How do you act on a couples date if you know your husbands friend has feelings for you?
113196
Just be yourself as you are when you're with your husband.   Your friend has to deal with his own feelings.  If you show some consideration for him, it just might fuel his feelings for you.  Unless you're on an ego trip, this will definitely be detrimental in the long run both to your relationship with your husband and your husband's relationship with his friend if he finds out.
872003
I think you should go with #1..he wants you to meet his family! Awesome...and it sounds as though you are going as a date. with #2 it sounds like friends hanging out with friends.
751625
You can try to address it jokingly, at least once, with him to see if he gets the hint.  Say something like, "Dude!  Need my personal space please!" (and gesture the amount of personal space you would like) or "Quit trying to wrestle with me!" or "Hey, don't mess the 'do!"  Or have your husband jokingly step in and pull you away and put his arm around you, saying "Hey, this one's mine, yours is over there!"\n\nIf he doesn't take the hint, you can try approaching him discreetly and privately, and telling him that while you enjoy his company, the physical rough-housing isn't as much fun for you, he doesn't know his own strength, you prefer a little more personal space, etc.  Or you can go to  your friend and ask her to talk with him.  Be sure to stress that it's nothing personal or negative against him, it's just not your thing.
407546
If he is your friend I would just have a talk with him and tell him your feelings. You need to be sure you like him and want to be more than friends first thou. You should also be prepared because he may not feel the same way. Once you tell him your feelings and he doesnt like you in the same way it could cause stress on the friendship relationship. Thats kinda how it is when someone wants a friendship to be more. It seems like this guy is some kind of player too because you say hes talking to other women. What if you go out with him, he could be dating other women behind your back. Some guys say that theyre not cheating and that they will be faithful, more than half of the time theyre lying about that. You need to think out the advantages and disadvantages before you follow through with telling your friend about your true feelings.\n\n*Good Luck*
613564
I don't understand why married men think they still need to go out 'with the guys' once they get married...\n\nAfterall, they ARE grown up, they should act like it... they are not some hormonal college kids out looking for girls or whatever.\n\nThey grew up and got married... they shouldn't be out acting like they did when they were single.  He made the choice to give up the 'single scene' when he got married.  He needs to grow up.\n\nWhy can he not be happy going out with just you?  You are his wife, afterall.   He can still have friends, but what's the problem with them hanging out at the house?  Maybe get together for cards or something like that?  There are lots of things guys can do if they feel the need to 'hang out' together.  Heck, the friend can even bring his wife (and kids, if there are any) along to your house!  That way, you can all hang out together.  Married couples do that all the time!\n\nNo way would I put up with that!  I had a man like that... he wanted to be a husband but still wanted the single life...  and you can't have it both ways.  You either want to be married or you don't.  Simple as that.\n\nHe is not only a husband, but a father as well!  He needs to get his priorities straight!\n\nP.S.~~  Your husband has no problem with the way the friend speaks to you??  Perhaps you should tell the immature friend that you know who wears the pants in HIS family... his Mommy and Daddy!  Tell him to be a man and get out of Mommy and Daddy's house and support his family and back off from yours.\n\nHe has no problem belittling you so I would have no problem doing the same to him.
385558
honey you can't help who u fall n love with but if your not sure if he likes u sit him down and ask him how he feels about u don't tell him u love him after u find out and if he likes u ask him out and go from there i've been there i never thought that i would ever go out on a date with this guy and now i'm married 2 him
1022507
I think you have two choices:\n\n1. You can be nice and tell that man that you are not precisely sure because your friend likes him.\nIf she's yr friend, and you know she likes him, would nt it hurt her that you marry him? yes it will.\nBut friends do change and many when a man comes that they like. It happens over and over.\n\nNow do you want to be the nice one or the one thinking of yr life instead?\n\nYou also have a life. you have wishes, fantasies, plans, goals. Do you have marriage in yr plans? Do you like this guy and want to marry him and know it will work fo ryou two?\n\nWhat if you hurt yr friend and discovered that you also got hurt because of the guy not being for you precisly for a husbande? that would suck wouldnt it?\n\nSo evaluate yr life, yr goals, and how important it is to you whether to save yr friendship with yr girlfriend and ditch a guy's proposal or whether to accept the guy's proposal and risk loosing yr friend.\n\nThat is up to you. \n\nI cannot tell you  I'd do this or that because I am not in that situation myself. All I know is that I would go for love true love all teh way. Who is going to give you that? \n\nYOu are the judge on  yr life and yr particular situation , i've just given  you some examples of htings to think of before making a move and hurting you or others.\n\nIf yuo want to not gt hurt and not hurt him and not hurt her, avoid him altoghert and make all kinds of excuses so that he has no chance to talk to you again ever.\n\nhe will get the hint after 10 times you runnnnnn the other way when he shows up.\n\nRemembe3r that is if you dont want t o cause problems for anybody. but if you love this guy too or want him then uyou obviously should not do the last recommendation here.\n\nGood luck.
1157983
next time he is tlaking to your friend go over there and be like "what are you guys talking about.." and then just casually ask your friend and him if they want to go to the movies. Later your friend will become suddenly "ill" and unable to go to the movies thus leaving you and will on a first date!
