how do i know if i have made the right choice in marring my fiance?
148440
There is no way of knowing. But what you can do is make the right choices to make your marriage work.
6983
Wait until the initial passion is over before you think about marrige. Take it slow. If you are meant for each other you will be together anyway whether you are married or not. Marrige is just a formality.
474467
The best test is to ask serious questions. Ask questions that matter to you so you can see where he stands. "Do you think we'll get married", "Do you want kids", "When do you think the right time is to be married", etc etc.
335411
There is never one "right" answer. You need to get your priorities straight--do what is good FOR YOU before you jump into one or the other relationship. Marriage isn't all fun and games: If you decide you don't like one guy after you tie the knot, you probably won't have a second chance at the second guy. You (nor anybody else) can't see the future to determine if you will or won't get divorced. Learn to love yourself first before jumping in. You do sound like you need some more growing up time. Take it easy!
341104
So long as you are speaking from your heart...she is right, it won't matter, where, when, or how you ask her...she will love it.  These are the words women wait their whole lives to hear, it doesn't need to be some over the top production, just an honest, heart felt proposal.  Good luck!!
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
553427
It depends... is he everything you wanted, or everything you needed.\n\nWhen I first started dating my husband, he wasn't exactly what I thought I wanted.  But as we got to know each other I found he was what I needed to be both happy and a better person and truly a "gift from God".\n\nIf you're engaged or contemplating getting engaged, you need to go into it as a forever thing and not looking at it as something you can easily get out of it it isn't exactly what you thought it would be.
258619
Everyone always told me that when you find the right one you will know it. Well, I tried to make this one the right one, then that one the right one, and it was never the right one. When he did come along I thought...OH! This is what they were talking about. I luckily found mine. It is a miracle, and believe me honey, you will never have to question it. We have been married for five years and both knew it the first night we met. It is a feeling that you cannot describe. The only person who would understand is another person who has found their's as well. I fell sorry for all the people out there who are with someone thinking that it is love and it is not the one meant for them. Keep looking. You will find your's. Good Luck!
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If you have to ask this question, you're clearly not ready. Your heart will tell you when you're with the right person and it's the right time. \n\nIf you have even the tiniest bit of doubt about going ahead with your first time, STOP! You can always save it for another time, but once you've done it, you can't undo it. There is nothing worse than sleeping with someone for the wrong reason.\n\nGenerally speaking, there's often a huge emotional investment when it comes to a girl's first time. While your first time won't be the best time, and sex gets better the more you do it, that's no reason to set lower standards. \n\nYour first time certainly doesn't have to be all roses and teddy bears, but at least make it something you remember with fondness rather than regret. The best thing you can do to ensure that, is to choose the right person, and let it happen naturally. If anything feels forced or "wrong", it's not the right time.\n\nIf you want to wait till marriage, there's nothing wrong with that - however, with around 50 per cent of marriages ending in divorce, I can't see any good reason to make a fuss over it. People can be married on paper and it's all for convenience - yet others for whatever reason aren't married but love each other with total commitment and don't need a legal bond to live up to the expectations of a spouse. I think that people who are devoted out of love and not a legal tie deserve far more respect than people who are in a loveless marriage.
28120
YES, YES, YES!! It is more than worth the wait. It's better to wait, than not to wait and regret it. What you have is very precious. You can only give it away once. Let it be to your husband. He will appreciate that you guarded something just for him. It's the most loving thing you can do for your future. There's just so many reasons to guard what you have. Many will tell you it's no big deal...because they already gave theirs away. It IS a big deal. Take it from one who gave it away at 18 and regretted it very much later. Even though my hubby forgave me for the loose life I had led before we got married, I still have all those memories of wasting myself on jerks and idiots. All they wanted was a good time. All I wanted was someone to love me. The guy I married? He's the only one who didn't want to use me like that. He wanted more than a one night stand. Don't think that passing up those guys was a mistake, especially if they didn't want to get to know you as a person without getting the perks first. You just continue guarding what you have. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will appreciate it very much...with a wedding ring. <*)))><
177224
If you are ready to take the next step and you feel it's right then it's the right time. I'm getting married in November and i know it's the right thing to do. I love him and there is no point in waiting, i'm 25 and my family and friends enjoy his company which made it easier for me to make my decision. If you don't have to change your life to involve the other person but gradually include them, then it's good. Don't think that maybe someone/something better will come along and you might miss out, that's wrong.
61120
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing when its w/ the right person.  I can hardly wait to marry my fiance.  We live together now and its hard but great.  You have to work at it like everything else in life to make it wonderful.  You get out what you put into basically.
585956
I think it is time to Chirp or get off the branch.  My wife and I had been dating for a while, I really loved her but did not ask her to get married.  She finally gave me a date by which to chirp or to get off the branch.  I chirped and it has been the best thing I ever did.  We have been married for many years and are more in love today then ever.  I would openly discuss your concerns with him and then let him know that you need commitment by say June 30.  If he doesn't make the commitment, move on to someone that truly loves you and someone that will make that commitment.  Too often, we stick with someone that we know is not right for us and then the years go by.  After it is too late, we realize that life is passing us by and we are in a relationship that is going nowhere.  I think people need to list the things that they want in a relationship/mate and then if after a few months they do stack up, they need to move on.  People really don't change much with time--if it doesnt feel right at first it probably wont get any better with time.   Good Luck!
438375
If you are postponing proposing I'd say you aren't yet ready to take the step of getting married. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. It doesn't mean you don't love her. I imagine you do love her. You just aren't ready to take the step of getting engaged. If she's truly ready and you are not, then you need to talk about it. You may have to set her free if you don't think you'll be ready for a long, long time. You both need to be honest with each other about what you want out of this relationship and act accordingly.\n\nAlso, talk to God. Pour your heart out to Him. Ask Him if marriage with this woman is what He wants you to do with your life. Listen with all your heart and soul for His loving guidance. God Bless.
180480
That is entirely up to you and your partner! Personally, I am married because my hubby and I just wanted to make that commitment, that we 100% wanted to be with only each other for the rest of our lives. Just because we wanted to be does not give us or anyone else the right to stand in judgement and tell you that you have to. If you want to take that step, then by all means do! It's a beautiful feeling to say those words and know that your partner is saying them back to you. But if you feel in your heart that no vows or license is needed to complete your family, don't let society guilt you into doing it just because it's "the right thing to do". Either way, you are already blessed!
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
339857
My answer to you... don't do it.  Think about what you have with your fiance.  And think about your child.  Physical attraction always fades with time, but LOVE is forever.  It only grows with time.  What's your priority?