How to keep a balance between not sucking up to your boss but being helpfull?
151742
Easy -    Sucking up is when you intentionally act, perform, or behave a certain way to appear ahead of the game or just to get into his/her good graces for your own eventual benefit... basically it's fake.  Being helpful is allowing yourself to put in a little extra time to aid someone when they legitimately need a hand with something.  As long as you can do your job fully, that little extra is being helpful.  The minute you become a yes-man automaton, you're now a terrific suckup.  It's ok to say no to taking on more than your fair share, but make the choice ahead of time so you can justify your actions through consistent action one way or the other.
193526
Ask your boss. They aren't yours anymore!\nWhy quit something and keep trying to control it?
266148
You should stop worrying too much about your EVIL boss and continue on with your work... She'll get what she deserves from ABOVE... hehehe
79626
This may not sound too nice but you have a right to be a little selfish...you have the seniority. If the other person is the one initiating the change, you have a right to express your wishes as well. Just tell your boss that you don't wish to move & that you hope he or she wil respect your wishes. If you are a top-notch performer, you can also point out your various good points that should keep you in said position while also noting that, "I shouldn't have to feel like I am fighting for the job & currently have...but..."\n\nGood luck!
1091262
Just let her rant and rave. I'm sure you're doing an excellent job, so keep it up. Show your boss through your deeds that you are a valuable employee, and you have nothing to worry about. If your boss wants to confide in you, they will. Until then, do your job to the best of your ability and let that womans voice just drift off into the background. Every work place has them....unfortunately.
949333
I try to let them boss know I appreciate the guidance. If you're training, take notes and let her know you understand her point of veiw. Also, try not to take things personally if you're new. No one likes to be told they're doing something wrong, but try to be objective and not feel demoralized. You're not in grade school and you aren't going to get a sticker by your name if you do something right. You're expected to get things right and you have to motivate yourself.\n\nIf your job really sucks, look for another one. Just remember, there are none out there that don't come with problems. Also, get yourself in school if you aren't already, so you can do more than just scrape by in the future. The stress isn't half as bad if you know you'll be moving on to bigger and better things eventully.
930207
Aww don't worry about it .  Just remember your boss didn't become a boss by sitting in one branch stagnating. Even if she is annoyed, it will simply be because you are a good worker, she will still understand you have to move on for your own career. Ignore the idiot above. ;)  Good luck!
886689
I, too, am second in charge at my job.  The best way I've found to deal with timid bosses is to first talk to them about the problem.  You are there to help them, so help.  Approach your boss in a non-threatening way, one-on-one, and discuss your concerns.  You could say "I've noticed other employees not adhering to the company policies. I know we don't want to send the message that this is acceptable. What do you think we could do to discourage this?"  If your boss tries to skirt the issue or tries to blow you off, be firm.  You could also say "I know coaching and corrective action isn't one of the fun aspects of your job, and I'd be happy to help you with this (if you truly are).  Let's get a game plan together so we can be sure we are on the same page with this"  This way your boss should get the hint that something needs to be done, and you are willing to help, yet you don't have to go over her head or make her feel like she can't do her job correctly.  Good Luck!
262368
I used to do the same thing , until an older employee said to me " You know who's fault it is, YOURS." I replied "your right and  I'm going to do something about it now."went out and took care of the problems with the employees and never complained again. As for being in the office with the boss, you have alot pull, that other people don't, because you got his ear all the time, you can plant ideas, good rule of thumb, don't push ideas, just suggest them, like i heard that company A lets their people off on this holiday, etc. and see what happens. most of the time you just have to plant the seed, by saying something and you can watch it grow. another thing you can say is "it seems awful cramped in here, think we could add on , so i could have more space for files, etc..  Always look at the positive side of your situation.
270803
You are probley too nice. Show them you wont take anymore mess in a way that wont get you fired.Call off a couple of times. If they feel you are a valued employee they should cut you some slack. If not quit.
1017862
Give your boss a good smack in the mouth. You should see changes taking place shortly afterwards. Glad to be of help.
415512
Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck
924376
Talk to the boss, she may not realize that her tone and mannerisms can be construed to be less than acceptable, especially when counseling/ coaching employees. \n\nSome, not most, bosses have a "better than you" attitude, perhaps as a defensive mechanism to shield themselves from ambitious subordinates.\n\nA good boss is a partner with his/her subordinates, recognizing that their (the bosses) success depends on the subordinates, the reverse is just a true. \n\nFind a time when there is little or no stress, in a neutral place (possibly over lunch - that would be a first, an employee asking a supervisor to lunch), couch the request in such a way so as not to cause the boss to look for ulterior motives - "I have a personal problem that I would like to discuss with you. Is lunch convenient?"
4186
My boss is cool. He comes to chit chat everyday and cracks jokes and does everything a normal person would do. As long as you work and get the work done he is ok with you. But if you dont work then you see another side of him.
845279
First of all, you were hired to do something.  So do it the best that you can.  Be creative and attentive.  Go beyond what is required of you.  Most of all, be good friends to your officemates.  Help around if you have extra time.  When opportunity knocks, your officemates might be the ones to suggest for your promotion.  However if you do not get promoted and you feel you are deserving, then approach your boss and ask for one.  Tell him directly that you have contributed this much to the office and your work is well appreciated by your officemates.  If all fails and you feel you are not getting the right promotion because of office politics, then I suggest you find a better work place were you can grow and develop.
1103483
You don't have to know it all to make a difference.  Feel free to suggest changes to your boss in a constructive way that isn't seen as criticizing.  As Dre suggests, promote the ideas as ways of creating more efficiency in the office.  While the dentist might feel you are out of place with the suggestion, making it in a more friendly way will definitely allow for the dentist to think about it without having to worry about being defensive.  Good luck!
349470
I have had the same problem in the past well it was kind of a mutual thing.  Things are different now  because we have history.  The best advice I can give you is to use the time you have at your job to do it well and exceed your boss's standards.  After some time, they will see that you are a great asset.