what To do about husband that won't  pay?
111379
If he is not willing to help pay, tell him to get out of YOUR house. Go see a lawyer and see what you can do to get the house in your name only. Obviously you are able to pay on your own because you have done it for 5 years.
496914
Gather up all your documents and documentary evidence and get yourself a lawyer.  The first thing you do is give him a formal bill and demand payment.  If he doesn't pay then you have to prove that he agreed and you did the work, as best as you can.  Good luck.  Laws are similar from state to state.
171382
If he is otherwise a good husband but just has problems with money, you can still fix this.  I would advise you to seek marriage counseling.  In the meantime, take control of all of the bills.  Contact a debt consolidator to help you pay off your bills quicker.  He may feel inadequite but help him to understand that some people just are not good with money.  \nI am in the same situation but I stopped it before it got out of hand.  My husband literally gets an allowance every week and when it's gone, it's gone.  I have taken over the bills and they are now getting paid on time.  We got both of our credit reports to see what all we needed to pay off and little by little it is disappearing.  \nIt took awhile to get in the hole that you are in so it will take ahwile to get out.  \nDefinately seek counseling to try to work things out.  Money shouldn't be the reason for divorce.
468813
No, he still has to pay alimony.  If he "gives" you the business flat out, it's yours... however, if there's settlement, it's more likely that he'll be looking for half.
343543
confront him, tell him "look, why am I always paying", and if he acts up then dump him.
129294
the guy! honey, if the guy can't pay and have manners then he is not worth your time!
1141300
pay his fine and do his time.serouisly you need to et him take care of this himself.You wont always be around to bale him out of him mistakes.He has to learn to stand on his own two feet.
747194
Help him, but not with money.  You can do some research and find debt counselors, even help him find a lower interest way to borrow money to pay his debt off.  But don't give him money.  Too many things can go wrong, and it's not worth ruining the relationship over.
176417
Go to their homes and/or invite them when he's not there.  You really need to discuss the issue with him if it's that important (yeah i know, easier said than done).  Maybe marriage counseling, if this marriage is worth it.  If not...
510463
wow...your father will not work out an arrangement? \n\nare you spending money frivously on other things the reason you can't pay him?\n\ntry to talk to him, \nget on a budget, \nmake paying him your top priority.
224669
You can look for his phone or ask the government's help to find your husband's phone number, you can call him to come back and if he says no, you can tell him that you see him in the court. You can find a lawyer, tell him/her your problem and later on the court, you just have to tell the story again. Or another quicker way is that you can seek government's help. If you really can't reach him, the only thing that you can do is to really sit and wait for him.
969605
The only thing she is entitled to is money for his daughter, your house and other things have nothing to do with her.  Is he paying her through the CSA?  If it is just a causual arrangement then she could ask for more money if it hasn't been properly set out.  But remember if the CSA get involved I'm sure your husband to be will be made to pay at lot more so try to keep it as amicable as possible with his ex as you really don't want the CSA involved.
861384
restaing order and she needs to think about getting a lawyer and a new court case to have him pay chidl support. but if he is only paying 13 bucks a month its not worth the trouble.  and besides if he doesnt pay child support he can't see the child. (at least thats the law in oklahoma) so restaing order and move on with life.
639158
ok my mom and dad are divorced and it all depends on how many children there are if he won't pay you up front you could always get it taken out of his pay check or take his as* to court untill he gets so sick of it......and make sure you get joint-custidy(something like that I can't spell very well) ok
353744
I'm of the opinion that you can't "get" anyone to do anything.  They have to decide they *want* to do it.  You need to have a serious talk with him if his lack of employment is starting to jeopardize your financial future and try to come up with a solution together (as a team). Starting off conversations that are as sensitive as money are hard and need to be done when both people are calm and make sure no guilt or blame or agression is used.  This is a situation that you are both in so it's something you can work on together.  If he's not willing to communicate with you, then I would suggest professional counceling.  These are the types of situations that can tear a marriage apart.  Good luck.
908488
If support has already been established and he IS NOT paying, file a Motion for Rule to Show Cause Why (insert his name) Should Not Be Held in Contempt of Court for Failure to Abide by the Court's Order of (insert date).  Notice it up before a judge.  Most judges will demand payment within a specified time frame.  Non-compliance can result in loss of driving priviledges and/or incarceration.  Again, if you can't afford an attorney, speak with the Clerk of the Court.  This is something you can do without an attorney.
474697
I wouldn't want to get involved either.  If they live beyond their means, then any money they lend you will be spent the same way.  Any help you offer should not be monetary, but maybe a helping hand some other way.  Don't let your husband be manipulated into helping them when it when nothing will be resolved.