why gay people can not change their sex oriented?
105423
The same reason that heterosexual people can't ... it's in their programming.
455442
Why should it change anything?  Homosexuals are what they are; doesn't matter to me if it's a choice or if it's hardwired.\nWhat people do with other consenting adults in the privacy of their own homes matters not a bit.
492935
Because it general we all want what we can't have. Oh and also, IN GENERAL gay people TEND to spend more time and effort on how they look and their personality where as the majority of straight guys don't. And no im not gay before anyone says this is why i have this opinion.
587544
Whats wrong with gay people? They are just PEOPLE. Just because they happen to be attracted to the same sex doesn't mean they shouldn't be able to get married. What if someone told you you couldn't get married because your right handed. Its not your falt your right handed so why should you suffer for it? It is the same way with gay people, they can't help it.
650943
people are programmed to accept what is told to them as "normal". most of the religions denounce homosexuality as sinful, or even unnatural. thus the conditioning of the larger chunk of the society. it will be ages before we could fully understand the underlying "causes" of homosexuality. till then, there will always be those who fail to understand the fact that gay people are people too. and those that say gay people need not crow about their sexuality - would they be willing to listen if we kept a little quieter and submissive about our rights? chiefly the right to not be made fun of for what we are?
325706
What makes a person gay?  That is the million dollar question.  First you have to decide whether genes or environment make a person act male or female.  Could you take a male baby and do a sex change, raise it as a female and have him/her lead a totally normal life?  (This was actually done once but only because a circumsion went real bad)  Answer is no;  why?  Because it is in our genes to identify us as male or female.\n\nWhat if you didn't identify yourself as male or female?  Isn't it a little weird that gays have feminine characteristics and lesbians male characteristics.  Did they just adopt these when they made their "choice" to be gay (as you think)?  Or did thinking like and identifying with the opposite sex seem more natural because of their physical and mental characteristics.  Imagine a prissy little boy who couldn't play sports and had a high pitched voice.  They were never accepted by the other boys and over time identified more with the girls.  Sure they don't have a "gay" gene.  But the question is, can genetics cause someone to identify more with the opposite sex.  I'm not saying that all homosexuals actually want to be transvestites.  I'm just saying that boys could have always wanted to be "one of the girls", or vice-versa for lesbians.  \nHomosexuality is a complicated mix of nature and nuture.  I don't believe there are specific gay genes, but they are definitely inherited characteristics that under the right environment could cause an individual to adopt a gay lifestyle, even at an early age.\nBy the way, scientists may believe in a lot of things like spirits, angels, god, aliens, life-on-other-worlds, etc.  that can't be proven.  They just know that science can't be used to get other people to believe in these as well.  These things are faith and have to be adopted independently from science. \nBy the way, this is coming from a heterosexual, spirtual, scientist, married man of three daughters.
313710
I suggest you learn how to phrase your question in a way that makes it understandable to others.  Right now, it is difficult to even decipher what you are trying to ask.  \n\nIf you are trying to join some group that professes to turn you from gay to straight, don't do it.  It never works.  Changing who you have relations with is easy and anybody can do it.  But changing who you WANT to have relations with is seemingly impossible.
702308
You're right!!! If you could "choose" to be gay then you would be bi because you'd would like women and men,  only stupid people think that it's a choice...
1157498
I doubt it. If you're truly homosexual then I don't think you can change your preference. I think some people aren't truly homosexual... so if you only have "tendancies" then I don't know... you'd have to figure that out.
1090355
I'm straight, and I don't think it's a choice.\n\nStraight people are the ones saying this because they're not actually gay, thus, they don't actually know jackshit about it. Gay people KNOW that they were born gay.
238228
No.  I believe some people are born with gay tendencies, but they still have a choice whether to act on them on not.  Being gay shouldn't be classified with theives and murderers though.  They aren't harming other people.  One can have their own beliefs without using harsh words or bashing.  It is against God to be gay but we are all under construction and have to find out the hard way on everything on this earth.  God said "Judge not, lest you be judged".  A gay person may be living in sin and won't admit it but they still have feelings and the right to be treated with respect just like everyone else.  How else will they open their ears to the truth?
216518
Gay people do not have fewer rights than straight people.  There are no laws that say gay people cannot do something that a straight person can do.  There are laws that say a man can marry a woman, and any gay person can do those things.  There are laws that say that any married person can have certain privileges and any gay person can choose to marry just like any straight person can choose to marry.  I'm not going to get into whether people are gay by choice, but they have the same legal opportunities as everyone else.  There are no fountains for gay people, no rules that say gay people cannot sit at the lunch counter.  Gay people are allowed to vote.  They can own property.  They can attend public schools.  The only thing they can't do is join the military and say they are gay.  Of course, neither can a straight person.
600188
He can't change his sexuality.  He is what he is.  Gay men are attractive sometimes because they are just more in touch with their feminine side (sometimes) and also because they understand the frustration of dealing with men in love relationships so they make great "sob sisters".
814766
1. They don't want the view that other people have of them to change, especially family and friends.\n2. They fear that it will be harmful to their careers if they came out.\n3. They fear repercussions from the church or other religious institutions.\n4. They like living a secret life -- their lifestyle might conflict with their own internal value systems but since only they know that (among the most important people in their lives), it doesn't effect them much as long as that life is kept a secret.\n5. They know that sometimes society mistakenly associates lack of manliness with homosexuality, and that is something they cannot put up with.\n6. They fear loss of inheritance from elderly parents or other relatives.\n7. They somehow can't realize that important people around them already know.\n8. They have never really fully accepted their own sexual orientation.  To come out to another person would force them to see themselves as something other than a straight person who is confused or experimenting.
291769
Maybe because it's genetic and not a choice.\n\nYou should worry more about saving your own imperfect a s s rather than casting judgment on the gay community.
787282
Its a complicated answer.\n\nAlot of people in the world try and force their sexuality a certain direction, and actually live their life through like this.\n\nIf your asking whether someone can truely change their sexual preference, honest to themselves, i dont know..\n\nI myself am gay, but in my opinion, lust and love are two different things.\n\nI find men attractive only, but a long time ago i met a girl who was the sweetest thing on the planet, and she was innocent and in my eyes beautiful and i wouldve started something with her hadnt she left my life.\n\nI feel that theres no such thing as gay or straight, but finding love, and choosing whether to deny it becuase of preference, or not.\n\nThe mind has a way of justifying itself, and if you do fall in love first, its afterward that sexuality comes into play, and alot of thoughts and things can get you sexually aroused and therefore introduce "sexual attraction" into the picture.\n\nI dont think an initial prefference can be changed, no. I think if your attrated to guys for whatever reason, your attracted to guys, and thats that. \n\nSome closet people may not like this lifestyle, and its completely possible that they may find something in a woman they like as well, and everything goes good. (but this means they're probably bi) But this doesnt CANCEL out what they liked in men, it just means they made a choice.\n\nLife is about choices.\n\nSometimes you cant choose, like if you dont like women sexually, then you dont, and forcing yourself is wrong, and vica versa.\n\nSexual prefference is something that exists deep within ones mind, and its probably formed during childhood, small bits and pieces of your life that sculpt who you are, and somewhere along the line, connections are made as sexuality develops.\n\nAnyway, i'm dragging on... I dont think sexual preference can be changed. I think it can be ADVANCED, better understood, "moved up to the next level", and whatever those imply.
971430
I think its been established that homosexuality is not a choice.  If it was, you wouldn't have gay guys committing suicide because they can't reconcile their religious beliefs with their sexual orientation.