Re: Brokeback Mountain - how to respond when accused of homophobia?
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This movie is being advertised as an inspiring love story.  It was not inspiring for their wives in the story or their children or the townspeople or even other gays as they are never tender with each other but violent and rough. It degrades an American icon of masculinity The Cowboy and in several states and cities the owners of movie houses refused to show it. It is a demoralizing and confusing movie.  The fact that there are more critics and people in the film industry that are gay is proven by the so called popularity of this movie.
294407
no you are not homophobic. If you dont like gay porn,you just dont like it,I would of said "see ya" too. Different strokes for different folk.
543762
I'm not sure... I was the victim of a gay bashing on Christmas Morning, 2005. And since I live in western Nebraska, I really was not sure what to do. If I had made a stink out of it and got the police involved, I more than likely would have been subjected to it again. Maybe gay bashing is done by those who are too chicken shite to admit they really are gay, so they hate those of us who are out of the closet and fear that we will drag them kicking and screaming into the world of Gayness. lol.
203446
H-I-B Brilliant man! These simple questions for simpletons, may be too much for them to absorb all at once. It's real hard to decide if it was once, or maybe twice. That is what BI-LESBIANS say about not being a Lesbian. I was BI curious, or maybe SEMI-BI-LESBIAN. So how many HOMOSEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS concluded that you are a HOMOSEXUAL? My example of NEO_CONSERVATIVE dialog, HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!! The crying "RIGHT" can't stand up for themselves, and now have to "CRY" to the left for support. BOOO-FUUUUKIN_HOO. My man here is completely right about the semis-ism, so stand up and take your knocks, it's your turn in the barrel. Vote out the TYRANTS in NOVEMBER, free America!
1169991
Well you shouldn't feel uncomfortable, (but most guys are homophobic) Just tell them nicely that you are not interested or that you have a girlfriend. They will get the point, no need to bash on them. Respect others that are different from you.
725362
I thought that it sounded great until I read Coragryph's answer.  He is right, separating them is still discrimination.\n\nHowever, I do not see this country accepting his idea as easily as yours.  So I would say, let's shoot for your idea first.  Let the homophobes get used to it, then institute Coragryph's ideal.
480638
Let's see if I have this correct, a Christian student is suing her school for the right to harass gays?  And, there are people here hiding behind their Bible and defending this?  Just when I think humanity can't possibly surprise me, I come here and read ignorant and hateful comments and find out I haven't heard it all yet.\n\nLet me ask everyone this question.  If my religion said that I should be as intolerant and hateful to Christians as humanly possible, would you be supporting me if I sued my school? I highly doubt it.  \n\nI believe in expressing an opinion, what I don't believe in is being harassing and intolerant as part of voicing that opinion.  If you don't like gay people, fine, nobody is forcing you to.  Oh, those terrible gays, they want to be treated like human beings.  That's just horrible.  So, to make up for it, some people want the right to insult and berate them while using their Bibles as as shield.  Nope, sorry, bigotry is bigotry no matter whether you're hiding behind a book or not.
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It's both! Look up my answer on "why's religion against homosexuality?" I suspect many homophobes are more afraid of something in themselves than outraged by the private act between two guys. The "holy rollers" have a paradigm of values dictated to them. This becomes their identity. Anything different suggests that they may be wrong. \n Why else are there so many religious replys here? If we don't like something, we avoid it. If something is a threat to us, we attack it.
773639
for every ones information that doesn't think that this question doesn't fit this category, well sorry it does because this world is turning into another Sodom and Gomorrah look at all of these homosexual people coming out of the closet ( now i don't have anything against gay people i love everyone in there own way i just don't like their ways hey i have ways about myself i don like) but anyway to answer your question i think that he might have gave them another chance but i personally think that they would have screwed up again look at the people in the world now and how we are screwing up our lives.\n\n\nadded text:\n\ni was not trying to offend people it is justthat everyone is upset he asked this question in this section maybe he didn't  know that he asked this question inthis section but look at it like this it could be a sign to why it ended up in this section so peeps chill out dont get all serious with it
546753
Well if you are ashamed of something oyu do, then you probably shouldn't have doneit in the first place. The least you can do is be honest about it. Punishment and consequences take place for a reason, but that mainly applies to crime. As far as the hypothetical homosexual situation goes, that would make you a selfish coward comparing yourself to the open people who love themselves and are proud, but who take the insults from ignorant rednecks who have yet to die. It is denying who you are. Why would you want to do that?
57636
Homophobic has alway gotten me ... Fear of man? And when you tell a gay what it translates too, they get po'd.
