my grandpa just died and i cant get over it can you give me ideas on how to get over it?
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It's hard. I can't tell you anything different. I lost my father in 1999 and sometimes, the memories still get me.\n\nAt first it's like it takes you over and it's all you think about. \n\nThen day by day you find yourself forgetting, for a little while. Don't feel guilty about it - it's natural and life needs to go on, things have to be done, pets need feeding, clothes need washing, jobs need doing. \n\nIt's hard to think of all of that going on when it feels like the world should stop, just for a little while because something terrible has happened. But that's the way life goes and has always gone.\n\nThe other poster said to remember the good and funny things about them and they are right. It does help. You may still cry, but it does help.\n\nBefore too long you'll realize you haven't thought of him in days and this too is okay. By this time the hurt is lessening, just think of a funny thing about him and it any sad feelings will pass more quickly.\n\nI'm sure you will always remember and cherish what made him very special to you, and one day you'll find yourself very glad to have the memories.
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thats really really sad. i kind of know how you feel. one of the guys who went to my school got killed in a hunting accident and my great grandma died a couple of years ago. i know it really hurts i wasn't even really that close to the guy who got shot and i still am not really over it even though it was way back in november... i will pray for you and if you need to send someone something you can use the contact me thing in my profile.
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Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
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I'm sorry for your grief i just lost my step dad in Aug and he was more of a dad than i could ever get..\n\nThe pain hurts because i lost so many if theres away I'm looking for it i spend day after day setting and talking as if he was still here at the grave site.\n\nWhat do you say we feel the same pain three kids and my wife are gone and i have one child left and I'm so scare of losing her.\n\nSomeone put a question in here and ask what was the saddest thing that ever happen to me and i cryed the owe time i wrote back an answer as i'm doing now..\n\nBless you and take one day at a time for two is to much and you will be okay.
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try giving more feedback as to your mental development so he's not in the dark, and question the effect your grandfather's death has on YOU and what preventive measures he might have. if he starts opening up, don't interrupt but really listen for clues. then use them to help.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. \nI think you need to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Don't rush yourself through the grieving process. Allow yourself to cry if that's what you need to do. You said you and your sister were really close. Six months ago is still pretty fresh. Have you tried talking with others?  Having a support network can be helpful. Also, it can be helpful to read books on the grieving process. You are in my prayers during this difficult time.
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Do whatever it takes to fix it.  You always think you have time but you don't.  I waited to even talk to my dad and he died before I could.  We hadn't talked in years and I regret that so much.  Don't let that happen to you, you never know when someone will be taken from your life unexpectedly.
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Well, i have no idea how you could possibly gegt over it  i meen he was your son and i dont think you'll ever get over it but i do have some ideas for you to get your mind off of it when you start thinking about it dont cry think of somthing cool  somthing that interest you..or go do somthing..take risk!...you know do something fun, sky diving! like stuff you would never do...get your mind off of it  or do somthing simple go skating...go on a shopping spree!  i hope these things help..im truely sorry and i dont know what to say..i hope these things work..im sorry to say it but..you loved your son and i dont think you'll ever get over it...\nHope i Helped!
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I lost my father 5 years ago and there is never a single day that I do not think about him.\nAt first I was devasted and wondering how I would get over it.\nThen someone who had been through the same experience gave me these simple words of wisdom: "You never get over it. You just get used to it".\nNow I can talk about my dad and nrelate funny or special moments we shared when I was growing up, and it doesn't bother me. In fact, it is quite therapeutic.\nI feel for you and KNOW that things will get easier.Good luck. Kevin UK.
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That's a tough situation and I'm so sorry for your loss. You should definitely talk openly about this with other family members and friends. You should also consider seeing your doctor for depression. Since you can't bring your mom back, try to focus on how to celebrate her. Put together a memorial with her pictures, hobbies and guest speakers. Did she have any dreams? Live out some of her fantasies for her. Feel her passion and feel her spirit inside you. The mourning period needs some closure so you can move on with your life. Try talking with more people like teachers, counselors, and even strangers. Cry a lot. Also...go ahead and talk to your mom. Ask her for advice and let your heart guide you. But don't ever give up!
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just be there for ur husband and spend some time doing something he likes to do just to get his mind off it for a little while.. I maybe only 16 but my uncle died of a heart attack and best friend killed herself because of a problem she was having.. My family was there for me and i was there for them. And it got us all though.. please write back and let me know what happens,christinekneifl@yahoo.com
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I'm very, very sorry about your loss. If you find that you are too upset about it for a very long time, it might be a good idea to talk about your feelings to your school counselor.\n\nOne thing that might be satisfying for everyone who knew Justin is to plant a tree in his memory. You could plant it at your or his parents' house.\n\nIf you feel a strong need to get other people involved, you might even be able to persuade your high school to plant one on campus. If they can't or won't do that, you might talk to your city council or park service about how you would go about getting one planted at the local park. This is something that might require collecting donations.\n\nI think Justin was lucky to have a friend like you. Good luck.
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I'm sorry for your loss, Puddin tain. I think that everyone grieves in their own way, and there are many responses people have to a loved one's death. There may be a time when you will need to cry about this, but it may not happen for a while. I don't think that you are a bad person.\n\nIf you are concerned about others' opinions of you because you are smiling, I wouldn't be. If you loved your grandfather, don't worry about smiling. Perhaps he gave you many reasons to smile. If you feel the need to, share with others how you feel about your grandfather. They will understand your words, if not your facial expression.\n\nWhen my grandmother died, we played some polka music at her graveside. I got up and started dancing. Others joined me in dancing to it. She LOVED polka music and it gave her joy to dance to it. Was it cold to dance "on" someone's grave? Not in this case. It was done out of love and respect, not anger or revenge.\n\nAre you "cold" for not crying but smiling? No, I don't think so.
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My Grandma passed away 6 yrs ago on the 6th of July.......her Bday is June 30th......every yr since she has left.....I go to her gravesite....bring her fresh flowers & just sit for an hr or so....although some people would say I am bonkers.....I talk....I tell her everything....even though I know she is with me on a daily basis....& sees all that is going on....I still do this....it makes me feel like she is really there.....even though I walk away crying...& missing her even more....I know that it something we enjoyed together.....my Grandma was a VERY special woman....I miss her everyday & sometimes just break down & cry whenever I think of her.....I just thank god she was able to meet my daughter before she went....my son was 2 & my daughter was 1 when it happened.....Honey, I know it is hard when it is a Parent.....she was like a mom to me.....just go spend some time with him....pray & remember every good time....even remember the bad times.....just celebrate him.....GOD BLESS YOU in your time of need....
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You mourn.  You remember and cherish the good times you had with him.  You might even do something to honor his memory.  And you wait for time to heal that wound his death made in your heart.  Trust me, the healing will come.
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If this happened to you, I'm really sorry. Allow yourself to grieve - that is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are sad and don't try to hide it. You have every right to feel sad, angry, sick - whatever it is you feel. Just know that with each passing day, it will get better and you will learn to cope. You will never stop missing that person, but the thoughts of grief will slowly be replaced with fond memories.