should i have a second baby with my husband who have a cancer?
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What do the 2 of you think?  Is he terminal?  Can you financially raise a second child?
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I know you are anxious about what the lump is. The mere mention of cancer by anyone (doctor, nurse, friend, stranger) scares the hell out of people, and only causes more anxiety, especially when it would be an EXTREMELY rare occurance. \n\nThe best thing I can tell you is to wait for the result from YOUR child's doctor. I know that does not answer your question, but it's probably the most useful answer you'll find on this website. I know you want as much information as possible, as any good mother would. But please, don't torture yourself.
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My husband. He just lost his mother to cancer.
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Sure, don't hesitate, the longer it goes on the worse the treatment.  I have been through cancer 3 times, the cure is worse than the cold.  Get attention, even if you only suspect and have no symtoms.
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After 30, it is best healthwise to avoid having children (I don't care what the quack doctors tell you). Why does he want more?? Addition of children taxes the family budget and time. It is your body, and you have the right to not want this. Motherhood is an acquired taste, and it sounds like you have had enough of it (at least the pregnancy, diapers, loss of sleep, etc..) Is your husband willing to bear a part of that load - if not, this should be no contest. If he is willing to follow through with needed help, then it is up to you since you will be in misery for about 9 months. Either way, you both need to want this because negative effects will come if you don't buy into it. Be truthful when you talk to your husband, but be firm about your stand. He may deep down want a son of his own blood, but that is not a good enough reason to tax the family, and there is no guarantee of the sex of a child. My wife and I tried three times to have a daughter, but we ended up with three sons (I do have a precious granddaughter now). Anyway, good luck on resolving the standoff.
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mr. kareem, first thing ur wife wants is to get urself a source so u can look after ur child ur expecting..U SHUD KNOW WELL THAT U R THE ONE IN NEED OF A BABY, SO U SHUD BE MORE CONCERND..she'll obvisouly not cos she lack's trust in u...and if at all a baby is born how will u takecare or its well being and schooling when ur not consistent....just think a while, and on top of all these issues do u really think a ''second '' wife will wrok out..wat if she also shows the same attitude and later u suffer more pain.??? instead y dont u look for some good job, u seem to be well educated and perhaps young...stand on ur own feet mr.kareem and then command things, it'll work out, insha allah..good luck.
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It is very difficult for us that my husband has stage 4 cancer.  To overcome this difficulty we remain positive in outlook, lead our lives as normally as possible, do as much as we can, and live each day as if it is our last ... because it could be.  We spend time with our children and grandchildren, travel a little when we can.  We refuse to allow our lives to be controlled by cancer.  Our belief is "I am passing through life but once. Therefore, if there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, for I shall not pass this way again."\n\n\nThis may not be the type of difficulty you mean, but it is the only one that is real to us right now.
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my husband has a child with his ex that is one month older than ours. IT IS HARD. but i love my stepson as much as i do my kids and i have always told my husband i would never come between him and his other son he even stays with him when he is sick and just got back from a week long trip with his ex wife and son it was for his son medical reason but i wouldnt have it any other way. Just becase he has a child already dosent mean yalls wont be as special this will be his child with YOU the woman he loves and that will make all the difference trust me and if you need anyone to talk to im here and know excatly what you are going thru just email or im me.
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It is possible to have another child if the doctor thinks it is wise.\n\nI have worked in a clinic for women.  A lot of women have fibroids usually they give you heavier periods and rarely become cancerous.  \n\nI had an ovarian cyst myself but it disappeared after my son was born.   Sometimes they do that but a lot of times they require surgery.\n\nHere are some links\n\nhttp://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/uterinefibroids.html\nhttp://www.4woman.gov/faq/ovarian_cysts.htm\n\nhttp://www.gynalternatives.com/fibroids.htm
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I'd say he has something important to tell you. However, the good news is that he feels he can wait until Friday!\n\nWhen my sons pediatrician suspected something he sent us to the hospital emergency room. He than would not allow us to leave until he made phone calls. My son was than sent as an emergency patient to a major hospital. And, we still didn't know he had cancer definitely! It was one of the residents who admitted him into the children's hospital who finally said the word, "Cancer". Horrible time.\n\nAnyway, stay hopeful in the fact that he is allowing you a Thanksgiving holiday. If it was an emergency you would be in the hospital. \n\nI'll be sending you good vibes for good news!\nTake care, and stay hopeful. Don't worry about something that hasn't yet happened.
