i know its wrong to go for abortions u fall pregnant but got so much to do in life what then? i it a option?
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Congratulations, forever2004!  ~ I completely agree with him.\n\nThe following was my response to a question a while back:\n\n\nAbortion is murder.\n\nTwo wrongs do not make a right.\n\nDecisions are easier to make & to live by when one knows the difference between right & wrong.\n\nI was raped, and I became pregnant as a result, because I was unable to report the crime until days later. At that time I was pressured to "terminate" the pregnancy, to go get "cleaned up."\n\nI knew the difference between right & wrong.\n\nI chose not to kill - I could feel a living being inside my womb.\n\nI lost the man I loved & 35 piano students as a result, then lost my house, my cats, my baby grand piano & most of what I owned, and became homeless. I was homeless ten times that year.\n\nI lost my friends, and the respect and support of my family, because they believed I had made a bad decision.\n\nI was called various deeply derogatory names, & I was treated like a walking disease by people I had called my friends and by people I had never even met. Christian people refused to look me in the eye.\n\nI never wondered whether I had made the right decision, because I knew that abortion is murder.\n\nI was willing to go through whatever was in store for me & for us, because I knew no matter how rough it got, we would be O.K. somehow.\n\nI believed that if there really is a God, if I lived according to His rules, He would take care of us, whether it seemed possible or not. He promised, & I believed. That's called faith.\n\nWe now live 500 miles away from the place where I was raped. Two years ago, I bought a house. I have 24 piano students & my art & creative writing classes are never empty.\n\nI've regained more than I ever lost. I feel like Job, from the Bible.\n\nMy heart is never empty.\n\nI can sleep in my own skin on the quietest night. I can look in a mirror, and look myself in the eye.\n\nI've never been healthier or happier in my life.\n\nEvery time I look into the eyes of my beautiful, happy daughter, I thank God for her, and for the decision I made, based on what I knew in my heart to be true -\n\nAbortion is murder.\n\nTwo wrongs do not make a right.
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I'm a pro-choicer, but only because I feel a woman has a right to choose what she does with her body.  I do, however, think it's a disgusting practice when women wait till the baby is fully developed and they have to deliver the baby half-way and suck the brain out.  There should be a time limit.  If you haven't decided before the baby has a heart beat, I think you waited too long.  Even if they enact laws banning abortion, women will find ways of terminating the embryo or fetus without a doctor, so you might as well let abortion be legal.  Besides, why have one more person come into this world unloved and unwanted.
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This is such a debatable issue. I don’t like the idea of abortion and would never encourage anyone to get an abortion BUT I understand the reasons why some women would chose this option even if I wouldn't. In terms of discrimination, I don’t really see how it can be. We all know the risks of what may happen when we sleep with someone and I think that to some extent abortion is encouraging a reckless attitude towards sex. 'Oh if I dont use a condom and cant be bothered with the after morning pill, then at least there another option'.\n\nIn the times we live in now, I understand that there are other issues y women may choose not to have a baby - career, finance etc, but then y have sex and resort to putting your body through all that? Even if contraception is used there is always that 1% chance that it will fail because none is 100% guaranteed. Rather than avoid such trauma by not having sex, women try to so as they please and then fit the consequences around their lifestyle. I kno this may sound impossible to some but sex is the ONLY way we can reproduce naturally, so what do you think is gonna happen?  If abortion was made illegal it would force women to take responsibility for their actions and think more carefully about what they are getting into.\n\nHOWEVER..... you then have to think about the fact that these babies will be unwanted and this may raise the figures in babies that go up for adoption or the child may be mistreated. Also you have to think about rape victims, who did not make the choice to be a position where they might become pregnant and women who have to abort for health reasons.\n\nIn short, no I do not think that making abortion illegal discriminates against women. Altho it will take away a choice that we have regarding our own bodies, it is possible for women to avoid getting into a position where that choice has to be made, therefore making us think more carefully about that choice. People who say that women should have the choice to do as they please with their bodies blah blah blah are not considering the fact that just because they SHOULD be able to do as they please doesn’t mean they are being responsible. Also if a man decides he wants to leave a woman after he finds out about the pregnancy that is not an excuse for abortion. We all know that relationship breakdowns are a possibility, it’s not new. If you are willing to have a child, it should be unconditional, not jus because you currently have a man by your side.
