is there a reason why guys treat women so badly?
101063
As a man, I am inclined to say that is a typical female question. However, If you are a woman, or man for that matter, and you feel like the opposite sex just does not treat you right, you need to look at your situation.\nAre you the type of person who attracts the type of man/woman who is a dominant, and domineering person?\nRelationships are two sided. Both partners must be equal in the relationship. You must give 110 % of your attention to it, as well as the man/woman must devote 110 % to the relation ship. \nI have found that women or men for that matter who ask this question, usually do not like to step out of their comfort zone, in order to find a meaningful and fullfilling life with another person. \nYou are addicted to being abused or treated horribly. You are the only one who can change this. Either by going to couselling, or leaving him?her? and finding someone in a completely different environment. A Church singles activity, or,at a grocery store?\nMore often than not most people who ask this question, tend to frequent night clubs and local bars. Alcohol clouds a persons ability to make sound judgements in a relationship. especially new ones. \nIs it love? Is it lust? More often times it is the second that is masked as the first. Think about it. I have been married for almost 13 years now. I love my wife more today than yesterday. I will continue to grow in that love as we grow together. She is my world, my everything. We fight, and argue, but we do it constructively, we apologize for hurtful things said, and we make love to each other to reinforce the apology on top of making love on a regular basis.\nLengthy answer but I hope it helps.\nDavey Boy
421133
You got some pretty good answers, but the best one is definitely f*** off!! Some guys have no respect!!! so you shouldn't treat them with any respect either!
1027847
I've been guilty of that "super nice, but I am really hating you at this moment" kind of behavior.  A lot of the time it's because we want you to know why we are upset.  Not just that we're pissed- but the reason you pissed us off!  It can be tough figuring that one out, I know...  And the whole niceness thing is fake, you know that.... we want you to know we are ticked and trying to hide it...\nI think most women assume that men are emotionally retarded and think we are making it easier to understand us, when actually we are making it harder.  Good Luck with your girl...
175732
Lonliness is usually the root cause of it I think. Many woman feel their men never listen to them so they go look for someone who will. I wish men would learn that before the 2nd. marriage.
514273
Some guys are rude because their mothers never taught them to be otherwise.  Some are rude because they are just thoughtless and haven't got a clue that they are being rude.  \n\nSome men are rude because they think it is cool.  They think it gives them a "bad boy" image that makes them dangerous with the ladies.  This actually attracts a large number of women who have low self-esteem and believe that they do not deserve any better treatment.  Indeed, they seek out rude men because it makes them feel equal or superior to the man.\n\nSometimes you attract rude men by the clothes you wear, the attitude you express, the places you go, and the things you do.  A lot of men are just as rude as you let them be.
605166
its just what some women do. not all are like that.\nmaybe the guy is toooo nice and she starts to take advantage, as she knows she probably can.
939469
There is no excuse for a guy to treat you badly...you dont need to be in that situation ( I was in that situation for 3 years and even though we arent together i still get treated bad) If you are getting treated badly leave him and never turn back
530528
They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
952418
Its not you its just the type of guys that you are attracted to.  Sometimes love is so blind that you will put up with a lot of bull because at one point in time in the realtionship you was happy.  If a guy treats you bad leave him alone cause NO woman deserves that.
1072702
Thats because the nice guys put too much out there...but in the end they always get what they want. Because over all a female is going to remember how she f@cked up her relationship with a nice guy to f@ck with an A$$hole.
958525
guys can be jerks ... and some never grow up. some are just superficial and never outgrow it. there are a few of us good guys out there... but there are becoming fewer and fewer of us by the day.. because parents these days don't teach their kids to respect women the way we were. I mean kids running around calling women ho's and such..and hitting them. not good shows absolutely no respect for women.
450955
take it from me, they play that, bc they have to make sure the guy is up for anything. in other words, they want to make sure that YOU are SURE you want to be with them before they devote all their time and energy into a relationship with you. duh! guys hurt gals in so many sick and twisted and horrible ways, if you dont know. everyone is different, i know, but that's why they shy away, to make sure that's what YOU really want, so they dont jump in and scare YOU away like sum guys. its an emotion thing.!!!
362432
It's not hard, but it seems to me from my experiences that women say they want one thing then actually go after another....\nI'm yet to meet a woman who would go for a genuine nice guy over an asshole who treats them like crap, maybe they just need something to complain about to the nice guys they just want to be "friends" with...
490740
It is all the womans fault.  Any man that is a pig (and i believe that there are still a few out there that are not) is that way because of a woman.  Women are the cause of the downfall of society and it is there fault that the world is such a hell hole and that guys are such @$$ holes.  Guys are pretty much one track minded.  Pretty much all guys want is to be with someone, in most cases a member of the opposite sex.  Its kind of something we need to feel good about ourselves and to excel at all we do.  Girls, for one reason or another, havent figgured out that there are over 6 billion people in the world and that the one @ss whole they are going out with is not the only guy in the world.  I have seen girls stay with guys who treat them bad, who hit them, who dont provide for them, who are emotionaly abusive, who cheat, lie and do all sorts of things to them, and yet the girl doesnt figgure it out.  She sticks by her "man".  some may do this in an effort to be heroic, some may do it because they think that they cannot get anyone else, and others may do it just out of shear stupidity.  what ever reason, girls dont realize that by doing so they create a problem.  The guy knows that he is a slob and that he doesnt deserve the love and affection of the girl he is with, however for some reason, she keeps on giving it.  This inflates even more the guys already over sized ego and at the same time completely eliminates any reason for him to exert himself to get a mate.  It is very simple realy, in the animal kingdom the animal that gets the mate is the one that fights the hardest and the longest to keep her.  an elephant that doesnt fight for the she elephant will die never having had a she elephant of his own.  for somereason however, in our society those who work hard and those who exert themselves are often laughed at, made fun of, scorned and otherwise put down.  often times the guy who is the quickest witted, the funniest, or the most rebelious seem to be the ones that attract the girls.  Now this is where you will see that it all starts fall in place.  because the girl is more attracted to that particular crowed of guys, they dont do anything and still get what they want.  why should they work  or try being nice when the girl is already giving him everything he wants. doesnt make sence huh?  so the other guys see that and they say, hey that guy is a real @ss hole and he always has the girl, and they lose motivation to do the things they did before, I.E. buy flowers, take girl on dates, buy gifts, say nice things.  especially because when they do they arent rewarded for it.  So the girls decide which kind of guy will prevail in the world simply by deciding which type of guy they want to be with.  the group that has the most success is the one that succeeds.  Unfortunatly, for us it is the @ss hole.
941442
They are projecting - pure and simple.  They have probably suffered rejection or worse from women that makes them all  enemies in their minds, especially the attractive ones.  A good way to judge a person's character is by how they treat strangers.  If they are rude or mean to strangers they generally are people with low self esteem.
1074358
some men are just sick and they were'nt brought up right by their parents,usally it stems from his dad doing it to his mother.I feel a lady should be spoiled and treated just like there a part of you.Women are so special,especially one you love.True love is giving 100% and expecting nothing in return.When ever a lady was upset with me,i would'nt hit her,instead i would by her some flowers and give her a hug and leave.Treat women like jesus would treat you.
96168
Sometimes it can be because men let them get away with it.  Boundaries, dude.  Be assertive without being a jerk.  Say no if no is the right answer, and you don't need to apologize if you are avoiding being placed in a compromising position.\n\nSome women are raised from day one to believe that men are here to provide for them.  Run away!