Why would my male friend tell me he is falling in love with me but isn't ready for a relationship?
111625
you might just have to give him time if he doesnt want to be in a relationship just yet. but if he is still dragging his feet a month from now you need to take some kind of action
963014
Have you stopped to think that maybe he is unsure how you feel about him?\n\nHe may be hesitant to say he loves you because he fears that you may reject him, he would rather remain your closest friend than risk losing you by doing something he fears.\n\nId suggest you sound him out, drop some hints like letting him know that he is like a dad to the children, and that with him around you feel like a complete family?\n\nIf he seems OK with that then maybe you need to broach the subject of love?\nBeing a man myself I can assure you that if we are onto a good thing then we are always paranoid we will stuff it up!\n\nSounds like you may be on to a good thing yourself, good luck!
270540
It sounds as if he is getting comfortable, and he may be a person who is scared of or doesn't want a commitment. Have you voiced your sentiments to him of how badly it makes you feel when he doesn't call? If not, that may be the turning point. You will probably get a better feel of his intentions by his reaction to the conversation. Beyond that, I would definitely not give him your "heart" until you absolutely know what he wants out of the relationship. Good Luck!\n\nLilD
509102
Be careful, he may be playing you. You should try to find out the status of his current relationship, whether he's happy or on verge of breakup or whatever. But to be honest with you If a guy is "Friends" with you he's considered dating you, unless ofcourse he's gay.
396375
Maybe he is afraid of his own feelings for you, and protect himself,by \nsaying: "he doesn't like you". \nMaybe he is not ready yet, for a friendship, or ,relationship. \nIt sounds to me like an insecure reaction. \nLook out for someone who likes you! Things will fall in place when it is\nmeant to be......
39698
Maybe you're consenting to sex too soon.\nMaybe they sense that you are "falling in love" and their not looking for that type of relationship at this point in their lives, just dating.
947588
duhhhhh he's keepin you around just in case. things might not be going as well as he wished with shit new girl. so he's gettin back with you as "friends".\n\non the other hand, he might be genuinely interested in a friendship.\n\npersonally, i think he's just tryin to keep those lines of communication open. maybe its time for you to move on and find a boyfriend so it doesn't matter what he wants.
1087098
It means he does like you but he doesn't want to tell your friend, maybe if you would ask him yourself he would be more open to tell you that he does, guys don't like everyone knowing there buisness.
129979
I think that he likes you, but afraid of rejection from you or he is not ready for commitment yet.....so just wait and see.
780626
Sounds like to me that he is just being friendly.  Sometimes he's in the mood to play sometimes he's not...don't YOU have changes in moods yourself?  I think you are reading way too much in to his silly flirtations.  Flirting doesn't mean one wants a realtionship, flirting is just being silly, and friendly with someone you hope likes you as a friend.
144416
Honesty is best.  Tell him that you are confused.  Ask what his intentions are for his keeping in touch.  Does he still have feelings for you?  Does he want to date you again?  Or is he keeping you close because he wants to be your friend?  Ask him straight up.  Then take it from there.
153397
It could be possible that he just got out of a bad relationship or was very hurt and needs sometime to recover from it.  He could just be saying that to not hurt your feelings.  He's the only one who knows for sure.
396323
The best advice ever comes from the book and TV show "Sex and the City", the quote says "He's just not that into you." If you keep this in mind, you will avoid a lot of heartache. Realize that you cannot make anyone fall for you. If he says he just wants to be friends with you, he is already feeling pressured. Just imagine, if after 6 months of trying to get this guy's attention, how much time and energy you would waste trying to get this man to fall in love with you. Do yourself a favor, find someone else. And let the man come to you, don't ever chase a man.
38776
If he is your friend, he probably can already tell. If he is interested in you, a relationship will develope in time and when he is ready. Don't tell him. If he doesn't think of you in that way it may seem awkward for him and could ruin your friendship.
364927
From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
204982
3 months isn't that long enough for someone to fall in love (real and true). when it comes to professing LOVE, men are controlled by their egos thus, making it a very difficult action for him. since he said the word "friend," then take it as so. both of you may understand each other more than anybody else taking your relationship to a higher level but please don't confuse this with love. physical attraction is a primary excuse to fall in love with someone, so is infatuation. draw a line where he stays on the other side as a friend. if he chooses to cross it, he's got to do more than prove his love. if you go and talk to his buds this'll make you look interested in having a relationship with him. keep a safe distance to protect your heart but be professional about it. word of caution: if someone says he loves you, he's also saying 'be prepared to be hurt." good luck!
859464
okay well this guy is head over heels for you. i think he is trying so hard because he thinks you feel this way about him deep down and your afraid to get out your feelings. what you can do is be sensitive with him. tell him that your more than flattered and surprised that he proposed to you, but we can only stay simple friends right now. im not ready top get married right now and believe it or not i have dreams and goals i want to make come true. and i know you do too. and dont tell me that the only dream you have is to be my husband. i know you have things to accomplish in life. so thats why. we can still be really good friends b ut thats all we are going to be. if you liked me this much you would accept it and move on."if after that he still doesnt understand then maybe you shouldnt talk to him anymore. try avoiding him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. if he does understand then thats one less thing to worry about in life.