How can I encourage my mom to let me have a boyfriend?
106056
tell her that she'll be more in control of the situation if she knows about it and you both talk openly about it, and that if she doesn't let you, you'll do it behind her back and something bad could happen then.
141009
Tell her calmly after some good news, so she'll be so happy with the other thing that she wont really pay attention to that. Tell her how great he is and introduce them sometime, but tell him to act like a gentleman and not to try to act up, cause I don't think your mom will like that.
822571
Just tell them the truth. I wish you married my mom. She re married and he's a mess. At least you can cook ( I read some of your answers).  Can you teach some cooking classes or something to find a babe? OOOh, join a book club. In person is way easier to trust than over the internet. You're in the Toronto area? (I'm in Edmonton). You should have no problem finding a club you could fit into. Trail and nature club, Scottish Country dancing club...........I don't know.\nBut good luck.\nI like your answers.
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.
800904
Aww, just go out with the boy you like.  Either wait until he breaks up with blackhead girl, which he will I promise, or get together alone with him and put the moves on him.\n\nIt's not very fair of your parents to impose dating restrictions on you.  When you bring him home, just tell your parents that you are - bestest friends, forever and ever! -.  Hang out with him in groups of people who are also couples, like group dating.  Then you can split off from the group after a while and go make out or engage in some heavy petting, or whatever fun thing teenagers' libidos drive them to do.
1117265
Not sure if I am the right person to answer this question, but if he doesn't want to try anything to work out the relationship, then there is nothing more you can do. My mom went through the same thing and nowadays she is a brand new woman. Ofcourse she was depressed for years, until she decided to get out and find herself! She loves life now. No man or issues to hold her down. She dates (which I'm sure you're not ready for yet) but she has also made many more girlfriends, rides a motorcycle and generally has more fun than anybody I've ever seen.\nUse this as an opportunity to break free from what was holding you down: want to please him, want to be with him, want to do for him. \nTime to please you! Find yourself. Be a proud woman!\nYou don't need a man to hold you down. Get reacquainted with that inner child you left behind long ago.\nGod bless.
1103573
If your friend wants to have a boyfriend, here's my advice:\n\n1. Get involved. Other than school, what clubs and activities does your friend do? Tell your friend to join a club or two - she'll not only meet a bunch of new people, but she'll get to expand her own horizons at the same time. Good clubs for meeting guys? Try Habitat for Humanity (where you build homes for poor people), Greenpeace (save the environment), and any local food kitchen to help poor/homeless people in your neighborhood. Any guy involved in those kind of clubs is probably a guy with a good heart. Your friend could even form a study group for a class and study at the same time as getting to know her classmates better. Be creative!\n\n2. Make friends. When your friend is around new people, does she smile and introduce herself?  Does she start a conversation up, or does she tend to stay to herself? Tell your friend to make new friends - both guys *and* girls - and expand her social circle. The best way to meet a guy is to be introduced to him by someone you know.  That way, you know a little bit more about where he's coming from and what he's about. Every guy I've ever dated was first introduced to me as a friend of a friend - including my husband! So, don't be shy. Make some friends and expand your social network. Go to parties, or throw your own! You never know who you'll meet next.\n\n3. Live your life. Tell your friend not to make chasing guys her main focus - guys don't want a girl who seems boy-crazy or desperate. Your friend should pursue her own friends, hobbies, activities, and interests - she will be much more likely to meet a guy that could become her boyfriend if she puts herself out there then if she stays at home.
271951
First off, good for you. Don't let other people pressure you into finding a boyfriend, that will only trap you in a pointless relationship. They pressure you because they feel like they're helping, it's hard to tell them all their interference makes the situation worse. Tell them, 'I will have a boyfriend when I find one I like.' If that doesn't stop them, tell them you're thinking about becoming a lesbian.
335798
well hon I'd say mom is just a bit leery of her little boy dating someone. Most moms are not gonna be overly excited about the prospects of their baby dating seriously.  Try a couple of different things, find out what she is really interested in and try to conversate with her about these things, show an interest in her and not just her son and maybe she will take to you on that point. And finally dress conservatively, if she gets the wrong impression of you by the way you dress then she's not likely to accept you at all.  You could also try talking to her about it, see what her comfort levels are, my MIL is really quiet by nature so it's not me necessarily it's just she isn't comfy talking period.
390194
no matter what your mom thinks follow your heart. my man left me last yr. i moved me and my daughter into my parents house a month later my man came back. my parents were supportive even tho they didnt think it was a good idea. now everyone is happy with each other. follow your heart! good luck!!
179553
Tell your mom.  If you don't he may start forcing you to have sex with you.  This is not a safe thing for you.  If you can't talk to your mom about this, talk to someone else that you can trust.
618894
ARE YOU AN ADULT... JUST BE UPFRONT WITH YOUR MOTHER, TELL HER ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND THEN TELL HER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE HER TO MEET HIM THAT HE IS A GOOD GUY.  HIDE HIM AND IT'S GOING TO MAKE IT LOOK AS IF YOU ARE ASHAMED OF HIM
222979
Let me tell you this, I'm am not your mother. But, if there is a reason she doesn't trust your boyfriend then there's something about him she doesn't like. When you are in love you are blind to everything. Don't have sex with that boy just because he wants you. My mother was 16 when she lost her virginity, to a guy she was in love with and had dated for a few years. No, you don't have to wait to sex untill you are married. I think of it like this, I wish I would have saved my virginity till I married my husband, but being so young when I got married (18 years old) I'm kinda glad I didn't because some of my friends that got married to their high school boyfriend (whom they lost their virvinty to) have wound up cheating on their husband because they only been with one guy and they wanted to know what it was like to be with other people. So, not to step over what your mother has taught you, but in some cases maybe it's best to at least try it once before you get married. I did and I know what it's like to be other guys besides my husband, and my husband knows what it is like to be with other girls besides me, so we aren't worried about cheating on each other. Wev'e been there done that and now, we are happy with each other.
299381
Well, if you Both are serious about each other...then you Both need to set down with your mom and just talk to each other and let your mom get to know this guy and see what see thinks...if he is sincere...it will show...if he isn't...it will show also...just be careful....
835072
I can see your confusion and your concern but the only thing you can do is wait it out and be there for her. You cannot control your mother any more than you can control the weather. She may be so eager to find love again and get involved with a man that at the first chance she jumps all over it and becomes obsessed. You are awesome for being such a caring son but your mom has to see it on her own. If she is this far gone in love with this guy then she won't see things your way no matter what you say and if you say anything to her she may even get angry with you. Good Luck and I hope this helps!!
309423
You don't, you just say you're going out with some girlfriends.\n\nOr if your parents are homophobes, just say "Mom, I'm going out with this girl.. Okay bye =) "
1082758
Get a job make your own money and go where YOU want.  Let your mom know you love her and are grateful but it's time for you to stand on your own and be a man :) \n\nGood luck nene