what do u do when ur depressed??? do u prefer 2b alone or do u mingle w/friends???
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Both actually. I take some time alone to pray. When I've given my problem into God's hands, I tell my close friends about it and I let go of it and enjoy myself, "for who by worrying can add an inch to his life."
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The truth is that sometimes we all need a little bit more than "people who care about you."\n\nI would say based on the information you give here that either you are in need of some good friendships or a romantic relationship, or you are in the early stages of depression, which fits well with your loneliness among people who care about you.\n\nIf your condition gets worse to the point where you can't or don't want to go out of the house or do the activities you normally enjoy, then it is depression, but you should go to your doctor now before it gets to that point.\n\nGod bless you.
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baby girl. you are depressed. you need help.\n\nyou are a GOOD girl. you are a GOOD person.\n\nyou need your parents, family, friends -- to show you care and love you.\n\nyou need a psychologist.\n\nbut remember you are an AMAZING person. you are SWEET, you are GOOD.\n\nyour self-esteem needs uplifting through love and care of ....whoever you can get ---\n\nparents, friends, family, psychologist etc
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I've gone through spells of depression that have lasted months.  The only thing that got me through was prayer and friendship.  I'm not one who goes to church every week nor do I talk continuously about my spirituality but I can say that when I have been struggling with dark thoughts I pray and talk to friends and somehow I get past it.  In your new city, make yourself get up early each morning and get fixed up.  When you get out of the house you will immediately feel a little bit better.  Look your best and that will help you to feel more confident.  Call on a friend from home, maybe a sibling or close family member when you feel your lowest.  One of my closest friends lives miles away and her friendship still gives me a great deal of support.  Just talk to someone and tell them the truth about what is going on inside.  It will be a great release and you will not be going through it alone.  Remember to pray for yourself, ask for courage and strength of heart..I promise that you will be better before you know it.
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write down how u feel on a blank white paper..be clear of how you are feeling. when u do this, u'll know what's really bothering you.\nWrite down what makes you sad, and what makes you happy, and then focus on the one's that make u happy. most of the time, its the past that's holding one back. always remember its your present that will determine you're future, and you have to make sure being alone does not come as something that is bad...lots of things can be achieve even as you are alone, and trust me..as you write down what makes you happy, u'll realize life is worth the while\na heart can be broken, but not your dreams. rediscover it
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i totally understand. I'm an expert on coping with loneliness. heres some things i do. \ntip 1: learn to love yourself. be content, satisfied being you, learn to like what you see in the mirror. When you love yourself, everyone else will follow suit. and even if they dont, it doesnt matter bc all you need to be happy is you\ntip 2: straighten out your priorities. look at your life and learn how to live it. basically, make yourself desirable by living your life how it should be lived, with passion and contentment. \ntip 3: you will always have moments after a chick flick when you want someone to cuddle up to you and hold your hand, but leave those feelings for those times. dont let it consume you.\ntip 4: DONT blame yourself for being alone! it is not your fault. i want you to look at yourself in the mirror everymorning and smile, tell your reflection this, i am beautiful. i am happy and fun and all i need is a smile to make my life complete. next step-believe it. \nalot of times we think we dont have boyfriends bc we're not worth loving. that is NOT true. you just havent found a guy worthy of your daydreams. that may sound cliche, but truly, good guys are hard to find. dont settle for losers. \nok. im goanna stop before i REALLY ramble:)\nanyway-be happy with yourself. and know that youre loved.
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Not everyone has someone who cares, someone to call or talk to, to share moments or holidays or special occasions with.  Many people walk alone in spirit. You ask a lot of dark questions...sounds like your heart is in turmoil.  You need to deal with what is bothering you and stop dwelling on how it makes you feel. Suicide is not an answer. You are a smart girl--think yourself out of this mental rut. The first step starts with you.
