How to protect yourself from the pain of love?
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The pain of rejection is temporary. You feel it now because the wound is fresh. But wounds always get better with time. However bad it has been losing this guy for you, you will surely get over it. Because, pain is always temporary.\nWhereas, the joy of true love, when you do find it, is permanent. It is an eternal paradise. You have already had a glimpse of it. Just imagine how wonderful it would be if such a joy lasted forever. So dont think the pain is not worth bearing. It is. Not just once or twice but as many times it takes. Never lose faith in true love. Just because one person struck hollow, doesnt mean every other guy will. The only way to be happy is to believe that there is good and happiness and it is attainable.\nThere is no way you can protect yourself from this sort of pain. It is a part of life. But so is the happiness. Someday it will be yours. All you have to do is hang in there, especially during the delicates moments like the ones you're going through now. Dont lose hope.. the world is a beautiful garden with many wonderful flowers.\nYou'll find your rose. Time is all it takes.
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Cry as much as you need too. Reach out to others. Believe you aren't going to die from a broken heart and when you are ready keep your heart open to receiving lots of love and good wishes from others.
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Simple. Love does not hurt...you may be attracted to a person you think you like but it hurts sometime..then it isnt love..he are some thing to consider:Love \n1.Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love. \n\n2.Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.\n\n3.Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring. \n\n4.Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself. \nIf somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love. \n\n5.It is very easy to confuse lust for love. \n\n6.The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction. \n\n7.It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about your feelings and confusion.\n \n8.Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory. \n\n9.Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person or your desirability. \n\n10.Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated
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Here's the thing. When you fall in love with someone, there is no getting rid of them or forgetting them. They will always be there in your head. Now yes you do get over the fact that it hurts eventually, but you never forget them. Love is that special thing that when you share it with someone it essentially is always there. \n\nNow i know that everyone will tell you things like: relax, just get over it, take a bath, read a book, or go to God. More or less you just have to figure it out on your own regardless of what people will say here. Because dealing with heartache, its a natural part of life, its the bad side effect of love. But if i was to offer my best advice, i would say that you should chalk it up to experience. Count it as a learning experience, so every time you start to think about him just think about what you learned from the situation, how it will make you a stronger person, and how it will help you in the future. Love is a big part of everyone's life, and it shouldn't be forgotten, even when its bad. Best of luck in your hard times...
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life goes on and we all get hurt... let ur guard down because you cant  live your life affraid to love someone because you got hurt before.   dont close the doors to new and wonderful people! it would be the biggist mistake you ever make. ..life is a risk...live it!
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well the answer is: DON'T.\n\nIt's hard, but If you truly cannot be with someone you feel this way about, then loving them will only bring pain.  Moving on is the only way.  Spend time with friends.  Go on a trip.  Spend time on a hobby you enjoy.  These won't make you feel better right away.  But it's all you can do to occupy your mind with something other than the person you cannot be with.  Someday, someone else will love you and it will be someone who you CAN be with.
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When there is love involved, there is no way to avoid the hurt and pain.  The best thing you can do is just be honest and truthful about how things have to be.  Don't place blame, and don't back down from what you feel.  It simply is how things are and there is no room for debate.
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Different peoples, Different point of view about love...\n\nfor me..When LOVE is pure.. its unconditional.. u always give and not expecting in return.. always give in some time u will think "i have nothing to give" but it always has feeling to give.. and forgive.. even how deep is the pain and hurt it will be okay.. the more u stand still no matter how trials come.. how u hold him/her when the storm is hitting u so bad.. the more u sacrifice that more u feel love in ur heart.. When there is too much burden and worries.. and ur eyes are full of tears.. and when he/she/hey came and hug u tight and tell "i love you, things will be okay" it seems like there is nothing to worry, feels like im in safe place.. im protected.. \n\nLove is the feeling that is hard to recognise at first and when u have it.. its difficult to let go..
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So are you brave. Do you have a mouth. Communication is the key to any relationship. If you want to know , be brave and go ask and get it straightened out. Tell the person they are hurting you. Then at least you will feel better that you did something about it instead of sitting back feeling bad. You can't stop people from doing things. They have their own will and have to live with what they think, say and do. So do you. It is not what you say but how you say it. Remember that. Also remember , it takes two people to fight. It is easy to Love those who love you back but it is harder and take more strength to Love those and forgive those who persecute you.\nRev. TomCat
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Ignore them, and act like you love them, even if you don't and just remember that you're there for a paycheck for yourself and your family. And remember to smile, even if it hurts!
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cause someone to love you??!!  1). love yourself 2). be yourself  3). enjoy who and what you are 4). be honest with yourself and the desire of your affection  5). don't be a slave to the idea of love, causing someone to love us is not something that should compromise yourself and your self respect.
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i definitely use my creativity on how to get even!!!\n\nhahaha! hope not to come this far because the one we love always hurt us the most...\n\nlearn to let go...\n\nit's not easy to 4give nor 4get but simply letting go and accepting the fact of losing the person you cherished and leave you badly hurt can weaken you...\n\nbe tough and face the reality.
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respect.\nrespect is one of the most important relationship dynamics you can have, love is obviously #1, but without respect youve got nothing, even in spite of love sometimes.\n\nrespect his wishes and his bounderies. he may really need this time, its understandable that you want to do something other than sit back and watch him hurt, but you must remember, you have no control over this situation or him, just let him know youll be there.\ni think if it is meant to be between you both he will appreciate your respect and strength in the end and things will be fine.\ngood luck and God bless.
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well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .
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I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
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Drop what you are doing, go to a quiet, private spot, preferably scenic, and take a moment to reflect on people you loved and lost.   Remember some fond memories, have a good cry, think how lucky you were to have known these precious people. When your done, go up to the person you love the most and tell that person what they mean to you. You will not regret taking this action. By doing this periodically, you gain an even greater appriciation for those in your life that care. Deep down, people will feel blessed by you and not know why.
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Know that as time passes by the pain will lesson. You always feel the void and nothing will fill its place but the pain is lessened with time. Allow grief to be. Allow memories to flow. Remembering can hurt but also help you heal. Talking about your parent will hurt also but will help you to keep their memory vivid. Don,t fear your emotions but know that they are normal. Keep yourself busy because when its somethings that's hurting you too much thinking time can be harmful. Remember that you are not alone in this emotion.