how do you get over being shy and meet new people?
111967
Take baby steps, if your shy, then decide what would really bother you and try a small dose of it. we all have our little things about us, that we have a problem with. I used to have a problem going to a cafe by my self, so i decided one day to just go in and stay a few minutes, i stayed 5 minutes and left, next time alittle longer, until it doesn't bother me at all now. Another thing you got to understand, is life begins, when you learn to make fun of yourself, if you make a mistake, don't worry about it, real people won't make fun of you, the only one's that will make fun of you, are the very one's you don't need in your life anyway.
221877
Overcoming shyness is not easy, but can be done. I used to be really shy too, but I started hanging around people who were outgoing then myself and I started noticing the positive attention they gained by being outgoing. I just worked on walking up to people and introducing myself and I learned that if I want something I should ask, the worse someone can ever say is NO. \nPractice makes perfect, the more you do it, the easier it gets. :D\nI now have lots of nice friends and I have been out on a lot dates. :)\n\nOh and as far as getting a boy to notice you. Don't overcome your shyness just for that. :) \n\nThe best way to get someone to notice you is just by being yourself. :)\nGo up to him, start off with a simple hello. :) Introduce yourself. \nLittle by little and believe me, it will take a snowball effect, before you know it, you just may have yourself a nice friend,if not, well, there are many others out there. :D\n\nHope it helped good luck
169039
im going through the same thing kinda.  i tryed 2 met new people. that helped.
540885
Lots of people talk.  Learn to ask intelligent questions and listen and you will find friends pretty fast.  And after they are your friends your shyness about talking will start to fade as you get to know them.
590799
To be more social on a regular basis, a person has to take themselves out of their shell. You probably like it in your shell because that's where you're comfortable, You've been there so long and it's nice and cozy. What is not often realized is that when you do something that's outside of your comfort zone enough times, it becomes your new comfort zone! Adaptation.. Improvisation.. but your weakness is not your technique. Go out on a regular basis and make a note of it to just say hi to people. Then when the situation arises and you think you'll live through it, Talk to people when waiting in the checkout line or in any type of waiting situation. Talk about anything, weather, something they're wearing, something you like about them. Keep it positive! After a while of this you'll eventually realize, wow, I'm so much more outgoing than I used to be. And it will be good.
139015
Firstly be very careful who you try to speak with, second try speaking with your mouth closed, it might not help your shyness but it sure as hell will be a fun turn at a party!
1138695
Join a dance class, sports club or anywhere you can meet new people.\nTry doing something that you have always been too scared to do, you never know, it may give you the buzz you are looking for.\nIf all else fails, book a week off work, pack a bag, go to the airport and get a cheap last minute flight to anywhere young and fun.\nLastly, try having a more positive attitude. If you act like your life is boring, people aren't going to be queueing up to be your friend - act like yours is a life worth being part of, and they will be flocking to your door.
535146
I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
588908
Heres what you do. Be an existentialist. Forget that neing nervous is the problem and try to accept that neing nervous is just there, that you WILL be nervous and thats to be expected, then you will find that you notice perhaps that others are too. Being nervous isnt a character flaw, its part of life, its to be expected. SO then what are you left with once you take that out of the equation...just you right, being outgoing isnt something that you can just be, it takes a little confidence. The catch is that the way to get that confidence it by just doing it....so force yourself, make conversation with people you normally wouldnt, be friendly to people, talk to them but dont stress too much.  You will find that you feel better as time goes on and you will notice the nervousness less and less. \n\nI know that probably didnt help, but good luck anyway!!
393177
Open the door and walk outside. It's as simple as that. There's an odd mix of people all around you and everywhere you go. It seems like you got locked into a comfort zone, regarding your social group. Interact with people you normally wouldn't at the places you normally go (i.e. school, shopping, work, gym, club, and yes- even at the bar). Good luck.
937842
Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..
592716
well everybody had ups n downs. don't be frustrate, and dint feel shy about to meet people. and dint underestimate itself. everybody is beautiful, u r beautiful too. just meet the people, talk to them, share ur thoughts. don't afraid  they r also human beings like u. if anybody not coming to u then u have to take a initiative.
650248
be friednly and talk to heaps of different people and just try and be open. Join clubs that you may be of interest to you and just be nice to people
646133
just be yourself - be more outgoing.\ni used to be shy when i was around 12, 13 and now im 18 and have the absolute best boyfriend who is so hott (looks like talan off of laguna beach) and i look like kristin, and I have been on Homecoming court twice. be confident in yourself and know who you are.
458296
try a love note and flowers.  sorry; i don't know a cure for shyness.  I used to be, but it's been fading recently.  Just try diving in and doing it.  If you start hesitating, just do it without thinking (worked about 50% of the time for me)
115187
if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
611721
There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!