He does something wrong and turns the fight around and some how i caused it.  How do i keep him on track?
144784
He knows he's putting the shoe on the opposite foot. People love to look at the others faults when they get into trouble to get the attention off of what they did. Just look him dead in the eye and say......this is about you now...stay focused!
901837
Why did he let you get that far out of control?  If I knew my wife was taking pills that might impact her ability to control herself when drinking, I certainly would have stopped her from getting trashed.  Then you get high on top of it all.  Man, there are some serious issues here beyond an apology.  As you grabbed that glass, or picked up that joint, or snorted that line, you yourself caused this.  If this how you both want life to continue, then sure just stop talking about it and move on, becasue then it will likely happen again and again.  However, if you are really sorry, and you really care about yourself and your husband, maybe it is time to take a close look at your life and decide if these kinds of activities are what you should be doing.  Don't buy the liquor, or the drugs or go to the parties that have them.  You control what goes into your body, no one else.
1158430
Your man sounds like a bit of a bully. You sound like you have already started to blame yourself for his behaviour. Well hey, guess what, ITS NOT YOUR FAULT.  He has no right to treat you so bad. YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. Do not let him continue to bully you. Talk to him, he maybe feels insecure. Ask him to get help. If he is not prepared to try and change his attitude towards you then walk away. You deserve to be treated better.
1013588
You should just ignor him don't drop what your doing and isolate yourself.  Ignor him.  If you can't concentrate just leave without saying a word.  If you listen it will bother you and make you want to yell back.  If you yell back he will be even more upset and that may lead to and awful fight.  Just tune him out.  I know my dad was a mean old man and blamed everything on me even though I was his little princess.  I tune him out and go about my business.
189175
Ask him questions and let him be the boss. Do whatever possible,to not get hurt. Whatever you do, don't make him angry.  For more advice, type doctor phil into your browser. Also try John Grey.
1081130
Relax!  Just because he did something in the past that was a mistake doesn't mean he is going to do it to you.  He was honest with you and explained it to you - you don't have a reason to worry.
1132455
refer him to counseling.  other than that make sure he knows that he is not at fault and just listen when he needs to talk.
403751
thts bad, i'd say tell him firmly that if he doesnt stop,his privileges will be curtailed.Spanking or hitting him will only make him more stubborn.
1181014
well, the fact that he yells and loses his temper is wrong.  But he also has trust issues with you and you have to find out why.  Simply try to approach him at a time when both of you are calm and say something like "Dad, sometimes i get so angry  and frustrated with you cause i feel like you don't trust me when you don't let me do things that I want to do.  What is the reason that you don't let me do things and I would appreciate you not losing your temper".  if he continues to lose his temper, continue to tell him that you don't appreciate it in the calmest manner that you possibly can.  Keep saying it and eventually, he'll get the point.  Right now, he's losing his temper because he thinks that's establishing authority.  It doesn't but he doesn't realize it.
996208
no sounds like hes strict and wants you to try to put an effort of not making that many mistakes in differant things you do just sit down and talk to him about it
306934
when he throws the its over card he is trying to control the situation and you.  you need to tell him to stop the threats or you are going to end it your self he wants leverage and that is what he gets when he threatens you, you get scared or worried that he may end it and its just a mind game if he was going to leave you than he would have already done it but its not a healthy relationship if that is what he does every time you argue its like a 2 yr old who doesn't get his way and threatens to hold his breath until he dies so he can get his way its childish and immature there are plenty of other guys out there so don't stress over one childish boy
925118
If a girl can beat me in shooting then she is a keeper.  Tear him apart but don't do the thing where you say you are just lucky that is annoying.  Play with him and make fun of him.  If he has a sense of humor like that.  Otherwise mess up on the first couple really badly and then let him help you out and say you learned from the best.
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just talk to him about what makes you mad...my boyfriend does the same things, and when i tell him something i don't like, he stops, or if he does it by accident, he's really sweet about it and makes up for it...also, if he's pissing you off, make sure he knows it at that time, cuz if he doesn't, he'll keep doing whatever he is doing wrong...make sure he knows you really want it to work, and you'll do whatever you can
969458
Look, if both you and his girlfriend have tried to talk him out of fighting and have explained that you have no desire to fight, then all you can do is just drop it.  There is no need in trying to fight him to prove to him that he is stupid, because he will just try to fight again.  He may call you a coward, but is it really cowardice to try be the better man?  Integrity is the most important thing to have in this world, if you give that up for a stupid reason then you will have a hard time getting it back.  So the best advice I can give is, if he won't try to be reasonable, then just don't deal with him anymore, don't worry about it.\n\n"If we give up who we are to prove something is stupid, then all we have become is stupid".  Just think about that.
61492
Just tell him the truth.  I think the best way to do this is start off with a talk.  You tell him how you fell and he will tell you how he fells.  Please don't jump the gun.
418918
He may be accepting responsibility for what has transpired but it's you're relationship to. If he continues acting the way he is cut him lose.
108281
He is the leader, follow him. Ultimately it is in his interests to get the results.. since you have made your point, let him go ahead with the plan. he ll realise his mistake sooner.. at least leadership is better than lawlessness. besides, if it affects you, try influencing others in your team so that you gain support for your cause. or if it is real serious, call it quits.