Why can I just get my life back on track.....I'm not a little girl any more,I have three children of my own...
103445
set goals and keep to them. try to think before making drastic decicsions ya dig. everythings gonna be cool. u is tha mother they gonna love u regaurdless. its cool that you know when your wrong. this parent thang aint easy. go wit tha flow be responsible they gots to come first. make them #1 priority. everything will be fine take your time changes dont come overnight dont think about tha past everydays a new one while yesterday was a throw away. we cant rewind back to fix tha shi* we did that was wrong and wack. you will get there i promise every thing will be alright. keep your head up. you know whats right instill tha same morles you got as a kid. tha only teachers we have on raising kids is our parents. you might want to consult them if ever you have a doubt you dig. be cool youll be straight.
721780
My 22 yr old and my 14 yr old were 12 once, my 11 yr old will be 12 in 3 months and my 3 yr old and 11 month old have a long way to go before I need to worry. My boy, I had no problems with, really involved in sport. Not that I had probs with my daughter but so many "girly things" made it a little more challenging. But I love them all and wouldn't trade a single one of them even though the last four are ALL GIRLS!!!!!!!!AAAAAHHHHHHGGGGG
726710
I have been there, Health and Money issues is an excuse for you to continue putting yourself and your children in an unhealthy environment.....that alone is disrupting their lives. Thank God one child is out of the house and trying to better themself with an education and the opportunity to find out----every household is not like the one they grew up in.\nTwo months after giving birth and with another child 20 months old, I packed two bags of clothes for each of my children, grabbed 5pairs of jeans and tops, a pair of boots and my tennis shoes, Drove 65 miles to the town I worked in and I did get very blessed to find a house to rent RIGHT NOW,  went to wal-mart and purchased a wind up clock so I could get up for work the next morning and one day followed the next. Fortunately, my childrens babysitter lived in the same town I worked in.\nIt took nine years to finally get a divorce, A divorce kit, his signature(his hand forced by his girlfriend), notorization, and filed that baby at the court house. End result children are now 20 and almost22.and he never paid child support until my youngest turned 18.\nGet Out yourself if you are that miserable, evidentally the other party is not as unhappy with the set-up you have now or they would have already left.\nEverything you are worried about leaving behind is material, this is sapping the life out of you and taking your Joy. Leave
681455
Please get your life on track first! Go back to school get a job and prove you can take care of yourself and stay out of trouble.  !6 and in jail and more or less divorcing your mom poooooor kid I hope you find your place in life no mom should ever do this to a kid no matter what a kid does! You cant chose when you want to be a mom it a full time job from the minute they are born if not before because they do have to take care of the baby while they are carry them! But what I was saying you can't decide from day to day if you will be a mom today or not! I hope and pray you get your life together and grow up some more before you jump into this with your girl Friend! And gooooood luck in the courts and in your life May God be watching over you and protecting you!
743444
I've been thinking about this alot all year...and somehow im still in the same place :( I wish i can get it together..but down the line i do plan on being a good mommy and married someday..
780286
I'm ok, and I had an awful childhood.\nGranted, It's taken years to get myself balanced and to be able to accept my past. But from the day I went into care at 14, I decided I didn't want to be like the others around me... I had a rocky lot of teenage years. but who doesn't?\nI am now 24 and Mother to a beautiful 4 and a half year old girl.\nAnd even if I say so myself, I am a good Mum, my daughter is polite well mannered happy and loved. I think that one of the reasons I have done well with her is because, I swore that I would never do to her what my Mum did to me... I had to live with the consequences and it wasn't pleasant!\nSure, I'm not completeley un-affected by my past and even now I get stages where I don't understand why, or feel upset or betrayed. But I DO understand and know, that I will be the best Mother I can for my little one. And feel lucky that I was shown how bad things could be, so that I can break a cycle, and give my Daughter the future she deserves.
742822
by reading, catching up with one of my old friends that really know me, and by dancing my heart out in my prettiest mini and a tank top! i love going crazy! or, if i really have lost it, i will cry myself to sleep and i wish that i was back at my old home with all my friends because that is where i have actually lost a piece of me. I left it there and I dont think that I will ever be able to get it back. it really sucks. loosing yourself. i hate the feeling of it.
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Look to your three children and take care of them first.  Second finish your degree and follow your career.\n\nSounds to me like you need to prioritize things here and a man in your life is not exactly what you need right now.\n\nYou've met three Mr. Wrongs time to stop and think about what the next Mr. will bring, another child?\n\nThird well where ever you've met the past three STOP going their!
96005
Wow.  You take me back.  I had to handle school and four children from age 2 1/2 to 7.  It was a long time ago - 25 years.  And I was younger.  But I know how you feel.  I always thought "when I have the time, I'm going to have a nervous breakdown, because I deserve it."  Funny, huh.  \n\nTry to make sure you get enough sleep.  Without it, school is so much harder.  See if you can get help with babysitting.  I wasn't aware til my last year in school that the state would have paid for babysitting for me.  See if you can talk to a counselor there and find out all the programs you qualify for that might give you some help.  Enlist any friends or family and don't feel guilty about it.\n\nI felt a lot like I was not giving enough attention to my kids, and maybe I wasn't.  But now they have children of their own and they grew up ok.  \n\nTake some deep breaths.  Know you can do it.  And that it too will pass.  (I wondered at the time if that light at the end of the tunnel was really an oncoming train.  It just didn't seem to end.)\n\nGood luck to you.  And, in a funny way, thanks for reminding me of things I have been through.  I admire you greatly.  By comparison, the things that are going on in my life right now do not seem so bad at all.
1082002
I date my life to everything that occurred before and after my Dad's passing.  His passing took a major toll on me, and changed me from a reasonably happy person to one who held her grief in, and became an angry and bitter person in the process.  Hard as I try I can't seem to bring back the old me, who used to love to sing along with the radio in the car, or devote herself to her family, without sometimes resenting them, because they demand so much of her time.  I know I could have been a lot better mother than I have been to my children.  I want that for my children, so I wish I could go back to that moment in my life, and find the time and strength to grieve, instead of running from the pain that I have been hiding in my heart for so many years.
470075
I feel I have failed my family in the past. I was not there for them when i should have been. I done many things I regret. i just have to live with it. i cannot change the past, but i can change the future. i have since turned my life over to God. i am now a new mother and much better to everyone!
833853
i am a mother of 4 all boys . i try not to treat the youngest any different but i do and it is because he is the last one there is not going to be any more baby steps in our house it will be the last of the last . the other reason is i am tired i have said it all 3 time before by the time the 4th one goes to do it i am just tired . so he does have more freedom and he mother away with stuff .
313173
Although I don't have the answer you want ... I can relate with your feelings. I don't know if just knowing that you are not alone in this helps or not. I went through almost the same exact situation about 6 months ago and it brought back all kinds of feelings of lose and sadness. I am sorry that you are having these feelings and hope you can learn to cope in some way. I still just push all of my hurt to the back of my mind...some days I am kinda ok and other days I cry at the drop of a hat--I guess its just something you have to carry with you for the rest of your life. Once again i am sorry and wish you the best. I am 31 years old myself with no other children-but hang in there and hopefully things will look up for us both.    :)
723242
I am extremely sorry to hear your story and you have my hearfelt sympathy.  I can only imagine the deep pain of hurting you must go through everyday.  I really feel for you and I hear and support what you are saying about paying more attention to your kids and looking out for any early 'warning signs'.  I can't really advise you on anything you're asking for but I just wanted to write and wish you well, may God help you in whatever you do.
263037
I LOVE your questions!! Now that that's out of the way: YES!!! I want to do SO MUCH and i'm already 36. I feel like time is running out, and I've got 2 kids, who need me, and when and how am I going to fit in all these things??
693772
If you are lucky it is better than mine.  I am working on divorce #2.  I know the problem is part me, because I keep picking these freaking losers with no jobs that are mama's boys!  Ohhhh, it is just driving me crazy!  Neither one knows how to pay child support because they don't know the meaning of getting a freaking job!  Therefore I have to work to support my child (not that I mind that I did that before the second one came along).  I never wanted children to begin with, then after my first one I wanted to get my tubes tied.  Here in my state you have to have your husband's permission before deciding to do such.  So it sucks, in today's world women are still needed to request their husbands permission.  WHAT CRAP!
520599
I was too. Sometimes I still am a bit, but then I realize..she has a stressfull job, a husband, 2 kids....and doesnt go out much. Thats when i'm happy to be me, with no kids, still in college and going out. You just have to understand that everyone is different. You'll have your day.