I am a married Christian women, i suspect/know  that my husband has committed adultery.(see Details)?
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If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
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I don't know, but he sounds like an awful man (thank goodness for you that you are mvoing on). It sounds like he could be charged for bigamy.
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If you hadn't said you haven't married for a long I would have probably known. I think you don't "know" your husband yet. I personally don't agree with such kind of behaviours but I think this unusual thing you see stems from somewhere else. This can be a "sign" to you which shows your husband has some sort of psycological problem which should be cured. You can eventually find the root of this if you continue your marrage. Time will show this to you and it cannot be hidden of course if you don't get divorced. Its your decision. If you continue your marrage and live with him you might as well be able to help him. If you just tell him not to do this action and even if he doesn't, you haven't solved anything, you have just covered the problem. But of course don't go up to him and say ' you have psycological problem' he might get upset !
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Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
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Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
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She needs to know what's going on.  If he's doing this, it's not going to stop there.  What he's doing is cheating, and it will eventually escalate to full blown adultery.  If they want a chance to fix this, and repair their marriage, they need to start now.  The child's parents should know what she's doing as well.
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Unfortunatly I have been having an affair. I know its wrong and I shouldn't be doing it but my husband just doesn't satisfy me in the bedroom. I've talked to him about it and he is just unwilling to change how things are done in the bedroom.
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I would be more concerned about why your Husband told you in the first place, could it not be that your Husband is lying, I am not saying he is, but you have to look at it from both sides, and try to rationalize everything, Men do sometimes lie about this type of thing, to make their partners jealous
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Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.\n \nYes it is a sin. You answered your son correctly.
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I am a female whose husband had an emotional affair.\nOne tiny white lie will lead to a road of destruction.\nI am currently trying to forgive him, but its not working so well. Any and all cheating is unforgettable. The true trust will be gone forever.
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Here is what I did.\n\nI stopped dwelling on his faults and took a good, honest look at my own. \n\nWhen I began to concentrate on how I could be a good wife regardless of his behavior, that entitled me to place HIS behavior in God's hands.\n\nWhoa. You should have seen how the Heavenly Father worked with him!\n\n1. Ask God to show you your faults.\n2. Ask Him to forgive you for them.\n3. Choose to change.\n4. Sit back and watch what happens.\n\nLike you, I really wanted my marriage to survive for many different reasons. It's obvious you have a wonderful heart for wanting to do the right thing, or you wouldn't even be asking this question.\n\nI faced this situation in 1980 and we are still happily .....most of the time :).....married.
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I would first confront him with it and then tell her I knew about the affair just to see what she would have to say about it. Trust is an important part of a marriage so if you don't have that you need to think about what you want out of life...............
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If you are a Christian talk with your pastor or a counselor about this... If she is still married it is considered adultery however but once she is divorced she may be free to marry again but i am not exactly sure.... Pray about it and ask God to give you wisdom concering this as well.... Why is seh divorcing her husband if i may ask? I know she definitley needs to be divorced before pursuing a new relationship however! Hope this helps
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This is DEFINITELY cheating.  He is witholding true and faithful committment from you.  I would confront him, insist on counseling, and set some ground rules until he has proven that he is once again worthy of your trust.  Good Luck!!!
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oh yeah - you are the christian mom that is attracted to other women and want to know if it is okay to cheat on your husband and have an affair with another woman!\n\nEveryone is scared to try new sexual things, cheating should not be done though. That is a violation of trust to your husband, vows that you said before God and to your daughters
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Yes.\nWhat is the affair you are talking about in your case?
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Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!