if you think of women does that make you a lesbian?
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If you are more attracted to women and want to act on these feelings, then yes, or maybe bi\n\nBut if you are just using them as erotic pictures in your mind, but still enjoy your men, then i dont think so.
622116
Have I ever seen a lot of lesbians, doing lesbian things.  I am not ashamed to admit that I like what people call 'gay bars'... thats where all the GOOD MUSIC is, I dont want to hear the latest top 40 hip/pop every hour on the hour, thanks.  They are not as violent and competitive, not as many tramps, I like to dance, all night long, and I dont like to be bothered. Frankly, they usually smell better too.  I do wear a spiked belt, it seems to keep strange men's hands off my waist, though I dont really attract that kind of attention much.  \n\nI dont like lesbians, and they are not sexy at all to me, they are kind of anti-sexy.   Once I realize they are lesbian I am no longer interested.  Why torture yourself?  I will watch them walk by like I watch any shape I am fond of, I mean: they can be attractive and everything, but I dont sit around and fanticize about them.  I did have the opportunity to engage in activity with a couple of girls.  It was uncomfortable, I was like: WTF?  I mean, I got over it, but I didnt jump at the chance when it came up the next day.  Thats right, I said NO.     \n\nBut its 'cool' to like lesbians, because they are so hot... so really, its a man thing, if you dont like lesbians, you must be gay, etc... etc... thats bs.  You can thank the adult entertainment industry for that one.  Granted, there is a certain amount of logic behind not wanting to watch some man's :    : in action, but I for one am secure enough in my sexuality to not care, I mean, what girl wants to watch a couple of lesbians with her man?  Oh, y'all are watching it alone?  Sounds like reeeaal fun!\n\nThe main reason I dont like lesbians is that they dont like me.  I wouldnt wast time and effort thinking about or acting on a lesbian, I have no fantasies of making them 'switch teams',  I have lesbian friends, and I have even gone out with a bisexual, I dont persue them.     \n\nLesbians make good friends too, because you dont have to worry about them falling in love with you, or them thinking that you will fall in love with them.  So it takes away a lot of the tension that normally occures between men and women.  I dont have many guy friends... most men irritate me... drooling at lesbians, and stuff...lol
689502
Look in the dictionary for the word LESBIAN
359465
yes, u do!!!!!! i'm not a lesbian, i'm saying that as a friend.
1128327
you could be a lesbian if you want to ''do things'' w/ girls but you're actually normal. guys look at guys and girls look at girls. it's all normal! We all just wonder what it would be like to be him/her. but if you might have unexplainable feelings for girls then you might be a lesbian. but there is nothing wrong w/ that. gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are people too. we should not judge other people who just like the opposite sex or both sexes.
663916
do you really think people don't know if you are a lesbian or not
688105
The possibility is there, yes. It happened to me when I was a bit younder that everytime I saw a naked female I got all horny. I didn't and I don't want to be a lesbian so I prayed to God and finally my question got answered after a very long time. So if you want to be lesbian you will probably always get horny but if not you have a choice to fight it. It's more fun to be with a guy you know.
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I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN, YOU WILL KNOW.\nI WENT THRU SOMEINTERESTING EXPERIENCES, THAT MADE ME QUESTION MY OWN SEXUALITY..  IT STARTED WITH A BOYFRIEND ALWAYS WHISPERIING IN MY EAR ABOUT ME AND ANOTHER FEMALE, AND THEN I WOULD GET TURNED ON THIINKING ABOUT IT WHEN HE WAS ARROUSING ME, HE PUSHED IT IT WAS FUNNY AT FIRST THEN HE SAID " i should try it sometime"  HE HAD THE FANTASY OF THAT, AND DID HIS BEST TO HELP ME GET INTO A SITUATION WITH ANOTHER FEMA,LE\n\nAND THE FEMALE I MET, HAD A BOYFRIEND AND OLDER MAN WHO ALSO WANTED THIS ,,BUT WE (the girl and i realized they wanted to be conducting it, a part of it, and controling it, (MEANING THE TWO OF US GETTING TOGETHER,,, BUT WE HANDLED THAT,  WE DID GET TOGETHER, AND THE GUYS WHO DID  NOT KNNOW EACH OTHER  WERE NOT AWARE, AND IT WAS A FANTASY, SPECIAL, IT TURNED ME ON,, WE GOT TOGETHER A FEW TIMES, BUT ALTHOUGH THE TURN ON A REAL PRETTY FEMM AND ME TOO,, HAD GIRL THINGS, BUBBLE BATHS, MUSIC MASSAGES, ETC, AND THEN IT WAS OVER, I HAD NO DESIRE TO BE INVOLVED, HAVE A GIRLFRIEND FOR A LOVER, OR PURSUE FEMALES.\nI NEVER REGRET ANY OF THAT ,,BUT IT WAS NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO MAKE ME LOSE DESIRE FOR A MAN, IT WAS AN EXPERIENCE OF "IN ADDITION TO," not Instead of,,\n\nfor many y ears from time to time i have been with a female, and i   enjoyed it and it is a turn on that i can not get with a man,, it only reinforced to me i am not a lesbian, i do not want to be full time lovers, or grow old together as a couple i prefer men.. so does that make me bi?  