I am in love with a man that has denied the paternity of our son, what can I do about it?
112979
You can get the test. However, find a man that loves you for you. Good men are out there you know.
325163
Does his biological father ever see or financially support him?  If not, you don't even have to ask him to sign away his rights.  In most states, if a parent does not attempt to contact a child for two years, the custodial parent can petition the courts to rescind the absent parent's rights.  If this is the case where you are (he has not contacted said child) I would jump on the opportunity to have your partner legally adopt him, as long as that is what he wants as well.  Every kid needs two parents to lvoe and support him.  It sounds like you got very lucky in finding someone who would love you as well as your son.  I hope all works out for you.
444634
Maybe your local child protective services agency can help you. They deal with this sort of thing all the time and can tell you what you need to do. \n\nI would get notarized affadavits/statements from anyone who has information about this man. Also, you can demand a DNA test if there is some doubt about whether he is the father.\n\nGood luck. It sounds like you are the best hope for these children.
799258
I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
1031676
Wow thats a tough one,  best might just to be totaly upfront and not beat around the bush (bad choice of words there) .   Just ask him.  makes me wonder how you are going to do it though,  like big stringe or what.......lot of emotional issues too.  any decent guy is going to have feelings about his child and that could be sticky.  Beings you have already picked him I'm sure he's a decent guy.  Best of luck to you.
403096
he's not married, but he has a son
21541
First thing check laws in the state you believe this boy was adopted, see if records can be legally opened. Some records can be now! \nFind what hospital, doctor,county anything to help. \n\nMetro Adoption Registry is a great place to go. Any internet registry can help. Also find a local support group. My Aunt found her first son that way.
1080030
you are to young for this man you need to wait\nIt is also illegal\nplease dont put him in jeopardy if you love him wait\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
155102
Run just as fast as you can away from this man.  You have a child to think of now and is this the way you want your child raised?  If you can't think of your child, then think of yourself.  You deserve so much more out of life than this and there is so much more out there.  I know it will be hard, but there is a light at the end of this tunnel.  My thoughts are with you.
562208
You need to get and keep him out of your life. He can still be in your babies life but you need to cut all ties off from him.Obviously he has no respect for you and is playing you for the fool. \nI know its not easy but you need to take a stand and find yourself someone who will treat you right.\n\nGood luck you deserve better then that!
738685
First of all, stay out of it, it's none of your business.\n\nSecond of all, a DNA test will prove who the father is, they need to get one.
64523
The child's father is obligated, I recently got back into touch with my older son and his mother has told me she has not recieved any money, thouu I have been paying through the nose, can't get any kind of license(hunting, fishing, business, et c.), I cannot get a passport and have been screwed constantly. If you have been on state assistance, he is paying that. If not, you need to report to DSHS and let them know you are not getting help. Also whoever adopts your son gets total responsibilty! Will be responsible for thee child financially for the rest of his natural life, think hard about this. Further more, quit yer bitchin'! I have never once heard of a man say he's not getting child support. You panty droppers wanted equality, fcuken take it! You created that child, you chose the man, you either take the responsibilty or give him to his father, you CANNOT have it both ways!
578957
I would have him investigated. Seriously talk to people who really know him. Maybe he's just trying to ease his guilt of being a deadbeat dad for 7 yrs. What ever his intentions are he is not doing it for your child. I've never seen a child that could not sense good intentions in an adult, they are very perceptive. Your right in being concerned. Talk to your attorney. about keeping him away...and I would not put his name on her  birth certificate. That is something she will have her whole life. Doesn't sound like she would like to see his name anywhere near hers.
1087103
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
108716
Now i'm not going to call you crazy but please listen up. This is not a world you should trust, meaning there are alot of cooks out there who is willing and able to take advantage of your love for them. Why don't you wait about a year, have patience, and see where God wants to take you. You have a soul responsibility to your son, and taking him on a dangerous journey is not very wise. You going alone is not wise in itself so putting your son a risk for something terrible to happen is even worse. Love conquers all but as it says in Pr 14:8 The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way: but the folly of FOOLS is deceit. Don't be decieved into something that might not be meant to be and might not be God's will for you and your sons life. Seek the wisdom and instruction of the Lord if you believe. You have only known him for two months and you are quickly and foolishly running off to another state with him. Is this because you have a dream for your son to have a father and you to have family, well let it be done right not foolishly. Take the step to saying I will go with you but not now. Wait about a year or even two, and see if he still loves you then, see what kind of person he really is. Then  see after that if he will marry you. If so then you know you are on your way to having that family but my best advice to you is seek the kingdom of God first and all of these things shall be added unto you. Make sure you are equally yoked, meaning you must have the same beliefs in God and are both saved. If that's not the case than it will not work, trust  me on this! Do you know for sure what he believes as far as God and salvation, marriage? Do you know for sure what he does for a living? have you done a back ground check on him? Give me his name and I can do it for you email me privately. It's for your and your son's saftey. Do yo know his history and full personality? Do you know his family and have you talked to any of them? Is he controlling? Do you know what he likes and don't like? Do you know his dating history? Most of these you probably believe you know or don't know yet but are serious things you need to consider when leaving your safety zone and your family. They might be on to something so talk to them. Parents often times can sense danger of there child. please email me. I am very concerned for you saftey and your sons. \nsincerely yours, Godly Woman
707321
It sounds like you have a case of Kidnapping in your hands. You did not mention any kind of court order sigend by a judge, allowing him to have visitation rights or anything else for that matter. Mothers have a bit more rights than a father (at least here in TX) because the mother bears the child and gives birth.\nSince he is not in the brith certificate, even thought he is the biological father of the child, he in a sense has no parental rights to the child unless it has been stablished by the courts, which in this case you have fail to disclose such information.\nShame on you for letting your son go, knowing the lifestyle your ex has.\nYour best bet at this point is talk to your ex and DEMAND that your child be rturned to you or you WILL file a police report with the local authorities.\n\nbest of luck
881410
First of all, get married before you consider this. \n\nSecond ... there are 2 ways to do this. The biological father has to waive his rights to paternity, or agree to the adoption. If he won't waive his rights, and won't agree, then you can petition to have his rights waived, but it is very difficult, very expensive, and doesn't often get granted unless the biological father poses a very real and dangerous threat.\n\nEither way, the process is not cheap by any means. First get married, then save up ... a lot.