what do u do when your mom doesnt let u have a boyfriend but u like someone?
112335
Talk to her about it, let her know how you feel.  Let her meet him and let her see how he is, maybe yous could compromise.
59595
just wait till your 18 its the best thing for you, and for him.  just be friends or ask you mom be open with your mom. i mean if your gonna be 18 this year? then u will be old enough to date him as far as legal thing goes. so just ask your mom if you can date him.  some parents are ok with that, so good luck
499339
Don't panic. You are not going to die if you do not have a boyfriend. Trust that there are guys out there that are attracked to you and that when they get the courage to ask you out, they will do it. Don't second guess anything about yourself, and don't try to change yourself. Be yourself, and you will ultimatly be happier with yourself and with the guy that you are with when it happens.
1118264
Okay....this mom is going to try to answer you.  I don't know anything about your family so it it hard to answer.  My suggestion would be...let your parents get to know him, not as your boyfriend, but just as a friend.  Then if you really start dating they will already know him.  Don't make a big deal about race, maybe they won't.\nIt is easy for people to say don't worry about your parents.  I don't agree.  First of all....you wouldn't be asking this question, if what your parent thought didn't matter.\nFamily is forever.... guys can come and go.  \nYou answered a question I had, In your answer to me, you saw my love for my son and you told me to let God handle it. I can tell you are a very insightful person and I would bet you have a pretty good head on your shoulders.  Let them meet him first, then later.....Talk to your parents, give them a chance...they might just surprise you.  If he is good to you and your family....they will see that over anything else.\nGood luck, I wish you the best!
697711
First determine if he is the kind of dude your mother would approve of. ( what do you think her impression of him would be).  If she'll like him, introduce him.  If she wouldn't like him for what ever reason.  Dont date him anymore.  She has experience and knows and understands things you dont.  The best advice you can ever get is from your parents, not your friends.  Find someone you know she will like and approve of.  Since you only been together a month, you should wait longer to introduce her anyway.  The relationship may not even work out, so you may introducing him for nothing.  Wait to see if it is going to be a long term relationship.  That usually takes many months to determine.  He'll be great the first few months then things may slowly change.
765581
While it totally sucks........your parents have their reasons for not wanting you to date, yet.  You are, obviously, young..... I am guessing freshman.......maybe a sophmore in high school.\n\nApproach this with a mature perspective.  Go to your parents\nand tell them that you have met a boy that you really like.........\nDON'T call him your boyfriend!!!  Tell them that you would like\nto hang out with him, but you would like their permission.\nAsk to have him over to watch movies.  1) your parents will be there so they can "supervise" without worrying.  2) This shows\nthem that you are responsible and that you are growing up.\n\nYou dad may be a big guy, but he isnt going to hurt your boyfriend\ncuz then he would go to jail.\n\nIf they say no........dont throw a fit.......simply say "ok, I understand".  At least, that way you know you tried and this\nshows your maturity.  It may not help now, but it will help in the long run\n\nGood luck
598211
bring your boyfriend to your home one time, and have your mom talk with him, I'm sure that your mom would let you go out with him if she has met him and thinks he is a nice guy. (of course let your mom know you're doing this, or she'll be even more furious)
1137489
Yea, I was in that situation before. I finally just had to let go because I couldn't live my life without my mom being there for me. It sucked a lot because we had been together for almost 2.5 years. I just didn't know what else to do either. All I can really suggest is try to talk it out with her. Does she hate her personally or hate her because of the homosexual relationship? Explain to her that homosexual relationships are very accepted in society nowadays (at least way more than when she was growing up) and that you really love this girl but you love her too. Tell her a lot about how you love her and respect her but she should love and respect you too and that she should be supporting you. (A mini guilt trip isn't so bad). I tried to explain that to my mom, and she kinda "dealt with it" after awhile even though she didn't approve. My last bf was much bigger than me, with real long hair (all the way down his back) and he wore all black most of the time. She didn't even know him because she refused to talk to him, yet swore she could tell me what kind of person he was and how he was going to beat and rape me, and yada yada yada even though he was really the sweetest guy ever. Parents just don't understand sometimes and just want you to be like they were when they were kids. Try to come to an agreement. Good luck!!!\n\nPS: Don't do what everyone else is saying and "get a boyfriend," do what makes you happy. You can't live a lie.
946427
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
418551
Every thing is wrong with that you should be studying your books and not focusing on dating guys. Does your mother know about this! stop the maddness!
748107
Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
804125
Sounds like your mom is picking them based on the color of their skin.  \n\nSo far neither one has picked you. Pick the one you like.  \n\nIf you're not sure, tell both of them you like them and want to spend more time with them.  See what happens.  Try out one date each and see how you feel.  You don't have to be exclusive on this first date, because you know that first dates don't always work out.  Don't get too physical, because then you'll get a bad reputation.\n\nOnce you start dating, Sebaastian should stop talking to other girls on the phone.  If he continues, he's just a player and you should pick someone else.  SAme thing does for this other kid you like.  Remember, guys will flirt a lot just so they can get someone.
879935
tell him that your parents don't want you dating until you are (whatever age or amount of time until you are able to) and be sure to say that you like him as more than a friend. he will probably understand that and probably become a very close friend while he waits
540845
First of all, you should always respect your mother, secondly, you being 14 should not be having a boyfriend to begin with. I am siding with your mother. but against it because you shouldnt have one. You should be no where near his house alone. Understad how she feels and abide by her rules. I know it may seem unfair now but you will understand when you get older. trust me. and let me tell you this, once you are alone with him, he is going to want to do something. DONT DO IT.
220313
to begin with honey, he doesn't love you. if you're not allowed to have a boyfriend yet, i'm sure your parents have a good reason. they are just trying to protect you from having to make decisions you're not quite ready to make. if you've seen me on here you know i'm gonna tell you to take this time to learn and to grow without complicating things. learn about yourself. learn about others. and as you're ready, learn about life. you've got a lifetime ahead of you. don't rush into things. :)
271951
First off, good for you. Don't let other people pressure you into finding a boyfriend, that will only trap you in a pointless relationship. They pressure you because they feel like they're helping, it's hard to tell them all their interference makes the situation worse. Tell them, 'I will have a boyfriend when I find one I like.' If that doesn't stop them, tell them you're thinking about becoming a lesbian.
1044029
I have similer problems. Me and my girflriend love eachother but her mom doesnt want us to go out. Right now her mom doesnt even know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I can only call her about once every week. What we decided to do was be boyfriend and girlfriend but start going on actual dates when we are 16 so that we can drive ourselves. Just ask your dad if he can come over or soemthing and see if that works