My best friend goes with my ex. But we never really broke up. But now I luv 1 of her best friends. What to do?
138666
It sounds like everything has already worked itself out. Your ex is dating your best friend, and you are dating one of her best friends. \n\nIs there someone out of the 4 of you that isn't happy with the arrangement?
678633
YOU BETTER NOT DARE GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIEND'S EX-GIRLFRIEND! DON'T BE STUPID. USE YOUR COMMON SENSE BOY. FRIENDS NEVER EVER DATE OTHER FRIENDS' EXES. SHE IS AN ASS FOR SURE AND ONLY WANTS TO HURT YOUR FRIEND, SERJIO BECAUSE SHE KNOWS IF YOU END UP WITH HER SHE WILL DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH SERJIO...THAT HEIFER. I KNOW I SHOULDN'T BUT I HATE PEOPLE WHO LIVE TO RUIN FRIENDSHIPS...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. DON'T YOU HURT HIM. HE IS YOUR FRIEND!\n(relaxes) ok...i've calmed down now. no more yelling. stay loyal to your friend please.
374757
You should ask your best friend about it first. Girlfriends may come and go but friendships last forever.
602047
Ask her if its ok to go out with him. After all, its her ex and its wise to ask as certain people find it unsettling to see their ex's going out with another person already even if its with their best friend. It also depends upon how long they have been seperated. If it was quite long ago, ask her else look out for someone else.
313801
I agree with the others.  If she was your best friend she wouldn't have started dating him knowing how you felt.  That's always been the rule with all my friends.  Never go after someone they like.  I'm sorry she did that to you.
205508
stop thinking this ............you will loos eyour best friend as well as the girl friend .........keep your emotion for time being withing and wenever they broke off ......propose her
46638
Aah - that's a sticky situation! I would hope that you have only sent "signals" to one of those guys. And you also need to decide if guy #1 is worth the drama. Because there may be some for a while. But after a couple of weeks I think guy #2 will get over it. He just has to find something else to think about other than you:) Bottom line - if you have strong feelings - go for it and let the best friend know without saying a word that you are unavailable to him. Good luck!\n-GirlShrink
62247
You can't. If they want to get together they will. She is your ex so don't worry about it. If your friend ditches you for her then they are not a good friend.
873263
If you are telling your ex that you love her, then the best friend shouldn't mean anything to you. If you are having your doubts, forget even trying to mend things with your ex, and just go for the best friend. Just know that trying to go after an ex's best friend is a REALLY sensitive thing, but if both of you feel that way for each other, it could work.
1072575
umm stay with ur man u guys just gota do somethign diff to spice things up... from my experience dont go after ur BFF's ex..my ex and i broke up and she went out with my best friend... they ended up breakin up and she tried to get back with me... now i dont like either of them.!! its just not right and could cause a bunch of problems like not ever talking to ur bff anymore and u said he is your friend then if u guys break up u might not be friends anymore.... so stick with ur man!!!
377484
My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
832471
THIS PERSON MUST NO TAHVE BEEN YOUR BEST FRIEND B/C IF THEY WERE , THEY WOULD NOT HAVE DUMPED YOU FOR SOME OTHER FRIEND !!
312757
Sorry to say it, but she's gone and you need to let her go.  No girl would ever get with a guy's best friend if she has ANY intention of ever getting back together with that guy.  Plus, why would you want her back after she did that to you?  You'd never be able to put it out of you head.
691070
Let your best friend hanging out with whoever she/he wants, it's your right too to hang out with other friends despite of your best friend like it or not. You cannot force your best friend not to be friends with people you don't like, if you do force, then your relationship is over.
799452
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
906559
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
95172
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.