Everyone thinks that this guy and I should go out.... How do I tell people that I am not ready to date?
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Tell them that you promised yourself you wouldn't date till a certain time.  Then tell them that it is important for you to keep your promises and not to have friends trying to "help" you break them.
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If he isn't ready, then he isn't ready. I think if you pin all ur hopes on him, it's not very wise. Is he is saying a NO to u, or is he saying "I don't know". Does he have feelings for you...is it love, or lust? You know best. \nEitherways, he is not *moving forward* with u, and that's a strong signal. \n\nI would advise you to have a really honest talk with him and ask him what he REALLY thinks and feels. Tell him you are not judging him, tell him you truly wanna hear what he is going through, and to lay it all on the table, so you can make an informed decision. If he cares about you and your life, and your own future, am sure he should be ready to let you know honestly what is going on in his mind. \n\nI would say keep him as a friend (strictly) and date other people who would be willing to commit. I know it might be hard esp. if you have developed strong feelings and attachment with him. It's for you and him to decide whether you both can be friends and date other people, if you both wish. \n\nAnother thing is, you must have some discipline in order for things to move forward. If u decide to be strictly friends, then make sure you do that. If you give in, this situation might continue for a long, long time. \n\nI think he needs to miss u a lil bit, inorder to really know what he wants. Reduce ur talks, go date other people, and see where it goes after that. That's my 2 cents on this.
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Next time he asks you out, run with it.  Be like, "Yeah, let's go hang out on the beach and build sandcastles!"  If he says that's cool, great!  But if he gives you a weird look and says he was just kidding, you should pull a Napoleon Dynamite and say, "I KNOW you were kidding, IDIOT, GOSH!"  Then you will both get a good laugh about it and you'll know your answer, even though secretly you'll be slightly embarrassed.
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I LIKE THIS BOY AND HE LIKES ME BUT WE ARE SCARD WHAT PEOPLE WOULD THINK SO WE ARE DYING TO GO OUT
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Well, you could tell him that you are really sorry but, i don`t think we should go out anymore I mean please don`t get mad when i say this but, i feel that it`s best if i stay single because, i mean i want to have a boyfriend that i see all the time and i don`t see you that much so i think it would be best for the both of us if we start seeing other people. I am sorry please don`t be mad. We can still be friends, if you want.
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Guys are funny. \n\nPerhaps you're right and you need to take the initiative... but perhaps he's not prepared to have a significant other in his life due to a variety of reasons- Immaturity, past relationships gone bad- whatever the reason.\n\nI think that asking to hang out is a reasonable request- but if he's as painfully shy as you say- he might say no. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you- he's just too shy.\n\nAlso something to think about- If you're outgoing (I don't know if you are or not...)- then is a shy guy really the best match for you?\n\nAt anyrate- getting to know the guy better is good no matter what- you might find that he's just not the type for you- or it could lead to him feeling comfortable enough around you to finally ask you out.\n\nBest of Luck!
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Some guy feel the need to act like that in front of other people. Ask him if he could try to include you more next time your around other people. If there's another date request a private one, were he won't have anyone else to act up for.
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look...dating sometimes is not the answer...\ni don't know if you should date him or not....but first you have to be sure that he wants to date you....if he doesn't want to date you then don't....coz like this you will make your self a whore running after him....\nand don't feel that you are a whore if you don't date him...\njust forget it....and live life the way it was
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Spice a date up a little. Do something different. Show interest. The fact that he is farther away from other people makes it more difficult for you to talk to him and interact with him. But make a date for both of you to get together.
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Just be firm but kind and get it over with. It appears he already knows or has a pretty good idea it's coming. The whole point of dating is to find the person you have the most simpatico with. Just don't use the line, "We can still be friends."
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Tell all your friends that you would like to find a good man to date. Every woman in the world knows at least a dozen good, single men that would "be perfect for you!" Of course, I'm exaggerating a bit, but the principle is "to let people know that you're available, should you get asked out." Tell your family(you know they want the best for you).Be observant when you go to the grocery store.....I'll bet you know at least one guy right now that really "trips your trigger"....find out if he's single. If so, then, start up a conversation,  about, preferably manly things, like, "my car sounds funny", or, "I have a cabinet door that sticks".......see where it goes from there! You MIGHT be surprised!! Good Luck...........there's a lot of decent, lonely men out there, just waiting on a nice lady like you.
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You are setting your own limitations.  Ask him out.  No one is out of your league, you are setting your value too low if you think that.  Life is priceless for everyone.  If he rejects you, he wasn't worth your time and I would reflect on his hollowness to uplift me. \n\nWhat you do is you purchase tickets to a baseball game, concert and invite him as though you have no one else to go with or tell him you thought about asking him before inviting any of your friends.  When I was single that's how I went out with many hot guys; to my surprise, they'd be interested in me at the end but I would always end up disappointed in them because of a personality flaw.
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Tell him I'm never going to date you ever, find another girl, I'll help you.  Then help him, for real. Talk him up wiht your friends and try to get him a date.  That's a very nice thing to do.  If you won't help him get a date, then you are not really friends with him and should never talk to him again.  Friendship means helping people.
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Talk about it in a mature way. Be open, honest and direct. Tell him you need assurances your not some sort of sextoy or friend or whatever. This may freak him a little, but it's better than being in the state you are in. It is better to know that waste energy wondering and imagining.\n\nYou may be hurt with the direct approach, but it beats just blowing the whole thing without even knowing. It could be that this guy finds it hard to express his feelings (most men do), so just be gentle, be honest and be natural. \n\nIf he says no, then don't let it bother you, you are not the problem, it's him. This world is huge and full of hundreds of thousands of singles all looking for someone to enjoy spending time with. Enjoy life, don't waste it on worry x
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Just tell him that you can only seeing yourself being friends right now.  You don't need to hurt him and tell him it was a joke though.  That's so mean! Just tell him you don't want a boyfriend now and that you're sorry, things just aren't going to work.  Going out on a few dates wouldn't hurt, but if you really don't want to just say so.
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Tell him that you cannot be in a relationship with someone whose whole heart is not available and who doesn't respect you enough to be honest and straightfoward with you. \n\nHe lied to you from the start and why would you want to subject yourself to that sort of dispectful deception? That's just asking for trouble. I know it'll be difficult to call it off, but believe me... there are tons of guys out there that will respect you enough to a) not lie to you and b) BE SINGLE :)
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Easy, simply tell him that I think your are nice but it won't work out.  You are not the kind of man I am looking for.  Our chemistry is not compatible.  Don't just dodge him.. thats a teenage thing to do.  Be mature and tell him the truth.  He's still trying because you have not given him a CLEAR indication that you are not interested.  He still thinks he has a chance until you get to the point and be upfront withhim.  Men will keep trying until you tell them basically,  NO MEANS NO.\nBut please dont be rude to him.  If I were you, in the future, dont go on a date if you are not interested in the person.  Definately not 3 or 4 dates.  It lead him on.