ok my mom has a new boyfriend and he's a big jurk so tell me what do I have to do to get rid of him?
111838
Do the mature and right thing here...\n\nSit down with your mother ALONE and tell her that this is bothering you. Be specific what actions of his are bothering you and tell them why you don't like them.\n\nYour mother's primary responsibility is to you, not him. That does not put you in the driver's seat, but you MUST give her all of the information so that she knows what she should do for you.\n\nPerhaps he is just uncomfortable around kids, maybe he never had any - maybe he's trying to hard to make you like him. There are lots of ways that someone can act like a jerk and not really realize it.\n\nYou really didn't define what being a jerk was in this case. If it involves any violence toward you or your mother, let her know about it immediately. If you think that he is too controlling, point that out to her, it is sometimes difficult to see this when you are in the middle of a situation.\n\nIf you just act like a brat, you will get treated like a brat. You may get your way on this one, but in future she will still think you are a brat. Take the high road.\n\nGood luck!
46880
just talk to him about everything and get it off your chest, but also explain to him that none of you guys want him in a relationship,, i just know that hating someone without fixing it will just bother you until you do something about it....
622163
do it like this, you ass act crazy and let it be known who do bitch in this now over relationship. you better start stalkin him and waitin outside his door trust me it'll get rid of him.
229529
Just tell him that you don't like him. It doesn't matter that his parents are the landlord, they can't kick you out just because you don't like their son, they need a legitimate reason.
667216
You both need to leave him alone.  He's taken and he's not worth either of you trying to date him and causing confusion between fam.
384040
One thing is because your mother allows this man to treat her this way. Really there isn't a thing you can do except love your mom. She needs you more now than before. She will come to terms that he is doing something that is harmful to her and hopefully before it is to late...N
774316
Well if he is just mooching off you then you need to tell him get out and stand your ground..... sounds like these two are close just remember anything you do to him may effect your relationship with your boyfriend..... you need to disscuss this with your old man and see what he says if he diagrees just put it out there you guys can hang out do whatever but he ned s to get his ouwn place or I am leaving and if he lets you leave then he never really cared in the first place...... either way you go someone is gonna get hurt...and plus the longer you allow this to go on the harder it is going to become to fix it.... Good Luck
152100
Give him hell...examples..hair dye in his shampoo...gum IN his shoes...super glue on something he grabs often...stright pins in his seat...You get the pic. he will be gone in no time. Oh!!!.....Don't get caught (your mom will never let you live it down & the boyfriend will probably stick around just to spite you)
555824
I have the same problem with my family.  It got to the point where I wasn't even talking to my own mother.  You need to tell them that this is what makes YOU happy.  Maybe you can slowly start bringing him around (for dinners, b-days, etc).  This will show them what type of guy he is.  Most importantly, they need to see that he is a real person, not just a "black male."  Have him send your mom flowers or something-- just to show her how sweet he can be.  Don't sacrifice your love for their ignorance.  Good luck!
571996
You don't ... yet. You may want to think long and hard about why your family hates him. We have a 17 year old daughter, and there have been people that we've told her not to bring to our house again. That doesn't mean she doesn't hang out with them anymore ... we're not stupid ... but they aren't allowed around us because they disrespected us and our home. \n\nIf you know why your family hates him and the issue cannot be resolved, you may want to try and keep this to yourself until you're in a position to move out of the house. A good, smart parent knows deep down that once a child turns 17 they're pretty much going to make their own decisions regardless of what we think or how we feel about it. It's a natural progression.
139620
Ask him to have the pastor call you.  Find out if the pastor really did say that.  If he says no, he won't have the pastor call you, or if the pastor says no, he didn't say that, then the guy is lying.\n\nYou really should get a different man and not wait around for this guy to get a divorce.  Men are dirty, disgusting creatures, very fickle and weird.  Get one that isn't married and you'll have fewer problems.\n\nThe other thing is if your mom hates him then get rid of him.  Men are such lying, miserable scum, why bother with one that is married?\n\nAlso if he loves Jesus, why would he be running around with you (I'm sure you are a nice person, don't get me wrong) BEFORE he's divorced from his wife?\n\nIf you aren't really ugly, hairy, or massively overweight, I would definitely try to get a man without so much baggage.\n\nHave you met his current wife?  That's a must, she might not know anything about this so-called-divorce.\n\nGood luck honey!
1137489
Yea, I was in that situation before. I finally just had to let go because I couldn't live my life without my mom being there for me. It sucked a lot because we had been together for almost 2.5 years. I just didn't know what else to do either. All I can really suggest is try to talk it out with her. Does she hate her personally or hate her because of the homosexual relationship? Explain to her that homosexual relationships are very accepted in society nowadays (at least way more than when she was growing up) and that you really love this girl but you love her too. Tell her a lot about how you love her and respect her but she should love and respect you too and that she should be supporting you. (A mini guilt trip isn't so bad). I tried to explain that to my mom, and she kinda "dealt with it" after awhile even though she didn't approve. My last bf was much bigger than me, with real long hair (all the way down his back) and he wore all black most of the time. She didn't even know him because she refused to talk to him, yet swore she could tell me what kind of person he was and how he was going to beat and rape me, and yada yada yada even though he was really the sweetest guy ever. Parents just don't understand sometimes and just want you to be like they were when they were kids. Try to come to an agreement. Good luck!!!\n\nPS: Don't do what everyone else is saying and "get a boyfriend," do what makes you happy. You can't live a lie.
198029
Dump the boyfriend,and straighten out your cousin. Remind\nher that blood is thicker than water,or at least it should be.
345516
you need to leave him love. sorry but i was in the same position as you, but i was the ex. he went away and i knew what he was doin cause he admitted to me he had a baby with someone else, and i had dumped him. however, he kept coming round me BEGGING me to return to him. so you need to be careful bout what he is telling you and what he is telling her. you are worth more than that. dont put up with the insecurities you have over him. he will only make them worse. an in my opinion the last time my mum was wrong about something, was wen i hadnt told her the whold truth. your mum obviously dont like him, and she wants the best for you, even if it dont seem like it sometimes she does. trust. go and bond withyour baby. have a nice summer with no man pisin you off. okay. gudluck.
536565
i feel sorry for you. i have a similar situation. my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me as well. we have been together for more than 4 years now.  what i suggest is you discuss this matter with your boy and try to win your future mother in law.  if you can't just fix your relationship with your man and just ignore her.  what's important is that you and your man are madly inlove with each other.
35566
aw thats hard but maybe give it some time and if u still dnt like him explain ur reasons to ur mom in a mature way and have proof. but whatever u do b mature and dont whine
1017119
You can talk to your mom about how you feel about her partner.  Let her know you are worried for her safety as well as your own safety.  You can only let her know how you feel and try to point things out to her - you can't make her see the light or get rid of him.