I need to make myself clear to my mom,how do i do that without being rude or mean and to get the point across.
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As a Mother of 4 children fron ages 25 to 9 yrs old, & with out knowing how old you are. I would suggest the older mature road. I know my self, that if my 17 yr comes to me with a "I'm right & i will be heard additude" I shut down. When they come to me calmly & mostly talk about incommon stuff. See what type of mood shes in, then if the time is right, Just planly say " Mom I realy would like to talk to you & would like you to hear what i am saying. 95% that  will open a line between you too where she will be able to hear you. I can not say that you will get what you want, But If not for any other other reason you have showed her that you are able to communacate with her on a more mature level.. Trust me that will help you down the road.. I hope i have given you a little help..
501377
Don't worry..she probably doesn't mean it. She'll take it back later. My mom has told me that a few times.
1080957
go down and get some baby power and some food dye the brightest color you can find and turn the powder that color dress in all white the powder your self clothes and hair everything this one color. in a demanding way enter where your mom and new b/f are kissing and say in a firm voice mom I think we need to talk. I am sure she will give you some time to voice your concerns.
612908
Mom I'd like to f u ck
557176
I understand very well.  \n\nWhy are you so concerned with being polite?  She is not being very polite when she helps herself to your things, especially since you've already told her how you feel.  \n\nNow it's time to stop being polite so she can absorb the message that you have boundaries just like everyone else.  \n\nBe very firm this time and don't go into explanations that make it seem you're half afraid to tell her - and say "This time, I'm telling you, not asking......Leave my things alone. Then walk away and don't let her run that silly little I-am-your-friend game on you.  Adults need to be treated like adults.\n\nI'm sure it will work this way.\n\nGood luck.
683269
buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
40740
Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.
1050946
well it is ur life and ur an adult so ur mom has 2 get used 2 the fact that ur ganna move away sometime u should ease her into it tell her that u will visit her and u will call her and then she can go somewere diffrent 2 visit u good luck
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You should step up and be that medium. Be the peace maker. Let your mother have her way. She loves you and only wants to protect you. If you feel an argument coming on about something try to listen to what she has to say. You don't have to believe her or even understand her. Parents just want their kids to listen to what they have to say. I thin kthat it is possible to get along with your parents. I do most of the time. Find something you both enjoy doing and do t together. Like shopping!
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family relations are internal. don't expose it others. be patient. love your mother. explain your feelings to her. tell her to be your guide and philosopher  for better life. still if she feels not wait till she cooperates with you.
327475
You and your Mom don't get along? Is that something you want. Decide whether you want to keep her in your life and if so, tell her how you feel...that a relationship with her is important to you, etc.
689440
Like you, I have a mother who insists upon providing me with far more "wisdom" than I might care to enjoy.  It gets frustrating, but you have to look at it from her perspective, as well as your own.\n\nFirst off, remember that by warning you about her mistakes, your mom is acknowledging that she made mistakes and trying (albeit misguidedly) to make up for them, which is more than most people do.  Second, remember that her warnings are primarily critiques of her own life, and not yours.  She would feel terrible if she failed to warn you about the things she experienced, and later in life, found that you needlessly went through the same traumas she did.  Third, be assertive and let her know, kindly, that you were there with her when she experienced many of the mistakes that she is warning you about, and that, with or without warnings, you have learned from the mistakes of her past.\n\nFinally, let her know that you appreciate her desire to help you, but that if she wants to truly help, she should imagine the helpful friend, rather than the wise friend she wishes she had had, because what you need far more than advice is practical, hands-on assistance.  And don't be afraid to follow your request with contact that is at least partly connected to the extent with which she complies with your request.  Good luck.
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if you wanted something new and she knew it confront her nicly, instead of being on the defense try saying  mom, i feel left out because you gave my sister what she wanted but i got her old _______. I just want to be treated equally.    that works for me and im 13 so it might work for you   good luck!
141009
Tell her calmly after some good news, so she'll be so happy with the other thing that she wont really pay attention to that. Tell her how great he is and introduce them sometime, but tell him to act like a gentleman and not to try to act up, cause I don't think your mom will like that.
202917
Maybe you should say, "Mother, I am growing up and I need a little bit of space to be my own person.  Please let me do what my instincts tell me to do instead of yours."  With a smile and hopefully she'll understand!\n\n*&#92;O/*
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Do not comment on the subject when your mother begins to question or criticize, especially if you are not a part of it.  You might try going to another part of the house or sitting on the porch or in the backyard when they get started.  Practice answering only questions or statements made directly to you.  You are really not required to finish arguments started by other people, parents or otherwise. If she has a legitimate gripe with another family member, let the two of them settle it.
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Talk to her...first you need to be honest with yourself if you your usually a bad kid, acknowledge that and tell her how much it hurts you to see you dissapoint her and therefore want help to change. If your whine alot and complain about the world, and claim everything is everyone else fault (which if you are your probably like nope...not me =)) lol, but if she says you are talk to her about the future and how you're maturing and realized that you have to take control and except responsibilities. If your a pretty decent kid though but I guess she doesn't like your BF I honestly think you should listen to her reasons why whether you think she "knows him", if thier superficial reasons like he's not your race or too poor or some bull like that then your mom's an @-- (sry to say) but therefore has no more credibilty on her opinions of people. If it's because your BF is too old, a dog, something like that, your mom has wisdom and experience and trust me she IS right. I don't really know what you n your mom's problem is so I tried touching on random things, hopefully some of thoserandom thing's hit you and it helped, thanks and I hope you and your mom works things out, a girl no matter how old, can never live without her mother =)