should you leave your husband if he beats you?
142162
You don't HAVE to, but you shouldn't stay around for it. If you don't want to leave, get him counceling or anger-management or something.
593467
my ex-husband beat me for 3 years, it took 3 years for me to get away from him (he killed somone) and another 4 years to get him out of my life. once they hit you, they will always hit you. we where together a year before we got married, and he seemed to be a nice person, after we got married he started yelling at me and bring me down mentally, then the hitting started, by that time i was telling myself... he loves me, i need to stop making him mad, i asked for it... but all the time he never cared about. it was a control issue on his part. my exhusband was also 6 years older then too. he made me lose a baby...was mentally locked up for 3 months,locked me in a closet and set it on fire, hit me in the bas with a shovel and stompped on my face, also shot me in the arm etc, just to name a few things.. it got to the point that i knew he was going to kill me or i was going to kill him, and i had no were to go. i have to tell you that it only gets worse, and you need to leave him with your children. i also want to warn you that because you have children, he will think that he can harsse you this way also, if you do let him see the kids, please watch them for misgiven...any little sign, and cut him out of there life too. i am not saying that he will hurt them, but most of the time they do, when they can not get to you. my advice...get help, there are a lot more porgrams and places out there now then when this was happening to me.
718919
Do not feel ignorant. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless your husband gets help FAST, things will escalate. He has control issues, and feels very insecure about everything. Most abusers are insecure, and feel that violence is the only way to keep the things they love from leaving. But in actuality all it does is FORCE the things they love further away from them. I strongly suggest getting help, and if he refuses...you need to leave before things get worse. Without help, eventually your relationship with him will crumble to the point of nonexistance. There is no excuse for being violent with someone, and stress happens to everyone. Not everyone gets ready to beat the crap out of their wife/ mate however when the situation gets hairy. Once again, get him some help before its too late, or leave and work on you. Huge hugs, and best of luck.
415717
I would leave him. I would leave him and file for child support if we had kids, I would leave him and take half of his stuff if we didn't have kids. Let someone else deal with his cheating behind. Especially with a baby involved, he will have to deal with the woman he cheated on me with on a regular basis. I could not trust him to do that.
986093
i would have left my spouse
472843
You may need to call the police if he is threatening enough. And from what it sounds, it's getting worse and there needs to be something done, but I don't fully know the situation and don't want to be judgmental of which I don't know the whole story. However, I have seen the same stuff happen with great guys. If you don't want to go to the police, talk to someone who is very close to you, i.e. your mom, sister, brother, best friend, dad. You don't want someone who will overreact and actually try to handle it themselves though. He probably will have to get counseling and you will need it too. Although you don't have the problem, his problem affects you. And if your children have witnessed any abuse, whether it be verbal or physical, they may need counseling. Tell the person(s) you choose the whole story and let them give you advice on what you should do. And WHATEVER you do, Don't let pride get in the way of you talking to someone about it. Alot of times that is people's problem, they don't want everyone knowing they made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes, and you just have to try to fix them or move on. Or you may need to divorce him, but I hope not b/c divorces are rough on the whole family. They know you and your husband alot better than I do, therefore will be able to tell you better what you need to do. I hope this helps and I hope you and your husband get this settled.
379819
no but i would beat my husband if he called me a bit*ch\n\nbi*tch
871176
Recommend you see a professional marital counselor first, and a divorce lawyer, and "get your ducks in a row".\n\nI would recommend you do that as soon as you possibly can because your situation at home is not something a woman should be involved in.\n\nAs a nuetral third party observer I assume I'm one of many who have told you leave your abusive husband.\n\nI'm not familiar with the psychology of what you are going through and I understand from the few articles I have read you might be undergoing some sort of dependence or whatever. There are halfway houses or whatever, there are enough mechanisms society has put in place for these types of situations.
762373
Excuse me... Unfaithful Loser of a Husband..  Leave him..  Don't have that fear of being alone, abandonment; I mean thats the only reason your still with him..  And what about love?  There is none if he's cheatin on you...  When he leaves to go on a date grab everything in the house and leave..  And file for your divorce.  Their are better men out there.
438533
move as far away from him as possible i'm sure your friends will be there for you if not then find new friends do whats best for you and your child feel better get well and NEVER let a guy treat you like that NEVER let any one abuse you physically or emotionally be strong us women need to stick together and let all jerks in this world know that we will not let them hurt us anymore.
612276
If he is willing to go into counseling and see how to work out his problems, great, it says a lot for him.  If not, you really need to leave now while you can even though it would be hard...for your sake, you need to.  Your right, communication is the key to a great relationship, the way it sounds from what your saying is that it is a verbally abusive one and has the potential to turn into a physically abusive one.
104376
That my dear is abuse and you don't have to take it.  I don't know what state you are in but he just might get surprised about just throwing you out.  If it were me I'd move all his stuff out, change the locks, change the phone numbers and see how he likes that.
684150
I say that you should go.  Things arent going to change with your husband, he can promise all that he wants to but they never do.  If you have found someone who cares about you and treats you good, then you deserve that happiness!!!
312453
you just think you are in the way.you seriously nedd to get out of this relationship,do you wanna die?this is abuse and it is so wrong,im sorry you are going through this.plz leave before it gets worse,he thinks he can scare you into staying cuz he can beat you up.saying you are in the way is a copout.plz leave.it will only get worse.ok,once they start hitting,they dont stop,next your family will be planning your funeral.plz plz leave  best of luck
658073
.\nMy friend has lived with a husband who was schizophrenic. She used to get a daily dose of kicks, abuses, curses and insults. Yet she did not leave him.\n\nAnd now he is old and helpless and he no longer beats her although his tongue is still sharp. I have not seen ANY change in him.\n\nWas it worth it to have wasted her life. And why did she do it. Another friend of mine is a psychologist and has completed her thesis on "Wife Beaters". According to her research, she says that there can be NO change in the man who beats up his wife. He will continue to do so till he dies.\n\nAre you willing to sacrifice your life? If  "LOVE" is not there anymore, then the marriage is a very painful relationship.\n\nI don't think that it will help you to remain in this situation.\n\nYour life is yours. You have a right to live with dignity and self respect which he cannot give you. You will develop low self esteem if you stick to him.\n\nGo--- Find your own happiness--- but this time don't get into another trap easily
405565
Why would you stay if it is that bad? This doesn't make any sense to me. If the marriage is bad then take yourself out and live your life in peace...Lady
1096082
you already know the answer. you will leave him or start cheating yourself to get even. your decision is to leave with your dignity or not.