Im not happy with the relationship i have with my boyfriend, but i love him.. should i stay?
102936
oh please think about what you want to do.  Read you statement for yourself. everything that you are telling us about this man is all the reason to leave him.  I have been though it and i thought the same thing you did. (I love him). but it only gets worse. please belive me shy away why you still can. You don't need to stay with this boy, please put yourself in our shoes and read what you have wrote like you are reading a friends letters and see the sings. you might be in love with him now, but as time goes on and it might take years! you will see that this is not for you and that you can not take it anymore.
1101508
you know am feeling really bad for you...i mean you love him so much but seems he doesnt values it...i know how painful all this is...whatever you have written here gives a hint that he doesnt loves you as much as you do & i think you are aware of this fact very well...thats the reason you are writting here...i would make no comments about your decision of going back to him was right or not because there is no point pondering over the past but you should be able to take a decision for your future...just tell me one thing, why do you want someone to be around even when you know he doesnt cares...you deserve a lot better than this jerk (am sorry to call him this but i think he really is)...i know its damn tough but i would suggest you move on & find a different meaning in life...how long can you keep on loving someone who doesnt loves you...am sure this might be affecting your confidence & self esteem as well...am sure you also want to get away from all this & start living life on your own...please gather all your courage & always remember that we shouldnt stay in something we are not sure of...concentrate on whats important in your life, your studies & all...& pray  & believe that god has made someone who'll love you the way you deserve & the way you'll love him...\nGod bless you...
1051540
I don't think that you can expect to "keep" your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.\nThe key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.\nRemember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.
379384
yes, because you will start to want to feel that way and he isn't doing it for you. you wont be happy and you will either leave ir cheat or be miserable. not fair to either of you.
576502
Okay, honey. If he really loves you, he'd choose you over the other guy. If being with him, and knowing he has someone else makes you feel that way, then he is not worth it. If it is meant to be, then it will, but BOTH of you have to want it to be. He has made it obvious that you are not priority one in his world. You seem like a lovely boy, I'm sure you can find someone just as loving and devoted as you are! Take my advice as a fruit-fly who has seen many gay relationships fall out. He. is not. worth it. Leave him, and if he wants you as badly as he says, he'll come running back and make you his only. Otherwise, you're better off without him.
944631
Maybe he's just feeling insecure about himself? I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we've definitly had our ups and downs..\n\nSounds like you're being very sincere and care about him SO much.......if YOU really love him stick with him make him see that YOU are NOT doing anything other than trying to help him and wanting to love him....Just make sure you follow your heart and if you decide to leave him make sure its for the RIGHT reasons ....
321466
You need to follow your heart, first and foremost.  From what you are saying, it sounds to me like you and your boyfriend are already done, but you just dont have the guts to end it.  The sooner you do end it the better it will be.  Dont keep putting yourself and him through the pain, just tell him that it is not working for you anymore.  You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you will be with the 30 yr old so I say go for it!
247647
Well if you truly love your boyfriend you need to question yourself why you are dating someone else on the side. Is it because you are not happy with your boyfriend? Is it because you are insecure? Once you are able to find the answer, then you will feel much better. Of course you are depressed, you were busted. But you have to live with the consequence, that is the only way you will learn from your mistake. Yes, what you did was wrong. Hurting someone who trusts you is wrong.
54650
Yes.  You are fighting now, so staying with him will not make the fighting go away.\n\nYou don't miss him.  You miss what you hoped the relationship would be.  You will find this feeling in a new relationship.  Move on!
672936
talk to him. you love him whatever the decision is. i think it is important you two make up your minds first. does he want to stay with his girlfriend and why is it that the two of you always end up together. easy answer i guess. but does it make sense to give in every time you meet? do you want to progress - or do you love him and want to know better..? last but not least.. just enjoy that there's someone special like this boy in your life. guess he will be there always whatever your decision. good luck.
234956
Its obvious you arent THAT happy in your relationship, since you are even considering this... SO- LEAVE!\nHave fun!
69964
this is a very hard one and i av 2 be careful what i recommend. but in the final anlyses the decision rests with you.do u really really love him enough to risk jeorpardising your new life? is it not because you compare everyone unfairly with him that is why you av not found someone else? has he really changed or YOU really want him to have changed? If he has not changed do you forsee a future with him?make the choice, nobody can or will for you
643810
ask urself one question.. how would u feel if he did that to u? do u love him and want to be with him ?(current boyfriend) if u dont... end that relationhip before u try to start up another one...its not fair to anyone involved
277901
If he's your boyfriend you are going with him. If your happy in which you   must not be as your asking this. Keep in mind no couples are always happy but the good and happiness need to be more than the not so good times.And if you've dated long enough you know what is not there for you .
518304
you need to think about why your staying with your bf if your not in love with him then you should leave, you need to think about the relationship in terms of how you feel forget about the other person for a bit and focus on how you feel. but you need to think if you feel out of love when this new guy come into the picture if so you need to think about what he can actually provide you. and how long you have known him cause if you end it with your bf and go out with him and then break up you may be left with nothing
558655
Of course. To stay with someone who loves you out of a sense of obligation is not fair to the one who loves you. No matter how much they might hurt.
1165397
im going thru the same situation..its like u love the person soo much that u dont wanna leave him..and its like u cant live with or without him ...how i wish the guys understood this! mayb give him some time..try to explain....take one more chance..cuz if ur in true love,u wont b able to leave him..but rather adjust his way cuz in a relationship,one has to submit to other's wishes.