i have a rly good friend that cuts herself, i tried to stop her but she wont stop, wat should i do?
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Self-mutilation is usually not the problem itself, but a symptom of the problem. Speaking from personal experience, alot of "cutters" feel that the cutting is a release for the pain and frustration that they feel inside. I'm willing to bet that your friend is suffering from depression. This is not something that you can handle on your own. If you guys are minors, than you need to speak with her parents. They need to be aware of her problem so that they can seek professional help. She may be angry with you and feel betrayed at first, but she WILL realize one day that you did it because you care. She'll probably even be thankful! If, however, you're NOT minors, then you should gently tell her that you're concerned and think that she should seek help. Be sure to tell her that she's not crazy, and let her know that damn near everyone needs a little help sometimes. No matter what, let her know that you love her and will always be there for her.\n\nI hope this helps...good luck to you both...
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You have to sit down with your friend and have a long serious talk with her and tell her how much your nervous for her because of what she is doing and how she can get hurt from all her negative actions.You shouldn't try to make her feel guilty by saying you'll start cutting again because that won't help and it won't persuade her because  she'll just say she has the right to get high as much as you do cutting.Let her know that if she doesn't get rid of her habbits that you don't feel comfortable with her having she could lose you as a friend.Don't get mad at her or yell be calm and be the best possible friend that you can and motivate her into becoming something better and hopefully she will reconsider.If she doesn't listen to you,you must tell an adult you trust and they can take it from there.
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You can only tell her that you think it's wrong and just stay away. The things that you say she's going to do are dangerous not just for herself but for you as well. Let her make her own mistakes and be there for her when she realizes it's a mistake. Just remember you can't change people and if she pushes you to join her in a shoplift or drug related activity you can get into just as much trouble as she could and that she's not being a true friend. You're a good person to worry about your friend the way you do unfortunatley she's going to have to figure this out for herself. You've already told her how you feel and that's all you can do.
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gorl oh my gosh she really does need help u need to tell or call someone and i am serious i have had a situation like this and just try to talk and comfort her and tell her how much she is loved by u and her other family and freinds tell her that she still ha s2 acomplish things in her life and that she can get help and that you will be ther with her if she wants.\n\n                         - i wish u the best of luck with her and u
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Tell her she's going down a path as a friend you can't follow.  She needs to stop, you know the reasons why, and when she refuses, and she will.  Find another friends before she drags you into trouble too.
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Make sure your friend knows you care about her, and your response was out of fear for her.  Talk to her, and be there for her.  Encourage her to talk to a counselor, to get some help.  Cutting is usually a sign of some deeper issue.
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I went through the same thing, it seems to be a semi-popular trend among teenage girls of this current generation. I helped my ex-girlfriend through her teen years, It was very difficult for me to convince her that she shouldn't kill herself. At one point one of her classmates found out she was cutting herself and she went to the mental hospital. There she learned new ways to hurt herself, how to hide it, how to poison herself. She started doing drugs and cutting herself even more, just to prove a point. While in the Mental Hospital she cut "Sl*T" over and over again onto her chest, covering her entire chest. Only by giving up all of my friends, giving up on my own highschool career and spending almost all my time with her, was I able to convince her that there was more in life.\n\nThat was three years ago, about a year ago she started to feel better and better about herself. She got rid of her old friends(who also are cutters, but good people too) and started hanging around with some spoiled preppy kids. She left me to date some rich brat, but I am just happy that I saved her life.\n\nThe problem comes down to the glorification that a sub-culture that exists places on it. There are websites dedicated to the "Beauty" of cutting and anorexia. This is what influenced my Ex to stop eating and start hurting herself. It destroyed my own life, but thats what friends do.\n\nI would say that the best thing you can do is stand by her side, no matter what happens. Try to help her realize that she is simply taking out her anger on herself instead of on the ones that hurt her. You should also try to get her away from that distructive enviorment as much as you can.\n\nI am suprised at how common and Idenical this problem is, girls who have abusive(verbally or otherwise) family members and are depressed seem to think that cutting themselves will help. I understand the ideas behind it, if I do this to myself it makes them even worse of a person for what they did.\n\nIt is a long and difficult path your friend has ahead of her, and if you choose to help her, it will be difficult for you as well. The only thing I can say is, no matter how much she doubts it, things always get better, its just the truth.
