How do people do evil deeds then go home & love  their families like nothing has happened?
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Ever heard of the word "hypocrite"?
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Running Away?\n\nSometimes in life anyone of us may want to run away and solve our problems by leaving them behind. The facts are that our problems are following us, unless we solve them.\n\nWhatever it is that happens in your family and makes you feel like running away, it may be something you can help to solve.\n\nWhy not call a family conference. Write or print out the rules and give them to everyone in the family. Find a time when everyone living in the house can attend.\n\nRules may be:\n1 One person speaks at a time (you may even use a talking stick as the Native Americans do. The one who holds the rod, speaks, the others listen).\n2 Everyone may state the facts of how he or she feels within this family. This is expressed by, "When you say this, I feel like ..." Not, "You always do, or say..." This is accusation and should be avoided.\n3 Everyone may state their wishes.\n4 Everyone may state something positive about the others.\n5 Everyone who has a solution may say so.\n6 Only when everyone has been heard, a common and may be temporary solution may be formulated that pleases everyone somehow and should be agreed to by everyone living in the house.\n\nRegular family conferences should be held, at least once a week and whenever there is a conflict.\n\nYou may be surprised how bad others in the family feel about the present situation. The family conference may start to clear issues so that everyone in the house may feel better, more loved and appreciated. \n\nYou may want to try to help your family have a happier family life. If you cannot get through to them you may want to talk to/call a counselor or a married priest.\n\nWishing you a happy family life which you and everyone in your family deserves!\nCordially, India.Magica
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this family I know moved to a fifty acre place they bought, one night they noticed people around a fire at the lake, they called the police, they wouldnt go down there,there witchs. we dont mess with them. he asked them to leave, they wouldnt then, they came back.he called me. we went down there with our rifles and shotguns and they no longer CAN come back.. the evil bastards. well. actually they never left, true story. I am afraid of noone nor anything.when You die, the demons will drag you to hell. my brother is evil. I saw demons flying around his bed when I was four years old, there was a green light in the room, I screamed but no sound came out.
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Do you mean the perfect life that society wants you to live?\nThat's easy:..get married, have kids, don't drink, don't smoke, becomes a good christian/or whatever religion./never divorce/have a seemingly happily ever after life until you die\n\nOr your very own perfect life?\nLearn to accept the bad along with the good. We always want more than what we have. We always only see what we want to see. You yourself determine your destiny. No one else. If you think that you have a perfect life, you will. If you think you are a screwup, then you are one. There is no one right answer to this question.
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My family is the perfect family.  We all have our setbacks (some still living at home, divorce, children out of wedlock, some out of work for a while, arguements with husbands/ wives, etc.) BUT- We all are close (including children's children) and we love each otherSO MUCH.  We see each other often.  We still are corrected by our parents.  We live pretty close by to each other.  We all go to church.  God is the center of our lives.  We argue for a few seconds.  We laugh.  We are extremely loyal, giving & kind.  There are lots of us.  We help each other out.  Our children are actually friends and not just cousins.  We treat each other's homes as if it is our own home.  We cook for each other.  We voice for each other.  We defend each other.  We cry to each other.  We talk on the phone.  We go out together.  We vacation together.  We do favors for each other.  We help with each other's businesses.  We borrow each other's stuff.  We are loud & noisy.      \nThis is only a small explanation of my perfect family.  I hope that I raise a family exactly like my parents did.  I always pray for this.
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When loved ones depart, it's always hard. If I was you, \nI would spend as much quality time with my partner, have plenty of photo's for them to take. And try to asure them\nyou are behind them 200%. And you will always, be there, when they get back. I always try to make them feel loved.
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Years ago i was riding in the car with my aunt, who seemed to have the perfect family.  I had 5 cousins, they lived in a beautiful house, everything seemed to run like clockwork, nice clothes, sports, happy mealtimes.  My parents were divorced and my mother was mentally ill.  I asked my aunt why my family was so messed up, and hers was so perfect.  She replied that every family has its problems.  \nYears later I learned of their problems.  It was true.\nEvery family has their problems.\n\nBut, family is the best thing we have, isn't it?  We just need to rise to the challenge and love and help each other as best we can.
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I don't believe we can. Man has become sinful. It's impossible for us to go back to a perfect society without God's help.\n\nWe're too dependent on money.\nToo jealous of others.\nHold too many grudges and are usually unwilling to forgive.\nWe fear not having control of what we have.\nIt's too easy being selfish.
