How do Newlyweds manage their money?
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Seperatey at first the worst thing to do is to combine baggage and then try to sort it out. As you go along in time things will inter mingle naturally, Never fight over Money.  It is not worth it.
750195
You obviously have more money than sense. So, just let them go on spending until they spend more money than your wife.
18328
After you're married.
787752
Well \n\n1.You and your new mate can do the $Money dance $ and have guest pin money on your clothes \n\n2. Get a  bunch of toielt paper and have 4 modles and have 2 helpers for each of the 4 modles and have them create wedding dresses out of the toilet paper. Then have them modle the "wedding dresses". the group picks the best dress and the group wins a gift  Basket.\n\n3. Have a local dance group or company perform
715787
Everyone thinks the answer is to earn more.  This isn't the case.\n\nThe key to having money is not spending it.  The reason people with three jobs seem to make more money is they don't have the time to spend it.  Control your spending.  Take a look at where you are wasefully spending your money, like unnecessary extra cable channels, dining out vs. groceries, and going crazy buying people christmas gifts.\n\nIn order for you to be successful, both you AND your husband should be committed to whatever plan you set into place.\n\nStart by putting at least some money into savings each paycheck.  You can use direct deposit at work, or pick a bank like http://ingdirect.com and they will take the money out at scheduled intervals.  Pay off your credit cards by making more than the minimum payments.\n\nHere's the most difficult part.  BE CONTENT.  This goes against everything we see/hear.  People who have money don't spend it.  They are happy with what they have.  Try to be that person.  Good luck!
80224
There are some general legal principles:\n\n1.  Spouses are generally presumed to co-own anything gained during the marriage and be responsible for any debts incurred during the marriage.\n\n2.  But there are a whole lot of exceptions.\n\n3.  And there is no way to know how these rules would be applied in each case.  It's all exceptionally fact-specific.\n\n4.  The only way to get a handle on the issues is to consult with a lawyer.\n\n5.  But you should never presume that you "don't have the money" to get divorced or that it would be financially ruinous.  For the non-monied spouse, the news is usually a lot better than she might expect.\n\n6.  See a lawyer.
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That can be tough.  I believe when you are married property should be joint but that seems to be a problem in your situation.  I think you need to sit down and ask him how he feels about it.  Whether you're paying rent or paying on bills depends on your accounts. You just don't want to pay a lot for a home you have no ownership over if something does happen someday. See if you can come to an agreement after a few years or have something declared in a prenup that helps cover you. We all plan for forever but unfortunately it doesn't always happen.  Good luck in your marriage!! Have a great wedding!
1104422
usually they have a gift registry where the couple lists things they need.  The best thing to do is to call her up ans ask "are you registered anywhere?" If not just give them some money .
735140
If married no problems but if just living together DO NOT have a joint bank acct,,,,Keep your money in your name and protect your butt,,,everything should be  split, 50/50 including sex,,,,smiles, Good Luck ps Money causes more problems than  any other subject and mode of living,
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yeah it is but you always have the option of splitting assets. or get your money right and offer her a lump sum all at one time. buy the greedy b*#@$ out of your life.even if she raised the kids and worked when you split it's time to hold your own and move on.women lokk at this and learn have a career of your own. being a housewife is not a damn career. washing your husbands feet will not get you paid when he divorces your ass
379254
my wedding, including honeymoon, close to $20,000...i would not have done anything differently, but i also was lucky enough to cash in some stock to pay for it...i would suggest you find out what your budget is, whether it be $500 or $50,000 and stick to it...this is the person you love, getting married doesn't need to be expensive...also, make sure to eat, the day goes by so fast you'll forget and make sure to take it all in, afterwards it'll feel like it didn't even happen
788214
Use the envelope system.  Make a realistic budget for each category and when you get paid put that much money into each envelope.  When the money in the envelope is gone you don't buy anything else in that category.
623629
I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
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I married for money and I can tell you that is not the way to go.  I was a single parent working to pay bills and have time for my child.  I married and became a full time Mom which I love.  But my husband is very controlling over the finances.  I have "things" and I love my children but I have no relationship with my husband.  I am just another one of his "children".  If I could do it all over I would marry for love, friendship, companionship, and someone I enjoyed being around.  Money is great to have, I love that I am not in debt and have the finaces to buy what I want but I am lonely and find life is not much fun.  I stay for the children but when they are grown I am out of this marriage!
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Nowadays we aren't as steeped in tradition so it just depends upon the agreement your families come to. From my wedding I remember reading that traditionally they pay for the rehearsal dinner, the wedding rings, and the honeymoon. (In my wedding they didn't pay for any of that though :P)\n\n\nTraditional Breakdown of Expenses\n\n\nWedding Ring for Bride The Groom \n    \nWedding Gift for Bride The Groom \n\nGroomsmen/Usher Gifts The Groom  \n    \nBride's Bouquet The Groom \n\nMother's Corsages The Groom \n\nGroom's Boutonniere The Groom \n\nGroomsmen Boutonnieres The Groom \n\nUsher's Boutonnieres The Groom \n\nMarriage License The Groom \n\nMedical Visit for Groom The Groom \n\nClergyman/Officiant Fee The Groom \n\nGroom's Cake The Groom's Family \n    \nRehearsal Dinner The Grooms Family \n\nBachelor Party Best Man/Groom's Attendants \n    \nGloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants The Groom \n\nFather of Groom Formal Wear Groom's Family \n    \nLimousine Service The Groom \n\nHoneymoon Arrangements The Groom
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This can be a very big issue. A lot of marriages end over money issues. You two have GOT to sit down, put aside all specific issues at first, and concentrate on coming to an agreement on how you both are going to handle financial situations, especially large purchases. You have to come to an agreement on how the one will ask the other and define each of your boundaries. Then agree on how you will compromise. Above all, agree that you will first respect one another. Lay down the selfishness. THINGS are never as important as PEOPLE, especially the person you married. This said, it stands to reason that things should never come before each other. After you agree on how to communicate and compromise, then introduce specific issues.
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Before  you get married, you sign this document that states that any wealth u had before marrying, its yours only and cannot be taken from you if you divorce. Any wealth made during the marriage is usually divided, unless there's some specifications on what a person gets after they divorce in the prenup.