I need some relationship help...?
149905
dont let her friends be any part of it, if she makes her friends part of it tell her its important to you that what happends between the 2 of you stays between the 2 of you and if she can't deal with that then you need to just let her go forever.
675535
Be nice, honestly, and make sure you always say "i" not the other persons name. If you say their name, it seems as if its their fault the relationship didnt work out. Good luck!
286224
Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.
566613
Don't worry about the cause, just get out of the situation. If you're just dating and you fight, then it probably wont get better as the relationship continues. Sorry, but at this point in your lives, he's not the one for you.
938888
It sounds like you have a really great guy there but the relationship is too intense. Tell him that you are feeling uncomfortable because you aren't ready for such a serious relationship. He needs to back down a bit. Good luck. I hope you can make it work.
506695
Try to remember that he has a life as well as you do. If you want to see him more often, talk to him about it. I don't know the specifics on your relationship, but communication will help you figure it all out. Remember to listen to each other.
146533
Well, if you don't want to break up the only suggestion I have is talk to him about it. If he is in love or even if he just cares about you he'll understand what your needs are and be more considerate of you.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
915266
awww my heart goes out to you, you sound really upset : (  If she is going through such hard time at the moment, she may need time to her self. That doesn't mean pack up your bags and go, that just means she cant handle a full on relationship at the moment. So you can be there when she needs you. And that's really all you can do. Tell her that you will wait for her and say exactly the same thing you said in the ending of your question. I am sure she is hurting just as bad as you or even worse by knowing she is hurting you. Just be there for her, Take care i hope it all works out sweetie : )
193717
Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
994504
ooooooo bad problem you got there. i would just forget the woman and pretend you arn't gay. nah sorry that isn't very good advice. but the thing is do not get into a relation ship with the woman or any woman. if you really are gay and you are not happy in your relationship with your partner then i would let him down gently that you do not love him any more and you might think that you are gay. you never know he might be able to help you. no.....actually he might take it the wrong way. i seriously do not know. i am only 15 so don't listen to me. maby if you have family around you you could maby get some advice of them. they should be supportive to you. i really hope you work things out in time. best wishes and good luck. x
80581
Your answer is in your question - if you are "not the kind of girl to ruin someone's relationship" then be yourself. If you are the kind of girl who would do that - then at least be honest with yourself;-)
634967
This guy doesn't sound like he's taking your relationship seriously. He doesn't appear to take you feelings into consideration and wants a life which does not include you in it. He seems very selfish, and you should ask him outright - and don't let him give excuses! Tell him straight that you need to know where you stand with him, and you don't want to waste your time hanging around with someone who doesn't want you around! Take control - be strong & determined and tell him exactly where HE stands with you. Relationships are two-way things, and 'give and take' means from both partners, not one gives and the other takes. Be strong, and if you don't get satisfactory answers, then move on and find a guy who will appreciate you for yourself. You are worthy of better treatment than this guy seems capable of giving you. If you still want to be with him, hopefully he will come to realise what he is about to lose if you leave him. Don't give hime the satisfaction of dumping you first, though!! Good Luck!
582162
Take care of your drinking problem first. If he is non supportive, then you need to find someone else. At least you acknowledged that you had a problem and are doing something about it. If you stay in that problem, you will have more serious things to worry about than your boyfriend. If people you care about cannot be there for you when you are in a personal crisis, then that should open your eyes up about them, and how "shallow" they are. Some people view seeking help from an outside org. such as AA, as a sign of weakness. That is the dumb thinking of prideful people, who would rather go down with the ship than to reach for a life saver. If they are willing to go down like that, then believe that they would also take you down with them! Hopefully your b/f will come around, and stop being selfish. Nevertheless, whatever he does, don't let it stop you from helping yourself.
314683
I'm sorry as this is very immature of your girlfriend.  She should understand that you can't always be together.  Just explain to her why and she either accepts it or she doesn't.  If she doesn't, it might be time to find someone who is more understanding.
849048
Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
208492
Girl please. Leave his ass alone. You don't need him. It sounds like you're really into him and he isn't feeling you the same way that you're feeling him