The best way to fix someones anger?
144981
If your anger is broken and you blew your top, then keep it broken, If you fix it you could really hurt yourself next time.
220576
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
380415
disassociate yourself from the thing that is causing you to be angry with this person. you are not doing yourself any good by being angry, especially if the other person does not care with the emotion your having.
639437
Ben Franklin said, "When angry, count to ten. When very angry, count to a hundred."  \n\nAlso, breathe deeply and release it slowly. Think of all you will lose if you blow yout top. \n\nCan you write out the things you are angry about, then discusss them with some trusted person such as a counselor or pastor? \n\nRemember that anger feeds on anger, and you can't get in little digs or jabs at the other person without them also attacking you in little ways. "A soft answer turns away wrath."\n\nWrite yourself a script and don't deviate from it. If you are to discuss with the person you are mad at, don't adlib or improvise. List the things you want to say and don't get drawn off into any unprofitable side topics.\n\nMake up your mind to be fair to the other person. If you begin by saying "I want to make sure I'm being fair to you; what did you mean when you said, etc. etc." This will either lead them to want to be fair to you or make them want to leap to the attack. You will know, however, that you have done your best. Hopefully, they will decide to be fair to you as well.\n\nYou cannot fully protect yourself. The only way to do that is not to see them any more. You must take the risk of exposing your vulnerability-- even to the extent of admitting that you want to talk and see if the relationship can be restored. If it is, it will have been worth it. Even if it is not, you will know that you have done everything you could and that the blame does not rest with you.\n\nMake sure a neutral third party is present. They MUST be neutral. The presence of such a person will tend to inhibit outbursts of anger.Make sure the person understands that they are to remain neutral and that their only role is to moderate, or to prevent anger. Good candidates for the neutral third party are a boss from another department (if this is work related), a pastor, a counselor or therapist, a social worker or family arbitrator.\n\nThis is all pretty general, but you have already taken the most important first step, which is to have asked for help. This shows that you really do want to resolve this in a peaceful way. You have my respect and prayers for success in trying to restore or preserve the relationship. Good luck!
1051938
when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
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No joke - I had a friend who went to anger management classes and I went with him for support one night and the instructor told the class that the best way to curb your anger streak is to have plenty of sex - She claimed the release of endorphines keeps a person from being angry - the more sex you have the more peaceful you become she said - needless to say my friend tried to use this as a means to get laid - I did not oblige him - and not getting laid only made him angrier and we stopped being friends so I dont know if plenty of sex really works to fend of anger but its worth a shot as long as you wont loose a friend over it!!!
60331
i think that he needs medication.  it will help control the anger/excitability.
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Yep. I believe anything is possible. Especially this. I used to be very angry myself. Anger management classes didn't work. They pissed me off even more. But through years of therapy, and counseling i learned how to find happiness within myself, and find other more positive healthy ways of expressing myself. I learned that it's okay to be angry. Everyone gets that way whether they want to believe it or not. But anyways, yes of course you can always change yourself. I found peace in writing poetry. and listening to relaxing music. So that's what i do when i'm flustered. I write how i'm feeling. It may be some ugly and harsh poetry but in the end i feel alot better. So what i would suggest is find something you like to do, and find peace in that. Good Luck to ya.
418870
Smile, and walk away. That burns the person because they expected something completely different, like confrontation.Don't give them that satisfaction.
270427
confront them and tell them how u feel and make them understand that what they are doing is wrong and makes you unhappy.
679694
Kill the person who stress or angered me
697923
if you are lashing out in a physical sense then you need to end the relationship imediatly and seek professional help to try and control your anger. physical violence is not the answer and i think u accept that. before you hurt this person that you obviously care for do the best thing you can and save her from more hurt
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.
319352
You could try signing up for a martial arts class - that is GREAT for getting out excess aggression. \n\nYoga's pretty awesome, too. After a couple poses, you start feeling very balanced and calm. \n\nIf you're not into classes, you could try just plain old jogging or running. Focusing that angry energy into something non-violently physical and healthy could be a great way for you to redirect your anger.
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I once punched a kitchen counter when I was 16 (by accident--I was aiming at my kid brother!) and broke one finger joint open to the bone!  That was our last fight. \n\nFor stress relief (immediate) try KICKING the door, esp. a hollow core one...it'll break & be cheap to replace). For long-term anger management, I suggest a baseball bat and a non-endangered tree, or if you're more genteel, a tennis racquet and a couch pillow.\n\nFailing that...get some counseling for whatever is making you so angry! That's what I'm doing. We'll see if it works...RRRRGH!
220648
find out what is upsetting him and then fix it
663663
Rubbermonkey - we are not living in the Stone Age any more. There are many civil and human ways of sorting out differences or getting your point forward. Develop good communication skills instead of fostering unhealthy and destructive ideas for expressing your disapproval or anger. It even works better coz violence and harshness only results in a similar rebound... and will work against your initial intention. With love and peace for you and your friends - God Bless - :)