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I have to try to help u, will go to the abortion issue later, 1st about the getting married, I also got married at 18, we were together all thru high school, I did just what u r going to do, but that is many yrs. ago wish I was 18 again!! Please dont make my mistake, I ended up staying married to him for 18yrs. I was so unhappy, that is a long story, but the bottom line is I did finally get a divorce, why look back now. What I ask u to do is ask yourself and be honest to yourself, why r u wanting to get married so fast? Please when u read this understand this is no judgement against your boyfriend, I want u to just sit by yourself and really give this thought, it took me yrs. to be honest with myself, I was finnally honest and my answer was I wanted to leave home, my father was a alcholic, I wanted also to be taken care of, even though I worked, I  just had to show everyone how grown up I was, needless to say he was not the same after we married, and as the yrs. went on seemed he was still thinking and treating me as if I were still a teenager! Please u and your boyfriend talk and ask each other if its real love why not just wait, your together anyway, but r u so sure or would just a 6 month wait help u both to be sure, I just want u both to be happy, wish I had been given advice, even if u dont wait at least I hope u r sure, remember I was 18 at one time to, hell never even thought or knew how fast time goes by! Whatever you and him decide I wish u both the best and my blessing, as for the abortion u cannot look back now, and believe me no one has the right to judge u, my situation was different but I had to have a abortion, my 2nd husband and I have been married 13 yrs now,happy yrs. and I became pregnant our 1st yr. but come to find out I had a tumor that made having a baby dangerous, I know what a abortion is, scary and of course sad no matter what the circumstance, I also have a friend since 7th grade and her parents made her have a abortion so in a way I know how u must feel, if its anything like my friend, she was a mess, and bitter with her parents, I can only imagine how scary it must be to be in a abortion clinic at such a young age,and against your will! It makes me sad to think of it, you went thru hell and o thers dont have a clue, unless they have been there! But dont worry u just like my dear friend will when its the right time have a beautiful healthy baby, and I just know u will be the best mom! By the way that friend I told u about was only 14 at the time, she stayed with her boyfriend and they were married at the age of 20 and this yr will be their 30th anniversary!! See were old now!!! Big 50!!LOL, and they have 2 wonderful sons, and now a grandbaby!!! All will go well for u just make sure u r doing what is right for u!! If u do get married now, please take at least a yr.before having your baby, that way u have time to enjoy each other, and be more stable. Once u have a baby believe me its a whole new life, dont take this wrong I loved having my daughter, the feeling was like oh what a miracle!!! But u have so many changes remember u and your husband will be responsible for a new life!!! Now thats amazing when u look at it that way! You will want more for your child than u had we as good parents do, remember the most precious gift u will ever give your child no matter how old he or she is will always be your love,time, and support,and beyond even that make sure your child can always come to u and talk, I wish I could have with my parents, but I never could! My daughter always could and still does and I cant believe she is 30 see what I mean how fast time goes by!!! I have a grandson so I have been blessed again! Bless u and do whats in your heart, but give my words some thought, wish u the best in life!!
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I hope no body who has an abortion regrets - as that is one thing that can not be reversed - make up your mind before you do it - some are done for very good reasons - it should not be used as a birth control but if that's what it's come to than so be it- guys(mine) view
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wow, i'm really surprised at all the abortion-is-murder stuff here.  a human embryo is a microscopic clot of cells and is hardly even visible to the naked eye, much less a fully-developed organism, for many months into a pregnancy.\n\nit's difficult to draw a line in the sand and say "this is when life begins" but i have a hard time agreeing with the notion that something qualifies as a person if it is just a little clump of cells without organs or specialized tissue of any kind, that is entirely dependent on its host for absolutely every function of life there is (except for cellular division).\n\nobviously, that little clump of cells represents a potential to become a human life, and it may be wrong to prevent that potential from being realized, but it is hardly as cut-and-dried as "this is MURDER."\n\nto answer the question, i think the answer depends on your own personal ethics.  lots of people feel that it is wrong to get an abortion because you just don't feel like having a baby.  people have an objection to doing such a serious thing for reasons that are frivolous.  lots of people say "well, you went out and had the fun part of having sex, and now you should have to bear the responsibility that comes with it.  it's not right to get an abortion every time you get knocked up because you had a one-night stand."\n\non the other hand, when someone is raped, a lot of people's objections to abortion end there, because it was not an irresponsible decision by the mother.  she had the act forced on her in a traumatizing, violent and demeaning way and it can scar her for life, and it is bad enough that it happened to her - she shouldn't also have to spend the next 20 years trapped into raising a baby she never asked for and that constantly serves as a reminder of her humiliating experience.\n\nof course, all of this is deeply personal and everyone will have different opinions about it.  also, a lot of people who say that "no, nothing justifies abortion" probably have never been faced with such a difficult decision, and if THEY were in the same situation, their moral indignation and black-and-white absolutism would probably evaporate pretty quickly.
