why is it that whenever a relationship is going well,something bad always happen?
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Why is it that when everything has been going bad, something GOOD happens?\n\nBecause we are all starting from imperfection and zero experience.  And there are temptations and pitfalls that accrue from not heeding the true basic tenets handed down over the ages, just about everywhere (including different cultures and religions).\n\nLife is a struggle, we have to team up and cope with the challenges.  There will be some disappointments along the way, you cannot control what others do, only yourself, and even yourself not always...\n\nAll the most needed things are free.  As for those things that require effort or money, be satisfied with what you really need as opposed to what you want.\n\nEven when we are old we must continually remind ourselves about this.  \n\nYou see some people who are unbelievably wealthy and unbelievably UNHAPPY and may even do crimes because they WANT SO MUCH, they are never satisfied.  Also, comes from living too much for ONESELF and not enough for others, helping others, working with others, sharing with others.\n\nHappiness is doing what is right and being satisfied with it, even when the surroundings are messy, all $%^#$&^^ up.\n\nIt is possible for heaven on earth if you think about this.  Meanwhile, you can have heaven in your own little spot, for sure.  There are ups and downs for everyone, even perfect visitors.
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If bad things didn't happen in our life, how would we know the good things are good. If bad things never happened to us, how would we ever mature. If bad things never came our way, how would we know how [they] feel when they are going thru.. God will make something good out of everything bad in our lives if we love Him. That is a promise from Him. He always does for me. When something bad happens in my life, I ask God what He is about to do in my life. I look for something great to happen every single time something bad happens..
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guys, and girls, can be very unpredictable because human beings are complicated with a myriad of conflicting emotions that make it hard to discern what is the best decision to make. People are afraid of getting hurt down the line and since you can't guarantee your partner's reactions, love requires taking risks. This is true of both males and females. People don't always trust their own instincts and are fearful that their partner will have an unpredictable reaction. If you care about the person, be patient and understanding. We never know what kind of experiences our partner may have had in the past and how it may be affecting them. All you can do is take the risk yourself and hope they will do the same. Good Luck.
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I have the same problem its happened about 4 times to me. But i think that its meant to happen. i know its hard right now...and i know everyone says it will get better and i truly think it will. But you just have to remember there are a lot of good people with good hearts out there. And one of them is absolutly meant just for you. I hope that you find that someone soon.
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It happens all the time.  Next time try not to read so much into stuff, just go by what actually happens and what they actually say rather than all the things you think it might mean...
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It depends on the person and what goes on, but in most cases I would guess that people worry too much about making something good turn bad that they pass up on the whole good thing entirely.\n\nSometimes you just have to take the risks and hope things turn out alright in the end.
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I believe there are several possible explanations for this.  Bad things do not happen to everyone for the same reason.  In one case, it may be a way that God is strengthening the person, or in another, it may be atonement for past karma, or it may be a lesson.  It could be so many different things, and I believe it is important to never point a finger at anyone who is suffering and say, "You've brought this on yourself."  Perhaps they did, but perhaps they didn't.  In any individual case, I don't think we really know.\n\nThere is one major issue here, and that is how do we define "Bad things"?  I have come to believe that events in themselves are neutral.  It is only our interpretation of those events that makes them "good" or "bad."  We can learn a skill of reframing, which is to change our thinking about a matter.  We can choose how we are going to evaluate the event.  Our gut reaction may be to think of it as bad, but you do not have to let the reaction rule over you.  You can find positive ways to look at it.  Of course, sometimes this is easy, and other times, extremely difficult, or maybe even nearly impossible.  But we can find ways of coping nonetheless.\n\nMy father was drafted to go to Vietnam, and before leaving, he took a last ride on his motorcycle.  He wrecked and broke his leg!  This actually prevented him from having to go to Vietnam.  Everytime I see a Vietnam veteran who is struggling with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, I praise God that my dad wrecked that day!\n\nSo, what has helped me more than anything is to say to myself a little Hebrew phrase I learned, "Gam zu letovah."  This means, "This too is for good."  And I have found this to be very good to say.  Even over the little things!  I break a fingernail, and I say, "Gam Zu Letovah."  And if you say this whenever some little annoyance happens, instead of cussing or huffing, you'll be amazed at the end of the day how much better you will feel.\n\n;)
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It happens all through life.  Finding your way to best deal with it is essential because it will happen over and over again.
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do not continue the relationship because one of you will always be unhappy with it
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Remaining in a bad relationship not only causes continual stress but may even be physically harmful. An obvious harm is the physical abuse that is often a part of such relationships. In a less obvious way, however, the tensions and chemical changes caused by the constant stress can drain energy and lower resistance to physical illness. Continuing in lush bad relationships can lead to unhealthy escapes such as alcohol or drug abuse and can even lead to suicide attempts.\n\nI also have info on environmental influences. As in polluted air and what not; \nhttp://www.psychology4all.com/environmentalpsychology.htm\nhttp://www.nrdc.org/health/kids/\n\nI don't know if you mean a physical environment, a relationship, or what. \n\nHope this helps!
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i know what u mean! Sometimes if something goes bad, or something does not go the way you want- Remember there is something better waiting around the corner Keep ur head upi high- God always helps out!! Also, sometimes blessings are a disguise!
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The differences in men and women are what make it so neat to be with each other. People today don't try to make a relationship last. The trend today seems to be-get what you can out of another and then when things get rough-drop them.Honesty-trust-care-loyalty-understanding-compassion and love are the keys to a great relationship.My wife and I weathered many bad storms in our marriage,and are still together-in love- and will probably stay this way till I die. Oh,by the way,we have been together 21 years!!!!!!
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Uh...yes but only because the good times are so good. I am lucky to never have had truly bad times. Sure I've been cheated on, had rocks thrown at me, been told my voice sounds like I've swallowed a vibrator. But I'd have that happen a thousand times over instead of some tragedy befalling one of my loved ones. I wish I was joking about all that crap that's happened to me, but it's all true...
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Kinda. What I want to know, is why bad things happen to the best people. I've been thinking about that a lot, these last few days.
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Everytime somebody does something like cheating it springs form an inperfection they prcieve in themselves. Usually fear of a stable relationship is because the people dont feel they are capable of holding up their end.
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They choose bad lawyers.\nThat isn't true maybe you feel that way  but "always" is a strong term.\nWhen a marriage ends both people are "screwed" out of the future they planned .the one that was to last a life time shared.\nGL\nDon't worry about losing.  If it is right, it happens - The Main thing is not to hurry.  Nothing good gets away.  ~John Steinbeck, 10 November 1958\n\nWhat is the opposite of two?  A lonely me, a lonely you.  ~Richard Wilbur
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yep when I was in a bad relationship. I ended it that day. It happens I was with the loser for 3 years. I sit back now and think What the H*ll was I thinking. Atleast you are out of the situation.