my friend told someone something personal about me that i didn't wan't them to know how can i tell her to stop
150203
I wouldn't ever tell her anything else again.  I've learned over the years that if you don't want people to know certain things, don't tell them.  It's really hard for some people to keep quiet about something "juicy".  Why was she talking behind your back about you anyway?
574733
you know you should, but I won't tell you, friends usually change the story a little, you don't have to SAY it, just give him a sign, but you are just avoiding the real answer and you know it!
266682
if you have known these people fora long time and this just started happening and you dont just wat to stop being friends, you definately need to bring what they are doing to there attention. let them know how you feel, but be calm about it. dont yell at them or be overly dramatic or just act angry and stuck-up because they might not even realize that they were doing it. i have been in the same situation, and i did talk to my friend about it and she said she was sorry and didnt even realize it and then everything was cool between us. \nalso, try to include YOURSELF in the conversation. if you "but-in" to the conversation, you are showing that you want to be part of there conversation and that you are there and you have something to contribute. if you just dont talk at all, it might be your own fault that they are ingoring you.\ni hope all this helps!
44423
If you really want to keep it secret, don't tell. Don't be afraid of them teasing you unless their intentions are mean. You must be able to laugh at yourself.
720132
definatly tell her, you'll regret it if you dont, trust me i know from experiance. your friends will eventualy get over it even if they do harrass you for a while.
684796
you made the right decision in telling some one. if you let it go no one would know except you and would feel guilty plus you would lose a friend. she may be made at you for it but overall it was for the best
54819
you dont want to tell them about your life (personal) just talk about gerneral things and see if you have anything in common if so it will be fine from there. Oh yeah the more you think about NOT saying something stupid YOU WILL! so dont think too hard.
424688
Well this is going to sound really cliche, but if they are hurting your feelings then they probably aren't true friends.  But I bet you they don't have many other friends either, and they don't want to lose you as a friend.  \n\nIt's hard to know exactly what to say without knowing specifically what the problem is, but you might try saying "could you please stop" then explain why what they are doing is making you upset.  Here comes another cliche: if they don't stop hurting your feelings then you need to find new friends.
517006
Simply don't ask for her advice or help anymore. If she tries to pry into your personal life of wanting to dish out advice, tell her you have confided in someone who listens, from an objective point of view.
678751
Tell her the truth. Let her know that the other individual is your friend and that you don't want to talk negatively about anyone. If she can't respect that, she doesn't respect your friendship.
860551
Ok..you need to talk to them. Ask them why they have such a problem w/ you. Tell them that youre not talking to the devil & thats crazy anyways. Tell them that you have asthama & would never encourage your friend to do something that would hurt them in the long run. Tell them that youre actually trying to make her stop. Theres nothing you can do if they dont listen then. Even have your friend be there to help discuss so she can back you up on it. Good luck hun.
42591
Hmm...tough question.  I would talk to your friend about it.  Tell her not to put you in the position to lie for her.  It's her decision and it's a bad one.  Tell her if she won't stop for you, she should stop for her own health.  If she still doesn't stop after that, you should probably tell someone, even if she gets mad at you.  It's for her your own good.  I know it's hard, but it will help her more that hurt her.
1186981
make another id and do not tell her. use this id for your personal stuff. and if she is not your very close friend change your previous password and tell her that one of your friend saw it so you had to change it. if she demands for new password then say that this time i m not giving it to any one, just because you don't trust if it will be secured with her. i mean she might leak accidently to others.
970645
if she wants you to know,she will tell you.you know we all have skeltons in out closets.maybe she likes to forget about the bad times.well if she brings it up and ask you what you think,then you should tell her,but be nice about it.just dont go digging into her past and telling everyone you meet,thats between you and her,and not anyones elses business.
882119
Just ignore him and don't react to any of his comments as long as he knows he's getting to you he will continue the minute he knows that you absolutely don't care what he says it will burn him up and he'll stop..Tell the person who relates these messages to you to stop ..and you don't want to hear anything that comes from this person.And honestly what kind of friend is this that tells you hurtfull things..really now..
280868
You can only tell her that you think it's wrong and just stay away. The things that you say she's going to do are dangerous not just for herself but for you as well. Let her make her own mistakes and be there for her when she realizes it's a mistake. Just remember you can't change people and if she pushes you to join her in a shoplift or drug related activity you can get into just as much trouble as she could and that she's not being a true friend. You're a good person to worry about your friend the way you do unfortunatley she's going to have to figure this out for herself. You've already told her how you feel and that's all you can do.
196790
When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D