after a break up, do you think its a good idea to be by yourself for a while?
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Yes, you should take some time, even if you don't think you need it, to reevaluate yourself, your feelings about the world and relationships.  If anything, just to make sure you will be okay, and not have a bad after effect later than expected.  You know, to make sure you still know you.  Relationships change people, even if they don't see it, so it is best to just relax, take a break, and make sure you are totally comfortable to go back into dating before you try again.  If you are not sure, just wait, it is likely you are feeling some subconcious doubt, and that will hurt your chances of a good experience.  You will want to give a new partner what they deserve, and you have to be confident and sure to really give it your all.
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751433
When was the last time that you were not in a relationship?  When it is suggested that you need time alone it is to explore what you really want in a future relationship.  Giving yourself time gives you a chance to reflect on what went wrong with your marriage and helps prevent you from making another bad choice.  When we are extremely needy we are not as particular about jumping into another relationship even if it may not be healthy.  Giving yourself time allows you to reflect on what it is that you need to make yourself happy.  Some people feel that the only way they can achieve personal happiness is through the love of another.  You need to find self love first in order to properly love another.  When we focus on being a couple we ignore what we need to develop a healthy self image.  Given the fact you claim that you didn't love your wife you still need time to grieve the end of the relationship and recognize the sadness that you must feel at the dreams that were unfufilled and the loss of what "could have been"  Good luck and give yourself the gift of time I think you truly deserve that.  God bless.
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I don't know of anybody who didn't feel horrible after breaking up. A bond between two human beings is a valuable, special, particularly fragile link. Why not remember the good times you both had? Here's something else to keep in mind: there was probably a reason you both broke up. Was it something you needed to do? There may be a valid reason. And above all: these things take time. You can't expect to jump out of bed the next morning singing and dancing, but it's also equally unhealthy to obsess all the time your ex-boyfriend and your ended relationship. "If the problem persists, it may be necessary to seek professional help," we hear that all the time, but if the problem lasts longer than you think it should, it's probably a good idea to talk to a psychiatrist. ( A female psychiatrist would more likely have experienced what you're going through.)To occupy your time, you could go out with your friends, donate time to a charity, express your feelings through art or writing... however, and I am not trying to disrespect your feelings by any means, you seem a bit young to be dating. Enjoy life.  You'll have the rest of your life to worry about men and boyfriends. You're young, so why not not spend valuable time, instead of thinking of boys, learn to better yourself? Learn to speak German; learn Karate. You'll empower yourself and your self-esteem will rise. I personally wish you the best of luck.
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Take time for your self, in every relationship we are in we seem to lose a piece of ourselves, we need to gain that back before we have anything to offer in a new relation, find out who you are, grow from the experience. Some times I think people are afraid to be alone with them selves for awhile, it's ok to be single. I think I got your question right if not good advice any way I think.
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I think maybe you should take a break from this guy.  Sounds like you are the only one getting back together with him.  There is someone else out there for you.
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Its probably a temporary move foe modelling, right?  I would take it.  You will always wonder what if, if you don't.  Also it will be a true test of your relationship if you can survive being apart.
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Give yourself a call and spend some alone time together. I am sure she will be thrilled with the attention. Have Fun!
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The heart is a funny thing. It is only mended through time. There is no other way to make heal it, unfortunately. The one thing you CAN do however, is keep remembering WHY you are no longer together and reinforce those ideas. Now that you have a single life, you need to get out and do the things that you haven't been able to do for a while. Whatever you used to find pleasure in, but just couldn't find the time. Bowling, pool, hiking, camping, etc.. those are good distracters to help you along with the tenderness.. That's how I got over my relationship turmoil, and I hope this truly helps you in your journeys..
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i got out of a long relationship too. I think that if it was a year ago, you may be holding on. even if you're not holding on, I think that you should come to love you as a you and not as a you and him. It's a wonderful thing, being in a relationship and having soneone care about you. but all the same, it's wonderful to be single and to grow as an individual. I wish you the best of luck with what ever happens, but just as an ending thought... the greatest thing in the world is to know haw to belong to oneself. (montaigne)
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Super no! Right on with having your personal time! I myself am just learning to be independent.Its nice to know that other people are functional and happy enjoying their own company! Thank you for your question!
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it is partially what u want and partially who ur mother wants.but u cannot solely base ur opinion on ur mother's wants.i say that u shud be alone for as long as is required and think this through.what happened with me tho,is that i did this as well,i sat down in my room all alone for a while,but nothing came to me,i was still confused.but when i did realize what to do,i was in a taxi,and was not even realy thinking about it.it jus dawned on me what was best.hopefully u will discover soon as well,because u cannot simply think about ur family and freinds,u need to consider urself and the 2 guys involved.which one is better to you?which one is it u think of when u going through a tough time?or a happy time?who is it u think of before u go to bed or when u wake up?and aslo ask urself why u and ur ex broke up in the first place..because even if all ur answers indicate that he is supposedly the one for u,the reasons for ur break-up may be precisely the reasons why u shud not go back to him.
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well right now i'm single...and well i gave up in relationships already...so i prefer..to be alone..no problems..no commitments anymore...nothing to worry...just myself
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well if you don,t have a friend to go with,I would go by yourself.I enjoy having someone but  you can also have fun by yourself
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It's not a good idea but it's a great idea. I think it's important for you to get back with your ex because you have to do it for your kids and their own future. But if the two of you argued a lot then it's better to have seperate kids with you because when a couple argue and there's kids involved they will affected mentally and physically. But it's still up to you, it's your decision.
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NO, only time will heal you, however, being with someone else will keep your mind from lingering on your ex, and the should'ves and could'ves.  it is important not to linger, and to keep striding forward, because if you do not you might become slightly pathetic.
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I usually like to put the blame on myself, it makes the break up go a little easier. Just be honest though but not blunt. If you listen to your heart it will tell you what you need to do. Good luck!!