Ladies in a long term relationship, what do you do to keep your boyfriend interested & still attracted to you?
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Me and my boyfriend just celerated our 4 yr anniversary last weekend. I think if two people are ment to be together then they just automatically never get tired of each. Sometimes when we hangout we just chill at his house or mine, and sometimes we go out and do things. The fact that we have a lot in common is a huge factor too. We like to watch the same tv shows and movie, and we like to go out and do the msae things like playing pool or bowling. Just having common interests is the main factor i think.
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Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and every guy has a slightly different opinion of what beauty is in a woman.  However, once you get pass the initial physical attraction, I really think that whether or not a woman's personality is attractive is what keeps the guy interested.  I guess the same thing can be said for what defines a good looking man.
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The best way is to be yourself!  I know this sounds cheesy but it is the best way.  Tell him nice things when he is around, like you smell nice, I like the way you wear your hair, nice jeans etc.  But don't over do it.  If he is interested he will see you are too.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.
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Unfortunately, we cannot make someone feel the same way about us or want a long-term relationship.\nSounds like the men you have been involved with just are not ready for that kind of commitment. I would strongly take a look at the kind of men you are attracting and perhaps go out of your way ,and give a chance to, someone who isn't necessarily your type. Even if it means going slightly out fo your comfort zone i.e. perhaps the nice guy at the bookstore or checkout counter that you might have let slip by at first glance. By doing this you'll have opened up more doors to find someone who is on the same wavelength as you, and who shares the same relationship values.
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I'm also in a long-distance relationship. They ARE hard but I've been making mine work for over 3 years now. We have another year 10 months or so to go before we can finally be together permanently. We HAVE spent 2 of the 3 summers together so that's good but other than that it's usually a weekend once a month.\n\nThings we do to keep happy is...staying busy. I never let myself sit around doing nothing because I will inevitably start missing him and feeling upset about it. So I try to keep myself busy with homework and activities and friends, of course. We talk every night to stay up to date in each other's lives and email sweet, cute and funny stuff throughout the day. We sometimes send letters with really nice teabags to remind the other of us. We send pictures and make things that remind them of us so that when we look at them, we feel happy to have them in our lives instead of immediately going to "why aren't they here?" Long-distancing is certainly not for everyone. It takes a certain kind of person and a certain kind of relationship.
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for you to know whether a guy is interest in you or not, you can ask about the features he will like to see in his future wife or what he lookout for in ladies or women.\n\nAnd in answering this question if the qualities or features match yours know that he is interesting in you.  Because he might be trying to communicate that to you for a long time so given this chance he will not waste.\n\nI wish you the best in your love life.
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I would suggest you re-focus your energy on to yourself and your own life more and what you do in your life that gives you pleasure and enjoyment away from your boyfriend.  It might be that you have allowed him to take over your life too much and this may be causing him to loose interest in you a little bit.  For him to stay interested in you, you have to be interested in you and believe in yourself as a worthy and loveable person by doing things that are for your own pleasure and nothing to do with him. Therefore, to get this relationship back on track, suggest you get busy with your own projects, have him realise that he can be PART of your life but he is not the totality of your life, that you have a fulfilling and happy time whether he is there or not ... re-build your confidence by your own activities, e.g. with friends, hobbies etc.  Don't expect your boyfriend to reassure you and give you confidence, you have to get that by yourself.  I would say definitely don't ask him 'what's wrong', there is clearly something wrong and pushing him by asking him about it is likely just to push him further away and make your situation worse.  His behaviour is kind of indicating that it might not be so much fun being with you at the moment, but you can turn things around ... focus on making sure that when you are together you and he have good, positive interactions and lots of fun.  There is nothing more attractive to a man than a happy and confident woman who is good fun to be with.  Good luck.
