the only one I ever loved and he is choosing another one to marry, why?
110072
you want the truth okay,i am gonna let you have it,YOU WERE NEVER LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE,IT WAS just SEX.now move along.this is life,so don't cry.
214523
I think its easy to say leave him for anybody but i am sure how difficult o it is for you may be it is just nxt to impossible for you but you should not give him another chance becuase if he ever loved you than he have not done thid but he have already done this which means there is no guarantee that in future he will only be yours. I am sure you really love him, i would not advise just find somebody else and go ahead in life becuase than what happens you will be with one physically however your mind, feelings, heart and soul wil be with that person only and than you will be cheating someone and the phase which you are going through somebody will also go theough from that becuase of you so dont put your's and somebody elses life in jeopardy. i would say simply end the relationship without any grugdes and fights or arguments as there is no point to keep on going with that relationship where trust factor does not exist and go with the flow of life and i am sure there would be someone who willlove you more than you do ryt nw. so things and ppl will come to u automatically and i am sure u will accept them as well. GO alone , be string and tomorrow if there is a nice guy in your life and you feel that he cares for u and love u accept the love. you should love whom you want to love but you should accept the love of that person who loves you and most imp take that decision which you would like to take other wise in future you will regret that becuase of somebody else you had decided to do this. So wahtever you heart says do that however pls listen to your brain and than take decision, and any point of time if you would like to speak to me you can email me on my id find_aaeena@yahoo.com. so its not a matter of your love life its a matter of your complete life and also for the life of ppl who are associated with u....i m sure u r getting what i m trying to say. Take care.
662688
I think you should sit down and think about it for sometime. Is it love or just friendship you feel for the guy you miss conversating with? I mean you dont have to possess any partnership love towards him to be friends and to conversate with someone.Maybe you just miss his company.\nAlso, i dont think you can love both men equally because no matter how yoou put it, you must possess more love for either one. I think you should go for the one who is supporting you and taking care of you because to me it seems like the other guy doesnt care. He just wants to be friends.\n\nLook just sit down and think about it. It will determine your future. Can you see a  future with the one not supporting you or the one supporting and caring for you? Your answer is what matters..you will then realize what to do. \nGOOD LUCK\nand remmember that "DONT MARRY THE ONE YOU LOVE" not the \n"MAN WHO LOVES YOU" but the MAN WHO WOULD DIE FOR YOU
1172600
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY!  It looks like he made his choice already.  A man will never leave his wife to be with the other woman.  If you guys were talking before he got married and he still married the other woman...I'm sorry to say, but he is not thinking about leaving his wife for you.  He has his cake and eating it too..so to say.  You are only hurting yourself if you continue to pursue this relationship.  Save yourself from anymore heartache and just end it.
1101468
Life is too short. You need to move on with the other guy. There is no use in leading your boyfriend on. If you stay with your boyfriend because of his feelings you will be hurting both of you in the long run. If you married your boyfriend you didn't have the right kind of love for him this will hurt him even more. You will be unhappy and end up resenting him. Explain this to your boyfriend.
376027
well i think that the one u are with has priority, not only that but if you leave him for someone else 4 what ever reason, it may not say much about ur layalty to people and its something that may bite you in the butt later on. if this person u talk about is back in ur life that means he is not sure of what he wants, what garanties u he wont leave u for someone else. be firm in ur descision and dont betray no one in order to aquire what u need, it doesnt say much about u. over all the things you save save ur heart its special dont brake ur promise to ur current boyfriend. if you waited i think he could wait too n if he waits, n ur relationship with ur current boyfriend doesnt work out n you brake it up justifiably than go for it. but dont brake up out of inpulse u might make the mistake of ur life. remember its never good to live off of memories they will always hurt you weather good or bad. k take care
54657
There is always a reason.  Sometimes it is something that you did.  Many times it is the other person.  They have found someone else that they like more.\n\nBest bet:  KEEP YOUR PANTS ON UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED
151130
this is tough. Your only get one soulmate in a lifetime. Both of you though have families. You said you live with your childrens father you didnt say husband or boyfriend so is it that you live together but you are not together? this is really something you and your soulmate need to dicuss if this is how both of you feel. It's a tough thing. You having to choose with taking care of responsibility to your children and he to his wife or do you stay true to your heart and be together  and get through everything together. It is really something both of you have to discuss. Sometimes a person makes a mistake and marries someone they may care for but who isnt their soulmate. So both of you do need to talk and decide what you will choose to do. It is a tough choice but that is also how you know if its meant to be because if this is something you can get through than you know you made it. I wish you the best and may you recieve your hearts desire.
1176603
you just need to follow your heart which guy do you have more feelings for and which one treats you the way you want to be treated? ? no one on here can make that choice for you. you just need to decide the one your happiest with and go with it
646810
There is no reason to choose. This is the time of your life to date.  Don't tie yourself down to one person but don't lie about it either. Make sure you respect yourself and no hanky panky until you are married.
202821
Your friends are right.  You need to break this cycle and stop living your life waiting for something that may never happen.  You deserve a man who will choose you first over all other girls and not one that can't make up his mind and picks you only when it is convenient.  This guy is just playing you and keeping you around for when his other relationship has problems.
311804
Please what were you doing with him in the first place if you love someone else. that doesn't seem very mature or fair to the other guy. stop playing games with peoples hearts and grow up.stress??? caused by guilt or maybe wanting something that belongs to another!
433529
i dont think that there is only one person out there for you.  its the choices you make in life that will determin who you end up with in the end.
210314
because love is blind ............but you are not (hopefully) so the choice is really simple conform ur morals OR move on to the next guy
246175
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Maybe you need to examine your marriage and figure out why you would even consider ruining your marriage for something that happened in your past? \n\nOr if you feel that this person is really your "soul mate" then life's short live it happy, and if this is what is going to make you life happier and more fullifield then do what your head not your heart thinks is right.
546703
You chose him because you loved him and saw something in him you didn't see in any other man. \nHe has a job. Nearly all men have jobs. He has a really important job that is respected and I would hope you would respect him. You should feel sad and alone. You're married and you didn't want to be left alone. I can see where that wasn't part of the original deal. But you did marry for "better or worse" and if this is the worse, you're doing ok.\nIt is worth it. I believe with every part of my being that he misses you more than you ever realize. He is sad and alone and misses what he could have with you if he were here. \nI would find a support group or at least a counselor to talk to. Sometimes ministers are a good resource. Don't give up. Hang in there.......
359210
Ok well first of all I wouldn't want to be anyone's sloppy seconds so I would ditch your current guy thats crazy.And second of all if the other guy loves you and you love him and you're the oonly one he loves go 4 it!