Advice on rebuilding trust in a relationship!?
116591
the only way you can regain trust is both parties are willing to put what ever the problem was in the past and not ever bring it up again. And I'm sorry to say that is a hard thing to do. Anytime a argument comes up and if its on the sme lines as the problem it will come up again, and again,and again. But If the both of you want trust back then you'll work on it,but it wont be easy.
1136887
Trust is not a set in concrete thing. Just because someone is having trouble trusting you can come from many factors, including being hurt very badly in the past. Although it would not be your fault, you must still understand that trust doesn't come as easy for this person as maybe it might to another. What your decision must be is to decide how much you want to prove to him you can be trusted and how long you will do that patiently. If some of his friends are lying on you, it is his friends that are so the problem, and after explaining all to him and he can't see that, maybe he is not mature enough to handle a relationship. Men are more like little boys when they have to use their peeps to analyze their love life.
403937
You're absolutlly right. You MUST have trust and honesty in a relationship. You can't build one on a foundation of lies. The relationship will only fall apart and cause pain for you. Of caurse love plays a major role in all relationships too, :)
256282
If you don't trust her things aren't going to get any better between the two of you.  My ex lied to me about something HUGE and when he was caught he apologized and I took him back but I NEVER trusted him again and it led to me breaking up with him again.  You deserve to be with someone that you can trust and that respects you.  The best thing that you can do is end this now and stop dragging it out.  The longer that you drag this out the harder that it is going to be on both of you.
1025165
If he doesn't trust you, don't bother staying.  You have to have trust in a relationship.  If he doesn't trust you already, even though you came back, its not going to get any better.\n\nDon't let him control your life.  In a good, trusting relationship, you can still live your life, with the comfort of a good, supporting partner.  Don't settle for less, don't stop being who you are!
485789
Trust is core.  If the trust is broken . . .it takes a long tome to repair...sometimes/often there is no going back.  A lot depends on the two people involved and how much they want to rebuild the trust.
459092
Call him on it.  It sounds like neither of you trust each other, so if you get down to the root of the problem, hopefully you can overcome it.  Have you done anything for him to feel betrayed?  It sounds like he's reading them.  Just call him on it and have a conversation about it.
146127
Yes.. relation is there for rest of the world.. but you people know from inner core of heart that.. once TRUST is gone.. it is tough again to build up a relation. In that case I would try my level best to bring it back.. if I love that person and make her beleive that she is wrong.
516831
Trust is a big component in a healthy, long lasting relationship.  You have to use your good judgement and from what you know about him now, evaulate if he would be capable of playing you or have cheating tendencies.  Nobody wants to be hurt, but let him know how important it is to you for him to be honest and trustworthy.
1063192
You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
64913
Time heals all wounds. Take it slow. Just remember when you were hurt. It took a while to learn to trust someone again, right? Just be there for him, be honest, and enjoy each other. When the time is right, he'll know it, and he'll let you know.
181367
I have the same problem, ive been hurt by friends and family and i STILL think up conspiracy theories. Talking with him will help some, but the change has to be WITHIN you, the only thing he can do is make his life a little more open for you. I try to be as open and honest with my GF as possible, that way she can trust me more, also i tell her where ive been and she even knows my E mail password. She knows who is on my buddy list and who ive called. I do all of this so that there WONT be trust issues in our relationship. BUT she could still be paranoid, so she has to just admit to herself, that if im cheating on her, then it DOESENT MATTER, she will just break up with me and move on, or if i truly repent then fix the problem and continue the relationship. But you HAVE to let it go, go out on a limb and put yourself out there. once you say it doesent matter, and you have "let that person go" then that takes away any walls that were in your relationship before.
112453
well if your fiance believed the other person over you, then the relationship was troubled. don't you find it kind of odd that he's not believing you and trusting you?  i, personally, would just go on with my life, because if you two were to get back together, the trust would be gone, yes, it can be rebuilt, however, it doesn't seem to me that it was there in the first place. Just let him go on and do whatever it is that he is doing, and you do the same. There are plenty of other guys out there just waiting to be found. good luck to you!
1052921
I agree.  Without trust in your partner how do you completly love?  I think that once trust is lost in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.  Once you lose trust can you ever completly regain it?  I really don't think so.
323501
i'm sorry if you can't trust him then find someone you can. because trust comes a long way in a relationship and without it your relationship will crash and burn. You can talk to him about the trust issue and if you still feel the same way then dump him.
424037
trust takes time... once you have lost trust in someone, it takes awhile to trust them again... if your heart sees that you can trust a person again, then a lot of times it is harder to get your mind to agree... your heart is more trusting unless you have been hurt a lot in the past, then your mind might say it is ok, but you heart gets in the way...\n\nbottom line, if you can't get your heart and your mind to agree to trust someone again, even if you know they deserve another chance... the best thing to do is just walk away...
770203
just explain to him that your trust for him is minimal, you can only help him out if he promises not to hurt you again, explain to him how you felt back then and maybe you will both be able to move on and have a great relationship. good luck xx