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I think it's a very misunderstood issue - the other answers confirm this. You can't simply label it "murder" and feel satisfied with yourself for being morally surperior. It's not that simple. \n\nIf an abortion takes place early on, this "human being" is still only a collection of cells, no bigger than the period at the end of this sentence.\n\nI refuse to decide whether it is right or wrong, however, because, I will admit, I am no expert on the subject. But neither are most of the people who have answered "Murder!" It is not our place to make that decision, nor is it anyone's place to harass a woman who is trying to decide whether or not to go through with one.
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I used to be strongly against abortion because it was killing life. And I thought that if the girl had got herself into it(unless it's rape), she shouldn't kill her baby just to make life easier for her. But after a lot of thinking, I decided that it should be legal. And while I am still against killing life, I realized that if a woman did not get an abortion, so many bad things could happen to the baby after it was born. The woman could kill it by dumping it somewhere. Even if she kept the baby, she could ignore it and not really take care of the baby, which is basically killing it anyway. There are so many factors like that, so now I believe that the woman should have a right to choose even though the baby does not have the right to choose.
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I did. and i don't wanna say it's was the 'WRONG TIME' because when is the "RIGHT TIME"? at the time i was young, just finishing High School, she was about to go away to college. Money would've been tight, our lives would've been different. that does not mean, however, that it would've been bad. We could've had a beautiful Pre teen child today. and to this day she's one of my best friends. and when we talk about it now we regret deciding to abort. for this reason i am no longer Pro Abortion.
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Don't worry about what answerman had to say.  I think you feeling so adamant about "pro-choice" is admirable and I respect that.   Have you checked with any close by "abortion clinics" if there are any?  If not, search the interent for "pro-choice" abortions.  I'm sure there is someone out theree that can help you.  Good luck to you and God Bless!  By the way, I'm definitely Pro-choice" cause I've been there and done that!  Hope you find what you need.
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I'M SORRY you layed down and got it. you should be made to raise your baby. i dont belive in abortion. that's murder. there are plenty of people in this world cant have babies. but those that can they want to kill their babies.. so be responsable for your actoins. that baby cant help it. but you can help it by keeping it or adoption. it takes a sorry moma not to keep her baby.
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If this is your first and you are early in the pregnancy, you can just take a pill and have something like a miscarriage.  It will not affect you being able to get pregnant later.  But I wouldn't suggest doing it a lot because too many abortions will hinder you from geting pregnant later.  The sugery is the same but they usually do that with people that are further along.  It is very very uncomfortable and you should schedule a day to get it done and then a day after to rest and take antiboitics.
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You should have the right to choose the manner of your death. As for abortion it's a sad but necessary part of life.
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you know most children born at 30 weeks survive are perfectly healthy. do NOT do it, the complications you will have morally, ethically and mentally will never go away. the complication you could have medically, to your body arent worth the risk. not to mention how could you just kill the baby that you feel moving inside you, responding to your movements and sound. his/hers heart already beating for many many months now. turn to Jesus for help, much better than any person or online advice you can get. please dont go the abortion route, it is unchangeable. and a lifetime of regret. also there is always family's who cant have children that would love to adopt. ill be praying for you.
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Don't have an abortion.\n\nIt will cause you much more pain than even the tremendous task of carrying the baby to term and caring for it.\n\nIf you don't have the means to care for the child, just give it up for adoption, maybe even to someone in your own family that wants to have a kid, or better yet, if you have a very supportive family especially grandparents, allow them to care for the baby.\n\nPray to God that he will give you the courage and the wisdom to treat your baby as a valuable human being and not a problem to be solved by killing it.
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Oh that is a tough situation and I dont think you can make one decision that will fit everyone. I think it would depend on how far into the pregnancy you are, which would still be a tough decision to make. I don't have kids or particularly want them, but if I were pregnant and I was in the situation I personally would want to be kept alive long enough for my child to survive. Most sane normal women would want that. That is a personal decision however and the goverment should keep its nose out.
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You didn't metion your ages.  So, I'm going to say that if you are under 18 and in school.  Stay in school including if it is college.  Think about how this baby will change your life as well as his.  I think he got real scared and didn't know what to do.  I would wait on marriage.  By the way you wrote it.  I don't think you "two" are ready for marriage.  If you are pregnant, you should talk to your parents and with him to his.  Parents might pressure you into marriage.  Mine did.  And I got divocere anyway.  Because my ex didn't want to support us. \n\nYou can go to the health department for free testing by blood.  Or parent planning clinic.  As them for information on adoptation or abortation.  The choice is both that you "two" have to make for the best for you and the baby.\n\nAs for the money, that is one issue in your relationship.  Are there other's that you haven't looked at?  I would talk to him and tell him how hurt you are by his actions over the money to find out about being pregnant.  Then see where you are in the relationship.  And go from there.