dating someone who has a kid?
138695
It has its draw backs. In this scenerio i assume a single mother with a kid. Dating her also means dating the kid.You have to show concern for her kid.Her love is shared between you and the kid. To love means you have to have time to love.When her kid is arround her  when you are present no adequate attention for you.I am talking from experience. It is worse if the single mother is a divorcee and have had an abusive relationship before.It all bounce back in the relationship.There so many single girls out there who will have time for you. Time is of essence in a good relationship. If the kid would not be a barrier fine, but i have my doubts
842000
Unfortunately this is the way it is when you date a man with children and he has custody. What else can he do, he must take care of the children. This would be a very difficult thing to deal with however, you are really going to have to take a serious look at the whole picture and be honest with yourself. Is this something you are willing to deal with. It will and must be a great deal of acceptance and understanding on your part. Good luck and God bless
512007
That question depends on your future w/ your current baby's daddy.  If the relationship looks like you guys will be married then you don't want to jeopardize that because of your child.  If you can keep your friend and remain faithful no matter how hard times are, then I see no problem w/ you guys being friends as long as the benefits are only talking
445998
Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
158673
No. There is always something they are going to be conected by, their child whether you like it or not. They will have a lot of issues as parents that they need to talk about. If you love his child at all, you will be greatful for that because the child has both his parents in his life and they get along which is even better.
218446
Take it slow.  On the first few dates, mention that you have a child (but not a biracial child).  During those early dates, try to explore how the person feels about children first.  Then discover how that person feels about people of other races.  Of course, before you mention you have a biracial child, don't show the man you are dating any pictures, nor would you want to introduce your child, yet.\n\nOnce you know how the man feels about children and other races - if the results are positive - then, tell him about your biracial child.\n\nOnly after you have been dating for a while should you introduce your child.  Don't rush into introducing your child.  If you introduce too early and then you break up, your child may not understand or may have already started forming a bond with this person.\n\nTake some time.  Learn about the person you are dating.  Then introduce your child.
869250
i believe i can answer this...from both sides of the fence...being a single w/o children, meeting someone who does have kids, unless your really looking for Friends With Benefits and not thinking about getting serious, some would think the kids would get in the way. Now if you are the opposite, looking to get serious and not FWB, the kids are a good way to show the woman that you have a caring and nurturing side to you. \n\nNOW...the otherside of the fence...being a single with children, since i do have a 6yr old but he doesnt live with me....\n\ni find it hard to find someone who is willing to date me because they dont want to get in the middle of "baby momma drama"...the same as a guy doesnt want to get in the middle of "baby daddy drama"....but if there is no drama...then i say hook up...hang out...and see where it goes...
487440
shes the mother of his kid so dont expect him to get her out of his life..give some respect to her besides youre the one that hes with right know and thats all that matter...if hes still seeing him be4cause of his kid and he tells you about it that would be fine..at least hes telling you whats hes doing outside your relationship and that is seeing her because of the kid..dont be jelous of her and dont think that he doesnt love you bcoz of that...its just that he has responsibilities even before you came to his life and you should support him and always be beside him..with that youll found out later on that your bf will love you even more..try it..it works!!
39640
Dating a guy and seeking out a father-figure for your kid are 2 different things.  Don't deny yourself of dating someone if you want to.\n\nWhen I was single, I didn't date women with kids, because I figured they were looking for a Dad figure for their kids. \n\nNow that I'm a widower father of a kid, I'll date a gal who's single, but I'm not seeking a Mother figure for my kid.\n\nBut, don't forget to put aside some playtime for yourself.  You were who you are before you had kids.
474459
I'm 18 and have a 12month old son and single to. Even though he's with his mom most of the week. i know what your are talking about. i think you just haven't meet the right guy yet.
537962
Not really.. at least for a while.. But make sure you pay attention to the  child. Ask questions and be interested.. Not just trying to win her over, but the child has alot vested in this relationship as well... After a period of a month or so.. a cheap toy would be nice. or something the two of you could work on together...
1055799
Children usually have problems with who their parents date.  They almost always hold hope for reconciliation between their parents.  Any "soul mate" will understand and accept this fact.  If she is the real deal, she will be considerate of the child's feelings and eventually win grudging acceptance if not more.\n\nA child is a lifelong committment and there is no choice about it until the child is an adult.
508223
They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
1084700
I would always TALK to anybody, regardless of what, as long as I can communicate in the same language.\nI would not date some one with two kids, not even with one kids, because I personally am very bad with kids.\nBut this is just me. There are lots of men who love kids and don't mind at all!
991803
In all my years of experience with dramatic relationships the best advice i can give is just to be honest and to communicate. It is hard because you have a child, but you should talk to her, tell her how you feel, test the waters and try to find out how she feels and just talk about it. The worse thing that can happen is that you two don't end up together, you aren't together now, you have nothign to loose. Maybe you will discover that both of you want to try something out, and then you could have a chance at a great relationship. Maybe she is just try to stay back becasue she is worried about how you feel. Either way, you'll never know unless you two talk about it. Call her up and see if you can go out again....then just be honest with her and i bet you she will be honest too.
203485
I'd assume he's ready to be a dad, ready for that kind of commitment.  I'm guessing she isn't ready for that yet, maybe won't ever be.  I'd guess it was time for this sweet guy to move on, find a relationship with someone new, maybe someone who also wants to be a parent. Men are lucky in that their biological clock isn't as insistent as a woman's.  He might want kids now, but he'll be able to wait until he finds the right person to have them with.
1067483
If someone tells you they are falling for you it's a good thing - it means they are falling in love with you.  You didn't mention how old the child is - if the child is old enough to know that you are the girlfriend then he might just be waiting to introduce you to make sure it will work.  He may not want his child getting attatched to a girlfriend if he isn't sure you are going to be around for a while.\nYour best bet is to talk to him and tell him how you feel.  Ask him why you haven't met his child and tell him that you want to meet his child and get to know him/her.