if my boyfriend is real insecure, do you think it will change when we get married?
148566
Yup... it will get worse....
674474
I think it is fine too, is your husband the super possessive type and insecure ??
909173
Maybe in your heart you hoped that marriage would settle him down a little or you would feel more secure within the relationship.  Do you trust him?  Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?  Maybe you just need to communicate your concerns with him so he can reassure you of where he stands in the marriage.  Almost any woman would feel the same way in your shoes, and you did marry pretty fast.  Before you married, did you know each others beliefs on marriage, vows, family, careers, finances?  These are some major issues that both of you should be on the same page with - if not, seek some support and guidence.
442944
My boyfriend and I got together and less than 2 weeks later we moved in together, and we were talking about marriage after 3 weeks, he is my soul mat e, my whole life, and my futurte husband, we have been together for 2 years and we have had our bad times, really bad times, but it doesnt make me love him, or us any less, so what Im trying to say is, if your ready and he is the one, you will just know, nobody else can tell you when you are ready except for your heart, dont listen to your head so much, i mean listen to it just follow your heaart, you know what is best for you...I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you...xxx
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
153334
The real answer comes as a question. If your boyfriend is secure in your relationship with him, he probably won't mind. On the other hand, if it really bothers him, then he is responding to an offhand remark as if it is a threat to your relationship. In this case, it may still be alright to others, but if you're smart, you won't continue to do it if you know it upsets him. Here's the real big question you  need to answer, and only you can. If your boyfriend is getting really bent out of shape over an innocent remark because he's that insecure, do you really want to invest more of your time on him in the first place? \n\nNot to tell you what to do, but my experience has taught me that jealousy and insecurity are symptoms of greater emotional problems. The person with the problems needs to first acknowledge them, before he can ever get the help he needs to overcome them. As long as he thinks you'll put up with it, he never will admit he has a problem. Don't deceive yourself, as many young women have done, into thinking that you can change him. IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY. Better for you to just move on. This may sound cold, but it's probably the best for him and certainly would be for you.\n  Hope this helps you.
265300
Have you asked him what you could do specifically to ease his jealous mind? This is a hard thing for insecure guys, but I think you may need to boost him ego a bit. How about telling him what it is you love about him just out of the blue. Compliment him on his UNIQUE qualities that cause you to love him. It is very important that he feel that no other man has the qualities that you love in him. Once he knows that his is the only one you ever met that can make you feel the way you do, that should really help.
645218
take your time, Love will reveal it's self.\ndoes he call you, or do you do everything in the relationship. test him, see if he really cares. don't bug him about it or give him a big list of what you are looking for, just let him be and see what kind of guy he is. you can't change people so find out if he is really suitable for you through experience in time. you are probably young enough that it isn't crucial that you get married right now. take your time if you can....it reveals many things!
109650
Probably because you are pretty!  He is worried you'll find "something better." \n\nJust do your best to reassure him, but don't allow him to get all jealous and controlling on you, OK?
1169483
If you truly love this guy, that really wouldn't matter, but I can understand where you are coming from.  People say you are a reflection of the people you choose to have around you.  But since he doesn't act that way around you, it's hard to know the real him!  It's makes me think he might be just trying too hard around other people, while he feels comfortable enough around you to just be himself.  If you believe he is more "himself" with you than with other people, then eventually the "true him" will shine through in all his relationships with a little time and maturity.  :)\n\nGood luck!
787671
YES, you should feel upset, and you're not overreacting. Sounds annoying and angering. I'm surprised he even asked you to marry him. Do you think he'll keep the promise to walk down the aisle? I had a man like that once. He promised to propose to me year after year after year. He promised he'd do it after he paid off his credit card. But when he did, he just bought himself a brand new car. Then he wanted a big projection television. Et cetera. It's hard to pinpoint exactly why some people do crap like that: lack of ability to commit, laziness, control, or just plain meanness. Talk to him about it...tell him that it makes you UNHAPPY, and be sure to stress that word. If you're unhappy, then it can lead you to fall out of love with him, and leave him. That should show him that he needs to be more trustworthy with you.
836248
I would feel hesitant about marrying him. Sounds like "he just not that into you". But I hope that isn't the case.
34646
It depends on the couple. An insecure man might not handle that very well. An arrogant woman might gloat. If your relationship is secure in other areas, money should not cause any problems you can't work through.\nMy wife was graduating from school and beginning a job when we got married and I still had four years of school and student wages ahead of me. She was happy to be the principal breadwinner. But it wasn't long before she heard that biological clock ticking and wanted to stay home and raise children. I believe that in general, women are innately better nurturers and men have an instinct to be providers. But we can't make it on just my wages. So she has to work until I finish school. Even then she might earn more with an associates degree and vocational certificate than I will with a masters degree.\nHow it works for you will depend on yours and her plans and aspirations as well as your character and beliefs. Best of luck!
991491
Talk to him about it. Im sure he will but mayb ... he feels insecure.
778624
Yes, it will work out.  It's a choice.  When we love a person, we make things that will make them happy not what we'll make us happy.  There will be some type of sacrifices - that though difficult we're at peace and therefore happy which we can't explain beyond reasons.  He's a Christian, devoted - because he's mustering all the efforts he could give to God while still single.  If you get married, his priority or lifestyle will change (but not his faith of course).  Be happy, your boyfriend is a Christian - a God fearing man who will opt to do what is right.  Christian men I know are committed to their wives no matter what.  They respect their commitments and marriage vows to God - to whom they are answerable if they fool around with another woman.\n\nBeing a Christian, is not just by title but of heart. How's your relationship and commitment to God.  Am not here to judge but to remind.  Just remember, try to befriend with God, your Christian boyfriend will see your beauty to another level.  Relax with God, you'll never regret it.
285604
if he's jealous now its not going to change itll only get worse. tell him that what he's doing is wrecking the relationship all of his jealousy and insecurities. tell him if things dont change and him trust you then its time to move on with your life if he wont chnge his ways.
429636
This is actually pretty serious, and is probably indicative of other areas where he is weak or immature.  I guess part of "how serious" depends on how long you two have been dating and how serious you two are as a couple.  If you are thinking about marrying him, think twice.\n\nMy husband's family doesn't berate me in any way, but his mom is *very* controlling and over-bearing, and he DOES NOT stand up to her, and it puts a strain on our relationship.  You are not just marrying him, you are marrying his family.  \n\nI can also tell you from experience that my husband also seems to have problems in general with having BALLS...(sorry).  It's frustrating because I think he lets too many people (including me, at times) push him around.  \n\nIf it's bothering you now, it's only going to get worse.  Think long...(and I do mean LONG)...and hard about whether or not this is the kind of man you want to marry.  Someone who can't (or won't) stand tall and be a "man."