her parents is against our relation. what will i do?
113915
if u both old enough to fight for the relationship then go ahead.  its up to both of u to talk about it.  are u willing to stay in the relationship no matter what?  and is she?  sometimes differences of religion in a relationship can cause break up.  i would really suggest to talk to her about this thing.  decide if it is ok to continue whether her parents against it or they will be ok about it.
314136
You could try asking her parents for their approval, it'll show you are man enough to take the responsibility because you really like their daughter. But you'll need to be super respectful and probably be a good idea to go with some answers cause you know they're going to grill you.  But if they say no, you should take it well.
694265
How old are you?  Are there customs/backgrounds/ethnicity issues that are causing your parents to red-flag the relationship?  Without a few more details it's gonna be kinda hard to advise you either way.  \n>>BUT<<\nIf you're old enough to be making your own decisions (18+), then all you can do is what your heart tells you, giving your parents time to accept it on their own rather than forcing the issue....but also taking into consideration what thier concerns and feelings are.\nBut if you're like 16 or so and younger??  Chances are you're emotionally to young to really know what "love" is.  You may sincerely care for this girl, and that's wonderful...but your parents may just be trying to protect you from getting to serious to soon.  They love you and just want to help guide you through the right choices.\nIf they are that strong-willed against it for whatever reason and at whatever age, it isn't something that you're going to be able to "convince" them of--any more than they can convince you to give up on this. Acceptance may come with time-as long as you don't disrespect your parents in this matter.
700668
I think, you should inform both parents and discuss this problem. You guys are still young, and I thk that you guys will need ur parents consultations on this. No point worrying when her parents will find out as this makes no difference at all. No matter how, things have happened and you have to show some responsibility. Breaking up with her won't solve your problem at all, because you are the one making her pregnant and ,thus, it is still your problem. Be fair to her and yourself. \n\nIf u regret now, then it is time for you to solve this problem with her. If you really love her, dun run away from this problem. Face it and surely there will b a solution. Your parents will certainly try their best to help you in tis problem.
551010
you should talk to her parents and/or stay away from her as much as possible.
1162113
look..because i think i'm the only person here who actually knows the big picture, i will give u my advice, as a friend of both of u and as a person who has lived that kind of parental discrimination:\n\nif u r talking about maryam, don't worry about it just now, coz u two r like 5000miles apart at the moment. her folks can't do anything to stop her sending emails and chatting with u. u guys can just carry on as u did b4 and by the time u guys unite u will both be adults (theoretically when someone turns 18 they r considered an adult)... anyway... yeah. until then, her parents won't have any say in the matter. u can do whatever u want. plus u will be mature enough to confront them. u can meet them and show them what a greast person u are and how much u lover their daughter. parents can rarely say no to true love. they r probably just afraid at the moment because they haven't seen u and they see things on the news about asian/eastern races that they r afraid beause of the war. u know? just stake it out until u can actually do somethign about it.\n\nthen again, if u r not taling about maryam, then i am confused AND i need more details to answer this question. so email me.
1143302
U have to find a way to be intouch with her.If she doesnt have any personal contact no.u can email her,if that isnt possible either\nbe in touch with her via her friends or your friends. u both live in different cities,if u dont communicate the realtionship i am afraid wont last. The most important thing here is why are her parents not allowing her to be intouch with you,look into that problem first and find a solution.\nThe most important thing here is you should not be the one trying to find solutions alone.If she really loves u too as u do,she should\nalso make efforts. Both of you will have to help each other.\n\nThink and take action now,dont just think.miracles dont happen.\n\nhope this helps
910078
If you guys are going out you should try and prove to her mom that you are worthy like go to her house and talk to her mom and bring the girl and her mom flowers maybe she thinks your just another bad boy show her differently. If her mom still disapproves then i dunno that means you guys have to be sneaky about eveything. Relationships are hard but you should ask her what she wants to do about it all you shouldnt male a decision without her unless you know its for her best, Good luck!
231424
I think that if you really care for the girl and she really cares for you, and she is not the type to let people influence her judgement, then I think it doesn't matter. As long as you two are happy then you shouldn't let anyone stand in your way of happiness. I mean you are dating her, not her parents. I would just give it time and eventually the parents will warm up. I mean this is their daughter, and they will always look out for her no matter what. That is what parents do.
146721
Talk to your gf.\n\nIt sounds as though her mother can't cope with the fact that she's got a grown-up daughter.  \n\nExplain to your gf that it's hurting you when you're constantly being ignored because her mother still wants to control her life.  Tell your gf how much it's hurting your relationship.  Be honest with her, and ask her to think about doing something about it.
685473
Since you say "we will not be together" I assume you 2 are splitting up.  When that happens the parents will find out.
274523
love trumps the parents ! its necessary for her to love you not her parents,  sure it would be nice ... but its not always possible !,  marry her treat her well, treat the parents with respect, and they may come around one day , especially when you have children, if not ,  they  might miss out on  spending as much time with their grandchildren as they would like...you don't have to live near them, or see them very often  if they never come around...its not an ideal relationship   if they never  like you , but would you be happier with her  or without her ??? also  you could try to find out why they don't like you thru your girlfriend and try to resolve the   problem / reasons, best wishes ! PS  don't  let them ruin your  love and your life !
434977
Why would it be a shock? Did you not realize something was wrong. I am sure her parents might have something to do with this so talk with her and let her know how you feel..K
492812
Firstly, have you thought about how your girlfriend thinks about all of this? It is her house and her daughter after all. You have been invited to stay with them, and you accepted. Accepting her daughter is part of that agreement.\n\nSo if you really love your girlfriend, are you going to let her daughter walk all over you like that? I'm not telling you to lay down and take it from her, but is there no way you can compromise? You have come into her space after all, and she is obviously threatened by it. You aren't her father so you can't tell her what to do, and at the same time you have no say as to whether her mother chooses to make her pay rent or not - you get your say if you're asked. Sure you can suggest things, but be prepared to back them up with logical and reasonable arguments, and try to be fair at all times. No one ever said this was going to be easy. \n\nIf you really want to be with your girlfriend, you have to be prepared to accept her daughter. Maybe speak to your girlfriend when her daughter isn't around and explain how you feel? She might be able to say something to her daughter. If not, you just have to grin and bare it because these things take time.
592062
Your just a greedy bastard i'm surprised her family allowed you to marry her poor girl,best thing you can do is let her go home to her parents,how old is she anyway? Get a life and give this girl back hers
386406
Alright, it’s an easier and regular problem in most families. First, find out if she is causing the problem or not, if you are sure that she is causing problem then start making problems with her family, and she would soon understand how does it feels, and hopefully she will stop doing so. Even after that she doesn't stops doing so then make her go away from your house without a divorce and tell her that she can't come back unless she make an apology to your parents.
829832
You're not doing your daughter any justice by staying in a loveless marriage where she is exposed to arguements and coldness between her parents.  She will sense your unhappiness.  Neither you or your husband are happy, so end it and agree to put your child first...but not in the same household