Im too scared to call my ex whom I still want. HELP!?
112024
i wouldnt call if he doesnt answer it will just hurt u more how often do yall email each other? id just try to move on if your ment to be hell come back
1000194
Stay away.  If you call him here is what he will hear:\n\n"Hi, I know we're all broken up like a million years ago, but I just want you to know that I'm pathetic and can't seem to get over you.\n\nNot minor league pathetic, like I got drunk one night and called you and then regreted it the next day, FULL BLOWN PATHETIC because I planned the whole call and weighed the pros and cons and still voted to trash my dignity".\n\nIn response he will either be rude to you on the phone, or be polite and you will get the totally wong idea just to embarrass yourself more later on.  \n\nNo matter how you feel or why you are calling him, this is what he will hear, then he will tell his girlfirend, and they both will have a good laugh at your expense.  \n\nI just don't think it's realistic to expect any different outcome.
193175
Make it very clear you are not together. Although I don't think that will work. I was in a similar situation, my ex was delusional. \nDo not answer his questions... ignore them.
349701
it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.
1055733
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
826828
FIRST you need to STOP going back to him because he is only using you and you are allowing him to do so.  You dont have enough self esteem within yourself to not go back.  If you ever want to get ober the guy STOP GETTING BACK WITH HIM!  There is no reason you should even be in contact with him, he is a loser and if you continue to see him ...you will be one as well.
506481
Damn, that sounds like me.  Gonna be tough starting up any type of relationship w/ anyone after breaking up w/ someone that you were w/ for the past 3 yrs.  I dunno how I would let down my guard.  Just be truthful and true.  Don't be fake, be sincere. I really don't know...
427535
I am so sorry.  This man has made his choice and you cannot do anything about it, unfortunately.\nBe with friends, keep yourself busy, and do not feed into his ego by contacting him.\nIt will only hurt you more.\nAvoid him at all costs...because to contact him will cost you your sanity!!\nGood luck and better wishes for a great future relationship.
967887
she's your ex\ndeal with it\nyou cant demand anything from her at this point, as she doesn't play a vital role in your life anymore.\ngive her time, she may come around.\ngive her some space, about a week.\nthen try again with the calling.\ngood luck with hearing her voice
675871
no leave it alone the grass always seems greener on the other side but believe me it is'nt it just is'nt meant to be and you don't want him to remember you as his crazy ex so just be friendly to him when you see him but don'tcall i know it is easier said then done but trust me on this one you will find the right man maybe he is the right man but let him come for you don't throw yourself at him i wish you well take care : )
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
415484
No matter what anyone tries telling you.. its always going to be hard to get over someone after being with them for six years. But I think that your best bet is just to try and go out to do things that will get him off of your mind. Spend as much time with your friends as you can... keep busy! No matter what you do it will always hurt though. You just have to be strong and not give in to him if he does start to call.. because thats just letting him know that he can use you over and over. Dont let him know you're bothered by it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything goes in your favor.
253917
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
332781
take your time to heal. Don't call him. If you feel the urge to call him take it 1 day at a time( like an addiction). Occupy your time with something else. If you are sitting around and not doing anything you will start to think about him. It is good that you ended it now, because if you would have waited it would hurt more than now. Tell yourself that it is over and you two will never be together again. Look at breaking up like this; you are now one step closer to finding the one you are meant to be with.
22147
Dude...she's probably afraid of you at this point.  15 calls is stalking.  Leave her alone and move on!
1115298
You don't. My ex has hurt me so bad so many times, and every time I talk to him it takes everything I have not to beg him to come back.
448515
Well u went a yr,,, some people can't even go that long without wondering if they should call the ex, \n\nBut if u want to call just 2 say hi it's cool, if ur calling because ur hoping may be u can get back together with him  be prepared, it's been more then a yr he could have a girlfriend by now. And if u find that out it could hurt all 3 of u, hurt u because u were hoping u could get back with him, u her because his ex is calling after more then a yr and she'll know why your calling, hurt him because  he will having some explaining to do.\n\nSo think about it first.