what do i have to do to keep a long-distance relationship working?
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Trust and Understand.  Know that it is hard to not see each other all the time.  Trust that he isn't lieing to you. Communication is needed.  You have to be able to listen and talk to each other.  And of course love.
493248
No, it hard to make relationship work when you are together, so you know it's hard long distance.  The person is never the person they pretend to be at a distance.
979292
Long distance relationships can work, contrary to popular belief.  My husband and I spent most of our courtship while far away from each other.  There are a few things that you HAVE to do in order for these types of relationships to work.\n\nFirst, you have to set boundaries and rules.  Express to your significant other about what they do when they're out and about that makes you uncomfortable.  Do you not like when he goes out with his single friends?  Do you hate it when he drinks too much?  Make sure that you are also making sacrifices if your significant other asks.  These relationships are always about give and take.\n\nSecond, you have to make time for each other.  Phone calls and letters work best when you're really far apart.  If it's possible, save your money and plan a trip to see him.  If that's not possible, I would try to talk on the phone at least twice a day.  Try to write letters daily as well.\n\nThird, you have to keep in mind that a relationship is what you put into it.  If you put in great things, you will get great things in return.  Good luck, and I hope that your relationship works out for the best.
488139
The long-distance relationship (LDR) has many advantages and disadvantages. Generally, unless this is The One it is best avoided. But at some point most of us will meet a person who is or seems to be so sexy/smart/nice/funny that the disadvantages will be temporarily obscured, and an LDR will ensue. Thus I offer the following suggestions. \n\n1) Get a really good long-distance calling plan. A plan that offers unlimited calling for a low monthly rate is best. When the LDR is good, you will no doubt want to call your loved one everytime you have a good day (or a bad day) or learn something new; in fact, you will want to call everytime you breath. When it is bad, you will want to call to be reassured that it is not bad, or to fight. These phone calls will add up to lots of money, and a big phone bill arriving after you have broken-up will cause bitterness. (Damn, I could have called people I like!)\n\n2) Get used to long periods of abstinence followed by a brief weekends of having tons of sex with a person you barely know anymore. Actually, this isn't unlike my normal state of being except that when you are in a LDR, you know that there is someone you could be having sex with regularly but for the cruel facts of geography. And if an opportunity to have sex with a stranger arises, you will have to say no, or suffer from guilt which will erode the LDR. And remember, even if your loved one is thousands of miles away, it is a small world. You will get caught! \n\n3) If you can develop an enjoyment of suffering than you will love being in an LDR! Learn to brood, wear black clothing to signify your dispair and always remember to share your pain with friends. Because they care they will want to listen to long accountings of how great your long-distance love is, and how painful the seperation is to you. If they don't, then they aren't your real friends. If at the demise of the LDR you find yourself without friends, well this will suit your new, darker personality. After all, we all die alone in the end. \n\nFinal note: If possible, try to have an open relationship. This will allow you the freedom to sleep with other people without the above mentioned guilt. And since your loved one is far, far away, you probably won't have to actually meet any of the people s/he dated in your absence
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first you must remember that there are many kinds of love, second if you were hoping it was the kind of love that could bring you two together you may have a lot of damage control to do after your constant begging (your own words) remember Patience is truly a virtue. \n\nlong distance relationships are tricky because the lack of contact breeds and multiplies many emotions that don't accompany traditional relationships due to mystery anticipation and many other factors my advice to all who are considering  LD relationships is to truly evaluate the reality of what would be invovled in eventually closing the gap because one requirement for success is that the gap must eventually be closed one way or another
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It's really difficult to make a long distance relationahip work. It takes a lot of time, effort, sacrifice and money. My friend was living in London, had a boy-friend in Canada and parents in SE Asia. She was constantly having to answer and make phone calls to all aspects of the globe at really odd times. She also had to deal with life in uni. It was really hard for her get much of anything done besides talk on the phone or send emails. Eventually though she decided to stick with the boyfriend and got transferred to an uni in Canada to be with him. She loved him too much to give him up. That's eventually what all long-term relationships come down to. If you really truely want to be together then you'll find some way to amke it work. If you are not that committed it's best to break it off before one of you inadvertantly does something to hurt the other.
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I went out with someone who lived in Spain when I was living in Ireland, I am now married to him and we are about to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary, so yes, long distance relationships can definitly work, you just have to be prepared to work at them!!
893083
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
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One. You can ask in the very first email, if you are charming enough and clever about it. Better yet, get her to ask to meet you.\n\nBe sure that you two are able to physically meet each other fairly easily - in other words, not living so far apart that it becomes a hassle to meet. While long-distance relationships can and do work, for many people they are just too much trouble and nearly impossible to pull off well. So, be sure that both of you are comfortable.\n\nJust ask, and be confident. There is no "prescribed length of writing" in these sorts of relationships.
