What is Gayness? is it a mental illness or an addiction or what?
117545
stop fighting who you are if you dont except you who will this is really rediculus that you people still are made to feel this way its a travisty  i am a straight female married kid the whole works yea 4 me right well my best friends not so lucky she is a lez. i love as my sister she has been this way since a child small child she never said but we all knew she was ashamed datted guys had sex with them when she told me finely i stold her i knew  yes i know most are not as receptive but if you dont stand up and stop being afraid to be who you are youll never be able to learn about your self hiding the fact that your a homo. also means that unwittingly you cover up other great things about your self most /some come around eventully and for those who dont you dont need  them you should only surround yourself with friends and family who love and care about you and can except you for you and nothing less weather there new or old friends and family stand up for petes sake be proud of who you are after all you are going to be with you for a long time
42238
I would say it's a combination of genetic disposition (being born that way) and the environment one grows up in.  But as it is now, there has been minimal research done to prove whether one is born gay or not.  Of all the homosexuals I know personally, none have told me that they "chose" to be gay.
113834
being gay is not something that someone chooses for themselves they are or they are not.  You can change a behavior, such as not having relationships with a same sex partner, but no matter what if you are gay, you are gay
973576
It basically means "extreme happiness".  It has nothing to do with the more modern meaning of "gay".
891542
Why do you say "a problem"? I think most homosexuals and a lot of straight people would argue with your characterizing homosexuality as a "problem" in the first place.  Getting beyond that major issue with your question, I don't believe that there is any good answer as to the "cause" of homosexuality. There is some evidence for all of these as possibly leading to homosexuality, but I don't think any single one of them is the cause.
1146011
some sort of std or addiction
707593
Drs Master and Johnson in their study of human sexuality found that most people are a mix of gay and hetero.\n\nGo explore yourself, and love what you find, and you will be OK.
379484
what kind of mental illness and why are you so concerned with the gender in your question?
943251
Addiction IS NOT a disease.  It has only recently (20 or so years) been determined to be a disease so people don't have to take responsibility for their own actions.  Part of the PC, touchy feely world.
114221
As a gay person I can honestly say that I don't know. It just is the way I feel naturaly. Like being streight is natural for you. We don't ask to be this way and life would be much easier for us if we had a choice but we don't it is just our nature
827264
Whatever the cause they're correct. It isn't a mental illness. Eventually you may go mad, but it is an acquired perversity which can be dropped. When you introduce into the body toxic poisons and waste fluids in the body as with the type of activity that kind of life is known for, it attacks the entire body. Total breakdown. That's why it's called Acquired Immune Deficency Syndrome. You flooded the body with poison by that activity. It is not a sex act. You're not designed that way. The colon/rectal area is, simply put, the body's sewer system. Read what happened to Marat during the French Revolution. He escaped his enemies by hiding in the Paris sewers and contracted an incurable skin disease.
288231
I get turned on by cartoon porn does that mean I'm a cartoon, no.  These titles are not based on your emotions or your fantasies (or your veiwing pleasure) they are based only on your choices and actions.  I'm sure there are many people who were gay deep down, but never entered into a same sex relationship.  If you want to take the step to experiment then you might have a better idea of what you want in life.
695923
You say that you "know i'm not gay because i know its very wrong". Who says it is wrong? Someone else who is telling you who your are? The only thing that is wrong is for you to pretend that you are someone that you are not. It could be that you only want to experiment, and that doesn't make you gay. Being gay is a definition of who you are attracted to. If you only have sexual thoughts about people that are the same sex as you, that means you are gay. If you only have sexual thoughts about people that are the opposite sex as you, that means you are straight. If you have sexual thoughts about both, then you are bi. Instead of listening to other people who tell you what is wrong or right, listen to yourself and decide for yourself who you are attracted to. It doesn't matter who you are attracted to, the only thing that matters is that who you are attracted to makes you happy.
847838
Of course it is, you cannot stop your mind from the feelings it produces. There is nothing wrong with homosexuality.
874113
It sounds like your acquaintance is having trouble figuring out who is he (this used to be called "finding yourself" once upon a time). As he explores different ways of looking at the world and at himself via the drugs, he's also exploring different ways of being. Could be that he'd benefit from some counseling, but that's up to him if he wants to really delve into his own psyche or if he'd rather just abuse his body to the point where he no longer cares who he is. I believe that most people have the capacity to be bisexual, and there's nothing bad about that. However, making advances on friends he knows to be straight indicates he's having problems with judgment (also evidenced by the drug use). So, the drugs per se are a symptom of what's going on with him, not the cause. They're just allowing him a facade to hide behind as he expresses his own inner feelings. I realize it's not your place to intervene, but the drugs are most likely going to destroy him; hopefully he won't take anyone else down with him.
879137
it's a mental disorder
268906
Well I am sorry it makes you sick.  Not everything or every one is the way we all would like.  Some what disappointing I know.  As for WHY would someone like to be gay? I will tell you something.  I am happy with my lifestyle now. I am happy with the woman I am with.  But there was a period where I wasn't so sure.  Why you wonder.  Because my mother disowned me because of it.  My father bought books to see if they had the answers, maybe he did something wrong.  Or my personal favorite what my high school finding out and my teacher telling me I shouldn't eat with the other kids because it bothers them. \nDoes this sound like something we CHOSE?  Does this sound like something we ASKED for?  \nWe are stronger for the things we go through, doesnt mean we ask for the turmoil along the way.