I like this guy but he's black and my parents are against me dating blacks but i love him what should i do???
117821
Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
897187
first of all i am black and we do do stuff society all black men are not the same so don't let that non sense get in your head. second of all if you really loved this guy you should stay with him and if your family doesn't like it o well. third if he is nice as you say don't break up
976378
I think love is love, in any way, shape, or form.\n\nI really don't care about ethnicity as a deciding factor of who to love! If someone behaves in a certain way that fits a generalization of that ethnicity, then that's their behavior. If you love him, then no matter his background you should at least see how things go.  Try things out for a little while, and show your family you really are attracted to him; they'll back off.
490645
date an other mixed boy!!!
364156
Please don't mis-interpret this answer, I am not being a homophobe or anything!! To be honest, I think from your boyfriends parents point of view, your sexuality will over-ride any issues of race. For example, if they are fairly close minded and prejudiced, then they won't accept you on the grounds that you are gay, your race won't come into it. Similarly, if they do welcome you, this means that are open-minded people who won't have an issue with your race since they didn't have a problem with your sexuality. So in short, no I dont think it is harder for non-caucasions, but I imagine it is equally hard for all gay men
488084
Girl heck no... My dad is white and my mom is black... I dated a white guy for 2 years... You go wit yo bad self!!!
835191
Why does it matter that he was very sweet and respectful in regards to his race?  are you more suprised at the fact that you have a good man or a good black man?  Race shouldn't even be in the cards.  Personally, I could care less if he's black, white, green, or purple.....as long as he treats u right, get yours.
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I don't think you need to see it as a problem. I think you are open minded like I am. Society always tells you to limit yourself to your own race, but you refuse to folow your own preference.\nWell I am a black guy, foregin black guy, and my parents are actually open when it comes race. For them we all bleed red.\nBut again the society I lived in doesn't even accept dating/marriage within diferent ethnic groups. Being from Africa, there are around 84 ethnic groups in my country alone. \nAnd society doesn't accpet it with open hand the marriage of ethic group A to ethnic group B, and mind you we all look alike, dark brown, light brown or black. yet just because you speak additional languages you are considered unfit to date other ethnic groups...Let alone a white or a major different racial group.\nBut guess what I am interested in white girls. well I had my conflict within me as to I had to remain within my country girls.\nWell I came here and all I see are the wonderful white americans, why settle for something else I really am not interested deep inside. I mean it is not about race or anything, I just find myslef attracted to certain types of white girls.\nAnd let me tell you this I have never followed the norm of society.\nSo girl go for your choice, don't feel like you have to date what society expect you to date. After all it is your own love life....right?
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Do you love him?  If you do, you shouldn't have a problem saying it back unless you're harbouring intimacy issues.  If you don't love him, you need to tell him that.  He deserves to be loved, or at the very least he deserves the truth!\n\nIf you do love him, perhaps you need to look within and discover why it is you have trouble expressing your feelings.  Has somebody hurt you?  What was your parents' relationship like?
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You are much better off without him. Maybe he was nice to you but if he was constantly disrespecting others of your race then that is just hurtful and wrong. And who knows how long it would have taken him to start treating you badly? (And by the way, I am a firm supporter of interracial relationships, so I'm not implying you shouldn't go out with a white guy again.) Hang in there and you'll find a guy who deserves you!\n\n"he cant be to racist if hes into black women"\nWow, that's an ignorant comment. I know this is not a pleasant thing to bring up, but slave masters used to often rape their female slaves. Does that mean they weren't racist? You can think someone is attractive but still feel they're inferior to you.
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
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Wake up sir and please for once be more realistic! \n\nLove has nothing to do with caste! If you love her with your whole heart and you know that she'll be the only one that can make you happy, then go for it despite your parental objection.\n\nSometimes in life we have to make our decision. Our parents wants the best for us but IT IS ONLY US THAT KNOWS WHAT WE TRULY WANT AND WHICH BEST IS RIGHT FOR US!
402195
you both are in love so dont care what ever you are black or italian.love doesnt see  anything. just be strong and tell your mom , i am sure she will agree.
586518
What should matter is how you define your relationship. \n\nDo you consider her 'black' and you 'white' or is she just a girl that you happen to be dating? I am what you would class as 'white' and i am dating a 'black' guy.Sure, when people will sometimes look at us but does that affect our relationship? Of course not! we don't even know them. \n\nThere was even an incident when I was buying a 2nd hand fridge and my bf came with me to the dealers. I asked if they could deliver it and he said 'well thats what you black men do isn't it? none of you guys work in offices or anything...etc etc etc'. Yes, of course we were angry. Yes, my boyfriend does work in an office . No, i didn't buy the fridge. \n\nWhat I am trying to get at is that it is your perspective of the relationship that will make or break it. Will you allow society's views on race to affect you as an adult? I sure wouldn't. Don't let race spoil this world we live in.
99405
Sure,go out with him. You have to like him first. If your parents don't like him,you can't bring him home. It all depends on you. If you respect your parents (and you should) find out why they don't like him. Then work on correcting that feeling. You will do this if the guy means enough to you. If he doesn,t,then move on. Good Luck!
1165434
From personal experience, I don't think its wrong. It shouldn't matter who you love or what race they are. All that matters is that you are in a loving, caring relationship.\nBe prepared though that not everyone will feel this way and not everyone will support you. There will always be people that will have something negative to say about your choice of partner. However the world is becoming more tolerant to such issues because there are way more interracial couples and babies out there nowadays.\nWhen my parents first got married, my grandfather asked them "what are you going to do with the children?"...my mom is black and my father white...and my mother replied very smartly ..."name them".\nMy grandfather didn't even want to be seen in public at a restaurant with my mother back then but now he's gotten used to the idea of my sister and I and now loves to take us girls shopping and spoil us rotten.\nI like being mixed. I think I have the best of both worlds. I don't consider myself black and I don't consider myself white. I am mixed race. I am equally black and equally white. I wouldn't choose one or the other if I had the chance.
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Stop going out with him.  Your parents love you and want to protect you from harm. It's obvious that you know what you are doing is wrong and it's tearing you up inside.  Do the right thing.  Respect your parents if you ever expect them to respect you.  If you want them to trust you in the future, then be trustworthy.