how do you write a condolence for a suicide death?
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No differently than for any type of death, the condolence is because of the loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss.  First of all, please know that your father's act had nothing to do with you.  \nA four year old is too young to be told about suicide.  It is difficult for them to grasp the concept of death at all.  Surely there was a memorial service or a funeral.  If the child did not attend have a private one.  Look through a family album and remember some good times with your father. Tell him that granddad passed away.  Tell him that means you won't see him again, but you will always love and miss him.  Tell him you can share memories about granddad anytime he wants.  That it is alright to cry about this and feel sad, but it is also alright to be happy and granddad would want him to remember the happy days they shared. \nLet this be something you believe yourself!  Life must go on.  Get some grief counseling for yourself and/or join a survivor's support group.  \nCelebrate Christmas with your child.  You don't want the season to be a dark memory for him.  It will cheer you up to do this.  Decorate your home together.  Remember you are building memories with your child.  \nAllow yourself some private time each day to mourn, but do gather your courage to celebrate with your child.\nPerhaps buy a Christmas card for your father.  Write in it all the feelings you have about your loss.  Seal it and put it away.  \nIf you celebrate Christmas you must have a belief in God.  Pray for your healing.  Release any guilt you may be feeling to God.  Pray for your father.  \nAgain, my sympathy and my prayers go out to you.  A tribute to your father would be living the fullest life you can.
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If you are envying dead people, you're not in such a good place.  I've been in this situation and worse and I know what I'm supposed to tell you.  The right answer is that you need to talk to your parents about your feelings and explain your desire to want to seek help.  Get the help of a qualified mental health professional to get treated properly with the right medications and after doing so you will live happily ever after just like a Zyprexa commercial.\n\nNow what I'm not supposed to say.  Yes, you can improve your outlook by doing activities like painting or writing, but only if they are positive subjects, as opposed to say death and destruction and misery.  You can get involved with volunteer groups to make a positive impact on the world.  You can research cognitive behavior therapy and break down a lot of your sadness into the why's and learn to stop some of the painful thoughts before they happen.  You can realize that even if you're folks are stressed it doesn't mean you don't need to get attention, too.  You really do have the power to change your mind, and your nuerochemistry, by positive thinking. \n\nI am not saying that positive thinking is easy or that if you really really want to get medication that you shouldn't go get it, especially if you do start to feel suicidal, I am just saying that the mental health proffession, in my own experience mind you, has a way of simply throwing very strong medications at people and simply forgetting about them.  Always remember that you have a choice in the medications that you do or don't take or in the therapist or doctor who is treating you.\n\nLife sucks sometimes, especially when we are teenagers. You're not alone in to feeling ennui.  If your family is under stress, it's going to impact you, there's no doubt about it.  \n\nPlease remember though no matter what route you choose, whether you decide to seek treatment or not, the loss by suicide of any of the members of mankind lessens us all.  People really do care about each other.
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We are not comfortable thinking or discussing the subject of our own death. What you said about the mumbling hit home, because I do the same thing. It is so difficult to \nsay the same thing over and over like 'sorry to hear of your loss,' 'you have my sympathies,' but it is done by \nme. Even when making those statements it seems like such a cop out, so meaningless, but yet it is proper and acceptable and makes the person saying it feel just a wee bit better.\n\nI like the idea of celebrating someones life, even if we did not know them. Statements such as ' I am sure your loved one lead a full and happy life' seem much more acceptable to me, unless of course they were complete, bumbling, idiots. If that were the case the person would probably correct you immediately.\n\nWe are not good talking about death, it's uncomfortable. Don't feel badly Freyja, you have plenty of company.
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You mention suicide, but just in case, please read here:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watc
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Maybe this one will work:\n\nJust Call On Me...\n\nI can’t comprehend just how sad you must feel\nFor the loss of someone you love.\nThis sorrowful time must still feel unreal\nAnd you’re looking for strength from above.\n\nI hope, from my heart, that your pain will decrease,\nThat your spirit will gain strength again,\nAnd I pray that your faith will create inner peace\nAnd that God will send blessings…Amen.\n\nTill then, if you need me to lighten your load,\nI’m waiting to come to your aid.\nJust call on me, and I’ll walk down that road,\nUntil the dark times start to fade.\n\nFrom poemsource.com
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Be there for her.  Let her talk and talk and talk.  But don't force it.  If you know any of her anniversaries (eg. this time last year mom and I went on hols, this would've been mums birthday, etc.) then mention them to her.  These are hard days and she'll be comforted that you remembered and realise how tough it is for her.  As time passes her pain will lessen and she'll really appreciate your friendship.\n\nMy mum died and even tho she's no longer with me she's still a big influence in my life.  Your friends mum will always be with her too.\n\nEveryone needs a friend at times like this.  Thank you for looking after your friend.
