My husband is in a church program?
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I know of no church that assists in the breakdown of the family.Sure he isn't in a cult?
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Hey, you have my name!  J/K, glad to see another believer has my name at least.  My thoughts and prayers for you are that you truly seek God's face during this time.  Getting married will not solve your fiance's situation.  In fact, it might compound it with the newness of marriage and everything sexual involved with it.  I commend him for his want to overcome his situation, and I truly believe he needs to seek Godly counseling through the pastor or another strong believer with experience in these areas.  You, also, should attend counseling.  Don't let co-dependency conform you to "accepting" his addiction because your love is all powerful.  It can happen and that I believe is not God's will.  We should love God first, and our spouse second.  In this be on your face seeking God's will for your life.  Another thing for your fiance to keep in mind is that he doesn't have to prove anything to God, God knows every hair on our heads, I would think he knows what is in the depths of each of our hearts too.  He really has to live a different life daily and dissociate himself from everything to date that has caused his situation.  Counseling, support and accountability are what he needs big time.  Prayers and love =)
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Call the church clerk or secretary.  Ask them.
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Call the church office and ask them for their nonprofit id.\n\nWith love in Christ.
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Hold the bus!!  "love him for who he is" sounds like a nice, feel good statement, but let's anylize what that is really saying.  It is saying to forget God's command not to be unequally yoked, that denouncing Jesus as the Son of God is ok, and that "human love" can overcome God's knowledge of what is best for us!!  \n\nAbout marrying someone who isn't Christian: you are not going to have an easy road.  What church are you going to go to?  Is your husband going to want to tithe to a Christian church?  What are you going to teach your kids?  Who is right, Mom or Dad?  Are you going to teach them that any religion is ok- and then they are going to read that Jesus is the ONLY way to Heaven???  How are you going to explain that?  \n\nYou are choosing to become one flesh with a man that has not asked Jesus to pay for his sins.  There are consequences for that- like not spending eternity with God.  Since God is also Jesus and the Holy Spirit, and this man has said no to Jesus, then God isn't going to make him sing praises to Himself for eternity, and this man will go to Hell.  You will be sleeping with a man that you know is going to Hell.  That might not sit well with you.  \n\nGod has a specific plan for you.  This guy might be a part of this plan- just not until he surrenders his life to Christ.  I know how it is to be in love here on earth.  It is probably not easy to hear that this man isn't your Mr. Forever right now.  What can you do??  Talk very openly with this man about your convictions.  Chat with God daily about your feelings- He understands!!!  He just might have a plan that is bigger than you can see right now.  Ask God to start convivting this man and opening his eyes to the love of Christ.  You can give reasons for why the Bible is the ultimate authority if your boyfriend asks, but living a Christlike lifestyle is the biggest way to show others that you have let the Holy Spirit run your life.  Have a daily quiet time reading your Bible and praying with God.  I can see how this is possibly one of the biggest temptations you will face- should you marry the man that you love right now, or should you follow God's command even if you don't understand it right now???  I have already been praying for you.
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Ask them what they need and do that. \n\nJust be a helping hand.\n\nListen.\n\nChuck Swindoll talked about how he helped an older woman when he was a cabbie and she was moving into a "home." Google him and look for his sermon from a couple weeks ago if you want to hear the story. Not a religious ploy just a good story.
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I am not Southern Baptist, but a wife/fiance should go with him on an interview. The selection committee would love to meet the wife/fiance and I'm surprised you haven't been invited.
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I think it says in the Timothy (one or two I can't remember) or Titus (or both) that a church elder must be a husband of one wife.  So no, if he has two wives, not only is he not able to meet the requirement of being a pastor, he's also in violation of his faith by being polygamous....I'm assuming this man claims to be Christian.  He needs to be separated from his wife (his second I think, since he's legally married to the first)
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I feel bad for your situation. What most people don't realize is how many people are in this same situation. There are millions of people in jails, that eventually get out and want to be a productive citizen of our society.  I believe it is wrong not to forgive a person, if they have paid their debt to society.  Isn't that what the bible says! Jesus died for us to forgive our sins.  I only hope your faith stays strong during this trying time and support your husband in this time of need.
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Wow, that is amazing that you ask such a question, because I am a member of a COG church and our pastor was asked to resign.  Not just for simple petty reasons, like he stepped on toes, or he didn't preach the right sermons.  He was more into adultery, abusing his wife, and neglecting his children.  Basically, not living or attempting to lead a christian life.\n\nI knew this was going on but chose to step back and let others handle it and that is exactly what happened.  Eventually, the state overseer came down investigated and out of guilt the pastor fessed up.\n\nIf you do decide to contact your state office, do this for the right reasons, not for personal gratification.
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Get sponsers from your church that god has led you to get help from along with family. Don't worry if it's god's will he will make a way. Just pray and it should be okay sounds corny but hopely that helps.
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Yes it is.  It is used in the baptist church I attend to help strengthen marriages.  I have heard great things about it.
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It may be that his church is filled with husband/wife couples and he feels the lack. Or people have asked him where his wife is. My husband and I are in nearly the same situation. I think religion issues have done almost as much damage to marriages as having affairs. Try to discuss this when he's not angry?
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God already knows what your Hubby needs in his heart. I will pray for him. I not much of a warrior, but, pray for many during my times alone with God.
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The behavior of your husband and his family is very un-Christian-like behavior. They should be welcoming you with open arms. It sounds like you wonder why he even married you. Don't stop praying. As with any difficult situation, prayer and God can get you through. I don't know how I would have survived some of the heartbreaks I've faced in 52 years without prayer and God.\n\nIt sounds as if you feel ganged-up-on by his family and his church. Family is one thing, and bad enough for them to treat you poorly, but for his church to do the same is unconscionable.\n\nWhat I would do is to seek the advice of an attorney. Then you'll have the information you need in making the decision to stay or go. You have to balance your emotional and mental health with the money you've put into the house. Which is more important?\n\nI'm so sorry that you are so miserable in this marriage. I pray you'll continue to seek God's perfect will for you. That He will guide and comfort you. Bless you, my dear.
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Good for you! It is not wrong but remember to start exposing him to those different type of religion now so he will be able to look back to make his choice
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Yeah, you do sound like a perfect match here.. (I'm listening to your friends here too.. they're all Christians, they know you 2 guys.. we're a load of strangers out here and do not.) I am glad you are Christians and it'll pay off.. I hope you do not get a lot of rude-comments in here.. (people are like that.. you sound like a really nice girl, er woman.) I was thinking back when I was in h.s./then college.. Back then it was a big age difference to have a high school and college 'kid' hook up.. (too much difference..) Now I don't know(?) (Guess I am too old!.. lol.. 53/f) I think if you've got these same morals (you don't sound in any HUGe hurry here, that's good) you should pray on it, wait some more. Can you talk to your minister? (I know.. it's embarassing.. how about talking to the minister's wife? other women in the church?) You'd be surprised (if it's like MY church) how helpful they can be! (might put in a good word for ya even.. wink) IF this guy is looking (and he will be) for a good CHRIStian wife, don't worry, he'll go straight back to his favorite church (and guess what?! YOU'll be there!) good luck.. I'll be praying for you two.. peace out