My Intuition...Tells Me That My Husband, Is Being unfaithful...He Gets deffensive.And says Its all In My Head?
106665
Trust your intuition, I do. He shows all of the classic signs of a cheater, right down to being defensive. Does he also accuse you of cheating? Usually, the cheater will accuse the faithful one.
867922
It's only natural for a husband , or wife, to be feeling that way; especially since you two will be apart. It's sad to say, but since I live on a military base, you do see ALOT of that going on and maybe that's also why he feels the way he does. Alot of other soldiers may be putting "so-called" thoughts into his head, also. All you can do is be honest, sincere, faithful, and loving. Hopefully he will have enough faith in you to trust you completely. Being too jealous and suspicious can certainly pull people apart, also.
915566
Think about this for a moment if you will, if he took all the time and energy that he has spent on you this past 6 months and spent it on his wife, do you think he would have a bad marriage? Another point to ponder, the feelings he has for you right now, do you think he had those same feelings for his wife when they had been going together for 6 months? One more, if he has shown this pattern before, how long before he is bored with you and needs another woman to make him feel good? You are asking us if you should have a relationship with a liar and a cheat, I would not recommend it. What I would recommend though, is for you to step back and look at your relationship with your head and not your heart so you can actually see what you are doing to him and his wife.
458445
This is DEFINITELY cheating.  He is witholding true and faithful committment from you.  I would confront him, insist on counseling, and set some ground rules until he has proven that he is once again worthy of your trust.  Good Luck!!!
428265
Yep, it means he doesn't want you to think he's playing games with you and your heart, that he's serious about you. Or, he may have said this to throw you off and he really is cheating. Maybe I have some serious trust issues, but I wouldn't put it past any man (or woman) to say some stuff like that to trick you while they're doing wrong behind your back..... But until you have proof, I wouldn't worry about it.
684934
I understand completely my husband and I have a very similiar situation. And I too do not trust him and he does not trust me. I think to make things work you have to learn to let go of the past mistakes and learn to forgive even though that maybe in order to go on together you must try to trust. But if he continues to betray you then you need to do what is best for you and your child.
201462
Not good.  First, he is taking you for granted.  He sees no consequences for his actions and treats you like the dog that gets kicked for no good reason.  He may have frustrations, but has failed to learn or remember who really cares for him above all others.  This is a sign of emotional immaturity.  He needs a wake up call and needs to grow up.  How would he feel if the shoe where on the other foot?  He probably wouldn't stand for it, so why should you?  Don't.  The next time he pulls this crap, I suggest you react in a calm, yet defiant manner by explaining that you care for him, while he seems to have forgotten what a healthy supportive relationship is.  If he wants someone to take out his anger on, then he's got the wrong woman.  End of story, so no more of this behavior against me...no hard feelings.
620582
I had one of those.  If you feel he cheats on you, then maybe he is. Don't do anything when you are feeling like this.  He will get defensive and men don't always admit what they are ashamed of.  Could start unnessary arguments, especially if you are right!\n\nIf you follow your heart, listen to your head every once in a while.  What kind of commitment has he made to you?  Not your son,  YOU?
308440
Follow him or hire a private detective to follow him.  Check out his cell phone and wallet.  If he is cheating...dump the loser!  Women do have that intuition thing...if you think he is, he probably is!
1004403
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
1069161
I think you need to be completely honest with your husband. If you haven't already, and i am sure you have, i would tell him about what happened. Try to find out why he is thinking about leaving you. Maybe he is a little bit insecure?? Or perhaps he has gotten the impression that you are still interested in this other man. If you truly don't want him coming by and ringing you all the time, see if you can't talk to the police about it, sometimes they will simply go and talk to him and he'll get the message. If nothing else it would tell your husband that you are serious about staying with him. Good luck..... on another note, it must be rather disappointing to have your husband not stand by you, and choose the easy way out instead?
1021286
If you really want to save your marriage go to counseling. Personally, I could never trust him again, so I would have to make tracks!
563566
Love is one thing , lust is another. Sounds to me like he regrets being married and if he was that immature to marry someone and want to start having affairs two months later. He does not know the meaning of love. Of course he is going to tell you he doesn't care about his wife .Because he wants to get you in the bed. I admire you for being an honest person. Tell him to leave you alone, that you deserve better than a man who doesn't take marriage serious. chances are if he would do that to a women he promised to forsake all others for, then he would have no second thoughts of doing it to you. Move on to better things.
107067
i had the same problem when i just got married with my husband.  i'm a jealous type too and very insecure with everything.  and he cheated on me not only once but twice.  i know its crazy to forgive him after cheating twice but forgiving him wasnt a mistake.  i tried to snooped on his stuff to find something that he might be hiding from me.  i was so insecure with his friends because it seemed like he was having more fun with them than his own wife.  we almost filed a divorce but i didnt want to lose him eventhough he cheated on me and he was neglecting me. i believed that i married this guy and i am willing to live with him forever.  we went to counseling and it was good.  it opened his eyes.  but i thought it was all his fault.  the counselor did pretty good explaining that i did some mistakes too.  i was so focus on my jealousy and forgot about our marriage.  after that i seen his effort to change and he really did.  he regrets everything. and now we already 5 years marriage and proud to say we're getting strong.\n\ni am sharing u this because i think what i've been through is the same as what your situation right now.  dont let her leave u.  if there is still a way to stay together then do it.  honestly, even i see my husband changed a lot - his past still hauting me sometimes.  its not easy to forget.  u have to go counseling or get somebody to help u out.  u have to talk to her.  communication is the best key to a happy marriage.  i know she cheated on u but give her a chance.  there's nothing wrong if give it a try for the second time.  if u guys talk - listen to her and let her listen to u.  this is what i've learned from the counseling...when u guys talking, dont use YOU.  like u did that, u did this.  thats blaming.  use I.  be calm and if she says something will hurt u.  dont be mad - listen to her.  only both of u can resolve your problem.  i believe that marriage is not always about sex, being happy and successful.  having ups and downs are very normal. show her u love and u care for her.  maybe u are doing what i did - focusing on my jealousy and not your marriage.   \nbefore its too late, go seek some help..good luck!!!
777025
He is obviously attracted to you too, but maybe on the days that he acts professional and distant he is feeling guilty for thinking of cheating on his wife. On the days that he is flirty and suggestive, don't encourage that kind of behavior. That is the time for you yourself to become distant.
1019958
have you ever considered putting a tape recorder in his vehicle underneath the seat, i mean we all talk on our cell phones when we are on our way to and from work right, what about following him, there are ways for you to find out trust me, you just need to be smart and opened minded and think of things, when he tells you he going somewhere follow him after he leaves, start asking questions about everything, check his email, his wallet, his call log in his cell phone, sonner or later like useal the truth will reveal itself no matter what, I do think if he was cheating you would have all the signs already and just simply have this unbarable gut feeling inside of you, if you feel that then he is, of course you will feel the distance, his lying, his comeing home late, him turning off the cell phone, all the normal things, if your really worried about hire a private investgator that way he can be on you side if you should have to ever file for divorce or for custdoy becuase these days whoever is the cheater and they can prove he cheated the women gets everything from him, childsupport, alimony, he may even have to continue to par your car insureance and your health insurance i know this for sure, good luck and i hope you find everythihng that you looking for, just prepare yourself for the worse as it may really break your heart to find the truth
1122105
I think you are paranoid.  Until you have some kind of solid evidence you are just looking to far into it.  Besides what if you set him up and find out that he isn't cheating.  He's gonna be pissed when he finds out.  Do you really want to risk it for a hunch.  You need to talk to him about it.  Just come out and talk about it.