why woman become so serious to marry & thinking a lot when they reach middle age?
106860
because the old clock is ticking louder and louder the older women get, unfortunately women havea finite time to reproduce, too bad men don't have the same issue, if it were the case, men would be running around looking for wives and stalking girlfriends
820669
depends on your age. older women have had their fun they are ready to settle down and make a family and build alife around it. if your older your just out of luck. I see you put people in their 20's getting married in their 20's are fools i agree whole heartedly with that. but flings arent always good. k. if your just looking to get laid then you need to stop going for the upstanding beautiful girls. your going to have to go with a little lower and the girls who have the same outlook on life as you. there out there. and if your a good catch girls are going to want to keep you. HELLO you knew that. well good luck with it.
510082
Women automatically think they are princesses.  They think they are god's gift to the world.  When they are young, they realize they have to work for it.  They can't indulge in everything, they have to work out.  But as women get older, they realize that just being a woman is enough, and they stop working out, and they start eating things they shouldn't.  And they stop caring about being beautiful, because they think their best beauty years have already passed.\n\nDon't buy the excuses.  Yes, women's bodies change a lot internally, but the fat issue is always their own fault.
1009408
We are supposed to enjoy and live our life normally and never think of how old are we and when are we going to die. Nobody knows how long he is going to live to tailor his life accordingly. Some people married after the age of 70 or 80 and they begot children and lived happily. Others died on their wedding days or some years earlier. The general rule is that a woman could be considered old if she cannot have children any more if you need them! . For the man it is the ability to practice job and sex and do whatever appropriate with to age.
320777
Women are attracted to your bad boy style till after marriage.  Then they want you to quit being immature.
191995
studies have shown that if youre in your mid twenties youre the least likely to get divorced. (also if you are both college educated, and make greater than 50K/year also helps). but statistics aside, its really whenever they meet the person they're truly ready to commit to for the rest of their lives. i know success stories from people who got married when they were young and old, as well as people who got married at all different ages who got divorced.
1186308
Well you are absolutely right on that one!  I am 57 but still appreciate everything that you mention above.  The 'pervy' attitude comes from younger people who simply don't have the imagination and foresight to sense how they will feel say in twenty to thirty years or so.  But age they will and suffer the same predujice that you talk about.  I look on it as akin to children being spiteful in the playground ...  their maturity to accept their actions can only come later when they are able to see 'the other side'.\nBut for now I guess we will just have to continue appreciating the female form in quiet .... keeping those 'pervy' remarks at bay!
489168
Ideal woman, to whom Iam going to marry,should have age of at least 25years,size36/20/36,colour not very fair, height 5'6"to5'8", sharp features,lovely to look at.Upright, who knows what her goals are,well educated, who enjoy kids,can make efforts to maintain good and decent relations. The most important thing is to have mutual understanding and co-operation to achieve each others goals.Understand the, bare need for sex, which is so essential to sustain the marriage.
509285
Coz girls are getting old faster than boys. so that is they are always in hurry for marriage. and if they got old and older there will be no one to marry them. TATA
489061
Don't give up. The problem is that you are 22, and if you are dating women your age, most are still quite immature and learning who they are, what they want from a mate and what they want in life. This is why most marriages of people your age don't work, neither party of it is mature enough to make it work, or are prepared for it when they get married. Give it some time, and you'll start seeing women "growing up" and being more mature, knowing what they want, and not playing games.
19317
Age isn't as important as maturity and so many other factors, like life goals, and personality compatibility. We all are at some stage in life. A great marriage is one in which both parties are of pretty much equal places in maturity, experience, wisdom, ect. they want their lives to go the same place at the same speed, understand and happily accept the self sacrifice it takes to get there. \n\nDifferences make for exciting mates and excitement in dating is a good thing but they make for an unhappy marriage in the long haul. In other words, who you prefer to date might be the exact opposite of who you should marry and as you mature, you'll know the difference between the two.\n\nAs it is, this is nothing but my opinion gleemed from life experience. I have no other qualifications to answer it and it should be taken as a persons opinion and nothing more.
