what do u do when ur in love with someone online but there from overseas(international)?
104145
If you have never met the person before, it is not entirely likely you are really in love.  In any case, the obvious reason that long distance relationships don't work is for that reason- you never actually spend time with the person.  if you truly feel in love, you should get on a plane and elope with them.
297938
Well, if you really trust this person, you can always convince yourself that it will work. However, the sad truth is that even the best of relationships have been ruined by long-distance problems. Don't break off too soon, play it by ear. But if you do so, just remember that you may be hurt. Good luck and be strong! =)
276272
hey just cloze ur eyes for sumtime n dont think of anything.. if u cant be thatway, and if u cant be without thinking of him u hav fallen in the greatest language that connects people in dis world...
256938
It is possible to fall in love with someone you've come to know on-line.  I've known couples who have met on-line and are happily married.  I believe it is completely possible.  Congratulations on finding that someone special.\n\nI suggest you plan on setting up a meeting, and see if that same chemistry exists outside of cyberspace.  Sometimes people feel much more comfortable and are able to be themselves when there's a computer between them, than when they are there in person.  Give it some time and effort and hopefully you'll have a connection in real life that is as strong or stronger than the one you have via email.\n\n"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get--only with what you are expecting to give--which is everything. " ~Katherine Hepburn
417572
I fell in love with a girl on the net.  She lived in Brazil, I live in the US.  We're married now.  We both thought we were too far away for anything to happen at first.  You just never know........  I also thought I fell in love with a few girls I met online, but I really hadn't.
717987
Make sure that you love him as much as you say you do and make sure he feels that same way. If you are thinking about a long distance relationship, find out if he is that type of person to maintain that kind of relationship. Once you find out these things, you'll know how he feels. If it turns out in your favor, you'll be happier, and if it doesn't, you'll be sad but emotional wounds heal.
652443
Its possible to fallen in love with someone on net. I'm having that relation from last 2 years. We are having understanding that we are quite far, different status and having different lifestyle but our feelings are same with each other. I met him first face to face after 6 months of online. He made me confident and more positive towards life...I can say he made a girl into a women. We share our happiness and probs, its an unconditional bounding between us which we wish would last forever. I wish you would also have such beautiful relation which i have.
801902
me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
364654
well, i wouldn`t advise you but you must try to meet both and get to know each other well..if he really loves you he would do all his best to meet you personally..i myself hav been chattig with a guy for the past 9months but not on the net.he`d taken my num and we`ve been chatting on the phone till now!you know am in the same situation as yours but still i have a hope.i dont know him,he dont know me but he`s coming to my country with his dad to meet me.the fact is that we dont hide anything from each other.watever hapened in the past he tells me and i tell him.am from mauritius and he`s from london!!!!so wat i can tell you is:best of luck!!but still try to get everything clear from him about his past etc..if he loves you he will not keep you in the dark am sure
480642
Well, lets start by saying 2 of my cuzz met their soulmates from chatrooms are are still very much in love.I personally met mine from there too.Yeah, people can lie abt everything on the net but you gotta meet them in the flesh.And you just take it from there, if it doesnt work, move on.Lets face it, the guys n gals we meet outside sometimes don't work out either..Just go with the flow and most importantly, follow your heart.
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The time is not the issue.  People's feelings grow and change - so the limiting factor here is not the time, but the fact that you simply don't feel comfortable typing those words in an email.\n\n2 thoughts come to my mind.  1) You want a relationship but you are not committed to investing in this person enough to express your love.  That's very reasonable.  Being in love with this person has complications.  Who will move and give up their home, lives and friends?  Maybe both of you - and for what?  A complete unknown.  2) Maybe you don't really love him if you cannot bring yourself to say in in over a year?  Sometimes we are in love with love and having a long distance partner makes the whole relationship thing, so much easier.  You don't have to mess with somebody in your actual life every single day, but you have a boyfriend, so you don't have to worry about it.  It's taken care of.  A shame that its long distance, but also really nice.\n\nI wouldn't rock the boat if I was you.  If he is saying I love you and you want to respond, but can't with the actual words, you can try something like "You mean so much to me", "I don't know what I would do without you in my life" or "I think the world of you".  Lesser forms are more like "I totally dig you", "You are my favorite person in the whole world", etc.\n\nPeace!
