i want to know is adopting a child from foster care better than a baby?
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When you adopt a baby, it will grow to know you as a parent, and have your beliefs.\n\nAdopting a child, or teen, is wonderful as they desperatly need to be adopted, but they come with a crapload of problems, are you ready to deal with that?\n\nIt is a question you will have to answer yourself.
763784
a foster parent is someone who takes care of the child while the parents are either in mental help or money troubles, but they are not legally their kid. their just the legal gardian.
58718
Yes, they are. Until we learn to care for the ones already exisitng, we should hold off on creating more of our own. (Just a personal observation.) Perhaps some of these families who like to pop out kid after kid should adopt one (or several).
852654
We have adopted several families...and were adopted once....The reason we were adopted was because we were totally down and out because my husband had a heart attack a month before Christmas, we had not applied or expected to be adopted, so it came as a total surprise to us and the children, and the group of people that adopted us went all out.  They arrived on out doorstep a week before Christmas with a tree, and a good months worth of groceries including everything we would need for Christmas dinner.  Tons of toys for the kids delivered by Santa himself.  It was a local factory full of people who heard about us and just decided to organise it.  It was a bit embarrassing because we were used to being on the giving end, not the recieving end, but it was a true blessing.\nWe have adopted many many families threw the years.  You can find names of families threw churches or local agencies like Federal Indepence Agency (what used to be call the welfare office)  They will supply you with names and ages and sizes, needs and wishlists.  Organize people to help and donate items, we usually gave each person that offered to help a name and the list for that name and they would buy and wrap those items.  Don't forget to get food as well.  A gas card is also helpful.  For one family we also took cash donations and pre paid their winter propane bill.  Just use your imagination, and remember to treat the family with dignaty when you deliver, as it is alway embarassing to families (often single mother's) to be on the recieving end.  Merry Christmas...giving is the best part!
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in Wisconsin, a child has to be in foster care for a minumum of 15 months to be adopted.  And all options and opportunity must be given to parents to fix their situation.
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He can file a complaint with social services and if they decide the child isn't being cared for the child can be taken away.  But simply taking the child from you and putting it in foster care, NO.
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No.  Some children have been born at 4 months and have lived.  Why not wait the pregnancy out and then put the child up for adoption.
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Adopt children from elsewhere. There is plenty of misery to choose from. Children desperate for a home and a chance. Do some research and I am sure you can come up with a huge (sad isn't it) list of locations where children are suffering.\n\nWhat you want to do is very noble. If only there were more willing to take on this task.
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if i were you i would adopt. if you believe all things happen for a reason then maybe your suppose to adopt a child. and something good will come from adopting a child. you could be saving a childs life. and i dont think blood relation will really matter if you love the child.
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God did not choose you to be adopted. Your birth mother did.  Your birth mother did the most unselfish act by giving you to a person that she thought would be better for you than her.  It is too bad that your adopted mother didn't have disciplinary  skills.  Hitting a child only promotes hitting.  Don't get me wrong a light spank on the bottom when children are to young to reason with is OK.
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before is better, when trying to have a child.\n\nAfter is better, mostly for pleasure.
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if they have been adopted u need to go through the legal chanels\n\ndont worry, some are really helpful and its safer for you too
279180
Well...It was pretty terrible to begin with but then it turned out wonderful.  I was abused (not going into details) as a very young child(my brothers were also).  Social Services took us away from our mother when I was 4.  I was in a foster home for 4 years where they were abusive as well.  I was then adopted out of there at 8 yrs old to the most wonderful parents any child could have hoped for.  My brothers were not as fortunate...they were not put into foster homes to be adopted out, they were put into group homes and never found a home. Now 2 of my brothers actually live with my birthmother in Oregon.  She actually had the nerve to ask me to move up there with her so she could have all of her babies together!  She should have thought about her babies when we were fu*#ing babies! u know what i mean?!?!?!?!?! So My childhood was pretty damn shitty until i was8.
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There is someone out there that loves you and will take care of you, and it is better than the orphanage.
1151765
adopt a child then focus on finding love
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I don't have the first-hand experience of parenting a child with RAD, but I also adopted a child. I went through the training all adoptive parents go through prior to adopting my daughter, and my understanding is that it's a pretty tough situation to get into. You won't be alone though, and there are lots of counselors who specialize in working with kids and families where there's RAD. If you feel connected to the child (obviously you do, or you wouldn't be considering such a tough decision), I say go for it, but be prepared with the names of some good counselors to consult.
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Try adoptionforums.com.  You can search for many types of information there.