i had this guy who i loved- he cheated on me with 39 girls?
109076
Don't blame yourself, whatever you do.  He has self esteem problems.  \n\nHowever, an interesting question to ask yourself is, "Why was I attracted to someone who does that?  Why would I love someone who didn't show me the love I deserved?"  Obviously, you couldn't have known directly, but maybe in the future, you could keep a close eye on a guy if he is overly flirty.
228976
Keep being cautious!  You can still hang out with him and see how he handles being around other women.  If you notice he is a major flirt, know that his behavior is a reg flag of possible playeritus.  If your friends are saying those things about him, ask them how they know that he messes around with lots of other girls.  Maybe one of your friends has had a personal experience with the guy that justifies their warnings to you.   A good way to find out more about his behavior is to ask his (guy) friends about his dating history.  If he jumps from one girl to another as easy as frogs can jump from lily pad to lily pad, there's another red flag for you.  I'm glad he hasn't tried to pull the screwing trick on you--but always be ready that he could do that to you when you least expect it (particularly if alcohol or the likes are involved).  Well, good luck!
233835
You should move on!! To start with he cheated on you and even after you forgave him which i never understand that but people do he still lied to you about little stuff. This guy you will never be able to trust. You have already given him too much information to play you with. He knows that you still love him and that you think of him all of the time and its hard for you to move on talking to him. So the next time he calls blow his mind. Tell him your fine just been hanging out with friends and even found a guy that caught your eye. I bet that will end that. Dont subject yourself to being hurt again. There is more than one guy out there and you deserve a good one!! Move on and dont look back.
208877
NO I don't think it's anything you did.  If he loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you no matter what!  If I were you I would make him kiss you rear and do everything in his power to make it up to you!  In no way do I feel you should do anything more for him!  You don't deserve to be cheated on, no matter what his excuses are!
24654
YoU wIlL Get HIM  BAbE!!! WhY wouLd He DumP THe OtHeR 2 IF ThErE WaSnT SoMeONe BettEr???  You WeRe LasTTTTT!!!!!!
1008884
Im a guy and I hate dudes that do this kind of stuff,makes it hard for those of us that dont cheat.[we're not all dogs] So check it out CONFRONT HIM.
503352
Sounds like a case of him feeling guilty for what he was doing so he makes up something to blame you for to cover it up.  You should confront him and find out why what he is doing with this girl isn't considered cheating.
135792
Cheaters do not deserve another chance.  Leave him for someone you can trust.\n\n"He's a very good guy,"?  Wrong.  Good guys don't cheat, honey.
1043524
Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, justifys cheating. Period. I was in a 20 year relationship where he cheated on me most of that time--and I knew one of the women since I was 9 years old!! No excuse he gave me, no matter how much money he made, NOTHING justified it. Notice that I called him an ex. I am now with someone that does not abuse me or cheat on me. He treats me with the love, respect, and kindness that everyone deserves. If you are in a relationship where your guy is cheating, even if he takes care of you financially, think about whether you want to keep on going on with this relationship and chancing him on doing this over and over and if you can handle that, or if you want/need to leave. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, and cheating on your partner, whether you are married or not, is NOT respecintg your partner.
