This is to all the ladies. Is it wrong to be close friends with your EX?
154722
It will depend on how open you are with your new girlfriend.  Keeping secrets about your relationship with your ex can make things tight when your new girlfriend finds out.  Be up front and honest with her, and openly tell her when you two spend time together and what you do together so that she isn't questioning in her mind what you two are up to {it's only human to do so, even if you trust the person} and it shouldn't be a problem.  Honesty is the best policy, and if she can't handle that, then I would look for another girl, or examine your friendship with your ex to make sure it is a healthy one, and one you should keep in the context it's at.  Good Luck! :)
1178005
No, keeping in touch with your ex, unless you were really close before is not good.  I don't stay close to my ex because he told a friend of mine that we screwed when I never even saw him in the 8 days we went out.  Staying close to your ex is never going to help you get over that person.  HOPE THIS HELPS!!!!!!!!
219497
I totally understand what you have been through.  I think she could still be your friend but the question is NOT NOW. You have to move on no matter how hard it is.  You have to re-establish yourself with someone else, and be a whole again...before you can be friend with your ex.  It is very selfish of her to keep 2 men around.  Be strong and let her know that it is for the best. If she still cares about you, this is the least she can do for you.
529969
ask urself the following questions..?\n\n1. Do u still have the soft corner for ur ex...\n\n2. Do u have any problem if ur friend datesur ex with her permission.. ?\n\n3. Do u think that girl will be right for ur friend..?\n\n4. Why are u giving your friend a feeling of guilt when he dates a girl who is ur EX..\n\n5. Who are u to poke ur nose in ur friends affairs.& poison their relationship\n\nask urself these questions and u will get the answers...
443620
She counts on you to tell him that she likes him... are you afraid if they go out that they'll break up and your caught in the middle?? (if you are add detail) and then they'll want you to pick sides? But if your friends are ok about the WORST term to here ,if your a girl or guy, "JUST FRIENDS" then I think you have great friends! Q-- are you and ur EX still friends!!??????
672690
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
377484
My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
684841
It's possible to be friends with an ex. Yes, it is. After 2 years, I have no romantic feelings for my ex. But I still think he's a good person. So it is possible to go back to a platonic relationship after a couple years. I believe so.\n\nHowever, talk to him. Tell him it bothers you a lot. Afterall, who wants their bf to talk to his ex?!?!?! NOBODY! Of course, you have the right to be jealous. It's natural. But just talk to him. Communication's important.\n\nBut compromise with him and trust him too. Trust is imporant in relationships. Besides his ex is on the opposite coast.
63769
I'm a guy and I don't stay "friends" with my exes.  As Sam Kinnison put it "Oh, friends, like some kind of emotional tampon, only without the sex".\nNot trying to be crude, ladies.  I'll be pleasant if I see them on the street, but I won't ask them for coffee so we can "catch up" on each other's lives.
340420
There is nothing wrong with that. I have one close friend that lives in my area. Other friends from school have since moved out of the area. I prefer keeping to myself a lot and I dont think anything is wrong with that. My ex was a loner too. We spent all of free time together and it didnt bother us. I think we had strong connect and just preferred just to be with one another. If you guys enjoy each others company and have no need for others I personally think that is normal. Most ppl think you need a bunch of friends and have to hang out every night of the week but that just isnt so. Be the way you are and dont try to change your b/f.
611852
if your ex's friend is willing to go out with you then he isn't much of a friend. there is an unwritten rule that you don't date your friends ex's. that goes for both men and women. it can create problems down the line and hassles that are just not worth it. now having said that you cant help who fall in love with. so if you both feel the same way and are ready for the possible consequences then go ahead and see where it might lead. he could be your soul mate. good luck to you witch ever way you choose.
981071
I honestly believe that it is.  Even if your ex-husband says "go ahead...i'm okay with it"...trust me...he's NOT okay with it.  How would it make you feel if your ex-husband started dating YOUR best friend??  Always think about how you would feel if these things were being done to you.....  On another note, after a divorce or a break up, find yourself, and then find a FRESH relationship, one thats not going to continue to remind you of the one you just had.
69872
I've had this situation 4 months ago. We've just talked about it.. I frankly said, that i don't love him. He offered me to be friends. So we are very good friends right now. But I feel that i'm more than just a freind for him...Sometimes i think that it would be nice if we were together but can't do it right now, 'cause i broke up with my ex-bf yesterday. And i don't want to lose my friend.. It's up to a person :)
33689
Sure. It can take some time, though, if you usedto be in a relationship with this person and no longer are. Friends after a break up is possible as long as you really do display the traits of a true friend. If you haven't been in a relationship with this person and are trying to avoid one, I think you are choosing a more posative option than cutting off all contact and obligations. This person means enough to you that you want to have a relationship, just not the same as it was or what the other person wants it to be. Just remember that this may take time, and that it is on the other person's schedule, so try not to get discouraged or have your feelings hurt if they aren't automatically ecstatic about the idea.
19905
No, you shouldn't especially if you had strong feelings for her.  I recently broke up with a guy I've been dating for almost 3 months.  He wants to continue the friendship but I told him no, not this time.  I said maybe later when I'm completely over him, and it will all sort of happen by itself if we're meant to be friends.  Good luck.
765532
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
425964
Exs and crushes are off limits for best friends. She is not your best friend if she did that to you. \nI suspect your ex doesn't feel the same way if he's dating your best friend. I'm sorry, but it seems like you need to find a new partner and a new best friend.