Should I make friend with my dating partner on chatting? Is it good or harmful?
101196
The internet affords an arms-length way to communicate with another person.  Don't be in a hurry to press past the privacy it affords.  Making friends, however, can happen by email; having lovers, inevitably, does not.  Just recognize that the internet is redefining a lot of words, and among those is "friend."  I have a "friend" in Texas and one in San Franciso, neither of which I have ever met, or have any real prospects of meeting.  I thought I had one in India, too, but I haven't heard from him in a while.  If I defined "friend" as one who corresponds frequently, I'd have to count him out.  But I'll be glad to hear from him whenever he writes again, because that's the nature of this friendship.\n\nTake it easy, and enjoy!
811944
Meeting someone online is the new way to meet others these days. Especially for people in their 20's. No it's not shameful. It is how I met my fiance. We were friends first for a few years, then we took our friendship to the next level. It all depends on where and who your looking for. There's so many different chat rooms, dating sites and what not. I met my fiance in a chat room on PalTalk. I never would have tried any dating sites cause I wasn't actually looking for someone. Whether your looking for friendship first, then a relationship, it's all up to you. No one can decide where and who to look for. Hope ya find the one your looking for!
284119
I think that you should spend good quality time together as often as you like, as long as your not getting on each others nerves. When dating first starts it all about getting to know each others likes and dislikes. If your really into each  other then I see know reason not to spend as much time as possible together, that way you can really see what a full time relationship would be like and if the both of you can handle it.
529201
Well that is a tough question - if you are serious with someone - no one should come between you. However, just because you are with someone does not mean that you should not have your own friends - actually you should still maintain your own friends because even in a relationship that it rock solid - you need down time or personal time. You still need to be you. However, you should not put them before your man or girl. \nHope that helps
652930
hi guy,\n\nsometimes you should not listen to your feeling, but listen the the person.\n\nface to face talk is the best way to know each others' idea and thinking.\n\nmisunderstanding will break many sweet things...\n\nbest wishes.
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There's nothing wrong at all with silence in a conversation; in fact, I find it preferable to meaningless, silence-filling phatic noise.  ("Phatic": good word; look it up because it truly describes elements of your sitch.)  To keep a convo going, be a genuinely interested audience.  This could be challenging if the one talking is prattling on about something in which you have no interest, but I suspect that's not the case in aborning relationships.  And it's absolutely OK to re-direct a stalling conversation by changing subject; just do it with tact and charm.  Your communication skills, which are apparent in your query, will serve you well.  As for being out of practice, dude, we all are.  As the so-called rules change (which they do continuously), it's either adapt or avoid.  The fact that you're seeking suggestions speaks volumes: You're wanting to participate and not merely be a passive observer.  Take risks -- safe ones, OK?  And try not to let less than desirable results devastate you.  Have patience and kindness for yourself, the same as you do for your friend(s).
1086044
better?\n\nYou need connections. The people you want to 'message' also have to have it... So what do your friends use? Thats better.
498387
yeh, friendship is the best way to go about it there is a lot you can learn about each other which will help you have real understanding and tolerating each other late when you start dating......
659334
Well clearly he likes chatting with you because he is already doing that. So really it's a very small step to take to make that a chat in the real rather than virtual world. Whether he has stronger feelings is really not relevant at this stage. Just suggest it would be good to meet up when you get back and have a chat over a cup of coffee, I would be stunned if he say's no. Then take it from there, maybe you will just have a friend maybe it will be more but you will never know unless you take that small step of asking.
669932
depends on how close you are to that associate.  If you think you will become friends in the future, then very important.  If not, then it shouldn't matter unless you're just curious.
1002495
Yes. You should just be friends first and get to know one another before having a relationship. As friends talk about interests, what you look for in the opposite sex, what you want in a relationship. Then if things seem good, go out.
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The guidelines say that you're not supposed to use this service to "to chat or have discussions with other members." However, assuming she is interested in conversing with you also, I don't see why it is a problem. There is no way to get her contact info without her giving it to you. I would just leave a comment on one of her questions saying that you would like to get to know her better. I am sure she would be flattered, and I think I know who you are talking about! She seems like a nice lady. Good luck!!
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It works.  I met my bf of almost 3 years through online dating.  That doesn't mean I didn't meet alot of incompatible people.  I used online dating on and off for about a year before I met him.  \n\nOnline dating is just another way to meet people, but it shouldn't be the only way you meet people.  If you're banking on it working, it probably won't because you've invested too much emotionally and your expectations will colour your experience.  It works when you stop hoping each person you meet will be the one and instead, decide to just have fun with the experience, regardless of the outcome.  Yes, even a bad date can be fun.  Think of the anecdotes you can share with your friends.\n\nI find it takes a few weeks to get a feel for how things work.  Then, it's up and down for awhile depending on who you come into contact with.  When it doesn't feel fun anymore, TAKE A BREAK.  Come back in a few months.  Change your profile to reflect how you're feeling.  \n\nIt's important that you feel good about yourself or you won't attract the people you want because who wants to be with someone who's down on themselves?  Online dating is really a reflection of how you're  feeling.  When you feel good about yourself, your online experience improves.  When you feel bad, it tends to be a not so good experience.  \n\nI was about to pull my dating profile because I found I was meeting lots of people through offline methods.  However, my friend pointed out that it wasn't costing me anything (financially or emotionally) if I just left my profile up.  \n\nI thought she made a good point, so I decided to rewrite my profile one last time and put it out there.  When I rewrote it this time, I stopped caring about what other people would think about what I wrote or how they might judge me.  Instead, I wrote a profile that reflected exactly how I felt and who I was at that moment.\n\nAnd then, I started to meet interesting people.  Shortly thereafter, I met my bf and things have been going well since.
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You can find online friends and even make real friends from that if they live close enough. Not knowing your age, and well heck I even know women of years that should never even be need to be told. Just be careful... This is all very anonymous, so in reality you really don't have a clue who you are speaking with. \n Again not knowing your age I don't know where to direct you. \n For myself I made some good online friends in game rooms, like poker or something, where you can actually play and chat at same time.\n I also have made friends in forums where I hold personal interests. Like my health...\n  It really depends this is a very open question.\n I can offer my hand in friendship but I am uncertain about listing my email address on this site. Because you would not be the only one to see it. \n  So be aware there are people who would love to be your friend and there are also some you need to be careful of. I hate to sound negative, but its a fact .   Take care and stay here and maybe somehow we can get together again.   I am a female, married and 48 just to let you know.. take care
11655
If you think that what you're doing may be wrong, then it is. If you feel that the relationship is completely harmless and serves no purpose other than a casual friendship then maybe not.\n\nThe test is if you told your significant other, would they be upset?
1175412
To me it's a little weird.  When I get messages from guys I dont know, I get a turned off.  But you know what, if it helps you improve your communication skills, go for it.  The way we meet people is changing nowadays (online dating and stuff).  Just take the necessary precautions and protect yourself.
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Well . . . you need to stop being on AIM all the time. Time apart gives you time to grow, hence giving you something to talk about when you are together.\n\nAlso, you might not have that much in common with each other. So what you want to talk about he'll think is boring so you don't bring it up . . . and or visa versa.\n\nLove and relationships are very odd things, I'm going to guess that you are young just juding from your question. There is no reason to rush them or think that you might have the answers or that there is always fix to some problems. Life is short have fun.