are peopl born gay or is it a choice?
104097
it is a choice. i know a set of identical twins (meaning they have the exact same genetics) and one is gay and the other is not. if people were born that way then the twins would either both be gay or both be straight.
1022020
being gay is not a choose.  If it were a choose I would be straight, when I was growing up I prayed everyday for God to make me straight but now I;ve learned to be happy with myself and who I am.
1027892
I can't give you an awnser base on research or some study all I can do is tell you my opinion base on my own experience as a gay man. People say that they are born gay because they can't remember a time in their childhood where they were straight in other words they can't give you an exactly date and time and say this is when I went from been straight to being gay. Can you remember a time in your life where you were not straight? From your earliest childhood memory of when you became aware of your sexuality were you ever not straight? When I became aware of my sexuality it just happen to have been of the homosexual orientation so I assume that I was born that way and that god made me that way for a reason. I hope this answer's your question if not feel free to ask me anything.
1160369
Oh god... People STILL think that being gay is a choice??  People tease you, beat you up, you're the brunt of all jokes, people fight to make sure you don't get married... Why would anyone in the right mind choose a life like that?  Trust me, it's not a choice.
1100568
predetermined........the level in which they choose to act out....is a choice, no different than a straight person.\n\nI work at an Elem. school and I can pick a few out who are gay as early as 1st grade....and it just becomes more obvious as the kids get older.
454256
I don't know why I'm gay. I don't remember being given a choice. Perhaps you could tell me when you chose to be straight?
1160117
Light b, you have the freedom to be anything you want to be.  Your choices are like the steering wheel of a car.  Each choice you make in a certain direction moves you more in that direction.  You are not a victim, you are a free spirit.  If you don't want to be gay, then don't make choices that are gay choices...make choices that are more in line with who you really are.  Don't let any one else tell you who you are, be who you are and be authentic.  Feelings are like the weather, they move and flow along, change, multiply...they are not constant.  If you have certain feelings fine...they will just move by if you don't grab onto them.  They can be like clouds just passing through.
941264
Scientific studies have shown that people are born gay and do not 'choose' or 'turn' gay.
221913
Some are born gay, some straight, some bi.  Your sexual orientation is quite often NOT black and white but shades of gray.  Try not to pigeonhole people in one role.  Children, teenagers and adults are what they are, take it or leave it.
263562
I think they are born, many of those who "change" at later stage of their lives have always been gay they just didn´t want to accept it and be brave enough to tell the whole world about it, indeed it was originated when they were procreated.... =)
622956
You know I am a strong christian, but I don't shun science and common sense. Being gay is not a choice. It's just not, if you ask almost any gay guy or girl, they would say they would not choose to be gay, because who in their right mind would choose to be made fun of, shunned and hated? No one.
114221
As a gay person I can honestly say that I don't know. It just is the way I feel naturaly. Like being streight is natural for you. We don't ask to be this way and life would be much easier for us if we had a choice but we don't it is just our nature
1168852
No, it isn't a choice at all. Life would be a LOT easier if I could CHOOSE to be heterosexual. My only choice is to abstain or not to abstain. Just like dyeing your hair a different color, sorry, but you'll always be whatever natural colour you are, whether or not you try to cover it up/bleach it out.
1003337
I've seen different circumstances:\n1. A lot of gay ppl I truly believe they were born gay. These ppl state they had began having feelings for their same sex at a young age exactly like heteorsexuals begin to experience attractions for the opposite sex at a young age.\n2. I've known ppl who have made a conscious choice for many different reasons. I once knew a lesbian who was ganged raped and was never able to regain her faith in men again. She then went into a life-long relationship with a woman and was very happy.\n3. I've known many bisexual ppl that say it is the person they are attracted to. These ppl believe in more freedom with their sexuality and don't like to be constrained. I can't say if this is their choice or not because they are genuinely 'attracted' to the person they love regardless of the gender.\n\nAs for the 'cause', I really don't know the answer to that. \n\nI don't know why ppl tend mold the homosexual argument around whether or not it is a choice.It doesn't matter if ppl choose or not to be gay or not because, as I listed above, ppl have their reasons. And two ppl of the same sex sharing an intimate relationship does not harm anyone so I don't understand what all the fuss is about.\n\nA lot of heteorsexual society likes to compare accepting gay unions to accepting things like incest or I've even heard marrying an animal. This is the most absurd argument and these ppl miss the pt that being gay doesn't harm anyone as long as it is between two consenting adults. If those ppl believe it is a sin then THEY shouldn'd do it. I don't know where they get off dictating their definition of sin to other ppl.\n\nIrregardless, sorry I can't answer your exact question but I don't think anyone but GOD knows why he created gay ppl.
1025711
I played with GI Joe when I was growing up but so did my best friend and He is as straight as an arrow . Nothing can make you gay you are born gay . Sexual orientation is determined before birth and no one  can choose to be gay or straight . Nothing can make them gay or straight .  A straight man can't decide he is gay and change his attraction for women and a gay man can't decide he is straight and  change his attraction for men .
420351
Go with how you feel. Are heterosexuals that way because of a choice they made, I don't think so. That would be the same for homosexuals, I'm sure, not a choice, but something "inbuilt" from birth.
530556
it isnt a choice. homosexuality is a psychological disorder. they didnt choose to have hte psychological disorder. people who were once gay become straight and vice versa. a significantly high proportion of gay men didnt have a father during their child. because of the lack of fatherly love from a fatherly figure, they turn to other men\n\nhomosexuality is just like anorexia, people dont choose to be sick. they cant help it. many do recover\n\n\nof course homosexuality isnt genetic. do two gays make a gay? do two straights make a straight? why can some people who were once gay become straight if its genetic?