i love my cousine.I don't want to tell her about my feelings until I am sure that she loves me.what can i do?
116623
Just simply ask her, Cousins fall in love and get married frequently and there is nothing wrong with that as The royal familys do it in order to preserve the Royal bloodline there is no genitic or biblical reasons against it.
641172
It might be hard if you aren't used to being up front with people - but you need to tell her straight out that you love her, but don't want to hear her opinion about everything you do.  She needs to understand that you are family, but that doesn't give her the right to put you down or criticize how you live your life.\nThis might be hard, she may try and argue with you - don't even bother, just tell her how you feel and that you don't want her to be butting in, and walk away if she tried to fight with you.  She may not talk to you for a while, but eventually things will cool off.  Make sure she knows that you love her and you want to be friends with her (friend= someone who is your equal, who you share things with, who you can depend on).
963088
Hello:\n\nWell first off, you can't go there. But you know that, he is your cousin. \n\nSecond, girls have feelings about guys they can't have all the time. In high school I was practically in love with one of my science teachers, who was married. I even had a boyfriend at the time. Even though I knew we were never going to have a relationship or anything, I always daydreamed about it.\n\nBut eventually I just got over it. And my boyfriend made fun of me for a long time about it. \n\nI would suggest try to stop thinking about it, find some other cute guy to think about, and pretty soon you'll forget all about having romantic feelings for your cousin.\n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
1119694
I don't think she loves you, and I praise her maturity in not saying it when she doesn't mean it. Maybe you should re-evaluate your feelings and see that maybe you are just infatuated with her.
100836
just tell her. you cant exactly tell someone how to do that, cause it needs to come from YOU. your heart, your mind, your soul. not anybody elses. hope i could help.
22867
Just tell her you have feelings for her, and she how she reacts. I think laying it out straight may scare her away if she doesn't feel the same. My guess is she probably does so you have nothing to worry about I'm sure!  I wish you luck. I hope you find someone as great as I have found!
533780
You dont want to be in love with someone who doesnt love you back,so if telling her that you love her scares her away,then find someone  who is going to love you back and dont waste your time on someone who doesnt,you deserve better than that.
63475
im in a position like that.\nits really hard\nspecially when you think (you can see) she (he) loves you too, but both of you cant talk about it at all!\n\ni think its on you, if you can eliminate the distance, then tell that person, what you feel,\nand tell her (him) what are you going to do!
1020596
Just tell her how u feel and all she wants to know is if u really love her or else she wouldn't ask u to do such a thing...
601180
I don't think complicating things would be a good idea. Though if you really love her and feel that you have to express it. Then you could tell her. I mean, that's not going to ruin their relationship. You're just trying to be honest. You're feelings are also valid.
817030
If your friends are abandoning you for her, they aren't really your friends.  I know this doesn't help your situation, or make you feel any better, but it's true.  If they are willing to listen to someone else and make judgements about you, they aren't worth knowing.\n\nStick with your cousins and ride it out.  They may come crawling back, who knows?  Just keep your dignity throughout, and never lower yourself to their level.  Know you are better than any of them.  It'll blow over soon enough, as long as you make out that you really couldn't care less.
999427
well, no that's not being "messy". it just means maybe she wants to talk 2 you're other cousin for a little while. what's wrong with talking to other family members.  just try to do something 2gether like all 3 of u guys going to the movies or shopping or something. that way u 3 can bond as cousins. also, it may have something 2 do with the age difference. if you're really younger or older than the two of them then your cousin may have more in common with your other cousin than you so she might feel more comfortable talking to her.  don't get stressed out. i'm sure both of you will be talking tommorrow.
759124
gaurav, you are a young man, so your sexual feelings are natural towards another female. it is probably a result of you not meeting enough people outside your family.  and your family not being very liberal so maybe you are not allowed to meet other girls etc. so these feelings have cropped up in your heart. \n\nbut let me tell you what you are thinking and doing is WRONG. \n\ni am a hindu and i can tell you that our religion considers this as a sin. cousins are considered as own brothers and sisters. \n\nin religions like muslim such things are acceptable where they marry their cousins but our religion has certain rules, and there is a reason for these rules and your sexual intentions with your cousins is UNACCEPTABLE. \n\nGod gave you  birth in a hindu family for a reason, dont dishonour your religion. pls stop these horrible ideas and look for some other girl outside. do you not have friends or college mates ? or other girls to mingle with?\n\ntrust me, there are lots and lots of nice and intelligent girls out there and surely your soulmate is out there too, one day you will find her and marry her. \n\ni am very close to my cousins, there is nothing wrong with that. you can be close to your cousin, maybe you two click, so you can talk about things, share your ups and downs, but love in a sexual manner - all that is wrong. \n\nyour cousin too is at fault, she should not have let you advance on her like that. but she is younger than you, and as an elder brother it is your responsiblity to protect her and respect her and instead of that you are making sexual advances towards her ?\n\nthink of the rakhi she ties you every year and the promise you make her of protecting her ? is this how you will fulfill that ?\n\nimagine if your cousin was doing such a thing to your sister ?\n\ngood luck Gaurav, I hope my words make sense and I have put some thoughts ahead in your mind. Pls think about it dear, and make your decision with God in your heart\n\nbest wishes, your sis in London
275382
Dont rush, give her time to think. If you keep houndin her then she'll feel trapped and may break it off. I love you are powerful words. And no, its not wrong at all.
465718
thats just the thing,if she loves u then there is no way u can do it without hurting her.she will hurt.but what u need to do is tell her what u have just told me.tell her that u dont think she is the one and that u think that she will find someone who will love her verry much.tell her that u love her but ur not in love with her(if thats the case)let her know all of this cause the longer u wait the harder it will be to do.but just try ur hardest to let her know how u feel and try to make her understand how u feel and understand that she will find someone else who will love her and she will love back.good luck and hope it works out
161486
you should tell her how you feel b/c if she really does love you then she would stop for you. seriouly she would that could find out if she really loves you. dont go to heard on her but let her think about it. just keep getting in her head that its bad.
581630
I'm not sure if there ever is a right time to tell someone you love them. But if you decide to tell her make sure she understands the kind of love you mean. I know you will be wearing your heart on your sleeve. But it's really the only way you can do it.