my mother won't let me wear the clothes i want to wear. How do i persuade her?
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Show her that you are mature enough to know what you are doing fashion-wise.  Do not argue with her on the topic.  Learn to discuss items without arguing.  Leave you friends out of this.  If your mother’s attitude is that you are too young to be showing off what you have, listen carefully and ask if age is the issue or the level of maturity the issue.
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Take is slowly. Define yourself first. What type of crossdresser are you? Casual, all the time? Do you dress as a fetish, or is it deeper for you? Have you talked with anyone else about your crossdressing? \nWhat are you hoping to accomplish by telling her? If you are looking for support, what are her views of other crossdressers? In today's say and age, you see crossdressing on all sorts of TV programs and other media, I am sure she has seen it as well. What is her general reaction towards it. Who's clothing do you wear? If it is your own stuff, how well hidden is it? You might be suprised, she might actually already know and be waiting for you to trust her to tell her.\nTake it slow, because if she is not ok with it, she might have a lot to process. I would make sure to inform her that you are not GAY, and by wearing clothing like that, it does not make you in any way GAY.\nIf you trust her, and she trusts you, and you want to tell her after you have found out who you are, then go ahead.\n\nI am not sure how well this would work, but you might make a game out of it, or a bet. Maybe do something that she comes up with you dressing up, like set a bet where the looser has to dress as a maid or something, and be all macho about it so when you loose, it looks painful that you have to dress as a maid. Heard that one somewhere, not sure the results. Would give you a deep insight into your wife's view on crossdressing from her reactions though...
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Mothers are usually very unpicky at presents, but check in at what products shes using, what clothes brand she loves.\n-You might like to buy her a giftcard for the mall\n-Make something like an album of your memories together, growing up and happy times. You can decorate it so it looks all prettyful.\n-Buy a gift certificates for you and her(or alone) at the spa\nor a gift certificate to get manicures & pedicures together\n-You can always extend the subscription to her magazine or buy her a subscription on her favorite magazine\n-Also you can write her a letter on how much you appreciate her and slip it into one of the presents.\nOkay..I'm starting to sound like Mother's Day extravaganza, so I'll stop myself now. This doesn't sound Christmas-y..ah well...at least I tried.
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That is the wildest thing i ever heard! Once you start wearing sexy lingerie, you are hooked for life! You should find a skirt and blouse that fit you and get some of slippers . then wait for mom to get home and ask her to help you do your hair and make up. Enjoy being a Girl!
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Tell mamma to get out the sewing machine or hand needles & thread & follow these instructions:\n\nNeed:  thread, scissors, material, & 2 disposable diapers  \n\n\nCut 6 or 7 strips of 100% cotton material 5 to 6 in wide by 28 to 32 in long.  Use different colors to match her wardrobe.  \n\nCut the disposable diaper insert out & cut it into long strips approx. 2 in. wide.  \n\nSew the cotton batting into the strip of material, centering it as best one can.  Sew it all closed as well.  \n\nShe has now made a cool neck tie.  Get it wet under cold water & wear it around her neck.  Re-wet as needed.  Then, hang it up to dry thoroughly.  Use a different colored one the next day to match her wardrobe.  These can be machine washed & dryed, if well made.
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Mom I'd like to f u ck
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I understand where you r coming from.  Both my parents are that way.  Just remember that she loves you and has always wanted the best for u and want u to have a better life than she did.  Respect her opinions and tell her so.  She can't expect you to do exactly what she tells you and I'm sure she doesn't.  Make it clear that you respect and appreciate her input but in the end it is your decision to make.  Maybe dont share as much personal info with her as you have been. Such as the example you gave about your job.  Would it be possible to keep discussions about your job to a minimum when talking to your mom. You don't want to tell her to back off because someday you are going to need her, need her advice, and that's what she is there for.  She just wants you to know that she'll always be there for you.  You can still be close to your mom without talking about the life decisions you have made or need to make. Good luck!
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When you say she is a "know it all", you have a normal teenager.\n\nDrugs, grades, and concern about the friends she is hanging out with are very reasonable concerns. You should be asking questions about those things and trying to steer her in the right direction. When it comes to dressing, I think she is just expressing herself during the last time in her life when clothes really doesn't matter. Young people in every era dressed inappropriately and eventually became successful and contributing members of society. \n\nIf she was dressing in a sexually suggestive manner, I would talk about how women, right or wrong, who dress that way are targeted and are vulnerable. It doesn't seem to be the case here. Pick your battles. \n\nFocus on the stuff that matters: her education, her future, and her dreams. Talk to her about her interests and really listen. You should work on the communication skills and build up her trust. Invite her friends over and see if you can meet their parents. As parent you have the right to know who she runs with. You may find that those kids who look like losers, but may be just bored kids. \n\nShe will never say it, but she will appreciate guidence and parental expections and limitations. She may be acting out because her mother has no limits. \n\nPositive reinforcement works better than negative reinforcement. The more you know about your daughter the more you can guide her and find a mentor for her. She may be writing poetry or interested topics you weren't aware of.  \n\nAll she may need is someone to take interest in her and let her know all that life has to offer. She may not seem to be responding because she may feel you do not know her enough to be lecturing her. Don't get discouraged. Don't give up on her, you will eventually get through.
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Please forgive the comparison, but your dilemna reminds me of the communication difficulties inherent between men and women. The style that you attribute to your mother reminds me of the typical female pattern of communication while your style reminds me more of the male pattern. This is certainly not to impinge upon your femininity in any manner since we all communicate differently as individuals, and that even varies according to circumstance.\n\nYou might be interested (and I would dare say amused) to read Deborah Tannen's "You Just Don't Understand" which addresses the men vs. women issues. She also has a newer book called, "You're Wearing THAT?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation". I have not read this one yet but I have no doubt that it too would be very enlightening.\n\nWK
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sorry to hear about your mum, it's a lovely idea to donate to a museum, the V&A has a good fashion dept as someone has already mentioned, there is also a fashion museum in Bath and one in Brighton.\nhttp://www.museumofcostume.co.uk/\nhttp://www.virtualmuseum.info/collections/themes/costume_gallery/html/index.html\ngood luck in finding them a beautfil place, where I hope you will be able to visit them occasionally!
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Why don't you try and communicate with your mom, tell her why you don't want to go, and let her tell you why she chose dancung for you.\nIf you a good reason for not going I am sure she will understand, if not then you have no choice other than going.
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You really can't.  I've been asked throughout my life if I was because I don't dress very feminine, but it's how I was raised.  To just be comfortable in whatever.  I'm bi, with a VERY strong preference for men, but people wonder... Just have to ask her.
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just tell your mom that you need to talk to her. tell her in a mature way that you're going through certain changes and i'm sure she will listen to you and everything will be fine
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Mother would not approve.
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It's not your mother's business as to what you wore.  If you were comfortable and it was impossible for anyone else to see or know about it, that should have been good enough.  Besides, it was really impolite of your mother just to walk in on you as you were changing. Nobody knows how to knock any more.
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I agree with you; I think it would seem like a better statement to get different dresses for your parents' anniversary--maybe get your mom involved and have her pick a shade of a color that you could all use to find a dress that suits each of you (it doesn't have to be expensive; it could be bought on sale or even borrowed, but that special occasion deserves a new and different dress.)  Or get dresses in the same colors that your parents had in their wedding if they had a big wedding.
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Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.