how does a person tell his/her spouce she wants a divorce and how do you go about leaving?
113041
It is best done with a very short conversation, like "I'm leaving."
3996
Lets see, since you have this listed under the marriage and divorce section, I think the best way to get what you want is by asking for it.\n Discuss with your partner what it is you want and or need. Communication is the key here, without it you can not get anything. Or give anything for that matter.\n Depending on what it is that you want, discussion should open up the avenues to getting what you want to some degree anyhow.
606616
Girl, if I did it, you can too...you need to stop saying that you can't leave and say that you can.  If you want to get out, then GET OUT.  How in the hell does someone have that much power over you?  AND BLACKMAILING YOU?  WHAT ARE YOU, A POLITICIAN????  Leave child, because there isn't a man on these green planet that could hold me back from anything...and while you're at it, grow some backbone, cuz honey!!!!!!!!!!  Couldn't be ME!  \n\nSee, people like you who say they can't stand something and that it's hell and they want to get out usually want to stay.  If you really want to leave...let me give you the secret that has been passed down from generation to generation:\n\nGET THE F U C K OUT BEFORE HE KILLS YOU!  \nThen maybe you'll be satisfied!  Don't mean to be harsh on you, but you need someone to kick you in the behind...too many people in your life have rubbed your head and told you it's okay instead of telling it like it is!  Leave him if you really want to, or stay...it's your life...
386371
Talk with a divorce attorney before doing it . . . they have free consultation . . . ask them . . . you kidnapper.
398300
I have to say no.  My ex-husband and I tried that but it doesn't work because even if you don't say how you feel it doesn't mean you don't feel that way.  Then it seems like everything is bottled inside and eventually you blow up.  It's a nice idea but not very plausible.  Another thing in marriage is it's not always so hard to forgive it's the forgetting that's the problem.  So, my advice is find another way counseling, talking, or if that's not an option I hate to say but divorce is better than being your spouses "roommate", you can't just stop caring even if you think you can.
173328
you tell him in straight forward manner. You expect rent, utility, and food money. If he disagrees, tell him that it is not your responsibility to take care of him. Treat him like an adult and be firm. If it gets to be two on one then its time to move yourself out.\n\nADDED\n\nif its your house then you can tell then its your way or the highway.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
1101815
You won't convince him ,all you can do is file for divorce and let your lawyer know that he won't believe it's over ,once the divorce is in pipe line then aqnd only then mite he accept it really is over,i would suggest you keep contact to a minimum that way he will start to get the idea you ae not coming back,if you have been in contact on a regular basis he may feel he still stands a chance but you can't turn the clock back and if you don't love him you will only be even more unhappy if you return out of guilt because he is miserable without you,GOOD LUCK
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
1127450
Wow, 20 years! Counseling is definitely the first line of defense! If you are willing to try one last thing before ending the relationship, please try counseling with a licensed counselor. It seems like the easy way out now but believe me, the hurt and destruction divorce causes makes losers of everyone involved.
106398
Sit him down, don't dramatize the situation and just explain to him in a mature and resolute way that you no longer wish to share the living arrangement you currently share. The best way to deal with any problem is just being honest about it with the people involved because nothing sucks worse than being the last know especially when it's a life altering decision that affects you.
634376
first and foremost you need to sit and talk to your wife. you need to be very honest not only with yourself, but with her. you need to tell her how you feel and be sure to be very considerate and aware of her feelings about your new found life. its not fair for you to continue to put her off or lie to her. honesty is always the best policy. i'm sure that if the two of you cant work things out it will be easier to part ways because you were not only honest with her, but with yourself. good luck!
309747
Honesty.\n\nPart of me wants to just say "Do it ~ there's someone in my life that I wish would tell me that."  But on the other hand, I know {and he knows, too} that now isn't the right time.  We're so far apart.  No matter how much you love each other, it will be really difficult to keep a relationship of that sort going when separated.  I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult, as you know by your relationship as it stands now.. I know it, too.  Friendships themselves aren't easy to build or keep.
832844
either you leave him or quit. it's simple.
1076991
get a lawyer and begin divorce procedings.
19617
Theres ton's of ways to tell guys. Just say that you dnt want to leave him. if u lie u will just make it worst for it urself, lol. Just tell him in face (not like yelling or bein rude) and just say it.
1010530
Janine, I read your whole question and explanation.  I wish I had good news for you or could say something that could make you believe in him, but I can't.  It is what it is.  No one can tell you to leave or stay... you will make the decision you want until you can no longer live with the decision you made.  \n\nI also went through 6 years of being in a relationship, had a daughter, all the time thinking I was in a faithful relationship,  I did catch him cheating once, two months later taking him back believing he had changed and really wanted to get married.  We never married, even after our daughter came.  On her second birthday I told him I was done pining away after him, believing he was going to marry me like he promised.  I met someone new a year later and the day before I got married to the new man I found out my daughter's father had a son that was a one and a half years old.  He was cheating and fathered a child while with me.  I never knew it.  \n\nThe advice I can give you is to read a book called "Don't call that man!" by Rhonda Findling.  It is very good, small, and easy to understand, direct and to the point.  It is kind of a work book with a question format getting you to think.  I changed my perspective and helped empower me and boost my self confidence.  If you do nothing else, even if you decide to stay in this relationship read the book.