sex on the first date; yay or nay?
113045
Nay! its better to get to know someone (and get an STD test before sex) and then you dont have the worries of catching something from a one night stand. It means a whole lot more when you care about the person then just some random what the heck happened type of thing....
1135054
Take your time. Your first meeting is NOT an advicable time to want to have sex. Show her how much you respect her and her body by abstaining. You are young and have plenty of time to get to the point of "sex" with her.  Besides, why risk pregnancy, STD's, or hurt feelings after. Respect yourself enough also to say NO. No contraception is full proof!!!!
1121971
Definately, then you've already got lots to talk about (the hard work of the first date is gone), all you need to add in then is all the fun stuff like kissing and having sex etc...
912298
sometimes and sometimes not. some look down on it, but if you both get that feeling and you both see it as okay, why not? as long as you both want to sure. but don't over do it. i wouldn't making out, all over each other w/ groping. that's just a little too much for a first date. a simple little goodnight kiss can be a perfect ending.
53001
well im a guy and i know how it is. on first dates guys would like to get a little lap dance and mabey a kiss on the first date.
15500
Why not go where you went on your very first date?
542562
Hi, here to help. First of all, I believe you are encouraging the behaviour a little. You are not completely to blame, but you are encouraging it. This is gonna sound old school, but really you should think about the old saying telling people that they should not kiss on the first date. And this is true.\n  When you kiss on the first date, or even have sex, etc. it makes you appear a little bit easy. Although guys will definitely not argue with the kiss or the sex, they still like to see a girl give them a little bit of a challenge. When you do these things on a first date, you are leaving little to the imagination. Waiting makes the heart grow fonder or something like that, is a very true statement. It is the excitement of the anticipation of waiting.\n  Personally, the first date is very awkward. It is meant for getting to know the person, and seeing if you would like to date this person for a second time. When you kiss, it leads to other things...You sound young, and if I am right, the guys that you are dating are young as well. Believe me, all guys of any age will try things when they kiss you. However, you are in control. You do not have to let the guy feel you up. You can gently place their hands back down on their sides. And if they ask why, you have the right to say you are not ready for that....And you can say this at any age too! I have done that.\n But really, I think you should not be kissing on the first date. Just try and wait, and when you have that first kiss with that special someone it will be more than worth the wait. I am sure a lot of people will not agree with me on kissing on the first date. But it does make you appear more of a lady to the man. I have gotten much more respect when I did not kiss someone on the first date. Usually after the kissing comes other things so in my mind you might as well just wait and enjoy the part of getting to know one another.\n  Love comes with getting to know someone. Unfortunately guys are not like women and are not overly emotional right away. It takes time for a guy to love. They do like the physical aspect first. Take your time girl because you have plenty of it.\n  I have kissed on the first date, and honestly, those are the guys that have not worked out...I don't know and I can't speak for everyone. But I also know that I have enjoyed the anticipation of waiting for the first kiss...\n Good luck!
179404
march 31st will be the anniversary of when I met my loved one on Yahoo Personals.  We chatted for like 3 weeks and finally met.  It was like we know each other forever.  It was just so comfortable.  But you have to be very open and honest from the start.  I have dated other men from here and some won't give you all info because of fear you might try something.  I told my boyfriend on the first date.  Look I plan to be married someday, if that is not you keep moving!  I also told him what I liked sexually, because why waste time and then you finally get into it and he is like ummmm I dont do oral!  Its a great way to get everything off your chest before meeting, and if theya re missing a quality that you required you dont have to worry about them constantly call you, or stopping by.  Just stop accepting there messages
367110
It was ok; I have done a few. Mostly with people I met online, couples. And I was mostly single; meeting other couples. Keeps the emotions out that way. It is a pretty shallow experience, really. Sex one on one or even alone is better, alot of distractions with more than two people and pressure to perform. I think allowing other people into your bedroom is avoiding the real underlying issue within the couple.I had a boyfriend once that was always pressuring me to do that it got to be a real turnoff and we are not together anymore. If you are a sex a holic and can handle it emotionally go for it. It just wasn't my thing.
