If I want to be with someone that my parents dont appove of should I stay with him?
109950
as long as your not a minor and he an adult ,,\ndo what makes you happy .\nchances are anyone you choose wont get the parents aproval, because you are thier little girl , and no man in thier eyes is worthy of you ..
849072
Age is just a number. My parents are 11 years apart!!! and they happily had me so don't worry about it... But personally I would wait until you are out of highschool.. This way your parents wouldn't flip a bitch when you went out with a 23 year old..... Also it could give you more freedom... If you are in your senior year you only have until june! use this spare time to get closer to him and enjoy his friendship.. Then you can use the friendship time to decide if he is really worth it... worth something you could be serious about.. and if he isn't worth it you will be glad you thought about it through without pissing your parents off anyways.... Just don't rush into things and wait.... then things could be perfecto.. Good luck... also... remember you are applying to colleges if they aren't near his he may not be wanting to give up everythign to move with you... keep that in mind so you don't get hurt.
117821
Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
694265
How old are you?  Are there customs/backgrounds/ethnicity issues that are causing your parents to red-flag the relationship?  Without a few more details it's gonna be kinda hard to advise you either way.  \n>>BUT<<\nIf you're old enough to be making your own decisions (18+), then all you can do is what your heart tells you, giving your parents time to accept it on their own rather than forcing the issue....but also taking into consideration what thier concerns and feelings are.\nBut if you're like 16 or so and younger??  Chances are you're emotionally to young to really know what "love" is.  You may sincerely care for this girl, and that's wonderful...but your parents may just be trying to protect you from getting to serious to soon.  They love you and just want to help guide you through the right choices.\nIf they are that strong-willed against it for whatever reason and at whatever age, it isn't something that you're going to be able to "convince" them of--any more than they can convince you to give up on this. Acceptance may come with time-as long as you don't disrespect your parents in this matter.
162869
hi!\nits simple! \nfight for your love.\nif you really love him,then go to him,\neven your parents don't like him.\ni know that your parents will understand you.\njust follow your HEART
1104931
Okay it all depends, do you love her, are yall gonna get married, if she supports u more than ur parents then go for it. Besides, ur gona have to leave the house at some point in ur life to have ur own life and be a man. And yea u took a risk, cuz u never know wat the future holds and u guys could breakup, but point is u left the house as ur own man with a life, and ur parents should cut the cord and accept ur decisions. Its time to make ur own decisions and they should do no more than say okay. Its understandable why they said what they said. My fiance and i been living together for awhile, we have a son and every decision we make is for the best for him, and we are HAPPY. So if our family dont approve, then they are losing out, we never told them to divorce or leave anyone they were with or else. But u should try to contact them a couple of more times, try to talk to them if theyll listen, but it sounds like they just wont let go, but both parties should consider each other and why they feel the way they do. IF you and ur girl are happy then great. this has nothing to do with ur girlfriend, its between u and them, and this can make ur relationship with ur gf and parents stronger if yall make a final decision of the end result. i.e. mom and dad are gonna do this, my gf and i are gonna do that, the end. Just remember they all love you.
960152
I was once in your shoes.  I met a guy at college, I was 19.  He transferred schools and lived in Florida, so it was about 800 miles away from me.  We had a long distance relationship and my parents were not happy about it.  I was upset at them for trying to "control" my life, but now I'm 24 and married...and not to the long distance boy either!  Looking back, they knew what they were talking about, what they were doing and I was rebellious and immature.\n\nLong distance relationships are different.  You don't see each other on a regular basis, so you don't interact as you would in a typical relationship.  It's so easy to treat someone with respect and treat them like royalty when they are not always at your side.  You won't know if you'll tire of them or get annoyed by their presence because you don't see each other as much.  Each meeting is romanticised and not reality because it's few and far between.\n\nAlso, not everyone gets jealous and causes arguements.  Jealousy is a trait reflective of lack of trust and insecurity.\n\nAnd as far as your parents go, yes, you are 18 and legally an adult.  Why go so far as to go against their wishes and upset them?  Sure you don't need them legally because you can get a job and support yourself, but think about this... Your parents are your parents, and will always be no matter what you say or do.  But this guy may or may not be in your life 10 years down the road.\n\nI say take it slow.  If this guy really cares about you and perhaps wants to marry you, when he can he should get a job near you to see you more often and see if you two work well together.\n\nTake is slow.  You are young and have so much life ahead of you.  (I am young too, and I married young, but I'm glad I dodged that long distance bullet!)
565454
the question is are willing to stay with him or not... i mean if your not ready to handle a little drama with him then maybe he isnt the one.
520863
I don't think so. In my opionion, i dont think that you should, and if you do i think your parents will think they have some sense of control over you.. Listen honey, i hvae been there and done this.... and I am telling you your HAPPINESS should come before anyones... I mean in the long run, you have to make yourself and partner Happy not your parents
21114
You don't.  This is one of those things that you have to decide.  If you like this guy, go out with him.  It won't be easy, especialy if you want to remain an active member of your Church Family.  Life ahead of you will be filled with choices that your parents don't want you to have to make.
58292
Not necessarily. Your relationship with him could end but not with your family. They could remain friends whenever they want to and they can talk as well. I know it is hard for you but it is time for you to move on. \n\nIt is not fair for them to pick someone for you. They need to back off and let you BE happy and enjoy life.\n\nAnd if he is smart enough, he needs to give you a little space to be able to move on. So, talk to him and your family how you feel and what you want in your life. If you are happy with this new guy, tell them so. DO NOT be afraid to open up your feeling.
561207
wait to see if it works out there is no point in getting hin to meet your parents because if they like him and it dont work out there going to chew your ass and say how great he was for you.
512812
your parents wont have to live w/ the love of ur life but of it doent work out u may have to go back and live w/ them
821012
Stop going out with him.  Your parents love you and want to protect you from harm. It's obvious that you know what you are doing is wrong and it's tearing you up inside.  Do the right thing.  Respect your parents if you ever expect them to respect you.  If you want them to trust you in the future, then be trustworthy.
696117
Well he is a lot older but I don't think that's a problem. It's sad about your parents and you but if they were with you maybe you could ask them. I don't think there are any laws or anything like that against your situation. I mean why in the world should you stop liking someone\nor dating someone or something like that just because of their age?
683425
dont forgive him.  If guys drop you like that then they are not interested in you.  Truthfully, if he did not say goodbye, then he is not the proper gentleman, therefore not someone you want to bring home to your parents
1044433
you should keep on dating him its not whats on the outside that matters its what is on theinside imagine if you do break up with him how hes gonna feel and you 2 if u love being wit him and he might be the one stick wit him and you should tell ur family that his race or age doesnt matter