How to deal with agressive people ?
107230
By being patient with them and ignoring their aggressive reactions and keep calm with them, this might make them more aggressive at the beggining but with time they will change
84914
Don't even argue, and don't talk about other people.  Treat all people nicely, even the ones who are mean to you.\n\nFirst, treating people nicely will keep you out of trouble.  Second, it is no fun to bully someone if they won't get mad.  If you get mad, she will keep doing it.  If you don't, she will eventually feel foolish and stop, because it is not working.\n\nBottom line--be nice to everyone, even to her.  If you offer candy, offer her some.  If you play games, invite her to play.\n\nAny other solution will just lead to more trouble.  Even ignoring her won't make it go away, because she will see that it is bothering you, and you will eventually explode.
266143
dealing with stupid people
689512
sit them down and be honest make sure you are alone and use a sincere tone just look them in the eyes and tell them you cant help hurting them because everything has its own consequences. The more you think or plan something the worse consequence would happen. look out for yourself but just be soft and considerate to that persons reactions and then make any further moves.
899352
Agree with first answer..But...here is a different idea.  Have you thought about doing a really mature thing...stop this  behavior on both sides now.  Go to the person wth a sincere attitude and ask to sit down and discuss your differences without hostility?   Might be a real shocker to him/her.  I understand your desire for revenge...we all feel that way at times...but...be the BETTER person and make an effort to make peace.  Honestly, it works.  Someone did this for me a few years ago. Good Luck.
333270
The best thing is to walk away to avoid confrontation and give yourself time to calm your anger. \n\nIt's better to be a coward then hurt someone and or yourself. One day you'll beat up the wrong person and end up in jail. If that's the case,is any one of these kids worth going to jail over?!!\n\nMy suggestion is walk away and take a good look at yourself and ask yourself why these people mess with me...could be your clothes, your attitude, etc.\n\nChange one or more of these and you may stop getting messed with and no longer have to beat anyone up.\n\nIf none of these works, seek help, before it's to late and you wind up in jail. Then you will REALLY GET PICKED ON AND PEOPLE WILL BE BEATING YOU UP!! Think about it it!\nGood Luck
381734
Turn it around.  Just be humble or straight forward...which is a strength.  Know who you are dealing with.  Take it in stride.  What is the worst thing that can happen?\n\nI was embarrassed once by another who was threatening me to death in front of a room full of people.  Actually, it became a nervous laugh, almost hysterical.  I ended up being beaten unmercifully.  Laughing is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.\n\nRise above it.
795794
Knowledge  is  the  remedy,   once  you  understand  (like  knowing  people  who  use  filthy  language  are  scum)  you  Will  tell  them  to  shut up  until  they  learn  manners.\nLearn  martial  arts  so  if  someone beats  you,  then  you  can  whack  them  back.\nIf  someone  ill  treats  your  wife,  then  you  should  know  better  that  you  don't   beat  them  for  verbal,  but  again  tell  them  to  leave  until  they  learn  manners.   \nWhat  are  you  actually   afraid  of  ?    really  ?   understand  that ,  then  learn  how  to  deal.    Even  when  you  are  afraid  start  standing  up  a  little  bit  at  a time.   Eventually  you  will  develop  a  backbone.            good  luck
1115237
Try turning the tables on them - "kill them with kindness".  This works every time.  \n\nYou can invite the person who is harassing you to lunch and calmly ask them if you have, in some way, offended them.  Continue on with "if I have offended you, I apologize - I was not aware that I had done so".  Ask the person if you can start over with a clean slate.\n\nUsually this will stop the harassment.  If it does not stop, I suggest that you document everything and when the time is right, along with the documentation, speak with your Supervisor.\n\nHave a lovely rest of the evening.
756948
Be the smarter person and walk away form it.  I told my son never start a fight but don't let anyone get the better of you if they physically try to hit you first. In other words never start a fight but finish it if you are forced to defend yourself.
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
119282
hi you should first have th ability to know people who hate theirselves and people who hate , the next step is to know hhow to handle both groups be copassionate with pople who hate theirselves because thy have their inner problems and they are much coplex than those who hate who are also disturbed . you should not avooid such people or neglect them instead face them .
614915
Just knock him over....people who cant handle themselves have no place in a civilised society...My answer might sound agressive, but they deserve it.
882363
file an unruly on her , that way if any violence happens they will see that you are trying to get help for her. they will place her on probation, give her community service and send her to anger management. hopefully she'll learn that there are consequences for her actions and some sense of responsibility on how to deal with other people. if she goes out in the world with that attitude she is going to get hurt or wind up in jail for hurting someone else. you also may get some counseling established so they can find out why she has so much animosity towards you and you can gain control back in YOUR household. good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
47790
Tough one.  These scenarios usually become an issue over time, so a quick fix is usually not the best.  Aggressive individuals usually prey on others that allow "bullying" tactics.  As the aggressor sees the weakness, they get comfortable treating the person like that over time and expect a certain response.\n\nIf you want to curtail the behaviour, start standing up in a non-offensive manner and tell him why you can't stay late or work weekends or whatever.  Make excuses, even lie if you have to. Just make it difficult for him to expect the unreasonable.
663663
Rubbermonkey - we are not living in the Stone Age any more. There are many civil and human ways of sorting out differences or getting your point forward. Develop good communication skills instead of fostering unhealthy and destructive ideas for expressing your disapproval or anger. It even works better coz violence and harshness only results in a similar rebound... and will work against your initial intention. With love and peace for you and your friends - God Bless - :)
4892
This may be a little late, but you should notify your local police department about the threat and the person who is threatening you. If possible, stay out of your environment in case they strike you or harm you and your children in some way. If you know this persno, find a way to recieve a restraining order from court. And, if possible as well, settle your dispute with the person and see a solution for your disagreements. I hope that all will be well in your life and I will be praying for you, whether or not you believe in the same God that I do. I wish you peace.