98247
it all depends on how commited you are to him. long distance relationships aren't easy. talk to him about it. be sure you cover every possible situation. and KNOW exactly how you feel about him. it takes two to make a relationship work.
172857
Long distance relationships can last but it's very hard and you should really love this guy, if you're not sure then maybe you should just stay as friends
1177728
I was in a similar situation....  met somebody online...  and we had the same feelings for each other.. except, both of us are married.  In both our cases, however, our situation with our spouses was/is somewhat different than yours.  Our spouses weren't abusive or negative, for both of us, it was just something that started as an online friendship that progressed into an online love.. but I must stress, NOT a love affair.  \nHaving said all this, we need to look at your situation.  Though similar, the difference is that he is not married (as far as you know) and you don't seem to be interested in leaving your husband.  So, first I have to ask.. if you feel you do love this online man..  and your husband is abusive.. whether physically or emotionally does not matter... then.. why not consider leaving your husband for this other man?  It's just a thought and something you would need to think long and hard about.  It's also something that you would have to be sure was right for both of you.\nMeeting somebody online is an easy thing to do.  Meeting somebody physically is not.  Have you swapped pics?  If you have, are you both physically interested in each other as well as emotionally interested?  Some people say that looks don't matter when you're in love...  maybe.. but human nature says otherwise.\nIf you really like this guy and you feel that is a connection there with him.. between both of you...  and with both of you... then it's something you really need to consider carefully.  \nAsk yourself some questions:\nDo you still love your husband?\nDoes he treat you well enough to continue being your spouse?\nDoes he treat you well enough for you to say you love him?\nIf you still do love him, do you love him enough to live with him, possibly for the rest of your life, regardless of the way he treats you?\nDo you deserve to be treated the way he treats  you?\nWill this 'new' man treat you any differently?  How do you know?\nDo you know enough about this 'new' man to know whether a relationship outside of the internet would be a safe one?\nAre there kids involved?\nThere are many more questions you should consider apart from these and I'm sure other people will put their 2 cents worth in as well.\nMy own feeling...  if it were me... and my spouse was abusive.. I'd consider what we had... and what we have now.  I'd look at the big picture.. does my spouse still want to be with me?  What am I giving up? What am I gaining?\nHow will my family feel about it?  Can I talk to my family about it?\nWeigh the pro's and con's... get some advice from somebody close to you.  In your heart, you will know what the choice is and what's best.  It's not an easy choice but nobody said life is easy!\nGood luck!
76775
Do what I did, marry someone from another country and pretend you're from there.\n\nKidding.  Sorta.
440717
it was difficult to make the connection first. your love 'crush' is online? its a 50/50 thing. everything from you're in danger(!) or could be, to; you two will find love and get married. my advice - move carefully. never meet in person one on one.
884126
Be friends first!! Dont just think you can dive into a relationship and expect it to work. Get to know eachother really well. I met my fiance in a online chat room. We were friends first for a few years, now we're planning on getting married soon. I live in Canada and hes in the USA. We get to see eachother in person every few months, and talk on the phone everynight and use our webcams as much as possible. So this new girl you've met could end up being someone you want to spend your life with. Just take it slow. Nothing just happens overnight. As far as wanting to see eachother. Dont just think either you or her have to move to be with eachother. Long distance relationships do and can work out. All depends on you and the other person. If it does turn out that you want to spend your life with this girl, theres options. You can have her move to the US to be with you, or you move there. Right now, I'm waiting on my fiance visa to move to the USA, so thats an option for you. I dont know how the government in the Phillipines works, but thats something you can look into. Remember, one step at a time. Best of luck to ya!