Is it ok to be married but still find other people sexy?
116708
It's natural to find other people sexy.It's not a weakness!\nYourself are sexy for other, not just for your husbent.
500959
I agree with Gill Billy. I've been married for the best part of 14 yrs and looking is a part of life. There is NO way I would ever cheat on my wife however we can walk down the street and have a bit of fun looking. I have had, in the past, invitations to play around and have always enjoyed flirting but never gone any further than that. I love my wife. Would never do anything to jeapordise what we have. I believe its great fun and so does she. Its just something thats a natural part of life to look around...but its personal choice to do or not do anything about it. Maybe I'm just lucky......I dont know. Good luck mate
629821
so????  You are just looking right, no harm in that.  Even fantasizing about him while with your hubby is fine, might make it more exciting (I am sure he is thinking about a Pam Anderson or a Angelina Jolie some nights), as long as it's not physical you are in the clear!
646692
You can enjoy flattery as long as you can keep it in perspective.  Just be careful how much you enjoy it.  You're married -- not dead!
748886
IT IS NOT ANY OF ANYBODY'S BUSINESS !!!\n\nNO ONE SHOULD BUTT IN ON YOUR MARRIAGE, SO YOU SHOULD NOT BUTT IN ON ANYBODY ELSE MARRIAGE !!!\n\nPERIOD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As long as both people know that this is just an exchange of e-mail greetings and no one is trying to approach the other person in a way that would compromise thier marriage, it's perfectly ok.\nI have talked with several ladies on here and I am happily married.\nThey know that and respect it. \nGood question
1063000
You know, it is funny that you mention this because a friend of mine was telling me the same thing the other day.  I think in her case that it was just a really strong attraction, which really isn't a big thing.  You just cannot act of those feelings being married as you are.  It is normal to find other people attractive and think that they are awesome to be around.  You are married, sweetie, not dead!
6654
It may not be wrong.  It may be socially acceptable.  You are the one who made the marriage vow.  The real question might be why did you go looking for another man before you terminated your relationship with your husband?  You are the one who must live with your choices.
319125
WOW! If you're doing it for the right reasons it is! And both of you are in agreement and God has revealed to you both that you're meant for each other, and are going to get married. I'd say most girls wouldn't find it attractive. But I do. In fact I'm doing the same thing. I'm waiting for marriage, and I think its great! Go you! What self-control!\nKeep at it hun, you gonna make your bride feel like a queen on her wedding day knowing you waited all your life for her!!
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
914905
If you feel the person your married to is the One, your attraction to other people will not steer you away from your love and faithfulness to your spouse. You will always be attracted to other people, your human. But you will feel it's not worth it to be with someone else because you already have what you found at home...that is, if the one your married to IS the One. If you have any doubt in your marriage, then you made a mistake when you got married to that person, and it will be easier for you to make the decision to be with this other person because you feel they have something incredibly important that your spouse doesn't.\n\nSometimes you may simply be confused about your marriage because of your sudden and shocking new found attraction to someone else. In that case, re-evaluate the importance of your spouse and figure out and re-learn if your spouse really does make you feel great, and is important to the max in your life.
193371
If you have married the man or woman that is right for you and who truly is in love with you, then you will not have to worry about them being faithful. Someone who is in love with you is not going to be unfaithful because nobody else will compare to you in their eyes. The problem is that so many people are in such a hurry to get married, that they settle for someone and try to make it be true love. That is why we have so many failed marriages today. =-)
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Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
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Why would it be?  Why would that make you fast?  You simply enjoy hanging out with men.  There is nothing wrong with that.  As long as you stay faithful if you have a boyfriend or husband and don't flirt to an amount that makes them uncomfortable, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.\n   I am a male and I have more female friends than male.  I am married and know the limits and my wife is okay with it as long as I stay within those limits.\n   Do not worry about what other people say.  You are you, and you only have to worry about being happy yourself.
960912
Natural.\n\nBeing married does not cut off all your sense involving the opposite sex.  You still can become very attracted to someone else but because you are married, you don't allow it to lead to ANYTHING !\n\nBut, you may think about the other person for a while but it will pass with your help meaning get busy with something else and pray.
182884
I think that everyone gets tempted. You're married, not dead. But it all comes down to if it's worth it or not. If you value your relationship, and respect your spouse, then I am assuming it would not be worth it to jeopardize all of that.
1114087
you are right in my opinion.  I don't think that there is just one someone for everyone.  There are too many crazy things happening in this world that can cause things to go wrong really early, but I think that there are a bunch of people out there that can fit you and that when they fit, it isn't about them being hot, or being just like you, but being complimentary to you.  They make you your best.  Like how some colors look good on people, but not on others.  there are different characteristics that mix together to make a good combination.  I think those who have been married the longest have found someone that fits them and just continued to click, and work at trying to keep clicking