How should I handle this situation??????????  My son was beat up by a gang of boys?
104322
Talk to as many people as needed to get the results you want.  The police officers have supervisors.  Teachers, school administrators, and parents.  Colorado’s Attorney General, now Congressman, led a focus group to deal with such issues.  Go as high and as far as needed, but do not take “no” or “we can’t do anything” for an answer.  Look into a restraining order.  What ever it takes.
835962
Kick their worthless butts out. All of them. Just because he is your son, you do not have to take physical violence. Call the cops and press charges. If you don't do it this time, you'll have to "next" time, because once she's gotten away with it, she'll do it again. Unfortunately, next time, you might not survive!
959050
Yeah, I agree that your brother needs to defend himself if he has no other choice. How big are these kids anyway? Go to your brother's school, and look for these kids, warn them not to mess with your brother or you will tell the higher authorities (their parents, teacher or even the police). Don't take it lightly, you've seen what has happened to the world these days, even kids get emotional and kill each other in a fight. Your mum is weak to think that fighting back is bad. Would she rather see your brother coming home every day with a bloody nose or swollen eyes? I don't think so! Why did she not take actions, I don't know, but you're the big sister, and I'm glad you're protecting on your younger bro. Like you said, teach him some self defending techniques, so that he can protect himself when you're not around. Or better still, enrol him to a karate or taekwondo school.
1067219
If they were dumb enough to get involved with a gang fight. They deserved to be arrested. Maybe they will wake up.\n\nYes, you should at least tell you school counselor or your principal. Or at least a parent. Your friends destructive behavior needs to be curbed before someone gets hurt or killed. \n\nHow would you feel if something happened to one of them and you hadn't said anything?
914381
You are right about being bullied.  You need to go and talk to someone you trust at the school who wields some power and have this behaviour stopped.  If it makes you feel any better this boy probably has been mistreated during his life and this is the only way that he knows to behave for attention.  Having said this you do NOT allow him or anyone else to victimize you or anyone else.  By staying silent you are as guilty as the bully.  Put a stop to this right now and speak up.
567385
During the outburst ( I have been there) I was always wondering what the hell did I do? How do I calm him down? I hope he doesn't hit me, or my children. Oh.. God I can't believe he just broke my Mom's vase. Oh.. NO! don't throw the chair. OMG the chair just missed my head. NO NO not my Tiffany lamp. I am bleeding.. what??? I can't take this any more. As I was on my knees crying, picking up the shattered pieces of my life I was thinking what a jack A**. I hate him. I can't believe he is so cruel. Why does he make fun of me. He is such a bully. I wonder what is he really trying to cover up? What did I do or really what did he do. This was just a diversion to get me away from the truth.  I hope some one beats his A** one day.
517883
Oh My God, that is a terrible and sad story. I really wish that I knew what to tell you or at least had some good advise. Being kicked out of my girlfriends house just a few months ago, I can relate to some of what you are going through. You will have hard times and sadness for a long time no doubt. But believe it or not, it does get easier as time goes by. That does not help you right now I know, and for that I am also sorry. There really isnt anything that I can tell you or that anybody can tell you really that will ease your pain and suffering. But for sure you need to keep your head about you and do whatever it takes to get you and your son through this horrible time in your life. I can be your e-mail pal/friend if you want, and again I wish I had some quick-fix remedy. Keep your chin up. (smile)
467656
girl i have 2 boyz 11&3 and let me tell u i talk to my big son on a regular bout self-love and self-awareness, we talk all the time bout the kids at school, i even left work earlier so i can meet the kids he hang out wit at lunch (thou my boss wasn;'t happy but u no wat my children come first) if he was being bullied i would b up at that school so fast i would want to meet wit the teacher the princapal the parents and let them no i don't take this lightly, but i think the best thing is to try and aviod it from happening, get involed wit school activise from the start let the children in the school no who u r and the chances of ur child gettin bullied is next to none, don't b a chicken bout it thou do wat ever u have to do to mek sure ur child is safe even if that mean calling the police, DON'T TEK IT LIGHTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will in the long run mess up how ur child feels bout him/herself and that alone will lead them to stray!!!!!!!!!!!!
646443
wether or not you want to press charges with either of these men is entirely up to you. what you need to do tho is to speak to someone who can help you deal with these experiences. If you cannot afford a therapist, or if you are young and don;t want to involve your parents in finding one, then find a free counseling service for victims of sexual violence. A couselor will provide a safe space for you to talk about what happened, a place to let out your rage, confusion, guilt, shock, etc. S/he will try to help you deal with any effects this is having on your life, such as depression, anxiety, lethargy, social withdrawal, shame,or whatever it is that you are experiencing. S/he will support you and try to give you the tools to cope with and process what happened. Organisations that offer this service will usually also be able to help you if you want to press charges - guide you through the process, prepare and support you for a possible court case. I've been through this sort of thing, I work with other's who have, and you are welcome to contact me. I wish you much strength.
609531
the best way is stand up to them.... if they hit him then he needs to take the biggest one, walk right up to him and punch him as hard as he can in the nose,,,,,,,,, they might fight but no one will mess with him after...\ni work with kids ( self defense) and there is just so long a kid can take things like that..\n\n \nif he lets it go it will only get worse...
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
761277
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
1037636
It is very sad that has happened but unfortunatly that may be his best option. Does he still pay his child support? He needs to continue paying it even if he is not seeing his son because if they do end up back in court it will look better on him. I know that if you do not have a child back from visitation on time the police can be called, I wonder if it works the other way to. ( like she's not having the boy there for his visitation time if he can call the police on her) He may also try to contact his local DSS office and explain the situation to them and see if they can help or they may know who to contact to help him. Good luck to your friend!
320213
You are obviously looking for the best advice possible, so please if you can do anything to rectify this situation then do it and as soon as possible. I am so proud of you even though I dont know you, for recognising that this man is in difficulty, please go to someone who can help him, go to his or indeed your Dr. and seek immediate advice. This is wrong, you know it I know it and I am sure every other user of this site will see it for what it is.  It is abuse of the worst kind.  I have a son with special needs, and this is my worst nightmare. I applaud your concern, now please get help for him....
954714
The police have to get things under control and quickly in a situation like that.  You already have one child injured and possibly more.  I'm willing to bet the little darlings did not settle down when the police came on the bus.  Unfortunately, the innocent also got sprayed.   The mother that should do the suing is the mother who's son was hit in the head.  She should sue the other boy and his parents.
918949
Talk with the principal immediately. It is completely ridiculous that your child should be left to suffer for the sake of the lowest common denominator. Fight on behalf of your child.
515943
Gosh - this is serious.\n\nOK - I guess you need to have a chat with your boyfriend about this and tell him how it makes you feel and ask for his permission to discipline them in order to protect you own children.  It is your place to ensure your children are safe.  And they need to learn what is and what is not acceptable.\n\nPerhaps it would be best if you both agree appropriate ground rules and suitable course of action beforehand.  \n\neg be nice to your children, do not go in your room.\n\nThen make clear to them when they next come what will happen - they will get one warning and then if they do it again there will be consequences.\n\nThey'll soon wake up if (for example) their misbehaviour results in them losing treats (or if it's your house) being put outside until they're prepared to apologise, or being sent back to their mothers early (unless that's what they want).\n\nIt is important that you do act on this because the longer you wait the more they'll believe that you're inaction means that you agree with their behaviour.