is it unrealistic to develop feelings for someone based on written/verbal conversations,but not have met yet?
113797
It is probably more hope and need than reality.  But you know that sometimes people do not tell the truth, and on the internet particularly, people have gotten fooled.  Sometimes the pictures they post are of other people, they say they are younger or older than they are, and they say they are single when they are not.  Also, in the case of "sting" operations, they do not tell you they are law enforcement officers!!!  Stay cautious until you meet face-to-face, and meet first in a safe public place.
368731
Well, *I* can't. I gotta be around them and smell their smells and  see their body language. Love for me is a thing that happens after a few weeks of getting to know who they REALLY are.. live and in person. You can certainly like someone a lot and form an attachment. I just met too many strange people online and over the phone.. to "fall in love" based on a good conversation.
575048
Well, I would say yes. If this is truly what you are into follow your heart. Don't be a stalker but let him know how you feel and hope he feels the same way also. Good luck!
659334
Well clearly he likes chatting with you because he is already doing that. So really it's a very small step to take to make that a chat in the real rather than virtual world. Whether he has stronger feelings is really not relevant at this stage. Just suggest it would be good to meet up when you get back and have a chat over a cup of coffee, I would be stunned if he say's no. Then take it from there, maybe you will just have a friend maybe it will be more but you will never know unless you take that small step of asking.
648969
ABSOLUTELY,\n\nI  THINK  WE  OFTEN  COMMUNICATE  INTIMATE  TRUE  THOUGHTS   AND  FEELINGS  IN  WRITING.  \n\nTHE  DISTANCE  CREATES  A  SAFE  PLACE  TO  BE  YOURSELF\n\nI  HAVE  FELT  TRUE  FEELING  OF  LOVE  AND  ADMIRATION  GROW  THRU  THIS  MEDIUM...
333518
I've been in your situation.  I met this guy over the net, we exchanged pics, #'s and the such.  I called him first and we started talking.  I was a little scared to meet him, but once I did, we dated for over two years.  Funny how that happened....\n\n-daydreaming of the old days-\n\nAnyway you can't really start to like that person until you get to know a lot more about them.  Call them, talk first, then decide how you feel...or maybe you'd want to meet them...but now-a-days...it's a shot in the dark...people will lie about who they are...my case was one of the good ones...\n\nBest of luck to ya' buddy!\n\n:)
494332
If you've only met once then I would be very nervous. to say you're in love with someone that soon is too stalker like for my taste.
125853
Blessings.\n\nMay I answer your question with a questions of my own? First, are you sure that these feelings you have for this new guy (let's name him "Ted" for the sake of easier understanding) are legit (real)? If not, that is part of what I think you should question yourself... along with asking "Ted" if his feelings for you are legit.\n\nSecond, if you are "committed" to someone else (let's name him "Al" for the sake of easier understanding) but these feelings that you have for "Ted" are so overwhelming, why are you in this relationship with "Al"? And if these feelings that "Ted" has for you are so overwhelming, why is he in another supposedly-committed relationship with "Sue"? It would seem, in my opinion, that you would tell "Al" (and "Ted" would tell "Sue") how you truly felt instead of leading him on to believe that this love that you two (you and "Al" -- "Ted" and "Sue") share is being reciprocated when, in fact, it is not.\n\nIt would be wise, I would imagine, to put this situation into perspective. Consider what it is (and who it is) that you truly wish to be with. Think carefully and tread softly for the waters (and feelings) you tread upon can be disturbed. You don't want a typhoon to come ripping apart your life. Trust me, I've been there! God bless!\n\nHope that helped!
455989
Being unexperierienced is not somthing to be feeling "a how about."  We are and wer inexperience din everything in life until we were either taught or learned on our own through experiences. Personally I do not feel any one person can give you the advice you seek, but I do know that if this is someone you care for, and are in that phase of your relationship, then just take you time and do what comes naturally. Being that close and interacting in a physical manner does not require and instruction booklet. As you begin the process simply be gentle, and aware of the 'vibes' you receive. Just as you can tell if a person is in a room is interested in you, the same way you can tell what is good and works and whats not so good. It is a learning process together, and also if you have the key to any relationship "communication', then a small discussion after (not necessarily immediately after) always helps. I have been in a sucessful realtionship for 11 yrs and I know that regardless of the situation, (1) we are all inexperienced at something at sometime, (2) life is about trial and error, (3) Nothing works or can survive without communication.\nMy best advice is "Do what comes naturally."
434928
How long have you been talking to him??\n\nI think you need to meet before you can truely know what you feel.
1187931
You have only talked to this guy once. More importantly, he has only talked to you once. There is no way you have feelings for this guy. There is also no way he has any for you. It sounds like an act of desparation to me. If you must continue to talk to this guy, take it VERRRRRRRRRY Slowly, and for god's sake, be careful!!
181355
If you haven't met this guy yet, you could just be in love with the fantasy of him. It's okay to let him know that you think about him. I would try to get a idea of what his feelings are for you first.
154517
yeah sure u can but it depends on the receiver whether to tkae u seriously or ditch the thought..\nit s still better to say the things u meant most in person it s more realistic and sincere..
503032
If you have a past, it must mean that something about her is worth liking/being friends with. If situations like this arise, and the friendship is worth keeping, time will settle whatever weirdness there may be. I would act as though you are friends, and nothing is weird, and hopefully she follows suit.
129540
DONT be afraid to approach him on your own. Why do you think it would be strange? If some pretty girl came up to me, and just started chatting to me, do you know how good that would make me feel? I would feel great for like a week, and if it turned into something, I would be thanking God for her braveness in coming to me. I might never know otherwise, and thus would have missed out on something great...Without even knowing it. And that sucks. LOL Go say hi next time. Ask about the music. And NO. Do NOT go smashing into things like a klutz. BAD first impression. Even if he already knows you slightly. DONT bump, or trip, or any of that fake crap. Be REAL!
1161441
feelings for someone close to you is possible.the main thing is the other person responding the same,as for your boyfriend you don't need to tell him that might make him to be jealous
264704
In this situation it is very normal. If you are having a hard time showing your emotions to a person and you wish for this person to know what you feel, then I suggest you write it down. Write what you feel and explain everything to detail then give it to the person that you like. You should tell the truth to everyone that are important to you =)