i had a perfect love relationship for past 5 yrs n now my gal feels she cant b happy with me?
102833
You say that you want to know how to get her back, and you know that she is making a mistake....well my friend I think that you need to give it time.  She needs to be able to come to the conclusion on her own that she made a mistake, and that this other guy is not the one for her it simply is not something you can coerce her into.  If you try, you will do nothing more than to drive a larger wedge into your already shattered relationship.  Give her space and time to miss you, and if she doesn't then you have your answer but she can't miss you if you continue to cling to her.\n\nAlso, I think something that you might need to consider as well is would you ever be able to move past her betrayal of you trust?  After all she did start another relationship before ending the one with you first.  \n\nOne other thing to consider is that perhaps your lives are just taking two different paths at the moment.  Maybe she felt that she wanted someone more inline with her own personal goals and aspirations.
595627
She loves you but not willing to give you 100% of her heart and soul..She obviously cares but is in doubt of a future with you..She seems to be questioning her own motives for being in a relationship with you..Maybe shes not totally satisfied with the relationship or feel solid enough in it..Seems to me she is willing to be friends but from a distance..Do not give her an alternative..thats instant death!Give her understanding and your friednship but your heart would be more appreciated elsewhere..Good luck!
815479
I just don't see a feelgood way out of this.  Be honest with her.  It already sounds like you are compassionate.  Honestly explain your feelings, how long you've been feeling this way, how you struggled with it, didn't want to hurt her, etc but that you couldn't reconcile how you feelings evolved to living in a way that is in full honesty for both of you.  She's going to undergo grief and pain so there is no avoidance of that.  It really is hard to tell someone you care about as a person, knowing you're going to cause them pain, that you've tried, but don't feel the way you would like to feel anymore.  Many people deal with faded feelings in ways that cause even more problems down the line, cheating, avoidance, etc. It never makes the problem better so you know that it will take great courage on your part to get in the drivers seat and take the relationship to it's inevitable destination.  She was a whole person before she met you so hopefully she has the inner strength and faith to trust she will continue to be a whole person without you.
463760
Sounds like she's been reminiscing about you and maybe missing you.  I don't know what broke you up in the first place.  That would have something to do with whether or not you try again.  But,  if you are missing her and love her...don't be a fool.  Go chase her man!!!!! Some woman need a lot of chasing to be caught.  That's because we are also sometimes a little niave.
726715
If you guys didnt really have anything in common and you were super happy with her, then you did the right thing. You should never settle for someone, or continue being with someone in fear of hurting their feelings. Its a hard thing to do, I know, because I am the same way, but you have to think, do I really want to spend the rest of my life being moderately happy instead of really happy? And its better to do it now then wait til later when you cant take it anymore and youre much older than you are now and starting over is that much harder.
201949
if she doesn't seem happy don't marry her. she should be happy without the gifts. you should be the one who makes her happy. you do many wonderful things, and it sounds like she isn't as in love as you. get out now before you really get hurt. (it will already hurt) and by the way, what is your phone number, you sound wonderful.
944919
Hey Thor, I've been there. So, i can feel what you are going thru. Let me tell you this..Leave the past alone. Dont think of it. I didnt see you writting that you love her. True that u have feelings for her & she is ur 1st. But still, she broke up with you.i.e dont want to be with you. Move on...leave ny thing that remind you with her. Look to the future. It will take time to move on i know...but time is all what you have
940287
well, maybe you should talk to her and see what she is mad about.. and see what she dont like about you.. no one can be perfect.... but maybe if you guys can communicate on the phone or in person it would be better
1071924
One thing that I noticed in your post was that you stated, "I need her forgiveness to be happy."  My friend, you do NOT need her forgiveness to be happy.  Forgive yourself first.  Look to yourself first.  Then when you figure out what you need and want then you can openly express what you feel toward this woman or any woman without going overboard.  Currently, you are hurting.  And obsessing over the whole situation is unhealthy.  Find other things to do.  Let go.  The universe will take care of you as long as you are taking care of yourself first in a healthy way.  I'm not talking about selfish pride, but more of a turn of the looking glass towards yourself.  Forgive yourself dude.  You are young with alot of experiences to explore.  Go get them.  And enjoy your life.  As for the girl, you can still love her for the rest of your life. There will be none other the same.  Others may come close.  How wonderful it would be when you are ready to explore.  When in your search of what you think you need, you will discover what you want.   Take Care.
501633
It sounds like her feelings have changed towards you.  Ask yourself some questions.  Do you mind her touching you?\nTalk to her, find out how she feels.
821438
Maybe she believes in you and that one day you'll make her happy, you only ever find one true love, they do say that you don't know what you have lost till it's gone and this is very true, by letting her down time and time again you'll lose her forever.  Be honest with yourself and her, there are two questions you should ask yourself.  Are you IN-Love with her??? and Do you want to be with her??? If you have let her down countless times maybe it's time to stop before it's too late and you lose her forever, sort yourself out once and for all before it's too late.  Good luck in doing so, I wish you well.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
478413
either she loves you! or she's afraid that if you start dating someone you won't spend as much time with her! You should sit her down and have a talk!
275382
Dont rush, give her time to think. If you keep houndin her then she'll feel trapped and may break it off. I love you are powerful words. And no, its not wrong at all.
769042
No man or women should have to feel doubt when it comes to love. You cant enjoy the wondering about that. im sorry but it seems like maybe she hinted to you that she doesnt want you any more. some women dont see men for the brains that they have. and if she found out you lied.. well you know.
522098
Hey man, I think you should sit back and really think about your relationship, the first thing you should consider is her consideration of your feelings and perception of the situation  in general. If trust is there AND... a MUTUAL level of respect for each others feelings is there, somehow things will work, I feel once those things aren't in place your outta gas.
257113
tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.