Im 25 and afraid....?
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I used to be the same way. What helps is coming into contact with more guys in a friendly setting. If there are guys you see regularly at work or somewhere else, just be friendly and say "hi hows it going?" Dont approach it like you are going to marry the guy, just look at it as if he's a cool guy that you'd like to talk to more. Comfort only comes with practice, and remember...those little butterflies you get when talking to a guy you like arent always a bad thing;-)
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There's NOTHING wrong with you!!\n\nGive yourself time  - as you get older, things will change.
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I never used to have any fears when i was young.  As im getting older i seem to have loads.  I tend to be too overcautious with life nowadays!  It seems mad but crossing a bridge and looking over the wall to see the ducks in the rivers water is more of now a nail-biting experience.  The only thing i can suggest is a slow step, by step to conquer the fears.  It hasn't yet worked for me, the river that is by that bridge i dread, brings alot of insecurities for me.  A friend died near their from hypertherma and think its a case for me digging up the griefing part of things..  You never know but there could be a reason behind the lift you dread to take to fifth floor.  Theres a lot of emotional tree branches that our brain tend to keep a lock onto...!  Release the locks with the keys you hold in your hand.
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what scares you is who you don't know who you are. accept yourself & that the unknown if full of fear. sounds like you're letting it paralyze you. don't. \nsexuality cannot ruin your life unless you let it. be resposible. get aware. find the information that will allow you to make the right, nurturing, healing choices for you.
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Sorry sweetie, you are about 20 years too young for me. Dont worry, you will find someone and I am sure they will feel lucky to have you.
140335
I'm guessing that you're young, and I can tell you that what you think and feel right now is not at all what you will be thinking and feeling 5, 10, 20 years from now. Life changes without our even realizing it. Hold on for now, and just have faith that things will change and someday you'll look back and thank God that you didn't make a rash decision based on what really is just a fleeting moment in time.And for goodness sakes, talk it out with someone! You're not alone!
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wait...whats the rush? I'm 30 and i wish i was still one
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u have to learn to relax..try first by talking to your family ,then relatives,then try to have a walk at the park..dropping a smile from time to time wont cost u an arm or leg..you wouldnt know when  afriendship will bloom..but if u are somehow afraid to go out..\nwhy not try to have strol around the neighbourhood with loved ones or someone who is intimite to you or someone u feel comfortable with....\n\nlet s start step by step...first relax yourself,then hang aound your family,then reltives and close friends,then go out n see the world!\n\nbut if u still cant let go of the anxiety somehow..its better u seek professional helps...such as psychiatrist..perhaps they have better suggestions\n\nbut i felt tht once you open your heart,i m sure people around you will accept your presence and there s nothing to be afraid of in getting to know ppl and making new friends..infact it is the best euphoric feeling you ll ever had by just hannging out with bunch of friends and sharing thoughts and jokes!so there you go!!No reasons for being nervous or anything at all,be yourself and stay comfortable and u wont sweat a bit!good luck!
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YES!! did you just find out you want to do such thing? after 65 years? or did it bother you your whole life that you were a male? well either way I think it is much too risky at you ar age, enjoy what you have left of yor life taking care of your self and making the most of it by being healthy and try making peace with your self and God. Good Luck 2 YOU.
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remember that life is short and you dont want to grow old asking yourself, 'what if?' and telling yourself 'if only'. Your greatest mistake would be the risk that you didnt take. Believe in yourself and your capabilities, have a positive attitude toward life. Take everything one step at a time, do not be afraid to live life to the fullest for it is fickle and it can be taken away from you anytime. Just always believe in yourself
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Fotunately it will pass. The rediculous social structures self imposed on young adults tend to produce this feeling of self doubt. It is normal. You can overcome it by bettering yourself. Educate yourself in the ares that interest you. Gain confidence through experience. Try things that are out of your comfort zone. Only by getting to know what you're capable of do you know what your self worth should be. Confidence is a hard thing to know if your life is confined to such small circles. Don't fret the current paranoia you're going through. Many people around you who may have it all together now may crash and burn one day. You want your best days to be ahead of you, and not to be in  the "glory days" when you're 18. Life is long. You should always strive for self improvement. Do that and one day you'll realize that somewhere along the line you develope a healthy self respect...
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Forget your fear and just try it, \nact normal, and be yourself... try to be friendly\nand you'll be fine :)
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Hi Sunshine!\n\nI was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again).\n\nAfter my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off!\n \nI think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older...\n\nI set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well.\n\nDon't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year!\n\nHave fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously.\nMaybe the first few dates will be hard - getting  used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them\n\nGood Luck!\nalaska friend
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i know what it feel sweetheart..im in mid twenties and i really wanted to seetle down too.you know what they all said.just take your time and when that time is right.hes there knockin on your door.i know it sound so lame and i understand coz we all not gettin any younger right? so why dont you go out..have fun.. go to a bar or with friends who have lots of friends or even go travel.we never knows.hes also waitin for you too..so dont waste time and get moving.god always provide! for dont just sit around and wait for it..god said do your thing and ill do the rest..so think bout it! i know how it feels..
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sweetheart, you sound like your 25 and going through a mid-life crisis...Don't "look" for any of that, just let it happen.  I know at your age <<under 16 right>> you may feel ready for a relationship, but your much better off with a guy friend than a boyfriend.  Think about the important things like school, friends, parties, fashion....Trust me, boys are trouble....Don't end up with someone and get pregnant at an early age, there is more to life than that....Look for that care and love from your family, you'll be better off.....If your reading this and thinking that you've heard this all before its because its true.....trust me i would know...
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No offense, but by your spelling errors im guessing your pretty young. I dont think you should be afraid of all these things at your age. You should possibly talk to a parent or a close older relative to get help. As for the obsessive compulsive disorder it is a mental disorder that you need to work on to control. Good Luck!
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I remember being 19 and not feeling confident.  That's okay, the confdence will develop as you mature.  Stay focused on the positive aspects of your life and continue to reach for your goals and dreams.  Be patient with yourself.  You sound like an intelligent person who will end up on her feet.