MY mom was murdered fourteen years ago .nothing has been done . can anyone help?
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e-mail me the details and i will c what i can do to help, thats so sad, i m not a lawyer but i know a few personaly. my e-mail is my i.d. and my profile is public, you can reach me that way.
500598
It takes time, when my parents seperated it devistated me and I begged my mother to come back, but she never did. Theres nothing you can really do, but look past it. I cried for days and nothing good ever happened.
14469
You can call your local county/city library and ask to speak with records (may be called something else, it varies from city to city. \n\nThere you can speak to customer service and ask them questions regarding deceased/still living. \n\nSomething similar happened to me. I didn't have the social security, all I had was a name. So long as you have a name and maybe where the person lives (lived), the county and so forth, they (the records person) should give you some assistance to at least say if she is still around.
909358
I answered your previous question about this issue and really wanted to send you an e-mail this time but you dont have that option available.  All I can say is she sounds just like me when I was her age and I know exactly what she is going through.  If you ever set up an e-mail contact get back to me and I will try and explain her to you so you can have a better understanding of what is going on.  Most of what people are writing to you is not right.  I dont think anybody can understand it unless they have been through it themselves.  Good luck.
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Someone very close to me has had this happen to her, a relative actually although not a sister.  It is up to her on whether or not she is wanting to or ready to get help.  It would not be wise of you to seek retribution for her father's actions.  It has to be her decision, possibly with the help of a counselor if need be.  And she may never seek retribution.  She may just want to heal and get on with her life.  It is very hard to prove something so many years after the crime took place.  Immediately afterward would have been better, but most cases of family incest do not get reported until years later.  Then it's a case of he said she said.  Even hypnotizing has been discredited in some of these cases.  \nIf you want to help her and she seems to want your help, talk to her about professional counseling.  It's the best way to go.
976153
You need to speak to an attorney about your rights and obligations.  Also, why not speak with her financial advisor to find out what, if any, plans are in place concerning your mother's death.
571367
Call the police ASAP, my good friend spent every penny he had on the drug, he spent about $250 a week and lost his job and most all of his contacts.  I finally called the cops on him and he thanks me to this day for saving his life.  If I would of waited any longer, I don't know if he would of been around.  Know that you can call the police from a pay phone and not give them your name.  Please do your mother a favor and get her into treatment before it's too late.  This is a very serious thing, and I know you love her, please do the right thing and get her help.
807843
Sometimes angels are on your shoulder and justice is served naturally. It takes a few hours for rigor mortis to set in so they were all responsible and paid for it eventually. I'm sorry it took so long for you to have closure. Your Dad was with you all the time.
588462
why don't u call the number of the office that sent u this letter and demand for all of the details? obviously u are not the only responsible for that kid, where is she? how is raising her? why don't u call there and ask what is going on? what makes u wish to stop her after 9 years u didn't do anything? if u have changed Ur mind now, after all of this time, first try to understand what is she going throw?!
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I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
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All of you people are absolutely pathetic. You should all be ashamed of yourself, tormenting this poor woman, calling her a murderer. You want a murderer? Go to your local prison with a cigarette rammed up your ass, and walk around publicly flaunting it - That'll show you what a murderer is.\n\n\n\nShe doesn't have to explain herself to anyone. She asked a question. She wants an answer. She doesn't need all you bible thumpers telling you what she did was wrong or right - The fact is it's done, there isn't anything you can do about it. Get over it.\n\n\nJust answer her damn question.\n\n\n\n\n\nNow, that my rant is over....\n\n\n\nIt could take a life time for you to get over it. This was a child that was growing inside you, and it's no longer there. I would've made the very same decision, however, I don't know if I'd be too upset about it. My friend recently had a miscarriage and she seemed just fine, but to each their own.\n\n\nFind ways of coping with grief. If you want, you could make a small memorial site for your baby. Come up with a name you like,  and build a small shrine in honor. Place the name somewhere, and if it helps, you could talk to your baby throughout the day, or when something happens you need to get off your chest. There are numerous ways to cope, and I hope you find something that allows you to grieve properly.\n\n\n\nGood luck.
