im afraid to have sex because its gonna hurt,,on a scale of 1-10 how bad does it ?
108431
It shouldn't hurt if you are lubricated enough.  But never more than a 4.
343558
Bad things???...Wrong things??\n\nBoth of those are subjective, depending on the person experiencing/doing those things...\n\nRule of thumb: if the THOUGHT of any action makes you uncomfortable, it is probably wrong for YOU...Don't do it...\nOn the other hand if the 'thing' excites or tittilates you, and it will be carried out with a CONSENTING adult, then go for it and enjoy...
913844
You're not ready for sex. Nothing wrong with it, in your own time and space you will be. I think you feel fear because you're rushing into this cos your friends have done it and you don't want to seem left behind. Forget about everyone's need for a change and start focusing on your own. Say no and if they cannot accept it, they are not worth your energy.
748412
hi mahe \nmy dear young boy, u r very intellegent, brilliant science bio. student having more than 80 percentage marks in XIIth standard, what u have asked earlier, i have seen all and what u have replied, i also seen all those. u should not worry about your anxieties regarding sex and sexual activities, it is very commen at your 20th age. masturbation is also not bad, but if u can control it, then it is better, even if u can't control it, don't worry, it is alright. i will also suggest to do masturbation to get rid of tension, whenever u feel. so don't worry all about this.\nfurther, i will advice u to prepare yourself for your cpmt, aiims etc. exams, so u can reach your goal to becoming a doctor, when u will be a doctor, u will answer to others about these things.\nwith best of luck for your enterence exams towards MBBS
35077
It might, but it shouldn't be excrutiating. If it's too painful, you should go see a doctor. But it shouldn't be very painful your first time.
584652
Well it may not just be women, it could be guys to.. it really depends on how the person is raised..  I mean if you are raised to hate it and to see that it is bad.. well then it will be bad.  If not then go for it!  it feels good and it is not hurting anyone!  not you, not your friend, not your uncle bob, NO one!  it is simply very pleasurable :) thats all it is.  And if you haven't had sex yet you can consider it practice.
165719
You don't give your age but i am going to assume you are young and maybe too young to even begin considering having a relationship with that much responsibility involved. Sexual relations is more than sex which is no more than a normal act. \n  As for the bleeding, well I believe it differs for everyone, there could be none, a tiny spot or even more. Every woman is different.\n As for the pain that also is different for every woman. It can depend on how the man approaches you in this matter, to if you even still really have a hymen.Many girls lose theirs long before the sexual act.\n  And is it worth it. With a man you love and loves you in return yes it is very worth it. A one night stand probably not. Then again to each his own, just be careful who you chose as a partner, he should be a gentle caring person that you care for more than life itself and the experience will prove to be very pleasurable though maybe not perfect.\n   Consider waiting, if you are asking questions like this I would say to wait that you are not ready, as the fear will ruin the experience. Wait until the time is right and things will be alright. Take care
197021
Theres nothing to be scared about. Its sounds frightening and even disgusting, but its a natural thing that we women all have to endure! What it feels like? Ummm...not so easy to explain, as its different for different women. I won't lie and say thats its a great thing, but its more of an annoyance than anything else. Good luck! Just remember, its a good thing to have aperiod...in its most basic sense, it means that you can have children, which is a wonderful thing.....also, it means that you are normal!
111165
Everyone wants to jump in on this question, don't they? over 20 responses within 25 minutes, and who knows how many more by the time I finish typing this!!! \n\nMy answer:\nHell yea you should be afraid if someone is pressuring you to do something you are unsure of. It'll probably most likely hurt in more ways than one. \n\nSounds like you are a potential rape victim, either that or a cop trying to catch perverts.
219508
No it is very bad. Sex must also be limited to only for making kids after marriage. May god bless you.
1103529
It shouldnt be unbearable OMG im gonna die painful....if it is see a doctor....maybe you arent ready
644312
no, u would feel uncomfortable and how bout ur man how nasty would that be!
928615
i've had sex before and yes it does feel good but i warn you, wait! it's not a good idea right now while you're not married, you'll be giving yourself away to someone you don't know is your going to be husband. I'm not very proud of what i do but sometimes you get stuck in a rut that you can't get out of. if you like it too much you'll get stuck and then you'll have a greater chance of getting STD's. Even though i don't know you i beg of you as a friend, don't do it yet! you will regret it so much after you do. You will be sore, and yes you will bleed because you're a virign and you're not used to having something up your vagina. Let me ask a question.. are you ready to be a parent? think on that. but wait! don't do it!
1049623
what scares you is who you don't know who you are. accept yourself & that the unknown if full of fear. sounds like you're letting it paralyze you. don't. \nsexuality cannot ruin your life unless you let it. be resposible. get aware. find the information that will allow you to make the right, nurturing, healing choices for you.
1179880
yeah...i say talk to a doctor and see if there is anyway to "heal" it...and in the mean time, stop having rough sex, or any sex at all, you might be ruining your chances for kids at any time in the future
564901
Honestly it's going to be painful no matter how much you play.  You should definatly be relaxed if that's possible, and tell your lover to be slow and gentle and caring of your needs.  Hopefully he will be and you'll be fine.  Good luck!
511318
Physically i don't think you can avoid pain with being too cautious or in the end you will be a phobic who can't do anything without being scared. But socially if you are too careful you will miss out on some of the best things simply because of playing it safe which will ultimately bring you pain in the end.