What is the motive of an old fling to come back and say sorry for what he has done 15 years ago?
108315
perhaps he just want to make peace so he can move on. Or he wants to get back with you.
932265
that really depends if can still love her and she is sorry for what she has done\n\nalso, ask your self, who was to blame for this
317054
No. The reason why I'm here and answering this question is because I did things in my past that I regret or even hated. These things that we have been hating and want to get back at or rewind are the reasons we are who we are today. \n\nIf ever we regret the fact that we are who we are, it is the same thing as regreting what we chose before. Because if you ever wanted to undo the bad things that occured to you, there is no way to redo the good things, or even bring back the times after you changed your fate.
742673
there's a good reason that they are an EX. \n\n\n;)\n\n\nno I wouldn't do it again
561171
Don't go back with the old one...if he says mean things now, it will be worse when he's throwing sh@t in your face when you are 30. Get rid of the new one, or you'll be bailing him out of jail when you are 50 because he'll be brawling in bars.  You are young, who cares about them, live it up girlie...you don't need to be strapped down to a boyfriend right now...enjoy your friends, you will go separate ways soon enough..there's always time for boyfriends, believe me, they don't go away, lol
396190
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
141751
If you said that your sorry, and you really are, then its not your fault anymore.  Give it a little time though.  Things are forgotten over time, and they will probably realize that whatever happened was stupid and come to their senses.
752516
Apologize again- letting her know you are not trying to get back together, that you just feel sincerely sorry for what you said and that it was uncalled for etc. She may be worried that she'll have to do the rejecting bit again, and no one likes that!
982680
It was before they got married so tell her to drop it.and let her cry on your shoulder,until she gets it all out.it want do any good to say anything to him.they weren't married at the time ,probably just a last fling .
223298
Tell him most people have regrets in life - his are probably worse than most people's.  But, it is not healthy to dwell on past history.  No purpose is served.
1066365
Everyone deserves a second chance but if it was something you can not get over don't bother taking him/her back. It will cause problems. Leave the past in the past. Start over new.
246733
Eventually he might be able to pass it as an old painful memory, like when something happens to you that's painful.\n\nBut deep down I'm sure it will always bother him somewhere even when he puts it behind him because they were together for 20 years.
975665
Dont be angry!!!\n\nGet even its your turn to rack your brains to get him back then you'll be equal!!!\n\nHe probably didnt think you would not find it as funny as he was...\n\nGet in touch with Scott Mills on radio 1 he is great at getting people back
265839
I'm with you. It's not just saying it but actually getting the message across the recipient that you mean it. Sometimes just talking and explaining why the mistake was unintentionally done and a show of remorse will usually warrant forgiveness.
431174
After realizing your mistakes and apologizing sincerely to him, then give him space, don't drool on it as it will not give him the chance to reflect on what you've said that has hurt him or your words of being sorry. Time doesn't really heal whatever pain we've experienced, but it gives us the chance to take it, to carry it and to understand why things have happened. Its more difficult for a man just to forget, forgive and pretend nothing has been said that has hurt his ego or his total self. Just continue being you, the person he used to be a friend with, smile when you see him, though stop nagging or pushing yourself into him to put back everything that was. That's done and gone, start from scratch, that's the cause and effect of what you've done. Accept and WAIT, wait when he's ready to be friends again. Remember, wait and have patience.
862884
Not knowing the whole situation I can only guess that there may have been more to this than what you've briefly outlined... Perhaps he was cooling to the idea of being in a relationship with you and this was an 'easy-out' sort of deal...\n\nUnfortunatly I don't think that you are going to win him back... He's evidently hurt by what happened and still sore at you over the whole thing. Mistakes are sadly made, and sometimes despite our best apologies there is nothing we can do to make up for our wrongs... \n\nYou also have to remember that he is ten years older than you, and therefore he has different needs, wants, and priorities in his life... This again goes along the lines with the posibility that he was looking for a way to end the relationship without serriously hurting you\n\nMy best advice is to forget him... I know that it will be hard to do, but with time even the deepest of wounds heal... See this as a life long lesson of what not to do in a relationship... With that in mind toss your line back in the water and when your ready, try try again.
1089366
Ditch them both...\n\nWhy would you want him back after this?