I want to stop drinking. Is there a way to do it without AA.?
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First off, I don't know how your PO would know if you went to AA.  It's anonomous, that's what the second A is for.  They don't keep records of members, and they don't talk to the police.  Furthermore, I don't think they'll lock you up for going to AA given that it means you're getting your life together.  Besides which they couldn't arest you as attending an AA meeting does not actually prove you've been drinking - it would never hold up in court.  Also, I believe they are not allowed to use the information that you were attending AA meetings in court as that information is considered to be privileged.\n\nI think it's great that you want to stop drinking, and you should go to meetings.  If you're really determined, you may be able to find the 12 steps online and work through them on your own, but I think the support group aspect of AA would help a lot.
849465
There are several people in my life with drinking problems, my Grandpa  is the only success story I know of. They say that there is never a cured alcoholic, they are recovering for the rest of their lives. Alcoholism is a disease, and many people take it lightly because drinking is socially accepted. The way my Gpa stopped was by getting really, really drunk beyond the point of sickness, and he says his secret to 'recovery' was just remembering the feeling of that night. He immediately stopped drinking, and started chewing gum incessedly. He did attend AA mtgs and said that suprisingly, they really did help. He also said that the fact that my Gma attended the alinon mtgs helped alot bc he didn't feel as if he was all alone. You have to remain patient and not stress out the alcoholic to the point that they would want to drink. Remove all alcohol from the house, even if its a wine cooler. Living with an alcoholic is a very difficult thing. I hope this brings some insight. Good Luck
726778
First of all...CONGRATULATIONS!  Every day you are sober is a day to be celebrated.  You should be very very proud!\n\nNow, as far as the urges go...no, they don't go away completely.  That's what sucks about this.  My only advice to you is to try and get to a meeting and get yourself a sponsor (if you haven't done this already).\n\nAnd, of course, no matter how tempting...even one drink could put you right back to square one.  It is your choice to drink or not to drink...but once you take that first drink...then the alcohol takes over and really bad things happen.\n\nOne day at a time, my friend.  One day at a time.\n\nAgain, congratulations!
72101
I've heard that there are AA (Alchoholics Anonimous) support groups world-wide. I think that the notion that you refer to is also referred to in the U.S. as one form of dealing with the illness of Alchoholism.
428836
You absolutely have a drinking problem.  So do your 'friends'.  If you want to 'save yourself', and it sounds like you do, you must get new friends.  These 'friends' will take you down with them.  You definitely sound like you have the intelligence, courage and determination to be your own man (this is also called 'leadership').\n\nTake charge of your life.  Make the changes you know you need to make.  Move forward and do not look back.  That is the 'way of a winner' and you sound like you have what it takes to be a winner.\n\nBest wishes and good luck.
198388
step away from the bar, your cut off!!! whatever your drinking i don't want any... but just to help you out try some toothpaste and mouth wash when you get up. your not sleeping with this gnome are you? that's a whole nother story.....
126859
make friends in AA\n\nby the way, if you are still the same person you were before you quit drinking, you are in danger of starting drinking again. take away the alcohol and you are left with the reasons you drank. these include resentments, anger, and fear. it is obvious you are resenting your friends, angry they are not responding the way you expect them to, and afraid of not finding the acceptance you cannot give yourself.\n\nwork the steps they work.
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You have taken the first step in admitting that you "may" have a problem. To answer your question, YES, you do have a problem with alcohol. What to do?!? The first step is admitting that you do have a problem...Congratulations! Next, look up AA in your phone book or newspaper and attend a meeting ASAP. If you are worried about attending a meeting in your town, go to another one. Please don't drive after you have been drinking... even to go to an AA meeting. If you call AA in your town, they may be able to come and pick you up. Alcoholism is a disease... you will never get rid of it, but you can and will learn to live with it. Good luck and God bless you!
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You can't change him only yourself. He has to see the problem for himself or he will not be able to do the work to really quit, he will just become a good liar and hide it from you. Alcoholism is a disease. I am an alcoholic so I know. I just got two years sober through the fellowship of A.A. I know you care about him but the best thing you can do for him is to back off. Let him experience all the consequences of his drinking so that when he does quit he will never again think to himself "oh, I wasn't that bad" Make sure you are not enabling his behavior. Definitely don't try to control it or he will just resent you. If you really want to help him start by helping yourself. Find a local Alanon meeting and see what they have to say. It is filled with the family and friends of alcoholics and they know how to disengage with love. Good luck!
