why would a guy go outside his marriage and sleep w/ his ex? his wife does everthing i do what is the differnc
110349
sounds like hes not over her or he likes the way his x does things better.. it could be a more familer thing to him.. or could be hes just a butt...
247279
Well, there are a couple of reasons I can think of. First, maybe he doesn't feel his wife is treating him well (emotionally or sexually) and what better way to improve the way she treats him that to invoke that monster of jealousy...that usually makes women go overboard with sex and niceties in order to keep her man from straying. The second reason may be that he simply wants to be honest with her...doesn't want her to find out from someone else.
340825
What makes you think you are the only one he is screwing around with?  He is a cheater!!  Even if he did leave his wife, chances are he would repeat the process with you.  Haven't you ever heard the expression "if you love someone, let them go?"  Let his ass go...you can do it. He obviously doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. But we both know this isn't what you want to hear. You are looking for ways to make him leave her...and if anyone on here has a conscience, they won't even offer that up. This isn't love, it is an obsession.
970482
When i first met my husband he was still married to his ex wife.. They had been seperated for about 4 months... I loved him, and he filed for divorce, got custody of the child that they had together, she turned to drugs and got placed in a mental institution... So everything worked out great... We sense then had a child which i now 1yrs old... There is nothing wrong with dating a man that is married as long as he is trying 100% to divorce his wife asap...  And there no longer in contact or sleeping together of etc..
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
710786
Could be he's insecure since you loved someone else so much  that you married him, and maybe he's worried that you'll always have some lingering feelings for the ex...  especially if your ex lives in town, or if you have children (if you get serious, at some point he will have to "deal" with your ex...)    Or if the guy is looking for the "righteous" type, it may bother him that you made vows once to somebody else, and for whatever reason, those vows are no longer being honored.   Every guy I've seriously dated since my divorce has at some point been insecure about my ex, who is my son's father and lives in town. Those are just some possible reasons.  Good luck to you and remember you can't depend on anyone else to make you happy!
942089
He's using his kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage with his wife.\nIf he's been married for 3 years, despite the fact that he's not living with her, and the marriage is THAT bad, he would have gotten a divorce by now if he really feels strongly enough for you.\nI'd say, leave the guy.  He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now and if you try and get involved, you'll only get hurt.
891597
Agree with the people above.  Sounds an awful lot to me like a married (or seriously involved) man who is stringing you along for sex on the side.  I know it is painful, but you need to cancel this trip, get over him, and move on.  Time for a clean break.
363859
And he hasn't left his wife? well it doesn't  look like he feels the same even if he says he does he is just saying that b/c his heart is still with her, there are billions of men out there, why one that is married. You should end it, have more respect for yourself that you are implying that you have, you are portaying yourself to be a homewrecker.
380270
You shouldn't have slept with a married man! You deserve whatever you get! And your husband obviously deserves WAAAAy more than somebody like you!
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
202267
They say there are two types of women - one you marry the other you sleep with.  Keep them both, just don't let them meet.  You have one to be the lady in public and the other to be the tiger in bed.  The best of both worlds.  (unless you want to marry the other, then you need to divorce the first, which is common sense)
214941
He probably is paranoid and wants to make sure there is no gas in the car when he gets home so his wife can't run away in the middle of the night. Or maybe you don't leave enough gas in your car for him to fill the can up all the way.
757209
He probably just came to terms that you two will never be.  You are married, he is married...why continue and put other people's feelings at risk?
587605
Whatever.... I have NO respect for a man that commits adultery. Maybe he didn't rape her and like YOU said we were not there, but the truth is he DID have SEX with her and that was wrong. Why is it that because he's such a fantastic basketball player seem to make it all right to do and behave that way. Heck Magic Johnson was the same way. Personally I don't care, what he does does not affect my sleep in the least. Now him on the other hand I bet he struggles just a little bit, not much I'm sure because he thinks he's so above it all, but Oh well I don't have to live with him. And I'm glad about that.
217765
Why are you help your ex wife???