Is it hard to find a partner in life after u are diagnosed with genital herpes?
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No it isn't, at least not to find one who truly cares for you.  I speak from personal experience.  If you are honest and open, and that person truly loves/wants to be with you it won't matter. Even if it is a bit tougher if that person is worth it they will take you as is. I was very nervous about telling my current boyfriend (he was he first one after i was diagnosed with g/h) but he handled it fine. It is alot to take in at first, but we have a very happy & healthy relationship & an AMAZING sex life.  Don't let this hold you back.  It has actually made us closer that he accepted me & my condition. He is the love of my life.  I wish you the best
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Absolutely not.  The new thinking on herpes is that it is possible to become cured if you go long enough without and outbreak.  However, we are talking something in the order of 10 years without sign of the disease.  5 months?  pffft.  Means nothing.
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I would keep seeing a person with herpes as long as they were honest with me from the beginning.  It's frustrating, of course, and it wouldn't be my first choice, but if I really liked the person then it wouldn't matter.  It would affect when we could have sex, but if the relationship is built on something more important than sex, then that would still be okay with me.  If they did not tell me about it and I found out later, I would not stay with them.
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there is someone for everyone, in most cases that have a noticeable physical abnormality or (anyone that does not look like a model) its had to get a physical attraction for your average Joe but like i said there is someone for everyone, just be your self and be confident you will have your far share of relationships... the most important factor is let the guys that you are interested in know what psoriasis is and desensitize them so they see it as something normal then the dry skin patches will not keep them from exploring a relationship with you
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By being treated I hope you mean that you are taking a daily medication...."Valtrex" is one and very officiant...it works to keep outbreaks very minimal. And yes..you can have a normal active relationship, including sex. The only thing is...when you do have an outbreak, then use a condom or just refrain from sex until it clears. If you feel an out break coming on just use caution. Learn the triggers that may cause you to break out...like stress, is a big factor, heat lamps as in tanning beds....you will learn them trust me. Be honest about everything and educate yourself and partner. Genital warts (herpes virus) can lay dormant for years before you ever have an outbreak. And in many (mostly women) they never even know they are a carrier. They never have any signs but can pass it to someone else. \nAs far as children...yes, you can have kids, you need to be very careful and keep in close touch with your doctor. Most women choose to deliver by Cesarean to avoid and chance of contact. Please get as much information as you can and learn all you can......This isn't the end of your life.......really !!! Good Luck !!!!
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i can totally relate. i am the only single girl in a group of 10 girlfriends-they're all in long-term relationships and getting married. i haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years, and in the past i've had my share of no-so-great men. but i'm happier alone than unhappy. we just have to realize that we are still young-we still have lots ahead of us and we will find that 4% of good men in this world to be good company with:)\n\nps i look at half of the relationships my girlfriends have and i'd rather cut off my foot than be in some of their positions, anyway. some are stuck with emotionally abusive/selfish men, selfish lovers, drinkers, or just herpes and scared to move onto another relationship because of fear of rejection (woo hoo! yeah, i'm sure your man isn't cheating, the disease just showed up!)... you name it.\n\ni'm sorry about your divorce and about how one man found it appropriate to break it off with you in a pretty cowardly way. i think time for you will wear things off a bit.. hang in there! you know you will end up with someone who is GOOD for you\n\ngod bless
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They are very hard to find but don't loose hope.  You may have already passed a few good ones bye.  The question may be on yourself.  I know it was on my shoulders after I asked the same question at the same age with the same situation.  I got involved with playing volleyball and then joining a health club and going to church on a regular basis.  I picked apart each and every guy I got a date with.  I finally realized that they must be doing the same to me and then started to look at myself and decided that there are faults in all including myself so I needed to look for someone that wasn't what everyone else thought was great.  I needed to find the greatness in the man of my dreams.  And 2 years later found him.  He loved my daughter as his own.  We have now been married for 9 years with 3 more children, and it is as good as it was when we first met.  Good luck to you and hopefully you too will find the man of your dreams.
