why is it so hard for men to be romantic?
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Lets face it, what guys and girls define as romantic has always been different.  The key is to find a guy that at least tries to understand what is romantic for a woman and tries to do those things.  As men, we are raised to be practical and to deal with things head on in a planned manner.  Romance is seldom either of these, it is a gray area that is best when it is impractical and spontaneous.
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To be romantic it dose not take a lot of money.You can just go to the lake and sit there with the person you like/love by moon light. Just be creative in your own way every man and woman is different so it all depends on the person. To be romantic just treat the person as if they were the only person in the world. When you can do this you will be considered a true romantic!!!     Reguardless man or woman.
218936
BC men are warriors and built for battle, our bodies are not made to be cuddled and spoiled w/ affection... instead we are built to withstand physical abuse.\n\nWhereas women are softer and need reassurance that they are protected by the man.
112317
because you are starved of it. but thats not a good thing because some guys might try and use you. \n\nyour also probably watching all the romantic movies and you probably never dated untill now, and your parents might have this amazing relationship, and plan and simple you want it all and so does every one else but you got to take one thing at a time.\n1. come up with dating standards and keep to them,example,  hair color, age , eye color, must drive, christian.....\n2. get to know the guy before you give him a chance  find out what he likes build a relationship.\n3. have fun with you friends and don't look for love it will find you i garentee!\n\ni could use the pionts for best answer so if you think it is don't forget to select it. thanks GOOD LUCK
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Its a social necessity as much a biological need to woo a woman during dating, there's this need to impress and become her focus of attention. Yup women like to play tough to get. So anyway, men try to do all those romantic things to win his woman. And then u get engaged/married and out of that springs this deep secure feeling for him...he knows the relatonship is for real and there's a lot of 'taking for granted' that happens. A woman hates that but then he is not doing it on purpose. Its just that he's sure that his woman is going to stay with him and that she is going to love him no matter what.  Now this is the case in a good relationship built on trust and love. In the other cases, men tend to get tired and the initial excitement of dating wears off and he goes in search of someone else to start all over again. Even women change, its not all abt guys.
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Guys are shy when it comes to feelings and the like.  Also they don't like to open up unless they are almost positive the feeling is returned, they don't like to be hurt.  Sometimes you just have to coax it out of them.
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Hi luv!\n\nBecause we accept our emotions, and deal with them instead of ignoring them and repressing them.\n\nIf men would be more open and honest about themselves and their own feelings and emotions, I am sure men & women would get along alot better!
260390
Women and men communicate differently and we need to be aware of this. Men are straight to the point when they talk and sometimes their words can sound strict or hurtful to the woman who speaks with feelings and emotions and flowery words. Men become frustrated with all the floweriness and don't listen to the message hidden within. We need to respect the way each other talks and find the meaning within. That way we can learn to get along.
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why are you such worried about that .. give yourself the full chance to try and fail .. that;s the real experience .. and that 's how you will reach the right soulmate .. but never waste your time waitng for the perfect .. keep trying keep enjoying what you have. and be yourself .. avoid the mistust or the cautious pratice in love.. it immediately kills the pleaure and lead to unhappy love.. \nthat's the trap many women fall in when they start to follow their mistrusting feelings about their lovers and themselves .. \nYou have a precious heart so never surrender that being afraid of romance or the fear to be easy to guys .. \n\nthis will never mean to abuse yourself or to let others maipulate you .. iam just trying to let your real experience grow in a natural way..
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B/c guys are taught from a very young age that it's not "masculine" to be emotional.  We are taught to hide and repress our emotions.  As a result, it can be very difficult for us to talk about them as easily as girls can b/c we're not used to it.  It takes effort and practice and we have to sometimes unlearn the bad habits we were taught growing up.  You just need to be as patient with your bf as possible.  And provide helpful insight.  Sometimes you can help him figure out what he's feeling by placing yourself in his shoes.
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It does take a while for men to get up and running again, and 6 months are not unusual.\nI suppose men are just that much more attachable and have a hard time letting go of things, I've seen cases where a simple crush gone bad had them down for several months...Just give us some time, thats all we ask ;)
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Not all men are great at xpressing their feelings.  It is part of bein a man sometimes.  You can ask for his opinions on things and gear how he feels about that, but don't try to force it out of him.  Eventually he will come around, but give it time, especially becuz you know the feelings ARE there.
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it really depeneds on what type of person he is.  an almost sure way of doing it is something sexual because men a very sexual but it needs to be something special.  if he has a specific fantasy that you could fufil or a outfit you could wear...most men love black.  or if he is a more sensitive person you can always make him a bath or get him flowers, i know that might sound like something only a woman would enjoy however allot of men would respond to that.  also you can always cook for him or order in a catered meal if you dont cook.  the always say "a way to a mans heart is through his stomach."  but really you know him better than anyone else and whatever you decide to do will be perfect i am sure.  finally consider that sometimes men will give subtle hints as to what they want so try to pick up on those.
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I believe that the true gentlemen have not all died and gone. I believe that a lot of men are intimidated by the idea of  a liberated woman. I feel that we can talk our men into most anything. Why not talk him into being more of a gentleman. He wasn't passing gas and scratching while he was dating you and taking you out, or was he. In that case, you knew what you were getting. In the other case, ask him to bring that guy back that you were dating and fell in love with. If this is a first date for you, demand that he do gentlemanly things. We blow it because we have sex on the first date and men think we aren't worthy of affection and the chivalrous behavior of gentlemen from back in the day. We are strong and quick to move. Be still, wait for him to open the door before you just snatch it open, wait for him to pull out your chair. It will be hard for him to have dinner with a woman who is still in the car, or better yet standing next to the table at the restaurant. We mustn't forget that a lot of today's men have no idea what this chivalry is, so if we want it, we have to in some cases teach it and in all cases demand it. Respect yourself and the gentleman will act accordingly. In the field of Mental Health, we say that we should tell the kids what we want from them not what we don't want. The same applies here. Tell him that you want hin to be more of a gentleman instead of assuming that he's just an ass. If that is how you see him, that is the behavior you will get. I see my man as a gentleman and he never opened doors for me until we talked about it and then just recently while we were out, i noticed that he rushed to the door to open it for me. It's a process and it has to start somewhere, why not with you. \n\nClarissa\nSylva, NC
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Lack of practice.\n\nWomen talk about their feelings with their friends all the time, so when you get in a relationship it's already natural. Guys almost never talk about their feelings with other guys, so when they get in a relationship, it's often the first time they've ever had to really try to do it.\n\nMany guys are willing to learn how to express their feelings. Be patient, and teach them how.
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In these days women can do what men do so you can do it.\nYes do it romantic.\nInvite him to a romantic diner, say him you`ll cook (not necesarlly if you don`t cook, just order something good) and do what your heart tells you to do.
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First of all, you don't need to stop being nice in order to be more romantic, why not be both? It's not you being nice that they are saying 'no' to, but maybe you could be a little mischievious or naughty sometimes, maybe flirt a little or alot, maybe invite someone to do something romantic like...candlelite dinners, walking and holding hands, dancing, or just talking about your feelings and getting close...there are alot of ways to be romantic, you just need to find out what works best for you and what you're comfortable with, and be sincere...alot of women can sense insincerity...a little confidence would go a long way, too. Ask yourself: Do I have a good sense of humor? An interesting personality? Do I know how to have fun? Am I thoughtful and considerate? Or am I just approaching the wrong type of women? How is your approach? You don't have to stop being nice in order to be romantic, or to get women to date you. Consider the approach you are using, how and what you are asking them, and have something fun in mind to do besides sex, or ask them what they like to do or want to do.