68966
OK, it's time to tackle some of the tough questions!\n\nFirst of all, to qualify my answer , I am not gay, liberal  or aetheist.\n\nSecondly , while your question has provoked much comment, it's not really the right question\n\nThe "United States" is not scared of Homesexuality. The right wing religious zealots that live predominantly in the "red" states ARE scared. Not necessarily of Homosexuality, but of the fact that they may be wrong, wrong about lots of things. Scared that others may be more righteous than them.  A small percentage  may truly believe that in being "Christian", it is their responsibility to help others who in their minds Haved "sinned." To some extent, they can ALMOST be forgiven, since despite their small minded views , at least their intentions are not hateful. Most of course do not even fall into this category. They are "sinners", just like the rest of us. they may or may not call themselves religious, but this does not change their nature. Their hatered of gays is no different than the post civil war hatred against former slaves. It was simply about the need to be able to feel superior.\n\nMind you, if you are truly an excellent Human Being, you do not have this need ! You are happpy with your own life and let others live theirs. You Honor God by following Golden Rule "do unto Others as you want others to do unto you"\n\nEven their "Lord Jesus" knows  this and states it in the bible which they usually manage to misquote so often.\n\nIn Matthew 19:19 he replies to man who has asked about getting into heaven that he must obey the commandments and when asked to specify, Jesus replied, " 'Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, honor your father and mother,' and 'LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF' "\n\nENOUGH SAID, I THINK!\n\nNow as to same sex marriage, that's another story. In my opinion, the PROBLEM is that the government has No Business being involved in marriage AT ALL. Marriage is a religious institution and should be left to the "church"\n\nOf course, there are reasons such as inheritance, insurance, health care proxy etc. etc. that marriage is convenient. for these reasons, there should be some kind of civil registration which can apply EQUALLY to any two people in a committed relationship and cohabitate, and should NEVER EVER be confused with religious marriage performed by a priest, minister , rabbi, imam, guru, or any other religious represenatative. \n\nBTW, Any preferential tax treatment should never be conferred on the basis of this registration, and instead only be available to Parent(s) of Children as properly caring for a child is clearly expensive but has great value to the community as a whole.
774990
Quit being a homophobe. There is nothing wrong with a harmless compliment. Alot of the times it might even make that persons day a little better.
402711
I have a pretty bad knee jerk reaction to those sorts of things and it's hard for me to keep from answering their questions. I think the best thing to do is just not answer them at all. These guys (or gals) really do get a kick out of that kind of stuff and are amused at all the stupid white people (or what ever kind of people) that don't think their bigoted opinion is the truth. It seems to just reinforce their beliefs. know what I'm gonna try and ignore them, but I know I won't always be able to help myself. \nThat said, I know I've probably said some pretty sarcastic or inflammatory remarks in some of my answers but to attack a person for their beliefs is not the same as attacking someone for something that they can't change (like skin color or a physical or mental disability) PEOPLE CAN ALWAYS CHANGE THEIR BELIEFS. Let's just hope more of the bigots and racists of the world change theirs.
36161
What kind of stupid question is this? How do you deal with Black People? How do you deal with Jews? How do you deal with Middle eastern islamics? You should deal with them like you would any other person., and if you feel like someone is coming on to you, just say, you are not interested, but thanks anyway. Jeez.\n\nAnd People, please refrain from posting stupid answers... or if  you must, at lest type with proper grammar, because I don't knwo what is worse if to be gay and have listen to crap like this or to be stupid and have to write it.
731124
You said it your self, your answer is in the reaction.\n\nSimply choose to not react and look at it this way: What someone else thinks about ourselves, others or situations is none of our business.  That way we do not have to include ourselves in their conversation, as it is 'below' us and we are better than that.  \n\nTo respond to these type of characters, is a choice.  This person appears to want to act as the 'energy thief' as they derive pleasure from stealing the power of one other as they themselves have none (plays victim & pity parties).  So they take it from those they consciously know will 'react' negatively to them, this is what they want.  They are feeling 'low' so in order to get a 'high' they will persist with those 'remarks' they know will get the reaction they are looking for.  It is how they gain their self power however, unfortunately when it is taken from a another 'person' and not through our 'higher source' which is our divine connection to our Whole Divine Source....it leaves the person they steal it from feeling empty, gutted and emotionally angry.  This anger can remain deep rooted when it is family due to one being invalidated after being targeted for sake of filling ones own socks with ego.\n\nIf you choose to not react....they get absolutely nothing from you.  Know you are higher than this and engaging with them is futile they do not understand what they are doing, they just do not have faith or belief in themselves...and for that one can only offer empathy.  Just smile and stand in your own truth.  To have to defend your beliefs or push a point is ego.  Spirit knows truth so be the light and stand above the rest.  \n\nBlessings be yours in peace & light\nHarriett Potty ;)
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How does your family and friends feel about homosexuality? If they are open to this kind of lifestyle just invite them over and just let them know that you want to share something that is very important to you with them. If that made any sense.