If you DIDNT ENJOY your first sexual encounter with someone-would you see them again ?  Peaceout !!!?
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What in the hell gave you the impression that I didn't enjoy it????
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I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
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Have you tried sex???!!!
609589
Answering strictly from my own experience, I did this twice years ago. One was incredible and the other one was not good at all. The incredible one knew there was nothing left between us and so did I. We just hooked up by chance one evening and it was wild! The other one as I found out afterwards was trying to use sex to get me back!\nInteresting question!
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i don't believe you would still be a virgin, but that should not mean it is any less special when you chose someone to share your first consensual experience with. you are still pure and being victimized does not take that away. you define yourself any way you wish and make sure any potential partner respects that.
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Yes, yes it could affect your sexual performance.\n\nThe fact that you brought it up means that you may be thinking about it, and once you get into the actual event, this could be clinging to you throughout so that you aren't paying attention to the pure pleasure you are experiencing and that you are giving.\n\nWhat will probably help is to tell the other person in advance and ask that they walk you through what they like and tell them what you like as you are going through it.\n\nThis answer of course assumes that the other person has had sexual relations.  If not, then you should still tell them and let your first time together be one of learning.\n\nHope that this helped.\n\nBuddhadan
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No I didnt have a last fling. I dont regret it at all. I have something even better. AN amazing husband.
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Believe me I think plenty of us have done this at one time or another.. It is nice to have somebody there to get intimate with.. And it is not awkward because you have been with him before.. Is it a good idea? No, it is time to move on and find somebody else to build a relationship with...
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I'm great friends with my first girlfriend.  My wife was a little bit intimidated by her when they first met (and I deliberately kept a distance because of that) but now they get along great, and I can call her, go see her, etc., without causing any problems.\n\nOf course, if our relationship had been sexual, that might have made a difference in my wife being able to trust me with her.
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Wow, if someone actually waited til their thirties now a days, I'd respect them imensely. I honestly don't know if it'd be better or worse. "Down there" would still be a treat because you'd be thirty and still tight. And I don't think it really matters how old you are, your first time is always a thrill. :-)
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my first time hurt, but i was real tense..lol...\nbut after that it didnt hurt anymore!
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I would forgive but i would be weary of it happening again, the trouble is that when something like this happens the trust is broken, and unfortunately trust is the hardest thing to get back once you have lost it.\nIf i was in love with this person than i would like to think that i would forgive and forget but i would only be able to do  it once, If it happened again than i would have to say no way. If i had gained the trust level back and it happened again i know i could not trust for the third time.
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All I can do is tell you about my first time. I was totally in love, but the guy wasn't. It was nuthin' nice. In fact it was, on the whole, a totally awful experience. When I realized he didn't really care about me, I was devastated. I had thrown away the most precious gift I had to give a man on a jerk who just wanted to say he'd had a virgin. Don't be in a rush, sweetheart. I'm not saying you have to wait for marriage, just make the first time with someone really special. Make GOOD memories! I love you.
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Sounds like you are feeling really rather insecure about yourself.  It's not a crime to have sex on a first date but the downside to it is the sort of confused feelings you seem to be going through.  The reason for this may be that it was just too early to tell whether this guy really liked you (or indeed, whether you liked him) and now you are having to wait and see.  However, the decision about whether you see each other again is half yours and half his, if you both want to see each other you will, if you don't you won't.  On one hand you are saying you don't know how you feel about having slept with this guy and on the other you are saying that you don't regret it ... so that kind of indicates that you do know how you feel!  It is important that you clarify for yourself how you feel about him.  Do you want to see him again?  If the answer is yes, you can either wait for him to approach you, or you can approach him first.  It is not unusual for people to jump into bed with each other very quickly, it sounds a bit like you might not be entirely comfortable with your behaviour because perhaps you think he won't like or respect you for it.  You can't know how he feels about you without approaching him in some way and initiating communication ... you won't have to ask him how he feels, that should become apparent by whether you get together again and you will be able to tell how much he likes you by how he treats you from now on in.  Speculating on the minimal information you seem to have might just drive you a bit bonkers and certainly won't get you any reliable answers.  Finally, I would say of course you can become friends with this guy, if he wants to become a friend of yours too ...
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I have found that sex on the first date means you will most likely NOT have a second date with that person. Sometimes it happens that a relationship continues after sex on that first date, but that is a very rare occurrence indeed. It's better to wait.
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YES it hurts the first time, even if your partner is "patient, sensitive, and caring". I lost my virginity after I got married, and let me tell you.. my husband was extremely caring and sensitive AND patient, but it still hurt. It didn't just hurt, it hurt like hell! On the other hand, I enjoyed it without any guilt whatsoever... because I was married and because I was doing it with the one I love, the love of my life :oD
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doesnt that happen after youve seen them naked?