I have a friend who thinks that school is a waste! I want ot help her, but she won't listen! HELP!?
98697
U should talk to her with her parent(s) about a solution 2 her problems.Tell her 2 at lease get her high school diiploma its very important have . These days thats not even enough 2 get some jobs.Do what U can 2 stop her from making a huge mistake. GOOD LUCK !
701080
Tell her to leave you alone . The only reason people do that \nis because they are jealous of you . Ask her what's up with her .\nIf all else fails tell the school counsler to call both of you\nto her office to see what the problem is . This way if she\ndoes start anything with you there is a record ofthe problem .
799391
your friend is obviously very anxious about what her exam score will be...no way of knowing for sure until she receives the score...in the mean time, be as supportive as you can...remind her of how hard she has worked and studied...tell her not to be so sure she has failed until she finds out...\n\nsee if you can do some things to take her mind off of this, at least temporarily...if she likes to shop, you two could go to the mall or some of her favorite stores to browse...if you (or she) can afford it, go out to a restaurant, or a movie...get together with some friends and have a little party...anything to get her out of her negative frame of mind for at least a little while...\n\nmaybe you and she could go to a pretty spot nearby...a park or lake, somewhere like that, where appreciating the beauty of nature will take her out of herself...\n\ni know it's hard to deal with someone who is being really negative and "down on themself"...but if it's your good friend, stand by her...don't let her keep obsessing about the exam score...do what you can to divert her attention to other matters...
177253
Are you home schooling her? If so, I have provided some links with some ideas that may help her?\n\nIf not, you should speak with her teachers to see how your activities at home can help their activities at school. Reading her stories at night and then having her read them is a good idea.
822658
eeew i hate that!  tell her to back off (but b careful cuz she might tell your bff that your jealous or something) or go to like a school counselor. i know it sounds weird but they can kinda give u better advice then we can
1091923
You might consider talking with her and sharing your concerns. If you aren't satisfied with the way it went, you could ask for some help by getting someone to mediate. \n\nIf all else fails, you might want to take on the approach that its her duty as a teacher to teach and yours as a student to learn. We can't always get along with everyone, even as adults. And sometimes all we can do is try to get through uncomfortable situations that aren't in our control to change.\n\nI do commend you on taking responsibility for your own actions. Kudos for you :)
385511
Time for tough love!  If she feels she's done with school, then she's ready to work!  Time for a job, young lady. The job will have to be legal. I don't know what the restrictions are for 15 year olds there regarding types of work and hours. Certainly, she can clean homes or do other chores for people, get a paper route?, or something like that.\n\nHave no food in the house except plain bread, plain cereal, cheap but good cheese, and apples (you'll be living yourself on take-out for a bit). She can have water to drink. Don't give her any money. Don't buy her any new clothes, music, etc. Don't buy her shampoo or other toiletries.\n\nYou let her know that, because she is so young, you WILL continue to provide:\n1. a roof over her head and a bed to sleep on\n2. transportation to her work, and to the store\n3. utilities (water, electricity, etc.)\n4. use of the laundry machines and soap\n\nIf she threatens to leave, politely point out (no yelling) that she'll be adding the cost of rent and utilities to her life if she goes to live on her own.\n\nIf she wants food variety, she'll have to buy it for herself. Same for the other items you no longer pay for.\n\nIf she returns to school, and makes a real effort to keep up her grades, you will return to providing a variety of food, and the other stuff.\n\nThere should be some sulking and stomping at first, perhaps even some effort toward doing some sort of work. After a bit, she'll want to go back to school.
713265
mayb shez gt some prob u don't know abt. don't shout at her or scold her. just b cool n ask her what was wrong at school when she feels better to tell u. be a gr8 frnd not one jus who wants frnds 2 njoy with u n not know their probs....BOL gal.
841065
Good Luck! I have a 15 yo with the same problem. He is ADHD with severe impulsivity and it has been a continuous battle to do any kind of school work. He would come up with all kinds of excuses about not doing his school work. I also didn't know what to do. So I started NOT letting him do anything. No TV, no video games (on TV or portable), no friends over, no going anywhere, nothing. He finally got the message. He told me he was going to give me "The Mean Mom" award because I wouldn't let him do anything or go anywhere. The thing was he knew most of the work, just had a hard time putting it on paper. He is in high school now and being homeschooled (which really works out much better). But the 'doing nothing' still stands if he doesn't do the work. He still has a problem with taking it out of his head and putting it on paper (he can tell you anything you want to know about his subjects, orally). But he has to put it on paper. But now he will sit down and do the work. I told him I was not having this foolishness anymore, I know he can do the work and if he wants any free time he'd better get it done.
442524
apply for a job at the store now and ask to start when classes get out. that way you guarantee yourself a summer job. that way she'll stop nagging you hopefully.
1074387
don't push her too hard, because she will just rebel more.  try to influence her subtly, like playing sports with her in your spare time, or asking her what she is interested in in school.  Try to find a sport or subject in school that she likes, and help her achieve her goals.  Just, remember, if she doesn't want to do something, you really can't make her do it.
573197
Just keep being her friend.  Keep trying to encourage her.  Do the best you can.  You might not be able to change her, but in the future she will look back and realize how kind and helpful you were.  Stay with her.  And good job!  It's wonderful that you are concerned about her!
836893
I think you should talk with her about what she is doing is wrong... If she accept to change (and you see the improvement), then you can still keep her a a friend. Otherwise drop her!
806441
I know how you feel. When I was in college I was given a tonne of homework to do. I guess you should tell her that maybe she can lessen the load, but if your in high school don't expect any sympathy. They will just tell you to do it or get a zero.
946258
I see both sides.   It is just your first year, maybe you need to give it more time, and ask for help from the university to make it not so hard.    Maybe you need to switch the subject to something that you find interesting.  I am sure that she still loves you.  She is probably overwhelmed by her fear that you will struggle (maybe as she has as a single mom)   I am sure she just wants what is best for you.    I never got to go to college, and didn't want to when I was 18.  But I am 36 now and totally regret it.  I would almost give anything to go back and get that degree.  Besides I read that ANY college degree automatically gives you at least $23,000 a year in salary more than a person without one!  That's amazing.   You need to sit down with you and talk about the options.   Maybe you can come with some alternate ideas on how to succeed.   Maybe something else is going on with her?   If you haven't been around so much because of college, I am sure it's hard to deal with as well for her if you two were really close.   Try to get her to talk, and let her know that you understand her fear, that you won't get a degree.   Tell her that you want to figure out how to get that in some other way.
813905
Okay, as far as school goes, go to the admin office and fill out a withdrawl form and have instructors sign, this way you are "withdrawling" instead of dropping out and you will not be put on academic probation...hopefully it's not to late to do this.  As far as your girl, apparently she thinks your world should revolve around her.  Does she not realize the struggle that's going on at home?  Set down with her and show her why you're working so hard and long.  Don't apologize to her for trying to keep the wolves away, maybe she needs to be put in your situation and see how she would handle things.  Ask her if she's giong to school any more, and if not ask her if she's planning to take on more hours (if she's not working full-time) to help with the bills and to take some pressure off of you.
52291
discuss with your syster that you can not continue like that because if you will continue like that you loose your school, and no body will care about you.\nIf she didn't find a solution try to find another place to study.