how do i know if my husband is a womanizer?
139981
Trust is so important in a relationship. If you trust him, then talk about this concern with him openly. Do not look for sneaky ways or signs to sniff him out. Rather, talk to him, and you might be surprised how willingly he will open up to you if you show him you have enough trust in him. Most men do not willingly become womanizers, but most men do enjoy being popular around ladies as a sign that they are quite the manly men.
1090559
he buys new cloths\nstarts wearing colone\nhis habits change\nleave often with no explaintion\nstays out later\nfind reciepts with purchases on it you never seen\nhang up phone calls\nwants to be alone alot.\nstarts a fight for any dumm reason just to have a reason to walk out the door\ncompares you to ??\nhe has sex with you less or not at all\nday dreams alot\nworries about his appearance more than he use too.\nthat should just about cover it. i know cause my man has put me threw it, time an time again.\ni can always tell when something is up. good luck!!\nyour going to need it.
1150289
What does your husband think?
1174065
He is more concerned about your well being that his.  He is not controlling.  He does not lie or hide anything(except to make you feel better).  He does things for you.  He tries not to notice other women.  He treats his mother and other female relatives well.  He has a job or is passing his classes.  He wants the same things you want (kids, travels).  He shares himself with you and wants to know you.  You can talk to him during the Superbowl.\n\nDoes he show you that he loves?
764457
Think specifically what that guy "did" for you.  Frame what he did into words, and then tell your husband that you want him to do those things for you.  Don't say you got the ideas from thinking of another guy.  Do tell him this with an attitude of love and playfulness.  It will probably excite him to hear you state your desires assertively.
1039340
Yes -- if you've found a real man who understands the difference between being dominant and being domineering!  At the risk of sounding archaic, I believe the husband should be the head of the household.  That does NOT mean that he should boss you around.  It means he should be a leader.  Don't get me wrong -- I believe in equal rights and a good man will respect his wife as a person.  He will exalt her judgement and be awed by her talents and good works.  But when there comes a time when there's a decision to be made and it's a tie, a woman should trust him to make it.  (So you have to find a man you can trust to make decisions with EVERYONE'S best interest in mind -- not who's just putting his foot down because he can.)
263376
HARD to tell, men's units can have a mind of their own and often do. just be a good mother and keep an eye out.
1004403
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
684697
hire a detective or do it yourself. just be carefull and dont get caught .your married check the phone bills dont let him leave with cologne on smell him when he gets home make sure theres no  girls spray on lipstick hickies act like you want to have sex and smell his dick and mouth and underpants for a womens scent
80073
Hmmmm.  I don't think how YOU feel is any indication of whether or not your man really loves you.  I think it's best to put your feelinging aside for a bit and take a look at how he treats you.\n\nDoes he respect your ideas, opinions, attitudes, feelings, and behaviors?  Does he support your values -- allowing you to follow your own system of beliefs?  Does he allow you to express yourself, and is he willing to work with you to reach compromises when the two of you disagree?\n\nDoes he know your weaknesses, good and bad, and allow you to be "less than perfect"?  Does he protect your weaknesses rather than criticise you or open you up to ridicule?\n\nDoes he treat you with gentleness and kindness and yet know when you are ready to break loose in a chicken fight or giggle fest?  \n\nDoes he share some of your most personal interests?  Does he share your goals?\n\nDoes he know you well enough to love you for you -- whoever you are and whatever you are living through right now, at this moment?\n\nDoes he say he loves you?\n\nIt's easy to mix up our feelings with someone and assume the other person feels the same as we do.  If there is any question, let some time pass.  It takes time to know someone well enough to know if there is love between you and not just chemistry.
230461
what you are going through is post partum depression, he most likely does not think you are ugly, but you feel he feels that way, it is natural. It will pass. Believe me if you had his kid then to him you are the most beautiful woman in the world. That's how we men feel, we just fail to say it.
1153784
If he was gay he would tell you. You can't make that judgement for yourself. I have a hairdresser that I thought was gay, no question. He had the mannerisms and everything. Then he started talking about his wife. That totally threw me. I also use to work with this totally beautiful girl at a cosmetic counter. She was totally feminine but I found out later she was lesbian. I never would have guesses. I never judge by appearance anymore.
