why my father dont like with my boyfreind just becouse we from the differnt ethinc?
116148
Is your Father an old fashioned guy?  Most older fathers have a problem with their children dating outside the race, especially if you are from the South and its the whole black and white issues all over again.
393432
I am still young, but my father is always saying I cannot stand when my father tells me those story I have heard them a thousand times. But my father is just like his dad and tells my siblings and I the same story over and over again. And when we tell our dad he just like his father he gets all grouchy saying no I am not. It funny, cause kids really turn into there parents.
658326
there is a reason why your parents don't like him. and ask the 1st guy what he thinks of the 2nd guy. guys are themselves around other guys so maybe the 1st guy knows something about him and if he is friends with you he can be completely honest with you and his feelings won't be hurt. ultimately its your decision.
422965
Your avatar does not look white to me, and it's cute.\n\nAfter all, they raised a son who would consider a black girlfriend.  And anyway, who says they don't like you, having never met you?\n\nDon't worry.  Be you.  You seem fine to me - you have introduced the guy to your folks and all that.  And your parents are right to wonder why you have not been introduced to his folks.  Talk to your boyfriend about your concerns, so he knows about that.  And let him know that it is time to meet them.\n\nThe son may fear that they have cultural/family issues and he doesn't want to confront that, or doesn't want to subject  you to that.  I now remember a line from a movie about this.  The mother says to the son, who is going to marry a black girl, "A fish may fall in love with a bird, but where are they going to make their nest?"  She meant she was fine with things, but was cautioning the son about the problems society would give them.\n\nWe have a lot less of that these days, thankfully.  And you seem like a fine person - a nice girl from a nice family, so remember that and you'll be fine.
235762
Tough one.  its very hard to change someones mind when it comes to race issues. Your parents are not necessarily racist, they may worry about how other people who are racist will treat you. I would suggest you have a heart to heart with them...ask if they'll meet him, and maybe his parents too.  But remember this...if you try doing it behind their back...it'll just cause trouble....show them how mature your being by being open and willing to discuss the situation. Goodluck.
1019355
Well, it goes like this... it is very common for your family to dislike  your love choice... but it is all because they see you as their precious little girl and think that no one is good enough for you. Even if they are not good for you, if you approach your parents in a calm manner demanding that they respect your decision but you promise to be careful, perhaps they will learn to deal with it. When they see that you are determined about what you want, of course providing that you are old enough, they will eventually calm down. All they want is what's best for you... My parents used to be like that (okay, i had some wrong choices but still) and I tried hiding things from them and lying - it did not end up well... eventually they have learned to butt out of my business.... \nBest regards!
339829
He most likely had a such a hard time learning english and fitting in in America, he doesn't want you to have the same problem. Ask your father if you can learn just a few basic words.
555824
I have the same problem with my family.  It got to the point where I wasn't even talking to my own mother.  You need to tell them that this is what makes YOU happy.  Maybe you can slowly start bringing him around (for dinners, b-days, etc).  This will show them what type of guy he is.  Most importantly, they need to see that he is a real person, not just a "black male."  Have him send your mom flowers or something-- just to show her how sweet he can be.  Don't sacrifice your love for their ignorance.  Good luck!
1151163
Well maybe your step dad is doing a lot of things your real dad dosent do. Also, if you spend more time with your step dad then thats probably part of it. Think of it this way, atleast you like our step dad. Some people really dislike their parent(like me). So the fact that you love your Dad and step dad is something really good. Just stay optimistic.
1037604
You both should respect each others religions. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. You should also explain to him how important your religion is to you and how you don't like him saying those things about your beliefs, he probably won't like you saying those things either. Even if he doesn't like your religion he should respect your beliefs.\nI also think you two should also discuss in what religion you'll raise your children.
19527
No\n\nParents have differing veiws, you being part Itallian leads me to believe that your father has a problem with it because your people are passionate about what they believe in. \n\nI have not dated a woman of my ethnical background in years and it's because I found someone who truly makes ME happy. If your boyfriend makes you happy,then bella you need to do what is best for YOU.\n\nYour father will eventually come around trust me!
896666
Be aware of your differences, ask BF to teach you about his culture, be respectful, open minded, and celebrate the differences. And teach him about yours.\nI know most parents would pick someone culturally similar to their child, but more and more, parents just want their child to be happy. Ask the BF how he thinks his parents will react to your dating. It will give you a little insight about how he feels about you, too.\nGood luck.
1071127
First I want to say that your avatar does you no justice, you are a handsome young man!\nOkay, back to the subject.  Your father helped give you life, so that's just as simple as it sounds, he will always be your father, yes, even emotionally.  The emotional feedback may not be acceptable, but it's what he gives you.  I never had a father either.  Well, I had one, but he didn't give a fucc about me.  He lived around the corner from me growing up, and never even came to see me.  I think you should just go on with your life and dont let him spoil things for, dont sweat it.  It may be really hard, but the anger and resentment does nothing but waste time and create negative energy that life is to short to be bothered with.  \nFind happiness within yourself, and try to appreciate the things he has given to you.
815871
I hate it when they won't respect or listen to you, but still ask your opinion and want your approval and won't leave you alone about the topic unless you say something affirmative.  Erg. I'm sorry for you, but there is nothing more you can do but continue being his daughter and hope for the best.Treat him well.
156443
You like him, he likes you. Go on, though some people might still be a bit skeptical about interracial relationships and not totally agree with them we're living in another era. But still.. if either of you is close to your parents take into consideration how they feel about it to be prepared for whatever may arise.\n\nBest of luck!
1085862
If you are over 18 you can do as you please. However, your parents will be very upset and may disown you. Let them meet him and his family. Maybe they will arrange a marriage with him for you.
616807
Many people have qualms about it because it's "different". What people don't understand is that "Americans" wouldn't be here if our relatives and ancestors didn't mix. That's what makes us American.\nIt is true that, sadly, your son will have to deal with the confusion of the two races and being picked on. No matter how far in time we go, there will always be someone teaching their children that it's "wrong".\nI would say to not change who you are. Who you love is who you love. Don't let someone scare you or talk you out of it. As for your son, try and make sure he has an understanding and appreciation for both cultures and sides of who he is. And as he gets older, continue to remind him that people just don't understand things sometimes, and they can be mean; but don't hold a grudge. That's the last thing you want him to do. It'll be hard, but continue to encourage him to be himself, not black or white.\nGood Luck and God Bless :)