what it generally takes a while to excite a woman and when shez excited it takes a while to slow down? why so?
102918
i think the answer to the question you're asking is this. it takes a while to excite women because they are less experienced than men. boys usually begin to play with themselves in middle school, while some woman dont acheive orgasms until their thirties, if ever. men know what they want, sex is often more enjoyable for them. but if you are with the right kind of woman waiting to excite her is well worth it.
313580
I guess to keep her interested in sex!\n\nDuring a woman's orgasm the orgasmic muscle contractions in the genital area make the mouth of the cervix dip downwards inside the woman. This is advantageous because if the man she's having sex with has ejaculated, the cervix will dip into the deposited semen, thus increasing the oppurtunity for sperm to get through the cervix and onwards to the fallopian tubes to fertilise an egg, to produce a baby and propogate the human race etc etc etc.
816052
Seriously?\n\nThere's not real methodology.  Every woman is different, and what works for one might be boring for another.  What you need to do is listen, listen, listen, and be obedient.  What makes a lover good and skillfull is the fact that they are highly observant- they note the changes in your breathing, the little gasp, that moan, the movement of your body, that say "Oh yes, there", or "Ah, harder".  Especially for women who are pretty silent and still in bed- they think people have innate sexual prowess because "My god, she read my mind and gave me everything I wanted!".  But it's just not so- listen and try to discern what she likes.\n\nIf all else fails, do for her what would feel good to you.\n\nEnjoy and have fun!
206813
Just knowing her... try to get to know her really good, when U already learn to know a woman, U can do whatever she likes or wants to get her to climax, every woman is different in that sense.\nFor example, the fastest way I get to climax is being on top and I my man touches my breast and kisses me in the neck, ears, and he also touches my butt.\nBut let me tell U this: it depends most on the woman, because the woman has to focus and concentrate in the moment, for example, when I want to climax the fast I can, I think in something that really turns me on, I picture a scene that I have seen before on a video, I imagine lots of things and in that way I can get the or*ga*sm really fast.
729640
Most women consider a fast orgasm to be about as exciting as a sneeze. Why the heck would you want to make that a goal? And, unless you have her hooked up to scientific gizmos (now that's romantic), you won't know if it's real or not (no matter what any guy says. All those "ways you can tell," like flushing, vaginal contractions, etc.? Can. All. Be. Faked. Trust me).\n\nIf you're looking to give a woman a fast orgasm so you can get it over with, I don't know why you'd care whether the orgasm was real or not. If you're looking to please a woman, stop thinking about orgasms and start making real love to her.
47858
Not all women are the same, the best thing to do is explore, touch, kiss, caress, talk.  Take things slow and have fun.  And above all else don't get frustrated because she doesn't orgasm, it's not always about the orgasm.
548438
The intensity of a woman's orgasm has more to do with her head ie state of mind then with any physical manipulation.  If she is able to relax and is "open" to the idea (of using a vibrator) most likely she'll have the orgasm.
87482
When she says that she is tired then she is not actually looking forward to it. Perhaps there is no motivation or reward that she can get out of it. Maybe you get your rocks off or are too demanding for your own wants.\n\nDo not just think of your satisfaction, aim to satisfy her. Beleive me once you get her going on those lines, she will make sure that she finds a way to get laid. And your hearts desires/perversions will only get her more turned on.\n\nMy advise, start playing around with her the whole day, show your concern by helping her with her work, stay in the same room while she works and talk to her, a show of affection, steal a moment and yet do not demand anything till she comes to you for it.\n\nOnce you have gotten a woman going, it is very hard for her to turn off till she has had it.\n\nAim to please her.
545072
A whole lot of direct stimulation is usually too much to handle (my legs start to twitch, don't know if that's a common thing though).  Definitely build up a lot of anticipation, and when she's really begging for it, try a nice, slowwww....oh god I think I need to stop typing now.
1029363
learn to relax.  I was married for 15 years and had to last at least 40 minutes because my wife was frigid.  (I feel bad for her next husband)  Once I started dating again I was so nervous sometime I'd go for 2 hours because I didn't want to let the girl down.  No I try to relax and spend more time making her happy and trying to time the climaxes together.  Think about something really erotic when you think she about to cum.  And ask her to be vocal about it.
975650
i get so excited when a woman blushes. why would you want to stop???
911272
Take your TIME! \nTry LONG and VERY SLOW! \nJust play, gently and passionately for hours, keeping her aroused, and close to coming, but not actually letting her go the last few yards.
566277
i don't understand, you explained it very well with the dance thing. but how can you NOT know how??? as for tip um: go with the flow!!!! if it feels good ride it! although id appreciate if you added additional details, what do the women who don't know what they're doing do? how is it different?
258333
You ll know by her body language. If you go slow, by that I mean foreplay,  She'll let you know when to stop  and If she doesn't stop keep going
1174879
lack of experience, lack of understanding the link between sensation and ejaculation hence not knowing how to alter tempo activity to maintain  a high level of excitment and not tip over\n\nanxiety about performance \n\noccassionally its nice to come after only 10-15 min of furious intercourse - most of the time its nice to have at least 45-60 mins of intercourse varying tempos!\n\nmen can learn how to control this - becoming a good lover is a process of learning
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That's a generalization. I know many men that can't sit still! It definitely depends on the person. Women may appear to be more active because they talk about it all of the time. Men are just more direct and actually get it done before the woman has stopped talking long enough to notice that it is done. ;)
682148
Make sure she is pleased and comfortable. Foreplay is always important unless you are established in a relationship and just need a quickie. Women need quickies to sometimes. Make sure you give good oral sex and be sure she cums first before you get yourself off. Women are more likely to please a man if they are willing to take the time to pay attention and make the effort to please them. I find it quite arousing and sex more fun for both if the man knows how to please the woman. I am more likely to do just about anything for my man if he can satisfy me. Most men don't take the time to develop the art of multiple orgasms, so when the man cums it is usually over because they get tired and want to go right to sleep. Most women can go many times. When I reach orgasm I get more energy and want to keep going. Also, not enough people are open enough to talk about what they want from sex. Sex is wonderful and fun, healthy, a stress reliever, anger reducer, good exercise, brings closeness and strength in a relationship, and it is just the natural thing to do. Learn to please and enjoy each other. Sometimes a dim light can make you relax and not worry about what each other looks like. A lot of women and some men are self conscious of how they look to the other which ruins the ability of being able to fully enjoy sex. Sex is too much fun to not enjoy. If you care about each other and are compatible physically, it makes it even more pleasurable.