if u have a lover but separately living in 2 different country, will u still keep this relationship or no ?
115460
yes.. as he is my loved one, i'll try all my best to keep this relationship...\nbut the problem is...\nits quite hard to make sure that he is also do in the same way too...\nplus, its also very hard to ensure that he didn't tackle other girl or is he fooling u\n\nsomehow.. a distance love is very hard to keep up\nexcept both of u are willing to put more effort in it
230185
OK, first of all obviously you're already attached to him because you said that he's the one.  Is it a guarantee that he will be going back to Mexico?  And if he is, does he want the relationship to end?  Do you really want the relationship to end? Are there any underlying issues of concern that you're not mentioning? Are you willing to move to Mexico?  You have to weigh all your options sweety, and what sacrifices you are willing to make for this guy you claim to love so much.  It seems as if it doesn't matter which way you go once he leaves you'll be broken hearted anyway.  If it is a guarantee that he will be leaving for Mexico for good and you feel you don't want to go through the heartache later on, I think you can answer the question on your own.  Just let everything flow, what's to be will be.  Follow your heart.
1060822
That depends on how you feel about this person and how much you are willing to put in the effort to make this work. A lot of times distance can make the heart grow fonder but too much distance can really get stressful for a couple and being together physically is an important part of any relationship. I think couples need to spend time together and be with each other. However, if you feel that you are dedicated enough and they are dedicated enough you could make it work.  Where there is a will theres a way.
557351
It depends on how badly YOU BOTH want it to work. Since you already have an established relationship, you are already ahead of the game so you have a far greater chance of keeping it that way. You have to make sure you try to keep in touch as often as possible, and when you have the opportunity to see each other just do it. You are probably going to come back home over holidays, spring break, etc, etc, right? So at least you have that. But keeping the communication lines going is more important now than ever. It can be done, it will just involve a lot of work from the 2 of you, and you have to discuss this with him before you leave, or agree to see other people and take the risk of losing each other for good. This exact scenario happened to me when I was 19 as well, and I was together with my boyfriend at that time for 3 years already. He had to go to another city (only 2 hrs away) to get his Masters and PHd. It was hard to maintain but he made it a point to come down every 2 weekends, no matter what. Good luck to you both.
965994
From your description, I'm not sure you even have a "true" relationship. I feel you think you have but I am not so sure about him. At any rate a long distance relationship has no nurturing value...especially if there is no commitment. You have no idea what the other is doing. How can it be fulfilling? Your description itself suggest no pleasure from it...only doubt, insecurity and unhappiness. Your task is to firmly decide what is best for YOU.\nI suggest you continue to stabilize your life...this clearly is not working to your benefit. \n\nYou don't have to be face to face for it to end. Please don't let it be an excuse for him or yourself. Over the phone, email or a letter would suffice.
124334
i would be willing to move to a distant country for someone that i was IN LOVE WITH; not just someone i loved. also, i have been to asia and europe and realize that the world isn't as big as i thought it was. i don't think that moving to a foreign country would necessarily mean that you wouldn't be able to see your friends and family again. you just may not be able to see them as frequently.
53000
Firstly resolve your own sexuality - either your are gay or you are not - I do not believe there is such a thing as "bigay" only an individual who can not fully accept that he's gay. Having said that - if you care equally about this guy - then talk about your feelings and if over just a weekend together - it will work it self out. Both of you can discuss your feelings and depth of emotions and desires and expectations in a relationship and go from there. Distance should not influence your love.\nI had my first lover from Sydney, Australia and we were absolutely committed and happy together until he suddenly died. Good luck, dude.
231247
Long distance relationships are very hard, but I know couples who are married and are still long distance. So nothing is impossible. It just depends on how much you love and Trust each other to be apart but still stay together. But warning: long distance relationships are Tough. You both need to sit down and talk about the possibilities and if you both decide to stay together, talk about how you'll both deal with it. Make sure you're both prepared for all the hardships to follow, such as missing each other, trust issues, traveling to see each other, etc... Goodluck on your decision!
