he didnt cheat but what he did really hurt me!!!!?
138079
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.
760256
Well, if he didn't cheat on you physically, I think you are ok, but if this isn't the first time hes done it, dump his @$$.  Take him back for now, keep him on "probation" and see what happens.
481949
Neither of you love each other since you both cheated, whether it was for plasure or revenge it doesnt matter. This is a mentally dangerous situation as that he has become a habit. Habits are hard to break especially the ones that last for years. You have been doing this for so long that you cant remember what life was like before him. You deserve better. Unfortunately you cant listen to your heart on this one. Leave. Does it feel good knowing he might have been inside another woman hours earlier without protection then inside you? Do you always want to have that feeling? Search your soul and find your courage to whats right for your emotional and mental future.
1003212
Forget him...there was obviously a good reason why you broke up with eachother..and honey...he was cheating on his gf wit u ....what makes u think he won't cheat on u wit someone else??Find yourself a real man!<3
508836
Dont feel lost broken or confused.  These things have a way of working themselves out.  If he sees you for who you are and her as the cheater, then hopefully he will make the right choice.  You can always remind him of your loyalty.
309811
my dear the hurt and pain belong to u and not him and therefore you need to make a decision based on what u feel is best for you. ask yourself if he is worth all the pain you undergo? does he meet your emotional needs or is it just baseless love? choose what it is that works best for you  \nif he did that without telling you what about those things he does behind your back which u don't end up knowing \nthey may be more hurtful than this.\n\nTrust me gal a bad guy is like a disease Keep off early enough to avoid contamination
602655
Most likely not.  Men who cheat tend to keep on cheating.  The real question is did he confess it or did you find out?  If he confessed he's at least show he regrets it, and is trying to be more honest.  If you found out he'll just be more careful in the future.
15151
First, you have my sympathy. Betrayal always hurt. I am sure that you are torn up inside. However, let me point out several thing. Isn't better to know his character now-- otuside of marriage, if that is where you were hoping the relationship would go-- rather than after marriage?  Second, recognize that people rarely change their stripes, if he comes back and wants a second chance... I would encourage you to firmly let him know that "betraying for five years does not deserve asecond chance. You have no intention to give him the chance to hurt you again."\nFinally, remember that women cheat on men too! So your questions can be better phrased, why do people cheat when they are in a love relationship?
159356
Show him how much you truly cares no matter what happened. But if it didn't worked, talk to him seriously and let him choose ..whether he would stop doing it or you would let him go. Try to figure out whats wrong in your relationship. Try to encourage him to attend a mass. Pray together. At least at the end, its not your fault, you did all your best. If its not enough.Maybe, he didnt love you. Though it really hurts, accept it! Sorry dear.
862863
If i were you, because this guy has cheated on his girlfriend he will also do the same to you and disregard your feelings in time to come by going off with someone else....best advice i can give you is to protect your heart.
725720
yea u were wrong but u were provoked. i can't believe i'm sayin this but he's wrong. news flash toots, your guy is either cheatin on u or no longer interested in u and this was a convenient way for him to get rid of u. it's one of those 2 things, i guarantee it. good luck. be happy it's only 7 months invested b4 u found out what an @ss he is.
1003390
Gurl once a cheater always a cheater. He disrespected you by cheating on you on, while you saved yourself for him. It's not ok for anyone to cheat on anyone. People do what you let them do to you. If you forgive him for cheating this time it's likely he'll do it again. But since you say you love him I would suggest you both seperate for a while and see if you can't find a better man than him that will treat you like the diamond you are. Good Luck!
687856
Well first I'm curious why u broke up with him. If it was because he was cheating then he really isn't worth it.\n\nIf its something else, try approaching him as a friend and get an idea of how he feels about you. Work from there.
859871
Well for one you cheated not him, does it even matter if he's cheating anymore, you already ruined the relationship, move on.
943290
Good grief girl, run from this loser!!!!  He doesn't care for you!!!  I'm sorry honey, but you have to get some self respect, not allow anyone to treat you like this and get on with life!  This creep doesn't care for you no matter what he says.  His actions do all the talking!!   If he cared for you he would act like it, not just talk about it.  Doesn't matter if he's still cheating.  He did cheat and will again.  But he doesn't care for you.   Get far away from him.  The hurt will heal and someone who really does care for you will come along and treat you the way you were meant to be treated.  Good luck, honey.
574821
WOW, people are so hard. Your man cheated, it hurts, it was wrong. You love him right, its NOT easy to love someone. First find out why he cheated, not the drunk thing but really, what it is he feels he missing being with you. Now when you find that out, maybe it is something you both can fix. But if its not then maybe him cheating was a good thing, now you know your marriage isn't strong. As Jesus said "those without sin cast the first stone" We all make mistakes and want forgiveness somewhere down the road of life.
1175968
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)