my wife is a internet junkie and it's ruined are marrage how do i save it?
114320
try asking her ou on real dates...maybe she is just bored
77831
Read this article about emotional cheating.\n\nhttp://www.nydailynews.com/front/v-pfriendly/story/335439p-286396c.html\n\nYou're a brave man to put your - and your kid's picture - on the net, next to this question. Let's hope your wife and all of her friends can't read. ;-) Do you want her to find out? Is this a cry for help? A way of starting a conversation? I am not judging you, I am only asking because I can't understand it completely but I admire the frankness and openness in it.\n\nGood luck!
997012
talk to a counsellor.\nthis is very unhealthy for both of you.\nshe 's never cheated you and why this bothers you...\ninsecurity...\ndon't let this garbage be back in your house..or you would keep on cleaning it..talk to her and share your feelings..\nbeing in marriage is being one..if one hurts, the other is hurt too... ask for forgiveness and give time with each other.
7865
First......I think you just did say you were sorry to her for being a boneheaded idiot. The first step is finally realizing what she was trying ot say to you. I have a feeling you realized this......just a tad late. The key is now letting your wife know that you understand. I have a feeling that she felt you spent more time on your bike than with her. Perhaps you were truly caring for this bike......pampering it.......polishing it........tinkering with it..........all while she had to look on. Now that you realize that the bike was dispensable.....make sure you show her that she is not. Care for her.....pamper her......tinker with her.......polish up the marriage. Flowers do nothing.....trust me. Actions......mean everything. Spend time being "present." Stalk her in the most fun loving ways you can imagine. Let her see that you can't stop thinking of her........that you need her........and nothing else will ever come between you two again. (she so needs to know this!)\n\nI so hope you are ok after the accident. I have a feeling that was another issue. She loves you so much and couldn't stand to stand back and wait for you to get hurt. Assure her you won't put yourself in any danger at the risk of losing her. (ok was that too mushy? That might have been too mushy.....aahhh but try it anyway.....what'll it hurt. *wink*) \n\nGood luck......I'll be rooting for ya!!
650502
I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
1094682
The sex online will get old pretty fast. You need to try and work on what's real.....your wife and mother of your children. Maybe she doesn't like sex because you don't approach her the right way. Begging is such turn-off...try some real passion. If you give some true effort and things still aren't working than leave! Nothing is worse for children than growing up in a loveless home.
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Boy, I am glad you said it was an accident. That is awful. I use our computer for our taxes, bill paying everything. If my wife erased it I wouldn't be happy but I would still love her.\n\nI have to go - I need to backup some files.
476989
Just tell your wife you dont find her attractive anymore. It is easier.\n\n\nor feel free to call your credit card company and reverse the charges
702022
Download XP TCP/IP Repair\nit will repair your internet activity\n\nhttp://www.xp-smoker.com/downloads/xptcprep.exe\nhttp://www.xp-smoker.com/freeware.html
102708
wait, are you trying to marry her, or date and have a sexual relationship with her. If it is the first point, don't do it man. Marriages are expensive and will always end in divorce or unhappiness. Save yo money and buy an old school cadillac with 24's instead. If its the part about sexual relationship, tell her she gives you action in the pants, and that she needs to stop selling drugs to kids. That is not cool, man!
167253
Put on a porn film just while having sex with your wife!\nShe could be agree and consequentially you could lose interest in it.
841534
I know it's hard, believe me! It's not something you get over in one night, or one year. It takes alot of time and you have to ask yourself if you are willing to give yourself that time? Is the marriage good now? Is it worth working on? Your wife needs to work on rebuilding your trust. Is she willing to do whatever it takes to help you along with this? It really seems to me that she is, because 20yrs is a long time that you both have invested in. I know you are in pain right now, your wife has been in pain for the last 10yrs thinking about what she did and has lived with knowing that one day you would find out and maybe end the life she really wants. And that is to be wife and a mother to YOUR kids. I am not making excuses for her because what she did was wrong! I know you need validation right now and you have every right to feel that way. You (I am sure) are a great dad. So for right now, focus on that. Time will heal...I promise!
440022
Cancel your internet!!  If you cant afford furniture for you and your kids you shouldnt have the luxury of other things like the internet.  If you smoke and/or drink...stop.  Add up the cost for all that for one year and see how much that is.  Stop trying to get free handouts when you can give some things up for you and your kids!!
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
924734
first question is, is she computer savvy?  if not, then just delete your history, temporary internet files, and your messenger history.  if she is, then you're going to have to up one on her.  good luck!
374437
I found my best friend online - my wife.  It was nearly 4 years ago now.  Keep trying - but never rule out finding friends in the real world - they tend to have less to hide!
984787
You have three choices. Leave him. Continue a life time of fighting over this or Learn to live with it gracefully.\n\nI personally consider a computer a private conversation like a phone call  or a letter addressed to me.\n\nIt is obvious that he isn't going to changed. He seems obcessed with it and very insecure in his place in your life. \nWhat should happen and what will happen are two different things.\n\nAs his wife you really shouldn't be typing anything that isn't something he can read, but then there are times you want to chat with a gf about your marriage or a family member. \n\nThus, again your choices. It seems like he isn't going to change. So you either get used to it and have a sense of humor about it or you leave.\n\nOh, one more option I just thought of. You get your own computer. Take it with you where ever you go.\n\nAnd a message to hubby....you keep this up and she woudn't want to be in your arms becasue they are choking and smothering her.\n\nAnd to her,,, you can change him, but you can change who you react to him.\n\nGood luck.