what happens when someone is somewhat assertive but really isn't assertive enough at all times?
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One does not have to be assertive at all times. You don't want to be run over by others nor do not want to speak up when you have a good idea or thought. It is important to learn to "pick your battles" as to what is important and when it IS important to be assertive.
498687
ONE'S THAT DO WHAT THEY SAY AND DON'T TALK TOO MUCH!
370732
Is it really that hard to behave?
433343
it can happen, but you have to be patient, and yet assertive at the same time.  you kinda have to feel things out to see if she would even bother, because you dont want to make a fool out of yourself.
302741
make sure you mean it and don't be too pushy, also don't try to be something you're not
863975
Look this same exact thing happened to me and i swear i was about to go physco on this guys a**, but he wasn't sincere at all in his apoligy, so if you said you were sorry in a certain tone of voice she might have taken it in a way like you didn't really mean it, and maybe the 2nd time you said it nicer and she knew you were sincere, so it could just be the way you said it.
50707
well you have to be true to your self and dont try to make up things ..\n\nyour just fine take care
1017339
Part of being assertive is being decisive and always having an opinion.\n\nYou can be assertive just by having confidence when you speak or by giving people proper eye contact when interacting with them.\n\nSpeak clearly and audibly, dont mumble. =)\n\nhope that helps.\n\nDont pay attention to that rubbish the religious hobo on the bottom wrote. Absolutely of his rocker that one -- dont become a religous zealot as a means to become assertive. People will think youre a clown.
1157579
dont assume ..............and i am not being assertive
201299
quite honestly, i think that is very difficult to do.  if you stop and think about the problem though, i think you'll discover it is because she has a lack of confidence in herself and doesn't want to appear "stupid" in front on someone else.  \n\nbest advice i have:  reinforce her confidence
427469
Most of the time when people try to act overly confident it's because they suffer from a low self esteem! Find out who you are and develop your own sense of style. Good luck!
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I remember always thinking people thought i was sensitive and I thought i was moody because of it.  What i have learned and i don't know if this goes for you but it's a shot, is that it wasn't that i was sensitive it was that i wasn't effective with telling people how i really felt.  I wasn't assertive enough. My feelings would get hurt easily and then i would get moody. I use to think having sensitivity was a weakness but i realized it is more of a blessing in a world where there are people who can be very insensitive.  Communicating effectively with the people around you will give you the confidence to not misunderstand what they are saying to you. For example, say someone says something to you that you interpret as hurtful, it is o.k. to calmly ask this person, what did you mean by that?  If they say Oh, I'm only kidding, calmly say, with confidence, i didn't fine that funny. Every situation, of course, will be different. If you practice being more assertive you will find that it is o.k. to keep your sensitivity and the moods will fade away.  Being sensitive is not a bad thing sadness and stress is.
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Many times a person who needs to be loud in conversation or the "Know-it-all" type, or the type that seems to not allow others to talk...is a person who is insecure and feels very low about themselves.  Their loud boisterous opinions and lack of being able to let others in on the conversation says that that person needs extra attention and has very poor communication skills.  Trying to tell them to "shut up" is NOT going to get the point across.  As a matter of fact...it might worsen the objective.  Perhaps if you make copy of this answer with your question and quietly and in private present it to this person...you may get somewhere.  Start with a "Hey...(his name)...can I please talk to you for a moment in private.  Then take him aside and let him know that you appreciate his input on things...however.."I'd like to let you know that there are people who have some input into the many conversations we have...as we have listened to you...perhaps you would be fair to listen to what some of us have to say."  "And by the way...eating/chewing with your mouth open or full is socially unacceptable...perhaps you didn't realize you were doing this...and as a friend, I thought I might let you know.  \nTwo wrongs never made a right...instead it makes a war.  So treat his rudeness with corrective/non-judgemental kindness and see if a greater response comes from your directives.  Thanks for caring enough to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
1110537
Insecurities, Not enough self-worth, or just afraid of rejection most of the time.
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maybe  you are  very shy or insecure...  why not    take a class or  read a book on becoming more assertive ?
129151
If the person is fidgeting, trying to walk away or not give you eye contact. Or if they talk really fast or seem like they're talking off the top of their head. Or if they mention things you know they would never do or don't have accesss to.
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One of the best things I did to improve my assertiveness was to learn to look people in the eyes when we spoke.  It improves confidence and communication levels.  As far as asserting your feelings, be patient, listen alot and respond APPROPRIATELY.\nYou live and learn.