I am looking for marriage incounter talks on risks to help write ours.thank you?
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not sure what you are asking, but this is the marriage encounter web site.
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I would have to say that I have a tendency to expect too much, too fast. I am of the age and mind set that I want to be married, and unfortunately I almost lost the man that I truly love because of this. We are happily engaged now, but my insistence on knowing exactly where we were in our relationship caused him to pull away. That was my wake up call. We have since come to a compromise regarding boundaries, and are much, much happier and comfortable with each other. I never would have categorised myself as a pushy person, but I found out that when faced with losing something that I had never had before, I could step back and see the bigger picture. I give advice often about noticing the needs of your partner or spouse and accepting those needs without question, I just wished I would have taken my own advice a little sooner than I did. Peace.
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I've been married for 34 years and overall, it's been great.  \n\nI think it's important to know someone before you marry them.  I dated my husband for over 4 years before we married so I knew what kind of person he was.\n\nIt's important to have a relationship built on love and respect.  Communication is a big part of any relationship and I think it helps if you have a good sense of "humor"!\n\nMaintaining a good marriage takes commitment, hard work and you need to be able to "negotiate".  The benefits to both partners (and your family) are priceless.  Having that "safe place" in the world is the best feeling you can have!\n\nJust my opinion, I'm sure everyone has their own.  Good luck.
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If you want to have a relaxing time, go to a health spa; marriages are worth plenty more than deserving of ruin for a moment of relaxation. If you think otherwise, perhaps you ought not be married.
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Line of communication is a huge thing. I have been married for 11 yrs and above all else this a huge factor. No good marriage is easy. You have to love that person and like them because passion comes and goes and you need that friendship and unconditional love to fall back on
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We are no danger to marraige.  We simply want equal treatment.  Civil marriage is completely different than religious marriage.  We also decided a while ago in this country that separate but equal is inherently unequal, thus calling it something other than marriage doesn't work.  And the funny thing...I can still get a religious marriage, and will when the time is right.  I've got a very respected minister (locally) lined up already.  So...that already rules out the religious part anyway.  Civil marriage shouldn't even consider religion.\n\nAnd while God created men and women to procreate, that isn't our sole purpose.  Also, that passage only mentions that they should be joined to make one flesh.  It doesn't really mention formal marriage.  Second note: if you want to argue that we shouldn't be able to get married because we can't procreate, then fertility should also be a requisite for marriage and those who cannot reproduce should not be able to be wed.  Do you see how absurd that statement is?  Third, we only ask that the right to marry be extended to any two consenting adults.  This still prevents polygamy and the other absurd "slippery slope" arguments such as a man marrying his dog.\n\nWe'll be making a step in the right direction when we can separate church and state and pay more attention to science.
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I agree with "thinking ahead."  And I think you would agree that you've not known each other long enough to get past the "in love" infatuation stage to make the life-long commitment that being parents brings, to say nothing of whether you will get/remain married.\n\nThis is obviously an important issue to discuss, but wait to see if marriage and children emerge out of a strong, loving committed relationship rather than using the relationship to (perhaps) aritifically create a marriage and family that will not last but the responsibilities and consequences of which will be with you for the rest of you life.\n\np.s. You are not selfish for not being sure of wanting to be a parent at this time in your life.  There are more parents who should not be than non-parents who should be! :-)
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America has a high rate due to selfishness.  If the other person doesn't do it for you, hit the road, Jack.  Marriage takes commitment, work, and the sacrifice of your wills for the benefit of the other.  In essence, IMHO, if you are not willing to die for your wife, then you are not ready for marriage.  I love my wife so much I would be willing to die in her place.
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Here is a situation where an objective third party can be helpful: your attorney.\n\nSay something like this: "Honey, I think we should talk to a lawyer before we marry, just to make sure that all the Ts are crossed and all the I's are dotted. You know, marriage is a legal contract. How does 2 p.m. Thursday work for you?"\n\nThen, at the appointed time, go to see the attorney. Have him or her explain what you are doing there and why. Don't say much, only agree with the attorney. If your partner explodes, then you know he or she is only after your money.
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Many things are possible. Keep up the hope and I'm sure that it'll happen. Wish you and your hubby all the best!
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The first place you should start is to visit:\nwww.theknot.com\nThey have more information than you could ever find anywhere else.  From engagement to honeymoon, and everything inbetween.  I'm planning my wedding right now, and it has helped me a lot!!!  Good luck!
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I would suggest working on the key theme and placing some of your own thoughts on the papers.  If you are using 20 keys, make a list of 20 things that has helped your marriage be a success.  An example:\n\nKey #1 to our success:  An open line of communication\nKey #2 to our marriage success:  A mutual respect for eachother\nKey #3 to our happiness:  Our ability to share the remote control!\n\nThis will allow your guests to have some insight to your lives and will provide reflection for the reason of the gathering.  They will also be curious to know what is on each of the tables so it could encourage your guests to mingle as well.