1174349
Age is just a number. I know a couple who met and married in their 70's and they both act like they are 20 plus.  Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places.
1103626
This is a very long answer! I am sorry, but I had to write this! Bear with me....\n\nAs a woman who is 50 and who went through her own mid life crisis (and divorce and self reinvention) over the last ten years and  who felt very much as you do now, I would like to share some things that helped me to get out of negative self talk. I have learned how to view mid life as a wonderful time of growth, which got me out of a bad mind set.\n\nHon, the first mistake you are making is defining yourself and your personal value on whether or not you have a boyfriend or husband. You are not unique in this mindset. I did the same thing, but no one defines us or determines our self worth and value, EXCEPT ourselves. Thinking that a man will define your self worth and your placement in this world will only serve to make you depressed and feel as alone as you do now. The only person who defines you and your self worth is YOU. No one else can do this. Instead of thinking that someone else is responsible for definining you, LOOK WITHIN. You are a unique individual, with your own skills, gifts, ideas, mind and thoughts that make you who you are. If you only seek out men to define and complete you, you will feel alone, as you do now. You feel alone and empty because you are not looking within yourself to find the things that you possess to bring you self nurturance and self love - to define the woman you are now.\n\nMost women define and value themselves as complete when they have a boyfriend or husband because we are socialized by our families and the media to believe this is the case. We are taught that to be of value we must achieve the ultimate goal in life: to get married, have a family, own a house, and so forth. Those of us who decide to have a career, in addition to marriage, are taught that having "it all" makes us more worthy. If we choose not to marry or have kids, then something is wrong with us (although this is changing, thank god). If we wind up getting divorced, we are viewed as being failures and that because our marriages failed, we are not capable of having a relationship or worse, something is wrong with us. Married friends may shun us (or not), family members query us about whether or not we are dating, or if we will ever remarry, and as a consequence, we feel anxious and apart from society. We feel as if we are outsiders looking in. When we believe this, we feel lost.\n\nDivorce is hard, especially when you are in your mid forties and going through perimenopause. That adds to the confusion and the negative feelings we have. With hormones rising and falling, we feel different and are different in many ways. It is a time, generally - and without divorce - of questioning and assessing our lives, what we have accomplished or didn't, what we want to do in the future, and what changes we want to make. We fear aging and growing older, and dying too young or too soon. We fear the changes our bodies are going through. Our looks change somewhat and we feel old, ugly, less attractive. Even though this is a scary  and a weird time in our lives, we needn't feel this way. Experience and wisdom comes with age, and even if our bodies are not as firm as they once were, and even if we gain a bit of weight or have tons of gray hair, we are still beautiful. I feel better and more beautiful NOW than I did in my twenties and thirties! I may not be as thin as I was, but that is okay - I accept and honor the woman I am now. I receive the beauty I possess now with welcome arms and more confidence than I ever had before. Why? I accept the woman I am today. It gets better, really and you CAN GET THROUGH IT.  \n\nSome suggestions: One of the best things I ever did when I got divorced was to go to therapy with a psychologist who specialized in divorce. She also held a weekly group session (for an hour an a half) with her other female clients (6 or 7 of us) and we worked together on finding our paths AND releasing our hurt, and anger towa
762289
Women have already made up their mind from the start, but like to dwell on the problem.\nMen make up their mind and later dwell on it after it's too late to choose the other option.
849135
Please read the classic Cinderella Complex.  It helps explain  a lot of the urges women have regarding marriage including the irrational ones.  Your plan sounds sensible in that you want to do a few things, experience your own life, develop your own line of work (very important that a woman has her own source of income as this also means emotional freedom and independence and self worth)...and there IS plenty of time to make a decision that does affect decades of your life.  Err on the side of hesitation always especially on emotinal issues.
138876
If you want to marry someone you do not know soon, I think you must be crazy!!!\n\nAnd by the way, how would you know she is serious if you marry her too "soon" to find out??
1088620
another thiing is that you are well educated and  I bet there are many women who will wnat to marry you.  Moist women look for security.  Henc e  get a  beautiful American gal, fall on love, get married   and  enjoy your life.