Ettique with people with eating disorders?
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Great question!\n\nThe key is to figure out what's motivating her to keep losing all the weight, but that's not easy because you don't know her very well.  Do you think she enjoys all the attention and compliments for getting thinner?\n\nIf she's attention-motivated then people should be saying nothing to her about how she looks.\n\nI would say nothing to her about it and just watch.  If she keeps it up (like for another month) you should ask her about it.  Don't say "you look too skinny," as she might like that kind of attention.\n\nInstead, ask her about how her weight loss is going for her.  See what she says and decide from there.  She might indicate that people are already telling her that she's too skinny.  In this case you really don't have to intervene because there are already people who are doing so.
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Well, first of all I would suggest medical help for her.  This is not something you can enforce by yourself.  She needs proper psychological help if she has an eating disorder, so if she is not receiving help for that, I would suggest trying to convince her of that first.\n\nAfter that, it is up to you as her friend to provide lots of positive encouragement, and make sure that everyone else who knows and loves her does the same.
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That they need problems that cannot be fixed with a simple talk with the parents. It's deadly and it's sickening.\n\nJust this week a Brazilian model weighing in at 88 pounds died from anorexia-related problems. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15750402/?GT1=8717\n\nYour body is the only body you're going to get ,and if you don't treat it well, it's going to give out on you. You aren't going to get another one, so learn to love it.
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The most common eating disorders are bulimia and anorexia \n\nAnorexia is characterised by extreme weight loss and intentional starvation \n\nBulimia involves binge eating followed by purging with vomiting or laxatives \n\n90 percent of people with eating disorders are young women or adolescents \n\nThe condition is aggravated by low self esteem and a fear of getting fat \n\nPeople with eating disorders usually think they are bigger than they really are \n\nTreatment may involve a combination of drug therapy and counselling \n\nAbout of half of sufferers will continue to experience eating disorders \n\nHospital care may be necessary for cases of severe starvation. \n\nWhat is it?\n\nEating disorders are a common and serious problem that mainly affect women.\n\nThe main disorders are anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa.\n\nAnorexia is characterised by extreme weight loss from starvation and bulimia involves overeating followed by vomiting or use of laxatives to stop food from being absorbed.\n\nAbout 90 percent of people with eating disorders are adolescent and young women. About one percent of adolescent girls become anorexic and two to three percent will experience bulimia.\n\nWomen are believed to be more vulnerable to the disorders because of their quest to obtain a so-called ideal thin figure. Both conditions also do occur in men however.\n\nEating disorders can be fatal. One in 10 cases of anorexia leads to cardiac arrest, death from starvation, suicide or other serious medical problems.\n\nMany people who suffer from eating disorders suffer from low self-esteem and a fear of weight gain. The disorders may manifest as a way of dealing with stress and emotional problems.\n\nIt's believed they may develop eating disorders to take control of one area of the their life when they have little control over other events.\n\nWomen with eating disorders may have strange eating habits or rituals, and are often weighing themselves.\n\nEating disorders can run in families. It's believed daughters of mothers who are worried about their child's weight are more at risk, and so are girls who have fathers or brothers who criticise their weight.\n\nThe full reasons why some people develop the condition is not known - it may be a combination of the brain's own chemical balance with environmental factors playing a role.\n\nOften sufferers come from happy well-to-do homes with no apparent reason for the conditions to develop.\n\nWhat are the symptoms?\n\nThe signs of both bulimia and anorexia involve a distorted body image. People who suffer from either disorder will believe they are fatter than they really are. This is particularly true of bulimics. One study found they are likely to believe they are more overweight than anorexics of the same size.\n\nSymptms of anorexia nervosa involve the following signs:\n\nIntentional starvation and extreme weight loss from strict dieting. \nGirls and women with the disorder will look painfully thin to others, but they are likely to believe themselves to be overweight. \nThe problem normally begins at puberty. \nGirls with anorexia are often perfectionists, well behaved, good students and good at sports. \nAnorexia should be considered in vegetarians who have stopped eating meat to avoid fat. Vegetarian diets in conjunction with excessive weight loss may be an indication of anorexia. \nWomen with anorexia may stop regular menstruation, have orthopaedic problems, and dry skin covered with fine hair. \nTheir stomachs can become bloated after eating. \nSevere anorexia can lead to confusion and problems concentrating. \nOther complications include depression, blotchy skin, constipation, no menstruation, and severe malnutrition. \n\nSymptoms of bulimia involve the following signs:\n\nBinge eating of large amounts of food, followed by making themselves vomit, taking laxatives, diet pills, enemas or excessive exercise. \nWomen with bulimia may eat a lot of junk food to sooth emotional stresses a
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Have you talked to a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders? Recognizing your problem puts you on the road to recovery, so I hope you'll follow up with a professional who can help.\n\nGood luck!
