i have been swimming 4 10 years & i want 2 quit 2 do somethin else but my parents won't let me HELLLPP!!!?
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Lol....parents...lol...I'm one too. And sometimes we're the hardheadest creatures there are.\n\n You have my sympathy Honey. I don't normally agree with alot of these people but on this I guess, I do. I'm not saying to do it the way some are saying though. \n\nracingcowboy, is right they've probably spent alot of money and sacrificed alot of their time and etc. to let you do this which, in the beginning you probably begged for. And he's right you need to set down and tell them 10 years ago it was what you wanted, but now you'd like to try new things, and you hope they love you enough to want you to be happy, and this doesn't make you happy anymore. Tell them if 10 years ago they said they liked chocolate ice cream and that's all they'd ate since then,(Ask them).. do you think you'd be ready to try something else.????? (Tell them) "I love you both and don't want to disappoint you, but it disappoints me that you won't let me try to experience anything else but swimming in this life.!" \n\nLike computergeek said, act sad, don't be talkative but answer politely if they speak to you. They'll see it's depressing you and they'll give in. It might just take a couple of weeks.\n         Good Luck*
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Well, it would help to know your age (to see if it is an ongoing longterm problem or new behavior on their parts), and whether your goals are realistic, which I can't know without knowing you.  However, a general answer to your question is:  first of all, you shouldn't have to GET your parents to care...they should ALREADY care.  The problem is...maybe they do, and it's just in a form that you don't like.  You can do two things to improve this situation.  First, work like crazy to prepare for the future.  That means doing as well as you possibly can in school, and showing your maturity by living up to whatever responsibilities you have at home and/or work.  Second, speak calmly and candidly with your parents and tell them exactly what you've told me.  It sounds like you have a real passion for these areas, and that can be a wonderful gift.  Remind them that the great person you are came from them, and that you need their help and support to become the adult you were meant to be.  Don't be nervous, remember to breathe and hold your head up.  You have potential, and it's your job to sell that idea to your parents.    One more thing...they may be afraid of the time you might step out on your own.  That's natural, but it is their job as parents to prepare you to leave the nest, it's not their job to guilt you into staying close for their comfort if that is not the right thing for you.  Reassure them, and trust that with your conduct you can convince them when you are ready to fly.  Give it your best...and you will do fine.  All good wishes to you.
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Please don't wait to line things up before you tell your parents. They will be more able to help you than anyone on yahoo honey. Go tell them what you have been doing, that you know it's wrong and you want to stop but you don't know how. Tell them that you feel like you will need to go away to learn how to cope better. They can help you. They can take you to your family doctor and get a referral to a specialist just for you. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT WAIT!!!
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If you're in school, you can join the swim team. If not, check with your local YMCA and see if they have any swimming leagues. =)
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ack bird my parents used to be like that its crap having to miss out on stuf when your friends can do it. my advice is never be honest with them it gets you know were. clean the house if it gets you out. wear makeup if you want its your face just make sure it looks good not a big orange face lol. do what you can get away with but be careful. your only young once. but try an understand they only do it because they care you'l relaise that when ur older
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are you 18? if ur not they wont let you.
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You have a pinched sciatic nerve, probably aggrevated by the back problems, especially if the last two lumbar vertebra (L4 and L5) had disc ruptures.\n\nI beg you to get in the POOL and swim laps for 1/4 mile each dy until you get used to it, then "bump" the distance to 3/8 and then to 1/2 mile every day.  Nonstop.  Use the backstroke if you're a poor swimmer.\n\nTry this every day for six months before you complain that it isn't helping.  Hydrotherapy such as a whirlpool or water aerobics are nice TOYS, but the thing you need is for those tiny little muscles that run up and down the spine to themselves be stronger, and any other exercise you try is going to hurt you!
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Don't know how to answer that question as my parents do the same thing. It's real annoying, but at least i'll be leaving soon so hopefully no worries here. But you can't run forever. I tell my parents i'm not interested and they can't really do anything about it.
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One suggestion is, If you don't want to be on the team, you could do badly in try-outs and not make it. \nIs it that you just don't like basketball, or you don't like sports at all? Maybe if you played another sport, they would be ok with it. Or, join another activity and get involved. Your parents just may want you to find a hobby, and they may think that basketball is the best one for you. If you can show them that you are dedicated to another activity/sport, I'm sure they will understand. Good luck!
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Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
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as a freshman i totally understand where you are coming from, i've got swimming tryouts this week and we'll see what happens i guess. but back to you: okay sounds like you've just got nervous jitters. all that you need to do is practice. that and endurance running b/c i've never played basketball but i know enough to know that it's just one long game of suicide. just do some extra endurance training, train the way you've been training and just do your best because that's all that you can do. best of luck to you with basketball and i hope that you make the team!!
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Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
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That sounds like a lot of WORK and responsibility for your parents. Maybe there is a good reason why your friend's parents won't allow it either. The only thing I can say is to remove as much of the burden from your parents. YOU clean the house, YOU prepare the food, YOU police your friends and make sure they follow your parents' rules and YOU clean up afterwords -- if you demonstrate to your parents that you can do all that and follow through you might have a chance.
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I would say its probably your parents. They arent going to want to move just for you.  How far do you live like 10 miles, 50 miles, 1000 miles?  Try emailing, calling, or just moving when your old enough.
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Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
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Practice!  You will get better with time.  Also try swimming slower.  Make sure you have good form so you are not wasting energy.  Breathe with your head to the side; breathe every stroke if necessary.
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Right here! Me! I can't swim either! I only began to learn to siwm in grade 10 Gym class and that's history. By the way... it's not weird AT ALL!!