Will Amanda and I ever be more than friends?
106103
"...is that you must ALWAYS tell them how you feel."\n\nThis is the absolute most dangerous piece of feminist propoganda you will ever see repeatedly beaten into your fragile young male sub-concious.  Real women hate men that have no backbone, cry at the drop of a hat, and basically have the same emotional stability that they do.  Who will protect them?  Who can they count on to be a partner?  Who is their mysterious Mr. Big?  Who will be a picture of stability in their socially Machiavellian woman-world?  If you're always wearing your heart on your sleeve, prepare to get it trashed at every opportunity...\n\nLearn this well while you're still young, my little Padawan.  Tease her with a very ambiguously worded Valentine, make eyes at her flirting and then walk away.  Joke, flirt, tease, without being "too" mean...these things will get you far.  Pull back on her the second she starts playing games and she'll be sucked right back to you.\n\nNow, go forth and spread your seed young man!
222545
Certainly. I've been in that situation several times and it didn't screw up the friendship and no one got hurt. Yes, you have to have well respected boundaries and have to be able to communicate honestly to avoid misunderstanding. If both of you can do that, then it can work out wonderfully.
982433
nope. boys and girls can't be True friends.. esp in ur case!! (watch "When Harry Met Sally....)....\n\nwhen one person has feelings for the other, the "FRIENDSHIP" is over. and u are only nice to her cuz u still have feelings for her, not cuz u are truly her Friend. u will bend over backwards to do anything for her, not cuz ur just a friend, but cuz u LIKE her. therefore, it is not the same as a friend. =T if u don't want to get hurt over and over, ur gonna have to do one of these things:\n\n\n1) come clean and tell her u can't be close w/ her because you like her, and want her to break up w/ her boyfriend\n\n2) start maintaining ur distance, making urself more busy, getting more involved w/ activities and meeting new friends\n\nif u keep hanging out w/ her, ur just gonna get hurt. unless she "magically" changes her mind and goes for you..but are u really going to wait for that to happen, or are u gonna continue living ur own life!  good luck~
199026
you sound like you really want to renew this friendship, if so then you need to bite the bullet and take the first step. its not easy but life is too short and she probably feels the same way as you do and missed your friendship. dont wait give her  a ring and let bygones be bygones. good luck.
519056
well first you need details. does she know you excist? if so, are you guys friends? we need details!
628172
They can be though but then again they can work. If you both like eachother and will not change your minds and sway off course you will be just fine... who knows maybe in the future you may be closer then you ever imagined.
934949
When we graduated, we didn't see each other every day.  We moved a part, heck, she even lives in another country now.  Yes, we've faded.  But she is still my best friend, and when we do see each other, which is 1 time a year, it's all back to what it use to be.  If you have a strong and wonderful friendship, nothing will break it, even distance.  So in a way, we are stronger, but just geographically farther.
1043682
It's probably not going to happen buddy.\n\nThis has made her uncomfortable, and now that she is aware of where you were at, she is being careful because she knows that doesn't fit in with her plans.\n\nYou can sit down and talk to her and see if you can still be "just friends" ... but my guess is, in practicality, the two of you will probably now go seperate ways.
95342
Yes...you just have to make sure you two are on the same page or it will just make your "friendship" weird from then on.
974025
be friends wth them, afterall, blood is thicker than water right?l
331338
You can Ive seen it but I dont think that I could ,Im silly that way.When my daughter broke up with a long time bf she was hurt more by trying to be friends than the break up itself.Her roomates folks split and remarried and they all hang together.Go figure.So I guess you probably could I just dont think I have it in me to do it!
1069378
You should stay mY FRIEND AND eVIE'S FRIEND! DUH\n\nLUV\ndEVIN
593191
No you are not chasing an impossible dream. Anything is possible. Hang in there. Nobody knows the future. Just because she considers you as a friend doesn't mean anything. Remember friendship is where a relationship starts. Love takes time and it may be that it is taking her longer to except her feelings. Just because she doesn't say she doesn't love you don't mean it wont happen. Good luck to you hun. I know you will find happiness.
874000
just tell her that you would like to be more than friends and see witch way it goes
363425
Of course, but don;t wait too long. You were friends already and the trust you built is the foundation to build on. The feeling have probably already been incubating for awhile, time to let them out to grow.
245627
It's possible. I'm doing it right now. The trick is to put asside the hurt and the lost dreams and hopes. They're in the past. And to bring them up carries with them the bitterness, the resentment and the pain of loss and that just spins you up again. If you can get past all the old feelings and start working towards how you can be just helpful, supportive friends, then you're half way there. Good luck. It IS possible as long as both of you work on it.
136359
Sorry to hear your feelings are being reciprocated...but unfortuantely you cant make someone like you.  just keep being her friend andmaybe you will grow on her.  Thats how my man got me!  We became best friends and now were engaged!