how do you keep a good long-distance relationship?
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In my opinion, I would think that both of you would have to accept the concept of "long-distance relationships" to begin. If one is thinking "long-distance" and the other is thinking "he/she will come visit me" but he/she doesn't, then that will be a problem itself. Secondly, I believe you both have to want the relationship to work out bad enough to where the distance doesn't bother either of you. Again, if one is feeling incomplete because the other is not there, then maybe you two should spend more time getting to know each other. Lastly, communication is key. If you say you're going to visit him/her, DO IT. Don't come up with eXcuses as to why you couldn't make it. That will prove whether or not you want it (him/her/the relationship) bad enough. Sacrifices will have to be made, and if one or neither of you are up to the task, then what is the point in being in a long-distance relationship?\n\nHope that helped!
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You have to make the other person feel as if they are a part of your daily life AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, even if you haven't seen eachother in months. This means calling frequently and sending little surprise packages to eachother. Obviously if you're willing to go through the pain of being in a LDR, you must care a great deal for this person so you HAVE to put your all into it. When you call don't just talk about yourself or about trivial things...tell the person about things that reminded you of them that day...or how lucky you two are to have something so special that it's worth the heartache of being apart. Also, it really helps to think positively about the situation. Like, if you're upset about being apart (especially around these awful holidays) try not to think about it just being another day apart, but as another day closer to when you two will finally be together.
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The advantages of a long distance relationship are:\n\n1. To test your patience.\n2. To test your faith.\n3. To prove that you love.
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Yes! Long distance relationships CAN work out! It is A LOT of hard work. I don't know what country you are from and what the customs are there, so I don't know how relevant or plausible my advice will be.\n\nAlways tell her your true feelings. Let her know your worries. Don't forget to tell her how much she means to you, OFTEN!\n\nAlways treat each other with honesty, trust, understanding, respect, and be willing to compromise and to communicate thoughts and feelings openly. This is the basic foundation of a relationship that both people need to work on to make it work, especially for a long distance relationship.\n\nIf you've both been waiting for each other six years, I don't think there's much to worry about. Once you have earned the money, go back and see her. Tell her and show her how much she means to you. Talk about both of your futures.\n\nFight for your relationship, but also be realistic. Sometimes no matter how much both of you care about each other, there are other things that get in the way, such as time and physical distance. Long distance relationships can work, depending on how willing both people are to put hard work into the relationship.
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well actually there is. the good side about long distance relationship is you'll both get to trust each other more and that it would test how much you love each other. and the best part of it is when you get through this, its a never ending bond between you. as long as there is no sidelines while each one of you are away.\n\nthe bad news about long distance relationship is that it doesnt work for everyone. maybe for some but dont be so sure that he/she didnt make out with someone else. loneliness is one of the most devastating feeling that can destroy a good or even a perfect relationship.\n\nbeen there a couple of times. tried it 3 times with the same girl but still it didnt work. and i assure you we were really both inlove that time since we were still in highschool. if you total it up, we were loving each other for 10 years but the distance and loneliness killed our relationship. and mostly its my fault coz and i admit that. sorry.
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My husband & I lived apart for a while and may have to do so again soon.  \n\nWe tried the following:\nPhone calls\nEmails\nDedicating a song at a local radio station to the other\nSending "local" things to each other\nVisiting as often as possible\nSnail mail with cologne and perfume on it to remind each other\nMaking each other CD's to listen to\n\nWe always knew where the other was (but went out with friends, etc- jealousy was not an issue), and kept up on the "little details" that you miss so much of when you're away.  We even had Thanksgiving dinner (made the same homestyle box meal w/ turkey in it at the same time) over the phone. We would rent the same movies, watch them the same night, then talk about it after. \n\nGood luck, and hang in there if he's worth it.
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it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
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long distance relationship - it seldom works and succeed. but if both of you would give trust for each other, just be honest - then probably would. but distance is not the only reason why relationship failed, a lot of factors why it didnt work out.
