i m a hindu wanna marry a christian girl who means hthe world to me her parents dont seem to understand..HELP?
117926
if you both are sure about marriage then i guess her parents opinion would not have mattered. have two of you ever seriosly discussed the problems which may arise because of differences in the way of faith and living etc? what will be the religion of children? what is your own family's reaction ? are both of you ready to deal with the reaction of your relatives in family gatherings or festivals ? have you two ever honestly discussed all the issues resulting because of this marriage which have come in your mind or avoided because other person might find it offensive ? or you just say yes to everything just to be considered true secularist.\n            does she want you to convert so that her parents say yes ?  i doubt that she will really do it for you. otherwise her parents would have been happy to say yes and had been satisfied that at least their daughter was still christian.\n   the point is be sure youself  before taking any decesion +ve or -ve. if you to are satisfied with each other's answers you know what to do . best of luck
121618
when i met my husband my parents hated him. it just takes a while for them to see the good side of you. just be yourself, use your manners, and treat her like a queen. when her parents see that you are going to bend over backwards to make their daughter happy then they will know that you are the right one for her. good luck!!!!! take care
857404
i think that god has someone spl. for you. and when you will meet her you will not regret. do give your first kiss to the best one. who will be committed for you and you only. like indians.\neither they are crazy but still they have very pious love.
1170654
love has no bounds... if your guy loves you so much so that he can go against this world.... go with your guy.... its very difficult to find a pure love.... if you think you have found one, do anything to save that love.... people are not always so lucky.....\nif you dont have any blood relation then i don't see why you both can't get married.....\nbut before telling your parents... talk to your guy... as to whether he will be there standing with you or not.....
550400
Caste will not be a problem, but your religions certainly will ! I am an Indian too, you see :\n...When this girl has asked you to wait for 2 more years, you are already busy broadcasting to everyone here that you love her [or are infatuated with her !]. \n...And the way you are publicising that 'she also loves me' [we have only your word for that, nor hers !], makes one feel that you mainly want to spoil her name and reputation - to make sure that nobody else marries her.\nYou do not come across as either a sensible, or responsible young man - and appear to have been brought up on a diet of Hindi films and TV serials, resulting in your imagining yourself as some tragic 'Majnu' pining for his 'Laila' !\n...Wake up to the realities of life, kid - and stop fooling yourself, and others !\nAnd learn proper English first - if you want to really progress in your life and career !
274523
love trumps the parents ! its necessary for her to love you not her parents,  sure it would be nice ... but its not always possible !,  marry her treat her well, treat the parents with respect, and they may come around one day , especially when you have children, if not ,  they  might miss out on  spending as much time with their grandchildren as they would like...you don't have to live near them, or see them very often  if they never come around...its not an ideal relationship   if they never  like you , but would you be happier with her  or without her ??? also  you could try to find out why they don't like you thru your girlfriend and try to resolve the   problem / reasons, best wishes ! PS  don't  let them ruin your  love and your life !
65906
Honor your parents wishes. If you are strong in your faith, it would probably be a mistake to marry someone who would not share the same faith with you. The one you want to marry should study what you believe and know well about your culture and what is important in your family.\n\nGet your parents opinion about how they would feel if you married someone who would convert to your faith, maybe as a hypothetical question.\n\nA woman should not want to marry a man who disrespects his parents wishes. If a man dishonors his mother or father, it is also likely he will dishonor others, (like maybe his wife and children).
365226
I cannot give a proper answer without knowing the religion that your girlfriend's family practices. However, since you speak of being born again, I am assuming that you speak of Christianity. \n\nYour girlfriend's parents are to forgive you if they are Christians. However, forgiveness in no way means that they are required to allow you the opprtunity to let it happen again. If someone were to steal from you, you should forgive that person, but forgiving them does not require that you trust them with your possessions again. See what I mean? That being said, you are young, and so is your girlfriend. What she is doing by keeping you up in the air is wrong. It is deceptive to her parents and it is not spiritually or emotionally healthy to you. I think that 18 is plenty old enough to make decisions about dating, but if she still lives with her parents, then she must follow their rules. If she doesn't want to follow them, then she needs to move out. \n\n We are not taught to obey our parents, we are taught to honor them. Honoring our parents often involves obeying them, but in instances where the parents are wrong in their commands, we are not required to obey them. That could be a misunderstanding that your girlfriend has, but it could be that her family accepting you is simply very important to her. Different things are important to different people when dating. Some people find education or income important, and some don't. \n\nI think that you should talk to her parents, and explain that you would like their forgiveness and that you hope as Christians they can give it. That would, of course, be easier for them to do if you make a commitment to stop having sex. It's a bit ridiculous to ask forgiveness for something you still intend to do. I would then talk to your girlfriend and make sure that if you do marry, she understands a few things. When you marry, you become one flesh. The days of doing things your parents' way is over, and her parents should not have as much influence over her once you marry. They can give advice and voice opinions, but they can no longer forbid anything, nor can they call the shots.\n\nIf after doing this, you find that you still cannot have a relationship with her, then put a stop to her visits and put it back in God's hands once again.
