Should I move in with my bf family?
112951
If you feel weird about it don't do it.  I think it would be better if you keep your independence and don't rely upon them.  It is great to be close to your bf's family but there also should be some distance so you can be you without having to worry that they may be watching every thing you do.
1005987
Yes, its close. Problem is not in closeness. You get a crush on any guy anywhere, if it is gonna create any problems for you then your home cant remain un affected. I would say, do not base your relation based on distances of your houses. If he is really worth it go for it... And when you said 'if anything were to happen' it indicated that you are not very mature in your thinking process. I say be careful. You cant afford to ruin anything be being careless. Its your responsibility to decide and think in the welfare of you and your family. Neighbour means they have and interaction with you and your family too. Bottoml line is its more likely to get exposed sooner. Take care
1101640
Is his well-being as important to you as your own?  Does he feel the same about you?  Is the long distance problem a necessary thing (you EACH have an ill family member who needs your care, or are completing college at separate institutions which specialize in your field), or is it just not all that convenient to be together?  Are you with him because your life would be poorer without him, or because you're used to him and afraid to find someone who would meet more of your needs?  Are you compatible on your future plans on children (or no children), religious beliefs, monetary issues?\n\nThese are questions you'll have to answer yourselves.  One of you may just have to compromise if you want to live together...one of you may have to move.  If neither of you are willing, I would wonder about the depth of your commitment.
1148996
her parents will allow you to rent the basement. you will have your own space, so it will not be the exact same as when you "move in " with a girlfriend.  Besides, you need to ask yourself the question...how do you feel about this girl? do you see potential there? if so, discuss with her the situation, that the living arrangement would really help you out financially, but you are worried that it might be moving too fast in your relationship.  most importantly, if you do move in ...respect her, respect her parents, and don't be late paying the bills....it will look good for you all around.  good luck...i say do it!
450218
I would probably give it a bit more time.  Your still in that honeymoon stage where you haven't gotten to know each others bad habits all that well yet.  When you move in together then you have to live with those bad habits plus you have the added pressure of dealing with all the finances and living expectations that go with it.
711663
you can not put a worth or price tag on love!!! If you love this man it would not matter if you lived together in a cardboard box as long as you two are together! Your family is only looking out for your best interest so don't get upset with them over it.A parent only wants the best for their child and they already have Been through the struggles of life and most likely don't want you to have to do the same! It does make it easier when someone is are already established in love but your heart just cant see if they have money or not nor does it care! I can however from experience say that its as easy to marry for love as it is for money money does not make the world go around but I'm telling ya it sure does help!Unfortunately we live is a society where unless you make a certain figure you just cant hardly make ends meet!You say things are looking up It doesn't matter if he lives with his parents and he doesn't have a car does he have potential or is he just one of these guys that plans on mooching off of mom and dad forever I mean is he in school ,is he at a job where he has the potential of moving up in the company or is he one who sits at home all day eating potato chips and playing video games!!You have to look with your eyes as well as your heart!If this is what you know you want in life then by all means go for it but realize what you are getting into and if he can not support the two of you just plzz think b4 you bring someone (a child) into it as well! What we choose for ourselves is our business but once you bring in a child the choice and decisions you make in life are not for just you so you have to make them all for them!!!I do hope that Love will conquer all and that you get to go with your heart in the end ,just plz do yourself a favor and make a a list of things that are good and bad about him and be honest if you don't write it honestly your only hurting yourself but write down everything his goals his chances of reaching them where you see him in a few years and think to yourself in 10 years is this what I want for myself? You don't have to break up with him because hes not financially stable but plz do yourself this favor and not marry him until he can take care of you and your future family!! the best of luck to you!!
