How do you humbly and calmly react when you are used to a certain way of life and someone wants to change it?
152360
Yours is a tough descision. I went through the same thing when I was in the service. I left as soon as I could and when I was offered a job in the government I ran ,lol. I have been working for myself pretty much since then. To be true to yourself and not conform more than your soul can take is what you have to find out. I wish you good luck and patience.
1126829
Well, it is never easy to change! Just try to be more tough, to make people respect you and do not let anyone to use you, because of that you are too good! It is not fair.....
407493
Change your outlook on life. Many things that we worry about are not worth it:\n\nLearn to forgive and forget. \nLearn how to love unconditionally. \nLearn not to expect rewards for your deeds. \nLearn how to meditate. \nLearn when to stay silent. \nLearn how to bend in front of a storm. \nLearn how to stand up for your correct beliefs. \nLearn to say sorry when you have made a mistake. \nLearn how to say sorry when you are correct. \nLearn to be graceful. \nLearn how to be less materialistic. \nLearn how to give. \nLearn when it's time to stay. \nLearn when it's time to go away.\nLearn how not to be judgmental.\nLearn how to do to others what you would like others to do to you.\n\nOnly then you would stand on the first step to giving up your emotional baggage.\n\nGood Luck
239472
Just because you love someone doesn't mean you can live with them.\n\nif something happends that causes fustration, the first thing to do is try to talk it though.  be open to one another and tell him/her 'hey!  what you are doing is pissing me off.. and here's why..'   \n\nbut you can't change a person.  A person changes because THEY want to, not because they are forced.
509240
yah, you cant change a person.  Just find a nice polite way to tell her what she is doing and see if she realizes it or not.  She wont change if she doesnt think it is a bad thing. But.. if she sees the issue as a problem she will be willing to work on it. Good luck
44957
Sometimes it's not the person you are upset with but a situation, what drives you to be angry at the moment you get angry?  What fuels the anger? Think about it, because if you want it to change you are going to have to figure out what "it" is that needs changed, and if you already know what "it" is you have to decide how important it is to change, if it's something you can get through, and if it's worth holding on to.
504023
Get used to it, cause there is no way to change them. They will only gripe that you are nagging them, and still not listen.
970401
Yes, I've had a problem with this myself. Altering the way you deal with things will only happen over time. If you think about it, you've reacted a certain way all your life so changing things around will take time and patience (which of course is something you don't have!! Don't worry, the irony was not lost on me either!)\n\nFirst of all, accept the things you cannot change. In my experience there are a lot of árseholes out there, certain friends of mine will always be very money oriented and my first marriage did not work out. I no longer fight it, I accept it. \n\nThis is going to sound like self-help book bull but when someone is mean to you, or does something to fundamentally upset you, respond with a smile and with kindness. It really throws them which is amusing and which in turn makes you less angry. \n\nWhen it comes to interpersonal relationships (i.e. wife/husband/mum/dad) have a mental look at your previous arguments and see how they went. Do you labour on a point relentlessly? If so, did it get you anywhere? Have you ever recorded yourself having an argument? Do you look "sane" and rational? Chances are that you don't. When you are having a 'heated discussion' stick calmly to the one point you are debating and don't let it become a list of everything that person ever did to annoy you. And remember, once you raise your voice your point is invalid.
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You obviously have some 'better' you in mind. What you need to do is close in on that person. And you do it the same way you do a great many things. You try. You fail. You think about it and next time do something different. Eventually you fail less and suceed more.\n\nThere is no one solution to all that you don't like about yourself. Some things you will get used to, some things you will change over time and some things you will never like, but will be unable to change. This is what makes people interesting, this variety, the many facets that make a human gem catch the light.
69164
It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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Change your attitude first. Change is a natural process in life, and will happen regardless. Every human is different in their own way. Liking who you are is the key. Get an education, keep busy, and pat yourself on the back every once in awhile for being the best you can be.
350115
The only thing you can do is set an example.  Live your life in a righteous way, and hope that they see that.  You can't change anyone, it's not your job to change anyone, all you can do is set an example, tell people the message of Christ, and God will work from there.
241885
i would sit down and tell the person in a nice way that the way that they are acting is crazy and i would talk to them about whatever they are doing and tell them that i don't like it. I would be Straight up and honest! But I would ssay things in a positive way to be careful about there feelings
555528
Wake up and smell the roses...\n\nWhether you want to accept it or not, you are a very controlling person and cannot deal with it when things are not going "YOUR WAY".\n\nYou only look at the negative...Here is what I saw in your conversation...\n\nI am young (22)\nI am free (lover left)\nI have loving parents\nI have the opportunity for an education.\nI have health (only thing you didn't complain about)\n\nDo you know how many people have NONE of those things???\n\nStop trying to control the world and go with the flow. Change, like sh_t ... happens!\n\nEnjoy what you have got.\n\nBoy, I know that answer will not be a favorite ... but that answer is what you need to listen to.
42447
you don't. it's natural.\n\nor, on the other hand, you could try and be sensible, and just block it out from your mind. or you can just change your attitude from i'm-mister-super-caring-all about  what-people-think-of-me to i-dont-give-crap-and-i'm-gonna act- as-though nothing's-bothering-me.\n\ngot it?  now that's how you gotta stop carin about wat otha ppl tink of ya. alrightty?
574991
resolve within yourself the need to be possessed - easier said than done...but possible. Can you accept that someone can love you for who you are. remember the world is something of a mirror of our own beliefs. (not completely) but be thankful this person is in your life - you picked them at some level...consciously or unconsciously. remember true freedom does not depend on how someone else behaves. If you make the change within youself the outer world will 'adjust'. guaranteed. This person will either adapt or the sitation will change to reflect your next lesson:-)
334372
If you are too cool, people will take advantage on you.    If you make good choices. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude… \n\nI am convinced that life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. \n\nAnd so it is with you… we are in charge of our ATTITUDES.