do i only rebuild my self esteem from within?
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you can ask a therapist for help!
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yes you should. when you suppress what you feel, and not way to vent, your only hurting yourself. if you are scared, record yourself in a room and upload it online and see what people think. the most important thing though is how you feel about yourself. know who you are and then the confidence will shine through.
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start within yourself. love yourself first.
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Build up your self esteem.
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A note about "self-esteem":\n\nTo anyone who's ever felt they suffer from "low self-esteem", I simply ask, Have you ever had an orgasm?  If you have, what was your opinion of your "self-esteem" during the orgasm?  Chances are, you had no opinion because you weren't thinking about anything at that moment.  Your mind was not engaged.  \n\nYour opinion of yourself, your self-image..."self-esteem" are all in your mind.  Just as you've "made up" one opinion of yourself, you can make up another one.  You've just been conditioned to operate from one opinion.  When your mind is not engaged in "routine thoughts", you are free to experience life.  How you "experience" yourself during an orgasm is much different than when you "think" about yourself.\n\nSo, to those with low self-esteem, I would suggest you have more orgasms.  Be meditative when you do so.  As you begin to drop the mind, so to will your low self-esteem drop.\n\nAs for the tendencies of many "believers", they operate from a perspective, a "conditioning" that their way is "right" and everyone else's is wrong.  Then, many are taught to either convert the "non-believers" or attack them, usually in that order.  If they truly practiced "love", then they'd know that love does not conquer.  "Love" is unconditional.  That means love does not place any conditions on giving itself.  \n\nI wish you Peace.
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This is actually pretty common. A lot of people do this. It's not so much you're self-destructive, you're afraid of not meeting expectations. You need to be more in touch with yourself, see yourself as more than you do right now. Once you get that self-confidence up, you'll see you really do deserve a guy who worships you and adores you :)
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You need to resolve this conflict, don't hang on to the unfortunate events of past. Your experience in life makes you shy away from people.Look ahead and concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. You have had love and marriage and this is what will eventually help you heal. You need to develop some confidence and learn to love yourself. Don't distrust everyone, not all people are bad. Make friends and make efforts to socialize with people in a friendly manner. You will be surprised how people begin to like you. That will help you raise your self-esteem.\nLife is short, live it in the best possible manner, all you have to do is to make efforts towards a positive living.\nGod bless.
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Learn about yourself. We all have special gifts and talents that we can share with others. Celebrate yours. If you have flaws that you think you can change, take steps to change them. Choose to be ok with what you cannot change. \n\nEvery day, take little steps to appreciate being alive. Yesterday, I saw a pretty painted piece of wood, I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor and I had a tasty piece of bbq chicken. Look for your little joys.  Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Make it a point to go out and find people to be near. \n\nLove and be kind to yourself.
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Congratulations. You have enter the "man search of meaning" realm: Love/hate relationship with yourself and outside of yourself. You are your own worst critic, so maybe it is time to refocus. Start loving yourself instead of hating yourself. Stop judging yourself against everyone else. You must have a life before sharing a life. So focus on your life, who you are, what you want, and how to get it. But you already knew that, so the answer to your question is already within you.
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You should psych yourself by relaxing, giving yourself a "confidence boosting talk", you know, you can do this, you KNOW this, etc. and just walk into it with assurance. Good luck!
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yes there are women like you... lots of them... are you afraid of taking risks because you were hurt in the past? i know it might kinda hurt you again if you try to change but wounds wouldn't heal if you don't try to find solutions to your problems, yes, starting again is such a hassle but just try to think positive... don't just let yourself be bound by old memories... be strong... move on and face the world... God bless! :)
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This happens when people are neglected. Find something you like to do and make friends who are positive. Sometimes, even having friends through the internet gives you something to look forward to, and it can help boost your confidence and self-esteem and not make you feel like you want to run away. And of course, make a personality of your own, so that your family can notice you and appreciate your inner beauty! :)
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No. You need to humble yourself, don't think more than you are. Work at it, in no time you will be yourself. Leave everything in God's hand He knows what to do
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Yes.  You have to love yourself before you can fully love others.  If you don't, giving to them will deplete you and make you hate them as well as yourself.
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I'vent been answering any questions for a while... but I decided to answer your question coz I found it interesting.\n\nSelf esteem can be lost in two ways: professionally and socially.\n\nProfessionally, one loses their self esteem because of a failure that leads to embarrassment among coworkers, or because of lack of appreciation. This always happens when someone start their practical career or move to a new work place. You can overcome this problem by paying much attention to all the tiniest details in your new work place. You have to produce a perfect output because you will be in what they call the probation period. Usually mistakes are not acceptable during this period. However, if it happened and you put yourself in a situation where you was emabarrassed or lost self esteem, you have to recover as fast as possible not to look like a crybaby in other people's eyes.\nSocially, self esteem is something that you create. I mean that in normal cases people will treat you within the space yoiu offer them. Well, did you see the movie "the family stone"? That lady put herself in those dramatic situations and of course she must have lost her self confidence. I mean that all of us, all normal people, know what is right and what is wrong. Just do the right thing and believe me you will always retain yourself esteem.\nFinally, there is something that you have to remember: every person has got something that he is perfect at, and that no else can do it as perfect as he does it. Try to discover what you are really perfect at and do your best to invest in it. And remember, nobody is perfcet. All people make mistakes, even those who make advices - including me now - have got large proplems that they need advice about too. What I want to say is that every one is the best doctor for himself. Everyone knows himself more than anybody else does. You are your best doctor and best advisor. \n\nI hope I could help
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therapy NOW!\n\nand yes in time you will heal but first you need to face it and talk about it...time heals..but therapy speeds the process.
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NO!!! Those things are part of our self, who we really are- our "shadow" as some like to call it.  The things we most regret, are ashamed or wish never happened are just as important as those feelings/experiences of joy, love & true happiness.  You need to have balance.  You learn from these things, they have made you who you are today.  What dosen't kill us makes us stronger-it's cliche, but so true!!!  You are the sum of your parts, we are multi-faceted beings!!!