156593
have sex have fun she could love anyone that first date do you have money
492892
I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
1136090
If it is the first time for both of you to have sex, may I suggest taking things slow.  Especially if it is her first.  Alot of my friends didn't care much for sex at first because their first partner's were too rough and not the most considerate.   And I think any lady out there would also suggest taking things slow.  It's not a race.  Enjoy yourself and for god's sake use a condom.  Communication is good too, make sure you are both cool with whats going on.  \n\nMy first time I remember it feeling like my head was a blur and I was a bit dizzy, but It was a good feeling.
224632
I dont know that its a lack of moral education, for moral education is dependent on what your morality is.  Bout the 20's our ideals and ideas of what is right and wrong for us.  and it has evolved into what it is today.  I personally dont see having sex on the first date a necessarily a bad thing.  (not stating its done often just stating that it depends on the person)  it also depends on where you meet the person.  Environment plays a part as to what is intended.  Bars and the like. I dont know that flirting and looking will come to saying hey i want sex, I think that will stay the same.  But dating has changed and you need to either try to avoid the first date sex or embrace it.  Its depends on what you and your partner (date) want.
653100
Tell him Yes!  Dinner is an easy first date.  You can go and see how things happen and if it isn't so great then you can leave after.  But if it is great, then who knows.  I say go and give it a try - what are you waiting for?
81508
I always told guys "too soon" (atleast my friends told me that). If I had the slightest sexual attraction and thought there was a chance we could end up in bed... Still, I was met with very little rejection. Usually it came out no later the second or third date when we got to the "sharing life stories" part of the dinner conversation :-). I would be like "... ya, last year my boyfriend was dishonest... I'm on Valtrex because he gave me herpes. Valtrex prevents outbreaks and spread...I always use condoms anyway". \nAfter the first year, it became more difficult to tell guys so soon because I was simply used to living with it and, even having been rejected very few times and talked about it alot, it is still stressful to tell a new potential partner!\nI'm currently in a serious relationship, but if I were dating now, I would probably wait longer until things got serious.\nAlso, during the first year of having it, I was in the southern part of the midwest- where people just talk more and tell their life stories more. Out here in a "big city" on the coast-- the culture isn't so narrative and people are different as far as what they tell and when.\nI would do what's comfortable for you and what feels right in the moment with the other person. \nDefinitely tell them before sleeping with them; If they caught it from having sex with you and were NOT informed, then you could be held legally liable (I lost the specific legal references, but there are cases of people being sued for giving their partners herpes).
1087715
I think a good first date doesn't have to involve the typical "dinner and a movie". It's important that the date include time to get to know each other (that is, talking/conversation time) and a movie just doesn't lend that kind of time. Dinner is good but it can be a little formal. I think going for brunch and then doing something that you both enjoy (say, going to a museum or a carnival or going hiking). \n\nOR if i meet her online then I prefer for the first date to be just a meeting for a drink or something similar....just in case it doesn't go well and one of us wants out! :) (I'm sure that never happens to any of us, though!)  If all goes well you can always extend the date to include dinner, dancing, or whatever. I prefer something where we can talk the first time and really get to know one another like going to a museum or a carnival or going hiking.
219908
That is usually up to the girl (you). However if you think about it .... is the guy worth it if he wants in your pants the first date?\n\nAsk yourself this question .... Do I know this guy well enough to sleep with him and exposing myself to everybody he has been with before?\n\nI am all for free sex and friends with benefits, but then if that is the case it's not called a "date" now is it?\n\nAll my advice on this is assuming...\n- your old enough to date\n- He has a home of his own to go to\n- you old enough to have sex\n- you know what protection to use if you do\n- you are ready for any responsibility that may come of it