My good friend just passed away and i am having trouble dealing with it. What should i do?
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First understand that your life must and will go on.  It's natural to keep your friend in your thoughts all the time, even talk to him or her, it'll make you feel better.  Think about the good times you've had with your friend.
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spend as much time with him as you can before he passes, you will appreciate that later....after grief however you please and get on with you life instead of dwelling on his death...more than likely it is what he would want and im sure he'd be proud of you
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Bake him cupcakes...be nicer than usual but not to where its abnormal. Greiving people need a sense of familiarity. I know because I lost my mother three months before hurricane hit and destroyed my home, city, and school. The changes and lack of familiarity to where I was and the friends I wouldn't see for months made coping with my mother's death unbearable. Coping is easier when you continue with life as it was and seeing familliar friends, and that's what you are to him. Be there for him, encourage group activities with your best friend, he and some of his friends to distract him. When you lose someone that close to you, they are on your mind constantly for quite some time, so you and and your friends should be coming up with fun ways to distract him. As a grieving son, he will be so thankful that he had friends to help him get through the hard times.
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
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Tell him: "I am really sorry four your loss (insert name here). Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or your family in your time of need, or if you just need a friend right now." This is kind, and formal, yet personal, and shows you truly care for your friend, and feel for his loss.
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Thats got to be so hard for you. dealing with death is just never easy.  there is a grieving process you go through naturally but there is no easy answer to your ?,  have you talked to someone?  support groups are really helpful, talking to your pastor or other religious persons,  therapy,  other classmates.  Im so sorry for your loss,  I know how you feel.  Time does ease the pain but you never forget,  and someday in heaven you will see them again.  Know he is in a better place now and comforted.  No longer feeling pain and he is happy and content and enjoying exploring his new surroundings.  Talk to him/her,  he can hear you.  he is now watching over you.
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Im sorry for your loss.  Be there for them by listening to what they have to say, crying with them and remembering memories and good times that you have had.  You of course are going to lose it at some point and do not try not to.  That's really all you can do at this point.  Pray wtih them also.  You will get thru this.
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Be there for her.  Let her talk and talk and talk.  But don't force it.  If you know any of her anniversaries (eg. this time last year mom and I went on hols, this would've been mums birthday, etc.) then mention them to her.  These are hard days and she'll be comforted that you remembered and realise how tough it is for her.  As time passes her pain will lessen and she'll really appreciate your friendship.\n\nMy mum died and even tho she's no longer with me she's still a big influence in my life.  Your friends mum will always be with her too.\n\nEveryone needs a friend at times like this.  Thank you for looking after your friend.
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
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Live a life that is worthy of him being your friend!\n\nNo easy way to get over a loss, but I am sure he would be glad to know he is missed!\n\nHE would not want you to be crippled by this though, so by living a life of honor, people will reflect that to the friends he had. People associate you to the people you are friends with so be a great person and honor his memory!
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I feel bad for you.  I'm so sorry that you have lost someone in your life that sounds like a soul mate.  I hope you will always be friends with this person even if you are not "in love with each other or anything like that."  I would not accept loosing this person in my life if I was you.  Not with computers and pen and paper and phones.  I would talk to my Mom about it and I would contact him and tell him how you feel, that he is important to you and that you would like to remain friends even 3000 miles apart.  Good friends are worth the effort.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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you just really need totalk to someone. i lost a frien to suicide unfortunately i was in the room when it happened. i know how hard it is. i also had to attend 23 funerals in 10 months jst a few years ago between friends and family i wasn't surei wold make it either i really felt like my world was caving in on me. the thing that got me throgh it was my husband he always talked me through things, to this day he still makes sure i don't forget thememories of those friends and family members. one other thing i did was write letters to the people i was closest to especially my mom when i was feeling as you are now. i've read them at later times some i just keep in a box. good luck and please talk to someone!
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Honey, I feel for you.  My mom passed away suddenly 13 years ago.  First thing you've got to do is of course get thru the visitation and funeral.  Give yourself some time to come to grips with this.  I highly recommend that you seek out some sort of grief counseling.  My dad, sister, and I did this about 6 weeks after my mom died, and it really helped alot.  It's up to you whether you choose individual counseling or group, but make sure to do one or the other.  It'll really help you out.  Also, find people to talk to, the more you talk, the better you will be able to work thru all this.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  God Bless You.
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Listen, be there for him. I just lost my dad, and the best thing for me is to keep busy. Try to get him back into his routines. Too much time on your hands makes you think too much, although he does have to grieve in his own way.  It would be nice for him to have some of his friends visit or call. Just make sure he doesn't withdraw too much. You sound like a good friend. I hope this helps.
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The worst thing that happened to me is when my husband passed away on our daughter's birthday. I have to say that is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with and I will never understand why it happened in the first place. \n\nJust remember that whenever you are going through a hard time, there have been other people that have been through it as well and it's probably best to talk to someone about it.
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Only thing that I can tell you is take it one day at a time. I just lost someone too so I know the feeling. I can't say it's going to get better but it will get easier. It is OK to cry and know that the one that you lost is still with you even in death and they are also watching over you. Cat it will be OK in do time just ask God to take away the pain and then you will see that you will start to feel better one day at a time. God Bless You and I'm sorry for your lost.