How do I gain my confidence back?
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What is your fear which stole your confidence away? Talk about it... speak to someone if you have a person whom you trust. \n\nIf you don't have anyone to speak to, try self help technique. you can write in your diary or record your voice as you talk about it. Then read what you wrote or replay what you've recorded and hear it as though it was your friend who wrote/ spoke.\n\nMost of the time we know the solution to our problem, but being in the hole ourselves, we fail to see the bigger picture and feel really helpless and stuck. The irony is when someone came to us with their problem, we can immediately see the solution. Therefore, by using this technique you can be your own "friend" and help yourself out of it. \n\nIf none of the above helps, list down your achievement in life, something you feel good/ proud about yourself, happy moments. Then try to recall/ visualise those moments. You will feel better.
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build up some confidence you little sh**
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talk to a friend who has already aced it, to build your own self-confidence.  Remember some of those who have already passed it.  If they did, you know you can do it.
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You can become more confident in what you do by knowing about the subject,product,issue,etc.Whatever it is that you are involved in,if you don't know what you are talking about then learn. Start reading the dictionary,go online start learning about different things,go the library in your spare time,read about subjects you don't know anything about or understand. Reading is so good for you.You have to increase your knowledge.Seeing that most people don't use but about 5 percent  of their brain power,look out how much empty space you have that you can use. Think about what most subjects are that the people you know generally talk about. Then go start learning about these subjects so that the next time there is a conversation going on you will be prepared to have a little input of your own and know and understand what you are talking about. Your confidence will grown each time.When you are having a conversation with other people,remember that they are only human,they will not eat you alive unless they are cannibel(HaHa)Seriously,they are just people just like you.They may disagree with whatever you have to say,but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.As far as speaking in front of a crowd,well that's a different subject,that takes practice for anyone.Anyone interested should get a book on that subject and then practice,practice,practice.Maybe even join a public speaking class.In any case the more knowledge you have about a subject,the more comfortable and confident you will be when speaking about it.The more you know,the more confidence you have.Note:spell check is not working,I'm in a hurry today,gotta go,Good Luck.
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Hello, I remember when I was that age and how I had zero confidence... worse even, I might have been my worse enemy at the time...\nU do have one thing on your favour: you are her sister, so even if she pretends she does not listen, in reality she does look up to you, a lot! \nSo some tips that I hope do help:\n-be an example\n- be positive, show her the positive side of things\n-be very caring\n-listen to her, try to understand what makes her feel insecure and accompany her in a path to change that, for example, if she thinks she´s not pretty, do things together with her to make her beauty come out (go to the gym, go sunbathing, do healthy, positive things)\n\nOH and maybe you can enrol in a dance class together... I think the time when I felt most confident in myself, in general, was the time when I was taking belly dance lessons...\n\nYou are really attempting something beatiful and I do really hope it works out, for the both of you,\n\nLove and Blessings
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You could start by not asking for directions.\n\nSeriously, I had problems with assertiveness when I was young.  Somewhere along the way, I decided to stop caring about what other people think of me.  It wasn't really a conscious decision.  I still occasionally find myself backing off from aggressive people, but I try to make it a point not to.\n\nConfidence is the key, here.  If you don't project confidence, people will have no confidence in you.  How could they?  You haven't given them any reason to.  So, you end up walking around all day surrounded by people who don't believe in you, which further lowers your confidence.\n\nYou have to break this vicious cycle.  I found that ACTING confident helped.  I'm not talking about false bravado.  I just made a concious effort effort to seem in control of myself, if not my surroundings.  People generally responded to that with respect, which helped to build my confidence.\n\nIn my case, perspective helps a lot.  Whenever I'm in a situation that makes me want to run and hide, I compare it to other situations that I've been in.  For instance, I'm a paramedic, and I used to work on ambulances.  Now, I work as a health and safety expert offshore.  Whenever a client decides to be an @sshole, I remind myself of what I've done before.  I'll say to myself, "Once, I kept a kid from drowning in blood after his nose was cut off by a windshield. " or something similar.  All of a sudden, the client's anger over an auditing form doesn't seem so important.  I don't know if that kind of prespective trick is useful for you, but it's helped me a lot.\n\nI hope this helped a little.  Good luck.
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It doesn't sound like you have a lot of confidence.  Think about the things you can do to build your confidence.  Also think about your friends . . . are they real friends?  Are there other kids you like who you can hang out with?
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Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
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Hi,\nIt's important that you understand what you're talking about - this will give you confidence. Also don't try to rush through it, give yourself time to breathe. A lot of help can be found on the site below, both on interviews and speaking in public in general.
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You have to get out of the negative talk in you head that keeps you feeling self conscious.\n\nThe best way to do this is to do something selflessly for someone else. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, or at a hospital, put change in someone’s expired meter without them knowing, go volunteer at head start , do at least  3 selfless acts a day, with no concern of how you will benefit and or gain from it and I promise you will begin to feel better about your self. \n\nAlso do something nice for yourself at least once a week, paint you r nails, get a facial, and take a relaxing bath, what ever you like. \n\nThe best way to feel good about your self is to give, give to other, give to yourself, and you will begin to receive all the confidence and self worth that you need and more!!
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Maturity will help you be more confident.  Just don't become 'experienced' to try and be mature.  It doesn't work that way.\n\nYou have your whole life ahead of you.  Think where you want to be in 5 years, 10 or 20 years  Pursue only those things that will get you there.
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Find some confidence.\nIts pretty simple if you can overcome fear of rejection.\nBe fairly direct. Just ask.\nSecret:  Girls(women) are attracked to self-confidence.\n\nBut also be real, dont lie.  It is much easier to be yourself than someone else.
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Confidence is something only you can determine. Being confident and feeling confident is two different things. Like say, if you wore a glamourous dress for prom night, you would most likely feel confident?..yes and no, It's up to you, you may be the prettiest girl, but if you think u're not, then there you are. But you may be wearing rags but at the same time have the confidence of a princess. Confidence is something only you can choose to have. Yes, there are times where circumstances make it hard for us to be confident. And one way to build confidence.. is everytime you look in the mirror, say something nice to yourself, make it a chore, every morning, say something nice to yourself, even if you don't feel like it, smile and say something nice to yourself, cause many times we don't realize it but we actually criticize ourselves a lot. Owh and be confident. Ask God to give you confidence, pray, and trust me, this is a sure way to be confident, cuz as we know, God will never deprive us of anything good and right for us. And if confidence is something you need, u can be sure God will give it to you. So when you pray, You can be sure you will have confidence, you may not feel confident immediately, but you just have to trust yourself and God that you are confident. Like for instance, maybe a real life story would make things a lil easier to understand. ( I used to be a person who had no confidence at all, due to many harsh circumstances, and because I thought I didn't have confidence, I shyed away from people, and because of that, people started not to talk to me, which made me lose even more confidence. Then one night, it struck me that God was always there for me, and He's nvr deprive me of anything good or right for me, so I asked God for confidence, being sure that God had given me confidence, I began to trust that I had confidence and talked to people, some ignored me, but some became my friends, and because of that I gained even more confidence." So all in all, what I'm trying to say is confidence starts in you, and all you need to do is to ask God to give you the confidence, then belive in yourself, and walah, You'll be a changed person. Owh and just soemthing to encourage you if hings don't happen in a snap, "It took me at least a year and a half to build back my confidence.".... so owh well, thats all for now... be confident !..
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
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I don't like that I am always so unsure of myself.  I need more confidence.
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tell them.....in ur seat\nno kidding\nreflects ur confidence
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Remember your Confidence Level