How to be more out-going and lively?
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Hey don't worry - do some lifestyle changes - you want to meet girls - join a gym/aerobics class/cooking class/take a night course etc\n\nIf you want to meet someone in your own faith - join a prayer group/study group/youth group\n\nIf you want to meet someone in your profession - attend seminars/go to profession barbeques etc\n\nIf you want to meet someone fun and adventurous - join a secular charity group - say Rotary\n\nIf you want to meet someone who has social consciousness at heart - do some volunteer work at the soup kitchen or at the local red cross etc\n\nbe comfortable with yourself, work out a bit so that your body is in good shape, read widely so that you have a lot of topics to draw upon when you meet that gal...oh yeah browsing for books and shopping is also a good place to meet girls...\n\nDon't gush too much when you meet someone, don't relate everything that has happened etc and especially leave out miserable stuff out....listen listen listen and listen to what makes her tick...and enjoy her company...actually the less you say about what you have done the better...\n\nhave fun
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I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
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To be more social on a regular basis, a person has to take themselves out of their shell. You probably like it in your shell because that's where you're comfortable, You've been there so long and it's nice and cozy. What is not often realized is that when you do something that's outside of your comfort zone enough times, it becomes your new comfort zone! Adaptation.. Improvisation.. but your weakness is not your technique. Go out on a regular basis and make a note of it to just say hi to people. Then when the situation arises and you think you'll live through it, Talk to people when waiting in the checkout line or in any type of waiting situation. Talk about anything, weather, something they're wearing, something you like about them. Keep it positive! After a while of this you'll eventually realize, wow, I'm so much more outgoing than I used to be. And it will be good.
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Tired of being the shy person in the back of the crowd? Become the center of attention at an easy, personalized pace! \n\nSteps \nBe confident. Tell yourself that you have great qualities, and don't let anybody bring you down! \n\nSet goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily goals, and gradually become more daring. E.g. try to speak at least once every class period. \n\nIntroduce yourself to new people each day. Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to cute people. \n\nHold close bonds with your friends, they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help. \n\nTry doing stuff you never dreamed you would. For example: Talk to that cute boy in study hall that you thought would never notice you. Wear something very flattering and colorful to show what a fun person you really are! \n\nLaugh often, at your own jokes and those of others. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling. \n\nLie on your bed and take 3 deep breaths. Then visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now in that situation make yourself confident. Do this for as many situations as you can think of. Do this daily. Do this in the morning. \n\nRepeat positive affirmations using I statements. " I am a wonderful person". "I am a good looking person". Do it even if you don't believe it. Do it daily. \n\nMake a list of things that make you feel shy that you want to try and work on. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes -- take it at your own pace but do make an effort to push yourself. \n\nTips \nThere's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either! \n\nDon't go overboard, and just be yourself! Life isn't a competition! \n\nShyness is sometimes seen as classy. \n\nDon't be afraid to seek professional help -- group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. \n\nIf you are intelligent enough to know when to keep your mouth closed, then there is no advantage to being shy. Rid yourself of shyness, you'll thank yourself later. \n\nOften, being shy is a result of feeling inferior to or otherwise "less than" other people. Think about it, this is almost never the case. A positive self-image is the key. \n\nWarnings \nIf you were known for being shy amongst family members, watch out for the harmless teasing. They mean well. But don't let them scare you back into your shell! \n\nSame goes for people at school, if you are still at school. Some may be uncomfortable with you existing outside the categeory they've put you in, in their own minds. Ignore them.
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stay cool and simple... Unless you want great attention from others then just be yourself and you will end up with the right people that has the same wants that you do..\n\nCheers
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Always be yourself because sooner or later they are going to find out who you are anyway. Having said that concentrate on displaying your best qualities (i.e. being kind, a hobby, volunteer work, etc.). In the long run you will see that you're not boring just selective.
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You need to be around people plain and simple learn conversational skills and work the room. Maybe even a galss of wine in a social setting would help. Or talk to the faceless people on here and work your way up to a party.
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get involved in groups or activities that you are passionate about.  That way you'll be around and meet people that share similar interest.  You won't meet people just sitting at you home.  get out and get somewhere!
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be yourself and don't be a bug-a-boo\nif being yourself is not working out try these:\nbe sweet,be kind,be attentive,be considerate,be honest,be a good listener.....
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The first thing is networking. Command a  large and rich social circle.\nYour personality, lifestyle, charisma and selling skills
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Be yourself! {Please dont lie} Good grief! Think of someting funny to talk about! I dont know _Maybe you need new friends dude! Relax , be that person down deep just wanting to get out ! You have your entire life ahead of you ! Slow Down! BE real! RELAX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111
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be yourself, and have a good personality.
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Just be yourself. While people may at first be attracted to outside appearances, it's what's insides that counts. I know it sounds like an old cliche, but it's true. Just let your own unique personality shine, and don't be pursueded by others easily. Share your opinions, your thoughts, and all those things that make you uniquely you.
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The best thing to do is to be yourself, and dont be afraid to speak your mind. And try not to be to COCKY!!!
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be your self and have fun at it
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go out and see the world. go on movie dates whatever,as long as you experience new things. the more you experience,the more you can share with others.
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Join a dance class, sports club or anywhere you can meet new people.\nTry doing something that you have always been too scared to do, you never know, it may give you the buzz you are looking for.\nIf all else fails, book a week off work, pack a bag, go to the airport and get a cheap last minute flight to anywhere young and fun.\nLastly, try having a more positive attitude. If you act like your life is boring, people aren't going to be queueing up to be your friend - act like yours is a life worth being part of, and they will be flocking to your door.