Would ypu be upset if your spouse announced to you , he or she , was gay ?
114855
I'm just speculating on the range of possibible answers to this question that might help you. How about "Yes" - in which case, why did you get married in the first place? Or, "No", in which case why did you get married in the first place?\n\nAlternatively, you might only be able to properly answer this question if you were both of the same sex and living in Massachusetts, in which case the question would be redundant!!! So my question to you is...what is your question?
1171958
I was married and now divorced. It was a horrible experience being in that situation.  The worst part was she was my best friend and we had a child together. If you're in that situation, I feel your pain but it wasn't any easy last three years. Much better place now! Now before anyone makes any rude comments, I wouldn't accept that I was gay and thought their was other issues. I didn't get married KNOWING i was gay. I should have known but I didn't.
784729
No thats between him and his wife. Would feel terrible for breaking up there relationship. beside the wife may already know some couples have open agreements.\n\nSeems to be more popular these days men marrired but have men as boyfriends.  I saw a tv programe on it and you be amazed of the married men that like to have men boyfriends on the side. \n\nhows a girl to know if a man is truely straight. he's better off being honest and saying he likes both least she knows rather than be suprised later.
329819
No. It's not fair to the person you are married to. Why not be with who you want to be with and let your wife find someone who truly loves her. She'll be upset at first, but you will all be happier in the long run.
38062
I could care less either way.  I'm in a great heterosexual marriage.  I love every min of it.  Now who am I to deny the same pleasures to a couple of the same sex?  What if my neighbors were in a same sex marriage?  It wouldn't really affect me.  It's not like I'm forced to partake in thier daily life.
1161209
ha ha h ha\n\nstop gays from marrying! stop straights from divorcing!\n\nhow bout, 'it's none of your business!'
953276
No.  As long as they weren't being offensive in what they said when gossiping to others about what they believed my sexuality to be.  Most of my Friends are pretty straight shooters.  We try to not gossip over much about things concerning the group.  We tend to circle the wagons.  if she or he WERE malicious in their commentary, I would be offended by the way they talked.  Not by what they said.  And no...I'm not gay.  I'm Italian and Irish.  Very passionate people.  We do alot of hugging.  Way touchy feely races of people I come from.  Could be mis-construed.  I've had a number of gay woman come on to me.  lol   I take it as compliment, but don't take them up on the offer.  :)
949697
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
621671
wonder why I had a husband when I'm not gay.
11655
If you think that what you're doing may be wrong, then it is. If you feel that the relationship is completely harmless and serves no purpose other than a casual friendship then maybe not.\n\nThe test is if you told your significant other, would they be upset?
899254
I had a friend in high school who had a crush on me on me, but I didn't want anyone to think of me differently.  So, when she asked me out, I refused.  I wasn't even sure if I was 100% gay at the time or ready to come out for that matter.  So, I told her I wasn't gay.  \n\nI often wonder what might have happened if I simply gave in to my heart instead of my head.  Now, she lives in another state and is married.  I will probably never see her again in my lifetime, and I am content with that.  We both have gone on our own paths.\n\nBlessings
994515
So what if he is homosexual! It's just a sexual orientation. Big deal.
349294
Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
643539
I'm going to ask you one more time...how's your husband going to know if the people that you talk to online are gay or not  ???
1095419
At my wedding I would have been like "I don't!"...after the intial shock wore off I would have said "No, I'm just playing...I really love this guy, Christian, right?" Then, I would have lied to my husband about our honeymoon sex...I mean, how was I supposed to know the phrase "worst sex I ever had in my life" would make him cry.
909724
Yes dear - of course you can - I've been telling women on this site about this very same issue - but they seem reluctant to believe that probably many of their 'straight' husbands are doing the same thing when they are out!  So, the sooner these women realize that this is nothing to do with homosexuality the better!\n\nGood luck
608887
married men and gay men might be more sensitive then available ones