what would u do when u find yourself totally in love with your goodfriend but he just wants you as a friend?
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I personally would be who you are...when you want to ask him to go to a place to hang out...just be casual-calm-cool-collective-confidence is the key. Guys get turned on like that...and than when your on the phone call for not chatting but casually seek him out...to what are his plans  towards the end of the weekend/like Thursday call. Guys really don't like many plans only because they are more comfortable knowing your willing to just hang out at any given time...\nPretend that you have things you can do if he says "No" that it's not counting on him for your fun! Believe me he will think your interesting this way...speak high of yourself, when he makes a comment say I already knew this about me but thanks for the compliment.Be supportive when he seems stressed, relate to a experiance you had in your time that would relieve him in to trusting you more as this person of love that you say-but seek out those times and listen then bring input-guys love this when you show some wealth to their ego when they are hurting or happy say what you love about him but not in a mushy way...sincere straight honest truth about who they are to you-people love to hear about themselves a lot...when your close the better it gets!\nMuch luck!-Tina
182099
well....if you don't love him than tell it to him so later he won't feel as bad as he would now.....or else you could just say that you just want to be friends now
253081
U KNOW HONEY I HAVE A SOLUTION OF UR PROBLEM, SEE U LIKES HIM A LOT MAY BE RIGHT NOW U THINK THAT U LOVE HIM TO BUT U KNOW ITS A PERIOD OF TIME THAT CAN BE ATTERICTION ALSO , THE BEST WAY IS U BECOME GOOD FRENDS OF EACH OTHER 1 IF U CANT BE A GOOD FRENDS THEN U CANT BE GOOD LOVERS, LETS BE GOOD FRENDS 1 THEN THING FOR THE FETURE , IN FRENDSHIP U CAN SHOW HIM UR FEELINGS AND FRENDSHIP IS ENDLESS , SHOW HIM UR ALL LOVE AND UR FEELINGS AND THEN SEE DO HE GIVES RESPECT TO UR LOVE AND UR FEELINGS AND HE REMAINS SWEET TO U AND HE LOVES U THEN GOVE FOR A FURTHER STEP .CCC IF IN THE RELAION SHIP IF U COME TO KNOW SOME BAD THINGS ABT HIM THEN U MIGHT DONT NEED TO TELL HIM THAT U LOVE HIM IF U LOVE HIM THEN LOVE HIM AND IF U DONT THEN U WILL HAVE A GOOD FREND WITH U .
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If you ask me what you just wrote here works..Just write what you feel .Hope he knows what a good friend he has in you too..If you can count all your "true,good" friends on one hand, you are very lucky. Everyone can have friends, but a true, good friend is a hard thing to find!!!
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I think he wants the best of both worlds, a really good friend and a shag when he feels like it. Think how you feel about him, do you love him as a partner or just a friend. Once you have made your mind up tell him how you feel. If you only love him as a friend tell him and stop sleeping with him as you will never meet someone and so would he not.
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Well if you like him as a friend then just tell him that you feel more comfortable being friends and that if he accepts that tell him that you'll ALWAYS like him like that again maybe but you just wanna be friends for now..\n\n\ngood luck
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Be honest with him. Let him know that you appreciate and are flattered by him wanting to be your bf however, I like you only as a friend and nothing more.  We could be friends if you would like??  This way the damage is minimal and you let him know that you appreciate his offer.
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put it this way, you amy be in love with him alas he not with you..\nThe fact that you do not bat for the same team should help your decision!\nHe is your best mate...\nIs it really worth it to have a go and ruin the friendship forever???\nI suggest you go and have alot of random sex and get him off your mind..\nfriendship are forever
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He probably really does love you as a friend.  THAT is possible u know and he's the affectionate kind of guy who wanted you to know that u r loved and cared about and he wanted u to know!  Friends like that r hard to find so he was not trying to hurt you he was trying to just love you girl!!!!
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Don't make the same mistake twice.  There is a reason you have been friends for so long.  Do it and take the chance.  You have to think about it this way....You take chances with total strangers all the time without knowing them at all.  Why not give the same chance to someone you know you already LOVE!!!
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Its good to be in love with the best friend because they can understand our feelings emotions and thoughts.If I was experiencing the same,as he is my best friend and understands me very well I will dare to talk to him about this.If he is not interested also we will continue to be best friends forever.I would like to advise you to do the same.BEST OF LUCK!
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You agreed to be his friend, but youre acting like a jealous girlfriend. If you cant handle it tell him now.
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tell him u just want to be friends
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You know, sometimes you just have to understand the difference between a good friend and someone you feel romantic and passionate about.  The worst thing you could do to him and yourself is to be with him when you have no feelings for him.  There's nothing more painful than being with someone who does not love you in return.  It is bad for you too because in the end, you're more likely to feel boxed in a relationship.  Your values will be different than his and you won't be able to connect on a emotional/intimate level.  This will eventually cause problems in the future.\n\nI wish you the best...
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Hi Friend...that;s wonderful for you!  Nothing sweeter than falling in love! Okay...is he just shy or mysterious? If mysterious...then solve the mystery first which will help you know him better and also will not give you any shocks later! But then again...mysterious is always attractive they say. Anyway, if you love him so much and if you feel that he is the one for you...dont doubt whether you can win him or not! After all, he is your friend and you should know him well enough to tell him your feelings without losing the friendship! It's okay to be scared and have doubts but is never okay to let the moments go by lest someone else grabs him. Tell him today how you feel about him....go to the movies or go somewhere both of you are relaxed and enjoying it and then open your heart. Well, in the worst case, drop him a nice sweet loving card...but it's not that fun! Nothing like expressing your emotions face to face...for good or for the worse, still it's worth it! And if you feel that you would prefer to win his love first...then as a good friend, you would know what he likes the most and what his passions are and so go out of the way to make him feel that you have something for him..and if he feels the same about you which we all wish for you...Bingo! Good luck my friend...wish you loving stars all the way...
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hm well u are currently commited to someone that u apparent;y care about so dont just drop him because something doesnt feel right. but as for your friend, if he really likes u that much he should be respectful of the fact that ur in a relationship and if he wants something more he should wait untill u are available.
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If you can't be friends with him without "wanting" him you need to back away and respect the woman who is now his wife.  He chose her not you and the bond that they have now is sacred.   \n\nYou will find someone else to love you and treat you right but first you need to get over what you can't have and learn to love yourself.