Relationship issue: How can you help me to find many ways to keep my Fiance to stay interested in me?
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Well, do things like he did,\n\nsometimes it's the little things that keep it fresh \n\ndo things like leave little notes to him leave it in his car,  his pocket, on the mirror \n\nsend him flowers just because, leave messages on his cellphone  voicemail saying u were thinking about him& u love him\n\nwhen u look at him blow a kiss at him wink at him.\n\n have a picnic N the middle of ur livingroom floor, give him a pet name, tell him he so cute even if he just woke up and looking a mess, rub his neck. Come up behind him and hug him.When ur out together act as if ur on a first date( role play)if u role play stay in charater until ur get home\n\nJust anything that will make him & YOU happy to be together and look  4ward to being hubby& wife =-)\n\nGood Luck sweetie\n\nAnd Congaulations =-)
314557
She used to look at me with the most admirable eye-sight,listen carefully what I said to her and the family,she's not agree every time,but showed respect was really made me love her forever.And remind yourself keep  attractive to him by little thing like pick up something in front of him,it's works no matter how long you married.\nGood Luck
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You cannot force love, but it may be that her refusals are either a security thing (she doesn't know your sincerity) or its the whole hard-to-get thing.\n\nMy fiance asked me so many times and I simply wasn't sure, but the more I got to know him, the more I fell in love with him. Looks are not essential, especially to a woman; its a man's personality, devotion, sincerity, selflessness that will touch a woman's heart. Having said that, you cannot force her to feel a certain way. Some people are simply not compatible and maybe its her intuition that is telling her this. \n\nMy advice is to persist but without ramming it down her throat that you're not going to give up. She wants a man who'll be her best friend, so be there for her. Show her that you're not in this for what you can get out of it, but what you can offer her; show her that you'll be there and love her whatever happens, even if she was to fall for someone else. Its all about being genuine.\n\nGood luck. Don't expect results, love isn't a cooking recipe. Be genuine.
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Both of you have to do it, not just you...you may have to teach him by your example?\n\nBe firm but don't lose your temper.\n\nBe kind but don't get walked over.\n\nThink hard but never worry.\n\nCreate a "positive cycle" where everything you both do makes your relationship that little bit better...even if only a tiny little bit each time.\n\nRemember that a sense of humour is infinitely attractive and gets you wnat you want in the long run.\n\nDon't be afraid to be bold.\n\nDon't be afraid to be vulnerable.\n\nRemember that you have to love and like yourself FIRST before you can be the real you in your relationship.\n\nHave fun - you only live once!\n\nBe safe - you only *get* to live once!!
737050
Well first of all way to go getting a younger guy! Pretty big feat! \nBut you really need to think about the fiance. He may have no respect for her, but maybe you should. You didn't mention love, so it shouldn't be that difficult to end. Think of all the other single 25 year olds out there yet to conquer!
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You know what? I don't think it is fair what some of the others have said..i think it is entirely possible to lose abit of that...and what you need to do is relive a lot of the past...remember a lot fo the romantic things you did for him and sneak those things back in to your repetoire...by that I mean...I sent my wife an Easter card when she went back to see her family in South America and she loved it..my wife and I started off by writing and emailing and while we've known each other for 11 years we've been married for 7.  I always try to do things, read old letters, look at pictures and read diaries of things we did together and I try to do them again...go to fine restaurants (tough with a child) but we do what we can.  I haven't fallen out of love with my wife but I think that it is necessary for you to start dating your husband on a weekly basis so that it doesn't happen again-FLIRT WITH HIM-go park..hehe whatever.....life is a long journey..sometimes it seems as though your priorities with children and work that sometimes you may lose the spark a bit..just light the pilot light again and do what you can to get his attention and it doesn't have to go back to the bed-especially if you are trying to see where his feelings lie with you...(no pun intended)...yeah that will get his attention in the short run..as it will in most men...BUT....it won't stand for the long run...so there has to be more.  maybe play hard to get a little..make him feel as though he has to give chase a bit...don't play the game too long...but...entice him..take him out for ice cream or even to a ball game EVEN if you HATE baseball or football...or a concert if he doesn't care for sports...\namusement park..you get the idea...do things that he LOVES to do that you would normally not care so much for because you CARE about doing stuff he is interested in...it is just an idea...surprise him...
