how important is oral sex in marriage to make marrage more exciting?
111341
Well I believe it is very important to please your partner...For me,   oral is one of the most satisfying ways...as long as the you communicate to the person what you like....
1057855
It's probably nothing at all, a lot of factors can affect a persons sex life, maybe you were stressed about something after all women are more mentally affected by sex than men, what i mean is a lot of the time a couple needs to mix it up, ad some romance or maybe some role playing, it's not as freaky as it sounds and it could be fun with your partner/husband/fiance, most guy's think its cool and some women to. just don't start very big maybe some scented candles and rose petals, it help to create a mood of romance and scented candles also help to stimulate the other senses which can be fun to. But what ever the two of you try just have fun and no worries.
910311
Well, there is much more than just sex in a marriage, nevertheless I do understand needing more and not getting it, we are not all the same, some of us will need much more sex than others, and many times we overlook the fact that  sexual compatibility is a very important factor in our relationships, but not necessarily, the most important one in a marriage,  for example you could very well find in an adventure a very compatible sexual partner that would not measure up in any other way your spouse and may very well be a promiscuous bandit taken advantage of your needs, (unfortunately you will probably not find this out until the sexual spell has come down and then it will be too late). Be very careful in your decision about how to satisfy the extra needs you have, if you care and love your spouse try looking for ways to improve your married sex life, if its not possible and you still retain the hunger, the you should consider leaving your husband and start looking for the right match. Good Luck.
1090977
usually people have oral sex after normal sex but the best thing to is to give oral sex BEFORE normal sex because that way he will last longer and sex will be much better.The most important thing in oral sex is to do it right.every guy likes it different way so you should ask he if he likes what you're doing.every guy likes different things.\n\nHave fun :)
712628
Yes sex is spectacular. but not with every partner every time.  If you aren't feeling ready I would wait.  If you are close with your partner you can have as much fun doing things without penetration.  Anything sexual is exploration.  Every partner will be different and every encounter with the same partner different.  Sex will only be spectacular if you are comfortable with the person you are with and only gets better with time.
1132510
has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
653081
Sex is really great as long as you are with someone you really love. Oral sex is fantastic, try it, you will probably like it. It is another way of showing him how much you love him
978822
well, I have been married for 12yrs and the negative impacts of having intercourse on a daily basis is that it gets hard to keep it new and exciting and sometimes you don't feel well but you do it anyway out of "tradition" and it's not quite the same, on the flip side the positive impacts are that I always have that to look forward to at the end of my day, to relax and enjoy my husband,it pushes us to try new things, and isn't a bad form of exercise either !! It hasn't hurt my marriage in any way, so I think the positives outweigh the negatives in my case.
1173248
Sex is a big part of marriage.  But a successful marriage is a lot more than sex AND love.  Think of it as a business contract.  Or hiring a team member.  Look at the person's qualities.  Honesty, loyalty, compassion.  He she a person of character?  Gives to charity?  Passionate about life?  Educated, if not at least wants to be?  Can you imagine this person the parent of your children?  Will you be proud of this person at thanksgiving dinners?  \n\nLooks go a way too, not just the sexiness, but the ability to dress properly at different gatherings.  To talk and walk properly when needed.  You dont want a ghetto girl hoochie mama who cant put two words of English together, or sits or walks like she is a teenager.  Or a guy who is born with a stick up his butt, overly judgemental, not compassionate, narrowminded.\n\nOf course you cant even picture the one you love in these words right now.  But step back from the infatuation and look carefully at this person.  There are soooo many factors that play in a good marriage.  How does this person deal with a crisis?  With your parents?  \n\n\nNow onto sex.  It IS important. If you are not having good sex, then you will want to have it, and if you dont know how to please yourself at least, you will begin to want it from others.  And if others hit on you sometimes, you may make the biggest mistake of your life.\n\nYour partner may not be very experienced, but may be willing and eager to learn and with a few months practice, you guys may be having a great time.  So dont shut the door if sex isnt great.  It could be that he she is young and innocent.  Believe me, having someone inexperienced but willing who turns out to be great is wonderful.  Its develops a loving romantic sensual relationship and you have all these memories of your silly mistakes, ideas etc.  Its great fun journeying toward great sex together.\n\n\nON the other hand, you could have a man who doesnt want to touch you down there, or a woman who doesnt like positions you really like.  And your partner could be very closed to that.  Or maybe the frequency is not as much as you like.\n\nIn this case you have to see if you can change yourself.  Do you really want to lose a really really good person, because of one factor?  It doesnt seem right.  Sometimes you may have to adjust yourself for the marriage.  (this happens in non sex related things all the time).  If you can please yourself that may help.  Or YOU may be the one who needs to experiment to find what works for BOTH of you.\n\nSo.. sex is a big deal.  But marriage is much more than sex.
