My friend can't force herself to break up wih her boyfriend who moved.She won't shut up about him!HELP!!!
99182
Try the Long distance relationship thing.  It may fizzle out soon, but if she loves him, then it won't.   Curiosity... What is HER point of view??
39741
Ask her if you can move somewhere,tell her the situation. you do not have to put up with this.Don't let him know you are annoyed by him, it will only cause him to bother you more.
932150
Tell her to stop then because it is hurting your feelings.  If she don't want to stop, then you should stop hanging out with her.  Friends should respect each other.  Stick to your decision, no matter what the consequence maybe.  Don't worry about her gossiping about you, the most important thing is you stick to who you are as a person.  Eventually your action will speak louder than her words, if she retaliate like that.
1027416
Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
543252
A lot of people in this situation (just broken up with boyfriend/girlfriend), don't want to hear what they know they should do.  They want to hear go back to him, tell him you love him, he will come back to you, just wait for him, etc.  \n\nBe there for your friend, and if she continues to call you stupid, then tell her that not only has she lost her boyfriend, but she will be losing a good friend if she continues calling you stupid for your advice.
901690
i just went through the same exact thing it was heart breaking! i simply told my other friend that i didn't get along with her other friend and i would NEVER ask her to choose, but i would like it if we could spend our own time together. now she seperates the weekends and spends like ever-other one with me. and because i was so laid back about it and her other friend was kind of rude she is starting to see how it really is. she is spending more and more time with me and complaining about the other girl but i try and not complain with her that way she thinks i am just a listener\nall the while i am dancing inside lol
622189
That's a tough one!\n\nI was actually in that situation about a year and a half ago. I tried to tell her that her man was downtown with some skinny blond girl sitting in his lap, basically all over him. She bascially said that I was jealous that she had such a good long-term relationship with such a great guy and that I was making things up to try to break them up because I didn't like him.\n\nWe didn't talk for a while. Then she started to see that maybe he wasn't the right guy for her. Then he broke up with her (even though they called it mutual) right after christmas (as in, before new years!). She still thinks that he's a great guy and that any woman would be lucky to be dating him! And after all of the things that he did to her (he ruined her credit, helped hig dig herself into a massive debt hole, and basically made her so dependant on him that she couldn't make her own decisions. He even had her stop hanging out with her best friends of oever 10 years!) she still thinks that he's a wonderful guy and that he never really meant to hurt her and that they will be friends till the day that they die because they are so close.\n\nSo I guess what I have learned is that sometimes people do want to shoot the messenger. But that doesn't mean that you should stay silent about something you know is going on. Another friend of mine found out that her long-term boyfriend had been cheating on her for months - from the time that she went away to university and he stayed in their small town - and she was the last one to know about it.\n\nBasically, get your facts straight first. Are you sure that the woman wasn't his sister?Cousin? or other family member? Are you also sure that they were on a 'date'? Could it have been innocent?\n\nThen, drop a line to your pal like 'hey, I saw ________ at ______ the other day with a really professional looking woman. Is he applying for a new job or something?'\nMAke it sound casual and off-hand. Then drop it. Chances are, if she doesn't know who the woman was, she'll ask him about it the next time she talks to him.\n\nOr you could also ask her if they broke up and when. And when she asks you why or says no, tell her you saw her man doing something that an attached man shouldn't be so that she can confront him with the news.
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I  don't think  it's  so much about what YOU do,  as about what  this  friend of yours  is  doing,  and what  your boyfriend is doing.    If she is openly enticing him, and he is not making any  attempt to  hide the fact that he's responding to it,  I'd suggest   that neither one of  them cares about you as much as you thought they did, in which  case  the smart thing might be to let them have each other and good riddance.     Better to know now if your boyfriend has a roving eye,  than find it  out after he has become your husband.  And better to find out now  that  your "friend"  is disloyal,  so you can dump her and get one who is.
