what should i do if i am deeply in love with a past friend (girl i used to know) but is now engaged.?
151075
Get over it and get on with your life.\nYou cannot change the past.  Stop living through your memories.\nShe has made her choice or she would not be engaged.
979611
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
661824
Dont says its your fault unless it really was. Lets-just-be friends.. um.. ok, if you seriously think thats going to workout. Oy.. third option is so out of the question. Girl, the past is the past. What happens,happens. You gotta move on, there are plenty of more fish in the sea. Believe me.
205508
stop thinking this ............you will loos eyour best friend as well as the girl friend .........keep your emotion for time being withing and wenever they broke off ......propose her
1169752
OK, "marry her if you truly love her"??  What the fuck is that?  That's not an answer?  The girl obviously doesn't want to be with him anymore, so how is he supposed to marry someone who isn't with him anymore?  Jees, some people's kids, I swear!\n\nMy advice is to throw in the towel.  If you read one of my questions, it's not the same...but it's the same concept!  You are in love with her and she has given up on your love, correct?  I.E.-the coming and getting of all of her things brings the closure to the relationship-she has given up on the relationship.  I know it will be super hard...I've been there...it was even harder coz my kids were involved.  There will be a lot of decisions in your life that you WON'T want to make...but you realize that you have to!  Like this one...she's not coming back.  It's possible...in the future, when she realizes how stupid she was being...but as of right now and probably the next few months at least...she's moved on...you should try to, as well.  If you need to talk to someone about this, contact me!  I will try to help you through this...I've been through TWO extremely hard break-ups.  good luck!
1026326
I would just talk to her. I have been friends with one girl for many years and we started to grow apart and i just talked to her about it and now im going to her wedding and im going to be her sons godmother. never give up on true friendship
195896
You should ask her to descibe who the old you was, if it fits who you was then try going back to be that person. It seems like you got a bit shaky since you engage to her. Seems to me that you are worrying about the step you are about to take. Go back to being yourself, and remember do not change when you get married.
874258
First of all its your mistake that you are loving 2 girls and spoiling 2 girls at a time. Loving 2 girls is fine, but 1st girl wants to marry you or not, if she is going to marry you, its your mistake again you got engaged with 2nd girl. Those girls knows each other.?.\n\nForget about love, get marry with 2nd girl and enjoy with 1st one if she comes to you some time later, but make sure that no conflict happens.\n\nMail me on mkkittu@yahoo.com
700981
When you meet the one you know it, period, you just know it. There is no way to describe how you'd know, you just do. If you seriously feel this strongly about her then yes, tell her. It'd be a shame to look back in 30 or 40 yrs and have regrets for letting the 'one' get away.....tell her.\n\nGood luck!
818035
Friends after the fact won't work dude.  If you want a relationship with her or still love her, tell her you want her back.  If that's a no go - you need a clean break - That involves your mate as well.   Explain you still have feelings for her and you can't be around her without feeling awkward.  Then find some new friends.
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
136307
Hi.  I might be wrong, but I think most of the love/hate stuff is only in your head, you know.  I mean, it's not like you two have had an actual relationship in all those years, right?  So, I'm not saying you haven't really felt love and hate, only the person you've felt them for no longer exists.  You both grew apart a long time ago - if you were to meet again, you probably wouldn't even know each other anymore, you'd have to get to know her all over again to sort out your feelings.  And you might realize then that she's probably been that way (that would only be new to you) for a while and you couldn't possibly feel love or hate or both for her.\nOkay, I'm rambling.\nWhat to do?  Now that's a good question.  Honestly, I don't know.  I don't know how you get over your history.  But is this something that bothers you all the time?  Or are you just wondering how she's felt since then?
108004
It's true that by now she might be married, but who knows, she might still be single and thinking about you too. I think it's either love or maybe you just need to clear up your feelings for this girl. Sometimes the only way to do thid is to go to her and once you are there with her, and tell her how you feel, you will know. Go find her and clear things up with her. Hope this helps, and good luck!!! :0)
919264
Don't make the same mistake twice.  There is a reason you have been friends for so long.  Do it and take the chance.  You have to think about it this way....You take chances with total strangers all the time without knowing them at all.  Why not give the same chance to someone you know you already LOVE!!!
600914
Well, for starters, I wouldn't recommend you put down the relationship she's in with this guy she met online.  It is entirely possible that she really does love him - the fact that they haven't met face-to-face yet doesn't mean they aren't a 'real' couple.  You can learn alot about someone when your only method of spending time together is communicating! (and not getting caught up in lusty feelings because you're next to an attractive person - this is far more dangerous, especially if you're basing a relationship on that feeling..) \nIt sounds to me like you're being a friend to her, so that's how she perceives you - as a friend, and only that.  You sound angry, and annoyed that she would be interested in anyone but you.  Remember free will - just because she knows YOU want more doesn't mean she's obliged to give it to you, or fall in love with you, or however you want to look at it.  She's going to have her own wants and needs.  There is obviously something this guy is giving her that she hasn't gotten from you - which is why she's with him.  \nSo stop expecting things from her - go date other people, go live your life.  Maybe she will miss having you there for her all the time, and realize how important you are to her. And, maybe she won't - maybe you'll find someone you like better anyway.  Alternately, you could try talking to her about it - and ask her outright if she might want to date you - not just be friends.  Sitting around brooding about how she's dumb for not wanting to be with you isn't the way to get things accomplished.. it's just wasting energy and time that could be spent doing much better things...
136359
Sorry to hear your feelings are being reciprocated...but unfortuantely you cant make someone like you.  just keep being her friend andmaybe you will grow on her.  Thats how my man got me!  We became best friends and now were engaged!
303693
You yourself said it was a fling..leave it..talking to this guy wont make any difference.. if you need it off your chest..post a question on yahoo answers!! As for closure..he is with another woman now..is that not closure enough.. the thing here is your expecting some form of logic in this situation..relationships..even flings dont work this way..live and let live...spend your precious energy on someting and someone worthwhile..including YOU..\nGood Luck..