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Ok here goes i am gonna talk here for a while so i hope i dont bore you lol. Romance her and spoil her rotten ... Treat her like a queen. Make sure you let her know and feel how special she is to you every day and how sexy and pretty she is! Love her in actions and deed and tell her how much you love and treasure her and that she means everything to you and that you are so glad to have her in your life as she makes you really happy! Hold hands and spend lots of time together with her. Buy her little gifts here and there just because and cards too! Buy her a special pretty necklace! Take her to dinner at a romantic resturant like the Olive Garden or something like that! You do this enough it will become and habit and a way of life for you! The secret is to treat her the way you want to be treated and love and cherish her for who she is! Always find ways to make her feel special and call her throughout the day too just to say hi and that you are thinking of her and that you love her! Also be a good listener and communicate with her. Always be honest and faitful and never hide things from her and be committed no matter what.... If you do this trust me it will work and she will be yours forever!
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Stop taking each other for granted.  Say thank you more.  Notice each other more.  Candle-lit dinner.  Weekend away.  Picnic in the park.  Flowers.  Bath together.  \n\nAll this helps things to go well, but you can't make him want you more.
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OK - I'll take into account the info provided in your other related question as well as the info posted here, as you may have best results. Also I'm speaking from experience here - I was in a similar place to your b/f for a long time - which is never made easy given the stereotypes males are chained to as being the sexual horn-dogs in the human race.\n\n    First thing to do is deal with the stress/health/energy problems. Look at where diet may be impacting things - although hyped up, what we eat (or don't eat) makes a huge difference. Also exercise - try even making part of the exercise routine something you can do together (try doing a few gym classes together). By doing this you not only encourage each other to keep going, you're enjoying doing something new as a couple - plus you're sharing each other's company in a physical environment.\n\n    The other area to tackle of course is the physiological/emotional issues - encouraging him to come out of his shell in the bedroom (or anywhere else you chose for that matter). Part of the solution is to talk to him about how you're feeling, and encourage him to explore the sensual side of the relationship - help to create an environment which encourages exploration and imagination.\n\n    You could even start introducing a few toys or movies into your love life. Or try setting a day (or even an evening) aside each week that is set aside exclusively for romantic activities, and tease the crap out of each other over the preceding days to build up the sexual tension. Send a few erotic emails or text-messages TELLING HIM what you want him to do to you...make it fun, so that there isn't that stress or anxiety which is probably attached to the whole affair at present.\n\n    You may have to start this ball rolling, but with a little effort you may well find it proves more than worth it.
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Ok so you would like to know how to keep your love fresh after 6 years together? I take it you dated for 3 years and almost got married for 3 times or 3 years? We have been married for 20 years now. And the way we keep our marriage fresh is make dates and keep them; in romantic out of the norm places. Give each other little sex toys or items. For that hint of play tonite. Send cards to each other at home or work. Surprise each other with secret love notes. Have him/her follow a riddle trail through out the house or even city. Meet him/her for surprise lunch. In other words...to keep things happenin, ya gotta keep things happenin.
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believe it or not you can keep it going forever if you BOTH work at it..\nyour hormones are flying and usually raging because you are young..in body and heart..\nlove brings out things ( chemically ) in people that give them the sense of euphoria..\n\nand you brain just loves this and you feel so great\n\nbut if you or he say the exact same thing in the same exact way ten year after you were first togehter..it sounds like he is picking on you...because your brain does not have all the endorphins to make you happy like you were when you first meet..\n\nbut if you both keep working on each other each and every day.with little surprises ( sneak up and put your hands on her eyes and kiss her neck..and make her giggle..) even though it is silly..stuff works..\nup out of the blue on a Saturday..make HER lunch and bring it to her and say this is for my ever do lovely bride..\nif you two keep working at it ..it will work just like you two first meet..\nand so on and so on