610654
Usually long distance relationships are best kept long distance.  If you decide to move closer, kept it an hour or two apart to see if the relationship can handled it.  And if it last a year, then move to the same city.
365478
I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
581095
It can work out if you two had a strong relationship before separating.  I was in a faithful (If you are sure he is the one for you--and he feels the same way--then I would not recommend getting into another relationship) long distance relationship of 2500 miles for over a year, and we stayed in contact by phone (we each had Cingular phones, so there was no long distance charge).  She lived in Reno, NV and I moved to Knoxville, TN.  After she finished her degree, she moved to be with me and we are together today.\n\nI hope everything works out for you :o)
766492
if you two are really meant for each other, love will overcome any obstacle, but for now you just have to know him  better, with the technology today i dont think thats a problem anymore, we now have video calls, and there is the internet, there are a lot of ways to communicate with another person while he is away from you, its just a matter of how much you wanted it. . .  after all its really up to the both of you, how much you really want to push through thus so called relationship of yours. if you desperately want him then go for it, he would be worth it in the end, and he would be a big regret for you if in case you wont try anything to pursue this. . .  goodluck  to you and GODBLESS!!!
760190
unless one of you will be moving in the future to either the usa or uk then no.\n\nwhat would be the point in even starting as you would have to visit each other regularly for this to work\n\nnot to mention the calls / emails etc etc\n\nthink long and hard over this as i would say you may fall for him and the distance comes between you as neither of you wants to move.\n\n\nits a long way to move only to find out he lives like a pig or is a neat freak or goes to bed really early or not at all etc etc....\n\nyou may think you know them from the visits but to a certain extent you will only see 'best behaviour'\n\ngood luck
76399
It probably depends on where the relationship is at at the point you decide to part (geographical) ways. If you were together for a while before you were in other states, then I'd say your chances are better than they would be had you spent most or all of your relationship apart.\n\nWill he cheat? That's your call. If you decide to stay with him for the remainder of the time he's out there, you have made the CHOICE to trust him and you will have to resist the temptation to check up on him all the time. \n\nBut if you both want to go for it and give the relationship a shot, then do it. Who knows, you might have found someone that will completely surprise you!\n\nGood luck!
608873
I have a fiancee' in another country, and can relate to what you and your boyfriend are going through. \n\nIt is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship at such a long distance. My fiancee' and I have dedicated our hearts and our lives to each other. We both are doing everything we can to bring each other physically back together again.  It has required incredible commitment from both of us to go through all that we have so far.\n\nYour relationship, unfortunately, has doubt and commitment issues fro what you have described. Such issues are tough enough to deal with when you are face-to-face let alone being thousands of miles apart. Assuming that one of you lives in America, dealing with the immigration and visa issues is going to be a task and huge commitment in itself. ANY doubt of commitment is going to show through when you two deal with these issues.\n\nIn my opinion, you need to bluntly find out if your boyfriend is actually willing to commit his life to you, and a good test is for him to work on getting a fiancee' visa for you to visit him or vice versa. If he is serious about getting married, then he will need to do this sooner or later. If he is not willing to commit at least to that, then there is no need to continue the relationship. \n\nGood luck to you!
843107
Yes if the feelings for each other is sincere and everything else is in place, surely you can't knock someone back because of where they come from. Except you are saying it might be a problem because of the distance, I can understand that but then you can work round that provided both of you are committed to travelling and ensuring that the relationship works. Finding true love is not something that happens everyday and as such if you are lucky to find it,  enjoy it.
545798
well honey it depends on the 2 of u ...what u find attractive in the other must not be entirely physical..if it is rest assured it will fall flat! theres a difference between love and infatuation long n long distance relationships does truly show whether u are in love or merely infatuated...long distance reln wud wrk only if both of u are in love with the minds and trust ..cos when the physical attributes wear away it is this that lasts..tlkin about my experience ..yes im in love with a woman whos halfway across the globe with an age difference of nearly 10 yrs lol !! we ve had our innocent fights and making up soon after ..well one of us is always calm to pacify the other in times of trouble u need to have a big heart for ur love thats really important