how can i put the romance back in my marrage?
105089
get buck wild have sex anywhere and everywhere. The sky is the limit.When you are *******talk dirty as****.Get some sex toys and don't forget the red highheels. lay on the bed spread your legs and say, baby it's moma come get your present, then began to move in a circlar motion began to moan ummmmmm make sure the moan is sexy. show him your breast then said are you hungry,baby and don't forget to open your present there's a little gift inside you can kiss and play with. Then do the dam thing,girl. Make me want to hollo!I have excited myself. Gotta go!
425550
You have to look back and see if there is anything you might have done to have grow away from you. Remember when you first met, start treating her the way you used to. Do not take her for granted, bring flowers take her out on a date. Get a sitter get away for a weekend. Romance her. SAVE your marriage. Chances are very high she has someone else except she is hiding it very well and you are so in love with her still that you don't see the signs. By giving you a date and not leaving now means she already has a fall back guy waiting and he is also going throughthe same thing with his wife. Except his wife might not even have a hint as you do. By giving you a date it is giving you a chance to win her over again. It is kind of like she still wants in and is not really sure about this other guy. The ball is in your court you play or you give up, it is up to you. You don't mention how old the kids are. They need their parents at any age. Is she taking them. If she is leaving make sure it is all legal. She might get knocked up by some guy and you will be stuck with that fact of life. If she is serious about coming back she is just looking for a fling and trying to see if this guy will keep her. Do not ask her anything just romance her if you still want her. Have her wonder why she wants to leave.
815704
Remember how you acted when you first met the other person?  Remember the special little things you did?  Holding hands, sneaking a kiss and an hug?  Walks on the beaches, a quiet dinner out...\n\nGo back to that time and get the feeling back.
802744
Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routine we forget how we got there in the first place.  There are ways to rekindle the passion: go out on a date (just the two of you) once in a while, make a "just us" evening once a week like sitting and listening to music together.\nMy partner and I usually designate Friday evenings for "us" time, we sit and watch a movie together (no matter how silly the movie is).
861314
Get to the basics. Let go the ego and the false pride. Accept mistakes and compromise.\nLive happily everafter.
577170
It's good that you want to make sweet gestures like that. \nI've been with my hubby for 19 years & still do soppy things. Last week I left a big chocolate heart on his pillow when I went to work for him to find when he came home from work tired. Send him text messages to say you miss him when you haven't seen him all day. Leave notes around the house. One of my favourite places to leave notes is in the glove box of his car cos he always leaves his radio in there & I know he's sure to find it. Tell him...I tell my hubby every day I love him & he does the same with me.
1060538
dont wry i think u had ur marriage in a hrry did u n ur hubby think about it 4 enuf tym????\nwell if he did then jst believe in him sweety i know guys r lyk dat try 2 convince him dat ull b always happy 2gether\nmake him believe dat ur decision 2 marry was ryt!!!!!!!\nn try 2 bring back the spark o ur lyf vich i think must b lost in ur marriage!!!!!\nor he realy luvs u lyk nethin n dats y hes insecure dat hes not able 2 giv u proper tym n thus u may not b happy wid him n he really wants u 2 b happy coz he really luvs u!!!!!!!!!!
182465
my hubbie and i are married 9 years.  we've been there.  we both love each other deeply, we just forget how important it is to show it as well as say it.  it's easy to fall into your individual ruts, which in turn causes one big rut for the marriage.  get out of the rut!!!  your marriage needs a hero.  do not be afraid to be the one to decide that today is the day the romance comes back to your marriage.  it doesn't have to be grand....join him in the shower, make his favorite meal and serve it to him in bed, come to bed with nothing but the radio on... i am assuming, of course, that you are only missing passion and romance and that there isn't a bigger problem...if the latter is the case, and you need to save your marriage -- talk with a priest or counselor...they can help you see things the both of you may not be seeing...  good luck and have fun!!!
726181
Once the passion has faded and you've been living under this bad cloud, it's hard to change your feelings about someone.  It's been a lot of water under the bridge.  With respect to you family and children, it might be too much to expect that you will find the magic again with your husband, even though you've become able to stand your own ground.  Contrary to those that will advise you to go to counseling and turn to religion, my guess is that it is a lost cause.  Thus your choice is to remain, yet life a double life which includes a discrete affair, or just part ways and move on.  Good luck with this decision, it's not easy for anyone.  Enjoy!
282431
How cool that a GUY is asking a question like this.  Hats off to you, bro.  You sound like a real romantic.  This being the case, why not break the mold?  Don't just go to WalMart, and pick something up for her - CREATE an afternoon for her!  I did this for my wife on our first anniversary.\nCreate a custom day-spa for her, made up of all kinds of things that she likes to do, print it up, and give it to her.  An example would be:\n\n9:00am - Tennis at the courts where we met\n10:00am - Go for a walk & talk about our dreams\n11:00am - Spend some time playing with her little sister\n12:00pm - Customize picnic in the park, featuring her favorite sandwich\n1:00pm - Non-sexual backrub on the beach (women really dig "non-sexual" affection - it makes them feel loved and comfortable, as opposed to a tool that you are using to meet a need)\n\nYou get the idea.  Finish it all off by cooking her a special dinner.  Even if it doesn't taste that great, she'll love the fact that you thought enough of her to get a cookbook from the library, and arrange a candlelight dinner!  The key to the whole day is to focus your concerns on her needs.  Stay away from expecting anything in return from her.  Make this day about making her feel like a princess.\n\n*Also, as a side note, something that I did with my wife because I could tell early on that she was the one...secretly start a journal.  Write down loving thoughts that you have about her (and DATE every entry).  Write down notes about things that you do together & dates that you have.  Continuously write down why you love her, and why you are so excited to be with her.\nThen, on your wedding night, GIVE IT TO HER AS YOUR WEDDING GIFT!  I was SO glad that I had done it.  My journal was packed with stuff that I had long forgotten about, and she absolutely melted!
