I have been single for 10 years, I am not ugly, what am I doing wrong?
109446
Well, you said you're shy.Open up a little, make more friends that are girls.And maybe you might get to know each other a little more.Don't rush it or expect love at first sight.That's how I found my boyfriend; three years.So all I'm trying to say is hang out with the oppisite sex a little more.AND DON'T RUSH IT!
573774
Your English and use of the language is very bad, so I am having difficulty figuring out the issues.  Your lady appears to be unfaithful.  You would be better off if you searched elsewhere for a nice lady to be in your life.  That is difficult, of course.  If this occurred in 1989 you have spent 10 years in a hopeless relationship.  Best to close the door, and move on.  I'd suggest you use some of the on-line dating services like Match.com or Yahoo personals.  There are lots of nice people out there, and of course lots who are not nice, too.  Be selective, date within your race, educational level, and culture to avoid problems.  Life is too short not to have a nice time with another nice person...  good luck
1101910
Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
730886
Find 3 or more (up to five) qualities that other\npeople don't have. Add them up and realize that you were put on this earth for a Damn REASON, that you are as good or even better than other dudes and don't slump your shoulders. I hated myself for so long until I was about 23, when other people had to tell me that I was good and a good friend to have around, that a lot of people found me attractive. Email me your circumstances.muirmatt@yahoo.com
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You need to find a way to build your confidence.  No offense, but you don't sound like you have much.  Having low self esteem in the dating world is like smearing cheese whiz all over yourself: rats will be chasing you.  Try to build a fun life for yourself that doesn't depend on having male company.  When men see that you're alone and having fun, and you're NOT needy, they'll want to spend more time with you.  Get a life, and men will want to share it with you.\n\nRemember:  being alone is WAY better than being stuck with a loser!
525886
Have faith in yourself - it all starts with your self esteem.  You either have it or you dont, & it sounds like you dont.  You have to work on you self image. Once you've done that & have a good view of yourself, your attractiveness will show through.  You have to care about yourself first, eat right, get enough sleep, exercise.  Put taking care of yourself a top priority.  Keep up with your personal hygiene, wear clean clothes.  Be considerate, kind, compassionate to others. Be honest - this is VERY important because no matter what you do to make yourself look good on the outside, if you are mean, dishonest, & cruel on the inside then you will be unattractive on the outside as well.  \n\nGood Luck!\n\n~from a lady
660375
Keep hope alive....Hell,Im single
177131
I am 27 years old and I have never really dated, so I guess you could say I have literally been single my whole life.
790726
I'm like you. I'm 30. Never had a boyfriend either. I  never had my first boyfriend. I think it's time we both did. Only I need to get out more often and be flexible. You're lucky you meet guys. Don't give up. There's plenty of fish in the sea ... I hope.
1104486
Take some time to know yourself...and let time to it's thing. Go out with friends and just enjoy being single. Sometimes we need time for ourselves to start another relationship. It is tough but all you can do is learn from it and move on.
1161497
There is not a certain place to meet new people now that you are single. You have to go outside of you comfort level. Just try going to places that you normally wouldn't go..for example museums, festivals, health clubs, networking things like that....
668206
Start speed dating and be truthful about your self (your a virgin). There's many people out there like you. You just keep searching instead of waiting. \n\nOthers:\n\nInternet match making\nChat forums (be careful though).\nArrange marriage services.
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You need to get out and do more and start mingling with people maybe you will meet someone that you really like. Love takes time and you need to wait for the right one to come along before you decide to settle down. Dont get down about being single just have fun and get out there and meet people.
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It's all in what you are saying to yourself in your mind.\nLose all the thoughts like- you are'nt good enough, ugly, never get a date, etc.\nThink of all your good qualities, think of all the complements people have given you before- you're sweet, caring person, fun to be around, etc.\nLike me, I never believed I was beautiful or good enough to have true love and respect until my attitude changed as I got older and people started complementing me, now I'm almost too full of myself lol!  :P
454965
Well i figure whatever kind of flirt i am, it is not working. I am still single
235000
Hmm. Tough qestion. Why cant I get a relationship also? HAhax. It's most probably you are too good that people fear to get close to you. They are afraid that they are not good enough for you. Another possible thing is you are too bad and people dont want to get close to you which i doubt is the case. Maybe u r a backgrd figure? IF u are, try to be more vocal and make people notice u. Smile more. Be kind to others. People will realise that u are a good catch. MAke more friends first. DOnt rush in to things. Slow and steady. XD Wish u all the best.
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We were just born at different times and different places that kept us apart.  Everything you described about yourself is qualities that I find very attractive.  I like someone who is open minded and opininated and independent.  You have awesome qualities.  When you are opininated that means you believe in what you are saying.  I have restored my own house and totally independent and can fix pretty much anything.  I cannot find the right girl to save my life.  Most girls are so boring it kills my spirit.  There are guys out there who would love a girl like you.  I think you need to move out of the city you live in and start fresh.  I think your life would change for the better in no time.  On the inadequacy and shame, see a therapist, they can get those things out of you.  We were all wounded in some way as children.  You have to go back in and reopen the wounds and let them heal correctly, otherwise they will fester for a long long time.