where can i get info for my 15yr daughter so she can better understand custody mediation process.?
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I can't give you an exact title but I used to manage the children's book section in Borders Books and Music and they have many books designed for children of all ages to help them understand the processes of divorce.
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http://cyfernet.ces.ncsu.edu/cyfres/browse_3.php?cat_id=138&category_name=Parenting+of+Teens-General&search=Youth&subcat=Parenting+of+Teens&search_type=browse\nhttp://vocuspr.vocus.com/VocusPR30/Publish/13876/Forward_13876_1006734.htm\nhttp://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1122810
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Write up your own power of attorney and have her sign it in front of a notary.  It will hold up for school and Doctors and it won't cost anything.  If the children are suffering, why wouldn't you do something legal, call children's services and ask for emergency custody have a case worker look in on those kids- that should be first and foremost.\n\nsevere hair loss can be from nerves/stress  disease like ringworm or malnutrition I don't know why that isn't enough to pull them out of her custody.
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Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
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I am so sorry for you! I am not experiencing the same, but my daughter has to have visitations with her father. He has threatened to kidnap her, so I'm always worrying about it. Also my child is 4 and has told me that her father touches and hurts her peepee. I've contacted several different agencies, lawyers, docs etc. Nothing is being done! I feel the frustration that you are going thru!The judge actually granted extra time on visits and went to unsupervised visits b/c evidence was inconclusive.I was told that if my ex was to run off with my daughter there was really nothing that I could do, even though I also have full custody. Why? Because he is the child's rightful parent too, and is allowed visitation. HUH??? I swear that is what they told me. But yet if I refuse to give my daughter over to him for his visits I will be arrested for kidnapping! ?????What a world we live in! Give me an email sometime. I'd like to stay in touch with you even if it's just to offer support. I hate to mention it but have you tried all the hosp. in the area that you last knew them to be? How about tracking them down via Yahoo White pages? Do you know of any family or friends that she might take your daughter to. Maybe you could contact them or go see them face-to-face. I don't know your financial sit. but hiring a private investigator might help. Have you posted their pics at police stations? They can fax it to others nationwide. Offer a reward. And above all else don't give up until you know for sure. And PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!I will pray for you right now! God be with you! The answer about checking with schools is great. When you move to a new school the old school has to contacted and then they send info and should keep this on record. Maybe if she was in a Headstart program or a preschool program like pre-K you might be able to get some info thru them. As her biological father, you have the right to request that info and they cannot deny you it.Amy
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if cost is an issue, it will always be cheaper to go to a mediator.  also he/she should call the local courthouse where they are going to file.  there will be a family law facilitator who can assist him/her with questions and in filling out the paper work.  they wont appear in court for you, but will walk you throuh the process step by step.  and its FREE!
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Try this:\n\nhttp://family.findlaw.com/child-custody/\n\nYou need to enter a ZIP code to find information on this website.
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Dear Friend,\n\nYou need to speak to Child Protective Services.  They will tell you the process for your state.  Obviously, she'll get to tell the court her side of things as well.  If she's a real threat to your kids, hop on it.  If you just want to hurt her, find something better to do with your time.\n\nYour Friend,\nFrancesois
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These are all links to good information regarding child custody in the state of Pennsylvania and the courts there weigh heavily on a child's best interests and desires.\n\n\nhttp://www.nlsa.us/public/family/fam3_custody.htm\n\nhttp://www.divorcelawinfo.com/PA/pacustody.htm\n\nhttp://www.divorcenet.com/states/pennsylvania/paart_18\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/StatutesPA/23.html
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Here is one place where you can get all that you are looking for. Infact the links within this can get you more information, if you want.\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juvenile_justice_system\n\n.:Fishie:.
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He should check with a lawyer about joint custody. The support would probably be 50/50 and the custdy would be 50/50. I think she could move either way. I think she might be pre-preparing for supporr court. More time = more money? Either way she'll get the money (arears) and the chidren will suffer in the meantime. If the get along well they could work it out (legally) in the form of a contract. He could use the threat of court as leverage, but I would chek with a lawyer.
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Let me help you some. If there are no custody orders in place, you both have equal rights to your daughter. If that is the case, I would suggest going directly to the county courthouse and file both an immediate custody order and a restraining order on him for the threats. These usually will only be good for 30 days. After that time, you must go to a hearing and plead your case to the judge as to why the father shouldn't have any rights. \n\nAdditionally, when you go to the hearing, be as detailed as you can. Have dates, times, and names. Present everything chronologically and don't let your emotions rule your testimony. For a judge to deny a father's right is a huge deal and they don't take it lightly.\n\nAnother suggestion: If they ask you to try mediation, don't do it if you think he is truely dangerous/manipulating as you make him out to be. Mediation does not grant any court issued orders. It only says on paper that you and he will try to abide by the rules you both set out in mediation. If he violates the mediated rules, nothing happens to him. Get a solid set of custody orders signed by a judge only.\n\nOnce those orders are in place, you file a police report every time he violates the order, EVERY TIME! If you don't report his violations, you just empowered him to do as he sees fit.\n\nGood luck. By the way, what state are you in?
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Contact your child support agency.  Click on your state and find your local office.\n\nhttp://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
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This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
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Your first phone call should be to a domestic violence agency. They can assist you by offering you counseling, safety planning, and even more importantly they can assist you in refiling for custody of your child. They can help you through all the steps of filing for a custody modification. And they can assist you through the whole court process. They can file as an emergency if you fear for your safety and the safety of your child. \n\nThey can also assist you in finding housing, getting safe shelter, apply for an order of protection, and getting your life in order.\n\nGather your police reports and all important paperwork and make the phone call today!\n\nFor more information on resources available to you in Michigan...check out this website:\n\nhttp://www.mcadsv.org/mrcdsv
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Why not see if you can get a free consultation with a lawyer or someone who can look over the papers and tell you what they mean.  It seems that if a parent didn't want visitation, they wouldn't be able to force it.  I mean, how would it be in the best interest of the child to send them to spend time with someone who wants nothing to do with them?  It wouldn't be doing the father or the child any good.  They shouldn't be concerned, especially if he is paying support and not causing any trouble with the girl and her mother.
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Contact a lawyer!!! It's not that difficult of a process, and they don't charge much for the legal paper. They type it up, and both parties sign it and have it notarized. You can state how long or short the custody will be for in the agreement.