when should you ask for a commitment?
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When you are sure you never want to sleep with anyone else.
949289
.... needs to be committed."
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When you have to ask.
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One condition: when it's requested.\n\nExample: your question.
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Commitment is a natural evolution of any long-term, healthy relationship. It isn't given, it is gradually built on strong foundations made of trust and love.\n\nGetting too deep, too quick, is usually enough to scare many out of any kind of serious commitment. Contrary to popular belief, not only with men, but women too. \n\nTo be brutally honest with you, if all this fella wanted from you, was sex, the chances of him pledging anything, are extremely low.\n\nI wish you all the best in your quest for assuring love.
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Hey its not nice to be gready :)\n\nOn the serious note...I guess you 4 have been very close. And have the uniqueness that wows you. I think the thing you need to do is admit your feelings to them. Love isnt just 2 people...But a commitment is 2 people. The right man for you is not shy to tell you.
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well marriage is just a piece of paper after 4 yrs together you should know that he is  committed to you.   IF he is going to ask you to marry him it should something is wants to do and make a surprise  you don't want to him ask just because you are forcing him to.  i say go with him.
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Well, you didn't tell us how old you are so we have no idea if you're ready to settle down. Not that age would be an indicator that's set in stone but it usually gives context for your life experiences. Just go with the flow so that you see where you really stand on this issue.  If you're not ready to be seriously committed first, don't force it or you'll just end up hurting the both of you.
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Yes, it is called commitment.
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Depending on how serious the future is for your relationship and how much you are willing to compromise and give up of yourself in order to make it work. \nIf you just aren't ready then you cant force yourself to be and you have to be honest about that. Its hard enough when you are in a marriage to make those kinds of sacrifices so you should definitely look at how sound your relationship is first.\nSecondly, how important are his dreams and goals to you and are you on the same page about where you want the relationship to go.\nThere's also the possibility too, that you could be honest and say you would try it for a while and see if you still feel the same about the city in an allotted time-frame. Enough to give your self time to adjust and then reassess if the city is really right for you.
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how long have you known this person?  i'm assuming you're not in any sort of relationship with her.  i would wait until the both of you have established some sort of relationship.  but i think it's really very sweet if you told her that after some time, just not immediately or she may think you're being very desperate or stalkerish.  most all girls want to hear that sort of commitment though!
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commit yourself to keeping the promise
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When you are ready.  If you two are serious about each other, then go ahead.  Find the right time when you feel ready and she feels ready too.
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If you haven't committed yet... you're just friends.  Calling her your girlfriend is a term that implies a commitment but just using it doesn't make you committed.  Being committed is a choice that both parties need to make and agree to.  You could become a couple, but it is not something you float into or something that just happens as time goes by.  So if you want to make a commitment you should talk about it with her.  Good luck.
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It is not too much to ask...just be patient, it will happen when the time is right ;)
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Dating is less serious... like if you go out with someone... doesn't mean that you have any kind of commitment... it's just like maybe you go out to dinner with them...  a boyfreind/girlfreind there is a commitment, you belong to each other.  I think the difference is mainly the commitment...
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Stay polite, but don't hang around them if you don't want to.  You have the right to say no.  If they say they want to do something, say you have a previous commitment.  (Even if it's to yourself!)