My mom drink and she don't have a lot of time for life, what can i do?????????
137899
Give her your advice, "To live crazy... we are here with no reason... but you can be the second Sokratis, greek phil."\n\nBut tell her to lay off the sauce.
577153
Financially, you can take her to the social security office she can get assistance there. Emotionally, find her a support group for widows and widowers. Drinking, find her in a sober state of mind and talk to her about your concerns and express that you have already lost your Father and that you love her and you don't want to lose her too. Maybe try Alcoholics Anonymous if it is real bad. Last resort, if you feel that she is a danger to herself you could have her commited into a hospital.  As for you, keep praying for her, God is listening. :)
521276
First of all- you are a great kid! Thank You for being so caring towards your mother. It sounds like she needs a meds evaluation. I say this often to people on here who say their meds aren't working because yes, there are meds that may work better but she may not be dosed right either. Weight fluctuations can cause problems, etc. Her meds may not be working effectively because symptoms of depression are still evident. I would suggest that you and your Dad encourage her to see a Doc ASAP. if she has trouble paying bills, etc- re-delegate this task to someone else (Dad)- make sure she has help with household chores, etc. Focus on reducing her stress- regardless of whether it means having a hot meal on the table when she gets home, doing laundry, or whatever else needs to be done. Maybe she's due for a vacation- she should take one if she can- even if you stay in town and do small activities like going to the movies, going out for dinner, etc.
1186086
Hide the booze, and don't let her come to Your house.  If she comes over and brings booze.  Tell her to leave it outside.  IF you allow her to dog you.  Then you need to tell her to leave.  \nIf your at her home, and it happens, then you can get up and leave.\n\nYou don't have to put up with that nonsense.  When she is sober, talk to her and tell her how you feel.  See if you can reason with her.  Let her know YOUR house rules about drinking.  If you don't, your asking for it.
186885
Hey thats terrible that she is upset on mothers day. Could you get her flowers and cook her a meal. Get out the family photos and sit down with box of chocotates. Go over all the funny things and have a great old laf and remember the good old days.  And most of all remind her that she is the best mother in the whole world
919978
It's hard to like a parent like that. Sure you love them because they're the person that brought you into this world but your mom sounds self absorbed and miserable. Not much you can do about that and definitely don't take it personally. SHE has the problem.Shes too wrapped up in her own self to take notice of you and the sad thing is that that kind of behavior is HER loss.Keep the phonecalls short put a timer on in your kitchen when you know you're going to talk to her.Feel free to interupt her  and start talking about your own life whether you think she's interested in it or not.You weren't put on the earth only to service her needs. If she sounds lonely make brief suggestions for her to join some groups or other practical solutions to her problems.If she starts up with the same old stuff again the next time that you talk to her interupt her and tell her that she already told you about that and you want to know when she's going to do something about it.It might sound mean but it's really not.Not allowing her to go on and on is being kind to yourself and it forces her to  get the fact that you're not willing to listen to her if shes not willing to try to make the effort to solve her own problems.Good luck...
713309
I read your previous question regarding your partying/drinking.  Is this what you are referring to?  It seems that you don't really want any advise but just approval and thumbs up for the things that you are doing.  You got angry because people sided with your mother rather than you.  You'd do well to listen to your mom.  She has your best interest at heart.   Sorry. I know it's not what you want to hear, but you asked.
714746
You must be in such a difficult position!  I think you have to set your boundaries.  If your mother can't respect them then it is her loss.\n\nI guess you have to judge on how important her role is in your family.  Does everyone enjoy seeing her?  Is it pleasurable?  I've had many alcoholics in my family and honestly, sometimes it was brutal having them around.\n\nDon't let guilt force you into submission.  Set your boundaries, make them clear, let your mother know you love her, but need her to meet you 1/2 way if she wants to be part of your life.\n\nGood luck to you!
800746
First,  I'd like to say that I am sorry for your loss.  I, also, think you should go to a doctor.  He may be able to put you on antidepressants or something.  Yes, You could very well be or develop into an alcoholic soon.  I don't think it is worth that..  There is nothing wrong with asking for help.  Good luck to you.
479710
Make a video of her doing it....what a wonderful world we live in where you can tape just about anything and everything. Yes she has a problem with drinking because she cannot remember anything she does the next day. What she is doing is killing herself and one day may end up in the hospital for alcohol poisioning if she doesn't watch herself. But ya its AA not AAA, I think your A key got stuck hopefully. AA is not a shame but rather a support group for those who have alcohol dependency. I wouldn't knock it if you don't know what it is like.