477897
No. Rarely drink myself. Why do you drink? Find the motivation and seee what you can do to either remove yourself from that stimulus or change your reaction to it.
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Yes when not going to AA meetings or getting a sponsor have you tried going to alanon here is the website\nhttp://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
194300
i go to alcoholics anonymous, i dont drink, but the program helps.  there are alot of people with drug problems, and there are alot of meetings too! i still havnt stopped, but i had 40 days yesterday sober.
677456
Sounds like you are a binge drinker. And yes that makes you an alcoholic. You need to go to AA.
587232
I used  Zantec (prescription) for awhile, but the side affects were horrible.  Basically, you have to have the strong will and determination to do it.  You have to quit becuase you want to and not because someone else wants you to.\n\nSurround yourself with those that support you, not those that will let you / help you cave.  I quit drinking alcohol for about a month because I knew it would be a trigger for me.  It gets easier every day.\n\nCheck out www.quitnet.com.  \n\nGood luck!
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It sounds like the answer to the problem is in the question. "I can't stop drinking.I drink and never get drunk". You are obviously an alcoholic and have built up a tolerance to it. Are you concerned about your physical welfare or are you disappointed because alchohol is not doing it for you anymore. Do yourself a favor coming from a recovering alcoholic...get in a program and get SOBER before you blackout and don't remember how you got home or worse yet who you killed on the highway driving. Don't be a statistic and don't make us one. GET HELP. Call 411 and get to AA mtg. now!!! Don't wait until your bottom falls out first...who knows you may not have one at all if you don't seek help SOON.
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GET BUSY , GO IN A TRIP WITH FREINDS THAT DO NOT DRINK AND ASK THEM TO KEEP YOU AWAY , PLAY GAMES OR SPORTS OF ANY KIEND KEEP YOUR SELF AS BUSY AS YOU CAN DON'T EVER LET YOUR SELF FEEL BORED\nCHANGE INVIORMANT AND DRINKING FREINDS , KEEP AWAY FROM THEM EAT WELL GET EXHOUSTED SO YOU CAN SLEEP WELL \nSEE A DOCTOR IF YOU CAN'T KEEP YOUR SELF FROM DRINKING \nEAT AND DRINK PLANTY OF OTHER BEVREAGES , YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T DRINK MUCH IF YOU FEEL FULL !\nWATER CLEANSE THE BLOOD SO DRINK PLANTY OF WATER TO GET RID OF THE ALCHOOL IN YOUR BLOOD \nREAD ABOUT DRINKING PROBLEMS , AND REMEMBER , PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE TANDENCY TO DRINK ARE VERY SENSETIVE PEOPLE WHO NEEDS TO RUN AWAY FROM THERE IMOTIONS , BE KIEND WITH YOUR SELF DO NOT PUNISH YOUR BODY. TRY TO FIX WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR LIFE BY ACCEPTING IT IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT . IT IS VERY HARD I KNOW , BUT YOU CAN MAKE IT IF YOU LEARN HOW TO FORGIVE YOUR SELF , IT IS ALRIGHT TO MAKE MISTAKES EVEN THE ONES THAT CAN NEVER BE FIXED AGAIN ... THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY TO MAKE IT UP TO WHOM EVER YOU HURT INCLUDING YOUR SELF MAYEBE IT WILL NEVER BE AS PERFECT AS YOU WANT THINGS TO BE \nBUT IT IS SUCH A RELIFE ... GIVE BY GIVING LOVE OR JOY YOU RECIVE LOVE AND JOY \nIT IS SO RWARDING TO LOVE YOUR SELF AND FORGIVE YOUR SELF IT IS OK TO SCREW UP WE ALL DO ... NO ONE IS PERFECT NOT EVEN YOU .. MAYEBE IT IS HARD TO BELIVE BUT THIS IS LIFE \nIF YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE WORLD ARROUND BE SURE YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR SELF , WHAT ARE YOU RUNING AWAY FROM ?\nSTOP RUNING
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I am powerless over alcohol! there fore I have to turn my self-will over to my Higher Power. I have to live life one day at a time, with prayer, and meditation, in order not to drink anymore.