how can i cope with the death of a classmate?
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Very hard thing to believe that a person we used to see among us in no more and (s)he is not going to be no more for all the days we will see......\n\nI have experienced with a friend who died three years back and although I have a strong belief in death but it is something our minds cannot comprehend that easily.\n\nThis is God's system. Quran (Islamic Holy Book) says..... All living will taste death!\nit cant be said more comprehensively\n\nBe patient and try to keep yourself busy. I will pray for your comfort. May God give you a peaceful life and time
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Are you talking about death? If so you have to think about what is best for the person you love. Are they in pain? Will they be better off if they die? Do you want to keep them alive for you and not let them go so they can finally rest? Losing my grandma was horrible but it was best for her. Its hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. I grieve before and during the funeral. After I remember the good things and talk about the person. I still feel sad when I think about her and sometimes tear up but I know she is better than she was.
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I think we grieve over relationships that die just as we would for people who die.  There are certain steps you go through before it's resolved emotionally.  Denial, anger, grief and acceptance.\n\nNo matter what someone tells you to do you're going to do certain things at each stage and only realizing the next or final stage will get you over it.  To lessen the emotional pain have a good support group you can call at the drop of a hat to talk to.  Reach out to friends and family for support.\n\nRemember though, don't let yourself dwell on it.  Try to get on with life.  Take up new hobbies, join new clubs/societies.  Do the things you couldn't do because the ex didn't want to do them.  Try to embrace the change instead of fighting it.
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Realize that life really doesn't suck at all.  \nA friend dying is a friend who no longer desired to be here on earth and shouldn't really be a sad thing at all.\nWe create our own reality and we should change it if we don't like what we create.  Remember, we create what we think about, what we concentrate on.  If you concentrate on sadness because your friend died then that will be your lot.\nIf you concentrate on the good memories that you have of your friend then that will be your friend's legacy to you.\nLook around you and if you don't like what you see then look within' and change your thoughts.
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how do you start dealing with grief,,,not that we are taught that now are we.\n\nI lost my dad 4 years ago xmas eve ( so when people are getting all happy ready for xmas i'm not) and he died also suddenley,.\n \nI see rest of family getting on with it so I think why cant I, but are they???, they prob feeling the same.  think of him at times and then I get upset.\n\nI think also because it was sudden doesnt mean it hurts more than if u know someone is going to die before hand, like my friends mother who had cancer.\nThey prepared themselves for her not being round much longer.... but\n Shock of loosing a loved one is that SHOCK.\n\ntalking does help, listen to me hey lol i can only talk to strangers about this.\n\n its hard cause they ie parents have been there all our life we have known them forever and now they not there.\n\n\n\nSo as far as i know it is normal still to greive, cause you dont think about them doesnt mean you have forgotton them\n\n\nI hope this makes sense sometimes you cant get your words out.\ngood luck sweetie xx
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When I was 14 my fave cousin died, he was 18.  It was a car accident.  It has been 13 years.  It took my about 11years before I could even talk about it.  Time is the only thing that can heal you.  It's ok to cry.  Maybe find someone to talk to.  It's hard.  I think about him everyday.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  Try to think about the good times and  keep her memory going.  LOVE
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Lord bless this grieving person Lord fill her with your spirit to see them through what it is they are facing's them to fill your presence Lord around them and bless them with a peace in their heart knowing that you are their for them what ever their needs are fill them Lord with your love and compassion.And allow them to know that he will never know more to ever suffer again.The Lord will see you through this just call own Him and He will come to you.Talk to Him like you would anyone else...God bless you for I have been were you are at and with out Jesus I could not of made it..What ever you need Jesus will fill you with.Ask Jesus for strenght.And Love your Father and do all you can to make Him comfortable.Spend every minute you can with Him...Talk to Him ask Him things....And above all make sure He is saved and ready to meet our Lord....God bless you And you and your Father is in my prayers...May the Lord shine His light own you and guide you through this...
