How do I know whether my wife loves me or not? She is in another country?
147383
Minimized contact ( communication)and make as if your interest on the relation is no longer as it use to be. If she love you she she will make all her weak ways to established contact to it full volume. secandly make as if you got in to trouble and make as if your hope in everything that would bring hope to the futur of your family is hopeless and keep backing your false action by worlds, finacial support etc. for a while her reaction will show you her realself. Good luck
801579
check the water first - see if she is receptive. The question is why is her boyfriend in another country? Potentially she doesn't have one and is using that as an excuse to not commit to a relationship with you. It better be one heck of a woman and you are contemplating long term committment - otherwise, Karma has a way of coming back and biting you right in the ol buttocks.
160934
As long as you guys are married no problem. If you cannot enter the US ask her to get married overseas and then file application either in the US consulate office in your country or when she comes back to the US.
36812
How long have you been married?  From a women's point view you def. need to talk with your wife, tell her your hopes and dreams for your marriage, let her know you still care and that you'll be there for her.  Why? Because you still love her.  But let her decide what she wants.  She said she needs time, give it to her, but don't lose touch with her.
782195
Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!
418910
Cut your losses and move on buddy.  Anyone who truely loves you wouldn't have to look anywhere else.  If she loved you whole heartedly, she would never even consider the possibility, or allow herself to become emotionally involved with another person.  She may love you, but not enough.  You deserve more.
416243
you already answered your question when you said you love her, i mean you love another girl and engaged to another woman ,may be thats not fair to her or you ,you should think about that ,even if she is from another religion but it doesnt mean she is from another planet.
228085
she should have noticed the wedding ring, if you are wearing it. hint at her how much you love your wife and that you feel its wrong to cheat on your mate.
688334
Well, shes not across the world (im in california shes in florida) its hard because theres alot of times where we would wanna b close and hold eachother kiss and all that good stuff, we havent seen eachother too (july im goin to visit u bet ur sweet ass im happy bout that lol) we've been together for about 5 months now and i love her more then anything else...communication and trust are big if your planning on having a long distant relationship, if you cant do that then it will just fall apart.. if you are happy with who your with and get over all the bump that WILL happen you'll find out it was all worth it....... but thats how i feel :-)
1095537
dont be so sure you've found "true love". what you've found is long-dormant emotions. you can leave your marrriage, chase your love to europe and it may not work out.\n\nfall back in love w yourself first, the rest will follow.
202784
Why don't you love your wife anymore, and how long have you been married? It seems like their is someone else in the picture & you are cheating on your wife. How long have you been married. Have it been 10 or more years? & Do you have kids? If so, you are a very selfish person with no heart because you are hurting ALL of them. Because you did not just fall out of love, you found a new toy!! You say you don't want to hurt her, but you are hurting her by cheating (if you are indeed cheating) and giving her love and attention to some home-wrecker who doesn't care about no one but herself. If you loved her before, i am a true believer you can grow to love her again. It looks like she love you? You both should talk & really get help and work hard on saving your marriage. Place your FAMILY FIRST, and spend time together and you will see the love again. Don't be selfish, ask GOD for strengh and patience and your marriage and family will not be a staticiaic. Somebody please place GOD & FAMILY FIRST. I feel you left out a lot of details so, feel free to e-mail me i welcome your response. GOD BLESS YOU
115414
Be pure luck and the grace of God, I think I have found my TRUE love after 2 marriges and a string of broken relationships.\nWe are both happier than either of us have ever been and she says she feels the same as I do.
61868
Well gee since your marriage is going so well I think you should stay wih her.\n\nI mean she is going to another country just to cheat on you.  This means she is either cheated on you  with everyone in America already or she wants to reduce the risk of you two running into each other after the affair.\n\nIf you don't love her anymore divorce her.
431909
Ask yourself if you really love her. Long distance relationships are really hard. If you can't keep it together because she is so far away, then end it. Love requires sacrifice
732641
The fact that she won't take money from you is encouraging - that may be her way of telling you that she doesn't plan on using you.  It sounds like she loves you, but the real question that you have to ask yourself is whether or not you'd be willing to live there.  How and where would you find a job?  Can you speak their language?  Would you be able to adapt to life in the Philippines?  If the relationship were ever to end, what would you do?  Could you ever come back to the US?  Would you become a citizen of the Philippines?  These are all questions that you should be asking yourself.  Be that as it may, she is clearly serious about you.  Good luck with whatever you decide.
925478
You need to ask her this, not us. Thats the only way to know for sure exactly what she is thinking.
26042
If you know your wife and are truly in love with her one kiss is all it will take.  From an unfortunate amount of experience, once she has been with someone else, even one time,  the differnece in the way the kiss feels is noticable.  Maybe not physically, but the difference is there.  Now proving that she cheated  is an entirely different story.