88892
Listen carefully, it looks from your question that you are a devoted Moslem otherwise you will not ask such a question, and the correct answer for your question is that: Islam forbids a Moslem girl to marry to a non-Moslem man because it is likely that he might influence her and convert her to his religion, and you know what does that mean, but if she feels that he is sincere and he might convert to Islam, she might marry him after he converts to Islam and by that way she will please Allah in two things : first that she obeyed Him and didn't abandon her religion, second: she saved another soul from the hell fire.\nIf you need more assistance in any further questions about Islam please don't hesitate to contact me, sister.\nMy sincerest prayers for you.
890478
Does she love you back? If so, try going together to talk to each set of parents. Maybe one or the other will agree, and help convince the other set of parents. \n\nIf neither accepts it, maybe you will just have to wait until you are old enough and do what you want then. Good luck :)
748674
Hi Rachna....\n                      Well u have quite a geneniue problem but..there need to be certain decisions to be taken from mind and not heart...\n\n                      See dear..when u both have decided to marry then there is no question that no one could stop both of you..but at the same time..is it that you both are going to marry online and hen wont meet for another 2 yrs or till the boy gets matured?Well if the answer is yes then the problem is that in this case there would be no respect to your relations and infact even the guys parents can sue you to the court..in turn making your parents goodwill bit rough..and if the answer is no then that means u both would stay toghther..then in such conditions i wont think your partner would be matured enough to satisfy your inner needs...\n\n                               And let me also make you understand that only love cant take life going..its also daily needs ..for which money requires..and if u people plan to run away then ..u people may land in no mans land...\n\n                              The best option i feel is that u should carry relations with him till he gets his maturity age and is fully setteled...and i dont no why you are so eager to marry..is it that u dont have faith on him...?well i think u have the answer itself in you.\n\n                                TK.CR BYE BYE
306818
What? The parents are not ready juz bcoz of their horoscope didn't match? wooow...what a reason.\n\nwell...if they both are in love and ready to take any responsibility and risk by getting marry, then do it.\n\nit is true, they'll end up with 2 question only, get marry or be gone.\n\nthey are mature enough to do it by them selves, sooner or later, parents will understand and starting to accept it step by step.\n\njust pursue what you both think is the best.\n\none of the reason why they don;t get  marry it's bcoz it is not the time yet.\n\nencourage your self to dare to take the decision, don't thibk too much by thinking only.
347883
the best thing to do is to raise her up as a good kid, and when she grows up, have her decide for herself. do not put pressure on yourself and on her. that way, when she so chooses, it will be true and sincere. also, if she doesnt, well, maybe christianity is not for her.
897033
Chances are good that you succeed.i know that this is kinda challenging.But if she truely love you and care about you she would be determined to break the barrier of religion.its upto her to decide whether to hurt you or her family.she will make her choices.all what i suggest you is to stand by her always.just be there for her.I suggest you to respect and support her decision.if she wishes to not hurt her family by marrying you then please support her.or if she chooses to marry you and leave her family behind you are obliged to reconnect her with her family.Good luck to the two you.hope you succeed.
811619
yes, its possible to marry her..but at first you need to know werther if she really loves you deep down inside and be ready to convert to Islam to be married to you..?\n\ndo not force her to convert..it must be from her heart..but if she..reluctant to give away her christianity and that is not a good news to you..you might probally can wait for he until she finally says that she really wants you to be her life partneror maybe you have to forget about her..\n\ni think thats the only good way to do.. you're a muslim man..and as a muslim..you should know what is the best...\n\ngood luck my friend
58806
DO'nt marry.\n\nYou'll repent that. It looks quite romantic first. But\nits your end surely!!!!\ngood luck!
83930
It could be that the person they are planning to marry may be of another religion.  Such as catholics are only supposed to marry catholics.  It could also be that they had a bad experience with their prior religion and looked into different religions and found one they felt was more "in tune" with their personal beliefs.