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Just say that there was a death in the family.  Usually no further explanation is required.
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Is easier for me to answer if you are the person who's want to kill yourself,but is hard to answer indirectly cause we have to touch his feeling by his words,messages or conversations.Anyways,you should e-mail him or call him,don't talk to him like he needs help,talk to him like a close friend who's care of him,concern about his feeling,talk to him about the N.H.L./N.B.A./M.L.B.etc.What ever he likes .Do you know any friends or family member lived close to him ,call them for help.may be they can give him a hand,a good timing help.
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Dear Krystena,\n\nAlthough I am not personally a survivor of suicide, I Do know what it feels like to be Overwhelmed, and to lose those I Love Deeply to death ...  I have gotten a Great Deal of Comfort from reading certain articles ...  Many of them are online.  Here are a few that offer what You seem to need most right now:\n\nHave You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/diagram_03.htm\n\nWhy People Give Up on Life\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_02.htm\n\nHow Can I Live With My Grief?\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/article_03.htm\n\nIs It Normal to Feel This Way? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/article_02.htm\n\nSome Practical Suggestions for Survivors \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/diagram_03.htm\n\nWhere Can I  Find Real Hope? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/4/22/article_04.htm\n\nEach article contains a Wealth of Encouragement & Insight, written specifically for those undergoing such personal tragedy as you find yourself having to deal with.  \n\nI hope that you find as much Comfort as I have found in the Knowledge & Assurance that they provide!\n\nSincerely, PJ
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There is an organization called suicide watch.  Look them up give them a call and speak about your friend. They have there ways of checking up on the person and may even reach out to her. You are not losing out by giving them a call, that is what they are there for. If you can't find their number speak to a social worker who may have other contacts. good luck :-)
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Tell her you care. and keep saying that. \n\n\n Suicide is a cry for help, when you feel alone.\n Don't let her feel alone.
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You need to take action right now. Either tell his parents or call 911 and shown them the text messages. He may get mad at you but if you really care for him you have to take the risk. He will eventually be very thankful that you were there for him when he needed you. He is crying out for help, all treats of suicide are crys for help. He has reached a point where what ever emotional pain he feels is too strong for him to deal with on his own. He needs and wants help or else he would have said nothing and acted on commiting suicide. But if you do nothing he may think you don't take him seriously and feel traped to attempt suicide sine he made the threat. Help you friend the only way you can by getting him help from his parents of the emergency system. You may be the only one that can. How will you feel if you don't and you find out he is dead tomorrow?\n\nLet me know how this works out. Good luck.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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Describe how much the deceased was respected and admired by you and others.\n\nMention a few of the deceased person's strengths, achievements, and successes.\n\nIf appropriate, include a short personal story or anecdote involving your relationship with the deceased.\n\nStrike a careful balance between the formal tone of a sympathy letter and its deeply personal nature.\n\nRemember that a mourner is emotionally drained, so keep your sympathy letter short--under one page in length.\n\nIf you can do so sincerely, offer to help in some way and include contact information such as your cell phone number and your email address.\n\nIf you have strong religious convictions, comfort the mourner with your belief that the deceased will find peace and happiness in a better world.\n\nPut yourself in the mourner's place and imagine the kind of sympathy letter you would like to receive.
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Pick out a nice card that you feel suits hers and your personality.  Sign it simply, that's best.  \n\nLike,\n\n"You mean a lot to me, and my prayers and thoughts are with you."\n\nor\n\n"Please know I am here for you in this difficult time."\n\nDon't fo with the "so sorry" thing...it's overdone and we all know how little the usual response like that affects us.  Let your friend know you care.  That is what it is all about.
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I am sorry for your loss. It is a difficult time. Even more difficult when you have to stand before all who love him and come up with something humorous when everyone wants to cry. The best you can do is try to think of any and all funny things that he may have done, said, or a situation that involved your friend that was funny and unforgettable. Maybe something that kept people talking about  for years. Start by showing sympathy and condolences to the family. Share some heart felt moments that you had being his friend. Then throw is some times of laughter, followed by the humorous things. Wrap it up by acknowledging his accomplishments and saying something that maybe inspirational.\n\nGood luck and God bless to you, his family, and other people he may have touched in his lifetime.....
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"I heard of your loss, and I just wanted to offer you and your family my sincerest condolences in your time of grief." \n\nThen just drop it. He may respond, he may not. But your kindness will be noted.\n\nGood luck.