is getting in touch with an old love wrong ?
98456
kind of because now u might start having feelings 4 him or he might think that ur trying  to get with him and yeah u still got love 4 him.u might end up leaving your husband
990934
THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH KEEPING IN TOUCH WITH UR X'S MOTHER , AFTER ALL IT IS HER MOTHER NOT HER OR HIM , IF U WERE CLOSE THEN MAYBE SHE FEELS LIKE YOU R A PART OF HER FAMILY , LIKE A SON OR DAUGHTER . IT HAPPENS MORE THAN U THINK .
635400
Most of my old friends are still in my hometown. I'll get back there about three times a year. Yes, we all still get together. We were all in each other's weddings and now we are starting to attend each other's funerals...*sigh* and yet we are still young! But life is a circle and we hang on tight to each other for dear life. \n\nWhere are my new friends?? And do we still stay in touch? Right here in Yahoo! And you guys write awesome questions and answers every day to help us all stay in touch. :)
268057
well, can you get in touch? If not i would suggest taking a night to remember them and then just let go.
50864
Usually what happens is when you find that old love they are not the same as when you were with them. Maybe though you check around with some friends of their and see how they are doing or if they are with someone else. If they are you have no choice but move forward with your life. It is the what if's with these things. Thinking of the past can bring back good memories, but not the bad ones....K
251974
Ummmm, this may be a bit tough, but why might he want to go through that?  I had an old wanna-be track me down and call me in the middle of the night a month after I was married.  Did I want to open old memories with her?  Nope.  Put me in a bad spot over something I was not interested in the first time around.  Forget it and move on.  Your fantasy is probably not his.
917760
Believe me, there will come a day that he will contact you. Sadly, he will be grown probably before that happens. What goes around, comes around..this will come back and bite her in the butt!\nAnd yes, I miss my grandma terribly...wish she was still here.
1175034
from a 25 year olds opinion,yes. its because there was an intimacy. like a lost best friend. its normal. i often wonder how she is and if life is good for her even though i havent seen her in 8 years.
782517
It was hard for me when I recently got in touch with an (THE) ex. At first it was just friendly, and then we talked a few times and I was hit with so many emotions it felt like I was punched in the stomach.  He was my first true love (at 18) and I realized that I still have feelings for him almost 20 years later-- and we are both married to others with children.  I told him how I felt and it was not great/emotional/embarassing to be feeling and acting like a teenager, though he let me down gently and we are still friendly.   So its been a tough few months. With other exs it has not been an issue, simply friendly, occassional correspondance with guys I knew in middle school, high school.  I think its not an issue if there are not any feelings left but friendly, fond memories.  If you discover, like I did, that the feelings are as fresh as they ever were than its much more complicated.  Good luck.
40586
i think it's not wrong but you have to know the person well first. I know some people who just knew each other through the internet. when they met.... something really bad happened. Be careful....
130020
Have you ever met this man? \nYou may be in love with the 'idea' of him, but I don't believe it's possible to be in love with someone you have not met.\nThere could be a number of reasons why he is no longer writing to you, maybe he hurt himself and is in the hospital, maybe he is dealing with a family issue that he is not ready to talk about, maybe he found someone else to chat with, maybe he is not in love with you the way you think he is. This list could go on and on.\nWhen is the last time you two chatted? In hindsight do you recall any differences in his responses to you?\nYour best bet is to ask him why he has stopped writing and then you will have your answer as to what to do. \nIf you have his phone number, give him a call.\nGood luck, I hope everything works out for you.
321137
Are you sure you want to date a old friend? If so then it should be real easy for you to talk to them and ask the worse that can happen is that you are turned down and are liked better as a friend and that's not loosing either I know it will kind of be strange at first but that's the chance you have to take if you really want to go out with this person. GOOD LUCK
121925
I think it could work, but you need to stop for a minute and weigh the pros and cons. You already know this person, and have had a history with them. Why didn't it work out the first time? How long has it been? How have you changed since then? How has that person changed? Do you have open communication? Sometimes a renewed love with an old flame can work out beautifully, but sometimes the old problems creep up again and resurface.
464960
There's probably a reason you lost touch, if it was that great you both would have made the effort. But if you are set on stalking him/getting back in touch try Friends Reunited
999676
The way I see it, is he isn't really interested. That is was different just emailing each other, but when she goes for a visit, his number is changed, and no contact until she is well out of the area. And now she is moving there, and he is very busy..... One: I would find out if he is married, or has a live in girlfriend. Two: ask him straight out what the deal is. Also you say she wants to cont the "childhood" romance.... she is all grown up now. And she really doesn't know him as a person, it sounds like he has changed. But I think she should ask him if he wants to have some sort of releationship with her. Or if he was just carring on a email romance?? Tell your friend good luck, and I hope she doesn't get her heart broken.
635526
You're still young and the world is open for you. I think it's normal to think about the past because after all, that has been a part of us. However, to dwell on the past and be saddened by it isn't good.\n\nConsider that experience a lesson. Getting a new love is not your problem. Your problem is you think about your ex so much that you think no one else can love you as much as she did. All this time you've been blinded by the hurt in your heart, so open your eyes and see what this wonderful world has to offer to a 21-year-old!
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice