If my girl thinks I am flat out fugly, can the relationship work?
99236
If she has any feelings for you as a girlfriend or a friend for that matter she would respect your feelings.  My boyfriend is a terrible singer but I keep those things to myself because i know they would hurt his feelings.  She is not the right person for you! GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!
560360
intelegence, and she should be pretty mellow, but not afraid to confront an issue in the relationship.  looks only matter alittle bit.  I really hate make-up in a girl, its like shes trying to hide something, I dont give a shit what you look like.  so long as you can keep up and enrich a nice philosophical debate.
122408
Dear shy country boy, she believes you and is happy to hear this every day. But she would not admit she believes, because unconsciously she fears that you will stop saying this. If she says 'Yeah, how happy i am, i believe you', would you tell her every day ? \nNo, you won't.\nYou will stop, and talk about politics or sport. Then she will say she loves you, so you will have to renew declaration, then she will say it daily and you will one day say 'stop saying this every day, dear, i am interested to hear smth else, please do not misunderstand me, i am happy to hear but not five times a day...'\nSo your gf who is smart provokes you.\nIf you want to check, stop saying it and see what happens. If not, better believe me and accept the game, it's nice and harmless and yes, she loves you too, that's why playing such a game to you.\nSorry answer was long.
453306
Well if she is true, she wont care on your physical apperance and will care about what's inside, dont dress like oor be something/someone you're not for anybody.  If you really care about her though, don't change your fashions but mix them up once in a while ya know?
870136
It's perfectly alright for you to not be physically attracted to her, and wish that she would make herself more attractive for you; however the second that you informed her that you were not happy with her appearance was the exact second that she realized that you did not love her unconditionally. You should have kept that info. to yourself and tried to help her lose the weight by playing a sport together or working out together so you can both be healthy. You blew it, and no matter what you do or say now, you have already made your feelings known and I guarantee you that she will never forget it. The question is...will she forgive you? It is easier to forgive, than to forget. Good luck, I'm afraid you are going to need it. Ouch!
664860
Sounds like your the classic nice guy. She doesnt want to be with you cause your too nice and you smother her. where is your back bone.
777178
Well, I think you are wrong.  I tend to have the same problems.  You are too serious even in your approach.  Girls just wanta have fun.  If you approach a girl with such a straight forward attitude you'll scare her off.  Big Yes on the self-confidence though.  You need to come across like you're fun to hang out with and you're looking for others that are fun to hang out with.  Friendship first buddy.  Ask general open-ended questions then listen.  School, work, hobbies, pets, etc  LISTEN to what she is saying and don't let your mind wander.  I know what happens.  She's talking and your thinking, oh crap what do I say, she's pretty, does she like me, how do I look, how can I be funny, what do I say, oh crap... If you're not listening then you can not 'join' the conversation.  The more you talk the more you both will loosen up.
327147
Girls like guys that are sensitive to their feelings.  It helps a lot if you just support them, but not in a fake way.  You shouldn't just agree with your girlfriend, but don't insult her or do anything stupid.
496814
Generaly is man`s play to pass abusive remarks at women`s dressing and physical features. But in your case I think the trust bond between you and your current boyfriend whith whom u r planning to tye a note is of most important. In fact this is the test of his trust in u. Next I feel you should be open to ur current B/f and tell the facts no matter if he loves u he will just ignore it and you will be even more close to each other. Yh going ahead with the legal rute is fine but it communication and clearity amoung your current relationship would be the best. As at the end of the day that`s what counts.
444587
Of course not - how can I be with someone who acts stupid? It wouldn't hurt though if he has some sense of humor, if that's what you mean here.  :)
220152
I guess you are.Move on,dude.You don't need to be with a person who simply needs a reason to pick on a fight.There are scores of women let me tell you who vouch for that one trait in men which is,a caring attitude.The fact that you are concerned and are striving to work on your flaws itself is testimony to the fact that you love her.But,remember you can never really be happy with a person who has lotsa probs with u.Because all that you'd end up doing all your life is changing yourself at every phase to please them.You'd be losing the real you.Think about it.Good luck..:)
1090478
This might be what God intended.  When someone needs to be tough, it'll be him.  When there comes a time in a relationship when someone needs to be soft, it'll be you.\nThe question here really is- Are you able to agree how to handle different circumstances?  Can you compromise?
1107888
I think you need to ask her the question. Let her know you love her, but you don't like feeling like your not good enough. Ask her if she thinks you should stay together or break up, and let her know the terms of what you need for the relationship to work.
433343
it can happen, but you have to be patient, and yet assertive at the same time.  you kinda have to feel things out to see if she would even bother, because you dont want to make a fool out of yourself.
623377
Your g/f is very immature. I know you said to answer yes or no. But you need to know something...If she is this immature and selfish (which is what it is) then that means she will "growup" in time. When she does its very likely she will also "out grow" you. I don't mean this as putting you down. I mean it as a warning to you. You have accepted this behavior in her. When she changes she may very well decide that she doesn't want a guy who would put up with this. DON'T put up with it. Its rude. And she needs to know you can't treat people this way.\nGood LUck To YOU!
107017
Talk to her. Discuss what it is that makes you think she's fooling around. \n\nTry to be non-confrontational. Try to avoid "You always..." or "You never..." Say instead, "When you do (or don't do) this.... I feel this...." Or "When I see you do such-and-such, I wonder what it means."\n\nAsk her what it means. LISTEN to what she says. Repeat it back to her: "I think you're telling me....."\n\nIf you do not feel much better after this discussion, sorry, sweetie, time for a new girlfriend.\n\nI hope you're wrong, and I hope this helps.
612369
It seems to me that this girl have an attitude problems or she don't know how to express herself. I'm a female myself and I get mad quick but as I gotten older I can control it more. But this gurl want you to kiss her butt, that's why she get mad when she hangs up in you and don't call her back Good FOR HER, because she needs to learn how to COMMUNICATE that's the key if something is bothering her. I think that it is good that y'all are friends. If you really like this gurl than tell her that whatever is bothering her just to talk to you about the situation. relationships are going to work overnight it takes time and trust.