wife came back.said she cheated,left after 1 week. I forgave her want her back but can't get in touch.what2do?
106638
the only was is to get her to listen to you and it seems that she is not ready for it. you might forgive her but may be she did not forgive herself. \nyou have to do anything you can to find her address and phone # she might not even check her emails....
591735
Dude, Ditch her NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nMy ex did the same thing, I never cheated and was accused at least once a day. Come to find out she was the whole 9 years.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
871691
u can't get her back enless u'v been away from her 4 only a couple days. if not, ow you in trouble. if u really want advice than ask her not people online. tell her u need her not us. if she understands u 2 where meant 4 each other . good luck. e-mail me and tell me how it works out at kayseasbq_10
137246
No matter what happened to cause this, it's up to you to get in touch with her and fix the problem.  You have to be willing to forgive and go forward.  You start out by letting her know that you love her and that are willing to have an open mind about whatever choices she had made in her life and go from there.  Now if she's not willing to talk right then and there, let her know that she can always call you no matter what.  One other thing, never pass judgment on her.  Give advice, but let her know that it's her choice.
1043413
First of all, don't lower your standards to hers, don't cheat...I understand the love connection and you both have been together for a fair amount of time, but her being unfaithful now doesn't make for a good choice of a wife later...they always say they were going to stop, but allow to continue an affair until its discovered and not voluntarily revealed.  I find that important when it comes to determining if you should continue in such a relationship..I recommend ending it, but to answer your question, it would take a love that thru sorrow and regret for what she has done...that could convince you that this will never happen again...talk to her, find out why and how this happened , take all the information you can get and determine if your heart can forgive and forget in order to make such a shaky relationship last...good luck.
1156925
Look im gonna be straight w/ u .... If u cheated on her apologize and go leave her alone. If you beg 4 forgivness u just mite get it, BUT she will NEVER trust u again. She may not say it she may cry ask why and take u back, but wait a few months things will slowly change she mite bite ur head off 4 something small, she may start calling u 20xs every two hrs. Follow u... its endless, but the worst part will b all this time u r thinking things r getting better, she is blowing up w/ resentment over the "mistake" i figured u called it and one day you will wake up and see a different person and you wont understand where all this hate/ mean/ bitchy snaps r coming from, cause u forgot about it and moved on, believe me she never did she just had time to get over the shock the heartbreak, the broken trust, and now she hates you for what u did but don't exactly know how to handle the situation. One day things will b fine the next she will just look at you eating and want to smash your face in. I am so not kidding on this, IF IT WASN"T CHEATING....Go with the whole truth a sincere apology, let her know you love her and only her, ask HER how she feels, listen to every word and tell her, if you mean it, u will do everything you can to make things right 4 her. Do not lie and just take responsibility for what you did, b4 some jackas* rats u out. If u feel shes the kinda girl that would want something, get her something she likes so she knows you really know her,  you listen and of course remember what she says. Good Luck
848308
You have to give her time...Back off. Tell her you love her and that you are very sorry, Tell her you'll spend the rest of your life making it up to her. I am going to assume you cheated, we are all human. Don't make that mistake again. Time will tell you all you need to know. Tell her how you feel then give her space. Even if you don't talk for a couple weeks. Send her a text message or leave a voice mail every once in awhile telling her you love her. Best of luck
1000221
You need to be honest to both women, You just got back with your wife, don't let her hear this from anyone but you. This is the fastest way to ruin trust. Be nice to the Friend, tell her you like her but only want to be friends. You can also tell her that you may be working things out with your wife. Don't let both women think you have been leading them on. you can loose your wife for good and that doesn't sound like what you want. Tell HER Now. Marriage is a blessing and your wife's feelings should come first. if the friends gets mad then so what. At least your wife knows you're not trying to play games with her.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
722838
I dont think you should be talking to your EX at all. And the fact that you are sneaking around makes me think you want something from her. There is a reason she is your EX. YOu should quit contacting her. And when your wife finds out I hope she kicks your scandalous a$$!
1095126
Ask her if she wants to try swinging or polyamory. I don’t know your views on non-monogamy, but if she responds positively to your suggestion, the two of you should seriously look into the possibilities. Obviously her cheating was unfortunate because it involves deception, but you need to distinguish between whatever pain you feel from the deception, and whatever feelings you might have about non-monogamy. You can’t change the past, but you can set sail for a more promising future if you establish a new commitment together. This new commitment is not the traditional “forsaking all others” that you find in conventional marriage ceremonies, but a commitment of partnership through the adventures yet to come. At some point you should probably tell her that you know about her previous cheating, but you should do this at a time when you are feeling like you love her – NOT at a time when you are feeling bitter or resentful.\n\nOn the other hand, if you bring up the possibility of non-monogamy and she says “no way” or gets angry at you for even thinking about it, then you might want to GENTLY tell her that you know about her cheating, and that you forgive her and still love her. Once she sees this reaction, her insecurities about non-monogamy might eventually fade away and then she might be willing to think about it more positively. But don’t expect everything to be resolved all at once. You might have to work on this aspect of your relationship for many months before you both reach a point where you can trust each other enough to let go of the past and start anew.\n\nAnd finally, I should point out that I am simply offering one suggestion that most people might not consider. The actual wisdom of this suggestion depends on a lot of factor that I don’t know because I don’t know either you or you wife. If you want to talk in more detail about your specific situation, feel free to contact me. I might modify my suggestions based on your actual feelings and the actual situation.\n\nBy the way, my wife and I have been non-monogamous for the past several years, and we grow more in love with each other every day. We are living proof that love in marriage can be amplified by love beyond marriage – in contrast to the standard belief that extra-marital love is always destructive. If you are a great enough soul to love your wife despite her past mistakes, then you could discover that your most amazing and deeply-loving years are yet to come.
201920
If she cheated once, chances are she will cheat again. Especially considering its a lond distance relationship. Move on.
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
423556
she's f*cked up! why would she do that that is stupid.......i hope eveything turns out ok but that's really if YOU want to take it that slow, it's really your decision i'm just here to help you decide....e-mial me and i see if i can give you anymore tips if you guys get back together\nby the way i think you should get back together but on that certain day she has you guys talk or what ever say your busy that night or just don't pick up foor her and then call her another night and see if she gets mad. or if she sets a certain night to go out then say your busy that night and try to reschedule. if she gets mad i suggest dumping her cuz that really is f*cked up.\ni'll try to help you in the long run\n\n~matcher and love expert
215814
ahh sh*t thats hard man. I can't believe she has the nerve to ask you that. Its easy to say when its not happening to us. But if I was in your shoes I might be a little to pissed to even think about taking her back.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.