A friend of mine asked me to marry him. We both want the same thing when it comes to family. Should we hitch?
110843
I don't think there's any rush. While he goes to Iraq, wait for him, and see if your feelings change for him. If you still love him when he comes back, even though your love has been tested by the separation, you are one lucky person. Don't feel that you have to get married immediatly. Wait until you're atleast 20, and then get married. Don't you want to stand on your own two feet for a while before settling down? Either way, good luck.
709258
please its just a ring, i would much rather have a happy marriage, than a bad marriage and a big ring, get whatever you can afford and do it.....\nps whats the point of being engaged if u do not want to be married?
121904
you have to kind of like the person who you want to marry.\nI think your family's point of view is as important as yours. and even if you do not love that person, make sure that you do nto hate him.\n\nIf he is nice caring and faithful you will fall in love later on in your life.\n\nAll the Best
910178
Whoa Nelly! I'm confused. So he's related to you?\nWell I heard thats a bad thing but hey if you guys love each other not like family or friend love then.... yeah . Whatever you want. But if you guys have children there could be problems there huh? And it's illigal right? Uh, be careful.
474655
If you have to ask, then no.  Why haven't y'all married before now?  Do you love him?  Do you want to marry him?  Be honest with yourself and you'll know the right answer for you....
774035
H.  I don't know why you have to ask what you should do.  To marry because you don't want to hurt family, or to save yourself from embarrassment is ludicrous.  No one should enter into marriage unless they love their fiance and plan to stay with them til death do they part. It is really not fair to your fiance to begin this union feeling the way you do, and have you even considered what kind of life would any children have if you did not love their mother.  There really is nothing to contemplate.  You should break off the engagement, stop the wedding and go on with your life.  Marry only when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the chosen one. Good Luck!
288868
hi\nwell it depends on that what kind of relation betwin 3 of u\nand it especialy depends on u that yuo decide to marry to him or only a simple frindship.in case 1 u should let him to decide to choise .becouse life and future cannot extend with force and obligation. there shoud be love.
231749
Why not???  Do what you want to do.  Forget wedding ettiquette.  I think it's wonderful that your family wants to do something for him as well.  I'm sure he will appreciate it...the only problem might be the finances.  Anyone who went to the first one may not be able to go to the second one because they can't afford it.  That is really the only thing to consider I think.
370181
No, because you would spend a miserable life. Marry someone who is kind, generous, loving and shares your values. Marry someone who makes your needs as important as his own. Do the same for him. Then you will be happy.
322445
I agree with Steven, Marry the one you love. Especially when she is soft, and cute, and funny, and talanted, and introduced you to Pete and Pete, and loves you unconditionally, and likes everything you like, even David Lynch, and loves your baby, and doesn't even mind yo baby mama. You should marry that person, if you ever find them...
931112
Hard question...Usually I would say that this is a line I wouldn't cross. However,  if this guy/girl is your soul mate and you absolutely love each other to the point of marriage, I think you should discuss it with your friend because the relationship with that guy/girl would then be the most important not your friend's.
594989
I've done it before.  Again, it was a distant relation through marriage.\n\nTo me it depends a little on how close your family is.  If it is going to cause some odd family dynamics, you may not want to let the relationship create any problems in the family.  But if you do not have a close family and you don't think it will be a big issue, go for it.
1052249
Hey tleigh...well after what i just read, it seems to me that the 2 of you are happy with the way things are now.  If this is the case then why ruin a good thing.  I believe the only time 2 people should get married is if they are both really committed to the whole marriage thing.  But, if you still have to stop and ask yourself if this is a good thing then most likely its not gonna be. But, like I said earlier,  you 2 seem to be doing just fine the way things are.  You know how the old phrase goes..."Don't fix it , if it ain't broke"  As of right now, it doesnt seem as if anything is broke in this relationship....Good luck with everything, tleigh...
705601
If you're going to be married, you better learn to compromise now.  In the end, is it really that big of deal?  If it means that much to him to have a ceremony, it would be nice to accommodate him and make him happy.
995449
If you are Christian yes. But only if you love her , have been knowing her for at least a year or two and are compatible on the important things in life. Sometimes ppl think opposites attract, that relation does not last, because eventually opposites end up hating each other. \nHowever If you really wanted to get married you would not be asking here.\nTHINK OF IT MORE BEFORE YOU PROPOSE
832374
I agree ..come on u need to know the guy u r getting married to ..call it off if u have a problem..may not be as easy as it sounds but yes u can do what u want.
317864
I would say depends on how long you know each other. I would not use marriage just to show that you are together. You might consider just living together for a while/years and if the mood strikes you and both really WANT to get married then do so. It should be your choice, not the choice of people around you. Good luck!