What can a person do with a boyfriends daughter who wants to control her fathers life?
143685
Maybe the problem is not the daughter, but the father. It could be that he is feeling guilty for something, or has pity, or remorse or something that is not letting him stand up to her and advise her to change her slovenly habits. Sorry, the father has to realize no one can control him unless he lets them,
337379
Boy, that's a sad story if I ever heard one.  This is going to take work.  When your girlfriend is stuck home doing stuff, maybe you could help out.  That would be a good way to show your girlfriend and her mother how loving and dependable you are.  Also, if you help take good care of her siblings, it will show what a good father you could be.  You need to work with your girlfriend to help her practice being independent.  I'm not sure exactly how to do it, but you need to unbrainwash her.
562697
Well, first I'd like to say that it's really sweet and romantic that you'd try and help her with her problem. kudos!\nThe problem is with her, not her dad. She's just going to roll over and help him, when she doesn't know that she may or may not be hurting him. Tell her that she should consider the possibility that she may be giving him drug money or alcohol money and it may kill him. So does she think she's helping him if she thinks of it that way? \nAnd look at it in the long run. If she doesn't stand up to her dad now, she might not be able to stand up to a guy in the future who may end up hurting her emotionally or physically. Good luck!
599724
Your Dad won't LET you get a sitter??  Tell him he needs to watch her.  Or, ask a neighbor to help you.
3780
you should get a good belt and invite her over and give her a good spanking.Enure no one can hear the trashing.\n\nEvery little girl needs discipline and that little brat is no different. \n\nI think first her father can not tolorate such behaviour not stopping her is effectively agreeing with her. Your boyfriend is a big part of this problem. Let him know you are very hurt by this and ask him to reprimand her when she cross the line.\n\nYou should try to build a good relationship with the brat,but don't become a friend you are an adult and you demand respect\n\nyou should also understand that the brat is jealous of you stealing her dad or replacing her mom, that hurts bad. I guess you should allow you to spend time with her talk to the brat and see how she feels, let the brat open up to you, you are not kissing ass but staking a mature and correct approach to the problem\n\nthis might tkae time so be paitent,however if you see that you are not making any progress and things are getting worst then you should allow her to spend time with her dad alone and have a miniture relationship wit the brat.\n\nyou should not be surprised by the use of the worrd "HOE" as she gets older into a teenage years you can expect bigger and nastier brawls right in your face.
207474
He is just jealous and as a father he has the right to make sure his daughter is in a safe place. As long as you aren't being harrased or thrown in jail,just keep letting them see how great the home is that you are providing for the child.Eventually they will stop because they will see their is no risk there.
281932
For the most part, I don't condone divorce, and I also understand that there are 2 sides to every story, but if what you are saying is true, then you shouldn't have to put up with this behavior.  This is emotional abuse, and you need to keep in mind that this not only affects you, but it will have a lasting impact on your daughter if his behavior doesn't change.  \n\nThe father becomes the role model for the type of man that your daughter will look for when she gets older.  So, you need to ask yourself if this is the type of man that you want your daughter to be attracted to?  It's easy to get caught in a generational sin/issue.  Meaning, we do often tend to end up like our parents, unless you make a conscious decision to break out of this pattern.  \n\nMen (and women too), can take their significant other for granted when that person puts up with the other person's issues.  Sometimes it takes a bold step to wake the other person up and make them realize that if they don't make changes in their life, then they can lose that life as they know it.  If you should decide to make that step, then you are NOT the one who needs to move out and make the drastic life change...he should.  Don't make this easy for him by letting him keep what he's comfortable with.  He needs to be held accountable for his attitude and actions.  Only then will he be forced to make a decision about what's truly important in his life.  \n\nLastly, if he decides that he wants to stay, don't let it be a temporary change.  If he starts to fall back into his old pattern, hold him accountable.  Remember, the life you live doesn't affect only you, it will also have an impact on your daughter.
840041
Sometimes, I have wished that, but never strongly enough to want to do anything about it.  You have a daughter and that ought to be good reason to keep going, even if things are rough between the two of you at the moment.  You have to set an example for her.    At the very least, you should keep reading the Job Classifieds, so that you can find something better than the one you have.  Can't you talk about this with anyone you know?  What happened to your boyfriend?
639434
You have a child now so the stakes have completly changed. If she is hateful and you have no parental control over your child, then you have ever right to want to leave. I understand you love your boyfriend, but sadly sometimes as a mother you have to choose between your and your bf personal happiness and the happiness/well being of your son. I think you should explain to your bf how you feel and tell him he can leave w/ you or you can go on your own. Then follow through w/ getting a place of your own, if he understands then he will come with you. You two can still go over everyday & check on her, but you need your own life as well!!! I hope everything works out for you and your family.
773544
On one hand, it's good that he keeps his girlfriends out of his daughter's life. On the other hand, four years is a long time. If you've been dating for four years, the breakup with the child's mother can't be too fresh. (I hope) If your boyfriend is unwilling to acknowledge you exist, it might be time to move on. \n\nSome kids can be pretty bitter when a parent starts dating someone new, but at 18, the daughter should be able to cope somehow.
428185
It is a good idea that he doesn't meet her till you are both sure where your relationship is headed. You don't want to confuse your daughter. Your daughter could also become attached to him and if you both decide to end the relationship it's one less thing you have to worry about.
849931
If she doesn't want to be with you, there is not much you can do.. Call her and express your sympathy for her father and tell her if she needs anything to give you a call.  After that, if she calls, then be patient and see what happens.  If she doesn't, let her be.
702857
Dad doesn’t have to compromise. He has every right to say NO.  You can go to court and ask for approval to move your child out of state.  You will have to convince a judge that it’s in your CHILD’s best interest to move and that it’s a significant enough reason to override Dad’s wishes.  How is you wanting to be closer to your boyfriend in your child’s best interest?  It’s not.  That’s in YOUR best interest.
633215
Your story is very difficult to follow.  So, if I understand, this guy and his underage girlfriend want to take your daughter whenever they want.  Unless there is a court order you DO NOT have to hand your child over.  Especially to another child or CHILD MOLESTOR.\n\nSince he is 19 and she is 15, (and was 14), you could turn him in for the contributing to the delinquency of a minor.  And from what you said, she is delinquent.  He's just perverted.  You don't need him in the childs life.  Sue for child support and block his access to your child.  He seems to like them young.\n\nIf he gets help PROFESSIONALLY then maybe some time in the future he may have rights to visit his child.  But until you can insure the safety of the baby, keep him and that wacko girlfriend away.  Make this clear to the judge.\n\nGood Luck
312175
I think that you are either in a different country or from some extreme ethnic background because the fact that they are not letting her out is kidnapping and forcible confinment! \nIf you are in America call the local police or hiatus house!\nIf you are in a different country I'm afraid there is nothing you can do, because a daughter has to listen to her father in many countries and may be killed for dishonoring her family if she runs off with you.
69593
He is her father and hopefully she can just tell him. Have her set up a "date" with him and let him know that she has something important to tell him at the end of the date.  He may be upset or confused at first but love will overcome everything else and he will accept her.
722655
This might not be the best advice, but it might work. Try to find out what your girl's other man did wrong that makes her father not wanting her to date. Try to find out as much about her father as you can. Try to relate to him, be a friend. Make him like you. Since it isn't a girls heart that you have to win here, its his. Father's are very protective of their little girls, just because of the way us guys think. So pretty much, just find the right way to prove yourself worthy to her father that you deserve to  \nbe with his daughter. If that don't work, then try to have your girl influence him by informing him on how you guys feel for eachother.