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You could have genital herpes for years before you show any signs of them. Herpes is a virus that stays in your system for life. Try the article below for more info.
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No!  You are not wrong to look for a relationship.  Being alone is very scary because you have no one to talk to and share your fears with.  No one to embrace you through those difficult times.\n\n If you have a terminal illness, that means that you have but a short time to live.  People normally look for a long term relationship so that they can invest their lives in it.  You have a known limited time to live, so investing their time and emotions in you is short, and roller coaster like because you could go at anytime.  It would take a very special person whom is willing to overlook your condition, and there are not too many of those around.\n\nIf you do not want to die alone, seek your family out and spend it with them.  If you are not in speaking terms, this is the time to mend fences!  If you do not have any family,  find a Bible believing Church with support groups whom will be there for you and with you.\nSpend more time with God.\n   If your terminal illness is related to sexual immorality ask God for forgiveness!  He is listening and hurting for you; because He loves you!\nIf you need someone to talk to, I will make it so that "you" can IM me!  It is not what you are looking for, but having someone to talk to can help you through the hard times.\nWrite a little note under your message and I will work it out to communicate with you.\nGod's Blessings and All My Best Wishes
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Yes it is possible that they could have herpes for decades and you would not get it. \n\nGenerally herpes only spreads when there is an outbreak, but it can also spread when an outbreak is going to occur (a tingling itchy feeling where the sore is going to appear).\n\nThe previous poster was wrong when they mentioned you need not worry about oral herpes. Oral herpes can spread to the genitals, and vice versa, during oral sex. \n\nThere is nothing that you need to be fearful about as long as you guys are careful when you touch in those areas. \n\nAnd really, you'd be surprised how many people have herpes anyhow. It really is not big deal in certain countries, as it is so widespread. And hey, it's just a cold sore and a slight decrease in immune functions...it could be way worse. \n\nMy last gf had it and we were together for years with no problems. If you honestly love this person, this really shouldn't be an issue at all. Hell, even if you just want to shack up with them for awhile it shouldn't be an issue hehe.
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Genital herpes is usually diagnosed based on your medical history and a physical exam. Your health professional may ask you the following questions:\n\nDo you think you were exposed to genital herpes or another STD? How do you know? Did your partner tell you? \nWhat are your symptoms? \n1. Do you have sores in the genital area or anywhere else   on your body?\n2. Do you have any urinary symptoms, including frequent urination, burning or stinging with urination, or urinating in small amounts?\n3. If you have discharge from the vagina or penis, it is important to note any smell or color.\nWhat method of birth control do you use? Did you use condoms to protect against STDs? \nWhich high-risk sexual behaviors do you or your partner engage in? \nHave you had an STD in the past? How was it treated? \n\nThe primary outbreak of genital herpes tends to last longer and be more severe than subsequent (recurrent) outbreaks. Symptoms of a primary outbreak may include:\n\nFlulike symptoms, such as fever, headache, and muscle aches. These symptoms usually get better within a week. \nTingling, burning, itching, and redness at the site where an outbreak is about to occur (prodrome). \nPainful, itchy blisters on the penis, on the vulva, or inside the vagina. Blisters may also appear on the anus, buttocks, thighs, or scrotum, either alone or in clusters. They may be barely noticeable or as large as a coin. \nBlisters that break and become shallow, painful, oozing sores. \nSwollen and tender lymph nodes in the groin. \nPainful urination. \nAbnormal vaginal or urethral discharge.\n\nAny blisters, sores, or other symptoms that suggest genital herpes infection or another sexually transmitted disease (STD) should be evaluated by a health professional. Avoid sexual contact until you have been examined by your health professional to prevent transmitting an infection.\n\nIf your daughter feels she is at risk she should not have sex until both her and her boyfriend have been checked by a physician.
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Heads up for ya all. HSV and HPV can be asymptomatic, meaning that the person shows no physical signs i.e. blisters,scabs,rough bumps and irritation. They can be a cirrier if the virus. \nCondoms as we all know are not 100% either. \nBefore becoming sexually active with someone go and get a STD screening done together. Remember that HSV and HPV are seperate tests. Hsv=blood test and HPV=pap smear for woman, there is no real way to test for HPV on men unless there are visible warts on the penis,testes,buttocks or inner theighs.
