What does a self-destructive personality indicate?
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I always had been my own harshest critic.  I thought that by excelling I could be accepted because I saw myself as being unacceptable.  But by choosing unattainable goals, I kept proving to myself that I wasn't good enough because once again, I failed.  Allow yourself to make mistakes, you may have had a childhood as I did in which no one told me it was okay to not be the best...that I was good enough the way I am. You are equal.  When You allow yourself to be equal as a human being, your true potential has an opportunity to express itself because you are no longer in competition with others or yourself, it is no longer neccessary to prove to others that you are better or to prove to yourself that you are a failure.  Be kind to yourself.
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It is very hard to realize that someone you care about is physically harming herself or himself. Your concern may come out in frustration and even comments that can drive the person farther away. Some things that might be helpful are: \n\nunderstand that self-harming behavior is an attempt to maintain a certain amount of control, and that it is a way of self-soothing \nlet her or him know that you care and that you will listen \nencourage expression of emotions, including anger \nspend time doing enjoyable activities together \noffer to help find a therapist or support group \ndo not tell the person to stop the behavior or make judgmental comments – people who feel worthless and powerless are even more likely to self-injure \nif you are the parent of a self-injuring child, prepare yourself to address your family’s difficulties with expression of feelings, as this is a common factor in self-injury – this is not about blame, but about a learning process that will help the entire family.\n\nMore info at the links bellow....
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Obviously they don't like themselves at all - so they take it out on the ones that are closest to them . I bet that the man thinks and wants someone do that to him . You know like people who hit themselves - it's to let the other person know that they are already hurting (inside), so it does'nt matter if they hurt them or not . Like  " watch this everyone I can be abusive ! "
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This is a sign of a personality disorder called Borderline Personality.  There are tons of books about this.\nYou can't help her. She needs lots of professional help.\nGet a book on borderline personality disorder so you can understand it. Do a search on Amazon.com.
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I think it may mean different things to different people, but to me it means, someone who isn't in touch with their own feelings, who isn't aware of how their behaviour makes others feel, or if they are aware they either don't care or are too impoverished as human beings to care about the feelings of others and the pain they cause.  I would even describe some of them as sociopaths, i.e. people who have no regard for the feelings of others and no capacity to feel for or think about anyone but themselves.  I would say they often have a distinct lack of substance to their inner being and are emotionally bankrupt!!  As for the behaviour of a player, they are out to get you emotionally hooked and they feed off this emotion like a parasite or vampire (as generally, they are dead inside themselves), then when they have you hooked, job done, emotion sucked out, ego appropriately boosted and move on to the next victim for another fix.  How they may get you emotionally hooked is by doing and saying whatever  'loving',  'caring', and 'charming' things that need to be said and done, without being able to emotionally connect with the meaning any of it.  So it is completely false, but they may not realise this so that makes them very hard to spot!!  I think this is the worst thing about a player, they are often not aware that this is what they are doing which makes any kind of honest or genuine relationship with them impossible, well, at least until they have grown up, if they ever do ... very, very interesting question, thank you for asking it!!
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It indicates either a insecure or controlling person.  Not good traits for a good relationship.  \n\nA insecure person will always think that he is not good enough for you or you are cheating on them because they are not good enough.\n\nA controlling person will slowly cut you off from your friends, family and co-workers.  It will start off with little comments of how stupid that friend is and grow from there.\n\nIt is better to not be with someone of either of these personality traits.
