my husband demands privacy is he hidding something from me? he wont give me his voice mail password im i grong
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I totally agree with nintecnoentertainmentsystem's answer.\n\nIt all has to do with trust. Obviously you dont trust your husband for one reason or another. If he wanted to ensure you that he is not hiding anything then you would be willing to give you his password.\n\nIm not saying you should check his voicemail every second, but you should have access to it, if you feel the need to 'check' on him.\n\nWhen a partner is not open in sharing and being open, the possiblity of hiding something is very high.\n\nI have been through something similar and I was right no to trust my partner.\n\nTrust your instincts, they were given to you for a reason.\n\nBest of Luck!
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Out of courtesy, yes.  Just because you are his wife does not give you the right to look into all his personal things, unless he himself tells you it is ok.  I am married, and I open my husband's mail, and can look at anything I want to because he has told me I can look at anything he has.  Your husband may be different. As his wife, you should know how private a person he is. If you are not sure-ASK. Would you appreciate his going thru your purse without asking?
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tell him that u need privacy
892020
he must be a real loser. you need to dump him and get someone who isnt so nosy. he probably goes through youre dresser drawers also.
41689
Well if you are even having suspicions then that is usually a sign,don't flat out ask him maybe write him a letter and leave it when he is not expecting it and see what happens that way if he is then he doesn't have to feel like you put him on the spot and he can deal with this confrontation in private!
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is this guy someone u have contact with?  If yes u can install a keylogger on your comp and get him to use ure computer, this will get u his password, and u can use that check his e-mail and online activities, ect.  Contact me for more info.
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Well first of all, install some spyware on his computer, and have it email you updates on what he writing in his emails, the updates come directly to YOUR email. Next, if all of a sudden he becomes "unavailable" on his cell phone, stops coming over, or becomes distant, it's a good sign. Look through his underware drawer and see if he has under garments he doesn't wear for you. Also, check his car "thoroughly", guy's tend to think their cars are a vault and nobody will find things there, especially where the spare tire is stored. And yes, the sniff test is ALWAYS a good way to tell!
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i think, regardless you are in his contact list or not, if he doesn't use option "only accept IM from contact list", he'll see the message, unless he hast login for sometime. no way you can know if you are in his contact list or not.  call him up and ask him?
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The only way to access the account is by having the password. There are some keyloggers (software that store everything an user types into a computer) but I won't talk about them.\n\nI guess I can't tell you what is the best option for you, but I know for a thing that trust is something you earn over time. As far as I know, accessing someone's account without permission or knowledge is not something that generates trust.\n\nSure, you can always think "he/she won't let me access his/her account, so he/she MUST BE HIDING SOMETHING!". Well, I belive that is not always the case. I believe that things like privacy and "personal space" are extremely important in a relationship. So, if you do things like accessing one's account without knowledge, you might risk the future of the relationship.\n\nIf you really need peace of mind, talk to your fiance. Open your mind, be honest and talk about your worries (that you are worried that he is cheating on you). Also, talk to your and his friends. You might be surprised by the results.
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try the 'forgot password' option, if u know the answer to his personal questions u'll be able to crack it
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I would be very worried if I was you.  Something in your relationship has changed whether you know it or not.  A husband should be willing to share all he has equally with his wife.  You might need to consult a lawyer to find out how to protect yourself and get what you were promised.
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For me, it would depend on how long we had already been together, and how we were currently doing. For example, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we still haven't exchanged passwords to email. \n\nIf you are married, then I don't see why you wouldn't give them your password, especially if you didn't have anything to hide.
