How do I win my true love back b4 valentines day after splitting up over my infidelity?
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Stop being selfish and let her be happy for once.  Even if you could get her back, it would never be the same...she will always have some bit of resentment towards you.
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Five Ways To Win Her Back\n\nAdmit it: You messed up. You said or did something to drive away the most beautiful girl in the world, and now you want her back. But here's the rub: She's moved on, or at least appears to be going on with her life, living and loving it up with guys who happen not to be you. So what do you do to get back into her good graces without completely throwing your pride out of the window? How do you repair the rift and still remain a "man's man"?\nReach Out\n\nYears ago, a guy would have had to stumble through an uncomfortable phone call or write an embarrassing letter to reestablish the lines of communication with his lost love. These days, sending your ex an email is the easiest way to go. It's a quick and modern way to exchange light-hearted communications and your girl won't think you're groveling if you dash off a quick: "How's it going?"\nBe Contrite\n\nI know, I know. Admitting you're wrong is sometimes hard to do, but this simple technique goes a long way in showing a woman that you care. After you've reestablished the lines of communication, drop a few hints. Phrases like: "I'm sorry I said that" or "I didn't mean for that to happen" cause a woman to want to listen more to what you say to her. By the time you swoop in for the kill, she'll be ready. Unless of course you really screwed up ...\nBe Available\n\nIf you followed the methods above, the two of you should at least be on friendly terms. The next way to get her to warm to you is by showing her that you're there. If she needs a ride somewhere, take her; if she's moving, handle the biggest of the boxes; if she's fighting with her mom, listen to her whine about it.\n\nMaking yourself available doesn't mean taking over the role of "girlfriend". It means that when the girl you love has a problem, or needs a shoulder to cry on, it'll be your shoulder she cries on - not some other guy's.\nBe Busy\n\nWait! Didn't I just say to be available? Isn't that a contradiction? Not at all. Even though you're following the rules to get her back, you don't want her to know that you're trying to get her back--not just yet anyway. Go out with your buddies and continue your normal activities. That way, when you speak with her, you'll have funny stories to tell and new things to add to the conversation. If you're waiting by your phone or surfing the 'net checking your email every five seconds, then you'll have no great adventures to impress her with. And then she'll think you're lame.\nBe old-fashioned\n\nYour ex should be on her way to being your "next" again. Once things have progressed and you're sure she likes you again, ask her out. Think hard: what does she like to do? Perhaps your lady doesn't like the usual movie/dinner/clubbing scene--in that case, get creative. If she likes theme parks, rekindle those flames on her favorite roller coaster. If she's a reader, find out when her favorite author is in town and take your ex to see them. Is she a horror film buff? Take her to a film festival or rent the classics and stay in for the night. Make sure you've got her favorite snacks and drinks on hand.\nBe yourself\n\nDespite everything listed above, all a guy really has to get back with his ex is, well, himself. Turn on at full speed whatever you had that made her want you the first time. Remind her of how great things were in the beginning. Mention highlights that give the both of you good feelings. Don't be afraid to let her know that you had some of your best times with her, and that you wouldn't mind having more good times.\n\nWhile you think it might be easier to hold onto your pride, move on and forget about the one who got away, why chance it? Listening to your friends who think you're a big jerk for trying to work things out will just keep you alone, or w
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Honey, I know how that hurts. It happened to me with my marriage. I ended up divorced. It does no good to try to pick up the pieces with someone who no longer loves you. You need to just let her go. I know how hard it is but you do get over it in time. Give yourself some time to heal and then think about dating again. It won't be easy but you'll get through it day by day. God will help you and so will we. You can always find a friend here on YA. If you need to talk, my email is on my profile. You're in my prayers, Sweetie. God speed.
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Realize what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this is not all your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship start, and two people to have lead it to the break up. \n\nAccept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. \n\nBut you have to know that you are a good person and this is not all one-sided. \n\nThink through everything in your head. Maybe even try to ask yourself what went wrong. But you also have to think of why you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end, right? If there was a reason but it wasn't a good one, then this person isn't worth your time. \n\nDeal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was. You may even feel like you hate yourself, but get out of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart for no reason. \n\nTalk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too and that you don't need this sort of pain. \n\nWrite all your feelings down. Write in a journal or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper. Patterns may become clearer and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" what you're supposed to be learning from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be. \n\nKeep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. \nWell, instead of feeling that way, try to think of how happy that memory used to make you, and leave it at that. \n\nDon't overreact. You may be feeling lonely, and want to be with someone, but don't go back to your ex unless you really believe you should be together. Likewise, don't jump into another relationship as a rebound, just to make yourself feel better. It's not fair to the other person, and will eventually lead to another breakup. \n\nFind happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. \n\nLet go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and having hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was very unique and special in a lot of ways, all good things must come to an end. \n\nAnd when they do, that's when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it's best that you aren't together. \n\nTips \nYou have to walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you could give. If you feel all this and that you did your part, but he or she didn't meet you halfway, then you'll be just fine. \n\nDo not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he or she would be right now and if you sh
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the best way to deal with love is to lay it on the line.  your heart is broken without him, you cant lose much more by telling him how you really feel.  i say honesty is the best policy and if he loves you too, hell take you back especially since its not because you did somethign stupid.  you just told him no, but realize your mistakes now.  tell him you love him - im sure he will be incredibly happy!
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should say good things that you remember about the time you're still together... bring back the good ole memories... try to flatter her and lower yourself... make him/her feel that it's your fault or something... that'll make him/her feel better and it softens heart.... good luck!
