how can i restrict my mother in law to come to our place as she is very tricky to handle?
143403
Lol..lol.. Maybe he, like myself is confused in what heck you're talking about? Are you trying to get rid of him too? That's his mother, and honey, you might be treading deep water on this issue, and drive him away with her...lol
221199
technically she does have a right to lay down rules of the house as you are living with her but any serios issues should be left for your mother and dad to make rulings on if you have a problem with her being overbearing talk to your parents and have them decide how much control she should have
298277
Sounds like to me you need to tell that busy body mother in law to unleash your husband from her apron strings,she sounds like she is your problem,of course your husband cant see this its his mom.Some men are always momas boy ,until they see it for them selves that dear old mom is breaking his home up .don't let her insult you ,let him get mad he has a life time to get glad.you are his wife and the mother of his children I'm sure you cook for clean house and wash his clothes so where is the respect you so much deserve.if mom is all that and then some maybe she should do all this for him.she sounds like a mean 2 face devious spiteful woman who is out to ruin your marriage.stand up to her don't let her ignorance ruin your home put her in her place and tell her to stay there.if your husband doesn't have the guts to tell her then its up to you.....
1058787
unfortunately, my husband's mother is the same breed. I just avoid the woman at all costs. fortunately, my husband agrees, but I don't know if yours will. \n\nI doubt confronting her would help, if she is as childish as my mother in law, but you could try talking to her, tell her your daughter feels left out and it hurts her feelings. goodluck whatever you decide
552573
My Mother in law is the same way. Does your husband know she does not like you? Does he stand up for you? THAT is what is important. This lady sounds way more than ridiculous. You can't have a car??? She knows she is in control and she is using that to her advantage. She WANTS you to leave your hubby........sounds like her goal is to make you miserable so you leave. Best advice? I KNOW this is hard but be as sweet as pie to her, almost sarcastic sweet. This will get to her more than anything. Talk with your husband, once he sets her strait that he loves you and there is nothing she can do to change that, things will get better! Good Luck
529261
there is no easy way out of that - your mother-in-law no matter what you say and do will not give up supporting your brother - in - law - what I think you should do is go straight to him and try to get him to change his ways...
115420
Goodness.. seems like you are an in-law in an outlaw situation.\n\nThat's sad that your brother-in-law is not supporting you and your wife with helping out with your mother-in-law in her difficult times with cancer, and on top of it, he's taking advantage of your mother-in-laws good nature with taking the car then not paying her for it properly as he promised.\n\nNo, I personally would not allow my son to treat me this way, or at least I would like to think I wouldn't, but my son is quite young, and has a diagnosis that may prevent him from being gainfully employed in the future...he's smart as a whip, but he has social skill challenges... so I can't say I wouldn't bend my own words when he is older.\n\nI have a simular situation with my grandmother-in-law, she has a family member that lives with her and doesn't keep a job, and does some unacceptable things, but it is her choice alone that allows for him to be there and to take advantage of her in this manner.  Even if he ends up putting her into bankruptcy, it is her choice to support him, and I really can't say or legally do anything about it.  \n\nIf your mother-in-law accepts this behavior from her son, that is her choice, it's not right, but still her choice. She is the only one with the power to change how he treats her, not you or your wife, but I'd love to see you get a second set of keys and repo this vehicle and then see how fast he comes to see your mother-in-law !!
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
1128276
The situation to me is whether or not she is able to do stuff.  If she has medical issues, does this prevent her from being able to do basic stuff?  If not, then it comes down to what you and her son are willing to put up with.  You have two possible solutions.  First is to sit down with her and lay it all out for her.  Her son has to be behind this also, because it won't do to have you saying one thing and her son saying something else.  Let her know that she will be required to do her own laundry, assist with cooking and /or dishes, she will be asked to help clean around the house.  If she cannot, or will not, assist in these matters then let her know what will happen - she will have to find a new home, she will be asked to leave, she will have to pay rent, etc...  Whatever the penalty or solution that you two come up with to deal with the situation.  Solution #2 would be if you do not wish to live like that - contact the other 2 sons and everyone have a family meeting to decide what needs to happen with 'mom.'  It may be that it is time to find a retirement home for her.  If it is too much of a physical, emotional, and financial burden for you to take on - then the entire family should get involved.  It doesn't mean you don't care for her, but you can't live your life around her entirely either.
964364
Uhm sorry to have to tell you this but as long as you are living in here house, she can say and act anyway she wants.  You and your husband need to move out asap if you want to keep your sanity.  Good luck
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
479426
tell your hubby how you feel. If your not comfortable living there anymore, tell him. Let him know that you have nothing against his mom, but you've also got your lives to think about. You two need time to yourself, need your own privacy, and need your own space. Tell his mom, that even though it's her house, you have rights to, and need your space. You could always move out to a place of your own, maybe your hubby will follow, maybe he just wants to support his mom for the rest of his life. Talk to him, he might have things on his mind about the situation to
1067352
you mom in law is in your house, so what has she done to lose your trust of her.is she intefering in your household is she trying to run the house? what is she doing? talk ot your wife and let her know whats going on. you and your kids should come first, have mom in law go somewhere else.good luck.
850151
YOUR HOUSE. YOUR RULES.  \n\nRequest your brother to refrain from telling jokes in front of your in-laws.  He must be able to do this at other events (like at church, weddings, funerals) and at work (if not he must be a sexual harassment lawyers dream come true).  \n\nIf he feels he is unable to comply with YOUR HOUSE YOUR RULES then please either do not attend or show up after your in-laws have left, where he can open the trap up.\n\nThere will be no pleading, discussion or reasoning.  I do not tolerate fowl language during working hours from co-workers and if they do not like it they know they can get a job somewhere else.\n\nAlso inform him the the punishment could be you showing everyone pictures of him as a baby (naked on the bearskin rug or wearing your dresses), all of which either he will deny you have or be scared you really will.  If you don't tell him paint shop pro works wonders on the old family pictures.\n\nGood luck
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
159858
you know what is best for you. your mother might be a pain in the a** how ever she just lost some one close to her and she needs you and your family more than you know. for now think of her for a little while then you can do what is best for you. even though we all know how mother in laws can be you can do it hang in there heath.