How can an attractive 43 yr old single Mom find a man who is truly ready for a relationship & not quick sex??
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Stop looking. The man you want will show interest in you first.
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Erick,\nlet me say this to you.  Age is something that measures time, nothing more.  Spend good quality time with this person, don't let your emotions get the best of you, both of you need to talk about your concerns.  Of course a woman of 34 is going to know more than you sexually, and this can be attractive to you.  Because most women your age, aren't in touch with there feelings or even their bodies yet.  Maybe they just got out of college or maybe still there, they aren't ready to settle down for a serious relationship and shouldn't.  This could also apply to you, but if your mature enough, which that happens to some men, it did with my son, and he has a wonderful family now.\nCommunication,,,,,,  it's that simple, the most important key in any relationship.  Talk to this woman, find out what her goals are, and then see if you can makes things work.  It's not going to be easy, but it can work with a lot of patients.  \nI do wish you both all the best, it would be nice to find someone, who I would consider spending the rest of my life with, and when God feels it's time, then it will happen...  BUT, I am not going to force open in doors, WE all know what happens when you do that...\nAll the best to you Erick,\n\nCurt
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Hey Hun....No you're not alone....I am also young but have never been interested in just getting laid...I've always been more interested in a strong long term relationship...For me...The relationships always start off like they will last forever...and then BAM! all the effort and love I put into those relationships are taken for granted....I'm dealing with this sort of thing now with my boyfriend of almost 1 yr and half...He just up and decided he needed a break...now when we talk it's awkward...and there is no love in his voice...it breaks my heart and I too feel afraid that one day I will wake up and be 40 and have no one....no kids and no life...and end up hating myself for not being able to find a real relationship where both people love equally....it's scary...but alot of people say "you're young and you will find someoen to respect who you are...and WANT to be with you as much as you WANT  to be with them" I know it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for everyone...But as hard as it is...what other idea can we really hold on to? I hope you find someone to share your life with too...GOOD LUCK hun....feel free to e-mail me...if you wanna chat more...or add me to msn....hoffababe@hotmail.com...caio
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Don't loose your hope. Second, stop looking for him. Try to meet men without hoping them to be available or Mr, Right. \n\nIf you expect to find Mr, Right you never will. None of us are perfect.\n\nSecond, don't worry if they're taken. Relationships aren't forever, people break up, get divorced and die, so there are good people becoming single all the time.\n\nRelax and it will get to you once you've stopped looking.
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One place for you to meet a guy(and take it from me b/c im a guy) is church or even the gym. You have nice men that go there. But the main thing you must know is not to rush it. Don't act desperate for a man,because if you act desperate then that would send out the wrong man radar and then you'll find yourself dating a rapists or something. Your priorty is your children first, but if you want guarentee great men, church. Or maybe even at your job. But dont be in a rush to get a man... the right man would come to you.. and there is a right man for you somewhere.. Just dont go out on dates by yourself.. go in like groups first.
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Nice guys tend to be in nice places. You won't catch a brook trout in a storm sewer. Join a church or the Young Democrats or the Young Republicans or the Sierra Club. Volunteer for a work day at Friends of the River. Join a gym. Look for single dads at your kids' activities. Stay clear of bars.\n\nTake it very, very slow. Assuming you are past 35, from the list of problems, you will probably have to settle for someone 10 - 15 years older than you. It is an ugly fact of life that there are about 2 nice women for every nice guy out there, so the guys can pick and choose.\n\nMy wife works in a large medical building with a lot of nurses. We belong to a large church, and I work for a meduim sized-corporation. The lack of reasonable men is astounding. I know just 2 single men I would not hesitate to introduce to anyone. I know a dozen women I wish I could pair up with nice guys.
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perhaps because you're looking for it . . . If you focus on other things like hobbies, home improvements, family trips and outings, just bettering your life as it is --you and your kids I promise Love will find you\n It will happen right around the time you truly get it off your mind and settle into this new lifestyle. the best things start to happen when you're not looking . . . \nstay positive and do quality things with your kids Every woman loves a man that has strong bonds with his kids . . . Stay single for a while enjoy being a dad-- That's the kind of Love some people never get the chance to have.
