i feel vain and bored these days.what should i do? how can i change this state?
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Get a job/girlfriend, in otherwords, start doing things you never thought of doing before.\nChange your state:- avoid doing your usual stuff, it is obvious you'll get bored.
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Do something for someone else.  Not only will it be nice for the other person it will help you get your mind off of your own problems.  \n\nDrinking, shopping and eating are all quick fixes and may help for a while but I think that you need to look for something more long term that will make you happy.  \n\nWhat do you like doing?  What do you love doing?  Things like guitar, writing, chess, gardening, painting.  \n\nTry different things untill you find something you like.  \n\nAlso make yourself goals and try to stick to them.  \n\nTo get more self esteem you should do things that make you proud of yourself rather than external beauty.  \n\nOh and about finding god.  God is great if you truly have faith but dont try to use it as a band aid for your problems.\nGood luck.
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Find beauty in the tiniest things - the wood grain on your old desk, the flowers you walk by every day, the pretty displays in store windows. Do some community service - just trust me on this one. Spend a little more time with people who make you feel valued. Watch your favorite movie over and over and over again. Laugh at something, or at nothing. Smile more often - I think smiling is supposed to do something great like release endorphins and make you feel good. Good Luck!
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HI AGAIN!..(i answered your other question..sorry it was really really long\n\nMs. Butturfly...how old are you? \n\nif u don't want medicine..go out more..have fun..talk online..to strangers like me who can help you..(NOT by meeting up somewhere) lol just u kno..talk and hopefully make u laugh..and tell u fun things to do like get some friends and go to school...don't FEEL despressed anymore..once u understand the fact that your depressed..change ur self..its like saying "once you know what your doing wrong, do it right" u understand?\ni hope this helps..\nfeel free to email me stranger person..lol i just want this world happy
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Hello there! I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. People are so quick to say someone has depression. You say that you act like you are the happiest person on earth, but you aren't happy on the inside. You just have to believe that you do deserve happiness! I believe that you just have low self-esteem and self worth. 17 is a hard age! Believe me...looking back I felt the same way and wondered what the heck was wrong with myself. Just the pressures nowadays that are being put on young people is enough to make someone want to give up! I know to be happy is easier said than done sometimes, and it is a lot of work sometimes. Once you start believing in yourself it will get more simple. Life is too short not to have fun--experience life. I am not saying go out there and do foolish things, but enjoy the silly stuff. I am an adult and I still like to go to toy stores and play with the puppets! Because it makes me happy. I am not here to make anyone happy but myself. It sounds selfish, but before we can help others, we have to help ourselves. Just the fact that you asked the question on here shows that you are ready and willing to make a change for yourself. I have done a lot of "stupid" things in my life, but I have learned that loved ones are there for you no matter what you do. If people really love you, they are there for you no matter what! You can make little changes in your life. Use positive affirmation..when you start to feel those thoughts of hopelessness creep in--say to yourself that you are not listening anymore. If you are still feeling beyond hopelessness, there are many people you can go to to talk about it. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for some help and guidance. It is you standing up and saying you are sick of being that way and taking control of your life. I wish you luck and hope that I helped a little! Take care!
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you are bored too! here I suggest this earlier:\n\nBuy a portable laptop with free roam internet link, built a platform which you can wear on your body & go jogging & still type & talk to us on Y/A.
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u can. it's just u made radical change, but hasn'i got used yet. and it's also past effect, u used all ur energy to perform this change and now u feel emotianally exausted and it couses deppression and fear. give urself a short break and then procedd to develop urself and make more positive changes. be in action, don't relax too much and reflect too much on the situation. act, act, act\n\nand the last but not tyhe least, what is done is done and u should never regret.\n\neverything will be ok. believe me. don't afraid and be courageous.
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Absense makes the heart grow fonder but it can also feel very lonely. I would try writing back and forth if possible. And find a hobby to occupy your time.
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yep, but i'm bored AND too lazy to do something.....\n\nisn't that double-sad?
