Dating this girl the fathers locks her up (20yr Im 19)Hates me. Only spoke to me twice.Thinks the worst of me.
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Well, the father seem's to be very possesive and overly protect of his daughter. I'm not quite sure if she thinks your the best thing that ever came into her life because I think she is trying to find a way to get the hell out her fathers life.  If you like (love) this girl lot, I would say that you will have to have alot of patients before things get better for the both of you.  As far as the cusing goes, I would speek to the father and explain that it is disrespectful to treat you in that mannor.  Sometimes you have to stand up for your rights, and sometimes the other person will respect you.  After all, the father does know the difference between right and wrong. He just might respect you more later on if you talk to him.  What ever happens, Good-Luck...   Dr Checko...   (Nickname)
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Don't respond. Just nod and smile but don't make conversation. Be respectful because no mater what she feels about her own dad, showing disrespect to her father doesn't reflect well on you or your friendship. \n\nI've been in situations similar to this and sometimes holding your tongue is the most civil thing you can do.
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YOU ARE IN A REAL BIND. I'M WONDERING WHAT THE CUSTODY AGREEMENT IS. I THINK THAT SHE NEEDS TO COME HOME WITH YOU IF SHE WANTS TO LIVE WITH HER DAD THEN I WOULD TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO COME HOME UNTIL THE APPROPRIATE ARRANGEMENTS CAN BE MADE. ON A MORE MOTHERLY NOTE I NO THAT THIS MUST BE VERY HURTFUL BUT SHE WILL REALIZE THAT LIVING AT HOME WITH MOM IS THE BEST ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU MENTIONED A GIRLFRIEND IT WONT TAKE LONG BEFORE THEY GO AT IT AND RESENTMENT WILL SET IN. I KNOW THIS MAY NOT BE OF ANY COMFORT TO YOU BUT I WILL REMEMBER YOU IN MY PRAYERS. GOOD LUCK
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look she broke up with you, obviously she's going to try to get you to see what you're missing. i think she didn't appreciate you much, you're a sweet person and i think any parent would be happy to have a boyfriend like yourself in their daughter's life, i don't her parents disapproved maybe she wanted someone else, you deserve someone you will shower with love and in turn receive the same or even more and trust me she's out there, so you could try and find that girl who will care for you, or go on mourning your ex-girl's loss
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forget her. she treated you badly this time, it WILL happen again. you deserve better.
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you should get a good belt and invite her over and give her a good spanking.Enure no one can hear the trashing.\n\nEvery little girl needs discipline and that little brat is no different. \n\nI think first her father can not tolorate such behaviour not stopping her is effectively agreeing with her. Your boyfriend is a big part of this problem. Let him know you are very hurt by this and ask him to reprimand her when she cross the line.\n\nYou should try to build a good relationship with the brat,but don't become a friend you are an adult and you demand respect\n\nyou should also understand that the brat is jealous of you stealing her dad or replacing her mom, that hurts bad. I guess you should allow you to spend time with her talk to the brat and see how she feels, let the brat open up to you, you are not kissing ass but staking a mature and correct approach to the problem\n\nthis might tkae time so be paitent,however if you see that you are not making any progress and things are getting worst then you should allow her to spend time with her dad alone and have a miniture relationship wit the brat.\n\nyou should not be surprised by the use of the worrd "HOE" as she gets older into a teenage years you can expect bigger and nastier brawls right in your face.
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I would suggest that you not be a creepy stalker and learn some manners. Why would you be in a relationship with this girl if you do not trust and respect her?
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wow dude looks like it's time to move on......sounds like you really care for her just not her daughter....you need to find another girl with no baggage..and start fresh.
