I'm fat and not too pretty, but I like this guy and want to know how to get him to like me back. HELP!?
103675
what does fat & not pretty have to do with it? give yourself a break. as long as you're a fun likable person your chances are just as good an anyone elses. i'd rather hang with a funny fun exciting riot of a woman and have a woot of a time than some stiff allways worried about their hair getting flat. just be who you are cause that it what you want people to fall in love with!
583582
Hey Confused, this is 2006. It is okay to talk to the guy. Tell him that you are really mad at manipulative people. And that you noticed him and want to know more about him.\n\nYou say you really like him. Well, you must know something about him, what he likes, etc. Ask him to tell you more about himself. Guys are suckers for that. Really. Sit there and listen. If he plays an instrument, read up on it. Ask him what his favorite band is. You know things like that. Ask his opinion about movies, team sports.  Find common interests.\n\nIf you want him to ask you out, he has to know who you are and find you approachable. When he finds out you are easy to talk with, guess what? He will feel better about asking you out. Play it cool. \n\nAnd killing yourself? Hey, that is forever. Never going to get that good looking guy that way. Hang around. Be interesting and interested. Develop yourself and your own interests. Being not as eager is also a good thing. Remember this, dogs and men chase what runs away.
865625
i had the same problem (till i found my girlfriend).  The key is confidence in yourself, without acting arrogant.  You just have to not concentrate on the fact that you like the guy, and concentrate on what hes chattin about.  You could tell him that you get nervous around guys you like, then you have an excuse when you stumble your words, and he'll be flattered.\n\nGood Luck!
508890
You don't want a guy who is just interested in your looks, you want one that likes your personality. Make sure this guy knows what you are like. Chat to him, find any excuse. Become friends with him and see where it goes. If my mates are anything to go by, looks are not a great thing to have as my mates are sometimes ever so slightly shallow :-/
172960
there's nothing wrong with trying..who knows..maybe he like you back..and in case he ignores you..who cares!..he doesn't deserve your attention..there's still a lot of nice guys out there..
1167665
Getting a guy to notice or like you involves the use of basic social skills. You should be honest, direct, pleasant, and reasonable. If you really like a guy, but you haven't really talked to him - you're dying to, but you're too scared - here are some tips to help you say hello. \n\nSteps \nGet a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. \n\nBe yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. \n\nDon't cuss. It turns guys off most of the time. \n\nSmile. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. It'll say to everyone, "Wow, she's a nice person!" \n\nFlirt a little - not like crazy, but a little bit here and there. \n\nTry to be around him often, such as sitting near him. \n\nShow off a little when you're around your friends, but not a lot because then he might think you're just silly. \n\nTry to make lots of eye contact - and when you do, smile! (Guys \noften don't look at girls in the eyes, so looking into theirs when they're talking shows them that you are interested in them). \n\nGo up to him and talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. You could even compliment him. Even if you just say he has a nice shirt or a cool watch; it shows him that you're into him. \n\nTell him how you really feel about him once you get comfortable talking together. \n\nBe a brave person and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. This will catch his attention, and his respect. \n\nTips \nDon't change yourself too much. \n\nA good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question - \nsomething about an interest you might have in common, or even what the time is. Make sure you hide your watch! \n\nSit close to him an touch him on his arm to show him you're interested. \n\nListen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. That makes them really annoyed and it's rude! \n\nAct confident but try not to seem stuck up. \n'Bad clothes' are those old pants you used for painting the fence and the sweatshirt with the pony on it. \n\nAsk him out if you're sure he's interested. Most boys love it when girls ask them out. \n\nConsider helping him out with other things like homework and social problems. \n\nWarnings \nNo guy likes a person who is snobby. \n\nIf he tries to do anything you're not comfortable with, tell him that you are not ready for that stuff yet. If he's cool with that, great. If not, then he's not really the nice guy you thought he was. \n\nDon't wear bad clothes when you decide to be brave and walk up to your man. \n\nMake sure to brush your teeth! \n\nBe sure to have gum, breath mints, listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly. \n\nDon't tell him lies. \n\nIf the guy is a jerk, but you find him attractive, don't let him take advantage of you. Find out more about him before you let things get too serious. \n\nYou can't get everyone to notice you. You cannot get everyone to like you all the time!
