my mother set me up for drugs ,should i still love her?
110590
wow that is very messed up...dont hate your moms hate her husband because he may have been the one who talked her into it..he may have threatened her or even he had been abusing her all along in secret...(she doesnt have to have bruises to show she has been abused..threats are verbal abuse as well) and she may have been scared of him.
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
977562
no my bf uses them too. and we are about to be done with. drugs are very addictive and will ruin your family. Things will only get worse for you-I can almost garauntee that. Leave him as hard as it might be-you will be better without him. And he is not a good dad for your daughter the way he is. She will see this and probably pick guys like this for herself one day because its what shes always seen. do you want that for her?
754888
Obviously your mom cares about you greatly or she wouldn't be concerned and wouldn't be trying to get you help.  I had problems when I was younger and my parents just didn't really care.  So having parents that love you isn't something you should be upset about.  \n\nMaybe you should talk to her, tell her that you understand her concerns and you appreciate them.  Try to be mature about the situation, maybe suggest to her that you go see a doctor first and get his opinion on the situation before taking such drastic measures as rehab.  Maybe you do have a problem that you're not really aware of or maybe the doctor will just tell your mom that you're perfectly healthy and theres nothing to worry about.  \n\nIf your mom sees that you are being mature about it and willing to cooperate, even if it's just for her peace of mind, maybe she'll trust you more in the future and you can develop a stronger relationship with her.\n\n\nhttp://www.emoscene.com
278074
Your aunt sounds like what I use to be and I will tell you this much untill she is ready to change she will not. I didnt change until I got pregnant. I break-up split my heart and soul down the middle. I still am not the same person i was before the break up. I had eating disorder and was addicted to pain pills AND SLEEPING pills. So, I guess one thing that you could do is present to her all the things that she has to lose by doing these drugs, you being one of those things. You know you will always be there for her but it never hurts to put a little fright in someone and make them think you wont. DONT LET HER CALL YOUR BLUFF.. Dont show her that you will always be there for her other wise she will always be who she is untill something happenes to change her life and by then it may be to late.
578606
Love comes in many shapes and forms but how a person shows it is the real answer here. Obviously she is has issues that she need sorting out wheter it be mental or addiction and once these are resolved maybe you would find the mother you desire. But this is not an issue you can address to her. I think she should be not a part of your life until she gives you the respect and love you deserve otherwise she would be a bad influence on your outlook in life. I had similiar circumstances and no longer speak or have contact with mine and I have found it easier not to look at the what the problem with me, but realise she has the problem and she wont confront her demons. I have turned out ok but the real problem was it took years for me to realise that ther was nothing wrong with me and I did deserve to be loved without being self destructive. Believe in yourself and have faith that early in your life you have managed to learn and handle a truely difficult situation without doing harm to yourself and those around you.
543341
That's not fair! Are you sure you're telling your side of the story honestly? Tell her that it was her choice to bring you into this world and so it is her responsibility to take care of you, and that she can't hold it against you that you are not old enough to have a job (I'm assuming you are not). Tell her that there is no harm in going to the party, even for just an hour. Tell her it is very important to you and all you want to do is have fun, not do drugs and start fires, sheesh. Tell her if she wants you to continue being a good kid she has to reward you sometimes with positive reinforcement. Sorry hon, sometimes adults are unfair too. Just know there will be other parties and eventually you will be old enough to make your own decisions. Hope one of my ideas helps you.
484863
family relations are internal. don't expose it others. be patient. love your mother. explain your feelings to her. tell her to be your guide and philosopher  for better life. still if she feels not wait till she cooperates with you.
842700
Its a phase..she's "rebeling"..Theres really..nothing you can do..she'll eventually grow out of it..but its hell until she does...If she is doing drugs..keep an eye on her..One of the worst things you could do, is confront it UNLESS theres a serious problem. Its there isnt..your going to make her upset..she'll end up doing more drugs..and then will become a problem. The best thing to do, is just keep your eye on her until she gets serously out of control. If need be, tell your parents she needs help. Talk to her about it first though. Dont make her feel cornered...
368334
AHAHAA...wtf\n\nOffer her the same drugs that you are on my man.\n\nGood luck !!
