i have always talked real fast,how can i slow it down?
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Here are some things that might help:\n\nTry a metronone and music. Find the pace that you want, set the metronone for that pace and practice talking. For presentation speech, educators have recommended the same pace as a baroque fugue.\n\nGet audio recordings of someone who you think has a good pace. Practice speaking along with them. Unabridged audio books are good because you can then also have a paper copy of the book and read aloud as the audio plays. Both are available at the library.\n\nConsider talking as a performance, not only communication. Watch your listener(s) for signs of discomfort and use this feedback to help set your speed.\n\nIf you're having a conversation, speak no more than three sentences without pausing. Wait to see if they have something to say. Then go on.\n\nHope these help. I can't refer to websites; I pulled these out of my head. I've collected tips like these over the years to use for my own development.\n\nI observed that fast speech turns people off and decreases comprehension, the opposite of what we're trying to accomplish.\n\nOne group that I go to that encourages public speaking has had this little story going around: "How long can I talk for when it's my turn?" The response: "You can talk for as long as you want to as long as you realize that nobody is listening after three minutes."\nFor fast talkers, the attention span is more like one minute.
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OK. if that is the way you are, and it work all the time, don't give yourself to much trouble for that just let it go. but if it doesn't work or only work sometime, just, don't try once to have everything over, but when you see somebody who you want to talk o, find an interesting subject to talk to this person about, and if you don't find one, just say hello to the person and you will catch it next time. so if before you go to somebody, you look for something interesting to talk to that  person about, that will slow down the way you interact with people you just met.
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Slow down and don't say the first thing that pops into your head.  Think before you speak and think before you act.  Learn about and talk about serious matters.
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Try not to listen to what they say and ignore their comments as much as you can. The less you talk and act like you have time for them, then the more they will get the picture. Set an example for them on how one should be. They just might learn something from you indirectly.
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Practice your speech in front of friends/family first.  They will give you good practice and help suggest things you might not have noticed like you're moving your hands around too much.\nPut the speech in perspective.  Talk as though your speech is the most important thing in the world and you need to get out there and let the world know what you have to say.\nYou are too focused on what people will think and truthfully no one will really remember.\nAlso practice daily visualization of your perfect speech.  Imagine over and over how well it will go.  Don't negativity into your mind.  And just do it!  Turn your fear into a nice rush.\nEverything will go okay.
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You really need to talk first and make plans later.\nDo not rush things.
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I tend to speak too fast - I'm an impatient person & try not to interrupt people who speak too slowly.  I do, however, use proper grammar & sentence structure.  \n\nSide note: I type the same way: 75wpm.
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Talking is probably the largest factor I can think of. \n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Becoming genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nA somewhat easy way to get a conversation started is to make a short complaint about something that you know the other person doesn't like. Generally the other person will complain too and you'll have you're conversation. You have to be Very careful not to do this often because you don't want the other person to think you're a whiner.\n\nThere are lots of other ways to start a conversation as well and college is a great place for it. Keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.
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Only way to learn fast is to be cool and composite, plan in well advance, try to discuss with friends and try to create a photographic memory because that lasts longer.  Get some time to relax and take some time off from daily activities.  When you learn try to create some links with that what you want to remember.  Get a sound sleep, worrying about anything makes you more vulnerable of forgetting.
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Might be a tie, but I think I confuse others more--by talking too fast.  I [usually] know what I'm trying to say but am often met with blank looks because my wordsslurredtogether.  ;)
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There are several books out there that help you with this.\nThey give you homework in a sence that will help you speak it faster.\nOnly time will help you with this. \nI know there are certain key your you use while you speak fast and you should know them and use them. \nOff the top of my head I cant remember what the Name of the book is But I know a friend on mine got it at Barns-Nobel\nAnd within 3 1/2 months I could not keep up with him.\nIt is usefull and also Funny at the same Time\nPratice Away and GoodLuck
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Get ready with your speech beforehand Try giving the sppech in front of your close friends. Do formulate your strategy like what will be the beginning, the middle and lastly the conclusion. Try modulation of your voice  which sentence to speak forcefully and which in lower tone.
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I would say try some tongue exercises, but that might tire you and make speech even more difficult. Still, it might help. If not, look at it this way. People who speak slower are viewed as being more intelligent. Just look at them like you are giving their conversation a great deal of intellectual thought, and they will probably think you are brilliant. \n\nSeriously, talk to your doctor about this and ask if there is something you could do. Perhaps there is therapy for this problem.\n\nGood luck.
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i have the same problem...it actually harder for me in front of people that i know...oddly enough, strangers i have no trouble with...but that may just be me. but here are my guild lines\n\n1st know what you are going to say...practice your speech to the point that even if you start freaking out you can still say everything you want to say without thinking\n\n2nd when it comes time for you to make the speech...be calm...close off your emotions as much as you can...almost to the point of not thinking...this does help me\n\n3rd when i was starting out i couldn't make direct eye contact with anyone while giving the speech...this msy not be the case with you but it sure helped with me\n\nrecently i was kinda trust into a position where i had to give speeches about 2 time a week...i can honestly say that the more you do it the better you will get at it...and the easier it will become...so if you are going to have to give a speech quiet often it will get easier\n\njust to let you know after giving a speech i was so nearvous that i would almost be crying at the end of a speech...i am not normally the emotional type but then i was...now i can give speeches with relative ease...still not as good as i want to be but better none the less.\n\ni wish you the best of luck on your speech
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I have the same problem, but I try to limit talking to anyone online though because thats just me. I know a lot of people tell me once you get out of high school you "break out of that shell". \n\nI am going to get a job which requires customer service and social skills though, I think if I know I have to, I'll be able to build the skill of talking a lot.\n\nIf you mumble, or stutter, or stumble on the words when you talk to people just think before you say something because I know when I try to say something really fast and then I forget I always stumble on the words lol.\n\nHope this helps :)
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Have you tried Singing this helps with stammering as you use a different part of you brain to control your voice, than you use when talking. Also breathing exercises are very helpful and don't try to say every thing at once, just slow down and take your time there is no hurry.\nHealth, Peace and Happiness.
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practice and know what you are going to say. The more confidentand comfortable you are, the easier it is to speak in public. \n\nremember almost everybody - even the smoothest of speakers has some anxiety when talking in public - it is only natural.