should i forgive and froget?
140880
You should of came before the ex a long time before this. Forgive and forget him.
731129
No, you should treat everyone as you would like to be treated, not as they have treated you.  Can you imagine a society that is out to get everyone at every turn that would be horrible.  Show that you are a better person, by forgiving them and moving on.  Since you have lost trust with this person it is best to just leave them behind.  Why it hurts so much is because they have betrayed your trust.  They were disrespectful and wrong.  I am sure you have heard the phrase forgive and forget, forgive them, but move on.  Forgetting will take time and showing them you are a better person by not reacting the way you want but how you should will make both of you better in the future.
716515
Depends. Did you start and/or stoke the fire of this fight? If either is true, then yes, you should apologize. There is a reason that pride is one of the seven deadly sins. Sometimes it's necessary to bite the bullet just to get past the pain--then you both can start working on a real relationship that involves compromise and respect.
1182277
I feel bad for your situation. What most people don't realize is how many people are in this same situation. There are millions of people in jails, that eventually get out and want to be a productive citizen of our society.  I believe it is wrong not to forgive a person, if they have paid their debt to society.  Isn't that what the bible says! Jesus died for us to forgive our sins.  I only hope your faith stays strong during this trying time and support your husband in this time of need.
509775
yes, forgive him/her if he/she is sory of what she/he did...\n\nif God forgives us for every day we do wrong (sin), so we too...
850785
You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
497425
there should be no limit on forgivness. we are all human and screw up. does Jesus put a limit on how many times He will forgive you for your sins? no He doesn't so why should we. if the problem is big enough to where you can't trust him anymore then you probably would just be better off finding someone you can trust. there can never be unconditional love if there isn't trust. so basicly it depends on you how many times you want to forgive.
892414
Apologies never make one look stupid. Being repentant for an infraction of friendship should not be a deal breaker. Asking for forgiveness should begin the process of reconciliation. If this person is not open to apology or reconciliation you should move on to a more appropriate friendship. To have friends you must be a friend. Sometimes friendship is letting go.
945109
Some good answers here. If they bring you lunch, that is a nice gesture. If they sense that they have hurt you in some way, but have a difficult time apologizing or making amends, this lunch may be saying, "Please forgive me"...\n\nAlways, accept a sincere apology or gesture. Your sins or misdeeds will be forgiven as well.\n\n If they can't be sincere about an apology, don't continue to be mad. That only makes you suffer. Their lack of sincerity and compassion will give them peace of mind, while you are still upset from their insensitivity. So, if a person upsets you and coldly remarks, "sorry"...that might not give you the satisfaction of an apology. But, if you accept the "weak" apology (reluctantly) you won't have to carry the burden of that anger and frustration that they brought you anymore\n\nFunny how that works...
624116
max,\n\nYou forgive other people for your freedom. At first, the best you can do may be to just say that you forgive the person. Keep working at forgiving until you are free. If the person who wronged you asks for forgiveness then forgive them. That is of benefit for both of you.\n\nYou could have lost someone on 9/11 and then decide to forgive the perpetrators. If they had lived, they would have faced trial and been executed. Your forgiveness didn’t remove their guilt, it just sets you free. Your forgiveness doesn’t excuse their sin, it just allows you to live without the burden of carrying around that mess in your soul.\n\nGod has forgiven Christians from a debt so large that they could never pay it, but if we don’t forgive those who sin against us, then He will not forgive us.\n\nYou don’t say what your background is, but since you asked your question in “Religion & Spirituality” it should be OK to quote Jesus on the subject. Here is what Jesus said to Peter:\n\nThen Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" \n\nJesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.   \n\nTherefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents (millions of dollars) was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. \n\nThe servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. \n\nBut when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii (a few dollars.) He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded. \n\nHis fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.' \n\nBut he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened. \n\nThen the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. \n\nThis is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."  Matthew 18:21-35\n\nJesus wasn’t saying that God would throw you into a physical prison to be tortured, but you make your own prison by judging another person and finding them guilty. God is the only righteous judge, and He said vengeance belongs to Him, and we are to avoid judging anyone.\n\nIt doesn’t come easy, but forgiveness is required obedience to God. That doesn’t let the person off the hook; it lets you off the hook.\n\nGod bless.
235208
you need to decide whether youre going to live with what he did or not. if you cant forgive him then you cant move on. So you have to make a choice and decide what is best for you. If you love him and see your future with him then try to fix it, go to counseling but if his mistake erased your visions of a future with him, then you know what you need to do. But I must also say that you cant rush getting over things either and he should be willing to understand and agree with what you choose to do.
566697
You can forgive them, cause you would like to be forgiven by GOD in the things that you do..........  but that doesn't mean you have to associate with them anymore.  Forgive them so that you do not have a heavy heart or the burden on your mind....... just don't give them the chance to do it again.
49156
All of us feel like hypocrites sometimes. Forgiveness can happen because of who God is and the decisions He makes. Not because of who we are. The discomfort you feel can be very helpful because it can help you to make new decisions and try a new direction. Some sins are so much a part of our nature that we need a lot of time and a lot of forgiveness before we begin to master the part of our will that keeps making us mess up. Don't give up, and don't dwell too much on guilt. Spend your time being grateful for the forgiveness and for the opportunity to try again. God loves us as we are where we are right now. He will never love you more than He loves you right now and He will never love you less. You have started down a good path. Give yourself a chance and some time to grow.
466723
One can forgive, but they cannot always forget. It seems like it may is time to move on if you have attempted to address the issue to no avail. \nThere is someone better out there that will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
634945
That is awful, there is no room for that. You are precious in God's eyes, and love is what God offers to you. I would go up to the person that has hurt you, and tell her that you forgive her for all the mean things she has done to you. A gentle answer turns away wrath, so forgive her, and I would talk to the counselor as well. You should not be treating like that, but do tell her that you forgive her, I bet it will be something if you tell her that.
193545
First of all, if you really love this person you'd be able to forgive him and overlook his transgression. But, if this is something that is a habit of his, then it should be obvious that he has no true respect for you, and without that he can't possibly love you in return. So, if this is just a one time incident, and you otherwise trust him, then tell him how you feel about this. If he asks for forgiveness, then give him a chance. If all he does is appologize, then he's probably not sincere. In that case you'd do better to move on and find someone else.
230797
Yes for most people. Giving someone else a second chance also says a lot about yourself. Some things simply cannot be forgiven, but they tend to be things of a violent nature. Try to forgive and forget when posible.