my friend is strange he cant touch or even bear  to smill cigrattes and gets terrfied if you force him. Why?
108487
Did one of his close friends or relatives die when he was little because of cigarettes? I think he needs a psyciatrist, (shrink) instead of a physician.
975915
most likely it's social pressures.\n\nyou see, people act differently when they're around different people.  i'm sure you act differently when you're with your friends than when you're with your parents.  if you were with your friends in front of your parents, you would most likely feel inhibited somehow, because you wouldn't feel comfortable opening up.\n\nThat is most likely what he is feeling when he is with his friends and sees you.  he feels inhibited (because he might be teased maybe?) and a bit uncomfortable with the situation.\n\nnow i'll betcha, if you get him alone, you won't get the same reaction.
522020
Sorry, there's no way to do it without hurting their feelings.  Plus, you don't like them enough to continue the friendship, so why are you worried about their feelings?  I mean, I know that sounds harsh, but it's true, isn't it?  This person must have done or said something you don't like or that you found offensive.  Bottom line:  If that person has hurt your feelings in the past, why spare theirs?  Good luck.
588021
I take it you mean retarded and not a victim of the phantom jam tart thrower.\n\nPeople with a mental disability don't see the world as we do.  Sometimes they don't know how to respond with appropriate behaviour, sometimes they get frustrated and angry.  It takes a lot of love and a lot of patience to learn to deal with them.  It says a lot about your good heart that you still refer to her as your friend, even though she might hurt you by being mean to you.  She neeeds friends who will like her in spite of her unacceptable behaviour, and sometimes even friends who will say to her that they like her, but don't always like the way she behaves.
102701
I think,sometimes maybe she didn't mean not playing with you,she just want to have her own space to think her own things.As friend , you must give her that freedom. But some friends do just don't like to play with us, we don't know the reasons, maybe we are a little dull? Who knows?!
1086392
He is a wierdo. maybe he cant get it up
1069913
If this is the case, he is selfish and thinks of himself only. He should put you before his friends or himself. Of course, he should be allowed to have friends but not ignore you in the process.
104290
sounds to me like he's a messed up guy but there probably isn't much you can do about it other than stop being his friend so that you don't have to worry about his drama. if family services hasn't taken care of things i'm sure they will eventually or someone will be sure they do.
930170
It's most likely that the reason it works for your friend is that the same time she's performing her little ice ritual, she's mentally and emotionally locking those individuals out of her life. Unless a person is seriously mentally unbalanced or emotionally unstable, he or she is unlikely to want to hang around anyone who has made a conscious decision to keep them out of their lives. We all want to be wanted and disliked feeling unwanted.
236637
It will always linger....If you deny, he will wonder!  If you admit he might freak.... the best reply to something like this is no reply at all.  He has a thought implanted by your friend ..... Unless you want to squash it...Leave it linger.
780598
honey, there is no way to force someone to see you differently, be your self. don't ruin your friendship. maybe some day he will change his mind, but for now just be his friend. it might be that if you try to force this issue, he will not even want to be your friend.
371989
Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
745372
If he wants to act in a way that they actually have a meeting to co-ordinate barring him, then he probably deserves it.\nLegally he is stuffed, the landlord has the right to refuse service to anyone, so long as it is not based on racial or religious views.\nTell your friend to wise up.
1157908
tell him he shouldn't try controlling you, because if he does, it'll push you farther away from him. there is no reason why anyone should be allowed to control another person.
732268
It sounds like what people do in life. If their #1 friend can't go, they don't stay home doing nothing, they ask someone else. It sounds more abnormal of her to sit home because of you. You might think about making different friends who do more things you are allowed to do. You'd have more fun.
715931
Sometimes theres no gentle way to do it.  Tell him he smells and its very unpleasant for everyone around him.  he probably cant smell it any more.
327988
You CAN'T force help on someone who doesn't want it. That's enabling behavior which is also wrong.\nBut, you can share YOUR heart; your pain; your sorrow with him. Typically when someone wants to get another to open up, they have to make themselves vulnerable by disclosing something of significance to earn that other person's trust.\nTry it. You may get the window of oppurtunity you're looking for.