How does one develop self control if they are devoid of it?
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Well at least you are aware of the fact that you don't have any thats a start.....I find the only thing that truly changed the negatives in my life was the acceptance of the Holy Spirit ...
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If you'd do anything, how about believing in yourself?\n\nChallenge your thinking. When you think about yourself negitively, think, is this true? Do other people really think this? If someone else was like that, how would you think about them? A lot of the time, it's not as bad as you really think. Do things that you enjoy. Meet up with friends, go shopping or simply sit in the sun and read. Whatever you do, make sure you enjoy yourself and reward yourself for being special!!
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If you are not sure what is missing,\n(1) start making lists of things to do\n(2) set some target dates to reach each item on the list\n(3) once you get busy, the brain will have finished processing your orginal problem and you will know what you are really missing - what do you want to do with the rest of your life.
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HOw will that solve the problem?? Self-control boy!! Don't put yourself in positions where you can easily fall into temptation. If you know that sitting with a certain person alone in a room will cause you to sin, I'd advice u not to do so. If u are extremely tired you wouldn't have bad tempting thoughts, so try having a busy schedule. When temptations come anyway, try to think of anyother thing, such as a school math problem, a project, your schedule tomorrow. However, it ain't easy. If you can't handle it, don't date at all. I've been there, and I've managed to control myselft. Remember IT AIN'T EASY but IT'S POSSIBLE!
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Start enjoying life for one thing. You can't always do everything right, that is why it is called life and we are here to practice life each day. That is why we get another chance the next day.  So make your mistakes, that is the great thing about a mistake is not the regret, but that you learn from them.  If you never make a mistake you will become a very dull person.  Everyone thinks once in awhile, I could have probably done that differently. Then the next time it happens you have your chance to do it differently. So give life a chance and live it. Your mind is your worst enemy, let it go before it holds you back to much. It sounds like it already has. So the next time it happens, tell yourself, STOP!  And just do it.
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I'd like to change my lack of a will-power.  I think I'm entirely too lazy, but I don't care enough to do anything about it.  Oh, and I'd change my hair.
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Identifying the problem is the first step towards solving it. You're on your way. The key to enjoying life is deciding to. Spend time every night reviewing and appreciating all that is good about your life. Make a list if it helps. Review that list when you're feeling down. Then, start small. Pick something you'd really like to do and do it. It can be as small as striking up a conversation with a stranger or as big as sky diving. Remember you're always in control of the choices you make. Good Luck!
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Opinion addiction doesn't exist. Self doubt does. The basis is seeking approval from others, so as not to look inept. Look at things in a different way: accept and laugh at mistakes you may make doing whatever it is. It's called living as you know.\nTo me, it sounds like you had parents/adults who were of the old mindset about not trying anything on your own, or even if you wanted to do/fix sometthing, there was always an adult who pointed out how he/she would do it, took over the task, and made you feel lesser for it.
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Reach deep down into the section of your intellect and think to yourself: What are the results of my actions?  If you will truly be satisfied by not doing something, don't do it.  Otherwise, realize that what you want can only be achieved by getting the work done.  Only do this if you are ready to do some serious "self" questions.
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Figure out what your problem is. Realize your problem isn’t who you are, it’s what you have used to protect your physical and emotional well being. It’s hiding who you are: a beautiful human being, a wonderful source of awareness, knowledge, creativity, love and joy. If you practice self-esteem based on the faith that this is who you really are, then your problem will dissolve. \nFigure out who you are. Take self-evaluation quizzes. Learn as much as you can about who you are and why you think and feel the way you do. Self-knowledge is a key to success. \nDecide what you can and can’t control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. \nAccept responsibility. Finding self-confidence requires accepting responsibility for your own happiness, and recognizing that you are a product not only of your genetic code and your environment, but of the choices you make. Begin your day with the words "I am responsible." \nMake anxiety your ally. Write down your worries for 30 days. Nagging concerns that loom so large in your imagination lose their power on paper. Amazingly, after writing them down the anxieties begin to fade. \nRecognize that mistakes are opportunities. Keep the setback in perspective. Most mistakes are not personal tragedies; rather they are problems you now have the opportunity to solve. "Success," is often a string of failed attempts to get it right. \nCompete to improve yourself not to beat someone else. \nBe ambitious. When setting goals, remember that you are distinct from what you have and what you seem to be. If you let others define who you are, you may not find happiness. Pursue your own dreams -- not your parent’s, mate’s, or your best friend’s. \nBe brave and take risks. Don’t be afraid of mistakes. Risk-taking builds confidence. When considering any risk: define a clear goal. Review the positive, practical and potential losses. Determine whether the risk is one of trust, identity or something larger. When you focus on risks that have a larger purpose, you can’t go wrong. Even if the risk doesn’t turn out as you hoped it would, you will gain from it. Act. Take a risk. Be confident -- you have earned it. \nThink and speak positively. If you hear a compliment or positive statement about someone you know pass that compliment on to them. An Arabian proverb puts it neatly: Blessed is he who speaks a kindness; thrice blessed he who repeats it. \nLearn something new. Create a new hobby. Increase your vocabulary one word a week. Take on a new physical challenge or activity. \nSpend time investing in your personal growth. This enables joy to flourish amid the fears and difficulties of life. Read self-help books and act on the knowledge. \nDecisions: the next time you ponder a decision, think of everything that could go right and say to yourself, "What do I have to lose, really? \nSmile and be courteous. Use the words please and thank you consistently. \nBe aware of media’s messages. Their goal is to make you feel bad about yourself so you will buy what they are selling. \nKeep good company. Positive feeds positive and negative breeds negative. If you choose to be around positive people you in turn will become more positive. \nReward yourself. Give yourself and others positive rewards for being and doing well. \nDon’t accept messages that damage your own self-esteem. It is much easier to improve or change your behavior when you believe you are lovable and capable. \nBe aware of the different messages that you hear in your head and remember to turn up the volume on the messages that contribute to your positive self-esteem and to turn down the volume on any message that encourages you to think negatively about your worth or ability. \nYou can improve the quality of messages you have in your head about being lovable and capable. Use "how to" statements in your head and take action on the answers you rece
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I think like you said you want to control your life, but the steps you are taking are not good for you, I think its time for you to see and speak to someone about what you are doing to yourself. When something bad happens to you try to make it worse to make you feel better I believe you explained very well of what your a feeling and doing to yourself.. please speak to someone you feel safe with and trust..please!!!!!
