how can you tell if your spouse is cheating?
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• A disappearing act around Valentine’s Day.\n\n• An evasive, preoccupied, disinterested, or withdrawn spouse.\n\n• Lack of affection or interest in you.\n\n• Meetings that did not include you on Valentine’s Day.\n\n• Protected cell phone bill or email accounts.\n\n• Frequent computer usage after you retire to bed.\n\n• Spouse who protects the wallet or purse at all costs.\n\n• Your spouse takes the extra set of car keys from you.\n\n• Locked briefcase that seems to have hidden treasures you must not see.\n\n• Suspicious emails you were never intended to see.\n\n•Any purchases of flowers, clothing, lingerie, jewelry not given to you.\n\n•Any unexplainable receipts or charges from restaurants, motels, etc.\n\n•Any blocked ID phone calls followed by short, “quiet” conversations.\n\n•Any calls taken in another room or closet.\n\nIf you observe any of the previously mentioned actions, you should look for the following this month and next:\n\n“Always track phone bills, credit cards statements, emails, pants pockets, purses, checkbooks, briefcases, laptops, and vehicles for receipts, shopping bags, matches, cards, love letters, condom wrappers, Viagra, under garments, change of clothing in the trunk, flower pedals or leaves. I advise suspicious partners to rummage their own trash containers for morsels of truth,” adds Mitchell.
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have you ever considered putting a tape recorder in his vehicle underneath the seat, i mean we all talk on our cell phones when we are on our way to and from work right, what about following him, there are ways for you to find out trust me, you just need to be smart and opened minded and think of things, when he tells you he going somewhere follow him after he leaves, start asking questions about everything, check his email, his wallet, his call log in his cell phone, sonner or later like useal the truth will reveal itself no matter what, I do think if he was cheating you would have all the signs already and just simply have this unbarable gut feeling inside of you, if you feel that then he is, of course you will feel the distance, his lying, his comeing home late, him turning off the cell phone, all the normal things, if your really worried about hire a private investgator that way he can be on you side if you should have to ever file for divorce or for custdoy becuase these days whoever is the cheater and they can prove he cheated the women gets everything from him, childsupport, alimony, he may even have to continue to par your car insureance and your health insurance i know this for sure, good luck and i hope you find everythihng that you looking for, just prepare yourself for the worse as it may really break your heart to find the truth
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Ask some friends if they think he is cheating on you.  Confront your boyfriend and see how he responds.  Of course, you don't want to tell him who told you.  Check out his body language and try to gauge his sincerity if he says he didn't.  If someone's telling you what you really want to hear, it's hard to tell if they're being honest or lying, so watch carefully and pay attention to what your instincts tell you.  This friend of his might have been telling you the truth, but he might have been lying to you in hopes that you'll break it off with his friend and he'll have a chance with you himself.
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It depends on your boyfriend.\nYou have to give us examples of the things he is doing that makes YOU think he is cheating and we can let you know from there.
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why doesn't the husband know. I don't think it's cheating, but I'd wonder why her husband is in the dark.
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Signs Of A Cheating Girlfriend \nSome men who suspect their girlfriends are cheating may be in denial and refuse to believe it. Well, for all those other men who are willing to seek the truth, check out these signs of a cheating girlfriend: \n\nAfter dating for several years she tells you that she's overweight and has hired a personal trainer \nYou find a charge slip in the waste basket from a nearby motel by mistake. \nYou find a present she says was from her mother. You open the box and find a pair of sexy panties. \nYou come home one day and find a cigarette butt in the ashtray, yet nobody in the house smokes. \nShe's uncharacteristically spending money on new clothes. \nThe phone rings several times within a week and when you pick it up they hang up. \nShe starts acting like a teenager who has a crush on the quarterback. \nYour girlfriend tells you that she's visiting a friend who is sick. This one is a classic, and it works all the time. \nShe says that she loves you, but doesn't act like it. Remember, a person is judged on what they do, not what they say. If your girlfriend exhibits any of these signs it may mean she is cheating on you.\n\nGl\nI hope she isn't it is the worst way for a relationship to die.
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They need to question the spouse - you should expect that! There is no way for them to know you are not involved until you talk to them. Just be completely honest and everything will be fine. If you really aren't involved and didn't know about it, they'll see that. Don't worry!
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The first question should be: Why did my spouse cheat? Don't know whether or not if he/she will answer the question honestly, but the most important thing in a marriage is that each spouse gives him/herself wholeheartedly. It must be done selflessly, to show the other person that this IS a blissful marriage, and if it isn't, then let's make it one.\n\nIf a person cheats, then usually it is because of some form of negligence, whether it's in the bedroom or if it is emotional. Who knows? The cheater.  There are some marriages that are sub-par, in a sense. There are some that were forced, or pretend. Even in some good marriages, some feel that they need a "thrill" and seek other means. It's wrong, but it happens.\n\nWill I be one of those thrill seekers? No. Will it happen to me? No. But if ever I'm wrong, I would want to find out what part I played and how I could learn from it.
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I think men cheat because they need to know that they are still desired. \n\nI feel they reach a point in their marriage where they know in their heart that they are loved by their wife....but they start to question whether they have been all they need to be. Perhaps his wife doesn't tell him how "necessary" he is anymore. Perhaps his wife doesn't seduce him the way she used to. Perhaps she doesn't brag about him to her friends the way she used to. He needs to know he is still worthy. \n\nSo one day.....someone notices him.......and man...it just feels so good to be noticed again! And then maybe he sees her again the next day......and the next day. And her smile starts to become addictive. He becomes intrigued about who she is......and why she has noticed him. It might start out as a smile.......but it will become a kind comment.....and then a need on her part to 'run into him' just as he has found it necessary to run into her. \n\nMany times the affair is not intended. But all of a sudden it starts to fill a hole and fulfill a need that he realizes needs to be filled. She tells him how necessary he is........she craves the intimacy.......she tells him what a wonderful person he is. All the things that were lacking in his marriage. His needs are being fulfilled.........just not by his wife.
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First I would validate that s/he indeed is cheating.\n\nS/he might have other issues that you are not aware of.\n\nConfront the person if possible, in a non-hostile manner.
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Not sure about cheating, but if he is keeping secrets from you that sure isn't a good sign.\n\nK
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a woman always knows. usually when shes EVEN thinking hes cheating, he is. signs include: buying new underwear/clothes for no reason, taking better care of himself all the sudden, working late, wearing a new cologne, changing passwords, running out for errands more often, not wanting to have sex as much, and taking up new interests. or the more obvious as in my case... i found lipstick/makeup on the shirts, love letters, condoms and late night phone calls. yea, i fired him lol
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Don't guess if he's married or not.  Find out for sure.  Do not pursue anything until you do this.  Drop it immediately if he is.
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The only way to know for sure is if he admits it or if you catch him in the act, but here are some helpful indicators...\n\n1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will \ndiminish as the affair continues. \n2. Your mate begins buying you gifts -- lots of gifts. These are "Guilt Gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better. \n3. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change. \n4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you. \n5. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. She says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended?" or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, she seems very negative about your relationship. Your mate makes these statements because she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.
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Sharing intimacy with anyone other than your spouse is cheating. May it be physical or emotional. It's deception either way. You should leave if you are missing something at home.
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Say "are you cheating"?
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if they start dressing different, listening to different music, going on "drives", things like that. then if you call him on it and ask if he is cheating on you. . .and he gets all defenssive and starts freaking out. most likely. . .hes cheating on you