I'm a single parent it's hard to find friends that understand that my child comes first. where do i look?
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Join the PTA, school functions. You want to find friends that also have children. Even at the local park, when the kids are playing. I have met many very nice friends, your kids start talking and then the moms start talking.
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There are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you.\n\nwww.zabasearch.com\n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright\nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\n\nAlso here are some books to consider:\n\nSearch : A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents 3rd Edition\nby Jayne Askin\n\nWhose Child? : An Adoptee's Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion ... and Beyond\nby Kasey Hamner\n\n\nBirthright : The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive...\nby Jean A. S. Strauss\n\n(you can buy this books used on shopping.Yahoo.com and on Amazon.com)\n\nhttp://shopping.yahoo.com\n\nNever Give Up!
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Get a social worker.  Talk to the schools your children are in
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www.freeadvice.com\n\nbest bet is to be honest...after all, your child is involved here...think about it
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I am single for 26 years.. look am I frustrated...\n\ndo the traditional way of finding.. "Keep looking
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Look for people of your own age in your area.  That way it's someone you have soemthing in common with.
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Sometimes you can not be their friend. They probably will not like you many times, if you are being a parent. They will thank you later, though. Kids need structure. Kids can make friends. They need parents.
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Start with an online search, including places like Classmates.com, if you know where he went to high school.  Check the town he was from, and check for other people with his last name. The Mormon Temple has excellent databases of records - birth, marriage, divorce, death, phone books, etc. Once you start searching, people along the way will help you.  Keep a notebook of all your leads, because information sometimes comes in a non-linear fashion.  There are many searchers out there who will help for free.  You don't say if you are adopted, or if this is a case of divorce or abandonment, or if you are unknown to your father.  But you will find him.  He is likely not far away from you.  Many birth children find birth parents close by.  Ask your mother detailed questions and write down the answers.  A notebook will really help you stay organized.  God Bless.
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I dont automatically walk away.  I want to have a family of my own, but I dont mind 'jump starting' one.  I know I am not alone when I say this though, the hard thing for you will be the way you handle your child with me.  Single moms that introduce me to the child on the 1st date will not get a call back from me.  I dont need to be 'just another dude my mom is with' in the child's eyes.  However, if we wait till things work out with us, then it fine to introduce the child.  Be honest about your children through dont try to surprise a guy with it 6 months into the relationship.  Single moms are great too because they dont get to go out as much and are usually much more appreciative of the romantic dinner out.  Good luck...and hang in there...the right guy is out there for you I can feel it :)
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try your nearest library or bookstore if you like to read too, and just plainly start up a conversation that makes sense to the one person that grabs your attention. or similarly, wherever you like to hang out. That's what a guyd would do, and if you think that is courageous, pls, you are already a single mom, what could be more courageous already! think about it, you are strong woman and can do this on your own too if you had to, just be selective and go sensible about it. rejection is no big deal, not interested is no big deal, chance to make "just friends" a real plus, chance to find that good man, well hey, that's BINGO
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There are agencies that enable you to make yourself publicly known in case the children are looking for you. This can be useful in case a child needs you for some medical reason (tissue or organ donor, genetic testing, etc.). \n\nBut otherwise, I would not try to locate them if I were you. You could upset them, their adoptive family, and yourself by doing so.
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What you see on the surface isn't always what's really happening behind closed doors.  Everyone has problems, they just might not show it.\n\nStop looking at what others have and start seeing what you've got.  Put your energy and your effort into your child.
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Be yourself ... I was raised in a pretty sheltered environment and I have struggled to overcome this.  It is NOT a benefit to a child to be sheltered, but unfortunately, the parents may have also had a sheltered life.  Try not to let it bother you, it is very difficult for a sheltered kid to be able to trust people and try to live a normal life.  Friends are the kids best asset, try introducing new things to him/her slowly and it will be greatly appreciated ... You Have The Ability to help someone and make a difference in their life and in the world.
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First spell what you are trying to get right, friend. You shouldn't have to look for a friend, you are somebody too! Love yourself an others will eventually follow suit.
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I would say to try something like adult friend finer and see if you can come in contact with anyone in your area and maybe they can refer you to one.
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I have a 1year old and it took me forever to find the right person.  Now you have an advantage Your child is old enough to tell you what their doing in a day. Ask! You'll also notice a change in attitude. With Allyson I knew I had good odds she's a univeristy grad in child care; but she get's them outside Brad comes home pleased as pie about his life and says oh a lot:) She also taught him a cool high five and low five a skill everyone year old needs. If it's not working pay you care and find someone else
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The name is Head Start.\nContact the Department of Social Services in your town or check address on Yellow Pages. Just look for Head start. Child can go free if you qualify-low income, or a full time student, single parent etc