im on diet and i gained weight please help me i can`t look to my self in the miror anymore!!!!??
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Most people agree that "diets" aren't a long-term solution. Lifestyle changes are needed to effect a long-term weight loss. Try Weight Watchers. Journaling what you eat, weighing-in each week, attending meetings and regular exercise are your best solutions.
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You need to find out what's triggering you to cheat.  I'd almost guarantee it is not because you're hungry.  It's probably due to an emotional factor like stress, anxiety, depression, etc. and that's understandable since you have three small children.  Keep a food diary (be honest in it or it's pointless) and instead of only writing down the amount & how much you eat, write down how you felt beside it.  That should help you identify what types of triggers you have, if you're honest in doing it.  And nobody is going to see it but you so you have no reason to be anything but honest.\n\nI'm not sure how time srapped you are or what your financial situation is but if you can hire a personal trainer at a local gym, DO.  For me, it wasn't enough to just join a gym - I could skip anytime I wanted and nobody ever knew.  But when you have an appointment with another person, you're much more likely to go.  \n\nAnd instead of being on a diet, make a lifestyle change.  Because inevitabley when you go off your diet, you'll just gain the weight again.  You need to try to change your eating habits for good - not just for a short period of time to drop some weight.  \n\nWeight Watchers is a really good program too because you have a meeting every week where there is a whole network of people dealing with the same thing.  \n\nJust keep trying, no matter what.  You can't loose a battle if you're still fighting it and I know losing weight is definitely a battle for some us.  Hang in there!!
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It sounds like you are at a pretty good weight.  You have to be happy with your body, nobody else.  If you feel underweight gain a few pounds, but if you feel overweight lose a few pounds.  Its you being happy with your body that is important.
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Remind those that make comments about your weight gain that it's due to the meds you've been on to help you get healthier. I know exactly how you feel! I have always been a size 4 until I got sick last October. I was on antibiotics and then steriods (Predisone is the worst!!!) and I've put on  weight. I try not to worry about what others think of me and my weight gain, I just remind myself that the weight can come back off!
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Sweetie, definitely talk to a therapist or counselor...your body image issues are more than anyone here can help you with, especially in this forum/medium.\n\nYou need to find out what is and is not possible to make healthy changes to your body, and what you will have to learn to like and live with, because it's just part of who you are and how you look...some people have big ears, and just have to learn to live with them...\n\nTake care of you...your phsycial appearance isn't half as important as your health...
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Sometimes. Look at your work load and stress level.Did you change your eating habits in anyway? Sometimes we push our bodies  beyond our limits without knowing it. Are you really unhappy about yourself or your life. if then it could be depression. Take a good look at what has changed in your life. That could be the reason. Good Luck in finding your answer.
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You really need to talk to a registered dietitian.\nGood luck.
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no. go look in a mirror and even if its hard, try to think about it realistically.  look at yourself as a whole instead of focusing in on different parts here and there.  you are not fat, you are thin. \ni have a feeling that you dont eat very healthily and my advice is too eat regularly, even if its not a lot. even if its less than you should, eat regularly.
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work out.... starving yourself just slows down your matabilism and that wont help, cause then when you indulge you dont burn fat off so fast. WALK, RUN, SWIM, USE THE TREMILL< just go exercise and eat normally.