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first off, congrats. it's not easy to make it to 10 years, so cheers for you!\n\nnow, let's get down to business. here's a couple things to try to keep that spark alive, or hopefully to ignite things if they've gone a little cold.\n\n1) give sexy gifts spontaneously.\n\nlisten, you're not kids anymore; you love each other, and sex is part of that. you don't have to be embarassed of being straightforward about your sex life. that being said, it's okay to give each other sexy, suggestively romantic gifts. a couple of ideas:\n\n-for the man: get your wife something romantic, like a bottle of wine with a ribbon wrapped around it along with a sexy romance novel for those nights when you can't be there. the book will get her mind racing with all these creative new ideas for your love life, and the wine will provide a bit of "liquid courage" to get the ball rolling. =)\n\n-for the woman: honestly, nothing can be sexier to us than YOU, simple as that. but show us that you're in the mood, and that you don't mind sex as a way to express love. pick up a bit of lingerie, and surprise us in a place that's NOT the bedroom. \n\ntry taking your man out to lunch, and telling him in the middle of the meal that you've got a lacy black thong on. then, watch how fast he gets the check taken care of so that he can whisk you home. ;)\n\n2) communication.\n\nwe've all been there: it's been a long day, and the last thing you want to do is have a marathon sex session when you come home. for the guy, watch your woman's mood -- if she's been picking up after the kids all day, DON'T bug her about when dinner's going to be ready. instead, make her feel appreciated and maybe even lend a helping hand to the things she has left to do. the appreciative feelings flooding through her system will shoot straight to her crotch. trust me.\n\nand for the lady: take care of your man -- he won't admit it, but he's a big baby. he's probably super stressed from his day of work, and even if it seems like he wants to talk about it, don't let him. instead, completely take care of his needs -- give him a back rub, make a nice steak or something (i like pasta, personally) and don't try and bring up the things he's stressed about. you'll be amazed that, as his mind is relieved from the things that stress him out, he'll have much more time and energy to focus on you.\n\n---\n\nwell, that should get the ball rolling. i would post more, but everyone here at Y! Answers has the attention span of speedy gonzales (not a racist joke) =U|\n\ngood luck, and may the relationship spice up dramatically!
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In the same boat with ya miss lady. My guy is overseas though. It's difficult because they figure once they 'got you' they don't have to keep trying, but interest can be lost at any point and he has to do his part to keep you happy as well. An email, phone call, text message, hey...even a post card is just a simple and quick way to say 'hey, I may be busy, but your are on my mind and I want you to know that." It doesn't take much for someone to make you feel like a million bucks. But lack of communication leads to loss of interest which makes you distant from him mentally as well as physically. He needs to step his A-Game up. You should worry a little, but I've noticed with men, you have to constantly TELL them what you want, unlike women we think back to the last point of our conversation before things went downhill. Men move on and don't worry, just send him a signal that he should worry and that you are losing interest on his part. Be subtle and smooth with it, he'll get the picture, nothing major to make him overly jealous but a red flag to get his heart beating a little so he'll know you might be out of his grasp if he continues....Good luck miss lady!
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First, you need to explain to him what he does and how it makes you feel.Honesty and communication are the most important part of any realtionship.Next, the bedroom.Spontaneity and variety.Always mix things up.Never plan it.Try different things and if your open to it, toys.Life is short and a marriage is very important.I think keeping it fun will keep you both interested and actually enhance your sex life.BUT, you need to communicate there too.Talk to him and see what he likes, what he dosent, and where he draws a line.Maybe find out what his fantasies are(doable ones).This will definitely keep your sex life interesting.For toys, try online ordering(very discreet) or if you want to go look, try Spencers or Priscillas.There are many adult stores  that have womens interests in mind too.Have fun and congrats on your preganancy.
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Listen to her and remember what she likes. Then use the information she gave you on what she likes and be creative with it. Example: I love milk. My boyfriend buys me milk every time I come over to his house. He makes sure that he has milk before I get there. \nShow her that your interested in her. Don't call her beautiful or hot, call her pretty or gorgeous. Perhaps lovely. \nShow her how much you care for her.\nGive her pet names.\nBuy her flowers.\nBe romantic.
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mitr says.... if the person is close to your heart, he/she can never drift away....\nfollow this.....\n1. be different... probably he/she is bored of the same routinely YOU....\n2. do something creative for him...\n3. do something very special for him... which only a person does when the other one is close to your heart... \n4. be a surprise to him/her... it will bind the interest...\n5. give importance to that person, more than anythign in your life and make him/her feel special......\n6. say in a very romantic way that you wann be with him/her, more often than you use to... \n7. do not bind him /her... give space... loosen the grip.... \n8. FIND OUT THE REASON WHY THE PERSON IS DRIFTING AWAY FROM YOU........ if possible, cure it......
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You won't get him to be career motivated if he isn't already. Ambition isn't a personal choice, it comes from need, and if he doesn't feel the need, he doesn't. What you CAN do, is act as a personal manager. Keep communication lines open, and an ear out for opportunities that he might not recognize. Point them out for him, but be careful not to nag. Pushing him in a direction he doesn't want to go is not the same as pointing out options. One upside to this is that you'll be talking to your man all the time (which many women don't do, and then complain about); the other is that between the two of you, you just might accomplish something great. Good luck!