Why did my dad to have to die?
108262
Wow, this has to be the toughest question ever asked. I'm sure some people, especially the religious will jump on this though, since they think they have the answers to everything.\nI don't have the 'real' answer, but I do know a few facts. Life is short, for even the person who has lived the longest will attest to this. Therefore, it is up to us to live life to the fullest, and enjoy every moment we can.\nI'm sorry to hear about your dad. Some people will say it was just 'his time'. Either way, it's not easy. Just try to remember the good times and keep his memory alive within you. I hope you get to feeling better.
1076531
You are so damn lucky that dad love you want you to live with him..... Guess what? My Mom and Dad have the most awful marriage and they were divorced when I was two and they remarried when i was 18. didn't last 2 months i love my mom and dad and they still put me in the middle between them. \n\nYou so lucky that your Dad love you... I lost my father he died having cancer he died Feb. 2006... UMMM i never get a chance to tell my father I love him wished that He never been like this. Before he died he told my uncle that tell my son I not mad at him and it my fault and I deserved this death. God Damn Him, I never stop thinking about him all my life still to this day.\n\nYou go and see what he is capable of and once you know that he same father that he love you and your brother and go live with him....Most kids stay with mom than dad. and sad part I wish I live with my dad I might help him change him better person but didn't happen.\n\nYou so lucky to have Dad that want you live with him and being there for you. That I don't have, I still missed my father so much that hurts me most that My mom hid me from my dad.\n\nWish you luck......and you are only 15 hrs from your mother.
197283
You know i have that same problem.  Don't know my DAd and my Mom passed 7 years ago.  Maybe someone in your family can help you out.  I wish you the best of luck.  Or maybe call the Maury Show.
955043
Really sorry to hear about your Dad....It depends on the severity of the cancer and the treatments he recieves. \n\nAll the best !!
793089
Do whatever it takes to fix it.  You always think you have time but you don't.  I waited to even talk to my dad and he died before I could.  We hadn't talked in years and I regret that so much.  Don't let that happen to you, you never know when someone will be taken from your life unexpectedly.
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It is NOT your fault.  Your dad made the decision to do this on his own.  You had nothing to do with it.  You are a great person.  Find an adult you can trust and talk to them about it.  They can help you deal with your feelings.  \nYou did nothing wrong.  You are a great person who loved your dad very much and did the best you could to help him feel better.
850062
I actually had a nightmare of me killing my dad. Sick I know but thats life. And no I dont want to do it so I got no idea why I had that dream.
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I WAS 9 YEARS OLD WHEN MY FATHER DIED I DID Not GET TO SAY\nGOOD BYE OR ANY THING. SO IF I COULD IT WOULD OF BEEN THIS:\nyour in my heart always and death can't part us.
1168862
i dont know - my dads been gone for 27 years ,he died when i was 8
759854
Be honest with you dad, set down and have a father to son talk. remember there are only a few moments we can treasure maybe you can make this the best trip he ever had with you and the family it may be his last of yours. It's your dad you owe it to go. at least you will have done something with him he likes to do and tell him he has to enjoy a trip the you would like to go on.
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as soon as your dads sperm met your moms egg, you allready died. i'm serious, if you think about it as soon as that happened many of us believe that life starts but in fact you all ready start to die and therefore you never live anyway you are always in a state of getting ready to die.
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No, I think it's a part of the whole grieving process.  When I lost my dad, I went through months of clinging to my mom and wanting to talk to her every day, etc.  The reality of losing your parents is what is scaring you; not you dying.  I'm sure you're sick of people telling you that it will get easier...honestly, it will.  I feel for you because of the holidays and all...it will be rough, but you will get through it.  Take care!
384109
I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
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You did the right thing.  Your father on the hand was in the wrong and placed you in a horrible situation and by your choice you protected your mother.  Sad, but your father should have been protecting the both of you rather than you having to protect yourselves from him.  Don't let him guilt you, it is his own shame he must deal with not you dear.
143331
Sorry I now how it feals. My father died in 1999. Take care of yourself a keep busy all the time don't have any free time so you don't think about it and stay with friends.
463484
I'm so sorry for your loss.  When my dad died, I was comforted by the fact that he joined the "great cloud of witnesses" in heaven and that he could see me and cheer me on.  I'm sure that your popo would like to see you succeed in your life.  Think of him each day in a positive way and work to make him proud.  Remember the good times and focus on the good memories.  Ask your teacher(s) if there is any way you could do some extra credit to bring your grades back up.  You can do this -- one day at a time.
950550
Not reconciling with my dad before he died.