why can't I keep an erection for a long time?
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You don't have me to stimulate you.
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Just to correct a couple of of bits of misinformation...\n\nED can be physical, psychological or a mix of the two.\nAn erection is best described as a "psychohydraulic experience.."\nIn the case that you describe, if everything functions normally during masturbation, then the issue might be psychological, possibly performance anxiety or some kind of issue with the lady of the moment..\nPerhaps the timing's wrong, or you're trying to rush things...\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that, during masturbation, it's all about you - your attention is focused solely on your own sensations and enjoyment.  Sex with a partner is a lot more complicated, and it's not just mutual masturbation.\n\nThe best thing to do is to talk frankly with your partner.. presumably she is aware there is a problem... and it's certainly in her interest to get it sorted out, as well as yours.\n\nIt might be that you're not getting the right amount/kind of attention from her that you give yourself...  not enough foreplay...  too fast, too slow, too hard, too soft...  there's a million variables.  \nTry letting her watch you masturbate, so she can see what works, then let her take over... \n\nMost importantly, relax, take your time, and don't let stress get to you... worrying about it is the worst thing you can do.  Relax and enjoy.\n\nHope that helps, and good luck
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Hello..You need to relax and don't think about your erection..Have your partner rub your back,neck and shoulders.Have her rub slow and light and try to block every thing out of you head.Thing about how nice looking your partner is and how gentle she is.The key words is relax and block everything out and just enjoy your,your time with your partner.Remember to be gentle and not in a hurry,start out slow.If you do this,you should have no more problems...\n Clowmy
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You might have the wrong conception on what viagra does for people. When men can't get an erection when aroused this is called impotentancy and is a problem for a good few men in the world. When a man becomes aroused there are chemical reactions that cause NO (Nitric Oxide) to be released near the penis which will cause the penis to become erect. This is a gross oversimplification, but should work. Viagra causes an increase in the amount of Nitric Oxide available to the body when an erection is needed. Women don't need Nitric Oxide since they don't get erections.\n\nViagra doesn't affect sexual attitude or create excitement for men or women. It simply allows more nitric oxide to be available when men need it. Check the website listed below to explain in more technical terms how Viagra works.\n\nI hope this helps!
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There is a power drain when you get an erection.  This power drain takes a little time to build back up.  It is during these times when you see guys cutting fingers off with power tools, answering those stupid questions like "do i look fat in this", and talking incoherently when a women with nice totties and back side walks by!
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your penis stands because your mind released nitrous oxide and it gorges your penis with blood like a balloon.  If you're not in the mood it's hard to get a hard on.  Also if you have sex all the time it's hard as well.  And the muscle that helps your erection is located between your sack and anus.  Press on it and you'll see your penis get a little bigger.  Try flexing it, and keep it in good shape.
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A great movie to watch that will be very helpful!\nhttp://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8271947477140788534&q=men%27s+health&hl=en\n\n\nOriginal Article:http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/DS00162 \n \nErectile dysfunction\nIntroduction\nErectile dysfunction (ED) affects the lives of many middle-aged men and their partners to one degree or another. The term erectile dysfunction covers a range of disorders, but usually refers to the inability to obtain an adequate erection for satisfactory sexual activity.\nAlthough erectile dysfunction, formerly called impotence, is more common in men older than 65, it can occur at any age. An occasional episode of erectile dysfunction happens to most men and is normal. As men age, it's also normal to experience changes in erectile function. Erections may take longer to develop, may not be as rigid or may require more direct stimulation to be achieved. Men may also notice that orgasms are less intense, the volume of ejaculate is reduced and recovery time increases between erections.\nWhen erectile dysfunction proves to be a pattern or a persistent problem, it can interfere with a man's self-image as well as his and his partner's sexual life. Erectile dysfunction may also be a sign of a physical or emotional problem that requires treatment.\nErectile dysfunction was once a taboo subject, but more men are seeking help. Doctors are gaining a better understanding of what causes erectile dysfunction and are finding new and better treatments.\nSigns and symptoms\nPatterns of erectile dysfunction include:\n·Occasional inability to obtain a full erection\n·Inability to maintain an erection throughout intercourse\n·Complete inability to achieve an erection\nCauses\n \nCLICK TO ENLARGE\n Male reproductive system \n \nThe penis contains two cylindrical, sponge-like structures that run along its length, parallel to the tube that carries semen and urine (urethra). When a man becomes sexually aroused, nerve impulses cause the blood flow to the cylinders to increase about seven times the normal amount. This sudden influx of blood expands the sponge-like structures and produces an erection by straightening and stiffening the penis. Continued sexual arousal or excitation maintains the higher rate of blood flow, keeping the erection firm. After ejaculation, or when the sexual excitation passes, the excess blood drains out of the spongy tissue, and the penis returns to its nonerect size and shape.\nSpecific steps take place to produce and sustain an erection:\n·Arousal. The first step is sexual arousal, which men obtain from the senses of sight, touch, hearing and smell, and from thoughts.