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Tell her to explain things with him. However, do not interfere with the girl's problems, especially since she will think you are helping to draw her away from her current boyfriend. Or, more directly, you can talk to her boyfriend about the crime he is doing and ask him why he would actually harrass her friend. He's probably not the real boyfriend your crush should have.
494670
Well if she said "No" to him and he can't respect that, then tell her not to see him anymore...  If she said "No" and he still did it, then you need to speak to your friend to report it....\n\nYou should not confront him or report it, because she told you in confidence.  When she is ready, she will do so...\n\nJust support your friend in any way that you can.  And try to keep persuading her to report it....
36111
i agree with SEMAJ.  if she is really a good friend then she'll listen to you.  tell her that in your opinion, her bf is trying to control her and you can see that.  and ask her if she wants to be controlled by him.  tell her that you dont have any intention to ruin her relationship but you are just trying to warn her and you are being a good friend.  you dont want her to get hurt someday so the if the bf is controlling her and its just ok for her dont feel bad.  she'll realize it and tell her no matter what you'll be there for her.
760207
Honestly, I think you're both wrong. \n\nUnless it's seriously inhibiting your friendship with her, I think that until she asks for your advice or starts complaining about the situations (which, I will admit are NOT healthy for her)... then there's nothing you can do about it and you really just have to make a decision whether to be there for her, not let it affect your friendship with her and butt out, or move on and no longer be her friend. \n\nShe also has absolutely NO right to pass judgement on your relationship. How you choose to be in a relationship is between you and your boyfriend... it has nothing to do with her.\n\nIt's great that you care about your friend and how her decisions affect her life in a negative manner, but she's pretty much stuck in her ways and until something seriously negative happens to her to change her mind or she grows up and realizes what she's doing is immature & that relationships are supposed to be EQUAL - not unbalanced EITHER way.
19900
First of all, she can only control what he allows her to.  I understand that he does not want to disrespect her but she has too obviously butted in before.  Don't involve her in personal business and decisions. As a matter of fact, keep discussions with her on subjects about HER.  Try putting distance between him and her. It's really sad to say, but if he doesn't put an end to this, it won't end.
497123
Well, if your friend is like one of my best friends, then there is nothin you can do. If she hasn't learned in almost 3 years, then nothin you do or say is going to convince her that he is not the one for her. I've been going through the same thing with my friend since we were in middle school, but she is the type that you can't tell her anything about her man because she's "grown and knows what she's doing". As bad as it hurts me to see her continuously choosing to date abusive (physical and emotional) and disrespectful men, I know that she will have to learn on her own. Just pray that she'll come around -soon.
306421
If you don't feel special around him anymore it may be time to go. First talk to your friend - you're right if she's your friend she should tell you what she's hiding. She's gone to far to not tell you as she brought it up to start with.\nRemember though a little bit of flirtings not the end of the world, as long as thats all.\nIn short get your friend to tell you, or tell her you can't trust her anymore, then confront your boyfriend about what really has happened. Then make your choice. ............
223662
Understand that it's awkward for everybody involved.\nThen let your friend know that you prefer not to discuss their relationship or the relationship you had been in.\n\nJust hang out doing other things together if possible but if he or she wants some space, be cool with it and build your life with things you like to do.
783928
My sister went through something simular to what you are going through with a friend of hers, she has had people confront her and say she too is a lesbian because she hangs around with her of course I had to say that my sister was around her too much and I didn't like it at all, I told my sister about how I felt and what should be done but it will be her total and final decision on what she will do about it...Well finally after all of the things she finally let her go..But it wouldn't have happened if I wouldn't have said something to her in the first place.\n\nWhat you need to do is talk to her and try to make her see for herself what you feel and how you feel about this whole thing and also let her know that even though you are not that cool on her boyfriend let her know that you are happy for them anyway...When you do that it will turn around as a friend looking speaking on a friend basis and not the other way around she will see for herself and not listen to what other people say...Your friendship will last but only if you are honest with her and honest with yourself and about your true feelings for her. At this point my dear you have nothing to lose here.