What is it like the first time for guys? How does it feel for a guy to sleep with a virgin(does it hurt)?
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It was awkward, and I didn't really know what I was doing.  I was so nervous that it felt like my heart was going to explode.  There wasn't actually any physical pain, just a general feeling of unreality about the whole thing which wasn't really pleasant.
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It didn't hurt me, but I did it with a guy that had an average sized piece of manhood. The size of his penis will be a factor in whether or not it hurts the first time. Spotting is a very normal thing to happen once the hymen is broken. Also, how old are you? You don't sound ready to lose your virginity. Be sure to think it through... I am not meaning to preach, but make sure that you are ready. I lost mine when I was seventeen because I thought I had found the right guy, but we then broke up and I hated myself for it. And be sure to use protection... Also, don't do it because he wants it... It must be a mutual agreement. Both of you must be ready for the consequences if the contraceptive devices do not work.
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Being a virgin makes no difference. if you are a virgin it seems to have more of a damper since you have to kinda prep the girl first. Not a virgin is a plus but too much experience might make him shy away. If she is a virgin and she doesnt tell me she will be in a bit of pain, since im a bit rough. A female should always tell her male if she is a virgin, always.
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It is only obvious to be curious at your age.  It is funny I had the same questions and by being too embarrased to ask a grown up and the false information I got from my peers allowed me to explore  for my self.  However, the 1st time I had sex I was 17 my senior year in highschool. It was with my highschool sweet heart.  We had been together since 9th grade and he was already sexually active and constantly tried to convince me to have sex with him,  I wanted to wait til I got married but he would say it doesn't matter because we were going to get married anyways, he also advised me if I got pregnant it wouldn't matter because he was going pro in football so he would be able to take care of us.  However, he did go off to college on a football scholarship, got injured in college, never went pro, works a mediocre job, has 4 kids by 4 baby momma's and we broke up his first semester in college (honestly).   \nSweetheart you are 14 years old try to put your curiosity into something else more positive (education), trust me boys will be around and sex isn't going anywhere. When you are ready and the time is right you will know it there won't be any question about it and make him wait that will show if he really cares.\n\nTo answer your question honestly, sex is definately worth waiting for, the first time you have sex it will hurt. It will hurt probably the first few times and you will be extremely sore and probably never want to do it again. Basically it is like someone is hammering something large into a tiny hole (your vagina) the walls around the vagina will be inflamed and extremely sore.  (Imagine the felling) However, the boy will not experience the pain you are feeling and will probably try to continue ignoring your pain. If you do decide please make sure this is with someone you trust and cares about you. You will probably feel uncomfortable being naked especially at your age (i was) Initially it is not the most fun thing to do and nothing about the first time you have sex is fun or beautiful (even after you get married).  However, waiting for sex is definately worth waiting for and rewarding  because it is the most intimate relationship you can have with someone.  A man will truly admire the fact this his wife is a virgin and the only person they have been with is them.  I was glad I waited until I was older (17), but if I could have waited longer I would have.   REmember your body is a temple and don't let anyone enter it unless you know they cherish it and cherish you as well.  I hope this helps you make the right decision.
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the first time?  I can't imagine anyone not being scared, at least a little, the first time having sex with another person.\n\nnow, if you're referring to anal intercourse, that's another issue.  scary's not the right word.  nervousness causing, sure.  the fear it may hurt to receive anal?  hopefully, the guy you'd be with would be patient, understanding (no one should top until he's bottomed.  you must know what the other guy is going thru) and the passion will override the nerves (possibly make it more exciting)\n\nDoes it alway hurt? no.  my first time did not hurt at all.
894204
well sex can be painful for a virgin girl. because your vagina is not broad enogh and during sexual intercourse , the hymen breaks which might lead to some blood loss. first time sex can be painful for a girl
65811
u just feel it!\nAt least that happened to me...let me tell u something about my first time:\nonce I was dating this guy and nothing u know I just couldn't, something was odd, don't really know, but then I met this incredible guy and I don't know what exactly happened but it felt like fireworks being with him, at all times ,and the I just knew that he was the one .\nI never regret the time I waited to do it.\nIt was worth it all the way.
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It's normal to be nervous! God knows that I was. But it's not as bad as all my friends tried to make it out to be! The first time he enters, it's going to hurt a little bit, but after a couple of minutes, it's fine... Or it was for me... Just try to relax, have fun, but make sure it's with someone special and not just a one night fling. That will make it much more memorable for you!  So relax, have fun, but also, be safe!! Cheers!!
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If you're both virgins, there's not a lot you can do to avoid the weirdness after.  That happens to everybody after their first time.  The best thing you can do is communicate beforehand and during.  It would be a shame if he was into it and didn't know he was hurting you and vice versa.  You have to feel your partner out and learn what s/he does and doesn't like before it will really start to be good.  The first time is always weird...