\n·Nervous system response. The brain communicates the sexual excitation to the body's nervous system, which activates increased blood flow to the penis.\n·Blood vessel response. A relaxing action occurs in the blood vessels that supply the penis, allowing more blood to flow into the shafts that produce the erection.\nIf something affects any of these factors or the delicate balance among them, erectile dysfunction can result.\nNonphysical causes\nNonphysical causes may account for impotence. They may include:\n·Psychological problems. The most common nonphysical causes are stress, anxiety and fatigue. Impotence is also an occasional side effect of psychological problems such as depression.\n·Negative feelings. Feelings that you express toward your sexual partner — or that are expressed by your sexual partner — such as resentment, hostility or lack of interest also can be a factor in erectile dysfunction.\nPhysical causes\nPhysical causes account for many cases of erectile dysfunction and may include:\n·Nerve damage from longstanding diabetes (diabetic neuropathy)\n·Cardiovascular disorders affecting the blood supply to the pelvis\n·Certain prescription medications\n·Operations for cancer of the prostate\n·Fractures that injure the spinal cord\n·Multiple sclerosis\n·Hormon
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its either ur fat (no offense).. or der's something wrong; blood pressure in ur penis is low...\nnever do any operations to enlarge ur willy.. \nyou may use a pump
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It may be psychological.May be circulation of blood in to penis slow or due to impotence.See Psychologist first.If it is of no use get a Drs precription for Viagra
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This is a serious problem, as diabetes affects circulation "down there" the same way it does in the toes, etc. And high blood pressure medication can cause erectile problems.\n\nAsk your doctor if you can use Viagra. That usually helps a lot. But many men who have both conditions also must skip their morning blood pressure pill to be ready for sex in the evening. Ask your doctor if it's okay to do that once a week, with or without Viagra. Yes, there is no spontanaity that way - but it beats no sex at all!
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Erections are a result of blood engorging the penis therefore an interruption or lessening of blood flow results in a partial or complete loss of erection.  If what you really want to know if why blood flow would lessen, that's tough to say.  A vascular problem, distraction, loss of libido, erectile dysfunction, lack of arousal.  Pick one.
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a lot matters on your partner, your own mental state at that time. There are times when even two and three times a night is not enough to satisfy me, and I am 47. At other times, if my or my partners mood is just not there, then keeping erect even for a few minutes is a big thing. It's all in the mind. Don't think about wanting to keep erect for a n hour when you are doing it, just consider the task at hand-pleasuring your partner and getting pleasure from your partner. You are young and over a period of time will definitely develop the art of keeping your self on the edge but not letting go while your partner's has orgasms.\n\nBe happy as you are!
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If you get a boner and put a towel over the hard and flex until the towel lifts. If you do this in like some free time for maybe 100 times then it will delay your nutt. If you get strong enough try using a wet towel.
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It’s a normal thing that generally occurs to anybody when sleeping and precisely during the “dream” phase of the sleep called REM (just at the end of the sleep-time).\nGenerally they are hot dreams that we don’t remember when awake. Of course younger the subject is and longer and stiffer the erections are. Ok?\n(My God how many silliness I read as answers here!)
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Most men can go through moments of temporary impotence. This sounds like a purely psychological problem rather than a physical one. This might sound cheesy (no pun intended) you could try watching an erotic movie together, only if your girlfriend is willing though. Don't try to make love like you have it fitted into your daily agenda, be spontanious to keep the exitement alive. If you plan to have sex you will start to worry all day long i.e "what if i can't get an erection again, she will think i don't love her anymore, she will start looking for someone else, i can't satisfy her anymore" etc....It is probably only a temporary thing. If you are going through a stressfull time that can have an effect, if you are suffering from depression that can have an effect. Reassyre your girlfriend that you love her, don't keep your fears to yourself, talk your problem through. You should be ok though.
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Maybe he has difficulty in sustaining an erection (i.e.\nerectile dysfunction). He may also have a medical condition\n(?heart or lung disease). Or he may be just too tired from work (does he do physical work?).Or maybe he has depression.\nHave him see a doctor.
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I would suggest a website such as Wikipedia for more information, as there are many causes and "cures" for it.\n\nIn brief, impotence is either physical or psychological. The way a penis becomes erect is a rush of blood to the organ, which then causes the penis to become rigid to aid during intercourse. Impotence is the condition when this blood does not stay in the penis for long enough, or the inability for any blood to get to the penis in the first place.\n\nPhysical\nIf the impotence is caused by a physical problem, then the cause can be disease or infection, a blockage of the veins, or some other restriction. The cure would be to provide medication or surgery to help the symptoms reverse.\n\nPsychological\nSometimes the problem is caused through the brain. Maybe the man does not feel up to it, is tired, or feels insecure. These and other similar reasons can impact on his ability to "perform". The way to cure this is to help the man through his emotional problems and allow him to feel safe and secure again.