how to get back self-esteem?
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I'vent been answering any questions for a while... but I decided to answer your question coz I found it interesting.\n\nSelf esteem can be lost in two ways: professionally and socially.\n\nProfessionally, one loses their self esteem because of a failure that leads to embarrassment among coworkers, or because of lack of appreciation. This always happens when someone start their practical career or move to a new work place. You can overcome this problem by paying much attention to all the tiniest details in your new work place. You have to produce a perfect output because you will be in what they call the probation period. Usually mistakes are not acceptable during this period. However, if it happened and you put yourself in a situation where you was emabarrassed or lost self esteem, you have to recover as fast as possible not to look like a crybaby in other people's eyes.\nSocially, self esteem is something that you create. I mean that in normal cases people will treat you within the space yoiu offer them. Well, did you see the movie "the family stone"? That lady put herself in those dramatic situations and of course she must have lost her self confidence. I mean that all of us, all normal people, know what is right and what is wrong. Just do the right thing and believe me you will always retain yourself esteem.\nFinally, there is something that you have to remember: every person has got something that he is perfect at, and that no else can do it as perfect as he does it. Try to discover what you are really perfect at and do your best to invest in it. And remember, nobody is perfcet. All people make mistakes, even those who make advices - including me now - have got large proplems that they need advice about too. What I want to say is that every one is the best doctor for himself. Everyone knows himself more than anybody else does. You are your best doctor and best advisor. \n\nI hope I could help
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I know I do not have all the answers that you need. But I hope that somehow my ideas would help.\n\nLoneliness is all in the mind. We can choose to be lonely or otherwise. Instead of sulking in a corner thinking of life's myseries and heartaches, why not boost your self esteem by thinking about the good things that happened to you  (and around you) and the good things that you expect to happen.\n\nGo out with friends and amuse yourself. Talk to people whom you trust and tell them about what's bothering you. Or get away for a while, alone - commune with nature, meditate, talk to God (or whoever you believe is the highest being). You'll realize that there are still beautiful things to be thankful for. Afterall, problems are there to be faced head on. \n\nDo not live with loneliness. Deal with it. Instead of living with it, come out a winner over your problems/frustrations or whatever causes this feeling of loneliness. You should not allow problems/negative ideas influence your life and take away the happiness that you deserve. You should take control.
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A haircut and color can do wonders for the womans selfesteem.  You have to build yourself up a little at a time.  Have you tried affermations (sp)?  Like if someone is always telling you you're ugly, telling your self I am not ugly, I am beautiful, funloving, happy person.  Often times we are our own worst critic and the cause of half our problems.  Try affirmations, look in the mirror, tell yourself the opposite or what you tell yourself and others tell you.  It didn't take over night to loose your selfesteem and it will not be over night that your self esteem will be fixed, you have to retrain your brain to think better of you.  If you have guilt issues, forgive yourself and make amends where you can.  That is a huge weight off!  Definetly start with a cut and color and exercise for 10-15 minutes a day.  Best of luck to you, you beautiful person!!!!
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Self esteem can be gained with encouragement and nurture from one to another, however the person lacking such must have the will in which to attain it. It is possible at any age...depends upon how many knock backs the person has suffered and how much they are taken to heart. Take the person out somewhere and away from overbearing situations to begin with and then gradually introduce them to a problem solving situation and go with THEIR idea and see how it works....just a thought, good luck :-)
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You have to get out of the negative talk in you head that keeps you feeling self conscious.\n\nThe best way to do this is to do something selflessly for someone else. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, or at a hospital, put change in someone’s expired meter without them knowing, go volunteer at head start , do at least  3 selfless acts a day, with no concern of how you will benefit and or gain from it and I promise you will begin to feel better about your self. \n\nAlso do something nice for yourself at least once a week, paint you r nails, get a facial, and take a relaxing bath, what ever you like. \n\nThe best way to feel good about your self is to give, give to other, give to yourself, and you will begin to receive all the confidence and self worth that you need and more!!
