just divorced and movin on... ????
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Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
515427
no lol.. relax! im 33 divoriced with 2 kids and i have a 19 year old bf.your life sounds easy.... chill
1032725
How long has it been since you divorced?  You just might need more time.  You'll know  when you're ready for a serious relationship again.  Take time to find yourself again and reassess what you want out of life and in a mate.  If you don't feel you're doing ok on your own, seek some counseling.  It really does help to talk things out and put them on the table.
619350
Personally I wouldn't be thinking about getting involved with another man so soon after divorce. You will find your soul mate when the time is right. Have some "down time" for yourself. Divorce is not easy on the heart, so heal first before rushing into another relationship. Your knight in shiny armor is out there somewhere, weather your divorced or single.
39362
I've done that in the past 3 years.  You need to find yourself again.  Me and my ex-wife split and I had a difficult time getting on my feet.  But I eventuly did and everything is great now.  I'm going back to college and trying to make my life better.  Maybe a little to prove I can.  It may take time but don't give up and always remember you are a great person and can do great things.
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Nuthin's wrong. You've just not got over your divorce, that's all. Just open yourself up (not literally :-) ) a bit and start interacting with everyone freely. You'll soon not only get over your divorce but also have a chance to find a lady good enough for you. BTW, you should also think of what you might have done wrong leading to your divorce so that you don't repeat the mistake once you find the right one.
1006022
Yes, after I got divorced. Don't be jealous!
17133
soke,think about what great fun that yall had and then relize that its not the end of the world. Listen to your favorite funky song to get your spirits right and move on.   enjoy the rest of life!
1063567
No. It is called the cooling down period. It gives you time to get over the anger issues and be certain that you want to go through with the divorce.
141921
Have you gone out with many girls since your separation?  If not, then you are probably moving too fast, thinking too far in advance.  Slow it down.  Stay with the girl you like, but BE SURE TO GIVE HER TIME TO HERSELF.  That means a day or 2 apart at a time (phone is OK).  Otherwise you will feel "clingy" to her and all women hate needy/clingy guys, which could cause her to dump you.  \n\nYou have to control your emotions yourself.  That sounds funny, but it's true.  You have to think about how you feel, how your life is, factor in the good and bad possibilities of what could happen based on your actions, then choose what you feel are the best actions.  Control your emotions or you will lose her.\n\nI've been separated from my ex for 16 months, officially divorced for 6.  I've felt what you're feeling.  I've been back in the dating scene.  Take it slow.
45093
Hey single 20 something divorced female here and it has been so tough being divorced and single in my 20s I am just PRAYING my 30s are phenomenal!!
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
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Hi lady, Ya know I am kinda the same boat. Ive been married twice, the first one for 14 years. She is a great lady and all but we just grew apart. The second one was right after my first!!!!!!!! Bad judgment on my part! I found my second wife, I think too soon, because I was so lonely. Ive been divorced from her for almost 4 years and Im very happy. I said all that to say this, I dont know your whole situation but after my second divorce I realized it was my turn. I didnt have a lot of friends and found myself at home a lot cleaning or reading a good book. Now that sounds boring , but I was content at that time. I needed more, as well as you, I wanted to have some fun , as you I didnt get in the bar scenes so I thought I was limited. Well guess what , the few friends I did have were waiting for me to ask the same question you asked.  First I started going to football games with friends then to some races and now we have a group that meets every saturday at rotating houses to watch the races and socialize. Ive really found a great group of friends both new and old and havent been to a bar yet. My advice to you is to turn to your friends and tell them your delima. I guess my answer is FRIENDS!  By the way Im 43 and now scuba dive, play tennis and many other things all due to my few friends! good luck , you sound like a great lady
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Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
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first thing to do: CELEBRATE. Do your HAPPY DANCE and be HAPPY that your ex is finally out of your life. We don't need selfish people in our lives and she sounds like one of them.
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Hi Sunshine!\n\nI was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again).\n\nAfter my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off!\n \nI think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older...\n\nI set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well.\n\nDon't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year!\n\nHave fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously.\nMaybe the first few dates will be hard - getting  used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them\n\nGood Luck!\nalaska friend
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13 years is a really long time.  I don't think you are giving yourself credit because it has only been just a year. I am not sure about running out to meet other women is the best way.  I think that just makes a person vulnerable to more hurt.   I think that if you look over the year and think about how you were right after the 2 of you divorced and where you are at now, I bet you see that you have made  progress.  Time does heal it just may take a little longer for you so don't be so hard on yourself and I do believe that in another 2 months you will be even a little closer to smiling without faking it.  It has been 4 months for me since I had any contact and it has been a very happy time for me.  Somedays better than others.  I decided to volunteer my time on a day that seems to be the hardest for me.  I also got back in contact with the friends I blew off while I was seeing this person who was so toxic.  What a waste of my time on this earth.  You will eventually heal, I am holding on to that belief myself.  Good luck.