how do you feel when you need sex but your partner is not there at the time?
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There are a few passive acts you can preform on your partner to satisfy him without indulging yourself. I mean if you really love him.
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If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
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It takes so much energy out of the body to have sex, and then the climax...that'll make you just want to curl up and sleep with wonderful thoughts and a smile upon yours and your lover's face ;)
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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We are human, so we feel, its only natural. If someone doesnt have a partner to have sex with, what are they going to vent out their frustrations with???? Masturation.
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uhmm i was in a position where i was in a awkward spot. i didn't have sex with more than one guy at a time..but they would have been game had i said yes. we were up watching a movie..and one of them kissed me and stuff..and then of course the other thought it was time for him to join in. \nwe didn't go all out and have sex, but i guess you could say there was some intimate contact..
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Sex is so much more than the act itself.  You don't feel anything because you are just having sex to have sex...maybe because that is what you think you are supposed to do.  Sex becomes amazing when you are with someone you love who loves you back totally and wants to know what your desires and turn ons are and then together you can make sex good...great...fulfilling!!! This usually occurs in a marriage relationship where each person WANTS the other person to be completely satisfied.
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do u feel that ur heart is going to jumb out of ur body when u see ur lover ? do u feel that u miss him even if he is beside u? do u feel that u dont want anything else excpet being with him ? do u feel the whole safety when u r between his arms? then u r in love :)
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My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
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being with your partner is in itself the best thing. as for doing things together, there may be plenty, but the most important ones i feels is to let your partner have your full attention, to let him/her know and feel that you care and are there for them, no matter what. these are special times to have fun together and to get to know each other more, cook, bake, read, watch a movie, shop, dance, play, laze around, do whatever but together. and yes thank the one above every single second for giving you your beloved's company.
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with a partner, or without, There's a big difference
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Just a normal event, I guess!\nOur body and so our sexual system is made for one sexual act at time, while during the act the whole body and brain are involved in.\nSure, some people are able to have long act or to begin another consequentially, but it’s not the majority! Therefore, it’s a normal fact that you feel tired or that you have to wait about an hour before to be ready for another act.\nI ask: is it better to carry on ONE good and satisfactory (for the partner) act only, or a couple of short and unsatisfactory one??
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Yes, sometimes one just needs to be alone. It is great to have a partner to share moments with, but sometimes, it is very satisfying to be by yourself, make your own decisions and just please yourself!
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That is kind of hard - everyone is ready at different times in their lives. But you should:\n\n*feel that you and your partner work well as a team Being in love simply is not enough - you have to know that when things are tough - which they will be at some point - that you can work though it together.\n\n*feel ready to sacrifice the single lifestyle
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Well the truth is, without one your not going to have the other.  If you don't have a good relationship outside the bedroom, your going to loose interest in each other.  If your not getting your needs met in the bedroom, your going to feel resentful and the rest won't be good.\nJust like everything in life it's about balance.
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Having an affair doesn't take away the emptiness - in fact, it only creates more emptiness (as well as confusion). These feelings are far more severe than feeling "neglected". Obviously you're in need of intimacy, and if your partner isn't being attentive to this, it's only natural to toy with the idea of being with another man. If you don't address the issue, you might find yourself doing things that you never thought you'd do. So address it, and if it doesn't work, buy a dildo or get out of the relationship.
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OOOHHHHHH Been there done that.\n\nThere are always signs.  He's gone a lot, works late a lot more often than he used to, wants to spend more time with the guys.  But be careful.  Love can make us feel very  vulnerable.  And if you have stuff going on in your own life like you're not feeling great about yourself, or have just become a mom, BE CAREFUL.  Don't confuse doubt about yourself with doubt about your love.  It's easy to do.  Sometimes when you're looking up to someone else it can feel like they're looking down at you.  Examine your own heart before you examine his motives.\n\nThe sign I missed was he never wanted to have sex with me anymore.\n\nIf he is...... let him have it.\n\nGood Luck, hope it all works out.