How do you deal with someone with a superiority complex?
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Ok so lets be realistic here NOONE is perfect and most people find it very difficult to admit when they are wrong. I had a friend tell me something once that I wont easily forget, he said "everyone has a weakness and you can use that for your benefit". After that I saw things differently. Not that Im taking advantage of them but knowing they are human too and being able to look for and find it helped my esteem cause suddenly we were all on the same playing field. now I dont need that to know im a good person and i dont take others as personally anymore either.\n\nThe best part was poking a little fun at my "perfectly skinny friend" who always had a better than me attitude about weight (not that im fat) But i realized she is quite flat chested and it does bother her a bit and that cut her down to size. we are better friends now than ever.\n\nI just thought of something else. If some one says something that bothers you sometimes it helps to repeat it back to them in thier own words. "so your saying....." this creates a little 'yes' in thier mind and builds rapport between you. It also lets him hear himself and think about what he has said.
736885
They like to tlak about themselves. Just give them a reason and you will have a harder time shutting them up ;-)
245244
The best way to approach a person with a bad attitude is with a smile.  \n\nBe very respectful to this person as they sound like they may have an over-inflated ego and need it to be stroked often, hence the abuse.  \n\nStay focused on the reason you are approaching this person, even if this person tries to distract you to another subject.  \n\nBe polite and calm and most of all professional.  \n\nMost important, do not be intimidated by this person.  This person, considering what you stated about them, will most likely look at this as a weakness and not take you seriously if you behave intimidated.\n\nGood Luck!
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well, there is something you have to learn in life, and it might as well start now. there will be people like this.\nYou need to accept it.\nAs for solutions, when she brags make it your thing to build her up more. she sounds insecure, so if she is bragging about being so popular, tell her that you think its great that she gets along well with so many different people. If she is looking to you for affirmation of her awesomeness, give it to her and she can move on.\nHow does she embarass you?
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Agree with first answer..But...here is a different idea.  Have you thought about doing a really mature thing...stop this  behavior on both sides now.  Go to the person wth a sincere attitude and ask to sit down and discuss your differences without hostility?   Might be a real shocker to him/her.  I understand your desire for revenge...we all feel that way at times...but...be the BETTER person and make an effort to make peace.  Honestly, it works.  Someone did this for me a few years ago. Good Luck.
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Well Lil' Shay,\n\nThat's a sticky one.  \n\nYou can't control how someone feels.  But you can tell them how you feel about their actions and behavior towards you.  \n\nBe firm and direct without being hurtful or disrespectful.   \n\nMinimize contact and avoid doing anything that could lead them on or encourage them.   \n\nIf all else fails, consider a restraining order. \n\nOh and one other thing, dont' think too highly of yourself either.  \n\nUnless their are seriously harassing you, its okay to be flattered by the admiration. It just means someone thinks you're pretty special.
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quite honestly, i think that is very difficult to do.  if you stop and think about the problem though, i think you'll discover it is because she has a lack of confidence in herself and doesn't want to appear "stupid" in front on someone else.  \n\nbest advice i have:  reinforce her confidence
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Allow him to disagree but do not faulter in your choice. Accuse him of distrust. Do not allow him to use subcurrent tacticle manipultion to convince you of being wrong and maintain an over view of your chioce. Be strong
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A better question would be how can you get yourself to accept her for what she is and concentrate on her positive aspects instead of complaining about something so petty.
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You need to get some self confidence and I don't mean that in an ugly way.  That is all that you need in order to hold your ground.  You need to know that you can keep it together when someone is putting you down and realize that it is just words and like the saying goes, sticks and stones break my bones but words will NEVER hurt me!  Listen to what they have to say and if its something that you did, apologize, then just stand there and take what they have to say with a stone face.  Show no emotion!  Some people will keep doing hurtful things to people because the other person will take it and get upset and hurt.  The person that keeps doing it is usually a sad person themselves and needs someone that is "smaller and weaker" than their own selves to make them fell better.  Remember that the next time it happens and maybe they will stop.  If they don't stop doing it to you, then at least you will have walked away with the self respect and self confidence that is needed to conquer whatever the rest of the world is going to dish out.
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Hi McKenna, \n\nHere are some come backs and tactics that will leave them standing with mouths hanging open. \n\nA good tactic is to throw a complete reversal, change the subject, insult them and leave them stunned and you win. \n\nI am assuming these are girls you are dealing with, but some will work either way. \n\nFollowing are switch tactics: \n\nWhen you get the yo mama thing, just ignore what they said, and look them over very carefully, and say:\n\n"That's a nice outfit, too bad they didn't have your size".\n\nIf the person doing the insulting is shorter than you, use this one:\n\n"Excuse me, are you standing in a hole"?\n\nIf the person is bigger, try this. \n\nJust stare at their feet, shake your head and say:\n\n"With feet that big . . . .Mike Tyson couldn't knock you down". or \n\n" Hey, I like your Goodwill Slides" (Referring to shoes).\n\nIf you ever feel threatened with physical contact, email me, and I will share with you some self defense moves that will make you undefeatable. You only have to use it one time, and then no one will mess with you ever again. \n\nIf I were there, I would offer my services in being your protector. \n\nGo get em tiger, and have a nice day, and enjoy your life. \n  \nDarryl S.
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It doesn't bother me. If they are saying nasty things, and they can't even back it up, it's because they are jealous of you. You have things they don't. Maturity, intelligence, amongst others. Don't let it hurt you, they'll only do it more. You are better than them and can rise above them.
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All the time.  \nI have a superiority complex \n(I'm not joking.  It's a problem I've been trying to work on for years. But it's hard.)
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consider it a form of flattery, and just try to be nice.  If the person is mean and hateful, just try to keep your distance and always take the higher road.
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That's a hard one.  You have to just try and get them to see if they are negative, why they are negative and try to show them how to be positive.
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Listen first.  I mean really listen to what they are saying.  Try to see it their way, and agree with them.  Something like "I would have probably felt the same way!"  Then ask what you can do to make it better. \n\nThey probably just need to vent.  Just DON'T take it personally.  Some people of course are completely ridiculous and you can't help those ones, but most are somewhat reasonable, especially if they think you care.
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Awww....baby I'm sorry! \n\nOk first, you have to step back and forget the whole situation and focus on the person you refer to. Look at their life.......I mean seriously look at it. Whatever it was that they were angry about initially obviously has nothing to do with the situation at all, but their need to influence does. Ok so why do they need to have this influence? What is it that they are lacking otherwise in their life? Something has left them so insecure that they have to rally all those around them in order to have the focus and attention. \n\nOf course we can jump to the conclusion that this person is just ego driven and only is aware of things in terms of how it will effect them. But you so HAVE to step back and see why on earth they are like this. It's hard......but if you honestly want to get to the bottom of this and solve the issue, you so have to dig deep. Once you figure it out, you can feed that need of theirs in ways that allow them to react not so negatively and not so manipulatively. \n\nI know you girl. You are SOOO up for a challenge. Ok...well here you have one. Solve this one Sherlock! And once you do, and feed the fire in your brilliant way, I just KNOW you will see a change. :) \n\nLove ya!