my mother married her own son-in-law- is that sick?
100792
I am sorry to hear about your father. Sounds like your mother may need some help.  I can't begin to give you advice, but my heart goes out to you and your family.
293893
I will pray for your mother inlaw... check out my 360 page, Im going through treatment for Lymphocytic Luekemia... God bless her and you :)
563677
Your Mother-in-Law sounds pretty tactless,surely her own common sense should have told her that this was NOT a very clever thing to do.As for saying her own son could come 'later',well that's totally out of order,her son should come first.I wholeheartedly agree with you in that the ex could have had her own celebration meal with her son and declined the invitation.If my Mother put me in that position I would be far from happy and tell her so.I would NOT attend the meal,explain it to the son and arrange to take him out for a celebratory meal.\nThe Mother-in-Law needs kicking into touch,is she close to her ex-daughter-in-law?Does she have a problem with you?Whatever this womans logic,which seems to be non existent,your husband need to address the problem and explain,in no uncertain terms that,you and he are a couple now and if she cant respect yours and his feelings then to maybe distance yourselves until she comes to her senses.
1037857
Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
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If i didnt have my son then yes i would die for my hubby. It would be selfish of me to leave my son without a mom,,considering im the only one besides my mom he has. I think you should have tried to help her more instead of leaving her. She never talked to you again beause she probably figured that if you two were to get married or something you would never have her back,,,you just left her to die..to look out for your own self. I would try and help anyone in that situation being family or noone i even knew....but thats just me.
524060
Leave her alone, let your son and future daughter in law get on with their lives. If she is having an affair, that is really your son's problem. If he's asked for you to snoop, then tell him that one should never marry a person they cant trust.
1111620
They do not speak to each other.  Apparently, she thought he was critical of her in an interview he gave.  I am not absolutely sure but I think she claims it was about her having adopted when she first did.  She also often said that she did not appreciate his cheating on her mother.  Not very consistent for a woman who slept with a married man.  He has expressed that he would like to make amends but she is not budging.
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I believe she should be seated with the "friends of the groom" section. I'm saying this because of my own feelings. I am estranged from my mother. My step mother and I are very close. (by the way I am 35 so I am speaking from a adult perspective) and if I were to ever get married again or renew my vows with my husband I would want my step mother (the one who has always been there for me) to be close to me on my special day. I don't want to be forced to be polite to someone I really care nothing about on what is suppose to be my day.
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First of all, it isn't his Mom's choice.  When I got married after dating for 3 years, my husbands Mom cried and cried because I was Jewish and not Catholic.  Threats were made, and she never approved.  My parents were the complete opposite.  I do not care if it is money, religion, race, etc. a Mom will find anything wrong with her son's choice.  It also does not matter if you are smarter than him.  What does that have to do with the price of beans?\nI'm sure she didn't approve of you because you were underage when you met.  I'm sure you had sex with him also and he could have been put in jail for both of your actions.  You were a minor and he was not.  That may be something she is angry at.  I would not be pleased to see my 20 year old son going after a 15 year old.  I do consider it wrong and very inappropriate.  Have you ever considered this as why she is upset?  I think you both need to sit her down and talk to you both.  \nAnd so what if he is cut out of the Will...he didn't make the money...his parent(s) did.  That should not be an issue in the first place.\nTo tell you the truth, you seem to have an issue with money, intellegence and you trying to defend yourself not being a social climber and a gold digger, makes me wonder.\nBut it is your life.  You are in love and she doesn't have a say in anything.  She had her turn to say yes to the man she loves, now it is your turn (and her son's turn).\nGo on with the wedding.
