How do i get my hubby to stop lieing..about little stuff??
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Alright....I'm a reformed liar. I can admit it because I've fixed that within me. I've seperated myself from that part of my past and I have moved on. Having said that, now we can go into why he's lying. When someone lies to the one they love, they don't do so to intentionally hurt. Even tho that's usually the outcome. He's obviously been in a situation/relationship before you where his situation didn't provide for any trust structure. So to carry on some semblance of normalcy he learned to fabricate a reality to satisfy the questioning/insecurities of another JUSt so he could function on a day to day basis. What it boils down to is this: He's never known a relationship where trust is real and all-encompassing. He could fear he doesn't deserve you. Comes from past feelings of inadequecy or lack of self-worth. You're much more then he feels he deserves. Even tho you're what he wants. It's a self-destructive attitude I had. Psychologists agree. If you don't feel you deserve something, you won't treat it well. Human nature. But I digress. He needs to UNDERSTAND that in YOU he can have true faith and trust. He can confide in you like none other. Because you are his wife. And noone will ever come between that. You need to create that safe zone so he can feel safe to come to you for things and to tell you what is on his mind. As it is now he doesn't feel you can handle things he thinks and feels. He fears you'll blow up on him or overreact or even leave him if he tells you what/how he thinks and feels. You need to show him. Not only in words but also in matching actions. Say you can handle it and then actually handle it. Help him break that reflex of fabricating what he thinks you want to hear. Trust me...he's a prisoner. I was. It cost me almost everything. But most of all....have patience. This is his self-defense/preservation reflex. I say "reflex". So he automatically does it before he thinks I'm sure. So, like an alcholic in rehab you must be his friend and help him through it. Make it through and your relationship will be stronger then you've ever seen it. Best thing is: once in that habbit of total communication and honesty, he'll become addicted to the safety of it's feeling and stick with it. Because if he's the guy I was, he hates the stress and poressure of all that guilt. Best of luck to you.
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Oooh thats a toughy.  You don't want to offend him.  Maybe try suggesting new things...Or you could just flat out tell him out of the blue (not during sex)
193773
Tell him it bothers you! If he does'nt stop then make consequences!! You're a woman, you can think of something i'm sure;) The only thing that will insure a long happy relationship is communication. Cliche, but true.
648961
Stop lying to her maybe ??
1153372
By this point it sound pathalogical, he lies without even thinking about it and if it goes on much longer he could even beging to believe his lies. It will take time to correct this problem but with the right help you and him should be able to make it through it.
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All is not well in your home tonight....there is lying and deception going on.....and not by you. He is lying to you, and using you. Tell him to tell the truth, or get out! After he tells you the truth, then you tell him to get out, cause you ain't gonna like what he tells you. Good Luck!
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It is not your responsibility to store his stuff for him now that he's used them up. Tell him as nicely as possible how it has annoyed you somewhat but you didn't want to say anything, but for him to please stop doing it, and if he gets offended... not your probs! :)\n\nlol... you might even try pulling the same trip with something that you enjoy but he doesn't, just as a gentle example of how it feels.
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I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
1107585
Just tell him. He's your husband..You should be able to know how to tell him in such manner where not to hurt his feelings.
632181
He thinks he can avoid the fighting if he lies to you. What you need to do is let him know that it acctually makes it worse when he lies and you find out later. Tell him that if he tells the truth right off the bat, then you will try not to get so upset with him. If you give him alittle bit more patience and calm, he'll be more willing to tell the truth. He's just afraid of arguing.
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The only thing that you can really do is tell him all that you have just told us. And no offense, but from your question, it sounds like you concern yourself with material things and appearances more than you really should.
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You can try to address it jokingly, at least once, with him to see if he gets the hint.  Say something like, "Dude!  Need my personal space please!" (and gesture the amount of personal space you would like) or "Quit trying to wrestle with me!" or "Hey, don't mess the 'do!"  Or have your husband jokingly step in and pull you away and put his arm around you, saying "Hey, this one's mine, yours is over there!"\n\nIf he doesn't take the hint, you can try approaching him discreetly and privately, and telling him that while you enjoy his company, the physical rough-housing isn't as much fun for you, he doesn't know his own strength, you prefer a little more personal space, etc.  Or you can go to  your friend and ask her to talk with him.  Be sure to stress that it's nothing personal or negative against him, it's just not your thing.
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cook clean feed baby dress baby clean some more take care of dogs take a shower have dinner cooked .... just kidding i have found that it isn't always that simple.. i talked to my hubby and told him there is no possible way to do it all... try giving him one day to be in your shoes then see what he has to say!
941301
Talk to him and try to get him to stop it.  Tell him that it bothers you, not that you don't trust him, just that it bothers you.
13790
I agree that asking would not work.  If you try asking here are some clues that he may be lying.  He says "What" when you ask him.  He asks for more details (what do you know) like "When" or "With who", he takes a longer time to respond (he's thinking of a lie), also it has been my experience that people are actually more calm when they lie, think about it if someone asks you if you did something wrong that you didn't do you'd be like "No Way!" and you'd get more agitated if they persisted.  But if you did do this bad thing you'd be kinda calm/monotone/Homer Simpson-like "No, I didn't do that" and you'd get more nervous if they persisted.  I would try spying on him first and see what you can dig up before you go asking questions that make you look distrustful.
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Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
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yes stop being childish\ntell him yourself