I am 55 years. Recently I awoke in the middle of the night shaken by the thought  of death. What should I do ?
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I’m 58.  It can come with the territory. This is normal and more common than you might think.\nDon’t dwell on it.  This is the flip side of the hormone changes which is pushing the adolescents into “when am I gonna learn about sex?”\nIf it repeats and starts to disrupt you life, then seek some kind of help.  If it is just an occasional event, think about what this means to you and move on.
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In Oct. 1985 i had a near death experince..it happend at the result of a motorcycle accident.it is a very long story for me to write but im in the process of writting a book,in short.\n\nafter the accident i got up and thanked god that nothing happend to me,but when i looked down i saw my own bloody body is lying down on the road,at first i was extremely scared.coz i didnt know who am i?and who is the body is lying there.after following my body to the hospital and hearing that they pronounced me dead.i thought of my mother and in an instace i was at home and could read my mothers thoughts.i was there when they got the phone call from police letting them know i was dead.and right after i travelled through the tunnel.at the end of tunnel i saw my dead grandmother standing.i also saw my cousin who had been drawned years earlier, a lot of dead family members but before they can embrace me suddenly my dead dog jumped on me.boy i was happy to see him.a lot more happend when i was there.i cant write about it coz it will take hours to explain,finaly i was told it is not time for me and i had to return.i resist it.and i said there is no way i will go back this is home and i want to stay.they told me that they will show me a hallograh,it was a about my purpose to fulfill,and they told me i dont remember anything after they show.next thing i woke up with incredible pain all over my body with a white sheet over my face.i removed the sheet.first thing i saw was a nurse screaming halelua.it is a miracle.my experince is incredibly close to betty eddie's experince the author of embraced by the light,at first i didnt realized what happend to me and after years of reading i slowly grasp the reality.after that my state of conciouness has been alterd.i know stuff without knowing why.i hear people and dont know why.people around me consult me before opening up a bussiness they think my opinion will help them.if i feel bad about something they dont do it.i dont realy know whether im right or not.but this is what they feel and believe.about your husband,i promise you he is healthier and happier than ever,every day he is watching you.sending numerous siganls to tell you he is ok and he is with you.but you have to educate yourself and practise to talk to him.it is easy.it just needs your determination and commitment,i talk to my mother who died in 1996 all the time,she has warned me about a lot of dangers.you are destined to wake up.continue searching,a lot of good thing will happen to you by 2009,i promise you,YOU WILL WAKE UP,just listen to your intuitions,listen to your higher self,you will know the truth,it will come your way.\nmay love and peace be upon you\nrobert\n*ps for years i havent talked about it.but it is not a secret anymore.thousand and thousands of people have NDE,humanity is ready to hear about it.we are destined to wake up.by dec. 21, 2012 the one that are suppose to wake up, they will,we are destined to become 4th dimension enteties,just pay attention to your surrondings,try to see it.time for the change of conciousness has arrived.
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You could be experiencing grief and depression from your father's passing.  Talk to someone about the way you felt about him and what has happened now to get things off your mind and heart, and then your sleep patterns will return to normal eventually.  Just try not to worry.
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Dreams about death are usually a sign of good fortune. But that's beside the point. \n\n- Don't eat before you go to sleep.\n- Don't watch/look at anything the least bit scary before you go to sleep.\n- Don't think about anything scary before you go to sleep.\n- Pray, ask God to let you not dream anything morbid\n\nAre you having a recurring dream? Cuz that should end eventually. Also, have someone check if any sounds r playing around you while you sleep, something that could maybe place suggestions in your mind so that you have those kinds of dream.
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you don't say how old you are now, not that it matters.  However, I would suggest additional counseling for it seems to me that you still have unresolved grief.\n\nI am deeply sorry for your tremendous loss and hope that one day while you may never be able to forget, you can at least find peace.
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I didn't used to be like that, but lately I have been having a similar experience.  I think, for me at least, its because my life is going through a lot of changes, and I'm experiencing a lot of stress due to that.  I think its my mind's way of playing out my fears, since they are constantly on my mind.  I would suggest you try a cup of chamomille tea before you go to bed; it works wonders for me.
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Life is full of "what if's". We can not change yesterday, tomarrow is all we have and there will be more "what if's". Look at it this way, IF you were meant to be with M then it would have happened while you where single, not married... \nThis is your unanswered prayer and your are to wrapped up in "you" - being self center to see the bigger picture. For the simple fact that you owe J more respect than you are showing him, remove the blindfold from over your eyes, wake up & smell the coffee, child it is time you act like an adult. Grow up! Your not the first and wont be the last to miss one hih school crush. Even my 87 yr old aunt said she missed hers and wondered "what if". But at the age of 89 she died in the arms of a good man who loved her and still did for 75 yrs. Two weeks before she died they celebrated 73 yrs of marriage. Can you do that?
