What can I do to help my friend get through a suicide in the family?
106488
I lost my grandpa to suicide about 8 years age but I will never forget what I went through. I was very close to him and no matter how many people told me that it was going to be ok it didn't matter then. Dealing with that sort of grief is very hard and it is also hard to process a lot of things. The best advice I can give you is be there for anything they need. Let your friend know that you are sorry and will be there through this for him or her no matter what. Over time things will get better but it will take time. Be patient and understanding with your friend. He or she is going to go through some hard times but having a friend that cares close by will help a whole lot. I hope this helps. I had a friend there for me and it helped a lot.
718065
Is easier for me to answer if you are the person who's want to kill yourself,but is hard to answer indirectly cause we have to touch his feeling by his words,messages or conversations.Anyways,you should e-mail him or call him,don't talk to him like he needs help,talk to him like a close friend who's care of him,concern about his feeling,talk to him about the N.H.L./N.B.A./M.L.B.etc.What ever he likes .Do you know any friends or family member lived close to him ,call them for help.may be they can give him a hand,a good timing help.
929554
It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
440502
First let me just say Suicide is never the answer... No matter what the question is.  When people come close, or actually commit suicide, they are at what they think is the emotional low point of their lives.  Their thinking is so clouded by depression, and despair, that they fail to see the actual truth... No matter how low a person feels, somebody out there cares about that person.  I know at one time, I had considered ending my own life, For reasons still unknown to me, I did not do it, I got professional help.  That therapy showed me that no matter how low you may get, there is always something to live for.  \n\nI am terribly sorry you lost a friend to suicide.  Even though you may hold a bit of anger with him for ending his own life, and effecting so many others in a bad way, try to forgive him.  True what he did could be considered a selfish move, But, when it comes right down to it, his decision to end his own life was not made with a clear head.  All you can do is pray for him, and hope he has gone on to a better place.  Also, you can pay attention to how your friends react to this event... If any of them show signs of deep depression, or suicidal thoughts, be sure to let somebody know about it, and try to suggest they seek help. We would not want this terrible event to ever happen again.\n\nYou will be in my prayers... God Bless!
331867
I am trying to understand your question.First thing, people who call their friends and hint that they want to end their lives do not want to die. your friend is hoping that you will stop her.(got the feeling it's not done yet,I hope,seeing she has done this before) \nShe is calling out to you for HELP.\nHere is something from Module 6-Counseling 11, from when I used to do Crisis Hot-line .\nThe decision to commit suicide is usually the result of a long-term,gradual erosion of the person's ability to cope with negative emotions.She may feel overwhelmed and hopeless;suicide may seem to be the only option.\nStudies have shown that majority ofsuicidal people do not want to die. A number of warning signs can indicate the possibilityof suicide,including:\nsuicide threats, depression, apathy,or withdrawal, giving away prized possessions,making a will ,abrupt changes in behavior, the recent death of a loved one,family history of suicide,family disruptions such as divorce or the break-up of a relationship, and a clear reduction in the fear of death.Many people report that before a loved one committed suicide, he or she seemed "better". In fact , a sudden lifting of sadness, depression, or withdrawal may indicate that the decision to commit suicide has been made. Person may seem calm and at "peace" At this point,the suicide risk is often very high.\n\nHigh risk\nSuicidal feelings seem to be growing stronger, and  a plan has been thought out,but the details have not been worked through.Previous suicide attempts, af any, may be more recent, with higher lethality.\nyour friend seem to fall in high risk category. She has attempted this before. \nShe is looking for a way to end the pain and stress she feels. \nKeep her on the phone if you can , you might have to intervene for your friend, by calling the cops, telling them where she lives, her telephone number, if necessary. \nRemember whatever, happens you have done the best you can, and you might have to seek support for yourself.\nI do not know where you are but here is a 800 info -line \n(800) 203-1234  this is a state wide suicide hot-line that can be called 24 hours a day. There may be options in your area, or her area. Let your Mom know what is happening.\nHope I was able to help.
688517
Maybe your friend is trying to reach out to you because he or she feels bad.  It is possible that the friend is depressed and needs someone to talk with.  Ask if your friend is feeling okay.  Maybe your friend needs to see a therapist to see if he or she is suicidal.  Please make sure your friend gets some help just in case.
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Unfortunately, there isn't much you can say in condolence to her.  Just let her know that you are there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on, an ear to vent to, etc.\n\nThis is going to be a very trying time for her and her family, as such, she is going to need as much support as you can provide, if it is nothing more than cooking meals for her and her family for a few days until she can get her arms around this tragedy.\n\nIt speaks volumes that you desire to comfort you sister-in-law, she will need it desperately.
