how do you let go of someone you broke up with? without causing too much pain?
103315
it's easy, just tell him/her u're no longer involved. The sooner he/she gets to know, the better.Or else u will be fooling urself thinking he/she still loves u
876970
Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and try to move on.  I know it's probably the hardest thing you could possibly do right now, but the longer you let it drag on, the harder it will be.  In the end, a clean break is the best and easiest way.  Eventually you'll get over it.\n\nGood luck.
43839
Say "Good-bye", give a great "Sponge Bob" wave.  \n\nDon't waver from this...unless you want to look foolish.  If your ex wants you back, they'll let you know.  So, you can hold your dignaty and bow out, or you can beg and beg and beg only to be rejected more and more and more.\n\nIt hurts, all I can recomend is find something that makes you happy...Go find happiness.
27176
He doesn't own you, you don't need his permission to move on if you yourself want to. What makes it hard to move on is ourselves. I am speaking from my own experience. I told him it's over between us but I still couldn't get over him because I still love him. If you don't love him anymore, it won't be hard to move on. Why should you care it will hurt him? If you care, it means you still have feelings for him. So the question is how we stop loving them because what and why they do things won't mean anything to us anymore if we can let go.
179373
there really isn't a "delicate" way aside from just saying "it's over, really really over" and sticking to it. how do you do that? \n\nwell, your first step is realizing how much you really want to stay out. you have found yourself going back, and now you feel like a jerk because you're not into it as much as she is. so think of it this way: how would you feel if she was the one coming back to you when she was "bored or lonely"--wouldn't you be mad and hurt? you don't want to hurt this person do you? so stop doing that. you're being a jerk. (not a bad person, but just not who you should be.)\n\nthe next thing you need to do is set a period during which you will not call or contact or hang out or talk more than in passing and out of courtesy with this person. tell her and yourself that this is necessary for your to transform your relationship into a platonic one. if she keeps calling you, then stick to your rule. (i.e., don't answer the phone, and don't call her back. the common courtesy of a greeting when you meet outside the home is okay, but try to make it not go beyond "hi how are you?")  i'd make it a period of about four to six months. \n\nget out there and talk to and look at and be around other women. get to know other women. date. even if it's the friendly sort of date that doesn't go anywhere. cultivate your crushes. enjoy your life. find a new hobby or hang-out that has nothing to do with your old relationship. in fact, try one that your old girlfriend didn't like or prevented you from doing. look forward to finding someone you can love. \n\nthe reason i have never "gone back" is because i keep focused on the reasons why i don't want to be with that person, and i remind myself that being alone is a good thing. i also remind myself that it is a waste of time to be with someone who doesn't present as the "love of your life."
318753
In past experience, I've learned that the best way to get over someone is to give yourself an allotted grieving time...I say a week or less, and then start doing something to take your mind off of the situation, or at least alleviate the thought of that person. I have found one of the best things is exercise...or try something you've never done before...a new hobby or sport. It's a great way to distract you, plus you might meet some new interesting people as well.
223399
Do it at your own pace, there's no time limit on how long it will take, but one day you will suddenly realise that you hadn't thought about him/her at all. Splitting up can cause all sorts of stress - maybe you've had to move, change job, or have children together, or perhaps it was a nasty split or there was another person involved. Apparently, it can take half the length of the relationship to get over it - so in your case, you could allow a couple of years. Although I thought I was over my ex, who I was with for 5 years, it was definately a couple of years later that I realised he wasn't in the back of my mind any more. Good friends, time, and trying to be determined that it is not going to get you down will help. Perhaps there's an up-side to being single - you can try new things that you would't have done with your ex. If the situation is making you feel depressed or ill, you could try talking to a counsellor. Good luck.
113176
Yes, love does hurt..once its gone...Have you ever broken up with someone? ...
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.
206232
Ending a relationship hurts.  Just take time for yourself.  Do the things you didn't get to do as often when you were with her.  Try something new.  But definitly don't rush into a new relationship.  It's only been a day, like you said.  It will get better, I promise!
696751
find another guy! cut him off completely.. thats the best way to get over someone. and also finding other guys to keep your mind off him. but dont talk to him. or feelings will just come back. CUT HIM OFF!
1077283
getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
1031051
let her go and move on.
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
232306
Oh baby.. Ask ur heart.. Is it really possible for u or the other person to b 'friends' after having broken up? U'll find the answer if u ask this to urself honestly..\nI believe that just to make matters uncomplicated and simple u can 'say' him/her that u'll remain friends just so as to console her at the moment.. but i m sure u wont be able to take this friendship to far..as u r aware..a broken heart stings!
349701
it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.
180405
I have found that one of the hardest parts of letting go is allowing yourself to see the person who broke your heart.  When you see her, you are allowing yourself to feel all the emotions over again and it makes it difficult for you.  If you stop spending your free time going back to her, then you can fill your days with things you enjoy doing.  You will feel better about yourself and will not feel the pain caused by being rejected by her again.  She will always be in in your heart and you will think of her from time to time, but that doesn't mean you can't live a happy life without her.