584698
u need to tell him or otherwise u will dwell on it 4 2 long and the right person 4 u wont be there at all....my best friend told me that he liked me when he knew that i was in love w/ my husband (he wasnt my husband then tho)...he knew it was never gonna happen but he did it neway...we're still best friends...if ur friend is the kind of friend u say he is, then he shouldnt mind u tellin him at all
818215
On the one hand, it is perfectly normal to have a close friend you can turn to outside of a marriage just to talk about things from a different perspective.\n\nOn the other hand, when you are talking about more than friendship, if nothing else you should think about how your husband might feel if and when he finds out.  (How would *you* feel if you found out your husband was having an affair with an old friend, even someone you knew?)  The longer your affair goes on, the more likely it is he will find out, even if he is trusting enough not to be looking for it.\n\nIf what you really need is just a friend to talk to about things, someone you can just chill with occasionally, then by all means don't discard your old best friend -- but if that is what you really want, then stick to being friends.  If things are going further than friendship there then you need to ask yourself what it is that you really need besides another friendly face to talk to.... is it purely physical?  Is it emotional, the idea of extra attention?  \n\nIf something is lacking in your marriage, try talking to your husband about it.  Guys aren't real good about talking about emotions, but we are even worse at reading minds.  Your husband will be pretty slow to clue in that something's not right if you don't tell him.  --Besides, you might be surprised.  If the guy really loves you, chances are he will do his best to make you happy again.\n\nIf it isn't so much that you are feeling like anything is lacking in your marriage at all, but you just like having "something extra"... well.... how fair is that for your husband?  Being in a committed relationship means a certain amount of compromise and sacrifice -- you can't just go out and do anything you want regardless of your partner.  In a good relationship, though, the relationship itself is worth a lot more than what you have to give up.  \n\nIf your affair is worth more to you than your marriage, then maybe you should think things through a little more carefully.
741859
For the moment forget about your own friend.  You said you " only think of the guy as a friend and but he's okay "...based on that alone why would you choose to go out on a date with him.  You don't have an interest in any potential relationship developing with him so based on that alone...don't accept his invitation for a date.  Now, in addition to that, your friend really likes him, so to add that factor in...certainly don't accept the date.
270919
As a married female. No adding a male friend to your list is not an affair. First answer this, is he romantically interersted in you? Is your affection towards him romantic, or fantisizing bout him? Then no dont add him. Are you both agreed on that your only friends and nothing else. Then yes add him.
864952
U NEED TO  DO WHAT MAKES U HAPPY, SO WHAT UR FRIENDS DON'T LIKE HIM\n\nTHIS IS UR ONLY CHANCE\n\nBE BLUNT, FOWARD, HONEST, AND OPEN COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO REMEMBER\n\nWHAT HAPPENS IF U END UP MARRYING THIS PERSON ?\n\nU NEED TO LET UR FRIENDS KNOW WHERE U STAND, THAT THERE ARE THINGS THAT MAKE U HAPPY AND IF THEY CAN'T ACCEPT IT THEY DON'T HAVE TO.\n\nI HAD THIS PROBLEM SEVERAL TIMES, AND I EXPRESSED MYSELF TO BOTH PARTIES, AND THEY BOTH UNDERSTAND HOW I FELT, AND GUESS WHAT ?\n\nI ENDED UP MARRYING HIM BECAUSE I KNEW THAT THIS WAY MY ONLY CHANCE\n\nAND AS FAR AS MY FRIENDS WERE CONCERNED, THEY ACCEPTED IT, AND THEY SHOWED RESPECT TO ME\n\nWE BOTH PROVED THEM WRONG, THEY SAID THAT WE WOULDN'T LAST NO MORE THAN 6 MONTHS, AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS
305440
Tell your husband and make sure he's okay with it. and then tell the other guy that you can only be friends and make sure he knows that because if a guy doesn't know that he will probably try to get you to like him.
707972
A good friend makes the best girlfriend or spouse. You really know each other. There is no role playing when you are friends first. You don't need to try to impress each other. You know what she's like on good and bad days, and you know what bugs you about her, and have decided that that's something you can live with. I assume you see each other often, if you are friends. My husband and I never "dated", we just kept seeing each other as friends until I finally admitted that I loved him. That was his opportunity to say he felt the same. After that, we did more romantic things when we saw each other, but we still never went on a "date". We'll be married 30 years this January. I think you should simply be honest with her and tell her how you feel, and see what she says.
639114
Try not to let the allure of the flattery get to you! You know deep down you don't want anything to happen to hurt your marriage, but we're all human, and when someone is giving you this kind of attention, it feels good and is natural to want to encourage it on some level. Don't do this!! It's not worth it. Explain again the situation to your husband, and ask him to take you on a date, flatter you, and make you feel good so it will be easier to tell this coworker to cool it. Husbands mean well, but after awhile, they can get lax on the romance and flattery stuff, so you tend to want it from other people. Ask your husband to up the ante for the time being. Consistently be professional and aloof to your coworker until he gets the hint and moves on to someone else. And then, don't be jealous! Easier said than done, because it's human nature, even if you're not really interested in him.
532539
This may sound childish but you’ll never know unless you try. (ROLE PLAY) walk right up to her and introduce yourself, ask what her name is and if she’ll mind if you call her some time. Then do call and (TALK) & (LOSTEN) and ask if she’d like to go out some time this week you know a great place *Note: if you have kids make arrangements so that she can’t say NO and if she can’t go ask her out again (do the thing you as her husband knows she likes, it’s like dating allover again, but this time you have the cliff notes)   get creative, get romantic, don’t let your second chance blow by.