I need help.. with the REAL.. me.. so to speak..?
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Don't let it bother you.  Shakespeare said : All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players.\nIt's when the mask slips and shows the horrible real you that you need to worry.
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You should slow way down and figure out your feelings, none of the things you mentioned above will do you any good.\n\nI replied to your earlier post, to get help you have to do the same thing you are doing here...you have to ask.  But you have to ask a professional, and since I believe, I will say that God did not created all counselors equal, you may have to interview a few before you find a fit.\n\nThe biggest thing is a little trick I learned on my own, its going to sound silly until you try it and then believe it.\n\nStart out by looking in the mirror, stare at the wonderful person that is staring back at you.  Know that you are important, important if for no other reason you can make at least one person smile sometime each day.\n\nWhether is telling a joke, complimenting someone on their clothes or abilities, or helping someone in some way without expecting the help to be returned.  You can make another human smile, and in doing so, you will, with practice, feel much better about yourself. \n\nIts a first step, but it works.
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Well, there is abook your could buy. Its not a conventional book. Its called "All about me", or "about me", anyway, its a fillin book, where you fillin all these questions regarding your self and your life. Doing that, and answering them honestly might help you. You should be able to find it at any major book store, plus it will be interesting to read a few years down the line, to see how you have changed.
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I think like you said you want to control your life, but the steps you are taking are not good for you, I think its time for you to see and speak to someone about what you are doing to yourself. When something bad happens to you try to make it worse to make you feel better I believe you explained very well of what your a feeling and doing to yourself.. please speak to someone you feel safe with and trust..please!!!!!
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Be yourself.\n\nThe day will come where you'll have to answer to yourself and you'll have to decide if you're being honest with yourself.  Let that answer be, yes.  I'm being honest.
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The best advice that you can get in a situation like this is going to come from a trained professional--a therapist.  It just might help you find a way to excel on your own, and find the confidence to be anything that you want to be.  Gl, be strong!
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I wish I could say me...but it would be a lie.
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Just be honest with him and talk about your symptoms and /or feelings that you think are creating your depression.  I wouldn't go as far as leaning on him to help "cure" you, but hopefully he will be there for you while you take that on yourself.  If you are unable to conquer this on your own, please seek some outside professional help.
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Try going to a support group in your area for these type issues. Being with people in situations similar to yours might help, b/c they can identify with you better than most. I can understand where you're coming from. I bet alot of us girls can.\nHope this helps...&& Good luck\nCarolyn
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see a therapist...they help a lot!!!
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Well for one thing be honest and upfront about it. Say something! I was in the same situation once before.  I just told them how I felt them and that made them feel comfortable enough to let me know that they were feeling the same. Just don't hide it.  I will come back to haunt in the future.  Believe me when I say it.
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yes i need u.. please contact me
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Saying that openly on here is a start.  Find a counselor (many are free) in a gender you'd feel safest with, and try starting with small steps.  Tell them you don't feel comfortable opening up.  They know how to help you.
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YOURSELF!!!  The only self help programs that are best for you is YOU!  Look inside yourself and decide what it is you really want and don't listen to anyone else!!! Follow your heart and your mind!!! Good Luck
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Just be yourself. I know its hard to do but find the strength too. I know you can.
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Babe, I would have loved to help u out and believe me I almost did. But then It struck me that if u get used to others helping u out, u will become a big ZERO in your life.\nMy sincere advice - try and make up some sentences. U might make a few mistakes  but then that's how u learn.  \n\nAll The best!!!
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You are what you are. Why can't you accept yourself for who you are? Work on self acceptance. Sounds like you need to see a professional. Love yourself. \n\n"The best you can do is be the very best at being you" Unknown.