I want to help a frien of my to avoide suicide. what should i do?
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Make sure you tell someone that has the ability to get them treatment.This is of great urgency!!! If you are the person that can get them to the right help,DO IT NOW!!! Take them to the emergency room or to a clinic.Don't worry about medical insurance there is always a way to get the bill covered and they will not turn them away.If you are scared then ask someone to help you.No matter what get them help.NOW!!!
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just be the freind you are be there for them to talk to cant always fix there problem but thats what freinds are for in that situtation to be there for them to talk too. hugs and jsut leting sit there and sob on your shoulder is all sounds like she needs right now is for you to be there to talk to
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Be there for them when they need to talk about their issues and when you have had all you can take - do something for yourself like a bubble bath, gardening or go for a walk. Something YOU enjoy - to take your mind off their problems.\nBTW. Do not feel bad if you have to tell them you can not take any more right now.
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I work at a hospital and our docs prescribe anti-depressants all the time. If your friend had mentioned suicide to you then you can have her committed against her will. Call the police if you think she is in danger. Or check out the bottom of the www.postsecret.com blog, they have a hotline with the answers you need.
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Call some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, knitting or visiting a museum. If they n
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Right or wrong isn't really an issue with suicide.  The consequences are.  If you die, you have no consequences -- that's the intrigue, isn't it?  No consequences, no more feelings, no more life.  But think about the people you leave behind -- and there are ALWAYS people you will leave behind, no matter what you think.  Your death would affect people you thought you didn't even know, not to mention your family and friends.  I know what it's like to be left behind by a suicide victim, and it isn't fun.  It's been years and I am just starting to 'get over it'.\n\nAs for the cutting, it's really great that you're helping your friend.  That is the right thing to do.  Let her know you're there for you and let her know that you care.  Does she know you haven't stopped -- does she even know you do it too?  If not, you might consider talking about it with her -- what it feels like, why you feel like you have to do it, why it's so hard to stop.  It might help her out to hear from someone who is going through the same thing.\n\nYou do need to make an effort to stop, though -- SI is a serious problem.  If you're not comfortable talking to your parents (I understand if you're not), go to your school counselor or talk to a trusted ADULT friend.  Encourage your friend to do the same -- talking to a peer is not quite the same as talking to an understanding authority.\n\nI wish you all the best.  You can do it! :)
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Just be there for them, hon, just be there for them. That is all you can do as a friend. Listen to them, if that is all you do, if that is all they need than do it.
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just be supportive. Give her a hug and tell her you will be there for her.  If she is over 18, you should strongly suggest she get help, and tell her you will be there for her every step of the way. If she is under 18, you should do the same, but if she refuses, you should tell an adult. She needs help you cannot give her. All you can give her is support and friendship.
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You tell her. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, tell her that you have a friend and what should your friend do. When she reassures you, tell her that your friend might acutally be you. She will help you and get you to a safe place.
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it sounds like she really needs help to get her life straightenend out, if you ignore her she will feel like you don't care and that you think she is worthless.  You need to help her get her life back on track before something worse happens to her.  Help her get counseling, get into rehab, even go to church.  If you avoid her and something really bad happens, like she ends up getting killed, then you will never forgive yourself for standing by and letting it happen when you could've done something.  Maybe what she really needs is a friend like you to help her.
