does anyone think it's right for a boyfriend to be at the bar?
109627
If the two of you have decided to have an "open relationship", it's not a problem, and you can "chase guys" if you want to, too. However, if what you are looking for is a committed relationship, then no, it's not all right, and why are you still with him?
457165
Well, Ma'am, ask yourself a question....Do you trust your boyfriend to be sane and sober all the time?First off, a practise is certainly not always acceptable to a guy, even if his peers are also doing it...in that case, we guys would all be doing doope, smoking,drinking and in short being entirely antisocial.But we aren't,are we?Do not worry,Ma'am....even if boys drink, they do stupid things, yes...embarrasing thing,yes...but hurtful things, no.
1146049
You're joking, right? You are definitely not asking too much for your man to spend the little free time you both have without the kids together. Are you set on going out or could you perhaps "ramp" him into spending time together starting with an intimate evening at home? Next time you can remind him you two stayed in for him last time so it's his turn to accommodate your wishes.
820755
I am really glad you said "potential" boyfriend!!!\n\nLook ahead a year or so with this guy...he is already controlling, insecure and jealous so I guess you better be prepared to have to explain why an accident made you late home from work someday!!!\n\nYou are a whole person and do not need ANYONE to complete you.  It sounds like your goals are sound and your motives are good so, if I were you, I would ditch the boat-anchor boyfriend and find a man who compliments your dreams - now and later!\n\nYou are not a possession and dont need to make excuses or feel bad about missing time with a boyfriend - not if you have the right boyfriend!!!\n\nSounds to me like he needs a dog instead of a human "pet" then when he says "come" the dog will with tail wagging!!!
835156
It sounds like he does like you but is to into drinking to slow down and carry on a relationship. If you feel like you can put up with it when you get in a relationship then talk to him but if he has trust issues and you get in a relationship he probably wont like you getting upset about his drikning.
760521
Sounds like he just wanted to hang out with a friend... and this would probably go over nicely with you if you liked his friends. People's friends reflect who they are. I think the issue here is, are you willing to accept your boyfriend, and his friends, the way they are? He has something in common with these friends and that is why they hang out together. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend with friends you truly liked? Don't pick a fight about this.. it is who he is. What is there to fight about? I'd take a long, good hard look at your companion and decide if he's offering you what you want.
1176942
This is by no means all there is to it, but I feel it's crucial to help him find some other activity, some outlet other then alcohol for his feelings... You as his girlfriend are in a good position to do smthing together. Sports, arts, outdoors, religious activities are all good choices...\nOf course much depends on the given situation, which U know best, so as to the particulars you should trust your feelings and go along with what you feel's best, be brave, smart and never get discouraged...\nYears ago I myself had some problems, and I feel that finding new activities, new environments is crucial for any such problem...
771533
If she slep with him the first night at the bar , he might be thinking she's (easy) and he can get it any time he wants.If he seem's interested one minute and not the next, that's just the way guy's are!It's like there trying to make (Themselv's)beleave they don't need anyone.If she likes this guy she should keep seeing him,but dont make herself  look too available.Dont sleep with him for a wile,have fun doing other things together.Alot of guys are dogs, but the goodguys want a respectable girl.Show him she is!
52592
Yes, I would.\n\nIf he was serious about it, it's not my job as his partner to rule his life. It wouldn't make me notably uncomfortable. The only thing that would make me hesitate is if he didn't ever want me to come see him perform. I think it would be fun to watch him now and then and, as long as this new activity isn't shutting me out entirely, I'd be happy to let him take his gear off and get down.\n\nI'd want to know all the details, of course. A club for men? Women? Couples? Bachelorette parties?\n\nHe would also be expected to take me out to dinner once in a while, but that would be true even if he wasn't stripping.
627593
well it depends...if your 18 it should be fine..but if he's 21 and your not, he may not want to date you cause he can't take you out..some guys are weird like that!! if none of those are the case then he's an idiot so you should move on and not waste your time waiting for him!!
981705
as long as he's just looking at the menu and not ordering, i think you'll be okay.  if it's really bothering you, tell him.  if he cares about you he'll keep those kinds of comments to himself.  however, whether he tells you or not, all guys look at other women, just as all girls look at other guys, that's just life.
673303
It sounds like he doesn't have much confidence in himself, he knows he is doing wrong with the alcohol, doesn't think he is good enough so expects that you will go out and find someone who is.  Plus it sounds like he is trying to push you away before you have a chance to do it to him, its human nature to protect yourself even at the cost of others.  Or on the other hand he very likely could be cheating on you.
1009627
not not at all. My boyfriend tells me not to get drunk with out him there, its not a bad thing it just means that  you care about her and don't want anything to happen to her. You're not controlling you just love so much that you want what is best for her.
1144524
you are sprung.  you wrote, " but i know he's not right for me. he lies alot. but i cant help it."  so he's hot?  so he's 'the ladies man? sure.  what the f ever.  i've seen this 1000 times.  i've been there 100 times.  and you have to get the f over this man.  he's a bad boy for life and you'll be another trophey on his shelf.  just another story to tell at the bar before he picks up his next one.  if you are smart enough to connect to the internet, you are smart enough to get over this man.   if you do him/it once, you'll no longer be his object to be desired.  you'll be his object conquered..  stay a mystery.  it's so much more fun to smile at him and make him wonder, than to blush and make him proud.
49681
yes, but instead of wonderign you have to open ypur mouth and ask him what the deal is girl ...u shouldn't have to be there when he wants you to..u can find somebody that wants you around them ...just ask and if his answer is bs then let him go and find u a real man thaty is willing to spend time with you and not trip...
787201
Yes.\nIf I was there...and he paid for me to have one too...then no worries...have at it!\n\nBUT...if you couldn't be there and he had naked women on his lap...I'd be irrate.  \n\nYou're right...the clubs not the problem... (IF it doesn't offend you PERSONALLY as his gf).... The problem is he should have said no way to the lap dances...\n\nHe has some major A** kissing to do...but if you guys really love each other, PLEASE work thru this...And save the splitting up for the larger things...like actual cheating etc.\n\nGood luck hun!!!
1058622
Instead of doing shopping therapy, you spoil you boyfriend. CONGRATULATIONS! You are his ''GOD GIFT''! Do you know how many men would like to be on his place? If you enjoy it , go on girl! I'm with you!!!!