How easy do you forgive your boyfriend/girlfriend?
138118
I think it depends on the relationship if your young and its a fairly new relationship then I would not forgive and move on.  If its a long relationship and you are going through some rough times I would try to work it out, and see what I can do to repair the relationship, but if its something you don't think you can get over it's better you let it go because it will eventually lead to a break up anyway.
290451
You'll be able to forgive easier once you are disentangled from the relationship.  Forgiveness is noble, but so are boundaries.  You need to make the situation such that you are getting your own needs met.  After that, what the other person is doing won't affect you as much.
519938
i know when getting into a relationship is tuff. They are tuff because there are two completely different people having an emotional connection. So anyone will say they are hard to forget as well as to forgive. Try your hardest to forgive because at the end it will benefit you. You will feel better has a person and with any decision you have made. Everything will work out because wounds will heal and just worry about yourself for now. It seems that you have a good head on your shoulders and what you need is a good girl who will love you for you. Best of luck
234936
It takes time, patience and a real willingness to want to forgive and forget.  If you can't forgive and forget, then you will never learn to trust again.  Think of it this way.  No one is perfect, even you and I have made and will continue to make mistakes (sometimes big ones).  Just give yourself PLENTY of time and take baby steps.  It may take a few years even, but if the relationship(s) are better afterwards, it will be worth your while.
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
954925
oh, that is a very hard question , but i am going to say forgive myself. i tend to have a shorter memory when it comes to others, i have to live with myself. i never can seem to escape my mistakes and they can play repetitively in my head, making forgetting impossible sometimes.
1127211
You can't do much if they won't forgive you and let it go.  You can apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and tell them how sorry you are - thats your part to do.  Their part is to forgive you and really mean it and move on.
308758
It depends on where you are and what point you are in the relationship - i have just upset my loved one tonight. I told her that i was sorry (didnt work) but then i just said that whatever happened, i would always love her, i simply had no choice, even if i tried, i could never stop wanting her, i just simply had no choice, i was just driven by her warmth and beauty - it worked :-)
765978
No one can tell you what your limits are but yourself & your own heart.  \n\nThese questions should be posed to your significant other as well.  You could ask something like "Just how many times are you expecting me to forgive you?!"\n\nIf she's a really convincing apologizer, it's going to be hard for you to say no because you love her & want to believe her.  But sometimes you need to chill your heart out a little & just try to listen to your mind.  I only say that because you may end up just getting hurt over & over again if you continue to take her back.\n\nI agree w/ you that we shouldn't run away from our problems, but it may turn out that you'll be glad she's just your g/f & not your wife.\n\nSorry I can't be more definitive than that.  Hang in there, ok?  :)
189016
You sound like your having break-up remorse. First of all could you forgive him for what he did if he did do it? Lets just say he did, do you love him enoughf to let it go? You have to have relationships with trust, trust is the most important part in a relationship. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Also remember that there are alot of potential people out there. Everytime I broke up with a girl I dreaded it and wanted her back, then when I took her back, I really wish I didn't because all I thought about was why I broke up with her in the first place.
714458
well that is a decision only you can make and only you can decide if you can forgive her too.., but yes it can be done it is hard and takes along time .before you trust her again.but you need to find out what caused this and if you all were having problems before.i am not trying to justify what she did or place blame but women all women like to feel special and loved, sexy and alive and if you fail to give her the attention she wants then yes someone else will . no that does not make it right. it makes her weak  but only you have the right to decide what to do good luck you seem like a real nice man and you must really love her and that is what it takes good luck
244263
yes, because i could understand if she had trust issues because of past things. alot of ppl do. and if he really loved her then he should be able to forgive her. they just need to sit down and have a real conversation on this matter. she needs to explain why she has trust issuses and tell him it is not him. but things in the past. he doesnt forgive her hes not worth it. (vote me best answer plz)
700098
I hate to use a cliche, but HONESTY!\n\nSpend a few real honset moments with yourself.  Examine your part, claim ownership of what you did wrong.  Ask yourself "was what I said or did unthoughtful towrd others feelings/hurtful/mean in any way?"  We dont want you to not confess and have regrets.\n\nCome to your partner and let them know that you see your wrongs.  This will inspire them to get honest and own their side of the street, unless they are in huge denial.  Most of the times it works if the person is decent.\n\nThe and only then is it truly resolved.  If each person does not claim their share, resentments build and it will come out later, and worse!\n\nBest of luck and be real honest! U can do it!
660455
The only thing it depends on with me is if you are trying to come between me and my family in a harmful way..\n\nOtherwise.. I forgive easily .. unfortunately I am a softy and try to understand where everyone else is in their lives, I give them many more outs than the normal person would.. so if they have even half the friendship as I have with them, they'll find it easy to come and say.. "Ya know what?.. I over-reacted.. sorry.. wanna go get a beer?" and know that even though they were having a bad day.. week life..I wouldn't judge them as harshly as they did me when my feelings were hurt. \n\nAll people have faults.. friends have limits and breaking points, so do you.. if you're feelings were hurt, why were they hurt.. because this person acted so fouly, or did you take it too personal or hold this person in a higher regard than they should have been? \n\nTake the high road.. feels good every time.. even if you almost bite off you tongue sometimes..take the high road.
580083
I really didn't understand your question but if you are asking if it's alright to forgive someone...then my answer is yes.  However, if he is still making the same mistake then it's not a mistake after he did it the first time it becomes experience......and if you continue to keep putting up with it; you are telling him that he doesn't have to change the behavior to have you....you're telling him that lying and treating you the way he is is perfectly alright with you.....Ask yourself is it......if not, then set up some limits and boundaries with him; and stick to them.
12411
Yes, you should apologize first...It's a sign of forgiveness and maturity to deal with relationship issues, even if it's not your fault..
488707
You are truly in a classic catch-22 situation with no real positive outcome unless you change your perception of your relationship.  The reason that I view this as a catch-22 is that you have competing feelings about the relationship and are not even truly aware of it.\n\nWhen you hold a grudge, or in other words, withhold your forgiveness for past actions, you keep yourself closed off from the full potential of the relationship you are in.  At the same time that you are limiting the potential of creating a stronger bond with your boyfriend you are wishing and hoping that you will mysteriously be able to let go of the grudge you have been holding against him for his past actions.\n\nNot letting go, not forgiving, holding grudges...these are all natural emotional reactions fueled by your ego in an attempt to prevent the same pain you felt last year from being felt again, especially at the hands of the same person.\n\nIf you are unable to take the risk of trusting, then you are going to be similarly unable to release the negative blanket that the grudge is over your relationship. If you cannot release the negative value judgment you hold against your boyfriend then your time wondering how you are going to be able to move on will simply be time wasted.\n\nIn short, you hold this grudge to protect yourself, which is fine and normal in most situations.  If you continue to hang onto the grudge, in the very least be honest with yourself regarding the related consequence of you also holding back your relationship.\n\nI know the whole thing doesn't sound fair, but he cannot change the actions of his past so the responsibility is upon you to change your actions in the present, anything short of that and you are going to be wondering how to get over your grudge for a long time.\n\nGood luck.