my b/f has just broken up wz me as i didn't want sex b4 getting married. but i still love him. was i wrong?
106575
You were in the RIGHT, 100%.  And, it shows just what kind of shallow person he really is. You say you still love him but, do you really want to be with a person who'd be willing to walk away from the woman he supposedly loves over such a thing?\n\nSaving yourself for marriage is a wonderful gift for your husband. Find a man who'd be willing to reicprocate the same kind of gift for you.
484203
im sorry. i thought i was in love with my bf too. he was 21 and i am 16. he always forced me to do things with him and to him i didnt want to do. if it wasnt for him i would still be a virgin. i never was willing to do anything he wanted me too. he was alot bigger than me too. and he abused me, verbally, physically,and sexually.untill he got me pregnant and forced me to have an abortion(somethin i regret so so much and never would have done willingly)after that i finally got up the courage to dump him and i found a guy my age. i know this isnt what u want to hear(trust me, i know, i heard the same things)but i dont think u should stay with him( i realize u might not want to take advice from someone that is younger than u by like a year)if he forces u to do anything sexually then he doesnt really love u or care for u. ur just a sex toy for him to manipulate. im sorry this is happening to u, it is somthing i wouldnot wish on anyone, u should know what i mean by that, its a horrible and emotional wrecking thing to go through, im still not over it nor will i ever be the same again. i have to go to counseling every day of my life for probably the rest of my life, i will probably be taking a high dosage of anti-depressants for the rest of my life because i let him take me too far before i was brave enough to stand up to him and get rid of him. my question for u is how long are u gonna wait, how much are u gonna put up with untill u break it off b4 u have life altering events like i did. i promise u that ur life will never be the same after  u put up with to much, it sounds to me like u have already put up with to much. please dont stay with this guy. do u know that him forcing u to have sex with him wether it be oral or casual, it is rape. i wish u the best and i will be praying for u. please contact me at purplollipop1606@yahoo.com and let me know what u decide. im very worried for u and id just like to know if u end up okay.
727158
I love him...but? I don't think you do love him in a way that will sustain your relationship. I think you know that too. It's time to move on.
663242
Well, it's only been 2 months. Unfortunately you can't just wake up out of your nightmare and wish it to be over.  For starts he can quit coming over and telling you that he had sex w/ other people and basically rubbing that in your face. He can also quit telling you he loves you. You obviously broke up for some refined reason (unknown).  If he loved you then he wouldn't be sleeping w/ someone else now would he? I think that you two should stay apart for awhile. There's nothing wrong w/ remaining friends, however, if your trying to move and maintain a healtly lifestyle then he needs to quit.  Simply speak to him and tell him that it's best if he quits coming around for awhile b/c your having a tough time dealing w/ this situation. That you don't feel it's right him coming over and telling you he loves you then hearing that he slept w/ someone else. If you loved me then you wouldn't be sleeping w/ other people. I think it's fine if we remain friends, but I need time. I wouldn't recommend burning or doing anything to the pictures. (memories of good times) the wedding dress yea, you could probably sell it. The ring ahh, well, if you have a daughter or have one in the furture you could always give it to her to wear. (or just pawn it) I wish you the ever most luck. As for strength from God to overcome such a hurtful relationship and for the strength and wisdom to know that "slicing body parts off is wrong" (see made you smile) Good Luck! Here if you need a friend.
705143
i was in the SAME situation recently! SERIOUSLY just have some fun together! A relationship doesn't have to be based on Sex! Are you two passionate with each other or get butterflys around each other? then you are more than friends....if not they you are JUST friends!
154067
sure it's not wrong, it's great you still in love and you keep your sex life active. Have a wonderful time :)
596027
He sounds a complete asshole...I'm not surprised you've lost your sex drive.\nDump him,move on,meet a guy who respects and cares for you,your desires will be restored!
113292
man, that's not good. i think your relationship is not called LOVE. it is called SEXUAL DESIRE....
891597
Agree with the people above.  Sounds an awful lot to me like a married (or seriously involved) man who is stringing you along for sex on the side.  I know it is painful, but you need to cancel this trip, get over him, and move on.  Time for a clean break.
227257
I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
1123424
Ouch.  I am sorry for you.  In relationships, people don't always want to spend all of their time together.  What is interesting about our comments is that after 2 years the "honeymoon" phase of infatuated love is over.  So the real relationship starts, and this is when most relationships fall apart.  I don't know if I would get over the fact that he slept with someone within moments of the two of you have a  possible break up.  You need to talk to him and figure out what is really going on.
857891
He was right for breaking up with you because he wasn't IN love with you.  You can definitely love someone and have fallen out of love with them.  This has happened to me, so I know.  The love can be gained back, but it has to be by their choice.  They have to want it to work.  I fell back in love, but I really wanted it to work.  Hope this helps.  Don't push them, just let them be.  You know the saying, if you love someone, set them free....if they come back to you, it's meant to be....if not, they were never yours in the first place.  Good luck!!
338485
I think it sounds like you and him had a lot in common, and he views you as a good friend, after all you two were together for a while. He may still have feelings for you, but if he is getting married he should not be flirting with you. Now he may also have the other thing on his mind, and is not ready to let go of that or he misses your company and body. If that is the situation you know what to do. Just simply tell him no, but that you two can still remain friends if you both agree to that. Let him know that that is as far as it goes, unless you two think you may eventually get back together. Buy that does not appear to be an option at this point. Whatever you do , do not let him use you for sexual relations. Good Luck and I hope you two can remain friends.
1074769
You are not married. Don't feel as tied down as you currently do. I think you guys need a timeout. Stay away from each other for any time between 2 weeks to a month. See how you feel about him then. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts. But state clearly to him that you guys will not see other people during this time period. It's only a timeout. You just need some time to get your thoughts together. Also, you guys have been together for 2 years. I think you will find a way to work out this issue. Best of luck.
493516
Hold on you live with him still? First off I've never heard of that arangement before in my life. Also what do you mean by living with are you two still together but still sexually active? If so he's using you no wonder you feel lost. You need to get yourself outta there and if your parents won't take you in find a place foryourself. In times of need there are several places like main stay suites that offer cheep extending living. Once you've done that try and find a really decent guy i'm not talking about going bar hopping, i'm talking about a place like church (by the way if you don't have religion at this poin that's another reason you feel lost, there are many christains like myself that are here to help you if you need some with comming to Christ ;) ) I know you most likely love this guy but the sooner you come to relize its time to move on you'll feel bad at first but it will get better. Don't think its not because you won't love the ex because yes you will love doesn't go away, but you have to save whats left of your heart and mend it together for that guy who's still out there you haven't met yet.
343723
call him up- tell him how you feel- and get it out of your system.  Chances are he'll still get married, your feelings will be hurt, but at least you'll know you tried.  Too bad you didn't speak up sooner, it could have been you marrying him.  Learn your lesson and let people know how you feel while there's still something that can be done.  Good luck.
612085
Sex with an ex  is a no-no if you  are the one who broke up with him it's giving him false hope that you maybe on the road to reconciliation and it's not right to lead someone on just so you can still get laid!