what should we do if someone deceives us in love?
103407
Have enough self respect to remove that person from your life.  Kick it to the curb because deceipt DOES NOT enhance your life and if you believe it will not happen again.....then you're not being honest or truthful to yourself!!
162663
Cheating means that you deceive someone you love (hopefully love anyway). If you do it openly they have the option to kick your butt, join in or leave you alone with your new find.\n\nNot telling them is just a cowardly way of lying. Postponing the truth and hoping it won't be found out.
759125
If this guy truely loves you I do not why he should lie to You. I f you are sure about his love for you then no problem. But if not, Be careful.
77207
Judge him by his actions and not by his words.  Some day you will be with someone who will lie to you when they talk about their feelings.  You also will be with someone who doesn't know how they feel, or can't put it into words.  Learn early to put more weight into actions.  There will be less confusion and you will save yourself lots of grief.  \n\nIs he there all the time?  Does he sacrifice other things to be with you?  Will he spend time with you alone even if you don't fool around?  Does he let everyone know he's with you?  These things hold more weight than what comes out of someone's mouth.
193545
First of all, if you really love this person you'd be able to forgive him and overlook his transgression. But, if this is something that is a habit of his, then it should be obvious that he has no true respect for you, and without that he can't possibly love you in return. So, if this is just a one time incident, and you otherwise trust him, then tell him how you feel about this. If he asks for forgiveness, then give him a chance. If all he does is appologize, then he's probably not sincere. In that case you'd do better to move on and find someone else.
967251
Ignore them...see what happens. Be too busy with your life to call them all the time. If they really love you, they will chase you. Put yourself in places they will have to see you...by accident of course ;-)  And act like you didn't know they were there. If you catch them staring...look at them, smile and wink, and walk on. I actually pinched a guy on the butt and kept walking once. (yeah, he called) lol But back to your original question, Everyone is different. Some people show love, some people don't know how. People won't always believe what you say, but they will always believe what you do. What do they do? They can tell you all day long they love you, but do they show it? Do they give you the last cookie? It's little things. I didn't know a guy loved me like he did, until it was too late.  He didn't show it, I assumed he didn't. Hopefully we learn from our mistakes. Life goes on. I am happier, He is happier. That's life.
121270
well sometimes you can trick yourself out of love if you are always so anti- love. If you go into a relationship cynically believing that it will be nothing but lust, then it very well may turn into a self fufilling prophecy. you will never give yourself the chance to experience love because you will always believe it is lust.
604863
There's a difference between really loving someone and not knowing them. You can implicitly trust someone and convince yourself that you are in love, but what does that mean, and for how long?\n\nFor all you know, he could be a con artist whose real name you do not even know. He might marry you under an assumed identity, sell your stuff and leave. He might even take your dog!\n\nDon't be stupid. Yeah, it's okay, but only people whose primary "virtue" is recklessness do it.
1160408
We can ALL answer that question FOR ourselves, and ABOUT ourselves.  We're all guilty of 'the little white lie' once in a while.  However, being BRUTALLY honest isn't always a good thing.  \n\nIf someone is TELLING you they love you, but ACTING in a way that says they do not love you...it's the ACTION that is the TRUTH and the REALITY of their feelings towards you.   Trust is an EARNED privilege - be honest yourself and demand it from others as well.
1055995
its hard to say.. i a person is a fool thats why he falls in Love, or after falling in Love he became a Fool.\n\nIts anyones Call.
721997
tell him you love him while he is hooked up to a polygraph\nthat way if he says "i love you too" back to you, you can tell if hes lying or not. \n\nalthough it may ruin your relationship that's probably the easiest way.. \nthanks for the terribly vague and hackneyed question though
672045
You should do whats best for you. Him hurting himseld is just to make you feel guilty. If he lied about simple things imagine what he will lie about in the future. Get out while you can. Your in love with the idea of being in love right now. Get out have fun and experience life.
296631
I'm guessing that you do like this person too, and would be terribly disappointed to learn he (she) was using you. But let me tell you som'n. If that person is using you, he (she) will never let it show or tell you straight, so you might never be able to have that confirmed. But on the other hand, if you stop trusting him, your relationship will suffer from it.\n\nSo you have no choice but to sit ant talk to that person. Make things clear. Tell that person how you feel, share your concerns. It might look scary for the short term, but trust me, on the long run, you'll win big (or lose less!!)\n\ngd-luck!
752265
Turn it around and tell him he obviously doesn't trust you, which means he doesn't care (feel love) for you.\nNow have HIM prove it if he doesn't agree!  ;-)
798401
can you what?! you know they do have spell check.\n\nOK. i see what you were trying to say. and the answer is of course! i think the trick behind it is to not immediately throw your trust into any relationship. a lot of people fall in 'love' so quickly that they let their guard down. you have to really take the time to get to know someone.if you do this then you'll be more cautious of who you love and you won't be disappointed in the end. \n\ngood luck.
1053022
Dump them before they dump you or hurt you more than you already are hurt.\n\nBut if they were using me to cheat on their girlfriend....I would dumo them before they knew what happened and tell their girlfriend.
358416
Unless they admit or you catch them at it - you cant find out.\n\nYou just have to trust your partner or you'll push them into the arms of someone else anyway.