what do i do, my girl wants to marry me in 2 weeks?
104806
Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
581221
First of all you don't LET her do anything. She is an adult and will make her own decision. \nIf you are so worried, offer to stay there with her or ask her to stay with a friend. Or ask her to deal with your place just for the 2 weeks. \nIf something happens, then you shouldn't be with her anyways.
53050
There's no one right way.  You obviously know her better than anyone here.  Girls seem to like a surprise though, so try to be casual/normal that day, so she doesn't suspect something is going on.  Take her somewhere that's meaningful to her, or to you both.  It doesn't have to be anywhere fancy, just somewhere special to You guys.  Just have fun together.  When you are ready, find a quiet moment, make direct eye contact, and tell her how you feel about her... whatever it is that you love about her that makes you want to propose in the first place.  There's no wrong things to say if it all comes from the heart.  Then ask her :)    \nBest wishes!
42611
gift her a ring..n tell her u r goin to marry her
787073
tell her you love her so much, you're going to wait until you're married before getting intimate..  that'll prove you love her..
411892
Tell her, and find out where you stand.  It looks as though she may be ready to move on, sadly for you, as she may not see the outcome of your 'ups and downs' in your relationship in quite the same way as you do.  It might be time just to move on yourself or carry the relationship through into marriage - 6 years is a long enough time to do something about it. The fact she feels comfortable enough to make these arrangements in front of you means that she's about given up hope of going further with you because you've delayed for so long.  I think it's reasonable after so many years to decide whether you want to commit to this girl and ask her to marry you or live with you, or go your separate ways.
350765
You could always tell her-" You are very attractive, funny etc..but in the same time I don't feel like marrying you, I "don't see there being a marriage future" and i feel responsible because i care. What do you think we should do? Is it OK with you or you wanna split and waste no more time..?"\n\nIf you want to get married and you're looking for the One and you are sure she is not, being with her no matter how fine it is is waisting her and your time.\nBut if you really enjoy being with her, miss her and she feels the same way too, don't loose her for these are very sweet nice emotions and life is unpredictably short.
1125448
All Questions and Answers in Yahoo! Answers should be only in the English language. Or, they should at least be accompanied by a translation in English.\nOtherwise, somebody or other [not me !] is bound to report you for abuse ! \nYou have asked in Hindi, 'I love a girl very much, while she does NOT. She is getting married on 29 July, so what am I to do ?'\n...As this girl does not even care two paise for you, it is meaningless for you to keep-on thinking about your one-sided 'love' !\nIf you are a true gentleman, and if you [at least !] 'truly' love her, you will simply wish that girl a long and happy married life - and let her go her own way in peace.\n....You give the distinct impression that yours was not actually 'love', but a childish infatuation based on the girl's beauty - which [due to seeing too many Hindi films and TV serials !] made you imagine that you were 'in love'.\nSTOP dreaming and start living - like a REAL human being.
659456
You should not propose marriage to a girl that doesn't talk much to you.  The answer will be "NO".  You should learn to know her, go out with her and see if she likes you first.
461691
Simple...You're not fat baby, I love you, you are hot.\n\nThat is assuming you want to stay married, if not then tell her she's a cow.  :P
572904
Tell her that you cant wait for her, and tell her that she needs to do something fast, because you cant take the Sh!t ne more and you are ready to settle down and let her now how you feel and make sure shes just not trying to use you, make sure you tell her everything on your mind and whats in your heart
1116039
if shes goin out with u then she likes u, if u think she want changes then ask her whats she like about u ( evry thing she doesnt mention can get better) or straight up ask her if she would change nething on u. and call her like once evry 2 days.
565755
Take her to the place where you guys had a first date, assuming it is somewhere romantic. Tell her you love her in about 10 different languages and get on one knee and let your feelings out. If she loves attention, and only if you think she will like this take her to a ball game, football, basketball whatever and in front of a million people tell her you love her and ask her to marry you. If someone did that, I think I'd pass right out! :) Good luck, and best of wishes to you!
154664
change right now into the non tempermental man who wont hurt his fiance. and be scincere about it. if you really love her, and obviously want to marry her, change for yourself and her. if not, then maybe youll lose her..
1055513
You waited this far, then she should honor your requests, did she know this before you both started to date? Don't give in, i myself am waiting for marriage and am in a relationship and he respects my wishes and doesn't force me to do anything until then....so should she if she really cares and love you.
629224
TWO WEEKS??? OH MY! that is just too quick.  He needs to slow down and make that proposal in about another two years.\n\nYou don't say how long you know him - is it only two weeks?\nWhat is the rush??  You have your whole lives ahead of you to be together.  Take the time now to get to know each other, and discover what goals you have set for yourselves.\n\nYou could marry now and in two weeks be a divorced couple.\n\nSlow down - the best is yet to be - there is plenty of time ahead.\n\nGood Luck!
903608
Seems like you really love this girl. Well a lot of people get married and talk about working and going to school at the same time, but you have to remember that if you do that, you have to have time for her too because what's the whole point of getting married with her if your not going to give her attention. If your planning in going to school first, why not go to school for 2-3 years first then get married and you could finish your carreer too. You should talk to her first about your feeling and tell her you really do love her and you want to marry her, but also tell her you want to finish your carreer to give her and you a better life. Talk with her you'd be surprised what she may tell you. Good luck. Hey if it helps. I've been married for a little over a year and my husband is so good with me that he lets me work and go to school at the same time because it makes me happy. I still have four more years to go and he helps me out a lot that make me appreciate my husband, but then I do help him a lot too in anything. So hope every thing goes great.