how do i know i am being cheated in a relantionship?how do i am in love?
104551
I was cheated on by someone who I thought I was going to marry.  Trust me, there's no doubt.  You may deny it to yourself, but there's no doubt.  And given time, the other person will become more bold about it, so it will show more and more.  \nOn the other hand, this could be your inner self shouting this person is not right for me, and you're looking for a reason to get out.  If you've given it time and the other person's not becoming more brash about cheating, then maybe it is you and then it's time to just go.
121304
Don't rush to conclusions, because you might be breaking a really good relationship.  If you are 100% sure, there is still the question whether the offense is unforgivable that it is worth breaking a really good relationship.  Maybe you should help the significant other get his/her mind back by showing yourself and making sure that he/she knew that you witnessed something which can be interpreted as "cheating" or infidelity.
1044381
You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
524436
Listen to your heart and start looking for signs of cheating. I started to have the exact feeling about my ex from 9 years ago. The feeling was very strong and pretty positive. I confronted him, but he just laughed about it. Later he sort of let the cat out of the bag by telling me he was going to hang out with other women and that I should hang out with other men. \nHe wouldn't let me answer the phone, he would get mail from people in the area and hide it, I would come home and find jackets at the house that were not mine, if we went anywhere he would have me drive by the neighborhood floozy's house to see if she was home and things like that. Another thing is, he would sneak out in the middle of the night and think that I didn't know anything about it and one night I was home and this strange car pulled up, I opened the house door and they left in a hurry. \n\nIf he stays out late at night, if is on the internet a lot, if he doesn't let you answer the phone, if he prefers to go out by himself on a frequent basis. Those are some of the red flags. Listen to your heart and be on a look out!
699981
you need to ask yourself, "who is really one up?"\nis it him for cheating, or you for being the mature one at the time and forgiving him?\n\nThink of it in a different way.  I'm sure you'll see who is really "one-up"
115447
It is human nature not to trust someone that has hurt you that bad.   It is hard to work through that pain,  You will never trust each other like you did before.  Realize that and accept the fact you both have cheated.\n\nNow you need to move beyond it.  Forget trust, and stop worrying.  Concentrate on the reasons that you both want to stay together.  Rebuild your relationship on thse reasons.  If it's for the kids, make the kids the center of your life.  If it's because you still love each other, concentrate on that.  \n\nNow go to counselling.
315357
Ask him. Point blank, out of the blue, look him straight in the eye and say: "Are you cheating on me?" His reaction will tell you exactly what is going on.
945260
i think you need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. ASk him if he is happy with you or tired of you. don't want to scare you but from experience, sounds like he is cheating on you.   Good luck and God bless
542972
It's difficult to trust again after being emotionally betrayed by someone you truly love. Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel. Ask yourself questions like: Do you still love him? Are you capable of ever being happy with the current relationship you share? Are you emotionally prepared to remain attached to your lover even after knowing he's been with another woman? If the answer to these questions are "no", you should probably say goodbye. On the other hand, if you care for your mate and really want to hold on to your union, try taking a few days away from him. Stay with a friend, a family member or take a mini vacation to somewhere that's peaceful enough to allow you to examine the situation clearly.\n\nIt's important to note that 4 months may be too short a time to make possibly permanent decisions about breaking up. At this point the wounds are still likely to be sore. Wait a while longer if you feel he's genuinely remorseful and you truly want to give the relationship another chance. If you find it difficult to do this, however, and don't see him committing wholly to the relationship, don't punish yourself...let him go.\n\nGood luck.
603359
if you are in love or not but made a committment stick to it.  I would not cheat.  i might get a proposal and if I do then I dont want to have to break the news that I have been unfaithful.  Stick to what you decide.
434285
You don't correct a wrong with a wrong!\n\nYou are saying that you 'think' that your  boyfriend is cheating! So you have no hard evidence that he is. Supposing that he isn't and you go out there and take vengeance, what would that make you? You will be the one who is cheating on him.\n\nTalk to him and tell him your fears. If you both want this relationship to move on you will work it out.\n\nIf you have solid proof that he is, be dignified and confront him. Be rational and not a drama queen! \n\nTalk it over. If you can not continue with him after that, break it up with a Coupe de Grace! \n\nIf you are willing to forgive him and give him another chance, be it but make sure he knows that you are really hurt and that because you love him you are willing to give him another chance providing that it is a final chance.\n\nGood Luck!
281110
Well i will tell you what i am in a similar situation and we are trying to rebuild the trust but if he is gonna do it again then there is nothing you can do to stop it so you should try not to worry too much and you just love that person as much as you can. I know it is easier said then done cause i am really haveing a hard time as well.
442649
I have been in a relationship for 2.5 years, the same things happen you stop doing things, going places, that really doesn't have anything to do with love, we get into patterns and we get used to things and we don't spice things up any more. I believe that you know when you are going to spend the rest of your life with him, if you just cant get enough of him, you love everything about him, and no one else interest you for very long other than him. There are ways to tell if he is cheating just because I have had my suspicions and i have a great best friend who happens to male. 1) Doesn't spend a lot time with you, when he does he really doesn't want anything to do with you or to be around you. 2) Has a sudden interest in someone, with them all the time 3) Buys new clothes, has a sudden interest in their own appearance. 4) Always answers the phone, leaves room for conversations
446930
Well i will like to ask \n1)if he is a cheat? \n2)Does he steal? \n3)His he faithful to you? \n4)Does he keep to his promises? \n5)Does he fight you or get mad at you easily? \nwell if these answers are yes, then it worth you being worried. All you have to do is to kick his fucking ass hole out of your life and get on with your life. A lady with a nice heart like you, deserves being love and cherish by a nice man.
306204
Sorry but you don't cheap on anyone that you supposedly love.  Spare him the heartache again if he knows that you cheated.  Put yourself in his shoes, cuz I know you wouldn't like it if he cheated on you.  Move on.....
442736
Well if you really love him. And yall are in a strong realatationship, you first of all shouldnt even be asking this question. But if yall are in love and you feel its important to be open and honest about things, then ask him. Dont drive yourself crazii wondering. And dont follow him around or spy on him. Just say what youre feeling... and if he is, then its time to move on. And if he's not, then just use the excuse that you knew he wasnt, youre just scared to loose the one you love :)  it always works ;) good luck
1071168
why do you think you are being cheated