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Individual's Rights, Morality Issues, The Tradition of Marriage (is it between 2 people who love each other, or strictly between a man and a woman?)\n\nI'm not really sure what kind of topic you're looking for, but I hope this helps.
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My wife and I have an exceptionally happy marriage. We've been together for 15 years, and still love every moment we spend together.\n\nMy wife is bi-sexual, and I am straight, and for years she had fantasies about inviting other women, and other men and other couples into our bed, as did I.\n\nAt some point it became a part of our pillow talk, we talked to each other about our fantasies, and engaged in sharing fantasies as part of our lovemaking.\n\nAfter a few years of that we decided to invite a friend into our bed.\n\nIt was a disaster! We hadn't done any research at all on how to be successful, and foolishly thought all we had to do was enjoy ourselves.\n\nA few more years went by and we continued to share fantasies, and again the subject came up - needless to say we were more cautious this time, we actually found some swingers discussion boards, and became participants - asking questions, and learning how successful swingers did it.\n\nWe joined a couple of swingers match making sites and started to understand what we were looking for and how it matched with what others were looking for.\n\nWe found a great magazine about swinging (I'll put a link in the sources section), and read it cover to cover.\n\nWe looked online and found a swingers club in our area and decided to visit the club.\n\nWe went to the club and get so excited that we couldn't wait and ended up having semi-public sex with each other (which was one of her fantasies - she is very exhibitionistic).\n\nThen we went home and again had fantastic sex.\n\nWe went again the next weekend, and found a couple that looked fairly unthreatening and asked if we could sit down - they were very helpful in explaining all of the etiquette of the swingers lifestyle, and what the expectations were, so we sat with them all night and basically had them do a brain dump of everything they had learned in 25 years of being swingers.\n\nOne of the things we kept hearing was that we needed to set rules - which explained the disaster we experienced in our first attempt - no rules! We didn't know what was expected, there were guilt feelings and jealousy, and recriminations.\n\nWe sat down and developed a set of rules designed so that we would both know whet was okay, what made each of us uncomfortable, what was strictly off-limits, etc.\n\nWe discovered that getting ready to go to the club was so exciting that we almost didn't even need to go, the anticipation, the time we spent naked while bathing, grooming and getting ready, the conversations we had with each other while getting ready, watching her get her sexiest outfits on, and try things on for me, excited both of us so much we almost always had to make love before we even went to the club!\n\nAs we got more comfortable and confident (because of all the open conversation) our sex lives again improved, we couldn;t keep our hands off of each other, riding in the car became really hot, getting ready for work in the morning became really hot, getting ready for bed, going out to dinner, all of our daily activities became huge turn-ons because we were so hot for each other.\n\nWe would spend time talking about things we wanted to try, and watching attractive women walk past would cause secret smiles to cross our faces because we would both be wondering if that sexy soccer mom was really a closet, back scratching, climb-the-headboard s lut!\n\nOne night at the club, after months of playing with just one another, we met a married woman who followed us back to a room and joined us.\n\nIt was incredible! We both felt completely confident in our marriage and in our rules, and fulfilled a couple of our fantasies right then!\n\nWe met her and her husband for dinner a couple of nights later and immediately hit it off - the hardest part of swinging is finding a group of people that all like and respect each other, and find each other attractive!\n\nWe started having foursomes - extremely erotic and enjoyable, and became
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Maybe it s not that there is something wrong with you, but with your conception or idea of what marriage is and what sharing your life with another person FOREVER means to you...  There is long way to talk about this, I have some personal experiences... if you want to contact me I can try to help a bit giving you some ideas of what you can do...
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On the occasion of your marriage, why should shower and strain yourselves to search for good words. It is their turn to do that upon you. Here is one, as you wish.\n\nWelcome You all,\nOn my decision to\nTake plunge into a \nDifferent world , in the \nCompany of xxxxxx, my flame,\nAs desired by the Elders.\n\nWish me well, as I wish you well.
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1) Do you share similar ideas about children?  Make sure you both want the same number and lifestyle for them\n\n2) Religion, do you share that or can you agree to disagree?  If so, what religion are the kids going to be raised in?  Both?  One or the other?  Know before you tie the knot.\n\n3) What do you both like in bed?  Divorces happen over sex and money, you can't always control money problems, but you can be a conciencious and informed lover.  Keep in mind, if you can't handle talking about things like orgasms, anatomy, fantasies, etc, you're not ready to get married.  You don't want to be in a situation where you only find out afterwards that your partner likes things you are uncomfortable with.\n\n4) Finances, they don't have to be perfect, but do you have a plan?  DO you have reasonable spending limits per month?  Do you have similar ideas on proper credit card use?  Do you have similar long term goals, like buying a house, boat, property, business, etc?  If not, can you live with the differences?\n\nThats all I can think of off the top of my head.... I'll edit this post if I think of more