how can you tell your partner of 5 years that you are not in love with him without hurting his feelings.?
106302
You can't...unless he feels the same way
1005449
you have doubts!!!?? write them all out and think whether the objections you have right now -aka the things about your man that you are not so happy about - and really THINK and decide whether these are the things you are willing to live with for the rest of your life. If in 5 years you will still think those things about him are as bad as they are now ( well bad enough to give you doubts). Its better to do a favor to both of you and be very SURE before committing to marriage. Good luck =)
670273
i think you need to have a heart 2 heart talk. lay you cards out and be open with him. just because you dont spend time together like you used to dose not mean it should be over. in relationships things change and the only way to keep the rship alive is to adapt to the change. maybe he thinks you are the one who is changing. you will never know if you dont find out. if you care about him you wont let him go. good luck
384423
You need to talk to him about it.  There's nothing worse than being with someone and then one day out of the blue your partner drops a bomb on you, saying they don't love you anymore and it's over.  If they had no idea something wasn't working because you never discussed it with them, it makes it 100 times harder for them to deal with the break-up and get over it/you.  It's not fair.  Do the mature, adult thing.
349561
There is nothing to do. Don't make the mistake and tell him that you love him if you don't. You might not love him now but, whose to say that you won't love him in the future? You might not love him but, you obviously have feelings for him because you are with him. Give it time love doesn't always happen instantly, it takes time. Don't force yourself to feel something that is not there.
441883
If you really love him how could you tell him something so hurtful . Love doesn't hurt the people it cares about .  you may love some other guy but the thing is that other guy is not your husband .  You really need to sit back and pull yourself together .  You promised you would love your husband till death parted you . Don't break that promise I think he loves  you and you crushed him .
1010863
well if you dont love him then dont say it...and certinly dont ask him to repeat himself when he does say it if you dont hear him...you cant help who you love lol or in your case dont love but that doesnt mean that you dont like him and like being with him...so until you dont want to be with him anymore stay with him maybe your strong feelings for him will turn into love...and if he does love you and he does say it to you loud enough for you to hear him...then thats when you need to talk to him...dont say it if you dont mean it....i dont think many people know how strong that word really is and how much it means.....tell him the feelings that you do have for him...let him know that their strong and you really care for him....and eventually as the relationship goes on you will love him...you really need to talk about that if the situation arises....i wish you the best
66124
Be straightforward with him. Get him when he isn't busy and tell him you need to talk to him. Just say "hey buddy, you know that I love you. But I need to know if you feel the same way about me. If you don't please tell me, because I am not going to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back." Just say something similar to that. Good luck girl...
22639
No. Telling him will only make you feel better and\nmake him feel betrayed. Keep your mouth shut and if\nyou love him, never never never do anything like that again. If you don't love him enough to be true\nleave him and let him find someone who does. Life is\nshort. There is no time to waste with people who do\nnot care about you.
841600
just be honest with him, although he may be hurt, he'll appreciate the honesty.\n\nin the short term, avoiding the issue has short term advantages with long term consequences.....\n\ndifficult and honest action has long term positive consequences and will show that you're considerate about others feelings rather then inconsiderate.\n\nmrben
853713
No, don't bury your feelings, Just cover it witha blanket......Let him know that you really care for him, tell him he is handsome, he must always be aware that you love him.....but please don't remind him too much about your love...You see...He's got his own feelings of INSECURITY...Must take care of that.\n\nTELL ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE and ask more from the \nHARI _ the GURU at\nnoalvida2006@yahoo.com
668311
the best way is to tell him how you feel, and ask him if he feels the same, i know easier said then done. but it works and it will take the wonder wheel off you head. trust me.
888364
Let's back up one step.\n\nI suspect that there is a good reason you have recently begun "telling him how passionately and deeply you love him".  You feel insecure about his love, and are hoping he will affirm his devotion to you.\n\nYou should feel insecure!  After all you've given your heart and body to him for six years yet he hasn't shown you a committed kind of love - by asking you to marry him.   You just keep giving yourself and giving yourself hoping to keep him, hoping to coax him into loving you more, hoping that his devotion to you is equal to your (desperate) feelings for love-security.\n\nForget wanting his words of affirmation.  Words are cheap - used car salesmen and politicians use lots of nice words.\n\nGet a commitment or tell him to get lost.\n\nThen you will know.
652890
try and find something that you both have interest in and then if that doesnt work than you need to have a talk with him and let him know how you feel about him not wanting to spend much time with you
343532
not telling him would be bad tell him of course there is nothing wrong to tell someone you love them that is one of the most important things in life is to be loved and love life would be a sad place if you didnt if you cant tell him in person tell him over the phone on the computor in a letter or send him a card do it how ever it is 3 words that could change the rest of your life good luck
478858
If you're really not sure of what you feel for him, then just try to entertain him about his feelings for you... Never tell a person you love him/her if you're not sure because it really hurts in their part when you don't show it to them... Try to think first before making any moves and be sure of everything if you're talking about true commitment... You can also try telling him about your feelings that at this moment, you're still not sure what you feel, if he's matured enough, he will understand you, and if he really loves you, he will wait for your decision without lessening his feelings for you... Also use the situation right now to test if what he feels for you is true...
674981
After seven years with someone you should be able to comprise....all you can do is talk about the situation and let him know how depressed this is makin you feel...if he loves you which he should do after so long he might think about it abit more...communication is the best way...and honesty