Can you be happy with someone whos's getting reday to get out of jail.?
105767
When I first found out I was getting out of jail I felt like I could never be the same person again but when your in jail you have alot of time to think just give him a chance and if doesn't work than tell him or try to talk to him and if that doesn't work than get rid of him.
1101004
what if the guy is in prison?
409622
Guess it depends on how bad is his crime?  And exactly how much do you LOVE him???  Yup, there's always extenuating circumstances.  It's never cut n dried.  Start with, what do you WANT to do?  Are you willing to wait 5 years for someone who may not be worth waiting for?  Questions, questions......and only YOU are able to answer them.  Any of us, as strangers, can only hope that you ask yourself all these tough questions, so that your're able to make the best decision for yourself.
1183088
If you are saying what I think your saying I would get away from that dude. It's only been 5 weeks. If he is doing things he shouldn't be doing and you are hanging around him you are going to get in trouble, or get hurt. I knew a girl once who had a boyfriend who was involved in that crap and she is dead now. Just think this way too, that dude is going to be in prison soon so you won't see him anyways. And that's the truth.
1174897
If you're caught, and likely you will be...you'll be returned to prison/jail to finish out your sentence.  Is it really worth it?
1162270
I applaud you man. That is a hard thing for anyone to do. I REALLy think that you have done the right thing! Almost my whole family has been in jail or prison except for me, and they refuse to change. Still doing & selling grugs. It is sad, but then there are people like you that still give me hope! Way to go!!!
497091
nope leave him alone he is sa jailbird and u are 2 nice lookin for that go get somebody thats gonna be there 4 you when calls its not gonna be collect okay u can do better than that okay (good luck )
754702
Chances are very good if he's already on probation.  It's up to the individual judge, but most cases I've heard of like this did get jail time.
1066545
You should have a nice long talk with him and give him an ultimatum. If he loves you, he'd do the right think and not do things that are illegal or get him in trouble.  Who do you think will be visiting him when he's in prison? Not his so called friends. YOU.  Nip this is the bud now babe. You want your man honest, healthy and living life to its fullest on the right side of the law. Good luck hun. Do the right thing.
1059661
Is he in love with you? Is your husband in jail? Ummm. I say you have a serious problem. How old are your children? Follow your heart - it is the only way to be happy. Even if other people will get hurt.
338686
Actually, I am... My husband has been an inmate twice since we've met and has just recently been released about a week and a half ago. We have been going through a messy divorce since the 23 of June, last year(our six month wedding anniversary).\n\nThere also was a man that I had known and spent half my life in love with and he was released last summer and is now in Colorado doing great; he didn't waste anytime getting back on his feet.\n\nThey both, by far, are repeat offenders not once, not twice, not even thrice. They both have spent the majority of there lives going in and out of jail and extremely close to prison. The difference between them is that my husband wants to do right and has the faith and ability to do so as well as a lot of potential for success in many areas of his life, but he lacks the understanding of HOW to live differently and the common sense of wise decision making. He isn't doing any of the bad things that he did to get him locked up to begin with, but he is still putting himself in situations that could eventually land him back where he began, claiming that his walk with god is so strong that he can handle the situation, when his family and I all know that his strength will eventually weaken due to where he is choosing to stay. BUT the other guy I spoke of had a safe place to stay and a secure job with in weeks and went as far as a move from California to Colorado to get away from his previous influences and is doing great right now; he even got custody of his 6 year old daughter back.\n\nThese two people are very similar and very different which goes to show that you shou7ldn't judge people by their mistakes; it is our mistakes that make us human. BUT we can be judged by the efforts we take to make things right once given the knowledge, ability, and the freedom to do so.\n\nThe best advice I could give is to go online tro the court website of the county he is convicted in, type his name into the search, and it will pull up his entire criminal history and all other related cases he may have; it's all public record. Also, try and find out what kind of home life he had growing up, because that will play a big role in his decision making process and will give you a better idea of his non-jail personality. I say non-jail personality, because once you're locked up you tend to form what's called a prison mentality which means that you learn to anipulate people into beleiving that what you say is genuine and that they really have rehabilitated and deserve another chance, yet once released they go right back to there old ways. So find out as much as you can about who he used to be and carefully compare him to the person you know him to be now. Ask him what plans he has for when he is released. Most inmates that are serious about the desire to rehabilitate will have already constructed a plan as to where they will stay, how they will get around, where they will work, just general goals and ways of meeting those goals.\n\nFind out when he is supposed to be released and continue writing to him or calling him which ever you prefer and see how he unfolds as a person once released rather than getting involved right away.\n\nIt's not easy, but sometimes you have to see where your heart leads you, just make sure your smarts have brought along a safety net just incase.
260928
Hmmm.  This is a tough one.  I can only give you a little bit of personal advice...take it for what it's worth.  I dated a man (and I am not proud of this by ANY means) who was in prison (for fleeing the police.  I know, I know. Please don't judge...I was young and stupid!) I went into this relationship thinking that I would be able to change him. That was the biggest mistake I ever made.  I've learned that no matter how much you try, that person will never change unless THEY want to.  If he doesn't want to change, it's not worth your unhappiness to stay with him. Life is too short to put up with the bulls*it!\n\nOn the other hand, have you tried talking to your man about these issues?  Does he know how you feel?  He may be willing to listen.  Maybe you will need to compromise with him.  Maybe he will be willing to change his ways if you're willing to change a little too.  I'm getting married in November and have come to realize that the only way a relationship will survive is if both people give a little and take a little.  Just be honest to him, and to yourself.  Go with your gut feelings.  Afterall, it's YOU that really matters in the end.  Good luck!!
918200
Call the Courts of whatever city he is in....I think you should not listen to these other people saying you should not marry someone in Jail.....You cant help whom you love and if you feel you love this person no matter what then do whatever it takes to marry him!  When you are in love you will always love that perosn.....Unconditionally!   I hope you figure out how to marry him!  Hes lucky to have his girlfriend out there supporting him, trying to make you two "one".....Let me know how everything works out!  And Good Luck!
101073
There are no guarantees.  Look at divorce rate.  Ask yourself if you truly enjoy this person's company.  Do you communicate well?  Is this person insecure/secure?
581457
I hope when he gets out of prison yall are very happy with each other.  Course you will not be, because he's a pervert who gets off on young girls.  You are being used, don't be a victim, be the mature person you say you are.  This isn't rocket science.
962604
Good luck!It's not gonna happen,the prison won't tell you if the person is in there.They cannot give out that type of information.They will assume you are trying to help the person break out or are after the person for some type of vendetta.
288966
you cant be totally satisfied until you have made someone else happy. ...sorry for the really bad grammar. i am in a hurry...