what is wrong with being fat, we need love to?
103604
there is nothing wrong with being fat, if you are fat and healthy.\nwe all need love, doesn't matter what our size.
1048235
I think people say that because in all things there must be balance.  You must seek balance in yourself - if you devote everything to one thing, what suffers?  Enjoy what you love, fuel your passions... just stick your head out every once in a while to see what else is going on.
879585
I have seen a documentary a couple of years ago about men being attracted to fat women. One guy, I recall, was claiming that fat is addictive in the sense that the fatter his partner the fatter he was seeking the next time. I do not have the capacity to judge if this is a question of taste or a mental disorder but as far as I know there are clubs of such fans of fat partners
388449
If you feel the need to make fun of another human being, then I feel it means you are unhappy with yourself.  One cannot possibly get any feeling of accomplishment when they demean another and make them feel worthless or less than.  People who criticize the overweight have unresolved issues of their own and belong in therapy.  It matters not how or why a person is overweight (that is their own personal battle), what really matters is being kind and compassionate to others and you will more often then not; get the same in return.
507366
physically its not bad, but if talk aboul health... better avoid being one... the reason why girls don't want to be fat is that they are health consious.... and also, most men nowadays are driving them to be slim and sexy... almost all men today want those girls whose sexy and slim that's why...
946538
People gain weight for different reasons.  Some may simply be lazy and not care about their health or physical appearance.  Others may be depressed and use food as a comfort zone.  Others again may intentionally put on weight to make themselves unattractive to others so they are not hurt by a relationship going wrong(usually as a response to being hurt in the past)\n\nIt really depends on what their priorities and motivations are.  If they don't make their health and appearance a primary priority ultimately it will suffer.  Also note that it's one thing to be thin, it's entirely another to be healthy and fit.  You shouldn't link the two of them together.\n\nEdit/Addition: Actually numerous people here have answered your question.  It's not easy to just flick a switch in your head and reverse or change the things that are causing you to overeat or not exercise.  If it is a deeply traumatic issue that you have trouble dealing with usually it takes a LOT of work and a lot of motivation to break out of it.  The answer to your question is threefold:\n\n1. Some people are too emotionally depressed to make a change for the better and hence continue along the same self-destructive path OR\n2. They're medically ill and cannot help it (quite a rare case compared to the other 2 OR\n3.  They're too lazy\n\nHope that clears it up
489623
I hear you.  We Americans need to stop consuming so much (food, energy, products) and thinking only about ourselves and start thinking of others.  You're probably right when you say that so many around the world could be fed if we would just stop eating so much and learn to share what we have.\n\nOn the other hand, obesity is not just about eating.  It's about people using food to heal their emotional and psycological pain.  The problem with that is it's so temporary.  Whereas learning why we have the problems we have and how to solve them would be a tremendous turnaround in our society.\n\nIn spite of all the self-help books and talk shows out there, we are getting worse and worse.  We keep trying to heal ourselves, when what we really need to do is connect with the One who can heal us.
138889
you need to find a fat girl they love everyone
427968
I don't know\n\nthey should be obsessed with being healthy. i wanna be healthy\n\nn if someone says that being thin is healthy, i will not agree with that person
920624
No, but its one thing to be pleasantly plump and be morbidly obese. "Here honey, eat another 2 pints of Ben and Jerry's, because of love"(??)
995655
There is nothing wrong with loving a big gal. We all have different likes and dislikes.  I like bald men, anything wrong with that?
119474
Its the social stigma of "fat" girls....which sucks...people look down on you because you are bigger than the average norm or what people think is normal and it gets better when you are older...As long as you are happy with yourself and so what you are "big", "Fat", "overweight" etc. if someone can't love you for who you are or even like you then you dont need them and to me they are pretty shallow...Tell your girl Love yourself and the right guy will come along.
405727
i, too, am overweight and my husband tells me every day how beautiful i am and how much he loves me. don't doubt him or his love for you. embrace him and his love.
1136567
We are all striving for perfection because of all the tv ads, the magazines showing perfect women.  Men make up feel we have to be perfect also.  They check out the perfect ones, not the anorexic or heavy ones.  It is all because of our culture.  We should accept ourselves for who we are and if no one likes us, they aren't worth knowing.
587511
i also wish to put on weight its just not fair everything is about fat people wanting to loss weight. it is harder to put on weight than lose it. i have tried weight gainers if taken properly they can work or if you build muscle it can fill you out a bit, eat big meals and eat a lot before you go to bed.
1166269
theres no such thing as perfect or normal cause we are all differnt and differant people like differnt things some like bigger girls others smaller, with or without breasts it all depends on how ur happy with urself, cause we were born this way and we should be happy with that but in this world everyone is striving for "perfection" which noone will ever have cause there will always be something wrong no matter what we do. so the best thing we can do is except the way we/they are (as long as we are not doing harm to anybody) and just get on with life cause were not here for long and there are more important things to worry bout then how we look.
550970
They have to be fat in the right places, that's all.