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It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
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Take them very seriously..... Do not think for a moment that they are not serious... Be the best friend you can be and be an excellent listener.....\n\nA person who wants to commit suicide is, in there mind, ready and prepared to commit that act.... Contrary to popular beliefe they are not cowards they just feel that they have no other way out..... Sometimes the pain they feel is so intence that the only way out is death....\n\nThey are not wanting attention, but rather help for their situation. They need to know that there is a way out and that they do have support. Most people who commit suicide do so in private because they are very private people nor do they want to be a burden.....\n\nRemember to take them very seriously if not you may loose that person for ever.... Do not treat them like a child and respect them..... Listen to what they say and never offer your opinion or call them names..... Never under any circumstances laugh at them..... They are talking to you about suicide because they are at the end of their rope (no pun intended)....\n\nGood luck to you
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I gather from your details that this has actually happened. In truth, there are a lot of signs that can tell you that this might happen, however, there are many times that the person doesn't really exhibit the signs & just does it. I don't know how well I'll do this but I'll try to explain:\n\nI've read studies that say that, if a person wants to be stopped from committing suicide they will do things to tip off their friends & family but, if a person really does want to do it, they just do.\n\nI don't know how much weight I give to this theory, however, in every situation that I have had a relatively close perspective on, the person in question went in one of these two directions. In two of the cases, no one was aware of any problems & there had never been any outward sign of depression.\n\nWhat makes it hard for the friends left behind is that, as a friend, you feel like you didn't do something that you should have to be there for her as a friend when, in fact, there may not have been anything that you *could* have done to help. No matter how hard you try, you can't make someone better or happier if they don't wish to be so.\n\nThis may not help you much but I can share something from my own life that might serve as a corrallary to what you are going through. My father passed away at only 52 from a massive coronary. He'd been back & forth to the doctor from years & been told what he needed to do & not do but he just wouldn't listen. He was remarried with two boys but I - his only natural child - was the only one he ever confided in about doctor's visit, not feeling well & such. Well, when he died, I knew I'd done my best to get him to take care of himself but, after ten years of living with his death, I finally realized that he just didn't want to give up those things that made him happy. I could cajole, complain, nag & beg but I couldn't make him realize that his long life was worth giving up some things. It made me realize that we really can;t force someone to do anything because, if they truly want something they will find a way to get it, even behnd your back. Unfortunately, this is just the way life is & sometimes you can't help someone.\n\nIn your case, it sounds like she didn;t want to be here for some reason & felt so strongly about it that she took care of the issue herself. There probably weren't really any signs to see or else her parents would likely picked up on something as well. You said she seemed to have it all together; you might have been seeing exactly what she wanted you to see. You can't beat yourself up over it - though we always do when we grieve - if she didn't give you any signs then there was really nothing you could have done.\n\nGood luck & be gentle with yourself through this time...
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With compassion.  Your friend probably needs you more now than ever before.  It will be difficult, as it is with anyone you know is dying, but just being a friend is the best thing you can do.
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Help Yourself When You’re Feeling Suicidal\n\n\nThe following are some ways to help you cope with suicidal feelings: Tell your therapist, a friend, a family member, or someone else who can help.\n\nDistance yourself from any means of suicide. If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time. Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.\n\n\nAvoid alcohol and other drugs of abuse.\n\n\nAvoid doing things you're likely to fail at or find difficult until you're feeling better. Know what your present limits are and don't try to go beyond them until you feel better. Set realistic goals for yourself and work at them slowly, one step at a time.\n\n\nMake a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it no matter what. Set priorities for the things that need to be done first. Cross things out on your schedule as you finish them. A written schedule gives you a sense of predictability and control. Crossing out tasks as you complete them gives a feeling of accomplishment.\n\n\nIn your daily schedule don't forget to schedule at least two 30-minute periods for activities which in the past have given you some pleasure such as: listening to music, playing a musical instrument, meditating doing relaxation exercises, doing needlework, reading a book or magazine, taking a warm bath, sewing, writing, shopping, playing games, watching your favorite DVD or video, gardening, playing with your pet, participating in a hobby, taking a drive or a walk.\n\n\nTake care of your physical health. Eat a well-balanced diet. Don't skip meals. Get as much sleep as you need, and go out for one or two 30-minute walks each day..\n\n\nMake sure you spend at least 30-minutes a day in the sun. Bright light is good for everyone with depression, not just people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). \n\nYou may not feel very social but make yourself talk to other people. Whether you talk about your feelings or about any other topic, reducing your social isolation is likely to be helpful.\n\n\nRemember that while it may feel as if it will never end, depression is not a permanent condition.\n1-800-273-TALK
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No, Don't commit suicide. there is some who's :-W for you. Please if you feel like you need some one that you talk with contact me.
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Call the police and tell them the story.  They have to go to her home, make sure u mention shes intending to harm herself.  They have to come out. If she is under 18 call Child protection Service and she can be removed from home.  Or if u are able to kidnap her and take her to the ER.  (use to work in one and u would be surprise how many are brought in for suicidal tenancies) They have to treat her.  They can not refuse to take her in.  And ask UR parents for help.  U might be surprise what ur parents could do for as well.  (well I hope they are like my parents willing to step in for a ur friends)