granddaughter 10 goes to bed sleep by 9:30 but is still hard to get up for school at 7 am. what can i do?
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My son in 12. He still has to go to bed at 9. I have him set his own alarm. He has to get up and actually go across the room to get up and shut it off. Works well in my house.
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Whatever you do, do not stay in the same room or rock her to sleep. If you do, she will become dependant on that behaviour, and will not sleep otherwise. If she has a "dark" issue, or a "monster issue, try using a nightlight. For monsters, I take a bananna and put it in a paper bag, say that monsters LOVE banannas, put it under her bed/in the closet and after a few minutes say "Got 'cha!!" and say you got the monster, and there is nothing to be afraid of. And throw the bag away, so the monster can't come back.=)
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Help her relax.  Let grade go.  If you think about it, they are so little in the big picture.  You want her to be healthy and happy.  So let her know if she does her best and then flunks everything, it's okay.  In fact, make doing your best the goal -- not good grades.  Get around her -- make her world as safe (emotionally) as possible.  You might want to do this by creating a safety ritual.  Me and my son have a saying I ask him, "What could make me stop loving u?"   I answer, "nothing -- never"  he knows that I may be disappointed with some of the things he does but never stop loving him.  So he can come to me no matter what.  Let her be a baby if she needs to -- we all need to sometimes -- hold her and help her come back to here and now by gently assuring her that you are there and won't go anywhere.  \n\nTalk to the school councelor and tell her the "Flag" will be removed.  It borders on illegal -- she should not be labeled without going through very specific channels.  If they don't, walk in with a lawyer.  Schools should not be doing that to kids, they should be about the success of the child, not tracking and labelling.  \n\nContinue with the therapy.  Get her involved in a fun non-competive activity -- skating, bowling or something she can do with you and/or friends. \n\nDon't give up.
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I feel your pain.  I went to bed at 2 am every night one semester because I had too much homework, and then I had to get up at 5.  It sounds like you have a similar sleep clock to me.  I can't go to bed before 11 pm, ever.  One thing that does help is not sleeping until noon on Sunday.  Get up earlier, you will feel tired earlier, and then you will be able to sleep for Monday.  Take naps if you have to.  If you are sleeping 4 hours a night I don't suggest medication.
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I have a 10 yr old autistic son.  Although I haven't had a lot of trouble getting him to sleep at night there have been some times.  If your niece(?) does not sleep at night does she sleep during the day?  Try to get her switched around.  Look at what maybe stimulating her and keeping her from calming down.  Try different calming activities.  Does she look at books, listen to music, like to have her back rubbed?  Turn the lights low.  \n\nYou may need to find an autism specialist in your area for more help.  \n\nHang in there.  \nDoes your nieces family get any help services, like respite care? They may want to go to their county human services and check on this. It would give them a break and they would know she is being well cared for.
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my generation didnt beleive in calling someone after 10 P.M. unless someone was in the hospital. \n\n12 year olds have no business being on the phone at that hour.\n\ntell her--you guys have PLENTY of time to grow up..experience love, get married--babies--etc. for right now work on the best "you" that you can be. develop your talents and skills.
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Try melatonin.\n\nIt's very common for teenagers to get into a pattern where they're not sleepy at bedtime.  This happened to my daughter...She'd finally get sleepy around 2 AM, and then be exhausted all day at school.\n\nAfter doing some research, we gave her melatonin...Turns out it's one of the least addictive substances on earth, which made us feel better as parents!  \n\nShe would take it about 30 minutes before bed time, and you could hardly get her up the stairs to bed by the time it hit her system.  She took the melatonin for about a week, and then no longer needed it, because she was able to get her "regular" pattern back.\n\nYou can find melatonin in the vitamin section at your local drug store.
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Who's the child?  Be the bigger person and move on.  You will only make the problem worse.  If you really can't handle her bossiness, talk to your teacher or couselor.  Good Luck!
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go to sleep. you have school tomorrow.
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Many men are like this and I blame their mothers.  Over the years have you woken him up for school?  I'm guessing he has never had to set an alarm and be responsible for getting himself up.  He hasn't learned how to do so.  Its time to send him to the School of Hard Knocks.  Buy him an alarm clock and let him go.  It may take him a while to realize that Mom isn't going to come in and wake him if he sleeps thru the alarm.  The more you are his back up the longer it will take.  If he doesn't learn now he will never be able to hold down a job.
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It won't be. There are many phases of a child's life, and this is but one of them.\n\nYou have to do what you are doing: firmly establish that homework is part of the nightly ritual, and stick to it. She is testing you right now, unconciously, and if you don't waiver, she'll know that you won't be bent on this.\n\nFrom my experience, the earlier in the evening you do this, the better. Later in the evening, the kids have eaten, they are tired, and they may have some anxiety that they won't be able to get the work done before bed, or won't have any time after their homework to do things they like, and will be sent straight to bed.\n\nDoing it earlier gets around all of this.
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if you have kids no phone calls afer 10:00 clock dring school days. put your cloths up. you have to do your homework before you do anything.
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Make SURE that she goes to the bathroom before she goes to bed and try to keep her away from liquids an hour before she goes to bed.\n\nThere's no reason other than them having a smaller bladder capacity and not waking up in time.\n\nDon't use diapers since they'll make her feel infantile. Either slip one of those pads under her sheet or use pull-ups.
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GO TO BED NOW YOUNG LADY.
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have her do some sit ups that will give her a full feeling, or maybe drink a glass of warm milk that will help her sleep.
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I'm getting there (tired). I have to be at school tomorrow for class at 8:15 a.m. But I still need to start a load of laundry, get homework done that will be due tomorrow, and get ready for bed.
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Show her some of your "A" tests and remind her that you are a much better student than many parents can bribe their kids into being, with the suggestion that this is a sort of reward- you are a good student and can stand to miss a half-day of school. Explain calmly and clearly your points about the teachers expecting students to not show up. You can also mention how even the school administration didn't feel it was necessary to have a whole day of school- aren't the last three hours of school just as important as the first five? Make sure to present your points maturely and rationally, without any whining, and your mom is sure to be impressed and agree to let you stay home.\n\nIf she makes you go anyway, you can skip homeroom and your classes and just hide in the library and read. Make it a 5-hour discover-interesting-books day, it'll be awesome. I wish I had a 5-hour block of time I could devote to just browsing a library, I need to expand the types of books I read and I've glanced at really interesting titles that I never had time to check out. Like ventriloquism, learn ventriloquism! You'll be able to screw with people for the rest of your life.