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speaking as a single male, i might ask the same thing about single or divorced women....i would like to take the time to get to know someone (bf/gf sort of thing), then see if it works into a relationship.....yeah, i think that it could be done....the decent guys are out there...they may not simply advertise the fact that they are decent guys...maybe they have been screwed over too many times....have patience....keep looking....they are out there....good luck to you
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I think some guys have a perception that a single mother is easy.  They think that they need help with their child and that they probably don't get or have had sex in a long time.\n\nFor the most part this is just that, a perception, and it is as you have said totally wrong.  Most single moms are very focused on their lives and because they are responsible for a child they are usually more self sufficient and careful than other single women.\n\nHopefully you'll find a guy that realizes all the great qualities that you have as a single mom, and treasure you for the gift you are and doesn't see you as some easy target.
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not all guys are like that. i know i'm not. i can think of only one thing in life that comes before a serious relationship, and that's my daughter. i know plenty of guys that would love to get into a serious relationship, but they need to find the right person first. it takes time, but you'll find him sooner or later as long as you don't give up on love
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I'm 31, and while not "terrified" of dating, it does stress me out a lot. Rather than putting a lot of pressure on yourself with "dating", I recommend simply focusing on having an active social life, on being involved in clubs and organizations where you can meet new guys. Invite them out on casual "getting to know you" type outings. If romantic potential is there, you can build to it.\n\nThere's no need to rush towards anything physical (in fact, it's better not to). If you find that you like a guy but want to take things slow, be open and honest with him about it. Same thing if you don't want a romance (and he seems to).
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i believe in lifetime relationships... but a  good man is hard to come by..
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Well, I am a 33yo divorced mother of 2 boys.  I DO NOT want a committed relationship.  Maintaining my independence and identity is important to me.  Non-committal sex is the "easiest" way for me.  It really does sound  morally questionable, however, I have needs as well.  \nI met a man shortly after I split from my hubby.   The sex was PHENOMONAL. We were actually a couple for 6 months. This is terrible to say, but the sex is the only reason I stayed with him.  We weren't compatible as a couple. But I thought about the sex all the time. I have NEVER felt a sexual connection with anyone before like this.  After we broke up I proposed this idea to him about FWB.  He was a little surprised.  Maybe felt more USED than anything.  He said OK. We'll see. Haven't had sex  yet since before the break-up.  If a female can prevent from getting emotionally attached, more power to ya. I think it is a great idea.
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Hey I wish I can tell you where you could find, but it's just going to come when the time is right.I've been searching on the net, went to church and still I'm single. So patience is really a virtue.
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Hey, I'm in my 30's.  Have yet to find Mr. Rite, kinda getting tired of Mr. RiteNow. (know what I mean) but as they say patience is a virtue!!!!  BLECH to that...LOL  As far as I'm concerned it's too easy to get a divorce, therefore yep lotsa divorcees out there to check out.. Would be nice to know "where" to find these single guys, cuz the bars suck for that unless ur into one niters.......GOOD LUCK on ur quest!!   :)
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I am a single mom and have bascially been single, minus a few not-so-serious relationships, now for seven years. I've gone through periods when I've seriously been looking for someone to settle down with and  times when I've been desperately lonely but hadn't the energy to try again. \n\nThe one thing I HAVE learned over the past few years of dating and not dating, is not to ever settle for less than what you deserve. It may mean that you may go through years of being alone but I truly believe it is much better to be alone than with someone who is not right for you. \n\nDepending on your situation, I think the possiblities of where and how to meet a potential boyfriend are endless. Start spending time on yourself. Go places that interest you.....put yourself out there.......everywhere, with and without your child(ren). Chances are that if you meet this person at a museum or maybe a through other family members, other than the bar scene, you'll have more in common. \n\nDon't  dwell on the fact that you're single; sometimes it shows and you may look a little desperate and then definately will attract the wrong type of guy who could possibly be an oportunist looking for his next prey. When you start doing more just for you and your family you WILL start to feel better about yourself and your situation. It is this positivity that most definately attract the right type of people and soon enough you will realize that being alone isn't a curse and THAT"S when Mr Right is bound to step in and like you for who you are.
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Where are you?  We single women are everywhere, and i know im not the only one looking for a nice, honest, intelligent guy.  \n\nHow old are you?