not enough self confidence?
105037
Then i suggest you take up some customer service jobs. (may be hard to get with that thought in mind. But no harm in trying) It provides an oppurtunity for you to talk to so many people. Over a period of time you will find yourself transformed.
174490
I used to feel this way too. It didn't help that my friends are all beautiful and I was alittle bit overweight, but I found the best way to get a mans attention is confidence. I had 0 confidence and it really brought me down and made me even more depressed. Now when I walk into a bar I walk head held high and shoulder back, and the heads turn. I'm just a plain Jane, but confidence is sexy. Most of my friends are male and i've lived with 7 male friends. I've learned a lot about how men act. Also it doesn't hurt to know a think or two about sports. Makes for a good ice-breaker. Use this "Do you think Houston should trade their #1 pick?"
81974
A tried and tested technique to improving self-confidence is as follows:\n\nLook in the mirror every morning and tel yourself you are beutiful, you are clever and you can achieve anything.\n\nLook in the mirror every night before bed and tell yourself that you have done your best today in everything you do and tomorrow you will do better.\n\nDo one thing each day that scares you.\n\nBe with friends that value you for who you are and remember you are a human being and as such you are special.\n\nYour family loves and values you and if you smile the world smiles with you.
975676
just keep your chin up and shoulders back. It will make you appear more confident
546122
Have you thought of counselling? That may be the 'easier' road you are looking for. Ultimately though, you will have to talk to others in social events to be able to learn to do it with confidence. Experiencing life like travelling, can be a good way to build your confidence, for the more you know about something, the more you can talk about it with passion.\nGaining a better view of ones self (self esteem) can also come when presented with challenges that one overcomes, so challenge yourself-give yourself tasks that you know are hard, but that you are able to overcome. Do you have a fear of spiders for example? Overcome that and you will certainly want to tell people about it! I did!!\n If you would like to chat more about it, feel free to email me from the link at my avatar and I'll try to help.\n\nbest of luck
1052475
A person should not rely on a feeling of confidence that comes from external means...ie...you say when you are "...alone or with a close friend..."\n\nWhat that tells me is that your feeling of confidence MAY come from the fact that you know your close friend's strengths and weakness and insecurities...and so you KNOW that in certain areas you are "stronger" or "better" or "faster" or whatever....and IN COMPARISON that makes you feel confident. Or, IN COMPARISON that makes you feel less insecure. What it comes down to though is YOU comparing your strengths and weaknesses to others you know to help YOU feel confident. \n\nThat works great.....until you walk into a room of strangers........and suddenly your knowledge of their strengths and weaknesses is nonexistent. NOW how are you supposed to judge yourself? Now that you know nothing about them...you lose confidence in YOURSELF, because you don't know how you "compare".\n\nYour abilities and strengths and weaknesses are not RELATIVE or SUBJECTIVE. If you run a 45min 10k....you run a 45min 10k. THAT is objective...not subjective. It is a GOOD time that may even be getting better. If you have a good knowledge base in some subject, or an innate curiosity about things...THAT is an objective, positive quality. \n\nI think the key is for you to realize your strengths and weakness in an OBJECTIVE way...ie, not comparing them to other people...but just getting "your hands and mind" around them on your own...sort of a self-realization thing or something. If you are pretty...you are pretty. Not "pretty compared to...", but just plain pretty. If you run well....you run well. Not "run well compared to..."\nIf you have curious, thought provoking questions....then you have \ncurious, thought provoking questions...period!\n\nOnce you become aware of YOUR STRENGTHS you will become more confident. Not "your strengths compared to other girls' strengths"....but just YOUR STRENGTHS. They exist whether you are alone in your room, or in a room of 1000 people. They don't leave you! Your artistic ability, your athletic ability, your academic ability, etc all stay with you!\n\nKeep THAT in mind next time your mind starts to doubt!!
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You need to start by loving yourself and your self confidence will shine through. Then you won't worry so much about other people's opinions.\n\nAnd Jesus loves you *smile*
1017242
How about this one: "I'm O.K., You're O.K.". It's an old book but many times underachieving is caused by low self-esteem. Good luck.
829821
They don't dig you; trust me.  You need to stop being such a wuss first.  There is nothing more unattractive than someone without self-confidence.
1031555
No one can make you more confident.  You have to do that for yourself.  If you go looking for some guy to boost your self-esteem, you'll attract a guy who will tell you anything you want to hear to get you in bed, & from what you are saying, that isn't something you are ready for at this time in your life.  Right now, you need to focus on you.  Try to work on school, a job, & make the most of yourself.  If you start setting new, realistic goals for yourself & achieving them, your confidence can't help but go up, & guys will notice this.  Good luck.
114817
i think it depends on how settled and content you are in yourself.  the more stable you are, the more confident you are.
302910
Yes sweetie, u need to be confident but also relax and try to be urself!
971335
Honey, you've got lots and lots of growing up to do and your self-confidence leaves much to be desired.... need i go on..
173645
Good usually but i have self-esteem issues from time to time like everybody else!
698062
It's not self-confidence really. Mine is really just frustration. I eat a lot but for some reason I really don't gain any weight. I also workoutevery other day and play hockey once a week, but still eat a lot and really never see results. Sometimes I feel that people think I'm weak because I have muscle, but you really can't tell that I have muscle because I'm so thin. It's a little self-confidence, but overall, it's probably 94% frustration and 6% self-confidence problems.
4357
what makes u think u have "low self esteem" ???
59450
self confidence is what she needs...im the same way...i love feeling and looking sexy but im too shy to do that in public....try to get her to do it around the house alot more than tell her that you want to pick out her outfit for that friday night date...