should i fight for custody. or not. see details?
112264
TO FIGHT FOR CUSTODY IS HARD THE JUDGE ALWAYS SIDES WITH THE MOTHER UNLESS U HAVE PROBABLE CAUSE.  THE WAY IT SOUNDS  THE MORE TIME U SPEND WITH THE KIDS THE MORE TIME IT GIVES HER TO SPEND WITH HER NEW MAN  I DONT THINK SHELL DENY U THE KIDS  SHE GONNA LIKE THE FREE TIME TOO MUCH   RIDE IT OUT C HOW IT GOES JUST ALWAYS B THERE LIKE U HAVE  N WHEN HE MOVES IN WITH HER WELL THE KIDS R BIG ENOUGH TO TELL U SOMETHING IS WRONG THATS WHEN U STEP UP    HOPE ALL IS WELL
32902
You do have rights, where do you live, would assist if local. If money is holding you up in the battle, try locating a DADS or POPS in your area, I recommend DADS over Pops though. DADS can steer to to legal de facto or Ex Parte soulutions.
626397
it sounds like you're doing all that you can. When u said u filed papers, hopefully this means you will stand before a judge who will decide. Kids will be kids and if they were perfect they wouldn't need parents to guide them. I don't think it's your fault, but it is your responsibility. Talk to your daughter, that's all you can do... Also, monitor her friends. One bad apple can spoil the bunch.
490835
My opinion: Get a good lawyer asap and get the custudy for your kids!!!! If they´re really so unhappy the judge should make a good decision, you will get the kids.
407160
You can fight a restraining order in court-when they serve you with a restraining order-you are given a court date. You are bitter. Deal with your stress better. You can not blame her for controlling your life. You are the maker of your destiny. Pull your head out of your rectum!!!!
1129107
Courts carefully weigh the best interests of the child in determining visitation and custody.  If the custodial parent denies visitation to the noncustodial parent, the courts will rectify the situation.  If the noncustodial parent should not visit with the child because that parent has a history of violence, manipulation, or drug or alcohol abuse, the courts will supervise and then stop visitation.\n\nIt appears that you are angry about one particular case.  Without knowing the details, it is impossible to say whether justice was or was not done.  However, the system allows for hearings and appeals.  If you have not been treated fairly, there are ways to address that.
315198
I have shared custody with my exhusband with our sons.  I can tell you right now that as long as he pays child support and its in their court papers she will have to let him visit with his kids.  She cannot deny his rights no matter how much she wants to.  There is a thing he needs to know about called father's rights.  There is an organization for the rights of fathers.  With my situation my exhusband shares custody and we have always talked about it with our kids because they are involved with this too.  There is something he can do too because i could not keep my exhusband from seeing his sons.  Of course now he chooses not to see his sons because of his retarded alcoholic girlfriend.  Sometimes if you step back and let things happen the way they do it works out better than what you think.  The more he argues with her the worse off she will become.  My advice do like i did let the courts handle it dont fight the decision and let things take its course.  Also keep in mind that since he is still married and he is living with you that can count against him.  I hate to say that but its true.  She can hold that against him in court.  I know about all of this my exhusband was not allowed to live with his girlfriend until after our divorce.  In the divorce is where all things should be stipulated and rules set forth.  If he pays childsupport she will have to let him visit with his sons no matter what.  Don't let it stress you to the point it gets out of hand she is using the kids as stomping ground for him.  She is mad because he has decided to move on without her see what i mean?  After awhile things will work itself out.  I promise on that one.
487992
from my experience, he is in contempt of court by not following the judges orders.  this is pretty devious but it was done to me and it worked wonders...have an order of protection put on him and request custody of your daughter.  order of protection are much more than a restraining order.  police action will be taken anytime you request.  of course all you have to do is tell your lawyer or just go to the special victims unit and that you feel your life is in danger or has been threatened.  he will be screwed.  it still haunts me.  police used to call my cell phone and ask we i was at the moment.  all because she said i drove by the house.  none of what she told the police was true, and it didn't matter.  that order of protection sucks.  anytime he violates it, automatic 10 days in jail.  its dirty but its one way to stick it to him.  good luck.  oh, and there was no investigation to see if she was even telling the truth.  they just issued it and enforced it.
797790
I am confused. Do you really want the boy to get help or are you more concerned about your boyfriend paying money for HIS child? He should pay half of everything. Perhaps you were not perpared to be in a relationship with someone with a child. Also, what exactly would he be taking her to court for? Unless you want custody (and you have already said you do NOT want the child moving in with you) you should let that part go. The court cannot make her take the child to therapy unless he commits a violent act. He is old enough to stay alone. You really have nothing to stand on.
471674
Don't try to use the kids against her. That's probably what she does, but if you do the same, it will only make things worse. On the other hand, you might have to fight dirty. Don't be dishonest, and don't ever show your anger, but the courts don't reward chivalrous conduct. If you have money, then hire a lawyer with a successfully pro-father track record. If you don't have money...well, I don't know what to tell you then. I hope I never have to face what you are going through.
319321
Yes!  Your first priority should be to your kids.  They aren't safe with your husband and you need to get them away now.  Call legal aid or see if you make payments to a lawyer.  Or see if in your state you can file on your own.  Make sure you have proof of whatever accusations you are going to bring up in court.  Document everything, it will help you later on.  Also depending on the ages of the kids, I would ask for supervised visitation due to him still talking to the perp.
244678
He should check with a lawyer about joint custody. The support would probably be 50/50 and the custdy would be 50/50. I think she could move either way. I think she might be pre-preparing for supporr court. More time = more money? Either way she'll get the money (arears) and the chidren will suffer in the meantime. If the get along well they could work it out (legally) in the form of a contract. He could use the threat of court as leverage, but I would chek with a lawyer.
1017051
If you can't afford a lawyer, you can call & get the 1st consulation free. Stay on the cops butts & pester the D.A. until the do their jobs & put him in jail. Then you should get full custody again. Good luck!
237214
You will have to go through a mediator and not the courts. If you want it to end quickly then you both have to agree on everything including custody of your children.
162015
I dont live in your state, but maybe able to tell you a few things..... If your girl is now 13 yrs old, then when going to court, she maybe able to speak her mind to the jugde.. Tell the judge that when you gace your parents temp cust. that you planned on getting her back when the time was right for yourd daughter, and for you... Always put your girls name first when tlaking to the judge... Tell him that you have a good place to stay, and have an income...And that you are able to care for her now. And that she has told you she wants to live with you. Go get the papers from court and start filling them out. Dont tell your parents that you are now filling. Let them find out when they get served.... That way you have a fighting chahce at getting her back. Catch them off guard. Have your girl write a letter to the judge telling him why she wants to live with you now. And that may help too. Find out from your county court house what is the age that the judges litsen to kids.. in cases like this... Bring anyone that is on your side to show that you area ble to care for her now. Just having to prove that you are a fit mother is all you have to do.
638120
Dear Friend,\n\nYou need to speak to Child Protective Services.  They will tell you the process for your state.  Obviously, she'll get to tell the court her side of things as well.  If she's a real threat to your kids, hop on it.  If you just want to hurt her, find something better to do with your time.\n\nYour Friend,\nFrancesois
644896
If you are going to be separated then do it legally. Get a family law attorney and do it today.