How in the world do I ever please my future mother-in-law?
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Move out. Tell your hubby it is me or mommie. no one needs to exist where they are slaves to thier inlaws. I cook I clean I work my butt off sounds a lot like cinderella except there will be no prince charming to help you out.
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Last year my then future daughter-in-law got me a beautiful candle holder with scented candles, we had a great relationship before they got married and continue to grow in our relationship. I have a great respect for her love of my son and she never forgets that I am his mom. Good luck.
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i am sure that your love for her is 'REAL', although if you are indeed a 'BabyBoi'...wait a while before getting married.\n\nhow long have you been with her? how well do you know her? how many females have you been with?  how many dudes has she been with?  i know that sounds kinda bad to ask about sex partners, but i guarantee you that it is hard to keep the flame lit after 20 years of marriage. \n\nyour and/or her feelings can change in 5 or 10 years. if you love her enough, wait until the time is right and the two of you are TRULY ready, not THINK you are ready.\n\ni'm not trying to be your mom or anything, i just have experienced it...trust that i know what i'm talking about.  if you don't think i do, and you are just rolling your eyes at me...just ask...
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Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
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Do everything u can to please them. Also talk to them to understand what they really want and explain to her u are doing all u can.
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Tell it to my mother-in-law
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be the man of her dreams.\n\nbe new and different every day.\n\nlearn what makes her tick, \nand push that button often.\n\n:-)
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Do everything possible to make her feel special...like she's the only woman on earth you see. Listen to her, and look her deeply in the eyes sometimes. Get her a flower every now and then. Make her feel special.
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Patience is a virtue, I always say. If you live with them I feel for you. Just a few things to remember, 1)if you love him then you will learn to appreciate and deal with the family that you married into. 2)Although, everyone disagrees sometimes try to bond with your inlaws and things will go better than being upset. 3)Get to know your mother-in-law as mother than just a mom but a friend or gal-pal. 4)Do something as a family together. Go out and do something that you all will enjoy.
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By being the best example to him that you can be.\n\nBy supporting him as head of the household.\n\nI know it's not the popular view, but I Peter 3:1-6 applies:  1Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—4rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.\n\n\nUltimately, your trust needs to be in God.  Too many times we put our faith in our husbands or in ourselves.  God wants your husband to come to Him.  Trust that and don't be afraid.  Just keep doing what you know you are supposed to do and be the best (non-nagging, no pressure) example you can be to and for him.
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i don't know where to begin....my mother in-law ate the top of my wedding cake while my husband and i were on our honeymoon, therefore we did not even have a piece to save in the freezer for our first anniversary, the wedding cake was a gift from my husbands aunt (so my mother in-law never even paid for it, which would have made it a little more understanding) also, right before we got married and i was trying on my dress she made the comment that my husbands first wife was busty and could not have fit her chest in a dress like mine. she also made the comment that if my husband and his ex were still together they'd have another baby by now..... the list continues on... i swear that woman needs to stick a foot in her mouth.
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This is one of the hardest things to resolve in relationships, unfortunately. Keep in mind that your mother-in-law is also your wife's mother. I'm sure you already know that most people try to please, or at least placate, their mother. You're in a difficult position, but there are some things you can do:\n\n1. Communicate with your wife ... constantly. The two of you must not allow this to interfere with your relationship.\n\n2. Communicate with your mother-in-law. Do NOT retaliate in kind ... EVER! Do NOT lose your temper! She obviously angers you, but you have to be bigger than that. Ask her what it is that bothers her about you and offer to try and change at least some of those things ( IF you can and IF they are not part and parcel of who you are ).\n\n3. If you can afford to, you and your wife should find a competent marriage counselor to help you cope with this problem ... soon!\n\n4. When the baby arrives, I suspect your mother-in-law will want very much to see him/her as often as possible, particularly if this is her first grandchild. This gives you an excellent lever. Stress to your mother-in-law that this is both YOUR child and HER grandchild, and that both of you should want to do what is best for the child; and that her berating you will definitely NOT be good for the child. As an ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT, if you and your wife AGREE on this, BOTH of you have a talk with her mother and tell her, as gently as possible, that the TWO of you have decided to not expose your child to your mother-in-law's berating of you. Stress that, if she is willing to stop it, she can visit anytime the three of you agree. Let me stress again that this is a LAST RESORT, and should only be used if BOTH you and your wife truly AGREE!\n\nGood luck with this, and don't foget to seek that which is best for ALL parties involved.
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Depends how strongly you want to have your own blood related child and also on how much you really love her. It is a very difficult situation but if you truly love her then you will have to think about other ways of having children e.g. adoption or fostering. Maybe she would even be willing to use a surrogate mother? You really need to speak to her about this before you rush into a marriage. You gotta remember that you only get one shot at this life so if you are gonna sacrifice your own needs just make sure that you give it a lot of thought and that you really are doing the right thing. I am truly sorry for you and your partner but would your love be strong enough to keep ignoring what u want and if answer to that is no then i cant see relationship working anyhow.\nBest of luck.\nMichelle xxxxxxxxxxx.
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be nice to people, even your mother-in-law.
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Just ask her what she wants to be called and respect her for it. Am sure she would really appreciate you for it.
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Just love her. If you really do then all the stuff that would make her happy you just naturally want to do and will do for her.\nYou will always be thinking of her and if you go to a store you will look for things for her instead of yourself. You will think very long and hard to come up with little gifts she will be overjoyed with. and because you love her the best thing in the world will be when she is pleased by the thing or gift you got for her. your pay back wil be just watching her being happy.\nYou will go out of your way for her to try to help her out of a bad situation and you will always put her before the things you would like to do.\nAnd if she really loves you she will do the same for you and you should always be in harmony because you both love each other more than you love yourselves.\nThat is the secret of a happy and long marriage with minimal fighting and stress. This how we work together and for the unity of the family. If you care more for her and she for you than you do about what you yourself want it is going to be great! Enjoy!
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Problem??? you dont want to be 'with" your wife??? then why you going to get married??\nwhat does she think? ask her this question\nmarried people should communicate TO each other and not online.\n\nTALK TO YOUR "NEW WIFE", COMMUNICATE TO HER!!!! \nSHE CAN TELL WHAT SHE LIKES AND TAKE IT FROM WHAT SHE TELLS YOU!!!\nDONT JUST DO IT THE MANY TIMES THAT PEOPLE SUGGEST ONLINE::\nTHEY DONT KNOW YOUR WIFE OR YOU.\nONLY YOU 2 KNOW HOW OFTEN YOU BOTH WANT TO. NO ONE CAN GIVE YOU A NUMBER!!!!\nBE CONSIDERATE OF HER FEELINGS. TALK TO HER!!!!!