How is regular marriage any better then gay marriage with the divorce rate is 50%?
99263
gay/lesbian marriages are the same as regular marriages, yet gay/lesbian divorce rate will increase with time, when more state will allow them to get married. I personally think that I doesn't matter. gay or straight
434115
People seem to think if gay marriages occur it will somehow ruin the sanctity of the institution.  They also seem to think the ethics of the world will go to pot.  I think that's crap, though.  Straight people have been ruining marriage for years.  And, homosexuality is there, marriage or not, it won't increase the amount of gay people or anything like that.
631533
Anyone who loves one another should be able to marry.\n\nIt is sham marriages without love that should be illegal. And divorce, too. Same sex marriages are less likely to end in divorce than straight marriages. Why don't all the people who claim to be standing up for "family values" try to make divorce illegal? I think that they are all thinly veiled gay bashers because if they really cared about family values they would try to reduce the divorce rate.
554988
I have gay friends who are in relationships a lot healthier and more honest than a lot of straight peoples' marriages.  When it became legal to marry in Toronto (where I'm from) I was proud to be a member of the first church to offer the ceremony with all the bells and whistles.  These people have children together, they share their good and bad times, and they have as much right to be married as straights do.  My friends Beth and Judy got married there and the press asked their 8 year old son what he thought about his two mothers getting married.  His response: "Now we are a REAL family!" says it all.
850864
Congrats on coming out!!...Although I totally agree with gay people being allowed to marry, we have to examine the political climate of what we're dealing with.  Anytime another group is pushed into a corner they are gonna be on the defensive.  This is what's happening with gay marriage.  Christians (being riled up by the Republicans) feel it's an attack on the "sanctity" of marriage.  I won't even try to get into all the ironies of that statement, but it is in fact how they feel.  The gay community feels that a fundamental right is being taken away and so the push for legalized marriage intensifies.  \n\nThe only solution for this situation is for the gay community to back off for "marriage" and to push for civil unions.  Having all the same legal rights, benefits, and legal consequences (divorce) as marriage..but not calling it marriage.  This would be a true separation of church and state, it would ease the Christians minds of marriage being on the attack and essentially take away any arguing points on the issue. It would allow the gay community to benefit form what straight people have been enjoying for centuries.\n\nUnfortunately we live in such a political charged atmosphere that such compromises have to made to get a solution.  It isn't necessarily right...but it's the best way for us to realistically achieve our goal of legal rights.  If the marriage push continues by the gay community it's only going to cause increased tensions  and our ability to enjoy equal rights will be a long time away.
663465
I agree with you 100%. It is very sad to think that these people are missing out on the privilages of marriage just because of some moral objection to their lifestyle. I was under the impression that there was a separation of church and state in this country.
393682
THE ANSWER IS,...PROBABLY MOST PEOPLE DONT KNOW THE STATISTICS.  I RATHER THINK THAT "IF THEY DID KNOW THE STATS", THEY MIGHT CHOOSE OTHERWISE. BUT OUT OF ALL THE PEOPLE WHO GET MARRIED, THE GENERAL WHOLE IS YOUNG AND DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE A FULL TIME RELATIONSHIP THAT IS "IDEALLY" SUPPOSED TO LAST YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. I WAS MARRIED 5 TIMES,.....BY THE AGE OF 23,.......DONT ASK.......THE FINAL MARRIAGE I HAD LASTED 5 YEARS, WE HAD TWO KIDS,...WHEN WE DIVORCED, I REALIZED THAT I WAS IN LOVE WITH MY WIFE,.........THIS SUCKED AND STILL DOES, I HAVE BEEN SINGLE EVER SINCE.  I SUGGEST THAT PEOPLE WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED,......SHOULD BE FORCED BY THE STATE TO TAKE A 1 YEAR "MARRIAGE MANAGMENT COURSE, OFFERED BY EACH STATE AND IT SHOULD COST $100.00 PER MONTH PER COUPLE"....THIS WOULD END UP BORING THE HELL OUT OF MOST FOLKS AND THE RESULT WOULD BE FEWER MARRIAGES.......SINCE A LARGE MAJORITY OF MARRIAGES END IN THE FIRST 18 MONTHS,.....THIS IDEA OF MINE WOULD ENHANCE THE ABILITIES OF SAID COUPLES TO KEEP A MARRIAGE TOGETHER LONGER THAN 18 MONTHS AND THUS ENHANCE THAT MARRIAGE TO RUN A FULL COURSE. BUT IT'S JUST A PRACTICAL IDEA AND SO I IMAGINE IT'LL NEVER HAPPEN.THIS IS AMERICA FOR GOD'S SAKE, WE DONT DO PRACTICAL THINGS TOO MUCH THESE DAYS.
