what to do when you feel unatractive to women??
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Attractiveness in in the eye of the beholder. I have dated men in the past that have been unconventionally attractive because I loved their mind or personality. It all depends on what  each person finds attractive. Just be the most confident you can be without being arrogant and show the women what you have to offer.
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Your problem is that you care that much about it.  Women can smell desparation (even very mild desparation; I'm not saying you're a basket case) from a mile away.\n\nRelax, & concentrate on being comfortable & having fun around women.  Confidence is more attractive.
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Do not ever worry about that. \nYou have to love your body whatever what and take a good care about that. The same with spirit, get to know it very well. Keep it working, you're already doing that...Your body is beautiful house for your divine spirit in this life. So, always be proud of who you are, because you are unique and nobody is like you are. \nMen are always respect it in women. They just can smell that confidence from you and it really attracts them. But remember do not pretend it or fake it. You REALLY have to learn how to love yourself and world around you.
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Seek true friendship among confident women. Women with low self-esteem do not like self-assertive women.
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It is called coveting... and it is a normal emotion. Why do you feel you can't get a woman? There are millions of women out there just waiting to be noticed. You will never find a mate if don't get out from in front of the computer and mix with the opposite sex... All of us have fears of rejection, but you just have to take the leap and put yourself out there, the risk is worth it. Peace.
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You need to talk to a professional therapist, these women have obviously messed with your head and you need to get all your emotions out in the open and then you will be able to move on, and you will be aware of what(not) to look for in a woman.
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Take a good look at yourself: If you were a woman would you find the person in the mirror attractive? What are some of the things you do that seem like the woman shy away from? If you work on those alone-that would be an improvement. Next is the obvious-- how is your hygiene? Do you shower, shave  and wear Cologne every day? Smelling clean, especially in the morning (you were supposed to have showered) is essential and have some cologne available for later too. Do not over do the cologne either-- you may attract the wrong gender! Also-- speaking of hygiene--or just speaking--brush you teeth and whiten them up!! A great smile is your first greeting card to anyone especially a woman. If you smoke--that may be a turn off right there. Non-smokers hate ashtray breaths!! Altoids work for a strong quick fix even if you do not smoke. Finally-- how is your wardrobe? Still wearing clothes from your garage or your grandparents? See what other people are wearing or at least up date a few shirts! Now you have a list to work on -- good luck with the women!!
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ask them questions.........ask them to help you out in anyway........ask to help them in anyways...........ask about their hair or clothing............make up excuses to communicate with them........are you really really shy? start by simply saying "Hello" to them as they pass you by as you walk..........very casual........make yourself comfortable with saying "Hello" to them. All of them! Say "Hello" to any woman......then when you feel comfortable with this add a simple question such as "Excuse me, do you know what time it is?" or "Pardon me, where is the nearest public telephone" As you have more experiences with women you will feel more comfortable approaching and talking to women you find attractive.
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Best Answer!\n\nI detect that recently you have come to a conclusion that men are demanding or suggestive towards what a woman should be. So much so they make you feel inadequate or less of person because they seek something from you that you cannot achieve in a short period of time.  \n\nBottom-line - It takes balance - mentally and physically to maintain a healthy relationship. \n\nA good man in time will develop confidence in his ability and will express a sense of being proud for his accomplishments as a good provider / home maker / etc. What most men have to learn is the type of woman he has on his team. Many of women will respect a man for his ability to be a good man, but do not want a man constantly reminding them he is the KING of the castle type of stuff.  Typically cats that get into that type of assertion need a pat on the back or someone to stroke their ego to make him feel like a man. That's not balanced. \n\nWomen on the other hand can enhance that assertion by not vocally/mentally showing up when its needed. She may play into the role of being needy and horribly insecure. She may always allow him to make decisions and suggestions - not learning to speak up and share her opinion concerning issues. So he figures he has to  take lead all the time. This too is not balanced. \n\nInstead of figuring this or that about what a man or women should its best to learn to communicate effectively ( not argue) in all areas of the relationship - from the bed to a night on the town learn to speak what's really good for both of you verses having this underline expectation of what a person should do. It will not take away from things naturally happening, but instead amplify things because you remove the doubts and negative uncertainty. This will clearly lower negative comments about a person not doing "their part" or feelings of someone is putting you down.
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It doesnt matter where you go or what you do as long as you pay attention to her, ask her a lot of questions about herself, and DONT look at other women.  Make her feel special.  Dont take her to a movie, though- you cant get to know someone that way.
