if your mom discourages you ,how do u stay motivated?
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A little more detail might be helpful...\n\nYour mom might just be trying to protect you from disappointment or something else that she feels is not safe or right for you.\n\nIf you really have your heart set on what you want, just keep working at it.  Of course, you have to prove to mom that you can maintain good grades and take care of whatever responsibilities you have within the family/home FIRST, or else you might find yourself in trouble.  \n\nI have found motivation in trying to prove other people wrong, when someone says I'm not good enough to accomplish something, I want to succeed that much more!
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set goals and keep to them. try to think before making drastic decicsions ya dig. everythings gonna be cool. u is tha mother they gonna love u regaurdless. its cool that you know when your wrong. this parent thang aint easy. go wit tha flow be responsible they gots to come first. make them #1 priority. everything will be fine take your time changes dont come overnight dont think about tha past everydays a new one while yesterday was a throw away. we cant rewind back to fix tha shi* we did that was wrong and wack. you will get there i promise every thing will be alright. keep your head up. you know whats right instill tha same morles you got as a kid. tha only teachers we have on raising kids is our parents. you might want to consult them if ever you have a doubt you dig. be cool youll be straight.
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go to mommy, it always helps.
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Stay away from the people who are bumming you out. You have to put the most important things to do in your life first! Try to stay away from the things that stress you out. as far as the environment change it if you can. I hope this helps. keep motivated by doing things that you enjoy. if not all the time, most of the time. And if you have to many things going on your best bet is to eliminate some lesser thing you do not need to do.
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First of all, don't start trying to lose weight for someone else. Do it for yourself. Do it to boost your self-esteem. Do it to make yourself happy. Your mother probably rags you about it because she hates to see you ruin your health and lower your self-esteem.  Try telling her that it hurts your feelings and makes you feel worse about yourself when she treats you that way. Ask her to be an encourager to you, not to criticize and condemn you.
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buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
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I dunno...but when you find out, let me know! \n\nHow about picking up the latest issue of People Magazine with the "Half their size" people.  That always motivates me, at least temporarily.  \n\nI used to have motivational posters around the house too.  If possible, find a friend who is willing to check in on you periodically who will help keep you motivated.  It's hard I know...but once you lose the weight and keep a lifestyle of eating better and exercising, you'll feel sooo much better.
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It takes a great deal of strength to stay focused, optimistic and strong in unfriendly circumstances.  You have to 1) Believe in yourself; be confident, 2) Keep in mind the real reason for being there whether it is family, friends or buisness and 3) Remember that it too, in time, shall pass.  The circumstances won't last forever or you will not be in them forever.\n\nIt is not easy at all to do these 3 things.  Prepare yourself before entering into the circumstances and remember to BREATE when you begin to feel the strain.
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Try getting your mom out of the dumps..\nThink of something she likes to do and you wouldn't mind doing..Go somewhere together..hang out with friends and family..You make her happy, you'll be happy.\nGood luck!
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Sweet Heart this wont help..do u think ur mother would want so do something that would harm u...many of us face difficult circumstances everyday..which can be cateogarized into emotional/physical/mental situations..that doesnt mean u give up..u being distressed might not allow ur mothers soul rest in peace..i would suggest that u wake up and face life not by suciding or doin something stupid like that just be happy and find routes through whuch happiness itself knocks at ur door step..what abt the remaing of ur family..try living for them..take care sweety
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You have to first think back to a time when you felt most proud of yourself, and use that for whatever may come. If that doesn't work for you, then you should look at the present. You want to be motivated to do something, and in order to do that you just need to do it. Much like doing the dishes. There is a huge pile to do, but you lack the motivation to do it. Maybe the result will inspire you. Once the dishes are done and cleaned, you can look back on that accomplishment. This may be from someone who hates doing the dishes, but does it to complete a chore. Think of what you need motivated as a game, when you're competing against yourself, the only winner is you.
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Be yourself! If you meet her dressed in clothes you normally don't wear and behave in ways you don't normally behave there will come the day that you will grow tired of the false you. So be yourself. Be kind and polite.Offer to help with the cooking "if you are invited to a meal" and be sure to help with the clean up.Those are two things a mom will look at more than what you are wearing!
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tell her you need a little space.\nor perhaps that you moved to canada.\n\nbut i just try to avoid them.\nlike if i'm on the phone with them and i don't want to talk very long, i tell my mom to yell at me to get off the phone.\nthen act all bummed that i have to get off the phone with them.\nalso, if they want me to go somewhere with them or do something, i tell them my mom said that i can't.  and pretend to be mad at her.\n\ntrust me, it works.
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He has to be self-motivated otherwise you will create a kid that hates his overbearing mother
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First I would break your big dreams into smaller goals that you can achieve short term.  This will keep you motivated by giving you instant gratification instead of waiting several years to see your results.  Determine what your motivating factors are and write yourself a mission statement to refer to when feeling less motivated.\n     Next I would make a list of things that would hinder you from reaching your goals and write out a plan of action to handle these situations when they occur.  \n     You also want to make sure to take time for yourself, reward your hard work.  Don't keep yourself from doing the things you enjoy because you are too focused on your end goal.  \n     Throw perfectionism out the window!  Be realistic of failure.  Each time we fail, there is a lesson to learn.  Take the time to learn the lesson and apply it later down the road.  \n     Don't be so down on yourself, negative self-verifying feedback can be one of your biggest enemys.  Focus on your strengths and use that to build your weaknesses.\n     I am a 30 yr old single mom just starting college.  I have had to learn and practice all of the above to continue to achieve my dreams.  GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Your mother does not want to lose you. Remember its your life!
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Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!