help me talk with my wife?how to make her feel comfortable?how can i romance her?
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Remind your wife that she knew you had kids before you were married and that she accepted you knowing that.  Don't just worry about her feelings consider those of your children.  Do you really think it will be so easy for them?  Your responsibility to them comes first.  They will always be a part of your life.  It is not fair for your wife to make you feel bad about taking care of your kids.  No matter what this will be hard on all of you and just remind your wife that you love her and your children and that it would make you very happy to know that she supports you in the good times and in the bad.
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My guess is that you're not talking about a day-to-day thing. What you want is for her to get dressed up and for you two to have crazy monkey sex. Awesome.\n\nIf you two talk about your sex life, bring it up during one of those conversations. Say "You know what might be fun to try one time?"\n\nDon't try to change the whole of your sex life in a day. A good guideline is that only 1 in 3 sexual encounters with your partner should be "enhanced" or "special". If you were to start asking her to dress up like a porn star every time you two made love, she would likely feel less than confident.\n\nIf you two are open enough, head on over to a strip club. Buy her a lapdance. I went to a club and got one and it was superfun. I left the club thinking it might be fun to dress up like a stripper sometimes. Your wife might get the same ideas.\n\nHowever, if you bring it up and she says something along the lines of "I'm not a tawdry whore", make it clear that you want her to be beautiful and classy, just like she already is. If she still says no, drop it. The more you pressure her, the more she'll feel like you don't like her for who she is.\n\nMost women will agree to do something that they're not entirely into every once in a while for the sake of their partner. Besides, if you respond enthusiastically, she's more likely to do it again.\n\nGood luck!
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Start making a good faith effort to make things go better between you. Then keep making that good faith effort day after day until it pays off. And then keep right on making that good faith effort day after day, or she will feel like you tricked her, and you will be worse off than before.\n\nIn short, there is nothing like a husband who tries hard to make the marriage a good marriage to make a wife feel friendly toward him.
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Is your wife under more stress than normal? As far as not knowing what your wife wants, ask her. I'm sure she'd be happy to let you know.
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Both are new to each other, so firstly I suggest u to understand your wife, her likes and dislikes, tell her ur ambitions, goals, etc about your future plans how to lead ur life, so that u both would be leading a happy life in future without any divercifications of mind, be crystal clean in your talks now only.
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The question you need to answer is WHY are you having a big problem reaching a clim** with your wife?  Have you talked with her about what's going on with you?  How do you think SHE feels?  Put ROMANCE into your marriage ... ask her if she'll dress up especially for you and see if that makes a difference.  It may also help you to seek professional help, but with your feeling "old" at 57 (which ISN'T!) I think you and your wife have just gotten into a rut.  Good luck!
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massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
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first off, congrats. it's not easy to make it to 10 years, so cheers for you!\n\nnow, let's get down to business. here's a couple things to try to keep that spark alive, or hopefully to ignite things if they've gone a little cold.\n\n1) give sexy gifts spontaneously.\n\nlisten, you're not kids anymore; you love each other, and sex is part of that. you don't have to be embarassed of being straightforward about your sex life. that being said, it's okay to give each other sexy, suggestively romantic gifts. a couple of ideas:\n\n-for the man: get your wife something romantic, like a bottle of wine with a ribbon wrapped around it along with a sexy romance novel for those nights when you can't be there. the book will get her mind racing with all these creative new ideas for your love life, and the wine will provide a bit of "liquid courage" to get the ball rolling. =)\n\n-for the woman: honestly, nothing can be sexier to us than YOU, simple as that. but show us that you're in the mood, and that you don't mind sex as a way to express love. pick up a bit of lingerie, and surprise us in a place that's NOT the bedroom. \n\ntry taking your man out to lunch, and telling him in the middle of the meal that you've got a lacy black thong on. then, watch how fast he gets the check taken care of so that he can whisk you home. ;)\n\n2) communication.\n\nwe've all been there: it's been a long day, and the last thing you want to do is have a marathon sex session when you come home. for the guy, watch your woman's mood -- if she's been picking up after the kids all day, DON'T bug her about when dinner's going to be ready. instead, make her feel appreciated and maybe even lend a helping hand to the things she has left to do. the appreciative feelings flooding through her system will shoot straight to her crotch. trust me.\n\nand for the lady: take care of your man -- he won't admit it, but he's a big baby. he's probably super stressed from his day of work, and even if it seems like he wants to talk about it, don't let him. instead, completely take care of his needs -- give him a back rub, make a nice steak or something (i like pasta, personally) and don't try and bring up the things he's stressed about. you'll be amazed that, as his mind is relieved from the things that stress him out, he'll have much more time and energy to focus on you.\n\n---\n\nwell, that should get the ball rolling. i would post more, but everyone here at Y! Answers has the attention span of speedy gonzales (not a racist joke) =U|\n\ngood luck, and may the relationship spice up dramatically!
