why is it so difficult for seniors to have a happy dateing life--we're human, too?
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It isn't.  But you have to be open to life's possibilities.  And it helps to have a happy attitude.
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i think that we have the ability to walk, talk, and love. i know there are a long list of things. but we all need to appreciate life alittle more. what the hell is this world becoming. im 31 and it has changed so much from when i was 15. thats sad
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I think it is not only elderly that have this sense of impatience...I think it is American culture in general. We feel are lives are more important then anyone else and we push and push our way through this world. It happens at grocery stores, on the freeways and in the street. Oh, I have to get this done, because I have this to do. Not taking a moment to think that maybe the person next to you may have even more important things to do than yourself...We are a selfish culture!
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Well, I'm 32 and I don't have a steady boyfriend. I like my freedom. But I do like my guy friend to spend some time with me. But I also love my quite time alone. So yes some people are meant to be alone.
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One reason it is hard is because there is often a biological factor too it, similar to depression.  a therapist once had me go to the mall and just walk around and make eye contact and say hello to EVERYONE I walked past.  i thought they'd think I was nuts, and some probably did... but people smiled and said hello... sometimes i could have sworn that it made their day.  But the thing I learned is... I didnt have heart attack and die!  even when I was ignored, or someone told me off, I lived.
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Good question Amy, Seems as it sounds like you are an older women who has got herself established at the cost of sacrificing a social life in the quest to do so.\n\nI would not accept anything from anyone either so I know what you mean whole heartily, I find that cos you are so fiercely independant that it scares males,well I don't put up with those who want to have meal ticket or cheap place to live or just want to bonk you stupid\n\nI found that going out to certain places where similar ppl congregate  has been easier and you don't get those hangers on.\n\nWe all have our needs ,but again at what cost,seems the longer you leave it, all you seem to get is guys with baggage this I'm sure like you is not on....\nSadly I see this trend  not getting any better but the partner I now have is similar thinking and circumstances.. \n\nStrangely tho I still will not live with him, cos I worked damn hard for my lot and will not give it up easily until I know it is what I truly want..\nGood Luck in the never ending search sweetie..♥
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It's how you look at it.  Like yourself and screw everyone else.  It's "all about you".  Don't let others make you feel like your less than them,   "they are doomed to walk the earth without you", too.  I used to be married and that was the worst doom in my life.  Now I love being single and would have a hard time giving it up.  Our culture puts to much emphasis on that stupid word "dating"-------just be friendly and don't push relationships too fast, if at all.
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because we are humans.
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I know there is--I married my high school sweetheart, and two kids and twenty years later, we're still crazy about each other.  We were unusually fortunate, though, in finding someone we were so compatible with at such a young age, and both of us being open-minded enough to allow the other to grow and change as we grew up together.  That doesn't mean, though, that I believe there is only one person who each of us could achieve relationship nirvana with, though.  I think it's a matter of finding someone you can really connect with, and then building a strong foundation rooted in trust, honesty, tolerance, and open communication.
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It could be a very special bond between the two.  Like if the eldery person does not have many family members there to visit with they are truly happy that a younger person that may have better things to do is, is choosing to hang with them instead. I worked in a nursing home from 18-20 and i saw that alot of the people there didnt have visitors come so i sat with them and even came in on days off to visit with them, and they seemed to be happier because they have someone to talk to and know that the person also cares for them. Now on the teenager side, it often is easier to talk to an eldery person than it is to friends and family and they are great listeners. And they can almost always get good advice from them since they have been around longer. And to be honest i liked hanging out with the eldery folk more than my own friends, they have more stories, they are less likely to turn their back on you, and they are funny at heart. I do miss working in the nursing home just for that fact, But i cant go back because Ive seen too many of them pass on and cant deal with that again.
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It's supposed to be so happy because it's a day of love and mush, and love is happiness.  But for single people, they don't really have anyone to love, and seeing all the people in love, especially on this day just makes them sadder. If you focus your attention on somehting else besides your lack of love, it can be happier. I've found voulenteering at an old folks home, showing your family how much you love them, and then buying yourself chocolate and something shiny helps.  Especially the chocolate part.
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I am a nurse and see many older people flirting and becoming good friends.Even saw marriages of 80 and 90 year old people in assisted living centers. That is so neat!!! So don't give up. Go out and play bingo, church some functions get all cutied up and go for it!
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Age is just a number. I know a couple who met and married in their 70's and they both act like they are 20 plus.  Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places.
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Age is a concept that was created by humans eons ago. This concept has been heralded on and on by our ageist society that celebrates only those with the most youthful appearance. Wisdom and experience gained by years of living in this life are simply shooed away in favor of taut skin, googly eyes and often vapid opinions of things that matter in life. I am not saying that all youthful persons have these mis-attributes but that our society is throwing the "baby away with the bathwater" by placing older persons so low on the societal priority. In any event, age being a human concept, logically those who have maturity and true experience in life would not see years' age different as moot in love life tolerance. I therefore, can imagine tolerating ANY age difference in my love life, albeit that I am in a life-long relationship and our age difference is 6 years.
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What you see in the movies isn't always true.  My grandparents met in kindergarten and were childhood sweethearts but still waited til they were both in their mid twenties before getting married, they were married sixty nine years when my grandmother passed at age 91 this past Jan.\n\nA short courtship doesn't mean that it will work out any more than living together for years garuntees anything either.  In this day and age we have so many options available to us, women are not staying at home and men are not totally devoted to just one woman (at least a lot aren't).  We can travel farther, at the time of my grandparent's dating they didn't exactly get out of town very often.\n\nI had been dating my fiance' almost two years when he proposed to me and we will have been engaged for a year when we get married next month. And we don't live together either.  He's old fashioned in the sense that he believes we should really get to know each other and have a strong friendship foundation prior to walking down the aisle together.
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They don't understand that most amazing thing about marriage is growing old together.  To have somebody that loves , and cares for you when you are old, wrinkly, incontinent, invalid with no teeth :-) And yet he still thinks are beautiful. That is special...
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Practically in the same situation as you.\nIt is my personal belief that the reason why it is hard to date people is because most people have unrealistic standards, are shallow and judgemental.\n\nI'm 32 going on 33 in two weeks, barely 5'6" lost 85% of my hair(which I do not care) a bit heavy, I work the night shift from 11pm to 7am and unable to meet someone.\n\nIt has been my experience that LOOKS do matter and the type of job one has.\nI hear personality but yet I have gotten the cold shoulder even before I say anything, which has lead me to be convinced it was based on looks.\nThen when I do get a chance I am judged on the type of job I have and had and the hours I work. \n\nListen from one guy to another, do not be overlly concerned with dating, live and enjoy your life and if you do meet someone great but please do not act like it is the end of the world if you do not meet someone