Women Only: Do you like it when a man holds the door open for you or do you think it sexist and demeaning?
98309
Not only do I like it, I am teaching my sons to do it.  Not because women are too dumb or weak to open their own door, but because women are the keepers of culture, manners, the finer things; women represent what is beautiful and gentle in our society, and women are the bearers of future generations.  Women have a special dignity and men should honor them, and in our culture one way men can honor women is to hold the door, to rise when she leaves the table, etc.  (since we don't really have jousts and quests anymore! LOL)
791130
I don't think I would complain about it.  Show your appreciation by saying thank you.  If you REALLY don't like them doing things for you, then stop it before they start it.  That is the bottom line.  Some women have it like that.  I think I would personally feel bad... but if they are good men send them my way, I have plenty for them to do for me.  But... I don't need their money.  They can fix my car, do some handy work around the house, take me to see Charlie Murphy LOL
218893
Oh it's very fair.  Women put up with so many double standards, I rather like this one that we actually benefit from.\n\nWith that said, I'll never "withhold" in a relationship.  Not only do I feel that's wrong, but hey, it punishes me, too.  *grin*
685121
Yes, and I'm glad a male asked that question.  It's all about the right person for the job, who cares if she's female.
300696
As a nice guy myself, I can assure you that women don't want nice guys.\n\nHowever, since you cook, clean and do laundry, I'll let you move in.  Just don't expect me to put out.
1150003
You know, I think that its in the attitude. Its partically physical. I, as a female, am signifigantly smaller than most of my guy friends. I am better able to communicate, and manage small moter tasks. They are better at lifting large things. But, its also the sexual tension between the different sexes. \n\nThis may suprise you, but I think that as a woman, I am in a better position than most of my male friends. I can totally manipulate them, with just a request. "Will you walk me to my car?" Carries an implied message, "Come and walk with me, so I don't get raped" but also "Come and walk with me, since we're going the same way and I want to keep talking". I can also get away with hitting my guy friends without much consequence, and my chances of continuing higher education are much better.\nSo... the inequity between men and women? I think it comes down to education and intimidation. As a 5'4, less than 130 pound woman, I am much more intimidating than my 6'5 200 pound guy friend. It's all attitude.
1082497
not at all. i think it helps men understand woman just a little bit more.
1019798
i would like the guy to make the first move.  i tend to go traditional in that sense.  i don't like the idea of making the first move b/c i don't want to come off as easy.  i think it's more acceptable for the guy to do it and if he does, i feel more confident and want to please him.
1119170
I think so but then as I ponder the question, I came up with the following thoughts:\n\nThese labels are so subjective. A guy who may not make as much money as I do may be a better manager of money, which could put him on a different level financially. Should he be willing to compromise his wealth because I can't balance my check book? Probably not, but would it be socially unacceptable for me expect him to help me out? Nope. It would probably be frowned upon if the situation was in the reverse because men are looked upon as the "breadwinner" or "provider." Alot of men evaluate their manhood on the ability to provide for their family. Which I think is the source of the insecurity and intimidation.\n\nOn the flip side...\n\nIf the women who have it "together" knowingly deal with men who are not on the same "level" and are willing to put up with them, it would be expected that they would be willing to support their man in whatever it takes to make the couple a stronger unit and also promote a health self-esteem/ego for the man. That is if the man feels the need to change. If he is okay with the fact that his wife/girlfriend/partner makes more money or has more education, then it should be okay with the other person.
493510
It happens to me many times, usual for men dominated area. I don't think it will be harmful to take their invitation, as long as you really know them and lunch in public places (restaurants). The most important is don't let them focus on sexist jokes and never use obvious physical contacts. Based on my experience, they do respect female colleagues, and I find it more advantage of being female among males, they put us in priority :))
1032874
I appreciate when anyone holds the door open for me, and I try to hold the door open for others.\n\nWhen I'm out with my husband, I expect him to hold the door open for me.  I like that.
649379
No.\n\n Not normal.\n\n       like much better than normal.\n\n              Ladies give that man a hand.
930224
This is totally situational... but...\n\nIn general, I love it when a girl makes the move. As a guy, we have an automatic disadvantage, because no matter what, we have to work for it. Now, this is a gross generalization, but most of the time it is true: women can find someone if they really want to, any time.\n\nMen on the other hand, well...\n\nSo to have a woman come up and make it known that she's interested makes things easy. Not to mention, it's not like there's anything to lose really.
1048783
Personally, for me, it depends on the woman in question....but if she is under 40 and in reasonable shape and can carry herself well anyway, I don't mind it.  It can be attractive on the right lady, and yet it can also be a bit less than classy, depends on the lady doing it, does she do it well, go overboard, etc?\n\nAs far as my attitude towards her, it really doesn't change things any more than any other attempt that women use to look nice, like makeup, wearing a dress/nylons versus pants, showing bare legs (where are the folks whining about short shorts and exposed butt crack, huh?), piercings, and so on...\n\nOnly thing that really turns me away are scars and tattoos, and those only if they are fairly massive (to the point of being disfiguring).\n\nBut then again, I am one of those...*lol*....I try to be a gentleman out in public, meaning if I am close enough to talk to a woman, I keep my eyes on her face as much as possible, duh...it's called self-control and manners, and some guys could use that.\n\nBecause men can be out of control skanks too, you know?  Especially down south with the bare-chest thing....ughhh...
211707
nope, its cool.\nthats a good way to pick up women.\nmost women LOVE that stuff.
937126
To open the door and pull out the chair is one thing, to honk the horn on your car, whistle, make rude comments and smack a girl on the @ss is not chivalry. In fact that is not acceptable and is very vulgar. \nI'm not saying all men are like this and I do know the difference between a gentleman and an idiot, I have had a gentleman help me put powersteering fluid in my truck, saying "there's no point in getting such a pretty dress dirty" and I didn't think that was sexual harrassment. I thought that was sweet. \nNot all of us are like that, so for the few of us that like old fashion gentlemen, thank you to the men that (even in a world that women practice independence) still make an effort to practice chivalry and charm.
603373
Yes, I like being a woman but it's a lot more difficult than being a man.  No offense, but we're a lot smarter than men...but we have so many more responsibilities.  And we have to deal with the emotional aspect of everything as well.  But we're better at maintaining relationships and making people happy, and we're very good at multi-tasking.  I'm definitely no feminist, though, so I love being pampered by a man.  I still love having the door held open for me, that sort of thing.