I DONT KNOW, I DONT HAVE ONE MONTH ON  AND ONE MONTH OFF,, I KNOW THAT PART OF MY INNER FEELING WAS REACHING OUT FOR WHAT I WANTED FROM MY MOM?  women are feminine, soft, gentle, and the ones i had an experience with we would talk, be like sisters, kind, not pushy  and womens bodies are prettier than mens, but i never felt like i wanted to abandone men, it was more of an escape to expressing the female in me with another who felt the same,,  anyway anyway..i think i have all of that curiosity satisfied, i have not thought about being with a female nor when i see any sexy ladies do i think of sexual thoughts, so i am grateful that i haave the choice, and i need and want a man to fill my emotional and physical needs,,,\n\nI do believe that some women turn later in life to a life lesbian style, but i am not so sure it is because they discovred they are gay,, i think it is they just resolved themselves to the fact that men are the weaker sex, and they had enough abuse, and emptinesss, and a good female girlfriend (BUDDY)  not a lover, is easier, and less frustrating,  we are all different iin our needs, \nI do know some lesbians that just hate men, they hate them,, so therefore i think that is a choice, not a physical  reason..  so th ats how i know i am not a lesbian,,i dont really have to pledge to any gender, but i feel more confortable with a man for a mate,,i hope i gave you another prospective,  on this
533180
men think the same as anyone else. only a very small handful of them are rapists and such. you might be a lesbian.
750546
Just repeat the following over and over: "If I'm not attracted to women, then I'm not a lesbian." Hopefully it'll sink in.
427005
Many people find themselves falling off the fence, (as they say... LOL) once they actually get same sex lovers.  In most women's cases, the discovery of lesbian sex makes them realize that men and penises are vastly overrated.  \nDoes that mean you're a lesbian?  Well, lesbianism isn't just about sex, it's also about love.  Many straight women don't really care much for straight sex, but they fall in love with men.  So they're straight.  If you can't see yourself ever loving a man, then yes, you're a lesbian.  But if you're unsure, well, then you're unsure.  And that's fine, there's always time.
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Sounds to me like part of you wants male companionship but deep down inside you want a lesbian relationship.  Can you not find a balance and have male friends and female lovers?  I have had kind of the same experience when I was younger and had to find a healthy balance.  Sometimes we just want to be with males because it is what is "expected" of us.  Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings and be honest with yourself to find the answers!
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If you want to know if someone else is a lesbian, ask her.\n\nIf you want to know if you are a lesbian then answer this quick checklist:\n\nDo you want to f*ck women?\nDo you have sexual feelings about women?\nDo you ever touch yourself thinking of women?\n\nIf you answered yes to one or more of these questions then you are a lesbian or bisexual woman.  If you answered no, then you are straight.  Next ask yourself:\n\nDo you want to f*ck men?\nDo you have sexual feelings about men?\nDo you ever touch yourself thinking of men?\n\nIf you answered Yes to one or more of these questions, then you are bisexual.  If you answered no to all of the above then you are a lesbian.
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I appreciate and admire the beauty of both the male and female bodies and though I have had intimate encounters with both genders, in all honesty, I do prefer men over women. Does this in turn make me bisexual or a man who is denying his true sexual orientation? Personally, I feel our need to categorize and pigeon-hole ourselves and each other is unnecessary and a complete waste of time. Just think of Bisexuality was a way of loving the best of both worlds.
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I was breifly a women's studies major at college and I believe my professors would say this: \n\nWomen have historically been defined by, and labeled in relation to, men (wives and mothers of men is how most cultures usually understand the concept of "woman"). When women choose to be with other women rather than men, they are seen by society as deviating from their prescribed gender roles, and since those roles are what make them "women" (according to cultural history), they are subconsiously viewed as no longer belonging to the category. Add to that the availability of the term "lesbian" as described by several previous answers, and "gay women" can be abandoned for a less culturally contradictory term. \n\nMen, on the other hand, are defined in relationship to performance (breadwinners, high sex drive, etc.) and therefore a gay man would not necessarily be a cultural contradiction of terms. \n\nOn a personal note, as a lesbian myself, I prefer the term because it doesn't bring with it the rest of the gender role (passive, always pleasant, looks great in pink), because in some circles it is nearly a political term (can sometimes hint at liberal activism) and I like that, because I associate it with a high comfort level with sexuality (i.e., if I refer to myself as lesbian, I am probably "out," which I am), and because I feel who I love is more than an adjective -- it is an absolutely essential facet of who I am and how I came to be this person.  \n\nWhew, stepping off my soap box now. =) \n\nHope this helps.
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Thinking about girls.
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lmao. you're questions are very funny.. and i wouldnt know  b/c im not a lesbian! =)