any suggestions on marriage counceling?
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Been there...don’t let the situation fester. You should go alone and work on your issues first(we all have them). You can not make her, or anyone, do something they don’t want to do. She will see that you are serious, making an effort and a commitment. You will learn how to ask her in a way that she would be willing to start going. Be a leader and take the 1st step. Besides it may take a few attempts to find a counselor that you like and trust. It may be helpful to find a female as your wife may feel less threatened. It worked for me and my wife. Good luck.
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If you truly Love eachother,and you are ready and willing to be strong and stand up for yourselves.Then do not let anyone stand in your way.I am assuming that you belong to India.My best advice is that you are going to have to make a choice between your happiness or making others happy.This is your life after all.You may face all kinds of issues,but if your Love is strong enough you will be together.Have faith in God and eachother.Dont get married illegally.Just go to a court and have a court marriage.Your families may not accept you.Be prepared for that.I wish there was some better advice in the universe.But always follow your heart no matter what.Because you wont be happy unless you do.Regardless of culture never allow anyone to control your life.
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I have been married for near 7 years but have been with my man for 12 years, we got together at 21 years old.\n\nWe have had our ups and downs but our love for one another has grown stronger than ever. \n\nThe main part of marriage and any relationship really, is communication. Don't bottle things up, sit down and talk it out, that way the 'problem' is out there and both can work together on how to solve it.\n\nIn all the years we have been together, we have never in an argument said anything we would regret later on. We have never called each other a name or anything like that.\n\nWords can hurt and people can remember what has been said through arguments, and bring that up in another argument. \n\nMarriage takes alot of work and it can work if both parties are commited to the marriage and each other.
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I think that love and kindness plays the most important role. \n\nThink of the little things- kind words and thoughtfulness on a daily basis and taking time to talk will hold your marriage together. Grand gestures, great sex and money are nice, but aren't the glue that holds it together. \n\nHope this helps.
129791
Why not go to a wedding chappel where ALL they do is perform marriages! That way it is still in a "church" but not one that either of you go to. OR go to the Justice of Peace. (City Hall) If that is not to your liking, choose a picturesque spot near your home and have a notary public officiate.
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I'm a family law attorney, so this is an easy one for me.  How about a pre-nuptial agreement that protects your interests.  Also, some pre-marital financial planning with investments that would protect you would be reasonable.\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you have other questions.
510797
Hope this helps..Also I think pastors/priests can do marriage counseling....
1118164
Well my advice is that if u guys really like each other and trust each other then u should marry ..dont think of religion or anything else..Y didn't u think about the religion before loving eachother..love just happens and try and win u r love..takecare..good luck!!!
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If it is a communication problem, then marriage counseling might work. It's worth a try.  There are those marriage encounter things.  You can learn to have more productive conflict.  You could hire a mediator to help you work through things. Communications problems are common and you can learn the skills to do this better and a lot of the time you can save your marriage.  \n\nif it is a values problem, then it is more serious.\n\ni recommend tantra.  really.  do it together.\nor anything physical where are together.  like partner yoga or dancing or even sailing a sailboat. sex works too, but you sort of have to be getting along well to do this.\n\ntry some books like "getting the love you want" or the mars & venus thing.  try educating yourselves on the skills to make a relationship work.  go to church and get in a group of other married folk.
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Go outside and look at the sky, look at a leaf.\n\nRead your Bible or Koran or whatever applies without anyone else telling you what it "really" means.\n\nStudy what is happening to people in other parts of the world, not what the news says, not what politicians say, but what is really happening.\n\nCry.\n\nPlant a seed and tend it as it grows.\n\nThen look within and you will find God.\n\nConsider that marriage is a give and take proposition, 80% give and 20% take, for both.\n\nThen decide if you want the partnership with this person, and will you both be happy.
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No..No...and No!!\n\nDo not marry anyone under any kind of pressure.\n\nMarriage is about loving someone and wanting to spend the rest of your lives together not being forced down the aisle.\n\nGood luck.
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Getting married will not solve the problems that are there. The best thing to do is find out what you are arguing about and decide if it is worth fighting and arguing over. You need to find a common ground to build upon(firm). If you do decide to get married, no one can tell you if it will work or not! You have to work at it. Getting married just because of the baby is going to be tough, real tough. Do it for the right reason, and when you are ready! Don't rush it.
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Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
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Money is the number one issue for arguments in most of all relationships.  If you live together and share bills, I think the best thing to do is set up a dollar amounts for which you both deserve a say in , for instance purchases over $100.00.  All other purchase can come out of an " allowance that you both have weekly or monthly.  That has saved a lot of unnecessary fighting in my own relationship.  \nIt is best to get this problem resolved early if marriage is even remotely in your future.  Money problems have been known to cause a lot of divorces.  It is also a matter of trust. \nGood luck
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Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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I met my husband through match.com so anything is possible. Been married for 2 years now and still running strong. Good luck with it!
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Wait until the initial passion is over before you think about marrige. Take it slow. If you are meant for each other you will be together anyway whether you are married or not. Marrige is just a formality.