noisy sis in law. Has to know everything about me but cant be up front with me.?
152466
sounds to me like she does not have a life. dont tell her anything what you do is your buisness i hate people like that
438424
Stop telling her about your personal life.\n\nThere isn't any other good reason as to why she would have enough information about you to make you uncomfortable by what she's revealing to others. If it's stuff you've shared in the past, you can't really take that back.  You may just have to live with it... but from here on out, MUM's the word.\n\nSometimes approaching people with a "what if the shoe was on the other foot" scenario helps them see how insensitive they are being.  Case in point, I had a supervisor that basically antagonized me constantly about a character issue that I was challenged to change at the office.  He would do it in front of others and, as a group, everyone would egg me on until I would snap.  I finally pulled him aside and told him politely that I needed his help, not his hinderances. I calmly asked him how it would feel if I ridiculed him about his eating habits in front of everybody (which were peculiar.... but necessary because of a serious health issue he had)?  And then made the point that I DIDN'T ridicule him because I respected the fight he had everyday to make the decisions he did.  After that, he never teased me again and our work relationship improved immensely.\n\nPerhaps there is a piece of information you know of that your supervisor would absolutely die about having made public.  Make it perfectly clear, not as a threat, but as a simple fact that you have respectfully NOT shared information about her because you feel that privacy is so sacred.... and that you expect her to afford the same respect to you.  I think that will help her out.  At least, I HOPE it will.\n\nGood luck.
460089
well just tell your $%$$##%%^ sister in law to go &&^%$#$@#@## and %%#$##$%^ and *((*%^##@@ ---that should do it!
131010
girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
180964
Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
1045756
well my sister is married to a man i hate...he is a no good drunken ************* ************ ************** ************ ***************** **************, but i just keep my mouth shut because she wants to make it work.......so i would say just be there for her always and keep your opinions to yourself...that is what she and i do for eachother.....she don't tell me sh*t and i don't tell her sh*t...seems to work out just better this way!
829206
your husband is the one that needs to put his foot down! tell him what is going on..and that you would NEVER put up with this kind of behavior if it were your own mother/sister. \nyou married him, not his mother...yes she is part of your family but she doesn't and shouldn't have a say in YOUR life together. \nhonestly i would look to move away! * that's what i encouraged my husband to do when we got married. we moved my mother in law to Hawaii! * \nif your hubby won't put his foot down then your going to be the one to say something. it may be hard, but YOUR HIS WIFE! that car you borrowed is YOURS as much as it is your husbands...you need to stand up for yourself.\nbe firm but cordial, and tell her that you understand that she loves her son very very much, but so do you. and you are his wife. \nhe is a grown man, and you two want her to be part of your life, but you don't want her controlling it. tell her that you feel like she doesn't like you, and that your trying your best to be a good wife to her son. but you will NOT let her make you feel guilty about the decisions that you make together as a couple. ask her how she would feel if HER mother in law butted in the way she did? \n\nperhaps talking w/your father in law might help? or a brother in law?
857872
Oh girl I am in the same situation, except it is my sister's HUSBAND!!!  Personally, I would put him in his place.  Tell him you are not interested in him like that.  If he continues then you will have to be a little more forceful and start avoiding him whenever possible.  Never be alone with him.  Everything he does to you try to document it.  Save his emails, voicemails, and text messages, because when your friend does find out guess who she is going to believe....not you.  Cover yourself.  Also, try to get him to hit on a third party friend and show your friend what an idiot he really is.
536768
Wow, This is alittle complicated.  I would only say something if it's really effecting your husband and you. I don't know that it's your place and the family may think you're just creating extra drama. You don't want that. Also, this isn't an excuse but she is 16 after all. She's not an adult yet. She doesn't have the life experience you do. If you want to talk with her as a friend that's one thing but if you just want to tell her to get her act together.. I don't think it's a good idea at all. \n\nYour hubby knows his family best and there is probably a reason why he's not saying anything. With saying that if she's not disrespecting you in your home or whatever.. There's really not much you are going to be able to do about it. I seriously think that saying something will cause extra drama for this family. Allow them to figure it out.
466997
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
758367
rather it be your brothers wife or your wife's sister handling this type of situation can be done but should be done with tactfulness. Tell her your flattered and it is cute but it makes you feel bad because you know it is wrong and it places your mind away from your wife and she deserves better than that. You will be surprised how quickly respect is formed
196790
When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
914506
There is nothing you can do to stop your sister-in-law from talking.  But the more she tries to defame you, the more she will make herself out to be a liar, as hopefully your other family members know you too well to believe her.
149996
Move out. Tell your hubby it is me or mommie. no one needs to exist where they are slaves to thier inlaws. I cook I clean I work my butt off sounds a lot like cinderella except there will be no prince charming to help you out.
1107777
I guess you learned the hard way that you can't bad mouth family to family.\n\nI don't like lying, so I can't tell you to keep it up, best to just say, "sorry for the misunderstanding" if she says anything. Then, keep your mouth shut around the brother!
1089355
i would tell my sister in law to shut her big fat mouth.