How is life as Single Military Man/Woman in comparison to Single and Civilian?
116749
Uhh more money and responibilty as most of peers same age. lets see...Dress uniform.or mcdonalds uniform...someone who traveled across town..or somewone who has been around the world. Single in civilian live...go party with dudes and drink warm budwiser in the can...Single military..go party with dudes and drink cold german beer with dudes in a biergarden in germany
263823
ok well i am not a spouse yet but i have been with a military man for 3 years now in that time he has gotten out and then back in...we moved to his home state where his parents were and just couldnt make it so he got back in...once you are in its hard to get out and make a living for yourself...and when someone does i give them all the credit in the world because we couldnt
244319
After almost 20 years of service between 3 separate branches of the military I can tell you the pros and cons are as different as night and day. In many cases they can be the same thing. Travel for instance  Pro- You get to go to places where most people will never get to visit. Con - You might be visiting with the intentions of having to fight, kill or be killed. That is just one area to look into. There are others, but my suggestion is look inside yourself and see if you really have the desire to SERVE your fellow countrymen or are you just doing it for the "benefits". If its for the paycheck or the schooling or other benefits you Will be miserable most of the time. If you are here to try and "make a difference", All I can say is GO FOR IT! The worse that can happen is you quit or die. Everyone dies, but not everyone truly lives. Take a chance!
7085
It depends on how much time you like to spend out in the field. If you do,any Infantry or Law Enforcement MOS. Myrtle Beach is a great place to be in the miltary, especially the Army because it's mostly Marines & sailors that go there. All the women are tired of being hit on by them, so you'll have an advantage.
1029602
i have a friend who's husband is security forces, he deploys alot but then again he is an officer, not sure if that makes a difference.  if i  were you though i'd count on being deployed with that job.
657348
My husband is active duty, but is able to retire because he has served 20 years. I enjoy being an officers wife. He is often gone, which is a down side, but during those times I am able to bond with my girlfriends. As stated in a previous message when he returns it feels like we are newlyweds. I also enjoy the constant moving. If you move to a place that you dont like, it's no big deal because you know that in two or three years you will be gone. I work also and when he is not home I do not have to rush home to make sure that his dinner is prepared properly and the house is in proper order.
876938
I'm in the Air Force. I like my job. I load bombs, missiles and do mechanical and electrical work on the F-15 fighter jet. It's a great job with better people. I like the "military life-style". it's really no different than a regular job. You go to work (although sometimes you work 12hr days or have to wear chem gear to work) and then you go home. There are co-workers and bosses and pay checks. It's a great community. If you want me to tell you more IM me. If I had it my way, I'd be a Marine, but I have a husband.\n\nThere are all sorts of jobs in every branch. Everything from being a regular doctor in a hospital, dentist, computer geek, cafiteria chef, all sorts.... not everyone in the military goes to a war zone. My friend is getting out soon. He's served his 4 years and has never been deployed (going to a war zone) or been TDY. I don't think he even left the US.\n\nP.S. basic training isn't hard! I actually had fun. If you're in shape and mature (or at least can follow a simple instruction) you'll have fun. I've heard of tons of tohers who have had fun there too. It's only 6 and 1/2 weeks anyway (air force)
667331
I have been Active Duty (single), Dual Military, and now a Military Dependent.  All combined, I have been part of the military in one way or another for 16 yrs now, and honestly, you have jerks in all walks of life (in and out of uniform). \n\nSome spouses try to wear their AD spouses rank.  Some AD members think that all spouses are stupid and don't deserve common courtesy (simply because they are a person, not because of anyone's rank).  \n\nSome military members think that all spouses (generally aimed at the wives) are "groupies" (as seen in one of the posts here), without ever considering that maybe we love the person our spouse is, and that the military is just part of who that person is.  Some wives (and, for that matter, some AD men), seem to think that every single woman in the military is some tramp who's having sex with every guy she works with, without ever considering that not only does it "take two to tango", but that getting in some military guy's pants is a pretty stupid reason to enlist (I have yet to meet someone who enlisted for that reason), and that even IF it was, there are more than enough single guys to go around they don't need the married ones.\n\nBasically, no one group has the corner on being an idiot, or being rude.\n\nAs far as them trying to pull their husband's rank, that's pretty stupid, because any military member who has enough rank to do anything about it isn't going to be stupid enough to jepordize their career that way.  \n\nThough I do have to say that there was a time (after I got out of the military) that I did really upset a Jr. Enlisted guy.  I did NOT try to wear my husband's rank or any of that garbage, but I also didn't let him pull any cra p with me.  We had just bought a new car, and we lived in housing.  I had my ID, proof of purchase, temp tags, a temp pass, and a letter from our insurance company.  But the guy standing the gate was saying he couldn't let me on base, because "I didn't have my sponsor with me", and he wouldn't get his supervisor.  I kept saying I have an ID and I LIVE here!  Under whose orders are you saying I can't get on base?  He finally let me in "just this once", and I did tell my husband about it, and he did call his CMC, who did call and talk to the Lt in charge of Security.  Come to find out, the order was that if you were a visiting guest, you couldn't come on base without someone with military ID in the car.\n\nI'm sure that guy thought I was trying to wear my husband's rank, but all I was wanting to do was get home.
