does looks are important in a relationship ?
146270
If looks are important to you in a sexually intimate relationship, then they will be important to you if you plan to spend a lot of time in the marriage bed.  I have learned that people who say "I don't care what you look like" and have sex with you usually have very poor self images, and have had to deny a certain physical part of the relationship because of it.  I can feel the flack I am going to get by saying it, but it's what I truly think.  \n\nBUT there ARE people who genuinely don't give a crap about what a sexual partner looks like.  If you are one of those people, then of course it will not matter.  Problems can also arise if one of the spouse's appearances goes to pot, either after babies, or after too many beers.  This can kill the romance and the sexual part of the relationship, and that can be the undoing of a marriage.\n\nI know in my own sexuality, looks are important, and I am not afraid to admit it.  I don't need a model, but there are some things I need in a sexual relationship.  The pleasure I get from seeing someone naked is a big part of the pleasure I get through intimacy.  \n\nJust know yourself.  You can prioritize looks according to your own tastes.  People get into trouble when lying to themselves, and try to "pretend" or whatever.  Just be honest.  Some gay guys I know have to have a boyfriend with a six pack.  Some straight guys I know have to have a chick with D or bigger breasts.  People have preferences. D or bigger breasts turn me off, and a six pack looks good on paper, but there is a certain pleasure derived from utilizing your man stomach as a pillow. :)  You can't do that with 6 pack abs.\n\nFor regular friendships, I think looks have a low priority.  It is strange though how i notice groups of people, say 3 or 4 friends out at dinner, or lunch, and they all sort of look the same.  I'm not sure why this is.  If they are rather large, they hang with other large people.  If one has a leather jacket, 2 or 3 of the rest of them will too.  Hmmmmm....\n\nI can say one of the worst things is to get naked with someone, and then react negatively to what you see.  A lot of pain has been caused by this type of situation, so it is one I avoid like the plague.  ;) After all, we don't have "virtual sex" yet--we have sex with our bodies, and the form, fit, and function of the body will influence the sexually intimate experience.
1101155
honestly i feel that looks doesn't matter as long as one has a nice personality..looks give the 1st impression but ultimately it will be the inner beauty that really counts..a lot of girls are infatuated with hot-looking footballers and diss at the uglier ones..but do they really know the private side of the footballers that they are infatuated with? many good-looking footballers do not turn out to be as great as how they look..while many others who are average shine because of their nice personality..as long as people feel nice and comfortable around them..nothing about their looks will matter at all...
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Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and every guy has a slightly different opinion of what beauty is in a woman.  However, once you get pass the initial physical attraction, I really think that whether or not a woman's personality is attractive is what keeps the guy interested.  I guess the same thing can be said for what defines a good looking man.
11762
Is looks the only important thing?  I know a lot of people who are not the prettiest / most handsome, but are great people.  Think about what is important to you, then make your decision. If you dump him, be honest why.
1148843
u mean the skin?\nNo , it's not really important. More important it is to know that this person hasaa nice personality, handsome, interesting to talk to - all that creates an intrigue to know this person better. 'cause all the people are the same, it only matters what they do.
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NO. looks are skin deep, and while alluring at first, her personality can make her seem really ugly. while a person who doesn't look that great can have a personality that makes her seem more cute or beautiful. \n\nI'd definitely go for personality over looks, i always have, and i always will.\n\nthat having been said, if the girls has some cute or nice features, that is always a bonus. :)\n\nanother way to think about it is like this, look at your grandparents (if they are still together) they love each other and they probably don't look like supermodels. looks eventually go, but the person inside the body never changes. this is another reason i will always go for personality over looks.
651892
looks don't really matter man, there are some great women out there that are not very pretty, but would sell their soul for their man.\n\nMyself, I'll take a not so good looking girl that loves me over being lonely with a hot chick any day.
612625
Looks aren't everything. She likes or loves you for the person you are. Be thankful for that. My boyfriend thinks the same way. I tell him all the time its because he's an amazing man and I love him.
420347
Yeah, obviously you HAVE to notice appearance before you can notice personality. However, my husband is not my type "appearance wise"--but I got to know him and I know he's my soulmate. I couldn't love him more. So, while looks may initially draw you in, the personality is what keeps you there. Hope that helps!
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Yes.  It should be a combination of the three, and my girlfriend is.  Looks are important, because I like a girl who takes care of her appearance.  Intelligence: I dont want to have to talk down to someone all the time.  Personality:  I like a person who's interesting and wants to go out and laugh, and play, and have a good time with me.
1031630
Physical attractiveness is important, but you can not change that much. As for character, the most attractive traits are civility and demureness. It is important though, for a woman to be distrustful of men, and to avoid the dominant-tempered / fanatical-tempered ones, which are jealously possessive and demanding.
192714
I think looks are not all that important. Some girls may have a problem, but what really matters is what's on the inside. Looks are only skin deep.
487420
I don't think that is completely accurate.\n\nHere is what I learned (in 46 years).  At first men and women are attracted to each other's looks.  But given the chance to learn more about a person, the better chance a person of "average" looks may do as well with boy/girlfriends, as the 'better looking' ones.  At some point the cute boy or girl will need to say something.  If they exhibit no personality, or a bad personality, they will be less than successful in relationships.\n\nGirls are drawn to a cute boy, but he better have a good personality, and treat her right or she will leave at some point, yet a boy with average looks might treat her with respect, and have a good sense of humer, etc..  He will go further with that same girl, if she is not so shallow as to just go for looks. \n\nThe same is true for a girl.  Once you get past the beauty, there better be a personality.
525241
sure looks grab your attention.. a person can be gorgeous on the outside and ugly on the inside..looks fade personality is forever..
61626
No.  There are lots of times when you meet someone that you don't find attractive at first.  But once you get to know them, learn their personality, you start to find the terribly attractive.  Looks matter, but in a way, they don't.
748023
it's true that men are obsessed with looks. but it's only an obsession. a good man knows that looks aren't everything...it's just hard not to notice it! especially bodies. i'm just being honest. \n\ni can be in the best relationship, with an absolutely gorgeous woman (as i am) and i'll still catch myself checking out a good looker on the sidewalk and have to just shake my head and get on with life. \n\nlife's just not fair. and anyway, the best looking girls knows it all too well and are way too obsessed with looks themselves whether it be them or the men.
504560
Looks may get my attention, but talking to the person and seeing what she likes, dislikes, what she is all about, what are her hopes & dreams, finding out who SHE is does more for me than the looks part.  If she is a brain dead idiot, looks won't help.