me and my boyfriend are going to be getting engaged, but my sister dont think we should. what should i do?
111723
Don't get engaged the minute he steps off the place, tell him that you want to be with him for one month after he arrives.  (He will be a little different than the man you know and love)  After two weeks, reevaluate whether or not he is the one for you.  This gives you two weeks before he pounces on you with his question so be ready.  As for the sister, ask for specifics, maybe she knows something about him that she hasn't told you for fear of hurting you and losing you.
268918
Let your brother know that you like this guy.  If your brother is against it he will tell you then walk away, or come to a compromise with your brother.  If he dont care which he prob. wont then go for it. B/f you start a relationship with this guy set out some rules and let him know that if it does or doesn't work out it's between the both of you.  Just think if you marry this guy your 1 step ahead; the family already likes him lol.
1048474
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
1001323
Don't listen to that asshole... (creative)\n\nIf you two can respect each other's culture and religion then go for it. Each side of the family may not approve in the beginning but they'll have to come around sooner or later. And if not, it's your life and your happiness that you should be concerned about, no on else's. Good luck.
774035
H.  I don't know why you have to ask what you should do.  To marry because you don't want to hurt family, or to save yourself from embarrassment is ludicrous.  No one should enter into marriage unless they love their fiance and plan to stay with them til death do they part. It is really not fair to your fiance to begin this union feeling the way you do, and have you even considered what kind of life would any children have if you did not love their mother.  There really is nothing to contemplate.  You should break off the engagement, stop the wedding and go on with your life.  Marry only when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the chosen one. Good Luck!
840152
With Christmas coming up.. make mention of a ring some how. Even by making small talk in bed before sleep, bring it up somehow. He deserves to know how you feel and what you want! And if he doesn't want that yet or what not.. understand! Don't be in a hurry.. live life, have fun, and if things are meant to me between you two, a ring and a kid or more will happen!! It just takes time. Trust me, live life and have fun while you can, before you know it you'll be changing stinky diapers!. Enjoy your freedom of going out when ever you can, and not have to worry about finding a baby sitter or telling your friends you have to stay home with the kid. Plus.. a wedding and a kid shortly after is EXPENSIVE. Save up your money. Because once you have a kid.. you have responsibilities for the rest of your life.. enjoy life while you have the chance girl!!!
178545
come on, be a man...don't just run away from your responsibility. just imagine if it happens to your sister, what a worse thing it may be. a true love is compasionate. face your fear, it may be once in your life but you will learn so much from it. your girlfriend might suffering right now and she is needing your much attention. good luck
1042040
Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
939668
Stop listening to your sister and start trusting your own judgement.  If your man is true to you, you'll know it by his own actions.  If you have too many opportunities to be unsure of what he says, that gut feeling is probably right, and if you get to that point, you don't need proof, you just move on.  Someone who makes you wonder repeatedly, isn't giving you what a relationship is supposed to be about. If you have no reason to doubt him, you'll feel that too.  Stay in touch with your sister, but if she's an instigator and frequently negative, tell her you don't want to hear that stuff and if she continues with it, hang up.  You only get one family.  Don't shut your sister out but just don't buy into gossip or games, and learn to trust in your own judgement.  It's usually the best guide.
727506
Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
188168
No, it's not fair.. but then it sounds like NONE of it is fair.. it sounds to me as though your family has much deeper problems than whether they should accept your engagement or not.  That is a very minor thing, I think.  There are problems there that should be faced and they have absolutely NOTHING to do wtih your fiance or your engagement.  Try to look at your relationship with your fiance objectively.. and your relatinship with your family also..  as harsh as it may sound, being disowned in some situations is not the worst that can happen.  I hope that is not the case with you.  Listen to what they have to say.. hope that they listen to what YOU have to say.. and then think it through with an adult and responsible mind.. and do what you feel is best for YOU. No one else.. you have to look out for yourself, ok?   Good luck.
296914
It depends on what kind of fiance she has (I'm assuming your sibling is a she, since there's only one 'e' at the end of the word).\n\nIf there's something definitely wrong with their relationship (for example, if she's marrying for money or something other than love), and that they'll only get hurt, then tell them that. It's for their own good. However, when you tell them, don't keep nagging them; it'll get annoying and they'll probably not listen. Even if they don't listen, don't keep reminding them of your opinions. If they get hurt, it would be a valuable, albeit expensive, lesson that they'll always remember.\n\nHowever, if you simply dislike the fiance because of his personality or whatnot, but there's nothing wrong with their relationship, then just be happy for them. Be happy that your sibling is happy. And then support them, because at this point, what matters is THEIR happiness. YOUR happiness will be the top priority will be when you get married (or it was the top priority when you did get married), and if your sibling didn't/doesn't like it, then too bad. But for now, support them and be happy for them. If you absolutely can't do that, then just back off. And fake a smile if you can.\n\nGood luck, and I hope the wedding goes well!
1073750
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
186190
why not if no stringed attached anymore between the guy and your sister i think its not bad and its okey,but well you must tell it to your sister as a respect.Tell her the truth about what you feel and maybe she will give you some advices.
827423
Ummm I don't know how old u r, but really that doesn't matter... stay away from the sister's bf....STAY AWAY FROM THE SISTER'S BF!!  All that will happen is drama drama drama.  Stick with your b/f or go find a better one...but you need to distance yourself from your sister's relationship now before it goes any further!!!
121904
you have to kind of like the person who you want to marry.\nI think your family's point of view is as important as yours. and even if you do not love that person, make sure that you do nto hate him.\n\nIf he is nice caring and faithful you will fall in love later on in your life.\n\nAll the Best
1185279
If you want them at your wedding, of course you have to invite them!  It doesn't matter if they are your siblings or not...people don't feel right about going to something like that if they weren't invited.