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Contact the general jurisdiction court in the town that you mom lived when she won the lawsuit.  They will have the file on the case.
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Hi there,\nI'm probably putting my neck on the block here but; I understand totally how you feel. I was brought up in similar circumstances. Except it wasn't prostitution & alcohol it was prostitution & drugs. \n\nThis is the only way I finally came to deal with all the stuff that went on in my life too.\n\nUp until I was about 35 I sat as the proverbial judge over my Mother, I then realised that I either get to know the Woman she is NOW & get to like her for that or forget all about her. There was no way on this earth that I was ever going to warm to the Woman she was as I grew up. \n\nYou clearly still care as you're saying you hate her, that's anger & you have a right to feel that. If she's not Woman enough to allow you to air all your feelings to her (even though she'll hate every minute of it) then I think it's a non-starter. It's important that you try to talk to her about your upbringing because it's not going to go away. I'm not saying by talking to her is going to make things better over night, but! as time goes on & perhaps you can see a way of maybe understanding what made her tick then things can slowly over time build up.\n\nYou may decide after all that having a relationship with your Mother isn't viable but you won't be able to make that decision without first attempting to see if things can be worked through. It's a difficult place for you to be right now & I don't envy you one bit (sorry)\n\nI would often look at my Children & wonder how my Mother could be so uncaring & selfish, as I could never do the things to my Children that my Mother did to me (allowing me to see & hear things that no Child from the age of 4 should ever be witness to) \nStrangely enough I didn't really think about the way my Mother had behaved until I became a Mother myself.\nBut! I've learned that I am not my Mother & I don't think the same way as my Mother.\n\nIt's not you that caused all this resentment & anger that you have going on inside of yourself. But! Unfortunately it is only you that can find the way of somehow dealing with it.\n\nI couldn't talk to my Mother about my past as she would get very defensive & her cut throat answer was to call me a spiteful cow who was only on this earth to make her feel guilty.  Obviously my Mother could deal with the past even less than I could. \n\nIf your Mother is agreeable to you airing the past then try to be careful that you do it with respect otherwise it can turn into a "who's the biggest bi.tch" competition & nothing positive will be achieved. This is where a councillor could come in useful. It may be better that someone else (NOT a family member or friend) is in the room & you could talk to them instead while your Mother listened. That way it's not too confrontational. If you go & see your G.P. they will be able to set up an appointment for you to see someone. Unfortunately the NHS (assuming you're in UK) is over worked so an appointment could be a long time coming. You could get a private councillor, they don't always cost a lot of money & there are some around that will charge according to your earnings. Having said that; you say your Mother has saved her earnings, well! You can always see if she's prepared to foot the bill that any counselling would incur. That would go a long way in showing you just how far she's prepared to go in order to make things better between you both.\n\nI think on a positive note; that things have a good chance of perhaps working out for both you & your Mother, because she has been the one to offer the olive branch (so to speak) I think that takes a lot of guts & for that alone plus to finally put all these ghosts in your life to rest, you should reach out in return. Don’t listen to others advice about “forgiving” your Mother, this will happen when you can finally (one way or the other) move on with your life. It’s not something that can be
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keep appeling. it took my mother 5 years to get hers but finally she did and they had to pay her for the entire time she was in appeal. DONT GIVE UP. ALWAYS APPEAL because if you do finally win they MUST pay from the date the case opened.
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ask the police or try all the telephone numbers or addreses emails to try to reach her there has to be someway to find her if not ill try more to help you dont worry
762410
She should not be forced to go. The man was a predator and she could easily have been a victim. There might be others out there who weren't as lucky. I definitely would not go and if I was a mother, I would never even be involved in any way shape or form of this person's anniversary of his death. I am sorry, but there is no good molester in my eyes, and forcing her to go would be sending her the wrong message... I would contact a grandparent or aunt and stay with them while the mother has gone. Sounds like the mother needs to get her head straightened around.. this is her child... she owes nothing to this man.....least of all respect......
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I would like to go back to the day my mom died so I could stop it from happening.