how do i cope with atrouble maker who refuses advice in my place of work?
111605
You cope by separating yourself from the trouble maker, otherwise you run the risk of being classified as a trouble maker by management.
813094
Report him to the corporate office.  If he owns the business, then no you can't really do much of anything.  Just spread the word that he's awful to the employees and don't support his business.  Maybe he'll shut down.
439201
I can imagine how complicate it is to have such a person in your environment. Sometime it could be a member of your family, your spouse, and then it is much more complicate. \n\nIf you have such a person in your workplace, just remember one important thing; DO NOT feel sorry. \n\nHe/she is not so poor and weak and self-victimizing persons survive in this world very well. They use their "victim position" to manipulate with people, to emotionally and morally blackmail them, what is very exhausting. People in their surrounding usually feel confused, guilty, exhausted. They feel like they cannot help them, cannot do or say the right thing...\n\nDon't let him/her drag you in his/her vicious circle. If you find yourself feel sorry or sad, stop it. Don't empathize and don't try to help or offer the solution. Try to concentrate on your work and let her know it from the very beginning of your working day. If she starts to talk about problems, listen to her politely to some extend, then show her that you "accept" and "understand" what she told you and then either change the subject or tell her that now you have to concentrate on your duties. You can eventually tell her that she is the one who has to resolve her problems and that you cannot help her, but don't let yourself be a part of her problems. And don't be surprised if she reacts on it as if you are not empathic enough, you don't understand her or something like that. This is a usual strategy to make you feel guilty, because SOMEBODY HAS TO BE GUILTY, for her. Stay out and remember that it is not easy. If nothing helps, talk with your superior to eventually move you to another office.\n\nadditional details:\nYou obviously know him very well. You said that those persons are like chameleons and are very good in that. That is exactly the characteristic of manipulator. Don't blame yourself for feeling sorry and offer a support. It is normal human reaction and every normal person would do that. But if you feel permanently guilty and exhausted in communication with him, stop it. YOUR guilty feelings and exhausting are sure signs that you have a problem with manipulator. NOBODY HAS A RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THAT.
233247
Tell your boss. She is being irresponsible.  You are being taken advantage of, you need to stand up for yourself.
550285
Talk to the friend.  Ask him what is going on with him, and let hm know that you have observed a change.  Maybe he is under some severe personal stress, or dealing with depression or some other mood altering condition.  Depending on the response that you get, you may either find a way to work out the solution with the cranky friend, or go to management to seek a solution.  \n\nNo matter what the friend says or does, make certain that your behavior is professional.  If you do decide after trying to work out the problem with both the friend and the management, that you will no longer choose to work there, then give proper notice, do your work, get a good reference and go find another job, preferably while you are still working.
934010
i think i would consult the manager (as a manger of a store) when there is conflict between employees it really hurts the business, it may not be noticeable now but it will hurt the business.  this is what i would do, go to the manager, tell him/her what this person is doing tranlate what she wrote, and tell him i am her to work and not be playing games with people, and that i am afraid of her actions toward me and the may result in customer loss (if what shes doing this stuff in front of the customers........good luck and hope it all works out for you
786488
The first thing to do is to remain calm yourself. Let them know that you hear what they are saying and really listen to their complaints. Ask them to please speak slowly and try to relax so that you can help them to resolve whatever issue may be causing them distress. You must never argue or show negative emotions of any kind. Let them know you appreciate their business and you will do whatever you can to help make their visit as pleasant as possible but unfortunately some things are not within your control. Also, try to get the assistance of a level-headed co-worker or supervisor.\n\nI hope this helps.
42695
The best advice I can give is to stay out of it. But if you insist on getting involved then I would have to say approach it in a way where you do not choose sides. \n\nTo give really good advice one would have to know if your supervisor is an opn person whom is willing to hear opinions even if she/he does not share them. \n\nOne thing to remember is supervisors are human and are wrong just like those under them. You have all the right in the world to bring their bickering to light if it is creating a hostile or unmanagable workplace environment. \n\nWhen a supervisor does something wrong it is okay to take it over there head after approaching them with the problem. Biggest no-no is to defy their direction. They are still the supervisor and make sure you dont put yourself in a position for insobordination.
21757
Ditch him once when he has to make an important presentation to his boss. I have a similar situation in office..there's a guy who steals what I do and presents the same to the top management. Once when I was doing some research he asked enquiring I explained in the same style and taught him a few wrong concepts. He made a presentation and I was also part of it. I asked him a few queries and he looked like a fool in front of the crowd. \nOther was to do it is mark a bcc to the top management
1006763
You sound like a control freak.....Leave the man alone and be happy he is working.....GEEEEESH!!! Who do you think you are  telling someone where he should or should not work.  Get a life, honey!
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
564036
Set the mf up.  Make up something outrageous and when your boss asks you about it just laugh it off.  Keep doing that and he/she will either stop or get fired.
997764
There are so many of us who eventually have to face this situation. You can not change other people or control how they act BUT you have all the power in the world to control how YOU act. Be professional and cordial because this will only work towards your benefit. This is your job. Don't let anyone ruin that for you. It may be difficult but you'll be a lot less irritated if you keep a reasonable distance and maintain short , professional interactions. And exhale afterwards and let it go. Don't hang on to the irritation after you're gone home. Leave the bad feelings behind. It will make going to work so much easier.
41713
Try communication with him/her, if that doesn't work then get another job.  This may help him/her or they may not care and go through workers like underwear.
787724
If it's work, then keep it professional. It's not personal, it's work. Deal with that person as politely as you can when you have to, but stay away from them the remainder of the time. If it's causing trouble with your work or that person is not meeting deadlines, then you might have to escalate the problem to management or HR.\n\nDon't spread the word that you don't like this person either. It's most likely nothing to do with you and all about the person who's doing the ignoring. I bet they'll come around.
762525
the best answer is keep your mouth closed and listen to what they have to say and when people come to help you watch out people will try to mislead you have a small note book and take down things you are suspossed to learn and never talk about another person you work with . or it's called back stabbing be polite and listen listen . just do your job to the best you can. good luck
886066
You say you are willing to wait until "we are not swamped" so why would you need an "excuse"?\n\nIf it is actually that hard to get time off, just tell your supervisor that you have been unusually stressed lately and you need to have a day to just get away and calm down.  Ask about a week ahead of time so it doesn't come as surprise to your sup.\nIf your sup is decent he/she will realize you are being thoughtful and responsible by asking ahead of time and should honor that.        \nAt least you will have the knowledge that you were honest.  \n\nA sup who isn't responsive to the needs of the workers will soon find they have a hostile working class to deal with and that will come back to bite in the arse.\n\nWhere I worked, we had one boss who thought he had to act like a dictator to control everyone. When he finally PO'd everyone to the point they hated him we started watching for ways to get rid of him. Eventually the attendance and work output showed on paper that he wasn't getting the job done and they moved him to another area. A friend and I had a talk with him before he was moved and we did our best to make him realize he caused all of the problems in our area.  He didn't listen. He acted the same in the new area and the people there were a lot meaner than us. They sabotaged everything he did and made his bosses know why things went downhill in their area. The company sent him to some training school to readjust his technique and then transferred him to a different facility where no one knew him.  We heard the people there slashed the tires on his car!! After that I don't know what happened. I don't condone the slashing but I do understand the frustration of an unreasonable boss. They are actually counter productive.\n\nGood luck and remember, honesty always pays good dividends...