How do you successfully tell a family member that you are sick of the 'drama' and negativity in their family?
112309
Stop going to family events ... when they ask "why" you aren't or weren't there ... tell them you didnt' have the energy for their drama ...
602374
mmm, have you talkeed to her about it?\n\npeople generally don't just disapear without reason. \n\nare there fights in your family?\n\nIs she happy with her life where he is?\n\ncan any of the problems she's having where she is be fixed.\n\nmake an effort to make her life better and she wont want to leave it.
1184149
Do you live together?  If not, there's still hope... when ever she says something hurtful or rude, just change the subject and act as if she said nothing, don't humor her and keep it up... and she probably doesn't take you seriously.  When you have brought it up, do you sugar coat your conversation?  Just be firm and say you don't appreciate the comments she makes and you would like for them to stop,... let her know that it could cause some tension between your family and her and you are trying to avoid that situation.  She is probably disregarding your feelings because she feels you're over-reacting and is unaware of how badly she is making you feel.  I was in a VERY similar situation before, and there is no easy way around it.
1028512
Tell them the movies shes watching,and hthe rating of the movie and how it is not suitable for her to watch nevertheless put your self in the situation saying if my sister told this thing to you about me you'll would have totally taken action but how come its different with me?\n\nI totally hope you understood that lol,keep on at it and even show the ,movie to them if possible,show her that she cant get special treatment as she is doing something wrong.\n\nAnd when u scoold ur sis and she complaints somehow bring her major faults into it showing that she is a hipocrit(i know i spelt it wrong lol)..keep on at it and ull win sooner or later im sure they'll get tired of it and just to please u they'll take action lol
1070003
*Shivering*  I'm getting the willies...\n\nAll it takes is a casual, "you kids have fun, then."\nIf he wants to push the envelope, tell him flatly, "I really don't care."\n\nYou have to voice your opinion.  Speak up and let him know in a firm, polite tone of voice that you really don't care and you don't want to know.  If others around you hear you say that, so what?  One moment of discomfort will save you a long time of enduring this unwelcome data overload about your sister's sex life.
967184
From now on, when someone in your family comes to you with something for you to pray about, tell them that you don't need any details at all, and you don't even need to know who is involved in the issue because God knows, and you will bring it to Him in prayer.  Tell them that you will pray for God's will, and His peace and healing.  Leave it at that.  \n\nIf you let your family members talk to you about all this stuff, you are part of the problem, not the solution.  The solution from your end is to stop listening to it.  That includes walking away from a conversation that is inappropriate.  Be quiet about it, though.  Don't saying anything; just leave.\n\nYour family members will have to make their own choices about gossip.  Stay out of it completely and forever.  You'll be much happier.  Don't even talk about staying out of gossip.  You're just inviting more conversation about gossip, which in turn leads to gossip!
792171
If your family is that insensitive it's not likely that talking to them about it will do any good. If you can just play along with it and be the bigger person you'll feel better about it. Can you bring yourself to joke about it along with them or ask them for their advice? If you keep allowing this to hurt you, they'll smell blood and keep up with it. Change the subject by asking what challenges and rewards they've had with their relationships. If you get people talking about themselves, they'll forget about talking about you. Good luck. And by the way, don't feel guilty if you don't want to go to the family get-together. Find a charity that's hosting a Thanksgiving dinner, or better yet, work for one that is. Being around caring people, and people that are worse off than you, will be a great lifter of your spirits.
536768
Wow, This is alittle complicated.  I would only say something if it's really effecting your husband and you. I don't know that it's your place and the family may think you're just creating extra drama. You don't want that. Also, this isn't an excuse but she is 16 after all. She's not an adult yet. She doesn't have the life experience you do. If you want to talk with her as a friend that's one thing but if you just want to tell her to get her act together.. I don't think it's a good idea at all. \n\nYour hubby knows his family best and there is probably a reason why he's not saying anything. With saying that if she's not disrespecting you in your home or whatever.. There's really not much you are going to be able to do about it. I seriously think that saying something will cause extra drama for this family. Allow them to figure it out.
1128604
Whether you say it in a nice tone or not, their feelings will get hurt. You are the man of the house, YOUR HOUSE. You need to put your foot down. It's hard having family stay with you, and they are freeloading off you, I know.\n\nYou really don't need an explanation because it's your house. Tell them  and if they get upset, oh well. They need to learn how to fend for themselves, and stop interfering with your household.\n\nGood Luck.
340272
Sounds like there is more to the story than you not liking or getting along with his family.  You expect more for him and he hasn't delivered.  People don't change.
1022225
It is terrible to have to do this to relatives & one can still be civil with them, but this does not mean that you have to tolerate abusive of any kind from them.  Our family has had to cut off someone because they refuse to change their negative behavior, or even acknowledge that they have a problem. I am afraid they will never realize it until they are cut off from absolutely everyone.
716867
Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!
853110
"Various Reasons"  I will trust you when you say none of them are serious.  If I were you, I would put my foot down once and for all.  Tell your Mom and your sister, be nice about it but firm,  that you do not appreciate their back stabbing regarding your wife-to-be.  Tell them you love them all, but you are not going to put up with any more of it.  And if they love you, they will have to make the effort to accept her as well, because YOU love her and that should be reason enough.  Tell them that disrespecting HER is like disrespecting YOU.  And you do not want them to do it anymore.  If they are reasonable people, they will listen and abide.  If they are not, I would simply make myself scarce when it comes to visiting your mother and sister.  Harsh as it may sound, they will get the message and eventually lighten up on your beloved.  CONGRATS on your upcoming wedding and GOOD LUCK!!
473539
I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
815327
Be there for her. Listen to her when she complains, help her understand that its not her fault. Try not to make judgements on the family. Support her.
998040
There comes a time where you just have to tell the family to piss off. This is probably one of those times. Drama loving families will do whatever they can to start crap, and if they don't like someone you date they'll most likely let you and her know it. You just can't play their game. You might give them a chance to be nice to your new girlfriend. If they aren't at least polite to her, tell them you won't be spending time with them anymore until they can grow up. When it comes down to it, it's important that YOU are happy. Not your family. I know everybody wants their family to be happy. But seriously, you can only please one person, and that's yourself. If it'd make you happy to be with this woman, then by all means do it. Don't allow your family to screw up your good times with her. Good luck. :)
738863
Just be honest, sit them down and explain your feelings.  Expect them to be upset at first, don't take this as insulting they need time to adjust.  Thier anger may seem selfish to you, but it is not, they just saw their future change too.  There ia alot of support groups for both you and your family. A google search should bring some up.  Good luck, and I'm very happy that you have made this brave choice.