My cousin died. I want her teddy bear. My aunt said I couldn't have it. What should I do?
155479
steal it. sorry auntie. u can live without it.
822417
Oh what a world.. to be so upset about not knowing what you want for christmas...  I would just chill you know your getting something cool already.. and just enjoy time with family and the gifts are a bonus
930622
I'm sorry for your loss.  The urn sounds lovely.  I would suggest planting maybe one of mom's favorite plants in it.  Draw straws to determine who gets it.  That family keeps it for a year, and then at Christmas next year gives it to another family member.  \n\nYou could keep this tradition going for a long time ;)  \n\nI lost my grandmother earlier this year and I got some of her ashes in a tiny urn.  Part of me wants to scatter the ashes under an orange tree she planted probably 30 years ago and that produces the sweetest navels you can imagine - but I'm torn, also, on what to do with this tiny thing. I suppose I could just keep it where it is as a reminder, but I dunno...\n\nAgain, I'm sorry for your loss.
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I definitely think there's a possibility. It's not the same, but when I was a little kid, I loved my dolls and stuffed animals so much they were almost like my children. So once I got this tiny little rhinoceros that I really loved and I carried it with me everywhere. Well, one day I lost it and I was really really sad about it. To make me feel better, my mom told me that she was sure it was taken away from me because there was a poor child somewhere on the streets who didn't have any toys who needed it more who got it. I wasn't so sure, but that night I had a dream about Krishna [I've been Krishna obsessed since I was a child] and when I woke up I was SURE that's what had happened. To this day, I'm still sure that God took it from me because a poor child on the streets in India needed it more, and I was happy to give it up for that. Have faith : )
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Wow, what a tough situation.  I am so sorry for the loss that you are experiencing.\n\nI guess the point of making a last visit is to say your goodbyes and let the loved one know of your love for her and add some comfort you can in any way to the scary process that she's going through, as well as be around to help your other (healthy) relatives.  \n\nIn that sense, it's a good idea to ask your aunt.  My grandmother's cancer seemed to already affect her brain during my last visit with her, but we still had a great visit and it was a time that I won't forget.  You might want to ask her when she would like you to come, or how your presence can be the most helpful to her.  This goes for your other relatives.\n\nTimes like this have a way of stripping off people's fronts and exposing their real needs and desires.  I have a feeling that if you are honest and sincere with them, they will be honest with you, too.\n\nI also think that you can pray and ask God this question.  He knows everything, so He'll definitely be able to guide you as you deal with this difficult time for your family.\n\nMy best wishes to all of you.
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My brother's birthday is day after christmas and every year he got short-changed. Aunties, etc. wold say "Oh, junior, we got you a bigger present because it is for both Christmas and your birthday". a kid doesn't think that's very cool. A kid - and an adult -doesn't care if you spent $5. or $25. so long as the gift is cool. Once we became adults I made a special point of always giving my brother a separate birthday gift - and NEVER used Christmas wrapping!! (like some people did). If you ditch Christmas, you are still short-changing her, dummy-cakes. You do the whole Christmas thing as usual but maybe you buy a very personal gift , set your alarm clock for 12:01 December 25th, wake her up with a kiss and a glass of champagne and say "Happy Birthday, darling, sweetie, lambie-pie,cuddles. This moment is just for you because I love you!" Trust me, all day Christmas she'll be bragging to all her friends and relatives about the most romantic, thoughtful guy in the world - YOU!\n**Just read your add-on, and i still urge you both not to "ditch" Christmas. Been there,done that - and for the same reasons you gave. It was a disaster. Two of us in Vegas, both missing the meaning and feelings of Christmas. Start your own new traditions - things you can later share with your children from the extended families because some years you will have the kids. Buy an artificial tree, one that is exquisite, one that you can now afford because you aren't feeding a horde of people for dinner. Plan future decorating and start with this year's purchase, in following years, include those kids. You need to show the children that Christmas is important and that you are celebrating so that they want to be with you on alternate years. Whether you are feeling like a "family" this year or not, you really ARE a family, just missing a few members on this one occasion. The earlier suggestion would still hold true, but then please have a wonderful Christmas as well! You can always have a birthday cake for dessert.
