How can I hide the fact that I have been crying all day from my kids?
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Kids are not stupid. The mother of my children died when they were still in diapers. I learned to show my emotions with them. They are now grown, and have helped me out emotionally many times even as children. I think it also helped them to see through their emotional tribulations more clearly. I know such sharing has made us much closer.
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Just know that you are special and it is not your fault what they said or did. Know that God is with you and always has been, and focus on just being the best person that you can be. Be successful, and be greatful for life, also know that your parents probably didn't know any better, and forgive them, to make yourself be even better. Know that you overcame that, and can think about it and rationalize it, and get past it, knowing you are a really good person inside, who wants a good happy life. \n\nAnd when it does feel like it hurts realy bad, just thank God that he was there to help you through it and for the ability to now think positively and rationalize why you are such a good person who deserves so much. And know that you will be happy in the future and will make a positive difference in making people feel good, especially when you ever have kids, so that you can be everything to them that you never had.\nBasically:\nJust have HOPE and keep FAITH.
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I have a different emotion the night before my period. One night i cried all night because my dad didn't tell my mum she looked nice before they went out and another i completely lost it because my sister used my new unused toothbrush. Have your monthly meltdown. If it's infront of family who cares. I just steer clear of friends and boys, may freak them out.
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Oh,Honey do I know how u feel!I am going through the same thing as I write.In fact I go to court this Thursday.Let me tell ya,it's very,very hard to deal with.Whether u did something wrong or not doesn't make it any easier.I'd like to tell u about my situation and how I deal with it,but this site does not allow enough space.If you want to talk more about it e-mail me @ kalasmom3@yahoo.com Or IM me @ either yahoo messenger or AIM.I'd love to try to help.Maybe we can help each other.Also,since I have almost 18 months in one child's being gone and 7 years in the other maybe I can offer some advice on how to fight to get them back.oh,my screen name on AIM is turntheclkbac.
415902
Speak to your parents about how you feel. Parents often forget how you are feeling in times like this as they are hurting as well...
414652
Just be honest and tell him how it makes  you feel. You deserve to be treated better than this. You may have children to take care of, but Im pretty sure you can do this on your own. You are right...it isn't good for the kids to see this. They need to know love.
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stick up for yourself assretivly, tell them you arent stupid, you dont appreciate the insination or accusation that you are and you would prefer if they never said that to you again. dont be mean, dont yell, be calm and say what you feel, then dont back down or feel guilty for it.
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Be there for them when they need to talk about their issues and when you have had all you can take - do something for yourself like a bubble bath, gardening or go for a walk. Something YOU enjoy - to take your mind off their problems.\nBTW. Do not feel bad if you have to tell them you can not take any more right now.
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Talk to him about it when the kids are not there.   Just tell him your miserable and you have filed for a divorce.  If you haven't really had a relationship with him the last few years, it might be a blessing to him too.  Just try to be as civil as possible for the kids.  Try not to fight in front of them...but don't give them false hopes either.  Good luck, you're going to need it ,I'm afraid.
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honey, it's okay to cry. it's healthy to show your feelings and emotions. believe or not you are communicating. life throws challenges and it's up to us to decide how we handle it. for me, my best advice is fight back, u can control this. if someone calls u a crybaby, that's selfish on their part. u are telling him how u feel and that counts. if they tell u, u shouldn't be feeling the way you're feeling that selfish for their part. I say show your true feeling, take control of the situation, and be assertive. once you have the "assertion" then u can handle life a lot better.
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You should be honest up front. Then take it slow. Later on when you feel comfortable you could introduce them to your kids.
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Oh my gosh...you must be my twin sunshine! Summer is so tough....kiddos can be so demanding! Here is a hot tip that I got from my shrink when I was feeling like you. Get a bunch of old newspapers and cut out things that are YOU. Thing you love, things you hate, things that evoke an emotional response in you.\n\nOrganize them any way you wish on a poster board. It is amazing how they will all come together and tell a story. Somehow when I did this, things really made sence.Also...something that is really helpful in an identity crisis (that is what I had) is to really try to remember the things that you loved in your youth and before you became a mother and lost your sence of self. Do some of those things....chances are they will awaken your sparkle inside.\n\nAre your kids tiny or are they able to take care of themselves? If they are tiny....find a way to get a teenager or friend to spell you. If they are older...hold them responsible to give you a break. \nYou are their mother NOT their maid.\n\nI can relate to how you are feeling. Don;t be afraid to talk to a professional counselor or your MD about this. It actually can be a really depressing time and a RX could help you while you attempt to figure it all out. Best wishes sister. There are alot of us who have walked in your shoes. Know that raising your children is an absolute blessing. You are doing God's work. I really think that for me.....that was a big part of my depression. Nobody valued the work I was doing. No paycheck, no kudos, no nothing.The work of motherhood is holy! Blessings...Lisa
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This is all very normal. I have three kids. Try to find a babysitter. Family or Friends and get some down time. Go out with your friends. A mini vacation on the weekend. You need to get out and get loose and vent a little with your friends. It wll do you a world of wonder.\n\nGood Luck!
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Oh Lordy..Lordy...Lordy. \n\nGirl children will do that to you.  \n\nWhat you need is a break away from your kids, if nothing more than for a day or two. \n\nDuring that day, pamper yourself. Spend time ALONE.  Do something you love. Indulge. Appreciate yourself. Go to the beach. Take a dance class. Whatever makes you feel good.  You need to reenergize yourself.  \n\nThen while you're alone spend time praying and reflecting on who you are, what you want, and the type of parent you want to be. \n\nFocus more on the behavior you want to exhibit, instead of focusing on the things you're doing wrong.  Be positive.  Stay positive.  \n\n         "I will be patient and kind to my children because they deserve it." \n\n         " I will establish clear rules and a schedule for all to follow to keep order in my home" \n\n         "I will praise my children often and be involved in their actities"\n\n         "I will take good care of myself, by eating right, getting plenty of rest, and taking care of my health.  When I feel good, I am at my best" \n\nThen when you get back with your family sit down and have a family meeting. \n\nApologize to your children for yelling at them.  Let them know that you know this does not make them feel good and you will do everything you can to avoid yelling.  \n\nGet them to agree to help you work on this.  Do not blame them for your behavior.  Set a good example and accept responsibilty, but let them know that you have to work at this as a family.  \n\nA good book to read on this is "The Seven Habits for the Family" by Steven Covey. \n\nBest wishes to you. \n\nBe blessed.  \n\n:o)
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in the back of my head, so the kids wouldn't think that I've been lying to them all this time.
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Hey Sweetie...\n\nSo sorry to hear your hurting..  I know exactly how you feel hun and it's the worse pain in the world...  Maybe a big long hug off your son will make you feel a little bit better...\n\nThe pain will ware off, it just takes time...   Cry if you need to cry, the more you let it out the better...   Take Care hun and I hope you feel better soon xxx
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I suggest being straightforward with the people and tell them right off that they cannot use those words around youre children. whether theyre youre friends or not(i dont know) you should still tell them immediately to stop