what is the difference in the feelings behind the statements"I LOVE YOU" and"I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU."? can utell
103981
Loveing someone is a lot different than being in love with someone. loveing someone is like you care about them and would never hurt them. but being in love with someone makes you have a sparkle in your eye when you look at them and when they look at you and wanting to be with them all the time. but dont confuse that with infatuation. people who have been marries 50 years can love eachother a lot but they cant always be in love with eachother. Its takes a lot to stay in love with someone for such a long time but you'll love them unconditionally.
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I don't know if you strictly need to differentiate the two.\n\n  Love is a process that takes building a history, commonalities, shared intimacies, and mutual respect and support of another. Do you believe that in what I just wrote, that might equate to friendship as well?\n\n  Hopefully when love finally occurs, without being forced, friendship is a large part of the love base, and ongoing attitude.\n\n  Also Love has levels, IE: the love of a parent, sibling, wife, husband, boyfriend girlfriend, even self, and even though it's often irrational and difficult to define, we so often say the word as if we were saying "AND",,, or,,,"UM."\n\n  I see many questions here, asking, "I LOVE, what to do???"\n\n  Or "MY BEST Friend  did,,,,,, what to do?"\n\n  First of all, everyone obviously has different definitions for the word LOVE and it's emotional effects.\nI suggest it may be said that one loves, but it isn't truly instant, or may be it isn't even understood?\n\n  A BEST friend,,,so often said,,, MY closest Friend,,, They did something bad to me."\n\n  I suggest in those questions, that the "friend" truly isn't\n\n  If anyone must say to another, "I Love YOU" They should be prepared to either enjoy it as a process, grow into it, try to understand the concepts, and defining points, and/or prepare for the fact that it may not last eternally, or may be defined and expressed differently by the one we attach the word to.\n\n  My best suggestion would be ,,,DON"T,,, to strictly answer your question.\n\nRev. Steven
1111268
Being in love most times is temporary, when you love someone genuinely it has more potential to last. "In love" is intense - but tends to fade over time, genuine love grows over time.
1036396
In love means a situation and love is a verb which means action.
542011
Do you have two girlfriends?\n\nOK none of my business. \n\nWhen at all possible, phrase your statements as "I feel" statements (NOT "I feel you don't call")--I feel better when we talk everyday, I love knowing you're thinking about me too--rather than "you do" statements (even Why "you do" statements/ and especially not "you always/you never" statements). Those kinds of statements are sure to get a better reaction.\n\nIf you're the one replying--assume the best of people. Assume they care, and they're asking because they do. When in doubt, try this phrase "I'm sure you didn't mean that the way it sounded." It assumes the best, it gives them a chance to rephrase and it gives you the chance to calm down. If you have the phrase stuck in your head, you'll start to use it automatically when people say something "wrong." Maybe you won't even have to say it, you'll just know it and reply accordingly.\n\nTwo other points: Sometimes when people feel guilty about something, they get very touchy when confronted on it. And, I'm assuming the conversations are taking place in a language you both speak better than your English. (I don't want to offend you, but yeah, your grammar's a bit off, so I am only pretty sure I know what you mean, if you know what I mean? If you're carrying on an actual relationship in a language you're not fluent in, that's a whole other question.)
635442
Yes they mean less in a foreign language.  My girlfriend and I speak different languages natively, so we alternate on whether we speak of love in her language or in my language.  That way we both get to say and hear the words that mean the most to us.
220570
Let's make it simple, "I love you and I'm in love with you, what do you think that." when wait for your friend's answer.
345574
I have been successful, but I've waited until I felt really right.  There is a differnce between LOVE and INFATUATION.  You might have said "I love you" to a guy, when really you were just still in the infatuation stage.  If you have been with your current boyfriend for almost 2 years, I think it is time for you to say it.  He might just be waiting for you to say it first.  Maybe he feels the same way as you do about saying I love you.  Either say it, or actually TALK to him about it.  Be like "I really feel like I love you, but I don't want to say it and make you uncomfortable.  How do you feel about it?"  Hope this works!
888644
One says "I love you" the other says "I want you"
536141
loving someone is getting to know them and truly caring about them.  being in love with someone puts a shield over you and u feel like life is perfect, but sometimes are in for a rude awakening.
409695
i think loving someone is when u like to spend time with that person and enjoy their company and have feelings for that person,,and in love is when u care abt someone,,,when their problem hurt u aswell.u wanna be there for them in their good and bad times...
256307
Why, are you in love with me?
27796
I told someone I loved them and you feel it in your heart when you say it. You can't say I love you unless you get that tingle in your body when you see, or talk to them and when that happens you are in love.
200420
well there's love and there's infatuation but i suppose there's similarities between them.  love is not just smiling to yourself when you think about the person and it's also not just wanting to spend more time with the person...it's deeper.  love is when you want to be with that person forever and you care about that person so much that you would die for them.  it is when they cry, you feel like crying and when they laugh, you join in.  love is when you can tell the person everything and trust them and depend on them for everything.
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Love is a HUGE word. It implies very serious things. There is a tremendous difference between like and love. Love is very very exlusive, and very extreme. Example: We grow up learning we love our parents. It's hard for us to tell a girl we like that we consider her to be equal to the people who brought us onto this earth and have raised us our entire lives. To be honest, I have found that girls are equally hesitant to say it. Love is a big deal. The word should not be thrown around.
302427
Neither.  Either phrase comes across as love is a condition.  I believe that love is unconditional.\n\nSo if one's intent is to use love for a purpose, then the first phrase conveys it more so than the second phrase.
457274
you know you are in love when you love someone the way you want to be loved.  You know you are loved when someone loves you the way they want to be loved.