Why do some gay men act feminine and some lesbian women act like guys?
108691
It's the same in the straight world. Some guys are waaay more butch and other guys are kind of run of the mill average and some straight guys are sensitive.\n\nSame thing with girls, you have girly girls and you have some girls that are kinda tomboyish in style of clothes and attitude but yet not butch. Different strokes for different folks. Just the way the world is.
1089215
Some do! While I myself am not gay, there are many men out there that overdo or unnecessarily act hostile to people in the homosexual community. This is because they secretly have the same desires - or at least curiosity. However, as with all things, this is not absolute. You will find some general straight males, (and females) who are deeply against homosexuality for other reasons than just being gay or lesbian themselves. This could be from a variety of things: religion, tradition, community, personal beliefs, etc.\n\nSo yes, while there are some incidents when men or women are acting out against gays as a way to conceal their own homosexuality - not all do. Most are just unnecessarily homophobic.
1177799
Not all do, men just like womens in general.
232858
this is what gets me woundering about gay/ lesbians...if a guy is gay he says he dont like woman....but he dresses and tries to look like a woman....then there are lesbians says i cant stand men but the get the short hair cuts and dress like a man work out like a man and try to be like a man...so if someone dont like the oposite sex why do they try so hard to be just like them.... i do agree with you its just nasty.....my comment on the subject,,,
930513
If you've not really been out on the scene then you are probably unaware that there are many feminine gay and bi-sexual women around (I am one of them). It's perfectly normal to only find fems attractive and so I wouldn't worry about this at all it's just personal preference. Don't listen to those having a go on here, it doesn't sound to me like you are preying on these girls but merely that you find them more attractive than what you see as obviously gay girls...and that's fine. Try to get out to gay pubs and clubs more and you will see that gay women come in all descriptions and not just your stereotypical "butch". Straight girls are often experimental with one another and from my own experience this is not a route that a gay or bi girl should follow. They may flirt with you or even snog you but they will never want a relationship with you and so if that's what you want I suggest you go and find it (with a feminine gay girl). Good luck.
295991
Alot of men do that.  Not all of course but alot do.  And some will even act gay around other gays even though they themselves arent.  Just for the mere fact that they are comfortable around them.  A gay man is a curious one.   They can act flaming gay or as straight as a board.  It all depends on the man.
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I am not one of those kind of guys who wears makeup or acts overly effeminate.But when I first came out I did do those things.Well at times anyway.For me, it was about coming out and being part of a community.It was about having fun and not being limited to a gender specific "role".We could be ourselves and have fun.Sometimes we would have that "in your face" attitude just because we wanted people to know that we were not afraid of them and were both happy with who we were and not going to hide under a rock just because people want us to.\n\nBut as I got older I grew out of that and became just another 'Joe'.I don't define my sexuality by my behavior and I don't allow my behavior to be based on my sexuality.I am who I am.I like some sports and I wear jeans and T shirts.I don't talk with a lisp and I carry myself like any other guy does.The only time I have to throw my sexuality out there is when the ladies want a date.\n\nBut I would like to point out that a very small number of gay men act flamboyant and effeminately.And some do so because they honestly can't help it.Either because they have low amounts of testosterone or because their psychological chemistry is set with an effeminate nature.So, in the numbers of gay men who behave as you mentioned, only a small amount of them, like me, chose to behave that way and usually they grow out of that.Those that don't more then likely never will because it is part of who they are.\n\nI would also like to point out that there are some heterosexual men who also behave in the manner that you describe.They even have their own term.It's called "metrosexual".And in the same way I described why the small amount of gay man behave that way, so do the heterosexual men behave that way for much the same reasons.
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It depends in your community... Here in the province of the Philippines where I live, some lesbians dress boyishly with baggy clothes, loose pants, ponytailed or clean straight hair. They usually go out in groups. These types of lesbians usually chase after the girly ones, and I mean, girlish lesbians. They're the ones you can't distinguish by merely looking at her cause she dresses herself properly like a straight lady would. Come to think of it, these girlish lesbians are more on the bisexual side.
