Girls, what do you think about your bf or husband going to the strip bar? or if he does and doesn't tell u?
99385
It's not ok if he doesn't tell me.  My guy is not interested in that anyway.  I would feel most comfortable if I went with him.
938181
If there is/was a dance or function...ask him if he went or is going. If he says no, ask  "Didn't your girlfriend want to go?"  Good luck...
15900
If it were me, I would like to have something really special planned for me. I would not want to know anything about it. It would be a suprise, (not a suprise birthday party) but like going to a favorite resturant, then maybe to a local bar for a quick drink and then home. When we got home I would like you (her) to be in a sexy lingere, sexy panties and then let what ever happens from there happen.
1058622
Instead of doing shopping therapy, you spoil you boyfriend. CONGRATULATIONS! You are his ''GOD GIFT''! Do you know how many men would like to be on his place? If you enjoy it , go on girl! I'm with you!!!!
550806
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
351348
he's being honest with you, now you know he doesn't keep anything from you, that's a very comforting feeling . i know it sucks that he used to go to strip clubs in the past but he doesn't anymore. in relationships one of the best things is honesty and he's giving that to you...=o)
345697
If he doesn't tell his girlfriend, then it's being deceptive at least. Unless they are in an non-exclusive relationship, his girlfriend should know. And I think she'd probably want to. And I think she wouldn't like it if she knew. Which means he probably shouldn't flirt with people, online or off.
493948
it all depends.of course no one wants to see their hubbies getting pounded on but if she meet him when he already was in the biz. she was wrong to have asked him to leave.but who knows if she even asked.but u know what he is an adult and can make his own decisions.yea it sucks that's he is gone but i have to say it is romantic why he left.and to answer your question,no he is not a sucker.he could always come back.or their will be another beef-cake in the future.do what i do and focus on those cute Lil shorts they like to wear.  yummy!
809055
If I were you I'd skip the corporate party and take a vacation with your BF. It's not their place to approve or disapprove who you date. But nonetheless, it makes it unpleasant to bring your BF to those parties. Ditch their party.
150037
Calm down....Just cause your bf change his plans and does something else dosent mean he cheating. How can you sound more untrusting. I doubt he goes outta town without tellin you,im sure youknow why he goes. alot of times its a persons own thoughts that trigger insecure thoughts that causes striff and tension in relationships.  I have this same problem with my girl, she always thinks im cheating or doing something specfically to harm our relationship,like i wanna argue about things like that. Its ridiculous, I dont know if she wanna wardenize me or not, Itry to please her by telling her stuff but she complains I told her too late. Its not a problem cause I really like her and its not a big deal(as much) Sometimes you gotta choose your battles and deal with the good and the bad if you really like him/her if you generally know he not cheating. TRUST HIM ladylocks!!
858522
My view of it: lying is not OK. Looking at porno - it is up to a couple, whatever they agree upon - is the rule they set for themselves. Apparently, you guys agreed (or was it just you?) that he won't be looking at it. Now he is looking at it and lying about it. He apparently doesn't know how to TALK and re-negotiate the arrangement that doesn't work for him or the promise he cannot keep. \n\nI don't like when my husbant looks at porno. He knows it very well and he doesn't do it in my presence. I know that he didn't agree to stop looking at it, so I don't go after him. But I don't care about too much so I don't make a big fuss about it. I'm not saying this is the right thing to do. I'm just sharing what I do.
449854
tell your boyfriend to buy the 2006 calendar in case he forgot that we're in the 21st century. It's totally cool for you to go clubbing. A club isn't just a hook up place it's also a way for u to unwind through dancing, drinking and chatting with your friends. \n\nAs long as you're not picking up guys or giving them your number or letting them write their number on ur bra, it's totally cool and guilt free to go clubbing. \n\nI don't think that the clubbing is the problem at all. Don't feel guilty to want to have fun. you need to have your alone time too even married girls need alone time and girl times. explain that to him. i think the problem really is his trust. He doesn't trust u enough in a setting wherein there are lots of guys around for u to pick. \n\nYou might be able to resolve this by taking him clubbing once or twice. show him that the club doesnt have to be a threatening place that it's actually fun and can be fun for both of u.
969536
If you do decide to go, first find out if they allow females in the club -- some do not allow women, even if they are escorted by a man. Also, look for a club that is a restaurant, not just a bar, you will feel more comfortable. \n\nAnd of course, make sure that you go with him to an all male dancer strip club afterwards :)
322475
Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
253289
Im telling you I hate it when this happens!  SOME guys are just soooooo persistent!  I use to bartend and I had one guy who came in every single day just to see if I had kicked my hubby out yet!  He would call the bar and he's send me presents, and tip very very well.  Im really bad at hurting peoples feelings.  I HATE being mean!  cannot help it!  Finally I just had to tell him- ok- here we go- tell him u r lesbian!  lol  Ok maybe not!  lol  I would just tell him- sorry- Im not interested.  Then just kinda avoid him at all costs!!!!  I really do feel for u!  Good luck friend!
1058014
I went with my husband several times to strip clubs in an effort to try and fix some of our intimacy problems.  I even bought him a lap dance one time.  However, afterwards, it doesn't make me feel good or cool or sexy, even thought it might make him feel that way about  me.  How you feel about you is more important.  After a strip club, part of me really hates him for not wanting to just explore with me.  I keep trying to tell myself that I should just go with the flow.  That men look at women like women look at shoes...but it never seems to make me feel any better.  Before you go, remember that you can never erase that memory once it's there.  On the other hand, at least you know who your husband really is and what he really wants.  Yes, you'll be the coolest wife in the world (like me), but then soon his affection towards you over it becomes empty.  My girlfriend is so jealous that my husband is so affectionate with me...but his affection doesn't make me feel cared about by him anymore.
430146
If you're in a trusting relationship, it all depends on expectations.  Obviously, he should respect you enough not to cheat, but if you let him know that you are uncomfortable with his actions, he should care enough about you to at least tone it down.  It's natural to admire people of the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) gender, but it's not okay to be overly gawking if you are in a commited relationship.  I always try to join in on the action by agreeing with him.  Is it enough to know at the end of the day that he's going home with you?