i really want things to work out with my girl friend but she says i jump to conclusions what should i do?
156301
Listen to her and trust her, and quit doing whatever it is your doing wrong in the relationship thats making you jump to conclusions.  Be careful not to accuse her of something your actually doing...Guilt will get the best of you....
1107888
I think you need to ask her the question. Let her know you love her, but you don't like feeling like your not good enough. Ask her if she thinks you should stay together or break up, and let her know the terms of what you need for the relationship to work.
485561
You can't make someone agree with you--maybe you two don't have anything in common.  Do you give her cause to think you're cheating?  If not, better to find someone else who doesn't have trust issues.
563838
The two of you need to sit down and just talk! Stay positive and don't get defensive. Open up about your feelings and listen to her as she conveys hers.\nFrom there you both need to agree to make an effort to make things better! Continue to talk to each other, stay positive and help eachother in any way you can.\nIt will turn around for you. Good luck!
433845
When it comes to True Love, there are no reasonable boundaries and logical reasoning dissolves like snow under a heat-lamp. I suggest you be there for her and cheer her up when she is down, ask her is she wants to be bffs', don't move like a slug, but don't rush her to the point where she is uncomfortable. Befriend her and be yourself. When she is hurt, lend her a should to cry on. And when she tells you she wants to move onto the next level of friendship (gf+bf), then you advance to the next space, but do be careful of drawback cards. Let her know that you would never spoil a secret of hers, or criticize her based on what she tells you. Most girls have deep dark secrets they want tell you, but they may be uninspired to take a leap of faith or scared and lonely. Try to understand the way she feels about things and be supportive of her decisions, but don't become a push-over.
345845
Tough to say but I think she really is afraid of comminting this time. It's a very weak analogy but its just like going for skydiving classes. She knows everything about skydiving and loves the idea of it but when it's time to jump she has reservations. I don't think it's her way of saying she's not interested. Why else woul she spend time with you? It probably has more to do with her. I'm guessing it has hurt her self-confidence especially with regards to "keeping a man" than it is about you. \nGive her time and space. If you really feel something for her a little bit of waiting shouldn't hurt. As well, don't tell her that she will never be hurt if she commits to a relationship with because personally i won't buy it (and she's probably heard that before). Instead assure her that you're not perfect yourself but you love her (or like her) enough that your willing to try. \n\nHope that helps and i hope it works out for you.
628381
be honest if shes your freind you should be able to tell them these things also tell her you would expect her to do the same and if you hadnt of said you were worried youd fall out and you didnt want that to happen . good luck .
516293
It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
728493
congrads... \n\njust make sure that u act like ur self... we hate when guys act different around their friends and then us... don't worry about the kissing thing (who said you have to kiss if you have a girlfriend lol jk) just make sure that u are always ur self and try never ever to yell at her.. she will dump you w/out a doubt. :) remember if you want things to work you must build a relationship and that takes time. be ready to talk things out and BE HONEST! if you tell her a little lie you will be more likely to tell a bigger lie. don't rush into anything physical because that will hurts your changes of working things out by talking. so remember be yourself, talk, and be honest.
403699
First of all, to the guy who said "get another girl..a slim one of course" you are mean, and didn't even address the question. Not everyone is as superficial as you are.\n\nNow, if you think she's cute, and are mostly dissapointed that you can't enjoy physical activities with her because she always finds excuses not to go, then I suggest that you kindly explain to her that its something you really enjoy, and something you want her to be a part of, and that you can take it slow if she wants. I think you're right about her being afarid she won't be able to keep up (thats how I'd feel) \n\nYou could also just stop by her house and ask her to take a walk with you, or take her to go swimming at a lake or something...activities that are romantic as well as counting as excersise. Once she is able to be comfortable around you in these sort of situations, she'll agree to them more and more, and most likely start to lose a bit of weight. \n\nAnd if she says she goes to the gym, why not suggest that the two of you go together? \n\nJust keep in mind that healthy weight loss takes a lot or work, pateince and time - and this applies to you as well as her. Be supportive and don't get impatient.\n\nSorry this was long, hope it helped.
