hello! i want to ask you a question. my boyfriend wants to have a baby but i am only 17 what do i do?
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At 17 you are still a baby yourself (I am at least twice your age so I can say that).  Finish enjoying your teenage years and enjoy some of your twenties before deciding to settle down to have a baby.  \n\nBabies are a beautiful gift from God, but they require a LOT of time, patience and financial backing and from the perspective of age and maturity you are not ready for such a HUGE commitment.
215250
You both still young, maybe take a abortion. Taking care a baby is not easy and huge responsible. If you both haven't confident to raise the BB up. Then don't bring to earth for suffering.
13104
#1.  Keep the baby.\n#2. Talk to your parents.\n#3. Stay in school.\n\nKeep in mind that if the father isn't around, that doesn't mean that the baby won't grow up properly.  If he doesn't stay, then just rely on your parents or other support groups to help you out.\n\nFocus on your baby, include your education, include your family life, and go from there :)\n\nI wish you would have waited till you were much older, but as you didn't, your responsibility is now to the baby :)
165180
"I want a baby, and I want it NOW!!" Ha! Ha!  My husband is the opposite, he wants a child now but I would like to wait , I am only 20.  We decided to compromise and wait a year or so,(I wanted to wait 5 years).  I don't know what to tell you to tell him!  Maybe you should ask him what his reasons for waiting are??
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If being pregnant is something you are really not ready for, then you should take the morning after pill. This delivers a massive dose of hormones to your body which prevents a fertilized egg implanting on the wall of the womb.\n\nHowever, while possible, it is unlikely that you would become pregnant at this point in your cycle. Fertility for a 28-31 day cycle (same as me!) occurs between days 11 and 16, and conception is highly unlikely after day 18. Don't risk it if you don't want a baby though, remember it's a life you're talking about.\n\nIn future, try and get your boyfriend to take some responsibility! Perhaps remind him that he would be financially liable for life if you got pregnant, or tell him you would go round his house and tell his mum! Seriously though, take better care, a moments passion can equal a lifetimes responsibility.
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First, read what you just wrote.\nI want a kid so he'll love me.\nI want a kid so he'll be with me.\nThat is putting alot of pressure on that kid. And if married people with kids don't stay together, why do you think he'll stick with you? It'll get hard and he'll run. Did you ask him how he feels? Does he want a kid right now? Yeah, its your uterus, but its his sperm! Its not fair or right to try and trap a guy with a kid. And speaking of, you are still a kid. I know 16 year olds don't like to hear that, but its true. I thought I was grown. I had a kid at 18 and married the Daddy. I found out just how much of an adult I wasn't REAL FAST. If you love yourself, wait till you turn 18 and finish highschool. If you love him, give him the chance to become an adult and decide what he wants. If its real love, he'll still be around at 18 and you can marry, THEN have the kid. Usually, teenage fathers HATE the girlfriend that got preggy cause they aren't ready to be Dad's. Do you really wanna take that chance?
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Oh you were definately right! You are way too young to get pregnant! I would wait until you are at least 18 or until you feel ready to have children (after you turn 18) My mom had me when she was 16 and I'm sure that there are a lot of things that should would have wanted to do it her life would have been different. I had my son at 23 and still wasn't ready!
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You have to be patient. He probably just has cold feet, 18 is YOUNG. If you keep pushing you well chase him away for good. You want him to be sure don't you? Or do want to push him and then after a couple of kids you break up. BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT!!!!   Being with someone til death do you part is scarey and he just wants to be sure, he well be back.
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How does he feel? That is perhaps the most important question here. Since you are pregnant, your baby coming from a broken home is going to be determined by your relationship with this boy. If he is agreeable to it, why not make a commitment to raise your child together by getting married? Normally 18 is a bit young to be getting married because people change a lot from 18 to their mid-twenties and since for most of us that is the age that we get our first taste of freedom, this could spell disaster when we realize that our husband/wife has a right to be involved in our life to a great extent. This can feel like a lack of freedom. Also, having a baby can make people feel trapped, especially males. It will be hard but if you two are in love and he's a good guy, know that statistically you would be doing the best thing for your baby if you were married. \nTry to give to your partner instead of only giving as much as your partner does. Tell him about that resolve. Giving can be very contagous but so can being hurtful. A loving word can stop anger dead in its tracks in a marriage. It takes two to fight but only takes one to defuse a bomb. Try to make your first instinct to defuse the situation. Take care of all 3 of you, and I hope our e-opinions help you.
