Is it wrong to feel like he only wants it when he's drunk?
105783
sure sounds like a drinking problem's probably the 'real' problem. He sounds inhibited, and the drinking at least for a time lowers his fears, nervousness, insecurity, inhibition, guilt or whatever levels ... addictive behavior...do you honestly believe that your honest feelings are at fault? Sounds difficult, complicated...and, perhaps, getting worse. Whether he's having 'commitment phobias' or just expecting you to do as he says, or whatever he's perhaps not discussing, he sounds 'out of control', but he wants to 'be in charge'...something in him might be feeling ashamed, low self-esteem/image, and, he's demanding that you follow his routine, with implied not much room for spontaneity, let alone you feeling love(-d), safe (at peace, unperturbed) and valued -- but, how can he value you, if he's troubled about who he is -- or, why else drink/escape, and then try to use sex with such timing, like drunk clockwork. It sounds like your feelings are good, clear, trying to communicate...your feelings are innocent, your true companions/guides...BEST WISHES...in finding (out) your way(-s)
388089
Sounds like he's way jealous that you're not a fat drugged out alcoholic.  I really wouldn't suggest stooping to his level to insult him, you sound like you're better than that. He's just bitter and insecure.
221267
It's not wrong at all if he makes you feel good while the two of you are together.  But you have to think realistically about the long term thing.  He's still very young so he may see things differently then you do.  Just enjoy the time that you do have.  That's all you can ask for.
573021
No, it is unacceptable, if he did it once and you did not react, he will feel free to do it as many time as he would want or be drunk
399500
I would say those are natural feelings.  We all need fulfillment to some degree, and from what you descirbed, I wouldn't say that it sounds like you're thinking about enging in any type of experimentation that would be more harmful physically or emotionally.  Unlike other types of fantasies, since you had a previous relationship with him, you have more of a frame of reference to work from.  In time you may meet someone else, and these feelings might shift accordingly as you move on from him.  For now, it shouldn't pose any significant problems.
119423
It's not wrong. It's all about how you feel for your relationship. If you feel it's not going for you then it aint mistakening you for wanting a better relationship. If you feel something for your relationship but you chat to someone else online, then you're in denyal. Besides, look on the bright side. You know there's a good side. Always remember that each situation has two sides so follow the bright one than the negetive. Look for what makes you happy. G'luck
497662
It's natural to feel jealous in a case like you described.....\n\nThink about the reason(s) you refused him in the first place. In time you'll get over it.\n\nBut it sounds like the guy is just looking to have himself a quick meal.....if U know what I mean.
342957
Do yourself a favor. DO NOT DRINK THIS WEEK-END. Go no further than kissing him. Keep ALL your clothing on. It's key you show him that you normally have boundaries and that he needs to respect those boundaries. That way he won't get the wrong idea and think you do it--the first time every time and that if he really wants you he's gonna have to put a little effort into it.
1009627
not not at all. My boyfriend tells me not to get drunk with out him there, its not a bad thing it just means that  you care about her and don't want anything to happen to her. You're not controlling you just love so much that you want what is best for her.
1029645
Not abnormal, unless we are both messed up. You are not SUPPOSED to like anything...It's all in what you prefer. Just let him know where it does feel good, so he will tend to do that more...Tell him "TO LEAVE THE NIPPIES ALONE" I already told my man...he's okay with it. I'm okay with, we are all good'
981429
You already see him for who he is....regardless of wether or not you have somebody else. Just like a recovering alchoholic has to avoid alchohol at all costs, you need to avoid this person. He's just not good for your self esteem or emotional health. Treat him as the unhealthy addiction he is.
531918
dear,\ni have been(in a way I'm still) for 5 years with a man who had, more or less, the same problem.I told me that he cannot be happy if he was going out and not drinking . So...when we were out with a group of friends, after a while the alcohol was more important than me.\nI don't remember how many times I left a place alone, leaving him there already drunk.\nThe point is: do u deserve this?\nNo darling, u deserve much more than a stupid man who cannot be happy without his drinking!find a man who is there for you!
748976
Yes, it is normal.  What you choose to do with those feelings is the real question!!
481019
Maybe she still wants to be with him but maybe she just really enjoyed his company when they were together. People like to feel wanted perhaps she doesn't want to do anything with him she just wants to remember what their time was like and feel good. \nBut if it's making you feel unwanted you have to tell her it's not fair if it's making you feel bad. She has you does she really want to jeopardize that?
1056321
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!
733503
wow he is controlling. I do understand why he dont want you to drink and go out with out him cause alcohol tends to make you do silly stupid crazy things (been there done that) But my god you said you were sorry you are not his kid he either needs to grow up and give you a little freedom or you need to find a new man cause it wont get any better it will only get worse pretty soon you wont even be able to walk down the street and look at another guy without you being acused of sleeping with them. Yeah i would end it if i were you. Do it while your gone on vacation so you will have time to get over it.
667363
Are you sure you don't just want him to be your boyfriend so your not alone. If you loved him so much you would have never cheated and the drunk thing is just a cop out... trust me I've used it several times. Do yourself and him some good and just be single!!See what life is like when you don't feel guilty for being a flirt and you owe no explaination to anyone but yourself.