726812
I have a pretty open family, so no, I have not suffered any kind of prejudice.  No, I did not regreat living with my hubby before we got married, in fact, I'm glad I did.  It's as close to marriage as you can get.  You just have a legal obligation to them after you marry, so it is somewhat different.  I would suggest to my son that he lives with the girl he wants to marry before doing so.  You learn so much being around someone 24/7.  Even if you hang out at the other's house everyday... It's different
178639
Lots of factors - like how old you are, what is the status of your relationship, what is the stage of your relationship right now, how serious both of you are with each other, etc.  If you're still young, it may not be advisable to move in with him there.  Are you already engaged and marriage is in your plans?  Can you both work out a win-win plan?  I think a move that will affect both of you must be decided by both of you, and not just him.  He should have asked your thoughts on the matter, considering that he expect you to be there.  Weigh all these considerations and decide the best.
658699
Congratulations!\n\nIt's perfectly normal to be nervous.  It's a big decision, but I'm sure that after 4 years, you know in your heart that you're making the right one.\n\nIt would be great if his parents get onboard with the idea, but if they don't, it their problem.\n\nThey have a choice to make, embrace you and welcome you to their family, or try to manage their son's life for him and risk alienating themselves from him, you and their grandchildren.\n\nYou can't make that choice for them, just as they can't make their son's choice for him.  Hopefully, with time, they will realize that.\n\nLife is too short for petty crap, honey.  You have your life to live and your bf has his.  You've chosen to live your lives together, and that's that.  His parents can accept it or not.  If they feel there isn't enough petty bickering in the world, then unfortunately, that's life.\n\nRise above it.  Be a good wife to your husband, a good mother to your children and live life to it's fullest and be happy.  Don't let other people pressure you.\n\nGood luck to you both.
955380
I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)
250127
Speaking from experience you should get a place of your own. The fact that it will be more expensive for him is really not your problem. A man and a woman for that matter should be able to pay there own bills, and if he doesn't make a lot of money he should think about changing jobs or  getting a second job. I believe that you should be together for at least 2 years before moving in together and if he is truly the right man for you he will understand and respect you for your Independence.
267419
Why is he your old boyfriend? There had to have been reasons for breaking up and if I were you, I would take that into account. Also, would you be moving in together or just near him? Is it economical for you to move, will you be able to work, find housing? I don't know, it just doesn't sound like something that you should do...find a new boyfriend, one that lives closer to you or one that would move to be near YOU!
880038
TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU LOVE THEM VERY MUCH AND WILL NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR WISH AND ALSO TELL THEM YOU LOVE YOU BF VERY MUCH AND CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM....YOU WILL NOT MARRY ANYONE ELSE ,,,AND YOU WILL STAY UNMARRIED IF YOU HAVE TO FOR YOUR PARENTS.....TRY THIS IN THE END YOUR WISH WILL BE GRANTED..BEST OF LUCK...
391357
i wouldn't do it. \n\ni would never live in another womans home. it will ALWAYS be her home..especially if there are kids. \n\nhowever...asking a boyfriend...to sell a home to move into an apt. doesn't seem very mature either.  especially since you two aren't married nor does it sound like there are any plans to marry. \n\ni would keep my place..have him keep his...and share a bed once in a while. if it gets serious..then both of you move out and buy a home together!
401583
If that is the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do.  It would really be up to your boyfriend to speak up and mention to his family that he is in love with you.  If he is not saying anything to his family about you, you might as well kiss your boyfriend good bye.
572356
you are only 19,just because he does'nt want you moving in does not mean that he is not in love.you have only been togeather for 8 months it's far to early,just carry on doing what you are doing and not tell your parents,and why do your parents not like him?.it can be done i was only with my partner for 8 months and 12 year on were still togeather,but im only one of the lucky few as not very often you hear relationships would survive that.
1001323
Don't listen to that asshole... (creative)\n\nIf you two can respect each other's culture and religion then go for it. Each side of the family may not approve in the beginning but they'll have to come around sooner or later. And if not, it's your life and your happiness that you should be concerned about, no on else's. Good luck.