what do u do if your committed long term relationship end just like that?
102497
you get drunk & get over it :-)\nor if it meant alot to you, try working it out.
1109151
Do what's best for yourself.  People will come and go all your life, but you'll always have you.  If you think the relationship is stronger with the one who is leaving, that's who you should stay with.
24542
I'm going through a similar situation. I left. Don't do that. You both need to decide if it's worth trying to get the closeness back. Be open about the things that you enjoy doing together and things you don't. Try and figure out how you two grew apart. And do it together. No matter how hard it is. If it's worth it, take the time to make it work. It wont happen on it's own.
940346
continue being in the relationship I am in now
176747
i had the same. Just dump him. It relieves alot of your shoulders believe me. I wouldn't stay with him if you both believe that you are not good together other wise it will be worse when you spend ages together.
1002198
My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
921826
Holy crap.  You are still in the process of "breaking up".  Finish it.
417054
NOPE, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE IT, SURE IT WILL WORK FOR A WHILE THEN.. IT ALL STOPS, WE BROKE IT OFF FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS, AND NOW A YEAR AND A HALF LATER WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR NEXT MONTH. BEACUSE I MOVED TO BE WITH HIM
986171
You can't but if it isn't working out you have to. It would be worse to stay in an unhappy relationship. Eventually he or she will get over their hurt feelings and realize it was for the best also.
428106
I was ALMOST in that situation...\n\nFortunately I realized BEFORE things got too bad (he was just starting to become possessive) & ended it little by little.\n\nI don't know what to suggest - other than what I did - which was winding down the relationship VERY slowly - which will eventually end it & hopefully he will have adjusted to your not being around anymore.
1113393
Continue with this relationship and see if it gets better.\n\nI wish you love\nstw
535940
Sorry, the relationship is done.\n\nSilent is not the best way to finish a relation, but it works.
1095976
You should probably cut it off. If you know you are the only one with serious feelings then you also know that you are going to be the only one hurt in the end. If you are hell bent on staying with him, then try to use him for something as well. Then you'll both be okay in the end, because you acknowledged early that it was meaningless.
821168
You just do what ever you can to move on. It's different for everyone.     Good luck.....SAM
174058
Why would you want to?  If you are not together, there's a reason you are no longer together.  just move on with your life.. if it happends.. it'll happen.  if it doesn't.. at least you didn't waste your life waiting for something to happen.  Plan for the future.. don't live in it.
955380
I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)
123436
What do you mean your lover left you and you don't know what to do.  You keep on living that's what you do!  There is no garauntee that when two people get together it's forever, sometimes it ends before you would like it to, but when it does you have got to pick yourself up at the boots straps and move on.