Do you think a guy that has been divorced for over a year, needs to stop badmouthing the ex to mutual friends?
110773
Good luck!!  Been divorced 18 years and X still bad mouths me.  Bet you can't talk to him either.  Just try to ignore his insecure behavior.  I'm sure mutual friends know what kind of person you are.  Say something like, how is (so & so's name) doing with AA?
869758
he seems like an asshole.  avoid him and perhaps your friend should avoid him as well.  since he is an ex, he has no reason to have contact with you, let alone your friend.
767477
There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
741264
13 years is a really long time.  I don't think you are giving yourself credit because it has only been just a year. I am not sure about running out to meet other women is the best way.  I think that just makes a person vulnerable to more hurt.   I think that if you look over the year and think about how you were right after the 2 of you divorced and where you are at now, I bet you see that you have made  progress.  Time does heal it just may take a little longer for you so don't be so hard on yourself and I do believe that in another 2 months you will be even a little closer to smiling without faking it.  It has been 4 months for me since I had any contact and it has been a very happy time for me.  Somedays better than others.  I decided to volunteer my time on a day that seems to be the hardest for me.  I also got back in contact with the friends I blew off while I was seeing this person who was so toxic.  What a waste of my time on this earth.  You will eventually heal, I am holding on to that belief myself.  Good luck.
901831
Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
616801
who cares we are no longer together and he is my EX but as for my friend I would rethink our relationship because she may have wanted him long time ago--leave the past in the past and do what you have to do for you and take care of you let that go
1108513
I have been where you are.  it took about 4 years after the divorce,  when i realized that we could have a casual conversation without getting deep, and you could tell that, tho it wasnt forgotten, it didnt seem to be as raw a subject anymore.  I told my ex that i was sorry, and i was wrong.  That he had been a good husband, and tho we didnt survive in our marriage for other reasons, that the infidelity on my part was wrong, and it should never had been a reason for anything-it was not ok to do it.  I did nothing but hurt innocent people, and myself.  I actually know that he accepted my apology as genuine.
513679
it could be that he has his own issues and lots of them - that is the why\n\nunless he is willing to face them squarely then he will drag anyone who gets close to him down into it\n\nnow to answer your first question?\n\nno no no - just 'good' friends isn't a runner up prize for a failed relationship.  friendship has to be based on something more than that IMO.\n\nI think to let this fish go - if he changes over time then worry about that then - but for now give him space and move past this
80804
Because he is still in love with her. I apologize, but if the man is spoiling his ex then maybe you need to just be friends for now until he learns his lesson the hard way and comes back to the one good thing that he turned away...
206759
He may be trying to do either.  Just remind him that you are now ex-partners, and he needs to keep his social life to himself.  Refuse to get involved in this sort of discussion.  Sounds like it was a good idea to break it off.  He doesn't have clear boundaries.
175704
Yes that is normal.  You need to have time for yourself and to get rid of the bad feelings.  I am not divorced (yet) but it has been a year since we seperated and I have no desire to be with anyone.   \nJust relax and don't listen to people who tell you you need to be dating, you will when you are ready.
148765
You stay out of it until he is divorced so you don't get caught in the middle of it.  Tell him you will be his friend but until he gets a divorce you can't be anything more.
1160813
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
401498
i dont think this is normal i think she still wants him in her life even tho theyre divorced she shuld let go of him and he shuld move on too. and he might be affected real;l;y badly which is y he shuld lay low from her maybe go somewhere to hang with his friends. also he culd just say no wen she asks for favors, i mean she has a husband y cant the husband help the wife. \ngood luck to the guy
463872
I honestly don't believe all ex's men or women are hard to get along with. Probably like the marriage gone bad so has the trust and respect...C
1065194
Be classy about it.  Do you trust your partner?  If yes, then you have nothing to worry about.  The ex can kick and scream and b**ch all she wants - but all it will succeed in doing is making her stand out as the immature fool that she is.\n\nDon't necessarily take crap - if she blatantly disrespects you a witty quip should quiet her, if not, give your partner a big 'ol kiss on the mouth, whilst hands are wandering over delectable buttocks.\n\nThe other part of my answer is less relevant to the question and more to do with your sanity.  If the ex is to remain a "friend" with your partner, and if your partner truly respects and cares about you, wouldn't you and your partner be well served if your partner firmly outlined boundaries with the ex?  I.e: not drunk dials, no sob stories, no jealousy b.s, etc.  This ex sounds obsessed and I don't know how you can be friends with someone who is still mad for you...and maintain your sanity.  It might be time for the rope to be cut and for you and your partner to move on and leave this head case in the dust.
293039
First of all, when you DO see each other, make sure that any "feelings of attachment" are clearly communicated.  For example, if you are still friends and wish to remain "friends," set the boundaries straight.  As long as both of you have a clear understanding that the friendship can grow in spite of the divorce, then seeing your ex-husband should not pose a dilemma.  Sometimes ex-lovers make the greatest friends!  I should know, I'm still in communications with my ex-boyfriend who recently got married.  Although I couldn't make it to the wedding, he still considered me as one of his friends by sending me an invite.