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Before you can begin to improve your self-esteem you must first believe that you can change it. Change doesn't necessarily happen quickly or easily, but it can happen. You are not powerless! Once you have accepted, or are at least willing to entertain the possibility that you are not powerless, there are three steps you can take to begin to change your self-esteem:\n\nStep 1: Rebut the Inner Critic: begin to challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice\n\nStep 2: Practice Self-Nurturing: begin to treat yourself as a worthwhile person.\n\nStep 3: Get Help from Others: you may need the help of other people in the present to challenge the critical messages that come from negative past experiences
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Make a list of things you LIKE about yourself.  Read the list every morning when you first get up and each night before you go to bed.\nWhat I did was force myself to come up with 3 positives about myself every time I thought of a negative.\nIt does work.
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Varies by the person. The best way to raise self-esteem is to try to focus on the things you like about yourself. Keep any compliments you receive in mind too as that will help you feel a little better about yourself. The more you focus on the good, the less you will look for the bad. Unfortunately, it's not an easy issue to fix, but focusing on being happy should help. As for a timeline...depends on the state of self-esteem to begin with and ability to cope and adapt. I wasn't too bad, but was very shy because I always felt stupid. Instead of pushing that out I just accepted it and now use it as a way to make people laugh. It only took a month for there to be a noticeable improvement in my self-esteem. And I always felt better. But it took 3 years for me to be practically entirely comfortable with myself. I hope that helps, if not I apologize.
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play this self-esteem game\nhttp://www.selfesteemgames.mcgill.ca/\nor\nhttp://education.indiana.edu/cas/tt/v3i2/selfesteem.html\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html#anchor1643790
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A tried and tested technique to improving self-confidence is as follows:\n\nLook in the mirror every morning and tel yourself you are beutiful, you are clever and you can achieve anything.\n\nLook in the mirror every night before bed and tell yourself that you have done your best today in everything you do and tomorrow you will do better.\n\nDo one thing each day that scares you.\n\nBe with friends that value you for who you are and remember you are a human being and as such you are special.\n\nYour family loves and values you and if you smile the world smiles with you.
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YOU ARE NOT USELESS!!!\n\nLife can often get us down & there seems no light at the end of the tunnel. I know how difficult & hopeless this can be.\n\nConfide in someone that you REALLY trust or speak to a counsellor, where you can explore your feelings without anyone judging you.\n\nTry and stick to your goal of achieving something small every day, however small, make sure that goal is achievable. It will do wonders for you self-esteem.\n\nI know it's cliched, but try and find some new activity, whether it's theatre, learning a new skill, whatever really, something to keep you occupied & where you can meet new people.\n\nIt isn't easy, but you will come through this. Email me if you need someone to talk to. x
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Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done.  Our self esteem is partly our personality (what we are born to be) and partly from our early childhood experiences.  Many of us, therefore, do not have naturally high self esteem.  You can upbuild yourself by taking the time to love yourself in fundamental ways: eat well, exercise, and rest.  Tell yourself often (200x/day) that you are loveable, wise, funny, and attractive.  Take good care of YOU because you are worth your own attention.  Over time, your self care will show you how valuable you are.  And high confidence is very sexy!
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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If you'd do anything, how about believing in yourself?\n\nChallenge your thinking. When you think about yourself negitively, think, is this true? Do other people really think this? If someone else was like that, how would you think about them? A lot of the time, it's not as bad as you really think. Do things that you enjoy. Meet up with friends, go shopping or simply sit in the sun and read. Whatever you do, make sure you enjoy yourself and reward yourself for being special!!
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Walmart.\n\nDon't blame yourself.  You can pick up a box of self-esteem at isle 4 at (guess where) Walmart.
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first you need to find your   SELF esteem  then look
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Only through self confidence.Believe in yourself,then all problems are solved.