I've been married before to a real jerk.  I've found someone nice.  Should I marry again if he asks?
111528
If you feel you are ready take the offer.  You are marrying him, not your family.  You may kiss many frogs to find your prince.  If it feels right and you are sure about yourself and have confidence in this relationship after getting bashed in the last, then why ask?  Good luck!
1171786
no sure how long you two have been dating, but beware.  Guys who usually rush into marriage thinking should send up warning flags.  I was in a relationship that moved like that one, and he was very emotionally abusive, and would most likely have been physically abusive if we had gotten married.
1169275
Judging by the fact that you ask yourself now if he was nice or not, yes, you should have said no. But see this as a lifelesson and be more carefull next time.
1100264
Hazeline, no you should still love him. What you need to do is get some kind of hobby or something that keeps your mind off of the treatment he is giving you. Show him what it is like to do someone that way. I'm not saying be mean but ignore him some and allow him to see how it feels. If it doesn't seem to bother him then I would have a talk with him and tell him my feelings in a way that is not judging or nagging way. Say this is the way I feel. Always use I not this is the way you make me feel. How long you been married? Try your best to make the marriage work unless he is abusive toward you otherwise you will one day regret if you don't give it a shot..
991430
This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
201710
my advice if your not married yet and he was cheating on you and puting you always down and being always rude no you deserve better after you get married it will get worse and the relationship will be nasty and heartbreaking. I hope u are not a teenager . if you are working what is it bothering you are independent dont destroy your life find someone who loves you and will show sincere affections for you please dont fall in love with a married man who is not divorced yet you will break his familly heart affecting his wife and his children  specially when they are married for a long time and they were in love . I consider this home wrecking and selfishness.
165753
Because he's a jerk, just like my ex! If he's doing it now, he'll never change! I lived through that for 12 years before I got the courage to finally cut my losses. (We were married for 4 1/2 years, and was together for another 8 years after that..if you want to call it "together") I'm better off now, because I have a very loving husband who would go to the ends of the earth for me!
856384
let me ask you this, how did you get into this position? how did you let this other man maneuver his way into your heart?...\n\ndo you beleive in the sanctity of marriage? if so, do what you can to get this other guy out of your life...\n\ndoes this guy know you're married? if not, that you're fault...if so, would you want to marry a guy who doesn't have respect for a married couple?...\n\nplease do the right thing and be more responsible with who you get close to...
1115600
That is one way of putting it... but in my case, I was fooled and he got tired of fooling me after we were married and just showed his true colors. Marriage is not something I will ever do again. It is a real shame too because I am in a great relationship. But I think marriage will ruin me if I try to do it again.
266374
Woah.  Did he marry you first or the other woman first?  You might want to check with a lawyer on this one.
427754
Don't marry him.  Intamacy problems should only begin once you are married, not before.  This does not bode well for your relationship.  Plus, don't ever take a guy back who has cheated on you twice, let alone twice with the same person.  Move on before it gets messy.
1005642
GOD will forgive anyone who makes a mistake even if you kill someone. So you made a mistake by ending up with someone like that so what GOD will forgive you. I have been married 2 times myself. And only the LORD knows what kinda relationship that I was in the first time. If you wait to long and live like this you will become a cold harted person. My husband now gets upset because when we get into arguments I don't cry and they can be pretty rough sometimes. The reason why is because of my first marriage I just got to the point to where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to get out but I was getting physical abuse. It's not worth messing up your life because of a jerk. The right person will pass you by if you don't make the right move. I am so happy in this marriage and we get along so well most of the time. It has to be really bad for us to get into it. But everyone fusses and argues. Do whatever makes you happy and pray about it and GOD will lead you in the right direction. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take this as useful information. I have been there I know. And GOD understands what you are going through as well. Good luck.
105671
If you don't work things about before you re-marry, then you are condemning yourself to the same old problems as before.   I, too, advise counseling before you become involved in marriage with her again.\n\nBest of everything!
411371
hi ,yes its fine to ask a guy to marry you ,but its not very nice what he said to you ,its not his turn ?? how many times does he want to get engaged ?? this could all to do with the MALE EGO thing !! he asked someone and probably got hurt ,and doesnt want to get hurt again ,marriage when it comes down to it is a bit of paper and a ring ,what you have this now is him and you and a future together,enjoy that and things will work out and anyway you never know he could be the one to ask you  good luck have a greeat life together XX
369438
RUN!! Trust me, I've been there, I dated a guy for 2 years who was like that and it was a huge mistake on my part. But I let him control me to the point that I wouldn't even leave him when he told me not to. Don't get in that situation. You'll be very miserable. I'm now with a wonderful guy who I'm getting married to in a couple of months. So great guys really do exist, so you don't have to put up with jerks!
315435
If you're resorting to asking strangers it doesn't look good. If you're both happy then who cares, but if you want to get married and he doesn't then the best thing to do is end it.
631012
I think you should meet him, but not even entertain the thought of marriage yet.  All you really know is what he has chosen to tell you via his internet persona.  Who knows what really lurks underneath.