I think that I have alot of problems for one I dont know how to deal with different emotions who can help me?
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Email me! I ve been through those things and not yet even 19!
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Look at some charity websites and see if there are any causes that stir your sympathies, such as ones where a tiny amount of cash would make children safer and happier (as an example, see water aid link, a charity that digs wells so that women and girls in Africa don't have to spend up to 5 hours a day fetching disease-ridden water).\n\nIf you're feeling depressed and unemotional, it can be because you have problems in your life that you think are insoluble. Its really difficult to get motivated when you think a problem is impossible to solve. Often, solving a small problem or two lifts your mood.\n\nChat to people in your everyday life or online and pay attention to your words. Emphasise emotional, emphatic words like 'really', as in 'I REALLY like italian food' or 'I would LOVE TO visit mexico'. Think if the things you are passionate about. Which celebraties of the opposite sex do you wish you could meet? Are you a keen supporter of a sports team?\n\nFor most problems that you face (such as unemployment, relationship problems, berievement, addications, mental health problems, dealing with memories of bad things in your past, etc), you're not the first person to suffer it, thousands of people have had the same problem and know some good solutions. Ask questions on here about specific problems, search previous answers or google for articles.\n\n'Count your blessings' is a bit cliched, but some things to be grateful for are :-\n\nYou live in one of the richest countries on earth, you have friends and family, food, water, shelter, education, free-speech, freedom to travel, freedom to choose your own friends, free information on the net on anything you like, access to helpful people online, etc. Add you own things to this list.\n\nAs well as medication, cognitive therapy might help, a talking cure with a therapist. If you can't afford a therapist, you can still read everything you can find on the subject on the net or in books.\n\nIts to do with correcting errors in your chain of reasoning that leads you to assess situations in the most pesimistic way possible, as if you were seeing the world not as it is, but through a permanent 'gloom filter'. Often we react emotionally not to the real 100% true situation, but to what we think is true or to the meaning we attach to events (because of unhappy memories or fears) instead of the true situation.\n\nFor example, you might get tearful if you thought something someone did meant that they didn't care about you or love you any more, such as forgetting a wedding anniversary. Your reaction is to what you think it means. If you actually ask the person what was meant, you may find they didn't mean that at all, they still love you but just forgot the anniversary. Check your facts before getting upset and do it as soon as possible, don't get depressed for days then find out later you misread the situation.\n\nYour emotional reaction isn't completely irrational. It would be rational if the real situation was that the person didn't love you. Its just that this isn't the real case. The reaility is that the other person just forgot the date. You were reacting to the meaning you attached to the forgotten anniversary (withdrawal of love), not to the real situation or meaning which the other person could have explained (a forgotten date).\n\nSimilarly you may get depressed because you attach the meaning 'I am useless' to being unemployed, when all it really means is 'I don't have a job at the moment, but I might get another one later'. Cognitive therapy can show you how to fix this false reasoning for yourself whenever it occurs. A lot of the work is done by writing down your chain of reasoning on paper, identifying any false reasoning or conclusions and replacing them with more realistic conclusions.\n\nA mis-read situation can be something as simple as someone walking by without saying hi, making you
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perhaps admitting you have a problem and calling your doctor. Sometimes you cant help but feel depressed and have anxiaty (?) It may be a chemical imbalace. Might not have anything to do with you directly.
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if you feel this way often, you should get professional help from a psychologist or a psychiatrist, the latter is a dr. who can prescribe anti-depressants if necessary--a psychologist can listen and guide you or offer you ways to deal with your saddness or ways to change some outlooks of yours to erase your saddness- get some help ASAP--also, consider talking to a minister, or priest, or rabbi who has some background in counseling. get help ASAP so you can feel better and enjoy life and not be sad any more--good luck to you !!!
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therapy and meds are essential for helping you...but have you thought about support groups?  sometimes just going through it with like people can help.  as for your not being able to articulate how you feel, i recommend journaling...writing down what you are feeling is a great way to help yourself and others fiigure out what you are really going through.  dont forget diet and exercise too...good luck
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nah try calling 1800 lifenet to talk. you may need therapy from the doc. try online therapy as an option such as metanoia.org or asktheinternettherapist.com. i'm willing to talk to you at dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. been theer with depression. try beliefnet.com which inspires. try holisticonline.com which helps me to deal with stress. walk and do music. seek therapy. write down your emotions.
