I'm a woman in my late 20's, and still a virgin. Why is this stance wrong the older I get?
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I just wanted to encourage you that you are absolutely doing the right thing.Do not worry what others around you say,they have lost the basic moral values of the Lord.Do not pay any attention to there comments because God is with you and is going to reward you for your dedication to purity before marriage.Im so proud of you and you have been such an inspiration to me today.I encourage you to mentor young girls and teach them how not to succomb to the tremendous pressure that we all face to not remain sexually pure.God be with you sister,and carry on the good work.
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
34946
It's you and that's a good thing. Your virginity is sacred and you don't want to give that to just anyone. Keep it for as long as YOU want to. Don't feel pressure to lose it and give it up because you think that's what everyone else is doing. Believe it or not, they aren't. Don't worry about still being a virgin. Just live your life and enjoy being a kid/teenager/adult (since I don't know your age). I hope this helps! :)
1009990
Well, I definitely don't think it's uncommon for guys to choose the "wrong" girl. Guys tend to think about the wrong thing when it comes to virginity, which is what they're doing instead of who they're doing it with. To me, it doesn't matter how old you are when you lose it, because it's not a contest. It's all about feeling comfortable with the person you're with and wanting it to be with them. I say to hell with today's standards because there are kids in elementary school these days having sex and getting pregnant - it's ridiculous! But somehow our society would rather have that than being embarrassed by a plethora of 25 year-old virgins.\n\nI never was phased by my peers when it came to my choices. I lost mine at a fairly "normal" age, which was 15, and it also needs to be kept in mind that I am much more mature in my thinking than others that age because of how I grew up with a bunch of brothers who were pretty promiscuous. I knew I wasn't going to do it unless I REALLY felt it was right, and that's exactly what happened. I am glad that I did it, because it helped me learn even more (but in a good way since it was my own content choice). And, I haven't had any other partners since him.\n\nI say, don't have any shame if you lost it at 20 - I actually praise you for that because most guys would have broke down just to be a part of the crowd well before that. But if you wish it was with another girl, just take it as future advice for yourself. You can't change what happened before but you know how to feel about it now, so I think that's what's important. I'd rather be like that than someone who does it with 10 wrong girls.
576950
You are never to old! Virginity is SUCH A SPECIAL THING!!!! DOn't let it go to just anyone! Wait till your married to that special someone and give yourself to them, and them only!!!
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Good for you for standing up to your beliefs. You have very strong character and it will serve you well in life. I waited until I was 17. I had a lot of boyfriends and PLENTY of opportunity to lose my virginity but I didn't want to give something so precious to a man I knew I wouldn't be with the rest of my life. You will know when you have met that special someone and only YOU will know when the time is right. It won't feel yucky or dirty and you shouldn't feel like he just wants you for sex. If he is THE ONE he will be respectful and you will feel a connection much deeper than just a physical attraction. Trust your gut. It is different for everyone. Men and Women are so different when it comes to their sexual needs. For men it is like a necessary physical urge. Much like hunger. They feel they need it and there brain tells them to fulfill that need. For women it is something much more emotional. Even girls who express a need for sex are feeling that need on an emotional level rather than physical. They feel a need for love or desire or just to feel wanted or attractive. Men just need the physical release. I wish I had waited until I was married because even though I loved my first and felt I would be with him for the rest of my life we got married but divorced 3 years later and have a daughter together. I'm glad I waited as long as I did but wished I had waited until we were married first.
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Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
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Why are you still a virgin?If it is a religious meter i understand,but in any other case.....Anyway if you think that is wright,than O.K.(but since you are asking this question i assume that you also have second thoughts).
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There are plenty of people your age and beyond who haven't had sexual intercourse. I didn't have intercourse until I was 23. It's nothing to feel bad about just because society might say it's 'different.'\n\nYes, it can be a very beautiful thing between 2 people who love one another, but only if you're ready for it. The worst thing would be to do something you're not ready for just because someone else says you should.\n\nBe true to your own needs, and you won't have to worry about it. I think the fact that I waited instead of giving in to peer pressure, enabled me to enjoy it, where if I hadn't waited, it might've turned out to be something traumatizing that I wouldn't have wanted to do again.\n\nAs far as a therapist, I wouldn't suggest it now unless it's something you can't stop thinking about. After you're not a virgin anymore, see what happens. If you've been doing it for a while and if you still feel really bad, then I'd think about talking with a therapist.\n\nSo my advice is not to worry about it. You've got plenty of time, and when you're ready for it, it'll happen the right way.\n\n________
1175390
It sounds like you are embarking on your lives together with your eyes wide open. Remember, for women, forty is the "new twenty"... so you're actually about the same biological age. \n\nEnjoy your love, and pursue your happiness!
79190
Nuthin' wrong with being a virgin. Your spelling could use some work though. *disengaging grammar nazi funtionality*
225550
I'm a 20 year old female and still have not lost my virginity.  Saving sex for marriage.  And honestly, I'm a little afraid of it.
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God Bless you.  To me thats fine!  I am 31 and in the same boat.\n\nNot everyone will think so.  Remeber, you have a right to believe and practice what you want, just like anyone else.\n\nBless your courage brother!  Lets pray each other finds our woman soon!  I'll pray for u and u for me....my name is David\n\nThanks for your question, peace to all!
978232
your not a loser for being a virgin.  Machoism is over rated and normally held in high regards by idiots, morons, and ignorate people who just accept machoism as the one truth in life.  At most no sex can cause sexual frustration or even over whelming curiousity about how sex feels like.  I lost my virginity to a prositute not because I wanted to be a man.  But because my curiousity was driving me nuts.  I am also bit of a odd ball so I suggest to wait for a girl you like before losiing it.  It would probly feel better then my experience.  My experience only lead to my thinking whether meaning ful sex feels better then hollow sex.  If you dont want to be a virgin forever start dating.  If your having trouble with that read books on the subject.  Hopefully you will have better luck then me.  Well good luck
653408
it all depends on who we are. A virgin man is probably going to want a virgin woman. The awkwardness of that first time is a great occasion to be remembered. Once you get used to each other sexually then things get easier.you do have to remember to talk to each other about what feels good and what doesnt. I'm 34 and not a virgin by a longshot so my personal preference is for a woman that is experienced somewhat, even if she has children
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no no no. you SHOULD be a virgin at the age of 17. i'm 16 and i'm still a virgin, planning on saving myself for until after i get married. sex is a symbol of love between a husband and a wife. it's not something you give to just anyone. be proud of such a thing and try to keep it until AFTER you're married. i think that when you do finally get with that right person, it'll make it much more of a special moment than if you do it before.
805547
21 years, because i'm still a virgin and waiting for marriage first :)