How do I deal with a guy who wants to be with me but does not want to make a committment?
99902
COMMUNICATION... Let him know what you want out of the relationship. After all, you don't want to waist your time,or his. Then again, who cares about his?
14857
Not easy to know without knowing him, but probably he does want a non-threatening source of sex. And he probably doesn't want to be alone, and you are like a safety blanket for him. And he probably does have good feelings for you, but doesn't want to make a commitment.\n\nThe question for you is whether you want a relationship like this. Does it meet your needs? Do you want a committed relationship? I doubt you will get it from him.
728389
What happens when you don't suggest hanging out? Believe me, if a guy wants to be with a girl, nothing is going to get in his way: not war, flood, poverty and certainly not pride. Back off a bit and give him space. If he doesn't call you - find someone new who will.
829869
If you have feelings for him then don't be a **** buddy.\n\nIf he is not contacting you then let it go.\n\nIf you want something more, let him know what you want and see if he will step up.  Of course if he is not calling you, he is giving you a pretty clear message that he is just not that into you.
980216
Just because he says he doesn't want to fall in love, doesn't mean it won't happen to him. If he likes hanging out with you without always getting some, then he at least wants to be friends with benefits. And if he's paying for stuff, then he wants to be more than friends. What's that saying...actions speak louder than words?
1094375
have you talked to him about your desire to be married one day?  he may be afraid of committment.  if a man can have sex with you, live with you, be fed by you, etc., then he's getting all the goods for nothing.  why marry when you can get it all without the committment?  don't know if that's your situation, but likely he's not thinking about it because he's getting all the benefits of being married without actually having to go all the way.\n\nby the way, if he's not interested that probably will not change anytime soon.  it may be time to move on if you truly want to be with someone who wants to marry you.  never force it.  that will come back to bite you in the butt sooner or later.
712198
tell him you really value his friendship and that you don't want to lose it. but if he keeps pressuring you to date him when you don't feel that way it's going to make it harder to keep that friendship. \n\nalso if you have any girl friends that seem to meet his style, try hooking them up to really put home that you don't want him.
600248
Unfortunately, we cannot make someone feel the same way about us or want a long-term relationship.\nSounds like the men you have been involved with just are not ready for that kind of commitment. I would strongly take a look at the kind of men you are attracting and perhaps go out of your way ,and give a chance to, someone who isn't necessarily your type. Even if it means going slightly out fo your comfort zone i.e. perhaps the nice guy at the bookstore or checkout counter that you might have let slip by at first glance. By doing this you'll have opened up more doors to find someone who is on the same wavelength as you, and who shares the same relationship values.
115512
Instead of asking here, you should be asking him directly. If he says yes, then get a firm commitment (date, etc.). If he says no, you need to accept it and move on. If you try to change the mind of someone whose mind is set, it can be a bad outcome.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskils.com
787448
Guys tend to take a longer time to commit.  They need more than a month.  Perhaps he wants to commit too, but doesn't want to say anything.  Watch the way he acts around you when you are alone and when you are with other people.  If he remains the same when he is with you alone and with others, than perhaps he's wanting this to be long term as well.  If you can't be patient than talk to him.  Ask him how he feels about your relationship, and ask him to be honest.  Has he ever committed before?  That is perhaps the best way to know if he'll commit.  If he's done it before than he can do it again.  Don't throw your chance with him away to quickly, just give it alittle more time, and you will find your answers
270540
It sounds as if he is getting comfortable, and he may be a person who is scared of or doesn't want a commitment. Have you voiced your sentiments to him of how badly it makes you feel when he doesn't call? If not, that may be the turning point. You will probably get a better feel of his intentions by his reaction to the conversation. Beyond that, I would definitely not give him your "heart" until you absolutely know what he wants out of the relationship. Good Luck!\n\nLilD
819829
Try explaining to him that you are busy sometimes, that doesn't mean that you aren't into him it just means that you don't have the time to give him the attention that you think he deserves.  He might be happy with that and it will keep your relationship honest.
399411
It doesnt sound like he is fully committed to you yet. You should give it time and see where it leads. If it doesnt change look elsewhere.
425794
You've got a simple case of wanting what you can't have!  You don't really want him; you just want him to want you.  Once you realize that's your problem, you can move on and have a healthy relationship with someone worthy of you.
258397
Sure. But the thing is, love is a very strong word and the guy may not be ready to reciprocate. If he says he doesn't think he's ready to say that, do not be discouraged.
770503
first off....any man that runs at the sound of commitment needs to be let go anyway. you have saved yourself from any effort of finding out he's a jerk just by letting him know and letting him run. any man worth keeping, it also looking for a relationship. don't accomodate yourself so you can waste your time with someone who is being very clear about not wanting a relationship with you.
616610
It sounds like he may really like you, but it also sounds like he is a bit overprotective. If you decide to pursue this relationship, make sure that he understands the rules. You have to have your space, and if he insists on being with you ALL the time, he may be a bit more serious than you would be comfortable with. If you don't want to be in a exclusive relationship (which is what it sounds like he wants), I'd look elsewhere.