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Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
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Wow, I hope this isn't real. But, Something tells me it is... Answer? GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE! There is a whole world out there that doesn't involve ANY of your family members....Grow up and get out. And NO!! This is not your fault!!
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The power of forgiveness is amazing.  It is the hardest thing to do but has amazing results when you do it.  It may just seem like the "religious" thing to do, but you need to release that burden of the past and put it back on them. When you don't forgive someone it only hurts you-- not them.  So let it go-- the best you know how.  I am a christian but I have seen the power of forgivness in my family who is athesist.  God Bless you and I hope that you don't have to live in this forever.  :)
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We should not give with the intention of getting something back. The kindness we give to others is also a gift to ourselves.  If you feel that the people whom you are interacting with are not returning your kindness then you are with the wrong people.  Family is not a guarantee of kindness or loving or caring.\n\nWe are all alone in this world in some respects.  I am alone too.  \n\nThe first thing to do is to stop feeling sorry for yourself.  Stop making this the focus of your life.  There is more to life than this.  If you get busy and put it behind you, you may be amazed what happens.  Put a smile on your face.  No one wants to be around a dreary person who is feeling sorry for themselves.  Nothing will happen quickly but things will turn for the better if you start to feel better about yourself.  That is where the answer lies.  You must do the work on yourself first.  No one makes us happy.  We have to do that for ourselves.  No one makes us unhappy.  We allow that to happen.
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I tried to do the same thing. It never worked. After I gave up this happened to me.\n\n\nSeveral years ago I had an unusual experience concerning an uncle, a distant relative who lived over a thousand miles away. \n\nWhile driving my car I suddenly felt the unmistakable presence of this relative that I hardly even knew. He was more like someone I had heard about than someone I knew. It was very strange; it felt as though I was momentarily lifted right out of my physical body. I seemed to be suspended somehow beyond space and time, bathed in a love so intense It felt like I could have just disappear into it at any moment if It would have let me. It only lasted for a few seconds, but it seemed to last forever at the same time. I realize how crazy this must sound. The experience was so strong that at first I was afraid I was loosing my grip on reality. I finally managed to chalk it up to an over active imagination.\n\nThree days later I got a call from my aunt telling me that this uncle we are talking about had gone into a coma and died the day I had the experience. It felt like ice water had been poured down my back when she told me this. I had lost any real ideas of God or faith and had become somewhat of an atheist. Needless to say this experience caused me to rethink some of the conclusions I had come to. \n\nI feel blessed to now understand that even in our darkest confusion something loves us so much that it went out of its way to assist me and bring me back to a state of absolute certainty about Gods love for us.\nDuring the experience it seemed like there was a vast amount of information that I was somehow allowed access to. One thing that I came away from this experience understanding beyond any shadow of a doubt was that any Idea that God is unhappy with us or would judge or allow us to be punished for any reason is simply impossible. \n\nI can’t explain the love I felt with words. They simply don’t make words big enough or complete enough to do this. The only way I can begin to convey this love to you is to say that there was simply nothing else there. Nothing but love. No hint of judgment, no displeasure of any sort. It is as though God sees us as being as perfect as we were the day we were created. It is only in our confused idea of ourselves that we seem to have changed.\n\n I hope this is of some help to you. Good luck. Love and blessings. \n\nYour brother don
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Your Family, will never guide you wrong, they always try to tell you right, and always try to keep you from messing up. Freinds do to, But your family has been here and done it and lived it. I wish a thousand times that I would have listed when they told me not do do something or said that you'll wish you had of.
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My parents own a company and have hired a lot of different types of people - from fellows to bums (my dad wants to save the world).  There is one guy in particular that is practically a member of the family now that has really turned his life around after spending 12 years in prison for murder.  He goes to church, has a great job (not working for us any longer) and is one of the nicest people you will meet.  \n\nThey don't all do it but they are out there.
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my husband doesn't understand it either he's like things are so much better on the other side ( i dont go to church) I dont believe it, the thought of not seeing the people i love my son, his kids his grand kids my friends never seeing them never being here its awful,.....its scary. BUT i try not to think about it i take things one day at a time and live everyday as  the best day of my life. I do things w/ my family and my son.
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NO way in hell!!!!that is family and family always comes first, anyone who is willing to turn their back on their family will turn on you.