How does one approach a total jerk coach who is mean, unsensitve and hurtful to my daughter?
104740
Well...getting too involved will embarass your daughter and possibly even make it harder for her to stay on the team, which she obviously wants. Kudos to her for sticking withit even when it upsets her!\nMake your presence known to the coach but dont try to confront him or tell him what to do. I am a swimming coach, and when a parent goes out of their way to thank me or let me know they appreciate what I am doing, then I am more positive to the kids as a whole. Try being ridiculously nice to the jerk. Come a little early to a practice one day and watch the end, and then when all the girls go to the locker rooms walk up to the coach, introduce yourself, and tell him that the kids seem to be doing such a wonderful job and that you are so pleased with the progress they are all making. Making yourself as NICE as possible will make it harder for him to be mean to your daughter.\nThen, tell your daughter how proud of her you are for sticking with it even when its hard for her. This is a big deal for someone so young, and it says a lot about her character. Good luck!
361263
don't let her bother you. what grade are you in? eventually everybody matures, and for those that don't, the rest of the kids will realize what a bitc* she is. Just ignore her completely, fly under her radar, but don't do anything that will make her feel like she's controlling you. \n\nJust take it with a grain of salt. Eventually she'll get her commuppins, and you'll be all the better for it. \n\nThis is probably the answer you don't want to hear because it's not easy to do, but the harder things are the more they're worth doing. Good luck.
584669
Explain to your daughter why you are doing it.  It's a rough lesson to learn, a life lesson for her and you, but if you are strong in your beliefs then don't back down.  Return the gifts to them, be nice about it, let them know that you monitor the things that come into your house and this isn't acceptable.\n\nIf they are hurt and then continue to give the gifts, that's their hurt, not yours.  The pain your daughter feels now is not your fault either, but theirs, for continuing to give her gifts they know she will not be allowed to keep.  That's just plain rude.
703406
Maybe you could get her a book about manners!  :)  Or one on how to get along with other kids?   lol  Maybe it would help.  \nSeriously, I have known kids like that and almost always they are bratty or mean because they have some serious problems with the adults in their lives and they act out their pain.  \nGood luck to you!
791288
Go and talk tot he teacher and the school management and raise all the hell you want. Keep your daughter home and threaten the management that you will report this to media and police and take the school and the teacher to court, if they do not take suitable actions against the teacher. You do not want your daughter to let anyone mark her for life and you have to be the one to set an example of being courageous and fight back.
627346
Who's the child?  Be the bigger person and move on.  You will only make the problem worse.  If you really can't handle her bossiness, talk to your teacher or couselor.  Good Luck!
341585
Be patient. I made my kids cry too many times. As she gains confidence and skill, raise the wheels a little.
565361
Man, I was going through the samething with this really obnoxious girl once. I feel your pain. my plan of dealing with people like him is to stay clear of them. It might not be easy at first but once you keep avoiding and stay clear of him overtime he won't be a problem, and talk to your teacher about changing your seat, tell him/her that you have problems with this kid and that you don't get along with him that should help, and if that doesn't work well, you before taking things into your own hands try the plan first.
882363
file an unruly on her , that way if any violence happens they will see that you are trying to get help for her. they will place her on probation, give her community service and send her to anger management. hopefully she'll learn that there are consequences for her actions and some sense of responsibility on how to deal with other people. if she goes out in the world with that attitude she is going to get hurt or wind up in jail for hurting someone else. you also may get some counseling established so they can find out why she has so much animosity towards you and you can gain control back in YOUR household. good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
1104516
stay away from him for you and your daughters sake he sounds like a loser your only asking for trouble. Besides even if he became the nicest guy overnite by a miracle what kind of father has he been 2 yrs out of jail i think she would resent him being forced into her life just so YOU could get over your loneliness ? investigate your heart why you would even consider taking him back i'm sure you'll find it's a selfish reason besides thats how the devil tempts us when were weak to hungry too tired ect if your hungry enough you'll eat poison and think it tastes good becareful pray but most importantly stay away from him don't give a devil a foothold into your life if not for you do it for your daughter don't ruin your relationship with her boyfriends come and go but only one daughter remember that! Godbless
470652
You could tell her to leave you alone, but I doubt that would work seeing that you're going through the trouble of posting a question. Hitting her will put you in a worse off position than you're in right now, besides, there are far better looking women outside Juvenile camp or Jail... even if they're getting on your nerves.\n\nHere are 2 ways to fix your problem:\n\n1) Tell her parents that you're being harassed by this girl\n\n+Ouch, ain nothing like parents saying "my daughter did what?!" haha\n\n2) Tell your teacher about the situation and urge her to talk to the girl privately as to not put your business in the hallways\n\n+This is risky because if she's a bully she might start teasing you about going to the teacher, but if she's just an average problem child go right ahead\n\nIf you're serious about getting rid of her, I'm sure this advice will work for you. Good luck.
262996
She has to understand that each girl on the time deserves to be treated fairly and singling out one or two indiviuals isnt fair to the rest.  Your husband can offer her to take his place, and he will be the complaining parent.  If coaching was so easy, they would have lines of parents waiting to do it, but that doesnt happen. every league always looks for coaches.
927412
try contactong pop warner, I doubt they will tell you because you seem to be a an overzealous parent!
96351
1st and foremost GET YOUR DAUGHTER OUT OF DANGER!  If that means leaving then do it!\n2.) get him help NOW!  Talk to his dr. and tell him what you are telling us.  If that doesn't help call children and family services and they WILL get him help. Or they will place him somewhere where he will have to deal with his problems.\n3.) family counciling is a MUST for ALL of you not just him.  It will give you ways to help deal with this.\n4.) Put up a united front, ALL of you.  And stick to boundries you make.\n\nHe doesn't sound like a sociopath or the sociopathic personality but he does sound like a young man in alot of pain and doesn't know how to deal with this.  Drug abuse doesn't just effect the abuser but the rest as well, expecially children!  GET HELP FOR ALL OF YOU!
718614
My daughter had the same problems, she was also getting nasty emails,the schools so called anti bullying policy means nothing, so I went round to the girls house with copys of email and told the parent what would be the out come if it continued, it was the only launge these tramps understood because it worked! I didnt mince my words while doing this just give it straight!
869693
You're not wrong. He sounds like a cheap skate who's too self centered to think of someone elses feelings. Happy birthday to your daughter too.
195761
Suga, I know you are upset, but bringing your daughter into this is not very nice.  If you two split up or have a huge blow out, then she is going to think that she is the reason why Daddy and Mommy are upset.  Just calm down and sit down with your hubby, telling him calmly how you feel.  Maybe you can get something worked out.  Good Luck, and you're in my prayers