I think I am in love with a married man - I am no longer engaged because that is what he wanted.?
99245
From the very core of my being....\n\nRUN LIKE THE DEVIL HIMSELF IS CHASING YOU DOWN. Cut ALL communication, don't fall prey to that "but it's the strongest pull I've ever experienced, it's different with us" bu11shit !\n\nBottom line is this, he has problems, not at home, but within himself, and is looking for something to distract him from his feelings of worthless-ness... \n\nBelieve me.... There is NO WHERE stable and good you will find with this guy...\n\nYou've been warned, to the best of my ability... \nGood luck !
185908
nope! love is...love! i can't explain. my hubby and i got married after 2 months of knowing eachother, and we're now going on 5 years of marriage! if it's true love (and the feeling is mutual), i suppose it makes sense, right? ^_^ but, really, it's all up to how you (and him)feel about it... good luck!
243763
You have a right to be confused- and so does he. First off- how long has he been separated? If it hasn't been long, you may want to back off a bit, just in case things don't work according to plan. Think about it: they did get married for a reason- who's to say they won't reconcile?\nSecondly, since you can't really control who you fall in love with, if he represents this much of a threat to your security, you probably ought not stay involved with him.\nBut, I do hope it works out for you- everything for a reason!
376044
I hope that you are very careful with what you are doing with this guy.  Remember that you are married and you may lack a certain thing in your marriage which will be better work out with your husband.  I understand that it is kind of nice to have someone interested in your despite you are married but why are you dragging him on?  Will you be happy to divorce your husband because this guy sweet talk to you?  Are you sure that you will have a better future with this man than your current husband.  I suggest that you spend more time with your husband and rediscover him then talking to this guy, unless you have no hope in your marriage!  Good Luck!
1093725
You need to realize that your not really falling in love with him but that you still have a crush on him and that your feelings are based upon the past and not on your current life.  He may be a wonderful guy but the reality of it is you really have no idea if you two could ever really be together and be happy together like you and your husband are.  The best way to deal with this is just to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to have the life you do and stop focusing on what you can't/ don't have.
109344
It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
558373
Get out now.  The longer you drag it on the worse it will be.  No job is worth giving up your happieness either.  You do not want to be in a marriage when you don't love someone.  Trust me I know.  I'm married with two kids and not in love with my husband anymore.  If I'd have known what I know now....
274796
You were married, there for it isn't odd that you would still have some fond feelings and good memories.  However I don't think you are in love with him.  I think you are probably just going through some bad stuff in your life and your latching on to some good memories and making more of them that what you should.  Remember, this same guy cheated and lied to you and nothing has changed.  You still deserve better in your life.
907601
yes, I would be anyway.\n\nworst case, its very very flattering. Might only happen every decade or so for some guys, if that. \n\nif he and you want each other then maybe more, find out I think.\n\nHappily married or not? It matters I think.
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
162794
Are you really in love with him or the fact that you can talk to him?  Remember, what exists online is a unique enviroment where we all feel protected to some degree.  In the real world the level of comunication between you and this other person will probably not be the same.  Plus there is so much more to being in love with someone and having a relationship.  If your married still then do you really want to risk what you have for something that may not exists?  If your not married, then go slow and get to know this person gradually outside of just chatting because its not just your life but your kids life that you have to be concerned about.
1173061
he will go back to the same old stuff once you agree to stay, unless you resolve the underlying problem and if the problem is a behavior thing of his you arent going to change it. sounds like you are done and when that happens there is no going back. look if the guy really cared about the marriage he would've changed things when you said you were unhappy instead of waiting until you said i'm leaving. do you really want to spend your life with your bags packed because thats the only thing that gets through to him? yes you said better or worse, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. only you can decide that, to me it sounds as if you already have. if you've already given him 100 chances to step up to the plate he obviously isn't going to and 100 more won't be enough either. good luck to you, things will work out!
757209
He probably just came to terms that you two will never be.  You are married, he is married...why continue and put other people's feelings at risk?
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
367004
my fiance' was married when i met him at work.his wife and him had been having issues with her cheating and she did not want kids and he did.he told me about 2 weeks after we met that he did not love his wife anymore.i never thought about getting involved with him until right before he seperated from his wife(a month and 1/2 after we met)he told me he loved me.i felt the same for him but i did not want to get in the middle of his marriage.he convinced me to be with him and i'm glad i did,he is the love of my life and says i am his
361335
i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
1088462
Being in this situation is not fair to either of you.  You need to search your heart and figure out what you want.  Then find an appropriate time to sit down with him and honestly share your feelings and concerns.\nI was in a similar situation and getting out of it was the best for both of us.\nIf you need to talk I am nephthys_tombguardian on YIM or email me @ SusanASarandon@hotmail.com\n\nPridefully Loving Women,\nAmanda