What do you do when your boyfriend likes to put his friends first?
151217
Well, it all comes down to if you trust him or not. If you don't trust them, then that would be a problem. Since you say you think he would let one of his female friends kiss him then it sounds like there is some trust issues there. Have you told him about this and how it makes you feel? I am sure you have, but next time be a bit more firm about it. Tell him that if he wants to be with his friends more than you, then you are going to do the same thing and that you are tired of feeling like you are being placed behind them. Then, stick to it. Find some male only friends, or if you have them, hang out with them as much as you can..but whatever you do don't cheat. Just do what he is doing. A lot of times people can see things more clearly if the shoe is on the other foot. Good Luck.\n\nNo Decibel, it has nothing to do with making him jealous or mad. It has to do with this: If she has tried everything else (specifically addressing the problem to him) and he still fails to see what he is doing, which is making his own girlfriend uncomfortable, then maybe he can put it in better perspective if he had to deal with the same thing. Do you how hyper you got just from the thought of what I just wrote? This asker already goes through that daily with her boyfriend. It's ok for him to have friends that are girls but it is messed up for her to have guy friends? Oh please. Sometimes that is the only way guys can see how completely selfish they are being.
354993
When he puts you first. And he will do all he can to help you out when you need help or anything for that matter. He wants to hang out with you, and just make you happy. And when you do find out he loves you, keep him.
447047
tell him that you have a boyfriend and that you would love to be friends with him. but dont do it in a mean though
1144192
Maybe you should stay friends. Boyfriends come and go. Friendship is (or can be) forever. He sounds like a wonderful friend.
687650
Sounds like a great friend. Don't rush things, it's better to have a great friend than an ex-boyfriend. If he decides to change his way of thinking and date friends, I'm sure you will be the one he comes to. but for now just be happy you can spend time with him.
107059
No. My boyfriend have friends who are girls. I have male friends. We're cool like that.
565407
I think you did the right thing by letting your boyfriend know how you felt about it. If he wants to have a moocher friend over, fine, but let your boyfriend foot the bill. If your boyfriend has a problem with that and wants you to pay for his moocher friends, perhaps a new boyfriend would be in order. Good luck!
1111056
Forget what your friend says, You are the one who is going to be dating the guy, not her. It doesn't matter who came first. but more who fits the position better...like a job position hehehe....who are you more compatible with and who can you get along better...who are you more interested in....whatever makes you happy is really what you should focus on instead of which guy's feelings youll end up hurting
572442
It will only make things weird if he doesn't feel the same way after you've told him.  Do you think he could feel the same way? You need to find out whether you ask him upfront or ask his friends or mutual friends.  You need to find out first.  If he feels the same way, then I don't think there's anything wrong with giving it a try.  The best boyfriends are usually your friends first! The only downfall is if it doesn't work out (and it ends badly) it may not go back the way it used to be.  You need to decide if that's what you want and if he feels that way too.
887555
Have your boyfriend forward that forwarded message back to the girl friend. A few people may grow up a bit.
172389
Kick is butt to the curb.  It isn't much of a relationship if he is lying and making you look bad on purpose.  If a boyfriend doesn't respect you then he is just a boy and not your friend at all.
1022980
That is sweet, but I suggest 2 parties.  One when he gets in that consists of you alone(I am sure his missed a lot about being with you that he took for granted, it's probably mutual though, right?) and a second one with your friends and his friend, and family..
698663
Since he has admitted to you that he has slept over at his ex-girlfriend's house, and since he has not changed his yahoo profile (not even after you have reminded him)... I think you should wait till he changes the profile, and wait to see if he mentions not sleeping over at his ex-girlfriend's house anymore, before agreeing to be his new girlfriend.\n\n Also... if you feel it is best to wait till you meet him, before agreeing to be his girlfriend, then you should definitly continue to insist that it is the only way you will do it.\n\nYou and your wishes/needs are important... so, if he does not agree to do it the way you need him to do it, then it would mean that he is going to do what he wants to do, and that you do not matter to him enough, that he would fiulfill your important needs.\n\nIn successful, caring/loving relationships... the needs/wishes of a partner DO matter (ARE important)... because each partner is VERY important to the other partner.\n\nWhat it all comes down to is>>> if he really wants you to be his girlfriend... he obviously needs to first be your boy-"friend"...friends certainly do care about one another's needs/wishes.\n\nI think you are already dealing with the situation in a wise way... don't let him push you into making the decision of being his girlfriend, till YOU are ready to do it.\n\nIf you give in to him about it before you are ready, then he may expect you to give him his way about other things that are against your wishes... just remember>>> YOU MATTER.
526579
I would try to balance the two. Just remember, boyfriends come and go, friends are forever. No one should ask you to choose though. I always try to be fair on both sides. Nothing worse then when a friend ignores their friends to be totally with their boyfriend.
501918
If he's someone you're interested in, tell him you want to be friends first. Get to know him before making such a major commitment with him. Hec...tell him you want to try getting married before you pop out any kids. If he's really into commitment, (and you), he'll stick around.
760521
Sounds like he just wanted to hang out with a friend... and this would probably go over nicely with you if you liked his friends. People's friends reflect who they are. I think the issue here is, are you willing to accept your boyfriend, and his friends, the way they are? He has something in common with these friends and that is why they hang out together. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend with friends you truly liked? Don't pick a fight about this.. it is who he is. What is there to fight about? I'd take a long, good hard look at your companion and decide if he's offering you what you want.
1002434
you have a boyfriend and you want your so called friends approval? sorry i don't get it, if he's your boyfriend and there your mates how come they don't know him and have only seen a pic. my advise get new friends. i could never in a million years tell my friends that their  boyfriends weren't good looking even if that's what i thought, and i would never tell them that they could do better unless he was been horrible to her. true friends accept each others partners and even if your not that keen you pretend for their sakes. Also your the one who is with him not them and like i've said before looks are'nt everything.