good luck!
562208
You need to get and keep him out of your life. He can still be in your babies life but you need to cut all ties off from him.Obviously he has no respect for you and is playing you for the fool. \nI know its not easy but you need to take a stand and find yourself someone who will treat you right.\n\nGood luck you deserve better then that!
930164
looks like you know whats going on. the question is, what are you going to do about it? your husband is playin you, and you need to confront him, dont let him feed you those obvious lies. he should respect you and his unborn child enough to at least be honest with you. if he doesnt want to be with you, he needs to make that known.
635786
It sounds like you need to talk to your man. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him where do I stand in this relationship? Then come right out and say Do you still love me?
1026903
I have been in the same exact situation, instead it wasn't so much his girlfriend it was his baby mama. First of all  if he loved you or if you were the love of his life you wouldn't be asking this question because if he loved you he would have been dropped her ass. True love waits for no one. \n\nWhat that means is that if you were the "love of his life" ya would be together.\n\nWhat it is you giving him that booty and he just telling you want you want to hear. She must not be giving up like you are. Because you love him you give  it up to  him when he wants its. He might have a little a feelings for you because ya doing the damn thang but you are not the the love of his life and that is not to say she is either. \n\nBesides why would you want him if he would leave her for you..he would leave you for someone else too. \n\nThink about it. \n\nGirl just move on... ..