My self-cofidence is really low, what are ways that I can build it up?
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Think of what you are good at doing, what your strong points are. EVERYONE has strong points.  Make a list.  Post it where you can see it everyday.  That way, every day you are giving yourself a little pat for having pretty eyes, helping around the house, whatever.\n\nDo not allow yourself to think anything negative about you.  If you pull a bad grade on a test, it is one test.  You'll do better on the next one.  You are not a failure.  \n\nIf there is someone in your life who is making snide or belittling comments and that person is not a relative, that person does not need to be in your life right now.\n\nBuild more positive relationships.  If there is a subject you excel in, ask your teacher if she needs a student tutor.  Join clubs, school activities and/or do volunteer work.  It doesn't matter if you are too shy to do anything other than attend in the beginning.  Just be a part of it, and you will find yourself gaining confidence by watching the others.\n\nBe sure to congratulate yourself every time you reach out to help another person, or volunteer for a project.  It takes confidence and maturity to go beyond safety.\n\nAfter awhile, you will find you have made a habit of doing more, and that you have built confidence in yourself.\n\nGood luck!
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Confidence is a quality that makes your life a lot more better.\nTo be confident,you must think positive.You must not underestimate yourself.You must feel that you are different.Everyone has faults.Nobody is perfect.You must realise this and love yourself.\nWalking and standing erect,looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to, shaking hands firmly are some things that make you look confident.\nIf you feel you are very under confident,try this.\nEveryday,assign yourself some little tasks that you are sure you can do.Complete them positively.Make the next task a little difficult and make sure you complete it.This way,you surely will build great confidence.\n\nWARNING: stop when you are confident.I don't want you to be asking how to overcome over confidence.\n\nThankyou.
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The best advice that you can get in a situation like this is going to come from a trained professional--a therapist.  It just might help you find a way to excel on your own, and find the confidence to be anything that you want to be.  Gl, be strong!
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Simply believe in yourself. You could do anything just as good or better than any other person, if you really wanted to.\n\nTake TV commercials for example, you've seen some pretty stupid ones before, right? And you probably thought, "I could do a better job than that!"\nAnd more than likely, you could!!\nAnd so it is, with most everything.
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
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Start, if you can, by convincing yourself that the speech is more important to you than your self, than the possibility of some kind of humiliation from a poor performance. Convince yourself that you are going to say things that represent your best thinking and feelings. This can be done no matter what the subject is, but it may require considerable thought.  Then it will be more important to give the speech than how well or poorly you give it. After you have convinced yourself of this, so that you accept and don't fear what may happen as much as you did before, start working hard to improve how you will deliver it. Give it out loud to yourself and work on your voice until it sounds as relaxed and resonant as you can make it. Work hard on this, and even slight gains will give you more confidence. Work on phrases that come easily to you and modify the words accordingly. If you can, commit the entire thing to memory, but at least be able to get through each idea in sequence. Try to see yourself in relation to your audience. What do you want to convince them of? What information do you have that is important for them to understand? Do you want them to feel some way about what you will say?   \n\nWhat it boils down to is to have something to say that you believe in, keep a sense of making sure your message is getting across, make it as short as it can be made without losing the main points and sit down when you have made your points. If you do this preparation, you will have a reasonable chance of bringing it off quite well, and the probability of doing fairly well no matter what happens.
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just keep your chin up and shoulders back. It will make you appear more confident
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talk to a friend who has already aced it, to build your own self-confidence.  Remember some of those who have already passed it.  If they did, you know you can do it.
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You could start by not asking for directions.\n\nSeriously, I had problems with assertiveness when I was young.  Somewhere along the way, I decided to stop caring about what other people think of me.  It wasn't really a conscious decision.  I still occasionally find myself backing off from aggressive people, but I try to make it a point not to.\n\nConfidence is the key, here.  If you don't project confidence, people will have no confidence in you.  How could they?  You haven't given them any reason to.  So, you end up walking around all day surrounded by people who don't believe in you, which further lowers your confidence.\n\nYou have to break this vicious cycle.  I found that ACTING confident helped.  I'm not talking about false bravado.  I just made a concious effort effort to seem in control of myself, if not my surroundings.  People generally responded to that with respect, which helped to build my confidence.\n\nIn my case, perspective helps a lot.  Whenever I'm in a situation that makes me want to run and hide, I compare it to other situations that I've been in.  For instance, I'm a paramedic, and I used to work on ambulances.  Now, I work as a health and safety expert offshore.  Whenever a client decides to be an @sshole, I remind myself of what I've done before.  I'll say to myself, "Once, I kept a kid from drowning in blood after his nose was cut off by a windshield. " or something similar.  All of a sudden, the client's anger over an auditing form doesn't seem so important.  I don't know if that kind of prespective trick is useful for you, but it's helped me a lot.\n\nI hope this helped a little.  Good luck.
