How can I stop this teacher from treating me unfairly?
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First of all, he is a grown up and you, even though you don't want to be, are still considered a child.  If he is doing what you are describing, it is illegal.  It has a variety of names, including sexual harassment, sexual abuse, child abuse, soliciting, corrupting the morals of a minor, abuse of power, etc.\n\nYou write as if you are a fairly intelligent girl, so you already know this is not right.  You have to tell someone, preferably your parents.  If that is not your best option, tell a counselor, a social worker, the principal, or the police, or maybe even all of those.  Know that things might get messy when everyone begins to find out what has been happening, but if he is doing this to you, he is probably also doing it to others.  So I suspect a number of people may already know, but like you, so far they are not doing anything about it.\n\nWhy do you have to tell?  You have to tell to stop it from happening to you and also to stop it from happening to others in the future.  You have to tell because it is the right thing to do.  You have to tell because if you don't, this will get worse, not better.  Do you have a younger sister or do you know younger girls?  Do you want it to happen to them?\n\nSome may say you brought this on yourself becsause of the clothes you wear, and while that may be partly correct, it still doesn't make it ok for him to do what he is doing.  He is supposed to know better, and is supposed to be mature and able to handle the sometimes not so smart things teenagers can do.\n\nNow girl, get some respect for yourself.  You say you don't mind some of the things he does.  YOU SHOULD MIND THE THINGS HE DOES.  HE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND USING YOU.  The things he is doing should happen only between people who are equals and who both agree to them.  Whether you agree to them or not, you and he are not equals.  Whether you enjoy the feelings of some of them or not, it is still not right for him to do it.  He is in a position of power and authority over you.  He is doing something that could and should land him in jail.\n\nGet to someone as fast as you can and tell and stop this from happening.
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1. Listen carefully. The most annoying questions are the ones that the teacher has already answered, sometimes moments before.\n\n2. Ask a classmate first. If your classmates don't know either, it isn't a dumb question. \n\nYour teacher is an overworked, underpaid professional who could be making much more money skills in almost any other field. And if she took another job, she would greatly enjoy whole days where nobody is rude to her. \n\nMany teachers will take another job at the end of the school year and never come back to the classroom. The new teachers will have worse tempers, and your education will suffer.\n\nYour teacher is in the classroom because she cares about preparing you as well as she can for a future you can't even imagine. She wants to see you work and learn because you need that knowledge for yourself. Grownups shouldn't have to talk you into doing your own work.\n\nTake responsibility for your own learning--own it--and your teacher won't get mad at you nearly as much.
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Go to your parents and tell them. If you dont feel you can do that, talk to your guidance counselor or another teacher you feel you can trust.  This teacher is being waaaaaay inappropriate and you need to speak up.  You need to protect yourself, your sister, and the others he is trying to take advantage of.  Please do it today!!
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Talk to the principal of the school.  I'm sure they can arrange something.\n\nSue them if they don't see things your way.
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I used* to think my gym teacher picked favorites,that's why I got averages. I told my mom, and she said that teachers are not allowed to do things like that. Maybe you should tell your principal or someone who could confront your teacher.\n*Who said I ever think he stopped?
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Yes, you are wrong.  She is teaching a class and perfectly within her rights to outline classroom conduct expectations.\n\nYou are argumentative with your back talk and your refusal to do things the way she expects, which is distracting to the other students.\n\nAnd now you want to get "cute" and dissect the class syllabus for "contract infringement."  Give me a break.\n\nNot only is she fully within her rights to penalize your grade but she can expel you from the entire class.  \n\n \n\nYou say you are "grown up" but you are not, you have a lot of growing up to do.  I suggest you take responsibility for your own actions and obey the rules of the class.\n\nPeace.
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I know that you're in a very bad predicament but think about it this way the best way to deal with this is to face it head on.  You have tried to apologize for what you did with your teacher but it's plain simple that you have to face the consequences of what you did.  You have to realize that this is not the end of the world for you.  We all thrive to reach perfection but there's a lot of obstacles that will be thrown our way.  This is just one of the challenges that you will face in your life.  So if you give up now how will you deal with the bigger challenges that will be thrown at you in the future?  This is nothing compared to what you will be facing in the future so keep your head up and bounce back from this mistake.
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This teacher is not behaving the way she should. She is being seductive and she could get into alot of trouble. You need to stay away from her because she is not following the rules. Please talk to your parents or a counselor about this. She is going to get some kid into a real mess -- worse than you can imagine.
