Would it be crazy for a wife to befriend her husbands former mistress?
109210
It's happened many, many times in the past, but I really think it's best for one's mental health to keep things separated, even if the mistress is a really nice woman.  Could lead to a lot of insecurities and difficulty getting over the situation.
1132761
Just let her know that you are happy with the husband you have and it is necessary for her to tell you anything about him unless you ask.  Let her know that you don't believe that telling gossip about one anothers husbands is productive or strengthening for each others relationships with your husbands and is detrimental to establishing a friendship between each other.  If she is has morals she should be able to recognize this and hopefully refrain from those activities.
783330
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
59717
Actually, my ex-husband was my friend for years after we got divorced. The bad thing is, he has a new fiance, and he knows that she and I are arch enemies because of accusations she made about my son 8 years ago. Now that he is with her, we totally do not get along at all. I believe he only started dating her because I got married 3 years ago to someone he didn't like. (Childish, if you ask me, because I'm very happy). It's a jealousy thing, but I'm not pressed. But anywhoooo..yes, you can be friends with your ex. Just make sure it's for the right reasons. If your ex has an alterior motive, it will only cause problems for you later. Hope this helps!
868537
no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
1106675
I watched another woman and my (ex) husband break up my marriage. She tried to control and manipulate my kids, as well as my in-laws. After our divorce,they got married. As the years went by, my kids began to hate their step mother, and realized what I had said about their step mother were true. I ran into my ex-husbands wife after she went on vacation (without my ex). She told me that she wished she hadn't have came back, and also wished she never married my ex. From what my kids say, my ex is miserable with his wife. They've been married for 18 yrs. He won't divorce her 'cuz he knows she'll take him for everything he's got. She's told the kids that if she divorces their dad, she'll take him for everything he has.  Karma is a wonderful thing!
357883
Wow hombre,\n\nThat's just tricky enough to warrent bringing out the big guns and asking the team of experts at Yahoo! Answers.\n\nYou are, however, still screwed.\n\nTake lots of mental snapshots of what it was like to have both of these people as friends because those days are coming to a close soon.\n\nTrust is foundational in healthy relationships.  You've allowed a couple of relationships grow for 10 sitting smack dab on top of a fault line of lies.\n\nNow your buddy's wife can't either trust you or face you without thinking of the 10 years of betrayal you enabled to continue.  You can't trust your buddy nor face him without thinking of the harm he's caused his wife and you by his actions.\n\n10 years of lies and manipulation that get bottled up in relationships don't just drain out like a bathtub my friend.  No matter how the truth comes out it's going to be like a needle to a balloon.\n\nBest get it over with sooner than later so there's more time to heal and move on.
966815
If this happened to me I would feel very betrayed by my husband or (future husband at that time) if he had went to visit and old flame before our wedding, and IF I did still decide after that to stand at the alter with him, that is probably all I would be able to think about. I would also feel betrayed by his mother, she needs to grow up, her son is not with that other women anymore, he is with you, and the two of you have a child together, she should not have even allowed for the other women to be inside her home knowing that her son has a commitment to you. I think that is very tacky as a mother. She should be trying to build a relationship with you not, hunting down her son's ex-flames telephone # I would not trust her or him. Be careful and don't be taken for a fool by these people. The mother sounds scandelous and I would keep an eye out for your husband because if he is ok with his mother and her on going relationship with his ex, and is not trying to tell his mom that she should have a little more respect for you and your relationship with him, then maybe something may be going on, or there is strong possibility that something could go on.
535671
That all depends. How long has your ex-friend been your ex-friend--what caused them to be your ex-friend? How long has your ex-friend & ex-husband been ex's? If they have been ex's for a few months then go for it.\n\nThe reason for some of the questions that I have asked, is did they split up because of the ex husband and you being together or some other reason? If it was because of you 2, then it might be a bad ideal for you 2 to get together. If that is not the case, like I said give it a few months and then start off being even better friends than before, just work your way into it slow and easy and see what happens, if it was meant to be it will happen, if not it won't happen.
852884
I do not understand why your friend would or should be involved in your business with your husband. Yes, your husband is correct, your friends need to mind their own business. God bless*
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
563734
I don't think so. They're your ex for a reason, you should have had a good connection and relationship with them at one point, even if you are no longer interested in them romantically they could still be a great friend. And your fiancee should be mature enough to be ok with that. But make sure you're being very honest with your fiancee and they are comfortable with what's going on. Also, you should probably keep issues between you and your fiancee more or less off limits for conversation. That will make your fiancee feel betrayed.
488290
Well it depends. How long have you know the other half? If you just met the other half then I wouldn't but if you have know him for a while then....I don't want to sound mean to you but sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to do. If this friend was a true friend try to talk to her about it. She should understand. \n\nOn another note.... CONGRADULATIONS! I hope the best for you and your future spouse!
1003001
Well, I would not ever just hang out.  See, when you have a new b/f or even a spouse, it may cause trouble with that new relationship.  My wife doens't like me talking to my ex only if it is about our kid together, and I would hate if she talked to her ex.  The past is the past, even if there is no feelings there now, but there was and those feelings could come back.  Exspecially if you and your new b/f had problems and your ex was there.  \n\nSo from another mans point of view, it would be hard to understand you seeing your ex.
628951
Sure, and as for why, just a something new to experence and learn from.  It could easily cause more pain than pleasure.  Learning what your spouse is really doing while you are gone, what your friends really think of you, and then they's just the perverted fun you could have too.  Sounds like a hell of a roller coster ride.
271168
multiple wives? are you crazy. multiple lovers ok, maybe...\none wife could nag you to death more than one would just be inhumane
507084
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.