I am going to my new boyfiends mothers wake (she passed away on the 3rd). Should I bring flowers?
101040
You don't bring flowers to a wake.  If anything, you have flowers sent to the funeral home by a florist.  But you are probably not expected to do that.  Just show up dressed conservatively, and speak quietly and gravely to people.  Your new boyfriend will be forever grateful.
396899
I say any kind of flower is great. My father died in 2000 when I was 18 and I have to say one of the things that helped me through it all were the flowers. Flowers have a cheering effect on people. Someone might be so far down in the dumps, they don't see a way to get out, but seeing this mass of flowers, all colors, all types, it reaches people and at least they can smile for even a split second.\n\nAs mentioned already, it is not a bad idea to give plants that can grow afterwards. My grandmother is very dedicated to her garden (this was her son that died, my father) so people gave roses, all different kinds, but potted. After the funeral, my grandmother took them all home and made a rose garden in my fathers name. It has been 6 years now and the flowers are in full bloom. Everytime she sees them, she smiles. They are a positive reminder of her son and the beauty of life. \n\nOf course these people may not be ones for gardening or may not even have the space to plant them, but potted plants or even trees are acceptable. I think it is wonderful to give life when someone passes. They may be gone, but there is a reminder of their life always present.
909727
Tell him that you missed him so much during aftermath of your mom's death. Tell him that you want him badly and you love him
610683
I'm sorry for your loss, many Holidays must be very difficult for you. If you don't feel this is too strange , when you go to visit her on Mothers Day bring a blanket with you and just sit there for a while. My Dad died when I was 13 months old, so when I need to feel closer to him, I take a warm summer day {Hopefully Mothers Day will be warm} a blanket, maybe a book or photo album and visit. Its amazing how peaceful it might make you feel. I'm sure she loved you very much and I'm very sorry your still so sad. I hope the rest of your family is a support to you. Take care and best of everything to you.
485677
say some lovely words and bring some flowers....
725910
You mother may like to spend time with you.....can you take her to lunch?.......and get her a small pin or earrings (if she has pierced ears).\n\nMost of all get her a beautiful card....or make one.....just to show your love.\n\n......My mom passed 4 years ago at 88....and she was the best!
727312
I will pray tonight to God to remind my dear mother that I miss her and love her and I sure hope to be seeing her soon. But if she every heard a son of hers say anything but Mother to her she would have let that son though that she is to be refered to as Mother.Boy, that's one thing she would really let you know.about.that  you did something wrong.
1072709
My Grandma passed away 6 yrs ago on the 6th of July.......her Bday is June 30th......every yr since she has left.....I go to her gravesite....bring her fresh flowers & just sit for an hr or so....although some people would say I am bonkers.....I talk....I tell her everything....even though I know she is with me on a daily basis....& sees all that is going on....I still do this....it makes me feel like she is really there.....even though I walk away crying...& missing her even more....I know that it something we enjoyed together.....my Grandma was a VERY special woman....I miss her everyday & sometimes just break down & cry whenever I think of her.....I just thank god she was able to meet my daughter before she went....my son was 2 & my daughter was 1 when it happened.....Honey, I know it is hard when it is a Parent.....she was like a mom to me.....just go spend some time with him....pray & remember every good time....even remember the bad times.....just celebrate him.....GOD BLESS YOU in your time of need....
1085901
The first year after you lose a parent is the hardest ~ the first birthdays, holidays, and other special times you have as a family without them there to share it with you.  We still have our dad, but our mom passed away about 10 years ago.  One of the things we do as a family on Mother's Day to remember our mom is have breakfast together.  We make Mom's favorite breakfast (blueberry coffee cake and hot tea) and talk about our special memories of her.  We look at pictures and laugh and cry ~ it's actually a really great time!  I love your idea of celebrating your father and our Father in Heaven together.  It's a very appropriate way to remember that both of them are watching over you.  Best wishes to you and your family.
578647
Last year my then future daughter-in-law got me a beautiful candle holder with scented candles, we had a great relationship before they got married and continue to grow in our relationship. I have a great respect for her love of my son and she never forgets that I am his mom. Good luck.
73398
it would be better if somebody gives me flowers instead of balloons. it still would be a thoughtful gesture but its not that sweet.
659921
dont worry you will be a great sis, dont you? so act normal and wait to get ready for a little bro it will be very difficult while your mother takes a rest.
883845
Sure - it will bless her heart PARTICULARY because you haven't spoken to her for awhile.  \nOur real grief very often doesn't settle in until a month or even months and months after the death of a loved one.  I volunteer at a grief center as a grief peer counselor and I know for a fact how much it means to receive a sympathy card even months after a loved ones death.
177358
That would depend on state and funeral home....it varies\n\njust call where they are now and let them know that you need transportation arrangements made quickly if they have passed on and arranged if they will be passing soon.\n\nI am sorry for your loss..and what you are going through.\nPrayers and thoughts are with you.
558319
It depends on the boy....he should respect your mothers wishes!
313641
Please remove the very thought that your mother is goin to die. I know its easily said than done. But if you are sad, naturally your mother will look more sad!!! Make her feel happy by doing what she likes!!! What she loves!!! Do not show the traces of sadness on your face. \nI too am praying for her well being!!!\nRemember one thing, your mother is not going anywhere but just discarding this body and going to another!!! All that matters is the SOUL!!! So, she loves you and so do you!!! She is with you and will be with you!!!
773779
What a great man you are for giving her space. Death makes us take time out to reevaluate our life. Especially the death of a parent. I commend her for telling you when she needed space before things got nasty. I would send her gentle reminders that you are still thinking about her. A card is always a nice gentle way to say.. HEY I am thinking about you.. What a wonderful person you are for being there, and loving her from afar. Give her the space that she wants, but make sure to reminder her occationally of what you are feeling. The problem is.. it usually take about a year for a woman to come out of the "fog" of loosing a parent. Just be there for her.. and GOOD FOR YOU!