339856
Go to the toy store,and purchase\na large teddy bear - give a name\ntake him to bed with you at nite\n(curious how old are you?)
306615
i was babysitting my cousin for the summer and she insisted watching at least of his videos everyday..it was driving me crazy..so one morning i got up early and hid all her videos..when she woke up i told her that barney had died over night and he was gone to heaven and that we couldnt watch him anymore..shes never asked to watch barney since then..my aunt loves me!
461936
i feel your pain. i'm crazy about a blood cousin aswell. Dont feel bad. you cant help who you fall in love with. Tell her so that she can know what you're feeling and so that she can undersand why you do certain things a certain way when she's around. Tell her you love her, but dont react to what the love is telling you to do. make her understand that you cant help yourself and make sure that you keep your distance because after all, cousins make dozens.\nsave your family the shame... i did, and we're happy.
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My last conversation with my cousin was about baseball also.  It was at his little sister's game.  He was the coach.  They won.  The team threw Gatorade on him.  He tried to hug me and I pushed him away.  We were just kidding around but if I knew that was the last time I'd see him,  I would've hugged him, covered in Gatorade or not.  I've thought about what I'd say for the past 13 years.  I've gone over it a million times.  But it doesn't really matter.  I know he loved me and I know he knew how much he meant to me.  It's hard to even write this.  I believe in my heart when people die, they know who loves them.  Nothing more has to be said.  I do talk to my cousin, I tell him every day.  Don't stop talking to him because he's gone.  Your dad loves you and he knows you love him.  I'm sorry for your lost.  May you find peace.
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GOD BLESS YOU .\nI JUST LOST MY HUSBAND TO CANCER, AND THEY REALLY LIKE THE HATS AND WIGS PEOPLE GIVE THEM.\nYOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL PERSON TO DO THIS.\nAND  GOD BLESS YOUR AUNT.
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Me and my mom where out shopping for others gifts and she shows me this doll and asks if I think my cousin would like it, I thought the doll ugly but I said "oh yeah she would love it" and because of my overaction guess what I opened up on christmas, the doll, I could not believe it, my mom got me the silly ugly doll, but when I looked at her face and saw her smiling at me, thinking I had really wanted the doll, I realized that I could keep the doll in my collection. That doll became my favorite doll for all time, I carried it with me everywhere, the gift was given to me out of love and there is no gift more precious than that.
944507
She is feeing scared and trapped and feels like she could just die. The relationship with the bf is rocky (or soon to be) the aunt obviously is a metaphor to her family which will reject her. And the person who is close to her that dies shows death soon to come or maybe metaphorical death, like a friendhip (possibly yours??). She is gonna have some tough times and you have to stick with her because I'm sure she is gonna need a shoulder to cry on... I hope this helps.... (and could this girl possibly be you?) Keep observing the dreams and see what comes of them if there is one specific recurring dream try to focus on that one dream.... home it helps!
480758
Dont keep it and reuse it later. It was your wifes gown. If you have daughters save it for them. So sorry for your loss. It is a great hole in your life i am sure. May you remember her everyday and cherish her in your thoughts. Prayers with you
926637
Since she is your daughter and no someone elses give her something quiet like a Teddy bear made out of an old fur coat.  my son is 29 and still treasures the one I made for him. p.s. no he is not gay lol
552986
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Yes, it is okay that you don't want to be a pall bearer. I think they will understand that you are just not up to doing so. may her memories comfort you at this sad time. \n\nTake Care!!
995213
rather lose the one that can't commit. even if someone couldn't give me everything, that's okay.\n Sometimes wishes are worth something, especially when the wisher is sitting next to you.