Ex Boyfriend Dilemma?
106789
Back when I was an bad boy before I decided to settle down, I would say I wasn't ready to commit. What this really ment was I was after someone else and when that didn't work out I'd exploit my ex by keeping in contact as a back up plan. You can give him a chance but at the first sign of uncertinty I'd toss him cause it will just be a cycle of heartache if you don't
162081
Little confused with question but I "think" i got it.\n\nYou have the hots for your ex-boyfriends's best friend. But the bugger isn't calling you, even though you have told him you are interested.\n\nAssuming I got it right ... here goes....\n\nGoing out with your best friend's Ex-girlfriend is ALWAYS a bad idea..... I can't imagine too many "friends" who would do that easily.\n\nI am also a little troubled that YOU would try to jump the fence and hook up with your ex-bf's best bud..... what if your ex didnt like the idea of his friend going out with you? You would be causing friction between two friends and in my book .... thats totally UNKOOL.\n\nAnd last choice is that NO he is not interested in you.\n\nI highly advice that you bat your eyelashes towards someone else..... there's no way that these two guys are the only two guys in your whole world...... find someone else who isn't directly connected to ur ex.\n\nOf course if you do hook up with your ex's best friend, I am sure we will see a new question one day:\n  \n"I still have feelings for my Ex... but I'm involved with his best friend... what should I do?"
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
1160813
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
875932
I'm in a similar situation, and I think your friend needs to figure out whether or not her guy is over his ex.  If he's truly over the ex, and they're really just friends, then talking to the ex shouldn't be a big deal.  If he's still not over her and wants to maintain contact for the hope of a future reconciliation, then your friend needs to get out now.  She shouldn't be anyone's filler or rebound.  The trick is figuring out whether or not he's actually over the ex, because most guys who aren't completely retarded won't be honest.
377484
My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
591213
He's your ex, none of your business.  Being friends after relationship is hard enuff without adding something like this to it.  Just stay out of it and let him learn on his own.
35047
If it was ME I would go with the new guy.  I mean look at how you phrased it "your ex or a boy you like".  You have your whole life for long-term relationships.  If one didn't work out move on and have some fun.  Think about what you want.
1101234
What happened that he's an "ex" and not a current boyfriend?\nDid you break it off or did he?\nDid the relationship end on a good note or did it end in a bad way?\nDid either of you cheat on the other?\nThere's not enough information to give you a reasonable answer.
1052906
Ex boyfriends come back more frequently than they stay away!  They break things off with us for odd reasons, then miss us when we've moved on.  The question is, what do YOU want?  Does he bring anything new to the relationship?  Why are you letting him dictate the terms?  I'd date other guys with a view to allowing the best guy to attract your focus.  This one may compete for you if he wishes, but you should not accept his crumbs when he's in the mood to toss them to you.
941054
So let me get one thing straight does your ex think youre gonna be with the guy till the end with him or is it the new guy I think you mean the new guy  just tell him straight forward how u feel\ndont beat around the bush! be sraightforward with your feelings!
1086445
Ask yourself this baby girl, why are you even talking/messing around with  your ex?  You two obviously broke up for some reason.  Let it go.  As far as your ex, he's just trying to get some from you.  You're worth being treated better than that.  As far as your current boyfriend, i'm sure he would'nt say you were'nt cheating if he were there while you and your ex were fooling around.  And I don't think your current boyfriend has a clear definition as to what cheating is\nLeave the ex alone hun.  This situation has bad written all over it and i'd hate for anything unpleasant to go down.  Good Luck.
884723
This one is going to be difficult, so let's see if I can help.\n\nFirst, your ex.  Now, I take it he's your ex for a reason.  Ask yourself, is there a chance for a relationship with him?  And, if there is, would things end up differently if you two got back together?  If you answered "no" to either question, then rule him out.\n\nSecond, your guy friend.  This is even trickier because if you do chose to pursue a relationship with him, it could end up being either being the best thing you ever had, or ending your friendship.  Does he feel the same about you?  If he does, then you may lose him if you don't date him.\n\nI hope this helps a bit.  Sorry I could not be more of a help.
533166
I'm presuming they are ex's for a reason... Think back on that reason and figure out why they are no good for you...\n\nFind someone else... Or tell them both that you have someone else, then see what happens...
439997
Been there done that--both options.  Choose what you have.  What you had before didn't last for a reason.  It may feel thrilling but that sure as hell doesn't last.  You call him an ex-mess for a reason and the guy you are with deserves more respect than that.
1099748
If you're happy with the new bf (and not just because he buys you things), then tell the ex, sorry bout your luck.  Tell him you actually shuold thank him, because if he hadn't left you you never would have met this guy.  And you are happy, and hope he can find someone to be as happy with.
939339
You can tell your ex that you still have feelings for him....BUT it is completely up to him.  Considering the time you have been apart....he will have to be the one to decide if you two should get back together.  It is really out of your control, if he has moved on then there is NOTHING that you can do.  This is the toughest part about breakups!!!!!