My wife have had sex frequently b4 marrying me.....and.....my wife had sex with her ex-husband?
106755
If your wife had sex frequently before marrying, I sure do hope that you found out about this before you married her and that you have accepted her regardless of her past.  \n\nAs for having sex with her ex-husband, I also sure hope that she did this before she was into a relationship with you. If she had sex with her ex-hubby while married to you now, THAT IS A PROBLEM.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
460034
I personally have not had a threesome, but I know a couple...get this...They met because the husband was the "third" in the threesome with a couple. The wife left her ex for this guy the "third". So then, the new husband wanted to have a threesome with his wife and yet another guy. And she, again, left the second husband for the next guy. ICK!
51936
I remember all of my ex's.  Some for the good, some for the bad but I remember them all.  Thats not to say I have slept around alot but I have been married 3x.  One of which I am still best friends w/ to this very day.
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lol yep if you don't really want to know the answer then don't ask. I actually like to hear what my husband has done with his ex's.  Sounds odd but it kinda turns me on. He can't stand the thought that I've been with anyone before him (even though I was divorced with 2 kids when I met him LOL) I just don't talk about it to him, tell him I don't remember it it's been so long ago. \n  If you really want to get over your jealousy, then make sure that you do the things he likes in bed better then she could. Make him forget that he's ever been with anyone other then you. And just remember.. she's his EX.. so she can't be that great or he'd still be with her.
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Ask her if she wants to try swinging or polyamory. I don’t know your views on non-monogamy, but if she responds positively to your suggestion, the two of you should seriously look into the possibilities. Obviously her cheating was unfortunate because it involves deception, but you need to distinguish between whatever pain you feel from the deception, and whatever feelings you might have about non-monogamy. You can’t change the past, but you can set sail for a more promising future if you establish a new commitment together. This new commitment is not the traditional “forsaking all others” that you find in conventional marriage ceremonies, but a commitment of partnership through the adventures yet to come. At some point you should probably tell her that you know about her previous cheating, but you should do this at a time when you are feeling like you love her – NOT at a time when you are feeling bitter or resentful.\n\nOn the other hand, if you bring up the possibility of non-monogamy and she says “no way” or gets angry at you for even thinking about it, then you might want to GENTLY tell her that you know about her cheating, and that you forgive her and still love her. Once she sees this reaction, her insecurities about non-monogamy might eventually fade away and then she might be willing to think about it more positively. But don’t expect everything to be resolved all at once. You might have to work on this aspect of your relationship for many months before you both reach a point where you can trust each other enough to let go of the past and start anew.\n\nAnd finally, I should point out that I am simply offering one suggestion that most people might not consider. The actual wisdom of this suggestion depends on a lot of factor that I don’t know because I don’t know either you or you wife. If you want to talk in more detail about your specific situation, feel free to contact me. I might modify my suggestions based on your actual feelings and the actual situation.\n\nBy the way, my wife and I have been non-monogamous for the past several years, and we grow more in love with each other every day. We are living proof that love in marriage can be amplified by love beyond marriage – in contrast to the standard belief that extra-marital love is always destructive. If you are a great enough soul to love your wife despite her past mistakes, then you could discover that your most amazing and deeply-loving years are yet to come.
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looks like you might have married the wrong woman.  maybe the sex will get better and i supppose there is a chance youll fall in love with her.  These things arent supposed to be left to chance... Was it an arranged marriage?
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Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
166235
Had out-of-wedlock sex.
195315
The woman who slept with my husband :-)
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
564811
Totally possible funny story I just asked a question if I should go to my exes wedding heres my story my ex fiancee is friends with my new and though his new fiancee well wife as of tommorow cannot stand me (the whole jealousy thing you know) My fiancee is secure with our relationship so his friends with my  ex but has a general rule of thumb exes are exes and should stay that way
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That is too close to cheating.  Think about how your wife will feel.  How would you feel is out of the clear blue, her ex called her and wanted to know how she is doing.  Would that be okay with you?  What if he  had lingering feelings for her?  Use common sense.
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That is the worst idea I have ever heard.  Why would she want him to have sex with other people? Sounds like she has some issues and that is not a healthy lifestyle for you to be getting into. Since you are asking, I would say deep down you probably have your own reservations about it and know the answer already.
512553
You must have married one of my wife's relations
129953
I'm not sure who is more gullible, you or your girlfriend.  Does she really believe having sex with her not-quite-ex-husband will help her gain custody?  Do YOU really believe that is all there is to it?  I know guys will say a lot of things to convince a woman to have sex, but I haven't heard that line before.
890857
How do you even know this? Did she actually tell you? That was kind of stupid. Curiousity such as this is normal, but it can cause a disproportionate amount of damage if shared with the significant other. My guess is that perhaps your wife hasn't had that many sexual partners? I can't really imagine caring much about finding the first guy I'd ever had sex with, I mean it was a long time ago not just chronologically, but emotionally as well. However, I do chat with my more recent "flames" occasionally (a couple of times a year); I don't report to my husband about it, and it doesn't interfere with our relationship or my current life in any way, shape or form.\n\nIf you don't feel comfortable with her "searching", you could certainly voice your concerns. My guess is that it's just innocent curiousity - but you know your wife, so you should have a gut feeling whether or not it's crossing into obsession.