When do you spill the beans to a new partner about your past mistakes?
114846
As with my boyfriend and I ...we like to keep the past in the past. There's no use in bringing up something that might make your partner mad/upset unless they ask about it or it is a serious issue that would concern them needing to know. For example: STD's, crimes...so forth.
528198
Flirting of that nature deserves a direct answer. You can just say that you were unprepared for the events that occured and you need to know.
401810
Just what do you want to make right?\nWork that out and ask the question again.\n\nA lot of times people leave one relationship but don't resolve any of their own issues. They know what the other person did wrong, and they know they wern't happy. The problem is unless we ourselves grow and change, we will most likely just repeat the same mistake over again with a new partner.
573515
How was your last partner.  Never a good question.
265839
I'm with you. It's not just saying it but actually getting the message across the recipient that you mean it. Sometimes just talking and explaining why the mistake was unintentionally done and a show of remorse will usually warrant forgiveness.
841353
If she can't let go of the things in the past because yall have a history together, then maybe it's time to find someone new, whom you have no history with and they cannot yell at you for your past faults. Maybe you won't mess the new relationship up!
43078
Well it depends on if you are...repentant about the mistake you made.  if you are, yes. you should. he'll find out someday and it's better to come from you with a real face of repentance than for him to find out and ruin your relationship because of it. \nIf you aren't repentant and you could care less if your b/f knew, then tell him and break up with him.  'cause if you 'cheated' on him, whats the point in being HIS     friend?
935766
What's wrong with making it too obvious? You ask- have you ever been married? Have you been in many relationships? etc. etc. Getting to know someone is a part of dating and you're entitled to ask. You wouldn't want to be dating someone for 6 months and later find out they'd been married 5 times, would you?
214459
look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
1172710
Have an honest conversation with your spose and remember that you or your partner could have been exposed a long time ago and have just now begun to display symptoms.
116631
You cannot learn from other peoples mistakes, most unfotunately. A lot of people don't even learn from their own mistakes. or how would you explain some women/men always falling for the same type (e.g. cheating abusive etc.) be a friemnd tell them abotu your experience in a similar situation, give them advice and be there as a firend when they fail...
298729
That quote should be used sparingly and not as a mantra.  If you have a pet bird that you love, set it free... and see how long it takes before it's gone and dies outside because it didn't know how to live in the wild.  Many more examples if that isn't good enough.  \n\nAnyway, if you think you made a mistake then try to correct it.  How?  You're going to have to talk to the person, no way around it.  Explain what you were thinking or feeling at the time, and why you think it was a mistake.  Then ask if they're willing to give the relationship another chance.
1055647
I guess that really all depends. What value is there in your partner knowing how many previous partners you've had - as long as you and he are both clean? Traumatic events, in my own opinion, if you think that your past traumatic events could create some problems in your relationship, then it might be best to consider whether or not you and he are meant to be BEFORE indulging him in your entire past. The only reason I say this is because you'll need to trust him completely, and he shouldn't be frightened away by what you've been keeping. Though I'm sure sharing the information would give you some sens of relief, he might become more afraid to engage in certain activities with you knowing your emotional past. Not only that, but what if he leaves you not long after, and were to share this information with others? Childish - yes, but you need to watch out for number 1 first - That number 1 is YOU! Good luck! I hope it all goes well!
211660
have a talk wit her \ntry to find out d reasons for her actions & try to explain her about her mistakes.
342390
First let me say you are not the only one who has been through such things.  I too, have done things which I later regret but at the time I refuse to think about the consequences because at the time it feels right.  You can avoid making the same mistakes twice by learning from your first mistake.  Before you do something on impulse..evaluate the situation, think about the pros and cons and then decide if it's worth it.
232839
You are honest enough to realise that you have done something wrong to someone, which itself shows u have taken responsibility of it. You cannot immediately confront him as iam sure he too is just recovering from whatever it is you have done to him. You have to wait, be patient. Once when the time is right, when things are a bit silent, you have to talk to him and get it over with. Meet him alone in person and in the first instance, start apologising  and then u owe him an explanation on why u had to do it. And last, tell him how awful you feel about what u did. And wait for him to react, listen to him, positive or negative...it doesnt matter..as much as you have admitted your mistake, give him a chance to let whats in his mind to come out. You have to take it from there, i guess. If that person has forgiven you, then great..but if he hasnt, and goes on abusing or accusing u and making u feel that you have sent him to hell, well...listen to it and simply walk away..you cannot force him to forgive you...\n\nYou did your  part and i'll bet u will feel a lot relieved. It wont irritate you in ur mind that you didnt clear it up, so well done, you have done ur part! pat urself for being brave!!
785
Well, the best way to tell is to invite him to lunch one day and take him out and make good friends of him and eventually he might forgive and forget the mistake.\n\nIf you dont like this then you could talk to him about it when ever you get to personally meet him.\n\nYou could also email him saying that You did not mean exactly what went wrong, but yet making him understand that you are equal to all employess. End the email with, I have lots of confidence on the other projects he was doing and that you did not want to put pressure on him with more of the projects.