Why is an out of work woman having such a hard time getting probono help to keep her child from a sex offender
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What was his offense? It's pretty easy these days to become a "Registered Sex Offender"... I know one guy who wound up charged with sex crimes when "Drunk in Public" would have been the appropriate charge...he urinated in public (the parking lot) and did not zip back up... and now must register as an SO for the next 5 years... all I'm saying is that there may be more to the story and this guy may not be any danger at all, to anyone...If the dad truly should be kept away from his daughter, she should contact a victim's rights advocacy group for advice.
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well really nothin but child support .. ..  i am in the same sistuaition as you i think my dad is in prison and my mom abandands me in the cold winter time night sky .. she won't let me in she locks me .. .. out .. and she just wants to put us in a foster home but none will take us casue were to difficult  .. .. so really all i have is my older brother on my side and a few friends really good ones so what you don't have try to get it back and what you have hold on to it tight
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She needs a good attorney to help her. Those are not always easy to find. She needs support, some friends and family to go with her to court, etc. Usually abusers like that are repeats, find out if he has abused anyone else. If that woman he was seeing had a daughter, I will lay good money out that he has molested her too. That is why he went after the mother...to get to the daughter. That is a typical m.o. of these perverts. \n\nJust because he is "a first timer" does not mean he should get off. She gets one life, no pardons for a new one. That needs to be stressed. Pressure should be put on the judge by public out cry. Bring it to the media, T.V. whatever if necessary if he gets off easy. You can find out how a judge has voted in cases previous to this, make sure that his attorney isn't call all the shots.\n\nShe must get counseling by someone NOW (a female) who is experienced in counseling women of abuse such as this, she needs to do that above everything else. The good she did in bringing him this far is fantastic, she needs to know how brave she is for doing that. \n\nBy going to a good counselor, she can talk out what she has been through and going through now with this case. It takes the stress off her mind and she verbalizes it. The counselor is also a support to her, reassuring her.
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well, almost certainly you would need to call your local police or sherriff's office, if you want to report her for a crime.. or the state family services board, if you want to help the children..  but i can't tell you how to do that since i don't know where you live.\n\nsorry!  guess they're doomed to a life of hardship and despair.
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I knew someone that went through this. The cops are useless, unless he physically hurts her or the kids -they won't do crap. Since he's been there more than 6mo he can claim residency even if he wasn't paying anything. But since he's paying the bills she'd Have to get the eviction order for the cops to do anything. Plus he could fight the order on the grounds he's paying the bills there. She's lucky it isn't a common wealth or they'd be married and she'd need a divorce. Honest! \nGuys like this are preditory parasites! They find a single mom & a nice person, then they terrorize and threaten this parent so that she won't fight back. Normally, they chase off any friends so the person is isolated. The system don't work for these people, they have lives and don't want to leave their home. Worse, for those with kids, they don't have anyplace to go with their children.\nAnd don't say shelters - more desperate parents fleeing abuse lose their kids in those shelters. They're told that the kids will be placed in safe homes, til the parent can get settled...trouble is try and get the child back afterwards. It's almost impossible! And they brainwash young children into saying they were hurt or abused by the parent. I got that bit of information from an ex-social worker who got disgusted with the lies and stuff she saw.\nMoney given as donations to organizations and persons to find and aquire young male and female children for waiting adoptive parents. \nVices that rule the world - Sex  Money  Knowledge\nthree powers that can control anyone anywhere - everyone has their price.\nThe mom I knew only escaped due to friends finding out what was going on and coming  to her and her children's rescue. Moving her and her family out of his reach and keeping tabs on him for 2yrs so he couldn't follow - including false leads as to where she was living.\nThey supplied the money, they supplied the moving truck and they stood guard when he came to try and stop her or take the kids...(none of them were his so it would have been kidnapping) but they kept him powerless so she could escape.\n\nThis mom doesn't seem to have that option. Sure, she could take what money she gets, take her kids and flee. But what about where to go? She's not able to drive so how can she afford to pay to get away and get a place to stay. She most likely doesn't want to tramatize the children or depending upon the age of the kids - she may be afraid of being able to keep an eye on all of them. Depends on her visual ability. Being handicapped (visually - in her case) she's limited on options even more. \nI'll bet she's tried saving up money but then he's found out about it and drained it all. That's what happened to my friend. He was always making sure that she was dependent on him, afraid of what he'd do...the threats to her kids...and they say that terrorists are non-americans....ask some of these women that have lived with the all american terrorist male butthead!\n\nI hope someone will come to her rescue like we did for the mom I know. She's got her life back and has never looked back. Thankfully, her children don't really remember much about that time either...not clearly. I hope some of her friends can figure it out and save her before it's too late.