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sweetheart the best way to deal with this is either move to another table or stand your ground since no teachers care you can start putting it back on the ones that do this to you, by throwing it back at them. another thing is there a guides counselor you can go and talk to about this? that may work because more or less this is bullin and most schools dont tolerate this act. i hope i helped you some hugs sweetie, best of luck sunshinelady_40940
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You need to arrange a meeting with the teacher immediately to address this - have another person with you, and keep notes of what was said.  Don't go in all guns blazing, be polite but firm and explain your concerns in a dignified manner.  If you do not get anywhere with the teacher submit a formal written complaint to the head teacher and ask for a meeting with him/her to disucss your concerns and what can be done.  Take notes of everything and copies of all letters/details of phone calls.  Take notes of anything your child tells you and of any changes you notice in your child behaviour - reluctance to go to school, nightmares, bedwetting, acting out of character. The teacher has behaved unreasonably, but give them a chance to give their version as you have so far only heard one side.  As I said - make notes of everything, the more documentation you have the stronger your case if you do need to take this any further. It's hard to stay calm and rational in this situation, I know but you've a better chance of a positive outcome if you do!
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I agree with your mother.  If your teacher is out to get you there is very little that you can do about it.  Go to the principal and say that you have a personality clash with the teacher and would prefer to be moved to another class.  There are laws that prohibit him from discussing this request with the teacher so from a technical standpoint you should be able to push the request through without the teacher ever knowing how or why it was done.  Then the only issue you will face is whether you are put into a class that has a teacher that is influenced by the first teacher.\n\nTeachers can find flaws when there are not any.  I should know.  I'm a teacher!\n\nYou could also try talking to her about her grading system and see if she can justify the grades.  If not then you definitely have a motive for placement in a different class.
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if this really bothers u, transfer her to the other school.  u cant really blame the principal for bullies but if she didnt do anything about it then u can report her to the department fo education.  but u can always try to talking to her again.
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How is she abusing you? And you need to tell someone. Tell your school principal or call the police. Tell someone.
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Yes.\nThe problem is that we are all scared as children, and now that I am an adult I see how wrong and rude some teachers were/are.\nTell your Principal exactly how rude she is and what she said. Tell her that this is a valid complaint and if she doesn't rectify this kind of behavior that you have no choice but to speak to the Principal's Superintendent!\n\nDon't be afraid, nothing can happen to you. But do not attempt this if you are a trouble maker and have a documented history of your behavior as it will backfire on you.
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ask them nicely to demonstrate for you, so that you get a better idea of what exactly they want from you. if they can't, i don't think they have a clue what teaching is about. if they do a good job, then just copy it.
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You don't deserve to be treated that way. You need to have a talk with your parents or with a school counselor. It is pretty bad and pretty scary that the school principal does not want to do anything about. \n\nIt sounds like this guy is pretty immature and he does need to be taken care of, if he is treating you that way imagine how he will treat other people. \n\nTalk to your parents and let them know that the school principal is not doing anything about it . That is very wrong.
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As a teacher, I always tell my students to stand up if they think I'm wrong. However, there is a right way to do it and a wrong way. If you are old enough to be asking this on line, it is best not to approach the teacher in a confrontive, competitive way. And that goes not just for situations with teachers, but conflicts with others in general.\n\nWhen dealing with someone in authority, tell the person you'd like to meet and ask when a convenient time would be for that person. If asked why, just say something like - "I need to ask you something and I don't think it would be appropriate in front of others." When the teacher finds out what it is, she or he will appreciate your not challenging them in public.\n\nThen when you meet, nicely explain your point of view. If you are friendly and approach it as a misunderstanding, your teacher will very likely be receptive to your point and be willing to work with you on a solution. By the way - it's always good to go in with clear idea about how you want to change the situation. But if you don't know exactly what you want, you can always ask the teacher what she or he thinks might be a fair way to solve your disagreement.\n\nThe teacher may or may not budge (it depends on the situation), but it shows you are willing to work with the teacher, without causing unnecessary conflict.\n\nTo your P.S.\nIt sounds as if the teacher thinks you are not listening to her when she is making a point. Something can happen in book - but what happens may not be what is happening - in other words, people can take actions, such as leaving to deal with something. But are they leaving to run away from something - or to go toward something else?\n\nDon't get in a competition with her. Be willing to show her you are willing to learn, even if you don't agree. And if she is mean - OK, she is. Some people are nicer than others - we have to deal with all kinds in life. It's just a fact. But you'll win nothing by getting in a power struggle in your situation.\n\nA good teacher will respect you if you approach her in the way mentioned above.