My wife and girlfriend are both pregnant by me, what do I do?
108648
You don't have a lot of options. If child support is not a problem for you, then I don't see what it is that you're trying to decide here. You'll have to support both your children.\nAs to your relationships.. end one of them. Stay with the one you truly love, or the closest thing to it :)\n\nDoes your girlfriend know you're married? If she does then she's not going to dump you if you pick her. \nYour wife is a different story. \n\nYou're right, this is common.\n\nGood luck to you.
493693
Have a kid with some one else? Have you tried asking? Maybe you should sit her down and ask if she wants everyone in the world to know that she is basically sterile and if it is okay for you to tell everyone on the Internet that? Lets say by chance you get her pregnant. Its a Girl will you reject the child? Your question says you want a Son. So not only do you want your Girlfriend to do something she cant do but you want her to push out a boy. If all else fails. Tell her you love her and you want to share in the ultimate joy of having children together. Then go to the fertility clinic and work on this together.
445998
Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
693569
dear sunshine,\nI am a 31 year old married man with two boys, i left my wife almost two years ago, cuz of cheating, i was about to forgive her and take her back, but i found out she is pregnant.\n\ni still have not decided if i even want to take her back and adopt out her baby, she wants me back, i dont know.\n\nbut one thing i will tell you sunshine,\ni know i loved her, truely\nfor she had the capacity to make me the happiest man in the world,\nand yet at the same time;\nshe could hurt me more than i ever knew i could be hurt.\ni believe that this is what true love is, and that it is unconditional- no conditions, such as; i will love you if you do this, or not if you don't.\n\ni will always love my wife, and have already forgiven her.\nbut that does not mean i want to be with her....\n\nyou should ask yourself this,\nif your man got pregnant from someone else, (God forbid, :) ) - would you take him back??\n\nn e way,\ngood luck.
433106
tell her, 7 months pregnant or not, he's a sleeze bag. tell her and an authority figure too since he threatened you. dont live in fear because of that loser!
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
696679
Be as honest with yourself and others as soon as possible... I know it is awful to be where you are at right now, but telling someone in your family or hers that you have the best relationship with is going to be your best bet long term.  You need support.  Since you are both minors, it is unfortunant that you have this in front of you, but I don't think it is a crime... If one of you were an adult that would be a problem.  Be as strong as you can.  This will get better.  There are other choices.  There are many families out there that wish to adopt a child.  But still at least be there as her friend and make sure she gets the proper medical care and emotional support.  Please don't wait any longer to tell an adult... Time will make matters harder to deal with.  I suggest not to break up with someone because of her medical condition.  She's got to be emotional too right now.  If you have other problems than the pregnancy, consider doing so because of that.... But you should really be there for each other since you both created the dilema.
338589
Don't fall for it jesus. I know for a fact my cousin Debbie Tsunami, regularly plants fake positive pregnancy tests to get child support and diamonds. Once we find Johnny, then worry about your wife. I'm sure she'll be fine with her mother.
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
438860
What if she is your one true love?\nI say go for it, because true love doesn't come around much these days and when it does, people are usually too distracted with whatever is going on in their lives to notice anyway.\nBUT if she did have the baby and kept it, be prepared to be a part of that kid's life. That is a major commitment. It adds a completely different dynamic to the relationship, it'll still be worth it if she really did satisfy you the way you say she did though.\nAs for this other guy, you say you USED TO call him so, you have no obligation to him. F*ck him. Just make 100% sure that she feels the same way about you after all this time before you make your move!\nGood Luck!!
163001
dont ditch her!!its your responsibility!!abortion is killin!!darn you!!
611092
Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.
520641
..Hi ...If you are serious about that girl..and you are shure that it is not a midlife crisis..you should talk to your wife..And eather stay with her/ or choose that girl...You cannot have both...You should make a fresh start then...and live with the consequenties...Think it over..and make the right decisson for yourself! ...People can advice you..but it is up to you...\nKind regards...And good luck..
1118840
To bad for you....you going to have some mayor problems if you are pregnant...but if you are don't go getting no abortion...you opened your legs now you gotta take the consequence. First you let go of guy #1...tell him its over....and guy #2 who you think you pregnant from..you don't gotta lie to him about anything...if you are pregnant..he needs to take care of you and your baby...He's not Innocent either..he had part of it... to bad for his girlfriend.. Not saying yah gotta get married and all that but at least let him be part of it...
842764
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
230421
Do some reading on pregnancy!! HORMONES are rotten and maybe you could go with her to the doctor and discuss the mood swings.  It's really important for you to be there for her.  \n\nI realize you are going through a nasty divorce, but in a sense you created this 'mess' by not finishing up the marriage and 'starting a new family' with someone else.  Now is the time to buck up and take it.......she needs your support and she is carrying your child!!  \n\nGo to the doctor with her and ask about the hormone issue - have the doc reassure the GF that it's hormones.. if it's exacerbated and uncontrolled see if the doc can do anything. The next thing you can do is read up on pregnancy .. books online whatever.. to help you cope.  She needs reassurance and support and it's only for a few more months.  :)  Good luck and Grats on the baby and the divorce :D
303782
Take the responsibilities, marry her!\nIf you're not prepared for that, you must tell both your and her parent that you're the father of unborned child and wish to give the baby to anyone wants to adopt him/her.\n\nWish you good luck!