how can I heal a chronic broken heart? it seems i will carry the pain for the rest of my  life?
100137
It took ten years for my poor poor heart to mend after I divorced my husband of 13 years b/c he had a baby with an aquaitance of mine and I felt sorry for her not being married and all gave her a baby shower and gave her all my childs things (i did not know it was his child til later). It just takes time. I dove into my work and made new friends (seeing as how all my old friends knew it was his child and did not tell me) and spent some quality time with myself. I got to know me really well and decided I really liked the new me. Just give yourself time to heal and get involved with work and friends. It does help. Oh and try not to drown your sorrows in alchol and drugs. I tried that I lost everything I had AGAIN and had to start over. Good luck to you and try and hang in there the world has a lot to offer if you will just stop and look around. I am happily married now to a wonderful and caring man that adores me! I am living proof that your heart can and will mend. I may stil be cracked but it will heal.
444797
It depends on many things; how much you loved them, how long you were with them, how much they hurt you, who or what else you have in your life and how often you see them. No-one knows how long it will take, and it does hurt, but know that you will get over it. It's not gonna always feel like this. I'm sorry you are hurting just take everyday as it comes and you will find love again. Take Care   ;-)
759583
Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
86140
Okay first breath...It hurts but you will grow so much more then you will ever know once you move pass this...Where were you on Saturday...My heart was so broke...I was told today to hang my head high and walk with pride and no matter what always know that you are better then that and you will hurt for a while and then you will see day light...Its not a matter of loveing to much or not enough its a matter of selfishness on the other persons part...Or just know that life moves and breaking up is part of that move and it hurst yes but time will heal all...Good luck
320003
It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
205670
i'm sorry sweety but you can't repair it. you just have to move on. i know how you feel. i've been borken hearted and i'm fine now. you'll be fine.
876874
in the long run, it makes you appreciate the good people that come into your life, although i am not going to lie...that heartbreak will always stay with you and you will find yourself reflecting back on the one who broke your heart...but you will move on and find someone else  =)
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
1185608
I think you need to be honest with yourself and bring everything out in the open.There are reasons why you hurt so deeply,the only way to ever move past it is to go through it.The first thing you need to do is to know your worth,that yes things have happened in your life as they do us all some more than others.You have to take it as a learning experience it will only make you stronger in time,sometimes we can help others through our own trials,its not always easy you have to keep going though.Drinking and partying or any of these things you are doing its not healing your pain it wont its a bandaid.Get real ,loose the crutch,try to find positive people to surround yourself with,then you will see a positive outcome.If you really want things to change it will also help you to know that,God is always with you even when you are not with him,I hope that you can find the light to lead you out of such a dark place,I know its there I found it so can you,you just have to reach for it.May God keep watch after you.
1015646
Tell her as we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to\nEver let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably\nMore than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so\nRemember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best\nFriend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry\nBecause time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you\nLove. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've\nNever been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of\nHappiness you'll never get back. \n\nDon't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never\nBegin.
408940
it hurts so much because the heart is involved, but it will eventually end and you can move on with your life and find someone that will love you just as much as you love them
723691
Don't believe crying yourself to sleep at nights will help you to overcome a heart break. The first steps are to relax and spend some time with friends and family, not to mention going out and having some fun. These are all to take your mind off "the heart breaker". If that doesn't work, try meeting new people. The aim for all this is to open up your eyes, and allow yourself to see the truth. Which is that you are still a valuable person. Besides, look at it this way, you are not the one losing, he is. They are losing a unique individual.\n\nMy personal philosophy in life is that out of everything bad comes something good. Therefore, the bad thing in this situation is losing the person you love, hence ending up with a broken heart. However the good thing that will come out of it is that, with that person out of your life, you will meet someone new. Someone who will accept you and appreciate you for who you are.\n\nSo again, I'll ask, can one mend one's broken wings and learn to fly again? Sure you can. Love comes with a lot of risks so before falling, first consider the cost and weigh your feelings.
764313
If u just got out of a relationship then that's why your heart broken n u need time to heal.Just like when someone dies u need to morn the same goes for when u r in a relationship.
816196
u will grieve as long as u stay in the past, and blame yourself for it. it didn't just happen overnight, so quickly, it's been in his mind for awhile. yes we will be hurt for sometime, takes time to move on after heartbreak. just something we all must go through in life, it's really a learning process for us, only we can't see it, as were too busy trying to figure out why. sometimes other people's choices in life do break our hearts, and we have no control over what that person chooses to do, we may never know why. but it's how we handle the hurt that is key to our recovery. he just didn't have the self control he should have. personally rather than live with a cheater i would rather deal with the heartbreak now, than again later on. this is who he is, and it really has nothing to do with your self worth. we just have to move forward, and in spite of our hurts, know that pain doesn't leave us where it finds us, that when one door closes another one opens up. often times we put too much trust in people we don't know that well, and we set ourselves up for it.we expect them to be as fair in a relationship as we have been. we don't quite understand how it could happen, well this is who he is and how he thinks.
691903
I know it is very painful, but in all honesty it sounds like he is using you. It's a hard lesson to learn, but money/gifts can't buy love. Better for you to find out what he's like now rather than later. Now you can go back to your old town and get on with your life. I know if won't be easy. It's going to take some time to get over him. A broken heart takes time to heal. And, I think you are far better off without him, since he seems to be the kind of guy who takes advantage of others. You may not believe it now, but you will get over him in time. Be gentle with yourself. Get involved in other activities. Your heart will mend. God Bless!
1067541
This question has no answer that can possibly relieve your pain, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to live your life to the fullest.\nI hope you are able to find a support group to help you through this time.
730884
No one here can help you truly heal. \nReading your question brings me back about a year ago when my relationship ended after about 4years together. I really thought that i was going to die. And all my friends kept on telling me that time would heal my heart and while i am waiting the time away i needed to just surround my self with friends and family and keep my self busy. All good and well and so i did and the time did heal me a bit i stop crying every night and i was able to get back into the swing of things however every now and again i am taken back to that time and i face that same pounding in my chest and that feeling of heaviness on my heart Anything can trigger it but i find that a song or a smell and of course the Holidays.. This will be the second thanksgiving apart now i am in a new relationship but i will never forget that one love of a lifetime.\nI wish you well and know that you are not alone in your hurting.. \nAnd one more time Only time can heal your broken heart.