how do I tell my husband I am leaving him for another woman?
116099
Wow, if u are indeed going to do that then be prepared to burn in hell for homosexuality and adultery. You lied during your vows and are only thinking of yourself. How selfish.
305440
Tell your husband and make sure he's okay with it. and then tell the other guy that you can only be friends and make sure he knows that because if a guy doesn't know that he will probably try to get you to like him.
382231
Sounds like you got yourself in a little trouble. Well your husband must not be doing something right or you would not be in love with another man in the first place. First off tell this man how you feel and let him know if there is gonna be something serious between the two of you it cant go on this way for ever because its just not fair to any of you and if he feels the same way about you then maybe its time you let your significant others go. Second is this man going to be worth losing your husband over. And third when you look into the future can you picture yourself not with your husband and also him with another women? Life is to short if your truly in love with this man go with your heart, and dont wait untill its to late.
194345
I don't think there is really any way to tell your wife and keep her, unless she is extremely forgiving and you are willing to change and be faithful.  Even then, not likely to work out.  On the other hand, you need to be honest and get this out, better she hears from you than figures it out on her own.
1072449
tell him exactly what you just said, i see no offense in that. and as a compromise, just tell him that you are willing to live close to her, so he can check up on her as often as he wants to. but i think that especially as newlyweds, you will need your time alone. best of luck. and by the way, most guys are mommas boys (im one too) so dont expect him to let go of his mother, i doubt that will happen, but you should see the good in that. because most guys that love and respect their mothers, tend to treat their wives the same way.
279374
Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
316951
You can't. You cannot make someone else change something about themselves, especially if they don't want to. You can only change something about yourself - with difficulty. Please don't think it is your responsibility to make sure that your husband makes it. You can only sort out yourself. Far be it for me to cite organisations but check out an Al-Anon meeting if you can. They can show you some signposts. It is up to you how you choose to follow them. Take care of yourself. Best of luck with your own recovery.
879220
Keep your mouth shut and don't do it again!  You can't ease your guilty conscious by telling him, it will only hurt him and cause him to make a choice he may or may not be able to live with. My husband cheated on me once and then four years later he decided to tell me.  I was devastated but I have never had a jealousy problem and I told him that when we were married (most people are not like me).  I told him right from the beginning that I really didn't care because if he loved me than he would stay with me and if he didn't than I never had him to begin with so I would be better off.  I just felt betrayed that he did it with my friend, when I was pregnant with our son and worst of all--he was only telling me to ease his conscious, after four years.  It didn't change anything except that now I know he did it and it is always on my mind.  If you really love him than realize your mistake and don't do it again and for god's sake don't tell him.
819037
You are taking your affections outside of your marriage and that is cheating.\nHe was trying to be understanding with the first escapade but now it is becoming serious and you need to listen to him or your marriage will fall apart.  \nIf you abslolutely cannot control your need to be with a woman, you will have to stop telling him about it......
18739
If you wife ticks you off, and you don't know how to tell her, I (as a wife) would do the following.\n\n1st calm down.  Then later ...the same day...  calmy let her know that what she said, did, implied was hurtful, harmful, inconsiderate.\n\nBe polite as possible and try to not make it about what she did, said, etc, but how it made you feel.  \n\nBe honest and polite, and loving.
942647
no idea WHAT you are talking about\nyou've been married 10 years and he wants other women now?\numm, he's not too committed  to you then
123076
Just tell him you don't want to be together anymore.  Then leave and start your new relationship.  If you are married you need to file for divorse then move on.\nYou need to have time on your own it sounds like.  Make up your mind on what you want.  Then start thinking of who you want to be with.
380623
I would ask your husband if he has any desires to see you with another women and then you can approach it together instead of going behind his back or hurting your marriage, it certainly is better to do it together, then you can search various websites for swingers or bi females, but if you want to be greedy and keep her all to yourself then not sure what to tell you, I would approach it together.
527576
tell her that its your choice and that there is nothing wrong with him and that he is a responsible guy and that your not going to leave him just because you don't like what happened and tell her that you want to make your own mistakes and that you want to feel free and not so controlled
1103149
Stop!!!If you are the other woman....you have the power to stop the affair and stop your friend, who you say you care about,from hurting.If you care about her so much....why are you intentionally hurting her???And dont say your not, because if you werent, you wouldnt be the other woman>>>>
115872
sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.  you need to tell him look here is how it is going to be...don't let him call the shots.  this  is your life he is messing with and your childrens lives too.  if he wants to be with the other woman then make sure he knows what he is giving up.  if he still wants to leave then kick his butt to the curb and find you a real man who knows how to treat you and your children.  don't wait around for him to make up his mind, make it up for him.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....