What do you do when the mother of your neice had been hanging out with my husband when we got seperated, my?
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I'd have a talk with her and tell her what I thought about it.  I'd also have a talk with him and tell him what I thought about it, and if I couldn't live with it I'd move him out.
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You can do nothing from this point.  You have acted maturely enough if you honestly have asked her why she was acting this way.  \nSometimes it's best to address what is on you mind regardless of what reaction might be solicited.\nNow go about your business and no matter what she will not be able to deny you have both given her the opportunity to explain her hostility towards you.  \nShe will lash out a little more, but eventually, I believe, she will want to join your friendship and not stew over it.\nShe is still a mom and you are a woman that threaten the very fibers of her closeness with her young.  Every species has this process in it's life cycle, humans are no different.  She'll remind you of course that her bonds with her son are stronger as this is normal.  Hostility is not nor should it be tolerated by anyone much less than a close family member.  I'd like to add that if a man can defend you against his mother he will defend you against anyone.  Tough situation but I believe you'll make it through this.  Good luck.\n\nI hope this answer just changed your life.  Peace.
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You need to sit your husband down and explain to him exactly how you feel.  Then you need to avoid your in-laws to salvage your mental health.  Allow your husband to visit them whenever he wants, but you stay home or go to a movie.  Seriously, my mother-in-law hated me and she broke up my marriage in the end.  It sounds like you need a vacation....
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Have her killed and thrown in the river that's what I wish I did. My ex's family all hated me even though I was the one who supported him and treated him better then they did.But after 6 years he still wouldn't stand up for me so I got sick of the drama and left his jobless ass.My point you ask is this.If they won't die just stay the hell away from them cause once a mother has it in her head that your not good enough for her baby boy not even death is gonna change her mind.You could die tomorrow and she'd probably dance on your grave(mother in laws like that are all the same)
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Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
1000847
Talk to your husband and express concern about her "split" personality. I bet she has done the same stuff to him while he was growing up.  Maybe he can give you suggestions.  Or, the next time she is over, confront her in front of father-in-law and husband.  Give specific examples of how she treats you when no one is around and tell her how that makes you feel.  Tell her that her behavior is making it difficult for you to enjoy her presence.  Either she needs to shape up or you will just have to limit her visits.  The other option is to never be alone with her.  But, remember the old saying, "you can't teach an old dog new tricks"?  I don't think you'll be able to change or without other family members helping.
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try asking if she needs anything for the baby or send a small card or present,that might get you talking.  I split up from my husband when i was pregnant, it was hard but my little boy knows no different and is bright and happy,  it was hard to let go of the fantsy of a perfect , happy family but what's that these days.  try not to worry, she will need help when the baby comes and will likely turn to you, chin up
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Stop leading him on.  File for divorce now.  It's the only way he'll understand that you've left him and are not just "separating for a while."  Move farther away, if necessary, and definately get a new phone number.  Talk to your mother and let her know how you feel.  Offer to get her a new phone number as well, and ask that she not share your new number with him if he calls.  If he continues to harass your mother, she may have to tell him you've died.\n\nIf he becomes threatening of you or your mother in a physical or psychological way, take legal action promptly.\n\nWhen you file for divorce you should qualify for child support in most areas of the world.  This will obviously help you financially, but will keep you in contact with him, albiet indirectly.  If you feel that it is not possible to continue a civil relationship with him outside of marraige, then pass up the money and get him out of your - and your children's - life.
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This is really really tuff!!! I was once in a similar situation. The mom decided to raise baby on her own however the out come was a beautiful child who is being raised by her now independent mom. You are not God nor are you blood family. What if you help her and she later tells her mom are you willing to risk the friendship you have with the mother.  What if you help her and something goes wrong? Your Friend will never forgive you. Tell mom and be there for both of them if they need help. Honesty is always the best way to deal with things. Problems are always bigger until out in the open where you can deal with them.  A MOM Myself.
