Why and how do some people believe that gay marriage is an oxymoron?
138126
They probably meaning that they get married and marriage is in the bible and it is the joining of A MAn and A WOman by God and in the same bible it says that homosexuality is a sin against God. That is what it is meant by saying gay marriage is an oxymoron!\nI am not saying i agree! just letting you know
217027
I support gay marriage all the way. Civil unions sound like a good way to keep the "sanctity of marriage" while still giving gays equal rights, but actually civil unions only give a portion of the rights that marriage gives and are more easily contested in court by family members. Gays and lesbians would still be denied equality that way. I also think the "sanctity of marriage" argument is bogus, as the definition of marriage not only differs with culture and religion, but has also changed within this country several times over the centuries. See the link for a short and amusing "history of marriage in America."
1014923
The sacred union of marriage is between a man and a woman.  That is how it is supposed to be.  It is completely unnatural for two people of the same sex to get married.  I will never view a homosexual "marriage" as a real marriage.  It is a total insult to me and all of the other people out there  who are in a true and natural marriage!  How dare two people who have chosen to ignore God's Word and engage in a totally unnatural relationship compare their relationship to the relationship that I have with my husband by getting "married" ?  PLEASE!!!
848695
Two people who willfully choose to join themselves in a committed relationship and who plan to stick it out through the good times and bad times, come hell or high water.\n\nSince this is the LGBT forum, I will add this. I am really angry about all the hoopla about gay marriage going on in my country (US) right now. So many people keep saying marriage is a one man + one woman only affair, but the fact of the matter is that marriage, at least in the US, is a LEGAL MATTER. If you choose to have a religious ceremony, it isn't legal until you get the marriage license issued by the state. Since it's a legal contract, I find it obscene that anyone wants to legislate that it can only be between a man and a woman. If marriage was simply a religious affair, then I would say it was up to the religious leaders of that faith to say who can and who cannot be married, but I find it repugnant that some people are not allowed to enter into a binding legal agreement simply because they happen to be of the same sex. The simple fact that I have two X chromosomes, and my partner is an XY gives us, automatically, all sorts of rights and privileges that are denied to other couples because they are the same sex. I am weary of people saying, "well, they can go to an attorney and make sure that they inherit each other's stuff, and they can go to an attorney and legally adopt each other's kids, and they can go to an attorney and give each other medical power of attorney, and they can go to an attorney..." because all of that stuff was just given to me and my husband when we married. No one in a committed relationship should have to spend thousands of dollars in legal fees getting their ducks in a row so that when something happens to one of them they can end up with a rotten judge in court and have it overturned in favor of "next of kin", who are, sadly, not always mindful of what their dearly departed would have wanted. It's all just offensive to me. \n\nOkay, sorry for the outburst. I will put my soapbox away now.
226484
Because a Gay marriage will not produce offspring.  Marriage is a partnership between man and woman so that they can together raise productive children, which is why there are bonuses for regular marriages.   \n\nHomosexuals will not produce children, there is no investment that can and should be made for gay marriages because there will be no pay off.  Homosexuals are just fighting the marriage thing because they think its prejudice.  If you were to tell homosexuals that they cannot have pet dogs they will all fight like rabid monsters to own pet dogs.  They are fighting for the sake of fighting... its human nature.\n\nFor the most part marriage is a religious thing, Religion and the state should be seperate.  The state should not allow gay marriage beacause that would be forcing the church to allow gay marriage... and they are ardently opposed to it because it violates their doctrine.  The homosexuals are trying to force their beliefs on ancient institutions... which is wrong, Non-gay society wants to maintain the status quo, not force new ideas on people. \n\nSimple as it may sound it should not be allowed to maintain the status quo... and reality shows about gay marriage are horrible.\n\nAnyway, I am all in favor of people being able to pursue their own lives to their own end, but if they would simply allow a "gay marriage" which is nothing more than symbolic, in that it gets no benefit from the government, and is not done through the church I would be all for it... but they want to break through and rub their marriage in peoples faces, same as gay pride parades.
452020
Because polygamy is WRONG.  Marriage is about commitment between two people, not three, four, or five.  And there's nothing wrong with homosexuality.  I think they have as much a right to get married as anybody else, as long as its only to ONE person!
