who thinks that it is better to be more independent, rather than to always want someone to give you something?
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sometimes we or need someone to lean on, but never expect result all the time just have little spirit to do it on your own and believe that you can get it done better.\n\ntry at least so you do not just be a slacker.
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That is an interesting view of things.  I have always had an inclination the exact opposite direction, that is, to help my family first, then my town, then state, country, the world.  I'm not saying this is right and the way you are talking about is wrong.  I guess it's just that when I have some money to donate, and I look around, and right there is my own family member who is barely getting by, then how can I let him starve while feeding a stranger?\n\nBut what you are saying is a good philosophy.  For if I were to help the country, then perhaps there would be this "trickle-down" effect to my own family member.  I think there may be something to that.  I just wish I was a billionaire and could help everyone!
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Better to be one`s own boss than someone else`s servant.
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i think its both... independence and fear, but mostly fear. i have been one of those people. sometimes when u feel that ur getting really close to someone you get scared... this might sound weird but you think that it would be easier for you to hurt yourself by taking yourself away from that person then that person leaving you. it took a while for me to notice what i was doing. hang in there with the person that you are talking about, you just need to show them that you're not going anywhere and that there is nothing to be afraid of.
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It depends. Sometimes it's better alone cause you still have lots to learn and you may make mistakes or be taken advantage of. But, when the time is right, it can be great to work with others, but you must be open minded, listed, say, and, above all, trust.
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Sometimes it is better that way.  Sometimes you only want them because it seems that you can't have them.  It is part of our nature to always want something that is just out of reach.  Know that if you lived close to each other and were both single you probably wouldn't want each other for very long.
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I would prefer having the love of your life because money is relative. There are tons of poor people who seem to more happy than people with loads of personal possessions. It seems like they found love and somehow they survive relying on the strength of each other.
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Both!!\nDepends on the situation, my character and my mood.\nI am a giving person, buy often I am very selfish with my time.
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I AM better off being alone. Until things change in my life, that is the way I prefer it to stay. Not cynical, just the plain truth.
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The easiest way I can explain this to you is the way my father taught me.\nHe taught all of his children there was NOTHING wrong with wanting something LIKE what someone else had, but we must NEVER want what they have.\nBy teaching it that way, we learned NOT to be jealous of other people or their possessions.\nSo, in answer to your question, I guess no one took the time or caring to teach them NOT to be jealous or envious.
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This is just life. It if weren't for the bad times, we wouldn't enjoy the good ones as much.\nIt seems like you are too good and willing to give what you have to help somebody, I used to be this way also, but the truth is if you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will, and if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anybody else.\nWe can't just be as free with what we have as when we were\nteenagers, then we had time to gain it back, now we need to hold on to what we have. I would recommend that you break the cycle of helping too much, I have the feeling you help others, not just the men in your life. If you are a person who feels the need to help others, then there are plenty of volunteer opportunities out there and it won't cost you money. But I know that sometimes we feel that love is worth any cost, but you end up losing by giving  all and then having nothing left for your own needs.\nUnless you are extremely wealthy, I suggest you start trying\nto take care of your needs, and when that is done, be putting something aside for your own future when you need it.
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I dont want either party to decide for me. I want them to do their job and protect me.  I can decide for my self thanks.  And when you make decisions for other groups that effects me that is wrong too.  I dont want to pay for your ineptness to take care of your self.  thats why I work look it up its a novel concept.
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people might be needy but u would't konw.it depend on ur(individual)atitude.
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I am normally a generous person, and in the past when I have had extra money,  I have given money to people that were less fortunate. However, given my financial circumstances at the moment (my wife lost her job earlier this year and we are trying to survive on one income right now), I would probably keep most of it for myself and my family.
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If you think about it, you may realize that anyone can be put in the postition of needing another's help.  Does it make you less of a person if you help the other guy?  No, of course it doesn't.\nIt's kind of a gift to the world if you can put your old emnity aside and do the person a good turn.\nThanks (from the world).
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Super no! Right on with having your personal time! I myself am just learning to be independent.Its nice to know that other people are functional and happy enjoying their own company! Thank you for your question!
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I would say I an a giver and I sometimes don't like it because people take advantage of me at times. They don't appreciate the kind of person that I am.