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In my opinion, I would think that both of you would have to accept the concept of "long-distance relationships" to begin. If one is thinking "long-distance" and the other is thinking "he/she will come visit me" but he/she doesn't, then that will be a problem itself. Secondly, I believe you both have to want the relationship to work out bad enough to where the distance doesn't bother either of you. Again, if one is feeling incomplete because the other is not there, then maybe you two should spend more time getting to know each other. Lastly, communication is key. If you say you're going to visit him/her, DO IT. Don't come up with eXcuses as to why you couldn't make it. That will prove whether or not you want it (him/her/the relationship) bad enough. Sacrifices will have to be made, and if one or neither of you are up to the task, then what is the point in being in a long-distance relationship?\n\nHope that helped!
78264
Long distance relationships are VERY difficult. You have to be able to trust the other person without question. I'm speaking from experience! To make it work you have to get to know each other first, and make the effort to see each other as often as possible. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but in some instances it forgets. Just be careful.
984657
Prepare for a long distance relationship and hope he wants to keep it going too.
512649
The key to maintaining a long distance relationship is constant communication. I know it may be expensive to phone him everyday so try other ways like email him, send him free e-cards to express a certain feeling (like "I miss you" or "Thinking of you"), for example. There are tons of free e-card websites. Hallmark.com is a great one, and you just have to register first which is free and then you can send as many e-cards as you want. Take advantage of holidays where he might be coming back down to visit his family or you go up there to visit him. If he really is into you and wants to make the relationship work, he will have no problem paying for 1/2 the ticket or cost to go up there and spend time with him, and vice versa if he wants to come down and spend time with you. I'm not going to lie to you, a long distance relationship is difficult and definitely involves more work than a regular one, but you CAN make it happen if you BOTH really want to. Good luck sweetie.
1089265
A long distant relationship can work, it both parties are truly committed.  However, it all depends how long you will be apart from eachother...  If it is just until school is finished, that's different, but if it's because you both just live in different states, then that is something to think about... \n\nSometimes one person will get tired of being lonely and tired of not being able to see each other on a regular....\n\nIt can work, but will take a lot of hard work....\n\nGOOD LUCK
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what is a long-distance relationship?\n\nThe first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.\nIf a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.\n\nThe couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..\n\nThere are three basic options when dealing with long distance relationships: the couple can remain faithful to each other; they can date other people and see what happens; or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.\n\n\nremaining faithfully yours\n\nOne option is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. This way of thinking is very popular among young lovebirds, new to the journey of romance.\nThey tend to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle. This often applies to couples that get separated for education reasons.\n\nWhat happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer.\n\nBut if the woman, for example, decides to hold back and not date anybody during her time away from her boyfriend, he should also be saving himself for her. Right? In an ideal situation, this would be the plan. But unfortunately, that's not always possible.\n\nThe guy in question might start fooling around, but will eventually feel guilty about it, even if six months have passed since he last saw his girlfriend. \n\nThe problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?\n\nSimply having made a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while they were apart, and seeing if they still felt the same way about each other once they were reunited, could have prevented this situation. Hence, the second category for a long-distance relationship.\n\n\nlet fate take its course\n\nThis same principle applies to any couple in the initial stage of dating: they are together but they're not committed.\nBoth follow the unwritten rule of allowing each other to date other people until they feel the need to be exclusive\nThis is a perfectly rational way of looking at potential long distance relationships. What if, for example, unavoidable circumstances force the woman to leave and desert her mate in the early stages of the relationship.\n\nAlthough some couples develop faster than others, common sense should always be of the essence, as emotions sometimes tend to run away with us.\n\nThe underlying idea here is that impossible promises should not be made and only a reciprocal, genuine affection for each other will decide the couple's fate.\n\nIf staying together is not in your cards, it soon becomes obvious, and ending the relationship is the only solution. This way, there won't be any broken hearts or unnecessary lies.\n\n\nsee other women\n\nIt's a smart thing to slow down a love connection at an early stage in order to avoid any heartache, especially if you know you will be separated shortly. \nThe ideal solution would be to not get involved with anybody knowing that you will be required to be separated for a long period of time.\n\nBut if you decide to go ahead and start dating this woman, then do it wisely and know that your days together are numbered.\n\nThe smart thing to do in this case
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To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
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I am having same Problems with my long distance boyfriend.  Will be interested to see the answer's here.