how do you get your confidence back to meet woman after a bad break up, I has been a long time.?
101076
Why did you lose your confidence?  Was she THAT crazy?  I don't think that you are suppose to be with a lunatic. Unless . . . are you crazy?  ; - }  Just kidding.  Maybe you should spend some time on doing things that you enjoy.  If you meet a woman with the same intrests, you may find her less, trainwreck-ish!
696820
Give it time. Get out and get back into things. It does take awhile, but can be done. I stayed single for over 2 years before I was ready to get back out there. Don't give up hope. When i thought i would never meet anyone again..I did. Your whole attitude will change. Make some new friends and try things that you never have. You will be able to show these new things to the kids too.
534302
DO NOT quit being a nice guy!! There are not enough of you around now.  Take a year 12 mos. off from getting involved with anyone and reevaluate what you want and are looking for.  Compare what the girls you have dated have in common.  Then after 12 mos. run when you see a girl that fits the profile of the girls you use to date.  ( does not mean no sex) just not committed partner. use a condom
813584
Give her plenty of space, shes obviously not emotionally ready for a very serious relationship.  \n\nBest advice is to put things on hold, and both of you see other people.  Doubts like this cannot be wiped clean without other experiences.\n\nIf, after you both have some new experiences, you both get back together, then thats great, and if not, you don;t wind up in a relationship either of you regret\n\nEdit .... Ok, I read a little more, and this girl is finished with you.  Make ZERO attempts to contact her for the next couple of months, go out, date other women, have fun, DONT TRY TO GER HER BACK.  It will only push her further away from you.  \n\nIf you move on, and life your life for yourself, then good things will happen
314214
We were just born at different times and different places that kept us apart.  Everything you described about yourself is qualities that I find very attractive.  I like someone who is open minded and opininated and independent.  You have awesome qualities.  When you are opininated that means you believe in what you are saying.  I have restored my own house and totally independent and can fix pretty much anything.  I cannot find the right girl to save my life.  Most girls are so boring it kills my spirit.  There are guys out there who would love a girl like you.  I think you need to move out of the city you live in and start fresh.  I think your life would change for the better in no time.  On the inadequacy and shame, see a therapist, they can get those things out of you.  We were all wounded in some way as children.  You have to go back in and reopen the wounds and let them heal correctly, otherwise they will fester for a long long time.
535012
Well, of course your going to feel this way. Having someone take advantage of your good nature would naturally scorn anyone's soul and heart. How long has it been since the divorce? Your just going to have to have time to heal. I would suggest though going out to put your mind at ease, but don't rush into another relationship quite fast.  Trust is something your going to just have to build with women again. Look back at your ex-wife were there signs that she was out for just money? If so use those signs to your advantage and beware of such signs in future relationships. DON'T EVER TELL SOMEONE YOUR DATING THAT SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER. This may lead them to believe you could easily manipulated and taken advantaged of regardless of how long the marriage was. Simply say it was mutual and you rather not discuss it. Besides it's no body's business regardless of whom your dating or not. If there were no signs then be even more aware don't be to harsh w/ us women NOT all of us are out for money. I will pray for you strength to get back on your feet. You pray for a good Christian woman to come into your life and to be able to learn to trust again. Good Luck & God Bless. When you decide to become involved with someone again don't continue to be on the defensive either. You choose to date the woman so give her a chance, but just be aware of signs. Trust her, until you have proven it to be other wise or it's broke.  Don't allow your insecurity from a previous relationship or your ex-wife to ruin your chance for happiness.
859558
You have to remember "there's a reason why exes are exes". I'm sure you remember why you broke up and what went wrong with the relationship. Remind yourself.\n\nKeep contact with her to a minimum - be polite but don't get involved in long conversations.\n\nOf course, if you're going to run into her socially, you could bring along a female friend (it doesn't have to be someone you're dating). That way she gets the idea that you've moved on and are taken, which kind eliminates the situation...
892995
once you have game, it's always there...you just need to update it, like antivirus ^^...\n\ni was in the same situation last year, coming out of a 4 year relationship.\n\nonly way to get it back is to be around a lot of girls...\n\nknow any bars/clubs that have a ladies night? good place to start...\n\ngood luck, and happy refreshing^^
834662
hi there...  For what you wrote i think you could make a woman very very happy... and i actually believe that besides being shy, you got everything to have lots of dates. Try "indirect meeting" some of your friends might know someone you like, ask them to introduce her to you.. once you are in front of her, remember my words... with your personality you have success almost totally assured...  Try talking about something you might have in common. Do NOT try to show her what you are, let her discover it. in a few minutes, the conversation will continue by itself....\n "Emotional, supportive guy" are very appreciated qualities. Find someone that deserves you. if you fail once or twice (or more times) dont give up, there's always somebody special.
506481
Damn, that sounds like me.  Gonna be tough starting up any type of relationship w/ anyone after breaking up w/ someone that you were w/ for the past 3 yrs.  I dunno how I would let down my guard.  Just be truthful and true.  Don't be fake, be sincere. I really don't know...
327943
relax and be yourself, and you will gain confidence around women.  they won't bite or hurt you, they like you
1110527
oh dear.. this has happend to me too. The best thing to do is try your hardest (though challeging) to move ahead with your life. Time to look for new friends! Be confident, and calm. In a month or so, call up your old friend again, maybe by then she will have missed you, and ask to be friends again. If not, well, there are plenty more fish in the pond. It is the cold, hard truth!
229868
Take time for yourself and heal yourself or you may  find yourself attracting another abuser. You need to regain your confidence before putting yourself out there and after five years of emotional abuse some wear and tear has been done to your confidence.So take it slow, especially with some of the wolves out there you need to be in tip top shape to take the plunge again.
1184536
Talk to her, apologize.\nHope she'll have you back.  You may have to work at it.\nWomen don't trust men like you, better be prepared to prove you'll behave this time.\n& don't ever make the same silly Mistake again.
994690
1st it depends on how long you were with her, you need to give yourself time adjust after this. Because its just a process you have to go through 2 feel good about yourself again. It will take as long as it needs 2. you will know yourself when you r ready to get the ball rolling again! There is no point on going out on the rebound as you will still have feelings for her. You will just end up getting hurt or hurting someone else its not a good idea to rush, it took me along time b4 i let anyone else in my life after my break up! She messed my head up so much it. i don't know your situation but all i can say and i think a lot of guys would say the same take it easy nice and slow you have all the time in the world. \n\nbut if you want to go out and meet someone do the same as you would have b4. Have a good time talk to them n ask them out there is only two answers you will get!!!!!!!!!
129338
While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
271160
If I was you I wouldn't take her back. If she did it the first time, shes gonna do it again!. Find a real woman that will respect you and love you. You sound like a good guy, You deserve better!!I always think if you are not sure about something, don't do it.. SHE WORTH'S NOTHING! Trust Me!\n\nGood Luck. Hope you find the right one :)