fellas...(after 9 months of dating)how important is the finances & great looks or awsome sex and broke mudduck
99209
thats a hard choice, is there any way to merge them together
182955
*Pondering a moment for I do not see the prob here* So ask the guy you are most interested in out. It is the Naughties (double zero decade you pervs so keep it clean) after all. Take the initiative and snag that guy...
734556
It really depends on the level of maturity of the girl/woman. \n\nIt is definitely important when you are not sure if the guy is the One that you are going to spend your life with and whether he feels the same way.
1118407
Sex and the chase are certainly big time factors.\n\nI'm getting older though, and I REALLY appreciate a woman who has her life in order and has a brain between her ears.  I've dated all kinds of women, and I simply have no tolerance for dummies anymore, no matter how good they look or how freaky they are in the sack.\n\nA woman who can hold her own in an intelligent conversation is rare and definitely worth the pursuit.
670810
No, as I have no idea who you are.  A man's money, or lack of it, doesn't matter to me when I first meet him. His willingness to improve his financial position, for his own self-respect, does.  Women usually marry to have children so it's better if the man is able to contribute towards the family.  \nThis is such an odd question, I can't help but think that you are either desperate or else you are a wealthy guy who is trying to ferret out golddiggers in some way.  Good luck anyway.\nP.S.  Ultimately, character traits like honesty, integrity, faithfulness are much more important than how much cash a man has.
68025
I honor honesty above all. It's your decision want to be involved with her modern life or not. Whatever decision you take, be responsible. I am not that modern and don't believe in pure sex without love, but I don't judge. I respect people with different life style and realize their lives could be much more interesting than mine. You sounded eager to give a modern life a try. If you are prepared, why not? Wish you all the best!
584765
That depends. What is the personality of this guy like? What was the nature of their relationship? Were they talking marriage? How much did he have staked on her? Is he the needy type or the independant type? Why'd they break up? How long was this breakup in coming? Did they live together? Have kids? Who dumped who?\n\nI know my 31 year old boyfriend would never want another woman after me *preen*
241752
Yeah since u guys are madly in love i think u can have some fun now.... 8 months is quite long... i wudnt have lasted that long....
340415
Looks matter to a certain extent. I'll be honest and say I wouldn't date someone incredibly homely and 600 lbs, and most of you would agree. Personality is immensely important to me. He must be a good listener, and can't be arrogant.
11762
Is looks the only important thing?  I know a lot of people who are not the prettiest / most handsome, but are great people.  Think about what is important to you, then make your decision. If you dump him, be honest why.
70457
Are any of those 8 worth losing the one that you have in your life. you have to be honest with yourself. everything looks good from the outside looking in. if she believes in you and willing to stick with you, my man, it's a no brainer! put that attention you're putting into thinking about the 8 into your woman and you'll find out this is not even an issue
842205
Money is important in a relationship..just as important as sex..the Man doesn't have to be the sole provider but he should be there when his woman needs help or is a jam..not to be a sugar daddy though..to be there when it's important.
6720
it depends on how long you have been with this guy and  ask yourself if he's worth it. the ? is would he change something about himself. what he's doing exc.. if he says yes then go ahead and switch.just make sure he knows he owes you one
761082
In the short term they manage fairly well, then the separations, travelling and expenses become too much.\nIf it is a serious relationship or if it could become one I suggest one of you moving closer to the other.
768742
Yes, I am sure that after 10 months of not introducing you to his friends, family, or anyone else while banging then going home to his wife/gf he must care bunches.  \nI would stay with it. It sounds like a relationship that could really go places.
439997
Been there done that--both options.  Choose what you have.  What you had before didn't last for a reason.  It may feel thrilling but that sure as hell doesn't last.  You call him an ex-mess for a reason and the guy you are with deserves more respect than that.
1149130
The nice guy.\n\n\nOvertime, looks will fade and money will be spent. If you can't respect and trust your partner to be good to you, then why bother?