my mother never worked?
111908
well thats very nice for your mother.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nbe more specific?
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
637971
i think my mother in law is an alien
369397
That's a really tough question. I know in my grandmother's case she absolutely refused to have anyone do anything for her no matter how exhausted and/or hurt she was from doing things on her own. She was an extremely stubborn woman. We couldn't force her into accepting the help but she eventually got it whether she liked it or not. As it turned out it had devastated her to even the need the help. She was a very proud woman who had raised all eight of her children on her own. She couldn't ask and yet didn't have a problem refusing. She did come around though and realized it wasn't so bad afterall although not without many complaints as to how we weren't doing things correctly. I guess I'm saying if you're mother is hurting help her anyway but do it in such a way that it doesn't invade her privacy or stomp on her pride. It's hard getting older and needing things you didn't need before. Be patient with her. Good luck I hope it all works out. I have to admit I wasn't much help.
439857
First find out if you live in whats called a "No Fault state" \nthat means ether party can walk away from employment with out notice.\nsome states do require notice be given and in that case you mom could have a civil suit.\n\nas to making a claim tell her to go to the labor office first thing in the morning\nas long as she's worked more than 60 days for them she's good.\nthe only reason it could be denied would be if she quit.
850202
You can never say, unless you know the mothers involved.\n\nSay the Working Mom is lazy.  Goes to work, yes.  Comes home, does not cook or clean for her child.  The child gets what it wants just so the mother can have peace and quiet.  It stays up late and falls to sleep whenever.  She constantly forgets to wake him up for the bus and has to take him to school, come home, rush to get ready for work and looks a slob all day.  Their values are self first in everything, get what you want, others don't matter.\n\nSay the Working Mom is industrious and clean.  Cooks dinner every nite and makes sure Timmy does his homework, takes his bath and goes to bed on time and behaves.  She gets him up in time for school, gets herself ready for work and is never late, looking great.  Values would be, think of others, be responsible (be on time, think of others, dress nice for them, don't rush, start early), your actions count, put your best foot forward, etc.\n\n\nSo, just because 2 working moms (are working) doesn't mean negative things can't be attached to one.  The same thing is true with the Stay-at-home Mom, she can either do a good job as a wife and mother or NOT!
238057
too bad for her...that is very self centered.make clear that your mum has a place in your heart as well.
799792
Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
600954
Oh boy Jim.. I feel for you... I hope some one here can give you some assistance.\n\nWhy doesn't she look for any sort of job?  Like at a supermarket being a cashier so some sort of part time job to help out.... and perhaps you can get a part time second job.\n\nHow about selling some things from your apartment/home to gain some income.  Can relatives help?
450848
Don't you think that as a mother, your first priority is not to allow her to push you into getting her a job, but to concentrate on her studies?\nAt this age, if she concentrates too much on jobs instead of studies, she's not going to make a better life for you and herself in the future.\n\nMaybe you can try out giving her simple part-time jobs, like with the neighbours, something that can earn her a bit of pocket money, instil responsibility in her, and have flexible timings so that she can concentrate on her education.\nLike dog-walking, or lawn-mowing, gardening, etc.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
808028
go above her, this is ridiculous. does this woman have no family of her own?
870203
i am being raised by a single mother too. my mom is severely depressed and doesnt talk to me like at all. im not home alot so it makes it easier on me but i dont really know what to do for her. we have been through a lot together and i am all that she has left. it is really hard.
281673
only if she had worked for a minimum of 10 years.... my brothers old lady passed away a few years back,,,,, he was unable to get ssi for himself and the kids because she never worked and payed into an ssi account..... sorry man,,,hope every thing works out....
896133
Does/Did your mother work outside of the home?\nMy mom went back to work when I was in the 7th grade.\n\nWhat type of job?\nSecretarial\n\nFull-time/Part-time?\nFull time\n\nDid your mother attend college, obtain degree?\nShe went back to college when I graduated from high school and obtained a BA.\n\nDid your mother stay at home while you and/or siblings were young and return to workforce later ?\nYes, but she went to college part time when I was young.\n\nAre you a mother/woman that works outside of the home? \nWoman, but not a mom.  I don't think I could give both a child and my job enough attention to be a good mom and a good employee.
452643
This is an important issue for you and your mother as well as any relations (friends or otherwise) you may have in the future. It could limit your ability to hold a job or even raise children. It would be prudent to seek help now to prevent future problems. Tell your mother that you love her and you don't like being angry with her, but that you don't seem to be able to control it. Suggest to her that you may have a problem like OCD or even Bipolar Disorder and would like to see a doctor to rule them out. Tell her that you value her love and friendship and that you don't want a simple problem to like this to damage your relationship forever. If she cares about you at all, she will take you. Don't be surprised though if she denies you have a problem at first. Parents don't like to admit that their children hav a problem like this. You may have to ask her several times to take you before she is ready to accept it. Give her time to work it out for herself if this does happen. She also may not believe you are serious the first time or two that you ask. Good luck, I hope this helps you. \nPlease contact me if you have more questions, just click my name to see my profile and email me. I am bipolar if that makes a difference to you.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
1038113
The social security office should have the answer to that already.  If they don't then there is something quite wrong.  There must be a reason she was asked this question.  It may be that she never had a SS card.  If she didn't work and was a house wife all the time then it may be she has no record with SS.  Can't answer without a lot more information.
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I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.