man blames wife for asking him to takecar everyday, if he made a big  issue, what would be the reply to him?
101642
Start taking the bus and telling him about a cute younger guy you talk to everyday on the bus.Mention him quite a bit and that you think he has a crush on you.You'll be driving that car everyday sooner than you think.
891572
I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
702496
u said beer belly is he an alcoholic? because if he is or drinks heavy that is the problem people who drink are very one sided and its not your side it all about themselves.. sounds to me like he has it made you are doing everything and he does nothing and gets away with it... its time for you to put your foot down girl make a list of what  you want from him give him a time limit to comply with at least most of what you want (as long as its  reasonable)and if he doesnt then tell him his free ride is over and kick him to the curb. on the list things like him cleaning the house or taking you out to dinner and a movie one time per week , he takes the kids here and there ect..   \n what is with everyone telling you that you need to do things different? she does not need to pay more attention to him or give him oral sex he is being a jerk not her   she is not doing anything wrong except letting him get a free ride and trust me thats enough
1000512
Give him the option to get help for his addiction and return home, or file for divorce.  He will continue to treat you like crap if you let him.  good luck!
1163776
Might I say that you are one of many that do too much...you should tell him that it is too much for you and that you suggest him taking a cab where he needs to go and to tell him that sorry for any problems but to tell you the truth you need to let him grow up and do things on his own for himself.  He needs to grow up and stop relying on everyone else for things, even the little things.
1183684
What you've suggested is really all you can do. You gave her good advice about communicating with her husband and going to counseling. Beyond that, it's really none of your business and not your responsibility.
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
755041
=you did not say if children were involved.  I assume NOT.  How can you possibly say that you are satisfied with your wife?  Shame on you.  Either work it out with your lovely wife or get a divorce and set her free.  If this is for real you both need to move on.  God bless both of you.
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You had (have) marriage vows with HIM, not her. Wanting to press charges on her is your pathetic way of taking the focus off of the fact that he (at least for a while) chose HER over YOU.\nI don't mean to be mean...but it isn't her fault he chose to abandon his vows to you.  It is his fault.
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I've not heard of of it, but here is what I would try to do about it.\n\nAnother male (this is very important), who he's receptive to (such as his best friend or father), at a time when he's calm, such as in a bar, needs to point out the problem in the following way.\n\nThey would say, for example, "Were you aware that when you're angry, you actually roar and growl. It terrifies <Name of your 20 month old>".\n\nNote, he didn't lead up to it with something that would get his back up, like "X was saying the other day that you had a big row". He just said it out of the blue.\n\nThe point is, just to state the problem as a fact, without the emotional-baggage. There's no request or demand to do any specific thing. What he does about it is entirely up to him.\n\nThe same sentence coming from you would be interpreted as criticism and start another argument.\n\nThat's it. The friend  just makes him aware of the problem and leaves him to think through for himself what to do about it. Virtually all men love their young children and wouldn't do anything to scare them.\n\nHe'll most likely think about it for a while, then stop doing it.\n\nIf it starts another argument, just tell him you mentioned it to the friend for the sake of the kid, that he's not in trouble, smile, then leave him alone.\n\nDefinitely don't get into a long discussion. The objective isn't to have all the past things he's said to hurt you acknowledged and apologised for. Its to fix the problem. Attack the problem, not the person.\n\nAs far as the rage and rowing goes, it just needs someone (a male friend again) to point out that the problem exists and ask him to fix it in his own way and in his own time.\n\nHe can suggest that he reads up on the internet and in books (see links) on such subjects as the difference in the way men and women think and communicate, marriage-guidance and anger-management. \n\nHe needs to study hard In the subject areas of understanding women and having a good relationship. Now that we have the internet, this is much easier than it was decades ago. Someone needs to tell him that a lot of the stuff he reads is written in a style that suits women. He needs to bite the bullet and extract the 1% that is useful from the 200 page books.\n\nOne key point is that a man's whole personality is based in feeling competent and successful. That's why criticism or anything that can be misinterpreted as criticism causes so much trouble. In most men it causes grumpiness and moaning. In his case, it seems to be at the anger level.\n\nHe can get his own Yahoo Answers account and ask specific questions on here to both men and women (All those "What does it mean when..." questions).\n\nI think there's one thing you need to do too. Have a read of this article. Many women don't understand that having a discussion (even a short one) of a relationship problem stands no chance of having a positive affect and solving it. The exact opposite is true. It has a 100 times negative affect, magnifying the row, because every sentence you say is misinterpreted as criticism and blaming and demands for apologies, etc. The man just has to escape because his mind is mangled by the rate at which new emotional issues are being raised that he has no understanding of and needs an hour per item to think about.\n\nIf there's a problem, just point out that it exists and ask him to go away and think of a solution. Only deal with a single problem at a time.\n\nA man can't fix an emotional problem in an emotional way, just in a logical way, like a car-engine.\n\nWomen tend to discuss every last detail of a problem and discuss them in groups. Men like to work alone, only asking for help when needed. If he needs information from you, just provide it in as few words as possible and stick to the facts.\n\nIf he eventually learns to stop getting angry and things get better, he may event
196054
Ask his wife if in doubt....K
982092
I am a strong supporter of making a marriage work, but it does not sound like this man is taking your relationship seriously. As a husband and father he needs to be responsible for the well being of his family. As his wife you have a right to know where the money is going and where he is spending his time, as it involves the health and well being of the family.\n\nYou need to take him aside and be brutally honest with him. Explain that you cannot and will not live this way. If you think it's worth it, offer him another chance to redeem himself, but do not let this man put you and your child at risk. If he is doing drugs, that is exactly what he is doing. He could get arrested, and then you will be left without an income as well as legal bills.\n\nIt sounds like you are doing all of the work, and that is not the way to have a happy marriage. I hate to say it, but it sounds like you may need to move on. If you think he's capable of change, I would give him another chance.
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also self medication\n\nHe husband thought he knew what was best for her.
344800
This seems too much of an issue for one person alone. Help is needed here, just to get his life back on track. Don't ever feel this is your fault
1149473
You're right, he should not leave her over this issue as it would make a mockery of marriage vows.\n\nI think his wife needs to understand that if she doesn't want to put out anymore, then her husband really does need some relief - he is a guy, after all.  He should be able to w.ank or watch a little porn or whatever to get his rocks off (not cheating of course).\n\nMaybe a trusted church minister could have a quiet word to her on the side about a "man's needs" and explain that it is normal to have a pull or some kind of outlet
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Sounds like he needs a reality check. If you let him treat you bad it is your fault. There may be problems with work but if that is not the reason then he is trying another saddle.  Most of the time guys let the stress of the job mess up their home life but the wives should find out what the problem is. If mine did that I'd tack his ass to the wall and find out whats up.
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ask him and discuss this issue with him.