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what do i do if my boyfriend don't believe? <--This sounds more sensible if we talk in the terms of "Controller of the Situation"...If u are the controller of d situation(happens only if ur boyfriend is pursuing U and u try to play hard to get) i bet u'll get over d situation smoothely..If U are attracted to ur boyfriend-> means ur in control of your boyfriend, and the process of making him beleive is goin to be much harder for U...Figure out ur position and ur standing level in the above relationship and act accordingly...\np.s:hey if both of u hav the right chemistry, no one ever beleives on other ppl's complaints on each other, unless caught red handed ;-)\ntake care...for more on tis mail me!!\nwith regards,\nSrinivas\nbuddysrivas@yahoo.com
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Well you have been together for six years that is pretty good, but guess what to keep it going is going to take work. From both of you. Don't be mean, that isn't going to help the situation. You two really need to sit down and talk together, you may just be going through a hormonal time where sex is uninteresting to you, that happens. You may be bored with how it happens, that happens in every long term relationship. Communicate before the relationship goes totally south. There isn't anything wrong with you that some talking can't help with. If that doesn't work, talk with a doctor maybe there is physical reason for this, like medications or something. Don't feel bad, but let your man know that you love him anyhow and see what you can do. If it bothers you then work on fixing it. Please don't be mean to him during sex,if you love him, that is seriously going to backfire on you. My best to you.
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If you have time, check out what your boyfriend is checking out. Men are visual beings. What turns us on is what we see.\nMen are always looking at other women (don't be offended it's natural for us), look at what he's sneaking a peak at. You might find that your man loves certain types of thongs showing through tight pants or panty hose. Another thing to pick  up on is the compliments he gave you on a certain type of blouse or pants. Where his favorite outfit and underwear he likes to see you in or someone else in. Also on the day, lightly wear a different perfume you never put on before. For some reason it has an affect on us as if we are   cheating with our own girlfriend. Remember always we are visual beings, so the more it's like a fantasy the better.
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OK, the best answer is right here!! you don't get him to like you.the secret to this is to talk to him as just someone you have know en for a long time. think of that in your head. that way you are more comfortable. he will notice you if you talk about things that are common between you. talk about movies you saw and ask what he likes , talking is the most powerful way to build foundation for relationships. i like women that are int resting, and that take int rest in what I'm saying and still have there own opinion.everything that last, takes time to build.
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I have the same problem. What I do is give him compliments. Not strong ones like "your hair looks sexy like that" but something nice, and subtle like "oh hey, that shirt looks really nice on you" or something equally friendly but still flirty enough to make him wonder.
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When you were dating I bet you dressed up and put your earrings on and got yourself all dolled up same thing for the man. Why ? Because we want to impress each other. Do you still do that? try to look your best and not try to look tired all the time. Go out somewhere. Women love simple things like picknics or going to the park where you can push each other on the swing or fly a kite.  Spend time together like you did before you were married.\n\nAll marriages go through the down time but they won't stay down forever. Been married for 16 years and I still love my wife.
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1) Don't force it. It sucks, but sometimes stuff just doesn't work out. If the chemistry is gone it's gone, so don't worry about it. Trying to force it will just make it worse, and kill the chance of real chemistry developing.\n\n2) If the chemistry is there it will be memorable no matter what.\n\n3) Make the moment focused around eachother, not, for example, a movie or even a meal. Start with coffee, a walk in the park, or some activity that will lead to conversation instead of putting the focus elsewhere.\n\n4) Make sure he isn't just interested in a booty call.
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Your choices will always interest him. Learn to know whether his interest is a matter of not losing you or whether its real. You can learn this through checking his attention throughout whenever you go out on a date.
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Start of by asking your significant other to go out to dinner with you. Wear something that you know they find sexy on you. At dinner keep things positive and sexy! Talk about the things you did with each other when you first got together. After dinner, at each stop light or stop sign, kiss and touch each other, once home, remove each others clothes then start doing some of those things you talked about at dinner!\nOther things you could do is fantasy role playing, doctor and nurse, cop and hooker, naughty school girl and the principal.\nUse your imagination and think sexy thoughts about each other.\nSend each other dirty e-mails!\nI'm sure this will help you get that lust back.    Good luck
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there are lots of ways to do it.\n1.) act flirtatiously but make sure you don't look cheap\n2.)be a good listener,this is one part of the relationship that most couples are taken for granted especially when they live together for a long period of time \n3.)be sensitive to your partners feelings,or needs\n4.)both partners has to learn to give and take \nand show each other some respect \n5.)both of you should learn how to be honest and\n    truthfull to each other\nfollow those steps and you'll be okay