556137
What you really want is the REAL thing, not any cheap substitutes for the intimacy that you once had. If you've been together for a long time, you focus on your careers and other things that need to get done and in that time both of you have grown as individuals. You are not on the exact same level that you used to be on when you once met because you have both gained new wisdom, new dreams, new experiences, etc. I think what you need to do is meet each other on the level that you are on now. In other words REDISCOVER each other. There is something deeper in your husband and in you that wasn't there before and you need to get in touch with each other. Talking is the number one key for intimacy. Maybe you could change the scenery and talk in a totally different place to spark some enthusiasm. Make it special and really dig into each other's worlds. Talking about the past can bring back good memories, but don't wish that your husband is now what he was then because he is all that and even more. Love him now and get to know him all over again. Do something special for him and create an atmosphere where you can talk and fall in love all over again.
39317
HOPEFULLY I WILL. WHILE MY 1ST MARRAIGE WAS A DISMAL FAILURE (MOSTLY BECAUSE OF MYSELF), I MISS THE BOND AND THE FEELINGS INVOLVED IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. HOPEFULLY, I HAVE LEARNED SOME LESSONS THAT I SHOULD HAVE LEARNED LONG AGO.
618031
Do something really really romantic. Most women love the romance thing, like going out to dinner at a really nice restaurant, a few glasses of wine, a new dress, sexy underwear and then coming home to rose petals leading the way to the bed room which is surrounded with candles.\n\nAnd then just shower her with compliments as you take off her clothes, making sure to kiss every part that your hands touch.\n\nShe'll be like putty
463927
The same thing happened to my second wife.  We did it like rabbits when we were dating but once married, the activity dropped off quite a bit.  I am sure the rigors of married life has something to do with it and the comfort in being in a long term relationship.  I am sure it doesn't happen to all women nor men for that matter.  Could be that you just need to try something different every now and then.  Location, clothing, time of day, etc.  Variety is the spice of life.
274056
I've been married to a guy just like yours for awhile now. YOU can't control it, you just have to learn how to let it go. Learn detachment, you learn to roll your eyes, let it roll off your back and let it go. I go in another room, read a book, just get away from it. Learn to nod your head alot and smile. If you love him, you can make it happen, it just takes practice. Alanon is a wonderful source for helping you to detach with love. Go to a meeting, trust me, it will help!\n\nGood Luck!!
101140
Well, do things like he did,\n\nsometimes it's the little things that keep it fresh \n\ndo things like leave little notes to him leave it in his car,  his pocket, on the mirror \n\nsend him flowers just because, leave messages on his cellphone  voicemail saying u were thinking about him& u love him\n\nwhen u look at him blow a kiss at him wink at him.\n\n have a picnic N the middle of ur livingroom floor, give him a pet name, tell him he so cute even if he just woke up and looking a mess, rub his neck. Come up behind him and hug him.When ur out together act as if ur on a first date( role play)if u role play stay in charater until ur get home\n\nJust anything that will make him & YOU happy to be together and look  4ward to being hubby& wife =-)\n\nGood Luck sweetie\n\nAnd Congaulations =-)
368256
You loved this person with all your heart when you married.  If you feel you do not feel this power for your spouse now, it is because you have not been putting yourself on the line for your other half.  God said you will become one flesh.  You are taking a sword to your self and marriage, turning your back on your spouse.  \n\nYou are seeking that magic, hoping to find it in a complete stranger.  The magic is still in your spouse.  All you have to do is kindle it.  Your spouse is looking for that tenderness, too.  \n\nStop the disrespectful words, acts and thoughts.  Make the effort to soften your words.  You will not be judged on how your spouse responded to your actions but on your actions toward your spouse.  Marriage takes effort.  The ceremony does not freeze your relationship in that moment in time.  The humdrum of everyday life soon sets in, and marriage becomes a 'drag', but only because we let it.  \n\nIf you are a child of a broken marriage, then you expect to  make things better by moving out and moving on.  Break the cycle of destruction in family.  Have you children to think about?  Can you put yourself in their place and see what your actions are doing to them?  Can you remember the ache?  Can you do more for others than for yourself?  Can you give when it hurts?  Can you speak softly when you thinking hurtful thoughts about your spouse?  NO.\n\nDo not look outside your marriage for the solution to your marriage troubles.  Look inside yourself.  Do not muddy the waters by adding another person to the mix.  You can't offer them anything but sexual exercise, and should not be offering that!  Your body belongs to your spouse.  Get professional help.  There is no shame in asking for help.  I hope you will calm down and stop the flight inpulse.  Stay and fight for your family.  You made the vow. Now keep it.