Ive been seeing a guy for a month know and  doesnt pressure me to have sex is he to sweet is it a front?
116357
he could be a really nice guy and like you for who you are. I didn't have  sex with mt girlfriend or pressure her for 2 months. some guys think sex is a more serious thing and want to wait for the right moment.
715421
Sounds like you are feeling really rather insecure about yourself.  It's not a crime to have sex on a first date but the downside to it is the sort of confused feelings you seem to be going through.  The reason for this may be that it was just too early to tell whether this guy really liked you (or indeed, whether you liked him) and now you are having to wait and see.  However, the decision about whether you see each other again is half yours and half his, if you both want to see each other you will, if you don't you won't.  On one hand you are saying you don't know how you feel about having slept with this guy and on the other you are saying that you don't regret it ... so that kind of indicates that you do know how you feel!  It is important that you clarify for yourself how you feel about him.  Do you want to see him again?  If the answer is yes, you can either wait for him to approach you, or you can approach him first.  It is not unusual for people to jump into bed with each other very quickly, it sounds a bit like you might not be entirely comfortable with your behaviour because perhaps you think he won't like or respect you for it.  You can't know how he feels about you without approaching him in some way and initiating communication ... you won't have to ask him how he feels, that should become apparent by whether you get together again and you will be able to tell how much he likes you by how he treats you from now on in.  Speculating on the minimal information you seem to have might just drive you a bit bonkers and certainly won't get you any reliable answers.  Finally, I would say of course you can become friends with this guy, if he wants to become a friend of yours too ...
232254
Hello;\n  The best advice I can give is to explain to him how much you care and tell him all the things you admire about him. Then explain that you would like more out of your relationship than just sex. Then see how he reacts. If he is agreeable, then you can relax and enjoy new avenues of your relationship. If he still insists on having sex as his main concern, then you need to look at yourself and decide if you want to be used in that way.
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I think that im the right person to talk to you.\nI have always belived in complete abstenance, you know, no kissing,and defenatly no sex.\nMy 1st date was when I was 25, i actually waited that long, i met this great gentleman at church, i knew he was the man for me. he actually invited me to go out at this nice restaurant, and i accepted the invitation.\nthis s my fist date, im 25 and not really know what exacly im doing in this restaurant with this guy, He stars telling me about his life, we really had a great time that night, the next day he calls me at work and he sais that he really wants to see me again, i agree to go out again, he told me that he knew that i was the woman he has been waiting for, He actually ask me if He could kiss me, I told him that i had didnt know how to kiss. He got so quiet, he touched my face, then he kissed my forehead, then my nose then my chik, i could not breathe i felt like i was inside a cloud, and then he kissed me, there was i giving my fist kiss, and when i kiss him i always remember how sweet and delicate he was to me. I married him, and we are happily married our anniversary its comming up 3 years already, and we are praying for a baby. there is so much happiness, when you save your self for the right person, the key is not to worrie about it, God will send you the right person, just like he did to me.
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No don't ask him crap. Especially about that. If your already having sex with him all I can say is ''ARE YOU CRAZY?!'' Stop having sex if you are. If he still calls and wants to see you then theres a chance he likes you for more then sex. You've only been together 3 weeks. To a guy 3 weeks doesn't mean a thing. It's not like his in love with you. You need to control your feelings better and not let yourself get all tided up emotional. Guys just don't fall head over hills about a girl. They take their time. To them they have plenty of time before wanting to wear a ring or give one up.Don't wear your heart on your seleve. In other words don't let these guys know that you like them so easily and so quickly. Guys like girls better if they have their own set of friends and don't dump their firends to go out with them. They like girls that aren't high matainace. You know , where you think if they don't call like 6 times a day or something you start calling them wondering why you haven't heard from them. They are loyal to their guy friends and you should be to yours. If he doesn't call you for a month let it go. Go on like it was nothing.  Don't let dating confuse you. It's just a stepping stone to a whole new world for you. Just go with the flow and don't let things like him not calling you get to you. If he doesn't call then he doesn't call. If he go's out with his friends don't jump to conclusions that he was with another girl or flirting. Could be he was but that's none of your business and if you start getting upset over it then he''ll surely feel trapped and he'll never call you. I know it's hard to like someone and then have to watch him flirt or even see him out with someone else but until he tells you himself he wants you to be the only one for him then his going to do just what he wants no matter what you think or feel.