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i completely understand. i have the same problem. i think you have to be happy. just because there are people around doesn't mean you can't be lonely. like something is missing and you're not quite sure what sometimes. doctors sometimes help but i think it's all something that can be worked on by ourselves it just may take awhile. i'm sure this isn't really an answer but at least you know you're not alone in this aspect :)
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First you must stick with people who are not depressed. Depression is contagious. It really is. Hang out with peoples who are energetic and optimistic. As for work and boss, screw them. You must find your true identity, as what Steve jobs says, you must love what you are doing. Find out what you love, and pursuit it. Single? Sometimes it is blessing in disguise. (Too many people who married are actually live in hell). Competency problem will not exist if you can find what you love to do.
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first ask if there is a problem the next get out and do something invite yourself in a group do anything just get out of that room and quit being a depressed person
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Sometimes friends just need some space. Nothing is meant by it. You could try calling her or writing saying lets make plans for this Saturday to ......& think of something fun for you 2 to do. Have a positive attitude about things. Sometimes if you're down & depressed all the time that could affect friends coming around. It just gets them depressed & that's not fun so work on being positive not just for her but for you. Make yourself think positive, happy thoughts. God bless.
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I just have to get out of the house when I feel lonely, once you're out you can meet new people and most of the time I end up having a conversation with someone I don't know, even if I'll probably never speak to them again. I go out to a pub or cafe and sit at the bar or a table just watching the world go by. Sometimes I take a book and it's suprising how many people will come over and ask what I'm reading or say that they've already that and it's good.  I also like to take my rollerblades to the park or the seafront if it's nice out, although wish I could skate better. Or I go to the cinema, even if I'm on my own I love watching a great film and for a while you're not really on your own cos there are loads of people around and no one is talking so you're not the odd one out. If you're out enjoy yourself, and just do things that make you laugh or that you used to do as a kid, even when you're on your own cos people will see you laughing and chat. (Just not to look like a psycho, laughing at your own jokes! :)) If all else fails when I'm lonely I call my mum, she lives 12000 miles from me and it's great talking to her.
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"HUG" look after yourself. so many people care about you, even if they dont show it. and if they dont, i care. i became really depressed in the middle of the year.. :( and im a bit depressed now. i didnt get really bad tho.. but u have to be strong. no one can really get u over depression except yourself. be true to yourself in life and there are always ups and downs. i guess... everything happens for a reason..\n\ni hope this helps! be strong and dont listen to those other uncaring sons of bitches that say shoot urself or something ok!\n"hug" good luck!!!! suzie
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I think we all get that feeling sometimes. Sometimes you sit in a crowd and you still feel lonely. I think knowing God helps and also going out and caring about others. I like the saying "the only way to have a friend is to be one". If you look for someone else who is lonely and you make their day by giving them some attention, it also make you feel less lonely because someone appreciates what you did. I think it also helps to find fulfillment in what you do. Work on your talents and hobbies and you'll find satifsaction.
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I'm sorry your depressed. What makes me feel better is watching my favorite movie and talking to friends. Friends always help me get my mind off of things and make me laugh (as does a movie).
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you're miserable, its quite hard to advise you without knowing what is making you so unhappy; if youre lonely then i would advise to try to get out there and mix with others because there are so many lonely people all wishing they had more in life, how about pen friends or chat rooms? anyway i hope things improve for you soon.
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Of course you are depressed. Don't be hard on yourself. Your boyfriend leaving you for one of your friends is a double betrayal. If she was really a friend, she would never have paid attention to him and she wouldn't go out with him out of loyalty to you. If they started being together behind your back, that's even worse. If you are suicidal, go to a therapist immediately!! Try to go out for walks instead of eat. Eating and sleeping too much will get you more depressed. I know it's hard, but you have to force yourself to get out. Exercise is the best way to start getting over the depression. Also, talk about the problem with a trusted friend or a therapist. It helps to talk and get feedback from others instead of going over and over it in your mind. You need new information in your head; like maybe it was for the best if it got two disloyal and self-centered people out of your life. Take very good care of yourself right now. You deserve it!