Is there anything wrong in sleeping with a guy on your first date?
147651
Depends...   Dont expect a longterm relationship if thats the case... But if its just a booty call, thats a whole different ballgame..
159845
How bad is bad, really?  It won't kill you to spend an hour with a person who's just not your cup of tea.  If the person is abusive, obnoxious, or otherwise impossible to be with, there's nothing wrong with just saying, "Hey, I'm not getting any chemistry between the two of us, and I am pretty sure you're feeling the same way.  Let's just head this off at the pass, shall we?"  There's no need to lie or be underhanded about it.\n\nIf you care enough about a person's feelings to want to find a "nice" way out of a date, then you should care about them enough to stick it out until the end of the date.\n\nIn the future, make all first dates coffee dates - 30 minutes tops.
1177667
I have found that sex on the first date means you will most likely NOT have a second date with that person. Sometimes it happens that a relationship continues after sex on that first date, but that is a very rare occurrence indeed. It's better to wait.
805400
i have slept with people on first night and waited, i think society has changed and its not so frowned upon anymore if you do on the first night, where years ago you were a slag if you did, i just think if your ready and the attractions there go for it, if not then wait
840510
I realize that you dont want to hurt this guy and I do know where you are coming from (I recently lost my guy to a friend of ours). Now I know that you say that you dont want to date him, but why? You are single and I dont think the question here should be will sleeping with him hurt him I think you need to think about you, if you dont like him enough to date him then why would you want to sleep with him? Why not take the chance and see if that friendship could turn into something else, I mean you are already talking about sleeping with someone who cares about you so you must feel that he is sincere. One thing I have learned from experience is that the best relationships I have been in were when we started out as friends first. No I dont think it will hurt him I think it will hurt you especially since you say that youve been used by every guy that you have slept with. No I dont think that he will be hurt in fact it sounds like he is already enjoying hisself by making out in front of his friends "for some fun" and it "would make us stronger". It sounds like this guy already considers you his girlfriend. You need to look at the situation very closely. Either go out with the guy or just be his friend but whichever you decide stick to \nyour decision.  If you decide to be just friends then no more making out in front of his friends - okay? SLP
725295
There was a guy in my dorm freshman year that was sleeping with me and half of the other girls in the building.  None of us minded, even though most of us weren't the slutty type.  What set him apart from the rest was not only that he was hot, and confident, he was very mature about it.  He never tried to trick anyone into bed with fake feelings, he never lied about or tried to hide that he was seeing all of us, and he didn't tell all his friends.  He also didn't show up for 2 a.m. booty calls uninvited.  He kept us all satisfied and let us come to him, or he took us out on a date when he felt like seeing us.  He never made anyone feel disrespected, and he didn't freak out when we dated other guys.  Basically, he was very confident and straightforward.  The first time we got involved, we'd just been talking, and he looked at me and said, "I'd like to take you upstairs."  Honesty, no fear of rejection . . . and when someone did say no, he still talked to her and treated her as though she hadn't, and more often than not she ended up with him eventually.  We ended up recommending him to girls who hadn't had a turn yet!  (Plus, he was always safe and prepared.)
492892
I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
299670
First off..let's not act like guys are the only ones out for a piece of @$$!! "MC Rob Base" Said is best.."It takes two" Now, to answer your question...it depends on the mood I'm in. If I want a committment..then I'm cool with waiting. If I'm just trying to have a fling..then sometime in the first few weeks is cool. As for a first night kinda girl..well I've NEVER met one. I'm not the kind of guy women fawn over and want to go home with. I'm a committment guy..plain and simple even if that committment is a month.
1019798
i would like the guy to make the first move.  i tend to go traditional in that sense.  i don't like the idea of making the first move b/c i don't want to come off as easy.  i think it's more acceptable for the guy to do it and if he does, i feel more confident and want to please him.