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Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
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i think this question needs more details.  i do believe there are many devoted people who can keep a relationship together it is definitely dependent on how strong the bond between the 2 of you is.  it probably also depends on how long youve been together before you leave.  good luck to you and remember everything happens for a reason.  if youre meant to be together you relationship will withstand the distance, time and separation.
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Make the time that you do spend together special by making sure its quality time. Dont spend it watching TV. Instead talk and go out and do things together. Believe that you will end up seeing each other every day eventually and use that belief to keep your relationship goin forward.
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The key to maintaining a long distance relationship is constant communication. I know it may be expensive to phone him everyday so try other ways like email him, send him free e-cards to express a certain feeling (like "I miss you" or "Thinking of you"), for example. There are tons of free e-card websites. Hallmark.com is a great one, and you just have to register first which is free and then you can send as many e-cards as you want. Take advantage of holidays where he might be coming back down to visit his family or you go up there to visit him. If he really is into you and wants to make the relationship work, he will have no problem paying for 1/2 the ticket or cost to go up there and spend time with him, and vice versa if he wants to come down and spend time with you. I'm not going to lie to you, a long distance relationship is difficult and definitely involves more work than a regular one, but you CAN make it happen if you BOTH really want to. Good luck sweetie.
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Long distance relationships can work, contrary to popular belief.  My husband and I spent most of our courtship while far away from each other.  There are a few things that you HAVE to do in order for these types of relationships to work.\n\nFirst, you have to set boundaries and rules.  Express to your significant other about what they do when they're out and about that makes you uncomfortable.  Do you not like when he goes out with his single friends?  Do you hate it when he drinks too much?  Make sure that you are also making sacrifices if your significant other asks.  These relationships are always about give and take.\n\nSecond, you have to make time for each other.  Phone calls and letters work best when you're really far apart.  If it's possible, save your money and plan a trip to see him.  If that's not possible, I would try to talk on the phone at least twice a day.  Try to write letters daily as well.\n\nThird, you have to keep in mind that a relationship is what you put into it.  If you put in great things, you will get great things in return.  Good luck, and I hope that your relationship works out for the best.
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Poorly, and not for very long.\n\nSeriously, you have to have a LOT of communication. Regularly scheduled phone calls, and some random ones too. E-mails, chat and etc. Constant communication. Otherwise, the passion goes cold. \n\nIt's a lot of work to make a long distance relationship work.
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It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.
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Omg...there is so much to say about long distance relationships...I just got out of a long distance relationship about a month and a half ago, there are many many many things you should consider before pursuing a long distance relationship....we only lived about an hour and fifteen minutes away from eachother, but there will were soo many times when I Was having a bad day and just hearing his voice WAS NOT enough!!..you are going to want and need her by yourside at times when she can't be!...there will also be a lot of long, cold and lonely nights that you have no choice but to spend by yourself.I am not knocking long distance relationships, but you should really make sure you are ready for such a big step! you will have to be a strong willed person in order to make it work,because it is not easy! there will be times when you will see other couples together hand in hand, and wish it was you and her, or maybe a happy couple on T.V, but no matter what it is you will feel the pain of not being able to be with her as often as you would like especially when couples are all around you!.. but it isnt all bad though, sometimes it is very exciting! it also depends on how often you will be able to see eachother. we used to see eachother at LEAST every other weekend if not more, but it was still super hard and lonely when we werent together! my advice to you is that if deep down in your heart you really think that you guys can make it work, then go for it, and the wisest thing i can tell you is DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLES OPINIONS INFLUENCE YOUR DECISION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so many people will have something to say about it, and will tell you it wont work and try to discourage you, DONT get discouraged...One of things that  kept me and him together for so long is that we didnt care what the hell other people thought about what we were doing, and in this type of situation you need to do the same thing, or else its not going to work, because people can be VERY convincing sometimes, and you just might end up missing out on one of the best things in your life!
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A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP CAN WORK IF BOTH PEOPLE REALLY WANT  IT TO WORK OUT.BUT YOU NEED\nTO TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW SHE FEEL. BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET\nSO TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT GOING ON. THEN GO FROM\nTHERE. BUT IT CAN WORK IT SELF OUT.