How do you keep the man you married from cheating on you emotionally with someone who says is your friend?
99979
If your friend is a true friend she would encourage him to speak to you and not bring all his issues and problems to her.  This is exactly how cheating in every sense of the word starts, they are connecting in ways that will ultimately bring them closer and soon he will be telling her everything and anything.  I think as a friend it is her responsibility to encourage communication between the two of you and not be so willing to accomadate him when he needs to vent.  Why must she make herself available to him even if it is just to listen.  You should let him know that you don't appreciate it and how would he feel if you found a real sexy hunk of a man and confided in him instead of your husband?  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.\nNip this in the bud, before you lose your husband, if he is a keeper do what you need to and if he is a loser/dead beat then maybe she is doing you a favor listening to all his crap anyway.  Maybe he is a bore anyway. Just kidding
458071
how do u know this friend will not cheat on u ?\ndo u trust her as much as ur wife ?\nAnswer these questions then follow ur heart.\n\nbut my opinion talk to ur wife. she loves u and will do anything to make u happy.\nTrust Me!
105768
your in a hole different ball game now. your married they are not. this is when you find out who your real friends are. and you being married shouldn't have anything to do with them not hanging out with you any more. i will ask my good friend and get back to you
593357
Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
27742
You don't have a FRIENDSHIP to lose with him!?! He's a cheating ******* and using you too! He's MARRIED!!!! He doesn't just have a girlfriend, he has a WIFE! Someone that went to a church with him in front of all their family and REAL friends and said vows on loving each other and being faithful. He doesn't LOVE you! \n\nHow would you feel when you get married to the man of your dreams, and you think that it'll be forever. . . and you find out he's screwing some other girl and telling her he loves her. I bet you wouldn't like that other girl very much either. Well, that other girl is YOU!\n\nMy advice is to punch him in the face and tell him to kiss your ***.
190879
Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
165345
You will probably lose your friend.  That's the risk you take.  Why would you tell?  Because you want to prevent you friend from getting hurt?  His wife from getting hurt? The woman you like? Check your motives.  If it's so this woman will become interested in you instead of your friend, tell her your reason.  I doubt that your friend will forgive you, but the woman might respect your honesty.
692744
From your description of your man, i find that he is an idle man who calls you ten times in a day. He can be OK for your friend but not worthy of being your husband. He will not be able to support you as his wife. Forget about him , my dear child, find some other desrving person.for marriage. Your well wisher.
586335
IF he is getting married to someone else... that says it all.  DON'T continue to see him.\nWould your friend like to be married to someone who was in a relationship with someone else?  Then your friend shouldn't do the same to someone else.
479799
turn the question around, is is ok for a married man to keep an old girlfriend as a platonic friend.  answer honestly.  If it is not a problem for you or your loved one then more power to you.
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
1068917
I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
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On the one hand, it is perfectly normal to have a close friend you can turn to outside of a marriage just to talk about things from a different perspective.\n\nOn the other hand, when you are talking about more than friendship, if nothing else you should think about how your husband might feel if and when he finds out.  (How would *you* feel if you found out your husband was having an affair with an old friend, even someone you knew?)  The longer your affair goes on, the more likely it is he will find out, even if he is trusting enough not to be looking for it.\n\nIf what you really need is just a friend to talk to about things, someone you can just chill with occasionally, then by all means don't discard your old best friend -- but if that is what you really want, then stick to being friends.  If things are going further than friendship there then you need to ask yourself what it is that you really need besides another friendly face to talk to.... is it purely physical?  Is it emotional, the idea of extra attention?  \n\nIf something is lacking in your marriage, try talking to your husband about it.  Guys aren't real good about talking about emotions, but we are even worse at reading minds.  Your husband will be pretty slow to clue in that something's not right if you don't tell him.  --Besides, you might be surprised.  If the guy really loves you, chances are he will do his best to make you happy again.\n\nIf it isn't so much that you are feeling like anything is lacking in your marriage at all, but you just like having "something extra"... well.... how fair is that for your husband?  Being in a committed relationship means a certain amount of compromise and sacrifice -- you can't just go out and do anything you want regardless of your partner.  In a good relationship, though, the relationship itself is worth a lot more than what you have to give up.  \n\nIf your affair is worth more to you than your marriage, then maybe you should think things through a little more carefully.
258711
no, leave other peoples man alone there are plenty out there. and you don't want this one either because if he is doing this to his wife now, then u wont b the last. he is one big loser for cheating on his wife now.  and if you married this guy what kind of friend would u b called?? put yourself in the other person shoes, IT HURTS AND NOBODY SHOULD GO THRU THIS THAT WAS WRONG OF BOTH OF U. REAL FRIENDS DON'T TOUCH.
495007
yep, Married him,,,,we were friends for like 4 yrs we ve been married for 1 yr 4 months and to be honest it is the best thing I could have ever done, it is working just so great we don´t need to pretend anything we know each other like the palms of our hands we still can talk like good friends listen to each other ,,The secret of it i guess is to keep on being best friends many ppl forget their spouse should also be a friend to them and limit their relationships ...he knows my past I know his and we don´t use it against each other instead we use it to understand the fears that may still be a part of us..=)....Nope we didn´t really feel atracted at first I was *engaged* , he had a gf...time went by I had another bf...broke up ...and then I began noticing I had fallen for him I asked him about his feelings and I was lucky he felt the same way for me..
372954
be his friend even though you don't want him as he does you I know he will be your best friend if you let him know up front i cant have this relationship with you but I would love to have you in my life. Men are persistent but if you give them a boundary they will push on it but stay where they should. you can always use a friend.
995758
Keep your eyes wide open. Try to keep from becoming passionate about the relationship. This is difficult for most. Allow yourself the detachment of deep emotions. I found that this enables us to see the traits of a man, good or bad...We need to see them through our "friendship eyes" Think of it this way...what would a friend do? If he reacts like a friend repeatedly,then they begin to gain our respect and trust!! happy hunting....