I would really like to know ,why if you were raised properly and didn't have a "BAD"childhood......
99523
You have already got half of your problem solved. You recognize that some of your life's choices were bad. Now to solved the other half of your problem, you have to STOP and THINK before you act. Don't just cater to your every whim, think about the consequenses of your action,and then decide whether you want to go with the  choice or not. If you decide the choice is bad,you'll have to muster all the will power you got to refrain from taking this course of action.At first, conditioning yourself to make the right choices will be hard, but after you do it more and more, it will become the natural thing to do. Good luck.
1026707
I would like a stable life but I have a family that's way too dysfunctional for that. My life is rather exciting, full of huge ups and downs. Its not ideal but its what I have so I've learned to deal with it. Drama stalks me. I think its because I attract crazy people, haha.
765097
I've lived through a lot of hard times and abuse, more than most people do . Have had to struggle to pull my self up out of bad situations\nwith two small children under tow , but everything that happens in our lives happens for a reason and I wouldn't change anything that happened because it has molded who I am . Today I am stronger for having to live that way .
135103
It's not about that. Its all about the envirment in which you were raised , not what sex you are. If you grew up in a nice enviorment with nice friends , it's not unlikly that you will grow up to be a nice and humble person with morals. Your parents also play a major part.
515254
Yes - and unlike many others, I wouldn't change things, or be born with all the knowledge I have already.  May be boring, but life is about learning, and we learn my making mistakes.  Take my 1 year old twins for example.  They are learning to stand on their own.  Should I hold them constantly, always afraid their hurt their tush if they fall?  Nope, they would never learn to stand on their own if I did that.  Yes, they fall and hurt themselves (or their pride) and cry, but then they get cuddled and praised for their efforts and they try again.  Same with life.  Gotta take the good with the bad, gotta learn all you can, even if that means learning from your mistakes and passing on your knowledge to the next generation.  Life is what you make of it, not what's handed to you.
1029863
I think it's are consciences, people around us, how we were taught growing up, are surrandings etc, that stop us from turning bad. I mean I don't have a religion and I haven't gone of the rails.
455670
well some people have been through a lot in a childhood or something and they have been like traumatized! so they dont know any better
151793
It would be to raise my children to the best of my knowledge and help them to be the best up right citizens of this country and to have respect, integrety, hopefulness, willingness, compassion, strength, sympathy, helpfulness, and among other things treat people the way that they want to be treated and to behave like poeple should. Not go out killing, doing drugs, stealing, robbing, murdering, or anything else that is not morally right. I hope that I have the strength and courage to bring up two up standing citizens and all around well behaved persons that the country, friends, family, teachers, counselors, pastors, and I can be proud of and see what all of my hard work has accomplished for the past umteen years. That is the one goal that I wish to reach. And also have my children to tell me mom we understand why you and dad done the things that you did to help us and to make us understand that there are reasons for the groundings, taking things away, making us have manners, and making us the very best persons that we can be.  Thanks wonderful question.
479140
Who cares.so what if you were adopted.You love the parents you have now don't you? They are still your parents,it doesn't matter who had you.They raised you and loved you all this time.
1003726
Uh...yes but only because the good times are so good. I am lucky to never have had truly bad times. Sure I've been cheated on, had rocks thrown at me, been told my voice sounds like I've swallowed a vibrator. But I'd have that happen a thousand times over instead of some tragedy befalling one of my loved ones. I wish I was joking about all that crap that's happened to me, but it's all true...
611781
no,i have a much better life than you, I am rich and have one sister and we have a maid. Also my parents don't believe in beating children. maybe you will one day be like me. hahahahahahahahahhahaahhah like that's ever going to happen.
781431
My partner was born into an abusive and harsh family and is one of the most wonderful people in the world. You are who you choose to be, your parents made you they do not define you.
495664
My life has never been perfect (even till now). Ups and downs and sideways, too. But the essence of life is how you live it during the good times and , unfortunately, during the bad times, too. So all of those bad things I charge to experience and hope that I don't trip over the same rock twice. And for the good things, keep on coming.\n\nMost of those who reply to this question so far say that they should have done better in elementary or high school or college. Right answers. There are no wrong answers. But come to think of it, don't you guys feel that your misses and "mistakes" have helped you to grow stronger and better equipped to face more challenges? What do you think?
364527
Yes it matters.  Your childhood is what leads you to become the person you are today.  The Child and their views are influenced but the people they grow up with as a peer group and the role models they see in everyday interaction.  Rarely are childhood influences broken with out a major paradigm shift...i.e., trauma.
610224
Is it in the Genes? There are some past from generation to generation, in the past i  think it was not understood and people wondered WHY DO I ACT OR REACT IN THIS MANNER, NO ONE HAD AN ANSWER AT THAT TIME? Now with all the therapy and attained knowledge, studies etc, more is known. How often does one find addiction in a family, the children often have it also, but it does not have to be the same dysfunctional problem, it can take on different addictions yet it is still addiction, or families do not know ,wave not learned how to cope or solve problems with a wise mind. There are imbalances, learned behavior, hereditary, no one to look up to or teach values, morals, etc.  I guess I do not have the answer.
484875
i have a nephew who was taken from us way too early. I would bring him back to live the life he never got to, to be with his parents that loved him so much, to play catch with his daddy, and have his booboos kissed away by his mommy, and to experience his first love. I love you HF.
784954
yes i do think that i come from a good family, because even though we have our bad days we accept who eacjother has become and is. i was raised in believing that even if i was the queen of the world or on top of the world, if i dont respect or treat others well, then i am not at all the best in the world. even if we live in a horrible world if i dont sell out my family members, or my friends, and i am the best i can be, then everything will work out. but you cant always get what you want but sometimes you can. helping others, and being kind and loving and not trying to hurt anyone intentionally, then i am the best. and i think that a good family is something that accepts everyone and pretty much everythng above. there is more stuff that i can write, but its more like a show or explain in person kind of thing.