Is there any way to get my relationship back with my married sister?
98792
If nothing else, you've just got to remember these two things: 1) She will always be your sister and your best friend. Nothing and no one will change that. On the other hand 2) She now has a family. Just as you might one day have one, it is important that you accept that your sister has new obligations now to her husband and child.  If you still want to be a great friend to her, be sure to remind her of how much you are there for her and of how much she will always mean to you. Don't count yourself as being second class; you are in a class all your own and it is a blessing of a class to be in!
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
183533
If you say negative things to your sister about her husband-in a flash, she'll defend him and draw that boundry line..with you on the other side..don't let that happen. When you have a chance-tell your sister, with love, that you love her, that you want her happy-even if it's with her husband-but, that you can see how hard it is for her-and that you can imagine things might be more difficult than she lets on at home....make sure she knows you aren't trying to tell her what to do-just that if she ever needs anything-you hope that she'll call you.  Then leave it at that...just let her know there's an open door for her-at any time..\nYou can't tell her what to do...and you can't tell her anything that she probably hasn't already said to herself..Except-that she is deeply loved.\nhang in there....
1012565
Amen to daveowenville!\n\nTread carefully when considering divorce. Are you still in another country? I don't know what Singapore's laws on marriage are like so you best get to studying up on those. Get to know what your legal options are. Can you really be sure that her sister was telling you the truth? Communication is really key. Look into what is going on and find out the facts before you make a big decision like this than "can" wreck lives.
613573
First let me say that I am very proud of you to serve our country! To answer your question, if BOTH people are willing to try then anything is possible! BOTH of you though need to feel very strongly about this. You need to sit down together somewhere comfortable and just talk to each other. Be very positive and willing to express your feelings as well as listening to hers. If you can do this and you BOTH feel the same way, you can get back what you first saw in eachother.\nGood luck!
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
22550
Wow, that's tough. If I were in that situation I would write her a letter. A REAL snail mail letter. :) (If you can get her address.) Tell her how you feel and that you miss her friendship and remind her of the good times that you two shared before this incident. Tell her about some things that are going on in your life and give her your telephone number and e-mail address (just in case she's not ready to "talk" just yet). I would also apologize to her and let her know that you weren't intending to hurt or berate her, you just believed that she could do better than him (which obviously she did because ~I'm assuming~ she married someone else). [That was good, feel free to use that in your letter, if, in fact, she did marry someone else.] :) After that, I would leave it alone. If she writes you back, that's great and if she doesn't, you've made your peace with the situation and you will have to let it go. I hope this helps!
1126110
Keep trying to communicate with your sister. everything happens for a reason whether you did or did not steal the money she should still remain in touch with  you.Remember GOD does not allow us to go through nothing that we are not capable of handling.
528147
Of course you can move on.  And for your sake, I hope you do it real soon.  You were a whole person before you got married, and you still are a whole person now.  Depends on who has custody of the kids, as to how much you can change her bad mouth.  If you have custody, than head for the court, again.  If not, you are just going to have to "suck it up".  \n\nYou might check with a lawyer (yuk! hate to say that) or get legal advice, to see what your options are.\n\nMain thing is to be glad that she is living somewhere, and with someone else.  Let him enjoy her wonderful company, until she screws around with a new man.\n\nI have to say to you, be glad this jerk is gone.
1120364
I'm in a similar relationship with my sister.\nThe only thing you can do is love her from a distance.\nCall her with little things like, "You were on my mind" and ask her how she's doing.  AVOID anything that might start conflict.\n\nKeep the lines of communication open, but keep your business to yourself.  Helps me.\n\n=^)
1018180
honestly i know how u feel, but trying to "control" the situation, that iswhat u r doing, will only make mattersworse, shewill go into further rebellion, and things in the marriage will go down hill.   part of Love is free and what holds it together is trust (and God) but if you don't have either of these it will never last.  you need to let her do her thing( not saying im choosing sides)  but if you let love go and its true love it will come back.  if you smother and squeeze it, it will flee from you.  as hard as it is, you need to give her what she needs (space and freedom) she is in the wrong ( married people do not belong at BARS).  LET GO OF THE REIGNS bite your tongue, and tell her go ahead (just pray when shes out that she will come to realize its not the place to be. good luck
591850
I'm sorry to hear about your sister's accident, but am glad she's doing better!\n\nThere are two sides to this- One, I feel terrible that because of your sister's dreadful accident, you did not get to have the wedding you had planned. It seems like you should definitely be able to have a "do-over", and hold a full-fledged wedding if that's what you want to do!\n\nHowever, here's the etiquette for this situation: You could have postponed, but you chose to get married in a simple ceremony at the chapel. So, you've already had your wedding. Staging a fake one is not really appropriate. It would, however, be fine to hold a reception celebrating the marriage:\n\nMr. Brian Smith and Mrs. Mary Jones were married\nFriday, March 17th 2006\nSt. Joseph's Hospital Chapel\nNew York, NY \n\nPlease join us in celebrating\nat a reception in their honor\nSaturday, June 18th 2006\n3 o'clock in the afternoon\nNew York Radisson Ballroom\nNew York, NY\n\nMr. and Mrs. Bridesparents\n\nIf you wish to go ahead and stage a redo, I would definitely recommend having the renewal of vows:\n\nMr. and Mrs. James Smith\nrequest the honor of your presence\nas they renew their wedding vows\nSaturday, May 23rd 2006\n3 o'clock in the afternoon\nSt. Patrick's Cathedral\nNew York, NY\n\nReception following ceremony\n\nGood luck whichever you choose!
1073750
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
767131
Bend over and take it up the A$$ just like you made her. After your butt has been split wide open like hers was, go to a marriage counselor and see if there's any thing left in your marriage.
1155521
What in the World, does not knowing who your aunt is, have any effect on when you get married??\n\nSo,  your Mom or Dad's Sister is missing from your life and you cant function?  \n\nI didnt know my Brother until I was 40 years old, married and has two kids!!!  He lived in the neighboring State and finally contacted us.  It didnt stop me from moving on with my life, and now that we know each other we are friends.\n\nDont get hung up on this, as it will destroy your life and possible marriage...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
556345
This is serious matter. You need to refer to a marriage counsellor, he can guide you through the whole process and refer a good divorce attorney, if required.\n\nTry to contact some government agencies in the area you live, which deal with family matters.
826639
Fine -- you can't control your feelings.  But you CAN control your behavior.  Feel whatever you feel, just don't touch this other woman.  Go to counseling like you had the idea of doing, and figure out how to fall back in love with your wife.