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Dear, I used to have low self-esteem over my weight too. I ballooned like a hot air balloon when I was a little younger.\nIt mattered so much to me because I was worried what others might think of me, that others would laugh at me and looked badly at me.\nIt mattered that I had a crush on one of my classmates once - I never told him nor took it any further than just treating him like eye candy and a good way to get motivated for school and my studies, but I was so self-conscious whenever I was around him I tried to basically time and 'control' every move I made, everything I said according to how I'd be perceived by others.\n\nAs a result of that, I became like a clown. Do you know why? Because instead of letting my inner beauty and personality shine (which many of my friends have complimented me about - isn't it a suggestive hint?), I made myself like a sideshow freak, doing whatever I thought would gain the approval of the people around me, to gain their acceptance. I even tried to go on a diet, not because I wanted to lead a healthy lifestyle, but because I thought he'd prefer a slimmer girl!\nLater, a year or two later, I became frustrated with what I was doing. Before this crush, I had been self-conscious of myself, but I was also a loner and an extreme introvert who went everywhere alone and did everything alone. Because of that, I never had to 'pretend' to anything or anyone as there was nothing to pull a facade to!\nThat freedom was very fulfilling in a sense. But I wanted to have a small network of friends I could rely on too, and as I matured I realised that keeping completely to myself and shutting myself out from the rest of the world wasn't going to do me any good in the future.\nSorry for digressing, as I was saying, I felt so frustrated, what was I doing? It was so exhausting to just go around pretending to be something I didn't want to be! Hell, if I wanted to say 'screw you' to someone I didn't like what should be stopping me? Because I don't want to look 'bad' in front of others, or because it's impolite?\nInstead of focusing on what others think, try to focus on yourself.\nWhen I became less self-conscious, and slowly, (don't have to rush it, do what's comfortable for you), added more of my own personality, myself, to show everyone, did you know what happened?\nI realised that others thought I was "cool" despite being a little chubbier, because I was nice, but I had my own attitude, my own 'thing' going. That people admired, because that's the same shackles (being self-conscious and having low self-esteem) many of them are stuck in!\nI made more friends. I knew who were the good ones and the bad - usually they're the ones who stick by you in times of need and not hang around hoping that being around you would earn them brownie points with others.\n\nMy crush never confessed that he liked me, but close sources to him (I had lots of guy friends.. they help to infiltrate the 'guy world'. Most of the time, the guy world is men only. Even if they'd like to admit me in it'd break the rules cuz I'm a girl, haha :P) and myself leaked to me and it turned out he HAD developed a crush on me, but he was too shy.\nHe was a popular guy in the school.\nLater, he kept giving me glances, kept 'bumping' onto me during the strangest times (I was a weird kid. I hung around after school hours just 'haunting' the corridors, taking in the scenery from the balcony, thinking of new ideas to write a story or draw something, sat in the classroom after school to draw/study/write, etc. Very reclusive. But I enjoyed it.) because normally, after school hours, there'd be a stampede to get out of the school. AND he was never known to actually stay back for anything.\nHe found a zillion ways to talk to me and joke with me, and we became friends. He's still a friend, but of course, the old crush is gone
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Look child.  F that.  Stop trying to be a stick.  You did not gain weight over night and you will not loose it over night.  It will probably take you 3 times and long to loose it as it did to gain it.  I know.  I used to be super skinny, and I an now like a size 14/16.  I would love to loose 40-50 pounds and be a size 8, but I must learn to love myself no matter what weight I am.  I have lost and gained over the years, but I have learned from all success and failure.  You will derail your efforts if you stop eating or start throwing up.  Not only will you loose fat, but you will loose muscle.  You need to build up your muscle first by doing some resistance training so that you will burn more fat while you are at rest.  You may also need to try a diet program like weight watchers or myonlinefooddiary.com.  Remember we gain and loose sometimes because of stress or depression.  You need to heal your inside first before you focus on your outside.  Once you love yourself being big, you will see how many other people love big women too.  Be good, and think about it please.
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I was like that this week, just build up by eating and you will be back to normal within a day or 2.  It worked for me.  It's probably because your stomach doesn't expand doesn't want food.  Just try eating :)
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Hallo Angel,\nThe problem with diets is that they almost never provide all the nutrients the body needs, they just cut out calories or whatever their particular fad may be.\nIf you don't get the necessary nutrients your body goes into 'starvation' mode and stores fat, no matter how little food you eat.\nGo and see a qualified nutritionist. They can advise you on the right food for YOU to eat, and on what you should avoid.\nThen you can start thinking about some exercise. But first you need to get your nutrition sorted out.\nBless you, Angel. I do wish you all the luck in the world.\nJon C
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girl, the first thing is that you have admitted you have a problem.  good for you.\n\ntell your parents.  get a nutritionist to help you figure out what to eat to get you healthy again, and a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders to help you figure out why you have such a skewed view of yourself.\n\nit sounds like from what you said you have both anorexia and bulemia.  both can take the life you have been given away from you.  no matter what you think of yourself, you owe it to the people who love you to fight this.  get off the computer and get help.\n\nquit talking about it now.  do something.
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you're asking the wrong questions... not did i gain weight, but why am i freaked out about gaining weight. i think you need to get some help with this, you are not over your eating disorder.
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i understand.  been in that boat.  u gotta do something to re-start your metabolism.\nlots of different things can help.\n*drinking more water than u do already.\n*do a liquid diet for a couple of days.\n*up your exercise routine.\nbut what i did when i hit the weight loss slump, i became a vegetarian!
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a counselor /therapist can help you with this...your other posts suggest you are pregnant,have diabetes, headaches--etc\n\nfeeding turmoiled emotions with food can make one fat