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Your eating disorders always come back to feeling a lack of control in your life......People have eating disorders mainly because they feel their world is out of control....So they maintain some control by not eating, sounds paradoxical, I know, but that is how it works.....I hope you seek some counseling to get to the root of your problems...Best of luck...
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You certainly need to start talking to someone who can help you. If that is your teacher instead of your parents -- so be it.\n\nI've been a teacher for many years in a number of Australian states.\n\nIn all that time I have never heard of any law that would require me to report a possible eating disorder to parents.\n\nHowever if a student wanted to discuss such a possibility I would:\na) help them find out information about it,\nb) help them consider whether or not they actually had a disorder,\nb) urge them to speak to someone who could give them medical advice such as school nurse or a doctor,\nd) advise them to to talk to other people such as parents, if possible, who could offer more moral support and advice.\n\nIf you can't bring yourself to talk to anyone in person, at least get some impersonal advice. You could start with the Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800. They have information and advice about young people's eating disorders.\n\nBut why can't you talk to your parents about it? It is their job to help you. You haven't done anything wrong so they won't blame you -- even if they were the blaming kind of parents.
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Check Yahoo Groups, there are many groups out there for all sorts of disorders, I dont think anyone should make fun of someone reaching out for help..
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i had to do a PPT in school on anorexia and i learned that anorexia could be percieved as a desease by some people and by other people it can be percieved as a lifestyle change(disorder)
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ok well the if she is younger like under 18 and i know you dont want to betray your friends trust but the best thing for you to do is tell her parents even though she might hate you but its well worth it...i am only assuming she is younger because that is usually when most eating disorders typically start with girls in their teens and twenties if she is older try to convincer her to go seek help at a medical facility  good luck
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im here, im a master at eating disorders, and recovery.....i want to talk to you.
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I would tell u to make sure that you get the proper information on eating disorders so that u can throw facts at her each time she tries to rebut yr evidence bring up truth. Please do something for her but gosh i would hate for you to have to tell an adult or call someone for her, I would never talk to u again if i were her, but then again if she dies well there's no talking in that either. Make the right choice, try it yrself one more time, show pix of anorexic girls   http://www.d.umn.edu/~jvaleri/anorexia3_edited.jpg i think that will link right but idk. She needs to realize that this is an unnessary addiction. This is like her drug, she feels like she has control over something in her life. Anorexia gives her a balance geez when i was anorexic, but never to the point of extreme, i felt so happy w myself that i made the day w/o eating. Yr friend has to see that its not the right thing to do and being anorexic isnt even cool anymore? hAS SHE SEEN THE WAY HOLLYWOOD looks today? aND THE way that men look at a curvy body w healthy breasts hips and thighs and the cute butt behind a woman? I mean standards will always change but she needs to practice confidence first and for that reason you should tell a professional about her who can then tell her parents, they will likely understand from the accurate perspective of a person specialized in that field. kiss kiss bye oh remember http://images.animanga.nu/fanart/2798/anorexia.jpg she sees that in the mirror everyday so be mindful of that k honey?
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i had an eating disorder. Are you doing like a report on eating disorders?
