what's with all the premarital sex?? is anyone gonna wait like me?
142902
you're totaly right and i'm glad i see a boy thinks like this.
507076
I wish I *had* waited, if that helps. I think you're doing a wonderful thing, although I'm sure both choices can come with their regrets. A lot of people might say you will miss out on experience, and your married sex life won't be as fun. As long as you have great communication and honesty, you will have a good sex life once you are married. Good luck!
1104126
It's sex before marriage. Some people are for it, some against it. I believe you should try before you buy.
1128783
It's not a question of health, as much it is as...religion. If you believe in no pre-marital sex, don't do it. I personally think, that if YOU are waiting for the right man... after marriage would be best. And again, it's how you and your family members feel about this as well.
372610
are you asking if someone has had sex before getting married in general?  or are you asking if someone has had sex before marriage with the person s/he are married to?  or are you asking if someone has lost their virginity to the one person they are married to?  those are all very different questions and have very different answers with different meanings.\n\ni can say- yes, yes and no.  i am very happy i did not marry the guy i lost my virginity to.  i was too young and dumb.  i am glad that i have had some experience before i met my current husband.  do i wish i had waited until marriage to my husband to have sex, not necessarily.  but i do wish i had waited a lot longer.  \n\ni am happy that my husband and i lived together and loved together BEFORE marriage.  we were married a little over a year after we met.  we've been together several years now.  the marriage is AWESOME, our sex life is great (7+ times a week- no lie).  but we were not virgins when we met, but we did have sex out of wedlock and became married.  it all depends on your heart's intent, level of religiousness (interpretation) and commitment level.  it CAN and DOES work (against my strict protestant upbringing)!
580354
What!?!? Don't you KNOW?? I thought you said that you are going to marry!! Normally people wait until AFTER they've found a suitable mate before making that decision...!
742844
I am all for abstinence.\n\n\nThis is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
493300
You sound somewhat like me a year ago. I don't have Christian values, but I valued myself enough that I didn't take sex lightly. I waited until I was 21 and would have waited longer if I had not found the perfect guy that I know I want to be with forever. Stick to what you believe and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin and waiting until you're ready to have sex. Worry about school, that's the most important part, not what your friends think.
161773
Where did you get the idea that sex is wrong?..There is no written rule there. The bible says "you can be married if you feel you need to be , but you don't have to be".. It actually says "pick one and stay with them" That is Gods own personal advise on that subject!..You don't have to be married, just monogamous. quit kicking your own arse and be in love for pete's sake!
581632
There's nothing wrong with waiting to give yourself to your spouse.  I think it's more romantic to save yourself for your spouse than to "test drive" people in a misguided attempt for compatibility.  Nowadays "test driving" can kill you; I'm not willing to put my life in the hands of a condom.  I'd rather just wait.  I know that my body is special and not to be shared with just anyone; not everyone is supposed to share such a private,special, intimate and sacred act with me.  I guess I'm just old fashioned, but I don't care.
892315
Sex before marriage is a total no-no for me. Virginity is the most prized possesion for a women and the most deserving man can get the most prized possesion.
1007622
Of course it's wrong, but who listens. Everybody's having sex before marriage, they don't care. And alot of people aren't planing on getting married, so why wait. And alot of people loses their virginity before marriage which they planned on getting married, so I guess the world don't really have much to say about that.
100977
No, I don't.\nI will wait till married.\n\nThey who think as your question, I think it's just sex for pleasure. They don't think about marry at the moment, even about love ( if they really love each other, they would thinking about marry).\n\nMy opinion, virgin will marry with virgin, and not virgin with not virgin.
531636
I'm 29 and 11 months...\nand a virgin...\n\nshocking huh?\n\nWaiting for marriage haven't found the guy yet.
1024892
It's not that hard to believe - I actually know a couple people who are in their late 20's and mid 30's who are virgins.  If you are waiting for marriage or the right person there is nothing wrong with that.
1169048
i AM SO GLAD WE WAITED UNTIL MARRIAGE. We had no problems at all, it was all very wonderful. I wish everyone could have the joy on their wedding night we experienced. It was like the excitement of Christmas morning. I suggest the couple have good premarital counselling like we did. I also would add to the guys, BE SURE YOU ALWAYS MEET HER NEEDS FIRST.
930369
As someone who was very sexually active at a young age.....PLEASE, PLEASE wait. Your time will come. Please be a kid for a while longer. Sex will come, I'm not saying wait until your married or anything like that. Just wait a couple more years. I wish I were more articulate and could get my thoughts out on this better, just please wait....