I recently have engagement, But she is still afraid to meet me. What should I assume -- She loves me or Not ??
106838
Talk to her and find out the answer to WHY...\nIn such cases her friends can help you.... Her best friends can tell you more openly ... I hope you are getting the point...:) all the best
928041
I think that if you could try and meet her before the wedding. As if you just meet her for the first time at the wedding you won't get the chance to really talk to her. At least you could ice the ice with her by asking her how her wedding plans are going
995503
I think that as long as you think you want to marry her eventually she should be patient.  Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced and she needs to understand that.  People get all excited about the wedding but after that it's just you two.  If she forces it she will be pushing you away in the end.  Eventually you will panic and run.  She won't want that.
1102460
she is very scared and keeping you at a safe distance for her......until you make her feel safe this is what you will get....do not smother her and let her pursue you for now.
708879
you are doing the right thing... she's hurt, it ll take her time to trust anyone... even ppl like u who has good intentions.. well if u really feel u ve met the right person, its worth the wait... but be prepared for the worst too... its upto u, whether u think the wait is a waste of time... midly (not in ur face) prove to her u are worthy of her trust.. i hope u like this woman !!! anywyz, good luck with it :)
1153024
By being honest and stubborn and even if that hasn't worked yet, it will. I'm sure she knows you care for her and wants to be with you, but there are probably tons of reasons why she just can't let herself trust you. Oh and don't ever threaten to leave her unless you really plan on going through with it completely and NOTHING she can say will change that. Especially if that is something that she fears.
174248
Sounds to me like she afraid for you to meet face to face possible bad rejections in past or on the other hand is having alot of fun play the old "cat and mouse" game.  If it were me I'd come right out and ask her what the problem is.
251416
Now! Now! Now! ... what are you waiting for?  Once you conquer your fear of rejection, or maybe, another fear we face; fear of success.  You are worthy and have redeemable qualities, right?  Don't forget to bring your suit of confidence as a back up for the jitters.\n\nThe worst that can happen is ______________________?  If she is civilized and sensitive she will respect your sincerity and give you a strait answer.  Anything less .... loose that "good" friendship as it was clearly disingenuous.  Try to see her side of it.  If she is still in love w/ the dumper she may not want to drag you through the drama out of respect.  Certainly don't let her use you to show off to the flake.  I hope she is very special and worth the concern and hurt you may be experiencing.  \n\nHope she says yes...but what will you do then when the conquest is over?  Think of that?
533363
That's no reason to NOT get married but I can see why she is afraid of sex.  She should seek counseling with her fiance and soon to be husband before getting married. Perhaps she will discover that now isn't the right time to get married and on the other side, she could discover that she loves her fiance enough to no longer be scared...
1099936
Yep if you told me that when you first met me I would be scared,, but again she may appreciate your honesty up front.\nIt's anyone's guess whether she will see you again,, just wait it out and see.
991908
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
531257
I say follow your heart.  I am actually in the same exact situation at the moment.  But it is her ex fiance.  I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope I do not get screwed over.  Each situation is different follow your gut feeling and see what happens.  Good luck.
263527
Don't rush, and if she's ready to marry you then she wouldn't be afraid to tell you anything.\n\nJust be good friends for a little while.
489333
She is just insecure about love...If she sees that you trully love her and your not going anywhere....She will know that it is TRUE love....Good Luck!!
965778
I think that you know the answer yourself, my friend!  Move on.  She is clearly giving you the message that she isn't comfortable with any relationship with you.  Make it easy, and start looking for that special someone who is dying to spend time with you!  No one is worth being 'frustrated' over, and in the end, there will still be be nothing, so just smile when you see her, but 'move on'.  good luck.
202835
If you have been sending her e-mails for that long, and she hasn't even replied, then she doesn't like you. I'm sorry.  It sounds like you might have come on a little too strong, and scared her away. Your going to have to let her go, and move on. Find someone that will except and appreciate your love.
693834
Are you sure she doesn't feel the same?\nHumm.\nBut she IS meeting you, right?\n\nLooks like she is playing "hard-to-get"! :-)\n\nDid she explicitly tell you she doesn't love you?\nWell, if not, take it easy, man. \n\n"Quitters never win, and winners never quit - simple."