my family is falling apart?
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This is terrible. I truly wish in the US you had universal health care coverage like other countries.\n\nAt this point, you might want to consider trying to publicize your case in the media. And also - someone has to talk to your Dad, and make him realize that, though we have a human need to place blame, we don't always have somebody we can blame. Given the close brush he had, he might be wise to focus on the more important things: no matter how bad the finances are, any day spent on this side of the dirt, is a good day. \n\nYou might also have him visit a bankruptcy specialist - I know that the Feds have made it nearly impossible to declare bankruptcy now, but there might be a loophole somewhere.
737576
Yes, when I was young, it hurts a lot to see your folks hurting each other. Hope things get better for you.\n\nDo you have any one you trust who might be able to help?\nAre you part of a youth group? If you aren't maybe you can find a youth group to go to. Most youth pastors are good to talk problems over with.\n\nOr maybe a councilor at school can offer some suggestions.
1012972
Your isolating yourself aren't you? Yes your pain is real,we all suffer in life ,but these are lessons, to learn how to live for the better. Have you received counseling for the abuse? And living in 8 foster homes was no picnic either , I know i have two brothers i took in and although I'm not related they are my kids. They have suffered greatly also, but slowly but surely they are moving on in life. Now another thing you probably have is the feeling that theres really no one out there for you. That's just not true, hun I wouldn't be here typing this letter to you if I didn't care. Neither would any of these other people. If you would like to talk some more just ask I will talk , I will listen, and I will feel what ever your experiencing and I will give it my best shot to walk through the misery you are experiencing at any given moment. I'm a mom, and yes of 8 of my own biological children, but my heart has room for more, so you decide if u want to contact me, just dont feel alone reach out to some one ,ok you are cared about know that, its a start to healing and gaining some kind of self esteem.
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
1050587
You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE
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I don't know first hand but I am sure the family will put a lot of blame on themselves, and asking alot of questions like Why and how could I let this happen. Pressure and stress would be overwhelming and a feel of selflessness and even maybe the family seperations due to the stress, and due to the blame of oneself and others.
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That's to bad for your family, and I'm sorry. But if things have been that bad for them to cause them to want to get a divorce, they both may much happier and that can only bring joy to your family as a whole just in a different way than your used too.
386406
Alright, it’s an easier and regular problem in most families. First, find out if she is causing the problem or not, if you are sure that she is causing problem then start making problems with her family, and she would soon understand how does it feels, and hopefully she will stop doing so. Even after that she doesn't stops doing so then make her go away from your house without a divorce and tell her that she can't come back unless she make an apology to your parents.
370907
well you have to stop putting all the weight on your shoulders no one make you the person who has to bare all the problems don't sweat the small stuff . you have to let things just go as they do.. you can go to counciling or talk to a friend..light some candles and just relax ..go do something for yourself and forget the family for a few hours..talk to your family and tell them that this environment isnt healthy that something has to change
409773
Sorry to hear that but it sounds like there is a divorce coming, in order for your parents to still be able to be good parents sometimes they have to so whats best for them, if they aren't happy it makes it harder for them to keep you happy and your happiness means a lot to them. people grow and people change, i hope for your sake they make a change that will be better for you.
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JUST get out go to family frinds, Get the LAW invalved!!!!!  There are place that can help you!!
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I feel very sorry that your family is living this way.  I am putting some links here that should be able to give you a place to start.
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Can you talk and be honest with your Dad and Mom? Maybe you have tried and failed.... you say "secretly you cry". so your mom and dad don't know what is really happening? please try to talk to them again....\n\nDads can get so busy, thinking they are doing what they doing for their family... all the while losing touch with their family!!\n\nI know it sounds pretty weird, but God can help. God will give you strength and help,  God will comfort you in your troubles and help you to be strong. God will show you what to do.\n\nGod is the best counsellor, the best friend, the best therapist, and the best family-putter-together there is!!\n\nJust talk to God. He is there with you now and He wants you to pour out your heart to Him. Tell Him your sorrows, your pains, your failures, your disappointments.. Be honest with Him and He will help...\n\nGod bless,\n\nPlease email me if you like....
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I can't give you advice on what to do with your mother, but what I can do is tell you that to loose a child is the most horrific thing a mother will ever have to go through. It rips your soul apart from the inside out. It has taken me two and a half years to start putting the pieces back together and be normal again. It is a long healing process, that is different for everyone. I do feel sorry for your situation. I don't know all of the dynamics and I'm sure you have your own grief over your brothers untimely death. But just try to picture how you would feel if you were to loose your child. It does sound like you care and are just not knowing what to do, so talk it over with other family and let them be involved also. The loss of a child though messes anyone up!!!!! I've seen alot of people go through this since loosing my daughter. Hang in there and give your baby a big hug, I'll keep you in my prayers.
1021312
Very true. Society is slowly breaking down in every way possible. It's really upsetting. The future is bleak. I'm young and I fear for myself- my family to be- my husband to be.
1051243
Im trying to support my own family...not everyone else
1054285
Be there for the family as much as you can, that is a great help to her.  Ask her if she would like to speak to someone in the clergy so she can be prepared for what is coming.  I'm sorry that you are all going through such a bad time.