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Do you work at home? \n\nIf not forget the slander suit.\n\nPeople take child endangerment seriously. No one is going to penalize her for complaining.\n\nYou should consider the nature of the complaints. What is being said? Is this a domestic violence thing? Is is it a noise thing? What is it?\n\nTwo times in one week. This person is pissed off at you. Why?\n\nDo you have a fence? Good fences make good neigbors, they say.  Beware of Dog signs don't hurt either.\n\nI would recommend that you talk with the social services worker and ask them for help. They can tell you what is right, and you can show them it is all in your neigbor's imagination.\n\nCheck and see if there is some reason why she may want your house. In that case, you might be looking at a great chance to stick it to her on the sale price. Might as well get something out of this. \n\nI am guessing day care is out of the question. She would look quite the fool if your children were not at home when she complained. \n\nLook into your deed restrictions to see if the civic association can help you out. Think nuissance.\n\nThe neighbor may be guilty of some form of trespass, criminal mischief, or just plain peeping.  Get a neighbor to confirm this and you can demonstrate malice to the social services. tey will report her to the police for filing false reports.\n\nI am guessing you are the only neighbor with children, if not; seek allies. Who knows, you may be able to get a child swap together in your neighborhoood, where all the kids are at on house on the same day. When it is your house the neighbor will go insane, but; you will have witnesses, lots of witnesses.
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tell her to call Social Services wherever she lives or go to the nearest police station. They will direct her. You cannot help her---what if her abusive husband comes after you! This calls for professional help. But you are nice to want to help!
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Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
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You can always become an alcohol and drug counselor. Where it gets tricky when you want to work with kids. I have a BS degree and I am a Felon and did 20 months in prison in Oklahoma. That is our industry - prisons. It's hard, it's very hard. It's a shame you can not get into Police work. You can get state jobs, and not much else. it's a wonder, why this wonderful judicial system we have - we get out of jail, probation or parole and turn around and have to depend on the state for help, because we can't find a job that pays enough to raise our children. Everyone puts you down, when you are already down. So, I hope the best for you and take care of that little girl. I have one too, but she just turned sixteen. She is really learning a lot about our system. And she thinks it's unfair and it is. Yes, for all of you self righteous people out there - no I shouldn't have broken the law - dah...........and because we broke the law, everyone shouts you lost your rights. All I want is to be able to support my child like everyone else. But, you see you aren't like everyone. You and I got arrested, shame, shame, but you know. we are the people who can help other people before they make the mistakes that we did. I was in for Forgery. But, I can go and finish my Masters and become a counselor and for  those of you that say, you have no rights!    You broke the law! guess what I may counsel you someday... see ya soon!
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There are registered offenders, whom you know to look out for.  Then there are those who haven't been caught.  \n\nThe world is an imperfect place. As a parent, teach your children all you can.  Arm them with knowledge so you know they'll be safe even when you're not around. \n\n.
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There is a wonderful support and information group at http://prisontalk.com\nAmong the members are many people in the same situation you're facing.\nI've got a "someone special" locked up, too, and this group has helped me a great deal.
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Sometimes the living situation of the mother and or the history of her living like drug use lack of jobs or work placement and just not a structured home for times of home visit possiblemistreatmentof the children violence alcohol abuse and many other reasons \njail time, seedy boyfriends, I would recommend you get a list from your local social affairs dept. and one from family affairs some Law offices may have info on this as well.
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The parents were reported to child protective services, but there is no update to what happened. The father agreed to not allow the mother to be unsupervised with the kids at anytime. I hope, for the children's sake, that this family can get help.
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It is a double edged sword!\nI have met parents that had no right to keep their kids but dcf allowed it. Yet, I have seen MANY hard working, loving families lives destroyed because of that place!! Don't be too quick to blame case workers though ( 9 out of 10 cases are false claims, but they have to determine bogus from real, meaning they have to investigate even the wackiest claims.) Their case loads are always too "loaded" and they do not make a lot of money. Having said that, how do we fix that prob? Well, those ppl who report false abuse (just to get even with an ex, a parent, a neighbor) could realize that it is their immaturity that is causing damage to the whole system. But that will not happen anytime soon. So remember to stay cooperative and allow them to do their job. It will go a lot smoother. Good luck!
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Good for you! Thank you for not signing that petition. Yes, there are many rehabilitated former sex offenders. The recidivism rate of sex offenders is the lowest for all crimes, with the exception of murder. A child has a higher chance of being harmed by a drug dealer/user, drunk driver, playground accident, drowning and parental neglect than they do by a rehabilitated former sex offender. \n\nAll parents need to realize that their children are a gift from God. They are to be vigilant in supervising them and teaching them. If you teach your children good touch/bad touch and what to do if a bad touch happens, make them aware of people around them and don't take your eyes off them they will be fine. I have raised three children and I am not raising two grandchildren. I do not utilize the registry. There is no need for me to as they are always under my watchful eye. \n\nGet to know your neighbor. Discuss his offense with him. It may be that it was a Romeo/Juiliet case or any other number of things. \n\nGod forgives all our sins. We need to learn to walk in the light of God. God forgives all sins, including sex offenses.
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call your local police and ask for some one to come on out to your house so you can show them your paper work and make sure they know that the other person has left the building\nand so they can put them in for a missing sexual offender, because they are supposed to tell them before them move where they are moving to and then re-register when they get there.\nso make the telephone call first thing and ask them to send some one out to verify that the sexual offender does not live there any more..\n\nsmile\ngood luck\nand\nGod Bless
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Good luck in finding it. Just remember that not all sex offenders are pedophiles. Some just made a bad decision when they were younger and got involved with a seductive 16 year old or were got masturbating in a public bathroom or their tent at a campground. \n\nIn fact, the majority are probably not a threat to you or your children at all. Despite what Oprah says.