Family or Love?  That is the question.....?
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Now i'm not going to call you crazy but please listen up. This is not a world you should trust, meaning there are alot of cooks out there who is willing and able to take advantage of your love for them. Why don't you wait about a year, have patience, and see where God wants to take you. You have a soul responsibility to your son, and taking him on a dangerous journey is not very wise. You going alone is not wise in itself so putting your son a risk for something terrible to happen is even worse. Love conquers all but as it says in Pr 14:8 The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way: but the folly of FOOLS is deceit. Don't be decieved into something that might not be meant to be and might not be God's will for you and your sons life. Seek the wisdom and instruction of the Lord if you believe. You have only known him for two months and you are quickly and foolishly running off to another state with him. Is this because you have a dream for your son to have a father and you to have family, well let it be done right not foolishly. Take the step to saying I will go with you but not now. Wait about a year or even two, and see if he still loves you then, see what kind of person he really is. Then  see after that if he will marry you. If so then you know you are on your way to having that family but my best advice to you is seek the kingdom of God first and all of these things shall be added unto you. Make sure you are equally yoked, meaning you must have the same beliefs in God and are both saved. If that's not the case than it will not work, trust  me on this! Do you know for sure what he believes as far as God and salvation, marriage? Do you know for sure what he does for a living? have you done a back ground check on him? Give me his name and I can do it for you email me privately. It's for your and your son's saftey. Do yo know his history and full personality? Do you know his family and have you talked to any of them? Is he controlling? Do you know what he likes and don't like? Do you know his dating history? Most of these you probably believe you know or don't know yet but are serious things you need to consider when leaving your safety zone and your family. They might be on to something so talk to them. Parents often times can sense danger of there child. please email me. I am very concerned for you saftey and your sons. \nsincerely yours, Godly Woman
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My family is the perfect family.  We all have our setbacks (some still living at home, divorce, children out of wedlock, some out of work for a while, arguements with husbands/ wives, etc.) BUT- We all are close (including children's children) and we love each otherSO MUCH.  We see each other often.  We still are corrected by our parents.  We live pretty close by to each other.  We all go to church.  God is the center of our lives.  We argue for a few seconds.  We laugh.  We are extremely loyal, giving & kind.  There are lots of us.  We help each other out.  Our children are actually friends and not just cousins.  We treat each other's homes as if it is our own home.  We cook for each other.  We voice for each other.  We defend each other.  We cry to each other.  We talk on the phone.  We go out together.  We vacation together.  We do favors for each other.  We help with each other's businesses.  We borrow each other's stuff.  We are loud & noisy.      \nThis is only a small explanation of my perfect family.  I hope that I raise a family exactly like my parents did.  I always pray for this.
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Most people want to know their family, good or bad\n\nGood Luck
61230
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! YOUR COUSIN?! that is sick,might i add- illegal in most states! have you ever seen an inbred person? now why would you try to make a relationship with a relative work out. could you cause the pain, need i mention the embarrasment, to your families... this could tear the family apart as well as tear the two of you apart. i think it is a bad ideal but of course i am not the one in love with my cousin... dude i don't know what to tell you, it seems to me you think incest is the best... so put your cousin to the test. think about the day you will meet your maker!
517678
I would. I will do anything for my daughters and my son and I know there is no chance of us getting together. Now, I know that's not what you meant, but the type of love you have for this person needs to change to the same type of love that you would have for your family members. I say that because I don't want you to miss out on having someone love you the way you love them and it sounds like you love this person very much to put their happiness over your own. But don't you think there is someone out there that deserves that type of love? And more importantly, don't you think you deserve to be loved like that? Continue being there for this person, but keep your eyes open for that other person out there that's waiting not only for your love but to love YOU in return....
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You cant just reject a family decision based on what you're "heart" tells you to do. What the heck does age have to do with it? The choice is yours and hers. She has the right to know if her family doesnt like her and if you love her and she loves you, include her in you're decision. Dont just make the choice yours. Then proceed with what you both think is best. More relationships are lost by not making the rights decision and not making them the right way. And as for you're family dont reject what they have to say. Find out what they draw there judgement from and merely disprove it. Most problems between people are merely misconcepts or misjudgements, Explanantions can often soften the impact.
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age is nothing but a number and your family should love you know matter what. If that's the man that you love then go for it. explain how you really fell about him and if all else fells just go for it you always have to follow your heart
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If you can see he is not truly commited:\n\nIf you can bear with it, then you should know it is time to move on. You know this is not gonna work out. Where will this lead to, if you go on like this? He will never be yours. \n\nWhat is the point of mixing around with this sort of people? In fact, you should know by now he isn't worth it. \n\n\nIf you can see he is commited but hesitant:\n\nThen find out why. There must be something troubling him.\nHis family opposition perhaps. Try to resolve it with him. If it is his family, perhaps you can find some ways to present yourself to impress them. \n\nTry also to tell him it is time to make his own decision and not let others interfere. After all, if you both marry, it will be your new life and no one elses.
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love is where someone tell another person that they care about them, all the time knowing that it's not true.\njust that love is a lie. only your family loves you for real. women and men depending on what you like, well they just tell you what you want to hear , until they get what they want and then they kick you to the curb
196027
You have to choose if your obtaining your happiness at the expense of upsetting your family is worth it.  It is a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer.  Sooner or later you will have to stand up for what you want in your life and not everyone will agree with your choices.  It is just a question of if now is that time for you?
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Family, love, happiness and respect
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Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
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Love is a very broad feeling and I know what you mean even if most people don't. I believe it is okay to love all three of them at the same time. Life is complicated and what matters is that you are happy. Tell them all that you love them as well as loving others. If they can not accept it then it is not real love. Good Luck. :^)
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Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
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i dont think there is a rule to this one.. sometimes it takes time and somtimes it doesnt.. my parents fell in love over time and my aunt and uncle was love at first sight..both couples have been together for over 50 years... hang in there girl..
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I was always told growing up that your family are the people who know you and all your bad habits and love you anyway. Now that I am raising my step children and a foster child PLUS my own kids, I realize how true that statement is. Family are the people you turn to when you need someone to tell off because you have had a bad day and they will still speak to you when you have calmed down. And in some cases that person might not be blood related to you but it doesn't make them any less a member of your "family"
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Depends on what kind of love it is.\nAnyway, do u love your parents?