how do i spice up a five year relationship?
112509
Play games again like in the beginning...flirt, kiss passionately and then just walk away, smack a few asses playfully while doing housework or when the in-laws are looking the other way.  Take more personal time with de-stressing activities like bitching to your friends, yoga, or excercise to make him/her miss you more.  "Marital aids" like small toys or (especially) lubes of various sorts add whole new dimensions to your sex life as well.
874822
That depends on how serious you two are.  If it is the "real thing," gather up photos and memorabilia of your times together and do a collage.  Sounds sappy, but it truly cool.
74575
believe it or not you can keep it going forever if you BOTH work at it..\nyour hormones are flying and usually raging because you are young..in body and heart..\nlove brings out things ( chemically ) in people that give them the sense of euphoria..\n\nand you brain just loves this and you feel so great\n\nbut if you or he say the exact same thing in the same exact way ten year after you were first togehter..it sounds like he is picking on you...because your brain does not have all the endorphins to make you happy like you were when you first meet..\n\nbut if you both keep working on each other each and every day.with little surprises ( sneak up and put your hands on her eyes and kiss her neck..and make her giggle..) even though it is silly..stuff works..\nup out of the blue on a Saturday..make HER lunch and bring it to her and say this is for my ever do lovely bride..\nif you two keep working at it ..it will work just like you two first meet..\nand so on and so on
239818
When you were dating I bet you dressed up and put your earrings on and got yourself all dolled up same thing for the man. Why ? Because we want to impress each other. Do you still do that? try to look your best and not try to look tired all the time. Go out somewhere. Women love simple things like picknics or going to the park where you can push each other on the swing or fly a kite.  Spend time together like you did before you were married.\n\nAll marriages go through the down time but they won't stay down forever. Been married for 16 years and I still love my wife.
92770
Ok so you would like to know how to keep your love fresh after 6 years together? I take it you dated for 3 years and almost got married for 3 times or 3 years? We have been married for 20 years now. And the way we keep our marriage fresh is make dates and keep them; in romantic out of the norm places. Give each other little sex toys or items. For that hint of play tonite. Send cards to each other at home or work. Surprise each other with secret love notes. Have him/her follow a riddle trail through out the house or even city. Meet him/her for surprise lunch. In other words...to keep things happenin, ya gotta keep things happenin.
983564
Gat him something to gain his confidence and know that your serious about having soemthing forever.  Give him a gift that will last a while and is from the heart.  Tell him you would like to exchange commitment rings and also go away to have a special weekend and rekindle things and also go take professional pictures together to have.  That should help you get things together in your relationship and will be special.
434965
If you are fighting all the time and you truly feel that there is no fixing it then maybe it is time to end things. It will certainly not be easy but in the long run I think both of you will be happier. I don't recommend, however, jumping into a relationship right away with the girl that you have known for a long time. Take some time and be single for a while. If the girl you have known for a while is truly someone you would like to be with then wait until she won't be just a rebound girl. Go out and have fun and give yourself time to get over your five year relationship.
522842
You've already gotten a lot of good (and bad) responses.\n\nThe key to any relationship is communication. And I think this is obviously where you think you have some problems. I assume you guys are comfortable talking about everything else. \n\nFor one, you need to talk to him. Pour your heart out and let him know where you stand. After 5 years, things do get stagnent. He may think your sex life with each other is fine where it is. You need to share with him your desire to spice it up.\n\nSometimes what holds a guy back is stress. If you have an opportunity, get a babysitter for the night/weekend, cook him a romantic dinner, turn off the phones, play some relaxing music, and talk the night away. Give him a back massage. Let him know he is loved and that he's appreciated. Ask him what he would like in your sexual relationship from you, to spice things up. \n\nBring up some options: Role Play. Having sex in a different part of the house (having sex in the same bed for 5 years can get old). Getting dressed up. Watch a porno together. Have sex with the window shades open. Turn up some music. Turn off the TV. Candles. Clean sheets. Go dancing. Go on vacation. Go to a Bed & Breakfast. Go to the beach. \n\nI've also seen a statistic once out of Europe that found that men find their partners more attractive when the household chores have been done. This maybe more related to stress.\n\nThere is sooo much you can do to help spice up a sexual relationship, that I think you should make the first move.\n\nAlso, don't make him feel bad for any fantasies he has. He's a guy. Sometimes you can even play into his fantasy. If he wants to have a 3rd party, but you don't, then by all means do not. But you can pretend:\nOne night, while you guys are about to have sex. Undress him completly. Tie his hands to the bed post and blindfold him. Once you've done that, tell him that you have a surprise for him. Tell him you've invited a female friend over to join the two of you, but she doesn't want him to known who it is, so he must keep the blindfold on. Pay a neighboorhood kid a dollar to ring your doorbell. When it rings, cover him up in a sheet, and tell him to keep the blindfold on.\nThen you get changed into a lingerie, put on some different perfume, put on makeup, change your hairstyle, etc. Go to the bedroom and tell him you're letting your friend in and that you just want to watch. When touching him, change your style. Have fun. Remember, the brain is the largest sex organ.\n\nOnce you've gone through some sort of process to spice things for him, tell him your fantasies you'd like for him to help fulfill.\n\nBest of luck to you. If nothing else, just remember to "talk".
