im 23 2 kids n married is there a chance of gettin my life back?
110071
NO there isn't a way to get your life back because now you need to keep your kids' welfare in mind for every single decision.  BUT that doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself.  A lot of it is getting your priorities in order and making decisions WITHOUT worrying about what other people think.  Of course, that's as long as your marriage is going well and your kids are healthy, happy, and safe.  If you are the type that doesn't mind leaving your kids with a sitter/caregiver so you can go shop, work, get your nails done, hang at the beach, party - whatever - then find someone you trust and do it.  If leaving your kids with someone while you go somewhere makes you feel rather guilty or just not right, then don't do it.\n\nYOU decided what your life will be like, to heck with critics.  If you are taking care of yourself, your husband. AND your kids, then you have got things going well.\n\nI have 3 kids and I am married.  I admit I chose to give up a lot to stay at home with the younger 2 b/c we can't afford for me to go back to work!  But I did keep my volleyball playing - which I NEVER intended to give up.  People tell me all the time I should be home with my kids instead of v-balling and others tell me I should go back to work b/c that's what should be done.\n\nAs long as you remember you're a mom and do not go overboard, you should be fine and happy.  Good luck!
1058320
Fall on your knees & ask God to help you. Also seek counseling right away from a Pastor or a professional > but life is worth living. there is nothing bad enough to take your life. People don't realisze that killing ones self isn't the end~God Bless, you are in my Prayers~
1154061
wait for a few more years...ur still a kid
759810
First of all, dying is not an option here -- you have 2 children that love you and depend on you.  Be the responsible parent here.  \n\nI feel for you -- I really do.  Years ago, my wife of 6 years told me matter-of-factly that she had a boyfriend and that our marriage was over.  I felt like my world had ended.  But it did not.  Life went on, and I had to find the courage to pick up and begin again.  I and I alone am responsible for how I deal with what life throws at me.\n\nYou suspect that your wife is still cheating?  Act -- do not react.  If she refuses to get marriage counseling, then hire a private investigator to follow her.  This might sound harsh, but you should expect nothing less than the two of you to be faithful to each other.  There is no excuse whatsoever for a person to have an extramarital affair.  \n\nOne who does is, in effect, telling the other spouse that they are not worth much and that their own pleasure means more to them than the children they have.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, decide that you will follow through with it.
1162855
Think yourself lucky, mate. You had a lucky escape there. Go find someone who wants you for YOU and for some ring.
174064
Children of any age resent any "outside" interference from sources such as yourself in their lives.  They always consider that maybe, the parents will return to each other and they will be "one happy family" once again.  And, if by chance, your "man" was widowed, the kids think of you as the "Wicked Witch of the West" trying to replace their mom.  After 2 years, I would think you'd have a better hold on everything, but it appears maybe you and the "man" hasn't really sat down and discussed these matters for the future. But you state, its "your feelings toward the children" that you fear, not their feelings toward you?  Evidently, you can't accept the children and only want kids between you and your man.  Now that's a major problem and if I were you, and can afford it, I'd seek professional help on this matter.  And if you can't afford it, maybe the welfare people in your state might assist in financial matters?  I'd find out ASAP and get this problem either corrected in my own mind, or split with this guy knowing you will never accept his children as yours.
724560
alright, your going to have to trust me that i am telling you the truth. i have been down that road as well. i actually didnt have to willpower that you do, i almost did end my life because i couldnt take all the pressure coming from every different angle. the only thing that helped pull me back up was takin a week off from college, goin home and being around family and friends, more so friends than anything since they can make you laugh. if you get to the point where it doesnt seem like there is anything to live for, contact me, i will change you mind. i have helped many people after i went through it.
810329
First of all, you are NOT weak. It takes incredible strength and courage to honestly face the stress in your marriage and continue to stay. You obviously care a great deal about all your children. You want to keep the family together if possible. \n\nI hope he will come around, but you do need to prepare a Plan B if he doesn't. Right now he's got financial control over you and he's using it. Maybe you could set a short term goal of saving $1000 in the next 6 months...? By then, you may have a clear direction for yourself and your family.\n\nGod Bless.
841148
Congratulations.  You're no longer homeless!!!\n\nIn your other question postings, you were homeless, and had a 20 year old pregnent girlfriend.  Clearly you've corrected that.  And you are clearly a very smart 11 year old, since you make so much money playing blackjack despite your mental disorders, so I'm sure you'll be able to work through this problem.\n\nOh, and I hope you cleared up that Walmart theft problem you had the other day, where they "tackled" you in the office.  Heck of a thing for an 11 year old to go through.
829861
Talk with a councilor, priest, someone who can help you as the situation continues.   A family therapist can help both of you. Give it a try and if all else fails, remember that you are a good person and make your life the best it can be. Once you get to an age of responsibility- you can get out.
701943
Are you serious? It looks like you have a heavy burden on your shoulders. Nobody hates their life so much without realizing they need help. What happened to you in your childhood?\nYou need help. Professional! Immediately!
520382
Please try to work it out first before you do anything drastic. I would try to find inexpensive or free counseling through the state. Look online and search for your state and family counseling, or ask your family doctor if they know who to call. Or, contact the Family Services dept. in your city or town to find free counseling services. Your next best step is to get a good lawyer. There are some out there that do pro bono (for free) work. \n\nGet your ducks in a row. Make sure you are in good standing with every institution, family member, and friend in your life and workplace. Gather any documentation of your financial ability to care for the kids, and any evidence that your wife is less capable. Keep a record of dates and times when incidents occur where your wife does anything reckless or irresponsible. Document all of the school activities and other kid-related stuff you've been involved in. A lawyer will help you do this the right way.\n\nHere are a couple of helpful links:\n\n\nhttp://www.scfn.org/\nhttp://fatherhood.about.com/od/singledadsresources/\n\nIf the 10 year old is yours and not hers, you can leave with him. If he is both of yours, leaving with him is okay in some areas as long as you remain in the state. But I recommend you discuss this with a law professional (officer or lawyer) before doing anything.\n\nI hope you're doing this for the right reasons. Good luck!
933715
holly sh*t your 20 not 2 years old. tell them to get lost! I feel very sorry for u. if that was my life I would have to killed myself.
101171
Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
1167932
Yes. Go to the closest Psychiatric Emergency Service, they will be able to help you. I am sure you have very serious reasons to consider that, but it would be best to talk to a professional about that. You'd surprised how much they can help.
32127
You may need just strait counselling .  I don't think your going to find any better help for that than a one on one w/ a doc and later you get your family in on it to.  This sounds like its going to take some time and work from you and your family