My sister will not talk to me. How can I find her to tell her a family member has died? And should I feel bad?
108600
If no one else in your family knows her where abouts, I would start by trying to find a friend of hers who may very well know how to reah her. Do you know where she works? And you may also want to check the white pages on the internet.
162248
search in members.yahoo.com with ur family names and loacte ur family members in them\nif not found make a call and ask them.\ndont worry
786065
when my dad passes away the best thing that comforted me was just having someone to talk to who didnt say "how are you feeling" or "are you ok"...they knew i wasnt ok i had just lost my dad. tell your friend you are sorry about her dad and let your friend know you are there for them and then actually be there for them when they need you...
60767
Losing a close relative takes considerable time for the person to grieve and heal. Make sure she knows that you're there for her if she would like to talk, and call her or visit every so often ( twice a week sounds good ), just so she knows you're still her friend. Practice being a good listener, and never, ever tell her to "snap out of it." People grieve and heal at their own rates and cannot rush the process.
38743
my dear my heart goes out to you and your family, i know exactly well no i cant say i kn ow how u feel we all grieve in our own ways, visit my website a page i dedicated to my mother in the sources below, maybe this will help? i dont know, but its been 5 years this year since my mother has passed im am 28, your heart will mend in time, ask God to help you through your tough times, its not gonna be easy but he will be there for you when you are down I PROMISE IF U DO SEE MY WEBSITE PLEASE SIGN GUESTBOOK, AGAIN MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU AND UR FAMILY WELL IM TRYIN TO PUT MY HOMEPAGE BUT IF U WANT TO KNOW IT JUST PM ME ON YAHOO WITH THIS PROFILE NAME OK THANKS
523286
This will bring some tears, thanks for the blessings , but of course when your lose someone you know has known you all your life and has loved you for all you done good and forgave or protected you as you didn't do the right thing at times.One of my sister is a drunk since our mom passed away , another calls and cries every mothers day and on what was our mom's birthday . One calls me and we will laugh at the times we had with our mom. I just take one call at a time and silently say Ilove you to her and say I miss you ! But painful yes, I remember all the pain she had with cancer and welcomed her death as she had . She said Dealth is something we all will face ,but she sure was going to miss all of you and I love you.She died years ago yet the pain is as it happened today . She was my freind as well as a great women and wonderful mom .She'll aways be loved and missed .
673951
I suggest biding your time. A little jealousy never hurt anyone. I say you sit ack and enjoy not being watched so much. \n\nEnjoy, what some would call, freedom :p\n\nYour sister has strugled to get to this graduation and so your family are being very supportive. After all, its guna hit her hard IF she DOES fail.\n\nAfter toorrow things should start to simmer down.\n\nSo if she passes tomorrow, wish her the heartiest congratulations and enjoy her day.\n\nAfter about a week, it'll be forgotten :)
126581
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. \nI think you need to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Don't rush yourself through the grieving process. Allow yourself to cry if that's what you need to do. You said you and your sister were really close. Six months ago is still pretty fresh. Have you tried talking with others?  Having a support network can be helpful. Also, it can be helpful to read books on the grieving process. You are in my prayers during this difficult time.
1007234
well,. you could always make a quick account on some random site and email her from that.\nbut the main point is- find some way to contact her ( maybe through a friend, by phone, by letter) and explain it to her.\ndon't let it evolve into a family problem, because nothing good will come of it.
163496
I have the same problem with a sister who also phisicly hurts me. You could get revenge or try to ignore her (good luck with that) I really wish I knew.
588007
What could someone do that is so bad that her mother refuses to speak to her. What if your daughter dies in a wreck tomorrow. Are you okay with standing over her grave knowing she met her death with things like this between you? \nLife is short and tomorrow isn't promised to anyone.
839793
My dad just died on 11-02-06. He was 91. My mother has said that no one can decorate or celebrate the holidays this year. Honestly, the house is home 24/7 with nothing to do so the holidays is a diversion that can be used to entertain friends but mom says that she doesnt want to tell people that dad died because then they might come over to see her. If they do, she is directing them to her sister's house because she feels that no one came to see her and dad while he was alive.\nThe one family that she called when he died and who attended his funeral in her absence, sent food for us which my sister immediately put in the freezer for "happier times". Then they called to invite us to Thanksgiving Dinner at their house, which my mother refused. The people then told mom not to send any gifts and they would do the same in honor of her husband. It is mom's birthday today and two days before Thanksgiving, and mom has been on the phone and internet with my sister ordering gifts for these people for the holidays.\nMom was told today by a animal shelter that they will be naming the next homeless pet they save after dad.
488859
she may be controlling but she is your sister and when she is gone you will miss her because she wont be there to talk to (boss you around LoL joke) spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves trust me i had a friend i was not close to before he left to go to Iraq and he has left and i feel bad that i didn't get to spend much time with him before he left hopes this helps
202749
just be frank with ur sister tell her what u feel about that incident and what u reacted , and what u did is becoz u love your sister , and u cant see her in pain , so just go and explain , even if she doent listen , utell her , express everything , through anyway , message , letter ....
733977
Sorry to hear it, you should try and find a way to tell your mother, it won't be east but she needs to know. You could try contacting a bereavement counselling service such as cruse or a similar organisation.\nA great site for finding people is B4USEARCH.COM you just put in the full name or even just the surname and the town or city and it shows you all the details you need, it's great for finding lost friends and relatives. Click the link. http://www.b4usearch.com/
322162
Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
1178008
i don't consider her a friend if she is talking trash about one of your relatives. Dump the "friend" of yours and don't read her emails or reply back to them. Eventually she'll get that you don't like what she is saying about your family. I have done that, and i could care less if I lost her because I knew in my heart she was no true friend.