a man that does not work and his been feeded by his wife, what kind of maverious life does it means to be ?
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I'm not sure if 'maverious' is an english word!! So its difficult to understand what you are asking. Are you asking our opinion with regards to a situation where a woman supports a man financially?? If so, I see nothing wrong in it. In this age of equality it is up the partners in a relationship to determine what makes the relationship work. If a woman is capable of supporting a man and the man supports the relationship in other ways (and vice versa) where is the problem? We no longer live in a world of - me Tarzan you Jane!
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I know how you feel, I'm also married to an uncaring man.  It's really hard to be with a selfish person.  I'd say try to talk to him, but he may not be responsive.  If he loves you, he'll honor your request to talk about the way your lives is going.  If he doesn't, busy yourself with friends and hobbies.  Sometimes they make an about face when you're not at their beck and call.  But no matter what happens, be strong, you have you and your daughter to worry about.  Good Luck!
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this guy needs a life
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Retired last year and things started to go bad. She was use to me being gone either to work or on deployment and she had her time and could do things she wanted when she wanted. Once I retired, I was around alot. This changed her life too. We were able to recover our marriage when I began doing volunteer work with the American Legion and the local Boy Scout Council. This got me out of her hair a few hours a day and she sometimes goes with me on campout or to Legion events. Thankfully things are going well again.
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then you are not married. he is using you and you are letting him. you are doing everything and he is taking atvantage of what you are letting him take atvatage of. dont let him do this to you, dont give him any money, dont give him any love, dont give him anything. let him work hard like you do. let him cook his own food, let him go out with his friends if he wants.let him do what he wants but change the locks on the door. if he wants to be with his friends then let him live with them.he doesnt help you or be resposible then you dont need him.why would you want to take care of him like he is your kid. he is suppose to be your lover not your kid that you have to take care of, he is suppose to be caring for you, how can he care for you when he isnt home.you dont need himgoodl uck.
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I think I would perhaps check with your local online sites or perhaps one of the national dating sites.  \nIt must be really difficult knowing that the woman you love is incapacitated and can never come back to you, but I certainly understand the need to find companionship and love in spite of loving your wife.  \nI hope that her suffering and yours aren't too long lived and that you can find a measure of happiness.  And you really shouldn't pay attention to ignorant young people who criticize you without taking a moment to try to understand the position you're in.  \nGood luck and my prayers are with you.
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Thumper3755 put it best - you have to be happy with yourself above all else. If you aren't, no one else is going to be able to make you happy.\n\nMany people define part of themselves by their careers.  Other people are passionate about a sport or a hobby.  In those cases, these things say just as much about who you are and what you are about as your choice of a spouse.   A well rounded person's happiness should be made up of several different things.  It sounds like your wife is one of those people. It doesn't mean you aren't important to her.  It just means she is about more than being your wife, which is a good thing.  She needs you to help her feel better about another thing she cared about, in that case, her job.  It's good she has multiple things that bring her happiness.\n\nYou, on the other hand, should watch out.  Your entire source of happiness shouldn't be entirely dependent on another person, just as if the only thing that made your wife happy was her job.You'd say she was too wrapped up in her career than is healthy, right?  You'd wonder if perhaps she had too narrow a view of life.  So aren't you in danger of making her think the same thing?  Not to mention it can put alot of pressure on her down the road and make her feel you are too needy and clingy - definitely not attractive to women. \n\nTo be a more mentally healthy person and keep the marriage going strong, you might consider finding a job or hobby you're passionate about. That can make you seem more interesting to her, plus give you other sources of happiness when the marriage hits rough patches.
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povert, illness, hunger, greed, selfishness
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To the best of my understanding, it means that a man who deliberately, and consistently causes chaos within his family would not have any family or inheritance for his old age. The second part talks about people who act like there are no consequences for their actions(the fool says in his heart, 'there is no God'). They would be made servants to people who are wise in heart.
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Many things.  \n\nA couple I can't tell you about (but praise God for forgiveness and second chances).\n\nThe thing I can tell you about is being an absolute rubbish husband for about 4 years of our marriage.  I was controlling, uncaring and put down my wife.  I even made her do all the work with the baby.  Thank God He changed me (though it took my wife being hospitalised for clinical depression to realise it) and for the marriage course that also helped my wife forgive me and helped me to see what a git I was.  http://themarriagecourse.org/marriage/\n\n4 years on we are now a different couple - and very much in love. When she talks about some of the stuff I said then, I simply can't believe it - it seems so alien now!
