i love my best friend,,he was attracted to me as well but he started to change,i want to keep him what can i d
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if you want to have him back...ACT to change yourself...u will watch the magic...i bet..!!\nNow wat and how to do, is ur job..
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if he is your best friend, there is nothing wrong letting him know how you feel. as long as you know he is not going to use it against your friendship. if he reciprocate favorable with your feelings, maybe it will go to another level? if not, hope you two remain the best of friend....good luck..
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Hold on to your virtue sister.  It is ok to have him as a friend.  Better a friend than an enemy.  There was probably no hard feelings when he went his own way.  He probably still likes you but he is just a man who will get it any way he can.
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Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
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Best friends make the best lovers. Let him know how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same and doesn't want to give the relationship a try, then so be it. One day he will turn around. If you cant handle not being with him, take some time away from him so you can get over it.
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I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
925515
Get rid of the one that went out with your friend, because it will only get worse.  Stay with the one you realy love, because he may give love back to you, which will make you feel good outside and in.
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Obviously you havent gotten over the fact that he doesnt want to date you. Maybe you should jump on the horse and go out on a date...not exactly get a boyfriend...just go out...have fun...spend time not thinking about him.\n\nIf you're best friends you dont want to lose that, I've been in that situation being in love with your best friend...it's horrible when you realize they dont feel the same...I got lucky...my best friend told me that I would find the man of my dreams and realize that it wasnt him...and he was right...but it took about a year before that happened. \n\nJust give it time and things will get better...if not easier. You just need time to cope.\n\nBest of luck
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dont keep them to yourself you might miss out on a great relationship....if you guys already know how to be friends thats a good start on having a relationship...the only bad thing is that if it dont work out you guys will probably loose your friendship...but you have to decide that one on your own...is it worth it...can you actually see yourself being with this person and it actually working...or is it to far fetched for you two to be togther..at least you will still have him there for you as a friend in the end..talk to him about it...the worst he could say is no i dont want to ruin our friendship...but atleast you dont have to hide your feelings for him and he'll know...whatever you decide i wish you the best...good luck
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i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
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If the guy you are with now love and cherishes you stay with him love him let yourself be loved. For your friend stay clear he will only end up ruining what you and your guy have. Tell him you do not mind talking to him once in awhile but not all the time and that you are very much in love with your man.
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alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
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It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
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You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
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Forget about it, be his/her best friend instead. Gay is gay, you will never be really loved in return and it only leads to unhappiness.\nGo out and find someone else - it sounds trivial, but in time it works.
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he's right you cant, it is hard to love some one who doesn't feel the same but if you don't want to lose their friendship you just need to let her go, and realize that all you will ever be is a friend. and love her as a friend. and let it be.
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Tell him you love him, respect your differences and don't try to change his beliefs to match your own.  And be prepared to lose your best guy friend, because once you become lovers it is very difficult to salvage the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. Remaining friends after being lovers happens sometimes, but not often.