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You have to be very careful. There is prescribed medication that he can take to (Famvir or Valtrex) decrease occurences of the herpes virus. You should never have sex with him during the viral shedding stage or if he has a visible outbreak. To protect yourself you can also use female condoms. They cover the lips of the vagina. Remember, you will be taking a chance everytime when you start having sex with him. It seems like u do care about him. Let him know that this bothers you. If you're not comfortable with the fact that he has herpes and may spread it to you then the best thing for you to do is leave him. Hope you make the best decision for yourself and your health.
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Yes, I have genital herpes. I was diagnosed about 2 years ago. When I found out I started to cry on the spot. My dr. said that it is normal to feel ashamed. The thing is he said that all this means is that I had sex. It is amazing how many people have it. It is even more amazing how many people have it and dont know it. That is why it is spread so easily. Although that is scary, it made me feel better about it. You can get crabs from a toilet seat and herpes and crabs even if protection is used. People think that it cant happen to them but it can and it probably is happening to them they just dont know. Dont be ashamed. Be proud of who you are. An STD doesnt define who you are. You will learn in time to except this. If you ever want to talk about this you can always email me. Good luck sweety!! Keep your chin up!
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No you will not get genital herpes just by laying next to someone with the virus. To get genital herpes you have to have direct skin to skin contact or have sex with them. So unless you are rubbing your genital areas together, or having sex with that person you ARE NOT going to get it. \n\nAnd your doctor is right for the most part. Usually doctors diagnose genital herpes by a physical exam, and also a pap smear for women. There is a blood test that they can do, but they have be shown to be really inaccurate, giving negative results, when you do in fact have the virus. The first or primary outbreak usually occurs 2-14 days after being infected. So unless you have had an outbreak, chances are you probably don't have the virus.\n\nThere is nothing you can really do to help your friend, just be there for him. It's not a deadly STD, and it is totally treatable with medication. \n\nThe sores caused by genital herpes are extremely painful on your first outbreak. They sort of looks like cysts or blisters rather than small pimples. You can "pop" them, but that is REALLY bad to do. If you pop them, the puss and fluid from them can get on the skin around it and cause more sores to appear! The best thing a person can do when they are having an outbreak is to leave them alone! Take the medicine the doctor prescribes you and don't touch your sores! They will heal better the less you touch them and irritate them. And ALWAYS wash your hands after you have touched them. \n\nYou can't tell if someone has genital herpes just by looking at them, or their genital area. Even if they show no signs of the virus, like sores, they can still be "shedding" the virus, which means they can pass it to you. Always wear a condom, or if you are a girl, insist the guy does. Even though condoms are not 100%, they are the safest thing you can do to protect yourself from STDS, other than abstinence.
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Alot of people have that and dont know it - If you really care for that person than thats a different story -it would be wise not to have sexual intercourse when they have breakouts-as to not infect you -though I  think you can still get it - the warts can be removed by freezing them -Dermatologists can do this- a friend of mine had to go through with this and he said it was extemely painful but worth it though  they can still return - \nHonestly this disease is not that bad compared to Aids or other diseases - its just like if you get warts on your hands  except you can get them on your genitals - its just an extra thing you would have to live with and maintain - my friend is now married and he has 2 kids -his wife was very understanding to his condition -and luckly she has never gotten them -though she could have them and just never break out - Anyway - its a decision you have to really think about and make sure its not something will be fine with now but not later -its something you must be able to accept for the long haul and if the realtionship doesn't workout you would have to take in consideration that you may walk away from that relationship with HPV - but if you really feel like this person is special and may even be the one then no amount of pesky little warts should keep you from experiencing that type of love or relationship - like I said there are far more worse things out there -even Herpes is about the same risk as HPV - but keep in mind HPV and Herpes can be linked to causing some cervical cancers if not kept an eye on with yearly visits to the DR - hope this helps
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My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.