Can a seperated man start dating? I see no return to my marriage, have met someone new with more in common.?
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When I separated, I did start dating.  And I'm glad I did.  But not every woman will date a separated man, since some women fear that the man may return to his ex-wife.  Another thing is that a woman may fear that she will become a "transitional woman" between the former wife and the man's future wife/companion.  So my suggestion is that if a separated man wants to date, he should seek out a woman who is not necessarily looking for a long-term commitment.\n\nBe honest with anyone you date about your status.  Be totally upfront about the separation.  But, never spend any time with your date telling her what was wrong in your marriage.  It's inappropriate to disrespect your soon-to-be-ex-wife with any woman you are dating, no matter how strongly you feel.
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If you want to be with a truly born again partner, then you're going to have to be one yourself, . \n\nWalk in the Spirit and not the flesh.  \n\nPerhaps now is not the best time to be looking to date someone while you are still married.  You may feel lonely, and want reassurrance, but perhaps now is the time to spend reflecting, and time with your children.  \n\nI don't know the problems you're going through now, but I do know that if you trust in God, walk in righteousness, and have faith, God will bring the right person in your life at the right time.
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Hi introvertedb, Pls this is not a class room to correct English Language, answer the question or let go. so, if you have divorced, you better go back to your spouse or remain unmarried 1cor 7:11. sorry, no second chance for you as a christian.
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Your hurt is very understandable.You can't allways know what the other person is doing in a relationship and this is where trust comes in.We all want to trust someone and not have to think about what may happen if they do go astray.Not all men are this way.Some of us would love to meet someone that feels the same way and would respect a bond between 2 people.Maybe you are attracting this type of person.Look at where you have met these men and see if there is any connection as to the locations.I'm not suggesting that you hang out in the wrong places but maybe the men you meet are there for the purpose of finding women.Just a thought.
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I think it is possible to start over. That's the beauty of love, it can stand the test of time and many hardships. Not to say that it wouldn't take a tremendous amount of effort on both sides whether it was asking or granting forgiveness. If two people are meant to be together then even the worst experiences and longest separations cannot keep them apart, or I would like to think that.
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START DATING AGAIN !!!
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A bunch! both my husband (of 9+years) did a lot of dating!!! Neither of us would have KNOWN that we were meant to be together if we hadn't experienced others. Now we know that the whole dating thing and wishing you could be somewhere else is totally NOT a question either of us ask. Dating others is the only way to know what you truely need.... Both of you!\nGood Luck!
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Well that sucks...in a big way.  Then again, you don't want to be with someone who has committment issues and "doesn't want to be tied down anymore."  My guess is he met someone else.  Whatever the reason, you're better off without someone like that.\nYou deserve a real man who isn't afraid to commit, not some half wit who breaks off an engagement so he can go whore chasing.
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Thanks for making that clear for me, I was going to ask you out.\n\nBut seriously folks, you have to understand that people do not plan on getting divorced when they get married.  I sure didn't.  When my wife left me, she left me with two children to raise.  Did I grow up and dream of being a single father, no, but it is the situation that I find myself in.  That being said, There is still a lot of love left inside my heart for another person.  And I don't feel that I am alone on this one.  To say that you would not go out with someone that is divorced is cutting your self short and loosing out on the opportunity of someone that has already been through heart ache and really understands what having a good relationship means.\n\nGood luck on your search for the pure ones on this planet, it will be a very long search.
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There are no guarantees.  Look at divorce rate.  Ask yourself if you truly enjoy this person's company.  Do you communicate well?  Is this person insecure/secure?
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Alls I can say is....rebound relationships. You both just got out of long term relationships, which probably means you both got your hearts broken. Now you are leaning on eachother for support and that's fine, but you are confusing support and friendship with love. It's nothing new and that's why so many people that have been divorced once, get divorced twice. I suggest you don't move and just keep a friendship up...it's only been 2 months...that's not long enough to make a life changing decision. Good luck in whatever you decide.
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Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
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Are either of you involved with or married to other people?  So the separate lives you mention, do they include other romantic partners?  If so, maybe she is already involved with someone? Perhaps she intends to keep the "friendship" (between the 2 of you) just a friendship, (only).  If both of you are unattached, then make arrangements to be in the same country, and declare  your feelings face to face!\n\nGood luck!
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Just do it.  Do you really think you are the only one out there dating that has been married for a while and had children?  Your not, so move on.  Go out to a local club/ bar/ hangout and start there first.  Your not looking to find another spouse on your night out, you are just looking for someone to hang out with and go on a few dates with.  It'll be fun!
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I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
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Sweetie, if the guy was married than you had nothing at all an if yall shared such a deep connection why aren't you with him now?Maybe what you should do first is get to know yourself first. Trying being alone and seeing what its like for awhile. If you feel lost because you don't have a man that makes others think that your weak. You should be independent rather your with someone or not. All I'm trying to say is that, how can you be devoted to someone who's already married? What would you do if the tables were turned and you were his wife??? Just don't get lost in the midst of needing someone, and having to have someone-figure out who you are and see how far that gets you!
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Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.