Susan here. and i  am married with two Kids. My husband is currently not working he stole money frm me advise?
101939
Stop leading him on.  File for divorce now.  It's the only way he'll understand that you've left him and are not just "separating for a while."  Move farther away, if necessary, and definately get a new phone number.  Talk to your mother and let her know how you feel.  Offer to get her a new phone number as well, and ask that she not share your new number with him if he calls.  If he continues to harass your mother, she may have to tell him you've died.\n\nIf he becomes threatening of you or your mother in a physical or psychological way, take legal action promptly.\n\nWhen you file for divorce you should qualify for child support in most areas of the world.  This will obviously help you financially, but will keep you in contact with him, albiet indirectly.  If you feel that it is not possible to continue a civil relationship with him outside of marraige, then pass up the money and get him out of your - and your children's - life.
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You haven't said anything that makes it sound as if you should take him back.  And as Dr. Phil says, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  Why on earth would you want to take him back if he hasn't been good to you and your kids?  And what's the story with your husband - are you still with him or planning on leaving him?
749708
This is a tough situation you put yourself into...I suggest you take the mature way out and Tell his wife. Telling his wife will get his marriage in shambles and then you and her can begin the sueing process. It is in your best interest to sue him for emotional problems and the lifestyle he has given you. Good luck ! IF you need a good lawyer call 1 800 ask gary hes no mumbo jumbo
700263
I had a colleague like you --- she had two children, she worked full time, (teacher) and he did nothing.  He was diagnosed with depression, took the pills sometimes, but did nothing.  Her children were raised in an environment where their father never worked.   He, however, ran the show.  She left her job, (his decision to move)  they pulled all of the $$ out of her retirement account, and moved to another state.  Now they are in their 50's, she has no job security, no retirement plan, and he never helped financially...... \n\nMarriage is made up of Respect Admiration, and Passion.  Two of these are gone in your relationship, maybe all three.  You may wish to rethink this marriage.  What a guy does for his living is his definition of who he is.  Your husband is nothing -- a house husband..... not a biggie in any real man's world... In fact, a house-wife is not a big definition even to a woman anymore.  So, it appears from your note, that you are doing both side of the marriage deal -- running the household, and bringing home the bacon..... not really very satisfying....   And life, after all, should be all sorts of things -- fun, sharing, raising children together, enjoying hobbies, working to inprove your professional status, adding to your education, enjoying vacation and camping together..... yadayadayada.   Your note indicates none of this.....  I think you already know what you really need to do.....
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Seriously, I have a few opinions I would like to express.  But I'll hold off for a few minutes. \n\nThis is gonna come back and get ya, one way or another.  Years from when the kid comes and finds ya.  Years from now when you're kids meat this one.  Days from now, when your girlfriends friend makes a call to your wife. It WILL get back.\n\nYou are a cruel, cruel man.  How could you do that to your wife and children?  What is wrong with you?  And you sound like you're more worried with losing your stupid job, than the damage you just did to your wife of 8 years and children.  \n\nAnd yeah I will give you one good thing.  It's awesome that you at least offered to pay for that kid.  A lot of me won't even do that.  \n\nBut yeah, ya reap what ya sew.
329967
Out of respect for his baby and his wife... leave him alone. You will always be number 3. He is using you and betraying you. How could you allow someone to treat you like that?
972073
Since I don't know where you live I can only tell you what goes on here in the states.  First of all you should have made it a point to know all about the finances during your marraige.  YOU put yourself in the position of not knowing now and there really isn't much you can do about it since you don't know if he has any other accounts in his name or not.  All that you might be able to do is have your lawyer do a "discovery" on his finances (hopefully you know your estranged husband's social security number, if you don't then you're pretty much stuck).  Secondly most states no longer grant spousal support.  Of course they do grant child support but that is for the CHILDREN not for the ex spouse so your "allowance" will end, and you'll have to get a job.  If you live here in the states I suggest you stat looking for one.  Go to yur local county office and see what they can do for you.  If you don't live in the states I can't help you, because I can only give you advice based on U.S. divorce/custody laws.
568955
Your kids must be spoiled rotten or you are spending some money. Is it you that wants the money? He has his bills and his girl (if he has one) and all his wants and needs. If you have a job, your kids are fine.
994574
are you married? I would suggest you slowly and carefully pull yourself from his debts. Seperate everything before he drags you down to bankruptcy. Talk to Debt management company to get you guys back on track.
1053113
Report the theft to the police. Other than that, there isn't anything you can do unless he uses information on your license to commit a crime against you or otherwise. How much personal information was on the license? Be sure to let the police know, especially if you feel threatened. Best of luck.
