yeah,but what if that person hates me all together?how do I reach out?make them listen to reason?
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If a person hates you, they do. You can only be yourself. Say you are sorry once and if that's not enough move on.
17779
the best way to deal with a person is to figure out whether or not you actually like them, despite how they think.  are they a good person at heart?\n\na person sometimes cannot help their ignorances.  i grew up in a small, conservative, and nasT racist town.  therefore, after i moved to a nice mixed community, i sometimes come across as insensitive to those who aren't like me.  it's not that i harbor any resentment WHATSOEVER of anyone based on anything save for how they treat me!  it's just that i never learned when i was a child of the things that are appropriate to discuss.  if the person in question is open to new ideas, then you should remain around them, and not look down upon them.  help them see other points of view, if it's within your capacity.. and if not, direct them to those who can.  \n\nlooking down on a person just because you THINK they're of lower consciousness than you is borderline prejuduice.
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I read no evidence where they had a cause for hating you, and people seldom waste a lot of time and energy on people they don't like.  Perhaps they are getting a response from you that tickles them, so they make juvenile efforts for more amusement.  When they make remarks about your friends, tell them you don't want to listen and say, "I don't listen when anyone talks about you."  Strive to treat them as friends, even when they don't act like it, and the situation may reverse itself.  If not, and you get no response from the teacher, enlist the aid of your parents in talking with her or him, and then, if necessary, it is a chain of command thind: Principal, Board of Education, etc.  Recent laws should aid you in getting attention to your problem.  Good luck, and remember, the best way to get rid of an enemy, is to make a friend of them.
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talk to this person and tell them how you feel. if that doesnt work, then try to stay clear of them as best you can. people like that can make your life miserable.
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well isnt it obvious?...they hate folks like u (and me) because you are honest (as your question attests itself) about issues and not afraid to ask honest questions...and also you know a lot, well enough to know that the neo-cons lie and break the constitution....well truth is bitter aint it?\n\nalso why should you care if they hate you or not? their hatred pulls a cloud over their eyes, makes them intractable to any reasoning and arguments....just be the way you are and keep on widening your horizons...you would grow to pity them.....
239256
i wouldnt hate anyone. just wait for your time. on the other hand you could try to break them up... your choice!
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Obviously u don't hate him, and so you should tell him that not everybnody hates him.\nTell him that he has to step up and be strong, and that u are behind him all the way. Anything to get his spirits up!\nAlso, try to convince ppl to not hate him. That should help. Tell them that he is a normal kid and hat he deserves respect just like everyone else.\nBest of luck!\nAnd tell him hello from me, please
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hi you should first have th ability to know people who hate theirselves and people who hate , the next step is to know hhow to handle both groups be copassionate with pople who hate theirselves because thy have their inner problems and they are much coplex than those who hate who are also disturbed . you should not avooid such people or neglect them instead face them .
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I would stay far far away. Not call them or answer the phone. If I answered the phone I would say that I was busy. If they kept calling I would block whem with selective blocking. If I saw them in a store I would act like I didn't see them and walk away quickly. Then, fake it if I had to talk to them. I might have even been mean to them if they annoyed me or if I was with my friends.\n\nSorry, this was many years ago. The best answer is to tell someone that you don't like them that way and you don't want a relationship. Ask the person to respect your feelings and report them if they cross the line.
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There isn't much you can do.  She probably wouldn't listen to you if you did say anything to her.  Just let her be.  Even if she lies to people about you, I'm sure she won't stay credible to them for long.  Everyone will eventually figure her out.  Confronting her will just make her act like she's the victim of your "cruel" words.  She'll probably tell everyone just to get sympathy.
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ignore him/her. if they are abusive, chances are they are looking for the feedback to let them know that they are getting to you. life is to short to sweat the small stuff.
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Tough I know. Stand up for yourself, even if you fall out with them... Stop talking with them for a while if that's what it takes, but make sure they know why. They will come to you and try to make nice, when they do they'll know that you won't take any more nonsense in future. If they don't you are better off without them!
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Well, if he hates you because someone told him to hate you, then he's not worth your time anyways.  Move on to someone else.  If you keep thinking about him, you'll just end up hurt.
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for starters you should never really hate anyone.  try to determine why you dislike them - pull them aside and have a private conversation with that person and out line what it is that you do not like about them, once you have stated your points tell them very clearly that you prefer not to continue a relationship (friendship) with them for the previously stated reasons.  be prepared for surprise anger embarrassment as well as a lash back of defense.  stand your ground and move on - there will be more friends and more people that you dont like but atleast this one will know where the two of you stand
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well see if he likes u if he hates u then say it was all a big mistake lol ....he might turn out to be a jerk
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You don't say what you did to make her mad. If the perceived offense was 'bad' enough she may never forgive you.\n\nTry being as nice as you can to her. (but don't go overboard and be annoying) Try to make up for what you did. Eventually she'll forgive you or you'll get tired of trying.\n\nYou can't make anyone forgive you, unfortunately. You may just have to chalk it up to experience and move on. And don't repeat the mistake with someone else. Learn from it!
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Ignoring him only solves half the problem. You need to surround yourself with people that will uplift and encourage you.\n\nYou might also want to go with the old fashioned approach of "be kind to those who persecute you." That doesn't have to be anything taxing or elaborate, but often returning kindness for painful comments gets dumbfounded looks if nothing else.