what is the best way to heal from an engaged relationship, especially after money was invested towards wedding
106155
its too hard just to heal from the broken relationship..just make sure you dont think abt it too much. try work more, enjoy with your friends and have a fresh look at life and put it behind you ! all the best !
868268
Of course your fiancee will be hurt, who wouldn't?  Don't stay with someone and marry them if you're not absolutely certain.  You're just putting your happiness on the backburner for someone else - and you don't need that either.  It's never too late to call anything off - even if you're walking down the aisle already.  You haven't said "I DO" yet.  Unless you want to end up another divorce statistic, I'd say call it off.  Marriage can be very rewarding and wonderful if you find the right person and I think that's what you should do (find Mr. Right, not settle for Mr. Right Now)
253921
Decide which type of religion fits you and your fiance the best. Then decide what parts of a wedding are vital to you. Another good idea to analyze your thoughts would be by doing a side by side comparison.
818290
Try to consolidate all your debt so that you have only one payment to make per month and you can easily see that it is going down - this may give you some incentive to slow down your spending habits. And most definitely pay them off before you get married. You will have enough stress adjusting to married life and everything that comes with it without having money problems to add to it.
249034
Darlin', going into hock to put on a wedding is a terrible way to start a marriage...plan the wedding you can afford, or wait until you're in a bit better shape financially. You can always plan as bang up, all out festive a party as you want to for your anniversaries, or do up the "wedding of your dreams" to renew your vows ten years down the road... Celebrating your love and having a festive, memorable wedding does not have to mean spending a fortune.\nPlease consider doing something a bit less costly so you don't spend the first years of your marriage trying to pay for the wedding.
1182001
one word: pray. If you pray and believe then she will come back to you. Or you can ask her for a second chance. Remind her of your wedding vows. Til death do you part. For better or worse.
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
660025
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
883553
Five months before the wedding we were fighting constantly about a lot of stupid things, like what the color of the walls would be on our bathroom or how to buy the perfect toilet (this is no joke...), one day while I was inside our soon to be home, I was getting angrier by the minute because one of the carpenters was insisting on needing more money which I didn't have; that same day we were having dinner with both our families for a formal proposal and so that my father in law asked for my hand in marriage for his son (this is traditional were I am from), so I called my fiancee and told him about the carpenter and he told me to handle it myself since he was at work. \nWe both started shouting on the phone, and things got really heated. I hung up and by the time we had to go to dinner I didn't know if he was going to show up or not.\nSurely enough, there he was, standing outside the restaurant with my father in law, and as soon as I saw him I knew we were going to be ok.\nAll of this just to tell you that it is ok to have mixed feelings about getting married, you are starting a new life and parting with the old one can be stressful, so don't worry about it, think about how much you love the person and whenever you get nervous breathe and try to concentrate on that.\nGood luck!
1181298
I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
955782
I was married at 28, engaged 8 months before. Engaged after knowing him for three years, and dating for two of those.\nBest advice is to finish school, live on your own separately so you know what real life is like - to earn a salary and pay your bills. If your love will wait, then get engaged.
385469
Are you officially married?  Do you love the person your with? Were your guests your close friends and family?  If yes, then most likely, the guests were just happy to be there to share such a joyous event.  What the event looked like, or actually cost, or what the service was like, means nothing compared to the joy, happiness, friendship, and company that's shared on a wedding day.  If you still feel upset about the reception, invite some of your closest friends/relatives, and throw a backyard bbq or small dinner.  That way, you can share some special time with the people you care about without having to worry about everything working out perfectly.\n\nCongratulations! Best of luck with your new marriage!
622724
GO TO CHURCH.... EASIEST WAY TO GET SOMEONE WHO IS TRYING TO REBUILD THEIR LIFE ON A POSITIVE NOTE JUST LIKE YOU.... SOMEONE WHO DOESN;T WANT DRAMA WHO WANTS SOMEONE TO JUST LOVE THEM.... GOOD LUCK GOD BLESS
22550
Wow, that's tough. If I were in that situation I would write her a letter. A REAL snail mail letter. :) (If you can get her address.) Tell her how you feel and that you miss her friendship and remind her of the good times that you two shared before this incident. Tell her about some things that are going on in your life and give her your telephone number and e-mail address (just in case she's not ready to "talk" just yet). I would also apologize to her and let her know that you weren't intending to hurt or berate her, you just believed that she could do better than him (which obviously she did because ~I'm assuming~ she married someone else). [That was good, feel free to use that in your letter, if, in fact, she did marry someone else.] :) After that, I would leave it alone. If she writes you back, that's great and if she doesn't, you've made your peace with the situation and you will have to let it go. I hope this helps!
821237
There are plenty of people around who will take your money.  Asking on here is no better than just searching the web.  I've put the link in for the first hit I found.  I have no idea if they are any good.\n\nI think you would do better to seriously address the reason why you split up.  The wording in your question implies that he left you.  Why do you think that was?  \n\nHe may have felt that something was lacking in the relationship.  If so, do you know what it was and how it would be different next time?  Does he blame you for the miscarriage?  It may be him that needs to change.  Are you still friends?  If so, perhaps you can change his outlook slowly over time.\n\nDon't look for an instant cure.  Expand your horizons.  You may meet someone else more suitable.  Or it may be that he is right for you and will return at the appropriate time.
128142
You have answered your own question.  All the things you mentioned - you will need to bring back.  Opening the communication is the 1st step to recovery.\n\nOr you could sigh up for Wife Swap.
648966
I was so tired after my wedding I didn't know what to do with myself, so was my husband.  I would wait til at least the next day.  We got married on Saturday and left on Monday, because it was cheaper to fly that day.  Sunday we took care of some loose ends and gave the money to my mom to deposit at the bank on Monday.  Good luck