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I'm not sure what exactly to tell you but i definitely think he shouldn't blame everything on you. Sure, being married means you might go through financially difficulties but you are suppose to go through things like that together. And since he gave you the ok that you needed, he is just as much responsible as you are.\nI bet you have already talked to him, right? Because everytime somebody posts a question there's always somebody that says "Talk to him". What did he say? It sounds like you are just accepting it the way it is. \nAnd yes, there's always a Saver and a Spender. I can say out of my marriage, i know i'm the spender and my hubby is the saver and i also know i'm the loud one and he's the shy one. But they say 'Opposites Attract'.\n\nAnyway, to come to an end...\nHe should have agreed that it was his fault, too. I think he is the one that made a mistake. You've admitted you would've done it different if you knew this would happen.\n\nI hope i helped you at least a little bit. Don't feel too guilty about it, remember, he gave you the ok about the money. I think he needs to think about what he said and that he never stopped you from getting the money for the remodeling.
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Lady, I recon this guy has done this before and it's "been your fault" everytime?\n\nCatch a wake up, even if it was the first time he did it, he'd probably do it again.\n\nIf you did tell your partner you cheated on him, whether you did or didn't, it sounds like you like causing trouble and maybe you should sort yourself out before trying to get your kids back.\n\nKids do need their parents but they don't need troublesome parents, sort yourself out and then get your kids back.
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I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
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Hey, that's the same story that happend between my sister, her boy-friend, and our step-father.  Are you my sister?  Ok, just incase you're not or are...if your boy-friend has stolen before in the past, it's likely that he stole from your house.  He could be lieing to you about him not taking the money.  Then again money can be easily misplaced/lost.  Depending where your family had the money.  If it was in a safe/drawer/box and it's not there anymore, or they didn't touch it,  then yes someone stole it.  But if they had it in their pocket or on a table or something, then it's probably somewhere in the street or house.  If your boy-friend did it, you have to leave him, just like that.  He's not trustworthy.  Trust is one of the keys that keeps a relationship healthy.  You deserve better.
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unless you are worried about him stealing the children, i would let him have the kids on weekends.  \n\nyou have to be able to have a life of your own.  you have made a enormous decision to go it alone (i don't know if i could do it even if i was unhappy)and he really needs to offer support not linger hoping that you might change your mind. its pathetic for him and embarrassing to you.\n\nyou have gone as far as saying its over baby.  i think now is the time to put real ground rules in place.  don't let the man bully you anymore.  \n\njust a side note:  i am happy you have decided to wait until school is out but it is my experience that as that day draws closer he will make it very difficult for you to leave.  Godspeed
1052511
It sounds like he has abandoned you.  Confront him on it.  If you can talk to him on the phone about it, that will be better than text messages and e-mails.  If he is not helping you financially, he is not acting like he's married with a child.  You are both supposed to support each other and your child.  Is he keeping all his earnings to himself?  Do you have separate finances?  That's not a marriage.  Talk to him in person or over the phone, not through e-mails and text messages.  Tell him what you suspect.  Stay calm and don't yell.  Listen to what he has to say.  It may turn out that the marriage is over and you need to move on, or it may be that he is clueless and doesn't know there's anything wrong.
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I have always believe that when two people get married the finances should be combined and both should have equal access.  I make twice the money of my wife but I trust that she is smart enough to have equal access to the money.  She still maintains a small seperate checking account that we put some money into each month so that she can buy stuff, especially presents for me without me knowing what and how much, plus it makes her feel more comfortable.  But the majority of our money is in a joint account that she has full access to and that I encourage her to use.  When you divide money up based upon who earns what I think the relationship is destined to fail.  How can you be truely committed to a relationship if your holding on to your money to protect yourself?  When you really love someone you don't try to protect your self from them or the posibility that your relationship will fail.  To do so is admiting that it will fail.  Your other points are equally valid, it is in the families best interest that you have equal access to all funds in case of an emergency.  Your name should also be on the titles of all cars and houses and on every credit card.  I also think it is important that you take time to look at the accounts on a regular basis.  There are so many horor stories out there of one spouses problems bankrupting a whole family and the other spouse had no idea that there was a problem.  And on a final note, just because you want to stay home with the kids that doesn't make you any less important.  By taking care of the kids you are saving your family huge amounts of money without you ever being paid for it.  If he has to keep his money seperate then tell him you want an account and that he has to pay into it each month the amount that you would normally have to pay for child care plus what your not recieving from a normal job.