How do i get my friend to stop being two faced?
104049
You can not control the actions of others.  Your friend will continue to wear two faces as longs as it is beneficial.
1094510
I'm afraid the only way you are going to stop this is to just be brutally blunt with her. It sounds cruel, but people like her usually don't the get the message if you beat around the bush.  She obviously wants ALL your attention. She throws a tantrum when you say something to her to put a guilt trip on you. She obviously lost a lot of friends because she acts this way. She is suffocating and I give you credit for dealing with it, but I see you are at a breaking point and before this goes further, put a complete stop to it. \n\nI would air out all of your feelings to her emphasizing that you can no longer tolerate her behavior. Tell her unless she backs off and gives you some space you want nothing to do with her at all. She will be upset of course, throw her tantrum, but eventually she will get over it. It might prompt her to take a look at herself, the way  she acts and why she can't make friends and she might even thank you one day.\n\nI do emphasize be brutally blunt, if you aren't this problem will persist.
1017900
ACT FRIENDLY.  Don't remind them of their visciousness.\n\nBut don't trust them about anything.
931390
If she is making you mad try to gradually stop being friends...talk less and less 2 her....find new friends. If you stop being her friend all of a sudden she will talk about you.
1186673
you need to tell your friend how she is making you feel. besides being on the computer, how is it that she makes you feel like you are being treated poorly. what she is doing may not be on purpose. sometimes people do or say things unthinkingly or because it is what they are used to having done to them and it becomes 2nd nature . \n\nafter speaking with her- if she does the ugliness again- at that moment say- when this happens, it makes me feel like such and such. after pointing out a good example of the behavior you do not like and she continues to do it- terminate the friendship. say. ya know i really like you alot as a friend but i cannot tolerate you treating me this way. good luck, best wishes and no hard feelings but cya later
452842
Both need to back off, for the sake of your friendship.
670113
Self respect says you got to take a stand, or you wouldn't be asking this here.  Think of it this way, would you want friends that can't be brave unless they have back up? or the one that stands alone, and cares enuff about you to keep coming back for more?  Choose sides, then, side all parties down, and tell them straight out what you just said to us, we used to be kewl, now we are not, I can't take it anymore, lets work it out, or I got to choose sides.  And don't let the 2, lay all the blame on the one.\nPersonally, I wouldn't even try talking, I would take the loner's side, and just see what happened.  If they left, fine, I expected it, but who knows, might scare them into backing off.
305113
i have a friend who is exactly like that! well first of all, you should not confront her abrubtly saying something that might sound attacking like, "You are the most self-centered person I've met!" because then she may feel self conscience and blame some of that on you. or she make think you are jealous. SO, what you should do is maybe casually point out to her to think about others once in awhile. the process may take longer than you have hoped for but if they are a friend worth keeping than it is totally worth it. \n\nif she persists on being selfcentered than maybe you shouldnt be friends with her anymore. sometimes you just have to let people go and if she keeps acting like that then you should be the bigger person! so if she keeps to only thinking of herself then i say you should tell her bye-bye.
128506
It is so simple. Just go beind their back and start backstabbing them. Act as a very nice person in front of them and later tell their secrets to everyone and on the internet. Start avoiding them. Don't talk to them and mix with a different group of friends. Leave them out in eveything you do. Anyway, a piece of advice, never try any of these because it will definitely break the relationship and be true to all your friends.
780598
honey, there is no way to force someone to see you differently, be your self. don't ruin your friendship. maybe some day he will change his mind, but for now just be his friend. it might be that if you try to force this issue, he will not even want to be your friend.
387711
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
1068514
We have all have one or two Friends like that in our lives.\nYou are holding back becos, she is ur friend and u really care about her.\nBut part of that caring means u have to be honest with her about how u feel. She probably doesnt know how annoying she really is...so hopefully, u'll be up to the task of helping her to be a better person.\nHope ur Faith teaches Patience? Cos u'll probably need it.\nAll the best to u and ur Friend.
836893
I think you should talk with her about what she is doing is wrong... If she accept to change (and you see the improvement), then you can still keep her a a friend. Otherwise drop her!
715340
I highly suggest you and her other friend try VERY HARD to work it out so that there isnt any animosity. Good luck
402337
I have tried to figure this out myself my whole life. I truly believe there are people that will use anyone, friend or not, for selfish reasons, they just don't honor a friendship like most people. They are users. And, they won't change. If a person like what your talking about is sitting with others talking down someone, you can be sure you are the topic of conversation when you leave.,and these "friends" think nothing about doing it. Sometimes I really think these people  don't ever acknowledge to themselves what two faced really is.
224477
Gossip is an ugly habit.  Ask him not to do it again.  Give him another chance.  But just one more chance, and if he shows that he'd rather gossip than be your friend, drop him.
884896
nicely tell her that you don't want friends like her and walk away.she will understand(she already has understood that but she doesn't want to admit it and thinks that you guys will forgive her that)Listen to me!