What gets a wife interested in making love?
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Everyday you need to make her feel special and loved.  That doesn't mean flowers and candy and things like that everyday.  What I mean is that you need to pay attention to things she says to you.  Ask how her day is.  Complement her on her apperance.  Find out what her interests are and talk to her about it.  Getting your wife interested in making love is a daily quest.  You cannot wake up on any given day and think you can "turn her on" with things that work for a man.  She is very different from a man and needs very "different" foreplay.  Hugging her and kissing her at many times throughout the day are a great place to start.\n\nAlso...when she is in the mood.  Traditional foreplay is a must!!!  That means anything that she wants.  Oral sex is a very good way to begin.  Listen to her though- does she sound like she is having a good time?  Follow her lead.
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Show her affection and plenty of foreplay. Get her opinion on what she likes you to do.
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Women in their 40's often to experience a drop off in their sexual drives. They are often concerned about getting pregnant at a time when they are moving on past the childbearing years and concerned that if they get pregnant there will be a high risk of genetic defects. They are also experiencing a decline in physical energy compared to their younger years. Considering these factors, the lack of interest is probably not related to the relationship so much as her own body's aging. However, intimacy is much more than what happens in the marriage bed. It is what happens through the day. Improve that, and you will inevitably improve both emotional and physical closeness.\n\nYou need to consider your wife's personality. If you are not sure, research love languages. There is a book by that title if you cannot find any onformation on the net. Basically, some people feel best loved when given things. Others feel loved best through words spoken. The third type feel most loved by spending time with them. The last type feels loved through gifts of service.\n\nFor my type of personality and age (I am 42), a racy sex toy would not be a turn on. I would feel like the gift was a shout saying let's skip real intimacy and get to the sex part. Intimacy to me is based on an emotional relationship as first place. My love language is time. One on one time doing activities that are out of the ordinary to everyday life would draw me closer. A hand in hand walk through the neighborhood, a surprise candle-lit dinner, being beside me in the work of the day around the house, etc.\n\nIf you speak the language your wife needs, I am sure intimacy will increase. As conversation allows a natural discussion of it, communicate what language you like best. It will make her feel good to be filling your emotional love needs too.
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No No No this ain't gon play.\n If you really care.  I mean if you really, really care, then acquaint yourself with some of the many many books on the subject and spend some time discovering tthe complexities of making love. Don;t just tke the easy way ou by asking somebody else who has not necessarily got the word on anything but their own possibly narrow experience.\nTake your time and learn the ways of love, Just like you need to with the one you are with. While making love to her,Slow loving attention and showing your appreciation for things that you find particularly attractive and unique about her asking her to let you know what you are doing that she especially likes or would like from you.--all these thing go a long way toward memorable,  mutually satisfying sexual relations.\n  Be attentive to her talk, her clothes, hair, perfume,  her style, her preferences, her needs OUTSIDE the bedroom and all the rest of the time. That's when she learns to regard you as a truly big man. and she develops a stronger longing to be close with you. Follow my advise, make those little efforts throughout the week,  and you wont be sorry when THAT TIME comes. Because love-making begins long before you lie together and if it doesn't, you won't be lying together long if at all.  Believe me .
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Yes ! do very much so. I am a married man and my wife is not a lovemaking person not at all. She claims that it's me but in all truth and fact it is her. I love her and may even be in love with her But she has so many ways that turn me off as a man who once enjoyed sex to the fullest
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By now you should know what drives her crazy physically..so, start the seduction sooner than that...do a chore that she normally does, clean the house, do the dishes. Start wooing her with those things before you get frisky. Then when you do get to that point she will be much more relaxed and open...maybe ask if she has any fantasies you can fulfil or just explore her body and ask along the way what she likes. Good luck!
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You need to talk to your wife about this and see what you can do to get her on your level! I know excercise always seems to bring on more energy, especially sexual energy! Maybe she could try this! Keep things exciting and stirred up to keep her interested!
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First off congratulations on 22 years, that is an incredible feat in today's society.  I can't wait till I hit that mark with my husband.\n\nThere are several courses of action you could take.  If you think  your relationship is strong enough just simply sit her down and tell her how important it is to you that you need a change.  Be honest with her.  Be specific about what you'd like her to do more often.  Give her examples of what you'd like her to try, and make them easy ones at first.\n\nMaybe suggest to her that you see a sex counselor.  I'm guessing that your wife is at least in her low if not mid 40's.  For women of that generation we were told to be sexually free but not how to go about it.  You'd be suprised at how many middle aged women need to even learn the art of self pleasure.\n\nAnother route would be to lead by example.  Set up a romantic evening and introduce a new toy, or a soft core video.  Maybe a massage with some lotion.  Maybe once you help her to discover her sexual self she'll be more open to initiating it.\n\nBe patient and hang in there.
