My fiancee is still in contact with his ex  wifes' family,  shd i stop this?
105005
Do they have children together?If so no.He will allways be a father and need to be in contact with her about the children.If no children are involved and they just talk to have something to laugh and giggle about,yes tell him it bothers you.\n\nSorry I thought you said ex wife not family.\nHow long were they maarried?I am divorced,was married for 12 years,and my ex stays in touch with my family,it's ok with me and her new husband.If they were married along time they probably feel he is a part of their family.Bonds grow with family during a marriage,and just because him and his spouse didnt get along,dont mean her family dislikes him
554208
Absolutely it is!! He needs to cut the cord, throw away the security blanket and be married to you! What do they possibly have to talk about? Didn't they break up? Didn't he marry you? She can't be giving him marriage advice that is going to have a positive outcome for you. I dealt with the same situation and my husbands ex put him through hell but she still had this "something" over him. Well, after many heart to heart w/my H, I had to take care of it, its like they feel bad for them or something? Remember, you are the WIFE! Who the hell is she? See ya, go away, bye bye! Or my favorite, turn the tables. Find your little black book (you know you still have it, we all do) and start reconnecting with your old ex's - opps, I mean your old friends. Im sure a few would love to hear from you again. Trust me, your H will loose the number real quick. Good luck "WIFE"
494091
Bad. Real bad... Many times, affairs never really stop! Communication is the key to a rekindle, and if there is either a proximity or an open communication line, some nasty piss off would most certainly arise for you. She'll most probably get a way with him oftentimes than once...\n\nAnd another thing, MOST EXes are also called Schemers. They must only be upto something, even when they are not aware, whether her break-up was in agreement or in acrimony. Whatever she is doing with your future in laws... BUY NEW BOOTS, GET READY TO KICK-BUTT SOONER THAN LATER!
123275
Only you can know that for sure. Why does he talk to his ex wife, do they have children together, then until those kids are at the least 18 and probably longer he will need to talk with her. If he is calling up as there divorce is still new, he may just be concerned that she is alright, ask him why he calls her. My ex called me for months after we broke up just to see if I was alright. You will need to get you insecurity in check for this to work out at all, because they do have a bond no matter what and you have to face that fact. Just talk to him, that is so very very important in a relationship as you can NEVER know what is going on otherwise. Best to you
172306
explain to him how disturbign and hurtful ti si to you.  its quite disrespectful.  teh only person you shoudl ever give up friendships woth ex's for is your spose.  I am only engaged and i wont speak to any of my ex;s out fo respect for my man.  Expalin to him how disrespectful it is and that you want him to stop...he wouldnt approve of you doing the same would he?
950818
The question is do he talk to you about what his exes want? I would ask questions instead of flaring off at times because if he has not shown you any signs that they are still involve it shouldn't be a problem. Do they have children together? If so that could be the conversation. You two should communicate much more than you do so you will feel more comfortable about the visits. I understand the hurt. First you should go to God for answers to your marriage because He made you two and He knows best for you two. God bless you.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
134613
Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.
1009167
If these calls are about their children, you need to deal with it. That's not going to go away. But if these calls are just to chat ... then you need to explain to him that it really bothers you and why.
455996
I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
749833
If it really bothers you that much that you are family is bothering your in laws, then call them up. Find out what they want and tell them to stop contacting you through them. There are better ways of communications in future. If anything tell them to try your email that way you have control of their contact and they certainly wont bother your in laws.
1078822
JUst because she's family dosen't mean you can't cut the ties with her. You don't need anyone in your life like that !!!
549579
Been there, done that - not an iota of fun. The guy is basically stalking you. My suggestion is the following:\n\n1) File a report with the local police. Even though they may not do anything about it yet, at least it will be in their papers should your ex's abuse continue and/or escalate. \n\n2) Gather ALL evidence. Set up a new e-mail account, get a new phone-number - every measure necessary to restrain his options of being able to contact you. Nonetheless, keep the old phone-number - but let it go directly to the answering-machine. Save the messages - as they will prove your claim if you are forced to drag him to court and (or get a restraining order. Also save all e-mails he sends you for the same reason as above. If he sends you gifts, you shall keep them - whatever he gives you, keep it. This is all about gathering evidence.\n\n3) Tell people around you not to tlak with him due to his stalking. He will pursue alternative means of getting go you, and using your friends and family as a source of information is fully justified in his mind.\n\n4) NEVER EVER talk with/to him - regardless how tempting it may be. For a stalker, even a "F**k off" will be interpreted as a positive gesture. He will interpret "Leave me alone" as a "Oh, I want you to chase me" and so on. If you give in to the temptation once, he will know that it only takes more perservance on his side to get you to answer again and again and again.\nAlso, never tell him what you intend to do unless he leaves you alone. In the event that going to the police does not produce immediate results, your stalking ex will view your plans and intentions as nothing but empty threats.\n\n5) Tell your current boyfriend how much the ex is bothering you. Your ex is currently attempting to drive a wedge between you and your new BF as the ex cannot see you with another man. Any man for that matter except himself. He desires comlete control of your life in every and any aspect, and you do NOT want to subject yourself to that.\nAs for your current BF, if he is not willing to support and help you through this, then he is not worth keeping. Sorry for being so harsh sounding, but it is sadly true. If he loves and cares about you, then he will stay on your side - regardless.\n\n6) Find out if there are any support-groups for stalking-victims in your area - and you will find that you are not alone. The internet also provides different fora that are worth-while looking into - especially what the legal side is concerned.\n\nI broke up with the ex from hell 1 1/2 years ago, and he is still stalking me, thankfully not to the same extent as previously, but I receive e-mails (I changed phone-numbers and got a new e-mail address) from him once or twice a month, and it is still bloody annoying and scaring.\n\nGood luck, this will take time and toil - but know that you are not alone in this hellish situation. I feel for you.
983773
no, it's not normal and it's not right for him to secretly be in contact with his ex.  and it's not normal for him to get mad at you for finding out.  I would be getting to the bottom of this.  and fast.  he needs to tell you why in the world he's been talking to her behind your back!  I understand that they have a child together, and I understand that he needs to help support his child.  but the child is fifteen years old!  if the child needs something, he/she is old enough to call and talk to their dad. \nthe only reason I would think that your husband and his ex would need to talk would be about their child.  school, grades, sickness, etc. and that should never be kept from you.  honestly, what's to hide about that sort of thing?  I can't help but think he may be trying to hide more than e-mail from you.  you need to confront this man.  he has a lot of explaining to do.\nI wish you the best.
526708
Girlfriend you are a true Christian, but come on. You are going to have to confront her and let her know that she really needs to increase her circle of friends. It is commendable that you open your heart and home for your husband's ex, for the sake of your step daughter but you have to set some boundaries...because she is totally taking advantage of you. I would take her aside and  tell her Enough is Enough! You would rather her take the responsibility of dealing with the child as a parent. While you want to be there for the child you are in essence enabling this woman to pawn of the reality of her personal responsibility off to you. She obviously knows not to engage your husband so she gets in any way she can.  Think about it.
1025688
Oh, nooooo....  Sounds like your husband needs to grow up and not listen to anyone but his new wife.  The situation you expressed is not a healthy and normal one.  He needs to step up and tell his ex to butt out and to tell his family that he will tolerate no more judgements from them.  What happens between the two of you is your business only.  Best of luck.
989389
You could always report them to INS (Immigration and Naturalization Services) if they are here illegally.  As far as your marriage goes, your HUSBAND broke up your marriage, not the other woman. Don't forget that.