why do wives keep it a secret from friends and relatives when the husband leaves for another woman?
150340
Injured pride. Feelings of guilt. Fear of criticism. "we told you so"
578773
usually its because they need a change to the same routine, maybe they are second guessing their relationship,maybe they can get what they need from the person their cheating with, maybe its blackmail, or greed or lustor,maybe theyre still in love with their ex partner(if its an ex they slept with), maybe they got into deep into a relationship they cant get out of , maybe they dont love their spouse , maybe its low self esteem , \n\nwho knows there are many different reasons and no one reason is right or wrong, and it has nothing to do with anything except the struggle that is going on inside that person that does it, dont bother to ask why people do it,  just dont do it yourself, and walk away if it happens to you.
863166
If they really love one another they shouldn't keep their relationship a  secret.
240952
If it were me (which it's not) I would keep my mouth shut.  But you just have to think about what you would do if you were in her shoes.  Would you want someone to tell you or what?  Women generally have a "gut feeling" when their man has been cheating, so it's possible that she already knows and just doesn't want to admit it to herself.  Talking to him is definantly a good idea.  But why would he cheat and then ask her to move with him.  Maybe you can plant a guilt trip on him and he'll tell her.  But I think it's his place to spill the beans!  Good Luck!
806126
He probably doesn't want anyone to know he's married to that opportunistic golddigger of a wife he has.
85860
Of course it is not fair. If your husband is not allowing you to have friends of your own, he is creating a wall of isolation around you and usually that is for the sole purpose of making it impossible for you to stand up to him. If you have any power to prevent it, do not let this happen.
150184
its their own life.....let them do what they want.....the brother should be aware of his wifes whereabouts.....if u tell one the other might blame u for things.....and u'll be the center of the mess (and perhaps the divorces')
1179974
He is a married man, and has no business being friends with other women, if the friend ship doesnt include his wife, she has every right to be upset about it, as she shouldnt have to share her husband with anyone else under any circumstance.  He sounds like a disrespectful jerk to put her through this kind of thing as its not normal in a marriage.... So listen to your "other" friends and back off, you are over steppin your bounds!
99979
If your friend is a true friend she would encourage him to speak to you and not bring all his issues and problems to her.  This is exactly how cheating in every sense of the word starts, they are connecting in ways that will ultimately bring them closer and soon he will be telling her everything and anything.  I think as a friend it is her responsibility to encourage communication between the two of you and not be so willing to accomadate him when he needs to vent.  Why must she make herself available to him even if it is just to listen.  You should let him know that you don't appreciate it and how would he feel if you found a real sexy hunk of a man and confided in him instead of your husband?  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.\nNip this in the bud, before you lose your husband, if he is a keeper do what you need to and if he is a loser/dead beat then maybe she is doing you a favor listening to all his crap anyway.  Maybe he is a bore anyway. Just kidding
189876
I would suppose it is easy for some to forget what they had in a marriage. If your friend is sure she wants to be with someone else she should go ahead with the divorce...K
548735
Well I never been "the other woman" but it would seem like it is lonely especially on the holidays when he's spending time with his family and you're wishing "your man" was with you.  I couldn't see myself being with a married man and than the woman is left holding her pillow tight at night because "her man" is at home snogged with his wife. lol
492362
women cant do nothing back as muslin can have more than one wife, being the case there is no infidelity...\nthe husband in this case gets away with it, how dam convenient.
300230
Men propably don't  know that women tell their best friends EVERYTHING. Right down to talking about the mole on they husbands or boyfriends butt.
416078
I've experienced a slightly different situation, I'm very good friends with the husband not so much the wife but I found out that she was cheating on him.  When I told him he totally denied it, refused to accept that it was true and doesn't believe me.  Then he got mad at me for pushing the issue so I guess it depends on the person how they'll react when you tell but I would.
397054
A secret is 'created' when one or more person(s) decides to withold information from another person or group to shield themselves from the consequences of the information reaching the target that you are hiding it from. It must also be information that they have a right to know, even if it would be better for them not to know. Confused? Let me explain it this way....\n\nIf I knew that someone was throwing a surprise party for you and I don't tell the lady at the grocery store -- then there is no secret because she has no right to know in the first place, but if I see you and you ask if I am aware of any such party -- I must keep it a secret. You have the right to know, even though it is in your best interest to keep it unknown to you and I want to shield you from knowing so that I do not ruin the surprise. Does that make sense?
514916
Unfortunately...yes.  Somethings are better left undisturbed and kept private.  Granted doing so might tear things a part but in situations like unto that letting out the secret would probably have done the same anyway.  In reality everyone has secrets.  You can only hope that you can develop a deep enough relationship with your spouse to where the content of them matters less then the keeping and thereby renders secrets moot.
1151645
Most women I know who cheated were either bored with their married lives, or were in an unhappy marriage or relationship and could not or would not wait until they were out before starting something new.  I always say leave before beginning anything new.  Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side.