what do i do. i am dating my MD and it is geting serious. Heis married with 4 kids who are so fond of me.?
105188
Respect the thought tht he is married, never be involve with a married man they jst wanna try something different, like eating the same old thing everyday is boring, no matter what u will always never be hes no#1 priority he has a wife tht he will always love n of course his kids...why be in this situation when u hve to share someone.karma remember this u dun want it in return the nxt time..
671888
yikes...what is she thinking,either way people are getting hurt. Not only that but its out there now...trust is the catalyst of all relationships,when the trust is breached then so is the relationship...look for the kids sake...work this out...get help...see a marriage counselor with her find out why she wants to cheat...I am not a Dr. this is just an opinion...best of luck...God bless
96304
How many dates is a couple?\nTo me that means only TWO.\nYou are both adults with kids, slow down. Allow the kids to get to know each other, take them into consideration, it is not only you two this move would change.\n\nThis will affect their lives too. Make time to introduce the kids on Weekends, Holidays, go to dinners together and at any old time. Get them comfortable with each other, at the same time you will begin to learn all the things you would have never found out about the other person.\n\nKids are straight foward little people. You could never pretend to be someone else around them your kids will sell you out at the drop of a hat.\n\nTrust me I know.
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
887413
Yes we all have been through that be for, it is called High School Crush.  Sorry but you are in a relationship with someone that you have children with, and things aren't going so good right now, so your solution is to find someone new that makes things feel exciting instead of working on the relationship that you have.  You would rather abandon what you have, teach your children that if it isn't fun anymore then just give up on it and find someone new.  You are teaching your children that commitment means NOTHING!  Relationships and marriage(which is what you have just without the legality of the marriage license) take work they are never fun and exciting all the time, there are low times and that is why in the wedding vows the words "in good times and bad" are included. \nSo unless your partner is abusive, which you haven't said he was, you just need to work on what you have. If you try it will get better and it will get to the exciting part again, but like I said it takes work and commitment-are these characteristics that you posses or are you passing on bad habits to your children?
79296
Keep the faith & keep wanting. There's nothing wrong with wanting "that someone special" to love you & your children - I know. I'd say keep going slowly with this gentleman & give it time. It really is great when you can begin as friends & the rest follows because when the years pass & ya'll settle down from red-hot passion, you've got a friend who will make you laugh & smile & will care for you, the real you. Also, I think it's great that you are keeping your children in the picture, part of the package. They're the most important things in your life & they are (believe it or not) affected by whomever you bring home, too. Stay strong & keep true to yourself.
99083
You have a heart don't you? you will know. Secondly do you two get on good together is he understanding etc. And finally is he good with kids. You don't need to worry that he won't love you because of the extra You just have much more to give.
702467
In light of the friendship that you and the two doctors have developed, I understand that they cannot  give you the level of care you deserve & why they asked you to find another doctor.\n\nYou can date whoever you wish. No relationship should be kept a secret though. It seems strange that you and the other doctor who you are already dating don't want people to know you are dating.  Does he have something to hide, like a wife and children?  \n\nDoes the new doctor know the other doctor?  Maybe they are comparing notes.  I feel that  if these docs want a sexual relationship with you right off the bat, that's probably all they want you for.  I see nothing but heartbreak ahead for you in this situation.
1145772
I think you need to move on, last month!  This guy is abusive to you!  It doesn't matter how much you love him or how much he says he loves you, he is abusing you and it will only get worse.  He is knocking you down, making you feel less worthy than you are and it will result in you thinking that no other guy will ever love you!  This guy is a jerk!  You are an adult human being, not a baby who needs to ask someone's permission to do anything.  Don't try to kill yourself over him, lose him!  He is not worth it.  Love is not supposed to cause you to want to kill yourself, it is supposed to be releasing, happy, joyful...something to look forward to every day of your life!  Not to dread what comes next.  Do not sacrifice your dreams, friends, family, hopes and everything else, sacrifice him!  He WILL NOT CHANGE!  Don't think that he will change for you or because he loves you or because you will help/make him change.  Only he can change and only if he wants to.  It will get worse and you may end up in the hospital or a morgue.  Would you want your children having him dampen all their hopes and dreams?  He has wasted enough of your life, let him ruin his own and you begin your life anew.  Good luck, PLEASE!
929287
Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.
651676
STOP LIKING THEM:). I mean look, if you are wanting to get involved with someone, don't get involved with a married man. It is not fair to you or his family. Maybe you are a type of person who looks for the thrill of a chase and not a commitment...lots of people who are attracted to married men are like that. I think what you should do is try to find someone who is unattached who you can be with and give them everything you can give them. It is much better for you in the long run, you will not feel guilty about having a man leave his wife or children, and you will feel better about yourself in the end as well! GOOD LUCK and success!
676169
You need to realize staying because of the kids is seldom the right thing to do.  They can sense something is missing in the marriage and may grow to hate you for fooling your husband. The young guy is probably using you because He knows your feelings about the kids. If the boyfriend really cares it should be possible for him to handle the attachments you bring with you.  Don't forget the husband may get the kids and that might not be a bad thing.  You can still show them love and have a life too.  Think about the long term.  If the young guy is not up to the task maby you need to get rid of both of them.
194130
Truth of the matter is there's not a person in the world who could know how the next person feels. There's only two options. (1) you can believe what he say, or (2) you don't. In the past 16 years of knowing my children - I believed that he loved me. We have 3 - girl 3 children together. We've been engaged a 3 times. Deep inside I knew he wasn't telling the truth but wanted to make sure I stayed in his life cause I was actually his human bank. The last time engage we finally came to the date of us to get married. When I tried to say yes/I do - I kept saying no. Later on (I can true say - Thank god) but he still to this day he's doing the thing as in the past. \nIf you love him make sure that it's the real thing. That it is mutual, caus eif you guys get marriedout of guilt (in my case cause my children) that saying  misery loves company - you will be misery company.
693350
yea, ok, stay with him, maybe, just maybe, one of these days in a fairy tale land far away he will finally wake up and come around.\n\nlast thing i remember about love was that you cared for a person and didn't let them down.\n\nif you are content with being in a relationship with a guy who cares more about his money than you and your KIDS, then so be it, i don't know what to say except hang in there i guess, eventually he should come around
924786
I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
928633
he has the leg up in this situation. her kids, and if she went back to him  that means she ended your relationship. may i reccommend match.com?\nSensitive guys like you are great, don't waste yourself on someone who treats you like dirt.
813821
I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.