i have a 12yr old daughter with a very bad attitude i need some kind of punishment advice?
105277
I hate to tell you this, but she's 12 and it's just the beginning. Teens have a LOT of hormonal problems that even THEY can't pinpoint. They also have MAJOR self-esteem issues and friends & guys are the most important things in her life. She will be very sensitive and not care for her parent(s) as much as she used to, but it is just a phase. \n\nI think that it's important that you talk with her and let her know you realize she's going through a lot and that you are there whenever she needs you.
1076183
Play mind games with her. Stare her down when she insults you, say "is that all you've got?" and come back with something snippy/sarcastic. But don't be so bluntly mean that she has something to tell an adult about. Or you could just not talk to her, and pretend that she doesn't exist.
288671
Go to your court house and file a complaint for visitations, and go to court and well go from there.  If it is something that you want then you will do what it takes.  I have been through similar things and the best thing that I can give you as advice is go to your county court house and file for visitations.  If you are fit and stable then you will get visitations through court and she will have to let you see your daughter...if she don't then she will be in contempt against a court order.
162015
I dont live in your state, but maybe able to tell you a few things..... If your girl is now 13 yrs old, then when going to court, she maybe able to speak her mind to the jugde.. Tell the judge that when you gace your parents temp cust. that you planned on getting her back when the time was right for yourd daughter, and for you... Always put your girls name first when tlaking to the judge... Tell him that you have a good place to stay, and have an income...And that you are able to care for her now. And that she has told you she wants to live with you. Go get the papers from court and start filling them out. Dont tell your parents that you are now filling. Let them find out when they get served.... That way you have a fighting chahce at getting her back. Catch them off guard. Have your girl write a letter to the judge telling him why she wants to live with you now. And that may help too. Find out from your county court house what is the age that the judges litsen to kids.. in cases like this... Bring anyone that is on your side to show that you area ble to care for her now. Just having to prove that you are a fit mother is all you have to do.
542443
NO ONE SHOULD BE ABUSED IN ANY SHAPE FROM OR FASHION, VERBAL ABUSE IS JUST AS BAD AS PHYSICAL ABUSE. YOU SHOULD NEVER THINK OF KILLING YOURSELF TO GET OUT OF A WASTELESS MARRIAGE. THEN ON TOP OF THAT YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO STAND THERE AND SEE ANY OF THIS. WHAT PEOPLE FAIL TO REALIZE IS THAT CHILDREN FOLLOW WHAT THEY SEE. YOUR DAUGHTER DOESN'T NEED TO THINK THAT THIS IS OK, YOU DON'T WANT HER LETTING A GUY OR ANYONE AT THAT TREATING HER THAT WAY. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE THINKS THAT IT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE, BUT EIGHT YRS OF ABUSE IS ENOUGH. LEAVE HIM, MOVE OUT, AND FILE FOR DIVORCE
978127
Let up a little and don't always correct the kid.  She probably resents the fact that you think she is always in need of your brains and help.  Allow her to make some mistakes and when she wants your help she can approach you if she wants.
352352
Explain to them, if they are old enough to understand what you are saying, that what they did was wrong and if they do it again, there will be consequences for it.  Time out, no tv, no games, no playing outside or having friends over, are some suggestions.  Also if the kids are near your home, don't let your child near them if they are a bad influence.
726526
i have no answer but i have a suggestion for you \nRUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!  \nsex should never be with held as punishment...you are an adult and she is treating you like a misbehaving child...\nyou deserve better. nobody should have their every move tracked....either she has some kind of device or if you have a cell phone she could be using that (most new ones have some kind of gps thing them) but she is crazy!
359717
I am assuming here that your daughter is in her teens but even if she is older it is in everyone's hearts to show their parents that they are independent and capable of making decisions for themselves. Any efforts by you to tell them they are wrong can only drive them harder to prove they are right. I think it is time to let her ride this one through. No matter how much your heart aches to see her obviously making a mistake, you are going to have to bite your tongue and put some trust in the good things you have taught her. If you have done right by her and taught her well she will come to her senses...  Fighting her will only push her away.\nTough call I know, but again... have trust in the values you have taught her....
524927
What ever you do not beat her. She's going through a stage that most teenagers go through. Try to speak to her to see what is wrong with her?  But if it's just an attitude it cant be that bad.
852994
lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework.  also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.
703406
Maybe you could get her a book about manners!  :)  Or one on how to get along with other kids?   lol  Maybe it would help.  \nSeriously, I have known kids like that and almost always they are bratty or mean because they have some serious problems with the adults in their lives and they act out their pain.  \nGood luck to you!
673958
You should forgive her BUT speak to her and try and find out way she says nasty things, she probally has deeper problems and is taking her anger out on you
791288
Go and talk tot he teacher and the school management and raise all the hell you want. Keep your daughter home and threaten the management that you will report this to media and police and take the school and the teacher to court, if they do not take suitable actions against the teacher. You do not want your daughter to let anyone mark her for life and you have to be the one to set an example of being courageous and fight back.
935970
grab her by the scruff of the neck...throw her out of the house belongings and all....tell her to get respect yer have to earn it and that its your house not hers...if she thinks she is so cool tell her go find her own way....you dont have to put up with that kind of crap wether its one of your kids or not
59069
I understand your worry.  How disabled is your daughter?  Is it possible for her to get along in a group home with others with her same condition where they have people to help and monitor the situation? Maybe to start introducing her to prospective situations or people now so that she is familiar with them.  Do you belong to a religious community?  Since I don't know how much help your daughter needs its hard to think of ideas but you are welcome to e-mail me - I will try and help you think of ideas for the future.
626469
Unless you deliberately did something to deserve this treatment, you don't need to do anything. Give her some time and space to cool off.  Some people have passionate personalities, and the worst thing you can do is smother or corner them when they are agitated.  Just let her be herself and if she has any sense whatsoever, she will appreciate you all the more for it.