Ladies did your guys obsesson with porn ruin your relationship? Describe and explain?
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nope it done tuin mine cuz i watch it with him
445557
First, you must believe that it is not about "you".  It is about him.  His pornography and masturbation have led him to compulsion and addictive behavior.  Pornography can destroy a person's ability to "make love". Some men try to tell their wives that the pornography is "priming" for a conclusion with them, but it is the priming that draws them back again and again, not the conclusion.  Some men say "all guys do it".  No they do not.  Especially when it gets to the point of addiction, and it is effecting the "real" relationship. I have always thought that if you have to hide what you are doing, then you must think it is wrong, or you feel guilty about doing it.  I think you have to treat it like any addiction, and get professional help.  First, the person has to admit there is a problem, and be willing to accept outside help.  Stop blaming yourself, and thinking you are not attractive and don't satisfy him.  It is not about you, it is about his "addiction".
755002
Yes - unfortunately, I have.\n\nI tend to get obsessed with women I can't have and I can't figure out how to back out of the situation gracefully. Unfortunately, this means that I end up getting embarrassed, and getting my feelings hurt.
1124126
Some people are prude, that's why you are getting no answers. I am a female. Yes to people I can't have (Male or female), or ones I have had in the past\nyes to more than 1 other person, porn is fine with me. Fantasize about places to do it, way to do it. \nI have a healthy imagination and sex life, and my man loves it. I know he thinks of other women---what man or woman hasn't?? \nIf you want to keep the spark, you have to be open, honest and willing to try different things.
891750
No.\n\nWould you let him watch porn?!?!\n\nAs bad or even worse.
834778
I do know where you are coming from,and i am not sure how long you have been with you`re fiancee.But having a sence of humour when you are dealing with men is some times best !I say 2 things ,one at least he is`nt doing anything with a another human behide you`re back and 2 it would be so more shocking if it was a channel for the opposite sex !\nIf it was me i would get him back in a wee matter ,but not going to far just see how he likes it ,take a real look at the next fit guy that walks pass both of you .When some hunk comes on telly just say "hes  alright" It just seem strange to us woman because we are not in to porn in any way ,but if you accept it ,and be cool he will love you more !If you want ,ask him why he likes it so much and may do things in your`re relation ship that you haven`t yet explored !But to be honest in life if you are`nt meant to do something it makes it more daring and naughty ,once you accept it and may even say can i watch one with you ,it will be come boring to him and he will stop ,as it is`nt naughty behide you`re back stuff ,and if he does big deal ,as you can please him for real !!!
815418
Odds are he is looking at internet porn. But don't worry...EVERYBODY looks at internet porn. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It just something guys do. Ignore it. (my wife just makes fun of me for doing it)
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I am sooo doing to date myself with these answers.  Of course, when I was watching porn regularly, I *was* dating my self.  So I guess it kind of works out, huh?\n\n1.  Insatiable II.  I can't help it, it was the first one I ever saw.\n2.  Exhibitionists.   Andrew Blake.  Nice girl/girl scenes.\n3.  Debbie Does Dallas.  Yeah, kind of a stock answer.\n4.  Anything with Traci Lords in it.  Yeah, she may have only been 15, but seriously, if anyone answering this has seen these besides me, did she LOOK like a minor?!\n5.  Sweet Young Foxes.  Every once in awhile, I'll still get the theme stuck in my head.  The middle aged guy customers at work give me the strangest looks when I start humming it. ;)\n\n\nOkay, apparently so far me and the asker are the only ones who actually *watch* porn.  Hmmm.
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I wouldn't like it to be honest. I'm not against porn, but I would be very upset if my husband was turned on by other chicks, especially if he went to a strip joint. I only agree to porn and stuff if they just look, but don't get turned on by that person. I am happy to look at porn together. Your wife needs to show you some respect! I would never do that to my husband. I wouldn't even get the urge to do something like that. Not if I'm in love.
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I hope you told him that it hurt your feelings. I think it is normal for guys to look at porn and naked pictures, but it is not ok to make a comment like that.\n\nMaybe you could look at them with him and ask him what about the picture turns him on. Then get him to tell you things about you that turn him on. You can get the focus off of the pics and where it should be....on you.
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If he is looking at it every day and for hours I would say he has an addiction.  If you ask him if he could go on the rest of his life without looking at it and he says no then he has a problem.  Basically porn doesn't help anyone...they believe it does but it doesn't.  Research and see how many marriages or relationships it has broken off.  You just asking this questions raises a red flag.  Best wishes.
576187
Sounds like a GREAT GUY! I've never seen porn but I have seen the effects it has on marriages, families and relationships. Porn is a disease that effect the mind..maybe your husband understands that and does NOT want to become a pervert..like some have
712391
Porn is not bad. Porn is good. You are the only guy that I ever heard of who thinks porn is bad. I'm glad I'm not married to you. You are a stick in the mud. You should be supporting her and enjoying it with her. EEERRRrrrrrrrrr!!! OMG!!!!\n\nxo
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I don't mind. My bf goes onto porn sites, but he doesn't ALL the time and he doesn't let it rule all his time when he's off work. He doesn't get too into it. I actually watch a little my self, sometimes. It just depends on the TYPE of porn he watches, as long as it doesn't get too wild and perverted, and he doesn't watch it all the time...I'm cool with it.
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What transpires in the mind, also transpires in the heart. If a married guy glances at another gal because she's attractive, there's nothing wrong with that. But if he ogles her and undress her with his eyes, then it's an issue.\n\nThere's a book titled: 'Pornography; an Affair of the Mind'. The author's husband got addicted to online porn.  The mind responds to certain stimuli; some good some bad. The key is to reinforce the good stimuli and avoid the bad.  Check out the book and read it with him.
1035300
I hate how a lot of men think all women are whores.\n\nI also hate how some men will still look at porn even when they are in a relationship with someone.
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Hun, i know what you are going through, I have been there done that and get this, i am not even married....my fiancee and i have been living together for almost a year now, engaged for almost 2 and yes, the sex drive has gone from 100 to 0...for him, not for me, it's still strong as ever. when i asked he always told me he was tired or just wanted to cuddle or something like that, so yeah, i know how you feel. i am sad to report however that he was hiding something from me....his addiction to porn....he'd rather look at pics and vids than be with me...pretty low huh? well anyways, we are still together and trying to work through the issues and yes things are looking up....so just hang in there and hopefully things will start to get better!