I have a a group of friends that I love being around... but I know they are not good for me. What do I do?
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there are two choices:\ndont let them influence you\nand the other one is drop them
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I don't know how big this group of friends are, but I am sure you are a great friend. \n\nYou stand out from the crowd! Congradulations! Everyone is pretty in their own way and I am sure you there is something that your friends dont have! For example, the latest CD's (judging by your name), elegance, the best colour hair/eyes, great skin, intelligence, a boyfriend, the best book collection, poise, attitude...\n\nIs there maybe one friend who is simular in a way and also stands out from the crowd? Do these sound like any of your friends(maybe one in particular)?\n1. Who agnolowloges you a bit more? \n2. Does this person talk to about their own worries to you in private instead of the rest of the group? \n3. Is there one friend who sticks by you?\n4. One friend who asks how you are often? \n5. One person who would go anywhere with you? \n6. One person who phones you a lot?\n7. Have any of your friends ever told you how great a friend you are? \n8. If you were in an argument with another friend, did your closer friend stay with you, feel the same as you, comforted you, try to set peace?                                This is another sign of true friendship.If so then you are special. Try to stick to this friend a bit more and don't feel left out in a conversation. Instead of thinking "God this is annoying not knowing what the hell they are talking about" think "Is there anybody else in the group who doesn't know what the hell is going on." Try to relate these to one of your friends and stick by them! If you have been arguing with one of these friends a lot/recently or been to quite to even say you didn't like their actions then maybe this shouldn't be your closer friend. Just don't tell them. \n\nSTOP BEING BIASED! You seem to be think negative rather than positive about your self. Try and boost your confidence by\n1. Talk to yourself in the mirror every day about your life achievments.\n2. Writing down every good thing about your self. Look at these when you are sad.\n3.Write down every thing bad about your self. Try to improve on these or if you feel really upset then rip them up to feel in control. \nTell your self you arn't a mouse but you are a lion!\nSoon your confidence will rise and so will your popularity though popularity is a contest you just don't want to know!
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Try not to take it personally that they want to spend time with others, too. I know it's hard-- everyone goes through it. Try to find someone or something else to occupy your thoughts and free time-- and really enjoy the next time you do hang out with your best friend. Just remember: "best friend" doesn't neccessarity translate into "only friend".
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maybe you just need some time out from your friend, if they have been a good friend you should try and maintain that friendship... be careful about your decision in whether you no longer want the friendship, you could regret it later... like I said time out, you need a break, see how you feel then
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its ok if your too nice sometimes but other thime like this just turn around and be like''hey i need a little space its cool to hang out with you guys but i kind of want a little time for my othe friends to'' i mean tell them yall can still hang out just not all the time it might be a shock to them but the'lll get use to it trust me
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You cant tell your friends what to do. what you have to do is either just let them be who they are now, and hope they will eventually go back to normal. Until then, you keep doing your own thing and being your own person!! more props to you for being urself, that is a hard thing to do.  If they dont come around, find some other friends that are themselves, then you all can have fun! meeting new people is fun anyway! good luck!
736878
Maybe you should talk to your friends and tell them the nice things about them that are true. If they don't want to, let them know what they missing out on.
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you cant, if they choose not to accept you the way you are then you have to accept that they are not really your friends. dont waste the time and energy on people who cant accept you for who you are. be true to yourself there are amny people out there who are open minded. you will make plenty of true friends.
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Don't try to please everybody.  You can't.  Find a small group that shares your interests.  Start there.  Your friendships will grow.\n\n\nMany shallow friendships cannot equal a few deep ones.
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Hi Holly.  Listen, 'real' friends don't put you down, aren't mean to you & don't make you choose between them & someone else.  'Real' friends are there for you - they encourage you, help you out, you should feel good about yourself when you are around them.  I suggest that you look around for some people who you share common interests in -- maybe music or drama or sports or band or art or church or something.  Build on that commonality.  Make sure that as you are building a relationship with these new people to keep watch for anything that doesn't feel like a 'real' friend.  There are nice people out there - you have to look for them.  Hope you find some 'real' friends soon!  :)
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I am in that exact situation now.  I have 2 groups of close friends that hate each other and are constantly bitching about each other to me, who's stuck in the middle.  I deal with it by telling them I get on with all of them and I won't listen to them bitching about each other cos it is seriously annoying.  It's a hard spot to be in but if you get on with them all you have to stay on the fence.
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Try to ignore them as much as possible...even if it is a friend.  They are just jealous of your happiness.  You know that you deserve to be happy and no one should come in the way of that.
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If your so called friends are treating you so poorly then I don't think they are really your friends to begin with.  Find new people to hang out with that really care about you for who you are and won't judge or make fun of you.
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Relax, a lot of us have been in the same situation.  I was never one to have many friends and because I was one of the smallest in my class a lot of people often tried to pick on me.  I learned that the best thing to do is simply not care about what other people think or say.  I learned to accept who I was and the fact that a lot of people are just mean or idiots.  In the end I had a few good friends and people left me alone because they found out they didn't matter to me and the things they said and did didn't bother me.  If they know what they do affects you then they keep doing it just because they get a reaction out of you.
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your friends are people who like you for who u are\ni guess the question should be how to keep my friends and the answer is by being yourself\njust being real...really you\n\nand one other thing\nbe nice to them\n\nthese xtics will make any good friend stick....u know people might want to be your friend for selfish reasons.those friends wont last.\nAny person that is your frind coz of fame,face etc will leave when all these disappears\nbe careful
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Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
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well apparently you just need to find people who have the same interests (and standards) that you do...if someone screws you over then thats not your fault and they should realise that 'whatever they did to you' is messed up and apologize or risk losing a friend....and for the future, friends come and go so dont take it so personally