how do i heal a broken heart with my partner in office?
108207
It will be very hard expecially if there is still a lot of emotions which you share.
132161
The heart is a funny thing. It is only mended through time. There is no other way to make heal it, unfortunately. The one thing you CAN do however, is keep remembering WHY you are no longer together and reinforce those ideas. Now that you have a single life, you need to get out and do the things that you haven't been able to do for a while. Whatever you used to find pleasure in, but just couldn't find the time. Bowling, pool, hiking, camping, etc.. those are good distracters to help you along with the tenderness.. That's how I got over my relationship turmoil, and I hope this truly helps you in your journeys..
182549
If your job is what is taking u away here is an idea that may help her adjust.  Buy little things- I dont mean diamonds and gold- just little things and send her something each and everyday!  Make sure once a week she gets flowers.  Send her cards of love every single day.  Call her on your lunch breaks just to say u love her- send her photos on your cell phone of u missing her!  I would also try to move closer to her before she gets too lonely!  But some of these things will make her soooo happy and make her feel so loved she might just move to be near YOU!
1049859
You have to want to, and let time heal your wounds.  Try counseling, whether alone or with him.  Talking out your feelings is the only way you will truly ever be able to process them.\n   Do not listen to these people who say give up and move on.  We do that too much today.  Give up to easy.  If you really love him, try to work it out.  You will probably never forget the hurt he has caused you, but you may be able to forgive, move on, and both of you learn a valuable lesson.  It may make you stronger in the long run.\n   I would suggest counseling before you give up, but if the pain is too great, then maybe you should seperate for awhile (not give up, just seperate) and work on things at a distance where you both have your space to heal, grow, and process.\n\nGood luck.  peace and love
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I think you are referring to an affair in the past?\n\nI know from personal experience how hard it is to hear about this kind of thing. For you it has long been over, but remember that for him this is brand new, it almost might as well have been yesterday for him.\n\nIts too late to wonder whether you should have told him or not, and there are arguments each way... the important thing now is to think about how hard this was for you to come to terms with and share, and then think about how hard it is for him and the feeling of betrayal. It wasn't wrong to tell him... but he needs to go through the natural series of reactions for this and they will probably include disbelief, self-blame, anger, and possibly mild depression. This is a hard thing to accept and an even harder thing to let go of. This is really hard for him obviously. He needs time. I can't make you any promises about how things will turn out, but if you really love him, try to give him space when he needs it, you don't want him to feel like he needs space and never be able to get it because you see him pull away and you keep trying to fix things.\n\nHave patience, it will take time for him to accept this. Remember, this is all new to him. This just happened for him... knowing it was a long time ago doesn't make it any less of an impact. Hang in there and just keep loving him as best you can. If you have a good relationship then things will work themselves out in time.
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just be there for you. keep the lines of commucation open and keep reassuring her you love her very much. right now she is feeling really bad and needs your support. help her find a new job. go to her place and make supper for her. and encourage her to seek to talk to a professional and go along with her for support.. i must say truely you are a good man to forgive her like for having an affair. that says alot about you and i see that you must have truely changed..ps also be very patient with her coze this is a very trying time for her ok.. best of luck to both of you.
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It's good that you want to make sweet gestures like that. \nI've been with my hubby for 19 years & still do soppy things. Last week I left a big chocolate heart on his pillow when I went to work for him to find when he came home from work tired. Send him text messages to say you miss him when you haven't seen him all day. Leave notes around the house. One of my favourite places to leave notes is in the glove box of his car cos he always leaves his radio in there & I know he's sure to find it. Tell him...I tell my hubby every day I love him & he does the same with me.
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WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
129554
Do exactly that cry and get it out, talk about for a while. Only time heals a broken heart.
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
759583
Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
915433
If you like each other go for it.  Get together outside of the office.  you can't be scared of what will happen if it doesn't work out.  If everyone was like that then no one would ever get together.  If there is an office policy that coworkers can not date then you need to be sneaky.  You never know, you might have found your soul mate.
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Go ahead and cry, but don't allow yourself to be consumed with those thoughts and tears.  There's a time for your grief and a time to study.  Your relationship is over so don't allow that to take over your schooling.  Stay focused on your work when you're doing it.  Try not to get side tracked with thoughts of him.  It's the only way, but make a decision to not think about him when you're working and stick to it.
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No one here can help you truly heal. \nReading your question brings me back about a year ago when my relationship ended after about 4years together. I really thought that i was going to die. And all my friends kept on telling me that time would heal my heart and while i am waiting the time away i needed to just surround my self with friends and family and keep my self busy. All good and well and so i did and the time did heal me a bit i stop crying every night and i was able to get back into the swing of things however every now and again i am taken back to that time and i face that same pounding in my chest and that feeling of heaviness on my heart Anything can trigger it but i find that a song or a smell and of course the Holidays.. This will be the second thanksgiving apart now i am in a new relationship but i will never forget that one love of a lifetime.\nI wish you well and know that you are not alone in your hurting.. \nAnd one more time Only time can heal your broken heart.
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Try going out for a friendly lunch or after hours meeting and discuss your feelings or simply to get away from the prying eyes of your co-workers. See if there is an attraction or if nothing can come of it, for whatever reason, accept that and move on. Agree to remain friends without the unnecessary tension.
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Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
110502
First thing, office romances always go badly, there's just too much time together with no break. In the beginning that sounds great, but after a while, it's just bad news. Secondly, you are both coming off of a bad relationship, you need time to learn who you are again before you try to learn who someone else is.