HELP!!i just had a baby with a man that i truly love but i have a problem...?
114463
I would say your man doesnt respect your feelings for him or respect you. If he did he wont be behaving the way he is right now. I suggest you dump him. That should be your goal. Get selfish. And being selfish is not getting back at him or getting even, its just you are trying to protect yours and ur baby's future. Find a job, start working, be a woman, be empowered, live life and find peace.
486917
well the first thing you do is tell your bf.\nyou both need to talk about how you feel about the baby.\n\nYou are going to be facing alot of choices and decisions.  Take time to sort through them all. This is a huge step in life no matter how you handle it.\n\nat this point your best mate has nothing to do with the decisions you have to make. Deal with that issue later.\n\nBest of luck!!!
289533
HAVE YOU TRIED TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL!? LETTING GO IS NEVER EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR AROUND ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME!! BUT, AS A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID, "WHAT DOESN'T KILL US WILL MAKE US STRONGER" AN I BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE! I THINK YOU OUGHT TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER ALL TOGETHER UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN(SURE LET HIM COME TO DR. APPT. AN STUFF) BUT AS FAR AS SEEING ONE ANOTHER DON'T DO IT! THIS WAY IT WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM AN HE CAN STILL BE INVOLVED IN THE BABIES LIFE!!! AN THEN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AN IF YOU STILL FEEL THE NEED TO BE AWAY FROM HIM THEN TELL HIM! THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT HAVING TO BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER! I KNOW THIS CAN'T BE EASY FOR YOU(BEING PREGNANT) AN ALL!! BUT, I WISH YA THE BEST AN HOPE THAT MY ADVICE CAN BE SOME HELP TO YOU! IF YA WANT YOU CAN EMAIL ME AN I'LL TRY TO HELP ANYWAY I CAN!!!\n\n\nBEST OF LUCK!!!
1153968
I think the first thing you need to do is get rid of this man.  If that is the kind of life he wants to live, let him live it without you.  I know it's easy for me to sit here and say that, but do you really deserve a man who is going out and getting someone else pregnant?  I understand your concern for the innocent baby, but if there really is a problem in the home contact DCFS and let them deal with it.   Do yourself a favor and put some serious thought into just why you are fighting so hard to stay with this man.  You deserve better, no woman deserves to be treated like this.
382497
Be grateful that he isn't a deadbeat daddy for one thing! Talk to him about how you feel. I don't know the specifics about your relationship, but think about WHY you feel he is obligated to his baby's mother. Of course you should understand that he has a responsibility to his son.
606587
Well since that happened to me a yr ago, I suggest that u tell him that it's over and that u want him to be part of the baby's life. In my situation her and me have an understanding where I get to have him for 2 weeks out of the month and so does she. She just came out and told me, I wasn't so happy about it but I got use to it and realized that she really wanted it to be over. Anyways if U need some more advice on this e-mail at elguapo_v12@yahoo.com Well good luck and remember just sit down with him and tell him what u really feel...
219075
If you are not in a committed relationship with your baby's daddy, then its really none of you're business what (or who) he does.  If you are in a comitted relationship, kick him to the curb, along with the skank he's sleeping with, as she is not your friend.  But, again, if you two are not in a comitted relationship, then toucg luck for you, and you shouldn't have slept with him in the first place.
972448
he sounds like bad news. having someone cheat on you is heartbreaking and you should concentrate on your baby instead of his drama.  you deserve better.
1100054
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
964226
Awww, not too many women can say they have the best hubby in the world and sound as convincing as you! Just make sure he knows that's how you feel about him, enjoy spending time with him and the new (to him still) baby, don't worry so much - it will rub off on him, let him do a few of the things you've become used to doing on your own - all men want to feel needed, and just be happy........Happy Holidays to you and your family.
552589
My wife went through the same thing. You are most likely with your baby all the time. There is alot of cuddling between the two of you. Your feelings of closeness are being satisfied by your baby! Your desire for sex is gone because of this. To help get it back, plan a time you and your spouse want to have sex! I know this isn't always the most romantic way but you want to get it back and this is a way to do it. Plan about 3-5 days ahead. This gives you time to think about how great it will be and get excited about just the two of you having some time alone. (when the baby is sleeping obviously) About an hour before you two are together, try to relax and transition from being a Mother to being that sexy lady you were and still are for your hubby/boyfriend. If you can make this transition the first time, you will be able to do this from now on!\nRemember, just relax, think positive and sexy thoughts and it will happen for you. Good luck!
675942
Congratulations! A baby is always a blessing in disguise. Talk through your concerns with your partner, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. Good luck!
389522
I'll never understand WHY women refuse to stop loving men who f*ck them over every chance they get,it's like you guys are happy when your feeling like sh*t.look forget this piece of sh*t your going to have to do try to make it with out him.if you have friends or family that can help then ask them if not,find a good christian church ask to speak to someone and tell then your story if they are really workers of the lord they will help you.(I was once homeless and a pastor helped me get on my feet)try social services.I know it will be rough but remember the stormy days don't last forever and sun must shine one day.you just have to be strong and be patient.as far as this guy goes if he loved you would be asking this question on yahoo right now?!when the baby is born take him to court and make him pay his share of the load.but until then your going to have to do it.you don't love him you only love what you want him to be,what you think he should be,what he used to be.except who he really is CRAP!! think about it has he made your life any better or happier since you met him? don't sound like.now ask yourself if you still love him.
921428
Bring out his BAD side.  Make him seem incapable of raising the baby and show that you are better capable.  It works effectively.  Good Luck\nA.L.
384014
ok calm down in the child support ofice they are going to make a test, there u are going to find out if is hes or not, if you were in love enough to forgive him maybe u can work this out is a part of him what are u talking about(meaning if if his baby) so take the good thing about this and enjoy him and the baby. ok is been 6 yrs are u ready to live him for the same mistake that you already forgave him. think about it and be honest to your self.... do you really love him? and care enough to go through thtis with him? is a big test u know?
576604
Ask him if he really loves you. If he loves you enough, he will want to have the baby with you. Sometimes, life has its own surprises, he may find it a piece of good news too.\n\nJust in case, he does not. Both of you better see a counsellor first. If there are monetary problems, see a financial advisor.\n\nBy the way, congratulations!