marraige.... whats the big deal ??????????????
106395
It's silly and romantisized by girls since they're small children. \n\nIf you want to be married, under god, pray together and make the ceremony yourselves saying you commit yourselves to god and will be together for always. Thats much more personal than a memorized chant from the religious organization. Do this and it'll at least ease your wife's concerns that it'll be two kids already and not married(what kind of message is that, she says).\n\nDon't worry too much. Take your time and organize well, it'll make the marriage ceremony unstressful, and possibly as your wife fantasizes it. If you rush, you'll be stressed and burdened for the coming time of the ceremony.
932193
Marriage has it's advantages, it's not always fun but it's not always bad either. It is a compromise, a give and take sort of thing if you will. There are always going to be problems with any relationship and marriage is no different. The main thing is the two people involved have to be compatible for it to work. Marriage can be wonderful thing. It's nice to always have someone to rely on and to comfort you but it is a two way street.>
580354
What!?!? Don't you KNOW?? I thought you said that you are going to marry!! Normally people wait until AFTER they've found a suitable mate before making that decision...!
61120
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing when its w/ the right person.  I can hardly wait to marry my fiance.  We live together now and its hard but great.  You have to work at it like everything else in life to make it wonderful.  You get out what you put into basically.
1183236
I don't agree....some relationships just aren't meant to be, it has nothing to do with moving in with each other before marriage. I honestly think living together before marriage is a good thing because you get to know the person and figure out if you are going to work out. It better than running off to Vegas getting married in t-shirt and jeans to someone you barely know. Marriage is sacred, it should not be rushed.
689014
Listen, don't be too stuck on frivolous things like that. It smacks of superstition, which is what your marriage does NOT need. What you SHOULD be asking is if you are both resilient, have a good sense of self, if you're better as a couple than as single people, if you've discussed finances (money is the number one issue on divorces) and if you're both morally on par. Get back to me when you're ready to answer those <wink>.
264827
Lifetime partner? That's kinda flaky. . . come back and ask again when you can ask what the responsibilities of married couples are.
185908
nope! love is...love! i can't explain. my hubby and i got married after 2 months of knowing eachother, and we're now going on 5 years of marriage! if it's true love (and the feeling is mutual), i suppose it makes sense, right? ^_^ but, really, it's all up to how you (and him)feel about it... good luck!
687261
In favor\nI think the hang-up for a lot of people is that they think of marriage only in terms of the ritual defined in their religion.\n\nIt isn't.  It is a civil and social institution that affects a person's legal, social and financial status.\nIt isn't fair to withhold the benefits to anyone who is willing to make the committment to another person.\n\nBesides which, how do the details of someone elses marriage affect your marriage in any way?  I just don't get why anyone is bothered by it.\n\nHere's a little food for thought.  \nDid you know that not long ago it was actually illegal in many states for people from different races to marry each other?  Its the same kind of arbitrary restriction that just doesn't make any sense. So I hope we'll all eventually outgrow this one too.
565596
The only reason I can think of is that they love the person so much that they cant imagine living without them. Marriage isn't for the faint hearted it requires open communication, commitment and flexibility. To share your life with someone, accepting their faults as well as their good traits, to be committed to making their life as full of love and happiness as you can so that in return they will do the same for you isn't always easy but the reward of being with that someone special is awesome....
1043571
hmmm ... from your question, if you are married, I guess its time that you and your wife visit a marrige councelor.\n\nCheers!
82365
Well, i am not particularly a fan of it, but i dont necessarily think itsa bad thing either. The idea of it is marry first, fall in love later.  Iprefer to find my own mate, because if the marriage fails, then it was my fault and atleast i can say, i did love him and for all the went wrong, look at what went right.  When the marriage is aranged and fails, then the tendency to harbor blame and anger exists.  But i think in a way, it still exists all over the world, even in USA.  Being set up  on blind dates, meeting ppl through friends...etc are all formsof arrangements, just not so final.
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marriage is a religious and social status.  i've been with my partner for 5 years and we are not married.  our relationship is great. he is always there for me, as i am for him.\ni'm not saying marriage is not a beautiful thing.  or that i don't believe in it.  i'm just saying that some people don't have to have approval from society and the church.  i'm not knocking it, i'm not saying we aren't going to get married.  i am saying that we're happy with our situation right now.
536693
lol tell me about it. I thinks it's a self-preservation thing for the unhappily married ones.
630043
Didn't know it still existed !!  Whoever does it is just plain crazy...how can you marry someone after not meeting, unless you meet, like each other, get to know each other and fall inlove with each other, if its not that way then it would suck...
227630
Personally, I don't believe it will damage our society. Most of the ppl in the world are very religious and believe marriage should just be between a man and a woman. But we are human beings just like them, except we love a person of the same gender. Theirs nothing different between us except that. Everyone has their own beliefs on this issue. I just say you can't help who you fall in love with!!! Been with my gf for 2 yrs now!!! And we're still goin!!
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Wait until the initial passion is over before you think about marrige. Take it slow. If you are meant for each other you will be together anyway whether you are married or not. Marrige is just a formality.