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Well the answer is it depends on you - you can make it last your life OR you can decide that you were puton this earth to do good and have a fulfiling life.\n\nThe best way to address a loss of a loved one , is to plant a tree in that person's name and nurture it. That way you can use the sadness and make it constructive, I have lost three uncles who were all very close to me to various diseases, and for a year or so I was quite upset and sad.\n\nBut once I decided that I will make them proud of what I will achieve, the sadness lifted and I also met so many nice people along the way.\n\nAbout trying to fit in, give up on that. You don't need to waste your time on that. You are who you are enjoy that, enjoy whatever you do passionately. I'm sure you will meet someone like minded taht way.\n\nTake for instance I love playing tennis and racket games. And ever since I decided instead of saying I liked it to actually join a club and play it regularly I've met so many interesting people, and often we go out to see plays and concerts etc...\n\nAbout your kid, make sure he or she has a strong foundation in integrity and justice and you have done your part. Why don't you spend sometime like taking your kid to meet up with someone you really admired, so that your kid could also meet someone who has achieved something.\n\nAlways have a smile and you'll be surprised how many people would be drawn to you. Oh yeah, also try to remember a person's name, birthdate and their favourite pastimes. If you send anyone a birthday card, you will be good freinds for life...its that extra touch people want in thsi busy world...\n\nGod bless\nrgds\n*gazer
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You mourn.  You remember and cherish the good times you had with him.  You might even do something to honor his memory.  And you wait for time to heal that wound his death made in your heart.  Trust me, the healing will come.
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Take a deep breath and grieve. then start with the small stuff. pay a bill or dust a piece of furniture. then see how you feel. try doing just one thing a day until you feel you can handle more.
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Keep yourself busy doing something good for others and take it hour by hour. Time is the only thing that helps ease the grief-- but there will always be a part of you wishing for the happier moments with the one you lost.
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Dear Vickki, I am assuming you have lost someone dear to you in death? I am sorry for you pain. I know the days often seem so long. God does not promise us a life without difficulties and sorrow. He does promise his grace, his mercy and his endless love. It is so hard to understand but someday we will! I hope you can find comfort in knowing you will see your loved ones again. Think about all the wonderful times you had with this person while they were here on this earth. Thank God for blessing your life with their life. By thanking God, you will find the most amazing comfort. Peace will come and you will be able to go on. Hold on to the  the memories and treasure each end every one. I will pray for you and that your pain will be eased. God Bless!
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Know that as time passes by the pain will lesson. You always feel the void and nothing will fill its place but the pain is lessened with time. Allow grief to be. Allow memories to flow. Remembering can hurt but also help you heal. Talking about your parent will hurt also but will help you to keep their memory vivid. Don,t fear your emotions but know that they are normal. Keep yourself busy because when its somethings that's hurting you too much thinking time can be harmful. Remember that you are not alone in this emotion.
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I am sorry for your loss. It is a difficult time. Even more difficult when you have to stand before all who love him and come up with something humorous when everyone wants to cry. The best you can do is try to think of any and all funny things that he may have done, said, or a situation that involved your friend that was funny and unforgettable. Maybe something that kept people talking about  for years. Start by showing sympathy and condolences to the family. Share some heart felt moments that you had being his friend. Then throw is some times of laughter, followed by the humorous things. Wrap it up by acknowledging his accomplishments and saying something that maybe inspirational.\n\nGood luck and God bless to you, his family, and other people he may have touched in his lifetime.....
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I am so sorry for you loss.  It might help to talk about it with your family...\nLoosing a family member can not only be hard...but stressful and draining.  So many things can be done...so many things can help you.  The thing is finding what works for you.  \nIn every life...there is death.  Neither one can be fair at times....I am so sorry.
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I'm sorry for your loss.  It's going to take some time to get yourself back to feeling normal again.  You should keep yourself busy with activities, visit with your friends, try a grieving support group, take up a hobby, find things that interests you, talk to a good friend or someone you haven't seen in a while.
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That is close to a death in the family so don't rely on strangers to get you through this. Friends, family and God will guide you through. Take one day at a time...