ok i am a dad who has been paying child support for my son for 18 years and he lives with me.how is it?
107707
If you were married to the woman when the children were born then you’re automatically the alleged father. You should contact your local Human Resources Department, and consult someone regarding paternity testing for the four other children. You can take her to court, and possibly have paternity court ordered, and have a hearing to reduce your child support. However, child support is based on income. If your income has not fluctuated then your child support payments will remain the same. You should consider paternity testing if you believe that there is a possibility the children aren’t biologically yours. You can pay for paternity testing out of pocket, but make sure you do it through a method recognized in a court of law.
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to all of the people who answered this question, not sure if  the laws over this subject varies from state to state, but in the state of Ohio the father has the obligation to pay his child support that he has been ordered from a court to pay until it is paid in full, age has no bearing on this. this is why if and when you child reaches the age of 19 and not being a full time student his support for this child does end with the balance (back payments) that is owed still must be paid in full. in most cases the father and mother can in court come to an cash agreement and settle the debt with each other. to you all that are paying and/or receiving child support payments from an ex or mother/father of your child(s) please read up on what your rights are, this isn't just something that you should keep putting off for another day. if money is owed to your child it is your job to see that he/she receives it, if someone owed you money you would hound then until the bill was paid in full. do the same for your child too...
465268
you need to go straight to a lawyer. I live in Australia so i don't know the laws where you are perhaps living. But you could go to social services or child welfare and tell them that you now have care of the child that your husband has legal rights to. Those rights would also have obligations on his behalf. I don't know how old the child is but asking what they want is a good start and then seek all the professional advice that you have to to resolve this. This child like all children must have love and stability. Going back and forth to dad when it suits him could have long term effects on this child. You never mentioned under what circumstances he was awarded custody. I have to take you at your word as i don't know you but if you love your child and feel that they will be better of with you and you can provide for their needs, all of them, challenge the ruling and do what is right for the child. Someone professional to help your child through all these confusing times and transitions is probably a good idea. Good luck to you and i hope the little one gets through this turmoil with as little scarring as possible. Looks like that's up to you.
201727
sounds like mother is no good. if he is an adult why is dad still paying child support? money should go to son automatically! maybe son should go to FOTC and dispute that case. let me know if you need my help. ntjack02@yahoo.com. and good luck god bless you.
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If he cannot even send you child support, you shouldn't worry too much about him; getting a lawyer, paying court cost and harassing you over the new situation. If he does, you have the benefit because you have been raising your daughter from no help from him. I would ask him to sign over the rights to you as full guardianship and let him know he will not have to worry about back child support.\n\n* I may have misread: If he does pay the child support, he may be able to do this. Does he want to see the child often? Maybe you could soften him up with not having to pay anymore if he gives up his parental rights.
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Your question (and solution) are vaguely worded.\n\nAs a father who just finished 18 years of making child support payments, I feel I am qualified to answer this question.\n\nFirst, a father has the responsibility (legally, ethically and morally) to provide for his child(ren), and in this day and age that means provide for them financially with child support payments.  The father "benefits" by knowing that his child(ren) will have the financial means to survive and hopefully, thrive as they are growing into adults.  Hopefully, he also has and maintains a healthy personal relationship with the child(ren), as they need all the love, support and guidance they can get as they grow.  Love and trust (and in some cases, respect) aren't something that are owed to a parent by a child, they must be earned.  And there are few greater rewards in this world than having your child(ren) love, trust, and respect you.  THAT is the father's true benefit.  A real father cares more about the well being of his child(ren) than the support payments he is making.\n\nThere is no need for any other financial benefits (e.g. the improved credit score) as a reward for the father being a responsible parent and making his support payments.  Credit scores are related to your performance in paying back money you have borrowed from the lender as you promised.  Credit card companies have nothing to gain (and much to lose) by giving people higher credit scores that have no relation to money they have borrowed.  Not sure what you mean by "that way his childs future is backed knowing that he can obtain anything that credit could by the child (college, transportation, and so forth)..."; are you talking about the father being able to obtain things, or the child?  Either way, it's not relevant.  The child's credit history/score will have to be established as any new user of credit would.  The father's credit will be determined by how he handles his credit...if he is responsible and pays back money he borrows as agreed to, he won't have any credit worries if and when it comes time to help the child borrow money for college, etc.  Likewise, I don't know if credit scores are adversely affected by failing to pay child support on time.\n\nFathers who do not meet their financial obligations to their children are, in my opinion, losers and less than real "men".  A real "man" makes sure his children are provided for, even if he has to work two or three jobs to do so (and I have).
