How can I stop being so SHY around my own boyfriend?
111875
well it would help if you figured out why you are shy around him and than work on that. So if you are shy because for example you are scared what he might think of you than think well if he didnt want to be with you he wouldn't be so there isnt anything to worry. You are who you are and thats the way you find the one for you is by being true to yourself. Also let ssay you want to say something to him.. dont stay thinking about how you should say it or if you should as soon as it comes to mind say it so  you dont hae time to wonder if you should or should and your nerves would be there to torture you because you did it quick and got it out of the way.
1067983
i honestly do not think that you can. just cause you are so nerves around him. you make sure that each and everything that you do when he is near is done correctly. my ? is dose he know that you like him? if not that's a reason way you get that way you do. what i suggest you to do is when you are w/ him act like you are not into him. it might help a lil w/ the shyness. act like you have known him for sometime. get close but let him show you something befor you open up.
662241
u need to talk things over. communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. You both need to listen to each other's opinions and thoughts. Why not try spendin time alone w/ yourself first.Collect your thoughts and asses yourself.Try to see things in an optimistic way.Do not let insecurities overcome you.I'm sure he likes you.Sometimes,there are just things that don't go the way we want them to.
343467
find another boyfriend who doesnt put you under such pressure!
996417
You need to stop what you are doing and be honest with yourself. Ask yourself what YOU want. What are you looking for in a relationship? Does he fit into your world? Too many women try and fit into the partners world. It is about you and nobody else. If you read what you have written and actually take it in, it comes across as negative. Are you afraid of being on your own? Are you in your comfort zone? Remember, doubt means no. Maybe you are "just not that into him". Only you know how you really feel, you cannot lie to yourself but you can be in denial. Maybe you are insecure?? Spend some time on your own to reflect. It maybe a good idea to spend a few days away and get honest with yourself one way or another. Only you can make the choice. Follow your instincts. Opportunities open up to you once your mind is clear. Stop procrastinating. I wish you well. \ngood luck.
692959
I think the same way about myself, and I'm shy too. Just go up to him and make friends. If thats too hard, at least try to talk to him sometimes. If all of that is too hard ask yourself if you really want to be with him, that will get you going.
1013736
I assume you've started dating recently, because I only texted my bf back when we were starting out. It wasn't coz I didnt like him, but it's just the way I do things. Some people need more time to get used to others and are too shy to begin a convo with their partner. Maybe he's like that too. Just give him time. If you've been together for a long time and you feel he has changed you need to confront him.
885125
You may be intelligent and you may be in college, but you're acting very immature.\n\nDid you consider when you met his co-worker at the front desk that (1) she may not have known who you were (2) snapping at her to go get your boyfriend was a tacky thing to do (3) she may have a hot boyfriend and not be interested in your bf  and (4) your boyfriend may have cared only for you, but after your behavior in the place he works, I wouldn't be surprised if he's questionning his choice of girlfriends.\n\nThe first thing you need to understand is that jealousy is a blinking red light telling everyone you are major insecure. And the second point is that you are absolutely, 100%, powerless over your boyfriend, his co-worker, and every other human being in the world. \n\nOnce you accept those two things, you can start changing how you behave because, if you don't, you'll be single again.  And, even worse, you'll never have a healthy relationship with any guy.\n\nYou can share your feelings with your boyfriend, but in a calm discussion when it's the right time.  Your fear of loss is creating, by being jealous, the loss you fear most.  He may not have told you much about his co-worker if he's experienced your jealousy before.\n\nAnd, let's say it's worst case, and your boyfriend choses to be unfaithful to you, you cannot...cannot...do anything about it.  \n\nWhat you CAN do is make a choice not to be part of a relationship if your boyfriend  isn't committed.  Stuff happens, our hearts are broken, they heal, we meet someone new, almost always someone way better for us than our lost love.  And maybe that is the plan.\n\nNothing is going to be right for you, no relationship is going to give you what you need.  Only you can give yourself that.  Work on you.  You may still get your heart broken, but that's on the other partner.  You'll move on.  You'll always be powerless over people, places and things and the sooner you accept that in your heart, and stop trying to CONTROL, the happier, confident and secure in love you'll be.\n\nI hope you listen to my suggestions.  I'm a control freak who finally got that I'm wasting my time, hurting myself and others I love, and driving those I love away.  I learned to remind myself, when I felt the old evil eye of jealousy pop up that I'm powerless, that things will be as they are supposed to be, and start taking care of myself so I always have me to rely on.\n\nGood luck.
214006
Shyness is just the insecurity of ones self. Be confident and sure about yourself. If you aren't no one else will be either. Learn to trust yourself as well as love yourself. You be fine. GOD BLESS
788813
Give some subtle hints, create a pre-existing "boyfriend" if necessary. If unsuccessful, just tell him you don't think you are well suited. It will save you both some time.
242065
It sounds like you might be afraid of losing out altogether.  Probably both boys have some appeal to you, but probably neither one is everything you are looking for.  Perhaps if you step back and really look at yourself and look at yourself in relation to your boyfriend(s), you would find that you are afraid of being alone.\n\nDate whomever makes you feel happy, but don't be too involved yet because you aren't emotionally ready.  Spend some time doing things with other friends and get to know yourself better.  Even spend time by yourself doing things you like.  The better you know yourself, the better you will understand yourself in relation to others.
261724
While many people do experience a certain level of shyness around someone they feel deeply about, there comes a time when it has to be overcome. I do not question the feelings either of you have for each other, but he needs to begin expressing them to you directly. While using your daughter as a conduit may have been 'cute' in the beginning, it may begin to wear on her emotions and tarnish how she feels about him in your life. Communication, direct communication, has to come before commitment otherwise one of you will always feel less than fulfilled in that relationship. \n\nSpeak to him directly about it. Fully express how it makes you feel and allow him the chance to understand how his actions affect you. Everything worthwhile takes time, patience and work. Speaking to him about the potential issue will allow that work to begin.
140667
Just take a few deep breaths and realize he is probably just as nervous as you are.  He is just another person, no one to really be afraid of.  And remember, if you say somehting wrong/silly around him, he will probably just chuckle and forget about it and that's all you can do too
281614
sure!  go for it... if he is as shy as you, the two of you will never talk!
349084
dont force him just talk to him alittle more and soon you will over come your shyness!!!!you are probaly a wonderful girl,so if he dosent feel the same way u will find someone new!!!
274463
What does your boyfriend do to make you so scared of seeing him?  I mean, if you love him and trust him, like you should do in a relationship, you wouldn't be scared.  If you are talking nervous scared, that's natural....just don't be afraid to go around him.  The more time you spend with him, the more comfortable you will get with him....if he loves you back, it won't matter if you say something crazy or do something that might embarrass you....just give him a chance and things will work out fine.
723843
Go out for a date with your boyfriend (i.e. to a restuarant) and start talking. Then when it feels right, just relax and don't be nervous! It's best to kiss when you are walking away from the restuarant to you car, or walking home. Don't do it at the end of the evening as you will just get nervous building up to it and it can get awkward....\n\nIf he likes you, then of course he won't reject your advances! If there is chemistry between you, then when you lean in to kiss him, he won't refuse....\n\nHope this helps!\n\nxx