iam in love with a cop, he says he loves me, has watched me and wanted me for 15 years. is this true reacon???
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Wow!  He hid that from you for so long... were you married or did he just never have the opportunity to pursue you during that time?  Were you two friends during this time?\n\nAssuming you two were at least somewhat friends, that's awesome.  Sounds like he's pretty honorable to not interfere during that time for whatever reason, and has had you in his heart.  The only bad thing is that he's a cop and so there's added stress in that occupation which is why they have such a high divorce rate.  But this guy seems to really want you, and he'd probably move heaven and earth to keep you two together.
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once you're legal, seven years doesn't make a difference.  i know EXACTLY how you feel, but i had to think about my situation too... what you have to think about is this: he was already married (that's HUGE!)... this means that he loved a woman... he slept next to her for "X" years, he knows what love is.  He has SO MUCH MORE experience in EVERYTHING than you do.  That's the only turn-off.\n\nThink about it.
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it is okay to love someone for that long.. but if they dont pay attention to you, dont pass up other realtionships that could turn out to be good just for him. best of luck and i hope it works out for you =)
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I'm still single because most men can't accept that I work with cops.  Even guys that I don't date, but work with and want to date me, get jealous if I talk to other guys or if I do happen to get a date.  Men can be a little ridiculous.  \nI'm thinking of dating from a different department.  Maybe one of the big cities around me, who knows.  Not in a big hurry about it... .\nDated a guy I worked with once, he wasn't an officer and always felt threatened.  I will never get my money and honey from the same jar again!  So if you do date a cop, make sure he doesn't work with you!
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Hey,\nMy ambition in life is to become a Police Officer! It has been same for the past 8 years. (I'm 16) It used to be the whole gun and power dilemma. As the years past by, I started to respect Police Officers for who they are. Their presence makes me bulletproof...\n\n I was in my first car accident months ago. I met my Hero, who is a Paramedic. He told me “It’s all right you still have a pretty face.” Then he was gone. Just like that, before I could say 'Thank-you'. He left me enough courage and strength to last me the rest of my life. I'll always be thank-full for his presence, which I was blessed with, despite the stitches of my forehead. He told me his first name and with only that I'm a struggling teenager on the search for my Hero for the past 5 months. Just to say thanks and let him know he's my Hero. His brilliant sparkling eyes, warm sweet smile as he held my face his hands covering my face, I can never forget. His words are still fresh in my mind. Just a Thank-you I need to say. \nI've learnt a lot. I think I found myself; I met people I never dared to talk to (Police Officers, Firefighters) b/c they make my knees feel weak and my heart drop low. I've admired them since age 8, and now they tell me they’re proud of me. Wow! My Hero has changed me, he's opened locked doors for me in my life, and so he was my key. I don't know what I'll say if I find him, I'm speechless, I think I'll hug him tight and tell him I can trust him with my life... \nI want to be a good daughter, sister, friend and stranger. \nI have so many problems in life to clear yet my world remains beautiful through my eyes. There's so much more to see, pros and cons - it's life. It's not going to change for me, so I'm going to change it. I just want to be someone who can help... Thanks!\n\nWarm Regards! \nHidden4eternity
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at least have some self respect and move on...you are just obsessed...what ever you think of him is all in your imagination and it's not real!! there's no mercy in love.....
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Well, how long you've been in the relationship has a big factor in telling if he loves you. Also, go on our feelings, but don't let them take over. I myself have an extremely active imagination...\n\nBut sweetie, you also have to trust him. If he hasn't done anything in the past to betray your trust, that you know of anyway, then chances are he won't and is a genuinely good guy. And also, does he tell you he loves you a lot? Is he affectionate to you? How much time do you spend together, etc. If he rarely sees you, it would make a little more sense if you get a little worried, not that it has to mean anything. Just talk to him. If he does really love you, and respect you and your feelings, tell him you love him so much you don't want to be hurt by him, and want to really know his feelings for you. If he really loves you you will know it. Just don't ask him too many times because if he is true in his intentions, it will upset him to be questioned so much. Good luck!
866543
You must listen to your heart.  Are you really in love with this man or just adoring his mature ways?  Good Luck.
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Go for it... You only live once... and the best of it... You never know he might be eyeing you too. :) Good luck!
