i dont like this guy but i have 2 marry him what shall i do?
143450
No, don't do that. It will be bad for both of you.
427754
Don't marry him.  Intamacy problems should only begin once you are married, not before.  This does not bode well for your relationship.  Plus, don't ever take a guy back who has cheated on you twice, let alone twice with the same person.  Move on before it gets messy.
827179
he was never yours to begin with. You need to find happiness in your own backyard. find out what you need to make your own marriage happy, and filled with the  passion that you shared with this other man.
864952
U NEED TO  DO WHAT MAKES U HAPPY, SO WHAT UR FRIENDS DON'T LIKE HIM\n\nTHIS IS UR ONLY CHANCE\n\nBE BLUNT, FOWARD, HONEST, AND OPEN COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO REMEMBER\n\nWHAT HAPPENS IF U END UP MARRYING THIS PERSON ?\n\nU NEED TO LET UR FRIENDS KNOW WHERE U STAND, THAT THERE ARE THINGS THAT MAKE U HAPPY AND IF THEY CAN'T ACCEPT IT THEY DON'T HAVE TO.\n\nI HAD THIS PROBLEM SEVERAL TIMES, AND I EXPRESSED MYSELF TO BOTH PARTIES, AND THEY BOTH UNDERSTAND HOW I FELT, AND GUESS WHAT ?\n\nI ENDED UP MARRYING HIM BECAUSE I KNEW THAT THIS WAY MY ONLY CHANCE\n\nAND AS FAR AS MY FRIENDS WERE CONCERNED, THEY ACCEPTED IT, AND THEY SHOWED RESPECT TO ME\n\nWE BOTH PROVED THEM WRONG, THEY SAID THAT WE WOULDN'T LAST NO MORE THAN 6 MONTHS, AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS
515552
I would not be nice to these men anymore.. if they dont respect your marriage they do not respect you. Tell them to F oof and leave you alone. Heidi
588405
If you totally can't decide then that means you don't like anyone of them, so leave both of them and find someone you really like. Tell them direcly that you don't like them.
297072
4 words i dont like him
569310
Only you can make that decision.  But here is a way to help you choose.\nTake a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.\nOne one side write pros and the other cons.\nOn the pro side write all the things you like about him as well as the things that make you feel good.\nOn the con side write all the things you dont like about him as well as the bad habits you may not like.\n\nAlso list the things that you want out of a marriage and rate if you think he can provide those things.\n\nAsk yourself, do I feel I can spend the next 20 years or so with this man?\nDoes he want the same things out of life I do?\nMost important, are you comfortable around him?\nDoes he make you feel safe, secure and loved?\n\nNever marry someone that you think you can change.  If they don't you will be miserable.\nWeigh all the good and bad and then decide.\n\nAlso remember, no one is perfect, love someone in spite of the little annoying habits.  Marriage is a compromise the blending together of 2 people.\nMarriage is also like a pair of sissors.  Once joined together at the middle they will crush anyone trying to come between them.\nGood luck.
324225
Maybe you should both go to a coulselor and put the wedding on hold. That's what I would do. No need to rush into a wedding if you cannot get along.
222676
Stay away from him. It will only bring trouble. Find a nice single guy. \n\nHe will never love you enough to leave his wife and family. You'll be in the unhappy position of "the other woman".
335411
There is never one "right" answer. You need to get your priorities straight--do what is good FOR YOU before you jump into one or the other relationship. Marriage isn't all fun and games: If you decide you don't like one guy after you tie the knot, you probably won't have a second chance at the second guy. You (nor anybody else) can't see the future to determine if you will or won't get divorced. Learn to love yourself first before jumping in. You do sound like you need some more growing up time. Take it easy!
627622
Go out w both till you know who you like better. its not like they are asking you to marry them or something....
554612
i would leave him. (i read your quesiton about how you want your friend to be the maid of honor not your sister as your fiance wants) If he doesnt like your best friend than things arent going to be good in the future. When you get married and live together what is going to happen when she comes over? Or wants to babysit your children? Needs a place to stay?\n\nNow back to what you just said. You are doing fine. You are just freaking out about how this could have happened since at first you two were both in love and now you arent.\n\nYou might need some help getting over your love. Its a good thign you are going somewhere where your friends and family are. I would be so upset and need friends and family to cheer me up.\n\ngood luck!
632593
Confront him and Break your engagement, his not worth it, you deserve better. Dont let him sweet talk you, he did it once, he'll probably try again if you give him a second chance
305648
If you want to continue a relationship with the guy, take the time to tell him off. Prepare your attack and research the subjects. Use good quotes. You will have the guy so flustered that he will have to spend time to come back at you with his counter-attack. Well, this will go on for a long time and you will have so much time invested in each other that you may as well get married to him. If you do not want to marry him, or you are alread married, don't waste your time.
85008
u should tell him frankly that u dont like him. truth always works and creats little problem rather than lie.
1089819
I understand your question and I know the answer to it. You WANT to marry this man, not live with him. You should tell him, we either get married, or I have to move on. Then do what you need to do(and we both know he won't marry you) so you need to move on. Pretty simple really. He is NEVER going to marry you, if he has not in ten years. Good Luck!!