My daughter had gotton married and I missed her wedding due to an illness now she won't speak to me. What do I
138531
Explain to her that you love her and if you could change the past, you would. Good luck!
537651
She has to neglect you because she did not make a commitment to you, she made it to her husband. \n\nI suggest moving on. It is morally irresponsible to expect a married women to be totally commited to you.
303799
i think it is going to be really hard for you but you should just try to sit your daughter down explain to her the things of life what you are&#92;were going through.tell her its not the person but the heart.tell her ,her father was not a bad person but the things that were suppose to be between you and him were just not happening and you have now found it in this person. tell her to try to see your lady as a person you love and that loves you and not a female.
1136740
Do you remember your wedding vows in sickness and in health? You know if my spouse wasnt taking care of me and showing the love and support I needed I might just pack my things and say ADIOS! I mean given you need help if your mother is there to help you then take what you can get. If she isnt being a wife or partner at all then what is the marriage about? Sounds like a house full of misery to me. Thats the last thing you need you need some love and support regardless of the mistakes youve made. If she cant trust you or get over the things that happened maybe you guys should get some help with your marriage. Otherwise if she cant get over it, I think she isnt going to change how she feels and maybe the marriage is over. I think if I was sick with cancer Id want positive things in my life and if someone is dragging me down Id either talk to them about it and work it out or like I said if that doesnt work and youve exhausted other options, stay with your mom. You need positive reinforcement right now to help you get through. Good luck.
125577
Cry then pray for her and pray for the words to come to you what to say to her because I really don't know what to say. Just reamber everyone makes mistakes and just let her know that even though you dont aprove you still love her but tell her she needs to respect herself more then that. And that you really hope she dosent do it again. Shes over 18 theres really nothing you can do. But just dont dis own her she is your daughter. And reamber All people makes mistakes.
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****EDIT BASED ON FURTHER DETAIL FROM POSTER *****\nThis condition is a very serious one, in which you can potentialy loose your daughter.  The decision to either take emergency leave or not should be discussed with your daughters Doctor.  If the doctor feels that the condition is severe enough, ie they are unsure of the outcome, then i would take that type of leave.  However, given the implications of this type of leave (esp if you are military), unless the condition is MAJOR, i wouldn't risk it.  Being there for support, over the phone, sending letters, flowers, little gifts, ect, is preferential in this type of situation.\n\nIf you need to send remittance, i would.  It would help recover some of the cost.  So, as i don't know the entire story behind your daughters condtion, and your 'work conditions', i'm not able to answer any better than that.\n\nStill, hon, good luck, yes :)\n\n****END EDIT*****\n\n*Sighs* I'm sorry to see that people here are not as supportive as one would hope, but those are the breaks of an open forum.\n\nUsing just a 'tidbit' of thought i can understand that not all hospitals allow round the clock visits :)\n\nBut, as your child is in the hospital, under the care of a doctor and medication, you can expect your child to be there from 3days to about 1-2 weeks (dependant on the type of pnm. )  Chances are she'll be just fine :)\n\nI would visit her as long as the visiting hours admit, and then just sleep in the waiting room LOL, i'm just too much of a worry wart to be away from my little one when she's in the hospital.  \n\nJust remember pnm is a serious condition, however it is treatable :)
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HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
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As long as there are people brain washing her and telling her bad things about you she probably wont come around. You know your a good mother it sounds like your ex needs to find a hobby and quit trying to ruin the relationship between you and your daughter. I havent ever been through this but if my husband were to ever turn our daughter against me it would just break in two. My daughter is my every dream come true and I cant even imagine how things are for you right now. I hope that she doesnt listen to all this garbage thats been said about you and hopefully she will start contacting you again good luck.
928041
I think that if you could try and meet her before the wedding. As if you just meet her for the first time at the wedding you won't get the chance to really talk to her. At least you could ice the ice with her by asking her how her wedding plans are going
310441
Wow! I am kind of in the same situation and the only advice I can give is to take care of yourself first. I can see how there may be disappointment but if you can't go then you can't go. Best friends, even just good friends, should be able to understand something like that. Maybe she just needs a few days to get over it and then she will be ok. If you have explained the situation to her, and apologized, then that is really all you can do. You can't jeopardize a dream job and your livelihood for one day at a wedding. You can be there in heart, but don't risk it with a new job. People can go downhill fast if they lose even a week of work. The best thing to do is take care of yourself first. You won't be much good at a wedding if you are worried about your own personal issues, and employment is what enables people to be able to survive in most issues. Good Luck!
900910
just tell her you made a mistake, apologize, and ask if she can come back. What's the worst that could happen.\n\ngood luck
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I had exactly the same problem. A 'friend' of mine got married and I was her bridesmaid (she was the bride from hell). She really is the rudest person I have ever met. \n\nWhen I got engaged I was really stressing over having her at the wedding and I certainly did not want her at the wedding. I started to lessen the amount of contact that I had with her (not returning all her phone calls etc). In the end, she confronted me and I was honest and told her that I did not find her behaviour acceptable and that since I was worried that she would be rude to people, I was not able to invite her to the wedding.\n\nShe was upset and has not spoken to me since. But, I have to admit it was one of the best things that I have ever done. I did not realise how much she upset and stressed me. The wedding plans were easy, the wedding was relaxed and I do not have to deal with her anymore.\n\nSo, although it will be hard - she needs to know and I think you will feel better afterwards too!\n\nPS Congratulations on your wedding!
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I feel for you and your daughter. I think the best thing you can do is get some professional help. See a counsler. You and your daughter will never be able to totally get over his abandoning you, but, with the correct tools, you can learn to deal with it.
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No you do not. Send her a  nice gift though with a card.  If later she asks you why you did not attend, sit her down and tell her how you feel.\n\nYou should also sit down and tell your husband how you feel. If you love your husband, don't let his kid's or their mom bust up your marriage.
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I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
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Sorry to hear that. I would talk to the nurses who are caring for your daughter, their there toprovide support to your daughter and you. ALso different trusts have support workers, group to help family. Try talking to your daughter, I understand you proberly feel as though you need to be strong for her but i expect she petrified and maybe you opening up to her will help her discus her feeling. Dont forget about support groups such as samaritans who can give you an ear to listen to your feelings.
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Contact child protective service in regards to her children and as far as you daughter goes, move so she can't find you.