how to make my lover apologize to me when he is wrong but not see that ?
103187
Have you looked at it from his standpoint? Possibly he truly does not feel that he was wrong.  There are two sides to every issue try and look at the situation from his perspective. Possibly the next time a situation arises he will make an effort to look at it from yours.
649579
1. Admit you were wrong. Be humble.\n2. Say that you shouldn't have accused him.\n3. Admit you were out of line.\n4. You understand his reaction and can't blame him. \n5. What you're going to do going forward to avoid this.\nFinally, ask him to please accept what you're saying as an apoligy. You acted out of emotion and that wasn't right.
1020576
You are in a relationship where you have allowed this to happen and therefore he has no reason to change anything because a pattern has been set.  You could try the old tricks, like just not doing some of the things he expects you to do and see if he'll notice, or you could try various other ways of getting revenge on him for his lack of attention, but I recommend the classic "ultimatum" if you are indeed at the end of your rope.  If you choose to go this route, then you will need to pick a reasonable goal and deadline and stick to it if he doesn't respond.  \n\nOr you could just carve out some time for yourself and tell him he is in charge and leave him to it.  \n\nThe problem is that you have enabled him to do this for a long long time, the solution is you changing your behaviors and hoping he'll follow suite.  Either way you will be a little happier than you currently are.
50417
Straight out tell her, "look, you say I hurt your feelings yet I have no recolection of this. I apologize if I, without meaning to, offended you". Something like that, let it be known that you did not do it on purpose, that way she'll know you're not apologizing for something you did, but for something she thinks or feels you did.
183052
If you can't get him to listen, try dropping him a note explaining the circumstances and the misunderstanding.  If he still continues his ways after hearing your side of it, then leave him in the dust.  He is not understanding, forgiving or tolerant enough to deserve you.
367352
You have a tendency to punish him when he gives you what you want. That will make him close up and communication will be next to impossible. I'm sure you don't do it maliciously, but you should stop to think how what you say might be perceived.
862945
it is hard to tell if he is sincere or not,but u are doing right by setting boundaries and letting him know what he did was not acceptable. just have to wait and see if he is sincere,give him another chance to make it up to u. actions speak louder than any words. if he apologized atleast he know's he made a mistake.
482923
go to him and say sorry .. what if later on he shows up the same way u did and does the same to ur wife ?
375854
girl don't bother about what they say.just go to his house and apologize about what happened and he may forgive you.and another note whatever that girl say just tell her that she's hating and that you wish that you had him and stop drinking that haterrade
882376
You can't get him to talk to you, he has to decide that...however that's not stopping you from apologizing...either go to him and apologize in person (whether he speaks ot you or not) or do it via email...then let it go...\n\nYou screwed up, but it also doesn't sound like that relationship was a good one and you're trying to convince yourself it was better than it was because you don't like being single...\n\nApologize if that's what you feel you need to do...and then put the situation behind you and move on...if he ever wants to communicate with you, he'll let you know...but face it, if someone had done to you what you did to him, wouldn't you probably hold a grudge for a while? Most people would...
193545
First of all, if you really love this person you'd be able to forgive him and overlook his transgression. But, if this is something that is a habit of his, then it should be obvious that he has no true respect for you, and without that he can't possibly love you in return. So, if this is just a one time incident, and you otherwise trust him, then tell him how you feel about this. If he asks for forgiveness, then give him a chance. If all he does is appologize, then he's probably not sincere. In that case you'd do better to move on and find someone else.
771935
Just as you did right now. "I'm sorry". If you want to lighten it up, tell him, "On a scale of one to ten, I think I just scored a zero." \nBut an apology is the best thing you can give him, as long as it is heartfelt -- and prompt! Don't wait two weeks until you apologize. Whatever you did is rankling him right now, so call him up and tell him you're sorry.
431174
After realizing your mistakes and apologizing sincerely to him, then give him space, don't drool on it as it will not give him the chance to reflect on what you've said that has hurt him or your words of being sorry. Time doesn't really heal whatever pain we've experienced, but it gives us the chance to take it, to carry it and to understand why things have happened. Its more difficult for a man just to forget, forgive and pretend nothing has been said that has hurt his ego or his total self. Just continue being you, the person he used to be a friend with, smile when you see him, though stop nagging or pushing yourself into him to put back everything that was. That's done and gone, start from scratch, that's the cause and effect of what you've done. Accept and WAIT, wait when he's ready to be friends again. Remember, wait and have patience.
1113286
i think you should try to talk to him in a nice way... be sincere and know effective ways on how to talk to him. its just a matter of right conversation. i believe that everyone of us is capable of committing mistakes so never give up on making him see that you're truly sorry for what you had done to him. i think you can do it...
1095954
Make sure you are totally honest about everything that happened, above all, even if you were in the wrong.  Hopefully he will be understanding enough to get beyond the issue.  Make sure to keep all future communication between you him open and honest as well.
1175968
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
557910
Say you are sorry for your mistake on dating him before. Cry for a drama. Explain that this is the best for both of you. Find something that you don't like. Never raise your voice. They will appreciarte you if you say it gently. If you really like the second, it's okay. I understand the matter of hearts problem.