Why do people think that the only way to be intimate with someone is being sexual?
144858
Many people believe this because our society does not clearly educate us on what intimacy is and how it can exist in a non-sexual environment. It's like a voyeur peeking through a key hole. Sex is the part of the room that you see. Intimacy is the whole house. There's so much more to be explored in an intimate relationship.
1156128
umm...even i don't think that too many people engage in casual sex (unless you are a desperate teenager or a slut). jokes apart some just wanna be lebelled cool so maybe they lie about sleeping around.
394282
its a modern world, people are more free to do whatever they want now than ever before in history. the fact that people are  havin sex just means they wanted it all along, now they can get it.\n\ni agree though, sex shouldnt be the only thing a relationship is about.\n\nalso, the media plays a large role. i just did a paper on maxim magazine and its attitude towards women. i bascially concluded that they only appear in the magazine as sex objects.\n\nas for the "is there any decent girl left" part, sadly, the answer is pretty much no. especially in america, there are pretty much no physically attractive women with good personalities (men are also to blame for this).
1047791
It's perfectly okay. Touch and explore. It feels nice. It's all part of being a being on this earth. Some people have more desire than others to touch. As long as they are yours do whatever you like with them.
393160
there are many ways to be intimate and intercourse is just one.....
421520
I do not think so.  But they do seem to have more respect for themselves.\n\nIdeas about sex seem to fall into two separate concepts.  One one hand, sex is just a physical release for a biological urge.  People who believe this usually believe that "the more the merrier."  On the other hand are people who who believe that sex is a another form of personal expression.  These people would only have sex with someone who they have deep feelings for.  This includes, but is not limited to, those who believe in sex only after marriage.
171714
The word defines itself: Having sex with the one you love and is the one who loves you. It should please both of you phisically and mentally. For me it's the best way to enjoy your sexual life, because every time your physical feeling is taking you to heaven, your heart and soul are also soaked with the feeling of love and being loved. Making love is just the very emotional and delightful way to express love to each other.
775394
Maybe she/he didn't like the toothpaste you're using!\n\nOK, seriously. Kissing is very, very intimate. Considering how sex today has become so common and easy and in-your-face (people who don't love each other) that kissing has grown to be much more intimate, especailly when you truly mean it.\n\nSometimes a really proper kiss can be better than just having sex (which can be obtained anywhere: hookers, clubs, answering those adverts they have at porn-shops). Kissing can therefore be a way of pleasuring your mind and emotions which is also more important than pleasuring your groin (which can be done with a hand really).
19089
Some people don't hold sex in very high esteem, and think it is just a bit of fun. Why deny yourself a bit of (free!) fun?\nBy the time most people are mature enough to realise how special sex is, it is usually too late.
869396
I totally agree with you. It does not make any sense at all because when I talk to people and say something about people sleeping together everyone always assumes they had sex which was not what I meant at all. I think it just became a more polite way for adults in particular to say having sex because first of all they usually sleep together after the sex and second of all I think it became common when woman wanted to tell their friends about their aquintences and leave out all the details. It just a casual way to say having sex I guess.
196556
It's about the image that one has in his mind about sex. \nAnd everytimg related to this. A possible explination might be found in the childhood... and in most of the cases it involves a failed experience while intenting to aproach the other sex, to know the partner.\n\ntheese kind of womans really need to feel apreciated and a positive thing that might be done in this case is to intent to change their poit of view. After all doing sex is natural.
1010764
Lots of people say it's a "primal instinct"...as for the world being so sexually oriented... \n\nLet's just say "You'd be surprised"...
692012
Yea, they go together and should.  Sex is sacred and very personal.  \n\nBut people are capable of having sex without intimacy.  They do it just because they're in the moment or need the gratification without feeling love with the other person.  Also people can love eachother without having sex.  It can be a deep understanding and closeness that causes intimacy.  They care for one another.  Hopefully when they're married they'll be able to express that love through sex.
545971
Simple. It is sex, always sex, always will be sex. If you are lonely you can join a club, take classes do thousands of things where you are interacting with people. Most people here with "Am I in love" questions etc. Are not doing so to get rich. A girl will want be boned down by a pretty boy, or thuggish clod, even if he is as broke as the flea that rode in on the church mouse. People desire and crave falling in love because they are delusional and don't want to seem solely in it for the sex. But what do they do when the sex is bad? Flee the relationship. They don't desire physical contact in the form of wrestling or boxing. they want copulation. If there were no sex between men and women, 82% of the male/female couples you would never see.
619416
Some people are willing to receive but not give.Others are just uncomfortable with the whole concept.It is best to ask upfront if this is something you require with sex.Communication rocks!!! Peace.
583142
Most people like to watch and alot have a secret desire to be seen doing it also. Watching someone arouses a person alot more than simple making out.
948684
I think its because a part of them wants to have the experience and are curious. But being that so many people say its wrong they don't come out and say it up front. I have straight friends that want to try it with a girl but dont know how to go about it and still remain "straight."