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no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.
483578
join the club honey. i'm with a guy that wants us to be friends one week and then friends with benefits the next wekk....well, it really does suck to only be wanted for sex, but at the same time....he aint going anywhere else for it is he. if you're comfiortable in that type of relationship...then go for it
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depends on wat kinda guys u r talkin' about. guys who r lukin' 4 serious relatiohship may lose interests in u rite away if u do cuz they don't want their future soul mate 2 b 2 open. nevermind them cuz if then can't accept ur openness, ur relationship won't go any furher anyway. guys who r lookin' 4 short term relationship would love it if you make the first move cuz that indicates u r willing to have sex with them as soon as after the 1st date.  if u think that guy likes u but he's a little shy, single him that u r interested and willing to accept a date initiated by him. if he's still chiken, then u'll have to make the first move. but make sure that u make him feel comfortable around u. don't make him feel pushed cuz he may run away. after all, come on! b a woman! it's 2006!
886857
Coming from a mans point of view, if he's really into you and respects you it won't matter. also he may be glad you are inexperienced as you wouldn't know if he was any good or not!
1093099
Dont have sex if ur not ready, why does he keep pressuring u?doesnt he love u? Its obvious that his "manhood" stands priority over ur feelings, because if he love u like he's probably telling u then he wouldnt pressure u, someone who loves u would take the time to talk it out with you and see where the two of u stand on the situation it seems like he's just trying to score.
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He is pressuring you. If he loves you, he will wait. Also, if he says that you need to, then you need to leave him. In addition, you may need to "take the wind out of his sails." If he calls you a wimp, baby, or other degrading things (i can't mention) then you can possibly say "maybe I am a [insert word here], but I am not going to have sex.\n\nI know it sounds corny, but remember - No means No!
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I have never found it exciting to be ignored.  I suppose some guys do, but most of us think a woman like that is just a b-tch and not worth the time and trouble.\n\nI really don't understand your relationship with your guy.  You are having sex with him and you want him to start paying attention to you as a person?  I think you are very unlikely to get him to treat you very differently.  The kind of guy who wants *only* sex is not going to change overnight into a sweet, sensitive guy who wants to be in a committed relationship ("even if it doesn't last").  \n\nThis is a guy who thinks he already has what he wants, which unfortunately does not include treating you like a real girlfriend.  He is more likely to drop you and look for someone else that will sleep with him but not make any emotional demands.  What can I say?  Some guys are jerks, and it looks like you are stuck with one of them.\n\nThat is not to say that you ought to allow the current situation to continue.  If you want more than friends-with-benefits, you need to make some changes, and you need to be prepared to look elsewhere if he doesn't want to give you what you need.  \n\nSo, DON'T ignore him.  Instead, be really clear and open about why the relationship isn't working for you and what you expect and need.  Tell him that if he doesn't want that, you understand, but the booty calls are now at an end.  And stick to it!  If you do, he will see that you are serious and there is a chance (not great, but still a chance) that he will decide that he actually has feeling for you.  But be prepared for the strong possibility that he will take a hike.  If he does, just shut the door and move on.  He really isn't worth the trouble.  If you don't transform the relationship now, it will ALWAYS be like this.\n\nI am sure you wanted a different answer, but you need to hear the truth.  Good luck!!
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well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
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if he was just after sex he would be asking in person === he prob sees the emails and phones as safe --- ie no chance of real sex \n\nin person he allows you the control --- so your feelings and his respect for them means he will wait until you are ready --- no matter how long it takes
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It could be one of many things, one he is not into you , two he dose have a medical problem, or three this one happens to a lot of guys even though they don't admit to it, he is more then likely thinking about the ups and downs about sex which is taking the emotional feeling away, which makes him go down way to fast. just don't take it to heart, he is more frustrated about this then you!
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oh sweetie- guys are not gals. Sweet gestures outside of sex are really meaningless to them. \n\nIt sounds like you need to make a change.\nA little less talk and a lot more action on his part.\nBest wishes
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tell the guy what you have been through and have been making a habit of. if he respects you and wants to try to make something serious than the quasi dating thing with you he will be patient and will take time to know you and not push you. just go slow be yourself and see where it ends up. in all honesty the best relationships are where you are friends first b4 lovers.