I’m married but I have problems being ready for sex. I’m always too dry. Any solution? We want a baby.?
100119
sure...you'll be fine...is thgere a rush?.....280 days  plus  or  minus  for  one  of the  most  remarkable  things  to  happen..a  baby\nif  you  both  get to  know  each  other  with  massage.reflexology...just  touching  and  cuddling...youll melt the  barrier.....if  yr  thinking  of  having  a  child  to  satisfy  someone  else  ..a  relative...or   to  satisfy...THAT  includes....some  authoritive  figure  who...isn't arround  but  left  you  with a  blockage...about  children  or  parenting  or  sex.....find  a  mid  wife  they're  remarkable  and  have  a  great  insite....   get  yr  partner  to  go  dancin  together...slow  couple  artistic  dancn...that  will bring  you  a  harmonious  co-ordination....ther's a lot  more  but  these are  fine  openers
915072
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
868709
There is nothing wrong with wanting sex all the time and it is hard when one person seems disinterested.  You have some idea if he is under stress or if he is tired all the time so I won't go that route with this answer.  I also won't go down the is he cheating path because if you had some concern about that you would have mentioned it in your question.  I would ask you to think about what was going on before you got married when the two of you were having sex regularly.  Were the two of you living together??  Were you the one who initiated it all the time??  Alot of times we have the answers to the question we pose you simply need to look into your history with your husband.  I asked you the questions above because a similar thing happened in my marriage.  I was distracted and very busy not to mention I was very tired all the time and I felt as if I didn't want to disappoint my wife by not having the energy that I normally had.  So she felt I had to be out there doing something with someone because I was not doing it enough with her.  Desire is what fuels sex so you have to "get back on your husband's mind".  How, well some times a little shock could be the key.  In your question you say you are thinking about getting it elsewhere, tell him that.  Yeah I said it, tell him that he is frustrating you and though you don't want to cheat, he makes you feel as if you want to cheat.  Now don't dare cheat because it is not worth it.  You wouldn't want  him to cheat on you.  Tell him that making love is very important to you and that you are not trying to be selfish but that you need and want to show affection.  From the wording of your question, you seem like you are willing to do what it takes to make him happy.  My other suggestion is to be patient.  You might have to accept a compromise where you might have to get it twice a week instead of everyday.  One thing is for sure, sex cannot be the defining issue in your marriage.  You have to find a way to communicate what you are feeling and act with the information that you receive.\n\nGood Luck
910311
Well, there is much more than just sex in a marriage, nevertheless I do understand needing more and not getting it, we are not all the same, some of us will need much more sex than others, and many times we overlook the fact that  sexual compatibility is a very important factor in our relationships, but not necessarily, the most important one in a marriage,  for example you could very well find in an adventure a very compatible sexual partner that would not measure up in any other way your spouse and may very well be a promiscuous bandit taken advantage of your needs, (unfortunately you will probably not find this out until the sexual spell has come down and then it will be too late). Be very careful in your decision about how to satisfy the extra needs you have, if you care and love your spouse try looking for ways to improve your married sex life, if its not possible and you still retain the hunger, the you should consider leaving your husband and start looking for the right match. Good Luck.
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
280335
Oh my goodness I had this same problem, This is what I did. I HAVE TO MAKE SURE I CLEAR MY MIND AND BE FOCUSED WHAT I'M DOING.HAVE TO BE TURNED ON! YOU HAVE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO PLEASE YOU!!!  I was w/ my ex for 5 yrs. I though I had plenty of organisms until I met my fiance SO that goes back to ya man has to know what he's doing!
552589
My wife went through the same thing. You are most likely with your baby all the time. There is alot of cuddling between the two of you. Your feelings of closeness are being satisfied by your baby! Your desire for sex is gone because of this. To help get it back, plan a time you and your spouse want to have sex! I know this isn't always the most romantic way but you want to get it back and this is a way to do it. Plan about 3-5 days ahead. This gives you time to think about how great it will be and get excited about just the two of you having some time alone. (when the baby is sleeping obviously) About an hour before you two are together, try to relax and transition from being a Mother to being that sexy lady you were and still are for your hubby/boyfriend. If you can make this transition the first time, you will be able to do this from now on!\nRemember, just relax, think positive and sexy thoughts and it will happen for you. Good luck!
