how can we differenciate between love and obsession?
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Love equals freedom. If you love someone, you have to be able to let the person free - to do what s/he whant etc.... \nObsession is exactly the opposite of freedom.
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I don't think so.  Both are very intense emotions.  Love is very positve wishing only good to the one who is loved.  Hate is very negative wishing only bad to the one who is hated.  Hate is very destructive to the hater.  Love is very good for the lover.
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Attraction deals with desire and sex only where as love is more profound as you'll think of this person not only in your bed but in your life too. The one you love is the one you think of spending your life with oppositely to an infatuation.
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I've had a problem with the same question. I've come to find out that if you really love someone and you seperate or your away for a while and you can't stop thinking of them and it begins to hurt, your in love. But, if the same thing happens and the only thing you really miss is being shacked up with them then it's lust. Love is very complicated and very painful. No words can ever express real love it's something that you feel deep down. Love can be different things to different people it really depends on you. Sit down alone and think about it.
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My love literally and my obsession figuratively.
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Obsession Because He won't stop thinking about that special person. He knows that he is in love ,but doesn't know what to do.
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You choose to continue loving them.  The feelings of love (normally lust) will diminish and you are left with this person who is not what you thought they were now that you can see them without your blinders.  At this point, you choose to continue loving the person by over looking the annoying habits and doing things you know pleases them.  Find their (and your) love language.  It makes a huge difference!  Check out the love language book at your local library.
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if you are obsessed you are not in love.  Love is willing to let go and trust and do your own thing because you know that it will be there when you get back.  obsession is just plain crazy it interupts your life you don't get anything accomplished ever!
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You just know. It's hard to distinguish between love and infatuation. You just have to take it slow and if it is love you will know and you won't have to be asking. You will love the person no matter what, even if the way he eats, or drinks he drink annoys you. If you can get past the little things and feel that you truely like this person it could be love.
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It's called lust.  Probably one of the things that attracts you is that you feel you can't "get him".  Remember you can't always get what you want.  Try to think of the reason why you feel obsessed with him.  He's probably not all that.  It happens to everyone at least once.  Focus your attention on someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.
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Yes, I have that way, and, yes, it is normal and natural.  The problem is when a person feels unlovable for too long or that they are obsessed with the thought that nobody could ever love them that those thoughts and feelings can be a serious problem.
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I would highly suggest the book "Without A Hint" by Joshua Harris.  It talks about lust especially, but any kind of addiction/obsession in our lives.  The book has been renamed to "Sex Is Not The Problem (Lust Is)"  Below is a sight that will tell you some on it.  My friends and I read it, its a great book.
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In this world we can make so many things happen, but one of them we don't have control over is love. We can't make someone want or love us. Usually if we try we make them go farther away then they were. My suggestion to you would be cool toward this person because most times we want what we can't have.........
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You don't control desire, you just rechannel it.  You desires were created for a reason, you are just looking to fufill them by the wrong means.  Every woman wants to be loved and romanced.  But romance is more than sex.  Romance involves the heart, soul and mind.  Get to know a persons interests, likes, dislikes, beliefs, habits, family relations, work ethics, ability to be honest even when it hurts, sensitivity to your feelings  even when they don't understand it.  How do they react when your sick, broke, or angry.  Be realistic.  Love is not a Hollywood matter.  If their body changes and is no longer attractive, could you still love them for who they are on the inside.  After all that, if you  like them, and you can love them in the midst of their flaws....You got the right person.
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When you care about something, your interest is from a mental aspect.  When you love something, your interest is from an emotional aspect.  You can care about a person and not love them, but if you love a person, you care about that person too.
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simple answer from me:\nconcentrating on the love itself diverts your attention from all of the other things, that's why =)
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You can Love them sure, but they will NEVER love you the way you want them to.  The question doesn't really make sense you already Love them so HOW really isn't even in the equation, you just LOVE them or you don't, the question is...do you have enough respect for yourself and LOVE yourself more to move on or keep degrading yourself?  LOVE YOURSELF AND LOSE THE OBSESSION you "think" you LOVE