could you forgive a cheater?
112931
I could forgive but I wouldn't stay with someone who had cheated on me. A good relationship has to be based on trust and love. Without the strong foundation of trust, the relationship will crumble. After someone has cheated you would always have to wonder and worry. Each time they were late, or didn't call, or acted differently you would wonder if they were cheating again. You can't have a good, loving, trusting relationship under those circumstances. I would also strongly doubt their love for me if they cheated. If someone truly loves you, then they wouldn't want to cheat on you. In their mind there would be noone better than you and they wouldn't risk the relationship with you for something as superficial as sex with someone they aren't in love with.
360046
NO because she/he has cheated on ur trust and faith if i were u i would forgive but not date with them any more
333235
be honest and dont cheat again
564280
Well the word should be forgive as one never forgets...  If you truly love him and want to be with him, you will and can find it in your heart to forgive him...  But remember the possibility is always going to be there he will do it again.  Not always once a cheater awlays a cheater.  You will hear that.  That is not a fair statement. \nBest wishes to you.
29744
That's what's hard. You can't ever be 100% sure because if a person can do it once, he can easily do it again. Some people might be able to regain that trust eventually, but I'm not sure that I could ever trust someone who did that to me.
449676
NO! once a cheater always a cheater!
700898
i dont think trust can ever be fully regained. sad but true.
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
533316
ABSOLUTELY!!! Forgiveness is so important. If you cannot forgive some for their sake, then do it for yours, please, 'cause if if you don't, then all the anger and hurt will turn to bitterness and it will turn you into a bitter person. NOT a pretty sight. I have seen many people ruined this way.
782958
If my boyfriend cheated on me, by sleeping with someone, I wouldn't forgive him at all.  No matter who they slept with.  I would actually, cut his d**k off, glue it to his forehead, and call him a d**khead.
234936
It takes time, patience and a real willingness to want to forgive and forget.  If you can't forgive and forget, then you will never learn to trust again.  Think of it this way.  No one is perfect, even you and I have made and will continue to make mistakes (sometimes big ones).  Just give yourself PLENTY of time and take baby steps.  It may take a few years even, but if the relationship(s) are better afterwards, it will be worth your while.
271407
It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
1152947
You're forgiven!\nJust don't let it happen again! ;0)
306299
it'll take a bit of time cos its a betrayal of trust but i would think that thats forgivable. especially cos you do seem real sorry
1165758
Too bad he didn't think about all of that when he made the choice to cheat.  Sometimes it's too late to go back and try to fix what was broken. Forgive and move on.
836770
once a cheater always a cheater - so don't be surprised