my boyfriend of 4yrs keeps calling and meeting and going places with his ex-wife. they lived together for 15yr
103177
Just tell he can see her any time he wishes as long as you are along otherwise knock it off...
654826
I don't think they ever get over their ex wife. My sister is divorced and remarried now, and he go around telling everybody that he still loves her and will always. He says all this, and he has a girlfriend. Sorry, but its true! If he talks about her when your around, than yes he still has feelings for her and your better off with someone else. Trust me I know this from experience don't let him hurt you. There is a reason why he got a divorce in the first place.
796362
There must have been something wrong in your relationship.  SOmething that he went seeking someone else.  He thinks he loves her because its something new.  Its not the same lady he has woken up to for the last 15 yrs.  Now this by NO means oks his way of handleing things.\n\nFate has a way of biteing you back
903607
Go with her when she meets him. If he just vanished off the face of the earth without a word, that's odd. But if they broke up and he just stopped returning her calls and moved on, that's different.\nI don't agree with her desire to revisit the past, but I suppose a compromise is you going with her. If she disagrees, I'd be ticked.
469555
It sounds like he still loves his ex and obviously can't take the hint that she wants nothing to do with her. I would say you need to ignore him awhile then try to talk to him again about the ex, if he gets mad then straight out tell him that he either stops with the cards and flowers to the ex or you will be gone, why stay with someone when their heart is with someone else!
805628
Sounds suspicious to me.  Are you sure she's his ex?  How long have you been together?  Call her back and have a girl to girl talk.  She'll give you her side of the story.
198121
Don't put up with this.  It is bad enough that he would lie to you about anything, but lying to you about talking to his ex is about as wrong as it gets.  There is no reason to be talking to her when he has you.  You should be the one he loves, his best friend, his one and only.  You deserve better and if he can't let go of his ex dump him.  I would think being in love with you should be all he needs.  If he has to talk to her all the time then maybe he should go live with her because he sure doesn't deserve to be with you.
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
1181711
I guess you need to start drawing the line here and figuring out if you want a "friend" for life or a life partner.  Life is full of booty calls and people that just sleep together as a convienience.  Some guys are just better at getting their way in the way they speak to women is all.  I'm assuming your still single, or he would not be calling you every day?  If I were his girlfriend, I would be pissed off for him sidelining and callin his ex all the time.  Come on, wouldn't you if  you were on the other end of this?  Make him either poo or get off the pot....dump the other girl and date you exclusively or its time to close this chapter in your life.  Your hearts up for a buncha bruising otherwise girl.  He won't be with you bye the way because your not standing up for yourself and being a stand alone girl....get out there and start dating!!!
289193
Well, all sorts of issues going on here.  For one, were you snooping around, looking for stuff, do you not trust him, has he cheated on you before?  Basically there is a trust issue here, but i'm not on the guys side, he should also be open if he's being invited to girl's parties, and he has alot of girls numbers that you don't know?  Not a good sign.  Figure out if you guys still trust each other, if not, after 4 years, get out, do your own thing, learn to trust.
753283
If you trust him yes just be careful, don't be nosy but if they want to hang out make sure he invites you.  You and hopefully he wouldn't want to loose 8 years over a old fling.
712975
She's one of those women who doesn't want the man anymore, but resent it when he is happy with someone else.Your boyfriend (husband) needs to put her in her place.  She has no place in your lives  and HE needs to make that clear to her.  Unfortunately when an ex-wife and kids are concerned there is always madness around.  Been there...done that.  Good luck.
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
922706
It sounds like you need to make the decision for him and break it off.  If he is still talking with his ex, then he is not over her and will not be able to fully commit to you or anyone else until he is.  It sounds like he needs to be taking care of his issues with his ex and not getting involved with anyone else until he has that figured out.  You sound more like his safety net than anything and if she was to call him back and tell him to come back to her, you would be dumped and he would be gone.
391788
sounds like he needs to grow up and you say he's 30!!! that's really sad...the only advice i can give you is put him in situations where he has to talk to you but to be honest with you it sounds like he doesn't respect you and maybe he is trying to find excuses to leave you you say he did this with his ex's well look where they are now  i hope you are able to solve this problem good luck.
317143
Why would he ever let his friends use your cell phone?  I think he is lying.  Call his ex and find out what is going on from her.
708121
NO!  I beg of you, use your head not your heart.  Wouldn't he have called you or a friend or a locksmith for that matter, if he were locked out of his place?  The fact that you knew where the girlfriend lives and works makes it seems as if this is not the first time and you and the ex has a (fighting) history.  Find someone more loyal, more discreet or maybe a little smarter... How on earth did he let her get the phone?!\nGood Luck!