What do you  think gives a 4 yr old a stuckup personality? Clothes or their parents attitude.?
99790
While I think that both influence a child's attitude, the way they interact with their parents has more of an effect.  If you allow your child to disrespect you, she will learn that it is ok, and could start treating other adults in this way (such as a teacher).  Your child should learn that she must listen to you, otherwise the problem could get worse and worse until she isn't listening to anyone.  As for her clothes, looking nice isn't going to have as large of an effect now as it will later (like teenage years...).  Dressing you daughter nicely isn't going to make her act stuckup, it will only raise her self-esteem if someone compliments her on how she looks.
456845
no because i think kids should be able to express themselves through the way they dress
201216
I believe tat some children are geared by their parents to just be acheavers and that's there reality. I believe its the attitude of you have to be the best. Therefore, you must do all you can to be. Even if that means not getting envolved in stuff that would supposely hinder there progress\nand success.
847182
Better.  I missed the last change by a few months, so I know how unpopular this sounds.  \n\nKids seem to be older, wearing makeup, hair gel, stylish clothing, and designer accessories in elementary school.  I wished I could look like an adult when I was small.\n\nKids own a wardrobe of electronic gadgets too.  They are desensitized to content like death and sex at an earlier age.\n\nWhat does this mean?  Kids grow up faster?  Maybe on the outside.  If you take away all of these external modern devices, emotionally, they grow at a natural pace.  Perhaps with so many distractions, overstimulated kids need more time to catch up to the quiet time they missed.
945615
Whatever is going on in the homes is the problem so it's kind of hard to undo all of that.  You have to lay down your ground rules in your classroom & stick to it.  Consistency is very important with children of this age - so if you threaten consequences of some sort, follow through.  Be stern but loving - a lot of these kids do not experience love & attention at home & act out negatively in order to gain attention.  Pray for God to give you the strength each day to be patient & loving.  Pray for the kids & their families too.  God knows they need it!
912721
No, I don't think so. I think it's a great tool to keep school about school and not who has the most stylish clothing. That way a kid won't have to deal with social status issues in school because  certain clothes can't be afforded. And I bet most parents would agree it makes things easier all the way around. Just my two cents.....
584219
Being a foster child myself, I can honestly say that while the psychological transition plays a role- but is strongly outweighed by the need for discipline. Since no one method works for everyone, I would be out of boundaries to suggest any one way to handle this. Since the children are relatively young, the NEW preferred method has been time-outs, in a corner or facing a wall (1 min for each year of age, 3yrs.=3 min.)You would more than likely get a better response if you ask at babycenter.com(excellent place for parents to ask, answer, and vent)good luck! I hope I have been helpful\nIn my class we like to use a (childs name here)-(make sure child is looking at you,by kneeling down to their level)-it makes me feel(emotion here)when you(behavior disapproved of here)method.Also other formats of the same method are perfectly o.k. (disliked behavior here)can lead to (cosequence here) keep in mind,there are natural and preset cosequences for every action. e.g. child refuses to wear shoes while playing in yard, you choose a consequence....and the NATURAL consequence is - they step on a sticker. while the natural consequence is not always this dramatic and I am sure you wouldn't let a 3 or 4 year old out in the yard w/out shoes or flip-flops, its just an example.
1029195
When you say she is a "know it all", you have a normal teenager.\n\nDrugs, grades, and concern about the friends she is hanging out with are very reasonable concerns. You should be asking questions about those things and trying to steer her in the right direction. When it comes to dressing, I think she is just expressing herself during the last time in her life when clothes really doesn't matter. Young people in every era dressed inappropriately and eventually became successful and contributing members of society. \n\nIf she was dressing in a sexually suggestive manner, I would talk about how women, right or wrong, who dress that way are targeted and are vulnerable. It doesn't seem to be the case here. Pick your battles. \n\nFocus on the stuff that matters: her education, her future, and her dreams. Talk to her about her interests and really listen. You should work on the communication skills and build up her trust. Invite her friends over and see if you can meet their parents. As parent you have the right to know who she runs with. You may find that those kids who look like losers, but may be just bored kids. \n\nShe will never say it, but she will appreciate guidence and parental expections and limitations. She may be acting out because her mother has no limits. \n\nPositive reinforcement works better than negative reinforcement. The more you know about your daughter the more you can guide her and find a mentor for her. She may be writing poetry or interested topics you weren't aware of.  \n\nAll she may need is someone to take interest in her and let her know all that life has to offer. She may not seem to be responding because she may feel you do not know her enough to be lecturing her. Don't get discouraged. Don't give up on her, you will eventually get through.
145719
Kids like labels.  They may announce that they don't, but the truth is, kids want to be any number of things like "cool", "rebellous",  "scene", "jock", "prep", "goth", "punk", etc.  Still looking for themselves, they latch onto groups, cliques, and societies that they make.  Each clique generally has strong rules, usually culled from self-inflicted stereotypes.  Desiring to fit in, to be accepted, to be wanted they go along with the group, and, voila, peer pressure is born.  \n\nIt's almost a status thing.  If everyone expects you to do _____ because you present yourself as ______ and (here's the big one) you want to keep up your friendship with ______, then you'll cave into the pressure.
485192
don't parents beat their kids anymore?......that's some funny s-h-i-t!!!    evidently not, cause i be damn if my kids dress like that
896424
good question. dressing girlie can be great. but a prissy attitude is a big turn off. i like my girls balanced - i want them to go play with me in the wild, but clean up good for a night on the town. if shes sweet and smart, then the girlie thing is fine, thats just who she is. but if shes high-maintenance (and they never think they are!) and prissy, then i wont touch her.  ill mock her if she gets annoying, and make her look stupid so she doenst waste my class time with her inane remarks
492104
I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!
1122000
I'm not sure I am following all of this, but I do think kids are very mean today, but come on parents!  If we don't expect kind, compassionate behavior from our kids do you think they are going to magically learn it elsewhere?\n\nAs for your descriptions, I don't really believe in labels.  Most of us are pretty diverse people if you look hard enough.  Case in point - I am a 41 year old politically conservative businessman that loves to make my own beer and sing heavy metal rock and roll on a karaoke machine.  Exactly what stereotype does that fit?
840270
Do you mean the schools make them ONLY wear underwear - nothing else? If this is the case, I would be talking to the schools directly, I am unsure if/how this can be justified myself, maybe the school itself has reasons - but ultimately you are the best person to judge what is right and desirable for your child, so if you are not happy with their response, say so - with your words and with your feet if need be. Good luck!
199473
If you use both in a wobble way, that will really confuse them. Many parents don't react in a same way to the same things, but just according to their actual turn of mind  and that's what makes children very confused. Prove that you love them and will always love them, ALTHOUGH you ask for some discipline in some situations. For example: "If you want to go to a football match tomorrow with me (LOVE), you have to finish your homework on time (DISCIPLINE)". Say it in an assertive way and be rigorous. make him/her learn about the consequences of his/her behavior. But, KEEP YOUR PROMISES, DON'T DISAPPOINT HIM/HER and make him/her believe you.
75241
Make them laugh.  That always gets a child's attention.  Be silly dance around, play music and make funny faces.  I've had three kids and making things they don't want to listen to fun or funny always worked.  They are 11, 10 and 7 now and it still works...although my oldest will turn her head now so I can't see her laugh. : )
160111
Some effective ways to get a child to behave is ether to put them in time out, don't let him/her play with the other kids for a period of time(same as time out i know),have a good behavior chart to put stickers on only if they're good and if they get a certain # of stickers they get a prize out of the prize box ooooohhhhhhh......,or talk to the childs parents about the problem.