why do people become gay?
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There are 2 types of "gay".  Pseudo-homosexuality and homosexuality.  Pseudo-homosexuality is environmental, such as in prisons where no women are present.  When they leave prison, the no longer engage in gay activities.  \n\nOthers are born gay and cannot control their natural desires which I believe is genetic.  They have no sexual interest in women.
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Genetic make-up dictates everyone's sexual orientation.  Environment or family life growing up have nothing to do with it.  Some studies suggest it is the amount of hormones (testosterone or estrogen)in the body during the early development stages.\n\nPhysical or emotional trauma as a child can create problems for a person later in life, but it will not change someone from being straight to being gay.
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Become Gay.... Other Wise Get Used To It
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because that is what turns them on the most or turns them on at all, a lot of gay people are born that way but not all\nmost people are by Nature multisexual \ncircumstance ,conditions , opertunity and education or peer influence,decides sexuality,\nalthough some are more macho or more efeminate(for both the sexes)we are made up of 4 sexualities,not 2 as is generally believed or taught.xx,xy,yx,yy. .X being male and y being female\n\nif two man grew up on a dessert island alone ,the chance that they would have sex together is very big
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As a gay person I can honestly say that I don't know. It just is the way I feel naturaly. Like being streight is natural for you. We don't ask to be this way and life would be much easier for us if we had a choice but we don't it is just our nature
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You're right. People are too black-and-white about sexuality. They don't accept anything in between - either someone is straight and would not even want to touch someone of the same sex or someone is gay and would not even want to touch someone of the opposite sex. Reality is, of course, far more complex than that. We spend too much time defining what people are and too little time trying to understand who they are.\n\nI think the lesson here is that we probably should go to people we care about - and not the masses on Y!A - when we genuinely need advice!
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being gay is not something that someone chooses for themselves they are or they are not.  You can change a behavior, such as not having relationships with a same sex partner, but no matter what if you are gay, you are gay
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being gay myself i beleive that you are born homosexual coz it isn't like u can chose or anything. And the main reason why 13 and 14 year olds are saying that is because only at that age are the becoming sexually active and interested in sex, just like straight guys are interested in females at that age. if u have any questions or would like some help or someone to talk to please send me and email at cyber_turkeys@yahoo.com.au i would love to do what i can
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Gay people are gay, just as straight people are straight.  You can't "become" either.
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Same reason other people like being straight.  It's being who you are that makes you happy.
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Psychologicly, its called "reaction formation". Hundreds of tests have shown that people are not absolutely gay or absolutely straight. Every one is a little bit attracted to both genders.\n\nIf someone is very religious or otherwise has very strong beliefs about homosexuality, and they expereince an attraction to a member of the same sex, they form a "psychological reaction", essentially equating to , "OMG I'M NOT GAY!"\n\nAfter that, they will go out of thier way to oppress, hassle, and antagonize gays any way they can to validate thier beliefs and disossiate themselves from homosexuality. Gay marriage is an easy target becuase they can hide behind thier religous qualms or half-baked ideas that gay marriange is somehow harmful to society.\n\nDon't worry, most young people today accept gay marriage, and as soon as we start voting, you'll see this issue drop off the radar.
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Dear vBoy,\n   Many people who are primarily attracted to members of their own sex have gone through a period of confusion during which they tried to form a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  Perhaps they felt a need to live up to the expectations of others, family, society at large, etc.  But if the attraction is almost exclusively toward the same sex, these people eventually may decide to identify themselves as gays or lesbians.  Sexuality is quite fluid and diverse, however, as Kinsey explained.  For example, in Italy it is quite common to meet handsome young men who have relationships with older men, primarily for financial benefit, but later the young men get jobs and marry and have a family.  Are these men gay?  Straight?  The question is irrelevant.  Sexuality is essentially behaviour.  Even those who have early on identified themselves as gay may at some time have relations with the opposite sex.  It might be situational, or it might be out of pure physical and emotional attraction.  If you desire to know more about such matters, there are many groups who can supply information.  PFlag is a good start.  Look up a local chapter of Parents and Friends of lesbians and gays (PFLag).  I hope my answer has helped.
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people are straight so they can put there genitals to proper use and procreate. gay people are really just perverted. i mean check it for urself. most of them are bisexual. they are just caught up in sex mentally(hey mindless there is no way two men together makes sense. that is not waht those body parts are made for. i dont mean to be the cause of any hate crimes but if someone can show me the logic of that then fine.)
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What makes you gay is enjoying a relationship of a sexual nature with the same sex.  What you have is called fetishism.  Maybe it will steer towards a gay lifestyle but alone it doesn't make you gay.
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Tim,  I am going to treat your question as if it was just a poorly worded one and not attack you for that.\n\nGay people begin to realize they're gay because they're  "turned on" by people of the same gender and seek their company.  At first it isn't recognized as sexual, but overtime we begin to realize its a physical attraction and become aroused.\n\nIts not something that happens overnight, nor can you just flip a switch and become gay.  Its something that you learn to accept over time.  Some of us realize at an early age (for me it was 14) others well into adulthood.  \n\nChances are that most gay people are afraid to come out for fear of upsetting their family and friends, or fear of rejection by their community.  This takes time too, to overcome.  The good news no one has to be "out" on anyone's schedule but their own.\n\nThere are plenty of sites on the internet that can address these issues of "coming out" if anyone is interested to do a search on a search engine like Ask.com or Google
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Well all the gay people I've talked to say that it's not a choice, they knew from a very young age that they were attracted to others.  I have no reason to believe they are lying.\n\nAlso scientifc studies of arousal show that gay people are much more physically aroused by their own sex than the opposite.  So even their bodies react differently than ours.\n\nI just watched the Ellen talk show.  I think she's really nice and I hope that gay or not, that my daughter grows up to be that kind of person who is so kind and humble and loves life.
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because many people are scared of what they dont know and anything that isnt in the 'norm' they tend to become ignorant about. like if they go near a gay person they might become one or catch something. if only they could open their closed minds a bit and see that gay people are just like the rest of us they have hearts and they have feelings too. we can only pray that one day we all be treated as equals.