I was in love with my best friend and he liked me. Now we don't talk & it's been months. How do i get him bac?
99061
Keep it quiet for a while (maybe 3months) & give him a surprise call one day just to have tea~~ & if he's gentlement enough, he'll be ur friend~ ^_^ else... it isn't even worth being friendz~~~
1017988
Well ask yourself what do you want? Ask him what he wants. If you feel you like him then i think you should tell him. But everyones a different person when their drunk. If you do feel awkward together then maybe things shouldn't go further because you've got to be comfortable with someone. I can understand why it would be awkward though, the day after is always awkward. Only you'll know what the next step is. Were you attracted to him before last night happened?\n\nI'm only 18 but already have regrets, from not going for things when i should of, do what you feel is right.\n\nGoodLuck ;-)
161016
It sounds like he has serious issues.\nNo matter how much you care about him,don't put yourself at\nrisk. If you tell him in person and he's drunk,he could get\nviolent. I would suggest a carefully worded,compassionate\nletter. If he comes by to see you after receiving it,don't\nbe alone with him if he's not sober.\n Whatever you do,not let him emotionally blackmail you into taking him back. A mentally unstable drunk is not a burden you want to bear,no matter what his redeeming qualities.
842201
if he is there again, call him on it AS SOON as he gets there..something like...I hope you don't plan on getting drunk and acting like an ass again.  If he DOES, leave.  Plan and simple..remove YOURSELF from the situation..the only person you can control is you.  Maybe your friend will see what a hindrance he is then.  Good Luck!
336857
Hah....oook. You're screwed. Take him to the hospital and drop him off there. Call the ER from a pay phone after you drop him off telling them what happened to your friend, except for what you did.\n\nThis is one of the many reasons why I don't drink.\n\nP.S. The funniest part is that you managed to spell everything correctly, while other people take their time typing and still can't spell anything right.
589297
I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
67544
There really isnt a FAST way.  But there are ways that are more beneficial than others.\n\nFirst, happy hands = a happy mind. AKA stay busy!  If your consantly busy doing something, you wont have as much time to think about him, and maybe, with all the activity, you might find a new friend.\n\nSecond, make sure that the break off is a clean one.  What I mean is, there should be nothing of his around you that will remind you of him.  No pictures, phone numbers, clothing items, etc.\n\nThird, make sure he understands that it is over.  Tell him however you need to, to make things clear.\n\nForth, let him go...with in yourself.  You can not HALF do this.  If you want to break it off, dont 2nd guess yourself.  You need to have confidence in your actions, and you need to believe that what you are doing is for the best.\n\nFinally, enjoy yourself.  After loosing something that had a large impact on your life for so long, you need to fill it with things that are fun for you.  Treat yourself!  Take yourself out, devote a day to the spa, or go to a bar/club with some girlfriends.  Stay positive and have fun.\n\nGood luck!
627883
Well if the guy is your friend (real friend) ...either if he loves you that way or not ( bf/gf) ....he will still respect you and talk to you ... he might ned time or feel unconftable for the frist 2 weeks but he will get over it if hes not interested...\n\nThe best thing tell him alone ...so no one else can laugh or say stupid stuff ( your friends can be your friends but sometimes they lack brain cells in situations likes theses)\nTell the guy you like him and if he doesnt feel the same way as you its fine, that you dont want the fact that your feelings might hurt the friendship you all have ...that you will survive if hes not interested...that you will not try to make him unconftable...or stalk him ...but if the feeling and similar...it would make you happy...
777110
Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
396864
you messed up. you should prove to him that he's all you really care about. i dont know how. thats something noone else can tell you how to do. you have to think about what matters to him. we dont know him on a personal level like you do. be creative.
803637
He just might be afraid of a relationship right now. Just give him the space that he wants, since you seem like a good friend. My guess is that this has happened to him more than once, but you shouldn't let him make those mistakes since your his friend. Just be there for him when the times are tough. When the time is right, he may think that it was worth the wait, but no more drinking!!! Good Luck!!!
121525
Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
383907
Find a support group. Your close friends, family or your bestfriend. Do things for YOU to make you feel that you don't need him. \n\nI don't know what happened between you two, but what matters most is how to make yourself happy.\n\n If he left, then I don't think he saw the best in you to stay! You deserve better!
185708
Having a friend in someone, especially a "best friends" situation would not make your guy disappear if you had a single fight. If he was not feeling the way you desired him to feel, then he may have decided not to not hurt you further and not talk at all.  Try to have a open conversation with him and tell him that you want his friendship back.  The only way you can show him that you care is by being his friend right now.  If you spend some time together then you may be able to get to know him better.  You may both decide that you want a BF/GF relationship after that.  Or, you may decide that in getting to know him better he is not Mr. Wonderful afterall.  You will have to be patient.  Things that are meant to be always work out for the best.  Good Luck.
1008494
Help from AA won't help him if he's fighting and drinking.  The fighting is a deeper problem, one that will (if it hasn't already) fall out on you.  You'll be in trouble if you get together with him and deep down you know it.  That's why you don't want to get in touch with him.  Telling him you "still care" will only hurt and confuse him and make him think you're coming back.  \n\nIt's time for you to take care of yourself and do things for yourself that are good for you - be your own best friend and find someone who will care about you first.
440165
Yes, come on! It's been 7 months! You said so yourself!\nInstead of thinking about a useless crap, why not hang out with your friends or something? Go to a bar, shop, party etc!\nYou'll see, you will forget him in no time and maybe find another one.
714246
Pull out the knife and move on.  Best friends don't stab you in the back..... so perhaps the friendship was one-sided.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue