were friends but we've been having sex for 6 months is it time to make it official? and what if he's not ready
140074
If he's "not ready" then he is just interested in the sex and not a relationship.
721869
Hi Ann! It doesn't sound like he's ready for the commitment that you want and deserve. You seem like you appreciate straight-forward answers and you seem to have the courage to ask him. It's better to know than to wonder, regret later and carry anger, when you could of had that time for yourself or with Mr. Right. Good luck....and you deserve better!
837636
make it to a next step.. be friends with benifits... If he is busy.. then he will appreciate the sexual gifts from you.. sex releases stress.. and might bring you 2 closer...
1165132
Well if you really like him then you just tell him.  Just say that I would like to take this friendship to the next level like a date and see where it goes.  Don't have sex right away just take it slow and let it blossom.  I have been married to my friend for 9 years and tat is how we started..
676712
Just be firm but kind and get it over with. It appears he already knows or has a pretty good idea it's coming. The whole point of dating is to find the person you have the most simpatico with. Just don't use the line, "We can still be friends."
371149
I think you should just stay as friends and see what progresses from there.  If you and he were meant to be a couple, it will happen, but hopefully not for another few years!  In the meantime, have fun, talk about stuff, confide in each other and get a great friendship going.  You will always have that!
380107
You have to decide for yourself, can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life and are you sure that you arent jumping into the first thing that seems like a relationship without getting to know the person. sex shouldnt be an issue until you have become best friends with him. take it slowly that way you won't get hurt
916027
I did this once, and it changed everything.  We are still friendly, but not the friends we used to be.  Give him some time, and see what happens.  Most likely he just needs you to back off a little bit.  If it's just friends with benefits, sending notes about how wonderful he is is probably not a good idea.  Would you have sent something like that to him before the sex?  Probably not.  So don't do it now. Act the same way as you always have.  That was your agreement and you have to stick by it now.
1059959
hmm 2 questions at once ok. Well 1st off the sex ? it's a big deal when made a big deal. It when wanted brings to ppl together in a special way. There's bonding there. If you dont want to do it then dont. 2nd ? you asked no do not go along with that relationship you dont seem to care about him so why worry about it. Let it go just let him know that you 2 aren't together in any sort of way.
160882
say bye. if he not commit to you now, he will not be commit later.  He is in it for the sex.
862211
Yea I think you should, I don't know how old you are, but it seems that he might not be ready for a commitment. and if you ask a question if you should just move on, you most likely should. good luck
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
449651
YES!!!!  Call him but don't seem too desperate.  I guess only you two know if you gave it up easy or not.  There could be a long term potential but it has to be built on more than sex.  I say call, but don't be a stalker.  Lay the bait out ther and see if he will respond.  If he doesn't then you may want to walk away soon.  Sex confuses things.  Try to hang out one night without having sex.  That will tell you alot, because it will force him to talk.  Trust me, I've been there.. And without sex, talking is the only alternative- unless he bails, then you may have a lot of work on your hands.
401501
4 times! stop right there. It's obvious that hte two of you are not ready for a relationship or your just not compatable. Real love is never hard. Sure you have to work at it like everything but you do it cause you want to and it makes things so much easier. I think it's time for you guys to call it quites and that means as friends too, at least for a couple of months because you have to let your feelings die down. If say in 3 months you still want to talk and do that will tell you something.
978488
First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.
403450
Only you know if you are really ready, and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't. Sex can be wondeful, but if you have to guess if he is going to stick around, makes me think that perhaps you are not ready for the emotional consequences that could result in this encounter. If he really wants to be with you he will wait. If he doesn't then you know your answer.
288250
THERE IS A REASON HE DID NOT TELL YOU ANYTHING. SO RESPECT THAT AND WAIT FOR HIM TO COME AROUND. HE WILL TELL YOU WHEN HE FEELS IT IS THE RIGHT TIME.