Should I attempt to find  a lost love from 40 years ago? I am a hundred Lbs. heaver.?
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you should go for it. Otherwise you may always regret not doing it. Sure, you may have changed, but if you explain to him it was an impulse that you had to follow or live with that regret, you'd be happy no matter what the outcome, because you had achieved your goal in at least seeing him again.
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It sounds like you are embarking on your lives together with your eyes wide open. Remember, for women, forty is the "new twenty"... so you're actually about the same biological age. \n\nEnjoy your love, and pursue your happiness!
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Please accept my sympathy for your loss.\n\nI think it depends on the individual as well as the circumstances of the death.  Some times if the deceased was sick for a long time the widower can sometimes move on a little sooner than someone who was suddenly and unexpectedly widowed because they have had time to prepare.  The main thing is to have peace in your heart and not to get involved only to find you weren't ready and then hurt someone.  You also have to factor in your children and their ages.  It might help to talk to them before you start pursuing the dating field again and make sure that they understand if you find someone you like they won't be "replacing" their mother.  The fact that you are asking makes me believe that you yourself think you are ready but are worried that other people may think its too soon.  True friends will be supportive no matter what and should be happy that you are ready to attempt to find the second love of your life.  Don't worry about other people. Do whats makes you happy and what's best for you and your children.  Good luck!!!
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Wow! It would make a great movie if you did find him. I'm wondering (by looking at your user name) if you are really ready for a new relationship yet. aybe it would be better if you kept him in your heart as "the one who got away." Just make sure not to measure every man you meet against your fantasy.
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be ur sweet self and let love find you...get out there and do something new..join a new group..class...something ur interested in or always wanted to do...if you are worried about the weight..take walks..take ur mind off the food...just get out there and be  involved ...have fun...
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Not at all. The major thing about finidng someone is that  you have first to find...yourself, as corny as it sounds.\nThe moment you become more aware of your own worth, you start attracting potential candidates. If you are not very much impressed with your looks, there must be something that is special about you. Let it become your assignment to find that something within yourself. If you do find it, be proud of it. Even if you don't feel it, keep reinforcing it for yourself by repeating it mentally before you go to sleep. Repeat that sentence: "I have the right to be proud of..."(insert whatever it is found in yourself). "I am aware of my worth, and others will become too"\nThe more times you do it, the more convincing it becomes, and that will eventually show even in your posture.\nAs for age, one of my uncles married for God knows what time when he was 65. You are still young enough and there are many bachelors out there who are looking for the right woman. Why not you?\nGood Luck.
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When looking for the right person,be sure you look in the right places.It is best to meet someone through mutual friends,or through your job,or where you work out,or at your church. Look  for someone enjoying the same things you do.I had a friend who met his special person when he went caving.However,remember you are in your twenties. That isn't exactly ancient.If you concentrate on having fun and being happy yourself,love will find you.(probably when you least expect it!) Good luck and God bless you in your endeavor.
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Just once, would i like to find someone who loves me, is there for me, is willing to make some sacrifices for me, will actually call me, will remember anniversarys, birthdays, and special days, who will comfort me when i'm down instead of having no idea what to do, to find unconditional love, to really be able to lose some serious weight, stick to diets, and there is so much more but i don't want to spam up your page.\n\nthat was a good release for me. i thank you for asking the question.
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wow!.. that was beautiful.. Such a romantic!.. (takes my breath away..) boy, I hope it all happens for ya.. You sound like the coolest to be in a relationship with. It's risky business tho. The higher up you get (and I know.. I'm the romantic type too) the longer the fall sometimes. I tend to overromanticize things (and I know.. maybe we all do at times.. ?) and get hurt easy as hell.. Happens every time.. Some day I'll find MY Mr. Right.. I sort of envy old people.. the ones that have been married 50 years, but still must have some kind of connection, eh? What happened to the ex g.f. then you were with when you high-fived and fell head over heels for this honey? Well, my tendency here is to tell you to hold onto your dream.. you've high standards, but.. perhaps w/luck (yes, there is luck out there) you'll meet her again.. Or.. perhaps another one twice the woman? who knows? (all the world luvs a lover.)
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well, old feelings, however bruised, can still be revived. most of the time, some people can accept the fact that they have moved on and found another lover, but not until the love replaced was greater than the previous one. if you want to try reconsidering old feelings, then make sure your promises this time are real.\n\noh, and by the way... HI MISS TRINA!!! ~^_^~
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Go for it, if they are really your friends they will stay in touch anyway, and there is always more friends out there than true love of your life partners :)\n\nFriends can be found in their millions or billions, all you have to do is go and talk to almost anyone in the world, the love of your life is one of a kind!\n\nAwww My heart goes out to the answer above me, so glad you re-found your heart, but don't dwell on the past and wasted years, you never know if you had married when you was younger it might have worked out differently, your experiences good and bad have helped mature you and the same goes for him, it might be this maturity that gives you the strong bond you now have... Never have regrets, you only waste more time thinking about them :)
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I once tried googling some marine friends and there are good websites to find them. Do the same and you might find your "lost love." LOL
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It is possible for anyone of any age to find love.\n\nThe question you need to ask yourself is, "what am I looking for?"\n\nAre you passing up opportunities for a potentially lasting, loving relationship because you are searching for the ideal\nman, the muscle bound guy, the exceptionally groomed and porn star model looks?  Are you thinking yeh, this guy is great, but there might be the next best thing around the corner?  Are you looking for that someone that in a crowd everyone would be envious of you with him on your arm?\n\nSo many guys complain they cannot find love, when the possibilities are right next to them, because they see themselves with an ideal that exists only in magazines or in porn, so many guys sell themselves short.\n\nand it is not directed at just you , it is also on the other side someone might feel the potential with you , but still hold onto the idea of this perfect image.\n\nSo really know what you want in a person.  It will happen.
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I was married to a man 22yrs older than me.  We divorced, through no fault of his, because I was young and wanted to party.  He has since died, but I'd give up everything to have him back again.. I'm 59 and he would be 81 this year.  I miss him very much and still love him.
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Hi there!  I am 27 and I totally know what you mean.  I was with my husband for 5 years and he only saw me naked a couple of times.  I TRULY believe that when you find someone you trust and love you will be able to get past that.  When you meet that special someone you will know that they love you for you...not the couple extra pounds you carry around.  We are our own worst critic and many men would kill to see us naked!!  But I think is is completely based on trust and love that you feel in a relationship.  I hope you find that special someone that makes you feel safe :)
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The best cure for an old love is a new love.  Get out there and try to meet a lot of new people, and hopefully you will find someone soon.
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i wished i could help i am in Australia . i  know how you feel i am searching for a old school mate i cannot find her . she is obv married and her parents have moved it is so hard \n . so i hope you find your friends and good luck to you.