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Yes. My husband is a Pisces and I am a cancer and we have been married for 10 years.
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Get in touch with St Judes Children's Hospital in Tennessee. (stjudes.org ) They treat and research all pediatric cancers REGARDLESS of the family's ability to pay. More important, they never give up hope.\nWill keep him in my prayers.
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I was married when I was 20 years old I went to my honeymoonwhen I went to atlanta I started to had really bad pain in my stomach so my husband rush me to the ER, they told I was like 4 month pregnant and right there I know it couldnt be because I marry been a virgin. My husband took me to Arizona where they rush me to a hospital for a histerectomy. The doctor was so good with me that just took out the ovary that had clear cell carcinoma but she told me that i had to have a child before 3 years because the CA it was going to come back, I had 2 kids in a period of 3 years but I didnt take her advise and was back at the cancer hospital when I was 26 where I nearly died...  Was on chemo for 6 months. Right now Im in remision. Here is a descripction of ovarian cancer.\nOvarian cancer is disproportionately deadly for a number of reasons. First, symptoms are vague and non-specific, so women and their physicians frequently attribute them to more common conditions. By the time the cancer is diagnosed, the tumor has often spread beyond the ovaries. More than 60% of patients presenting with this disease already have stage III status.\n\nAlso, ovarian cancers shed malignant cells into the naturally occurring fluid with the abdominal cavity. These cells then have the potential to float in this fluid and frequently implant on other abdominal (peritoneal) structures includind the uterus, urinary bladder, bowel, and lining of the bowel wall (omentum). These cells can begin forming new tumor growths before cancer is even suspected.\n\nSecond, because no cost-effective screening test for ovarian cancer exists, more than 50 % of women with ovarian cancer are diagnosed in the advanced stages of the disease.\n\nOvarian cancer is rarely diagnosed in its early stages; it is usually quite advanced by the time diagnosis is made. The outcome is often poor. The five-year survival rate for all stages is only 35 % to 38 %. If, however, diagnosis is made early in the disease, five-year survival rates can reach 90 % to 98 %. Germ Cell Ovarian Cancer has a much better prognosis, but is rarer.\n\nDespite this poor prognosis, patients should keep in mind that all such studies are retrospective in nature: i.e., they can only look into past results. Therefore they cannot take into account the benefits on survival that newer therapies may provide.
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it's very common. we went through the same issues when our first son was born. we still got through it now with our 2nd baby. hang in there.
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I would be afraid, but if it was suggested to me by at least three different doctors, I would be inclined to do chemo.\nI am so sorry to hear of your mother-in-law's passing.\nIt is important to remember, though, that cancer is, indeed, a SILENT killer.  Even with all the technology and knowledge of today, doctors just aren't infallible.  They do commendable work, but they just can't hit the nail on the head every time.\nSo, so sad.  Continue being there for your husband and I sure feel badly for the loss of his mother.  I lost my mother from cancer and think of her EVERY SINGLE DAY, so I understand the "place" your husband is in.  It's the PITS.
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there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
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I think it might depend on what type of cancer it is. Breast cancer and prostrate cancer can run in the family. Not sure skin cancer is that way, though, or lung cancer. Your chances also go up depending on your lifestyle, like if you smoke or overweight. Don't take my word on it though, check with your physician, he/she should be able to give you a fairly good idea of your risk, and probably be able to tell you ways to lower your risk.