How does a woman that is in love with, a married man and he knows it, and do I get him to leave his wife?
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What makes you think that if he leaves his wife for you that he won't later leave you for someone else.\n\nMove on... find your own man.
1094690
I think I figured out what u are saying!\n\nI think you are a very good friend for trying to help your friend through this.  It sounds serious so she may need to go and talk to a counsellor about it.  The counsellor will help her and whatever is said will be confidential.\n\nIf the woman is married and the man is also married, its just asking for problems.  The best thing for her to do is to sit down and evaluate how important her marriage is to her and how important the other man is. \n\nIf she decides she dosnt want anything to do with the other man, then she should change her phone number and move away from him.  She should make it impossible for him to contact her.  It will be hard but she will have you for support and also a counsellor (if she chooses to talk to one).\n\nEither way, she needs to decide what she wants, she cant go on like this, its not only affecting her and making her depressed but its upsetting you too as her friend.\n\nDont tell her what to do, because its her life and she has to suffer the consequences.  Just try and be there for her and be her friend no matter what she decides.  \n\nI hope it all works out well in the end
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I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.
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hi.that's what a lot of married men say.if you love him,you should let him go.tell him you don't want to cause there marriage to brake up.you should say to him you don't want to see him anymore. stand back and see if he leaves his wife anyway.if he doesn't leave his wife,then you'll know he wasn't genuine about the things hes been saying.
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i dont really know what your situation is but if you really love him, i think you should keep trying. you should tell him that you are his wife and he needs to stop going back to that woman. i hope eveything works out for you.
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You'll have to be patient, she was married when you met her so you had to have expected the baggage.  But you're involved the way you are so just help her out if you can and stick with her and hope for the best. It's more complicated the way you're doing it but every situation is different.  If she wanted out of her marriage and started up another relationship make sure it wasn't just something to boost her ego or something before devoting your life to her though.
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In all honesty, if he planned to stop, i'd tell you to keep it a secret because you could ruin their marriage...but since he's gunna keep doing it, you have to come clean to his wife.  He's being disrespectful to her and he's being an idiot.  If he loved her, he wouldn't need anyone else and he's probably not even worth being with her...tell her the truth and let them sort it out
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Chances are slim, plus why would you want to see him and even think of a future with a married man? Women amaze me that we would even think of doing other women this way. Show some pride in yourself and walk away...K
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Agree with machelle. This is true love, from the wife -- unconditional, but probably also for the financial security, social acceptance, for the kids etc. All very good reasons to stick together. Plus probably a deep understanding of who he is. He won't leave her because that depth of guilt generates such a huge debt of gratitude. As long as he treats her with reasonable respect and dignity, she will stay, and as long as she is reasonably tolerant, he will stay.
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ok since the married man is your husband,,,,you should keep talking to him until he understands that you are serious and you 2 get an understanding,,\n            ,it seems he is a good guy, and his ego is not threatened,, he may let you without freaking out....you know him,,, think about it...you could lose him,,\n           ,i do not condone cheating,,,but i do know some women who have turned to other women because there husbands are impotent and will not seek help.\n               as far as the morals, etc,, you must judge that for yourself and be ready to deal with whatever consequences arise. whether from others, your husband, the woman,
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Almost never.  And besides, if he leaves his wife for you, what makes you think he won't do it to you (leave you for another)?  Not the best footing for a new relationship..
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If he is already separated from his wife, this is one thing.  However, if he is still married and has not yet filed for separation, this is a bad situation to be in.  I would get out of the situation and put some distance between yourself and him.\n\nHe needs to decide whether or not he wants to be married.  It's even worse if there are children involved.  These situations are difficult and, in a way, he could be using you to convince himself to get out.  In the worst case, he's just stringing you along so he can have his family and a mistress on the side.  He might consider this "the best of both worlds".\n\nConsider also that this married man is cheating on his wife with you.  So, what will happen if you marry him?\n\nIf, after this man has separated from his wife and has gotten things figured out, and you have not found someone else, then, and only then might it be worth rekindling the relationship.
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You have a girl friend who knows you love your wife? She knows what she got into. Leave your Girlfriend, Confess to your wife & face the consequences
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end it immediately! he's married and that means he loves the other woman and he's not faithful!
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Dodger, let me ask you what do you think this new woman will be like after you leave your wife? Will she actually be the woman you have always dreamed about? She is willing to see a married man so she is not a God fearing woman to be able to do that. If a woman will do this she isn't much of a woman. Now if she and you are not seeing each other that might be different but if she is willing to see you knowing full well you are married whether happy in the marriage or not...then give this more serious thought. Will she do the same to you when she grows tired of you and how do you know she is your soul mate if you two have not been together talking and showing affection? I would really wonder about a man or woman who would see someone who is married. Try spending the extra time your thinking about this soul mate and you just might be amazed what it can do for your marriage..
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Wow are you ready for my answer. It isn't gonna be short sorry but I think I can help you understand this a little better.\n\n Most of what I have to say is from being that way myself. My wife God Bless her has stood beside me through all the B.S. I did to her in the early part of our marriage. First let me start off by saying don't let him or any other man push you around. Now it is OK to let them have some control. Men need and expect that. They still want to be king, but we have to keep in mind a king is nothing without his Queen. A man will act that way when they know they have a great thing and are afraid they are going to lose it to some one better.  The reason he doesn't like you talking to other boys is one in the same. He knows they can offer things he can not. I agree with him to some extent. I want the attention of my wife. I don't want her giving it to some other man. But slowly I have worked on this and now things are better. I have had to make myself trust her because she has never showed me any sign that she has done wrong. \n As far as him calling you up out of the blue, it is because loneliness has gotten the better of him. He never did think you was a liar. he knows the truth. He has his own faults and expects you and every one else to be the same. Now the only thing left is to decide if you want him back in your life. We know what he is like so far and if he will change is yet to be seen. As I told some one else tonight its a matter of talking to him. If you are gonna give this another shot then sit him down and talk to him. Let him no how you feel and dont forget that both of you need to give and take. You have to give a little as well. A relationship is a two sided coin. I always told myself that I was not spose to change for anyone. Well I was wrong. Changing is all you get done in a relationship. You have to mold yourself around that other person and vise versa.\n\n Hope this helped......I really do. God Bless.
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I don't have to read anything to tell you that married men almost never leave their wives. it's a comfort zone and no matter what they say, they will stay with the wife. they got married for a reason, remember?