Is it a bad sign when my boyfriend's work/school is more important than me?
154203
- Dont be hurry.\n- Read his heart.\n- He may be busy in planning your future to be brightful.\n- You too need to take part of it.\n- Help him, guide him and shoulder him.\n- Make love, fun and success together.\n- all the best.\n----------------
775074
It sounds like he has major issues unrelated to you... but you are paying the price. You need to talk to him about this compassionately, but firmly and tell him he needs to treat you with more love and respect. You might be financially dependent on him for now, but you deserve to be treated with respect. You'll be okay if this relationship ends. Do what is right for you and be proactive... don't just sit and wait for him to figure it out. You'll only stay stuck in a bad situation.
329201
his money means more to him than you?  You may love him more than anything but he obviouslyb doesn't feel the same way about you if he's putting his money first.  you should be with someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.  Get out before you really get hurt, you deserve so much more.
185496
He shouldn't feel like he needs to marry at a time when you're still in school. If he loves you, he has no need to rush marriage. If he's insecure and needs marriage to assure him, then you're better off without him. Do what you have to do, finish law school. If he's not ok with you trying to create a successful career for yourself, doesn't that say how selfish he is?
422149
i think you should break up and concentrate on your studies. i know that its easy for me to say and its hard when you have a lot of emotions, but this guy really doesn't sound like a winner.\nits hard when you're dating someone cos there are a lot of feelings involved, but you should try and keep one eye on your future.  try and think what will happen if you choose this guy and sacrifice your grades..will you be happy with yourself? is there any guarantee that you will stay with this guy forever? will you be happier with better grades/better future? is this the only guy in the world?\n\ni think you should break up with him, if you really can't do that then have a little time off from each other and give yourself the space and freedom to think straight. it sounds to me like this guy is more concerned with impressing his friends than with your feelings. you should find someone who supports and encourages you.
1156626
Be honest, cover your own way once in a while when you can, & let him see first hand you have goals & ambitions.  If you are concerned with a career & a future, & are either working, going to school, or both, he will feel more comfortable around you.  Also, trying to plan activities which don't require spending loads of cash may help, too.
631557
Well there could be something bothering him that you may not be aware of.  It might not be able for him to share it with you just yet.  Just don't jump to any conclusions.  He will tell you when the time is right.
410626
You could always try the age old 'It's not you it's me' line. Tell him you need to focus on your studies or your job. Your just to busy at this time in your life.
199941
NO way. I would include my boyfriend and tell him what is going on to stress me out. If the relationship is a strong one then you should be able to lean on each other in the rough times. If the person is saying they want to leave someone because they are stressed at work I think that there is more going on, and they really aren't committed to the relationship if something as trivial as work is going to stress you out enough to leave. Maybe your better off, I mean would you want this person around if there was a tragedy or a sickness to deal with. Doesn't sound like a very strong person, and doesn't sound like someone that truly cares about you.
337262
from the sounds of it he's just saying things to make you feel better, but then goes back against them.  maybe it just makes him insecure to realize that you can go out and do everything, and then what do you need him for? \nbut more likely it's putting up a false front, then cutting it out from under you to make you more dependant upon him.  he likes his cozy little life of having you do everything for him.  if he has the time to pester you about things he wants done, then he has time to do them himself.\nhe might not realize what he's doing, but the first step in this is to ask him about it.  if you are scared of the outcome of having a serious discussion with him about the relationship, then there are definatly some major problems with it...
1007135
My relationship is like that.  I'm always busy with college and she's always busy with work and we're lucky to see each other once a week.  We work it out though.  We just appreciate the time we do spend together a lot more.
486660
I think it is important to relieve yourself of all your stress when it gets bad.  In this case he isn't much of a boyfriend if he is really stressing you out instead of being there for you and reducing your stress.  Get rid of the boyfriend and the stress will be gone.
136853
No, but you surely need to give him space to be around with his friends WITHOUT YOU sometimes.  You know you both had a life before you got together, and for your relationship to be healthy, both of you need to balance the time you spend together and the balance you spend with your friends/family.\n\nIt is not good to demand all his time for yourself
1130747
maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
167285
It's hard to say without knowing more about the two of you.  Money could be an issue, or he could be afraid of not meeting your expectation.  It be as simple as he just doesn't really feel as deep for you as you feel for him.
192525
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
77040
Tell him that you need to wait and both you and your boyfriend should consider finishing schools or any carrer goals so that you can provide for your child.  If he loves you he can wait until you are ready.