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If you give some specific details about what you are haveing problems with, I may be able to help
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Go for a walk to clear your head. Then sit down, list your problems, write what you're going to do about them, and solve them, one by one. Take action. Ask for help if needed. \n\nIf that doesn't work, go see a doctor or your religious mentor.
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These things are emotional and you need to get profesional help to get through them. No one one here can type anything that will help. Go find a counselor. (Some will probably be jerks and say stupid things about you) Good Luck!
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Hang in there. The best way for us to heal from our problems is to help other people heal from theirs. Do some volunteer work at a hospital.  I just went through this myself, I know how you are feeling. Geting your mind off yourself and focused on the needs of others not only speeds up the healing process, but helps us learn from the pain.
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Well done for realising you have a problem, that is the first step in the right direction, and so is asking for help too. I think you should see your doctor who can help you or reffer you to someone else who is trained in dealing with such conditions. You need to think positively, relax, and deep breathe when you think you may hurt someone. Walk away from any situation you fear may lead  you want to hurt someone. Remind your self it is not acceptable to hurt someone and that you are a nice person. Take more control in what you do by being a positive you. Has anything ever happened to you in the past to make you want to hurt someone else?? You need to ask yourself why do I want to hurt that person? Then realise what you are thinking and control it. I know it may sound easy, but it will not be. The more you do not give in the easier it will become over time, but you do need to see your doctor to get advice. Hope all will turn out well.
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I don't think anything is wrong with you. You are coping as best you can with a situation I will never be able to comprehend.\n\nTry a support group or a counsellor. They will have the experience to know how best to deal with your hurt. But don't try to keep it all inside and hide it away.\n\nI hope this, or anything, helps you feel better.
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you are being too hard onyourself.  You need to work on you.  Take a walk and try to just enjoy the day without worrying about what others are thinking all the time.  Try volunteering your time to help other.  Nothing will give you a perception that your problems are so bad when you see what other people go through.
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Recognizing the fact that your needs weren't met is a big first step in resolving the problem. Obviously, you can't go back and change history, and unhappily, too many people go through life seeking the love they didn't get as a child. Too often, they accept it from the wrong person, for the wrong reasons. \nYou have identified a problem, now you want to move on to resolving it. First, accept that this is the way things are. There is nothing you can do about that. \nSecond, identify people in your life today who do meet your emotional needs. Are you married? Do you have a loving spouse? Do you have siblings? Any relatives who were influential in your life? Emotional support can be drawn from many sources. \nThe important thing now is to draw a line under the past, and turn your thoughts to the future. Sometimes people who have suffered emotional trauma in their childhood go through life saying, "Poor me," which is terribly unproductive. \nIf you feel overwhelmed by the task of re-aligning your life, think about getting counselling. That's what counsellors are for. It isn't a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength that you can recognize the need to get help, and go find it. That's a positive step, and one which may help you towards a full recovery. \nI empathize with your problem and hope you will be successful in resolving it -- because it can be resolved. You still have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't waste it by letting your emotions become numbed or stifled because of your past. \nGood luck to you.
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You should slow way down and figure out your feelings, none of the things you mentioned above will do you any good.\n\nI replied to your earlier post, to get help you have to do the same thing you are doing here...you have to ask.  But you have to ask a professional, and since I believe, I will say that God did not created all counselors equal, you may have to interview a few before you find a fit.\n\nThe biggest thing is a little trick I learned on my own, its going to sound silly until you try it and then believe it.\n\nStart out by looking in the mirror, stare at the wonderful person that is staring back at you.  Know that you are important, important if for no other reason you can make at least one person smile sometime each day.\n\nWhether is telling a joke, complimenting someone on their clothes or abilities, or helping someone in some way without expecting the help to be returned.  You can make another human smile, and in doing so, you will, with practice, feel much better about yourself. \n\nIts a first step, but it works.
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Yes, you should both seek help professionally to deal with your issues.  God bless...
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I know it hurts you, but just remember that he's the one who has a problem. It's nothing you did, he just has issues in his own head that he doesn't know how to deal with.