Can a person  REALLY change their ways when in a relationship/?
149350
IF LOVE IS IN THE AIR \nTHAN YES
243302
Your right but there are some exceptions.  There are things often that you know you can't work through or differences that exist that aren't even things that involve working through.  You can try everything possible to make a relationship work but at some point no matter how much you love someone you have to be honest about if it is really a relationship that can work.
711420
my babe has also tried 2 change my personality.. he said im 2 soft spoken & weak.. that i cnt speak & defend myself\n\ni told him i dnt wana change coz this is me -- d real me! \nhowever, due 2 tough tyms & experience, i've learned 2 change fr my own..\n\nnow im tougher & nobody can ever put me down when i knw im right... \n\nd change shld come w/in u, not coz some ppl dictate u 2 change..
718104
yes. people change as they grow up.\n\nsometimes its not him that has only change. we do too soo take it as a leason learned and STAY FRIENDS
280050
You can not change someone. If you boyfriend is insensitive he will always be that way until he has some life challenging event that causes him to change his point of view. You have to look at yourself and decide if you are willing to deal with this as an on going issue or if you deserve better and move on to someone who treats you more in line with the personal values system you see for your self.
557405
Yes i think so. Its more like you learn to live with and accept the flaws. Then its not a flaw anymore, its more like a part of that person you've begun to love.
686987
Yes.  Just have to be honest up front about the situation.  Dating is different than being in a relationship.
584507
not unless you are prepared to change. seems like that pink slip changes people ever so slightly, just enough may be to annoy, so why spoil a good thing, better enjoy life as it is, love rules in mind not on paper!
189944
I think I'd make myself even more willing to accept changes in my life when they were logical, practical and oftentimes necessary. It may be a stereotype, but sometimes I get the feeling that women don't accept change in their lives quite as well as men. In particular, I'm thinking of my wife! But actually that balances out our marriage quite well, because I'm always looking for new ideas to make things go easier in life, and sometimes I jump on the latest fad a little too quickly without trying it out a little first. She is more conservative and wants to wait longer before agreeing to make a change in our lives.
630105
it surely can work. it worked with me and it still does. depends on how much you love and trust each other. and if you want to change this someday and be together for real.\ntell him what?
683989
nope, don't change for anyone. you are who you are and there is someone out there who will love you as you are. comprimise is one thing but change is totally too much. if they don't think they need to change then don't, if it's for the better don't worry they will find out for themselves.
72564
In having been/recently been cheated on.I've learned many way of the tell tale sings.There's one's as to being distant,taking shower's after going out and coming home,not being able to concentrate on relationship issue's as normal,attitude change's,together time isn't important anymore,extra attention/affection,new past times/hobbies that seem to be done at odd times,apperance changes,sudden intrest in telling stories of or about another woman from work or had just met,sexual changes such as tring different things or disintrest or wanting more,changes in behavior,depression,anxious,needing space,arguements about unimportant little things,or when your in need of conformation of why things change they get irritated and say that it's all in your head,relationship lifestyle changes,and all i can say is trust your gut instinct.usually if you are close spiritually,emotionally,intellectually,and know every little thing about each other you can get a wierd feeling when it happens.Sometime's they buy you things when they go out and have no answer to as where they were.They take intrest in buying little things that you like to collect or that they know will distract you from being suspicious of them.Alot of extra reassurance of devotion and wanting to change the way things run in the relationship.
229360
yes people to change!\nthe feeling doesnt sound like a mutual one you inticated, so my dear you should move on
909534
No,,,no it can't...if he doesn't at this point he never will,,,but keep in mind that's the way he was when you fell in love with him, and married him...he has not changed,,,it maybe you.
1122285
wasting your time....when a relationship starts..people put up fronts....after a few months or even years, the person's real self starts to show itself....that means that he has always been like this and was different in the beginning but will never go back to that way
170922
When you commit yourself your person, you are saying you love them just the way they are.  You should support and encourage your partner in any attempt they make at personal growth, but the worst statement anyone has ever made is "I can change him/her" or "Oh he's/she's never had someone that loved them like me, they'll change" \nIf you don't love them as they are then move on.
95563
I am not sure that feelings change. Situations change and that affects the intensity of those feelings, but not the actualy quantity. You can love someone and learn to hate them, but you never actually stop loving them. If things are not good, unhappyness accrues and in some cases outweight the love feelings, which is why relationships are a lot of work. I also think that attraction diminishes and many people mistake that for diminished feelings, but it's just attraction. It's there, you just need to work hard at it.