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why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
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her husband made a committment to her and she to him--and you honoured that committment-- \n\nthe son has no such commttment--he has responsibilities perhaps and choices and evn an honour to keep-- that relationship is defined through time-- and your friendship is the based very much the same to your friend-as the sons is to his mother\n\nhowever -at no such time was there an unwritten rule that you must honour some committment of fidelity between son and mother. And nor can the mother equate the two as the same.\nshe can have dissappointment with son or you and even see it as a wrong,but she can not say it is the same as sleeping with her husband.It is different .And therefore,must be talked about on a different level.\n\nsanctity of marriage vows or the marriage itself was not compromised.\n\nthis is a personal matter - not a matter of all that is holy.\n\nand that is the way it should be discussed.\nmy view anyway\ncheers\n\np.s--things happen-- i don't think you are stupid -you could be many things(good or bad)-- however- the only wrong i could see-- other than son being under the age of consent(which i doubt)-- is if you don't consider your friends feeling-- even though mother-son relationship may not be actually sacred-- you can't blame her for seeing it as so-- therefore,it would be good if you cansee her sense of hurt and loss and possibly betrayal-- perhaps if you understand this feeling - you will be able to explain that your action was not meant as a betrayal -even though it may seem as one-- but rather -- a situation which occured and hurt her--rather than one that was planned to hurt her.\n\nperhaps some form of acceptance can be found--\nbut it may tAKE TIME or at least a clear understanding and bnot a conversation that turns into debate of right and wrong.\nand in truth-- if he is of age -- then morally and legally  you have done nothing wrong\nin terms of ethics and choice--well opiions will differ. i think the motivation would be an important factor - and the consideration of anothers feelings-- if it was something callous with disregard-- or something by hapenstance and events.\nmy view--again\ncheers
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i don't know where to begin....my mother in-law ate the top of my wedding cake while my husband and i were on our honeymoon, therefore we did not even have a piece to save in the freezer for our first anniversary, the wedding cake was a gift from my husbands aunt (so my mother in-law never even paid for it, which would have made it a little more understanding) also, right before we got married and i was trying on my dress she made the comment that my husbands first wife was busty and could not have fit her chest in a dress like mine. she also made the comment that if my husband and his ex were still together they'd have another baby by now..... the list continues on... i swear that woman needs to stick a foot in her mouth.
878149
I've always wondered about that. But no. I don't think its wrong. A bit wierd yes, seeing as their legally part of your family now, but not wrong.
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I AM A VERY YOUNG LADY WHO IS MARRYED TO A MAN WITH DOWN SYNDROME, WHO I HAD TO FIGHT TO BE WITH HIM BECASUE MY FAMILY THOUGHT THAT WE WOULD END UP GETTING HURT, BY GETTING MARRYED .SO ONE DAY I CALLED UP MY HUSBAND NOW BACK THEN AND TALKED TO HIS MOM AND I TOLD HER THAT I LOVE YOUR  SON AND THAT I WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH HIM, AND SHE SAID WHAT ANOUT YOUR PARENTS? I SAID" WHAT ABOUT MY PARENTS", I WOULD TELL THEM IN A COUNCELING MEETING I HAD. PEOPLE THOUGH I WAS GETTING MARRYED TO MY HUSBAND TO GET CLOSE TO HIS MOM AND I WAS ONLY MARRYING HIM BECASUE I LOVED HIM WITH ALL MY HEART AND MY SOUL. WE ARE NOW GOING TO BE MARRYED THIS AUGUEST FOR 12 YEARS. WE HAVE ALOT OF STUFF IN LIFE YET WE WANT TO HAVE ONE BABBY AND THEN TO US WOULD MAKE OUR FAMILY COMPLETE TO US. BOTH MY HUSBAND AND I LOVE TO BE AROUND CHILDREN AND THEY LOVE US ALSO.
634931
I recommend moving away from the mother-in-law.  I joined the Navy to make moving easier...and more frequent.
477430
I think his mother is scheming to pretend to disown him to find out whether you're a gold digger should you leave him (after he's "disowned"), then she'll have a point to prove to her son to justify why she doesn't like you and thinks you're wrong for her son and that you're only after the money. Women can be canniving like that. I mean, other than that, I don't know why else she would want to disown her only son unless she wants all the money to herself - which proves she's not a very good mother. So this means if I were you, I wouldn't give a rat's @$$ about her because this is really showing her true colors. Don't let someone like that ruin your happiness. If you know deep in your heart that you love your fiance and that you are definitely not going after the money, you two should go on with the wedding and be happy together. If you ask me, this will anger the mom even more and THAT is satisfying! :)
484401
Gosh my mother in law moved in with us last year and was here for 9 months 10 days. The day she moved out was awesome. I like the lady but can not live with her.. Get out and get your own place.