why adolescence a painfultime?
148786
Because kids are learning who they are and they don't understand all the feelings inside of them... It can be a confusing process to become an adult.  \n\nRules of society and all the ideals that are around them - make it hard to figure out what is right and what is wrong and how to go about living thier lives... they are getting more freedom but with that comes more responsibility.  That can be painful to learn.
374629
It is not understood really how many people actually do this but its thousands and thousands. Don't worry your not daft neither stupid. Dont listen to people that say its for attention!\n\nYoung people who self-harm have often had very difficult or painful experiences or relationships. These may include:\n\nBullying or discrimination. \nLosing someone close to them such as a parent, brother, sister or friend.\nLack of love and affection or neglect by parents or carers. \nPhysical or sexual abuse. \nA serious illness that affects the way they feel about themselves. \nOther young people may start to self-harm as a way of dealing with the problems and pressures of everyday life. Pressure can come from family, school and peer groups to conform or to perform well (for example in getting good exam results). Young people can be made to feel angry, frustrated or bad about themselves if they cannot live up to other people's expectations.\n\nYoung people who self-harm may have low self-esteem. For some this is linked to poor body image, eating disorders, or drug misuse. Understanding why young people self-harm involves knowing as much as possible about their lives and lifestyles.\n\nPeer pressures may occasionally be the most important reason for self-harm.Young people may find themselves among friends or other groups who self-harm and may be encouraged or pressurised to do the same. \n\n\nSelf-harm as a way of coping\n--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n \nExtreme feelings of fear, anger, guilt, shame, helplessness, self-hatred, unhappiness, depression or despair can build up over time. When these feelings become unbearable, self-harm can be a way of dealing with them.\n\nReasons young people have given for their self-harm include:\n\nWhen the level of emotional pressure becomes too high it acts as a safety valve - a way of relieving the tension. \nCutting makes the blood take away the bad feelings. \nPain makes them feel more alive when they feel numb or dead inside. \nPunishing themselves relieves feelings of shame or guilt. \nWhen it's too difficult to talk to anyone, it's a form of communication about their unhappiness - a way of saying they need help. \nSelf-harm is something they can control when other parts of their life may seem out of control. \n\nFeel free to ask me questions.
1114239
im probably a little young for this question... but i miss being 15-16, when i was still in high school. those were the days. times u could waste without worrying too much about the consequences.
1062162
It's fear of the unknown and being ridiculed, rejected or your feeling hurt. That will go away with age and time and experience.
1048054
For some people it is pathological...they are stunted emotionally and intellectually. It's sad because those people will probably never enjoy a normal life or a normal relationship based on trust and mutual respect, they will only have drama and pain....they will cause pain.
172014
Aside from the pubertty/hormones issue, another reason is that kids of that age lack perspective. They aren't old enough to recognize that whatever may be bothering them today may sort itself out tomorrow, that today's must-have item is oldschool tomorrow.
343419
Hey I'm 18-- The reason teens do drugs, smoke, and drink is because it makes you look better also, when you're having a horrible day it feels soooooo good to just get high or drunk to let all your problems go because when you're high you don't have to think about every thing that's happening. The reason teens have problems with parents is because they are closed minded. I mean like when you've had a bad day your folks try to say they know what its like but they don't know what it feels like to be you because the would is way different than in the 1970's or 80's. The world is a bad place to grow up in and I wish for once that they would just listen to me and agree that life isn't fair. That's the reason kids do drugs.
1082553
It's hard to be young, especially in the big city. The conflict between a youth (or youths) and the society they find themselves in can lead to tragic results.
966903
the time has this power of numbing us... of lessening the intensity of our emotions... maybe it's because as time goes, we tend to forget the hurt and the let us look back into the situation with a new-found understanding since we're in a differnet position in our lives now\n\nbut still friendships broken, especially those with dear ones, are always looked back with sadness...
1052344
Humans between the ages of 10 and 20 are particularly stupid and cruel.  Some never outgrow this phase and turn into insufferable adults.  Most do outgrow this stupidity and cruelty and come to regret the cruelty of their youth.
136886
COULD BE TO MANY PROBLEMS AND NOT ENOUGH SUPPORT AT HOME FROM THE PARENTS, AND TEENS ARE JUST REACTING ON PAIN INSTEAD OF REACTING THE THE GUIDENCE AND LOVE THEY NEED
666476
High school is horrible. You're insecure, you don't know yourself or your body, you haven't come to terms with your individuality, and so few people will accept people who aren't exactly like them (and I include the outcasts in this as well- when's the last time you saw a "goth kid" hanging out with a "prep"?). Later in life you're more aware of yourself, and so are other people, so things are a little easier.
1023140
yep its called being a teenager... we make mistakes, we do stupid things... but at the end of the day it is the individuals choice whether to do it. peer pressure can be a toughy but it's something ppl have to learn to rise above
1017215
It's referring to kids that have had a rough upbringing and who have been exposed to things that they should not have witnessed at a young age.  So, these kids are more at risk to fall into a negative situation  than a kid that has had a so called normal upbringing.  It could also be due to the environment that they live in.
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Being a teenager can be the most confusing and awkward time in your life.  You aren't an adult, but you aren't a kid.  Your hormones are raging and you want to be independent but your school and parents wont let you, yet at the same time you're expected to act as an adult.  Many teens are very sensitive and emotional.\n\nDepression isn't something you can just snap out of.  Its a chemical imbalance in your brain where you aren't producing enough seritonin.  This causes depression, but anti-depressants can help to raise the seritonin level and bring you out of the depression. \n\nHowever when you are in that hole of depression there feels like there is no way out.  Your miserable on a daily basis, your relationships start suffering, your grades start suffering causing parents and teachers to become angry at you.  Life just isn't worth living to you and you begin to dream about going to sleep and never waking up.  You feel your more of a drain on those you love and society and while it will make people sad if you died, they would be better off in the long run to not have you bringing them down and you'll be happier to slip off into oblivion anyway.\n\nAll people, regardless of age, get depressed.  However it seems to be more traumatic for teens as its an awkward time of life, your hormones are crazy making you feel off anyway, and your naturally more sensitive.  I think thats why there is a higher population of teen suicide than other age brackets.
531429
Because we invest ourselves into relationships. We forget that having a relationship doesn't define us. They don't really know that the hurt goes so deep. Remember, their experience as kids is mostly with other boys.\nAlways remember to say what you want and be honest. Anyone who can't handle that is not worth your time.
1067746
Being a teen is realizing that you are gaining independence from your family through these years, you are exploring who you are, your family wants to be your guide, sometimes worrying, but that is to be expected, like a hen protecting her eggs. \nFind out who you are, but never leave your family out, we feel we can do it all, but we are not ready yet, and in years to come we will be going to them seeking guidance, remember our parents will not be around forever, so cherish the time you have, and let them know you love them and you are only growing up.