What should I do My husbands sister wont move out and everytime we try she gets his parents involved.?
110787
If all else fails, wait until she's out and then change the locks.
592512
Do you love her? Do you want to stay married? Can you move farther away from her parents so they'll interfere less? I guess everything depends on how much you love her and want to fight to keep her. And how tired of her parents you are. \nMy husband's mother always interfered in my marriage. He chose me over her, so now we don't speak to his parents at all. But our marriage is better now than it ever was. I guess it all depends on the two of you. Can you stand up to her parents and tell them to stop bothering you two? Can she tell her parents NO? If not, maybe those papers are a good idea.
808151
Something is going on between your sister and her husband.  At Thanksgiving, be very observant of what's going on between them.  If you get the opportunity, pull your sister aside and let her know you're there for her no matter what.  DO NOT ask her what's going on or why did she bring him there.  She may not be able to or want to tell you what's going on.  From this point forward, do not judge her actions or decisions, but let her know you'll be there for her and stand by her no matter what and that she can depend on you.  \n\nIt won't be easy for you, but try not to pass judgement.  Be civil and polite to her husband.  Take a deep breath and just hope and pray for the best and be the best sister you can be for her.  Good luck.
705062
First thing first she shouldn't get back together with him, try and talk to him and make him see that they won't work out...and get his family to get him psych help cos he might get really obssessed and do sumthin bad to her but I pray not..Gudluck dear
701503
people make choices in life. you are not willing to move in which means that you are not that committed to him and his situation. social services could help him. notify him to call social services.
807832
How much do you trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family??????........\nSupport your husband in whatever way he needs you to at the moment......you cant worry about how your in-laws feel about you......when they are gone, you will still have your husband and he will appreciate you standing by him....regardless of what happens....\nI fought a similar battle w/in-laws once upon a time...I wish i had just supported my husband....I wish i had understood that I could make it about me and my feelings (which I did)...OR I could have let him do whatever  he needed to do for his parents for him to be ok....knowing that our familys best interest was never  out of him mind.......(I did not do this) OUr marraige suffered ....Now I look back and see It was not worth it.....I SHOULD have trusted him.......He was trustworthy....\nThey never did like me.....but now thery are gone and it doenst matter....But my ex and I are still trying to come to terms with the fallout from that time(as well as other issue).....\nPICK YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY..........some are not worth the war they will lead up to....
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
335908
Discuss the problem with your husband, then together you just ask him to leave.\nIf he gives excuses and refuses to leave, pack up everything that's his and put it out front and don't let him back in. I'm sure he'll find someone else to mooch off of.
1171875
For one thing, I'd talk to the ex-in laws. They need to refuse to give in to her everytime she's not getting her way with you.
815999
Your in a tough spot and I don't agree with unwanted guest.  BUT it is the holidays and you don't want to seem like a complete jerk by saying they can't come.  At least this time it is family his sister right?  So holidays are about family and sharing so your going to have to accept her 'partner' as part of your family.  If you keep pushing him away he may make your mother start spending the holidays away from you...since his family is excluded.  Do you see my point?  \nSo to keep the peace just suck it up and set out two extra places and try to keep the holiday spirit in your heart even though you want to strangle him!!
228668
i have a hard time encouraging my husband to do anything but you can't really make him go, he has to go on his own.  just keep on going yourself, and set a good example
436877
You sister will only leave when she is ready. When she is she is going to need her family and a support system. I wouldn't try to push you sister into leaving but make sure you are always there when she needs to talk. If she knows she has a support system the easier it would be for her to leave.
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
1046177
DOES YOUR SISTER REALLY HAVE A GOOD REASON TO KEEP HER CHILD FROM YOU? MY SISTERS HUSBAND WHO IS ONLY FATHER OF 2 OF HER KIDS IS TRYING TO TELL ME MY NEICE AND NEPHEW WHO ARENT EVEN HIS CANT COME TO MY HOUSE ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE SPOKE HER MIND TO HIM AND SHE HAPPENED TO BE AT MY HOUSE AT THE TIME.BUT I STUCK TO MY GUNS THATS MY NEICE AND MY NEPHEW WHETHER OR NOT YOU LIKE IT THEY WILL NEVER LOVE YOU LIKE THEY LOVE ME. MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY TO TALK TO YOUR SISTER AND SEE WHY SHE SHOULD HAVE A GOOD EXPLAINATION FOR HER ACTIONS AND IF SHE DONT THEN I WOULD LOOK AT IT LIKE YOU TRIED THATS THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IN THE LONG RUN SHE WILL KNOW SHE WAS WRONG.JUST WISH THE BEST FOR YOUR NEICE,SHE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO REPLACE YOU!
1164933
Get a lawyer - some will take your case & get payment from your husband plus attend some type pyschological counseling.  You  are being screwed here.   You are entitled to  spousal support; plus visitation.  File an OSC & ask attorney to go ex-parte to get  you temporary financial support until the hearing.\nYou can also fill out paperwork online if CA,,, use this website \nhttp://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/  \nChild needs counseling & when you go to court demand child get it.  No child has the right to pysically abuse their parent & you as her parent should not be penalized by losing your home or the other daughter.\nSeems husband is not doing right by you...  you need to get angry & start standing up for yourself &  your rights
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
829206
your husband is the one that needs to put his foot down! tell him what is going on..and that you would NEVER put up with this kind of behavior if it were your own mother/sister. \nyou married him, not his mother...yes she is part of your family but she doesn't and shouldn't have a say in YOUR life together. \nhonestly i would look to move away! * that's what i encouraged my husband to do when we got married. we moved my mother in law to Hawaii! * \nif your hubby won't put his foot down then your going to be the one to say something. it may be hard, but YOUR HIS WIFE! that car you borrowed is YOURS as much as it is your husbands...you need to stand up for yourself.\nbe firm but cordial, and tell her that you understand that she loves her son very very much, but so do you. and you are his wife. \nhe is a grown man, and you two want her to be part of your life, but you don't want her controlling it. tell her that you feel like she doesn't like you, and that your trying your best to be a good wife to her son. but you will NOT let her make you feel guilty about the decisions that you make together as a couple. ask her how she would feel if HER mother in law butted in the way she did? \n\nperhaps talking w/your father in law might help? or a brother in law?