What happens when you love someone but that someone has a best friend and he is always talking about her?
101874
Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
926937
Listen sweetie, no matter how much you may trust a person that is your best friend something will go down that may cause them to stab you in the back. I don't know if it is supposed to happen or what but all I got to say is keep your guard up. Just don't trust everyone or anyone with your most deepest secrets, feelings, or thoughts.
776486
Rule Number 1 of friendship is that you NEVER date an ex of theirs--especially if it's your best friend.  That's almost like incest or something.  Even if you asked her and she agreed with it; somewhere within herself it would hurt her tremendously.  She just wouldn't want you to know that.\n\nRule Number 2 is that you learned a lot about the guy by the way he treated your best friend.  If he was a jerk to her, he'll repeat actions with you.  I personally think he just wants to ruin your friendship and make your best friend suffer by watching the two of you together.\n\nJust don't do it.  There are TOO MANY people out there to narrow things down to a best friend's jerk of an exboyfriend.  That's immediately set up for failure in two aspects.
366382
if she talks about him constantly
60472
I think it is possible to have friends of opposite sex, but what concernes me about your story is that he  is not open with you about this friendship. He should have no problem with you being present during his conversations with her. Another thing is after you get married, friends fade away a little and your spouse becomes a focus of your life, so it is unnatural to spend that much time even with your closest friend. If you have concerns about her, tell him about it, and if I was in this situation, I would insist that he only talks to her when I am around at least for a while so you could see for yourself that there is nothing more to the story. If she is just a friend as he claims she is, he won't have a problem with you being around while he is talking to her. But make sure you keep track of all the conversations you are aware of and see if those are the only ones that appear on the phone bill, but do it without him knowing that you are keeping track for two reasons: you won't come across as insecure and controlling and if he is doing something wrong it will be easier to catch him. I hope I'm making sense. Try not to accuse him of anything right away, just tell him that his relationship with that woman makes you unconfortable and you want to work out a situation that will work for both of you.
448590
This is a tough one......Ok you said you like your boyfriend but have fallen in love with his/your best friend. If it is love and I mean real love then you should not have to question what you should do. You just need to talk to your best friend one on one and see if it is really what you think it is.
1154637
Its common to have those feelings cause you think you can trust the person with all your inner details and secrets... The way you would want a serious relationshiop to be. And you have to remember,t he person you want to spend the rest of your life with has to be your friend first. You should think of them as your best friend. And love simply follows naturally. Thats the recipe for a great relationship anyhow.
424596
maybe your best friend put alot of emotion into your situation if you had a bad breakup with your ex and really cares about your happines and dont think your happy with your ex......or maybe your best friend is in love with you
1102523
well there is no doubt that if she is really messing with this guy, she doesnt deserve your friendship, so 4get about her because she is not being loyal and sincere. but most importantly, forget about the guy! i cant believe he is doing this with your bestfriend when he knows you like him!
211524
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
338482
Yes, I have told b/fs about the bd things bout me, if you don't let him know, and he finds out later, to me that's like lieing, in order to love and be loved, you have to let the bad things out as well.  Your partner is suppose to your best friend in all the world, if this is true, then you should be able to tell them anything and everything.
321450
u cant stop thnking about him, u wish u cld date him even tho ur friend is dating him & ur bff has been in luv w/ him 4 3 yrs, u tease him, & he teases u bak. he makes u cry cuz u cant have him.  this is my situation so...
427793
If he is your best friend then you should be open to telling him anything. Let him know how you feel about him and he should be okay with that. Maybe throw some hints out there that you have slight feelings like that for him and ask him about when he tells you he loves you.. does he mean he "really" loves you or "just as friends" loves you!? You have to find out what his feelings are to be able to decide really what you should do!\n\nThey do say that the one you are supposed to be with is going to be your best friend. \n\nGood luck and I hope this turns out being the way you want it to be!
935148
It's not uncommon.  It is more prevalent thatn you think.  You are probably just infatuated with him a little maybe because of the way he looks or the way he acts.  If you don't want to lose your man then don't pursue his best friend.  Just accept things the way they are and don't worry about it.  Sooner or later you will lose interest in his friend.
782438
Your best friend cuz she sounds like a jerk. \n\nBut think about it, becuz if you dump her, then if your boyfriend dumps you, your left with nothing.
269254
You're best friend couldn't truly be a friend if she wants your man.  Does he show interest in her? If not, let her go or lay off the friendship for a while to see if she is truly your friend.  If he has interest in her, let him go also he was to be a friend before lover anyway. A friend is forever and would never hurt you or put you in compromising position.
671030
a best friend knows everything bout your girlfriend and listens. a girlfriend gets increasingly jealous when you tell her about your best friend.  \n\nyou can get physical with you girlfriend, but not your best friend-without risking the relationship.