I am deeply affected by my husbands cheating with other women, dont trust him. Will we ever be happy again?
113190
No you'll never forget what he did to you. If you want to save your marriage then you both need to go to couseling.
684934
I understand completely my husband and I have a very similiar situation. And I too do not trust him and he does not trust me. I think to make things work you have to learn to let go of the past mistakes and learn to forgive even though that maybe in order to go on together you must try to trust. But if he continues to betray you then you need to do what is best for you and your child.
1152031
no trust is a big issue......... is hard to explain but even after cheating even if you see your husband is truly sorry and he even makes effort to prove his changed and you see no evidence of him ever doing anything else..... trust is just something you can never regain once is lost is gone... you will always wonder about something..... but hey  there is so many of us in that boat,one can never feel lonely in something like this...... but the answer to this question is nope trust is the one thing that cant be recover in any case.good luck.
244799
like a fool i took mine back and we were married a week later, but i still find it hard to trust him. even tho hes the one who told me he was cheating. we have been married for 2 years now and together 6 and so far he hasnt done it again ( that im a ware of) if i had it to do over i would have left him.
1171412
Sorry to hear bout this but \nNO NO NO\nonce a cheater always a cheater. but what makes it worse is he lied. you won't be able to trust him and if there is no trust there is no relationship. you don't want to be spending you life wondering if he is with another woman.
761031
To make a long story short. I have been married for 18 years when I found out(not by accident I was snooping) my husband had been cheating on me for 3 years that I no of. Only he and his whore no for sure.In my heart I knew something was wrong I just couldn't prove it until I started looking.When a husband cheats, his wife feels something is wrong she just doesn't want to believe her husband would or could do that to her.Husbands count on that trust they no their wives would never believe that they are capable of sleeping with another woman especially when she gives him everything he wants and needs.That is where we go wrong we don't and couldn't give a man what he really wants and that is someone different to have sex with.In a woman's eyes that makes him a horrible person but to him and his way of thinking it makes him human. their is only two things you can do. You can look the other way and pray it will end soon or leave him.One thing I wouldn't do is talk to him about the calls because all you will get is lies.I wish you all the luck in the world.
21348
If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.
1021286
If you really want to save your marriage go to counseling. Personally, I could never trust him again, so I would have to make tracks!
774577
Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!
322805
If you don't trust him, you need to ask yourself if you should be in this relationship.  My husband has lazy moments too but it would never cross my mind for a second that he'd cheat on me.
988518
You just need to change the mantra in your head and be actively responsible for your behavior towards your husband.  Ask yourself how you would feel if he was doing this to you. You would feel like you were married to an insecure loser.  If you continue on this path you will no doubt drive him away or at the very least, into the arms of another woman. Men do not like nagging, if you are obsessed with compliments, he will feel you are being a nag and tune you out. If he is tuning you out audibly he will tune you out in his head too, therefore opening himself up to the possibility of another woman. Or he will say to himself, "hmmm maybe she is not that great." Talk about mixed signals, at once you call yourself beautiful and then on the other hand you beg for compliments. Tell yourself,' he is with me for a reason otherwise why would he still be here?' Fulfill all of your dreams with direct action of your own. Do not rely on others to make you happy. The only person that can make you happy is you.
271402
do you love him? can you live without him? would you die from a broken heart if he left? Can you love again? Can you trust him? Trust is very important in a loving relationship and if it is not there I don't think you can ever really be happy because you will always wonder..is he cheating? would you be happy without him? If your answer is no, then you should stay with him..you need to do what makes you happy..you only have one life to live. I believe that if a man really done all that cheating he really does not love nor respect you.\nWorry about the other man later, right now you need to think about how you feel about the one you are with. Ask yourself those questions. Good luck!
388796
Work on what got it to that point. I had my wife cheat on me. And I left. It took all I had to do it. We have had alot of problems since then, basically I don't feel like she shows me respect or respects me. Point is it depends on how your husband feels about you. I would take my ex back in a heartbeat if I thought she really wanted to work it out and really felt bad about it. In this situation you'll have to eat alot of crow but if he loves you he'll work with you. Good luck I hope it works out.
507084
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.
421217
What do u mean "Is that ok?" of course it's not ok. Girl what you need to do is stop being naive and ask your husband what is going on. If he's sending her text messages saying he misses this other woman then he is definitly cheating--and I know u don't want to have a relationship like that. Even if he is open with you about seeing this other woman, that is not right for any husband to do. What you need to do is confront this woman and ask her how long this thing has been going on and then confront your husband about it. And if he is cheating then kick him to the curb and find someone new. It's no use trying to work it out because once a cheater always a cheater.
15151
First, you have my sympathy. Betrayal always hurt. I am sure that you are torn up inside. However, let me point out several thing. Isn't better to know his character now-- otuside of marriage, if that is where you were hoping the relationship would go-- rather than after marriage?  Second, recognize that people rarely change their stripes, if he comes back and wants a second chance... I would encourage you to firmly let him know that "betraying for five years does not deserve asecond chance. You have no intention to give him the chance to hurt you again."\nFinally, remember that women cheat on men too! So your questions can be better phrased, why do people cheat when they are in a love relationship?
973491
I am sorry. I really feel bad but my advice is leave the dog there for a while and when you can find a good place you can take her with you. And about your husband he is a jerk and you shouldn't care about him. Move on in your life and I am sure there are thousands of men out there who will respect a loyal and loving women like you. Don't let anybody hurt your self esteem, not even yourself. YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WOMEN WHO DOESN'T NEED  A S*H*I*T LIKE YOUR HUSBAND TO LIVE.