How did u know ur mom or dad was pissed when u were growing up?
111916
My mom yelled or made this noise & facial expression or just call names. My dad just had a tone in his voice that wasnt pleasant...!\n\nEspecially when they found out I was pregnant at 15.
679721
When my daughter was a teen, she was always having arguments with her dad. She would yell back at him, and it would get into bad arguements. He would tell her she couldn't go to something that was coming up that she had been planning on for some time. She would be miserable, then at the last minute, he would let her go. \nWhat I saw was her dad, who was great with little kids, did not know how to deal with teenagers. This was his little girl, and he didn't want anything to happen to her, but, he didn't know how to deal with her growing up. She thought that if she treated him different, she was "kissing his butt", and so, they argued, never talking anything out. I told her that if she would try things my way, she would have him wrapped around her finger. After a long time, she did decide to try something different, because her way wasn't working, and they finally got closer. He died in 1999, and now she talks about all the good things that she learned from him. Dad's are worried, and they want to know that their daughter is doing the right things. Try not to argue back when he gets angry, and try to maybe talk to him at times when he isn't angry. Let him see that you are doing the right things,and sometimes telling him you know he loves you and not to worry will make him happy. If you are screaming back at him, he keeps it going, but, if you aren't fighting back, then he will have to stop, a one sided argument doesn't last. Listen, if you are sceaming at someone, and they scream back, it keeps the fight going, but, if they don't scream back, you will stop, because there is nothing more you can say. Sometimes, when my son would do something that he thought I would be angry with, I would shock him if I was cool about it and let it end there. You are daddy's little girl, you can use that in your favor, start thinking, use your head, and you can get your dad to be sweet again. If you talk nice to him, he will be so shocked, he couldn't get mad at you. Try, it can't hurt. He probably is like my husband, and just wants his little girl to listen to him, and love him again. You don't have to be right all the time, or you can let him think that you agree with him. Just don't scream and yell, he won't listen to that. Talk. Be cool. If he doesn't let you do something, sometimes, if you show him that you are grown up enough, he may let you do it. Give it a try. See if it works. Good luck.
1131247
My dad ran off when I was young, and my mom became severly ill, so neither of them raised us kids.   My grandparents did.  My grandmother was the brains, and grandfather was the brawn.  I dont think either of them was the boss,  although they both tried to be.  They used to fight like cats and dogs, and it got vicious.  My grandfather was a big and muscular man,  and could have beat grandma to a pulp,  but he didnt.  He would hold her off when she went at him, and that took a lot of skill alone.  She could really scrap.
322965
No, but my Dad dies when I was 12 and my Mom when I was 18!!
121031
Sometimes it makes me wonder who the child really is.  My mother has always been like the 5-year old that will throw a fit until she gets her way...while my dad is looking like her like she is a total idiot.  I had chosen to "side" (for lack of a better term) with my dad, while my mother has always puzzled me...on MANY levels.  Maybe her and I are too much alike?  Or we are just too different...in either case, she is the one that makes me feel torn.
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I have one here. My father had an affair with his secretary and even picked her up to and fro from work in his car..he even asked me to call her mum..i declined of course. But I still claimed that I have a very happy family in front of my classmates..especially when my mother is crying practically every night and on one saturday i remembered i heard the sound of glass smashing from the kitchen. When I came out,my father disappeared and my mother was lying on the floor with fresh blood oozing out from her hand...they divorced soon afterthat. My mother refused to give me to father and I was kept away from him since then. I had a dark period for 3 years and I became anti-social,until 2 years ago when suddenly I started to open up gradually...you know what? I once stayed indoors for a consecutive 2 months.
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My growing-up years was a hard one and I’m always trying to be strong and carry on.\nMy Dad made little money and he didn’t treat my mum very well and they often quarreled since I was 3 or 4 years old. That was all the fault of my dad I was clear. My mum wept very often hiding from me but I knew that most of the time. She never thought of getting divorce with Dad forshe \nendured to avoid leaving me growing in a broken family. All those made a very miserable childhood for me. And hard time came when I was about 18 and got good grades ready to enter the gate of college. Dad barely make money and I need it to pay the tuition. During the 4 years of my \ncollege time ,my mom worked very hard for the whole family and I also did part time jobs as a tutor ,a translator and sometimes also waitress. And in the third year of my college ,my ex-boyfriend, my first love, who \nhad been with me for 7 years and stayed in New York for 5 years left me.Suffering all those, I also \nthought that God hated me and wanted to desert me and that almostpushed me to commit suicide.\nBut now I manage to lead a happy life because I'm convinced that those sufferings are good for my character and they broaden view of human inner world. Now i become optimistic and get a better understanding of 'love' to love the world and people more
893708
Those who anger you control you.
151740
With my mother I came to realized that she was doing what she was doing because of her own issues and nothing I did good bad or otherwise would have an impact on her negativity. It was kinda liberating when I finally figured that one out.
994022
Oh wow yeah I remember it! I really didn't want to go. My dad took me on my first day and I cried all the way there. When we got to the classroom I had a temper tantrum and pulled at my dress and some buttons came off so dad had to take me back home to change. I calmed down a bit when we got back to school. Then I was sat playing quietly in the afternoon with some building bricks and this boy kicked them over so I punched him! We ended up as really good friends after that though and 29 yrs on we still keep in touch!
339651
you will find out when you grow up
755507
Yeah, on my dad once when he hit my mom, he grabbed the phone from me and pushed me down.\n\nAwww! Precious memories!
512642
Your mom is actually your dad.  You are just like Eric Cartman from southpark
946169
I wouldn't say there's something wrong with you. It sounds like your anger had more to do with something a lot deeper than going shopping with your parents.\n\nDo your parents make you feel left out or do you have other anger issues with your parents? If so, it could help a lot if you start speaking up to them in a respectful way and letting them know how you're feeling. Sometimes it can be really hard for people to ask for things that they want but with practice it becomes easier. \n\nIf the reason you got angry was because they didn't ask you, well you have to remember that people aren't mind readers. Sometimes we all fall into the trap of expecting other people to do something for us or ask something of us. But the fact is that people often just don't know; even people that we're very close to.\n\nTry to figure out what it is you were really angry about and then see if there's a pattern to your anger. If you often react to anger in an extreme way, like hitting things, then you may want to talk to someone about it and find ways to deal with your anger in a more healthy and constructive way.\n\nBe good to yourself and take care
614349
Sometimes.  There are many things that bring forth aggression.  Sometimes it's frustration, sometimes it's ignorance, sometimes it's intolerance.  Quite often a person's aggression level is affected by his upbringing, not just from his parents but his/her close associates.
291764
when your grandparents tell you the way their life was when they were your age and your parents vouching for them. could also be your company CEO belittling you in front of his/her note taking shareholders.
447252
everyone goes through a period of time, usually your teens, when you hate your parents. when i was 16 i thought i knew everything. now that I'm older and a mom, i understand why she did the things she did. just remember that she isn't doing it to piss you off, she only wants what's best for you.