so my ex wants me back but she is not willing to work out our problems. but i still love her what should i do?
105671
If you don't work things about before you re-marry, then you are condemning yourself to the same old problems as before.   I, too, advise counseling before you become involved in marriage with her again.\n\nBest of everything!
830605
my ex is trying to win me back.....  i say give her space.\n A girl wants time to think about what she really wants. \ndon't bug her.. send some flowers and a letter and let her know exactly how you feel and let her decide .
622403
All you can do is give her a hug and tell her that you are there for here.I have been in that situation where I have something wrong with me and my ex used to ask me what was wrong, I never told him, he would just get up and go into the other room. Dont do that. I know from experience even if she doesnt want to talk, she might still like you to be with her and hold her so she knows that she is not alone
475646
Well you haven't said if she knows you have changed or not, nor did you say if you asked her for another chance. If she doesn't know you want another chance I would suggest you ask her. If and when you do ask her and she says no then I would suggest you read a book called, "How to mend a broken heart, letting go and moving on" by Aleta Koman. You can't really make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if she does turn you down it's going to be hard but you've got to go on with your life and such. That book will help you wonders and help you understand things a lot more clearer. I've been through the same thing with my ex but not because I wasn't there for her but for another reason. I asked her to give me another chance numerous times and she turned me down. So the next thing I did was look up some books on the internet for this type of thing and came across that book.
307926
First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
766848
She wanted to test the waters and now she's seen that what she had was better so she wants you back. You have to let her know that you aren't the "fall-back-on" guy. You have your own life and to be able to fully live that life, you need for her to leave you alone, you aren't interested.
1087408
try to talk to her about this, if she doesnt understand what you mean or not willing to try to change this, then just move on and find someone more compatible with you.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
629767
You need to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. Somebody was obviously unhappy. If you truly believe things have changed then all you can do is let her know that, tell her the door is open and let her make her own decision. If you try to do too much to influence her you will turn into a bunny boiler. Just concentrate on being happy by yourself and making your life as full and enjoyable as you can. Someone will see you for who you arw and fall in love with you, either your ex or someone completely new! Just enjoy it cos we're only here once.
1152170
Try to talk to her. See why she left you. Try to negotiate with her. See if you can fix the problem. There is also relationship councilors. Visit them. I know you guys can work it out. Good Luck!
653023
we cant really explain feelings,,, just do not force her feelings give her time to realize if she really loves you..maybe you just need to miss each other.and if it turns out that she doesnt love you then give her freedom but if you really love her do your very best to win her hearts back... show your love to her and prove her your worth loving
407111
well...just think of it this way...if you love her...just let her go...if she loves you back...she'll come back to you and you guys would be meant to be...give it time...if she doesnt take you back and just get with sum1 else...move on and hold your head up high because you deserve better...
561450
She still loves you. But the difference is that she's not in love with you. Sometimes pain and disappointment is so great till it's not worth the salvage of the relationship.\n\nYes, she angry because of the hurt and doesn't want to be in this situation anty more than you do. Just give her sapce and take care of your responsibility.
818035
Friends after the fact won't work dude.  If you want a relationship with her or still love her, tell her you want her back.  If that's a no go - you need a clean break - That involves your mate as well.   Explain you still have feelings for her and you can't be around her without feeling awkward.  Then find some new friends.
1003037
you need to talk to her and try to make an effort to spend more time together. find out why she doesn't trust you and try to change. If you really love someone you will be able to talk and work it out..
232737
Sounds like she is having a hard time letting go.  Prove to her that you can do things on your own.  Listen to her advice but you don't always have to take it.  \nTell her you appreciate her input but maybe she would like your opinion just as well.
1187030
If she really meant what she said about her promise then you should have no problem at getting her back. But if she doesn't want to get with you now just move on and forget her because that promise that you two made to each other probably didn't mean crap to her.