930942
Oh the joys of being married to MEN lol.. \n\nFirst why do u think he likes things on other women? do u really think its because of the teddy? No, its because shes something that hasnt been "conquered" by him, its the mystery under the nightie that he's more interested in, sure she looks sexy, and he's not saying that u wouldnt look sexy in it as well, he basically said he'd want to tear it off of u like a wild animal so why bother.. be greatful for that and that he doesnt yawn when u put it on.. \n\n Your making urself to available.. men like the chase.. they may not admit it.. but they do.. stop giving him such a big head (no pun intended lol) he's eatting it up that he can have u at his beck and call.. and he likes the power trip that he's getting from it.. i doubt seriously that he's wanting another woman, i just think he's forgotten that your worth losing and has gotten to comfortable in the marriage.. he knows all he has to do is snap his fingers and boom ur there to satisfy him sexually..  \n\n Start finding things to do , go shopping , go out with friends, go find a hobbie , heck if i lay in bed and read a book and act as if im to interested in the book, my husband goes nuts why? cause something else has diverted my attention off of him.. and instead of me being all over him as usual.. its a shock to his system of not having my attention and then he starts initiating things..  \n\nIm sure u have talked to him till ur blue in the face and it seems to either work for about a day or two and go back to the same ole same.. or it went in one ear and out the other.. so time to get what u want with out talking about it.. start giving him alittle bit of the cold shoulder so to speak.. make him wonder for a change, get active, stop being at his beck and call.. make him chase u..  Go out and buy a sexy outfit, (normal clothes) go get ur nails done or hair done, start doing things that make u feel good about yourself and feel more confident.. he'll take notice... men like confident women, they like women to not only look but feel confident BUT it also scares them into a wake up call..\n\nWomen can get their men to do anything they want if they handle it the right way.. its just finding out what their nitch is first...\n\nGood luck\n\n@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@\n\nJust read your added details.. \n\nHe looks at to much porn, and your not "allowed" to spend money on such things?????????\nHoney u have more problems then ur man not spending time with u.. he's disrespecting u and controling..\n\nNot allowed to??? kills me, lets see.. your not ALLOWED to spend his money on such things is what im getting from u.. lol hummmmm the judge would see it differently when he's ordered to pay you childsupport and possibly alimony and u could use HIS money on a teddy for some other guy lol.. but i guess that would be ok with him.. lol..\n\n Your husband needs a swift kick in the azz.. and needs to open his eyes.. because this is no way to live.. screw it go on ebay and start selling all his crap so u can have ur own money to spend on whatever the hell u want if he wants to be that way "ALLOWED" .. are u a child or are u a woman?????  He treats u like a child.. he doesnt respect u if he did then he'd know that his marriage vows said to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS.. i doubt it said FORSAKE ALL OTHERS EXCEPT FOR PORN.. love it when people only go by their wedding vows when its convient for them.. \n\nSweetie its time u started worrying about what makes u happy, and let him start realizing he's about to lose you if he doesnt straighten his act up, and if he doesnt, then u have ur answer, because if he loves u , he would at the risk of losing u.. if he doesnt then u know that u mean very little to him and there are alot of good men out there that would love to have a woman treat them the way ur treating ur current husband who doesnt seem to deserve it..\n\n@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@
769547
I am the husband...but...I think most men are satisfied if he believes you are truly interested in keeping him happy. no matter what you do or how succesful it is. The same would go for him right? As far as sex goes...Men are visual creatures...do things that appeal to his visual senses such as oral sex with your hair puled out of the way or flashing him at unusual times. Go Bra-less maybe. Verbally fantasize with him too. (especially, but not necessarily, if it involves other women. Just be careful to keep it fantasy.Those types of things rarely work out in real life.)
478291
Well in my opinion he already knows that his commander is a d*ck, but nothing worth doing is easy. I would want my wife to support me, not let me know how crappy my position is. I know that already. Give him something to look forward to and cherish the time you do get with him. Many other women have bigger problems than "my husband works to much." You have your whole life ahead of you two to spend time together, let him get ahead in life now so that you can grow old, happy and rich together.  Support him he sounds like a good one.
674568
Best tip?  Don't compete with him. You're a woman. Act like\nit. Don't act like a man. You don't want him to act like a\nwoman, do you? Role reversal will ruin a marriage. Accept\nyour individual strengths and fill in for each others weak-\nnesses. Men don't think like women. Don't try to undermine\nhis manhood. Admire his intellect, courage, and stamina.\nDon't detract from those "macho" traits that make him a man.\nHelp him, if he asks. Your femininity is a gift. Don't use\nit as a tool. Don't play head games. Don't waste time play-\ning "Hint". Tell him what you need and want. You may not get\nit all, but if you're good to him, you can be sure he'll \ntry. And if love fades, consider it a temporary condition.\nTip toe through it. Use your loving tenderness at every\nopportunity, but don't patronize. Men sometimes act like\nboys, let him. He may be inept at something, don't accent it. Let him love you. Let him not love you. If he's working\nhard, don't stop him. If he's not, gently motivate him. Don't take anything for granted. Know him, his moods, his\njoys, and his troubles. Add to his joys, not his troubles.\nDon't ever stir up the bad from the past. Expect the little\nproblems ahead, prepare for them. Don't make life changing\ndecisions based on bad temporary female feelings. Never put\nanyone before him. And remember: men aren't always the\nbrightest crayons in the box. Give him chances to get it\nright. Don't just say it, but reaffirm your love often,\nespecially when things are going wrong. Don't forget what\nyou're fighting for. Remind him, if needed. And if he does\nthis for you too, you should be fine. One more thing, turn\noff the T.V., it is filled with silly notions of what love\nand struggle are all about. And about the sex tips...\njust kidding. Sweet dreams, you two.
418874
Its possible that both of you are trying to fill the roles of wife and husband. What I mean is not seeing each other as people,not dealing with things as they are but trying to do things as you think they should be dealt with. Maybe he thinks he should be in charge, telling you what to do what to spend. I think its time you 2 have a good long talk and find out how each of you really feels clear the air. Oh one other thing to think about your at that stage in a relationship where your past the first glow of love and seeing him as he really is, time to work at the relationship build it up or see if it can be worked out.