Do people ever hurt your feelings by being mean? How often and how do you handle it?
99255
It doesn't bother me. If they are saying nasty things, and they can't even back it up, it's because they are jealous of you. You have things they don't. Maturity, intelligence, amongst others. Don't let it hurt you, they'll only do it more. You are better than them and can rise above them.
797649
I've read lots of responses of that kind.  They're a dime a dozen.  You mustn't let vicious people upset you or cause you to have hard feelings toward others.  Be a lighthouse and show others how reasonable and imperturbable you can be.
13911
I am really sarcastic and sometimes a bit mean to people. I am really going to try and stop that, and try to think before something smart comes out my mouth. I also want to learn how to be more comfortable with my body to please my guy( so I joined the gym last month).
361378
It depends on the relationship I have with the person.  If they are family, I just get nasty with them and don't pull any punches.  (and I can strip someone with my tongue very easily)  If they are an acquaintance, I just ignore them.  In my situation, this is the worst possible insult they can receive as most folks around me like being in my company.  I let the person see me looking great, laughing (could be about them or not) and generally having a great time.  I'm like you, I prefer not to swear, as it shows poor manners, so sometimes my revenge is more a mental discipline then a verbal one.
224516
Sweet Dear\nSometimes they do not even know how you are feeling unless you learn to express yourself and let them know about your likes and dislikes---- dont hurt them but at the same time do not let them hurt you too---right??
253664
Yes, It doesn't take much to hurt my feelings intentional or not. This is very hard to deal with.
220576
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
499964
no way. lol, i'll be honest. i consider myself a pretty mellow guy, and i'm usually the type to try and make a deflectionary comment rather than an insult. but if it gets bad enough, i'm gonna start saying stuff, and it comes out fast and is usually accompanied by me setting my shoulders and clenching my fists. lol, i hate to get that way, but i'm not perfect.
693399
Try appoloigizing, and asking what you did that made him so mad at you. Were you having a bad day and something you said sounded cruel? Was HE having a bad day? Still, nothing works better than a heartfelt appoligy.
1069857
Everyone makes mistakes.  I know what you mean about people making nasty comments on here...and in life.  I have a rule I try to live by (although it isn't always easy...because I am human and do make mistakes...) always say something positive or don't say anything at all.  It makes my life nicer.  I'm sorry you have had your feeling hurt.
917756
I pretty much just have to warn my husband that I am PMS'y, lol. I get extremely mean as well. It has taken years, but I finally can say im sorry right after I say something mean. It really does make me and him feel better. It's humiliating, but if you can say sorry right after the meanness, it makes for a much happier life and you won't have everyone mad at cha!
632820
awww,,, did someone hurt your feelings.
536876
I don't necessarily believe that people are mean.  What I do believe is that people are scared and when you are scared you will do anything to protect yourself and the ones you love. We live in a fear based society. Fear is a very powerful emotion and I believe it manifests into what some may call "meanness".
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Being rude and disrespectful to ANYONE takes away time that would be better spent doing other things. HATE is a very strong word and I have avoided it my whole life. Why not try to look inside yourself and see what makes you hate someone. Then try to resolve that hate. Do you feel the person is rude and disrespectful to YOU? Do you feel the person doesn't treat you right? DON'T put up with that from anyone. Speak on it and resolve it. If the person still won't act right, just avoid and ignore them.-- Don't let anyone bite your joy. Kind of hard to avoid and ignore someone who has authority over you so I would suggest you work on a resolution or else get ready to vacate....\ngood luck
288002
Hmmm.... it happened to me..\n\nI am considered to be a cool headed person.. who does not get angry / agigated easily (me not bluffing :-D )..\n\nSometime back... I used to get agigated / irritated rather easily and in no time.. and it began happening often.. my friend.. pointed it out.. \n\nFirst time.. I said.. I denied.. and got hyper... etc etc...\n\nIt happened again.. and he pointed out... I denied again.. but this time did not defend myself.. I realised.. I was wrong..\n\nThat did not mean that it did not happen again.. but whenever it happened he was quick to jump on me.. And boy! do I love him for that... that has brought me back to (ab)normal ...
749328
better than you i see!  just kidding. Just answer politely. If youve been good...say good...or fine. Or if youve been sick, say you had a bug for a few days but feel great now. And about this person who causes you problems...i have 3 people who cause a lot of problems..not just with me..but with the whole family and then some. Only one i see on a regular basis now. And when they start into their stuff...i try to always stay nice, unless they get nasty, rude or mean. Then i am firm. And that makes her quit. I dont stoop to her level, because that would make me look as bad as her, i go above her and just let her know that how she acts is not tolerated by me. And she ends up looking like a fool, and i get satisfaction knowing she made herself look bad in the process and trying to get to me.\n\nYou've probably heard the saying "kill em with kindness"?  It really does work.
1058634
I always dislike people when I first meet them too. I usually grow to like them. i think it's a defense thing. I'm usually meaner to the nicer people they seem so weak it's easy to walk all over them. I feel bad too. But I just can't help myself