How can I stop being insecure about looks?
105131
I would suggest counseling. It sounds like you have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked out. This is something more complex than a self esteem problem.\n\nLove yourself, you are beautiful and deserve to be happy!
969981
if it really bothers you so much you should consider getting braces . or just deal with it I'm sure you are a beautiful person inside and out it isn't all about looks all the time.
333388
You need to accept what you are and develop positive qualities.  Did you know that the image you project is directly related to how people respond to you?  If you are confident, people find you attractive because this is a desirable trait.  Change you attitude about yourself is an authentic manner, and people will respond.\n\nI have seen beautiful women and "hunky and handsome" men not get a date.  It's because of the insecurity and arrogance they portray.  Sexy is a state of mind.
1167898
Don't worry about it,guys at this time have 1 thing on their mind anyway and trust me it ain't your feelings. That one person will come along and boom it hits you both like lightning.Oh, and everyone to some degree has a self esteem problem with their looks so don't go flipping and tripping on yourself.E-mail me back.
39015
Well, if this makes you feel insecure, then you need to talk it over with him.\n\nFrankly, my husband has an appreciative eye for attractive women.  And, I don't mind staring at some men, either.  But, the line is, neither of us have ever ACTED on it (the old, Look with your eyes, not with your hands, line).\n\nIs your boyfriend staring at women thinkingm, "Boy, I would rather date her," or is he thinking, "Boy, she makes my girlfiend look mighty fine!"\n\nDon't leap to bad conclusions until you've talked to him about it.
714195
Just be yourself. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.  You dont worry what other people think about you.
829821
They don't dig you; trust me.  You need to stop being such a wuss first.  There is nothing more unattractive than someone without self-confidence.
1063915
You know that you are pretty, so nothing anyone says can change that.  Try writing a list of all of your good qualities, i.e., nice hair, nice handwriting, good body, pretty eyes, smart, popular etc.\n\nYou might want to check some self-help books out of the public library--there are many--and can be very helpful.  You also might want to see a doctor or counselor--you need to let it all out to someone you can trust.\n\nI hope you feel better very soon.  :)
568875
There's no specific way. I guess you just have to be yourself at all times. Also depends on what you're looking for. U could try all the above mentioned quick fix sites if you're that anxious. My advice to you is this:\n\nLive fully and completely always coz often we overlook other good things in our lives on our quest to find someone.\nAnd always ALWAYS SMILE!
134074
Low self esteem comes from exaggerating the importance of your weaknesses and minimizing the importance of your strengths.  The way to overcome it is to reverse this process.\n\nPeople have different skills, abilities, characteristics, and it is not uncommon for someone to consider the area in which they are most lacking to be the most important.  Thus, a pretty girl says looks are not important, but brains are; a smart girl says looks are more important.\n\nThe fact is, you must play to your strengths, and develop them.  Look around at the people you admire:  what are the reasons you admire them?  Don't you think other people can admire you for what you are, and not for those areas in which you are found wanting?\n\nAll my life, I have been told that it comes down to money, looks and brains; I failed to consider other factors, such as integrity, courage, good manners, good judgment.  I was below average in money and looks, and so discounted the extent to which I was above average in intelligence, as well as the importance of intelligence in other people's eyes.  This is especially a problem because envy cannot be recognized lest a person seem vain.  My beautiful friend cannot, with good manners, admit to others that she is very beautiful, so she does not see that she must admit it to herself.  \n\nLook for your strengths, develop them.  Look for situations where those strengths are most important, and pursue them.\n\nGood luck!