453041
I think anything has time and sex is good after marriage... it make you more secure and has more meaning into it.\nmarriage as a "fortress for well-being", the normal and healthy state for adults, where sexual feelings can be safely expressed in a spirit of love. ... are expected to be completely chaste before marriage and totally faithful within marriage
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
990150
If you can talk to him, does he listen to what you say? If he does listen to what you say, then tell him directly that you prefer not to receive oral every night. Perhaps he could vary his advances so that your lovemaking does not become stale after the same repititive thing night after night. Happiness in the bedroom with your loving partner will be better received if there is variation applied.\n\nIf you and your partner can not come to a resolve about this now, it will be more difficult after marriage. Keep all apsects of your relationship out in the open. You are sure to have some disagreements from time to time, but two loving people will find a solution to what is best for both of them.
713204
To Me Its More Intimate Than Regular Sex.\n\nHowever When I AM WITH Someone I Really Care About, I Love Giving Oral
177348
The best thing is to wait until you're married. Okay, enough on the parent speech. The most importantthing about sex is to learn what makes your partner happy. It changes from person to person so its not about what you know, its more about what you're willing to do in conjunction with what your personal likes are.
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
450107
i'm a spouse and i think that sex is very healthy for the marriage. And when you get married it should get better because there are no rules , you are married now and you should do more than you used to because thats you partner for life in the eyes of God. And God says that when you get married the bed is under file nobody's watching and you can get nasty and dirty as much as you want, thats the beauty of beeig married, there is no sin in it.
267503
No!\nMy wife and I have been together for 8 years and I think we can safely say that we are more in love than ever. Most people find, however, that over a period of roughly 4 to 7 years of marriage, the intensity or sense of romantic passion fades and is replaced by a sense of comfortable security that can sometimes seem somewhat uninspiring. Security in love can make people “lazy” in certain way. Relationship therapists can suggest various ways to liven things up and put the “spark” back into married life, but I’m not sure how successful these strategies are in the long run. A related issue is that a lot of people find that marriage ruins their sex life. Personally, I think this is pretty much natural for long-term monogamous relationships. I suppose you can always come up with some examples of a couple who has been married for 40 years and still have a hot monogamous sex life, but at the risk of sounding pessimistic, I think this is incredibly rare, and I think that a lot of people unnecessarily beat themselves up over their inability to stay sexually interested in their spouse. I think the high rates of cheating and divorce provide good statistical support for everything I’ve said so far.\n\nMy wife and I have a lifestyle that works well for us (tho I don’t claim it will work for everyone!) We have an open marriage. This has several amazing effects. For one thing, I think it keeps us both “younger” in some sense. We can openly explore erotic and/or loving relationships, and this means that life can be periodically charged with what is sometimes call “new relationship energy” (NRE). This is that energetic feeling of “walking on air” and everything seems bright and beautiful in the world. Most married people are afraid of this sort of thing, and of course for some people it can lead to jealousy, but in our case it is good for BOTH of us. I find that my freedom to love others increases my love, appreciation, and erotic attraction for my wife.\n\nOf course a lot of people put us down and claim that their love is better than ours because we are missing something or whatever, but they don’t know us, nor do they have any deeper clues than we do about the true nature of love, meaning of life, etc., so I don’t let this bother me – although I do sometimes (like now) get on a soapbox because I think more people need to realize that healthy, happy people can explore alternatives to the standard monogamous marriage script.\n\nIn any case, I don’t see marriage ever killing our love-life.