936117
talk to your wife about spicing up your love life.\nyou never know, she might be just as lonely as you are, but before that maybe you should try to find out and understand why she's so against sex.\ngood luck!!
1029363
learn to relax.  I was married for 15 years and had to last at least 40 minutes because my wife was frigid.  (I feel bad for her next husband)  Once I started dating again I was so nervous sometime I'd go for 2 hours because I didn't want to let the girl down.  No I try to relax and spend more time making her happy and trying to time the climaxes together.  Think about something really erotic when you think she about to cum.  And ask her to be vocal about it.
531951
Not normal to me and I've been with my husband for almost 20 years. To each their own though. I have a friend that only has sex when she wants to have a baby and thinks that this is the only time they need to have any intimate contact. Funny world sometimes.
1090147
I am being very serious when I say you need to seek some counseling. First to address any issues you may have that are preventing you from enjoying sex. Secondly, with your husband, to discuss any issues you have as a couple. I also suggest you see your OB/GYN to rule out any physical problems. Depression can even greatly reduce sexual pleasure. So, if you want to work this out, seek outside help from people who know what they are doing, not Yahoo users. \n\nI have been married 8 yrs and faked quite a bit in the early yrs. I had to find the courage to tell my husband he was not pleasing me and give him suggestions on how to do this. Now, through a variety of things, I usually always reach orgasm.
140861
B"H\nHmmm... try taking two weeks off from sex every month.  Show him that during that time you are STILL head over heels in love with him.\n\nThis is actually advice many marriage councelors give out to help people who've lost the spice get it back into their marriage.  While you may not have this trouble, this definately helps develop the intellectual and emotional aspects of a relationship as well.  \n\nLoads of ancient cultures practiced this (usually abstaining from physical relations during the woman's menstruation) and it has proven itself time and again to keep marriages in a prolonged "honeymoon phase".
437633
I don't think I can ever get enough sex, wish my hubby would stop being a prude 2-3 times a month doesn't cut it for me.  There are other girls out there like me who crave it all the time, what are you waiting for start looking for one lol!
963759
Sounds like a no. You have been having sex with him, probably living with him - he has no need to get married; you are giving him all that he wants and he is totally comfortable. Talk to him again, and get married before the baby comes!
42098
I'm married and have not had sex in a year! (Idiot for a husband) Actually, it varies from person to person due to psychology and hormones.
347882
unfortunately it is a normal thing for all marriages to go through exactly what you are describing to us here.\nI say unfortunately, because we all have this GRAND idea what it is to have a baby, but when it actually happens and it is JUST like you described, we all flake out and act like you do..Yes even some dads feel the same way..\nyou need a good support unit around you.\nDO you live near any family at all. they NEED to be brought in to help out... at some time in the day tiem for you, so you CAN go to the gym and have some time to yourself..you NEED to work out for your body ..but also for your mind..this way you will met other girls and talk to them..new friendships, others with the same things going on..or just meet people and talk...\nat night..so you and your hubby can do what ever ( wink, wink ) or go and watch the sun go down then go out to eat...or a movie without worrying about the baby..or the baby interrupting you two at those moments..\nPlease listen to me and do what I ask of you..\nnow if you do not have any family near you..you need to find reliable people you can really trust with your baby for the times I suggested to you..and let them take care of her for you so you can get back on track..\nlastly,maybe you should go and talk to you doctor if after you do what I am asking you to do does not do it for you..\nnow really last..you also need to dress up at home..yes dress up at home for you, but more for him...he needs to see you looking GREAT when he is there..makes him hot for you.\ngive him special attention ( you know what I mean ) you know how guys are..they need more attention than girls do....but do not admit it..\nbuy him a flower, give it to him when the baby goes down for a nap..then..well you know what..make him feel so fantastic ..he will start giving you it back..the ball goes round and round..what goes around comes around..even if you have to work a little harder than normal to get him happy..in the long run he will give you more of what you want and need.\nGood Luck\nand God Bless the three of you