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kick the guys ass for hitting his girl!!! We don't like it and the only reason she puts up with it is bc she either thinks that love has to hurt (she was abused as a child) or she is scared to leave him.. I was in a  14 month relationship and he beat me, yelled, and called me horrible names and on top of that he cheated with every girl he could...I stayed with him bc my father beat me and I thought love had to hurt...finally he broke up with me and my soon to  be hubby has shown me love doesnt have to hurt...that it feels good....cursing around her every now and then is ok, but NEVER hit her out of anger or to make yourself feel better!! Play wrestling is ok!!! I hope this helps, if not e mail me and I will try to help more...jss671@yahoo.com
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I agree with loving_father.\nPut yourself in your friends shoes. How would you feel?\nI was in this situation once. My friends knew my GF was seeing someone else and didn't say anything. Needless to say, they are no longer my friends. Do the right thing.
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I've been there mate, sorry to say it, but she's taking you for a ride. She's using you when she find's it convenient. Sever this "relationship" before it breaks you in two. If she's willing to treat you like that, she's not worth it. She obviously doesn't have a high regard for your feelings, because if she did, she would have got with you totally, or not at all. Sorry to say it mate, but break this one up now, please. I know how painful it will eventually be if you don't.
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You have to talk to an adult you trust.  (minister, councilor, police.)  This sounds like a very bitter divorce situation.  Your father is punishing you're mother as a punishment to you.  Depending on the child custody agreement, he could be breaking the law.  If your Mom has joint custody, and he won't let you talk/see each other than it could be considered, (still depending on the agreement) as Child abduction (kidnapping)  You must get help.  Even if you did something dumb and crazy to piss him off, this is still wrong!
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Just wait a while.  Is there any harm being friends for now.  If you do something now you will only cause a rift between you and your father.  Fathers you only get one of and are very important to you.  Boyfriends, well they come and go.  You may not think that your father knows best but he does.  I remember when a guy liked me at school and he came to see me at home.  My father met him with a shot gun at the door.  That was years ago and no harm was done.  The thing is, if I'd started dating that boy I would of got into so much trouble as he is currently in jail for serious assalt on his girlfriend.
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You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)
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Hey... If her father does not accept you.. or her... or both of you... Then there really is not anything you can do... If ya'll love each other than that should be enough... You make his daughter happy... and that is all that should count.. She may hurt her father by going against his will.. But... Love is more important than Obediance.
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sounds like she wants attention good or bad and to be the center of every thing dont listen to her romers and try to talk to her parents explain you dont know why they hate you but you are willing to listen theln explain what is going on i think this girl needs professional help good luck flaimj
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I HAD A SIMILAR SITUATION WITH MY STEP DAUGHTERS. MY 17 YEAR OLD WAS BEING HARASSED BY A 14 YEAR OLD. THE 14 YEAR OLD WAS NON-STOP SHE EVEN THREATENED TO HAVE ME KILLED. WELL AT THAT POINT I HAD TO TAKE MATTERS IN MY OWN HANDS BECAUSE THE POLICE AND HER PARENTS WERE OF NO HELP THEY SAID THE GIRL WAS A MINOR AND MY DAUGHTER IS CONSIDERED AN ADULT. SO ONE SATURDAY NIGHT I WAITED FOR THE GIRLS FATHER AND BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM. HE DIDN'T KNOW WHY HE WAS GETTING POUNDED BUT I TOLD HIM THAT HIS DAUGHTER WILL HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT TO HIM. THE LAST THING I TOLD HIM WAS THAT THE NEXT TIME HIS LITTLE GIRL THREATENS TO HURT SOME ONE SHE BETTER MEAN IT. AT THAT POINT I WAS READY TO GET LOCKED UP. BUT IT SEEMS LIKE THE GUY NEVER CALLED THE POLICE. THE LITTLE CRAP IS NOW TERRIFIED OF ME AND MY GIRLS. SOME PEOPLE UNDERSTAND NOTHING BUT VIOLENCE. \nYOU'RE IN A TOUGH SITUATION GOOD LUCK. NOW THAT THE POLICE ARE INVOLVED YOU BETTER KEEP IT LEGAL. THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO DOCUMENT ALL THAT HAPPENS AND PRESS CHARGES ON THE GIRL WHENEVER SHE DOES SOMETHING STUPID. IF IT GETS OUT OF HAND HAVE YOUR DAUGHTER WHIP HER. SOME PEOPLE UNDERSTAND NOTHING ELSE.