i am a teenage girl.i dont know what is happening with me.I dont obey my parents.what can i do to change me?
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Dont worry about it.  Its natural, teens rebell it's a fact of life.  What you have to do however is make sure your rebellion doesnt lead to reckless behaviour that can ruin your future.  Believe it or not, your parents were teenagers too so they know what you're going through, just know that whenever you need them they'll be there.
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I'm sorry to hear that u feel that way. You're rite your mom isn't right saying that to you, I have no idea why she would. I don't know what to say to help you..but everything happens for a reason and one day you'll be better than everyone, because that's how it seems to go - the ones who don't fit in when they're young end up to be very succesful or even the prettiest one in adulthood. Sometimes being a teen can be difficult, just enjoy what you enjoy doing and don't care what people think of you and good things will happen to you, I know it. :)
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There are a lot of possibilities going on here. I will try to speak from my experience and from what I gather from the words that you are sharing.\n \nTry to see what is going on in her life. Possible problems include:\n1. She is acutely aware that she wasn't like some people that she may admire. Maybe she wants to fit in.\n2. Perhaps she is suffering from depression or some kind of mood disorder common for girls of her age. Often teenagers or some kids will lose interest in school when other emotional issues take over. \n3. Try to see what other symptoms are going on. Is it possible that she has gotten involved with some bad kids or influences.\n4. She may need guidance that you are not able to provide at the moment. Try her other parent....or try a counselor. Perhaps you need to ask her what is going on.\n5. You may have to ask for professional help. Since I can't tell much about the daughter or the "situation"...but any sudden change in behavior indicates that there is a problem that must be addressed. It may get worse.\n6. Don't wait. My parents did nothing when I changed in highschool. They may have cared, but they did nothing...as often parents do. That was the wrong choice. Yelling or accusing...pushing...forcing is not the way either. I suggest reestablishing trust in the relationship. She has a reason that she isn't sharing what is going on. She is afraid of what you will say or do.\n7. Be smart. She is a kid in body or at heart. Do the adult thing and help her problem solve. I am sure that she wants things to be different. If not, she will one day and you need to appeal to that urge. \n8. Don't forget to ask for kind assistance from those that are close to her. And for goodness sake...don't let her escape unless of course, it is your home situation that is the problem....if you don't have a peaceful home...she may not want to be there for that reason.
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just remember that your parents are scared and shocked and dealing with alot of things right now. you didn't say how old you are and that makes a huge difference so adding some details will help, let them come around on their own and be willing to talk to them about it. also make sure you are practicing safe sex EVERY SINGLE TIME!
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Ooooo i remember the strictness of when i was 15 it was about the same curfew as you. So stick it out arguing about it didnt get me anywhere. When you turn 16 and so on they should ease up! \n\nPersonally i think it is wrong for your parents to decided what career you are going to do. Think about it doing something you dont enjoy for a big part of your life for a good pay its not worth it. My dad told me 'i could be anything i wanted to be' and he didnt really have a say when i was choosing my college course...i made mistakes on my own but thats the best way to learn. \n\nThere is noway you can change their minds they have there heart sent on their little girl becoming a police officer!! But if you feel so passionate about a diff future then go for it you cant live someone elses dreams!!
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try beinggirl. I found loads of advice there when i was too shy to ask my parents.
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First thing you should not have to change who you are.  You need to find somebody that loves you for you.  Keep in contact with him and see if there is any hint of a relationship.  Otherwise go out have some fun and find somebody else.
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A child will only do as much or as little as their parents allow them to do. Your children act the way they do because you allow them to.\n\nShow them you are their parent they are not in charge. \nYou know all the things you told yourself your parents did and you would never do them well it is time to become your parents.\n\nI know you love your kids but unless you get them in line you will be hurting them not loving them
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well you need to understand your parents first.they are scared of you getting hurt outside of your parents sight.make them know and think you are an adult.come home early from parties.make your outings short from friends.work hard at school if your schooling.plus get a job while you in college.save money to get a car for your self.and stick with your parents for another 5years by keep on saving money so that way you can buy a nice small house of your own..that way your parents wont worry about you so much.cuz they seen how you respect your self and securing your self on money wise...transportation and fianancial needs is the key to survive..so no matter how far are you from your parents..they know that you can manage your survival needs...show them that your a mature woman not a teenager girlie girl anymore...good luck independent beauty queen
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Because as a teenager, you have not truly experienced life and really don't know what you want from it.  You need to grow up a little more....LIVE.
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Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
546280
Welcome to puberty and life with a teenager...particularly one with a stepfather. Just be as good a parent as you can be and talk with her when she will allow conversation. In the meantime try to figure out if she reacts the way she does due to some action she feels is unjust. Discipline without a relationship never works. If she is disrupting your family life constantly you and her mom need to find out why and try to correct this even if it is with a counselor.
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You know, its only a stage. You are 15 yrs old with raging hormones. Thats normal. As you grow older, you will realize and make other decisions. If youchoose to stay that way that that is your fate. \n\nI've done that and alot of guys and gals have done so as well. Although some choose to leave that life style and some choose to stay. Ultimately and bottom line. Its your choice. So right now, enjoy and experience all you want and maxmize on what you crave for and after awhile, you will know what direction you want to go.\n\nHope that helps Girl. \n\nCheers!
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just be who u are. Stop trying to change yourself.
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Be honest.  That may seem like an overly simplistic answer, but its more difficult to execute than you may think.  As a minor, you may believe that it is in your best interest to sometimes tamper with the truth in order to avoid punishment.  If you make a mistake you may keep it secret or tell your parents only the partial truth to keep from getting in trouble, but fear of punishment is not a sign of maturity.  If you are always honest with your parents, you will not be afraid to take responsibility for your actions when you make a mistake and you will be true to your word when you give it.  That means getting home by the time you're supposed to and not going out to a party when you've told your parents that you're going over to a friends house to study.  These things may seem difficult at first, but they are all ways that you can show your parents that you possess the maturity to be trusted with more adult things.\n\nNow, I don't mean to imply that you are a pathological liar or that you are constantly sneaking out on your parents, but every teenager keeps some things from their parents that they know they really shouldn't.  It's when you face up to your actions and accept responsibilty for them without putting up a fight or throwing a tantrum that you gain maturity and become an adult.  Though you may be a minor now, there is nothing wrong with getting a head start and I'm sure your parents will notice the change.  Well, I hope that helps. Unfortunately, I don't know how old you are so it may be that you are just too young for the responsibility that you're asking for. Still, being honest shouldn't hurt.  Good luck!
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I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
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NORMAL TEENAGE HORMONAL DEPRESSION\nIF YOU ARE WORRIED STILL TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS\nTHEY CAN TAKE YOU TO A DOC TO SEE WHAT  IS WRONG\nTAKE CARE