How do I help my friend who is a drunk and just recently got beat up by her boyfriend?
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Women's shelters, friends, AA, family members, church help, etc.\n\nTake her somewhere & tell her it is only because you CARE that you want to help her.\n\nDon't make her feel like you are judging her about drinking but print off some info on the Internet for her about what it does to your liver, your skin, etc. Get her interested in activities with her kids in the evening so she can't drink so much. Just sit down and talk to her, calmly, with a  compassionate heart and all the caring & love in the world. It won't be easy but it is a start. Good luck!
95241
Don't stab your friend in the back. Knowing how she feels should give you an idea of how to handle this. Nothing is worth ruining your friendship. Not even a boy who will probably not be there long anyway.
947199
luk you need to explain it to her and let her know what happen...if she is a really good friend then she will understand..itz both of your fault because yall both did it and yall BOTH were drunk...but i mean if she isnt a gud friend she won't listen and she isnt worth it...but sometime in the next few dayz you need to tell her you understand wat you did waz wrong and you need to say your srry and tell her it waz stupid of you but it waznt just your fault and you and him need to sit down and talk to her and let her know BOTH of you need to take the blame not just YOU..well good luck...best of wishes i hope it turnz out good=)
379265
Try to get him some help, hes been traumatized by that event and doesn't know how to express that. Good luck to you guys!!
1118341
You want to kick his butt, help her do it financially.  Make sure she makes him take FULL financial responsibility for the baby he has created.  \n   Your emphasis should be on supporting your friend who, though she made a horrible and irresponsible mistake, is only human and will need the support of everyone she can get it from.\n   Karma will come back to buite this guy in the butt one day.  I truly believe we all get done to us what we do to others in one way or another.  Support her, and make sure she does what she needs to get the financial support she needs, and the baby deserves from him.\n\nGood luck
497008
Mind your own business and let your friend handle it.  If she or he needs your help, they'll ask.  Then you have all rights to kick that persons *ss for messing with your friend.
510572
Let me start by saying I am truly sorry about your loss. I have never gone through anything that horrible, and I don't know how you can even talk about it this openly. It takes true courage to come out and ask for help. Hopefully you will find it. This is my advice, don't think about it as your fault. If you sent her a letter that said how much you loved her, then clearly she didn't do what she did because of something hateful that you said, because by no means is that at all hateful. If she was an alcoholic and a drug abuser, then that is probably the reason. She might have been drunk, she might have been high, you can never really know for sure, but I know for a fact that she did NOT commit suicide because of you! Now, all you can do is remember all of the good times that you had with her, and forget the bad things. Ask her for your forgiveness. Yes, I know that she's not here anymore, but she will always be with you. So talk to her and make sure that she knows that you love her and miss her with all of your heart. And again, I am deeply sorry for your loss, you have my most deepest sympathy.
462700
You need to tell her how you feel.. Friends will always be there and boyfriends will come and go...I lost my best friend because I was so blinded by my boyfriend and it hurts..
531610
I feel bad for your friend i think these chicken heads on here who accused you of being a dead beat need to learn how to read tell your friend that Beyeaches they come and go how can any one trust women like that we cant we guys know were not innocent but you friend should just kill her     Take her out by any means like oj or Robert Blake or like you said run her off a Pier in a car like the eminem song Kim watch all the feminist say that's not fair she was stuck she had no choice like that person wrote oh boo hoo she was abused well she was abused by another mans penis your friend should get checked for aids if anyone doesn't like what i wrote well then too bad suck my penis happy now
549532
You most definitely did the right thing. After she gets help and cleans up she will eventually realize that you were looking out for her. I have been in a similar situation only I was in the position that your friend is in. I was furious at the friend that ratted me out and I reacted the same way. After I cleaned up my act and got counseling, I realized my life would have been ruined if it weren't for the one person that truly cared enough to tell someone so I could get help. Give her time and space and when she calls (and she will) just offer your friendship again and give her all of the love and support you can. Good luck!
1138873
Comfort her. Enforce the fact that the other guy is scum and that you're there to listen to all her problems. Then try your best to make her laugh and to forget the guy. Then she'll realize that you're the better man!
618482
neither one of you should be drinking.Being drunk is just an excuse for acting stupid.You need to work out your feelings about what happened or you may explode one of these days.
899587
you must be desperate to lose your friend real fast. but how can you be a friend when your trying to hurt her by being with her boy friend. you are a very lousy person.
327105
I agree with all the people who say call the police.  The truth is, though the threat may not actually be carried out., you need to treat it as a very serious threat to her life and safety.  The most important thing you can do is GET HER TO A SAFEHOUSE OR SOMEPLACE SECURE.  If she needs protection from this guy, start off by getting her out of this situation.   Also, be her friend and help her feel safe and confident.  If the guy asks you where she is or anything, tell him NOTHING and WALK AWAY.  If he tries to hurt you or violate you, run and bring attention to yourself and get to a public place right away.  If this happens at your house, call the police right away and report him as a trespasser.
429652
You don't. From what little you have said you have an ALcoholic for a mate. You CANNOT help him unless he wants help. But there are organizations you can call for help, like al-anon. As for him, he must be willing to step up to the plate and take responsibilities for his actions. This will be a starting point. It will take time. But unless and this is unless he is willing to step up to the plate there isn't one thing you will be able to do to help him.
236203
I had a friend that was raped, so believe me I know what you're going through.  I know the first thing you want to do is kill this guy, but you have to stay calm and keep yourself together.  Feeling guilty that you weren't there to protect her is natural, but you can't beat yourself up about it.  It's NOT your fault, at all.  You had no idea that she was going to get raped, so please don't feel like it's your fault.  That is the worst thing you could do in this situation.  Your girlfriend is probably reluctant to report the incident because she is terrified.  Being raped is one of the most terrible things that could ever happen to a person.  She is probably still in shock from the incident.  I believe that she is scared to report it because she actually knows the person who did it.  It isn't a stranger, it is an acquaintance.  I'm sure she knows how serious it is, but she might just be scared and embarassed.  Don't force her, just be there for her and comfort her.  Her feelings are very fragile right now, and she will make the decision that she feels best, whether it is reporting the incident or not.  I know you want to help, so support her and talk with her, don't push her to do anything drastic at this time.  I hope this helped even a little bit.\n-L
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Physical violence does not equal friendship in my book.  This friend isn't a friend, but a bully.  You have another friend. Go hang out with her.  Obviously you know that what your supposed friend is doing is wrong because you are writing about it here.  Stand up for yourself against this girl: tell her to leave you alone, tell her to stop hitting you - and mean it! Tell an adult who can help you with this situation.  Friends don't hit/kick/bite/slap/spit or commit other forms of violence against friends.