Ladies what is the best way for a shy guy to break out of his shell?
101367
get him drunk he will do things that you never thought he was capable of lol
440146
i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
50305
be your self and dont be shy
530051
The best way to flirt is to not be shy, but also don't be pushy.  Be nice.  Start with something simple - "Does it look like rain?"  "That guy over there is acting pretty weird, huh?" "What kind of _____ (drink, fruit, coffee, pencil - just about anything that fits the situation) do you recommend?"  If you're natural, a little curious, and not pushy (and she's not in a bad mood), she'll be friendly back.  Don't think about trying to flirt, just think about making good conversation.  If it does look like rain, you might ask about getting out of it.  If she thinks he's weird, confess to being just a little weird yourself sometimes, just for fun.  If she recommends a latte, try it and tell her it's great.  And just let the conversation flow naturally.\n\nOnce you're okay just talking, find a way to ask her about herself.  Just about everyone (and - sorry gals - women most of all) likes to talk about themselves.  And it's a subtle form of flattery to be interested in her.  True interest in a person - her school, her likes, her friends, her job - is the trickiest way to flirt, because you're saying both "You're interesting" and "I like knowing about you."  And everyone likes to be liked.  Pretty soon you're a good friend, and if you are good at being a friend, there's much better odds you'll soon be a boyfriend.\n\nIf you're getting signs that you've overstepped your welcome, bow out gracefully "Hey, its been nice talking to you" and move on.  If you try too hard with someone who just isn't going to work out, you'll not only offend her but also chance getting a bad reputation that will get around, ruining later chances.\n\nDO NOT use a pickup line.  They're lame, and 97% of all girls (women) know they're lame, they're just a come-on, and that you're desperate.  Only desperate women will respond to them, and most desperate women are not the kind you want for a girlfriend!\n\nGood luck - try this out, then come back here and give some other guy some good advice if it works!
232466
Socialization.  The shy person must try to stablish conversations with people how like to do the same things for example, you like to read, you must visit a library and start talking with the employers then compare books with someone, ask for references...if you like shopping, ask for details of what you are going to buy...if you are in a party talk about the person how invite you but with others person in the party, avoid answers like yes or no...try to be more detailed in the conversation...I used to be shy and nobody can believe me...good luck, start talking
934511
Go to some of the parties.  Join clubs.  Get professional help if you need it.  Do whatever it takes to get over your crippling shyness and be a little more social.  Volunteering is a nice way to meet people and it also improves your personality and confidence.
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
124678
I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
353459
well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
95045
well, u just have to make way on ur shynessor ur never gonna get to hook up w/no1.....just be nice, smile, make sweet jokes..just go for it dude! in the nicest way u can, have that in mind, cus we like to be approached nicely, dont be shy but dont u ever try to get our attention ridiculizing us in front of others, for a change, thats completly not correct if u want to get through ur shyness w/chicks...just be urself in the nicest way u can ok!
743473
Communication is the foundation of any relationship.  You have to break free from your shyness and start talking to these girls that you are interested in.  Do your best to have idle chit chat and you should be able to overcome it pretty easily.  Good Luck!
190698
Some of us like the shyer guys but you just might have to look a little harder or in different places to find us.  \n\nI don't know how old you are so it is hard to offer suggestions about where to look.  But one suggestion that seems to work for all ages and in all places is to get a dog.  You'd be surprised how many people stop to talk to you when you are walking a dog.  The dog gives a point of interest, something to talk about.  \n\nCheck out your local paper to see what sort of events are happening that might attract different types of people. Join a different type of club or group depending on your age and interests - bridge, dancing, book or poetry reading, book discussion group.  Join a ccoking class or some other class.\n\nDon't give up ... there are lots of women who'd be interested in a shy guy.  Get out there and find them.  Good luck!
671100
Try to catch his eye then smile!\nSay hi to him everyday and compliment him honestly on something about him that he can feel proud of. Sooner or later you'll just start to talk more and even carry out full conversations.\nIf you just want him to aproach you and seem more approachable.. here it is:\nSmile frequently.\nDo not act insecure or clingy.\nWalk and pretend that you're a model walking across that red carpet(do not blow kisses at the audience). Generally, just walk with large steps and a straight back.\nBe relaxed.\nStand with your feet no farther than 6 inches apart and pointing inwards.\nYou're more approachable alone instead of being around friends.
86259
get to know plenty of guys..and jus talk to them ...and get to know them..\n\nin this way, ull get used to it.\n\nand dun expect anything in return...jus take it easy
388936
All you gotta do is not be so shy.  Step up to him and say, "Hi." to break the ice and then go on from there.
834662
hi there...  For what you wrote i think you could make a woman very very happy... and i actually believe that besides being shy, you got everything to have lots of dates. Try "indirect meeting" some of your friends might know someone you like, ask them to introduce her to you.. once you are in front of her, remember my words... with your personality you have success almost totally assured...  Try talking about something you might have in common. Do NOT try to show her what you are, let her discover it. in a few minutes, the conversation will continue by itself....\n "Emotional, supportive guy" are very appreciated qualities. Find someone that deserves you. if you fail once or twice (or more times) dont give up, there's always somebody special.
976539
awww...how adorable!i wish i had a guy that felt like you!i would really love that!especially right now...but anywho, back to your question....what you should try to do now is to be more yourself to her and i bet anything she will more open to you!but hey dont get me wrong shy shouldnt be an issue here...