Why won't my husband have sex with me?
141999
A. He could be Cheating.. Which would explain why he can't get it up for you. B. You could touch his balls and feel if their not tight. *this does depend on if hes came or masturbated in the past day or so* C. You could just ask your husband I mean you are married to the dude and relationships require communication. D. You could do the nuts thing and follow him around and see what hes really up to.E. He coul be just wanting to spend some time with you because he realizes your marriage just isn't about sex. Or maybe you make it seem like its just about sex or want sex to much and he doesn't want that for your marriage. I donno.. You really should ask him seeing how we're not him.
899451
So you only married him for the sex ... how very shallow of you .... and I see you're very modest as well.\nMaybe it's your attitude thats causing him to falter ... the more you pressure him the les frequent you're gonna get it .... so sure divorce him and go find youself another stud until you wear him out .... \nMight do hubby good to be able to relax and not be pressured
771877
Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
558311
How about seeing a doctor together and maybe getting a referral to a sex therapist.  There may be some medical solutions.  Even if there isn't, there are a whole host of things that a sex therapist can open up your mind to, that could help bring the spice back into your sex life.  \n\nYou are a very honest person and obviously love your husband.  So, try reaching out with the same question to a professional physician or psychologist who can get you back on the same path together.
1150409
Your husband wants to sex. He's pouting.  Trust me, sometimes I find myself doing it too.  I'm guilty as charged :)  I've been married for 15 years now and I simply cannot get enough for my wife's loving.  We've done it 7 times in one day - our record. Mind you, we were both 22 at the time (got married when we were 20), and in college.\n\nThe number #1 need of a husband is SEX.  It sounds primal but it's true.\nThe number #1 need of a wife is AFFECTION.\n\nSo the next time, he does that (after you collect yourself from the shock of the statement), here's what you do:\n1. Grind his bones into bread.  Yes, wear him out in bed.\n2. Immediately after he comes, tell him how much you love pleasing him in bed (Husbands are most receptive to their wives' requests and feedback AFTER sex and before they fall off to SLEEP).\n3. The next morning as you are both getting dressed, tease him sexually "Do you want more me? Call me today from work and I'll tell you."  \n4. When he calls you, tell him to see the perfumed note in his pants pocket or wallet before he gets dressed that says, "Sex begins in the kitchen."
479910
I think your fiance has a lot of issues that you guys need to work out before you get married. But hold out on him and he will initiate sex soon enough, trust me, you can hold out longer than him.
1104019
It's time for some counseling!  If he won't go, you go!  You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.  \n\nHe may be in a personal slump himself.  If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition.  Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.\n\nIt may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should.  Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.\n\nWhat I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you.  And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.\n\nI feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation.  Don't just let it go on!  Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.\n\nBest of luck to you!!
738997
Gee Shells, why is it always hubby's fault???  Ever think that you ain't sexy in his eyes???   You need to look in the mirror and get sexy for him.\n\nThen, when you think the timing is right, you need to gently provide some oral stimulation on the right member of his anatomy.  Don't try to get him interested in making love to you, let him think of it himself.  Keep up the stimulation night after night.   Eventually, he will take the initiative and think it's his own libido that's driving the situation.\n\nJust don't try to pressure him or influence him too soon.  It's gotta be his idea.    Good Luck
989767
Just because you don't have sex everyday doesn't mean that theres something wrong with your marriage. If you want the physical enjoyment to last longer, why not start with some forplay. And if he's too tired to do the work then ask him if you could ride him. Also there are books out there that you could look at. And theres plenty of toys and creams out there too. I even seen a swing built just for sex.
238751
Not making love for over 2 months is not normal behavior.  Feeling anger about it is justified but not healthy behavior.\n\nTalk to your husband.  Find out the cause of why you two haven't made love in 2 months.  Let him know you feel resentment about it.  Later on you can worry about how to spice things up.\n\nSuggest counseling or seeing your pastor/priest/spiritual leader.\n\nGood luck!
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
845116
its actually a pretty common problem, he probably has ED (erectile dysfunction). There are meds that REALLY work, i think cialis is best. he probably will be pretty sensitive to talking about it, so bring it up gently. you don't want to be plagued with this your whole marriage. also, you need to be able to communicate about EVERYTHING, even sensitive topics like this. good luck!
345695
First I must ask you. did you marry your husband out of Love? Second and I'm asking this because I was raised LDS(Mormon) And sex was very forbidden but we did kiss Didn't you ever Kiss? If you did didn't you notice his lack of arousal? It sounds as if he has no physical problem, but a mental one. I say that because I know how it is to be raised in a religion that believes sex is bad, It is a sin to want to make love to a women unless it is for procreation and therefore it is wrong to let yourself succumb to natural desires. My Father was a Mormon Bishop (God rest his soul) We had this discussion over sex many times. I asked him how God felt about it and his answer was always, What goes on in the bedroom between husband and wife stays in the bedroom. But you have not said if you and your husband ever talked about having children. Maybe he he is afraid of that or maybe and excuse me for saying this, but maybe he is Gay?  I've given you my answers and I don't think you are wrong for wanting to get out. A man and a woman need to have the same goals. It sounds like the problem is with your husband even if he can't get an erection there is other ways to please you. I tried to not be to gross. Hope I was able to help. God bless and you take care. Reed wrwoodall@yahoo,com
134499
About your marriage?  It could be that he just got cold feet.  Have you tried asking him about it.  Maybe he is worried that he cannot support you.
214051
It depends on the man.  Sometimes it can be fatigue, stress at work, the relationship he has with his wife, a medical condition,etc.  Sometimes guys are not always up to par if they are tired or mentally preoccupied by his environment or by his mate.\n\nA lack of sex is a just a symptom of a deeper issue in the relationship. Has your friend been receptive  to her husband in a loving, non-attacking/nagging ways?  Has she found out what is truly behind his lack of desire?  Maybe his needs are not being met and he does not connecting with his wife?
308497
Thats exactly how me and my husbands relationship started!  Thats so crazy and I always thought that I was the only one.  \nAnyways, you can simply ask him what does he like about you and if its not strictly sexual, he should be able to tell you with no problem.\nIt also sounds like he's scared of commitment, and you can be patient if you feel he's worth the wait, but dont allow yourself to be hurt in the process.