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Hey your story touched me so i thought i would take the time to answer it, at least as best as i can! x\n\nFirstly, it must be dreadful to feel empty and lonely-as in a sense, perhaps you feel like you have lost half of your identity, as obviousley your mum is half of your biological makeup-and half of you!\n\nBut on the opposide side of this, is the fact that in that sense, she will always be a part of you, as you are half of her, which should give you some comfort. You are one of the closest people to her; so when you feel lonely and down think about this!\n\nAlso Never say Never either, and keep an open mind! Who is to say there isnt an afterlife? Its best not to think pessimistic, and say that you will never see her again. If she died, perhaps she died for a reason and is no longer in pain and is in peace.\n\nTry to talk to a close member of your family who would perhaps understand. Try not to dwell on the past and embrace the family that you have presently. At the end of the day your mum is in your heart and is a part of you, and that will never fade.\n\nxx
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I have often thought about where I was when my parents were children. I didn't exist, but it didn't bother me because I can't remember. Have you ever been knocked out, or fainted? You wake up with no recollection at first. Death is just long term blackout. People can wake from a 10 year coma and to them it was a day. In death you don't wake up.\nDeath will return us from whence we came...nowhere...\nWhat the f uck is shaggy on?
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maybe a depression, scared of getting older, but don't worry if thats it, just take care of yourself you have plenty of time and plenty more birtdays to look FORWARD TO. relax and enjoy !
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You need to talk to someone about your fears of dying.  The are not crazy and very real fears but something that you need to talk about.  One thing to think about is a friend of mine who has died twice but been sent back because "it wasn't her time".  She has full well been on her way to heaven and is able to describe the wonderful feeling.  She can't wait to get back to heaven and has told me many times that if anything happens she does not want me or anyone else to start CPR on her.  You can bet I will honor her wishes.  You will not forget things when you die but will be able to see and reuninte with all the people who have died.
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I would like to try to help you, but I don't know exactly what you need guidance in. I'm a bit younger than you, but I am wise beyond my years. I was born in 81. I am assuming however, that you are not stating your situation, yet your age in hopes of someone with a sixth sense responding..can't help ya there. Only thing I can leave you with is to follow your heart and let God help guide you to the right path!!
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Although, dying is a natural part of life and we all think about it occasionally, if you're obsessively thinking about it, you may need to see a professional. Seeing someone doesn't make you unstable, it can only help you remain stable.  My concern is that your thoughts are persistent but also are intense and graphic at times, and you may need a medication to help with your thinking. If you've had a past history of depression, than this type of thinking is not uncommon. It wouldn't hurt to see a psychiatrist before your thoughts get out of control.    -a psych nurse
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ALMOST separated! That's the thing. Our body gets a feeling we are dying, and\nthat makes it very difficult to bi-locate at will. Keep trying, or do as I already suggested, and use the Dreaming technique. That helps to alleviate the "feeling" of dying.
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This sounds like a phenomenon called sleep paralysis.  When you are in deep sleep, especially REM sleep when you are dreaming, your body goes into a partial paralytic state.  Most of your voluntary motions are paralyzed to keep you from acting out your dreams.  Occasionally, some people wake up mentally before their body gets the signal to wake up.  You become mentally aware and awake again, but your body is lagging behind in that partial paralysis.  It typically lasts for only a few minutes at most.  Most people report that it is a terrifying experience; they have no idea what is going on and can't move.  This can result in tremendous anxiety about trying to fall asleep, and often creates panic attacks.\n\nApparently, this condition is not harmful to you in anyway, except for the emotional trauma.  The next time it happens, stay calm.  Think to yourself that you are just in a different physiological state, one that few people ever encounter.  It will pass after a few minutes, and you should feel normal again.  Try to relax and let it run its course.  By understanding what is happening, you can be assure that you have no reason to panic.  Its just one of those little things you'll learn to cope with.\n\nYou can talk to a doctor if you want, but they probably won't do much if anything about it.  They will probably just give you a prescription for anxiety.  I encourage you to do some more research and look at online communities of other people with sleeping disorders for people who share your problem.  They will help you find ways to minimize the impact.\n\nAs for the connection of this with your uncle's death, I'm at a loss.  There may be some spiritual explanation for that as well.
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Death scares us all.  It is also a fact of life.  If we did not have an instinctual fear of death, we would not survive as a species.  The way you describe your fears sounds like it is more about being left alone, and you may want to talk with a counselor about that issue.  Loss is a big source of pain for all of us.  Perhaps you have lost a beloved relative or friend, and you hate that feeling.  Or maybe you are very attached to an older relative, and you cannot imagine life without him or her.  Talk to a mental health professional about your specific fears and associations with death.  If you are religious, you can also talk to our clergy. This is a VERY COMMON fear.  But you deserve relief, and counseling can help.
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I am not afraid to die as much as "how" I will die. \n\nI don't want it to be horrible like an accident, or long, like an illness.\n\nideally, in my sleep, would be the best.