how does a shy guy learn to get pass that?
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if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
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YOU can make the move, maybe he is just shy\n\ndo it anywhere
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Take a class.  Dancing, cooking and comedy classes are good because you are going to interact with others whether or not you make much of an effort.  \n\nCooking classes have limited male competition, too.  And who doesn't eat food?\n\nComedy classes might force you to come out of your shell a little bit.  (Or a lot of bit.)\n\nGetting involved with your (or a) church (if you are into that) can also be great.  You'll probably meet some very nice women there and they'll be a little more approachable.\n\nIf you are athletic (or want to be) try something like Team In Training.  Great people flock to groups like this, time spent is for a great cause and tons of fun.  Check out their website below for a chapter near you--they are all over the U.S. and in other countries as well.\n\nWomen in general don't seem to mind shy guys as long as the guy is confident and has a sense of humor.  Everyone really just wants to laugh.  There are some great books out there.  \n\nLastly, every single guy in the world should check out "The Game" by Neil Strauss.  At worst, it's good for a few laughs.  But it tells some great success stories of shy guys who had trouble meeting women and overcame it. Good luck!
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i no it sounds stupid but it worked for me try practicing talking in the mirror or get some tips from his friends wat to talk about wat hes in to hopefully then when you go shy you can talk a bout things and not freez if this still doesn't work just think as him as a brother  or one of your best Friends.  \n        x  good luck  x
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just do it  i know how it is to be a little shy because i am to but it is best just to tell him how you feel and be yourself \n\nGood Luck!
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I think the same way about myself, and I'm shy too. Just go up to him and make friends. If thats too hard, at least try to talk to him sometimes. If all of that is too hard ask yourself if you really want to be with him, that will get you going.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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Just smile at him...\nhe will go up to you and try to talk to you. It happend to me..so yea...if hes not shy he'll talk to you
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just slowy open up to the ppl. u love. ur close friends or friends that when ur alone w/them u guys hang out how is ur action to them do the same to others. dont be shy just think it wont help if u r shy right. be urself and open up to everyone not just the guy u like
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try a love note and flowers.  sorry; i don't know a cure for shyness.  I used to be, but it's been fading recently.  Just try diving in and doing it.  If you start hesitating, just do it without thinking (worked about 50% of the time for me)
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It does sound like he is trying to ignore u, don't let it get u down there's a lot more where that came from. As far as the shyness goes, it can be kinda difficult to get around that, I know cuz I was like that(still kinda am). It's all on you if your willing to take the first step and talk to him, it's easier for women cuz most guy's will feel like it's a good ice breaker and if there interested then they'll try to keep up the conversation. My best advice to you would be to is to not worry about what the other person might think about you, cuz some times you gotta swing the bat and if you miss then oh well you'll do better next time.
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Go to some of the parties.  Join clubs.  Get professional help if you need it.  Do whatever it takes to get over your crippling shyness and be a little more social.  Volunteering is a nice way to meet people and it also improves your personality and confidence.
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from a 17 year old girls p.o.v. :  i find shy guys to be hot! but at the same time i find shy guys to be a turnoff because its hard to talk to them. my advice would be, tho i kno it seems hard for u but just try ur best to be more outgoing, dont hold back. when u see a girl u like, go up to her and casually say hi! i love it when a guy makes the first move! ive tried really hard to flirt with shy guys but its always so frusturating cuz they come off unintrested.
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Tired of being the shy person in the back of the crowd? Become the center of attention at an easy, personalized pace! \n\nSteps \nBe confident. Tell yourself that you have great qualities, and don't let anybody bring you down! \n\nSet goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily goals, and gradually become more daring. E.g. try to speak at least once every class period. \n\nIntroduce yourself to new people each day. Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to cute people. \n\nHold close bonds with your friends, they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help. \n\nTry doing stuff you never dreamed you would. For example: Talk to that cute boy in study hall that you thought would never notice you. Wear something very flattering and colorful to show what a fun person you really are! \n\nLaugh often, at your own jokes and those of others. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling. \n\nLie on your bed and take 3 deep breaths. Then visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now in that situation make yourself confident. Do this for as many situations as you can think of. Do this daily. Do this in the morning. \n\nRepeat positive affirmations using I statements. " I am a wonderful person". "I am a good looking person". Do it even if you don't believe it. Do it daily. \n\nMake a list of things that make you feel shy that you want to try and work on. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes -- take it at your own pace but do make an effort to push yourself. \n\nTips \nThere's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either! \n\nDon't go overboard, and just be yourself! Life isn't a competition! \n\nShyness is sometimes seen as classy. \n\nDon't be afraid to seek professional help -- group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. \n\nIf you are intelligent enough to know when to keep your mouth closed, then there is no advantage to being shy. Rid yourself of shyness, you'll thank yourself later. \n\nOften, being shy is a result of feeling inferior to or otherwise "less than" other people. Think about it, this is almost never the case. A positive self-image is the key. \n\nWarnings \nIf you were known for being shy amongst family members, watch out for the harmless teasing. They mean well. But don't let them scare you back into your shell! \n\nSame goes for people at school, if you are still at school. Some may be uncomfortable with you existing outside the categeory they've put you in, in their own minds. Ignore them.
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You need to start coming out of your shell. You think you are shy, but I guarantee you that most everyone else is too. Just be your happy outgoing self and the right guy will notice you. BUT, don't forget, he is probably to shy to approach you too. So you may have to be the one to break the ice. Good luck. GaryT
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Shyness is all in the mind. I should know... I'm a shy type of person myself. An people think that I'm a snob because of this. The best thing to do is develop self-confidence and try to mingle with people. Just always remember that we are all born equal... So you don't have to be shy in front of a stranger because we are all human beings dwelling in this world. And whenever you found yourself being shy, try to think that you are not. Remember, what you think about yourself reflects... Smile!
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!