my girlfriend wants to move forward in our relationship then acts like she is drifting away,wut do i do?
98359
Are you taking any steps to move forward, Are you wanting to move forward? If she thinks you are not wanting to, that could cause her to drift away.
257113
tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.
488010
It's good that you seem like a good man if you are showing all the signs that you love and care for her. However, your girl seems to have had enough of you for whatever reason. I think she may feel overwhelmed by the living arrangement you guys have chosen and she finally figured out that she needs her space. Maybe living together put a strain on the relationship and she feels smothered. You can't make her stay if she so desperately wants to go.
529440
if she loved you she wouldnt be leaving you so often for someone else. i think she probably is after your money if she keeps coming back. i dont feel she will commit to you the way you would like her too and i dont think she is in love with you as well. i know you have invested a lot of time and your heart into this relationship but i would move on. tell her its over and see what her reaction is.
366651
She's freaked out that it's getting serious. She may be in the habit of keeping emotionally distant. Good at being intimate sexually, but when there's the possibility  to add a relationship into the mix, she may freak out and be distant. Her attempt to push you away to make sure doesn't get too serious.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
15750
One year!  She's not your girlfriend anymore.  She's probably avoiding you.  Didn't you ask this question yesterday?  Give it up man.\n\nhttp://www.despair.com/persistence.html
903997
2years is when this stuff happens all the time. you either go to the next level or move on so as not to lead anyone on for longer than need be.  Sounds like she may be thinking similar thoughts to you. First have a long hard think about what you really want and then talk to her and talk to her some more and some more communication is very important whether you guys go on  or even if you leave it for a while......... communicate!! Good Luck and what ever the outcome remember no regrets!!
517220
why did she break up with you in the first place? maybe she realized that she made a mistake and is reconsidering going back out with you.  give it time and don't do anything, let her make the first move.  maybe she is just spying on you to see if you got a new girlfriend, driver her jelous by showing her that you are happy without her
820809
It sounds like she care for you ,but she is afraid of commitment, so when things a little warm for her she runs.   I think for now she just needs some assurance that you are there for her.  Then get straight to the point and ask her how slow does she want the relationship to go.   As the term slowly means different things to different people.    Her response should answer all the questions that you want from her.   Then it may also let you know if she really want a relationship and how much she really cares.
749267
I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
1064054
Have you tried to talk with your girlfriend about how you feel? When my sweetie feels like nothing is special, she talks with me and says "I miss when we used to ..." or "I feel like we are in a rut, do you think so too?" She usually gets the ball rolling and brings her dissatisfaction with the status quo to my attention. You can do the same. \n\nAnother idea is for each of you to list all the things you like and don't like about the relationship and compare your lists. You probably already know this, but when sharing your lists, do so in a positive and non-confrontational way.\n\nThen again, if this all sounds like too much work, figure out what you would like in the relationship and talk with her about that.\n\nJC
1131067
hi, it's pretty much nthing you can do all she saying is she need her own space she's just trying to find herself. give her time and space and if you love her you would let and go and if she omes back you'll even love her more because now she is ready to give you all her love and time but right she can't give it to you if she can't give her love to herself.
411892
Tell her, and find out where you stand.  It looks as though she may be ready to move on, sadly for you, as she may not see the outcome of your 'ups and downs' in your relationship in quite the same way as you do.  It might be time just to move on yourself or carry the relationship through into marriage - 6 years is a long enough time to do something about it. The fact she feels comfortable enough to make these arrangements in front of you means that she's about given up hope of going further with you because you've delayed for so long.  I think it's reasonable after so many years to decide whether you want to commit to this girl and ask her to marry you or live with you, or go your separate ways.
368983
its ok......u both are changing....\ngive urself sumtime clear out misunderstandings n stuff talk to her maybe she needs help.......but if it still's not working   break it\nbut at least u wont regret not trying...right????
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
605761
Then you need to step up to the plate do you want her to stay or go? Because it is your life too! If you dont want her around then let it go but if you do then you need to try to resolve things!