what to do about a 15 yr old that disrespects you and has a foul mouth/ bad in schl?
115378
while I would surely consider counseling as an option I would also recommend visiting the following website:\nwww.thetotaltransformation.com or call them at 1-800-460-2235 as they specialize in the very troubles you're dealing with and have very good answers and solutions....God help you and good luck
331877
Honey, DUMP that loser.  \n\nYou don't deserve that crap.  He thinks you'll just take it, but that's abuse.  If you're that bad, what is he doing with you?  \n\nHe just feels so insecure that he is putting you down.  This is NOT your problem.  Get rid of that dork!
518906
This is unacceptable behavior and this girl needs three things: Love, discipline, and professional help! Her mom seems very unstable and that was passed on to her daughter but it is not too late. I say you seek professional help and see what you should do. She should not be acting like this, she is very disturbed and needs attention! If not, you will probably have a 7 year old step daughter turned 15 year old pregnant drop out!\nAnd I suggest you do this before you have the baby because she may take out her rage on your newborn child!
90409
Depends if it is a school team or not.\n\nIf it is a school team, you could look at reporting him to the school. If it is a private team, perhaps your daughter can talk to her teammates to see if they have a similar problem with him and work to get a new coach. \n\nAlternatively, she could meet with him to sort out her problems. A coach can get much more out of his or her players by treating them well and offering constructive criticism. You should encourage her to be assertive.
691271
Let her know, calmly and respectfully, that it insults you. Then ignore the insult. If she sees you getting rattled, she will keep doing it. This happens a lot with kids who are looking for attention of any kind. If it keeps up for more than a few days, or other kids start getting involved, then you need to go to a trusted adult in the school. I hope that it does not come to that. Good luck.
437365
What you need to do is confront her...  And make sure it's infront a few people.  If you're around people while confronting her, she'll feel like total sh*t.\nBut make sure you're a 100% positive she's talking trash on you before you do so, or else you'll look like the fool.\n\nIt's childish, but you could do it. Talk trash right back... but instead of being a pansy or a coward like her... tell it right to her face.\n\nTry to limit the fighting... that usuall makes things worse... and cops. No one likes cops.  Lol.
38837
Just talk to her and treat her like anybody else.  If there is anything we hate, it is being treated "differently".\n\nBut one thing to remember, we often tend to be more traditional and conservative then other girls.  This is often our upbringing, where family, tradition, and culture is very important.
408727
Don't respond. Just nod and smile but don't make conversation. Be respectful because no mater what she feels about her own dad, showing disrespect to her father doesn't reflect well on you or your friendship. \n\nI've been in situations similar to this and sometimes holding your tongue is the most civil thing you can do.
988800
Talk to him.Honestly but nicely.Just say that you didnt know how to approach him, but this is a problem.Tell him you want him to try a new mouthwash/antiseptics.Let him know alot of people suffer from this and dont even know.Just be honest and remember to do it with respect.Dont lash out or make jokes.
414137
try to get him to stop being an ahole.... dont tollerate any disrespect
103723
He can't if it's his own child. A 15 year old is still legally considered a minor. He'll be in trouble for child neglect, possibly child abandonment, maybe child abuse. \n\nThere are other ways to deal with family problems.
286955
1.Because they weren't taught to respect their elders.  \n\n2. Because they aren't being treated with respect.\n\n3. Peer Pressure.\n\n4. Unresolved emotional issues.\n\nWithout knowing his age, it is hard to answer this question in the best way, but I will try to help as much as I can.\n\n1.Did his parents raise him to show respect? Maybe you could set a good example by showing how you treat people respectfully. Be careful when you  are upset or angry, to not say anything disrespectful in front of your grandson. Children learn what they hear and see.\n\n2.Do you treat him with respect? Children deserve respect too,and if they aren't getting respect in return, they may stop showing respect. Maybe by slightly exaggerating your respect for him, it will give him the incentive to return the respect.\n\n\n3.Peer Pressure is harder to deal with. Do the kids he hangs out with act disrespectful? If so maybe grounding him for disrespectful behavior would help him to learn to be his own person and not just follow the crowd. Explain to him why you are grounding him and how disappointed you are that he would treat you or anyone worthy of his respect with disrespect.\n\n4. Unresolved emotional issues can cause children to act disrespectfully. The only way to resolve the issues would be to get him professional counseling.\n\nMaybe if you sit down and talk with your grandson and discuss the problem with him, making sure to treat him with respect, he might just come around and start giving you respect. Let him know that this is a big problem for you and that you really want to solve the issue and would like his input. Be sure to ask him why he treats you disrespectfully and truly listen to his response.  You may be doing something, without knowing it, that is causing him to react this way to you. Maybe giving him the right to respectfully tell you that he doesn't like something you have said or done, would curb his disrespectfulness. Make him understand that treating you with disrespect will not be tolerated and that there will be consequences, so you would like to work with him to find a solution to the problem. \n\nOpen communication is always the best. \n\nYou do want to be careful about teaching children that they have to respect ALL elders or ALL people. They should be taught to "Treat" people respectfully, but actual respect has to be earned. \n\nI raised my daughter to give respect where respect was due. Not all elders deserve respect, so I think that just teaching them that they have to respect all people is wrong. She was taught to treat everyone with respect, until they did something to lose that respect. I certainly didn't want her to think she had to respect criminals, perverts etc.  Good Luck! =-)
501219
Another answer here says to take away the source. How are you going to do that? Put her in a convent until she's 21? Please. \n\nThe world is full of potty mouths and racists and thieves and worse. You can't keep her from encountering the bad people in this world. All you can do is teach her right from wrong. Rather than punish her, explain to her WHY it isn't accceptable to use those words. Explain respect. Explain that she should treat people the way she wants to be treated. You'll do fine, mom!
545992
tell him no. Geez. 15 is too young to have a brain apparently.
691598
Just tell him.  So what if it hurts his ego, at least he'll learn that what he does isn't funny or amusing.  If a person is 24 and shooting peas out his nose, his ego should be the least of his worries.  Personally, I'd rather have someone tell me that I'm a pompous blowhard than have people let me live in a fantasy world where I think I'm the Messiah.
84914
Don't even argue, and don't talk about other people.  Treat all people nicely, even the ones who are mean to you.\n\nFirst, treating people nicely will keep you out of trouble.  Second, it is no fun to bully someone if they won't get mad.  If you get mad, she will keep doing it.  If you don't, she will eventually feel foolish and stop, because it is not working.\n\nBottom line--be nice to everyone, even to her.  If you offer candy, offer her some.  If you play games, invite her to play.\n\nAny other solution will just lead to more trouble.  Even ignoring her won't make it go away, because she will see that it is bothering you, and you will eventually explode.
716974
Apparently this person has not learned the value of making a responsible decision.  \n\nHe's not going to heed advice because he's still too immature to hear what you are saying.\n\nHe's spoiled rotten and above having to follow the rules of society.  \n\nWhen he lands up in jail leave him there.  Tell him this.  Then try not to spend a lot of time with this person. \n\nWhen you do have conversation and he tells you about his inappropriate behaviors try not to react.  Respond as is appropriate, "Well, my friend, that sounds totally inappropriate."  Say it calmly and respectfully.  Don't react, respond.  And then end the conversation regarding his poor decision making and it's consequences.  He's a drama queen.  Don't feed into it.\n\nYou can't make decisions for him.  His behaviors are irresponsible.  Tell him that and then walk away.