how can you tell if a person is sorry for being dishonest?
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A person is dis-honest usually because it is a reflection of their character. They may feel sorry that their dis-honesty was discovered, but it doesn't change who they are. People tell you who they are all the time by their actions. A liar is a liar, case closed.
248816
If someone tells you they're a liar,than you can't believe them but if they're liars and tell you they're lying than they must be telling you the truth but they can't tell the truth so they must be lying.\nSo the answer is no.
32717
It depends on if it was to protect you, or to hurt you.  Friends shouldn't lie to each other, but people do make mistakes.  Mistakes can be forgiven.  Use your own judgement, and go with your gut feelings.  Good Luck.
160473
Basically in life, everyone lies. If not they aren't homosapiens. To trust someone is a very difficult thing to do. Before you can start trusting someone, ask yourself this question, "Do I trust anyone in the first place?" You must sacrifice something in order to gain something. You are afraid that someone lied to to you. Is the matter a big one or a small one or it's just your feeling? The best way is to ask the person directly in a gentle manner. People lie but you must never keep that anger/worry in you. Learn how to forgive and forget as it could be the best remedie in living a happier life!
875127
First of all, there are reallly no fool-proof way to tell, but if they are lying men:\n          1.Can't look you straight in the face\n          2. They fidget\n          3. They try really hard to convince you of their lies\n          4. They "swear it on everything they love" \n          5.  If you ask them the same question 2 days later, they    \n               they pause and have to think of what they told you \n               previously.
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You see what a person is truly like when bringing about the possibility that they could be wrong.\n\nHow do they handle it? Are they willing to learn from it, or do they start sling insults and cuss words.\n\nHmm..
115125
We need more details to help you out here.  The best I can do with what I know about your situation is a general appology.  Be sincere, and don't try to explain your side of it.  If you do, this may come accross as an excuse.  If you are truely sorry for what you did then say so and never say, "I'm sorry but...".  This will make the person think you don't really mean it.  Take full responsibility for your actions and admit what you did was wrong.  Ask them to look down deep in their heart and please forgive you.  Remind them of what your relationship means to you and how important they are to you.  Finish the letter by saying over again, "I really am sorry for hurting you.  I will do what ever it takes to earn your trust and restore our relationship."\n\nGood Luck!
713128
I think people say things for a reason....\n\nWhen somebody says harsh stuff to you, they'll say afterwards "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't mean it"... They probably *do* feel sorry and regret saying hurtful things to you, but I think they *do* mean those things but they just never meant to say them out loud... Anger is just about letting the truth out, good or bad... \n\nI think you should wait for her to call you (and if she doesn't, you know what you gotta do) and make sure things are clear and there's no misunderstanding between the two of you... She'll come around when she realizes that you truly care about her, believe me.
526373
There are no moral absolutes.  Anyone who tells you they always tell the truth is offering their next lie to you. I think what is important with a question of honesty, are motivations.  I think offering the truth most of the time can be shown to be the proven necessary course for most human interactions.  Without a trust in honesty, society fails.  But there are times when a falsehood could be considered.  The question then must be asked, why?  Do you lie for selfish self serving reasons?  Or are you lieing for perhaps something greater than yourself?  A stupid example, say a roommate or lover was irresponsible the night before and got tanked.  After they sober up you might discuss the behavior without beating them up about it.  But I'll call that boss everytime and explain that she is really ill and can't make it work.  Sure, the question of true alturism can always be raised, and such propositions can always be questioned from a perspective of relativity, but my emphasis would be, that circumstance can be considered in any variety of thought experiments within which the right thing to do could be to lie. Is it a lie for yourself, or are you attempting to help someone or something?  That said, lieing does suck.  Crush my heart but please tell me the truth, I've lived long enough, I can handle it.
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go with your gut feeling to be on the safe side. usually that feeling is right. if you feel that strongly about someone lying to you, definatly confront them and talk it out. yes that persons going to get upset and deffensive but you have the right to know if you suspect something going on behind your back.
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THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU CAN NOT FIND OUT IF A PERSON IS SPEAKING THE TRUTH OR NOT.THEY SOUND SO CONVINCING THAT ITS HARD TO FIND OUT.\nWHILE IN OTHER CASES IF YOU HAVE A DOUBT IF SOMEONE IS LYING TO YOU THEN KEEP ASKING THEM QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE TALKING AND NOTE THE CHANGE OF VOICE AND THEIR TONE.\nA PERSON WHO LIES TO YOU WILL KEEP STARING AT YOU TRYING TO CONVINCE YOU THAT THEY ARE SPEAKING THE TRUTH OR THEY WILL LOOK DOWN TO THE GROUND.AT THAT POINT THEIR ORIGINAL TONE OF VOICE WILL ALSO CHANGE.\nI HAVE NOTICED THIS WITH MANY PEOPLE.
