My parents are divorced and they still fight like know other what should I do??
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r u 18 yr. old or older? if so why dont u just leave town and let them adults deal with each other? u can get urself a career change in a new town and everything. if ur under-age u need to be open and honest with them both about how this makes u feel. if nothing else you can say you wanna live with ur grandparents or something.
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
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Ok, I am a gay man. I have no kids of my own, but I have lived with a partner who had children. My partner worked long hours and I took up the role of being the main parent. His children referred to me as their other daddy. I was proud to be this to them. Here is what I advised them.\n\nFirst, any type of fighting or physically violence is wrong. If at all possible teach yourself and your brother to walk away from the fight. If certain bullies persist tell your principles. They have to act upon it. If they do nothing your parents can go to the school board and have it acted upon. If the school board does nothing then you can have the school board, and the parents and the kid in courts. You need to be brave and stand up for you and your brother and your fathers. Be proud of them and who you are. A family.\n\nThey other thing you need to do is continue to talk to your fathers and tell them about your fears. They will listen. If the situation is bad enough, one or both of them will take some sort of action to help you and protect you. If it comes down to moving away then so be it. But running away from a problem has never solved the problem. Be strong, and God will be on your side, for you are in the right here.
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Is there any neutral person you can talk to? Perhaps a trusted relative? Otherwise, if your parents are willing, perhaps they will let you talk to a counselor. A good counselor will act as your advocate and listen to you without judging you. He or she will also help you to put things in perspective.\n\nIf those are not possibilities, keeping a journal may help. Also, staying active with outside interests and activities can help to keep you away from the turmoil at home and give you something else to think about and care about.\n\nGood luck! I know how difficult it can be when parents fight. Sadly, they don't always realize just how much it affects their children.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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You are old enough to be on your own ....they are your parents and will always love you...so they may be mad at first but trust me they will get over it....they always do sometime!...they cant stay mad at you forever.... It your life now and they cant control there little girl forever!
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if your dad and stepmom agree, you should just pack up and move to their house. maybe do it when your mom isn't home!\nyour mom will then decide if it's worth a court battle.\nshe won't win, because you are old enough to decide for yourself.
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Nasty problem that you will not be able to solve. Your ex sound bitter and bound and determined to punish you for something or other. Unfortunately, all you can do is remain constant in your affection for them, and hopefully, with time, they will see things as they really are...no guarantees...they may or may not turn against you ... time will tell. But, no matter what you do, what you say, if it is negative towards their mother, they will swear their mother is right. IF, on the other hand, you are sympathetic towards the mother's plight, do not bad mouth her, and, in gereneral, behave nobly, your chances are slightly improved that they will come around. Been there. IT is a very sad thing when one parent uses children to "get even" with another...all concerned are badly damaged, including the offending parent...but that is of no consolation to you. You have my deepest sympathy in this...I have seen this happen time and time again. Such a waste, and seriously sad. You are in a loose-loose situation, short of gaining custody ... and that won't happen unless you can prove she is unfit as a parent. Good luck.
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try to talk to them both face to face so that they can say whatever they have to say in front of each other...they should be the 1st one who talked about that...don't pressure yourself...anyways,no one can please anybody just as you can't tell the both of them to be in good terms just because of you..have an open forum and try to settle things in a mature way...
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Ask your dad what was the problem and why he didn't see you maybe this had a lot to do with your mum and her grievances.\nWhen a family break down it is very hard for either party to admit the wrong.\nDon't Fight.\nDon't Argue \nJust find out the reasons.
