why does my girlfriend not want to hug me?
139257
to be honest ron, you answered your own question, she won't hug you because she's in a bad mood. Listen up man, sit down and talk with her, How hard it that? Find out whats wrong with her and do everything you can to make her feel better and solve her problem. Good luck
514496
It's very clear that she doesn't want u.. but u know, she feels great to have someone as nice as u to adore her.. that's what she wants.. no more than that.. so please move on..
783395
Here's what I'd do:\n\nSit down with her and take her hand in yours.  Make and keep eye contact, even if you have to announce it like, "I have something to say."  Remind her that you really care about her, more and more every day.\n\nTouch her cheek, or tuck her hair behind her ear: the more physical, non-threatening contact you can establish the better.  She'll become more comfortable with you in a physical way, and that will help her comfort level with the emotional aspect of your relationship.\n\nTell her that you don't want to do or say anything to make her feel uncomfortable but you really feel that she deserves to know that she's important to you, you care about her, and that you love her.  Let her know that you don't expect anything in return, you just want her to know how you feel.\n\nShe probably freaks out/hyperventilates because she feels that either she doesn't deserve love or that saying "I love you" comes with expectations.  Tell her that you are just letting her know, and you don't need anything back: you love her for who she is, right now, just the way she is.\n\nThen what you need to do is let her know you'll be there when she's ready to talk about this or anything else, and just walk away.  She'll need time alone to process what you've said.
717523
i'm not trying to be mean or anything but if u rly love her and care about her, don't rush her into things. Maybe she is not ready for something like that. Give her some space. She most likely loves u for who u are. I am not saying that u think anything opposite of that. I am not trying to be mean or anything. u don't have to take this advice or anything if u don't want too.
150168
being female, i can tell you she either doesn't want to be with you anymore but doesn't want to hurt you, she's having bad pms, or she's seeing someone else that she likes better than you.  this is all if she just started being distant.  if she's been like that the whole time you've been together, then she needs help cracking her emotional shell
965265
she loves you yet she's mean to you? that's what you call tough love. try elaborating on how she's mean to you... maybe it's just her way of teasing you or fondling with you. some of 'em like guys who absorb all their blows. but if her meanness bothers you, maybe you should talk to her about it.
820647
I have a friend at work that is a no-touch gal--& I'm super feely!  She told me during a conversation about massages that she hates to be touched.  I have spread the word amongst others and she says it has gotten easier for her--no-one tries to hug/touch her as much.\nMy advise, tell a friend how you feel and ask if  they could casually pass it on.\nGood luck and no hug!
944334
if she is uncomfortable or not ready yet then as an understanding boyfriend you should hear her out on this one. dont let the wanting and needing to be physical with your girlfriend be the only reason why you want to be with her. if the only reason why you wanna be with her is to touch her and not acually be with her, then that shouldnt be. you should wanna spend time with her no matter what goes on. day or night. and if she says no physical anything then you should respect it. if you wanna be loving and show her that you really do care about her then you can try writting her a love letter. decorate it with prettey designs and mail it to her or send it to her on the computer. buy her a neckalace or a bracelet if she likes wearing them. maybe some prettey earrings. give her some of her favorite flowers if she has any. if she doesnt have a favorite flower then get her some pink and red roses. be gentle with it and make sure its coming from your heart and not just because you want to gain back enoguh trust to be physical again. good luck. im a poet, so if you want me to write you a poem to give to her then i will use one of my own.
105576
I wonder why your gf feels that affection should wait until after marriage. Innocent touching like hand holding, shoulder massages and playing footsie are normal parts of a dating relationship.  if she really feels that it is part of her personality, don't expect it to change.  You will either have to compromise with affection she feels is acceptable (and enough of it to satisfy you) or to move on.  Something as basic as affection in a relationship should have a common ground, otherwise, someone will end up angry, disappointed or rejected.
968228
How long have you been with her? And why don't you ask her, you should, if it's been a while, she may not be feeling the same way about you and doesn't know what to say or, she is insecure about the relationship. Let her know your feelings on this, communication is the key!
156100
Lol this is difucult situation.Maybe that girl is not grown up enough to be with you or with someone normal who is not tolerating that "b i t c h" kinda behaviour.\nU should try someone else or if u inlove with her very much try to make thingz like she does.Go and hang with other girls and maybe she will think twice for the thingz she does!\nIf u cannot do that then try to talk with her and force her to explain to you what is happening between both of you!Tell her to be honest and not to lie
62235
It is not necessarily abnormal, although it could be. I depends on the relationship that the person is in, and it depends on what the reasons are that the person dislikes kissing and affection. It may be that the person just prefers not to. It may be, though, that she has had some negative experiences in the past that has lead to this. For whatever reason, if this is to be a long-term relationship you two need to have a discussion about this and see if you can resolve it in a way that meets both of your needs. By that, I don't mean forcing her to do so, or that you should "settle" for no affection. If your styles are so different you should reassess if this person is the right person to be in a long-term relationship with. Preferences like these don't usually change (at least without therapy) and neither of you are likely to be happy with this serious a difference in your preferences for affection.
22869
If when the relationship started you wanted to please her (for what ever reason). But now you are together you don't make the effort to show her how you feel, in a way she understands.  \n\nYou can't take affection on trust, it has to be demonstrated.  It might be you are not demonstrating it anymore.
434932
she is just worried... she doesn't want to have sex with you because maybe she wants to reserve it until marriage or maybe she is afraid that you might leave her or she is just guilty of the fact that you had sex even if you are not married yet... but then when you meet again, when you start making out she has no power to resist you... she loves you very much that's why she still have sex with you... but deep within her she wants to stop it... because she is guilty... please understand your girlfriend.. the best thing you can do is to minimize your sex activity until you can stop it (if you can) but still reassure her of your love for her... she wants to make sure you will not leave her but she is also guilty because she knows that having sex with you now is wrong.. that's why she is acting like that... please understand her
868705
Don't tell this girl anything, just keep your hands to yourself, she has made it clear, that she does not want to hug!!!
752524
maybe she is being abused by her bf and wants your to get involveed umm we are not aloud hugs at my school it is PDA public dissplay of affection
1013695
i gues people just fear the things they don't know or understand. One of my best friends is a girl and we haven't done anything other than a hug.  I guess if you are ever in a relationship then make sure your boyfriend understands the situation. It could also be the people that are around you, cause I really haven't had that problem.