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Take a deep breath.  Take several deep breaths.\n\nWhere in the past have been good places for you to go and just enjoy yourself?  Do you even let yourself enjoy some time every day?  How do you take care of you?\n\nThink about something you like to do, something you liked to do as a child.  Something just feels good to you, that no one can criticize or take away from you.\n\nLet someone else deal with all the problems.  You need some time to take care of yourself.  What do you like?  What are the good things in your day?  What's your favorite color, your favorite food, favorite smell, happiest moment?  Do you even know?\n\nTake some time for yourself.  Breathe deeply from your stomach.  Read some feel-good books, like All Things Great and Small by James Herriot.\n\nTalk to someone who cares about you.  Give yourself a chance to be held and comforted.  You deserve it.
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You need to take a time out.  You are becoming jaded and if you let that happen you will never be excited by or truely enjoy anything at all.\n\nDo something that is totally outside of your realm.  Got every gadget known to man, shut'em down.  Get out to the country or a park and sit under a tree and just look at the world around you.  I mean really look at things  find those shapes in the clouds  do something to recapture your sense of wonder \n\nWhen you want to just stop doing something, get creative find a new goal to use with it or see just how expert youc an become at it, do something to help you stick to something for more than a short time.\n\nStop and write down a list of all your blessings. You have access to the internet and are well and healthy enough to come here and post should start you off and you search your life for the rest.  When you finish your list you will discover you have much more than you thought and it will help you want to accomplish more which should get a spark going in you again.  Remember nothing difficult is ever easy.  work at it and soon it won't take work.
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Ya wanna hear something goofy? When I was a teenager, I felt just like you! I would wish to god I was a Siamese twin, just so I wouldn't feel so alone. It is hard to explain, I wasn't really lonely cause I had lots of friends and people who loved me, it's more a feeling that all of them and the whole human race belonged to this,(something) what ever it was except me! I could be in a room full of people yet feel all alone. Then one day I started asking myself: WHAT DO I WANT? As I lay in my dark bed   crying myself to sleep, I would ask: WHAT DO I WANT RIGHT NOW? WHAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL AND FILL THE VOID IN ME? Perhaps something that would make me a part of something! Well I don't really know what to tell you except I volunteered for a suicide hot line, I served underprivileged children dinners, I  worked at a mission, helping the homeless, I sat with the elderly etc. and as time passed, the awful feeling of being alone gradually went away! That was quite a few years ago and I haven't felt that way since. I don't know what happened, but what ever it was, it sure worked for me. Maybe it will work for you too! Good Luck!
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I have often felt the same over the years.  You may want to evaluate the things that make your life "full".  Are they important to you?  Do you really enjoy them?  Or, do they just keep you busy?  You may also want to speak with your doctor about depression which can make you feel that way even when you feel you shouldn't.  Be well.
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ooohhh!! you are so cute!!  you look so sad though!!  please, go and talk to someone!!  any one! you can talk to your friends or your mom any one!  you are so cute!  try to get involved in some clubs and stuff so that you meet more people.  Try alot of things and see what you are good at, and do it!!  i have some self-estem issues but when im playing softball i feel....well i feel happy and i feel like im actully good at something.  find something your good at!!  i hope that helps!\n\nbreson32@yahoo.com\n\nthats my e-mail if you ever need to talk!
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don't feel bad about yourself..you mad have adult ADD..i have it...look at ADD.com...its where you get bored easily.can't focus....even if it's not that..you are not a bad person you just can't make up your mind..you wanna explore everything god has offered in this world that doens't mean theres something wrong with you..don't be so hard on yourself..im 27 have'nt had many jobs..a stay at home mom now and im always down on myself..feel like im not doing anything that contributes to the world...but i read the bible and everythings all better...start going to church and read the bible..jesus will change your views about yourself..no one is perfect...if  you feel you need to see a phyc. go...maybe it will help maybe not..if  you feel in your heart your a good person then just keep going and someday you'll find your way..if  you are unhappy about  yourself change it...you can do anything you put your mind to but no matter what happens or what you decide every one is beautiful in there own way and no one should down themselves...
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Normal is SOOOOO boring, I used to be, now I am a wild child. Be exciting, different, adventure-some, make your own fashion. People will love you more if you are who you are.
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well u could do what i did.... do nothing... let it guide u whereever it takes.. and pleassse dont try to think  sooo much... ur wasting on such wonderful time.. :D\nPEAce