still be friends with an ex?
115678
Its okay if you're both cool with it. But have some sense of respect for him too.
609074
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
1011715
After my ex broke up with me, I was considering the possiblity of a friendship. A friend of mine asked me a question..."True or false, given the opportunity you would rather date him than just be friends" I answered "True".   He told me that you can only really be friends when you can answer that question "False" and actually mean it without lying to yourself. \n\nI now live by that and am happily in a friendship with an ex. IT CAN HAPPEN!
436796
"But we can still be friends" is a myth. Just stop all contact; it is kinder that way. if you happen to meet in a hallway, nod but don't smile. It's over. The sooner you both move on the sooner your hearts will heal.
481226
If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
552216
Well, I don't think it's a good idea to date her ex-boyfriend if you remain friends with her.  She may end up being jealous or if not jealous and she doesn't care, then she probably thinks he's a jerk anyway and let you find out for yourself.
475757
This is typical after a breakup if the two people remain friends.  The problem is that even though you aren't together, you still have feelings for each other and everyone around you will still often treat you like a couple so it is very easy to fall into old patterns.  It doesn't mean anything has changed or that you two should be together, it just means your not able to move on because you two are still so connected by life in general.
598796
Well hopefully you've been honest if your past has come up in conversation with your current girlfriend.  If not; then maybe you'd better be worried........Otherwise, it is possible for the current and ex to be o.k. with each other although; not too many of them can be true friends.  There are too many unanswered questions that will come up between them, and usually trying to make that type of relationship work usually backfires sooner or later.........
535671
That all depends. How long has your ex-friend been your ex-friend--what caused them to be your ex-friend? How long has your ex-friend & ex-husband been ex's? If they have been ex's for a few months then go for it.\n\nThe reason for some of the questions that I have asked, is did they split up because of the ex husband and you being together or some other reason? If it was because of you 2, then it might be a bad ideal for you 2 to get together. If that is not the case, like I said give it a few months and then start off being even better friends than before, just work your way into it slow and easy and see what happens, if it was meant to be it will happen, if not it won't happen.
585094
whether you approve of it or not, it is her decision if she wants to be friends with him or not. telling her who she can be friends with or getting angry about her being friends with an ex is just going to make you look controlling or jealous. i think you should trust her and let her be friends with him. if she starts spending too much time with him let her know it makes you uncomforable but dont try to force her to do anything..its just going to turn out badly.
273355
If you're worried about how the ex-boyfriend will feel the key word to remember is EX. If he is really your friend he would want you to be happy.
512889
depends on how good of a friend this person is to your ex. If they are best friends then that's breaking the unwritten rule and is pretty bad. If they're just casual friends, I don't think it would ruin the friendship.
765532
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
144523
i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.
441424
Wow, that person with the whole exes are like poison has some serious issues.  Trust me, I've never had an experiance like that in my life, so I think he's just a little bit out there.  Re-infected every time you talk to an ex?  WTF?  Can we say "can't move on"?\n\nI've been able to remain friends with many of my exes, but I think part of that is because most of my break ups were mutual.  I think that if you got dumped by her, it might be harder.\n\nI would suggest writing her a letter or email with whatever you want to say.  Tell her that you were really hurt when you broke up, and you just wanted to say that you've made your way through it and would like to see if a friendship between you would be possible.  Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't respond, then don't push the issue further.  If she gives you a call or send you an email back, have coffee together and talk about what has been going on in your life since the break up.\n\nJust don't have coffee and re-hash the break up, I doubt your ex wants to do that and while it might make you think it will feel better, in reality it will probably just make both of you uncomfortable.  If you start feeling like a friendship is making you feel worse, then its not the right thing to be doing right now.\n\nWork on building a new friendship with an eye on the future, not on the past.
619136
You're ex is an ex for a reason. Don't live in the past. Face the future and all its possibilities.
242265
Its time to leave him alone when you realize that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn't have a regard for you and your feelings. being a man, I can tell, he's just playing on you and your emotions.\n\nHe is now your EX - means that he is part of your past. Better move on and I am sure you will find someone who will give you decency and respect. if you'd like to be friends with him, not at this time. Once both of you are "settled", may be that's the time for you to consider being his friend (that is if you will still have time and energy to think even about it).