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Simple, well it is simple for a woman. Sex for the first time hurts, and it is only something to sharewithsomeone you love. When a woman has not had sex yet she does not know how good it can actually feel. Next she does know that it is going to hurt. Would you put yourself in pain for someone you don't have feelings for? I dn't think so.
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i don't believe you would still be a virgin, but that should not mean it is any less special when you chose someone to share your first consensual experience with. you are still pure and being victimized does not take that away. you define yourself any way you wish and make sure any potential partner respects that.
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NO! virgin is someone whose never had sex. and sex is something that happens between (at least) 2 people.\n\nbut it might tear your hymen, if that's what you're worried about
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A virgin is a person who has never had sexual intercourse...
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No. I'm not a virgin. I lost my virginity at 15. It was not a good experience. I was with someone I loved, someone I'm still with to this day (over a year later). But I wasn't ready. In truth, I didn't really know what was happening until it was too late. Don't get me wrong, I knew what sex was. I just didn't know we were going to have it. Lol. I felt pressured. He was 18 and extremely experienced. And when I say extremely, I mean he'd been with 33 girls before me. I also didn't like the WAY it happened. There were no candles, no soft music. Just a movie playing. And it was rushed and tense because my grandparents were in the other room. So if you're thinking about having sex for the first time, loving the person's not the only thing you have to worry about. Make sure you're completely comfortable with the idea. Make sure you're alone and you use protection. (Which I didn't.) Plan ahead of time. And make it special. Remember, you only get one first time.
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First of all does he know you're a virgin? If he doesnt tell him. Once he finds out he'll be sprung. The trick though is that once he finds out, he's gonna try to get in your pants if you let him you'll loose him but if you dont he'll be chasing you around like a lost puppy
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Sometimes, after having sex for the first time, women experience pain and bleeding. But that is not always the case. So if nothing happens, that does not mean that she is still a virgin. If she had sex, she's not a virgin. That simple. It is not anything to worry about. In fact, she should feel lucky to be pain-free.
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Yes my dear, I know what you mean. If you're scared, don't go. \n\nDoes he know you're a virgin? You didn't say how long you two have been dating. If you've dated him a long time and he knows you are a virgin and has been respectful, never questioning you or pressuring you, then it MIGHT be okay. I still think if you are afraid or it makes you uncomfortable, then you should do what feels right to you and not go. If you feel you might be pressured to have sex and you are not ready to, then do not go. \n\nI am not a virgin any more, but know how this feels. Let me share a story with you:\nI am a single woman (previouly married many years ago). I was dating a guy for a few months and I really liked him, but had not had sex with him. We kissed on our dates, and it was very hot, but kept it at that level, just kissing, no "heavy petting". He invited me on a ski trip for a week. We had not travelled together before, or even spent a weekend together, so I was a bit hesitant. (I should have paid attention to that feeling; that was my intuition.)  I really did not think he would pressure me. He had been very well mannered. I would not have gone otherwise. I knew spending that much time together would let us really get to know each other. We got along well and it would be fun, especially because we both like to ski.\n\nOn that trip, he started by wanting me to sleep in the same bed with him. I actually didn't have much choice, the room only had one bed. I should have known right there that a real gentleman would have made sure there were 2 beds or asked me if I was okay with the sleeping arrangements. I felt a little uneasy about it, because I was not ready to be so physically close to him. But I figured it was okay, and kept my gown on. Well, it just got worse each night. By the 4th night he was pissed off that he had "paid to take [me] on this trip and [I] wasn't being accomodating". He got more and more demanding. He flat out told me he "deserved" to have sex with me! He was a real jerk about it! Rather than a really great time, it became a degrading experience for me.  Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. \n\nThat was years ago but I learned a lesson. For me: I would never go on a trip with a man unless we were crazy about each other,already in a commited relationship, and had already made love before that trip. I turned down several trips, but I did not want to be in that position ever again! Yuck!I did not go on a trip with a man again until all of my criteria were met, and what a difference! It was worth the wait.\n\nI commend you for being a virgin. it's a rare thing these days. If you are not ready to lose your virginity, don't!\n\nJust because a man pays for a trip, no woman "owes" a man sex in exchange. I have asked several men (yes, all kinds, including wealthy, well educated, well-mannered upper class men, like the man I had gone on that ill-fated trip with) about this and unfortunately many men seem to think that accepting the invitation of going on a trip is some unspoken code for "there will be vacation sex." They assume "the woman knows [he] wants sex on a trip." So don't go unless you want that too.\n\nYou do what feels right for YOU, not your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not pressure you. He will understand. If he doesn't, then break it off. You are special and need to be with someone who truly understands and appreciates you. Good luck!