I suspects my  boy friend to be a gay ; But he use our relationship to cover it.?
118010
I was in a similar situation.... It was really weird but I cared about him so much. We finally went our seperate ways and I never did find out. I would not recommend confronting him though. Depending on how long you have been together, it's almost like a violation of trust. You just have to trust your instincts and do what feels right. \n\nGood Luck
779088
yes, let it go. if you really are sure he is, then ask him.  He may deny it, or he may not.  Hacking into his account would show you don't trust him!  And if he finds out he is going to be REALLY mad that you don't!
961734
Tough one!\nI am a gay man and have several really close female friends. Something seems to happen in these relationships that turns them into really special and close friendships. Everything is usually very fun and open. We can talk about anything and just be ourselves without having to try to impress eachother or hold back our innermost feelings and deepest secrets.\nI would try to control your feelings to the best of your ability. It is possible to remain as close as you are without this affecting your close relationship. But please be careful because it sounds to me like you are in the emotional danger zone.\nIf your friend is understanding- tell him how you feel. Let him know that you understand that he is gay and are not trying to change him but that you really admire his qualites. If he is such a loving person, he will be proud and honored that you think so highly of him. ( I know I would be!!)\nJust make sure that you realize the situation that you are in and that a sexual relationship between the two of you would be doomed from day 1.\nGood luck! :)
1104718
You probably do love him. He's your friend and you can't help but love a true friend. Have you talked to him about it? You can always talk to a friend. Has he dated in the past? Have you thought that maybe he is into guys? Gay guys do make the best of friends for girls, they do hide in the closet for a while, and they'd be more likely to send you a gift than a straight guy would. Maybe you two should just stay friends for now, and get to know him a lot better. The more you know about him personally, the easier it will be to tell what his feelings are.
383576
Having explained how understanding you are, I'd say he may not actually be hiding it, he is just not throwing it in your face, might even call it avoiding disrespecting you unintentionally ...your no leash, don't ask ...don't tell trust needs to have a line drawn and if he respects the relationship as much as you, then make sure the phone calls don't become visits when your not around...
965823
Why do you have to do anything?  What does sexual orientation have to do with friendship.  If you care for this person as a friend, I don't see the problem.  I have gay friends, and it has never come between the friendship we share.  If it's something troublesome to you, talk it over with them, I'm sure they would appreciate your honesty.
1110723
I seriously doubt that he's gay but I don't know if he's married or not. Maybe you could ask him yourself somehow.
398528
he pretends not to be gay because he knows there are people like you trying to figure him out for a good bit of gossip. \n\nLeave him alone.
123947
Um... this works the same way as the heterosexual relationships I guess: you confront him, you ask him why he did that, you slap him and leave him. Nobody deserves a second chance when they cheat on you, regardless of what their sexual orientation is. You deserve better. Leave him.
705359
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
976368
It sounds like he may be gay and almost ready to come out of the closet.  You are pretty there is nothing wrong with you it is him.  Dump his azz and get you a real man who has a big d*ck and can't keep his hands off of you.
244310
Elaborate on the facts please.  Are you bi or really gay. Or do you mean boyfriend in platonic sense?  Or are you just putting some BS into the mix because you are bored?
509102
Be careful, he may be playing you. You should try to find out the status of his current relationship, whether he's happy or on verge of breakup or whatever. But to be honest with you If a guy is "Friends" with you he's considered dating you, unless ofcourse he's gay.
989913
Yes, it depends more on the people involved rather than their respective genders. What would be any different about your boyfriend having a gay male friend or you having a lesbian friend? Real relationships are based on trust and center on more than sexual attraction.
838348
just because he may show his feminine side does not make him gay. i know a man raised by his grandmother who showed both sides and he was all man. don't never label your boy gay or guesstimate. you tell someone or somebody that long enough you can make them that way. make sure he mingles with both sexes. if, by chance down the road he is would that make you love him any less?? i hope not Kat
678395
You should be there for him! He has been honest to you and you need to support his decision! Thats what friends are for.  Thats so cool actually because id like a guy friend that was gay.  They are so sweet and caring and make the best friend out of everyone.  Accept his decision and carry on with your friendship as normal.
1156972
there are many different reasons and ways to find out. if you say that you two are really good friends even though you are no longer together, he will understand if you ask him. He might deny if you ask him in an uncomfortable situation. Also, many women are worried that they turn their exes gay. I haven't seen that yet even though I have been accused of being turned by my ex-girlfriend. My friends knew about me years ago in high school. If he is gay, don't think that it is your fault because it isn't. If your friendship is as good as you say, he will be fine with your question regardless and will open up to you. All guys compare themselves to each other. It is part of the male psyche. They may ask a woman or gay man who looks better between them and another. Just answer him honestly. Friends prefer honesty over just trying to make them feel better.