why do i and my husband get a long togehter a work and fight when we get home?
103888
spending tooo much time together...you need to spend time apart...when you wake up..you see each other....at work ..you see each other...you see each other all the time...catch my drift
877649
First, if he attacks you about such things, tell him to talk to your husband when he gets home, then close the door. Then your husband should ask about a written form that states whatever rules he may have, which is actually something you should have gotten when you moved in. If he is making up the rules as he goes along, then next time your husband can tell him his 'new rule' is not in the written agreement and close the door on him.
541457
This feeling can occur alot especially if you are feeling overwhelmed by responsibility within the relationship. You may feel that you are carrying more of the weight than the other person. There is also in-laws, friends, etc to deal with other than your own. Don't try, but DO, schedule time away, whether at the park, library, track, gym, spa, knitting club,etc. Find time for you. Time for you to leave your troubles at the door.
691992
Sweety you're mad because you do not know or understand what is going on with him. It very well may be that he is trying to pack and work at the same time and trust me it is not easy.I did this one day and the next thing I know there was a female officer in my face in the middle of the night because I did not hear anyone knocking at the door. My boyfriend at the time had them kick the door in so that he could see if I was okay. Personally I think it was something else. Plus, I had children to take care of.
940513
I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
260508
Think about it, day in day out, they are dealing with the scum of the earth, would that make you a little moody once in a while, just like you having a period, he is on his period...ha ha ha.\n\nIt's a hard job to deal with, he may need to figure out how to leave that job at work when he comes home.
1115917
With God all things are possible. Please don't forget that.\n\nIf your husband  doesn't believe you cant handle responsibilities believe me he wouldn't travel a lot.\nHandling responsibilities is a character of a virtuous women(Prob 31:10) there is time for everything: time to work,play, eat, cry, rejoices and fight.(Eccl 3)\nAnd I strongly believe your marriage (not relationship) will last and stand the test of time. When couple fight it may be for a lot of reasons: maybe you spend more time at work or he is not doing things you know him for. when you leave work leave everything that pertains to your work at the office and face your family and home squarely.create time to take your husband out on a date and rediscover yourselves, don't let your drive for success get between your family. \n\nWishing you the best.
968583
yeah...myhusband nags more than i do, and im the woman!  he gets mad about EVERYTHING.  helping me with the garbage, with dishes, cleaning, always looking over my shoulder and asking my why im doing what im doing and getting mad because i tell hi to leave me the hell alone or dont answer.   whats up with it?!
994567
My husband and I have been married for a year and have been together for 5 years.  The first year was fine...2 months after we started dating I moved to Texas with my parents...9 months later I moved back to where he was and we moved in together I'd say about 6 months later is when it started.  He would get really angry because I was complaining too much about his job or that he wouldn't do the dishes when I asked and he would throw chairs...at the time we had those little plastic picnic chairs...and clothes at me or near me.  He would yell and scream at me and get right up in my face.  I don't remember him ever laying a hand on me during that time though.  About a year or two later we ended up breaking up mostly because we needed to be our own people for a while considering I was 17 when we moved in together and he was 20.  We were apart for about 2 months then we got back together and I moved in with him and his roommate at the time.  About a month or so later we got our own place and soon after that is when the major abuse started.  I never chalked it up as abuse though until I was watching some show and realized that my boyfriend was abusing me.  When he would get really mad at me he would grab my neck and pin me to the wall or throw me to the couch or the bed or where ever we were.  He has only slapped me twice and I've gotten a few bruises on my neck.  After I realized it was abuse I started to fight back and when he would grab my neck I would kick at him and push him away...I only did that a couple times because it made him even more angry.  We did end up getting married about 6 months after we got back together.  A lot of the abuse happened soon after we got married.  I only remember actually losing my breath and struggling to breath once...and that was a couple of months ago when we were in a car and arguing about he wanted to change his oil in front of an auto parts store but there was a guy outside that when my husband was in the store kept walking past the car looking at me in a weird way so when my husband came back to the car I told him I wanted to leave and told him the reason and so he got all upset and acted like a total baby and so on the way home I told him that him being my husband should want to protect me and want me to feel safe and whatever and I guess I said something wrong and he reached over and grabbed my neck and didn't let go right away like he normally did.  We got home soon after that and I went in and started to pack my things to leave and he came in and threw me on the bed and told me I wasn't leaving so I decided to leave my things and just leave and he just kept stopping me grabbing my wrists and he pushed me and I fell over a foot rest and hit my head.  I don't remember why I didn't leave.  but since then we have gone to a counselor I think two times...but now he works so much that we argue on the phone.  He never did this when he was drinking...we don't drink very much.  I don't know how he could do this to me either...he always said it was because I knew what made him mad but I still did it.  I have changed because of this...I don't say as much anymore and I pick and choose my words...I can't say I am afraid of him though.  I still say what I want when I'm really angry.  I know hes more afraid of my step dad than I am afraid of him though.  It use to happen at least once a week to twice a month.  We don't have kids...we have animals...whenever he kicks the dog I kick him...so see I'm not that afraid of him...I am for a couple weeks after the events happen though but normally I'm not.  He is intimidating though because hes a foot and a half taller than me.
