im 20 and i want to know if it to early to be thinking about getting married .plus we have our problems?
114593
First of all, WE ALL HAVE OUR PROBLEMS...that is part of life and relationships, it is how you manage your problems and if you can come out holding hands that matter. I was married by the time I was 19 and I have been married for 11 years. I have never had any regrets. Just look to your heart for the answer.
616088
I dont think there is a good age to get married, just make sure its the right time for you.  Never rush into marriage even if you are determened to be with the same person for the rest of your life, plan your wedding the way you want it and start saving for the things you would like.  I get pressured alot from my boyf family to marry now.  But even thou ive been with him for over 8 yrs we know we want he full works at our wedding and we know that doing it now is easy but thatwould be a budgetted wedding and its not what we want.
583408
i would say it depends on WHY your getting married. My first two marrages were for medical benifits and for extra cash. i dont recommend getting married for those reasons but if it is becasue you are happy then go for it and i wish you all the best. i am only 23 and i am getting married because i want to..... and because i am happy and i know that i want to spend the rest of my life with the man i love. so yes i think 22 is early enough but quite a few ppl in here have some good answers. have you gone over your finances? and your goals in life, and i dont mean just talking about it in general but how your going to do it together and what you can do for each other to accomplish it. marrage is hard and takes a lot to make it work but it can be worth it. good luck!
418796
It seems that the world is probably against you this day in age with quicky weddings and quicky divorces. Alot of the young couples I know get married really quick without thinking everything through. Call it the "want to be a bride" syndrome. Once you live together and share your lives together...things change. But if you really love each other,have talked everything through, and understand what hard work marriagetakes...you may be happy together forever. Good luck!
678151
2-3yrs should be enough time to know whether or not you want to get married. But if you know you want to be together for the rest of your lives, then why wait. It could only take you a week to realise you want to marry each other. And it could be the best decision you ever make. It all depends on the individual.
853401
I'm 20 and my fiance is 21.. weird... same ages.. we've been together for 3 years and engaged 1.. we will have been engaged for 2 and together 4 when we get married next September. I don't think age is an issue.. you have to do whats right for you when you're ready, you can't put a time frame on love  :) if you and your boyfriend want to be engaged 20 years and have a 10 year honeymoon, by all means.. do it ... do whatever makes you happy.. life is too short to worry about what other people think =)  good luck
681845
Karina, is this you? Sorry, but this sounds too much like my son who is 19, and his fiance who is 25. Took me off guard! I think that you shouldn't jump into marriage right away. At 19, my son is SO not ready to get married right now. He's just not mature enough yet to deal with everything that comes with being married. Being engaged is one thing, being married is another. I say, go for a long engagement. Take time to really get to know each other.  Put more effort into thinking more of the marriage instead of just the "big wedding" every girl dreams of. You both are young and are still growing and maturing in so many ways. What both of you want from life right now may be different for both of you in a few years. Especially him. If you're really serious about this, my advice would be to wait a few more years.
1113530
You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
557625
If that is your on the picture, then no.\nNo, seriously why do you want to get married? You're ONLY 30 and you have at least 5-7 years to think about it and find a right woman for you.\nBesides, if you keep looking anxiously for Ms. Right, the chances are that you may not find what you looking for in the end. Enjoy your life, go out, travel, be happy with your life and love will find you when you're least expect it.
545403
I think that people will be judgmental.  I think that all couples who get married should go to pre-marital counseling.  I think that it is going to be harder for you because you both still have so much growing up to do.  I am 23 and just got married in October... I changed so much between 18 and now.  It doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't get married but you do have to be willing to really work at your marriage if you want it to last.
237644
If you are over 18 there is nothing your family can do to stop you!  It's a tough situation, but maybe once your married they will come around.  Although, I think you are a little young to get married.  You have to remember, marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.  If your not ready to be committed to something for your entire life, I would wait.  If your in love, then it shouldn't matter when and if you get married!  Take your time and think it over alot, you don't want to lose all your family over something that may not last!
202993
Say no. your too young for marriage. go out and enjoy life first, you'll have plenty of time to settle down.
219237
24 is still young!  Don't rush things:)  I am also 24, and unmarried.  I don't want to get married for a while still.  I want to do so many things before I settle down.  If you marry, it should be for true love.  Don't settle just so you won't be single anymore.  Enjoy your single time!  Love will come your way, most of the time when you least expect it!
323545
I THINK YOU HAVE ALL YOU NEED TO GET MARRIED IF YOU DOUBT DONT. I WOULD ADVISE YOU NOT TO REGRET LATER ON. YOU HAVE TO GROW UP MAN TIME CHANGES
1117390
Yes, those words can be true, but you need to set goals and make sure you stick to them as best you can. Love is a wonderful thing - but being married means you need to be able to work well with the person you love. They become your partner for life. I met mine when I was your age, and we married in our twenties, so I know it can work. We were good friends first, and then fell in love, and didn't move in together until we married, but we spent many, many hours working on projects and eventually working together in a store and learned that our personalities really meshed well - which rounded out the love we had for each other. My advice: \nFirst, both of you go to college (either 2 yr. or 4 yr. - depending on what you want to do for a living.) \nSecond, save as much money as you can if your folks are paying your way through college. \nThird, work while you are in college and also when you finish college and THEN start making wedding plans. Life is a lot about "getting your ducks in a row". In other words, make reasonable & wise plans, and act on them in the best possible order. If you throw caution to the wind and skip making life plans together and just get married without either of you having advanced training beyond high school, most likely you will live very poorly and will have lots of fights about money that you don't have to pay the bills. The biggest mistake people make is NOT making plans for the future and just "winging it". BIG, BIG, mistake. Best wishes to you!
257413
I'm 36, husband is 39. We've been married 16 1/2 years. We have four kids, ages 13, 11, 10 and 8. \nI wouldn't worry too much about not being married yet. It just means you haven't found the right person yet. Wouldn't you rather wait for "The One" rather than get married, just to say you're married. Loads of people are waiting to get married these days. I think it's wise to wait because you are more mature and know what you like or don't like and what you are looking for in a life-partner. Don't rush it. It will happen in good time and probably when you least expect it.
889436
Wait a few years.  Once you have kids, the marriage is going to be your second-priority in life - for quite some time.    You need to take time to make the marriage strong before you have kids.  Kids put more pressure on a marriage, so you need a solid foundation first.  Parenting is hard work.  It's hard enough without finding out the marriage has communication problems while you've got a 2yo stomping her feet and screaming she wants candy for dinner.\n\nTake 3 or 4 years to travel together, or stay up late and watch the sunrise, or just spend the night talking.  The magic age these days is 35 when birth-defects become a bigger risk, so you've got time.\n\nAdditionally, you'll have more money when you're in your late 20s than you do now.  That will make raising children easier.  Not easy - but easier.