Are there people out there that can help men experiencing emotional and verbal abuse by their wive?
151127
If you think she will change and life is going to be better this time, after another apology check out codependents anonymous.  It's possible that both people need counseling.  If there is realistically no hope then you must leave to save yourself.  You deserve soneone nice and who respects you.
887980
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go.  Verbal abuse is ABUSE.  And sometimes worse than physical.  If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that.  There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse.  You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like  you.  Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect.  Don't you agree.
551740
Check with local organizations.  Here we have a battered women's shelter and an associated office.  Your local health department may have or know of what's out there. Two books that will provide insight into the issue are The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner and Patricia Evans' The Verbally Abusive Relationship.  I found those very helpful along with the course i took ($600+).
35419
yeah , try to be a male and chat with one ... that's how you will learn all the abusing words
827322
May I suggest your local Rape Crisis Center or Battered Women's Shelter in your local area.  What a blessing that would be.  Also, if you have a homeless shelter in your area, buy everyone good hats and gloves.  Jingle blessings!
1098054
You are being used and abused...drop this dog and find a real caring guy...
718919
Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
306383
i know how you feel.. this has happened to me... there is a hotline you can call to talk to someone heres the website http://www.rainn.org/counseling-centers/
179143
i know.. i was in desert storm.. i did the same thing for years and now get treatment for it..its called PTSD... look it up and i bet he is not so nice any more.. he can get free help at your local veterans office
988583
Well, this is kinda hard, but there is hope. I had a similar problem. I didn't used to know how to deal with my anger. I hid it and covered it and blew up at stupid times, until finally I did something I really regret. My gf hit me so I hit her back, and I went to jail. She could have left me, I deserved it, but she stuck by me. She helped me turn my life around and now we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy, 4 months old. we've been together for 5 years, married for 3, and it's great. But it wouldn't have been if I didn't go to counseling and get the help I needed (that took some time to realize too, over a year of meetings once a week for a few hours in group therapy), and if she wasn't strong enough emotionally to deal with it. We've proved our love over time, and we've never been happier. So stick in there IF he's willing to fix how he handles his emotions (anger is a motion, just like happiness or sadness, etc). The number one ingredient that has made the long term difference in all our problems/challenges, is having God at the center of our life. Without him, we both have been too weak at times, and would have fallen apart. With him, our love will never fail!
892475
go to counseling with or with out him all men are not like this he sounds very selfish and I know you are angry and want to strike out but believe me the verbal assault doesn't help at all. when it's to that point it is time to move on if counseling doesn't work. this is a terrible atmosphere to bring up your kids in and will affect them for life
1151338
get professional help. counselling.
327483
I have been the victim of both emotional and physical abuse. This was from my boyfriend at the time. I was choked, hit, threatened, and cheated on. I was called a whore if I wore makeup, I was left alone with a concussion so he could go out with friends (I was supposed to be woken up every two hours), I was lied to, I was called a b*tch so many times that it was like a nickname, I was ignored, my needs were ignored. I was taken advantage of physically, emotionally, and financially. It ended when HE left, because my identity had been so damaged that I no longer had a will to be happy. Since then, I learned that I had PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder as a result of the abuse. Treatment for that changed my life. Abuse of any kind never gets better. You cannot change anyone. If you are not in physical danger, then insist on counseling, because you are still in danger of losing YOU. If you are in physical danger get out NOW - abuse never gets better, it only escalates. Best of luck.
500399
I am so sorry to hear so. No one deserves to be abused no matter what. That is totally unacceptable!!! \nIt depends alot on the mans upbringing, they were raised to see their mothers abused and he was taught it was OK. And there are other types of men who think if a women is being loyal and submissive to their husbands that they are weak and have no self-worth. Let me tell you this, if you let a man abuse you once, he will keep doing it again and again, it's human nature.\nYou deserve to be with someone who will appreciate what and who you are. Someone to give you the respect you deserve and the love you dream of. Don't you EVER let anyone abuse you in anyway. You need to take are of yourself and love yourself.\nI wish you the best and I really do wish you find someone who deserves you and take care....
161830
You can't help them unless they want help.  It's impossible.  We have run into that problem in our life and honestly, it feels like we are banging our heads up against the wall for all the good we are doing.  When they reach rock bottom, then you can be there to pick up the pieces and try to put him/her back together again.  Sorry I have no better advice for you.
1129027
From what I have learned in life and volunteering at a Women's Resource Center is that humans will go to what they know/are comfortable with. Example:  if you were abused physically as a child, you will typically end up with physically abusive guys as you don't know what the signs of an abuser are. It is the only thing you have ever known, so it is what you are attracted to. I lived with this for many years. I married an abuser and was with him for 20 years (thank goodness it wasn't physical abuse, but the verbal abuse can be worse as the bruises do heal, but the emotional aspect doesn't heal so easily as it can take years to repair the damage of it). \n\nI think that you need to look at your past and see where this attraction of abuse comes from. Were you abused growing up (parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, or anyone else that may have done this to you)? Counseling may help you with this. You may need to go to a support group to help you learn what is and is not ok in a relationship, what the signs are to look for, etc (I have been thru them and they teach you a lot; call your local women's shelter to find out about these classes or if you have/get a counselor, ask him/her about them). While you are doing all of this, tho, do NOT get involved with another guy. You will need to change your ways of thinking and doing things, know what the red flags/warning signs are for an abusive guy, build up your self-esteem etc.\n\nI do wish you luck. There are a lot of guys out there that are NOT abusive (my fiance is one of these awesome guys), but you have to have good self esteem and know the warning signs before having one attracted to you and for you to be attracted to one (I am still having to teach my 36 year old sister all of this).
696018
I think your concerns are legitimate, and I think it's a good idea to consider carefully whether you want to let this abusive man back into your lives.  (I assume he abused you and the kids based on what you said.)  I think that people can change, but you should look for evidence that he is really serious about changing.  Enrolling himself in anger management classes or psychological counseling might be a good start.  Also, I think you have a right to be concerned about the timing of this "change of heart" and it sounds like you feel like he's using you, which sounds to me like a form of abuse.  I'd say, if you need help, get help from a battered women's shelter, an ecclesiastical leader, a counselor, or somebody else who can help you make a wise decision.  Remember to keep your kids in mind when you are making this decision -- think about what will be best for them.  God bless you.