What do you do when someone you care about is talking about suicide?
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It sounds like he just wants attention. I've been to the suicide place before too, and all I wanted was to be loved and cared for. A lot of the time when people talk about suicide they merely want attention. But you really can't pay attention to what they're like when you're around them. You have to see what they're like when they're alone because most people will act like normal people while they're out and go home and kill themselves. There are a few things you could do. Tell his parents, his friends, the police, take him to church, a doctor, on top of all that just be there for him.
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Personally I would want someone to tell me. I mean really you could be saving someones life by telling them that. If they get an attitude just apologize and figure you probably won't see them again so who cares but I would definitely say something if I were in your shoes.
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Acknowledge the person's response and listen to what he or she has to say.  You indicated he or she may be dying, so this is not the time to argue, but to listen.  He or she may have learned some valuable lessons and willing to share with you.
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Right or wrong isn't really an issue with suicide.  The consequences are.  If you die, you have no consequences -- that's the intrigue, isn't it?  No consequences, no more feelings, no more life.  But think about the people you leave behind -- and there are ALWAYS people you will leave behind, no matter what you think.  Your death would affect people you thought you didn't even know, not to mention your family and friends.  I know what it's like to be left behind by a suicide victim, and it isn't fun.  It's been years and I am just starting to 'get over it'.\n\nAs for the cutting, it's really great that you're helping your friend.  That is the right thing to do.  Let her know you're there for you and let her know that you care.  Does she know you haven't stopped -- does she even know you do it too?  If not, you might consider talking about it with her -- what it feels like, why you feel like you have to do it, why it's so hard to stop.  It might help her out to hear from someone who is going through the same thing.\n\nYou do need to make an effort to stop, though -- SI is a serious problem.  If you're not comfortable talking to your parents (I understand if you're not), go to your school counselor or talk to a trusted ADULT friend.  Encourage your friend to do the same -- talking to a peer is not quite the same as talking to an understanding authority.\n\nI wish you all the best.  You can do it! :)
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You need to tell her family.. Your friend needs mental help before she does something too extreme, and dies. Tell,...because you care, you know you do or you wouldn't be posting this question if you didn't. But tell someone that can HELP. Good Luck.
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Lots and lots of signs.\n\nGiving away beloved possessions. Seems to indicate that the person doesn't need those things anymore, or won't for long.\n\nA deep depression followed by a carefree euphoric attitude...if there is something dark enough for a person to consider killing themselves, then they act like nothing is wrong, it may mean they have a plan and they believe they have solved the problem, now they just need to implement it.\n\nTalking about death, saying they want to die, talking about dead relatives and wanting to see them again, researching methods to die, a sudden interest in afterlife or other religious ideas.\n\nAbandoning goals. An ambitious student that stops studying. A hard worker that no shows his job. A good parent who neglects their children. Losing sight of long term things...again, the rationale is that these things don't matter anymore.\n\nOR the opposite. Seeming desperate to finalize details about things. Or lining up a scenario for after the fact. A note, a will, cleaning up the scene beforehand, arranging belongings, a shrine of some sort. \n\nAny sudden change in behavior can make you wonder. If a person goes dark after being mostly happy, if they go quiet after being mostly chatty, if they seem opposite of the way they used to be.\n\nIf you think a person is suicidal you have nothing to lose by coming RIGHT OUT and asking them if they are, and if they have a plan, and when/where/how. The more concrete answers they give you, the more serious they are and the more important it is that they get some help. \n \nYou can start by talking to your friend's loved ones. Other friends, family, their minister, their teachers, their boss, whomever you think may have some influence on the person. You can actually do an intervention of sorts. Gather all these people together and let the person know how much support they have.\n\nYou can also contact the local crisis hotline, or the hospital or any local mental health facility, you can talk to police or a lawyer to see what avenues you have as far as getting TO the person if they have secluded themselves, or having their rights temporarily suspended so you can get them help.\n\nSome facts. Most suicide attempts are not really trying to kill themselves, it is a cry for help. \n\nMost women who try to kill themselves choose more passive ways, this is a generalization and not always true. Overdose is very common, gassing. The most violent ways are cutting. As such, women live through a LOT more suicide attempts than men.\n\nMen tend to choose more violent ways. Shooting, hanging, jumping. These are quicker, more definite message that the person intends to die. Messier, and less reversible.
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I am trying to understand your question.First thing, people who call their friends and hint that they want to end their lives do not want to die. your friend is hoping that you will stop her.(got the feeling it's not done yet,I hope,seeing she has done this before) \nShe is calling out to you for HELP.\nHere is something from Module 6-Counseling 11, from when I used to do Crisis Hot-line .\nThe decision to commit suicide is usually the result of a long-term,gradual erosion of the person's ability to cope with negative emotions.She may feel overwhelmed and hopeless;suicide may seem to be the only option.\nStudies have shown that majority ofsuicidal people do not want to die. A number of warning signs can indicate the possibilityof suicide,including:\nsuicide threats, depression, apathy,or withdrawal, giving away prized possessions,making a will ,abrupt changes in behavior, the recent death of a loved one,family history of suicide,family disruptions such as divorce or the break-up of a relationship, and a clear reduction in the fear of death.Many people report that before a loved one committed suicide, he or she seemed "better". In fact , a sudden lifting of sadness, depression, or withdrawal may indicate that the decision to commit suicide has been made. Person may seem calm and at "peace" At this point,the suicide risk is often very high.\n\nHigh risk\nSuicidal feelings seem to be growing stronger, and  a plan has been thought out,but the details have not been worked through.Previous suicide attempts, af any, may be more recent, with higher lethality.\nyour friend seem to fall in high risk category. She has attempted this before. \nShe is looking for a way to end the pain and stress she feels. \nKeep her on the phone if you can , you might have to intervene for your friend, by calling the cops, telling them where she lives, her telephone number, if necessary. \nRemember whatever, happens you have done the best you can, and you might have to seek support for yourself.\nI do not know where you are but here is a 800 info -line \n(800) 203-1234  this is a state wide suicide hot-line that can be called 24 hours a day. There may be options in your area, or her area. Let your Mom know what is happening.\nHope I was able to help.
