How do you  get your special someone to see that its not right to make decision for the both of you?
116358
Refuse to partake in whatever it was they didn't include you in the decision of. No matter what it is, just say,\n"No, Honey, you decided that. I have other plans. Next time I hope you respect me enough to ask my opinion."\n  It might take a few times but they'll catch on, 'include you in the decision or go or do it alone.'\n    It's what I did, and it worked. Good Luck.
39998
Just be completley honest and open with your man and tell him how you feel and ask him questions that are on your mind such as how he feels, if he agrees, or is he upset. Be very sweet and word things nicely with out affending him or blamming him for anything. When you decide on your decision you both should talk to your children about it cuz it will effect them too. Kids are smart and catch on fast!
677945
Don't be hard about it. You don't need to end it by telling him all that is wrong with him. Just tell him that you are looking for different things in a relationship and you need to just back off and regroup. Take some time to really search your feelings so that you are sure about what you want. If he wants to argue about it be kind but firm.
872217
Let him know how you feel, you need to draw the line somewhere. If you don't tell him you can't expect him to know what you feel.
167484
I guess just think about how you would want someone break it to you. Just don't lead him on because that hurts more in the end. In the end if you're having trouble doing it realize that you have to think about your own feelings and not just his.
252362
good question!\n\nbe loving and be committed to the relationship. Is it just a matter of decision. One has to have one -- the decision to stay together for good or for worse. Then you wouldn't be scared to where it will go co'z you have set the path of your relationship and its future. Being together.\n\nIf you have and your man have not made that decision, then the future lies on his decision.\n\nAlot of people go into a relationship thinking that as long as they love each other, it will solve all issues about real life. Fact: It Doesn't! (sad to say)\nPeople change, emotions get us -- making us irrational whereby sometimes we make odd and bad choices and worst of all -- wrong words to hurt each other... then the ball starts rolling down :-(\n\nMy role of thumb... always have a good laugh after every arguement (married for 13 years and still having a blast).\n\nA friend once said - that if you ride car together and not have an arguement at all, be it for a drive to the next block or to the next State away.. then you still love each other dearly.. and respects each other.
950293
You can't... Especially if the decision to break up wasn't his... He has to get over "your" decision... Remember, you had this entire thing planned and worked out in your head for some time... all the while he probably didn't have much of a clue as what extreme life changing event was being planned and taking place...  the only real help for him now is time...
434702
Its his life. Let him know how you feel and let him make up his own mind about what he wants.
567265
Sounds like she wants you to be decisive, not to take a long time to make a decision. She can always reject your decision, but tell her want she wants, don't go back and forth on this
375724
Just because you think you are right for her, doesn't mean that you can make her think that.  You can't control someone's feelings you know.\n\nGive it some time, if she doesn't have feelings for you, just go on with your life and find someone else.
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Just  be honest with them and speak your mind.  Telling them why you disagree with what they are saying.  \n\nBut whatever you do, don't let either one of them influence your decision. Make sure what you are deciding is your choice and what you believe, not theirs.
1150338
here's a weird idea:  TALK TO HER!\n\nTell her how you feel.  Maybe there is something she wants YOU to do and then you can both compromise.
837595
Tell them to stop or else...then make it stick. It's called setting a limit or boundary. Not everyone who comes into our life stays in our life. \n\nThis sounds like one of those instances where you need to find out whether you really want to keep this person in your life as he/she is currently. I'm older, so don't have much tolerance now for someone who doesn't respect me. \n\nWe can't change someone who won't change, so the only thing we can do sometimes is to leave the relationship.
527576
tell her that its your choice and that there is nothing wrong with him and that he is a responsible guy and that your not going to leave him just because you don't like what happened and tell her that you want to make your own mistakes and that you want to feel free and not so controlled
1037638
Gently, with compassion.  Don't get defensive.  Use facts and feelings beginning with the word "I" instead of "you."  However, you change her  (or her mind, her choice, her anything...)  Life is all about choices...and then consequences.  Sometimes it hurts to see someone we love make bad choices.  But part of true love is giving the other the "freedom to fail" so that they may learn what is best for them.  Patience, friend.  Let your love give her the freedom for now---if and when she comes back to you, it will be even more precious since she will realize it herself.
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It's a 50/50 situation. Sometimes I make decisions, sometimes my boyfriend and soulmate Tony does. But we always help each other when we're in the process. We talk things over and come to a conclusion. Otherwise, we will always think about each other and the consequences and such before making a decision if the other isn't there to discuss the decision with. We love each other so we compromise or come to a conclusion.
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People just don't do this for some reason. Sit down with him and truly tell him how you feel and what you want from him. Ask why he does not show you as much love as you show him. Some people are just like that and it's hard for them to express themselves. I think the two of you shoulf prolong the wedding date until this is figured out. If not then you won't be happy by this time next year.