I need help figuring out what to do about a ex that has lied to me but we were not together when it happened?
107918
This guy is bad news and you seriously need to stay away from him completely.
1099071
You should talk to her, write her a note, send her a message on her answering machine, anything! From her view point that looks BAD! tell her everything that happened, and maybe if that doesn't work a buddy that she knows you were with can help you out and he could tell her what happened if she doesn't believe you. I'm sure if she really loves you she is just hurt and confused about the situation and will realize that you were telling the truth. Just try and explain no matter what, its pretty much up to her weather to believe you or not. Thats all I can say about that. I hope she believes you.
846746
If he is believing what this other girl is saying, then he is unlikely to want to talk to you.  If I were you I would put all the truth in a letter and send it to him.  Try to keep it as brief as you can with all the details in the first few lines in case he thinks it is just a ploy to get him back.  What you write in your first couple of lines need to hit him in the face so he wants to continue reading.  Maybe getting to the point straight away saying ..."such and such(girl who is spreading rumours) is telling you lies, I have proof, please read on"  That should get his attention so that he will read on to get your side on things.\n\nYou have friends on your side, so that is a real plus, they obviously believe you over her and if you have their support it wont be long until your ex finds out the truth too and this girl is exposed for who she really is.  It will be her who loses out in the long run.  Vindictive people only have their victory for such a short time and then it all blows up in their face.  You have the truth on your side and the truth should always win out in the end.  Note I say, should.  Your ex may genuinely like this girl so wont be ready to believe the truth even if it does hit him in the face.  If she has won him over, then it is going to take some pretty clever thinking on your behalf and you have to start thinking of ways to expose this girl so that no-one will have any doubts, including your boyfriend.  Maybe talk to this girl yourself....set her up and tape the conversation.  Your ex boyfriend cannot deny the truth if he hears it with his own ears.  Girls at your age are pretty smart at working out ways to get back at the "bad" guy.  Use your imagination, there are ways to expose this girl.  Get together with your friends, think as a group how you can achieve what it is you want.\n\nI wish you all the best and I hope you get your boyfriend back.  But even if you dont, a girl as loyal as you wont have any problem finding another boy who trully trusts you and wont easily be put off by words of a stranger, and basically that is what has happened.  He has known you for much longer than he has known her, yet he has believed her over you.  If he believed in you, he wouldnt have been so easily put off. so I would really be questioning if he is the right one for you.  It was too easy for this girl to pull him away from you, so it seems to me he hasnt much loyalty and is too ready to believe the negative instead of trusting his girlfriend.\n\nGood luck...hope it all turns out the way you want it to.
355503
let the past be in the past and move on with your life.....talk to her see if shes still botherd by it
581596
well talk to her about it. don't ask straight forward because she'll likely lie to you. just ask her casual questions like "hows it been going" and try to figure it out from there. but it really should come down to if you want her back.
762110
I would end the relationship, and always wonder what other things I did not know about this person. People who do these heinous things can never really be "friends" with anybody, lest their secrets somehow be discovered. I'm sorry for you if you were duped. It is a real betrayal. Don't blame yourself in any way for not knowing. These people are experts at deception and duplicity. Good riddance is about all you can say.
601123
Well if you had broken up, then its really none of his business what you get upto... behind his back, or right in front of him. Pity that he did actually want you back, you might have blown your chances here...\nSit down and have a chat with him, explain the situation to him, how you saw it, and listen as he tells you his side of the story... Good luck.
181751
This is reality. People lie. In a relationship, there has to be honesty or it will never work out. It's best that she is gone. You will find someone new. Learn as you go along in life and always watch your back ...
602548
Help you?? You need to remember theres a reason why hes your ex in the first place.
167853
This guy sounds like he's really confused and a bit immature.  I think you really need to answer that phone and tell him how much you were hurt by what he did to you.  Talk it over . . . you might be surprised to find that he's been just as torn up about this as you have been!
772792
just ignore it, cuz im sure she lied about other stuff too, once a liar always a liar, deal with it
857513
Wow, buddy, it sounds like you really did screw up.  That sucks for you.  If you truly want to try and make things work with this woman, slow down.  She's probably really hurt right now, and she doesn't feel like she can trust you.  Start with little things, like a sweet email.  Send her an ecard to apologize.  Show her by your actions how much you regret what happened, because we all know actions speak louder than words.  The biggest thing, though, is to back off if she asks you to.  It may hurt like Hell, but you could earn some of her respect back if you comply with her wishes.  Best of luck in finding your answer.  I hope this helped even a little bit.
1177808
Well if you are broken up, you move on and don't worry about what he's doing or not doing. And if you still want to be with him even though you think he's lying to you, then you still need to move on, because you should not want to be with someone who's going to lie to you just to keep you around. You shouldn't want to be kept on the sidelines. MOVE On and make yourself happy, because if you stay with him your only going to be unhappy, worrying if he's telling u the truth or not , if he's seeing this one ot that one. \nA relationship is built on trust and you have none with him!
838743
Leave things alone and let it work itself out. You haven't done anything so if you start trying to fix it then it's only going to make you look even more guilty. He'll learn in time that you never did any of the things she said and he'll have to be the one to find a way to make it up to you. Let him see that your a stronger person then what she is making you out to be. and he will respect you more for it. I would just let him know that your not guilty but your not going to start trying to prove it to him either, and that he'll have to work it out himself. If you start having to prove things to someone you will be having to prove things to them from now on. If his going to believe you then let nature take its course. As for her why are you even friends with her. Dump her and if you do date her ex so what, that's why his her ex.
840246
You need to ask her.  If you're mistaken, there's no reason for her to be angry with you.  If she's been hiding this from you and lying, you need to decide whether 1. you should forgive her and start over together or 2. you have to face the truth and move on with your life.\n\nGood luck.
104658
Tell the truth. You dont want to get caught in the middle of a lie. I know, I was in a situation like yours once and i was caught and lied and got into HUGE trouble. Trust me.
533221
Just tell the new guy the truth.  That your sorry, but you and your ex expectantly got back together and that you hope he understands.  If he is a really nice guy he will wish you the best and everything will be cool.  These things happen sometimes.