Shoudl i be afried to have sex?? Does it hurt??
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Everyone wants to jump in on this question, don't they? over 20 responses within 25 minutes, and who knows how many more by the time I finish typing this!!! \n\nMy answer:\nHell yea you should be afraid if someone is pressuring you to do something you are unsure of. It'll probably most likely hurt in more ways than one. \n\nSounds like you are a potential rape victim, either that or a cop trying to catch perverts.
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Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
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sweetheart..  if you are virgin, I dont know if you can pop your cherry like that!  You must have long fingers  ;-)\n\n\nBut seriously, you probably just scratch yourself...  but to be on the safe side get yourself check out, just to make sure.
438671
First-time sex shouldn't be painful, provided you are with someone you love and you feel completely relaxed with. You have to be completely ready for sex and totally comfortable with the idea. There should also be lots of foreplay to make sure you are well-lubricated. Provided all this is true, you shouldn't experience any pain.\n\nHowever, if a girl feels unsure about having sex, or unsure about the person she's having it with, her vaginal muscles will tense up, which can cause a lot of pain. This is true of any sex, not just first-time sex.\n\nBe safe, have fun.
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Well the pain cant just be from talking about pain sex. The pain can be from mid point of your period your 18 so your body is about sone growing and is telling you that its almost done I had the same problem as well. I now only feel that way mid way between periods. That is all I can think of about this subject.
305153
it does not hurt at all, it feels good. and my question was anout a n a l . lol can we meet.... lol
1057570
it will hurt a lot initially..but once u get used to it..it's ok
618710
Ok sex isn't something that you can plan it just happens when it happens.....You either need to use lube or get yourself wet before he can start penetration.He needs to have an erection, then you start penetration.....if you are a virgin this will probably hurt (depending on the size of the penis)But then the more you do it the less it hurt and the more you start to enjoy it (if your doing it right)\ni hope that helps
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In the movies it is acting...but, YES, sex can hurt.\n\nIf you are going at it too hard, or if you do not have sufficient lubrication, it can be downright painful.
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Yes some times physical and mental.  If you're a virgin than the first time it might hurt.  The guy should be attentive to this fact and go slow and easy.  And if u tell him it hurts he should stop.  But everything that is good will hurt some some time but not all the time.  U should be able to enjoy sex without hurt.  So girl if you're a virgin go easy.  And if not and u like it fast and hard I'm your man.  Either way I will help u.\nCHUCK\n:--# )
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you should have sex when you know you are ready and you know that you will not reget it in the future! If you do feel right having sex or you are jus doin it cuz every1 else is you should not do it\nGotta love me :\nNina
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No not at all, with that much sex it is just sore. My fiancee' has a piercing and if he is rough enough I can barely sit for days LOL :)
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yes. because even though you get the feel of what it will be like you still have never slept with a guy and that is the definition of loosing your virginity and besides it may not hurt as bad if you have already played around and playing with your self is safer than sex because you cant get pregnate and you cant get a disease.
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Sex hurts when is the first time, but after that feels gooooddd, and it depends on the positions too but still good!!
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It is only obvious to be curious at your age.  It is funny I had the same questions and by being too embarrased to ask a grown up and the false information I got from my peers allowed me to explore  for my self.  However, the 1st time I had sex I was 17 my senior year in highschool. It was with my highschool sweet heart.  We had been together since 9th grade and he was already sexually active and constantly tried to convince me to have sex with him,  I wanted to wait til I got married but he would say it doesn't matter because we were going to get married anyways, he also advised me if I got pregnant it wouldn't matter because he was going pro in football so he would be able to take care of us.  However, he did go off to college on a football scholarship, got injured in college, never went pro, works a mediocre job, has 4 kids by 4 baby momma's and we broke up his first semester in college (honestly).   \nSweetheart you are 14 years old try to put your curiosity into something else more positive (education), trust me boys will be around and sex isn't going anywhere. When you are ready and the time is right you will know it there won't be any question about it and make him wait that will show if he really cares.\n\nTo answer your question honestly, sex is definately worth waiting for, the first time you have sex it will hurt. It will hurt probably the first few times and you will be extremely sore and probably never want to do it again. Basically it is like someone is hammering something large into a tiny hole (your vagina) the walls around the vagina will be inflamed and extremely sore.  (Imagine the felling) However, the boy will not experience the pain you are feeling and will probably try to continue ignoring your pain. If you do decide please make sure this is with someone you trust and cares about you. You will probably feel uncomfortable being naked especially at your age (i was) Initially it is not the most fun thing to do and nothing about the first time you have sex is fun or beautiful (even after you get married).  However, waiting for sex is definately worth waiting for and rewarding  because it is the most intimate relationship you can have with someone.  A man will truly admire the fact this his wife is a virgin and the only person they have been with is them.  I was glad I waited until I was older (17), but if I could have waited longer I would have.   REmember your body is a temple and don't let anyone enter it unless you know they cherish it and cherish you as well.  I hope this helps you make the right decision.
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There is going to be some pain, that is unavoidable. The key is to really listen and gage her reactions on when to move more and when you have broken her hymen. Let her tell you when it is ok to go in more. Don't allow her to be uncomfortable about letting you know what feels good and what doesn't. Make sure that you both are as relaxed as possible, and that doesn't mean that you have to drink to achieve this. Take a bath together, massage her back and shoulders, take time with foreplay as it will always make entering her less painful. Enjoyable? Not so sure, every woman has had different experiences with that part of loosing her virginity. Myself, I did enjoy it. But I wasn't tense, and was very ready for the act even though I didn't have any idea what i was doing. I had a very patient man who was willing to work with me and lead me gently and was willing to listen to me a gage my reactions from what he was doing. Hope that you too have a wonderful experience together and congratulations on waiting!! :)
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If you have the right guy for the first time, and he's gentle, it shouldn't hurt at all.\nIf it hurts, then he needs to know and not make something happen that's not going to.