Who should live, the mother or her unborn child...if you were the father and u had to chose. And why?
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I think perhaps God should make decisions like those. Medical Science is great and all but God has power over all things. Choose your child. From the mother's stand point what better way to die, than by giving another life. Greater love has no man than this, that he lay down his life for a friend. (I think baby relatives count too.) From the father's stand point what better way to show God you totally trust him? A friend of mine was told about six months ago that she should abort her child because he would never breathe on his own, his skull would not be formed,his facial features would be distorted, and the child's brain would be in essence.... dead.Pam and Mike were basically told to kill their unborn child because a medical test "proved" it would be for the best. Rather than putting their faith in medicine they put their faith in God and  today a miracle happened. Pam gave birth to a basically healthly child. He is breathing just fine all by himself, despite some minor physical abnormalities he is a beautiful healthy child. Praise God for this precious life! If Mike would have put his faith in science, or Pam had chosen instead to have her baby aborted because something might be wrong.... well the world would have missed out on this brand new perfect life. The real question is not who can I save? But, in whom can I put my faith? You have no control over life or death, which means YOU can NOT Choose who lives. ie. If the father decides "choose" to abort the child who is to say that during the procedure the mother would not also die? It has happened. an abortion requires a serious, though minimally invasive, surgical procedure.It's called a Dilitation and Curretage more commonly refered to as a D&C.(not only for decicive abortions, a D&C is commonly done on women who have had a spontaneous abortion or miscarriage to prevent uterine infections)I personally have seen (working on a surgical floor) women who have nearly died from complications of this "minimally invasive" procedure.If you put your faith in God he will direct your path.
61601
It is better to have someone who loves you than the one you love.\nHe'll look after you in the best possible way.\nHowever, it is you who have to decide finally. Take the best decision.
540960
Optimally, neither.  But if I were forced to choose, I'd pick the one who loved me.  I'd be less likely to be taken advantage of.
7989
I am not a believer in abortion.  It is an easy way out.  I am a single mother and even though it is hard to raise a child on my own, I would never have considered aborting my baby.  How many people out there have ever really seen what an abortion does to an unborn child?  It's positively horrifying, and no other word besides "murder" describes it.  It is not just about a woman's body, there is another life involved!  One that feels pain, has a heartbeat, and is completely defenseless and dependant on it's mother.  Yes, you are right.  Women SHOULD take care of their responsibilities.  Never is abortion ok, not when you consider that that baby can feel everything as it's being ripped apart.
666800
This is a tough question. If you let your son make his own choice you may not always like the way his father raises him, However if you make your son stay with you he may resent you. I'd say the best decision is to let him make the choice but for you to stay very active in his life as well. If you notice things aren't right with him or that he isn't in the best possible situation then you can choose to say something then. As long as his dad is a good provider, and is a good loving dad, it's ok for him to be his friend sometimes. \nDon't worry so much he will be fine! Just do a lot of praying, that always helps! \nMaybe just maybe it's more that you will be lonely without him??? ;o) I feel for you!
977308
Oh that is a tough situation and I dont think you can make one decision that will fit everyone. I think it would depend on how far into the pregnancy you are, which would still be a tough decision to make. I don't have kids or particularly want them, but if I were pregnant and I was in the situation I personally would want to be kept alive long enough for my child to survive. Most sane normal women would want that. That is a personal decision however and the goverment should keep its nose out.
577506
I would sacrafice anything for her, anythign she needed, I would be there.  She is the person I respect the most, for her values, perseverance, and abbility to raise two children on her own while taking care of her father who is losing his mind.  She is much more of an asset to this world than many of us will ever be.
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If your having a baby you have just step into the grow-up world and let me tell you something that child needs both parents. \n\nThat baby did not ask to come into the world but this is happen, so therefore the responsibility is you both give that baby the best life possible no matter what people think.
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i think in some states if you are on the birth certificate as the father then you are the father. live in a commonwealth state chances are this is the case.\ni feel badly for the child he/she shouldn't be made to suffer the consequences of the mother. i hope he/she doesn't feel unwanted in any way.
853141
When I was still pregnant with my third son. There he was safe and alive. He was born and lived only minutes so I would say I wish I could relive being pregnant with him,even if forever.
496182
Uhh... I don't want a lover that died for me... so I guess the Parents who care.\n\nNow, having a lover that WOULD die for me... that is different - then I would choose that.  lol
483720
And yet both are stil life.\nWho has the right to decide who lives and who dies? YOU?
505638
The deciding factors on who gets child custody anywhere should always be who is the better parent. Who will make the child the number one priority. I don't believe it should necessarily always be the mother. Whoever the better parent and person it should have the kids. That's what's in the kids best interests.
682957
I did have to make that choice, either stay living with my boyfriend or come home to live with my parents that are in bad health and failing fast. I choice to be with my parents and can only hope now that I don't loose my boyfriend in the process of all this. So far so good as I have been here with my parents for over 2 months now, him and I are still going strong.I either go see him or he comes to see me and talk every day on the phone.
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why would anyone want an abortion you know you are actually killing a human being ok a human being its just like shooting someone i don't know how anybody can live with themselves if they kill someone i know someone who had an abortion many years ago and she said she has always regretted it just don't get an abortion there's a little thing called adoption just think about it there is some people out there who really really want a baby and are not able to conceive and yet someone would just kill theirs and give up one of Gods most precious miracles! i cant believe it just think about adoption who ever this answer is intended for!!\noh and also a womans right to choose nd its my life actually its not your live it is your babys life they have their own mind their own DNA its their choice and personally my choice would be not to die so just think adoption
798718
Here again It's my body and my choice. If my religion decrees that I don't have an abortion and I am a religious person then whom is anybody to tell me that I should have an abortion? As for the men they should have a voice in the subject matter when they can carry a baby for nine months. Then go into labor for it. \nYou know the worst that can happen to a man if the woman decides to have a baby and keep it is they have to support it for the next 18 years.\nWith the woman she has to make a moral decision rather or not to have the baby. IF she decides to have it and keep it. Then she has to raise it and support it too. Just cause daddy gives some money doesn't mean it's covering all the expense. \nSo until you can sac rife as much as a woman does then forgot having a voice.
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Equal Choice for fatherhood too?  \n\nWhat if the father wants the baby, but the mother doesn't?  Or if the mother wants it and the father doesn't.  Shouldn't it be a joint decision, to abort or support?\n\nAbortion is terrible, but it is also very complex\n\nYour thoughts?