Me and my stepmom fight ALOT how can i get on her good side?
152606
If you really want to get along with her, try showing her the same respect you'd like to receive from her.\n\nIf you are trying to get on her good side, just to get over on her, you are just going to make it harder for her to trust your sincerity later on. \n\nHave you thought how this is affecting your dad. He loves you and his wife. What's he supposed to do stuck in the middle.
174639
You can't really do much except let it roll off your back.  She's family and she'll get treated differently probably until she screws up.  As unfair as that is.  You can't say much because that'll make you the bad guy.  If it's really bothering you, you should look for another job.
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
653421
kill her and hide the body!!! LOL just kidding, it is hard, the best thing you can do is have your husband talk to his mom, other than that you are sol. it is a funky little sitch because if he is not ready to cut the strings and you push him he will hold it against you, stupid i know but that is how it is. if you say anything to the mom she can easily manipulate it to drive a wedge between you two. only move if you have to for a job or something, because the phone can easily still work no matter where you go. so have your hubby talk to her first, then maybe sit down as a family to work out some rules or something. good luck on this sticky wicket!
757051
Just stay out of it...she needs to get a grip. She is intimidated by you ....she knows the truth but just fails to live it. Move on you can do better. What goes around comes around. Don't waste too much time being mad at this.
468693
I'd say that the best thing to do is sit down all together and try to hash this thing out.  I went through a period of really not liking my stepdad when my mom got remarried, so its a normal reaction, particularly if she was close to her mom.  But the answer is no, do not divorce your husband immediately.  The best thing to do is to try and and figure out what you can do in order to make life at least tolerable for all three of you.  I realize that yes, step-children can be a pain, i know, i was one of them, but really, its possible to work it out.  You just need to sit down between the two of them and figure it out.  And if your step-daughter refuses to engage, just acknowledge how she feels, but tell her that you're not planning on going anywhere, so it would be best for both of you to make this work.
637497
I have a 27 year old stepdaughter with a 5 year old son. I met her father 3 years ago and have been married for about 1  1/2 years. She has been nothing but trouble for the past 3 years. She has said and done things that I would of never thought of doing to another person.  My husband's first wife (her mother) died of cancer and everyone of her family said she was treating me bad because she was grieving for her mother.  Well, I don't believe that one. I also lost my mother to cancer and I would of never dreamed of treating any one like she treats  me.  So from my point of view : you go your way with her dad and let her go her way. But don't kiss her azz, she needs to grow up and let her dad be happy with you. So what if she does not like you! I am sure you will survive without her liking you.
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
96026
Try having a conversation with (and yes i am serious) Mom. Just talk to her and find out why she calls him all the time, don't be rude or ugly, just talk to her and find out more about their relationship and what his childhood was like. Could be that there are some reasons for her overinvolvement and maybe she is just as anxious to help him become less dependent on her too. If nothing else you might be able to get to know her well enough to ask her as politely as you can to relax a little. You might learn that maybe Mom isn't the clinger  and the guy is and the two of you can work on him together, and if she likes you and thinks you respect her enough to come to her with your issue instead of running to him and complaining you will earn her respect and maybe even her blessing. And while that might not matter at all to you I can assure you that it does to him.
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Try to be kind and understand that she loves your dad and wants to live a happy life.  She can be a great ally.  Being a step-parent can be horrifically difficult, she must really love your Dad. Ask her advice from time to time and really listen.  That does not mean that you have to take the advice, just that you value hearing her opinion.  It can really open up the relationship.  Take it easy, no need to rush.  If you rush, it is easy to make a misstep and get hurt feelings that can harm the relationship.
410930
Dear Dear such a scene and how is it possible. You all fight because you all still are individuals who have  opinions. But you all are still friends because you all have good qualities to be Compatible, Adjustable and someone fun to get along with.\nFighting and still being friends assures the Fact that you both enjoy each other's Company a lot. So continue fighting because that is what helps both of you all to keeep the energy in the Relationship(Fight,talk, Patchup and Fight - a good clean cycle where you all pickup grudges and still come clean by forgiving each other for what has been done).\nSo try to keep up the True Spirit of Friendship that you now have.\nTry Dreaming and think how it would be if you did not have her in your life as your Best Friend(so much would be missing in your life and maybe hers too)
584924
You can try a small get-together or a family reunion or a family Picnic. When you meet your daughter, tell her about your revelations and dont say anything that might seem as though you may be pointing something in her. dont compare her with the other daughter with who you get along well (as that may unknowning to you be considered a threat to the her.) \nI advise this to my mom whenever I get a chance to talk to her. We are 3 sisters and she cant get through to the middle one but with me she is fine, and many times she unintentionally compares her to me. presently She has stopped doing that and her relation with my sis has improved. \nBest of luck though, be friends! they are pretty grown up with their own family and somewhere in their heatrs they look for a friend in  parents
489317
Honey she wanted this fight with you and the bf. She finally found that right nerve to hit with you. Now it is up to you just how much you love him and figure if this is the way you want the right of your life. She is never going to change if anything she will only get worse...C
116053
mostly in-laws are hard to get along with each other.  some reasons are both sides are so insecure with each other.  u are in the center.  dont take her side or your family side be in the middle.  did u ever talk to your mom if she knows any reason why your wife is treating them like that?  u can talk to your wife and tell her that your family is not comfortable that the way she treats them.  but dont be sound like you are taking your family side.  she might freak out and start an argument.  its really hard if your family get invloved with your marriage.  sometimes u feel like u need to choose between them.  but i'm pretty sure u both love your family and your wife.  u dont want to hurt any of them.  u have to talk to them.  u dont have to leave your wife u just need to talk to her about that problem.
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some times the best thing to do is just let her talk to whoever she feels comfortable talking to.  after she talks to her stepmom do her problems seem to be taken care of, or are they made worse?  maybe that should be your focus.  if she seems calmer after talking to her ex-stepmom why is there a problem.  if she seems worse after talking to her then maybe there is a problem.  your daughter is probably reaching out for someone who she thinks understands her and her situation in life.  maybe you should look at this woman as someone who could mentor your daughter instead of seeing her only as your ex husbands ex wife!!  all in all if it is good for your daughter then let it be.
882363
file an unruly on her , that way if any violence happens they will see that you are trying to get help for her. they will place her on probation, give her community service and send her to anger management. hopefully she'll learn that there are consequences for her actions and some sense of responsibility on how to deal with other people. if she goes out in the world with that attitude she is going to get hurt or wind up in jail for hurting someone else. you also may get some counseling established so they can find out why she has so much animosity towards you and you can gain control back in YOUR household. good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
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you need to bond with her why not offer to call a truce and invite her to got get pedicures & manicures - talk to her.  ask her to come to you if she has a problem with something you did instead of running to your father - tell her you like you have to always be defensive around her because you feel like anything you say she will turn against you and cause a fight with your father.