Is it OK for a husband and wife to fight like cats and dogs?
110235
It makes making up lots of fun!!
585587
My husband and I have only been married for a year and a half, but we have been together for about 5. For us, it's all about rules and communication. Here are our rules : \n1. If you are going to fight, do it naked. Everything looks different when you are both naked. It is, however, hard to get that way, because it makes you feel vulnerable.\n2. No lies. Period. Even little white lies. \n3. Never leave the house for anything in the middle of an argument, unless its together. Always solve the problem before you go to bed.\n4. Ask yourself, is the issue at hand so important to me that it is worth upsetting my spouse? Most of the time it's not. \n5. If you are a wife, remember that men show their feelings differently. \n6. If you are a husband, learn to talk about your feelings a little more. \n7. Always have a date night. In the middle of death, children, childbirth, work, losing everything, it doesn't matter. ALWAYS have a night for just you two. \nAnd lastly, but most important, treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. He or she should be your best friend. Treat them like it. Hope this helps.
1172872
i think we do, just not with urine. we build fences and draw property lines, and if someone goes near our women, we fight. when you boil it all down, we're still animals. \n\nand i think we'd need a lot keener sense of smell to distinguish each other's "territorial markings"...... gross.
1115941
Yes, they balance each other out.  The neatnik has to be tolerant of the slob, and you have to genuinely like each other, but we've been getting along for almost 30 years with me as the fussbudget and my wife as the leave-it-where-it-falls type.
415889
I think beating your wife is wrong.....everything can be worked out by talking....
582257
no. i like to do that with my husband. it's us against the rest of the world....you're not doing anything wrong. you're wife needs to boost her own self esteem so she won't be so paranoid.
432035
Women will often respond to this type of question by simply saying that the guy is apparently a self centered, inconsiderate pervert, etc, etc, etc...and that he should be the one to change his ways in consideration of his spouse's feelings.  I think that in itself is a celf-centered response.  Perhaps women who offer the kind of response mentioned above only care about their own feelings, and instead of accepting the guy the way he is, and trying to understand his feelings, they simply say that if the guy doesn't put your feelings above his own, then he's a jerk.  Wow.  I thought relationships were about accepting people as they are.  Maybe you need to think about WHY his viewing porn makes you feel insecure.  Maybe your insecurity comes from some fear that he doesn't love you, or maybe you don't love yourself enough to be able to accept him the way he is.  My answer:  Either accept him the way he is, or, if you can't, and if you think that all the other aspects of the relationship are not worth staying for, then leave.  Trying to make people change to fit your emotional needs is like wanting a cat but having a dog.  Well you can either accept that your dog is a dog...and not a cat, or you can get rid of the dog and get a cat instead.  But asking the dog to turn into a cat because you really wanted a cat isn't going to work.  And calling the dog an inconsiderate jerk because he's a dog and he's not turning into a cat like you asked isn't going to help.  Either keep the dog and love it, or get rid of it and get your friggin cat.
980024
My husband has done that to me and it is not pleasant. If you do that be prepared to get smacked.
445399
I choose an answer, but I also understand where you are coming from.  What I hope will give you comfort is the knowledge they side with their spouse in order not to be divided.  (a united front and all)
670505
Absolutely the man must uphold his part!What your so called Christian friends are saying is only partially correct.You should submit to a husband who is respecting you and your marriage.I do not agree that you need to submit to someone who is either abusive,cruel or telling you to do the wrong things,or whom does not equally love and respect you!
767370
LOL, to answer your question:  No, my husband and I do NOT practice this so called "domestic discipline".  We are both grown adults and we do it by talking about our differences.  We do not need spanking like two unruly kids.
202269
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
271168
multiple wives? are you crazy. multiple lovers ok, maybe...\none wife could nag you to death more than one would just be inhumane
363014
Taking this at face value i.e. as purely hypothetical, I think a little imagination is required. Watching two single animals fight could end up being quite dull a lot of the time. Why not spice it up a bit?\n\nFor instance, watching two Grizzlies paw each other about? Meh. How about one Grizzly vs six wolves? Or maybe a single lion taking on eleven wolverines? Or go a step further: Tiger vs antelope - but dress the Antelope up in a nail studded waistcoat, pre fight. That should be interesting.\n\nBut if you really, really have to have a one on one of the same species then my vote would have to go to humble domestic cat. My cat's psychotic for a start and I'd back him in a fight to the death with pretty much anything, myself (sadly) included. I am under no allusions that as much as he likes the odd tickle under the chin, if he were big enough then he would eat me. Fact!\n\nI think I need to get out more :o)
898841
They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
615871
Neither is really correct or healthy.  I tend to let it out, often in inappropriate words and shouting.  It is best to discuss it in a calm and loving way, despite your anger.  It needs to be discussed and needs to be discussed rationally and in a respectful way.  This is called fair fighting.  I try to still intersperse my anger with I love yous and words that indicate that I am not trying to hurt my wife...unfortunately, I tend to still say mean things to her if I get too frustrated.  Keeping your anger in will lead to an explosion at some point, which could turn deadly.  It can also lead to health problems like heart attacks, breakdowns, ulcers, suicide, etc.  Another problem holding your anger in is that people may not know how mad you are and push you until you explode!  Getting physical is very dangerous as, if it is against an individual, it is called physical abuse, it can be called assault, it can lead to murder and very well could end relationships or land you in jail.  If it is against inanimate objects, you could damage yourself (break something), damage property (which can lead you to expensive repairs, lawsuits or even jail) and is ultimately a bad indication as to where your anger is leading you to (it will eventually lead you to hit someone...its the next step).