1082870
I'm kind of up in the air on it.... I'm not gay by the way. I also don't believe in God.\n\nOn one hand, gay couples would like to be recognized by the government as a couple so they can enjoy the same benefits of heterosexual couples (tax breaks, less car insurance, etc).\n\nThat's where the problem starts...\n\nThe government only recognizes MARRIED couples. If you want to get married, you probably believe in the Church (your marriage should mean nothing if you get married in the name of God but you don't actually believe in him). \n\nIf you believe in the church and its rules, then you know that God doesn't like it when two dudes want to get married. If gays know this, then why would they want to go against the will of God and marry another man? \n\nThe problem is the government forming laws based on religion. Most of the US has Christian beliefs, so they are against gay marraige. Yet most people in the US also agree that people are entitled to equal rights and benefits, regardless of sexual orientation. \n\nSo the government needs to open up and accept gay couples as they are. Forcing them to get married to be recognized as a couple is forcing gays to find loop holes in Church rules, so they can try and justify their right to be married in order to be recognized by the government... \n\nReligion says no to being gay, but the government/people say yes to giving gays equal rights. \n\nYou can't give everyone equal rights if they don't believe in the God that the US makes its laws by.
1078447
I have no earthly idea why people keep insisting on defining marriage!  Why is this such a big deal?  There are so many things that are truly imporant that we can put our energy into solving rather than someones desire to marry someone of the same sex.  You certainly wont stop them from having a relationship.  What are you doing that the government will decide to ban next?  Frankly, whatever goes on in my underpants is none of the governments business.  All of those who are in support of BIG GOVERNMENT telling you how to conduct your private lives had better watch out, you may get more than what you bargained for.  Obviously, since this question keeps coming up over and over, there are more people out there that have little else to do but worry about this nonsense.  If this has to do with Christianity, divorce, partner swapping, adultery, sexual abuse, spousal abuse, etc. have already made a mockery of marriage so who cares if homosexuals want a part of it.  I think there is something in that big Bible that you all are thumping that says that we have all have free will....Please stop trying to legislate morality and personal decision that have absolutly nothing to do with you.  If you dont want to marry someone of the same sex, DONT.  And no, I am not gay, I am just not so hypocritical that I feel I need to impose my lifestyle on others.
991773
homosexuality is really an expression of authority on part of one male and submission on the other,it is really strictly a male nonsexual behaviour inspite of what everybody wants others to believe.thats why women are hypnotized into believing they could possibly also have same sex attraction when obviously all sex with women is about men and family  and social life.its a fag conspiracy internationally,\nproof\nwhy would gay fags want to be married? what on earth could make 2 men who already practice their deviance in peace ,what would make them want to commit that ultimatwe parody of everything ultimately sacred ,of the building unit of society?what difference is it for them to be called husband and husband?\nit doesnt make any sense,it indicates that it is a subversive movment fed by the appetites of millions of perverts.
852446
The whole gay maariage thing is so bothersome to most because the gay people want to get married in churches \nnot even taking into account the act in itself is one of the sins of the bible and marriage well the word itself has been throughout\nhistory as the joining of a man and a women.  I do believe most Religious doctrines are upset that the use of marriage is being thrown around like the word is not a sacred bond between man and women that the word marriage should only be used to describe that bond of two opposite sex period.  Gay people must realize that word is sacred and is defined in the bible and many other books that have been written outside of the church sector.\nUse coupling, use partnering.  Marriage/married is a sacred word so if people are making this choice in life to be commiting a sin in the eyes of GOD then they should find their own word to remark on there relationship.
1126896
Anyone who says "boo" about this gay marriage issue is instantly labeled  a hate monger.  The truth is, the gay movement is causing a lot of trouble in their quest.  It can only harm our society in a myriad of ways.  They, as usual, are being selfish.\n\nPlease view www.homosexualityexplained.com
1139122
Because they think they are right and don't have respect for the beliefs of others.  You know, cuz a 2,000 year old book say to do this and do that, yet some of the "rules" are ignored while others are enforced.  Funny thing is, think about what the word gay meant just 50 years ago.  Think about how they spoke during Shakespeare's time almost 500 years ago.  Then they want to talk about interpreting something written almost 2,000 years ago?  Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.  Ok, then.