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GET BUSY , GO IN A TRIP WITH FREINDS THAT DO NOT DRINK AND ASK THEM TO KEEP YOU AWAY , PLAY GAMES OR SPORTS OF ANY KIEND KEEP YOUR SELF AS BUSY AS YOU CAN DON'T EVER LET YOUR SELF FEEL BORED\nCHANGE INVIORMANT AND DRINKING FREINDS , KEEP AWAY FROM THEM EAT WELL GET EXHOUSTED SO YOU CAN SLEEP WELL \nSEE A DOCTOR IF YOU CAN'T KEEP YOUR SELF FROM DRINKING \nEAT AND DRINK PLANTY OF OTHER BEVREAGES , YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T DRINK MUCH IF YOU FEEL FULL !\nWATER CLEANSE THE BLOOD SO DRINK PLANTY OF WATER TO GET RID OF THE ALCHOOL IN YOUR BLOOD \nREAD ABOUT DRINKING PROBLEMS , AND REMEMBER , PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE TANDENCY TO DRINK ARE VERY SENSETIVE PEOPLE WHO NEEDS TO RUN AWAY FROM THERE IMOTIONS , BE KIEND WITH YOUR SELF DO NOT PUNISH YOUR BODY. TRY TO FIX WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR LIFE BY ACCEPTING IT IF YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT . IT IS VERY HARD I KNOW , BUT YOU CAN MAKE IT IF YOU LEARN HOW TO FORGIVE YOUR SELF , IT IS ALRIGHT TO MAKE MISTAKES EVEN THE ONES THAT CAN NEVER BE FIXED AGAIN ... THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY TO MAKE IT UP TO WHOM EVER YOU HURT INCLUDING YOUR SELF MAYEBE IT WILL NEVER BE AS PERFECT AS YOU WANT THINGS TO BE \nBUT IT IS SUCH A RELIFE ... GIVE BY GIVING LOVE OR JOY YOU RECIVE LOVE AND JOY \nIT IS SO RWARDING TO LOVE YOUR SELF AND FORGIVE YOUR SELF IT IS OK TO SCREW UP WE ALL DO ... NO ONE IS PERFECT NOT EVEN YOU .. MAYEBE IT IS HARD TO BELIVE BUT THIS IS LIFE \nIF YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE WORLD ARROUND BE SURE YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR SELF , WHAT ARE YOU RUNING AWAY FROM ?\nSTOP RUNING
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self control only required.
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Start to do something simply, something you will enjoy and will do most every day.  The best physical exercise for anyone is as simple as taking a walk every day.  Make it short at first, and go a little more when you want too.  Instead of parking close to the shopping center, park farther away and walk.  Be creative that way.\n\nIn even a few days, your confidence will build because you will know that you are in control and you are doing something.  Changes will be gradual, but permanent.  And doing this every day, even for a short time some days and longer for others, will become part of your life.
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When I was at the university I had the same problem for a couple of years. It was so good having fun as a young student. As Oscar Wilde put it, "I can resist everything except temptation".\nThen one day, a friend of mine who already finished the studies at that time, told me this phrase: "Look, you are throwing away yourself".\nAt that precise moment I realized the situation. I restarted studying hard and in short time I graduated. Today, I still thank that friend of mine.\nSo simple. You have to get to the point where you feel that you may be throwing away yourself. Perhaps that moment is not now, but I suggest you start think about it. Hold on, and good luck!
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Nobody can become a perfect person. We all make mistakes and bad decisions at least sometimes. The best you can do is try to develope good habits of the heart, make the best choices you can, and if you believe in God, pray for help. Even the best among us get angry and frustrated sometimes and say or do things they regret. All of us have some sort of habit that bothers someone else. We are too fat, too thin, too short, too tall....there isn't physical perfection, either. We can spend way too much time worrying about it, or we can take baby steps and change one thing we don't like about ourselves at a time. If you change a behavior consistantly for two weeks, it usually is long enough to establish a new habit, and you aren't likely to do it again. You have to do some self examination, but don't fall into the trap of being so hard on yourself that your self-expectaions are too high. That kind of perfectionism is an emotional killer. Seek balance, a middle path.
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I have adult ADD and I have had problems with impulse control - doing things first without considering the consequences.