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Leave him, go have a pregnancy test done and be checked out for STDS. He is obviously not trustworthy to have done something so sneaky. It is your choice if you want to have a baby not his. If he wants a child and you are not willing or ready to have one, he should either accept it or find someone that wants a family. Not try to force one on you.\n\n************************************************************\nAs for the abortion and adoption issue brought up in previous answers, Think it through well and make an educated decision. Even though you were tricked into a pregnancy it doesn't change the fact that it would be your baby growing inside of you and you would have to live with your choice for the rest of your life. There is no taking it back...once you abort the baby is dead a nd gone forever, and once you give your child to someone else it is their child. You could also consider giving the child to the father, since he obviously wanted a baby so badly, but only do so if he is secure and stable enough to raise and love the baby.
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Well being open and honest is the best, if you really want to have a child  then talk to him about it, just let him know that this is what you want, and ask him his oppion on it, it is better to be open about these things,
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your not too old to have a child, but when you do get pregnant you will have to be monitored more than say a 25yr old. If your planning to get pregnant tell your doc and ask about the risks, if any.\nGood luck
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First of all, if he's cheating on his baby's mama to be with her, then it's only a matter of time before he's cheating on *her* and the kid she has with him. \n\nI know she doesn't have a kid with him yet, but what do you think is going to happen?  He already has one kid when he's 23, that's not very good life planning skills on his part, is it?  And now he's hanging with girls who are 17 because the girls his own age can see him for what he is, but the 17 year old girls can't.\n\nIf she really wants to have sex when she's 17 that's her business and no one's going to stop her.  But she better use birth control and condoms, both (condoms to block STDs) because she's choosing to have sex with someone who isn't very careful about the choices he makes in life.  You don't want that kind of man as a father for your child, he needs to do some growing up before he qualifies for that.  \n\nAnd she better really learn sex ed thoroughly, like which kinds of birth control fail how often in real life.  Books like Our Bodies Ourselves explain this really thoroughly. Some hospitals and OBGYNs can hook you up with resources for this...you can ask a woman OBGYN, even if she's not your doctor.\n\nAll men do too much thinking with the small head when they are 23.  He's mostly thinking about what kind of lies he has to tell her to get into her pants.  This is exactly what he did with his baby's mama, and look how well that turned out.  That baby's mama really liked him way back when, just like your friend does now.  If your friend wants to be with him, that's her choice, but she needs to protect herself, with birth control and condoms and advice from older wiser people she trusts, protect herself in all the ways that his baby's mama didn't.
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Well assuming you have a child I would say lay off dating and try and take care of that baby.\n\nYou are too young to have a kid in the first place but now that you do you are too old to be dealing with silly teenage crap.\n\nYou need to grow up and be a mom instead of worrying about some silly boy feeding you a giant load of crap.\n\nHe just wants to get in your pants...that is all teenage boys want from girls and it sounds like you don't need the complications.
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They say when you truly love someone you would give up your life for them. and from what i see it seems that is exactly what you have done. you have no life of your own it is all about his life and no advice can help you you have to decide on your own. That does not seem to be your worse problem though you say you are 2 months pregnant? then why does your other question say you are having trouble conceiving
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Wait.  When the time is right you will know.  Or you'll get pregnant on accident and you'll make it the right time.  It's OK, your only 30.  It's not like you guys don't have plenty of time.  Enjoy life and each other.  Good Luck.
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Wow!  Waiting for marriage huh?  That's pretty rare, but hold on to your principals because it will be worth it. What age is too young to have sex?  When you & the significant other can't afford to raise a baby.