My parents prevent my sister from loving her boyfriend because of his past.But now he's changed.what i do now?
106098
time heals the past... but leaves a scar to it... your parents maybe afraid that whatever happened in the past may happen in the future... (de'javu?) \nthe man should prove his worth for your sister... \ni dont know what you beliefs are, but i guess, you could help explaining to your parents that age doesn't really matter when it comes to love... that your sister loves him, and that he's changed already (but sometimes, parents are really hard-headed, coz they believe what their intuition says)\nas long as the man shows that he's really changed, in time, he'll be accepted in the family... and your parents would love him more than what we think... \nYOUR WORK/DOINGS KEEPS YOUR WORTH, whatever he's doin' that will be noticed, and be graded... (by your parents/people from afar but knows whats' his doin)
486384
It's not your fault your ex has control over his family and tells them who they can and cannot speak to. Don't let it get to you. All that matters is that he has no control over you.
723251
talk to your sister first of all, because its your life, your decision. if you don't feel that way about him its best to let him know now so you don't end up dragging him through a more hurtful experience.
245755
Try to understand that your parents can love each other yet not be IN love with each other.  Feelings are a hard thing to understand - if he is depressed because of what he's doing to the family, try to understand that.  Things like falling in love don't always mean forever, and somethings,, things like this do happen.  My best advice to you, try to be supportive of your family throughout this situation, and try to understand that children are not the cause of things like this - nature is.  It won't be easy, depending on what ends up happening, but be strong, especially for your mom and siblings if you have any. Good luck
238939
It happened to me. My husband and my sister no less.  It ruined my marriage, even after 28 years I haven't forgiven him.  He ended up with a terminal illness- Multiple Sclerosis for 15 years. He passed away in 2004. I felt like I had to stay and help him.  His actions affected my relationship with my older son and my sister...not that she was worth a second chance. But, I did try.  My mother, father, and baby sister didn't talk to me for 15 years- yea, like it was my fault. My brother and I remained estranged until he passed away. All I did was stay with the guy.  Big mistake! My younger son is not really part of the family every one shuns him because he looks like my husband. My sister's daughter ended up being an outcast and tried to commit suicide twice. What should you do?  Move on...make a life for yourself, find someone that respects you and loves you for who you are now... don't wait it will only hurt you! I am 53 back in college and making a life for myself for the first time. I have never been happier. I plan on traveling and staying alive! With as much enthusiasum as possible..If you need to have someone beside you I am sure that there will be that certain someone around the corner.  For myself, I just love being myself. One day maybe I'll meet someone but, for now my happiness and peace of mind it what counts to me.
921745
Your sis and his aunt have beef on each other.  That's their problem, not yours nor your bf.  \n\nIt's unfair for them to put you and your bf in a difficult situation when you both didn't do anything wrong but love each other.\n\nI say continue on dating and be happy with your boy.  Soon enough your sis and his aunt will cool off.\n\nIt's your life.  Live your life how you want it.  Don't let others make you live your life how they want it to.
138531
Explain to her that you love her and if you could change the past, you would. Good luck!
38273
Try talking to them, show them how much you realy love and respect them, and try to compromise. Your family, specially your dad and mom, will always love you, even if they sometimes dont show it due to your unobediance or stubbornness.
1093587
I can tell you from experience it isn't easy.  However, I now have the advantage of being much older and am able to look back on the situation a bit more objectively.  First off, realize that this has nothing to do with you and their love for you.  This is a relationship problem between the two of them that you did not cause and you can do nothing about.  Next, continue to love your parents equally and do everything you can to make this as easy for them as possible.  Take time to talk to them and don't be afraid to let them know how you are feeling and ask them questions about what is going on if you need to.  Don't let this situation control your life, life will still go on and in a basic sense, nothing really is going to change all that much for you in the long run.
117821
Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
1058110
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
539150
Girl, please move one. Run, run to the hills. the truth of the matter is you can never change a man. Sometimes I think deep down inside we know the answer, its just we dont want to hear it and its been clouded by our emotions. You love him, so let him go. If he really loves you he will come back a reformed man. Give yourself more time and space. It seems loving this man is bringing you more pain that joy,and love aint supposed to be that way!
664895
You parents need some Parenting Help!\nI'm sorry it happened to you and it doesn't help at all if the one who should be neutral and don't take sides, your parents, do the same to you. \nI couldn't think of any solution other than to write your parents how you feel when your sister do things like that to you and so are your parents reaction when it happened. As long as you open up your feelings to them, keep on hoping that they would not do the same thing in the future. If they still do, try to go to your school (if you're still in school) counselor or priest/pastor or any relatives closest to you and ask for help to intervene with the way your parents behave.
656451
I can understand your situation. The first thing to do is relax. What I would suggest is this:\n\nC.H. more than likely did something that he is not proud of.  That is probably why he is reluctant to tell you what he did.  You say that you want to drag it out of him but I think that is not the thing to do.  This is not something for you to get out of him...it is something that is his to give.  If you force him, he will only feel negatively toward you.  \nBasically, I would say to just give him some time and if he wants to, he will tell you.  If not, just remember that it is between him, his sister and his parents. \n\nHope this helps, \n\nNiels
203399
How old are you? If you're old enough to make decisions about your life, then this one has to be your decision, too.\n\nParents have a habit of not thinking anyone is good enough for their little girl, and there's a good chance you'll never meet anyone that meets up to their expectations - or if you do, he won't be right for you and you are the one that has to put up with him, right?\n\nAs long as a guy is good to you and not abusive or doing anything illegal, then your parents - as difficult as it may be - will just simply have to accept whoever you decide to love because it is your life, not theirs.
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Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.