sharing your problems with your female partner reduces your tensions?
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Boys want to SOLVE your problems. Girls want to share FEELINGS. Sometimes all you want is sympathy and understanding. Girls are good for that. Like for problems that you can't just "solve."
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You listen to her problems day in and day out? Are you unique in this aspect, or is she just a chronic complainer? If you are the only person (or, at least, the only guy) she brings her troubles to, I'd say she already has a thing for you, although she may not be concious of it yet. And if that's the case, it's probably up to you to make the first move. If you really can't bear to bring the subject up in person, try a note or an email. You'll probably be able to express what you want to say much more eloquently and clearly in that format, and I guarantee that she'll respect you for having the guts to say what you really think.
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She's insecure.  Get her to admit it, and find out if she's willing to work on it. Don't threaten to dump her because that will just make her worse.  Obviously her trust has been violated by someone else, so try not to take it personally.  If she won't admit she has a problem, there's nothing you can do...a relationship with someone who won't admit they ever have any problems is going down much faster than someone who has an admitted problem they are dealing with.  \n\nIf she does admit she has a problem, you need to decide whether or not you can be a part of the solution and show her that trustworthy people do exist.  It's possible for her to come out of it, but it will take some time, and patience from you.  \n\nIf you feel you're not up to the challenge, by all means, end it sooner than later, but try to let her down easy because she's obviously has had enough to deal with already.
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Men and women communicate in very different ways.  I would recommend reading the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".  The books talks about how women really just want the guy to listen to her.  Often men try to solve the woman's problems, but really the woman just wants sympathy.  Give her a hug, and tell her that you love her, and pay attention to her.  Listen to her, and repeat back to her whatever she says.  Mirror her words and body language.  If she says "I hate my job", just say "you hate your job?"  don't try to "fix" the problem by saying "well then you should quit".  She just wants you to listen to her complain, and know you understand, then she will feel better.
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My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
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Context would be helpful.  I'm going to assume this is in the context of a romantic relationship.\n\nWomen, if nothing else, are acculturated to have a much large capacity for conversation and to be much more focused on scrutinizing the nuances of conversation and their implications to relational dynamics.  Its said that women work their relationships more like a web.  Men let's say are to a large extent acculturated to less capacity and sophistication in this regard.  Relationships across the gender divide involve alot of learning as a result.  \n\nOkay, without context, here's the next stab.  In any serious romantic relationship, women are going to be concerned about the security of the relationship.  I'm sure that this is partly because since they have such a developed emotional and relational capacity, they are often much more aware of their state of feelings, commitment readiness, etc. than most men are at a given point in a relationship.  So, that produces some baseline anxiety.  They are going to want to resolve emotional hanging threads.\n\nOkay, from that point, its a matter of how healthy the dynamics are.  Sometimes, in order to resolve their anxiety (sometimes due to a partner who is truly not responsive) the woman will resort to arm-twisting to up the ante in the relationship.\n\nUltimately, you can't control how the other person acts.  I think some helpful facets to look at are:\n\n-Self-awareness of where you're at in a relationship, on a particular issue of concern, etc.\n-Courage and discipline to communicate honestly *and* lovingly, and that does take courage and real self-discipline sometimes\n-Ability to state and hear each others' appropriate needs.  Rather than engage in a conversational jihad, its best to state what you need.\n\nHope you work things out...
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Concentrate less on your own pleasure, and more on that of your partner.
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I don't think that is normal, but it depends on what you define as an argument. Couples often have a sarcastic banter between them that seems negative but is really just trivial and that I actually find rather cute (though I myself prefer peace). I would much rather have my love be my source of peace and understanding than for him to be a source of constant stress.
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yes i personally did !! if you are in a relationship but yet you can't tell your mate everything then their is something wrong going on .. you both have to be able to talk about everything ..thing's happened in the past ..thing's happening right now ..silly things that you do .. stupid dreams..embarrassing stuff ..just everything .. and he gata support you in every possible way not just make a funny of you or get mad all the time !!
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ive been married 3 years one thing ive learned is just when you think you figured them out, the rules change.\nHere is what i've found maybe it will help you.\n\nnumber one be honest. it may maker her upset but she will get over it and be glad you told her what ever it was.\nnumber two be understanding. Dont get me wrong this is not a bad remark, but women are very emotional. Dont let yourself get out of control cause she melts down. Sometimes they just have to vent and are ok.
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It sounds like you are.  But to prevent hard feelings and too unload unpleasant thoughts just bring the situation up and tell him how you feel. It probably will be no big deal and you will be relieved to have the situation finally resolved.
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communication problems or clashing of ideas
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As a guy, I can tell you without hesitation that some women have a way of turning something back on you.  If you tell her you're mad about something she has done, hasn't done, etc., you get a load of crap designed to turn it back on you.  Including trying to make you feel guilty for even bringing it up.  Some even try to clear the anger by attempting to inspire sympathy.\n\nThat's just speaking from personal experience.  It's very hard to bring up sensitive issues with some women because it's impossible to carry on a serious, purposeful discussion of the problem without being emotionally manipulated.\n\nJust my opinion.  And please don't think I'm issuing a blanket statement to cover all wome.  That's why I said "some women".
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i think we have the same problem. i'm sorry it happened that way but im sure trying to work things out is easiest by talking things over and doing wat is best for BOTH of you.\nGOOD LUCK!
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I'll tell you how because I do it all the time - and it works on men and women.  Pick a subject or issue that she harps on regularly.  Every time she brings the issue up simply ask for an example.  Be very concise and direct.  Be blunt about it.  If she can't give any examples, well...  If she can, try to have an intelligent response ready.  Again, be concise, be direct, be blunt, and BE CALM.  Don't get rattled and don't raise your voice.  I anticipate interesting feedback from the women out there but to be sure women AREN'T always right.  The point is to discuss issues intelligently, not emotionally.  Hope this helps and good luck.
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one person with a bad attitude. lets not try to incluse the whole species of women. besides Im sure some men have the same bad attitudes as well. the thing is everyone face different challenges everyday in his/her lives. perhaps being a stranger, she couldnt care less of explaining to you about her life, or she just vent her own frustration on you. just ignore , feel indifferent and move on, no sense investing that much energy on someone who gives you negative vibes....
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then you're in good shape...it's not bad to argue...what's important is that you sit down and talk out what's been bothering you and resolve the issue...don't hold grudges, don't keep it in...talk it out everytime after you've had time to cool down and you'll see that maybe it wasn't as bad as you thought it was...