my ex is driving me crazy. he still loves me but doesn't want to hurt his current gf. what do i do?
115443
My dear, if it wasn't her it would be someone else.\n  Tell him to take a hike.\nShe is going to do what ever it takes to try to hold on to him.\nWhat about your feelings.....Don't they mean any thing to him?\nLet it be known that you are free.
592576
it sounds to me as if he is using you. He is keeping you on a string in case things don't work out with his ex. If there is nothing going on between them, than he wouldn't have a problem letting her know that he is in love with you. I think you need to move on and find someone who will treat you the way that you deserve. You don't deserve to be used. Good Luck\n\nk.m.
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
986542
either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.
528983
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
891005
Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
343030
Your problem is that he's still into her in his head and that's really hard to break down. All you can do is be there for him and show him the contrast between a great gal (you) and a cheat (her).
561366
you have two gfs sounds like you are a non-commiting person, just decide, you are about to hurt one or both, you should have not gotten youself in this predicament.
685853
i had a similar situation. You must decide whether you want him back or not. If you do, what is the reason knowing that he is having another gf in his life. Is it worthwhile ?...evaluate yourself. Is it love or pure lust that makes you want him back. If love then, you may want to give it a try but if pure lust then, better go away and find another guy to love....\n\nremember, most of the time, our ex want us back because he want the "sex" out of us....i made a mistake by accepting my-ex back...we merely have sex. Though i was satisfied being fucked by him but is that what love all about ?...remember, ...we must learn to "love" and not to "make" love.
608936
call the police.\ncome on are you telling us that you still love that ***.\nIf he knows that you still love him then it's blackmail,\nIf he feels that you hate hime then it's rape.\nIf none of the two then he's a psycho.\nbe rational and don't let emotions prevail your brain.\nIt seems that you're a very kind woman, and you deserve better than this freak guy.
657654
Obviously they are not over yet. If you love him, set him free. He needs to be reminded of why she is his ex. Give him some time.\n\nYou will not have trust now. You cannot have love without trust. Love is action. His actions do not show love.\n\nI know people make mistakes, but this sounds like the beginning of a bad relationship. Free him now before it gets out of hand.
186709
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
250708
obviously he doesn't care about you!!!! dump him and move on!!!get some of your own self-esteem first before getting into another relationship...and don't hate the girl.
602548
Help you?? You need to remember theres a reason why hes your ex in the first place.
67829
Well you do not want to be his REBOUND g/f.... People tend to resent these relationships later. So it would be best if you gave him his space for a little while and if you still want to pursue him then see where this leads.
919143
OK you can't lose this guy because of an ex-lover. Get a restraining order if that doesn't work file a harrassment charge. Stand up for yourself. The guy you love will appreciate it and the ex might get the point.
800922
This should definetely be his decision....only he knows who he has stronger feelings for...but you didn't necessarily state why they broke up....if it was because she did something to him, you might want to convince him and let him know that you would never do that (and keep your word about it), but other than that, I think you're just gonna have to lie and wait...just be his friend in the mean time, don't pressure him to choose a you or his ex right now