Do you get along with your roomates?
113904
Okay, so I'm still in highschool, and my sister probably isn't a real "roommate" but it's a fairly similar situation.\n\nWe don't get along very well because we have very different goals and personalities.\n\nI wish my sister was a bit more understanding, because it's difficult to even have a conversation w/her without her becoming defensive about something or other.
178772
I don't but I once had a hoochie roommate that would do it all of the time. like EVERY weekend on Fri And Sat night plus all the dudes she would meet on-line and invite over during the week. Her name was Kari and she was NASTY
901690
i just went through the same exact thing it was heart breaking! i simply told my other friend that i didn't get along with her other friend and i would NEVER ask her to choose, but i would like it if we could spend our own time together. now she seperates the weekends and spends like ever-other one with me. and because i was so laid back about it and her other friend was kind of rude she is starting to see how it really is. she is spending more and more time with me and complaining about the other girl but i try and not complain with her that way she thinks i am just a listener\nall the while i am dancing inside lol
334722
My dear . . . it is normal . . . especially when you were in a situation where you were sharing expenses with someone else . . . to assuming responsibilities for your own action.\n\nYou are doing the correct thing . . . I wished you would have done that in the beginning . . . instead of moving in with a boyfriend.  I believe because of that . . . you were hooked into a tied circle . . . where you had no freedom.\n\nNow you will be free . . . to make your own choices in life.  Seize them . . . treasure them.\n\nMany people and couples live from paycheck to paycheck . . . it is normal and scary at times.  Check to see if you could find a roommate . . . to share the apartment with you.  Split the cost . . . of your living expenses.  That may give you a little breathing room . . . but make sure you get a written agreement with them to take care of certain responsibilities . . . in case you have to take legal action.\n\nYou can do it . . . I believe in you . . . I trust in you . . . it will be hard . . . but you are strong.
1141155
I'd suggest that you find a reason to talk to them. About anything. Even it's just "What's up?" Being roommates is usually awkward at first. At least it is for me. After a while it should get easier to initiate conversations. Try and keep the lines of communication open through the entire year.
451155
I found one of the best roommates in the world from www.roommates.com \n\nKeep in mind the more info you list the better. That way you will only get serious people that are truly interested. We also had pictures posted and a quick little biography of me and my then fiance (now husband)... I like to cook, he's a computer genius, we'd like a roomie we could share an occational pizza with, must like cats, room is 12x14, has it's own bathroom, high ceilings, furnished is you don't have furniture,.... etc....\n\nI'm dead serious. He's still our friend and after we left the apartment we even invited him and his fiance to our wedding.\n\nGive it a try, but keep an open mind. We found him after 2 weeks.
520180
No, MOST apartments don't put you together with roommates at all!  Ever.  They only take you if you've already got your roommates decided before you come in, and then you sign the lease together and are responsible for each other's bills and everything else.  And you can't move out, or you'd be responsible for the lease.\n\nI'm assuming, from your question, that your apartment complex has some type of arrangement where they take individuals and match them up with roommates.  If that is true, then it is not a typical apartment rental situation.  You'd need to discuss it with them, and read your lease carefully to find out what your rights are.  If it isn't in writing, you can assume you don't have any right to switch.  This type of rental is sometimes common near college campuses, but is absolutely not the way apartments are normally run.  So you need to be careful to understand your rules.
1115941
Yes, they balance each other out.  The neatnik has to be tolerant of the slob, and you have to genuinely like each other, but we've been getting along for almost 30 years with me as the fussbudget and my wife as the leave-it-where-it-falls type.
282532
depends a lot on how lod you are.  I got along with some of my brothers and sisters while living at home, and I get along with all of them now that I've moved out.\n\none thing that will damage a relationship is if someone is trying to control you (tell you what religion to follow, what to do in school, what religion to follow, who you should or shouldn't go out with, what religion to follow...).  In the long run; patience, understanding, acceptance, and unconditional love are going to be the things that make a relationship work.  That and just not giving up on a relationship.
616286
I live with my mother, and as living with another adult, that's hard to cope sometimes. Communication is the key to get along.
338565
Yes, i've actually gotten back in touch with some of them since I graduated college and moved back to my hometown.  I have some in common with a few of them but most of them have a very different lifestyle than I do.  I find that having a common history is enough with those friends, we can sit and talk about old times, what we used to do, what's going on with us now without having to share the same interests, etc.
784198
You don't have to be good friends to be roomates.  Since the friendship is not working out, plan on going your own way.  Don't expect her to invite you to places and don't tag along.  Find your own friends and spend time with them.  When you need to be alone, leave the room.  Take a walk outside, or go to another friend's room for a while.  \n\nIn order to make things more tollerable, sit down with her and discuss some ground rules.  You will have to compromise on some things.  Maybe no naked guys in the room would be a good rule.  I'm sure there are rules for the dorm about guys and girls mixing.  Review those rules with her.   Try writing out a contract that both of you will sign.\n\nAbove all else, realize that you are roomates and that doesn't mean you have to be best friends.  When I was in college, I didn't socialize with my roomates at all outside of the room.  I do have to admit that they were much more respectful than your roomate is so life was a lot easier.
75789
I had the same problem with a guy that moved in with me. I wanted him to pay some rent to me, along with half utilities and groceries. It seemed only fair since with my school and work schedule he was there more than I was. He always complained and still does afterwards about how he paid part of my mortgage, but seriously, had he lived anywhere else he would have had to pay rent too. We ended up breaking up about a year later for various reasons, but the one thing I was definitely happy I did was to make him pay his way. Honestly, you should really look at it as a roommate situation and not a girlfriend situation. Would you let one of your friends live with you for free? Or even a complete stranger, which happens many times if you're looking for a roommate in a new city? Although I know my boyfriend at the time was a little resentful that I asked him to pay some rent to me, I'm glad I did. So yeah, I would talk to her and work out a reasonable payment she could make to you for rent, then still charge her for utilities. A good way to do it is to sit down and determine what kind of an income she will have and talk about a reasonable number that she will be able to afford without hating you later. As for her parents, they need to stay out of it. If they want their little girl to live somewhere for free, tell them to open up their basement to her. Shes a big girl, in or out of college, and it is about time they let her do her thing. And since it is your condo, they have absolutely no say in how much you charge her or for that matter any thing about your finances. Anyway, I hope you work it out. Good luck!
399312
pros, can save you cash cons, well ever have a roomie you hated? lol
819456
Only if you fake being happy, follow orders and never do what you want, I don't think we can get on with everyone cause we all have different personalities and that is what makes us special and interesting, i know the feeling i use to be friends with a girl i meet through work but her constant put downs toward others and bossy personality was just to much for me so i stayed away as i knew if i didn't i wouldn't be happy i really think it's normal to find people you don't get along with i mean how fun would that be if we all got along, we would have no one to gossip and bi**h about........lol
931735
Who ???? Sorry but exactly who comes to stay in your flat ??? Do you know them ???
851073
they're best friends & roommates