How do you mend a relationship that ended but, you want to give it one more try after 2 years of being apart?
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Tons of good luck.  But if the two of you still have feelings for one another, then I think your best bet is to take it from the beginning-act as if you never dated before.  My bf and I broke up for a short amount of time (something which I will regret for the rest of my life),but I got lucky and he took me back.  That is what I believe true love does.  Just remember to take it slow and not rush into any old feelings-make new ones to build upon the ones you already have
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How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and try to move on.  I know it's probably the hardest thing you could possibly do right now, but the longer you let it drag on, the harder it will be.  In the end, a clean break is the best and easiest way.  Eventually you'll get over it.\n\nGood luck.
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Please elaborate on the question.  You can't "win" someone back as if they were a prize.  If you two can talk out your differences and find some common ground to build on fine, go for it, and don't be afraid to seek help from a professional.  If you can't, it's over and you'll have to move on.\n\nOk, part 2 since now I have more info.  There are couples that split because their lives end up going in different directions and then later on they get back together.  There are also couples that stay married but live in seperate houses within a few hundred miles of each other and see each other on weekends.  I don't know why, but that's the way I've seen some couples do it.  If there really is a bond between you and your wife such as friendship and romance, I'd ask her out on a date to talk over coffee and see if you two can't find some common ground to stand on.  Just a suggestion.
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You are hurt now.  \nIf you want to be hurt again, then forgive him.  \nIf you want to get over the hurt faster, then dump him and find someone to be happy with.
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I would say just get back together
81580
should say good things that you remember about the time you're still together... bring back the good ole memories... try to flatter her and lower yourself... make him/her feel that it's your fault or something... that'll make him/her feel better and it softens heart.... good luck!
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think long and hard about why you two split up to begin with. if you feel like you have both changed and can make it work this time, give it a shot. \nare there children involved? if so be VERY careful not to get there hopes back up if things wont work out again.
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I think "trial separations" are another way to say "I don't want to break your heart all ant once and get it over with, I want to drag it out for months, maybe even years". Time apart means less time for communication, which means more misunderstandings and more hard feelings.\n\nThe only way you are going to make your marriage work again is by making time for each other, talking about the issues and working thigs out together.  Find a good marriage counselor. If either of you are not serious about it, though, don't drag it out, just get it over with. \n\nIf I may suggest, if you have the money, one of you move out and plant to "date" each other again. Go steady for a few months, find the spark again. But don't "separate" it is just a preparation for "divorce".
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Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
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it depends...if he still have love feelings for you, it will be easy for him to be back again in your arms...also, you could try the ff:\ntry to reconcile to him, try visiting him at his home & bring some of his favorite food made by you, as for peace offering....\ntry to use his weakness/ticklish, for him to be easily fall for you again...\nsay I love you with all your heart & hug him as you hug your favorite pillow or teddy bear!
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Well you haven't said if she knows you have changed or not, nor did you say if you asked her for another chance. If she doesn't know you want another chance I would suggest you ask her. If and when you do ask her and she says no then I would suggest you read a book called, "How to mend a broken heart, letting go and moving on" by Aleta Koman. You can't really make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if she does turn you down it's going to be hard but you've got to go on with your life and such. That book will help you wonders and help you understand things a lot more clearer. I've been through the same thing with my ex but not because I wasn't there for her but for another reason. I asked her to give me another chance numerous times and she turned me down. So the next thing I did was look up some books on the internet for this type of thing and came across that book.
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Whatever the reason for your ex being your ex. Put yourself in their shoes and think about the situation and what you would do. Be true about the considerations...it only help u know wether it's worth trying to get back together.
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Everyone deserves a second chance but if it was something you can not get over don't bother taking him/her back. It will cause problems. Leave the past in the past. Start over new.
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First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
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Someone once told me that it takes 2 times the length you had feelings for the other person to get over that person.  If your feelings lasted 4 years, it will take 8 years to heal!!\n\nI agree that time is really the only remedy for a broken heart.  Take some time to think about how life was before you started the relationship.  Think back to those "happy" memories.  Do things on your own or with a few close friends of yours.  Keep yourself busy.  If you can find lots and lots of thing to do, the time to heal will flash by in a blink of an eye.  There are many things to do to keep a mind occupied!! haha
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The best way is to make your life into something special that you are proud of.  Nothing hurts an ex more than seeing that you were able to move on and make your life better without them in it.