how do i write a few words to say goodbye to a bereaved friend who played sport?
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I was just asked to write something for my deceased uncle and aunt and so this question naturally caught my attention. For a memorial service, I have found that words which are typically dignified yet interspersed with a couple (no more than that, I don't think) personal memories are so needed and appreciated by grieving friends and family. I'm not an expert or anything, but I will never forget one service where the person speaking said something to this effect, "I will NEVER forget the way Chuck laughed...I can still see him, laughing silently, his shoulders a bit hunched up, tears coming to his eyes when something was so funny he couldn't stand it." That was such a simple memory, yet one that every person there could relate to. With all that was said and done at that memorial service, I bet it was that one sentence that people remembered more than anything.\n\nAnother similar memory was a funeral for a woman who had died an alcoholic...there were many difficult memories for people. But, again, that one personal memory stood out: Someone mentioned that when she laughed, she threw her head back and had an infectious, contagious laughter that was not self-concious. It made many grieving people happier to remember some of this woman's better qualities.\n\nI guess, in conclusion, I'd try to keep things short and simple, put in all the basic facts, but leave at least one memory that reminds people of the lighter side of things. Life isn't all serious. A memorial service is a chance to celebrate life - as a whole.\n\nYou've been given a great honor to say a few words on behalf of your friend. Maybe there's something about sports you could write - one very funny and precious memory you will always carry.
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I am very sorry for you loss. Each person grieves differently and for various times. As each days passes it will hopefully get easier for you. Take care and I will keep you in my prayers.
381775
My thoughts and prayers go out to your friend Dim.  He has lost his mother but we have all gained an angel.  God bless him and his family.
934551
What the card says is perfect.  Maybe below it just write something like, "Any time you need to talk I'll be there." or "Hope things get better for you."  Something simple, short, and sweet.  You seem like a great friend.  God bless you!
162722
be a good friend of him, share his sorrow and joy
693682
My last conversation with my cousin was about baseball also.  It was at his little sister's game.  He was the coach.  They won.  The team threw Gatorade on him.  He tried to hug me and I pushed him away.  We were just kidding around but if I knew that was the last time I'd see him,  I would've hugged him, covered in Gatorade or not.  I've thought about what I'd say for the past 13 years.  I've gone over it a million times.  But it doesn't really matter.  I know he loved me and I know he knew how much he meant to me.  It's hard to even write this.  I believe in my heart when people die, they know who loves them.  Nothing more has to be said.  I do talk to my cousin, I tell him every day.  Don't stop talking to him because he's gone.  Your dad loves you and he knows you love him.  I'm sorry for your lost.  May you find peace.
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Get 2 friendship rings, necklaces or bracelets and have it in graved(ex:you will always be my friend. I love you and I'm going to missed you.)one for you and one for your friend so you're never be apart. Hope you like my suggestions!
883733
Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
574959
If you don't know that,concentrate on other sports.If you are an argentinian, you don't need people rememberig him. Just keep enjoying the memories he left for you, for ever.
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deal with emotional pain.. i wud like u to suggest that don't be sad ,think that it was just a game and either one has to win.\nthis is a part of our lives . remember.... u have both gud & bad times.
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Since you're at a loss for words, it appears you are attending to give your condolences to a friend.  Funerals in and of themselves serve as a last chance to say goodbye to someone we've lost on this earth and show support and concern for those who've been left behind during their loss.  To know that you're there is usually the kindest gesture you can make to those family members and if you're uncertain as to what to say it's best to keep it simple.  Offer your condolences, your assistance if they should need it and just let the moment occur.  I've learned, however, that a card or a brief note sent a couple of weeks afterwards will mean much more than you know as this is the most difficult time of adjustment after all the arrangements have been made and visits are over.  Just feel good that you're going, God will handle the rest.  You're a blessing.
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Have a look at these links, i'm sure you'll find something here to suit your situation:\n\nhttp://www.netdoctor.co.uk/support_groups/006090.htm\n\nhttp://www.childbereavement.org.uk/families/\n\nhttp://www.bounty.com/Community/Discussion/Tree.asp?btySubID=144\n\nhttp://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bereavement.php\n\nGood luck
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I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your brother you and his family.\n\nDo not stand at my grave and weep\nI am not there; I do not sleep.\nI am a thousand winds that blow,\nI am the diamond glints on snow,\nI am the sun on ripened grain,\nI am the gentle autumn rain.\nWhen you awaken in the morning's hush\nI am the swift uplifting rush\nOf quiet birds in circled flight.\nI am the soft stars that shine at night.\nDo not stand at my grave and cry,\nI am not there; I did not die.
197426
It is best to write it yourself, as you know the person leaving and can give it that personal touch that no cut-and-paste source will provide.  It doesn't have to be more than a couple of minutes!
285128
You just need to be there for her.  Sometimes feeling like you have to say something can be uncomfortable for the both of you.  When my father died, I just appreciated my friends being there for me to talk to, I had enough people talking to me about what happened as it is.  Also, she may need time to grieve and sort things out.  If she wants to talk about it, she will.  Don't force her.
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http://www.elite.net/~runner/jennifers/goodbye.htm  I had it bookmarked, I knew it would come in handy :D
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Usually this person is in need of bringing closure to past conflicts. Let them talk...let them express. Even help them contact old acquaintances they feel the need to say things to before they pass. \n\nOften times, this person has to come to terms with their fate. It then becomes such a peaceful time for them because they have accepted the end. Help your friend get here. Go through old memories. Remind them of experiences that helped mold their life. Accomplishments. Make them feel that their life was "lived." It helps them realize that they made a mark on this world. Ask others to come by and show respect and admiration for what they were able to share in their relationship with this person.\n\nYour friend needs to feel their self worth before accepting that it is now time to go. I have no doubt that you can do a wonderful job helping them get there. \n\nI'm so sorry for your impending loss. It is oftentimes harder on those left behind. But you are doing a wonderful thing. This will be remembered.