im 18 and i have a hard time getting intimate with people i want to but i just tense up what do i do?
111352
first of all there is nothing wrong with you. you just arent ready to do what you want to yet. give yourself time. dont let peer pressure or even self pressure push you into something you dont really want. when the time is right and the partner is right then it will happen the way it is meant to.
724379
okay, i have been in your shoes so i can understand where you are coming from, its not easy dating  a white guy,most times when i and friends go out (they'd stare, smile, wink), they do all that but never approach, 2ndly am still a virgin, am 19 and am in my 3rd year of university..so u know what....take this from me....don't worry..talk to people, being shy can be very good but you need to come out of the cocoon okay (at your own pace) don't mind what everybody says, it's your life.....i saw your pics and your'e a pretty girl so just go with the flow for now......i was also raised to feel the guy had to make the first move,  but you soon realise its a 2 way street (someday your'e gonna feel daring and you'll go for it) just take things easy.....when it comes, it comes..if not go out there and get it (cautiously)......as for having a child like face...watever....it's your face.....if they aren' t impressed by that wow them with your mind.......\nhope this helps......
274431
i know its not the same but i have this problem as a woman,,, sometimes u try so hard that your body freezes up and the more you go at it the worse it gets , just relax you will find that it will happen wen u least expect it try having sex unexpectidley in places that are new to you and your partner you may find that this will help xx worth a try x
1130304
you shouldn't feel pressured at all (although i think most of us did at that age) you should just wait until it feels natural for you and do it with whoever it feels natural to do it with.
564519
get a boyfriend or ask one of ur guy friends to have sex with you??? but i highly suggest u finding a boyfriend.. if ur too desperate then just think of other things. instead of worrying so much about it.
453915
I remember being 19 and not feeling confident.  That's okay, the confdence will develop as you mature.  Stay focused on the positive aspects of your life and continue to reach for your goals and dreams.  Be patient with yourself.  You sound like an intelligent person who will end up on her feet.
337703
You haven't experienced enough things yet.  Just take your time and grow up.  No rush!
235000
Hmm. Tough qestion. Why cant I get a relationship also? HAhax. It's most probably you are too good that people fear to get close to you. They are afraid that they are not good enough for you. Another possible thing is you are too bad and people dont want to get close to you which i doubt is the case. Maybe u r a backgrd figure? IF u are, try to be more vocal and make people notice u. Smile more. Be kind to others. People will realise that u are a good catch. MAke more friends first. DOnt rush in to things. Slow and steady. XD Wish u all the best.
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Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..
99481
actually i am impressed that there are still guys out there that arent so pushy. I dont think you are too young to be kissing and trust me everyone feels wierd at first. It really all depends on how mature you are and if your ready to be kissing.  Only do things that you are comfortable doing-and things that you can live with doing-even if it is just a kiss!
938831
As with anyone, you should not feel pressured into anything.  You will know when the time is right.  If you feel "awkward", with the idea of a physical relationship, it does not sound like you are ready.
662662
My friend there is no problem.\nDon't take tension. It happens to all.\nGod has gifted you, mind. If you want your \npanis should stand for more time then you can \nonly think about a beautiful & sexy girl. \nAnd think that you are kissing her,(A French Kiss).\nThat can be your solution.
952182
Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
741515
You are very "rational" and might lack some sexual interest. You may be creative and artistic (with a sense for detail) but above all you are rather nervous and fearful. Expect love at first sight.
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
267583
Why not just relax...forget about the  sexual side of it and just enjoy the people your hanging out with? Wait for your transition into adulthood is finalized before you start experimenting!
177136
if your feeling a bit apprehensive but would still like to me them, make sure you bring a friend along or meet in a public place like a restaurant or cafe. you could even get a friend to ring you at a certain time so that if things are not going well you can get out of the situation. always make sure  someone you know, knows where you are going to be. you can never be too careful with someone you dont know well. good luck...