does a 11 year old have a say so of who she want's to live with in court?
98846
The 11 year old should have a court-appointed guardian ad litem (or advocate) who will be there ONLY for the child. The advocate will review both parents situations & listen to what the child wants to do & WHY the child wants what they want. The Advocate will make recommendations to the judge based on the investigation & will tell the judge what the child wishes to do.
280110
I'm not sure about Oregon, but in most states all the 14 yr. old child has to do is tell the Judge that she wants to live with you. As long as there are no lingering issues like being deemed an unfit parent, abusive, drug or alcohol problems etc. Good luck.
304084
There is no particular age. The law says, "The court first shall determine the reasoning ability of the child. If the court determines that the child does not have sufficient reasoning ability to express the child's wishes and concern with respect to the allocation of parental rights and responsibilities for the care of the child, it shall not determine the child's wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation. If the court determines that the child has sufficient reasoning ability to express the child's wishes or concerns with respect to the allocation, it then shall determine whether, because of special circumstances, it would not be in the best interest of the child to determine the child's wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation. If the court determines that, because of special circumstances, it would not be in the best interest of the child to determine the child's wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation, it shall not determine the child's wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation and shall enter its written findings of fact and opinion in the journal. If the court determines that it would be in the best interests of the child to determine the child's wishes and concerns with respect to the allocation, it shall proceed to make that determination." \n\nIn short, if they believe the child is able to reason well enough to form a knowledgeable opinion, they will consider it if it is in the child's best interest.
1102830
The court can decide anything they want  when it comes to the best interest of the child.  It could be that they feel she can handle one child but is too stressed and overwhelmed to handle three.
1081263
you're 11 - talk to your parents about this.
1156550
Well, of COURSE not - this is not a question of "right" and "wrong" .... it's a question of whether Emma can stand up for herself and cross over from child to adult.  (Whose "home" by the way ?)  If Emma is in her own home, then she is only "virtually a prisoner" if she chooses to be.  If she is still, at age 23, in her mother's home, then she has to deal with the fact that her mother makes the rules in her own household.  If Emma is living in mom's house, working, and NOT paying rent, utilities, and food to her mother, then she is completely subject to her mom's rules.  (So I suspect Emma is living in mom's home under "free" circumstances.)  Emma can't have it both ways - she doesn't get to be an adult and still live off her mother like she is a child.  It's one or the other.   She either gets out and lives on her own like an adult or she pays her mother fair market value for rent, fair market value for utilities, and $300-$400 for her contribution toward to grocery bill.  If she does one of those two things, she can demand her status as an adult.
541677
Unfortunately, while not fair, the law usually favors the tenant. Has your daughter offered her anything to move? That might be the only way. Or court?? Good luck to you both.
556534
Why don't you try to support your child for once and let her experience life instead of protecting her from it? Your child could have filed for emancipation at the age of 12 if she wanted to and you would have had no legal right to her. If she wants to be at home, she'll come home. Until then, maybe you should try to treat her like the adult that she will be in less than a years time instead of like the 10-year-old that she hasn't been in quite some time. I left my home when I was 16 and moved in with my aunt because I couldn't deal with living with my parents. \n\nJust because you think you're right doesn't mean that you are and just because your daughter thinks she's right doesn't mean she is. Maybe, and I know other parents don't like to hear this, you were wrong. Just get over it.\n\nYour daughter may be physically 17 years of age, but that doesn't mean that her mental development didn't speed up at some point. You're going to do nothing but put strain on your relationship with your daughter if you try to force her to come home. Instead try to support her, see if she needs help with paying for rent and getting through school. Maybe getting a job. \n\nI'm thinking that you and your daughter have problems because you don't even know where she lives now. Even though I'm grown, my parents at least know where to come live with me because they apologized to me for everything that had occured in my youth because of them. Just because you're the parent doesn't make you right. Your daughter isn't just your daughter, she's also herself. She has to be herself or she's just a copy of you. That's not why you had children and you know it.
977133
If your over the age of 12, you can choose where to live at a Custody Hearing. Make suer that your Dad can handle you living with him Financially and that he has the proper amout of room for you.
905261
dont quote me on it but I believe the coiurts want the child to at least 13 years of age. The judge has to ask the child and he or she must tell him on record but will be taken to a private area away from both parents as to not feel pressured into the decision
350303
No! \nThe court will decide ultimately where a child is placed taking into account the child's safety and well being, it may well be stated that the child would and be better placed with the person that he knows ie, the Mothers friend after an aproval inspection and social investigation\nmay be accepted, but the court wil have the final say.\nHope this helps, keep that child safe.\nGood luck!
461292
It is the mother's parental right to make any new boyfriend's life hell.  Now, what age were you when you signed it?  If you were under age, then technically no, it can't be legal.  I don't know the age at which she/you are considered adults in your own community.  When she turns 18, will she be living at home or move out?  If she lives at home, mom's/dad's house rules apply.  OR, maybe certain terms can be negotiated with her parents.  Good Luck!
907104
they made me choose who i wanted to live with when they separated..(what were they thinking?!!!!) I was 11
643257
Yes, of course your right...Umm since when does a snooty nosed 15 year old girl get off giving adults orders, especially to you whom she has absolutly no connection with. And because she is only a minor, there is no court on this planet that would even consider giving her any custody rights whatsoever as she has no connection with you or your child. Hell, your ex is also in the sh#t for mandatory rape, if he's going out with this girl and doing the business with her. If I were you, I would move away from all of them to give you at least a mental rest, they all sound like hicks and do you really want your child growing up around people like that. If she continues to do this, I think you need to ring the police yourself and tell them about the situation between this girl and your ex, or ring up a mental health team to come out and get her, she sounds pretty bonkers.
87374
In most cases involving minor's counsel, this is an attorney appointed by the Court to represent the child's interests and paid for by the parents.  Unless there is a hotly contested custody hearing, the court usually won't appoint one.  Of course, the exact laws and policies on will vary vary by state.\n\nIf your son wants to come live with you, talk it over with your ex.  You might be able to work something out.  If your ex won't agree, you will need to file a motion for a change of custody and prove to the court that it is in the child's best interest to live with you now.
415477
Until they are of a certain age yes.  I think the child has to be 13 and then they are old enough to make the choice of wether they want to go or not, but either way, it will have to go through court to be done properly.
1141351
YES your daughter can depending on your state and her age  either you need to get a lawyer or a child's advocate, your daughter   "Motion  The Court" for what is an "Emancipation" against her father with what your telling me it should be granted, this is what children do, it is another way of being set free from there parents or a parent, go on the Internet and check it out, GOOD LUCK also most people don't need lawyers to do this but you may need one, I am also telling you it would be best that you allow you daughter to do this on her own of course go with her but as far as you going in to the lawyer or court room no the reason are this it is up to her and her choice that way no one will say you made her do this even thought they will anyways, Hallmark made a movie called "into the night about just this" try to get or contact me email and I will help you get the movie very helpful