My first love broke my heart terribly, do you ever get over it?
114388
You can get over the pain of them hurting you,but its alot harder to get over actually loving them if it was true love!(Its been 3 years for me and i've forgave them for hurting me,but i can't stop loving them even through the other guys i've seen)
876874
in the long run, it makes you appreciate the good people that come into your life, although i am not going to lie...that heartbreak will always stay with you and you will find yourself reflecting back on the one who broke your heart...but you will move on and find someone else  =)
614010
my first love died when i was 14. i loved her with all my heart. i think about her every day. it has ruined all other relationships i've tried to have with people. i wish she could be with me now.
1136136
Yes and it was very difficult.  I think I broke my own heart as much as I broke hers.  I was with a very beautiful girl whom I had a lot of chemistry with.  I was in a committed relationship with her for a couple of years and so it occurred to me that it was time for me to ask for her hand in marriage or call it quits.  I wasn't so sure about marrying her, but I loved her deeply so I cut her loose.\n\nIt seems to me that as women age the likelihood that they will attract a man that they feel suitable for marriage decreases.  I liked being with her a lot, but I didn't want her to waste her pretty years with me when I didn't think I was going to marry her.  She meant a lot to me, in fact she still means a lot, but I know that it is better this way. \n\nMaybe if I didn't give a crap about her we'd still be together.  Yeah, there are tons of guys out there that keep their girls around coz it's convenient and a steady source of @ss.  Of course most of the girls are either clueless or in denial.
215128
i know whats the feeling of it coz ive also experience that in my past relationship.its not easy,youve been together for how many years.shared memories, sweet thoughts and all the problems you both encountered is not easy to forget.the only thing you can do is to move on,its in the way that little by little.jaz put in your mind the the world is beautiful to live w/.go on w/ life move on coz thats the best solution you can do to mend ur broken heart....Goodluck.......
772969
Yes, I did regret it.\n\nI think sometimes I wanted to be in love so badly that I was in love with love.\n\nAlso, I think, looking back on it, I did not really love him even though I wanted to. Then I felt I had to be honest and tell him that I did not love him. This made me feel bad because I felt like I was a liar (even though I wasn't). Also, I felt like a fool - retracting what I said - like as if I didn't know my own mind and as if I was so mixed up and confused, I don't know what love is.
255091
in most cases yes. this is because the first time you're in love you are unaware of how much a break up can actually hurt and the long term damage it can do.(after all it would be your first time experiencing any of those feelings)
1136751
Well , i thought that i had met the one the first time . Of course , i was the only one of us that felt that way .I have been fool enough to let him break my heart over and over again since then. I think , that there might have been a time when he really cared about me. Maybe he still does care , but now i realize that we just are'nt meant to be together in that way. It's really sad though , because even now--> he's the only man that i would want to have been the 1!
320003
It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
278513
I believe there are positive lessons to be learned from the most heartbreaking situations, I have been there, trust me.  its not easy but you have to look at it as a learning experience, and instead of focusing on the heartbreak, focus on how much stronger you are now, for having gone thru it.  tkae what you learned from the experience close that chapter of your life and allow yourself to move on.  Take things slowly in your new relationship, allow things to unfold in a way  that is comfortable for both of you and see where it leads.  over time memories of the past will fade and wounds heal allowing you to open your heart again.  Its a painful process at times but so well worth it in the end. hope this helps!
509055
Me too. your first love is always going to be part of you. He was the first person who cared for you and the first you cared for. You will always think of him.
108310
OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!! (except I dated the guy for 2 years)..... I guess we never get over them.... thats what it means to love someone..... and we will only get over them when we find someone better.... but i dont think anyone forgets thier first love..... (I still cant atleast)
560372
Yes I have.  It broke my heart.
283500
I believe your first love is like your virgin heart going out into the world for the first time.\nYour first real love you have NO walls up, No Barriers, or lines that can't be crossed you are totally open to that person... You feel like it will last forever/\nThat is why it is so hard, you had never had your heartbroken before so you don't know how to prepare for it when it gets here!! You have nothing to base the love on! \nAnd your first love is usually the person you loose your virginity too.. ANd that is hard in itself\nBut in life you win some you loose some\nYou just have to take the past lessons and apply them to your new relationship!! But not with the baggage for example just because your ex cheated doesn't mean that your next partner will!!\nGood Luck
906020
If you care and love the other person it's not easy to get over a breakup but if you have no feelings for the other person then we do get over a breakup easily. But from a first hand experience my ex broke up with me five months ago and I'm still a nervous wreck but she's moved on quickly. Even though I drove two hours to take care of her while she was sick.
332549
I can tell you that time will lessen your pain, but you will never forget the person.  I still have a place in my heart for my first love, and while I don't cry over him or technically still "love" him, I will always remember him.  \n\nTime will make it better.  I promise. :)
1140066
I know it certainly is the pits. And we have all been there before. The first time for me I thought I could never live without that person and that there was no one else for me. It hurt so bad because they seemed to be able to move on just fine without me and I was a wreck. I tought I would hurt forever. But one day it just stopped. The hurt stopped anyway. That was a long time ago and I do still care for that person. It's not an "in love" with care but you will always care for your past loves. You cannot love someone so much and then just turn it off one day. You will always care and they will always have a piece of your heart. And it seems that there is always that one person in your life that you will never completly get over. You will move on with your life and love again and be loved back. And the thing is that it's okay. And ya know what else they might always care about you too. And one day you wont see all the bad just the good times you had with that person. The thing that helped me the most was to admit that I was meant to be with that person. Mabe for only a moment in time but for a moment it was right. And I know now that it was never meant to last, but man it sure was right at one time. People come and go from our lives like a swift summer breeze, and as soon as it comes it is gone. But it sure did smell sweet while it lasted didn't it. And what is so great now is that you get a whole new chance. You get to meet someone who will love you completly and be happy. Keep you head up and remember what a great person you are. And how lucky someone will be someday to be loved by you!