How could i tell to my friends that the guy i love is not as bad as they think?
114987
I think that you are entitled to have any bf of your choice. Have your friends even given him a chance?  Maybe you could ask them to spend a day with you both and then make a decision.  As far as them saying he's ugly just tell them that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If they are true friends they should chill out and realize that they are hurting you and they aren't being fair. Remind them that they don't always make choices that you like either. If everyone in the world liked the same things it would be a rather boring world now wouldn't it?
153594
You can do a bunch of stuff to show a guy that you love them but they still want to here those three little words. They truely don't know until u tell them otherwise they keep guessing that u do or u don't. It is just best to say the three words. If you have said the three words then u have nothing to worry about. Good Luck.
253321
Yeah I have this same exact problem. There are like several guys that i think are absolutly hott and i cant tell them cuz i dont know wat they would say because we are just friends. Well my advise is to just sit him down ALONE and tell him how you feel. Dont worry everything will work out fine. Love, \nCassie
66124
Be straightforward with him. Get him when he isn't busy and tell him you need to talk to him. Just say "hey buddy, you know that I love you. But I need to know if you feel the same way about me. If you don't please tell me, because I am not going to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back." Just say something similar to that. Good luck girl...
629730
You're thinking a bit too far ahead. Just have faith and let things run its course. If you keep on worrying about this, then it might subconsciously affect your actions and behaviour or the actual relationship.\n\nTo answer your question though, just tell him honestly and in person. Don't make any empty promises like "We'll still be friends" or, "I will always care for you", because most of the time it doesn't work out that way. Plus, it hurts the dumpee a LOT more when you promise those things and later abandon the promises.
240639
i completely understand what ur going through, i was in the same boat a you. my advice is, if he really is happy with his girlfriend right now, i wouldn't say anything. because right now you're his friend, and you should be happy for him, unless she really isn't good for him (meaning she doesn't treat him right). but, if and when you do tell him, make sure you do it in person. just tell him that he is a great friend, and that u love being friends with him b/c he is such a great guy. then tell him that somewhere in the friendship your feelings changed, and now you like him. that's all i can really tell you. i hope i was some help.
85906
Just tell him that your really good friends with him and you dont want to harm the friendship. Or even better you could tell him that you dont love him you only see him as a friend and nothing more.
818355
You need to explain to your friend that it is your understanding he might be interested in you.  Although you're flattered, and you love him very much as a friend, you simply don't feel that way about him.  Tell him you wanted to say something because you greatly value his friendship, and didn't want to do anything to mislead him.  Once things blow over with this situation, you should then be able to pursue a relationship with his buddy.  Your friend might be upset for awhile, but if you truly care about him you don't want to eventually hurt him more deeply.
1063580
You can't, really, if they don't want to be with you. I'm going through the same thing too, and the best thing is to just say how you feel. I did, and things are okay, I guess, but we haven't talked since them but i see him tonite. But yea, don't make up cheesy bullsh*t, just tell 'em flat out how it is. Good luck!
546262
Tell the truth. That he is a very close friend, but the chemistry is not there
162303
You can tell him you don't want to hurt your relationship as friends.
117466
having been that dorky nervous guy in a previous life, i can tell you this, you will hurt him.  No matter what you do, but how badly is something you can control. here is my suggestion:  don't slam him, don't tell him how you feel straight out.  when he is around talk about other guys your interested in, maybe talk about how you like certain things about them that he doesn't do, such as when they flirt they aren't annoying.  and when you talk to him about your relationship make it very clear that he is "like a brother" to you and that he is just such a great FRIEND.  if things get really bad you could start saying things like Jokingly saying "you are a rad friend, which is good cause i think if we ever dated We'ld kill each other."  or other things that make it obvious that you have no intention of ever taking the relationship to a higher level.
263191
In a situation like this, you can't go by what your friend says. You have to go by his actions. Ask him how he feels about you. If he doesn't love you don't waste your time. If he says he does, tell him he needs to start acting like it. Actions speak louder than words! Life is too short to waste your time on being in love with someone that's not in love with you. Don't stick around thinking you can change thier mind. You will only get hurt in the long run. Trust me, I know because I've tried.
405606
ok, coming from a guy, i say just tell him how u feel and if you are friends at all, he wopnt be uncomfortable with it, it will make him happy even if he does not show it
638786
Just be yourself. If things are going to work out, they will. Prove to him that you are worth being loved by showing him. If he doesn't love you for who you are, then he isn't worth it and you can do better. Just take your time and try being his friend first. Once he sees he can trust you and that you are a good person, he'll come around! Good luck!
61492
Just tell him the truth.  I think the best way to do this is start off with a talk.  You tell him how you fell and he will tell you how he fells.  Please don't jump the gun.
1117090
friends sometimes wants the best for you. sometimes you need to listen to them and sometimes you have to reason with them.\nkeep an open line. they may be wrong about him or you may be in the wrong hands with your date...\nask your friends to give you time to know this guy...\nyou're the only one who can make a relationship work...