Should I tell my wife I've been having an affair with Christie Brinkley?
113779
your wife doesn't know.... Well does Christie Brinkley know????
195121
well your answer lies on one thing where is she at now as well who else has she been with in this matter you feel for the oldest thing going that is being played for a stand in . i have been there did  it as well not worth it in my opion how do you think i caught my.ex. wife. she was cheating i had the sence to get rid of it. grow up like i did. nt worth it my friend she this woman you are talking about is a player if she was with you you might thing who else has she fooled with you dont want to end up in court over this woman she aint worth ita woman like that cant love she has something called a whoreing spree ?
342842
I think your only mistake was not telling her. You need to let her go to be able to continue and have a happy marriage, you have the best thing though, memories.
496580
Tell her.  Wouldnt you want to know if it was you?  She will thank you later.
656660
I would stick by my words.\nYou have warned her, that if she did do it again you would tell well she is holding you to it.\nShe has done it and you never told on her.\nI find if you cannot trust the person you love then move on till you find that one to trust.\nHonesty is the best policy! \nAnd look at what she is doing to you! \nAre you not feeling guilty for holding this in.\nI bet she is not! \nSo do the right thing by you and you friend and tell ! \nLove & Blessings \nMilly
624038
It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
1170188
I would but I don't blame her.  A SECRET is a SECRET.  You don't tell SECRETS!
940523
Don't ever admit to anything. The best thing that you can do is accuse her of giving it to you,and then file for divorce on grounds of adultery.
593507
I feel it was wrong for her not to tell you and now you feel trapped and lied to but the thing of the matter is ---which boils right down to you can you forgive her for lieing to you and if you are willing to continue to love her because if not then these problems will always exist in your relationship or marriage and I am a strong believer that you should not get married under false pretenses but if she has not shown any other signs of cheating or anything like that then you should give her the opportunity to prove herself to you and if you still want to wait to get married you dont have to rush into this you should want you marriage to be happy and joyous and loving=== dont get married because your families want you to get married because you love her yeah people make mistakes and I was also cheated on so I had to weigh my options of what would be best for me and  my children and I assume that you dont have any children so take your time and you talk to her about it a little more try to put yourself in her shoes try to understand what made her do it and why get a sense of understanding first and then you can make a rational decision on whether to leave or not \n\nhope things work out for you
770703
She deserves to know the truth. Keeping it from her will only hurt YOU in the long run. Think about that.
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
276867
You dont report her. Your hubby gets what he deserves.More importantly, why is he still your hubby if he had an affair with a student from singapore? What goes around comes around. You'll see her again, when she comes back to study and your hubby has another encounter with her. Too bad, so sad.
773000
Hai,\nY do u want to keep a relationship secret in the first place? Well if both of them are married to different people ofcourse thats a sin. At times its normal to feel attracted to others ( whn u are married ) but dont let that attraction take u to different directions.I believe its sin cheating ur wife or husband. Its being totally an untrustworthy person !!!! Thats like being a CHEAPO !!!! U would not like if ur wife does that to u right !\nIf u both are not married, then its ur choice to keep it a secret or not and if u both are gonna get married then thats perfectly fine.
873490
if you want to keep her,but I don't know why really from the sounds of it except that you have 20 years invested in the relationship,I would do a little investigating and find out who is checking your wife's oil. \n  I am serious..that is the only answer that is plausible and reasonable,and she probably feels that she cannot stay with you because of guilt. \n Be upfront and just lay the cards on the table and get it out in the open and find out what is really going on..and take off those 20 year old rose colored glasses.
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
717867
You gotta come out and tell her.  But before you do, consider what you're risking.  Is she worth losing just cause you want to have sex with others?  \n\nYour wife deserves care and protection.  She entered into marriage expecting you to love her, forsaking all others.  By engaging in risky behavior, you're exposing her not only to heartache, but potentially deadly diseases too.
583663
Would you want her to tell you if your boyfriend had cheated on you?  I know I would want to know.  Friend's look out for each other.  Just make sure it's not just a "rumor" first... if it is a fact then yes, tell her.