how do you get over a death in tha family?
117257
Sounds all too familiar with me.  My grandmother, who basically raised me also and was also my friend and support system, passed away almost two years ago...and I still haven't let go.  I still find myself sitting and thinking and ending up in tears because I miss her so much.  It is very difficult, but you have to remind yourself that she is still with you everywhere you go, and no matter who you become.  She will always be with you because it was she who helped to shape you into who you are today...you'll never forget that.  How do you get over that?  You just deal with it day by day and it will get better.  You might also want to keep something near you that she'd given you, or something that reminds you of her...if you need to talk to her, hold it, and speak your mind.  I know it sounds stupid, but it works.  \n\nIf you do, however, feel that things are getting way out of hand, maybe you should consider therapy.  I probably should have!  :)  Just keep your head up and remember the good things...you'll be fine.  My condolences....
378751
I FEEL FOR YOU. I LOST MY MOM TO PANCREATIC CANCER. I TOO MISSED HER FINAL MOMENT ON THIS WORLD..IT'S NOT EASY.. BUT TALK TO PEOPLE DON'T HOLD ANYTHING IN. LET IT ALL OUT...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
266751
first of all  remember  there is a grieving process u are  about to embark upon  go with  what feelings  u are going  thru  denial  will only make things worse   counselling is  often  great to do  talk  to other  family members  talk to a friend  u will cry lots  let  the tears  flow  that  gets  rid of lots of stress  take  hot  baths  candles  quiet times for yourself  long walks   cuddle with your  partner  embrace  your family  hold them close  never  pull away from them  they are there for u  i lost my father  and i went with the flow  and i eventually  started to feel  better but in time  it takes time    patience  is  a virtue  good luck
354500
Just say that there was a death in the family.  Usually no further explanation is required.
725661
The worst thing in the world is to lose a child and I am very sorry for your loss and your parents loss.  \n\nIt is going to take time for your parents to heal but they will never get over your brother's death, however you can do some things to make it easier for them to function.  \n\nYou can be kind and try to help out at home and listen to them when they want to talk.  Do you have siblings besides you brother?  \n\nYou need to keep your parents involved in your life and try to strive for excellence in all you do to make them proud.
242491
I'm sorry for your loss.  It's going to take some time to get yourself back to feeling normal again.  You should keep yourself busy with activities, visit with your friends, try a grieving support group, take up a hobby, find things that interests you, talk to a good friend or someone you haven't seen in a while.
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Sounds like you are having a tough time dealing with stuff.Try to keep busy. Enjoy  life with your family.My mum died a year agoand I still feel very sad but you just have to get on with life.I am undergoing grief counselling  so maybe you could dothe same. Your doctor might be able to put you in touch with someone that can help you resolve  issues dealing with death and also learning to overcome your fears about death. Take care.
247074
I recently lost my mom, this was hard because she was only 50 and it was completely unexpected. At her funeral service everybody in our very large extended family had something good to say, and not a single person had any negative. That is what I want.
248255
I never felt that with a parent but I lost a uncle that was like a fater to me. I just think of all the good things that he was all about. Like his laugh and smile. The pain will always be there but over time you will grow stronger and it will still hurt that she is gone but know this she is in a better place. You must keep going to give the love that she gave you on to the people you love. God Bless You and look over you and your family in your time of need.
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You don't.....\n\nWe lost our daughter 4 years ago.  There really isn't anything you can do to make it go away.  But, as foreign as the notion seems now, it becomes less painful over time.\n\nWe actually ended up moving because I saw her everywhere.  We made a fresh start in another house in another city.  I think that was the beginning of the "better" for me.  I wasn't driving by the hospital she died in anymore, I didn't see her laying on the couch, playing in the yard.\n\nMost of it is in your heart.  You have to figure out the way that makes this okay for your own peace.  Can you see past how much you miss her to realizing that she is no longer in pain?  Can you reconcile it with your religion or spiritual beliefs?  Can you let her go?\n\nIn time you will have more peaceful thought and memories, and the tears that stream down your face every time you hear name will be replaced with a little smile.\n\nBetter days are coming.  I am so sorry for all you have been dealt.  I can honestly say that I know what you're going through........ and you are in my prayers.  If you want someone to talk to... I'm here.
390778
My dad died a few months before your dad did.  He had lung cancer that spread throughout his body.  I was there with him when he died, as was my mom and the hospice nurse.  I can feel your pain.  All I can tell you is what I believe.  I believe my dad heard me when I told him that it was time for him to go; that I would take care of my mom.  He heard me and knew that I loved him.  The pain will never entirely disappear, but it gets easier.  There are difficult weeks and months (anniversary of his death, his birthday, holidays), but overall it gets easier.  I will tell you that if it is not getting easier by this point, you may be stuck in the grief process and would benefit from talking to someone, a counselor or minister perhaps.\n\nMy heart goes out to you!
384109
I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
530913
I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
648222
That is close to a death in the family so don't rely on strangers to get you through this. Friends, family and God will guide you through. Take one day at a time...
620320
Thats got to be so hard for you. dealing with death is just never easy.  there is a grieving process you go through naturally but there is no easy answer to your ?,  have you talked to someone?  support groups are really helpful, talking to your pastor or other religious persons,  therapy,  other classmates.  Im so sorry for your loss,  I know how you feel.  Time does ease the pain but you never forget,  and someday in heaven you will see them again.  Know he is in a better place now and comforted.  No longer feeling pain and he is happy and content and enjoying exploring his new surroundings.  Talk to him/her,  he can hear you.  he is now watching over you.
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First I'd like to express my condolences for your family's loss. People deal with grief in different ways, especially children who may not know exactly how to express how they're feeling. I think it would be beneficial to you and your kids to get some grief counseling to help you all sort through your feelings during this tough time. It would be good to go as a family for support, but individual sessions could be beneficial as well.
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I am sorry to hear that there has been such sadness in their lives.  \n\nTeenagers have an adult understanding of death, but do not have adult skills to cope with it.  They may lash out at other family members and be very angry.   Be aware that it is not unusual for teenagers who have experienced such a loss to engage in reckless behavior such as drug or alcohol abuse, fighting at school, etc.\n\nIt may help them to do or make something special to remember their dad.  This could be preparing a collage of pictures of him and remembering good times, writing him a letter to say how they feel and to say good-bye, etc.\n\nThere are many books to help with loss and grieving.  Possibly check with the counselor at their school.  They probably have books for that purpose at the school.  Also check at your local bookstore and library.  They usually have a few books that would be quite useful.\n\nThese links should be of help to you.  They have a lot of good information about helping teenagers cope with loss.  They also have lists of books.  Take care.