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That is crap. If he need to hide it something is SOOOOO wrong. My boyfriend would "magically" need to go get a soda or need to get gas out of no where. I'm talking 10 o'clock at night, or 1st thing in the morning. The funniest was when he would "need a newspaper" but he doesn't read the newspaper. It would take him an hour to do what should take 20 min. we live in a apartment and the dumpster is about 8-10 yards form the back door.When he took the garbage out he felt the need to put it in the truck and drive it around the complex where the dumpster sits in a parking lot. Took him a good 15 min. So a lot of times she(his ex wife) would call him as soon as he walked back in as to say she forgot something. Sometimes I would here him say, OH, I JUST CALLED TO CHECK ON THE KIDS, so I know he had tried to call. I would ask him about it and why he felt the need to leave to call for that and he would say it just happened that way. B/S. Every time he was there and she called, he magically could get no reception on his cell phone. Even if he had just talked to someone else 5 min before with no problem. I got nosey and checked his phone once, and it turned out he was calling her and she was calling him several times a day, for 15 and 20 min conversations(or longer) at a time. When I confronted him, (not only was he pissed) but he claimed he was only "checking on the kids". In that case he was checking on them while they were in school and sleeping etc. By the way, his kids were 11 and 14. Long story short, he is a raving idiot who wants to be with her but can't so he keeps me for comfort. And yes, he slept with her on a regular basis. HE TOLD ME THE SAME THING, THAT HE WANTS ME NOT HER. And he left me to get back with her and came crawling back a week later. But the same crap kept happening so i kicked him out and he tried to get back with her again, but it did not work. PLEASE dont be stuipd like me. i have wasted almost 2 years with this crap. Learn from my mistakes.
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This doesn't specifically answer your question, but if you want some privacy and don't want your husband to read your emails from your pc, then change your details as follows:\n\nMake sure these are NOT enabled (when logging in):\n\nHotmail (web): "Save my email address and password"\nMessenger: "Remember my password"\n\nThe downside is that it adds an extra task in logging in (i.e. you have to use your password each time).\n\nChange your current password - He may already know it.\n\nIf you have a shortcut to hotmail and it automatically logs you in to your mail (bypassing the password), then log out of hotmail (and messenger) to get to the home page and you will be able to change the settings there.\n\nIf you access email via an email client (e.g. Outlook), then there's not a lot you can do to prevent him reading your emails, unless you change it in the mail client's setting to be prompted for your password each time you ask to receive new mail.\n.\nIf your husband notices this, then he may think you've got something to hide, so be prepared for a period of frostiness!\n\nGood luck.
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Have a conversation with him instead. It's important he knows that you respect his privacy. If he found out you were "spying" on him, than all trust would be broken and he will work that much harder to keep things from you.\n\nTalk with him about these kinds of things. Make sure he understands how you feel and WHY you feel that way. Your hope for him is to have the same morals as you and your job for a parent is to guide him that way. In the end, the choice is his.
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Before you do anything else, change your password.\n\nCreate another email account in excite or hotmail.  Test these accounts by sending mail bothways between them and the compromised account.  \n\nDrop your boyfriend.  If you have to go this far, it dosent really matter what he is or is not doing.  You dont have trust and therefore dont have a relationship worth keeping (I hope that isnt to harsh).  If he is spying, all the more reason.
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Privacy does not go out the door when you become a partner with another person.  (Although I question how you two became fiances to each other and are just now running into this problem...)  You should not have asked him for his password; he is entitled to his privacy - that is where trust comes into play.  If you don't trust him, then you have no reason to be engaged to him.  And if you do trust him, then you have no need for his password.   \n\nI am not surprised that he didn't apologize.  He had nothing for which to apologize.  I am not surprised he didn't send your little "good morning" greeting --- not only is that a trival "courting" gesture that should simply pass as you two evolve into a deeper relationship, but if he HAD sent it after you had stomped off because he denied you something to which you had no right, it would have been a meaningless gesture.  (You want meaningless gestures in your relationship ?)  \n\nThe person rude and insensitve was you.  Insensitive because you thought nothing about attempting to invade his privacy and rude because you stormed off in a huff because he refused you that access. \n\nIf you have reason not to trust him, then you need to deal with the genesis of those reasons - directly, calmly, honestly, openly and be willing to accept the good, bad and ugly of human relationships.  That kind of maturity makes a relationship (not stomping off because you don't get what you want.)  If you are the one who is insecure without real reason (other than the spectre of the green-eyed monster), then you need to adddress that.\n\nThis incident is not the problem, only a symptom of something else the two of you need to work on.