is it advisable to marry man older than you with 20 years different.?
104893
There is a 15 year difference between my fiance and I. I dont think age really matters if you can get along and everything is copacetic go for it.
153828
Yes, you can. When the difference is only one or two years, it's basically the same age bracket. I am married to a woman who is two years older and we feel like we are the same age.\nThe only problem you might expect is when you are, say 11, and the girl is 12. Then it is obvious that the love is more likely to be infatuation rather than love, and the age difference might mean the two people go in completely opposite directions.\nOther than that, you are probably fine.You are of the same generation, with the same cultural values, so it can be definitely alright between you.\nGood Luck.
522823
No, you should be with someone closer to your age.  I know the difference in years doesn't sound like that many but at this age when you are growing and changing so fast, it really is.
1137947
why not!!! Age difference doesn't matter, once the two people get on great. All the best for the future! Love doesn't know any limits!!!!
333453
If you are looking for a long term relationship...marriage down the line, I would seriously consider the fact that most men in their latter years prefer a younger woman.  90% that is.  \n\nIn other words, when you are 50, he will be looking 35 year old women.  If you don't believe me, just ask your older female friends.
1167580
As long as you don't act like an old fuddy duddy and have similar interests, why not.  I've been known to date older men and we got along fine.  As long as both of you know what is expected of each other then it should work out.
481437
Sure.  I thik you may be a bit young to get married, but if that is what you want, go for it.
201050
Love happens regardless of age, ethnic background, religion, status.........It just happens and that's the way it is.\nIf he loves you even after knowing this then no need to wait just get married to him. Also do consider the consequences and if you are ready to go through all the lifes trials together with him then say yes to him. A word of caution though....if you are insecured about his loosing interest in you as you age then there are some issues that you need to resolve beforehand.
54442
Well, it depends.  If you are 20 and he is 23, no.  If your 11 and he's 14, yes.  If your 11 and he's 23, there's something wrong with you.  You generally need to stay in your own age group from 11-17 years old.  Once your old enough to marry, it doesn't really have a limit.  Unless your 30 and he's 60. >.< The general reason is because 11 year olds and 17 year olds think and want different things.  It's also illegal for a 17 year old to embrace an 11 year old.  \n\n~*Jesus take the wheel*~
211593
Do you think you would have the same feelings for him/about him if he was closer to your age?  Society puts a lot of stipulations on this type of relationship.  My first love was a man who was 12 years older than myself (with whom I had a child) and I was married to a man 17 years my senior.  The age factor didn't bother me, but it did bother my husband.  He felt a little insecure with our age differences - he thought I would wake up one day and want to be with a younger man.  That wasn't the case at all.  We had fun together - laughed, good experiences - and not so good (like all relationships).  We had differing viewpoints on some issues, but nothing we couldn't agree to disagree on.  You need to ask yourself if you feel as if you would be missing out on something in life if you decided to stay in a relationship with this man.  Are you compatible in other ways?  Do you both want the same things out of life?  Are you happy?  Where do each of you see yourselves in 5 years - together or apart?  What about children?  No relationship is a piece of cake and with an age difference it makes it a little more difficult, but not impossible.  Follow your heart, do what makes you happy.
907914
Sure.  Why not?  If you truly love each other, I just married my husband in August and he is 14 1/2 yrs older than me.  Some times these things just work out that way.  I think it is a great idea to wait a few years to make sure things work out.  He and I were together for 3 yrs first, and yeah a job would be in order, those weddings are very expensive. And, sure, if you want to wait until your wedding night, then that is your choice.  Don't let him, or anyone else tell you that you have to.... if he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
245734
Of course - age is no barrier to happiness, but you must ensure that the age gap is never an issue between you. You should be blind to the age difference . . .
579377
I wouldn't worry about what others say. As long as your happy, then that's all that matters. Your still young, you have lots of time ahead of you to get married if you want to. Wait until you find the right person. A lot of people don't marry until they are in their 30's or 40's. They want to make sure the person they marry is the right person for them to spend the rest of their life with. I say ignore the remarks from people and enjoy your life.
102529
I believe age has no difference when it comes to loving someone. If you're married and have no intention to part with your present wife, don't make any promises to that girl which you can't keep. If you're single and this romance might develop into something else, do go ahead and don't let this chance pass by you. I have a son with a man who's 20 years older than me. He was lying to me about being divorced and we spend 2 years living together as man and wife. When I had a baby, I found out he was married and had a wife in another country. We're no longer together, but I tell you age has nothing to do with this. I love every moment we spent together except for his lies that screwed up my whole life. Don't do this to the girl you liked, but definitely enjoy every moment of this feeling if it's rightfully yours regardless of the age difference. Good luck! Nika
112938
If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
726273
It depends on the age difference and your maturity level. If you can handle whatever may come along with being involved with an older man and the baggage then do what makes you  happy.
71234
I think the maturity level of the two persons involved makes a difference, I mean if you are both willing to accept each other for who you are and for how well you get along, similar interests, good communication, respect, and love. If things are good between the two of you, age should not make a difference. My boyfriend is 22 years younger than I am, we have been together for over two years and things are great! I know what you are talking about though. Finding the right person to share your life with is difficult enough. Age should not be an issue. Let him know this, and let him know how you feel about him, that's about all you can do, the rest is up to him.