i have these two friends that cant get along but they want me to pick and choose between the both of them?
109695
I'm with these people, you dont have to be picking between friends. If they dont like the other people you like thats something they have to deal with Not you. Unless they work something out amongs themselves they need to grow up and stop the kiddy games.
183376
The best thing you can do is keep out of it: they'll sort it out eventually. You don't have to put up with their nonsense, though, especially if it makes you unhappy, and you should let them know. Don't make a big drama out of it, or you'll be pandering to their feelings that this fight is a huge big thing and probably help spin it out even longer. Just say to them firmly "none of that crap around me, please. You two can take your arguments elsewhere or be quiet." If one of them is with you and tries to make you avoid the other one, just say "don't be stupid, just act like an adult, can't you?!" As they no doubt care about you, after a while they'll settle down. If one of your friends decides not to be friends with you any more because you won't take sides, then they're not really a true friend, and you're better off spending your time doing other things.
740491
It's not fair to either of them for you to be with them both anyhow,. You are going to have to make a choice and pray that the one you don't choose will still care for you as a friend.
722419
its possibe. ppl who do not have a stable mind and keep fluctuating all the time come across this problem. they r never satisfied with what they have. they always want what they like.\nOpen ur mind gurl and decide. U will come to know that one of them is made for u and the other can only be ur friend.
114987
I think that you are entitled to have any bf of your choice. Have your friends even given him a chance?  Maybe you could ask them to spend a day with you both and then make a decision.  As far as them saying he's ugly just tell them that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If they are true friends they should chill out and realize that they are hurting you and they aren't being fair. Remind them that they don't always make choices that you like either. If everyone in the world liked the same things it would be a rather boring world now wouldn't it?
1187221
Just  be honest with them and speak your mind.  Telling them why you disagree with what they are saying.  \n\nBut whatever you do, don't let either one of them influence your decision. Make sure what you are deciding is your choice and what you believe, not theirs.
745255
I have the same situation..I like them both but one doesn't like one of my bestfriend...I realized,if she treat me as a friend she should accept & respect me & my bestfriends.There is no reason to hate my bestfriend because she is not bad..Maybe,if my bestfriend is bad,rude or something which is not acceptable maybe i can understand my friend.But there is no reason because i've known her for so long and became my bestfriend.I realized,that my other friend has been jealous that's why she hate her and she just doesn't like my bestfriend's style.If i were you,as long as you know,trust and you like your bestfriend there's no way to worry about your bestfriend.But the other friend,you have to ask him/her why?then try to analyze and figure ot out...
95172
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
62066
Your free to be friends with who you want. If they are really your friends they will both respect your decision to remain friends even if they are not.
416826
well don't get in the middle of what the problem is between them let them know that you are there for them both and show your support towards them both that's what friend are for they have the problem with each other don't get in between that just keep your piece and show your support to them both.
901690
i just went through the same exact thing it was heart breaking! i simply told my other friend that i didn't get along with her other friend and i would NEVER ask her to choose, but i would like it if we could spend our own time together. now she seperates the weekends and spends like ever-other one with me. and because i was so laid back about it and her other friend was kind of rude she is starting to see how it really is. she is spending more and more time with me and complaining about the other girl but i try and not complain with her that way she thinks i am just a listener\nall the while i am dancing inside lol
444250
i would like neither of them to save my friendship
148639
Stay away from the both of them, find a new friend, or just pick one of them.
201670
this would be a friend i have a prob with:\n\ni want to hang out with my friend but he goes with the wrong crowd, that i dont want to associated with... thus i cant hang out with him at those times
1097926
you should'nt forced yourself to be friend with someone you don't liked. Your bestfriend would understand if he care for u.
933367
It's hard to be the middleman and I hate to see you get involved. If they fight in front of you, tell them both to grow up and resolve their fight like 2 grown ups. And then give them both a time out!! Good-luck sweetie!
1025231
well obviously something had happened between them, all you can do is never favor one over the other. maybe you can try to talk to them and come up with a way to resolve the situation.