Will i ever get rid of this shyness that kills me :-(?
115525
Katie, don't expect to go from super-shy to outgoing all at once. Take baby steps and stretch yourself just a little bit at a time. Practice just smiling at people. Say hello to just one stranger a day as you pass by them. Ask a sales clerk a question, even if you don't really need to. Tell a girl you see that you really like her shoes, hair, nails, etc. - when you see that you get a positive reaction to being friendly, it will encourage you to do it more often. Just remember, not everyone will be open to you because they might be shy, too. But most people are willing to at least smile and say hello to others.\n\nTry some volunteer work - start at your local animal shelter if you feel more comfortable around animals than people. Animals love you unconditionally and can really help bring a shy person out of their shell. If it's possible, and you don't already have one, you might even consider getting a pet yourself. Other volunteer work is also helpful if you're allergic to animals or something - go help out at your local food bank, soup kitchen, homeless shelter, etc. \n\nWorking with people is really important if you want a good job. You have to be able to impress employers during interviews and you have to be willing to stretch yourself beyond your comfortable boundaries. Good luck! :)
109947
Sounds like you're gonna have to.  I know if girls waited for me to make the first move they'd still be waiting.  I've always been way to shy in person and in a way it's worked out for the better.  If you want this guy, you'll probably have to do all the first moves.  Don't worry though, once he's confident he's not going to be rejected he'll break out of it.
1178197
I assume you are pretty young.\n\nFirst, don't worry about being shy with girls.  Stay friends with the one you mention but don't feel that has to be a romantic relationship.  That friendship should help you overcome your shyness, and--if her status changes later on--you might be in a good position to build a more romantic relationship.\n\nDon't worry about the one that blew you off.\n\nMany girls are shy with guys.  There isn't that much to either guys or girls to be shy about.  Friendship can always work.  Don't ask for more unless you're sure.
97553
The only thing wrong is that you are very shy and have not found a way to work around the problem. My advice would be to use your hobbies and interests to help you find someone that has things in common with you. Join groups or teams or go places that have to do with your hobbies and interests. The people that you will find in the groups or on the teams will have the same thing in common with you and it will give you something to talk about. Once you have broken the ice it will be easier to continue the conversation. I strongly believe that you don't "Find" love, that it will find you, but it never hurts to put yourself in a place where it will have a chance to find you. By joining groups or going to places that you have an interest in, you are automatically placing yourself with people that have the same interests as yourself and giving you something to open a conversation with that you will feel confident talking about, which will help with your shyness. Good Luck!! =-)
231779
I used to be very shy.  When I was younger, I would just shake with fear when I had to be around people and talk.  Then, I took a Drama class.  And, I heard the quote by Shakespeare, "All the World's a Stage . . . the men and women merely players!"  Or something like that.  So . . . the next time I was in a situation where I was once again hindered by by shyness, I decided to pretend that the situation wasn't real . . . it was just a play . . . and I acted my way through it.  It worked!  And as time went on, I became more and more outgoing.  Now?  I never shut up and am comfortable almost anywhere.  Relax . . . there is nothing wront about being shy.  If everyone were the same, it would be such a boring world.
838154
you must get out of that shyness thing. it will get you no where in this world we live in.  "grow balls" so to speak.  good luck\nbesides the worst he could say is no.....right?
447686
I found drama really helped me get over my shyness.  If you're in highshcool take a drama class.  If you're out of highschool, look into a theatre company and audition.  Even if you don't make it, the simple fact that you auditioned infront of -people- will slowly help you
124175
Are you sure you are shy and not just lacking self esteem? There is a large difference. You have friends so it probably is not shyness, someone somewhere has knocked what you have said about something and it affected you. That is normal, I think most people go through this at some point in life. \n Advice- well just talk, don't even think about it. Say what comes to mind when someone asks you a question. If you don't know the answer please don't be afraid to admit it, this is how you learn in life. I grew up ( I am 48 yrs old now) with the thought that I was stupid and should never open my mouth. Guess what I had an IQ considerably higher than those who said I was stupid. They just had to make themselves feel better by keeping me down.\n Eventually I learned to open my mouth and not care what others thought about my words, and yes I made mistakes, but mistakes can be corrected. Just let it out, you may actually open someone's eyes to a whole new world or concept they never thought of.
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
593413
Sure why not I'm shy. I'd be flattered.You can't loose\nby trying.
750001
Hi,\n\nJust to let you know a lot of people feel the same way, but try and relax and take a few deep breaths and tell yourself that you can do it.\nI was shy when i was a child but working in a hospital has made me more out going.\nA great book to read is Feel the fear and do it any way:- By Susan Jeffers. \nYou can get it in any good book shop or library.\nT.
329573
I am a shy person too, and most shy people want u to take it slow with them and don't push thing to far. Talk to her\nas a friend first and see what she enjoy. You might have something in comment with her and you may hit it off. Don't rush nothing
277955
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
973244
i sometimes feel this way. i don't feel like I am that shy of a person, but I guess other people think I am very shy. and then when boys I like tell me to be myself and say what I want, I get flustered and say things like "i don't know" even though I have a full journal of stuff I would love to tell them. I don't know why it is so hard for me to speak up in certain social situations. I have things to say, and sometimes I start talking, but then like you said, the more aggressive/louder person takes the conversation over. I guess you and I both just have to try harder to speak our minds and not think so much about what other people will think. Easier said than done though... I hate being shy and I don't know how to get rid of it. and it certainly causes problems in meeting men. so u aren't the only one out there with this issue
936605
Hey.. you sound so sweet! \n\nSometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone and face your true fears. If you dont your not really going to grow and develop.\n\nI really dont see what options you have in this situation. Be confident, relax and have fun and people will want to be around you.\n\nGood luck
142667
By accepting that you're there and that there is nothing you can do about it. It looks bad when you try to get rid of the nervousness. It looks like you're trying to hide something. If you're nervous, be nervous. It's ok.\n\nGood luck.
853600
I do not think this will be to much of a problem it appears you are shy and may have a fear of rejection until you overcome those fears it may be you asking this question ten years from now.  Start talking you are the only one that can help yourself get out of this situation.  Heres a good tip go out with some guy friends \nif you see a girl you would like to meet and are scared see if one of your friends would break the ice for you like saying hi my friend would like to meet you it could be that easy.