how can i get my friend to realize the love of her life does not want her?
101104
you cant. support her and be there when she finds out.
730711
know what? let her be.. look for someone who can accept your love. coz you're going to be miserable if would still be after her and you know that there id no chance for being the two of you together. Accept the fact that she does not want you. Set her free and when she comes back, she's yours! She would probably realize your worth once you're out of her life.. Try to give distance.. and if you see any changes on her, be then you would know what action to take or what move to make.
1079382
Well, just tell her that you don't want a relationship with her. Don't be mean with it. And tell her y'all can be friends. If she can't accept that then pay no attention to her or her friends.
145691
assume that your friend is not interested and look elsewhere
407524
Tell her... politely.. and tell her that he or she isn't right for them... at all cost.... you must make sure yourself that its in the best interest of her and not for you....
779122
Tell her not to date him!
89155
All you can do is keep it real. Let her know that you love her to death, which is pretty obvious b/c you been sticking around anyway. Just let her know that true friends dont just sit around and argue and fight over everything and that you are getting sick and tired of it. Let her know that you want to be her friend but if yall are gonna keep fighting for no reason then there's no point of you two holding on to something that is no longer there! Everyone enjoys a good friend not someone that is going to bicker with them every chance they get. Good Luck!! I hope that you guys can work this out. Frienship should be priceless!!!
82751
Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead
835658
Be careful.  You're playing with fire here.  Either continue talking to her, and realize that you'll have to confront the issue with both her and your friend, or resolve to stop the extra contact and keep it to a minimum (only when you're all out together).  Otherwise if you keep up the communications, you risk losing both his friendship and hers. And if you really think that their relationship is in trouble, give it time to either resolve or end, and then you'll either be in a better position to see about what future you could have with her, or you'll see that she really does love your friend and there's nothing you can do about it.\n\nIf she is conflicted now, and you try to make a move, then she might feel like you're taking advantage of her emotional vulnerability, and you ruin any chances of anything in the future.  So give it time, be patient, and try to be supportive to them both as a couple.
605761
Then you need to step up to the plate do you want her to stay or go? Because it is your life too! If you dont want her around then let it go but if you do then you need to try to resolve things!
755862
You need to just let it go & don't let her have that much power over you. You are allowing this person to determine your happiness. Just move on & find another friend.
419075
Does she have a restraining order against you?  If so, stop trying to make contact.  You said, "I am not supposed to contact her in any way."  That means DON'T CONTACT HER.\n\nIt seems your real issue is, "How do I let go of someone who doesn't want me?"  If you have not sought counseling, please do.  And if you pray, pray for detachment.\n\nYou must not harass people.  I feel confident that you know you must stop fixating on your former friend.  It is time to move on and make new friends.  You can do it.\n\nBest of luck.
28458
Give her time and space. If she doesn't come around... then out of his love for her, he should respect her wishes and want her to be happy.
991046
NO IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! I'm not an expert, but as someone who has been close to the edge...it's a personal thing. She is responsible for herself and her actions. YOU can be her friend, encourage her to get the help she needs, and be a shoulder to cry on. Last but not least, you can't make a heart love someone, if she can not get beyond her romantic feelings for you, ask her what SHE WANTS...you out of her life or you as a friend (once she's in a relatively "normal" place). GOOD LUCK,  MY BEST WISHES ARE WITH YOU.
286176
let her go dude...\nthink about it you can not force her to love you ... and futher more would you want her to be unhappyly w/ you
185638
If she won't take you for your word, set him up for a fall. Make sure she has consented to this prior or you will find yourself without a friend.  They say that love is blind, but it can also be deaf and dumb too. Good luck in this endeavor.
141051
Let go of the hurt...it's difficult to learn to accept something you don't want.. but sometimes we have to learn to do just that. Sometimes we have to be our own best friend-do what you need to do for you to help you get through the tough spots..what would you advise your best friend to do in a situation like this?...Keep in mind, all the while your guts are tied up in a knot..she has no idea-don't give her that kind of power over you and your life. The time we have to walk this world is so short-there's a woman out there who can love you the way you deserved to be loved..if you're so preoccupied by this other woman when the Right one comes around-you may not be able to see her...and That, my friend, would be a terrible thing..hang in there..