When you get signs that your spouse is cheating do you confront them even tho they have never done it before?
150841
I agree with the prince.\n\nSince you know THEY have not done it before, but you suspect.\n\nSit down and talk to THEM, first of all, create the perfect atmosphere, have dinner, listen to music, probably sit down together after dinner while having Cognac or Coffee. Make sure you maintain full front view of THEIR face and body. This needs to be done at Home and not in a public place.\n\nLay the thing on THEM gently. Like eleviating your suspicions first, chances are THEY will realize where the discussion is heading. If THEY love you THEY will ensure that your suspicions are removed.\n\nSuspicion is like the dark, maybe because the Sun is not shining or the windows are not clean. One cannot shine the Sun but definitely clean the windows.
147374
Your first option is to ask him.  Make sure you don't do it as an attack, or he'll probably cover it up.  Also, if you do it as an attack, and he isn't cheating, then he'll feel resentful and feel like any trust you two had, is gone.  Another option is to ask a friend {or PI} to watch your husband for a while.  Call him at work to see if he's there, find out what he's doing if he's "working extra hours"  Check emails, internet history, phone calls in and out, and so on.  Don't be afraid to pop in at lunch to surprise him with a home cooked meal.  This will give you extra time with him, make him feel special, and also thwart plans if he's trying to cheat.  Also, see if there are people that are with him often, that you feel you could get an honest answer from.  But honestly, I think asking him first, in a very soft and subtle tone, is your best bet.  But remember, never ask a question you can't handle any answer too.  I don't mean don't get angry or mad, but make sure you're at a place with yourself that you can hear what he has to say to you, no matter what his answer is.  I wish you all the best, insecurities, whether real or not, always hurt.
1114386
TAKE HIM FOR HIS WORDS.\nThe only sign that a spouse is cheating is when he/she becomes cold and seems to be lying a lot.\n\nJUST BE A GOOD WIFE (sexy, presentable, decent, smart, skillful, etc.) and pray for your husband that God will protect him from being tempted by other ladies out their.\n\nI wish you a happy marriage.
704876
some do and some don't , most of the time I feel they do, but I have seen people that haven't cheated on their wives ever again, or else they got real good at sneaking around, I guess in time if you stay with him you will find out if he has or hasn't, its going to take alot of time for you to totally trust him again, Good luck to you
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personally I like to GENTLY slap my guy upside the back of his head.\n=)\nRemember though...no matter what you decide to do...he may need to figure it out in his OWN time...and only you can decide if thats okay with you.\n\nFor instance...when I let my hubby know he's doing something really wrong and he REALLY needs to stop....sometimes it can take a week before he addresses the problem...and decides to fix it.  I've learned not to get in his face because he's a really smart guy and when he's ready...he always comes around. Everyone takes a different amout of time to admit they are wrong...and to correct their behavior.\n\nBest of luck hun!! :)
293793
No, Never did I cheat or even think about it. It is wrong to think that way with your spouse. If your going to do that than leave...K
1174431
You should speak to your significant other to see what they believe is too much.  Some people have different views of what is cheating and what is not. If nothing else just ask yourself "Would I be ashamed or afraid to tell my other half what I am about to do?" Trust your gut instinct.
928982
no I wouldn't confront her. I would talk to my husband instead. I don't have a relationship with the girl. But I'll make sure that she knows the guy she is having sex with, is married. \n\nHave you heard about the saying that goes "the sweetest revenge to a cheating husband is to give  him to his mistress?"
159786
Nope, I've never cheated. I think it's not the right thing to do. You should just break up instead of just cheating on them...
277215
I would dump his sorry a$$. Once you know he is married, you are willingly contributing to his wifes heartache when she finds out (and trust me, she will find out).\nHow would you feel if you were married and your husband cheated with someone who knew he was married?\nLet's pretend he is going to leave his wife for you (which he will not), you will become the person he cheats on.
1068917
I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
530422
well i have never cheated but not saying i havent thought about it.\nfor me if i did it would be for the reason that someone else would be new and exciting \ni guess different\nbut it wouldn't last long and then i would be in a divorce so thats why i dont
621436
The first question should be: Why did my spouse cheat? Don't know whether or not if he/she will answer the question honestly, but the most important thing in a marriage is that each spouse gives him/herself wholeheartedly. It must be done selflessly, to show the other person that this IS a blissful marriage, and if it isn't, then let's make it one.\n\nIf a person cheats, then usually it is because of some form of negligence, whether it's in the bedroom or if it is emotional. Who knows? The cheater.  There are some marriages that are sub-par, in a sense. There are some that were forced, or pretend. Even in some good marriages, some feel that they need a "thrill" and seek other means. It's wrong, but it happens.\n\nWill I be one of those thrill seekers? No. Will it happen to me? No. But if ever I'm wrong, I would want to find out what part I played and how I could learn from it.
129458
The signs are always there, you just have to accept them when you see them. No one WANTS to believe their mate is cheating on them so we tend to either ignore the signs or rationalize them. If you think he's cheating on you, ask him. Tell him the different things you've noticed him doing, (signs), and demand an explanation. And don't let him off easy. Make sure you are satisfied with the responses you get from him. You don't deserve to be cheated on. If a man is having problems with you, he should be man enough to confront you with his concerns. If you two can’t work them out, then you move on. You don’t cheat. Same advice goes for you, be an adult and tell your partner your concerns. If you can’t work them out……\n\nNow on the other side of the coin, if your concerns about his cheating have no merit, then don't jump all in his face with false accusations. Men have enough tendencies in us to cheat already. Don't give us an excuse. (i.e. She thinks I'm cheating anyway, I might as well do it) You know??
229232
I have thought about cheating, but have never acted on it and I never will. I have enough respect for my husband than that! Plus, I would hate to break up my family over my stupid actions. I think if someone's going to cheat, they should have enough respect to end the relationship first!
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
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Trust your intuition, I do. He shows all of the classic signs of a cheater, right down to being defensive. Does he also accuse you of cheating? Usually, the cheater will accuse the faithful one.