my husband is trying to harass me into paying for a divorce. Is this legal.?
103503
You need to get some real free legal advise. Are you saying you can't afford to pay for one either? If you have no major ties to him it shouldn't be too difficult. Go to your local court house and start asking questions. I don't think it will cost as much as you think.\n\nI would not worry about your dignity right now. You would not believe what others are going through or have gone through. If they are true friends they are not judging you.\n\nIf you pay for it think of it as you leaving and not him letting you go.
861602
Not unless he adopted your son & that would require your permission. Check with your attorney or Social Security Office, take copy of divorce papers to prove you have joint custody.\nShe hasd no legal right to block your contact from his # & broke the law if collecting double payments.
851711
Ignore him.  Trust me, he's going to have to publicly admit to his wife that he spent the money on you in order to get it back, and he sounds like such a weasel that he's probably not willing to do that.  I'm assuming he threatened you with a lawsuit in order to recover the money.  Legally, he has no case, he freely spent the money on you, there was no agreement for repayment, etc.  Now, if he's threatening you physically, I have 2 words for you....\nRESTRAINING ORDER.  \n\nHopefully you've learned 2 things from this experience.\n#1, don't mess with married men, they're nothing but trouble for you!!\n#2, no one will give you anything without expecting something in return, don't accept gifts that you're not willing to pay back in some form or fashion.\n\nGood luck to you!
665206
Yikes!  Ask some local attorneys what options you have.  Some may take payments in increments.  It could be that if you take him to court he'll have to suck up most of the cost anyway, even back child support since you have been separated.  Never hurts to make some phone calls!  Much luck to you.  I think you'll find this is easier than you think, it's just annoying as hell.
838552
Not viable or legal but you could try taking it out on his hide, ie: destructive measure to get what you want. If you're not willing to do that, try the police. Writing a check you don't have the money for = Fraud. Go for it. It might be just as fun if not more fun than the damaging him part. Just kidding, take it to court.
842092
My advice to you is DO NOT give him any money. Hang up the phone when he calls. If he has been beating you notify the police in your dity or town and get a restraining order on him if possible. If you feel threatend by him you might consider going to a women's shelter. You can find numbers for them in your local phone book. Don't let this crazy ruin your life. Do whatever you can to take charge of your life and stay away from him. Men who beat their wives cannot be trusted. Do not believe him when he tells you he will not do it ever again. He will. Get to a women's shelter AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Do not tell your friends or family where you are going just go. These places have all kinds of resources to help you and to get you moving in the right direction. You need to get your life back don't let him ruin you or your life. Please do this for yourself you do not deserve to be treated badly just because you married this guy.Please get help TODAY!\nLL
801445
You might want to pay a visit to Legal Aid.\n\nHe needs to stay out of jail.  And y'all need to make sure you catch up those fines somehow.\n\nTalk to the court that is handling the payments.  Usually they will work with you if you are making an honest effort.\n\nI have to say this, and please don't take this the wrong way--your husband sounds like he could stand to do some growing up.\n\nYou will find the courts do want money in Texas.  Almost anything you do illegal can get you a hefty fine.  So it's best not to do anything illegal.  I realize that can be hard for a "macho man," and maybe your hubby isn't one of those, but it is best to keep your nose as clean as the proverbial whistle until you can get things resolved.\n\nGood luck and nag him incessantly.
220464
Well, My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we deal with his ex that takes my husband to court based on lies 1-2 times a year. We had only hired a lawyer 2 times in the entire 10 years. It is very easy to write, file and represent yourself. \n\nHere is what I would do. is file for a temporary restraining order based on collections harrassment. The judge will order her to only contact you to arrange visitation and talk about child's schooling and health. If she breaks it then go into family court with the restraining order and show that she broke the order.
933011
He is trying to play games and you should report the attorney that told you not to contact the office again . you can report them to the bar association they might also be playing games. good luck and god bless you.
1139147
he can only divorce you in the last state you resided as husband and wife.and you can run and ad in newspaper to fulfill requirement of notification.but legal aid would have already told you this which makes me think this is just for attention
641562
Go to court.  Or counter-offer if that is out of the question.  Like ask for a long term lease with a set rent increase each year.  If the house is his before the marriage, you don't have any claims on it so stay there as long as you need to.  If you don't want the store, get alimony.  Go over all of this with your lawyer to get your options quantified.
997617
ASAP get a divorce...\ndid the boarder sign a lease with all property owners agreeing?\nThe boarder might be able to get a restraining order. If hubby is harassing you you can get one too.\nI'm just guessing here but could the boarder be male?
167870
I agree with you and you have a very good reason to be upset about it.  A couple things you can do is get a lawyer and see what your options are with this.  There should be a legal route to stop this because it does sound like it constitue harrassment.\n\nBut your husband needs to draw the line with her and make it clear that this behaviour is unacceptable. Keep telling him what this is doing to you and maybe it will stick.  Also,you may want to go to a marriage counciler.  That could help you work your way through it.
715365
his idea is nothing short of abuse.  \n\nIf you are in the US, get to the courhouse and file for temporary support and visitation schedules.  \n\nWith a guy like this, you also ned to get an attorney asap.
785212
I think it's not legal....if you're married in one state or country you're married all over the world.....CHARGE HIM!!!!!
800467
I have my own checking, my wife has her own and then we have a joint account.   We both contribute to the joint account.  She pays all the bills out of it.   I buy things for me and the house out of mine, she buys things for her and the kids out of hers. If that doesn't work. Take over control of his checking account.  Put him on an allowance.  If he gets it under control then slowly give him his priviledges back.   If he won't let you do that, then divorce him.  See if he can still spend while paying alimony and child support.
1050424
nooooooooooo he has no rights to ask you that and then he is remarried?? tell him to mind his business at home and send your child support payment on time.. that is what.\nthe only thing he needs to know is where to send the money i hope you slapped his ass with child support and i hope he has supervised visitations with the kids if he was abusive...you better talk that over with your lawyer.and do not let him intimidate you you have to be strong and direct with him,good luck honey.