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Start light :)\n\nSmile at her. Tell her you are going for a nice evening walk and ask her if she wants to come with you. In that order. Repeat often~  \n\nAlso, if you have a small yard or a park nearby Bocci Ball is a fun way to get yourselves standing, bending and walking back and forth in the open air. It's a good low impact activity (like a quiet sexy elegant italian version of bowling) that could inspire more physical fun in your day to day life. If you have kids they can join in. It's so fun. If she won't play sober add a glass of wine to the invite. She'll like that. And one glass of wine a day has health benefits. And can spark romance. Ohh La La. ;) Go for it!\n\nIf you have a yard plant a vegetable garden with her. It's nice light physical work and spiritually healing. You'll be eating more veggies which means more energy, less sleeping.\n\nWalk to restaurants instead of ordering in. If you live in too rural an area to do that, drive to the restaurant but park a few blocks away and walk over.\n\nPose these things as small little daily romantic adventures that you have planned for you and her. These are things you are doing for her, and you as a couple so you can both continue to find joy in being alive and well together for a long time.\n\nMore motivation techniques:\nHold hands, kiss her in the kitchen, hug her in the den. Just small acts of physical affection will make you both feel more energized. Plus the chance that her husband may sweetly flirt with her will make a woman want to do more things to make herself more attractive.
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Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
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maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!
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never close the doors of communication. live like two best friends and share your inner thoughts and secrets. don't be afraid to bear your soul ... the good, the bad and the ugly.  and be non-judgmental, understanding and accepting when your spouse does.\n\nwhen problems arise, all of our discussions take place in a bubble bath with a bottle of wine and one rule: no one leaves the tub until the issue is resolved or we agree to disagree. (it's hard to argue in the nude and so easy to kiss and make up)\n\nalways do unto others as you would have them do unto you. in other words, if you wouldn't "eat" it, don't "serve" it.
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Make sure that she is relaxed and in the mood for intimacy before you initiate a sexual encounter with your wife.  She will probably respond best if you are considerate of her feelings outside of the bedroom and take your time to please her.  If you do that, your reward will be worthwhile.
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Problem??? you dont want to be 'with" your wife??? then why you going to get married??\nwhat does she think? ask her this question\nmarried people should communicate TO each other and not online.\n\nTALK TO YOUR "NEW WIFE", COMMUNICATE TO HER!!!! \nSHE CAN TELL WHAT SHE LIKES AND TAKE IT FROM WHAT SHE TELLS YOU!!!\nDONT JUST DO IT THE MANY TIMES THAT PEOPLE SUGGEST ONLINE::\nTHEY DONT KNOW YOUR WIFE OR YOU.\nONLY YOU 2 KNOW HOW OFTEN YOU BOTH WANT TO. NO ONE CAN GIVE YOU A NUMBER!!!!\nBE CONSIDERATE OF HER FEELINGS. TALK TO HER!!!!!
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Good communication makes relationships work.\n\nWhat to chat about:  Ask your girlfriend about how her day went, what she wants to do, where she wants to go with you.  When you're interested in her, it'll make her feel more special. Then when she's done, share with her your experiences...\n\nSo go ahead and chat with your girlfriend.  Enjoy! =)
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Have the bedroom set up nice like clean just in case things get really headed and  you dont trip over something.  Maybe start by giving her a nice massage. Nice and gentle..you dont want to hurt her. Then turn it into foreplay but don't rush it. Wait till she gets really in the mood. Then do something different. Don't always do the same old sex position. And if you go down south make sure you do a little bit of everything. Use your finger use the lips and the tongue. Some candles and rose petals will go great before the massage. Good luck
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Some people have a hard time communicating with this subject. For one do lots of touching and kissing. All over her whole body from neck down her back her stomach etc. Then whisper to her how she wants it. Start talking dirty to her. I gaurantee she'll love it. Funny thing is is I can tell you this but I haven't quite gotten it across to my husband yet.