i ham very sorry to say but as what i had did my husband filed divorce papers with faultas to what went on ?
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What is Abduladu interest in this woman?\nI notice most of his post are pro-Mormon.\n\nTell me Abduladu are you Mormon?\nHave you been on a mission trip?\nDo you know this lady?\nAre you or do you know Matthew Vanderpool?\n\nWhat she did was wrong but the brand of compassion you and other Mormons are showing her, doesn’t speak well of your church either.\n\nYou must admit it is a questionable practice to send young boys un accompanied by a female into homes of unsuspecting stay at home moms\n\n2 Tim 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,\n3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,\n4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;\n5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.\n6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,\n7Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.\n\nProblems like this arise all the time as a result of that practice. You might do better to reconsider the practice than to condemn this lady. One can hardly help but imagine what Jesus would do. My suggestion is that only the Mormon who is without sin throw the first stone.\n\nAs for you joann_46er, you would do better to forget this boy, repent of what you have done, pray the forgiveness of your husband and kids even if he doesn’t take you back. If you confess your sins and ask him, God will forgive you. This will hurt for a long time but you will get over it. Be responsible and take the results of your acts as deserved outcomes. Be humble and contrite. Who knows your husband with Gods grace and power and time might be forgiving. Many who have read your post are praying for your forgiveness’, your reunification with your family if that is Gods will and His grace in your life. More importantly you should join us in praying for the best possible outcome for your children and husband.\n\n2 Tim 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,\n3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,\n4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;\n5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.\n6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,\n7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
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First of all, assets are to be found in the discovery process of the divorce law suit.  Secondly, he could lie about assets and their whereabouts.  Thirdly, if you have a GREAT attorney, he/she could point out the disappearing assets to the Judge based upon the documents YOU provide.  Last, if the spouse has lied during discovery process he could be held accountable.  You have to be prepared for the battle of a life time and give up the money to your attorney.  Where there are assets there is paperwork.  \n\nGood Luck and Take Care
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You made a mistake how can telling him correct the mistake?  Is your purpose in telling him to help him or attempt to lessen your guilt? Perhaps you want him to feel as bad as you do.  Perhaps you want him to assume some of the guilt and responsibility for your actions.  I would not want to be told because once you told me there is nothing I could do to fix it.  \n\nI suggest you try and get your lifes back to normal as soon as possible if you want to continue the relationship.  You say you have a " fiance".  I am sure you are aware that in several States you have a "husband".  In Texas living together, purchasing and or estasblishing a home together, having a child together, living together for over a year, allowing someone even one time to believe you are a married couple are all ground for the State to declare your relationship a "Common Law Marriage" if ever you separated. \n\nPerhaps you will recall the guilt you are suffering the next time you are tempted to cheat and will not do it again.  You made a statement that is very confusing to me, "... this relationship couldn"t get any better!" obviously it could.  Why would you be tempted to cheat if the relastionship was so perfect and you were aware of it.  I believe a problem exist and the two of you should try to find it.  You have an emotional need that is not being met and that is what you should have communicated before you cheated.  It is not too late to begin communicating those needs now becuase those are the things you two together can fix.\n\nThe time you would spend telling him about somthing neither of you can change should be spent trying to discover the real reason you cheated in the first place and fix it.  I do not think perfect relationships exist and good relationships are hard to come by.  It seems to me your relationship is worth saving and protecting and I do not think telling will make the relationship better or preserve it.  Good luck.
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I am not blaming you but, if he was an illegal that should have been a red flag. I do however know that sometimes love can cloud judgment. His taunts and admission as to his motive for marrying you are admissible in court and easily enough reason to warrant a divorce. Just try to remember, you are losing a cheater a liar and a person who is emotionally and verbally abusive. His loss is far greater than your ever will be.
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I'm not sure what exactly to tell you but i definitely think he shouldn't blame everything on you. Sure, being married means you might go through financially difficulties but you are suppose to go through things like that together. And since he gave you the ok that you needed, he is just as much responsible as you are.\nI bet you have already talked to him, right? Because everytime somebody posts a question there's always somebody that says "Talk to him". What did he say? It sounds like you are just accepting it the way it is. \nAnd yes, there's always a Saver and a Spender. I can say out of my marriage, i know i'm the spender and my hubby is the saver and i also know i'm the loud one and he's the shy one. But they say 'Opposites Attract'.\n\nAnyway, to come to an end...\nHe should have agreed that it was his fault, too. I think he is the one that made a mistake. You've admitted you would've done it different if you knew this would happen.\n\nI hope i helped you at least a little bit. Don't feel too guilty about it, remember, he gave you the ok about the money. I think he needs to think about what he said and that he never stopped you from getting the money for the remodeling.