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people are in shock and calls are  made to let people know...a friend of mine commited suicide 12 days ago...there is no standard way to deal with this and many people act differently
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Make your friend understand that you are here for him/her and that sadness or bad situations never last, try to give him/her hope and if it's really serious advise him/her to see a doctor who could bring light to such mental ordeal(hope you understand what I mean)
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You mention suicide, but just in case, please read here:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watc
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CONTINUE LOVING YOURSELF. YOU ARE VERY FORTUNATE TO BE IN THIS SITUATION. MANY people out there are committing suicide because they thought nobody loves them. You are blessed.
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.Nope they wont call the cops on you. If they did nobody would ever call. You'll be totally anonymous. They're there to help people. Simple as that. Sometimes a person has nobody to talk to at all. No family or friends they feel comfortable with. Sometimes talking to a complete stranger is easier. Plus the person who answers the phone knows what they're talking about. They've either tried to commit suicide or they had someone they were close to commit suicide.\nI'm not qualified to talk to anybody about it really. My best friend did shoot himself in the head though just over 6 years ago now. So I do know from personal experience the pain he caused me and his family. He left a wife and two little girls. I didn't get a chance to help him. I had no idea it was coming. Tell your friend to deal with their pain and talk to someone so their family and friends don't have to feel it. k?\n.
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Get some help:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, knitting or visiting a
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Sometimes people are really good at putting on a big act about how they're "fine" and "happy"--some people are good at lying, or at least hiding the real truth.  A lot of times, people feel really pressured to perform a certain way, like they're "supposed" to be happy because they have stuff, money, family, friends, good job, good house, good car...all that crap that's nice but doesn't make you happy.\n\nIf you're not happy, you can be surrounded by a banquet and starve.  People may care about you, but you might not care about yourself.  So when you see glimpses and flashes of unhappiness, that might be a lot more honest than her facade of everything being OK.\n\nDon't pressure her if she really doesn't want to talk about it--you don't want her to get defensive and push you away.  She always has the choice to avoid you--in fact, she has the choice to kill herself if that's what she wants.  You can't fix her problems, and you're not responsible for her actions.  But don't take that like there's nothing you can do.\n\nIf you get a *little* resistance, a *little* hesitation...push forward.  Push her to tell you the truth.  Push her to get professional help.  Push her to find out what's really important and go for it--fulfillment can make a person feel much more important and useful to the world.  Ever heard, "idle hands are the devil's playthings"?  If you're unhappy but you force yourself to do *something*, something helpful to yourself or others, it can take your mind off being depressed and it can give you a sense of purpose.  \n\nBut she shouldn't go for the temporary fix.  If her meds aren't working, she should try new ones.  If she's not in therapy, she should get in therapy.  If she has any addiction issues (not saying she does, but you don't know for sure what she's hiding), she needs to deal with those.  \n\nAnd remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  It may not be that she wants to die--sometimes, it's not about that.  Sometimes, it just seems like the only way to escape from the problems of life.  You need to encourage her to strengthen the part of herself that wants to live (I'm sure there's part of her that wants to live, or is at least ambiguous about suicide.)  Encourage the part of her that realizes that the future might be better.  I used to feel way worse than now, and part of getting better was just slogging through the bad times, waiting for something better.  \n\nDepression is hard, cruel, boring sometimes.  It's a drain and a plague--I can think of a lot of diseases I'd rather have than depression.  But it's a disease, and diseases can get better--just keep telling her that.  Be persistent.  She might get irked at you now, but she'll thank you later.
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Dear Looking For..,\n There are many selfish people in the world that think 'if you are their friend you can have no other friends.' These people are insecure and they're probably some of the most depressing people you could choose to be around. Your 'suicide thoughts' might be because of this person is making you feel trapped and posessed by them (her). I advise you to get away from her and make new friends. She can grow up and except it or be lonely, but don't let her bring you down anymore! You aren't her property! \n\n If you have anymore suicide thoughts, Honey, go talk to your Mom or your school counselor, because you may need medicine to help you with depression. \n I wish you happiness and many new friends.\n           Hope_I_Helped!
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killing yourself is never the answer. . .it wont solve anything. . .\nthink about more than just yourself, think about the people you'll affect if you harm yourself\n\nY do u want to end your life? Im sure there's things in your life that are worth living for. . .youre just focusing on the negative. . . \nthings WILL GET BETTER. . .they always do . . .\nI myself have considered suicide and almost went thru with it, but someone made me realize that i was put here for a reason and every life has a purpose, even tho u may not realize it. . .there's ppl that care about you, and  things that you were destined for. . .i think you just need someone to talk to. . .feel free to pm me if you want to talk \ns/n - cutew1thoutda_e
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Is there someone in your family you can talk to about how you're feeling? A close friend? If not, there are hot lines you can call where they have experts available to help you, and help you find solutions to your problems. When people talk about killing themselves, it's usually a cry for help. You need to seek out that help (you've already taken the first step.) There are experts with a lot of experience that can honestly help you deal with whatever pressures, difficulties, or depression is causing you to feel this way. A lot of people have felt exactly the same way you are feeling, and have gotten through it. You're definitely not alone, and happiness is not something that is unattainable, even though it may seem that way now. I wish I could offer you better advice. I certainly know how you feel.