Marriage and Finance, does it make or break a family?
144034
My most tried and true marriage advise is about finance.  NEVER, EVER, get joint credit cards.  NEVER get anything that ties both of your credit history together.  You can have a joint checking account and savings account, but don't tie up your credit.\n  \n  the reason is, if one person screws up, it brings the other person's credit down.  I had the best credit in the world, a perfect score.  My ex killed it.  Can finance break a marriage?  Like I said, my EX killed my credit.  \n\nHowever each family is different.  Too much money can screw up a family even more than too little.  Look toward Hollywood for an example of that.
1124701
I think it depends if the mother is a single mother or not. I have been paying my single mother rent money to help out for bills, mortgage, groceries etc. But my mother never forced us (my sister and i) to pay her but just to help out a little. If the she's married and you think the mother/father could afford to support their family then i would agree with you. on the other hand, i wouldn't let my kids pay either. :-)
666957
for enjoyment,marriage is not necessary. you can enjoy as you like. but for family and children, you better get married.
319922
My wife and I were both previously married.  We have a joint account for the majority of our money and then she has a small separate account so she can buy gifts and stuff without me knowing.  I think a relationship that is based on trust and sharing includes the financial side of things.
735140
If married no problems but if just living together DO NOT have a joint bank acct,,,,Keep your money in your name and protect your butt,,,everything should be  split, 50/50 including sex,,,,smiles, Good Luck ps Money causes more problems than  any other subject and mode of living,
1026258
I think it is. I think we are supposed to get married and have a family. We then find what true love is. When you have kids its something unlike anything else and to me the marriage comes before the kids so without that....you don't get the honor. You don't get to know what it feels like. I believe that there is someone for everyone and God will put this person in front of you when you least expect it and you will know this is the one.
666624
Yes, it is necessary. Now that are married you are responsible for each others bills. If something horrible were to happen like an accident and he couldn't work or gosh forbid he should pass, you are looking at a lot of creditors wanting what your husband owes them to be paid. Also, you might be able to consolidate and save, for example, car insurance. There is usually a discount to have you both on one plan versus two seperate policies.
344066
the total income of the household is revieewed and you could loose it if your spouse has a good income.  Uncle is careful not to give too much or you might be able to get a life.  Unless you want children marriage is only a piece of paper. Check things out before you make a mistake.
167572
I'm married, and we kinda both do.  We openly discuss our finances every day, he gets a "limit" for how much he can spend on lunch during the week so we dont' run under and also because we have two kids and never know when we'll be seeing the pediatrician.  Even a couple of $20 copays and prescriptions can make a difference in a family's budget.  I usually pay the bills, but we discuss how much goes to the credit cards each month, etc.  Sometimes I'm in charge of the cable bill and sometimes he is if he's got less to do than I do.  Do whatever you have to do to keep out of debt though.  It's hard giving up total control, but just communicate and he'll gladly inform you of your financial status. :)
354995
I would definitely consider it.I have no interest in having what is not mine,nor do I have an interest in losing all I have acquired should a marriage fail.\n\nThe only thing I would insist on is that it be spelled out what if any changes will be made should children become part of the picture,as I believe that changes things and it should be made clear in an agreement as well.\n\nWe all want marriages to last or at least that is what we all SHOULD want,but reality is that lots of marriages don't last and it should not result in losing everything you worked your whole life for on top of the heartbreak.
896450
I don't see how this could in any way be considered a marriage.\n\nIf a marriage is to produce children the parents have to be fertile at the same time, and that isn't always going to work for 40-year-olds.  Also, children would be the great interrupter in your pattern.\n\nKids like to know their parents as their parents.  There really isn't that much wrong with the traditional marriage.  Let's stick with what we know generally works.
1131711
what an option.\n\nI guess your wealth is independent on whether you are married or not.\n\nIf you stay single, you can date and have "fun" with alot of people. Some might be deep and good relationships, others may be superficial and wacko. You might have a baby or two - who knows, and you'll be dependent on your surroundings; family or friends to babysit if you want to keep up your happy life.\n\nIf you marry, (for love that is) you can work on a relationship. You can deepen your feelings for each other and this will maybe make you more happy on a long term - who knows. If you have babies, it or they will be borned in a family and this makes a more secure structure if one of parents for instance die or ... something.
179537
Maybe the payment to married people is to pay them to put up with the other person... But ya I like the idea of it going to  people with children instead.  Although it bothers me when people have kids just to get money from the government then starve their kids... So it has its drawbacks.
574209
yes. You helped make that baby and it needs your financial support. I think that yes the system is sometimes corrupt and women do abuse this but the children still need monetary support. If the mother is financially secure you should still help out. Children only get more expensive as the years go by.\nDo your part.
212502
get financially stable first..then try to think afer marriage
1058322
Companionship, love, to have a family, loneliness, doesn't hurt to join incomes either. No one wants to be old & alone, young looking for safe sex, & most of are want to marry our eternal mates & have lovely families. 33 years of marriage & would not change a thing, I love him as more today than ever. Had all our family over this week for Son's new baby & there were 58 of us.\n"We are family" I highly recommend marriage.
538294
Yes. Otherwise, couples would go their seperate ways when things got hard, instead of making it work. Marriage is a rational decision you make to be with 1 person, even if it gets hard. Think about a world full of broken homes, with only one parent. That would be reality without marriage.