Another one for the ladies -- would you ever date someone who had low self-esteem, or low self-confidence?
147836
If it were a short term period of insecurity, low self-esteem or low confidence then I would date the person. If it is their normal way of thinking, then I would not date them. A good relationship is based on give and take, and by that I don't mean one person gives and the other person takes. A relationship where one person has to always boost another persons ego and self esteem breaks down quickly. Everybody goes through short periods where they don't feel as good about themselves, and that is where a good "give and take" relationship works. A person has to know that their partner will be there for them when they need support, but most people are not willing to spend a lifetime being the only one who gives support. People judge you by the opinion you have of yourself.
340415
Looks matter to a certain extent. I'll be honest and say I wouldn't date someone incredibly homely and 600 lbs, and most of you would agree. Personality is immensely important to me. He must be a good listener, and can't be arrogant.
826217
Obviously, the first thing you notice about someone is their appearance. There are still a few of us guys that look beyond that though. I have dated some very good looking gals that I lost interest in due to lack of conversation. I have dated several ordinary/plain looking gals and had far better relationships with them. To some of us, what's inside means more than what's outside, but noone wants someone they aren't physically attracted to.
837983
Most likely yes.\n\nGuys tend to be needy and their self esteem is based on feedback from others and not their own self respect.\n\nDon't beat yourself up.  It's NOT you.
71778
CONFIDENCE.  He doesn't believe in himself, why should I?  OF COURSE, all those nice surface features matter but, even the corniest guy can be cute if he has principles and believes in what he is doing.
351864
Well, it really depends on her confidence level.  I'm not very self-confident, so if I see a guy that I think is super-hot, I really don't think I have a chance with him, so I'll act pretty shy and aloof, and you know, check him out when he's not looking.  Secretly, I want to go up to him and start a conversation, but I'm afraid of getting shot down.  Of course, each girl really is different.
1020070
I'm a middle-aged white guy and I've always preferred my women\n"thick". Preferably short & thick! (I'm 6'1") Race irrelevant but I do have a weakness for Latin, Asian & Meditteranean ladies. Only dated two "skinny" girls in my entire adult life but both were quite\nexceptional, in addition to being the exception to the rule!
168160
I wouldn't avoid dating someone just because she was a little person, but it would probably be unlikely that I would strike up a conversation with a little person I hadn't met to try to get a date with her.  Among many features that I use, consciously or subconsciously, to determine who is attractive would usually include her being no more than about 9 inches shorter or 2 inches taller than me.
572999
Yes!! I have a perfect example for you in this.\n\nI'm...let's say...scholastic. I have a bachelor's degree and I am heading to Law School next. My "type" has always, from the first time I dated, been a book-smart guy. In fact, I was so picky that I would not touch a "blue collar worker" with a 10 foot pole (as far as dating goes - not in general). I was just into dating someone with whom I could sit down and discuss books and theories, ect. (yes, I am a dork) and one of my requirements is that he had to be either working on a degree or already holding a degree.\n\nThen I met my current boyfriend. I didn't give him a chance at first - no degree, ect. ect. blah blah I'm an idiot. He's a firefighter for a living and that just wasn't my thing. However, the more I talked to him, the more I fell madly in love with him. He's perfect and treats me 10 times better than any book-smart guy I have ever known. I wouldn't trade him in for anything or anyone in the world. \n\nIf nothing else, he has opened my eyes to see that "types" are ridiculous. My new "type" thanks to him? The type that treats me well and makes me happy. Thank God for him for that!
50904
This is a tough one to answer. In my case yes looks do matter to an extent. There needs to be some physical attraction in the beginning not that its the most important just a percentage. Body type really depends on the guy. I have dated several women with all different kinds of body types. A good personality is a must, its a real downer when your partner is always in the dumps or is angry all the time. I myself enjoy a good conversation so intelligence is a must (not a rocket scientist just bright). Tallents are always a plus, its nice to have a tallented girlfriend but not a necessity. All in all what I'm looking for in a woman is one that loves me as much as I love her. Someone that will be there when I need someone to talk to or be comforted. Basicly a best friend, I think that if your partner is your best friend your practically invincible.
1123703
Yes I would.If u want a serious relationship or something thats going to last it doesn't really matter to me what someone looks like as long as their a good person and their good to me thats all that matters.If I can look into someone's eyes and see he cares thats the best feeling u can get...Way more better than being with someone w/ a great body.Personaility comes first to me and if they got both even better!But if not 1 out of 2 is fine w/ me as long as the 1 is personality.Cuz whats the point of being w/ a good looking guy whose a jerk u know?
957651
Uh no I think you are a person in need of some confidence and My ex hubsand was a virgin at age 35 until he met me ! what I liked about him is that he was sweet and didn't try to hard and had some confidence no matter what women like men that are confident and not sucidal or depress get some mental help too while your at it ! HUGS
860662
For the most part, I prefer men to be taller.  However, it's a package deal...  I've dated men shorter than me just because of who they were.  Looks do matter some, but it's not the entire picture.
1105573
I'll be honest here ... \n\nYes looks are important ...\n\nIt may not be the only thing that's important when dating and getting to know somebody, but it sure does count in my book ...
53969
I had a lunch date with a beautiful woman once, but mostly she just led me on--does that count?  I don't think I was hideous or even very ugly, but I'm sure plenty of women would have rated me below average.  She once said she thought I was good-looking on our first meeting, but then she was a teaser.\n\nI did know a strikingly handsome Tom-Selleck-type guy who married an ugly woman.  I knew them after they were married so it's possible she lost her looks to childbirth but that would have been an extreme decline.  The marriage broke up after about 20 years.  Other than that, heterosexual couples I know and have known seem to be very close on the rating scale.  Very different story for gay couples, though.
1008563
Well my girlfriend who is truly my soul mate is chubby, but is really beautiful and has a great personality. I wouldn't say that I'm dating her because she's chubby, but I'm dating her because I lover her eyes, her smile, and both her inner and outer beauty.\n\nTo me she could have been skinny --- fat and I would still date her because of who she is.
367848
It's hard to explain in my personal preference.  You could have a supermodel and an "average" woman, and I may choose the latter.  Looks aren't everything, but they are somewhat involved, I'm not going to lie.  Other than that, I look for a fun personality, capability to have a good conversation (serious or otherwise), attitude, and a sense of humility.  But some other guys are just in it for the looks...sad, as it may be less fulfilling.