Why do women complain men never show their feelings, and then call them whiners when they do?
108706
Because women truly don't know what they want, except to drive men crazy, and then ask their friends "why"?\nWhat did I do?
441914
Because alot of women are insecure and want control of situations that either hurt them or make them feel vulnerable. They will get really defensive and try to assign blame in order to maintain control. Men on the other hand feel more out of control when they actually let out what they are feeling so they just try to avoid the whole thing so that they don't lose their own feeling of security. Basically people in general don't understand why the opposite gender reacts the way it does and thus arguments are born.
247222
Men and women communicate in very different ways.  I would recommend reading the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".  The books talks about how women really just want the guy to listen to her.  Often men try to solve the woman's problems, but really the woman just wants sympathy.  Give her a hug, and tell her that you love her, and pay attention to her.  Listen to her, and repeat back to her whatever she says.  Mirror her words and body language.  If she says "I hate my job", just say "you hate your job?"  don't try to "fix" the problem by saying "well then you should quit".  She just wants you to listen to her complain, and know you understand, then she will feel better.
968583
yeah...myhusband nags more than i do, and im the woman!  he gets mad about EVERYTHING.  helping me with the garbage, with dishes, cleaning, always looking over my shoulder and asking my why im doing what im doing and getting mad because i tell hi to leave me the hell alone or dont answer.   whats up with it?!
497474
I don't know, but isn't it annoying?  If you think it is bad, trying being the best friend of one of those cry-all-over-you types.  I have three or four friends that will call me in the middle of the day to cry and tell me about a petty problem that would probably be fixed if they could just make a decision.  I prefer logic over emotion.  If something isn't going right, I fix it.  Please, don't think all women can't control their emotions, most can.  Those that can't are just more noticeable.
469002
We get it out of our system.  You see by not expressing our selves all the time, when men blow up, it's over with quick.  Since women talk about their feelings to everybody, they keep the pain going.
409726
Just like women we dont want 2 be hurt either. I just think that men are not programmed to be that way, its sad but true. We also dont want to feel like a wimp so we hide those feelings and never really show the real us, until sadly its to late.  Words of advice ask once, then try other ways of finding out what u want to know.
383325
They do without.\n\nLearn to deal with disapointment. It will happen from time to time. Learn from it, do your best (and hopefully better next time), but don't become a whiner. That'll get you nowhere.
1082810
I THINK IT'S BECAUSE YOUR DEALING WITH PETTY WOMEN OR MAYBE NOT A WOMEN AT ALL...SHE HAS A MIND OF GIRL IN WHICH SHE NEEDS TO MATURE. ME MYSELF LIKE TO KEEP THING SIMPLE MEAN WHAT YOU SAY AND SAY WHAT YOU MEAN....IF SOMETHING IS BOTHERING ME I SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO TALK TO MY MAN. I WAS RAISED THAT YOU DON'T GO TO SLEEP MAD AT EACH OTHER EITHER. YOU COMMUNICATE AND WORK IT OUT.\nLIFE IS TO SHORT FOR ALL THAT AND I MEAN AFTER A LONG DAY AT WORK WHEN YOU COME HOME THAT'S SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR SANCTUARY LEAVE EVERYTHING AT THE DOOR....WE AS A COUPLE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE  TO SHALL I SAY CATER TO EACH OTHER OR MEND OUR WOES FROM THE WORLD..... NOT FIGHTING AND CARRYING ON. MAKE YOUR MAN WANNA HURRY HOME TO YOU...
576136
It is the same reason womem do the same.  They are not happy with what they have and instead of taking about it to perhaps fix it...they react physcially just because it is easier than talking at the time.
120317
Because it's the worse type of insult to use against a woman if you're mad at them. And also when you're mad you're not really thinking. You're just acting on rage. Never a good thing.....
1050303
what???\nthey cry because they DON'T UNDERSTAND MEN....
1017321
This is something I have been asking myself for a long time. \n\nEverything you said and more is absolutely correct. The thing that bothers me the most is: men know this. And not only do men know this, they for some crazy reason get upset when the subject comes up. \n\nI mean if you know that women are considered less in this society and you know that women make less for the same jobs and you know that women still don't have equal rights, then why in the hell do you get upset when asked about it? As though, someone were trying to take something from you or something. I just don't get that at all.\n\nHere is an example that my sister experienced a few years ago: she went through a divorce. My mother's house was in her name and my mother sold the house so my sister had to file the paperwork. My sister's exhusband had to sign off on the paperwork even though his name was nowhere on the deed or financing, etc... He blackmailed 5 grand out of her over that for something he never paid a penny on. \n\nNow get this... we were told that in my state, NC, ONLY the MAN has that right. If he had been the one selling a house where her name was not on the deed etc... then he would not have had to get her to sign off on it.\n\nIn today's times, the women work all day too just like the man but then we come home, cook dinner, make sure the kid's homework is done, do the dishes, straighten up the house, bath the kids, etc... While the husband is usually either sitting on the couch watching sitcoms, playing on the computer, or maybe out tinkering with his car in the garage.\n\nAnd men STILL get upset when you bring this stuff up. I personally think the male brain is what is wrong with this world. They truly feel they are 'entitled' to be treated better than women just because they are men... \n\nThe world would be a much better place if we got rid of all the male leaders of this planet. We wouldn't have all this 'cock' fighting over stupid crap.\n\nFunny how when you start talking about 'equality' ppl start calling you a socialist. Also, there have been many many studies of the hostility a woman has to go through in professional male dominated areas. IE, my sister is a mechanical engineer and you would be amazed at the crap she has to tolerate.
27806
Men feel the emotions, but are trained not to express them.  Sure, we fly off the handle in road rage when some idiot in the right hand lane makes a left hand turn without signalling, but men usually do not express emotions other than anger very well.\nPart of this is training.  Part of this is cultural.  Part of this is because women (including our mothers) do not teach us differently.\nSome of this might go back to the training of warriors.  By not expressing emotions, the enemy has a much harder time figuring out what you are going to do.  Ever wonder why Xena or Wonder Woman sometimes acts like a man?
1013481
Why are you complaining? I'm in the same situation with regards to men but I don't complain. I love the attention. To me you seem to be bragging a little bit ah? Drawing more attention to you from the girls eh? You naughty boy!
1097896
If I had a woman that did things like that, I know that it would take a great amount of pressure off from me in getting ready.  Now a man should be capable of getting his things together for trips, but if he has a woman that just automatically does this for him, I think she would need to be appreciated deeply by her man.  I think that a lot of men would not know how to react to a woman that shows that kind of attentiveness.  that is why they maybe tend toward a woman that acts bitchy?  That is what some men have seen and are most familiar with.
61648
So the question is why?\nNot all women are jealous of other women (even if there are beautiful and successful), nor are they possessive of their boyfriends.  Not all women cry easily.  They are not all emotional wrecks.\nIf all of the women that you are familiar with are like this, then perhaps this is the type of women you attract.\nIn any case, learn to communicate with women.  You do not need to know (and may never learn) what makes them tick.