I get a very hard erection while masyurbating and at night but not during sexual activity with my partner?
100602
try showing your partner how to touch you, how you like! Sharing how to turn each other on even more makes the experience better AND the orgasms more regular!
908840
when me and my guy got 2gether im a woman by the way we loved each other instanly but whenever we got intimate he couldnt reach full erection yet if we were messing about thered be no trouble but that carried on 4 a while until we told each other how we both felt wed never shared our feelings with 1another, but soon after that its like he never had erection problems, strange hey he told me after that he was unsure about his size and didnt think he was man enough 4 me, (hed kill me if he knew i was telling people this) but then when i convinced him and showed him hes more than enough 4 me he got over it 1year later and weve got a brilliant sex life but now weve got more of lifes other problems, ha\nhope this helps\ntake care\nx x x x
385910
It could be diabetes.  Check out http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes-symptoms.jsp\n\nDepression: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm\n\nHigh Blood Pressure:  http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=2114\n\nand any of those things can lead to erectile dysfunction:  http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/impotence/\n\nIt may be an affair, or that he's not as invested as he should be, but it could be a signal that something medical is amiss and needs to be checked out.  Of course, you must be sensitive in how you approach the subject.  He could very well be avoiding you because he's embarrassed about it.\n\nUnresolved anger or repressed anger may be an issue.  How well do you communicate with each other?  Would he be open to counseling?\n\nI hope you find the cause and have a resolution soon.  For the sake of his health, try to find a discreet way of getting him to the doctor, just in case.  It could be a sign of a serious health concern.
413269
Just to correct a couple of of bits of misinformation...\n\nED can be physical, psychological or a mix of the two.\nAn erection is best described as a "psychohydraulic experience.."\nIn the case that you describe, if everything functions normally during masturbation, then the issue might be psychological, possibly performance anxiety or some kind of issue with the lady of the moment..\nPerhaps the timing's wrong, or you're trying to rush things...\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that, during masturbation, it's all about you - your attention is focused solely on your own sensations and enjoyment.  Sex with a partner is a lot more complicated, and it's not just mutual masturbation.\n\nThe best thing to do is to talk frankly with your partner.. presumably she is aware there is a problem... and it's certainly in her interest to get it sorted out, as well as yours.\n\nIt might be that you're not getting the right amount/kind of attention from her that you give yourself...  not enough foreplay...  too fast, too slow, too hard, too soft...  there's a million variables.  \nTry letting her watch you masturbate, so she can see what works, then let her take over... \n\nMost importantly, relax, take your time, and don't let stress get to you... worrying about it is the worst thing you can do.  Relax and enjoy.\n\nHope that helps, and good luck
102424
more foreplay, the longer you have an erection without sex, the more your buddy gets used to the feeling of being stiff.  During sex, don't just thrust til you spew, get a good rythm going, then ease it off, pay attention to her needs, then go back to thrusting, etc
1135536
Maybe this is a frequency thing...are you having sex less frequently? And now when you do you can't take it as long because you are not "used" to it.  \n\nYou know, kind of like exercise when you first start back. You can be a bit sore at first before you start to build up your strength and stamina. \n\nHang in there gal...you will get that stamina back. Just as long as you are both having fun.
585039
This is very normal! Most healthy men wake up in the morning with an erection. Men have several erections a night as part of their sleep cycle. Many times they wake up and find they are still erect.\n\nA man's penis becomes erect in response to sexual arousal and excitement, but it can also become erect as a result of deep relaxation, such as what's experienced in deep sleep — with or without dreams. An erection is caused by a rush of blood to the penis. A man's penis, especially a young man's penis, can also become erect without any kind of arousing stimulation - this is called a "spontaneous erection."\n\nHope this information helps!
837917
If it lasts more than 3 or 4 hours it is imperative that you get to an emergency room.  This condition can be very dangerous to a man.  I am not aware of anything you can do at home if an erection persists so you must get medical help.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
128059
It’s a normal thing that generally occurs to anybody when sleeping and precisely during the “dream” phase of the sleep called REM (just at the end of the sleep-time).\nGenerally they are hot dreams that we don’t remember when awake. Of course younger the subject is and longer and stiffer the erections are. Ok?\n(My God how many silliness I read as answers here!)
739315
This could be a psycological thing.  That shouldn't scare you, but perhaps you could talk to your partner if there's something they're not doing for you, or maybe you're nervous or your mind is elsewhere.  Do you want to do things your partner doesn't?  Perhaps you could try changing positions or mixing things up a little.  Don't be afraid to try new things or change old ones.  If you talk it over with your partner then maybe you can work something out - I'm sure they'll be understanding.
463327
Some men have a sort of "banana penis", no this is not a joke. I knew a guy whose penis was almost bent at right angles during erection, but completely normal when not aroused. During sex the penis straightened out, so there were no problems, it just looked weird. Don't panic, you are not alone.
251660
unless you have bad diabetes or high blood pressure (which you probably don't), it's psychological - lighten up... take your time in bed with someone that turns you on and is patient instead of just demanding performance.
1039504
the first thing I suggest is to get a thorough work up by a doctor to see if there is a physiological reason for this. \n\nI also sugggest you take the pressure off of yourself and do not try to have sex again until you find out what is going on with you to cause the impotence. No point in setting yourself up to feel inadequate again.\n\nYou can just be honest with the girl you really like and tell her you are not ready to have sex until you find out what's causing the impotence.\n\nIf she drops you for that then she wasn't worth it.\n\nIf the doctor finds nothing wrong physiologically then it sounds like a physchological issue. \n\nAt that point I would go talk to a counselor or therapist.
538479
really? I think u have some disorder. Its either medical or between your ears. If its not medical you live in a fantasy world. Dream about it but dont post it here. If you realy horny u can overflow precum at night, but I dont think its sperm after 3-4 ejaculations.
895474
Stress is the #1 cause of this...  The best way to help is to exercise and maintain a healthy diet, and make sure you are getting plenty of sleep.  They say you should force yourself to have sex as much as possible, since the more you have it the more you want it...you somewhat have to retrain your brain!
695920
This happens cause hormone levels are highest in early AM - the perfect time for the guys to lean over and take that morning wood and make love to their girlfriends with it.  What a way to start each day !!!!\n\nduring the night - guys get hard-ons cause their body is programmed to send blood into the penis - to give it oxygen so the tissues will not atrophy.  these night erections are not due to dreams of sex,  arousal or anything voluntary.   It is programmed by God to send oxygen-rich blood to vitalize those tissues.
372277
Most men can go through moments of temporary impotence. This sounds like a purely psychological problem rather than a physical one. This might sound cheesy (no pun intended) you could try watching an erotic movie together, only if your girlfriend is willing though. Don't try to make love like you have it fitted into your daily agenda, be spontanious to keep the exitement alive. If you plan to have sex you will start to worry all day long i.e "what if i can't get an erection again, she will think i don't love her anymore, she will start looking for someone else, i can't satisfy her anymore" etc....It is probably only a temporary thing. If you are going through a stressfull time that can have an effect, if you are suffering from depression that can have an effect. Reassyre your girlfriend that you love her, don't keep your fears to yourself, talk your problem through. You should be ok though.