how do i tell my family and friends that i'm having an affair with the same sex?
148524
"Hey guy's i'm having an affair with the same sex, just thought i should tell you...."\n\n\n^maybe something like that?^\n\n\n\n\n\nJust tell them, there is no "How"
465131
You may not be gay, but your actions have now opened a can of worms.  If your friend is a true friend, she wouldn't be spreading rumors.  The best thing you can do is to talk to her and try to straighten it out.  If that doesn't work and the rumors persist, there isn't much you can do except to ignore them.  Ever hear the phrase "The lady doth protest to much"?  The more you try to deny something, the more people will believe it's the truth.\n\nGood luck.
184499
Just tell them! It doesn't hurt my feelings at all. Infact it's quite a relief because then I KNOW about it and can fix it.
949697
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
69469
Best thing is to only tell people you trust, like a close friend preferrably a girl, they seem to be more understanding than a typical guy friend. I wouldnt tell your parents just yet I would hold off until it feels right, it seems to me your learning about yourself right now and you found something that interests you, and it may be something that passes and it may not so I wouldnt alarm anyone just yet. Take a deep breath and think about what it is your looking for and go for it. When the newness wears off and your sure you will always be this way, then tell your family because then you will be more confident that this is how you are and they have to accept you. I have seen alot of parents go to the extreme when finding out their child is not as perfect as they hoped, or they have different looks on thier life than their parents expected, just something to think about. Lots of luck bud...
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Well as they know you have slept with guys already it is perhaps not going to come over as too much of a shock.\n\nWith friends, unless they are a little bit "easily led", they are more than likely going to laugh at you and say seomthing like "err, tell us seomthing we didn't know".\n\nAs for family, about the only reaction I would expect would be a little sadness perhaps as the realisation that they are probably NOT going to given grandchildren from you after all.\n\nAs for the Catholic side of things, I am not sure where it would make that much difference "being bi and sleeping with a guy" or "being gay and sleeping with a guy".\n\nMight just be me, but as you say family and friends already know you only sleep with guys, I think they might well be one step ahead of you here :)\n\nWarm Regards\nMark
702600
Since you say that mom would probably kick you out of the house, do you really need to tell her? Coming out does not have to be something that is done in a single week. You told your boyfriend, and that is what is important. You should tell people about your sexuality that you are sexually involved with. For your family, it is only when you are comfortable telling them and aren't in a position of being dependent on them. If you think your friends won't accept it, are they really your friends? If they don't accept you, find better friends who are more supportive.
905197
There are things you cant tell your sister no matter how close you are! Sometimes it is easier to tell friends. I have many gay guy best friends.
612700
You cannot force your sexuality onto someone else...they will resent it even though under other circumstances they might be amenable.  You have to discuss it with her, apologize for what you did, and, if she forgives you, than ask if she might be interested.
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
867565
I know how you feel and its not as bad as you might think it is.\nActually the others dont really care much and the only one who would care is the girl that would be your first hit - and I wouldnt even tell her. Because its no one elses business actually.\n\nIf you are worried about people thinking you are gay- well just occasionally mention some "hot" chick you seen crossing the street, or how you got drunk and lost your wallet in a strip joint.\n\nJust dont take it too serious - it really doesnt matter :)
233571
I agree with the other answer....Do some soul searching...it does not matter what other people think or your family.....This is coming from a straight guy in his mid 30's.....Live life your way.....it is yours....we are only here for a little while!!!!!
6653
hey there I totally understand where you stand because I was there myself at one point and time. But first you have to evaluate everyone in your family to figure out how much they care for you as their child/sibling. your best shot would be to tell the family member(s) that you are closest to and most comfortable around in order to see how they accept it. you would be better off starting out slowly; however this approach may not exactly work for everyone. so all I can really say is start slowly, telling a few people at a time, and then find an approach that works for you. maybe have a friend (NOT a f*ck-friend) that knows (and is cool with it) present when you disclose. worst comes to worst, have someone else tell them when you are not present. I had a great deal of difficulty coming out to them myself, but all I can really suggest that you find a way that works...for you. I do not know your family, but if they really love you, they will accept you for who you really are.
117443
Tell her that you're gay, but to not tell anyone because you don't want to come out yet.
924082
Saying that openly on here is a start.  Find a counselor (many are free) in a gender you'd feel safest with, and try starting with small steps.  Tell them you don't feel comfortable opening up.  They know how to help you.
890160
I knew from about the age of six.\nThere was a boy in my class at school that I always wanted to sit next to, but it never happened, and it was years later that I realised I had a 'crush' on him.\nI came out to my family when I was 18, but it didn't come as a surprise to them. I'd never shown any interest in girls (sexually), and they respected me for my honesty.\nI know it is not always easy to 'come out', and I would say that you should leave it for a few years in case it is just a 'phase' you are going through.\nMany men get sexual urges, and when you are going through puberty, your hormones are all over the place and experimentation (hand-jobs) is rife.\nIf you are certain you are gay, then tell a few close friends and if they show resistance, it is they who have a problem, not you.\nI hope you will not bow down to intollerance and ignorance, and find the courage to say who you are.\nI had one bad experience when I came out, and the man who didn't want to know me anymore now lives with his boyfriend in London!\nAll I can say to you is, you know the people around you, and you know yourself.\nIf you think they will be supportive, then be honest.\nFrankly, I'd be honest anyway and let them love you the way you are.
582670
Wait until the time FEELs right. I think you are still exploring. Nothing wrong with finding out who you are before announcing it to the world. or your parents. you will feel more natural in it as you delve into it and your emotions. maybe try living on your own first and making your own life, then telling her will seem more safe?