I started to date this guy that has bipolar. How can I help him with his mood swings and how can i make uswork
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Suggest he begin a regular exercise routine and eliminate processed, sugared foods from his diet. This is a good start. If this doesn't help suggest he look into medications so that these can help him control his mood swings, but have him do his homework on this very thoroughly and carefully, because the side effects of some drugs can be worse than the condition itself. Also, it would be good for him to get plenty of rest and see a mental health expert.
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Communication is the key element in all relationships. Talk to him in a non-attacking manner and tone. Start all sentences with "I feel". That always helps. The second he feels attacked, he will tune you out. That way he can only respond to how you feel and not what he may or may not be doing in your eyes. Good luck.
299922
be there for her. be patient. we can't help our mood swings, we just need support. she doesn't really hate you.
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kytrailman gave some good advice.\nAny relationship is unique.  My wife was diagnosed as being bi-polar over 25 years ago.  We have been together for over 22 years.  Treatment is usually effective, but human support is also helpful.\nI do not know who told you that people with bi-polar condition  can not last in a relationship, but older studies of the condition (manic-depressives) usually listed this as one effect FOR UNTREATED patients.\nIf you love the person and the person is under treatment, then do not worry.  Just read something like the book mentioned above so you know what you are getting into.\nHey, and give kytrailman the points.
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I think most people are more concerned about the people they(truly) love than with their self when something like this happens.  You are probably very normal in what you feel.  If you didn't love him you wouldn't be so tired or anguished by this. Keep plugging along as best you can. As said before keep your own health (physical & emotional) or you'll be of little help to him.  Seek counseling if you need it, I feel you might.  Chesk my bipolar site for links to some very good medical resources.\nhttp://www.geocities.com/tls3123283/index\nThere are some good links to find support for you within them. Goodluck and God Bless
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
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Hi\n\nPlease keep these people at a distance. Call your local mental health clinic and hook up with a therapist as soon as possible. People with Bipolar tend to isolate and become emotionally vulnerable. If you are not on meds may I suggest that you discuss this option with your counselor as well? I also have Bipolar and know others who have it. You cannot save the world and you need to find a new set of people who will be supportive of you - support group maybe?
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I've been where your boyfriend is right now. Let him know that you care about him and be there when he needs you. He's got to WANT to get better and that is extremely difficult for someone suffering from depression. Even if the sufferer can manage to make him/herself care enough to take the meds, the meds have to be in the system for quite a while before they start having a noticable effect - they have to maintain the sense of self-preservation long enough to get there. Maybe you could establish a routine...stop by his place when it's time to take his meds - remind him gently... maybe leave your vitamins there so you can take your vitamins when he takes his meds. Therapy can help a lot, too. If he'll agree to go, take him if you can. I won't lie, this is going to be very hard, and I'm wishing you the best of luck. He's lucky to have someone who cares enough about him to put in the incredible effort it takes to help someone with depression.
62558
If he truly wants to be with you and you want to be with him, you should be able to work out whatever his issues are together.  Move on!
507311
sometimes people just need to get away. they need alone tmie to figure things out. and if he's going through personal stuff liek you mentioned, he needs time to figure things out. its natural that you might feel hurt, but its better to elave him be for a bit, because people are a bit explosive when they're in those moods. but once he gets through his problem, things should return to normal. dont sweat it.
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I have bipolar disorder with psychotic features. My partner does not. Will we be together for ever who knows. We have our struggles but we love each other so we will persevere. You may have a better understanding of your partners mental health issues, because you share a disorder, but you cannot predict the success or failure of your relationship based on that.\ngood luck. I hope it goes well for you. I have been married three times.\n\n\nre:if your parents have bipolar disorder you have a 70% chance of not getting it. for the people who suggest getting fixed and not having children,get real. They used to do that in the fifties to young women who were promiscuous, yes that's true apparently a woman in the fifties who enjoyed sex was potentially mentally ill. the ignorance of you people regarding mental illness is staggering. It is enough people with these illnesses are marginalized in our culture, now we should be getting neutered. what a wonderful world this is eh? read about what the Nazis did to the mentally ill during the Second World war, apparently some people do share your views.
