am i a sucker if i don't wanna have an afare with a  girl , just becase i don,t wanna  hurt her fellings?
112200
Well, if a girl says, Hey, I have no feelings, let's have an affair (or sex, I guess), and you say, I don't wanna hurt your feelings, let's not, then you're a liar, not a sucker.  And if you don't want to have sex with somebody you're not in love with, it's totally okay to say so.
774759
if you hear allot of rumors saying she is evil and shes always been nice to you than most likely you already have her heart, but be care full it might not be a good heart. the bible Say's that the heart is treacherous you may be seeing what your heart wants you to see. think really hard and honest. what does your mind tell you.when in the slightest bit of doubt don't do it. but if you must. girls always like courageous guy's, so stand up be a man and tell her how you feel, and what you want. what have you got to lose. not your pride because you don't have any if you've waited this long. besides even if shes not interested she will have to respect you. and if she doesn't then she never deserved you. you need to tell her. if she likes you, you will get her, if she doesn't, than you can move on to some thing better. Good Enough?
822922
Sounds like either she genuinely isn't attracted to you and just doesn't want to hurt your feeling\nor\nShe is keeping you on standby in the hope someone elses comes along (hence the jealousy when she thinks you may be 'slipping away' with someone else)\nor\nYour the kind of guy that gals see themself marrying but want to play the field a bit more.\n\nOne of those is the most likely and if you think you spot one then\n1 Accept she isn't attracted to you and if it's nothing you can 'work on' (gross obesity, bad breath...) then direct your affections elsewhere\nor\nDecide how important your self respect is v's your passion for this girl.  Maybe force the issue to the front by actually dating someone else (although they should be aware of the situation too so they don't get caught in the middle!)\nor\nIf she's just keeping you hanging on standby then I'd gradually cut her out - thats not a friend.\n\nEither way - there are pleanty more ladies out there and if you stop looking at just one you might surprise yourself. You may have built this imaginary romance up to unrealistic proportions?
1049221
why would you?  just to have someone pay for your food and entertainment?  yes, that would be wrong. \n\nbut if you are trying to see, by going out, that maybe you could like that person, and you are doing so with an honestly open mind on the issue, then that's okay...even if you end up deciding that you are not interested in them...at least you gave them the opportunity to show you who they were so you could see if you'd like to continue dating.
1107778
Obviously if you have two then your not ready for a real relationship....when you really like someone then you want to be only with them......i mean how would you like it if you were being played........thats not fair and people do have feelings and get hurt.....rememeber "karma".....so be careful what you do.....
561366
you have two gfs sounds like you are a non-commiting person, just decide, you are about to hurt one or both, you should have not gotten youself in this predicament.
497823
HEY HONEY NEEDLESS TO SAY I HAVE ONE LIKE THAT TOO..BEST ADVICE....LEAVE IT ALONE, YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW SHE IS YOU WILL MOST LIKELY BE THE ONE TO GET HURT!!!DROP IT LIKE ITS HOTTTTTT...
1133185
Your question worries me because I think you have some serious psycological issues.There is clearly something missing in your life and any girl will not make it better, even if one does, it would mean that you are forever dependent on her. You need to start accessind what makes you lonely and is it peer pressure that makes you want a girlfriend or what? Come on you are better than that! I have faith in you!
421697
It is possible to "trick" someone into a relationship, but you are asking for trouble in the process. To fool with someones emotions has a tendency to backfire on you, and will cause undue strain on any further relations with this person. If you like them, as a friend, but want it to be something more just ask them and allow them to make the choice. If you want to be cagey about it and manipulative to trick them into it then  you do not have genuine feelings for them and should just continue with what you have, don't push it! They will hate you for it in the end.
522643
No. \nI value myself than more than some man's w****. Because that is what you are making yourself to be.  If the man could not respect me enough to be the one and only than he doesn't have much for me.  Of course he's gonna tell you that lie, but it's a lie.\n\nRespect yourself as a lady, not some mans sex toy or w****.\n\nAnd if that isn't enough think of the other female.  How do you think she feels? And how would you feel if your man was taking out of your mouth and giving it to another female.\n\nIt all boil down to:  RESPECT YOURSELF, BECAUSE WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
188297
No.  I wouldn't let my friends or my girlfriend tear me a part to the extent that I would have to choose.  Not to mention that I usually make pretty good judgements on both ends.
1068430
Don't go for it.  Miss Right is called that for a reason...you'll end up together!  You can't pursue every girl that bats her eyelashes at you.  It seams to me that if she were the one, she'd be irresistible and intriguing and you'd already have gone for her.  Just hang in there.  There's a woman out there somewhere specifically for you!
718049
if the guy ur with is very close to you and you know he is quite concerned about pleasing you (and he wouldn't find out) i guess it's ok.\n\ncoz guys can actually get hurt if they don't please you, (i'm talking about guys who are really in love with their girls.)\n\nbut if you lie and he finds out, it will be all the more hurtful for him. \n\nso you gotta use your discretion!!
974053
I'd say "No" to something and stick to it.  That should trow her for a loop!  Be careful that you're not just going along with everything to keep her.  That will not keep her.  Girls want guys with balls, who will stick up for what they want and what they believe in...
703004
Number one your reason to not date her is very cruel... little overweight shouldnt be the problem and it seems like you have some feelinsg for her.. if you truely care about her and over look the looks.. i think you guys will do just fine dating her. I think your just afriad being with her etc... when girls give their virginty to a guy, of course theyd get attached because women are emotional and we believe that our virginty is very special and wed give it to someone wed truely care for. i think she really truely cares about you.. if you could have sex with her and over look the overweight..i think it may not bug you a little bit less then you think... Just be careful... and if i wa syou if you truely care for her, date her.. if you dont.. be honest and she will appreciate it in the long run... Goodluck
312560
No, I don't think so. I'm a girl, and honestly feel 2 things, 1) if it's "small" and he knows how to make it enjoyable for both, then it definately doesn't matter the size, and 2), to big can hurt, but the right kind of big is great, and there's nothing wrong with liking it, or prefering it, even if you would except the same person with a smaller one. Be glad she likes you the way you are though! Just make sure you don't go TO deep!
626541
yes. it's actually not a question on the guy's side but on the girls since girls are a lot sensitive compare to boys. rivalry between the close friend and the girlfriend will never be avoided. so why not try to be close friends with your girlfriend or fall for your best friend? :)