why do some guys take like forever to call after the 1st date?
103927
They don't want to look like they like you. Guys never call right after the first day so they can act aloof. And although in theory yes women can accomplish anything in this day and age, calling a guy after the first date should NOT and I repeat NOT be something they do. If you like this guy let him call. If he likes you he will call I promise. But you will look clingy if you call. Plus it feels so great when they call. Guys are lazy in this day and age so they always say why don't you call us? I am old-fashioned in this area and I have always done it that way and it usually worked out for the best when I did it that way. Good luck!
852017
I can't speak for that guy, but going from seeing you several times to stopping the calling and bailing on dates is a prime indicator that he has either gotten what he wanted out of the relationship and is done, or he is focusing his attentions towards someone else...\n\nMy recommendation would be to forget about him and move on.  I promise the next time he calls you will be to hook up for one night...\n\nSorry, but that's how most guys are...
876471
It's not easy, usually us guys tend to think were bothering you, we usually won't call unless we have a reason for it. Just give him a reason to call, borrow something, need help, etc.
1106557
How long has it been since the second date?  Maybe he's playing the "waiting game".   It's typical for dates to wait a few days before calliing so you peek your interest in him.  If it's been longer than that - You could always give a call, leave a message and leave it up to him to respond and if he doesnt, just take the hint.
639704
I'm soo old fashion when it comes to relationships. I def. think the guy should make the first move....I dont' feel as though I should be making most of the phone calls or asking him out! If a man is interested in me he would show it. \n(And yall MEN know this:)
657481
Probabaly because he is a coward and thought it was easier to tell you that you are great to your face than to tell you that he really isn't interested.\n\nIf he didn't call, he didn't think you were that great.  Don't dwell on it or you will just end up driving yourself crazy.\n\nThat is just how it seems to work.  If a woman doesn't want to go out with you, she says she is busy.  If a man doesn't want to go out with you, he doesn't call.  It is generally understood.
248185
4 phone conversations isn't enough??? If you want him to call you, try NOT calling him for a while (I'm talking 5-6-7 days here, not 2). Guys generally don't have the same urge to talk as often as you do. He may be perfectly willing to call you, it's just you're not giving him an opportunity to miss talking to you.
551035
he could just be forgetful or its a dominating thing , they like it when a chick sweats their balls. try letting him call you and then you'll see his true intentions.
624352
he is not interested. simple as that. he prolly asked for ur # out of obligation as most guys do. if he was interested he would have called.
320367
When you go out with a guy or give him your phone number....the "rule" is...he shouldn't/won't call you for 3 days.  I guess this is to avoid looking desperate.\n\nThere is also the "3 date rule" which is:  the guy expects to get laid on the 3rd date/the girl shouldn't give it up until the 3rd date.\n\nPretty dumb if you ask me.
956909
some girls aren't your stereotypical girls.  they don't get all excited when a guy calls.  they don't try too hard.  they don't go after any guy that seems interested in them.  don't expect every girl you're going on a date with to be the clingy, always want to hang out at the first chance kind of girl.\n\ni say go out with her.  she might be interested.  and if nothing happens and you still think shes cool, you can be friends.
18960
In the US culture many guys still call the girl first, yet this is not always the case. Girls can call guys. But, sometimes doing so is wrong. Some guys do not like this. Some guys don't like people rushing them. Talk to your parents about dating.
164075
prolly because A LOT has happened in their life from the time they gave u their number until the time u called and believe it or not you probally are NOT the only girl in their lives! if u wait about a day to call they will probaly be like "huh? who is this?" so u'd better call the same day they give u their number! as for caller id...i dont know too many people that have their phone in their name!
921028
I don't know that there's much you can DO except be disappointed and tell him that you are. What did he say he had to do instead(if anything?) Does he make a habit of this or was this your first date? Did he seem to like being with you during the 2 hours or did he seem to be in a hurry to be elsewhere? These are questions you have to ask yourself or him. Personally, if somebody makes a promise to me it's a BIG black mark against them if they don't keep it without  a good excuse!
951866
Forget about it after 3days.  Yea, the guy asked for your number but it could have been because he thought it was what he was supposed to do after you two where hanging out that night or because he wanted to look cool to his friends for getting a girls number at some party. What ever his motives are, this guy is a loser and you should totally forget about him!
337722
No I don't think thats a good excuse...\nThere's a whole chapter in "He's just not that into you" called "He's just not that into you if he's not calling you"\nBasically it says that if a guy really liked you, he would want to call you because you would brighten up his day.  Be a break in his busy hectic day.  That with speed dialing and cellphones he should have at least 3 minutes in his day to return your call, even if its just to let you know "Hey, sorry I've been busy, I've been meaning to get back to you, can we talk more [state a time when he will set aside for you]"\nI say don't call him, see what he does.
350413
That is completely normal, it happens for men too, it is called “resolution.”  That is why they roll over and go to sleep when they are done.\n\nIf you wait a bit, you will be interested again – and so will your guy.