I need some Christian advice: My friend mom and stepdad smoke weed and cigarettes. What can i do to help?
110128
Empty their ashtrays.
794372
Well back in the day, and I know this comment is going to offend people. But my husband used the bible as rolling papers for his \n"recreational smoking" They work perfectly!!!!  LOL
406011
Tell your mom you want to live with your dad, her b/f smokes, you have asthma plus you're breathing in 2nd hand smoke. She may not mind being exposed to this and putting herself at risk for lung cancer and dying from it but you care alot more about your health than that.
1004774
Smoking is a tough addiction to quit. The key to stopping is the personal desire to stop. If your mother doesn't have that desire she won't. To help her learn all you can about addiction. You might want to joint a support group to help you. Good luck to you both.
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Don't smoke, but my mom can't stop
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What a horrible situation, isn't it?? My mom and stepdad were both alcoholics. My stepdad still is and my mom is dead. Anyway, at first they would just drink on the weekends, then it was everyday. When I got home from school, I never knew what to expect. Would they be drunk or sober, would they be fighting, would my mom have had the crap beat outa her, or would they be in "love mode"??? I would sneak out quite often when they were drunk. Then after awhile, I just started walking out the front door without saying anything to them. Finally, when I was 14, yes 14, I left home and moved to AZ with a friend and her older brother and wife. It's so hard to deal with someone who drinks heavily. That seems to be all they live for--their next drink. Really, the only way to cope is by leaving. If they're not willing to sober up and go through the steps, really commit to quitting, then it's up to you to make a move. LITERALLY!!! It's not healthy for you to live in that environment. You may love whomever you're referring to, but you have to love yourself first. Just take care of you. Good luck.
674817
let her know that smoking is really bad for her health and let her know that it bothers you when she smokes...explain to her the type of health problems that caused by smoking...my mother used to smoke..and we always tell her to stop smoking...we let her know that its a bad habit...that we care about her..and not ready to lose her as our mother..and its been 4 years that she's a smoke- free...
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I have a similar situation. I think you are doing the right thing so far.\nI suggest that you pray (don't underestimate the power of prayer) and that you ask God to show you how to show this person His love.\nI am finding it helpful to keep open non-threatening discussion about both of our beliefs (she used to think all Christians were unreasonable and couldn't think for themselves). And I am trying to show her (through actions, more than words) the positive effect God has on my life - like how I treat people, and that I can rely on God.\nI really hope that you can get some where with your friend. I'll pray for you, and your friend. God Bless.
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Put the cigarettes down, throw away everything pertaining to them, and then walk away. Do not gravitate towards people who do smoke, don't have long fantasizing conversations about how you used to smoke, and do not give in to the urge to smoke. Just say NO!\n\nThink of it this way: When you put a cigarette in your mouth and start to smoke, and then after a while you get the urge to do it again, and you can't control that urge, who is really in charge of your life? A little rolled up ball of tobacco? Give me a break, I used to smoke and I could never stop until I decided to walk away. It was a life changing moment, and between me and God, I told Him I would not smoke any more. That was over 6 years ago, no patches, classes, gum or anything! Every time I saw a smoke, I told my self "You will not smoke that." \nI can honestly say that it did take a few months for the thought of smoking to go away, but it was nothing I could not handle, and after 6 months I realized I do not even like the smell of smokers around me. And I haven't considered picking up that nasty habit since. Thank God!