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Now your situation reminds me of myself and one of my former friends'.\nOkay, now this is going to be a long one, so I want you to read through this end to end.\nI think what almost 8 out of 10 guys/girls will get cheated in their life time, which does not mean, they are going to turn into people who do not trust their future partners. Thats is SIMPLY ridiculous!!\nI got cheated and dumped by my first official girlfriend on Valentines day and then by second (and current) girlfriend. But that did not turn me into a green eyed monster, turning furious at any guy that my girlfriend speaks to. Infact I have come to trust her SO much that I let her express her 'crush' on a guy. She cheated on me not once, not twice but 3 times, but now I trust her enough that I know that she would NEVER do anything that would hurt me, that she would never fall into temptation even if she is in a room full of naked men!!!\nYour boyfriend is just using you, he has you on a tight leash. \nIf he does not trust you now, when do you expect him to trust you?? Come on, girl, you are in a world that has men!! Not in Venus, for crying out loud. \nYou may think that he is just been protective and stuff like that, but you know what, thats all just a lot of BULL CRAP!!!!\nI have been there and I am back. When you are so controlling, it is not because he loves you, but because he gets that inner satisfaction that he has 'held' you. He is happy that you 'obeying' him and 'at his commands'. Is this what your parents brought you up for?? Do you not have any self respect or indignity left??\n\nYou have to sit down and talk to him, or else your freedom will be history. Even animals learn to overcome cheating spouses and learn to love their new faithful partners, so where does he get his theory that he is not able to let go on his past??\nOkay, so he got cheated, he may also have got cut with a knife, or fallen off a bicycle, but that didnt stop him from using a knife or a cycle, did he?? Thats right. He is using the oldest trick in the Mens (not very) Big Book of Excuses.\n\nI could go on and on.. but I guess I am done typing for the day. \nOver and out for the Weekend!!\nBut you better make a informed move, dont stick around with the Loser!!\nCheers!!
1058337
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
243225
Odd statement, men brag about how many girls they've been with yet when the find the right girl to have a relationship with they want a virgin. If all these guys had so much sex, who did you think they were having sex with? 15 Guys isn't alot for a 26 year old woman. Another thing, men are revered for having all this sex while women become sluts. If you like this girl why do you even care about how many guys she's been with, why are you even talking about it with her. Now I know how guys think and I understand. Trust me when I say this, grow up and deal with it. If not it sounds like it would be your loss.
1045097
honey, people don't change. once a cheater always a cheater, yourself included.  apparently there were problems with the relationship or you two wouldn't have been messing around on each other.  i know its probably not what you want to here, but you need to move on.
545263
In my honest opinion....\n\nThe guy didn't technically cheat.  Try to look at it this way, he went out with the girl a few times, and then he realized how much you meant to him. Sometimes it takes being with the wrong person to realize that you are with the right person. In addition there was not touchy feely stuff so he probably wasn't attracted to her in the first place.  He probably just wanted to reassure himself that you were the right girl for him.  Guys get anxious and cold feet too, they just handle it differently than we do.  Talk to him.  Tell him how you feel about it and explain to him that your trust and love is a privilege, and he should be honored to earn it.
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I will answer this one to get the 2 points........\n\nYour Questions....\n\n1. i had this guy i loved- he cheated on me with 39 girls?\n\nAnswer........\n\nDo you REALLY need someone to tell you what to do in this situation? If so, Leave the jerk!!\n\n2. what is the cutest guy here'girls im taking them all?\n\nAnswer........\n\nSince I can't see what any of them really look like I can't tell you which one is the cutest, and if you love the guy who cheated on you with 39 girls, and apparently are still with him, why are you taking all the cute guys and why did you even ask this question? Do you cheat on the guy you are with? If so, then I retract my answer to the cheating question and will say........stick together, you both deserve one another. \n\nThank you for the 2 points....well actually 6 points, because I will probably go and answer your other questions now.
1153839
u don deserve any of them. \nmayb u shud try getting a girl who has 6 other boyfriends.\nprobably then u'd get an answer to ur question.
1128287
A guy I know after he got divorced stated to test everthing that he thought about or heard abpout. So he went on sex dating websites, sex parties, visited prostitutes you name it he tried it. Afterward he came to the conclusion that all these things weren't for him and all he really wanted was to be in a fulfilling loving relationship in a family setting. Now he's become really picky and is looking for a new long term partner. at one stage he had four girlfriends and wondered how he got himself in that position cos he was always a one girl at time guy. We all told him its because he could have four girls on the go, so he should stop worrying get over it and let time work out whats best for him. It looks like it has. That HIS story but Im sure it could be very different for others. The only advice I gave him (and anyone else) is - get to know yourself, learn what you did or didn't do to get yourself in that position and dont make the same mistakes again. Happy huntin :-)