why boyfriends are abusive???
117891
Boyfriends aren't abusive...Users and loosers are abusive...
343467
find another boyfriend who doesnt put you under such pressure!
508575
If you feel that way then it's not a healthy relationship and you should dump him. Love should make you feel like you'll burst from happiness. If it doesn't feel right it's not. Maybe one or both of you is/are suffering from depression. Maybe he has no respect for you. Is he Physically or verbaly abusive? If he is he won't let you go that easy. There could be lots of reasons for your feelings. You deserve happiness and should keep looking for it. Close this chapter of your life. Move on. Avoid guys like your boyfriend that make you unhappy.
992809
think for yourself, does your boyfriend worth you or not. you are the judge here. don't let your pal say things to you, because what will happen is that you and your boyfriend will end up yelling at each other over nothing. trust me, think for yourself. is your bf good or bad. you decide.
916720
Sweetie, just because he isn't physically abusing you doesn't mean he's not still abusing you.  He's traded in the fists for emotional abuse.  That's what he's doing when he tells you he hates you and other hurtful things.  You need to get out of that relationship as soon as you can.  get yourself into some counseling so you understand why you chose to be with an abuser, and move on.  I understand completely where you're coming from, I've been there.  Since I've gone to counseling and stuff, I've come to understand myself so much better.  You will, too.  When you do, it will help you choose a different type of guy.....one that won't abuse you.  I've finally found my Mr. Right, and you will, too.  You just need to get out of this relationship.  Email me if you want to talk some more.  I'm a good listener :)
860924
Well, you answered part of the question yourself co-dependency. They are also embarresed confused lonely hurt scared. It is a pattern and until you are comfortable enough and not afraid of what may happen will the other person leave. It takes alot of strength and guts to get out of a abusive relationship because most of these people see themselves as failures already. They need to learn to understand there is help out there and they can survive on there own.
866212
I READ YOUR PROFILE.  ONE OF YOUR QUESTION WAS ASKING ADVICE ON HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH LOSING YOUR FRIENDS BECAUSE OF YOUR BOYFRIEND!  YOU NEED TO SEEK HELP AND FIND OUT WHY YOU SEEK OUT BEING TREATED SO POORLY.  YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM.  GOOD LUCK, PLEASE HEED THE ADVICE THAT YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING, IT SEEMS TO BE SOUND.
1113938
Get outta there. It is obvious are some extreme issues. If he can not take charge and wipe out the problems, then there is more to this, get out now before you get too hurt or worst involved in an abusive relationship. You don't need the headaches.
273139
Jealousy can get abusive. Be careful, dont let him do anything to you!! Its not a godo thing, because it shows that he doesn;t have much self esteem. Be careful, though he might get violent. AND>>> dont give him any reasons to be jealous either
485739
Yes they do because they are stupid and undeserving of pity. If they are too stupid to leave when someone beats them they deserve it or like it. Most wiil say Im scared to leave or I have nowhere to go or but hes a good provider or he takes care of the kids etc.... Its all bs. I had 3 ex gfs slap me before and I walked out and never spoke to them again, I dont put up with abuse but some sick and twisted people like it. Feel no pity for them as they arent even human, even a dog will try to run away if it knows its going to get beat.
694633
My boyfriend stuck up for me at a concert. This guy kept shoving and pushing me and other people for no apparent reason. And he was a lot older than us and should've been more mature about it. My boyfriend almost got in a fight with him after he told him to stop, but the guy wasn't listening. I stood in between them just because I didn't want them to throw any punches or anything.\n\nHe never got in a fight with some other guy trying to hit on me. He's a little more mature than that and knows how to handle things better. He trusts me to do the right thing.
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
763106
Because many girls have grown up in households that were abusive in some way (physically, emotionally, or sexually). They become "comfortable" with abusive treatment, and many come to associate pain with love. Other girls grew up with absentee fathers, so they end up with guys who are unavailable in some way.
883656
Because these guys don't start out disrespecting them.  They usually treat them like princesses in the beginning... and these guys add an excitement to the relationship that you don't get with the nice guys.\n\nBy the time they start treating the girl like crap so she's so far in she doesn't really realize it.  This is also how girls wind up in abusive relationships.  Even the strongest of women can fall into this pit of despair.\n\nI've had happen to me.  Bu I ditched that jerk after a year and am now engaged to a sweet, loving man.  \n\nWomen just have to figure it out for themselves.. Unfortunately.
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Do not stay in any relationship that is not healthy. ABUSE WILL ESCALATE, WHETHER IT BE VERBALLY OR PHYSICALLY. You are a worthy person and deserve the up most respect. Talk to a close friend that you trust or your parents. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, YOU ARE A SPECIAL PERSON!!!
887980
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go.  Verbal abuse is ABUSE.  And sometimes worse than physical.  If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that.  There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse.  You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like  you.  Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect.  Don't you agree.
925723
Hey girl !!!! what are u still interested in a guy who tries to abuse u ???? U know abusing someone is called domestic violence. if i were u i would tell someone and slap him right in the face ..... but i advice u to not to do that as this could result to rape or anything and tell someone about it . Second thing is tell him that u cant keep ur relationship becoz its just not working out and tell him this in a public place and dont humiliate. Also, dont try to get back together becoz if people who are abusers can do anything. If he has done it once he can do it again and next time he will break ur hand.So, the conclusion is leave him because he is a mooron and a abuser. what kind of guy is he ? abusing a girl!!! if he goes further tell ur mum and dad and contact the police. and plzz dont be scared its ur life and u should live it without fear. Personally, i advice u to learn karate as well... just incase