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I am sorry about your cousin, and I am sorry that you got some really insensitive (and immature) answers. Honey, the very best thing you can do to draw close to God is to talk to Him. I have 35ish years experience, so I know what I'm talking about. Its not always just roses in anyones life, but knowing God, and letting Him walk you through the tough times, helps you to see and smell the roses, when all you can feel are the thorns. Talk to Him just like you would talk to anyone else. There  are always going to be back stabbers and such, and there will be people who may call you nuts. That is because they don't have that relationship, so they cannot know what they are talking about. Don't listen to them, keep seeking Him. Matt 5:6 "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled." NIV \nThe person above is right about getting yourself a Christian friend to help you. I don't mean someone who will be a gossip, I mean someone who truly cares about you and your relationship with God. Even if you can't join the youth group, God is with you anywhere. And your relationship with Him doesn't depend on location.\nAbout your mom, I used to have a really bad relationship with my mom until one day someone told me a lot of stuff she'd been through. It helped me to understand why she was the way she was, and to let go of my hurts. Maybe you could talk to her?? And listen to her?)\nAbout your brother. No one has the right to hurt you. He needs to know that you are going to your parents, and if they can't stop it the authorities will. I'm sure your pastor can help. The "and stuff" part bothers me. Don't let him continue. YOU have rights as a Human being.\nMay the peace of God which passes all understanding, anoint you and keep you everyday. (Not a quote, but the real verse is Phil 4:7, another verse for you Psalm 37:4 and that one is true. Not at first, but in these later years, I can think of something I want, and a lot of the time God just kind of puts it where I can find it.) No one can convince me that He's not REAL and the GREATEST -- I know Him. See you in heaven someday.
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First of all, I'd emphasize the fact that you love her and that you're only discussing this with her because you don't want to lose her.  If you still live with her, be a good model and go for walks, drink diet sodas instead of regular, and perhaps offer to cook dinners.  Is your mom alone often?  She may be lonely or bored, so maybe the two of you could do some activities together like dance class, yoga class, aerobics, or swimming.  You don't have to stick with something that turns out boring, so find your niche.  As for the smoking, perhaps having her talk to her doctor would help.  There's actually a medication called Zyban that helps a lot with the depression and cravings people get when they try to quit but it's prescription only.  Also, if she's alone, cooking for one can be annoying.  Help her find some easy but healthy recipes so that she doesn't feel like she's wasting time.  Good luck!
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i don't think you will go to hell for smoking herb if you confess with your mouth and believe in your heart that jesus christ is lord..however i do believe it is a stumbling block to other believers...to do whatever sin they feel like doing because God will forgive them.
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What's wrong with you?\n\nWhy straddle both sides of the fence? \nEither be Christian or don't.\nsmoking pot is illegal-the bible says follow the laws of your land unless they go against him.   Not to mention the many times it clearly says don't have sex before marriage.\n\nDon't get mad at them for pointing out the truth.  It's not their problem you can't handle it.
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I smoked for 7 years everyone tried to get me to stop but i loved it only because it helped my depression and made me not think so much but as years went on i did nothing and let things go it has messed up everything i ever wanted to be cause it made me lazy and sleep all the time.you should get more involved with him go hang out and eat with him let him know you care and show him pictures of what it can do to your lungs.If that does not work then put your foot down tell him he will stop and you will know cause you can buy home drug test at wal-mart or drug stores.You must not give up or he will get up hie future and could end up in jail or as well as the cops coming to your home for a search if some neighbor calls.There is hope just try hard.It takes time to get over the withdraw but he can do it!
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You should talk to them about it.  Do they "party" alot?  Did they tell you about not smoking it?  How long have they been doing this?  Ask questions.  Get it all out in the open about how you feel and their thoughts, feelings as well.  I wouldn't go to war over it.  You won't win that battle.  They are still your parents.  \n\nIf it were my parents I think that my intial reaction would be shock.  And maybe be a little ticked too. I would talk to them about it.   I think that eventually I would be fine with it.
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well, it really sucks to go through this for you.\n\nRemember that your parents are human and that they love you.  The amount of stress they are going through is tremendous and it will take some time to adapt for them and you.  \n\nMy teenaged daughter has done very well with the whole thing, but we made sure she knows that we love her.  \n\nThe smoking thing is very tough, it's a habbit that your mom uses for stress relief, she probably didn't even know she did it till it was too late.  don't nag her about it cuz she don't need to be nagged, but just tell her that you don't want her to die from it and give her some time.\n\nkeep in mind that it all gets better with time!
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You can't. Smoking is an addiction. Like any addition the addict has to decide themselves that it is time to stop.  It is your choice on your reaction.\n\nThere are actions you can take, but they will put your in conflict or endanger your marraige. If you do not want him smoking around your kids tell him to stop smoking in the house. If he refuses, throw his cigerettes away where ever you find them. Another option is to simply move yourself and your children from the house. These may seem like extreme reations but you have to make him realize you are prepared to make him choose between his family and his addiction.