how can i be a better lover to my husband after 2 kids and pregnant?
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I have found that a pregnant woman makes a very good sexual lover. If he is still with you after two kids and one on the way, you must be doing the right things.
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
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I'm sorry to hear that your husband is cheating on you because you're pregnant and this should be a happy moment. the easy answer would be to leave him but you have a child , perhaps a house and a commitment made before god through good and bad .\n\nSo you have to weigh your options\n\nmake a lis pros and cons, is he working? does he help with the kids? is he wiliing to consider counseling? will he do it again ? and if he lies when confronted thats a problem. if you chose to forgive your husband he has to be willing to work with you because trust has to be rebuilt ...rebuilding your marriage us goign to take alot of work are you willing to put the time and effort in having kids and being in love is not enough if your self image and ability to look yourself in the mirror is compromised
307192
Welcome to parenthood my dear! I share the same kids with my spouse and we rarely have any time together. I've heard that it gets better as the kids get older and more independant.\nJust hang on and remember that you are shaping their lives, helping to mould them into better people. It's all worth it and though it may be more difficult when they are not your biological children, but your impact on there lives is just as important. Good Luck!
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I know it is hard to do this, with work and a baby, but pamper yourself.  Take an afternoon to relax and unwind.  You need to release your stress.  Once you are feeling better, then it is your husbands turn.  Babies are very time consuming and men tend to get jealous.  You need to make him feel like he is your number one priority.  This means that he is more important than work, money, and for the moment even your baby.  She has your attention every waking moment that the two of you are together.  It will be ok to let daddy come first once in a while.\n\nNext, think about the first five minutes when you see your husband.  Both before and after work.  The first five minutes set the mood for the rest of the day.  If the baby wakes you up before the alarm clock, roll over, give him a big kiss and tell him you love him.  This only takes a few seconds, and he will feel important.  Then after work, don't start in with how bad work was and how big a jerk your boss is.  Instead, greet your husband with a big hug and a kiss.  Give him time to relax and unwind.  He may have had an equally stressful day.  Just set the mood for the evening with a positive beginning.\n\nLast, find time to be alone.  Have a trusted friend or relative (this way you don't have to pay a babysitter) watch the baby for an hour or two.  Have a date night at least once a month.  More if you can get the childcare.  If money is tight, you can pack a lunch and just go sit in a park under a tree or something. If it is too cold for this, you may just go have a soda or coffee, something inexpensive.  The point is, spend time together enjoying each other's company.\n\nA really good option to going out, is staying in for a romantic evening while that relative has the baby.  You can get a few candles and light them around the house or just the bedroom.  Surprise him with a note, in a place you know he will find right away, telling him you've been thinking about him all day and you are waiting for him in your room.  (One time, I even made a path of Hershey's kisses from the front door to the bedroom.)  Be waiting for him on your bed wearing something sexy.  This will let him know that you love him and that you were thinking of his needs.
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I think that you should leave him and look for somebody who will love you in return  before you leave him tell him that he can see the baby anytime he wants.  Tell him you deserve to be loved and that you need somebody that you can trust not to hide anything if he really cares about you and the baby he'll try to work out things between the two of you.  If not then you might as well start looking for somebody else.
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first of all..you must think what would happen next after you got pregnant..think about your baby if how will he/she will live?and if ur boyfriend will still be your boyfriend after the pleasure besides he can broke up with u because ur not married right? and make sure you're ready to face challenges..because having a family is not a joke...its really hard..think about it..ok? yes i know you love him also but never get to the point that you'lll give all of yourself to him..remember you must not give yourself to a person without leaving something for yourself because someday somehow, you'll realized that you gave everything for the wrong person without leaving something for the right one...if u need advices.... email or im me OK?\n\nmy yahoo id: bugs_41099@yahoo.com\n\nhave a nice day!
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It's good that you want to make sweet gestures like that. \nI've been with my hubby for 19 years & still do soppy things. Last week I left a big chocolate heart on his pillow when I went to work for him to find when he came home from work tired. Send him text messages to say you miss him when you haven't seen him all day. Leave notes around the house. One of my favourite places to leave notes is in the glove box of his car cos he always leaves his radio in there & I know he's sure to find it. Tell him...I tell my hubby every day I love him & he does the same with me.
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Find someone to watch your baby for the evening.  Make sure that the house is clean and orderly.  Make him his favorite dinner and dessert.  Afterwards, you can treat him to a massage, and a selection of other bedroom activities (whatever you guys enjoy!).\n\nIf you're going to be home before he is, you can have a little more fun with the preparations.  Maybe be waiting on the bed for him when he gets home, with a trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom.  Lighted candles and a couple glasses of sparkling cider would be a nice touch.\n\nDon't forget to unplug the phone.\n\nI wish you the best of luck and the best of times with your romantic night!
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sure...you'll be fine...is thgere a rush?.....280 days  plus  or  minus  for  one  of the  most  remarkable  things  to  happen..a  baby\nif  you  both  get to  know  each  other  with  massage.reflexology...just  touching  and  cuddling...youll melt the  barrier.....if  yr  thinking  of  having  a  child  to  satisfy  someone  else  ..a  relative...or   to  satisfy...THAT  includes....some  authoritive  figure  who...isn't arround  but  left  you  with a  blockage...about  children  or  parenting  or  sex.....find  a  mid  wife  they're  remarkable  and  have  a  great  insite....   get  yr  partner  to  go  dancin  together...slow  couple  artistic  dancn...that  will bring  you  a  harmonious  co-ordination....ther's a lot  more  but  these are  fine  openers
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I am a business man and travel a lot. I love my wife and our 2 kids with all my heart. The problem is that when you are away you get used to be alone. When i come home i feel very happy but at the same time it takes me about 1 or 2 days to get used to all the yelling, playing, running of the kids. The same with the affection my wife gives to me. I do not know is this is OK but happens to me.\nHope i give you some inside. Best wishes!!\n\nPS  Best to do: Give him space the first day, and everything will be fine.
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Gosh, this is a loaded question!  It all depends on so much!  Do you have kids, howz your sex life...how creative do you want to be?!  The romantic dinner is a GREAT idea to start with!  There are some very romantic sexual games you can play after to spice things up. ("An Enchanted Evening" as an example)  To really save money you could make him a wonderful "coupon book" that he may use all year (Until your 7th anniversary)  Including back rubs, hugs, kisses, sexual favors, picinic lunch, his favorite home cooked meal....
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DO YOU HAVE KIDS... AND DO WANNA MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK..SOMETIMES YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE BUT NOT BE INLOVE WITH THEM AND IF YOUR NOT INLOVE WITH THAT PERSON YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT WORK I THINK U NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH YOUR HUSBAND FOR 3 YEARS AND TALK ABOUT THE THINGS.. TELL HIM HOW YOU ARE FEELING AND TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT BECAUSE IT IS TO MANY PEOPLE IN THE UNITED STATES IS GETTING DIVORCE... MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND CAN GET SOME TYPE OF HELP WITH YOUR MARRIAGE.. LIKE A MARRIAGE COUNSELING **wink**
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one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
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Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
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I want to have a happy family with a loving husband and beautiful kids.
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Play games again like in the beginning...flirt, kiss passionately and then just walk away, smack a few asses playfully while doing housework or when the in-laws are looking the other way.  Take more personal time with de-stressing activities like bitching to your friends, yoga, or excercise to make him/her miss you more.  "Marital aids" like small toys or (especially) lubes of various sorts add whole new dimensions to your sex life as well.