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Okay...\n\n(1)  The "girlish" or feminine side in every male psyche is probably unrelated to his sexual identity as a gay, straight, or bi man.  Certainly the sets of traits that get characterized as "feminine" (whatever that means) are present in different degrees in every man, just as the sets of traits that get characterized as "masculine" are present in different degrees in every woman.  Maybe the whole girlish and boyish thing is a ruse, anyway, to keep us all acting as our authority figures instruct.  \n\n(2)  That said, to the extent your question is about being "100% straight," you may be confusing sexual fluidity (that the categories aren't as fixed and intractable as we are conditioned to believe) with actually taking on a bisexual identity.  Certainly a lot more people are bi than are comfortable admitting it.\n\n(3)  Being bi, however, is not universal.  The fluidity of sexuality is fairly universal.  But actually being a bisexual man is a particular sexual identity, not a secret reality beneath the surface of straight or gay identity.  Bi men are their own thing, their own culture, their own life-way.  Sexual fluidity is a different phenonenon--living culturally as a straight man, and primarily relating sexually to women, but with a capacity for some homoerotic desire or experience--this happens all the time, and would happen much more were the social consequences of being branded gay so negative in a homophobic society.\n\nSome of us, though, really are bi.  That means we are not hiding ourselves inside someone else's identity.  We live openly as bi men all the time, even when sexually monogamous to one partner (whether male or female).
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Wow.  Not all "gay ladies" (as you so eloquently put it) are attracted to the butch look.  I'm not a lesbian, I'm bisexual and I can at least speak for myself, I don't like butch girls.  I much prefer feminine women.  Honestly asking this question is like asking a straight woman why she is attracted to guys who dress all in Abercrombie as opposed to those who dress in Fubu.  Its a look, and there are an enormous variety of looks in the lesbian community, just as there are an enormous variety of looks in any group of people.  Attractions are different for everyone, of all sexual preferences.\n\nFor a wonderful example of a lesbian who is not at all butch, Portia DeRossi.  If all lesbians wanted their girlfriends to look like men she wouldn't be a very datable lesbian, now would she?  But Ellen likes her!\n\nSheesh.
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i actually did research on this for a speech on gender differences, and one source said that in a study, women were more frequently sexually aroused by images of women than men were by images of men. this was not a "how hot was that?" survey, this measured their chemical reactions when viewing the images.\ni also think it has something to do with social acceptability. women are often encouraged by media and other influences (i.e. men) to perform bisexual acts, whereas it is much more taboo for men to do so. look at how gays, lesbians and bisexuals are portrayed in the media: with lesbians, it's often split between unattractive women and gorgeous ones, and bisexual women are usually very attractive. gay men are typically the comic relief, and i can't remember the last media reference i heard to a bisexual man. when these stereotypes are drilled into us daily, they often become a part of our subconscious, sometimes even altering our beliefs.
113313
Their hormones are differnt from guys ;-)
772958
It's usually caused by a lack of affirmation in early childhood. It's ironic because the thing gay men seem to crave the most is masculinity.\n\nSame thing for butch women. Lack of affirmation as females in early childhood.
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because its seen as unlady-like. most women do it... hell i do it. guys are seen as more openly sexual creatures and women are supposed to be modest.
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A lot of gay women look masculine.
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Here are a few that I've heard (not that I believe or endorse any of these):\n\nFor men:\n- They use the "flop" hand gesture.\n- They all have higher voices.\n- They all dress very well, and generally have a good eye for art and and interior design.\n- They are more sensitive than other men.\n\nFor women:\n- They are "butch" in comparison to other females, both in terms of appearance and personality.\n- They are radical feminists.\n\nIn general:\n-They are more promiscuous than heterosexuals.\n- They all have STDs/AIDS (this one is especially used against men, but I've heard it said about women, too).\n- They are mentally ill, and can be "cured" of their homosexuality with the right therapy.\n- They're lazy.\n- The only reason why they're homosexual is that they've had bad experiences with people of the opposite sex.\n- They party too much, and they're irresponsible.\n\nRemember, these are stereotypes! They cannot be used to define the homosexual community.
1115731
yes i do cause some men start dressing up like girls if uve ever seen some movies on tv there eather gay or really really messed up in the head!!