How do i help this friend...?
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tell her it's a part of life, a part of growing up.  everybody experiences heartaches. life would be boring without heartaches, would't it?  there would no thrill if we always get what we want.  tell her that her heartaches would only make her stronger, tougher, more resilient in life.
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Your not a bad friend your a great friend! He will never shape up and be the man he needs to be. besides that hes not even a man yet he is still a kid, and he is headed no where fast. But please don't give up on your friend because she needs you. She may not know it now but she'll see. Just be there when she needs you and no i told you so. Because believe me she already knows.
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Support your friend.  The next few months are going to be hard, but if you really do care, stand by your buddy.  Let him know that you are prepared to help, but he needs to be serious about his sobriety, and if he's not, you can't do anything for him.  Lay down a clear cut set of rules and guidelines to help him.  Good luck.  Hope that helps.
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Tell her face to face that as her friend you feel it is important that she listen to you, then tell her exactly how you are interpreting the situation and warn her that you are worried that all he is out to do it take advantage of her.
638381
What kind of help?  Can you be a little more vague, please.  LoL..
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Whatever you say make sure u mean it..... Just let your friend know if he or she needs any help ...such as help around house yard w/kids running errands u r willing  and ready. That way your friend can concentrate more on getting well.  If your friends wants to talk  about their illness  truly listen.   Most importantly by all means, do not treat your friend any different than you have in past.
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you can't! They are the only one who can make that decision, and its one of the hardest things to see a friend falling to pieces...but there is one thing you can do....when he need you...be there for him/her....10 percent...first they have to hit rock bottom, and then when there finally come around....there will need lots of good friend and support....so be there!!!!
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I know what your Friend is going thru. Prayer is the only thing that can help her. I was surprised more people did not answer this. Maybe they did and maybe they did pray for her. Either way please keep me updated if at all possible. I am interested to know the outcome. I will pray for her!
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YOu need to find a way to show your friend that you are there for them and that you actually care. First of all, you could tell them that but that doesn't mean they will believe you, so you have to look for any oppurtunity to show them that you are a "true friend" that can be trusted.
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Mind your own business and let your friend handle it.  If she or he needs your help, they'll ask.  Then you have all rights to kick that persons *ss for messing with your friend.
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You can pray for her. Make sure that she knows tha you are there for her. Be a really good friend to her. Maybe you could talk to her on the phone a little. Maybe she could get some help, it could be from you, God, other friends, or even a counselor
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Lot's of experiences like that one... well, one thing that would really help your friend is to constantly praise his/her work. commend everything that was done right. if there are things that must be corrected, do it in a constructive way, and a suggestion will do. In this way, you are building up confidence without making your friend dependent on your opinions or praises. Remember, it's just a balance of praises and constructive criticisms. In the end, your friend will learn how to judge things about her all by herself. Best of all, SMILE! Your smile could actually mean everything.
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i wuld be real honest with her but also remember to be kind.it's alot harder to do then say i know.i am in a similar situation & it's never easy when it comes to ur friends.it culd be that ur friend is having a hard time & need sometime right now.she knows ur there & that's good.that's what friendship is.\ntake care,\nang w.
971686
That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
791859
You don't help them at all. You support them and be there when they need a friend but if you try to do more than that it could be counter productive to their recovery process. It's not suppose to be easy.
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Dealing with a depressed friend is never easy.  I know all about it.  My best friend in the whole world has suffered with deep depression since her car accident last August.  It is difficult sometimes to find the right words to say to her.  I keep telling her to look at her positives and don't focus so much on her negatives, perhaps this will help your friend.  \n\nYou may want to approach him to do some investigative work to pinpoint for his ownself what person(s) or thing(s) make him feel depressed about.  Then after he does this, ask him if there is anything he could change to correct the problems.  If he says "no there isn't" then ask him to make a list of all of his good points and acknowledge all his accomplishments in life.  See if you can focus on the good and positive things in his life as opposed to his negative things.\n\nAlways encourage your friend as best as you can.  Be willing to listen to him and be as positive as you can not only with him but with yourself.\n\nLet him know that you care very deeply for him and let him know that you will support him with all of his decisions.\n\nEvery once in awhile, mention to him about therapy and seeing a doctor about his depression.  Medications and therapy go hand in hand.\n\nGood luck to you and your friend!  I hope he feels better soon!
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I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.\n\nThis will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.\n\ngood luck.