How do you react when you become the butt of all jokes at work / college because of you being over weight ?
146515
People are cruel,sorry to hear you have to put up with that.You could try letting people know it's a medical condition,but when people are cruel enough to tease about things like that,it may not help.
305182
this always makes me laugh n usualy shuts em up 'i maybe fat but i can diet, you are ugly what can u do? '
617984
I'm in college and one day one student during a passionate discussion began to cry and it caught me by surprise and I began to laugh. More than anything I was embarrassed with myself. It was totally inappropriate.
1067060
Wow!  When compassion was  handed out, you sure didn't get any!\n\nPeople with a weight problem will get upset because:\n1. they know about their weight and aren't happy\n2. they don't want to be overweight but maybe due to health issues can't control it\n3. the older you get, the harder it is to lose weight...especially if you are female\n4. the comment is rude, obnoxious and cruel\n\nNever judge someone until you have walked in their shoes.  You  might be a thin thing now but just wait...your day will come and then see how you feel when someone is callous enough to call you fat.
136435
Oh my gosh, did you work at the same place I did?  Your story sounded exactly like the situation I had.  Management and supervisory positions had changed at my work and from then on, the nightmare began.  The witch who rose to power was a narcissitic, egotistical backstabber who made it so unbearable for everyone. She continuously found it amusing to berate, belittle and degrade each and every employee in the company by telling us that we were underworked and so grossly over-paid (we all made more $$$$ than her). Someone who is in the psychology field said that this supervisor's had low self-esteem issues (she weighs close to 300 lbs.)and it is satisfying to her to put others down in order to feel better about herself.  She can't control her weight so she tried to control others.  Unfortunately, confronting this supervisor only compounded to the problem, as she could not take constructive criticism from ANY employee...and talking to the owner of the company proved to be useless, as he always avoided any type of problem or confrontation issue.  Since I did not have an advocate or anyone I could really turn to, the stress of going to work every day was taking it's toll on my health.  For peace of mind and sanity, I gave them my two weeks notice but did not burn my bridges upon my resignation. It is a good idea to have something lined up to go to, especially if you need the income and medical benefits.  You really don't want to be at the mercy of your current employer when it comes to recommendations or verifications.  Good luck.....
902640
I am the same way.  I turn red so often it's not even funny.  But I have learned in some situations I can control it.  I make fun of myself.  I had to talk to a large group of people and I opened up with not only do you get a good speaker I change colors too.  Once I laughed about it - it made it so much easier to cope with.  I just kinda laugh about and I have gotten more confident with it.
901737
i know what u mean! well, kinda, you see, i was like that...ok, i lie, i am like that...and i dont know what it is. counsleing, and crap is trying to help me figure the source, but i dont think it is for beauty, i think it goes far beyaond that by being called fat by my father when i was only 6 years old..then by my sibblings. although i was never fat. i am under my weight now, too far, and it hasnt made me beautiful, and it never will. annorexia only gets you a lot of teasing and embarrassment, and into a deep puddle of mud. i wish i could get help, but all i can get help from is my mom and a youth pastor. i feel lonly and lost, and it is a troubling disease to have. it scares me and makes me sad.
317092
It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
882631
Walk upright with your head held high.  Look people in the eye and be willing to laugh at yourself.  Since everyone must deal with embarrassment sometimes in their lives, what's important is how you respond to it.  By responding positively, you can turn this obstacle into an opportunity.
919963
You have a couple options.\n\n1.) You can continue to feel sad and bad and mad about it.\n2.) You can point out some of his short commings when he makes those comments.\n3.) You can accept the truth, If you are gaining a few pounds, you can say, yip, i'm gaining some weight, thats what happend when your prego. If your not gaining weight you can say. Sorry, but your mistaken, i'm not gaining, then move on.\n\nSticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. If someone calls me Stupid, or fat, etc... even if its someone that i love, it doesnt bother me. Because I KNOW its not true. If my wife calls me smelly when i get back from the gym or if i just smell, I still dont get offended if i do smell because its the truth. Truth is Truth. no point of feeling bad about it.\nThe bad part is that i am Male and you are Female, and we are wired differently. but i hope this helps!
940876
the best thing to do is to stop letting people bother you. if you don't you'll spen most of your time upset. that's no fun is it?\n\nmy moto "Please don't give me a hard time. My stomach hurts me when I laugh too much." :)
28589
You don't have to do anything. It's not like you have a problem. Everyone laughs at their own corny jokes. It's the human nature. Live your life for you boo. Laugh it up, even it was dumb as s***! Toodles!
184456
not to be rude, but you got problems if you gained 100 lbs in a year. What's up with that? Go out have fun and be active do not worry about if people are or aren't looking at you, just be yourself and have fun.
867467
be the first one to laugh. it takes everyone else's embarassment about the situation away, and you come off seeming more self-confident. Plus. now they're laughing with you and not at you.
111967
Take baby steps, if your shy, then decide what would really bother you and try a small dose of it. we all have our little things about us, that we have a problem with. I used to have a problem going to a cafe by my self, so i decided one day to just go in and stay a few minutes, i stayed 5 minutes and left, next time alittle longer, until it doesn't bother me at all now. Another thing you got to understand, is life begins, when you learn to make fun of yourself, if you make a mistake, don't worry about it, real people won't make fun of you, the only one's that will make fun of you, are the very one's you don't need in your life anyway.
264326
You just have to realize that there are people like that everywhere you go, and I do mean EVERYWHERE. You know that saying, "there's one in every crowd", when talking about people who are jerks and generally make problems?  Well it's not only true at work, it's true in any group setting of people.  The best thing to do is try really hard to find the humor in how absurdly stupid some people act, and have a good laugh about it.  If you can learn to laugh at people who are idiots and are incredibly full of themselves, you'll have a never-ending source of comedy on a daily basis.
934895
It depends on whether that photo is really you or not. Since I've seen it all over the internet I think it's more likely that you're just being an asshole toward overweight people, and you need to get over yourself.