how do i find a comitted gay relationship with a really great guy?
139217
usually it goes like this when you are looking you never seem to find the one but when you are not looking they are usually right there.but if you want to go look there are plenty of bars and clubs for gaysyou can find someone there i found my gf in the wierdest place my work place and now we are the happiest couple ever just have patience and youll find him
932113
Well, first you need to make sure you're not advancing on someone who is against gays.  If you get the vibe that he'll crack you in the head for standing too close ... I would move along.\n\nBut, if you've known this person for a while and feel that you both have a connection, then I would ask him to hang-out sometime.  Maybe grab some pizza or hang out at the mall.   Go back to your place and "study" or whatever.  Find out who he is and if he is interested in you as a friend or something more.
670184
Not on the internet... just wait and your time will come :) If you start looking for Intelligent, hot, responsible, with no baggage you will get the opposite as you will get tired of looking and begin to compromise and just end up with some deadbeat. The best relationships are ones that start when you never would dream of it. You bump into them when you are shopping or having lunch... not at a club or somewhere where everyone has the intention...\nTry it I bet it works :)
1059237
lol.. nice answers..\nSearch someone around you. or, dont search, he'll find you..\nbut never go to that guy who says "yes, i'm that cute guy.."\nlolz.. enjoy life as it is.
1066017
Well my brother have the same problem... depends on how old are you.. if your young might be that you are just not ready for a relationship i think that is wht wrong and with gay relationship is harder because of the stress of trusting that other person is he out there doing everything wrong?? does he take care of his self??? is like with a straight relationship but a little more intense.\nyou try to find somebody that like have a lots of your same taste and please do not try to find boyfriends at the bar my brother always do that and what he get is assholes try other places is someone out there for you.. and you will find him just be patience,good luck....
732662
I cant really socialise with other gay men....And I am gay...I dont know why, but I feel so much safer and better among straight guys. Maybe it is because of my interests, but I havent found a single gay guy I can communicate with besides my very special boyfriend.\n I dont know, maybe I am prejudice, but gay guys in general have really mainstream interests....like mainstream music (pop), mainstream clothing (trendy) etc. etc. I really want to meet a person who is into cars, airplanes, videogames, comics etc. etc....I really have found the friends I made so boring....Are their life was about Madona, Aguilera, parties, going out and drinking...Nothing to actually spend time on or devote themselves..I really hope I can make more gay friends in the future..
798147
Dude! I have exactly the same problem. Living in a very conservative area I do it alot. Here are some tips on how to get around it based on what I do.\n-Surround yourself with girlfriends and talk to them about it. They always come together and help you forget about the guy.\n-Make a real effort to become friends with him. It may sound counter preductive but if you start to see him as a friend instead of a sex object then that is better and potentially more rewarding. I did this and that's how I found one of the best friends I've ever had.\n-Visit gay bars and have sex. I know that this sounds rather immoral and disgusting but it could work.\n-Find a hobby and immerse yourself in it. That way you can meet new people who are interested in the same things and help you to move on.\n\nThere are many other ways too. You end up picking the one which feels best for you. But there is ALWAYS a solution.\n\nGood luck buddy.
1104718
You probably do love him. He's your friend and you can't help but love a true friend. Have you talked to him about it? You can always talk to a friend. Has he dated in the past? Have you thought that maybe he is into guys? Gay guys do make the best of friends for girls, they do hide in the closet for a while, and they'd be more likely to send you a gift than a straight guy would. Maybe you two should just stay friends for now, and get to know him a lot better. The more you know about him personally, the easier it will be to tell what his feelings are.
492393
Hell Yeaaaaaaaaaa it does I found my only true love 29 years ago! I knew when I first saw him I was going to marry him and raise a big family! We married about 5 months after we meet and we are still married, we raise 6 kids and have 8 grandkids with one on the way and I love him just as when I first layed my eyes on him but I love him more and more everyday , we have are ups and downs but we get thru them together! And if your thinking your not gay they maybe you arent maybe your bi maybe your straight! But when you meet the one you want to spend your life with you will know in your heart stop trying take a break, go with your gut dont be with anyone, man or woman till you know you can't live with out them! They will be the one that will put all of your doubt's behind you, the one that you will think of first thing in the morning and the last one you will think of at night, the one that no matter what you would never cheat on because you would not want to lose him/her! Just don't try so hard true love will come when the right person comes along!
53000
Firstly resolve your own sexuality - either your are gay or you are not - I do not believe there is such a thing as "bigay" only an individual who can not fully accept that he's gay. Having said that - if you care equally about this guy - then talk about your feelings and if over just a weekend together - it will work it self out. Both of you can discuss your feelings and depth of emotions and desires and expectations in a relationship and go from there. Distance should not influence your love.\nI had my first lover from Sydney, Australia and we were absolutely committed and happy together until he suddenly died. Good luck, dude.
641876
Do you enjoy being with him? Do you two have a lot in common? Do you find yourself doing things for him you won't do for any other? Does he return the same affections? Feelings?  Is there talk of you being the one he was looking for? Then these may be clues that you have found the one you're looking for and the most you can do is see where it can lead. Good luck!
103436
If you don't want to try the dating sites, I guess it depends on where you are, but maybe your local gay bar? In L.A. there's all kinds of places to meet people who are interested in same sex relationships.....So try that!
278968
try gay.com it has a really  nice chat program where you can find others with your similar desires
146341
Instead of looking for a good guy, let him find you. Do this through volunteering for a local charity or a political campaign. This way you can find someone with similar interests and philosophies. You can also try the internet where you can chat until you feel comfortable enough for a face to face meeting. You can also only answer or ask what you are comfortable asking or answering. That is how I met my fiancee and I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time.
917867
My best advise is this... make your own choices and build your life. You can't plan for a man to come into your life, and when he does it will probably upset your apple cart a bit... that  is what love does. To meet a nice, good, and strong, man you should try looking in quieter places and not night spots. Bookstores, libraries, coffee houses... those are good places to just relax and attract a few fellas. Good luck!
373131
i am a guy. if you find the right guy we are looking for some one who is kind caring loving and trustworthy.to get a boy friend find some one you like more than a friend. ask them to go hang out at a public place get to know them. if all go's well try a few more dates. if you prove you are loyal and if he is loyal your all set. you now have a good healthy relationship and a boyfriend. don't try to change just be your self some one will love you for who you are. trust me i have had a great relationship for 4 years.
749129
I would check the Internet for community groups or organizations within a reasonable distance near your town. \n\nThere are many great accepting gay organizations nation wide that would welcome you with open arms. \n\nWho knows? Maybe you will find Mr. Right there. \n\nGood Luck - Jude