How do u keep family out of your personal life?
102916
Dont involve them. Dont give them access on whats going on with you. Stay more to yourself. Catch them off gaurd with different versions of your personality that they have never seen from you before. The more you let them understand you..... the more they will ASSUME that they know you better than you know yourself, so dont open any doors for them to interfere. NOTE: always be carefull, always use basic principals, remember that we do not always make the best decisions for are selves, so it is not always safe to trust your own instincts, (sometimes its OK to let family in.)  If they are trying to help you.... just always consider their true intentions.
370907
well you have to stop putting all the weight on your shoulders no one make you the person who has to bare all the problems don't sweat the small stuff . you have to let things just go as they do.. you can go to counciling or talk to a friend..light some candles and just relax ..go do something for yourself and forget the family for a few hours..talk to your family and tell them that this environment isnt healthy that something has to change
748206
You could go to youth hostels, the YMCA, the Salvation Army.  There are lots of choices but are you sure leaving your family is a good idea right now?  I don't know what the problem is but usually if you leave before it gets resolved you will never resolve them.  I moved out when I was 16 as well and now I haven't talked to my sisters or my parents in 13 years.  Weigh your options carefully.
929752
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
75534
Well, I think that since it is your last vacation before college, you might not see him anymore, right? So I understand when you want to spend time with him, but your family is just as important. They too want to spend some time with you, some "private" time. Maybe you could take a couple days where you just hang out with your family, and only your family. If they feel that he's invading their privacy, you can go somewhere instead of staying at your house.
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
1023042
Sounds like he is very controlling.\nIf he separates you from your family them you will be all his to gain control over.\nAsking you to do that is also very ignorant and dissrespectful to you. If he has any love, concern and respect for your feelings he wont expect you to do that.\nMen come and go, families do not!
673787
Talk about your family.
970590
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
430546
LEAVE...THE...FAMILY...THING...ALONE
761878
Go to your husband's parents!\n\nFailing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.
897655
I think you should invite all family and if there not adult enough to let things go foe a nice fam event tell them not too come , they may not even come , but the invite in a nice thing and either way might make it easier to see you nephew, forgiveness is one of the hardest to do but it is one of the best , remember good comes form good how can it be bad , good on you for thinking this and being the bigger person , good luck
170877
if she let her family get in the way then you don't need her. Just got out with friends and have a good time do what you can to keep your mind off of her. I am going through the same thing. I just keep my slef busy.
270294
not your life unless it is a family member
838399
don't you worry\njust ignore everyone, just stop talking alot to your family and stay by yourself and stuff like that for a while\ngo out with your friends, just totally ignore the family that doesn't notice you, hopefully soo they will notice or even if they don't you have friends and stuff, like practice your violin then when your mom actually pays attention she'll be like wow my daughter's so good nad you'll be like yeah i know, na dthen you can make her feel bad for not noticing how far you came as a musician or something like that
603017
It is best to leave family and personal stuff out of the work environment. People at work will use that against you when you least expect it and they will use it when you are least expecting them to.\n\nWomen tend to go through up's and down every month. Give them space, it is natural. Be respectful and kind and let them know that no matter what, your here for them. \n\nWhatever they are going through will soon end and then they will think about you and what you said, and respond. Then you can open up and ask what was wrong. They will usually explain or tell all then.
608921
rumors are nasty, the more u deny what they are saying, the more they say about u, just be yourself, and let your family know, at least they should accept your word.