does he love you if he doest care for your kids?
106327
you NEED to break it off with this dumb guy! if he doesn't care about your kids, which you should care MOST about, then he is no good for you! and to answer the question, i'm gonna have to say no because if he really loved you he would love every part of you including your children!
530500
WITHOUT TRUST THERE'S NOTHING. IF HE HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR 3 YRS THEN BASICALLY HE MAY KEEP DOING IT. IT ISN'T FAIR TO YOU TO PUT UP WITH WHAT HE'S DOING TO YOU. SURE HE'S YOUR BABIES FATHER, BUT IF HE'S A REAL DAD IF YOU LEAVE HE WILL STILL TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD RIGHT? YEA YOU WILL STILL LOVE HIM BUT EVEN IF HE SAYS HE WILL STOP THERE WILL ALWAYS BE DOUBT SOMEWHERE IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT HE'S DONE IT ALREADY AND IT HAS BEEN FOR 3 YRS. DON'T STAY WHERE YOU FEEL YOU AREN'T LOVE. DON'T BE NO BODY'S DOOR MAT TO THE POINT WHERE THEY CAN FEEL THEY CAN STEP ON YOU AT ANYTIME!!!  GOOD LUCK!
340658
YES HE LOVES U HE JUS HAS ISSUES WITHIN HIMSELF HE NEEDS TO DEAL WITH TAKE TIME AND LET HIM SEE AND FEEL WHAT HES MISSING......
1156093
it honestly sounds as if he wants you and his kids to get to know each other and maybe even bond which would mean he wants to move to the next level with you but as a parent he needs to make sure his kids are ok with you  if you really like this guy and want to be serious with him this is a really good thing  \nhowever it almost sounds as if the kids are his "baggage" in your eyes   you need to decide if you want to be a part of a ready made family  and if not maybe you should move on   because to a real parent the kids will always be first priority   can you handle that?
719455
A!!! He loves everyone in the family not just you and one of the kids. All women should know that they can only be with a man if he loves her AND all of the kids!
942089
He's using his kids as an excuse to stay in the marriage with his wife.\nIf he's been married for 3 years, despite the fact that he's not living with her, and the marriage is THAT bad, he would have gotten a divorce by now if he really feels strongly enough for you.\nI'd say, leave the guy.  He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now and if you try and get involved, you'll only get hurt.
339002
My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
1183566
Clean and clear. Cease all further contact with him and move on. If he still loves you he would be with you. To say it's because of the kids etc is a cop out. It seems like he doesn't know what to do and you don't need the confusion in your life. Learn from your mistakes and take your time with your next relationship. Good luck.
211326
It depends whether he loves you enough to not care what his family says.
347262
Unfortunately in the real world, Love does not conquer all.  You need trust. . . w/out trust you cannot have a relationship.  Also, a relationship is supposed to enrich our lives. . .if it does not, and we are not happy, even if we love them, we are not meant to be with them anymore. . . \n\nIt is also not healthy for your kids if you guys are unhappy and remain together . . . .the bad "karma" will rub off on them.  \n\nGo to counseling and see if you guys can figure out your problems.  If not. . then maybe it is time to call it quits.  Even if it hurts, it may be for the best.
1179960
None .  I'm sorry you have to go through something like that . I will remember you in my Prayers tonight . My kids went through that and now they don't speak to him b/c of empty promise's on his part .But my kids are fine and they have a awesome father in there life that Loves them more than words can say . I pray that is what will happen in your life . May God Bless and Keep you in his warm embrace . Rest in knowing that he is the one missing out not you.
181327
depends on who you are talking about. You have never held your children before they are born, but when they get here, there is so much love in your heart. I think that it is possible to love a person you have never held. The heart is a wonderfull thing. When you do hold that person, you better watch out, you might explode. LOL
92701
erm. firstly.. did he care for his family and yours? if he did i believe that in the future he will do the same for you and your family. Is he loyal? and he rather spend time with you then his friends. Cares for your feeling.. willing listen to your point. not argue with you but listen to you. And the most important is your heart is only for him and he too. hope u can find your answer soon.
459147
yes im with one but it shouldnt matter whether hes got kids or not as long as he loves you and loves kids and doesnt put his own needs before your kids. good luck
1061269
then you are not married. he is using you and you are letting him. you are doing everything and he is taking atvantage of what you are letting him take atvatage of. dont let him do this to you, dont give him any money, dont give him any love, dont give him anything. let him work hard like you do. let him cook his own food, let him go out with his friends if he wants.let him do what he wants but change the locks on the door. if he wants to be with his friends then let him live with them.he doesnt help you or be resposible then you dont need him.why would you want to take care of him like he is your kid. he is suppose to be your lover not your kid that you have to take care of, he is suppose to be caring for you, how can he care for you when he isnt home.you dont need himgoodl uck.
747884
Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
588833
HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!!!!!!   and there is nothing wrong with you!!!!  I'm sorry if this will hit you hard, but from what you are saying something is definetly wrong with this guy, and he is just using you!!   If he is telling you to get away, then you may need to make some Big changes with yourself and your baby