I think I am sinking in quicksand.  Should I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his shovel to dig myself out?
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Is the quicksand on his property, your property, or is it on the line?\n\nIf it's exclusively on your property, asking him to borrow his shovel will cause you to owe him a favor. This might not be in your best interests, especially if he is the kind of guy who will put borrowing a shovel on the same level as looking after his rowdy dogs for a week while he's on vacation.\n\nIf it's on the line or on his property, I think it's the least he could do.
197815
Get out with your family members and pets if at all possible.  Call 911 from a neighbors.  Lives are more important than saving a structure.
739636
Can you write me an excuse to miss work today!?  I really don't wanna go........Also, can you make my neighbor stop throwing his sticks and trash in my yard because he's too lazy to put them out front for the city to pick up!? I need someone with some authority to make that happen....N-kay! \n\n(Hey, I always wondered if God ever just "banged in" because of stress days.....Thx!~)
971836
I'll toss ya a shovel so you can dig your way out! It sounds like your having a wild ride! I know from some of my close friends how bad depresion can be! But there's not much you can do! I advise to ride it out, or try and think of all the good times you've had without guys, or just the good times ytou've had in general! You seem like a stong, intelligent, young girl, and i'm sure you can through it! Just don't give up, and keep on digging your way out!
148759
you have to look at the hole situation come on now your barely friends right so put your self out there see where is goes you only live once so live it up and get your groove on...if that dont work brush your shoulder off and move on...
1014521
guess,you should stop reaching out to him,and see if he cares he would turn around or  pass him,i do understand its very tough when you care,but why should you put yourself under his  feet to be trampled with your feelings.... i am going thru the same just getting stronger
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Let's see.  If the pool and fence are on the neighbor's property, Then he can pay for it himself.  If the fence is indeed yours, well then it's none of his business that it's broken down.  He wants a fence fence so bad, he can get it himself.\n\nYou are not morally obligated to put yourself into debt just because your neighbor WANTS a new fence.\n\n\nHaving said all that, he IS your neighbor.  So, you know, a little tact might be in order.  So instead of "screw you", perhaps "I'm really sorry, but I just can't afford it" might be in order.
1118617
First off change your attitude.  A SHOVEL?  How obnoxious er I mean caring of her friend.  A real concern I see.
90374
ask your neighbor, or look on the internet
176230
Go to him personally in person is always better. Go to him when he least expects it. I believe you can take him down:) Start digging... lol
815947
If he is still seeing you outside the work place it seems you are holding on to something you should let go of. Forget it. Try not to do it again. Put it in the past and leave it there.Everybody does stupid things.Leaqrn to laugh it off or just bury it. Maybe when you turn 105 you will be able to laugh about it.
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Listen to Sassy.Also you can look on your own.\nIn the meantime try to control yourself,don't lash out at her when she makes one of her digs. It sounds like you are\nboth decent people stuck in a tough situation. Don't let\nwords be spoken that can't be taken back-suck it up,take a deep breath,leave the room if you have to.When you have your\nown place it'll be easier to get along and repair the damage.Good luck and remember you're both human.
833438
Actually, you should feel pooped out and potentially hosed down.\n\nDid everything come out well in the end?
923522
OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.
939441
Go with your instinct if you want to pick it up do it. Call him and tell him how you feel whether it's good or bad. Believe it or not guys do the same thing.
461898
Why would you want such a thing? If you want to do this, please don't! Get some professional help so you can start living life to the fullest! Nothing is worth killing yourself over. God loves and I do to. You are my neighbor.
1080257
Babydoll, I think you haven't really thought this through too well. This  piece of buttwipe did you a favor & you want him to hurt you more?? If you ever think about relocating to The Sun City, you come on over & "Holla" at me & I'll be showing you what it feels like to have someone care about you, your feelings & not be such an arsehole to continuously rub your nose in mistakes of your past (believe me, I should know about mistakes from my past!)