i wanna show people how cool i am. but i'm very shy wht do i do?...plz help?
117308
you just have to start talking to them, people are really nicer than they look sometimes. so just start a conversation and get to know who you want. They should warm up to you and see how cool you can be real soon
611721
There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
265869
go to groups, like drama groups or other actives that you like and introduce yourself to people there.  But you have to be outgoing, because if you don't make to first move to say "hi" people will just think that you don't want to hang out with them!  Hope this helped and goodluck!
386939
Perhaps you want to ask yourself first, could be due to you not smiling most of the time and so you look intimidating to them? Or perhaps your shyness made them think you are arrogant and aloof? Of course you are not like that from what your friends and family said, but rmb that those people are new to you, they dont know you well. So i would suggest that maybe you want to smile and look friendlier.  Then naturally, people would be comfortable to talk to you. If you are already very friendly looking, then maybe you should forget abt your shyness and make the first step to get to know peopel. A simple smile will do, and perhaps a Hi. Before you know it, conversation will flow smoothly. And I must say smth abt your looks. It is NOT because of your physical appearance that people dont want to know you. We(most of us) make friends based on anything but NOT appearance! If they care abt your appearance, then that is not true friendship. Rmb, be natural, be yourself. Friends will come knocking! XD All the best. Take care.
92248
Learn to talk to people.  I think many people are painfully shy when it comes to talking to all but their closest friends.  I think that shyness stems from a lack of confidence and the idea that no one wants to look foolish in the eyes of others.\n\nYou must realize that everyone has the same concerns, even if it seems that they don't.  When you are in a group of people, pick out someone who also seems to be in the same boat as you, and start a conversation.  Share your interests and you will be amazed at how quickly you will make friends.  \n\nBest wishes.
549127
If you have honestly tried your best to fight your shyness with little , or no, success, you might need to go to the doctor, and be put on some medication for it. I, too, am shy, but I fight it every day, and "make" myself talk to people, and interact. Good Luck!!
48305
Well i know how you feel b/c i am a shy girl, but you have to think if you cant ever talk to her than how will she ever to get to know you. I know popular people can be very intimidating but just work up the courage to talk to her. Once you do you'll feel alot better n then it'll be alot easier to approach people.
95045
well, u just have to make way on ur shynessor ur never gonna get to hook up w/no1.....just be nice, smile, make sweet jokes..just go for it dude! in the nicest way u can, have that in mind, cus we like to be approached nicely, dont be shy but dont u ever try to get our attention ridiculizing us in front of others, for a change, thats completly not correct if u want to get through ur shyness w/chicks...just be urself in the nicest way u can ok!
277955
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
341048
Hi,U know I used 2 have the same problem... first of all... DO NOT FEEL LESS than other people,second: if someone comes by N U start blushing or gettin nervious, just imagine that person stading in an empty space with NOTHING but the opposite sex's underwear on,THIRD: let GO,hang loose,B confortabe,if U pretend everything's under control everything WIIL B under control,N lay back  relaxed,keep in mind YOU ARE WAAAAY better than the rest and if U DO say something stupid DON'T GIVE A FUCKIN' SHIT ABOU WUT THEY SAY OR MIGHT THINK ABOUT U,\n\nN fInally,whe U put all these on practice N B-come a more confident guy,find a girl who's a bit shy N THAT will B the perfect girl 2 start a conversation with,N hopefully date.... well this is wut I did N now I have a much better life,I realy hope it works 4 U .\n\nFeel free 2 E-mail me @ : debbie_free2nite@yahoo.com
105389
Be yourself! {Please dont lie} Good grief! Think of someting funny to talk about! I dont know _Maybe you need new friends dude! Relax , be that person down deep just wanting to get out ! You have your entire life ahead of you ! Slow Down! BE real! RELAX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111
115187
if you wanna stop being shy, socialize as much as you can! you'll observe others, imitate them at first, and in time get enough courage to do whatever you wanted to.
836587
Look for a friendly face, make eye contact and smile, if they smile back you can just go over and say hi :) or maybe they will come over :) don't worry about it, it's ok to be shy, just find a way that works for you ^_^
1085918
Just be yourself and show your self-confidence. A sense of humor is helpful too. This may sound primative but it's like being a peacock and showing off your feathers.  Trust me, it will get you noticed!
1111044
BE YOURSELF AND THEY WILL COME TO YOU!!! dont try to act cool!! cuz girls notice that kind of stuff!!!
206923
Start talking to people! I am a shy person too, but I dont know if you are this way, but once I get to know people I might be the craziest person you ever met. Just go up to someone that you know, and start talking. Soon enough you two will become good friends, and then you will get comfortable enough to make more, she may even introduce you to her friends, too.