4763
Call the suicide hot line talk to them they can help you and perhaps even get your friend to talk to them. \n\n1 800 suicide (784-2433)
939163
unfortunately depression is a very hard thing to deal with. nobody can get some1 out of it they can only help themselves, all you can do is be there when your friend needs you and support her in the decisions she makes.
651354
just let her know that you may not have all the answers or even any answers but that you are there for her if she needs someone to just listen or if she needs support you will support her in any decisions she makes that have to do with the  relationship and cicumstances with her parents. offer to help her at any time she needs someone to go with her to go talk to someone so she does not feel alone. things like that , just be there for her let her know you are there and that you care.
1139351
I used to have the same problem that your friend has. My parents were crazy and strict and I became depressed and suicidal for many years. I never attempted suicide, but I did cut myself occasionally. I understand when she says it feels good. The best way that I can explain it is that the physical pain sort of momentarily takes away the emotional anguish that you're experiencing. It's not a healthy thing to do, buy many people do it. If your friend doesn't want to see a therapist, the best thing that you can do for your friend right now is to just be there for her and listen as much as you can. Since your friend can't really change her parents right now, there's not a lot that she can do about her current situatione except to learn how to cope with the problems that she's dealing with. If your friend expresses any desire to commit suicide or you think that she might be thinking about suicide, then you need to tell someone about it, a school counselor, a church advisor, or a parent.
854168
She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
934739
well call the police or anyone from his friends\nor tell his family\ntry to move fast he is depressed and may kill himself at anytime
1119332
If she commits suicide it is not your fault. It sounds like you have done everything you can to help her. Just be there for her without sacrificing your own mental health.\nDo not exhaust yourself for this woman. She has to help herself. And you don't need to be exposing your child to her. My advice would be to minimize contact, not completely, but enough that it doesn't affect you or your child, and do NOT let this woman control you. Don't let her make you feel guilty for her problems. Your first priority is your kid, and this drama could be messing him/her up psychologically. You do NOT owe your friend anything. But you do owe your child a safe stable home life.\n\nPlease ignore people who are saying she is only looking for attention. I have a bit of experience with suicide as well. And on one hand, she needs support, but on the other hand, it really sounds like you are exhausted. Be supportive of her, but don't get emotionally involved with it. Don't go out on a limb for her, there's no reason to sacrifice your own happiness(it hasn't helped you before has it?) for hers.\nPeople with suicidal tendencies tend to make many attempts before actually committing suicide. So the "if she's so serious why isn't she dead?" argument is *ahem* fatally flawed. Suicide is serious business, and I don't recommend completely abandoning her, that is not what I meant before. But you do have a child to consider in all of this, so minimum, but supportive contact would be the best. \nShe may or may not be "just seeking attention", but either way she is in serious need of mental help, and support from loved ones.\nThe site below has some insights about suicide and how you can more effectively help her and what kinds of things you should avoid saying.  It could be that she is not getting the right kind of support, because people tend to be uncomfortable with suicide and say the wrong things and make it worse. Be informed before you talk to her. Good luck.
278746
Listen, this is very serious. I'm a counselor, and your friend is in real danger of hurting herself. Take her very seriously. You are too young to handle  this. You need to talk to someone you trust, whether it be your parents or another adult. I'm sorry if I'm scaring you. There are counselors who can help her. There are suicide hot lines.Look in the phonebook. There should be a listing in the front under emergency services. The burden of this needs to be put in the hands of an adult. A part of what makes this serious is the Moms abuse issues. Your friend has probably been exposed to this all her life in some form or another. Who ever you choose to help, hopefully your parents, will talk to you, and guide you. Answer me back when you can. I'll look for your message. Use the heading, I found an adult to help. Good luck honey.
959384
Be there for them when they need to talk about their issues and when you have had all you can take - do something for yourself like a bubble bath, gardening or go for a walk. Something YOU enjoy - to take your mind off their problems.\nBTW. Do not feel bad if you have to tell them you can not take any more right now.
27552
Just know that their pain they felt here must have been so devistating that they could no longer bare it.For reasons we may never know or understand.Some people are just stronger than others.I had a friend who was only 11yrs, when she commited suicide. It is no ones fault and it will take time to heal the wounds we feel from events like this. Just remember to celebrate their lives in a postive way and don't get stuck in a rut on how they passed.There are support groups out there they you may want to check out. It is a very difficult and confusing issuen to deal with, I wish you luck in your grieving process.