Guys...What would you do if your gf didn't want to have sex until you were married?
100653
While I'm not a guy... I had to respond on this one..\n\nWhile waiting to have sex until your married is a honorable decision, it doesn't make sense.  You have to be happy in all parts of your marriage.  Since you'll be with that person until 'death do you part', wouldn't you like to sample the wares before buying them?  I know that sounds crude, but waiting until you get married can cause a lot of problems in the marraige...\n\n-Doubts and daydreams over what it might have been like with another person.  Could it be better?  Could lead to cheating.\n\n-Sexual problems - this one can be open ended and limitless.\n\nSo while you shouldn't go sleep with any Tom, Dick, Harry, or Jane... you should probably consider having sex with your fiance/girlfriend/boyfriend before you get married...
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
1176824
Personally I think you should have sex before marriage and live with the person. Marriage is forever you need to know if you can stand that person and their ways, all their ways. Now my religion says another but I listen to my instinct first.
787073
tell her you love her so much, you're going to wait until you're married before getting intimate..  that'll prove you love her..
124644
Yes, Yes, Yes!\n\nI waited until 20 years, 11 months.\nI know my husband wouldve never married me if he had gotten sex before the ceremony. Men are just like that.\n\nhopefully a husband will be gentle, considerate and loving during that onetime event. Mine lasted all night and finally at 8AM i was deflowered gently, lovingly \n\nA lover will be thinking of himself, take 5 minutes and leave you unsatisfied, wondering how to get it without being married and how fast he can dump you, so that he can go on to another.
449644
My advice to you is to ask him, think of it this way, you don't want to marry him later and find out that he just wants sex later.
558673
Sex before marriage is not a good idea. I would rather have waited till I got married however, I was young and foolish and wanted experience. Well, after you're experienced what is there to experience more? You keep on having sex, right and so if I were to change this I would have waited for the right time. But this is just my opinion. Different people have different opinions.
157359
No I do not believe in sex before marriage. I got married when I was 24 (a little more than a year ago) and that's when I lost my virginity, and I am damn proud of it.. no regrets, extremely happy about :o) People should try it out, it's not like they're NEVER going to have sex... besides, it's more special.
930369
As someone who was very sexually active at a young age.....PLEASE, PLEASE wait. Your time will come. Please be a kid for a while longer. Sex will come, I'm not saying wait until your married or anything like that. Just wait a couple more years. I wish I were more articulate and could get my thoughts out on this better, just please wait....
449879
That's fine, lots of couples wait until they are married to have sex even though they have had sex with each other before.  It just makes the honeymoon better because both of you will be extremely horny, so you will enjoy it more.  He's a good guy; just wait.  I promise you, it will be worth it!
145791
When you're ready to have sex you are ready to have sex.  If it's before marriage, cool.  If you're not ready until marriage, that's cool too.\nI think sexy before marriage is a good thing.  People speak of how it's more special when you save it.  But honestly if you wait until you're married you're going to suck at it.  Not being able to please your spouse on your honeymooon (a very special occasion) would be a shame.  On the other hand, if both partners are inexperieced they'll at least have a chance to grow and learn about sex together.\nHowever, I think it would be foolish to marry a person you've never slept with.  Sex is a very big part of relationships and if you marry a person without knowing  whether or not they can please you sexually you may find yourself in a very dissatisfied marriage.\nJust think about this:  Would you buy a new car without ever giving it a test drive?
401321
Unfortunately, most guys tend to think of sex first in their reasoning for marriage.  This is extremely shallow, I know, but I am assuming that you are looking for a genuine answer.\n\nDepeding on the person, there are other things that they look forward to as well.  I couldn't wait to decorate for Christmas in our own house, and wake up together, and open presents by the fireplace - just the two of us.  I looked forward to creating special "her" days, where I cooked dinner, and created an itenerary of fun things to do throughout the day.  I consider myself to be somewhat of a romantic...but in all honesty, I was really looking forward to the sex, too.\n\n(Of course, I had sex for the first time on our wedding night.  The case may be different for guys who have sex before marriage.  I'm sure you'll be able to find one or two of them to get input from on this site).
80818
How do you feel about her? Considering the fact that you left that out, I don't think you are ready to be married.
623357
I dont think you should have sex before marriage. The sex will get in the way of really getting to know each other.You want know if its love,or lust.If its real and leads to marriage,you will be having all the sex you want. Find out the important things now,fck your brains out later.
67846
NO!! sex is something that you should wait until you get marry. and if you have to ask that just means you not ready. dont give it up just b/c this guy wants it. if he turely loves you tell him to wait and to keep his hands above the shoulders
1044336
Dude don't wait until your wedding night you might have a heart attack go have sex right now with your future wife that way you'll see if this sex thing means a whole lot to her or not. By the rate you're going you'll be divorce within a week if you can't satisfy your wife.
21148
well have you had sex before and now its stopped if so maybe he wants to wait till you get married or maybe hes cheating or maybe he doesnt think you enjoy it just talk to him ask him why he doesnt want to