How can I stop comparing myself to other women?
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You need to pull out the good qualities about yourself when you start to experience those thoughts and feelings.\n\nFor some reason you are feeling insecure about yourself.  \n\nWhat is it that is making you feel less of who you are?  Because if you were feeling good about yourself you wouldnt have these thoughts.\n\nAre you feeling like you have less self esteem about your self?  Because when we start to compare ourselves to others and get deppresed we are actually feeling certain things about ourselves that we are not happy with.  \n\nLike for example, I begin to compare myself to my husband and I see all these great qualities about him and all his talents and acheievments.  I than start to feel less of me and think ...wow....he sure is smart, talented, funny..etcetc...and what about me?  \n\nI than have to look in the inside of me and see why I am feeling that way.  Its almost like a jealous reaction I get.  So,,,,,I dig into my inner self and think why?  I than realize that maybe I am not feeilng so great about myself because I am suffereing from insecurties about myself.\n\nMake sense?\n\nYou are more than you are giving your self credit for!
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Do not ever worry about that. \nYou have to love your body whatever what and take a good care about that. The same with spirit, get to know it very well. Keep it working, you're already doing that...Your body is beautiful house for your divine spirit in this life. So, always be proud of who you are, because you are unique and nobody is like you are. \nMen are always respect it in women. They just can smell that confidence from you and it really attracts them. But remember do not pretend it or fake it. You REALLY have to learn how to love yourself and world around you.
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Stop thinking about what other people think. Go get you a make over and strut your stuff.
1101454
Need to change your way of thinking about yourself.  I am sure your partner is not thinking that.  Many women do think that of themselves , hopefully your partner will help you feel more comfortable with yourself and how you look .
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I don't want a woman who is trying to be someone she's not... If she's not cool with who she is, how am I supposed to be???
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Learn about yourself. We all have special gifts and talents that we can share with others. Celebrate yours. If you have flaws that you think you can change, take steps to change them. Choose to be ok with what you cannot change. \n\nEvery day, take little steps to appreciate being alive. Yesterday, I saw a pretty painted piece of wood, I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor and I had a tasty piece of bbq chicken. Look for your little joys.  Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Make it a point to go out and find people to be near. \n\nLove and be kind to yourself.
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breathe deep and slow. try counting. count to 200 if you have to. focus on the numbers as you count. focus on your breathing as you count. you can take controll of this... one step at a time.\n\ntry not to worry about other people. they are just like you. they also worry about what they look like and how other people see them. they have the same feelings as you. they just react in diffrent ways. \n\nhang in there and take baby steps to the finish line. you can do it. i know you can.
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Do not change except to change how you feel about this silly girl. She doesn't seem to respect you much at all from the sounds of it.Learn how to really like who you are!!! Rejection can make people doubt themselves and who they are.that can be natural at first,but you have to let it go.You must like yourself better than anyone,and enjoy being who you are before you can know what woman will be right for you. The one who accepts you as you really are is the one worth the wait and your time. hang in there,and be good to yourself. Do what you love to do,and enjoy being free while it lasts!!! Best wishes to ya'!
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you can't. A physical attraction to someone is not something you can control,it's in your brain chemistry. The best thing to do is find someone who doesn't make you compete with their past. You are better than that and I don't even have to know you to say that. No woman deserves to be treated this way.
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Sure...Women check out women all the time to see what they are wearing and so forth... Gotta keep up with the competion !!!\nNice to know that I am worth checking out, means I am considered serious competition.
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At first stop comparing with others.\nSecondly don't think everytime about JEE, it will demoralize you.\nYou have to understand-life is for gaining knowledge and not for just results.\nBelieve in yourself- not because of your past but because of your learning abilities.\nThen don't go for big-big books at a go. Go step by step. Start learning from the bottom.\nDon't worry what others do or say. Instead of your marks, watch for the mistakes you have committed, and try not to repeat them.\nLastly don't compare the marks. I have seen a lot of people who even remember numericals.
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as long as you keep acknowledging she is prettier than you, you are going to continue to make yourself miserable.  Who cares what she looks like.  let go of the past and focus on today and tomorrow.  Did you ever think that she might be thinking the same thing about you??  Quit wasting your time thinking about what she looks like and start focusing on how gorgeous you are!!!!
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First, stop thinking of yourself as a young woman in a man's world.  Think of yourself as person who has information that others are interested in learning.  You're leading these meetings for a reason -- what is it?  Who put you in charge?  Why?  Play to your strengths and ignore the "us" vs "them" mentality.  Be the most articulate and knowledgeable person in the room and they won't be able to afford to brush you off.  They'll realize you have information and skills they need.
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If it is someone else that is giving you crap that is making you "allow" yourself to feel bad about yourself, tell them to stop - or remove yourself from the situation. \nOtherwise, this is something that has to come from within.\nEveryday look in the mirror and point out something that you see in yourself that you like, and OUTLOUD, acknowledge it to yourself. Same with daily accomplishments, no matter how small - tell yourself, OUTLOUD - Good job! Way to go! You rock girlfriend, Whatever. But no matter how you have lost it - or are losing it- (your self-esteem) you also are the only one to get it back. The fact that you care enough about yourself to ask for help tells me you're a great person and you're already acknowledging that you DO like yourself and care about yourself - or you wouldn't be asking. You'd just go crawl in a hole - So.........YOU ROCK GIRLFRIEND! Hold your head up and move on and don't let anyone steal your joy and you'll have so much self-esteem it'll piss everyone off!  HAHA!
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Ironically, I just started a Yahoo group that may help you: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/She-WomanManHatersClub/. It's not about bashing men, but about venting in order to put things in perspective and feel more normal.
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Make a list of things you LIKE about yourself.  Read the list every morning when you first get up and each night before you go to bed.\nWhat I did was force myself to come up with 3 positives about myself every time I thought of a negative.\nIt does work.
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Try loving yourself first of all, dear! If you love yourself, no matter what your physical appearance may be, others will love you just the way you are!