my husband is out of town and we have never been apart in 13 years. What do I do with myself?
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hello what i would do is catch up on some family time like your mom dad gramma children me i love to clean my home also work at my job 8 hrs then i would tire myself out and go to sleep make time go fast i have done this alot it works for me then reuniting will be gloriouse
625655
You're done?  Then be done and don't linger in the relationship. It sounds like he's willing to do what ever it takes to get back into your lives, but he won't continue.  Once he is comfortable you will revisit why you separated. Give yourself time to heal and keep moving in the direction you know will be better for you and your child.  There's nothing to celebrate except your freedom!
232276
Try going out and getting friends.  Go to play groups, take your kids to classes, go to the gym or something like that.  ou need a life outside of your marriage.
24542
I'm going through a similar situation. I left. Don't do that. You both need to decide if it's worth trying to get the closeness back. Be open about the things that you enjoy doing together and things you don't. Try and figure out how you two grew apart. And do it together. No matter how hard it is. If it's worth it, take the time to make it work. It wont happen on it's own.
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Hi...well, I'm NOT looking forward to being where you are...I've spent the last 9 years as a single mom!  My youngest is 17, but good news is 21 year old daughter is moving home, but just for a year, til her husband gets back from second deployment in Iraq (he's US Navy) and they settle in their own house here.\n\nI started watching English football here (soccer), so I now have a pub I go to and watch it with the guys (I'm the only woman who is interested!) on those rare evenings I find myself alone.  I know people can tell you about hobbies, and crafts, gardening, etc., but what about volunteering at say, the local hospice center, or the hospital, or even your local elementary school?  These types of organizations always need help, and the benefits of helping are their own rewards!  Or you can do what I love to do when I have free time for myself...and that's go exploring...  I don't know where you live, but I am in Jacksonville, Florida, and there are so many places around here to see and enjoy, like St. Augustine, or the zoo, or just traveling down the Intracoastal Waterway highway for a change of scenery.  I also love going downtown to the city's center and just window shopping, stopping for a bit of lunch, and a cup of coffee at an outdoor cafe.  I also have a list of junk/antique stores in the area, and try to visit one after the other on days when my time is free and home chores are done (and the girls are gone).\n\nAnyway...I've got a very adventuresome spirit...and I'm sure  you do too, considering you're a novelist.  Oh how I envy you...I've written stories all my life, and been published on the web, but I've yet to sit down and do what I love doing, writing just to complete a project!  Good luck...and most of all, HAVE FUN DOING IT! :)
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Get a pet!  And even when your kids move out that doesn't mean you can't still talk on the phone or visit.  Keep in touch with the kids and get a dog or cat (or both)!  Also, this is a chance to spend some alone time with your spouse and get to know him again (assuming there is a spouse)
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Give it at least 6 months to a year.  Make some new friends and find another job.  Don't give up just yet.  Make an honest effort though, don't just "wait it out."  If after all that you still are unhappy and want to move back, then talk it over with your husband.  Even though larger places have more to do, smaller towns have advantages too.  You aren't as invisible, your family can always help with the child(ren), crime rates are usually lower, cost of living is usually less, to mention a few.  You already know the advantages of a larger city since you lived there.  Hope this helps!
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I would second the motion that Mike made. I would also recommend finding new activities and make new friends. That way you can let people know you are available. And you can keep yourself occupied. And keep your spirits up too. Use this broken relationship as a learning experience. Good Luck. LJK
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play some sports.travell some where u like someplace new? and enjoy ur life till y fall for the next one(lady). no body can still out there alone for too long unless he is pretty strong. i wish if we was that strong.\nany way enjoy ur life to the max. :)
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it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
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Find a nice Bed and Breakfast in your area.  If he's been away all he will want is you!  So a nice romantic weekend away where you can just spend quality time together will be a very special treat!
958510
divorce your husband, and take a long vacation. when you come back maybe you'll be rational
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The two of you need weekends away. I don't know your financial status but I would suggest getting out of town. You don't have to go far and it doesn't have to be expensive. Just include new sights and sounds and feelings and pleasures. You could even do that in your own home if you can't afford to get far away.\nDon't go to Vegas or other places that have too many distractions. This is time for you two to be together and talk and re-light that candle of passion and love
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get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
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Find a support system. Though a husband is supposed to be part of it. Get out there and make friends, people who share your interests and viewpoints. On the husband, make mentions of whats going on in your mind. He may feel as insecure as you do about living in this new place and may not know how to comfort you if he cannot do it for himself. Most people keep things inside and queitly seeth. Its rare to find people who can communicate well in a relationship. Find someway to open the lines.
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Prepare your house for the worst.  Contact a lawyer, get prepared legally, finacially (start saving), and continue to establish contact with your husband.  Give him every opportunity to talk, write or communicate with you.  Sometimes national borders slow written communication, but if he has web access there really is no reason not to stay in touch.\n\nIf all efforts at communication fail, go to see him in person, you can buy the ticket, get a passport and go there, and drop by.  And if you have prepared for the worst, you will be in good shape to get your life together again should you decide to terminate the marraige.\n\nIn summation, you should save money, research lawyers, and continue to establish contact with him.  If no contact can be established, then go to him, not as a confrontation, but as a surprise, his reaction will tell you everything you need to know, and what you should do.
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Find someonelse to get him out of your system. \nMen try to be polite and say sweet things to ease you but then women read this compassionate talk as false hope. Honey, it's all BS because is OVER and is been over since August last year.\n\nIf he wanted to be back he would already been back.\nFind some new friends, go to a divorce support group to be able to vent your pain and share experiences with people that have been thru the same. If you keep on holding on you will continue suffering. Realize once and for all that he is not coming back, come one. you are DIVORCED and you don;t have to keep on holding on the candles waiting for him to make his heroic return. Noone is going to give you a medal for being a marthyr...so go out and have fun, you are a newly single gal. He is out ther having fun, so why are you crying at home?\n\nLet go and move on\n\nGood luck.