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Anyone that cuts themself has a deep rooted problem that needs attention.  It is best you help them seek professional help, instead of trying to help them yourself.  Getting them professional help is helping them in a way that it's showing (or should show) them you care about their well being.   Get them to a professional, the problem is too deep for just a common person to help.
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well first of all you may want to realise that her cutting herself may not just be to "releive stress" it could also be because she blames herself for things that go wrong in her life (even if they are not her fault) as far as her stopping you can't make her stop (one of the very unfortunate things about it... she is the only ine who can make her stop. I started cutting when i was 14 because i blamed myself for everything, my mom my best friends even my boyfriends begged, pleaded and threatened me to get me to stop... well i am now 19 and up until a few weeks ago when i found out i am pregnant the urge still took over sometimes. The baby is the only reason i can say i stopped for sure now. (given it did slow up once i got to be about 16.) Just try to tell your friend that what she is doing is hurting you and try to help her find other ways of getting rid of frustration, like writing, running, singing, taking a bath, crying, anything besides this.... the scars are very unattractive and later will make her feel a little worse about herself when she stops cutting and still has the scars... mine bother me ALOT
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I work at a hospital and our docs prescribe anti-depressants all the time. If your friend had mentioned suicide to you then you can have her committed against her will. Call the police if you think she is in danger. Or check out the bottom of the www.postsecret.com blog, they have a hotline with the answers you need.
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I'm afraid the only way you are going to stop this is to just be brutally blunt with her. It sounds cruel, but people like her usually don't the get the message if you beat around the bush.  She obviously wants ALL your attention. She throws a tantrum when you say something to her to put a guilt trip on you. She obviously lost a lot of friends because she acts this way. She is suffocating and I give you credit for dealing with it, but I see you are at a breaking point and before this goes further, put a complete stop to it. \n\nI would air out all of your feelings to her emphasizing that you can no longer tolerate her behavior. Tell her unless she backs off and gives you some space you want nothing to do with her at all. She will be upset of course, throw her tantrum, but eventually she will get over it. It might prompt her to take a look at herself, the way  she acts and why she can't make friends and she might even thank you one day.\n\nI do emphasize be brutally blunt, if you aren't this problem will persist.
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My best advice for you is to make sure you dont keep telling her everything shes doing wrong, the first thing you want to do is tell her look you cant do this and everything along those lines, right now she needs to be able to have someone to talk to about why shes doing what shes doing, More then likely there is a root to the problem, shes not as far as she wanted to be at this point in her life, or something, see if she will open up to you about why she feels the need to go out and party like this, more then likely shes tring to "numb" out something, You dont want her to think that your not on her side anymore, and if you tell her everything shes doing wrong she might take it that your tring to rule her life and then she will shut you out, after you see what the root of the problem is you can talk to her about it, tell her that what shes doing is going to make her loose everything she has and your commited to her as a friend to help her out of this hole shes found herself in, and that you care about her health and you dont want to watch her slowly disinagrate her health and you want to help her get past this hard part in her life and get her to trust your recommendations on what you think she needs to do, then once she says she trusts you to guide her out of this problem, (keep in mind you have to get her to see she has a problem, spoon feed it to her so she sees it on her own she has a problem, like wow you used to be able to keep all this going with out a problem, it looks like your struggling, she will know why and see why) THen keep reminding her that you will do what ever she needs, that you will hold her hand in a local AA class, or you will go to a rehab place with her, what ever it takes :)
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you know her problems. try to encourage her. tell her she is not the only one that has the problem but they eat inorder to live. tell her that what she is doing is not only bad to her but is also affecting you as her friend. just encourage her
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My son start cutting himself 5 years ago.  The best thing that I did was to educate myself about why he was doing it.  I went into chat rooms for cutters, read blogs by cutters, did anything I could to interact with others who cut.  \n\nShe is not trying to kill herself.  If you can get her to talk about it, great.  Until then, try to find out why people cut from cutters themselves.
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Confront her about it. Then tell her that you will not tolerate it anymore. Tell her that you will put an end to your friendship if it continues. You can always ask her what is her reason for doing it and why she is doing it.
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dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.
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Hi,Daisy well all I can tell you is STOP!! I know its hard but you really have to try. Right now I'm trying to help my sister stop too. And she is also 14. Just think about all the people who LOVE you and what will happen if you cut your self to deep. If you need any more advise you can contact me at              youngwon1025@yahoo.com