228530
Ok I'll do my best given my experience in the Marines and raised as a military brat to explain military life. As you know Marines get the opportunity to work with the Navy, being in the Navy even as a female you may be task to go to sea for 6 months plus. That means the only communication between you and your husband and kids will be via mail and the sporadic phone call. It's hard demanding and you'll work a load of hours. If you break the amount of hours down per month at work then calculate the amount you received in pay you'll see it's not much (below poverty). So if you’re in it for the money don't do it. Health care is great however, not the best. You'll stand around in uniform waiting for a prescription then along comes an officer and he gets his drugs filled right away. You'll wait. Job security definitely, study learn your trade, wear a sharp uniform and stay fit you’ll definitely be able to stay in. Become a "S^&*t bird" as they say and you won't last. Positive experience, well you'll learn what real discipline is and leadership. These are traits required in the civilian world.\n\nPlease do not believe every promise from the recruiter. They will promise you beautiful bases and great life overseas. Most people go in to the military, go overseas for an unaccompanied tour  (Meaning no family can come with you) for a year then you come back. That can be about as stressful as it gets. Make sure if you do go in that you have a guaranteed slot in a school to learn an MOS (Military Occupational Skill). This is a ticket into a school. This does not give you the ticket to graduate; you actually have to work hard and study to pass. I went to the Naval Aviation Electronic course and did 2 years of college in 8 months. A lot of my friends did not make it. They ended up going to the Infantry. \n\nAlso keep in mind that the Marine Corps has the highest divorce rate in the Military followed by the Navy. When I was in, about 75% of marriages failed. Life for the family members can be more difficult then it is for the enlisted person. They have to move, meet people, learn new cities, etc… Some people just are not cut out to be uprooted and replanted some where else. \n\nWith this said prior planning and an active role from your husband and kids can make the transition to Navy life a great positive change. You have to be committed first to yourself and family then to the Navy not the other way around. This will have a great impact on your success or failure in the navy and as a wife/mother.\n\nAs you said there are good and bad things about the Navy. Keep in mind that it is not easy by any stretch of the imagination. It is a hard life. You can do it, and you can do it happily with the support of your loved ones. If any of them find it difficult you’ll end up having a very hard 3,4,5 year tour. Think really hard before you make this step your family will go through a great sacrifice. \n\nI would advise you if the Military is what you want go in the Air Force. They treat the poeple better and the families are generally happier. They actually get stationed in cool places.\n\nI hope my rambling has helped in some way.
1129824
I'm not a single parent but I had to act as one while my husband was in Iraq.  I think that the hardest thing is not having someone to share the stress with.  People always asked me how I did it, I mean, I was pretty much a single mom while he was gone.  I always said the same thing, "I know my husband will be coming home.  I know I'll have help when his deployment is over.  I know that this is temporary.  Most importantly, I know, generally, around when my reinforcements (my hubby) will be arriving!"  I don't know how people do it when they don't have the knowledge of partner coming to help them soon.  I have an immense amount of respect for single parents.
177390
Retired last year and things started to go bad. She was use to me being gone either to work or on deployment and she had her time and could do things she wanted when she wanted. Once I retired, I was around alot. This changed her life too. We were able to recover our marriage when I began doing volunteer work with the American Legion and the local Boy Scout Council. This got me out of her hair a few hours a day and she sometimes goes with me on campout or to Legion events. Thankfully things are going well again.
512951
If you're talking sexuality then...well ideally everyone would be unisex according to guidelines and the military's rationalizations that every one is the same,a soldier,sailor etc. However realistically that's just not the case and will never be.\n\nIf you're talking "sex" then my answer would be they are related by the fact that people in the armed forces like to have it when they can as much as they can because they feel the need to make up for the periods in duty when they are busy with their jobs and can't have it.
1000124
Well, some people are morons. However, some military wives give the rest of us a bad name. My husband was in for a while and some of the other wives I met were crazy. They were lazy (various excuses for not working from...they were "too depressed because hubby was gone" to they "married a Navy man so they wouldn't have to work"), needy (always calling their husband's command complaining about time off and other matters that were none of their concern), and snobs (so many of them looked down on the wives of lower enlisted...as if they themselves had any reason to...they weren't the ones in the Navy). So as with any group, the ones who deserve the title of bi*ch ruin the image of the whole group!
90085
When I was younger, I had this image of military men of being jerks "with a girl in every port" and went out of my way to avoid them. I met my husband while waiting tables in a college town and thought he was a student at the university, and agreed to go out with him. Well, I soon learned that he was A United States Marine but he had my heart.I met his friends and realized that they were like much like every other man out there, there were some bad ones that proved my view of them to be true and some that proved me oh so wrong. It broke my heart to send my then boyfriend and later husband off on deployments, but, I will never forget how amazing it felt to have him return home to my arms. I gained a great deal of respect for the men and women in uniform as I watched their courage and sacrafices made for our country, and only wish that ill formed opinions like the one I used to have didn't cause them to miss out on happy, healthy and loving relationships. Although, my husband is now out of the service, I will always be proud to be the wife of a United States Marine.
851334
Air Force. The Air Force is the more technical of the brances and rely on computers to run their very foundation. Plus they treat there personel better. Better living arrangements, food, spousal support, etc. Good luck with what you choose.
384818
If you don't have a strong relationship to begin with, than military life makes it that much harder.  each spouse must be strong, independant and flexible.
7541
Probably the same as any military wife.  Military wives are seen to be lazy, child producing, and unfaithful to their husbands during deployment.  It's unfortunate that acts of few effects the whole.