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he is a confused person and he want to confuse you, you are a paralegal for God sak, go hit on a lawer who will respect you. \nI never heard of somebody who loves someone but aint  in love with them.\nUr wasting time.
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She sounds really confused lol, but no seriously by what you've written it's clear that she likes you and she's just afraid for you if you become a cop.  A lot can happen to a guy or gal in that kind of job and she's probably afraid that if you guys start going out and you get hurt on the job it'll hurt her too much..but i'm sure that if you told her how you really feel and that she shouldn't be so worried you guys will have a chance :D Good luck!
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Okay, so basically, what you're saying is, as of right now, you're 15 and he's 24? While it may seem thrilling and exciting at such a young age to have an older man interested in you, or to have anyone romantically interested in you since at your age you've probably not had many relationships, there are a few things you might want to think about:\n\nThis man, and i stress the word MAN has lived a lot more than you, even though numerically it's "only" 9 years difference, he's reached a lot more milestones than you. Chances are he's graduated high school, had some secondary schooling such as college or university, could have been in the armed forces, and he's probably already had his first love and a few relationships since. Now you, as a 15 year old girl, still have the rest of high school ahead of you, college, etc. It seems a bit disturbing to be that a 24 year old man would pursue something with someone so young.\n\nI know boys your age may seem immature, unromantic, and this guy may seem older, and wiser, and mysterious, but the difference here is still something i think you should think about, seriously.  \n\nWhatever you decide, i hope it works out for the best.
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May be he is observing u, and wants to see if u change at least now .U will have to change if u want him back, and stop playing such fools cause its not a movie its ur real life. If he truly loves u , be assured he is urs and will not go anywhere else, but u have to take the first step towards him.Because u r the reason for this mess
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Honey, you should stay away from this person.  He has already been in and out of jail.  He is a repeat offender and that should mean something to you.  You have your own problems, getting with him will only give you MORE problems.  There are plenty of guys out there who do not have troubled pasts or futures for that matter, get one of those.  The fact that "he always ends up saying my life is too messed up to be with anyone right now", is a brush off and you know it.  He's not interested.  Stop chasing him only because you can't have him and stay away from the bad boys.  I know they seem dangerous and exciting and they are but; BAD BOYS = BAD RELATIONSHIP = BAD LIFE.  Set the bar higher and have some respect for yourself.
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Okay, you've got some good advice here and some useless advice.  I'll offer mine in addition and see what happens.\n\nI'm confused: a woman has been stalking you, but a man was taking pics of the inside of your apartment...??\n\nBut you're asking for advice:\n\nMove.  Seriously.  If you really believe that your life is in danger, move.  Now.  People take the position that "I'm not being pushed out of here by these crazy people" and then live months or years, constantly looking over their shoulders.  I guess you can if you want, but if moving solves the problem, do it.  I know that's not a good answer for a lot of people...but if we are talking about your life, what's more important?\n\nSounds like your last contact with the police was on the 8th, right?  Don't wait for them to call you and let you know what's going on...call them, and ask what's going on.  Have there been any arrests?  What's the status of the investigation?  Can they offer you a temporary or emergency protective order?  Who is the officer or detective handling the case?  When can you speak with them?  What do they recommend you do, based on their investigation?  Where can you go to seek some legal advice or representation?  \n\nI don't know that I'd be so quick to get to the media as some have suggested.  I would certainly make every effort to work within the police department and seek your results through them, rather than possibly embarrass them or yourself in the media.  \n\nIt's late and I'm beat....but I'd be happy to help you sort some more of this out if you'd like.  You can email me at my user name at yahoo.com.  Really need to know what state you're in, though.
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I believe that with time if someone loves you they will want to spend their life with you. It would be according to how he feels toward you and only you know that. Talk with him and ask him what he sees in the future for you and him...K
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Um.... yes, i think thats why ur name is crazy chic. That is insane. You may feel like you love him but you dont. trust me. He's 30 so he knows all the best things to say to you that you might think are sweet and thoughtful...well, hes had 30 years of experience. you may think he loves you and all but a 30 year old man wants nothing from a 17 year old girl except sex...even if you havent had sex yet, you will because he'll pressure you to. He's 30 for god's sake. he's old enough to be your father!!! trust me please, i have been in a situation like this before, i am also 17 and was dating a 27 year old guy. Dont let this man hurt you like i let mine.