244012
First off, I think you are putting too much emphasis on time. You could be with someone for 11 months or 11 years and know them equally. The best way to get closer to someone is obviously through talking. The easiest way to approach this is by doing something you both enjoy or try something new to both of you. This way, there will be plenty to talk about. If you start talking about a topic that is more general and less personal, it is usually easier to then slide into a more serious or personal one. Also, if you love him and he loves you then he will want to hear what you have to say and learn more about you. You just need to relax and not put so much pressure on yourself. You are looking for that comfort level that all couples want...but it develops gradually. In the meantime, have fun and you'll see that it will get easier to open up.
54257
5 years after marriage. or 8, if you're not married.
1032876
Well, there are all of the cliche things that you can do, like a romantic dinner, or a walk along the park, however I would suggest a different path. Think of something you might have done as a child, and do it with him. Think of something completely stupid to do, or even a little childish maybe. I know my gf and I do a lot of things like that, and that is when we really bond. For example, catching fireflies on a summer night, or baking cookies together. Just think of everyday things, and do them together.
203359
Gosh, this is a loaded question!  It all depends on so much!  Do you have kids, howz your sex life...how creative do you want to be?!  The romantic dinner is a GREAT idea to start with!  There are some very romantic sexual games you can play after to spice things up. ("An Enchanted Evening" as an example)  To really save money you could make him a wonderful "coupon book" that he may use all year (Until your 7th anniversary)  Including back rubs, hugs, kisses, sexual favors, picinic lunch, his favorite home cooked meal....
256986
write her a poem or a letter about your past year together, take to a place you went to on your first date, spend the entire day together doing eachother's favorite things. look at old pictures over dinner and just celebrate what you have done with eachother in a year or even make her something with the pictures as a gift!
873584
there are lots of ways to do it.\n1.) act flirtatiously but make sure you don't look cheap\n2.)be a good listener,this is one part of the relationship that most couples are taken for granted especially when they live together for a long period of time \n3.)be sensitive to your partners feelings,or needs\n4.)both partners has to learn to give and take \nand show each other some respect \n5.)both of you should learn how to be honest and\n    truthfull to each other\nfollow those steps and you'll be okay
297863
Each relationship has a basis or reason in the first place. Sometimes it attraction, sometimes care, sometimes the chemistry between two.\n\nSit and analyse what kept you both going for the last 6 years. Find that onething out and both of you could use that as your anchor for your relationship.\n\nRevisiting the old days and remembering each good, sweet and happy things in the last 6 years also rekindles the fire and resolve to forward. Recreating the first date and first kiss or something like that will bring back the romance and give you both that Nitro boost... \n\nThink on your feet dude.. Be adventurous.. Walk that extra mile before you call this relationship off... Atleast that way you wont blame yourself later that you didnt try a lil harder...\n\n.:Fishie:.
164783
Do the things you did when you were first in love with this person.  Maybe something that you haven't done for years but have fond memories of doing when you were young and inl ove.  Whether it's dancing, enjoying a candlelit dinner, surprising him/her with flowers, or strolling along the beach, just try to show this person that the love and magic and chemistry you felt 25 years ago is still there, and even stronger.
556137
What you really want is the REAL thing, not any cheap substitutes for the intimacy that you once had. If you've been together for a long time, you focus on your careers and other things that need to get done and in that time both of you have grown as individuals. You are not on the exact same level that you used to be on when you once met because you have both gained new wisdom, new dreams, new experiences, etc. I think what you need to do is meet each other on the level that you are on now. In other words REDISCOVER each other. There is something deeper in your husband and in you that wasn't there before and you need to get in touch with each other. Talking is the number one key for intimacy. Maybe you could change the scenery and talk in a totally different place to spark some enthusiasm. Make it special and really dig into each other's worlds. Talking about the past can bring back good memories, but don't wish that your husband is now what he was then because he is all that and even more. Love him now and get to know him all over again. Do something special for him and create an atmosphere where you can talk and fall in love all over again.