463989
I know this has to be a tough decision for you.  You have a lot invested in this relationship.  I don't know how old you are, but five years and helping someone quit drugs are big investments of time and emotion.\n\nHere's the thing.  He's too dependent.  Not only on you, but apparently on his mother.  That overdependence means that if you stay in the relationship, you will always be responsible for taking care of him and he will blame you if his life doesn't turn out like he wants.\n\nHis overdependence also means that he can't think of what's best for you.  Going to school would be best for you, but he fears losing you.  That's not really love.  When you love someone, you want what's best for them.\n\nI know it seems unloving to leave him to go back to school, but it may be the wake up call he needs.  As long as he has you to depend on, he may never grow up and get the help he needs.  By going to school and moving on with your life, you'll show him that it can be done.\n\nI hope you take your mom up on her offer.  You become like the people you surround yourself with.  It doesn't sound like  you are around people you want to become like now.\n\nWhat I would hate is for you to wake up five years down the road and find that your life is not substancially better than it is now, when in that same five years you could have an education and turn things around for yourself.\n\nI wish you all the best.
601494
Sounds like you are in a terribly awful situation and there just isn't a simple rational way out of it. I can only think of two things that you can do.\n\n If you love your mom unconditionally and you believe your mom loves you equally then the best thing to do is to face the music and tell her about your-self. \n\nIf you truly think your mom will never accept you and you completely depend on your mom and/or you're not sure that the relationship between you and your mom is that deep or strong, which is the case most of the time, then I'm sorry to say that the safest thing to do for your-self is to lie to your-self, to her and everyone else too. You have to try and pretend to be what your mom and everyone else thinks you are or what you should be until you finally feel safe and independent enough to be true to everyone and your-self. Basically, you'll live a lie, hopefully only temporarily, and sacrifice those needs for their expectations. It's gonna suck though, because while every one thinks every thing is cool and smooth, inside you'll be secretly torturing your-self by suppressing your-self for what seems like the longest time. Also you'd have to go through it alone. \n\nI'm sorry I could not be of much more help and I hope things work out ok with whatever you choose to do and that your mom will eventually love you enough to see the true you and not whoever she thinks you are or should be.
546826
Frustrating isn't a strong enough word for what it feels like to live with an addict.  Your sister needs professional help.  It is unfortunate, but your allowing her to live with you may be enabling her to continue destructive patterns that are keeping her from moving forward in her life.  You didn't mention your ages, but it would appear you are both well into adulthood.  Are your parents living?  Do they also have issues, or did they, that may have contributed to your sister's problems?  \n\nYou cannot save your sister, and you are not obligated to take care of her for her whole life.  You should see a counselor yourself to get guidance and referrals to resources in your area for dealing with the types of psychological issues your sister is facing.  \n\nIt is going to be tough, no doubt about it.  You should seek a support group to help you with your feelings of guilt and obligation.  You are NOT responsible for your sister.  I hope this helps.  \n\nTake care of yourself.  God bless you.
265225
It's tough being young. you might not want to hear it, but in the majority of these situations parents want what's best for there kids. i'm 25 so i'm still young and only within the past 2 years have i had a good constant relationships with my parents.  i'd say develop patience. deal for a year or two. by all means have fun and experiment but realize that you are human and YOU ARE NOT INVINCIBLE. take what mom says with a grain of salt. if you choose to do drugs, which I AM NOT SUGGESTING, don't use them to get f'd up, use them to learn, and carefully. As long as you keep in mind that mom and you are fighting most likely because she's concerned, you should be able to breathe it off, when you get in fights with her. you're both human, it happens. don't let the snags off adolescence scar your relationship with someone very important. good luck kid.
547726
GO see your sister see if she agrees that her drug problem,or the people it attracts,endangers her kids(she may).She may also agree that you should take her kids for their protection.\nDon't wreck your relationship with your sister it may come in handy in protecting her kids.\nAs for your sister being on drugs not much you can do but point out that you think she is destroying her life,what she does or responds is up to her.
40740
Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.
238057
too bad for her...that is very self centered.make clear that your mum has a place in your heart as well.