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He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
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Don't go there!!! No matter how much it hurts, you can't mess with people's free will. If you do it things will be bad:\nHe may come back, but the relationship will not be good.\nYou will not be happy together.\nThe whole thing will blow up in your face.\nHe will be really really hard to get rid of after things go sour again.\n\nSweetie, you have to accept the fact that the relationship was broken, or you two wouldn't have broken up. You have to let go and mend your broken heart. Work on enriching your spirit and a new better love will come to you.\nI promise.
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I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
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NO sorry I can't you need to just give yourself time and one day your sole mate will come along and you will realize that the one who you thought broke your heart didn't even have it to break! You will look back down the road of your life and see that everyone in your life had some part they played to get you to your soul mate! All the girls or ladies in you past was just detours and and have to find you way back to the main road of your life to find your soul mate!
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Maybe turn back the clock and remember what brought you both together and go back there and re-kindle the flame.*\n\nAfter five years there love there that will never go away.
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Of course, it is very possible to love again. Love makes the world go round and round and round. While it is true that you have to go through a process in grieving about your lost love, you will surely recover and then love again. But do not force it! Give yourself time to heal. First you are going to deny that you have already lost that love because of the break, then you become angry and hurting so much that you could be very mean and silly to other people, then comes acceptance. And when you accept that love is already gone, then it is time for healing. Do not believe that it will take you always a few months or even 1 or 2 years! Sometimes the loss of love could even expand to about 3 to 4 years, but take heart, you will be healed and will not hurt anymore, and then you will love again. Do not be too hard on yourself! Relax! Be with friends, enjoy life. Life is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour, and so love again and do not be afraid to lose another love because love comes again a second, a third or a fourth time. \n\nGood luck and may God be with you always. I pray for your early recovery.
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been down this kind of road your walking on now, the pain will never be gone completely, as time goes on the pain will ease up and you will regain your self back. learn from this with the understanding that not all women do this to their husbands. and people do make mistakes with some being devastating to the ones left holding their harts after it being ripped from their chest. \n\ngetting her back is what you want for you want your life to return to the way it was prior to any cheating, getting her back isn't what you need right now, you'll have trust issues with her that will drive you both apart and working out problems in a relationship will take two people that want it to work, truly want it to work. at this time i don't see this being on her list of things to do.\n\nit's all about you and your kids right now, try as hard as you can not to think that your going to get her back in time. if and when this ever does come around and the opportunity presents it's self to you then and only then should you leap to the chance. it's going to be a upward walk everyday for some time now, and you must keep you mind on what will be the best for you and your kids, her watching this will in time show that you are the stronger parent and she might have made the most devastating mistake of her life.\n\nif and when she does want to return to being a family again you need to now that it will never be as it was, no amount of work can change your memory and that memory will have issures with her and the choises she made. untill you have walked this road and feel the pain it has to offer you, people have their own words to offer you and I too had told many people that i would do this and that, and the day my ears heard the word from the love of my life, i pray others will never have the pleasure of hearing them in their life. \n\ni would tell every one dealing with this pain not try reconnecting with their partner till the pain has passed and your ready to try woking on the real problems in hand, most people never wake up one morning and head out the door to cheat on their partner, most is the aftermath of a problem at home or with their partner, finding out what the real problem is and how to overcome it is where you need to start working up to the cheating, and working it in this order will let you know why she felt the way she did.\n\ntime will heal the pain and learning from the past is the only way we can improve our furture, take your time and good luck with the path your walking down, remembering that your not walking it alone for thats why it's a path, many have walked it and many more will.
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You don't get over it, you learn from it. You look at why it didn't work out, and hopefully change things so that the next time you are in love you will not make the same mistakes. Or you could try and get it back. You know the old saying, if its truely love and you let it go, it comes back to you. If it never returns it wasn't truely love to begin with. Or my personal favorite, find someone that looks exactly like your love, F**** him dump him, laugh with your friends about it later.(just kidding)I find a little laughter and joking sometimes eases the pain ya know what I mean!
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If you want to get over your ex-fiance, you need to take affirmative action that will gradually take him out of your mind and allow you to start your life again. I recommend the following:\n\n1. Spend more time hanging out with your friends and less time alone. Friends, as well as family can be a great support when you are in pain.\n2. Get more deeply involved in your hobbies and interests.\n3. If your ex-fiance gave you an engagement ring, you do not need that reminder.....give it or throw it away. And do the same with any gifts he gave to you.\n4. Destroy or throw out any pictures you have of the two of you together.\n5. When you feel ready, start to date again.\n\nIn a nutshell, you need to start to purge your ex-fiance from your mind. It will be hard at first but, little by little, you will think about him less and less. Eventually, he will be a distant memory and you can have your own life back again.
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Why did you all split up?? Could it not work out with the 2 of you?? Have you told her how you feel, maybe you should. But if it just won't work out then you'll have to do what all us crazy people do when we love someone and they don't love us back is give ourselves some time and it will heal all the pain. Hope your heart feels better!!!!
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:) forgiveness. it is not gonna be easy. but if you love him, it is possible. concentrate on your own life, live your life beautifully and earn back all the confidence, trust through yourself before you try work things out with him again. you definitely need time to make it happen. and if you were to always remind yourself about that lie, you'll never get over it because you have made it a part of your life. I've experienced unfaithfulness of my boyfriend, it happened about half a yr ago but everytime i think of it or when i see the girl, i can feel the hurt so fresh. it won't be healed fast but i believe that you have to start with forgiveness then only you can try forget. don't remind yourself about it, when the thought comes, push it aside. you don't need to familiarise it to help you to forget.