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It doesn't. I'm all for happy couples, and I don't care whether they're heterosexual couples or homosexual couples. Our society is improved when an individual is free to love the person of his/her choice, regardless of sexual orientation. I've heard it positioned that condoning homosexual unions somehow deteriorates the "sacred" institution of marriage. How is that? Heterosexuals have already done that, with no outside help!
192672
Yeah it does but most people are scared of changing tradition or thinking outside the box. Gay marriage shouldn't be a matter of morality. It's a matter of rights. Gays have a right to pursuit of happiness like the rest of us. I don't think it's right that the government should say who and who can't be married. That just opens the doors for them to step into other issues that they should stay out of.
264156
both are good but i guess love is better.\n\narranged marriages are a "learn to love" kinda thing....not everyone learns well lol
1017685
to MISS POLY...you rub your marriage in my face. \nI have no idea why people are so against gay marriage...I am gay, and I do NOT want to get married. But, in fairness, the legal protections offered Straights are denied the same tax-paying gays...Gays have no rights of inheritance, Social Security Benefits, etc. I have known couples who spent a life together, both contributing equally to the assests, who, in stupidity, did not write iron-clad wills. The family of one who had died, came in, broke the will, and took everything that the couple had amassed in a lifetime, leaving the guy left behind with nothing! Things are pretty sad in this world, and this prejudice just makes things sadder. Oh, and by the way...your question wording is cute. I am gay and gray...well, what's left of it, anyway. :-)
335858
I think I saw the article you speak of and NO there is no truth to the story without skewing the numbers.\nLike taking the divorce rate as a percentage of total population and not of total marriages.\nWhich supports the answer given by Kala that there are more folks living together out of wedlock in liberal states than in conservative states.\n\nI found some stats on one of the CENSUS related sites
1026324
Not at all. The normal people ( so called) will continue to get marry the normal way. why would a  straight go for a gay marriage even if the law allows it.\n\n-k-
625476
No, there is nothing wrong with it.  If a gay couple is in love, they deserve every right a hetero couple has. Marriage rights are exactly that, rights. And ever American is entitled to them. Some liberals even buy the conservative rhetoric against gay marriage. A common conservative tactic against liberal proposals is to convince the public that it would be  devastating financially. Similar arguments were made about abolishing slavery, workers unions, raising the minimum wage, and environmental protections. Gays represent about 5% of the population. Considering the number of hetero couples that get married and divorced, and the overall makeup of the economy, including the hundreds of billions spent on wars, corporate welfare, social programs, and numerous other government programs, the impact would be minimal and the economy would adjust without serious consequences.\n\nIt has more to do with religous idealogy and bigotry - they often go hand in hand. It's not only the idea of a gay couple being together they don't like, or the pretense that it would somehow cheapen their marriage. Along with marriage rights they would have the right to adopt, which also goes against their personal/religous beliefs.
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I'm not sure why you care. Is it for the monetary benefits they could then enjoy as a legally married couple? If it's not about money, then why make such a big deal about it? The bottom line is how two people feel about one another and not some definition of "marriage" that society chooses to make. I think I'd revere two people who were dedicated to one another who didn't need the formality of marriage as a crutch. Spend your time living life, not debating it.\n\nIn my opinion, the basis of your arguments are that you want society to accept homosexuality as a normal human condition. Unfortunately, homosexuality is not a normal human condition by definition because reproduction is necessary to preserve the species as it is with any animal on earth. It's true that 10% of the population is genetically homosexual, but so is 10% of the population deaf or blind, but that doesn't make it normal. On the other hand, skin color, nationality, culture, gender, and other potential racially related discriminant features are simply manifestations of human evolution on earth. Darwin's theory of evolution cannot support homosexuality as a normal development of mankind.
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Fifty percent is the number everyone quotes. Basically 50% of all marriages end in divorce.\n\nThis figure is misleading because it does not really have a separate accounting for people who get married more than once.\n\nFor example - say you have three people. Two get married and stay married. The third gets married twice and divorces each time.\n\nThe result is that 50 percent of the marriages in that situation ended in divorce - even though only 33% of the people in that situation actually went through a divorce.\n\nThe REAL question that most people have in mind when they ask this is 'what percentages of first time marriages end in divorce.' I think that number is around 25-30%.\n\nSo its not that bad.
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I have had this convo many times with people of those backgrounds that believe in it. From what I know they actually have a higher sucess rate than the "normal' marriages... I was shocked because my first thought would be that it doesnt work but then I thought about it and it made sense. \n\nReligions that believe in that sort of thing are quite diffrent from americans in there perspetives on morals and etc... so I think their way of living makes them have better odds.. Now if Americans started doing it I think it would fail greatly.