What should i do if a person is asking to forget about the past?
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Forgiving is to choose not to fight anymore, the forgetting part doesn't come automatically, it's a process, so don't beat yourself up.\n\nIt is perfectly acceptable to feel wary of them. Being betrayed by a family member is the worst kind of betrayal there is, because it's so unexpected.\n\nIf you have not discussed your feelings about what happened with your accusers personally, maybe you should. Be frank. You said the e-mail made you smile, it sounds like the wound is healing, that's a good sign. Take things slow! And be careful, Jesus wants us to forgive but He doesn't want you to put yourself in a bad situation. \n\nGood luck with your situation.\nAnd remember, you're not alone.
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Just sit them down and as nicely as possible tell them what you want to say. I mean, honesty is the best policy, but if you still care about the person you can try and cushion the blow by saying something like, " I don't feel like I once did about you, things have changed, I'm sorry I don't love you anymore" ect ect. If they ask why I guess you could tell them and get into that if you really want too and have the energy for it. Basically, I guess what would help is if you imagine yourself in the other person's shoes and think about how you would want them to tell you the same thing.
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babygurl..the past is the past..you have to live for now and the future..maybe you have to write a note...to get it off your chest..sit down and write it down on a peice of paper if you dont want to write it you cant type it..open ur your email..put to yourself..because you're going to keep it fr your eyes only..put put it as though you are writting it to him..get all of your feelings out on that screen/paper..trust me i do it sometimes and it makes me feel a whole lot better..has he apoligized to you about it? maybe thats the problem..he hasnt apolgized..but you know hwat?! i would tell you to talk to him about it..how you're feeling..but some people dont like old news or to be brought up the past when its already done and over with so i dont know what to tell you..yuo just have to let it go..how do you expect to live for/in the future if you keep living for/in the past..you may not always forget what a person has done but you can forgive what they have done..and if he's done it years ago..why are you still letting it bother you? forget about it?! its useless..why are you keeping it fresh in your mind? if you find you cannot do anything to solve these problems maybe you should talk to him about it or maybe a counsler can help you...or maybe you just need to find somebody else..is it about trust issues? what is it? if you are having your doubts and you are unhappy why are you in a relationship with him in the first place? maybe you need to let him go and find somebody else or just take a breath for a while? theres really no way to get away for it..its eaither you take him and love him thick and thin for his mistakes or whatevers hes done in the past or you have to set him free..i dont know what else to tell you..keep your head up! good luck! hope i helped..start to think about positive things..he does..or places yall been or good memories..stop thinking about things that bother you from years ago...learn grow from it and close that chapter..move on!
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=we are all products of our past.  Our past makes us who we are right now.  If it was a negative then you need to be aware of it and turn it into a positive.  Health is a state of mind.  If you tend to be so focused on your past it hinders you from moving on.  If you continue to focus on the past maybe you should talk to a professional about it.  You are obviously a good person otherwise you wouldn't be so worried.  Best of luck..
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You can't move forward if you don't face your past.  Be brave enough to follow your dream, go to the university you want, and disregard your ex-girlfiend.  It's your life after all...don't let someone else control it, even if indirectly.
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Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
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if you think its best to forget him, then you need to get busy, and stay busy. the best way to get your mind off of something is to put your mind on something else. although i dont believe you will "forget." forgetting is something we rarely achieve.
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What's done is done. You can't change the past, so don't dwell on it, you only waste your own time and energy. Take it as a leason in life to not expect soo much from other people. Deal with her as you have been before the incident, just be a bit more cautious.
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Good Question, human nature is not to forget. I think it is possible to forgive without forgetting. Forgiving is easy. Forgetiing is not, especially the pain. Forgetting may never happen, however do not make it a habit to shove the mistake down the person's throat. Not forgetting doens not mean living in the past either. In other words...don't keep bringing it up. if it bothers you talk to her about it. Otherwise...sorry..no forgiveness\n\nOne more thing...always forgive. It is an act of selfishness. Forgive the person for yourself. \n\nI know where you are coming from. You probably wont ever forget. But I think you forgave her.
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No...those are YOUR memories and nobody has the right to tell you to delete/remove/forget them...besides how will you feel when this relationship ends, and you gave in and discarded memories of previous relationships?\n\nAnyone over the age of about 12 nowadays, knows the person they are with is likely to have been in other relationships...perhaps several, perhaps serious, perhaps intimate...\n\nThe idea of requesting someone to throw way or delete pictures is a sign of jealousy and insecurity...now if you had pics of you and an ex in frames around your home or your desk at work, then yeah...he'd have a valid reason to be upset...\n\nTalk to him about why he's upset...it's not just because there's a pic of you smooching on someone who is no longer in your life (at least in that capacity)...what's the REAL reason he's bugged?
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To forget something is to internally deny it.\n\nThe danger in that is when you deny something, it remains in your subconscious and people around you will pick up on that experience whether they know it or not. In other words, you will attract situations and experiences that repeat the very experience you're trying to forget. My advice to you is to fully accept it, what ever it is. It may not be pleasant, but it will eventually lose energy and become like a faint memory, or dream.
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The thing to remember, sweetie, is that not even God (or your representation of God) can change the past. And if God can't, you can't either. What you CAN do is realize that you have control of the present and the future. You can't undo it, but you can work to make it better.\n\nPeace.
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This might sound really stupid, but I used to and still do a little feel the way you do. When I was seeking help about it, I was told to write my little disappointments or things I regretted on some paper, wad up the paper, and throw it away. It's like I needed that visual to realize that the past is the past, there isn't anything I can do about it except maybe learn from it and do better next time around. What good it is doing you just sitting around nursing these things ya know? Make up for it however you can.
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It depends. As long as it was before you and they haven't slept with anyone since you then why not leave the past in the past? Maybe they were just too embarrassed to tell you. On the other hand, I could see where that could bring up a lot of turst issues because they did not tell you before hand. Ask him/her why didn't say this before, and REALLY listen to what they have to say. It may just be because they didnt want to lose you or to think badly of him/her.
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I believe having these mementos from his past comforts him.  Maybe he feels that if he gets rid of certain items, he's getting rid of his memories also.  I know that I'm very sentimental about some of my things.  Help him sort through his things and try to decide what things he can't live without, and what is really just accumulated "stuff".   Be patient, he may never let go of many things.  If you really care about him, try to understand.  If you're just "going out" with him, and not really serious about him, then don't push the issue until your relationship becomes permanent.
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it sounds like you had a bad expierence in another life time. when you go to bed tonight, keep saying that you want that part of your past lives not to bother you anymore. you might have to do it a few nights. but it will help
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Get over it and get on with your life.\nYou cannot change the past.  Stop living through your memories.\nShe has made her choice or she would not be engaged.