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It is not your fault. It is never the child's fault,never. You have to believe that. I am divorced for many years now, and I know what I am talking about, here. Your mom yells because she feels a lot of stress and sadness, and she needs time to get used to what all happened. But you won't be able to get them back together because you didn't break them up. They are the adults, everything that happened THEY did it--not you.\n\nJust love them both. Tell them both how much you love them, and that you will always love them no matter that they don't love each other any more. Then you love yourself too. You sound like a real sweet, good kid. I wish I could help.\nGod bless you little one.\n\n(joelejr is just being a dork.  and bookreader doesn't understand, it is not the child, it is the adult who ends the adult relationship)
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Im a teenager, and let me tell you right now, do it, divorce be happy. The only thing that is hurting your daughter even more is watching you fight. Shell be much better off knowing you are happy with this other woman you are talking about, its like a relief, just so you wont fight with her mom anymore. Its better off seperating than living a lifetime of unhappiness for you and your daughter. You should definetly talk to your daughter about the whole situation, shes barely 14. Let her live comforatably even if that means you seperate from your wife, because together you obviously cant be.\n\nI hope I made sense, I know im only 15 and youre wondering what i am thinking telling you to divorce your wife, but my parents are unhappy sometimes and I think they stay together because of their children, but I dont want them to be unhappy because of us. Theyre people too.
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sorry to hear that kiddo.  my parents split up when i was like 10 and it was tough.  but now i'm 21 and i have good news--you'll get through it.\n\njust like everyone says, it isn't your fault.  divorce is so common these days that people forget that there are kids that are hurt every day because of it.  but the important thing for you to do is to keep your chin up, and don't hold your feelings inside.  talk to the people you feel comfortable with--your parents if they'll actually listen (not likely), a trusted teacher or school counselor, a family member like an aunt or uncle (grandparents are usually biased), or a good friend.\n\nas long as you let your emotions out, the loneliness and sadness you feel because of the divorce won't overwhelm you.  and last, make sure you make a resolution now:  that you'll marry a person that you know inside and out and that you know you can never fall out of love with.  even if it takes longer than you want it to, promise yourself that you'll never put your own family through what you're going through.  it'll give you strength to keep on.  good luck kid.
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Well you could try explaining to them how it makes you feel and how it affects you. You may need to speak with them separately and when they are calm, Tell them how it makes you feel and that it hurts to hear them fighting and arguing as you love them both. It may help calm the disagreements, but it probably will not eliminate them.
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Battling with the other half rarely does much good.  Just be the best parent figures you can for his daughter.  Try to keep a positive co-operative relationship between the girls parents.  Make a stand if and when you are sure you must, just be sure she will benefit from it more than she will lose or be hurt by the conflict between her parents.  She already been hurt a lot, no doubt.
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No one should stay in a relationship for the kids. Certainly give your relationship a second chance i.e. councelling, therapy,mediation or simply just sitting down and talking things over etc.Children are very perceptive and know when their parents are not getting along,some things just seem a litle out of sync no matter how you try to mask it. If you and your spouse do decide to separate make every effort to reassure your children that you both still love them. Let them know they will still have 2 parents who love them and you are not separating due to anything they have done.Regardless of anything else they need to know they still have a mom and dad they can count on.Good luck
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If they are only good for arguing fire their sorry a$$es and find some new parents. Better yet get a job, move out on your own and support yourself.
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My parents divorced when I was young and I was the middle, go between for both of them from 6 till 18.  Drove me nuts, I told both to stop, neither did.  I had to listen to both whine, cry, bicker, b*tch, etc.\n\nToday at 37....I have zero relationship with my mother, no contact by my choice.  Father I rarely see and only see due to I am somewhat close with my 2 step brothers who are bout your age.  Since dad did bad job with me and I saw a repeat happening with them, I stepped in as a big brother.  But once they move out of home, I will have zero relationship with my father at that time.\n\nAsk your mom what is more important...some insider gossip info on a man that she no longer has, can have, etc......or the life long relationship of you, her daughter.\n\nCause if she continues....you will begin to hate her and lose all respect for her as a human let alone a parent.\n\nA divorce is between two people....no friends, other family members and specially not the kids.  Your mom needs counsling over this issue to get through it or it will destroy her and the family.