what makes marriage stable and why?
100863
You need to be stubborn, hard-headed and just decided from the start that you will not get a divorce.  You'll work through the problems, the drama, the inconviences.  You have to WANT the marriage to stay intact.
1010064
I got married because I'm sure I love the man I married with. No doubt about it. There are things that you just can't explain. Love just simply dwelled in my heart that no one can take it away from me. Marriage may not be that simple and easy but if you are willing to accept pain and difficulties,then,you don't have the reason to be afraid of. In marriage, you should be steadfast and firm. Storms may come but then it would also go. Being happy in a marriage is a choice. You do your part and he does his. REAL LOVE is the sole purpose why we get married....
8009
Any human?\nMost humans never understand themselves.  Marriage is a legal and sometimes religious contract to allow two people to stick together while they are finding out about themselves.\nIt is only as valuable as the honesty and loyality of the people making the vows.
268373
It isn't marriage that causes the change in a relationship, it is time.  Marriage is a commitment that you will give your all to a relationship for good or bad including surviving the vestiges of time.
165163
Yes, it can survive.If you went into a marriage just thinking  about sex, you have a problem. You can't have sex 24/7.  They are other things to life and if you and your spouse can't share other common interests, you are bound to failure in everything includind your sex life.
660672
If you observe upper middle-class marriages of 10 years or longer, you will probably still find five kinds of marriages: (1) Conflict-habituated which is a constant battle over almost everything. (2) Devitalized in which the partners have lost their love and "drifted apart," i.e. they take care of the children but they don't fight a lot. (3) Passive-congenial where the partners have been apathetic all along, e.g. marriage was a convenience--or economic necessity--or they are more interested in careers or friends than spouses. (4) Vital marriage in which being together and sharing are the major joys in life. (5) Total marriage is like the vital marriage, except almost everything is done happily together. Obviously, marriage ranges from wonderful happiness every day--only 15-20% are vital or total marriages--to miserable on-going fights (or divorce). This should offer some hope of happiness to those who are unhappy...but a warning to young people in an already rocky relationship
343114
Because people confuse marriage with weddings.  People spend so much time planning the perfect wedding and forget about whats going to come after the flowers have died and the cakes been eaten.  They don't realise the commitment they're actually making and when this sets in after they become so unhappy that it inevitably leads to divorce.  Some of the most happily married couples I know went off and got married alone in little ceremonies with no trimmings and they're still together like glue because they knew it was a marriage they were having and not a wedding.
689014
Listen, don't be too stuck on frivolous things like that. It smacks of superstition, which is what your marriage does NOT need. What you SHOULD be asking is if you are both resilient, have a good sense of self, if you're better as a couple than as single people, if you've discussed finances (money is the number one issue on divorces) and if you're both morally on par. Get back to me when you're ready to answer those <wink>.
146028
Relax and enjoy it.  Remember that a marriage is a lot of hard work, and takes a lot of commitment.  The more you share with each other the greater the reward.  Don't let arguments fester, and don't dwell on all the little things that ultimately aren't that important.  And last of all realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and that over time the intesity of your feelings will fade some but that is normal and not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship.
481661
I think marriage is wonderful! It is absolutely amazing to me.  My husband and I will be married 5 years this July (Lord's willing) and it seems like we are still in the honeymoon phase.!!!\n\n\nI also think that if more people would incorporate what the Bible says about marriage into their life, that there would not be so many divorces.
132648
Marriage is not just a religious thing.  its about two people loving each other and wanting to spend their lives together.  How can love not make something valid anyones eyes?
568413
stably. ohhhh you mean stable?  well... just be true to eachother... never lie... never hurt their feelings.. never bug them.  always be honest and never lie!  and comunication. always talk to them about things.  be there for eachother.  be nice.
608396
Marriage.  Sadly, even that isn't 100% secure for some.
212502
get financially stable first..then try to think afer marriage
419445
A relationship changes in many subtle ways after marriage, especially because you're with the person almost all the time instead of only a few hours.  It takes a great deal of commitment and understanding in order to make it work.  One of the first things to do is talk about who will manage which aspects of the daily routine, and go from there.
128845
Marriage is learned behavior. Self actualizing people are able to be happy and get what they want from life without having to be emotionally dependent on someone else. We cannot help our lives from being influenced by other people, but making our choices merely based on tradition can take us to the wrong places, so beware...  \n\nInterestingly, isolation can be asociated to many underlying diseases (ex. depression, personality disorders...), so make sure this is not your case
736934
a lot of ignoring ... a lot of nodding when you want to shake your head ... a lot of pretending the washing walked in on its own ... \nactually a happy marriage is when you can accept your partner for who they are and all they are ...\nand when respect is going both ways