What is more attractive to you when looking for a long-term relationship: intelligence or empathy?
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empathy of course .. you dont want some ahole that is smart and then one day down the road treats u like a pile of crap
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Intelligence\nWit\nHonesty\nLoyalty\npositive outlook.......happy!\n\nSomeone that needs me as much as I need him. Someone that genuinely enjoys being around me as much as I enjoy being around him. :)
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Hmmmmmm, here I go being Shallow Hal again, but I can't help being truthful. There first has to be some sort of attraction in the physical sense, and for most of us that means different attributes. After the initial attraction, I listen to them speak and watch how they treat other people. I look for people who are intelligent, but not arrogant or bossy. I like confident women, but not mean spirited or waspish ones. People who show respect for others without being wishy washy or kissing ass also get high grades from me. Most of all I look for people who are confident enough with themselves that they realize they don't have to try and change or "improve" others around them. That, to me is a manifestation of great inner insecurity and a lack of sensitivity and respect for others.
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You pick someone who makes you feel special.  Someone who complements you- not in a literal sense.  The first things I notice:  bright eyes- pay attention to me, show interest & understanding in what we're talking about.  Intelligence- be able to 'talk' with me about varied subjects.  Dress/manner- dress well & appropriate for the situation.  Confidence- know who you are without being overbearing.
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Hi AJ,\n\nThe most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad.  That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top.  A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.\n\nBTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
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kindness and softness always win..me personnally (i am a man 27 years) an ideal girl is the one who cares about me \n(and who cares about the the problems of the humanity..a girl intelligent and serious..but nor an ice cube..
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Humor - a guy has to make me laugh, and be able to laugh at himself, or at least not take himself too seriously.  My boyfriend is really funny, and everywhere we go, he can make people laugh...even angry grocery store clerks.  Intelligence is equally important - including overall knowledge of what's going on in the world, politics, and also problem solving skills, objectivity.  Caring about other people is also a big one - compassion and eagerness to help others by volunteering or just helping someone with directions.  And with all of this, he's got to be "manly" - as stereotypical as that sounds, I like a guy that isn't too emotional, is physically strong, knows how to fix stuff around the house, and helps me do things that are easier for him - like carry heavy luggage, etc... \n\nI just realized that I've described my boyfriend perfectly...so I'm suddenly very happy to realize what I have!  Thanks for asking!
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Empathy: Rare trait.  However, I am exceedingly empathetical as well as being fairly astutr in psychological matters; interactions and the like.  I'm basically asocial and asexual, while unusually fond of feet: specially female feet.  Therefore not in humor, although it may seem so, if Sam is Samantha and it be a pretty foot she got, I'd value giving you a relaxing feet massage after you've walked your hard mile.  That's some form of empathy in supposing you'd have somewhat sore feet.
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dazzlingly cever...intelligence can be extremey sexxxy.  beauty only take you so far and will fade in due time
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Every one has their own opinion in what they look for in the opposite sex, here's mine,\n\n     1: A job , no one wants to carry someone Else's weight.\n     2:Funny , smart , outgoing, can contain themselves when need be.\n     3.Some type of physical attraction.\n    \n     " would it be a bad thing if she didn't talk alot"\n if meeting someone face to face for the first time, i think it would be good to make conversation to help "break the ice" or at least make it comfortable for both people, i like being able to have a comfortable silence without the other person thinking, your dull or your vocabulary is on the low side.\n-Ross
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depends on what your intentions are... if you're looking for long-term, he has to be someone you can and want to trust and has a personality you can find attractive.  it goes much much deeper, but everything else falls into place around that\n\nif you're looking for a short-term relationship, don't keep high standards; just enjoy it while it lasts.
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I would favor an intelligent woman over either of the above choices.\n\nHowever, since you asked, I suppose I'd rather have a pretty girl with an OK body. Body shape/size doesn't especially mean all that much to me. It's pretty superficial. The real turn-ons would be brains and class.
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i prefer ok looking/good personality because looks eventually fade but personality is for life.and i'd want to be with someone who makes me happy when i'm around them.also lust only lasts for so long but love is forever.
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I like someone who can have a conversation about anything and who loves to laugh. Hot as hell doesn't hurt, but what makes a woman really sexy is smarts and charm.
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Intelligence ... hands down ... If they are intelligent, more than likely they are smart enough to have a sense of humor ... Dumb gets boring REALLY QUICK!!!
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Love:  I'm more interested in what's best for you.\n\nLike:  I'm more interested in what's best for me.
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both.  but if my options are...\n\n1. beautiful face/no sense of humor.\n2. cute/funny\n\ni would choose the latter.