We were best friends, then we went to a dance together and things have been awkward ever since...what do I do?
107990
Friendship is just as sacred as any other relationship, and need continous work. Talk it over, forgive eachother forwhatever...and go on.
770924
Girl, go with the flow.  He probably is freaked out about it and wandering if he should or shouldn't.  When you have been friends and I mean best friends for so long it is a big step to cross that boundary because most of the time once you go all the way you never can get the same friendship back.  Give him time and it will work out if it is meant to be.  Some things just are not made to rush>  Good luck.
232437
look....if danny is ur true friend then he should understand that wot happened was a mistake and the fact that u let him beat u up was all u could do to say u were sorry.but u can go to lisa and ask her try explaining danny the whole thing..that it was a mistake,and wud never happen again..but lemme tell u 1 important stuff,dude..once u lose some1's trust,its not hard..but its impossible to get it back!!even if things cool down between both of u,hez not gonna trust u anymore,dude.im sorry to say this,but its a fact.happened even with me.hence it wud be better to slowly cast away from danny(as well as lisa).if thats not possible(e.g. if both of u r in a grp)..then try maintaining a VERY formal relation with the 2 of them.in course of time,he might realise your true worth.but therez nothing else to do than wait and watch.hope it works out for u,dude..coz i have been in similar situations and i know how awful it feels.best of luck!!
863068
Don't move on since you are great friends.  You had a chance one time, but he had a crush on another girl.  They will break up one day.  Be there to console him.  Since you've been best friends since you were 4, YOU should be his soul-mate, don't you think?  Who is this new girl?  They all disappear.  All but one.  Be the one.
1043682
It's probably not going to happen buddy.\n\nThis has made her uncomfortable, and now that she is aware of where you were at, she is being careful because she knows that doesn't fit in with her plans.\n\nYou can sit down and talk to her and see if you can still be "just friends" ... but my guess is, in practicality, the two of you will probably now go seperate ways.
1142706
If you've been best buds for a while it wouldn't be abnormal for you to call him first. Get together and discuss what happened. Could be that you both have feelings for each other but aren't sure if the friendship could withstand the pressures of dating or be lost in the event that a romantic relationship didn't work. You need to talk about what happened and see where that leads you. Good Luck.
1016219
go with what you feel is best. take a break and try the fling. the fling may end up just being a good time and may make you feel good all over again.
780194
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
476069
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
714246
Pull out the knife and move on.  Best friends don't stab you in the back..... so perhaps the friendship was one-sided.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
774570
i know how you feel. my friend did the same thing and unfortunately she has changed alot and we are not close like we used to be. but that doesnt mean that it has to be that way for you too( hopefully it wont! )\n\nat first my friend was confused i would try to help her out as much as i could and now i guess shes made up her mind (she has a gf now) and i just let her do her own thing. \n\nits sad becuase we hardly talk like we used to.  oh well what can you do
445701
reconsile hun. be up front with her, tell her how u really feel! dont be afraid to talk to her for the how you want ur friendship to be and how important it is to you. ask her if it's something she wants also. dont let it go, b/c if it goes unsaid and unexpressed, trust me, the friendship will fade and you'll end up standing beside urself wondering wtf happened.
497233
That's a tough call.\n\nIf you think he liked it and there could be something there, then you need to catch him, sit him down, and talk about what to do next.  He could just be scared because it was his first time with another guy and his best friend at that.\n\nIf you don't think he liked it and you think he might be looking at it as one of those drunken mistakes, then you need to call him and tell him you and him both made a mistake and explain how one night can't get between so many years of friendship.\n\nEither way, you need to contact him and talk it out.  Things will work out - it should take a lot more than that to end such a close friendship.\n\nGood luck and feel free to contact me if you need anymore help.\n\n:)
1116711
Boy thats hard...Especially because its your best friend It all depends on if you are willing to risk yourfriendship. I always have started out by saying ya know I had the craziest dream about us... just to feel the situation out and see what response I get then go from there. Good luck...
52685
You never know how until you try and learn.  I tripped over my feet and still do (shhh don't tell anyone).\n\nYou are shy, block out the world.  It's you and him on the dance floor.\n\nPeople don't like you.  That's their problem.\n\nThe girl should go.  Make him happy and fears should not stand in the way of either persons happiness.  To do it takes courage and shows it's true colors in the face of fear.
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
680157
I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.