64523
The child's father is obligated, I recently got back into touch with my older son and his mother has told me she has not recieved any money, thouu I have been paying through the nose, can't get any kind of license(hunting, fishing, business, et c.), I cannot get a passport and have been screwed constantly. If you have been on state assistance, he is paying that. If not, you need to report to DSHS and let them know you are not getting help. Also whoever adopts your son gets total responsibilty! Will be responsible for thee child financially for the rest of his natural life, think hard about this. Further more, quit yer bitchin'! I have never once heard of a man say he's not getting child support. You panty droppers wanted equality, fcuken take it! You created that child, you chose the man, you either take the responsibilty or give him to his father, you CANNOT have it both ways!
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Actually I Knew a couple personally who divorced and had a little boy. After I think it was 1 year or a bit more the man moved back. For whatever reason they lived together (but they didn't remarry) They were quite content as things were. He was still paying his child support and had no problems with that. Nor did she. Too them they said it was like a bank account that he was responsible for and it was just for their daughter. So while he still payed the child support it was all going into this savings account that just had his wife and daughters name on it. Sometimes they used the money for birthdays or doctor's bills. But he said it was helping him focus on the fact that those child support payments were going directly to that account and in essence that account would be used for her colleage education.  So they just lived with that arrangement. But it was their choice and they made it work. (It's been 7 years and they are still doing the same thing).
197608
good luck!  lol... it is not easy to get out paying child support... if you have a job, you are paying... that is the way it works... be responsible, and pay!
1062635
Cant be totaly sure these things may vary by state I am sure that if a 18 year old reamain in school and at home a child support parent is still responsible to pay support until he reachs the age of 21...
234411
You could speak to your local Child Support Agency about having the jurisdiction changed. You could also obtain from your state Government the rules governing child support in that state. You could also try contacting your local representative in the state Assembly. You might also want to consult with your lawyer about starting procedures. Given that you have lived there for 15 years, you would have a good case for a change.
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email me at corbett11@yahoo.  Depending on your income, you may qualify for a public defender.  You can also try a Volunteer legal services project.  They are lawyers who volunteer their time for these matters to lower income ppl.  Try to be amicable with the father as it is in the best interest of the child.  Go for joint custody.  Allow the most for relationships with both parents.  You can hate him if you want, but dont use the child as a pawn.  My ex is and I didnt get to see her for 3 months.  Not cool.  Also, File for Child support tomorrow, along with a petition for visitation/custody.  Your parents and his have rights as grandparents and can be entitled to time as well.  Try to take a parenting course that deals with the psycholgical aspects on the child (A.C.T. - Assisting Children with Transition) or something similar.  The 0-3 yrs are the most crucial in development for your baby.  Keep that in mind.  This is when the relationships and bonds are formed.
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If you live with him it is the courteous thing to do as far paying the bills are concerned. About the kids, you should sit down and talk to him about that and see where that gets you.
840761
Yes, fight for your rights, and don't give him any sex (charge him, just kidding, had to say that in the moment), the most important thing of course is the welfare of the children, and remember, documentation, documentation, I hope you have paperwork on everything that has happend in your life, and witnesses, he has to pay child support no matter what, he is their father and has to support them (like it or not/wage garnishment).  And don't question yourself if you need financial help, you do and you deserve it.  Good Luck and I hope things work out for you and your children.
47215
Well, as a guy paying 1500 per month in child support for one child, I TOO see both sides of it. I agreed to pay this amount, and was not required to pay it. One of the other responders is correct, it varies from state to state, but runs about 20% of your pay. the fact is, I am more qualified, and financially responsible to raise my child. I have more energy, time, and general resources than my Ex-wife, but do you think I could EVER win custody, even though I am truly more qualified? No, never, not in a million years can a man win.. So for the average man, it is a lose/lose situation.. We lose a large percentage of our pay, and we lose much of our time with our child.. My lawyer said in the state of Texas, a woman has to have murdered someone to lose their child, and he claims there has not heard of a single case where the father was given custody without VERY extenuating circumstances. \n\nTo the person who said "they should have thought about that before they had kids".. Don't be an idiot. You must be 12 years old...
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You should probably contact the Child Support Agency for further information if your husband has agreed maintenance payments with them.  FSee below for the link.
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First, you shouldn't be late for your son's child support in the first place. second, you are right, child support is like a loan. It would be the same for your home loan, car loan ...any kind of loan, if owe them..you pay them...on time. Don't look at paying on time as a positives, it is an agreement and a responsibility that you need to get in your mind. AND you CAN fix your credit score with some paper work and phone calls.\nYou will get positives for your credit report for loans is because these companies lend you (stranger) their money for your needs. BUT child support is YOU paying for something that YOU made and that is your son. Why do you think you would get credit on your credit report for raising your own kid? AND the reason you will be penalize for late payment is due to your legal agreement  with the other party. You are being penalize because they reported you to the credit unions. (in which case, most won't file report for 1 late payment if you inform them in advance of your difficulties)