should i end a friendship with a friend who has done a lot for me, but he didn't come to my dad's funeral?
107803
no not at all. If you consider this person a true/close friend you shouldn't just end a friendship like that. Have you talked to your friend about why he didn't come? if he has done a lot, don't throw your friendship away its not worth it.
245627
It's possible. I'm doing it right now. The trick is to put asside the hurt and the lost dreams and hopes. They're in the past. And to bring them up carries with them the bitterness, the resentment and the pain of loss and that just spins you up again. If you can get past all the old feelings and start working towards how you can be just helpful, supportive friends, then you're half way there. Good luck. It IS possible as long as both of you work on it.
285128
You just need to be there for her.  Sometimes feeling like you have to say something can be uncomfortable for the both of you.  When my father died, I just appreciated my friends being there for me to talk to, I had enough people talking to me about what happened as it is.  Also, she may need time to grieve and sort things out.  If she wants to talk about it, she will.  Don't force her.
479627
Just give him a bit. If he is really your friend he will forgive you. If not then maybe he still doesn't forgive you.
1167340
it's a two way street. any relationship, both partys have to do their part to keep it alive. In your case, doesn't sound like a friend to me. He just wants to use you as his little slave to go fetch things for him. Just imagine if it was a death matter, would he come to your aid? only you know the answer to this. so ask yourself if you want to be friends with him for the rest of your life or, move on. you'll find other frinds who treat you the way you should be treated without asking them. don't pay him any more attention. go your way and do your own thing. if he really has a brain and cares about your feelings, he'll apologize. if not, you'll understand, hes just plain SELFISH. good luck
796688
The purpose of a funeral is not always to honor the dead - sometimes it's to honor those left behind and show support.\n\nIf there's any way you can go (without losing your job or something), I would absolutely go.  It seems that there's a close bond between your s/m and your kids at least, and I believe it would be wrong not to go if you're able. \n\nIt's never a bad thing to do more than what's "expected."
703441
well when you get home call him right alway and tell him what happend and make sure that next time you two are going to meet up be prepare for everithing and your friend that didnt want you to have the # he probably realy cares for you so talk to him and tell him y is the reason he didnt give it to you
269568
How awful. I guess you can probably help him best by not avoiding him. A coworker of mine lost a son and when I wrote a sympathy card (on each anniversary of his death) she wrote back, "It's so nice to hear someone mention his name, finally. Everyone else is afraid to bring up his name, but seeing his name in print, acknowledging his life...helps me to remember his life."\n\nDon't avoid him...that's the best advice I have. And don't feel as if you have to come up with a "hallmark sentiment" every time you cross paths. Just give him a quick squeeze on his arm, move along with life, look into his eyes, cry along with him...don't avoid his pain.\n\nHe'll never forget your courage and friendship.
192047
Maybe you should ask yourself what it is actually that makes you want to be friends with them AT THIS STAGE in life. Are you friends because you have always been or because they enrich your life?\n\nIt is no shame not to want to spend your time on doing things with them that really don't interest you anymore. You would be fooling yourself, not them if you continue.\n\nI know, it is hard. You don't want to break up friendships that you have had for a long time already. Just realize that youcan try to talk to them, tell them how you feel about it - since you have nothing to loose anyway, as it seems - but it remains their life, their choice and their time. Don't expect some major change just because you ask them to...\n\nGood luck!
1022673
It's never easy, and there will most likely be tears, but one does what one has to do.Muster up the courage, and say "Goodbye". It will not be the end of your friendship, just a temporary separation. Good Luck!
740491
It's not fair to either of them for you to be with them both anyhow,. You are going to have to make a choice and pray that the one you don't choose will still care for you as a friend.
547130
Decide how important of a friend this person is, if it is a very important friendship apologize to them even though you have done nothing wrong, if the friendship is not too important just let it go and maybe this person will get over it!
594698
Yes and no.  If you want to be a good friend you should find out what is going on and find a way to help him.
843178
You only need one friend in life to get you through and make sure you treat them right dont get into bagging anyone out with them.And talk to your dad about how you feel perhaps he doesnt even realise or maybe have a talk with a counsellor and she maybe able to tell you if you are doing anything incorrect but be prepared to  listen and make changes if need be.Being a friend is being there in the good times and bad....a good  friend is someone who knows your bad side and doesnt walk away but has the guts to tell you. Your choice if you listen or not.
1099745
I would just let it slide.  Perhaps it can be chalked up to a technical problem.  Or perhaps the names were left out by sheer accident.  If it was in something other than an funeral program, I might say something in passing, but you must have respect for the person that has passed on.  It would not be the proper thing to do, bickering at a funeral. \nPerhaps you can just put it on the back burner for  while until some of the grief wears away, and just politely mention the girls names being omitted.  If you find out it was something done out of spite, be the "bigger person" and don't argue about it.  If you begin to bicker, then you are letting yourself stoop to their level, and You are better than that!\nI hope you can find some peace on this issue, I wish you well.  Please don't let it get to you.
606279
Personally, I just lost my dad last month.  I'm still dealing.  It takes a while but the one thing you have to keep in mind is that she was here for a reason.  Whether or not there is an afterlife is irrelevent.  Each person that crosses your path, each person you interact with is there for a reason.  Whether its to teach you something or point you in the direction youre meant to go, there is a purpose.  You may miss her, but if you spend the rest of your life grieving you are not living.  You are lost in the past and moving forward because you have no alternative.  I can assure you, that is not what she would want.  I look at it this way, when you truly care for someone, you give them a piece of yourself.  You have given them your love, your support, your caring, whatever...its a part of you.  No matter where you go, they will always have that.  It is not something tangible that can be taken away or lost.  Your sister will be with you forever.  Nothing can change that..not even death.  'Sides, in my opinion death is just a speed bump in this thing called life, not an end.
1156560
im having problems like that except vise-versa (srry can't spell 2day). take it from me, its not all that ez, it mite take them a wile 2 forgive u, but if they're true friends, they will come to their senses and realize that you appreciate both of them the same (unless you don't, and if you don't i can't help you there).