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You gotta get his attention!\n\nDudes are dumb.  I am one, I know.  We do not pick up on hints, feelings, etc. as good as you would think or as good as we should.  Sometimes you can even talk to a dude about feelings and he will not grasp the level of pain it is causing you.  \n\nGet him in a place where he isn't concerned about work, the kids, household work, etc.  Make sure you are both in a good mood and not on the defensive...then tell him, and this is important, \n\nFirst:  How much you love him, want him, need him, want to spend the rest of your life with him.  (this is all good chit, but it will catch his attention)\n\nSecond:  Tell him what a great father he is, how proud you are of how hard he works.  Tell him you understand his stress level, etc. \n\n3rd:  Tell him that you cannot live without the kissing, hand holding, him holding your head at night, playing with your hair, whatever it is that he used to do and he really likes.  \n\nYou will want to keep the mood light so you might throw in that some humor like that you may just be a silly girl or that you are needy and what not, but then tell him that those things mean more to you than he will ever know, (because that is the truth, men are dumb, remember). \n\nNo matter what, this is going to hurt him.  He will hurt because: he will beat himself up for not being perfect, he will be upset that you didn't tell him earlier; he will be upset because he thought he was doing anything and everything to be the perfect husband and father; he will also be upset because no one wants to be told they are doing a bad job, especially at the job they care about the most.  Because he is hurt, he may become a bit defensive and point out all the great things he does.  This is normal.  You should probably agree with him, but then remind him that those things make him a great man and father, but these little things are what brings the sparkle to your eyes.  \n\nI think it is very important that this conversation happens in the middle of a date type situation and followed up with an evening of affection.\n\nAfter you have the talk, you need to set aside a certain amount of time a night for you two to spend alone.  Maybe it isn't every night, (I dont know the work situation), but it needs to happen. Even if it is just 20 minutes of holding your head while you watch the news, or maybe you rub his back, whatever it is, but that will set a routine of affection.  If he starts to slip, call him on it.  If he continues to slip, write him an email with your feelings without attacking him.  If he still doesn't get it, get back with me!
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For a woman, I guess it would be like dating to a woman instead of a man.\n\nFor a man, how would we tell the effects of bipolar from the normal moodiness, hormones & pms?
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Be sincere...!!! Just tell him that you're sick for the time being & you can't see or date with him. And, if he don't believe you, just ask him to come over to see your condition. I believe he would be understand. Don't be afraid to be sincere. Because, it's   the best way to make people like you...!!! :-) Wish you well soon...!!!
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Call him and invite him over.  If he refuses or is cold toward you then you have to move on...\n\nThe fact that he is moody is already a red flag.  Do you really want to deal with an emotional roller-coaster ride with him?
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Honey, he is classic bi-polar.  They think they are "ok" and stop the meds cause they "don't need them".  It will never change.  It will always be the same for you, sad to say.  But be encouraged, because it's not your fault.  None of it.  If he gets out of line again, have his ass comitted.  Put him in lock down or something or get out of the relationship.  I know how you feel (personal experience) and you will always be the blame for everything.  Bi-polars have no empathy for anyone and it's all about "them".  If you don't have children, leave.  If you do, it's just a matter of time before you do leave.  Godloveya and prayers for your strength.
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You could have mood swings that are entirely mormal if you live with a man or someone else that is abusive.\nOn the other hand if some days you are really depressed and other days you are hyper and don't need more than a few hours of sleep and your thoughts race and you talk nonstop and you are super confident and on top of the world then you could be manic.\nThe only way to tell is to go to a psychiatrist who treats bipolar patients and let him evaluate you.\nJust having your husband say you have bipolar if he is not a psychiatrist is a way for him to verbally abuse you.\n\nI suggest you read "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" which is available on http://www.amazon.com .\nIt will explain exactly how statements like this are abusive and tell you how to handle it.