How do you help someone who no longer wants to be gay?
113834
being gay is not something that someone chooses for themselves they are or they are not.  You can change a behavior, such as not having relationships with a same sex partner, but no matter what if you are gay, you are gay
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
135157
i would embrace him/her, and reassure that person that regardless of sexual preference, he/she is still family, and i got his/her back. i know that this person needs acceptance and understanding..and i am more than willing to give both to this person, because at the end of the day, family is still family. and that, above all, should be reason enough.
808263
Perhaps your mom is trying to find a place because she wants you to know that she understands.  \n\nI hate to say this, but I did the same when my son came out this summer.  I think I was the last person that knew he was gay.  I am sure it's denial that I've been in; nonetheless, I felt somehow that I needed to show him that I care and understand...and accept him no matter what.  How does one show that when presented with new lifestyle?  I told him that I could attend groups that support gays and was advising him to hang out with other gays so no one picks fun of him.  It may sound ridiculous but its just a mother making sure her child is "safe."  We may accept and understand but we know others do not and we just want to protect ours.\n\nSo you could really sit down with your mother and explain to her that you pretty much know what you want to do but let her know you appreciate her attempts to help you.  You can reassure her that you are not depressed, that you are also not bipolar.  \n\nSometimes when a parent doesn't understand (or accept readily), we think something else is the cause.  Just be frank with her so that she understands that you know what you want in life and that this is it...that she doesn't have to feel she needs to "orchestrate."   My son is 26.  He had to tell me because I didn't think I was doing that.  It's hard not to "mother" so much.  :)
633075
No, because if you come on to him , and you are aware that he is not gay , the only thing you will achive is that he ends up accepting even less gay people , in fact you can make him become a homofobic,\nbest thing you can do is let go of the crush , before you become a real friend to him , this my friend will make him accept more gay people , and by doing this you are helping to create a better image of gay people , last thing we need is another straigt guy jusyfying his hate towards gay people , because some one told him he liked him once\nIF he rathers keeps his distance and you cant let go of the crush dont push the issue any further , is easiest for young gay guys to have straight friends that they are not atracted to
426347
Try to convince this person that homosexuality is wrong and use biblical passages to help. If this person refuses to give up the lifestyle mentioned, you must break off the relationship as this can't be condoned.
1097356
There's a completely free, completely confidential hotline that you can call that can help you come out. You can speak with an adult or with a young person like yourself.\n\nhttp://www.glnh.org/index2.html\n\nTheir website also has links to organizations in your area.\n\nAll of the following links have really great resources for coming out. Don't just click the top one... click all of them and read all of the brochures, etc.\nhttp://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html\nhttp://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html\nhttp://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out\n\nAnd if the friends you have are really your friends, they'll be your friends even if they know you're gay or bi. Real friends like you no matter what.\n\nGood luck!
836618
First of all I think it is awesome that you are such a good friend to him and will support him no matter what!!!  Some people would just turn their backs on their friend if they found out something like that, which i think is ridiculous.  I think that you should tell him that you have suspected for a long time that he is gay and would just like to know if it was true.  Then just tell him that you will be there for him with anything he needs..a shoulder to cry on, a friend to talk to, or just emotional support...Good Luck
1149922
You can't change your sexuality... you can only choose to accept it or not to accept it. You can try to keep your urges under control, but know that it's going to be very difficult and very draining to try and suppress who you are. Why not just accept yourself?
970024
I know a lot of people who are Gay and in the closet.  It truly is sad to think that society will not accept someone becuase of their sexual preference, or gender expression.\n\nBe supportive and understanding.
946704
Give him a big hug and tell him that you love him and nothing can ever change that.\n\nDepending on the kind of relationship you have, you could also add jokingly, "But you have to let me meet all your potential boyfriends first - so I can tell them embarrassing stories about you!"\n\nBe loving, but add some humor so it doesn't turn into one of those awkward "I love you, I love you too, what now?" moments.\n\nYou say that nothing about your relationship will change (or that you don't want it to), so why hang out or do things different from before you were assured that he was gay? Do the things you've always enjoyed doing together - that will help ensure that nothing will truly change. Make sure that he knows you're interested in new ideas, just in case there are other things he would like to do now that he knows that you know.
540848
Strike up a conversation about someone who is gay and see what their stance is. Then tell them if it isn't too terrible.
946312
Please do call the child protective authorities.  You cannot "beat the gayness" out of anyone; that is just completely uneducated and ignorant.\n\nThe girl needs guidance from a caring adult; not an insolent homophobe.
598941
Call these people. 1-800-246-PRIDE. Its a gay and lesbian hotline for youth. First of all, figure out if you really WANT to stop being gay. That number should have some resources for you. Good luck!!
1113431
First you have to be sure about yourself, once you have accepted the fact that you are gay and there is no way of changing the fact then you have to be strong, because over the years to come you will hear all sorts of jokes and comments that are cruel, but are based on ignorance. You have to understand, that you have had time to become used to the idea of being gay, and probably have for some time, but when you come out to your family, this will be the first time they have had it confirmed and it will take them time to get use to it. First level with them, just sit them down and level with them, don't do what most gay people have done in the past including myself and that is to try and hide it, because you can never get away from it. The next thing to do is to be the man that you are, being gay doesn't mean you have to be a pansy, you can still be the man you know you are and the man they thought you where going to be. Move out as soon as you can and avoid contact with them for a few months, this does two things. 1. it gives them time to discuss, fight, backstab and blame each other, without yuo having to hear it or feel guilty about it, because you didn't choose to be gay, you where born that way, and anyone who says other wise is a bloody idiot.\n2. This gives you time to explore your sexuallity without the fear of being caught with your pants down by your parents.\n16 is young, but at 16 I knew I was a raging queer, but it wasn't until I was thirty that I levelled with my family, during this time I explored straight relationships, gay one night stands, sauna's etc... But in the end I faced my fears and relized if I didn't level with my family, I would never have a chance of being happy with my own life and to me my life is the more important that the embarassment I caused my parents. For ten years I have lived in a gay relationship and now my family accept my partner as a part of the family, they now accept that they are not going to get grandchildren but now they have had the time to relize that I hadn't change, I was still the son they had 42 years ago, good luck kid, but careful there are some crazy mother----- out there, but be happy and have fun
741200
He needs to go to a Doctor. There are many steps to this and not all of them pertain to the body. They must also dress and play the part of the other sex. There is much counseling before a doctor will do anything to help him and it has to be documented. It is a change that is irreversible and it takes a long time to accomplish. There is much medication to take and it is prescription so he will need to see a dr. for that. In the end there will be a serious operation to get the working parts changed. It is not a pleasant procedure to go through so he will have to make sure this is what he really wants to do. ☺
478654
Make him feel comfortable, because if he isn't, he won't admit anything.  Tell him it's okay to share his feelings, and that you're there for him.  Be sure to tell him that you just want to help, and you're not asking to poke fun at him.