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Passive-aggressive personality disorder is a chronic condition in which a person seems to passively comply with the desires and needs of others, but actually passively resists them, becoming increasingly hostile and angry.\n\nPeople with this disorder resent responsibility and show it through their behaviors rather than by open expression of their feelings. Procrastination, inefficiency, and forgetfulness are behaviors commonly used to avoid doing what they need to do or have been told by others must be done.\n\nA person with this disorder may appear to comply with another's wishes -- may even demonstrate enthusiasm for them -- but the requested action is either performed too late to be helpful, performed in a way that is useless, or otherwise sabotaged to express anger the person cannot relate verbally.\n\nPersonality disorders are diagnosed by psychological evaluation and a careful history of the extent and time course of the symptoms. Some of the common signs of passive-aggressive personality disorder include:\n\nProcrastination \nIntentional inefficiency \nAvoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness \nComplaining \nBlaming others \nResentment \nSullenness \nFear of authority \nResistance to suggestions from others \nUnexpressed anger or hostility
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Self-image: what u think of yourselves as a an individual, mainly ur appearnce, character and abilities. For example, I believe that I am intelligent and I am good at chess.\nExpression is somewhat in the same category. It could talk abt how u express urself, like u are a jooly or moody person, etc.\nMotivation is looking at what makes u to do things. For example, I am passionate about reading...so u collect books, etc.
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We all have an ideal image of ourselves which we constantly try to live up to. But actually accomplishing this is a difficult task. So, some people tend to find alternatives and they imagine themselves to be that perfect person and talk in the same way. In its wake, they have to tell many lies. The motive is not only to impress others by showing they are better than they actually are, but to convince THEMSELVES that they succeeded in being what they always wanted to be. \n  Yes, it is a sign of weak personality, because it arises from the lack of understanding of oneself and one’s weaknesses. Such people often do not realize what they are doing. They usually are insecure and have inferiority complex.
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There is a reason for the behavior you're representing. You may not want to go to a counselor but if you want to stop hurting yourself I would advise it. They'll help open you up to why you're doing it and ways to stop to doing it and help give you a healthy perspective on life. \n\nGenereally when someone is inflicting injury upon themselves its because there has been some sort of trauma (mental or physical) in the past. Perhaps you want to "release" the pain or it may be from Stress, or it may be that you want to punish yourself for some reason. Any and all of these are a great reason to get some counsel. It will help bring your life together.  You can do it.
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Sounds like a sociopathic or narcisstic personality disorder. HOWEVER, the mere fact that you recognize those symptoms and fear having them is a definite positive for you because that means you are aware and will do all you can to educate yourself and get help if indeed you start having those symptoms. I believe you will do fine.
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most often times when a person is sexually or physically abused a fundamental level of psycological development is missed, not fully cycled through or a person simply stops developing at that point.  Leaving them not only emotionally damaged but psychologically damaged as well.  This damage leads to a damaged idea of self as well as not only an often jaded but confused view of the world around you.  For example if a person is abused when they are preteens then developmentally they can remain there and so when they are older their mind identifies with and is attracted to people of a similar developmental stage, hence preteens... and so on... it is amazingly sad how prevalent sexual abuse is.  I once took a self development class of 88 people and out of the whole room only three had not been sexually abused.  One thing that helped me was to sit and think about and look at the even from an outside point of view and see it for what it was, with out emotion and with out blame.  I came to realize that I knew, there were several points when I knew what was happening was wrong and that it was not what I wanted and that I continued putting myself in the situation out of the desire for affection and the relationship that led to my abuse.  I realized that I had such a hunger to be loved that I was willing to put myself in a bad situation in order to get it and that was where the blame came from, I blamed myself becuase I knew and I allowed it to happen anyway.  Once I was able to sit it for what it was for me, then it was different, but I had to learn, to accept and to move on after that.
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Most likely yes.\n\nGuys tend to be needy and their self esteem is based on feedback from others and not their own self respect.\n\nDon't beat yourself up.  It's NOT you.
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This is actually pretty common. A lot of people do this. It's not so much you're self-destructive, you're afraid of not meeting expectations. You need to be more in touch with yourself, see yourself as more than you do right now. Once you get that self-confidence up, you'll see you really do deserve a guy who worships you and adores you :)
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more a weapon of self destruction, I imagine
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someone has a rare of bad luck when it comes to loving\nrelationships & is very depressed..rough childhood?\nparents divorced.--forgiveness is there but also depressing.
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I would recommend a psych evaluation - s/he may be depressed, or maybe the trauma made the person react in this way when s/he normally would not.  either way, it doesn't sound safe, so someone professional should talk to him/her and find out how to keep the person safe until things improve!