What do you do when you have two gentlemen wanting to be with you and how  do you let one down easily?
99028
I'm in that same situation myself.  I have yet to find a way to let the other guy down easily.  I just keep putting it off in hopes that he will get the idea.  I care about both of them, but one  of them has my heart.  If you get a good answer to this question please let me know.  I need the advice myself.
596487
Let him know you want more of him, set time aside for one another you have to build a relationship.
414570
Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
911162
We always want what we can't have ....\n\nHe was eager and there for you and you said 'no.'  He wanted more and you said 'no.' He has suddenly stopped wanting you and guess what? You miss his attention and companionship.  So what happens next?\n\nA) Do you say that you are sorry and try and make up or ...\nB) Move on and leave the poor guy alone ...\n\nIts your choice, what do you really want? The silly arguments were more to do with his fustration at not being able to move the relationship forward.  Just good friends isn't going to work I'm afraid. You aren't serious just let him be or as I said 'say you are sorry and start being honest about how you feel - if you do! Only you know.
365381
wow, well who do u really like?? who do u want to be with?? talk to them both cuz talking to just one could cause a small problem
863416
go with your heart, it sounds like the second one has more of the same life style as you do, go for him.
1073844
this is a really painful trip..obviously the guy is on a different wave length than you..its the signals they give off that we don`t pay attention to because we want them to be just as much in love as we are.A good rule of thumb for self protection is not to give too much to fast,until you see your getting the same back..and if he went off with your friend get rid of them both,neither one of them mean you any good.
218286
Dont be so stupid no offence but one is enouugth and to let him get away with it twice is really dumb , i guess your letting him off because your probably attracted to him alot but try to be logical .
1007852
You cant keep the two away from each other forever.  If either one does something like that then you know your not with the right person or friend.  You cant worry about that until it happens.
195343
A man who offers himself to someone when already involved is offering you a shallow relationship..the only women who accept them type of offers either only want shallow relationships or can only deal with shallow relationships..Is that what your looking for?? If your interested genuinely and you do value yourself...tell him to come see you when he is single..Also karma whether you believe in it or not, is real..you do things like this to another woman knowingly..your setting yourself up to have the same done to you.. I wish you strength in your decision :)
273944
You need to get to know the both of them and see what they offer, and are they good for you, dont go out with them just cause there hot, thats taking advantage of them,but try and get to know them. You might just like the other better than one!
586992
Well the worst thing you can do is sleep with the brother, that is a serious bond. The brother would never let you come between them if it were to come out. Second it is normal to be attracted to this guy ..but do you act on it NO. You just felt comfortable with him he was a different man taking an interest in you . A little crush that's it. If your not interested in your guy just let him go. Don't use him to get close to the brother.
1107778
Obviously if you have two then your not ready for a real relationship....when you really like someone then you want to be only with them......i mean how would you like it if you were being played........thats not fair and people do have feelings and get hurt.....rememeber "karma".....so be careful what you do.....
556491
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
239821
Try the other man. If you can trust him go for it.
1067797
get him out of your head.then just wait for the real love which is a shared feeling of love not by one partner of the two.you might meet a better person who cares 4 you. Also, you CAN'T force this guy to love you even if you tell him about your feelings.cause your feelings are your responsibility& he's not accountable 4 them.Telling him would just make the things worse.so don't tell him.Just wait my baby I'm sure you will meet so many better guys & then you'll ask yourself "what was the thing that attracted me to him".there's so much good is waiting 4 u.
979354
You can't, unless you confront the first guy directly.  Are you speaking to either of these guys in a manner other than the internet?  If not, that's probably all they're both interested in.  \n\nBefore you get involved with either one of these guys or anyone else for that matter, make sure you TALK to them first.  Don't fall for anyone until you've had a chance to meet them in person.  You can say anything you want in an email, but once you meet them in person, you'll find someone completely different.  Talking on the internet also gives the person a chance to re-read anything that they might say, so if it comes off creepy, they can take it back and make it sound romantic.  You can't do that face to face.  Be careful.