829107
You have to tell him just what you told us.... you really never dated and want to experience it. Tell him that as wonderful as he is, you know that if he is Mr. Right, he will let you go on some dates (tell him not sleeping with) and if it is meant to be, he has nothing to worry about. \n\nHonesty really is best and saying it this way shouldn't hurt if he cares that you are sure.
249851
If you want a long-term relationship, I strongly recommend not going to bed on the first date. This sends a big message to guys that you do this with all guys you date, and many guys don't want to get serious with a girl who has been around the block with everyone. If the date goes well, give him a long kiss goodnight. He'll get the message and come back for more. Then take it from there.
105402
Be nice to people and don't sleep around. Most guys I know don't like being with someone who's slept with half the town.
818205
Yes, it is very disrespectful, intrusive and offensive for a guy to do that. First of all, I must explain that if a guy touch a girl's hand or put hands on a girl's shoulder on the 1st date is already considered very offensive, intrusive and disrespectful, not to even mention touching, feeling or fondling the girl's breasts. He must have taken you as a loose lady and was testing the water if you cld have allow him to do something further. Pls stop seeing this guy at once as he can be a danger or threat to you. What if you see him the next time and he tries something funny on you again and if you resists or retaliates, will he try to rape you? You never know! Unless you're into some kinky fun or open-minded enough, then I guess I can't offer you anymore advices. Think about it carefully and seriously. You don't want to be ended up hurt, don't you? It's your life, choose it and live it! You've the freedom and choice to allow him to do something further or stop everything at once. I just want you to know that I'm concern for your well-being. I just hope you didn't give him the wrong signals like wrong body languages when you're out with him. This can be likely 1 of the reasons he mistook you as an easy target to have fun with. Take care!
828660
I think that too.  I mean, it just seems that people will sleep with someone on the first date and it's no big deal.  Then they wonder why they get hurt in the relationship.  Men and women seem to be sleeping around serially.  I don't understand.  I think that women have a natural tendency to bond with men they sleep with, so why would they do it knowing that the guy is going to play them and move on?  Is there no self-respect?
690074
You might want to really think about this when the situation isn't right in front of you, kind of like you're doing now.\n\nThere is a lot of room for variation in "I don't feel like having sex".  Are you feeling like you don't really feel like it much, or are you feeling like you REALLY don't want to have sex, that it would be a miserable experience for you?  \n\nIf it's a matter of not being in full mood, maybe he could be the more active partner and you can be more passive.  I don't think that anyone should have sex against their will, but sometimes I used to say no and it wouldn't have really been a big deal to say "yes" either.  Guys don't always need to have extended sexual contact and this kind of time would be a chance for him to sort of have an express lane sort of experience and then go to sleep.\nIt's possible you could become more interested in more extended lovemaking, or maybe you won't.  Who knows?\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to have sex, perhaps you could make a date with him to have sex the next day or in the morning or later that night or...\nwell, you get the idea.\n\nYou could even tell him why you don't feel like having sex--too tired, too worried, whatever.  My experience is that my guy doesn't really want to hear about it and he backs off.\n\nIt's too bad people's moods don't line up better sometimes!
146036
Depends on the guy and the situation.  I have some friends who think a girl that puts out on the first date is not worth going out with agian, and I have friends who have had sex on the first date that are or were involved for a long time with that one person.  There is no right answer here, like I said it depends on the guy and the situation..Hope this is of some help...
922581
Ya know it really depends on the type of "relationship" you guys have, some cases yes and some no, it depends on how you express yourself, if you guys have had sex then no i wouldn't think it was about that because duh, you've already done it, but if u havejn't had sex and u've kinda brought it up a few times then it's possible she might think that, just lay it down like it is, tell her u just want to spend time with her and get to know her better on a more personal level, and tell her no it's not that u want to get in her pants and that u guys could even sleep in separate beds (if it's that big of a deal) but either way, i'd go, good luck with tht and just remember, it's all in the way you give hte proposition!