my friend and her bf broke up she is heartborken what can I say to help her?
117379
nothing..just be there as a friend..
852272
Unfortunately there is nothing that can really be done here.  Be patient with your friend and let her feelings run their course.  Eventually she will realize how she isn't meant to be with him and begin the healing process and then begin to forget him.  Either that or she will meet another man that make her forget this guy.  Maybe you could recommend that she go on a date with a guy that shows interest in her.  Remind her that maybe she should give someone else a chance.
548029
Well, her boyfriend is a loser if he's breaking up through a freaking note! That should give her a lot of comfort knowing he's lame.  Just letting her know you're there for her and if she needs to talk or just needs someone's shoulder to cry on you're there.  Sometimes people need someone to listen to them or just be in the same room without anyone talking.  Also, Ben & Jerry's icecream is the BEST cure ever.  Have a girs' night out when she's ready.  Let her know life isn't over and that her boyfriend is the one who is at loss! Who writes notes to end an important relationship?? Like I said, his loss.
849611
Maybe things are rough right now with her boyfriend.  Continue on as you are.
915266
awww my heart goes out to you, you sound really upset : (  If she is going through such hard time at the moment, she may need time to her self. That doesn't mean pack up your bags and go, that just means she cant handle a full on relationship at the moment. So you can be there when she needs you. And that's really all you can do. Tell her that you will wait for her and say exactly the same thing you said in the ending of your question. I am sure she is hurting just as bad as you or even worse by knowing she is hurting you. Just be there for her, Take care i hope it all works out sweetie : )
1089233
As hard as it will be for your friend, she needs to accept it and move on.  She needs to take a step back and try to look at it from another's point of view.  What kind of friend just breaks up with a person and doesn't even offer an explanation???  Who needs that for a friend?  Just be there for your friend, it will be hard for her and even though you can't "fix" things and make it all better, having a good friend that listens and cares makes a world of difference.  :)
455534
well, it depends on what she's sad about. If she's sad about how maybe things are going with you...then tell her how you feel too. \nAnd if she's just sad for some reason, like if her pet died or somthing like that. \n\nTalk to her about it, show that you can help her through it.\nKiss her on the forhead, and squeeze her tight. \n\nSeriously, sometimes the thing that made me feel better was the fact that my boyfriend hugged me...and not just hugged me, but he really really hugged me, held on tight, and told me that everything would be alright.
973141
Do nothing.  Even if she dumps the bf, you'd be a rebound.  Just keep your distance, be a friend, but don't push anything.  And if she dumps him and suddenly wants you, don't give in.  You'd be rebound man.  Give it time.  If she actually likes you it will work itself out.  Otherwise, I suggest you keep your options open.
193145
The best way to mend a broken heart is to accept the fact you can never have him again and move on by making your days busy and by doing things that will make you happy. Be with your friends because they will really help you ease up the pain.
129554
Do exactly that cry and get it out, talk about for a while. Only time heals a broken heart.
188058
Tell your friend that she deserves someone better than him. Tell her that you'll be there to support her no matter what, but that she can do way better than him. and mean it. She'll see that he's an ass eventually if you support her.
389253
Well then the only thing to do is just be there for you friend even if she doesn't want to listen to you. She's going to get hurt, and she's going to regret not listening to you. Your already a good friend by worrying and trying to tell her to leave him, but be there for her anyway. Be there because she's going to need you, once she  opens her eyes. So just be there for her.
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If you can, just let her carry on talking and crying. Let her get it out of her system if you feel comfortable with that.\n\nThe "cheer up, stop crying" is only to be used if YOU cannot handle the situation - as those words never actually help the person who is tearful!\n\nDepends also on how well you get on and what gener you are. If a trusted friend or you are also a woman, resting a hand on her shoulder *MAY* be appropriate if you have had SOME sort of contact before. If not, then perhaps best avoided.\n\nWas there something in particular that you WANTED to do?
1137239
Hi Tiera,   well it sounds like this guy is a real jerk. Not trying to be mean or anything just going by everything you said.  Now, as far as your friend goes I believe that you should stick to your guns and be there for her.  If you havent done so already,  I think you should tell her all about this guy and just prepare her for what you might think will happen. Don't try to make her break up with him per say,  but just let her know that you are telling her these things because she is your friend and you dont want to see her hurt.  Thats really all you can do at this point.  Sometimes in life in order for someone realize what they get themselves into they have to learn the hard way.  The only thing you can do is just assure her that you will be there for her no matter what.  She will appreciate you more down the road when she realizes she was wrong and you were right.  Stick to you guns hun, and dont abandon your friend because this is when she is gonna need you the most.  Good luck with everything...........
559101
I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
518299
People find it difficult to leave someone if they truly care about them. My best advice is to be a good friend to her, be there for her. If she realizes that he's bad for her, then support her decision if she wants to break it off. That's all you can do
82751
Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead