how do you deal with a guy who feels uncool about talking to u in front of his friends?
150534
Hmm sounds like junior high/high school fun.  Let's be realistic, there are always gonna be friends of yours that don't get along with other friends of yours right?\n\nIt's the same type thing.  It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you.\n\nBesides all that crap goes away after you're out of school.\n\nNow what your friend is doing isn't good by any means, but tell me who hasn't ever done that in their whole life?\n\nI'm trying to give you the other side of it cuz I know everyone's gonna automtatically say "Ditch him he's not worth it, no one should do that to another."\n\nI'm trying to be realistic about humanity and forgiving I guess.
348352
He has low self-esteem.  Don't stand for it or it will get worse.  Simply tell him, "Don't talk to me like that.  When y7ou talk to me in demeaning terms it makes we want to be away from you not near you.  You may talk to your friends like that but don't talk to me like that ever again."\n\nIf he does, leave for a night or two and give him the message that you are not his doormat and you have too much self respect than to be treated like one of the guys.
626445
Unfortunately, guys that age aren't very good at expressing their feelings due to the amount of pressure imposed on them by their mates. If you have a school party or something your going to ask him if he'll go with you? Be confident. Do you have his number or email address? Txt or email him - not as embarrasing! I wouldn't rely on how he acts when he's with his mates, get him when he's alone.
99653
Awwww, this is soooo cute (sorry, got carried away there).\n\nYeah, have to agree with another answerer. Get him alone, it doesn't work if his friends are there, then he has to act all tuff and cool. Get him alone, and tell him in a quiet way that you really, really like him, a lot. Ask him how he feels about you. Things have a tendency to work out fine after that.\n\nThe best of luck to you :-)
92787
Well u cant continue havin this cuz its obviously makin u uncomfortable so u gotta let them down try givin them hints that he doesnt make u feel comfortable followin u.If he doesnt catch on u gotta tell him straight up to not follow u. he might get hurt but he'll get over it. It might seem mean but its better than actin fake to sum1.
559262
It does sound like he is trying to ignore u, don't let it get u down there's a lot more where that came from. As far as the shyness goes, it can be kinda difficult to get around that, I know cuz I was like that(still kinda am). It's all on you if your willing to take the first step and talk to him, it's easier for women cuz most guy's will feel like it's a good ice breaker and if there interested then they'll try to keep up the conversation. My best advice to you would be to is to not worry about what the other person might think about you, cuz some times you gotta swing the bat and if you miss then oh well you'll do better next time.
937174
He may be just playing around with your friends.  Why don't you pull a reverse on him, next time you are around some of his close friends say hi to them and bop them a couple good whacks on the shoulder and see what he has to say.
200557
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
810228
You adore him and he knows that, he is taking advantage of your feelings, and you are falling in his game.To have a mature conversation with him could clear everything and if he still say he wants you as a friend...hun, move on!! he is not your friend!!!
40240
friends r ok to have them tell this person,but then it makes you look like ur afraid to talk to that person u dont want that do you\nlet the person see and know how much u like them\nflirt with them a lil bit and most of all TALK!!!
67897
you have so much nerves in you that makes you feel kind of a stage fright feeling,major butterflies.maybe someday you will be able to not have those feelings and actually talk to him or he will talk to you.if you dont talk to him,you might be loosing your chances with this guy.you never know.just try to say a simple hey,or hi or what ever you say.
413656
He likes you and is afraid of being hazed by his friends if he were to show his true colors around you.  If you start to have a steady relationship with him just keep it low key untill everyone's maturity level advances a little and eventually he will feel at ease being with you around his friends.  The best  way to do this whole political dance is to befriend his friends and start doing things as a group together; but keep your focus on him every time the group of you goes out to the mall or a movie or somewhere else.
241490
He is either shy or not interested in you, but don't want to hurt your feelings why he dosen't comment. If he is someone you talk with  daily and in private, you can confront him then. If he is someone you don't really socialize with and he is in the "cool crowd" as they call it he might embarass you in the end. \nI don't know him, but you do. Ask your self what type of person he is, an embarassing one, or one who cares about others feelings, you can easily decide how you want to approach. Make sure you confront him, don't let a few years pass and you are left wondering what might have happen if you had ask him how he feels about you.
446433
Give space and let him come to you! He is with you so he must not hate you too bad. Give it time and if you really want him to talk just say that you feel like you guys are going in different paths and if he doesn't tell you what he wants then your gone. If that happens you will be happy eventually. Just give yourself a new look at life and find friends. If he talks to you and opens up trust what he says and don't question it. Your wanting to know and if he feels pestered by you he won't open up again.
1132733
i can tell you that hes an idiot. i think he judged you by how you look rather than get to know you, the real you. i think he acted the way he did cause he didnt want to be outcast by his friends and to be taunted by other peers. people now hold their reputations up high, ego maniacs. just keep your head up and dont let anyone put you down. there are much better people out there so just forget about that dude. good luck and take care!
1087093
If you guys talk on the phone than you should deffinantly call him and tell him how you feel. If this is to much fot you then just E-mail him, what are his friends going to do?
942055
I think that you should talk to him about it. He may be feeling awkward because you told him how you felt and he's not ready to make the transition from "friends" to "more than friends." Talk to him and see where his head is at, try to make him feel comfortable so that he won't blow you off. Things like this are never easy, but you'll never until you ask. Good luck....