i had sex with lots of guys and i feel like a whore, but i just lost a love that was stronger then anything?
100268
Okay, I know first hand that love hurts. No matter what happened in your last relationship if it is meant to be then it is meant to be. All you really need to do is pray to God forgiveness for ALL of your sins and mean everyword. Just ask God for his help. That is what I did and i'm married with a set of Twin boys! things WILL work out for the best. And don't degrade yourself into having sex with all of those guys. And i have something personal to tell you also. When you have sex alot with other men you can accually lose some sensation in your vagina. So i encurage you to seek in answers from the Lord our Savior!!!! Good Luck and God Bless you!!!!!!!
302810
I promise, you'll feel better after a few pity parties with Ben & Jerry.  And you WILL find someone who really loves you... just be sure to use protection.  DON'T have a one-night stand... you'll only feel dirty for giving the gift that keeps on giving to someone else.  Just remember, you are a wonderful person and she was not worthy of you, and by being responsible you are proving how much more you are worth to the world than she is.  Good luck and best wishes!
163209
yes I feel like that everyday. then the guys I encounter are less than stellar. I think we all have to have faith, live our lives for our self and have fun regardless of if he comes. If you just sit around and wait you will miss the pleassure of living your life! so cry a bit get over it and do something that makes you happy. you never know you might meet the right person while you are in the mist of having fun...
652699
Why aren't you over this lover? I wouldn't waste my time thinking of anyone that left me high and dry for another person. You need to work on your self esteem because you are missing a person who obviously didn't care and respect your feelings. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea who will stay with you and not abandon you. Pray for someone to love you as much as you love them,  go out with your friends more, talk to someone you trust about your feelings, date people(you don't have to sleep with them) and go out and socialize
383443
If you have these feelings after sex, it means you have emotional problems that need to be treated by a professional. Sex is a beautiful act that should be performed between people that love each other, and would never leave you "sick and empty." I hope you seek help because this reaction is not normal.
173300
i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
318380
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
940471
Ok, this may shock you as I have different feelings about sex than you do but hear me out. Sex is not that big a deal. It is a natural thing that occurs everywhere all the time. Losing your virginity is NOT that big a deal either, it shows you the beginning to a world of natural instincts, however it has consequences so be careful from now on. Get it out the way (not from a young age mind you, I was 17 when I lost mine and that is a common age even though sometimes I feel the kids of today are starting to blossom earlier - I am going on now...). Nothing came from having unprotected sex did it? No babies on the way? No STD's or diseases? No? Then realise that you had a good time with no consquences of a physical nature and move on, not point dwelling on the past - you can't change it. Just learn from it. Don't be afraid to try new things either, its fun and you're not the first ever to try it ok.\n\nLife is not always that bad, not always great but not that bad either. Partying is always fun, but going to the extreme and partying all the time is bad for your health. I suggest you join a group or get a job (good luck with the interview by the way) and meet new people that way. Charity work is always rewarding and you meet new people too. As for your roomate, there are ways to live with people even if you don't like them. I work with guys I can't stand and as I am in the Army, its hard to get away from them, I learn to deal with it. It strengthens my character to be the bigger man and act like the mature adult I am rather than stoop to their lows. Just remember that there are others out there less fortunate than yourself and pick up your head. \n\nOn the God thing..... I am agnostic. If he exists, which in your case you believe he does, you must seek him, not the other way around. He won't come and say hey, pick your chin up and be better for it. You have to do it yourself, and thank Him for the realisation that the only thing you can do to help someone is to show them how to help themselves. \n\nSo remember, sex is great, join a social group, find a charity to work for or a paying job (school first though), live life with your head held high and proud, and look after yourself in a hard world. Good luck.
579542
We all have our indiscretions. You made a mistake, you know it, get over it.\n\nYou need to forgive yourself and move on.  It doesn't matter what others think.  What matter most is what you think of yourself. \n\nThe fact that you feel remorse makes you a good person with values who needs to move on and not make the same mistake again.
686756
Well us guys have 2 heads - one that houses the brain, and the other that's on the end of the penis.  And rarely do they both work at the same time.  Maybe your friend will have reflected on things today and regret some of his actions, especially since he did not want you to do the same.  But people are always looking for something (was it just sex, or more?) so I think you have to try to understand that when the opportunity comes along you may also regret passing it up.\n\nSorry your feeling bummed out though.
333557
My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.
897269
You really screwed up. Guys are really sensitive about sex, so when you criticize their performance they feel like you're attacking their manhood. Sure, he may have overreacted but it was only because you made him feel like a lesser man! Buy him a present, show up at his house/apt/whatev and apologize. Tell him that you were tired/ill and in a bad mood. Take complete responsibility for the argument (even if you don't think you should) and tell him that he means the world to you and you don't want to lose him just because you were in a bad mood. Tell him that you'll never do it again and that he is amazing in bed. In fact, tell him he is a sex god and you are not worthy of his amazing oral. Make him feel like a man again. So go! Ask him to take you back!! GOOD LUCK!!
360327
I am not being rude or judging you, but maybe you should talk to a councilor. I am sorry to here of your lose, but remember you are not the one that passed on, you are a live and you shouldn't feel guilty about moving on. It will feel like that you are comparing, but if you hang in there you will find the things that you like about the new guy in your life. Hang in there and don't give up. Good luck.
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Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there.  Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run.  As for you,  I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with.  I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you.  Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you.  Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him.  If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you.  For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that.  Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you.  Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt".  If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one.  OR the next one will cheat on you too.  So take your pick, karma's a b**ch.  And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around.  Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend).  You only have yourself to blame.
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I know how you feel, although my rape was very different from yours. First off, please remember that it WAS NOT your fault. Even if you would lose a court case, it is still worth fighting... Also, obviously this guy is a sexual predator, I would make sure that all of your girlfriends know to avoid him.
568184
sounds like your upset with yourself for throwing your virginity away. take it for the lesson it is. don't give it away because you're curious
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If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.