my boyfriend stays@my house all the time&wont even offer2help buy food or anything that he uses too/what 2 do?
105206
Dump the mooch. He will take advantage of you as long as you let him. That seems to be human nature.\n\nIf he isn't offering to help out, that speaks volumes about his character. You shouldn't have to ask him to contribute. This is a red flag - don't ignore it. It's only going to get worse.
797063
Stop doing everything for him and give him a taste of what it would be like if you weren't around.  He is using you, wake up!
1176186
There are many ways to take care of someone. Do you mean\ndomestic things like cleaning the house or do you mean taking care of him financially. You must be your own person. If taking care of him involves things that you don't mind doing, it is OK but if he is using you and you don't like it , dump his b-tt.
738259
I responded to your first question..but Ill say it again. Talk to him nicely and find out what the underlying issue is. I really think it is more than money. He resents you for something that may or may not have nothing to do with money. Sounds like the overall relationship is not so healthy. It may be time to move on. Do you have a family member to move in with. If you really want to try to make it work...see a counselor-but start with talking to him yourself. He might open up to you and tell you why he doesnt want to help you out.  Good luck.
173328
you tell him in straight forward manner. You expect rent, utility, and food money. If he disagrees, tell him that it is not your responsibility to take care of him. Treat him like an adult and be firm. If it gets to be two on one then its time to move yourself out.\n\nADDED\n\nif its your house then you can tell then its your way or the highway.
1058622
Instead of doing shopping therapy, you spoil you boyfriend. CONGRATULATIONS! You are his ''GOD GIFT''! Do you know how many men would like to be on his place? If you enjoy it , go on girl! I'm with you!!!!
1112680
What? You don't really go for this do you? \nFirst of all you are there to see your boyfriend..not the r.m.\nsecond..you are all three grown people...this is not college.\nand third what the hell does ur man say about this?? \nOk, I say you need to talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels about it. He pays his share of the bills whether you are there or not so if you are buying what you eat his roommate needs to shut up. I don't think you should be told you are responsible for meals and chores if you are a guest. And thats what you are. You are the guest of your boyfriend so as far as I'm concerned the R.M. can go straight to hell. If you want to buy dinner thats your choice so don't let him tell u what u should do. He should be a grown a** man who cooks and cleans his own sh**! You didn't get a boyfriend to become a step parent to a grown man!!
1141244
Tell him to get off his butt and support his family! If he is lazy, threaten to kick him out of the house. He's the man of the house, and he needs to pull his own weight more than anyone else.
401907
i think u should be honest..tell him exactly wat u've told us..if u want even mail him this question..show him how much u care for him..that u want others help in order not to hurt him..don't accuse him just ask him if he's happy where he's staying..no one reacts well wen being accused or screamed at..try to remember that..hope he opens his eyes to wats happening..take care
645356
First of all, I congratulate you for sticking around so long and trying to make it work. But it sounds like he wants you for all the fun and none of the responsibility. If he wants you home, but refuses to give you money, serious issue in my books. Its saying to me...share my house, but I don't trust you with my money. But, oh yeah, you gotta be home for me whenever. Yuck, sounds controlling to me. For me, the deal breaker would be no more kids. I have 3 right now, and if my hubby said no after the first, I woulda moved on. I love the guy, but its been in my heart since I was a child to have lots of kids. If your relationship were giving, a marriage, and sounded like there was a partnership it would be one thing. But he sounds controlling and like he's dangling the maybe of marriage just to keep you around. So tell him how you feel. Tell him you need more (more kids, a marriage, a guy that devotes as much time to his family as his job). If he's not seriously making improvements in the next few months, I'd start finding a family member to help you until you can get a job and a place. You are still plenty young, and don'y stay with him cause you are unsure of what-ifs. God bless!!
392437
They don't always let you down, but your boyfriend surely is.  Why isn't he working?  I know you know this, but he won't change.  You don't have to move home, but you might want to move out of this relationship.  And take him off of your accounts!\n\nGood luck.
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Try sitting down with him and calmly (and nicely) talking with him about it in explanation. I suppose that you have just recently moved out of his home and he misses you - is that right?\n\nWell, it's only natural, I suppose. I can imagine that if I were a father - especially the father of a lovely lady - that I would be ridiculously "clingy" and not want her out there running around all by herself. What would happen if she came across a bottle of ketchup that she couldn't pry open on her own? My God, how could she eat hamburgers then?!\n\nBut seriously, he is probably very worried about you being off on your own. Keep in mind that this is a new experience for him, too!\n\nSo, talk with him, and explain your situation and what you can and cannot do. I am sure that he will understand (though he is bound to be a bit sad, but that's only normal). To make him feel better, just visit him every now and then, but make your visits memorable and fun. Bring him a pie; I don't know of any fellow who would turn that down. :D\n\nBest of luck!
285987
Are you at his house? Is he at your house? Are you two living together? By reading your question, I will say that you put too much weight on this matter.  My mother is like that.  She will stay up all night waiting to see when my father or me will come home if we said something wrong that day.  This is normal human behavior. However, I like to caution you that a relationship which consist of arguing and one person staying up all night until the other person coming home (so that they can talk) is no real relationship.  He is probably seeing someone I'm sorry.  A man is not a REAL man if he can't be precise.  Men tends to excused themselves to get some free time or some space.  Sweety, in the long run, you are going to be the one who loses at the end.  You will never feel any better in the morning, trust me.  There are many other nice guys out there.  However, please look at the situation carefully and see why are you two arguing.  You may be the problem.  All your worries at night will just push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.  If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriends and your family about this.  This is SERIOUS matter.  A sweetheart like you does not need to be staying up all night and worrying like that.  Instead you should be sleeping well and warm and waking up to beautiful flowers next to you, from him.  Do not do anything more to stress you..   Serpeanta@yahoo.com
566644
You really must cut your ties! May I suggest that you take a few food items to her, explain that you cannot afford to do this on a regular basis. Once there, have a good look around the home. Is she still useing you? Should you contact the proper authorities because there really is no food?
131529
Say What? I hope he's living in your dog house. Why are you allowing this dude to crash at your your place without working for 13 years??? Is he disabled? If not, tell him to find a job. Pick your self-esteem off the floor and dump this loser then maybe you'll find someone better.  Good Grief.
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Its getting routine... Spice it up a little, when you know he is coming home prepare a picnic in your living room or something similar that is romantic.  He could be like that for a lot of reasons, men have periods too it seems.  Spice up the relationship do something that you havent done before, if  you still dont get a response, then maybe you two need to sit and really talk about whats going on.
515054
He will probably not return.  You can hang a pair of socks out on the knob should he return.  Be wary!  I would not let him in your house or respond to any sob stories.  Con artist in the making!  You can hang out a sandwich as well but don't answer the door.