1113426
My husband is working from home, so I'm stressed.  I can't do any housework with him home.  I have to be quiet so he can have his conference calls and I'm bored!
576397
well it sounds to me like u guys spend way to much time togehter that right there causes fights. ur right u need ur time and he needs his as well. as far as the friends thing sometimes marrages done work if friends are to close. rather having friends u both can go out with together. id say find a new job where yall arent together all the time. u say u love ur husband and u probably do and u say ur not inlove with him anymore, it isnt that ur not inlove with him u just never have time to feel the feeling of missing him . distance makes the heart grow fonder and if there isnt any distance well then it makes u want to get away. as far as his jeliousy...well thats because he is insecure about hisself. it is nice to have a man show a  little jeliousy once in awhile cause it lets u know he cares but to much then it creates problems. have u thought of maybe some marrage councoling for the both of u? maybe that would work. but if u truely are not inlove with this man which deep down i know u love him and want things to just feel right again. then id file for a devorce. but i would definatly try finding a job away from him, try some counciling. start there first. good luck to u hun
346668
It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
372640
Was he that way before you married him? If so, why would you expect it to be different now?\n\nIf he wasn't, then--as said above--you've probably run rampant at home and he doesn't feel the need, or is trying to "balance" the situation. Could also be med/psych reasons too.
251609
Good Lord No way!!!!  My poor hubby works 12 hour days as well as Saturdays.  He comes home so tired and worn out but he still makes time for me and our son.  Sundays he spends mowing lawns, and weeding, and working on our vehicles.  My poor man goes thru torture every day just so I can be a stay at home mom!  If I did switch places it would be so he could stay home for a day and relax on the couch watching Dr.Phil!!!!  He deserves it!  I would not want to have his day!!!!
690450
you said my man. first of all there is a difference between your man and your husband. no man or woman has authority over another.  if he is your husband neither one of you need to be out all night..real late alone.  it poses a problem for the  marriage either way. you have to have an agreement and beable to live with the consequences.. however.. with the exception of safety and security reasons. .. there is no logical reason a man has a different curfew than his wife. go out together and you wont have that problem.
285987
Are you at his house? Is he at your house? Are you two living together? By reading your question, I will say that you put too much weight on this matter.  My mother is like that.  She will stay up all night waiting to see when my father or me will come home if we said something wrong that day.  This is normal human behavior. However, I like to caution you that a relationship which consist of arguing and one person staying up all night until the other person coming home (so that they can talk) is no real relationship.  He is probably seeing someone I'm sorry.  A man is not a REAL man if he can't be precise.  Men tends to excused themselves to get some free time or some space.  Sweety, in the long run, you are going to be the one who loses at the end.  You will never feel any better in the morning, trust me.  There are many other nice guys out there.  However, please look at the situation carefully and see why are you two arguing.  You may be the problem.  All your worries at night will just push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.  If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriends and your family about this.  This is SERIOUS matter.  A sweetheart like you does not need to be staying up all night and worrying like that.  Instead you should be sleeping well and warm and waking up to beautiful flowers next to you, from him.  Do not do anything more to stress you..   Serpeanta@yahoo.com
363554
i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)