so What do we need in our marriage to be successful???
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1.  Do not believe in divorce.  Make it not an option, not even as a last resort.\n\n2.  You must put each other and each others feeling before all else.\n\n3.  You must BOTH be completely willing to communicate and completely willing to talk about problems that either of you feel you have.
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See, the answers above measure success by money.The most succesful is the man/woman that does what she/ he wants when they choose to do it.\nThankfully we are not on the religious  catergory.God gets a mention all the time. The answer to everything.\nGood luck.Take a look at a succesful mans blog site http://thebaldchemist.blogspot.com does and writes what he wnts.
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to be honest with you, i dont think you can fully be ready for marriage! i am a newlywed 1.5 years married and i  thought i was ready. we both are saved and in church, we've been through premarital class. but i can honestly say that marriage is a challenge and requires a lot of personal growth. i say this because you have to deal with your own issues as well as your spouse's issues.... 2 sets of issues coming together can be a headache!  \ntake your time choosing your mate. dont ignore the warning signs (anger, trust, jealousy etc)   pray that God will lead you to the person for you, read books on being single and on the opposite sex. get ready to hang on and enjoy the ride!
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The only thing that you can do is wor on becoming the best you that you can be. You made some big mistakes in your marriage. Work on becoming a better person and learn to accept yourself for the changes that you have made and are still working on. You cannot and will not change the way she thinks..........until you change you.
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You must know for sure that the one you have chosen to be your mate is the adequate soul for you and you to them.  This is a partnership with the extra perks such as love, support, kids and so many other great things.\n\nAbove all, marriage is not easy!  Keep that in mind so that you don't become discourage once you're married.
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See a marriage counselor.  They are pretty good at letting you know if it will work out.\n\nIf you love him, he is probably right for you.\n\nBelow is a fun Mr. Right quiz...
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You can't expect the rough roads you will encounter.  No marriage is perfect.\nExpect differences, then talk to work them out.  Take the time to know each other and reserve time for this.  This will save ALOT of heartache and may prevent bitterness toward each other.\nNo one said marriage was easy, no one said it would too difficult to overcome.  \nIt takes sacrifice and work and true commitment to the other for it to succeed.
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Marriage is a great experience. However, i would strongly suggest that you are prepared for it. It's a lot of work and compromise, but if you're truely dedicated it's so worth it.
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I love mine and I know that A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.\n\n      Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
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My advice to you:\nAll you have to do hun, stay truthful, honest, and love your man. And hopefully he does the same for the rest of your lives. There are no precautions you can take to avoid divorce. Fate brought you 2 together, and your fate lies with you 2. Let it take its course. If youre unsure of this marriage, do you think you should or are ready to get married? Make sure that you guys are 100% ready for this. Get some pre-marriage couseling if you'd like. Like meeting w/ your pastors. Usually that is the first step b/4 getting married anyway. You cant avoid the unavoidable. If its meant to be, it'll last, if its not, it wont. But best wishes to you. And a lifetime of happiness and love!!
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"It takes two to tango". think of all the efforts "we" put into making our relationships work when we were not married - we even seek advice from forums like this one; just to make a head way. the sad thing is that as soon as we get married, most people (men & women alike) expect that everything -including love making- should automatically take care of themselves.\n\nthere is always room for improvement, so couples should learn to be realistic about their roles and responsibilities putting in the required efforts to make the marriage work.
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get financially stable first..then try to think afer marriage
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What you need is to first define what you want and what you need...  It's very easy to find what you want, be you need to go with what you need.  Thats the key for happiness...   Good Luck and God bless... EFIL
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A successful marriage requires one to fall in love with the same person over and over again.\n\nMy Pastor:  A mistake only remains a mistake until you do something about it.
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Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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Don't listen to all the negativity that people are posting.  You can make it through this if you are both wanting too..and it sounds like you want to very much and she is cautiously willing.  So that is good.\nYou are both young with a toddler and you're a newly married couple...so with all of these changes in your lives that can be alot to take on and manage. It is good that you are both realizing that there are changes that need to be made to make your family work. So suggest to her that you would be willing to go to counseling even if it is once a month or every other week.  It's not a bad thing to have someone in the middle of the issues to sort things out.  \nJust keep on being open with her and be honest on your wanting to change some things. Also take some time to take her out...just the two of you have an evening out once in a while...be silly have fun...just be together...I bet it's been a while since you have done that. If you combine those things together you are off to a great start.  \nAny relationship needs work and there will ALWAYS (no matter how long you are married for) be rough spots that need to be worked through...it's ongoing. But as long as both people are committed to each other and seeing the family thrive then your really working from a good foundation.\nDon't give up there is ALWAYS hope!!!  Best wishes to you in winning your wife back!!!
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Your talking about being with this person for the rest of your life.You both need to get everything out in the open.Talk about what you want to do in the future,and what both your interests are.Ask them what do they like and want and work towards those things together.Some things they want and like,you may not want or like,but if you too really love each other you will adjust and work it out.Compromising is a key ingredient in marriage.