I  have grandchildren 800miles away,is it normal to cry just about every night, from missing them ?
106737
I think that it's a normal thing. You are attached to them, and it's perfectly fine to feel sad. Whoever says you're not normal apparently doesn't have kids or grandchildren...and if they do, well, they are sad for thinking it's wrong.
789417
Yes i have. I was about, 5ish. (Im 13 now) My family moved in with my granmother when we moved from Michigan. I had a bad dream or something and I went to my parents room. (I'd never done it before) My mom just rolled over and told me to go back to bed. On the way back to my room, I saw a flicker at the corner of my eye. Looking directly at it, I saw nothing. Changing tactics, I looked out of the side of my eye.  A old man was standing there, watching me. Scared out of my wits, I asked, "Who are you?" He looks at me and smiles then disappears into thin air. The next morning, I told my grandmother what had happened. She cried and told me " That was your Grandfather, he was just being your gardian angel, Torrie."  From then on, I got up every night, watching for him but he never came back.
79720
It is normal. Children may feel excitement when their birthdays are near. Some adults still feel it. But most adults don't feel great become older. If you think your life there won't bring you any good, please don't be scared to change it. Try new things, don't let work be the only thing in your life as you only live once. New activities may bring you to new friends. Moving to another place could be a good option. Good luck.
840428
My wife and I divorced when our sons were 5 and 2 1/2.  It was a miserable experience.  The divorce was painful because I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere anymore.  There was no normality.  Even more painful was not being with my sons everyday.  The hurt will not disappear overnight.  You probably don't want to hear this but it just takes some time.  One thing that will help is to maintain a civil relationship with your ex, but while the hurt is still there try to restrict your conversations to the children.  As for the children, do whatever you can to make sure you have as much time with them as you possibly can.  Focus your energy on making sure they know you want them around and that your home is also their's and they aren't just visitors.  I know the pain you are feeling and my heart goes out to you.  This won't make the hurt go away completely, but it does give you something to sort of hang-on to that is positive.
407268
I still feel that sometimes, and my grandfather died 20 years ago.  If you had a strong bond, it's normal.  Either that or we both are crazy.
576138
It's really sweet that you're so concerned but, unfortunately, there's not much you can do.  They are the parents and they have to work out their own issues.  If it continues to be a problem, maybe you can express your concerns to a grandparent.  Maybe a grandparent could talk to your parents and let them know you're worried.  Just do your best to comfort your mom when she's sad!\nGood luck!
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Maybe what you need are some new friends, not necessarily leaving the ones you have. Just broaden your circle of friends. A circle of friends should include at least one who keeps you on track...one who will always be straight with you and tell you when you're being stupid. You should be able to know that you can tell your friends anything, and it won't get broadcasted all over the city...trust. You should be able to have fun with your friends and have shared interests. That doesn't mean you always agree with everything they say. It means that you like some of the same things they like and you can do them together. Your friends should never be threatened by you bringing another friend into your circle, because your friends are like your extended family and are an extention of you. If your friends want you to be exclusive to them only, it may be time to find all new friends. No one should own your friendship. If your friends call and want to go somewhere and you don't, it should be ok to let them know you just don't feel like going out with them right now. They should be secure in your relationship that you don't have to spend all your time with them in order to remain close friends. You don't have to see your grandparents every day in order for them to continue to love you. It's the same with friends. Friendship should never be conditional, based on how much time you put into it. But, a certain amount of maintenance IS required to keep your relationship close. If you're wanting a break, it sounds like they're requiring more of you than you want to give. So, maybe just take up a new hobby for a while and see if it makes things go a little better for you. <*)))><
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Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
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im really sorry. its ok to cry. talk to your gramma and make sure she knows you love her. and cry all you want. its natural to feel sad. tell a good friend how you feel, maybe get a pyscologist to help you. just remember that you aren't alone. after all im a total strangerand im helping you. yea and that dguey guy two up from me sucks, don't listen to him.
428101
i only knew my great-grandmother. she took care of me every day when i was little, but she died when i was 8.  it was cool because she was 80 years older than me which is a whole world of difference.  she could remember back to the turn of the century (1900, not 2000 of course).  she told me stories all the time about how the world was when she was little.  she really valued teaching children nursery rhymes, bible songs, and stories of the past.  i think she was really important in shaping the values i still have. also, i have lots of respect and some sympathy for old people now b/c of her.  it's got to be sad to be old and be living in a world that is so unfamiliar to you and where you don't really feel like you are a valued part of society.  i really miss her even today, but i'm so grateful that i knew her.  i'm sorry you missed out on that, maybe, hopefully, you'll be around to know your own great-grandchildren adn you can make good memories for them like i have.
620244
I know exactly how you feel and yes it is normal to feel sad and maybe even a little angry that she had to die in a such a terrible tragic way especially being a young mom... I lost my friend in a car accident a long time ago and still think about her often she was too young didn't even have a chance to have children and she would have made a great mother. But the pain does start to go away eventually and you should just try to remember the good times and if possible try to be their for the children she left behind and tell them what a great person and friend she was to you and everyone else.... That way no one will ever forget her....
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When I was 16 lost both of my parents and little sister in a car accident. The only reason I was not with them is because like most 16 year olds I refused to go and wanted to stay at home by myself. I really have never gotten over the feeling of what made me so special that night and did God really have anything to do with this. 15 years later not a day goes by without the feeling of despair. I think I am going to cry rigtht now so I'll end this.
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I understand how you feel I lost my grandmother the same way. We were close and I am sure you were with your grandmother, she just wants to comfort you and let you know she still loves and not to be discouraged because she will all ways be there to watch over you. Don't be afraid it will all be okay.
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My dad died 2 years ago and I did not cry out loud.On the inside i was in hysterics,on the outside calm.I am still that way.Perhaps that is why I ache inside> I still think of him many times a day. So I can not give you advice on how to deal ; only tell you that you are not alone.
809587
I don't know what your troubles were but they sound pretty bad.  We support you and your great positive attitude.  I lost alot of loved ones in my family including my nephew when he was just 15.   I know what you are saying and thank God every day that I and my children are alive to share another day together.  God bless you!
614862
Absolutely. More so MUM, we have a great friendship & I love them both very much. I miss them both right now as Im on the other side of the world.
732853
I have not lost a parent. I have lost a brother. We were approx. 12 months apart in age. He died drinking and driving when I was 20 and he was 19. I was devastated, but never cried about it. He and I had talked about death but not our own. There isn't a day goes by I don't think about him. I am sad, on the inside, but not depressed. I can talk about him with great pride and conviction without crying a drop. And about the loss..... is there anyway to describe the feeling of emptiness and loss? No, but we can not dwell on what we can not change. I do know that my life would be completely different if he were here. I moved 1000 miles from home, just to get away from the sadness, it didn't help. But it did change the whole direction of my life. I will not say that it is a mental illness to have feeling like this, but it is very difficult to express the way you truly feel. I try not to talk about it but feel better when I do. His birthday was last week 10/25. Mine is today.