Another  Husband Issue........?
152892
well im 34 and my hubby is 40 been with him since i was 18 going on 19 and he was 25 going on 26.i dunno how long ya waited to get married but for me we lived together for years building our trust and relationship before we married . actually i was 26 when we married and he was then 32 . the point is some say age doesnt matter  well in some cases it does. men that are with us younger girls seem to like to keep small tabs on us where we been and with who and how long ya been there all because the age difference makes them feel insecure . perhaps hes noticed  men ur age  looking at you or saying helo or just a friendly smile. thats enough to make any guy jealous.. heres what i did.. id assure him hes the best thing evr happend to me and he should feel proud that other men look , smile, say helo to me when im with him because  that should tell him he has something special right by his side and  that something special is you and he has  you to love, to hold, and to cherish the rest of his life because you married him not for the piece of paper but for the man you met  and fell in love with and their could only be one man like that for you and hes the one. now i dont mean  ya have to be exact in that way but i would just reassure him the luv between yas is still there no matter how much probes. and if all fails  just ask him right out what changed in 2 years time? doesn't hurt to ask sometimes that all  it takes..
648549
That is very strange...my husband and I are going through the same thing right now.  We've been married for 11 years  It has been frustrating.  Lack of passion has been the worst I think.  We are however determined to get through this funk.  He is reading a book called "For Men Only" and I am reading the companion book called "For Women Only" it's by the authour Feldman, Shaunti. Another good one is "His Needs, Her Needs" I can't think of the author off the top of my head but it's a good read too.  I hope that helps and I hope that you two will become more passionate and in love because of it.  Best wishes...   :)
1082017
I wish I knew.  I've never had this problem.  It doesn't take much to encourage me at all!  I actually have the exact OPPOSITE problem that your husband does.
405997
Chat with your wife - trust me.  She will have the answers you're really looking for, and if she doesn't a marriage counselor will.  Chatting with another woman on the internet is NOT going to help your situation, and will almost definitely make it more complicated and/or worse.
1150823
Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
813202
It seems that neither of these men are right for you.  Your husband does not appreciate you and the other man is married and very much out of bounds.\n\nIn any other circumstance, I would say leave your husband, but you owe it to your unborn child to give your relationship a go.  Tell the other man that, although you have enjoyed his conversations and company all this time, you feel you have to give your marriage 100% and that you will have to sever all contact with him.  If you have to, get your phone number changed.\n\nThen, sit your husband down and explain to him how you feel.  Tell him that he must consider your feelings.  Lots of men find it difficult to change their ways, but you must try.  Give it a year, then you'll know for sure whether you can stay married.\n\nGood Luck.
456224
Talk to your husband and ask him what it is he wants to to change if he is being reasonable take his suggestions into account and try to implement them, but don't go out of your way to make him happy at the expense of your own happiness. You love each other so you can work though this to make it work.
92926
Sorry for you, i know its hard to feel this way but i was wondering the same for my fiend's husbands but i figured out that most men are the same after some years of marrige and I found that the same is going on in most of the series on the tv.  \ntry to fill your time with other things, and hope he misses you and change
382602
I can't think of anything good about it.  Being controlled by someone else is very unsatisfying and can ruin a marriage very quickly.  Tell him that they both need to get some therapy.  Only because she has a problem and he does also because he lets her control things.
722366
Let me impart some advice to not so much you especially as your husband...See a doctor man!! That's the remedy.
1035296
First your stupid for wanting to give the husband another chance..he will not change.\nAs for the other guy you really don't have any feelings for him and he's just there to pick up the pieces.You will be doing him a favor.\nHopefully through all this your kids will be somewhat normal.
883546
sounds like self sabotage to me. Have you asked yourself, why you do not want to be alone? \n\nSounds like you and your husband need to make changes together. It isn't right that you arbitrarily made a decision for him, by stepping out on him. Would you like it done to you? \n\nAnother thing, have you asked yourself why you chose a married man? You know that he isn't going to leave his wife, or should. He has no business being with you, as you have no business being with him. It isn't fair to you or the other people... such as your husband, and his wife. If the roles were reversed and you didn't know... how would you feel  once you found out... and now say you and the husband who is going to leave his wife, get together, live together, get married. Can you be certain since his history ( with you) has shown that he isn't imune to cheating since you were the other woman. Whos to say he wouldn't cheat on you with someone else? \nYou need to stop setting yourself up for train wrecks waiting to happen and fix the situation you are already in. Break it off with the married man, and leave him alone. Talk to your husband if you want to make this work, open up the lines of communication and seek marriage councilling! Don't be mean and blurt out that you are having an affair because he is ignoring you and is not the sexual life of the party in the bedroom. This isn't all his fault and you need to realize that you both have needs that are not getting met, it takes two to make a marriage work and putting blame on him is not going to heal you. You need to figure out what your needs and wants are, and talking to someone to try to discover the part of you that is lost will help you in this relationship or any HEALTHY relationship you get into in the future!
1083760
The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
1172600
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY!  It looks like he made his choice already.  A man will never leave his wife to be with the other woman.  If you guys were talking before he got married and he still married the other woman...I'm sorry to say, but he is not thinking about leaving his wife for you.  He has his cake and eating it too..so to say.  You are only hurting yourself if you continue to pursue this relationship.  Save yourself from anymore heartache and just end it.
484529
Give him a second chance since you are married to him.  Marriage is actually a life long forgiving and acceptance cycle.  Remember, none of us are perfect and all of us can falter in one way or another.  Try to find other good qualities in him which you may miss if you keep reminding yourself of this one incident. God bless!
440039
emotionally dilemma for him..\n\nget a grip and don't rush things...let him settle his matters with his wife first...before you proceed with your relationship..
382231
Sounds like you got yourself in a little trouble. Well your husband must not be doing something right or you would not be in love with another man in the first place. First off tell this man how you feel and let him know if there is gonna be something serious between the two of you it cant go on this way for ever because its just not fair to any of you and if he feels the same way about you then maybe its time you let your significant others go. Second is this man going to be worth losing your husband over. And third when you look into the future can you picture yourself not with your husband and also him with another women? Life is to short if your truly in love with this man go with your heart, and dont wait untill its to late.