I cant get child suport out of my ex?
99443
Sounds like your attorney isnt doing the job you pay for.  \n\nIs there a court order for support?  Is it paid thru the county support office where you live?  Both of these should be true.  If they arent fix it.  \n\nCan you provide proof he has not been paying legally obligated support?  If so, no judge in the country will fail to order him to make good.  Likewise, failure to do so over a certain period or amount will result in the court taking action.  They can take his drivers license, and worse even put him in jail.  \n\nNo matter he is self employed.  You can go by his tax returns and the court will order him to produce the documents.  \n\ntry going to legal aid where you live\n\nI paid my support religiously for 15 years and never missed a payment.
828707
Try re-dating her.  You two need to learn what drew you together again.  \n\nAlso, thank you for trying, especially with a child involved.  Most would just give up and say next.....
670807
Dont let this one go - I think the courts take enough of our rights away as fathers - take it to court, prove your relationship and fight for custody over the kids...
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
13166
I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
155931
This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
648281
Talk to a social worker and see if you can get custody/guardianship for her. Or seek legal aid. \n\nBut whatever you do, keep it legal and open. No tricks, no running away, nothing like that.
614659
I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.
759077
You and the ex need to set your issues aside and discuss how you are going to raise the son, putting his best interests first. He is playing you both, that's what kids do, even in homes with both parents. You have to decide on a course of action and stick with it, consistency is one of the most difficult things but shows the child you both mean business. Let your ex know that you're interested in his help, but he needs to stick to the plan. You need to support one another in this. I hope you are able to do this, or the son will continue to go back and forth until he's on his own. It won't create a stability within him - be responsible, not emotional and talk w/the ex. Hope it works out. You can do it!
292685
You can't just stop, but you can let go.  Unfortunately it doesn't matter who you are and how good or bad your relationship was, when it comes to change it is scary.  You have to figure out how you are going to survive on your own and while you have a responsibility to yourself to be happy and end this relationship, you still have a responsibility to your kids to make sure they are taken care of physically and emotionally.  Take your time and come up with a plan that you can live with.  Talk to a lawyer and make sure that plan is in the best interests of you and your kids.  Then execute the plan so that some day down the road you can find true happiness.
57356
You have to realize that you and your child are not important to him and that he is an extraordinarily selfish person.  You must let him go.  No excuses.  No exceptions.  Be the victim or be the victor.  The choice is entirely yours.
480381
Don't get back in a relationship with someone just for the kids sake.  It never works!  If you don't feel a connection with her, other than the baby, then a relationship probably won't last that long.  Just telling you because I know too many of my friends (including me) that's been there and done that!
39726
I have been doing it for 3 years now and ex is major control freak..... You and your ex need to realize that its NOT about the 2 of you anymore but its about that wonderful child that you to created. That child is the one who gets hurt if you two can't work it out. Leave the Emotional baggage at the door and  do what is best for the child. DO what ever it takes to work it out....That means alot of giving even if you sacrifice more then what you want to..REMEMBER its about the child not the two of you ...
688607
I'm afraid you're stuck.  In the court's view (and mine too), you helped make that child, and, thus, are responsible for helping raise him.  Your ex's response to you, however, is mean and vindictive.  Someday he will find out you are alive and wonder why she lied about you.  Continue the child support for your son's sake.  At least then you can say that in spite of the meaness of his mother, you still did everything you could to help in his rearing.  He will someday understand that it was his mother that forced you out of his life and that it was not your decision.  If you stop child support to spite her, you will hurt your son as well.  If there is to be any hope of a relationship between you and your son when he is eighteen (then your wife can not longer stop you legally), you do not want to hurt him in any way or give your ex any more fuel to use against you.  Be the better person and then stick it to her when you tell your son the truth when he is eighteen!!
576835
I'm so sorry you are going through this.\nIf it were me, I would call the ex and his wife, letting them know you want to come for graduation. ask to speak to your child and get their input.. If the child wants you there, then go.. stay some distance from the ex and his wife.. \nwrite a letter to the judge asking to go to this event.. Don't break any laws or restraining orders, going to jail is not worth it. It may seem to be , but its not.\nI don't get along with my ex. and he is the one who chooses not to be in his kids lives...\nNot sure why you no longer have the kids, but you only graduate from high school once... try to go about this the legal way...\nI hope this helps and again I'm sorry you have to experience this..I wish you luck.....
833949
This: "What should I do if he again makes up with his ex?" question is tough one, though the fact is that you CAN compete with the mom, yes, because the've probably conserved the respect to each other, but the love is that is already gone and you have this advantage on your side.\n\nI have an advise for you concerning the kid. The children, especially if they are much younger have unfallable  ability to evaluate man's personality- they are pure and see the world with an objective eye. So if you want (and you should) to get along with the kid, be yourself, don't try to hard, no pretences, no sweet wordings just for the sake of it. \n\nJust enjoy what you have together and think of the potential problems when they actually turn into a real ones:)
478084
if it is your baby be a man help your ex out and if you think that your old friend is the one for you then tell her and see if she is ok with it.\n\nI grew up with out a father and it was a very hard life fore me please dont just leave her.\n\nand my honest oppion is forget the old friend and be with your babys mother. my sister and her husband dislike each other with a pasion. they have been maried 5 years. e-mail me and we will talk more