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I belive if you can make a woman feel sucure in you.That she can trust that you'll be there for her emotionally,good times and bad. that you can always help, or that she can help you.if she feels sucure, she may make the first move tword sex and chances are your  sex will be better. really liston to her and you'll know what to do
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You know what?  The answers aren't a simple as looks, or sounds...for example...I love a woman's body, the female form..but it doesn't automatically make me want to have sex with her.  That person might even be totally into themselves and stuck up...which is a no go for me.\n\nWhen I'm actually having sex, I'm looking for softness.  I'm looking for that woman to allow me into her mind.....that sounds corny as hell though...but it's true.  It's a turn on, that she is allowing you to please her and vice versa.  \n\nThen as a guy, you pay attention to the sounds....not just the regular moans....but the real, deep, almost primal moans to let you know you are really working her over the way she wants.  I personally like to see involuntary movement of the limbs.  If she is making faces she wouldn't want to know she made, curling up her toes, or moving in ways or positions she has no idea she is even in, or even why she is in them.....then I know I doing what I'm supposed to.\n\nPlus a good attitude is necessary.  A woman who actually speaks and lets you know what she wants, what works...either vocally or with her eyes, or moans, whatever....will be better during sex.  It takes out the guy's guesswork at everything.  It shows she is conscious that you are actually trying to do a good job......and you want to make it happen together.  Communication, as with everything else in life, is the most crucial part of sex.\n\nSoooo....I guess it's the combination.  It's looks, although looks can and have fooled me.  I actually had the best sex I've ever had with someone that wasn't the supermodel type.  She definitely wasn't ugly.  She was real thick and she had the features I liked.  I guess it depends on the guy.  \n\nYou could say it's the sounds....but I've had girls who made yeti sounds....or they sounded like I was hitting them in the stomach with a lead pipe (no pun intended)....or they were screaming in my ear, like it was sexy.\n\nIf guys have that nice combo of looks, the right sounds, and a good attitude to match.....and the right amount of freakiness....goes a long way.\n\nOh.....and the difference between a one nighter and a committed relationship comes down to those two people.  The one nighter is exhilerating, exciting......might even hit the spot for a while.  Relationship sex depends on how you feel that night....or how your day went.....just more factors involved.\n\nWhat do I know?  I'm just a guy @ work with too much time on my hands.
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Add alittle spice in your life by taking showers together...that is always nice...you start by giving her a wipe down with the soapy sponge and add alittle four play..then hand the sponge to her and hope she returns the favor..If she reciprocates you should pick her up against the wall and proceed to make love there, after that pull her out the shower, and put her up on the sink and do it again..explore each others fetishes and wildest desires...Explore each others body til there is no part left literally unturned..just have fun...
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Go with the signs. She's happy and willing. That means she stills loves your attention and prefers it. Perhaps she's adjusting to having children, adopted or not it's time and energy draining. Just work with her and be the captain of your sexual ship for the time being. Be there for her and make it interesting. Also remember: people change after a period. of time. And the introduction of children or a child definitely messes with your "couple" dynamics. Go wit the flow. She'll come around. Give her time. Marriage is ALL about give n take, ups and downs. Work through it...she'll appreciate it and love you for it.
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Well, first of all, talk and find out what she likes and what gets her in the mood. If she likes you being romantic, go for it. (I.E Flowers, candles, bubble bath) Alot of touching, kissing and coressing usualy does the trick for alot of women. Don't just jump into sex. Make out for awhile, touch her everywhere. Kiss her neck slowly and softly, tell her how beautiful she is. Kinda sounds corny, but it's usualy key for alot of women to get passionate.
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get her to orgasm. twice. if not more.
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be the man of her dreams.\n\nbe new and different every day.\n\nlearn what makes her tick, \nand push that button often.\n\n:-)
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actually all of these answers are correct, but not enterelly, if you dont acomplish to stimulate your woman the time you spend down there or with your fingers is going to be useles, now women arose quite slow, so i recomend a nice diner, and allways with a sexual conotation, second you know your wife and what she likes so i can only recomend to do what she might like, take your time, do it slow and please use your imagination, try to discover new ways or new parts of your beloved, if you read her reactions, talk to her during the act and really try to satisfy her theres no way you can miss, besidas you must like oral sex to perform it, if you dont that will be only ocuord and not sexy at all
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get aroused.lots of foreplay