Should I tell my co-worker that our boss stole her client?
110841
First answer here is good, but I might disagree.  \n\nIs the co-worker going to be out some substantial money because of this?\n\nDoes the boss have the right under company policy to do what he is doing?\n\nThose are a couple of questions that come to mind right off the top.  You need to decide if you wish to continue to work for someone with these kinds of ethics.  If he's really doing something unethical to your co-worker, what makes you think he won't do it to you?  \n\nYou don't say, but is your business licensed by some government agency?  Is it possible that agency might just "happen" to stumble in for an inspection and be able to see what you're talking about?  Is it possible your co-worker can find out on their own in such a way that your boss wouldn't be able to assume it was coming from you?  \n\nWhat would your co-worker say or think about you if they found out you knew and did not tell them?  Is that important to you?  \n\nAny chance the client might call to speak with your co-worker about the file?  Would doing so alert your co-worker to the fact that the file had been "misplaced"?\n\nYou're in a tough spot.  Good luck with this.
1049108
Put her off by saying you will as soon as you have a free minute from your own work, but you are swamped! Say it enough times and she will get the hint. If the boss asks you if you can help tell her the same thing.
434289
i think that if you really are a true friend then you'll tell that person he/she has bad breath coz you don't really want your friend to hear it from other people coz that would just be most embarrassing.  with an employee, we'll i guess you should because you don't want to embarrass yourself to clients. if they're not at all liasing with clients, i think you should still tell that person because it's for their own good anyway.  if he/she does something about it, well and good, if not, at least you let them know so they would be conscious of it and try not to open their mouths too often or better yet not at all.
1013287
Give the police an anonymous tip with her name and place of work. Don't be an idiot and confront her like the other person suggested, she'll have you offed. It is dangerous for you to be working there-someone could come in with a gun to rip her off for the drugs and mistake one of you for her.
1005868
You need to speak to your boss right away. Ask to speak to him privately and give him the information you know about the stealing. You can request that he keep this confidential unless it has to go to court. This will protect you against retaliation. Stealing is wrong and harmful to the business. If you do not report this, you may be considered complicit in the stealing. Tell the boss today.
836283
Remind her who you report to...follow the chain of command. Is she your immediate supervisor? If so, then you have to comply with her requests, if she isn't, then you are within your rights to turn her down. Have your co-workers handle her the same way. She will soon get the message and back down. Try to keep one step ahead of her always.
684793
Definitely do not confide in the "friend" again.  \n\nI'd go to your boss and ask "What did you mean when you said you were concerned about the future of my employment?"\n\nI think she's bluffing.  SHE could be in trouble for talking about YOU if that is a policy.\n\nEither way, you have a right to know.    Better for you to stand up for yourself.  Don't let her try to scare you.  She sounds like she is playing games.  \n\nI'd talk to her, but also look for another job.  Why would you want to work for her???
889182
Just tell her the truth and if she begins to go off, just leave.  You don't have to worry about seeing her anymore if you quit so who cares what she thinks.  Or you can stand your ground and when she begins to go off just say, "Look!  This is exactly why I am quitting.  I deserve to be treated with respect and any manager that runs a respectable business would know that it is inappropriate to humiliate an employee in front of other coworkers.  As for you constantly accusing me of theft without any proof...some people would consider this harassment and grounds for your dismissal."  That should shut her up.  Good luck.  I've had one too many bosses the same way.
928204
Very proud of people like you! If i were that girl i would be so happy for someone to let me know before i ruin my life even more. there needs to be more people like you. I would for sure get the message to her asap. But do it without him knowing of course, because your going to want to keep your job. You need to make a new email address and make a new name and everything nothing that has to do with who you are. And find out her email address. Use this "fake" email to send to her letting her know what is going on, and explain how you know for sure what he is doing. Dont give out that you work with him and that hes your boss, that too much information. Just tell her what you know about him cheating. And see what she does. Thats all you really can do. Send this email at home not at work. And dont give your real name, use the one you use at for your fake email. And just use that email for typing her that message and only for her. You dont want to send anyone any emails besides her, or someone will figure out its you. After wait for a week to see if she responds to you, if not write her once again, this time just asking her if she got the email and to write back letting you know if she got it or not so you will stop writting her. After she writes you back, thats all you can do, its up to her to make her descion you did all you can do. Than just delete everything and earse that email, and never use it again.
475971
There is more to this story than you are telling us. Does your friend have his green card? I can't think of any legal way that he could have his wages cut by 50% unless he also received a cut to his scheduled hours of work, of which you make no mention. He should be able to make a complaint somewhere, either to a shop steward (if it's union wages) or to a labor board, civil or human rights commission. \n\nAside from that, I suggest that he get hold of one of those mini tape recorders that fit in your pocket, than find an opportunity to discuss what happened with this woman when she thinks they are alone together and she can speak freely. He could ask her why she did that and get her replies on tape. We are not talking courtrooms here so it doesn't matter whether its "legal evidence" or not. All he needs is something he can play back to his boss.\n\nGood luck to your friend and tell him to keep his ears open for another job. His days there are numbered no matter how this scenario plays out. The boss won't like being played for a fool, or having anyone know about it within the office. He'll very likely get rid of both of them in time.
484338
Sounds to me like you want to teach this person a lesson. Sorry to say that those are not good legal grounds for a lawsuit.  You will never find an attorney to take this kind of case on contingency.  So, if you really want to pursue this you'll have to do it out of pocket, which will be obscenely expensive.\n\nIf your reputation was not in fact harmed then I would say to have a talk with the person, their boss, etc and then let it go.
862291
You could go to your immediate superior or to human resources and ask them if you can get some more help in your department.  \n\nI'd not accuse this co-worker as that would reflect badly on you as well.   I'm sure they'd be more likely to get a temp or some more help if you tell them that the workload would run more streamlined and the work get done in a more timely manner.
705772
if you told your boss then it should be OK. considering that you describe this woman as just a colleague that has no huge stake in your life, i don't think that you should feel obliged to tell her.\nIt's not like you had stuff planned together or something.\nif i know women as much as i think i do, there are two possible reasons for this.(1) she is just a really a bad joker trying to pull your leg, or (2) she is green with envy cause she was stuck there while you went off to the states, and sh wants you to pay....(really no need to understand this aspect of females).\nWait a minute, have you considered that she thinks of you as more than a passing acquaintance, and more like friends?
757275
Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.
1130091
She might have broken a law in saying something about your personal life on the job. Spend your week-end researching the laws in your state. I know that Federal law prohibits your boss from discriminating against a behavior or social "disorder". It sounds to me like she might be the one that needs to go! I think that you should go to the woman on your own and discuss w/her your feelings on the situation. It might help to carry a recorder in case she tries to threaten your job or something. Good luck!
702575
You cant tell your boss to do anything,thats why they are the boss ,to tell you what to do.\nIf she tried that he would probably sack her.
693329
LOL isn't that just the way of the world...my company hired a woman convicted of stealing from her last employer and guess what...she stole from our company too!