1101224
Your mom needs to begin by scheduling some alone time.  She can relieve some stress by taking leisure walks or long hot baths.  Find out what things are relaxing for her.  Maybe planting a beautiful garden or reading a book. If she is a single parent, you could help her with the cleaning or cooking to relieve some of the stress of the household chores.  Remember her health is vital to your happiness.
456201
I know exactly what you are going through!  I've been married to an alcoholic for the past 23 years.  He has always worked and provided for us.  We have two children, one who is grown already(22) and a son who is 13.  You need to sit with him and have a heart to heart talk with him, when he is not drinking (that's very important).  He sounds like a good man with a problem, just like my husband.  If you continue to let this go, even though it's already affecting you, believe me, things will change and not for the better.  After so many years, our marriage has gone down the drain, he even left me for another woman for several months. (A woman that drank and partied with him, of course).  He's back home with me but it's never going to be the same, because he's still drinking even though he's detoxed several times now.  I wish you the best of luck.  And one more very important thing.  Make sure you have resources to take care of yourself and your children.  I was left without any, and I'm making sure this never, ever happens to me again.  I won't allow it.  Take charge of yourself, because if he doesn't change, it's not going to get easier.  Take it from a pro. If need be, look up an Al-Anon meeting in your area.  They are very good in making you realize ways you can help yourself.  If anything do this for your kids.  Even though they may be mentally challenged and he doesn't drink around them, doesn't mean it's not going to affect them.  They are still young, but they won't be for long.  And if this affects you, it will definitely affect them.  Children have a sense of when their mommy is not happy.  Believe me.
584099
You could set up a prayer group for her and bring in 1000 priests to help her but at the end of the day like the saying goes...you can lead a horse to water BUT u can't make it drink!...SHE NEEDS TO BRING HERSELF TO HER KNEES BEFORE GOD!..\ni hope she does  before her final hour!
524433
She is a perfect girl going through stages in life a tough way. Thank God she is being caught and hopefully it will eventually make her come to her senses and change her pitifull lifestyle. We all learn through mistakes and for sure she will learn thru hers too. Many of us have done this and are now responsible citizens & its only when you have been through it that you really get shaped in life. I for one started drinking (heavily) at 18, had a baby when i was 14, had a number of abortions. Was in and out of home as a teenager, cohabited several times as a teenager and did other more worse things and learnt alot from all these mistakes.  Went back to school, and now a chartered marketeer, doing well, raising my son wonderfully and a devout christian. What am saying is your daughter will get through all this, just be there for her no matter what she does. My Mom loved me though I was what others regarded a rotten girl. She loved me and kept telling me I could do it I wasnt all that bad, and I made it. So hang in there and keep encouraging her. She will change. Above all else pray for her, God wont fail you.
505980
Spend time with her, help her with life's small stuff, and help her be calm while you wait for the outcome. We are handling my father's lung cancer. He won't let on, but he is scared. So, we, his 5 kids, + my mom spend as much time being around him "talking about regular stuff" in between all of the doctor's appointments, etc.  It helps to make him feel needed- not like we're babysitting him. So, my sisters and I ask him random "gardening questions" and other things that he likes to do. It helps take his mind off of the constant waiting for test results and next therapies. Be a good kid, no matter how old you are. Our dad is 75, so we're not teeny boppers any more, either. It's nice to have a parent feel like a good parent, regardless of age.\n(www.TheDorkyMom.com)
367521
Sorry, about your mom. You must help her, but not only that you must be with her all the time and she must know that she can rely on you. Tell her that you love her - that is the most important, she must know you still care about her, and can be a good stimul for her to quit!
860312
It is Monday afternoon for me and I am even MORE BORED.  However, I have tomorrow off work and my parents are returning from a month in America so I will see them for a couple of hours tomorrow.  If I were you I would go out and do something you don't usually do with your wife (and I don't mean anything rude).  Could you go and see a film she wouldn't enjoy?  Go shopping or see friends?  Do something around the house?  I'm sure, if you put your mind to it, there are lots of things you can find to occupy your time.  Get the house ready for her return - cook something nice, have a bath ready for her when she returns.  Have a bottle of wine chilling...