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It sounds to me that he just needs time to think things through and that is ok. Let him think and give him his space to do so. Yes you should call him to say you are sorry and ask him for forgiveness but at the same time dont bug and pressure him! Give him the space and time that he needs. Dont pressure him or nag him. Just pray for him and trust God for your marriage. May I suggest the book the power of a Praying Wife to you by Stormie Ormartian. It is a great book and they sell it at Walmart. Since he wants his space you take time to think things through too and try to change yourself and learn from your mistakes and learn how to become the wife you need to be for him. I am here if and when you need to talk. I understand why you are confused and hurt but so is he. Why don't you try to find a person or counselor to talk with and also ask him if he is open to going to a marriage counselor with you. See if he wants to work on the marriage or stay apart for a while. But do what he says and wait till Saturday afternoon. Respect him for this and give him this time and he will love you for it. Hope this helps some. I hope things get better for you and your marriage soon. Here comes hugs your way today.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
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Under marriage & divorce - we can only assume you cheated.  It will probably go away in time...who knows how long...only you can say.  Hey, it happened for a reason...maybe he did something unkind to push you into it?  It may not have been all your fault?  \n\nDon't tell your hubby, that will only make matter worse and then he can bring it up years from now during an argument.  Confessing to him may make you feel better, but it will definately make him feel worse.  Short term it may work...long term it sucks.  \n\nThe good new is that the guilt will fade away a little more each day.  If you really need to share this with someone, then go to a church and share it with God.  Good luck.
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I beleive that if he hasn't files it is for a reason. Also remember your only hearing his side of the marriage story. Never fall into a trap where a man or woman only blames the other party....As far as meeting his children or your it is to soon....K
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You need to contact the District Attorney's office for your area. You can find it easily by Google-ing your city/ state and the words "District Attorney". OR\nLook in the "Government" section of your phone book.\nThe District Attorney will help you and file proper paperwork. You will probably need to get yourself a divorce attorney. Since he abandoned you and remarried, the divorce will probably go pretty good for you, legally speaking.\nYour husband's new marriage is invalid, in the case of multiple marriages, the first one is the legal marriage.\n\nGet on the ball, I know you are hurt but, you need to protect yourself, as his legal wife, you could be held responsible for any debts he incurs or any lawsuits against him. He sounds like a scoundrel! You are lucky he is outta your house.
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I wouldn`t worry about it.   Thats one of the several ways this could have turned out.  It could have turned nasty, it could have turned out right for you, it could even have been a disaster for you and your husband.  Just be thankful that that was the only consequence of the truth you told
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First of all he violated court orders. Talk to your attorney about reporting that and taking his fool butt back to court. \n\nSecond, you need to take copies of those court papers to the bank and deliver them to who ever is in charge of the debt. Since you have these, you are not liable for the debt. If they continue to bother you, you may need to get your attorney involved to shut them up. Best of luck.\n\nAdded: Be sure to add court costs to any suit you bring against your ex or the bank. That should help reduce your own costs. Heck, just sue the ex for any costs you incure due to his lack of action on those court orders. Take care.
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You will be held liable for it.  What you should have done is gotten an anullment!!!  If you wanted to wait around to give her the benefit of the doubt, you should have filed legal seperation forms that way you would not be responsible for anything she does from the date of filing.  It's six yrs now....file for a divorce!!!  If you cannot find her..there are other ways of divorcing her without knowing her whereabouts...such as file the divorce but have your attorney file (as a public announcement) in the legal section of the newspaper.  She will have so many days to respond.  You sound like my ex...LOL...still married to a woman for eight years been seperated for six of them!!!\n\nEnd it now before it gets worse!!!  Not to sound harsh but if you passed away (lord forbid you don't..) she would be entitled to your benefits!!!!  \n\nEnd it.
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If he is doing these things I would say he has acted on them, thinking about it, or is going to...I am sorry.  This could end your marriage, it needs to be thoroughly discussed.
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If you said that your sorry, and you really are, then its not your fault anymore.  Give it a little time though.  Things are forgotten over time, and they will probably realize that whatever happened was stupid and come to their senses.
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exactly what he asked....?  do you want help because of what happened?  or because he is upset that you wrote the post?\n\nanyway, time heals all things... \n\nyour husband will probably never get over it but in time he will at least be able to forgive and maybe some days he will forget.\n\nunfortunately there are peoples best friends, siblings, parents, children, and family doing those types of things all over the world, everyday,  so just keep your head up and this too shall pass.
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You need a family law lawyer.  He should have methods of finding those things out.
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well it is hard to admit that we are divorced, it's like saying I failed in  a relationship. But until you get over that feeling that it just wasn't meant to be, you won't feel good about yourself. You have to realize that it wasn't your fault and eveerything happens in life for a reason if we don't always know the reason