Should I give him a card I bougt or just buy one?
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*Smiling lupinely* You are ALWAYS good enough to give a homemade present, including cards. The kind of person who would not appreciate the fact you took the time and effort to make something just for them is simply too shallow to be worth your bother in the 1st place.\n\nAs to what should be on the card, try to come up with a common interest the two of you share and use that as the theme.\n\nBarring that as most guys are not too into heavy sentiment, a simple "thank you for being you" and how happy they make you will suffice...
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Well now that depends on who it is from... \n\nIf it's from a close relative or friend, I would expect they know something about me that I like.. so a gift, even if it's from a dollar store, if it's a caring gesture, could mean more than diamonds.\n\nIf that nice thought is represented in a gift card so I can pick out what I want.. then it depends on what they THINK I like...a gift card to get my nails done for me is cool.. but if it's to Micky D's... then they have the WRONG picture of who I am, so giving a gift at all is inappropriate.\n\nCASH?... That's a hard one... that would during times of co-workers that took a collection that have no idea what you would want, or what you already have, but want to give you a bit of spending cash to further whatever the occasion is.. such as a housewarming.. or baby shower.. but it has to be given with the most thoughtful card or flowers to show that they cared enough to give a little something nice.. and the cash is a bonus.
700524
well you should get him something he's ganna use and remember....something that can last.!!!
570501
why dont u buy her a big box of candy?? im sure everyone likes candy!! and if u feel a gift card is too impersonal, im sure u can make a nice one with maybe some pics of u and her on diff occasions... whenever u have a budget in mind, its best to make the gift, rather than buy it-- that way the reciever knows u care and are not being cheap... so put in some effort and even if u have only enough money to buy giftwrap-- its got to have 'love in every stick' if u know what im sayin. =)
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First of all, it's going to be based on what you're willing to spend.\n\nsome people find it tacky, but i've always thought that gift cards are great, since it's like guilt free shopping knowing that you're spending someone else's cash, while at the same time spending on something you actually want as opposed to the nifty paperweight.\n\nAlong the same lines of thinking, you can get a gift certificate for the local coffee shop, take him out for lunch, chocolate, etc - everyone has to eat.\n\nIf you know his hobbies, you can go that way - golf?  Maybe pay for one of his green fees.  Movies? - a subscription to NetFlix or maybe Fandango.\n\nThe key would be not to think about what kind of nifty paperweight would be nice, but perhaps what would be practical.  this way, it doesn't really how much you spend, it will get used, and appreciated.
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just a card. unless you're really close to him.
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If you are going to give a gift card - make it a game for him to find it so that the gift IS personal.\n\nI made up computer generated "coupons" for all sorts of services (including adult content things) and left post-it notes all over the house telling him where to go next like a scavenger hunt...sometimes he got "favors", sometimes there were silly things like a Snickers bar or a bottle of wine...when he finally got to the end of the trip, he found the card inside a pair of underwear (that I was wearing) that said "both of these are for you"...\n\nIt was fun and he has asked me for a gift card again!!!
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The lesser the better. U get tempted to spend more when u have more number of cards. I would recommend two at the most - one of each type, like master card/ visa etc.
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tell them to get you gift cards so when you figure out what you want you can go and buy it yourself.
628993
O.K, what does he like... take him out and tell him something like AWWWW that looks like so much fun or something and if he agrees, buy him that thing later on...I am not sure that it will work though, sorry..STICK TO YOUR GUT AND BUY HIM WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT.
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Heck NO, it is great. The card is his way of not saying out loud that he cares very much that you are his brother and he wants you to know that he loves you in that way. Be thankful he did, so many forget to tell each other every day, that when it does happen they immediately think it is weird.
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Wow, that's tough... and I haven't looked at your other ones yet.\n\nYou're right for not backing down.  If he wants to get the COOL one, he can GET the COOL one.... in absolutely no less than one year.  The fact that you agreed to a similar, age-appropriate toy should be enough to sate him, but it sounds like he's just being a butt.\nUnfortunately, the only thing I can tell you about situations like THE CARD, is that it's best to remind yourself that you're not the a$$hole, and if he wants to play these games, that's his choice.  I wish I could give you some communication tips, but without having seen it all, I can't really stick my nose in the middle of it, you know?  \nThe fact is, he is WRONG, and it really sounds like he needs to learn to see his faults and take some ownership.  Another bad thing about it is that all that is TOTALLY on him, and there is nothing that you can say or do to make him own up to THAT simple fact unless he is willing to see it HIMSELF.\nYou know what I think?  I say LET him get the card, and YOU go buy the 12-36mo Power Wheels.  That is, if you want to be a little vindictive.  If you'd like to appear MORE MATURE about it, you may opt for a couple REALLY COOL (electronic) educational toys.  I think I'd go that route for a 1yo, anyway.
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its up to you, what do you think he would like.  if you give him money, give him what ammount that you think that is apporiate
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I would get them a "token" something, yes. He will see that you did, and appreciate it. He might not get your son something, but no matter, I think you should get his kids something...just don't go "overboard".
499901
if she gives you a present, then send her one too. but if she doesnt, a birthday card will do
759723
If you don't care too much about being sentimental, I'd say it's always safe to go for a Best Buy giftcard or something along those lines, then he can pick out whatever he wants and you won't have to worry if he really likes it or not.
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um yeah give him a card.  chances are if you're not together on V-day you shouldn't sweat it because guys are idiots and he won't think to get you anything.