Me and my girl are in love. But she has 3 kids and that's a problem for me now. What should I do?
109845
You should go away because her kids are not going to.If you cant accept her kids it will not work!!
165159
grow up!!!  three people who get along well with each other is very difficult to find.  look up polyamorus relationships on the net... you will see its tougher than just putting up a question on a messege board... dont be stupid about this, it could RUIN your relationship with your gf!!!!
115414
Be pure luck and the grace of God, I think I have found my TRUE love after 2 marriges and a string of broken relationships.\nWe are both happier than either of us have ever been and she says she feels the same as I do.
421509
I HAVE 3 MY SELF AND LOVE KIDS ....... NO PROBLEM WITH ME
105956
First off, if you still had feelings for an ex you should have never broke it off with her in the first place. Second having a child is no piece of cake for anyone and is a big responsibility, but if you both stick together it will seem less scarier for the both of you and will make you both better people in the end.
169887
You are ingaged to 2 women?  I would say who would you rather spend the rest of your life with?  The ex would be good since you have kids together but there was a reason your divorced now. You fiance would be the right wat to go if she doesnt love all those guys who say they love her.  Follow your heart.
426330
well...\nif you love her with all your might, then ask her to marry you, but remember this though, she have a kid/kids, so u must love them as your own kid/kids..   but if u cant love her children, then dont do it, ur going to hurt her kids for good, i dont know what ur plan is, but, first im going to try and lover her child/children, then ask her to marry me
275134
What does your heart tell you...also make sure your in love with him and not just his children or you just may end up being the baby sitter, if when you say he has 3 children, means they live with him.  Also beware of baggage, I don't consider the children baggage, thats part of the package, but the ex is another story...has he been divorced long?  Whats the child care arrangement?  does he pay alimony, child support and need your income?  Other than that if its a family your looking for...I would think he would be sincere in wanting a partner to complete his family.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
1123061
I think you are more infatuated with her than you love her. You got separated and she went to another man, why wouldn't she do it again if she has a problem with you again? Wake up man, this is simple commonsense. She just wants you, she does not need you, and you don't want to be in a relationship where you are just wanted and not needed. Thats not love. You will be used.\n\nWhat you need is a woman of your own and not one you share with another man. She is that other guy's wife and your seeing her is tantamount to adultery and that is treading on dangerous ground.\n\nDivorce? Well, she can get that to be with youbut are you going to marry her and take in that guy's children as your own? And do you see any reason why she won't divorce you as well when she has a problem with you? Don't be naive, you are believing that she loves you because thats what you want to believe. Sorry old boy but you will be a fool if you lick back what you spat out.
835035
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
661295
Well, chances are that she will get custody of your daughter.  If you believe what Dr. Phis says, children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  You never made a commitment to the girl, which I believe is wrong anyway, but I don't think using one another just for sex is a reason to stay in a relationship.  It has to be built on more than that.  Nobody can tell you what you should do, nor should they, but I think that you need to find love and commit yourself to a woman for life.  Good luck.
862877
wow dude looks like it's time to move on......sounds like you really care for her just not her daughter....you need to find another girl with no baggage..and start fresh.
450115
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
520641
..Hi ...If you are serious about that girl..and you are shure that it is not a midlife crisis..you should talk to your wife..And eather stay with her/ or choose that girl...You cannot have both...You should make a fresh start then...and live with the consequenties...Think it over..and make the right decisson for yourself! ...People can advice you..but it is up to you...\nKind regards...And good luck..
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
377837
well you have 2 options here.you could try asking her out an getting her in the sack and secretly try to go get the other in the sack and run back and forth between the 2 girls and pobably end up with 2 kids by different girls, or you could do the right thing,forget about girl#1 and take out girl# 2 and treat her with respect,love her and end up having a happily family someday\n\n\n\nit is your choice man--------go do whats right