509881
WELL I THINK WHAT YOU DID FOR HER AND HER DAUGHTER WAS MORE THEN MANLY. MOST MEN WOULD SAY OH WELL AINT MY PROBLEM AND WOULD HAVE STAYED. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT WOMAN IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU CARE FOR HER VERY MUCH. YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE THERE AND SHE CAN STILL DEVOTE TIME TO HER CHILD. HAVE EITHER ONE OF YOU TRIED TO MAKE THE DAUGHTER APART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP SO SHE WONT FEEL LEFT OUT. WE AS MOTHERS HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO SHARE OUR LOVE AND ATTENTION. TALK TO HER AND YOU TALK TO THE DAUGHTER TRY TO BE A FAMILY NOT JUST MOM'S BOYFRIEND. IN THE MEAN TIME- TAKE KARATE, GO TO THE GYM, BECOME A BIG BROTHER,DO SOMETHING YOU WILL BE PROUD OF AND STOP MESSING WITH SKANKY WOMEN JUST IN CASE YOU AND MOM GET BACK TOGETHER
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Be at peace with yourself, no matter what your decision.\nAnd this isn't the life I ordered either, but sometimes it still suprises me.\n\nSweet Dreams\nIT'S THE MOM PEOPLE..and it's a damn hard job so cut her some slack
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First off if she has moved on with her life and has started a family then maybe you should move on as well. \nI understand how you feel though, and I know its not easy but sometimes its best to just let go. You may get hurt trying to have a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship. She may no longer feel the same way for you and that can be a real heartbreaker. Honestly though I would call her just to let her know how I feel and see how she responds to that. If she gives you a bad reaction then move on with your life there are plenty of women who will love you and only YOU. \nIm pretty sure she wont be looking forward to leaving her husband after just giving birth 3 weeks ago.\n\nAnd you know how some men can be their ego's get all involved and it can be a sticky situation. Just be carefull and don't give your heart to someone who doesnt deserve it.
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You not only did the right thing for your son, but you did it for yourself also. Dont worry, just be strong. I've been thru the break up make up over and over for 4 years, and have finally left for good about a month ago. I also have a child with this person... but I know I have to just worry about me and my daughter now. The worst thing to do is to give in when you are emotional like this and find yourself back in the same situation... possibly with one more child. So stay strong and take care of you, and stick close to family and friends for support if you are fortunate enough. Good Luck mama
77899
Oh kiddo, I feel for you, but that's something your mom and dad have to work out on their own.  Whether they do get back together or not is no reflection on you and whatever the outcome it'll be all right eventually, promise.
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Do I no how you feel!! Welcome to the Black sheep of the family club :0)\n\nMove out of the house. You are the strong hold of the family. This is how I rationalized my situation. Now that I have been out for quite a while I get phone calls for help from my family. What should I do, or this is what mom is doing how can I....\nAs far as not being able to release the same way they do to you what I did is find others outside of the family....Parents are supposed to be there for there kids but in todays world this is not always the case.\nGood luck it will not be long before you are out on your own...
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You know i have been through this situation myself.  I'm not proud.  We just kind of drifted apart after the same amount of time as you, but were only separated for about 2 months.  I really liked the feeling of freedom and meeting other people.  I still think of a certain someone now and then, especially when my husband and i get into arguments about petty stuff.  I think "why did i even come back"?  Then i realize that he has put up with all my crap and it would be so hard to start all over and put effort into a new relationship.  I also think about my kids and in today's society kids need the guidance of both parents.  Anyway, i really do love my husband, it's just sometimes its fun to think of what could have been.  \nI'm not saying all marriages are to stay together for the sake of the children, it's just if you really love each other, you need to try and get passed the other man.\n\nTry to do things with your husband, take time for yourselves.  Go to the movies out to eat, or even spend time at the park with the kids(if it applies).  And just when you feel an argument coming on think and sometimes prayer comes in handy(if you are religious). \n\nGood luck. i wish you the best.
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tell him exactly what you just said, i see no offense in that. and as a compromise, just tell him that you are willing to live close to her, so he can check up on her as often as he wants to. but i think that especially as newlyweds, you will need your time alone. best of luck. and by the way, most guys are mommas boys (im one too) so dont expect him to let go of his mother, i doubt that will happen, but you should see the good in that. because most guys that love and respect their mothers, tend to treat their wives the same way.