580213
talk to him. If your pretty and skinny just go up tp him. If your kinda fat lose wieght or he'll never go out with you.
198546
Never feel that you are not good enough for someone. He may like you for who you are no matter what you think. Just because he is handsome doesn't mean that he isn't going to like you. Just follow your hurt and take things as the come. If you guys do hook up then have a ball and get to know each other. It isn't about looks that make a relationship, it's about what's in it!!! GOOD LUCK
168036
Looks don't matter as much as everyone thinks they do.  People generally like others that are confident (whether it be a romantic relationship or friendship).  Be confident in who you are.  Learn to love yourself, sweetie!  Talk to him first.  Take it slow if you're nervous and shy.  But, be confident.  Don't let him see that you're afraid or nervous.  Instead, just smile!
207950
The best way is to be yourself and not try too hard. \n\nIf it's a specific person who's attention you are trying to get, let him know. But don't make it all about you and how you feel. What is it you like about him? What are his good qualities? Tell him what they are and what you like about him. That will definately get his attention. Then go on to tell him what his good qualities do for you, or how he makes you feel. Boost his ego and make him feel like the man and he'll be yours ;)
441416
Well, first you have to answer whether you like him. If yes, then do some dramatic flirting to see where it goes. If no, show him your type by pointing out guys that look VERY opppsite from him. Hopefully he will get over it.
482912
I think just keep making small talk with him.  Becoming his friend first may lead to a closer relationship with him.  It sounds like you're showing interest without being too pushy.  A lot of guys like a girl that is challenging and has her own interests.  I'm glad to hear that you don't want to change your style or compromise your moral beliefs to earn attention from a boy.  \nAnd by the way, congratulations on losing weight.  I know it's one of the hardest things in the world to do.  :O)
906421
girl you gotta break outta that shell your in. you gotta be more out going,loud,noticeable!you gotta make him WANT to know who you are.hook an outfit up,fitten you just right,get with a group of loud friends and make sure he sees YOU.and neva say your not pretty,there is not one ugly female on gods green earth,he made every female unique,you just need to bring your uniqueness to full blast for this guy.make HIM drop to his knees,I'm sure you can do it.just remember one thing:he likes you and he just don't know it so show it to him.\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
383344
wow i'm in a very similar situation right now and its tough.  if you are having a conversation with him, try to touch his arm as your making a point.  it also wouldnt be a bad idea to simply say "you're really cute".  its better to let them know that you like them than to never try at all.  good luck, e-mail me if you have any more questions
415812
Are you sure he doesn't like you cause you're fat? Maybe there's something else in his mind. Look, i'm also fat. I have  a lot of ugly stretch marks all over my body but i know i am happier than most of the beautiful women on earth. It actually what you have in mind. If he really doesn't like you cause you're fat, remember girl, he's not worth you!! You deserve to be loved by a decent man. Don't try on a diet or extra exercise because of a lousy man. Because even if it works out (your diet and sport) and then he loves you because you have model figure, would you really think that his love is sincere? Would you really think he loves you because of you and not because of your sexy body? You have two choices.\n \nIf he doesn't like you cause you're fat, LEAVE HIM!! it is the lousiest reason a man doesn't like a woman.\nIf else, try to find out the reason he doesn't like you then work it out.
582851
The best thing you could do is leave him so he can find someone less shallow.  It sounds like you really don't care about this guy at all, or you would accept him for who he is.  Why did you get with him if you're embarrassed that he eats a lot, anyway?  You admit he's "really fat".  This is what really fat people do.  But even if he is really fat, he still deserves better than someone who is ashamed of him.
565017
idk how do you get a guy to like you?