i have a bf but i still love my ex...help?
145723
Life is short and u only live once...He was part of ur life b4 and it didn't work out, what makes u think that this time is going to work? There's an old saying: "if u hurt me once is ur fault, but if u hurt me twice is my fault". Ur only falling in love with him because he came back in2 ur life...but think of ur current b/f as well...put urself in his shoes...how would u feel if he was 2 leave u 4 his x?? Ask urself the reason why ur x is back in urlife? What was it that 'caused him 2 come back? What happens if u go back with ur x and then u realize that ur current b/f is the one u were meant 2 b with...u would have lost everything...and u might end up alone...do not play with people's emotions because, what goes around comes around...
656947
do u care a lot about the guy ur with like u do now with ex bf? cause if u don't just dump him and go out with ur ex bf and make him happy again. ur ex bf prob. had deep feelings about u and u ruined it for  him and now he is upset about it. so i'd think it over if i were u.\n\nShorty
409177
you should tell the person you're with now your true feelings, that you love him, you care for him, and love him.. but you still have feelings for your ex... tell him that you're sorry, and didn't want to hurt you.. but he's gonna hurt more if you stayed dishonest to him.. tell him that he'll find the right "one" for him, and you're not the "one" for him.. and when you've done that.. maybe now you can work things out with your ex! tell him that you still have feelings for him, and that you couldn't stop thinkin bout him! =)
609997
If you still have feelings for your ex go back to him becuz ur long distance may not work. If you do not like your ex see if you can go the distance for the long relationship and tell him off for good.
113928
Tons of good luck.  But if the two of you still have feelings for one another, then I think your best bet is to take it from the beginning-act as if you never dated before.  My bf and I broke up for a short amount of time (something which I will regret for the rest of my life),but I got lucky and he took me back.  That is what I believe true love does.  Just remember to take it slow and not rush into any old feelings-make new ones to build upon the ones you already have
489018
You broke up with this guy for a reason. Ask yourself if you really like your ex. Who do you want to be with? maybe you should just be single for a while and just date around. Maybe try to be friends with your ex and see how that works out for you, see if your feelings resurface, but also tell him to date as well. It'll all work out if you think things over.
280691
Like they say...don't know what ya got till it's gone..guess he's now realizing how great of a person  you are..this is a decision you have to make..you've been with your current boyfriend 2 1/2 years..do you really want to give all that up for something that may not work out..look in your heart and decide what you want and how you feel...if things are going good with your current man I'd just tell the ex sorry I've moved on and have someone...if your not happy then maybe you should give it a try but this is something  you should think long and hard about even pray about because it will be a life changing decision..the best of luck to you
254201
I think you should say that your relationship is not where you expected to go and give reasons why you don't want to be with him.  If he happens to let you go and break up, doesn't that leave you a way for you to get back together with your ex without seeming like that was the reason why you wanted to breakup?  Obviously there must be a reason why you'd much rather be with your ex than your current bf, just make sure you're not going to be getting yourself into a big mess and come out with no bf or friends at all.
1103268
Stick to your new b/f, as going back with your ex wont work as there must have been something which made yous fall out. stay with the new guy as you never know he could be your soul mate, if you leave your new b/f and go back to old one he could leave you again so do you want that. stay where you are and be happy there's no point looking back just look forward and be happy. good luck
309960
If you are in a relationship, you have to do what it is that you think is best. If your boyfriend your with now is not where your heart is, why are you wasting his and your time, move on because it is not fair. It seems as if you want your cake and to eat it too.  You have to be fair to yourself and to your boyfriend and to your ex. Follow your heart.
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
803881
OMG.... i was in the same exact position 2 yrs ago as you are in now\n\ni just kept saying i wanted to be friends with him, and for the longest time we were just friends, but then we hung out all summer and i realized how much i really liked him. My ex bf refused to talk to me and for 2 yrs i wasted my life waiting for him... but once i got over him it just didnt make any sense to stay single when i liked his friend and he liked me back (btw, they are not friends anymore and havent been since my ex bf dumped me) so to sum that all up we are now bf/gf for 3 months and im 10x happier with my bf now than i was with my ex..... so i guess you just have to let time take its course.... i never thought id end up with who im going out wth now\n\nhope my "essay" helped.... good luck
15643
I went through the same thing and after I decided to go back with the old fling because I still loved him I remembered why I couldn't stand him.  Funny thing is I realized that the other guy I loved more.  Try to think back why it didn't work out in the first place.  Make a list to yourself about why you love one and the other and you might be surprised by the answer.  It may not be love your felling for both.
823387
Well then just be honest with the guy.  Inform him that you really enjoyed your time with him and that he is very much a gentleman etc, but that you have to find out for yourself if there is anything left between you and your ex.
1108438
Break up w/ your b/f. It's not fair to him if you are having doubts to string him along. How would you feel if he had feelings for his ex?\nOr if you really love your b/f stop daydreaming about your ex and start daydreaming about your b/f.
992475
You just have to accept that your ex has already made the decision to be with someone else.Take some time to be thankful you found out what kind of person he is. Somewhere out there is your Mr. Right, just don't rush into a new relationship.Be strong.
108510
Accept the fact that it takes two people who both love eather other to have a relationship and as much as you wish that was with this person it isn't.  You deserve to let yourself move on and find someone who will want your love and give you their love back in return.