can a man all physical parts normal living with his spouse stay for over a year without having sexual intimacy
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yes of course.. but y would you want to?
165772
Refuse sex or cooking for him utill he starts to shower daily
374663
The men I have spoken to feel alienated and rejected both mentally and physically from their wives.  Apparently sex once or twice a year is considered normal for this stage/age of marriage.  Loneliness would probably be the best way to explain it.  They feel that they can fulfill their needs while still maintaining the quid pro quo of the marriage and family.\n\nWrong as it sounds that is what they tell me.  They actually feel like they are sacrificing their own happiness to maintain the responsibilities they have for family.  They see an affair or usually casual sex as a necessary evil.  Most have no intention of ever leaving their wives and they make that perfectly clear.  To them  a marriage that is tolerable is better than divorce.
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I do not think there is any such thing as "normal" in regards to this question. Each couple will have their own desires, their own wants, needs, urges and motivations. Sex is tied to emotions and other factors besides two willing bodies. In other words, it may seem normal for your husband to want sex more often, but if his mind is on work, worries, children, responsibilities etc. He may not be able to perform as well or as eagerly as he would without the stress issues.  There are also medications that can affect one's desire (or lack of desire) so all of these kind of intricacies in your OWN relationship may make what is "normal" very different for each couple. \n\nMy husband and I did not get married until we were older (late 30s for me, early 40s for him), and I must admit that the first two years was a lot hotter than the last 8 have been, but I have had a surgery on my back, and my husband has had some health problems that have had a profound effect on our sex lives. The part that really matters is that we are both happy and satisfied (not only with the sex, but with each other)!  We were friends before we were lovers, and if for some reason one day one of us is no longer able to have sex at all, I don't think either one of us would walk away from the other because of it!\n\nI guess it's a lot more important if you are young, and maybe there are ways that you could approach and talk to your husband if you want to know if HE is happy, and if YOU are not happy...then I think you should try talking this over with your husband (PRIVATELY) before you are tempted to invite others into your bed!  It may be that you could spice things up a bit to make the package more appealing. If you could just offer him a massage and if he relaxes so much that he goes to sleep, then let him sleep. Let him know that you are not doing nice things just for the purpose of seducing him. Maybe try some feminine lingerie, and instead of wearing your fuzzy pink bunny slippers and terry cloth bathrobe, put on something that will remind him that you are all HIS and that he is a very lucky man. :)  \n\nIf you have changed in weight or attitude since you got married maybe he would appreciate your efforts to improve yourself. So if you can be more helpful, less demanding and show him that you really do want him to be more attentive or less attentive (which ever the case)...Perhaps your feelings will seem more important to him. \n\nBefore you feel tempted to cheat or anything like that or if you are suspicious that he is cheating, ask him to go with you to a marriage counselor, or if you both are invested in a church, you may consider asking the Pastor, Priest or Reverend for "couple's counseling".  If you go to counseling, be honest about your feelings, and encourage your husband to open up too. If there are things in your marriage (like sex) that are not satisfying to both of you, then maybe you could find ways to make them more balanced through work and compromise. Sometimes we cannot always have things as we always dreamed they should be. There is NOTHING wrong with sharing those dreams with your spouse, so that both of you can work towards a happier marriage that is mutually gratifying in many many ways!\n\nGood luck, what is "normal" is what works for you and your husband!
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that's ok if your spouse want's sex more then you but when you are sick he schould be worrying about your health not sex.it is terribly that he is not thinking of you.i have the best husbant.i was in the hosp for 2 week's had surgery and had 35 staples in me and my husbant could not have sex four over 8 weeks and he never once ask me to have sex why i'm going to tell you why because he loves me and he worryes about me.and i'm not saying that to hurt you but it's true.if your husbant loves you he would be more under standing. or you can do what my sister did to her husbant he wanted sex all the time he sounds like your husbant so she put itching powder in his under were well he did not want sex for a while.lol p.s. when he is sick does he still want to have sex?
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I think it was a mistake to move in together.  First of all, the basis of a relationship is honesty even when the other person might not like what you have to say.  Sex is important.  Your relationship is already in trouble since you want to cheat.  He needs to know that you have a right to sexual pleasure.  You need to talk. There is also medication for premature ejaculators.  You wont find out any of this if you dont talk.  If he doesnt want to talk, tell him that this is so important to you that if you dont talk, you will step out on him.  You have a right to pleasure.  Hes probably not very happy with himself either.  No guy that goes off in a few minutes is really very happy with himself but his manhood prevents him from talking or doing anything about it.  Speak now or hold someone else's piece.
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No, my dear, this is not true. Sexual relations are not a requirement for life. Granted a healthy sex life makes a more balanced and happy person but it is not going to kill you if you don't have it. \n\nIt is not like water, food and air.
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as far as I know it is not considered a sin to live together according to the Bible, but it is a sin to have sex before marriage and I don't know many people who live together that don't have sex, so it is up to you to draw the line to be able to stay away from sex before marriage
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I'm married and have not had sex in a year! (Idiot for a husband) Actually, it varies from person to person due to psychology and hormones.
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As long as they are both of age, then there is nothing legally wrong with it.  However, morally speaking... all affairs are wrong.  Sex should only be with your spouse.
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I'm not sure what you mean by "everything", but I can tell you that sex is no different and it's more a psychological issue than anything. I think it's also not different for the guy, but I can't be sure ;)
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It's not at all about having a solid marriage and being able to share. It's a fetish, some may call it a perversion. It's what gets them off. It is possible to have casual sex without emotion. It is also possible to be satisfied with your spouse and have no desire to swing.
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Yes you should. Wait a few years and be very careful. Help him mature as well by doing non-sexual adult things.
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It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
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It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.
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Just because you don't have sex everyday doesn't mean that theres something wrong with your marriage. If you want the physical enjoyment to last longer, why not start with some forplay. And if he's too tired to do the work then ask him if you could ride him. Also there are books out there that you could look at. And theres plenty of toys and creams out there too. I even seen a swing built just for sex.
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i guess it all depends on how old the guy is....\nalso on maturity level......\nmature no they dont\nimmature yyyyeeeessssss\n\nno really i have been married 7 years and love it, yes we make love often at least once or more a day, but if he loves you and really wants you except for sex, he would be interested in cuddling on the couch, foreplay or something of spending time together\n\nno wives are not boring either!!!!  But if thats all he wants get out and find one that will ove and respect what your needs are too, or is that it, you want it more than him???