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If your funds are to thigh to take your wife to a nice dinner then you are trash.\n\nGet rid of yourself.
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Has he had his throid checked?  A simple bloodtest will be able to answer many questions.  He may even have food allergies that cause him to binge on food.  This is often triggered by stress, other food or drink, chemical imbalance in the brain or body, or heredity, just to name a few!  If he isn't already doing so, he should be keeping a detailed journal/diary of everything that he eats & drinks.  The times included, as well as how he is feeling and what he is doing prior to eating will be helpful if he wants to pinpoint his most "dangerous" binge times!  Have you thought about letting HIM take care of this on his own?  Since it sounds like his problems have become your problems, perhaps if you lightened your load by concentrating on yourself,  he could gain some inner strength if he saw that his wife was happy doing things that did not require him to be her sole provider of happiness.  You may want to explore some type of couples counseling, or go it alone in order to get a grasp on just what seems to making BOTH of you unhappy.  Something is hiding beneath all of this & it will take some time & work to get it out to the surface before it can be dealt with.  If you want to help him, you first must help yourself by becoming educated on your own strengths & weaknesses.  He is an adult & so are you, & being a good wife doesn't mean that you must mother him, (as it sounds like you have been doing).  You say that going out on your own makes him feel worse.  How does it make you feel?  He may be using his weight to manipulate you into staying with him, as you have become his security blanket.  Please get some help before you end up in worse shape than he is in.  This is a complex issue that can & will tear your heart to pieces if you continue to attempt surgery on a patient with no formal training, which in a way, is what you are doing.  One of you has to take charge of yourselves if you are going to survive this & go on...with or without one another.
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What do you mean by close relationship, and if you can't have good sex with your wife and have to do other people, you should leave and tell her.  jerk.
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to have a better life
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First I have to say that kunjaldp's comment was completely uncalled for!  You put your question in the wrong section, but SO FRICKING WHAT?!  If he labels every person who ever makes a tiny little mistake a "loser," then my guess is that he's a really pitiful excuse for a human being and he'll be really lonely (if he isn't already) because NOBODY will ever want to have anything to do with him -- and guess what -- that makes HIM a LOSER!  OK, now that I've gotten that off my chest, let me answer your question.\n\nI have to let you know that I was in the same situation a few years ago.  I'd been with a man for 11 years (he was unmarried) and I was emotionally tortured by his escapades with other women, which he didn't even make an effort to keep secret from me.  I wasted so much time trying to figure out how to make him faithful and how to make him love me enough to treat me the way I longed to be treated.  When it started affecting other aspects of my life (I wasn't sleeping well or eating right, which, in turn, affected my job performance), I sought counseling.  It took a little while, but I finally came to realize that I deserved much better, and as long as I was with him, I was never going to be happy.  Loving somebody shouldn't make you miserable.  After some work on myself in counseling, I got the emotional strength to leave him -- the best thing I ever did for myself!  Yes, it hurt like hell at first, but the good news is that the pain was only temporary.  If I'd stayed with him, I would have been in emotional pain for however long I remained with him.  And a bonus -- I was free to live my life the way I wanted and to meet somebody else (which I did).  Now I'm in a very stable, faithful and incredibly wonderful relationship with a man who treats me like a princess!  So, my advice to you is to first get some counseling to work on yourself (not the relationship) so that you can gain the self confidence and strength to do what you need to do (which is leave the man).  From there, a whole wonderful world awaits you -- you'll see.  Good luck!
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Wow, kudos for the spouse for having a wonderful understanding of "For better or for Worse".  This person is a gem for staying with their injured spouse and not being selfish and cheating or doing other things to emotionally hurt the already physically injured spouse.  You can handle anything if you are able to be a compassionate, understanding, giving and totally unselfish person.  Unfortunatley, there aren't alot of people like that in this society.
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Well in my opinion he already knows that his commander is a d*ck, but nothing worth doing is easy. I would want my wife to support me, not let me know how crappy my position is. I know that already. Give him something to look forward to and cherish the time you do get with him. Many other women have bigger problems than "my husband works to much." You have your whole life ahead of you two to spend time together, let him get ahead in life now so that you can grow old, happy and rich together.  Support him he sounds like a good one.