Do you think there is such a thing as being too young for marriage?
151682
Yes, and anyone who has to ask that question is too young to be married. Marriage takes a great deal of very hard work and I'll tip you off to a secret no one tells you before you're married.... Some days the hardest thing in the world is simply not to walk away, to stay and just trust that it will get better. There will be days that you can't remember why you ever even went on a date with this person, let alone agreed to commit to a lifetime with them.\nIf you cannot imagine a day where you don't want your partner anywhere on the same planet, you are not mature enough to get married.
875435
I would not advise getting married. You are too young to be debating marriage. Don't rush into marriage. Marriage is more than "I Love You".
791920
Kids these days want to grow up too fast without taking into account the consequences of supporting a family at an age where they aren't legally allowed to have a job due to their age. Your personal preferences of marriage should be respected by your fellow peers. If they have a problem with it, then don't let what they say about you spoil your mood for anything. I'm 22 not married, and also don't plan to for a LONG TIME.... \n\nAnyhow, um, if you are from a community where post-25 marriage is looked down upon, then make a stand and tell them that it's just not the time for you.
27885
All I have to offer is experience...28 years of being married to the same guy. I got married at 20, had my first child at 23 and second child at 26. It really depends on the couple. Marriage, like parenting, is very hard, emotional work. If you're not up to the emotional part, stay single. I know people who got married younger than I and are still married. They worked through lots of hard stuff, but always stuck together. It's called commitment. Staying together through all the tough stuff...even adultery (eveything is forgiveable). You really have to think through why you want to get married, no matter how old you are. It's all about maturity and commitment. I told my husband to make sure this is what he wanted because I didn't believe in divorce...only murder!! So, if you're asking if it's ok to get married at a young age, I think you need to think long and hard about why, and talk about it long and hard with your sweetheart. If you've both considered all the good and bad, plus talked with a pastor, and your parents, then think about this information carefully. If it's something you're both committed to do for the rest of your lives, do it. Don't be another divorce statistic. <*)))><
483978
Is 18 to young to get engaged, i don't think so . have fun with that part.But is 20 to young to get married? well for some people it might be,there are some that get married at that age and are still together and thy were in love and they took that person for better or worse till death do them apart, but there are some out there that should never get MARRIED out there ,they don't no what it really means. And if your worry about missing out on life,you sure don't need to get married. i waited till i was 28 till i got married and that's when life began.
561912
i'm 23, we are still so young, and i think if you don't know for sure, then it's a definite no. i'm finally discovering things about myself and absolutely know that i can't marry right now because that scares me too. \n\nwhen you are ready, getting married and being tied down to a family shouldn't make you sick to your stomach; it should make you excited and happy. so it's not right for now. listen to your gut.\n\ngod bless
325932
Yes it is possible and I speak from experience and knowledge!  I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool.  I was just about to turn 15 but not quite so I was 14 really.  EVERYONE said it wasnt real love, everyone said it would never last, my mother wanted to throw minute rice at the wedding cuz she said thats how long the marriage would last!  NOONE thought it would ever ever last!  We have been together 22 years now and happily married!  It only gets better with each passing year!  he is my best friend as well as my husband!  YES YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE AT 15!  Just remember to get your education at the same time!  Take things slow and never ever let a guy pressure u into doing something u do not want to do!  Always be true to yourself!  Good luck sweetheart!
973066
I got in a marital sitiation at seventeen years old.I am now 25.I now have two children.I sometimes do regret starting out so young.Only because their were things in life that i didn't yet get to accomplish.I call them "self accomplishments"I am very greatful though that i have my son's.They are the world to me.I do believe that things happen for a reason.I still plan on working on my dreams and goals.Marriage is a lot of responsibility.No matter how old you are.You can get married at 30 and still regret it.Or you can wait and regret not getting married young.It all depends on the person.I believe that as long as a person accomplishes their goals and is truly happy with themselves they can live in a marrage happy.I realize that i don't regret being married,i only regret not preserving my youth.Being young is a preacious thing and once its past you can't go back.
581339
In my opinion marriage is the best thing for you.  Too many people hold off marriage because they feel they are "Too young" only to end up with a child out of wedlock.  If you have a good strong relationship get married as soon as possible.  Marriage will not change your future plans and career if you don't let it.
619803
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.
202993
Say no. your too young for marriage. go out and enjoy life first, you'll have plenty of time to settle down.
1163036
I keep passing on Dear Abby's advice, but people keep asking this same question.  No one should get married until they are financially and emotionally able to support themselves.  Neither one of the people is old enough to do that, so no they shouldn't get married.
586384
I think that you are way too young to make a life decision like marriage. Despite what is shown on television and what celebrities do, marriage is supposed to be a life commitment. Do you feel that you can commit your life to someone at such a young age? Do you want to go to college, Does she want to go to college? How would this effect your relationship? Have you sat down and REALLY discussed the ramifications of getting married. Where would you live afterwords (with your parents?), how could you afford living together, etc.  It might suit both of you to speak to a third party, like a pastor or even a counselor before taking the plunge. You sound like a nice person, but remember the old saying (and Elvis song), Only fools Rush In
395458
i would say it could be out of curiousity..teenagers tend to think that marriage is easy and that it's something that they could just play with when in fact, it's not! they sometimes think that it's one way of escaping from the problem that they are currently facing..
402807
i would marry an older man, but im only 24, and the thought of marrying someone who is 50 is a little weird. that might be a little too old. although the EXPERIENCE is intriguing....
217392
i don't think it has anything to do with age i think it has to do with maturity level. if you are ready and mature enough at 18 and know what you are getting into and want to do it i say go for it. because it doesn't matter what the age its how mature you are. because i know several younger people who have gotten married and the more mature ones made it out fine but the ones who weren't quite ready only lasted a year or two, if that. although if you are not ready and don't know what to expect i would say wait.
925141
Under the right circumstance, the age part would be okay.  But since you are asking, it sounds like you are not sure, and that is definitely not a time to get married!  At 18 and 20, probably neither of you are able to support a household.  If a baby came along, how would you manage?  \n\nIf you love each other, respect each other enough to do this right.  Both of you should get an education first, or at least be well on your way in a career that has a future.  You will know in your heart when the time is right.