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I would say try to focus on another goal....like exercise or school...just to take your mind off the loneliness.  I recently had my heartbroken...and it was HORRIBLE, I had school to keep me busy and tried to workout, but in the back of my mind I couldn't stop thinking about how much its sucked to be alone.\n\nSo look at yourself in the mirror and just think...GOD I AM GORGEOUS...and put a cute outfit that you have no business wearing..(like something usually reserved for a special occasion.)  Wear crazy earrings and your favorite perfume.  Keep your 23 suitors on hold, thats what guys do, they play the odds...your a woman, you take the pickens and don't settle.\n\nAll these jerks answering your quesiton are terds looking for points most likely....I genuinely hope that you feel better, just because I know how you feel.\n\nGood luck girl, just be confident and strut around like a supermodel...it will make you feel better.
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be yourself. show that u are a unique creature that very few women display. feel good about yourself too. when you do, it will show and you will find that they will fall out the trees and everywhere to see you. trust me.
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i am losing my beautiful  gf right now because of my own rediculous behavior seeking out attention by flirting with other women because of my own insecurities and feeling tha i am not attractive . if you're in love with him/ her find a way of getting past this or maybe you need to just have a mutual friendship rather than a relationship.
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Realization is the first step..What you have to ask your self now is, do you enjoy being stuipd? Do you enjoy being a whore? If the answers are yes and you are content, live your life the way you want. If your lifestyle is leaving you feeling empty, sad and full of self loathing, then you need to look at what truly makes you happy. That means you not everyone else.
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Be honest with yourself and get to the core of your feelings. \n\n Why aren't your current feelings fine? \n\nIs it that she is getting attention you'd like to have?  \n\nWhen women are pregnant, the conversation is dominated by people who tell pregnancy stories, child birth stories, baby stories.  This can alienate people who cannot relate. \n\nIt dominates the energy in the room, and your special experiences may 'pale' in comparison; which can make you feel less important, maybe?\n\nIs it because you are just not into children?  \n\nThere is nothing wrong with not being 'into' children.  Many of my girlfriends in school have no plans of having kids or only want one kid.  They are enjoying life and their careers and having too much fun without the 'burden' of having to care for children.\n\nDo not ever deny your feelings--feelings are not rational! You are never wrong for feeling the way you do. \n\nThe game plan is to get to the core of your negative feelings and letting them teach you about yourself.  Then deal with what you makes your feelings negative. \n\nUse this time to take care of yourself.  Develop friends and other relationships with people whom you share common interests and goals--that way you do not feel left out.  If having a family is your sister's 'thing' that is great.  Figure out what your 'thing' is.\n\nIf you are very content with your life, then you would be in a place to be happy for someone else without feeling guilty about how you feel.  \n\nYour life is too precious or too short to worry about what you SHOULD feel--embrace your feelings and let them teach you something about yourself.
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This is when you separate the "women from the girls"...Be Strong!  Believe me when I say, you are not alone in this.  It's happened to most of us and it's not a good feeling, but you do get over it....it just doesn't feel like it right now.  When people feel intimidated by you, they feel the need to boost their own shaky self esteem by putting someone else down and because your best friend probably knows everything about you, you are an easy target for her.  For whatever reason (she's jealous, you are prettier, you are smarter, whatever) she's decided to ambush your friendship.  The best thing you can do is to take the high road and don't sweat it.  The more people see that this bothers you the more they are going to tear you apart over it.  Blow it off and move on to new friends.  BUT..play your cards close to the vest for a while until you are sure you can trust them.  And you never know...maybe she's a friend who can redeem herself and who just made a mistake...only you can be the judge of that.  But if you do become friends again...go slow.  Are you sure you can ever really trust her again?  Good Luck.
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Hi,U know I used 2 have the same problem... first of all... DO NOT FEEL LESS than other people,second: if someone comes by N U start blushing or gettin nervious, just imagine that person stading in an empty space with NOTHING but the opposite sex's underwear on,THIRD: let GO,hang loose,B confortabe,if U pretend everything's under control everything WIIL B under control,N lay back  relaxed,keep in mind YOU ARE WAAAAY better than the rest and if U DO say something stupid DON'T GIVE A FUCKIN' SHIT ABOU WUT THEY SAY OR MIGHT THINK ABOUT U,\n\nN fInally,whe U put all these on practice N B-come a more confident guy,find a girl who's a bit shy N THAT will B the perfect girl 2 start a conversation with,N hopefully date.... well this is wut I did N now I have a much better life,I realy hope it works 4 U .\n\nFeel free 2 E-mail me @ : debbie_free2nite@yahoo.com