730481
A common belief among people is that different is wrong. Like if one person does not fit perfectly into the little box that is considered to be "normal" then there is something wrong with you. For instance, being gay to many people is "wrong" but when asked why the best they can come up with is because it is wrong. It is not wrong it is just different than what they are used too.
1094267
I am not sure I understand why you are under the impression that because a person believes that two people who are in love should be given the opportunity to be connected through matrimony is necessarily a cheerleader for the gay community. I think that all someone who is in favor of loving persons connecting through matrimony is in favor of is the confirmation that marriage is for people in love. Not necessarily heterosexuals, bi-sexuals, or homo-sexuals. To support the idea that something as beautiful as a lifetime committment to one another can only be reserved for one specific type of couple is, to me, more bizarre than I can comprehend.  There is no language in any of the bills that says you are required to like anyone in the gay community, or that you even are required to affiliate with anyone in the gay community, only that they can commit to one another in a \nrecognized ceremony.
1036173
It doesn't.  I think that marriage is a personal thing, so what marriage means to one person can mean something very different for another.  Unfortunately, this "institute of marriage" also means that you are allowed certain privileges and rights by the government that singles are not entitled to...that's what all the fuss is about.\n\nPersonally, I'm a straight single woman and I have many friends that are gay and straight.  I would have to say that of all my friends, I admire my gay friends the most .  They face scrutiny about their lives and personal beliefs on an everyday basis and at the end of the day, they stand proud of who they are and the lives they lead.  It is through this adversity that you truely understand yourself and your place in the world. I'm not sure I would fair so well if I had to constantly justify my life and my decisions. Kudos to those that stand up in the face of adversity.\n\nLet gays marry so they can be unhappy like the rest of us. =-)
823928
"I want to marry my dog"\nOk there's your example.  It is a slippery slope argument.  The institution of marriage was intended to be a sacred bond between one man and one woman.  What happens when you go outside of that?  The next step is polygamy.  Why shouldn't a man marry his favorite 12 women?  Let's take it farther: Why shouldn't a man marry a young boy, if the boy is consenting?  Why shouldn't beastiality be acceptable to the government as legit?  What about incest?  Why shouldn't a woman be allowed to marry a tree?\n\nThe danger is the cheapening of marriage and making a mockery of it.  This breeds apathy, which is what brought down the Roman Empire.
967651
Mankind uses words to convey ideas and specify meanings. A marriage is not a same sex union! I believe that the word "marriage" is ALREADY defined as a union between man + woman.I don't really understand why the Gays' seem to want to use the term "marriage"- when a lifelong civil union w/ equal government /economic recognition is what they want. I believe that same gender couples should be able to obtain a Same Sex Union Certificate which would entitle them to the same economic and rights of survival benefits AND difficulties if they seek a divorce from their mate/spouse. They too MUST be required to file for divorce,settle their shared assets, change their wills, redesignate beneficiary status etc. \n\nThe government is NOT really concerned about WHO your spouse or pardner/mate IS. The IRS has to apply the correct proceures/ formulas based on the "status" -->individual/ joint/ age etc. \n..Now "gay" unions are off the books; The Same Sex Union Certificate would provide the same documentation as a marriage certificate. As for the states and individual companies, they will have to decide whether they will change their policies on many items..i.e. payment of a pension to the deceased spouse(married) or non divorced pardner(same sex union). \n---The gay lifestyle is another topic....some people do not believe that same sex unions are \n"normal"...they do not produce the next generation..they are in conflict with their religious beliefs.  Thier beliefs are AS STRONG as the belief held by gays that they are not  abnormal,..they should be able to have an intimate relationship and seek happiness with whoever they want ...\nSO simply put..a piece of paper (same sex union) can achieve economic equity BUT individual Humans can and do  choose what they want to accept or believe in. Heterosexuals and homosexuals need to recognize this concept...NO ONE IS guaranteed that they will be liked and accepted.