What does it mean when you love & care for ur spouse, but r no longer attracted to them?
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It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
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It means to not have sexual relations with another man or womans spouse (husband/wife).
180725
A "soulmate" isn't necessarily the person you have sex with, or are even attracted to, physically.  It means you bond on a spiritual level.  \n\nIt's ideal if your spouse is also your soulmate...but your soulmate can be a best friend, too!
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He may have lost attraction to you... sad to say. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.... you're having his kids for crying out loud!!! Personally, I would love my wife even more during that period, however, a lot of men arent like that. It probably has something to do with the weight you have gained from both pregnancies. You need to talk to him about your feelings and your concerns. Maybe marriage counseling would help... if you are both opened minded to that. You are going through a hard time now, physically, emotionally and all. I wish he was more supportive of you. Basically, dont take his selfishness and ignorance personal. You are doing a very important job right now and looks are secondary. Just my thought on the subject....\n\nCounselorDan
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loving some one does mean you would do anything for them you love them as you would your brother or mother. The love for your partner  should be a completely different feeling a different kind of love! The kind that will drive you crazy if you lose that one person. Its like that person is your world, you feel when their mad, sad or hurt. You can't imagine being or doing with out that one person! That's being in love! Loving is similar but you know if that person is upset in any way you comfort but you don't make it a priority and you know they will live. You have accepted the fact that if this person leaves you for what ever reason that it will hurt but you will live! Their not, lets be honest, the world to you! you will do anything for them, and if something where to happen you'd be there but, you know your world won't end because of it! There's a big difference if you understand what I'm saying. It's hard to explain! Think of it this way between him and your hubby- Which would hurt/kill you more if one of them had to go??? the one you can't be with out is the one your in love with!
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I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things
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yes. \nit doesn't mean that you'll never be attracted to anyone else again. and it doesn't mean that you'll never be in a position where you could cheat on them. it just means that in that moment you can make a choice not to do it. it helps to have a good relationship. love is great but if you don't feel satisfied in the relationship no amount of love can help
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If he is attracted to someone else, I think the lust is over for you two.
128323
You cant sleep or eat! All you can do is think about the other person! You cant stand to be with out them. You get weak in the knees in the persence! After 8 years, when my husband comes near me-I just melt into his arms!***** You know what the other person is thinking before they speak! You just look at them and smile! You are so thankful! Love lasts, it really can stand the test of good and bad! Good Luck I hope God blesses you with the kind of Love he has me!
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Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
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Had many of the same feelings when I first met my fiance.  Luckily they have subsided a bit and am now more able to lead a more "normal" life.  I still do think of her quite often and by no means does it mean that I think or respect he any less.  It's just that the initial honeymoon stage has worn off, took about 2 years and so am a little more grounded now.  Best of luck to you and yours.
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What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Just because you are married and love your husband does not mean you are dead. I am sure your husband is not perfect and neither is the other guy. It's like the new car smell, eventually it wears off as the car gets older.\n\nBe a friend to your friend and keep it that way. There is nothing wrong with feeling for someone that you like and admire. Just keep both of your families in focus and everthing should be okay.
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IT DOESN'T MEAN SHE DOESN,T LOVE YOU. SOMETIME WOMEN JUST LOOSE INTEREST, IT COULD BE A  HORMONAL THING. WHICH HAPPENS WHEN WOMEN GO THROUGH MENOPAUSAL. I HAVE BEEN IN THOSE SHOES. SOMETIMES PEOPLE DON'T HAVE AN EXPIATION JUST A FAZE IN THERE LIFE. JUST HANG ON..  GOOD LUCK..
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remember the time and how our spouses got attracted to us?  Try to remain the same way (looks) as much as possible and for as long as one can.  True, many tend to "let go" when they got their catch ... this in some way make the other's eyes "stray" sometimes.  Looking is perfectly ok, as long as it's not "acted" on. But then, nothing is permanent - if you eat lunch everyday, there'l always be a time when you get a little tired .... and you look for a fruit or chocolate ?  This is REAL LIFE
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Attraction deals with desire and sex only where as love is more profound as you'll think of this person not only in your bed but in your life too. The one you love is the one you think of spending your life with oppositely to an infatuation.
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My former marriage became loveless.  Symptoms included: Constant Criticism, un-achievable "expectations", no eye contact (unless angry), lack of communication, no physical contact, no interest in the others needs or desires, blaming the other for not reaching personal goals and own poor self-image, regular suspicion of motives, questioning of simple decisions......to name a few.
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How do you know you don't love them anymore?  Because there's no "tingly" feeling?  You'd be surprised how much you'd miss them if they were gone.\n\nUnfortunately we live in a day of disposable relationships.  We traffick in souls like commodities.  Our emotions and feelings are good servants but poor masters.