Is this totally wrong or can we actually be friends?
99302
In all honesty, if he planned to stop, i'd tell you to keep it a secret because you could ruin their marriage...but since he's gunna keep doing it, you have to come clean to his wife.  He's being disrespectful to her and he's being an idiot.  If he loved her, he wouldn't need anyone else and he's probably not even worth being with her...tell her the truth and let them sort it out
298185
Be 100% honest. Why waste time if it could mean a good relationship. And if you are worried about him not being your friend...well, if he does decide to be mad...he wasnt a true friend. Just go for it.
585666
I see nothing wrong with that. I think my best friend and I have something...but we don't act on it, but if we were to i think it might be one of the best relationships ever...cause we were friends first..and I believe that you should be friends first and continue to be friends when you have a relationship with someone.
836893
I think you should talk with her about what she is doing is wrong... If she accept to change (and you see the improvement), then you can still keep her a a friend. Otherwise drop her!
772519
you can still be friends. just because she can't date doesn't mean that you can't spend time together.
961097
His true intentions have been revealed.  Why do you want to be friends with such an immature person?  \n\nCut contact with him.
653392
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
996517
Exactly I am in the same situation, I feel as long as we restrict our relation to platonic, then there is no problem...Its like having some one more than a friend, Its a special relation...THERE IS NO WRONG IN IT... Go ahead....
546421
definitely not normal... it depends on the nature of your problem... try to rectify it... no point in losing a friend over a tiny RANDOM squabble...
836627
Thank you for your maturity on this subject.\nYour wants are describing the "FRIENDS" part of FTF.. There is nothing wrong with actually being friends.\n- a little communication never hurt anyone; be honest and just tell him.\nYou simply want to move from your concept of one night stand to friendship with benefits.. He's probably already in tune with that.\n- good luck
920813
Yea, it does sound like a friend to me. Get to know him more as he gets to know you a little more. Don't worry too much.
1098194
I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
239186
there is nothing wrong with having this kind of relationship.Just be sure that your pal gets to understand the confidentiality of this relationship.I wish you all the best.
240430
If he's "just a friend", it's fine for them to get together once in a while, but I would say not on a regular basis.  Why not have you go along?  Cab't you be friends with him also?
310232
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
939007
. Maybe it is time to consider finding a new friend Friends accept us for what we are the best of and the worst. If you feel strange there problem is something going on. Are sure they are friends and can you really be yourself around them. If so how can you be thinking you can mess things up? Life is to short to be up happy either ask them straight out or accept the way thing are.
721253
bad idea sorry u are asking for trouble when you get into a on-line relationship even if u just want a friend it never ends that way