Why do my sister and i feel like rejects?
154412
There's nothing you can really do. This happens to older siblings. You could try telling your parents, but they won't see there is a problem. You could try to think of it differently. For instance, the reason your parents don't pay as much attention could be that they trust you enough to look after yourself.
1150048
I'm not a qualified therapist or any thing so I can only offer an opinion...\nI think that regardless of what anyone says you feel this way and you have to acknowledge it.  There is no such thing a a wrong feeling. We have feelings whether we want them or not. Ever like someone (or dislike someone) for no real reason?\nWe all have that "moral obligation" embedded in us but there is a point when you can not overlook your own health (mental, emotional and physical). You probably need to discuss these feelings with your mother. Sometimes the simplest answer is also the hardest.  I suggest that in a reasonable manner start a communication with you mother. It may take time but communication  can often work things out better than drawing ultimatums. Start slow and work into the heavy stuff. \nI get the feeling that if your mother had a job and could support herself (or help pay her own way) things would be easier for you. This might also be a starting point for her to regain her own independence. She is not a child and would likely prefer independence over being dependent.\nTalk. Open lines of communication. While you may feel an obligation to family, you are no good to them if you don't take care of yourself. Trust you instincts.
243449
People do this, judge people ya know, but all you can do is be yourself and I know it's hard feeling like no one likes you but remember you are special just like everyone else and if they don't like you for who you are then there just missing out on a good friend..speak up and try talking with them about stuff if that doesn't work then just keep being yourself and be strong..pray about it
235288
I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
378596
why do you feel unworthy Hun?\n\nyour a person just like everyone else, all the same needs, wants and desires in life and are just as good as anyone.  Is it your height? if so don't worry, I find short girls to be cute!
791876
tell ur partens ur feeling on this and then have ur sister to sit down with u and u ur partens and stringhen her out
90484
YES!!! its a long & lonely road but hang in there.\nit's ok to feel weak sometimes, we are only human.\nchange your lifestyle if you have to...\npositive thinking & self- worth is very important.\ni sincerely wish you luck & love!\ndon't worry about things you cannot control. change the things that's dragging you down.\nyou can't fly with broken wings.\nhope the link can help...
46922
i'm not really down for the keep it in the family thing but i'm not going to criticize you but i'm thinking that maybe you should them and see if they feel the same. but they don't react the same way don't be surprised because they probably not down with incest you know.sorry if they hurt you ok. you'll get over it eventually.
838247
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
700108
Actually, you are both right.  She is right when she says that she feels hurt because you two are not close.  Who are you to deny her what she feels to be true?  Feelings are not based on facts and truths of historical circumstances.   They are feelings.  Don't look to deny others their feelings.  You are right, too, when you state that you have a different life or different lifestyle than your sister.  You are two different individuals so naturally you will do things differently, and with differences conflict is inevitable.  You can resolve whatever conflict exists between you and your sister by talking to her more often.  Communication doesn't by itself solve all the problems of the world but it certainly smooths out the bumps in the road.
80276
What do you mean by neglected? Maybe your friend has brothers and/or sisters and she might just FEEL like she's being neglected, even though she's not. Or maybe she just feels neglected at the moment because her parents are busy?\n\nIf you are sure she's is actually being neglected, tell a trusted person about it.
123950
i know the feeling, same problem here. sit down and tell them that you are getting mixed signals. dont insinuate anything because they may not have the same intentions as you. i think your best bet is to be straight forward and honest with this person. you will feel better when you get a real answer, rather than an assumption.
131084
if you wanted something new and she knew it confront her nicly, instead of being on the defense try saying  mom, i feel left out because you gave my sister what she wanted but i got her old _______. I just want to be treated equally.    that works for me and im 13 so it might work for you   good luck!
1138719
your sister is a loser.  However, is low income housing out their for disabled seniors.   YOu could be a comfort and help to them by checking into it and giving the info to them.  IF they do not accept then you have done your best to help out.  LEt your sister know how you feel even if she refused to listen you can write her and know you did your absolute best to help.  Best of luck, chin up.
162050
I have an older sister and a younger one. I don't think one sister exist in the universe who wants to push her sister away by intention. it is a wrong perception in younger sisters.when they grow up, this misunderstanding will resolve.
531313
It is normal for siblings to hit that sort of a phase but it is never a good idea to act on those feelings, it will end up causing long term psychological issues.  Keep it to yourself, hopefully it will fade quickly, if not, seek therapy so you can talk to someone about it.
1062810
No, it's not wrong to feel disheartened, my son. It's very hard when some one you love says "don't kiss me"' like a baby or otherwise. Explain to her why you feel down. Perhaps she doesn't realize what it does mean to you. My family is very demonstrative. We hug and kiss in public. Not everyone is, however. Talk to your sister. She loves you. She'll listen.