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Jealousy is rooted in a lack of self confidence. If you feel the person whos with you is just there til someone better comes along, this is insecurity, which breeds jealousy.\n\nSome women will tell you they like a jealous man, but they dont want one who wants to know theyre every move, whothere with 24 hours a day, etc. Trust me this gets old.\n\nHave confidence in yourself. Once you do, people will naturally be attracted to you. How do you GET confidence in yourself? Try to do something youve NEVER attempted before (some SAFE activity- Im not talking about rattlesnake handling or something). The confidence you feel from achieving something you thought you couldnt do is fantastic and though YOU might not notice a difference in how you carry yourself everyone else WILL notice.\n\nOnce you feel confident in yourself, you will realize how sick a disease jealousy is, and you will alos realize you can do without that kind of sickness in your life.
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Here are some suggestions for boosting your self-esteem: \n\n"Be positive about yourself and accept compliments that point out your strengths and abilities. \nBe realistic about what you can do. Trying to be perfect and comparing yourself with other people can damage your self-esteem. \nRecognize that everyone makes mistakes. When you make a mistake, do not put yourself down. You can learn from your mistakes. \nListen carefully to others, without judging. \nRespect people's differences. Recognize their strengths and\naccomplishments. Acknowledge the things others do that help your family, your workplace and your community. \nSupport and encourage other people's efforts to learn new things. \nGive people in your family unconditional love. For example, when a child does something wrong, make it clear that you dislike the behaviour, but you still love the child. \nSpend time with people who make you feel good. Do things that make you feel worthwhile."  Hope that helps. \n \nI got that info from site listed below.
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Do some self assertion classes, they really help you cope with shyness...;\n\nSteer clear of the alcohol suggestion, you could end up with more problems than just shyness!!!
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be confident in who you are.dnt let the b@stards get you down.always try to be better than the next person.if you cant be better then be the same as them.
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Just remember that YOU are in control of yourself and say to yourself that you will gain self confidence ... with that in mind, here are some great sources for you to explore:\n\nhttp://www.instantinnerpower.com/\nhttp://www.school-for-champions.com/excellence/confidence.htm\nhttp://wywy.essortment.com/howtogainco_rfbl.htm\n\nGOOD LUCK!!
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It doesn't sound like you have a lot of confidence.  Think about the things you can do to build your confidence.  Also think about your friends . . . are they real friends?  Are there other kids you like who you can hang out with?
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dont think shyness is some kind of shortcoming in ur personality.it looks beautiful on a gal.but no doubt,it shouldnt be in excess.if u feel its so,start facing the people around you.speek to them but only in ur confidence limits so that u dnt keep thinking afterwards that u did some blunder.that wud hamper ur confidence next time.take out from ur mind that u really have some reason to feel shy b4 others.if u have some complex,remove it coz u r unique n no one is like u.when u go out, be in active mood.keep thinking about the things around u .analyze them.dnt think how do u look but look at other things and people that how they look n what do they convey.that will keep ur mind and body busy in thinking smthing productive.automatically ur appearance will look smart n confident coz ur body manifests ur mind.think good look good.\nall the best
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you have a very low self-esteem... but the good thing is, you KNOW you have potential, you'll just have to have faith in yourself... why don't you try something that would make you use your talents/potentials... for example, if you can act, then go and do an audition to a play or something... or if you're good at school, try applying for a scholarship program... in that way, when you get to achieve a certain goal of yours, your selfesteem will be increased... love what you are doing, love yourself... take risks... its part of living... sometimes, we have to fall in order for our body and heart to be prepared and be strong...;o)