can a man u have spend 4year with later marry you.please help me becuae am getting worried,men are coming 4 me
113151
Are they in white coats? Damn, I didn't know you could get people commited for bad spelling and grammar. Why didn't anyone tell me?!
447741
I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
386919
I heard the same thing when I was dating my husband. \n\nI was 20 and he was 23 when we got married. People at our wedding said it would never last.\n\nWe've been married for 9 years this June. \n\nGood luck with him. Always communicate. Don't restrict each other (except when it is something that could threaten the relationship). Have hobbies together and apart.
1157527
You can push... but pushing for "the ring you want" might push him away.  Not only are you pressuring him for marriage, but you're also pressuring him for an expensive ring.  Unless he sh*ts money, thats a huge issue.  I understand people might grow up with a dream wedding or dream ring or even dream of by what age they would get married (ie: a life plan... married by 22, kids by 24...etc) ...but if you really truly love this man and feel he is for you... than you should understand sometimes, those visions we had before have to be adjusted/sacraficed a little bit to fit with HIS visions.  There are two people in this relationship.  What if he didn't imagine getting married by his age? And you'll find out in the end the $20,000 Tiffany's ring or getting married by age 24 or having a boy first, than a girl... doesn't really matter.  It won't make the marriage perfect/last which is what matters most right?  And if getting "the ring you want" is simply THAT important, understand you might have to wait for him to put some money together, but express your feelings so that you aren't disappointed and will hold it against him.  Men are not psychic believe it or not :-)
507489
hell first i am a guy.....i am a newlywed of 1 year...when my wife had told me she wanted marriage it was great news to me..i acted like i knew nothing of it..meaning i knew she wanted marriage..we talked about it..this was so exiting for me..if you know for sure he is wanting to marry you...then wait..don't approach him again..why? well alot of guys are the same i knew she wanted marriage so i thought about the perfect way to ask her..i thought about all the good things that i wanted as well..i think to sum this up...he wants to think of the perfect wedding..he wants this to be the most beautiful day for the both of you..he will come around give it time...please take this advise from a man who has went through the same exact thing
645218
take your time, Love will reveal it's self.\ndoes he call you, or do you do everything in the relationship. test him, see if he really cares. don't bug him about it or give him a big list of what you are looking for, just let him be and see what kind of guy he is. you can't change people so find out if he is really suitable for you through experience in time. you are probably young enough that it isn't crucial that you get married right now. take your time if you can....it reveals many things!
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
580804
You need to consider your engagement. Maybe you are not quite ready to settle down with your fiance'. If you are questioning what you should do, my suggestion is that you should not get married just yet. You are obviously not ready to tie the knot. A lot easier to deal with before you get married than after. You need to do a lot of soul searching. Don't make a mistake that you will regret.
390804
Take your time. There is no hurry to get married. If he isn't ready what good will that do you?  I can understand him wanting a job before he marries you. It makes him a good man not wanting to live off you. Slow down and enjoy your time with him right now, it will all work out okay........
933365
yeah there are guys that are and they get married and they stay married. Take me for instance I have a fiancee as well and she 22 and I am 24, we are goin to get married in March of next year.\n\nAnywayz to get back to the subject, yeah there are many young couples that get married young and stay married. Do not worry about the other women, if he truly wants to be with you and loves you more than anything he would not pay attention to all the other women.\n\nOther than that I wish you all the luck and blessings in the world. Congrats on the engagement
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
291528
You should talk to him about it. Ask if he sees himself marrying you in the future. Time doesn't matter always. I've been with my boyfriend for almost six years and we're in school and life is happening so we're waiting. Besides, the longer you date the more you learn about each other before you get married!
337275
Well you have to talk to him and find out why he is not ready to get married. If he gives you some bogus reason then maybe you should look to move on. When you first met him and you talked about futures did he even mention marriage if not, or if he was opposed to it back then, then you are in a situation that you already knew you would be in. if not, then you really need to find out why he is not ready!
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
178410
hello it might be but that should let you be careful and not make mistakes .talking of messfeeling what kind how well do you know him does he love you and there are so many things to notice because eight months is not enough to know a man nor a woman people have different characters hidden and it only comes out when officialy married or traped by pregnancy so be careful and ask god about him and not make mistakes read this for your life and sustainance psalm 69,79,71 and dectronomy 28 and your life will not be the same i have once be a victim and would not allow any friend be a victim of love which might end your life follow your heart and not the mind love you and god bless you
907890
that's an absolute possibility. i've been in a meaningless crappy relationship that lasted 4 months and I have issues trusting guys with my heart. it's hard. i dream of marriage. but fear is gonna hold me back. also it's really easy to get lost in a dreamed up future....but when reality hits ya it can leave you a bit confussed and get you wondering "is this what i really want?"\n\n~hope I could help, and good luck!
975394
He knows, you know, you both know that is going to happen. You just have to be patient and wait. He knows that you are the one for him and if you have already discussed marriage and children, then it's a clear indication that it's going to happen soon.\n\nMen that don't commit won't even mention the "m" word and will back off at the minimum indication of getting too close or too serious. He is not scared about discussing marriage with you because you are the one for him. \n\nDon't set deadlines or ultimatums or conditions for it to happen, they are NOT necesary. Accorduing to what you wrote, he is planning on doing it so don't spoil his plans by becoming frustrated and impatient.\n\nMost couples get engaged by their second anniversary, besides, Christmas, New years and Valentine's day are around the corner too, you might be in for a surprise.\n\nMy advice to you is to wait until your second anniversary before becoming anxious. It's not necesary for you to feel this way, you have the perfect man, ther perfect relationship, so don;t ruin it by becoming irritated. \n\nHe will ask you and there is no question about it, wait a little bit more... proposals are way more romantic when they are a surprise and men really love plan something special and having the perfect ring ... let him give you what you deserve ...let him surprise you and enjoy the relationship. \n\nHe is THE ONE sweetie... be patient.\n\nCongratulations and good luck!