when i have sex, i dont come so easy. is this a problem??e?
101903
It is mostly in you mind, and this is true for men and women. Some paralyzed people, who cannot even feel their genitals can come. Drugs and alcohol can affect this also. But since you're new to the game, it's probably in you mind. You are stressing to hard and not consintrating on the sheer pleasure of it. Just relax and enjoy it, it will come to you.\n\nadded:\nhey, he's cheating he added that last part AFTER i posted this.
1165552
maybe ur being too rough, ive been hur sometimes, u just have to find a way, and when she enjoys it, youl enjoy it better
439069
think twice before u get into trouble. nobody can continue the real pleasure when caught up. sex is not a thing to be done under any pressure. it must be done at a comfortable, safe place and with the RIGHT partner.
768947
dude its normal!U are suppressing a wild beast :p .Just let it go man and try to have some more sex.Try not to think abt girls that much or ul become a "sex freak".Figure out whats the most thing abt a girl that excites u the most and go and ahead and seek it and try some intercourse once in a while and satisfy ur sexual desire.
382851
if you relax and don't tense up, it won't hurt as much.  there is no way to make it totally not hurt, but that way you can minimize it.  if you do foreplay first, that will help too, and if you use lubrication, the less dry the less friction and the easier it is.
731616
This is normal. It's called arousal, which is essential for enjoying sexual activity! It's not an impulse, it's a normal function of your body preparing itself for stimulation.
1173264
I have the same problem...my bf is like that...he thinks it's a serious thing, I think it's because he feels like if I do that then he isn't satisfying me himself, so it's kind of letting himself down. That's all that I can come up with.
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well to be honest it could be one of two things, i am not to judge and dont know u 1: ur not well endowed,sorry  but thats my problem and i have had this happend to me b 4 ur not the only one and 2: not enogh foreplay or to much, just got to take ur time talk to them and tell them how good they are, and remember oral does a great job for orgasms for women, also toys which i have never used might help some,
280127
Hell no. Women seem to think they have no steak in being overly sexual or sexually expressive. As if it's 1920 and you're not supposed to need to come. Orgasms are awesome. Enjoyt em as much as you can. Involve items or aids, oils or lubes! Make a day of it! Just don't think it's "abnormal". That's like having sexual/emotional constapation. it's natural, everyone's appetites are different in intensity and regularity. If you libido is way up, then I applaud you and indulge.
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Dude I had the same problem your having lol\n\nMan I thought I was going crazy \n\nI was like man whats wrong with me I cant have an orgasm\n\nBut then I reallized that in order to have an orgasm\n(this answer is going to light a bulb in your head)\n\nI HAD TO HAVE SEX!!!\n(heh man was I embarrassed)
286133
Who are you occasionally having sex with?  It is a regular partner/Significant Other or just random?  If you're not with someone who you trust it can lead to you not feeling as free or relaxed and therefore not enjoying.  Also a regular partner starts to know your body and then can usually please you better.\n\nHow intouch with yourself and your sexuality are you?  How will another person or a person in sex know how to please you if you do not know how to please yourself.  A significant part to enjoying sex is being comfortable with your body.  Do you like what you see in the mirror, do you accept it?  Do you how you like to be touched?  Being okay with yourself and understanding your body can limit your pleasure when having sex.\n\nLastly why are you having sex if you are not truely enjoying it?  Do what you find pleasure in, even if that is not total intercourse.  If you feel like you should be having sex or enjoying yourself more that can decrease your pleasure.  \n\nNothing is really wrong with you.  You just need sometime to figure out what you enjoy, and make you feel things totally.
520753
Well sometimes, when you and your lover are getting really hot and nasty, it just feels like the right time to do it!! When you've got baby-oiled up or whatever!! LOL!! \n\nOf course, you have to be totally relaxed and I found that rubbing my clit or getting him to do it (whilst he's in there)makes the whole thing much more pleasurable!\n\nIt's not something I want to do all the time, but now and again, hell why not!! When it comes to what makes a women come, we are all different. And not only that, but what may make me orgasm one week, might not work for me the next!!
601398
hope this doesn't sound obvious, but maybe your just not ready yet, relax, you're normal:)
937694
You are so right.  I hate to see girls answer questions about problems us guys have with our equipment.  I think most are trying to be funny or trying to get 2 points.  As far as your worrying about sex, just forget about everything and have fun with it because that is what it was made for.  We all have certain times when things don't work like you want them to work, but they usually are far and few so relax my friend, and enjoy!
439508
welcome to the world of womanhood, darlin'...you are SO not alone...unless and until you teach him all your own little tricks and then some...and he's good and willing...it'll stay that way.  just be glad you are in tune with yourself enough to experience orgasm easily by any means...some women don't have it that good.  now just teach him to be as good at pleasuring you as you are!
435255
That has happened to me also, but not each and everytime I have sex. I've noticed that if I *try* too hard to please my partner... I don't ejaculate either. Ask him to try and relax and go with the flow of the moment, that might help him.\n\nAt first it was very common in me, specially when I was with a very special person. Now it's not too often, though it still happens.\n\nI haven't gone to the doc about it either.
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Stop worrying about coming and just think about how good it feels.  I am a woman, but I think it is probably about the same.  I have to think about how good it feels even when I don't feel very sensitive.  Think whatever it is you think right before you come and I think it will help.  However, I don't know if you have tried other postions or what, but my hubby loves me to be on my stomach with my legs together and his stradled over mine.  Whenever he's getting too tired to shoot he just flips me on my belly and puts it in and then puts his legs outside mine and is usually off in a minute or two.  I think it works cause I squeeze my muscles together around him, which is only easy to do in this postition.  Best wishes