240758
Before you can address the issue with your boyfriend, you need to address your issues with your body image.  Instead of picking yourself apart, build yourself up.  If you feel you're "chubby", try losing weight if that will make you feel better about your body image.  If you feel you're "plain looking", try a little makeup or a new hair color to see what works for you.  \n\nIt's a cliche, but true beauty really does come from within.  If you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you?  Guys get bored with girls who trash themselves.  It's like saying to them everyday, "Why are you with an ugly girl with me when you could be with someone prettier?".  Basically, you're second-guessing his high opinion of you.  It's may be a matter of time before he starts to agree with your poor body image and moves elsewhere.  \n\nJust because you value meaningful things like art over binge drinking and freak dancing doesn't make you less of a person, or unattractive.  Intellectual pursuits are much sexier to the right kind of guy.\n\nAs for the jealousy thing, you either trust your boyfriend or you don't.  If you think he's actually going to make a move on these other girls, maybe you should reconsider dating him.  If he is geuinely uninterested in these other girls and your insecurities are driving this persistant jealousy, try and find your own sex appeal and work on building yourself up!\n\nDon't waste another minute hating yourself.  Life is too short, and one day you'll realize you had nothing to hate about yourself to begin with.
446620
i am not skinny myself and i have been with a very good looking faithfull man for the past 4 years so it will happen for you.  i think it is very important to feel comfortable with your weight though because if you are not comfortable with the way you look then a man is not going to approach you for fear of rejection the way you are rejecting your body.  if you are not comfortable in your skin try to do something about it.  see a dr. if you have tried and nothing worked.  but most importanly you have to love yourself before any one other than family will fall in love with you.  we all have a beauty of our own,  combine your physical beauty with your inner beauty and your man will come but dont rush it.  the right ,man will come along  probably when you arent looking for it.  and there are men with a prefrence for larger women.  good luck and god bless
812592
first of all..if u have already set urself up for failure by saying ur ugly looking and shy.  girls like guys who are confident and a little bit agressive..not too much..but guys who take the lead and do not back down.  Stop calling urself shy and ugly looking..build up ur self esteem..u have to take pride in urself..no one will do it for you!!  find ur confidence..and you will get the girl.. do not be intimidated by her looks..that is just the shell of the person she is..if she turns you down..move on to the next conquest..and stop callin urself ugly..that so bothers me!!  I hate to see people do that to themselves!!!  hope this helped.. : )
425914
"Pretty" is more an attitude than a look.  The first thing you need is some mojo.  Go stand in front of a mirror until you have some mojo.  Do something that scares you until you have more mojo.  Then, go to a department store, sit at the makeup counter and make one of those hard-hitting labcoat-wearing women get to work on you.  Get some clothes that flatter your figure instead of showing off its shortcomings.  Finally, go back to the mirror and repeat "you want some of THIS?" to yourself OUT LOUD at least 100 times.  Now you are ready for society.  If that guy doesn't like you after that, another guy will.
455825
I had the same problem when i was growing up.  It didn't help my situation at all that I had two sisters who were gorgeous!!  They totally teased me everyday (I was chubby and wore glasses).  When I turned seventeen, I needed a change of scenery (I had other problems as well), so joined the Army.  After PT and contact lenses, I went home for the holidays.  Everybody kept saying how different I looked, and how pretty I was.  It totally boosted my ego.  I'm not saying join the Army or anything, but maybe you need a scenery change too.  Get away from the people who make you feel insecure.  I guarantee it will change the way you feel about yourself.\n\nYou don't need someone to tell you that you're beautiful, or smart, or anything.  Tell yourself..... it only matters what you think about yourself.
473285
OK do one thing smile..look yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are don't worry about what others think. if they are going to be shallow let them and just think how more mature you are. Ive had acne every1 has its just something every1 goes through. some have it worse then others but i think by you worrying about it .it makes it worse like when I'm stressed i break out . you can go to a dermatologist if it really bothers you but being more pretty for your bf isn't something that you should worry about. when your older looks fade whats left is the heart and that's something that cant get ugly if your a good person. it does bug me if i have acne but i try to look past it . i hate seeing girls with perfect skin lol
155856
Well maybe you shouldn't worry about the looks.  You need to find a guy with a good heart and keep him  They are hard to come by.  But, when you find a good man try not to push him away.  You are so young you have a lot of life a head of you.  Take your time and have fun.  Life is to short to worry about the small things.