What is important in a relationship - patience or forgiveness ?
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Forgiveness comes from deeper inside than any other emotion, and is the only thing that separates humans (spiritually speaking) from monkeys.  \n\nYou can teach a dog patience.  If you have patience but no forgiveness, then your life is shallow and empty.  If you have forgiveness, then your life can be righteous and wonderful whether you are patient or not.\n\nOn the other hand, if you forgive someone for messing up your life, it doesn't mean you have to take them back.  You can forgive them and walk away.  \n\nJust because you have forgiven someone doesn't mean they were right, it just means that they are not your problem anymore.
692517
You are still learning about the relationship and how to act in it give it time\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
466723
One can forgive, but they cannot always forget. It seems like it may is time to move on if you have attempted to address the issue to no avail. \nThere is someone better out there that will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
187229
Not long at all...remember forgive and forget..we only live once why hold a grudge and waste even a moment being mad about something...read the bible...
659919
The forgiveness part is easy it is he forgetting part that takes a lot longer to accomplish.  I think that you can forgive a person in your heart, but still not want to be around that person for some time.  If you act like nothing happened with this person, then she or he will continue to think that they can treat you this way.  I feel that we teach people how to treat us, and you don't want to show them that it is OK to hurt you. I say, give it some time, you'll know if they are truly sorry, and deserve your friendship again by their actions.  Good luck, hon.
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Forgiveness is VITAL to a Christian.  Jesus said that if we do not forgive, his Heavenly Father will not forgive us.\n\nHowever, forgiveness is extremely difficult.  It is easier to forgive a dead person than a live one, because the dead one can no longer hurt you.  But it would be harder to forgive a murderer than a ranter, but Richards did "murder" with his tongue.\n\nWe do need forgive him, and he needs to examine himself.\n\nBTW, forgiving isn't the same as excusing.  We forgive when we can't excuse.
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you need to decide whether youre going to live with what he did or not. if you cant forgive him then you cant move on. So you have to make a choice and decide what is best for you. If you love him and see your future with him then try to fix it, go to counseling but if his mistake erased your visions of a future with him, then you know what you need to do. But I must also say that you cant rush getting over things either and he should be willing to understand and agree with what you choose to do.
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He'll either forgive you or he won't.\n\nBut, he has to come to that decision all by himself and there is nothing you or anyone else can do to hurry the process.\n\nBe patient and do your best to act "normal" or you will be constantly reminding him. Which will cause him to take longer to forget about it and move on.\n\nBe patient and good luck. It's up to him, not you.\n\n\n\n\nWe don't need to know what happened. It won't change anything or the process.
871966
I think they are both actions that engage your emotions and your intellect. I feel  that 'forgive' is situation specific...in that it is applied to individual situations and times.  To me 'forgiveness' is present -continuous almost... it is not just for this time but always. I hope I made sense. And of course one is a noun and one is a verb. lol
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We ALL have a past...and how it effects our present and future is important. What it sounds like is you need to see how she has worked through the issues herself. That will tell you how she will work through other issues with you. \n\nFaithfulness is a key issue for both of you to consider though. Without it, you don't have trust and without trust, you cannot build a lasting friendship/marriage! \n\nAnother issue is forgiveness...we all need it and cannot survive without it. And how you forgive will tell her how YOU work through issues too!\n\nHope this helps! and everything  with her too!
225793
It's hard to forgive because we like to dwell on things that happen in the past. If you would just take the time to see that God gives us hard times in order to learn from them, then I bet it would be much easier to forgive that person. Just remember that the past is in that past and theres nothing that you can do to change that. The future is what matters. You can mold your future by looking at your past. As far as punishing someone for their actions, I would leave that up to God to do. The best thing that you can do is to be nothing but nice and sypathectic towards them. When you do that , the other person tends to feel guilty about what they did, and even if they don't tell you that they are sorry, they will infact, constantly think about what they did to you, and hopefully they will at least, ask God to forgive them for what they did. One last thing; I would pray for that person. I would pray that this person realizes what he/she did, how he/she can make it right, and also if God will forgive that person and have mercy on him. If you do all of this, then God will be happy with you and dissapointed with the other person. If you don't forgive him/her or even punish this person, then God will saddened with you just as much as he will be with this other person. One last thing; try to remember the verse from the Lords Prayer, when someone does something that hurts you : Please forgive us are tresspasses as we forgive those who tresspass against us. I hope that this has helped you and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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Depends on what kind of relationship you had. If I were the male and I intend to marry you, I would definitely forgive you. Afterall I am aware that it took the two of us to get you into that situation.\n\nIf we're just playing around, I will run away as fast as I can and never show up..
138581
Trust is very important.  You can't have a relationship without trust.  (Well you can but it won't be a good one)
223002
long enough to be sure that you are absolutely compatible, it's not a matter of time... and a breakup on the way is not important as long as it helped you to get  to know and understand each other better. Take your time, it's a life-long commitment...good luck
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Think about what they have to say. Maybe there is some truth to it... even if the truth is painful to hear. If they are important to you, ask for forgiveness and how you can set things right. Then do it.\n\nOr, become a callous b*tch or a**hole and forget about them. \n\nI'd choose the first. Both are painful, but the first suggestion will make things better.
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Yes, my wife had two affairs, when I discovered the second one, she admitted to the first one.  She ask God's forgiveness and then mine.\n\nGod's was much quicker, mine has taken about four years, but I am feeling the love she has for me and I for her.  Its the trust that has been the hardest thing to rebuild.\n\nMy mantra through all of this has been..."Forgiving is not forgetting...It's remembering with your mind at peace!"\n\nI have found peace.
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It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.