663787
Ask her which is more important to her; the long-term or short-term results? Ask her to explain why the short-term is more beneficial and how? You really need to find out what her long-term goals are. If she doesn't know, then maybe this is not the right person for you. You sound like you are thinking in the right direction, so go with your gut instinct; it is there for a reason.
220475
you have to be there and intune for whats best for them. talk to her about it but dont push it. Once you have sat her down and explained it to her then its her turn to either turn her self around or screw up her relationship.
130057
My most dificult time is right now upon me ... since I don't know what to do ...\nI've been with my girlfried for a while but things don't go exactely as I think they should (and for some time I thought she and I shared the same conceptions about life and love). She spends more and more time with a friend of hers (also a girl) and she's beginning to borrow this other girl's habits and views, views which stain my (which I thought was our) ideal of love, turning into some daily cheap thing. Realizing this kinda hurts but I'm not sure if I am entitled to tell her what to do or just let her go on the path she seems to be choosing.
666770
It doesn't matter what we think, it matters what you think and how it makes you feel.  If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then you don't need other people to legitamize it for you.  You tell her how it makes you feel, and if she blows it off then you got to ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to be with--one that trivializes your feelings.  In a relationship you have every right to state your boundaries--with an understanding of how far you're willing to bend.  Relationships are compromise, and if either party isn't willing to understand and/or adapt to the other's needs then that's when relationships should end.
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
426917
You need to look at it in 2 streams of Thinking. The first stream is the words and actions that you both use to be in the relationship to develop it. You both have to interact with each other to form a communication that helps to develop a relationship. This is the core value of any relationship. The key that puts your relationship together is in essence the words you will use talk to your girlfriend, and intern how she will talk to you. The sounds that come out of both of your mouths are determining how your relationship is developing. This is a crucial understanding to getting to the bottom of answering your question. The words you use to talk to her should be questioned by you. Are you being responsible in how you talk to her and are you being responsible in questioning how her words enter your mind? Do you just react to things she says? Or do you Think first and make sure that what she is saying to you is based on what she is thinking at the moment. There is a movie playing in her mind at that time when her mouth is opening to talk to you, just like it is in your mind. Never take for granted that how you both behave or as to how you both use your body language is true. She could one day say to you that “I don’t want to talk”, you could intern react to this and say “Why, how will we ever fix this. I love you and I want to make this work”. Should you even say that? The point here is that what ever she is feeling at that moment in her life is based on feelings that are going on in her mind, her environment. What she rather here you says is that “OK, I understand, I will call you back later when it’s a good Time, I love you”. The difference between this way of reacting is that you are both making sure that you “understand” each other and treat each other as intelligent persons. Understanding of each other can only happen if you actually do it. Every word that is used by both of you is very powerful. “I hate you” can have a lasting impact on anyone. People are very fragile creatures and this fragility is all based on how we think the sounds of words are impacting us. How we create thoughts in our heads about how we presume a person is thinking about us. When we don’t understand the power of Thoughts is when we live like everyone else reacting to our egos, winning battles of words. We have a hard time figuring out how to communicate with each other’s way of thinking because we don’t take the time to understand what each persons needs are. We didn’t know that to speak you only have to move your mouth and not wait for the right set of emotional states to develop. This is very true when we can’t talk to our parents about personal issues. We don’t know how to approach them. And this is the very reason we have trouble working out relationships. We learned to act from other people’s way of thinking because we didn’t know any better.\n\nThe second stream is very basic in that when you have children and your child comes running through the door after school and tells you “Daddy, I learned what One plus One is, its Two!” How will you react? Will you say “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you” or should you be saying “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you! I want you to tell me why does one plus one equal Two. I want to know how you Think my son.”. If you understand how to work with relationships now with your girlfriend, it will benefit you as a father, both of you.
500267
Look her in the eye, be interested in HER and her answers, respect that there are things you may not agree on. That is okay....differences are good and keep it friendly. Don't raise your voice unless it is in excitement. If you think you will yell, say you need to leave the room for a moment to gain control and come back when you are able to talk w/o anger...she will think you are the greatest boyfriend she ever had!