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People who are bulimic often feel very hungry (for various reasons) and so they eats lots of food. This is generally very fatty or sugary foods. once they have eaten a lot of food they start to feel really bad that they've done it and get worried about being fat, so then they make themselves throw up so they wont get fat. which leads to your question...\n\nthe actual puking part is done many different ways. I've known people to use their fingers. This eventually stops working for them tho, people then move on to things such as spoons, forks, knives, tooth brushes and other items. It all depends what is near them in when they feel they really need to puke. \n\nAnorexia and Bulimia are simaliar, but by not means the same.  (sorry that makes no sense) They are both fuled by an immense desire to be thin and beautiful. Reguardless of what they actually look like they always think they are fat and unattractive. \nBoth are  mental illness's and not to be taken lightly. they are dangerous things, and no one should have to go through them. The main differences would be that with Anorexia you starve yourself and wont eat. Bulimia you eat lots to make yourself feel good, but them puke it all up. I've known people with anorexia to puke up their food when they've been made to eat by someone, but it all depends.\n\nI hope some part of that saga has answered some of your question. xoxo
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There is really no way to get over an eating disorder without going into treatment. If you approach your family doctor and ask for a referral to the nearest treatment centre I am sure she will be able to point you in the right direction. There, you will be in a circle of your peers, people who are overcoming the very same thing. They will take the focus off food and eating, and show you the underlying causes, so you can attack your problem at it's root. As I'm sure you know, eating disorders if left untreated can destroy the mind, body, and can also be fatal. I am glad you are wanting to put an end to this suffering and get your life on track. You already have the attitude it takes to succeed. I wish you all the best!
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I have a friend who is manic about this very thing. When we have dinner at her house, we usually sit around the table for a while after the meal chatting. When the first person starts to get up and take their plate with them, she starts repeating, "Please leave all your dishes on the table. I will do them later." and then she starts ushering everybody out of the room and on to the next conversation space. She's real no-nonsense about it and you junst don't feel like you can argue with her.\nJust plan for it to happen next time and be prepared for it. If arm-wrassling starts up, tell them sweetly, "I hid all the soap and sponges because I didn't want you to work your little fingers to the bone!"
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Anorexia Nervosa\n\nSymptoms:\n1. Person refuses to maintain normal body weight for age and height.  \n\n2. Weighs 85% or less than what is developmentally expected for age and height. \n\n3. Young girls do not begin to menstruate at the appropriate age. Puberty is delayed in both sexes. \n\n4. In women, menstrual periods stop. In men, levels of sex hormones fall. Sex drive disappears or is much diminished. \n\n5. Person denies the dangers of low weight. \n\n6. Is terrified of becoming fat. Is terrified of gaining weight even though s/he is alarmingly underweight. Reports feeling fat even when emaciated. \n\nIn addition, anorexia nervosa often includes depression, irritability, withdrawal, and peculiar behaviors such as compulsive rituals, strange eating habits, and division of foods into "good/safe" and "bad/dangerous" categories. Person may have low tolerance for change and new situations; may fear growing up and assuming adult responsibilities and an adult lifestyle. May be overly engaged with or dependent on parents or family. Dieting may represent avoidance of, or attempts to cope with, the demands of a new life stage such as adolescence.\n\nBulimia Nervosa\n\nSymptoms:\n1. Person diets, becomes hungry, and then binge eats in response to powerful cravings and feelings of deprivation.  \n\n2. Feels out of control while eating. \n\n3. Fears gaining weight and frantically tries to "undo" the binge. Vomits, misuses laxatives, exercises, or fasts to get rid of the calories. \n\n4. Swears to "be good," to never binge eat again, but then continues to restrict food intake which starts yet another repeat of the deprivation-hunger-binge-purge cycle. \n\n5. Believes self-worth requires being thin.\n\n6. May shoplift, be promiscuous, and abuse alcohol, drugs and credit cards. May engage in risk-taking behavior and have other problems with impulse control. Person acts with little thought of consequences. \n\n7. Weight may be normal or near normal unless combined with Anorexia Nervosa.\n\nLike Anorexia, Bulimia can kill. Even though bulimics put up a brave front, they are often depressed, lonely, ashamed, and empty inside. Friends may describe them as competent, glamorous, adventurous and fun to be with, but underneath, where they hide their guilty secrets, they are hurting. Feeling unworthy, they have great difficulty talking about their feelings, which almost always include anxiety, depression, self-doubt, and deeply buried anger.