why is it all the good men love barbies,if a woman is heavy,but has a good heart and pretty,she's left out?
140641
you are wrong. though it might be right that i don't have a mainstream taste, i hate barbie type girls, and I find bigger girls far more attractive. So, you need to give people a chance. people vary. mainstream doesn't, but don't let it bother you.
1141842
I understand totally. I have the same problem. Only the other way. I can't find a good man who appreciates a great woman.
584804
The world is has alot of haters and men will always love a skinny women before a thick one which sux for them,cause but doing that you can never find the good and beatiful qualities ever women has.
792931
i've recently asked myself the same question...i honestly think that men are incapable of looking the heart of a woman...so..the truth is..men could care less about women with curves...its all about the eye candy...sad but true
953383
We do it because some of us want to be perfect for the guy... and if you are like me, having been in some pretty bad relationships, some women never feel they are good enough for any man..
412271
This is tricky question.  I want to be sure of what I am answering.  My friends and I all agree that 10 pounds too heavy is better than ten pounds too light.  So we actually prefer a "real" woman complete with curves (love those curves ;) ).  If you are asking why men prefer a weight height proportionate woman to an obese woman that is a different question.  The truth is (this will shock you) that generally speaking thinner women are more self confident.  Large women carry a chip on thier shoulder and often do not believe they are attractive and so they are not.  Half of a woman's beauty is in her self confidence.  If she is confident it it shows and if she is not she will be an emotional burden.  Constantly reassuring someone that you love them when they see no reason to love themselves is an overwhelming thing.  \n\nNow as for the other half... the physical fact is, I suspect that some of the answer is biological, that is a thinner women appears to be a fitter candidate for bearing and nurturing children.  Part of it is certainly cultural.  Part of it is also the idea that if you pick a thin one they will live longer and thus you will have more time with them.  They have also proven that they have self control (please no flames, I know about thyroids and etc, but a lot of obese people simply eat too much of the wrong foods and do too little of the right physical activities, sorry it's the truth!) and thier ability to care for themselves hints that they will be able to care for thier significant other  and/or children.  \n\nIn short the most attractive thing to a man is health, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual and the care of the body can be used to an extent to judge the health of the individual.
656752
The good, canned answer is that someone should love you for what's on the inside, not on the outside.  \n\nThe reality is that some people are not turned on by people who are heavier.  Physical attraction will always be an important part of a good relationship.  On the other hand, some guys really like women with more curves--  \n\nYou need to ask yourself what type of guy are you really looking for?  If it is really meant to be, your weight should not play too much a factor.\n\nI used to be REALLY overweight, and found that I would get to know lots of guys, but they would instantly put me into the 'buddy' category, because of my physical appearance.  They just didn't have any interest in me physically.  I lost quite a bit of weight, and had an easier time as men would be attracted first, then get to know me.  \n\nAs long as you are happy with yourself, and confident that you look good and have a great personality, then you should find the perfect guy for you.   You sound like a pretty insightful, intelligent person... some guy is bound to notice that soon!
208617
I think that they are.  Guys who are fat is the norm for us (USA).  I mean I work with several HUGE men.  But I also work with a few HUGE women.  Who gets the most sh*t about being overweight?  The woman.  Most people think that a pretty girl is a skinny girl.  I'm overweight but not grossly so.  I hate feeling the ugly one when I happen to be standing next to a skinny girl and a guy checks her out and ignores me.  But hey I don't really hvae to worry about it.  I have a loving guy in my life who loves me for ME.
417289
This is what I love about the young...so judgmental and so lacking in compassion.\n\nYes, a heavy man can have sex appeal.  Some of the hunkiest men are the most obnoxious people when it comes to personality.  The young seem to think looks are everything...they are not.\n\nAlso, many men were once thin...age changes your body.  Many of you, who are so judgmental and so shallow, will lose your shape in years to come.  Your body doesn't last forever but the personality does.  \n\nIt isn't weight that provides the sex appeal, it is the personality and the way the person treats others.  Why do you think so many good looking men have women that you would consider unattractive?  It is because they learned that beauty is what's inside...not the wrappings.
445501
I am afraid that it is a two way road on that one. A lot of woman dont appreciate the good guys and a lot of men don't appreciate the good women I have had guys tell me how good and sweet I am and this and that and then they drop me like a hotcake. \n\nI see that problem with women and I wonder why the heck they dropped the guy like they did. \n\nI think everyone needs to grow up and appreciate what is good. Honestly. \n\nI know that there are lots of good guys out there and there are lots of good girls, it's just a matter of them meeting one another.
491233
A woman with small breast are considered to not be good enough to most men.\n\nSo a man with a small package is usually not good enough for a woman.
133831
well i use to think so but i guess not cause my boyfriend loves me and loves my body just because its apart of me! so if he really loves you it doesn't matter whats big, small, thin, or fat he will love all of you!!!There is not one woman that is perfect cause even the women who seem perfect dont like something about themselves!!!
303510
You nailed it right on the head. The women you are referring to want their handsome boy toy to play around with, and they get used and abused for years and years, then towards mid life, they decided that they want someone decent and loving. I reiterate what you just said, why should the good guy not have to settle for damaged goods, which they are,and with certainty, they will have psychological at the very least.It is quite refreshing to see someone like you call it like it is.
569222
i think your bf is an idiot, that or his father never taught him that it is whats inside that counts and not whats on the outside. beauty is only skin deep. my father taught all of us boys that it was the inner beauty of a woman that meant the most. even if you have put on weight on the out side your still the same person on the inside. there are alot of men in this world that loves women that have some size to them and are not skinny.
167418
Guys who only love women for their looks are downright shallow. Not all guys are like that. There are guys out there who actually are attracted to a great personality. They are rare gems indeed. Look out for these rare ones. The rest are just shallow.
174951
For me (and a lot of guys) it's all about proportions.\nThat said , there are a lot of men out there that say the fatter the better, these guys aside most (including myself) think like this:\n\nFor example, if a "fat gurl" as you put it, has no or small breasts then we probably not that interested.  In other words if her gut sticks out further than her breasts it's not good!\n\nIf however she has big breasts (ie curves in all the right places) then yeah we're probably interested.  I'm talking about real curvy women here, not huge women
195533
She may be the most beautiful women on the planet, but let me tell you, attitude is everything....and you can have all the looks in the world but still be ugly....what person would want to be with a "barbie" looking gal if she is rude and conceited? Maybe for awhile, but it's going to get old quick...