please help....signed anxious!?
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Shut up! Stop whining about some stupid promise ring and just enjoy what you have right then and there.  If you pressure the dude, you'll be seeing him with some other easy going woman who won't ask for a promise ring.  I'm serious.  I believe there's nothing more disturbing than a desperate woman.  Here's the rule --  unless you are 60-70's and waiting 40 years, fine whine and beg for marriage.  If you are 20something, shame on you.  You have at least 15 years to start pumping out babies and live in wedding bliss.  You don't need a promise ring to show off.  Hey, just be happy that you're in something good.  Life could be worse.
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I agree 100% lmao cause you are so right i have felt the same way. I understand how you feel. I know exactly what you mean. You feel anxious right? Upset that you have to wait till 10 PM? If you've never had an anxiety attack and don't even know what it feels like but it almost feels like you could have one lol. I agree with you and i think we should do something about it.\nhowever, what could we do? write a letter to them/petition.
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Relax, and try not to worry about it!!  It will happen, probably at the most unexpected moment :)
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Rejection, nervousness, worried about saying something wrong.
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Just confront your fear. Go on stage and do something... stay there as long as you have to, you would be temped to leave but don't you have to say there until you're calm down. Fear can only last so much
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Simmer down!!! (Calm your nerves) Get a massage, or something, take a relaxing bath. Do whatever to chill out.
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One way to deal with the nervousness is to just use that as a spring board for your conversations.  Talk about the fact that you are both nervous and you already be sharing something in common and start bonding.
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Just relax and realize that if you can't get over being so nervous, how are you going to get to know that person? Oh, and remember to breathe...focus in on it, and that will help the anxiety.
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This is not especially a big deal. It happens. What you expect is pretty much what you will get. So if you expect anxiety and concern, that is what is going to happen. Better to take action. If you feel anxious in any way, simply slow down, stop what you are doing. As soon as you can, lay down for a while. Have some music playing on the radio. Then think calm, and count your breathes, in and out, to 100.\n\nOn the other hand, it is good to work some exercise into your daily routine, as simple as taking a walk. Make it short at first, and then a little more. Keep this enjoyable. There is nothing like doing something physical like this to give you confidence that you really are in control.
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I live in New Orleans.  I am already stocking up on hurricane supplies.  If you know you are going to freeze up, make a list today and start getting your supplies together.  If you think you will want to evacuate, make those plans immediately, make sure you have your route planned, a list of what to take with you, make sure your pets are included in your plan.  Writing your plan and your lists down on paper will help relieve the stress and panicky feelings.  If you need a list of what to have on hand if you stay at home, email me.  Don't panic.  Hurricane season comes every year, from June thru November.  If it really bothers you that much, maybe you should think of moving.
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Some nervousness is natural.  It keeps us on our toes!  As hard as it sounds to do, try to relax and be yourself.  Everything will work out fine.
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calm down! it will be ok. i hate presenting too and i get really nervous and get the sweaty palms and everything. but i usually concentrate on what i have to say and hoping that i dont screw it up.hope i helped!
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Your going through exactly what i am i am shamed terrified everything! My doctor put me on to an excellent dentist and he didnt yell he was so nice and freindly and did not say one bad thing about me. I need all mine pulled wisdom too apart from 7 lower front ones. I coudlnt make an app my mother had to, i even freaked out during the xray! My doctor gave me a mild quick sedative that lasts about an hour to calm nerves before they put me under, maybe talk to your local doctor. I have seen the dentist now i feel better but i am still scared and petrified! I can fill you in more about my history if we can contact via email, not sure but happy to tell you what i have done to combat my fear in the last week weeks if it helps you :) Gee my husband doesnt even know how bad my mouth is and i only opened up to my mum 5 weeks ago! Good luck i wish you well (i just have to get thru it first too
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I had suffer from anxiety attacks a while ago, the best thing to do is not to think of them, if before u go on the plane or the cruise u are already thinking that u are gonna have an anxiety attack, u are programming yourself.....just be optimistic about it, dont think about them...if u have one..the best thing to do, that works with me...think that it will soon pass....just dont loose ur head....it will pass it will pass....and if u have a partner, couple....try to talk about anything....anything at all...the worts thing is to be left alone with yourself and your nervous mind. Talk to the guy next to you..sing a song...anything...to distract for a moment your mind.
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Tom is on the ball!  Listen to them, without trying to answer. Men, don't assume you know what we are going through, you don't.  But listening helps.  Take her for a walk.  The exercise will help, just don't tell her that's why you are going.  Ask her what would help her.  If she says "I don't know" (and she probably will) say, "I'll be here to help when you do." And mean it.  If this is a true anxiety attack, it will pass.  Just hold on for the ride.  She'll appreciate it!
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You are just nervous.  Try to relax.\nYou might try telling the girl you are nervous, maybe she is too.
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Talk to your doctor about your anxiety.  There are several medications on the market that can control the symptoms and allow you to have a normal life.  Your doctor may even have a suggestion for a therapist you can work with to learn to modify your reactions to the anxiety.  If your doctor doesn't have a suggestion ... open the phone and start calling therapists, counselors, social workers, psychologists and psychiatrists until you find one that works with anxiety-related problems.\n\nSome of the things you can try on your own are:\n\n#1 -- Start journaling, if you don't already.  Carry a notebook with you and jot down all of your random thoughts and fears in the notebook, especially when you start to get the anxious feelings.  Abuse the heck out of the notebook instead of yourself.  Then once a day or once a week (or even never), whenever you are in a safe place that you don't have anxiety symptoms -- read back through what you've written to see if you can find the source of your anxiety.  Work on that source.\n\n#2 -- Turn off the voice in your head.  I know that sounds silly, but that's exactly what I had to do when my anxiety was/is out-of-control.  I literally lock myself in my car or a bathroom stall or my bedroom and I tell the voice:  "Shut-up!  You are lying.  I am _____ (a positive angle for whatever your particular anxiety is)."  Repeat your new-found mantra as often as you want to turn off the voice in your head.  That voice is still there and it still talks to me, but I don't have to listen to its lies.  :)\n\nGood luck!