How would you handle the experience of being a new comer in a place where you feel that you are not wanted?
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I wouldn't deal well.  I have a tendancy to try to break rules a little bit if I feel I'm not wanted.  Pink hair, tattoos etc.
1105940
That sounds normal to me.  I am not moving but I think that you would want to see your friends and the comfortable familiarities of your life because you will be going to a new place. Good luck.
446250
New places can be frightening, I understand.\n\nTry to do it little by little, and it won't seem so scary. \nGo out for just a few minutes and stand by the door of the hostel. Just look around and watch what is going on outside. The next day, walk around a little bit. The next day, walk a little bit more. Eventually, you will feel more confident.\n\nThere is no reason to be so frightened that you don't leave the hostel. Don't let your fears make you a prisoner. Think about this: lots of people live in Pantnagar every single day, and they are all just fine moving about the city and living their lives. You will be okay, too.\n\nMaybe you could see if you can go out with some of the other people from your hostel? If you were with others, maybe you would not feel so frightened.\n\nBe brave, I know you can. Everything will be okay. Good luck! :)
744335
I had some of the same fears when I started my new job. I found that if I smiled at people and apologized for being new and then thanking them for their patience they were really understanding and pleased that you complimented them and apologized. Just do your best. It will take a while to get used to everything so don't be so hard on yourself!
552944
be proud of where you are from the land of the free.......if they cant accept that then they are not your friends ....its not like you can change where you are from........
64192
Oh yes. I have always felt different from everyone around me. There has never been anyone who truly "gets" me. I have friends, I have family, but still even when I am with them I feel alone.\nAnd yes left out of things. I've been in situations where it seems I was forgotten. Hearing friends talk about the great time they had doing this or that, and wondering why I wasn't invited.\nI don't know what you wish to know but remember the truly great have always stood alone from the crowd.\nDon't change to fit in, be yourself. Someone will "get" you.
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People I barely know inviting themselves to spend their vacation at my house.\n\nThat's happened SO many times, I feel like having a panic attack just thinking about it.\n\nSOME people just don't know when it's time to leave. SOME, think they can just moonwalk in and take charge of your household.  They complain that you don't have any food that they like and give you advice that you never asked for.  RUDE!\n\nMAN!  Everytime someone calls to let me know that they've invited themselves to move in for a week or two, I cringe and feel like I can't get any air.
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Then why do you even come to it if you dont want to be here?  I mean, cmon already.  That is common sense.  You obviously do like it or you wouldnt be here.  Change your preferences and move on.  Sounds like you got some issues there.
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I have nothing that is more important than another life so you would be welcome to come in and get warm. Eat something that will stick to your ribs. I have an extra room if you need a place to sleep. All this is my view but I do have a family that may feel differently. I know they would allow the food and even offer clothing that they had that would fit but I am not sure if they would like someone staying that they didn't know. I was homeless once and knowing that side makes it easier for me to offer what I have. People have to stop being so afraid. What if that homeless man is Jesus? Maybe he is just down and needs a hand up. How would you want to be treated if you were in that position? I am really feeling this question. People always say they would give or that they do give but it isn't always what really goes down. People avoid you and they tell their kids to stay away from you as if homelessness is contagious. These same people cross the street so they don't have to look into your eyes on the way to church.\nLove & Light\nSharon\nOne Planet = One People
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Hello Friend,\n\n              I don't suggest you to count from 1 to 100 \n              I don't suggest you to chat with kids......\n              I don't ask you to drink cool water ........\n              All I ask you to do is to leave the place.........\n\n              once you are tensed leave the place immediately....\n              'coz no one will be patient enough to do all stupid things once he/she is tensed...............\n\n              Don't shout at your friends once you are tensed........\n              'coz almost all friends are fragile \n               they are easy to break\n               but are difficult to make ...........\n\nYou don't earn your friends.............'coz either you have not met a true friend or you have not dicovered him/her..........sometimes people come into your life and you feel right away that they are meant to be there.....their very presence will make you happy......\n\nSometimes  there may be such friends already there in your life....all that you should do is....\n\n        Discover them,\n        Recognise them,\n        Feel their presence.....\n\nALL THE BEST
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My plan is to get as far away from home as possible, and have as many new experiences, and meet as many new people as I can. Do what feels right to you, and remember that even though moving somewhere new for Uni seems scary, most other people are in that situation too, so you won't be alone.
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see also what not to ask.\n\ngo out and do something and meet people they dont just come knocking on your door
263890
visit various churches you are welcome in all houses of the Lord if any one turns you away you know that is not the place to be, but if you feel the atmosphere, get the message, and feel the spirit that is where you need to be. After service the pastor will offer everyone an opportunity to come to the alter just walk up and join. at the new member meetings you will get to know more people, new people and I am sure you will grow to love your new church home. Oh yeah, ask God to help you on your way.
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Stay busy! Find new things to occupy you in your new home instead of doing the same things thereby bringing back memories that might cause you to compare the two and cause you to miss home. Step out of your comfort zone and be the first to speak if you meet someone new, like a neighbor or co-worker or someone at the gym. Become involved in community service, because the quickest way to take the focus off yourself and your own problems is to focus on helping someone else. It also gives you a sense of belonging and makes you feel you have a place in your new "world." I'm new to my area -20 miles south of Philadelphia- so I know where you are coming from, but I've built a busy, happy life for myself and I only go home with I really miss family back in VA. The key for me is staying busy!
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You shouldnt be scared but its okay that you are.  i would be scared too.  Just keep in mind that you are still yourself and that eventually you will meet people.  Dont change yourself to get friends.  Also, when people meet you and see that you are new they might try to suck you in.  Dont get lost in the wrong crowd.  My friend was new to the school and he simply just acted like he wa sthere all long and made new friends the first day that he came.  but we arent all like that.  So good luck.
704460
Hi, I'm 26 years old and currently in my freshman year of college. I definitely know how you feel; all throughout school I was not a very outgoing person. I usually kept to myself, at the same time I  tried to impress my peers. Now I realize how immature it was to act that way. You should never look down on yourself in any kind of way. It is important for everyone to feel they belong, and you seem to doubt yourself. The thing is, other people are just like you, they will not approach anyone and end up never making any friends. Be bold and walk up to the other guy like you and talk to them. They are just wanting someone to break the ice. My advice usually ends up being religious, but I do not feel like I should preach to you. One thing I will tell you is, turn to the Lord and he will never leave you. He will always be there giving you comfort, and the the great feeling that you belong. I never feel alone because I'm not. Just realize that people all throughout life will try to hurt you to make themselves feel better. You control your own life....make the best of it....live life to the fullest. Talking to an older person is great because they are wise and can give you some of the best suggestions. Hope this helps
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This is a difficult one if you are in a foreign country and not too familiar with the language.  Firstly, homesickness is not a weakness - it is perfectly natural and human to miss what is familiar.  Secondly, get to know your new community.  Are you in college?  Join a group of people with similar tastes, interests.  Get more familiar with the language by joining a discussion group - your local library may have English discussion group notices pinned up.  You are obviously computer literate, so you could still stay in daily touch with some friends back home, whilst looking for new friends.  Good luck, Samir.  And keep smiling.  You will look back on this downer with nostalgia one day.