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It would depend to me based on who was accusing me, if they weer spreading rumors, and what their relationship meant to me.  \n\nIf it's someone you don't care for, I'd say ignore and cut ties, since they can't be trusted.  If it's a group of people, you're better off not socializing with people that spread false rumors.\n\nIf it's someone closer, and it could be a misunderstanding, I would confront them, one on one.  If they ddeny, just walk away.  But if they apologize, give an explanation, you could probably still have a friendship, but I'd say keep your guard up, don't trust too quickly.\n\nLike I said, it really depends on how close you are to a person.  If they're not that close, cut ties, but if they are close, and least ask for an explanation, the rest is up to you.
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Confront him about it,put him on the spot and let him know he has explaining to do! Dont be afraid to confront him,he need's to feel like an idiot for being so dishonest with  you and need's to know how that makes you feel. IF he doesnt stop this,then you need to move on,because that's never a good sign,and is never going to make it into a long term relationship. People lie for a reason,and obviously it isnt a GOOD one. lier's continue to lie because people let them get away with it,afraid to put them on the spot,afraid to embarrasse them,ect,forget that,embarrasse the crap out of him,it might teach him if he know's he cant get away with it,but make sure you know why he lied to you,that should tell you alot,and please,dont let him tell you a lie about his lie,and dont let him make you feel guilty about it either,liers will try and make you feel guilty about their lie,such as "I thought if you knew you would hate me and not want me anymore" or "I didnt want you to know,because that's not who I am anymore,you have changed me"blah,blah,blah
420410
Certain things happen when folks lie. It is hard to make eye contact so you may want to try forcing that. Most people will give more details to a lie than when they are telling the truth. \nBut can you handle the truth?
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When looking for a scam, you need to know what a person does when they are telling the truth. If a person uses their hands when they talk, or their eyes dart around when they are having a comfortable conversation, you can calibrate their mannerisms, voice, tempo and eyes for honesty. Notice their normal mannerisms when you know they are answering the easy questions and telling the truth. This is the most critical part.\nWhen you suspect that someone is lying, you will compare their dishonest response to the way they respond when telling the truth. \nHands, head position, voice level, eye positions, shoulders, everything will be a signal when you know what to look for. \nYou need to make note of the differences in behavior that shows that an internal conflict is happening. When there is a conflict, the brain does not respond normally. It creates signals that make it impossible for the person to keep the same mannerisms, voice tone , head position, all in a congruent state as the lie is told.\nTypical body language that reveals an internal conflict: \nHands over mouth \nHand to nose\nHand to ear\nHands or fingers moving, wringing, tapping\nHead tilt to side\nHead turned away\nBody moving backwards\nBlink rate increases\nPupils contract\nEyes go down to left or right\nEyelids stay closed during the answer\nVoice tone rises\nClearing the throat \n\nDo these things mean a person is lying? Not necessarily. \nIt depends on the calibration. Remember you are looking for the differences- the thing that the body does because there is an internal conflict that causes involuntary "leakage" of the emotional charge.\n\nWords can be a great indicator that a person is about to lie: \n\nAnswering your question with a question\nRepeating the statement, rather than answering\nSay "I am telling you the truth\n"I will not lie to you"\nAccusing "Are you saying I am lying?"\nStammering, stuttering, and pausing before answering\nPointing while answering\n\nThe sound of the voice\n\nVoice raises due to tightness of vocal chords.\nAnxiety makes voice squeaky or raspy\nMumbling\nEyes\n\nEye position\nBlink rate increasing\npupils contracting\nLooking down to left or right (depending on whether the person is right or left handed)\nEye twitch- involuntary \nStaring into your eyes (look for leakage immediately)\n\nThese signals alone do not mean a person is lying. If you have calibrated properly, you will see the immediate and obvious change, or combination of behaviours that mean they are lying. Remember, it is all about the way the person tells the truth, that will tell you when they are lying. \nSome people think that they can lie by looking you right in the eyes. But, guaranteed, something else will give. Even if they have practiced lying there will be a signal somewhere else. \nA face that lacks expression can be covering up the lie- but the lack of expression and the lack of micro muscle movements can be the dead giveaway. \n\nHope this helps!
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I think the best measure of people who care about you is people who will let you apologize to them and then will not try to take advantage of it by always pointing out that you admitted you were wrong as if that means you are wrong again.\n\nPeople who are willing to apologize to you... ok, might be worth something, but it might not. Someone like Donald Trump or Tom Cruise "apologizes" to you, I don't think it's worth that much, it's more like "hey, I said I'm sorry so shut up, it's still about me"\n\nI think you can trust people who learn about a weakness of yours, and they try to build you up, and not take advantage of it.
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It depends on how well you know the person.  If you suspect someone is lying just ask round about questions on the subject in question and see how different the answers are.  Works like a charm.