HOw do u spice up the bedroom life if your partner is scared?
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Communication. It solves lots of problems, trust me.
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if you're nervous, no matter how much you love your partner, it will hurt. when you're nervous, your muscles are tightened and it'll be hard for you and your partner to engage in intercourse. take a deep breath, relax, and think only good things and i think you will be fine.
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Pay more attention to your partner than to yourself.\nLearn control.
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go for a walk after it is dark, its proven talkin in the night makes a person more relaxed and more open, beacuse of the atmosphere, \nmake the person feel relaxed, talk bout some deep stuff like, planz for future, family, marriage, or whatever the hell it is the person is in2, \nand when you're standin/sittin close to each other,\nstart lowerin your voice to a whisper, which will make you feel more intimate and ummmmmmmmmmmmmm.... start whisperin stuff in his/her ear and go for the kill!!!!!\n\nbut make sure, whatever u do, make sure to ask him/her whether they would ever consider bein in a relationship with a friend.............or the consequences can be brutal......\nbut trust me, dont be nervous/shy cause 9/10 it will work out.....\nthe person i'm with, like, we were friends for like, forever, but one day i jus kissed her and she kissed me back, we then realised we was actually thinkin bout it from day one, but both of us were jus to scared to make the first move\nanyway, good luck with whatever u do
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well, that all depends... but here are a few that work well for me.\n\ngirl on top, lean up a little so your clit rubs against his skin and grind into him (just like manual stimulation!)\n\ndoggie style and have him rub your clit, or you rub it, or use a vibrator.\n\ngirl on top.. face his feet and squat. lean forward enough that your clit rubs against his balls.\n\nlay down on your stomach. have him come in from behind like doggie style, but laying on top of you. this way, you can grind your clit into the bed/pillow/a vibrator\n\ndon't be afraid to experiment with positions or ask him to rub your clit.. better yet.. just put his hand there.. don't be afraid to touch yourself.. and don't be afraid to use toys.  when you find things/positions that help you get off... make sure you let your man know!
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just make little suggestions every now and then such as\nwouldn't it be nice if.....\nor\ni would really love it if you did....\nmy partner isn't romantic and just by doing this i got him to suprise me it takes a little bit but at least once a week now i will get home and he would have a bubble bath ready with candles around for him and myself to enjoy.\nAnd i even get a romantic dinner every couple of weeks.\njust tell him that you would really love it if every now and then he would suprise you and be romantic.\n\nGoodluck and let me know how you go.
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try something new. be open to more stuff. maybe a little oral... a little anal... a little s&m... a little roleplay... a few 3-ways... and trust me, he'll be happy, dont be afraid to be a freak.
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It is not something that you should just "deal" with. This can be a very serious issue. Do you know why the fear is there? Does it stem from something in your past? If you do not know, then you need to dig deep into that issue first, before you can tackle the issue of the fear itself. Have you always been like this? Or did it just start to happen? \n\nNow, if you know why it is (something in your past, abuse, ect.) then you need to start to work on that issue. Maybe seek a psychologist that specializes in sexual issues. DO NOT exclude your spouse from any of this. Communication is SOOOO important. If he does not know anything is wrong, or if he doesn't know you are seeking help, how is he going to get help? He needs to be helped just as much as you do because I am sure at one point, he has thought (or he might just be thinking it now) that it is his fault (and again, I am just taking a guess that none of this is actually his fault).
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Put on a lace boostier and boycut panties with a pair of fishnet pantyhose/ heels. Cook dinner in that while he sit and watch while drinking on his favorite wine or liquor. It will probably be hard for him to allow you to prepare the meal, but don't give in, maybe do a little teasing. After candlelight dinner, suprise him in the bedroom and give him his own personal stripper(you) for the night and let the fun began. Oh, make sure you don't prepare too heavy of a meal, you don't want him to get stuffed and fall asleep :)
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Light some candles play some soft slow music and dress up in some sexy lingerie.  Run him a hot bath and wait.  When he comes home, call him in the room, slowly undress him and walk him into the bath.  Wash him and kiss him and then get a towel and dry him off.  With champagne glasses waiting, bottle of champagne or sparkling cider for those who don't drink, walk over to the bed and pour two glasses.  Watch the sparks fly! Have great fun always!
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talk dont b scared 2 ask question if u know what your partner wants than its eisier 2 satisfy them
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Tease him, esp. around his "Area"  A massage is always good to spice things up, with oil of course. Make up a "coupon" book of different things to be done. Like Massage, massage a certaion body part- Kissing, have sex a certain way- talk dirty-things like that. Have dinner by candlight, have dessert ready( meaning you)  Get some Outfits--role play!!Have sex in public!! Be creative!! Its fun!!
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scared of what??? girl you better spread those legs eagle wide and let him put his face in it. that's the best feeling in the world. just relax and the orgasms are great.
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I'd say hot, try and find something you're both going to be comfortable with and make sure you're not going to be disturbed. If it freaks either of you out, stop and put it down to experience!
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chocolates, seafood and all sorts of things can be recomended to you, but what i recomend the most is your partner himself! I would suggest you do more kissing and more fooling around! light touches everywhere , try not to use your hands , only your mouth and tongue. tell him to do the same to you, let him know your body more! let him explore it again like when u got married, maybe you dont feel that sex drive cause things might have gotten a  little repetitive! do something new! go out of the house if you have kids or teens or whatever and go to another place and make love ther, or use sweet things like cream or chocolate, try to get some scented candles for your room and rose petals, or in the bathtub! \nANY PLACE IS GOOD FOR LOVING WHEN YOU LOVE!!!!!\ndont be afraid to explore new things! kiss his nick and then blow over it ... its nice lol \nand senses tend to react more to light touch! let him kiss you everywhere and do the same give eachother a  massage before making love and dont rush to have sex... its a  gradual thing! \nhope that helps\n\nAlinne
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1)Both of u take a break and go for a holiday somewhere exotic...the change in scene might do good.\n2)bring in an element of mystery in your sex-life...play sex games.\n3)get sexy lingery and initiate sex.
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Take a bubble bath together, then take turns reading a book aloud to each other. It is fun, and since there is no pressure, the spontaneous sex can be fantastic! (If it happens) Oh, a good bottle of wine never hurts, either!